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“Trauma creates change you don't choose, healing creates change you choose”.We hear so much about trauma and how critical it is to find healing from what caused this deep pain.My guest, Danielle Bernock, is a childhood trauma survivor turned trauma-informed coach, speaker and author.To date she has reached over ONE MILLION emotional trauma survivors, opening their eyes to their value through the power of the love of God.As the founder of Victorious Souls and CEO of 4F Media, she helps executives and organizations reclaim their wellness and inherent value. Danielle is the author of five books, including her transformative debut, Emerging With Wings.In this episode, Danielle shares:Some truths about trauma:Trauma is personal.Trauma is a thief.Trauma is a beast.Trauma is involuntary.Trauma is an invisible wound.Her 4 Step S.E.L.F. process that helps her clients heal. Connect with Daniellehttps://daniellebernock.com/https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellebernock/https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYouhttps://twitter.com/DBernockHere is the link to my free childhood trauma assessment: https://dani-daniellebernock-com.ck.page/de9e550f64 CONNECT WITH DEBIDo you feel stuck? Do you sense it's time for a change but unsure where to start or how to move forward? Schedule a clarity call!Free Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/debironca/free-clarity-callWebsite – https://www.debironca.comInstagram - @debironcaEmail – debironca@gmail.com Check out my online course! Your Story's Changing, finding Purpose in Life's Transitionshttps://course.sequoiatransitioncoaching.com/8-week-programThe Family Letter by Debi Ronca – International Best Sellerhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SSJFXBD
Danielle Bernock is an award-winning, faith-based author, speaker and personal coach who is passionate about helping those of us who are 50 and older live courageous, victorious, and vibrant lives. Danielle shares her story of surviving childhood trauma. She tells us that childhood trauma is an epidemic and adults often diminish it or fail to recognize how it has affected their lives. Often, unhealthy coping leads to alcoholism or drug addiction. She is the author of 5 books including Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain and the Love that Heals and Because You Matter. On her website, she offers a free trauma assessment as well as a 7-day challenge and coaching, speaking, and workshop opportunities.Book: Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain and the Love that Heals; and Because You MatterWebsite: https://www.daniellebernock.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellebernock/
Join the conversation! Send Magic a text here!Today I visit with Danielle Bernock, founder of 4F Media and international award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and self-love coach. Danielle discusses her journey through personal trauma and how it shaped her mission to help others achieve emotional, spiritual, and physical health. She outlines her approach using faith, family, friends, and freedom to guide people from mere survival to thriving. Through sharing her personal experiences with eating disorders and emotional neglect, Danielle emphasizes the importance of self-love, continuous learning, and healing from past traumas for achieving true wealth and well-being.Danielle suffered for years diminishing the truth of the complex trauma in her life. She founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of The LOVE that heals, using all forms of media.Her book Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals was the first work to carry the message that TRAUMA IS PERSONAL, and God is “The LOVE that heals.”You can find your free Emotional Life Journal and more at https://www.daniellebernock.com/free-resources/Support the Show.Connect with Magic:A Magical Life Podcast on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amagicallifepodcast/On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wholisticnaturalhealth/Online: https://wholisticnaturalhealth.com.auA Subito Media production
In the latest episode of the Empowerography Podcast, my guest is Danielle Bernock. Danielle Bernock is a multiple childhood trauma survivor who turned her pain into purpose as an international, award-winning author, dynamic speaker, host of Victorious Souls Podcast, trauma-informed faith-based self-love coach, and founder of 4F Media. Her energy, authenticity and humor help others feel validated and empowered. For years Danielle has been helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with a clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls who embrace the change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. Her books include: Emerging With Wings, A Bird Named Payn, Love's Manifesto, and Because You Matter. In this episode we discuss trauma, ownership and responsibility, victor mindset vs victim mindset and gratitude. Website - https://www.daniellebernock.com/ IG - https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ FB - https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/DanielleB120 LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ In this episode you will learn: 1. Why we should adopt a victor mindset vs a victim mindset. 2. The importance of self-love in your life. 3. What the differences are between self-love, self-compassion and self-care. "No life is perfect. I don't peddle perfection anyway, but you can enjoy your life if you deal with things." - 00:05:41 "Self love is how you see yourself. It's to see yourself with value and to see yourself as worthy of being taken care of."- 00:24:45 "True wealth is having satisfaction in your soul. True wealth is having health." - 00:35:21 THE WORLD needs to hear your message and your story. Don't deny the world of that gift within you that the universe has gave to you. Someone out there needs to hear your story because it will support them in feeling hope, inspired and even transformed. Want to discover how I help my clients get out of their own way, show up and confidently share their message? I would like to invite you to check out my FREE MASTERCLASS REPLAY Start Your Own Podcast: Idea to Implementation Watch Here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7iItDG4qaI
In the latest episode of the Empowerography Podcast, my guest is Danielle Bernock. Danielle Bernock is a multiple childhood trauma survivor who turned her pain into purpose as an international, award-winning author, dynamic speaker, host of Victorious Souls Podcast, trauma-informed faith-based self-love coach, and founder of 4F Media. Her energy, authenticity and humor help others feel validated and empowered. For years Danielle has been helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with a clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls who embrace the change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. Her books include: Emerging With Wings, A Bird Named Payn, Love's Manifesto, and Because You Matter. In this episode we discuss trauma, ownership and responsibility, victor mindset vs victim mindset and gratitude. Website - https://www.daniellebernock.com/ IG - https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ FB - https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/DanielleB120 LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ In this episode you will learn: 1. Why we should adopt a victor mindset vs a victim mindset. 2. The importance of self-love in your life. 3. What the differences are between self-love, self-compassion and self-care. "No life is perfect. I don't peddle perfection anyway, but you can enjoy your life if you deal with things." - 00:05:41 "Self love is how you see yourself. It's to see yourself with value and to see yourself as worthy of being taken care of."- 00:24:45 "True wealth is having satisfaction in your soul. True wealth is having health." - 00:35:21 THE WORLD needs to hear your message and your story. Don't deny the world of that gift within you that the universe has gave to you. Someone out there needs to hear your story because it will support them in feeling hope, inspired and even transformed. Want to discover how I help my clients get out of their own way, show up and confidently share their message? I would like to invite you to check out my FREE MASTERCLASS REPLAY Start Your Own Podcast: Idea to Implementation Watch Here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7iItDG4qaI
Danielle Bernock is an international, award-winning independent author, speaker, trauma-informed faith-based self-love coach, host of Victorious Souls Podcast, and founder of 4F Media. It was with great intention she chose to self-publish her first book, Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And the LOVE that Heals. She's gone on to pen A Bird Named Payn, Love's Manifesto, and Because You Matter: How to Take Ownership of Your Life so You Can Really Live. Danielle has also written for numerous online publications and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Sign up for Danielle's newsletter at https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Personal Website https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Social Media Links https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou https://twitter.com/DBernock https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dbernock
What happens when the wounds of the past leave us feeling lost and broken? Brace yourself for a story that will show how the power of love and self-worth makes it possible to heal from our silent wounds and define on our own terms living a life worth living beyond the rut. If you're feeling trapped in a cycle of self-blame and shame, constantly replaying the traumatic events in your mind, then you are not alone! Despite your efforts to move forward, the wounds of your past continue to haunt you, preventing you from finding the healing you seek. Instead of experiencing self-empowerment and love, you may find yourself stuck in a state of emotional paralysis, unable to break free from the grip of your silent wounds.In this episode, you will be able to:Discover the path to healing from trauma and unlock a life of empowerment and happiness.Uncover the profound impact of childhood emotional neglect and learn how to address it for a brighter future.Understand the lasting effects of trauma on relationships and behaviors, and find strategies to rebuild and strengthen them.Explore positive coping mechanisms and embrace the power of self-awareness in your journey towards healing.Experience the transformative healing power of self-love and learn how to embrace unconditional love for yourself and others.My special guest is Danielle BernockMeet Danielle Bernock, a dynamic speaker, coach, and the host of the Victorious Souls podcast. With her unique blend of empathy and expertise, Danielle is passionate about helping individuals who have experienced trauma and are silently wounded. Through her own personal journey of healing, Danielle has gained valuable insights into the impact of trauma on relationships and the importance of addressing these wounds for personal growth. Her mission is empowering others to recognize and heal from their invisible wounds, allowing them to step into their true potential and pursue their greatness. With her warm and compassionate approach, Danielle offers practical tools and encouragement to guide individuals on their healing journey. Get ready to be inspired as Danielle joins Jerry Dugan on Beyond the Rut to dive deep into the topic of healing from trauma and finding true freedom.Chapters00:03:20 - What Does it Mean to be Silently Wounded? 00:05:37 - The Impact of Fatherhood on Relationships 00:07:43 - Unaddressed Trauma and Its Effects 00:09:32 - Childhood Emotional Neglect and Healing 00:14:02 - The Impact of Unaddressed Trauma, 00:16:25 - The Importance of Safety and Basic Needs, 00:18:39 - Coping Mechanisms and the Dangers of Excessive Behavior, 00:27:23 - Unconditional Love and the Dark Side, 00:31:25 - Recognizing the Value of Every Person, 00:33:56 - Doing the Work to Heal, Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the show
Interview with Danielle Bernock. Danielle talks about her lifelong pursuit of the truth about God's Love, and, how He ultimately convinced her of it. Danielle's free audio book Love's Manifesto is available here: https://bit.ly/2tkMMXpLOVED
Interview with Danielle Bernock. Danielle talks about her lifelong pursuit of the truth about God's Love, and, how He ultimately convinced her of it. Danielle's free audio book Love's Manifesto is available here: https://bit.ly/2tkMMXpLOVED
The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast with Sovann Pen
My guest is Danielle Bernock. "Danielle Bernock is a multiple childhood trauma survivor who turned her pain into purpose as an international, award-winning author, dynamic speaker, host of Victorious Souls Podcast, trauma-informed self-love coach, and founder of 4F Media. For years Danielle has been helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with a clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls who embrace the change from survive to thrive, through the power of the love of God using her proven process S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” Danielle enjoys life with her husband Michael, in Michigan, near their adult children and grandchildren. Her books include: Emerging With Wings, A Bird Named Payn, Love's Manifesto, and Because You Matter. It was at a young age that Danielle's walk with the Lord began, but trauma made a mess of it. Steeped in pain, and without support, her life spiraled out of control. But God understood her pain and pursued her with His love, bringing her back to Himself, and healing her heart. He has commissioned her to share the love she's come to know and empower others to embrace their God-given greatness. " Links: https://daniellebernock.com/ https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou https://twitter.com/DBernock https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dbernock You can watch this episode on my YouTube Channel: https://youtu.be/C2BYP5rE4BAhttps://youtu.be/C2BYP5rE4BA I write more about counseling, marriage, and parenting on my blog: http://www.sovannpen.com/ You can connect with me here: htps://www.instagram.com/sovannpencounseling https://www.facebook.com/CourageCoachingCounseling https://twitter.com/SovannPen
Join Rev. Jocelyn on this special 100th episode of Faith on the Journey as she takes a reflective journey through the captivating moments and transformative lessons shared over the course of the podcast. With gratitude, Rev. Jocelyn highlights powerful clips from her remarkable guests, celebrating their wisdom and the incredible journey of faith they have embarked upon together. Podcast Highlights Forgiveness 02:17 Don't pressure people to forgive too soon, or to return to an abusive relationship ~ Dr. Sharon Ellis Davis (ep 20) 05:09 Forgiveness is a process ~ Dr. Naomi Mitchell (ep 76) 08:04 Forgiveness is like an onion, it's layered ~ Donna Tashjian (ep 74) 09:42 We have a choice at some point in our lives to demand vengeance, or we can be dispensers of grace ~Erik Fitzgerald and Matt Swatzell (ep 17) Grief and loss 11:43 Grief is normal and valid ~ Juni Felix (ep 29) 14:14 Grieving pregnancy loss~ Krystalle Wheeler (ep 64) 15:23 Acceptance is part of the grief process ~Dr. Valencia Montgomery (ep 53) 17:31 Grieving lost dreams ~Michelle Mckinney (ep 35) Struggling with shame 18:38 How it feels struggling with shame ~ Suzette Webb (ep. 14) 21:59 Shame should not become us because we were adopted ~ Dea (ep 66) 22:59 Rewrite your narrative, release shame ~ Rachel Washington (Youtube only) Dynamic powerful stories 24:43 Overcoming victimhood to becoming survivors from traumatic events ~ Wendy Wallace (ep 93) 27:03 Grieving while raising kids while blind ~Michaela Cox (ep 75) 28:08 Getting new hope for the journey~ Chef Kelvin Shinn (ep 65) The Healing Process 30:16 Healing is that it is a step-by-step, moment-by-moment process. ~Shonie Purnell (ep 87) 32:15 Healing needs a sense of safety~Danielle Bernock (ep 72) 35:30 Faith in God and therapy throughout the healing process ~Kristy Goodwin (ep 38) 37:19 Stop "shoulding" on yourself~ Daniele Evans (ep 25) Men episodes 39:40 Seek help, embrace vulnerability, transform ~John Jarman (ep 73) 40:21 Personal transformation through faith and finding meaning and purpose in life ~ Maurice Martin (ep 63) 43:01 Exploring the emotional depth, trauma, and disconnection experienced by men ~ Michael Byrd (ep 88) 45:23 Intersection between faith and Therapy ~Romal Tune (ep 16) Leaders in faith communities 46:58 Encountering pain and distress in churches ~ Dr. Shaniqua James (ep 43) 48:05 How church leaders should interact with someone to bring healing than harm Steven Baldwin (ep 34) 49:32 Renewing our minds ~ Victoria Walker (ep 26) Viewers Choice 52:15 Resilience and determination after false accusations ~ Ken Berry (ep 28) Subscribe/Rate Never miss an episode by hitting the subscribe button RIGHT NOW! Help other people find our community by taking a few moments to leave a review in your podcasting app. Leave a review by clicking the following link and scrolling to the bottom: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faith-on-the-journey-conversations-with-jocelyn/id1528800662 Connect with Faith on the Journey Faith on the Journey is a Christian company that specializes in bible-based trauma healing resources. We offer Christian counseling and healing groups. Learn more by visiting faithonthejourney.org. Subscribe to our email list at faithonthejourney.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/faithonthejourneycounseling/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/faithonthejourney Youtube: Faith on the Journey. Click https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLbmB8oL-hfU6bVW9kEIcFQ to subscribe. The music for this show is provided by Bensound.com. Host: Jocelyn J. Jones Produced by: Jocelyn J Jones Editor: J. Bonifacio The content shared during the Faith on the Journey broadcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to treat or diagnose any mental health condition. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jocelyn-jones8/support
Danielle Bernock is a multiple childhood trauma survivor whose past pain was transformed into present purpose. She is an international, award-winning author, dynamic speaker, host of Victorious Souls Podcast, trauma-informed faith-based self-love coach, and founder of 4F Media. Though beginning her walk with Jesus as a child, trauma made a mess of things in her world. Engulfed in pain, and without support, her life spiraled out of control. But God understood her pain, pursued her with His love, and bringing her back to Himself, He healed her heart. Danielle understands the effects of trauma on a heart, mind, and body, and is here to encourage us - God's not done with you. The Lord has commissioned Danielle to share the love she's come to know, and empower others to embrace their God-given greatness. She is “that lady on the internet who loves you," and reminds us that we aren't humans who needs to be fixed, but rather humans that need to be loved into wholeness. Please SUPPORT His Heartbeat through Crown of Beauty InternationalDonation Page// Cru-Crown of Beauty InternationalCONNECT with His Heartbeat and Crown of Beauty InternationalWebsite// Facebook//InstagramConnect with Sue Corl's Instagram//WebsiteSUBMIT your own scenarios or questionsEmail: crownofbeautyinternational@gmail.comVerses Mentioned in the Show:1 John 4:16Ephesians 3:18-191 John 4:19Matthew 7:7-8Matthew 6:25-341 John 3:1Resources Mentioned in the Show:Boundaries Book Series by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Danielle's Website
I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to sit down with Danielle Bernock, childhood trauma survivor, international award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach. Please join us as we discuss: Danielle's personal story of triumph over “church hurt” her insights on unconditional love as a healing tool the inspiration behind her books … Continue reading Danielle Bernock – Defining Church Hurt; Becoming a Victorious Soul; and Unconditional Love as a Healing Tool →
We need to stop measuring trauma. Why? Because the whole big T and little T thing about trauma is harmful. Trauma is personal and recognizing the truth is where life and healing is found. I learned this writing my first book Emerging With Wings and wrote this: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals Resources https://daniellebernock.com/ https://clarity.fm/daniellebernock https://www.daniellebernock.com/coaching/ Join my community https://dani-daniellebernock-com.ck.page/31bfe7d9fa Additional resources: Books: Emerging With Wings https://amzn.to/3Qm4aQw Because You Matter https://amzn.to/3oUnxEt Socials: https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou https://twitter.com/DBernock https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dbernock #7 on Feedspot: https://blog.feedspot.com/overcoming_adversity_podcasts/ Want to be a guest? https://podmatch.com/signup/fromdanielle Some links I use are affiliate links where I earn a small commission at no cost to you. Disclaimer: Opinions do not replace the advice from a qualified medical professional, and Victorious Souls might not agree with some content shared by guests. #traumaispersonal #stopcomparing #validation #trauma #Traumainformed #childhoodtrauma #emotionaltrauma #stop #traumahealing #loveyourself #book #youareloved #emergingwithwings #becauseyoumatter #quotes #author #coaching #daniellebernock #thatladyontheinternetwholovesyou --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/victorioussoulspodcast/message
When should you test the waters and try to heal a strained but hopeful relationship with a family member? Why is emotional neglect often generational? What does it mean and look like to love yourself? In this podcast episode, I speak about how to heal from childhood emotional neglect with Danielle Bernock. We reflect on how to navigate troubled relationships with parents, and how to grieve, accept, and move on from emotional neglect. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Instagram and Facebook. Sign up for my Free Email Course. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here WEBSITE: www.amiokpodcast.com
All of us deal with trauma of one kind of another throughout our lives, but some people seem to face constant and deep trauma from an early age. Danielle Bernock told her story of getting free from trauma and finding her value in her first book, Emerging with Wings. She has written a number of books since, she hosts the Victorious Souls podcast, and spends her time connecting people to the love that heals. Danielle's Weblinks Website Facebook Instagram YouTube Twitter LinkedIn TikTok
Have you ever experienced some type of trauma, perhaps childhood trauma? This week I welcome back my friend, Danielle Bernock. Danielle found healing from childhood trauma and neglect and now it's her fierce calling and mission to help others find healing. Because Danielle is walking in her calling, others are overcoming trauma through the love that heals. Danielle is passionate about seeing others not just survive, but thrive and reclaim what rightfully belongs to them in the name of Jesus. I know what Danielle shares will encourage, inspire, and challenge you, so listen in while I have a chat with Danielle Bernock. A Few Favorite Quotes by Danielle from Overcoming Trauma Through the Love that Heals "... I've learned how much people need that encouragement--they need that love." "I wanted to encourage people--I wanted to come against that fear." "Trauma is what happens inside a person--trauma is personal." Connect with Danielle and learn more about overcoming trauma through the love that heals ... You can connect with Danielle at daniellebernock.com and find all her books, link to her podcast, coaching info, social media links, courses, and more! More about Danielle ... Danielle Bernock Danielle Bernock is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, trauma-informed self-love coach, and the founder of 4F Media. For years she has been helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls who embrace the change from survive to thrive, through the power of the love of God. Her books include: Emerging With Wings, A Bird Named Payn, Love's Manifesto, and Because You Matter. In addition to her own books, Danielle has written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Having successfully emerged free from her own childhood trauma, she created courses, and workshops to implement her 4 step-proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” Danielle enjoys life with her husband Michael, in Michigan, near their adult children and grandchildren. Love Fierce Calling? If you love Fierce Calling, please leave a rating and review on Podchaser or wherever you are listening to this podcast. And... Do you need a speaker for your next women's event? Check out my speaking page, grab my flyer, and let's talk about me speaking at your next women's event... I love speaking God's truth into the lives of women! Free Gifts for You... Grab one of my free downloads by scrolling down to the bottom of the page! Love & God's Perfect Peace to You! Doris
Check it out on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/33Z4VsE Check it out on Apple: https://apple.co/3AHc2DT Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book Emerging With Wings. She's become an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren and is known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” Dreams: Reach 1 million people with 4F Media and expose the truth of emotional trauma and break the barriers to recovery Raise a Family that's strong, loving, and faith-filled Live a Good Long God-Glorified Life. Spreading the S.E.L.F technique See - Awareness Expose - Look Underneath. Why is that in your life? Love - Courage and Boldness to Do something about it. Get it from ourselves, our family, friends, and from God Free - Do Something About it Introduce Them to: Bob Goff Favorite Book, Movie, or Podcast: Favorite Movie is The Princess Bride Favorite Podcast is her own. Other People's Shoes with Neil Matthews Favorite Book is The One that she Needs Right now Contact them at: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timothy-douglas0/support
Check it out on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/33Z4VsE Check it out on Apple: https://apple.co/3AHc2DT Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book Emerging With Wings. She's become an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren and is known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” Dreams: Reach 1 million people with 4F Media and expose the truth of emotional trauma and break the barriers to recovery Raise a Family that's strong, loving, and faith-filled Live a Good Long God-Glorified Life. Spreading the S.E.L.F technique See - Awareness Expose - Look Underneath. Why is that in your life? Love - Courage and Boldness to Do something about it. Get it from ourselves, our family, friends, and from God Free - Do Something About it Introduce Them to: Bob Goff Favorite Book, Movie, or Podcast: Favorite Movie is The Princess Bride Favorite Podcast is her own. Other People's Shoes with Neil Matthews Favorite Book is The One that she Needs Right now Contact them at: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timothy-douglas0/support
Danielle Bernock is a childhood trauma survivor, international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls.She's created courses, and workshops to implement her 4 step proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.”In this episode we chat about:overcoming the fear of talking about traumatrauma is a wound on the inside personal to each individualshame does not have the right to be there75% of people in the USA are currently suffering from traumathe difference between a trauma event and traumaWhere to find Danielle:Website: https://daniellebernock.com/Book: https://amzn.to/3Sg4nXDSocial Media Connecthttps://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/**********************************************************Join Carol Clegg for the next 6 week POSITIVE INTELLIGENCE® Mental Fitness Program.Shift the balance in your mind and experience sustained improvements in your well being.What is the PQ Difference?Most attempts at positive change fail because we stop at insight and don't build habits. Sustained change towards a more positive mind requires laying down neural pathways to form new habits through consistent daily practice. That is what this program empowers you to do.Develop greater mastery over your own mind by boosting your self-command muscleExpose the lies and limiting beliefs of your Judge who generates all your negative emotionsLearn to convert situations into GiftsDiscover and strengthen your power of EmpathyEmail me at carol @carolclegg.com to sign up.Learn more at https://www.positiveintelligence.com/I am your host Carol Clegg. In my role as a coach, I partner with women solopreneurs in midlife to conquer procrastination, attain balance in their business endeavors, and nurture a positive mindset. By blending personalized accountability and mindset coaching with the powerful Positive Intelligence program, you'll gain the confidence to harness tools that elevate your overall happiness. Feel free to reach out with any inquiries you may have. I'm here to support you on your journey. Let's chat! BOOK your ✅ 30 minute complimentary discovery call carolclegg.com or book your call here https://bit.ly/discoverycallwithcarol Connect on LinkedIn and Instagram Thanks for listening!
“I didn't know I was traumatized. I knew I was miserable." - Danielle BernockEPISODE OVERVIEW:Have you heard the one about the woman who unknowingly suffered trauma after trauma throughout her life? Some mental, some emotional, some physical, some to do with loss of loved ones, and all sorts of hard challenges. You know, the one where after years of struggling she finally realized that she truly is loved and matters. And best yet? She now shares that same hope and love with us today so we can too!This week's Remarkable guest is an author, a coach, an entrepreneur, podcast host, and so much more than just a trauma victim. She is not only living victoriously today, but teaching others around the world to do the same. So if you have a problem with knowing deep in your heart and soul that you are really loved, have worth, purpose, and matter, this episode is for you. Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to the Danielle Bernock story! EPISODE PROUDLY SPONSORED BY: NEW REMARKABLE BOOK! Remarkable People: Volume 1, How They Did It, & You Can Too! Order Your Copy on Amazon Today!
Danielle Bernock is a trauma-informed self-love coach, author, speaker, podcast host, and the founder of 4F Media. For years she has been helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls who embrace the change from survive to thrive, through the power of the love of God. Her first book Emerging With Wings started it all, check out the link below to learn more: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Want to learn more about Dylan or book a session, check out his website: www.dylansessler.com ____________________________________________ Socials: Email: invictus.dev.grp@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dylan_sessler/ Tik Tok: https://tiktok.com/@dylan_sessler Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dylansessler LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dylan-sessler-69a29b19a/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dylan_J_Sessler --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Grandpa Asks:Did You Suffer Childhood Trauma? PLEASE LEAVE ALL REPLIES AT THE BH SALES ANCHOR RADIO PODCAST MESSAGE BOARD Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. The following quote from the book has gone viral: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/Desired CTA I am requesting my Audience PLEASE GO To: https://www.daniellebernock.com/Everything I have to offer can be accessed at my website - including my new website https://victorioussouls.com/ I have many free resources, as well as services to offer. #Childhood Trauma,#Childhood Emotional Neglect,#Christian,#Overcoming Adversity,#Trauma Recovery,#Mental Health,#Author,#Emotional Wellness,#Relationships,#Family,#Self-Love,#Emotions, --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bhsales/message
There is so much trauma in the world - much of it is unresolved and carried around with us. It shows up in many ways - most of which are unhealthy. So how do we heal our trauma to move into a healthier life? How does our faith help us heal? We explore these curious questions in this episode with the author, podcast host, and coach Danielle Bernock. Guest Info: Danielle Bernock is a childhood trauma survivor who turned her pain into purpose as an international, award-winning author, dynamic speaker, host of Victorious Souls Podcast, trauma-informed self-love coach, and founder of 4F Media. Her energy, authenticity, and humor help others feel safe and empowered to embrace the change from surviving to thriving. Website Podcast Books: Emerging With Wings Because You Matter
I this quick prelude show,Grandpa Bill will a bit later today welcome in studio guest Danielle Bernock Trauma-informed Self-love Coach. Author, and Speaker aka #thatladyontheinternetwholovesyou Grandpa Asks:Did You Suffer Childhood Trauma? PLEASE LEAVE ALL REPLIES AT THE BH SALES ANCHOR RADIO PODCAST MESSAGE BOARD Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. The following quote from the book has gone viral: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Desired CTA I am requesting my Audience PLEASE GO To: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Everything I have to offer can be accessed at my website - including my new website https://victorioussouls.com/ I have many free resources, as well as services to offer. #Childhood Trauma,#Childhood Emotional Neglect,#Christian,#Overcoming Adversity,#Trauma Recovery,#Mental Health,#Author,#Emotional Wellness,#Relationships,#Family,#Self-Love,#Emotions, --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bhsales/message
What is The Difference Between Childhood and Adult Traume with Danielle Bernock About Danielle #Danielle Bernock, is a childhood trauma survivor, international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men and women EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls. She's created courses, and workshops to implement her 4 step proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” Danielle married young, raised two kids, and didn't come into her own until she was in her 50's when she wrote and published her first book Emerging With Wings, founded 4F Media, and really started to thrive in life. Childhood trauma is an epidemic and adults often diminish it or fail to recognize it. Unaddressed trauma silently wreaks havoc in every area of a person's life. Danielle is passionate about helping men and women 50+ live a courageous, victorious, and vibrant life. Some of her favorite things: smiling, laughing, eating cheese, and going zip-lining. #Childhood Trauma,#Childhood Emotional Neglect,#Christian,#Overcoming Adversity,#Trauma Recovery,#Mental Health,#Author#Emotional Wellness,#Relationships,#Family,#Self-Love,#Emotions, --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bhsales/message
ResistanceResistance is essentially stress inoculation. It refers to the ability of an individual, group, organization, or even an entire population to resist manifestations of clinical distress, impairment, or dysfunction associated with critical incidents, terrorism, and even mass disasters. Resistance is a form of psychological/behavioral immunity to distress and dysfunction.ResilienceThe second is resilience. According to Dr. George Bonanno, resilience is a naturally-occurring tool most people have always had in their psychological lockers, which is enhanced or weakened by experience and circumstances. In a nutshell, resilience is the power to overcome adversity, trauma, and low self-esteem and to be strengthened.My friend, trauma survivor, and fellow author Danielle Bernock says, “To be resilient is the ability to thrive instead of being traumatized.”5 Tips for Dealing with TraumaTip # 1 – Supervise your self-talk.Tip # 2 – Stop comparing yourself to others.Tip#3 – Stretch your limiting beliefs.Tip # 4 – Build up others.Tip# 5 – Get help.Here is a link to the blogBlessings,John Thurmanwww.johnthurman.infoEmail: john@johnthurman.infoUpcoming Events with JohnFeb 26th - Dealing with Anxiety - Sunday, February 26th @ Grace Church 9:00 and 10:30 am. Church is located @ 6901 San Antonio NE, ABQ. This is a public eventMarch 3rd and 5th - Marriage and Family Conference - Evangel Christian Center 4901 Montgomery Blvd NE, here is the link. This is a public event.March 25th - Book Signing - Bibles Plus 2740 Wyoming NE Times TBAApril 1st - Mental Health for Church Security Teams - Private event
When it comes to trauma have you dealt with it? What have you done to heal from it if so? In this segment, Danielle Bernock shares what trauma is, childhood trauma vs. adult trauma, how to love yourself, and some other powerful GEMS to help you not only survive but thrive. WHO IS DANIELLE BERNOCK? Danielle is a childhood trauma survivor, international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men and women EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls. She's created courses, and workshops to implement her 4-step proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” Danielle married young, raised two kids, and didn't come into her own until she was in her 50's when she wrote and published her first book Emerging With Wings and really started to thrive in life. DANIELLE'S CALL TO ACTION Check out my website and get more info https://www.daniellebernock.com/ GENESIS'S INFO https://genesisamariskemp.net/ CALL TO ACTION Subscribe to GEMS with Genesis Amaris Kemp Channel, Hit the notifications bell so you don't miss any content, and share with family/friends. **REMEMBER - You do not have to let limitations or barriers keep you from achieving your success. Mind over Matter...It's time to shift and unleash your greatest potential. If you would like to be a SPONSOR or have any of your merchandise mentioned, please reach out via email at GEMSwithGenesisAmarisKemp@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/support
“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” My guest today is Danielle Bernock. Danielle is a childhood trauma survivor who turned her pain into purpose as an international, award-winning author, dynamic speaker, host of Victorious Souls Podcast, trauma-informed self-love coach, and founder of 4F Media. Her energy, authenticity, and humor help others feel validated and empowered to embrace the change from survive to thrive. For years Danielle has been helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with a clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls through the power of the love of God using her proven process S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you." Danielle enjoys life with her husband Michael, in Michigan. Her books include: Emerging With Wings, A Bird Named Payn, Love's Manifesto, and Because You Matter. Join me as I walk in Danielle's "Rocket Dog shoes.
“God doesn't care how long it takes because you are worth it.” - Danielle BernockToday's featured Christian bookcaster is a speaker, wife, mother, and Trauma-informed Self-love Coach, Danielle Bernock. Danielle and I had a fun chat about her books, the power of God's love that enables others to share it, and more!!! Key Things You'll Learn:What trauma really is and what does it take to heal from itThe difference between childhood trauma and adult traumaThe importance of building trust early in relationships with direct communication Danielle's Site: https://www.daniellebernock.com/Danielle's Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Danielle-Bernock/author/B00OURKR0M?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=trueDanielle's Podcast, “Victorious Souls”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorious-souls/id1556134709?uo=4 The opening track is titled, "Pure White Field (SfEX2)" by Rukunetsu aka Project R. To listen and download the entire track, click the following link. https://soundcloud.com/rukunetsu/pure-white-field-sfex2 Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmonDonate on PayPal: @DBrightmonBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmonGet Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmon You May Also Like… Ep. 455.5 – “From Triggered to Tranquil” with Dr. Susan Campbell (@drsusan99): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-4555-from-triggered-to-tranquil-with-dr-susan-campbell-drsusan99/ Ep. 434 – “A Soldier's Journey from War to Peace” with Claude AnShin Thomas: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-434-a-soldiers-journey-from-war-to-peace-with-claude-anshin-thomas/ Ep. 440 – “Healer: Reducing Crises” with Elizabeth Power (@ElizabethPower): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-440-healer-reducing-crises-with-elizabeth-power-elizabethpower/ Ep. 590 – “You're Not Alone” with Zach Westerbeck (@Zachwesterbeck): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-590-youre-not-alone-with-zach-westerbeck-zachwesterbeck/ Ep. 329 – “You Were Not Born to Suffer” with Blake Bauer (@BlakeBauer): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-329-you-were-not-born-to-suffer-with-blake-bauer-blakebauer/ 289.5 (Charm City Bonus Episode) “Love Made Simple” with Juan Lee (@LoveMadeSimple): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/2895-charm-city-bonus-episode-love-made-simple-with-juan-lee-lovemadesimple/ #Bonus Host2Host Ep.– “Unleashing the Power of Respect” with Dr. Joseph Shrand (@Drjoeshrand): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-host2host-ep-unleashing-the-power-of-respect-with-dr-joseph-shrand-drjoeshrand/ 166 - "Inmate 458627" with Rashad "Bowtie" Mills (@RashadMills629): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/166-inmate-458627-with-rashad-bowtie-mills-rashadmills629/ Ep. 500 – “Life Reset” With Dr. Foojan Zeine, Psy.D., MFT (@DrZeine): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-500-life-reset-with-dr-foojan-zeine-psyd-mft-drzeine/ Ep. 596 – “The Self-Healing Mind” with Dr. Gregory Scott Brown (@GregorySBrownMD): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-596-the-self-healing-mind-with-dr-gregory-scott-brown-gregorysbrownmd/ 97.5 (Thanksgiving Bonus Episode) - "MindShift On Demand" with Donna Blevins (@BigGirlPoker): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/975-thanksgiving-bonus-episode-mindshift-on-demand-with-donna-blevins-biggirlpoker/ Ep. 507 – “From Hardened to Healed” with Dr. Debi Silber (@DebiSilber): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-507-from-hardened-to-healed-with-dr-debi-silber-debisilber/ Ep. 419 – “Overcoming Toxic Emotions” with Leah Guy: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-419-overcoming-toxic-emotions-with-leah-guy/Ep. 471 – “How to Turn Suffering Into Something Good” with Darci Steiner (@DarciJSteiner): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-471-how-to-turn-suffering-into-something-good-with-darci-steiner-darcijsteiner/
God led to me set up a table in a grocery store to tell people about my Devotional series, "Whispering in His Ear" and "God's Voice and How to Listen." But along with sales, came evangelism, prayer, and an opportunity to remind people that God is faithful and is with us always! Special shoutout to Danielle Bernock of the Victorious Souls podcast for telling me about the Authors in Grocery Store program! If you missed me at the stores, get my Devotional series on Amazon.
Danielle Bernock is the lady on the internet who loves you. She is an author, podcast host, and life coach from Michigan who came into her own after age 50. Her past history of trauma gave her a stoic yet oppressive attitude toward dealing with the life changes we all go through. She talks about her struggles and how she learned to deal with the past trauma in her life that she only discovered after writing her book at age 55. This is a conversation about faith, realization and re-evaluation of our lives. Her books are: Emerging With Wings, A Bird Named Payn, Love's Manifesto and Because You Matter and you can find them HERE. You can learn more about Danielle at her WEBSITE . If you would like to contact Danielle directly you can email her at dani@daniellebernock You can also listen to Danielle's podcast called The Victorious Souls Podcast anywhere you listen to podcasts. ********************************* Kim Benoy is a recently retired RN, wife and mother who has found a passion for inspiring other women using essential oils, blog, and podcast called Midlife with Courage. She is following her journey to be a light and lead others who are feeling stuck and even bored doing what is expected. She helps women over 40 find their courage, confidence and calm so they can live every moment! Website: www.midlifewithcourage.com Instagram: @midlife_with_courage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Midlifewithcourage LinkedIn profile: linkedin.com/in/kim-benoy-250754111
“Trauma is personal. Trauma is a thief. Trauma is a beast and trauma is an involuntary, invisible wound.” These are the words from author, speaker, and coach Danielle Bernock. As a survivor of childhood trauma and emotional neglect, she shares the process she went through to heal from her hidden wounds, develop a new understanding of God's love, and eventually launch her ministry to help childhood trauma survivors across the world. Enjoyed this podcast episode? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and WRITE A REVIEW. Resources Find a Christian Counselor today at www.faithonthejourney.org/counseling Discover Free Grief Resources at faithonthejourney.org/grief Download a Free Trauma Healing Church Resource guide at: traumahealingchurch.com You can find Rev. Jocelyn J. Jones' book at breakingthemask.com Learn more about the Trauma Healing Institute by visiting faithonthejourney.org/healing-groups Connect with Danielle at: Books and services... https://daniellebernock.com/ Books Emerging With Wings https://amzn.to/3Qm4aQw Because You Matter https://amzn.to/3oUnxEt On Social Media at: https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou https://twitter.com/DBernock https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ Can we add you to our e-newsletter? https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/kHUxQqy Connect with Jocelyn Connect with Jocelyn on Social Media at linktr.ee/jocelynjjones Show produced, edited, and hosted by Jocelyn J. Jones Music provided by bensound.com Support this podcast by visiting: https://anchor.fm/jocelyn-jones8/support --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jocelyn-jones8/support
Danielle Bernock shares what it means to love yourself! , International, award-winnig author, speaker, podcast host, trauma-informed Self-Love Coach, helps men, women and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value. www.daniellebernock.com
Host NJ welcomes Author, Speaker, and Trauma Informed Self-love Coach, Danielle Bernock. NJ and Danielle will discuss the damage trauma can cause and how it can keep us stuck, showing up in numerous ways throughout our lifetime. Learn more about what can cause trauma and how to deal with it. If you have ever experienced trauma, you do not want to miss this show!https://www.daniellebernock.com/Support the showSubscribe at any of the venues below:www.nichellejohnson.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/BossRadioNJ/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bossradio_nj/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLHN5w1BC4_x3PUtDKB8yxA
Get ready to hear a kind voice of wisdom, love, and honesty. Danielle Bernock is an author, coach, and survivor of childhood trauma. In her own words: I'm on a mission to open the eyes of ONE MILLION emotional trauma survivors to their value and belovedness through the power of the love of God.Through my process of healing from childhood trauma and childhood emotional neglect I learned the truth about trauma.Trauma is personal.Trauma is a thief.Trauma is a beast.Trauma is an involuntary, invisible wound.I am passionate about this! Surviving isn't enough. You deserve to THRIVE and RECLAIM what rightfully belongs to you in the name of Jesus.
Danielle Bernock talks about overcoming childhood trauma and rejection to embrace the love and acceptance of her heavenly Father. https://livesteadyon.com/Email Angie at: steadyonpodcast@gmail.comFacebook: @livesteadyonInstagram: @angiebaughman421Grab freebies and subscribe to the weekly Steady On newsletter at: https://livesteadyon.com/live-steady-on-newsletter/ Looking for something not listed? It's probably here: https://linktr.ee/livesteadyon https://www.daniellebernock.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/IG: https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYouTwitter: https://twitter.com/DBernoc Danielle mentionedPsalm 23 YouVersion devotional study: https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/29867-psalm-23-the-lord-is-my-shepherdCleaning Up Your Mental Mess by Dr. Caroline LeafI Hear His Whisper Daily Devotional Hear my interview on Danielle's show here:https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast/episodes/Accepting-The-Call-To-Freedom-Out-Of-Aloneness--Shame--And-Pain--S2Ep55-e1jm342 Theme music:Heartwarming by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3864-heartwarmingLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Welcome to Linda's Corner. In this episode, Danielle Bernock shares the dangers of unresolved trauma and how we can heal. Danielle is that lady on the internet who loves you. She is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, trauma-informed self-love coach, and the founder of 4F media. You can reach Danielle at her website https://www.daniellebernock.com.Some of the highlights Danielle shares:What is childhood emotional neglect and how does it affect us?Danielle shares her personal story of healing from childhood traumaWhy she is known as "that lady on the internet who loves you"The healing process of SELF: See, Expose, Love, FreeDid you know that people can be suffering from trauma and not know it?What does it mean to love yourself? Additional resources for trauma awareness such as "The Wisdom of Trauma" with Dr. Gabor MateHow to fill ourselves with loveWhy we search for answers rather than for someone to blameHow to heal rather than staying stuckHow to overcome fear with loveAnd morePlease share, subscribe, leave a rating and review, visit the Linda's Corner website at lindascornerpodcast.com and/or follow on youtube, facebook, instagram, and pinterest @lindascornerpodcast. Thanks!Also please visit the Hope for Healing website at hopeforhealingfoundation.org for free resources to increase happiness, build confidence and self esteem, improve relationships, manage stress, and calm feelings of depression and anxiety.
Do you feel as if you have no value and never will? Do you wonder why you are on this planet at all? Listen to and be encouraged by Danielle's story! Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, and the LOVE that Heals Danielle Bernock Because You Matter: How To Take Ownership of Your Life So You Can Really Live Danielle Bernock https://www.daniellebernock.com https://victorioussouls.com
Julia chats with speaker, author, and coach, Danielle Bernock, about a passage from John's first letter. The two chat about how this verse connects to John's Gospel and what it teaches us about God's love and loving ourselves. You can learn more about Danielle and her work on her website: www.daniellebernock.com.
Stephanie had a powerful conversation with Danielle Bernock about not only surviving trauma, but "emerging with wings!"Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book.The following quote from the book has gone viral:“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that HealsDanielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/ https://victorioussouls.com/
Danielle Bernock is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from surviving to thriving through the power of the love of God. You can find all of her books, podcast, etc. at her website: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ If you want to read her full birthday list: https://www.daniellebernock.com/10-bizarre-things-about-me-for-fun-for-my-birthday/ If you have questions or just need to talk, Danielle is always willing to help. You can reach her here: https://clarity.fm/daniellebernock Please support my sponsors! I know them all personally and can vouch for their integrity and quality. -Apparel Lab for all your shirts, hats, mugs hoodies, or WHATEVER you want to put your logo or ideas on! Go check out their website at https://apparellab.ink/ -For website design, graphic design, internet marketing, and more check out McWilliams Marketing at http://www.McWilliamsmarketing.com -Use Patnaik Realty for ANY real estate needs you have. I mean anything! Residential, commercial, property management, investments, acquisitions. He does it all. Call Teek at 256-694-0117 or e-mail him at Teek@PatnaikCo.com -Get your child caught up on their school math with Mathnasium of Madison. Their website is http://www.mathnasium.com/madisonal -Go check out my Amazon Best Selling Book "Relentless Positivity"- https://cutt.ly/Nj7jqNN --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/relentlesspositivity/message
Victorious Souls Danielle Bernock pt 2 https://www.daniellebernock.com/ ()Rejection. That affects all of us at one time or another. It also can be something a lot of people just accept as a normal way of life. When we get to that point, we believe it just is. And that's that. Some people actually believe GOD has rejected us. Our sins may have separated us forever from Him, so there is no need to even try and repair that relationship. We just accept that we will never be loved. But, folks, that is just a lie of the devil. The problem is, so many people just accept it! But that does not have to be YOU! Amen! Danielle's childhood was one of rejection. She felt rejected at home. She felt rejected at church. That rejection led her to believe life was hopeless. If even God did not love her, what was the point? But, the Truth was, God DID Love her! Amen! She came to a realization that God had been with her all along. He is with you, too. Amen! She went from being a trauma survivor to an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host and trauma-informed “self-love” coach who is able to help men, women and even organizations to becoming “Victorious Souls.” She has courses and workshops that help people to implement a proven process called S.E.L.F. She is widely known as “That lady on the internet who loves you!” This is the conclusion of a great two part interview... Your company is called “4F Media.” What are the four “F's” stand for? 29:30 Are they the four core values of a “Victorious Soul,” or are those values something else? How did you become known as the “Lady on the Internet that Loves You?” As we mentioned, you are also an author. Tell us about https://amzn.to/3Bk3Ey7 (“Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain and the Love that Heals.”) Danielle's book, https://amzn.to/3cFsgXH (“A Bird Named Payn”) is about the loss of her mother-in-law and how to embrace the pain. Danielle's most recent book is https://amzn.to/3JcTdOx (“Because You Matter: How to Take Ownership of Your Life So You Can Really Live.”) Danielle shares, not only information about her past, but some interviews with others as well. Danielle's book, https://app.convertkit.com/landing_pages/208700?v=7 (“Loves Manifesto”) – is available for FREE on her website! How can someone obtain a copy of your books? Are they all on Amazon? As we get ready to close, I have to ask about your podcast, https://www.daniellebernock.com/podcast/ (“The Victorious Souls Podcast.”) Is this an interview podcast, or teaching…? What can someone expect when they listen in? Danielle, this has been so interesting, I feel I could just talk to you for hours. Amen! If someone wanted to get in touch with you, to ask a question or maybe to do an interview such as this, how can they do that? How can they get in touch with you? Folks, we all have either experienced first-hand, or know someone who has, what being traumatized is all about. What feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness or questions of “why I'm even here” – are all about. Danielle Bernock has made it her life mission to help people overcome these feelings; overcome these questions and to walk a “Victorious” life. To help you to make sure that you are a “Victorious Soul” and thriving and helping others in the process. Praise God! This is an awesome work and you need to get in touch with Danielle to find out more. Just drop down into the show notes, reach out to her there by clicking the links. Be sure to order copies of her books – ALL THREE, Praise God – by clicking on the links right there as well. Even if you feel you do not need this information, I can guarantee you know somebody who can! Somebody you care about that may be going through some of the things Danielle has shared with us. Allow God to use YOU to be the first step in deliverance for that person. Buy one or more copies of Danielle's books, read them and them pass them along to bless...
Victorious Souls Danielle Bernock pt 1 https://www.daniellebernock.com/ ()Rejection. That affects all of us at one time or another. It also can be something a lot of people just accept as a normal way of life. When we get to that point, we believe it just is. And that's that. Some people actually believe GOD has rejected us. Our sins may have separated us forever from Him, so there is no need to even try and repair that relationship. We just accept that we will never be loved. But, folks, that is just a lie of the devil. The problem is, so many people just accept it! But that does not have to be YOU! Amen! Danielle's childhood was one of rejection. She felt rejected at home. She felt rejected at church. That rejection led her to believe life was hopeless. If even God did not love her, what was the point? But, the Truth was, God DID Love her! Amen! She came to a realization that God had been with her all along. He is with you, too. Amen! She went from being a trauma survivor to an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host and trauma-informed “self-love” coach who is able to help men, women and even organizations to becoming “Victorious Souls.” She has courses and workshops that help people to implement a proven process called S.E.L.F. She is widely known as “That lady on the internet who loves you!” The first question I always start with is this. Other than that brief information I just gave, can you tell us in our own words, “Who is Danielle Bernock?” Your story starts with being a “childhood trauma survivor.” Were you traumatized at school or church as well as at home? At what point did you come to realize that God DID love you? How did that transform your outlook? Can you explain to us how trauma is different in adults as compared to children? I mentioned your four step process called “S.E.L.F.” Can you explain this process for us? Folks, we all have either experienced first-hand, or know someone who has, what being traumatized is all about. What feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness or questions of “why I'm even here” – are all about. Danielle Bernock has made it her life mission to help people overcome these feelings; overcome these questions and to walk a “Victorious” life. Just drop down into the show notes, reach out to her there by clicking the links. Be sure to order copies of her books – ALL THREE, Praise God – by clicking on the links right there as well. Even if you feel you do not need this information, I can guarantee you know somebody who can! Somebody you care about that may be going through some of the things Danielle has shared with us. Allow God to use YOU to be the first step in deliverance for that person. Buy one or more copies of Danielle's books, read them and them pass them along to bless someone else. You never know whose life you will impact and allow God to make them into a “Victorious Soul!” CONTACT INFORMATION: https://amzn.to/3Bk3Ey7 () https://amzn.to/3cFsgXH () https://amzn.to/3JcTdOx () CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: dani@daniellebernock.com Website: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ (https://www.daniellebernock.com) Podcast: https://www.daniellebernock.com/podcast/ (https://www.daniellebernock.com/podcast/) Book: https://amzn.to/3Bk3Ey7 (“Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain and the LOVE That Heals”) – on Amazon Book: https://amzn.to/3cFsgXH (“A Bird Named Payn”) – on Amazon Book: https://amzn.to/3JcTdOx (“Because You Matter: How to Take Ownership of Your Life So You Can Really Live”) – on Amazon https://app.convertkit.com/landing_pages/208700?v=7 (FREE PDF VERSION of “Loves Manifesto!”)
In this episode I am speaking with the amazing Danielle Bernock who is an international award winning author, speaker, podcast host and trauma informed self-love coach. Danielle shares her own journey with traum, she explains what trauma is, she tells us how you can suffer from trauma and not know it, what it takes to heal trauma and so much more. Danielle clearly is on a mission to heal our world from trauma and spread love everywhere. This is a must listen for you if you would like to heal and up your total glow on a deeper level. To learn more about Danielle`s amazing work please click the following links:https://www.daniellebernock.com/ https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast https://www.daniellebernock.com/coaching/If you would like more support and guidance to uncover your most glowing, healthiest and feel-good version of YOU from me, then please book your 30-minutes free discovery session with me here:https://www.ithriveforhealth.com/podcastfreebies/
Join 6AMRun.com Founder & CEO Hami Mahani, & co-host Ari F. as we introduce you to Danielle Bernock. Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/ To be a guest, or share your story with the 6AM Run Community apply at: https://forms.gle/hBHCKpYKT6R9tH6m7See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Danielle Bernock - Trauma and How to Find Healing Are there times when you could really use a hug? Some days even a strangers kind word brings encouragement for a heart that is in trauma mode. My guest Danielle Bernock is known on the internet as the lady who loves you and after my brief time with her I can honestly say I know why. She understands the wounds of trauma, knows how to find healing and more importantly she is willing to love you through the process. I left our conversation feeling loved-on with a new understanding on several different aspects of trauma. I'm hoping that as you listen in today you feel loved-on, encouraged, and a find new level of freedom to apply to your life. Danielle explains what trauma is and what it is not, the difference between self-love for selfishness and the self-love that honors God. We talked about the dangers of unresolved trauma, why we automatically default to negative thinking and the root of why we blame ourselves for the trauma that we're left with. We discussed Trauma Bonds, and she gave several very practical examples of why it's important to take care of ourselves and find healing with regard to trauma. She has a process of healing based on the word self. She uses the word SELF as an acronym to give distinction to the steps and give a shape to the process that she uses to bring healing to those in search of relief and she does it in the most loving way. When I say loving, I mean humble, kind hearted. You feel a kindred spirit. She knows where you've been. She has an idea of what you're going through and she shows no judgement against anything you may disclose/share. To me, Danielle represents the heart of God well. To heal the brokenhearted. To bind up their wounds. To restore. Not to its old ways but in newness of life, freedom and peace. If you can benefit from a new level of freedom, you're in the right place today! Lived Loved and Thrive! @A Life of Thrive! Get Connected to Danielle: Website Free Resources Products Mentioned (no affiliate connection): Dr. Jonice Webb What Happened to You - By Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry Scriptures Referenced: Matthew 25:14-30 1 John 4:19 John 6:37 Transcript
WOVE Inspiration - Inspiration For Women and the Men Who Love Them
Danielle Bernock is a childhood trauma survivor, international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their promise, becoming Victorious Souls. She's created courses, and workshops to implement her 4 step-proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” For more information, go to: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ or https://www.victorioussouls.com/ Background music Artist: PRYCES Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/pryces/music-is License code: HBXBWG2KFT3LQJBG
In this episode, join Dr. Watkins and Danielle Bernock as they discuss Trauma and its effect on your personal life. You will learn how to heal your childhood self, how to take ownership of your choices, how to chart your path to promise and so much more! You can also find out more about Danielle at: https://www.daniellebernock.com/
In this episode of “The Journey of My Mother's Son” podcast, I sit down to talk with Danielle Bernock. Danielle founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. The following quote from the book has gone viral: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals. Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long-time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle, check out her website at www.daniellebernock.com.
Danielle Bernock is Dr. Brad Miller's guest on Episode 207 of “The Beyond Adversity Podcast.” Danielle talks about childhood trauma and how you can get through it. In her personal experience, she is a survivor of multiple childhood traumas. She dismissed these traumas because she thought they were not bad enough because she was not sexually molested, hadn't been through a natural disaster, or had a major traumatic event in her childhood. She compared all the trauma she has been through to things that are massive in scale, which is why she dismissed them as nothing. She grew up in a very authoritarian home. Whenever she had emotions, all she did was keep them inside her. Her parents did not help with this which is why she concluded that this form of the trauma she had is called childhood emotional neglect. Bullying was also one of the traumas she went through. She was not born Danielle Bernock. She legally changed her name in 1988. Her trauma was associated with her old name. One of the events that affected her entire life was a public humiliation she suffered in front of the entire church. However, she eventually intervened and through many processes, she was healed of all the trauma she had. She also suffered a lot of death while growing up. Her grandmother, her father, her older brother, and a close friend in high school all died in a 4–5-year period, which added to the neglect she felt at home and the bullying she had in church, among other things. Danielle had a warrior mindset even though she was a highly sensitive person. She decided that she is not going to live like she was at the time. She had the drive to want to heal, be different, and change. A turning point in her life was when she went on a road trip with a friend, and she discovered her love for God. Episode 207 of The Beyond Adversity Podcast is a must-listen for anyone who's been through trauma and has considered giving up. Receiving love and loving yourself are keys to a fulfilled life. It might be hard but struggling and never giving up will take you a long way in life. All you have to do is fight. “The Beyond Adversity Podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is published weekly with the mission of helping people “Grow Through What They Go Through” as they navigate adversity and discover their promised life of peace, prosperity, and purpose. Website: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ (https://www.daniellebernock.com/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock (https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock) Twitter: https://twitter.com/DBernock (https://twitter.com/DBernock) YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou (https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ (https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/)
In this episode, I'm chatting with Danielle Bernock. Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, trauma informed self-love coach and founder of 4F Media. She helps men, women and organizations take ownership of their choices, find their purpose and uses her S.E.L.F. framework to help you truly embody the mantra ‘love yourself from survive to thrive'. Danielle mentions that her mother came to her and asked to work on their relationship. I think that's wonderful and I'm so happy that the two of them got to experience that connection on a whole new level with a greater understanding of one another than ever before. I just want to add something in there…if that's not something possible for you - for a variety of reasons, maybe your mother is no longer living, maybe you've gone complete no-contact, maybe she is never going to be the person to do enough work to show up in a different way like this….you didn't do anything wrong. It's not your fault. It's not for lack of trying on your part. It doesn't bear any reflection of your worthiness of love. And it's okay to feel all the feelings that that might bring to the surface for you.In this episode you'll learn: A classic trauma response so many survivors rely on to dismiss the severity of what they've lived throughGiving yourself permission to acknowledge you have trauma that needs healingThe power of the words we use with others, and with ourselvesWhy the lens we view our trauma from is so important, because adults and children process it very differentlyHow we can sometimes be triggered by our own kids when they reach the same age our own traumatic experiences happened atDigging into our triggers and exploring the lessons we can learn from them and the subconscious stories they replay in our livesFor more from Danielle: https://daniellebernock.com/Grab the PLAYbook: 36 play-based activities for connection & co-regulation with your child here!For More from Christa:Join the "virtual village" on FacebookFind me on InstagramGet started with a free 20-minute consult to see how I can support you on your journey of mothering radically.A radical mother is a woman poised in her power ready to disrupt cycles of generational trauma running through her family like wildfire. She's working to improve her life, the lives of her children, and shape the landscape of her community. If that's you - you're in the right place. This podcast is designed to connect you with resources, inspiration, and the reminder that you are not alone as you embark on your journey of radical mothering.I'm your host Christa Bevan and I'm a nervous system educator for cycle breaker moms as well as a certified TRE (trauma releasing exercises) provider, and a trauma-informed yoga instructor. And of course, a fellow Radical Mother. My approach to this work blends neuroscience backed tools and heart-centered intuition.Did you enjoy today's episode? Be sure to head to Apple Podcasts to subscribe, rate & review the show. Not only do these help me know you're enjoying the content, but they help this work be seen by even more Radical Mothers that need it in their lives too.
No child should grow up feeling unloved, but that was how Danielle Bernock felt. It was only God's relentless pursuit of her that led her to know what it felt like to be loved, wholly and freely. God started filling the broken places with His love, sharing with her how he was there when others perpetuated lies in her life. Now, she is helping others understand that He is there for them also. Join us for this compelling interview.
Danielle talks about the importance of resolving trauma in our lives. She defines trauma as a wound to be healed. Connect with her at daniellebernock.com.
Motivation and Inspiration Interviews with Professor of Perseverances
Danielle Bernock is passionate about helping men and women 50+ live a courageous, victorious, and vibrant life. Childhood trauma is an epidemic and adults often diminish it or fail to recognize it. Unaddressed trauma silently wreaks havoc in every area of a person's life. Danielle Bernock is a childhood trauma survivor. Website: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Victorious Souls Podcast: https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DBernock Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou To learn more about James, visit Professor of Perseverance. You may also contact him through email, James@professorofperseverance.com or call 615 – 336 – 2181
Trauma can affect us for many years. In order to move forward in a powerful and freeing way it is necessary to overcome what triggers us. In this episode my guest Danielle Bernock shares her S.E.L.F. process she uses with clients to help them get the courage to overcome fear, face whatever they need to face, and to keep going when it gets hard. We cover: --How to develop a warrior mindset to heal from trauma --How to reinvent yourself to move from surviving to thriving --The 2 words you can declare to stop triggers from keeping you stuck in the past --Much more... Links and resources: Learn more about Danielle, her resources, and how you can work with her HERE Access our FREE guide: When God Says Shift Follow us on Instagram:@agodhsift Follow us on Facebook: @agodshift For more about the God Shift Movement, check out the website.
Trauma can affect us for many years. In order to move forward in a powerful and freeing way it is necessary to overcome what triggers us. In this episode my guest Danielle Bernock shares her S.E.L.F. process she uses with clients to help them get the courage to overcome fear, face whatever they need to face, and to keep going when it gets hard. We cover: --How to develop a warrior mindset to heal from trauma --How to reinvent yourself to move from surviving to thriving --The 2 words you can declare to stop triggers from keeping you stuck in the past --Much more... Links and resources: Learn more about Danielle, her resources, and how you can work with her HERE Access our FREE guide: When God Says Shift Follow us on Instagram:@agodhsift Follow us on Facebook: @agodshift For more about the God Shift Movement, check out the website.
257 Danielle Bernock: A Warrior's Heart and The Power of LOVE The single greatest need we have as human beings is the need for love. When a child grows up feeling unloved it causes unbearable pain and shame. Throw in multiple various traumas, and the suffering increases exponentially. This is Danielle's story of how the power of love intervened in her life, saving her from destroying herself, giving her a rainbow, changing her name, and giving her a warrior's heart to become a Victorious Soul. Danielle Bernock is passionate about helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with a clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, to become Victorious Souls. She does this through writing, coaching, speaking, podcasting, courses, and workshops that utilize her 4 step proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” She's authored four books, and when she's not engaged in helping others reclaim their God-given greatness, you can find her enjoying her family. 3 top tips for my audience: 1. You have great value whether you feel like it or not. 2. Only you can change your life, no one can do it for you. 3. No matter what you're going through, you can ask God for help. Social media and contact info. How can viewers contact you after the interview? Please list your social media handles and websites. This is how they will appear in the show notes! https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ https://twitter.com/DBernock https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dbernock https://www.pinterest.com/DanielleBernock/ https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorious-souls-podcast/id1556134709?uo=4
Episode 268 - Conversation with Danielle Bernock -From Survive to Thrive Youtube Link: https://youtu.be/Uz92M-zyhtc About Danielle Danielle is passionate about helping men and women 50+ live a courageous, victorious, and vibrant life. Childhood trauma is an epidemic and adults often diminish it or fail to recognize it. Unaddressed trauma silently wreaks havoc in every area of a person's life. Danielle Bernock is a childhood trauma survivor, international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls. She's created courses, and workshops to implement her 4 step proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” Danielle married young, raised two kids, and didn't come into her own until she was in her 50's when she wrote and published her first book and really started to thrive in life. FIND OUT MORE: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Everything I have to offer can be accessed at my website. I have many free resources, as well as services to offer.
More love from Danielle Bernock this week! We have Part Two of my conversation with her. We find out why she decided to choose her own name and what people thought of that. We talk about how to heal childhood trauma, which can take longer to heal. Did you know you can suffer from trauma for years and not even know it? Danielle tells us the story of how challenging it was to write her first book. She gives us great advice on how to give ourselves some much needed love! There were so many gold nuggets in this interview(That's why I had a Part Two)! Don't miss it! The Passion Bible translation was mentioned(not related to the movie). BIO: Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. The following quote from the book has gone viral: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dswministries/ https://dswministries.orgsubscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Keep in touch with me! Email subscribe to get my handpicked list of the best resources for abuse survivors! https://thoughtful-composer-4268.ck.page #abuse #trauma Mentoring https://youtu.be/WWgkERpkIoY An easy way to help my ministry: https://dswministries.orgproduct/buy-me-a-cup-of-tea/ A donation link: https://dswministries.orgdonate/ Affiliate links: Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL Get quality podcast guests and interviews from PodMatch! Get paid to be a host! Sign up below: https://podmatch.com/signup/faithful
More love from Danielle Bernock this week! We have Part Two of my conversation with her. We find out why she decided to choose her own name and what people thought of that. We talk about how to heal childhood trauma, which can take longer to heal. Did you know you can suffer from trauma for years and not even know it? Danielle tells us the story of how challenging it was to write her first book. She gives us great advice on how to give ourselves some much needed love! There were so many gold nuggets in this interview(That's why I had a Part Two)! Don't miss it! The Passion Bible translation was mentioned(not related to the movie). BIO: Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. The following quote from the book has gone viral: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dswministries/ https://dswministries.org/subscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Keep in touch with me! Email subscribe to get my handpicked list of the best resources for abuse survivors! https://thoughtful-composer-4268.ck.page #abuse #trauma Mentoring https://youtu.be/WWgkERpkIoY An easy way to help my ministry: https://dswministries.org/product/buy-me-a-cup-of-tea/ A donation link: https://dswministries.org/donate/ Affiliate links: Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL Get quality podcast guests and interviews from PodMatch! Get paid to be a host! Sign up below: https://podmatch.com/signup/faithful
In episode 117, Danielle Bernock brings us back to a topic we sat with in the "Healing series": rejection. Sometimes suffering can end up feeling heavier because of the sense of rejection; this was true for Danielle, as in her childhood she felt rejected both at home and in church. That rejection sat with her, leading her to believe God had rejected her as well; the truth was, He had been with her in her loneliest moments. Her story confronts us on a hard truth: sometimes our sense of rejection can cause us to reject the God who is with us. How has God shown He is with you? You can connect with Danielle and her content here: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ ~ Check out our website: www.WhereDidYouSeeGod.com ~ Want a free resource? Check out "A Journey through Revelation (for the person that doesn't want to read Revelation)": https://www.wheredidyouseegod.com/revelation You can also purchase a Kindle or paperback version on Amazon at tinyurl.com/WDYSGRevelation ~ We now have apparel for you to wear as an amazing conversation-starter! https://www.bonfire.com/store/where-did-you-see-god/ ~ Have a story? You can leave a brief message at (804) 372-3836, or www.facebook.com/wheredidyouseeGod/ ~ The music in this episode is "You'll walk, you'll run" by Urban Doxology, from their amazing album "Bread for the Journey." ~ If you appreciate what God is doing through this podcast, you can help keep it going through financial support. Gifts can be processed at https://worldoutreach.org/707 ~ Learn more about how God's calling us: Pray: tinyurl.com/GrangerPray Follow: tinyurl.com/GrangerList Give: worldoutreach.org/707 ~ #suffering #dialogue #Godstillspeaks #WDYSG #conversation #hardship #rejection #childhoodtrauma #churchwounds #love #podpros #madewithZencastr --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/wheredidyouseegod/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/wheredidyouseegod/support
How can someone say I love you, when you've never met? Well, my guest Danielle Bernock is going to tell you how! A lover of cheese and ziplining, she shares how she thought that God didn't love her when she was rejected by her church. Danielle is very candid about her childhood trauma and the journey it took towards healing. This is Part One of my conversation with Danielle. You are going to love her! BIO: Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. The following quote from the book has gone viral: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dswministries/ https://dswministries.orgsubscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Keep in touch with me! Email subscribe to get my handpicked list of the best resources for abuse survivors! https://thoughtful-composer-4268.ck.page #abuse #trauma Mentoring https://youtu.be/WWgkERpkIoY An easy way to help my ministry: https://dswministries.orgproduct/buy-me-a-cup-of-tea/ A donation link: https://dswministries.orgdonate/ Affiliate links: Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL Get quality podcast guests and interviews from PodMatch! Get paid to be a host! Sign up below: https://podmatch.com/signup/faithful
How can someone say I love you, when you've never met? Well, my guest Danielle Bernock is going to tell you how! A lover of cheese and ziplining, she shares how she thought that God didn't love her when she was rejected by her church. Danielle is very candid about her childhood trauma and the journey it took towards healing. This is Part One of my conversation with Danielle. You are going to love her! BIO: Danielle Bernock founded 4F Media (Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom) in 2014 to promote inner healing and personal freedom through the power of ‘The LOVE that heals', using all forms of media, beginning with her first book. The following quote from the book has gone viral: “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals Danielle is an international, award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and trauma-informed self-love coach who helps men, women, and organizations EMERGE with clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, becoming Victorious Souls who Embrace The Change from survive to thrive through the power of the love of God. She has authored 4 books, written for numerous online publications, and her stories have been published in two book anthologies. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive”, and she's known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” A long time follower of Christ, Danielle lives with her husband in Michigan near her adult children and grandchildren. For more information or to connect with Danielle https://www.daniellebernock.com/ Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dswministries/ https://dswministries.org/subscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Keep in touch with me! Email subscribe to get my handpicked list of the best resources for abuse survivors! https://thoughtful-composer-4268.ck.page #abuse #trauma Mentoring https://youtu.be/WWgkERpkIoY An easy way to help my ministry: https://dswministries.org/product/buy-me-a-cup-of-tea/ A donation link: https://dswministries.org/donate/ Affiliate links: Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL Get quality podcast guests and interviews from PodMatch! Get paid to be a host! Sign up below: https://podmatch.com/signup/faithful
On this episode we talk with Danielle Bernock. She tells her amazing story of living and healing from life's traumas and steps she took to find her healing. Be sure to share with your friends. You can find out more about Danielle right here: https://www.daniellebernock.com/ https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ https://twitter.com/DBernock https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYouTo schedule a consultation with Donna and take your first step click here: https://calendly.com/ivibrantliving/consultation
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Did you grow up having your needs discounted. Do you dismiss your needs now? Everyone has needs. Emotional needs. Not just the need s that keep us alive, but needs that make the difference between surviving and thriving. "Having needs isn't a sign of weakness - it is human." - Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals This episode is about validating and identifying your needs, along with help for you to do so. Video referenced Episode referenced Visit website --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast/message
Summary: In this episode, we gain a deeper understanding of the experience of trauma, the impact of trauma. we clarify definitions of different aspects of trauma, various categories of trauma, the immediate and delayed signs and symptoms of trauma, and the effects of trauma. Then I share an experiential exercise with you to help you discover potential areas that might be fruitful for future exploration of your own internal experience. Opening Dramatic Short Brief descriptions of the experience of trauma “Outside, the sun shines. Inside, there's only darkness. The blackness is hard to describe, as it's more than symptoms. It's a nothing that becomes everything there is. And what one sees is only a fraction of the trauma inflicted.” ― Justin Ordoñez “My current life, I realized, was constructed around an absence; for all its richness I still felt as if the floors might give way, as if its core were only a covering of leaves, and I would slip through, falling endlessly, never to get my footing.” ― Esi Edugyan, Washington Black “I wish I'd fallen softly. Light and graceful like a feather drifting slowly to the earth on a warm and dreamy summer's day. I wish that I'd landed softly too. But there is nothing soft or graceful about that devastating moment when the worst has come to pass. The unavoidable truth is that it is hard, cold and brutal. All that you know to be true and good in life shatters in an instant. You feel like a delicate pottery bowl violently tossed from your place of rest, watching yourself crash and scatter across the hostile dark earth. The sound is deafening. Time stops. Inside, the quiet ache of shock and heartbreak slowly makes its grip known. They cut deep, these jagged edges of broken sherds. You gasp for air hungrily, yet somehow forget how to breathe.”― Jodi Sky Rogers Introduction We are born into a not only a fallen world, but a traumatized world We not only share in a fallen human condition, but a traumatized condition. “No matter what kind of childhood we've had, nobody escapes trauma while growing up.”― Kenny Weiss The Fall goes way back, before the world was even created, to the fall of the Lucifer, the light-bearer, the morning star and his angels -- and then the fallenness entered our world through original sin, the sin of Adam and Eve, and these are the original traumas, the fall of the angels and original sin. You and I are together in the adventure of this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am thankful to be with you. I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, We bring the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith. This podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com. Trauma. We are just beginning a whole series of episodes on trauma. You've been asking for this -- so many requests for us to address trauma head on. It's such a tough topic and such an important topic, and we are taking on the tough and important topics that matter to you. Really important to understand the inner experience of trauma -- so you can recognize it in your own life and recognize it an empathetic and attuned way in others' loves. Part of loving them. Today, we're going to get an overview of the best of the secular understandings of trauma. So much has changed since I entered graduate school in 1993 -- back then there was one seminal text on trauma, Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery. Now, especially in the last 10-15 years, there has been an upsurge of new, fresh and much better ways of understanding trauma. Outline Impact of Trauma Definitions of terms Definition of trauma Definition of Attachment injury Definition of relational hurt Definition of adverse experience. Categories of Trauma Recognizing Trauma from the Reactions, signs and symptoms. Discuss commonly accepted effects of trauma Go over the traumatic effects of what didn't happen, what was missing Experiential exercise to help you identify areas of your internal experience that are impacted by trauma Impact of Trauma From the North Dakota Department of Human Services Fact Sheet • People who have experienced trauma are:◉ 15 times more likely to attempt suicide◉ 4 times more likely to abuse alcohol◉ 4 times more likely to develop a sexually transmitted disease ◉ 4 times more likely to inject drugs◉ 3 times more likely to use antidepressant medication◉ 3 times more likely to be absent from work◉ 3 times more likely to experience depression◉ 3 times more likely to have serious job problems◉ 2.5 times more likely to smoke◉ 2 times more likely to develop chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD)◉ 2 times more likely to have serious financial problems 16-minute TED MED talk from How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris September 2014 Definitions of Trauma Lots of confusion Briere & Scott (2006) Principles of Trauma Therapy: people use the term trauma to refer to either a traumatic experience or event the resulting injury or stress, or the longer-term impacts and consequences American Psychological Association Website: Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. Problem in emphasizing the emotional aspects. It's much more than that Misses the overwhelming aspect. Does get the "response" part right. Integrated Listening Systems website: Trauma is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual's ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel a full range of emotions and experiences. DSM-5 PTSD, Acute Stress Disorder. Not going to address those here, not worth the time. Highly criticized by many professionals for being very limited and behind the curve, not recognizing the nuances and categories of trauma responses. Attachment Injury Definition: Dr. Sue Johnson defines an attachment injury as “a feeling of betrayal or abandonment during a critical time of need.” Very relational. Uniformed Services University Human Performance Resources sheet: An attachment injury is an emotional wound to an intimate, interdependent relationship. It usually happens after a breach of trust—particularly in a time of need or a moment of loss or transition. Once an attachment injury occurs, it can leave one or both partners feeling betrayed or abandoned. Examples of causes of attachment injuries from John Gottman "What Makes Love Last: How to build trust and avoid betrayal" Conditional Commitment: You or your partner are one the lookout for someone more attractive, more desirable, someone who is a better soul mate. A Nonsexual Affair: sometimes emotional affairs - emotional connection in an exclusive relationship with someone else. Lying: Deception, dishonesty, little white lies. Forming a Coalition Against the Partner: Pulling the kids in, trying to isolate the other person. No longer collaborative. Absenteeism or Coldness: Not prioritizing each other at a time of need -- distancing instead -- can have a devastating impact. Whether failing to support during highly stressful events or consistently missing opportunities to turn towards each other during the rigors of life, both are destructive. Withdrawal of Sexual Interest: This can really be wounding. Sometimes one spouse is ok with this and the other is not. Disrespect: quote by John Gottman… “A loving relationship is not about one person having the upper hand – it's about holding hands.” This includes refusing to acknowledge hurting your partner and a lack of willingness to apologize to your partner. Unfairness: Dishonesty. Lack of balance in housework, lack of collaboration on finances. Selfishness: When one partner lives mostly in a self-focused way; behaviors driven by self-absorption can be very wearing on relationship. Breaking Promises: Repeated disappointments around broken or unfulfilled promises results in disillusionment and undercuts trust between the spouses. The one breaking promises can unwittingly communicate the message, “You don't matter.” Additional examples from Lana Isaacson abuse (emotional- gaslighting, power and control, economic, verbal, physical, or sexual), refusal to forgive or accept partner or let go of resentments (includes excessive criticism, moving out of your home and refusing to return, etc.) after your partner has done significant personal and relational growth work and demonstrating change. Relational Hurts - Lori Epting at GoodTherapy.org Relational Hurt or Attachment Injury? How to Tell the Difference April 5, 2018 Painful experiences in an attachment relationship inflicted by the other person, but that don't lead to rupture of the relationship Still a sense of love and connection between the people Still trust and mutuality. Still a capacity for the couple to move forward Does the other spouse still love and care for you? Answer: Yes. Examples: forgotten anniversaries, insults, or intense arguments. Adverse Experiences: Adverse Childhood Experiences Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) cover a wide range of difficult situations that children either directly face or witness while growing up, before they have developed effective coping skills. ACEs can disrupt the normal course of development and the emotional injury can last long into adulthood. The loss of a parent; neglect; emotional, physical, or sexual abuse; and divorce are among the most common types of Adverse Childhood Experiences. Prevalence of Adverse Childhood Experiences: Mental Health Connection of Tarrant County fact sheet -- with studies documenting each statistics. Four of every 10 children in American say they experienced a physical assault during the past year, with one in 10 receiving an assault-related injury. (2) 2% of all children experienced sexual assault or sexual abuse during the past year, with the rate at nearly 11% for girls aged 14 to 17. (2) Nearly 14% of children repeatedly experienced maltreatment by a caregiver, including nearly 4% who experienced physical abuse. (2) 1 in 4 children was the victim of robbery, vandalism or theft during the previous year. (2) More than 13% of children reported being physically bullied, while more than 1 in 3 said they had been emotionally bullied. (2) 1 in 5 children witnessed violence in their family or the neighborhood during the previous year. (2) In one year, 39% of children between the ages of 12 and 17 reported witnessing violence, 17% reported being a victim of physical assault and 8% reported being the victim of sexual assault. (3) More than 60% of youth age 17 and younger have been exposed to crime, violence and abuse either directly or indirectly. (4 More than 10% of youth age 17 and younger reported five or more exposures to violence. (4) About 10% of children suffered from child maltreatment, were injured in an assault, or witnessed a family member assault another family member. (4) About 25% of youth age 17 and younger were victims of robbery or witnessed a violent act. (4) Nearly half of children and adolescents were assaulted at least once in the past year. (4) Among 536 elementary and middle school children surveyed in an inner city community, 30% had witnessed a stabbing and 26% had witnessed a shooting. (5) Young children exposed to five or more significant adverse experiences in the first three years of childhood face a 76% likelihood of having one or more delays in their language, emotional or brain development. (6) As the number of traumatic events experienced during childhood increases, the risk for the following health problems in adulthood increases: depression; alcoholism; drug abuse; suicide attempts; heart and liver diseases; pregnancy problems; high stress; uncontrollable anger; and family, financial, and job problems. (6) According to the Centers for Disease Control -- root causes of many chronic diseases, most mental illnesses, and most violence. Physical abuse Sexual abuse Verbal abuse Physical neglect Emotional neglect A family member who is depressed or diagnosed with other mental illness A family member who is addicted to alcohol or another substance A family member who is in prison Witnessing a mother being abused Losing a parent to separation, divorce or death 61% of adults across 25 states experienced oat least one ACE -- Nearly one in six American adults experienced four or more. Lead to increases in adulthood -- years down the road. Physical injuries TBI Fractures Burns Mental Health problems Depression Anxiety Suicide PTSD Maternal Health Unintended pregnancy Complications in pregnancy Miscarriage Infectious Disease HIV STDs Chronic disease Cancer Diabetes Risky Behaviors Alcohol and Drug abuse Sexual acting out Loss of opportunities Education Occupation Income Categories of Trauma Acute vs. Chronic, Causes: Natural vs. Human, Big T trauma vs. little t trauma, Secondary Trauma, Acknowledged vs. Unacknowledged. Acute vs. Chronic vs. Complex Trauma Acute Trauma: Psychology Today article Acute trauma reflects intense distress in the immediate aftermath of a one-time event and the reaction is of short duration. Common examples include a car crash, physical or sexual assault, or the sudden death of a loved one. Chronic Trauma: can arise from harmful events that are repeated or prolonged. It can develop in response to persistent bullying, neglect, abuse (emotional, physical, or sexual), and domestic violence. Complex Trauma: can arise from experiencing repeated or multiple traumatic events from which there is no possibility of escape. The sense of being trapped is a feature of the experience. Like other types of trauma, it can undermine a sense of safety in the world and beget hypervigilance, constant (and exhausting!) monitoring of the environment for the possibility of threat. Big T trauma vs. little t trauma Trauma here is used to describe the adverse experience Big T Trauma -- Big T Trauma is a reaction to a deeply disturbing, life-threatening event or situation Powerlessness or helplessness is also a key factor of large ‘T' traumas, Examples of Big T Trauma Violent crime natural disaster terrorist attack sexual assault Combat a car or plane accident Death of a parent for a child Little T Trauma: Little 't' traumas are described as smaller, more personal distressing events that disrupt our functioning and compromise our capacity to cope. These distressing events are not inherently life or bodily-integrity threatening,Examples of Little T Trauma Interpersonal conflict Infidelity Conflict with a boss Job change Geographic relocation -- moving to a new part of the country Romantic breakup Abrupt or extended relocation Death of a Pet Legal trouble Financial worries or difficulty Problems -- these describe the event -- as though the event measures the experience. Not so. Originally had some support and still do, because of the emphasis on the importance of less obvious events. Natural vs. Human Causes Naturally Caused (so called "Acts of God") Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Separated into the four elements Earth, Water, Air and Fire Earth Earthquakes Landslides fallen boulders Meteorites Water Floods Tsunamis Avalanches Blizzards Air Tornadoes Cyclones Typhoons Hurricanes dust storms fallen trees Fire volcanic eruptions Lightning Strikes Wildfires Health physical ailments or diseases Epidemics Famines Human Caused -- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Accidental Acts Train derailment, roofing fall, structural collapse, mountaineering accident, aircraft crash, car accident due to malfunction, mine collapse or fire, radiation leak, crane collapse, gas explosion, electrocution, machinery-related accident, oil spill, maritime accident, accidental gun shooting, and sports-related death. Intentional Acts arson, terrorism, sexual assault and abuse,(see three episode IIC series on Rape, Incest, Shame and Silence, episodes 40, 43,and 44) homicides or suicides, mob violence or rioting, physical abuse and neglect, stabbing or shooting, warfare, domestic violence, poisoned water supply, human trafficking, school violence, torture, home invasion, bank robbery, genocide, and medical or food tampering, harassment, street violence, and bullying Actions vs. Omissions e.g. abuse vs. neglect Secondary Trauma: Psychology Today Article: Secondary or vicarious trauma arises from exposure to other people's suffering and can strike those in professions that are called on to respond to injury and mayhem, notably physicians, first responders, and law enforcement. Over time, such individuals are at risk for compassion fatigue, whereby they avoid investing emotionally in other people in an attempt to protect themselves from experiencing distress. Acknowledged vs. unacknowledged trauma Frame of reference -- that just how it was Defining trauma away -- Just because my Dad was a raging unemployed alcoholic and Mom was stressed out with her job and all the housework and we struggled financially and my parents fought all the time, that wasn't trauma, that was just normal. I never was hit or nothing. Not like my classmate Billy. Billy suffered trauma. His Dad used to hit him with a golf club and he came to school with bruises. Now that's trauma. Or the kids that were sexually abused. That never happened to me. I just had a rough childhood, but I've moved on, it's all in the past. Recognizing Trauma from the Signs and Symptoms -- So important. Drawing from many sources here, but Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Trauma-Informed Care in Behavioral Health Services. HHS Publication No. (SMA) 13-4801 2014. Chapter 3 of Understanding the Impact of Trauma Emotional & psychological Symptoms of Trauma: Immediate Emotional overwhelm Characteristic of trauma Shock Denial, disbelief Feeling disconnected or numb or detached Anxiety or severe fear, even panic attacks Guilt -- including survivor guilt Anger, rage Sadness Helplessness Mood swings -- exhilaration about surviving then survivor guilt Emotional Constriction, Shutdown Delayed Emotional Signs Irritability, hostility, edginess Depression Mood swings Anxiety Phobia Generalized anxiety Fears of trauma happening again Grief Shame Feeling very fragile, vulnerable Emotional detachment, disconnection -- in relationships Hopelessness, despair Anhedonia -- inability to enjoy anything Difficulty experiencing positive emotions Cognitive Symptoms of Trauma Immediate Cognitive Reactions Disorientation Difficulty concentrating Ruminating, obsessing Racing thoughts Intrusive thoughts -- e.g. Replaying the traumatic event over and over again Visualizations of the event. Time Distortion Space Distortion Extreme alertness; always on the lookout for warnings of potential danger New sensitivity to loud noises, smells, or other things around you Memory problems -- unable to remember the event Feeling out of control Feeling unreal, depersonalized, not yourself, like you are watching someone else. Depersonalization: Persistent or recurrent experiences of feeling detached from, and as if one were an outside observer of, one's mental processes or body (e.g., feeling as though one were in a dream; feeling a sense of unreality of self or body or of time moving slowly). Derealization: Persistent or recurrent experiences of unreality of surroundings (e.g., the world around the individual is experienced as unreal, dreamlike, distant, or distorted). Delayed Cognitive Signs Dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, body, from memories or sense of identity. This disconnection is automatic and completely out of the person's control.x Amnesia: Often described as "gaps" in memory that can range from minutes to years Depersonalization: Feeling disconnected from your body or thoughts Derealization: Feeling disconnected from the world around you Identity alteration: The sense of being markedly different from another part of yourself Identity confusion: A sense of confusion about who you really are we will have a lot more to say about dissociation in future episodes, but for now -- disconnection. Alexithymia the inability to recognize or describe one's own emotions. -- Can't put my feelings into words. The experience of trauma can initially defy speech. “People who suffer from alexithymia tend to feel physically uncomfortable but cannot describe exactly what the problem is. As a result they often have multiple vague and distressing physical complaints that doctors can't diagnose. In addition, they can't figure out for themselves what they're really feeling about any given situation or what makes them feel better or worse. This is the result of numbing, which keeps them from anticipating and responding to the ordinary demands of their bodies in quiet, mindful ways. If you are not aware of what your body needs, you can't take care of it. If you don't feel hunger, you can't nourish yourself. If you mistake anxiety for hunger, you may eat too much. And if you can't feel when you're satiated, you'll keep eating.” ― Bessel A. van der Kolk Intrusive memories -- keep coming and coming Reactivation of previous traumatic events -- those from before the most recent trauma Nightmares Confusion, distractions Highly critical of self -- blaming the self, what I could have done better Preoccupation with the event -- all I can think about Denial of the event “The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.” ― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror Difficulty with decision making Magical thinking that certain behaviors (including avoidance) will protect me against future harm Suicidal ideation, fantasies Physical symptoms: Quotes “Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.” (p.97)” ― Bessel A. van der Kolk, Immediate physical reactions Nausea, gastrointestinal distress Sweating, shivering Fainting Muscle tremors, uncontrollable shaking Racing heart, fast breathing, elevated blood pressure Physical agitation Extreme fatigue, exhaustion Exaggerated startle responses Headaches Ringing in the ears Delayed Physical symptoms Sleep disturbances, insomnia Aches, pains, somatization of psychological distress Appetite change Difficult with digestion Persistent fatigue Elevated cortisol levels Hyperarousal Chronic muscle tension Long-term health problems -- heart, liver, adrenal glands, autoimmune problems, COPD Behavioral Symptoms: Immediate Behavioral Reactions Exaggerated startle responses Restlessness Argumentative behavior Increased use of alcohol, drugs, and tobacco Social withdrawal and relational apathy Avoidant behaviors Delayed Behavioral symptoms Avoidance of activities or places that trigger memories of the even Social relationship disturbances Decreased activity level Engagement in high-risk behaviors Increased use of alcohol and drugs Impulse control problems Social withdrawal, which can lead to isolation “Over time as most people fail the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships. The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.” ― Judith Lewis Herman Difficulty maintaining close relationships Sexual dysfunction Existential Symptoms Immediate Existential Reactions Intense use of prayer Restoration of faith in the goodness of others (e.g., receiving help from others) Loss of self-efficacy Despair about humanity, particularly if the event was intentional Negative thoughts about yourself, other people or the world Immediate disruption of life assumptions (e.g., fairness, safety, goodness, predictability of life) Delayed Existential Reactions Feeling as though one is permanently damaged Questioning (e.g., “Why me?”) Increased cynicism, disillusionment, about the future, about humankind “Unlike simple stress, trauma changes your view of your life and yourself. It shatters your most basic assumptions about yourself and your world — “Life is good,” “I'm safe,” “People are kind,” “I can trust others,” “The future is likely to be good” — and replaces them with feelings like “The world is dangerous,” “I can't win,” “I can't trust other people,” or “There's no hope.” ― Mark Goulston MD, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder For Dummies Increased self-confidence (e.g., “If I can survive this, I can survive anything”) Loss of purpose Renewed faith Hopelessness Reestablishing priorities Redefining meaning and importance of life Reworking life's assumptions to accommodate the trauma (e.g., taking a self-defense class to reestablish a sense of safety) Effects of Trauma -- Going beyond the surface level, what is more readily observable in self or others suffering from trauma Going into survival mode Necessity of coming out of this alive. Very primitive, basic responses. Drive to survive. “We don't learn things that help us to thrive when we are in survival mode. It's only when we are in sensual mode that we do.” ― Lebo Grand Many, many people live chronically in Increasing fragmentation -- decreasing integration Overwhelming intensity of experience. Overwhelming Grief -- episodes 81-83 Integration much more difficult, even impossible in the current conditions We need disconnects -- we need to not know that if A=B and B=C, then A=C, because A=C is too threatening for us Example of little girl with a sexually abusive father -- can't come to the full implications of that without being overwhelmed. Loss of a sense of time “When something reminds traumatized people of the past, their right brain reacts as if the traumatic event were happening in the present. But because their left brain is not working very well, they may not be aware that they are re-experiencing and reenacting the past - they are just furious, terrified, enraged, ashamed, or frozen.” ― Bessel Van Der Kolk Identity issues Who am I? “I felt as though everything inside me had been obliterated. However much I tried, however much I wanted to go back to being who I was before, it was impossible--all that was left was an empty husk of my former self.” ― Shiori Itō, Black Box Shame (episodes 37-49) Trauma generates and activates and exacerbates and perpetuates shame. Generates Shame “Shame is internalized when one is abandoned. Abandonment is the precise term to describe how one loses one's authentic self and ceases to exist psychologically.” ― John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You Genesis 3 Activates Shame Preexisting, unresolved shame can come up. A plausible explanation for why the adverse event happened or is happening. Deep sense of not being loved, not being lovable -- often denied, because it's so painful. “...one of the hardest things to admit is that we weren't loved when we needed it most. It's a terrible feeling, the pain of not being loved.” She was right. I had been groping for the right words to express that murky feeling of betrayal inside, the horrible hollow ache, and to hear Ruth say it—“the pain of not being loved”—I saw how it pervaded my entire consciousness and was at once the story of my past, present, and future.” ― Alex Michaelides Decreased capacity for relationships Decreasing vulnerability within the self or with others Out of touch with so much of ourselves. Lack of Trust “The words "I love you," used to be enough for me. They used to mean the world to me, today they don't mean shit. Oh you love me? Really? Why? How? When did it start? Why? Give me reasons, show me behaviors that PROVE you love me, or get the fuck out of my way. I am not interested in diamonds and platitudes, I want to know that I GENUINELY matter to you, because I don't have time to waste on pretty lies that are ugly beneath the surface.” ― Devon J Hall Desperation Can lead to suicidal impulses. Episodes 76-80. Spiritual Effects God image issues -- episodes 23-29. Unconscious and conscious Problem of evil. What didn't happen Attunement - Daniel Brown and David Elliott Feeling safe and protected afterward Feeling seen, heard, known, and understood -- someone else making sense of the adverse experience “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, “To survive trauma one must be able to tell a story about it.” ― Natasha Trethewey, Memorial Drive: A Daughter's Memoir Feeling comforted, soothed, calmed, reassured “Feeling listened to and understood changes our physiology. Being able to articulate a complex feeling and having our feelings recognised lights up our Limbic brain, and creates an ‘ah-ha' moment. In contrast, being met by silence and incomprehension kills the spirit.” ― Bessel van der Kolk Feeling cherished, treasured, loved, delighted in Feeling that someone had my best interests in mind. Experiential Exercise -- No-Go Zones. Not therapy Pencil or pen and paper -- some way to record -- could be your phone. Safety issues Zone of tolerance If this doesn't suit you, don't do it. Can stop at any time. Take what is helpful to you. No driving, can stop the recording until you're in a good place for it. Asking that no part of you overwhelm you. Not going to open up any traumatic place. We are focused on delineating where those places are within you. Going to the lowest place within us. Really slowing it down Notice what is going on inside you right now. Can you be curious Can you have a big open heart Can you accept what you find if it's not overwhelming Can you be receptive to new ways of understanding yourself. Notice the reactions Body Sensations Emotions Visual Images Memories Inner voice Thoughts or Beliefs or Assumptions Impulses Desires Fantasies Any concerns about this so far? Is it OK? If not discontinue. Not the time. If it's OK, then continue. Word list -- noticing the reactions to 30 words -- write down any words that you notice reactions to and the reactions if you wish -- body sensations, especially, but also the rest of the list. Again, we're not trying to explore any areas of trauma, but if you parts are willing, to understand a bit more about your internal world, your inner experience. School Love Body Not being seen or heard Playground Loneliness Arguing Sickness Alcohol, Drugs Fear Safety Chaos Sex Escape Mom Help Shame Protection Pain Distress Trust Dad Wound Abandonment Abuse Sadness Nothing Guilt Anger Survival Any other words or images or thoughts or anything else in your experience. Gratitude. Future Directions -- where we will be zeroing in This episode was bringing to you the conventional secular understandings of trauma. But there are two area in the secular conceptualizations of trauma that really warrant much deeper exploration. Physiological or bodily response to trauma -- that's the next episode, episode 89 Not just about memories -- not just about psychology Trauma involves the whole person. Trauma victims cannot recover until they become familiar with and befriend the sensations in their bodies. Being frightened means that you live in a body that is always on guard. Angry people live in angry bodies. The bodies of child-abuse victims are tense and defensive until they find a way to relax and feel safe. In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past. Bessel Van der Kolk So much happens in our bodies with trauma -- and so much of that is beyond our capacity to control by sheer willpower in the moment. “PTSD is a whole-body tragedy, an integral human event of enormous proportions with massive repercussions.” ― Susan Pease Banitt The Body Keeps the Score -- by Bessel Van der Kolk Polyvagal theory -- Steven Porges. Recovery “We cannot outrun our past trauma. We can't bury it and think that we will be fine. 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