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The prostate, also called the male G-spot, is a walnut-sized gland most straight men never want to talk about, and this episode is exactly that conversation. I get into what it does, how it's tied to ejaculation, and why stimulating it can feel intensely pleasurable for some men, regardless of orientation.You'll hear about the three prostate conditions every guy in midlife should know for his prostate health, BPH, prostatitis, and prostate cancer, the real evidence on prostate massage versus the wellness-industry hype, and how to explore it, through the perineum or internally, without ever needing to go through the anus if you don't want to. There's a study linking ejaculation frequency to prostate cancer risk, and the bigger point underneath it all: men's sexual health after 50 doesn't have to start and end with the penis.Enjoy 15% off The TechRing with code TABOO15 using this link: myfirmtech.com/karenbigmanIn This Episode:0:00 – Why We're Talking About the Prostate0:50 – Disclaimer1:30 – What Exactly Is the Prostate?2:35 – How the Prostate Participates in Ejaculation3:15 – Why It's Called the Male G-Spot4:10 – Why Prostate Stimulation Feels Good (No Orientation Attached)5:15 – What Can Go Wrong: BPH (Enlarged Prostate)6:35 – Prostatitis: Infection vs. Chronic Pelvic Pain7:45 – Prostate Cancer & Why Screening Conversations Matter8:20 – Does Prostate Massage Actually Help the Prostate?9:35 – Do You Have to Go Through the Anus? (No — the Perineum)10:35 – Hygiene, Prep & What to Expect11:35 – Sponsor: FirmTech12:05 – How to Massage the Prostate Internally, Step by Step14:10 – Toys, Safety & What to Avoid15:00 – When You Should NOT Do a Prostate Massage15:35 – Ejaculation Frequency & Prostate Cancer Research16:35 – Expanding Pleasure Beyond the Penis17:35 – Talking to a Partner Who's Not Interested18:15 – Final Thoughts Tools In This Episode Worth ExploringThe MultiOrgasmic Lover – Use code KBIG50 to save $50 off The Multi-Orgasmic Lover course from Master Sex Coach Jim Benson.MysteryVibe Molto - The Molto prostate massager is a medical-grade silicone, genuinely slim, and built around a malleable core you can shape to your anatomy. The high-frequency vibrations are biomedically engineered to increase blood flow to the pelvic region, which means this isn't just a pleasure device-it's a tissue health tool. Use discount code T2T15 for 15% off.Aneros Vibrating Prostate Massager - The Eupho Syn V is Aneros's vibrating update to its iconic slim, highly mobile prostate massager, offering 10 tuned vibration patterns across 4 speeds plus full functionality in unpowered mode for experienced hands-free play. This product has targeted stimulation and the same nimble profile that lets skilled users work it against the prostate for distinct sensations.‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.MORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES!

In this episode, I'm talking with Alex Grendi, a men's intimacy and confidence coach who spent years quietly numbing his own performance anxiety before he understood what was actually driving it. Alex is a former professional soccer player, and he opens up about carrying performance anxiety into the bedroom long before he ever had sex, shaped almost entirely by porn and movies telling him he'd better be good at it or be humiliated for it.We get into why the confidence he built on the field never carried into intimacy, how getting sober forced him to actually look at how he was showing up with women, and how a friend mentioning a book on Taoist sexuality sent him down the path to becoming a sex coach himself. Alex breaks down the mindset shift, not just the technique, that actually resolves performance anxiety, and we talk candidly about the sexual scripts most men are following without realizing it, why heterosexual sex still gets treated as over the moment the man finishes, and the one question, "can I kiss you?", that changes everything in the bedroom and that almost no one asks. I even share a recent dating experience of my own where I could feel a partner running his script in real time.This is part one of a two-part conversation, so stay close for part two next week.‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode:0:00 – You're Not the Only One Staying Silent0:16 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:42 – Meet Alex Grendi, the Men's Intimacy Coach Who Used to Numb It All1:31 – From Pro Soccer to the Bedroom: Alex's Unlikely Path2:30 – Where His Performance Anxiety Actually Came From4:45 – Discovering Taoist Sexuality and What a Sex Coach Actually Is7:52 – Finding the Courage to Book That First Call9:30 – The Real Fix Isn't a Technique, It's a Mindset Shift10:49 – Newsletter11:08 – Why Field Confidence Never Transferred to the Bedroom12:06 – The Sexual Script: Why Men Think They're Supposed to Already Know13:39 – Karen's Own Story: Shutting Down When a Partner Ran His Script14:51 – Why "Can I Kiss You?" Is the Sexiest Question a Man Can Ask17:30 – Teaching Men to Lead by Asking, Not Assuming19:23 – Part Two Is ComingTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Guest:Alex Grendi is a men's intimacy and confidence coach who helps men reconnect with their bodies, expand their capacity for pleasure, and build deeper emotional and physical connection with their partners. His coaching blends ancient practices, practical exercises, and a simple step-by-step process, supported by direct guidance and a community of men on the same journey. Alex's work empowers men to move past shame, rebuild self-trust, and create meaningful, lasting intimacy in their relationships.Connect with Alex Grendi:Website: https://www.alexgrendi.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alex.grendiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Alex.GrendiAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm kicking off season 7 — and marking 200 episodes of Taboo to Truth — with one of the topics that comes up in my practice more than almost anything else: sexless marriages. From the outside, a relationship can look completely fine — you're raising kids, running a household, laughing together — while almost nothing is happening behind the bedroom door, sometimes for months or years.I break down five real reasons marriages and long-term relationships go sexless, and why it's almost never as simple as losing attraction. I start with what happens when one partner shuts the conversation down completely rather than simply saying no to sex in the moment, and how that silence lets both partners write their own, often painful, story about what it means.I get into the mental load that quietly kills desire, in women and in men, and why "why don't you want me?" is usually the wrong question to ask. I talk about what it looks like when someone has lost touch with their own erotic identity so completely they can't answer what turns them on anymore, and why exploration, not pressure, is the way back in. I also get honest about porn, sex toys, and AI companionship: when they expand a sex life versus when they quietly start to replace it, and what I call the "secret garden," the private sexual world a partner can build without the other ever knowing.I close with why the sex talk can never be a one-time conversation, my framework for balanced sexuality — sensation, relationship, and fantasy — and why a sexless relationship is not automatically a loveless or a doomed one.‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode:0:00 – When Sex Just Stops0:38 – Welcome to Season 7: Today's Topic, Sexless Marriages1:20 – What Sexless Looks Like From the Outside1:52 – Consent, Entitlement & Why This Still Matters2:19 – Reason 1: When One Partner Shuts Down the Conversation4:07 – Reason 2: Mental Load, Stress & Hormonal Changes5:39 – Reason 2 Continued: Low Desire in Men6:31 – Reason 3: Losing Touch With Your Own Pleasure7:30 – Exploring Desire Without Pressure + Sponsor: ARIA8:44 – Reason 4: Porn & Sex Toys as a Crutch9:54 – Reason 4 Continued: AI Companionship & Intimacy10:39 – Reason 5: Treating the Sex Talk as a One-Time Conversation11:16 – Why Sexual Communication Has to Be Ongoing12:32 – The Balanced Sexuality Framework13:40 – Sexless Doesn't Mean Loveless: Final Thoughts14:11 – Final thoughtsTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!

In part two of my conversation with men's coach Mike Elliott, we get into how couples actually reconnect and rebuild intimacy after a sexless marriage, low desire, or years of disconnection in midlife. Mike walks me through the nervous system work, attachment science, and couples practice he uses to help men move past shame and disconnection in their relationship.Part two is where Mike gives us the actual practice. If you haven't watched part one yet, start there, since everything here builds on it directly.Mike walks me through his golden rule: move at the pace of connection, not the pace of friction. We get specific about what that looks like between two people, breathing together, gazing at each other before anything else happens, slowing down instead of rushing toward the end goal, and why so many men only find their way into this work once a marriage is already breaking. He talks about the "little boy" still running the show in a lot of grown men, why erectile difficulty is almost never really about the body, and why he believes healing happens in proximity to other men who've already done the work themselves.We also get into why a sexless marriage is never one partner's problem to fix alone, what happens to a relationship once the early hormone rush fades around the 18-month mark, and the "we language" Mike and his partner Courtney built their entire practice around. I close it out with my three rapid-fire questions: his definition of sex, his best orgasm, and the one fantasy he hasn't lived out yet.In This Episode:0:00 – The Six-Figure Life With a Silent Bedroom 0:10 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:36 – Welcome Back to Part Two 1:32 – The Golden Rule: Move at the Pace of Connection, Not Friction 4:25 – Why Sex Is the Most Vulnerable Place We Go 5:10 – Radical Transparency: How Men Actually Start This Work 8:55 – When She Feels His Energy Leaking Somewhere Else 9:43 – It's Never a "You Problem," It's a "We Problem" 11:16 – The Honeymoon Hormones (And Why the Real Work Starts After) 12:16 – Learning "We Work": Moving Toward Instead of Pulling Away 13:49 – Can You Really Stay With One Person for Life? 14:33 – The Sacred We: Building a Language for the Long Haul 17:30 – Sacred Relationship and the Maturity That Creates Real Attraction 18:50 – Mike's Closing Advice: Pace of Connection, Not Pace of Ambition 20:53 – Three Rapid-Fire Questions: Sex, Best Orgasm & Unfulfilled Fantasy 23:07 – Where to Find Mike & Wrap-UpTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!

You've probably heard of penis rings. Maybe you've even tried one!? But there's a another tool almost nobody talks about — the men who've actually explored it say nothing else compares, and yet most guys never even consider it, because of one thing: shame.Whether it's a marriage that's quietly gone sexless, an erection that isn't cooperating the way it used to, or just curiosity about what's actually out there beyond what you already know, midlife brings up a lot of questions men don't feel safe asking anyone — not their partner, not their doctor, not even their friends.Karen Bigman gets it. A certified sex educator at 60, she's got 3 fun categories of sex toys she recommends for men. We get into things like: How does a penis pump actually work in real life with a partner — do you pause mid-makeout to grab it, or does it happen before you even get to the bedroom?And we go somewhere most men never go: the prostate. What's it actually like? Why do the men who've explored it describe it like "watching in high def"? And how do you even start, solo or with a partner?One stat that stuck with me: according to Mayo Clinic, erectile dysfunction can show up 3-5 years before any other symptoms of heart disease appear. Your body may be trying to tell you something before anything else does.If you've ever been curious about exploring more but didn't know where to start — or didn't think it was "allowed" — this one's for you.Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)Mentioned on this episode:Karen's site: TabooToTruth.comPlease Her In Bed (Melanie's streaming course on how to talk about sex): www.pleaseherinbed.comMyHixel — penis rings, and a premature-ejaculation training systemFirmTech — clip-on penis rings, including the Tech Ring (tracks nocturnal erections)O-Nut — stackable comfort/bumper ringsMV Health (formerly Mystery Vibe) — vibrating prostate massagersAneros — prostate massagersMaude (Shine) — lube I recommendMemorable quotes from this episode:"I think the sexiest thing a man can do is ask.""Your penis health is a barometer of your overall health.""It's like watching a show in high def.""The two hardest conversations in relationships are sex and money.""This is a guy that's actually, like, cares. This is a guy that wants to talk to me. He doesn't just want to get in my pants.""'I don't care if I ever have sex again.'""60 is the new 60."

Chronic sexual rejection in a relationship doesn't just cause hurt feelings, it rewires how a person feels about themselves, their body, and their worth.In this episode I break down what's actually happening in the nervous system when a partner is turned down again and again, why rejection activates some of the same brain regions involved in physical pain, and how "not tonight" starts to feel like proof you're not wanted. I get into the real difference between a mutual dry spell and a unilateral shutdown, why low desire is never manipulation, and how weaponizing intimacy is a distinct and more damaging pattern. Then I trace the predictable spiral: pursue, withdraw, keep score, and eventually contempt — which Gottman identifies as the clearest warning sign a relationship is breaking down.I close with what actually helps: small daily check-ins instead of relationship summits, physical affection with genuinely no expectation attached, and letting go of the idea that fixing your sex life means going back to exactly how it used to be.In This Episode:0:00 – The Man Who Kept a Rejection Chart0:14 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:32 – Today's Topic: When Intimacy Quietly Disappears1:19 – Consent, Entitlement & Why This Still Hurts2:09 – The Nervous System's Response to Rejection2:47 – The Pursue-Withdraw Cycle Begins3:48 – What Rejection Really Asks: Am I Wanted?5:09 – Touch, Oxytocin & the Stress Spiral6:04 – Consent vs. Weaponized Intimacy8:04 – Criticism, Contempt & the Four Horsemen9:39 – Sponsor Break: ARIA10:01 – The Other Side: Why the Lower-Desire Partner Shuts Down11:32 – Rebuilding Starts Here: The Daily Check-In13:00 – Rebuilding: Affection With No Expectation14:08 – Redefining Intimacy for Who You Are Now15:39 – When to Get Outside Help, Final Thoughts & OutroTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!

What happens when your partner refuses therapy, refuses to talk, and refuses to change- but divorce isn’t on the table? In Part 2 of our special replay from Taboo to Truth, we’re once again turning the tables on Dr. Jenni and Daniel, as they continue their candid conversation with friend and fellow podcast host, Karen Bigman. We’re incredibly grateful to Karen for generously allowing us to share this two-part conversation with our Sex and the Psyche listeners and give you a chance to hear Jenni and Daniel from the other side of the microphone. This time, the conversation goes even deeper into what can slowly kill desire in long-term relationships- and what couples can realistically do when they feel stuck. Jenni and Daniel talk about how to express your needs when your partner isn't willing to budge, why stagnation- not necessarily incompatibility, can be one of the biggest threats to a couple’s sex life, and how to tell your partner you're bored in bed without completely crushing their confidence. They also unpack the “Madonna-whore complex” and the love-lust split, explore why menopause and postpartum can become significant periods of sexual stagnation, and get refreshingly personal about what it’s like to navigate intimacy when you're both married and sex therapists. And they tackle an important question about relationships and gender roles: Why do so many men defer to women when it comes to being the “relationship expert,” and what happens when both partners take responsibility for understanding and nurturing their connection? It’s honest, vulnerable, sometimes uncomfortable- and exactly the kind of conversation we love having on Sex and the Psyche. A huge thank-you to Karen Bigman and Taboo to Truth for sharing this conversation with us. If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, go back and start there! And be sure to check out Taboo to Truth wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow Karen Bigman: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/taboototruth/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman Website: http://taboototruth.com Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every conversation about a sexless marriage gets pointed at the woman. Low desire, hormones, resentment, the mental load, she's the one who's supposed to explain herself. Nobody asks what happens on the other side of the bed, and today I sat down with men's coach Mike Elliott to find out.Mike works with high-performing men who look successful on paper and feel quietly disconnected underneath. In this conversation we get into why she rejects him and he assumes she doesn't want sex anymore, when the real story is closer to this: she doesn't feel seen, and her body has been scanning for safety the whole time. We talk about the difference between yang sex and yin sex, the exact instruction Mike gives every man he coaches (slow down, three times), and why a man who can't hold his own feelings can't hold hers either.Mike also gets personal. He tells me about the night in Whistler when he lost his erection with his own partner and spiraled into a shame he'd been avoiding his whole adult life, and what happened when she refused to let him run from it. If you have ever gone quiet in your own marriage, present in the house and absent in the relationship, this conversation names exactly what's happening in his body and gives you language for it. Part two is coming, so stay close.Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode:0:00 – He's Not Pursuing Her, He's Pressuring Her0:10 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:37 – Today's Topic: The Sexless Marriage Conversation From His Side1:35 – Why This Exact Fight Keeps Happening4:32 – What's Really Happening When She Rejects Him6:52 – Yang Sex vs. Yin Sex: Why Men Default to Friction9:53 – The Pushback: Masculine Enough vs. Emotionally Available13:15 – It's Not a Libido Problem, It's a Polarity Problem13:47 – Why Men Want the Quick Fix: Give Me the Pill14:49 – Mike's Story: Chasing "More" Instead of Feeling More16:53 – The Whistler Story: Losing His Erection Mid-Intimacy19:08 – The Shame Spiral and the Moment He Stopped Running20:51 – Holding the Shame: How His Body Finally Let Go22:23 – Wrap-Up: Part Two Is ComingTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Guest:Mike Elliott is a Relational Leadership Mentor and Men's Initiation Guide, working with men who want to have it all. He guides them to lead with Relational Authority™—anchored in initiation, integration, and inspiration. Having been adopted twice and walked through the dark night of divorce, he rebuilt his life from the inside out. Now co-host of "The Sacred We," he helps men transform their relationships—starting with themselves—and create legacies of love, presence, and purpose.Connect with Mike Elliott:Website: www.itsmikeelliott.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/mikeelliott.relating/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/itsmikeelliottYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcastThe Sacred We Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7EqHPtL9DovzPtazag8QO1?siAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

Step into a candid, juicy, and deeply liberating conversation with Karen Bigman, midlife sex and relationship expert, certified sex educator, and menopause coach, on this episode of Intimate Conversations: Dark Night to Divine Light. Karen is the host of Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50, a shame free space for honest conversations about sex, desire, dating, relationships, menopause, and intimacy after 50. Karen shares the unexpected journey that brought her into this work, beginning with a book club moment when a grown woman could not say the word "blowjob." Combined with reconnecting with an old flame, discovering the realities of menopause, and a life changing visit to a sexual medicine practice, that moment sparked a calling she never saw coming. We explore the changes that happen in midlife bodies and relationships, including menopause, perimenopause, hormone therapy, and shifting libido for both women and men. Karen offers a shame free approach centered on communication, body awareness, pleasure over performance, and emotional connection, reminding us that great sex is a full body, full heart experience. The conversation also dives into foreplay as an all day practice, what Karen calls "sex snacks," and the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. Allana vulnerably shares her own experience of introducing her Yoni to a partner for the first time, opening a deeper conversation about asking to be honored rather than waiting for someone else to know what we need. We also talk about: ● Why your sex span should equal your lifespan ● How men can better support partners through menopause ● Spontaneous versus responsive desire ● Why women have affairs to leave and men have affairs to stay ● Sex snacks and keeping intimacy alive outside the bedroom ● Porn, the death grip, and difficulty reaching orgasm ● Religious shame, guilt, and learning to let go in the body ● Introducing your Yoni to a partner as an act of sacred honoring ● Tantric sex, connection, timing, and trust ● Alternative relationship structures and honest communication ● Why judgment is the enemy of pleasure and curiosity is the cure ● How suppressed sexuality can come out sideways ● Raising sexually healthy children who become open adults This episode is a reminder that pleasure is not a luxury. It is a birthright. Our bodies, at every age and stage, are worthy of attention, tenderness, curiosity, and delight. Karen makes it easier to laugh, exhale, ask the questions we were never taught to ask, and reclaim a vibrant intimate life at any age. ABOUT KAREN BIGMAN Karen Bigman is a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sexuality Educator, menopause coach, intimacy and relationship coach, and host of Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50. After navigating her own midlife transition, divorce, dating, and changing desire, she became passionate about helping people understand the physical, emotional, and hormonal shifts that can affect intimacy after 50. Karen's mission is simple: to help people have great sex for the rest of their lives. Her work combines education, humor, lived experience, and shame free conversations to help people communicate better, understand their changing bodies, and create more connected relationships. CONNECT WITH KAREN Website: www.taboototruth.com Instagram: @taboototruth YouTube: @taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman Free Resources: www.taboototruth.com/free-resources

Dating after divorce isn't a downgrade. It's the first time you get to pick a partner with your eyes wide open, and that's exactly what I'm digging into this episode.I walk through what's genuinely different about dating in midlife: the full history you're carrying, the fact that your intentions have shifted from figuring yourself out to actually knowing what you want, and why a smaller dating pool raises the stakes on every single date. I get into my biggest pet peeve, texting standing in for real conversation, the physical changes that change how intimacy actually works, and why the terrain feels rougher this time, from rebuilding a social circle from scratch to navigating kids, exes, and logistics that never existed the first time around.I also get into the part nobody prepares you for: dating later in life comes with real advantages. No ticking clock. No pressure. The ability to filter for character instead of potential, because you've watched enough people over enough decades to spot the patterns early. And a bonus round of tips for anyone braving the apps, including the photos that help you and the ones that hurt you.If you're dating after divorce right now, approach it with excitement instead of fear. Yes, there are moments that suck. There are also more moments of meeting new people, learning new things, and trying activities you never would have imagined earlier in life.Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode:0:00 – Dating After Divorce Isn't a Downgrade0:09 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:24 – Today's Topic: What's Really Different About Dating After Divorce0:57 – Full History, New Intentions & a Smaller Pool1:59 – More Baggage, Texting & Physical Changes2:47 – Why the Terrain Feels Rougher (Rebuilding, Grief & Logistics)3:43 – Newsletter Break4:00 – Rejection Hits Different — Then the Real Advantages4:34 – Filtering for Character, Better Sex & Choosing Connection5:11 – Bonus: Online Dating & Profile Tips6:38 – Approach It With ExcitementTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

What happens when one partner wants sex and the other doesn’t? Mismatched desire- or desire discrepancy is one of the most common issues Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz see among couples, and it’s a topic they’re asked about again and again. For this special episode of Sex and the Psyche, we’re turning the tables and putting Jenni and Daniel in the hot seat! Our friend Karen Bigman, host of Taboo to Truth, generously invited Jenni and Daniel onto her podcast for a candid conversation about desire discrepancy, intimacy, shame, and the challenges couples face when their libidos don't match. We’re so grateful to Karen for allowing us to replay this conversation here on Sex and the Psyche, giving our listeners a chance to hear Jenni and Daniel as guests and get a behind-the-scenes look at how they answer the questions they’re usually the ones asking. In this first part of the two-part conversation, Jenni and Daniel explore why desire discrepancy happens, what it can look like in long-term relationships, and why the partner with lower desire is never simply “the problem.” They also talk about why some men shut down or go silent when they’re struggling sexually, how shame can take over in the bedroom, and how the right words can open the door to a much more honest and compassionate conversation between partners. A huge thank-you to Karen Bigman and Taboo to Truth for sharing this conversation with our Sex and the Psyche audience. Be sure to listen to Part 2 for more of Jenni and Daniel in the hot seat! And while you're at it, check out Taboo to Truth wherever you listen to podcasts. You may discover your next favorite show! Follow Karen Bigman Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/taboototruth/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman Website: http://taboototruth.com Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part two picks up right where we left off, and this time I get into the parts of ethical non-monogamy most people never actually see. Ali walks me through the sex-positive spaces she has spent years exploring: a private sex club in Montreal, an underground play party in Mexico, and a temple space in Europe that she calls her best experience yet.We get into what actually happens inside these spaces: the consent rules, the safety measures, what it costs, and what it feels like to say no over and over again as a single woman in the room. Ali also answers my three rapid-fire questions, including her definition of sex, her best orgasm, and a fantasy she has never acted on.This conversation is not about convincing anyone to try any of this. It is about showing you what these spaces actually look like once you strip away the assumptions, so you can decide for yourself what curiosity means to you.In This Episode:0:00 – Recap: Picking Up Where We Left Off0:38 – Karen's Curiosity About Sex Parties2:06 – Inside a Sex Club: Rules and Layout5:33 – Consent Mechanics in the Orgy Room6:15 – Ali and Her Partner's Night at the Club8:54 – Her First Private Play Party in Mexico12:21 – How Consent Gets Set at a Play Party13:52 – The Temple Space: Her Best Experience Yet17:03 – The Desire-Sharing Circle18:09 – Is It All BDSM? And What It Costs20:55 – Safety and Security at These Events22:29 – Her Advice Before You Go24:26 – Advice for Men: Handling Rejection25:13 – You Don't Have to Do Anything26:19 – Three Rapid-Fire Questions29:06 – Where to Find Ali & Final ThoughtsAbout The Guest:Ali is a content creator, sex education student, and host of a YouTube channel exploring sex, relationships, pleasure, intimacy, and alternative lifestyles. Through candid conversations, travel experiences, and educational content, she helps normalize discussions around sexuality while encouraging curiosity, critical thinking, and self-discovery. Her work focuses on reducing shame, challenging assumptions, and creating space for nuanced conversations about pleasure, relationships, and the many ways people choose to live and love.Connect with Ali Imperiale:Website: https://aliimperiale.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliimperialeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@aliimperialeAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

Everyone pictures the same scene when they think about mismatched desire: he's reaching, she's pulling away. I want you to picture the opposite couple today, the ones where she's the one lying in bed hoping and he's the one already half asleep.That reversal comes with a specific kind of shame nobody names out loud. She starts wondering if she's too much. He starts wondering if something is wrong with his masculinity. Neither one chose that script, and neither one did anything wrong by living inside it.I'm walking through why the old idea that men are simply wired to want more sex doesn't hold up under real research, what's actually driving a lower desire partner's pullback in midlife (stress, exhaustion, hormones, and a wiring difference most couples never learn), and the real reason this dynamic quietly wrecks relationships. Spoiler: it's never the gap itself. It's the silence around it.If you've been in this exact bed, at this exact hour, wondering what's wrong with you or with your partner, this episode gives you the plain, unfiltered picture, and a real way to talk about it.In This Episode:0:00 – The Assumption We Never Question0:09 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:29 – Picture This: Who's Really Reaching in Bed?1:20 – Mismatched Desire Is Normal, Not a Red Flag1:51 – The Untold Twist: When She Wants It More2:13 – Debunking the "Men Just Want More" Myth4:12 – The Shame Loop: Her Side and His Side6:03 – What's Really Driving the Gap6:34 – Silence Is the Real Relationship Killer7:05 – The Reframe: What Do You Actually Need?7:45 – Closing Thoughts, CTA & Sign-OffTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

Open relationships get a bad reputation. People hear "ethical non-monogamy" and assume it's a free pass to cheat, or a fantasy dressed up with a fancier name. I sat down with Ali Imperiale, who documents her open relationship and sex-positive travels for her audience, and she walked me through what actually happens when two people agree to rewrite the rules together.We get into the real version of ethical non-monogamy: the renegotiating, the boundary that got crossed, the sex therapist she called in, and the moment she developed feelings for someone outside her primary relationship and had to figure out what that meant. Ali is candid about the difference between a fantasy threesome and an actual one, including her first experience and the surprise threesome she planned for her partner's birthday..This conversation strips the shame off every part of it: the labels, the logistics, the awkward moments. If you have ever been curious about non-monogamy, polyamory, or what a threesome actually looks like, this episode gives you the plain, unfiltered picture. Part two is coming, so stay close.NOTE: Due to technical difficulties during recording, the audio and video quality in this episode may vary from our usual standard. We appreciate your understanding and hope you enjoy the conversation nonetheless.In This Episode:0:00 – Open Relationships Aren't a Free Pass to Cheat0:30 – Meet Ali Imperiale: Sex-Positive Storyteller1:11 – Talking About Sex Without Being Explicit5:04 – From Monogamous to Ethically Non-Monogamous: Ali's Story7:22 – Meeting Gab and Opening Up Together10:15 – Values Over Rules: Renegotiating as a Couple13:19 – Lessons Learned: Communication and Sex Therapy17:36 – When Feelings Get Complicated19:44 – Polyamory, Labels, and Loving More Than One Person22:44 – The Nitty Gritty: Her First Threesome, a Viral Hawaii Story28:58 – Gab's First Threesome: A COVID Birthday Surprise30:35 – Setting Boundaries and Performance Anxiety34:11 – Why Aftercare Matters36:43 – Wrap-Up: Part Two Is ComingTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Guest:Ali is a content creator, sex education student, and host of a YouTube channel exploring sex, relationships, pleasure, intimacy, and alternative lifestyles. Through candid conversations, travel experiences, and educational content, she helps normalize discussions around sexuality while encouraging curiosity, critical thinking, and self-discovery. Her work focuses on reducing shame, challenging assumptions, and creating space for nuanced conversations about pleasure, relationships, and the many ways people choose to live and love.Connect with Ali Imperiale:Website: https://aliimperiale.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliimperialeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@aliimperialeAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

If you're exhausted, your gut is expanding, your motivation is gone, and your sex drive has quietly disappeared, someone has probably told you it's male menopause. In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I explain why the term Male Menopause isn't medically accurate, how men's hormonal aging differs from women's, what low testosterone actually feels like versus what just looks like it, and when a symptom deserves a doctor instead of a supplement. I get into the research on testosterone replacement therapy, the difference between libido and erectile function, the tools I recommend for supporting sexual function, and what happens in a relationship when desire changes and nobody talks about it. Your sexuality isn't controlled by one number on a blood test, and getting older doesn't mean the end of desire, pleasure, or satisfying sex.In This Episode:00:00 Intro00:13 Welcome to Taboo to Truth00:35 What We're Covering Today01:41 Does Male Menopause Actually Exist?03:22 Male vs. Female Hormonal Aging04:30 What Low Testosterone Actually Feels Like05:42 Other Causes That Mimic "Male Menopause"06:46 Testosterone, Desire & the 2017 Trials08:24 Libido vs. Erections: Two Different Systems09:51 Tools That Support Sexual Function11:27 How This Affects Your Relationship12:37 When to See a Doctor13:44 How Low T Is Actually Diagnosed15:06 TRT: Benefits & Risks16:49 What Else You Can Do18:17 So... Does Male Menopause Exist?19:05 Final Thoughts & Where to Learn MoreTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!Products mentioned: FirmTech Tech Ring – tracks nocturnal/spontaneous erections overnight to give you data on erectile function (not a diagnostic tool, but useful info to bring to a doctor). https://myfirmtech.com/Dr. Joel Kaplan's Pump – a vacuum erection device (penis pump), affiliate link mentioned. https://drjoelkaplan.com/affiliate/affiliates/Bathmate's Pump – a water-based penis pump, affiliate link mentioned. Use code TABOO15 for 15% off at https://bathmatedirect.com/MysteryVibe Tenuto 2 – a wearable vibrator that provides stimulation for both partners during sex, especially helpful when erections need more direct stimulation. Use code TABOO10 for 10% off at https://tidd.ly/4mePTpFUberlube – a lubricant recommended for comfort during sex. https://uberlube.com/

In part two of my conversation with Susan Bratton and Karl Eberhardt, we go even deeper into what actually holds a non-monogamous relationship together. We talk about why communication can make or break an open relationship, what Karl learned about himself after six years of practicing polyamory, and the concept they call "Team Sweetie" — showing up for each other through illness, grief, and everything in between. Susan shares her free "Alchemy of Intimacy" guide for couples considering this kind of relationship, and we get into the practical side of staying safe: their fluid-bonded screening process, the STI most people have never heard of, and why standard insurance testing doesn't catch everything. We close with what it really means to love your partners through their mistakes.In This Episode:0:00 – Welcome Back: Picking Up Where We Left Off0:24 – Intro: Redefining Life & Sex After 500:46 – Why Good Communication Makes (or Breaks) an Open Relationship3:35 – Six Years In: What Polyamory Taught Karl About Himself4:59 – "Team Sweetie": Showing Up for Each Other Through Crisis7:15 – Susan's Advice: The Alchemy of Intimacy & 10 Rules for Success8:45 – Karl's Advice: Build the Framework Before You Open Up10:23 – The Screening Document: Where New Partners Start11:07 – Inside the STI Testing Protocol: Mycoplasma, Incubation Periods & Protex Health14:00 – Nobody's Perfect: Loving Your Partners Through Mistakes15:08 – The Testing Gap: Why Insurance Won't Screen for Herpes17:09 – Final TakeawaysTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!Testing before getting physical is non-negotiable for me — ProDx Health makes it easy. First PASS-certified at-home STI kit, herpes testing included. 15% off: http://prodxhealth.com/discount/taboo

I'm tackling one of the most avoided conversations in long-term relationships: how to actually bring up sex with your partner. In this episode, I break down why this conversation feels so impossible — the shame, the missing communication skills, the fear of rejection — and I hand you exact scripts to use instead of the accusatory lines that shut your partner down before you even start. I walk through how to open "the conversation about the conversation," deeper questions to ask once you're talking, and what to do if you get shut down. Couples with better sex lives have better, longer-lasting relationships, and this episode gives you the words to get there.The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In This Episode:0:00 – The Words to Use0:14 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:40 – The Slow Fade: When You Stop Noticing Each Other1:15 – Reframing It: This Isn't Really About Sex1:45 – Why the Conversation Is So Hard2:20 – The Lines That Put Your Partner on the Defensive2:55 – Language Shifts: What to Say Instead3:45 – The 3 Rules: Curiosity, "I" Statements, Tone4:15 – Subscribe + Grab the Pleasure Playbook4:35 – Starting "The Conversation About the Conversation"5:30 – Going Deeper: Questions to Reconnect6:05 – If You Get Shut Down (And When to Get Help)6:25 – Final Thought: Better Sex, Better RelationshipsTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

Non-monogamy is one of the topics I get asked about more than almost anything else, so in this episode I sit down with Susan Bratton and Karl Eberhardt to dig into what open relationships, polyamory, and relationship anarchy actually look like day to day — not the theory, the lived experience. We talk about how to know you're ready to open a relationship, the STI screening protocol that makes it work, how jealousy and compersion actually show up, and the moment a 35-year marriage nearly ended over what gets called "husband thievery." We also get into how an adult daughter found out her parents were non-monogamous in one short conversation, and how a "summer boy toy" earned a promotion to full-time boyfriend. Whether you're curious, skeptical, or already living this life, this conversation is going to challenge some assumptions.Mentioned in this episode: Testing before getting physical is non-negotiable for me — ProDx Health makes it easy. First PASS-certified at-home STI kit, herpes testing included. 15% off: http://prodxhealth.com/discount/tabooIn This Episode:0:00 – Redefining Relationships in Midlife0:28 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:52 – Meet Susan Bratton & Karl Eberhardt2:25 – Defining Non-Monogamy vs. Cheating: The Relationship Tree7:29 – How Susan Knew She Was Ready to Open Her Marriage8:25 – How Karl and Susan Met (The Pool Story)12:02 – Why Karl Is "Well-Suited" for Polyamory14:34 – The Non-Negotiable: STI Testing & Screening In15:39 – "Polyamory Means Love Many": Susan's Two Love Relationships17:27 – Karl's San Diego Girlfriend & Traveling as a Throuple19:59 – What Is a "Bambi"? A Different Kind of Intimacy21:26 – Susan's Young Lover & the Jealousy That Followed23:57 – Karl's Turn: Facing Jealousy Over an Old Flame26:29 – Compersion, Husband Thievery & Almost Losing Tim29:44 – Telling Their Daughter Taylor31:11 – From "Summer Boy Toy" to Full-Time Boyfriend34:05 – OutroTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Guest:Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy.She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including S*xual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She's the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO, You Are Not Broken, S*x with Emily, The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey, Good Moms Bad Choices, Heal Thyself, IDIOT with Laura Clery, The Infamous “Clit Camp” Music Video, LuvBites with Dr. Tara, and The Chalene Show.Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their s*xual joy.Her message resonates across gender and age because it's rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection.Connect with Susan Bratton:Website: https://susanbratton.comMentioned in this episode: https://tenintimacy.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbrattonKarl Eberhardt is a nationally recognized New Car Owner Trainer on correct care of modern car paint finishes. Karl has a life long passion for design and is the brewer of beer//Cicerone CBS, and custom jewelry. He has built surfboards for 25+ years.Connect with Karl Ebhardt:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karleberhardt_/About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

The reason your marriage is sexless has nothing to do with sex. If you think a lack of intimacy in your relationship is a sex problem, I need you to hear this — it's almost never about the bedroom.In this episode, I break down emotional availability: what it really means, why so many good, hardworking, faithful men struggle with it, and how childhood shapes the way we handle conflict as adults. I explain the biology behind emotional shutdown, walk through attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant — and show why emotional safety is the real path to physical intimacy for most women. Then I give you five practical shifts to become more emotionally reachable, plus real scripts you can use tonight.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding the blueprint you were handed — so you can build something better.Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men: https://taboototruth.wixforms.com/f/7424226439106397420In This Episode:0:00 - Cold Open: "It's Almost Never About the Bedroom"0:20 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth1:05 - The Emotionally Unavailable Man: What Today's Episode Covers2:15 - "He's a Great Guy, But I Can't Get Close to Him"3:45 - What Emotional Availability Actually Means5:30 - Real Examples: What He Says vs. What She Hears7:15 - How Boys Are Taught to Suppress Emotion9:15 - The Biology of Shutdown: Flooding, Adrenaline & the Amygdala11:00 - What Are You Really Protecting?12:00 - Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant & Fearful-Avoidant15:30 - Your Brain Can Change: Neuroplasticity Explained16:45 - Why Sexless Marriages Are Rarely About Sex19:00 - The 5 Shifts to Become Emotionally Available21:15 - Real Scripts: What to Say Instead22:10 - The Client Story: "I Thought I Had a Sex Problem"22:35 - Final Thoughts & Coaching WaitlistWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion.LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

Most men would rather suffer in silence than admit they have a problem in the bedroom —Let's change that. On this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sat down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, to talk about one of the most common yet least discussed issues in men's sexual health: premature ejaculation. We get into the real clinical definition of PE, why the "arousal gap" between men and women makes this a near-universal issue, and why anxiety — not selfishness — is usually driving the problem. Jeff breaks down the physiological and psychological causes of PE, why shame keeps so many men from seeking help, and why over 4,000 doctors recommend Promescent's Delay Spray. We also cover how the product actually works, how to use it correctly, dosing and titration, safety data from 3 million bottles sold, and how it compares to Viagra. Jeff gets personal too, sharing his own story of turning 69, how porn distorts expectations for young men, and the reality of the refractory period as we age. We close out talking about female pleasure, non-ejaculatory orgasms, and why using every tool available in the bedroom is nothing to be ashamed of. This is a candid, funny, and genuinely useful conversation for any man — or any partner of a man — who wants better sex and less anxiety about it.Use this link for 15% off Delay Spray: https://promescent.sjv.io/QY44bYIn This Episode:00:00 — The Silent Struggle Millions of Men Face 00:33 — Podcast Intro & Meet Your Host 01:05 — Welcome Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent 02:10 — What Really Counts as Premature Ejaculation 04:15 — The Arousal Gap & Why Anxiety Kills Intimacy 06:45 — Physical vs. Psychological Causes of PE 09:00 — Breaking the Stigma Around Men's Sexual Health 11:00 — Kegels, Combo Therapy & Why Urologists Trust Promescent 14:00 — The Old (Bad) Solutions: SSRIs and Numbing Creams 16:30 — Treating PE Step by Step & Weaning Off 19:30 — How Jeff Discovered Promescent (Origin Story) 22:30 — The Eutectic Formula That Changes Everything 25:00 — How to Use the Delay Spray: Application & Timing 27:30 — Dosing, Titration & Finding Your Sweet Spot 29:30 — Is It Safe? 3 Million Bottles, Zero Red Flags 31:00 — Promescent vs. Viagra & Doctors' Favorite Combo 33:30 — Does Age or Ethnicity Affect PE Rates? 35:15 — The PE-ED Connection & the Fragile Male Ego 37:00 — Jeff's Personal Story: Aging, Porn & Regret 38:30 — Where to Find Promescent, Discount CodeTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About the Guest:Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness brand focused on making intimacy solutions more accessible and effective. After discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert, Jeff invested in the product and became the majority owner, launching the company's flagship Delay Spray.Connect with Jeff Abraham:Website: https://www.promescent.comInstagram: https://www.facebook.com/Promescent/Delay Spray: https://promescent.sjv.io/QY44bYAbout the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comWant more Taboo To Truth? Join the community HERELINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

Karen Bigman's path to becoming a menopause sex educator is one of the most unexpectedly compelling origin stories we've heard on this podcast. She started in technology. She raised children. She worked in restaurants. And then, in her early 50s, newly separated after a 25-year marriage and struggling to orgasm with a new partner, she found her way to a sexual medicine practice run by Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, where a nurse practitioner handed her a little blue bullet vibrator, suggested she try it in the next room, and Karen came back five minutes later saying "you just changed my life". That moment is the seed of everything Karen has built since. Her platform, Taboo to Truth, is dedicated to dismantling the two most pervasive myths she encounters in her work: that sex is something people stop having at a certain age, and that it's a topic too taboo to discuss openly. Her course, Men Meet Menopause, is built on the radical premise that male partners, often the most confused and the most shut out from the conversation, deserve their own education, their own language, and their own practical tools for showing up during one of the most significant transitions their partner will experience. In this episode, Karen joins Jenni and Daniel for a conversation that covers a remarkable amount of ground with warmth, humor, and genuine clinical depth. They dig into why menopause remains under-discussed even in 2026, the lingering shadow of the Women's Health Initiative, the male reluctance to name what they're observing, the shame women carry about bodies that are changing in ways they didn't expect. Daniel introduces the compassion sandwich, leading with care rather than observation, as the reframe that changes how every difficult conversation lands. Karen talks about the five pillars underlying sexual disconnection in midlife couples, and what it looks like when one of them wobbles. Jenni brings in the Cheesecake of Pleasure- her clinical framework for expanding a couple's repertoire beyond intercourse as the only available flavor, and the conversation around grief, creativity, and what it means to look forward to something bigger than what you're losing becomes one of the richest exchanges of the season. Karen's concept of sex snacks sits beautifully alongside it. Both frameworks point to the same clinical truth: when intercourse is temporarily or permanently off the table, the answer is not resignation. It's creativity. It's building a palette of pleasure that belongs to this season rather than mourning the one that's passed. Karen closes with the line that may be the most important thing in the episode: don't give up. Don't accept the myth that this is done. Don't believe that sex is only for young people or for other people or for the version of your relationship that existed before all of this. The research shows that women over 60 can have the best sex of their lives if they want. The invitation: for women navigating menopause and for the partners who love them, is to join the journey together and find out what's on the other side.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In part two of my conversation with Stacey Roberts, PT, RN, MSN, we go even deeper into the world of shockwave therapy for pelvic pain and sexual health. Stacey and I talk about whether shockwave can help with genitourinary syndrome of menopause, how it compares to the MonaLisa Touch, and why some patients need ongoing treatments while others don't. We get into the most controversial pelvic floor topic there is — Kegels — and why prescribing more of them can actually make things worse for people who are too tight, not too weak. Stacey shares real patient stories, including a vaginismus case tied to a traumatic IUD removal, and we spend real time on the mind-body connection: how breathing, the nervous system, and central sensitization shape chronic pain, and how I worked through my own identity as someone "in pain" after years of back issues. We close with where to find Stacey's podcast, book, and how to track down a qualified softwave provider near you.In This Episode:00:00 Welcome Back + Part One Recap00:35 Podcast Intro: Meet Your Host Karen Bigman01:05 Shockwave for Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause02:45 Shockwave vs. the MonaLisa Touch: What's the Difference04:45 Do You Need Repeat Treatments? It Depends on the Trigger07:30 ED, Lifestyle Factors & Dr. Irwin Goldstein08:45 Let's Talk About Kegels (Why They're Not Always the Answer)11:30 Upregulation, Incontinence & the M-Cella Controversy13:00 Where We Hold Tension: Shoulders, Pelvis & Protective Bracing14:15 Trauma Doesn't Always Mean What You Think: The Vaginismus Case15:45 The Mind-Body Connection: Breathing, the Nervous System & Central Sensitization18:15 Karen's Own Chronic Pain Story: Identity, Fear & Recovery19:45 Pain Doesn't Have to Be a Life Sentence: Final Advice20:45 Finding the Right Surgeon (and Provider)21:15 Where to Find Stacey: Podcast, Book & Softwave ProvidersWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

Testing before getting physical is non-negotiable for me — ProDx Health makes it easy. First PASS-certified at-home STI kit, herpes testing included. 15% off: http://prodxhealth.com/discount/tabooIn this episode of Taboo To Truth, I tackle the question I hear from men over 50 more than any other: what do women actually want? Instead of another list of app hacks and texting rules, I go underneath the practical questions to the emotional ones that actually determine whether you build a real relationship or just rack up more first dates. I break down why men are re-entering dating with an outdated playbook, what women over 50 consistently tell me they're looking for, and I give eight concrete tips — from healing before you date to knowing the difference between chemistry and compatibility. I close with the reframe that matters most: dating after 50 isn't about finding the right person, it's about becoming the kind of partner who can build the relationship you actually want.In This Episode:0:00 ProDX Health (STI Testing)1:45 What Women Over 50 Actually Want2:19 The Real Questions Men Are Asking3:15 You're Not Picking Up Where You Left Off4:02 Why Neither Side Is Being Honest4:45 What Women Over 50 Really Say They Want4:58 Tip #1: Heal Before You Date5:32 Tip #2: Build a Life You Genuinely Enjoy6:18 Tip #3: Fix Your Finances First6:52 Tip #4: Get Curious, Ask Better Questions7:27 Tip #5: Be Authentic From Day One8:13 Tip #6: Put Real Effort Into Your Profile8:44 Tip #7: Stop Looking for "The One"9:12 Tip #8: Chemistry vs. Compatibility9:46 The Real Question You Should Be Asking10:30 Final Thoughts & Share This EpisodeWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with Stacey Roberts, PT, RN, MSN — a physical therapist and holistic nurse with over 30 years of experience in pelvic health, and one of the country's leading experts in shockwave therapy for pelvic pain and sexual dysfunction. Stacey breaks down why up to 30% of women may experience vulvodynia (and why that number is likely underreported), how chronic low back pain can actually be rooted in a tight, "upregulated" pelvic floor, and why men are even less likely than women to get evaluated for pelvic floor issues. We dig into the emotional and physical toll of being told "it's all in your head," the fascia's role in referred pain, and how shockwave — a completely external, non-invasive technology originally developed to break up kidney stones — is now accelerating healing for incontinence, painful intercourse, erectile dysfunction, and vaginismus. Stacey also shares an eyebrow-raising pilot finding on shockwave and testosterone. This is part one of a two-part conversation — part two is coming soon.In this episode: 00:00 Shockwave Therapy?!00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:15 Meet Stacey Roberts: 30+ Years in Pelvic & Sexual Health01:45 How Common Is Pelvic Pain & Sexual Dysfunction, Really?03:00 Low Back Pain: Foam Roller Fix or Something Deeper?06:00 Men vs. Women: Why Pelvic Pain Shows Up Differently09:00 Surgery, "It's All in Your Head," and the Repressed Emotion Connection12:30 Pelvic Floor & Sexual Dysfunction: Shoutout to Dr. Lance Frank14:15 The Pudendal Nerve: How Internal Treatment Improves External Sensation16:30 Non-Surgical Treatment Options: Pelvic Floor Therapy, Fascia & Botox19:00 From Kidney Stones to Muscles: The History of Shockwave Therapy20:30 What Shockwave Actually Feels Like (and the Vaginismus Case Study)22:15 Shockwave, Testosterone & Treating Testicular Health23:45 Wrap-Up: Part Two Is Coming — Subscribe & FollowWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In Part 2 of my conversation with Sabrina Johnson, founder, president, and CEO of Daré Bioscience (NASDAQ: DARE), we get into everything we didn't have time for in Part 1 — starting with the practical questions every woman actually wants answered about Dare to Play.We talk about how to use the sildenafil cream (where to apply it, what it feels like, and yes — what it tastes like if oral sex is on the table).Then we go wide. Sabrina walks me through the full Daré pipeline: Dare to Reclaim, a once-a-month vaginal ring delivering both progesterone and estradiol together (coming next year as a compounded prescription); a non-hormonal tamoxifen vaginal insert in development for breast cancer survivors who can't take estrogen; and Dare to Restore FloraSync LF5, a clinically studied vaginal probiotic launching this quarter.We also get into one of the most important consumer conversations I've had on this show: the truth about compounding. Compounded doesn't mean better — and Sabrina breaks down exactly what to ask when your doctor prescribes something, including whether the actual formula (not just the ingredient) has been clinically studied and published.And she closes with something I wasn't expecting — an invitation for anyone to invest in Daré Bioscience for as little as $250. Because if only 1% of healthcare dollars go to women's health, maybe it's time women funded it themselves.In This Episode:0:00 – Welcome Back & Part 1 Recap1:00 – How to Use Dare to Play: Where, How & What It Tastes Like4:00 – How Long Do the Effects Last?6:00 – Why Sabrina Founded Daré Bioscience9:30 – Dare to Reclaim: Once-a-Month Vaginal Ring for Menopause13:30 – A Non-Hormonal Solution for Breast Cancer Survivors16:00 – The Truth About Compounded Medications20:30 – How to Spot Junk Science & Ask Better Questions22:30 – Dare to Restore: Clinically Studied Vaginal Probiotic25:00 – Invest in Women's Health: Daré's Public Offering26:40 – Wrap UpAbout The Guest:Sabrina Martucci Johnson is a seasoned life sciences executive and passionate advocate for women's health innovation. As Founder, President,and Chief Executive Officer of Daré Bioscience, Inc. (NASDAQ: DARE), she leads a purpose-driven biopharmaceutical company dedicated to developing and commercializing novel, differentiated products for women. Under her leadership, Daré advances a diverse pipeline spanning contraception, fertility,menopause, sexual health, and vaginal health, with the goal of accelerating access to important therapies. Her leadership has been honored by Ernst &Young Entrepreneur of the Year (Pacific Southwest Region), Fierce Pharma'sMost Influential People in Biopharma, and inclusion on the Medicine MakerPower List and Endpoints Women in Biopharma. Driven by the belief that women deserve better options, Ms. Johnson champions innovation to transform how women worldwide experience their health and well-being.Connect with Sabrina Johnson:Website: https://darebioscience.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/darebioscienceDARE to PLAY™ Sildenafil Cream: https://daretoplaybio.comInvest: https://darebioscience.com/fundingAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

Guys, check out b-Vibe's 360 Plug — the male equivalent of the rabbit. It's a remote-controlled vibrator with 360° rotation, a smooth silicone body, and simultaneous prostate and perianal pleasure. Grab yours at bvibe.com and use code TABOO25 for 25% off!Erectile dysfunction affects tens of millions of men in the U.S., yet stays wrapped in silence and shame. In this episode, I bust the biggest ED myth — that it's a permanent, unfixable part of aging — and walk through the full range of treatment options available today. I cover penile implants, vacuum erection devices, testosterone replacement therapy, and FDA-approved medications like Viagra and Cialis, then move into natural approaches: therapy, lifestyle changes, key nutrients, and sex toys that keep intimacy alive during treatment. I close with a look at emerging treatments on the horizon — shockwave therapy, stem cells, PRP, and gene therapy — and a clear call to action: talk to your doctor, because ED is treatable and no one has to navigate it alone.In This Episode:00:00 — bvibe 360 Plug (code TABOO25)00:50 — Podcast Intro / Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:10 — Welcome Back + ED Stats01:55 — What This Episode Will Cover02:15 — Myth-Busting: ED Is NOT a Permanent Part of Aging03:00 — Treatment #1: Penile Implants04:05 — Treatment #2: Vacuum Erection Devices (Pumps)05:00 — Treatment #3: Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT)05:50 — Treatment #4: FDA-Approved Medications (Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, Stendra)06:35 — Natural Approaches: Counseling & Sex Therapy07:35 — Lifestyle Changes & Key Nutrients (Citrulline, Vitamin D/E, Zinc)08:20 — Sex Toys: Staying Intimate During Treatment09:10 — The Future of ED Treatment (Shockwave, Stem Cells, PRP, Gene Therapy)10:05 — Fastest Way to Fix ED + Key Takeaway11:00 — Outro: Subscribe + Hotter, Wiser, Wilder CourseWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with Sabrina Johnson — founder, president, and CEO of Daré Bioscience — to tackle a question that's been 27 years overdue: where is the female equivalent of Viagra?Sabrina breaks down the critical distinction between libido (desire, the mental appetite for sex) and physical arousal (the body's blood flow response), explaining why the two require completely different solutions — and why the pharmaceutical industry has largely ignored the latter in women. She shares the science and story behind Dare to Play, a topical sildenafil cream engineered with proprietary Dermaflex technology to deliver the active ingredient directly to genital tissue, enhancing physical arousal sensations within 10–15 minutes.We cover how Dare to Play compares to existing options like Addyi, Vyleesi, and testosterone — and why none of those address physical arousal the way this does. We also clear up a common misconception: this is not a lubricant. It works from the inside out, enhancing the body's natural lubrication response through increased blood flow.Sabrina walks us through exactly how to get a prescription today — via your own provider or a free telehealth consult— and explains the pricing: $99/tube, 10 doses, roughly $10 per use. Currently out of pocket (no insurance), but intentionally priced for access.This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation you won't want to miss.In This Episode:0:00 – Ad: Aria.FYI0:55 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth1:30 – Meet Sabrina Johnson, CEO of Daré Bioscience2:15 – Libido vs. Physical Arousal: What's Actually the Difference?5:15 – The Real Reason There's No Female Viagra (Until Now)8:15 – Introducing Dare to Play: Sildenafil Cream Engineered for Women10:15 – How to Get a Prescription Today (Free Telehealth Consult)13:15 – What Does It Cost? The $99 Tube, $10 Per Use Breakdown15:15 – Dare to Play vs. Addyi, Vyleesi & Testosterone17:15 – Is This a Lubricant? No — Here's the Key Difference18:50 – Part 2 Is Coming — Subscribe NowWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Guest:Sabrina Martucci Johnson is a seasoned life sciences executive and passionate advocate for women's health innovation. As Founder, President,and Chief Executive Officer of Daré Bioscience, Inc. (NASDAQ: DARE), she leads a purpose-driven biopharmaceutical company dedicated to developing and commercializing novel, differentiated products for women. Under her leadership, Daré advances a diverse pipeline spanning contraception, fertility,menopause, sexual health, and vaginal health, with the goal of accelerating access to important therapies. Her leadership has been honored by Ernst &Young Entrepreneur of the Year (Pacific Southwest Region), Fierce Pharma'sMost Influential People in Biopharma, and inclusion on the Medicine MakerPower List and Endpoints Women in Biopharma. Driven by the belief that women deserve better options, Ms. Johnson champions innovation to transform how women worldwide experience their health and well-being.Connect with Sabrina Johnson:Website: https://darebioscience.comDARE to PLAY™ Sildenafil Cream: https://daretoplaybio.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/darebioscienceAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861Everyone talks about narcissists, but do you actually know what to look for? I'm breaking down six concrete behavioral signs of a true narcissist — and more importantly, why we keep missing them. I walk through what separates a genuine narcissist from someone who's just self-centered, explain the psychological traps — love bombing, trauma bonding, gaslighting — that keep us stuck, and give you a real checklist to spot what you've been talking yourself out of seeing. From frustration intolerance and subtle put-downs to aggressive driving and the apology cycle that never ends, these signs show up in the first year. The question is whether you're willing to see them.In This Episode:0:00 - Sponsor: Aria.FYI0:35 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:50 - What Makes Someone a True Narcissist1:55 - Love Bombing & Why the Signs Are Easy to Miss2:40 - Sign #1: Frustration Tolerance (Tantrums & Grudges)3:20 - Sign #2: Talking Over You & Subtle Put-Downs3:55 - Sign #3: Isolation & Loyalty Tests4:30 - Sign #4: Aggressive Driving (Backed by 30+ Studies)5:05 - Sign #5: The Apology Fandango5:40 - Sign #6: The Explosion & Acting Like Nothing Happened6:25 - Why We Miss the Red Flags: The Trauma Bond7:05 - How to Actually Protect Yourself7:35 - Final ThoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door.Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In this episode, I sit down with Adreena Winters — writer, educator, and one of the most recognized voices in the world of cuckolding — to finally clear up what this dynamic actually is, and what it isn't. Adreena is the author of So You Want to Be a Cuckold and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, and she brings both lived experience and years of coaching couples through this exact terrain.We get into why most people's first reaction to the word "cuckolding" is shame or confusion, and why that reaction is almost always wrong. Adreena breaks down the real difference between a hot wife dynamic and a cuckoldress dynamic, why humiliation is usually a small piece of the puzzle rather than the main event, and why compersion — genuinely enjoying your partner's pleasure — is so often the real engine driving this for men.We talk about how couples actually start exploring this safely: communication first, boundaries second, and why over-controlling the experience can backfire. Adreena walks through the biggest mistakes couples make (hint: it usually starts with who you let into the dynamic), the red flags that signal someone isn't a good third-party candidate, and the warning signs that a couple isn't actually ready for this yet. We also get into the Red Pill and Manosphere comparison — because consent is the dividing line, and it changes everything.If you've ever been curious, confused, or quietly judging something you don't fully understand, this conversation will give you the real picture instead of the porn version.In This Episode:00:00 Intro & Aria.FYI01:15 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:45 Meet Adreena Winters02:30 Why Cuckolding Is So Misunderstood04:00 Cuckoldress vs. Hot Wife: What's the Real Difference06:30 Is the Bull Part of the Couple's Dynamic?08:15 Who Usually Initiates: Men or Women?10:00 Cutting Queens & Reversed Dynamics12:00 Where to Start: Communication and Boundaries14:30 No, It's Not Always a Threesome16:00 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make18:30 Red Flags When Vetting a Bull20:30 Signs a Couple Isn't Ready Yet23:00 The Porn Fantasy vs. The Reality26:00 Adreena's Own Relationship & Retiring From Porn28:30 Cuckold Confessions: Filming Real Couples30:00 Finding a Bull: Apps, Sites & Communities31:30 Cuckolding vs. The Manosphere & Red Pill32:30 Is Cuckolding Cheating?33:00 Where to Find Adrena & Closing ThoughtsAbout The Guest:Adreena Winters is a content creator, writer, and educator known for her work exploring cuckolding. With over a decade of experience both personally and professionally in the adult industry, she has become one of the most recognisable voices discussing cuckolding openly and without shame. Adreena is the author of So, You Want to Be a Cuckold?, and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, a series exploring the motivations and desires of men who embrace the cuckold identity. Through her writing, videos, and podcast appearances, she aims to demystify taboo fantasies and encourage more honest conversations about sexuality, desire, and power within relationships.Connect with Adreena Winters:Website: https://thecuckacademy.com/Links: https://links.adrena-winters.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachadreenaAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In this episode, I'm tackling the topic nobody wants to bring up at dinner: cheating. Whether you've been cheated on, you've done the cheating, or you've just thought about it (and most of us have), this conversation is for you. I'm breaking down what infidelity actually is, why it shows up so often in midlife, and whether it's ever justified. I get into the messy truth that affairs are rarely about sex — they're about disconnection, unmet needs, and the stories we tell ourselves instead of having hard conversations. I'm not excusing cheating. I am asking you to understand it, because understanding is the first step toward preventing it, surviving it, or having the honest conversation you've been avoiding.In This Episode:00:00 - Sponsor: Aria Intimacy Membership00:48 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:10 - Introduction: Talking About Cheating Like Adults01:30 - What Actually Counts as Cheating?02:15 - Why Cheating Happens More in Midlife02:50 - Is Cheating Ever Justified?03:55 - Are We Even Wired for Monogamy?04:40 - Open Relationships vs. Cheating: Where's the Line?05:10 - What to Do If You've Been Cheated On06:05 - How to Prevent Infidelity Before It Happens06:45 - Final Thoughts: Choosing HonestyWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comDISCLAIMER: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. This content is created for educational and informational purposes only. It is designed to provide viewers with knowledge and insights about intimacy, relationships, communication, and sexual wellness. This video does not depict or promote sexual acts for the purpose of sexual gratification. All discussions are conducted in a respectful, professional, and sex-positive context to encourage healthy, safe, and informed conversations. I have hand-selected some great products to help support your s//xual wellness. Purchasing products from me and/or my affiliates helps support the work that I do and ensures I can continue to help as many people and couples as possible!LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm diving into something most men have never been taught but desperately need to hear — how your nervous system is directly controlling your desire, your erections, and your ability to connect intimately. If you're in midlife and noticing that your body isn't cooperating the way it used to, this is the episode that explains why — and what to actually do about it.I walk through the two modes of the nervous system, survival and safety, and why sex can only happen in one of them. I break down how decades of performance-based sexual conditioning quietly puts men into survival mode — and how shame keeps them there. Then I get practical, sharing the tools I give men every day to regulate their nervous system, rebuild a sense of safety, and reconnect with their bodies and their partners.Timestamps: 00:00 - What's really behind unpredictable erections in midlife00:48 - Welcome & what we're covering today01:35 - The sexual performance model most men were raised with02:22 - Survival mode vs. safety mode — and why sex requires safety03:08 - What survival mode actually looks like during sex03:50 - Why shame shuts down intimacy faster than low testosterone04:55 - Safety vs. confidence — and which one you actually need05:42 - Substack community callout06:10 - Practical tools: regulate before you initiate06:58 - Naming it, shifting the goal, and building safety outside the bedroom07:45 - You're not broken — you're waking up08:10 - Resources, Men Meet Menopause course & closingWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I sit down with two powerhouse sex therapists — Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz — to dig into one of the most common and least talked-about issues in long-term relationships: mismatched libidos. We're breaking down what desire discrepancy really means, why it doesn't have to spell the end of your sex life, and why the person wanting less sex is never simply "the problem." We get honest about the shame spiral that shuts men down sexually, the hidden reasons behind low male desire (from testosterone to performance anxiety to cultural conditioning), and the exact language that can open a conversation your partner has been too scared to start. This is Part 1 of 2 — and it's essential listening for anyone who has ever felt rejected in the bedroom or guilty for saying no.In this episode:00:00 - Welcome & Guest Introductions01:50 - What Is Desire Discrepancy — And Who Has It?04:25 - Why Nobody's the Problem (But It Feels That Way)06:40 - When She Wants It More Than He Does09:20 - The Hidden Reasons Behind Low Male Desire12:55 - How to Start the Conversation With a Shut-Down Partner16:10 - The Two Words That Change Everything: You Matter19:05 - Getting Into Therapy: Where Do You Even Start?21:30 - The Bilingual Couple: Unlocking Desire Through Language24:20 - Men's Shame, Sensuality & the Missing Safe Spaces26:40 - Sexual Rejection and the Fear of Not Belonging27:50 - Part 2 Teaser & Where to Find the Guests Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I'm talking about one of the most common and least discussed experiences in midlife: painful sex. Whether it's dryness, tightness, uncomfortable positioning, or intimacy that has quietly faded, I want you to know this is not normal aging and it is not something you have to accept. Bodies change as we get older — hormones shift, tissue thins, muscles tighten, and positions that once worked no longer do — but that doesn't mean pleasure is off the table. I walk through what's actually happening physiologically, why pain during sex is never something to push through, and the practical tools that can help: quality lubricants, pelvic floor physical therapy, honest communication with partners, and strategic positioning support. I also introduce the Prim Pillow by Taboo, a wedge-shaped cushion I personally use and love, and share exactly how I use it to reduce strain, change angles, and make intimacy feel comfortable and connected again. Great sex in midlife is possible — it just looks different than it did at 30, and that's not a problem. It's an opportunity.This is a highly visual episode and is best watched on video: https://youtu.be/_oXa6NOR_FQIn this episode: 00:00 - Welcome & What This Episode Is About00:47 - Introduction: Pain With Sex Is Not Normal01:30 - Sex After 50 — A Different but Better Conversation02:00 - What Actually Changes in Your Body as You Age02:51 - Why Pain During Sex Is Never Something to Tolerate03:02 - Tools That Help: Lube, Pelvic Floor PT & Communication03:28 - Introducing the Prim Pillow by Taboo04:42 - How to Use the Prim Pillow: Hip Elevation & Positioning05:54 - Why Lube Matters & the PJUR Med Sensitive Recommendation06:45 - Positioning Tips: Angles, Comfort & Communication07:14 - Sex Doesn't Expire — It Evolves07:55 - You Deserve Intimacy That Feels Good at Every Age08:13 - Resources & Where to Find Karen08:32 - Outro: Subscribe, Share & Make the World More Sex-PositiveWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I'm back with Dr. Sameena Rahman for Part 2 — and we go places most medical appointments never do. We open with PCOS, GLP-1s, peptides, and ketamine, then shift into what may be the most important hormone conversation I've had on this show: is hormone therapy actually safe for women over 60?Dr. Rahman breaks down why the original Women's Health Initiative study was mismarketed, not flawed — and how that bad marketing set back women's health by two decades. She explains how to think about the risk-benefit calculation for starting hormones later in life, and what screenings actually matter before making that call.We then get into the reality of concierge medicine — why so many doctors are leaving insurance-based practices, and what women who can't afford private care can actually do. And we close on a myth that genuinely alarmed me: the idea that women over 65 no longer need pelvic exams. Dr. Rahman sets the record straight — and explains why genitourinary syndrome menopauIn This Episode: 00:00 - Welcome Back & Recap of Part 101:20 - PCOS Explained: What It Is and Who It Affects02:50 - GLP-1s, Peptides & Ketamine: What the Evidence Actually Says05:10 - Hormone Therapy After 60: Is It Safe?07:30 - The WHI Study: Bad Marketing, Not Bad Science09:20 - Heart Health, Bone Health & Who Should Consider Starting Late11:45 - Why Doctors Are Moving to Concierge Medicine14:00 - The Insurance System Is Rigged Against Women16:05 - What to Do If You Can't Afford a Specialist17:45 - The Pelvic Exam Myth Putting Women at Risk19:15 - Genitourinary Syndrome, Vaginal Estrogen & UTI Prevention20:50 - Final Thoughts & Where to Find Dr. RahmanWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Sameena Rahman is a board-certified OB/GYN and certified Menopause Practitioner with over a decade of expertise in midlife care, sexual medicine, and concierge gynecology. After training and practicing at leading institutions including USC, the University of Chicago, and Northwestern, she founded The GSM Collective in downtown Chicago to deliver a more personalized, patient-first model of women's healthcare.Nationally recognized for her leadership in sexual and menopausal health, Dr. Rahman serves on the Board of Directors and as Scientific Committee Chair for the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH), where she is also a Fellow (IF). She is a Menopause Certified Practitioner and active member of The Menopause Society's Education Committee, frequently speaking at national and international conferences on culturally informed care and sexual health.Connect with Dr. Sameena Rahman:Website: https://www.thegsmcollective.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gynogirl/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that is already inside your world whether you're ready for it or not — artificial intelligence and sex. I'm breaking down four categories of AI-powered intimacy technology: smart sex toys and biofeedback devices, AI companion apps and chatbots, virtual reality experiences, and AI in sexual health and therapy. I talk about what these tools actually do, why they matter specifically for people navigating desire and relationships after 50, and the questions we're not asking loudly enough — about data privacy, about who this technology was built for, and about what happens to our capacity for real human connection when frictionless digital intimacy becomes the easier option. This is not a scare episode. This is a get-informed episode. Because you deserve to be an empowered participant in the world you're already living in.In this episode:00:00 — Introduction: AI Is Already in Your Bedroom01:15 — The Four Categories of AI Intimacy Tech02:30 — Smart Sex Toys and Biofeedback Devices04:10 — Lioness, FirmTech, WeVibe and What They Actually Do05:30 — Haptics and Teledildonics: Physical Intimacy Across Distance06:45 — AI Companion Apps: Loneliness, Grief, and the Limits of Digital Connection08:30 — Virtual Reality and Intimacy: VR Therapy, Body Shame, and Immersive Content10:15 — The Three Questions We're Not Asking About AI and Sex12:00 — Is Technology a Bridge or a Destination?13:15 — Closing: How to Be an Empowered Participant Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.AI Sex Toys & Devices mentioned in this episode:Lioness — biofeedback vibrator that tracks arousal, muscle contractions, and movement patterns via appFirmTech — tech ring for men that measures nighttime erections to assess penile health

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sameena Rahman — board-certified OBGYN, sex medicine Gynecologist, and menopause specialist — to have the conversation most women never get to have with their doctor. We cover whether hormone level testing actually matters, how to tell the difference between hormone imbalance and hormone optimization, and why a woman's libido is almost never just about one thing.Dr. Rahman breaks down the biopsychosocial framework she uses in her practice, explains why so many women in long-term relationships experience responsive — not spontaneous — desire, and gets specific about the treatments available right now for women with low libido who are bothered by it. That includes testosterone, flibanserin (Addyi), bremelanotide (Vyleesi), and a promising new topical sildenafil being prescribed at leading practices. I share my own experience with testosterone and Wellbutrin, we talk about the gender double standard in sexual medicine, and Dr. Rahman makes the case that women deserve the same range of options men have had for decades.Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome & Introduction01:35 - Who Is Dr. Sameena Rahman?02:50 - Should You Measure Your Hormone Levels?05:20 - Hormone Imbalance vs. Hormone Optimization07:10 - Why Women's Libido Is Never Just One Thing09:30 - Responsive Desire & the Incentive-Based Model11:20 - What Is Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder?13:10 - Testosterone for Women: Does It Work?15:25 - Flibanserin (Addyi) — The Pink Pill Explained17:55 - Bremelanotide (Vyleesi) — The On-Demand Option19:45 - Topical Sildenafil: The Newest Treatment for Women21:20 - Key Takeaways & Closing Thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Sameena Rahman is a board-certified OB/GYN and certified Menopause Practitioner with over a decade of expertise in midlife care, sexual medicine, and concierge gynecology. After training and practicing at leading institutions including USC, the University of Chicago, and Northwestern, she founded The GSM Collective in downtown Chicago to deliver a more personalized, patient-first model of women's healthcare.Nationally recognized for her leadership in sexual and menopausal health, Dr. Rahman serves on the Board of Directors and as Scientific Committee Chair for the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH), where she is also a Fellow (IF). She is a Menopause Certified Practitioner and active member of The Menopause Society's Education Committee, frequently speaking at national and international conferences on culturally informed care and sexual health.Connect with Dr. Sameena Rahman:Website: https://www.thegsmcollective.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gynogirl/Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm going straight at the myth that has quietly wrecked the confidence of more men than I can count: how long you're supposed to last in bed. Spoiler — the benchmark most men are measuring themselves against isn't based in reality. It comes from porn, locker room exaggeration, and years of silence between partners who never actually had the conversation. I break down what the science actually says (the average is about five to six minutes, not 20 or 30), share a real client story, and explain why the real problem isn't your body — it's your benchmark. I also cover what women genuinely want from sex, why performance anxiety starts in your head long before you get anywhere near the bedroom, and practical steps to feel more present, more confident, and more connected with your partner.In this episode:00:00 Hook & Podcast Introduction00:55 The 20-Minute Myth — Where It Comes From01:55 What the Research Says About Sex Duration02:50 Why You're Struggling With Pressure, Not Performance03:35 Real Client Story: Shame, Avoidance, and Breakthrough04:20 What Women Actually Want in Bed05:10 Ad: Firm Tech Max PR05:35 Redefining Good Sex From Scratch06:20 Practical Tools for Control, Presence, and Connection07:10 When to See a Doctor or Sex Therapist07:35 Final CTA and Outro Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Want to enhance intimacy and confidence? Check out my curated products page at https://www.taboototruth.com/shopGet 15% off the Max PR from Firm Tech with code TABOO15 at myfirmtech.com

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In this episode, I'm talking with Natalie Davis — former DOJ trial lawyer, polyamory advocate, and author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory — about what it actually looks like to build a life that doesn't follow the relationship script most of us were handed.Natalie has been with her husband since they were teenagers. They have an adult son. And over the past two decades, they've navigated swinging, open relationships, and fully polyamorous partnerships — together and separately. Today, she lives in a home with her husband and his long-term girlfriend, her metamour, while also dating outside the house. It works. And she's here to explain exactly how.We talk about the moment her husband first suggested opening their marriage, why her initial reaction was a hard no, and how she moved through fear and structure-loving resistance into something that genuinely expanded her world. She breaks down the differences between swinging, open relationships, and polyamory, shares what jealousy actually looks like when it shows up (and when it doesn't), and explains the safer sex elevator speech that everyone — monogamous or not — should be using.We also get into the real stuff: how her marriage stays strong when both partners are emotionally and physically connected to other people, what she told her son, how coming out as polyamorous affects friendships and family, why she's now fighting for legal protections for non-monogamous people, and what it's like to date much younger men after decades of marriage.This is not a conversation about blowing up your life. It's a conversation about questioning what you were taught, being honest about what you want, and realizing that love doesn't always have to look one way.In This Episode:00:00 What If You Were Never Taught Monogamy Was Optional?01:50 Meet Natalie Davis: DOJ Lawyer Turned Polyamory Advocate04:20 How Her Husband First Brought Up Opening Their Marriage07:40 Natalie's Arc: From Hard No to Saying Yes11:30 Swinging vs. Polyamory — What's the Actual Difference?16:00 Dating Separately for the First Time After Decades of Marriage19:15 Her First Real Poly Relationship — and What She Didn't Expect22:45 Inside a Swingers Club: What It's Actually Like26:25 The Safer Sex Elevator Speech Everyone Should Know30:00 Living with Her Husband's Girlfriend: The Resident V Setup33:35 Does She Ever Get Jealous? Honestly?36:15 What Her Son Knows — and How He Feels About It39:00 Coming Out as Polyamorous: Friends, Family, and Strangers Online41:45 Dating Much Younger Men After 4044:05 Is Polyamory an Orientation or a Choice?46:50 Fighting for Legal Protections for Non-Monogamous People48:20 Where to Find Natalie and Her Book Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Natalie Davis is the author Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory and the editor of the online publication Polyamory Today. Her work has appeared inHeart Affairs, Discovering Polyamory, Monogamish, and The Memoirist, and her opinions about polyamory have been published in The Washington Post.She has been interviewed on relationship podcasts and has presented workshops on communication and non-monogamy across the United States.A recovering DOJ trial lawyer, she lives in the Washington, DC, area, with her partner and her marvelous metamour. You can find her on Instagram, Medium,and her website as nataliedavisadventures.Connect with Natalie Davis:Website: https://www.nataliedavisadventures.comBook: Saying Yes: My Adventures in PolyamoryInstagram: @nataliedavisadventuresAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm handing you the dating dictionary I wish I'd had years ago. If you've ever felt confused, blindsided, or just plain crazy after a date or relationship fell apart — you weren't imagining it. The behavior has a name. And once you can name it, you stop second-guessing yourself and start making better decisions.I walk through 10 modern dating terms — ghosting, zombieing, future faking, ghost lighting, micro-cheating, benching, banksying, breadcrumbing, love bombing, and situationships — what they look like, why they happen, and how to respond. I also share my 3-6-9 rule for checking in on compatibility at the right moments without over-investing too soon. The goal isn't to memorize a list. It's to trust yourself faster.In This Episode: 00:00 - Introduction & Why Naming Behaviors Matters00:48 - Ghosting: They Disappear With No Explanation01:35 - Zombieing: Coming Back Like Nothing Happened02:10 - Future Faking: Big Promises, Zero Follow-Through02:52 - Ghost Lighting: Ghosting + Gaslighting in One Toxic Move03:42 - Meet Lem From Nancy04:12 - Micro-Cheating: Is It Really Cheating?04:48 - Benching: You're On the Roster But Never In the Game05:14 - Banksying: The Slow Fade That Goes Nowhere05:40 - Breadcrumbing: Just Enough to Keep You Hooked06:15 - Love Bombing: Intensity Followed by Disappearance06:50 - Situationships: Emotionally Involved With No Clarity07:25 - The 3-6-9 Rule for Checking Compatibility08:05 - Final Thoughts & How to Trust Yourself FasterWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm back with emotional intimacy expert Allana Pratt for Part 2 of a conversation that went places I never expected. We pick up where we left off — moving through self-forgiveness, the grip of self-loathing, and why judgment from others is actually an invitation to look inward. Allana shares a raw piece of her own story — six years estranged from her son, and the horrendous self-hatred she had to sit with and fully feel to finally reach wisdom. We get into soul embodiment, what it really means to be an anxious attacher, and why trauma is finite — not a life sentence. And because this is Taboo to Truth, we close it out with my three questions: her definition of sex, her best orgasm ever, and a fantasy she's never checked off the list. Buckle up — this one goes deep in every direction.In this episode: 00:00 - Welcome Back & Intro00:30 - Part 1 Recap: The Three Relationship Mistakes02:10 - Why Forgiveness Is Harder Than Acceptance04:30 - Self-Hatred Is the Last Thing to Go in Healing07:45 - Real Client Story: Stop Blaming Yourself for How Others React11:00 - The Teflon Method: Receiving Judgment Without Taking It On14:15 - How to Actually Sit With Self-Loathing Until It Transforms17:30 - Allana Opens Up: Six Years Without Her Son20:00 - Soul Embodiment & Body Wisdom21:45 - Can You Have a Real Relationship While Still Doing the Work?23:00 - Anxious Attachment, Rejection & Why Trauma Is Finite24:20 - The Three Questions: Sex, Orgasms & Unfulfilled Fantasies25:10 - Where to Find Allana & Scholarship CodeWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those ready to transcend heartbreak, live unapologetically and cultivate a soul-shaking relationship. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books, has interviewed Actress Whoopi Goldberg, Musician Alanis Morissette and Physicist Nassim Haramein. She Hosts the edgy Podcast Intimate Conversations: Season 14- Dark Night to Divine Light, where listeners learn that intimacy is an inside job.A Certified Master Coach with over 7M viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. Interviewed over 850 times, she's been chosen as an Icon of Influence and featured on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, ABC, FOX, TLC, iHeartRadio and more.Connect with Allana Pratt:Website: https://allanapratt.com/connect (Allana is offering a scholarship for listeners to connect with her one-on-one at a reduced rate — ask her about it!)Podcast: Intimate ConversationsYouTube: /AllanaPrattPatreon: Allana PrattInstagram: @allanaprattAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm introducing one of my favorite concepts for couples who feel like the spark has quietly gone out: sex snacks. Not whipped cream, not grand gestures — tiny, pressure-free moments of flirtation, touch, and attention that keep intimacy alive throughout the day. I break down why desire in midlife doesn't work like a light switch, why spontaneous desire often fades during perimenopause and menopause, and how responsive desire — the kind that builds once it starts — can still be very much alive. Sex snacks are designed to lower pressure and raise connection, and I walk through exactly what they look like in real life, why they work for both men and women, and how one small daily habit can shift the entire emotional tone of your relationship.In This Episode:00:00 If Your Partner Pulls Away From Touch, Listen to This First00:30 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:05 Why Couples Treat Sex Like a Three-Course Meal02:00 Desire Isn't a Light Switch — It's Momentum02:45 What Responsive Desire Means During Menopause03:15 What Exactly Is a Sex Snack?04:05 Real Examples: The 6-Second Kiss, the Back Rub, the Midday Text04:55 Flirtation Is the Most Underrated Aphrodisiac05:30 Touch That Communicates Warmth, Not Negotiation06:10 A Note for the Men Listening06:55 Sex Snacks Go Both Ways — Women Too07:30 Your Challenge: One Sex Snack Today08:00 Hotter Wiser Wilder & Men Meet Menopause Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I sit down with emotional intimacy expert and certified master coach Allana Pratt to expose the relationship mistakes most of us are making — quietly, repeatedly, and often without realizing it. Allana breaks down three major patterns that keep love from going deep: withholding the full truth out of fear of rejection, abandoning ourselves and our communities the moment things get hard, and mistaking cognitive awareness of anger for actually processing it. Through raw client stories, her signature "Little You" practice, and the powerful Theater of Redemption process, Allana reveals what it really takes to show up vulnerably, keep your heart open even when you're furious, and finally break the cycles that have been running your love life. This is Part 1 — and you won't want to miss what's coming next week.In this episode:00:00 - Introduction & Welcome00:45 - Meet Allana Pratt: Emotional Intimacy Expert02:45 - Relationship Mistake #1: Only Telling 85% of the Truth07:00 - The Couple Who Almost Lost It All (And the Real Problem Behind It)11:15 - Core Wounds & Why We Attract the Same Pain14:30 - Relationship Mistake #2: Quitting When It Gets Hard17:50 - The "Little You" Practice: Building an Inner Foundation21:00 - Relationship Mistake #3: Unprocessed Anger Coming Out Sideways23:15 - The Theater of Redemption Process24:40 - Subscribe & See You Next Week Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those ready to transcend heartbreak, live unapologetically and cultivate a soul-shaking relationship. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books, has interviewed Actress Whoopi Goldberg, Musician Alanis Morissette and Physicist Nassim Haramein. She Hosts the edgy Podcast Intimate Conversations: Season 14- Dark Night to Divine Light, where listeners learn that intimacy is an inside job.A Certified Master Coach with over 7M viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. Interviewed over 850 times, she's been chosen as an Icon of Influence and featured on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, ABC, FOX, TLC, iHeartRadio and more.Connect with Allana Pratt:Website: https://allanapratt.com/connect Use code READYNOW for a scholarship to connect with Allana one-on-onePodcast: Intimate Conversations YouTube: /AllanaPratt Patreon: Allana Pratt Instagram: @allanaprattAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES