Courting in Color

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis catch up. Before the main topic, our hosts catch up. This week, Luis is on Spring Break and resting; Chatrice is in conference planning mode and trying to get back in fitness mode. For the main topic, our hosts catch up with a life check. Both Chatrice and Luis both flew with baes for the first time. Courting Cuties, what do you think, do couples need to do everything together on vacation? What are lessons you have learned while on vacation with your partner? how do you handle different vacation approaches between you and your partner?Time Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back4:52 - What holidays are we celebrating? Awkward Moments Day on March 18th, National Proposal on March 20th, First Day of Spring March 21st15:18 - Courting Cutie Shout Out24:00 - Shout Out for the Culture: Emilio Delgado (Luis, “Sesame Street”) passes on March 10; Abbot Elementary News: officially renewed for a 2nd season, supporting Scholastic Book Fairs in underfunded schools32:24 - Year of the Request39:02 - Main Topic: Catching Up, Life Check40:02- Luis shares for life check: attending first national conference, 44:35 - Chatrice and Luis both flew with baes for the first time 47:04 - Do couples need to do everything together on vacation?48:11 - Chares shares for life check: Chatrice's baecation to Florida 59:27 - Learning lessons while on vacation with bae1:02:10 - Vacation Differentiation- how do you handle different vacation approaches between you and your partner?1:10:05 - Chatrice's whirlwind adventure coming back home 1:13:15 - Chatrice will never fly Alegiant again1:14:30 - Announcement: Extended Season Break1:17:02 - End of the EpisodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk dating and relationship tips from Megan thee Stallion. Before the main topic, our hosts catch up as Luis takes over this episode. Since last time, Chatrice is out here trying to get all her credit card points; meanwhile, Luis is dealing with busyness at work and attended an excellent zoom workshop. For the main topic, our hosts discuss how they heard about Megan, wonder the influence of the Pete women on Megan's confidence, and communication your dating needs and expectations. Time Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:36 - Luis Takeover 1:02 - Hosts Check In10:35 - Question for the Season - what holiday are we celebrating this season? Megan the Stallion's birthday (Feb. 15), Hootie Hoo Day (Feb. 20)13:23 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Monet is Black History as first Black person hired in her department; Chatrice is the face of Black History Month on a website; any BIPOC looking for new jobs18:31 - Shout Out for the Culture: Black History Month special (TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@duhleeuhhh/video/7064009539477196079?_t=8PuJ1lybk46&_r=1); Karen Ashley was the first Black women to become a Power Rangers; Jordan Peele release the trailer for Nope23:12 - Year of the Request: Chipotle scammed Luis out of a coca-cola23:56 - Main Topic: The Book of Dating According to Megan thee Stallion24:58 - Assignment: Chatrice and Luis each assigned a Megan thee Stallion album to examine25:25 - What can Megan thee Stallion teach us about courting?25:38 - Luis listened to “Make It Hot”, Megan the Stallion's first widely released album26:12 - Chatrice examined “Fever”, Hot Girl Meg was Megan the Stallion's persona27:13 - How did each host hear about Megan? What draws each host to Megan the Stallion as an artist?34:58 - #HottieScholar, Chatrice's methodology for this episode36:48 - Chatrice's Song #1: “Best You Ever Had” by Megan the Stallion38:40 - Luis' methodology for this episode40:16 - Luis' Song #1: “Naturally” by Megan the Stallion41:01 - Anyone can date like a man41:44 - Who are the Pete women who taught Megan how to be comfortable with herself?42:25 - Luis to Chatrice: have you thirst trapped?43:53 - Honor what you want, confirmed the proposed goods45:46 - Hotties and Aunties, the spectrum that exists; hotties transitioning into aunties 46:36 - Chatrice's Song 2: “Realer”48:55 - Knowing two people are equally yolked50:50 - Luis' Song #2: “Last Week in H Tx” by Megan the Stallion54:15 - Owning your sexuality and being a sexual being 54:47 - Chatrice's Song #3: “Cash Shit” by Megan the Stallion56:40 - No apologies for having taste and liking nice things57:54 - Luis' Song #3: “Crazy” by Megan thee Stallion58:54 - Megan the Stallion auditions for “Love & Hip Hop”59:29 - Financial reality you want to live in 1:01:05 - When someone is into you, it feels good 1:08:47 - Closing Out: what advice would Megan thee Stallion give to courting and dating?1:11:18 - Megan thee Stallion gives Luis a shout out 1:13:18 - End of ShowArticle - Tai Gooden at the Nerdist: https://nerdist.com/article/nope-trailer-jordan-peele-keke-palmer-daniel-kaluuya-steven-yeun/Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about moving in with a romantic partner. What does it mean to cohabitate with a romantic partner? Before the main topics our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis finds themselves busy with weekday evenings and Spring semester is off to the races; meanwhile, Chatrice is planning a Spring Break trip. For the main topic our hosts discuss living with romantic partners you are not married to including what caused them to move in together, how the decision to move in together felt right, and what lessons they learn about themselves and their partners after having moved in together.Time Stamps:0:19 - Hello & Welcome Back0:33 - Catching Up13:14 - What holiday are we celebrating this week? National Pizza Day, Alice Walker's Day, President's Day (USA), National Family Day (Canada), International Flirting Week16:59 - Shout Out for the Culture: Missy Elliot becomes the first Female rapper to reach six platnium albums and “The Cookbook” album will be released as vinyl; Black owned business shoutout: Npressed, Bykashano.com; Abbot Elementary; The Color Purple musical will be made into a film, Oprah Winfrey surprises Danielle Brook that she will play Sofia in the film adaptation, will be released December 2023; 24:38 - Year of the Request27:24 - Main Topic: living with romantic partners and/or signifcant others - specifically, partner you are not married to28:22 - Jenna Birch from purewow.com - critical milestone, sign of a potential life together29:25 - What made us move in or cohabitate with your partner?31:00 - Cohabitating because of the pandemic and living seperately35:24 - Decision made just felt right, no hesitation was felt41:24 - Sexual health in monogamous relationship42:20 - Question: was there anything you were nervous about before moving in with your partner?44:59 - Seperate quirks but also similar quirks in a partner47:05 - Fear: what happens if we break up?48:11 - De-cohabitation49:11 - Passing gas, doing #2, not looking date ready51:15 - How is it going at present?55:44 - Who is the morning person and who is the fully morning person?56:38 - What have the hosts learned about themselves and their partners since cohabitating?59:11 - Still valuing self and alone time even with moving in together59:51 - Being fiercely independent in a relationship, doing things without your partner1:00:33 - One message to share with the audience about living with a partner1:02:25 - Chatrice Tip: Create cohabitation agreement1:05:25 - How to plan now, don't wait for the rainy day to have hoped for an umbrella1:06:35 - You got to have the love AND the reality1:06:53 - How to protect yourself while still being vulnerable in a relationship 1:08:23 - End of episode Article:- https://www.purewow.com/wellness/moving-in-togetherWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk how to keep the spark alive in a relationship. Before they discuss the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time Luis celebrated their birthday with a special dinner at TGI Friday's; meanwhile, Chatrice is on a hair journey and has a white Karen moment at Jersey Mike's. For the main topic, our hosts discuss '10 Tried and True Ways to Keep a Relationship Fresh”. They review the pieces of advice discussing how to keep a relationship fresh, a tip for traveling with someone who is an anxious person, and not accidentally losing your self in a relationship.Time Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome back0:47 - What have hosts been up to0:55 - How did Luis celebrate their birthday4:50 - GRWM, Chatrice discovers it means ‘Get Ready With Me'17:16 - Question for the Season: What holiday are we celebrating this season? Single Awareness Day, Galentine's Day, Valentine's Day18:50 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Luis20:42 - Shout Out for the Culture: Black History, Lunar New Year; movies with Black and Asian leads: Rush Hour, Romeo Must Die, and Whitney's ‘Cinderella'; Rihanna is expecting!; Naomi Osaka launches Kinló; Anniversary of Trayvon Martin's murder; Happy Birthday Trayvon Martin28:29 - Main Topic: Dating in a relationship; keeping the spark alive30:01 - Article: “10 Tried and True Ways to Keep a Relationship Fresh' by Allison Michelle Dienstman30:39 - What is the current routine with our partners?36:23 - How often are you and your bae in the same room and on your devices?39:41 - What do you do to keep it fresh?43:11 - Discussing article and its advice43:28 - Advice #1: Fit A Date Night in the Routine46:12 - If you are late to work by 15 minutes and you get to have breakfast with your partner, yes!46:26 - Advice #2: Turn Off Your Phone47:37 - What is your bed time routine when you are both in bed together before falling asleep?49:40 - Advice #3: Book A Vacation Together51:06 - A tip for people who travel with someone who has anxiety 54:16 - Advice #4: Set Aside Time for Your Self 54:56 - Cardi B lyric reference 56:59 - Not accidentally losing self in relationship57:13 - White women advice: “being independently together”; being very much independent of one another 58:55 - Advice #5: Try Something New Together1:02:01 - Advice #6: Say Thank You 1:03:05 - Advice #7: Focus on the Good1:04:20 - No toxic positivity in a relationship1:08:27 - Advice #8: Go To Bed Together1:16:24 - End of EpisodeArticle:- https://www.goodnet.org/articles/10-ways-to-keep-relationship-freshWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

We are back! Happy New Year, Courting Cuties! For the first episode in 2022, Chatrice and Luis discuss Netflix's “Sexy Beasts”, a dating show which takes out of the equation looks by using cutting-edge prosthetics to completely change the daters. Our hosts catch up before discussing the main topic. Since last time, Luis has gone semi viral on their food blog and officially revealed their current location; meanwhile, Chatrice is an official glasses wear-er. For ‘Sexy Beasts' our hosts talk 3 episodes: Emma the demon, Kelechi the rooster, and Kariselle the Panda. SPOILERS at 26:32Time Stamps0:19 - Helo and Welcome Back0:22 - What have Chatrice and Luis been up to since last time?9:27 - What holiday are our hosts celebrating this week? MLK Day; Luis' birthday 11:03 - Nothing special about turning 3211:47 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Dr. Walter Lee, Kimberly13:58 - Luis guest lectures: Podcasting 10116:16 - oprah 16:33 - Shout Out For The Culture: Quinta Brunson's ‘Abbot Elementary'; NBC's ‘Grand Crew' with Nicole Byer19:26 - 2022 could be the roaring 20's of Black Television 20:17 - Luis' Shout Out is Old Navy20:44 - Gift yourself a brand new outfit for your birthday 26:32 - Main Topic: Sexy Beasts on Netflix28:28 - Watch 3 specific episodes on Season 128:54 - First Episode: Emma the Demon (Season 1, Episode 1) with Archie as Zeus, Adam as a Mouse, and Bennet as a Mandrill30:15 - General Thoughts33:58 - We don't play with the devil in this house40:13 - “Your first kiss is with a mask?!” - Luis, shocked44:03 - The prosthetics don't hide everything like body type and body size45:19 - Second Episode: Kelechi the Rooster (Season 1, Episode 6) with Cassie as a frog, Martha as a reindeer, and Lilly as a witch 48:46 - Third Episode: Kariselle the Panda (Season 1, Episode 3) with Ethan as a Tin Man, Tyler as an Alien, and Josh as a Bull51:05 - External pressure or ham it up for the camera? in re: Kariselle being very forward about finding a husband 58:05 - An opportunity to make a social commentary, being able to ask questions about what you are tracking as you are watching episodes59:00 - See Black women represented across media. nice to see Black people involved in this, don't embarras in front of white British people1:00:02 - If Chatrice was on the show, what would she talk about with the daters?1:02:53 - What does it mean that someone is your type when they are wearing prosthetics? 1:04:52 - Chatrice talks about going axe-throwing 1:05:31 - Best part of the episodes are the reveal in the Tunnel of Love 1:09:00 - Concluding Thoughts/Reflecting on the Whole Show1:10:57 - Don't doubt yourself as a creative1:12:40 - End of EpisodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis review “Love Hard” on Netflix starring Nina Dobrev and Jimmy O. Yang. Before the main topic our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis is off work this week and getting errands done for the holidays; meanwhile, Chatrice hosted a Cookies and Cocktails holiday party and saw “The Netcracker”. For the main topic, our hosts review “Love Hard” and discuss several themes of the film including: missed opportunity to make a social commentary on desirablity of Asian men in online dating; reasons for cat fishing; and, takeaways from the movie.Time Stamps0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:22 - What have hosts been up to since last time?9:07 - What are we celebrating this week? Christmas, Kwanzaa9:31 - What is the strategy to buying gifts? Luis answers: thoughtfullness, giving self plenty of time to buy gifts, give gifts from the heart14:05 - Shout Out for the Culture: Megan the Stallion graduates from Texas Southern University; from @BlackLove: what is the whitest of whitest songs you go off to? (Instagram Reel); Fast and the Furious series, Luis is rewatching all 9 movies21:40 - Main Topic: “Love Hard” review on Netflix, modern rom-com22:10 - SPOILER ALERT 22:12 - Plot Overview23:40 - Ingredients of rom-com: a big risk, a grand jesture, lies and mix-up, coordinated plan, and writer with a deadline for a juicy story24:12 - Overall thoughts on movie25:00 - Opportnity lost to make a social commentary: Asian men are least desirable on dating apps (*)25:59 - Josh's Asian identity is not brought up much on the film (*)27:46 - Healthy father-son relationship moment between Josh and his dad; healthy masculinity 30:19 - How far/deep should virtual relationships go?32:42 - If single during the pandemic, would Luis have expanded the online dating reach?35:04 - Would it ever be a good idea to surprise your virtual partner/lover because you want to meet them?36:30 - Very similar to ‘The Proposal' with Ryan Reynolds and Sandra Bullock39:29 - Is Josh a bad guy for accidentally catfishing Natalie? (*)40:35 - A blow to self-esteem when you are not successful in online dating42:46 - What is the end game for cat fishers?53:45 - Take aways from the movie57:48 - Final well wishes for 202158:40 - Follow happiness 1:00:25 - End of the episodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis continue the conversation about interracial dating. Before the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time Luis has been making new friends and Chatrice has been juggling work and putting together a “Cookies & Cocktails” party for the holidays. On the main topic our hosts talk through the interracil dating advice tips from Christine Forbes's article “5 Interracial Couples Share Advice on Being in an Interracial Relationship—Especially Now”.Time Stamps0:14 - Hello and Welcome 1:00 - Hosts check-in13:36 - What holidays are we celebrating this week? National Covered Anything in Chocolate Day and National Wreaths Across America Day 17:26 - Shout out for the Culture: Nicole Byer's Netflix Special “Big Beautiful Weirdo” is available; Iss Rae cast to voice Spider-Woman in Into the Spiderverse sequel which is out October 2022; Natasha Rothwell is profiled in LA Times, we learn about the deal she has with ABC through her production company and learn she was the first writer cast on Insecure; Black Fetus illustration by @/ebereillustrate on Instagram31:42 - Main Topic: Interracial Dating, part II conversation32:59 - Article: “5 Interracial Couples Share Advice on Being in an Interracial Relationship—Especially Now” by Christine Forbes34:01 - Interracial Dating Advice #1: Do Not Fetish Your Partner38:36 - AUDIO CLIP39:26 - White men in Black fraternities41:07 - Is it a fetish for white men to be in Black fraternities42:10 - Interracial Dating Advice #2: Establish respect before you start dating46:22 - Luis thought they would end up with someone who is exactly like them in many ways47:22 - Interracial Dating Advice #3: Every critque is not an attack, prepare to learn49:53 - Rooted in ego, look past yourself to help someonune underrstand and learn where they are coming from51:45 - Interracial Dating Advice #4: Be open to new experiences 1:00:10 - Feeling safety in relationship in order to try new things (Audio Clip)1:01:14 - Interracial Dating Advice #5: Protect your partner by addressing racism and transphobia when it happens1:05:10 - “You have to be ready to defend me as a Black woman if s—t pops off” - Chatrice1:10:34 - Takeaways from episode1:10:46 - For Luis: how to stand up for your partner; every disagreement is not an attack on you1:12:20 - Is difference a red flag? What about different personalities, world views, etc. between two people, does it mean it won't work?1:13:38 - For Chatrice: being someone's partner, wanting your partner to learn and being with them on the journey, not having to explain a lot of things and for it to be taxing 1:16:26 - End of episode

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis are back to talk interracial dating. Did you miss them these last 2 weeks, Courting Cuties? Before the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis discovered the true cost of Thanksgiving ham; created a TikTok for their cats; and, went to a high school's friend wedding; meanwhile, Chatrice is watching holiday baking television shows; went to Asheville with bae; and, busy time with school has concluded. For the main topic, our hosts have a part 1 discussion on interracial dating. They discuss hiding aspects of yourself when interracial dating, how to find the space for your racial and ethnic self within an interracial relationship, and how white people cannot pretend race does not exist when they date people of color.Time Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:50 - Hosts Check In16:10 - What holidays are we celebrating this season? (12/12) National Gingerbread House Day; (12/12) National Ding-a-ling Day21:26 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Carly's wedding (a top 3 wedding!); Rachel is engaged (season 4 guest, epsiode 39); Natalie is also engaged; congrats to Carla for being newly boo'd up (new term learned: kittenfishing) 32:52 - Main Topic: Interracial Dating 33:22 - New York Times article on Interracial Dating: “Do You Hide Your True Self While Dating?” by Brianna Holt35:00 - Responding to Remy Barnwell's story in article 38:38 - Hiding aspects of self while interracial dating (music, clothing, shoes); putting a lot of thought of how you show up and how you present yourself 39:25 - Being aware of self in professional settings (at work) vs. personal settings (like dating)42:20 - Being Black doesn't mean you fit into one box; you can be Black and it can mean anything47:21 - “If you are a white person dating a person of color, your world cannot be colorblind” - Luis50:14 - Being pro-black does not mean you are anti-white51:55 - How would Luis describe the experience of interracial dating?53:48 - Finding the space for racial/ethnic self within an interracial dating1:00:35 - Do you invite your white partner to BIPOC gatherings?1:02:02 - Chatrice has met bae's siblingsArticle: “Do You Hide Your True Self While Dating?” by Brianna Holt - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/11/style/interracial-dating.html Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, our hosts welcome Guest Courting Cutie Danielle to talk about her experience virtually dating with humhum, a digital platform for conscious dating and connection. Before talking with Danielle, Chatrice and Luis catch up. Since last time Luis is thinking social connection outside their relationship and therapy is pushing back on Luis' notion of productivity at work; meanwhile, Chatrice and bae went to the movies, visited museums, and are finalizing their baecation details. For the main topic, Daneille shares with our hosts her experience with humhum from the sign up, to the actual experience, and what happened after.Time Stamps:0:20 - Hello and Welcome back0:30 - Catching Up11:50 - Question of the Season: what holiday are we celebrating this week? National New Friends Day (11/17); National Unfriend Day (11/17); Married to A Scorpio Support Day (11/18); National American Indian Heritage Day13:40 - Signs by Beyonce15:06 - Shout Out for the Culture: Adele's “Easy On Me”; Zendaya becomes the youngiest recipient from the CFDA of their “Fashion Icon” award; Chicago Rapper Kidd Kenn ofifically made BET history as he was the first out gay male rapper in the BET Hip Hop Awards Rap Cypher; Montero/Lil Nas X is calling on Maury for help, Out on YouTube21:56 - Welcome to Guest23:10 - Courting Cutie Introduction, Welcome Danielle24:59 - To Danielle: What type of people do you date?28:14 - To Daneille: How would you describe the guys in your area?29:58 - What is the furthest New York borough you would be willing to date from?33:24 - Danielle participated in a virtual dating experience from humhum33:45 - What is humhum? and the steps of partaking in a humhum experience 38:00 - Danielle takes us through her experience with humhum 45:00 - Ranking system within the first mini dates51:25 - Therapy session with humhum reaction56:21 - No interest in dating; aromantic or asexual?57:10 - Romantic attraction exists on a spectrum 59:50 - To Danielle: Would you do humhum again? How could humhum improve their experience?1:01:09 - Would you recommend humhum to millenials, BIPOC, or queer folks?1:05:14 - Has Danielle done any dating with new or old people? Or, has Danielle introduced any humhum lessons into her current dating practices?1:06:05 - What are takeaways from humhum or virtual dating experiences? What advice do you have for single listeners for their approach to dating? 1:07:38 - How do we form social connections during this time?1:13:45 - End of ShowWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about men who come back. Before diving into the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis is stunting with new glasses and temporarily disabled their instagram; meanwhile, Chatrice partook in a shein haul and is purchasing some schmexy lingerie. For the main topic, our hosts discuss a text message Chatrice received from a former boo and Condola and Lawrence's relationship for Season 5 Episode 3 of Insecure. Word of the pod: impetusTime Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:26 - Catching Up7:11 - 2022 glow up 11:22 - Discussion of the “right take” to get the booster shot 12:31 - Question of the season: what holiday are we celebrating this week12:46 - 11/11 is National Single's Day13:59 - World Kindness Day14:17 - Shout Out for the Culture: Missy Elliott receives star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame; Dasia Taylor invented color-changing sutures (from People of Color in Tech); Viola Davis as Michelle Obama in Showtime's “First Ladies” (from Entertainment Weekly); Lives lost at Astroworld in Houston26:20 - Main Topic26:38 - From 11/7 Insecure - people trying to come back to each other's lives, re-introduction of people into your life27:33 - Men who return in real life OR men who return in Hollywood script28:33 - Live reaction: Chatrice opens a text message from a former boo34:49 - Reading of text message from one of Chatrice's former book35:34 - Reaction to text message36:50 - Do old boos deserve a second chance?40:07 - “The universe has a way of bringing back people to you when you are in a relationship” - Luis51:44 - Undoing the patterns from growing up53:07 - Anxiety in relationship: incessantly checking in and wanting to do know what the self did wrong55:11 - The desire to want to run away from a good thing56:15 - A S3x and the City reference: Charlotte and Miranda have a conversation about their relationship. Charlotte says she is happy in her relationship and is okay is not being happy every moment 58:26 - Insecure Recap, Season 5, Episode 3: “Pressure, Okay?”59:50 - Quick recap of Condola and Lawrence's relationship1:00:32 - General reactions to episode1:09:08 - What's the take away from the conversation about men who try to come back?1:12:56 - End of episodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss the politics of dating. Before diving in, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis is becoming involved in local community organizing efforts and weeks later is still attempting to send postcards; meanwhile, Chatrice has finalized a bae-cation and learned compromise through the process. WIth the main topic, our hosts use the Political Compess Test to guide their conversation on political affiliations and dating. The test covers a wide variety of issues and our hosts ask questions to each other about country support, economy, personal social values, larger society, religion, and s3x.cw: r@peTime Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:32 - What the hosts have been up to since last time they recorded?11:28 - Holidays we are celebrating: National Sex Toy Day, National Sandwich, and National Homemaker Day14:45 - Shoutout for the culture: people of color dressing up for halloween; Blue Ivy getting awards; Twitter user @/__inCANdescent's late bloomer tweet22:52 - Main Topic: Politics of Dating; political affiliations and dating25:21 - Are politics or political affiliations an important factor in dating?26:19 - Nicole Moore, the CEO and owner of Love Works discusses how her clients do not want date people who are not work (from “How to deal when you and your partner are political opposites”28:26 - Not talking about politics to keep race neutrality 30:34 - Sex and the City reference, Samantha Jones' view on politics32:23 - Could you date someone whose political views are different than yours?34:09 - The Political Compass Test https://www.politicalcompass.org/test 35:28 - Prompt #1: I'd always support my country whether it was right or wrong36:04 - Prompt #2: No one choses their country of birth so it is foolish to be proud of it37:52 - Prompt #3: The enemy of my enemy is my friend 39:59 - Prompt #4: People are more divided by class than nationality42:40 - Prompt #5: Land should not be a bought commodity to be bought and sold46:43 - Promt #6: Abotion when the women's life isn't threatened should be illegal 47:41 - Prompt #7: An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth51:00 Prompt #8: Good parents sometimes have to spank their children53:20 - Prompt #9: Mothers may have careers but their first duty is to be a homemaker54:21 - Prompt #10: S3x outside of marriage is usually immoral55:12: - Promp #12 (Final) - These days openness about s3x has gone too far59:05 - Final take awaysNotesArticle: Nicole Moore on Today.Com https://www.today.com/health/how-deal-when-you-your-partner-are-political-opposites-t192617 Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Courting in Color celebrates 50 episodes! Chatrice and Luis talk #SeasonByeve of Insecure. Do you watch the show, Courting Cuties? Before jumping into their thoughts on this new season, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis travelled with friends from grad school to Asheville, NC and Chatrice is bae-cation planning. For the main topic: our hosts talk college homecoming (yay or nay?), the point of college homecomings, the fates of the characters throughout the season, and questions they hope are answered this season.*SPOILER WARNING 22:39 to end of show*CW: death, su*cid*lTime Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:43 - Can you believe we have done 50 episodes?1:30 - What have the hosts have been up to?6:15 - Chatrice's Bae-cation Announcement 10:49 - Grocery bill increase from singlehood to bae-ified 11:19 - What holiday are we celebrating or chosing not to celebrate?: National Text Your Ex-Day; Native Heritage Month13:39 - Shout Outs: Courting in Color 50 episode, Happy Birthday Hayley 15:45 - Shout Out for the Culture: Karma's World (Netflix); Indigenous Goddess Gang (IG) posts about “A Gathering Basket”, a new indigenous cookbook by indigenous people; BAPS leaves Netflix November 1; #InsecureFest happened, our invite got lost in the mail22:39 - Main Topic: Season 5 of Insecure (HBO)22:40 - Quick recap of Season 4 insecure25:50 - Season 5 Initial Thoughts 33:30 - College homecoming, yay or nay?40:03 - Is a return to college contingent on a glow up?45:12 - Is college reunion the time to find the next bae or just catch up with people?49:01 - Kelli is pronounced dead50:30 - Luis wonders if Kelli is going down a dark hole this season55:17 - Insecure and Sex & the City cross over55:52 - Tiffany says about Kelli “And she was my soulmate” similar to Charlotte's line from Sex and the City 57:41 - Predictions for the rest of the semester59:41 - Questions to be answered: where is the child? Where is Condola? Should Lawrence and Issa be together?1:00:12 - “I don't know if i'm on the right path” Luis relates to this quote from Issa1:04:40 - What song brings you back immediately back to college?Links:- “ Karma's World” Trailer - https://youtu.be/ZhNu93rGx-o- “A New Cookbook by Indigenous People, for Indigenous People” by Priya Krisha https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/11/dining/indigenous-people-food-cookbook.html- Indigenous Goddess Gang (IG) - https://www.instagram.com/indigenousgoddessgang/- What's Leaving Netflix November 2021: https://www.whats-on-netflix.com/leaving-soon/whats-leaving-netflix-in-november-2021/- #InsecureFest: https://twitter.com/crissles/status/1452044797179351040?s=21- @UrsineNoir's Insecure Twitter Thread (for S5E1): https://twitter.com/UrsineNoir/status/1452712214075527168?s=20Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about one of their favorite television series: Sex and the City. Since last time, Luis visited their new therapist twice already and for Chatrice she is exploring a shared calendar with her boo. For the main topic, our hosts talk about when they were introduced to Sex and the City, their Sex and the City-esque New Years, and their favorite moments throughout the series.Time Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back2:55 - Shout out to therapist who do their practice with equity & justice in mind11:43 - Luis finds out Chatrice's boo is an Aquarius!15:57 - Holidays We Are Celebrating: October is National Kink Month; Sweetest Day is October 16th19:23 - Main Topic: Sex and the City19:52 - Sex and the City first aired in 1998 features Carrie Bradshaw and her three friends 20:48 - Why Courting in Color is talking about Sex and the City 21:19 - What did Sex and the City mean to the hosts in 1998?23:53 - How old were the hosts when they were introduced to Sex and the City? 26:23 - Luis talking about watching Sex and the City more in grad school to learn about dating 28:04 - TBS aired syndicated episodes of Sex and the City but were the edited/censored episodes 29:11 - What was the grip of Sex and the City for people of color? 29:31 - Connecting to “Girlfriends” for Chatrice31:39 - New York is the fifth character of Sex and the City 36:07 - Chatrice and Luis celebrate New Years together Sex and the City style37:24 - Are our hosts more of a Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, or Samantha?40:14 - The queering and othering of Miranda throughout the series; the other character's access to feminity in comparison to Miranda41:52 - The Carrie Diaries on CW44:56 - The show asked big questions, as did our hosts before they started Courting in Color podcast 47:50 - A Luis Fave Scene: Samantha and “Hold My Rice Pudding” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n2u57bgUjSM48:41 - Sex and the City and communal aspect of food and strong friendships; Luis wanting that in their life50:43 - In real life, who would our hosts be friends with?52:09 - Shout out to Stanford Blatch and Anthony Marantino53:57 - Vulnerability, care, supporting each other through major life events is what the girls' friendship was about 54:56 - Favorite Scenes55:05 - Luis' Favorite Scene: Carrie Gets Ditched on Her Birthday: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ofTAgvr8R4856:26 - Luis' Favorite Scene: “Maybe we can be each other's soulmates” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQ-PzM4WnAI57:25 - Luis' Favorite Quote: A Plane Ride Away - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OVdYiNhOYgY1:00:28 - Chatrice's Favorite Scene/Quote: Charlotte's “My Hair Hurts” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JVeFRRLdAc1:01:13 - Chatrice' Favorite Quote: “I'm Looking for Real Love….” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5ax4dohrX01:02:45 - Chatrice's Favorite Scene: Charlotte Gets Engaged to Harry and Carrie Gets Broken Up via Post it - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPhCvyb5jeQ1:04:33 - More to discuss: the runner ups - characters the main 4 were in a relationship with (Samantha and Maria; Miranda and Robert)1:06:28 - End of EpisodeLinks:Sex and the City via IMDB - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0159206/Sex and the City TBS Promo (2005) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5DdhL5r-UcWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Jaime of Jota Reads, an Instagram Book Club, to talk dating and relationships as found in books! Before the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Chatrice is being superhost, on site for work, and celebration National Boyfriend Day; while Luis is a busy bee, being on the virtual speaking circuit, and finding time to breathe during a busy time. Before getting to the main topic, Jaime talks to Courting in Color and our hosts about Jota Reads including what is the word “jota” and its history as well as what is the importance of starting an online book club centered on queer joy. Our hosts and Jaime talk good relationship advice from romance novels, respond to an article about applicable relationship advice from romance novels, and to wrap up book recomendations from Jaime and our hosts! Time Stamp:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:56 - Hosts check in: Chatrice is on site at work, hosting on Airbnb again5:28 - Question for the season: what holiday are we celebrating this week? October 3 - National Boyfriend Day; October 11- National Coming Out Day; October 11 - Indigenous Peoples' Day 6:35 - Chatrice celebrations National Boyfriend Day in style10:51 - Shout Out for the Culture: Lil Nas X's “MONTERO” album; Adele's comeback and new album (named “30” perhaps?)14:24 - Guest: Jaime of Jota Reads and guest introductions16:40 - Whitness of bear community; affirming of body space, not affirming of people of color 17:35 - What is the dating scene in Jaime's hometown?19:08 - Current dating/relationship s tatus of Jaime22:03 - What is Jota Reads? 26:18 - What is jota? The history of the word “jota”29:05 - Main Topic: what can books teach us about dating and courting? 29:19 - Research on the main topic: article - “Good Relationship Advice from Romance Novels” by Maya Rodale (Bustle, May 2015) 31:07 - Advice: Believe in Hate at First Sight34:40 - connection to Netflix's Bridgerton 36:48 - “What is my tresh hold of what can I disagree on?” - Luis38:08 - Advice: Don't Fall for the “Right” Guy41:19 - Jaime talks about important value in dating as part of being the right guy 42:17 - “You can't marry a man you just met” - Elsa to Anna in “Frozen”43:25 - Conversation on green flags in relationship in addition to red flags43:55 - Advice: Be Totally Unrealistic47:31 - “Everybody's fairytale is different, you get to define yours” - Jaime48:50 - Striving for the queer chicano fairy tale49:10 - Are there books that come to mind that have taught us lessons about dating and relationships?49:29 - Books from Jaime about queer love: “The Rain God” by Arturo Islas; “Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secret of the Univere” by Benjamin Alire Sáenz54:29 - Books from Chatrice with lessons about dating and relationship: “How to Fail at Flirting” by Denise Williams56:05 - Juxtaposition of reading black voices in the space of romance as opposed to white voices like in “The Baby Sitters Club”58:11 - Who writes books about romance, dating, and relationship?59:24 - Luis Book Recommendation: The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune1:00:18 - Consuming media and representation in media 1:01:24 - Close Out: Where can people find Jaime? Follow @JotaReads on Instagram!Notes:“Good Relationship Advice from Romance Novels” by Maya Rodale - https://www.bustle.com/articles/79598-9-relationship-lessons-i-learned-from-romance-novels-because-these-books-actually-teach-you-real-life-advice@JotaReads on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jotareads/ Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome the Courting Cuties to season 5 of this podcast! They catch up in this season-opener episode. Since the end of last season, Luis' work has ramped, a therapy appointment soon, trying to find a groove in a new cooking schedule, and staying out late; for Chatrice, life has looked like an offical housewarming, enrolled in 2 PhD classes, seeing Spicy White officially, and doing Black Things with a new boo. Time Stamps:0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back2:23 - New Question for the Season: Random Holidays3:06 - Sept. 30th is National Love People Day4:01 - Sept. 26th is National Love Note Day6:39 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: John, Tasha, Dr. Kate10:58 - Shout Out for the Culture: Haitians at the Mexico border17:40 - Main Top: Update on Chatrice's and Luis' lifes18:00 - Luis' Catch Up: work, therapy, creativity, new cooking schedule, staying up late24:00 - Chatrice's Housewarming 31:14 - Chatrice Catch Up: PhD classes, stepping away from some dating prospects, officially stepping into dating one person offically, introducing a new boo to Black culture items, 38:53 - “Dating me is dating The Culture”41:56 - Talking about good sushi!42:37 - Chatrice and Luis: what does it mean to you to be a foodie?50:50 - Luis and partner are about co-care for a new kittenLinks“How Hope, Fear and Misinformation Led Thousands of Haitians to the U.S. Border” - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/17/us/haitians-border-patrol.htmlWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss being REALly in our relations. What does it mean to be your real self in relationships? Since the last episode, Luis has Florida travel adventures and went on their first triple date; meanwhile, Chatrice recently returned from DC and learned lessons for train travelling. For the main topic of bringing real selves into relaitonships , our hosts talk about when the real you shows up, self-sabotage, and Brené Brown's definition of vulnerability.Time Stamps0:20 - Hello and Welcome Back Courting Cuties1:56 - What have the hosts been up to since last time they recorded?10:05 - Anxiety of being fat while flying11:53 - New money14:25 - Pro Tip for Solo Travel via Train14:55 - Me moments for the hosts for the week17:44 - Heux/Dating Tip: when going on a double date, an activity breaks the ice because there is something to do and something to come back to 21:59 - Shout out for the culture: Nicole Sealey and #TheSealeyChallenge; Beyonce and her new Adidas x IVY PARK's collection; Rihanna is a billionaire; Fenty jockstraps are coming, maybe?; Dr. Kate newest accomplishment26:51 - Main Topic: Are we bringing our most real selves in our relationships? Do I want my partner to bring their true? Do I know who I am as a potential partner?31:57 - What matters most in dating? 33:44 - “The person you are in a relationship with shouldn't be your everything”35:13 - Point of episode, hosts examining themselves as opposed to the people they are dating35:24 - Essence Article by Danielle Pointdujour35:45 - “At some point the real you has to come out and all the little things you've been trying to hide need to come out of the closet, so you can be accepted for who you truly are –the good, the bad and the awkward.” - Danielle Pointdujour36:38 - Generally speaking, when do you feel like the real you comes up or shows up?37:11 - Luis speaks about how being in a relationship has been about understanding who they are along who they are with this person38:48 - Loveprojectlove.com: “With the guy she fancied, she felt the need to perform and impress him, as there's more at stake. This could be the one she could marry one day, so she needed to be on best behaviour, right?”41:20 - Having someone show you intimacy in another ways; learning what hill Luis wants to die on; 41:40 - Luis is asking what are blocks are they developing to self sabotage this relationship42:00 - Mental shift: when you find someone good, it is weird to accept this44:03 - Naming of being scared of having someone who is committed to relationships45:19 - Dating someone who's relationship green light is on: things are going to move48:36 - Societal oppression: impacts sense of self for hosts as people of color49:34 - Hard to let someone see all the bagge50:00 - Brene Brown's definition of vulnerability: “There is no intimacy without vulnerability.” “The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. But vulnerability is not weakness.”53:31 - Chatrice asking about the presence of her Blackness in a new relationship 55:15 - Luis asks, as a person in a interrelationship relationship with a white person, how much labor should they do or want to do to educate about all things race?56:27 - Luis coins a new term: race reminders58:54 - Is there a moment or time where the hosts wish they were vulnerable or wish they were more vulnerable?59:35 - Luis talks about navigating dating and the world as a non-cisgender man1:04:20 - Hosts reminding themselves to take it one day at a time1:04:41 - Nip it in the bud if we are sending in our representive1:04:47 - Chatrice discussing body image and bringing it up to someone else, because then they are thinking about it 1:06:45 - Brene Brown talking about waiting for the other shoe to drop1:10:04 - Chatrice takeaway: try to be the person you admire someone for being especially in terms of vulnerability 1:11:11 - Luis' last thoughts: emotional exposure is so real, the hosts honor yours and their journey1:11:41 - Luis says, “I am deserving of love, giving love and receiving love, and i cannot be my own block in doing so” 1:13:09 - End of episodeLinks“Your Representative Should Not Be Dating, But You Should” by Danielle Pointdujour (via Essence.com)“Who do you bring with you on a date? Yourself or a representative?” (via LoveProjectLove.com)Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss being REALly in our relations. What does it mean to be your real self in relationships? Since the last episode, Luis has Florida travel adventures and went on their first triple date; meanwhile, Chatrice recently returned from DC and learned lessons for train travelling. For the main topic of bringing real selves into relaitonships , our hosts talk about when the real you shows up, self-sabotage, and Brené Brown's definition of vulnerability.Time Stamps0:20 - Hello and Welcome Back Courting Cuties1:56 - What have the hosts been up to since last time they recorded?10:05 - Anxiety of being fat while flying11:53 - New money14:25 - Pro Tip for Solo Travel via Train14:55 - Me moments for the hosts for the week17:44 - Heux/Dating Tip: when going on a double date, an activity breaks the ice because there is something to do and something to come back to 21:59 - Shout out for the culture: Nicole Sealey and #TheSealeyChallenge; Beyonce and her new Adidas x IVY PARK's collection; Rihanna is a billionaire; Fenty jockstraps are coming, maybe?; Dr. Kate newest accomplishment26:51 - Main Topic: Are we bringing our most real selves in our relationships? Do I want my partner to bring their true? Do I know who I am as a potential partner?31:57 - What matters most in dating? 33:44 - “The person you are in a relationship with shouldn't be your everything”35:13 - Point of episode, hosts examining themselves as opposed to the people they are dating35:24 - Essence Article by Danielle Pointdujour35:45 - “At some point the real you has to come out and all the little things you've been trying to hide need to come out of the closet, so you can be accepted for who you truly are –the good, the bad and the awkward.” - Danielle Pointdujour36:38 - Generally speaking, when do you feel like the real you comes up or shows up?37:11 - Luis speaks about how being in a relationship has been about understanding who they are along who they are with this person38:48 - Loveprojectlove.com: “With the guy she fancied, she felt the need to perform and impress him, as there's more at stake. This could be the one she could marry one day, so she needed to be on best behaviour, right?”41:20 - Having someone show you intimacy in another ways; learning what hill Luis wants to die on; 41:40 - Luis is asking what are blocks are they developing to self sabotage this relationship42:00 - Mental shift: when you find someone good, it is weird to accept this44:03 - Naming of being scared of having someone who is committed to relationships45:19 - Dating someone who's relationship green light is on: things are going to move48:36 - Societal oppression: impacts sense of self for hosts as people of color49:34 - Hard to let someone see all the bagge50:00 - Brene Brown's definition of vulnerability: “There is no intimacy without vulnerability.” “The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. But vulnerability is not weakness.”53:31 - Chatrice asking about the presence of her Blackness in a new relationship 55:15 - Luis asks, as a person in a interrelationship relationship with a white person, how much labor should they do or want to do to educate about all things race?56:27 - Luis coins a new term: race reminders58:54 - Is there a moment or time where the hosts wish they were vulnerable or wish they were more vulnerable?59:35 - Luis talks about navigating dating and the world as a non-cisgender man1:04:20 - Hosts reminding themselves to take it one day at a time1:04:41 - Nip it in the bud if we are sending in our representive1:04:47 - Chatrice discussing body image and bringing it up to someone else, because then they are thinking about it 1:06:45 - Brene Brown talking about waiting for the other shoe to drop1:10:04 - Chatrice takeaway: try to be the person you admire someone for being especially in terms of vulnerability 1:11:11 - Luis' last thoughts: emotional exposure is so real, the hosts honor yours and their journey1:11:41 - Luis says, “I am deserving of love, giving love and receiving love, and i cannot be my own block in doing so” 1:13:09 - End of episodeLinks“Your Representative Should Not Be Dating, But You Should” by Danielle Pointdujour (via Essence.com)“Who do you bring with you on a date? Yourself or a representative?” (via LoveProjectLove.com)Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Guest Courting Cutie Monet to talk about conviencing. Our hosts and Monet talk about a recent Tale of Tinderoni , defining and naming the rules of convenience dating, and, dating without the need for it to be long-term. Before this conversation, our hosts catch up: since last time Luis is on vacation doing travel to celebrate Chatrice's birthday and Chatrice has joined the 30+ club (hello Leo season!). Time Stamps0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:32 - Hosts Check In: up to since last week7:50 - Me moments of this past week 10:21 - Shout Out for the Culture: Amber at BBQ joint; Issa Rae got married15:42 - Guest Introduction: Monet 19:07 - Monet describes dating scene in her town 21:36 - Tales of Tinderoni23:58 - Reactions to Tale 33:26 - Vibe Check instead of dates?41:25 - Main Topic: conveniencing, or convenience dating42:26 - Defining conveniencing 44:14 - Conviencing and the convenience-r44:54 - Lovepanky.com's definition of convenience dating: https://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/better-love/relationship-of-convenience45:36 - Rules for conveniencin47:51 - Rule 1: open communication48:00 - Rule 2: check in with yourself49:43 - Luis' relationship to conveniencing and convenience dating 51:01 - Another rule for convenience dating: siloed, kept in a vacumn of sorts51:32 - Convenience dating sounds a lot like casual dating 53:59 - Why are people afriad of having conversations in dating, especially defining what the relationship is?55:03 - Best communication in dating can happen in open and poly relationships in BD-M relationships57:50 - Monet asks, when conveniencing how do you keep yourself safe?1:03:15 - Wrapping Up1:03:40 - no stigma in dating someone you don't see yourself long term with1:04:20 - When thinking about convenience dating, does doing so hinder you from a long-term goals in dating1:06:17 - Conveniencing can be positive 1:07:45 - Convenience dating can help with practice and help with your relationship journey1:09:52 - “Everyone told us to go get married and find a spuse but no one told us about the journey that we all have to embark upon to get there and what all that entails and how that looks so different for everyone”1:13:25 - End of episode Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's epsidoe, Chatrice and Luis bring the Cuties part II of their BDSM discussion - this time sharing and discussing the results of the BDSM test they took. Before diving into the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Chatrice and Luis went furntiture shopping and met an array of characters! Luis woke up hella early to win for free coffee for a year (thanks Dunkin!) while Chatrice went on a very special date.Time Stamps0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back0:45 - What have hosts been up to since last week11:08 - Chatrice's special date announcement 17:08 - Chatrice has been going on Happy Birth-dates! 17:35 - Me moments of the week for Chatrice and Luis19:14 - Shout Out for the Culture: (1) Black Women on the Cover: Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition with Megan the Stallion, Leyna Bloom, and Naomi Osaka; Simon Biles on Wall Street Journal (2) Black Women on the Move: Nanga Awasum gets photographed by Bella Hadid and her career changes24:22 - Main Topic, Part II25:30 - What does BDSM stand for? 6 words that BDSM stands for25:58 - BDSM definition from Merriam-Webster: overall and each word - bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism31:28 - How much of whiteness is infused within BDSM?33:01 - BDSM personality test discussion 36:22 - Naming each of the Top 5 BDSM traits for Chatrice and Luis38:36 - Defining the different top 5 traits: rope bunny, brat, submissive, vanilla, voyeurs, 44:18 - Chatrice's visit to Amesterdam52:01 - Defining switch55:22 - Final Thoughts59:45 - Nude Beach adventures 1:02:10 - Episode EndLinks: https://bdsmtest.org/select-modeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss BDSM after completing an online quiz. For this Part 1 episode, our hosts specifically get into sex within in dating and relationships talking about orgasm gap, aftercare, and outercourse. Since last time Luis was recognized out on the skreets and figuring they lost all of their social skills during the pandemic while Chatrice continues to work on the house before her birthday and might have a date!Time Stamps0:20 - Welcome Back, Courting Cuties0:34 - What the hosts have been up to since last time recording7:59 - Courting Cuties Exclusive: Chatrice is dating a _____ ______.11:24 - Selfish moments / me moment of the week for the hosts19:14 - Shout Out for the Culture: Zayla Avant-garde, Vax That Thang Back; MJ Rodriguez's emmy nomination23:44 - Courting Cutie Shout Out helps us answer is breakfast a date-y meal28:34 - Breakfast is a date foreplay29:10 - Main Topic Intro29:35 - Chatrice's amazing d!ck appointment32:40 - Foreplay Game: Word Association and Story/Memory 33:36 - Word Assocation word: aftercare - originated from the BDSM community; the care, treatment, and support of one's partner(s) after a sexual encounter38:10 - Word Association word: orgasm gap - social phenoma, typrically referring to the dispartiy between cisgender straight men and cisgender straight women achieving orgasm during a heterosexual encourtner44:20 - Word Association word: outercourse - sexual activity, can include a wide variety of activities but usually doesn't include sexual penetration 50:38 - Mutual beneficial, everyone should have their meets during sexVax That Thang Up: https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/juvenile-back-that-thang-up-vax-that-thang-up-covid-19-vaccine-1193507/Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Damona Hoffman, certified dating coach and host of Dates and Mates podcast. Since last episode, Luis visit Chicago and wondering their role in a social circle, while Chatrice spent the holiday weekend on the lake and received a random text. Damona talks to Chatrice and Luis about a recent message exchange from Chatrice; data trends in dating, realtionships, and divorce rates; representation in dating and relationship help field; and, new dating terms we should be aware of.Time Stamps0:20 - Hello and Welcome Back0:59 - What hosts have been up to1:59 - Role within a social circle or friend group (Question, what is your role within a friend group?) care taker | social glue | hype woman | logistics10:13 - Me moment of the week for the hosts12:22 - Shout Out for the Culture: National Bikini Day (July 5th); Victoria Secret's plus size inclusivity campaign attempt; slight-ish: Nicole Ritchie19:52 - Guest intro21:05 - Welcome Damona Hoffman!23:56 - Tale of a Tinderoni25:51 - Drive through the texts to the real in-person interaction25:59 - “Texing is a necessary part of courtship and that everybody has to do their part for it to work and for you to get to that next step”27:06 - Putting framework around communication helps move things along29:11 - “You gotta get off the texts and off the apps to become a real person”29:58 - Advice for person sending texts that are killing the conversation31:02 - Avoid the texting trap: acknowledge that you have not been asked anything, “Is there anything you are curious to know about me?” “I feel like i haven't said anything about myself, don't you want to know my deep dark secrets” 33:55 - Pie of how much time and energy you have, dating can take up a big or small part, acknowledge how much you time or energy you have36:22 - Hot Vax Summer and Data: lot of data said people are looking for a serious relationship, but it is the summer when dating/relationship doesn't really happen38:24 - Divorse and separation rates in the next couple of months 38:55 - Damona predicted there would be higher divorce rates, in Wuhan it was 3x higher than the average; did not happen here in the US, Damona predicts it will happen later this year (summer/fall)42:53 - Representation in dating and relationship help field43:37 - Racial preferences in dating, people have been hiding behind racial bias and unwilling to exmaine them44:00 - Dating industry has enabled people to keep this racial bias, not examine it, and labelling it as a “dating preference”48:00 - “Race open” when it comes to dating 52:41 - Asking Damona Questions from the Courting Cuties 53:13 - One person wants to meet in person sooner while the other person wants to keep talking and getting to know you you54:05 - Strict rule: one week from the point of texting to next step like phone call, video date; that person is a time waster, says Damona 55:15 - Gay hook up apps: can lock things down in 10 messages or less57:31 - Don't accept a date/next phase within the same day, or same day dating because it is most likely they are looking for a hook up58:45 - How to communicate to time wasters about your timeline?59:04 - You don't know owe anyone anything, you owe them human decency and some level of communication. You gotta take ownership of getting what you want to59:35 - Damona advises women she works with to lead the converesation, to send the first message1:02:15 - Current dating terms we shoud know about1:02:34 - Zombie-ing: when ghosting comes back from the grave 1:03:05 - Orbiting: when the person is hanging out, they haven't made a move, start liking your posts, or keep commenting on your posts1:04:47 - The impact of social media on dating or hte opportunity with social media and dating1:08:51 - Cold Girl Fall: when people will really start to date Links:Damona's Washington Post article on racial bias - https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/date-labdaters-say-they-dont-tolerate-racial-bias-their-actions-say-they-do-have-racial-preferences/2020/06/18/0d1eace4-a039-11ea-9590-1858a893bd59_story.html Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk and review the third season of Shrill (Hulu). Since last time, Luis has developed a cold and recently back from vacation, while Chatrice is waiting on her house to finish and has been watching all the Black content on HBO Max. For the main topic (SPOILER WARNING), our hosts want to talk about mixed messages through the arc of Annie and Nick on “Shrill” in season 3. What do you make when someone is being flirty, spending a lot of time with you, pay for meals, wanting to keep seeing you, and invite you over late at night? Does that mean someone is into you? Courting Cuties, have you ever mixed up someone's message or flipside you missed all the messages that they were into you?Time Stamps0:30 - Hello, Welcome Back, and Check In5:56 - Me moments of the week for the week since last episodes7:45 - Merch idea: “I can only do as much with the time that I have” - Luis9:12 - Chatrice applied for the “Live Anywhere” Airbnb program!10:52 - Shout Out for the Culture: Chatrice watches all the Black and POC content including In the Heights, Pause with Sam Jay, Black Lady Sketch Show11:54 - In the Heights discourse: Afro-Latinx people not present in the move18:06 - Black TikTokers are on strike using Megan the Stallion's “Thot Shit”19:32 - Black queer people at the 2021 BET Awards!20:56 - Main Topic Section: Mixed Messages or Missed Messages22:04 - Description of Show22:54 - Character breakdown 24:04 - Overall thoughts on the show26:58 - Chatrice leaning into her identity as a fat Black woman28:26 - Focus: Annie and Nick's 4-episode story arc29:02 - Annie and Nick's Encounter #1: Nick shows up at Annie's office, go out for coffee at the park30:19 - Annie and Nick's Encounter #1: Reaction34:40 - Annie and Nick's Encounter #2: Annie and Nick are eating breakfast36:20 - If the hosts were Annie, what would they be thinking at this point two encournters in?36:40 - Is breakfast a date-y meal?37:35 - “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day but it is the least important meal in dating and relationships” - Luis38:25 - Annie and Nick's Encounter #4: Annie posts a thirst trap and Nick falls into you38:44 - Defining “thirst trap”40:29 - Annie and Nick's Encounter #4: Reaction41:19 - Intimacy of friendships as you have in romantic and sexual relationships42:11- What are the parameters of booty call hours?45:22 - Use explicitly of the word “date” or the words “going out”46:14 - Context of the word “out” referencing “going out”47:01 - Annie and Nick's Encounter #5: Nick and Annie hang out, Annie cooks her (what Fran calls) “sex lasagna”50:26 - Visceral reaction to Nick not being into Annie50:40 - Keeps you on the roster without commitment52:22 - Reaction to Annie and Nick's Encounter #556:09 - Time to go back to the social contract and social construct of dating1:00:04 - Final Question: Is Annie a victim of MIXed message or MISSed messages from Nick?1:02:18 - Any tips for the Annies and Nicks out there, the ones who are giving and receiving the mixed messages?1:02:54 - Tip from the Luis Vault: express your interest after the first date1:05:52 - Chatrice's advice for the Nicks out there1:08:28 - Episode endsWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColorDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis invite Courting Cutie Rachel to discuss Pride Month, relationship fuzzies, and the term ‘baby gay'. Our hosts discuss Philadelphia travel (including their highs/lows), the travel bug that bit Chatrice again, Luis rants on the current state of the service industry. With Rachel, the discussion revolves around male gaze in relationships, first queer relationship, exploring dating outside of cishet men, and demisexuality. If you would like to see Rachel's section of this week's episode, you can watch it on Youtube! Visit https://youtu.be/TPRNawOfQpY. The video has closed captions as well! Time Stamps:0:00 - Intro0:19 - Hello and Welcome0:39 - Catch Up: Recapping Philadelphia Travel3:58 - Travel bug biting Chatrice again8:09 - Pay people a liveable wage; frustration at restaurants/service industry9:05 - Chatrice visits Ishkabibble's! It'a real place refernced in “Living Single”11:13 - One ‘me' moment for our hosts 13:05 - What is our COVID body, accepting our COVID body as it is 14:04 - Shout Out for the Culture: Sha'Carri Richardson18:11 - Guest Cutie: Rachel18:55: Rachel Introduction's 21:09 - Describing the dating scene of where Rachel lives23:57 - Guest describes current dating/relationship status25:58 - Discussion of the term ‘baby gay'26:39 - Who do you date, who do you find attractive, and who did you date in the past?28:02 - Luis' discusses how they define demisexuality for them29:02 - How do you identify across sexuality spectrum31:28 - Exploring dating outside of cishet men, talking to all gender idenities on Tinder32:44 - “Yes, I'm straight but I haven't necessarily tried anything else so I don't know” Chatrice recalls Rachel saying something akin to this33:32 - Urban dictionary definition of ‘baby gay'34:30 - Does Rachel identify as a baby gay?36:38 - Cultural immersion of ‘baby gay'37:06 - “You can be queer and not really be in the culture” was something said during a recent conversation Luis and Chatrice were a part of 39:30 - Love Story recollection46:36 - Lessons learned in this relationships - lesson learned about the relationships, lessons learned about self48:11 - Relationship benefit: doubling the wardrobe 53:04 - Rachel's coming out story56:08 - Attending pride festivals57:25 - Queer Bucket List for 202258:14 - Queer representation, visibility; would it have been helpful for queer youths to see queer adults?58:49 - Feeling a responsibility to be queer and visible1:01:30 - To Luis: Advice to baby gays, those new to their queer identities 1:03:00 - Advice: attend a Pride1:03:36 - New Merch Ideas?1:03:46 - Advice: Find queer mentors1:05:08 - The Old Gays - Youtube Channel: https://www.instagram.com/theoldgays/1:05:40 - ‘Old Gays' and ‘Baby Gays' we are using as an endering terms1:06:55 - Gay fairytale: not meeting someone on the app1:07:45 - To Rachel: Advice to someone new to their queer identity: (1) dive head first; (2) if someone isn't into you, they aren't; (3) dating is dating, talking to someone, hanging out; (4) don't feel the need to define yourself, if you don't want to1:09:08 - Rachel's sexual orientation is…bad ass!1:11:01 - Queer or not, dating woes are universal, don't pile on the pressure, you are getting that from elsewhere1:12:59 - End of show Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis continue their discussion of hooking up while on vacation. Our hosts continue the discussion in part 2 working through the rest of the tips from John Chesler's article of the Phoenix New Times, who wrote “10 Rules for Vacation Hookups. Since last time, Chatrice and Luis went to a Pride Brunch, went to a garden party, and have just come back from an out of town trip. Time Stamps0:00 - Intro0:19 - Hello and Welcome, Hosts Check In5:40 - Follow the pod, Chatrice, and Luis on TikTok and Instagram!12:24 - Selfish moment of the week for the hosts13:56 - Luis reframing working out as movement 17:42 - Shout for the Culture17:49 - One year anniversary of Courting in Color21:20 - BIPOC and queer graduates of any kind!22:25 - Holidays: National Best Friend, National Sex Day24:28 - Topic: Hooking up while on vacation25:00 - Laurel Miller at Refinery2925:32 - Word of the Pod: Carpe Dick-em25:53 - John Chesler, Phoenix New Times, author of “10 Rules for Vacation Hookups”: https://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/arts/10-rules-for-vacation-hookups-6567867 27:28 - Tip #10: Do make use of your amenities30:30 - How to use the amenities you have available for a hookup32:26 - If you are travelling with others but don't have your own hotel room33:19 - Hoedom Coordinator33:28 - Tip #9: Don't get attached34:03 - Has Luis ever kept the fling going post vacay? Did vacation bae become bae?37:49 - Question: which hook up situation is preferred, where both are visitors are from out of town or the other person is in their hometown and you are visiting (or vice-versa)?39:01 - Tip #8: Do be nice39:44 - Has Luis ever gotten into a fight (non-physical) with a hookup?41:10 - Limited amount of time, no obligation to spend the night, 1 hour hooks up on vacation are lengthy42:03 - Chatrice's hook up at a hotel (pre-hook up practice for vacation hooks ups)43:51 - How to be safe while hooking up 47:44 - Tip #7: Don't forget where you are.49:43 - Do hookups only happen in certain cities?51:01 - Hosts answer: What is the furthest you have travelled for a hookup?54:01 - In new york and california, if you are too far to hook up, you don't!54:36 - Tip #6: Do learn as much as you can abour your partner55:33 - How much info do you get from a hookup?57:00 - Not relevant to know your hook up's occupation or what they do 1:00:29 - Whatever you ask of the person, you be prepared to answer too1:01:02 - Tip #5: Don't pretend to be something you're not1:02:01 - Have we ever hooked up with anyone famous?1:04:29 - Vacation friend flings1:06:26 - End of EpisodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis have the first part of a conversation around hooking up while on vacation. Our hosts reference John Chesler's article of the Phoenix New Times, who wrote “10 Rules for Vacation Hookups. They walk through each of the 10 tips to answer questions about how to get laid on vacation, how do you stay safe with hooksups, and how to find someone on vacation. Have you ever hooked up while away from home and on vacation, Cuties? Since recording last time, Luis has been on a work retreat with lots of food and Chatrice has had back-to-back dates (kind of), hair done, and a slight miscommunication setting up a date. Time Stamps0:00 - Intro0:19 - Hello and Welcome, Hosts Check In5:40 - Follow the pod, Chatrice, and Luis on TikTok and Instagram!12:24 - Selfish moment of the week for the hosts13:56 - Luis reframing working out as movement 17:42 - Shout for the Culture17:49 - One year anniversary of Courting in Color21:20 - BIPOC and queer graduates of any kind!22:25 - Holidays: National Best Friend, National Sex Day24:28 - Topic: Hooking up while on vacation25:00 - Laurel Miller at Refinery2925:32 - Word of the Pod: Carpe Dick-em25:53 - John Chesler, Phoenix New Times, author of “10 Rules for Vacation Hookups”: https://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/arts/10-rules-for-vacation-hookups-6567867 27:28 - Tip #10: Do make use of your amenities30:30 - How to use the amenities you have available for a hookup32:26 - If you are travelling with others but don't have your own hotel room33:19 - Hoedom Coordinator33:28 - Tip #9: Don't get attached34:03 - Has Luis ever kept the fling going post vacay? Did vacation bae become bae?37:49 - Question: which hook up situation is preferred, where both are visitors are from out of town or the other person is in their hometown and you are visiting (or vice-versa)?39:01 - Tip #8: Do be nice39:44 - Has Luis ever gotten into a fight (non-physical) with a hookup?41:10 - Limited amount of time, no obligation to spend the night, 1 hour hooks up on vacation are lengthy42:03 - Chatrice's hook up at a hotel (pre-hook up practice for vacation hooks ups)43:51 - How to be safe while hooking up 47:44 - Tip #7: Don't forget where you are.49:43 - Do hookups only happen in certain cities?51:01 - Hosts answer: What is the furthest you have travelled for a hookup?54:01 - In new york and california, if you are too far to hook up, you don't!54:36 - Tip #6: Do learn as much as you can abour your partner55:33 - How much info do you get from a hookup?57:00 - Not relevant to know your hook up's occupation or what they do 1:00:29 - Whatever you ask of the person, you be prepared to answer too1:01:02 - Tip #5: Don't pretend to be something you're not1:02:01 - Have we ever hooked up with anyone famous?1:04:29 - Vacation friend flings1:06:26 - End of EpisodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about the idea of the fear of not being loved. Inspired by a letter sent to ¡Hola Papi! advice column by JP Brammer, our hosts talk about: worthiness of love, asking will anyone ever love me, and your social circle's impact on your view of the world. Since last time, Luis has been enjoying nature and hiking, while Chatrice has been focused on house rennovation and trying to stay on schedule for it.Time Stamps0:00 - Intro0:19 - Hello and Welcome 0:31 - Host Check In5:31 - How do we make time for rest and still accomplish our goals?6:40 - “No one is going to prioritze me but me. Work is always going to be there” - Chatrice 10:00 - Shout Out for the Culture: Happy Pride!12:53 - Tales of Tinderoni14:11 - Tales of Tinderoni Reaction25:18 - Main Topic Intro: Will anyone ever love me? from the ¡Hola Papi! advice column by JP Brammer!27:09 - Letter written to the ¡Hola Papi! advice colum: https://holapapi.substack.com/p/will-anyone-ever-love-me from Unlucky Lesbian29:17 - Do the hosts relate to the letter?32:00 - Have hosts asked god/universe, will anyone ever love?34:05 - Environment being conducive to dating and/or being loved35:18 - The focus of The Nanny and Fran being married by 30 years old35:51 - “Gay death”: lives of gay people being “over” by the time you are 3037:10 - Social circle's impact on your view of the world40:32 - Do partnered people connect more with other partner people?41:08 - JP Brammer's Response to Unlucky Lesbian42:15 - Successful in other aspects of my life, why can't we be success in dating and relationship?43:01 - Smaller negatives within the bigger positives 46:05 - Asking Courting Cuties, how long have their relationships have been?46:52 - Is there an “it” as to why we are not in a relationship?48:12 - Who are you now is perfect to be in a relationship48:32 - Luis surprised as to work that continues when you are in a relationship49:09 - Who you are in this moment is perfect, there will always be continual improvement, there is not on perfect moment to wait to be in a relationship49:52 - People in a relationship saying to a single person, “Oh, you'll find someone! It will be okay!”52:03 - Self-fullfilling prophecy52:18 - “The adage of, it will be okay you will find someone, removes me as a person who wants to walk this path with you” - Luis55:40 - Hope and reassurance56:26 - Making lemonade out of lemons56:52 - You can manifest something but you have to put the work into it 57:06 - Conclusion: Takeaways1:03:17 - End of EpisodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

All Right, Hotties (aka Courting Cuties) Hot Vax Summer is here and we got your tips to make it memorable. Since recording Luis has crossed 1k followers on the food insta and Chatrice has learned 2 new s3x moves! On this week's episode, our hosts talk about what does hot girl summer mean, when does it start/end, and how to best prepare for this summer. Hot Girl Summer will be a hot vax summer because your body is ready!Time Stamps0:20 - Welcome!1:15 - Catching Up Since Last Episode10:08 - Word of the Pod: ass-phyxiating (or, assfixiate)13:39 - Question of the season: what is one “me moment”? How have you been selfish this week?18:18 - Shout out for the culture: “The Upshaws” and “Master of None” on Netflix; Issa Rae on “Project Greenlight”21:54 - Topic Intro: Hot Vax Summer22:37 - Sun's out, thight's out22:52 - Megan Jovon Ruth Pete is Megan the Stallion's government name23:09 - Being a hot girl is about being confident and beign you, according to Megan the Stallion24:00 - What does Hot Girl Summer mean?24:59 - Queen Mojo reminding us to let our back fat out (IG: @_queenmojo)28:10 - You don't need to be in the gym to live your best life28:42 - Outlook on summer 2021 - will this summer live up to the hype? is it the roaring ‘20s?31:15 - Expectation of summer: finding a joy previously known31:32 - “Handle me? Who gon' handle me? Thinking he's a player? He's a member on the team.” – Megan Thee Stallion, “Hot Girl Summer” 36:30 - “We never show up together. But I text him when I'm ready to go” – Megan Thee Stallion, “Big Ole Freak”36:48 - What is the book end dates for hot girl summer?38:30 - Juneteenth being a part of the summer holiday schedule38:40 - Hot Girl Summer Holiday Schedule: Memorial Day, Juneteenth, Summer Solistice, July 4th (a reason to cookout), and Labor Day39:13 - “Confidence literally starts from yourself. You have to go look in the mirror at yourself. If you don't like what you see, you're going to give off that energy.” – Megan Thee Stallion39:45 - Hot Girl Summer Bootcamp: what do you need to prepare for hot girl summer? 43:21 - Carrying around vaccine card this summer, could they not have it easier to carry around? 45:06 - Who is your hot girl summer crew? 51:30 - D!ck on Deck (DoD)53:59 - Hot Girl Summer Fund, Hot Girl Summer Mutual AidWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

cw: PTSD mentionOn this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss the ultimate relationship…friendship! Grab your friends and listen to this episode, Courting Cuties. For their weekly check in Chatrice awaits her contractor and Luis has trouble remembering the weekends (in general). In a Courting in Color first, our hosts quote an old white man. Welcome to the Court, Aristotle! Time Stamps: 0:20 - Welcome0:34 - Hosts’ Weekly Check-In0:54 - CW: PTSD 8:02 - What is one adult thing our hosts have done this week?8:18 - Luis asks, why do we spend so much time in the kitchen?11:29 - Daunte Wright’s murder13:13 - Army Lt. Caron Nazario being pepper-sprayed16:16 - Prison Culture’s questions to ask when outraged about injustice - Tweet: https://twitter.com/CriticalRace/status/1382125975207616513?s=20 17:04 Shout Out for the Culture - Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives 18:10 - Colorism in Fabulous Lives of Bollywood21:13 - Topic of the Week: Friendship21:18 - Article: What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?22:22 - Aristotle’s musings on Friendship23:06 - Accidental Friendship - Utility23:24 - Accidnetal Friendship - Pleasure23:53 - Intentional Friendship - Perfect - mutual appreciation of the virtues the other person holds24:39 - Perfect friendship further explained25:26 - Hosts explain their thoughts on friendship concepts of Aristotle 31:33 - You can’t call someone your friend until you have spent 80 hours32:02 - Value of salt in salt Christian scripture 34:24 - Value of salt in Ancient Greece (source: GreekBoston.com)37:42 - What is the 2021 version of salt? What is some thing you share only with a very close/close friend?38:23 - What if Nicki Minaj was singing about friends and salt in “Bottoms Up”?39:06 - Giving your cell phone number, is that a close sign of friendship?39:30 - Close friends on Instagram is the new MySpace top 840:33 - We ask the Courting Cuties: what qualities do you look for in a friend or a friendship?41:23 - Hosts and what they look for in friends44:06 - Better discernment of friends than relationships/baes45:08 - Team #NoNewFriends49:09 - What is the process of making friends?52:28 - In the work environment, everyone gets a first coffee date.57:51 - Identity politics in friendship58:03 - What people expect out of certain people and certain bodies, cultural understandings of black women as mammys and fat friends as the loveable, funny friend59:15 - The concept of visiting people1:00:10 - Last question: What has been Chatrice and Luis’ favorite moments in their friendship?1:09:09 - Wrap Up: listen to Courting in Color’s old episodes, next season in a couple of months!Article: What if Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? by Rhaina Cohen - https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/10/people-who-prioritize-friendship-over-romance/616779/Article: Aristotle’s Philosophy of Friendship Still Matters Today by Zat Rana - https://humanparts.medium.com/aristotles-timeless-advice-on-what-real-friendship-is-and-why-it-matters-c0878418343fNicomachean Ethics by Aristole translated by W.D. Ross - http://classics.mit.edu/Aristotle/nicomachaen.8.viii.html Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis have a laid back episode. They take some online relationship quizzes as the main topic of this episode. Are you smarter than a 5th grader, Cuties? In the last week, Luis has been watching The Nanny and Chatrice has been having outdoor Easter picnics! Time Stamp0:20 - Intro 1:29 - Weekly Check In10:47 - Adult things hosts have done17:54 - Shout out for the culture23:54 - Main Topic: Hosts take Online Relationship Quizzes25:14 - Quiz #1: Build A Millennial Boyfriend And We’ll Reveal Which State You Should Live In by Sarah Aspler 34:50 - Quiz #2: How Well Do You Know Your Partner by The Gottman Institute - 46:05 - Quiz #3: Dating Quiz: What’s Your Courting IQ? by WebMD 58:02 - Take-aways for our hosts from the dating quizzesShout Out for the Culture: Black-owned ‘Slutty Vegan’ lands limited-edition vegan burger with Shake Shack via Black Enterprise Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Jennifer to talk about pet peeves in dating and relationships. Since last time of recording our hosts have been busy with online driving school, braces off, covid vaccine shots, and meeting of partner parents. This epsiode has Chatrice, Luis, and Jennifer discuss various pet peeves from ghosting to moving too fast to leaving the cabinet doors open. What are your pet peeves, Courting Cuties?Time Stamp0:44 - Hosts Check In4:55 - One adult thing since last recorded7:03 - Shout out for the culture8:05 - Derrick Jaxn9:46 - Hotep-ery in dating and relationship spaces11:15 - Lil Nas X & Montero13:53 - Guest intro: Jennifer19:00 - College degrees and dating22:12 - Topic of the episode: pet peeve, things that annoy us in dating22:48 - Is a pet peeve the same thing as a deal breaker?23:08 - Pet peeve: ghosting24:30 - If ghosting is a deal breaker, what deal are they breaking with ghosting?27:16 - Pet Peeve: moving too fast29:08 - Luis’ difference between pet peeve vs. deal breaker30:28 - Deal breakers is the umbrella term, pet peeves fall underneath it30:48 - Chatrice’s view of dealbreakers and pet peeves31:15 - Jennifer’s TikTok on pet peeves: https://www.tiktok.com/@jennijenjen88/video/690652789116985677332:30 - Pet peeve: inconsistency34:45 - Fear of rejection, doing the most than you should be during that point in the game35:24 - Consistency is grounding 36:50 - No commitment and already buying gifts37:22 - No girlfriend actions without the girlfriend title37:47 - Top 5 pet peeves or so38:12 - Chatrice’s Top 5 pet peeves41:56 - Jennifer’s Top 5 pet peeves42:27 - The IDK guys43:55 - Luis’ Top 5 pet peeves 47:11 - What do we do when we encounter these pet peeves?49:39 - How to be emotionally vulnerable when you didn’t have a good example of that growing up51:05 - What would other people say are pet peeves are you? 55:02 - Responding to what the internet says about pet peeves: work self vs. home/personal self, snoring, needing constant validation1:00:32 - Bad kissers: pet peeves or deal breaker? 1:00:48 - Can you train or coach someone to be a better kisser? 1:01:58 - Tiny lips (for kissing)1:03:54 - Communicating bad kissing and how is it received1:04:38 - Wrap Up: final thoughts on dating and relationships pet peevesWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis review ‘Malcom and Marie’ on Netflix. For their check-in, Luis is getting use to daylight savings and Chatrice has been microagressed in class. Chatrice gives us some financial advice on how to spend that stimulus check (#stimmy). Our hosts talk about Netflix’s ‘Malcolm & Marie’: Luis liked how the film felt like watching a play and Chatrice is annoyed with Malcom’s pacing. Courting Cuties, have you seen this film? If so, what are your thoughts? Spoilers Start: 17:01Word of the Pod: hyperbolic (adj.) - extreme, exaggeratedTime Stamps0:41 - Check-in with hosts8:18 - What is one adult thing each host did this week?8:44 - Chatrice’s financial advice (Curvy Belle Financial Corner)13:51 - Shout Outs for the Culture14:28 - Follow Kim Wilson, motivational Speaker (@amazingkimwilson)15:04 - Tinder Anti-Aisan Descrimination15:21 - Statistically asian men and black women get the least amount of swipes, likes, and messages on dating apps15:53 - Today’s topic: Netflix’s ‘Malcom and Marie’17:07 - Chatrice’s one sentence plot summary of ‘Malcom and Marie’17:57 - metaphor for relationships during lock down, according to Peggy Drexler, Vogue India19:01 - Luis’ thoughts about the movie21:01 - Chatrice’ thoughts about the movie22:51 - Men taking up space by pacing all the place23:42 - Luis has only had zoom on their cell phone for 3 weeks and it is life changing 26:12 - David Dennis Jr talks about the script, ship but uneven27:50 - Luis drops some theatre knowledge, ‘A Doll’s House’ by Henrik Ibsen29:18 - Toxic moments in relationships32:18 - Question: were the hosts satisfied with the end of the movie?33:18 - Luis laughed a lot while watching this movie34:16 - Word of the pod: hyperbolic35:12 - Is Malcolm and Marie’s relationship abusive?36:52 - Who would be the hosts’ list for their thank you speech at an awards show? 40:20 - Memorable lines41:48 - Which character is most at fault?42:25 - Luis saw themselves in both characters but more so Malcolm43:37 - Lack of gratitude in this film, Luis asks what does each character need?45:27 - Marie was throwing the best shade during this film46:12 - Malcolm was malcious with his words47:25 - 24 Hour Rule: bring it up in 24 hours or drop it48:35 - Characters are not self-realized enough to see how their words or actions hurt the other50:55 - Sex and the City: Samantha and Smith Jerrod; staying with someone because you feel like you owe the other person something52:48 - Was there a resolution at the end of the night/the end of the argument?53:48 - A complicated relationship and an abusive relationship are two seperate things,54:27 - Lessons and take away from this film for the hosts56:22 - Should we start doing a performance evaluation (like at work) for a relationship?1:01:37 - Hesitation to be vulnerable in a realtionship is tied to lossKim Wilson, Motivational Speaker - https://www.instagram.com/amazingkimwilson/?hl=enWhat does Malcom & Marie tell us about emotionally abusive relationships? by Dr. Peggy Drexler - https://www.vogue.in/culture-and-living/content/what-does-malcolm-and-marie-tell-us-about-emotionally-abusive-relationships‘Malcolm and Marie’ Isn’t About a Relationship, It’s About Abuse by David Dennis, Jr. - https://level.medium.com/malcolm-marie-isn-t-about-a-relationship-it-s-about-abuse-2f05fd8f3206Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Brian again to talk about the past year of COV1D and dating/relationships. We heard from you Courting Cuties: y’all described in 3 words this past year of dating and relationships. Our duo and Brian talk about their words to describe their dating and relationships this past year, therapy during the global panini, and assessing comfort while dating this past year. Courting Cuties, is who you are now in terms of dating and relationships your new normal or will you return to yourselves?Time Stamp2:34 - Weight gain this past year5:02 - My body is powerful, don’t care what the scale says6:43 - Proud of body being strong, body appreciation7:07 - Adulting thing of the week8:50 - Shout out for the culture12:38 - Main Topic13:53 - COVID has rewritten the rules and standard of dating13:37 - NPR has hashtag called #TheMoment14:43 - The moment we realized COVID was read22:57 - Corona Virus is ruining my dating life23:18 - 3 words to describe your dating experience during ‘rona25:02 - Hosts and Brian talk one or three words to describe their dating/relationships this past year 26:34 - COVID was a time of migration for many people30:34 - Emotional, exhausting, and exhilarating (re: the last year of dating for Brian)31:39 - Spending time alone/with yourself when you are not living your busy lifestyle (Brian)32:21 - The loneliness people experience during this past year is real34:29 - Realizing you want a relationship which was different than before the pandemic35:53 - Therapy during the pandemic42:09 - Ghosting a therapist43:32 - Last time at the gym was a year ago44:30 - Assess comfort and value during this time with dating 45:11 - Pressure of covid, safety, and implementing rules during COVID46:39 - Conflicts and contradictions while dating during COVID (dating multiple people, being safe)48:22 - Safety beyond COVID while dating54:00 - Getting the vaccine58:58 - A nurse’s persepctive on getting the vaccine 1:02:27 - We have put bad/worse things on our bodies, we can get the vaccine 1:05:36 - Is who we are now our new normal in terms of dating and relationship? Or, will you return to who you used to be with dating and relationships?1:11:20 - if you can date during the global panini, shouldn’t this be easier after it?VIDEO: Love in the Time of COVID-19 (by John Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fk6lwUR8cfA ARTICLE: What a year of dating during the COVID-19 pandemic in Seattle has been like (by Amy Wong, Seattles Time) - https://www.seattletimes.com/life/masks-shower-curtains-and-endless-messaging-this-is-what-covid-19-dating-in-seattle-looks-like/ ARTICLE: People Share #TheMoment They Realized The Pandemic Was Changing Life As They Knew It (by Wine Davis, NPR) - https://www.npr.org/2021/02/28/972281960/people-share-themoment-they-realized-the-pandemic-was-changing-life-as-they-knew ARTICLE: Dating in the time of COVID-19 (by Amy Dusto, John Hopkins School of Public Health Expert Insights) - https://www.jhsph.edu/covid-19/articles/dating-in-the-time-of-covid19.html (quote from Laura Murray, PHD, a clinical psychologist and senior scientist in Mental Health)Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s epsiode, Chatrice and Luis talk about standards in dating and relationships. Luis has had a week of abundance and Chatrice is enjoying the extra hour of sunlight. This week we bring a tale of a tinderoni the court and talk about the ‘IDK guy’. Chatrice and Luis discuss why are people who don’t know what they are looking for on the apps? In a previous season, Chatrice and Luis discuss the lists and now are thinking if they are or are not standards. Courting Cuties, what are your standards versus what are your wishes? Is attractiveness a standard vs. a wish? Is ambition/goal-oriented a standard or a wish? Is being treated well a standard or a wish?Time Stamps0:43 - Catch Up3:23 - Men suck, friends rock, and feet cute10:08 - What is one adulting thing you did this week?15:09 - Shout out for the culture: International Women’s Day, Dolly Parton gets the vaccine, 16:51 - Word of the pod: kiche17:30 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Jennie Dee20:22 - Tales of a Tinderonie21:55 - Importance of being on the same page from the jump23:26 - Apps can be exhausting23:42 - New term: IDK guy27:46 - Main topic: standards28:48 - Courting Cuties’ responses to is there anything bad about having high standards37:12 - Thinking of standards as high, middle, and low priorities37:47 - Your standards is not your wish list40:17 - Standard for self44:03 - Examples of standards46:22 - Attraction exists on multiple levels48:26 - Is it wrong for an educated woman to want an equally educated man?48:46 - Equally yoked50:27 - Dating apps a wild card, comparison to meeting someone in your social circle50:38 - Swiping right on black does not always work52:01 - Being in a relationship, does Luis know their standards?52:27 - Learning of self while single, and a whole another learning of self now being in a relationship52:57 - Do you need to know your standards before you get into a relationship?53:30 - What standards do our hosts have for romantic partners (commuicated openly or not)?54:10 - A standard (in dating/relationship) is something you cannot live without54:43 - Equal energy and contributions in a relationship; not 50/50, but equal/balanced55:23 - Chatrice challenging to think that each person is giving 100% as opposed to 50%59:01 - Having a standard allows you to remove the “what if’s”1:02:05 - Do you list your standards on your dating profile?1:05:48 - Not being bored in a relationship1:06:27 - How do you even decide what your standards are?1:06:45 - Where do our standards for dating and relationships coming from?1:07:34 - Do we release our selves from our wishlist and focus more on the standards?1:08:08 - Wrap Up:Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Luis and Chatrice talk about sologamy. Since last week, our co-hosts had a press day, adventures in cooking, and home renovations. Through twitter scrolling, Luis found out that Mya has been married to herself for 7 years. It’s known as sologamy or self-marriage. Have you heard of this, Courting Cuties? Our hosts talk about what they think about sologamy, describe their ideal self proposals and self-marriages, discuss intentionally being single, and plan their self-weddings. Luis comes up with a new rom-com movie idea - starring Chatrice with Tiffany Haddish and Kerry Washington.Word of the Pod - sologamy (n.) a marriage by a person to themselvesTime Stamps0:21 - Catching up5:00 - How much of adulting is cleaning?10:38 - Shout out for the culture12:39 - Main topic introductions15:11 - What is sologamy?16:37 - Dennis Rodman marrying self20:58 - Hosts thoughts on sologamy24:45 - Queer marriage existing outside the institution of marriage26:00 - Hosts describe their self proposals and self marriages ceremonies29:17 - What happens if sologamists find someone, is it self-divorce?30:58 - Single postivity movement31:10 - Cohosts talk about intentionaly being single33:08 - Chatrice sees a white pe*is on Tinder34:55 - Cohosts talk about what would self wedding look like38:34 - Music to walk to down the aisle to at the hosts’ co-wedding40:10 - Luis comes up with a new rom-com movie idea: Chatrice woudl have a self-marriage ceremony but find the love of her life at her self-marriage ceremony!42:09 - Sologamy is not a new thing but it is new for some people42:30 - Wedding registry for a self-marriage ceremony43:12 - Why do we celebrate people fidning love with another person as opposed to love with themselves?45:22 - Idea for Hallmark: cards to give someone who just broke up with someone else51:00 - Focusing on interpersonal relationships to include romantic and platonic friendships52:38 - Take yourself out, get cute like you would for a date54:24 - Wrap up: how to understand or know more about sologamyA Guide to Sologamy by Sophie Tanner - https://www.imarriedme.co.uk/a-guide-to-sologamy-by-sophie-tanner/Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about anxiety in dating and relationships. Our hosts welcome friend of the pod Dr. Kate. For this week’s adulting moment, Luis is wondering what is the difference between light and dark kidney beans and Chatrice is doing some extreme couponing (kind of) for some salsa. Dr. Kate talks to Chatrice, Luis, and the Cuties about where anxieties come from, how patterns in dating contribute to anxiety, and the role of friends in managing anxiety. Dr. Kate encourages us to ask important questions: are you ready to date? are you ready for the rejection? are you ready to turn someone down if someone is not a good match? Word of the Pod - expeditiously (adv.) with speed and efficiencyTime Stamps:11:20 - Welcome Dr. Kate!23:01 - Clinical interview on the first date24:24 - Dr. Kate’s speciality27:04 - Anxiety in dating30:01 - Havin a therapist in college31:45 - Fat friends being the supporting friends34:44 - Where does anxiety in dating happen? 37:14 - Trusting others while dating; pattern of bad dating experiences38:45 - Challenging anxiety, locating the evidence for thoughts41:12 - Are we doing good by our friends by pushing them a little?43:01 - Being ready to date can help manage anxiety43:57 - Chatrice asks, how do you know if you are ready to date?45:01 - Rejection is part of the dating process47:06 - What do you want in your dating journey: f**k buddy, catch feelings49:18 - Applying queer studies to dating/relationships, expanding the definition of attraction50:33 - Milenials and Gen Z being open to dating more than one person (generally)51:24 - “Your partner doesn’t fullfil every single one of your needs51:44 - Putting on your partner the expectation to be all the things and what happens if they do not meet that53:20 - Pattern of people we date54:17 - Best treatment for anxiety is low grade exposure58:10 - Anxiety can cause dating to be a high stakes thing59:06 - Equity in relationships1:00:01 - Balancing independence with allowing yourself to be taken of in a relationship1:01:26 - Being own people in a relationship1:03:14 - Accept the person for who they are, recognizing one doesn’t have or need control in life1:04:01 - Dr. Kate answers, can you date someone who has anxiety?1:09:24 - WRAP UP: Dr. Kate gives advice when it comes to dating, anxiety, and insecutitiesWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss Ok Cupid questions. Chatrice is hosting a galentine’s day and Luis does a lot of cooking (with 6 cooking oils in the pantry!). Also, it’s Valentine’s Day! What do you all like to receive on this day? Chatrice does not like flowers but get her a spa or pedicure coupon! Luis and bae are going to buy plants for the holiday. Chatrice and Luis will ask each other OkCupid questions and see if they are a match! The questions are in 3 categories: most skipped, least skipped, and most important questions. Check out our instagram (@courtncolor) for the list of questions we answer during this episode! After answering quesitons, Chatrice and Luis talk about which ones have shown up in Luis’ relationships. Courting Cuties, why does OkCupid ask these deep questions? Also, wait till the end of the episode for a LIVE OKCUPID SURPRISE!Time Stamps0:21 - Welcome and Hello5:40 - Adulting Check In8:15 - Shout out to the Culture: LinkedIn celebrates Black History Month (barely)12:24 - CEOs of Excellence13:58 - Flowers on Valentine’s Day, yes or no?18:20 - What is OkCupid?21:12 - Going Through OkCupid’s questions: most skipped30:02 - Most skipped question recap32:14 - Going Through OkCupid’s questions: least skipped question40:41 - First 12 months of the relationship, have Luis and bae answered these questions?43:14 - Will any of these questions come up in your relatinoship within the next 1-5 years?44:32 - Why is ok cupid asking these deep level type of questions?50:14 - Untidy vs. messy vs. dirty55:00 - The purpose of these questions56:54 - OkCupid requires patience, OkCupid questions are good conversation starters59:16 - ‘Starve for Love’ is Chatrice’s next country single1:02:11 - LIVE OKCUPID SURPRISEArticleOkCupid by Jordan Minor - https://uk.pcmag.com/web-sites/4168/okcupidWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk the end of cuffing season. Since last week, Luis is trying to make it at work and Chatrice fell through her floor! Chatrice and Luis go through a cuffing season schedule that sounds a lot like a sports calendar - which neither are into! When does cuffing season start, Courting Cuties? Courting in Color thinks in November, what say you? Our hosts talk the rules of casual sexual relationships and situationships. They also ask themselves, does cuffing season have an age limit? Luis thinks that Chatrice as the Black Carrie Bradshaw could write a book called ‘Heux to Husband: A Journey of Self-Discovery’. Courting Cuties, help Luis, is Chatrice’s fuck buddy her friend?Article: The Errand Friend by Anna Helen Petersen - https://annehelen.substack.com/p/the-errand-friend Word of the Pod: communique (n.) - A communique is an official message that's sent between people or to a media outletTime Stamps0:23 - Catch Up and Adulting Thing of the Week11:45 - Shout Out for the Culture: Black History Month13:16 - Today’s Topic: Valentine’s Day, End of Cuffing Season, and Fuck Buddy (FUBU) playbook16:48 - Rules of Casual Sexual Relationships24:05 - Fuck Buddy vs. Hook Up27:52 - Sleeping within professional circles and social circles37:57 - Did I really heux enough? Does cuffing season have an age limit?44:34 - How do celebrities hook up?48:22 - Fuck buddies who disapppear50:38 - Extended fuck buddies51:18 - Fuck buddies in perpetuity = friends with benefits?53:45 - Errand friend56:52 - Court’s Council - help Chatrice figure out if her fuck buddy is her friend1:00:43 - Thotstradamus - defining the thot nature and make the thot pieces on our podcast1:06:02 - Sexual intimacy without needing to be in a relationshipWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis say happy new year and start season 3 reviewing Bridgerton. How have our hosts been since recording the season finale for season 2? Luis has been watching a lot of Netflix and Chatrice is Bobette the Builder. Courting Cuties, what adulting things have you done in the last week? Luis is thinking about investing and Chatrice is on OkCupid. Join us on a promendate as Chatrice and Luis discuss Bridgerton, a highly successful Shondaland production. Though Bridgerton is Netflix’s top streamed show it is not without its critiques. Did you like Bridgerton, Courting Cuties? Send us a DM or let us know your thoughts!*SPOILERS GALORE* after 25:00CW: r*pe at 35:58, su*ci*e at 51:00Word of the Pod: ingénue (n.) - stock character in literature, film and a role type in the theater, generally a girl or a young woman who is endearingly innocentUCLA Gymnastt Nia Dennis Video - https://www.si.com/college/2021/01/25/ucla-gymnast-nia-dennis-viral-floor-routineThere was a r*pe scene in Bridgerton and no one seems to have realised: https://thetab.com/uk/2021/01/04/there-was-a-rape-scene-in-bridgerton-and-no-one-seems-to-have-realised-187749Rege-Jean Page on Redefining Regency-Era Masculinity in ‘Bridgerton’: https://www.npr.org/2021/01/04/953314526/rege-jean-page-on-redefining-regency-era-masculinity-in-bridgertonWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis are looking back at 2020. Chatrice quizzes Luis on the dating and relationships landscape of 2020. Our hosts talk about what they have learned about dating and relationships this year. Do you know what about Dating Sunday, Courting Cuties? This is the first Sunday of the year which has the highest volume of people on dating apps! Thank you to Damona Hoffman from Dates and Mates podcast for the tip. To wrap up the episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about their favorite moments from the 2 seasons 22 episode year of 2020. Kwanzaa 101 for the Uninitiated, Self-Conscious, or Confused by Moji Alawode-Ei on The RootThe Year in Swipe 2020 from TinderLuis’ Pod Word of the Day: fodder - (n.) people or things that are useful for the stated purpose (from Cambridge Dictionary)Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode Chatrice and Luis talk about the holiday movie “Holidate” (out now on Netflix!) starring Emma Roberts, Luke Bracey, and Kristin Chenoweth. This week our hosts bring back the “Tales of Tinderoni” segment where Chatrice gets called a punk and Luis wonders what men want to hear in a response from a dating app like Tinder. Luis is a former holi-dater(ish) with a very specific structure to dates. With it being the holidays, we want to know, are you looking for someone to take home to family or are you looking for someone to escape from family? Luis’ Pod Word of the Day: admonished - v. warn or reprimand someone firmly.Schitt’s Creek Spoilers: 5:59 - 8:04The Black List Spoilers: 8:05-10:42Holidate Review from Roger Ebert: https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/holidate-movie-review-2020 Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Luis and Chatrice are responding to Kevin Samuel’s “Are Modern Women the Victims?” Youtube video. Cuties, what makes a “5” and what makes a “10”? Chatrice and Luis talk about someone’s attractive level, the politics of ugliness, and desirability. We asked y’all if someone who is a 5 should get a 10 and you all RESPONDED! Chatrice and Luis also rank themselves against the “1 to 10 Scale” from Urban Dictionary. Luis ranks themselves as a covid 9 and pre covid 8. Chatrice ranks herself as a covid 6…and a 7.5/8! When Drake and Jenna Maroney said to listen because a 10 is speaking, they were clearly both talking about Chatrice and Luis. Happy listening!YouTube Video - https://youtu.be/hIoUwtpXXy8?t=2980 1 to 10 Scale on Urban Dictionary - https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=1-10%20Scale20 Women Who Found Out What Guys Rated them on a 1 to 10 Scale - http://wis.pr/ss/stories/c903b6f3-66a1-4ed3-b2ba-1a20da31e7d1?utm_campaign=o_pin;mp;c903b6f3-66a1-4ed3-b2ba-1a20da31e7d1&utm_source=pinterest&utm_medium=social&utm_term=organicWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Queen Hailey! The trio talk about friends and lovers. We asked the Courting Cuties if they would ever date a friend and 69% of y’all said yes. We were a little surprised. So tell us, Cuties, has a friend of yours ever become a lover? Would you be open to that? Also, user “I Teach English” on TikTok teaches us about what Gen Z calls pop out.Pop Out TikTok from Mrs. BWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

*This week’s epsiode is released during Thanksgiving, read below on other ways to acknowledge the fourth Thursday of November.* On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about being thankful for past flames and past exes…and food! Luis craves ham only on Turkey Day and Chatrice talks going over to family functions where you would prepare your plate to go as you were getting your plate to eat. Chatrice tries to find positives and moments of gratitude in dating and relationships. Luis is grateful for exes even though last week they dragged the exes. If you learn lessons from exes, are you indebted to them in some way? How do you find gratitude in a failed relationship, Courting Cuties?- “Finding Gratitude: In Failed Relationships” by Barbara Coleman - http://www.middlesage.com/finding-gratitude-failed-relationships/- “Why We Should Be Thankful For Our Exes” by Kate Ferguson - https://www.bolde.com/thankful-exes/With this episode being released during the holiday known as Thanksgiving read more about the Day of Mourning and Thankstaking.- National Day of Mourning: http://www.uaine.org- Thankstaking (via @amrpodcast): https://www.instagram.com/p/CH1JvVnlJV3/- Un-Thanksgiving: https://www.colorlines.com/articles/unthanksgiving-indigenous-peoples-sunrise-ceremony-honors-resistance-over-revisionismWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about exes coming back during this time of quarantine. Chatrice has felt the most contacted by her exes (did they all hop on a group chat and coordinate) during this time. Luis has only had one ex reach out since quarantine who has been thinking about them (in what context does an ex think about you when they reach out?). Are any of your exes a comfy sweater, something you go back to because you are a familiar with, Courting Cuties? If an ex reaches out and you do not want to talk again, what do you say? Would you reach out to ex?Video: Here’s What To Do If An Ex Reaches Out To You by Jen Harstein - https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/heres-ex-wants-reconnect-during-130000945.htmlWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk money and relationships. We welcome Quisha to this week’s episode! Luis sets up our episode by providing a Tale of a Tinderoni. Spoiler: there’s Cashapp and a car broken down on the side of a road for this tale. When it comes to money in relationships, how does money show up? Do you talk about all your purchases with your bae or partner? What’s the most wild thing you have done in regards to money in a relationship? When is a good time to talk about money in relationships? Let us know, Courting Cuties!Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk cuffing season. We start with the definition of cuffing season. Luis tells the Cuties that cuffing season includes four holidays. Which ones are they and do you agree? Listen and find out! Chatrice weaves a fall tale of how cuffing season is going for her!Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode Chatrice got a speeding ticket and Luis is watching “The Haunting of Bly Manor”. They continue their conversation from last week and finish their conversation about dating/hook up profiles. They read honest profiles, profiles that are positive, and sense of humor profiles. Do you like humor in your profiles, Courting Cuties?Article: “This Is What To Say In Your Dating Bio” (Bustle) https://www.bustle.com/articles/193231-what-to-say-in-your-dating-app-bio-because-you-can-say-a-lot-in-aWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s epsiode Chatrice and Luis talk about bios on profiles. They go into their text messages and screenshots to pull items from their archives! From Tinder to Grindr and everything in between hear what both of them want to see in a dating profile from photos, text, and statistics.Article: “This Is What To Say In Your Dating Bio” (Bustle) https://www.bustle.com/articles/193231-what-to-say-in-your-dating-app-bio-because-you-can-say-a-lot-in-aWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis invite Diane as their guest. They talk about their list and what is on them. Chatrice and Diane recently worked on theirs and Luis has had the list since 19 years old. What's on your list, Courting Cuties?Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

We are back, Courting Cuties! Are you ready for Season 2? For this week’s episode, we talk about alibis and the lies we (may) tell for our friends. We asked you all on Instagram “Would you help your friend cheat on your partner?”. With all the Black television programs coming back to Netflix, we talk “Girlfriends” and Toni and Maya’s different cheating situations.Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about time. We are all busy and there is not enough time in the day. So, how do we make time while in the courting phase or while in a relationship? To help them answer this, Chatrice and Luis invite Brian! Brian also helps to answer a question Courting in Color posted on Instagram: Is it okay to ask someone you’re dating to schedule dedicated phone/FaceTime? Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!