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"Confidence isn't built—it's practiced."   The Confidence Myth What we call confidence is often just comfortable competence.  But true confidence is revealed precisely when we don't know what we're doing.   The 5 Confidence Killers External Validation: Outsourcing your worth makes you one criticism away from collapse. Comparison: Every minute comparing is a minute not creating. Comparison assassinates action. Overthinking: Analysis paralysis is fear wearing a lab coat. Fear of Failure: Confident people see failure as data, not definition. Broken Self-Trust: Every broken self-promise erodes your confidence foundation. Building Unshakeable Confidence Build Self-Trust: Make tiny commitments and keep them. Watch trust compound. Use Failure: The question isn't "Will I fail?" but "What will I learn?" Take Action: Confidence isn't built in contemplation—it's forged in movement. Speak to Yourself Like Someone You Love:  Your internal dialogue creates your reality.  Choose Daily: Confidence is a choice. Choose it before you feel it. Nicole Kalil is one of the most inspiring women I've met in a long, long time.   Her website; https://nicolekalil.com/ Subscribe to This Is Woman's Work  her Top 0.5% podcast  Book: "Validation is for Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con" Free Confidence Assessment: confidenceassessment.com  

In this episode of Lessons From A Quitter, we tackle the deep-rooted expectations and "shoulds" that often keep us stuck in careers that no longer serve us. Joined by Nicole Kalil, we explore how to identify and meet your own needs, break free from societal delusions, and embrace a mindset shift for more freedom and joy. We discuss the reality of careers—no dream job is perfect—and the power of small, intentional steps toward rediscovery. Nicole shares practical tools, including her confidence-building workbook, to help you rewrite the rules and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.

Have you been thinking about quitting something—or someone—but can't decide if it's the right time? In this episode, Nicole Kalil is joined by Goli Kalkhoran, Master Certified Life Coach and host of the Lessons from a Quitter podcast, to break down the stigma around quitting and show how it can be a path to clarity and fulfillment. Quitting isn't about giving up; it's about recognizing when it's time to stop pouring energy into things that no longer serve you. Goli shares tools and inspiration to pivot toward something intentional, aligned, and meaningful. In this episode, we explore: How to tell if it's time to quit or push harder. Why quitting isn't the opposite of perseverance but the companion to clarity. Practical steps for trusting yourself in career and life pivots. The power of choosing to stop, reset, and realign with what truly matters.

When you think of abundance, do you think of having more—more money, more success, more stuff? What if true abundance isn't just about accumulation, but about appreciation? In this episode, Nicole Kalil is joined by Cathy Heller—transformational coach, spiritual guide, meditation teacher, and host of the Abundant Ever After podcast—to challenge everything we think we know about living a full and prosperous life. Cathy's new book, Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease, invites us to shift our mindset, tap into the flow of prosperity, and welcome abundance into every aspect of our lives. Together, Cathy and Nicole explore how abundance is something we tune into, not something we chase, and how trusting in your inherent enoughness can unlock joy and ease in ways you never imagined. So let's TUNE IN. Tune in to the limitless possibilities, to receive what's there for you, tune in to the trust that lies within. Trust that you are already enough and create a life that feels full—not just because of what's in it, but because of who you are in it. Connect with Cathy Heller:  Website: https://www.cathyheller.com/  Book: http://cathyheller.com/book IG: https://www.instagram.com/cathy.heller  FB: https://www.facebook.com/cathyhellerbiz/ Related Podcast Episodes: 206 / A Better Way to Define Success with Stella Grizont 026 / Are Your Money Beliefs Holding You Back? Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

Nicole Kalil is all about building confidence and living your desired life. Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Women's Work” is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. Well that, and an abundant amount of coffee. An in-demand speaker, author of Validation is for Parking, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This is Woman's Work” Podcast, her stalker-like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She shares HOW you build it and gives actionable tools you can implement immediately. A fugitive of the C-Suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business, giving her insight into what - structurally, systemically and socially – is and isn't serving both women and leaders within an organization. Episode Insight: Confidence isn't about comparing yourself to others and feeling superior. True confidence means there's no need to compare at all because it's rooted in your unwavering trust in yourself. Background: In this episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Nicole Kalil, founder and confidence Sherpa of Women's Work. Nicole shares her journey of building confidence, the concept behind Women's Work, and her intriguing role as the “Confidence Sherpa.” We discuss how to proactively cultivate confidence, overcome head trash, and confront common confidence derailers such as perfectionism and comparison. Nicole also touches on steps for actionable advice and insights from her book, 'Validation is for Parking.' Tune in for an inspiring conversation full of practical tips for anyone looking to boost their self-confidence How to find Nicole: FREE 40+ page Confidence Building Workbook for your listeners: http://eepurl.com/h_moXr Website: https://nicolekalil.com/ This Is Woman's Work podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/this-is-womans-work-with-nicole-kalil/id1493225373 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil Please order my book, The Ownership Mindset, on Amazon or Barnes and Noble Follow me on Instagram or LinkedIn. Subscribe to my podcast Reflect Forward on iTunes Or check out my new YouTube Channel, where you can watch full-length episodes of Advice From a CEO! And if you are looking for a keynote speaker or a podcast guest, click here to book a meeting with me to discuss what you are looking for!

What if the key to unlocking your full potential wasn't just about working harder or climbing the ladder, but about understanding the invisible forces that shape how others see you? In today's episode, Erin dives into a transformative conversation with Alison Fragale, an expert on power, status, and the subtle art of influence. Her groundbreaking insights from her book, Likeable Badass, offer a powerful roadmap for navigating life's unspoken rules with authenticity, strategy, and even a little bit of fun. In this episode, Erin and Alison unpack the dynamics of power and status, revealing why they're more than just workplace buzzwords—they're the foundation of how we're perceived and what opportunities come our way. Alison explains why respect is the true currency of influence, how life can be approached like a game, and why caring about what others think of you is not just normal but essential. Whether you're navigating office politics, tackling imposter syndrome, or simply striving to show up as your best self, this conversation is packed with practical wisdom you can use to level up. Here are 5 big takeaways to chew on:  1. The Essence of Power and Status Alison began by distinguishing power from status: Power: Control over resources that others value (e.g., a boss deciding promotions or a parent holding car keys). Status: The respect and value others assign to you. She explained that while power is significant, status often precedes it. Respect and value lay the foundation for obtaining resources and authority. Without respect, people hesitate to entrust others with power, even if they technically qualify for it. Key Takeaway: "Resources follow respect." Gaining power often starts with earning the respect of others. 2. Status as a Playful Game Alison introduced the concept of status as a "game" using an insightful definition: “A game is a problem-solving activity approached with a playful attitude.” She encouraged adopting this mindset when tackling unfair or challenging situations. Though life's "games" (e.g., gaining status or respect) can be unjust, they can also be approached with creativity and enjoyment. By doing so, we can reclaim agency and find joy even in adversity. Key Takeaway: Life may not always be fair, but embracing a playful approach can make navigating status challenges more manageable—and even enjoyable. 3. Challenging the “Don't Care What Others Think” Mentality Alison debunked the common advice to "not care what others think," labeling it as misleading and counterproductive. Humans are inherently social beings, reliant on their "audience" for validation and interaction. Instead of ignoring feedback, she encouraged understanding and influencing your audience. This nuanced perspective bridges authenticity with strategy: staying true to yourself while recognizing how others perceive you influences your outcomes. Key Takeaway: Don't obsess over others' opinions, but don't dismiss them either. Learn to influence perceptions strategically while maintaining authenticity. If you're curious to learn more about external validation vs. Internal confidence, check out this episode, too: Episode 247: Validation vs. Confidence: What's the Real Difference? A Chat with Nicole Kalil 4. The Likable Badass Framework Alison introduced the concept behind her book title, Likable Badass, rooted in the two critical dimensions of status: Capability (Y-Axis): Competence, decisiveness, and the ability to get things done. Caring (X-Axis): Warmth, sincerity, and consideration for others. Everyone aspires to be seen as both capable and caring, and those who embody both traits earn the highest respect. The title encapsulates this balance in a catchy, empowering way. Key Takeaway: Strive to be both capable and caring. This sweet spot not only aligns with authenticity but also enhances how others perceive and respect you.  5. Overcoming People-Pleasing Tendencies Alison tackled people-pleasing behaviors, which often stem from a skewed emphasis on caring at the expense of assertiveness. People pleasers prioritize others' happiness, often sacrificing their own. She emphasized that true status requires balancing caring with self-assertion, ensuring mutual respect rather than one-sided compromise. Key Takeaway: To overcome people-pleasing, assert your needs alongside your care for others. Authenticity paired with assertiveness builds respect without self-sacrifice.  Closing Thoughts Alison's insights offer a fresh lens on navigating the complexities of status and power. By blending authenticity with strategic action, we can shape how others perceive us and create the outcomes we desire. Whether you aim to become a "likable badass" or simply want to navigate life's "games" with more joy, these principles can guide your journey. How will you use these strategies to elevate your status and unlock new opportunities? Let us know in the comments below!   No, You Hang Up First (Let's Keep Connecting) Did today's episode resonate with you? Leave us a review sharing your favorite insight from Alison and we'll send you a free signed copy of I See You! A Leader's Guide to Energizing Your Team through Radical Empathy. Have another question that we can answer? Leave us a Speakpipe audio clip and we'll answer it in an upcoming episode. Don't want to miss another episode? If you're a Spotify listener, find our show here and click “Follow.” If you're an Apple Podcast listener, click here and make sure to hit “+Follow.” Want 2 emails a week from us? One with a quick tip you can implement right away to enhance your personal and/or professional lives & one of our famous F.A.I.L. 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Too many women suffer from self-doubt or imposter syndrome. They doubt their inner strength and power. Confidence coach and author Nicole Kalil helps women gain the confidence they didn't know they had. She is the host of the podcast This is Woman's Work. She is the author of Validation is for Parking as well as an in-demand speaker and respected coach. She has identified five confidence derailers that keep people going down the self-doubt spiral. Her confidence builders stop the vicious cycle. Learn more in this episode of Women Road Warriors when Shelley Johnson speaks with Nicole.https://nicolekalil.com/Link to free confidence book: http://eepurl.com/h_moXrhttps://womenroadwarriors.com/ https://womenspowernetwork.net#NicoleKalil #RebuildConfidence #SelfDoubt #StopSelfDoubt #ThisIsWomansWork #ValidationIsForParking #ConfidenceDerailers #ShelleyJohnson #ShelleyMJohnson #KathyTuccaro #WomenRoadWarriors

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Delving into the power of intentional family forecasting, techniques to maintain a thriving marriage, and how to balance professional and personal lives, Naketa welcomes the dynamic Nicole Kalil, an expert in gender equity and the host of the "This is Woman's Work" podcast. Nicole shares her innovative concept of "family forecasting," a biannual ritual where she and her husband align their professional goals, finances, and family values. This practice, she explains, has been crucial in maintaining a strong marital connection and setting a positive example for their 10-year-old daughter. Nicole also discusses the importance of prioritizing tasks that truly matter, as well as the need to distinguish between simply being good at something and being passionately engaged. Tune in to discover actionable insights and inspiring stories to elevate your journey towards balanced living.Time Stamps:00:00 Eliminating gender roles in 2024.03:44 How to align family goals, values, finances, and schedules.09:55 Why choosing intentional selfishness is necessary for achieving balance in relationships.11:33 Avoid comparing yourself to illusions; embrace life's complexities.15:52 How to prioritize, avoid distractions, and commit fully to balance.18:46 Discovering fulfillment through prioritizing personal passions.More about Nicole KalilNicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. Well, that, and an abundant amount of coffee. Host of the "This Is Woman's Work" podcast, author of the bestseller Validation isFor Parking, respected coach, and fugitive of the C-suite, her stalker-like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to be confident. She shares HOW you build it and gives actionable tools you can implement immediately. Wife, mom, and business owner-in whatever free time she has, she enjoys reading and wine guzzling, is an avid cheese enthusiast, a hotel snob, and is an avid peloton rider.Follow Nicole Kalil:https://nicolekalil.com/Instagram: nicolemkalilThis Is Woman's Work Podcast (wherever you listen to podcasts)Ready for self-care mastery that activates alignment in your life, business, and relationships? Join us in our new mentorship, the Women's Self-Care Guild- a sanctuary for ambitious women seeking peace. https://www.thigpro.com/mentorship More on the BBP:Balance Boldly for Ambitious Women in Business (and a few brave men) is a weekly podcast hosted by Naketa Ren Thigpen, the #1 Balance (and) Relationship Advisor in the world. The show offers work-life balance and relationship development strategies you can implement that help you navigate transitions in life while strengthening personal and professional relationships. Naketa and her incredibly potent guest focus on enhancing mental health and wellbeing without sacrificing boundaries, sustainable business growth practices, or relationship intimacy from the bedroom to the boardroom. The strategies shared in what feels like a mutual conversation with friends you trust will help you leave new multigenerational imprints and balance boldly. Your Review Matters!...

In this episode, Nicole Kalil shares invaluable insights on building confidence and overcoming self-doubt. She discusses the journey of choosing confidence until it becomes innate and embracing the power of resilience and authenticity in all your endeavors. Amber reflects on her own journey of building confidence, emphasizing the value of self-compassion and learning from past challenges. Key Takeaways Confidence is a firm and bold trust in oneself that can be practiced and cultivated over time. Inner knowing is essential for distinguishing between self-doubt and authentic confidence. Embracing monotonous activities and journaling can create space for self-reflection and inner growth. Learning from failures and setbacks is crucial for building trust in oneself and one's abilities. Confidence is not about being fearless but about choosing courage in the face of fear and uncertainty. Remember, confidence is not a destination but a journey of continuous growth and self-discovery. Are you ready to begin that journey? Tune in on your favorite listening app, on the website, or watch it on YouTube! Links & Mentioned Resources Validation is for Parking About Nicole Kalil Nicole Kalil is an in-demand speaker and the dynamic host of the This Is Woman's Work podcast. Known as the Confidence Sherpa, Nicole reveals how-to strategies that set her apart from other self-help experts. Previously a Fortune 100 C-suite executive, she's helped thousands of women reclaim their confidence so they can live authentically, both personally and professionally. Nicole lives with her husband and daughter in Andover, Massachusetts.  Connect with Nicole LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil/ Website: https://nicolekalil.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're covering a topic that falls into the category of “we've covered it before but it's worth repeating”. Because I know most, if not all, women struggle with setting and communicating boundaries as it flies in the face of our people-pleasing, helpful and perfectionist tendencies. So we're going to talk about Boundaries, again, but we're going to focus more on the actual words and what to say. Amy Green Smith joins us again for her last episode in our 4-part series (if you haven't listened to our last three episodes, I'd highly encourage you to do that!) Communicating boundaries in a productive and responsible way is going to require practice. Probably lots and lots of practice, given however many years we've spent not communicating them. Don't wait for your mic drop moment – don't expect perfection – don't spend endless amounts of time worrying about what the other person thinks about your boundary – just start practicing. Because that's how you get good at anything. Connect with Amy: Grab Amy's FREE-SOURCES at: https://amygreensmith.com/free       Only 2 spots available in Amy's Signature Worthy Program! To learn more visit  https://amygreensmith.com/worthy  Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman's Work Sponsor: To learn more about Snooze Fest and our other reTREATS hosted by Nicole Kalil, join my community or sign up here to confirm your interest and get additional information: https://forms.gle/NgLvgfVS7B91FUJE6

If you're tuning in for the first time, or just because this topic was of interest to you, I want to point out that this is Part 2 of our conversation on Fear & Failure, so if you didn't listen to part 1 just yet, I'd encourage you to go back to episode 197 from last week and start there. If you've already listened to Part 1, then I'm going to assume you're here because you've been not-so-patiently waiting for the completion of this conversation… and I can tell you it'll be worth the wait. I'm joined by Amy Green Smith, life coach, hypnotherapist, speaker, and communication expert. There is so much I could say about Amy, but I'm going to share something she has on her website that gave me the chills and brought tears to my eyes because it's so REAL, it's so relevant, and it's so HER – she says “I was fucking DONE being motivated from a place of guilt and fear. I realized that if push came to shove and I had to decide between making my family happy or making me happy, I CHOSE ME”. I feel everything about that, deeply.  No matter what, I don't care what is happening or what you're going thru, you are worthy and valuable. Neither fear nor failure can change that. Connect with Amy: Grab Amy's FREE-SOURCES and check out her 1:1 “Worthy” Coaching Program at: https://amygreensmith.com       IG: http://instagram.com/heyamygreensmith FB: http://facebook.com/heyamygreensmith LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heyamygreensmith X: http://twitter.com/heyamygreen Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman's Work Sponsor: To learn more about Snooze Fest and our other reTREATS hosted by Nicole Kalil, join my community or sign up here to confirm your interest and get additional information: https://forms.gle/NgLvgfVS7B91FUJE6 

Feeling lost or unsure of yourself?  This episode of the OWN IT SHOW is your guide to building unshakeable confidence!  Join me and my guest Nicole Kalil as she dissects the concept of confidence and self-worth. Nicole Kalil, a keynote speaker and author, who shares her wisdom on taking ownership of your success.  Learn how to:Embrace your unique qualities (you are enough!)Turn fear into action (it builds trust in yourself)Ditch the need for validation (true confidence is internal)Make and keep commitments (build trust, build confidence)Own your journey (success is about the process, not just the outcome)This episode is packed with actionable tips and inspiring quotes to help you unlock your inner confidence and become the best version of yourself.Resources Mentioned:Book: “Validation is for Parking” by Nicole Kalil-https://www.amazon.com/Validation-Parking-Women-Beat-Confidence/dp/1544532695Website: Explore Nicole Kalil's website for additional wisdom, articles, and resources. Nicole's expertise will inspire you to own your journey-https://nicolekalil.com/Inspirational Quotes:“Confidence is firm and bold trust in self.” “Replace ‘fake it till you make it' with ‘choose it until you become it.'” “Confidence is not just for women; it's for everyone.” “Ownership is deciding, creating, and determining your own success and being responsible for it.”“Don't seek validation from external sources. True confidence stems from self-worth, self-love, and the actions you take towards your goals.” —Join us on this transformative journey to unlock your inner confidence and become the best version of yourself!

In This Episode: CEOs and entrepreneurs may appear confident, but the reality is that confidence can be elusive and challenging to nurture. In this episode, our guest, Nicole Kalil, an expert in leadership development, discusses strategies for leaders to enhance their confidence and achieve their strategic objectives. Nicole Kalil is a renowned speaker, author of "Validation is For Parking," a leadership strategist, respect coach, and the host of the "This is Woman's Work Podcast." Having transitioned from the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has empowered countless women in business and gained valuable insights into the structural, systemic, and social challenges facing women and leaders within organizations. Listen to the full conversation to discover how to build and maintain confidence as a business leader, tackle "head trash," implement the rule of three for life and business, and gain more insights. Here's a Glimpse of What You'll Learn: 1. Nicole's career transition from the finance industry and the C-suite to entrepreneurship. 2. The significance of building self-trust and Nicole's "obsession" with confidence. 3. Nicole's 3-step process for developing confidence. 4. Embracing imperfection as a parent and insights into Nicole's book. 5. "A-ha" moments from Nicole's book that have impacted readers. 6. Understanding and overcoming "head trash." 7. The interplay of perfectionism, head trash, and comparison in undermining confidence. 8. Gender differences in confidence across the lifespan. 9. Nicole's "rule of three" for prioritizing business and life. 10. The importance of "business planning" in Nicole's marriage and family life. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Nicole Kalil's Website Connect with Nicole Kalil on LinkedIn Follow Nicole Kalil on Instagram Listen to This is Woman's Work Podcast Get a copy of "Validation is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con" by Nicole Kalil Explore "This Sh*t Works: A No-Nonsense Guide to Networking Your Way to More Friends, More Adventures, and More Success" by Julie Brown Buy a copy of "Lost at CEO: An Entrepreneur's Guide to Strategy" by Carl J. Cox Learn more about 40 Strategy Connect with Carl J. Cox on LinkedIn Don't miss this insightful conversation on building leadership confidence with Nicole Kalil. Tune in now!  

I'm more than a little excited to bring you THE BEST, most listened-to episodes of This Is Woman's Work in 2023!! This might be my favorite episode of each year, as it allows me to reflect and celebrate ALL the amazing content, guests, and learnings that happened throughout the year. I also love this episode for YOU because it's a great way to highlight the episodes that resonated the most and if you're new to our show, serves as a really good starting point. As we close out one year and walk into all the possibilities and hopes of a new one, I'm sure you're asking yourself questions like, what do I want? What do I want more of? Less of? What do I have to GIVE? How can I take better care of myself?  There are so many questions, but for all of them, there's one constant: You are the decider. So plan big plans, dream big dreams, and risk big risks. My love to you and yours, and I wish you joy and oh so much confidence in the new year.  So without further delay, I bring you our top 5 episodes (and a bonus special mention of #6!) of 2023! Click the links below to listen in on the full episodes highlighted here today: Bonus #6 160 / Motivation with Kate Tracy  #5 129 / 4 Truths of Radiant Change with Kristen Lisanti #4 147 / People-Pleasing & Being “Needy” with Mara Glatzel #3 144 / Jay & Nicole Kalil on Partnership, With Guest Host Lynn Casaletto (to access the  Family Planning agenda we reference, click here) #2 124 / Mind, Body, Soul… and Confidence with Meg Burton Tudman #1 154 / Affirmation Roulette with Peloton's Kirsten Ferguson Like what you heard? Please rate and review 

Confidence...are we born with it? do we build it? can we be confident 100% of the time? In today's episode, Laura and her guest, Nicole Kalil cover all things confidence. From the false messages we've gotten about being confident to the actionable things you can do to build and keep it, to understanding the balance between external validation and trusting yourself, this conversation will equip you with the tools you need to begin your confidence journey. Listen until the end and soak into every piece of wisdom Nicole shares! Laura's first book – Values First. How Knowing Your Core Beliefs Can Get You the Life and Career You Want – is now available! Grab your copy today! Love audiobooks? Values First is also available on Audible and Itunes, so be sure to take a listen! Go to www.thecatchgroup.com to check out the show notes, resources, and links mentioned in this episode! Connect with Laura: -Follow The Catch Group on LinkedIn. -Follow the show on Instagram @thecatchgroup. -Enjoying what you hear? Follow and leave a review HERE.

Do you want to learn how you can build confidence and harness it to be a more effective, successful business owner? Then tune into today's episode of Productivity Straight Talk in which I sit down with author and leader strategist, Nicole Kalil, to take a deep dive into all things confidence. What You'll Discover In This Episode: ✔ What Confidence Really Is And How To Build It ✔ What Having Confidence Helps You Achieve ✔ The Impact Of Not Trusting Yourself In Your Business ✔ 5 Confidence Builders & Derailers That Business Owners Can Utilize ✔ How Even Failure Can Effectively Build Confidence ✔ How To Know If You Have Imposter Syndrome ✔ So Much More! To access resources and links from this episode, click on https://AmberDeLaGarza.com/301. P.S. Want to discover what's most holding you back in business and receive a personalized playlist to help you overcome those specific challenges? It only takes a few minutes to take the Next Level Business Owner Quiz and get on the path of taking your leadership and business to the next level!  And… If you want help managing your time, creating efficiency, making a new hire, reducing the stress and overwhelm of running a business, or making strategic decisions that will help you level up your business, I'd like to talk to you. Let's discuss how we can partner together to help you get unstuck, reduce stress, and determine a clear path to increased profits! Schedule your Discovery Call  

Today, I am joined by the amazing Nicole Kalil.    Nicole is an in-demand speaker, coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” podcast. She is also the author of the book Validation is for Parking.    Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night and what gets her up in the morning. She is obsessed with sharing how women can build their confidence. And she's continually giving them actionable tools to do it.   In this episode, we'll explore: The importance of understanding and embracing your authentic self Why confidence is a choice and how it can be built How we can begin eliminating gender expectations when it comes to confidence Standing up for yourself, having difficult conversations, and handling challenging situations  Nicole's current favorites: Book: A Man Called Ove, Speaker: Katty Kay, and Podcast: FRIED the Burnout Podcast More from Nicole Website: https://nicolekalil.com/  Her book, Validation is for Parking Her free gift, Designing Your Recovery Plan   More from Tricia  Join my Complimentary Transformational Masterclass for Speakers  Explore my content and follow me on YouTube Follow me on Instagram  Connect with me on Facebook  Connect with me on LinkedIn   

This week on the say YES to yourself! podcast Wendy hosts Nicole Kalil, Founder & Confidence Sherpa of her own company helping to remove the roadblocks, biases and challenges that trailblazing, professional women face so that they can thrive as their authentic selves.Wendy and Nicole discuss what it means to be our authentic selves and build and most importantly maintain the confidence we deserve in our lives.Listen in as they share stories and actions steps you can apply today to step into your power. About Nicole:Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work”is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. Well that, and an abundant amount of coffee.An in-demand speaker, author of Validation is For Parking, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, her stalker-like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually shares HOW you build it, and gives actionable tools you can implement immediately.A  fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business, which has given her insight as to what–structurally, systemically and socially–is and isn't serving both women and leaders within an organization. Maintaining some semblance of sanity in her different roles of wife, mother, and business owner is an ongoing challenge...in whatever free time she has, she enjoys reading and wine guzzling, is an avid cheese enthusiast, a hotel snob, and a reluctant peloton rider.Website: Nicole KalilBook: Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con or your local bookstoreInstagram: @nicolemkalil————————————————Say YES to joining Wendy for her:PWH Farm StaysPWH Summer Field DinnersPWH On PurposePWH Dahlia SubscriptionPWH Dahlia & Cookie Decorating Workshop - September 17 Instagram: @phineaswrighthouseFacebook: Phineas Wright HouseWebsite: Phineas Wright HouseThank you for listening to the say YES to yourself! podcast. It would mean the world if you would take one minute to follow, leave a 5 star review and share with those you too are encouraging to say YES to themselves. xo,Wendy

Most of us have not only NOT been taught the skills to communicate well, we've been taught the opposite. We've probably observed more examples of INeffective communication than anything. Think about it for a second… were your parents good examples of this? Your first love? Your first boss? I'm gonna take a stab in the dark, and guess the answer for most of us is a hard NO. I am Nicole Kalil, and you can put this episode of TIWW under the category of “shit we should have learned, but didn't and now it's wreaking havoc in our lives”. Today, we're going to develop the skill of COMMUNICATION… especially communicating the hard stuff. Here to support our learning is Dr. Cassandra LeClair, communication consultant, author of Being Whole, and motivational speaker, who is an expert on communicating in relationships and improving connections. Her mission is to educate people on how to understand their communication patterns in order to build effective and healthy communication that enhances their professional and personal relationships. As is true with ALL learning, we learn best through experience, so I don't want this to be a half an hour where you got some good theoretical tips, I want you to PRACTICE what you've learned.  Because practice makes progress. And since very few of us were taught effective communication along the way, we've got lots of practicing to do. Connect with Cassandra: Website: www.cassandraleclair.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcassandraleclair/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcassandraleclair LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drcassandraleclair/ Click here to access her free guide to unlocking the secrets to true self care To join Nicole's pod (to get all the inside scoops, free stuff, and the occasional rant), click here

Nicole Kalil's passion for helping women live life on their own terms is both what keeps her up at night and what gets her up in the morning. Nicole guides clients on how to build confidence and gives actionable tools – not just stories – to BECOME confident. In this episode, Nicole and NB discuss building true confidence, understanding imposter syndrome, and navigating perfectionism.WE EXPLORE:• Building and repairing confidence• Defining confidence• Imposter syndrome and trusting ourselves• Connecting to who you are and letting go of external expectations• Developing confidence for every level of business (F1-F3)• The correlation of action, comparison, judgment, and confidence• Dropping into your inner guidance and trusting yourselfFollow Nicole: @nicolemkalilWebsite: https://nicolekalil.com/Nicole's book: https://nicolekalil.com/bookAstrological Business Blueprint Masterclass!Thursday 9/7, 5pm PST.https://nataliabenson.com/masterclass/Ways to work with Natalia:Apply to work with me 1:1: https://www.nataliabenson.com/11-offeringExplore the Money Membership: https://magicalwomenandmoney.com/Grab your Free 5 Day Money Training for Spiritual Solopreneurs: https://bit.ly/moneymastery4bizownersConnect on Instagram: @natalia_bensonSupport the show

Are you sabotaging your confidence? In today's episode, we are speaking with the incredible Nicole Kalil to to explore the transformative power of confidence in various aspects of life. We explore the idea that confidence is not just about being perfect, but about embracing vulnerability and learning from mistakes. Tune in to discover how negative beliefs and self-talk, referred to by Nicole as "head trash," can chip away at our confidence, and gain valuable insights on how to challenge these thoughts and choose kinder and more empowering beliefs.  We dive into the impact of confidence on both professional and parenting lives, and uncover the power of modeling confidence for children. Get ready to be inspired to embrace your own confidence and create a positive environment for growth and self-acceptance. You'll hear: The value of admitting and learning from mistakes and how demonstrating confidence in repairing them fosters strong relationships Why we need to recognize and challenge negative beliefs as leaders Top confidence derailers holding you back Differences in upbringing and societal influences on confidence and how it shifts throughout our lives The problem with "waiting to feel ready" Connect with Nicole: Grab Nicole's Book: https://geni.us/ValidationIsForParking Website: www.nicolekalil.com        

On this episode of The Driven Woman Entrepreneur Podcast, just in time for Independence Day here in the US, I wanted to share my thoughts with you on the subject of social media sabbaticals and why you might want to consider one this summer. Declaring your independence from social media can be a very effective way to gain clarity on your relationship with these platforms, reassess the value of your current social marketing strategy and help prevent burnout. By guiding listeners through a series of insightful questions, sharing the perspectives of other notable coaches and consultants and introducing a variety of options to customize a social media sabbatical to your goals, this episode is full of actionable advice. In emphasizing the importance of mental health and healthy boundaries, and reminding them of the need to treat their sabbatical like an experiment, I encourage listeners to consider the prospect of taking a break from social media that in order to focus on other important aspects of their business, self care, relationships and personal growth. Whether it is a one month break from all social platforms or a six month break from one platform that has become draining, straining, depleting, defeating or simply unsustainable, figuring out whether your investment of time, energy, effort and attention is worth the outcome or whether that energy might be better spent elsewhere. I am not the first or the only business coach or consultant to suggest that a social media sabbatical might bring multiple benefits to your business and life. During this episode, I share how three of the women in my network and talking about creating more balance around their relationship with social media and how they are helping others do the same. Mentioned in this episode are: Andrea Jones: https://onlinedrea.com/Meg Casebolt: https://loveatfirstsearch.com/Nicole Kalil: https://bit.ly/46lRba9Public podcasts are amazing, but they are still a one way conversation. If you are craving more, have you grabbed your copy of my free private podcast, “Show Up Like a Boss”? Click here to add it to your podcast feed today! https://bit.ly/3ZOD3CKIs Linked In becoming your social media platform of choice as a solopreneur or small business owner? Me too! Don't forget to subscribe to my weekly Linked In newsletter here: https://bit.ly/3MAalSp so you don't miss my latest thoughts and updates. And last but not least, if you are a regular listener to The Driver Entrepreneur Podcast and have not left a reviews really do motivate me to keep creating this show & bringing you awesome guests and no-BS solo episodes, so if you are a regular listener and haven't left one yet, what are you waiting for? Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-119448TLDR (time stamps) [00:01:09] Taking a social media sabbatical: options explained.[00:06:49] Communicate sabbatical intentions, decide what is...

On this episode of The Driven Woman Entrepreneur Podcast, just in time for Independence Day here in the US, I wanted to share my thoughts with you on the subject of social media sabbaticals and why you might want to consider one this summer. Declaring your independence from social media can be a very effective way to gain clarity on your relationship with these platforms, reassess the value of your current social marketing strategy and help prevent burnout. By guiding listeners through a series of insightful questions, sharing the perspectives of other notable coaches and consultants and introducing a variety of options to customize a social media sabbatical to your goals, this episode is full of actionable advice. In emphasizing the importance of mental health and healthy boundaries, and reminding them of the need to treat their sabbatical like an experiment, I encourage listeners to consider the prospect of taking a break from social media that in order to focus on other important aspects of their business, self care, relationships and personal growth. Whether it is a one month break from all social platforms or a six month break from one platform that has become draining, straining, depleting, defeating or simply unsustainable, figuring out whether your investment of time, energy, effort and attention is worth the outcome or whether that energy might be better spent elsewhere. I am not the first or the only business coach or consultant to suggest that a social media sabbatical might bring multiple benefits to your business and life. During this episode, I share how three of the women in my network and talking about creating more balance around their relationship with social media and how they are helping others do the same. Mentioned in this episode are: Andrea Jones: https://onlinedrea.com/Meg Casebolt: https://loveatfirstsearch.com/Nicole Kalil: https://bit.ly/46lRba9Public podcasts are amazing, but they are still a one way conversation. If you are craving more, have you grabbed your copy of my free private podcast, “Show Up Like a Boss”? Click here to add it to your podcast feed today! https://bit.ly/3ZOD3CKIs Linked In becoming your social media platform of choice as a solopreneur or small business owner? Me too! Don't forget to subscribe to my weekly Linked In newsletter here: https://bit.ly/3MAalSp so you don't miss my latest thoughts and updates. And last but not least, if you are a regular listener to The Driver Entrepreneur Podcast and have not left a reviews really do motivate me to keep creating this show & bringing you awesome guests and no-BS solo episodes, so if you are a regular listener and haven't left one yet, what are you waiting for? Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-119448TLDR (time stamps) [00:01:09] Taking a social media sabbatical: options explained.[00:06:49] Communicate sabbatical intentions, decide what is...

Author Nicole Kalil, bringing her new book “Validation is for Parking - How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con” is with me today for the very important discussion about confidence - and how the confidence that we portray outwardly doesn't necessarily match up to how we feel inside.Nicole's story is a cautionary tale and one that a lot of us have experienced and faced. We appear and "act" very confident on the outside, but inside we are hiding and afraid of being "found out". We may even be in such a dark place because of our lack of authenticity that we don't know how we will ever escape.The beauty of it is that Nicole is here to help with all the ways we can shed that fear and begin to build confidence where it is most important - INSIDE of us. She is spilling the whys, whats, and the hows of confidence, our lack of it, and how we build it.It's important to remember that confidence and trust in ourselves is a continual journey. Not a final place to arrive. Make sure to find Nicole at all of the following to join her on a confidence journey.You can find Nicole here:Website:  https://nicolekalil.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil/Nicole's Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Validation-Parking-Women-Beat-Confidence/dp/1544532695Nicole's Book at Barnes & Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/validation-is-for-parking-nicole-kalil/1142262130?ean=9781544532691Get on the Midlife In Motion - LIVE Coaching Health & Wellness Program WAITLIST Find me on my Website:https://www.lesleylmcshane.comFREE Guide: 4 Steps To Prioritize Your Health & Wellness This Week (And Actually Do It!) Schedule a Coaching Call to prioritizing your health & wellnessConnect with me on Instagram:Get the Redesigning Midlife UpdatesFind your community at the private Redesigning Midlife Facebook Group Get your BOSS BARS - Use LESLEY10 for 10% off your first order

On this very special episode, guest host Lynn Casaletto takes over the mic and not only interviews Nicole, but also her partner in life, Jay Kalil! They talk about everything from how they make their marriage work (and some things they do to get back on track when it's not working), pet peeves, parenting, planning, and more! Questions were collected from Nicole's community, and Lynn dished them out… listen in to hear their responses and perspectives. Partnership can be hard, especially when two career-focused, busy, goal-oriented people come together… and partnership can also be the thing that makes it all better, easier, and fun! We know Nicole would never want to send the message that anything in her life is perfect, and this episode is not about offering marriage advice.  This is two partners sharing how they manage it all, and a glimpse behind the scenes to meet Nicole's favorite person on the planet, Jay, and hear from his perspective how he supports Woman's Work. Here's access to our Family Planning Agenda as well as the TIWW podcast episode #003 Family Planning where Nicole breaks it down step by step.  To learn more about Lynn, her team, and her work please visit: Website:  https://www.coregrowthconsulting.com/ To join Nicole's pod (to get all the inside scoops, free stuff, and the occasional rant), click here

Nicole Kalil is an in-demand speaker, the author of Validation is For Parking, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast. Her stalker-like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually shares HOW you build it and gives actionable tools you can implement immediately. A fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business, which has given her insight as to what – structurally, systemically and socially – is and isn't serving both women and leaders within an organization. YES! - to helping women cultivate confidence from the inside out, right? It's SO ESSENTIAL to the journey of being authentic and pursuing what we feel most called to do in this lifetime. I'm so excited for you to listen in – and hear Nicole's upbeat, no BS perspective on entrepreneurship, being an intuitive leader, and more. In this episode, we chat about how she discovered her purpose through her pain - when she was living disconnected from her truth as she was building a career in finance, her journey from pretending to be confident to discovering how to cultivate it from within - and how this led to an obsession with studying confidence, what inspired her to start mentoring other women and what it looked like for her to start a business as a coach and speaker, and leave behind her career, her decision to completely stop using social media as a marketing tool - and the impact it had on her business, her super inspiring definition of confidence and the 5 amazing confidence builders she teaches people so they can cultivate it from within, and so much more!   To learn more about Nicole Kalil and the resources mentioned in this episode, visit the show notes.   Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram

Most of us throughout our lives have believed confidence is external. We thought that once we get that high-paying job, lose 10 pounds, or get into that romantic relationship, that's when we become confident. But that couldn't be farther from the truth.  Top speaker and best-selling author Nicole Kalil is here to uncover the truth about confidence, what it is, and how you can source and build it sustainably.  Tune in to this episode on The Role of Confidence In Divorce with Nicole Kalil Key points covered in this episode:   ✔️ Confidence is internal. Research has proven that women's confidence fluctuates through the years, dropping in their teenage years and peaking in their fifties and sixties. Shift your mindset from “Why am I not confident?” to “Am I connected to my confidence?” It's all in there living inside of you – you just have to uncover it yourself!  ✔️ Quiet the head trash! We have a LOT of voices in our minds. The noisiest, self-deprecating one is your head trash, while the compassionate one is your inner knowing. Silence the former, and turn up the volume of the latter.  ✔️ Rewrite your internal story. Build your confidence muscle by answering these questions. What are the facts? What am I making up about the facts? Is there a more productive, empowered way to see it? Where do I go from here?  ✔️ Action builds confidence. The little steps DO count! If you want to be healthier, drinking more water could be the first way to go. And give yourself the grace to rest and trust yourself during the hard times.   ✔️ Confidence is a choice you get to make. Other practical ways to strengthen your self-belief are to keep your commitments, set boundaries, and speak your truth. Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I'm Divorced” on Amazon!

Where does confidence come from? Does it come from perfectionism and keeping up appearances or does it come from knowing who we are and maybe more importantly who we are not - and being absolutely okay with both of those things. Listen in to this week's episode as I talk with Nicole Kalil, (a repeat guest) to discuss her new book Parking is for Validation: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con.Drink of the week….The Confident Woman If you liked what you heard today, please leave a review and subscribe to the podcast. Also, please remember to share the podcast to help it reach a larger audience.Click to BUY MY BOOK!CLICK TO DOWNLOAD CHAPTER ONE AUDIO FREEClick to BOOK ME AS A SPEAKERClick to SIGN UP FOR MY NEWSLETTERJulie Brown: WebsiteInstagramLinkedInYoutubeNicole KalilWebsiteValidation is for Parking

Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. Well that, and an abundant amount of coffee. An in-demand speaker, author of Validation is For Parking, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, her stalker-like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually shares HOW you build it, and gives actionable tools you can implement immediately. We dive in this episode and get great tips and advice from Nicole. Connect with Nicole nicolekalil.com Buy the Book Validation is for Parking   References: VBAC Episode 240: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-240-the-vbac-link-with-megan-heaton/id1343507855?i=1000583641739 Fetal Monitoring https://evidencebasedbirth.com/fetal-monitoring/ Links between Cesarean and Infertility https://bmcpregnancychildbirth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12884-021-03955-7?fbclid=PAAaY4ng-Du3W03EpfMT9ulA5jT3kX0feKDL7CoKFQ85s5X-ok8r4Eyrp85x8 https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23351-cesarean-scar-defect#:~:text=Can%20c%2Dsection%20scarring%20cause,on%20to%20have%20healthy%20pregnancies https://www.medpagetoday.com/obgyn/pregnancy/86053 Why Chava? Episode 248: https://podcasts.apple.com/jm/podcast/ep-248-welcome-to-morning-chava/id1343507855?i=1000593089125 Chava Meaning https://www.chabad.org/multimedia/video_cdo/aid/3506698/jewish/Inside-the-Name-Chava.htm

Nicole Kalil is someone who practices what she preaches.A fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business and speaks around the world.When she was gearing up to her launch her book, Validation is for Parking, she heavily invested in social media (to the tune of $9,000 a month!) She also set out to write a book debunking some of the advice doled out by male entrepreneurs. But she realized two things: one, social media didn't make her feel good. And two: she didn't want to write the book she had already started working on.In this conversation, she talked about how she switched courses for her book topic, why she left social media when she was "at the top," how she handles the "head trash" that creeps up when you're writing and launching a book and how her book has impacted her speaking career, among many other topics.WANT TO ENHANCE YOUR AUTHORITY? GO TO WWW.OGAUTHORITYPOD.COM

Confidence sherpa Nicole Kalil busts the myth about confidence and validation and shows you how to develop true confidence. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) What confidence really means 2) The four questions to ask when you have low confidence 3) How to build trust within yourself Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep851 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT NICOLE — Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. Well that, and an abundant amount of coffee. An in-demand speaker, author of Validation is For Parking, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, her stalker-like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually shares HOW you build it, and gives actionable tools you can implement immediately. A fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business, which has given her insight as to what – structurally, systemically and socially – is and isn't serving both women and leaders within an organization. Maintaining some semblance of sanity in her different roles of wife, mother, and business owner successfully is an ongoing challenge... in whatever free time she has, she enjoys reading and wine guzzling, is an avid cheese enthusiast, a hotel snob, and a reluctant peloton rider. • Book: Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con • Podcast: This is Woman's Work • Website: NicoleKalil.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM) by Hal Elrod • Book: Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know by Adam Grant • Past episode: 357: The Six Morning Habits of High Performers with Hal Elrod • Past episode: 842: How to Thrive in High-Stakes Situations with Carol Kauffman See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nicole Kalil, author, podcaster and confidence guru has dedicated her post corporate life to empowering women. Her book Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con teaches women to know who they are, own what they are not and choose to embrace all of it. Nicole has helped countless women overcome their insecurities and achieve their goals. Join us as we delve into the world of empowerment and learn about the tools and techniques that can help women become the best versions of themselves. Nicole's admits we all like a little validation but it is the icing on the confidence cake. The most important validation comes from within.  This is such a great episode with key learning in relation to  - creating boundaries - how women can support each other - know when to slow down Please enjoy Nicole Kalil's journey from Corporate to Calm  The latest episode of Corporate to Calm went live across all platforms earlier. If you are looking for career change inspiration or to start your own business, this is the podcast for you. The Corporate to Calm podcast is the podcast where you learn from their experience Sign up to our weekly newsletter, The Friday Five will help you be where you are meant to be https://view.flodesk.com/pages/631182212812b898e99a9701 #move #entrepreneur #validation #podcasts #podcasting #podcastreco #podcastshow 

Nicole Kalil is the Confidence Sherpa. She's the author of “Validation is for Parking,” and a leadership strategist, respected coach, speaker, and host of the “This is Woman's Work” podcast. Nicole sees that women and men approach confidence very differently. She discusses how appearing confident is very different from being confident. Real, authentic confidence produces executive presence, and is a catalyst for effective leadership. Listen in for new insights on confidence and how it affects team success, and professional fulfillment. https://bit.ly/TLP-347   Key Takeaways   [1:25] Jan and Jim want to know if you have listened to every episode of The Leadership Podcast. If you have, please drop them a line. They may have something for you! [2:27] Nicole is a partner to her husband, a mom to her nine-year-old daughter, a hotel snob, a wine and cheese enthusiast, and a reluctant Peloton rider. [4:23] Nicole wrote Validation Is For Parking to discuss confidence through a feminine lens. At the time she wrote the book, 92% of business books were written by men. In her finance job, all her mentors were men. Nicole felt an imbalance. She wrote the book with women in mind. Her intention isn't to be exclusionary. She hopes people who identify as any gender will read it and have good takeaways. [6:29] Nicole took the filters off and wrote what she felt and knew, having women in mind, and sharing stories she felt would be most relevant or help people feel less alone. She wrote it almost as a journal and then realized someone was going to read it! It felt important to her, in writing a book about confidence, to put it all out there and be authentic and true to herself. [8:22] In work environments, confidence is when you trust yourself firmly and boldly. When you walk into an environment where you're “the other,” you may spend a lot of your energy trying to navigate how to fit into the culture and the environment, and in doing that, you tend to lose some of your authenticity; you tend to lose some of yourself. That impacts your confidence. [9:11] When negotiating for a salary increase or a promotion, women are coming to those conversations with less confidence than their male counterparts because the way they would do it authentically or naturally is different from the way that is being encouraged, supported, trained, or recognized in the culture and environment. Jan cites past guest Jeffrey Pfeffer on the seven rules of power. [10:24] How are we defining power? Nicole defines power as showing up with true and vulnerable emotions, not as inauthentically looking confident or powerful. [12:53] The boss is the keeper of the culture. If your being authentic doesn't fit in the culture, this is the opportunity for the boss to say, “This is just not the right place for you.” [13:16] If you're accentuating something about yourself so much that it's repellent to others it may be worth questioning if you are actually showing up authentically at all. You're probably doing that in reaction. Nicole shares an experience from when she was trying to fit in. Looking back, she sees that was not her authentic self. [15:34] There isn't one right, definitive answer to just about anything. We come to every situation, conversation, or event with our beliefs, values, experiences, and interpretations, and we think that those experiences, interpretations, and values are right or true with a capital T. What one person believes is right and true may not be right and true for everybody. [16:31] Nicole is trying to practice being more empathetic, better listening, being more open, and communicating, “This is the way I see it and I'm open that there may be another way to see it,” and being curious about that. [16:49] Nicole sees all of those things as a practice in being and becoming a better leader. They make us better relationship-builders, and developers of others, and create safer, healthier, and more productive environments. [18:24] Leadership and allyship are very closely connected. Be curious, listen. When you ask a question, believe what people are telling you is their perception or interpretation, and try to have empathy around that. All of us have the opportunity to create more balance. [18:57] Understand that the masculine approach to success in business is alive and well. There is the opportunity to bring in, recognize, and reward the more feminine side, as well, within yourselves and your organization, and your culture. Be aware and pay attention. [19:26] It helps people to have someone they trust and have a good relationship with. Be a coach to others when they say something that they may have meant in one way, but that might have been interpreted in another way. Most people can be very forgiving if they know you're coming from a good place. Knowing where you're coming from makes all the difference in the world. [22:21] Nicole discusses executive presence. It's external; what we show to the world. We have an impact on how people see us. Nicole distinguishes it from confidence. Confidence is about firm and bold trust in self. Confidence in others is trust in them. Confidence leads to executive presence and that leads to leadership. [24:02] If you bypass confidence and go for executive presence, you can look confident but at some point, if the internal component isn't there, it's going to become painful to you and obvious to others. Don't be focused on how you look to others but on who you are and what you bring to the table; what it is you can, and choose to, trust in yourself. [25:24] Nicole discusses the gender component of confidence vs. competence. Women tend to over-rotate on competence. They believe they need to do it all, have it all, and look the part; get all the designations and check all the boxes. It's very much about how it looks. But you cannot be competent at anything you're doing for the first time. Competence takes time. [26:00] Confidence is a choice we can make any time we want. Confidence is on the road to competence. Competence will then circle back and increase your confidence as you go. But there's always something more to learn and skills to develop before you are fully competent. Instead of “Fake it till you make it,” Nicole says, “Choose it until you become it.” Choose confidence continually. [26:55] Women, especially, feel they need to be 100% ready before taking big actions. But 100% ready is not available to any of us when it comes to doing something new. We do most meaningful things with a combination of excitement, fear, readiness, and doubt. [27:34] For a lot of women it's letting go of the unachievable expectation that you're going to be 100% anything. Trust that you'll figure it out as you go. Trust that if you don't do well, you'll be OK; you'll learn something to take to the next thing you do. Trust that you've done what got you here, and you can apply your unique talents, strengths, and abilities to this new thing and you will get there. Trust in yourself. [29:03] Nicole saw integrity as strong moral principles or being honest. Her background is in finance, where being honest is important, and doing what's best for your clients. In terms of a strong moral standing, who decides what that is? Do personal things bleed into the definition? Nicole had a struggle with the word, which forced her to look at the definition. [30:08] Nicole loves the second definition of integrity: the state of being whole and undivided. That's what we need to be talking about, is being so true and trusting in ourselves that we show up with all that we are, we own everything that we're not, and we choose to embrace all of it. And that would lead us to bring our full and best selves to the leadership table, to our businesses. [30:52] Nicole sees power and magic in knowing who we are, owning who we are not, choosing to embrace all of it, and showing up as our full and best selves. That's how we should be talking more about integrity. [31:46] We've over-rotated in society and we try to “save” people every time they express that they are not meant for something. We think everybody can be anything they want to be. That's not an available option for any of us. And, unfortunately, we think that we should do and be everything. What we end up doing is watering down our unique abilities and unique talents by trying to be everything. [32:32] Nicole refers to Essentialism, by Greg McKeown (a previous guest). We don't stay in our lane because we don't spend any of our time figuring out what our lane is. In order to do that, we need to know what our lane isn't. There is power in owning what and who you are not meant for; what and who may not be meant for you. Being able to discern that will put you on track for what you are meant for. [33:16] Purpose is not one thing but we all have a purpose. It's confidence-boosting to sift out the things that are not meant for you. [34:42] The biggest “Aha” that Nicole would tell her younger self is how much her failures, missteps, mistakes, fears, and doubts built her confidence and contributed to her success and purpose, more than her achievements, successes, wins, and things that came easily. It doesn't hurt any less when she's in it, but when she's experiencing bad feelings, she tells herself all that's missing is the benefit of hindsight. [35:26] Nicole reminds herself that she doesn't yet know why the negative thing is happening, but she trusts that it is serving a purpose. It's a gift, a lesson, a redirect, or an opportunity. There's some other way to see the thing that's happening that is going to work for her betterment. She trusts that in those moments. She wishes she would have failed more often and risked more, earlier on. [36:40] Letting your children or employees fall is a struggle, but they go through it for their growth. You want to protect. You want them to be happy. Nicole and her husband are clear that they want to protect their daughter as much as they can from things that fall under health and safety that are very difficult to recover from. On other things, it is better to just let it play out and get messy. [37:44] Nicole tells her daughter that she loves her all of the time. It's constant and does not need to be earned. She doesn't need to prove herself to get it. The love is constant even in the messiness, failure, and mistakes. She can figure all the rest of it out. She encourages her daughter to hold onto her own confidence when it gets challenged. [39:08] Nicole's challenge to listeners: “Separate all the advice, advertisements, and things on social media that tell you that the way you gain confidence is by fixing how your confidence looks to others. If it's external, it's probably not confidence-building. Go back to ‘Confidence is when you trust yourself.' … Ask yourself, ‘Is this going to help me trust myself more?' If the answer is yes then go do it!” [40:25] Closing quote: Remember, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson   Quotable Quotes “So much of what we learn about what it is to be professional, what it is to be successful, what it is to be a leader, or what it is to be confident comes from the masculine lens. I worked in finance and almost exclusively, all of my mentors, trainers, and teachers were men.” “When you walk into an environment where you're ‘the other,' … a lot of people spend a lot of their energy trying to navigate how to fit into the culture and the environment, and in doing that, we tend to lose some of our authenticity; we tend to lose some of ourselves.” “We are often being taught how to look confident. Very rarely taught how to be or become confident.” “I have a fundamental belief that leaders are keepers of the culture and if somebody being their authentic self doesn't fit in a culture, then it's probably the opportunity to say, ‘You're not bad, we're not bad, this is just not the right place for you.'” “The older I get the more I realize that there isn't one right, definitive answer to just about anything.” “We are all coming to every situation, conversation, or event with our own beliefs, values, experiences, and interpretations, and unfortunately, we are thinking that those experiences, interpretations, and values are right or true with a capital T.” “[Let] people know ‘I'm going into this uncomfortable place. I might say things wrong; I might do things wrong. But my intention is only ever, always to get better. I'm open to feedback. If I make mistakes [please] pull me aside and tell me about it.'” “Confidence is about trust; firm and bold trust in self. So when we talk about being confident, that's what I think we are talking about.” “One hundred percent ready is not a thing that's available to any of us when it comes to doing something new or that we haven't done before.” “That's what we need to be talking about, is being so true and so trusting in ourselves that we show up with all that we are, we own everything that we're not, and we choose to embrace all of it. And that would lead us to bring our full and best selves to the leadership table.”   Resources Mentioned Theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by: Darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC Nicole Kalil NicoleKalil.com Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con, by Nicole Kalil This is Woman's Work podcast Peleton The White Lotus The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance—What Women Should Know, by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt, by Russ Harris  Jeffrey Pfeffer 7 Rules of Power” Surprising—but True—Advice on How to Get Things Done and Advance Your Career, by Jeffrey Pfeffer Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, by Greg McKeown Greg McKeown

Today we are chatting all things confidence! We are talking with Nicole Kalil, author, speaker, coach and confidence Sherpa about her confidence journey, how to build your self trust with small easy steps, what you might be addicted to that is draining year confidence and confidence recovery for those awkward low confidence moments. If you want to learn the  5 steps to confidence (spoiler alert the first step is ACTION - you need to take action before you feel confident not the other way around! ) be sure to tune into this episode!Check out Prism's new website: https://prismlifestyle.co/To help you on your spiritual rituals:Download the Rituals by Chakra Girl App on your iPhoneDownload the Rituals by Chakra Girl App on your AndroidDownload the Rituals by Chakra Girl App on your DesktopAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this podcast episode, I'm sharing my honest experiences of what I'm calling the current "Crisis of Confidence" among female business owners, grappling with the conflicting marketing messages, false promises, and broken systems that have left them feeling paralyzed and uncertain who they can trust to help them move forward.This crisis is a result of the mass confusion and hysteria caused by the false promises of success in business ownership, the lack of funding and business loans, the exhaustion of keeping up with marketing messages, the difficulty of consistently creating quality content, and the distrust of female business coaches, consultants, and course creators. A no-BS approach and trusting in one's own inner wisdom is important in order to have a successful, sustainable business."If you have been duped, taken advantage of, lied to, really screwed over by a female coach or consultant or course creator, I am deeply sorry that you experienced that. And I want you to make a commitment to yourself that you are not going to maintain that as your frame of reference for getting help in the future."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is causing the Crisis of Confidence among Female Business Owners? 2. How is the Pandemic Affecting the Business Landscape? 3. What Strategies can Help Women Business Owners Rebuild Their Confidence and Regain Their Ability to Trust Themselves?If you're sick of the struggle and are ready to move forward with expert guidance support & accountability, here's how you book a free consultation with me for 1:1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3qrJ9YQOther episodes you'll enjoy:Owning Who You're Not & Fully Embracing Yourself: Unpacking Nicole Kalil's Confidence Journey - http://bit.ly/3jFv6QqThe Anti-Hustle Approach to Business Growth with Jadah Sellner - https://bit.ly/3POVTpeWhat to Expect During a Free Consultation - https://bit.ly/3kO7Z6hOther resources: The Real Cost of Hustle Culture: https://bit.ly/3Cw3nbvConnect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/Website: https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com/Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here: https://kite.link/U1uN6ZRChapter Summaries:[00:00:01]Last week we featured an amazing guest interview with Nicole Kalil. Do yourself a favor and listen to that episode right after you listen to this one. I decided to record this episode after relistening to that interview.[00:00:46]The crisis of confidence among female business owners. If it feels like 2022 was actually a harder year for you as a business owner than 2020 or 2021, that's a reality. Business ownership is hard. There are a lot of moving parts. In her book, She Builds, Jadah Sellner talks about her idea of a female-centric model for business ownership.[00:10:12]As women business...

Ep #166:  Reclaim Your Confidence By Trusting Yourself with Nicole KalilAs a corporate badass, I know you're tapping into your confidence all the time. The confidence to go for the promotion. To manage up. To ask for the raise. To communicate your vision for your career. To book a 15-Minute Ally Meeting with someone you feel like you have no business reaching out to. And, as Nicole Kalil shares on this episode of Women Changing Leadership with Stacy Mayer: The center of all that confidence is TRUST. Nicole (also known as the Confidence Sherpa) is an in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the amazing “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast. And in this episode, Nicole and I share insights and strategies to help you build that deep, bold, unshakable trust in yourself so you can do everything it's going to take to build a career and life you love.Join us inside my group coaching intensive, Executive Ahead of Time.

In this podcast episode, I'm sharing my honest experiences of what I'm calling the current "Crisis of Confidence" among female business owners, grappling with the conflicting marketing messages, false promises, and broken systems that have left them feeling paralyzed and uncertain who they can trust to help them move forward.This crisis is a result of the mass confusion and hysteria caused by the false promises of success in business ownership, the lack of funding and business loans, the exhaustion of keeping up with marketing messages, the difficulty of consistently creating quality content, and the distrust of female business coaches, consultants, and course creators. A no-BS approach and trusting in one's own inner wisdom is important in order to have a successful, sustainable business."If you have been duped, taken advantage of, lied to, really screwed over by a female coach or consultant or course creator, I am deeply sorry that you experienced that. And I want you to make a commitment to yourself that you are not going to maintain that as your frame of reference for getting help in the future."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is causing the Crisis of Confidence among Female Business Owners? 2. How is the Pandemic Affecting the Business Landscape? 3. What Strategies can Help Women Business Owners Rebuild Their Confidence and Regain Their Ability to Trust Themselves?If you're sick of the struggle and are ready to move forward with expert guidance support & accountability, here's how you book a free consultation with me for 1:1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3qrJ9YQOther episodes you'll enjoy:Owning Who You're Not & Fully Embracing Yourself: Unpacking Nicole Kalil's Confidence Journey - http://bit.ly/3jFv6QqThe Anti-Hustle Approach to Business Growth with Jadah Sellner - https://bit.ly/3POVTpeWhat to Expect During a Free Consultation - https://bit.ly/3kO7Z6hOther resources: The Real Cost of Hustle Culture: https://bit.ly/3Cw3nbvConnect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/Website: https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com/Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here: https://kite.link/U1uN6ZRChapter Summaries:[00:00:01]Last week we featured an amazing guest interview with Nicole Kalil. Do yourself a favor and listen to that episode right after you listen to this one. I decided to record this episode after relistening to that interview.[00:00:46]The crisis of confidence among female business owners. If it feels like 2022 was actually a harder year for you as a business owner than 2020 or 2021, that's a reality. Business ownership is hard. There are a lot of moving parts. In her book, She Builds, Jadah Sellner talks about her idea of a female-centric model for business ownership.[00:10:12]As women business...

“Be more confident” “Just be authentic” “Be bold!” We hear these phrases all… the… time… but what does it actually mean to be more confident? HOW do we gain more confidence? Nicole Kalil is the answer to these questions. In this episode she breaks down exactly what it means to be more confident and 5 specific derailers of confidence (and of course, how to overcome them). Learn more about Nicole: https://nicolekalil.com/ Get the book “Validation is for Parking”: https://nicolekalil.com/book ---more— ***Join the FREE Masterclass: How to Create Free Time WITHOUT Giving Up Your High Achiever Status*** In this hour-long masterclass on February 22nd I will be teaching you the 3 tools that the world's happiest high achievers use to live a balanced, fun life! All while getting MORE done, and working less of those frantic hours. Register for the FREE MASTERCLASS HERE: https://www.lifecoachbaker.com/freetimemasterclass ---more— Don't forget to rate and review the podcast either on iTunes, Youtube or send me a video for a chance to get a shoutout on the next review of the episode. Please send video/audio reviews to hello@lifecoachbaker.com And, of course, don't forget to hit that subscribe button! IG- @lifecoachbaker This podcast is produced and edited by the WONDERFUL Ariel Villafane! You can contact Ariel at arielevillafane@gmail.com for podcast editing/management. Podcast Manager & Editor | Social Media Strategist Canva Designer | Video Editor WhatsApp: +57 305 225 9728

Nicole Kalil shares her story of birthing her book, exposing the ironies of achieving success through a masculine lens and the personal journey of overcoming false confidence to ultimately become more trusting of herself."I can't tell you how much of the confidence builders were required and necessary to write this book and to put it out there, and how much of the confidence derailers came up on a very regular basis. When we were editing, perfectionism was all over the place. Pure head trash, like "will people even like this book." Nicole Kalil is an author, speaker, and leadership coach who has dedicated her work to helping women build their confidence and reach their full potential. She is the author of the book "Validation is for Parking" which explores the journey of self-discovery and embraces the unique gifts and talents of each individual.We talked about how Nicole had a dream of writing a book for years but allowed fear to hold her back. Eventually, she realized her reasons were just excuses and took the leap. She eventually learned to trust herself, overcome the false messages of society and recognize her unique abilities while understanding that her worth lies beyond her physical appearance and pursuing success through the masculine lens. In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is the difference between confidence in men and women?2. What is the 'confidence con' and how does it hinder women?3. How can we raise confident humans in a world full of mixed messaging?Resources mentioned in this conversation:Elyse Archer's Podcast “She Sells”: https://elysearcher.com/podcast/Jill Savage's books on perfectionism: https://nomoreperfect.jillsavage.org/Want to connect with Nicole?:Get Nicole's Book "Validation is for Parking": https://nicolekalil.com/bookListen to her podcast: https://nicolekalil.com/podcastCheck out her website: https://nicolekalil.com/Other episodes you'll enjoy:Episode #80 The Not-so-Secret Secret of Confidence with Nicole Kalil - http://bit.ly/40bNpNtEpisode #126 Creating Confidence Through Personal Styling with Scarlett de Bease - http://bit.ly/3XN5j7yEpisode #114 Becoming Confident on Video with Helen Polise - https://bit.ly/3Io2HWUConnect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/Website: https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5qFHTPZTAxtYvVLyip3h0ALoved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:

Nicole Kalil shares her story of birthing her book, exposing the ironies of achieving success through a masculine lens and the personal journey of overcoming false confidence to ultimately become more trusting of herself."I can't tell you how much of the confidence builders were required and necessary to write this book and to put it out there, and how much of the confidence derailers came up on a very regular basis. When we were editing, perfectionism was all over the place. Pure head trash, like "will people even like this book." Nicole Kalil is an author, speaker, and leadership coach who has dedicated her work to helping women build their confidence and reach their full potential. She is the author of the book "Validation is for Parking" which explores the journey of self-discovery and embraces the unique gifts and talents of each individual.We talked about how Nicole had a dream of writing a book for years but allowed fear to hold her back. Eventually, she realized her reasons were just excuses and took the leap. She eventually learned to trust herself, overcome the false messages of society and recognize her unique abilities while understanding that her worth lies beyond her physical appearance and pursuing success through the masculine lens. In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is the difference between confidence in men and women?2. What is the 'confidence con' and how does it hinder women?3. How can we raise confident humans in a world full of mixed messaging?Resources mentioned in this conversation:Elyse Archer's Podcast “She Sells”: https://elysearcher.com/podcast/Jill Savage's books on perfectionism: https://nomoreperfect.jillsavage.org/Want to connect with Nicole?:Get Nicole's Book "Validation is for Parking": https://nicolekalil.com/bookListen to her podcast: https://nicolekalil.com/podcastCheck out her website: https://nicolekalil.com/Other episodes you'll enjoy:Episode #80 The Not-so-Secret Secret of Confidence with Nicole Kalil - http://bit.ly/40bNpNtEpisode #126 Creating Confidence Through Personal Styling with Scarlett de Bease - http://bit.ly/3XN5j7yEpisode #114 Becoming Confident on Video with Helen Polise - https://bit.ly/3Io2HWUConnect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/Website: https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5qFHTPZTAxtYvVLyip3h0ALoved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:

Get your boxing gloves ready to beat the confidence con on today's show! Nicole Kalil joins me to talk about building internal trust and reclaiming confidence (a skill built from the inside out). 

Confidence is an inside job. My guest Nicole Kalil shows you how to stop looking for validation and start aligning with your inner knowing. Learn how your fears and failures build trust and courage needed for true confidence. Confidence is alignment with your inner knowing- validation is just the icing on your confidence cake. When you try to be everything to everyone you aren't living your purpose. Look to your body for clues: if something is exhausting or uncomfortable, it's not aligned. Comparison is the thief of confidence. Shift from making your progress about you not how other people are doing. Emotions are indicators. When you work past negative ones, you build trust and courage which leads to confidence. Overthinking leads to inaction which leads to regret. You will regret what you didn't do far more than what you did. Stop being more committed to your limitations than your opportunities. Stay Inspired, Angela CONNECT WITH NICOLE: https://nicolekalil.com/ JOIN MY MINDFULNESS CHALLENGE FOR JUST $10 HERE Join the architecting community: Facebook Group Instagram LinkedIn Clubhouse Interested in sponsoring a show or having me as a guest on your podcast or community? Stop here to get information. Into/outro music Alive by Richard Wasson Copyright 2019

Don't be fooled, you're not a bunch of dough and cheese. Luckily, Brendan talks with the fantastic Nicole Kalil, speaker, coach, and author of hit book, "Validation is for Parking," to find out why. First, Brendan talks New Year's Resolution hacks before the two dive deep into the true definition of confidence and why you can't actually ever have too much of it, why the most confident people are the ones that failed, instant confidence boosters, why validation is the icing, not the cake, how to stop overthinking your overthinking, and why it's ok to throw your car keys at anyone. 

If you have ever struggled with feeling like no matter what you do, it's not enough, or looking like you have it all together on the outside but on the inside feeling like you have no idea what you're doing, today's interview with Nicole Kalil is for you. My guest today is Nicole Kalil, author of Validation is For Parking. She transitioned from a Fortune 100 C Suite executive to become a speaker and the host of This is Woman's Work Podcast. She's also known as the Confidence Sherpa and has helped thousands of women reclaim their confidence so they can live authentically, both personally and professionally.   Show Notes: [2:34] - Nicole shares an experience she elaborates on in her book that showed how her outward confidence was a cover up to how she actually felt on the inside. [4:27] - Confidence started out as a personal quest for Nicole, but as she started to piece it together, she wanted to help others. [5:59] - What is the confidence con? [7:14] - We will feel temporarily happy when we get the thing we think will gain us confidence. But then we need more. [9:37] - Until it's perfect or every box is checked, for many women, this causes inner turmoil. [11:03] - Confidence is when we trust ourselves fully. We can't be confident if we rely on ourselves being perfect. [12:31] - Seeking the thing that we think will give us confidence is surface level and isn't enough. [13:42] - Nicole describes some of the things she had to overcome to trust herself. [15:04] - No matter what was going on around her, Nicole had to hang on to that trust. [15:52] - We all are born with trust, but how connected are we to that? What chips away at that over time? [17:43] - Gender stereotypes limit our available emotions. [19:06] - Men are challenged by trusting themselves as well, but later in life when their identity is wrapped up in their career. [20:03] - People trust people who trust themselves. [22:18] - In her book, Nicole provides 5 confidence builders that will help get into action. [23:06] - Talk to yourself the way you would someone you love. [24:23] - Nicole describes how she handles “head trash”. [27:05] - Our internal self-talk can be detrimental and runs rampant in everyone. [29:31] - We are more likely to follow through with our commitments to other people than we are to ourselves. [32:04] - What are the messages Nicole wants to instill in her own daughter?   Connect with Nicole: Website  |  Instagram  |  LinkedIn  |  Podcast  Validation is For Parking by Nicole Kalil   Links and Resources: Your First Six Figures Masterclass  Join the $10K Club Apply for the $50K Club  ElyseArcher.com  DM me on Instagram @elysearcher

How we define success is often influenced by those around us, society, the industry that we work in—outsiders whose opinions aren't really relevant to our sense of self. The most important factor in your success and how you operate as a leader is you. Today's guest is Nicole Kalil, a coach, podcast host, author, and speaker, who I met at a retreat where we bonded over wanting less with intention instead of more, more, more. She's here today to chat with me about what it looks like to embrace our own definition of success.  In today's episode, Nicole also shares why it's important to lead yourself, get out of your comfort zone, and adopt a growth mindset. She also gives us her best advice on what you can do today to start building trust and confidence in yourself and what you want for your business. Join my new monthly community, the Uplevel Lounge Collective, where you can connect with me and other leaders to share insight, get encouragement, and build relationships to help you grow!  Full show notes available at www.melissafroehlich.com/112 Where We Can Connect:  Join my Scale Your Way Mastermind www.melissafroehlich.com Join The UpLevel Lounge Facebook Group  Subscribe to the Podcast Connect with Melissa on Instagram Follow Melissa on Facebook

Ask anyone and they will say that one of the secrets to success is to have confidence in yourself. We naturally push ourselves forward when we believe and strengthen our competence and abilities. In this episode, Erika is joined by the remarkable Nicole Kalil – a speaker, author and respectable coach who has worked with so many women build their confidence.Listen in as she shares how you build confidence, how confidence is on the road to competence, and gives actionable tools to become confident. You're going to want to bookmark this episode.

Did you know that  92% of all business books are written by men?  While there is certainly a lot that we can learn from the masculine perspective, what's missing is the voice of women. My guest this week, Nicole Kalil, is an in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, and in this episode, she shares her insights on how we can build confidence the feminine way. In our conversation, Nicole talks about embracing your true self – learning to trust and honor what is authentically you, even when the path ahead seems uncertain or difficult. She also shares some powerful tips for developing confidence, including the gifts of "failure" and the importance of setting meaningful goals that align with your true desires. Tune into this episode to hear Nicole share more on: Masculine leadership vs. feminine leadership in business How to cultivate trust in yourself and the process The five key confidence builders from a feminine lens If you want to build more confidence in your career or life, this episode is for you! Hope you enjoy this convo as much as I did. It gave me full-body shivers! For full show notes, resources, and links: https://www.hungryforhappiness.com/podcasts/ep-260-how-to-build-confidence-as-a-woman The LIFE Mastermind is now accepting applications. Apply today at https://www.pausebreathwork.com/mastermind/  Get the Pause Breathwork App: https://pausebreathwork.com/app The Sam Skelly Show combines personal development, deep conversations, and comedy to shake up the way you connect with yourself and the world. Be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, so you don't miss an episode!

Author Nicole Kalil, bringing her new book “Validation is for Parking - How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con” is with me today for the very important discussion about confidence - and how the confidence that we portray outwardly doesn't necessarily match up to how we feel inside. Nicole's story is a cautionary tale and one that a lot of us have experienced and faced. We appear and "act" very confident on the outside, but inside we are hiding and afraid of being "found out". We may even be in such a dark place because of our lack of authenticity that we don't know how we will ever escape.The beauty of it is that Nicole is here to help with all the ways we can shed that fear and begin to build confidence where it is most important - INSIDE of us. She is spilling the whys, whats, and the hows of confidence, our lack of it, and how we build it.It's important to remember that confidence and trust in ourselves is a continual journey. Not a final place to arrive. Make sure to find Nicole at all of the following to join her on a confidence journey.You can find Nicole here:Website:  https://nicolekalil.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil/Nicole's Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Validation-Parking-Women-Beat-Confidence/dp/1544532695Nicole's Book at Barnes & Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/validation-is-for-parking-nicole-kalil/1142262130?ean=9781544532691Of course you can find me here - And don't forget to email if you need some help following through on a health commitment you have made:hello@lesleylmcshane.comOther ways to find me:If you want to check out a good tool to get your daily life on track, find theYou Deserve It: Goal Tracker, Planner, & Journal at Amazon here:https://www.amazon.com/You-Deserve-Notebook-Tracker-Planner/dp/B0B4BGBBJGJoin the Redesigning Midlife Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/redesigningmidlife/All of the other places you can find me:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/lesleylmcshaneWebsite: http://www.lesleylmcshane.comWant to sign up for the Redesigning Midlife Newsletter? https://www.subscribepage.com/the-redesigning-midlife-newslette

We are honored to welcome back Nicole Kalil! In this episode we discuss her new book Validation Is For Parking. Nicole provides a comprehensive guide for building internal trust and reclaiming confidence, a skill built from the inside out. You'll learn how to create boundaries, give yourself grace, and overcome the five most common derailers that impede progress and contribute to unhealthy patterns. This is a journey in which there are no shortcuts, but Nicole provides the guidance and support you need to break free from limiting narratives. A book for all women, Validation Is for Parking is an uplifting exploration of the untruths we believe and the internal antidotes that teach us to trust ourselves and become who we're meant to be. We are giving away 10 free copies of her new book, so please email ashley@montgomerycompanies.com and we will get that to you! Buy Nicole's book now available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BFJWVM95/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_71J0XWJAHJ600QWR1H8F

Here in "No More Perfect" land, we talk a lot about the many different relationships in life—marriage, parenting, friendships, and even extended family relationships. However, we have never had an episode where we talk about our relationship with ourselves (until today!). As women, we are bombarded with messaging that tells us that we should be confident with very little information on how to actually do it. Thankfully, my guest today is changing that!Nicole Kalil is a speaker, leadership strategist, and coach who specializes in helping women build internal trust and reclaim confidence. She believes confidence is built from the inside out as we learn to trust ourselves and who we are meant to be.In this episode, you'll hear:The connection between your relationship with God and confidenceThe most common confidence derailersHow to start building confidenceAnd more!I really enjoyed this conversation, and I'm praying it is an encouragement to you today.Show Notes: https://jillsavage.org/nicole-kalil-117

Struggling to feel confident is something most of us (if not all) can relate to.  Why do we all seem to have such a hard time with confidence?  Because far too many of us believe that confidence is something you either have or don't, as though it's a fixed character trait.  The truth? Confidence is a skill.  Today on The Bridge to Fulfillment, Blake welcomes Nicole Kalil, an in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast. She has a passion for eliminating gender expectations by redefining “Woman's Work” and helping women build confidence while providing actionable tools to develop the skill of confidence building.  In this episode, you'll hear about the “confidence con,” the lie we've been told about confidence, and how you can start to dismantle it. You'll uncover the true definition of confidence and start to recognize how it has been shaped by the masculine-forged business environment. You'll also hear about the 5 Confidence Builders, actionable ways that can help you develop it as a skill and walk the path toward greater self-awareness.  “Real confidence is something that permeates all aspects of your life and doesn't just live in one place.” If you're ready to start building your confidence skills and gain a deeper understanding of who you truly are, then this episode is for you.   What You'll Learn: • The moment she realized she was living a lie (6:12)
 • How the armor women wear to exist in the business world undermines us (10:55)
 • The problem with allowing your work achievements to define who you are (17:10)
 • The formula for building confidence and understanding how it affects the rest of your life (20:08)
 • The 5 confidence builders and how to use them (22:30)
 • Defining confidence and understanding how it relates to self-awareness (28:17)
 Favorite Quotes: 1.  There's a lot of advice about how to build confidence that's very surface-level and doesn't actually last. But, if you can understand how to build confidence from a deep understanding of who you are, it's a complete and utter game-changer. –Blake
 2. The way that it looked on the outside was not how it felt on the inside. I was lonely. I was spending all weekend waiting for a Monday morning to come so I could have purpose again. –Nicole Kalil
 3. A lot of the things that stop us from being our authentic selves stop us from being the vulnerable leaders that actually inspire people. -Blake
 4. Real confidence is something that permeates all aspects of your life and doesn't just live in one place. –Nicole Kalil
 5. It's great to achieve. It's wonderful to get complimented. It's great when somebody comes along and validates your work. But all those things should be icing on the confidence cake, not the cake itself. –Nicole Kalil
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Nicole Kalil was playing an Oscar-worthy performance as a confident leader at a fortune 100 finance company while on the inside she was having a totally different experience. Now she is a confidence sherpa, leading people to discover how to build their own confidence. In this episode we talk about how to grow the trust in ourselves, letting go of the idea of being all things to all people, and why the hard moments are magic. Website: www.nicolekalil.com Book: Validation is for Parking   **** Are you looking for a coach to help you on your self-development journey? You can hire Danielle. Book a free consultation at www.daniellemccombs.com   

Perfection is the enemy of confidence. It tells us we need to do it all, be it all, have it all, look good while we're doing it AND somehow make it look effortless. I am Nicole Kalil, a recovering perfectionist - and on today's episode, we are going to talk about what my guest calls, the perfection infection. Jill Savage is the author of fourteen books: No More Perfect Moms, No More Perfect Kids and No More Perfect Marriages among them. She also hosts the No More Perfect podcast with her husband, Mark. I think it's pretty obvious that Jill has a very clear message. Known for her honest and engaging communication both as a speaker and in life, she's here today to challenge us to stop comparing our insides to other people's outsides. I'm going to give it to you straight…you will never arrive at confidence via the perfectionism highway. Grace, kindness, messy imperfect action, trusting yourself, especially during the hard times, that's the stuff of real confidence. Confidence is your choice to make anytime you want, because that is woman's work. You can learn more about Jill Savage by going to: www.jillsavage.org or follow her on IG @jillsavage.author To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com. Get your copy of Validation Is For Parking.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:  Reconnecting with yourself   Living authentically Confidence derails Resources: Website: nicolekalil.com  Read Validation Is For Parking Join This Is Confidence  Listen to This Is Women's Work podcast LinkedIn: @Nicole Kalil  Instagram: @nicolemkalil Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Listen to Jordan Montgomery's Episode  Listen to my episode on This Is Women's Work podcast  Show Notes:  STOP waiting for your confidence to just happen. Remember, you are in control of your life and that means you control your confidence too! Instead of trying to please the people around you, trust yourself and go after what inspires you. Nicole Kalil left her stable career in finance to follow her passion of helping women EVERYWHERE thrive as their authentic selves. She's here to help us tap into our own voices, develop trust, and step into our most confident selves TODAY! So don't be afraid to fail because it will only help you GROW your confidence.       About The Guest: Nicole Kalil is an in demand speaker and the dynamic host of, This Is Women's Work podcast! Known as the confidence sherpa, Nicole reveals the strategies and techniques she uses that set her apart from other experts. As a previous fortune 100, C-Suite level executive, she's helped thousands of women live their lives authentically and powerfully!  If You Liked This Episode You Might Also Like These Episodes: OVERCOME Your Villains With Heather!  What Happens When You Realize That YOU Are Enough with Lisa Lampanelli  How To OWN Your Voice When Others Don't Agree with Heather! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Thought leaders everywhere talk about the importance of being confident, but rarely do they explain how to develop true confidence that does not rely on external validation and praise. What steps can we take to develop true self-confidence? Nicole Kalil is known as the “Leadership and Confidence Sherpa.” She hosts a top 2% podcast called ‘This Is Woman's Work' that helps women develop trust and confidence within themselves and develop healthy partnerships along the way. She's also the author of Validation Is For Parking, which reveals how to develop internal trust and reclaim confidence.  In this episode, Nicole breaks down what confidence truly is and why trusting yourself is a vital component of confidence. Her and Hala talk about how to redirect your thoughts to shed your need for validation and how to manage your head trash in a more uplifting, productive way. Additionally, they dig into the discrepancy in confidence between genders and how we can eliminate gender expectations by encouraging authenticity.  Topics Include: - Learning coaching from her dad - Serving as Development Officer - Choosing confidence over competence  - The ‘Confidence Con' - Validation addiction  - What is true confidence?  - Counteracting comparison and judgment - Managing our ‘head trash' - Making up a better story  - Breaking trust with yourself - Masculinity and femininity in the workplace - Starting Woman's Work  - How does Nicole advocate for women? - Eliminating gender expectations  - Confidence in relationships  - Confidence is a muscle  - Some dangers of humility  - Feel-good folder - And other topics… Nicole Kalil is an in-demand keynote speaker, leadership strategist, and respected coach with a passion for developing confidence and eliminating gender expectations. As a former Fortune 100 employee, she has coached hundreds of women in business, which gave her insight on what is and isn't serving women and leaders within an organization. Her podcast, ‘This Is Woman's Work,' gives people actionable advice on strengthening confidence and changing the way we define ‘woman's work.'  Nicole released her first book, Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con, on October 4, 2022, which serves as a guide for building internal trust, reclaiming confidence, eliminating the need for external validation, and breaking free from limiting beliefs.  Resources Mentioned: ‘This Is Woman's Work' Podcast: https://nicolekalil.com/podcast  Nicole's Book, Validation Is For Parking: https://nicolekalil.com/book  Nicole's Website: https://nicolekalil.com/  Nicole's LinkedIn: https://nicolekalil.com/  Nicole's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/?hl=en  Nicole's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nicolemkalil/  Sponsored By:  Swag.com - Go to swag.com/yap and get 10% off your order Sabio - Visit sabio.la/YAP for a $1,000 scholarship towards the cost of their bootcamp at Sabio! Shopify - Sign up for a free trial at shopify.com/profiting ClickUp - Sign up today at ClickUp.com and use code yap to get 15% off! Connect with Young and Profiting: Hala's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/htaha/     Hala's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/yapwithhala/     Hala's Twitter: https://twitter.com/yapwithhala  Website: https://www.youngandprofiting.com/  Text Hala: https://youngandprofiting.co/TextHala or text “YAP” to 28046 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The job search process can fill you with doubt. Lori Cole discusses how to gain confidence when finding a job on Find Your Niche, a Career Podcast. Finding a job can be a harrowing experience that makes you question your abilities. So how do you build confidence when a long job search fills you with doubt? That's what career coach Lori Cole investigates on today's episode of Find Your Niche, a Career Podcast. Here are a few ways we sap our confidence: Overthinking Perfectionism Negative self-talk Comparing yourself to others Seeking external validation In this episode, Cole discusses how to gain confidence for your job hunt with author and podcast host Nicole Kalil, whose book, Validation is for Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con, provides a roadmap to finding confidence from within.

QUEEN! Let me tell you, you are in for a real treat today! On the show we have my good friend, Nicole Kalil!! Nicole is a motivational speaker, exceptional coach, host of the This Is Woman's Work podcast, and brand new author of the book Validation Is For Parking (get your copy ASAP & thank me later!). Known as the Confidence Sherpa, Nicole reveals how-to strategies that set her apart from other self-help experts. Previously a Fortune 100 C-suite executive to successful entrepreneur, she's helped thousands of women reclaim their confidence so they can live authentically, both personally and professionally. This conversation touches on it all! So much more than hypothetical stories highlighting mountain top moments and “I've already heard this” tips, Nicole dives into the raw, real, relatable, and shocking practicalities that build confidence (as well as chip it away). If you struggle with perfectionism, lack of self-trust, or Imposter Syndrome, then do yourself a favor and get in on this episode!CONNECT WITH NICOLEWebsite: https://nicolekalil.comBook: Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence ConPodcast: This is Woman's WorkInstagram: @nicolemkalil EPISODE RESOURCESRegister for the Own Your Throne 10-Week Program (starts Oct. 4th)Register for the 12-month Own Your Throne MastermindSanta Monica Retreat (Nov.9-11, 2022)Join the Q Club (2-week free trial) Get the book hereClaim your FREE companion courseDM me on Instagram @ginadevee Divineliving.com

Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. Well that, and an abundant amount of coffee. An in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, her stalker- like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually  tells how you build it, and gives actionable tools – not just stories – to BECOME confident. A fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business, which has given her insight as to what – structurally, systemically and socially – is and isn't serving women and leaders within an organization. Maintaining some semblance of sanity in her different roles of wife, mother, and business owner successfully is an ongoing  challenge… in whatever free time she has, she enjoys reading and wine guzzling, is an avid cheese enthusiast,  a hotel snob, and a reluctant peloton rider. MEMORABLE MOMENTS:“The number one confidence builder is action, action builds confidence.”“Mistakes, fear, doubt, loss, any of those sort of, we equate with negative emotions, all of those things actually build confidence if you choose it, if you let it.”“Give yourself grace on the journey…the way we communicate with ourselves, the things we say to ourselves, in our own mind, really matter as it relates to confidence. So what I would encourage you to do when I say giving yourself grace is talk to yourself, like someone you love.”“Confidence is a choice first, and then the feeling catches up. So we've heard the expression fake it to make it. I have replaced that with choose it until you become it.”“No one or nothing is holding on to your confidence waiting to give it to you. The way we build confidence is internally. So I would invite you to think about how you build trust with other people or how they build trust with you. If you can turn that back on yourself, that's probably a really good insight into how you would build trust with yourself.” Connect with Nicole:⭐ Connect on Instagram @nicolemkalil⭐ https://nicolekalil.com/⭐ LinkdIn - Nicole KalilNicole's Book:⭐ Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con – OUT NOW! Connect with Allison:⭐ Connect on Instagram @allisonwalsh⭐ JOIN OUR FREE COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/shebelievedshecouldcommunity⭐ Check out book recommendations from the show here⭐  JOIN the 12 week #CrushyourGoals challenge group today by clicking this link.  Use code goals50⭐ LEARN MORE about THINKIFIC COMMUNITIES here

Buy Nicole's book, Validation is for Parking: https://amzn.to/3CPDpQBFollow Nicole here https://nicolekalil.comThis week's episode of the podcast is a LONG time coming!Nicole Kahlil and I go back over 17 years. We met at the home office for the Fortune 100 financial firm that we were both working for at the time.Nicole has developed an absolutely incredible career, life, and family since we met all those years ago.What I LOVE bout Nicole is that although a lot of our foundational beliefs are the same, many of them are actually very different.I can guarantee you that this episode will be one that many of YOU will listen to several times to truly unpack all of the gold that Nicole brings.Make sure to go get her new book Validation is for Parking- can be found anywhere books are sold. I HIGHLY recommend it.Full episode now live on Youtube and ALL podcast platforms.The Burn Podcast, ignited by Punch'd Energy.https://www.puchdenergy.com************************************Let's work TOGETHER https://www.bennewmancoaching.comOrder my new book UNCOMMON LEADERSHIP: 11 Ways the Greatest Leaders Lead: www.bennewman.net/preorderConnect with me everywhere else:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/continuedfightFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/Continuedfight/Twitter: https://twitter.com/ContinuedFighthttps://www.bennewmancoaching.com

Get your own copy of Ashley's new book You Turn at youturnbook.com!   How confident do you feel today?   This week, Ash sits down with Nicole Kalil, a speaker, leadership strategist, coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” podcast, to discuss all things confidence: how to build it up, ways you may be losing self-worth and how to integrate confidence into your business and relationships with grace and ease.   We often use the word confidence incorrectly. We so often think it is about feeling good, successful, or attractive. The truth is, that confidence is about trusting yourself boldly. Nicole and Ash discuss building trust within yourself and taking action from this part of your being.   If you are struggling to believe in yourself or are looking for ways to build upon your sense of confidence, there is something powerful in this episode for you. You don't want to miss this!   In This Episode, You'll Learn: An exercise to get to know yourself and reconnect to who you truly are. What feedback from someone truly means.  What confidence really means, and how to attain true confidence  Five ways we derail confidence  What head trash is and how to break free from the control this element has over your confidence. Where You Can Find Nicole Kalil https://nicolekalil.com/ This Is Women's Work Podcast Connect on IG: @nicolemkalil https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ SOUL CBD   Here is something just for you to sleep more deeply, reduce stress and heal anxiety.    Visit ashleystahl.com/soul and use the code YOUTURN at checkout for 15% off your order!   BIOPTIMIZER   Sick and tired of being sick or tired?    If you want to improve your sleep quality, try Magnesium Breakthrough, the only magnesium supplement I know of that contains 7 different forms of magnesium.    Visit www.magbreakthrough.com/youturn with code YOUTURN10 for a 10% discount on your order.   GladSkin Ready to no longer stress about breakouts? Try Gladskin, a new category of skin blemish treatment that works based on the nature of healthy skin. Visit https://gladskin.com/youturn for 15% off your order + FREE shipping.

In today's episode, I go behind the stage and behind the page with my new friend Nicole Kalil. Nicole is an in demand speaker, author of the incredible new book, Validation is For Parking, a respected coach and the host of the This is Women's Work Podcast. Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining women's work is both what keeps her up at night and what gets her up in the morning. She is a former Fortune 100 C-suite executive and has coached thousands of women in business, which has given her a unique insight into what structurally, systematically, and socially is and isn't serving women and leaders within an organization. But gentlemen, make sure you listen closely as the strategies she shares on commitment, courage, and authenticity during the unseen hours directly applies to us as well. This season I'm exploring what high performers do behind the scenes. I've been enjoying fascinating conversations with professional stand-up comedians, magicians, actors, rappers, dancers, YouTubers, athletes, coaches, and everything in between to find out exactly what they do behind the curtain – when the cameras are off and the arenas are empty – to work towards mastery of their craft and to prepare themselves to perform at a world class level. I hope you find their insights, perspectives, and personal strategies as helpful as I do and use what they share to continue to Raise Your Game.Warning: this episode contains the occasional use of adult language – words like BLEEP and BLEEP and quite possibly some nudity… so please be advised. Thank you so much for investing your time with us. I hope we helped you Raise Your Game and provided useful insight on how you can maximize your time and effort. If you found this episode helpful, would you be open-minded to supporting the show? Would you be kind enough to share it with a friend or colleague? Would you take 30 seconds and leave us a rating and review? Those two things help support the show's mission and message more than you know. And don't ever forget, a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.Sustain Your Game teaches you how to bring your A game to every area of your life. With advice from top CEOs, journalists, social scientists, and more, you'll learn the framework for how to beat stress, stagnation, and burnout. Sustain Your Game will help you be the best in your arena, wherever that may be.Sustain Your Game if available now at http://www.SustainYourGameBook.comPlease make sure to join the conversations at @AlanSteinJr on all major social platforms, go to AlanSteinJr.com to subscribe to my Game Changer monthly emails.Additionally, you can order the audiobook of Raise Your Game: High Performance Secrets from the Best of the Best at http://www.Audible.com or wherever audiobooks are sold. You can also order paperback or hard copies, for you or your entire team or organization, at http://www.RaiseYourGameBook.com. Lastly, if I can ever be of service to you or your organization, please visit AlanSteinJr.com and StrongerTeam.com for a variety of speaking and coaching resources. 

Hey everybody, welcome to the Author Hour Podcast. As always, I'm your host, Gunnar Rogers. I am joined today by fellow podcast host of the podcast, This Is Women's Work, Nicole Kalil. She's ... The post Validation Is for Parking: Nicole Kalil appeared first on Author Hour.

Understanding and Owning Your Confidence with Nicole Kalil Sales Series In today's episode, I talk with Nicole Kalil, an author, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of “This Is Woman's Work” podcast. Nicole is passionate about redefining women's work, and coaching women in business on what is and isn't serving women and leaders within organizations. Today's episode discusses what confidence actually is, the ways it differs from what society has led women to believe it is, and how to combat harmful mindsets and behaviors that derail women from building that true confidence from within. Some top tips … Recognize that true confidence is essentially just trusting yourself and that it is internal. Confidence is not a feeling you get through external sources (ie. compliments) but a conscious choice that you make. It's not “fake it till you make it,” but “choose it till you become it.” Some examples of mindsets and behaviors that can derail you from building true confidence from within are being too judgemental and comparing yourself to others, listening to head-trash, trying to achieve constant perfection, overthinking, and seeking external validation. To combat these derailers, it's important to take action, not feeling intimidated by failure, utilizing positive affirmations during moments of doubt, and not overcommitting but still holding yourself accountable to the commitments you do make. This episode at glance … >> (6:30-9:00) Why women struggle more with confidence during adolescence and adult years >> (10:45-14:50) What is confidence, really? >> (15:10-17:00) The confidence con >> (17:00-19:15) Common confidence derailers >> (20:30-27:00) Confidence builders to combat these derailers >> (27:55-30:05) Nicole's book, Validation is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con, coming out October 4, 2022 >> (30:10-35:00) How Nicole overcame the daunting task of writing a book >> (35:00-35:55) The need for business books written from the feminine perspective Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Christie and The Business That Story Built podcast!” Does that sound like you? Please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people like you who want to build a stronger business. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast! Every week I release an episode that helps strengthen the stories we tell ourselves and the stories we tell others. Follow now! Links to reach Nicole Kalil & Christie Bilbrey http://www.nicolekalil.com/ Nicole's book, "Validation is for Parking": https://nicolekalil.com/book Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ Podcast: This Is Woman's Work www.christiebilbrey.com hello@christiebilbrey.com Download my free guide: 10 Tips to Grow Your Business as a Podcast Guest Instagram: https://instagram.com/christiebilbrey LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiebilbrey/

If you had more confidence, what decisions would you make? What risks would you take? What dreams would you chase? Nicole Kalil, Speaker, Confidence sherpa, and author is seeking to answer those questions in her book,  Validation is for Parking: How Women can Beat the Confidence Con Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” keeps her up at night and gets her up in the morning. She's a speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast. In this episode, Nicole defines what confidence is and isn't. We also discuss:The moment she realized she needed to build her confidenceThe impact of living inauthenticallyWhy our confidence takes a hit, and how to protect ourselvesThe five steps  to building confidence How to build a confidence Recovery PlanFind Nicole Kalil on her Website or follow her on Instagram or LinkedIn Get her book hereShow notes: Grab a Strengths & Strategy Session HERE. Check out my Recent Article on FastCompany.com: 4 Ways to Fight Ageism in Your Job SearchFollow @jillGriffinOffical on Instagram for daily inspiration. Visit JillGriffinCoaching.com for more details on my private and group coaching programs. 

Today's guest, Nicole Kalil is a Confidence Coach that prefers to call herself a Confidence Sherpa as she prides herself on walking the uphill journey with you.Nicole's genius as a fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, is to help women remove the roadblocks, biases and challenges that trailblazing, professional women face so that they can thrive as their authentic selves.  In today's episode, Nicole highlights some of the top "Confidence Con's" as she calls them, helping us uncover the lies, the truth, and how one actually (keyword) builds confidence in today's world. You can connect with Nicole on Instagram @nicolemkalil or on Linkedin.Order Nicole's book, Validation Is For Parking HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Validation-Parking-Women-Beat-Confidence-ebook/dp/B0BFJWVM95/ref=sr_1_1?tag=scribemedia-20&crid=1GO2TE2X6H4CT&geniuslink=trueIf you enjoyed this episode, please LEAVE A REVIEW so we can inspire other motivated mamas! Alone we are strong but together, we are UNSTOPPABLE.Connect with Jessie on Instagram: @jessieharrisboutonAND/OR say hello in our Facebook Community!Want to learn how how to make $1Million with 1 program in 1 year working less than part-time hours?  Watch this free training showing you exactly how to create, sell and scale your signature high-ticket group coaching program on autopilot without sales calls: www.millionairemompreneur.com/7figurecoachsecrets

They say confidence is key. But how can you harness something you don't fully understand? Let in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the This Is Woman's Work Podcast, Nicole Kalil enlighten you as she tells us what confidence is all about and how it hinders us from performing our best and attaining our goals. She shares highlights from her upcoming book Validation Is for Parking and the five key confidence derailers and their antidotes to help us overcome our insecurities and be able to step up, bring ourselves out there, and take on whatever challenges may come. So ask yourself, if you had more confidence, what decisions would you make? What risks would you take? What dreams would you chase? Tune in to find out more about how you can build internal trust, reclaim confidence and live your purpose. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! http://aliciadunams.com/

Mady and Scout chat with Nicole Kalil, author of Validation is for Parking, all about confidence - how to cultivate it, what it is and what it isn't and, what the the five confidence derailers and the five confidence boosters are. Buy Nicole's book HERE. JOIN OUR COMMUNITY CENTER ON GENEVA! LEAVE A VOICEMAIL FOR THE SISTERS HERE! GET OUR MERCH HERE :) SUBSCRIBE to the new Okay Sis newsletter here- TGIM is about to take on a whole new meaning! Follow us! Nicole: @nicolemkalil Okay Sis: @okaysispodcast Scout: @scoutsobel Mady: @madymaio See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mady and Scout chat with Nicole Kalil, author of Validation is for Parking, all about confidence - how to cultivate it, what it is and what it isn't and, what the the five confidence derailers and the five confidence boosters are. Buy Nicole's book HERE. JOIN OUR COMMUNITY CENTER ON GENEVA! LEAVE A VOICEMAIL FOR THE SISTERS HERE! GET OUR MERCH HERE :) SUBSCRIBE to the new Okay Sis newsletter here- TGIM is about to take on a whole new meaning! Follow us! Nicole: @nicolemkalil Okay Sis: @okaysispodcast Scout: @scoutsobel Mady: @madymaio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nicole Kalil is a speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, author, and podcast host. She spent 15 years working for a financial planning company where she was frequently the only woman in the room. After so many years of working hard for promotions, pushing down her feminine qualities in favor of leaning into more stereotypically masculine traits, Nicole realized she no longer even knew who she was authentically anymore. She had become so burned out that she hated her job, hated the people around her, and had lost herself in endless people-pleasing. Now Nicole helps other women to put aside gender expectations, regain their confidence, and learn to hear and trust their inner voices so that they can live authentically.    “Our confidence lives inside of us, and it's accessible anytime we want. We have just been socialized and received messaging to the contrary pretty much our whole lives,” explains Nicole Kalil. Due to the way girls are often socialized while growing up, many women falsely believe that confidence is something that exists externally. So much of societal conditioning tells women that confidence can be found by dressing a certain way, behaving a certain way, having perfect children, or having the right job. Nicole refers to this as the ‘confidence con', because the truth is that confidence exists within everyone and it is accessible as soon as we choose to trust ourselves. The first step to regaining confidence is to learn how to listen for your inner voice and how to differentiate it from ‘head trash' or how Nicole refers to the bullying voice that exists within our minds, usually consisting of mean statements from others. The easiest way to differentiate head trash from your true inner voice is that head trash is always mean. If you are speaking to yourself in a way that you'd never speak to a loved one, that is head trash.    We have been conditioned all our lives to believe that confidence exists externally and that we have to fit into certain societal standards in order to deserve it. The truth is that we are all deserving of confidence and it lives within us, ready for us to tap into at any time. Tune into today's episode of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast for a conversation with Nicole Kalil about the confidence con, how to differentiate head trash from your inner voice, and how to compost or recycle head trash into something that can help rather than hinder your growth.    Quotes · “I didn't know who I was authentically anymore. And I was hating my work, was hating the people I was doing it with, through no fault of their own, just because I had put myself in this position where I tried to show up and please everyone else, but myself.” (5:49-6:06 | Nicole) · “I think women far too often are waiting to be ready. They're waiting for the fear and the nervousness to go away and only have excitement and readiness. And I'm like, oh, gosh, we're waiting too long.” (12:34-12:48 | Nicole) · “Our confidence lives inside of us, and it's accessible anytime we want. We have just been socialized and received messaging to the contrary pretty much our whole lives.” (13:45-13:55 | Nicole)  · “I would encourage you to think about how you build trust with another person or how somebody else builds trust with you. That's probably going to give you the best insight into how you build trust with yourself.” (38:47-38:57 | Nicole)   Links   Connect with Nicole Kalil: www.nicolekalil.com https://nicolekalil.com/book https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil/ http://eepurl.com/gOrQLL Join our community!      XOXO, C   If you know that it's time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you've been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait   https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz   Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

In this episode of the Powerful Stories podcast, I talk with Nicole Kalil, direct from the US. Nicole is a former C-suite executive, who decided to step away from her role at a Fortune 500 company to focus on her true calling – building women's confidence.  Now a keynote speaker, host of the ‘This Is Woman's Work' podcast and author (her first book, Validation is for Parking, is out October 4), she is a wealth of wisdom and inspiration. We have a beautiful conversation around having the confidence to step out of what does not feel right for our truth, our intent and our purpose to move into what is right for our destiny. As well as talking career U-turns, we discuss what true confidence really looks like, how to reframe our failures in order to deepen our trust within ourself, and the power of women who support each other.  We also talk about how showing up online from a place of authenticity and genuine purpose is received with so much more support and connection; as well as what the ‘false equation' is and how to leave this behind in order to build your confidence from the inside out. Powerfully, Nicole says that it's not about becoming confident, but about connecting to your confidence. Personally for me, the women my life lift each other up – their success story is my success story, and Nicole absolutely shares this outlook, so it was a pure delight to connect with her. I believe that all women deserve to step up and into their power, and they can only do that when they have confidence – so this one is a must-listen. Much love, Tory xox  Topics Discussed [1:08] Nicole didn't know the magic of women authentically and abundantly supporting each other until recent years, and says her life changed when the uncovered this power. She is seeking to reframe the concept of ‘woman's work' in a way that each individual woman gets to decide what her work is – wherever purpose leads you to be lit up from the inside. [4:49] Nicole says that statistically, women have less confidence than men in their 30s, 40s and 50s, but we weren't born this way. She argues that lacking confidence isn't a ‘you' problem, it's a society problem, and goes on to say that true confidence is when you trust yourself. The key is to own who you are, know who you're not and choose to embrace all of it. [7:32] Moving into a place where you believe you are enough involves quietening what Nicole calls the ‘head trash' – the voice in our mind that says things about us, to us, that are rarely true.  [10:54] Nicole reveals the game-changing moments that took her on the path to where she is today; including what she describes as delivering ‘an Oscar-worthy performance' as a C-suite executive, while being lonely and lacking in confidence behind-the-scenes, and the subsequent decision to step away from her lucrative corporate career to follow her calling.  [15:47] Navigating the loss of identity that comes with leaving behind the corporate career you have become known for; stepping forward to show people who you have become and how to answer the question ‘What do you do?' as a fledgling entrepreneur.   [17:59] We talk about how showing up on social media or online when our confidence is low, usually receives a response that reflects this. On the flip side, when we show up from a place of confidence and truth, our content resonates so much more deeply. Nicole says that outsourcing has helped her conserve energy and protect her authenticity.  [20:43] Nicole shares how she built her powerful tribe on social media, including being clear and authentic in how she shows up, which helps her people to gravitate towards her, as well as strategic moves such as joining social media support groups to boost her exposure and engagement.  [22:23] Nicole speaks about the ‘mean girls syndrome', and her belief that this kind of behaviour stems from insecurity.  [25:42] Nicole shares the three powerful steps she recommends you take right now in order to gain confidence.    Where to find Nicole Website: www.nicolekalil.com Instagram: @nicolemkalil Where to Find Tory Archbold Are you ready to take a powerful step forward in business and in life? You can join Tory's dynamic community of top female entrepreneurs by signing up to the Powerful Steps Coffee Challenge (it's free!): https://powerful-steps.com/coffee-challenge/. You can also connect with Tory Archbold and her offerings, including corporate keynote speaking, business mentoring and the popular Business Attraction Program, here: Instagram: @powerfulsteps LinkedIn: Powerful Steps by Tory Archbold YouTube: Powerful Steps – YouTube Business Attraction Program: click hereSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we have Nicole Kalil, speaker and author of the new book, Validation is for Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con. Nicole Kalil's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. An in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, her stalker like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually tells how you build it, and gives actionable tools – not just stories – to BECOME confident.    Read the transcript here:   https://www.voiceofinfluence.net/249 Give and receive feedback that makes a difference! Register for our 20 minute Deep Impact Method video course here:  www.voiceofinfluence.net/deepimpact

“Choose confidence until you become it.”In this episode, Claudio and Bernadette share their conversation with Nicole Kalil, a speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast. Nicole shares about taking action first when seeking confidence, not the other way around. She teaches action and failure are the most vital elements necessary to grow your confidence while redefining what confidence really is.Nicole is a fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business, which has given her insight as to what – structurally, systemically and socially – is and isn't serving women and leaders within an organization. One of her focuses is on the topic of confidence and how to actually attain it with actionable tools. She is helping trailblazing women thrive in their authentic selves.Connect with Nicole KalilWebsite: https://nicolekalil.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil/This show is sponsored by GFG Solutions: https://gfgsolutions.com/GFG Solutions was created to bring peace of mind, clarity, and happiness to our clients who own and manage businesses. We help businesses with their financial responsibilities, including tax prep, bookkeeping, payroll, and much more. And through our consulting services, we help businesses align their business decisions with their financial goals.Follow GFG: https://www.instagram.com/gfgsolutions/Follow Bernadette: https://www.instagram.com/the.band.tee.ceo/

Are you interested in confidence?  Have you been struggling with your own self-consciousness? In this episode, I talk with Nicole Kalil. Nicole has a passion for eliminating gender expectations, and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night and what gets her up in the morning. She is an in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” podcast. Today we discuss the Confidence Con and what that means. We also discuss why confidence is so important and the things that tend to derail our confidence. Nicole gives so many great tips today. Questions I asked: Why are you the woman to talk about confidence? Why is confidence not based on the way we look? Tell me what confidence is. How do we know when we feel confident? Why does owning your full self bring confidence? Why are you more interested when you're confident? What are the five biggest confidence de-railers? How can you get the “head trash” out? What is the most surprising thing about coaching confidence? Were there any tools that you used to speed up your path to confidence? Do you have anything you want to share with the audience? What is your process to help people get confident about public speaking? Why is validation only for parking? Topics Discussed: Building confidence. Self-Talk. Inner confidence. How to improve confidence. Confidence builders. Quotes from the show: “I focus on what's doing damage to our confidence.” @nicolemkalil @SisterhoodSweat “We're bombarded with mixed messages about what confidence is and what it isn't.” @nicolemkalil @SisterhoodSweat “Confidence is not tied to how we look.” @nicolemkalil @SisterhoodSweat “Confidence goes back to trust.” @nicolemkalil @SisterhoodSweat “Nobody arrives at confidence and is confident from that point forward. It's a journey.” @nicolemkalil @SisterhoodSweat How you can stay in touch with Nicole: Website Twitter Facebook Instagram Listen to her podcast Get her book. How you can stay in touch with Linda: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest YouTube SoundCloud   "Proud Sponsors of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T"   Essential Formulas   My daily energy stems from mushrooms... mushroom coffee that is! Have you checked out Four Sigmatic yet? If you want a coffee that contains superfoods and adaptogens like rhodiola, eleuthero, and schisandra to help you live a healthier, more enhanced life, then you need Four Sigmatic mushroom coffee in your daily routine! Check out their products here and be sure to let me know what you think of it!

Nicole's passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman's Work” is both what keeps her up at night, nd what gets her up in the morning. Well that, and an abundant amount of coffee. An in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, her stalker like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually tells how you build it, and gives actionable tools – not just stories – to BECOME confident. A fugitive of the C-suite at a Fortune 100 company, she has coached hundreds of women in business, which has given her insight as to what – structurally, systemically and socially – is and isn't serving women and leaders within an organization. Maintaining some semblance of sanity in her different roles of wife, mother, and business owner successfully is an ongoing challenge… in whatever free time she has, she enjoys reading and wine guzzling, is an avid cheese enthusiast, a hotel snob, and a reluctant peloton rider.

This week Kelsey sits down with the incredible speaker, coach, podcaster and soon-to-be published author, Nicole Kalil. Nicole pulls from her own expertise to share some words of wisdom about confidence, especially having confidence as a business owner, woman and/or mother. The two dive into how trust serves as the core for confidence and share examples from all aspects of their lives.   What we're talking about… Nicole touches on her experience as a speaker, coach, podcast and soon-to-be published book Nicole defines confidence as knowing who you are and knowing who you're not The homology for the word confidence is trust This concept of trust is how people build confidence in themselves Kelsey shares about her journey in understanding her skill sets as a coach, trusting that expertise and creating a business she can be confident in How your business (and compensation) grows when you recognize and focus on your strengths and let go of what you cannot provide clients  How confidence works its way to motherhood and how to raise confident children  Kelsey and Nicole share some experiences from motherhood where they have failed and reflected How creating achievable goals for yourself can help instill trust in yourself and how this in turns relays to confidence  Ways to connect with Nicole! see links mentioned A {free} Tool or Two!  Did someone say free? Yup that's right. Kelsey's here to help with a few free tools to help launch your business and creative ideas! Click the links to start your journey.  How To Plan Your Business The Coaches Pricing Calculator  The Coaches Workshop: A “Framework” For How To Be An Exceptional Coach & Create Consistent Monthly Income Links Mentioned Nicole Kalil's Website  Nicole Kalil's Instagram  Kelsey Murphy's Website  Kelsey Murphy's Instagram 

In today's episode, I am speaking with Nicole Kalil. Nicole is more than slightly obsessed with confidence and what it takes to both build and keep it. She spent the bulk of her professional life with a Fortune 500 company, where her passion for leadership and her commitment to building her own confidence led her to become the first female Chief Development Officer in a 160-year company history.   Since starting her own company, Nicole has coached hundreds of executives and entrepreneurs, consults with Fortune 500 companies, hosts the “This Is Woman's Work” Podcast, and speaks to leaders across the country about the “not-so-secret” secrets of Confidence.   She is a self-admitted “foodie” and enjoys wine tasting and reading in whatever free time she has!   Nicole and I dish on: What confidence really is Where confidence is born The key (for women especially) to building trust and confidence  The importance of constructive feedback in the process of developing self confidence Great tips to raise confident kids Purchase your copy of Love Based Feminine Marketing: The Art of Growing a 6-Figure Business Without Hustle, Grind, or Force, TODAY!!! Subscribe now so you'll never miss an episode and leave us a review. It really helps us know which content is most important to you. Join our Feminine Business Magic Facebook Group with your host, Julie Foucht. This is a community of women dedicated to connecting, supporting, and celebrating each other in growing businesses that honor their Divine Feminine while filling their bank accounts abundantly.   Resources mentioned: Purchase Love-Based Feminine Marketing (https://tinyurl.com/ydmzb6qz)  Nicole's Free Gift:  Download a free PDF guide to designing your own personalized confidence recovery plan.   Podcast: "This Is Woman's Work"    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-is-womans-work-with-nicole-kalil/id1493225373 **Contact Nicole Kalil via Instagram or https://nicolekalil.com/**  **Connect with Julie Foucht via Facebook or email at https://juliefoucht.com/**

Nicole is more than slightly obsessed with confidence and what it takes to both build and keep it, but she wasn't always this way. She used to put on a performance with her confidence, trying to prove herself to others, but not actually being her authentic self. She knew that she couldn't ‘pretend' to be confident forever, so she learned to not just ‘be' confident, but ‘become' confident. Today, Nicole is the host of This Is Woman's Work. Her company helps women to remove the roadblocks, biases and challenges that trailblazing, professional women face so that they can thrive as their authentic selves. You can find Nicole Kalil on Instagram @nicolemkalil, on Facebook, on her website, Nicole Kalil, and check out her podcast, This Is Woman's Work, on her website or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode is sponsored by CoachSnap, an all-in-one online platform to help build your coaching business. Want to be more Fearless? Website: Fearlessfemale.com Facebook: Facebook.com/groups/fearlessfemalemovement Twitter: @FearlessFemale9 Instagram: @fearlessfemalepodcast and @paolarosser Tiktok: @paola.rosser Youtube: Fearless Female Channel  

This week my guest is Nicole Kalil. Nicole is slightly obsessed with confidence and what it takes to both build and keep it! She spent the bulk of her professional life with a Fortune 500 company. Nicole speaks to leaders across the country about the “not-so-secret” secrets of confidence. “Confidence on the road to competence…” -- Nicole Kalil During our time together, Nicole breaks down a myriad of tangible action items for us to take on the road to confidence. I will share below... Nicole reminds us to... Face the challenges.  Take the risks.  Chase our dreams.  Make the decisions.  All with more confidence! “All the things that matter to us are tied directly to our confidence.” — Nicole Kalil “Know who you are, own who you are not, and choose to embrace all of it.”  Knowing who we are is step one to confidence building. This also includes owning who you are NOT! Let's get deeper into it... 5 Key Confidence Builders: Action builds confidence. Failure (rejection, mistakes, etc.). Remember, we cannot avoid this!! The problem is you cannot be successful OR confident without ever experiencing failure. “Failure is a neutral event…we are the ones bringing meaning to the events!” -- Nicole K.  Choosing confidence. It's not always feeling confident, it's an active choice. Giving yourself grace on the journey. Understanding that confidence building is always a journey! Fears and doubts don't go away. So, we are always on this journey.  Building confidence internally. It's an inside-out game. If you are confident on the inside, it turns outward.   Links Nicole's Website Nicole's Podcast Nicole's Facebook Nicole's Instagram Nicole's LinkedIn

Episode #136 Join me today on Lead Up for Women: Speak Up to Lead Up as we interview Nicole Kalil, Secrets of Confidence Coach! We will dive into all the not so secret, secrets of building a rock solid confidence. And of course, we invite you to reach out to our guests today as well as join us in subscribing to our podcast, attending our events, or simply following us on social media! https://leadup.libsyn.com/ https://www.leadupforwomen.com/events Interested in becoming a member to step into the spotlight and use your VOICE? Or receive more information about the Memberships, click here https://www.leadupforwomen.com/memberships Snag a copy of my latest book, Step Into the Spotlight to Expand your Influence here https://colleenbiggs.net/ You can also find our videos on Youtube (previous episodes) here. Subscribe today to be kept up-to-date on the latest episodes! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiMMeIgxuD0vgTbxGdIgThg Click here to claim a free copy of our Lead Up for Women Magazine and read all about our cover Spotlights. https://www.leadupforwomen.com/claim-free-magazine Thank you to our Sponsor today: Turning Leaves Recovery. Tricia has combined her journey with addictions that spanned more than 30 years of her life with her 25+ year recovery journey and in-depth degree studies to create an intimate interactive experience designed to be focused on life going forward, transforming emotional intelligence, expanding consciousness, and generating a healthy lifestyle for any recovery journey without creating overwhelm. View her Coaching, Course, Bundled Programs AND more @ www.turningleavesrecovery.com Or call her direct line (805) 710-2513 How to reach our Guest: Nicole Kalil IG: @nicolemkalil LinkedIN: @nicolekalil Website: nicolekalil.com

Feeling confident is such an important part of running a thriving business. While nobody is 100% confident 100% of the time, the good news is that there are things we can all do to build our own confidence. In this interview with Nicole Kalil, she shares the 5 most common confidence derailers, and the 5 best confidence builders. It's so refreshing to know that we don't have to be perfect or "killing it" to grow our confidence in order to show up more bravely for ourselves and our businesses. This episode is packed with info you can start using right away in your life and business. Enjoy! Link: Website: www.nicolekalil.com IG: @nicolemkalil LinkedIn: @nicolekalil

Today's guest, Nicole Kalil is a speaker, trainer, and host of the This is Woman's Work Podcast. She left a successful corporate career in the male-dominated industry of financial services and is now an executive coach for women in leadership positions in a variety of industries.  As you will hear in this interview, Nicole is just as passionate about helping women to reach greater levels of confidence and success as I am. Nicole shares her favorite definition of confidence, the 5 limiting beliefs that derail our confidence, and the 5 beliefs we can replace them with that are confidence boosters.  We also talk about our thoughts on the advice to ‘fake it til you make it,” whether she believes any woman can develop confidence and whether you can actually have too much confidence.  This convo will not only motivate and inspire you, but you can put Nicole's advice into practice today. One of the most heartfelt moments in the interview is Nicole sharing her mantra for when times are hard, in which she reminds herself that she is her young daughter's role model.  I must admit I teared up just a bit, right along with her.   Where to find Nicole Kalil online:Website: https://nicolekalil.com/Podcast: https://nicolekalil.com/podcastIG: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/Online Course: https://nicolekalil.com/this-is-confidenceAre you ready to take things to the next level and work with Diann? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching Before you bounce, don't forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, so I can read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485 Connect with Diann Online: The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ 

Today's guest, Nicole Kalil is a speaker, trainer, and host of the This is Woman's Work Podcast. She left a successful corporate career in the male-dominated industry of financial services and is now an executive coach for women in leadership positions in a variety of industries. As you will hear in this interview, Nicole is just as passionate about helping women to reach greater levels of confidence and success as I am. Nicole shares her favorite definition of confidence, the 5 limiting beliefs that derail our confidence, and the 5 beliefs we can replace them with that are confidence boosters. We also talk about our thoughts on the advice to ‘fake it til you make it,” whether she believes any woman can develop confidence and whether you can actually have too much confidence. This convo will not only motivate and inspire you, but you can put Nicole's advice into practice today. One of the most heartfelt moments in the interview is Nicole sharing her mantra for when times are hard, in which she reminds herself that she is her young daughter's role model. I must admit I teared up just a bit, right along with her. Where to find Nicole Kalil online:Website: https://nicolekalil.com/Podcast: https://nicolekalil.com/podcastIG: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/Online Course: https://nicolekalil.com/this-is-confidenceAre you ready to take things to the next level and work with Diann? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching Before you bounce, don't forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, so I can read it on a future episode! Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485 Connect with Diann Online: The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/

In the years I've been coaching bold, brilliant, badass female entrepreneurs, I have never once encountered one that was not capable of more than she was experiencing in her business success.  Sometimes the issue was skill, occasionally it was will, but nine times out of ten,  it came down to fear.  Fear of failure, fear of criticism, fear of being envied, fear of embarrassment, fear of proving someone right, even fear of betraying their roots are just some of the possibilities.  Fear is something we need to learn how to manage if we want to move to a higher level of influence, impact, or income in business.  Until we do so, we will stay right where we are, and with the world moving forward at an ever-increasing pace,  staying in place is falling behind.  The lowdown on fear we will cover in this episode:What we are actually afraid of The 85% error factor Worst case scenario thinking & why we resort to it Fear and secondary gain The alternative to letting fear hold us back Freebie AlertIn order to transform our relationship with fear, we need to re-train our thoughts and reactions. If you have decided to start working on your fear, so you can uplevel your game, grab your copy of the handout that accompanies this episode:Question Your Fear Worksheet Ready to Make a Serious Upgrade?If getting back into momentum & moving the needle in your business and life is how you want to start your 2022,  Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation/If you are the kind of entrepreneur who learns as much from others as you do when you and your business are the sole focus, my group coaching program is starting again soon and the first step is to get on the waitlist! Click here to be notified of all the details: Group Coaching Waitlist Let's connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Join The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for entrepreneurial women who are ready to go from driven and distracted to focused, fired up, and flame retardant  (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman)  So, that's all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when my guest Nicole Kalil, leadership coach, speaker, and host of the “This is Women's Work” Podcast joins us for a lively conversation about women and confidence, one of my favorite subjects!  

In the years I've been coaching bold, brilliant, badass female entrepreneurs, I have never once encountered one that was not capable of more than she was experiencing in her business success. Sometimes the issue was skill, occasionally it was will, but nine times out of ten, it came down to fear. Fear of failure, fear of criticism, fear of being envied, fear of embarrassment, fear of proving someone right, even fear of betraying their roots are just some of the possibilities. Fear is something we need to learn how to manage if we want to move to a higher level of influence, impact, or income in business. Until we do so, we will stay right where we are, and with the world moving forward at an ever-increasing pace, staying in place is falling behind. The lowdown on fear we will cover in this episode:What we are actually afraid of The 85% error factor Worst case scenario thinking & why we resort to it Fear and secondary gain The alternative to letting fear hold us back Freebie AlertIn order to transform our relationship with fear, we need to re-train our thoughts and reactions. If you have decided to start working on your fear, so you can uplevel your game, grab your copy of the handout that accompanies this episode:Question Your Fear Worksheet Ready to Make a Serious Upgrade?If getting back into momentum & moving the needle in your business and life is how you want to start your 2022, Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation/If you are the kind of entrepreneur who learns as much from others as you do when you and your business are the sole focus, my group coaching program is starting again soon and the first step is to get on the waitlist! Click here to be notified of all the details: Group Coaching Waitlist Let's connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Join The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for entrepreneurial women who are ready to go from driven and distracted to focused, fired up, and flame retardant (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman) So, that's all for now, Driven Woman! See you next week, when my guest Nicole Kalil, leadership coach, speaker, and host of the “This is Women's Work” Podcast joins us for a lively conversation about women and confidence, one of my favorite subjects!

September is National Self-Care Awareness Month and the podcast this week continues to discuss this important topic.  Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on the thoughts shared during last week's interview with Nicole Kalil.  She expands on the suggestion Nicole provided regarding time management and reframing it to be choice management and learning how to make choices that will allow you to feel better about the job that you are doing:Make an active choice to create a life that you love and that you are happy with.Create time for rest and reflect.  You will have to choose to do it.When you have clarity around what is important to you, making choices with your time is easier and brings contentment to your life.Create a personal manifesto to help make decisions with your time.Get your free download of the core values review at www.aseasonofcaring.com/podcastvorevalues.Incorporate pre-deciding to avoid decision fatigue and to be prepared for what is to come.Recognize that your ‘yes' has consequences.

This week, Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Nicole Kalil.  Nicole is a keynote speaker, coach, and podcaster.  She spent most of her professional life with a large company where she became the first woman ever promoted to Chief Development Officer.  Nicole has a passion for eliminating gender expectations and provides her insight into developing productive women within organizations.  She speaks about how to win at work, at home, and as a team.  Maintaining harmony and her different roles of mother, wife, and business owner is an ongoing challenge and time management, or what Nicole prefers to call choice management, is an increasingly important skill.  She shares the following insights:Time is fixed and neutral, and therefore we are not really managing time.  Instead, we are managing the choices that we make with the time that we have.You may not always have control in a situation, but you do have a choice of how you respond, what you do, and how you invest your time.Think about the three E - F- F words related to getting things done:EffortEffectivenessEfficiencyMultitasking costs us time.Instead of trying to achieve work/life balance, think about finding harmony.Be fully present, engaged, and guilt-free, right where your feet are.Remember that it is never as good as it looks from the outside looking in.

In this episode of Elite Achievement, Kristin welcomes two accomplished and ambitious women, Lesle Griessel and Nicole Kalil. Leslie Griessel is the owner of LongView Leadership and is on a mission to joyfully inspire and empower people to achieve results on purpose. She is one of Kansas City's 40 under 40. Nicole Kalil is a speaker, host of the This is Woman's Work podcast and confidence sherpa. Nicole's work centers around removing the roadblocks, biases, and challenges that trailblazing professional women face, so they can thrive as their authentic selves. There are questions every ambitious woman has to answer. And there are a lot of challenges ambitious women have to overcome. It starts with ourselves. That little voice, sometimes as quiet as a whisper in your heart of talking to yourself. What is ambition? How can I make a big difference? How can I have a breakthrough in life? How can I get paid for doing things that I love to do? How do we make this equitable in our relationship? How to silence the noise? Does anyone get me? How can I honor my ambition? Lesle and Nicole answer these questions by sharing some examples from their experience and giving some recommendations for people to lean in and honor their ambition. Episode Highlights 03:55 – Ambition wraps up a lot of phrases that are some sort of excitement about the future, a desire for growth, a desire for learning. 21:19 – The importance of communication when it comes to figuring out how to honor your ambition with a partner or spouse. 35:37 – One of the biggest barriers women face when honoring their ambition is their own internal confidence and learning to trust themselves. 41:15 – Recommendations to honor your ambition: take baby steps, set small goals in alignment with those baby steps, take risks to pursue your desires outside of your comfort zone and surround yourself with ambitious people. 46:29 – Have courageous conversations first and foremost with yourself, get into action, find a tribe, invest in yourself. Resources https://honoryourambition.com/ (Honor Your Ambition Mastermind) https://www.instagram.com/honoryourambition/ (Honor Your Ambition Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/meetkristinburke/ (Kristin Burke Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/lesleqg/ (Lesle Griesel Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ (Nicole Kalil Instagram)

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Nicole joins us to speak about the female experience in the workplace, as well as how she coaches women to enhance their confidence by embracing failure. This was a fun discussion and I thank Nicole for letting me wade my way through the messy bits. Nicole is a coach and speaker with the mission of ensuring women have equal opportunities to reach their full potential by addressing the internal and external obstacles they presently face.  She's also an advocate for cultural change as a corporate consultant.  

On this special episode Kristin and her team are taking the highlights from the interviews with five women who coach, inspire and empower others to launch businesses, grow their confidence, achieve the fitness goals, create and implement financial plans and advance their careers. Jeannie Andresen holds a business coaching program Solopreneur School. Nicole Kalil teaches a course called: This is confidence. Bridget Joy is a CEO and President of Key Life Fitness and Training. Chantel Bonneau is a certified financial planner and author of the book Finding Your Financial Type. Lesle Griessel is trailblazer within her firm and teacher of leadership and growth strategies. They share about mindset, time and strategies needed to launch a business, but also about navigating fear and finding confidence. Episode Highlights 03:40 – Talking about it is the first step - telling somebody “I'm really thinking about starting my own business”. It sounds so simple, but it's crucial. Second step is to find somebody who's done it already. It's inspiration that you can do it too. Third part is outlining what it looks like. 26:40 – Choose it until you feel it; choose confidence over and over again until the feeling arises. 27:50 – You only have one body. Working out is not just so you can look a certain way, it's for total health: for mind, body and soul. You can be a best version of yourself. You have to set an appointment and you have to make it a priority. 40:54 – Anything that is worthwhile, takes consistency and takes really good habit. The best habits that I think are important for a financial planner are: spending time to review, and make it foolproof.  48:02 – Any form of a vision is a good form of a vision. The first thing is to find as much clarity as you can. The clearer that vision is, the better - even if it's something short-term.  Resources Connect with Kristin: https://www.instagram.com/meetkristinburke/ (Instagram) https://kristinburke.com/ (Website) Connect with: Jeannie Andresen: https://www.jeannieandresen.com/ (Website) https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeannieand/ (LinkedIn) https://www.instagram.com/jeannieandresen_/ (Instagram) Connect with Nicole Kalil: https://nicolekalil.com/this-is-confidence (Website) https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ (Instagram) https://nicolekalil.com/podcast (Women's Work Podcast) Connect with Bridget Joy: https://keylifefitness.com/ (Website) https://www.facebook.com/chinafitchick (Facebook) https://www.instagram.com/chinafitchick/ (Instagram) Connect with Chantel Bonneau: https://www.findingyourfintype.com/ (Finding Your FINancial Type Book) http://www.chantel-bonneau.com/ (Website) https://www.instagram.com/chantelbonneau/ (Instagram) Connect with Lesle Griessel: https://longviewleadership.com/ (Website)

A seasoned corporate executive, today's guest, Nicole Kalil, realized she had a passion for something different from corporate life. So, she set out on her own and launched a business dedicated to helping people, especially women, become more self-confident. Join Christine McKay as she interviews Nicole about the critical elements of building confidence and dealing with the noise in our heads. Nicole shares some tips on how you can negotiate with confidence and stay aligned with your life's purpose and be your authentic self, including the importance of embracing your failures.

Ask any average person why they haven't accomplished their goals yet, and more often than not, their answer will be because they are afraid that they will fail. Why are we, as humans, taught to fear failure, and where does it have its roots? Ever since our school days, we are taught to categorize things as either right or wrong. The answers are either correct or incorrect, pass or fail, with zero lessons designed to teach you how to learn from your failures. We are taught only to be embarrassed by them to fear repeating them. You can't figure out if something works until you break it apart, and that is what our guest today did. Without ever having been in front of a live audience or even trying her hand at comedy before, Geri signed up not only for a stand-up class but an improv class, too, simply because she was interested in it and had always wondered if she was funny. What she got out of it was an amazing mechanism for overcoming her fear of failure. Geri Paige Butner is a Business Launch & Life Alignment Coach, who helps people align their life and work with what brings them fulfillment and joy. Geri shares with us the crazy journey she's had as a stand-up comedian, how she has learned from repetition, retooling, and keeping her cool with a subjective audience. She also discusses the variables that you need to consider when presenting in front of a live audience. Remember the episode with Nicole Kalil where we talked about how perfection is your number one confidence derailer? Well, that sneaky bugger keeps coming up over and over again, and today we discuss how everything doesn't have to be perfect, that there is tremendous value and opportunity in things that are not perfect. We begin to take bigger risks when we know that we will survive whatever we take on. Listen in and make the best out of another few minutes of your life! The Drink of the Week is The Rusty Nail Cheers to all the times you #NailedIt and failed miserably at trying something for the first time. It's a simple combination of scotch and the scotch-based liqueur Drambuie, a word derived from the Gaelic meaning “the drink that satisfies. Ingredients: 1 1/2 ounces Scotch whisky 3/4 ounce Drambuie Add the scotch and Drambuie into a mixing glass with ice. Stir until well-chilled and then strain into a rocks glass over one large ice cube. If you liked what you heard today, please leave a review and subscribe to the podcast. Also, please remember to share the podcast to help it reach a larger audience. And if you would like a shout out for tipping your bartender and contributing to the ever-growing This Sh!t Works bar tab click ​https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/JulieBrownBD?locale.x=en_US (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/JulieBrownBD?locale.x=en_US) to make a donation. No amount is too small, it will get drunk! Relevant Links: Geri Paige Butner https://www.geripaige.com/ (https://www.geripaige.com/) https://www.linkedin.com/in/geributner/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/geributner/) Julie Brown https://juliebrownbd.com/ ​(Website) https://www.instagram.com/juliebrown_bd/ ​(Instagram) https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-brown-b6942817/​ (LinkedIn) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIwWVdayM2mYXzR9JNLJ55Q​ (Youtube) https://www.facebook.com/juliebrownbd/​ (Facebook) 

You walk into a room full of people you've never met before; self- doubt, fear, apprehension, do they all kick in? The same probably happens when you speak up and share your opinions or ideas in a work meeting. What does it take you to effectively conquer your mind in such situations? It takes a belief in yourself. It takes confidence. So, if confidence looks so good on you, what keeps you from wearing it everyday? And the confident people, what have they discovered that you don't know yet, what is their secret to being confident? Our guest today is Nicole Kalil, an amazing speaker, coach and also the host of the podcast "This Is Woman's Work". Nicole spent most of her professional life with a Fortune 500 company, where her passion for leadership led her to become the first female Chief Development Officer in the 160-year company history. She joins us on the episode to give us matchless advice, definitions and actionable tips on building self-confidence! And to quench my thirst for constantly validating opinions with research, Nicole makes known that confidence could well have something to do with your genes. But, even if that were the case, it would constitute only 25 percent of your total confidence level. So, confidence is a skill you can always develop! Sounds good? Listen in to today's episode to discover the major confidence derailers and why perfection tops the list! Nicole shares with us the 5 confidence builders that she has mastered: 1. Action 2. Failure 3. Grace 4. Choosing confidence 5. Understanding, awareness, and mindfulness that confidence comes from the inside You're going to achieve self acceptance and self belief by practicing the confidence boosters that Nicole mentioned, taking action, failing forward, giving yourself grace and choosing to have confidence in yourself. And when you do that, it will be easier to take your head trash to the dumpster and light that shit on fire. Tune in for unparalleled ideas on networking your way with more confidence and grace! The Drink of the Week​ is a cocktail called Crank It To 11 - and since last week was all about music and this week we are lighting our head trash on fire, I think it works well. (This amazing cocktail was a special Shaker and Spoon box that I bought for my husband. If you haven't tried Shaker and Spoon you totally should - I've included a link below where you can get $25 off your first box) Take some hickory wood chips (those come in the cocktail box) and make a little pile of them on a non flammable surface. Light them on fire. When they start smoking, put the glass over to trap the smoke. After you trap the smoke, flip the glass over and add one large ice cube - I used a huge square one from a mold. Then add 1.5 ounces of American Whisky and a little cherry syrup from the jar of cherries (we talked about this in a previous episode. Use really good cherries not the shitty red kind and 4 dashes of cherry bark vanilla syrup). Then use a cocktail stirrer to stir it up and add a black cherry as a garnish. I tell you this drink was fan-fucking-tastic! I am not joking. If you liked what you heard today, please leave a review and subscribe to the podcast. Also, please remember to share the podcast to help it reach a larger audience. And if you would like a shout out for tipping your bartender and contributing to the ever growing This Sh!t Works bar tab click ​https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/JulieBrownBD?locale.x=en_US to make a donation. No amount is too small, it will get drunk! Relevant Links: Shaker and Spoon - get $25 off your first order with this link https://www.shakerandspoon.com/refer/Julie-FQFNNJYE (https://www.shakerandspoon.com/refer/Julie-FQFNNJYE)   Nicole Kalil: https://nicolekalil.com/about-nicole  https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil/  Podcast- ​https://nicolekalil.com/podcast Julie Brown: https://juliebrownbd.com/ ​(Website) https://www.instagram.com/juliebrown_bd/ ​(Instagram)...

On this episode Kristin talks to an expert on confidence, Nicole Kalil, a podcast host and a Founder of an organization helping women to thrive as their authentic selves. According to Nicole, confidence is a skill that can be developed, not something that we're born with. She also shares tactics on how she grows confidence before a big event that makes her nervous. Stay tuned and learn how to be more confident. Episode Highlights 07:06 - Building a confidence is taking one step at the time 08:30 - Confidence is a skill that can be developed. It's built only through action 13:30 - Top 5 confidence derailers 21:20 - Several tips on growing your confidence 26:05 - Advice on raising daughters to be more confident Resources Connect with Kristin https://www.instagram.com/meetkristinburke/ (@meetkristinburke) on Instagram and on her website http://kristinburke.com/ (kristinburke.com) Nicole Kalil's Website https://nicolekalil.com/ (https://nicolekalil.com) Nicole on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/ (https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/) Nicole's Podcast “Women's Work” https://nicolekalil.com/podcast (https://nicolekalil.com/podcast) Stay tuned for upcoming online course “This is Confidence”

New podcast alert! In this episode,  Adam Torres and Nicole Kalil, Founder & Chief Woman Whisperer at Women's Work and Host at This is Women's Work Podcast, explore Nicole's new podcast. Follow Adam on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/askadamtorres/ for up to date information on book releases and tour schedule.Apply to be interviewed by Adam on our podcast:https://missionmatters.lpages.co/podcastguest/