Sexual Disorientation

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige tackle a bundle of e-mails about one very big problem: What happens when someone wants sex and their partner won't or can't oblige? The specter of 'waiting until marriage' is raised in one very troubling e-mail. Ramani and Silvia address that decision, along with the recent revelation that the rapper T.I. checks in with his daughter's gynecologist about the state of her hymen. A listener discovers on her honeymoon that her husband has crippling ED, but she may be ignoring the real problems in her relationship. Then, a lesbian listener struggles with not being able to satisfy her partner's sex drive, and the fights that causes. Finally, the wife of a narcissist wonders why their sex life went from 5-6 times A DAY to barely ever. This opens up a broader conversation about the difference in men between libido and erections. *** DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE NOW ON AMAZON! Click here to get it! *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige welcome rabbinical student and Jewish mental health advocate Jonah Sanderson for a controversial discussion on sex, gender and God. Jonah has made it his mission to combat suicide in the Los Angeles Jewish community. Much of his work focuses on sex, shame and gender roles. Jonah attempts to bridge the gap between traditional Orthodox beliefs and modern life. But many of his viewpoints do not sit right with Dr Ramani and Silvia. They explore the Talmudic view of sex and homosexuality (still very relevant to Christian and Muslim listeners) and the cultural place of women in the Jewish faith. Then, a deep discussion of the #MeToo Movement, and why its approach is not compatible with rabbis' approach to learning and healing. Ramani takes Jonah to task on forgiveness and Silvia objects to his concerns about the fallout for men. *** DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE NOW ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!***   *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani answers backlogged questions about picking bad partners, finding empathy for your mental illness, and keeping friends when there's a narcissist between you. ***DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE NOW ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!*** Silvia is out of the country and we miss her terribly! Dr Ramani uses the opportunity to address some of our more therapy-minded e-mails. A listener with a traumatic history admits to seeing all the warning signs and dysfunction, but wanting to be with her toxic ex anyway. Ramani addresses how to break the cycle. Another listener struggles as her narcissistic, slandering ex drives a wedge into their friend group. Ramani offers advice for how to maintain relationships and de-power the narc's mind games. Finally, a listener with a mental illness wonders how to process the lack of empathy he feels from those closest to him. He knows his condition can be off-putting, but it also makes him feel like he's surrounded by narcissists. Ramani has a lot to say on the social stigmas surrounding mental illness. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige take a break from narcissism to tackle a bevy of backlogged sex questions, including cross-dressing fantasies and rules for BDSM. ***DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE FOR PRE-ORDER ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!*** A listener who identifies as straight wants to explore submissive, feminine style and behavior. Ramani says no worries, with one specific exception. Another listener wonders is there are universal rules for the BDSM community. Neither Ramani, Silvia or Producer Bill have ever participated in BDSM, but they all have stories involving people who have. Then, a lesbian woman struggles with a lack of sexual desire after starting a relationship with a newly out partner. And a concerned mother worries that her son is following in his dad's footsteps with a total lack of interest in sex. Ramani and Silvia aren't convinced she has anything to worry about. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige are back from summer vacation, with stories of travels abroad and the dysfunctional co-parents they encountered out there! ***DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE FOR PRE-ORDER ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!*** A listener asks all the same questions Silvia brought back with her from England, about how to parent when your ex is no good. Ramani offers a tough love reality check about the situation. Then, a listener takes Dr Ramani to task about her use of the word 'boring' to describe stable relationships, but Ramani pushes back. Another listener struggles over wild swings in her boyfriend's self-esteem, and sends us on a tangent that addresses the stigma of dating with a mental illness. Finally, a very sweet listener wonders if her sibling might be a "part-time narcissist"...But we think she might have too forgiving a sister. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia welcome "guest professor" Robert Kandell, author of the new book unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Buy unHIDDEN at this link: https://robertkandell.com/unhidden-a-book-for-men/ Rob is an interpersonal communication expert and also the host of the podcast TUFF LOVE. His focus is on the changing role of men in society. This episode is everything you ever wanted to know but maybe didn't know to ask about the concept of "The Patriarchy." "What does 'the patriarchy' even mean?" "Who created patriarchal structures? Who benefits from them?" "Isn't this just an angry feminist issue?" "How does this concept affect relationships?" "What would a non-patriarchal society look like?" "Is a non-patriarchal society achievable?" "What's so wrong with masculinity anyway?" "Is it bad if a woman just likes being taken care of by a man?" And tons more! Because the only step to understanding is open and honest communication. Write us with ALWAYS-anonymous suggestions for future 101 segments: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com   -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian.   Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige celebrate the show's 50th episode with a look back on lessons learned and fresh advice on narcissists, boundaries, and forging ahead. ** Thank you to our amazing tribe of listeners, which seems to grow with every episode, for your vulnerability with your stories and your interest in making the world a healthier, more loving place. ** Ramani reflects on the tradition of talk shows expanding the conversation about sex. Silvia recaps everything we've learned about porn over the past 50 episodes. And Producer Bill pulls back the curtain on some of Silvia's most devoted fans. Then, a listener raises the specter of narcissists turning friends against you. Another listener identifies a key red flag for IDing a narcissistic partner. And a past e-mailer writes again to clarify her struggle with dating in the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship. Finally, Producer Bill opens up with a personal story about a recent loss to suicide, and we hammer home that everything we talk about on this show ultimately comes down to the twin human desires to love and to be loved. *** PLEASE NOTE: If you or someone you know has been contemplating suicide, please seek help. There is a better way. If you are in the United States, there are trained professionals with whom you can talk 24/7 at the National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) – and you can find a quality therapist in your area at www.samhsa.gov. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige answer listener questions about narcissistic parents and the traumas they leave in their wake. Dr Ramani presents her 3-Part Plan to Disempower Narcissists. We draw an extremely important distinction between empathy and selflessness for people in toxic families. And we explore the idea that people with narcissistic pasts seek out problematic partners with the subconscious goal that this time, they'll "win." Spoiler: You won't. Finally, Dr Ramani relishes an opportunity to psychoanalyze the characters of The Great Gatsby! *** WRITE US FOR EPISODE 50! Our fiftieth episode will be extra-long and extra-deep, perfect for a podcast about sexuality. If you've been waffling about writing us, if you just discovered us, or if you wrote us before and put our advice into action, WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU NOW! E-mail: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com *** Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is a standup comedian and adult film actress. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.  

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige tackle a grab-bag of listener follow-ups and some tough new questions about leaving the past behind. Plus, thoughts on the big college cheating scandal! Listeners have comments on anal play and the pitfalls of staying friends with an ex. Then, a widowed listener was used and abused by a narcissistic boyfriend after her husband passed. She wonders how to learn to trust and love again. Finally, a young woman has been through a tumultuous few years with her best-friend-turned-girlfriend. Now, their acrimonious breakup has led the ex to threaten suicide. Ramani and Silvia address how (and if!) you can help someone who is in pain, but is trying to drag you down with them. *** PLEASE NOTE: If you or someone you know has been contemplating suicide, please seek help. There is a better way. If you are in the United States, there are trained professionals with whom you can talk 24/7 at the National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) – and you can find a quality therapist in your area at www.samhsa.gov. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

A professor critiques Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige for ignoring lesbian perspectives. Another listener pontificates on the taboo of male anal penetration. We encourage all listeners to write us with topics or concerns we may be overlooking! Our first e-mail causes us to reflect on the amount of attention we pay to queer relationships. The writer brings up terrific points about shame, romance, online dating and the many non-penetrative options for pleasing a woman. Then, a listener's e-mail revisits the hot topic of male anal play. She wonders if psychological power dynamics may lead to avoidance. Ramani is skeptical, but Producer Bill chimes in with a personal perspective. Finally, Silvia offers professional tips for anal sex prep! *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

“The love is there, the sex is not.” Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige tackle hypoactive sex drive and sexual anxiety. Plus: Tips for not getting walked all over! Dr Ramani reports close to 100% of couples she’s counseled have at least one partner unsatisfied with their sex life. She outlines the bevy of factors that contribute to this disharmony. Silvia has firsthand experience both withholding sex in a relationship and wanting it when it’s not there. She also has tips from a professional on how to defuse some of the awkwardness of any sexual encounter (even when it’s two experienced sex workers!). Then, a hot topic among listeners has been frustration over being “door matted.” Ramani and Silvia have some common sense advice about how to be heard, be respected, and be “the bouncer to your own velvet rope.” *** A NOTE ABOUT SCHEDULE: Dr Ramani has been hard at work finishing her fourth book, due out later this year. Thank you for your patience as the podcast's schedule fluctuates to accommodate this work. The best way to help us stay on track is to tell your friends to subscribe – the more subscribers , the closer we come to lining up sponsors that will allow us to do this show for a living. Thanks for your enthusiasm and your support! *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige devote a full episode to the most jaw-dropping e-mail they've received to date. A brave and intelligent listener has taken all the right steps, but is still dealing with the fallout of a psychopathic partner. Her story allows Dr Ramani to explore one of our more popular topics – the difference between narcissism and psychopathy. This listener was widowed in her twenties, when she met the man who would go on to trick her into parenthood, burn down their house, steal their daughter, and get her listed on the FBI terrorism watch list. Silvia and Producer Bill can barely believe the details, while Ramani wrestles with how uncomfortably common this kind of story is. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia kick off 2019 with questions about sexual identity, pursuit of “the one that got away,” and how to set boundaries while “volume dating.” But first: The psychology behind R. Kelly. Dr Ramani counsels a listener with dueling desires for straight sex and gay romance. We break down the 3 Aspects of Sexual Orientation. Silvia discusses her experience – she identifies as straight, but with caveats. How does she deal with that, both personally and publicly? Then, a bisexual listener is overcome with fantasies of seducing “the man who got away” from his youth. But his e-mail brings up the specter of Rumination, an aspect of many mental illnesses. Finally, a listener with open-ended questions about setting boundaries while dating leads the team to ponder hookup culture, "The Bachelor" and online courtship. *** ATTENTION NEW YORKERS: ATTEND A LIVE Q & A SEMINAR WITH DR RAMANI! "Surviving Narcissism" on Sunday, January 27, 11:30am in the East Village. CLICK HERE for details and tickets, or visit www.doctor-ramani.com. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige close out 2018 with answers to questions about how to stop BEING a narcissist and what to do when cheating might not be cheating. The team catches up on holiday plans – and dives into a secret December ritual that only members of the entertainment industry enjoy! Then, a listener struggles with the sobering realization that she might be a narcissist. What work lies ahead to make her life better? Is it possible to overcome these negative patterns? Another listener writes in with fears of being doxxed by her cyber-stalker. Ramani and Silvia both share personal stories about encounters with stalkers and bullies. Finally, a man frustrated by accusations that he's cheating leads to a frank conversation about where "emotional infidelity" begins and ends. And it's probably not what you think. Happy New Year to our wonderful listeners! Join us in 2019 for even more strategies to live your healthiest, happiest, sexiest life! -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige answer listener questions about empathy vs. sympathy, dealing with a groom's toxic mom, and the questionable power of Tony Robbins. *** ATTEND A LIVE Q & A SEMINAR WITH DR RAMANI: "Narcissism, Toxic People and The Holidays"! Sunday, December 16, in Santa Monica, CA. CLICK HERE for details and tickets, or visit www.doctor-ramani.com. *** Narcissism is all about a lack of empathy, but even Silvia is not sure what that exactly means. Dr Ramani lays it out, alongside the important difference between 'reacting' and 'responding.' Then, the ladies offer strategies for managing a narcissistic mother who's threatening to spoil a wedding! Plus, a deep dive into the power of positive thinking, and why some people should be wary. Finally, an open-ended question leads to a discussion of "sexual competition" among modern women. -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Silvia Saige is joined by her best friend Wesley Woods, the 2x Gay Porn Star of the Year, to answer e-mails about closets, murder and catfishing. Dr Ramani is out this week due to an over-stuffed schedule, but Wesley is one of our favorite returning guests! A gay listener reports narcissistic behavior in his female friend's closeted husband. But the listener has also lived with them for ten years, which raises questions about the nature of this unique relationship. Then, another listener is horrified by a news story of a college student shot and killed by a boyfriend who was not who he claimed to be. Silvia, Wesley and Producer Bill offer some perhaps counter-intuitive advice for staying safe in the modern dating world. Finally: Silvia shares the story of the time she was catfished! -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Producer Bill tackle one of our toughest (and most common) listener questions: What comes AFTER a trainwreck relationship? We start with an e-mail from a listener who's one year separated from a narcissistic husband. Dr Ramani calls it as eloquent an explanation as she's ever heard of how narcissists break you down. Then, Ramani explores all sides of "the aftermath" – regaining your independence, reconciling with family and friends, making new connections, and ultimately getting back into the dating world. Finally, a listener whose parents let her down when she was sexually abused is trying, 13 years later, to reconcile her need to forgive with the hurt and anger she still feels. Dr Ramani thinks forgiveness may be overrated. -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige list 'best practices' for a listener whose relationship is turning long-distance. Another e-mailer wonders why girls don't discuss porn. Ramani and Producer Bill recap their first live event, a town-hall-style Q & A on narcissism that proved rewarding and challenging. Then, talk of long-distance love touches on the obstacle of being in a relationship that "doesn't look like your friends' relationships." Plus, why does proximity play a role in monogamy? Finally, talk of women watching porn evolves into a 'state of the union' on sex ed in America, and you may not believe what some college students do not know. -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige counsel a listener whose father wants a young foreign bride, and another who's considering life with a self-acknowledged narcissist. *** ATTEND A LIVE Q & A SEMINAR WITH DR RAMANI: "SURVIVING NARCISSISM"! Friday, October 27, at Buckman Studio in Burbank, CA. CLICK HERE for details and tickets, or visit www.doctor-ramani.com. *** Also this episode: A listener struggles with an abusive mother who turned her brother against her. Dr Ramani explains how the only way to extinguish a dysfunctional fire is to starve it of oxygen. Silvia wonders about deeper-seated issues behind the father pursuing mail-order brides. That listener also raises the question of managing relationships with a person on the autism spectrum. Let us know how YOU have dealt with a narcissist in the family, or romance with an autistic partner. Your story can help others. How have you coped or adjusted? Write us, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani is out of town, so Silvia and Producer Bill catch up on past questioners, and respond to new e-mails on teen sex symbols and male sexual shame. Silvia talks about the surprises and not-so-surprises she's encountered on this show. Her explanation for why she feels she and Dr Ramani are a good fit may surprise YOU. Then, a listener has concerns about "teen idols" like Justin Bieber and Shawn Mendes, leading Silvia and Bill to parse out the difference between media messaging, how those messages are received, and how to prepare kids to receive them. Finally, a listener has a stirring endorsement for straight male strap-on play, and one of our favorite former questioners checks in with an update about her progress in leaving a controlling, narcissistic boyfriend. -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige explore the sexual politics behind the meaning of "boys being boys." What are the implications of that viewpoint? Ramani looks at the inherent power imbalances of sex, and how they don't excuse unwanted advances. Silvia chafes at normalizing boys' aggressive behavior, because that means victimizing girls is also "normal." An expert on childhood abuse (and a former graduate student of Dr Ramani's) reveals the three factors that lead sexual abusers to perpetrate in the first place. Then, a listener asks tough questions about whether child abusers both underage and adults – can be rehabilitated. Our expert weighs in, and Ramani explains how intra-family abuse can create "a vast storehouse of lies." An episode full of tough but important topics. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige look at the factors behind our varying sexual appetites. A comprehensive new study reveals that a pharmaceutical cure for "female impotence" does not exist. Dr Ramani explains the results. She and Silvia offer solutions for building a healthy sex drive, which leads to discussions of "sexual peak," sex toys, shame, and the differences between male and female arousal. A listener finds herself in a relationship where the difference in their sex drives sabotages her happiness. Ramani and Silvia wonder: Is she uninterested in all sexual activity, sex with any partner, or sex with her specific partner? Then, a virgin male listener struggles with his low desire for sex vs. his intense desire to masturbate to porn, raising again the spectre of dehumanized sex and incels. Hear Silvia talk about what it means to be a sexual commodity in an over-sexed age. IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING with what you feel is a low sex drive, ALWAYS consult your physician first. They can refer you to appropriate specialists, be they therapists or internists, and will screen out more serious physical conditions that might be affecting your libido. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige advise listeners in opposite scenarios - one desperate to leave, one hoping to stay. So how are their situations almost identical? The first listener lost his first real relationship to his partner’s grief and alcoholism. He wants to know how their love can survive the recovery process. Silvia points out some red flags he may be ignoring, and Ramani unpacks the complicated dynamic between alcoholism, grief, and deeper dysfunction. Then, a listener who has stayed with a borderline abusive partner for financial support analyzes her own situation beautifully. Ramani and Silvia talk about how to build the strength, resources and plan to actually leave, even when family and friends may not be there for you. It’s a look at narcissistic partners from both sides of the equation - wanting to stay and wanting to go. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige are off this week, but new listeners might appreciate this look back on their first episode together. THIS EPISODE WAS RELEASED ALMOST EXACTLY A YEAR AGO, ON SEPTEMBER 5, 2017. Learn more about Silvia and hear the ladies' on-air chemistry spark for the first time. If you're new to the podcast, Sexual Disorientation was originally conceived to have rotating guests sit with Dr Ramani on an episode-by-episode basis. But we liked comedian/adult film star Silvia Saige so much, we asked her to stay! We know you'll agree it's proved to be an exceptional decision. We encourage all listeners to write us, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with questions, comments and opinions at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

A listener has spent 7 years trying to get over a breakup. Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige talk loneliness – Is it normal? Harmful? How do you break the cycle? Let us know how YOU have dealt with heartbreak or loneliness. Your story can help others. What held you back? What thoughts or actions helped you move forward, if any? Write us, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com  Dr Ramani defines the boundary between grieving a relationship's end and experiencing dangerous depression. She explores what depression actually is, and how it's treated, especially for those who think therapy can't help. Silvia and Producer Bill share their own anecdotes about finding the right therapist. Finally, Ramani explains how the fear of being alone can insidiously erode your health and well-being. But rejecting companionship is no solution either... -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige answer your questions about men's shifting place in society – like whether or not to think of them as poop-flinging primates. Alpha male dominance is seen across many mammal species. One listener questions how men (and women!) can ignore these deep seated instincts. Ramani and Silvia incisively break down why nature provides zero justification for alpha behavior – in fact, nature may actively demonstrate its failings, as Dr. Robert Sapolsky discovered. But first, a listener struggles with her expectations for quality communication from her partner, and another woman wonders whether her lover's social media obsession means he's a narcissist. A perfect podcast for the "old-fashioned alpha male" in your life – even if that's you. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige respond to listener feedback from our 'Childhood Abuse' show (ep. 29), which turns into a deep dive on narcissism. First, though, Frasier's crotch ink is in the news, and Ramani and Silvia can't find a POV from which it looks good – literally or metaphorically. Then, listeners posit a link between childhood trauma and adult narcissism. Can they be co-incident? And if so, is there a middle ground between compassion and protecting yourself? One letter raises the complicated spectre of "communal narcissism," which insulates abusive homes from public scrutiny. Finally, a listener wants to know how the children of narcissists can best avoid relationships with narcissists. Ramani drops a bomb: "What you call 'boredom' may just be 'health'." -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Chrissy Teigen inspires Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige to praise a bit of jealousy. But they CAN’T abide the guilt women suffer for not having kids. Silvia admits she’s quick to be jealous! Ramani explains how jealousy is unavoidable, but negative reactions to it need not be. Silvia shares the hard-won wisdom that there are never 3 positive reactions in a threesome. Then, Dr Ramani wants to talk about Jennifer Aniston. Specifically the recurring scrutiny Jen faces for not "settling down" and having kids. Ramani makes some personal confessions about the hardships of motherhood. Silvia frames the debate as Jennifer Aniston vs. Oprah. Two successful, independent, famous women: Why is one scrutinized for never having kids, while the other is not? There's a ton to unpack here. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Silvia shares a very personal story. Dr Ramani helps unpack it, and looks at how survivors, their loved ones, and even perpetrators can best process childhood trauma. -- NOTE TO LISTENERS: No matter the severity or the statute of limitations, if you believe a minor has been assaulted, please contact your local DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL SERVICES. Google "Social Services," "DCFS" or "Department Child and Family Services," or get in touch with a local doctor, teacher or police officer, all of whom are legally required to file such a report. -- Tragic circumstances forced Silvia to reveal a childhood secret to her mother, and neither is sure how to handle it. Ramani talks about the complicated guilt parents feel when a child suffers, and also whether the survivor is obligated to speak up. Dr Ramani and Silvia give wide-ranging advice about the importance of sharing traumatic experiences, what parents can do to make kids feel safe in a worst-case scenario, and how parents can watch for warning signs that their child is being abused OR is becoming an ABUSER. It's a heavy topic but well worth your time. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige explore "the chase," and the growing narrative that men wooing women are damned if they do and damned if they don't. -- HAVE YOU EVER HAD AN EXPERIENCE WITH A SUITOR WHO WOULD NOT GIVE UP? Someone who felt wronged when you turned them down? Someone who pushed "the chase" too far? Or maybe it turned out they were actually "the one"? We want to discuss your story. Write us, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- In a wide-ranging discussion, Ramani finds parallels between the "alpha" men at the top of society and the self-professed "beta" men on the bottom. Might they be on the same side of a spectrum? If so, what's on the other side? Silvia has first-hand experience with how incels attack, and how "giving someone a shot" because you're trying to be nice can backfire. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian.   Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige discuss the recent boom in celebrity shotgun engagements. Then, they unpack the public reaction to a Bachelorette contestant's "virginity outing." Ramani finds hope in the way fans are processing these sprints to the altar. She highlights the inherent gap between a celebrity marriage and a normal marriage. Silvia talks about the small town culture of using engagement to "claim" a person, which reflects backward ideas about marriage that persist across cultures. Then, should "what's wrong with this guy?" really be the question when an attractive, well-balanced man in his mid-20s is revealed as a virgin? -- If virginity has you vexed, or you're dying to hear funny stories that remind you of your own awkward first time, check out the Bail Bonds Media podcast V-CARDED. Hosted by the lovely Erin Darling, every episode is a hilarious deep dive interview about when, why and how the guest "swiped their V-Card." — Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write us with your questions: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Silvia Saige will soon be the first woman featured on Men.com, a gay male porn site. She and Dr. Ramani brace for a backlash. Then, they offer do's and don'ts for summer romance! Silvia explains how bi scenes with gay performers are still taboo in the porn business, raising bigger questions about the line between "sexual identity" and "who you have sex with." They consider the political undertones of straight sexuality encroaching on a safe space for gay men, even as Dr. Ramani struggles with the de-legitimization of bisexual identity across all of culture. Then, Ramani explains why summer is traditionally the "dry season" for relationship therapists, but that doesn't mean everyone avoids relationship drama. We break down how to have a successful fling — Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write us with your questions: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani just joined Megyn Kelly to talk about cheating on the Today Show. This is the much more in-depth guide, with co-host and adult film star Silvia Saige. Silvia opens up about dating in the porn industry. Dr Ramani dives into who's better at cheating: Men or women? They look at the thin line between polyamory and infidelity, and try to get at the heart of what leads someone to stray. Is it ever justified or healthy? Plus, they examine the new frontiers of infidelity: Dr Ramani has seen cheating skyrocket among people over 55, while Silvia has been starring in interactive VR porn that's getting closer and closer to mimicking the real thing. Wild stuff. — Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Write us with your questions: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani gave an interview to Harper's Bazaar about MILFs, which is Silvia Saige's porn niche! Together, they look at the origin, social pressure and psychology of The Hot Mom. Dr Ramani just started noticing how much the mom community at her daughter's private school resembles "some post-modern suburban sex fantasy." Silvia reveals the strange definitions and even darker storylines behind MILF porn. They break down the dangers of looking at both womanhood and parenthood as a job, a competition, or a brand. Then, we debut a new segment: WHAT HAPPENS NEXT, looking at the REAL ever-after behind fairytale romances. First up: PRETTY WOMAN.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige look at the root psychology of Prom Season, to parse out how teens and parents can embrace the ritual without cracking under societal pressure. Silvia marvels at how quickly the landscape of prom-posals, over priced dresses, and Instagram-worthy celebration has exploded over the past 20 years. Dr Ramani finds parallels between the traditions of prom and Indian arranged marriages. And we revisit a time in the recent past when forced marriage was all the rage on TV. It's all a symptom of the Fairy Tale Relationship Mentality, where you let the tail wag the dog. Listen to find out what that means. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige dismantle the dream of fairy tale love! Not because it doesn't exist, but because those who look for it get the WORST possible outcomes. We explain why. Part of our ongoing look at HOW TO PICK A PARTNER. We break down the dream of "fairy tale romance" from all angles – the excuses it causes us to make for our partners and ourselves, the ways it creates damaging codependencies, and the unhelpful judgments it convinces us to make about potential lovers. Plus, where does this dream come from, and what can we do to change it? If you enjoyed our GAY 101 episode, please write in to let us know what other "Intro Courses" you want! Blowjobs, narcissism, polyamory, periods, tantra – no topic is too taboo, too basic or too complicated for Sexual Disorientation. Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige welcome "guest professors": 2-time Gay Porn Performer of the Year, Wesley Woods, and the co-hosts of Gay vs Straight Bitches, Rachel Paulson and Lindsey McKeon! This episode is everything you ever wanted to know about homosexuality but were afraid to ask. Whether you're woke AF or a traditionalist evangelical, we have answers to your questions, like: "How do lesbians 'have sex'?" "Are gay men always either a 'top' or a 'bottom'?" "What does 'heteronormative' mean?" "Do gay relationships always have a masculine partner and a feminine partner?" "What about the view that homosexuality is 'unnatural'?" "Does sexuality affect your view on monogamy?" "Can gay people have non-sexual friendships with the same sex?" "What 'makes" someone gay? Can you be gay without having gay sex, or can you be straight while having gay sex?" "Do straight people watch gay porn?" And tons more! Because the only step to understanding is open and honest communication. Write us with ALWAYS-anonymous suggestions for future 101 segments: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Listen to this week's Gay vs Straight Bitches - Episode 21 to hear Dr Ramani, Silvia and Wesley join the Bitches for the even raunchier side of this conversation! Two great tastes that taste great together! Follow @gayvstraightbitchespodcast, @rupaulson, @mylindseymckeon and @thewesleywoods on Instagram to keep up with our guests! -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Together, they know pretty much everything there is to know about sex, love and relationships. Please send us your always-anonymous questions at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani recaps SxSW, where a capacity crowd piled in to hear her talk about narcissism. Speaking of, Ramani and co-host Silvia Saige dissect Donald Trump, Stormy Daniels, and the public's response. This scandal is the perfect prism to examine how specific men and society at large turn women into objects. Ramani worries the national conversation may exacerbate the problem, not solve it. They both acknowledge and try to unpack the complicated morality and values issues tied up in Trump/Stormy, regardless of political bent. And there's an even more frustrating talk to be had about the place and purpose of porn. Plus, Ramani explains the concept of Love Bombing as she cracks into her Narcissist Handbook. Finally, a listener suggestion leads Dr Ramani and Silvia to announce Sexual Disorientation's new occasional series: DISORIENTATION 101. Answering all the most callous, offensive questions about taboo and simple topics alike. First up: HOMOSEXUALITY 101. Stay tuned! -- JOIN DR RAMANI FOR AN INTIMATE LIVE Q & A ON NARCISSISM: April 13 at 7pm in Los Angeles, at 1454 25th Street, Floor 1, Suite A, Santa Monica, CA 90404. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Together, they know pretty much everything there is to know about sex, love and relationships. Please send us your always-anonymous questions at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

This special Friday release is a sneak peek at Dr Ramani's South By Southwest lecture: Staying Sane and Healthy In A Narcissistic World. Catch her LIVE at SXSW Saturday and Sunday, March 10 and 11! Ramani and Silvia tackle DATING APPS. Can we really make love efficient? Dr Ramani explains why #SLOWlove might be the greatest love of all. Silvia defends dating app users, and even Ramani must admit that some people get it. The ladies break down how to date online in a healthy way, arriving at the concept of "Love As An Antidote." Listen and hopefully change your perspective. -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Together, they know pretty much everything there is to know about sex, love and relationships. Please send us your always-anonymous questions at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com -- Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige explore the "sexual doldrums" between Valentine's Day and summer. Then, they answer listener questions about dating transgender partners and lesbians getting pregnant. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Send always-anonymous questions and comments to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com  This episode: Ramani thinks the age of "personal branding" makes it easy to get lost in an "existential fog of selfies." Silvia knows firsthand how to draw a line between the public you and the private you. Ramani insists the world NEEDS her and Silvia to teach a class called "How To Watch Porn." Then, a listener wonders if attraction to transgenders means something about their own sexuality. Another listener asks if it's ill-advised for a lesbian to conceive a child "the old-fashioned way" with a willing man. -- SEE DR RAMANI AT SOUTH X SOUTHWEST 2018! Austin's annual music and arts fest welcomes Dr Ramani March 10 and 11. Click here for her full schedule, including a book signing and an extended lecture called Staying Sane And Healthy In A Narcissistic World. Tune into Sexual Disorientation next week for a preview of the lecture! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige discover a common thread between Valentine's Day pressure, the Aziz Ansari scandal and terrible parenting: A lack of transparency. But can making your intentions clear go too far? Silvia laughs at what a 100% transparent date might look like, but Dr Ramani doesn't think the alternative is much better. Is it better to be a transparently selfish asshole upfront, or to try to mold your partner over time? Is there a third way? We all have "cereal commercial" notions of what a great family looks and feels like, but do the notions say anything about what you really want? Ramani says to get specific with yourself! If your specifics defy social trends, or your partner's specifics, what then? Dr Ramani and Silvia have the answer. A challenge for our listeners: What happened on your last Valentine's Day? And what does your answer say about you? Listen to find out! Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com  Read more at http://sexualdisorientation.com/#C1x5aY2GZCvqb2AI.99 Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr Ramani is back! And she's just in time to prepare our listeners for the minefield of Valentine's Day. As far as she's concerned, it's the worst day of the year for love. Hear tons of helpful advice for ducking the FOMO, dealing with pressure and expectations, and how to read the signals to have a happy, healthy Valentine's Day – whether you're in a relationship or flying solo! Help us start a V-Day movement! Like Dr. Ramani says in the episode, go out to your local drugstore, buy the cheapest packet of elementary school Valentines you can find, and send them out to anyone who could use the love. Use the hashtag #DrugstoreValentine, and remember: Keep it simple, keep it cheap, keep it AUTHENTIC. Co-host Silvia Sage returns next week to talk New Year's growth, Aziz Ansari, and sex in 2018! Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com  Read more at http://sexualdisorientation.com/#C1x5aY2GZCvqb2AI.99 Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige discuss the four month holiday period, from Thanksgiving until Valentine’s Day, that can be hell for both people in relationships and singles.  Silvia recounts the time she was back at her dad’s house for Christmas as a single woman, and her vibrator went off in her luggage as she was bringing it in. Another trip back home lead to her hearing her father and his girlfriend having loud sex.  Dr. Ramani weighs in on people trying to live up to expectations, and how that gets magnified during the holidays, which in turn creates tension for partners. Expectation is the relationship killer.   To remedy all of this sadness they decide to come up with the 12 Days of Sex for the Holidays, in hopes of bringing back the joy, love, fun, and lots of sex as the ultimate gift for you and your partner.  Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com  Read more at http://sexualdisorientation.com/#C1x5aY2GZCvqb2AI.99

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige discuss Louis CK and his exhibitionist masturbation issue. They dig deeper into using power for sex of any type and if there's a way to solve this problem. Dr. Ramani brings up the sexual spectrum in America, ranging from Calvanistic to outrageously deviant, and why we're at extremes. Silvia laments the fact that we don't teach our kids about sex in a healthy way. They ask the questions-- Did these abusive men in the news not get the girl when they were younger? Why is masturbation considered shameful? Does porn give people permission to do what they see in it? Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com 

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige sound off on Kevin Spacey and wonder how many men are scared that they're next. They discuss whether anyone will change or just curtail behavior over fear of getting caught. And can teaching our children better values and behavior make the world better in the long run? Then they dissect an article suggesting that cheating is good for relationships and break down monogamy, honesty, and if you should admit cheating to your significant other. Exploring pair mating vs open relationships and ultimately deciding that what matters most for humans is our capability to love.  Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com 

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige continue discussing the Harvey Weinstein controversy with the #MeToo hashtag. They explore why it's so hard for women to come forward when they've been harassed or assaulted and how there's a lot of shame in being a whistleblower. Also, how there's always the potential for quiet blowback even though you've done the right thing.  Plus, Woody Allen's idiot comments, Mayim Bailik pissing people off online, and how harassment even exists in porn.  Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com 

Dr. Ramani is joined once again by comedian and pornstar Siliva Saige. They discuss the topic on everyone's minds right now, the Harvey Weinstein scandal. From Harvey, to Bill Cosby, to Anthony Weiner, they go hard on narcissistic predators and the people that enable them. Plus, they both take issue with so called "sex addiction" and people that use it as an excuse for harassment and cheating. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com 

Dr. Ramani welcomes back guest host, pornstar & comedian Silvia Saige. They talk about the Anthony Weiner conviction which leads them down the road of how tech interacts with sex. From filtering what you do sexually online to how passionate love is unsustainable. Plus, Silvia opens up about having ongoing "relationships" with fans that go to far and how porn starts to feel real to people.  Plus, the question everyone wants answered--is it better to engage online or pick up a hooker on the corner? Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com 

Dr. Ramani Durvasula and guest host Sasha Knox talk to Mare Simone, a sex surrogate and tantric sex educator.  Mare provides sex coaching for individuals and couples. She is offering a comp consultation to our listeners. Visit MareSimone.com for more info.  The group discusses sex issues including shame and guilt. Mutual masturbation vs. engaged sex. How does sex surrogacy compare to prostitution? Is tantra better than just banging it out? And much much more.  Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com 

Dr. Ramani welcomes porn actress and comedian Silvia Saige who went from a corporate job, to standup comedy, then added porn to her resume. She went through a tumultuous time in her life then turned to comedy to start on a new path. After a legal situation left her needing money, she started doing porn and hasn't looked back since. Silvia and Ramani talk about porn's objectification of women, dating when you're in the adult film business, making it in standup comedy, and much more. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com 

Dr. Ramani is joined by psychic Chris Medina who teaches her "Gay 101". In a candid and humorous way he explains, from his perspective, tops and bottoms, sex with straight men, sex with women, ass play, and why he will never go down on a woman---again! If you ever wanted to know the intimate details of gay sex then this is your episode.  Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE and listen through Apple Podcasts or any podcast app! LIKE us on Facebook HERE.  And send us any questions anonymously to sexualdisorientation@gmail.com if you want it answered on the show!