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The inspiration continues.Part 2 of our special on-location episode from Rothman's Inspire: Women in Orthopedics Summit is here—because one episode just wasn't enough!  Think leadership advice, career inspiration, and actionable takeaways for women looking to break old patterns, own their value, and lead boldly.  And for the men listening?  Plenty of insights on how to be stronger allies, more inclusive leaders, and better teammates.

In this special episode of The Breakdown, host Lauren takes the podcast on the road for the first time—recording live from the Four Seasons in Philadelphia at Rothman Orthopaedics' 3rd Annual Women in Orthopedics Summit, which took place last Fall.Bringing together leaders, physicians, and changemakers, this event is all about empowering women with the tools, insight, and inspiration to pursue their goals—whether in orthopaedics or any field.Tune in for powerful conversations and the voices driving the future of leadership and healthcare.

TRANSCRIPT Gissele: [00:00:00] Hello and welcome to the Love and Compassion Podcast with Gissele. We believe that love and compassion have the power to heal our lives and our world. Don’t forget to like and subscribe for more amazing content. And if you’d like to support this podcast, don’t forget to buy us a coffee at, buymeacoffee.com/loveandcompassion Gissele: Today we’re talking about relationships and my guests today are Gissele: Zeke and Terry Mead, who are empty nesters, midlife adventure travelers from the San Francisco Bay Area in 2021. After 25 years of marriage and nearly getting divorced, they accidentally rebooted their relationship and embarked on a new set of adventures. Gissele: Embracing their differences in challenging themselves to grow individually and as a couple on a daily basis. They couldn’t be more different, but they have a long history, a solid foundation, and a steadfast commitment to making it work as they travel and explore the world mostly together. Please join me in [00:01:00] welcoming Zeke and Terry Mead. Gissele: Hi. Terry: Hi. Gissele: Hello. Welcome to the show. I was wondering if you wanted to tell the listeners a little bit about how you actually met. Zeke: Terry is the one who usually does it so . Go ahead. Terry: Yeah, usually I do. we’ve known each other for 45 years. We, yeah, we both grew up in the San Francisco Bay area and when we were in elementary school, there was the gifted and talented education program gate. Terry: And all of the kids who are part of gate converged at the same school once a month, twice a month for enrichment activities. And I have an identical twin sister. And one month we showed up at a school. Zeke remembers meeting us. I don’t really remember meeting him. But a couple years later, we all went to the same junior high school. Terry: And so we were in the same classes. And in the eighth grade we went together. For about six weeks. I dumped him. That makes for a better [00:02:00] story if I say that. And then we were friends through high school and if you want the full origin story, we went to different colleges. We dated when we were 21. Terry: I dumped him again. We dated again when we were 24. I dumped him again and then we were 25. I made a list of everything that I wanted in a man for the rest of my life. And Zeke met all the criteria, except he was essentially the boy next door that I dumped three times. So then we were skiing when we were about 25 and had a little bit too much wine that night. Terry: And I just said this needs to be the last time and either we’re going to get married or friendship has to be over ’cause we just can’t keep doing this. And 14 months later, we were married. Gissele: what kept you holding on there? Zeke? Terry: Insanity. Zeke: Yeah. When you are 10, 12, 13 years old and you start to develop these relationships with people, you are [00:03:00] your conscious, gloms onto just interesting, specific, different characteristics. Zeke: And Terry was always someone that was just this person that I was always drawn to. And so whenever our planets would circle back around and come in alignment, it would all be like, okay, so I’m attracted to this person, and let’s see what this is all about this time. Zeke: And then the counter to that, the joke is Terry’s ability to evaluate things at 25 obviously wasn’t very good. Terry: I was playing the long game. Really? I was playing Gissele: the long game. so fast forward you, do you have children? Terry: We do. Our son is 24. He is doing a master’s degree at San Francisco State. Terry: He’s back living with us and our youngest is they them and they’re 21 wrapping up their college, their undergrad at University of Vermont in Burlington. Gissele: Beautiful. Beautiful. Okay. So you are married, are having relationships. Fast forward to the, when you start to have problems again. [00:04:00] Terry: I think, Terry: We’ve done a lot of work on ourselves and especially in the last four years, I guess it’s 20, 26, 5 years when we thought we were gonna get divorced. We came into the marriage at 26. We look at back at it just so young and so naive and with really the wrong expectations and assumptions about what a relationship is and what a marriage is. Terry: And Zeke was in a software sales or banking when we got married and later decided to become a police officer. And that ended up putting a significant amount of pressure on our relationship with the shift work. four days on, four days off, five days on, three days off, back to back fives called in for overtime, called in for court times. Terry: And, after the kids were born, I was essentially a single parent working full time. And I launched a consulting company, and so then I was managing a company as well, and that really, we did not know how to navigate that. what we later learned is I have [00:05:00] an anxious attachment style and he has an avoidant attachment style, so naturally going in different directions. Terry: He’s an only child. I’m an identical twin, so I used to doing everything together. I shared a womb with someone and Zeke: I didn’t share a room with anyone. Terry: exactly. So what we had was a solid foundation in that we grew up in the same place, knew a lot of the same people. But we did not know how to do the work. And so our relationship I think in our early forties was when it really started to, it really started to get, I wanna say bad logistically we’re really great with each other. Terry: But I think emotionally lovewise there was a lot of resentment there and there was like a huge chasm. And over the course of about 10 years, we would each show up. One of us would show up and say, okay, I think we’re done. And the other one would say, I’m not ready. And so we battled that for. seven to 10 years. Terry: Early in, like when I was about 43, I started [00:06:00] perimenopause and I didn’t really know it. So of course that also introduced a new set of challenges that I neither of us knew was really going on. Andour forties, it was it was very difficult, but then the pandemic hit when we were 50, and of course we came together in order to support the kids in order to be better citizens of the world. Terry: And logistically, I think we did really well. But, in January of 2021 both of us, it was like the first time we’d had like a text fight and I was in the bathtub and he came in and one of us was like, I think we’re done. And the other one was like, yeah, I think we’re done. it was a long time coming. Gissele: Yeah. Thank you for sharing that. It must have been really challenging. I just wanna go back just for a moment. When you talked about the avoidance style in the anxious style, can you tell the audience a little bit about what that looks like? Because some of them might not know they are an anxious style or avoidance style. Gissele: So what does an anxious style look like, and what does an [00:07:00] avoidance style look like? Terry: So for me, the anxious is I’m constantly looking for validation. am I loved, am I worthy? yeah. Does he love me? Does he not? And so when there’s any sort of friction or conflict, I’m like wanting closeness and validation. Terry: And for him, when there’s conflict and whatnot, then he pulls away. So then there’s this whole chasing kind of thing. So I want more. He runs away. That makes me feel more insecure. I go chasing after it. That makes him insecure and he wants to go into his cave. it’s this chasing kind of thing. Terry: And Zeke: it doesn’t work out well, Terry: not when you don’t have an awareness of it. I I’m trying to get better about it. He’s getting better about it. And I think also growing up so there were three of us kids in the family and there was a lot of dialogue and there was a lot of fighting. Terry: And I wouldn’t say it was good communication, I learned how to fight, not necessarily dirty, but I learned how to fight. Whereas he didn’t [00:08:00] practice that with with siblings. And so then also with that also complicates it in that he would need extra time to think about whatever was going on. Terry: And I’m like, engage, engage, engaged. And he’s like, whoa, I need some space. And I’m like, engage, engage, engaged. And that would just make me more anxious to not have the engagement. It would make him more uncomfortable when I’m coming at him. And so you, you have that complicating the anxious avoidance clash as it were. Gissele: Yeah. if you’re anxious which I used to be. Whenever you have the withdrawal the avoidance, it’s interpreted as there’s a withdrawal of love. I’m not lovable. Mm-hmm. I’m not worthy. but really it has nothing to do with that. Gissele: It has to do how the other person’s ability to cope and need to regroup. Right. And so for me having to shift that I had to really be aware of how little I was there for myself and how little I love for myself that I could, [00:09:00] I had to realize that I could tap in instead of going outward. I could tap inward and be able to give that to myself. Gissele: And sometimes it’s so funny, is a weird dance because I’ve seen situations where I would have the opposite effect. I would be more avoidant if the person was different. if their energy was more anxious, I would be more avoidant and then they would gravitate. Terry: Yeah, it’s an interesting dance and one of the things that I’ve tried to be better about is to express my insecurity to Zeke and just say, look, right now I need a little bit more, I need some validation right now. ’cause I’m, I also have ADHD. So then you’ve also got that tied into it. Terry: And so if I communicate to him, look, I need a little bit more. I need some I need to know that I’m loved right now, I’m feeling in a sensitive and vulnerable space. And then having that specific request, then, if he’s able to at that moment and we’re not talking like in a fight, we’re just talking in life in general, then he’s able to step in I think a little bit more easily to respond [00:10:00] to that request. Terry: And then I’ve asked him, it’s okay. If you’re gonna go avoid me, can you just say, look, I just need some time. I wanna deal with this. I need some time. And that’s also super hard for him to do because in those moments when he pulls away, he shuts down. And so to have the wherewithal to go, look, I need a minute. Terry: I’ll come back, I will come back. Gissele: it’s the understanding that it’s not about you like that, it’s not about either of you. It’s that it’s about the person’s ability to cope in that moment and how they cope or how they’ve learned to cope based on their own childhood environments. Gissele: And so really when you have an understanding of each other’s childhoods and when you have an understanding of what each of the you need in the moment I think it’s really helpful for relationships. Yeah. Terry: We’re still practicing that by the way. We do not have Gissele: that dial. Gissele: Yeah, of course. And you know what? Relationships are an ongoing, there’s peaks and valleys, there’s highs and lows, and I love that you said that, at one moment you both had to be [00:11:00] wanting out. ’cause as long as one of you wanted to stay in, that’s usually how people stay in a relationship. Gissele: Right. But when you get to the point where you both want out, I think that’s where you, start to decide we have to really look at this and either decide to go in and out. So what happened after you both decided that it was like, that it wasn’t working and that you needed to maybe move forward differently? Terry: So it happened on a Sunday morning and the both of the kids were home. Our youngest was still in high school and our oldest was home for winter break. And we both decided, okay, we’re gonna communicate to the kids that this is what’s going on. So at dinner that night, we told the kids, and the kids were like, it’s about time. Terry: kids totally know when there’s friction. They know and they’re just like, yeah, it’s about time. And we did not model, I think healthy partner relationship for our kids. We’re still trying to fix that. We still apologize for that too. Our kids. And the timeline on this is going to seem really fast, but I process things really fast [00:12:00] and I’m a silver lining kind of gal and I can usually get over things within 24, 48 hours because it was the middle of the pandemic we’re in the San Francisco Bay area. Terry: We were still in lockdown. And, our son was going back to school, we had an extra bedroom. So Zeke moved into our son’s bedroom. But, oh, we decided we were gonna work through this together. we are friends first. We have known each other for so long, and we’re also very committed to our kids and providing a solid foundation for our kids. Terry: So he moved into the bedroom, and so the next day, he was in the bedroom doing his work. I was in the office doing my work and and our youngest was doing remote school. And I would come out and I would just start sobbing. and we would be talking through what is this gonna look like? Terry: He did look at apartments. But we also decided every night we would cook together, we would have dinner together. And while we hadn’t really watched TV together before each night, we were trying to do that to demonstrate to our youngest that we were still a united front for them. [00:13:00] And so Monday rolls around. Terry: I was devastated. I really thought my whole world had fallen apart because what I thought my future was going to be had collapsed. I thought we were going to be partners forever, the kids were getting older and it was supposed to be just us again. And so Tuesday rolls around and I am still devastated. Terry: Wednesday rolls around, I am still devastated. And I remember asking Zeke, I’m like, how can you not be devastated by this? And he said, you always move through things much more quickly than I do. This is gonna hit me later. We researched over the course of that week, we researched buying a house in the same street so we could still be near each other, still support each other. Terry: We we talked about what it was gonna look like and Thursday, Friday rolls around and I just looked at him. I’m like, I periodically I’d go in, I’d sob, he told me. And I would just say it was like, who’s gonna be my emergency contact? And he said, I will always be your emergency contact. Terry: And it was at that moment that I think [00:14:00] that was the, I know that seems silly, but that was like the last thing that I needed to go. It’s gonna be okay. So I did some research on dating and how to move forward, past divorce, we were never actually gonna get fully divorced because our financial situation is so complicated. Terry: So we would leave very separate lives, but the legal part of it would, we weren’t gonna make happen, and neither of us ever wanted to get married again. So it was like, okay, we’re not gonna deal with the legal side of it, but what logistically does this look like? And then Saturday morning I went to go play tennis. Terry: the weather was absolutely fantastic. I had some great tunes in the car and I just felt myself opening up. It was like I was blooming. It was like the color was coming back as if I’d been living in gray for a decade. And I thought, if I’m gonna get out there and dates, I need to get back into shape and I want to become again, the sexual being that I used to be. Terry: And like, how am I gonna do that? I’m like, I wanna play, I wanna experiment. I wanna come get back in touch with [00:15:00] myself. So I did a little research about that and realized that it’s not uncommon for couples going through separation to continue to have sex. And I’m like, during a pandemic, okay, fine. So after dinner, we’re sitting on the couch and I just said, Hey, what would you think about having sex? Terry: He’s is that the right thing to do? And I said, well, why not? I said, I trust you. I wanna experiment and explore with stuff. Why don’t we give it a try after this? I’m gonna go take a bath. I’m gonna crawl into bed naked, join me. So he is like, he’s not sure about that. Anyway, he comes in and I’m in bed and he goes, you sure? Terry: And I said, absolutely. And what that. Opened up is we had closed the door in our relationship. We had closed the door on who we were as a couple, and we got to embark on who we were individually doing the work that we had not done at the age of 25 and 26 and throughout our lives. And so like every night for a couple of months, we explored, I call it sex [00:16:00] exploration. Terry: We played, we were vulnerable with each other. We laughed. it was a lot of fun. We both went to therapy and over a period of time we decided to start dating and we accidentally rebooted our relationship, Zeke: kind of because we actually developed a new relationship. Yeah. We didn’t reboot the old one. Zeke: We’re still the same people in the relationship, but we developed and. Created a whole new relationship. Mm-hmm. Because all of that explorations, exploration stuff that she’s talking about didn’t happen in the last 25 years. So that was new and allowed us to, allowed her to try things and allowed me to I don’t know if I would’ve been hesitant to trying things, but that wasn’t part of the relationship previous. Zeke: So with all of that new, in this new entity, if you will then that sort of started off and created a whole different vibe for the relationship. Terry: Mm-hmm. With [00:17:00] vulnerability communication, trust that we hadn’t had before. Lack of resentment you going to therapy and committing to yourself to doing the therapy. Terry: It was a amazing signal. ’cause we’d done therapy before and individual therapy and. Just hadn’t seen the level of commitment that I saw after after we decided to separate. Gissele: So, Zeke, at any point, ’cause I have to ask, at any point when Terry suggested about you being intimate, did you go, wait a minute, Gissele: is this the path to us getting back together? Zeke: That’s a great question. I, I, initially, I was like, I don’t think this is a good idea. What, where is this coming from? And so she talked about it a little bit. And again, it was January of 2021. Terry: Mm-hmm. Zeke: I was not gonna go jump on an app and go try, that Terry: you didn’t download, you didn’t download Tinder? Zeke: No. That was not in the middle of a pandemic, a good idea in my [00:18:00] book. And I was like okay. So. Going back a step or two being her emergency contact, we’re still parents to two kids. We have to support them in, especially in this world and their world at this point in time. It was not 1992 when I got out of college and I could survive on a $10 an hour job in Sacramento and tell my parents I, they had no financial responsibilities anymore. Zeke: So I knew that we were going to be working together to support the kids as well as everything else for quite some time. So the relationship, it’s not like I was gonna pack a bag and walk out the door, and that was gonna be the end of that. the sex part of it was in the cocktail of what it was like to live in 2021. Gissele: Yeah. Zeke: And there was a freedom to it as well of, no, as much as, as it could be for that element of it, no strings attached. And that wasn’t there for the last 25, 30 years. And so it [00:19:00] seemed like there was a question mark to it, but not a lot of particular downside. Zeke: I’ve talked about this before. I do equate it to the one time someone approached me for a job and I went into the job and I said, well, this is how I’m gonna do the job. And if you don’t want me to do the job this way, and you’re not open to me trying some new things, then I’m gonna leave because you asked me to do the job. Zeke: I’m not looking for the job. I don’t need the job. Right. So not that having sex with you was a job. Gissele: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Gissele: just being, you’re putting some boundaries right? Zeke: is, yeah. Was just like, okay, so we’re gonna do this and you need to be open and I’m gonna be open to doing it differently. Zeke: And I’m not gonna go do it anywhere else because it’s in the middle of a pandemic. Yeah. Gissele: Yeah. Terry: Yeah. So when I made the suggestion, never did I even consider that it was going to be a path to reconciliation. I really both of us had just had completely shut the door and was like, okay, we’re setting ourselves up for what we want, who we wanna be for the next half of our lives. Terry: Because at that point, he had turned for 51, I was about to turn 51. And if we [00:20:00] assume we’re gonna live to be a hundred, it’s like, okay, we wanna be happy, we wanna be content, we wanna be satisfied, and we wanna operate in the world in a way that is healthier than what we’ve done up until this point. Gissele: So I wanna go back to what you said. Gissele: ’cause you said that your children said, well, it’s about time. So you basically had their support. What was their reaction to you rebooting your relationship? Terry: Well, as long as we don’t talk about how we rebooted our relationship through sex, they’re totally fine. I don’t really remember what they’re, Terry: Adam was so caught up in his college life that he was checked out, he’s like, whatever. He had issues of his own to deal with and our youngest was just trying to get through day to day of virtual school during the pandemic. So Terry: They were 16 going on 17, but they’re wrapped up in their own lives. So I don’t recall them having any sort of either kid having any sort of thoughts or comments [00:21:00] about it. It would be really interesting right now to have a conversation with ’em and just say, Hey, let’s reflect on that and tell us what we were, you were feeling, thinking or paying attention to. Terry: And I’m sure Adam would say, I had no idea. I was too busy with my own stuff. And our youngest I’m sure they’ve talked about it, therapy with their therapist. Zeke: thinking back that it was such a slow kind of turn of the Titanic at that point in time, that there wasn’t a day in which it was like, ta-da, right? Zeke: As well as we are investing in this new relationship in a different way. we were concerned about the kids, but at finally, I think they weren’t the center of our universe at that point in time. The center of the universe for us had changed, and so we were less concerned about them. Zeke: And for all those reasons Terry just talked about. And so. They might have been going, wait, why is everything not pointing at me? Terry: Well, no, but our youngest was actually afraid when our oldest went off to college that everything was gonna point at them. [00:22:00] So I am pretty sure that, ’cause we would have dinner together every night, and Zeke and I would be on two ends. Terry: They would be across, the two kids would be across from each other. And I remember our youngest expressing concern about when Adam was gone be like, oh my gosh, now all of the attention’s gonna be directed on me. So I’m sure that they were probably relieved that we had a different focus and it wasn’t all on them so that they could do their own thing. Terry: that would be my guess. But we’ll have to text them later and see if they respond. Gissele: Yeah. So thank you for that. Do you think that your relationship blossom or changed because you each were willing to change Terry: Oh yeah, Gissele: yeah, Terry: yeah. I mean, there’s no way this would’ve worked if we showed up exactly the same way. Gissele: Well, I think often people, want their partner to change. They’re like, I’m gonna be happy if so and so changes. But I think what you’re saying, or at least what I’m hearing from you is that each of you committed to changing and to doing something different and to showing up more vulnerability, more authentically.[00:23:00] Gissele: Whether that meant, that it wasn’t gonna work together, but the surprising thing was that it actually brought you back together. is that accurate? Terry: Oh yeah, I mean it would not have worked if we hadn’t done the work, but the fact that we were committed to doing the work for ourselves, I think was really important. Terry: we had all sorts of fights and discussions over the years where I’m like, you need to do this. You need to do, this is what I need from you. And then of course, the disappointment and the resentment when I didn’t feel like there was a commitment to me and what I didn’t feel heard. Terry: I didn’t feel seen in terms of what I said I needed in the relationship. And I have worked with an executive coach, I’ve worked with therapist. I’m constantly, every day trying to work on something as we Gen X women in a patriarchal society have been conditioned to do that. There’s always something wrong with us. Terry: And, we’re always trying to find the constant improvement. And so yeah, there was no expectation I no longer had any sort of demands on him changing because it was like, you do, you, as long as we can show up for the [00:24:00] kids the right way, as long as we can show up as friends the right way, build healthier communication paths, then you know, that middle piece, that Centrif Venn diagram, our lives were our own except for those central pieces where we needed the touch points. Gissele: What about Zeke? Zeke: Yeah, it, again, because it became this different entity and I had a different way to approach it and I don’t know if the word reinvention allowed me to sort of take on this different, approach to it and let go of what had happened and have a different approach going forward. Zeke: So that was, that’s the gist of my navigations through that. Terry: Well, let me ask you this question through our entire relationship, I was, would be like, I need you to do this. I, this is what I need. I don’t think, I don’t remember you placing similar demands or asking me similar things. Zeke: No, no. Gissele: So, you found your way back [00:25:00] to each other. So what’s currently working for your relationship? How have you changed and grown and expanded that enables you to continue to have a committed, loving relationship? Terry: As we said, we’re continuing to work on this on a regular basis. Gissele: Yeah, of course. That’s just, that’s life. Terry: Yeah. So what, works? We have instituted a number of things that I think are. Are helpful. We’re not always great with ’em, but as you know, every morning we decide to commit to the relationship. Terry: And one way that Zeke shows me is he gives me a kiss in the morning and says, I love you, and then I’m just there. No, I’m just kidding. I’d read this book called The New I Do. While we were trying to, before we decided to, to call off our original relationship and learned about, there are seven or eight different types of marriages that you can go into and you can get into it for, the kids for money, for companionship, for sex. Terry: there are these [00:26:00] various different things and there can be time limits on these things, first of all you establish what you both expect out of the relationship or the marriage. And then you kind of put a plan together and then you have periodic check-ins. Terry: And so it could be annual check-ins to make sure, are we still on the same page? Are we moving in the right direction? But I like the idea of. The daily commitment to the relationship that at any point we can choose to get out, that one of us could say, you know what, this really isn’t working for me and I don’t wanna be here anymore. Terry: So there’s a lot of freedom in that. And you’d think that for somebody with an anxious attachment style, that there would be a lot of uncertainty in that, but there really isn’t. So the daily commitment, we also implemented and we were really good about it for the first couple of years and now we do it every three or four weeks. Terry: It was a weekly check-in and there are like five or six questions that we do in order to make sure that chasm that developed during our pre previous relationship didn’t develop into the future. [00:27:00] And we always started by being super close together and saying. Is there anything I can do to make you feel more loved and more comfortable right now? Terry: And I think this is stuff I found. It’s probably Gottman Institute stuff. I mean, there’s nothing magical here. it’s not innovative on my part other than we decided to implement this. And then it was like, is there anything that I’ve done to inadvertently hurt you over the last week? and then so if there is something that we have not addressed over the previous week, that is the opportunity to talk about it in a very close, loving, intimate setting. Terry: in a safe space. It doesn’t end up being like a big argument. I think we’ve only ended up in an argument after that, like twice out in the last five years. And then it was like, how’s our sex life been? And that’s usually an easy one to answer which is usually really great. And then we ask, Terry: what’s coming up next week? Is there anything stressful? And is there anything that I can do to make it a little bit easier for you? And that gives us an opportunity to talk about what’s coming up so we can talk about what’s happened. We [00:28:00] can talk about what’s coming up that keeps us connected through the communication. Terry: And then like two years ago I added is there anything I did to make you feel loved this week? And so then we can tap into it. we either end on the sex question or we end on the, is there anything that makes you feel loved? ’cause I like us ending on a high. so that’s been a really helpful tool to help us stay connected. Terry: So I hope that answered your question in terms of some of the things that we’ve done. We try not to let things fester the way that we used to. But we launched a new business, Zeke andTerry Adventures two years ago. And I’m super, as you can tell, I’m super outgoing. Terry: I’m super chatty. He’s more of an introvert. And more I would like to say thoughtful about the things. And that has been really great for our relationship because we are doing all sorts of new things together and at the same time. It’s also really challenging because we have not had the results that we wanted, and [00:29:00] we both have our insecurities about what it is that we’re doing in the business. Terry: And so that is creating actually the biggest conflict for us, and it’s also creating the biggest opportunity for us to have good communication and work together through the various different challenges I get to show up and be very compassionate to him about his insecurities around it, which I think really makes this beautiful broth of a relationship, Gissele: There’s a few things I wanted to pick up on and then I’d love to talk about the travel. the first thing I wanted to mention is that I wholeheartedly agree with you is that I think we have this expectation or this belief that, ideal relationships don’t have conflict, but it is how you manage the conflict that helps you actually come closer together, that helps you overcome things together. Gissele: The second thing really is about the fact that, I find it interesting that you talked about this is an ongoing commitment, but we also [00:30:00] know that at any point we could just say, I can’t make this commitment. Gissele: And that is so refreshing. And the reason why I say that is because, The institution of marriage is one where we have been taught that a decision you made when you were younger, let’s say you were in your twenties when you get married, You are always gonna feel the exact same way from here into infinity, and that’s doesn’t make any sense because we grow, we change. Gissele: Sometimes we grow at the same rate. Sometimes we don’t grow at the same rate. And so how do we think about relationships in a way that no matter how long they last, it’s not a failure, right? Mm-hmm. everything that you go through, is still a learning opportunity, still an opportunity to love. Gissele: It’s still an opportunity to learn about ourselves without having that extra judgment of, well, if this isn’t forever, then It didn’t work, and then I’m a failure, or that you have to push yourself to stay in something that maybe you’ve outgrown. Gissele: And so I think those are two very important points that you are making. and I think because the institution of marriage is different, right? [00:31:00] before it was really, for women it was a security, right? Because when you had the children, the men could go and sow their seeds anywhere and then, like you had the kid. Gissele: And so the institution of marriage became one where there was so security, right? But I think, relationships are morphing and changing and women have the ability to make their own money, their own businesses. And so the need for that kind of like security and stability, maybe not necessarily be there. Terry: Oh yeah, absolutely. And we’re seeing it in these next generations. Who are these these women in their twenties and their thirties who are like, I’m not settling. I can have my own money. I can have my own house. I have my friends. Terry: I can make my own choices. I can choose to have kids if I want to or choose not to have kids. And so this whole, you’re gonna die an old cat lady. I’m like, how many cats do I get to have, in my own space? so we’re seeing in society a time when the men are actually having to step up from an emotional perspective and doing the work, whereas before they’re like, I’m bringing on the paycheck. Terry: [00:32:00] You can’t get a credit card. You can’t get a loan to buy a house. You get pregnant, you get kicked outta secretarial school. So you know, you’re stuck with me. And now women just have so many more options available to them, and I think it really is. a huge opportunity for a society in general for heterosexual men especially, to have to step up in a way that women have had to step up and endure for centuries. Zeke: Well, at the same time, it opens another set of doors for men because Gissele: Yeah, Zeke: we were on the early side of this and we didn’t do it exactly right. I didn’t do it exactly right, but when the kids were three and six years old, I stopped being a police officer and became a stay at home dad. because Terry was making way more money than I was making, even as an overtime police officer, which was a very generous pay package, mm-hmm. Zeke: And so we flipped roles and I think the upside of that is that we showed our kids that that could happen. Didn’t exactly show them [00:33:00] the best way for it to happen, but that it was a possibility because up until then. I’d worked since I was like 17 years old. up until 38 years old. Zeke: And then it was like, wait, this doesn’t make sense. Financially, I’m spending half of my paycheck on childcare. Gissele: Yeah. Zeke: And I’m still getting in the way of Terry making more money. This doesn’t make any Terry: sense. Oh. When our relationship was terrible and our kids, we were eating out way too many days a week. Terry: Yeah. It was not the lifestyle that we were looking for because when we decided to get married, the agreement was he was gonna stay home with the kids. We knew from the get go that going into it was gonna be flipped, but then he became a police officer really liked the work, and then it was like, wait, this is not working. Zeke: I liked, I liked the work. I didn’t like the schedule Gissele: Yeah. Fair enough. I wanna talk about, just since you’ve mentioned it a couple of times, like self-forgiveness. And the reason why I bring that up is like there has to be an element of self-forgiveness because we make mistakes as parents in our relationship, in the modeling things that we do to our kids. Gissele: And I [00:34:00] remember talking to my kids when they were very young and telling them, I’m gonna make mistakes. Mommy doesn’t always know what she’s doing. there’s no kid manual and I’m gonna be apologetic and I’m gonna be honest and sometimes I’m gonna make mistakes. Gissele: we don’t always get it right. We’re human beings here. Right? And so there’s gotta be a level of self-forgiveness because of the mistakes you made. Terry: Yeah. So we would joke when the kids were younger that we were putting money away for their therapy, that we knew that we were going to be contributing to some sort of their, negative side of their emotional and psychological well-being. Terry: I’m not sure that was the right way to handle it. I wish that we’d had the wherewithal to say, look, we’re human. We’re gonna do the best that we can with what we have at the time. And I hope that if we make mistakes that there will be some forgiveness there. We just did not have that level of awareness going in. Terry: What we’ve done over the last, five years with the kids is just apologize for not modeling the right relationship. And, both the kids are in therapy. There our youngest has [00:35:00] been in, since high school and then our oldest did in high school and then has been for the last year. Terry: we believe in getting professional help. And there are times . We’re like, oh my gosh, I’m so sorry. We didn’t model this better for you. And they’ll say, yeah, why are you doing it now? You’re doing great. Now. You could have done this. And I’m like, we were just not in a place to do this. Terry: Mm-hmm. So at least now we’re able to model, and I was called out on this whole self forgiveness thing a couple weeks ago. you’re owning too much of this and you need to forgive yourself for it. I was like, I think I’m, I think I’m exaggerating a little bit just for the joke, for the bit. Terry: And I’m super proud of ourselves for modeling better stuff and being able to say, look, we know we didn’t do that right, but here’s what we’re doing now and we hope that you can learn from what we’re doing now that it is not too late. What was also helpful is sometime in the last five years, we saw the statistic that parents are only like 20 to 30% responsible for how [00:36:00] the kids turn out in their emotional wellbeing and et cetera. Terry: And I have to. Remind Myself of that regularly to say you’re not a hundred percent responsible for how screwed up your kids are. You’re only 25% responsible. And it’s like, oh, it takes the pressure off to say for me, once again, having in a patriarchal society as a Gen X woman, I was supposed to have it all be it all be perfect in every aspect of my life. Terry: And this is one place where I feel like I failed. And being able to go, I did the best that I could with what I had. It’s not an excuse, but it’s an opportunity to recognize, forgive, and go I want to do better. And look for ways for better communication, for better modeling. I started back up with my therapist on Monday, ’cause I don’t think right now I’m managing my kid, my relationship with my kids. Terry: As best I can right now in setting boundaries and communication, et cetera. So I think modeling that now, I’m hoping that they will pick up on [00:37:00] that. Because We talk about all this kind of stuff. What is really interesting is what we expect from our parents. A month ago I had a partial knee replacement and our son, who’s living at home could not see me in pain, could not see me out for the count. Terry: And I was in a lot of pain ’cause I can’t take narcotics ’cause I, my body just can’t handle him. And I was in a lot of pain. I’m also a very active person. And last night he said his friends were over and they’d had a few too many beers. And he goes, yeah, it’s really hard. He’s like, you’re the soccer player, you’re the tennis player, you’re the runner, you’re the one with the business. Terry: You fly helicopters, you do all this stuff and you’re not doing that right now. And I was like, it’s just a pause honey. It’s just a pause. I am still that person. But it’s interesting how our kids see us, whether it’s us individually or as a couple And now I know exactly what his issue is, and now I can be there to help him, work through that in order to set him better for the [00:38:00] future. Terry: But it’s, it’s absolutely fascinating. Gissele: Hmm. Yeah. I love that you said that because it is so true we’re human beings. We evolve, we change. I was not aware of how much anxiety I had when my kids were very little. Oh. And how much I modeled that for them, and as I grew and expanded and, found my way through mindfulness and compassion and all of these things, how much I had to forgive myself. Gissele: And also how sometimes the people in our lives wanna hold onto those old identities because that gives them a sense of consistency and safety. But as you evolve. They have to evolve too. And their vision of you has to evolve. And so sometimes that can be a little bit challenging for them. Gissele: But kudos to you for helping them navigate through that journey. ’cause it’s, life is all about growth. Yeah. We probably screw Terry: up on that too, but that’s okay. Gissele: Yeah. You know what the truth of the matter is? I feel like everything is a gift and a journey and it’s an experience. Gissele: And, I feel like the kids are gonna be all right. And [00:39:00] that’s one thing I hold onto, no matter what’s happening, and sometimes, things happen, right? my kids are always all right. they’re more resilient than I believe. Gissele: they’re good. They’re great. I wanted to go back to a comment you had made about the financial, because financial issues tend to be the things that probably places a wedge the most on relationships. And you seem to have navigated that before with the policing, right? what’s helping you navigate some of those waters currently as you’re growing your business? Terry: Well, we are very privileged in that. we’re financially comfortable. I we’re not off the chart rich or whatever, especially living here in the San Francisco Bay area. But we are comfortable. my consulting was lucrative. my parents did well on, an investment, so they have provided us with some extra cushion as well. Terry: I would never say that I am, super comfortable to the point where I would never worry about it. I think there’s gonna be a certain [00:40:00] amount of concern, especially with the instability of what’s going on in the world right now. It’s like, how comfortable can you actually be? Terry: So just when I think is, I look at the numbers and I do our monthly financial former accountants, so I do our monthly financials and We should be okay, but if we live another 50 years, are we going to have enough? And are we going to have enough to continue to provide some level of financial support for the kids? Terry: Because our oldest has expressed an interest in getting a PhD in philosophy and teaching at the collegiate level where we know he is not going to make a lot of money. We are willing to provide him with some level of financial support. Knowing that education is a very important issue for us and our society in, the United States doesn’t value education, doesn’t really pay teachers very well. Terry: And so we see that as part of our financial contribution in providing him with some support so that he can be the best possible teacher he can. Our youngest is still trying to figure out what they’re going to do next, but we imagine it is going to be in service to something and will probably [00:41:00] not make a lot of money and will probably be in an area that is also in alignment with our values. Terry: We need to provide them with some sort of financial support not live high on the hog, but to do Okay. we are in a decent position to do that. When we did launch the business last year. I did some projections to make, to see how long we could do it for comfortably before I would have to go back into consulting. Terry: horrors of horrors. But always thinking about what the back plan is gonna be. So we’ve made it so that I understand what our runway is on that, so we’re gonna give it one more year. And if we’re not seeing what we want from it, then may have to return to something that is actually generating revenue Right now. Terry: it’s just output. But, our company is a startup and I have been an angel investor for the last 10 years. I understand what it’s like to be a startup. Having my own consulting company, I know what it means to run. Business. I know what this all looks like. And I am not a huge risk taker, but I am a calculated risk [00:42:00] taker. Terry: Zeke he doesn’t pay as much attention to the financial stuff. We should get back to reviewing it on a monthly basis so that it’s a shared responsibility. ’cause right now it’s all on me. And he’ll say, Hey, can we pay that off? What can we do to streamline this to make it easier so that you’re doing less and we can worry about these other things more? Terry: And so he helps with that. But we are incredibly fortunate that we have a bit of time to be experimenting with what it is that we’re experimenting with. Zeke: And what got me convinced on this venture was I enjoy getting out and it. Zeke and Terry Adventures is the name of the YouTube channel. Zeke: And the word adventure in there plays a key role in my mental approach to it. Because adventure is whatever you can make it. and we’ve heard of people and know people who have never left California, they’ve never left the Bay Area, they’ve never seen snow, Whereas I’m like, I’ve never been to South Korea, so that’s on my list of things. So adventure is whatever [00:43:00] you can make it. So if we can inspire people to do that, and at the same time, I can go do things that I might not be able to do when I’m 65, when I traditionally retire from whatever day job. Zeke: And so if we can make a go at this point in time then I get to do some things that I won’t be able to do later on. And that’s what we’re also trying to communicate to folks through the channel. Is to live life while you can. I’ve been very fortunate in the last five or six years to do about 10 or so two week bike tours with some friends. Zeke: And so we’ve ridden bikes from a lot of different places to other places and had a great time. And we come back from these things and we meet places and talked to people about our trips and we can guarantee somebody’s gonna say oh, I wanna do that someday. And we always tell them, there is no someday. Zeke: There’s only today. You’ve gotta do it. Now if you say I’m gonna do it someday, you just keep pushing it off. You’ve gotta do it now. So that’s why Part of my mind is like, this is crazy. What are you doing financially? [00:44:00] This is a startup and I’m not a startup guy. Terry’s the startup person. Yeah. Zeke: And but the other half of my brain is do it while you can, because at some point in time you’re not gonna have a choice. You’re not gonna have an option. Terry: Yeah. And I just wanna expand on something about the adventure because not everybody has the financial means to do it. And not everybody’s as comfortable with adventure, like his cycling trips, I have zero interest in his cycling trips. Terry: But so what is adventurous for me and pulls me outside of my comfort zone, and that’s the thing, our tagline is we wanna inspire Midlifers, mostly Gen Xers, but people over the age of 50 to get out, get uncomfortable and go adventure It could be taking a bus to go do a hike someplace, so maybe the bus is a couple bucks. Terry: You can go do a hike, which should be free. hopefully you have some comfortable shoes. You can bring a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and you just add some water, don’t forget the water. And you go and you see something from a different angle. You push yourself beyond your normal [00:45:00] comfort zone. Terry: When I worked for my dad’s accounting firm back when I was younger we would always have this conversation ’cause I was very black and white. we would look at the tax law and it would be like, it would be this or it’d be this. And my dad’s no, there’s black and there’s white, and there’s the gray area in between. Terry: And that gray area is our play area. I’m not saying it was, bad or fraudulent, but he always wanted to stretch me like a rubber band. And I always, every time you do something that’s outside your comfort zone, you stretch that rubber band, you stretch that rubber band and that rubber band, once stretched, never goes back to the same place. Terry: And so for on this last trip, we both flew into Munich, and then I took a train to Strausberg because I am absolutely determined to see all the France, and I’m determined to speak French fluently one day in my life. And so he cycled with his friends from Munich to Venice, and they did it. They do it on the cheap. Terry: I they camp, they do warm shower places. They share, four stinky men in a room kind of situation. And I had [00:46:00] this little air and B right on the river Ill in Strasburg, and I spent two weeks by myself in Strasburg, working on my French, working on some other content. And, but that being solo and doing that, oh, and I got to go to all the museums I wanted and the cathedral and I got to do all the cultural stuff that I love to do while he was outside doing his outdoorsy stuff. Terry: I play tennis, I don’t cycle. And me being alone as an identical twin, as somebody who likes to have somebody around that is uncomfortable for me. and Zeke was like, ah, that would be super uncomfortable for me and I would absolutely hate it. And, but with that. it expanded who I was. Terry: And granted, that is a more expensive option. But we live in the Bay Area and there are all sorts of places to go hike. I don’t love to hike, but sometimes our youngest will drag me out and is oh wow, maybe this isn’t so bad. Look at how beautiful this is. I’m bitching and complaining all the way up, all the way up the hill. Terry: or when we go and we [00:47:00] do saunas and places, and they go, ’cause there’s a new one up in San Francisco. this isn’t necessarily uncomfortable, but really what a great experience. Gissele: Hmm, I love it. First of all, I think your dad was a great teacher in terms of the willingness to see, okay, there’s black and white, but there’s always a middle way to do things. Gissele: There’s always possibilities. I think when you’re inviting the listeners to consider is different ways of aging, because I think the more you get active and get adventure or get beyond your limitations, the more likely that you’re going to be aging. Very well at the end, for this podcast, I interviewed a 75-year-old lady who is, she started when she was 65, I believe. Gissele: She’s like the 15th time world champion pole dancing. She still does it like she’s, she’s 75. She’s still like the world leader and so can we reimagine how we age? because what I noticed in aging is there’s a constriction more and more, and more and more people are less likely to go out. Gissele: They’re less likely to [00:48:00] socialize, and so there’s an outward constriction, whereas your business is enabling people to go, okay, can we go outward instead, can we. Reimagine aging. Can we reimagine mobility? Can we reimagine adventure? Adventure doesn’t mean I have to go to the south of France Gissele: Can I even just say, that I’m willing to try that makes me out of my comfort zone? It doesn’t necessarily mean having to go outside. It could be just, public speaking. it could be anything that helps me shift and open up to life. And there might be a lot of opportunity around with organizations that are helping people become more mobile. Gissele: Because I think your organization it’s not just the traveling, it’s really is opening up people beyond their limitations and especially around aging. Can we really reimagine ourselves? Yeah, go ahead. Terry: Yeah. So in 2019 I wrote a book called Piloting Your Life to Inspire Women over the Age of 40 to design and live lives of our own Creation. Terry: And and the reason why it’s piloting your life is [00:49:00] as a woman in male dominated spaces, especially in, like investing in stuff. I am a commercially rated helicopter pilot, so I have my brand around, yeah, I fly helicopters for fun, really. I have my branding around aviation and so I had a podcast for a couple years called Piloting Your Life that ultimately focused on women. Terry: And then I wrote this book because I realized there wasn’t the what to expect when you turned 40. Book for women. We’re seeing more conversations about perimenopause and menopause and what happens to our brains and our bodies. It’s more than just hot flashes. And it was like I wanted to better understand that. Terry: So I love that you tapped into the redefining what aging means, and I think Gen X especially has an opportunity to really model moving forward. what aging means. And we do not have available to us, at least in the United States the same, you work at the same place for your entire life. Terry: You have a [00:50:00] pension and then you’re set up for the future. A lot of us are not going to be retiring at 65. A lot of us are not going to have grandkids. we’re not necessarily gonna have the retirement and aging lives that have been modeled before us. Terry: And so I do see that as a huge opportunity for us to redefine what aging means, focusing on what good health means. And good health is focused on not just, your fitness or your weight, but it’s brain health, it’s mobility, it’s flexibility, and it’s friendships. Terry: I interviewed 36 diverse women from around the world, from my book. So I can share their stories. ’cause a lot of us need to see it to be it. And it’s maybe they didn’t like my story, but they might like my friend Carle’s story or, somebody else’s story. And in the research, in order to really set ourselves up well for the next phase of our lives is we need a little bit of activity, exercise. Terry: We need deep and meaningful relationships or friendships and we need meaning or [00:51:00] purpose. And in doing further research on purpose, not having a big p purpose, but a little p purpose is important. ’cause all of those things build up. So I’m doing this drawing challenge right now so that I can start Painting Again, which I haven’t done since high school. And so every day for 10 minutes I’m drawing. And it’s so fun to do something new and know that I can completely fail at it. No one’s gonna judge me. I am pushing it out on Instagram so that I can inspire other people to be silly and whimsical as well. Terry: But I think, my focus is on women. if we decide to be selfish for once, put ourselves first focus on how we want to be in the world, do the work make the decisions on what we want, we can model it better, not only for the women coming up behind us, but also for the men in the world. Terry: And then our society in general becomes a better thing. and so like Zeke going out and doing his cycling stuff, he’s the young one in the group. Just by a a year or [00:52:00] two. But getting out there and doing. a 400 or a 700 mile cycling. And we’re talking pedaling just like, doing it on the cheap, Terry: that is just so funny. it’s not always just the physical, it’s the mental. And that’s the other thing with it, with this new business, every single day we are learning something new. We are throwing so much pasta on the wall and so much of it is not sticking in terms of what we’re trying and experimenting with. Terry: It’s it is very frustrating sometimes, but it’s also so good for our brains. Terry: it’s so exciting to be 55 almost 56. And every day it’s like, What are we choosing today? Terry: So I paid $10 for the drawing thing for the month, so it wasn’t an expensive thing. But one of the coolest things was we’ve been to so many museums and one of my new favorite artists is Egon Shield. And yesterday the thing had to do with negative spaces I think it’s called Draw Together, and Wendy Mack is the gal leading it. Terry: And she showed Igon Shield’s work and I’m like, oh my God, I love Egon Shield. And [00:53:00] like a couple days before it was some sort of line drawing thing and it was s Tumbly. And I’m like, I saw Slys stuff in Munich. I got to see Egon Shields stuff in Vienna. And I know my privilege is showing right now. but I love seeing these things connect together. Terry: That something I learned in one place, I now seeing it in play in another, and then I get to do something with it. It is so fun. Gissele: Yeah, Zeke: at same time, just a quick reference of that although we are in the San Francisco Bay area, which is of course a world class leading art center, education center. Zeke: But we’ve been in enough places around the world where we’ll walk into some little museum or art installation or a church or whatever is in some little town. ’cause Terry wants to go to every single one of ’em. And we’ll find something there. It’s like, wait, we’ve seen that other places. So wherever you are at out there in the world you look around and you’ll find some things somewhere that can be just as interesting and or inspired by some of these things that you [00:54:00] find here. Zeke: And the nice thing about the little towns that have these is there’s, it’s probably free. And two they’re, you’re not gonna spend six hours stumbling around in the Louvre looking for something and with a crowd of millions. Zeke: which is my trigger point because I don’t have the patience to, to deal with crowds. Zeke: Yeah, Gissele: That’s fair. I think what you’re modeling for us is the potentials, right? we have so many limiting beliefs in our society, you’re too old to start, a business in the fifties or tool to go cycling a little cheap. like all of those things are just limiting beliefs in what you’re showing us as a world of potentials. Gissele: A couple more questions. what’s your definition of self-love? Terry: You go first Zeke: definition of self-love. Yeah. I’m Gissele: asking everyone to season that question. Zeke: Sure. That’s a good question. Good Terry: answer ’cause I’ve got one now. Zeke: Go ahead. Terry: Okay. I think self-love right now as a 55-year-old woman, gen X conditioned in a patriarch [00:55:00] society is putting myself first without apology, showing up, being unapologetically me. Terry: I think that is the definition of self-love for me right now. Gissele: Beautiful. Zeke, I Zeke: would say, I’m not gonna articulate it. Don’t think. As well. it’s probably giving myself permission to either admit that I was wrong or admit that I hadn’t understood something. and maybe in this patriarchal society, part of that is that the man is always right and he’s always figured everything out and I haven’t and so trying to deprogram that and enter a new space of saying, yeah, I don’t, I didn’t do that right. Zeke: I don’t know what the answer to that is. And I’m sorry to anyone I’ve impacted with those previous decisions, and I’m sorry to myself and I’ve given myself permission to forgive myself for myself, either acting that way and having to change and needing to change and I should change, and I don’t [00:56:00] even exactly know what to change too. Speaker 3: Terry: So I love your question about self-love because it really got me thinking aboutwhat that means and showing up unapologetically me. ’cause I feel like I’ve been apologizing for who I am my entire life. And then also choosing myself first, which is such a struggle as a Gen X woman who’s been conditioned to put everybody else first. Terry: And there’s a line in my book. Which is be the first in the buffet line and take the last fucking cupcake because so many of us women. at least in the United States, my friends in France, they were not raised similarly, but we are told, let everybody else go first. And if there’s one last thing, don’t take it. Terry: And so I love this concept but I have to be very intentional and think about it. I love this concept of choose you first. Men have no problems choosing themselves first. And the thing that I have modeled so poorly for my kids is that. selflessness is important and always being in [00:57:00] service to somebody else is important and you put yourself last. Terry: And if I could turn back time and change one thing, I would change and show that I put myself first. More because I think it was so important for both boys and girls, men and women, to see that it is okay for women to show up unapologetically, put themselves first, being aware of the impact, but putting themselves first. Terry: So I loved that you forced me to think through, and I’m actually gonna put a reminder on my desk. It’s like practice acts of self-love every day so that it can become less. Of a practice and it can be part of who I am, so thank you for that. Gissele: Ah, thank you for that. ’cause I can totally appreciate that. Gissele: I grew up here in Canada, so not the states, but I felt the same way. There’s this messaging that a good mother puts themselves last. A good mother puts their kids first, eats last, like all of those things. And that’s not true because what it does is it leads to burnout. In fact, the less that I [00:58:00] loved myself and filled my cup, the more I gave from my reserves and the more I resented it, sometimes I was snappy my case. Terry: Yeah, and we go through perimenopause and that’s what we’re seeing is women just completely burned out going through perimenopause and the menopause transition, especially if you have a DHD and you’re just like, what the hell happened? And that’s why I see the, our forties is such an incredible opportunity to shift out of being in service to others because our bodies and our minds are saying. Terry: you’ve gotta focus inward. You’ve gotta focus less outward. And that’s what’s fun about the four. The forties suck, but the fifties, once you’ve done that work, the fifties are amazing. Speaker 3: great answers. Thank you to both of you. Last one is, where can people find you? Where can they work with you? Where can you find your book? Share anything you wanna share? Terry: So my book, piloting Your Life is. Available on Amazon. I’m sorry if you’re not, we don’t shop on Amazon, but it’s in audiobook. Terry: I narrated it. Ebook and paperback. You can [00:59:00] also order it through like bookshop.org. Request it through Libby, your library, so it’s pretty much everywhere. Or go to my website http://www.piloting your life.com. Zeke and Terry Adventures is available at http://www.zekeandterryadventures.com. You can find us as Zeke a

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"Clarity is key." "Be the leader you would want to follow."   Episode summary | In this engaging conversation, Shannon Cassidy interviews Lyn Wineman, founder of KidGlov, an advertising agency dedicated to helping changemakers amplify their impact. Lyn shares her journey from a small town in Nebraska to becoming a leader in purpose-driven marketing. The discussion covers the founding of KidGlov, the significance of B Corp certification, and the agency's commitment to a culture of generosity and collaboration. Lyn also highlights the importance of core values in shaping the team's culture and introduces her upcoming book, 'Untangling Spaghetti,' which aims to guide organizations in branding and mission amplification. In this conversation, Lyn Wineman discusses her upcoming book launch, the strategic process behind branding, and the importance of creating a culture of psychological safety within teams. She emphasizes the need for transparency in leadership and shares personal insights on growth and the impact of kindness in the workplace.   R.O.G. Takeaway Tips | Branding should be a strategic process involving data collection and vision clarification. Creating psychological safety fosters open communication and collaboration. Transparency in leadership builds trust and unity within teams. It's essential to model the behavior you want to see in others. Emotional responses from clients can indicate a deep connection to their brand. The branding process involves understanding the client's vision and values. Kindness and generosity can ripple out to positively impact the community. Personal growth requires introspection and a shift in perspective. Family support plays a crucial role in maintaining balance and calm.    Chapters |  00:00  Introduction to Lyn Wineman and KidGlov 03:04  Lyn's Background and Journey to Advertising 05:56  The Birth of KidGlov and Its Mission 09:07  Celebrating 15 Years of KidGlov 12:01  Understanding B Corp Certification 14:57  Creating a Culture of Generosity at KidGlov 18:00  Core Values and Team Collaboration 21:00  Generosity in the Business Community 24:00  Upcoming Book: Untangling Spaghetti 26:48  Launching the Book: A Strategic Approach 29:02  The Process of Brand Development 34:43  Creating a Culture of Psychological Safety 39:03  Transparency in Leadership 41:57  Rapid Fire Insights and Personal Reflections   Guest Bio | Few can match Lyn Wineman's passion for marketing—or for helping change-makers do more good in the world. For the past 30 years, Lyn has partnered with a variety of large national organizations, regional powerhouse brands, and many of our favorite nonprofit organizations and community health initiatives. As founder, president, and chief strategist of the full-service advertising agency KidGlov, Lyn has hand-picked a talented team known for putting the megaphone in front of change leaders. KidGlov earned its Certified B-Corp status in 2021, proof of their commitment to social and environmental excellence. Lyn has been inducted into the American Marketing Association Hall of Fame and was named Marketer of the Year by the Lincoln Chapter. She has been recognized with the American Advertising Federation of Nebraska's Silver Medal and was awarded the Inspire Women's Leadership Award for Excellence in Entrepreneurship. A University of Nebraska Lincoln College of Journalism and Mass Communications alumni, she serves on a number of community boards and is a Community Fellow for the University of Nebraska Center for Entrepreneurship. She also serves as a co-host of KidGlov's Agency for Change podcast, which amplifies the voices of those who are making a positive impact on the world. Lyn and her husband, Neil, live on a historic farm where they raise a small flock of peacocks. They enjoy spending time with their three kids and grandbaby Ronin.   Resources: KidGlov.com https://kidglov.com/podcasts Free N.D.I. Network Diversity Index  Free Generosity Quiz  Where to find R.O.G. Podcast: R.O.G on YouTube R.O.G on Apple Podcasts R.O.G on Spotify 5 Year Gratitude Journal: Grounded in Gratitude on Etsy How diverse is your network?  N.D.I. Network Diversity Index What is your Generosity Style?  Generosity Quiz   Credits: Lyn Wineman,  Sheep Jam Productions, Host Shannon Cassidy, Bridge Between, Inc. Coming Next: Please join us next week, Episode 223, Special Guest, Dr. Kristopher Brown.

Thank you for tuning into "Daily Affirmations for Women." Your presence is truly valued as we embark on a journey of positivity. Remember, you have exceptional qualities and limitless potential! Your ratings and follow-ups are crucial for our growth and deeply appreciated. Thank you for your support! Your presence and engagement mean the world to me. If you feel inspired to support my work further, you can make a donation through the link provided below: https://buymeacoffee.com/womenaffirmations If you'd like to request an episode on a specific topic, feel free to reach out to us via email. We're here to create content that supports and uplifts you. Email us at: dailyaffirmationswomenpodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Instead of wallowing in what could have potentially been the lowest moment of her life, Kathrine Switzer '68, G'72, H'18 used the adversity from her historic run at the Boston Marathon as fuel to inspire women around the world to get into running. After her triumph in Boston, Switzer would go on to complete more than 40 marathons, including winning the New York City Marathon in 1974. Switzer played an instrumental role in getting the women's marathon included in the Summer Olympics, and in 2015, along with four of her friends, Switzer launched 261 Fearless, a global non-profit that empowers women through running, helping thousands of women around the world discover their self-worth and their potential through customized education and running opportunities. On this "'Cuse Conversation," Switzer discusses making history as the first woman to run the Boston Marathon, her drive to get women around the world into running, the life-altering benefits of running, what it means to be a Syracuse University alumna and how her running career was launched as a student on campus.

Arizona has a long history of electing women to office, at many levels of government. Has that fact changed anything about politics in the state? Plus, the role of content creators in influencing how we think and what we do.

Here is Part II of the miniseries on women engineers, the bosses they work for and the organizations that support them. This episode is for managers. It includes 5 things you should know about women engineers. And how to disrupt your common management routine for the better.

“I see that a lot of these young women are struggling to feel like their impact matters and I really want to create something that incorporates my own stories, my own journey, to show them that our choices matter. But more importantly, that they matter, and that everything they bring to the table is significant and meaningful.” When Brianna Ruelas and her husband were thrust into entrepreneurship overnight, she had little choice but to fully embrace the multiple hats she was now wearing. A decade on, Brianna is now a multifaceted Entreprenista who helps women in business bring their big ideas and vision to life while tapping into what lights them up so they can love the work that they do. In her keynotes, she integrates live performance and original music with her teaching to reinforce key concepts that ignite motivation, innovation, and performance. Today, we're chatting with Brianna about being CEO of Ruelas Music Group, passing down the entrepreneurial spirit to her kids, and the inspiration behind her books.  What we talk about:   Joining three startup businesses at once—while being a full time mom (06:32) Authoring a book is like having a very elaborate business card (12:57) The secret to landing speaking opportunities (17:57) It's okay to have multiple streams of income while you're building your business (24:24) Brianna's American Idol experience (27:01) Connect with Brianna:  Website On Spotify Instagram Books by Brianna Members of our Entreprenista League get access to live Office Hours with top founders that have been on our show! Join the Entreprenista League today at entreprenista.com/join. We can't wait to welcome you, support you, and be part of your business journey!    Get Featured on Startups in Stilettos Want a chance to be featured on Startups in Stilettos? We're currently accepting applications from our Entreprenista League members to be featured on the show! Think of the Entreprenista League as your team members in what can be a lonely startup founder's journey. You'll have access to a private community of like-minded female startup founders who are making an impact in business every day, special discounts on business products and solutions, exclusive content, private events, the opportunity to have your story featured on our website, social channels – and, of course, the Startups in Stilettos podcast – and so much MORE! Grow Your Startup with Startups in Stilettos Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Startups in Stilettos, powered by the Entreprenista PodcastNetwork. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts|TuneIn|GooglePlay|Stitcher|Spotify|iHeart Radio Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help us reach more startup founders, like you, and have a chance to win a one-on-one mentor and strategy session with Stephanie Cartin. Join us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn. And for even more exclusive content and information – and to get access to the 8 Secrets to Success in Your Business video course and worksheet – visit our website. 

There are So Many Ways to Invest in and Inspire Women. Here are the Ones Inclusion and Diversity Champions Find Most Helpful.

In a world where women's empowerment is gaining momentum, there's one event that stands out as a beacon of inspiration and support – the Virani Company's Inspire Women Expo.

Working towards healing and loving ourselves can be heavy work. It's wonderful to add some levity once in awhile through laughter and humor. Mix that with some education around our bodies, sex, & sexuality and we may just find ourselves having a pretty good time with this self love and acceptance thing. My guest this week, Melissa Strype, has created fun and beautiful videos and performances based on educating Women on sexual health and embracing our bodies. Mixing comedy with education, Melissa offers an outlet for learning more about our sexuality and how to advocate for ourselves.On this episode, Melissa and I talk about the stigma that continues to surround sex and prevents Women from understanding their bodies, how to understand & embrace your body, and affirming that it's OK to have body hair and weird things happening with bodily functions & periods,  and that "you need to wear a condom" is not a debatable statement.Join the Women Waken Community on Instagram Here: https://tinyurl.com/522duz2c Melissa Strype (@TheBigLissa) is a director, performer and sexual health educator for over a decade, passionate about cultivating community and creating empowering content that helps people feel good about themselves. Melissa makes content at the intersection of comedy and sexual health, with a focus on educational music videos.You can learn more about Melissa and connect with her here: https://linktr.ee/TheBigLissa

Guinevere Stasio is a Mom and former doctor who was fed up with her 9-t and knew there was something better out there for her. Tune into this episode of Wake Up Legendary to hear how she is creating the life of her dreams and teaching others to do the same. Follow Gwen on Tiktok | Instagram | Youtube | Facebook

Today on GET REAL Podcast...ADINA EDEN!ADINA is the queen of JEWELS! She is the designer and founder of Adina Eden, a MULTI-MILLION DOLLAR, family-run, one-stop jewelry shop.Adina's namesake jewelry line has gained A-LIST CELEBRITY fans like, BILLIE EILISH, CARDI B, KYLIE & KENDALL JENNER, ARIANA GRANDE…and the list goes on!IN THIS EPISODE, we talk:• Building her BRAND from the ground up• The PURPOSE behind the PIECES• Making FORBES 30 UNDER 30 list• How she went from POWERLESS to POWERFUL• Flipping the script of her LIFEShop Adina Eden, HERE!Listen to ADINA EDEN on GET REAL Podcast...NOW!Connect with ADINA:Adina Eden Jewelry InstagramAdina's InstagramTikTokFacebookSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part II of a powerful intimate and engaging conversation about the human experience unfolding into a divine expression of awareness... Dr. Sonya Jensen is the author of Woman Unleashed, and also cofounder of Tula Teas, for balancing and calming the body and mind. She is a Mom of 2 boys, a business owner, a yoga teacher, a workshop leader and a Women's Health Expert. After years of working closely with Women and their families her mission and purpose has become clear, to Inspire Women so they can live free and balanced lives. And her partner.... Dr Nick Jensen is extremely passionate about teaching individuals to become the best version of themselves. He focuses on supporting individuals in several areas, including (1) Environmental and Heavy Metal Detox (2) Drug Rehabilitation and Detox (3) Brain Health repair for cognitive/neurodegenerative decline and optimization (4) Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy and Healthy Aging (5) Pain Relief using Neural-Prolotherapy (6) Digestive Health and Nutrition. This beautiful couple also creates so much more. Learn More About (1) Health Ignited Club: https://drsjensen.com (2) Discover Tula Teas: tulatea.com (3) Find out more about Dr. Sonya Jensen: www.drsonyajensen.com (4) Their practice in Vancouver BC Canada is Divine Elements: divineelements.ca

Part II of a powerful intimate and engaging conversation about the human experience unfolding into a divine expression of awareness... Dr. Sonya Jensen is the author of Woman Unleashed, and also cofounder of Tula Teas, for balancing and calming the body and mind. She is a Mom of 2 boys, a business owner, a yoga teacher, a workshop leader and a Women's Health Expert. After years of working closely with Women and their families her mission and purpose has become clear, to Inspire Women so they can live free and balanced lives. And her partner.... Dr Nick Jensen is extremely passionate about teaching individuals to become the best version of themselves. He focuses on supporting individuals in several areas, including (1) Environmental and Heavy Metal Detox (2) Drug Rehabilitation and Detox (3) Brain Health repair for cognitive/neurodegenerative decline and optimization (4) Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy and Healthy Aging (5) Pain Relief using Neural-Prolotherapy (6) Digestive Health and Nutrition. This beautiful couple also creates so much more. Learn More About (1) Health Ignited Club: https://drsjensen.com (2) Discover Tula Teas: tulatea.com (3) Find out more about Dr. Sonya Jensen: www.drsonyajensen.com (4) Their practice in Vancouver BC Canada is Divine Elements: divineelements.ca

A powerful intimate and engaging conversation about the human experience unfolding into a divine expression of awareness... Dr. Sonya Jensen is the author of Woman Unleashed, and also cofounder of Tula Teas, for balancing and calming the body and mind. She is a Mom of 2 boys, a business owner, a yoga teacher, a workshop leader and a Women's Health Expert. After years of working closely with Women and their families her mission and purpose has become clear, to Inspire Women so they can live free and balanced lives. And her partner.... Dr Nick Jensen is extremely passionate about teaching individuals to become the best version of themselves. He focuses on supporting individuals in several areas, including (1) Environmental and Heavy Metal Detox (2) Drug Rehabilitation and Detox (3) Brain Health repair for cognitive/neurodegenerative decline and optimization (4) Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy and Healthy Aging (5) Pain Relief using Neural-Prolotherapy (6) Digestive Health and Nutrition. This beautiful couple also creates so much more. Learn More About (1) Health Ignited Club: https://drsjensen.com (2) Discover Tula Teas: tulatea.com (3) Find out more about Dr. Sonya Jensen: www.drsonyajensen.com (4) Their practice in Vancouver BC Canada is Divine Elements: divineelements.ca

A powerful intimate and engaging conversation about the human experience unfolding into a divine expression of awareness... Dr. Sonya Jensen is the author of Woman Unleashed, and also cofounder of Tula Teas, for balancing and calming the body and mind. She is a Mom of 2 boys, a business owner, a yoga teacher, a workshop leader and a Women's Health Expert. After years of working closely with Women and their families her mission and purpose has become clear, to Inspire Women so they can live free and balanced lives. And her partner.... Dr Nick Jensen is extremely passionate about teaching individuals to become the best version of themselves. He focuses on supporting individuals in several areas, including (1) Environmental and Heavy Metal Detox (2) Drug Rehabilitation and Detox (3) Brain Health repair for cognitive/neurodegenerative decline and optimization (4) Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy and Healthy Aging (5) Pain Relief using Neural-Prolotherapy (6) Digestive Health and Nutrition. This beautiful couple also creates so much more. Learn More About (1) Health Ignited Club: https://drsjensen.com (2) Discover Tula Teas: tulatea.com (3) Find out more about Dr. Sonya Jensen: www.drsonyajensen.com (4) Their practice in Vancouver BC Canada is Divine Elements: divineelements.ca

Andrea Lennon talks with Hannah Love Mooney about surrendering to Christ and being obedient to His calling in this episode of Inspire On The Go. Hannah discusses growing up in Arkansas, giving her life to Jesus, the anchor He has been in battling depression, and starting her podcast, Unexpected with Hannah Love. Hannah is also coming back to Arkansas for the Missing Pieces Women's Conference hosted by the Rocky Bayou Baptist Association Women's Ministry. Hannah Love Mooney is a wife and mother. Married to Shay Mooney of country duo Dan + Shay, and together, the couple have three little boys. She is the creator and host of the Christian podcast: Unexpected with Hannah Love. In 2022, her podcast was heard in over 50 countries and landed in the top 5% most shared podcasts globally. It was also in the top 5% most followed podcasts. Every week she encourages thousands of listeners with a mix of devotional style episodes and vulnerable interviews. Hannah continually points to the many ways God works in the Unexpected. Hannah formerly held the title of Miss Arkansas USA in 2013 and is also a seasoned painter and writer. She has had years of experience as a freelance author for online publications and been featured in national magazines, music videos, and podcasts. Hannah is no stranger to speaking engagements and stages (though she admittedly feels more comfortable behind the scenes). With a love for Jesus and a heart for encouragement, Hannah loves pouring into the lives of women. Registration for the annual Inspire Women's Conference is open now. Learn more at www.absc.org/inspire.

In this episode, Andrea Lennon talks with Courtney Reissig about the beauty of God keeping His promises and how the Old Testament covenants are fulfilled in and through Jesus. Reissig gives her back story and tells listeners about how she began her walk with the Lord. She also discusses how God influenced her to write her new Bible study, "Promises Kept: 5 Old Testament Covenants and How Christ Fulfilled Them." Reissig is a writer and Bible teacher living in Little Rock, AR. She loves teaching the Bible, writing about the Bible, or talking about the Bible in any context she finds herself in. She and her husband are the proud parents of four sons, and together they serve at Immanuel Baptist Church in Little Rock, AR, where she is the Discipleship Content Director. Click here to purchase Reissig's new Bible study. Registration for the annual Inspire Women's Conference is open now. Learn more at www.absc.org/inspire.

Marta's mission is to inspire women to step into their power so they can live a deeply fulfilling life rooted in a sense of purpose and inner joy. Her Happiness Coaching Workshops combine elements of neuroscience, positive psychology and spirituality, translating happiness into practical daily habits and mindset shifts and bringing you closer to the life you'll love. 10 years ago, Marta quit her office job to go on a solo trip to India which, thanks to a serendipitous encounter, led her to moving to NYC. Travel has completely shifted her perspective, making her realise more than ever that there is so much more to life than conforming to somebody else's idea of happiness. So instead, she decided to create her own. Marta started a Tech business that allowed her to work from anywhere and, a couple of years (and countries!) later, she created @a_girlwhotravels to show women how they can do the same. Her passion for self-development and spirituality inspired her latest Happiness Coaching venture, as she continues to focus on serving the female community.In this episode we talk:Career pivotsTrusting yourself Taking a risk for a better life Creating happiness And, Marta's 3 steps to start cultivating more happiness today! Links:IG: @a_girlwhotravelsWebsite:https://www.kvinnominne.com/happiness-coachingMartha's listeners discount offer:https://www.kvinnominne.com/discount-offer Say Hi to Heidi over on Instagram Learn more about Heidi Jones Coaching over on her website 

Welcome to this episode of the UNLOCKED Podcast, where we will explore the power of your voice and the impact that podcasting can have on your message of radical audacity.Did you know that only 30% of podcast hosts are females or nonbinary individuals, even though they make up over 51% of the population in the United States? This represents a big gap in representation, and we believe that there is so much room for growth in this area.Joining us on this episode is Tiphany Kane, an entrepreneur, public speaker, coach, and writer who is passionate about helping women find their voice and make an impact in the world. She is known as the "Heck Yes Coach" and shares her own personal journey of overcoming obstacles to find her own power.Tiphany was raised in a highly patriarchal religion and lacked a voice. At 19 years old, she left and started over, embarking on a lifelong journey to find her voice. After a toxic marriage and a career with no room for her voice, Tiphany finally found her message and channeled it through podcasting. She encourages other women to find their voice and to use it to share their unique stories and perspectives with the world. Through podcasting, she has experienced internal confidence, collaboration, and genuine connection with her audience that has opened many doors for her.In this episode, Tiphany shares her insights on how to discover and share your own voice as a woman, exploring your strengths, and uncovering your own magic. She also talks about leveraging collaboration and authenticity for career success.So, if you are ready to step into your power and make your voice heard, join us for this episode of the UNLOCKED show with Tracy Wilson. Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracy_m_wilsonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/tracymwilsonWebsite: www.tracymwilson.comConnect with TiphanyWebsite: https://kasamediapro.com/Sonic Bloom Awards: www.sonicbloomaards.comLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tiphany-kane-514264175/Key Points in this episode[00:12:42] "Unearth unique stories in quiet moments."[00:20:08] "Why finding your voice is crucial: Gender-based leadership differences."[00:20:41] "Embracing collaboration: Female leadership strengths."[00:23:30]  "Breaking gender barriers: Podcasting for all."[00:28:20] "The power of podcasting: Confidence, collaboration, influence, trust."[00:33:15] "Authenticity is key in podcasting."[00:38:10] "Podcasting 101: Start small, grow big."[00:40:02] "Audio consumption: The past, present, and future."[00:46:17] "Empowering women's voices: The Sonic Bloom Awards."[00:52:46] "Creating shareable content: Female listeners and the podcasting long game."[00:58:06] "Spread the word: Share this episode."Take the Leadership Style Quiz! https://freedomseekhersway.com/leadership-type-quiz/

Taking responsibility for our actions give us permission to control the story. This week Tracy Crossley is sharing how she helps women leaders tackle imposter syndrome and break the habits that hold them back professionally.   Here's what you'll learn in this episode: How to deal with imposter syndrome Why considering outside factors limits your perspective as a leader The real reason to create boundaries in the workplace How to choose courageous leadership   Tracy Crossley innovates in a crowded marketplace of coaches, counselors and mentors. She has perfected a method for real change no matter what circumstances are occurring in the life of an individual; personally or in business. With her background in business, marketing, psychology, ontological coaching, emotional intelligence and intuitive abilities, Tracy is the gamechanger for women leaders looking to reinvent how they live and lead from the inside out. She has been known to say she can build the perfect leader for the present and the future.   You can connect with Tracy in the following ways: Twitter: https://twitter.com/TracyCrossleyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracylcrossley/?hl=enLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracycrossley/   Whether you are a C-Suite Leader of today or tomorrow, take charge of your career with confidence and leverage the insights of The CEO's Compass: Your Guide to Get Back on Track.  To learn more about The CEO's Compass, you can get your copy here: https://amzn.to/3AKiflR    Other episodes you'll enjoy: C-Suite Goal Setting: How To Create A Roadmap For Your Career Success - http://bit.ly/3XwI55n Natalya Berdikyan: Investing in Yourself to Serve Others on Apple Podcasts -http://bit.ly/3ZMx8yw Questions to Guarantee You Accomplish Your Goals - http://bit.ly/3QASvym  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Andrea Lennon sits down with Shari Edwards and Laurie Ormon to talk about the upcoming year for Arkansas Baptist Women. After reflecting on 2022, they share what God has placed on their hearts for 2023, as well as anticipate events like the Inspire Women's Conference and Women's Ministry Network Gatherings. Visit absc.org/women to learn more about upcoming events and to become involved in women's ministry across the state.

Have you ever had a good idea for a business, but been too afraid to act on it? Yet deep down inside you know it's something you are meant to pursue? This episode is for you! Dr. Archana Shrestha interviews Dr. Dami Babaniji, an inspiring sister doc who started her own lipstick brand. Dr. Babaniji shares how she gained the confidence to pursue her idea, the inspiring message behind her brand, and so much more! Dr. Dami Babaniji is the founder of VIP Lippy, a lipstick brand with a mission to help inspire women to change their world. Dr. Babaniji first worked as a nurse before going to medical school and becoming a board-certified internal medicine physician who also trains residents as an academic hospitalist. She is also an amazing member of Women in White Coats (you may remember her episode a year ago as a participant in the Physician Wellness and Empowerment Program!). Key Takeaways [04:05] VIP Lippy-what exactly does it stand for? [09:34] Why lipstick is so important to Dr. Babaniji [16:06] What VIP Lippy hopes to inspire in its users [21:52] Dr. Babaniji's encouragement for those who think they can't run a business Dr. Babaniji is offering a special discount just for our listeners! Use code WIWC20 at checkout for 20% off all orders! (Valid through Dec 14th, 2022) Shop now at www.viplippy.com More than half of women physicians are feeling burnout right now and we want to help you discover what's at the heart of it. Take our brand new quiz to help you discover the root cause of burnout for you and what to do about it! Take the quiz here: https://womeninwhitecoats.com/quiz/ This Podcast is not approved for credit by CMEfy, however, you may reflect on how this Podcast applies to your day-to-day and engage to earn AMA PRA Category 1 Credit(s)™ via point-of-care learning activities here: https://womeninwhitecoats.com/podcastcme --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/women-in-white-coats/message

On today's show, we meet Arletta Allen. Arletta is the CEO of Authentically Arletta Unlimited LLC. Arletta is, a national award-winning, TEDx Speaker, dynamic professional speaker, trauma recovery coach, authentic leadership trainer, and author of the memoir Defying the Odds: Negotiating with Life to Turn Trauma into Triumph and Gratitude Anthology: Whoo Influenced You? Three Relationships that Transformed my Life. For 20+ years Arletta has impacted thousands of lives by delivering dynamic keynotes and engaging audiences across this nation from very prominent conference stages, seminars, panels, and workshop facilitation. Arletta advocates for TRIO/ Upward Bound/SSS programs as a voice to underrepresented and first-generation college students. Arletta is a highly sought-after and frequent guest of the media on the topics of leadership, authenticity, resilience, and defying the odds. Arletta regularly contributes to the media via Podcast interviews, NBC, NBC Nightly News, Fox Valley 365 Magazine, Inspire Women's Magazine, New North Magazine, and more. You can find Arletta at https://www.arlettaallen.com. Be sure to rate, subscribe & review! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we hear a session from this year's Inspire Women's Conference. Darla Baerg shares about the importance of hope and trusting in the Lord's provision. Whether you missed out on this year's in-person conference or just need a reminder to choose hope, you won't want to skip this episode. We're already anticipating next year's Inspire Women's Conference on September 23, 2023!

In this episode, Andrea Lennon sits down with Sally Hennard. They discuss everyting from challenging seasons to life's fun connections. Most importantly, they emphasize how vital it is to be in the Word and combat the enemy by using this resource that God has given us. They also look back on how amazing this year's Inspire Women's Conference was. We loved seeing you there!

Follow Elena on Instagram @drelenazinkov and check out her website! Dr. Elena Zinkov is a naturopathic physician and also a mom, who specializes in functional medicine, women's health and hormones. She is passionate about helping women live a symptom-free life, and inspiring women to be their best health advocates. She is the co-founder of her award winning clinic, Proactive Health Naturopathic Clinic, and she is on a mission to make health accessible to all through education, awareness and empowerment. (5) Supplements every woman needs: Multivitamin - preferred brand: Seeking Health or Metagenics Fish Oil - preferred brand: Thorne or Nordic Naturals Magnesium - preferred brand: Triple Mag by Vital Nutrients Probiotic - preferred brand: I didn't mention a brand, but I like the one Goop has, Cymbiotika and Coconut Cult Adrenal Support - preferred brand: Gaia (I didn't mention this but Adreset by Metagenics is fabulous as well. Gaia is one that you can find easily in a health food store.)  

In this episode, Andrea sits down with a friend from Arkansas Baptist Children and Family Ministries, Debi Walker. Debi serves as the director of family care, whose personal story has impacted her day-to-day ministry. She tells her life story as she speaks about the hope that can only be found in Jesus. The two conclude the episode talking about this year's Inspire Women's Conference on September 24. The deadline to register is September 19. In 1999, Debi’s life trajectory changed in a way that she would not have chosen for herself. Within moments her identity changed from that of wife and mother to widow and single mother. She quickly realized she could not do this alone and upon reflection, realized that God put key people in her life to help encourage and point her to Him. Her journey has been one of growth, but also failures and learning experiences. Debi’s passion is to help others navigate through life’s stresses by encouraging them to deepen their relationship with God, while learning to depend on Him in a new way. God has blessed Debi with a wonderful family. She has two amazing daughters, one awesome son-in- law, and three precious grandchildren. Debi led Women’s Ministry at FBC Brinkley for 7 years before serving with Arkansas Baptist Children and Family Ministries. Before her current role, she served as Relief Houseparent for Paragould Emergency Receiving Home, as well as Resident Manager at Jonesboro Family Care Home. She is currently pursuing a M.A. in Biblical Counseling at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and is the author of the Bible study, Desired Haven. Learn more and register for Inspire at www.absc.org/inspire.

On this week's episode, Laurie Ormon welcomes Andrea Lennon into her home. With two cups of coffee and worship music in the background, the two discuss the importance of listening to the call of the Holy Spirit and trusting Him even in the midst of chronic pain. Having served on the team for Inspire since the beginning, Laurie concludes by talking about how she can't wait to see the Lord use this year's Inspire Women's Conference to encourage women around the state on September 24. Laurie Ormon is a native of Camden, but has been in Northwest Arkansas for 28 years. She graduated from Ouachita Baptist University with a degree in art education. She's been married to Steve for 18 years and they have two daughters, Emily (16) and Sarah Kate (14). Laurie serves as Women's Ministry Director at First Baptist Church in Bentonville. She loves time with friends, going out to eat, movies, and working in the church nursery. Learn more and register for Inspire at www.absc.org/inspire.

Andrea Lennon talks with Tammy White about her walk with the Lord on this week's episode of Inspire. Tammy reflects on how the Lord comforted her during one of her most difficult seasons of life – when her mother passed away – and gave her hope through starting a women's ministry event at her church. Even in the difficulities of life, Jesus is faithful and steadfast. Andrea and Tammy also talk about the upcoming Inspire Women's Conference on September 24, trusting that God will speak to all of those in attendance. Tammy White is passionate about Jesus and spreading the good news of the gospel. She is an encourager of hearts and loves to minister to women of all ages. She is leading women to possess bold faith through biblical teaching and encouraging ladies to have a personal relationship with Jesus through Wednesday night bible studies at Third Street Baptist Church in Arkadelphia, Arkansas. She and her husband Eddie have been together for 29 years. Together they have two grown children and one grandson who they both completely adore. It is through her love for the Lord, faith in His goodness, and perseverance that Tammy is leading the women’s conference at TSBC each year in February. She is honored to be on the Inspire Leadership team! Learn more and register for Inspire at www.absc.org/inspire.

This week, Andrea Lennon sits down with Aubri Duran, a wife, mom of two, and graphic designer. Aubri encourages us to hold on to hope during seasons of waiting, as she talks about her personal journey. She tells us about the blessing of accepting Jesus into her heart at the early age of five and how He has been faithful every day since. Andrea and Aubri also discuss their anticipation for this year's Inspire Women's Conference. Aubri juggles many roles, all with the passion for bringing honor to God! She is your "everyday" type of girl who loves Jesus, her family, and the church. Wife to Matt, lead pastor of Indian Springs Baptist Church in Bryant, and mom to Trent and Emily Ann, Aubri lives by a family-first mindset. She embraces the need for rhythms and routines that give grace and create space for the things that matter. Aubri is passionate about women's ministry and discipleship. You will love this down-to-earth conversation that is practical and encouraging. Learn more and registrer for Inspire at www.absc.org/inspire.

GovCIO Media & Research's second annual Women Tech Leaders event came back in-person this year. During the event, speakers explored the strides women are making in cybersecurity, data, customer experience, workforce issues and more. Senior researchers Kate Macri and Melissa Harris discuss highlights from the event and key takeaways.

SponsorsAudible - get a free audiobook from Audible with no strings attached at https://workingcode.dev/audibleThis week on the show, Carol leads a discussion about communication styles, recruiting, and the power of seeing female role models at all levels of an organization. From the onset of her career, Carol has both been witness to and been taxed by a general lack of female leadership in the engineering world. From the college advisor who steered Carol away from computer science to the boss that sent her pictures of his genitalia, the last 12-years have made it abundantly clear to Carol just how important it is to hire women and cultivate a diversity of thought, perspectives, and backgrounds. And, this isn't only for the sake of women - it's also a way to drive more successful outcomes for companies and the products that they build.Follow the show and be sure to join the discussion on Discord! Our website is workingcode.dev and we're @WorkingCodePod on Twitter and Instagram. New episodes drop weekly on Wednesday.And, if you're feeling the love, support us on Patreon.With audio editing and engineering by ZCross Media.

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For episode 22 we are thrilled to be chatting with Lyn Wineman, President & Chief Strategist at KidGlov. You will be hard pressed to find anyone more passionate about marketing than Lyn Wineman. As founder of B-Corp Certified, full-service, boutique advertising agency KidGlov, she is surrounded by a talented team with the mission of helping the organizations that are changing the world. Lyn is a member of her local AMA Hall of Fame and has been named Marketer of the Year. She has been recognized with AAF Lincoln's Silver Medal, Inspire Women's Leadership Awards for Excellence in Entrepreneurship, and is a member of the AMA National Diversity, Equity and Inclusion CoHort.In this episode you'll learn:How her lifelong affinity for creative pursuits drew Lyn to the advertising industryThe many positive aspects of marketing & advertising, and how they can be used as a force for goodWhy creating a company culture centered around people and sustainability is so importantThe surprising marketing trend Lyn is most looking forward to for 2022Connect with Lyn: https://www.instagram.com/lynwineman/ Connect with KidGlov: https://www.instagram.com/kidglov/  ---- For more information on Our Gorongosa, please visit ourgorongosa.com Connect with us on Instagram: http://instagram.com/ourgorongosa Use code PODCAST for 15% off your first order

In the last Inspire Conference Breakout episode, Lori finishes her message from the 2021 Inspire Women's Conference. She continues her discussion on what it takes to have a God-sized vision for your life and what it takes to embrace that! We thank you for tuning in each week to hear from our breakout leaders from this year's Inspire Women's Conference. We are so looking forward to next and what God has in store! Be sure to keep tuning in as we return to Andrea's regular scheduled shows every other Monday. To watch the video version of this show, click here. To watch the entire Inspire Conference, click here.

Our Inspire Breakout sessions are quickly coming to a close! This week we bring you part one of Lori McDaniel's message from the 2021 Inspire Women's Conference. In this episode, Lori begins to discuss what it takes to have a God-sized vision for your life and what it takes to embrace that! To watch the video version of this show, click here. To watch the entire Inspire Conference, click here.

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we hear from Shari Edwards! Edwards is no stranger to the On The Go Podcast. She's been on before with Andrea to impart her own wisdom and talk all things Inspire Conference, as she helps put it on every year! As an adjunct professor at Ouachita Baptist University, Edwards is here to share about a topic not all too familiar with most. We've heard about Ruth and Mary, but alongside those inspiring women are other women in the Bible that also prove that God uses women in the same amount as he uses men. She talks about how this alone should be inspiring and shared with the women, young and old, in our lives that no matter what, God can and still uses us even today. Women in the Bible handout To connect with Shari, click here.

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we hear from Courtney Reissig. Courtney is a writer and Bible teacher from Little Rock, AR. She is a wife to Daniel, mom to four sons, and a member at Immanuel Baptist Church. She dives into Psalms 1 and helps us understand how this psalms provide help and healing while giving us a big view of our God. These last 18 months have been hard on all of us. As we begin to process all that we've walked through, we can be comforted knowing that God has given us language for our overwhelming emotions in the greatest joys of life and the deepest valleys. Courtney is also the author of three books, most recently Teach Me to Feel: Worshipping Through the Psalms in Every Season of Life. Connect with Courtney here.

We're back! Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we hear from Cheryl Harp! She has a special word for those who, like herself, are wives of ministers. She talks about uncovering God’s desire and focus for our lives as you serve alongside your husbands, as well as serve your local church body. She also discusses how to deal with disappointments and distractions and turn our focus on God’s calling on your life as we share His love through the way you live! Cheryl Harp is the Pastor's Wife at Lakeview Baptist Church in Cave Springs, AR. She considers that to be her great joy and calling on her life. She also serves women in the local church as the Women's Ministry Team Leader and serves as the NWA Women's Ministry Network Volunteer for the ABSC. She loves to dig into scripture and the opportunity to teach and disciple women. She is passionate, humbled, and grateful that God allows her to be a part of His awesome and great work. Arkansas Baptist Ministers Wives Private Facebook Group: AR Baptist Ministers’ Wives (SBC) Cheryl Harp: cherylharp1@gmail.com Vickie Lee: vickielee@bellsouth.net Arkansas Baptist Ministers Wives Website

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we get to hear from P.J. Yarbrough. Listen as she dives into scripture and shares her life story as inspiration to us that your story will always be used for God's glory. Born in Russellville, after spending time in foster care and adoption, Shaneil grew up in Calion, Arkansas. She is affectionately known as “P.J.” (short for “Precious Jewel”). She is intentional about living life to its fullest and seeks out opportunities to help others realize their potential and excel! Her new book (published July 2018), an autobiography, “Born a Statistic: Living Rejected, Agreeing with God”, shows accessibility to resilience, transformation, God's grace, and unmerited favor! This insightful look into the author's life serves as a testament to how God's immeasurable love supersedes statistical data, rejection, and hesitation to trust His divine plan. For more information, visit www.bornastatistic.com. A graduate of Southern Arkansas University, Yarbrough has a deep-rooted passion for children. She has dedicated nearly twenty years of her life working in several capacities: elementary school teacher, preschool administrator, advisor, coach, and professional development trainer. Her current employer is the University of Arkansas Early Care and Educations Projects (ECEP). As a Training Advisor, she assists in researching and writing professional development curricula, teaches ECEP courses to participants, and coaches early childhood professionals across Arkansas. She is zealously involved in both her local church and the community. Currently, she serves as the President-Elect of the Arkansas Early Childhood Association (AECA) and volunteers as a mentor for young girls. Local youth named “P.J.” the 2018 Mentor of the Year. More recently, in 2019, she was named Community Leader of the Year by another local organization. Life brought P.J. “full circle” as she was formerly the Executive Director and Administrator of Agape House Children’s Home, Inc., a group foster home. Her hobbies include spending time with family, reading, writing, and thrift shopping for vintage clothing. “P.J.” has been married to her husband, Larry D., Sr., Pastor of Changing Lives Ministries, since 2000. They reside in El Dorado with their two sons, Larry D. Jr., “L.J.,” and Lance.

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we turn back to a conversation from 2019. At the ABSC annual meeting, Andrea talked to Jamie Naramore, the International Church Strategist at the Arkansas Baptist State Convention, about the international population in Arkansas. He talks about what's being done to engage them with the Gospel and discusses ways you and I can get involved with furthering that mission right in our own backyards.

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we hear from Sally Hennard. Sally is a part of the Inspire Team and is breaking out of her comfort zone to share something that's been on her heart - our thought life. She uses the illustration of a glass of water throughout and poses the question, Do you see a glass half empty? Or half full? Dive into scripture with Sally as she talks about her personal journey with her thought life and ways you can view your glass. Sally and her husband live in De Queen, Arkansas. She's a high school counselor and has been in education for over 30 years! She has 3 daughters, a "bonus" son, and 5 grandchildren.

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode of Inspire, Lisa Jones shares her story on prayer, and how it became a big part of her life and journey in faith. She walks through scriptures meant to encourage you and your prayer life.

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we hear from one of our friends, Shelly Chandler! Some may know her, but for those who don't, Shelly is an Inspire Coordinator as well as Women's Ministry Director at her local church in Conway, Arkansas. She's also Network Ministry Leader for Central Arkansas. She's married to Michael Chandler and has 3 boys, so you know she knows the hectic lifestyle. Shelly dives into fear and how it's presented to us in the Bible by God. Did you know that the phrase 'fear not' or something similar to that is in the Bible 365 times? It's serious business for God, and Shelly dives into Romans 8:15 and Matthew 8:26 to teach us what that phrase should mean to us and how we can use it to fear God in the way he intended. Shelly's website

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we get to hear from Susan Goss as she talks about relationships. We were created for relationships with others, ourselves, and with God. She dives into scripture and reads from her book, "We're Still In This" to discuss how we can strive to have healthy relationships. Susan is the founder of Tangible Truth Ministries and co-founder of The Joshua Center, an affordable counseling service. She is a professional, licensed counselor and specializes in Family and Marriage counseling.

Inspire Women's Conference is bringing the breakout sessions to the Inspire On The Go Podcast! In this episode, we hear from Abby Turner about growing with God by pursuing intentional relationships with others. We've said it before and we'll say it again, we were made for community with others. We were not made to live this life alone, and Abby dives into that. Abby Turner is a Little Rock native and an Ouachita Baptist University alum! She is passionate about people and food, which inspired her to start her food blog, Table Top Affair. She just released a cookbook called The Living Table that breaks up into moments instead of categories and includes devotions! Follow her on social media: Instagram Facebook