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In this episode of the Language on the Move Podcast, Tazin Abdullah speaks with Dr. Kate Steel, Lecturer in Linguistics at the University of the West of England, in Bristol, UK. Tazin and Kate discuss discursive management in the context of police first responders and domestic violence victims, focusing on Kate's research in her 2024 paper ‘“Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents'. Using body cam footage from police call outs for domestic violence incidents, this paper focuses on how the interaction between police and domestic violence victims is managed. The interaction analysis reveals the impact of the context – in this case, the victims' personal space – which police must enter in order to perform their role and responsibilities as first responders. If you enjoy the show, support us by subscribing to the Language on the Move Podcast on your podcast app of choice, leaving a 5-star review, and recommending the Language on the Move Podcast and our partner the New Books Network to your students, colleagues, and friends. For additional resources, show notes, and transcripts, go here. Reference Steel, K. (2024). “Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents. International Journal for the Semiotics of Law – Revue internationale de Sémiotique juridique, 37(2), 547-572. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11196-023-10050-x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

In this episode of the Language on the Move Podcast, Tazin Abdullah speaks with Dr. Kate Steel, Lecturer in Linguistics at the University of the West of England, in Bristol, UK. Tazin and Kate discuss discursive management in the context of police first responders and domestic violence victims, focusing on Kate's research in her 2024 paper ‘“Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents'. Using body cam footage from police call outs for domestic violence incidents, this paper focuses on how the interaction between police and domestic violence victims is managed. The interaction analysis reveals the impact of the context – in this case, the victims' personal space – which police must enter in order to perform their role and responsibilities as first responders. If you enjoy the show, support us by subscribing to the Language on the Move Podcast on your podcast app of choice, leaving a 5-star review, and recommending the Language on the Move Podcast and our partner the New Books Network to your students, colleagues, and friends. For additional resources, show notes, and transcripts, go here. Reference Steel, K. (2024). “Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents. International Journal for the Semiotics of Law – Revue internationale de Sémiotique juridique, 37(2), 547-572. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11196-023-10050-x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/gender-studies

In this episode of the Language on the Move Podcast, Tazin Abdullah speaks with Dr. Kate Steel, Lecturer in Linguistics at the University of the West of England, in Bristol, UK. Tazin and Kate discuss discursive management in the context of police first responders and domestic violence victims, focusing on Kate's research in her 2024 paper ‘“Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents'. Using body cam footage from police call outs for domestic violence incidents, this paper focuses on how the interaction between police and domestic violence victims is managed. The interaction analysis reveals the impact of the context – in this case, the victims' personal space – which police must enter in order to perform their role and responsibilities as first responders. If you enjoy the show, support us by subscribing to the Language on the Move Podcast on your podcast app of choice, leaving a 5-star review, and recommending the Language on the Move Podcast and our partner the New Books Network to your students, colleagues, and friends. For additional resources, show notes, and transcripts, go here. Reference Steel, K. (2024). “Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents. International Journal for the Semiotics of Law – Revue internationale de Sémiotique juridique, 37(2), 547-572. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11196-023-10050-x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/sociology

In this episode of the Language on the Move Podcast, Tazin Abdullah speaks with Dr. Kate Steel, Lecturer in Linguistics at the University of the West of England, in Bristol, UK. Tazin and Kate discuss discursive management in the context of police first responders and domestic violence victims, focusing on Kate's research in her 2024 paper ‘“Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents'. Using body cam footage from police call outs for domestic violence incidents, this paper focuses on how the interaction between police and domestic violence victims is managed. The interaction analysis reveals the impact of the context – in this case, the victims' personal space – which police must enter in order to perform their role and responsibilities as first responders. If you enjoy the show, support us by subscribing to the Language on the Move Podcast on your podcast app of choice, leaving a 5-star review, and recommending the Language on the Move Podcast and our partner the New Books Network to your students, colleagues, and friends. For additional resources, show notes, and transcripts, go here. Reference Steel, K. (2024). “Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents. International Journal for the Semiotics of Law – Revue internationale de Sémiotique juridique, 37(2), 547-572. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11196-023-10050-x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/language

In this episode of the Language on the Move Podcast, Tazin Abdullah speaks with Dr. Kate Steel, Lecturer in Linguistics at the University of the West of England, in Bristol, UK. Tazin and Kate discuss discursive management in the context of police first responders and domestic violence victims, focusing on Kate's research in her 2024 paper ‘“Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents'. Using body cam footage from police call outs for domestic violence incidents, this paper focuses on how the interaction between police and domestic violence victims is managed. The interaction analysis reveals the impact of the context – in this case, the victims' personal space – which police must enter in order to perform their role and responsibilities as first responders. If you enjoy the show, support us by subscribing to the Language on the Move Podcast on your podcast app of choice, leaving a 5-star review, and recommending the Language on the Move Podcast and our partner the New Books Network to your students, colleagues, and friends. For additional resources, show notes, and transcripts, go here. Reference Steel, K. (2024). “Can I Have a Look?”: The Discursive Management of Victims' Personal Space During Police First Response Call-Outs to Domestic Abuse Incidents. International Journal for the Semiotics of Law – Revue internationale de Sémiotique juridique, 37(2), 547-572. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11196-023-10050-x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SOURCES AND REFERENCES FROM THE EPISODE…“The Bright Light From Heaven” was submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/08/26/the-bright-light-from-heaven/“Boy In The Closet” written by Linda: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/02/boy-in-the-closet/“What Are You Going To Do? Shoot a Ghost?” written by Mark: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/04/what-are-you-going-to-do-shoot-a-ghost/“Albert” was submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/09/albert/“Unborn Child” written by Sue: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/08/31/unborn-child/“Cigar Smoking Ghost” written by Mark: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/03/the-cigar-smoking-ghost/“Uncle's Last Visit” written by Marilou: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/08/uncles-last-visit/“Old Woman” submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/10/old-woman/“From Good to Bad” by Randy Lee Beasley: https://www.facebook.com/NorthernIPR“Ghosts of the Titanic” by Alan Toner (from 100 True Ghost Stories): http://amzn.com/B00DW64J8S“Unnerved By a Haunted Workplace” was submitted by Keith R.:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/19/unnerved-haunted-workplace/“The Boy With No Eyes” was submitted by Kristine H.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/18/boy-no-eyes/“The Watching Monk” was submitted by Paulette S.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/15/the-watching-monk/“Shadow Boy Haunts My Sleep” submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/13/shadow-boy-haunts-sleep/“Welcome To Our Haunted House” submitted by Karen F.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/11/welcome-haunted-house/“Haunted By Doppelgängers And The Bad Luck That They Bring” submitted by Dillicklesncream:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/09/haunted-doppelgangers-bad-luck-bring/“Arguing Voices From Upstairs Concern a Small Girl” submitted by Janethski:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/07/arguing-voices-upstairs-concern-small-girl/“Can I Have a Ride?” was submitted by Ed R.P: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/“Knock Knock” was submitted by Tammy P.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/“Black-Eyed Children Spotted On a USAF Base – Have You Seen This?” submitted by D. Robins:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/12/black-eyed-children-spotted-usaf-base-seen/ and “Another Report Of a Black-Eyed Kid Trying To Gain Entry Into a Home. Is Anyone Safe?” submitted by Bill R.:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/08/another-report-black-eyed-kid-trying-gain-entry-home-anyone-safe/Weird Darkness theme by Alibi Music Library. = = = = =(Over time links seen above may become invalid, disappear, or have different content. I always make sure to give authors credit for the material I use whenever possible. If I somehow overlooked doing so for a story, or if a credit is incorrect, please let me know and I will rectify it in these show notes immediately. Some links included above may benefit me financially through qualifying purchases.)= = = = ="I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness." — John 12:46= = = = =WeirdDarkness® is a registered trademark. Copyright ©2024, Weird Darkness.= = = = =Originally aired: September, 2018CUSTOM LANDING PAGE: https://weirddarkness.com/ghosts-of-the-titanic/

Do financial advisors have some secret blood handshake that they'll all  claim they can get you 8 percent returns, but then tell their clients they can only withdraw 4 percent in retirement? That's Mark in Minnesota's question today on YMYW. Plus, should Matthew in Seattle quit the DIY approach to his finances and hire a fee-based financial planner? What do Joe and Big Al think about Steven in Connecticut's “opposite of sequence of returns risk” strategy for retirement withdrawals and “bonuses”? Can listener Joe have an active and comfortable retirement at age 62? Elle in Los Angeles needs some spitballing on contributing to traditional or Roth 401k, student loans, and the potential tax benefits for paying mother in law for babysitting. The fellas also answer some more last-minute year-end tax questions for George, and for Chuck in Idaho. But first, Mike in CO gets priority with his voice message about tax loss harvesting. Timestamps: 01:08 - Any Reason Not to Do Tax Loss Harvesting? (Mike, Steamboat Springs, Colorado - voice) 05:46 - Should I Switch from DIY to a Fee-Based Financial Planner? (Matthew, Seattle, WA) 16:00 - If Advisor Touts 8% Returns, Why Can I Only Withdraw 4%? (Mark, MN) 24:49 - 3% Retirement Withdrawals + Bonuses = Opposite of Sequence of Returns Risk? (Steven, CT) 31:05 - Can I Have an Active and Comfortable Retirement at Age 62? (Joe) 36:35 - 401k Vs Roth 401k Contributions, Student Loans, and Babysitting Tax Benefit (Elle, Los Angeles) 41:16 - When to Pay Taxes on a 2023 Roth Conversion? (George) 43:26 - Cost Basis: First In First Out to Minimize Taxes? (Chuck, ID) 47:27 - The Derails Access this week's free financial resources in the podcast show notes at https://bit.ly/ymyw-459  EASI Retirement Spitball Analysis: YMYW TV EASIretirement.com Free Retirement Calculator 6 Secrets to Bigger Tax Savings from Your Nonprofit Donations: YMYW TV Tax-Smart Charitable Giving Guide Episode Transcript Ask Joe & Big Al On Air for your Retirement Spitball Analysis

PLEASE SHARE THIS EPISODE in your social media so others who loves strange and macabre stories can listen too! https://weirddarkness.com/archives/17071 SOURCES AND REFERENCES FROM THE EPISODE…“The Bright Light From Heaven” was submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/08/26/the-bright-light-from-heaven/ “Boy In The Closet” written by Linda: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/02/boy-in-the-closet/ “What Are You Going To Do? Shoot a Ghost?” written by Mark: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/04/what-are-you-going-to-do-shoot-a-ghost/ “Albert” was submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/09/albert/ “Unborn Child” written by Sue: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/08/31/unborn-child/ “Cigar Smoking Ghost” written by Mark: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/03/the-cigar-smoking-ghost/ “Uncle's Last Visit” written by Marilou: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/08/uncles-last-visit/ “Old Woman” submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/10/old-woman/“From Good to Bad” by Randy Lee Beasley: https://www.facebook.com/NorthernIPR “Ghosts of the Titanic” by Alan Toner (from 100 True Ghost Stories): http://amzn.com/B00DW64J8S “Unnerved By a Haunted Workplace” was submitted by Keith R.:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/19/unnerved-haunted-workplace/ “The Boy With No Eyes” was submitted by Kristine H.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/18/boy-no-eyes/ “The Watching Monk” was submitted by Paulette S.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/15/the-watching-monk/ “Shadow Boy Haunts My Sleep” submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/13/shadow-boy-haunts-sleep/ “Welcome To Our Haunted House” submitted by Karen F.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/11/welcome-haunted-house/ “Haunted By Doppelgängers And The Bad Luck That They Bring” submitted by Dillicklesncream:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/09/haunted-doppelgangers-bad-luck-bring/ “Arguing Voices From Upstairs Concern a Small Girl” submitted by Janethski:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/07/arguing-voices-upstairs-concern-small-girl/ “Can I Have a Ride?” was submitted by Ed R.P: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/ “Knock Knock” was submitted by Tammy P.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/ “Black-Eyed Children Spotted On a USAF Base – Have You Seen This?” submitted by D. Robins:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/12/black-eyed-children-spotted-usaf-base-seen/ and “Another Report Of a Black-Eyed Kid Trying To Gain Entry Into a Home. Is Anyone Safe?” submitted by Bill R.:http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/08/another-report-black-eyed-kid-trying-gain-entry-home-anyone-safe/Visit our Sponsors & Friends: https://weirddarkness.com/sponsors Join the Weird Darkness Syndicate: https://weirddarkness.com/syndicate Advertise in the Weird Darkness podcast or syndicated radio show: https://weirddarkness.com/advertise= = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = =Weird Darkness theme by Alibi Music Library. Background music provided by Alibi Music Library, EpidemicSound and/or StoryBlocks with paid license. Music from Shadows Symphony (https://tinyurl.com/yyrv987t), Midnight Syndicate (http://amzn.to/2BYCoXZ) Kevin MacLeod (https://tinyurl.com/y2v7fgbu), Tony Longworth (https://tinyurl.com/y2nhnbt7), and Nicolas Gasparini (https://tinyurl.com/lnqpfs8) is used with permission of the artists.= = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = =OTHER PODCASTS I HOST…Paranormality Magazine: (COMING SEPT. 30, 2023) https://weirddarkness.tiny.us/paranormalitymagMicro Terrors: Scary Stories for Kids: https://weirddarkness.tiny.us/microterrorsRetro Radio – Old Time Radio In The Dark: https://weirddarkness.tiny.us/retroradioChurch of the Undead: https://weirddarkness.tiny.us/churchoftheundead= = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = =(Over time links seen above may become invalid, disappear, or have different content. I always make sure to give authors credit for the material I use whenever possible. If I somehow overlooked doing so for a story, or if a credit is incorrect, please let me know and I will rectify it in these show notes immediately. Some links included above may benefit me financially through qualifying purchases.)= = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = ="I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness." — John 12:46= = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = =WeirdDarkness® is a registered trademark. Copyright ©2023, Weird Darkness.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/3655291/advertisement

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Can I Have a Healthy Baby When I Have An Autoimmune?Aired Friday, April 7, 2023 at 4:00 PM PST / 7:00 PM ESTIn my health journey, I've learned there are multiple things we can do to increase our odds of a positive outcome. That's why we are happy to welcome back Nikki Burnett, MS CNTP MNT, a Functional Nutritionist and Founder of Taste Life Nutrition, to discuss a topic we have yet to chat about… autoimmune and fertility.We call Nikki Burnett our ‘Health Detective' because Nikki has been on both sides: in practice for seven years as a Functional Nutritionist and over 20 years of study, Nikki is a thriver too. After suffering a 2-year headache that affected every part of her life and dealing with the frustration of feeling helpless with no answers, she decided to take her health into her own hands.Over time and with consistent research into many health modalities, Nikki found the answers she needed to heal. Now Nikki is helping her clients regain their health, and along the way, she has discovered a passion for helping those struggling with infertility.In this episode, Nikki shares with us• How even small changes in your nutrition can make a significant impact,• How your environment can affect your fertility,• What hormones have to do with your immune system, autoimmune and fertility,• Tips to consider when trying for a family plus much more…More about our guest:Through her program called SoulFull Conception, Nikki Burnett helps you achieve optimal health so that when it is time to try for a family, you are prepared and have a plan of action for your and your baby's health.After graduating from The Nutrition Therapy Institute, Nikki opened Taste of Life Nutrition, where she and her dedicated team look at each person as a whole, not separate parts. No one-size-fits-all approach will suffice as you rejuvenate your life. She and her team are dedicated to finding balance in the bodies of both the mother and father is necessary to create and maintain a pregnancy and your perfect little person.Learn more at https://www.tastelifenutrition.com/Your host is neither a doctor nor a medical professional. She is someone who is living well with an autoimmune diagnosis. The information presented in this interview cannot substitute for the advice of your physician or other trained medical, healthcare, or other professionals. Host(s) and guest(s) are not diagnosing specific conditions during the show. This show is not intended to diagnose, prevent, or treat autoimmune diseases or other conditions or illnesses. The information provided on UnderstandingAutoimmune.com, Life Interrupted Radio.com, and The Autoimmune Hour are for educational purposes only.#NikkiBurnett #SharonSayler #AutoImmuneHourVisit the Autoimmune Hour show page https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/autoimmune-hour/Connect with Sharon Sayler at http://lifeinterruptedradio.com/Subscribe to our Newsletter https://omtimes.com/subscribe-omtimes-magazine/Connect with OMTimes on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Omtimes.Magazine/ and OMTimes Radio https://www.facebook.com/ConsciousRadiowebtv.OMTimes/Twitter: https://twitter.com/OmTimes/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/omtimes/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/2798417/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/omtimes/

Today I'm talking with Dr. Scott Griffiths. Scott is a senior lecturer in the School of Psychological Sciences at the University of Melbourne. He leads the Physical Appearance Research Team, a multidisciplinary group of researchers and health professionals who investigate body image, appearance related stigmas and discrimination, appearance enhancing substances, appearance enhancement and appearance related psychological disorders such as eating disorders and body dysmorphic disorder.I wanted to talk to Scott about the phenomenon of muscle dysmorphia, a disorder that sits somewhere between a body dysmorphic disorder and an eating disorder that tends to impact cis boys and men. It's sometimes characterised as the male anorexia. Of course cis boys and men get anorexia too, but muscle dysmorphia is a bit different. It's sometimes known as Bigorexia. It's when an individual doesn't believe that they're big enough or sufficiently muscular to the point that they devote their lives to gains and progress in the gym. They might follow extremely strict diets which prioritise protein and cut out a lot of carbohydrates, and in some cases men can turn to using anabolic steroids, which have some really serious long-term effects for both physical and mental health as you'll hear us talking about. A lot of Scott's research is about the ways that social media, and particularly TikTok feeds people who are vulnerable to eating disorders or muscle dysmorphia, more and more content that upholds unrealistic body and image based ideals, and actually fuels eating disorders.It's really interesting research to hear about, but as a parent and as someone who works with eating disorders, it's really terrifying.Find out more about Scott's work here.Follow his work on Twitter here.Follow Laura on Instagram here.Subscribe to my newsletter here.Here's the transcript in full:Scott: When you're on your feed and TikTok is delivering videos for you to consume, all of the reference points you are getting from content that it's popular and influential and that people are responding to it. It's so divorced from reality that you've got a greater pool of people comparing and feeling poorly about themselves and now investing in the general necessity of looking better.INTROLaura: Hey, and welcome to Can I Have Another Snack? I'm Laura Thomas, an anti-diet, registered nutritionist, and author of the Can I Have Another Snack newsletter. We're having conversations about how we nourish ourselves and our kids in all senses of the word in the hellscape that is diet culture.Today I'm talking with Dr. Scott Griffiths. Scott is a senior lecturer in the School of Psychological Sciences at the University of Melbourne. He leads the Physical Appearance Research Team, a multidisciplinary group of researchers and health professionals who investigate body image, appearance related stigmas and discrimination, appearance enhancing substances, appearance enhancement and appearance related psychological disorders such as eating disorders and body dysmorphic disorder.I wanted to talk to Scott about the phenomenon of muscle dysmorphia, a disorder that sits somewhere between a body dysmorphic disorder and an eating disorder that tends to impact cis boys and men. It's sometimes characterized as the male anorexia, which of course cis boys and men get anorexia too. But muscle dysmorphia is a bit different. It's sometimes known as bigorexia. It's when an individual doesn't believe that they're big enough or sufficiently muscular to the point that they devote their lives to gains and progress in the gym. They might follow extremely strict diets which prioritize protein and cut out a lot of carbohydrates. And in some cases men can turn to using anabolic steroids, which have some really serious long-term effects for both physical and mental health as you'll hear us talking about. A lot of Scott's research is about the ways that social media, and particularly TikTok feeds people who are vulnerable to eating disorders or muscle dysmorphia, more and more content that upholds unrealistic body and image based ideals and actually fuels eating disorders.It's really interesting research to hear about, but as a parent and as someone who works with eating disorders, it's. Really terrifying. So you'll notice that this episode has a slightly different vibe to some of the other episodes this season. I'm asking Scott more about his research on muscle dysmorphia rather than his, you know, personal story. And I'm curious to hear what you think of this episode and get some feedback from you as to whether you'd like more interviews with academics, researchers and practitioners with a particular kind of expertise or on a particular topic like this, in addition to hearing people's lived experience. So if you want, you can drop me a comment over on Substack underneath this episode, um, which you can find at laurathomas.substack.com.And while I have you here, just a reminder that Can I Have Another Snack? is entirely listener and reader supported, but in order to be able to cover the costs of admin and people and pay guests and contributors. A lot of my time is devoted to other work outside of the newsletter. That means I have less time to bring deeply researched essays as well as thoughtful interviews here on the podcast. I'd love to be able to devote most of my time to the work and the community that we're building here, but that means I need a lot more of you to consider becoming a paid subscriber. I also know that that's a big ask right now. So for the month of March, I'm running a one off spring sale on Can I Have another Snack subscriptions. They are 20% off, so for this month only, if you subscribe, you'll pay four pounds a month or 40 pounds for the year instead of five pounds a month or 50 pounds for the year, which is a bargain. I'm not going to be running this good a deal for the rest of the year, so now is the time to cash in. If you've been sitting on the fence it's time to make a move. I'll put a subscription link in the show notes. You can also gift a subscription to a friend or family member or a coworker and get that same deal. And remember that if you want to sign up with some pals or like your NCT group from five years ago, you always get 20% off of group subscriptions. So I will also link to group subscriptions in the show notes.Okay, team, I appreciate your support and hopefully one day we can make this work more sustainable, so I can give up my side hustles. Thank you so much for being here. Here is my interview with Scott Griffiths.MAIN EPISODELaura: All right, Scott, I would love it if you could start by telling us a little bit about how you got interested in studying appearance related psychological disorders like body dysmorphic disorder and eating disorders.Scott: When I was a teenager, I worked at a cinema and someone who worked there who was kind of a friend of mine, a young woman, she had anorexia, and I remember at the time being completely mystified by her ailment and predicament. And it's probably quite stigmatizing in retrospect because it seemed to me as a, you know, kind of a fool, that the solution to her problem was readily at hand.Like she was really thin and, and just needed to eat. And that kind of set my thinking in motion about the really complex feelings and beliefs that folks can have about their body and their eating, et cetera. And it was when I was in undergraduate doing a, a Bachelor of Psychology that I had a couple of friends, both young men who would say things to me that would remind me of that young woman who had anorexia in the cinema and things they would say were similar, but the manifestations of them were different. The kinds of eating and, and training and the bodies that they wanted for themselves were all different, but it's core, it seemed like the same kind of issue and disorder. So I think that was what got me interested. And it's developed a lot since then.Laura: Yeah, it's so interesting. I think you know that I work with people with eating disorders and something I often hear from them is like, well, it just, how misunderstood that the disorder is, and from the outside, especially to anyone who knows nothing about eating disorders, it seems like, yeah, it's really simple just to eat more food.But I think you've been on your own learning journey with that and, and come through the other side and realized it's, it's a lot more complicated than that. These people would, you know, if, if it was just, just as easy as eating food, they would do it. But unfortunately that's, that's not the case.Sorry, that was a little tangent cuz I think you were touching on something that I know is really important to those with lived experience of eating disorders. And then kind of moving further along, it's really interesting that you saw the parallels between anorexia nervosa and then what I think you would probably characterize as body dysmorphic disorder. Which is the same but different. And maybe the same is too much of a stretch. But it's similar, but also different. So I'm wondering for people who are unfamiliar with body dysmorphic disorder, can you tell us what exactly it is and maybe some of the, the des describing more of the parallels between something like anorexia nervosa or what we would consider to be a more traditional in inverted commas eating disorder versus what we see in the BDD presentation.Scott: When I was talking with those, those friends, those young men when I was at university the disorder that would best capture what was going on for them is something we call muscle dysmorphia, which is a subtype of body dysmorphia disorder, which kind of sits alongside eating disorders. They are distinct, but they're often comorbid.They both have body image often as a central element. So body dysmorphic disorder, the cardinal symptom is you believing there is a defect in your appearance. It can be completely imaginary or it can be real, but the severity of it in your head is almost always much more severe than it is in actual objective reality.And in the context of muscle dysmorphia, which many people, including myself, see more as an eating disorder than body dysmorphic disorder. The defect in appearance is guys, some girls, but often guys who objectively are, are very large and muscular, but when they look in the mirror, what they see reflected back to them is someone who is scrawny, out of shape or overweight.Just a big difference to how they actually are not at all dissimilar to anorexia where we have people, often young women predominantly, but also some men who look in the mirror and see someone reflected back to them who is very different to how they actually look.Laura: It's interesting that you said that you characterize muscle dysmorphic disorder as more similar to an eating disorder than to true body dysmorphic disorder, and I'm curious to hear a little bit more about why you feel like it fits more into that category.Scott: Yeah. To be fair, when people debate about whether muscle dysmorphia ought to be a body dysmorphic disorder as it currently is classified or an eating disorder, it feels a little bit like a semantic exercise.Laura: Absolutely.Scott: The real push and importance in research as far as I'm concerned, is trying to understand both disorders and develop better treatments and trying to figure out which, which category where there's so much overlap between these two categories already, it belongs to, feels a little like a moot point, but to, to answer the question. For me, it's because when you look at the central pathology that motivates folks with muscle dysmorphia, the low self-esteem, especially around appearance, the kinds of things they believe with respect to why they have to look a certain way in order to have worth and be loved.The attention given to dieting and to exercise and the inability to tolerate deviations from that, the need to constantly progress, the perfectionism, it's all there. It all feels like different sides of the same coin. And when I speak to people, including yourself and your audience, it feels to me like explaining away muscle dysmorphia as one manifestation of an eating disorder, kind of like anorexia, or the reverse of it is just an easy way to see how it is that eating disorders are so much more than just thinness, that they can manifest in all sorts of different ways depending on the types of bodies that people feel compelled to achieve for themselves.Laura: Yeah. Oh, that's so interesting. And I'm, I'm wondering if you could tell us a little bit more about sort of, you know, maybe not with going with, without going into tons and tons of detail that might be upsetting to hear, but just tell us a little bit about, a bit more about you know, how would you know if someone had muscle dysmorphic disorder? You know, I'm thinking about parents who, you know, what are the signs and symptoms that someone might want to look out for that are sort of red flags, if you will.Scott: Got you. So, when you're trying to identify red flags, some muscle dysmorphia, a useful starting point is to recognize that almost everything that is common in muscle dysmorphia can exist and be benign. So you can train five, six days a week every day of the week if you want. And it's completely fine, as long as it's working for you.You can diet right, and it can be fine. Not a psychological disorder if it's working for you. It's not encouraging people to go and do it, but it's not a psychological disorder to do it in muscle dysmorphia. It's when there is a preoccupation and that preoccupation is causing impairment. So it could be that your training and dieting have become so strict that when you feel that your training or dieting are about to be compromised in some way, maybe there's an important social occasion that you have to attend, and it means that you don't get to stick to your diet or go to train or something unexpected comes up, and you have to prioritize that other important unexpected thing.If that brings you anxiety and guilt makes you angry at yourself, then you are in the territory of massive dysmorphia as opposed to just behaviors that are otherwise benign with respect to disorder.Laura: Yeah, so you're just highlighting here that you know, the behaviors in and of themselves are not pathological. You know, plenty of people go to the gym, you know, they are super careful with their diet. Where it runs into kind of hot water is when, you know, that becomes almost like all encompassing.It takes over your life. It doesn't allow for any flexibility. It becomes very rigid. You can't go to your mates birthday party or just like, go pick up a pizza after work because it's a mess. So that flexibility in eating, that flexibility in your social life, but also I suppose kind of the feelings of guilt, remorse, stress, that might come up if you do do those things.Scott: That's right. And the deteriorations tend to come from many places. They don't just come from one. So maybe you find that on the days where you have to rest where you can't be in gym training, cuz you've gotta have a couple of rest days to recover, you don't feel so good on those days. Maybe every time you don't progress in the gym, so you're not adding on to the weight, you're not getting stronger, it makes you feel like rubbish.Whereas when you first started out, maybe all of those things made you feel really good. Maybe your relationships are starting to suffer. Maybe your partner has had four or five conversations with you now about how they don't like how it's so challenging to go out to a restaurant, et cetera, etc.There's going to be no one thing, but the things tend to all come. Together. And what's challenging as you would well know in the eating disorder space is that the person who is in the thick of it is sometimes not the best judge of how extreme and rigid what they are doing is, and not uncommon at all to have folks who've come out the other end of these disorders look back and say, oh man, I can't believe I didn't see just how crazy it was for me at that.Laura: And that's a really important point, and I'd like to come back and think a little bit about how particularly a parent might address this or raise their concerns with you know, maybe their teen who they know is becoming super fixated on the gym and really rigid around that.Maybe we could come back to that because I feel I still wanna characterize a little bit more of what might be going on for people with muscle dysmorphic disorder. And a big piece that I feel like we haven't talked about yet is the use of anabolic steroids.So yeah, could you tell us how that and maybe any other kind of diet aids and things fit into the picture of muscle dysmorphic disorder?Scott: Yeah, sure. So, if you wanted to be thin and skinny and you were going to abuse drugs to get there, you might use laxatives and diuretics. If you wanna be big and muscular the drug that will typically be abused is anabolic steroids. So the most basic anabolic steroid is just a synthetic form of testosterone, the sex differentiating hormone that men tend to have more of than women, and it helps to synthesize muscle. So if you wanna be bigger muscular, if you've been influenced by, you know, famous fitness influencers, many of whom are using steroids, it may be something you're tempted to turn to and unlike with laxatives and diuretics, where if you take them, they don't have any substantive impact on the calories that you absorb (another way of saying they don't work very well). anabolic steroids, unfortunately do work very well. It's a bit of a public relations disaster, really.Laura: Can I just put a tiny caveat that for people who abuse laxatives and diuretics, in terms of, I just wanna highlight that they are still really dangerous and they can cause electrolyte imbalances. Just because I know people with eating disorders will listen to this podcast and I've worked with eating disorders for long enough to know that they will hear that and think, oh, okay, that means they're safeSo, I just want to highlight that it can cause problems in terms of your intestines. There can be problems with, I'm forgetting the terminology now, but basically twisting your intestines because it just messes with your digestion so much.I'm thinking about laxatives here, but also it can cause dangerously low electrolyte levels in the body, which can cause fits and seizures. So they're not benign, and I don't want anyone to walk away with the message that they're benign. But that's aside from what you're talking about, which is that yeah, you know that people with muscle dysmorphic disorder are more likely to abuse steroids.So, yeah. Could I pass it back to you now?Scott: Of course, and steroids on top of being effective, which makes them very attractive in terms of, you know, as a temptation they also have rather significant health consequences, especially in the long term. But why I bring up the fact that they are effective for building muscle into such a significant degree that you have outfits like the International Olympics Committee who test for doping.The use of things like steroids in sports is because once you're on them, you will experience the progress that you've been craving and to a very significant degree. So folks will get on them, they will put on a lot of muscle, they might even lose some body fat at the same time, which is incredibly challenging to do if you are not on these substances.And of course, they feel. for a time, but they still have the core beliefs and attitudes and thinking so that high doesn't last for very long. But now not only are they not satisfied with their current size often, but to drop in size by coming off would trigger the kinds of intense feelings and distorted thinking that you also see when folks with anorexia are going through recovery and are, you know, weight restoring.So it's incredibly challenging. And what ends up happening is that you have to then treat both the muscle dysmorphia, which is very much a psychological disorder, and the anabolic steroids and their effects, which is an endocrine impactor. And dealing with these in combos is challenging.Laura: And, I was just wondering if you could talk a little to the, the longer term side effects of of the steroid use.Scott: Sure. So the longer term side effects tend to focus on increased mortality and morbidity from, from cardiovascular events, heart attacks, enlarged hearts. The endocrine effects focus predominantly on the capacity of your endocrine system to resume a normal amount of testosterone production endogenously, so from within, subsequent to stopping steroid use.Because when you flood your system with anabolic steroids or synthetic testosterone, the reason men's testicles shrink is because most of the function of testicles is to make testosterone. So the body says, oh, I'm full of testosterone. Now I'm not gonna make any more myself. But when you doing the injections of the tablets and you don't have that testosterone coming in, the body has to restart that system from scratch. And as we've learned, it is not very reliable at doing that. And it is very unpredictable how well that is gonna happen. And there's many, many, many instances of men as young as 23, 24, who will be on testosterone replacement therapy for their entire life, and who have their fertility are greatly compromised now because their bodies have not resumed normal testosterone production.Laura: Yeah. What you're describing is really similar to what happens when once this women are taking the contraceptive pill and then they come off of it and they might not restart their period for five or six months after, hopefully all going well. But what you're talking about, I think in muscle dysmorphic disorder, where there's an abuse of these drugs that those, as I understand it, the doses are much higher than a typical physiological dose.And so the impact, the effect is much, much greater and could last a lot longer, you know, if function is ever fully regained.Scott: Yeah. To give you some context, a beginner's of anabolic steroids, a beginner steroid cycle, if you will, might prescribe something like 500 milligrams of testosterone enate, a really commonly available steroid. I'd wager a bet that it's most widely available in the UK, certainly is in Australia. That beginner's dose is already five times higher than the maximum that a healthy male would produce on their own. And that much testosterone, flooding a system is beyond the bounds of what the human body is used to dealing with. Laura: Yeah. And, and you mentioned you know, the UK context there and there were headlines a couple of years ago that suggested that first of all, that predominantly steroid users in the UK were were using steroids as an appearance or an aesthetic related, you know, for aesthetic reasons rather than for purely like bodybuilding lifting reasons.Although I, I can imagine those things get kind of murky to tease apart and. At that time, I think this was about 2018 the, the reports were that there were about a million steroid users in the UK for, you know, for aesthetic reasons. Is that an accurate reflection? Do you know? Like, is that likely an underestimation, an overestimation, or do we have any, any real sense of what's going on?Scott: I'd say there's a great chance that's an underestimate. Steroid use is incredibly stigmatized. It's heavily criminalized and users are extremely loath to admit even to health professionals that they use anabolic steroids. And you see these schisms even in fitness communities online. So Instagram, TikTok, where there's this constant accusations that someone is using steroids or is natural or bloody for short. So, it's all very underground and it means that whenever you do get an, an estimate based on data that is credible. So in Australia that would be visits to needle and syringe programs as one example, to get injecting equipment for steroids. You can be almost certain that that's just a fraction of what's actually going on out there. And all the evidence we have, at least in Australia suggests that anabolic steroid use is increasing in prevalence and it's gone from something that used to be the purview of just athletes through to professional weightlifters to now those only being a minority. It's very much an aesthetics driven thing.Laura: So tell us what we know about who Muscle Dysmorphic Disorder impacts. You've alluded to that it's mostly cis men. But can you elaborate any further on that?Scott: Sure. So itt's mostly cis men because cis men are the largest pool who would want to be muscular. But you see certain subpopulations of men who are more vulnerable. Gay men are more vulnerable to muscle dysmorphia and to using anabolic steroids because of the heightened appearance pressures in that space. Younger men. So it does tend to be something that has its onset in younger years similar to anorexia.Laura: Sorry, I was gonna ask you, we know kind of what age do boys start becoming vulnerable? Because we know in anorexia it can be as young as like eight or nine sometimes, and that age is getting younger and younger.Scott: Yeah. And you see the same thing in muscle dysmorphia. So the first vulnerability factors can appear there. Studies have been done with action figurines and you have young boys asked which one do they prefer more? And they're able to, to, they have their preferences in line with what you'd expect, and they'll expect a preference for their own bodies to look certain ways, as you'd expect, given media messaging.So the vulnerability factors are there. In terms of muscle dysmorphia on setting tends to take quite a while. You'd be familiar. It's not the case that you hear a couple of messages, you get a mean comment about your appearance, and then suddenly you have it . It's years of internalizing and a bunch of factors that come along, and then it might strike in your teens or your early adulthood.And we see that in muscle dysmorphia too. Steroids often come into the piece a little later, so early adulthood to mid, and it's because they're expensive and they're hard to access.Laura: Yeah. You need to be kind of savvy also. Yeah. I can imagine kids who have figured out the whole cryptocurrency thing. I'm sure that they, you know, would get in there if they could, if they had the means. So you're saying gay men are more at risk. What, are there any other sort of subpopulations that you know, you're particularly worried about?Scott: Men who are in sports for which body weight or some aesthetic element around body weight is a key part. So not uncommon to have guys with muscle dysmorphia say that a lot of some of these thoughts came about because they had to weigh in for their sports. Maybe they were, they were boxes or fighters, something like that. So it just primed them to be in the space of being anxious about the number on the scale and how their fitness was progressing. Things like that.Laura: Do we know anything about racialized groups and, and who might be most at risk?Scott: There is some evidence though, it's not great in terms of its quality as of yet, that folks in predominantly white countries who are not white themselves may be at greater risk for both muscle dysmorphia and steroid use. Data we produced in Australia that was specific to gay bisexual men of, of various races suggested for example, that, you know, if you were an Asian gay man in Australia, that you might be more likely to use anabolic steroids and to succumb to muscle dysmorphia.And in talking with Asian gay men in interviews in qualitative research, part of it is because, you know, if you are an Asian gay man in Australia, then you are often stereotyped as being more feminine. You're not able to be part of the masc for masc subculture, which is still quite dominant and exclusionary and anabolic steroids are a way to compensate for those other aspects of your appearance that are diminishing your masculine capital. You can see something similar happen for men who are shorter. If you go to spaces online where men are complaining about being short to other men, they'll often see, just hit the gym, just get jacked. It's a way to compensate for those other elements that are not helping you to embody that masculine archetypal, conventionally attractive male.Laura: Hmm. Okay. A while back, you talked about pressures from the media. And that has, you know historically, particularly in anorexia research, been held up as a huge antecedent, I suppose, to eating disorder precipitation, but now there's this whole other layer of social media on top of things. How does, and I'm thinking about the fact that young people in particular hang out on TikTok and Instagram and Facebook and maybe less Facebook these days I don't know. I don't go on Facebook. So what do we know about the influence that social media is having on aesthetic and appearance based pressures?Scott: Social media makes people more vulnerable to eating disorders, including muscle dysmorphia. And if you are vulnerable, it can make the transition to having one of these disorders shorter. It can intensify it. And I think it can also assist in maintaining them for longer as well. So the reason why media messaging can be so problematic and damaging in terms of vulnerability for and experiencing eating disorders is because you end up with all these idealized reference points and what social media does is expands that limitlessly so that when you're on your feed and TikTok is delivering videos for you to consume, all of the reference points you are getting from content that is popular and influential and that people are responding to. It's so divorced from reality that you've got a greater pool of people comparing and feeling poorly about themselves and now investing in the general necessity of looking better.Laura: So this is an area that you've been researching. Am I right?Scott: Yeah, that's right.Laura: Can you tell us a little bit more about, you know, specific studies or experiments that you've done, that you're excited to share a bit more about?Scott: So, you know, studies of social media, including of TikTok, generally what they will do is have an experiment and you'll show people some images or videos from social media platforms that you're worried about and see how people respond. Or you have people answer a survey question that will amount to, how often do you use, say, TikTok, Instagram, and you correlate that with some measure like how you feel about your body.And that's all well and fine. But where the real explanatory power is, in my mind, is in big data and getting access into exactly what people are seeing and viewing so you can map their social media experience. So what we've been able to do is to take a group of people with eating disorders and a group of people who, we call it our healthy controls, that don't have eating disorders. And see their entire TikTok algorithm from the day they installed it to the day we requested the data. And that means we can track exactly every video that's being delivered to them, the comments, the likes, all with their consent, I'll just say, of course not being done without that. And we can see what is happening.What it means is we can show things like if you are someone with an eating disorder, your TikTok algorithm that decides what videos you see every time you log in is 50% more likely to deliver you an appearance oriented video for each and every video that you see compared to someone without an eating disorder.And the amount of videos that these folks are seeing, the average is around 2000 a month. So if you are someone in weekly therapy for an eating disorder, If you're a clinician and you have someone who you'reLaura: Oh my God. I'm just sitting here thinking about like some of my clients. I'm like,Scott: That's 500 videos on average that they are seeing between each session. And when we run studies to compliment these on new phones with fresh TikTok accounts that we manage, it only takes three minutes to get an appearance oriented video.You get 17 in the first 20 minutes. So it's not that people are seeking this content out. It happens anyway. And when we look at the rate of liking that folks with eating disorders have for this content versus folks without. It's not that the folks with eating disorders are looking for this content, they're liking it at the same rate because what's algorithm is doing is not taking what you like to determine what you want to see. They're interested in engagement, whether it's Facebook or, or Instagram or TikTok. It's what keeps you looking and what keeps you looking isn't just what makes you happy. It's what makes you anxious or what makes you upset. It's what makes you mad. And if you are someone who is really unhappy or worried about the way you look, it knows which videos will make you look more. And that's exactly what happens. And you can see over time how the algorithm becomes more echo chambery as people get sucked into the vortex of this content.Laura: I think the scariest part for me both as someone who works with eating disorders and as a parent, like my child is obviously not on social media right now, but will be one day I'm sure, is the fact that they know, like the social media companies know exactly what they're doing because wasn't it a couple of years ago, but there was a whistleblower at meta. Who said who, who said, we have all of this information that shows that our algorithms are making body image and eating disorders worse, and yet they're not doing anything about it.Scott: Yeah. And then they downplayed and discredited their own data generated by the star researchers they themselves hired which is absurd. And the reason that they don't wanna do anything about it is because the..Laura: It's capitalism.Sorry, go. Scott: No, you, you're exactly right. The money is made from engagement. And I think the faint that the social media companies do is to imply that what they're doing is giving people what they want, community connectedness. And when it comes to advertising that they're connecting people with the products that they want to buy. And through being able to like things, you can get the sense that, oh, the social media companies are just sitting back and people are doing what they want in there.They're getting what they want, but certainly, the controls that you think you have over what your algorithm, especially on TikTok is sending you is less. And it's about engagement. And engagement doesn't care how you feel, if it's positive or negative, it just cares that you spent the time. Whatever it takes to get you to do more time is what it is going to send you. It's worth noting also that when you look at the proportion of appearance honored content that your algorithm sends you, so how big this echo chamber is, that correlates strongly with the eating disorder symptoms. So the more your algorithm becomes, you know, polluted by appearance, honored content, the worse the eating disorder becomes in tandem. And why wouldn't it?Laura: I have a question, and you might not be able to answer this. One of my clients uses the term recovery porn in eating disorder recovery, which are all of these images of usually women who claim to be in recovery or recovered. Have you looked at the impact that these recovery accounts have on eating disorder recovery?Scott: I've not looked at that specifically, but I'm well aware of the phenomenon your client has described. And unfortunately, lots of social media phenomena and hashtags, like for example eating disorder recovery, body positivity is another good example.Laura: Yeah.Scott: They are not clear paragons, they're not at all as clearly useful as we would like them to be if someone went searching for them. You go looking for ed recovery, you might find an account that is extremely thoughtful in the way that that content is presented right alongside content that is clearly not being very helpful. Just like with body positivity, you might get someone who hearkens back to the, the fat acceptance movement, who's really preaching the fighting the good flight right next to someone who is perhaps well-meaning, but still thin, skinny, and they're pinching a tiny little roll of fat and going body positivity, which as I can tell from your reaction is missing the point.Laura: Yeah. Okay. Maybe, maybe something for a future research agenda then, Scott.Scott: Absolutely. It's a great suggestion.Laura: I'm curious to, because, and I think what it comes, what it comes back to you articulated it there really well. I think something that I tried to unpack with my clients, you know, is thinking about, okay, well, is this image, they might have the message on point, right? But if there's an image that is still highly focused on aesthetics, it's highly focused on their body and, you know, showing off their body in a particular way, then that really completely undermines the message that they might have been sending with the best of intention.So just a little interesting aside, but you know, you've talked about how social media, you know, there might be some benefits to social media. I think there's definitely some work that has shown that coming out of the center of appearance research, but it's murkier and less clearly defined than, than maybe we would like to think.So you painted this really dark picture of social media and, and how it contributes to muscle dysmorphic disorder. So I'm wondering what we can do both from maybe a clinical perspective, or maybe a public health perspective as well as maybe a parenting perspective to protect our kids from internalizing these messages because they're gonna be exposed to them. Right. We know that for sure. So how do we buffer the impact, both maybe at the broader public health level, because this is a public health issue clearly, but also maybe in our own parenting in our own homes. Scott: Yeah. And okay, you're absolutely right. You cannot start from a base of let's not use social media altogether. That's, that's the arena. That's where youth culture is driven in, telling young people not to use it is just not practical. So they're going to use it. Encouraging your child to be a critical consumer of media generally, including on social media, is really useful.I think if you feel confident enough to talk about it, explaining to them that what they see is delivered to them by algorithms can be useful. That's something we're exploring in our own research where we want young people to have a better understanding that what they're seeing in their feed is not a one-to-one reflection of reality to the world as it actually is.And that's beyond the, you know, manipulation of photos and self portrayals that go on, but like the algorithm just feeding you with whatever activates your emotions. Part of that is this tool we're developing that can visualize your algorithm for you so that you can know and compare it to others just how biased it's become. And this can be for clinicians too, because if you have a client walk in the door, you need to know if 70% of their feed is appearance oriented, which is not a number I picked out of thin air. That's an actual number from clients we had with anorexia nervosa. And then you can have a productive conversation with that person around, okay, your algorithm is not only not reflective of reality, it's doing you harm and this is how we can work to remediate it.Laura: I would definitely, like sign me up for that tool. I will test it for you. Whatever you need me to do.Scott: Lovely.Laura: So, so yeah, having conversations that, you know, that there's obviously, the images themselves have been highly altered, stylized, potentially photoshopped, all kinds of different things. But then there's this whole machinery and infrastructure behind that feeding you more and more and more of these idealized images.Scott: Yeah, that's it. And you know, when social media, the way we use it, a lot of the time, like a lot of the time when people are using TikTok, people's guards are down. It's incidental. It's minutes in bed when you first wake up, it's bed when you might be trying to go to sleep. It's when you're on a bus, it's when you're bored, it's when you're tired.It's not active consumption of content. And before you know it, you can have scrolled through or mindlessly watched tens and tens of videos that have appearance oriented content and, just like with how people think that advertising isn't working on them, but the reason that so much money is pumped into it is because it does have cumulative accumulative impacts on, on purchasing decisions. The same thing happens with social media, so it's about getting people to recognize that and to try to minimize what's happening in those spaces because it all adds up.Laura: You know, you said kind of towards the top of the interview that people who are deep in their eating disorder, whether it's anorexia, whether it's muscle dysmorphic disorder, bulimia, orthorexia, whatever form that takes, they are, you know, the least clear in what's going on, right? They're the least easily able to see what's going on. They are definitely aware that there's a problem, but they might not be able to identify exactly what that is. So, with that in mind, I'm wondering for, for parents particularly of teen boys, tweens and teens, it sounds like are both vulnerable and kind of heading into adolescence.If a parent notices more protein powders coming into the house, more you know, concerns about lean protein and less carbohydrates on the plate and more time working out or conversations about being fit, about being healthy, and they're, they're noticing that, that's becoming increasingly rigid and perfectionistic. How might a parent approach this, do you think? Scott: It's a very common question that has never had an answer come easy to me, as I'm sure it wouldn't for many parents because teenage boys are notoriously challenging to talk to and get to open up to, especially about these,Laura: Yeah, but you're a psychologist so you ,Scott: So I'm obliged to have an answer and I I have you. So I think the way we approach folks who we think have muscle dysmorphia, but who are perhaps reluctant to talk about it, is to emphasize those parts of their training and their dieting that aren't working for them. We don't say, “Is it making you sad or anxious?” and, “what's not working for you?” because often whether it's a young boy, a teen, a young adult, they're just thinking about progress. They wanna progress. It's, I want my lifts to get stronger, my body to get better, etc. And the things that we think of as the symptoms of the disorder, the things that we're worried about, they're not worried about them per se. They're worried about their progress. And it's those things on the side that are making it hard, right? So we frame it as, okay. What's, what's getting in the way of you being able to train and diet and be like this and, and that maybe it's, ah, you know, I couldn't, I couldn't train today. I had to go and do this.It's like, oh, okay. So like, how did it make you feel? It's like, you can try to get them to see that it's the rigidity that is being more unhelpful than helpful. We deliberately keep it above the level of feelings for a while until that is more approachable. Often with our young clients, we'll just pitch it as, look we don't want to change your training and your dieting. We're not gonna tell you not to go to the gym. We just want you to be in a space where you can get back to making the progress that you wanna make. Then you've got your foot in the door and you go from thereLaura: You're getting them on side. You're telling them I'm on your team. Yeah.Scott: Yeah. Because whilst you can say the term body image to most young women and they intuitively know what you're thinking about, if I try to say, “are you worried about your body image?” to a young man, even if I know they are, it's so super clear as day, a lot of the time they'll say no.Laura: Yeah,Scott: Like straight up, they'll say no to you. Because it's just not the language that they speakLaura: Yeah, yeah. But if you can talk to them in terms of gains and what's getting in the way of theirScott: What's getting in the way? You know, you're not talking about feelings per se. That's just the best way I can describe it. It's a very tactful and challenging spot to be in, I think.Laura: Yeah. I mean, my hope is that I never have to broach this conversation with my kid, but fuck parenting is hard, man.Scott: Yeah, I certainly empathize.Laura: And I really hope you don't say CBT right now, but what do we know about treatment? What is available to help young people, older people, whoever is impacted by muscle dysmorphia to help them recover?Scott: The evidence-based for effective treatment for muscle dysmorphia is extremely limited. It's nowhere near what we have for the other eating disorders. There is nothing in the way of an RCT or anything like that. I have a PhD student now who is running the first manualised treatment for muscle dysmorphia, so we'll see how that turns out.Generally speaking, the approaches that work for eating disorders will also work for muscle dysmorphia, in my opinion, because again, the core maintaining factors of the disorder and precipitating factors are very, very similar. And what has been encouraging as a first port of call, the major eating disorder charities that run helplines, so certainly the Butterfly Foundation in Australia perhaps BEAT over in the UK, they are increasingly cognizant of muscle dysmorphia and the helpline staff are better equipped to, to talk about it, which is perfect.Laura: I noticed the other day that there's even an NHS page, which, you know, you and I spoke a couple of years ago for Don't Salt My Game, and I'm pretty sure it didn't exist even then. So there is certainly more recognition and awareness, but it sounds like people are more equipped to have these conversations, certainly in the eating disorder space.I worry more about kind of general practice in terms of medicine because there's even and, and don't get, this is not GP bashing . We all know how much pressure GPs are under, but there is a lack of awareness even about more traditional eating disorders in that space. So yeah, I reckon BEAT would be probably the best first port of call there.But in terms of treatment, it sounds like we don't exactly know yet. Your sense is that probably some of the modalities that we use for other eating disorders are probably gonna be successful because of, you know, the same underlying maintaining and precipitating factors. But I guess we need to wait for your student to do their research before we have more clear answers on that.Scott: Yeah. But even then for the really convincing answer that yes, you can confidently send someone for this treatment and there's a great chance they get better years and years away from that. But what I find promising is in talking to eating disorder clinicians, in training them when it comes to muscle dysmorphia, it's not a case of, oh, how am I gonna do this?It's, oh wow. There's all the parallels are all there, which is great because it means that the tools are there, it's just a matter of education both on the part of the clinician and on on people and young men so that they know they can go and seek help and that help will be there to meet them.Laura: Absolutely. And I just wanna go back to the TikTok algorithm thing, which is super disturbing to me, but, but just to kind of close out, I wonder, you know, from your perspective as a researcher, what do we need to be doing both in terms of a research agenda, but maybe also like a public health policy agenda in terms of tackling some of these, like really problematic systems, I suppose, that young people are up against. I don't know if that question makes sense, but like, where do we go from here? What do we do with this?Scott: No, I've thought about this. There's the organizations I'm working with in Singapore, we've been talking about that at length and the broader conversation that needs to be had moving back from TikTok to algorithms and data generally is we need greater oversight and control of how our data is used to deliver us content of all kinds.Because people cannot bat an eyelid when they think of, alright, I wanna clean my house and I'm on Instagram and I got an ad for a cleaning product, cool. And in your ideal world, advertising connects you seamlessly to the things that can make your life easier. What you don't want is for an algorithm to see and know that a young person has been looking at a lot of videos that are around weight loss and now a targeted ad comes up for a weight loss supplement, cause that is how that data gets used also.And we need tools, I think like the one we're developing so that people can see what their algorithms are sending that. You should know. You should know if your algorithm is sending you three times more toxic masculinity content than someone else, if it's sending you more eating disorder content, if it's sending you more plastic surgery content.Because the first step in a battle is knowing what your algorithms are sending to you. And this issue only becomes more important because let's say you or I wanted to find out something factual, we go to Google.Gen Z uses things like TikTok for search. 40% of Gen Z prefers to use TikTok than Google for search, which means you are down the rabbit hole of the algorithm from day dot.So you need to know, but of course that information's never released to you. So it's pushing back against the opaqueness of the data that we provide and how that data is used to send us content because it's not in our, in the service of our health and connectedness and community. Again, it's in the service of, of money, and, and engagement. So I think that's the broader conversation, right? The data collected from us is not benign.Laura: Oh, absolutely. Wow. All right, Scott, on that cherry note, um, at the end of every episode, my guest and I share something that they have been really excited about lately. Um, So something they've been snacking on, either literally or metaphorically. Do you have something picked out?Scott: I do. So in Singapore, my favorite breakfast to have is kaya toast with some rather runny under soft boiled eggs with soy sauce and white pepper. It's a very common breakfast here, and I love it. It's so, so satisfying. I had it this morning. I'll have it again tomorrow.Laura: Sorry. What is the kind of toast did you say?Scott: It's called Kaya Toast. So it's like thick cuts of toast with butter that's called kaya butter. And it's slightly sweet. I think it has a more fun and complex flavour than regular butter. And you can dip that in eggs that are loaded up with white pepper and soy sauce.Laura: Got it.Scott: I love it.Laura: Oh, it sounds like they have a really amazing food culture over there. Like I've heard from people that they have like, you know, lots of different kinds of street food and stuff like that, so yeah. That sounds awesome. Mine is also a food so it's, I mean, it's only February at the time of recording, but like all the Easter stuff is now showing up in the shops and so I demolished a pack of like Doisy and Dam, which is like a brand of chocolate over here, mini eggs the other day. And they were so good. Like, I don't know if you get mini eggs in Australia, they're like solid chocolate eggs with like a candy kind of coating shell around them. And they're like all different kind of pastel kind of colors. Like yellow and pink and green and like eastery kind of spring colors.Scott: It's possible we do, I can't recall 'em off the top of my head,Laura: You're gonna tell me like you don't like chocolate or something.Scott: No, no, no. I love chocolate I'm not sillyLaura: So I think you would like, I know you would recognise them. So maybe you don't have them. You don't have them over there. All right, Scott, it's been really great to chat to you again. Can you let everybody know where they can find out more about you, your research group, or any of your publications? I will link to the study, the TikTok studies if they're published yet? Scott: They're in the process of being, so the best place to follow along with the research my team does, including the TikTok work, is at my Twitter. It's @Scott1Griffiths. Or just search Google. Scott Griffiths, Scott Griffiths Body Image Research or something like that, and it will come up. That's the easiest way.Laura: I'll link to it so that it saves people the minefield of Googling stuff.Scott: Yeah.Laura: But yeah, so that's the best place to follow along on your Twitter and get updates about your research. I can't wait to read that. Well say. I can't wait to read it. I'm really depressed after talking to you about the state of social media.I mean, I was already bummed out about it, but this has just solidified that for me. So thank you for that. But otherwise, it was really great to talk to you and it's obviously really essential and important research that you're doing. So thank you for taking the time to share it with us.OUTROLaura Thomas: Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode of Can I Have Another Snack? 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In this episode, we cover a topic that hits all of us. It is unavoidable. Pressure! Pressure! Pressure! On December 11, 2011, RGIII won the Heisman Trophy and included in his speech, “Great things don't happen without hard work . . . the hotter the heat, the harder the steel. No pressure. No diamonds. We compete. We win.” The guest today is Bruce Pulver, Author of Above the Chatter, Our Words Matter, Ted x Speaker, and Acrostic Extraordinaire, and Co-Host of the podcast, “Can I Have a Word with You?” Bruce can be reached at: For speaking and the book: abovethechatterourwordsmatter.com Facebook and IG: above_the_chatter_bruce_pulver LinkedIn: Bruce Pulver Host: Collin Harbour Bruce is a guy that is on a journey to everyday try to get closer to and reach more of his potential. It's a struggle. It's a journey. He tries to help others and bring them along in his journey. Bruce says that in business and everyday life that we've got to do the hard things and it takes the right mindset. The easy things have already been done. We have to embrace the fact that where the struggle comes, when the challenge comes, that we need to take ownership. A stumbling block can become a steppingstone. Dealing with extreme pressure can be accomplished by: Getting grounded Relaxing Stepping back Quotes on Pressure: Pressure is a word that is misused in our vocabulary. When you start thinking of pressure, it's because you've started to think of failure. Tommy Lasorda Everything negative - pressure, challenges - is all an opportunity for me to rise. Kobe Bryant The only thing that relieves pressure is preparation. Tom Kite No matter how tough, no matter what kind of outside pressure, no matter how many bad breaks along the way, I must keep my sights on the final goal, to win, win, win-and with more love and passion than the world has ever witnessed in any performance. Billie Jean King To be under pressure is inescapable. Pressure takes place through all the world; war, siege, the worries of state. We all know men who grumble under these pressures and complain. They are cowards. They lack splendour. But there is another sort of man who is under the same pressure but does not complain, for it is the friction which polishes him. It is the pressure which refines and makes him noble. Saint Augustine --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/harbourtimepodcast/support

What if I told you that you that you can't go it alone? What if I also told you that your story can change someone's life? In today's session we discuss the necessity of collaboration and working with others to achieve your superman/superwoman status! We show how you can actually get more done when working together with someone. We also discuss how learning and developing your story can help others. ALL stories are flawed and messy. Keep that in mind when looking for ways to help others. Bruce Pulver and Heather Carter's collaborative podcast, “Can I Have a Word with You”, breaks down words and provides actionable items to impact others. Bruce is a TEDx speaker and author of “Above the Chatter, Our Words Matter,” and Heather is a cancer survivor who uses her story to help those that are one day behind her. She's authored two books, "Soul Selfie" and "Soul Selfie: #nofilter." We all have superpowers. Build on your superpower to help others and impact lives. If you want to stretch yourself, work with others and listen to what they have to say. Listening is absolutely key in personal growth and collaboration. Listening is an opportunity to find middle ground and learn. Heather and Bruce both give back to others through events, donations and other assistance. As Bruce's dad used to tell him, the only time "get" should come before "give" is in the dictionary. As Heather says, “we go through what we go through so that we can help others get through what we went through.” Strike a Chord Live Podcast: Beacons Page Bruce's Page and Bruce_Pulver - Listen on YouTube, Spotify - Linktree Heathers Page

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We are honored to have Dr. Hazel Keedle join us today all the way from Australia! Hazel is the author of Birth After Caesarean: Your Journey to a Better Birth. She has more than 25 years of experience as a clinician both in nursing and midwifery, an educator, and a published researcher. Her work remains rooted in her desire to strengthen and empower women.Hazel tells us how her own VBAC birth journey lit a fire that led to the completion of her doctorate degree and her book. Everything in her book is ESSENTIAL for VBAC-hopeful mamas and is all backed with evidence-based research.We know you will LOVE listening to Hazel. She is so gracious and such an invaluable asset to the birth world. This episode is a must-listen and her book is most definitely a must-read for all!Additional linksBirth After Caesarean: Your Journey to a Better Birth by Hazel Keedle, PhDHazel's Instagram: @hazelkeedleHazel's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VBACmattersSarah's Instagram: @sarah_marie_bilger or @entering_motherhoodHow to VBAC: The Ultimate Prep Course for ParentsFull transcriptNote: All transcripts are edited to correct grammar, false starts, and filler words. Meagan: You guys are listening to The VBAC Link and I'm so excited for today's episode. We have Hazel Keedle today. She's in Australia and it's 1:00 a.m. She stayed up all night just to be with us today on this podcast. So grateful for her. We're going to be time sensitive so we can make sure to get her tucked into bed at a somewhat reasonable hour, but guess what? Today, we have a co-host. A co-host! I'm so excited to start bringing on some co-hosts here and there. Today, we have Sarah and she is one of our VBAC doulas. I'm so excited to have her with us today. Review of the WeekMeagan: Sarah is going to actually do the honors of reading you a review. So go ahead, Sarah. Sarah: Hi, yeah. I'm glad to be here. We have a review from Katelyn Bayless. This one is from google and it says, “I honestly can't recommend The VBAC Link enough. I had my son via C-section in 2021 and even though I'm not pregnant with number two yet, I feel so ready and even excited for when that time comes because of all of the stories and education from The VBAC Link. I have been binging the podcast for the past couple of weeks and I have a note on my phone that is specifically for VBAC resources and education that has been mentioned on this podcast. “I am looking into providers and planning on starting interviewing some soon. I can't tell y'all enough. Thank you for all that you do and I hope one day I can share my VBAC story.”Meagan: Oh, I love that. I love that. Well, today's episode is going to have some more resources for you for sure. Hazel Keedle, PhDMeagan: We are coming to you from The VBAC Link. We have a guest from Australia. We're so excited to have her. We're so, so excited. We actually just connected here. We are connecting for the first time, I should say today, but Hazel, our guest today, just connected with us about a week or two ago. You guys, she is so amazing. It's 1:00 a.m. and she is in Australia recording right now, so I just want to give her a huge shoutout and thank you for being with us at 1:00 a.m. Oh my goodness. I told her I probably would have been, “Nope. Let's find another time,” but here she is. She is so dedicated at 1:00 a.m. recording with us and I cannot wait to share with you this wonderful, wonderful human being. We are going to jump right into it because again, it's 1:00 a.m. I don't want to take too much time but I wanted to introduce her quickly. This is Hazel Keedle. She is a lecturer of midwifery and completed her PhD in 2021 at Western Sydney University in Australia. Hazel has more than 25 years of experience as a clinician in nursing and midwifery, educator, and researcher. Her research is – it might as well be 1:00 here Hazel. Hazel: You're doing great.Meagan: Her research is recognized internationally and focuses on midwifery practice, education, and women's experience in maternity care. Hazel is passionate about improving support for women during pregnancy, birth, and early transition to mothering. She is amazing. Right here in my very hands, I am holding a book that she wrote. It's called Birth After Caesarean: Your Journey to a Better Birth by Hazel Keedle. I definitely am going to suggest this and we are going to talk more about her book here in just a minute, but again, I don't want to take too much of her time so we are going to jump right into it and turn the time over to you to share all of your wonderful knowledge and of course, your story. Hazel: Sure, okay. Well, thank you for having me here. I really don't mind waiting up for you. Okay, so yeah. My name is Hazel Keedle and I'm originally from the U.K., but I moved to Australia 20 years ago now with a backpack and I never left. I came over here as a nurse and then I trained to be a midwife while I was here. I was kind of destined. My granny was a midwife in England and she told me that I would be one, so I followed what she said and I became a midwife here. And then, I wasn't particularly interested in vaginal birth after Cesarean at that point. I was just trying to get my head around what being a midwife was and what it meant. I quickly met my husband during my UgradG* as a midwife. We quite quickly got together and had a baby which was a planned home birth but ended up that he was being breech and I ended up having an emergency Cesarean because in my area at the time– this was 15 years ago– there wasn't anyone who supported breech vaginal birth. I knew that I would have to have a Cesarean. I didn't have a great experience and I didn't do too well with my health afterward. But then, which was not planned at all, I got pregnant again very quickly. There were only 4 months between my Cesarean and getting pregnant. When I did find out, which was a few months after that, so I was breastfeeding, I had to think about what I was going to do and I really didn't want to have a Cesarean. My whole first experience was the most hospitalized home birth you can have. I had pneumonia at 34 weeks with my first and then I had a Cesarean and I had mastitis and a childhood fever, so I was in the hospital three times. Meagan: Oh my goodness. Hazel: I was really sick and I really did not want to go through that again, but I also wasn't sure if I would get support to have a VBAC because there would be 13 months between them or 14 months, I thought, at that point. I did lots of reading. I was a midwife by this point and I dug my head into the numbers. I read the only book that was out there which was The Silent Knife which as you know, is very old and it was very old then, but it was really good at getting me the statistics. I then dated my reading. For a whole weekend, I shut myself in a room and just read and read and read and read. I came out of it freaked out because a paper had come out that year that said if it was less than 6 months between a Cesarean and conception, then you had a 2.7% chance of uterine rupture compared to less than 1%. I got a bit freaked out by those numbers. I came up to my hubby who is a very rational numbers man and I said, “I can't do it. I can't do it. I can't have a VBAC.” I told him the numbers and he said, “You've got over a 97% chance of everything being fine.” I was like, “Well, yeah.” It was more dangerous and get in a car and drive to the hospital. Why don't you just go for a VBAC?I adopted his idea and I thought that it was a great idea. I became dedicated to having a VBAC at that point. I didn't realize at the time it would shape my future career and life goals, but I stuck my head in the sand. I avoided antenatal care to be honest because I didn't want to hear the negativity but I was a midwife, so I was able to get someone to listen to my baby and did my blood pressure every time I went to work. I did plan a home birth for my VBAC, but all of my team couldn't be there at the time, so I transferred in. I had to fight during my labor. There was just lots of coercion, lots of “you must have your baby by 4:00 or you're going into a Cesarean”, and I had to just keep fighting. It was so hard to keep fighting when you are in labor. They also knew I was a midwife. I trained there, so I couldn't understand why I had to fight so hard. And then I actually pushed her out of my vagina at 4:00 on the dot. Meagan: Oh my gosh, no way. Hazel: Yeah. The time they were going to take me into theater was her birth time. It was amazing. I didn't know I could feel that high after doing something that was so hard, but I did and it left me with a couple of questions when I looked back and reflected on how I felt. First of all, I wondered if there were any other women who felt as amazing as I did. I really was on cloud nine. I felt like I was healed and that all of the medical stuff I had after my first was gone. But with that came a question of how does any other woman in Australia manage to have a VBAC with that much drama and with that much negativity during labor?Meagan: Yeah and pressure. Hazel: Yeah and I was a midwife. I could see through it, but how did other women who didn't have that knowledge? So I was left with those questions. I was at a community forum. We had a lot of access issues up here to our local maternity and there were lots of petitions and community action. I went over to one of the forums. I shared my VBAC story in that forum and there was a professor of midwifery there who said, who I'd never met before, “You know, you're a midwife. I think you should research this.” I stayed in contact and then about a year later, I started doing research with her. She was my supervisor for both my Master's Honors and then my PhD. Now, we work together on a lot of projects. So yeah. It was sharing my story in that location that started my research career. Well, I think having a VBAC started my research career but that started my formal research career. Now I'm here. She's about to turn 14 and I have done a Master's, a PhD, five or so papers on VBAC, maybe more, and written a book. So that's my story in a nutshell. Meagan: Those are amazing things. And written a book. It's so funny because you were like, “Yeah, it started,” but I think it had been with you for a while and then that inspired you and gave you the extra oomph. It was like, “Now I've gone through this and experienced this. How can I change this? How can I change this for everyone else?” I always had this desire for birth and a passion for babies. I would have wanted to be a labor and delivery nurse, and then I had my first C-section and was like, “Oh. That wasn't really what I wanted or what I envisioned.” Hazel: Yeah. Meagan: And then after my second, learning more about doulas and birth, and really the options, then also going through that second Cesarean, although it was healing and everything, just having a different experience, I was like, “Yeah. This is what I'm doing. This is what I want to do.” It's like it was always in you and it was always in me, but these experiences that we've had have lit the first. Hazel: Yeah, it became the drive. I've always been interested in research. I got an Honors degree when I was a nurse back in London, and so I had a bit of a passion for research and for reading research, but I think you have to have that real drive and reason for going on such a big path. And yeah, definitely. For me, it was not even how amazing I felt. It was just that question of, did other women feel that? Is it hard for everyone?There was one point when I had stayed overnight. I wish I hadn't. I wish I had gone straight home, but I had been coerced to stay overnight in the hospital. Midwives would be coming in and saying, “Are you the VBAC woman?” I thought, “What is this? Is this a zoo and I'm a prized animal that they are coming in to stare at?” It made me think that it actually was quite rare then to have a VBAC here. It was really so rare that they had to come in and go, “Are you the VBAC woman?”Meagan: “Are you the VBAC woman?” Yes. Hazel: Yeah. But I hadn't learned much about it in my training. I was working in the low-risk units, so we didn't offer VBAC in the hospital I was working in, so it was quite a rarity for me as well. Meagan: Yes. So tell me more about VBAC in Australia. Tell me more about what it's looking like, what it's seeming like, and what you've learned through all of your education. I would love to know. We talked about this in the beginning. I'm just here in Utah. We are actually very fortunate. We have a high VBAC rate here. I mean, Cesarean rates are still through the roof in general in my own opinion, but we still have a higher VBAC rate and we still have to fight for it. It isn't as uncommon, but I'd love to know more about your research and what you're seeing there in Australia. Hazel: Yeah. So what is your VBAC rate, out of interest, in Utah?Meagan: I'm trying to remember the exact. I will look it up. Hazel: I'm trying to think that the US in general is about 12% isn't it the last time I checked the numbers?Meagan: Yeah, that does sound right. Hazel: Interestingly, I do a lot of presentations on VBAC. When you look across the world, they really do vary from Finland with, I have a 50%, down to across to you guys at 12%. We match you. We actually don't have the high European numbers. We have 12% as well. Meagan: It says 23.9%. Hazel: Okay, so that's pretty good. I wish we had that. Meagan: Yeah, so it says in 2020, well, oh my gosh. 21.3% were Cesarean, but vaginal birth after Cesarean from 2017-2020 in Utah averages 23.9% overall. Hazel: Yeah. Meagan: And then it breaks it down within the cities here. Hazel: Which is pretty good. I mean, I know that's not consistent across the U.S. because the national number comes right down. We do have varieties over here and those varieties are down to the model of care and access. So here in Australia, we have a public maternity system or a public hospital system that is paid through the taxpayer. In that system, where everyone gets free health care, they will be able to access a few different models depending on what's available in their area. They might have a midwifery group practice where they could see the same midwife throughout and there would be a few of them that were on call for free. It's part of the hospital service, but that is relatively new. That has really been rising in the last few years as the health services are increasing those models. We have the standard antenatal care which is where women see whichever midwife is on duty or whichever doctor is on duty and whoever is in the labor ward will look after them during labor and whoever is on the ward would look after them postnatally. We call it “standard care” but we also call it “fragmented care” because you see somebody different all of the time. Then we have– so outside of the hospital system, we have some smaller ones for first nations women, and for migrant women, there are some specific models as well. But then outside of the hospital system, we do have privately practicing midwives who are able to prescribe medications, get some money back from Medicare, and offer home birth services. Some of them also have visiting rights in hospitals. That is more state specific. We have more ** there than in any other state here in Australia for the visiting rights. Meagan: So then are you able to come over if a transfer were needed to happen and things like that, they could come over and perform their care? Hazel: Yeah, they could have an agreement with the local hospital, but that's a growing thing and it's more popular in some states than in others. Where I am, which is New South Wales, which is where Sydney is, there's only really one hospital that offers that in such a very big state. Meagan: Yeah. Hazel: And then we also have the private hospital as well where you would be through a private obstetrician. You would get that continuity, but it's obstetric care, not midwifery care. You may or may not see a midwife during your antenatal period and then you will have midwives along in the labor ward or in the private hospital, but with the private obstetrician you signed up for. So we've got a few different models of care and what we do know from the studies that have been done, the VBAC rates do vary across those models of care. They are higher with privately practicing midwives, so a lot of women who choose home birth are choosing it after a Cesarean and that's what I did my first study on which was their experiences. Then we have good rates in midwifery models of care such as the midwifery group practices and then we have low rates in private hospitals. They have higher repeat Cesarean rates and a lower VBAC rate in private hospitals with continuity of obstetric care. That's really how it looks. But obviously, we are a very big country with a lot of areas in between, so we will have hospitals that maybe don't offer birthing services, but a lot of our remote communities are a bit like Canada where all of them, I say in areas of Canada, they have some birthing in-country services. We are still a bit behind on that, so it really is a variety of services, but in most metropolitan hospitals, you'd get a private model, a public model, and midwifery models within that. Meagan: Yeah. Oh my gosh. I love it. I wish so badly that I had the capabilities or I guess I was in a time in my life where I didn't have little, like little kids, where I could bounce around to not only different states but different countries and somehow observe birth and learn birth around the world. That is this dream of mine that I could understand birth from all areas other than just little Utah here. I have a doula partner who just came from Texas and birth is so different here in Utah than it is in Texas. What you're describing is so different. Obviously, there are similarities all around. We hear all of these stories and there are definite similarities. It's birth, but the way care is and everything, so yeah. One day. One day maybe I'll be able to bounce around in life, but I love hearing that. Hazel: That's right because only then you're limited then to really what is published and so some other countries that have higher VBAC rates– just across from us is New Zealand where they have a midwifery model of care and the numbers we can get from them, they don't have national data on this, they seem to have much higher VBAC rates to us, but then they aren't published very much on it, so it's really hard to know. Unless you're there, it's hard to get a sense of what's going on. Meagan: What's really going on, what they're doing, and why do they have such a high rate? Hazel: Yeah, yeah. Meagan: Other than maybe midwifery care. Hazel: There are some studies out there, especially in Europe, there are some studies that looked into the culture and how different that is, but not enough. Not enough to really give us an idea. Meagan: Absolutely. So, Ms. Hazel, I would love for you to share more about your book too. You have so many amazing things in this book. I'm going to hurry and just flip over to the table of contents, but it reminds me a lot about our VBAC course. It covers so many incredible things, these topics. Obviously, your VBAC journey is in there, your research journey which I think is amazing, your PhD journey, birth trauma, and experiences and symptoms of birth trauma which are so important. We don't talk about that enough. Seeking help and debriefing– again, something we don't talk about enough. How to access debriefing. I don't know if you want to cover any of that, but that's so important right there. You have so many things in this book. Do you want to cover some of your highlights? Sarah and I are both here in the states, but we would love to know more about this amazing book. By the way, listeners, we're going to have a link for this book if you want to purchase it and give it a read because it's going to be amazing for you. I promise you. Hazel: Oh thank you. Well, my publishers are in the U.S., so when I was writing it I very much had the U.S. in mind, Australia, and the U.K., so even when I looked at any resources in the book, I tried to find U.S. ones as well. Meagan: Yeah, I noticed. YOu have some Lamaze and everything in here. You have tables of words broken down and it does have U.S. things. That is something, I think, that is so amazing because a lot of our listeners are in the U.S. so it's super nice to be able to read something and have some resources for here where they are. Hazel: Yeah. The idea behind the book was I was towards the end of my Ph.D. journey and I used a methodology called feminist critical theory. Part of that is that you give back your research. You get your research. You get your data from women in the community, but you want to give back to transform that culture for the better. When I was really evaluating, “Well, how do I do that?” When I was writing my thesis, I was like, “Well, how am I giving back to my community?” I had research papers and I know people read research papers. You guys do and then you translate that evidence into your doula course. A lot of people do that. But I thought, “Maybe that's not everyone.” When I did my Australian VBAC survey, I asked what kind of resources people used, and there was a real want to have more books out there. I wondered if I could have this crazy pipe dream of writing a book and then I had the opportunity to do that, so I submitted my thesis in the October and by the December, I had signed a book contract. I was really keen while it was all fresh in my head to get it all out and down on paper.I think lockdowns were in my favor because I had to take leave because it was building up. I couldn't go anywhere so it was like, “Well, I will just sit and write this book then.” That's really how I used my time to do it. I put it together as my findings of my PhD. One of the first papers I wrote on my PhD journey was looking at all of the evidence that was out there. The title of the paper was, “The journey from pain to power.”That was a thread that went through all of my PhD journey. When I was then looking at, “Well, how do I write this book?” The term “journey” was very high up there. I thought, “Well, I go on that journey from pain to power.” That first thing is that pain and that is that previous Cesarean. One of the things I found out from my studies was that usually in the community, we have about a third of women say “yes” to experiencing birth trauma. That's the full state of birth trauma which includes psychological birth trauma. When I asked that question in my VBAC surveys– so all of these women have had at least one previous Cesarean– that was ⅔ of women that suggested birth trauma. We already know we have a highly traumatized group of women who have had a previous Cesarean, so that's why I started with that. I think it's really important. It certainly is. I was a home birth midwife for many years. I know you need to work that out and talk about it, and debrief about it before. You've got to work at that past to be able to look forward to the future. Meagan: Yeah. Well, and even recognizing it. Hazel: Yeah, that's a great one. Meagan: Sometimes, it's hard to recognize that you look at your experience as traumatic because I feel like so many times, we are mentally trained to tell ourselves, “Oh, we had a safe and healthy baby, so no. It's fine.” They suppress their trauma down. They're like, “No, I was fine. It's fine.”Sarah: We're led to believe that as well. Hazel: Yeah, absolutely. That's why I really brought in quotes and what it can look like for women and quotes from the stories that had been shared with me for people to go, “Maybe that is what I experienced. Maybe those symptoms are what I am experiencing.” I start that chapter off with, “Go grab yourself, in pure English style, go grab yourself a cup of tea and a chocolate bar because this chapter will be tough,” just to recognize that this might not be the easiest one. It might not be where people want to start off with. They might go back to that. But yes. I started off with that pain and then I used what I found through my PhD and what I did in my qualitative. So in my PhD, I had qualitative and that moved into quantitative. So the qualitative is all of the feelings, experiences, and exploration, and then the quantitative is all of the stats and the numbers. When I did the qualitative, what I did was I had this crazy idea of designing an app. Women, after their appointments with their healthcare provider, would come home and record their experiences on the app. They would do that after every appointment and then I interviewed them afterward as well. I had some really rich data. I had 52 recordings. I'm so grateful to those women. I'll be forever indebted to those women. Then I had all of these interviews as well, so I had these really rich stories. We use that term in qualitative is rich data. Sarah: These were appointments leading up to their birth or after in the postpartum period after their Cesarean? Hazel: Right, this is during their pregnancy. Sarah: Okay.Hazel: So they were planning to have a VBAC. That's what their plan was and then they would go and see their healthcare providers and then they would do recordings for me. They were given some prompts and questions, but it became very organic like it was more like a journal. They would start going, “Hi, Hazel. I'm so many weeks now and this is what just happened.” It was a really novel way. The research hadn't been done like that before, so it was really interesting. What I was able to do was a narrative analysis which was comparing all of their stories against each other to look for commonalities and differences. What I found is that there were these four factors that impacted how they felt after the birth because I interviewed them all after the birth as well. Those four factors, if they were really positive on those four factors across them and they had a cumulative effect. One had an impact on the other. They felt better about their birth experience regardless of the birth experience. If they felt lower on those four factors, they were more devastated after their birth experience.It didn't mean that those who had a vaginal birth didn't feel more positive than those that had a repeat Cesarean because it kind of was that as well, but there was a lot of resolution that could come when you had a repeat Cesarean, and felt higher in those factors. Those factors are then what I go into in the book. There's a chapter dedicated to each one of those factors. They are having control, so having control over your choices, your wishes, and your birth outcomes. Then there's having confidence, so having confidence in your ability to have a vaginal birth after a Cesarean, but also, having confidence in your healthcare providers' belief in you. That was quite surprising for me how pertinent that was. Women really wanted that. It makes sense, doesn't it? You really want that person to believe in you and believe that you can do what it is that you want to do. And then there's having a relationship, so that was the relationship that you have with your healthcare provider whether that's one that is developed such as continuity of care or whether it's with a different person each time, and even then, not all continuity is the same and that really came out in the study. And then the last one is being active in labor. That seemed a bit of a strange one to add on, but women who felt they were really able to do everything that they wanted to do during labor and birth, being as active as they could, as upright as they could, felt better after their birth experience. If they then ended up with a repeat Cesarean, then they still felt very positive because they had done everything that they could compared to not having the opportunity to be upright and vocalizing that. Meagan: Yes, yes. We have found that. I have found that personally in my group of doulas. We have found that even if it doesn't end the way they want, there are bumps and curves. It's labor and birth, but along the way, if they felt like they were in charge and were able to be in the positions they wanted and call the shots a little bit more, overall after, they felt immensely more positive and happy about their experience. Hazel: Yeah, absolutely. That's it. In the book then, I really go into what they all mean. The control chapter might take some people by surprise because I actually know a lot of women, especially when they are reflecting on their previous Cesarean which may have been, let's just take probably the most common example these days. Induction, they're having their first baby, they get close to the date, post dates, they get encouraged to have an induction. The induction doesn't quite go to plan. They have a cascade of interventions and have a Cesarean. When they are then planning for the next birth before or during the pregnancy, one of the common themes is getting armed with knowledge. It's like, “Okay. Now I need to know everything about labor, birth, and pregnancy. I really want to be able to call the shots.” There's a bit of grieving in that time of, “Why did I say yes? Why didn't I say no?” A bit of self-blame. I think as women, we are kind of hardwired to blame ourselves for everything, especially blaming our bodies because we are never quite right. The media never lets us think we are right because we are either too big or too small or our boobs are not quite right or whatever. Meagan: Right.Hazel: There's nothing to make us feel better and then we blame ourselves for not being able to stand up against the patriarchal medical system. I actually start the control chapter looking at the impact of the patriarchy in medicine and especially in obstetrics and how the different waves of feminism have impacted that and also the impact of reproductive justice which is something that is obviously very important in the U.S., but also over here with our host nations' women and migrant communities that have come to Australia. I look at all of that and really frame it to go, “You know, it's actually not your fault. It's actually really hard to stand up for yourself and say no when you are at the bottom of a really oppressive ladder.” Not to come and say, “Well, you can't do anything,” because then I explore all of the ways of what you can do to help that and actually how you need all of those factors together to really build your position. But almost to take that guilt off and also understand where we've got to today with a hospital-based maternity system, why it is like it is, and the impact of all of those different changes in society that have got to where we are today. So yeah. Those are the different chapters. Some of them have activities that you can do. There are a few guess righters in there. And then one of my favorite parts, probably because I didn't have to write it, but I put a Facebook post out and asked for women who had any VBAC stories that they wanted to print in the book. I wanted a VBAC with just something a little bit different or complicated risk or whatever. I have got 12 stories of women from around the world including the U.S. who've had VBAC with something a little bit different there. It might be after multiple Cesareans like your story or it might be at home or it might be with a larger body which, as we know, gets a lot of stigma in maternity care. There's one that is a VBAC after a uterine rupture. There's one after a classical scar. There are all of these different stories at the back of the book in full with pictures, but I also weaved them into some of the chapters earlier as well. I love those stories. Some are short. Some are in poem form and some are really long. I just kept them as they were and put them in the book. Just really so women can identify and go, “Maybe I'm not quite sure what Hazel is saying,” and then they get to that story and they are like, “Oh, actually I really relate to that person.”Meagan: Yeah. That's one of the reasons why we're here on The VBAC Link podcast, right? All of these stories, some of them you might not connect to as deeply, and then some you're like, “Oh my gosh. That's me. I felt that. I had that. That's my story. It's like they're taking it out of my own mouth.”Hazel: Absolutely. It is so important. Meagan: We've had that many times where it's like, “Whoa. That was almost creepy how similar those births were,” and then to be able to connect and be like, “But look. They went on and they did it. This is what they did.” It's so empowering. Just flipping through these beautiful pictures is absolutely stunning. Absolutely stunning pictures. I'm sure these stories are going to, again, relate to so many people out there that may not even know that they're going to relate to them until they read them. Hazel: Yeah. I do mention in the– oh my gosh. I'm testing myself on which chapter that one's in now. I think it might be Confidence about really relating to stories and listening to podcasts. I mention that you really need to tap into your peers because we have very large social media groups now and pages to follow full of positive VBAC stories. That's important in there. I do also add there, it does say that the title is Birth After Cesarean. I do throughout the book look at, you are choosing the best birth for you. You need to prepare for both, but you may either have or choose a gentle Cesarean. There is a chapter in there as well about what a gentle Cesarean is, what evidence says, and maybe some of the things you might think of if you have a repeat Cesarean. There is that part of it as well because I explore how important it is to really if you're going to be in control of everything or have more control, then you have to be aware of all options that might happen and be able to still have the best birth for you regardless of that outcome. Meagan: Yeah. We just posted– we reposted I should say– from Dr. Natalie Elphinstone. I think that is how you say it. Hopefully, I'm not butchering her last name. She's from Australia actually. She's an OB and she posted this video of a gentle Cesarean where the mom was actively involved in giving birth to her baby with her own hands. Hazel: Yeah. Meagan: For me in my Cesareans, both of them, my arms were strapped down in a T and after my second daughter was born, they undid the one arm and I did have skin-to-skin. I was able to hold her with that one arm, but watching this video was captivating. It's a 30-second thing, but I watched it probably 40 times because I'm like, “Oh my gosh.” I looked at the mom. I looked at the baby. I looked at everyone around her. There was no curtain. She was able to be totally a part of her birth. I'm like, “Yes. This is what we need.” I literally texted a midwife here in Utah. I'm like “I know I'm a really small fish in a big ocean, but let me know if there's anything I can do from my end to start bringing this option to people.” We got so many messages after like, “Whoa. How can I get that? What do I need to do?” It looks like in Australia, there are multiple videos of this happening. Hazel: I will add that it's not common and it really does depend on who your OB is. Meagan: Exactly. Hazel: But a few years ago, one of my dear friends did her PhD as a video ethnography of skin-to-skin in theater. She was videoing Cesareans and seeing really what happens to what enables skin-to-skin in theater and what doesn't. It was really fascinating. She was one of my PhD buddies. One of the Cesareans she saw was a gentle Cesarean with the woman reaching down to grab her baby. She wrote this beautiful article, but it was actually in a midwifery college magazine that doesn't exist anymore. I could say that she had written it, but I couldn't find my copy of it. I emailed because we are friends. I emailed her and I said, “Look. Do you have a PDF copy because I really want to read it?”She sent it to me. I read it. I wrote about it in that chapter and then I sent the chapter to her. I said, “Could you just read it to make sure that I've said all the right things?” because that's her expert area. She was happy with what I had written, so that was good. Yeah. It really is down to providers. But really, the more women that ask for it, the more pressure there will be to explore it. There are a lot of resources and videos out there now that can show people how to do it. Meagan: And how to do it and that it is possible. Hazel: Yeah. Meagan: I think sometimes it's like, “No. That's impossible. It's a sterile environment. We can't have extra bodies in the operating room.” But look. Hazel: The woman's already there. There's not going to be an extra body. Meagan: Right. Hazel: And really, the ones that I've seen really, they will do the surgical scope with their hands. They will have double gloves on so when they get to the point of needing to reach down, they can take that first pair of gloves off, and then you've got the sterile ones on underneath. There are lots that can be done. Even just lowering the screen. There's often still a screen there, but it's lowered so they can reach down and then take the baby, and then it can go back up while they do the suturing. Meagan: Absolutely, yeah. Hazel: There are ways it can be done, but it's just having people understand why. I remember being in an OB's office with a client, a woman I was caring for. She was exploring her options after having a Cesarean. She mentioned having a gentle Cesarean. His attitude was, “Well, if I offer that, then nobody will want to plan a VBAC.” I was like, “That's actually not going to happen. Don't worry. It's just giving an option to women. Women still really want to have a vaginal birth after Cesarean. That's not going to go down. Your rates are not even that high anyways so don't stress. This is what you can do to support them.” But yeah. That was an excuse for not wanting to go there because it sounds a little bit too hard. Meagan: Mhmm. Sarah: Yeah. That just goes back to sharing our stories too because I feel like without sharing those experiences like we were saying, you're not going to know what your options are if you're not being informed about them. If others are doing this and more people are asking for it, then it's going to open that door and allow other people to be in control of what they want for their birth. Meagan: Exactly. Hazel: And throughout the book, it really is based on evidence. I am a researcher with a very large library of articles and I did dive into them. Straight after the trauma chapter, I go into what the evidence is for the different choices. I have a really deep dive into uterine rupture and then what was meant to be part of a chapter actually ended up on its own which was Can I Have a VBAC If…? and then I look into different scenarios or issues that potentially people will say, “Can I have a VBAC if I've got this?”So that is all evidence-based with numbers and going through what current data is out there. Meagan: Right. There are a lot of percentages in your book. I love it. There are graphs. You may not think that this may impact care, but she has this, it's Figure 2 in the book. It's talking about the length of time for pregnancy appointments under different models of care. You may not right now think the length of an appointment matters, but I can tell you right now firsthand from experience that when I had with my VBAC kiddo, I switched care at 24 weeks. I had an OB and he was great. I seriously loved the guy. He's wonderful and I still think he's wonderful. But then I switched care to a midwifery model-based care. The difference between my visits and again, OBs will spend time, but for me, the difference between my visits was incredible. I actually looked forward, really looked forward to visits with my midwife. I was always greeted with a ginormous hug. She never walked in without giving me a big hug and saying, “How are you doing? Really, how are you?” and then would sit down. We would just have a discussion. She became my best friend. I could just open up to her. She spent quality time. For me, it really helped me as I was entering into this next stage of birth to feel confident in her. I was so comfortable because of all the time that she spent with me. Hazel: I love that. I do love that graph. That came out of my VBAC in Australia survey. We asked what model of care they had and then I asked, “What was the time spent at your appointments?” When we looked at the data, it was just so obvious that the shorter time frame, so maybe 5-15 minutes was certainly with obstetric-led care, and then the 20 minutes plus– certainly, with the privately practicing midwives it was more, and then an hour usually was with the midwifery models of care. That was important because relationships take time. In that relationship factor, you need to have someone by your side who understands your wishes and your trauma if you have some which, as I said, ⅔ of women did, and understands what you want, what you are planning for, and what you are hoping for. Just understanding you and how you tick. Certainly, in my years as a continuity of care midwife, in all models of care, you really, for me as a midwife, I really want to know the person that I'm caring for so that I can see those changes, those really subtle changes in behavior even during labor and also you can pick up when things really aren't quite right and that you might need an extra hug at that time or an extra kind word. Meagan: Yeah. Hazel: That takes a lot of trust. Relationships in healthcare, I believe, should be based on trust and equity. That takes time. The very simple graph, there's no way I could have done an appointment in ten minutes because I have to have a cup of tea at least. There's no way I could drink a cup of tea in just five or ten minutes. So sit down, have a cup of tea, and learn about what's going on.The physical part, feeling the baby, the blood pressure, that you do at some point, but that to me, finding out what's going on for the woman and how she's feeling and what's going on with the family, that is far more important. That takes time. When we saw that in the graph format, it was like, “Oh perfect. That exactly shows what we are saying.” A relationship takes time. Most of us don't usually marry someone that we haven't really or get into a relationship with someone that we haven't spent a fair bit of time with and figured out whether we like them or not. We understand that those relationships are important. I think that when you are only doing something a few times in your life, but you will remember it for the rest of your life, then you really want to choose the team and the support people there. That includes your healthcare provider who completely knows you and completely understands where you've come from and where you want to go.Meagan: Oh my gosh. I love it. I feel like I could talk to you until 4:00 a.m. in Australia. Hazel: I'm wide awake now. Meagan: My family and I are getting ready. We are going on a trip this weekend. Your book is going to be in my hand the entire airplane ride there and back because I just want to soak in every single word that you wrote in this book. I am so excited. I definitely encourage everyone. I haven't even read it yet, but I've skimmed it I should say. I started, but I haven't had time to just sit down and read. It's going to be amazing I can already tell just by browsing through this and listening to you.Oh my gosh. There is something that you say here. It's in the very beginning. This is where I have stopped reading, but it was something that impacts me personally because I feel emotional. It's kind of funny. I felt like this. I felt like a failure and I feel like there are so many times in life when we can– like you said, we beat ourselves up. If it's not about our body, it's about something else, but failure is a word that comes in. I actually have recently, today actually, it's going to be launching. I recently made a reel about failure and how there is no such thing as failure, but this is something if you don't mind, I'm going to quote you reading this book. It's page 10 everybody if you have the book. “In this book, I will talk about planning an elective Cesarean, planning a VBAC, having an elective Cesarean, having a VBAC, or having a repeat emergency Cesarean. There is no failure. You haven't failed if you choose one birth mode but have another. You are amazing and your choices are valid. Be true to you.” That, to me, is so powerful. “Be true to you.” And no, you did not fail no matter what birth mode you chose or what birth mode ended up happening, right? Don't you feel that, Sarah?Sarah: Yeah, I completely agree with that. I think it touches back into the trauma too that maybe you are not aware of that you've experienced and really fear-clearing and taking the time to process your previous birth knowing that whatever the outcome is for your next journey, you're not that failure. You're fine and perfect. You're enough. Hazel: Absolutely. Meagan: Mhmm. You are enough. Yes. Hazel: The research, when you read it, is really full of emotive damaging words when it comes to VBAC. Saying that women are a trial of scar or a trial of labor, we are not criminals for wanting to have a vaginal birth and when we use that language in research, then it means OBs and clinicians and nurses and midwives will use that language as well and tell you that you're on trial. What do you imagine when you think of that? You're not thinking about, “Is this uterine scar going to survive?” You get a feeling that you're a criminal and you're not just because you want to have a vaginal birth. I even challenge researchers. Take that language out. You don't need it. It's unnecessary. I've been writing a paper with some OBs over here recently and just saying, “I won't be on it if you use the term ‘trial.' I won't be on it if you use the term ‘failed' or ‘succeeded'. Just take the emotive words out and call it what it is.”We have to show by example as well and not have that language in the papers that are influencing policy, guidelines, and practitioners. Meagan: Yeah. Sarah: There is such power in the language and the words that we use. Absolutely. Meagan: Mhmm, yeah. Well, Hazel. It has been such an honor to chat with you. Like I said, I feel like we could go on and on and on. Maybe we just need to have you back on. Maybe we need to do something even bigger and do a webinar with you because you have such a wealth of knowledge and we're so grateful for you. Like I said everybody, we will have the link for her book Birth After Cesarean: Your Journey to a Better Birth in our show notes. So Hazel, before we go, do you want to share where everyone can find you? I'm going to be sharing you all over our social media as well. We're going to have everything in the show notes, but tell people where we can find you. Hazel: Yeah, sure. I'm on Instagram at @hazelkeedle. I'm on Facebook at VBAC Matters or Hazel Keedle, VBAC Researcher. That's where I share my book information but also future research that I'm doing as well. I'd love to come on and do a webinar with you and talk further about this anytime even at 2:00 in the morning. Meagan: Even at 2:00 in the morning! You are amazing. We are so grateful to you. Seriously, thank you so much, Hazel. Yeah. I can't wait to share this episode with the world. Hazel: Thank you for having me. Sarah: You know, a lot of what we talk about in the episode is so important and so true to how I feel too. I think calling out trauma has been something that's really near and dear to my heart and something that I had to do to prepare for my own VBAC, so I definitely recommend anybody that is going through this journey to make sure that you are taking the time to really heal from that previous birth and taking time to process and doing some fear clearing and even physical healing from the scar and doing scar massage and such like that. Also, I really think it's important to find that support and build that relationship like Hazel was talking about. Make sure you have somebody that you are able to build a relationship with and feel comfortable with because that's going to matter so much when it comes to your birth. And also, finding a doula that you have a good relationship with, not just your provider. I think those are really main things that I really try to instill in anyone that's going for a VBAC. Meagan: Absolutely. I 100% agree and Sarah, we are so happy to have you in our VBAC Link doula community. Can you tell everybody where they can find you as well? Sarah: Yeah, sure. I am in Simpsonville, South Carolina. It's in upstate South Carolina. More commonly, I guess you'd be familiar with Greenville, South Carolina. I am in that area. You can find me, mostly I hang out on Instagram, so either @sarah_marie_bilger or Entering Motherhood. You can find me there on Instagram. We're actually planning on starting up local VBAC support groups.Meagan: Oh, amazing. Sarah: So if anybody is around and in the area and interested in doing that, there's going to be me and another doula in the area. We're excited to start that and really provide in-person support for people either that have had Cesareans, may be thinking of a VBAC, or really just any realm of Cesarean/VBAC. If you've already had your VBAC and you want to come share your story of success to motivate and help women that are preparing for it as well, we're going to include story sharing and different topics to cover. Meagan: Absolutely amazing. Awesome, awesome. When all of that information is available if you wouldn't mind shooting that over to us, we will make sure that the world knows that. Awesome. Well, thank you so much for co-hosting with me today. It was such an honor to have you. Sarah: Thanks for having me. ClosingWould you like to be a guest on the podcast? Tell us about your experience at thevbaclink.com/share. For more information on all things VBAC including online and in-person VBAC classes, The VBAC Link blog, and Meagan's bio, head over to thevbaclink.com. Congratulations on starting your journey of learning and discovery with The VBAC Link. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heather Carter is an Author, Speaker, Podcast Co-host, Real Estate Professional, Wife, and Mother of three. She began writing a few years back while she was battling leukemia, and her honesty about her own struggle with her physical illness as well as what she refers to as "plagues of the soul" has been inspirational to so many people. She is the Author of "Soul Selfie" and "Soul Selfie #NoFilter".Check out Heather and Bruce's brand new podcast "Can I Have a Word with You?"www.heathercarterwrites.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/reallivetalk/donations

“GHOSTS OF THE TITANIC” and 20 More Terrifying True Paranormal Horror Stories! #WeirdDarkness(Dark Archives episode with stories originally posted in March 2019)SOURCES AND ESSENTIAL WEB LINKS…“The Bright Light From Heaven” was submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/08/26/the-bright-light-from-heaven/ “Boy In The Closet” written by Linda: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/02/boy-in-the-closet/ “What Are You Going To Do? Shoot a Ghost?” written by Mark: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/04/what-are-you-going-to-do-shoot-a-ghost/ “Albert” was submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/09/albert/ “Unborn Child” written by Sue: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/08/31/unborn-child/ “Cigar Smoking Ghost” written by Mark: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/03/the-cigar-smoking-ghost/ “Uncle's Last Visit” written by Marilou: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/08/uncles-last-visit/ “Old Woman” submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2015/09/10/old-woman/“From Good to Bad” by Randy Lee Beasley: https://www.facebook.com/NorthernIPR “Ghosts of the Titanic” by Alan Toner (from 100 True Ghost Stories): http://amzn.com/B00DW64J8S “Unnerved By a Haunted Workplace” was submitted by Keith R.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/19/unnerved-haunted-workplace/ “The Boy With No Eyes” was submitted by Kristine H.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/18/boy-no-eyes/ “The Watching Monk” was submitted by Paulette S.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/15/the-watching-monk/ “Shadow Boy Haunts My Sleep” submitted anonymously: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/13/shadow-boy-haunts-sleep/ “Welcome To Our Haunted House” submitted by Karen F.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/11/welcome-haunted-house/ “Haunted By Doppelgängers And The Bad Luck That They Bring” submitted by Dillicklesncream: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/09/haunted-doppelgangers-bad-luck-bring/ “Arguing Voices From Upstairs Concern a Small Girl” submitted by Janethski: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/07/arguing-voices-upstairs-concern-small-girl/ “Can I Have a Ride?” was submitted by Ed R.P: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/ “Knock Knock” was submitted by Tammy P.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/ “Black-Eyed Children Spotted On a USAF Base – Have You Seen This?” submitted by D. Robins: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/12/black-eyed-children-spotted-usaf-base-seen/ |“Another Report Of a Black-Eyed Kid Trying To Gain Entry Into a Home. Is Anyone Safe?” submitted by Bill R.: http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/08/another-report-black-eyed-kid-trying-gain-entry-home-anyone-safe/Subscribe to the podcast by searching for Weird Darkness wherever you listen to podcasts – or use this RSS feed link: https://www.spreaker.com/show/3655291/episodes/feed.Weird Darkness theme by Alibi Music Library. Background music provided by Alibi Music, EpidemicSound and/or AudioBlocks with paid license. Music from Shadows Symphony (https://tinyurl.com/yyrv987t), Midnight Syndicate (http://amzn.to/2BYCoXZ), Kevin MacLeod (https://tinyurl.com/y2v7fgbu), Tony Longworth (https://tinyurl.com/y2nhnbt7), and/or Nicolas Gasparini/Myuu (https://tinyurl.com/lnqpfs8) is used with permission. 

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Summary: On this episode of the ACT to Live podcast, Scott and Jaime talk about their ‘hugging genes’ and the role that hugging has played in their lives over the years. The two then talk about the pandemic and how more people than ever are feeling lonely and longing to embrace their family members and friends. Jaime and Scott wrap up the episode by talking about the benefits of hugging, the science behind why hugs can be so beneficial, and the ideal number of hugs that we need each day to truly benefit. Yep, you read that right - there is an actual recommended number of hugs!  ACTion Event of the Week: Hug it out!! Try giving someone (family, friend, etc.) or something (pet, stuffed animal, etc.) either one twenty-second hug OR eight to twelve hugs per day! How do you feel?  On our next episode of ACT to Live, we’ll explore the power of our mindset. So Come On, Let’s Take a Walk! References  8 Reasons Why You Need at Least 8 Hugs a day. Happify Daily. Accessed 20 January 2021. https://www.happify.com/hd/8-reasons-why-you-need-at-least-8-hugs-a-day/  Dr. Audrey (2020). The Psychological Benefits of Giving and Receiving Hugs And five reasons why you should make hugging a part of your daily routine. Accessed 20 January 2021. https://medium.com/mind-cafe/the-psychological-benefits-of-giving-and-receiving-hugs-96a93284fa3 Ocklenburg, S (2018). Can I Have a Hug? The Surprising Neuroscience of Embracing Science is only beginning to understand how and why we hug. Psychology Today. Accessed 20 January 2021. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/201811/can-i-have-hug-the-surprising-neuroscience-embracing Shanti Das (2019). Hugging for 20 seconds a day may reduce your stress. The Sunday Times. Accessed 20 January 2021.   https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/hugging-for-20-seconds-a-day-may-reduce-your-stress-2zck2d7h6   What are the Benefits of Hugging?  Health Online. Accessed  20 January 2021) https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits   

The sermon in this review is called "Can I Have a Do-Over?" and was published on YouTube on January 3, 2021. All rights belong to Hope City Church. This video is for teaching and review purposes only and is protected under fair use. Fair use is a doctrine in the United States copyright law that allows limited use of copyrighted material without requiring permission from the rights holders, such as commentary, criticism, news reporting, research, teaching, or scholarship. Orignal Sermon Link: https://youtu.be/JkMmo-HJ9j8 Alistair Begg sermon that is referenced in the review: https://youtu.be/3zIcMweDMqk

What do you get when you put together an emotional story, a families love, and a creator with a unique skill to tell a story? You get "Can I Have a Mask?" from my friend Sahan Jayawardena. The short is the winner of the Best Animated Short (Venice Shorts Fest), Best Animated Short - Gold Award (Independent Short Awards), Outstanding Achievement in Animation (Indie Shorts Fest), and the Best Animation - Honorable Mention (Top Short Awards). In our conversation we talk about how he got into film, how his siblings paved the way and no one stopped him in the pursuit of his dreams, and what he is focused on today. Support Richard's Ride to End Alzheimer's: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/LongestDay2021/TheLongestDay?team_id=657032&pg=team&fr_id=14244 Follow Sahan & Learn About the Award-Winning Short: https://twitter.com/sahan_solo https://instagram.com/sahan_solo Watch the Short: https://vimeo.com/473503813 Learn More: http://richarddedor.com http://twitter.com/richarddedor http://instagram.com/richarddedor http://facebook.com/richard.m.dedor --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/liveitwellpodcast/message

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Michael Crooms (born October 5, 1970), better known by his stage name Mr. Collipark and also known as DJ Smurf, is a hip hop producer and the president of his own Atlanta-based record label, Collipark Music, which was started in 1999.The name Collipark was derived from the city of College Park, Georgia. Crooms is credited as playing a major role in the career of the Ying Yang Twins,Soulja Boy, Taurus, Hurricane Chris, V.I.C., and Vistoso Bosses.In 2007, Mr. Collipark won BMI's "Songwriter of the Year" award.He was also nominated for a 2008 Grammy for his work with Soulja Boy.In 2011, Mr. Collipark debuted his mixtape Can I Have the Club Back Please, which features tracks from artists including Translee, Treal Lee & Prince Rick and the Ying Yang Twins.

It's Ephesians week on Your Pod and Your Staff. And this week, it gets a little SPICY. Our guest this week, former College Life Pastor, Dan Seitz, makes Your Pod and Your Staff history by delivering the hottest take ever to occur on our program. If you know the Letter to the Ephesians, you won't believe what he chooses for Can I Have an Eraser? Beyond his hot take, Dan squeezes a ton of interesting-juice from the fruit of Ephesians with his patented careful and affectionate Scripture reading. He unearths a theme that we might not see apart from the kind of careful reading to which Dan is accustomed… He continues our multi-episode conversation regarding the new Jew / Gentile family of God. He points out Paul's strange (exciting? embarrassing?) understanding of the spiritual realm. He waxes eloquently about the future hope for Christians and why it matters right now. It's a loaded episode. You're going to love it. RESOURCES (from the library of Dan Seitz) Interested in Paul's Theology? Paul, a New Covenant Jew: Rethinking Pauline Theology, Brant Pitre, Michael P. Barber, and John A. Kincaid On the Saved by Faith conversation: Salvation by Allegiance Alone, Matthew Bates Gospel Allegiance: What Faith in Jesus Misses for Salvation in Christ, Matthew Bates On the Issue of Paul's Cosmology The Unseen Realm, Michael Heiser The Drama of Ephesians: Participating in the Triumph of God, Timothy Gombis This episode was edited by Heidi Roodvoets

Can I Have a Few Minutes of Your Time? I will say what some of you have probably thought about saying to someone you have encountered. You know that person that always has negatives words to say, sometimes you just want to say to them please just go somewhere, sit down, and shut up. Our words matter, so please choose your words wisely. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/rgwoe/support

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WEIRDOS OF MARLAR HOUSE: http://www.Facebook.com/groups/MarlarHouse  STORY CREDITS AND/OR SOURCES…“Unnerved By a Haunted Workplace” was submitted by Keith R.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/19/unnerved-haunted-workplace/  “The Boy With No Eyes” was submitted by Kristine H.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/18/boy-no-eyes/  “The Watching Monk” was submitted by Paulette S.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/15/the-watching-monk/  “Shadow Boy Haunts My Sleep” submitted anonymouslyhttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/13/shadow-boy-haunts-sleep/  “Welcome To Our Haunted House” submitted by Karen F.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/11/welcome-haunted-house/  “Haunted By Doppelgängers And The Bad Luck That They Bring” submitted by Dillicklesncream http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/09/haunted-doppelgangers-bad-luck-bring/  “Arguing Voices From Upstairs Concern a Small Girl” submitted by Janethskihttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/07/arguing-voices-upstairs-concern-small-girl/  “Can I Have a Ride?” was submitted by Ed R. http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/  “Knock Knock” was submitted by Tammy P.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/  “Black-Eyed Children Spotted On a USAF Base – Have You Seen This?” submitted by D. Robinshttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/12/black-eyed-children-spotted-usaf-base-seen/  “Another Report Of a Black-Eyed Kid Trying To Gain Entry Into a Home. Is Anyone Safe?” submitted by Bill R.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/08/another-report-black-eyed-kid-trying-gain-entry-home-anyone-safe/  

In this episode, we welcome back the LinkedIn Expert Viveka Von Rosen. Click here to listen to our first conversation back in Episode 19.   Lesser Known LinkedIn Tips And Tricks   1)   LinkedIn Jobs This is a great tool to get a real feel for the industry that you are researching. You may not really be applying for the job per se, however, you can reach out and offer your service or product to help them out and support them. You will also be able to see the companies that are hiring. Once you find the company that you are interested in, you can find a contact that can serve as the gateway person with just a few clicks. They may be able to set up a meeting or phone call with you and the real decision maker. 2)   LinkedIn Salary This is a great tool to learn your true worth in the industry and what people are willing to pay for your skills. You will be able to price yourself based on the industry standards and will not over or undercharge for your skills and services. You will also learn the industry-specific terms and lingo that you can use to modify your own profile. This will help you be 'found ' in LinkedIn search results for the terms or keywords that you are looking for.   Should I Apply Directly On LinkedIn? Surprisingly, LinkedIn may not be the best place to actually apply for the job. Many companies post their jobs on their company's because they must. The decision may already have been made even before the job is posted. Jobs posted on LinkedIn are still helpful in knowing that the company is hiring and you can take the next steps in bypassing the traditional HR interview process. This can be connecting with a person that you already know within the organization. Additionally, you can see what the company posts on their page as well as the decision maker's page. If you see they engaged with a post about a particular topic, you can come prepared to pepper that topic in the conversation. Important Note: Be sure to be genuine when doing this. There is no bigger turn off than someone who is fake and is trying to find favor in the interviewer's eyes. If you are not genuinely interested in the topic, don't bring it up. Jobs on LinkedIn is a great resource to learn the current needs of employers in any particular industry. You may even be able to create a new position for yourself by better understanding the problems that employers are really aiming to resolve. A listener is interested in learning how to apply their skills in another industry as a consultant. How can LinkedIn help with this? You can do a PEOPLE search and add our title (or any title that you could 'wear'), or any other term that can match your areas of expertise. Once the results populate, you can sort by industry to better see how your skills can be applied in other industries.   Here's How To Really Take This To The Next Level: Find a particular person who has the keywords you are searching for in their profile. Identify one of your 1st connections on LinkedIn who's also connected to this person. Reach out directly to your 1st connection and write something like this: Hey , I see that you are connected with . I'm exploring the possibility of applying my skills in another industry and I see that is doing just that. Would you be able to request for for an information interview with them? It will be no more than 20 minutes. You can assure them that I'm not looking for a job offer.  This can be mutually beneficial as we both share similar skills sets. Don't Ask To Pick Their Brain! Because: If you picture actually picking someone's brain... It's gross. It sounds very self-serving. I'm going to pick through your brain and take what appears useful and helpful to me. Then I"ll try to sew back up nicely and cause you only minimal damage. This also indicates that you are asking to take the hard-earned lessons, experience, and knowledge of your interviewee and call it your own. Some of these took months or years to acquire and you are simply asking for a handout. This doesn't mean that people won't share. Generally, people are excited to share all of this with you. Especially if they are really about the topic or field you are discussing. It's just a matter of presenting it to them in the right light.   Can I Have 15 Minutes Of Your Time? NO!!! That is also focused on what I can get from you. If the person is really so important to you and you really want the opportunity to speak with him/her, then you need to invest 15 minutes of your own time to explain what they will gain from the conversation. At the very least, you need to explain the purpose of the conversation.   There Is A Better Way Give some background information about yourself and explain what you intend to get out of the conversation. If it can be mutually beneficial, then explain how and why. If it won't be, then don't lie and say it will be. That is wrong. It also is a terrible way to start a relationship.    Can You Make Real Friends On LinkedIn? If you can make friends at work, then you can make friends on LinkedIn too. People forget that connections on LinkedIn are REAL PEOPLE. They forget to treat them that way. Therefore, to the extent that you treat your connections as genuine people, will you created and develop deep, meaningful and lasting relationships. Viveka shares how she found her current business associates at The Vengresso Group through LinkedIn. This can really work if we understand that we are connecting with real people that we may want to work in the future.   The Formation of Vengresso Viveka shares how she constantly found herself competing with the same people for the same speaking and consulting gigs. So instead of underbidding each other and all losing money, they teamed up and formed Vengresso. In the newly formed entity, they were each assigned a position in the company that best matched their previous skills, experience, and passion. Thus a group of competing and highly competitive professionals converged into a dynamic company reflecting all of their strengths.   (LinkedIn) Video; Embrace It We all know that the printed resume is dead. Yep, I said it. It's dead. You may still be expected to bring it with you to an interview and email it to a prospective boss, however, it's dead. A paper resume simply doesn't accurately convey who you really are and what you can potentially bring to an organization. It's static and can be easily manipulated to reflect whatever impression you intend to create. Video is real. Sure you can edit a video and make it look really nice. But that's like makeup, it can enhance the way you look, however, you still are you on camera and your facial and body language tell a complete story than a printed resume would.   4 Practical Ways To Use Video LinkedIn Video - Be yourself and share your professional knowledge with your connections. Let them know who you really are. Let them understand what makes you tick and share your professional passions with them. Most of all, provide value through your content. YouTube Resume - Create a short video that can be done with your cell phone. Your goal of this video is to simply share how you are unique and what you offer professionally. OneMob - video email. A very affordable tool that is used to create short email videos to share with prospects and clients Zoom - This tool really helps us connect face to face with people without the hurdle of all the tech. It just works. You may have been frustrated with challenges of Skype or the expense of some of the other platforms. Zoom just gets it done and packages start for FREE!!   Why Are We Terrified Of Video? Have you ever walked around randomly recording friends or family with your new phone? 'I'm just seeing how it works'. This usually does not go over very well. Why does this really annoy people? What's the big deal if someone is holding a camera and recording what we are doing? I think this just shows how powerful the video really is. Seeing is believing. That's why when we see something in video, we know that it's real and we know that we are getting to know the real person and the real concept. This is why we love live video too. Then we know that there are no tweaks happening and we are getting the real scoop. We feel like we are there. Use this tool and accept that you will not be perfect the first few times you try this out. You may not even be good at all. But practice makes perfect. All you need to do is forget that it's being recorded. There are no skills that you need to learn. You already live your life every day naturally. You just need to learn to do the same thing even in front of the camera. You can do this!   Know Your Elevator Speech You will inevitably be in situations where you will be asked, 'so what do you do?'. BE PREPARED TO ANSWER THIS PROPERLY. This is your chance to shine. Someone is actually asking you what you do and trying to understand how you fit into their picture of the world. Use this opportunity to the max.   Vengresso Elevator Speech Vengresso helps B2B companies reach the 90% of buyers that cannot be reached through the traditional outreach. We provide digital sales strategies and tools including personal branding, social selling and content for sale. Now that's an elevator speech. Clear and full. It will take some time and several iterations before you speech may look that way. And that's ok. The main thing is that you don't stumble and say something stupid like I'm in healthcare or in technology. That is not helpful to you or the person that is really trying to understand who you really are.   Resources, Links, and Books Recommendations Episode 008  With Bob Burg Social Media Marketing World  Vengresso on YouTube Follow Viveka Online! Viveka on LinkedIn Vengresso   Download This Episode Right-click here to download this episode directly to your computer or device OR IF YOU PREFER... CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD A PDF OF THIS EPISODE :) Help us grow and give us an honest review and subscribe on iTunes   Follow the show! 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Please share Weird Darkness on Twitter, Facebook, Reddit, and other social networks. * MARLAR HOUSE AUDIOBOOKS: http://www.MarlarHouse.com/AudioBooks * FACEBOOK & TWITTER: http://www.MarlarHouse.com/Facebook  * DAILY DOSE OF WEIRD NEWS: http://www.DailyDoseOfWeirdNews.com  * WEIRD DARKNESS: http://www.WeirdDarkness.com * MARLAR SHEET (newsletter): http://www.MarlarHouse.com/MarlarSheet  * FREE MOBILE APP: http://ww.MarlarHouse.com/mobile * SEND ME STUFF: Marlar House Productions, PO Box 2023, Loves Park IL 61130Featured in this episode...“Unnerved By a Haunted Workplace” was submitted by Keith R.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/19/unnerved-haunted-workplace/ “The Boy With No Eyes” was submitted by Kristine H.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/18/boy-no-eyes/   “The Watching Monk” was submitted by Paulette S.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/15/the-watching-monk/ “Shadow Boy Haunts My Sleep” submitted anonymouslyhttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/13/shadow-boy-haunts-sleep/  “Welcome To Our Haunted House” submitted by Karen F.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/11/welcome-haunted-house/  “Haunted By Doppelgängers And The Bad Luck That They Bring” submitted anonymously   http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/09/haunted-doppelgangers-bad-luck-bring/  “Arguing Voices From Upstairs Concern a Small Girl” submitted by Janethskihttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/07/arguing-voices-upstairs-concern-small-girl/  “Can I Have a Ride?” was submitted by Ed R. http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/  “Knock Knock” was submitted by Tammy P.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/14/black-eyed-kid-sightings-strange-phenomenon/ “Black-Eyed Children Spotted On a USAF Base – Have You Seen This?” submitted by D. Robinshttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/12/black-eyed-children-spotted-usaf-base-seen/  “Another Report Of a Black-Eyed Kid Trying To Gain Entry Into a Home. Is Anyone Safe?” submitted by Bill R.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/08/another-report-black-eyed-kid-trying-gain-entry-home-anyone-safe/ “The Ghosts of Pluckley Village” is from the book “100 True Ghost Stories” by Alan Tonerhttps://www.amazon.com/True-Ghost-Stories-Alan-Toner-ebook/dp/B00DW64J8S  “The Entity” is from the book “More Tales Too Strange To Be Fiction” by Cindy Parmiterhttps://www.amazon.com/MORE-TALES-TOO-STRANGE-FICTION-ebook/dp/B01GBSN830 “Hospital Of The Damned” is from the book “The Haunting of America: Ghosts & Legends of America's Haunted Past” by Troy Taylorhttps://www.amazon.com/Haunting-America-Legends-Americas-Haunted/dp/1892523175   “Deadly Contact”Written and illustrated by Paul Spanglerhttps://www.facebook.com/Spangler-Art-and-Illustration-489568255187/?fref=ts“Doppelganger Confusion”Submitted anonymouslyhttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/05/07/doppelganger-confusion/ “The Black Eyed Phenomenon – Not Just Kids?”Submitted by Roger M.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/04/black-eyed-phenomenon-not-just-kids/ “Is Your House On The List?”Submitted by Keith W.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/05/house-list-another-report-black-eyed-kids-terrorizing-residential-areas/ “Another Black Eyed Kids Encounter – Is This An Epidemic?”Submitted by Rick R.http://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/07/01/another-black-eyed-kids-encounter-epidemic/ “What Caused Our Creaking Catwalk?”Submitted by Amandahttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/06/29/caused-creaking-catwalk/ “In Reverse… The Doppelganger Student”Submitted by Paulhttp://www.myhauntedlifetoo.com/2016/05/09/reverse-doppelganger-student/ “The Disappearance of Amelia”Used by permission from MessageToEagle.com http://ow.ly/tYg3301URXC  Find links to this episode’s stories or the authors in the show’s description.5naiuzxdCopyright Marlar House Productions, 2017.  Rebroadcast or duplication without express written permission is strictly prohibited.  Music provided by Midnight Syndicate and Shadow’s Symphonyhttp://www.MidnightSyndicate.com http://www.facebook.com/shadowssymphony/ "Weird Darkness" is a proud member of the BombPod Media Network. http://www.bombpodmedia.com  

Featuring: Mr. Canoehead, Todd Booster, John the Baptist, Telephone Repairman, Army Career, Unedited Shakespeare, Boyd's Bomb Shelter, Can I Have your Furniture Song

David Deutsch, OwnerPresents of Mine FranchisingGuest BIO:David is a 30 year veteran in the franchise industry. He got his start in franchising as Founder and CEO of ExecuTrain from 1984 through 1997. ExecuTrain grew to sales of $175M at 225 sites in 26 countries with 3K employees training 1.2M students a year. Inc. magazine listed ExecuTrain among the Fastest Growing Private Companies three times. David was also named Ernst & Youngs Entrepreneur of The Year in 1995. After ExecuTrain, David consulted with over half a dozen companies and helped them launch and grow their franchise companies. In September 2013, David and his wife Kim moved up to Blue Ridge, GA and started a new business, Presents of Mine. Presents of Mine is a store front and online store that specializes in personalized and monogrammed gifts. They sell products that are typically personalized in the same day. After 2 years of success, they decided to put their franchise skills to use and decided to franchise Presents of Mine.Topics/Questions:1-Franchise Experience2-Why did you decide to move to Blue Ridge and open up a retail store3-Were your initial plans to franchise Presents of Mine from the beginning4-With all of your years of franchise experience, why do you think franchising was the right strategy for POM5-Where do you see the best locations for POM to expand toWeb Site and Social Media:www.presentsofmine.comhttp://www.presentsofminefranchise.comhttps://www.facebook.com/presentsofmine/https://www.linkedin.com/company/10166698?trk=tyah&trkInfo=clickedVertical%3Acompany%2CclickedEntityId%3A10166698%2Cidx%3A2-1-2%2CtarId%3A1461610478976%2Ctas%3Apresents%20of%20Sharon Estroff, Founder/CEOChallenge Island GlobalGuest BIO:Sharon is founder and CEO of Challenge Island™ an international educational franchise on the forefront of S.T.E.A.M (Science, Technology, Engineering, Art and Math) Education and 21st Century Learning. . She is an award-winning elementary school teacher with two decades of experience in Atlanta public and private schools. Sharon started Challenge Island in her second grade classroom and began running it as an enrichment business using the current model in 2003. She has began franchising the program in 2013 and now has nearly 50 franchises across the United States and internationally.Sharon is a nationally recognized parenting and education expert and a freelance writer for numerous national publications including Scholastic Parent and Child, Parents, Womans Day and Good Housekeeping magazines. She is the author of the popular parenting book, Can I Have a Cell Phone for Hanukkah? (Random House) and co-author of the upcoming Challenge Island book series that turns the Challenge Island curriculum into an exciting and educational story. She is sought-after speaker who has presented to scores of communities nationwide about the trials and tribulations of raising kids in the digital age.Sharon received her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Emory University where she graduated Phi Beta Kappa and Summa Cum Laude. She continues to run her local Challenge Island business in Atlanta where she beta tests every lesson and provides her franchisees with hands-on training in the trenches.Topics/Questions:What is the mission of Challenge Island?What makes Challenge Island so unique in the children's franchise market?What does a Challenge Island class look and feel like?What is the Challenge Island business model and what are the profit centers?Web Site and Social Media:www.challenge-island.comhttps://www.facebook.com/CITribalHeadquarters/https://www.facebook.com/CIMarietta/Michael Rosenthal, Attorney at LawWagner, Johnston & Rosenthal, P.C.Guest BIO:Practicing attorney for 35+ years, with practice focus on franchise and distribution law. 1980 graduate of Univ. of Fla. College of law. Assistant Attorney General, State of Georgia, 1980-4. Special Projects Coordinator, Ga. Governors Office of Consumer Affairs, 1984-5. Private practice of law since 1984. Active member of ABA Forum on Franchising and Georgia Bar's Section on Franchise and Distribution Law. Represents franchisors, franchisees, product distributors and licensors in all their legal needs. His practice is national in scope, representing clients all over the U.S., along with inbound franchise sellers wishing to do business in the U.S. and outbound franchise sellers wishing to do business overseas. His firm, Wagner, Johnston & Rosenthal, P.C., is celebrating its 35th year in business, and focuses on the representation of private held businesses.Topics/Questions:1. I am interested in buying a franchise and the franchisor just gave a Franchise Disclosure Document. From a legal standpoint, what should I be looking for or at?2. I have an attorney I've been happy with and used for other business or personal matters. Why should I use a franchise law attorney when considering buying a franchise?3. Can you please explain to me the process that I go through with you if I want to franchise my business?Web Site and Social Media:www.wjrlaw.comwww.linkedin/in/michael-rosenthalThe Franchise Business Radio show is a platform to bring together franchise professionals and resources to connect, educate, and collaborate to serve the franchise community and the franchise consumer. Spotlighting Leaders in the Franchise IndustryExperts in funding, legal, marketing and consulting.Franchise Business Radio hosted by:Pam Currie, Founderwww.FranchiseIntellect.comTo view guest photos from this show, visit:www.ProBusinessPictures.comTo nominate or submit a guest request visit:www.FranchiseBusinessRadio.com

a treat to the proud people of Moldova. 

By PF WilsonTommy Davidson does it all. We look to North Carolina and the independent “news” media for “What Kind of Nonsense is That?” Fan Girl and I review the Arctic Monkeys show (with guest The Orwells). Plus Fake News.DATES:Tommy Davidson is at the House of Comedy in Minneapolis, February 20-23.PF is at Go Bananas in Cincinnati, Wednesday February 26. For Arctic Monkeys tour dates can be found at their website, same for The Orwells.LINKS:Thanks to Kitt Wessendorf for voicing “What Kind of Nonsense is That?”Posted something mildly humorous on the Can I Have a Say? blog.The SoundCloud page is supposed to be updated for all of your Dumb Bit needs.Visit HomeShirts.com for great vintage apparel. Get that special someone a T-shirt or sweatshirt of his or her favorite defunct sports team, store, or restaurant.Check out some funny stuff over at Ross Rants. Think of it as a print version of PF’s Tape Recorder. Be sure to click over to Fangirl’s blog, CheckCheckHey! and her photo blog. Follow P.F. on Twitter @PF66 and like this podcast on Facebook.PF’s Tape Recorder logo designed by Dan Koabel. Dan and Logan’s new podcast Magic Potion is also available now in iTunes.Email our show here.

Pastor Don preaches a sermon called "Can I Have a 'Do-Over?'" Reading from a passage from our 5-5 Bible Reading Plan in 1 Samuel 31:1-6, we read about the end of the life of Saul and discover our need for the salvation of the Lord. Pastor Don addresses our need for the Lord's mercy and grace.

Pastor Don preaches a sermon called "Can I Have a 'Do-Over?'" Reading from a passage from our 5-5 Bible Reading Plan in 1 Samuel 31:1-6, we read about the end of the life of Saul and discover our need for the salvation of the Lord. Pastor Don addresses our need for the Lord's mercy and grace.

Andrej Tarkovsky's 1972 movie "Solaris" inspired this mix-collage. This mix includes many different sources. Some parts of the originals Artemyev soundtrack are linked to fragments of the beautiful game soundtrack from Skyrim, by Jeremy Soule. The cinematic parts are alternated with various electronic soundscape fragments - familiar and less familiar. Together with many tiny fragments from your own memory, a new - and strictly personal- alternate reality may be created, which (like in Solaris) may be hard to distinguish from real life... Solaris was originally released in march 1972 - this tribute mix is celebrating this inspiring movie's 40th anniversary! --- originally published on Ambientblog --- Tracklist[start time][sample length] [Artist] - [Title][Album Title], [Year], [Label #] 00:00 01:06 Barry Adamson + Pan Sonic - The Hymn of the 7th IllusionMotorlab #3, 2001, Kitchen Motors, km401:00 00:57 Jeremy Soule - SolitudeThe Elder Scrolls V Skyrim Original Soundtrack, 2011, Bethesda Softworks, 20-65221/401:38 01:19 Digitonal - PolarisLeaving Eleven, 2011, Leaves LVS00102:25 02:15 Sun Hammer - A Dream in BloodA Dream in Blood, 2012, Future Sequence FS00203:21 03:28 Bass Communion - CitadelCenotaph, 2011, Tonefloat tf11604:43 03:31 Bpolar- Nag ChampaDhupa, 2012, Feedbackloop Label fbl02207:28 03:30 The Kilimanjaro Darkjazz Ensemble - Past MidnightFrom the Stairwell, 2011, Denovali DEN8610:08 02:31 Chris Watson - By Kelso DunesRecorded in the Field by..., 2006, Gruenrekorder Gruen 03310:51 03:13 Skare - To the other ShoreSolstice City, 2009, Glacial Movements Records GM00513:06 02:21 The Boats - I'm not a Pessimist, I'm SadThe Ballad of the Eagle, 2011, Our Small Ideas OSI00714:32 03:39 Pietro Riparbelli - The Dome, OrvietoFour Churches, 2010, Touch Spire 416:45 06:32 Penjaga Insaf - Melting PotTo Whom it May Concern, 2005, Shortwave Transmission SWT0122:32 01:47 Eduard Artemyev - Solaris-DreamSolaris, The Mirror, Stalker, 1990, Torso Kino, CD500124:00 02:46 Jeremy Soule - Sky Above, Voice WithinThe Elder Scrolls V Skyrim Original Soundtrack, 2011, Bethesda Softworks, 20-65221/425:42 03:40 Eduard Artemyev - Solaris-DreamSolaris, The Mirror, Stalker, 1990, Torso Kino, CD500127:56 04:36 Christina Vantzou - 1111 (Dustin O'Halloran Remix)No. 1 Remixes, 2012, The Numbered Series TNSCDDVD30:42 03:55 Oophoi - Bisbigli Di Angeli Tra Cielo e Terra Part 1Il Silenzio di Dio, 2011, Databloem DB035-201134:08 01:11 Machinefabriek - Sol Sketch 7Sol Sketches, 2011, Self Released34:29 02:30 Bgudna - Maybe Warm BloodedOther Plans for Field Experience, 2011, En Stillhet som döden netlabel35:55 01:20 Luigi Turra - AuraIron: Dragon's Eye Sixth Anniversay, 2012, Dragons Eye Recordings 201236:42 01:45 Jan M. Iversen - Morning has Broken BonesStandalones, 2010, TIBProd Mp3 album 10037:17 02:54 Simon Whetham - Part First (An Uncertain Distance)Prayers Unheard, 2011, Dragon's Eye Recordings – de503237:57 03:25 Listening Mirror - Venice BoxheadResting in Aspic, 2012, Hibernate HB3940:34 01:52 Restive - G2 000041[M201127-09] G2.1, 2011, self-released41:06 02:50 Wesolowski + Kaliski - 271011#3281011, 2012, Few Quiet People 43:00 02:00 Longina - OidarEssays on Radio; Can I Have 2 Minutes of Your Time, 2005, Crónica 020~200543:59 03:00 Porter Ricks - Porter Ricks MixReplay Debussy, 2003, Universal Music (Germany) 472 801-244:55 02:32 Eduard Artemyev - Solaris IIISolaris, The Mirror, Stalker, 1990, Torso Kino, CD500146:40 03:30 Hybernation - Occident ExpressSequence 2, 2011, Future Sequence 48:53 02:36 Jeremy Soule - Death in the DarknessThe Elder Scrolls V Skyrim Original Soundtrack, 2011, Bethesda Softworks, 20-65221/450:56 02:16 Jeremy Soule - Into DarknessThe Elder Scrolls V Skyrim Original Soundtrack, 2011, Bethesda Softworks, 20-65221/452:26 04:03 Listening Mirror - Without Saying GoodbyeResting in Aspic, 2012, Hibernate HB3952:42 02:01 Christina Vantzou - Small Choir (Ben Vida Remix)No. 1 Remixes, 2012, The Numbered Series TNSCDDVD54:47 02:35 Human Greed - In Absentia VariationsFortress Longing, 2011, Omnempathy OMIC256:32 01:03 Landfire - Most People were SilentIncendium III, 2000, Loki Foundation LOKI 5457:22 01:52 Max Richter - The CampElle S'Appelait Sarah OST, 2010, Jade 699726959:15 End