Good Girls Don't Podcast

Louise O’Reilly is a Warrwa-Noongar Aboriginal woman based in Boorloo (Perth, Western Australia) on Wadjuk Country. Through her experiences with identity and personal journey of self-discovery, she realized society wasn't always accepting of her identity, community, or culture. Louise provides online courses to stimulate harmonious & inclusive change in the world where every global citizen can say I'm #FreeToBeMe. That’s the big picture goal. For now, she is focused on cultural diversity & inclusion of Aboriginal people and culture. She is a freelance writer for Amnesty International Australia and a radio host for an Aboriginal women's self-empowerment program called Yorgas Yarning (women talking) on 100.9fm Noongar Radio. She is a committee member for the Danjoo Koorliny (Walking Together) Aboriginal-led 10yr visionary reconciliation/conciliation plan for Boorloo (Perth) which is hosted by the University of Western Australia's Social Impact Unit. Louise also runs her own personal business, The Ascension Personal Development Academy  If you will let her, Louise will show you how to use your words to create inclusion and how to make it ripple out into the world. The difference between diversity and inclusivity The importance to create a safe space for all to belong Why the subconscious guilt of white privilege stops us from reaching out in order to dissolve racism. The foundations of inclusive  language Why our intention to learn outweighs the fear of offending Why Acknowledgement of Country should be embraced and honored. And the importance of having privilege. Connect with Louise Here: Email louiseoreilly.shieldandconch@gmail.com Website www.louiseoreilly.com.au Instagram https://www.instagram.com/louise.oreilly.shieldandconch/ Twitter https://twitter.com/LouiseOReilly Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  Twitter (Ashleigh) @nerdypioneer Facebook @goodgielsdontpod IG @goodgirlsdontpod   

Hummingbird House is Queensland's only Children's Hospice. We provide a home away from home for children and their families with a life-limiting condition. We care for children from birth to aged 18 and support families with short break stays crisis and symptom management care, end of life and after death care. Andrea is a Paediatric Palliative Care Nurse Practitioner. Andrea is a UK trained children's nurse, Andrea moved to Australia with her young family 13 years ago. She has extensive nursing experience caring for children, working in the Emergency Department, General paediatric wards, oncology and now in paediatric palliative care. Why as a society there's more fear around death than previous generations The financial accessibility of accessing the services of a children's hospice Do other cultures cope with death better than we do? Why we don’t get over grieving but need to learn to grow around grief instead. The importance of community and inclusivity when it comes to death, especially the death of a child. How there is no right or wrong way to grieve the loss of a child The child-friendly language around dying children How do we normalise death, especially in conversation with our kids? Connect with Hummingbird House: Email andrea.coe@hummingbirdhouse.wmq.org.au Website www.hummingbirdhouse.wmq.org.au http://hummingbirdhouse.org.au/home/ Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Instagram/Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod 

After our own Ashleigh Rae successfully charged a man with sexual violence, she shares with us what happens when it comes to sentencing and what it means for the victim and the offender. Please note that the conversation refers to Victorian legislation around sex offending and the specifics do not represent the legislation and regulations of other states and territories. Here’s what we spoke about; The difference between a plea hearing and a sentencing hearing. Why does the register exist and what does it mean for the perpetrator, the victim & the community? How children can be placed on the sex offenders registry. What’s restorative justice and should it be compulsory? Should the Sex Offenders Registry be made public? The importance of educating ourselves and our children of the criminal implications of innocent ‘sexting’, and how easily young teens can get themselves and their girlfriends/boyfriends and peers into serious trouble.

In Australia, up to one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. 103,000 Australian families are impacted each year. And yet, for many, it remains a silent trauma. Miscarriage is a taboo topic affecting 282 Aussie women a day that can cause long-lasting grief and mental health problems. Why are we not talking about this? So we want to start a conversation about it and create an episode dedicated to allowing women to share their stories around miscarriage. We want to stop the silence and start sharing. Join us and an array of courageous women as we share our stories around Miscarriage. Join us today as we honor the stories of Verity, Bess, and Sandi. Contact Verity and Ashleigh: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com FB/IG: @goodgirlsdontpod 

In a  society that dictates a strict definition of what masculinity is and demands rigid expectations upon how men and women should conform to binary gender roles, the struggle to inform others that non-binary people exist is real. Nic Lawrance takes the time to chat to us about their incredible experience of living as non-binary person, growing up without the language to express their identity and journey of acceptance from family and peers, finding that safe space to explore and express gender identity, and some of the present perils fraught in the legal system discriminating against gender diverse people. Nic Lawrance is a brilliant and powerful non-binary burlesque performer. Nic has performed at Fringe Festival and throughout Perth, Western Australia blending ideas of the feminine and masculine, challenging the norms of what is traditionally acceptable or expected of masc presenting humans.  Normalize the idea of asking for pronouns,like you would ask someone's name Reclaiming the word ‘Queer’. What happens when ‘males’ don’t fit into the “mans club”. Medical gate-keeping that prevents people from ever being able to own their identity. The dangers of identifying oneself as non binary to organisations and institutions when you’re filling out forms. The difference between sexuality and gender. Why all humans, even men should be able to feel pretty. The legal implication and limits of identifying as non binary gender And why inter-sectional feminism is crucial to the freedom of all minority groups. We loved Nic’s vulnerability, their wisdom and generosity as Nic shares their heartfelt stories and experience of fighting for one’s true identity. If you’ve ever felt confused about the conversation of gender fluidity, what the hell it all means and why we should even be talking about it, or even how to move forward in your own gender identity this episode is for you.  

Co-host Ashleigh Rae shares her experience of seeking justice after being raped as a child. It's a deep conversation and not for the faint hearted. We discuss her compassion for the offenders family, the obstacles and support through-out the process of seeking justice and the complexity of emotions around obtaining accountability and justice.  We discussed; The reactions and responses from loved ones. The rights of survivors and offenders of sexual violence. The sensitivity and insensitivity of professionals involved. What it feels like to confront the offender with an impact statement. We questioned the appropriateness of current sentencing / legal consequences. And how the justice system needs to change to serve both the survivor and the offender in a holistic manner. Its a conversation that all men and women should listen to, because there is so much we can learn as a society to not only know how to support those affected by sexual violence but to also understand the necessity of educating all men and women in order to prevent sexual violence. Contact Verity and Ashleigh: Facebook/Instagram: @goodgirlsdontpod Email: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Soo...what happens when your sex life is dead? We know how it goes: find the man, get married, have the kids, and that's the end of your sex life. But what if that isn't how it has to be? What if we could have a deeply intimate sex life with our spouse, and toe-curling orgasms to-boot?  We were curious if such a thing was possible, so we sat down with one of Australia's most qualified Sexologists, Isiah McKimmie. But she isn't just a Sexologist. She's also a Couples Therapist, a Sex Therapist, and a Tantra Teacher - so she knows her stuff when it comes to intimacy which means, we put our burning questions to her about how to resuscitate a dead sex life, including:  What happens when your sex life is deader than Tutenkamun? What are the first steps in re-igniting the intimacy and passion in your relationship? Why does sex become transactional? Why sex is the socially acceptable way for men to ask for intimacy Why do we need to reconsider having sex during a pandemic - surely it's the perfect time for more romps?  Yup. Lots of sticky, gritty questions.  Lots of juicy, tantalizing answers.  Connect with Isiah: Email info@isiah-mckimmie.com Website https://www.isiah-mckimmie.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/isiahmckimmie.sexologist/ Connect with Ashleigh and Verity  Facebook/Instagram @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Mental health care is a crisis in Australia, affecting 1 in 4 Australians at some point in their lives - so what does our mental health care system look like, and what’s it like to experience a mental health condition in Australia?  On this episode of Good Girls Don’t Ashleigh shares her story and experiences of navigating the convoluted system that works to devalue and deny the experiences of people with mental illness, including the dramatic impact of trauma.  We chatted about:  How easily mental health conditions can go undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, or mistreated for a long time. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is the 3rd most commonly diagnosed mental health issue. So why don’t we hear about it? What’s the difference between PTSD and C-PTSD? Why does Trauma get swept under the rug or get ‘forgotten’ about psychologically? What happens when Doctors behave badly? The impact of medication on mental health but also the emotional and physical impacts. The stigmas attached to mental health, especially borderline personality disorder, bipolar, and schizophrenia. Why mental health isn’t always appropriately funded by the government. The hardships of actually being able to access mental health care. Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Facebook and Instagram @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  

Sometimes, out in the wild, we find ourselves in front of a microphone on someone elses podcast and they're kind enough to roll with it and see what happens. Today, Verity is interviewed by Margie McCumstie from The Wedding Wombat... In this special Valentine’s Day edition, we meet Verity Mansfield, Relationship Coach and extraordinary woman with a powerful message about love, sex, romance and marriage. We talk about how to make your relationship juicy and your marriage even juicier! 8 years ago Verity found herself collapsed on the bottom of the shower floor, hoping the noise of the thundering water would drown out her gut-wrenching hysterical sobbing, so her kids wouldn’t hear her fall apart. She didn’t feel broken. She felt destroyed. Her marriage was falling apart. The kids were not getting the best of their mother. Her workplace was sucking the life out of her. She felt disappointed, disconnected and dead inside. Something had to give or Verity0 was going to explode. So she hit the ‘red’ button. You know the one they say only to hit in an emergency? Verity walked out of her marriage, out of an international fashion career and without looking back plunged into the darkness of the unknown with two toddlers, a mortgage and $136 cash. In that moment, Verity broke the “good girls rules” and chose a life of integrity and authenticity.  With the wisdom of hindsight and a successful career as a Relationship Coach, Verity shares from a real place to inspire everyone listening in this episode to enjoy juicy relationships- with yourself, with others and whether you choose marriage… or not.

While we take a moment to catch our breath and re-organize the universe, we've partnered with the good folks from the podcast, Gertie's Law to bring you an incredible episode on how the Supreme Court of Victoria changed women's ability to access abortion safely:  Fifty years ago, the Menhennitt Ruling was an example of judge-made law and it determined the legality of abortion in Victoria. In this episode of Gertie's Law, we find out why it was left to the Supreme Court, and not the parliament, to decide on such a controversial social issue. Hear from judges and people directly affected by the 1969 ruling. It's a brilliant piece of audio wizardry that showcases the bravery of the Doctors who put themselves at risk for women to have access to birth control and the fascinating details of how it all went down in the Supreme Court of Victoria.  We hope you love and enjoy it as much as Ashleigh has, and binge their entire series. Listen to the whole series here: Gertie's Law Podcast You can also check out Jennifer Zeven and Jay Crisp Crow's new podcast Untamed Shrews right here!

As women, we’re designed to have babies. Even if we don’t want them our bodies are ensuring they remind us every month, for every year for over a 40yr span that we’re baby-makers. Granted there are women who have ZERO interest in having kids and that's absolutely their right to choose. But what happens and what does it REALLY feel like to know that you do not even have a choice? What happens when we desperately want a child but our body just won’t allow it? Today Marie Louise shares her personal journey with us of her experience of being infertile and navigating marriage, divorce, dating and just the everyday existence of being female and infertile in a patriarchal world. How do you reconcile with your body when you feel it’s betrayed you? Befriending your (un)friendly monthly reminder that your body was meant to be designed to have babies. Why being infertile makes us feel like less of a woman. How do you date knowing you might crush his dreams of having a family? How can the rest of us childbearing women be more sensitive and understanding towards women who can’t bear children? And most importantly how does a woman move on with the acceptance of never being able to do what her body is biologically designed to do, heal from that acceptance and build a life that brings her unlimited joy, love and happiness? Well, tune in because Marie Louise is about to tell us! Who is Marie-Louise, Anyway? Marie-Louise Pawsey knows first-hand the hurt and trauma of being Infertile and Single. Since realizing that she wasn’t living her life as fully as she could be, she made the tough decision to sever ties with hope, and start living a more ‘flirtile’ life. For 3 years she’s mentored women and men in dating, and how to get into and maintain lasting romantic relationships. She’s most active on her Youtube channel where she publishes her tried and tested, unique and controversial views and guidelines to dating. Now, she’s supporting Single, Infertile women who are ready to give up the dream and start living the amazing life they can carve for themselves! When they’re ready to strut into their new life, free of shame, negative and the self-doubt which has caused them to deny themselves happiness, Marie-Louise is here to give them a place where they belong, and help them get the prince! These women are invited to join at facebook.com/groups/FlirtileForLife where they can feel nurtured and understood. Connect with Marie Louise Here facebook.com/LifeStylinDatingCoach Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Help us Make Good Girls Don't Podcast the Best it Can Be http://bit.ly/ggdpodsurvey

Sometimes it's the small things we deny ourselves that have the biggest ripples throughout our lives. At least, that's what happened for our guest this week, Shilpa Agarwal, when she kept denying herself the permission and freedom to go for a simple jog.  We sat down with Shilpa to talk about what it means to be worthy, to be enough - and the hard, painful things that get in the way of our embodying it. The truths this powerful speaks ripple out across all the parts of our lives from professional to the intimate.  Who is Shilpa, Anyway? Shilpa is a book-writing coach who helps coaches, consultants, and spiritual/wellness practitioners, to write a book so they can share their story, make an impact and create the business of their dreams with ease and confidence. Shilpa used to live a life of people-pleasing, hyper-vigilance, and constantly feeling 'not good enough’. Until one day, she took back her power, decided to own her worth and share her story so she could help many others out there do the same. Thus #Enoughness was born, which is now also a book in the making. Born and brought up in India, she now lives in Adelaide, Australia with her husband and their little Miss 3! When she is not telling stories of Enoughness, you'll find her listening to one, reading, writing or sipping chai - masala chai! Connect with Shilpa here: Email: SHILPA@WANTSOLUTION.COM Website: www.wantsolutionthebook.com Instagram: shilpabookcoach Twitter: shilpaagarwal22 Free Gift for Our Listeners! Snap up a 60 minute 1:1 session with Shilpa FREE to map out your book here: bit.ly/BookBizBlueprint Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Email goodgirlsdont@gmail.com Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod 

Sometimes, we venture onto other people's podcasts and they're kind enough not to kick us off their platform immediately.  This week's bonus episode comes courtesy of Claire Riley from the Recovering Perfectionists Podcast.   On this episode you'll hear Verity being interviewed by Claire about Breaking the Good Girl Rules: - Growing up she was obsessed with her body 'not being perfect' - Body image and conforming to what society refers to as 'beautiful' - What beauty is for us? - Understanding your truths. Knowing your absolute, core, top 5 values - the things that you can't live without or we will lose our sense of self, sense of integrity and sense of who we are. - Knowing your core values will allow you to express yourself without caring about what norm/society will think about you and what you wear, etc. - She wants to be an inspiration to her girls to break good girl rules Join The Recovering Perfectionists BIO Verity Mansfield is a transformational coach, mentor and self-love advocate. She is the founder of A Beautiful Truth, which supports women holistically to acknowledge the true beauty within, through coaching, on-line programs, and workshops.   With 20 years of exploring the concepts of beauty (including the international fashion industry), self-love and self-transformation, her own life experiences have enabled her to teach other women how to embrace their strengths and live life on their own terms. Verity Mansfield works in assisting other women through their own journey of self-love and empowerment as they awaken to their own fulfillment. She firmly believes in working towards creating generations of empowered women, to create real change and real beauty in the world.

Women are told since childhood not to take up too much space. Whether we’re told to ‘don’t be too smart’, or that we talk too much, or that being ‘big’ is bad and we all have to be thin and skinny, women are constantly exposed to these subliminal messages that we shouldn't take up too much space.  So how does this affect us in business, whether we’re entrepreneurs or vying for a position on the board? What stops us from taking up space in the business world and getting more vocal and more visible? What is the ‘imposter complex? Why are we afraid to be labeled ‘bossy bitch’? And is collaboration really the answer to patriarchal competitiveness? If the Universe is constantly expanding shouldn’t we be obliged to expand too? Who is Swapna Thomas, Anyway? Swapna Thomas works with women coaches who want to embrace their inner rebel, do business their way and live 100% on purpose.  Swapna helps develop a firebrand mindset and goes rogue with your marketing so you can confidently own your genius, claim your voice (aka your inner rebellion) and get well paid for your gifts.  When not spouting spiritual wisdom, being a raging feminist or not dropping content gems, you can find her inhaling psychological thrillers, listening to Bollywood songs on a loop and trying to convince her extrovert husband and daughter that she is totally an acceptable form of a social recluse. Connect with Swapna here: Email info@swapnathomas.com Website www.SwapnaThomas.com Instagram @theswapnathomas   Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Good Girls Don't Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Join Breaking the Good Girl Rules FB Group  Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Coronavirus got ya bored and a little nutty?  We have you covered with our special bonus episode series from our good mates in the podcasting world, to bring you delicious ear food every Thursday.  Today we're thrilled to share with you former guest, (Episode 11 Good Girls Don't Smash the Glass Ceiling) Jay Crisp Crow's So Crisp Podcast.  Enjoy! 

While Verity grew up in a family that never talked about poops or farts, Ashleigh's family turned these bodily functions into a game that rivaled the Olympics.  With Covid#19 on the loose and the Great Toilet Escapades running havoc in cities across Australia, what better time to bright up your day with an episode about - poo! You know we got down to the nitty-gritty of Poop and Fluffs too, asking the BIG and important questions: Who farts more? Men or women? What’s the “Dead Rat Rating”? What IS poo actually made of, and why is corn the only vegetable that shows up? How do you know if your poop is healthy? Why are most beach models covered in poo but rarely realize it? What the hell is a ‘squatty potty’? And do sloths really dance when they poop? Yes! Verity and Ashleigh answer all those poop questions you’ve been dying to have answered all these years. Whether you think it’s gross or not you’re still going to laugh and find plenty of fun facts about poop you’ll be compelled to share at your next dinner party! Don’t deny it! Join us for one hilarious episode because, apparently, Good Girls’ Don’t Poop!

Rebels and Comrades have we got a treat for you!  If you find yourself in isolation right now - this ought to cheer your feminist heart right up.  This episode is a special bonus from our good mate, comedian Tom Ballard's podcast, Like I'm a Six Year Old recorded with a live audience in December 2019 with special guest, Adam Bandt who was at the time, the Federal Member for Melbourne, of the Greens Party - and is now the Leader of The Greens Party.  Connect with Tom Ballard here: Twitter @TomCBallard https://likeimasixyearold.libsyn.com/

Talking about open relationships feels pretty taboo, gossipy and darkly intriguing and yet Tani Beister creates the most beautiful and honest conversation of what it really takes to consciously create a loving open relationship. Explore the deeper values of intimacy, connection, transparency and freedom. Why having open relationships doesn’t make us sex fiends. The difference between open relationships and infidelity. What the real landscape of open relationships honestly looks like. How open relationships actually open us up to understanding our own true self. How do we deal with jealousy, shame, guilt and fear of judgment when we open our relationships up? The only way to create an open and loving relationship. Why serial monogamy is acceptable yet we believe in committing to one person for life. Can we have our cake and eat it too? Who is Tani Beister, Anyway? Tani is all about chasing pleasure and breaking all the rules. She claims to be a rebel/lover, creator/destroyer, hedonistic/sadistic bad bitch. Contradictory huh? Yep! She’s all about giving herself permission to express ALL the parts of her. She has not always been this unapologetic and radical in herself or her relationships. Due to years of deep, uncomfortable, heart wrenching internal work, she says she is now free from trying to please everyone in her life except herself (husband included). Tani met her husband in high school and they have now been together 17 years, with a 13yr old son. Two years ago after reaching a stalemate in her marriage, despite trying everything to take it to the next level, Tani unexpectedly experienced falling in love with someone else. She had no intention of ending her marriage and instead she managed to open it and pursued two relationships.  As a result, she found herself on a journey that awakened her sexuality, gave her an abundance of freedom, self-expression and also forced her to heal core wounds such as abandonment trauma and codependency. Tani’s marriage is now more fun, pleasurable and supportive than she ever could have imagined. The next level that she was searching for in her committed relationship, she found in opening it up and exploring the world of polyamory.  Tani is a Relationship Coach for women in long term relationships and she guides them towards their own liberation. Connect with Tani Here @tani.beister https://tanibeister.com Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here FB/IG @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Comrades and Rebels,  Prepare to have your mind blown and heart melted by the wonder that is Hugs.  Hugs is 7, and the son of former guest, Jay Crisp Crow (from episode 11) and his podcast is all about how to be kind.  Share it with your kids and family.  Hugs may be our youngest and fiercest recruit to the cause yet, and we want to give him a massive high-five and snaps for starting his own podcast! Subscribe to How to Be Kind on Spotify  https://open.spotify.com/show/3A6eCAOz2uBbTIquDuyFrY

Rebels and Comrades,  Welcome to a special episode we're bringing you in partnership with our mates over at Climactic. Bob Doppelt is the Executive Director of the Resource Innovation Group (TRIG) and the founder and Coordinator of the International Transformational Resilience Coalition (ITRC). Trained in both counseling psychology and environmental science, he has combined the two fields throughout his career. He is also a Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction instructor from the University of Massachusettes Medical School, Center for Mindfulness. From 2003 to 2011 he directed the Climate Leadership Initiative (CLI) at the University of Oregon, where he still teaches part time. Bob is the author of Leading Change toward Sustainability: A Change Management Guide for Business, Government, and Civil Society (Greenleaf Publishing, 2003). The Power of Sustainable Thinking: How To Create a Positive Future for the Climate, The Planet, Your Organization and Your Life, (Earthscan Publishing, 2008) And his newest book, Transformational Resilience: How to Use Climate Change and Related Adversities to Learn, Grow and Thrive  released in 2015. What is transformational resilience? ‘’The capacity of individuals and groups to use their existing strengths and resources to deliberately regulate their body, emotions and thoughts, and use adversity as a catalyst to find new meaning, direction, and hope in life by making decisions that enhance personal, social and environmental wellbeing’’ – Bob Doppelt, 2015

Jay Kimber is a long time self-driven entrepreneur. who lives by her values - authenticity, freedom, and health. Her mission is to bring balance and harmony back to the masculine and feminine energies in the world. She does this by guiding people to live from the INSIDE OUT. She is in service to the new feminist movement, the liberation of the feminine, in both women AND men. The importance of surrendering into the feminine; pleasure, flow, and intuition Why women need to give themselves permission to feel pleasure Being an angry feminist isnt an excuse to devalue yourself and deny the feminine within Opening ourselves up to our greatest creative and intuitive powers within How to do business with less burnout How to allow our feminine to stand beside our masculine Who is Jay Kimber, Anyway? Jay Kimber is a long time self-driven entrepreneur. She lives by her values - authenticity, freedom, and health. Her mission is to bring balance and harmony back to the masculine and feminine energies in the world. She does this by guiding people to live from the INSIDE OUT. She is in service to the new feminist movement, the liberation of the feminine, in both women AND men. "All the worlds problems will be solved when everyone is truly heard and seen" - Jay Her work and her courses are based around supporting and enhancing authenticity, finding your inner confidence (it's already there) and showing yourself to the world, so you can be seen, and heard and heal. Connect with Jay Here Website jaykimber.teachable.com Instagram @jay_kimber_ Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here FB/IG @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  

Can we get a Whoop Whoop?! It's bonus episode time to celebrate and honor International Women's Day 2020 and you're in for a treat with a bonus episode interview by Nicol Heard from Courageous You and Biz Bestie interviewing your lady comrade in arms and podcast co-host, Ashleigh Rae on how curiosity fostered her feminism and steadily unraveled internal patriarchal conditioning.  You can connect with Nicol here: YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQHmIeSHRQ-hzH0kusyKJMA Facebook: @BizBestieAU     

It's International Women's Day 2020 - a day to honor and celebrate the women in your life, those who've come before you, and those who will come after.  We asked a few of our former podcast guests to share with us what International Women's Day means to them, and on today's episode you'll hear from Tyran Mowbray, Sarah Ireland and Anita Bentata share their thoughts and best wishes for girls and women around the globe.  Connect with Our Guests Here  Tyran  Email: tyran@thehairyhealer.com Website: https://www.facebook.com/TheHairyHealer/ Instagram: @the_hairy_healer Sarah Website onegirl.org.au Instagram @OneGirlOrg Twitter @OneGirlOrg Anita  Email anita@anitabentata.com Website www.anitabentata.com Instagram http://www.instagram.com/anitabentata Twitter http://www.twitter.com/anitabentata Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com FB/IG @goodgirlsdontpod

Sally Hetherington OAM is the founder and CEO of Human and Hope Association Incorporated (Australia). At the age of 25, Sally bought a one-way ticket to Siem Reap, Cambodia, with the goal of helping people living in poverty. A few months into her journey in Cambodia, Sally realized that the sustainable development of a community cannot be achieved through the involvement of short-term foreign volunteers. The realization led Sally to transform a community center that was reliant on foreign volunteers, into a locally run NGO registered organization - Human and Hope Association (Cambodia). We spoke to Sally about: The danger of unskilled volunteers. Why skilled volunteers are making skilled Cambodians redundant. Our impact on children at risk and how voluntourism adds to the lack of stability and impacts their attachment issues. How empowering women creates an intergenerational increase in education, allowing women to rise, and reducing domestic violence. How can we be ‘ethical travelers’ and be conscious of the footprint we leave behind in the countries we visit? Why the term ‘third world’ needs to be eradicated in order to combat poverty. Who is Sally Hetherington, Anyway? Sally is a multi-award winning leader in the not-for-profit sector. Her outstanding contributions to the Cambodian community led her to receive awards such as the Medal of Order of Australia (2019), The International Alliance for Women (TIAW) World of Difference Award (2019), Third Sector Awards Volunteer of the Year (2018), and Junior Chamber International (JCI) National Ten Outstanding Young Persons Honouree (2018). Sally's manifesto, 'It's Not About Me' was published in 2019. Connect with Sally Here: Email sally@humanandhopeassociation.org Website www.sallyhetherington.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sallymareehetherington/ Twitter https://twitter.com/Sally_Maree Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com FB/IG @goodgirlsdontpod    

Kelly Petering is a superhero. And a female! So often in society Superheroes are depicted as male-orientated. Even in cartoons like Paw Patrol, the ones taking the risks and saving the world are male. So when we came across Kelly who has been a volunteer firefighter and a community officer assisting paramedics in her community, we just had to pounce on her! Kelly is an Entrepreneur, Speaker, and Trainer and helps women around the world build confidence within themselves so they can SHINE in the areas they have always wanted to. Her extensive experiences have enabled Kelly to learn a thing or two about cultivating the art of self-confidence, even though she grew up as a quiet and self-conscious 'good girl' who was always afraid of putting up her hand in class. That was until Kelly found out that confidence could be LEARNT. We chatted to Kelly about; Her experience as a pregnant firefighter, and the stereotypes around women, especially mothers, putting themselves ‘in the face of danger’. Why connecting to our community is so crucial, and yet we live in disconnected societies. Her journey from a painfully shy child to a courageous and confident superhero. The difference between confidence and courage. How to create resilience around criticism and ‘feedback’ Who is Kelly Petering, Anyway? Hi, I’m Kelly Petering... Entrepreneur, Speaker and Trainer and I help women around the world build confidence within themselves so they can SHINE in the areas they have always wanted to! Having travelled the world, worked as an actress, voice-over artist, tour guide, emergency management officer and now entrepreneur, I’ve learnt a thing or two about cultivating the art of self-confidence. It wasn’t always that way, however, I grew up a quiet and self-conscious 'good girl' who was always afraid of putting up her hand in class… too nervous to look people in the eye. That was until I found out that confidence could be LEARNT!! I was like whoa! Hold on a second… Do you mean that it’s not determined at birth (as I had presumed)??? I was like… well, I'm actually quite good at learning… maybe I can learn how to be like all those confident people I had secretly been super jealous of! You see, now, I truly believe that life is meant to be LIVED - danced through with energy and passion - not tiptoed through with fear like I used to… and I see so many others doing right now. Through online training programs, transformational workshops and retreats, women just like you, have the opportunity to experience and learn tools, strategies and techniques to grow their own confidence in all areas of their lives… all in a safe and supportive environment. So, wonderful woman, it’s your time! Time to learn how to cultivate inner confidence so that you can get out there and live life to its fullest - with passion and energy! Connect with Kelly Here Email info@kellypetering.com.au Website www.kellypetering.com.au Instagram @kellypetering Free guided confidence meditation  https://confidence.kellypetering.com.au/meditation Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here FB/IG @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  

**WARNING** This episode contains a lot of swearing and deals with strong themes of sexual violence. Please take care while listening and look after your mental heal and wellbeing. Female Genital Mutilation is on the rise in Australia where it is strictly illegal - but why is this the case? On today's episode of Good Girls Don't Podcast, Verity and Ashleigh sat down with activist, advocate, and all-round fierce feminist, Khadija Gbla to attempt to wrap our heads around what FGM is, and how it's happening in our neighborhoods.  We spoke to Khadija about: Her powerful, viral TEDTalk that she winged, from the heart How humor helps to ease the discomfort of a taboo topic and opens the door for real discussion The three types of FGM FGM in the white, western world (it's more common than you might think!) How FGM is being perpetrated by Doctors and backyard practitioners The devastating, lifelong trauma and impact of FGM Unpacking the intersectionality of FGM, how and why it's done and; What it means to the Mother-Daughter relationship of survivors The road from victim to survivor and choosing to take back your power, every day Who is Khadija Gbla, Anyway? Khadija Gbla is a high profile, passionate and inspiring African Australian woman. She is an award-winning human rights activist, entrepreneur, inspirational speaker, facilitator, philanthropist, and mentor. Khadija provides advocacy, training, speaking on domestic and family violence, sexual health, racism, human rights, mental health, migrants and refugees and cultural diversity through her cultural consultancy, Khadija Gbla Cultural Consultancy. She is the Founder of The Desert Flower Center Australia. The Desert Flower Australia is the first center in Australia and the Asian Pacific region that specializes in providing holistic, comprehensive gynecological, urological reconstructive surgery and trauma-informed care for women impacted by female genital mutilation. Connect with Khadija: Website Khadijagbla.com.au Instagram Khadija_gbla Twitter KhadijaGbla Connect with Ashleigh and Verity: We have a new Instagram account! Find us @goodgirlsdontpod Email: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod   

Why does Valentine’s Day trigger so many people? You either REALLY love it or you REALLY hate it. Why do we feel so much pressure to conform on Valentine's Day or to completely dismiss Valentine’s Day, leaving many partners worldwide feeling angry, unappreciated, resentful and dismissed? Valentine's Day for people in relationships can be a minefield waiting to explode. Why do we dismiss Valentine's Day as commercialized and yet engage in the radical commercialization of Christmas, Easter, Fathers Day and Mother’s Day? Why do so many of us resist Valentine's Day? How can we see our attitudes around Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to reflect and understand our relationship we NEED to have with ourselves? Why expectations destroy relationships, but why Valentine’s Day is possibly one of the most important days of the year. How can we tune into the power of Valentine’s Day whether we are single or not? Is there a better way to truly rebel against the commercialization, comparisons, and expectations around Valentine’s Day and still truly embrace our self-love and self-worth with fierceness? Who is Verity Mansfield, Anyway? Verity is a self-love/relationship coach and mentor who works with women to break those “Good Girl Rules” so they can really acknowledge the truly magnificent beauty within, to realize they are more powerful than what society dictates, and that they can determine their own self-worth and embrace the power within to consciously create powerful and passionate relationships - with themselves or another. Connect with Verity: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abeautifultruth/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/a_beautiful_truth/ Website: www.veritymansfield.com Connect with Ashleigh: Twitter: @nerdypioneer Facebook/IG: @evokemediaAU Website: www.ashleighrae.com.au Love what you're hearing? Be a lamb and write us a review in your favorite podcast app!

Tzara Attwater walked in one day on her partner (of 10yrs) and best friend (of 18yrs) having sex. Double betrayal. After her journey of recovery and healing, Tzara dedicated her work to helping others to also recover from betrayal, to heal their wounds and to move forward in a new direction - with or without their partner. When current statistics state that 1 in 4 relationships experience sexual betrayal and the emotional pain of infidelity, it's highly likely you know someone who's been through this or is experiencing it right now. And yet - no one speaks about it! Which is why WE ARE! We asked Tzara nitty-gritty questions that you want to ask when it comes to infidelity and cheating but that we’re too scared to ask; How do you know whether to stay or go? How can we deal with well-intentioned friends pressuring us to leave them when we don’t want to? How do we deal with their judgments? Why we beat ourselves up when we’re the ones that have been betrayed? and why that can just lead to layering even more limiting beliefs and crush our self worth? How do we bounce back after a betrayal and create healthy boundaries? How do we get past the betrayal, repair the bond and even WANT to engage in that relationship with the person who betrayed us? Is it possible to rebuild the lost intimacy and trust once broken and what does that really take to do it? Connect with Tzara here: Email tzara@myconfidencecoach.com.au Website www.myconfidencecoach.com.au   Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Twitter (Ashleigh) @nerdypioneer

Sarah Ireland is the CEO of One Girl, an Australian non-profit organization that harnesses the power of education to drive change for girls and their families in Sierra Leone and Uganda.  We fell in love with Sarah’s story from questioning her ability to be a CEO to breaking her own glass ceilings and redefining what a CEO should be and thus paving the way to inspire females of all ages to never shay away from their dreams. Who is Sarah Ireland, Anyway? Sarah is currently the humanitarian representative on the Red Cross Australia Victorian International Humanitarian Law Advisory Committee. She has a Bachelor in Journalism, a Master of International Studies (Peace and Conflict Resolution) and is currently studying a Master of International Law.  Sarah’s career began with Save The Children UK as a first-responder to the disaster zone in Myanmar following Cyclone Nargis. Since then, Sarah has built front-line experience over 10 years in humanitarian outreach and international aid. After leading emergency responses in countries such as the Philippines, Iraq and in the Horn of Africa, Sarah shifted her focus to creating long-term sustainable change. Taking on a position as a Humanitarian Advocacy and Policy Adviser, Sarah has lobbied both Australian and overseas governments to increase foreign aid budgets and the intake of refugees and to prioritize women and girls in their overseas aid programs. Connect with Sarah and OneGirl here: Website onegirl.org.au Instagram @OneGirlOrg Twitter @OneGirlOrg   Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Wanna help us fan the flames? Leave a rating and review in your podcast app to help us reach more men and women all over the world!  Produced and Edited by Evoke Media   

Women the world over are pushed and pulled between two opposing ideas of who we must be: the Saintly Mother, or the Whore.  The expectations and pressures of both run deep inside all of us and permeate our cultures regardless of language, religion or politics.  For centuries, we've been torn between both opposing identities and now in the modern world women are finally, in some corners of the world, able to be much more than a Saintly Mother or Whore. She can be both, she can be more - she can be whomever she wants but it all begins with reawakening deep respect and reverence for her body.  Who is Mia More, Anyway? Mia Mor is a Poet, Lover, Gypsy soul, and Shamanic Bodyworker Connect with Mia here: Instagram: theglobaldakini website: www.globaldakini.com Facebook: mysticmiamor soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/mona-mour-453190658 Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Email goodgirlsdont@gmail.com  Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod 

Society seems obsessed with being skinny and perfect. But while getting skinny isn’t going to get you #instafamous, the fear of ‘fat’ can limit us to staying small and living off the scraps of love and worthiness (including paychecks). We talk with the larger than life Jay Crisp Crow on how her disability became a superpower, how she smashed her own self-imposed glass ceilings, why it's’ important to feel the fear and do it anyway and why you can be both fat AND beautiful. Who is Jay Crisp Crow, Anyway?   In her old life, Jay Crisp Crow juggled a family, a disability, and a communications job that sucked the juice from her bones. Then she had firm words with herself, found her voice, and took her own gig on the road. Jay writes blow-your-hair-back premium copy for brands, big and small, and teaches women in business how to write copy that sells through coaching, consulting, and courses.  She regularly presents in Perth and online on everything from Staying Away From Safe Copy to Disability and Business and Being Both Fat and Successful. She co-founded a social enterprise with her Queen Ruler daughter, Ella, and in 2019 launched her first podcast - So Crisp.  Some days she runs a business just as a middle-finger to everyone who said she couldn't make a living writing or tells her she charges too much. Don't judge. Motivation is different for everyone. Connect with Jay here: www.crispcopy.com.au www.crispcrow.com.au www.facebook.com/crispcopy Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Email: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod

Why is there so much shame around our periods? Why do our periods seem like a burden, something that diminishes us and our ability to function in the world instead of being a source of empowerment? In today's world of self-empowerment, our periods are still used to control, and negate a female's sense of self, especially in disconnecting her from her body. This was such a fabulous and educational conversation about menstruation, and how to work with our hormones instead of against them. We also talk about bringing men into the conversation and how menstruation can help bring balance to the entire family, the effects of the pill and the chemical controlling of our bodies from fertility to the coffin, and what we need to teach our daughters. And most importantly, does chocolate really help? Who is Stasha Washburn, Anyway? Stasha is known as The Period Coach. A Certified Holistic Health Coach and 20+ years of research have fueled her passion to reconnect women to the power in their cycles. To end the taboo of menstruation worldwide, no big deal. Stasha is changing the conversation around periods from whispers in the ladies' room to empowered public discussions.  Stasha spent 20 years searching for a way to relieve her Endometriosis, and in the process discovered how to help women balance their hormones, through both science and ‘woo’. Knowing this she could no longer keep quiet, becoming a speaker and using her voice ever since to bring relief to women worldwide.  Join Stasha in her amazing FB group, The Red Circle: Lady Business or find her featured on HuffPost, Thrive Global, Urban Monk, YouTube, many summits, and podcasts as an expert guest. Connect with Stasha Here: Free gift: https://theperiodcoach.com/etrc/ Charting of flow charting mandala - free   The Revolution Will Be Bloody An action guide book for revolutionary women. Pre order my book: https://theperiodcoach.com/indiegogo Days for Girls; reusable menstrual products. Turning Periods Into Pathways We are changing the status quo through quality menstrual care solutions, health education, and income-generating opportunities that give back days of opportunity and health Charity: https://www.daysforgirls.org/ Email: S_Washburn@me.com Website: ThePeriodCoach.com Instagram: @stashawashburn Twitter: @stashahealth Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod

Remember that time you were in the car, at the meeting, picking your kids up from school or doing the groceries and suddenly you realized your period had leaked through your clothes? We’ve all been there and been embarrassed and most of us have probably had a tampon or pad in our handbag or asked another woman for one whose gladly given it.  But what if you live below the poverty line and you have to choose between food and pads? What if you’re homeless the only options available to you are McDonald's napkins and newspaper?  Here’s the crazy part: women in Australia are facing this every single day.  So Verity and Ashleigh sat down with Rochelle Courtenay from Share the Dignity Australia, to ask her: What is Period Poverty and how many women are affected by it? What happens when women can’t access sanitary products? Why were pads and tampons classed as luxury items? We also dug into Rochelle’s big vision and how her fire was ignited - and how we can all help support women in need and where to next for Share the Dignity.    Who is Rochelle Courtenay, Anyway? Rochelle, affectionately known as “Pad lady” didn’t set out to be a social entrepreneur yet her work to help eliminate period poverty in Australia has created a nationwide movement through her not-for-profit charity, Share the Dignity. Share the Dignity has collected more than 1.9 million packets of sanitary items since its formation with the support of over 4,500 volunteers. They’ve managed to raise over $45million dollars worth of sanitary products for women Australia. Rochelle designed a world-first Dignity Vending Machine, known as the Pinkbox. The vending machines are purposely designed to dispense a free period pack of sanitary items. By the end of 2019, there will be 200 Pinkboxes installed in poverty-stricken schools, homeless centers, domestic violence shelters and areas of severe poverty Australia-wide.  Connect with Rochelle and Share the Dignity here: Website: www.sharethedignity.com.au Instagram: @sharethedignityaustralia Twitter: @sharingdignity Volunteer https://www.sharethedignity.com.au/volunteer/ Donate https://www.sharethedignity.com.au/donate-now/   Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: E-Mail goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod   If you LOVE this podcast please leave a fabulous rating and review in your listening app!

Happy Holidays, Rebels and Rulebreakers!  Today we gift you the awkward, silly behind-the-scenes outtakes in creating the very first season of Good Girls Don't Podcast.  A heartfelt thank you to all our listeners, and to the incredible humans who let us pick their brains in 2019.  We'll be back in 2020 with the second season of Good Girls Don't, but until then we'll be sharing some of your favorite episodes to delight in all over again.  Merry Christmas!  Ashleigh and Verity  @goodgirlsdontpod E: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Show of hands: do you know how to use a power drill, or install windows on a bus? Neither do we.  And it’s one of the unlikeliest places you’d expect, at least based on patriarchal gender roles - for a woman to find her purpose. But not only did Sarah Taylor find a deep, meaningful purpose to building her internet-famous bus, Ms. P, she also discovered who she was and exactly what she was made of.  Today, we spoke to Sarah about how humans like you and us can choose to create businesses that are not only environmentally responsible and sustainable but are a manifestation of our deepest held values and ensure that we’re making the world a better place than when we found it. Here's the highlight reel of what we spoke to Sarah about: Unhooking from the mainstream marketing noise Accessibility and giving back - not when we’re rich but right here right now, at any point in our journey Being the architect of our life and embracing the trust and power within ourselves to live on our own terms Why we should stop trying to “park the bus” The torture of not fitting in and turning that into the one thing that turns our life around “It’s our job to make sure humanity thrives and survives.” “If my business was a minimalist what would I do?” Who is Sarah Taylor, Anyway? Sarah Taylor, affectionately known as “The Bus Lady”  is building her own bus conversion, off-grid tiny homestead and is an intentional business coach. She helps women unhook from mainstream marketing so they can sell without compromising their values. Sarah is a digital privacy advocate, environmental activist, permaculture student and in her spare time she likes to find ways she can help dismantle systemic economic slavery. Sarah's main goal for her business is to help others create regenerative practices and abundance business models so we can earn money sustainably and for the benefit of the planet, not it's destruction. Connect with Sarah here: Email sarah@sarahtaylor.net Website sarahtaylor.net Instagram @sarah_taylor_net   Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod

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Didn't we solve this with #AustraliaSaysNo and all the other awareness campaigns? Heck no!  And that's why we tracked ourselves an expert to talk to us about what's really happening in Australia when it comes to domestic violence. Enter, 25-year psychotherapy veteran, Anita Bentata.  We chatted to her about: Feminine principle hemispherectomy. What is it and why it’s CRUCIAL to resolving domestic violence. Why women don’t want to identify with being in domestic violent relationships, and why conversations around DV fall on deaf ears. Why women (and men) stay in domestic violent relationships. Why domestic violence is increasing regardless of the increase of awareness campaigns over the last decade Why ironically anger is an expression of self-love  And why embracing the feminine within ourselves whether we are female or male, is the solution to the prevention of domestic violence. Pour yourself a coffee, or a glass of wine and sink your teeth into this juicy gem of a conversation! Because domestic violence DOES happen and there is something YOU can do about it. Who is Anita Bentata, Anyway? Anita Bentata is a psychotherapist who has worked in the field for 25 years specializing in trauma and abuse, especially around Domestic Violence. After publishing her book, The Wolf in a Suit in 2016 she realized that awareness was only creating more overwhelm and outrage around domestic violence and wasn’t changing anything. Anita began developing her own solutions so that women don’t have to wait for powers in the public to change the conversation around domestic violence. Take Part in Our Listener Survey - Click Here! Connect with Anita Here Email anita@anitabentata.com Website www.anitabentata.com Instagram http://www.instagram.com/anitabentata Twitter http://www.twitter.com/anitabentata Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here www.veritymansfield.com  www.facebook.com/goodgirlsdontpod  goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Why do we not talk about Menopause? And when we do, it’s all the fear and drudgery of it that never leaves us feeling empowered to be a female or to look forward to aging with grace and wisdom. Chantal Vanderhaeghen chatted to us today about the truth about menopause and debunking the myths and fear around the ‘crone’ as an ugly, jealous malicious archetype that is so personified by the wicked stepmother and evil witches of folklore and fairytales. Here we had 3 generations chatting about the power of sharing their stories, and listening to the wisdom of their elders. We chatted about; Deconstruct the fear of aging Dropping the shame around menopause The fear of becoming invisible as we age Why we focus on only the negative aspects of this transition more than puberty and motherhood. How the beauty industry depends upon us fearing the Crone. Stepping into the Crone with a sense of empowerment, embracing our intuition, wisdom, and experiences. Who is Chantel, Anyway? Chantal Vanderhaeghen is a Confidence Mentor who guides women to harness their inner wisdom. Combining a rich life experience with decades of learning and practicing the healing arts. Chantal connects the threads of life that brought you here - where you are now and takes you to where you want to be. Confidently You. Connect with Chantel Here Instagram/Facebook @unfoldyourfreedom Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod  Support Us with a Quickie Here! (a few quick questions to help us plan for 2020!)

We love feminism and yet so many people keep asking us exactly what do we mean by ‘feminism’? Well, who else would be more perfect to talk to than emerging Author, Copywriter, Blogger, Mother and #OpinionatedWoman, Jennifer Zeven. Jennifer's articles have been featured in Whimn, Kidspot, and Roooar! Magazine. She is one of Medium's Top Writers in Feminism and is taking time away from copywriting to write her first manuscript. Visceral, raw and necessary, Jennifer shares her experiences of early Motherhood and exposes the way Motherhood defines Womanhood - whether you have children or not. We talked about; Motherhood and feminism, and how the patriarchal construct of motherhood robs us of our identity. Why women are villanized for choosing to opt-out of motherhood. Why misdirected anger is destroying the sisterhood  The cognitive dissonance of mourning pre-motherhood yet still loving our children. Why as privileged white women we need to not only find our voices but use them for all the women around the world whose voices are silenced... And is it true that men can only remember 3 things, and why men should be insulted by quips like these? Connect with Jennifer Here: Email buildbetterblurbs@blurb-ology.com Website www.blurb-ology.com/home Instagram @jennifer_zeven and @jenniferzevenauthor Twitter @JenniferZeven Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Help Us Grow The Podcast in 2020 by Sharing Your Feedback with Us Here: http://bit.ly/ggdpodsurvey

As women, we’re designed to have babies. Even if we don’t want them our bodies are ensuring they remind us every month, for every year for over a 40yr span that we’re baby-makers. Granted there are women who have ZERO interest in having kids and that's absolutely their right to choose. But what happens and what does it REALLY feel like to know that you do not even have a choice? What happens when we desperately want a child but our body just won’t allow it? Today Marie Louise shares her personal journey with us of her experience of being infertile and navigating marriage, divorce, dating and just the everyday existence of being female and infertile in a patriarchal world. How do you reconcile with your body when you feel it’s betrayed you? Befriending your (un)friendly monthly reminder that your body was meant to be designed to have babies. Why being infertile makes us feel like less of a woman. How do you date knowing you might crush his dreams of having a family? How can the rest of us childbearing women be more sensitive and understanding towards women who can’t bear children? And most importantly how does a woman move on with the acceptance of never being able to do what her body is biologically designed to do, heal from that acceptance and build a life that brings her unlimited joy, love and happiness? Well, tune in because Marie Louise is about to tell us! Who is Marie-Louise, Anyway? Marie-Louise Pawsey knows first-hand the hurt and trauma of being Infertile and Single. Since realizing that she wasn’t living her life as fully as she could be, she made the tough decision to sever ties with hope, and start living a more ‘flirtile’ life. For 3 years she’s mentored women and men in dating, and how to get into and maintain lasting romantic relationships. She’s most active on her Youtube channel where she publishes her tried and tested, unique and controversial views and guidelines to dating. Now, she’s supporting Single, Infertile women who are ready to give up the dream and start living the amazing life they can carve for themselves! When they’re ready to strut into their new life, free of shame, negative and the self-doubt which has caused them to deny themselves happiness, Marie-Louise is here to give them a place where they belong, and help them get the prince! These women are invited to join at facebook.com/groups/FlirtileForLife where they can feel nurtured and understood. Connect with Marie Louise Here facebook.com/LifeStylinDatingCoach Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Help us Make Good Girls Don't Podcast the Best it Can Be http://bit.ly/ggdpodsurvey

If good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people, and if the good are rewarded and the naughty are punished, what happens when bad things happen to good people? This premise is the basis of ‘Victim blaming’. Instead of holding a criminal responsible, society screams, “Well she must have been asking for it!”.   Did you give mixed signals? Why were you alone at night? Where you drunk? How short was your skirt? She was dancing like a slut. She slept with the other guy, why not me?? Well it's not like she said ‘no’. She should have said it louder. She didn’t put up much of a fight, What was she even doing there? Well, she was flirting with him. She didn’t act like a rape victim afterward.   Yeah. Even a current Liberal Member for Parliament when asked about his views on domestic violence replied, “Domestic Violence is a woman’s issue”. Seriously? If those responsible for creating the laws think this way, what hope does society have? From sporting communities' involvement in gang rapes, Australia’s high domestic violence (1 woman dies a week in Australia as a result of DV), date rape and sexual harassment the onis is often on the women's’ responsibility to not put herself in such a situation.  So when are we going to stop excusing men for their bad behavior (oh boys will be boys) and start demanding that perhaps its time for men to learn to control themselves? Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Verity, Instagram a_beautiful_truth Ashleigh, Instagram/FB @evokemediaau

Working with women in relationships, women constantly ask, “How do I get my partner to open up?”. As women rise, so many of us are feeling like our men are getting left behind. So how do we support them and inspire them to rise while acknowledging and accepting their own divine timing to step up? And this is where we stumbled across Aaron Spence. If you haven’t met Aaron you probably should. He’s cool, confident, intelligent and has a great sense of humour all in a laid back, easy-to-get-to-know kinda way.  And he gets ‘men’. Aarons’ been coaching for the best part of 28 years. Working initially in sports, he expanded to business and life coaching and has worked with an amazing array of people from Olympians and national representatives through to people working through suicide and cancer survivors. Today Aaron works much more closely with men, particularly around helping them step into their masculine energy. Regaining their drive and passion, ultimately helping them have the most amazing relationships with themselves, their kids, business and importantly, their partner. What do men want from their relationships? How can women help their partners open up emotionally? Are men really ‘simple’ creatures? Or are they lying to themselves? What are the best ways women can inspire their men to rise, as they rise? So pour yourself a cup of tea, or even a beer or wine, because you are going to LOVE this conversation as we dive into the secret world of men! Connect with Aaron Here: Facebook: @aaronspencecoaching LinkedIn: in/aaronspencenz Connect with Ashleigh and Verity: Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Verity, Instagram: @a_beautiful_truth Ashleigh, Instagram: @evokemediaau Love what you're hearing? We'd appreciate a rating and review in iTunes!

If you go looking for it, you will find a plethora of women’s empowerment circles and communities - but for real equality to rise, there also needs to be space for men to gather together and take part in their own spiritual, emotional and psychological development.  So we sat down with Tyran Mowbray, affectionately known as The Hairy Healer to talk about bringing men into the fold, developing their own spiritual practice, healing and maintaining emotional health - and boy oh boy, does Tyran have a lot to say about how men can return to love, and how women can be part of the experience and even a guiding force. We explored the embarrassing, strange, silly, deeply personal and deeply intimate emotions surrounding healthy, delicious, magical experiences of sex and sensuality and how to cultivate our King, and unleash the Queen.   Who is Tyran Mowbray, Anyway? Tyran, affectionately known as The Hairy Healer, is a typical Australian bloke that went through all the shame around sexual performance, sexual expression, suppressing his soft tender side while existing in the construction industry, the Aussie rules sports scene and the mining industry. The Hairy Healer’s mission is to help people change the way they view themselves. To stop facilitating stereotypes, to break molds, and to learn and teach how to connect with other people but also just as importantly connect to yourself. Connect with Tyran Here Email: tyran@thehairyhealer.com Website: https://www.facebook.com/TheHairyHealer/ Instagram: @the_hairy_healer Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Email: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod Verity (Instagram) @a_beautiful_truth Ashleigh (Instagram) @evokemediaau

Verity and Ashleigh are kicking back with tea and tim-tams for another week and while they're gearing up for more episodes, you can re-live the incredible, inspiring work of Dr. Lorel Mayberry from Borderless Friendships Western Australia.  This episode originally aired on July 28th 2019. Child sex trafficking. We know it happens but most of us assume there is NOTHING we can do. How wrong we are. Dr. Lorel Mayberry, the president of Borderless Friendship WA opened our eyes up to the truth about the vulnerability of hills tribe children in Northern Thailand. Currently, in Thailand, there are over 50-60K children in the hidden sex trade. While we were expecting a heavy emotional episode, we actually were surprised by how joyous and inspiring this interview was. If you’re up for saving the world and making a difference, this is the episode for you! Who is Dr. Lorel Mayberry, Anyway? Dr. Lorel Mayberry lectures in sexology in the award-winning Department of Sexology at Curtin University in Perth and has been involved in the area of sexuality education for more than three decades. In between her university commitments, she travels to Northern Thailand working in partnership with Lahu (a hill tribe group) friends to enhance the lives of hill tribe children. These children are the most vulnerable to the shocking practice of sex trafficking. Lorel is the inaugural president of Borderless Friendship WA, a not-for-profit group, that was started 10 years ago. 

Did you miss this incredible episode with Men's Health Advocate, Catherine Lyell?  While we're away for the next two weeks, take this time to aquaint yourself with some of our earlier episodes including this powerful goldmine that originally aired as episode 5, back in June 2019.  We all understand that porn, and the porn industry, creates a lot of negative messages around sex and women, but how many of us really take a moment to understand or realize the negative impacts porn has on our boys and men? With research showing that the average age of boys being introduced to porn is 11years old and that 93% of men under 18 years have watched porn, shouldn’t we be concerned with the effects porn has on males? Watching porn is happening earlier than it ever used to, and it’s more hardcore and accessible than it ever used to be, especially as most boys have easy access to mobile phones, iPads, and other devices. Studies and articles state a direct correlation between the watching of porn and erectile dysfunction, anxiety, depression, and even suicide.  In a world where pornography is not going to disappear any time soon, it is imperative that as adults and parents we step up and increase the conversation around porn with our loved ones and even our children. Who Is Catherine Lyell, Anyway? Meet Catherine Lyell, from Integrated Men’s Health, who is a Men's Health and Porn Addiction Specialist based in Melbourne, Australia. Catherine helps men regain control and confidence with their sexual habits and behaviors, so they can find peace and solutions around relationships and intimacy. Catherine assists men to gain relief from unspeakable shames, trauma, dysfunction, serious health issues and more and specializes in depression, anxiety, porn addiction, and sexual health. Catherine is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, Psychospiritual Therapist, Tantric Healer, Massage Therapist, Mentor, Trainer, Life Coach, and Author. Support Catherine and Her Work: Catherine Lyell has just launched her new book “What No One Told You About Pornography”, aimed at teens and young men, as well as all men, women, practitioners, sports clubs, teachers and parents.  “The Uncensored Threat” is a much needed educational program Catherine is working on to educate teens in schools, universities, and sports clubs. If you would love to support Catherine in her funding to get this program out there, so please head over and check it out here. As a special bonus to our listeners, Catherine is offering our audience two incredible free exercises. The first is the “Two Week Masturbation Challenge - Learn the art of conscious self-pleasure”, that you can access here. And you can email Catherine, integratedmenshealth@outlook.com to receive the Couples Intimacy Exercise called “How the fuck did we end up here?”.

Sarah Ireland is the CEO of One Girl, an Australian non-profit organization that harnesses the power of education to drive change for girls and their families in Sierra Leone and Uganda.  We fell in love with Sarah’s story from questioning her ability to be a CEO to breaking her own glass ceilings and redefining what a CEO should be and thus paving the way to inspire females of all ages to never shay away from their dreams. Who is Sarah Ireland, Anyway? Sarah is currently the humanitarian representative on the Red Cross Australia Victorian International Humanitarian Law Advisory Committee. She has a Bachelor in Journalism, a Master of International Studies (Peace and Conflict Resolution) and is currently studying a Master of International Law.  Sarah’s career began with Save The Children UK as a first-responder to the disaster zone in Myanmar following Cyclone Nargis. Since then, Sarah has built front-line experience over 10 years in humanitarian outreach and international aid. After leading emergency responses in countries such as the Philippines, Iraq and in the Horn of Africa, Sarah shifted her focus to creating long-term sustainable change. Taking on a position as a Humanitarian Advocacy and Policy Adviser, Sarah has lobbied both Australian and overseas governments to increase foreign aid budgets and the intake of refugees and to prioritize women and girls in their overseas aid programs. Connect with Sarah and OneGirl here: Website onegirl.org.au Instagram @OneGirlOrg Twitter @OneGirlOrg   Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Wanna help us fan the flames? Leave a rating and review in your podcast app to help us reach more men and women all over the world!  Produced and Edited by Evoke Media   

Women the world over are pushed and pulled between two opposing ideas of who we must be: the Saintly Mother, or the Whore.  The expectations and pressures of both run deep inside all of us and permeate our cultures regardless of language, religion or politics.  For centuries, we've been torn between both opposing identities and now in the modern world women are finally, in some corners of the world, able to be much more than a Saintly Mother or Whore. She can be both, she can be more - she can be whomever she wants but it all begins with reawakening deep respect and reverence for her body.  Who is Mia More, Anyway? Mia Mor is a Poet, Lover, Gypsy soul, and Shamanic Bodyworker Connect with Mia here: Instagram: theglobaldakini website: www.globaldakini.com Facebook: mysticmiamor soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/mona-mour-453190658 Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Email goodgirlsdont@gmail.com  Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod   

Why is there so much shame around our periods? Why do our periods seem like a burden, something that diminishes us and our ability to function in the world instead of being a source of empowerment? In today's world of self-empowerment, our periods are still used to control, and negate a female's sense of self, especially in disconnecting her from her body. This was such a fabulous and educational conversation about menstruation, and how to work with our hormones instead of against them. We also talk about bringing men into the conversation and how menstruation can help bring balance to the entire family, the effects of the pill and the chemical controlling of our bodies from fertility to the coffin, and what we need to teach our daughters. And most importantly, does chocolate really help? Who is Stasha Washburn, Anyway? Stasha is known as The Period Coach. A Certified Holistic Health Coach and 20+ years of research have fueled her passion to reconnect women to the power in their cycles. To end the taboo of menstruation worldwide, no big deal. Stasha is changing the conversation around periods from whispers in the ladies' room to empowered public discussions.  Stasha spent 20 years searching for a way to relieve her Endometriosis, and in the process discovered how to help women balance their hormones, through both science and ‘woo’. Knowing this she could no longer keep quiet, becoming a speaker and using her voice ever since to bring relief to women worldwide.  Join Stasha in her amazing FB group, The Red Circle: Lady Business or find her featured on HuffPost, Thrive Global, Urban Monk, YouTube, many summits, and podcasts as an expert guest. Connect with Stasha Here: Free gift: https://theperiodcoach.com/etrc/ Charting of flow charting mandala - free   The Revolution Will Be Bloody An action guide book for revolutionary women. Pre order my book: https://theperiodcoach.com/indiegogo Days for Girls; reusable menstrual products. Turning Periods Into Pathways We are changing the status quo through quality menstrual care solutions, health education, and income-generating opportunities that give back days of opportunity and health Charity: https://www.daysforgirls.org/ Email: S_Washburn@me.com Website: ThePeriodCoach.com Instagram: @stashawashburn Twitter: @stashahealth Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod