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The Enneagram isn't a crystal ball, but no personality assessment is.We recently came across an article titled “Why You Shouldn't Always Trust Personality Tests,” and it hit a nerve—in the best way.In this quick episode, we unpack why the Enneagram isn't a tool for making predictions (especially not in hiring or promotion decisions), and how it's much more useful as a problem-solving and growth-guiding framework.It's not about labeling people. It's about understanding what's underneath the behavior so we can lead and collaborate better."The Enneagram doesn't tell you what will happen—it helps you understand why something did happen."--> Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/clearer-thinking-today/202504/why-you-shouldnt-always-trust-personality-testsHave a request for a future episode? Drop a text here!

Are you tired of putting everyone else's needs before your own? In this episode of Building the Village, I share The People Pleaser's Recovery Plan: 5 Steps to Take Back Control. If you find yourself constantly saying yes, apologizing unnecessarily, or struggling to set boundaries, this episode is for you. Learn how to:✅ Recognize and admit your people-pleasing tendencies✅ Discover your true self-worth✅ Set healthy boundaries without guilt✅ Confidently say “no” when needed✅ Reclaim control of your time, energy, and life It's time to stop living for others and start prioritizing yourself. Tune in now and take the first step toward freedom!

Dr. La Keita Carter stops by to discuss her Psychology Today Article "What Type Of Apologizer Are You?". She discusses six types of apologies and how they are linked to emotional intelligence. Dr. La Keita D. Carter, a licensed psychologist in Maryland, specializes in trauma, sexual wellness and relationships, addictions, women's issues, and cultural barriers to treatment. A native Baltimorean, Dr. Carter completed her bachelor's degree at Temple University (magna cum laude) as well as master's and doctoral degrees at Loyola University Maryland. Aside from being a licensed psychologist, she is a licensed clinical professional counselor (LCPC) and licensed clinical alcohol & drug counselor (LCADC) in Maryland. Dr. Carter is the owner and CEO of the Institute for HEALing, LLC (iHEAL), an award-winning, nationally-accredited wellness agency based in Owings Mills, MD that specializes in the treatment of mental health disorders in children, teens, and adults. In addition to her practice, she teaches psychology at the undergraduate and graduate levels. Affectionately known as "Dr. C" by her patients and graduate students, she has authored three psychology textbooks and regularly writes articles related to sexual health, wellness, and relationships in her Psychology Today column, Inside Intimacy. Over the past two years, she was recognized as one of Maryland's Most Admired CEOs, Maryland's Top 100 Women (in 2021 and 2023), and Top 40 under 40 by The Daily Record and a Leader in Diversity by The Baltimore Business Journal. She has been featured guest discussing mental health topics in media outlets like The Afro, Fox45, WBAL, New York Times, Washington Post, WJZ13, and Baltimore Sun. With love for her community being a driving force behind her work, she volunteers her time as a member of the Board of Directors for Pro Bono Counseling as well as the Vice-President of the Board of Directors for the Black Mental Health Alliance, Inc. She holds the office of Secretary on the Board of Deacons at Providence Baptist Church as well as chaplain of one of the church's oldest clubs. A 20+ year member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., our nation's oldest historically Black Greek-letter organization, Dr. Carter was initiated in Delta Mu chapter at Temple University. She is an active member in Rho Xi Omega chapter (Baltimore, MD) where she currently serves as the Mental Health Committee Chairman, Technology Committee Chairman, and External Awards Committee Co-chairman. She is married to Jarrett Carter, Sr., and they have four children who range in age from 5-13. She enjoys exercising (lifting and cycling), baking, cooking, traveling, home decorating, and watching movies. She reserves Sundays, her favorite day of the week, for faith, family, and selfcare, which includes baking her weekly loaf of bread. Click here for my headshot. Check out Dr. Carter's Facebook HERE. Check out her Instagram HERE Her Psychology Today Blog HERE Her Website HERE  

It's okay to change things in your business. As a matter of fact, it's critical to your business success that you do evolve. If we don't adapt to our customers, our business will go under and so we have to navigate change with confidence. But change is hard so in this episode I share:  The changes I've experienced in entrepreneurship A BIG change I recently made (with lots of feelings) Why we resist change so much as humans How to navigate change with confidence  Resources Mentioned:  Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-truisms-wellness/201701/why-we-resist-change   Calm Blog Post: https://blog.calm.com/blog/navigating-change   Define Success Free Resource: https://www.amandamckinney.com/success All podcast episodes: https://pod.link/1473751874 Amanda's Website: https://www.amandamckinney.com/ Amanda's Coaching Options: https://www.amandamckinney.com/coaching Amanda's Book: https://www.amandamckinney.com/book

Hey Girl! Do you wish you had more motivation, willpower, and self-control to really accomplish your goals?  Today in episode 23, we are talking about motivation - the different types of motivation and why you can't rely on it to help you crush your goals.  After you listen, if today's episode was good for you and the Spirit leads... Please rate and write a review to help others find us and receive some of the value that you got today!    Check out these mentions from today's episode:  Scripture: 2 Corinthians 4:1 - AMP // Therefore, since we have this ministry, just as we received mercy [from God, granting us salvation, opportunities, and blessings], we do not get discouraged nor lose our motivation.  2 Timothy 1:7 - CEV // God's Spirit doesn't make cowards out of us. The Spirit gives us power, love, and self-control.    Psychology Today  Article about motivation. Adventures of Deanna's YouTube Channel Subscribe to the HealThy SPIRIT email list here. Watch us on YouTube here.    Ok, until next time, I'll see you over in the Heal-Thy SPIRIT Facebook group (link below).    May grace and peace be yours in abundance.   XOXO,   Tia

This episode explores titles and the weight we put on them, either professionally or personally. This leads directly into the Social Comparison Theory, which was discovered in 1954 by psychologist Leon Festinger. Can you imagine what he would be thinking with all of the comparing via social media now?! Ginny talks about upward & downward comparison and the benefits & dangers of comparing. And of course, there's a reference on comparing as it relates to narcissism. Theodore Roosevelt called comparison "the thief of joy." Do you find meaning in your title(s)? Is your joy being stolen from comparison? There are some helpful reminders in this episode to keep us on track with what really matters. Ginny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/ Ginny's Website: www.ginnypriem.com Dr. Steven Dayan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstevendayan/ Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/social-comparison-theory --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ginny-priem/message

Episode Details & LinksOn today's episode I'm joined by Laura & Noel from the Do We Level Up Podcast. We discuss their show and their experiences with running low and no prep sessions.Tricks of the Trade Information & LinksOn tricks of the trade we give you several ideas for how to pull off a low or no prep session.Fantasy Name GeneratorDMs GuildThe Lazy DMGuest Bio & LinksNoel is the Dungeon Master, and Laura a player on the podcast, Do We Level Up.Do We Level Up PodcastTwitterInstagramFacebookKnowledge Check References and LinksIn today's knowledge check I share with you an excerpt from a Psychology Today Article about why wen need to be spontaneous.Green, A. (n.d.). Why we need to be spontaneous. Psychology Today. Retrieved January 4, 2023, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/psy-curious/201605/why-we-need-be-spontaneous My LinktreeAll the links!Keywords: dnd, D&D, dnd podcast, dungeons and dragons, podcast, ttrpg, rpg, roleplaying, roleplaying game, DM, dungeon master, game master, dnd ideas, Podcast Art by Kyle BaerlocherIntro music by 33nano from

We welcome back Dr. Leor Sapir of the Manhattan Institute and City Journal to discuss the pernicious misnomer of "gender affirming care". How did that euphemism for mutilation creep into modern language, and why is the European medical model differing from what is being done in America? The Distortions in Jack Turban's Psychology Today Article on ‘Gender Affirming Care' WPATH Finally Acknowledges Europe's Restrictions on Gender-Affirming Care "Gender-Affirming Care" and the Placebo Effect | City Journal Twitter Thread on Misleading Dutch Studies Twitter Thread on the "Sex-As-Spectrum" Thesis Read Fr. McTeigue's Written Works! Questions? Comments? Feedback? Ask Father!

You might have heard of toxic positivity, but have you heard of toxic independence?In this episode, we're talking about how to move away from toxic independence and closer to an appropriate amount of independence. You'll learn what toxic independence is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it. You might be surprised to learn as you listen that you have more toxic independence traits than you think! I was surprised too. I hope this episode helps you become more aware of your own thoughts and actions and maybe even start to depend on others a little (or a lot) more. If the thought of giving up your independence makes you cringe, don't panic. It will all make sense when you tune in. All show notes are available at https://katrinaubellmd.com/podcast!!Resources Mentioned:10 Behaviors That Reveal Toxic Independence | Power of Positivity Article: https://www.powerofpositivity.com/independence-toxic-behaviors/What's Wrong With Being Independent? | Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/contemporary-psychoanalysis-in-action/201409/whats-wrong-being-independent Leave a Review of My Book: https://a.co/d/4BwGZ6vSign up for the free training: http://katrinaubellmd.com/different

Join Dr. Greg to talk about infatuation, love, and romance. In this episode:1. What is infatuation and is there a healthy dose in love?2. Can you be captivated?3. Reading of Psychology Today Article: "America's Crisis of Distrust"Ask Dr. Greg: https://www.abetterloveproject.org/ask❤️ Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/ABetterLoveProject❤️ This episode was brought to you by our sponsors. Make a one-time tax-deductible contribution: https://donorbox.org/spring-2023-tiktok-creator-internship OR become a sponsor of the show today: https://www.patreon.com/abetterloveproject

Do you avoid doing things because you don't feel good enough? Do you defer to others because you feel unconfident? How do you decide to take action when you're feeling like that? How do you take unconfident action? Sometimes you have to do things when you're scared, unconfident, unsure, or when you just don't feel good enough. We explore how we deal with feeling unconfident, how to recognize if you're self-sabotaging due to being unconfident, and specific ideas of how to take action when you feel unconfident. In This Episode We Discuss What does it mean to take unconfident action? How do unconfident people self-sabotage? How do you take unconfident action? Resources & Related Links Be sure to catch part 1 I'm Not Good Enough if you haven't already. Psychology Today Article by Alice Boyes, Ph.D - 5 Things Unconfident People do to Self-Sabotage Sign up for the email list by visiting blackandbrownmakegreen.com/subscribe We will send you our free 10 Step Guide to Figure Out Your Finances when you sign up. Listen online to this episode at https://blackandbrownmakegreen.com/podcast Disclaimer: Any discussion on our podcast is based on our opinions and personal life experiences. We offer information, not advice, and recommend you seek out a certified financial professional to discuss your personal finances or another professional for your needs. Read the full disclaimer here.

Welcome to Ranting Through Life: Life Hacks for the Creative Soul. In this episode host Jhonu Alicia shares her personal experience with Seasonal Depression and the creative journey. With help from a Psychology Today Article we are going to take steps to keep the seasons bright and not faulter on the goals you have on professional creative journey. Whether a newbie, retired, or somewhere in between, we are all connected through our artist journeys. You are the beholder of your creative soul, so keep tuning in and together let's keep ranting through.  Email connect@jhonu.com with questions, comments or just to share your creative journey!

Welcome to the Dude Make Something Podcast! In this episode I respond to the recent Psychology Today article, "The Rise of Lonely Men". There have been mixed responses to the article. I also discuss the importance of getting what you require in life first before pursuing what you desire. It's a helpful revelation for me that can hopefully help you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dudemakesomethingpodcast/message

Welcome to the Dude Make Something Podcast! In this episode I respond to the recent Psychology Today article, "The Rise of Lonely Men". There have been mixed responses to the article. I also discuss the importance of getting what you require in life first before pursuing what you desire. It's a helpful revelation for me that can hopefully help you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dudemakesomethingpodcast/message

This episode is all about how to take a movement you have observed and experience it in your own body. Check out the FB page here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/652063172486546Support the podcast on Patreon here:www.patreon.com/fieldguidetobodylanguageIn case you're interested here is an article on mirror neurons:Psychology Today Article on Mirror Neurons and Addictionhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-addiction/201907/look-in-the-mirror-neuron-empathy-and-addiction

Inside Out (2015) PG 1h 35m 3: Inside Out: Giving Us Permission to Cry Our Candy Tears If We Want To and Teaching Us Valuable Emotional Lessons Episode Transcript Episode Page with Pictures Episode Host: Jennie Ziverk Carr Co-Host: Sarah Woolverton-Mohler Screen Cares episode host Jennie walks listeners and co-host Sarah through her own headquarters in a discussion of the Pixar classic Inside Out. Screen Cares hosts share the impact of the film in their roles as mothers, partners, and people and explore how the Inside Out can be used as a tool to broaden the social and emotional vocabulary of the entire family, open doors to sometimes difficult conversations about complicated feelings, and provides room for individuals to accepts the important role of sadness in their emotional lives. Jennie has also created two activities to extend the Inside Out caring into the lives of listeners-more information below. Personality Island Mapping Activity by Screen Cares What's in YOUR HEAD-quarters? Activity by Screen Cares   Screen Shares Rating:  Little-Screen Family Screen   Screen Sparks: What was the obstacle Riley needed to overcome?  Does this movie make you cry? Why/why not?  Are some babies born without Joy to lead the way? How does this shape their personality? At the end Joy says “Riley's 12 now. What could happen?”- What indeed? How do you think the emotional life of the character and yourself changes over time? Which feeling leads your emotions? Are they gendered? (Sadness leads Moms, Riley was Joum and Anger led dads) Can memories change? How fluid are they and what can cause them to shift?   Extra Inside Out Movie Info: Directors: Pete Docter & Ronnie Del Carmen (also brought us other heartfelt animated films like Up and Soul) Soundtrack: Michael Giacchino- who has also scored many other noteworthy soundtracks including Jurassic World, Ratatouille, Up, Many Marvel Movies Starring the voices of: Amy Poehler …Joy Phyllis Smith ...Sadness Mindy Kaling-Disgust Bill Hader...Fear Lewis Black-Anger Richard Kind ...Bing Bong Kaitlyn Dias-Riley Diane Lane-Mom  Kyle MacLachlan-Dad (Trey from S&TC) Paula Poundstone- Forgetter Paula (Wait wait don't tell me regular) Bobby Moynihan-Forgetter Bobby (SNL)   Behind the Scenes:  Maxwell's Personality Islands: Three year old Maxwell created his own personality islands and headquarters using found materials in the backyard.   After the Credits Roll-Links Referenced during the show: Amazing extras in the credits (in case you missed them): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DZVnX8bEAs Inside Out Website by Pixar: https://www.pixar.com/feature-films/inside-out Inside Out isn't just fun- it's science-y and useful: 1.Interview with movie consultant and Berkley Prof Dacher Kelter: https://psmag.com/social-justice/a-conversation-with-psychologist-behind-inside-out Creators consulted with two of the leading minds in the study of emotions, Paul Ekman and Dacher Keltner.  Had to simplify the scope of the emotions that would be covered  No love, sympathy, amusement How to speak to use Inside Out to talk to children (and anyone) about emotions: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_lessons_from_inside_out_to_discuss_with_kids Embrace all emotions “Emodiversity leaders to better emotional well being” Prioritize Positivity but don't force happiness Sadness is Vital Joy is only part of happiness  “Sonja Lyubomirsky, author of the best-selling How of Happiness, defines happiness as “the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one's life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile.” (emphasis added) So while positive emotions such as joy are definitely part of the recipe for happiness, they are not the whole shebang. Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/beyond-heroes-and-villains/201506/inside-out-emotional-truths-way-pixar  

In this episode we discuss a recent trending article from Psychology Today that discusses the rise in “single, lonely men” amidst women become more firm in their values and boundaries. We discuss how changes in society and gender roles have created a culture of empowerment, as well as how women have come to take on and embrace different identities. We talk about the impact of social media and pop culture on dating and relationships and our own sense of self-worth. We share our own personal experiences including ways we have come to reinforce our own boundaries and create healthier habits. Below are some amazing resources we recommend as well as the article that inspired today's episode: Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/the-rise-lonely-single-men Book on Adult Attachment, “Attached” (if you have anxious attachment like Kayla or really any relationship issues): https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/about-the-book/ Leah's e-Book: https://www.amazon.ca/Dating-Made-Easy-Step-Step-ebook/dp/B0B2NM76M4/ref=nodl_?dplnkId=f27814ee-3d04-405c-824a-fbc4425bf26a

What does it mean to heal your inner child? The process of growing up into adulthood is filled with many impactful events, some empowering and others not. As children, we are experience life with little to no filter, leaving us open to experience hurts, fears, angers and traumas with an extreme level of intensity and realness. Those "wounds", when not addressed properly, carry into our adulthood and have a profound influence over our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a recent experience where I had the opportunity to look at, talk with and heal my wounded inner child. Resources from this episode: Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evil-deeds/200806/essential-secrets-psychotherapy-the-inner-child * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com

We all have perpetual advice-givers in our lives and it might even be us! I explain today why advice (especially unsolicited) simply does not work and what we ALL need to do instead!Psychology Today Article:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/do-the-right-thing/201407/giving-people-advice-rarely-works-doesBegin The Duel, Win The DaySupport the show (https://www.dueltheday.com/donate)

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Summary: In this episode, we gain a deeper understanding of the experience of trauma, the impact of trauma. we clarify definitions of different aspects of trauma, various categories of trauma, the immediate and delayed signs and symptoms of trauma, and the effects of trauma.  Then I share an experiential exercise with you to help you discover potential areas that might be fruitful for future exploration of your own internal experience.   Opening Dramatic Short Brief descriptions of the experience of trauma  “Outside, the sun shines. Inside, there's only darkness. The blackness is hard to describe, as it's more than symptoms. It's a nothing that becomes everything there is. And what one sees is only a fraction of the trauma inflicted.”  ― Justin Ordoñez “My current life, I realized, was constructed around an absence; for all its richness I still felt as if the floors might give way, as if its core were only a covering of leaves, and I would slip through, falling endlessly, never to get my footing.” ― Esi Edugyan, Washington Black “I wish I'd fallen softly. Light and graceful like a feather drifting slowly to the earth on a warm and dreamy summer's day. I wish that I'd landed softly too. But there is nothing soft or graceful about that devastating moment when the worst has come to pass. The unavoidable truth is that it is hard, cold and brutal. All that you know to be true and good in life shatters in an instant. You feel like a delicate pottery bowl violently tossed from your place of rest, watching yourself crash and scatter across the hostile dark earth. The sound is deafening. Time stops. Inside, the quiet ache of shock and heartbreak slowly makes its grip known. They cut deep, these jagged edges of broken sherds. You gasp for air hungrily, yet somehow forget how to breathe.”― Jodi Sky Rogers Introduction We are born into a not only a fallen world, but a traumatized world  We not only share in a fallen human condition, but a traumatized condition.   “No matter what kind of childhood we've had, nobody escapes trauma while growing up.”― Kenny Weiss The Fall goes way back, before the world was even created, to the fall of the Lucifer, the light-bearer, the morning star and his angels -- and then the fallenness entered our world through original sin, the sin of Adam and Eve, and these are the original traumas, the fall of the angels and original sin.   You and I are together in the adventure of this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am thankful to be with you.   I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, We bring the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith.  This podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com.   Trauma.  We are just beginning a whole series of episodes on trauma.  You've been asking for this -- so many requests for us to address trauma head on.  It's such a tough topic and such an important topic, and we are taking on the tough and important topics that matter to you. Really important to understand the inner experience of trauma -- so you can recognize it in your own life and recognize it an empathetic and attuned way in others' loves.  Part of loving them.   Today, we're going to get an overview of the best of the secular understandings of trauma.  So much has changed since I entered graduate school in 1993 -- back then there was one seminal text on trauma, Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery.  Now, especially in the last 10-15 years, there has been an upsurge of new, fresh and much better ways of understanding trauma.   Outline Impact of Trauma   Definitions of terms Definition of  trauma  Definition of Attachment injury  Definition of relational hurt  Definition of adverse experience.  Categories of Trauma  Recognizing Trauma from the Reactions, signs and symptoms.   Discuss commonly accepted effects of trauma  Go over the traumatic effects of what didn't happen, what was missing  Experiential exercise to help you identify areas of your internal experience that are impacted by trauma   Impact of Trauma From the North Dakota Department of Human Services Fact Sheet   • People who have experienced trauma are:◉ 15 times more likely to attempt suicide◉ 4 times more likely to abuse alcohol◉ 4 times more likely to develop a sexually transmitted disease ◉ 4 times more likely to inject drugs◉ 3 times more likely to use antidepressant medication◉ 3 times more likely to be absent from work◉ 3 times more likely to experience depression◉ 3 times more likely to have serious job problems◉ 2.5 times more likely to smoke◉ 2 times more likely to develop chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD)◉ 2 times more likely to have serious financial problems 16-minute TED MED talk from How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris  September 2014 Definitions of Trauma Lots of confusion   Briere & Scott (2006) Principles of Trauma Therapy: people use the term trauma to refer to  either a traumatic experience or event  the resulting injury or stress,  or the longer-term impacts and consequences  American Psychological Association Website: Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. Problem in emphasizing the emotional aspects. It's much more than that  Misses the overwhelming aspect.   Does get the "response" part right.   Integrated Listening Systems website:  Trauma is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual's ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel a full range of emotions and experiences.   DSM-5  PTSD, Acute Stress Disorder.  Not going to address those here, not worth the time. Highly criticized by many professionals for being very limited and behind the curve, not recognizing the nuances and categories of trauma responses.   Attachment Injury  Definition: Dr. Sue Johnson defines an attachment injury as “a feeling of betrayal or abandonment during a critical time of need.” Very relational.   Uniformed Services University Human Performance Resources sheet:  An attachment injury is an emotional wound to an intimate, interdependent relationship. It usually happens after a breach of trust—particularly in a time of need or a moment of loss or transition. Once an attachment injury occurs, it can leave one or both partners feeling betrayed or abandoned. Examples of causes of attachment injuries from John Gottman "What Makes Love Last: How to build trust and avoid betrayal" Conditional Commitment:  You or your partner are one the lookout for someone more attractive, more desirable, someone who is a better soul mate.   A Nonsexual Affair: sometimes emotional affairs - emotional connection in an exclusive relationship with someone else.   Lying: Deception, dishonesty, little white lies.   Forming a Coalition Against the Partner:  Pulling the kids in, trying to isolate the other person.  No longer collaborative.   Absenteeism or Coldness: Not prioritizing each other at a time of need -- distancing instead -- can have a devastating impact. Whether failing to support during highly stressful events or consistently missing opportunities to turn towards each other during the rigors of life, both are destructive.  Withdrawal of Sexual Interest: This can really be wounding.  Sometimes one spouse is ok with this and the other is not.   Disrespect:  quote by John Gottman… “A loving relationship is not about one person having the upper hand – it's about holding hands.” This includes refusing to acknowledge hurting your partner and a lack of willingness to apologize to your partner.  Unfairness: Dishonesty. Lack of balance in housework, lack of collaboration on finances.   Selfishness: When one partner lives mostly in a self-focused way; behaviors driven by self-absorption can be very wearing on relationship.  Breaking Promises:  Repeated disappointments around broken or unfulfilled promises results in disillusionment and undercuts trust between the spouses. The one breaking promises can unwittingly communicate the message, “You don't matter.”   Additional examples from Lana Isaacson abuse (emotional- gaslighting, power and control, economic, verbal, physical, or sexual),  refusal to forgive or accept partner or let go of resentments (includes excessive criticism, moving out of your home and refusing to return, etc.) after your partner has done significant personal and relational growth work and demonstrating change. Relational Hurts  - Lori Epting at GoodTherapy.org Relational Hurt or Attachment Injury? How to Tell the Difference April 5, 2018  Painful experiences in an attachment relationship inflicted by the other person, but that don't lead to rupture of the relationship Still a sense of love and connection between the people  Still trust and mutuality.   Still a capacity for the couple to move forward  Does the other spouse still love and care for you?  Answer:  Yes.   Examples: forgotten anniversaries, insults, or intense arguments.     Adverse Experiences:  Adverse Childhood Experiences Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) cover a wide range of difficult situations that children either directly face or witness while growing up, before they have developed effective coping skills. ACEs can disrupt the normal course of development and the emotional injury can last long into adulthood. The loss of a parent; neglect; emotional, physical, or sexual abuse; and divorce are among the most common types of Adverse Childhood Experiences.   Prevalence of Adverse Childhood Experiences:  Mental Health Connection of Tarrant County fact sheet -- with studies documenting each statistics.   Four of every 10 children in American say they experienced a physical assault during the past year, with one in 10 receiving an assault-related injury. (2) 2% of all children experienced sexual assault or sexual abuse during the past year, with the rate at nearly 11% for girls aged 14 to 17. (2) Nearly 14% of children repeatedly experienced maltreatment by a caregiver, including nearly 4% who experienced physical abuse. (2) 1 in 4 children was the victim of robbery, vandalism or theft during the previous year. (2) More than 13% of children reported being physically bullied, while more than 1 in 3 said they had been emotionally bullied. (2) 1 in 5 children witnessed violence in their family or the neighborhood during the previous year. (2) In one year, 39% of children between the ages of 12 and 17 reported witnessing violence, 17% reported being a victim of physical assault and 8% reported being the victim of sexual assault. (3) More than 60% of youth age 17 and younger have been exposed to crime, violence and abuse either directly or indirectly. (4 More than 10% of youth age 17 and younger reported five or more exposures to violence. (4) About 10% of children suffered from child maltreatment, were injured in an assault, or witnessed a family member assault another family member. (4) About 25% of youth age 17 and younger were victims of robbery or witnessed a violent act. (4) Nearly half of children and adolescents were assaulted at least once in the past year. (4) Among 536 elementary and middle school children surveyed in an inner city community, 30% had witnessed a stabbing and 26% had witnessed a shooting. (5) Young children exposed to five or more significant adverse experiences in the first three years of childhood face a 76% likelihood of having one or more delays in their language, emotional or brain development. (6) As the number of traumatic events experienced during childhood increases, the risk for the following health problems in adulthood increases: depression; alcoholism; drug abuse; suicide attempts; heart and liver diseases; pregnancy problems; high stress; uncontrollable anger; and family, financial, and job problems. (6) According to the Centers for Disease Control -- root causes of many chronic diseases, most mental illnesses, and most violence.       Physical abuse    Sexual abuse    Verbal abuse    Physical neglect    Emotional neglect    A family member who is depressed or diagnosed with other mental illness    A family member who is addicted to alcohol or another substance    A family member who is in prison    Witnessing a mother being abused    Losing a parent to separation, divorce or death 61% of adults across 25 states experienced oat least one ACE --  Nearly one in six American adults experienced four or more.   Lead to increases in adulthood -- years down the road.   Physical injuries TBI  Fractures  Burns   Mental Health problems Depression  Anxiety  Suicide  PTSD   Maternal Health Unintended pregnancy  Complications in pregnancy  Miscarriage   Infectious Disease HIV  STDs   Chronic disease Cancer  Diabetes   Risky Behaviors Alcohol and Drug abuse  Sexual acting out   Loss of opportunities Education  Occupation  Income   Categories of Trauma Acute vs. Chronic, Causes:  Natural vs. Human, Big T trauma vs. little t trauma, Secondary Trauma, Acknowledged vs. Unacknowledged.   Acute vs. Chronic vs. Complex Trauma Acute Trauma: Psychology Today article Acute trauma reflects intense distress in the immediate aftermath of a one-time event and the reaction is of short duration. Common examples include a car crash, physical or sexual assault, or the sudden death of a loved one.  Chronic Trauma:   can arise from harmful events that are repeated or prolonged. It can develop in response to persistent bullying, neglect, abuse (emotional, physical, or sexual), and domestic violence.  Complex Trauma: can arise from experiencing repeated or multiple traumatic events from which there is no possibility of escape. The sense of being trapped is a feature of the experience. Like other types of trauma, it can undermine a sense of safety in the world and beget hypervigilance, constant (and exhausting!) monitoring of the environment for the possibility of threat.  Big T trauma vs. little t trauma  Trauma here is used to describe the adverse experience Big T Trauma -- Big T Trauma is a reaction to a deeply disturbing, life-threatening event or situation  Powerlessness or helplessness is also a key factor of large ‘T' traumas, Examples of Big T Trauma Violent crime  natural disaster  terrorist attack  sexual assault  Combat  a car or plane accident  Death of a parent for a child   Little T Trauma: Little 't' traumas are described as smaller, more personal distressing events that disrupt our functioning and compromise our capacity to cope. These distressing events are not inherently life or bodily-integrity threatening,Examples of Little T Trauma Interpersonal conflict  Infidelity  Conflict with a boss  Job change  Geographic relocation -- moving to a new part of the country  Romantic breakup  Abrupt or extended relocation  Death of a Pet  Legal trouble  Financial worries or difficulty   Problems -- these describe the event -- as though the event measures the experience.  Not so.  Originally had some support and still do, because of the emphasis on the importance of less obvious events.     Natural vs. Human Causes  Naturally Caused (so called "Acts of God") Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Separated into the four elements Earth, Water, Air and Fire   Earth Earthquakes  Landslides  fallen boulders  Meteorites   Water Floods  Tsunamis  Avalanches  Blizzards   Air Tornadoes  Cyclones  Typhoons  Hurricanes  dust storms  fallen trees   Fire volcanic eruptions  Lightning Strikes  Wildfires   Health physical ailments or diseases  Epidemics  Famines   Human Caused -- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services  Accidental Acts Train derailment, roofing fall, structural collapse, mountaineering accident, aircraft crash, car accident due to malfunction, mine collapse or fire, radiation leak, crane collapse, gas explosion, electrocution, machinery-related accident, oil spill, maritime accident, accidental gun shooting, and sports-related death.   Intentional Acts arson, terrorism, sexual assault and abuse,(see three episode IIC series on Rape, Incest, Shame and Silence, episodes 40, 43,and 44) homicides or suicides, mob violence or rioting, physical abuse and neglect, stabbing or shooting, warfare, domestic violence, poisoned water supply, human trafficking, school violence, torture, home invasion, bank robbery, genocide, and medical or food tampering, harassment, street violence, and bullying   Actions vs. Omissions e.g. abuse vs. neglect   Secondary Trauma:  Psychology Today Article:  Secondary or vicarious trauma arises from exposure to other people's suffering and can strike those in professions that are called on to respond to injury and mayhem, notably physicians, first responders, and law enforcement. Over time, such individuals are at risk for compassion fatigue, whereby they avoid investing emotionally in other people in an attempt to protect themselves from experiencing distress. Acknowledged vs. unacknowledged trauma Frame of reference -- that just how it was  Defining trauma away -- Just because my Dad was a raging unemployed alcoholic and Mom was stressed out with her job and all the housework and we struggled financially and my parents fought all the time, that wasn't trauma, that was just normal.  I never was hit or nothing.   Not like my classmate Billy.  Billy suffered trauma.  His Dad used to hit him with a golf club and he came to school with bruises.  Now that's trauma.  Or the kids that were sexually abused.  That never happened to me.  I just had a rough childhood, but I've moved on, it's all in the past.   Recognizing Trauma from the Signs and Symptoms  -- So important.   Drawing from many sources here, but Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Trauma-Informed Care in Behavioral Health Services. HHS Publication No. (SMA) 13-4801 2014.   Chapter 3 of Understanding the Impact of Trauma  Emotional & psychological Symptoms of Trauma:  Immediate  Emotional overwhelm Characteristic of trauma   Shock  Denial, disbelief  Feeling disconnected or numb or detached  Anxiety or severe fear, even panic attacks  Guilt -- including survivor guilt  Anger, rage  Sadness  Helplessness  Mood swings -- exhilaration about surviving then survivor guilt  Emotional Constriction, Shutdown   Delayed Emotional Signs Irritability, hostility, edginess  Depression  Mood swings  Anxiety  Phobia Generalized anxiety Fears of trauma happening again  Grief  Shame  Feeling very fragile, vulnerable  Emotional detachment, disconnection -- in relationships  Hopelessness, despair  Anhedonia -- inability to enjoy anything  Difficulty experiencing positive emotions     Cognitive Symptoms of Trauma  Immediate Cognitive Reactions Disorientation  Difficulty concentrating  Ruminating, obsessing  Racing thoughts  Intrusive thoughts -- e.g. Replaying the traumatic event over and over again  Visualizations of the event.   Time Distortion  Space Distortion  Extreme alertness; always on the lookout for warnings of potential danger   New sensitivity to loud noises, smells, or other things around you  Memory problems -- unable to remember the event  Feeling out of control  Feeling unreal, depersonalized, not yourself, like you are watching someone else. Depersonalization: Persistent or recurrent experiences of feeling detached from, and as if one were an outside observer of, one's mental processes or body (e.g., feeling as though one were in a dream; feeling a sense of unreality of self or body or of time moving slowly).  Derealization: Persistent or recurrent experiences of unreality of surroundings (e.g., the world around the individual is experienced as unreal, dreamlike, distant, or distorted).  Delayed Cognitive Signs  Dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, body, from memories or sense of identity. This disconnection is automatic and completely out of the person's control.x Amnesia: Often described as "gaps" in memory that can range from minutes to years  Depersonalization: Feeling disconnected from your body or thoughts  Derealization: Feeling disconnected from the world around you  Identity alteration: The sense of being markedly different from another part of yourself  Identity confusion: A sense of confusion about who you really are   we will have a lot more to say about dissociation in future episodes, but for now -- disconnection.   Alexithymia the inability to recognize or describe one's own emotions. -- Can't put my feelings into words.  The experience of trauma can initially defy speech.   “People who suffer from alexithymia tend to feel physically uncomfortable but cannot describe exactly what the problem is. As a result they often have multiple vague and distressing physical complaints that doctors can't diagnose. In addition, they can't figure out for themselves what they're really feeling about any given situation or what makes them feel better or worse. This is the result of numbing, which keeps them from anticipating and responding to the ordinary demands of their bodies in quiet, mindful ways. If you are not aware of what your body needs, you can't take care of it. If you don't feel hunger, you can't nourish yourself. If you mistake anxiety for hunger, you may eat too much. And if you can't feel when you're satiated, you'll keep eating.”  ― Bessel A. van der Kolk  Intrusive memories -- keep coming and coming Reactivation of previous traumatic events -- those from before the most recent trauma Nightmares Confusion, distractions Highly critical of self -- blaming the self, what I could have done better Preoccupation with the event -- all I can think about Denial of the event  “The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.” ― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror  Difficulty with decision making Magical thinking that certain behaviors (including avoidance) will protect me against future harm Suicidal ideation, fantasies Physical symptoms:  Quotes “Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.” (p.97)” ― Bessel A. van der Kolk,    Immediate physical reactions Nausea, gastrointestinal distress  Sweating, shivering  Fainting  Muscle tremors, uncontrollable shaking  Racing heart, fast breathing, elevated blood pressure  Physical agitation  Extreme fatigue, exhaustion  Exaggerated startle responses  Headaches  Ringing in the ears   Delayed Physical symptoms Sleep disturbances, insomnia  Aches, pains, somatization of psychological distress  Appetite change  Difficult with digestion  Persistent fatigue  Elevated cortisol levels  Hyperarousal  Chronic muscle tension  Long-term health problems -- heart, liver, adrenal glands, autoimmune problems, COPD   Behavioral Symptoms:  Immediate Behavioral Reactions Exaggerated startle responses  Restlessness  Argumentative behavior  Increased use of alcohol, drugs, and tobacco  Social withdrawal and relational apathy  Avoidant behaviors   Delayed Behavioral symptoms Avoidance of activities or places that trigger memories of the even  Social relationship disturbances  Decreased activity level  Engagement in high-risk behaviors  Increased use of alcohol and drugs  Impulse control problems  Social withdrawal, which can lead to isolation   “Over time as most people fail the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships. The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.” ― Judith Lewis Herman Difficulty maintaining close relationships Sexual dysfunction Existential Symptoms  Immediate Existential Reactions Intense use of prayer  Restoration of faith in the goodness of others (e.g., receiving help from others)  Loss of self-efficacy   Despair about humanity, particularly if the event was intentional  Negative thoughts about yourself, other people or the world   Immediate disruption of life assumptions (e.g., fairness, safety, goodness, predictability of life)     Delayed Existential Reactions Feeling as though one is permanently damaged  Questioning (e.g., “Why me?”)   Increased cynicism, disillusionment, about the future, about humankind “Unlike simple stress, trauma changes your view of your life and yourself. It shatters your most basic assumptions about yourself and your world — “Life is good,” “I'm safe,” “People are kind,” “I can trust others,” “The future is likely to be good” — and replaces them with feelings like “The world is dangerous,” “I can't win,” “I can't trust other people,” or “There's no hope.”  ― Mark Goulston MD, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder For Dummies     Increased self-confidence (e.g., “If I can survive this, I can survive anything”) Loss of purpose Renewed faith Hopelessness Reestablishing priorities Redefining meaning and importance of life Reworking life's assumptions to accommodate the trauma (e.g., taking a self-defense class to reestablish a sense of safety) Effects of Trauma -- Going beyond the surface level, what is more readily observable in self or others suffering from trauma  Going into survival mode  Necessity of coming out of this alive.  Very primitive, basic responses.  Drive to survive. “We don't learn things that help us to thrive when we are in survival mode. It's only when we are in sensual mode that we do.” ― Lebo Grand   Many, many people live chronically in  Increasing fragmentation -- decreasing integration Overwhelming intensity of experience.  Overwhelming Grief -- episodes 81-83 Integration much more difficult, even impossible in the current conditions  We need disconnects -- we need to not know that if A=B and B=C, then A=C, because A=C is too threatening for us Example of little girl with a sexually abusive father -- can't come to the full implications of that without being overwhelmed.  Loss of a sense of time “When something reminds traumatized people of the past, their right brain reacts as if the traumatic event were happening in the present. But because their left brain is not working very well, they may not be aware that they are re-experiencing and reenacting the past - they are just furious, terrified, enraged, ashamed, or frozen.”  ― Bessel Van Der Kolk  Identity issues  Who am I? “I felt as though everything inside me had been obliterated.   However much I tried, however much I wanted to go back to being who I was before, it was impossible--all that was left was an empty husk of my former self.” ― Shiori Itō, Black Box Shame (episodes 37-49) Trauma generates and activates and exacerbates and perpetuates shame.   Generates Shame “Shame is internalized when one is abandoned. Abandonment is the precise term to describe how one loses one's authentic self and ceases to exist psychologically.”  ― John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You  Genesis 3   Activates Shame Preexisting, unresolved shame can come up.  A plausible explanation for why the adverse event happened or is happening.   Deep sense of not being loved, not being lovable -- often denied, because it's so painful.   “...one of the hardest things to admit is that we weren't loved when we needed it most. It's a terrible feeling, the pain of not being loved.” She was right. I had been groping for the right words to express that murky feeling of betrayal inside, the horrible hollow ache, and to hear Ruth say it—“the pain of not being loved”—I saw how it pervaded my entire consciousness and was at once the story of my past, present, and future.” ― Alex Michaelides  Decreased capacity for relationships Decreasing vulnerability within the self or with others  Out of touch with so much of ourselves.   Lack of Trust “The words "I love you," used to be enough for me. They used to mean the world to me, today they don't mean shit. Oh you love me? Really? Why? How? When did it start? Why? Give me reasons, show me behaviors that PROVE you love me, or get the fuck out of my way. I am not interested in diamonds and platitudes, I want to know that I GENUINELY matter to you, because I don't have time to waste on pretty lies that are ugly beneath the surface.”  ― Devon J Hall  Desperation Can lead to suicidal impulses.  Episodes 76-80.  Spiritual Effects God image issues -- episodes 23-29.   Unconscious and conscious  Problem of evil.   What didn't happen  Attunement  - Daniel Brown and David Elliott Feeling safe and protected afterward    Feeling seen, heard, known, and understood -- someone else making sense of the adverse experience “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”  ― Danielle Bernock, “To survive trauma one must be able to tell a story about it.” ― Natasha Trethewey, Memorial Drive: A Daughter's Memoir   Feeling comforted, soothed, calmed, reassured “Feeling listened to and understood changes our physiology. Being able to articulate a complex feeling and having our feelings recognised lights up our Limbic brain, and creates an ‘ah-ha' moment. In contrast, being met by silence and incomprehension kills the spirit.” ― Bessel van der Kolk     Feeling cherished, treasured, loved, delighted in Feeling that someone had my best interests in mind.   Experiential Exercise -- No-Go Zones.  Not therapy Pencil or pen and paper -- some way to record -- could be your phone.   Safety issues Zone of tolerance  If this doesn't suit you, don't do it.   Can stop at any time.  Take what is helpful to you.  No driving, can stop the recording until you're in a good place for it.   Asking that no part of you overwhelm you.   Not going to open up any traumatic place.  We are focused on delineating where those places are within you.   Going to the lowest place within us.   Really slowing it down Notice what is going on inside you right now.  Can you be curious Can you have a big open heart Can you accept what you find if it's not overwhelming Can you be receptive to new ways of understanding yourself.   Notice the reactions Body Sensations  Emotions  Visual Images  Memories  Inner voice  Thoughts or Beliefs or Assumptions  Impulses  Desires  Fantasies   Any concerns about this so far?  Is it OK?  If not discontinue.  Not the time.  If it's OK, then continue.   Word list -- noticing the reactions to 30 words -- write down any words that you notice reactions to and the reactions if you wish -- body sensations, especially, but also the rest of the list.  Again, we're not trying to explore any areas of trauma, but if you parts are willing, to understand a bit more about your internal world, your inner experience.   School Love Body Not being seen or heard Playground Loneliness Arguing Sickness Alcohol, Drugs Fear Safety Chaos Sex Escape Mom Help Shame Protection Pain Distress Trust Dad Wound Abandonment Abuse Sadness Nothing Guilt Anger Survival Any other words or images or thoughts or anything else in your experience.   Gratitude.     Future Directions -- where we will be zeroing in This episode was bringing to you the conventional secular understandings of trauma.  But there are two area in the secular conceptualizations of trauma that really warrant much deeper exploration.   Physiological or bodily response to trauma -- that's the next episode, episode 89  Not just about memories -- not just about psychology  Trauma involves the whole person. Trauma victims cannot recover until they become familiar with and befriend the sensations in their bodies. Being frightened means that you live in a body that is always on guard. Angry people live in angry bodies. The bodies of child-abuse victims are tense and defensive until they find a way to relax and feel safe. In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past. Bessel Van der Kolk   So much happens in our bodies with trauma -- and so much of that is beyond our capacity to control by sheer willpower in the moment.  “PTSD is a whole-body tragedy, an integral human event of enormous proportions with massive repercussions.”  ― Susan Pease Banitt The Body Keeps the Score -- by Bessel Van der Kolk Polyvagal theory -- Steven Porges.  Recovery “We cannot outrun our past trauma. We can't bury it and think that we will be fine. We cannot skip the essential stage of processing, accepting, and doing the hard, yet necessary trauma recovery work. There's a body-mind connection. Trauma can manifest itself into chronic physical pain, cancer, inflammation, auto-immune conditions, depression, anxiety, PTSD, Complex PTSD, addictions, and ongoing medical conditions.”  ― Dana Arcuri   Common treatment modalities -- EMDR and other ways of treating trauma Then we will get into an Internal Family Systems approach to trauma -- episode 90 Then we will bring all this groundwork on trauma together to address the spiritual dimensions of trauma Really neglected area  So important.  How trauma impacts the spiritual life.     You are a listener to this podcast, and in that sense, you are with me.  I am also with you!  Remember, can call me on my cell any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM for our regular conversation hours.  I've set that time aside for you.  317.567.9594.  (repeat) or email me at crisis@soulsandhearts.com.  Time is running out -- opportunity available only until January 15. The Resilient Catholics Community at Soulsandhearts.com/rcc.  So much information there and videos.   How did you respond to that experiential exercise?  What did you learn?  Was that interesting to you?  Can you see the potential for doing more of that kind of work?  I want to invite you to the Resilient Catholics Community  The Why of the RCC --  It's all about loving with your whole heart -- all of your being.  Getting over all the natural level issues that hold you back from tolerating being loved and from loving God and others.  It's all about your human formation, informed by Internal Family Systems and grounded in our Catholic Faith.   If you really are into this podcast, if these ways of conceptualizing the human person and integration and human formation and resilience are appealing to you, then the Resilient Catholics community, the RCC may be for you.   What of the RCC $99 nonrefundable registration fee gets you The Initial Measures Kit -- which generates a 5 page report, all about your parts  Weekly premium Inner Connections podcast, just for RCC community members --Lots of experiential exercises.   A complete course for working on your human formation 44 weekly sessions over the course of a year for $99 per month subscription  Check it out -- discernment Process   The When of the RCC We open twice per year, next time will be in June 2022, --we've extended the enrollment as far as we can, until January 15.  We are open now.  Soulsandhearts.com/rcc to register.  Call me with questions!    317.567.9594.  (repeat) or email me at crisis@soulsandhearts.com.  So sign up Soulsandhearts.com/rcc. 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In this episode, Paul breaks down the dating term "Needy" so you can identify what it looks like and steer clear of individuals who display it.When it comes to getting back on the dating horse for Boomers and Gen Xers, Carol in the movie I'll See You in My Dreams provides a good look at what it's like. Bill demonstrates both a good old-fashioned take-the-lead attitude and the downside of coming on too strong. This movie has many dating and relationship messages for the 50 Daters age group.Is breaking up by text message a good idea? It depends on the situation. Men often think they're in a relationship when they've only been out on a few dates. Paul discusses how that applies to this episode's dating and relationship question.Is it better to arrange a coffee date or to go for alcoholic drinks on that first meetup? Much of it has to do with the phase of dating you're currently in and with your confidence level. Good dating skills take practice. Paul explains how to put yourself in a position to easily work with either drinks or coffee.Everyone has had those Fridays where things are looking good going into the weekend, but then everything falls apart. Paul walks you through one bad weekend with a canceled date, ghostings, deletions, and incomplete phone calls. Knowing what a bad online dating weekend looks like and what the silver linings are will keep you from feeling so bad when it happens to you.Psychology Today Article:  The Value of "Sober Dating"50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/ 

I'm willing to bet that it's pretty natural for us to adhere to birth order theory which says that the order in which we are born affects our personality. But does it really though? On this solo episode, I put on my research hat and find out if birth order really does matter. ReferencesParents Magazine Article: https://www.parents.com/baby/development/social/birth-order-and-personality/Scientific American Article: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/does-birth-order-affect-personality/Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/singletons/201511/does-your-birth-order-actually-matterJournal of Psychology and Behavioral Science Article: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/335624478_An_Investigation_of_the_Connection_between_Parenting_Styles_Birth_Order_Personality_and_Sibling_Relationships--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Weird Mom Website: https://weirdmompodcast.com/ Weird Mom Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/weirdmompod/ Weird Mom Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WeirdMomPodcast/Weird Mom TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@weirdmompod

In this week's episode, Aeon and the Lioness unpack the deeper symbolism of the Aunt Jemima brand and critically discuss what it really means for Quaker Oats and other companies to engage in performative activism at this point in the Movement for Black Lives. Link to Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting?fbclid=IwAR2vubI2-55mvV-yTX6b5aX8jSJlhhD3TYyNdIYcHOOMsKzdi4KtaKxCmxg Link to Resources for LGBTQ People: Trans Lifeline (1-877-565-8860) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK) The Trevor Project (http://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/) SAGE LGBT Elder Hotline (1-888-234-SAGE) Follow Us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/boxno512podcast Email us at boxno512podcast@gmail.com Become a supporter by becoming a monthly donor to our podcast: https://anchor.fm/boxno512podcast #podsincolor #podcastersofinstagram #podcasts #podcasting #podcastingwhileblack #transpodcasts #blackpodcasts #blackpodcasters #girlslikeus

Boonie is SOLO this episode! Chatting about expectations versus reality. Why you should abandon all of the "should dos" and live the life you want! Support for today's episode comes from Dame Products - a brand is that its mission was to help close the pleasure gap for people with vulvas. Receive 10% off your purchase by using the code BOONIE10, shop here: http://bit.ly/BoonieDame Link to Psychology Today Article  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cui-bono/201802/the-psychology-expectations The hashtag for the podcast #TheBoonieBreakdown. Share with others using the hashtag #PodIn. Join Boonie over on Patreon for exclusive content and events here: Patreon.com/TheBoonieBreakdown  Have something to say? You can ask your questions, send comments via email to thebooniebreakdown@gmail.com or submit here: www.thebooniebreakdown.com/contact/.   Follow The Boonie Breakdown on Social Media: IG: @TheBoonieBreakdown Twitter: @BoonieBreakdown  Facebook: www.facebook.com/TheBoonieBreakdown

In this impactful episode, we once again connect with Joe Feldman. He and some other brilliant colleagues wrote a paper published in Psychology Today that provides research about the value of medical necessity letters. You can download the article at the following link - Psychology Today Article. Joe can be reached at joe.insurance.parity@gmail.com. Enjoy!

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Looking at 'Grit' from a critical standpoint, Adam Naylor did a really interesting article about this in 2015 and I though it would be interesting to share my views about this new buzz word in the soccer community. Adam Naylor EdD, CC-AASP The Sporting Life https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-sporting-life/201505/grits-dilemma Grit's Dilemma, Athletic Persistence is a Complex Construct --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/shaun-spencer/support

In the first episode of 2021, I engage in a solo conversation about the process of unlearning. Join me as I discuss what “unlearning” is, as I provide questions that are often important to ask ourselves as we engage in the unlearning process, and as I share 3 things that I am being intentional in unlearning.*Episodes on this channel are not intended to replace a therapeutic relationship with a licensed therapist.*Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-gen-y-psy/202004/the-power-unlearningLinks mentioned in episode:Shop with Thriving Organics: https://www.thrivingorganicsofficial.comExpand your client network and offer an affordable sliding scale through Open Path Collective: https://openpathcollective.org/open-path-therapists/application/?ref=3288Connect with Me:Website/Blog: www.cultivativecounseling.comInstagram: @cultivativecounselingEmail: drionne.arney@cultivativecounseling.comMusic featured in this episode: Lucid Dreaming by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/cultivative-conversation/exclusive-content

If you were out on an adventure building something new, would you want to be referred to as a lone-ranger or a trailblazer? Many of you have been forced to pivot during this pandemic and all of the challenges that have come with it. Whether you are changing your personal life, business, career, education, relationship or fitness routine, it's possible that the people you surround yourself with don't understand what you're going through and why you're turning down a different road towards something new. This can lead to builder's loneliness, the feeling of being alone on a path as you are building something new. Today's episode will challenge you to look at the tag you're wearing as you walk on this new path and make sure that you've got it defined correctly. Psychology Today Article 7 Types of Loneliness and Why it Matters Sign up to get our weekly email www.TearOutTheTags.com          JOIN THE MISSION, FOLLOW Tear Out the Tags by Embldn Label   Instagram: https://instagram.com/tearoutthetags/ Facebook: https://facebook.com/embldnlabel   THANK YOU FOR LISTENING Bee Evans

If you were out on an adventure building something new, would you want to be referred to as a lone-ranger or a trailblazer? Many of you have been forced to pivot during this pandemic and all of the challenges that have come with it. Whether you are changing your personal life, business, career, education, relationship or fitness routine, it's possible that the people you surround yourself with don't understand what you're going through and why you're turning down a different road towards something new. This can lead to builder's loneliness, the feeling of being alone on a path as you are building something new. Today's episode will challenge you to look at the tag you're wearing as you walk on this new path and make sure that you've got it defined correctly. Psychology Today Article 7 Types of Loneliness and Why it Matters Sign up to get our weekly email www.TearOutTheTags.com JOIN THE MISSION, FOLLOW Tear Out the Tags by Embldn Label Instagram: https://instagram.com/tearoutthetags/ Facebook: https://facebook.com/embldnlabel THANK YOU FOR LISTENING Bee Evans

Angie Atkinson and Dana Morningstar discuss an article from Psychology Today about how narcissists and people pleasers have something in common - plus, narcissistic relationship recovery Q&A. The article was written by Erin Leonard Ph.D., author of the Peaceful Parenting column on Psychology Today. The One Thing a Narcissist and a People-Pleaser Have In Common A common denominator connects these two polar opposites. Article Link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peaceful-parenting/202101/the-one-thing-narcissist-and-people-pleaser-have-in-common Discover. Understand. Overcome. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AuthorAngelaAtkinson?sub_confirmation=1 **NEW!! Become a member of my channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBnyC5I55W__RBj1PMybF5g/join **Never miss a live session! Just text "AngieLive" (no spaces) to 33222 and I'll send you a text each time I get ready to go live! Schedule a coaching appointment with me at http://narcissisticabuserecovery.online Start your healing at https://queenbeeing.com. Take your life to the next level at https://shine.buzz Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com, pick up your free 7-day fear-busting email course (specially designed for narcissistic relationship survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com. Join SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissism in toxic relationships) - AKA "The SPANily" - at http://queenbeeing.com/group-support. Let's Also Connect On: Facebook at https://facebook.com/coachangieatkinson. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachangieatkinson/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachangieatkinson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/angyatkinson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/angieatkinsonSubscribe to Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Angie Atkinson on Soundwise

Running a business when you’re highly sensitive can be challenging – there’s no sugar coating it! However, there are tools that we, as sensitive people, can utilize in order to thrive within our businesses, instead of letting it completely overwhelm us.In today’s episode, Kalina shares how she has dealt with running a small business as a very sensitive person. She shares 4 different tips for not only surviving but thriving as a sensitive entrepreneur, and practical, easy-to-apply tools you can use to help you when you come into contact with difficult people within your business. If you identify as a sensitive person and are in the business world, this one is a must-listen! | References and links: Psychology Today Article - 24 Signs of a Highly Sensitive Person: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201711/24-signs-highly-sensitive-person | Connect with Kalina on her website: kalinastormer.com and on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kalinastormer/ | Check out Kalina's own small business Hunter & June, a specialty dog boutique, at https://hunterandjune.co/.

Hi Guys! Today I decided to read an article that popped up on my feed from Psychology Today: 10 Thinking Errors That Will Crush Your Mental Strength. I gave my current thoughts and opinions on the subject. I hope you guys have a good rest of your day/night! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/my-thought-journal/message

Social media is entertaining, and a great way for our kids to stay in touch with their friends. But, when does it move from fun and compelling, to addictive and compulsive? Learn how and why Social Media targets your kids by making their apps irresistible and near impossible to put down.

Hello, and welcome! During this episode, I share my experiences with closure in life and relationships in general. I also provide you all with five tips on how to find/create your own closure! Supporting reference below: Site name: Psychology Today Article: 5 Ways to Find Closure From the Past Author: Abigail Brenner M.D. Be well and stay safe, D.

Our discussion On the New kinetic capsule and what it could mean for Pokémon Go, Egg pool change up Psychology Today Article on using Pokémon Go to combat a bad day Newest Galar Pokémon in Pokémon GO maybe some crazy thoughts on a how Pokémon hides its lore. Also Our discussion on Sponsorships expanding and the 5G alliances newest members. We are going to start our live streaming more regularly, especially for Pokémon Go PVP, Fitness streams and Various Nintendo Switch/PC gameplay. Podcasting from afar is still a bit of a challenge for our current Computer Set ups so the Podcast will still be drip feed for YT and Podcast will be live asap. If you want to stay social With us check us out with our links for your choices https://linktr.ee/AugmentedNaturally We are doing a push for followers on our Youtube and Twitch we are only looking for about 50 Subs on Youtube and 50 Followers on Twitch. https://www.twitch.tv/augmentednaturally https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyOLueyiRROmt77SiteRMkw/ Once we get those number We will be opening Champions Path Packs that have still been crazy hard to find in our area. (This will keep Gestorm from buying card for no reason, besides collecting especially since we have to upgrade our set ups)

We're talking about our brains this week! Join Lex and Haley in discussing their early thoughts on mental health and how those ideas changed and shaped who they are today. They also share resources and action items for caring for yourself and others who may be experiencing mental health concerns. Psychology Today Article on Mental Health & Relationships: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/couples-thrive/201909/how-mental-illness-affects-romantic-relationships Mental Health America Site on Nurturing Relationships Through Recovery: https://www.mhanational.org/relationships Healthline Article on 21 Things to Do and Ask When Your Partner is Depressed: https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/when-your-partner-is-depressed#helping-questions Special thanks to Kevin MacLeod for our intro and outro music. Funkorama Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

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In this week's episode, Aeon and the Lioness unpack the deeper symbolism of the Aunt Jemima brand and critically discuss what it really means for Quaker Oats and other companies to engage in performative activism at this point in the Movement for Black Lives. Link to Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting?fbclid=IwAR2vubI2-55mvV-yTX6b5aX8jSJlhhD3TYyNdIYcHOOMsKzdi4KtaKxCmxg Link to Resources for LGBTQ People: Trans Lifeline (1-877-565-8860) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK) The Trevor Project (http://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/) SAGE LGBT Elder Hotline (1-888-234-SAGE) Follow Us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/boxno512podcast Email us at boxno512podcast@gmail.com Become a supporter by becoming a monthly donor to our podcast: https://anchor.fm/boxno512podcast #podsincolor #podcastersofinstagram #podcasts #podcasting #podcastingwhileblack #transpodcasts #blackpodcasts #blackpodcasters #girlslikeus #blackwomenpodcasts #transgenderpodcasts #blacktranspodcasts #blacktranswomenpodcasts --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/boxno512podcast/message

Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity makes a victim question their reality in order to gain more power. In this episode of No More Secrets, the duo discusses some warning signs of being gaslit and their personal experiences of it happening to them.Psychology Today Article on GaslightingIf you would like to be a guest on No More Secrets, please fill out the form here and we will be in touch! (In-person recordings will be postponed until after Shelter-in-Place order is lifted.)Mary & Katie's Book: Broken NekFollow us on IG: @thealbrechtauthorsFB: /thealbrechtauthorswww.thealbrechtauthors.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/thealbrechtauthors)

There's a very simple thing we can all do to help our world's immunity. Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-happiness-doctor/201706/happiness-and-your-immune-system *Subscribe or follow on social media to get your weekly Encourage Minute: * www.HeidiRew.com https://www.instagram.com/heidirew https://www.facebook.com/TheHeidiRewShow

In Episode 5 of Spilling the Beans, Amanda explains how dieting creates a scarcity mindset, how this tends to lead to the binge-restrict cycle, and how intuitive eating can help you get out of this cycle. Links Mentioned: Social Distancing | 10 Ideas to Thrive NY Times Article about hoarding hand sanitizer Psychology Today Article about 'Scarcity Mindset' Intuitive Eating book Intuitive Eating workbook If you're looking for ways to get started on your own journey towards food freedom, take my self-paced course: spillingthebeansnutrition.com/course and download your free Intuitive Eating Beginner's Guide. Full show notes can be found spillingthebeansnutrition.com/podcast. Subscribe for weekly episodes, leave a review, and find show notes on www.spillingthebeansnutrition.com/podcast and be sure to follow Amanda on Instagram and Facebook: @spillingthebeans_nutrition --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/spillingthebeans/support

Do you have things you need to let of off? Is it a job, a relationship or self- limiting belief? As 2018 comes to a close, Kea encourages us to let go whatever is holding us back from being the best version of ourselves. Negative self talk does much damage to your mental health than you may think. This episode was inspired by the season that Kea is currently in. The tips and framework of this episode was pulled directly from an article on Psychology Today. Next week’s we will embark on our 50th episode and the podcast turn 1 and Kea would really like to highlight you all who listen, please email Kea or DM on social media of how the podcast has helped you and/or things that you’ve learned. She will read off the reviews during next week’s episode. Psychology Today Article:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-emotional-meter/201708/important-tips-how-let-go-and-free-yourselfDealing With A Break-Up or Divorce Article: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm How To Let Go Of Guilt Article:https://www.bustle.com/articles/176545-how-to-let-go-of-guilt-according-to-an-expert Forgiveness: Your Health Depends On It Article:https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/healthy_aging/healthy_connections/forgiveness-your-health-depends-on-itWhere to find Kea on social media and join the mental health conversation?Twitter: www.twitter.com/firefliespodInstagram: www.instagram.com/firefliespod “Like Us” onFacebook: www.facebook.com/firefliespodJoin the Fireflies Unite: Healthy Minds Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/1714131805325103/Send suggested topics to kea@firefliesunite.com

Get your pencils, calculators, textbooks, and…friends? Yes, it’s back to school time and, for many young people, they’ll be heading to college as first year students, returning students, or transfer students. However, loneliness and concern about making friends is a critical issue so Alysa chats with Ellen Wehrman, the Assistant Director of Central Michigan University’s Sarah R. Opperman Leadership Institute, about the considerations young people should make as they set foot on campus and make new connections. Not only will this episode help students start their new life transition, but it’s directly applicable to ANYONE who experiences life transitions from moving, new jobs, and being part of a retirement community. So, have a listen, take some notes, and put yourself out there to find your success squad! Share Your Friendship Stories with Alysa! Visit the podcast web page for topics= www.bestforeverspod.com/surveys Email Alysa= bestforeverspod@gmail.com   Follow Best Forevers Pod! Facebook = https://www.facebook.com/groups/bestforeverspod/ Instagram= https://www.instagram.com/bestforeverspod/ Twitter = https://twitter.com/BestForeversPod   Support Best Forevers Pod!  Patreon= www.patreon.com/bestforeverspod Merchandise = https://bestforeverspod.threadless.com   Art Work by Kate Cosgrove= http://k8cosgrove.blogspot.com  Theme Music by Trevor Wilson    Psychology Today Article = https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-lights/201709/the-lonely-college-student   Promo from this Episode! 6 Degrees of Wiki= https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/6-degrees-of-wiki/id1287266573?mt=2

C. Diddy (@cdiddy513) & Steph (@bobeaubreaux) discuss mental health of the younger homies, sexual anorexia, Valentine's Day & the expectations for men & women on this day & much more on this episode. The Psychology Today Article we reference on today's episode: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sex-lies-trauma/201408/the-devastating-pain-sexual-anorexics Continue to communicate with us using the #ShootYourShotPod hashtag. And follow us on: Twitter (@SYSPodcast), Instagram (@shootyourshotpod) and Facebook (Shoot Your Shot Pod) If you have a question you want us to discuss on the podcast, email us at shootyourshotpod@gmail.com

Today we look at our own tendancy to use events and actions of other people to confirm our pre-existing beliefs through Snape...and indeed Harry. Find out exactly how they are inverted mirror images of each other, a kind of mutually destructive, corrupted yin and yang. And of course we take this lesson out of JK Rowling's world, and into our own. Find out what feeling is a pretty good clue that you are suffering from confirmation bias, as well as the question that can help you be more objective. Quote of The Episode: Fred and George's U-No-Poo poster from The Half Blood Prince Resources The episode about Harry and Snape and The Shadow: http://harrypottersavedmylife.com/2-harry-and-self-acceptance   The Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/automatic-you/201710/confirmation-bias-why-you-make-terrible-life-choices   Check out The Eating Coach podcast wherever you get your podcasts

It's time for another chat with Good Girls Behaving Badly. Listen to us talk about current events, including Kevin Hart's apology, Target lowering prices, Insecure and more! Plus our main topic, needing closure from broken relationships. Psychology Today Article on Why We Need Closure: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/romantically-attached/201609/why-we-need-closure-broken-relationships Remember to subscribe, rate, like, and comment!

It's time for another chat with Good Girls Behaving Badly. Listen to us talk about current events, including natural disasters, Fenty Beauty, Sloane Stephens and more! Plus our main topic, the difference between venting and dumping. Psychology Today Article on Venting Vs. Dumping: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-empaths-survival-guide/201709/the-difference-between-venting-and-dumping Remember to subscribe, rate, like, and comment!