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Jenifer DeBellis, MFA, is a PhD candidate, transformational speaker, and award-winning author of Warrior Sister, Cut Yourself Free (Library Tales Publishing), New Wilderness (Cornerstone Press), and Blood Sisters (Main Street Rag). She edits Pink Panther Magazine and hosts the Restore Your Inner Warrior® podcast. She's featured in Psychology Today and her writing appears in CALYX, Medical Literary Messenger, The Good Men Project, Solstice, and elsewhere.In This EpisodeJenifer's websiteJenifer's booksWarrior Sister, Cut Yourself Free: A Survivor's Guide to Healing from Assault & Abuse with Courage & HopeBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.You can learn more about what I do here:The Trauma Therapist Newsletter: celebrates the people and voices in the mental health profession. And it's free! Check it out here: https://bit.ly/4jGBeSa———If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.

Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!This week's Fan Mail brings us two powerful questions: • From Syracuse, New York: “The family referee took my custody and handed it over to the father who was absent for years. My children have been separated from their siblings, and I'm only allowed one hour a week of visitation. The court won't let me present my evidence, and I feel silenced and helpless. What can I do?” From Wichita, KansasAnd from Kansas City, Missouri, a listener asks: “How do I get access to the Podcast Extras?” In this episode, Dr. Kerry tackles both concerns. First, she validates the heartbreak of a mother caught in post-separation abuse reinforced by the family court system.Then, in response to the Wichita and Kansas City listeners, Dr. Kerry explains how to access the Podcast Extras—exclusive deep-dive interviews with leading experts on narcissistic abuse recovery. Submit Your QuestionIf you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here.Stay in Touch with Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Join Dr. Kerry McAvoy on Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse for real talk about toxic relationships and recovery. Mondays feature expert interviews, Thursdays bring our new Fan Mail Q&A. Get clarity, validation, and tools to heal.Stay in Touch with Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Disclaimer: This interview features perspectives from a male divorce coach navigating toxic dynamics. While some views expressed differ from those of trauma-informed psychology, I found it valuable to explore these tensions in real time. Please listen with care, and note that I challenge certain assumptions as we go. This week, I sit down with Josh Tomeoni, a divorce coach who shares his story of what he describes as abuse within his long-term marriage. Josh opens up about the male experience of toxic relationships, why so many men don't recognize emotional abuse, and how cultural expectations of masculinity shape their response to conflict and vulnerability.Podcast Extra Exclusive InterviewFind it here in the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseMore About the Podcast Extra InterviewWhat happens when a man says he's been emotionally abused?In this exclusive interview, Josh explores how some men frame abuse differently—and what that reveals about cultural conditioning.Get immediate access to this extended conversation—and hear where I draw the line between “toxic” dynamics and true abuse.

Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!What happens when a narcissistic therapist uses their professional training against you?This week's Fan Mail question comes from a listener in Seattle who writes: “I dated a narcissist who was also a licensed clinical social worker. Can you talk about the weaponization of therapeutic training by narcissists?”In this episode, Dr. Kerry unpacks how narcissistic mental health professions can use psychology to pathologize your emotions and silence your voice. How the imbalance of power could be weaponized against you.Submit Your QuestionIf you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.fillout.com/fan-mail                                      ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Jocelyn Jane Cox joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about the challenges and guilt around caretaking, her childhood experience as a competitive figure skater, telling a story in the structure of a day, using the directed “you” in a book, writing about what has shaped us and played a role in the story we are trying to tell, using Post-It Notes, ordering our backstory, listmaking a low pressure way to get material on the page, as the process of adding and subtracting, exploring divisions within ourselves, developing and exploring metaphor in our narratives, and her new memoir Motion Dazzle: A Memoir of Motherhood, Loss, and Skating on Thin Ice.  Also in this episode: -reducing page count -relying on Beta readers -the silver tsunami   Books mentioned in this episode: -Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia Wolf -On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong -The Art of Memoir by Mary Karr -Fast Draft Your Memoir: Write Your Story in 45 Hours by Rachel Herron   Jocelyn Jane Cox joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about Motion Dazzle: A Memoir of Motherhood, Loss, and Skating on Thin Ice.  Jocelyn Jane Cox holds an MFA in Creative Writing (Fiction) from Sarah Lawrence College. She competed in the United States Figure Skating Championships with her older brother Brad four times (twice in pair skating and twice in ice dance). She has been coaching kids, teenagers, and adults in both skating and writing for over 25 years. Her creative nonfiction was included in the anthology Awakenings: Stories of Body Consciousness, edited by Diane Gottlieb (2023). Among other publications, her work has appeared in The New York Times, Slate, Newsweek, Good Men Project, WIRED, Belladonna Comedy, The Offing, HAD, Cleaver, Litro Magazine, Literal Latte, and Colorado Review. Her fiction has been nominated for a Pushcart Prize. She lives with her son and husband in the Hudson Valley of New York.   Connect with Jocelyn: Website: https://www.jocelynjanecox.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelynjanecoxwriter/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JocelynJaneCoxWriter BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/jocelynjanecox.bsky.social   – Ronit's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer's Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts' 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories.  She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Subscribe to Ronit's Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank https://bsky.app/profile/ronitplank.bsky.social   Background photo credit: Photo by Patrick Tomasso on Unsplash Headshot photo credit: Sarah Anne Photography Theme music: Isaac Joel, Dead Moll's Fingers

Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Do you know what one of the most dangerous traps you can fall for? Believing that you can “fix” a narcissist's early attachment wounds. In this exclusive episode, therapist and author Chelli Pumphrey explains why narcissists rarely have secure attachments, how anxious or disorganized patterns drive their constant need for supply, and why survivors' empathy often backfires when met with exploitation.PODCAST EXTRA EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW Find it here for the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter. MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST EXTRA 

Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Can you really heal a trauma bond—or is the damage permanent? This week's Fan Mail features two powerful questions. The first comes from a YouTube listener who asks: “Is it really possible to break a trauma bond? Even Dr. Ramani says she still struggles daily—so what's the point of fighting, especially if kids are involved?” The second comes from a listener in New York, New York who wants to know: “Why do narcissists cheat—and how can you tell if it's happening to you?” In this episode, Dr. Kerry unpacks the reality of healing from trauma bonds, offering both hope and hard truth, and explores the eight most common reasons narcissists cheat—plus the warning signs to watch for in your relationship. Submit Your Question If you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.fillout.com/fan-mail ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Can you ever be “good enough” for a difficult mother? In this episode, psychotherapist Katherine Fabrizio, author of The Good Daughter Syndrome, reveals why empathic daughters feel trapped in cycles of guilt, exhaustion, and approval-seeking—and how to finally reclaim your power and identity. Tronick's Still (Blank) Face ExperimentPODCAST EXTRA EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW Find it here: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse for the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter. MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST EXTRA 

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!This week's fan mail dives into two powerful questions about surviving emotional abuse.First, Dr. Kerry explores what it means when you stop crying—and why emotional shutdown can be a survival mechanism in toxic relationships. Then she tackles whether the sunk cost fallacy is really what keeps us stuck with a narcissist, or if something deeper is at play.Submit Your Question!If you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here! ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Going through a custody battle or divorce with a narcissist? The you know the legal system can feel stacked against you.This week, former family law judge and attorney Michele Locke reveals exactly how narcissists twist the truth, exploit legal loopholes, and weaponize the court process — and what you can do to outsmart them.Whether you're divorcing a narcissist, navigating parental alienation, or preparing for a high-conflict custody hearing, discover the insider tools to safeguard your case and your peace of mind.Podcast Extra Exclusive InterviewFind it here the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter.More About the Podcast Extra Interview

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!What do you do when you can't just cut off a toxic person?This week's Fan Mail question comes from a YouTube listener who asks: “How do I stop the cognitive dissonance and self-doubt when I can't go no-contact with a toxic person?”In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why cognitive dissonance is such a powerful trap in emotionally abusive relationships—especially when you're forced to maintain contact.Submit Your QuestionIf you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here!****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Why do so many survivors miss they're being abuse?In this Labor Day Special, I'm revisiting three powerful interviews that follow the journey from denial to freedom.First, we explore how abuse often hides in plain sight, even for smart, capable people. The author I'm referencing as “he” is Don Hennessey and his book, How He Gets into Her Head. Then, we examine how cognitive dissonance keeps you stuck. Finally, we describe what late-stage cognitive dissonance sounds and feels like—when you barely recognize yourself, and know you have to leave.Whether you're still in or out of a toxic relationship, learning to recognize the psychological patterns can help you plan your next step toward freedom.Although there's no Podcast Extra interview, in this week's newsletter we take a deep dive into the underpinnings of cognitive dissonance, including if abusers' intentionally created it to keep you stuck.Have a Fan Mail Question? Submit it here!    ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Fit, Healthy & Happy Podcast Welcome to the Fit, Healthy and Happy Podcast hosted by Josh and Kyle from Colossus...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Is my daughter-in-law a malignant narcissist? How did she hide her worst qualities for so long?Today, Dr. Kerry answers 2 listeners' questions. The first is from New York, New York about narcissists' public and private personas. Many narcissistic individuals create a false mask to hide their worst qualities. The second comes from Southern Pines, North Carolina, who wants to know more about love-bombing. SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION! If you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here!      ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!What if the person you fell in love with never really existed?In this episode, Dr. Nae — psychologist, author of Run Like Hell, and former wife of the real “Wolf of Wall Street” — exposes how master manipulators use love-bombing, mirroring, and coercive control to create a false sense of intimacy.Learn: How abusers build a fake romantic persona to hook their targets Why trauma bonds are so difficult to break, even when you see the truth The role of cognitive dissonance in keeping survivors trapped How society's myths about relationships can deepen the self-betrayal Steps you can take to reclaim your identity and self-trust after abuse Podcast Extra Exclusive InterviewFind it here the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter.More About the Podcast Extra Interview

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Welcome to our new podcast segment called Fan Mail! This is where Dr. Kerry answers your questions. To kick off our weekly bonus episode, Dr. Kerry is responding to a listener who writes, “He has destroyed me and my world after 16 years of marriage.” -- from Westminster CaliforniaMore About the EpisodeToday Dr. Kerry answers two fan mail requests: 1. "Please address abuse from a man's perspective." -Cleveland, Ohio2. "I can't heal...He's successfully destroyed my world. -Westminster, CaliforniaSubmit Your QuestionIf you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.fillout.com/fan-mailStay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show

Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!What's the single biggest giveaway that someone lacks emotional maturity — especially when the pressure's on?In this episode, Dr. Les Carter, psychologist, best-selling author, and expert on narcissism and emotional health, reveals the #1 sign of low emotional maturity during conflict. We dive into how this pattern plays out in everyday disagreements, why it derails problem-solving, and what you can do to protect your own emotional space when dealing with it.You'll learn:• The clearest sign of emotional immaturity — and why it instantly escalates tension • How emotionally immature people use defensiveness and blame-shifting to avoid responsibility• Why maturity is measured less by age or intelligence and more by emotional steadiness• Practical strategies to keep your composure and avoid getting pulled into reactive cyclesWhether you're navigating conflict with a partner, family member, or coworker, this conversation will help you spot the signs early and respond in a way that keeps you grounded and in control.Podcast Extra Exclusive InterviewFind it here: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse for the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter.More About the Podcast Extra Interview

Mischa Byruck is a men's sexual integrity coach. As an expert in accountability and harm reduction following accusations, callouts and cancellations, he has supported over 100 clients to transmute conflict into transformation. He also supports organizations, including ISTA, Kink(dot)com, and DanceSafe to proactively create systems to prevent harm. He is a men's work facilitator with Sacred Sons and sits on the Board of Embrace, an interfaith community-based organization.  Mischa's writing has been published in O.School, the New Modality, and The Good Men Project. He is a professionally trained coach, with supplemental training in abuser counseling and sexuality.   On this Episode:    Mischa Byruck | @mischabyruck Adam Jackson | @adam___jackson   Use the Promo Code: ‘SUMMER20' for 20% Off All Sacred Sons Offerings! Start Here: Check In With Sacred Sons: Check-In Survey    Join ‘The Circle' Online Community Join The Circle Join a Sacred Sons Event Near You: Event Calendar Sacred Sons Signature Events: CONVERGENCE X: Across Nations REMEMBRANCE II: Seeds of Change Connect with Sacred Sons:   Shop: Sacred Sons Apparel & Cacao  Instagram: @sacredsons  Website: sacredsons.com   YouTube: Sacred Sons    Music: Ancient Future Want to become a Sponsor of Sacred Sons Podcast? Sponsorship Request Form   

Send us a textThis week, I'm pulling back the curtain on something few of us talk about—the emotional toll of surviving narcissistic abuse after the relationship ends. Healing is hard. Helping others heal while still navigating your own recovery? Even harder. In this episode, I share why I'm taking a short summer hiatus—and how you can still stay connected and supported during this time. 

I've known author and ‘soul-shaper', Jeff Brown, long before I woke up to the agendas. I hosted him for the launch of his first book, Soulshaping, here in my hometown in 2012. Now, 7 books later, he's back again, but has been through hell to get to this moment. About Jeff Brown's new book, “In Trudeau's Kitchen”, he writes:'When Sophie Grégoire Trudeau—then wife of Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau—shared a quote from one of Jeff Brown's books on Facebook in 2017, he felt compelled to reach out and volunteer to support her mission. As his fingers hovered over the keyboard, a quiet voice rose within: Don't step into the political world. He ignored the voice, and clicked SEND. The Whistle-Blower's journey had unknowingly begun. Life, as he knew it, would never be the same." In this King Hero interview, we will be discussing his first-hand awakening to the evils of the political arena here in Canada, and how dark it can get for whistleblowers.And because I'm currently focussed on the topic and Jeff's past profession as a psychoanalyst, we will also be talking about mental health and the 100's of dangerous medications that are rampantly prescribed to people who are suffering. Check out my stream with Justine Lalonde from this week on the topic as well!https://kingheros.bethmartens.com/blog/107527-justine-lalonde-the-hidden-dangers-of-psychiatric-medsJeff's Bio:A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 7 popular books: Soulshaping, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love It Forward, An Uncommon Bond, Spiritual Graffiti, Grounded Spirituality, Hearticulations. And, 2 shadow banned books: Humanifestations, and Where is God in all of this? He is also the producer and central subject in the award-winning spiritual documentary, ‘Karmageddon,' which also features Ram Dass, Seane Corn, Deva Premal and Miten. Jeff has authored a series of inspirations for ABC'S ‘Good Morning America,' has been featured on http://FoxNews.com and dozens of radio shows, and has contributed to The Washington Post, Elephant Journal, Spirit of Maat, Positively Positive, The Good Men Project, Unity Magazine, Rebelle Society, and Maria http://Shriver.com. In 2010, he wrote a blog ‘Apologies to the Divine Feminine (from a warrior in transition),' which quickly went viral and continues to be widely shared today. In a world saturated with spiritual teachers and self-help gurus, Jeff brings a refreshingly honest and human approach to what he calls ‘grounded spirituality.' His dictionary of new terms and short impactful writings became a phenomenon some years ago, and continue to be shared by seekers and growers worldwide. His quotes have been shared in social media by Alanis Morrissette, Fergie, Jason Silva, LeAnn Rimes, Chrissy Metz, and many other well-known figures. Most beautifully, they have touched and benefited millions of souls. This gratifies him deeply. Jeff is also the founder of Soulshaping Institute and Enrealment Press. He lives in Canada. His next book, In Trudeau's Kitchen, will be available shortly.Twitter: @JeffBrownEnrealSubstack: https://jeffbrown42.substack.com Fakebook: https://www.facebook.com/SOULSHAPING/ Get his new book: https://trineday.com/products/in-trudeau-s-kitchen-my-unexpected-journey-with-sophie-trudeau-power-and-the-politics-of-intuition  *** MORE FROM BETHFor more from Beth, her books, her social media links, Telegram Groups, and to apply to become a member of the House of Free Will Ministry visit: https://linktr.ee/bethmartens Sign up to take a 5-minute King Hero's Journey archetype quizhttps://www.bethmartens.com/king-hero-archetype-quiz-sign-up Sign up for a Hero's Journey Archetype Reading:https://www.bethmartens.com/heros_journey_archetype_reading Being free is not a spectator sport - Hal Anthony, “Behind the Woodshed”

Send us a textThis US holiday weekend, let's revisit three of your favorite podcast episodes. Interestingly, they all have the same theme: why narcissistic abuse survivors initially think they're the problem.Clip 1 is from Season 3 Episode 64: "How mad can I make you?" The Toxic Games Covert Narcissists Play”Video: https://youtu.be/pfU0y1ycgtgAudio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2150391/episodes/15052505Clip 2 is from Seoson 3 Episode 57: “Am I The Narcissist? When Toxic People Accuse You of Being The Problem”Video: https://youtu.be/wwKnai4Gu2MAudio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2150391/episodes/14715474Clip 3 is from Season 2, Episode 38: “Here's Why You're Not Spotting a Covert Narcissist…”Video: https://youtu.be/QaZovKhVoTcAudio https://www.buzzsprout.com/2150391/episodes/13845831This week, there's no podcast extra.   ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Battling a Narcissist in Court: A Live Q&A with Judge Michele Locke

Send us a textWhy do we pick bad partners? Is purely because of deception or are we missing early warning signs of a toxicity?This week, author and clinician, Mary Crocker Cook joins us to discuss the problems of early socialization and different expectation in the dysfunctional relationship.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Mary Crocker Cook?

Send us a textCan someone be both narcissistic and neurodivergent?This week, ADHD coach and neurodiversity educator Sheila Henson joins Dr. Kerry to explore the nuanced overlap between narcissistic traits and ADHD. Together, they unpack how these two very different dynamics can sometimes co-exist—and what that means for the health of your relationship.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Sheila Henson?

Send us a textIs your relationship displaying signs that it's over? Maybe it's on its last legs, and you wonder if it can be saved?In this episode, Dr. Becky Whetstone delves into the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the challenges faced during marriage crises. She shares her experiences and insights as a marriage therapist, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and recognizing the signs of an unhealthy relationship.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone? 

Welcome back to part of my interview with Samuel Marquis, author of numerous books of history and historical fiction, including his newest, "Captain Kidd: A True Story of Treasure and Betrayal."Samuel's previous book "'Blackbeard" won the Kirkus Reviews Book of the Year Award and his articles have been published in "History Central," "Writer's Digest," "The Lazy Historian," and "The Good Men Project," among other outlets.Today I'm talking with Samuel about what I call inner stuff–thought processes, internal dialogues, confidence–all that fun stuff!We covered:- Why villains are so fun to write (hint: it's not because they're evil)- Empathizing with folks who lived centuries ago and did things that we consider to be horrible today (like attending a public hanging on your wedding day, which Captain Kidd and his wife did)- His least favorite part of the writing process- Dealing with the nagging fear that you're not accurately portraying history- Looking for historical figures who were ahead of their time (because they make great characters)- Why Captain Kidd isn't the murderous pirate he was made out to be- Deciphering primary historical records–the handwriting, the different spellings (this was a really fun peek into the realities of writing about history)- Anchoring your research in the work of well-respected historians- How the idea that if you work hard things will come easily is a myth- Why he played competitive lacrosse until he was sixtyConnect with Samuel at samuelmarquisbooks.com.For full show notes with links to everything we discuss, plus bonus photos!, visit katehanley.substack.com.Thank you for listening!And thanks to this week's sponsor, Air Doctor Pro. Visit airdoctorpro.com and use code KATE to save 30% off an amazing indoor air filter *and* receive a free three-year warranty (an $84 value). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textAre you living with a narcissist or a stressfully demanding person? These types of relationships often require us to step up with extra emotional labor without us even realizing it. This week, psychotherapist and author Terri Cole joins us to explore the hidden costs of high-functioning codependency. Learn why over-helping is often a trauma response, not a personality trait—and what to do if you're living with a boundary bully.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Terri Cole? 

Send us a textAre female friendships just as damaging as pathological love relationships?This week, Sabrina Kirberg, author of We Used to be Best Friends, joins us to discuss the harmful consequences of toxic women friendships. Learn why we often miss spotting toxic female relationships and their common harmful dynamics.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Sabrina Kirberg?

Diana Raab joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about connecting with ancestors and tuning into their guidance, books that need to be written, when publisher requests don't resonate with us, adding prompts for readers, unwanted daughters and intergenerational trauma, how books we don't like help us, adding prompts for readers, tapping into authentic voice, and her new book Hummingbird: Messages from My Ancestors.   Also in this episode:  -reading broadly  -surviving cancer multiple times -how trauma manifests later in life   Book mentioned in this episode: This Boys Life by Tobias Wolff Paula by Isabel Allende Fierce Attachments by Vivian Gornick  Crazy Brave by Joy Harjo  Poet Warrior by Joy Harjo   Diana Raab, MFA, PhD, is a poet, memoirist, workshop leader, thought-leader and award-winning author of fourteen books. Her work has been widely published and anthologized. Her poems have been nominated for the Pushcart Prize and The Best of the Net. She frequently speaks and writes on writing for healing and transformation. Her 14th and newest book is Hummingbird: Messages from My Ancestors, A memoir with reflection and writing prompts (2024).Raab writes for Psychology Today, The Good Men Project, Sixty and Me, Thrive Global, and is a guest writer for many others.    Connect with Diana: Website: https://www.dianaraab.com Forthcoming poetry anthology: https://gunpowderpress.com/product/women-in-a-golden-state/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dianaraab/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diana-raab-phd-a1850911/ Facebook (Author): https://www.facebook.com/DianaRaab.Author/ Facebook (Diana M Raab): https://www.facebook.com/diana.m.raab/ Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/512931.Diana_Raab YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/dianaraab1 Diana's monthly newsletter: https://dianaraab.com/signup/ – Ronit's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer's Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts' 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories.  She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Subscribe to Ronit's Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank https://bsky.app/profile/ronitplank.bsky.social   Background photo credit: Photo by Patrick Tomasso on Unsplash Headshot photo credit: Sarah Anne Photography Theme music: Isaac Joel, Dead Moll's Fingers

Send us a textLiving with a narcissistic or emotionally toxic person will wreak havoc on your personality or sense of self.  This week, Lynn Strathdee, mental health therapist and expert, joins us today to discuss the effects of chronic exposure to narcissistic abuse. Learn how dysfunctional relationship shapes your personality, giving “echoistic” tendencies.  Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Lynn Strathdee?    

In this conversation with Jack Kemmer, we're talking with Jack Kammer about men, manhood, and masculinity. We have a wide ranging conversation about the kind of men that young men are looking up to. How do you counter someone like Andrew Tate and others who have the rapt attention of young men. Obviously, this topic is important to me as a past contributor to The Good Men Project. Dive into another conversation on men with Jack Kammer.

Dr. Kerry McAvoy returns to talk about what it means to heal from narcissistic abuse. Not just from an intellectual standpoint, but healing your nervous system, in your relationships, and in your relationship to yourself. Healing is not quick, it's not tidy, and it's definitely not linear. Dr. Kerry and I talk about how women have been conditioned to serve, to disappear, to manage the emotions of everyone around us just to maintain the illusion of peace. We explore what emotional fusion looks like, what healthy relationships look like, and what it means to reconnect with Self throughout your healing journey. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: How and why so many of us learned to believe our needs are “too much” (3:59) Discerning between, “Are you being loved and respected or just useful?” (18:03) What healthy love actually looks like (spoiler alert it includes messiness and mistakes) (28:04) Healing doesn't have a finish line and why that's okay (29:35) Learn more about Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D:  Dr. Kerry, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Our Family WizardUnbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Dr. Kerry's websiteDr. Kerry on Facebook  Dr. Kerry on Instagram Dr. Kerry on YouTube Dr. Kerry on TikTok Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships, David Schnarch PhD| ====== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Send us a textAre you trying to heal from a betrayal? If you have survived a narcissistic relationship then you have experienced betrayal. Often repetitive, devastating breaches of trust.This week, Dr. Debi Silber joins us to discuss how to rebuild renewed confidence after betrayal. She outlines the five stages of betrayal recovery as well the common pitfalls that keep survivors stalled from fully healing after abuse.   Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Dr. Silber?

Connection. We all yearn for it in different ways - personally, professionally, and erotically. Plus, connection in so many other ways. Yet what happened for me over a 4-day Connect Retreat with Court Vox - Certified Intimacy and Sex coach, was surprising, intriguing, scary, exiting, and led me places I never would have imagined - in all areas of my life. Today I share my raw truths, experiences, and insights in this episode. You'll discover: The truth about what drove me to go to the retreat and what I had to release Where eroticism showed up where I least expected it What I am no longer afraid to do to fully in my erotic self About Rick Rick is a well-known culture disruptor in the LGBTQ+ community and world (in a good way), “closet buster (coming out coach),” and bold move coach for gay men (the gay man's life coach) – inspiring gay men to live life with no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Tapping into his 25+ years experience in personal development, and leveraging being a late bloomer, coming out of the closet at 36, he's created a no B.S. approach for thriving as a gay man and father – personally and professionally. His writing has been featured in Huffington Post, YourTango, The Good Men Project, e-Harmony. He is a published author - Frankly My Dear I'm Gay  - and currently working on his second book. His love for podcasting (Life (UN)Closeted and 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk), has led him to publish over 900 episodes and counting. He is also a highly sought after speaker and speaker trainer. His mission is to inspire gay and bisexual men to fully embrace the truth of who they are for unapologetic living on their terms. He loves wine, his two grown daughters, and his husband, in that order but don't tell the hubby where he fits in the pecking order. Connect With Rick Website Instragram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you're going to do, but never do? Then it's time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Send us a textToxic relationships tremendously impact our emotional selves, but what about our sexual selves? Dr. Lisha Antiqua, an expert in sexual intimacy and soul psychology, joins us to discuss how common toxic dynamics in narcissistic relationships, such as objectification and transactional relationships, diminish our intimate connection with one another. She also defines the importance of healthy interpersonal and sexual boundaries.  Looking for the Podcast Interview with Dr. Lisha Antiqua?

Send us a textIs it autism or narcissism? It's become trendy lately to excuse toxic/abusive behavior as neurodivergence.Today, Erica Little-Herron, an expert/advocate on autism, joins us to discuss the key differences between narcissism and autism.Looking for the Podcast Interview with Erica Little-Herron?

Do you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you're making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don't even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You'll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project for a treasure trove of practical advice, and to read Connell's dating advice column.)You're about to learn:2:30: What to NEVER do when talking to a woman you've just met6:39: A simple first-date fix that turns women on16:40: Why men feel more dating anxiety than ever22:00: Practical ways to build self-esteem and confidence25:50: How to give authentic compliments that women love33:00: The single biggest dating mistake you're making39:10: Great topics to talk about that spark connection47:30: How to turn fear and doubt into fun and excitement59:17: Lisa's no. 1 dating tip that every man must knowAre you ready to become an even better man? Listen now!FOR GREAT READS AND PRACTICAL TIPS TO BE A BETTER MAN:http://GoodMenProject.comCHECK OUT THE GOOD MEN PROJECT'S DATING SUBSTACK:http://gmpdating.substack.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU'LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.comQuotes"Meaningful compliments celebrate deeper attributes beyond appearance."- Lisa Hickey"Building modern relationships requires the courage to take the next step after a good interaction."- Lisa HickeyFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation

Send us a textGoing no contact with a parent, particularly when it's your mother, is a gut-wrenching decision.Alex Anderson, an independent film-maker and writer joins me to discuss his timely movie, FOG, which explores a toxic mother-daughter dynamics. He describes how Fog-Obligation-Guilt drives this challenging relationship.Learn more about Alex and his work here: https://www.youtube.com/@alexanderson2467To watch the FOG trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DacCvo7ngLASee the full movie of FOG here: https://youtu.be/aAknjJiYZJA?si=blSq5URg7RGhC7RgLooking for the Podcast Interview with Alex Anderson?

Send us a textWhy do men abuse? How does this behavior benefit them?Today, Chuck Derry, the co-founder of the Gender Violence Institute, joins us to discuss the disturbing reasons for male violence and what community responses are needed to curb these toxic/dangerous behaviors.To learn more about the results of Chuck Derry's study, visit: https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/Gender Violence Institute: https://www.genderviolenceinstitute.orgLooking for the Podcast Interview with Chuck Derry?

Send us a textYou're barely picking up the pieces, and your ex has already moved on—posting picture-perfect snapshots of their new, fabulous life. Meanwhile, you're left wondering: Were they always this happy, or is this just for show? In this episode, Dr. Kerry and Lisa Sonni dive into why narcissists and toxic personalities seem to seamlessly transition into a "perfect" new relationship. Is it real, or is it just another illusion? And if you're struggling with the gut-punch of watching your ex's highlight reel, we've got practical strategies to help you break free from the comparison trap and reclaim your healing.➡️ Want to watch the Podcast Extra Interview? https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse

Send us a textEver wondered if your partner's cruelty is intentional? Do they know they're being hurtful, or is it just thoughtlessness?This week, Dr. Kerry and Lisa Sonni expose a chilling but often-overlooked dynamic in toxic relationships: sadism.Learn what sadism really is, how it shows up in narcissistic partnerships, and why some toxic individuals seem to take pleasure in your pain. ➡️ Want to watch the Podcast Extra Interview? https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse

Send us a textWhat signs warn that we've met not just a toxic person, but someone dangerous?This week Joe Navarro, author and former FBI special agent joins us to discuss the four most dangerous personalities. Navarro is most well-known for his work as a body language expert. He's authored several books, including What Every Body is Saying, Dangerous Personalities, Louder Than Words, and The Dictionary of Body Language.To Watch the Podcast Extra Interview▶︎ Get practical help on how to recognize and escape a dangerous situation in this week's Podcast Extra exclusive Interview with Joe Navarro. Get immediate access to the newsletter and video interview when you join today: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseMore About Joe Navarro WebsiteTED TalkYouTubeJoe Navarro's BooksDangerous PersonalitiesWhat Every Body is SayingThe Dictionary of Body Language  ****************************************Stay in Touch with Us!Kerry McAvoy, PhDYoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookLisa SonniYoutubeInstagramTiktokFacebookMore About Us!Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D.Dr. Kerry, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Lisa SonniLisa Sonni is a certified Life & Relationship Coach, specializing in trauma bond recovery and abuse education, who helps clients from all walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumatic partnerships. She has published an online self-guided course, The Trauma Bond Recovery Course, and several books, The Trauma Bond Recovery Journal, and Surviving to Thriving: A Six-Step Blueprint to Narcissistic Abuse Healing and Recovery.With 7 professional certifications and her own experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse, her expertise is geared towards getting clients to a good space in their lives and within themselves. Lisa has two children and enjoys cooking, reading, and walking. She is a popular content creator on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube under the name Stronger Than Before with over 1M followers, where she educates people on abuse tactics, narcissism, and domestic violence.  She has helped thousands of women exit and rebuild their lives.Support the show

Comments or feedback? Send us a text! Whether it's in our personal relationships, at work, or even with ourselves, boundaries are essential for our well-being and peace of mind. Yet, many of us - even clinicians I might add - at times struggle with this practice, often feeling overwhelmed, guilty, or unsure of how to start. In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Sharon Martin discuss insights from your new book "Better Boundaries Guided Journal" which offerings practical advice and thoughtful discussion on how to establish boundaries that protect our time, energy, and emotional health.  In this conversation we cover: what inspired her to create the "Better Boundaries Guided Journal"the most common misconceptions people have about setting boundaries.the flexible application of boundaries.overcoming the fear of conflict or potential for ejection that may come with setting boundaries.the role that guilt play in preventing people from setting boundaries, and how can someone work through these feelings?managing the challenge of connecting with resentment that has built up when we do start enforcing boundaries.  why clinicians may be particularly challenged with respect to implementing the very boundaries that they encourage for their clients.  the influence of family of origin on our boundary-setting abilities. boundaries as an extention of self-care.  the importance of recognizing personal rights in boundary-setting and how someone can begin to assert these rights in a way that feels authentic to them?helping clients who are considering putting hard boundaries between themselves and their family, including no contact.  enforcing boundaries within the workplace. setting realistic expectations around boundary setting and the reactions of others using boundary setting to evaluate the health of a relationship. Bio: Dr. Sharon Martin, LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and psychotherapist devoted to teaching clients to love and accept themselves. She has practiced psychotherapy for over twenty years, drawing strongly on positive psychology and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques. Martin is a regular columnist for popular online publications, including Psychology Today and PsychCentral. She is a frequent guest on health and wellness podcasts. Her well-informed insights are featured on numerous websites, including The Good Men Project, Highly Sensitive Refuge, and Healthline.  Along with her extensive contributions to online media, Martin authors both e-books and printed titles. Her newest book, The Better Boundaries Workbook, helps clients find their voices and express their needs, allowing them to set limits and cultivate healthier relationships in their lives. Martin provides freely accessible affirmations and worksheets via her website, reflecting her passion for helping people learn self-compassion and self-acceptance.

Send us a textNarcissists often claim to love us. That they want the save the relationship; but do they?In this episode, Dr. Kerry and Lisa Sonni discuss the confusing dynamic of narcissistic partners claiming to be changing and addressing the relationship issues, only aren't. Learn how survivors can tell the difference between genuine effort from sophisticated manipulation.Is it tricky to distinguish real from fake love?  Be sure to check out this week's podcast extra on how to spot someone lying about their intentions. Get immediate access to this exclusive content when you subscribe here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse ****************************************Stay in Touch with Us!Kerry McAvoy, PhDYoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookLisa SonniYoutubeInstagramTiktokFacebookMore About Us!Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D.Dr. Kerry, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Lisa SonniLisa Sonni is a certified Life & Relationship Coach, specializing in trauma bond recovery and abuse education, who helps clients from all walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumatic partnerships. She has published an online self-guided course, The Trauma Bond Recovery Course, and several books, The Trauma Bond Recovery Journal, and Surviving to Thriving: A Six-Step Blueprint to Narcissistic Abuse Healing and Recovery.With 7 professional certifications and her own personal experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse, her expertise is geared towards getting clients to a good space in their lives and within themselves. Lisa has two children and enjoys cooking, reading, and walks. She is a popular content creator on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube under the name Stronger Than Before with over 1M followers, where she educates people on abuse tactics, narcissism and domestic violence.  She has helped thousands of women exit and rebuild their lives.Join us for a transformative experience at the Rising Strong Retreat, hosted at a private hacienda on the Caribbean shores of Mexico. Secure your spot today at WellnessRecoveryRetreats.com and save 10% with coupon code RISINGTODAY. Support the show

Send us a textNarcissists know they are being abusive--that they're being manipulative and exploitative. This week, Dr. Peter Salerno is back to discuss his latest book, Traumatizing Cognitive Dissonance. He discusses with Lisa Sonni why abusive relationships with narcissists leave survivors feeling psychologically battered and confused. Are you looking for help battling the mental confusion caused by a narcissist? Dr. Salerno gives practical steps to reduce this mental confusion so that mental clarity and peace are possible again in this week's Substack Breaking Free Podcast Extra. Get immediate access to this and other exclusive interviews when you join here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseTo Learn More About Dr. Peter Salerno: Website For a Copy of Dr. Salerno's Books: Traumatic Cognitive Dissonance: Healing From An Abusive Relationship With A Disordered PersonalityThe Nature and Nurture of Narcissism: Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder from the Perspective of Gene - Environment Interaction          ****************************************Stay in Touch with Us!Kerry McAvoy, PhDYoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookLisa SonniYoutubeInstagramTiktokFacebookMore About Us!Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D.Dr. Kerry, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships.Lisa SonniLisa Sonni is a certified Life and Relationship Coach who specializes in trauma bond recovery and abuse education. She helps clients from all walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumatic partnerships. She has published an online self-guided course, The Trauma Bond Recovery Course, and several books, The Trauma Bond Recovery Journal and Surviving to Thriving.With 7 professional certifications and her own personal experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse, Lisa has become a popular content creator on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube under the name Stronger Than Before, where she educates people on abuse tactics, narcissism, and domestic violence.Join us for a transformative experience at the Rising Strong Retreat, hosted at a private hacienda on the Caribbean shores of Mexico. Secure your spot today at WellnessRecoveryRetreats.com and save 10% with coupon code RISINGTODAY. Support the show

Send us a textNarcissists will use any means to control you, especially guilt.In this episode, Dr. Kerry and Lisa discuss the common reasons guilt is such a powerful weapon in the hands of a narcissist or toxic personality.For practical examples of common guilt phrases and how to break free from this toxic dynamic, join the Podcast Extra's newsletter on SubStack for immediate access to this week's exclusive video.Join here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse****************************************Stay in Touch with Us!Kerry McAvoy, PhDYoutube - https://youtube.com/kerrymcavoyphdInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/kerrymcavoyphdTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@kerrymcavoyphdFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/kerrymcavoyphdLisa SonniYoutube -  https://youtube.com/@strongerthanbeforeInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/_stronger_than_before_coachTiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@_stronger_than_beforeFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/StrongerThanBeforeCoachingMore About Us!Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D.Dr. Kerry, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Lisa SonniLisa Sonni is a certified Life & Relationship Coach, specializing in trauma bond recovery and abuse education, who helps clients from all walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumatic partnerships. She has published an online self-guided course, The Trauma Bond Recovery Course, and several books, The Trauma Bond Recovery Journal, and Surviving to Thriving: A Six-Step Blueprint to Narcissistic Abuse Healing and Recovery.With 7 professional certifications and her own personal experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse, her expertise is geared towards getting clients to a good space in their lives and within themselves. Lisa has two children and enjoys cooking, reading, and walks. She is a popular content creator on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube under the name Stronger Than Before with over 1M followers, where she educates people on abuse tactics, narcissism and domestic violence.  She has helped thousands of women exit and rebuild their lives.Eye-Opening Moments PodcastEye-Opening Moments are stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives. They are...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Send us a textHave you noticed how upset narcissists get? How they can't regulate themselves?Anna Runkle of the wildly popular Crappy Childhood Fairy YouTube channel joins me today to talk about the importance of learning how to regulate yourself, especially after living with a narcissist.Learn more about the role of psychological regulation plays in setting us free from the lingering effects of trauma and abuse.Want to know the first steps to gaining peace and control after an upsetting event? Find out Anna's recommendations when you become a subscriber of Breaking Free Podcast Extra Substack newsletter. Get exclusive access to this extra interview along with takeaways and practical how-tos. Get immediate access here:To learn more about Anna:Website: https:crappyChildhoodFairy.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CrappyChildhoodFairy/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@crappychildhoodfairyGet her latest book, Re-Regulated: Set Your Life Free from Childhood PTSD and Change the Trauma-Driven Behaviors That Keep You Stuck Here: https://amzn.to/3PpG8Fx    ****************************************Stay in Touch with Us!Kerry McAvoy, PhDYoutube - https://youtube.com/kerrymcavoyphdInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/kerrymcavoyphdTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@kerrymcavoyphdFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/kerrymcavoyphdLisa SonniYoutube -  https://youtube.com/@strongerthanbeforeInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/_stronger_than_before_coachTiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@_stronger_than_beforeFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/StrongerThanBeforeCoachingMore About Us!Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D.Dr. Kerry, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Lisa SonniLisa Sonni is a certified Life & Relationship Coach, specializing in trauma bond recovery and abuse education, who helps clients from all walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumaticCreate Harmony This is a podcast about setting an intentional rhythm, savoring life's blessings and...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Kick off the New Year with us in this special cohosted POTC episode! We've got a MAJOR announcement for 2025, and we're also chatting about the ups and downs of decision-making—all backed by psychology. We're also reflecting on our 2024 highlights, sharing what we're all hoping for in the new year, and talking about how community, flexibility, and staying true to your values play into making some of life's tough choices. Plus, we're giving you a sneak peek at what's coming up on the podcast this year, including some awesome insights on relationship science and our personal goals for the future. Our exciting POTC New Year announcement Decision-making and understanding psychological flexibility How acceptance and commitment therapy can be applied when making decisions  Making values-driven decisions and the importance of community and connection Cohost 2024 reflections and highlights About Emily Edlynn Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children's Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children's hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019.About Debbie Sorenson Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor's degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog.About Jill Stoddard Jill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner's Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman's Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog.  About Michael Herold Michael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He's helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they're mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kick off the New Year with us in this special cohosted POTC episode! We've got a MAJOR announcement for 2025, and we're also chatting about the ups and downs of decision-making—all backed by psychology. We're also reflecting on our 2024 highlights, sharing what we're all hoping for in the new year, and talking about how community, flexibility, and staying true to your values play into making some of life's tough choices. Plus, we're giving you a sneak peek at what's coming up on the podcast this year, including some awesome insights on relationship science and our personal goals for the future. Our exciting POTC New Year announcement Decision-making and understanding psychological flexibility How acceptance and commitment therapy can be applied when making decisions  Making values-driven decisions and the importance of community and connection Cohost 2024 reflections and highlights About Emily Edlynn  Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children's Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children's hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. About Debbie Sorenson  Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor's degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. About Jill Stoddard  Jill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner's Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman's Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog.   About Michael Herold  Michael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He's helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they're mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Therese Markow and Mark Greene discuss the pervasive issue of mansplaining, a phenomenon where men explain things to women despite their lesser expertise. Mark explains that mansplaining is rooted in "Man Box Culture," a set of rigid masculine rules that discourage emotional expression and promote dominance. He highlights that these rules, which include not showing emotions and being a breadwinner, have been ingrained since the Industrial Revolution and are still prevalent today. Mark emphasizes the need for men to unlearn these behaviors to form meaningful connections and improve their mental health. He also discusses the impact of these cultural norms on men's professional and personal lives, advocating for a shift towards more inclusive and emotionally open masculinity.    Key Takeaways: No culture is monolithic. No culture is non-changeable.  Mansplaining is one direct product of a culture of masculinity that says: Don't show your emotions. Always be tough, be right, know more.. Never talk about anything deep. Man Box Culture is not traditional masculinity The breaking of connection is what leads to Man Box Culture and the increased rates of suicide in teenage boys and mental health challenges in adult men. Authentic, deep, caring relationships require emotional sharing. If you spend your life mansplaining, you don't have connection.   "My work is around the idea that we want to get men to wake up to the limitations of Man Box Culture and shift that culture to a healthier culture of expression and connection." —  Mark Greene   Episode References:  Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608464660  The Man Box Study by Equimundo: https://www.equimundo.org/resources/man-box-study-young-man-us-uk-mexico/  When Boys Become Boys by Judy Chu: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0814764800  Niobe Way: https://www.niobe-way.com/  Catalyst: How Combative Cultures Prevent Men from Interrupting Sexism: https://www.catalyst.org/research/combative-culture-sexism-infographic/  The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/    Connect with Mark Greene: Website: https://remakingmanhood.com/  Twitter: https://x.com/remakingmanhood  Book: The Little #MeToo Book for Me: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0983466963  Book: The Relational Book for Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1979378657  Remaking Manhood Podcast: https://remakingmanhood.com/2019/04/01/the-podcast/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrkgreene/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/remakingmanhood/    Connect with Therese: Website: www.criticallyspeaking.net Threads: @critically_speaking Email: theresemarkow@criticallyspeaking.net   Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. 

Kristal DeSantis is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Austin, Texas, known for her expertise in relationships, trauma work, and sex therapy. With a focus on supporting first responder couples and addressing men's issues, Kristal offers a unique therapeutic approach rooted in understanding male psychology and the challenges faced by men in contemporary society.Her development of The STRONG model of Relational Therapy, which blends trauma-informed and attachment-based methods, has earned her a reputation as a leading authority in the domain. Her recent book, "STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man," offers practical guidance for navigating contemporary relationships. Kristal's dedication to advancing men's mental health advocacy extends beyond her clinical practice. As a trainer, consultant, author, and public speaker, she actively promotes awareness and education on the importance of men's mental health and wellness as well as the impact of trauma on relationships.Kristal's insights have been featured in publications such as Newsweek, HuffPost, The Good Men Project, and Time, and she has appeared on podcasts discussing masculinity, mental health, and relationships.https://www.strong.love/https://www.facebook.com/strongloveatxhttps://twitter.com/atxtherapisthttps://www.instagram.com/atxtherapist/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristal-desantis/https://www.tiktok.com/@atx_therapistBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/i-am-refocused-radio--2671113/support.