Modern Gays

In this Halloween-themed episode, Daniel and Garet dive into the season of spookiness and villains, exploring the idea of embracing your inner “villain” as a way of living authentically. With the season of costumes and haunted houses setting the tone, they ask: Why do we sometimes feel like villains for simply being ourselves? As they discuss everything from favorite Halloween characters to how villains in pop culture own their power, the conversation shifts to something deeper—how embracing confidence and setting boundaries can be perceived as “villainous” by others. They explore the balance between empathy and self-assurance, discussing their own experiences of when they've been perceived as villains for putting themselves first. Ultimately, this episode is about owning your choices and celebrating your authentic self, villain era and all! Key Episode Highlights:Halloween Vibes: Daniel and Garet reminisce about Halloween traditions and their favorite villains.Villain Energy: A discussion on why being confident, assertive, and authentic can sometimes make you feel like a “villain” in others' eyes.Setting Boundaries: Insights into how people-pleasing and being overly empathetic can hold you back from living your truth.Balancing Empathy and Self-Confidence: Garet shares his journey of learning to stop disarming others and instead embracing his own power.Pop Culture Villains: From Maleficent to House of Villains, Daniel and Garet discuss why we love watching villains thrive and how that energy can inspire our real lives. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updates___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet open up about insecurities, plastic surgery, and how unsolicited advice can derail our self-confidence. From Garet's experience with a recent surgical procedure to Daniel's vulnerability about thinning hair, they explore the weight of personal insecurities and the judgment we often feel from others. Why do we care so much about what people think? They dive deep into the ways technology and social media amplify this pressure, while also challenging the instinct to offer advice when it's not asked for. Can we truly walk in someone else's shoes, or is it time we all learned to trust ourselves more? Listen in for laughs, raw truths, and some hard-earned wisdom. Key HighlightsPlastic Surgery Stories: Garet shares his recent experience getting surgery and how it affected his self-image.The Unsolicited Advice Club: The hosts discuss the pitfalls of giving advice when it's not wanted, particularly in LGBTQ+ spaces.Social Media Pressure: They examine how public routines and online life invite judgment and curiosity, even when nothing's changed.Empathy vs. Relatability: A conversation about when sharing your own story doesn't help someone going through their own experience. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updates___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this heartfelt episode of Modern Gays, hosts Daniel and Garet chat with Joey Guzman Kuffel, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in LGBTQ+ fertility and mental health. Joey dives into his personal and professional journey, exploring the unique challenges and emotions queer people face when building families, particularly through surrogacy and IVF. The conversation covers vital topics such as the initial steps in family planning, the decision-making processes involved in egg donation and surrogacy, managing anxiety during IVF, and dealing with societal and familial judgment. They also discuss the significance of mental health support and therapy in navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that come with building a family in the LGBTQ+ community. This episode is packed with invaluable advice for those considering parenthood, seeking connection, and fostering love within their relationships.Key Highlights:LGBTQ+ Family Planning: Joey discusses the key factors to consider when starting a family, including choosing egg donors, surrogates, and the emotional preparation needed for this life-changing journey.Mental Health Support: The importance of consulting a mental health professional early in the family-building process, providing a safe space to explore options and prepare for challenges.Managing Expectations: Joey emphasizes that every path to parenthood is unique; comparing your journey to others' experiences can lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety.Coping with Judgment: Strategies for setting boundaries and coping with judgment from society, family, and even self-imposed doubts during the process of surrogacy or IVF.Navigating Relationship Dynamics: The episode explores the impact of family building on relationships, stressing the importance of communication, shared responsibilities, and maintaining connection as a couple. Connect with Joey:Joey Guzman-Kuffel, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of Counseling With Joey & Associates. Inspired by his own journey to fatherhood through surrogacy and egg donation, Joey specializes in fertility, IVF, and surrogacy counseling for LGBTQ+ individuals and couples. His practice provides culturally competent, empathetic care for those navigating the emotional complexities of third-party reproduction. The team offers consultations, psychological evaluations, and traditional therapy services. Website: Counseling With Joey & AssociatesBook an Appointment: Schedule HereSocial Media: Facebook | InstagramPhone (USA): +1 (619) 363-5677  ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updates___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Dive into the curious world of “gooning,” a term that's swept both the queer subculture and mainstream conversations. Daniel and Garet break down its roots as a kink-focused term used to describe a trance-like euphoric state, and discuss how it's now become a playful way to express intense excitement. From pop icon obsession to reality TV indulgence, the hosts unpack why gooning isn't just for sexual exploration anymore—it's become part of everyday language, humor, and pop culture. What does it say about queer subcultures when their unique terms break into the mainstream? And should we be cautious about overusing and trivializing these identities, or is this just another step in the evolution of modern LGBTQ+ language? Tune in to find out, laugh, and maybe even discover your own goon face! Key Highlights:Gooning Origins: A deep dive into the history of “gooning” as a sexual practice within queer communities.Pop Culture Crossovers: How gooning has evolved from a kinky term to a mainstream word embraced by pop culture.Housewives and Pop Stars: The latest buzz from the world of pop icons like Tate McRae, Normani, and reality TV favorites.Language Evolution: A discussion on how queer slang like “gagged,” “gooped,” and “gooning” enters everyday language.Queer Subculture Insights: Exploring how niche sexual subcultures influence and shape larger societal trends. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updates___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this insightful episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Dan Harry, star of I Kissed a Boy and a powerful voice in HIV and sexual health advocacy. Dan opens up about his experience on the UK's first gay dating show, shedding light on the pressures of on-screen dating and the vulnerability that comes with reality TV. Beyond the entertainment world, Dan is making a significant impact in the LGBTQ+ community by participating in an HIV vaccine trial and hosting the BBC documentary HIV, PrEP & Me. Together, they explore the evolving conversations around HIV prevention, the importance of breaking down stigma, and how the gay community can prioritize sexual health. Dan's candidness about his personal struggles in dating, public perception, and advocacy work makes this a must-listen for anyone interested in both love and community activism. Key Highlights:Dan's Reality TV Experience: Dan talks about his unexpected journey on I Kissed a Boy and how joining later in the show impacted his confidence and connections.HIV Advocacy and PrEP: Dan discusses his role in an HIV vaccine trial and his BBC documentary, highlighting the importance of PrEP and HIV prevention education.Breaking Stigma: The conversation dives deep into how HIV stigma still exists and why it's essential to dismantle it, especially in the LGBTQ+ dating world.Dating in the Spotlight: Dan shares how being on reality TV has changed his dating life and the toxic traits he's working to overcome.Words of Wisdom: Dan reflects on how what may be seen as weaknesses can be our greatest strengths, offering empowering advice for those navigating the dating world. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updates___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this episode, Daniel and Garet unpack the complex role of the messenger, using Selling Sunset's latest drama as a case study. From holding onto secrets to dealing with backlash, the hosts explore the fine line between being helpful and being perceived as stirring the pot. Is it ever okay to share private information if you think you're protecting a friend? Or does the blame always fall on the one delivering bad news? Reflecting on both the show and their own experiences, the duo offers listeners relatable insights on trust, communication, and managing drama in their own relationships. Tune in as they dissect the fine art of being the vault, the ally, or the unfortunate bearer of bad news.Key Highlights:The Messenger's Dilemma: Is delivering sensitive information an act of kindness or meddling?Selling Sunset Drama: The blurred lines between reality TV and real-life relationships.Trust vs. Intention: How your role as a messenger impacts the trust others place in you.Reality TV's Influence on Friendship: How shows like Selling Sunset mirror real-life dynamics.Navigating Gossip: Balancing empathy and honesty when delivering uncomfortable truths. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updates___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this heartfelt episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Jake and Sean from DaddiestoThree to explore the dynamic and sometimes unpredictable world of gay parenthood. From their initial desire to start a family to the unexpected news of triplets, Jake and Sean share the intimate details of their surrogacy journey, including the emotional impact of miscarriage and the joy of finally welcoming three healthy babies. As they navigate the complexities of IVF, surrogacy, and being visible gay parents, Jake and Sean open up about the importance of representation, the power of community, and the reality of daily life with three toddlers. This conversation is filled with moments of laughter, vulnerability, and inspiration, offering a unique glimpse into what it means to create a family on your own terms. Key HighlightsFrom Surrogacy to Triplets: Jake and Sean recount their journey from finding a surrogate to the surprise of having triplets, highlighting the rollercoaster of emotions involved in gay parenthood.Overcoming Challenges: The couple opens up about their experience with miscarriage and how they found the strength to continue their journey toward parenthood.Importance of Visibility: Jake and Sean discuss the significance of sharing their story online, aiming to provide hope and representation for other LGBTQ+ individuals and couples.Support Systems: The episode dives into the crucial role of community and family support, especially during the highs and lows of their surrogacy process.Balancing Authenticity and Advocacy: They talk about balancing personal life with their advocacy work, especially in the current political climate, and how they use their platform to support other queer families. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updates___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Daniel and Garet dive into the concept of “short and sweet,” discussing how brevity can enhance various aspects of life, from storytelling to relationships. They explore the balance between keeping things concise while still conveying depth and meaning, touching on personal anecdotes and larger cultural phenomena like the upcoming Gay Games in Melbourne. The hosts challenge the notion that longer is always better, proposing that sometimes the most impactful moments are those that are brief but memorable. How do we determine when to keep things short and when to dive deep? And what can the LGBTQ+ community learn from the practice of mindful brevity in both personal and public spheres?Key Highlights:Understanding “Short and Sweet”: The hosts discuss the value of brevity in storytelling and daily interactions, and how this approach can often lead to more meaningful connections.The Gay Games 2030: A conversation about Melbourne's bid to host the Gay Games, exploring its history, inclusivity, and the importance of representation in sports.Navigating Relationships: Insights on embracing short-term relationships, focusing on the lessons and growth they offer rather than their duration.Effective Communication: How to say more with less—developing the skill of impactful communication through mindful listening and concise expression.Cultural Reflections: Daniel and Garrett reflect on the importance of valuing experiences for what they are, without the pressure of longevity, and how this perspective can enrich both personal growth and community dynamics. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Daniel and Garet are joined by the legendary acting coach Margie Haber, who has helped shaped the careers of Hollywood stars like Halle Berry and Brad Pitt. Inspired by Margie's book F*ck Your Comfort Zone, the trio dives deep into the paralyzing grip of fear and how to break free from it. Margie shares her journey of self-discovery and the importance of embracing discomfort to grow, offering powerful insights that go beyond acting. Whether you're looking to change careers, come out, or simply live more authentically, this episode is packed with wisdom to help you say “f**k it” to your fears and start living the life you deserve. Key HighlightsOvercoming Fear: Margie discusses how fear can either motivate or paralyze, and offers tools to harness it for personal growth.Comfort Zones as Traps: Insight into how comfort zones act as self-imposed prisons and why breaking out is crucial.The Power of Saying Yes: Margie shares how saying “yes” to opportunities, even when they're scary, can lead to transformative experiences.Balancing Multiple Selves: Exploring the concept of embracing all parts of yourself, from the nurturing parent to the playful child.The Circle of Life: Understanding that life's ups and downs are natural, and how to keep moving forward despite setbacks. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

From the timeless romance of Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor to the unique dynamic between RuPaul and George LeBar, these couples teach us that love is not one-size-fits-all. The discussion spans across monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships, highlighting the importance of mutual respect, admiration, and staying true to your authentic self. How do these relationships thrive despite societal pressures and personal challenges? And what can we learn from their journeys to apply in our own lives? Tune in for a conversation that celebrates love in all its forms. Key Highlights:Monogamy, Open, and Everything In-Between: Insights into how different celebrity couples navigate various relationship dynamics.Sarah Paulson & Holland Taylor: A deep dive into their 32-year age gap and their mutual admiration that keeps their love strong.RuPaul & George LeBar: Exploring the balance of independence and togetherness in a 30-year open relationship.Tom Daley & Dustin Lance Black: The role of family and shared values in sustaining their monogamous marriage.Redefining Love: How these couples break societal norms and create their unique love stories. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, exploring new trends that are shaping how we connect and build relationships in 2024. They discuss the phenomenon of “beard fishing,” where profile pictures with misleading beard lengths cause confusion and disappointment in real-life encounters. The hosts also share insights on the rise of “soft starts” and “low-pressure dates” (LPDs), emphasizing the importance of a more measured and relaxed approach to dating. As they reflect on their own dating experiences and those of their friends, Daniel and Garet offer valuable advice for navigating the dating scene with authenticity and confidence. Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode provides a thoughtful and entertaining look at the current trends in LGBTQ+ dating. Key HighlightsBeard Fishing: Discover the new dating trend where misleading beard lengths in profile pictures cause real-life surprises.Soft Starts: Learn about the trend of beginning relationships with low-key, non-committal interactions.Low-Pressure Dates (LPDs): Understand the significance of casual, stress-free dating activities for building genuine connections.Dating App Insights: Explore how platforms like Hinge are influencing LGBTQ+ dating with data-driven trends and practices.Personal Stories: Hear Daniel and Garet's own experiences and reflections on navigating the modern dating world. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet dive deep into the intriguing world of Instagram's Close Friends feature, discussing how it reshapes online intimacy and the dynamics within the gay community. From personal anecdotes about provocative posts to the broader implications of creating micro-communities, they explore the various ways people use (and sometimes misuse) this green-circled space. They also touch on current events, including the Paris Olympics and its impact on gay culture, along with the recent Grindr restrictions within the Olympic village. Tune in to uncover how Close Friends can be a platform for authenticity, a space for provacative moments, or just another way to share the mundane moments of life with a selected few. Key HighlightsClose Friends Feature: Understanding the purpose and personal experiences with Instagram's Close Friends.Olympic Highlights: Discussing the Paris Olympics, including drag queen performances and Grindr restrictions.Privacy Concerns: Exploring the impact of privacy settings and the importance of intentional sharing.Community Building: How Close Friends can create micro-communities and safe spaces for self-expression.Content Strategies: Tips on effectively using Close Friends for personal and engaging content sharing. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet dive deep into the realities of facing hate and criticism as members of the LGBTQ+ community. Inspired by a recent episode of RuPaul's Drag Race Canada vs. the World, they discuss the pervasive issue of haters, both online and offline, and the unique challenges queer individuals face in today's political climate. The conversation touches on personal experiences, the intersection of social media and public perception, and the importance of resilience and support within the community. They also explore the nuances of hate versus criticism and offer strategies for dealing with negativity in a constructive way. Tune in for an insightful discussion that balances heavy topics with moments of humor and hope.Key HighlightsHaters and Social Media: The impact of negative comments and how they altered Daniel and Garet's social media approach.RuPaul's Drag Race Inspiration: How a performance on the show sparked a deeper conversation about intra-community judgment.Political Climate: The hosts' thoughts on the U.S. election and its broader implications for the LGBTQ+ community.Coping Strategies: Tips for distinguishing between hate and constructive criticism and how to handle each.Community Support: The importance of uplifting one another and fostering a supportive environment within the LGBTQ+ community. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

From recounting personal stories of sweaty encounters to debating whether socks should stay on or come off during sex, Daniel and Garet provide a humorous yet insightful look at what constitutes good manners in intimate situations. They also explore the rules and excitement of cruising, the rise of Sniffies as a mainstream hookup app, and the essential etiquette tips everyone should know to ensure enjoyable and respectful experiences. Tune in for laughs, valuable insights, and a candid discussion that goes beyond the bedroom.Key HighlightsSweaty Encounters: Daniel's hilarious story of a steamy, sweat-filled hookup.Socks Debate: The hosts weigh in on whether socks should stay on or come off during sex.Cruising 101: Unpacking the unspoken rules of cruising and the appeal of spontaneous encounters.Sniffies App: The rise of Sniffies as the new go-to for quick, anonymous hookups.Hookup Etiquette: Essential tips for clean and respectful sexual experiences. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the concept of playersexuality in video games. They share nostalgic gaming experiences and discuss how modern games like The Sims have evolved to include diverse sexual identities. The conversation highlights the importance of inclusive representation in gaming, particularly for the LGBTQ+ community. The hosts analyze both the positive and negative aspects of 'playersexual' characters, emphasizing the need for deeper, more authentic character development. They also touch on the societal implications of gaming, how it fosters community and the growing trend of identifying as 'gaymers'. The episode concludes with a light-hearted discussion about potential future developments in LGBTQ+ gaming.Key Highlights:Nostalgic gaming experiences with classics like The Sims and Grand Theft Auto.Discussion on the evolution of games to include diverse sexual identities.Examination of the concept of playersexuality and its implications.Pros of playersexual characters: inclusivity, freedom, and positive representation.Cons of playersexual characters: superficiality, tokenism, and lack of depth.The significance of community and connection in gaming.The need for more authentic and rich LGBTQ+ character stories in video games. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Join Daniel and Garet as they explore the concept of "sadfishing," where individuals post overly emotional content online to seek validation. They delve into the reasons behind this behavior and its impact on relationships and social media interactions. Moving away from the digital realm, they highlight the growing trend of matchmaking, sharing personal anecdotes and the value of human connection in finding love. The episode covers the advantages of matchmaking over traditional dating apps, emphasizing the desire for meaningful connections and the challenges posed by superficial interactions online. They also provide tips on navigating these evolving dating landscapes with empathy and authenticity.Key Highlights:Explanation of sad fishing and its implications on social media.Personal stories about attraction, dating, and the difference between seeking attention and genuine vulnerability.Discussion on the revival of matchmaking and its benefits over modern dating apps.Insights into matchmaking experiences and the importance of personality and core values in successful matches.Comparison between digital and traditional dating methods, including the impact of gamification and the desire for deeper connections.Encouragement for listeners to be authentic and empathetic in their dating endeavors. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this episode of Modern Gays, we sit down with TheeAlexanderJ, a dynamic influencer known for his vibrant fashion and confident demeanor. We delve into his background, discussing the origins of his confidence and the motivation behind his viral content. Alexander shares experiences growing up, highlighting the challenges and triumphs that shaped his journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, breaking free from societal norms, and finding joy in one's uniqueness. The conversation also covers strategies for maintaining confidence in public spaces, dealing with negativity, and using social media as a platform for positivity. TheeAlexandeJ's insights on daily practices for confidence, manifestation, and the power of starting are invaluable for anyone looking to boost their self-esteem and live authentically.Key Highlights:The journey from insecurity to confidence, and the role of self-acceptance.Strategies for staying confident in public and dealing with negative feedback.The significance of breaking societal norms and embracing individuality.Daily practices for building and maintaining confidence.The impact of confidence on personal relationships and attracting supportive people.The power of manifestation and the importance of starting your journey.Connect with TheeAlexanderJ:TikTokInstagramListen to "King Sh*t" by TheeAlexanderJ ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Let's talk about "Delulu," a term that started as a playful social media jab but has evolved into a powerful mindset for achieving your wildest dreams. Daniel and Garet discuss how embracing a bit of delusion can lead to setting and achieving audacious goals. Through personal anecdotes, celebrity examples, and practical tips, they explore the transformative power of believing in your dreams, visualizing success, and overcoming mental barriers. Join the conversation and learn how to harness your inner "Delulu" to create the life you desire.Overview:Personal Stories of DelusionThe Power of Delusion in Goal SettingVisualization techniquesOvercoming mental barriersDelulu or Not: A Fun GameHosts and listeners play a game to identify delusional versus realistic goalsCelebrity Examples of Delusional SuccessAriana Grande, Sabrina Carpenter, Megan Thee Stallion, Walt DisneyPractical Tips for Embracing DeluluBelief, Visualization, and Breaking ThroughSetting big, scary goalsTechniques for maintaining focus and overcoming negativity ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Daniel and Garet are joined by love and relationship expert Trevor Kuhn from Love Daddy Trev. Together, they address common questions facing single gay men, such as why they might still be single, how to find the right partner, and navigating the complexities of dating in close-knit gay communities. The discussion also touches on the impact of Pride events on finding love, the competitive nature of dating among gay men, and the importance of self-love and authenticity in relationships. Trevor shares practical advice for dating, from engaging meaningfully with others to managing expectations on dating apps. The episode concludes with encouragement to prioritize self-love and genuine connections during Pride and beyond. Chapters:00:26 Friends vs. Dating in Close-Knit Communities01:28 The Impact of Pride on Finding Love03:09 Navigating Gay Social Settings05:20 The Competitive Nature of Gay Dating08:12 The Role of Attraction in Friendships and Dating16:13 Tips for Using Dating Apps Effectively ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

In this Pride edition of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the deeper meaning of pride beyond the celebrations. They discuss how truly owning and expressing your gay pride every day can lead to incredible personal and societal transformations. From the importance of visibility and acceptance to the ongoing fight for equality and the resilience needed to face challenges, this episode is a heartfelt and empowering exploration of what it means to live with pride. The hosts share personal stories, practical tips, and inspirational insights to help listeners embrace their identities and take action for a more inclusive world.Key Highlights:The Importance of Visibility: Exploring how being openly gay impacts personal life and society.Acceptance: Personal journeys of acceptance and the importance of being accepted by others.Equality: The ongoing fight for LGBTQ+ rights and the importance of solidarity.Resilience: Overcoming challenges and thriving despite adversity.Taking Action: Practical steps to support LGBTQ+ rights and foster inclusivity. ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Kevin Kasir, a gay mindset coach, shares his journey into self-development, emphasizing the importance of a positive mindset and self-love. The conversation covers recognizing negative thought patterns, the significance of taking small actionable steps towards self-improvement, and the impact of deep, supportive friendships. Kevin offers practical advice on overcoming laziness, the role of friendships in mental health, and how to make and maintain meaningful connections. The trio delves into the unique dynamics of LGBTQIA+ friendships, highlighting how deep, supportive connections can significantly enhance mental health. Kevin provides insightful tips on making new friends, maintaining meaningful relationships, and the importance of clear intentions. He also shares creative ideas for nurturing these bonds through consistent, heartfelt communication.Addressing the common issues of jealousy and judgment in friendships, Kevin explains the impact of insecurity and the need for fostering healthy relationships. He emphasizes living authentically as a means to attract quality connections, sharing his personal strategies for cultivating confidence and self-trust. Connect with Kevin Kasir:WebsiteInstagram ___SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREONJoin our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!What's included:Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenesEarly access to Modern Gays podcast episodesCommunity chats with Daniel and GaretExclusive voting power on episode topics/guestsDaniel and Garet's personal journal updatesVibe Tribe community chat and much more!___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and GaretCo-Hosts of Modern Gayshttps://www.moderngays.co

Daniel and Garet are joined by psychotherapist Brian Spitulnik to explore the complex interplay between identity, sex, and the influence of porn in the LGBTQ community. Brian, known for his authentic and relatable advice on Instagram and TikTok, shares his expertise on how being gay can shape personal choices and relationships. Together, they dive into the core issues of shame, the importance of chosen families, and the challenges of forming authentic connections in a digital age. Key Topics Discussed:Common Challenges Faced by Gay Men: The pervasive sense of shame and its specific manifestations. How shame influences behaviors like addiction, body dysmorphia, and relationship dynamics.The Role of Chosen Families: Importance of finding true and honest relationships within the LGBTQ community. Brian's perspective on the adolescent phase gay men go through upon coming out.Navigating Romantic and Platonic Relationships: The complexities of building intimate and platonic relationships in the gay community. Balancing personal identity with societal and community expectations.Impact of Porn on Real-Life Intimacy: Discussion on how porn consumption affects emotional engagement in real-life relationships. Strategies to find a healthy balance between porn and personal connections.Listener Questions (Only Whispers Segment): Addressing Rex from Sydney's concern about balancing porn with real-life intimacy. Advice for Thomas from Boston on finding dates outside of dating apps.Practical Tips for Building Authentic Connections: Checking the facts to avoid miscommunication. Reflective listening to ensure understanding and clarity. Evaluating personal feelings towards others to foster genuine connections. Notable Quotes:"True love is holding another's spiritual evolution as equal to your own." – bell hooks"Everything changes. Nothing remains the same. To think that you're always going to want the same thing is not being in reality." – Brian Spitulnik About Brian:Brian Spitulnik, LMSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice and co-founder of Artists Reimagining Therapy & Systems (A.R.T.S.), a fully-funded program offering free group and individual therapy to artists and arts workers. Brian is committed to working with his clients to come fully into relationship with their environment and themselves while providing practical tools for behavioral change and emotional growth. Ongoing professional development and advanced training experiences are a critical component of Brian's practice, ensuring a transformative impact on the individuals and communities he serves. Brian has earned degrees from The University of Michigan, Columbia University, and The Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College. Before becoming a mental health practitioner, Brian performed on Broadway for over 15 years, wrote for Global Citizen, The Daily Beast, McSweeney's, and Dance Magazine, and co-founded 85th Street Productions. Brian's Links:https://www.instagram.com/spitulnik/https://www.tiktok.com/@spitulnikhttps://www.brianspitulnik.com ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

In this lively and intimate episode of "Modern Gays," hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the complexities of dating across significant age differences within the LGBTQIA+ community. They discuss everything from the cultural concepts of "daddies" to the emotional and social dynamics that come with large age gaps in relationships.Episode Highlights:Topic of age differences in relationships, setting the stage for a discussion filled with personal insights and broader cultural reflections.Play "Top, Bottom, Flip," selecting celebrities to humorously discuss their preferences in a playful reimagination of the classic game.Daniel and Garet share their personal experiences with age gaps, both in their own relationship and with previous partners, revealing insights about perceptions and realities of dating across age lines.Defining a "daddy" in the community, focusing on attributes like maturity, mentorship, and emotional intelligence beyond mere physical age.Advantages and challenges they've faced due to their age gap, from emotional growth and mentorship to concerns about health and energy levels.Discussion on the social stigma sometimes associated with age differences and share how they've navigated these challenges within their relationship and in public perception. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Explore the nuances of LGBTQ+ travel with Stefan Arestis from Nomadic Boys, who along with his partner Sebastien Chaneac, has turned their passion for travel into a powerful platform for advocacy and visibility. This episode covers everything from the safest places for gay travelers, navigating cultural challenges, to the power of supporting local LGBTQ+ communities in conservative countries.In-Depth Overview of Topics Discussed:The Journey of Nomadic Boys: Stefan shares the origin story of their blog and book, detailing how personal experiences shaped their journey into global gay travel experts.Travel Challenges and Triumphs: Insight into the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ travelers, including anecdotes from Stefan's experiences in less tolerant countries.Celebrating Safe Spaces: Stefan highlights some of the most welcoming LGBTQ+ destinations around the world and what makes them special.Advocacy Through Travel: Discussion on how traveling as an openly gay couple can serve as an act of visibility and advocacy, influencing perceptions and policies in various cultures.Supporting Local LGBTQ+ Communities: The importance of choosing where to spend money during travels to support and strengthen local LGBTQ+ businesses and communities.Safety and Authenticity in Travel: Stefan discusses how to balance authenticity with safety, sharing practical tips for navigating different cultural landscapes as a gay traveler. Connect with the Nomadic Boys on their website and Instagram.Buy 'Out in the World: The Gay Guide to Travelling with Pride' by Stefan Arestis and Sebastien Chaneac here.  ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Get into the nuanced world of modern dating and relationships in this eye-opening episode of Modern Gays. Daniel and Garet chat about the intricacies of flirting, the importance of setting healthy boundaries, and the crucial role of self-worth in forming meaningful connections. Whether discussing the controversial takes of RuPaul on monogamy or the timeless dilemma of revealing too much too soon, this episode is packed with candid insights and laughter. What You'll Learn:Flirting Techniques and Styles: Discover diverse flirting styles—from eye contact to playful touches—and how they can signify interest and build attraction.Setting Boundaries: Understand the significance of clear communication and consent in dating, highlighting how asking for permission can be both respectful and sexy.Embracing Self-Worth: Learn why knowing and valuing oneself is essential in navigating the dating world and how it can influence the types of relationships you attract.The Power of Mystery: Find out how holding back certain details can enhance intrigue and foster a gradual, more meaningful exploration of potential partners.Self-Cheating in Relationships: Reflect on how personal decisions and fear can lead to self-sabotage in relationships and personal growth. Episode Highlights:A discussion on the controversial views of RuPaul on monogamy and self-cheating.Insights into how various flirting styles can indicate different emotional needs and expressions.The balance between being too forward and too reserved and how to navigate this in social and romantic encounters. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

How do vibrational frequencies influence our lives, relationships, and personal growth? We discuss everything from the scientific underpinnings of vibrations to personal anecdotes about outgrowing friends and aligning with energies that uplift and inspire. Join us as we explore how to tune into your own frequency and make meaningful connections that resonate with your true self.Key Topics:Vibrational Frequency Basics: Understanding the science behind how everything around us—including ourselves—vibrates at certain frequencies.Cultural Interpretations: A look at how different cultures understand and utilize energy, featuring concepts like Chi, Prana, and Chakras.Personal Vibration Management: Tips on how to manage your own vibrational state to attract the life you want, including how to handle low energy days and enhance your personal environment.Navigating Relationships: Strategies for recognizing when you've outgrown friendships and how to seek out new relationships that are in tune with your current vibrational state.Inspirational Insights: Inspirational thoughts from well-known figures like Oprah and RuPaul on maintaining high vibrational states. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Unpack how the evolving role of artificial intelligence in shaping our social interactions and personal perceptions. From AI enhancements on dating platforms like Grindr to the cultural implications of AI-generated images, this episode explores how new technologies are redefining norms within the queer community. The discussion also touches on the implications for privacy, the potential for perpetuating stereotypes, and the exciting yet sometimes intimidating prospects that AI technologies might hold for our future. Key Moments/Highlights:[01:00] Discussing the challenges and pressures of gym culture within the gay community.[06:00] Grindr's introduction of AI to facilitate communication, and the broader implications for social interaction.[14:30] Debating the potential benefits and drawbacks of AI in everyday life, from work to personal tasks.[22:00] The influence of AI-generated images on societal norms and personal expectations.[26:00] Reflecting on the rapid pace of technological change and its impact on our lives and culture. Related Links:Grindr's Official Blog - Details on their latest features and AI integration. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

The art of fostering deeper connections in queer relationships is asking better questions. From first-date stories to a candid discussion on love languages and the dynamics of friendships with exes, this episode dives into how to cultivate intimacy, understand one another on a profound level, and navigate the complexities of  love and relationships.Highlights:First-Date Insights: Enjoy relatable anecdotes and laughter as the hosts recount their own first date, offering listeners a glimpse into their personal lives and the foundation of their connection.Queer Dating Dynamics: Discover how astrological signs might influence dating preferences and relationship dynamics in the queer community.Innovative Love Languages: Be inspired by Daniel and Garrett's discussion on creating new, bespoke love languages that reflect the unique needs and desires of queer relationships.The Ex-Factor: Navigate the complex emotions and logistics of remaining friends with exes, including shared pet custody and intertwined social circles.Life Skills Through Queer Lenses: From moving houses to managing day-to-day challenges, the hosts share their perspectives on practical life skills with a queer twist.Vulnerability & Trust: Engage with discussions on vulnerability, trust, and the significance of sharing personal moments and memories as a means to foster genuine connections. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

In this special one-year anniversary episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet return to the heart of the podcast—discussing the intricacies of love and relationships. They dive into the evolving dating landscape of 2024, decoding the fresh lingo and trends that define modern love. From "Canon-Bailing" to "VBD" (Vision Board Dating), they break down the terms you need to know. Plus, a detour into their recent escapades, including their thoughts on Beyoncé's latest album and the virtues of a relaxing getaway. Join them as they explore what these developments mean for seeking connection and understanding in today's fast-paced world. Show Notes:Welcome and Anniversary Celebrations: Daniel and Garet kick off the episode celebrating the first anniversary of Modern Gaze, expressing gratitude to their listeners and setting the stage for today's focus on love and relationships.Musical Digressions: A quick dive into their current musical obsessions, with a particular nod to Beyoncé's "Cowboy Carter." The duo shares how music has been a backdrop to their recent life events, including a memorable road trip.The Essence of Love and Relationships: Reflecting on how the essence of Modern Gays is to explore the dynamics of love and relationships, they highlight how new dating terminologies and trends are reshaping the way we connect.Decoding the Dating Lexicon:Canon-Bailing: Discussing the concept of leaving a relationship to focus on personal growth and how it's becoming a common trend.VBD (Vision Board Dating): Exploring the strategy of positioning oneself in a future location through dating apps to manifest relocation or new beginnings.Thera-Posing: Cautioning against the misuse of therapeutic terms in dating contexts.Premature Intimacy: The pitfalls of oversharing or rushing emotional/physical intimacy in new relationships.Personal Reflections: Sharing personal experiences and opinions on these trends, Daniel and Garrett navigate the complex landscape of modern dating, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and honest communication.Looking Ahead: Speculations on the future of dating, including the potential impact of AI and the importance of loyalty, respect, open-mindedness, and self-care in future relationships. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

From awkward encounters with exes and former friends to fleeting connections on social media, they explore the emotional landscape of recognizing and interacting with people from our past. Through personal anecdotes and reflective insights, Daniel and Garet discuss the importance of treating these encounters with respect, understanding, and perhaps a simple head nod. Join them as they unpack the nuances of LGBTQIA+ relationships and the journey towards inclusivity, respect, and a united community. In This Episode, You'll Learn About:The various types of past connections and how they impact usStrategies for acknowledging or not acknowledging someone from our pastThe importance of maintaining dignity and respect in post-connection encountersBalancing the energy we receive from and give to our interactionsFostering a supportive and inclusive LGBTQIA+ community through our actions Key Quotes:"Everything doesn't have to be a distant memory. We can honor what it was and not be bitter towards it.""We're all human, we all want love, validation, and connection." Resources Mentioned:Ariana Grande's album "Eternal Sunshine" for the emotional backdrop of today's topic"Radical Optimism" episode for further insights into maintaining a positive outlook Call to Action:Have you ever had an awkward encounter with someone from your past? How did you handle it, and what did you learn? Share your stories with us on Instagram or send us an email. Your experience might just help someone else navigate their journey with grace and confidence. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Hosts Daniel and Garet kick off the episode by diving into the concept of Radical Optimism, inspired by Dua Lipa's new album of the same name. They explore what it means to maintain a hopeful and positive outlook as a queer individual in today's world. The conversation covers the importance of happiness, storytelling, and the narratives that shape our experiences within the LGBTQ+ community. Key Topics:1. The Power of Radical Optimism:Discussion on how radical optimism can empower the LGBTQ+ community to navigate challenges with grace and positivity. Highlighting the history and impact of the Gay Liberation Front post-Stonewall Riots as an example of radical optimism in action. 2. Radical Optimism vs. Realism:A deep dive into the philosophy behind radical optimism and how it differs from mere positivity or toxic positivity.The hosts reflect on their personal journeys towards embracing a radically optimistic outlook in the face of societal challenges and personal struggles. 3. Strategies for Embracing Radical Optimism:Acknowledging current realities without dwelling on negativity.Cultivating gratitude and focusing on joyous aspects of life.Seeking out positive narratives and surrounding oneself with stories of success, resilience, and joy.The importance of self-care, mental and emotional growth, and personal development.Visualizing a positive future and the role of techniques like quantum leaping in achieving a hopeful outlook. Interactive Quiz: Are You a Radical Optimist or a Realist?A fun and engaging quiz where Daniel and Garet explore whether they lean more towards radical optimism or realism, inviting listeners to participate and share their results. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Let's get into the heart of authentic queer storytelling with our special guest, Jason Caceres. Known for his breakout role in the series "Open To It," Jason shares his journey as an out and proud actor, his experiences on set, and the importance of nuanced queer representation in media. In This Episode:Jason's Path to "Open To It": Discover how Jason's varied career and his commitment to authentic queer representation led him to star in "Open To It," a series that explores modern queer relationships and the complexities of love and sexual exploration.Behind the Scenes with Jason: Get a glimpse into the fun, challenges, and the unexpected turns of filming "Open To It," including working with superstar drag queens like Manila Luzon and Laganja Estranja.Throuple Dynamics Explored: Jason dives into the dynamics of throuples, as portrayed in "Open To It," and shares personal insights on communication, vulnerability, and the evolving landscape of queer relationships.Authenticity on Screen and Beyond: Learn about the importance of portraying real, relatable queer experiences on screen and how Jason navigates his personal and professional life with authenticity.Future Projects and Dreams: Jason talks about his future aspirations, upcoming projects, and his hope to continue pushing boundaries and celebrating queer stories. Watch "Open To It": Streaming now on OutTV, "Open To It" is a must-watch for anyone looking for a light-hearted yet profound exploration of queer relationships and identity. More about Jason Caceres:Jason Caceres is a Cuban American actor/model originally from Miami, Florida. Most recent credits include Criminal Minds, Insatiable, Kidding, Pam & Tommy, Days of Our Lives and Jimmy Kimmel Live! Jason will play Chayce in new series “Boy Culture: Generation X,” a reboot of the original film by the same name.Jason has made a name for himself in the indie LGBTQ+ film scene starring in films like “All American Boys” opposite Wilson Cruz, “Demonhuntr” on Amazon featuring Darryl Stephens, “Tina Town,” as well as “Open To It” costarring Laganja Estranja, Manila Luzon, Pandora Boxx, and Honey Davenport. He enjoys being incredibly active occupying his free time with physical activities like hiking, swimming and has taken up a passion for recreational pole dancing!”Theatrical Reel / Comedy Reel / Commercial Reel / Modeling Portfolio ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Join us as we unravel the mysteries of Peter Pan Syndrome—a journey that many gay men find themselves navigating, caught between the allure of eternal youth and the inevitable call to grow up. But what if growing up didn't mean letting go of the wonder?Episode Highlights:Hosts Daniel and Garet open up about personal encounters with adulthood and the allure of eternal youth, setting the stage for a deeper dive into overcoming Peter Pan Syndrome.Special guest, Angel Serrata, founder of Uplift Fitness, shares his inspiring journey from battling personal demons and societal expectations to empowering others within the gay community through fitness and mental resilience.The trio discusses the nuances of Peter Pan Syndrome, including delayed adolescence, the craving for acceptance, and the cyclical patterns of seeking validation through less constructive means.Angel provides actionable insights on breaking free from negative patterns, valuing oneself, and the critical role of physical and mental fitness in forging a fulfilling life.The conversation highlights the importance of love, community, and vision in crafting a vibrant life that honors one's authentic self.Key Takeaways:Overcoming Peter Pan Syndrome involves recognizing its roots in delayed adolescence and societal pressures, with a strong emphasis on personal growth and self-love.Fitness and mental health are pivotal in breaking the cycle of seeking temporary validation and embracing a journey towards self-improvement.Building a supportive community and finding validation in healthy, empowering activities are essential steps towards achieving a sense of belonging and purpose.Connect with Angel Serrata of Uplift Fitness:InstagramTikTokYoutube ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Daniel and Garet dive into the essence of living authentically in a world where the concept of authenticity is often overused yet misunderstood. They explore what it means to be fluent in your true self, share personal anecdotes about their journeys, and discuss how everyone's authenticity is uniquely defined. Join us as we unpack the layers of being authentically you, with insights from our lives and listeners' questions that touch on everything from communication styles to dealing with daily challenges in staying true to oneself. Topics Discussed:Introduction: Daniel and Garet kick off the episode with a lively discussion on what fluency in authenticity means to them, sharing personal insights and setting the stage for a deep dive into authenticity.What Are You Fluent In? A light-hearted conversation about the different languages of authenticity, from dance to reading a room, and an invitation for listeners to reflect on their own fluencies.Living Authentically in Today's World: The hosts discuss the evolution of authenticity from historical roles to modern individuality, referencing philosophical views and how these apply within the LGBTQIA+ community.The Authentic Personality: An exploration of what defines an authentic person today, emphasizing self-awareness, unbiased self-reflection, and living in alignment with one's true self.Challenges to Authenticity: Daniel and Garet touch on personal and societal barriers to living authentically, including fear of judgment and the importance of finding safe spaces.Authenticity as a Feeling of Fluency: A shift from traditional views of authenticity towards experiencing authenticity as a feeling that aligns with one's true self.Maintaining Authenticity: Tips on staying authentic in various aspects of life, from relationships to personal challenges, and the balance between being true to oneself and adapting to the world around us.Six Ways to Live Your Authentic Life: Practical advice for embracing and expressing your authentic self, including embracing silence, being self-aware, seeking therapy, learning to be vulnerable, being intentional, and asking questions. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Let's talk about kinks. From discussing the historical perspective and societal shifts around kinks to diving deep into the non-sexual perks of being or dating a kinkster, this episode is all about demystifying and celebrating the kink community. Plus, the "Only Whispers" segment addresses real listener questions, providing thoughtful insights into navigating kinks in relationships.Highlights:Taylor Swift's Melbourne Takeover: A brief but lively discussion on the impact of Taylor Swift's concert in Melbourne and its connection to embracing one's true self.Kink 101: An exploration of what kinks are, their possible genetic links, and the shift from being considered a mental illness to a recognized aspect of human sexuality.Non-Sexual Perks of Dating a Kinkster: A rundown on why dating a kinkster can be an enriching experience beyond the bedroom, emphasizing openness, trust, and a zest for life.ONLY WHISPERS Listener Questions: Daniel and Garet tackle real listener queries, offering advice on vegan kink compromises, age honesty in dating, and interpreting signals from a gym crush.Navigating Kinks in Relationships: Insights into the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and being authentic with your partner about your desires.Featured Listener Questions:Vegan Dilemma: How to reconcile a partner's leather BDSM kink with a new vegan lifestyle.Age Authenticity in Dating: The importance of honesty about one's age on dating apps and combating ageism.Gym Crush Confusion: Deciphering mixed signals from a gym crush and the potential for heteroflexibility.Closing Thoughts:The episode wraps up with an empowering message on the importance of owning your authentic self and your kinks. Daniel and Garet encourage listeners to communicate openly about their desires, whether in a new encounter, a hookup, or a long-term relationship, highlighting that understanding and acceptance are key to fulfilling connections. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Do you wish the intoxicating world of the honeymoon phase in relationships would last longer? This episode explores the science behind why we feel so head over heels during those early days, whether this euphoric feeling lasts forever, and practical tips on keeping the love alive. Featuring personal anecdotes, a playful game of "For Love or Money," and insightful advice on maintaining communication, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand or extend their relationship's honeymoon phase. Key Takeaways:The honeymoon phase is a unique period of euphoria and intense attraction in a relationship.Communication and continuous effort are crucial in transitioning smoothly from the honeymoon phase to deeper stages of a relationship.Strategies like revisiting memorable locations, maintaining routines, and planning intimacy can help keep the spark alive.It's natural for the honeymoon phase to evolve into deeper, more meaningful stages of love and connection.Featured Game: For Love or MoneyA fun segment where we guess each other's choices in hypothetical scenarios, exploring the dynamic between love and financial decisions. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

We have a heart-to-heart with Nigel Battle, a standout personality from OutTV's hit series 'For the Love of DILFs.' Nigel, known for his vibrant energy and openness, shares his journey of self-discovery, love, and the complexities of navigating identity within the LGBTQIA+ community. Our hosts, Daniel and Garet, engage Nigel in a candid discussion that covers everything from the nuances of gay dating to the challenges and triumphs of finding genuine connections, both on and off the reality show. We also delve into Nigel's multifaceted life as a content creator and medical professional, uncovering the layers that make up his charismatic persona. This episode not only offers an insider's look at 'For the Love of DILFs' Season 2 but also touches on broader themes of self-acceptance, the pursuit of love in the modern world, and the evolving landscape of queer representation in media. "For the Love of Dilfs" is pioneering LGBTQIA+ representation in reality dating shows, moving beyond tokenism to genuine, diverse stories. Join us for an enlightening and entertaining journey that celebrates the richness of the LGBTQIA+ experience through the eyes of one of its most engaging figures. Episode Highlights:Nigel's Transformation: From struggling with self-love to becoming a confident, multifaceted creator and artist.Love's Many Faces: The hosts and Nigel discuss the challenges and triumphs of being true to oneself in the quest for love.The Reality of Reality TV: Nigel opens up about his experience on "For the Love of Dilfs," balancing authenticity with entertainment and finding love amidst the cameras.The Himbos and Daddies Dynamics: A candid conversation about labels, representation, and breaking stereotypes in the LGBTQIA+ community.Listener Q&A: Nigel offers advice on communication challenges and setting relationship boundaries.  Deep Dives:Being Yourself in Love: Nigel shares his insight on the importance of authenticity in relationships and how the gay dating scene can sometimes challenge this.The Pursuit of Love on TV: Unveiling the real emotions, challenges, and excitement behind participating in a reality dating show.Cultural Shifts: Discussing the evolution of LGBTQIA+ representation in reality TV and the significance of shows like "For the Love of Dilfs."Only Whispers: We tackle tough questions from listeners, providing raw, unfiltered advice on navigating the complexities of modern relationships. Connect with Nigel:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nigelbattlePodcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nigel-battle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nigelbattleofficial/Merch: https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheNigelBattleShop?ref=seller-platform-mcnavTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nigelbattleofficial ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Explore the fascinating realm of pheromones as Daniel and Garet discuss how these chemical signals shape sexual attraction and personal preferences. They explore everything from the role of body odors in arousal to the significance of scent in determining compatibility. The conversation also touches on personal hygiene preferences, exploring the divide between attraction to natural scents and the appeal of cleanliness. Additionally, the hosts answer listener questions in their "Only Whispers" segment, addressing topics ranging from balancing casual sex with seeking serious relationships, to fun hypotheticals about relationship superpowers, and advice on booty care.Key Topics:Introduction to Pheromones and Attraction (00:00:00): An engaging start discussing the role of pheromones in attraction, setting the tone for a deep dive into this complex topic. Read the Ivanka Savic study here.Exploring Scent Preferences (00:05:45): Delving into the varying preferences for natural scents versus artificial fragrances and the science behind these attractions.'Only Whispers' Listener Segment (00:14:00): Addressing listener queries on navigating casual sex versus serious relationships, imaginative relationship superpowers, and body care advice.Fetishes and Sensory Attractions (00:18:30): A candid discussion on personal fetishes, including a focus on armpit attraction and the sensory experience of ASMR.Wrapping Up: The Diversity of Attraction (00:19:45): Concluding thoughts on the unique and diverse ways we experience attraction, emphasizing the complexity of human relationships and desires. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Let's get into the nuances of being "openly gay" and how language shapes LGBTQ+ identity. Host's Daniel and Garet dissect the term's implications, weigh its historical context, and its evolving significance in 2024. The episode also features the popular segment "Only Whispers," addressing listener queries on deepening first-date conversations, navigating dating apps, and a lively discussion on RuPaul's Drag Race Season 16 series. This episode not only questions the language we use in the LGBTQ+ community but also celebrates the progress and representation achieved so far. Key Discussions:The Openly Gay Debate: Delving into the cultural and linguistic implications of the term "openly gay," this discussion offers a fresh perspective on identity within the LGBTQ+ community.Media's Role in LGBTQ+ Language: An insightful examination of how media representation shapes public perception and the language surrounding LGBTQ+ identities.Navigating First Dates: Practical advice on weaving deeper, more authentic connections into first-date conversations, moving beyond the superficial to genuine engagement.The Digital Dating Dilemma: Exploring the complexities of forming real connections in the era of dating apps, highlighting the unique challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community.RuPaul's Drag Race Season 16 Review: A fun and spirited discussion, rating the contestants of RuPaul's Drag Race Season 16, showcasing diverse talents and personalities.Global LGBTQ+ Perspectives: Comparing LGBTQ+ experiences across different cultures and countries, highlighting the varied challenges and triumphs globally. Chapters:[00:00]: Openly Gay Debate (00:00:00)[08:45]: Global Perspectives and Media Influence (00:08:45)[14:45]: Only Whispers: Listener Questions (00:14:45)[19:00]: RuPaul's Season 16 Series Rate A Queen (00:19:00)  ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Explore the intricate dynamics of rumors and outside noise through the lens of 'Real Housewives of Salt Lake City' and Ariana Grande's latest hit "yes, and?". The episode dissects how public perception and unsolicited opinions can affect personal and professional lives, especially within the LGBTQ+ community. The discussion includes an in-depth analysis of 'Yes, And?', listener questions on relationship dynamics and financial management, and strategies for embracing authenticity and resilience. Key Topics:Reality TV and Public PerceptionEmpowerment and Self-Advocacy in MusicNavigating Personal RelationshipsFinancial Harmony in RelationshipsAuthenticity and Resilience in the LGBTQ+ Community Chapters:[00:00] Insightful breakdown of 'Real Housewives' finale and its implications[14:30] In-depth lyric analysis of Ariana Grande's 'Yes, And?' [21:00] Alex's question on first-date strategies[23:30] Sam's exploration of new bedroom dynamics [26:00] Amanda's challenge in merging finances with her partner ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Deep dive into the complexities and subtleties of interpersonal interactions. Hosts Daniel and Garet share their personal experiences and insights, tackling the challenges of miscommunication, the detrimental effects of playing the blame game, and the crucial balance of maintaining individuality while fostering a thriving sexual and emotional bond in a relationship. They discuss the impact of multilingual abilities on understanding, the role of family and childhood experiences in shaping communication styles, and provide practical strategies for breaking negative patterns. The episode also features a listener engagement segment, 'Only Whispers,' addressing real-life queries about relationship dynamics.This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to enhance their communication skills, deepen their relationships, and navigate the intricate dance of intimacy and individuality in the modern LGBTQIA+ context. Key Topics:The Art of Communication: Multilingual abilities and their role in understanding. The impact of tone, inflection, and empathy in communication.The Blame Game: Real-life scenarios illustrating the difference between blame and accountability. Insights from certified sex therapist Todd Barats on the power dynamics in blaming.Maintaining Individuality in Relationships: Balancing personal needs with those of your partner. The importance of not losing oneself in a relationship.Navigating Sexual Intimacy: Open discussions about sexual expectations. The concept of negotiating intimacy and physical affection.Family Influences and Childhood Experiences: How upbringing shapes communication and relationship patterns. Recognizing and breaking repetitive negative patterns.Listener Segment - Only Whispers: Addressing listener queries on diverse relationship issues. Chapters:[00:00] Communication in Relationships[05:00] Blame vs. Accountability inspired by Todd Barats' insights.[10:00] Maintaining Self in a Relationship[15:00] Sexual Intimacy and Negotiation[20:00] Only Whispers Listener Segment  ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

We explore the Ins and Outs of 2024, share our personal resolutions and introduce a new segment that we'll feature in every episode in Season 2 of Modern Gays for 2024. Our unique blend of humor, insight, and audience engagement makes this episode a must-listen for those interested in LGBTQ+ culture, lifestyle, and relationships. Daniel and Garet share their personal growth goals and resolutions, reflecting on the lessons from 2023 and setting an optimistic tone for the new year. The episode also dives into community trends for 2024, featuring insights from "Out Magazine." Don't miss our new weekly segment, "Only Whispers", which adds a dynamic and interactive element, addressing your burning questions on dating, relationships, and lifestyle choices! Key Moments:Introduction to the new season's energy and reflections on 2023Out Magazine's list of what's not to bring into 2024, including a humorous take on George Santos and Elon Musk's TwitterLGBTQ+ representation in media and the call for longer series durationsPersonal outtakes like brown rice, alcohol-centric gatherings, and late-night phone scrollingIntroduction of the "Only Whispers" segment, where we answer hot topics and provocative questions Chapters:[00:00]: 2023 Reflections[05:30]: New Year Resolutions and Personal 'Ins' for 2024[12:00]: Community Trends and 'Out Magazine's' List[20:00]: Only Whispers – Your Burning Questions Answered ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

We're Daniel and Garet, your hosts of Modern Gays. We lead conversations on LGBTQ+ culture, lifestyle, sex, and relationships. We're your knowledgeable gay besties, leading the way through our vibrant world together. From spotlighting influential figures in our community, engaging in expert interviews, to keeping you informed about the latest in media and advocacy – we approach each episode with charisma, uniqueness, nerve, and talent. We're here to explore, educate, and entertain. Whether untangling complex issues or spilling some juicy gossip, we go in deep. Our special segment, "Only Whispers,"  turns your questions into rich, engaging dialogues, making you a part of our show.We're not just hosts; we're advocates, storytellers, and allies in building the vibrant life you want by being your most authentic self.  Listen to new episodes of Modern Gays every Tuesday. Come along as we explore, celebrate, and empower not just our community but each and every one of you! ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

In this episode, we're diving into the vibrant and imaginative world of Gag City, inspired by Nicki Minaj's "Pink Friday 2" album. We discuss how Gag City has become a symbol of inclusivity and LGBTQ+ pride, igniting a resurgence on platforms like Twitter. We also tackle the shift in digital spaces, examining the decline of Gay Twitter and how Threads is emerging as a new haven for community building. This episode is a mix of pop culture deep dive, digital community analysis, and reflections on the future of online interaction. Whether you're a Barb, a tech enthusiast, or someone passionate about LGBTQ+ issues, this episode has something for everyone. Key Discussion Points:Nicki Minaj's Pink Friday 2 album and the creation of Gag City.The rise and fall of gay Twitter and its cultural impact.The emergence of Threads as a new platform for the LGBTQ+ community.The significance of language and AI in shaping digital communities.Personal reflections on social media and the importance of safe spaces online. Timestamped Highlights:[00:00:30] Introduction to Gag City and its significance.[00:10:00] The impact of Nicki Minaj's album cover on gay Twitter.[00:14:30] The decline of gay Twitter with the rise of X (formerly Twitter).[00:21:30] Exploring Threads as a potential new home for the LGBTQ+ community.[00:26:00] The role of AI and evolving language in digital community building.[00:27:00] Wrapping up Season 1 and looking forward to Season 2. Quotes and Key Takeaways:"Gag City represents a utopian society of inclusivity and LGBTQ+ pride.""The evolution of digital platforms reflects the changing needs of communities.""Embracing change and technology is key to staying relevant and connected." ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Join us as we navigate the often misunderstood and under-explored territory of heteroflexibility. In a society increasingly embracing the fluid spectrum of sexuality, this episode offers a deep dive into the heart of what it means to identify outside traditional labels. We bring personal anecdotes, cultural insights, and a touch of humor to demystify and celebrate the complexities of sexual identity. Whether you're well-versed in LGBTQ+ topics or new to the conversation, this episode provides a fresh perspective on the evolving landscape of human sexuality. Key Discussion Points:Defining Heteroflexibility: How it differs from bisexuality and bicuriosity.Personal experiences and observations of heteroflexibility.The controversy and criticism surrounding heteroflexibility.Comparing heteroflexibility and homoflexibility.The evolving nature of sexual identity labels in 2024.Celebrity influences on perceptions of sexual fluidity.The importance of open discussions about sexual identity. Timestamped Highlights:[00:15] Introduction to Heteroflexibility[09:30] Sexual identity labels and their implications[15:15] Controversies around the concept[22:00] Embracing self-discovery in sexual identity ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Thank you for being a part of our journey. We only have two more episodes planned for this year, and are releasing  lots of exciting episodes in Season 2 launching January 2nd!  Timestamps:[02:00]: The Evolution of "Modern Gays"[03:15]: Top Episodes and Why They Resonated[13:15]: Highlighting Memorable Interviews [16:00]: Answering Listener Questions:[19:00]: Most Fun Moments of 2023 Featured Episodes:"Am I the Drama? Am I the Villain?""Unapologetically Standing Tall""Pride Unveiled""Finding Home: Queer Insights on Home Design and Numerology""Booty Care 101""We Got Ghosted""Your Era and You""Exes and Ohs!" ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

We chat about the significance of being honest, owning it, and the art of moving on. Explore these themes through personal anecdotes, reflections on family dynamics, and parallels drawn from "The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills." The conversation underscores the importance of honesty in personal growth and relationships, especially within the LGBTQIA+ community. Topics Discussed:The balance between honesty and empathy in relationships.How family upbringing influences one's approach to honesty.The contrast between characters like Erika Jane and Sutton on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills in handling honesty.The role of authenticity in LGBTQIA+ experiences.Strategies for owning one's truth and the impact on self-confidence.The psychological and emotional benefits of resolving conflicts and moving on. Chapters:[00:15] Importance of honesty in personal relationships[02:30] Challenges and rewards of being authentic[03:00] The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills as a metaphor for conflict resolution[10:30] Empathy and honesty in various aspects of life[15:30] Comparing different approaches to conflict resolution[17:00] Practical tips on owning your truth[20:45] Moving on and resolution under challenging conversations[26:00] Embracing authenticity for personal fulfilment ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Hosts Daniel and Garet, along with special guest Love Daddy Trev, dive deep into the complexities of sparks, chemistry, and building lasting connections. They explore the nature of the "spark" in relationships, the evolution of attraction, and the significance of maintaining individuality and communication within a partnership. Join Mod Squad for exclusive content, episode deep dives and more resources. Subscribe for free or support the show with a paid membership. Visit our website at moderngays.co for more info! ––– Topics Discussed: Understanding the Spark: What is the spark in a relationship, and is it necessary for a lasting connection? The discussion sheds light on how sparks and chemistry play a role in the initial stages of a relationship and their evolution over time.Physical Attraction vs. Emotional Connection: Insights into the balance between physical attraction and deep emotional bonds. The importance of shared values, respect, and mutual interests as foundations for a healthy relationship.Maintaining Individuality: The critical role of preserving one's identity and individuality within a relationship, and how this contributes to a stronger, more meaningful bond.Communication and Connection: The significance of open communication, especially in discussing desires and expectations, and how it fuels the relationship's growth.Dealing with Changes in a Relationship: How changes in physical appearance, identity, or life circumstances test and potentially strengthen a partnership.Advice for Singles: For those navigating the dating world, understanding the importance of giving chances, and not being hindered by high expectations or fear of change. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

In this heartening episode of Modern Gays, we delve deep into the emotional and practical aspects of IVF and surrogacy for LGBTQ+ families. Joined by our insightful guests, Richard Westoby and Julio Gaggia of IVF Daddies, we explore the highs and lows of creating a family, discussing everything from choosing the right IVF clinic and surrogacy agency to the legal intricacies involved. This episode is not just a guide; it's a beacon of hope and understanding for anyone on or considering this path. Join Mod Squad for exclusive content, episode deep dives and more resources. Subscribe for free or support the show with a paid membership. Visit our website at moderngays.co for more info!––– Topics Discussed: Choosing the Right Clinic and Agency: The importance of 'checking the vibe' and ensuring you feel comfortable and supported by your medical team.Understanding the Process: A detailed look at the IVF cycle, the role of egg donors, and the significance of genetic screening.Legal Considerations: Navigating the complex legal landscape, including differences in laws between countries and states, and the importance of having a will and legal documents in place.Emotional Resilience: Tips for managing the emotional rollercoaster of IVF and surrogacy, including building a strong support system and maintaining open communication with professionals.Building a Connection: The unique relationships between egg donors and surrogates, including open and known donor arrangements.Parenting and Identity: Embracing the identity of being a parent, irrespective of the journey to get there.Health and Lifestyle Tips: Insights into how lifestyle choices, like diet and clothing, can impact sperm quality. Links: IVF Daddies Podcast and InstagramDr Sandy Chuan @ San Diego Fertility Center ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

Today's episode dives into the intricate dance of introducing your partner to your family and friends, a pivotal moment for many in the LGBTQ+ community. We explore the nuances of making a good first impression, handling potential conflicts, and the importance of post-meeting reflections. Meeting the family or friends of your partner can be a mix of anxiety and excitement, but it's a journey worth navigating for the growth and depth it adds to a relationship. Join Mod Squad for exclusive content, episode deep dives and more resources. Subscribe for free or support the show with a paid membership. Visit our website at moderngays.co for more info! Key Points Discussed: Prep Talk: The significance of a 'prep talk' before meeting the family, setting expectations, and understanding cultural nuances.First Encounters: Strategies for smooth conversations and showing respect for family culture and traditions.Meeting Friends and Chosen Family: Understanding the protective nature of friends and the dynamics of chosen family.Holiday Gatherings: The challenges and expectations of introducing partners during holiday events like Thanksgiving. And... alternative celebrations for those who may not spend holidays with their biological family, such as Friendsgiving or gaycations.Debriefing: The crucial role of debriefing post-meeting, discussing feelings, and addressing any uncomfortable moments. Ensuring open, honest communication to strengthen trust and understanding within the relationship. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet

In this spooktacular episode, Daniel and Garet dive into the transformative energy of Scorpio season and its impact on the LGBTQ+ community. They also explore why Halloween is often referred to as "Gay Christmas." Plus, celebrity astrologer Kyle Thomas shares his insights on what to expect this Scorpio season. Listen to the full Scorpio Season clip by Kyle Thomas on our Modern Gays website here. Join Mod Squad for exclusive content, episode deep dives and more resources. Subscribe for free or support the show with a paid membership. Visit our website at moderngays.co for more info! Highlights:The transformative energy of Scorpio season and its impact on the LGBTQ+ community.Why Halloween is often referred to as "Gay Christmas."Special horoscope updates for each Zodiac sign.A conversation with celebrity astrologer Kyle Thomas.Personal stories and reflections on Halloween parties and costumes. What You'll Learn:How Scorpio season affects your emotional and mental state.The history and significance of Halloween in the LGBTQ+ community.How to navigate Scorpio season with intention and authenticity.What the stars have in store for you this Scorpio season. Links & Resources:Kyle Thomas Astrology: Website | Patreon | InstagramFollow us on Instagram and Twitter: @moderngaysVisit our website. ___LINKS:Follow us on Instagram, TikTok and X.Join the Gayborhood free newsletter or paid membership for bonus episode content.Read more about every episode on our website.___SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! xx Daniel and Garet