Podcasts about sensate focus

What actually goes on when you attend a session with a sex therapist and what are some of the tools they use to try and help singles and couples to overcome their challenges around sex. After a hundred or more episodes, in which I suspect I have overlooked many of the practical aspects of sex therapy, I decided to use my conversation with Dr. Denise Renye to get into the nitty gritty of her profession.We begin by addressing the natural nervousness many of her clients feel when stepping into therapy for the first time. Dr. Renye reassures us that this is completely normal and shares practical tools to help ease into the process, creating an environment where they can feel safe and understood. She then introduced me to the "Wheel of Consent," a powerful tool that clarifies how we can navigate our desires and boundaries. We also talked about the practice of sensate focus, a method that encourages couples to reconnect with their partner by focusing on touch and sensation rather than performance. This approach invites them to shift their attention toward presence and shared experiences, helping to reignite the spark in their intimate lives. She reminds us that intimacy isn't about perfection—it's about being present with one another.We also explored the importance of setting boundaries, a vital part of building trust and safety in any relationship. Dr. Renye guided me through ways we can establish and respect boundaries, helping us create relationships that feel secure and fulfilling. For those of us who may struggle with performance anxiety, she introduces the "4D Wheel," a tool designed to help us reframe our anxieties and approach intimacy with curiosity and compassion.I hope you find these tools useful and would encourage you to find out more about them. You can find Dr. Denise Renye here.00:00 Understanding Sex Therapy02:47 Navigating Nervousness in Therapy06:08 The Wheel of Consent Explained08:55 Comparing Consent Tools11:46 Sensate Focus and Its Benefits14:52 Re-engaging with Intimacy18:07 Exploring Boundaries in Intimacy20:59 The 4D Wheel and Performance Anxiety24:00 Resources for Sexual Health27:07 Closing Thoughts on IntimacyDr. Denise Renye has specialised training and has worked directly with people in the areas of sexuality, relationships, states of consciousness, psychedelic integration and intimacy. She holds several degrees and accreditations. You can find out more about her here.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Welcome back to Please Me!, the podcast bringing you bold conversations and Big Clit Energy! In this episode, Eve sits down with the brilliant Dr. Jenn Kennedy to have the kind of honest, grown-up sex ed talk we all should've gotten. From masturbation and the importance of solo exploration to redefining intimacy and tackling the orgasm gap, nothing is off-limits. They break down the connection between sensuality and sexuality, how to build trust through vulnerability, and why communication is the ultimate aphrodisiac. You'll also learn how self-pleasure can actually enhance your partnered experiences—and why curiosity, not shame, should be your starting point. Whether you're single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this is your permission slip to turn yourself on, speak up, and pursue deeper connection—mind, body, and bedroom.  What We Cover: Why masturbation is a powerful tool for self-awareness and pleasure The difference between sensuality and sexuality—and why it matters How to build confidence around expressing your desires Using toys as conversation starters, not replacements Practical tools like Sensate Focus to reignite connection The role of aftercare and “pillow talk” in strengthening intimacy Aging, sex, and adapting your desires as bodies change Dismantling shame and embracing curiosity in the bedroom  Resources & Links: Connect with Eve Hall, Host of Please Me! Website: pleaseme.online I'd love to hear from you! Help me choose a question for my Please Me! Friday Series of episodes, where I answer listener-submitted questions. Send your questions and let me know what topics you'd like me to explore next! Vote for Eve Hall as Best Educator at the ASN Awards: If you're enjoying the show and feel it's been helpful, I'd be honored if you could take a moment to vote for me as Best Educator in this year's ASN Awards. Your support means so much to me! Vote here: ASN Awards Voting Bare Business and Beauty: A Wellness Retreat for Women: I'm excited to announce my new one-day event, Bare Business and Beauty: A Wellness Retreat for Women! Join me for a transformative day of self-care, empowerment, and growth. Get all the details here: Events - Please Me!  Dr. Jenn Kennedy's Website: pleasureproject.us  Therapy Practice: rivieratherapy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Empowering Healing: Trauma, Therapy, and Sexual Assault with Laurel Roberts MeeseIn this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' the host welcomes Laurel Roberts Meese, a licensed therapist with extensive experience in trauma and sexual assault. Laurel discusses the fundamental understandings of sexual assault, emphasizing that it is about power rather than sex. They explore the normal reactions to traumatic experiences, the importance of setting and reinforcing boundaries, and the role of tools such as EMDR and sensate focus in healing. Alongside practical advice for partners of survivors, Laurel highlights the significance of radical self-compassion in the healing process. Listeners are provided with resources and insights to navigate the complex journey of trauma recovery.00:00 Introduction to the Episode00:10 Meet Laurel Roberts Meese01:18 The Importance of Credentials and Fun03:01 Understanding Sexual Assault05:39 Defining Sexual Assault08:56 The Emotional Impact of Assault14:17 Trauma and the Body18:23 Supporting a Partner Through Healing25:42 Addressing Male Sexual Assault26:51 Victim Mindset and Healing27:42 Journey from Victim to Survivor28:20 Empowerment Through Boundaries36:06 The Importance of Self-Compassion39:58 Sensate Focus for Intimacy42:20 Connecting with Laurel Therapy43:54 Final Thoughts on HealingLaurel Robert Meese's INFO:Laurel's website: https://www.laureltherapy.net/ Trauma informed Yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtrxXhwgHkw WORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ LET'S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather's Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather's YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here's a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Healing Sexual Trauma Together: https://youtu.be/Wvou3bRRbq4?si=dEOPsA7vpFjp8Wgl Navigating Sexual Relationships Post Trauma with Jackie Tempera https://youtu.be/yWLrgzBS2mo?si=WU-NAkqihy-wqv46 RATE & REVIEW...

Building Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Lesbian Relationships In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of lesbian relationships and explore what it takes to build and sustain emotional and sexual intimacy. While many lesbian couples excel in creating strong emotional bonds, maintaining passion and physical connection can sometimes be a challenge. Whether it's due to life stress, past trauma, or mismatched libidos, these issues are more common than you think—and we're here to help! Join [Your Name] as we discuss practical strategies to nurture both emotional and sexual connection in your relationship. From tools like Sensate Focus to reigniting passion and the importance of self-exploration, this episode is packed with actionable advice and empowering insights for couples at every stage.

I believe that inside every human being is a need to feel closer and connected with both ourselves and the ones we love. But often there are physical, emotional, and cultural obstacles that get in the way of these meaningful connections. Today, Dr. Sadaf is going to help us explore the beautiful topic of intimacy and how we can meet ourselves and our partners in that space of fulfilling heart-to-heart connection. This week, episode 19 of Pleasure in the Pause is about prioritizing pleasure and cultivating intimate connections! In this episode of Pleasure in the Pause, Dr. Sadaf shares the importance of addressing psychological and emotional factors in the context of our sexuality and actionable steps you can take right now to reconnect with your partner without the pressure of sex. Highlights from our discussion include:Using a combination of physical and psychological treatments to improve the sexual experience.Growing up in a sex-negative environment and overcoming shame.Creating dedicated time for communicating with your partner and improving sexual satisfaction.How the practice of Sensate Focus can increase intimacy and pleasure without the performance anxiety.To check out Dr. Sadaf's podcast “The Muslim Sex Podcast”, head over to her website!Dr Sadaf is a board-certified gynecologist, sexual medicine and menopausal health expert with over 20 years experience. She is also an intimacy coach and supports women to explore their beliefs about their sexuality, empowering them to create the sexual intimacy they want in their relationship.Are you ready to awaken your sensuality and feel more empowered in your body? Access the FREE Pleasure Upgrade Bundle at https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/gift.If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.Dr. Sadaf is a board-certified OBGYN, life coach, and sexual counselor in New York, with over 20 years of experience in helping women and adolescent girls with their physical and emotional health issues. She is more than just an expert on female anatomy–she has an understanding of the mind's impact on the body and how it affects a woman's well-being and sense of self.CONNECT WITH DR. SADAF:InstagramYouTubeThe Muslim Sex PodcastWebsiteCONNECT WITH GABRIELLA ESPINOSA:InstagramLinkedInWork with Gabriella! 

On this episode, Dr. Sadaf continues her dive into how to revitalize our relationships. This edition of the series focuses on the importance of effective communication, vulnerability, and respect in fostering intimacy. Learn how establishing date nights to bridge the gap between partners with different libidos can be beneficial and discover the role of mindfulness in enhancing arousal and desire. Dr. Sadaf also delves into techniques like the Sensate Focus method to deepen connection with our partners.Disclaimer: Anything discussed on the show should not be taken as official medical advice. If you have any concerns about your health, please speak to your medical provider. If you have any questions about your religion, please ask your friendly neighborhood religious leader. It's the Muslim Sex Podcast because I just happen to be a Muslim woman who talks about sex.To learn more about Dr. Sadaf's practice and to become a patient visit DrSadaf.comLike and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can watch all episodes of the podcast!Feel free to leave a review on Apple Podcasts and share the show!Follow us on Social Media...Instagram: DrSadafobgynTikTok: DrSadafobgyn

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, we're excited to introduce you to Elizabeth Wood and Dan Powers, a couple dedicated to helping others overcome sexual pain, shame, and disconnection. With Elizabeth's focus on vulva and vaginal pain and Dan's expertise as a surrogate partner therapist, they bring a wealth of knowledge and experience to the conversation. YOU'LL LEARN: How to overcome religious trauma and sexual shame that block pleasureThe mind-body connection between pelvic floor pain, trauma, and negative anticipationUsing surrogate partner therapy to help clients navigate emotions and maintain healthy boundariesRewiring neural pathways through sensory experiences to enhance pleasure and heal painEPISODE LINKSWebsite | BeyondtheBedroomEvents.com Website | Pleasureengineer.com Website | BedEvents.com SxR #35 | Surrogate partner Therapy with Dan PowersBook | The Pleasure Prescription by Elizabeth Wood & Dee HartmanFree Gift | Dan's 5 Tips to Pleasuring a WomenFree Gift | Elizabeth & Dee's 5 Exercises to Decrease PainLAST 10x LONGER. If you suffer from premature ejaculation, you are not alone. Master 5 techniques to cure this stressful & embarrassing issue once and for all. For 20% off use code PODCAST20. Register here. THE MALE GSPOT & PROSTATE MASTERCLASS. This is for you if… You've heard of epic anal orgasms, & you wonder if it's possible for you too. Save 20% Coupon PODCAST20. Buy Here. THE VAGINAL ORGASM MASTERCLASS. Discover how to activate the female gspot, clitoris, & cervical orgasms. Save 20% Code: PODCAST 20 - Buy Here KING & QUEEN OF HEARTS. Leah & Willow's King & Queen of Hearts Intimacy Toolkit is on sale. Use Coupon Code KINGANDQUEEN10 for 10% off. Support the Show.SxR Hotline | SxR Website | YouTube | TikTok | Pinterest | Instagram | Dr. Willow's Website | Leah's Website

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks with Anne Mauro about sex therapy, erectile dysfunction, and sensate focus.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://teespring.com/stores/psychology-in-seattleCameo: https://www.cameo.com/kirkhondaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaJune 1, 2018The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

On this episode, Dr. Sadaf Lodhi welcomes the incredible Linda Weiner to discuss everything you need to know about sensate focus! As a sex therapist, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and the author of the book Sensate Focus for Sex Therapy, Linda shares her expertise to explain wat sensate focus is and how it can help treat a variety of sexual dysfunctions, including erectile dysfunction and vaginismus. This is an amazing conversation about a fantastic technique for improving sexual function with a true expert in the field that you cannot miss!Disclaimer: Anything discussed on the show should not be taken as official medical advice. If you have any concerns about your health, please speak to your medical provider. If you have any questions about your religion, please ask your friendly neighborhood religious leader. It's the Muslim Sex Podcast because I just happen to be a Muslim woman who talks about sex.To learn more about Dr. Sadaf's practice and to become a patient visit DrSadaf.comLike and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can watch all episodes of the podcast!Feel free to leave a review on Apple Podcasts and share the show!Follow us on Social Media...Instagram: DrSadafobgynTikTok: DrSadafobgyn

This is a bonus episode from the podcast Good Enough Nutrition by Nadia Maxwell. Good Enough Nutrition podcast is a podcast discussing nutrition, wellbeing, intuitive eating and body image with a sprinkle of all things periods and hormones.  In this episode, we chat about: What is a Sexologist Why Emily became a Sexologist Why you should get to know your genitals How body image plays a role in dating and intimacy Strategies for improving body image and intimacy Sensate Focus How you can get to know your body better FOLLOW US on Instagram @thatsorgasmicSend your comments, questions and stories to: emilyduncan@thatsorgasmic.com To book a session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology follow the link: https://www.emilyduncansexology.com/ Leave a review for the chance to receive a discounted session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology. Good Enough Nutrition Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0B3tQlNbtGGbM8aF7ahGcw?si=b3dcc744151c43cd  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this episode, Dr. Sadaf Lodhi continues our focus on sexual health this month, with a look at everything you need to know about intimacy coaching and sensate focus. Find out why intimacy coaching can be so beneficial for not only relationships, but also, understanding your own body. Dr. Sadaf explains how a basic understanding of the body and physiological responses during intimacy so so important, how you can learn and work with professionals who understand pleasure, and what exactly cognitive behavioral therapy and sensate focus are. This episode is chalk full of information that can serve as a guide to you understanding and rediscovering pleasure, which you have a right to! So, listen and enjoy! Disclaimer: Anything discussed on the show should not be taken as official medical advice. If you have any concerns about your health, please speak to your medical provider. If you have any questions about your religion, please ask your friendly neighborhood religious leader. It's the Muslim Sex Podcast because I just happen to be a Muslim woman who talks about sex.To learn more about Dr. Sadaf's practice and to become a patient visit DrSadaf.comLike and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can watch all episodes of the podcast!Feel free to leave a review on Apple Podcasts and share the show!Follow us on Social Media...Instagram: DrSadafobgynTikTok: DrSadafobgyn

I had the absolute pleasure of speaking to Emily Duncan. Emily is a Queer Sexologist based on Wadawurrung Country, Geelong. Emily has an online practice Emily Duncan Sexology supporting individuals and their partners to cultivate sexual wellness. Emily is also the host of the podcast That's Orgasmic, a podcast that aims to break down the shame and stigma attached to sex, sexuality and relationships.    In this episode, we chat about: What is a Sexologist Why Emily became a Sexologist Why you should get to know your genitals How body image plays a role in dating and intimacy Strategies for improving body image and intimacy Sensate Focus How you can get to know your body better   Enjoy!   Nadia xx   FIND EMILY: Website: https://www.emilyduncansexology.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatsorgasmic/   Podcast: That's Orgasmic https://open.spotify.com/show/7KO3hdjoPXkYAU3lI4XEkO RESOURCES MENTIONED: Curious Fox Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4VJXRDSdfiCNSWNwelosGx @comfortableinmyskin: https://www.instagram.com/comfortableinmyskin_/ @the.vulvagallery: https://www.instagram.com/the.vulva.gallery/ Sensate Focus: https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work   MY LINKS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nadiamaxwellnutrition/   Newsletter: https://exceptional-writer-1439.ck.page/20fa4967ab   Nourish For Endometriosis online course: https://nadiamaxwell.thinkific.com/courses/nourish-for-endometriosis   FREE CLASS: Let's Talk About Endometriosis & Body Image: https://nadiamaxwell.thinkific.com/courses/endometriosis-body-image --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nadia-maxwell/message

Welcome to another enlightening episode of "Let's Talk About Love, Sex, and Infidelity" with your host, Todd Creager. In today's episode, we're diving into a topic that's essential yet often overlooked in relationships: "Exploring Intimacy through Non-Sexual Touch." Join me as we unravel the layers of emotional connection and discover how non-sexual touch can profoundly impact your relationship.In this episode, you'll learn:The Importance of Non-Sexual Touch: Understand how non-sexual touch plays a crucial role in deepening emotional bonds and enhancing intimacy in your relationship.Reviving Your Connection: Discover practical techniques, including the Sensate Focus method, to rekindle closeness and affection with your partner, especially if you feel like the spark has dimmed.Breaking the Routine:  Learn how integrating simple acts of non-sexual touch into your daily life can transform your relationship dynamics and bring back the excitement and connection you once had.Enhancing Emotional Closeness:  Gain insights into the emotional needs within your relationship and how fulfilling these needs can lead to a more satisfying and passionate connection.Daily Practices for Lasting Intimacy:  I'll share easy, actionable tips for maintaining and growing intimacy in your relationship, ensuring a lasting and loving connection.In this episode, I delve into the significance of non-sexual touch and its transformative power in relationships. Whether you're in a long-term relationship looking to reignite that initial spark or seeking to deepen the bond you already cherish, this discussion is for you. It's not just about the physical aspect; it's about building a foundation of emotional closeness and understanding that can withstand the test of time.Why listen to this podcast episode?Tune in to this episode of "Let's Talk About Love, Sex, and Infidelity" to start your journey towards a more intimate and fulfilling relationship. Remember, the strongest connections are built on the foundations of simple, yet profound acts of love and understanding.TAKE ACTIONTodd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples both virtually and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com LINKS:Rekindle  those passionate, sexy feelings you both felt when you first met with Todd's Secrets to a Sexy Marriage guide:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secretsGet Todd's proven principles that will help you  make your marriage work and sustainable for the long haul with his guide:  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYMHaven't left a review yet? All you have to do is go to:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-love-sex-infidelity/id1492757242 and we appreciate your support of this show!

They are finding their way back to each other - gently, slowly, and tenderly. This episode is full of the tools they are using and the insight they have sought from outside sources. At minute 10:28 Trey shares how their joint Human Design reading with Andie Thueson provided wisdom they were craving! Click here to book your own: https://andiethueson.as.me/schedule.php Lauren explains how needed this reading was for her and they both share their biggest takeaways and how they are using them in this time of healing. Lauren talks about their Anniversary Dinner and how she felt hopeful for the first time. The new information they'd taken in gave them new things to discuss and it was healing. Trey shares how Lauren hadn't even felt safe to be naked in front of him and at minute 29:45 Lauren describes the Sensate Focus work they used to learn one another's bodies in new ways. This exercise allowed trust to be rebuilt patiently. At minute 32:00 Lauren gets firey as she explains how she remained an ally to herself throughout this hard time - NEVER granting access to body without feeling safe and secure. She expands on Sensate Focus and how Dr Betty Martin's tools gave her words to ask for what she needed, wanted, and desired. Trey describes their joint coaching session and the new routines they're implementing to allow them both to check-in daily. Lauren gets giddy as she talks about all they learned through archetypes! Trey describes the “Good Boy” he turns into and how it leads Lauren to feel like a princess in a tower. At minute 41:00 they discuss the tool they learned of “gathering our council.” And Trey challenges men to not be “such a grumpy mother f*cker” and embrace childhood wounds. Trey says this is work he GETS to do - not that he HAS to do. Trey expresses his gratitude for the blow-up and Lauren shares how the outside insight has given her hope. At minute 47:00 Lauren asks if this experience has pushed them forward and Trey answers that Lauren feels more sacred to him now. If you would like to learn more about healing and coming back to each other in partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It's all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support

Guess what? Even 'Curb Your Enthusiasm' missed the mark on Orthodox Jewish sex! I've got Shely Esses on the show today—a Sex Therapist from Toronto, Canada. With her expertise in Jewish healing, she's here to bust myths and shine a light on the cultural nuances surrounding intimacy within the Orthodox Jewish community. Let's shtup in!Show Notes[00:00:00] Shely explains Judaism's sex-positive perspective: Emphasis on marital context for sexual activity.[00:00:38] Jewish Myths Debunked: The "sheet with a hole" myth from Curb Your Enthusiasm and its origins linked to tzitzit - a traditional Jewish garment.[00:01:50] Orthodox Jewish Marital Practices: Emphasizes on sexual satisfaction in marital agreements, the importance of physical intimacy, and the varying levels of observance and practice.[00:03:26] Relationship with Local Orthodox Rabbis: Insights into personal connections, guidance, and the role of Yoetzet – female advisors.[00:03:54] Mikveh and its Significance: Explores the role of menstrual blood in religious purity, and emphasizes on self-care, rejuvenation, and marital intimacy.[00:07:21] Addressing Sexual Challenges: Approaches to tackle challenges like low desire and painful penetration, the importance of communication, techniques like dilator work, Sensate Focus, and the role of body image and sexual self-esteem.[00:10:49] Premarital Counseling in the Jewish Community: Combines religious teachings with modern sexual health approaches while emphasizing pleasure and intimacy.[00:12:33] Sexuality & Jewish Traditions: Highlights the significance of Shabbat in marital intimacy and the role of traditions in guiding sexual practices.[00:13:27] Birth Control & Hasidic Community: Navigates the balance between religious beliefs and personal choices, and highlights the importance of rabbinical guidance and personal well-being.[00:14:54] Addressing apprehensions around first-time intercourse.[00:15:19] Shely's resources and methods:Recommends website OMGYES.Describes orgasms with the metaphor of waves.Discusses the importance of understanding the nervous system.[00:15:51] Cultural insights: The significance of post-marriage intercourse in the Jewish tradition.[00:16:12] The long-term approach to intimacy: Insights on grounding oneself before intimacy, differentiating between calmness and boredom, and advocating for meditation before sex.[00:17:03] Michelle's input: Points out the resistance against integrating mindfulness and introduces Lori Brotto's workbook.[00:17:24] Shely on dealing with trauma: Introduces the ventral vagal anchor technique as well as planning sex.[00:17:48] Scheduled vs. spontaneous intimacy: Discusses the concept of Mikvah Night and addresses misconceptions about spontaneity in intimacy.[00:18:16] Embracing terminology with confidence: Encourages understanding and confidently using terms related to sexual health and anatomy.[00:18:49] Michelle's question on addressing shame: Shely emphasizes seeking sex therapy, particularly from professionals familiar with Jewish traditions.[00:19:25] Resources: Dive into sex-positive aspects of Judaism with recommended readings like works by Dr. Ruth and The Kosher Kama Sutra by Shmuley Boteach.[00:19:52] Closing remarks: Expresses gratitude to Shely for her invaluable insights and contributions.Production Credits: katie@vocalfrystudiosAbout Shely:Shely Esses RP (Qualifying) holds a marriage and family therapy (MFT) graduate degree from Iona University and currently resides in Toronto, Canada.Shely is guided by a systemic lens, a way of seeing you as an individual with interpersonal and wider-world impacts on your life. She is passionate about helping people feel comfortable in their own skin. She is delighted to help individuals, couples, and families find balance and healing in their lives.She is knowledgeable about the Orthodox community, ensuring clients feel understood halachically while discussing mental and physical health. She is also skilled at helping clients with pre-and post-marriage halachot.Shely focuses on helping clients experiencing discomfort or anxiety about their sexual self-esteem, self-worth, and relationships. She is particularly interested in working with often overlooked or underserved communities, such as those in conservative religious minority groups and people in alternative relationships. Shely is skilled at weaving together practical and holistic techniques to promote nervous system regulation & deep mindfulness. Resources For Professionals:1) Heavenly Sex: sexuality and the Jewish Tradition Dr Ruth & Jonathan Mark2) The kosher Sutra: Eight Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life by Rabbi Shmuleyu Boteach3) Kabbalah and Sex Magic By Marla SegolPodcast: Intimate Judaism with Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott KahnFun reads: I will watch you: four short tales of Jewish love and Lust by Shoshana PearlClasses Taught by Shely: 3 CEs available! https://modernsextherapyinstitutes.com/product/sex-intimacy-and-connection-through-the-lens-of-the-sefirot-10-emanations-from-jewish-mysticism-3-ces-2023/Disclaimer   

Is the “Barbie” Movie Layered with Subversive Messages?   Nicole McNichols, PhD – The Sex Professor – www.nicolethesexprofessor.com – joins Dr. Diana to review the movie “Barbie.” They explored layered themes, including body image, appearances, perfectionism, and shame.   It's not surprising that for the past 64 years, Barbie has been at the center of debates about who women are, who they should be, how they look, and what they want. The “Barbie” movie reveals many answers!   Body Image/Appearances – Dr. Nicole and Dr. Diana discussed how a woman's image of her body affects her sexuality – and her relationship with her partner. There is “spectatoring” – looking at yourself with a critical eye during sex, preventing mindfulness. Sensate Focus exercises promote touching, massaging – helping a couple discover new erogenous zones for pleasure beyond PIV (Penis-In-Vagina) sex. What to do about a poor body image? Cultivate the ability to appreciate your uniqueness. When you start to appreciate your imperfections as endearing distinctions, you will have begun to love yourself in a way that allows you to love others. Regardless, the idea of a perfect body is fiction. None of us have perfect bodies. You may be ignoring your body at the expense of genuine sexual pleasure and empowerment!   Perfectionism – Eventually, Barbie was able to embrace herself, her vulnerability, her authenticity. Dr. Nicole proclaims: Real is the new perfect!   Shame – Sometimes called the “master emotion,” it is the feeling that we're not worthy, competent, or good. Shame on you if you fail, so don't try. There is not much room for growth.   Barbie and Ken both experience personal growth. Barbie deals with sexism and experiences the power of female confidence and collaboration. Ken deals with patriarchy and perils of toxic masculinity and entitlement.   Dr. Nicole McNichols is a Sex Professor with about 4,000 students a year attending her class at the University of Washington. There's a reason she's so popular … Her sex-positive messages are delivered with vitality, enthusiasm, humor and intelligence!  Dr. Nicole has a blog on Psychology Today, and you can see her great posts on Instagram and TikTok.   Stay tuned!  She'll be back for a Part 2.

I am bringing back the IMG Roadmap live program; this is an intensive but fast bootcamp to get you ready for the 2024 match cycle. If you want to be informed once we launch click here https://www.aceyourclinicals.com/2023! ****** As a resident, fellow, or attending physician, striking a work-life balance can be challenging. It's not always easy to prioritize our personal relationships, but it's essential for our overall well-being. With Valentine's Day around the corner, I wanted to bring in OBGYN and Intimacy Coach Dr. Sadaf Lodhi to help us maintain that special love in our busy lives. Here is the outline of this episode: Introduction of the guest Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, an OBGYN and Intimacy Coach Discussion of the Biopsychosocial (BPS) model of health, which addresses biological, psychological, and social aspects of health and well-being Biological aspect includes physical health concerns such as exams, screenings, STI tests, contraception, and prenatal care Psychological aspect covers mental health, including feelings of anxiety, depression, and stress, and the importance of therapy and coaching Social aspect focuses on maintaining relationships and friendships, finding local communities, and expanding knowledge through reading Tips to maintain and improve mental health: spending time with self and others, exercise, mindfulness, and outdoor walks Discussion of the relationship between stress and desire, and how cortisol levels can inhibit desire How to maintain desire, prioritize the romantic relationship, set aside quality time, and use Sensate Focus techniques to increase arousal and desire Emphasis on the importance of taking care of oneself during medical training. Are there any questions that you would like to ask Dr. Lodhi for assistance? To schedule a meeting or group coaching session with her, you can visit drsadaf.com. You can also connect with her through her Instagram and Tiktok accounts @Drsadafobgyn, or listen to her on The Muslim Sex Podcast. ***** Follow us on Instagram for supportive content and download our targeted planner from our website! Subscribe to our podcast and newsletter and consider joining our program in the spring to kick start your IMG journey in 2023. As always you can click on the following links to listen to more episodes of our podcasts on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts and Spotify. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ninalum/support

If you are having sex you should know about Sensate Focused Therapy, a widely used technique amongst sex therapists. This form of therapy helps support clients in getting out of their head and into their bodies when giving or receiving touch. It can be useful for a range of different relationships like those with a history of pelvic pain, people with penises experiencing anxiety around getting an erection, relationships where a desire discrepancy has been present and more. Not in a relationship, not a problem, sensate is versatile.   Today's guest, Linda Weiner, a licensed clinical social worker, owner of Sex Therapist St. Louis, and co-author of the book Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual, joins host Michelle Fischler. Together, they discuss what Sensate Focused Therapy is, how individuals and couples can benefit from it, and more.    Show Notes:    02:16: What is Sensate Therapy?    05:00: The goal of Sensate Therapy   07:13 The trilogy of good sex   12:11: Why do some people need Sensate Focused Therapy?    16:56: A person's introduction to Sensate Focused Therapy   25:41: Boredom in the bedroom   29:00: Making time to have sex/how often should you have it?    33:05: The importance of touch   35:15: If penetration isn't the goal/conversations around sex with partner   40:22: Do people need to go to a sex therapist for Sensate Therapy?    Where you can find Linda: www.sextherapiststlouis.com https://www.instagram.com/lindajweiner/ Twitter: couplesguru www.facebook.com/lindaweinercouplesguru You Tube: Recovering your sex drive with Sensate Focus Mindful Touching Techniques  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SpqwyXDSsvk Disclaimer All opinions expressed by podcast guests / participants are solely their current opinions and do not reflect the opinions of GETSOME Inc. or affiliates or the companies with which the podcast guests / participants are affiliated, and may have been previously disseminated by them. The guests / participants opinions are based upon information they consider reliable, but neither GETSOME Inc. nor its affiliates, nor the companies with which such guests/participants are affiliated, warrant its completeness or accuracy, and it should not be relied upon as such.   Follow us on Instagram @getsome_podcast  

People who practice sexual mindfulness experience more desire, better self-esteem, more consistent orgasms, a better relationship with their partners, and better overall sexual functioning! In this episode I introduce Tantra and Sensate Focus as ways to incorporate sexual mindfulness into your life.  Plus I answer a question about meeting and dating with social anxiety!My Favorite Toys and ProductsMy InstagramIf you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."6 Tips for Sexual Mindfulness5 Reasons People Who Meditate Have Better Sex LivesSensate Focus

Clement is in conversation Sex Educator & Couples Intimacy Coach Nu Davidson where they explore sensate focus therapy to enhance sexual intimacy See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Kaitlyn Goldsmith, a Registered Psychologist (#2484) located in Vancouver, B.C. Relationship, sexual, and mental health concerns can be difficult to confront. Dr. Kaitlyn is here to help! She works with individuals and couples to overcome difficulties and to thrive in their lives inside and outside the bedroom. In this episode we go into mature love and evolving past sexual desires into emotional safety. The beliefs or lack thereof in our lineage influences our sex life. In this conversation we explore programming new sexual beliefs. We want to normalize different sexual issues and help you get in touch with visioning the sex life that you dream of. Here we discuss Sensate Focus, a type of sacred touch to move through desire discrepancies and other avenues of intimacy without sex. You can find Dr. Kaitlyn Goldsmith's work: Instagram: drkaitgoldsmith Website: https://kaitlyngoldsmith.com

Natasha is joined by Linda Weiner, one of the authors of “Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy,” a one-of-a-kid book which discusses in detail (including beautiful illustrations) this revolutionary intervention developed by Masters &Johnson in helping couples attune to sensation as an important facet to sexual satisfaction.   https://www.amazon.com/Sensate-Focus.../dp/1138642363   To help keep Mormon Sex Info going past 2022, please donate at mormonsex.info.

Dr. Rob and Tami offer some helpful resources for those in recovery who want to reintegrate and reengage in healthy sex.  They also focus on betrayed partners and give them permission to put up boundaries.  For both addicts and their partners, it's important to understand that support is key to healing.  There are many places and resources to seek help, and you don't have to go it alone.   TAKEAWAYS: [:24] How do you reintegrate healthy sex after porn addiction treatment?  And what are some books to use as a resource? [3:18] Having an accountability partner or support group is a way to curb obsessive thoughts. [6:44] Can porn addiction cause psychological impotence/erectile dysfunction? [11:45] I'm a betrayed partner whose partner has relapsed again.  What are the pros and cons of living together vs. separately to rebuild trust?   [17:03] There are a number of places where betrayed partners can seek more intensive care; as victims they need support in addition to the addicts. [19:18] As a recovering addict, it doesn't mean you have to put yourself down but you do have to put in the work to empathize with your partner.  It's about shifting perspective and attitude.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss The Couple's Guide to Intimacy:  How Sexual Reintigeration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal, by Dr. Bill Bercaw Lust, Men, and Meth, by David Michael Fawcett What is Sensate Focus and How Does it Work? SRH Online Support Groups

Today we discuss the top relationship problems that affect couples the most. We look at ways in which these problems manifest and at possible ways of addressing them. We discuss 10 items plus one bonus one. 1. Arguments: disagreements in any relationship are entirely to be expected. However, if the relationship is dominated by endless and repetitive arguments, then you may want to stop and consider what the typical contentious issues are in your relationship and to also think about the underlying causes. We are currently developing a mini course on effective arguing. Watch this space. -2. Lack of connection: When you never find time to sit down and find out about your partner's experiences, then there is little engagement with your partner, the relationship will be suffering in the long run. Connections needs to be paid attention to and actively nurtured. -3. Stress: Too much stress is the enemy of connection. When we are stressed we are too wrapped up in our own 'survival' and therefore cannot connect well with others. If chronically stressed then there won't be much room to empathise and understand your partner. -4. Boredom: Many couples struggle to move on from the exciting hay days of the honeymoon period in their relationship. You start to see your partner in a more realistic light and might find it difficult to adjust to the more mundane daily routine of your life together. -5. Children: As lovely as they are, children are frequently a stressor in relationships because of different views that partner's have of parenting and the competing demands of childcare, work and time for your partner. Couples with children often play out old relationship and family patterns from their family of origin which need to be brought into awareness. -6. The wider family: You may struggle to get on with your partner's parents or siblings, finding them too interfering for example and/or your partner may not be keen on yours. The relationship with partners' wider family can frequently cause very serious difficulties in relationships. - 7. Trauma: When one or both partner's have experienced relational or developmental trauma in their lives, this is likely to impact the current relationship (unless the trauma has largely been worked through). - 8. Fidelity: If one or both partners have cheated and the understanding is that you are in a relationship where this is not acceptable, you will need to make a decision whether your relationship can survive this breach of trust or whether it's unforgivable. Affairs cause serious hurt and may take a long time to get over. Most affairs don't just happen spontaneously; if you decide to stay together there will need to be understanding on both sides whether there were any underlying issues that need addressing in order to move forward. -9. Communication: Without the ability to talk effectively to each other, you are likely to struggle in your relationship in addressing challenges you face. A key to successful communication is the capacity to listen. -10. Sex: A frequent difficulty for couples is the disparate desires for sexual contact in couples; one partner may want more contact, the other less. Many couples have relationships where sex died a long time ago. Often it is too painful and scary to address this topic openly and the couple remain silent for year. Desire and sexual contact can be re-established with exercises such as Sensate Focus. -11. Money: Couples get into difficulties over money if they money has a very different symbolic value for each partner. Money may stand for security or control for example, depending on your associations with it. - To build a strong, long lasting and satisfying relationship, sign up for our course The Relationship Maze, where we explore all of the above topics in much more detail.

Angel Rowe is a professional sex coach, this is his personal story of living with chronic pain from CRPS (Complex Regional Pain Syndrome) as well as some professional insights as well. We talk about his strategies for coping when first diagnosed and struggling, ow using his non-dominant hand has helped him reframe touch, breathwork, sensate focus, how practice helps, his dogs and being a dog trainer and so much more. One of the things I’m taking away from this conversation is that even if you don’t believe that everything happens for a reason, that engaging in the reframing that Angel has done helps tremendously.Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual by Linda Weiner & Constance Avery-Clark. The app Angel was talking about is called Breathwork. You can find Angel at albertasexcoach.com or if you are on tiktok, follow him and his dogs as wolfyrain.

This is a conversation with Sex Coach Lex, about his work as a coach, how he helps people get where they want to be, and the foundations needed to get there. Coach Lex is a WASC certified sex coach (WASC stands for World Association of Sex Coaches). He specializes in sexual communication in order to create a world where people can speak about sex as comfortably as they speak about breakfast. His work includes individuals, couples, and the polyamorous community, as well as the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Lex facilitates groups, workshops, and works with clients one-on-one worldwide. Coach Lex also publishes a blog on his website sexcoachlex.com known as Bad Sex Advice, where he takes user-submitted bad sex advice, explains what makes them bad, and what you can do instead. Links discussed or inspired from this conversation:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexcoachlex/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SexCoachLex/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexcoachlex Website: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/ The Blog, Bad Sex Advice: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/blog/ What is Sensate Focus and How does it work - from the Sexual Medicine Society of North America https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work Sex Geek Summer Camp is for educators, coaches and others involved in the Sexuality Professional world - https://reidaboutsex.mykajabi.com/I-want-sex-geek-summer-camp-info Sex Coach U was where both Lex and I trained - https://sexcoachu.com/ Ramit Sethi - https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/ And check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/ The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 Quando - (Acoustic Guitar) by JuliusH from Pixabay

On this episode of Ready for Love Radio, we have two familiar guests, Dr Susan Kaye and Paul Bagge. Recently Paul attended and participated in the Surrogate Partner Training with Dr Susan Kaye, at Integrative Mind Body Therapies. And, I invited them both on the show to tell us about the experience and the training. Whether you'd like to know more about the training or understand the need for the work or how it actually works, this is an interesting show and will answer questions and dispel many misconceptions about surrogate partner therapy.

David & Sheri talk about reintegrating sexuality using a specific method called sensate focus to help couples become more connected, or if there is a need to kickstart physical intimacy again.

Today we're talking about Sensate Focus, one of my favorite goto things, and something I would often use in my therapy practice.What is Sensate Focus and where did it come from?It was developed by Masters and Johnson as a way to help couples learn more about themselves and each other and move towards a more intimate relationship.The aim is to build trust and intimacy within your relationship, helping you both give and receive pleasure.  How long will Sensate Focus take?It's not a race to an end, it's a continuous reinforcement and it can help to overcome negative reactions to intimacy. You don't want to rush through it, it can take months to get through the first two phases. Only move onto the different phases of Sensate Focus when you're both ready. Some ground rules to get started: Choose a time and place that is acceptable for both of you.  Choose music, lighting, and aromas that are suitable.Turn off your phone, tv, gadgets, and other distractions. And lock the door. There are three phases to Sensate Focus and one pre-phase. Pre-phase: Non-genital sensate focus clothed (Start here if you have previous trauma, or are someone who doesn't enjoy physical touch.)Phase 1: Non-genital sensate focus unclothed (non sexual touching) Phase 2: Genital sensate focus (sexual touching but no penetration)Phase 3: Penetrative sensate focus (sexual touching with penetration)Non-genital sensate focusThis phase focuses on touch, sensuality and mutual exploration free from any concern that it's going to lead to sex. When in phase one, both partners know that sex and orgasm are off the table.  Before the session starts you want to decide who is going to go first, and then you'll take turns. First,  concentrate on touching the parts of the body that are normally visible. When you're ready start to include the back, neck, and butt. Finally, bring in the chest, stomach, shoulders, thighs, but avoid breasts, top of legs and the groin area.  It's okay to stay in phase one for however long you and your partner decide you want to. Genital sensate FocusThe main focus of this phase is to increase each person's pleasure and awareness of each other's response from different types of stimulation. During this phase you might want to incorporate some lubricant or some bedroom accessories. Penetration is not permitted in this phase. If orgasam happens, it happens,  but the point here is to focus on the pleasure, and how your partner responds to positive stimulation.First, incorporate touching of the breasts and nipples. Next, include the area around the genitals. Then, introduce the touching of the genitals. After a while you may also want to incorporate some oral as well as kissing, licking, and sucking. Penetrative Sensate FocusYou've spent the time on the nongenital and genital phases of sensate focus so that you can now begin to include the penetration with your finger, toys, and or the penis. You still want to incorporate and pay attention to the parts of the body that we explored in the previous phases. While orgasm and intercouse is permitted in this phase, it is still not the goal.   First, incorporate different forms of gentle penetration.  Start with little thrusting, enjoy the sensation of containment, and feeling the fullness inside. Try first with one person on top, and then switch. Later you can incorporate more of the thrusting but with the person being penetrated in full control. The aim of  this phase and sensate focus as a whole is to focus on the enjoyment of the touch and growing the intimacy between the two of you. Connect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Mark Fell is a computer musician and artist based in Rotherham. We chat about green tea, collaboration, algorithmic processes, remote performance during quarantine, fancy pliers, whether he or his son Rian Treanor is cooking dinner, working with John Chowning, and a lot more. I've been following Mark's work for years I'm very grateful for his generosity with him time. If you want some guidance in terms of where to start with his discography, I'd highly suggest:snd - AtavismMultistabilityanything from Sensate Focus

Serena Haines joins me on this episode to talk about orgasmic expansion – a hybrid technique developed by fusing techniques she used working as a Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Body Worker. The goal of orgasmic expansion is to maximize pleasure and experience. It aligns perfectly with the Intimacy With Ease method when couples reach the point of having an enjoyable sex-life but wanting to expand their pleasure. Definition – Orgasmic Expansion Orgasmic expansion is a fusion of slow sex techniques, breathing, orgasmic potential, and neo tantric exercises melded into one. Serena states that, unlike what people may assume, it's a practical and tangible approach to expand one's potential for pleasure in a safe and connected relationship. Phase 1 It starts by guiding her clients to practice a few intimacy and neo tantric exercises. These exercises involve eye gazing, touching, sitting back to back, and breathing deeply which allows a deeper connection to form between the couples. Phase 2 & 3 – Intimate bodywork Then the couples do guide intimate bodywork on each other which involves erotic massage that isn't necessarily therapeutic or sexual. The massage is for them to relax and receive pleasure sensations from giving and receiving touch. While the partner receiving the touch focuses on breathwork, the other partner focuses on the sensation of the touch. Genital Mapping and Genital Massage Then they move down to genital mapping, genital massage, and end with pleasure. Genital mapping is where the partner who is receiving the touch is focused on their feelings, sensations, and erotic responses of their body, disregarding the expectation to reciprocate afterward. The giver is guided into exploring their partner's body and focused on the sensation, feeling of the partner's different parts of the body, even the color and visual of the vulva. While the receiver enjoys pleasure, the giver enjoys the erotic visual which is extremely important. Physiological Changes and Responses The next step after making sure they both feel the pleasure is to guide the partner to notice and observe the physiological changes and responses in their partner's body. Serena gives an example of looking at how the labia swells and changes colors and the time it takes. Serena points out that for most partner's it's uncomfortable to let these changes happen with their partner observing. However, this process allows the other partner to explain and talk through the changes they're observing. This encourages the receiver to express what feels good and tell the partner to do that. The goal of genital mapping is for the partner to understand the physiological responses happening in their partner's body and for the other partner to relax and let the time be taken for the energy to flow through their body. Serena then guides the process to go up to the clitoris and apply slow sex techniques like orgasmic meditation. Orgasmic meditation is working with the clitoris to map out the pleasure points. The partner goes through these points like clockwork while receiving and giving feedback until they find the most sensitive spot. Serena explains the process to be followed to reach an orgasmic point. She guides the partner to let the orgasmic potential move through the breath and expand the heat generated in the genitals through her body instead of quick orgasm. Serena says. It's about prolonging and expanding the pleasure potential. Giving and Receiving Feedback The partners are guided to speak up about their experiences throughout the session. They are encouraged to give and receive feedback and it's prompted by Serena's questions such as, “How does it feel, how does it look?”. It allows the conversation to flow that creates a medium where they feel comfortable to tell each other if something feels good, if it feels enjoyable, which is rare when the couple is alone. Orgasm In case the partner orgasm soon into the process, the partner can either relax and take it up in another session or they can keep going. Serena emphasizes the whole idea of this process is not to bring them back into orgasm but to guide them to hold onto the potential as long as they can. For Men For men, the stroke technique while playing with the shaft and coronal ridge is much slower than a regular handjob. It's common for penises to lose erection if the buildup isn't the same after a certain point. Contrary to what many people may think of it as something wrong, it allows finding the pleasure potential in a soft penis. So, Serena guides them to keep going if that's what they decide. How is it Different or Similar to Sensate Focus? The orgasmic expansion focuses on a slow addition of the sexual touch to expand pleasure potential in an already satisfying sex life. Sensate focus is different in the sense, it is focused on getting them to a place of a satisfied sex-life after overcoming the challenges. Orgasm is Not the Point of Sex While the term “Orgasmic expansion” might lead you to believe that it's all about orgasm, it's really about expanding your pleasure potential and physiological responses of your body. Serena urges to explore the pleasure that lies before the point of an orgasm which isn't even necessary to reach. With her client, by taking orgasm off the table, they remain stress-free of an expectation or a disappointment to reach an orgasm which isn't the point. The duration of this course is meant to feel the sensations of your partner's touch, feel, and pleasure. Orgasm may or may not necessarily happen at the end. In real life, it'll help you when you don't feel the pressure of an orgasm when you're having that moment with your partner and you will enjoy the pleasure potential moving across your entire body. Challenges in this Process One of the challenges people face in this process is having to digest the idea of having a third person there. It could be stressful that leads a lot of people to back out which is completely fine to back out and try again next time. Also, it's hard for the receiver to just breathe and not do anything else. Similar to how the giver is focused on being anxious about their performance. Serena says it's hard for people to be in the present but practicing it at home without the pressure of having a third person there can help. Misconceptions and Fears Some of the fears people have are for the process to be too sexual or that the third person participating in the touch. Serena points it out as not true, she has a conversation prior with the client to set boundaries of how closer or far they want her to stand. Also, before any physical touch, expectation, and consent of what exercises they are going to do are already set and there's no going backward. It can be revisited in the conversation before the next session. Biography Serena Haines, a Somatic Sex Educator Sex Coach in North Atlantic, Canada helps people navigate sexual challenges and expand intimacy as an individual or as partners. She studied Clinical Sexology and became a Certified Sex Coach. She made a fusion of all techniques learned over the time of her being a sex educator to create “Orgasmic Expansion”. She also helps couples who are not challenged sexually but want to learn and experience intimacy and new things. Resources and links Website: ​https://www.serenahaines.com/ Workshops: ​https://www.serenahaines.com/#offerings Instagram: ​https://www.instagram.com/serena_haines/ More info: Training video – ​https://jessazimmerman.mykajabi.com/video-choice Sex Health Quiz – ​https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – ​https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.com The Book – ​https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – ​https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to help your partner want more sex without making them feel pressured or obligated: ​https://intimacywithease.com/free-webinar Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/170-orgasmic-expansion-serena-hainesMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

Serena Haines joins me on this episode to talk about orgasmic expansion – a hybrid technique developed by fusing techniques she used working as a Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Body Worker. The goal of orgasmic expansion is to maximize pleasure and experience. It aligns perfectly with the Intimacy With Ease method when couples reach the point of having an enjoyable sex-life but wanting to expand their pleasure. Definition – Orgasmic Expansion Orgasmic expansion is a fusion of slow sex techniques, breathing, orgasmic potential, and neo tantric exercises melded into one. Serena states that, unlike what people may assume, it’s a practical and tangible approach to expand one’s potential for pleasure in a safe and connected relationship. Phase 1 It starts by guiding her clients to practice a few intimacy and neo tantric exercises. These exercises involve eye gazing, touching, sitting back to back, and breathing deeply which allows a deeper connection to form between the couples. Phase 2 & 3 – Intimate bodywork Then the couples do guide intimate bodywork on each other which involves erotic massage that isn’t necessarily therapeutic or sexual. The massage is for them to relax and receive pleasure sensations from giving and receiving touch. While the partner receiving the touch focuses on breathwork, the other partner focuses on the sensation of the touch. Genital Mapping and Genital Massage Then they move down to genital mapping, genital massage, and end with pleasure. Genital mapping is where the partner who is receiving the touch is focused on their feelings, sensations, and erotic responses of their body, disregarding the expectation to reciprocate afterward. The giver is guided into exploring their partner’s body and focused on the sensation, feeling of the partner’s different parts of the body, even the color and visual of the vulva. While the receiver enjoys pleasure, the giver enjoys the erotic visual which is extremely important. Physiological Changes and Responses The next step after making sure they both feel the pleasure is to guide the partner to notice and observe the physiological changes and responses in their partner’s body. Serena gives an example of looking at how the labia swells and changes colors and the time it takes. Serena points out that for most partner’s it’s uncomfortable to let these changes happen with their partner observing. However, this process allows the other partner to explain and talk through the changes they’re observing. This encourages the receiver to express what feels good and tell the partner to do that. The goal of genital mapping is for the partner to understand the physiological responses happening in their partner’s body and for the other partner to relax and let the time be taken for the energy to flow through their body. Serena then guides the process to go up to the clitoris and apply slow sex techniques like orgasmic meditation. Orgasmic meditation is working with the clitoris to map out the pleasure points. The partner goes through these points like clockwork while receiving and giving feedback until they find the most sensitive spot. Serena explains the process to be followed to reach an orgasmic point. She guides the partner to let the orgasmic potential move through the breath and expand the heat generated in the genitals through her body instead of quick orgasm. Serena says. It’s about prolonging and expanding the pleasure potential. Giving and Receiving Feedback The partners are guided to speak up about their experiences throughout the session. They are encouraged to give and receive feedback and it’s prompted by Serena’s questions such as, “How does it feel, how does it look?”. It allows the conversation to flow that creates a medium where they feel comfortable to tell each other if something feels good, if it feels enjoyable, which is rare when the couple is alone. Orgasm In case the partner orgasm soon into the process, the partner can either relax and take it up in another session or they can keep going. Serena emphasizes the whole idea of this process is not to bring them back into orgasm but to guide them to hold onto the potential as long as they can. For Men For men, the stroke technique while playing with the shaft and coronal ridge is much slower than a regular handjob. It’s common for penises to lose erection if the buildup isn’t the same after a certain point. Contrary to what many people may think of it as something wrong, it allows finding the pleasure potential in a soft penis. So, Serena guides them to keep going if that’s what they decide. How is it Different or Similar to Sensate Focus? The orgasmic expansion focuses on a slow addition of the sexual touch to expand pleasure potential in an already satisfying sex life. Sensate focus is different in the sense, it is focused on getting them to a place of a satisfied sex-life after overcoming the challenges. Orgasm is Not the Point of Sex While the term “Orgasmic expansion” might lead you to believe that it’s all about orgasm, it’s really about expanding your pleasure potential and physiological responses of your body. Serena urges to explore the pleasure that lies before the point of an orgasm which isn’t even necessary to reach. With her client, by taking orgasm off the table, they remain stress-free of an expectation or a disappointment to reach an orgasm which isn’t the point. The duration of this course is meant to feel the sensations of your partner’s touch, feel, and pleasure. Orgasm may or may not necessarily happen at the end. In real life, it’ll help you when you don’t feel the pressure of an orgasm when you’re having that moment with your partner and you will enjoy the pleasure potential moving across your entire body. Challenges in this Process One of the challenges people face in this process is having to digest the idea of having a third person there. It could be stressful that leads a lot of people to back out which is completely fine to back out and try again next time. Also, it’s hard for the receiver to just breathe and not do anything else. Similar to how the giver is focused on being anxious about their performance. Serena says it’s hard for people to be in the present but practicing it at home without the pressure of having a third person there can help. Misconceptions and Fears Some of the fears people have are for the process to be too sexual or that the third person participating in the touch. Serena points it out as not true, she has a conversation prior with the client to set boundaries of how closer or far they want her to stand. Also, before any physical touch, expectation, and consent of what exercises they are going to do are already set and there’s no going backward. It can be revisited in the conversation before the next session. Biography Serena Haines, a Somatic Sex Educator Sex Coach in North Atlantic, Canada helps people navigate sexual challenges and expand intimacy as an individual or as partners. She studied Clinical Sexology and became a Certified Sex Coach. She made a fusion of all techniques learned over the time of her being a sex educator to create “Orgasmic Expansion”. She also helps couples who are not challenged sexually but want to learn and experience intimacy and new things. Resources and links Website: ​https://www.serenahaines.com/ Workshops: ​https://www.serenahaines.com/#offeringsInstagram: ​https://www.instagram.com/serena_haines/ More info:Training video – ​https://jessazimmerman.mykajabi.com/video-choiceSex Health Quiz – ​https://www.sexhealthquiz.comThe Course – ​https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.comThe Book – ​https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – ​https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: How to help your partner want more sex without making them feel pressured or obligated: ​https://intimacywithease.com/free-webinarBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/170-orgasmic-expansion-serena-haines

Serena Haines joins me on this episode to talk about orgasmic expansion – a hybrid technique developed by fusing techniques she used working as a Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Body Worker. The goal of orgasmic expansion is to maximize pleasure and experience. It aligns perfectly with the Intimacy With Ease method when couples reach the point of having an enjoyable sex-life but wanting to expand their pleasure. Definition – Orgasmic Expansion Orgasmic expansion is a fusion of slow sex techniques, breathing, orgasmic potential, and neo tantric exercises melded into one. Serena states that, unlike what people may assume, it’s a practical and tangible approach to expand one’s potential for pleasure in a safe and connected relationship. Phase 1 It starts by guiding her clients to practice a few intimacy and neo tantric exercises. These exercises involve eye gazing, touching, sitting back to back, and breathing deeply which allows a deeper connection to form between the couples. Phase 2 & 3 – Intimate bodywork Then the couples do guide intimate bodywork on each other which involves erotic massage that isn’t necessarily therapeutic or sexual. The massage is for them to relax and receive pleasure sensations from giving and receiving touch. While the partner receiving the touch focuses on breathwork, the other partner focuses on the sensation of the touch. Genital Mapping and Genital Massage Then they move down to genital mapping, genital massage, and end with pleasure. Genital mapping is where the partner who is receiving the touch is focused on their feelings, sensations, and erotic responses of their body, disregarding the expectation to reciprocate afterward. The giver is guided into exploring their partner’s body and focused on the sensation, feeling of the partner’s different parts of the body, even the color and visual of the vulva. While the receiver enjoys pleasure, the giver enjoys the erotic visual which is extremely important. Physiological Changes and Responses The next step after making sure they both feel the pleasure is to guide the partner to notice and observe the physiological changes and responses in their partner’s body. Serena gives an example of looking at how the labia swells and changes colors and the time it takes. Serena points out that for most partner’s it’s uncomfortable to let these changes happen with their partner observing. However, this process allows the other partner to explain and talk through the changes they’re observing. This encourages the receiver to express what feels good and tell the partner to do that. The goal of genital mapping is for the partner to understand the physiological responses happening in their partner’s body and for the other partner to relax and let the time be taken for the energy to flow through their body. Serena then guides the process to go up to the clitoris and apply slow sex techniques like orgasmic meditation. Orgasmic meditation is working with the clitoris to map out the pleasure points. The partner goes through these points like clockwork while receiving and giving feedback until they find the most sensitive spot. Serena explains the process to be followed to reach an orgasmic point. She guides the partner to let the orgasmic potential move through the breath and expand the heat generated in the genitals through her body instead of quick orgasm. Serena says. It’s about prolonging and expanding the pleasure potential. Giving and Receiving Feedback The partners are guided to speak up about their experiences throughout the session. They are encouraged to give and receive feedback and it’s prompted by Serena’s questions such as, “How does it feel, how does it look?”. It allows the conversation to flow that creates a medium where they feel comfortable to tell each other if something feels good, if it feels enjoyable, which is rare when the couple is alone. Orgasm In case the partner orgasm soon into the process, the partner can either relax and take it up in another session or they can keep going. Serena emphasizes the whole idea of this process is not to bring them back into orgasm but to guide them to hold onto the potential as long as they can. For Men For men, the stroke technique while playing with the shaft and coronal ridge is much slower than a regular handjob. It’s common for penises to lose erection if the buildup isn’t the same after a certain point. Contrary to what many people may think of it as something wrong, it allows finding the pleasure potential in a soft penis. So, Serena guides them to keep going if that’s what they decide. How is it Different or Similar to Sensate Focus? The orgasmic expansion focuses on a slow addition of the sexual touch to expand pleasure potential in an already satisfying sex life. Sensate focus is different in the sense, it is focused on getting them to a place of a satisfied sex-life after overcoming the challenges. Orgasm is Not the Point of Sex While the term “Orgasmic expansion” might lead you to believe that it’s all about orgasm, it’s really about expanding your pleasure potential and physiological responses of your body. Serena urges to explore the pleasure that lies before the point of an orgasm which isn’t even necessary to reach. With her client, by taking orgasm off the table, they remain stress-free of an expectation or a disappointment to reach an orgasm which isn’t the point. The duration of this course is meant to feel the sensations of your partner’s touch, feel, and pleasure. Orgasm may or may not necessarily happen at the end. In real life, it’ll help you when you don’t feel the pressure of an orgasm when you’re having that moment with your partner and you will enjoy the pleasure potential moving across your entire body. Challenges in this Process One of the challenges people face in this process is having to digest the idea of having a third person there. It could be stressful that leads a lot of people to back out which is completely fine to back out and try again next time. Also, it’s hard for the receiver to just breathe and not do anything else. Similar to how the giver is focused on being anxious about their performance. Serena says it’s hard for people to be in the present but practicing it at home without the pressure of having a third person there can help. Misconceptions and Fears Some of the fears people have are for the process to be too sexual or that the third person participating in the touch. Serena points it out as not true, she has a conversation prior with the client to set boundaries of how closer or far they want her to stand. Also, before any physical touch, expectation, and consent of what exercises they are going to do are already set and there’s no going backward. It can be revisited in the conversation before the next session. Biography Serena Haines, a Somatic Sex Educator Sex Coach in North Atlantic, Canada helps people navigate sexual challenges and expand intimacy as an individual or as partners. She studied Clinical Sexology and became a Certified Sex Coach. She made a fusion of all techniques learned over the time of her being a sex educator to create “Orgasmic Expansion”. She also helps couples who are not challenged sexually but want to learn and experience intimacy and new things. Resources and links Website: ​https://www.serenahaines.com/ Workshops: ​https://www.serenahaines.com/#offeringsInstagram: ​https://www.instagram.com/serena_haines/ More info:Training video – ​https://jessazimmerman.mykajabi.com/video-choiceSex Health Quiz – ​https://www.sexhealthquiz.comThe Course – ​https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.comThe Book – ​https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – ​https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: How to help your partner want more sex without making them feel pressured or obligated: ​https://intimacywithease.com/free-webinarBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/170-orgasmic-expansion-serena-haines

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Connecting through touch is important for both solo and partnered play. This episode dives into the power of touch, how to ask for what you want, and what really is sensate focus all about. How do you get your mind and body ready for better experiences? How do you ask your partner for something different and get what you really desire? Gigi Chaurand Kammerer, a yoga teacher, Reiki master and fellow podcaster, joined me for a conversation all about how to apply sensate focus in practical ways. Find Gigi at mysonandmoon.com. Her podcast Portable Magic is available anywhere you listen to podcasts. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming/support

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Sensate Focus Exercises Sensate focus is a touching technique for couples or individuals that stimulates the primal part of the brain to enjoy a fully immersive experience with your partner. The technique starts with focusing on temperature, texture and pressure and uses a tactile sensation to move away from distraction. Linda uses the technique for almost everything ranging from low/ no desire, sexual dysfunction, trauma, body image issues to rekindling connection between couples. One Size Doesn't Fit All With each individual experiencing sensation differently, Linda highlights building up sexual tension with touch. From Linda's experience, there is often a need to manage each level as it is approached. She removes conflict and pressure from couples relationships, by taking on the instruction/ control role. Her sessions help couples identify the difference between vulnerability and rejection. How Do You Start With Sensate Focus? With no hard and fast rule, couples can choose certain factors in their environment to ensure that they are at ease eg clothing (or no clothing). Linda's rules include no kissing and no talking. She points out that talking uses the front of the brain and therefore brings individuals back to logic. Linda mentions that the toucher is supposed to touch for their pleasure while the person being touched, needs to experience the touch and provide feedback if something is not comfortable. Obstacles Linda shares that avoidance is one of the main issues that couples encounter. She reveals how she handles this delay tactic fairly. For clients that don't like the technique, she reminds them about the basic three areas of focus temperature, texture and pressure. Partner pressure is an obvious obstacle that Linda notices with her clients. She uses a great analogy to help us accept our differences and move couples through the basic steps at their own pace. Background Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, Owner of Sex Therapist St Louis, LLC is a Certified Diplomate in Sex Therapy, a Supervisor for Certification in Sex Therapy & Sexuality Counseling and a CE provider for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She earned a B.A. in Psychology from American University and an MSW from the University of Missouri. Linda trained at Masters & Johnson Institute and was employed there for five years as the director of Training & Workshops and as a Research and Clinical Associate. Evolving into private clinical practice as a therapist specializing in sexual and relationship concerns, Linda later began publishing on Sensate Focus mindful and somatic touch techniques with co-author, Dr. Constance Avery-Clark. Following the publication of a number of journal articles and a book chapter, Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual was published in 2017. For 15 years, Linda served as an adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University. Linda has presented nationally and internationally and has been interviewed by a number of media outlets including CNN. Her current interest is in transmitting information about the use of Sensate Focus techniques to physicians and Allied health professionals who represent the first contact with sexually distressed individuals. Links and Resources Phone: 314-588-8924 Email: sextherapiststlouis@gmail.com Website: http://www.sextherapiststlouis.com Twitter: @couplesguru Instagram: @lindajweiner More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ Webinar: How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/training Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/145-sensate-focus-linda-weinerMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

Sensate Focus ExercisesSensate focus is a touching technique for couples or individuals that stimulates the primal part of the brain to enjoy a fully immersive experience with your partner. The technique starts with focusing on temperature, texture and pressure and uses a tactile sensation to move away from distraction.Linda uses the technique for almost everything ranging from low/ no desire, sexual dysfunction, trauma, body image issues to rekindling connection between couples.One Size Doesn’t Fit AllWith each individual experiencing sensation differently, Linda highlights building up sexual tension with touch. From Linda’s experience, there is often a need to manage each level as it is approached. She removes conflict and pressure from couples relationships, by taking on the instruction/ control role. Her sessions help couples identify the difference between vulnerability and rejection.How Do You Start With Sensate Focus?With no hard and fast rule, couples can choose certain factors in their environment to ensure that they are at ease eg clothing (or no clothing). Linda’s rules include no kissing and no talking. She points out that talking uses the front of the brain and therefore brings individuals back to logic. Linda mentions that the toucher is supposed to touch for their pleasure while the person being touched, needs to experience the touch and provide feedback if something is not comfortable.ObstaclesLinda shares that avoidance is one of the main issues that couples encounter. She reveals how she handles this delay tactic fairly. For clients that don’t like the technique, she reminds them about the basic three areas of focus temperature, texture and pressure. Partner pressure is an obvious obstacle that Linda notices with her clients. She uses a great analogy to help us accept our differences and move couples through the basic steps at their own pace.BackgroundLinda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, Owner of Sex Therapist St Louis, LLC is a Certified Diplomate in Sex Therapy, a Supervisor for Certification in Sex Therapy & Sexuality Counseling and a CE provider for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).She earned a B.A. in Psychology from American University and an MSW from the University of Missouri. Linda trained at Masters & Johnson Institute and was employed there for five years as the director of Training & Workshops and as a Research and Clinical Associate. Evolving into private clinical practice as a therapist specializing in sexual and relationship concerns, Linda later began publishing on Sensate Focus mindful and somatic touch techniques with co-author, Dr. Constance Avery-Clark. Following the publication of a number of journal articles and a book chapter, Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual was published in 2017.For 15 years, Linda served as an adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University. Linda has presented nationally and internationally and has been interviewed by a number of media outlets including CNN. Her current interest is in transmitting information about the use of Sensate Focus techniques to physicians and Allied health professionals who represent the first contact with sexually distressed individuals.Links and ResourcesPhone: 314-588-8924Email: sextherapiststlouis@gmail.comWebsite: http://www.sextherapiststlouis.comTwitter: @couplesguruInstagram: @lindajweinerMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/145-sensate-focus-linda-weiner

Sensate Focus ExercisesSensate focus is a touching technique for couples or individuals that stimulates the primal part of the brain to enjoy a fully immersive experience with your partner. The technique starts with focusing on temperature, texture and pressure and uses a tactile sensation to move away from distraction.Linda uses the technique for almost everything ranging from low/ no desire, sexual dysfunction, trauma, body image issues to rekindling connection between couples.One Size Doesn’t Fit AllWith each individual experiencing sensation differently, Linda highlights building up sexual tension with touch. From Linda’s experience, there is often a need to manage each level as it is approached. She removes conflict and pressure from couples relationships, by taking on the instruction/ control role. Her sessions help couples identify the difference between vulnerability and rejection.How Do You Start With Sensate Focus?With no hard and fast rule, couples can choose certain factors in their environment to ensure that they are at ease eg clothing (or no clothing). Linda’s rules include no kissing and no talking. She points out that talking uses the front of the brain and therefore brings individuals back to logic. Linda mentions that the toucher is supposed to touch for their pleasure while the person being touched, needs to experience the touch and provide feedback if something is not comfortable.ObstaclesLinda shares that avoidance is one of the main issues that couples encounter. She reveals how she handles this delay tactic fairly. For clients that don’t like the technique, she reminds them about the basic three areas of focus temperature, texture and pressure. Partner pressure is an obvious obstacle that Linda notices with her clients. She uses a great analogy to help us accept our differences and move couples through the basic steps at their own pace.BackgroundLinda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, Owner of Sex Therapist St Louis, LLC is a Certified Diplomate in Sex Therapy, a Supervisor for Certification in Sex Therapy & Sexuality Counseling and a CE provider for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).She earned a B.A. in Psychology from American University and an MSW from the University of Missouri. Linda trained at Masters & Johnson Institute and was employed there for five years as the director of Training & Workshops and as a Research and Clinical Associate. Evolving into private clinical practice as a therapist specializing in sexual and relationship concerns, Linda later began publishing on Sensate Focus mindful and somatic touch techniques with co-author, Dr. Constance Avery-Clark. Following the publication of a number of journal articles and a book chapter, Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual was published in 2017.For 15 years, Linda served as an adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University. Linda has presented nationally and internationally and has been interviewed by a number of media outlets including CNN. Her current interest is in transmitting information about the use of Sensate Focus techniques to physicians and Allied health professionals who represent the first contact with sexually distressed individuals.Links and ResourcesPhone: 314-588-8924Email: sextherapiststlouis@gmail.comWebsite: http://www.sextherapiststlouis.comTwitter: @couplesguruInstagram: @lindajweinerMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/145-sensate-focus-linda-weiner

Sensate Focus ExercisesSensate focus is a touching technique for couples or individuals that stimulates the primal part of the brain to enjoy a fully immersive experience with your partner. The technique starts with focusing on temperature, texture and pressure and uses a tactile sensation to move away from distraction.Linda uses the technique for almost everything ranging from low/ no desire, sexual dysfunction, trauma, body image issues to rekindling connection between couples.One Size Doesn’t Fit AllWith each individual experiencing sensation differently, Linda highlights building up sexual tension with touch. From Linda’s experience, there is often a need to manage each level as it is approached. She removes conflict and pressure from couples relationships, by taking on the instruction/ control role. Her sessions help couples identify the difference between vulnerability and rejection.How Do You Start With Sensate Focus?With no hard and fast rule, couples can choose certain factors in their environment to ensure that they are at ease eg clothing (or no clothing). Linda’s rules include no kissing and no talking. She points out that talking uses the front of the brain and therefore brings individuals back to logic. Linda mentions that the toucher is supposed to touch for their pleasure while the person being touched, needs to experience the touch and provide feedback if something is not comfortable.ObstaclesLinda shares that avoidance is one of the main issues that couples encounter. She reveals how she handles this delay tactic fairly. For clients that don’t like the technique, she reminds them about the basic three areas of focus temperature, texture and pressure. Partner pressure is an obvious obstacle that Linda notices with her clients. She uses a great analogy to help us accept our differences and move couples through the basic steps at their own pace.BackgroundLinda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, Owner of Sex Therapist St Louis, LLC is a Certified Diplomate in Sex Therapy, a Supervisor for Certification in Sex Therapy & Sexuality Counseling and a CE provider for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).She earned a B.A. in Psychology from American University and an MSW from the University of Missouri. Linda trained at Masters & Johnson Institute and was employed there for five years as the director of Training & Workshops and as a Research and Clinical Associate. Evolving into private clinical practice as a therapist specializing in sexual and relationship concerns, Linda later began publishing on Sensate Focus mindful and somatic touch techniques with co-author, Dr. Constance Avery-Clark. Following the publication of a number of journal articles and a book chapter, Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual was published in 2017.For 15 years, Linda served as an adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University. Linda has presented nationally and internationally and has been interviewed by a number of media outlets including CNN. Her current interest is in transmitting information about the use of Sensate Focus techniques to physicians and Allied health professionals who represent the first contact with sexually distressed individuals.Links and ResourcesPhone: 314-588-8924Email: sextherapiststlouis@gmail.comWebsite: http://www.sextherapiststlouis.comTwitter: @couplesguruInstagram: @lindajweinerMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/145-sensate-focus-linda-weiner

Sensate Focus ExercisesSensate focus is a touching technique for couples or individuals that stimulates the primal part of the brain to enjoy a fully immersive experience with your partner. The technique starts with focusing on temperature, texture and pressure and uses a tactile sensation to move away from distraction.Linda uses the technique for almost everything ranging from low/ no desire, sexual dysfunction, trauma, body image issues to rekindling connection between couples.One Size Doesn’t Fit AllWith each individual experiencing sensation differently, Linda highlights building up sexual tension with touch. From Linda’s experience, there is often a need to manage each level as it is approached. She removes conflict and pressure from couples relationships, by taking on the instruction/ control role. Her sessions help couples identify the difference between vulnerability and rejection.How Do You Start With Sensate Focus?With no hard and fast rule, couples can choose certain factors in their environment to ensure that they are at ease eg clothing (or no clothing). Linda’s rules include no kissing and no talking. She points out that talking uses the front of the brain and therefore brings individuals back to logic. Linda mentions that the toucher is supposed to touch for their pleasure while the person being touched, needs to experience the touch and provide feedback if something is not comfortable.ObstaclesLinda shares that avoidance is one of the main issues that couples encounter. She reveals how she handles this delay tactic fairly. For clients that don’t like the technique, she reminds them about the basic three areas of focus temperature, texture and pressure. Partner pressure is an obvious obstacle that Linda notices with her clients. She uses a great analogy to help us accept our differences and move couples through the basic steps at their own pace.BackgroundLinda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, Owner of Sex Therapist St Louis, LLC is a Certified Diplomate in Sex Therapy, a Supervisor for Certification in Sex Therapy & Sexuality Counseling and a CE provider for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).She earned a B.A. in Psychology from American University and an MSW from the University of Missouri. Linda trained at Masters & Johnson Institute and was employed there for five years as the director of Training & Workshops and as a Research and Clinical Associate. Evolving into private clinical practice as a therapist specializing in sexual and relationship concerns, Linda later began publishing on Sensate Focus mindful and somatic touch techniques with co-author, Dr. Constance Avery-Clark. Following the publication of a number of journal articles and a book chapter, Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual was published in 2017.For 15 years, Linda served as an adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University. Linda has presented nationally and internationally and has been interviewed by a number of media outlets including CNN. Her current interest is in transmitting information about the use of Sensate Focus techniques to physicians and Allied health professionals who represent the first contact with sexually distressed individuals.Links and ResourcesPhone: 314-588-8924Email: sextherapiststlouis@gmail.comWebsite: http://www.sextherapiststlouis.comTwitter: @couplesguruInstagram: @lindajweinerMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/145-sensate-focus-linda-weiner

Welcome to episode 179 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Miklos Hargitay to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Hargitay speaks to me about the issues of when your partner is sexually assaulted, how couples can work through this together and understanding the importance of communication.      Dr. Miklos Hargitay earned his PsyD from William James College in Clinical Psychology and his BA from the University of California -Santa Barbara in Anthropology. Dr. Hargitay has specialized training in trauma-informed therapy with survivors of sexual violence.     He has diverse clinical experience, including work in crisis centers, college counselling, and medical settings. Dr. Hargitay is committed to helping adults talk through difficult emotions and topics with compassion and care, such as anxiety and depression, trauma, relationships, and sex.     In this episode, you will hear:     The common sexual symptoms survivors may experience   Why sexual desire may increase after an assault   Questions the partner might have if their partner is a victim of abuse   How couples can work through this together   Looking at sensate focus   Looking out for triggers and how to overcome them   Learning to deal with sexual frustration if your partner isn’t comfortable to have sex yet  The importance of the fidelity agreement   Learning how to best communicate with your partner about these issues      Find Dr. Hargitay online  https://www.mtcollective.org/  Transformative Power of Sensate Focus    Celebrating One Million Downloads To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

As a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Relationship Therapist, working passionately to treat various sexual health concerns both from the psychological and medical standpoint, our guest, Dr. Lauren Fogel-Mersy, believes in a holistic approach, reaching for a more balanced way of healing for herself and her clients. A wealth of knowledge on all things related to relationship and sexual well-being, she's also a woman standing strongly in her own story of striving for mental wellness. In this episode we explore the different methods and techniques she applies at her clinic, including the Gottman Method for Couples Therapy, Behavioral, Mindfulness, Polyvagal, and Sensate Focus therapies. With her work she asks us to grow toward becoming more conscious lovers, friends, and family member. As this episode unwinds she relays how to navigate self and co-regulation, the five stages of relationship, libido, masturbation in relationship, and bringing more kink into the bedroom. Our hopes are that this episode brings you closer to feeling safe, loved, and understood, both in and out of relationship.  Book recommendations: •The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman  •Eight Dates by the Gottman's MAJic Tricks: •When did you stop dancing? Singing? Being enchanted by stories? •Gottman Method on how to resolve conflict in relationship. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-majic-hour/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Michelle and Emily have a fascinating conversation with Dr. Linda Weiner, sex therapist, while sipping on a Ron Rubin Pinot Noir. Dr. Weiner shares her story of how she became a sex therapist from reinventing herself in college, to hanging out on the west coast, to working as a social worker for the state of Missouri and ultimately spending five years working with and running programs for Masters & Johnson. During this episode they learn about the mating habits of rats and how it applies to humans. They also learn about Dr. Weiner's therapeutic focus of Sensate Touch and how it is put into practice within a relationship. Dr. Weiner shares some common sexual issues within relationships and offers practical advice on what couples can do together to overcome the issues. Dr. Weiner can be found at http://www.sextherapiststlouis.com. Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.com Facebook: @cspeakpodcast Instagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcast Twitter: @cliterallyspea1 Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794 Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions. Be on the lookout for the launch of our live-streaming channel on Twitch, CliterallySpeakingPodTV. Our patreon site is up - visit it here - http://bit.ly/32uOnVT

Has your sex life become boring? Or maybe you feel pressure and anxiety when having sex? If you are having problems when having sex with your partner in a pleasant or healthy way, then it's time for you to change the technique and see sex from a different point of view. Television and the media can change the way we see different aspects of our life, including our sexual life. This can cause insecurity, anxiety and fear in people when it comes to be with their partners in an intimate way. In this episode Dr. Carmen interviews Dr. Janet Brito, founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health, who tells us about the practice of Sensate Focus, its benefits and how adhere these exercises into your sexual life. Resources:   https://sextherapyhawaii.com/   Send us some love and share your abundance! :    https://www.patreon.com/emotionsinharmony   https://www.paypal.com/us/fundraiser/charity/3403609   Buy our merch!    https://www.teepublic.com/stores/emotions-in-harmony   Connect with Dr. Carmen Roman Sitio web www.emotionsinharmony.org   Escribele a carmen@emotionsinharmony.org Facebook https://www.facebook.com/EmotionsinHarmony/  Grupo de Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/AmigosinHarmony/ Instagram https://www.Instagram.com/EmotionsinHarmony/  Twitter https://twitter.com/DraCarmenRoman   YouTube www.Youtube.com/c/ArmoniaEmocional  Amazon https://www.amazon.com/shop/dracarmenroman 

On the Regular version of today's show … An email from a listener who wishes we would have addressed the “you complete me” line differently in episode #431. A caller wanting information about Sensate Focus exercises for their sex life. And an email from a wife whose husband found a vibrator she bought and completely […] The post Sensate Focus #438 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

On the Regular version of today's show … An email from a listener who wishes we would have addressed the “you complete me” line differently in episode #431. A caller wanting information about Sensate Focus exercises for their sex life. And an email from a wife whose husband found a vibrator she bought and completely […]

On the Regular version of today’s show … An email from a listener who wishes we would have addressed the “you complete me” line differently in episode #431. A caller wanting information about Sensate Focus exercises for their sex life. And an email from a wife whose husband found a vibrator she bought and completely […] The post Sensate Focus #438 appeared first on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Hätte es in den Sechzigern schon einen Sexpodcast wie “Ist das normal?” gegeben, hätten ihn womöglich der Gynäkologe William Masters und die Sexologin Virginia Johnson aufgenommen. Beide lieferten nicht nur die ersten Labordaten zu sexuellen Reaktionen, sondern auch eines der ersten Therapiekonzepte, den Sensate Focus. Dies ist der Ausgangspunkt dieser zweiten Podcastsitzung zum Thema Sexualtherapie. Wir fragen uns: Welche Arten der Therapie gibt es? Was ist der Sexocorporel oder das Hamburger Modell und vor allem: was genau passiert in so einer Praxis? Das beantwortet Sven Stockrahm, Vize-Ressortleiter Wissen und Digital bei ZEIT ONLINE mit der Ärztin und Sexualtherapeutin Melanie Büttner. Ihr habt auch eine Frage? Irgendetwas, was ihr schon immer über Sex wissen wolltet? Schreibt uns per E-Mail oder nehmt eine Sprachnachricht auf und schickt sie an istdasnormal@zeit.de. Alle Folgen und Quellen von “Ist das normal?” finden sich auf www.zeit.de/sexpodcast.

Welcome to episode 105 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW who speaks to me about sensate focus in sex therapy, what sensate focus entails and how sensate focus touch can also help with pain.     Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, is co-director of the Institute for Sexual & Relationship Therapy & Training with Dr. Constance Avery Clark.Linda is a speaker, writer, adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University in St. Louis, and was formerly a research and clinical associate at Masters & Johnson Institute.     Linda Weiner is a diplomate in clinical social work, a certified diplomate in sexology (American Board of Sexology) and is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists as a sex therapist, supervisor, and CE provider.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Linda became interested in the specific techniques of sensate focus in sex therapy  What sensate focus entails   How modern busy lives have made it unrealistic to achieve sexual satisfaction   The way in which mindfulness relates to this issue  How sensate focus touch can also help with pain   Modifications and ways, you can practice sensate focus on your own   Understanding that sensate focus is not a prelude to sex    Resources  Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: An Illustrated Manual  sextherapiststlouis@gmail.com  www.sextherapiststlouis.com  www.ISRTT.org    https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Dr. Jordan Rullo is our guest for this episode of the Mountain Land Pelvic Health Podcast. She is a Board Certified Clinical Health Psychologist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Gottman Method couples therapist. Dr. Rullo earned her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Utah and completed a post doctoral fellowship at the University of Minnesota Center for Sexual Health. We speak with Dr. Rullo on clinical sex…

Our guest this week is Linda Weiner, a sex therapist and researcher. Her newest book is called Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual. We talk to her about sensate focus, treatments for women in sex therapy, working with Masters and Johnson, and more. Enjoy!   About Our Guest: Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW   Linda is Co-Director of the Institute for Sexual & RelationshipTherapy & Training and was an Adjunct Professor at BrownSchool, Washington University in St. Louis. From 2008-2017. Sheis a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, a Diplomate in Clinical SocialWork, a Certified Diplomate in Sexology (American Board ofSexology), and is certified by the American Association ofSexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists as a SexTherapist, Supervisor, and CE provider. Weiner has co-authorednumerous articles, chapters, and most recently a book on thehistory and application of Sensate Focus techniques, Sensate Focusin Sex Therapy: An Illustrated Manual. Prior to beginning a privatepractice, Weiner was a Clinical & Research Associate at Masters & Johnson Institute in St. Louis and has been providing individualand couples relationship and sex therapy and training for the past30 years. Her current research interest is on mindfulness andsomatic therapy.   Website URL www.isrtt.orgISRTT BLOG: www.isrtt.org/blog/ISRTT FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/institutesrtt/ https://twitter.com/SensFocusISRTT   About Us: www.aboutsexpodcast.com  Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. Her second book released in February. Joshua is not a therapist. He is a writer and podcaster and brings a sense of humor along with an inquisitive mind to the show. Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed. at: www.therapistinstlouis.com Facebook: About Sex Podcast Facebook Page // Angela Skurtu LMFT, M. Ed, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with Dallas’ Sex Therapist, Dr. Dean Aslinia, to talk about sex and intimacy in relationships more specific to first responders. This is part 2 of 2 in this series. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Last week’s podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/understanding-your-mate-interview-with-dr-dean-aslinia-sex-therapist -        Hypervigilance: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypervigilance -        Sensate Focus: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-author-speaks/201703/sensate-focus-in-sex-therapy-the-illustrated-manual https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf -        Dr. Dean Aslinia Contact Information: Email: aslinia@doctor.com, Website: www.deantherapy.com, Social Media: Facebook @DrDeanAslinia, Instagram @drlovedallas, Twitter @DrDeanTX & @DrSexTherapist -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Dr. Kirk Honda talks with Anne Mauro about sex therapy, erectile dysfunction, and sensate focus.The Psychology In Seattle Podcast.Oct 18, 2017.Email: Contact@PsychologyInSeattle.comList of all episodes: https://psychologyinseattle.squarespace.com/list-of-episodesBecome a patron of our podcast by going to https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattle 

This episode features interviews with: Chicago-based sex therapist Michelle Herzog from the Center for Mindful Living, global sex therapist Dr. Susan Kaye from the Institute for Mindy Body Therapy, and New York/San Francisco-based sex therapist and author David Ortmann. David co-wrote the book Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities with Richard Sprott. Articles discussed in this episode include “14 Women Tell What It’s Like Having Sex With A Micropenis” from Buzzfeed and “You’re 16. You’re a Pedophile. You Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone. What Do You Do Now?” by Luke Malone. You can listen to the This American Life episode inspired by Luke Malone’s article here and check out the breakdown of Sensate Focus mentioned on the show here.

This episode features interviews with: Chicago-based sex therapist Michelle Herzog from the Center for Mindful Living, global sex therapist Dr. Susan Kaye from the Institute for Mindy Body Therapy, and New York/San Francisco-based sex therapist and author David Ortmann. David co-wrote the book Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities with Richard Sprott. Articles discussed in this episode include “14 Women Tell What It’s Like Having Sex With A Micropenis” from Buzzfeed and “You’re 16. You’re a Pedophile. You Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone. What Do You Do Now?” by Luke Malone. You can listen to the This American Life episode inspired by Luke Malone’s article here and check out the breakdown of Sensate Focus mentioned on the show here.

Lights are out and nobody’s home: Shigeto reworks a Loscil track, more from Boards of Canada’s latest, the sounds of Ripperton (Not Minnie, but still quality), an epic new one from Moderat, new stuff from Safety Scissors on BPitch Control, old school Autechre, and Mark Fell returning as Sensate Focus. More tracks in there. Have […]

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Welcome to episode 300 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special episode where Dr Nazanin Moali answers your questions around desire discrepancy, improving an unhealthy open relationship, overcoming performance challenges and how pornography can cause erectile dysfunction.   Dr. Moali also reflects hosting Sexology Podcast for five years and how the podcast has changed Dr. Moali as a clinician.     In this episode, you will hear:   Analyzing a desire discrepancy between a couple  Ways to manage differences in sexual drive between partners Understanding your baseline desire  Overcoming challenges of remaining present during sex The importance of mindfulness for better sex How you can use sensate focus touch  Create rituals before having sex  How you can seduce your partner in a way they like  Overcoming the challenges of open relationships Identifying the red flags of an unhealthy open relationship  The importance of creating co-consent for an open relationship  Understanding the need for your own privacy & boundaries  Looking at how pornography can cause erectile dysfunction  Does porn only affect erectile dysfunction when watched or can audio only porn do the same thing? Understanding that porn is not real life and is an unrealistic expectation of how your actual sex life will be  Managing your sexual fantasies alongside porn through masturbation  Reflecting on hosting Sexology Podcast for five years How the podcast has changed Dr. Moali as a clinician   Find Sexology Podcast Online https://sexologypodcast.com   Transformative Power of Sensate Focus https://sexologypodcast.com/2019/01/08/sensate-focus/   Amazon Gift Card Win a $100 Amazon Gift Card! Send a screenshot of your review to - drmoali@sexologypodcast.com or DM via Instagram.   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy