Podcasts about frientimacy

Shasta Nelson is a leading expert in healthy relationships and intimacy. For over 15 years, she's been translating the science of human connection into actionable practices for enhancing belonging and well-being. On this week's episode of Everyday Better, Shasta joins Leah to discuss the key components of healthy relationships. Shasta shares strategies for developing new friendships and nurturing existing ones, as well as advice for ending a friendship. She also draws on data about loneliness and happiness to explain why working on our relationships is the most important thing we can do to improve our overall health.  Follow Leah Smart on LinkedIn. Follow Shasta Nelson on LinkedIn. To learn more about how to foster healthy relationships, check out Shasta's book Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.

Hi everyone! Welcome back to another episode of The Chai on Life Podcast. I'm Alex Segal, and today, we are talking all about friendship.I've wanted to do a podcast on friendship for awhile now and this conversation was sooo cathartic and therapeutic. A lot of what we discussed are topics that I think are on a lot of our minds yet hard to speak about openly.Laura Marder was the perfect person to have this conversation with. She is a trained clinical social worker and the Director of the Circles Facilitators at CORE, an organization aimed at fostering meaningful relationships between Jewish women through authentic conversation and connection.As a note, reference Shasta Nelson's Ted Talk on friendship, coined as "Frientimacy," in the episode, so if you're looking to watch that entire video, you can click on the link in the show notes.Whether you're trying to make new friends, working to nurture or deepen existing friendships, wanting more time for friendship in your life, or anything else in that realm, this episode is for you and I am so excited for you to hear it.If you want to get in touch with Laura, you can email her at LMarder@coretorah.org.

Today, Shasta is joined by her two close friends, J'Leen and Valerie, to discuss an interesting situation that occurred within their friend group: they each had assumed that they all shared the same political views as one another, only to recently discover that this was far from the truth! What do they do next? Is it better to avoid political discussions altogether to keep their friendship intact? Join Shasta, J'Leen, and Valerie as they explore the complexities of political conversations among friends. They reflect on their personal journeys, challenge assumptions, and emphasize the importance of open dialogue, especially in today's divided world. Don't miss this candid discussion in the season finale of Frientimacy!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

In the final episode of the first season of Frientimacy, Shasta reflects on all of the outcomes and insights gained from the honest, heartfelt conversations she has gotten to have with friends and guests over the past few months. From reconnecting with long-lost friends from many years ago, to opening up in tough-to-have conversations, these discussions have strengthened bonds, healed past wounds, and allowed for friends to be brought closer together. This final episode is a celebration of the season's journey and an invitation to continue exploring and nurturing deep, meaningful connections with the people in your life!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

In today's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta Nelson is joined by her husband, Dr. Greg Nelson, for an insightful conversation on blending friendship with marriage. As they reflect on nearly 20 years together, they delve into the question of whether a spouse should be your best friend and share strategies for balancing relationship dynamics when one partner is an introvert and the other is an extrovert.They cover:How Greg's long-time friendships fit into their marriage and why they matter.The differences between how men and women often view their spouse as a best friend.Personal stories and reflections on navigating vulnerability and keeping friendships alive while being a couple.Tune in for an engaging conversation full of practical tips and heartfelt insights that will help you enrich both your marriage and your friendships!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

In this week's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta and her friend Priscilla take a transparent look behind the scenes of their budding friendship. They dive into the early days of their relationship and discuss the challenges they faced, such as scheduling conflicts, uncertainties surrounding expectations, and building trust with one another. Shasta and Priscilla share their personal thoughts and feelings from when they first met and explore how they've grown together over the past year. Tune in for an honest and enlightening conversation about the highs and lows of forming a meaningful friendship with someone new!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

Conflict—nobody enjoys it, but how do we tackle tough conversations with those we care about? In this episode of Frientimacy, Shasta tackles this challenging topic with three insightful guests: Krista, Kerry, and Laura. Each woman shares her struggles with avoiding conflict in friendships—Krista due to a deep-seated need for harmony, Kerry because of her natural empathy, and Laura because of her introverted tendencies. Together, they explore how avoiding tough conversations affects relationships and share advice for balancing honesty with empathy to keep connections strong.Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

In today's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta invites Cori to share her experiences of feeling profoundly let down by her best friend during a time of personal crisis—the death of a loved one. Despite her friend's past support and their close bond, Cori found herself in a situation where she felt abandoned and unsupported. Throughout the episode, Shasta and Cori explore how friendships can be complex and not always meeting the expectations we hold for them. Shasta offers guidance on how to recognize the value of the everyday support her friend had provided and how Cori can appreciate the strengths her friend brought to the relationship, despite her shortcomings during the crisis.Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Check out Cori's website! LoveAcademyforWomen.comRegistration for the Fall 2024 CoachingCircles is now open!https://www.shastanelson.com/coachingcircles/fall2024Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

Today's episode features Shasta and three women who share one common, difficult experience: each has deeply regretted losing touch with a close friend. Throughout the episode, they reflect on the impact of these lost relationships, and share the importance these friends once held in their day to day lives. Shasta offers valuable advice on how to reconnect with lost friends, providing guidance for anyone navigating similar feelings of loss towards a once-meaningful friendship.Ask Shasta your questions & connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Resource Links:Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle, and jealousy and envy in friendship, in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeLearn more about Shasta's CoachingCirclesConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeTell us what you think about this episode.Tell us what you think about this episode.

When Shasta met Christine, a fellow author and speaker, she was everything Shasta wanted to be: she had just published a book, she'd been interviewed on TV, and she had a press kit. Shasta was green with envy. We've all been there—a friend has more money, goes on cooler vacations, is happily in love while we just went through a breakup. We wish we had their job, body, house, or relationship. It's inevitable to feel jealousy and envy sometimes, but how do we make sure our feelings don't jeopardize our friendships? Today, Shasta and Christine dish on all the icky emotions they've experienced and share how they've been able to get back to a place of peace. They also reflect on how they've been able to be candid about their envy while keeping the friendship feeling positive. Finally, Shasta teaches how to distinguish between the different types of jealousy and envy so that we can choose the wisest response.In this episode, Shasta and Christine answer the questions:What is the difference between jealousy and envy?How can you distinguish between unreliable and reliable jealousy?How do you cheer for a friend when you're feeling envious of them?How can envy lead us to personal growth and empowerment?When you're feeling envious, how can you shift your mindset to a more positive one?Should you tell your friend if you're feeling envious of them? How can communicating about envy or insecurities deepen your relationship?Ask Shasta your questions & connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Resource Links:Learn more about the Inner Mean Girl in Christine's book: Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving YourselfChristine's other books on self-love, personal leadership, well-being, and burnout: https://christinearylo.com/books/ Listen to Christine's podcastTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle, and jealousy and envy in friendship, in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeLearn more about Shasta's CoachingCirclesConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeTell us what you think about this episode.

After years of friendship, Shasta and Sher found themselves in two completely different places: Sher was a stay-at-home mom, whereas Shasta didn't have kids and was more focused on her career. Sher was married to a pastor, while Shasta was questioning church. Sher was more conservative-leaning, and Shasta was more liberal. The question arose: “If we met today, would we have become friends?” It's a familiar experience—someone's no longer single, or has kids, or switches jobs, or you're just in different life stages. And you wonder, was that the only thing holding your friendship together? In today's episode, Shasta and Sher discuss how they saved their friendship when they realized they had nothing in common anymore, why it was worth it, and the unlikely key to their survival.In this episode, Shasta and Sher answer the questions:How can you revitalize a friendship that's lost its shared interests or commonalities?How can having “nothing in common” actually benefit your friendship?Is it worth staying friends with someone you have nothing in common with anymore? Why?Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Resource Links:David Brooks' book on feeling seen & seeing others: How to Know a PersonTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeLearn more about Shasta's CoachingCirclesConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

Have you ever felt like you were always disappointing a friend or that you couldn't satisfy them? Or maybe you're on the other side, feeling like your friends aren't putting in the same level of effort as you? This was the problem Shasta and Daneen encountered. At the beginning of their friendship, Daneen initiated time with Shasta frequently, and Shasta started to feel like she couldn't give enough back. Then, after Daneen had a baby and asked her to be the godmother, Shasta felt guilty for not being able to live up to Daneen's expectations of that role. Today, Shasta and Daneen delve into the conversation that set boundaries graciously and allowed Shasta the opportunity to not only meet Daneen's expectations, but surpass them. They also talk the perks of having non-mom friends after you have kids and how to know if a friendship is worth saving. In this episode, Shasta and Daneen answer the questions:How do you kindly set boundaries when you can't meet a friend's expectations?How does it feel to be the friend who needs more? How does it feel to be the friend who can't give more?How do you know if a friendship is worth saving?How do you maintain friendships after having children, or when your friends have children?What are the benefits of having non-mom friends after having kids?Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Resource Links:Wall Street Journal: It Takes at Least 200 Hours to Make a Close Friendship, and More to Maintain ItTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.

So you got dumped by a friend—no warning, no explanation, not even a text back. What happened? Nearly 80% of us have been ghosted at some point, and while it's more commonplace in the dating world, it can happen with friends too. In this episode, Shasta interviews three women who were ghosted by close friends. They open up about what they wish their friends had done instead, and how ghosting impacted them and their other relationships (for better or for worse). They also offer insight and advice on getting closure and fighting for the friendship.Resource Links:Watch the “Surviving a Friendship Breakup” seriesTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.

After a girls' weekend, Shasta returned home feeling drained – her friend J'Leen seemed to often take things personally and question how accepted she was in the group. Again, they'd spent much of their time together reassuring her to no avail. Today, Shasta and J'Leen explore how J'Leen's fears of rejection and abandonment developed, how her attempts to shield herself from potential rejection led to actual rejection, and what triggered her fears. They also consider how it feels to be on the other side, trying to love someone who cannot see or feel it. Finally, they reveal how J'Leen learned to become her own best friend, and how her journey of personal growth and self-awareness transformed her life and relationships.In this episode, Shasta and J'Leen answer the questions:How can a fear of rejection and/or fear of abandonment develop?How does it feel to be a friend to someone with a fear of rejection / fear of abandonment?How can self-love transform our relationships?What can trigger a fear of rejection and/or fear of abandonment?What can you do to support a friend struggling from fear of rejection / fear of abandonment?Why does a fear of rejection sometimes lead to actual rejection? Resource Links:Christine Arylo's book on self-love: Madly in Love With MeTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeJoin Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.

Friendships can get a little messy, but at the other end of the muck are often more supportive and meaningful relationships. Join Shasta for the debut episode of Frientimacy, as she reveals the 3 requirements for all healthy relationships that helped her and her own friends navigate conflict and disappointment to deepen their connections. Shasta also exposes the real reason we're lonely (and it's not because we need to meet more people!) and the shocking impact of relationships on our physical and mental health.In this episode, Shasta answers the questions:Why are over 60% of us lonely, and why do 75% of us feel dissatisfied with our friendships?What are the four developmental stages of friendships? How do we get to the final stage of true intimacy?What are the three requirements for all healthy relationships?How can we learn from our approach to romantic relationships to have healthier expectations for our friendships?How are our relationships affecting our physical and mental health?Resource Links:Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizScott Peck's 4 stages of community building: The Different Drum: Community Making and PeaceScientific American: Loneliness is Harmful to Our Nation's HealthUniversity of Virginia: ‘Shocking' New Research Finds Friendships Are Key to Good HealthCigna: Loneliness and Its Impact on the American WorkplaceNPR: What's the #1 thing to change to be happier? A top happiness researcher weighs in.The Gottman Institute: The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to ScienceShasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeJoin Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.

Shasta and Kim were colleagues and couple friends . . . then Shasta called her crying out of the blue. She'd had an affair, a divorce, and had been fired from her job. But while other friends and colleagues pulled away, judged, and disappeared, Kim and Shasta only grew closer. In today's episode, the two unpack how Shasta's personal crisis affected her friend and how their friendship survived when many of Shasta's relationships did not. Kim divulges the confusion she felt at Shasta not telling her sooner, and how others questioned her decision to stay friends with someone who'd had an affair. They talk about shifting from couple friends to developing a one-on-one friendship after Shasta's divorce. They also reveal how the experience helped them build their friendship now—one in which they can tell each other everything and endure any and every season of life together.In this episode, Shasta and Kim answer the questions:What did it feel like watching a friend go through a crisis? What happens when your “couple friends” divorce? Can you stay friends, and how will the friendship change?How do you support friends who are going through hard times? How do you support friends who've made bad decisions? How can you create a “safe space” within a friendship, in which you can share anything without judgment?How can you keep your friendships intact and thriving when you're personally struggling?Resource Links:Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizShasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeJoin Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.

Welcome to “Frientimacy: Finding Our Way to More Fulfilling Friendships” —the show that reminds us through shared stories and research-backed teaching that friendships, while they may not always be easy, that doesn't mean they aren't worth it.My name is Shasta Nelson and I've been researching, coaching, speaking, and writing books about our friendships for 15 years. With over 60% of us feeling lonely, and even more of us dissatisfied with our current friendships– the approach we're taking to our friendships clearly isn't working.Starting on June 4th, and every Tuesday through the summer, I'm going to release a new episode where we're going to journey through some of the biggest obstacles to our friendships– busy-ness, jealousy, neglect, hurt feelings, feeling like we don't have anything in common anymore. But I'm not just going to teach us how to navigate it, I'm going to invite one of my real-life friends to come talk about one of those issues we've had to deal with in our own friendship. Yes, we're going there. We're bringing up hard conversations and hurt feelings we've experienced– first so you know you're not alone in realizing that friendships are sometimes disappointing or exhausting, but second, so we can learn from each other as I'm going to be asking questions like “What did it feel like to be you in that situation? What was the hardest part of that? What do you wish I had done differently?” No one wants to hear that friendships can be hard work… and yet, much like how physical health is on the other side of physical exertion, so, too is our social health on the other side of some relationship sweat.If you're ready for deeper, closer, and more supportive relationships in your life, if you want relationships that feel intimate, safe, and fulfilling– Frientimacy is for you.You can listen on Spotify, Apple podcasts or wherever you prefer to find your podcasts. Tell us what you think about this episode.

Old School leadership thinking claims that work is work and personal is personal and never the two shall meet. However, how many of your friends resulted from work relationships? How much more joyful is the work when you know friends have your back? How much more engaged are you? After all, you often see coworkers more often in a given week than your partner or children!My guest today is author and keynote speaker Shasta Nelson. We discuss the myths around work friendships, and how encouraging friendships at work and making intentional connections leads to not only higher performance, engagement, retention, and loyalty - but less absenteeism and better health for you and your employees. We discuss the epidemic of loneliness, how to balance personal relationships with tough business situations, and why it's in an organization's best interest to foster work friendships. Shasta shares what we learn as school age kids and how it applies to work and what healthy friendships at work look like.To access the episode transcript, please click on the episode title atwww.TheEmpathyEdge.comKey Takeaways:Work is to adults what school was to children. We never tell children to not make friends, yet many adults believe they should not make friends in the same type of environment.Being friendly with someone is different from being close friends with someone. There should be enough safety that everyone is, at minimum, friendly with each other.Proactively have conversations with your friends at work about challenges that may come up, whether because of conflict, discipline, or something else. It will strengthen your relationship as you open with one another.Consistency, positivity, and vulnerability are important for any healthy relationship."The goal isn't to pull back and only stay comfortable. The goal is to say social health is on the other side of a little bit of relational sweat." —  Shasta NelsonAbout Shasta Nelson, Friendship Expert, Keynote Speaker, Author, The Business of FriendshipShasta Nelson is a leading expert on Friendship who speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She's been quoted in magazines and newspapers, online and print, including New York Times, The Washington Post, and Readers Digest, and has been interviewed live on over dozens of TV shows, including the TODAY Show and Steve Harvey Show. Plus, if you haven't yet seen her popular TEDx talk then you'll want to watch that later!Her previous books include Friendships Don't Just Happen! which is a guide for making new friends as an adult, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness which teaches us how to make our relationships more meaningful. But it's her newest book that we talk about today as she takes her expertise about friendship into the workplace in The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.Connect with Shasta Nelson:Website and Books: shastanelson.comInstagram: instagram.com/shastamnelsonLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shastanelsonFacebook: facebook.com/shasta.m.nelsonX: twitter.com/shastamnelsonJoin the tribe, download your free guide! Discover what empathy can do for you:http://red-slice.com/business-benefits-empathyConnect with Maria:Get the podcast and book: TheEmpathyEdge.comLearn more about Maria and her work: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak at your next event: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake my LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaX: @redsliceFacebook: Red SliceThreads: @redslicemaria

1- Old School leadership thinking claims that work is work and personal is personal and never the two shall meet. However, how many of your friends resulted from work relationships? How much more joyful is the work when you know friends have your back? How much more engaged are you? After all, you often see coworkers more often in a given week than your partner or children!My guest today is author and keynote speaker Shasta Nelson. We discuss the myths around work friendships, and how encouraging friendships at work and making intentional connections leads to not only higher performance, engagement, retention, and loyalty - but less absenteeism and better health for you and your employees. We discuss the epidemic of loneliness, how to balance personal relationships with tough business situations, and why it's in an organization's best interest to foster work friendships. Shasta shares what we learn as school age kids and how it applies to work and what healthy friendships at work look like. To access the episode transcript, please click on the episode title at www.TheEmpathyEdge.com Key Takeaways:Work is to adults what school was to children. We never tell children to not make friends, yet many adults believe they should not make friends in the same type of environment. Being friendly with someone is different from being close friends with someone. There should be enough safety that everyone is, at minimum, friendly with each other.Proactively have conversations with your friends at work about challenges that may come up, whether because of conflict, discipline, or something else. It will strengthen your relationship as you open with one another. Consistency, positivity, and vulnerability are important for any healthy relationship. "The goal isn't to pull back and only stay comfortable. The goal is to say social health is on the other side of a little bit of relational sweat." — Shasta NelsonAbout Shasta Nelson, Friendship Expert, Keynote Speaker, Author, The Business of FriendshipShasta Nelson is a leading expert on Friendship who speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She's been quoted in magazines and newspapers, online and print, including New York Times, The Washington Post, and Readers Digest, and has been interviewed live on over dozens of TV shows, including the TODAY Show and Steve Harvey Show. Plus, if you haven't yet seen her popular TEDx talk then you'll want to watch that later!Her previous books include Friendships Don't Just Happen! which is a guide for making new friends as an adult, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness which teaches us how to make our relationships more meaningful. But it's her newest book that we talk about today as she takes her expertise about friendship into the workplace in The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.Connect with Shasta Nelson: Website and Books: shastanelson.comInstagram: instagram.com/shastamnelsonLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shastanelsonFacebook: facebook.com/shasta.m.nelsonX: twitter.com/shastamnelsonJoin the tribe, download your free guide! Discover what empathy can do for you: http://red-slice.com/business-benefits-empathy Connect with Maria: Get the podcast and book: TheEmpathyEdge.comLearn more about Maria and her work: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak at your next event: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake my LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaX: @redsliceFacebook: Red SliceThreads: @redslicemaria

This week, we are reframing friendship — or more specifically, the friendship fail. To find out how a deep friendship has the potential to be rehabilitated, we talk with friendship expert Shasta Nelson, who has been called the Brené Brown of friendship. We talk about reframing loneliness, qualities every friendship needs, not downplaying our successes, and so much more. Listen for all the goods — your friendships will thank you.Shasta Nelson has been studying friendship, both personally and in team environments, for 20 years. Her research has been made accessible for readers in Friendships Don't Just Happen!, which teaches us how to make new friends as adults, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, which teaches us how to make our closer relationships more meaningful and healthy. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Harvard Business Review.Links:Follow Shasta on Twitter and Instagram, and check out her websiteWe love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message, write to the show email, or send us a DM on any of our socials.If our conversations support you in your own reframing practice, please consider a donation on our Patreon, where you can also hear bonus episodes, or tipping us on Ko-fi. Subscribe to the Reframeables Newsletter. Follow us on TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube too.

This week:A few weeks ago (June 18) we spent time talking about the idea of blessing: we will typically bless people to the extent that we feel blessed in our inner being. In this online-only message, Josh further explores the story of Jacob, discusses the four reasons we often don't feel blessed, and reminds us that God is often present where we least expect to find Him.Series overview:Since 1938, Harvard Medical School has been conducting a long-term study of 724 men aimed at answering the question: "What makes a good life?" They tracked how people lived, loved, and worked in their twenties and thirties, and then studied how their lives turned out over the following decades. These researchers have determined the single most important trait of “Happy-Well” elders is healthy relationships. As one researcher puts it, “Happiness is love. Full stop.” For anyone who is interested in beginning, maintaining, and deepening the relationships they have with others, we will find much wisdom in the teachings of Jesus and in the Scriptures he believed in. 

This week: Jesus said in Mark 10 that anyone who gives up a house or their family for his sake would receive 100 times more houses and family members. And not in some distant future: he said we would receive that now. The key to discerning what Jesus intended by this saying seems to be understanding the kind of community he was inviting us into. Series overview:Since 1938, Harvard Medical School has been conducting a long-term study of 724 men aimed at answering the question: "What makes a good life?" They tracked how people lived, loved, and worked in their twenties and thirties, and then studied how their lives turned out over the following decades. These researchers have determined the single most important trait of “Happy-Well” elders is healthy relationships. As one researcher puts it, “Happiness is love. Full stop.” For anyone who is interested in beginning, maintaining, and deepening the relationships they have with others, we will find much wisdom in the teachings of Jesus and in the Scriptures he believed in. 

This week:You were young and impressionable and still figuring your life out. And someone said an unkind thing to you. And it was years ago, and it was really no big deal, and you've totally moved on. Except that you kind of haven't. Because all these years later: you still remember the thing they said. We have the power to curse people in ways they will remember forever. How do we choose instead to live a life of blessing?Series overview:Since 1938, Harvard Medical School has been conducting a long-term study of 724 men aimed at answering the question: "What makes a good life?" They tracked how people lived, loved, and worked in their twenties and thirties, and then studied how their lives turned out over the following decades. These researchers have determined the single most important trait of “Happy-Well” elders is healthy relationships. As one researcher puts it, “Happiness is love. Full stop.” For anyone who is interested in beginning, maintaining, and deepening the relationships they have with others, we will find much wisdom in the teachings of Jesus and in the Scriptures he believed in. 

Shasta Nelson, an expert on friendship and healthy relationships and Author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, sits down with Leah Smart to dive into the three components every relationship needs to be healthy and how to nurture connections that truly last. Follow Leah on LinkedIn Follow Shasta on LinkedIn

This week:The average person will spend 90,000 hours at work over the course of their life time. That's 90,000 hours of labor, projects, meetings, TPS reports, KPI reports, strategy sessions, and hard conversations. So how does a follower of Jesus bring their whole self to work? How do they see their labor as sacred while building relationships, pouring into others, and serving as spiritual leaders amongst the people they'll spend a huge chunk of their lives with?Series overview:Since 1938, Harvard Medical School has been conducting a long-term study of 724 men aimed at answering the question: "What makes a good life?" They tracked how people lived, loved, and worked in their twenties and thirties, and then studied how their lives turned out over the following decades. These researchers have determined the single most important trait of “Happy-Well” elders is healthy relationships. As one researcher puts it, “Happiness is love. Full stop.” For anyone who is interested in beginning, maintaining, and deepening the relationships they have with others, we will find much wisdom in the teachings of Jesus and in the Scriptures he believed in. 

This week:Great Britain recently appointed a “Loneliness Minister.” The U.S. Surgeon General released a warning in May of 2023 that loneliness poses risks as deadly as smoking. It feels like we're more connected and more isolated than we've ever been before. Thankfully, it doesn't have to be that way.Series overview:Since 1938, Harvard Medical School has been conducting a long-term study of 724 men aimed at answering the question: "What makes a good life?" They tracked how people lived, loved, and worked in their twenties and thirties, and then studied how their lives turned out over the following decades. These researchers have determined the single most important trait of “Happy-Well” elders is healthy relationships. As one researcher puts it, “Happiness is love. Full stop.” For anyone who is interested in beginning, maintaining, and deepening the relationships they have with others, we will find much wisdom in the teachings of Jesus and in the Scriptures he believed in. 

Do you remember middle school and how painful it was with friendships? Ugh, I shudder at the thought. I will admit I wasn't a popular kid in middle school or even high school. I always found friendships difficult to navigate. I would attach myself to one or two girls and then be devastated if the friendship didn't work out. I didn't feel like I was on solid footing with friendships until college. I would like to thank my longtime friends like Pam and Emily and others for sticking with me. I love you!In speaking with my guest today, Shasta Nelson, I learned once again how important friendships are. Both women and men alike need friendships. These connections are crucial for our physical, mental, and emotional health. It was a privilege to have Shasta on the show!During our conversation, Shasta and I also chatted about:How her work as a pastor was a natural start to her current work with friendship.We did a brief tour of her books, including Friendships Don't Just Happen, Frientimacy, and The Business of Friendship.We talked about the friendship triangle, which was so important that I shared it with my daughter, Charlotte, and will share it with my little one, Olivia, when she gets older.Why we need friendships at work, even when we are managers or in other leadership positions.The impact that friendships or a lack thereof has on our health.And how we can foster friendships in remote or hybrid work environments.And moreWe packed a lot of juiciness into our conversation and covered a lot of ground!

Welcome back to the final episode of our friendship miniseries! In this episode we're joined by female friendship expert and author of Frientimacy, Shasta Nelson to talk all about making and maintaining friends.If you'd rather watch the podcast you can find the whole video episode on our Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextraspodcast?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=join_linkWe start the episode by asking Shasta why people have difficulty making friends and hear some different ways of making friends. Shasta explains that most people don't know how to make friends in a meaningful way, or realise that making friends requires a lot of effort, so we talk about what not to do when making friends.We discuss where to make friends as an adult (ie. outside of education, which many people struggle with) and Shasta names the three pillars of any good adult friendship and what we can do if we have a problem with our friends in one of those areas.It obviously wouldn't be an episode of Sextras without these, so we had to ask Shasta about how love languages and attachment styles affect our friendships and how that influences whether we feel valued as a friend and how we show affection towards our friends.Thank you so much to Shasta for joining us for our final episode of the friendship miniseries, it was certainly very informative for us but we hope it was for all our listeners too! You can find out more about Shasta on her website https://www.shastanelson.com and make sure to buy any of her three books.As always you can find more of us on Tiktok, Instagram or Facebook @sextraspodcast, our website www.sextraspodcast.com or JOIN OUR PATREON community for access to the full video episode, behind the scenes content and bonus episodes https://patreon.com/sextraspodcast?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=join_link.Thank you for listening, we'll be back in a couple of weeks with our period miniseries!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

J'avais à cœur de vous parler des amitiés car c'est un élément essentiel pour notre bien-être et notre bonheur. Dans cet épisode, nous verrons les 3 ingrédients qui nous permettent de les construire et de les approfondir ! Rendez-vous dans l'épisode pour les découvrir ☺️ -----------------------

You're in for a treat this week with guest Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy. If you're finding your footing in female friendships, asking questions about boundaries, or wondering how to get to know new people, this episode is for you. Shasta lays out three things every friendship needs and explains that you don't need more time but better connections in your relationships. She's clear, helpful, and we loved this interview! If you did too, take a moment to share with friends - that helps other people find the show! You can also rate and review Why Tho to show your support. Interested in connecting with Tiffany and Ashley? Here's a few links to their work: www.tiffanybluhm.com The Resisterhood Cohort: https://forms.gle/YS7bstwKeENKaPJE6 www.ashabercrombie.org/book www.ashleyabercrombie.substack.com

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In this weekend edition: Trying to make and maintain friendships as an adult can be hard; trying to do it during a global pandemic is a whole other feat. The past two years have disrupted our lives in many ways, including our close friendships. Between lockdowns, canceled events, and social distancing, many of us found ourselves physically apart from our closest friends when we needed them most. Some of us gradually drifted away from friends we had once been close to, while other friends became lifelines of support during times of grief and loss. Friendship experts see the pandemic as a time that has tested our closest bonds, reminding us that it's normal for friendships to end. They also emphasize the importance of being seen by a close few, not just for our self-esteem but also for our mental wellbeing. Like a good diet or regular exercise routine, studies show that a healthy friendship can reduce levels of stress and even boost our cognitive health. As the restrictions of the pandemic lift and we begin to attend public events and re-enter social spaces, how do we go about building new friendships? And for the pre-pandemic friendships we already have, how do we strengthen their bond? This week on AirTalk, guest host Kyle Stokes spoke with a leading expert on friendships and author of the book “Frientimacy – How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness,” Shasta Nelson about how the pandemic tested our friendships and some ways we can restore them. This program is made possible in part by the Corporation for Public Broadcasting, a private corporation funded by the American people.   Support the show: https://laist.com

In this episode, we talk about friends (not the TV show). What do we look for in a friend? What creates long-lasting friendships? What do we do when friendships aren't working out? How do we break up with a friend?Well....we don't know. But join us anyway as we hash out some of friendship's biggest questions.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theholistichoedown)

Life is better shared with friends so what makes someone a genuine friend?  There are many characteristics that set close friends apart from the rest. In this episode I'll share the top 5 qualities I've found from my research on the essential traits that create an authentic friendship. Links https://www.livingoncetwice.com/ IG@livingoncetwice  Shasta Nelson Frientimacy TedTalk

This week on the podcast we talk about Frientimacy . We talk about my opinion and Shasta's study and theory about friendship and how to make them successful. We go over a ted talk and more. Share your feedback on social media and I will be sure to respond! Instagram: @nightsatnefertitis www.instagram.com/nightsatnefertitis/ @naghamtab www.instagram.com/naghamtab/ Tiktok Account @naghamtab www.tiktok.com/@naghamtab?lang=en For more information about what is happening in Palestine follow on Instagram: @sbeih.jpg www.instagram.com/sbeih.jpg/ My recommendation for this week is: Check out Shasta Nelson and everything she knows about friendship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmJyWreER7A&t=339s 
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Pals, it's a friendship grab bag! We're chatting with Katie Seaver, a deep-thinker looking for a deep friendship who placed a classified ad in our newsletter seeking one, and then we're diving into friendship age gaps and group chat dynamics (a whole thing!).   Yes, you want to know Katie Seaver, who ran a classified ad in our newsletter that linked to a Google doc titled “Wanted: A deep + meaningful friendship in Northeast Los Angeles.” She's also a life coach with a newsletter that touches on, yup, friendship.   Shasta Nelson's book Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.   A shout-out to Bumble BFF.   The story of the rude TikTok and the woman who deserved (and found) new friends.   An interview with Lakshmi Rengarajan, host of the podcast Paired by the People, about asking intentional questions on romantic or friend dates.   A timeline of Kourtney Kardashian and Addison Rae's friendship.   “I Want What They Have, Friendship Edition: Tilda Swinton and Timothée Chalamet.”   "Why Befriending People of Different Ages is Vital in an Ageist Society" from the Sunday Riley blog.   From 2001: “GroupMe and the rise of group everything.”   Ahhh, group emails. Please see the book Hey Ladies!: The Story of 8 Best Friends, 1 Year, and Way, Way Too Many Emails.   Chris Black's 2018 GQ piece “The Group Chat Saved My Life.”   “Sending Smiley Emojis? They Now Mean Different Things to Different People” from The Wall Street Journal.   Got friendship thoughts? Other thoughts? Share them at @athingortwohq, podcast@athingortwohq.com, and 833-632-5463.    Want more? That's where Secret Menu comes in.   Make stunning digital stuff with the free online graphic-design platform Projector. Tune into How To Do the Pot for practical advice about weed for women by women. Do your nails—and well—with Olive & June's Mani System and take 20% off with the code ATHINGORTWO. Get dreamy, chill waves with Conair's Double Ceramic Triple Barrel Waver. YAY.   Produced by Dear Media

Often times women go through friendship breakup and feel isolated and all alone. Ending a friendship that no longer serves you can be very hard. In today’s episode, I am sharing ways to support you in moving on after a friendship has ended so you can begin to grow and position yourself to attract new friends in your life. Take a listen and feel free to share your key takeaways with me on Instagram @siobhansudberry or @befreeproject Journal Prompt: What's the last thing that you learned? Affirmation: I was created to be abundant.   CLICK HERE TO BUY ME A CUP OF COFFEE   Want to ask a question about personal growth or friendship or you want to share your takeaways from an episode? Call (216) 438-0830 and leave a voicemail with your name, where you're from, and your question or share your thoughts. I can't wait to hear from you!   Mentioned on the show:   Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow &  Ann Friedman   Frientimacy by Shasta Nelson    Resources Just For You:   THE BEFREE INNER CIRCLE: www.befreeinnercircle.com   THE HOW-GUIDE TO FINDING YOUR FOREVER FRIENDS https://www.befreeproject.com/forever-friends-guide/   MY SIX-STEP ROADMAP TO BEING FREE: https://www.befreeproject.com/roadmap-opt-in   THE BEFREE PROJECT PODCAST SHOW NOTES: http://befreeproject.com/gbf/how-to-move-on-after-a-friendship-breakup   FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/befreeproject/ https://www.instagram.com/siobhansudberry/

The Pirates discuss Shasta Nelson's concept of Frientimacy and take a quiz to see where they fall on each of the "frientimacy" requirements. Are they the same? Does the quiz show them as compatible? Let's find out where they fall on the frientimacy scale!!  

BFFs forevereverver, right? Um... Real deal friendship expert Shasta Nelson comes with all the advice and practical strategy for confronting loneliness the majority of us are feeling right now, navigating friend breakups, making a new crew, and cultivating relationships. Even during a pandemic.    Go deeper on the Frientimacy Triangle with a copy of Shasta Nelson’s Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.Find more resources or work with Shasta on shastanelson.com and join the Girlfriend Circles community.Download the worksheet inspired by this episode to help you put pen to paper on making your relationship with beauty more about you and less about standards. Never Been Asked is a production of Woman On LLCHost: Maxie McCoyCreators + Executive Producers: Maxie McCoy and Lisa RaphaelProducer + Editor: Sharissa WrightA week in Woman On starts with watching (or listening ;) Learn more about how to move forward with the rest of the Woman On Collective at womanoncollective.comFollow @womanoncollective on IG

If you want deeper and more meaningful friendships, you want  "frientimacy".  Shasta Nelson is a friendship expert who coined that word.  She says to develop strong friendships, we need three things:  consistency, vulnerability and positivity.  Shasta is a TEDx speaker. She has appeared on The Today Show and The Steve Harvey Show.  She's also the author of three books on friendship.     Friendships Don’t Just Happen   Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness     The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of the Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time   Shasta Nelson's website:  www.ShastaNelson.com Follow Colleen on Instagram:  @Colleen_Odegaard Colleen's website:  www.ColleenOdegaard.com      

In today's episode, you will learn the three things that every single friendship needs to grow. You can have amazing friendships that feel so good to your soul as long as you're willing to put in the effort. What you'll learn to do can be applied to your current friendships and also new friendships in your life. Take a listen and feel free to share your key takeaways with me on Instagram @siobhansudberry or @befreeproject Journal Prompt: How can I be a better friend to myself? Affirmation: I make time for people and things that are important to me. CLICK HERE TO BUY ME A CUP OF COFFEE   Mentioned on the show:  Frientimacy by Shasta Nelson    Resources Just For You: THE BEFREE INNER CIRCLE: www.befreeinnercircle.com MY SIX STEP ROADMAP TO BEING FREE: https://www.befreeproject.com/roadmap-opt-in THE BEFREE PROJECT PODCAST SHOW NOTES: http://befreeproject.com/gbf/3-things-every-friendship-needs FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/befreeproject/ https://www.instagram.com/siobhansudberry/

Shasta Nelson is a leading expert on Friendship. She's been quoted in magazines and newspapers, online and print, including New York Times, The Washington Post, and Readers Digest, and has been interviewed live on over dozens of TV shows, including the TODAY Show and Steve Harvey Show. Plus, if you haven't yet seen her popular TEDx talk then you'll want to watch that later!Her previous books include Friendships Don't Just Happen! which is a guide for making new friends as an adult, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness which teaches us how to make our relationships more meaningful. But it's her newest book that we're talk about today as she takes her expertise about friendship into the workplace in The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time. In this conversation we talk about loneliness and how it should never be a source of shame, how to gauge it and tell if that is what you are feeling. We touch on mens' friendships and how the pandemic may actually be helping them to engage on a closer level.One of the most important aspects for me was the discussion around how to take responsibility for your own part in your friendships and how to deepen them and improve them using Shasta's Frientimacy triangle of positivity, consistency and vulnerability.Lastly, we talk about how to maintain and even grow work friendships even though you may not even be able to be at work just now.If you have friends, would like to deepen your friendships or understand where you are on the unfulfilled/loneliness scale and what to do about it, then this is a must-listen conversation. You can find Shasta on:www.shastanelson.comIG - @shastamnelsonYou can also check out Tipsy Tea on www.tipsytea.co.uk and use the discount code CTAF to get a free measure glass!

Today’s guest is a leading expert on friendship and how we can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in our lives. She speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She’s been quoted in the New York Times, The Washington Post, and Reader’s Digest, and has been interviewed live on over a dozen TV shows, including the TODAY Show and The Steve Harvey Show. She was selected by Facebook to be their media spokesperson and friendship expert for Friends Day 2018. Her previous books include “Friendships Don’t Just Happen!” and “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.” She’s taken her expertise about friendship into the workplace in her latest book, “The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.” Her TEDx talk, “Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships” has been viewed over 400,000 times. Please join me in welcoming Shasta Nelson.   Would you leave an honest rating and review on Apple Podcast? Or Stitcher? They are extremely helpful and I read each and every one of them. Thanks for the inspiration! In this episode we discuss: her thoughts on leadership: “Leadership is influence and having the influence to help people maximize who they are.” her journey of leadership goes back to when she was 8-years-old and her sisters were her followers. her original plan to become a war correspondent but how she ended up becoming a pastor and studying divinity in college. her passion to encourage and promote having healthy relationships. how she built a “match.com” but for friendship. how important it is to know your strengths and weaknesses in whatever industry you are in. how positivity, consistency, vulnerability are the basic requirements for strong  and meaningful relationships. how the pandemic has changed the way friendships are cultivated and nurtured. her transition from pastoring to coaching. Links Shasta Nelson on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. www.ShastaNelson.com TEDx Talk: “Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships” www.thebusinessoffriendship.com - FREE toolkit Books mentioned in this episode: “The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time” by Shasta Nelson “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness” by Shasta Nelson “Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends” by Shasta Nelson “Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community” by Robert Putman Other Resources Learn more about #NoMoreBadZoom, Robbie’s weekly virtual happy hour. Learn more about the National Speakers Association. About Robbie: Robbie Samuels is a keynote speaker, TEDx speaker, and relationship-based business strategy coach who has been recognized as a “networking expert” by Harvard Business Review Ascend, Forbes, Lifehacker, and Inc and as an "industry expert in the field of digital event design" by JDC Events. He created The 5% Advantage Program, a four-week experiential program that helps presenters grow in their confidence with Zoom, online facilitation, and virtual event design so they can reduce their tech angst and host more engaging online experiences that meet the purpose of the convening and participants' need for content and connection. He is the host of #NoMoreBadZoom Virtual Happy Hour, a popular weekly virtual event that explores new ways to design engaging virtual experiences. He assists organizations with bringing their in-person events strategically online as a Virtual Event Design Consultant, Virtual Emcee, and Zoom Producer. He is the author of the best-selling business book Croissants vs. Bagels: Strategic, Effective, and Inclusive Networking at Conferences and has been profiled in the Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Fast Company.

Today's guest is a leading expert on friendship and how we can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in our lives. She speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She's been quoted in the New York Times, The Washington Post, and Reader's Digest, and has been interviewed live on over a dozen TV shows, including the TODAY Show and The Steve Harvey Show. She was selected by Facebook to be their media spokesperson and friendship expert for Friends Day 2018. Her previous books include “Friendships Don't Just Happen!” and “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.” She's taken her expertise about friendship into the workplace in her latest book, “The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.” Her TEDx talk, “Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships” has been viewed over 400,000 times. Please join me in welcoming Shasta Nelson. In this episode we discuss: her thoughts on leadership: “Leadership is influence and having the influence to help people maximize who they are.” her journey of leadership goes back to when she was 8-years-old and her sisters were her followers. her original plan to become a war correspondent but how she ended up becoming a pastor and studying divinity in college. her passion to encourage and promote having healthy relationships. how she built a “match.com” but for friendship. how important it is to know your strengths and weaknesses in whatever industry you are in. how positivity, consistency, vulnerability are the basic requirements for strong  and meaningful relationships. how the pandemic has changed the way friendships are cultivated and nurtured. her transition from pastoring to coaching. Listen, subscribe and read show notes at www.OnTheSchmooze.com - episode 223.

We need Friends... So why are they so tough to develop and maintain? Join  our Conversation with Friendship Expert Shasta Nelson Shasta Nelson is an award winning speaker and author of books "Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness", "Friendships Don't just happen!" and her business book "The Business of Friendship".  She has developed robust strategies for connecting, developing and maintaining friendships and even how to end a friendship well. I have to admit that I am not the best friendship maintainer, even though I have a wide friendship circle of connections I have held for many years.  I think part of my success is choosing amazing, kind hearted people who tolerate my "busyness", lack of consistency and obsessions with eclectic interests.  In other words, I think I might have already failed at Shasta's recommendations, but I think we all have something to learn about the work required to develop engaged friendships for a lifetime. This is a great opportunity for us to consider Shasta's key teachings and ask questions about our friendship struggles and frustrations as well as our hopes, longing and desire for meaningful connection. Just yesterday, I had a conversation with a client ... who disclosed feelings of loneliness.  When we discussed the people that this person was closest to, he admitted that he had not been making the effort to reach out to others but was struggling that they were not reaching out to him.  This sounds familiar to so many of us... We can feel lonely but then hold ourselves back for a variety of reasons. I am excited to hear how Shasta can guide us, especially when we may have trauma that is linked specifically to being betrayed or neglected in a traumatic relationship with others. So please join the conversation as we dig into the question of Friendship. Let's consider the following ideas  that Shasta Nelson offers on friendship: Why do so many people feel lonely even though they know so many people? Why is it that a person can go out to a social event (i.e., family dinner, bar, zoom visit) only to feel lonelier during and after then we did prior to the event? Why are Consistency, Vulnerability and Positivity considered to be crucial to developing and maintaining friendships? Can you discuss each of these. What are your key methods for establishing early connection, developing a friendship foundation, maintaining a friendship for the long run? You wrote a good titled "Friendships don't just happen" – I see that many people (wonderful, kind people) feel lonely and don't seem to have the skills for making friendships later in life (after finishing school).  Why is this? And what should they do? What about when relationships go badly?  You are in a relationship with someone who is overly demanding, negative, or even mean?  How do we free ourselves from troubling relationships so we can move onto something better without feeling guilty or lonely?  I know you focus primarily on female friendships but men also need this guidance.  I wonder if you will expand your Friendship work to men. Obviously there is much more which we will cover during the show. You have been discovered by a partner as acting out in a sexual way (outside of the relationship) that then leads to shameful feelings and consequences (i.e., divorce).  Or you have found evidence of your partner acting out in a sexual manner that once confronted has led to shame or remorse. Beyond being discovered this will lead to Impairments or interfering with day to day life, as a result of obsession or compulsions towards sexual addiction. Experiencing a cycle of recovery and repeat. Engaging in the behavior, disengaging from the behavior and then cycling back into the sexual addiction and once again feeling shame, remorse, and distress. So what can you do?  Ten great suggestions ... from Psychology Today Make it a health issue Embrace Quality and ditch quantity Ride out transitions Expect — and even embrace – false starts Commit to community Focus on follow-up Avoid technology traps Develop momentum End poisonous friendships Remember the little things Friendship is a topic for everyone. I notice that when people start connecting with others in a way that is nourishing , consistent and meaningful it is the number one indicator of recovery in my clinical practice.  It is an essential piece of growth that helps us cope with life challenges and a sense of warmth and peace on a very personal level.  So let's all start to grow this skill for a better and deeper life.  Yes, even in this COVID19 time.  There are many ways to connect safely online or in a way that allows for distance that are safe. Join us for an in-depth conversation. Bring your thoughts, questions, comments and let's discuss this interesting topic together  in this month's "Bear Psychology radio show" on Realityradio101.com program. Links & Resources: For more information about Friendship – https://singjupost.com/frientimacy-the-3-requirements-of-all-healthy-friendships-shasta-nelson-transcript/ Limiting Loneliness During a Pandemic https://www.girlfriendcircles.com/blog/2020/3/16/limiting-loneliness-during-a-pandemic Frientimacy: the 3 requirements of all healthy relationships https://youtu.be/hmJyWreER7A Strategies for Adult Friendship building https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/friendship-20/201605/10-ways-make-and-keep-friendships-adult

We all have friends. We all want to make money. But sometimes the idea of making money from your friends can feel like you're taking advantage of the relationship. Shasta Nelson rejoins Adam and Naresh to discuss how your can create profits from friendships and still maintain the healthy relationship you had before. It all goes back to her 3 cornerstones. Shasta is the Founder & CEO of Girlfriend Circles; New York Times' bestselling author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends, and the new book The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time. Website: www.ShastaNelson.com www.GirlfriendCircles.com Featured Photo by by Matheus Ferrero on Unsplash www.WorkFromHomeShow.com

Friendships don't just happen by chance. There's actual effort involved in creating and maintaining them. Shasta Nelson, author of the new book The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time, joins Adam and Naresh to discuss the 3 requirements of all healthy friendships, how to make friends while working from home, the pros and cons of having friends at work, and more. Shasta is the Founder & CEO of Girlfriend Circles; New York Times' bestselling author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends, and the new book The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time. Website: www.ShastaNelson.com www.GirlfriendCircles.com Featured Photo by Naassom Azevedo on Unsplash www.WorkFromHomeShow.com

Yard Sales (0:00:00)What are your thoughts on garage or yard sales? Are garage sales just a way of spring cleaning and reorganizing your home, or do you think there are some real hidden gems to be found at the neighbor's yard sale? This time of year is always good for a yard sale as more people spend time outdoors.Today on The Lisa Showwe are pleased to have with us an expert of sorts on this topic. We are joined by Reyne Hirsch, a media personality known for her 13-seasons on the PBS series Antiques Roadshow. Reyne will help us understand why we might not want to overlook these neighborhood garage sales this season.    Handling Life's Stressful Moments (0:22:00)Dr. Andrew Wittman, founder and CEO of the Mental Toughness Training Center and creator of the "My Inner Armor Perpetual Resilience" apps, explains what we can do to overcome the stressful moments in each day and stay cool when we're under pressure.   Younger (0:38:28)Author Pamela Redmond talks with Lisa and Richie about her novel, "Younger," and why the story is personally important to her.   Forensic Sketching (0:52:50)Have you ever wondered how a sketch artist draws someone they've never even seen before? Lois Gibson works with the Houston, Texas Police Department, and she holds the Guinness World Record for the world's most successful forensic artist. Her sketches have helped catch over 1200 criminals—and that number's still growing. She joins us today to tell us about her techniques and experiences.    Friendtimacy (1:10:36)Shasta Nelson, friendship expert and author of "Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness," gives advice for strengthening your friendships into adulthood.   The Lady Panel (1:28:58)Business professional Jeanette Bennett and author Ganel-Lyn Condie talk with Lisa about how women can support each other in today's competitive climate.  

On today’s episode of The Atlanta Small Business Show, we’re excited to welcome Shasta Nelson, a leading expert on friendship and healthy professional relationships. Shasta is also an acclaimed keynote speaker and author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness. Filled with scientific data, real-world research, and fascinating case studies, Shasta’s programs reveal how healthy relationships at work directly impact employee engagement, team culture, sales, recruiting, and retention. She also teaches strategies for the healthiest friendships, contributing to individual happiness and well-being. In this segment, she and Jim discuss building and nurturing remote work relationships with employees and co-workers and how important this is now more than ever. Tune-in to hear more from Shasta and let us know what you think in the comments section below. https://www.myasbn.com/small-business-shows/atlanta-small-business-show/how-to-cultivate-healthy-work-relationships-while-working-from-home-shasta-nelson-relationship-expert/

As part of our continuing coverage of the Coronavirus, we’re pleased to welcome Shasta Nelson, leading expert on friendship and healthy professional relationships. Shasta is also an acclaimed keynote speaker and author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness. In this segment, she and Jim discuss building and nurturing remote work relationships with employees and co-workers. https://www.cbtnews.com/cultivating-healthy-remote-work-relationships-with-employees-and-co-workers-shasta-nelson-business-relationship-expert/

In today’s episode, I am joined by the amazing Shasta Nelson. She is a friendship expert and a leading voice on loneliness and creating healthy relationships. She has so much to say about connection and friendships after loss and what happens to us when we are grieving. We talk about why do we let go of our relationships after loss and why we may lose relationships as well. My conversation with Shasta was truly fascinating. I learned so many things about myself in my experience of grieving friendships that I lost or changed after loss. I became such an independent woman, I thought nobody could understand my pain. I know that you have likely gone through a lot of transitions and lost friendships since your loss. I hope that you will take time to listen to this episode and that it will support you to find a new way to sustain and nurture your current relationships, how to make new friends, and find a new way to mend relationships that you have invested in and are still important to your life.   “We are lonely not because we don’t know enough people, but because we aren’t going deep enough with those we do know..” ~ Shasta Nelson   I encourage you to take notes while you listen to this episode, especially toward the beginning of our conversation, Shasta shares an exercise she called her “Loss List” that I would highly recommend to everyone. I’d love to hear what you think of this conversation. Be sure to comment below or connect with me on Instagram to tell me all about it. More About Shasta Nelson Shasta Nelson, a friendship expert, is a leading voice on creating healthy relationships in her efforts to eradicate the growing loneliness in our world. Her spirited and soulful voice for meaningful connections can be found in her books "Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness" and "Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends."  In addition to speaking across the country, she is also a frequent contributor to the media appearing on TV shows such as Katie Couric and The Today Show, and in countless magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, Health, and Forbes. You can connect with Shasta through her website and on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.  Things We Mention In This Episode Website: www.shastanelson.com  Book: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson Book: Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends by Shasta Nelson Online Community: Girlfriend Circles Temple Journey Weekend with Christina Rasmussen Book: Where Did You Go? by Christina Rasmussen Book: Second Firsts by Christina Rasmussen Newsletter - Message In a Bottle: Sign up for Christina’s weekly letter  Apple podcast reviews and ratings are really important to help get the podcast in front of more people to uplift and inspire them too, which is the ultimate goal. Thank you!

Shasta Nelson, friendship expert and author of "Friendships Don't Just Happen" and "Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness" is my guest today and I am over the moon! I loved her first book and asked her to be on my podcast after reading it. I was delighted she agreed and I flew through her second book! To find out more about Shasta go to www.shastanelson.com

In this live show, Shasta Nelson, author of Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy, discusses how to maintain friendships while juggling the demands of work. You’ll hear: How to cancel plans with a friend when you have to work How to react when someone always cancels plans with you How friendships affect your health Books: Friendships Don’t Just Happen, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Website: www.shastanelson.com Sara can be reached on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn. Leave a review:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/advice-to-my-younger-me/id1101880566

In this live show, Shasta Nelson, author of Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy, discusses how to handle some of the tricky situations that arise when your friends are also your co-workers. You’ll hear: Why it's important to have friends at work The ingredients of a genuine work friendship How to handle it when your friend becomes your boss Books: Friendships Don’t Just Happen, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Website: www.shastanelson.com Sara can be reached on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn. Leave a review:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/advice-to-my-younger-me/id1101880566

Melissa Coburn discusses the significance of Washington's birthplace, Shasta Nelson teaches how to strengthen adult relationships, Leslie Mueller talks about how to maintain an aquarium, Kendall King explains the benefits of raising bilingual kids, Lauren Sherry discusses how Quiktrip is protecting kids, Lisa and Richie chat about maintaining marital finances.

This week is about Mackerel vs Jenny Jenny, The Calabar "Scandal" & The Bridget's Saga. We spoke about Friendship & Frientimacy...the faucets of a healthy friendship. Regrets we have had in old friendships and how we plan to contribute to new wholesome friendships. Reference: YouTube: https://youtu.be/hmJyWreER7A

Hi Friends! In this week's episode, we sit down with our super friendly special guest, Julio Flores, to define what friendship means to us. In this hour and a half long episode, we discuss the meaning of "Frientimacy" and share some of our personal stories about friends from our childhood and high school days. We also discuss ways to stay connected with long distance friends, why social media friends can sometimes be awkward, why work is the best place to make new friends, and how to end a bad friendship. Lastly, we have some fun playing "The Seat of Questions" with Julio where he tells us how dark is dark. Do you know the answer? Listen to find out! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/xtineandjovi/support

Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is a leading friendship expert who is regularly quoted by the media for her leading thoughts on healthy relationships, including  The Today Show, The New York Times, Business Insider, and Real Simple.  She's the author of two books on healthy relationships: Friendships Don't Just Happen which is focused on making new friends, and  Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for … Continue reading "MMP #3 The Art and Practice of Friendship with Shasta Nelson" The post MMP #3 The Art and Practice of Friendship with Shasta Nelson appeared first on Mike Mantell.

How can you make more friends, REAL friends, online and offline? Join me and my guest, Shasta Nelson, as we talk about friendtimacy, girlfriend circles, and so much more. Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is a leading expert on friendship. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She is Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, her tribe of women committed to creating more friendship in this world and teaches monthly friendship skill-building classes at The Friendship University. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a frequent contributor to the media appearing on TV shows such as Katie Couric and The Today Show, and in countless magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, Health, and Forbes.

Tune into today’s podcast episode where I talk with Shasta Nelson, a leading expert on friendship and author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. Shasta shares valuable advice like: why having great friendships matter now more than ever before, the best ways you can deepen a friendship, when to know a friendship no longer serves you

Frientimacy is a new word in Shasta’s vocabulary that I would like to adopt.  In this episode we talk about her area of expertise - Friendships!  How to make friends, where to find them, which of the 5 circles they are in and how to be a great friend.  I immediately bought both of Shasta’s books the same day I concluded this interview.  There is no doubt in my mind that we have largely ignored the need for frientimacy in our relationships, our friendships, and I, for one, am not going to stand by and let that happen.  We need friends, good friends.  We deserve friends, good ones.  I believe that it’s not only possible, it’s a necessity (like breathing, for example).  Come on this “friend-ship” cruise with Shasta and I as we explore very real life scenarios and what you can do to increase your frientimacy - including where to find the quiz to see how you rank.  I did mine and shared it here on the show!  Listen in and listen up, ladies - your friendships are about to reach a whole new level of awesomesauce!

How many of us give much thought to the quality of our friendships or the ways we could be intentionally nourishing our friendships? Turns out there’s not only an art and a science to how we create really good friendships, but there’s a formula to the process as well. Shasta Nelson, author of “Friendships Don’t Just Happen” and “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness,” has truly become one of the world’s leading voices for friendship. In this conversation, we take a deep dive into the world of frientimacy and how we could all learn to upgrade this area of our lives.   Guest Bio Shasta Nelson is the author of “Frientimacy” and “Friendships Don't Just Happen.” A leading voice for friendship, Shasta speaks for corporations, churches, and conferences all over the country; writes books, blogs, and articles; provides expertise to media, creates teaching videos and class; gathers people for retreats and events; and consults and coaches leaders and teams-- all for the purpose of creating healthier friendships in this world. Learn more at shastanelson.com.   Mentioned in this Episode Friendships Don’t Just Happen by Shasta Nelson: https://www.amazon.com/Friendships-Dont-Just-Happen-GirlFriends/dp/1618580140 Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1580056075 The All-or-Nothing Marriage  by Eli J Finkel: https://www.amazon.com/All-Nothing-Marriage-Best-Marriages/dp/052595516X Frientimacy Quiz: https://www.girlfriendcircles.com/frientimacyquiz Girlfriend Circles: https://www.girlfriendcircles.com/   Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast   Web: https://kristenmanieri.com  Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: @kristenmanieri_ 

We're craving those few people who know us and love us no matter what. -Shasta Nelson In Episode 40, I talk with Shasta Nelson, M.Div. Shasta is a leading expert on friendship. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She is Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, her tribe of women committed to creating more friendship in this world and teaches monthly friendship skill building classes at The Friendship University. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a frequent contributor to the media appearing on TV shows such as Katie Couric and The Today Show, and in countless magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, Health, and Forbes. A few quotes from Shasta: "Most of us are lonely because we don't feel known by a few, and so it's not for lack of interaction, it's for lack of intimacy. Loneliness doesn't just mean not having people. It means not having the right people in the right way." "What we're looking for is really feeling like they notice us, they saw something in us, they acknowledge us, they recognize us, and that's really what all of us are walking through this world looking for. And to have a few people that can do that on a consistent basis is so, so, so important." Want to join Shasta for one of her trainings? The Frientimacy Weekend at 1440: https://1440.org/programs/frientimacy/ Find Shasta on social media: Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest or Girl Friend Circles Blog. Shasta's Frientimacy Triangle Want to learn more about your own frientimacy? Shasta has a quiz that scores people in each of the 3 areas of friendship so they know which area they might need to work on more. Take the Frientimacy Quiz.

A lot of us have issues with getting out there and making new friends, or staying consistent with our friendships… but, for some reason, we don’t focus on how this affects our health and well-being. Today’s conversation with Shasta Nelson completely re-shaped how we view friendship – and it’s never seemed more important! Shasta is an expert on friendship and the author of two books, Frientimacy and Friendships Don’t Just Happen!. She’s also the Founder of GirlfriendCircles.com, which you can think of as a gym membership for your friendships. We picked this topic because some of our listeners wanted to hear an episode about friendship – get in touch and join The Wine & Shiners Facebook Group if there’s something YOU want to hear more about. We Chat About: How we learn (or don’t) about starting and maintaining friendships How loneliness is like hunger The 3 requirements for all healthy relationships How you can break up with friends Reflecting inward so that you can be a better friend to others Starting big conversations that improve important friendships How to make new friends Resources: Learn more at GirlfriendCircles.com Connect with Shasta: ShastaNelson.com | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | YouTube Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends Shout Outs: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman Connect With Us: iTunes: https://bit.ly/wineandshine Join our FB Group: The Wine and Shiners Like our FB Page: Wine & Shine Podcast Instagram: @wineandshinepodcast Vivino: https://www.vivino.com/users/wineandshinepodcast Snapchat: wineshinepod Email: wineandshinepodcast@gmail.com Production & Development for Wine & Shine Podcast by Podcast Masters

A lot of us have issues with getting out there and making new friends, or staying consistent with our friendships… but, for some reason, we don’t focus on how this affects our health and well-being. Today’s conversation with Shasta Nelson completely re-shaped how we view friendship – and it’s never seemed more important! Shasta is an expert on friendship and the author of two books, Frientimacy and Friendships Don’t Just Happen!. She’s also the Founder of GirlfriendCircles.com, which you can think of as a gym membership for your friendships. We picked this topic because some of our listeners wanted to hear an episode about friendship – get in touch and join The Wine & Shiners Facebook Group if there’s something YOU want to hear more about. We Chat About: How we learn (or don’t) about starting and maintaining friendships How loneliness is like hunger The 3 requirements for all healthy relationships How you can break up with friends Reflecting inward so that you can be a better friend to others Starting big conversations that improve important friendships How to make new friends Resources: Learn more at GirlfriendCircles.com Connect with Shasta: ShastaNelson.com | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | YouTube Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends Shout...

Who would have ever thought that we needed help with making friends? In the military, we have to make them quickly. In the first responder world, they are necessary to get through daily chaos. In both worlds, they are crucial to survival but did you know that we need to be working on this area of our life? According to Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy, we can't just tell someone our life story and suddenly be BFF's. In this episode, Shasta will explain the process of friendship and the importance of understanding just how deep and intimate the relationship actually is. What if you are more serious about the friendship than they are? What if you are incompatible? Can we be friends with the opposite sex?

Can friendship save the world? How do you handle it when your friends don't have the same political views? We're talking about the answers to both of these questions in today's podcast episode. Given the last week in the U.S., you may be asking if you can be friends with people who didn't vote the same way as you did. In this episode, we're talking to Shasta Nelson, author and Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, about friendships and how to handle it when you don't agree. We recorded this episode the day after the election so we couldn't help but touch on this subject and how it relates to friendship. We also talk about why feeling connected and having friendships can improve our health. Friendships can even help protect us from the impact of stress.  So, how do we manage and develop friendships? Is there even time for friendship among all the things we have to get done? If you're a mom, you may be feeling like it takes away from your kids if you make time for friends. We talk about why moms should drop the guilt about making time for friends and why it actually benefits your kids. When we do look at our friends, some of them wouldn't fall into a "best friends" category. Does that mean they aren't worth spending time with? Shasta talks about why it's ok to have friends at different levels. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. And if you want to make new friends, we don't need to audition people as the role of our "best friend." Friendships aren't discovered, they are developed. This episode is for you if you want to have better friends or if you want to know how to handle friends who don't vote the same way.

Shasta Nelson, author of two books about friendship – Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy, talks about the importance of friendships at work and how to navigate the tricky waters they can present.

As part of our series on Cultivating a Field of Love in all of our relationships, I thought we needed to get real and deep about our female friendships. Our interactions with other women are one of the main places we either strengthen our feminine power or give it away, or worse, revert to the shadow of feminine power and use tactics like manipulation, colluding, gossip, blame and guilt or just cut off people all together. Most of us didn't get training on how to show up in our female relationships from a place of courageous love, to both ask for what we need + use conflict, hurt feelings, disappointment and the hard stuff to create stronger connections with the women in our lives.  For this episode of Feminine Power Time I invited a woman who I have been deepening and growing my friendship with for about 9 years, who also just happens to be a leading expert on friendship and women's relationships. Her name is Shasta Nelson, and we invite you to join us to explore:     1. How to navigate conflict with a friend when your feelings get hurt, or she hurts you 2. How to set right expectations for different levels of intimacy and vulnerability  3. How to know when a friendship is one to grow or one to let go and how to do both. We'll share some super power tools you can use in your friendships right away + as always we end with a meditation to tap into your heart to see what friendships inside your life are ready to grow and which maybe time to let go.    ****  Here's a little about Shasta.. Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women's friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don't Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show. 

http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/107 Welcome to episode 107 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! The conversation you’ll hear on today’s show is so important; it’s about friendships, and how to develop the intimacy and BFFs you really want. And there is no one better qualified to speak to this than Shasta Nelson. Shasta is the founder of GirlfriendsCircle.com, a woman's friendship matching site for women across the US and Canada. She also has authored two books on the subject of friendship, Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy. Plus she writes regularly for The Huffington Post and has appeared on Katie Couric and The Today Show. Today we talk about the importance friendship plays in enriching our lives, changing us and keeping us healthy. Shasta also explains how to develop intimacy and when to know a friendship is ready to develop deeper intimacy.  

The Best Ever You Show is proud to welcome Shasta Nelson to our show. Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women's friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and the author of Friendships Don't Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of Girlfriends. Shasta Nelson has been interviewed on the subject of friendship by The Katie Couric Show, The Today Show, The Early Show, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, Martha Stewart Radio, magazines such as Essence, Parents, More, Redbook and Glamour. Her spirited and soulful voice can be found on her weekly blog, Shasta's Friendship Blog, and her Huffington Post column where she regularly contributes on relationship health. She also teaches, lectures, and hosts speed-friending and Friendship Accelerator events in San Francisco and throughout the U.S. Numerous friendship paradigms stem from Shasta's teaching including: the Friendship Continuum to highlight the five intensities of friendships, the Frientimacy triangle that models how healthy friendships are formed, and the 5 Stages of Friendship that reveals the life span of a friendship.