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Raising Future HEALTHY Adults with Elizabeth Pehrson (Episode 296)   Hebrews 12:11 NIV “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”   *Transcription Below*   Elizabeth Pehrson is a speaker, podcaster and founder of The Exchange. She's a yellow sanguine, who is full of energy and lives life wide-open! She loves Jesus and meaningful connections. Elizabeth is married to David and mother of EIGHT children, who range from high school to graduated from college.   Follow her online:  Instagram: @long_game_parenting or @octomama or @theexchangeus Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elizabeth.m.pehrson   Thank you to Our Sponsor: WinShape Marriage   Questions and Topics We Cover: What are a handful of habits in the home that you see as most essential for families so that they all can experience a joyful life together? What natural consequences and strategic discipline can you offer as ideas for teens living at home? As parents, what else can we do now to help our kids reach maturity and independence as adults?   Previous Guests from The Savvy Sauce Episode Mentioned: 74 Effective Parenting for Toddlers Through College with Wife, Mother to 8, and The Exchange Founder, Elizabeth Pehrson Part 1  75 Responding to God's Stirring with Elizabeth Pehrson, Founder of The Exchange, Part Two Inspiring Perspective in Parenting with Kay Wyma (Episode 164) Stories of God's Upside Down Economy with Kristen Welch (Episode 174)   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:00 – 0:11) ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (0:12 - 1:18) ‍ ‍ Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here. ‍ ‍ I'm thrilled to introduce you to our sponsor, WinShape Marriage. Their weekend marriage retreats will strengthen your marriage, while you enjoy the gorgeous setting, delicious food, and quality time with your spouse. To find out more, visit them online at winshapemarriage.org slash savvy. ‍ ‍ My returning guest for today is Elizabeth Pehrson, and if possible, we are going to get even more practical than we did last week, as we're going to discuss ways to actually enjoy parenting, while simultaneously preparing our children to launch as faithful and healthy adults someday. ‍ ‍ Here's our chat. ‍ ‍ Welcome back again to The Savvy Sauce, Elizabeth. I'm so excited to be here. ‍ ‍ This is fun. It's always a joy to get a chat with you, and we're going to go even more practical today, but do you mind sharing some disclaimers about that first? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (1:32 - 1:57) ‍ ‍ Not at all. You know, when I was growing up, I grew up in the church, and I really looked at "train up a child in the way he should go, and when he's old, he will not depart from it," as a promise. And it really is a principle. And so as much as we want it to be A plus B equals C, it's not always that way. There are certain principles that we are to follow and God's asked us to, and so I think we need to focus on that and leave the rest to him. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (1:57 - 2:28) ‍ ‍ That's so good. So, keeping that in mind, but then also hearing wise tips that we can hopefully implement. How do you think we can teach our children the importance of reciprocity, such as encouraging them to ask other people questions rather than just focusing the conversation on themselves, or encouraging them to do chores around the house, rather than just expecting their parents to do all the work or over function for them? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (2:29 - 6:07) ‍ ‍ Oh, yeah, this one's right up my alley. I love this question so much. John F. Kennedy, you know, gave his famous speech, "ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country." And I think in the same way, we want each family member to ask not what can you do for me, but what can I do for the family. And we believe that wholeheartedly. ‍ ‍ And so, because of that, we started assigning age-appropriate chores at the age of three. And they have a chore every single day of the week, except for Sunday, even when they're busy, even when they have baseball, football, lacrosse, didn't matter what it was. We have this whiteboard in our home. And it's like the motherboard of all things in our family. And it's got on the top part of it, it has our calendar appointments, practices, games, meetings, you know, meals for the week, like everything you can imagine that it takes to run our family is at the top part. And then the second part of the whiteboard, we have a section that says, “because we clothe and feed you, and then it has their names underneath that. ‍ ‍ And so, when they leave for school, I look at the calendar, I look at everything that needs to be gotten done that day or that week for the family. And then I delegate it to each of the children. And so, I would assign them each a chore. And so, when they would get home from school, it was right there where they would walk in and put their backpacks down and they knew to look at their chore. And they knew that it had to be finished before dinner. And it made it so easy because there was no nagging, there was no reminding, there was no, you know, begging them to do it and following up, it was just so much a part of each of their day, just like going to school or brushing their teeth, it was something they knew they had to do. ‍ ‍ And in addition to that, in our home, when our children turn eight, we have this rule that you are no longer a consumer, but you are a contributor. So, at the age of eight, they have to start doing all their own laundry, washing their own sheets, and lots of other substantially harder chores. And then at nine, they have to start mowing the yard, they start cooking and things that actually really contribute to the family as a whole. ‍ ‍ And, you know, in the last episode, I talked a lot about modeling for our kids, you know, what we want them to learn. And as far as the, you know, talking about asking important, I mean, having them ask questions and reciprocity, it's the same thing as to you have to model it, right? You have to model that for your children. And so let them hear you ask the cashier how her day's going, you know, even if it embarrasses them, or, you know, how you speak to the waiter or the waitress, let them see you notice the neighbor struggling with something in their yard. Like let them watch you thank their father for taking the car to get the oil changed or taking the trash out just simple things like that. You know, something that our mentors taught us that we implemented with our children right away. ‍ ‍ And this was I cannot emphasize the impact that this had on our children enough. But when somebody anybody, but particular an adult asked you a question, you look them in the eyes, you answered their question. And then you responded with a question, you ask them a question that was a game changer. I can't tell you how many bus drivers, teachers, coaches said, “I've never had a student asked me how my weekend was.” I've never once, when they get on the bus asked me, ”How am I doing today? How was my day?” ‍ ‍ And again, it's not for any like praise or anything like that. But my point is, it's so countercultural that it stands out. And it's so important to have your children learn from a young age what it looks like to look an adult in the eye and ask her a question. If they can't do that, when they're older, they'll never be able to advocate for themselves. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (6:08 - 6:21) ‍ ‍ I love all things countercultural. I think because a lot of times it does point back to Jesus, just even somebody experiencing that and having a wow factor. Ultimately, it's because the goodness of the Lord that they've just experienced. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (6:22 - 6:23) ‍ ‍ Absolutely, absolutely. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (6:23 - 6:38) ‍ ‍ So, do you have maybe a handful of habits in the home that you see as most essential for families so that everyone living there can enjoy and experience a joyful life together? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (6:40 - 9:00) ‍ ‍ Oh, I'm sure that we do. I think joy in a home is rarely accidental. It's cultivated, it's intentional. And I would just say, ask what brings your family joy, and then do more of that. It's most likely going to be different for everybody. And I can only speak for us. But what we loved, what we did, family dinners around the dinner table were non-negotiable. ‍ ‍ There were seasons around the dinner table, that part was negotiable, because there were seasons, like we had four boys playing football. And so, we would have practices five nights a week and four games on Saturday. And so, we would take the dinner to the ballpark, and we would literally sit there as a family, because I wasn't going to constantly never have family dinner just for the six months in the fall, or winter, or whatever. But we used dinner time to ask intentional questions, to laugh, to tell stories. We joked, we role-played, that was a big one for us. ‍ ‍ Just as a family, we would do that together. And probably the best thing that we did, and the thing that we still do, is we make things fun. We play games, really fun ones. Not that board games aren't fun, those are fun. But instead of, our kids are grown now, and for Easter, they will all come home, and I will have created games out of Easter eggs with all different types. Not going to find them, but just different types. I'll line up 20 Easter eggs with different colors, and then the first person, they get 10 seconds to look at it. And then the first person that can replicate it with those colors. Things like that, what was in the Easter eggs, questions, that kind of stuff. ‍ ‍ One year, we did an Easter egg hunt, where we tied two people together. One was on the back, and the one below was blindfolded. So, the one on the back had to tell them where to go, and what to do. Or we leg-tied their legs together. Just things to make it creative or fun. At Christmas, we always play reindeer games. It's my kids' favorite thing that we do. We've often gotten in inflatables, and we've done an Easter egg hunt that way, where everyone's wearing these huge inflatables, or we play a kickball game. And that was our Christmas card this last year. But just anything that wants to make them want to participate, right? Want to have them want to come home. So that's what I would say. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (9:01 - 9:18) ‍ ‍ I love it. And I don't remember the direct quote. It was from Bob Goff. But just saying how the more outlandish it is, or the more that you add variety or break from the norms, that's what they're going to remember. So, I'm sure your kids have incredible memories of all those holidays. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (9:19 - 9:19) ‍ ‍ Yes. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (9:20 - 9:38) ‍ ‍ I hope so, anyway. Oh, I'm sure that we'll have to steal some of those. But do you also have any stories to share for the payoff now that you're experiencing? Because when your children were little, you started them off with focusing on chores and hard work. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (9:38 - 9:39) ‍ ‍ How long do you have? ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (9:40 - 9:42) ‍ ‍ Give everything you got. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (9:42 - 14:13) ‍ ‍ Okay. Chores for children when they are young, it has proven to be the single biggest indicator of success when they're older. Hands down. Chores, specifically hard chores, they teach your kids responsibility. They teach them resourcefulness. It instills in them confidence. It instills in them capability. It instills in them competence. And I could give you example, after example, after example of how I've seen this payoff for my children. And I would say even in some ways, more importantly, how I have seen it negatively impact their friends, whose parents did not require them to work at home when they were younger. ‍ ‍ I remember my oldest son went off to college, and he called me after orientation and he's a man of few words, doesn't say thank you very often. And he said, "Mom, I have to tell you something." And I said, "What?" And he said, "You know, this is a pretty hard school to get into. And the people are competent. They're smart." He said, "I have never in my life seen a group of individuals that are so incapable of doing anything for themselves." He's like, "We're standing in line to get our, what's the ID, you know, their picture taken." He said, "Kid after kid on their phone. Hey, I don't, I don't have a credit card. I don't have a debit card. I don't know how to do this." He said, "I mean, and then he gets to college and it's like, they don't know how to get their oil changed. They don't know how to, you know, make their own doctor's appointment." And he thanked me. He's like, "I'm sorry. I resisted it when I was younger, but I just want to say thank you." ‍ ‍ And, you know, my daughter Libby called me one day and she said, "Mom, you know, you're not going to believe this." And I said, "What?" And so, she tells me of the story of her roommate, and her roommate had not left campus in six weeks. And so, she asked her, she said, "Hey, I thought you had a car here." And she said, "I do." And she said, "Well, why don't you ever leave?" And she said, "Well, I don't have gas." And she said, "Well, do you need money?" And she said, "Well, no, I don't need money." You know, she said, "I thought maybe you needed gas money." She said, "No." And she said, "Well, then what's going on?" She goes, "I've never put gas in my car." And that's not a chore, but that is a basic skill. Think about that, dropping your child off to college with a car and never having shown them or made them get their own gas. ‍ ‍ And then she called me a couple of weeks later. And she said to me, "Mom, did you know it's possible not to know how to hand wash dishes?" And I said, "Well, that's not possible. What are you talking about?" She said, "Well, she was just buying new dishes, plastic dishes. She was buying them because she didn't know how to wash them." And so, she said, "I said to her, hey, like you can just wash your dishes." She goes, "We don't have a dishwasher." And she said, "So I had to show her how to use soap and water to wash her own dishes." I mean, I could go on and on and on. ‍ ‍ I mean, I have another daughter that went off to college, and we were at the very first day moving them in and the mom was barking orders, telling everyone what to do. And after about 10 minutes, I was like, I went outside in the hallway, and I just sat down and removed myself. And her husband looks at me and he goes, "Wow, you learned quickly." And I said, "What does that mean?" And he said, "Get out of her way and let her do it." And I said, "Well, what about your daughter?" He goes, "Oh, she's never done anything for herself. She does everything for her." ‍ ‍ We got in the car to go home. And I just said to my husband, I said, "It's going to be really hard for our daughter because this girl's never done anything for themselves." I mean, I could give you story, after story, after story, but you know, when you require your children to put in hard work when they're really young, you know, they don't panic when life requires effort. Later on, they aren't entitled to comfort. They aren't entitled to other people doing things for them. You know, they know how to contribute, you know, wherever they land, whether it's in a dorm room, a house or, you know, college house or beyond, you know, my kids joke with me. They were like, "Mom, this can be a gift or a curse knowing how to do everything." And I said, "Well, what do you mean?" They're like, "Well, nobody else knows how to do everything. And they know that we do. So, they just want us to do it." And I was like, "Sorry about that. You know, sorry, you have to take care of it." ‍ ‍ But again, it's like, we are trying to train our kids up for independence, not to be dependent on us. And they go off to college or they graduate college, and they're already going to have first, like so many first being away from home, sleeping with a stranger in their same room, your dorm room, like so many things are going to have to navigate. And then do you want them to have to figure out how to do laundry, how to do dishes, how to I mean, no, it's like, wow, chores instill that. And then when they're really young. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (14:14 - 14:23) ‍ ‍ So, did you and your husband sit down and map out everything that you wanted them to know? Or how did you come up with these chores? And what are some more examples? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (14:24 - 16:09) ‍ ‍ Oh, yeah. And it's so interesting. It's so interesting, because I thought about this when I was thinking about our time together. But there's a book that we read. Well, there's a couple of books that we read that were pretty impactful. But one of them was called Cleaning House by Kate Wills Weima. And so, her 12 things, the idea of the book is to think about all the things you want to know your children know how to do and know how to do well when they leave home. And then you take one month and you just focus on that, that specific thing. And so, we sat down and her 12 things weren't our 12 things. Some of them were, but some of them were not. And so, we just did month after month after month of wanting them to know exactly, you know, how to do these things, you know, when we're grown, or when they're grown. And so we did that. ‍ ‍ But I mean, my husband, anytime he was working on the lawnmower, anytime he was doing anything in the yard, he gathered the boys around like, "Hey, boys, come on," and he was trying to show them or fixing the toilet or deal, you know, whatever it might have been. And I would do the same thing, whether it was in the garden, or whether it was in the kitchen, or whether it was outside with yard work, whatever, just to gather them around and involve them because they don't know. I mean, it's not their fault, but they won't know unless we show them. ‍ ‍ And one of the things I love is that the earlier you start showing them and training them up in these chores, and in this yard work, and in managing a home, the longer you have at home to train them up to do it well. But a lot of people think, oh, they're too young, or I'll just wait until they're older. Well, truth is, by the time they're 16, you really have very limited time with them. Very limited. And you're like, "Oh, when am I going to do that?" You know, they're at their sports, they're at school things, they're driving, they're with friends. And so, it's like, the earlier you can start the better. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (16:11 - 16:22) ‍ ‍ So good, even I'm thinking we could even involve our kids in what else have we not thought of that you want to learn how to do because it really is a gift to be trained and to take that time. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (16:23 - 16:32) ‍ ‍ I mean, and that kind of goes back to what we've talked about last time, you know, just being lifelong learners and curious, like, I don't know how to do this. But let's figure it out together. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (16:33 - 16:44) ‍ ‍ Well, and I'm going to also link to a previous episode, I did interview Kay on that book. But do you remember the other one that you also read related to it? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (16:44 - 20:24) ‍ ‍ Oh, yes, there was a season where there's actually two of them. But there is a season where my focus and my priority was riding entitlement from my children. I meet with moms all the time. And they're like, "My children are so spoiled." And I'm like, "Well, just I'm curious who spoils them." You know, and it really does start with us. It stems with us, even if it's the ones where moms will say, "Well, I mean, I don't give them that brand new thing, but their grandmother does." Well, technically, you're the gatekeeper of what comes in and out of your home, you can allow it or not allow it, you can say to them, "You know what, they don't need the newest iPad, they don't need the newest Lululemon or whatever. I want to, I want you to offer an experience with them, you know, something different, something like that, you can control that." But there was a season where that's all I saw. And I saw it in my children's hearts as well. And so, I read the book How to Raise Grateful Children in an Entitled World. And then I also read the book 7 by Jen Hatmaker long time ago, a lot of our philosophies have changed. But back in the day, long time ago, it was an entitlement, it said an experiment against a mutiny against excess. And so, it was another challenge we did, like we did the 12-month challenge from Kay's book, we did a seven-month challenge from her book, and we took seven areas where we have so much excess, and we stripped it down one month at a time. And I'm telling you, it was hard, not only because our children didn't want to do it, but it was hard for me, particularly the month of technology. I mean, you're talking no TV, no cell phone, no, I mean, other than phone calls, you know, no scrolling, none of that, no podcast, no, you couldn't use it just for a month just to have stillness, quiet. I mean, it was crazy hard. But then we noticed that the puzzles started coming out and coloring started coming out and creativity started coming out, you know, it requires 15 minutes of boredom, boredom for creativity to set in. And I would say the creativity did set in, and it was unbelievable. ‍ ‍ One month, we only allowed we got to choose, but we picked seven foods. That's all you could eat for one month. When you went out, that's all you could choose from. It was so hard. It was unbelievable. But what caught me so strongly was in her book, she starts out by saying she had three young children at home, and she was adopting two children from Ethiopia. And she had already been over to visit them twice. And they were literally starving to death. And you know, her heart just wanted them home. But because of all the logistics, she couldn't get them here yet. And she said one day she made fish sticks for her kids. And then she went up to go switch laundry. She came back down a few minutes later, and she saw all the fish in the trash can. And she was like, "What in the world?" So, she asked them, she said, "Did y'all not eat?" They're like, "We did." And she said, "Well, I just saw the fish sticks in the trash can." And they're like, "We didn't have ketchup." She's like, "You just threw away five pounds of fish, you know, whatever it was, because you didn't have ketchup. Yet we have two other children across the world that would give anything to have those fish sticks." And I was like, "I see that with my children. It's like, I don't want that. Or I don't care for that. Or that clothing, I'd rather something else." And so, for one month, they only could wear seven articles of clothing total. That's it. And it's crazy, because you think everyone's looking at you like, "Why are you wearing the same thing every single day?" No one even cares what you're doing. But it just changed your whole mindset and perspective. So, entitlement was a big one for us. And those two books were super helpful with that. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (20:25 - 20:28) ‍ ‍ Well, and even it sounds like a version of fasting. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (20:29 - 20:53) ‍ ‍ Oh, absolutely. I mean, we've told our kids all you know, since they were young, it doesn't matter what it is. Whatever you can't fast from owns you. It does, whatever that is. And so, some months the food was harder for others for some month, the clothing was harder, the girls, the clothing was harder. You know, the boys could care less for some month, it was a technology, but it's like whatever it is, it's got a stronghold in your heart. That's what owns you. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (20:54 - 23:23) ‍ ‍ And now a brief message from our sponsor. ‍ ‍ Friends, I'm excited to share with you today's sponsor, WinShape Marriage. Do you feel like you need a weekend away with your spouse and a chance to grow in your relationship together at the same time? 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For any of the other parents who are also exhausted and maybe don't know what consequences to utilize as they seek to influence their children, what are some natural consequences and strategic discipline that you've offered before or that you can think of, especially with teens in the home? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (23:25 - 27:02) ‍ ‍ Yeah. Discipline basically means to disciple, and so we're training our kids up. We can't expect them just to know it on their own and intuitively think, that's not a wise choice, so I shouldn't make it. We're here because they need us. God entrusted them to us. But I love that you said consequences, because that's really the way I choose to look at discipline, because childhood is meant to be training ground for independence. ‍ ‍ Natural consequences, in my opinion, are the best way to do that, because I think consequences should connect directly to their choices, to my choices, because as we tell them, every single choice you make, every single one has a consequence, good or bad. You're going to have a consequence. You reap what you do, so therefore it is so important to acknowledge and recognize what you choose. Not my response to it, but to what you choose. ‍ ‍ You oversleep an alarm, which is, you know, middle schoolers and high schoolers are known to do. You oversleep the alarm, you experience the discomfort of being late, whether that's missing the whole day because you as the mom are busy doing other things, or you're at work, or maybe you just missed that test the first period and you can then drive yourself to school, but you have to suffer that consequence. I'm not going to rescue you from that, or you know, you forget to bring in a project that you have worked on for days and days and days and days, and you forget to bring it in. Your grade will reflect that. That is a natural consequence. ‍ ‍ I had a son, I won't name him, but I had a son that chose to make the decision to cheat on a chemistry test, and the teacher called me and said, in high school, AP, and said, "You know, he's a great student, he made a poor choice, he didn't study, he's busy with football," and she said, "So I'm going to let him retake it," and I said, "No, he chose to make that decision. Please fail him like you would do any other student. I do not want him to ever, ever, ever consider doing this again," and she goes, "Well, it might be on his transcript." I said, "Okay, so be it, but I'm more interested in his long-term character and who he's becoming than I am about his AP chemistry score. I'm more interested in that," so the natural consequences, or to give him a zero on that. ‍ ‍ You know, you have the stud athlete as a son, and they forget their cleats or their jerseys at home. Guess what? They sit out from practice. They sit out from the game that afternoon. You know, it's not going to be the end of the world. Although we think it is, they think it is, it's not. So, I try to think of discipline, you know, not as punishing, but more as preparing them for adulthood, and you know, like we talked about the other day, I encourage moms not to bail, but to let them fail. I mean, it literally could seem like the end of the world to your child, but in the grand scheme of things, it has no bearing on their life later on, but many moms treat every little thing as if, you know, but I just try to tell moms when I meet with them, your child's employer will not care what they made on a middle school project. They won't. If they forgot it and got a C, your employer, their employer will not care that they made a C on that, or maybe even an F. They will not even care what your son or your daughter's high school GPA is. They will not care if you missed that baseball game, you missed that tournament, but they will care if you are hardworking, if you're responsible, if you take ownership for your actions, and I think natural consequences are the best way to teach all of those things. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (27:03 - 27:13) ‍ ‍ Well, and I would assume if we actually follow through, it's so painful in the moment, but it probably doesn't take many times to learn that lesson. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (27:14 - 29:29) ‍ ‍ No, not at all, and particularly if you have multiple children. I remember I was giving a talk on entitlement and how we rescue our children so easily, and I was setting up, and so I was getting things out of my car, taking things back and forth into this, you know, building where I was setting up, and as I get into the back seat, I see this project that my daughter literally had been working on for two weeks, and when she got out of the car that day, she left it, and I just thought, "Oh, here I am talking about this. I can either do it, nobody will know, take it up there, but then I was like, no, what does that teach her? Mom's going to bail me out every single time," and it was like, ah, it crushed me, crushed me, but I was more interested in what's going to happen for her long term, and another thing, if you have, if you have siblings, multiple children, they can learn from each other, not just from their own personal suffering. ‍ ‍ That same daughter, I'll never forget it. She came home from school. She was in the third grade, and my kids know, like, your schoolwork is on you. It is not on me. I have already been to kindergarten. I have already been to third grade. I've already been to high school. It is on you, and I email the teachers at the beginning of the year. I just want you to know that my third-grade daughter will be doing her entire projects, schoolwork, tests, grade, everything will be her, so please, please grade her on a third grade level, because what's happening is parents are doing their projects, parents are doing their papers, all of the things, and so it's like, wow, hers looks terrible. It is on par for a third grader, though, you know, so I email the teachers at the beginning, and I let them know that they are responsible. They can choose to teach them in any way that they want, discipline them in any way they want, and my daughter came home from school one day, and she had this big thing due the next day, and she was like, "Mom, oh my goodness, I left it in my desk. Would you please email her and see if I can come in early in the morning and get it and work on it," and I said, "Sure," and all my kids were like, "You will," and so I emailed, and I said, "Dear Mrs. Prilliman, she left her, you know, her assignment in her desk. Please feel free to punish her and discipline her in any way that you see fit," and she's like, "Mom," you know, she was so upset, but the other kids are like, "Mental note, I will never do that," you know, so they can learn, you know, from each other as well, so. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (29:30 - 29:50) ‍ ‍ That is a benefit of having siblings. I love hearing those stories. That helps it sink in, but Elizabeth, also, what can we be doing while our children are still in the home in hopes of them experiencing wise financial stewardship and freedom financially when they leave home? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (29:51 - 32:34) ‍ ‍ Yeah, I'm going to be very honest. David and I were not the best at this. It's not our greatest strength, that is for sure. It is not our natural genius, and with a family of 10, money was always tight. It really was, but we didn't want our kids to feel the weight of that. We didn't want them to feel that burden, but having said that, we did teach them delayed gratification. We did teach them saving before spending, distinguishing wants from needs. That's a big difference, working for what they desire or what they wanted, and they had to participate in paying for part or all of what they wanted, and that included travel sports. I mean, you know, there were times where we had five or six in travel sports. I mean, it's thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars, and so they either had to contribute financially if they could, depending on their age, or I remember one year, my son was young, and he wanted to do it, and it was going to be $2,800, and he was very gifted in baseball, and we wanted him to have this experience, but we knew that it was going to impact the entire family because all of our kids were still young. ‍ ‍ It wasn't like we could leave them at home. Everybody would be going every single weekend to all these different places, and so we said, "Okay, we're going to sit down as a family, and we're going to talk about this," and so they agreed. They wanted him to do it. They wanted to go to all these tournaments as a family, but so we decided that we would not eat out until that was paid off, the equivalent of that was paid off, and anytime anyone wanted to like stop at McDonald's or pick up something, we're like, "Remember, we're paying for Jack's baseball," and it was a family effort, and so, you know, I mean, it could be their homecoming dress if they want something extravagant or things that were above and beyond, you know, over a roof over their head or food on the table or clothes, you know, their basic needs, but just tried to model financially real life, and we all know that just because we want something doesn't mean we get it. It doesn't work that way, and when we give our kids everything they want, I would argue that we are setting them up and sometimes their potential future spouses up for failure because I don't know if you know this, but this generation is the first generation not to have as to make as much or have as much as their previous two generations before them. ‍ ‍ Typically, we make more than our parents and our grandparents, but this is the first one not to, and that's why grown adults are still living at home, so it's like, wow, if we can model this for our kids, you know, that, hey, just because you want that extra thing doesn't mean you get it. You got to work some extra jobs. You got to pick up some extra shifts, you know, maybe ask for some money chores at home, you know, that we would offer them, but we just tried to model it for real life, but like I said, it wasn't our greatest strength. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (32:35 - 32:41) ‍ ‍ Oh, I bet even more of a strength than you realize just hearing that example. I did not know that about the generation. That's fascinating. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (32:43 - 34:15) ‍ ‍ Yeah, I mean, one of my all-time favorite, there's a TED Talk. It's old. It's like a really short one, and I'm blanking on the lady's name, but she was in college, and her dad was an attorney, and he was very affluent. They had a lot of money, and back in the day, I think this was like in the 90s, 2000s maybe, there was this new pair of jeans that were out, and they were $120, and every other pair of jeans were like 50 bucks or something, you know, 40 bucks, and so she called her dad, who could easily afford it, and said, "Dad, oh my gosh, I need a pair of these jeans. Everybody," she was in college at University of Florida. "Everybody has these jeans. I want a pair," and he goes, "Okay, well, what are you going to do to go get the money?" She's like, "Dad, come on. I know you can give it to me." He said, "No, that's not the way life works," so she happened to be in the student center, and she saw one of those little advertisements, need a house cleaner, and she's like, "My parents made me do chores. I know how to clean a house," so she pulled the little number. She went to the lady's house. She cleaned her house, got the 120 bucks, and the lady said, "Well, when are you coming back," and she said, "Oh, no, no, I just needed one pair of jeans. Like, you know, I'm not coming back," and she said, "No, you did an amazing job." Well, this girl went on to start an organization while she was in college, a business. Now, it's like on a Fortune 500 something. I don't even know, but it's called Student Maid, M-A-I-D, and she had 500 employees by the time she was a senior, and she was cleaning apartments, houses, but her dad had given her the 120 bucks because he could to get the pair of jeans, so it's like, get out there and figure it out, and so I just love that story. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (34:16 - 34:34) ‍ ‍ Wow, I love that as well, and totally different topic, but when it comes to caring for our health and our bodies, if we truly believe our bodies are a temple for God, what are ways that we can model and encourage our children to live wisely in that way? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (34:35 - 37:07) ‍ ‍ Yeah, I'm glad you said model because really that's what it comes down to. I mean, if they see us beating ourselves up, not prioritizing sleep, not moving our bodies, not eating well, you know, that's what they're going to do. I mean, it's just history has proven itself. You can look at cultures. Those that move their bodies, sleep, rest on the Sabbath, I mean, they're a healthier culture, and so all of those things, you know, eating with balance, not obsession, resting on Sundays, I mean, even in the church world, that's almost unheard of to take the Sabbath off, and I would really say, particularly if you have daughters, not that it doesn't matter for sons as well, but it really impacts daughter is speaking respectfully about the body that God has given you. ‍ ‍ I sadly see so many women talk trash about their own looks or their own appearance, their body, if I could just fix this, I wish I didn't have this, and then they expect their daughters not to do the same, you know, and so when we say, "Oh, honey, you're beautiful," they're like, "Well, you don't think you are," you know, and they see right through it. I mean, I want my daughters to be strong, not skinny, right? I want them to be healthy, not appearance driven. I want them to know that mom got up and went to the gym every morning. Mom made sure she got outside and got sunshine and got on a walk, you know, culture already put so much pressure on these young girls and their size. Oh, my goodness, it like just breaks my heart, and so the last thing they need is for us to start, you know, for striving for unattainable goals, right, that put an expectation on them and their appearance. I mean, that's the last thing that they need, and so David and I have always tried to, well, I would say we tried very, very, very, very hard to compliment their character and their effort, but never their appearance. ‍ ‍ Most of the times when you hear parents applauding and just talking about how good looking someone is, how beautiful they are, it's nothing that they did to earn. I mean, you'll hear something. My son is so tall and big and strong, and I'm like, he did nothing. God gave him that, you know, and if you happen to have a very small son like I do, and if that's what you're praising over here, what does that speak to this child? Or, you know, oh my goodness, you're so beautiful, and so we try to focus on their heart, the internal, their, you know, the stewardship of what God has given them, but never appearance. It's more taking care of the body, and we believe the important part of that is the heart and the soul. So, we just want them to have the goal of honoring the life that God entrusted to them, the body that God entrusted to them. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (37:08 - 37:21) ‍ ‍ Such wise principles, and then when we think about spiritual life as well, what wisdom can you share for parents who want to help their children cultivate a flourishing spiritual life? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (37:22 - 39:19) ‍ ‍ Well, one prayer for our children is that they would each have a faith of their own, you know, not one that's handed down, not a formula, you know, but a relationship with Jesus, and so with that in mind, we tried to focus on the heart of who Jesus is and not the rules of God. You know, we never wanted them to view God as this like scary judge, you know, with his gavel, like handing down these judgments, but a God who genuinely loves them regardless of what they do, and so we wanted that to be their own unique personal relationship, not one that looks like ours, acts like ours, you know, it's like this cookie cutter, so we encourage them just to pray naturally, not formula, you know, like formally, but we talked about God in a real casual way, like in our coming and our going, not this big Sunday conversation, you know, you have at the dinner table after church, but we wanted them to see our own dependence on God, which was every single day, and we wanted to create space for them to have their own unique personal faith, and one thing I've learned is that faith cannot be manufactured, but you can cultivate the soil where it grows, and I'll just say this really quick, in an effort to have them have a faith of their own, it was so neat, they all went to the same church, but their faith looks so differently, different from their siblings, and there was a time we had all four of them at one college in Athens, and so they're all there, and we were visiting, and I said, "Hey, well, you know, we'll go to church tomorrow morning, you know, with y'all," and they all kind of looked at me like I had three heads, and I thought, "Well, don't y'all go to church, please tell me I'll go to church," you know, that's not what they meant, they all four went to completely different churches, wow, I was mind blown, I was like, "This is the most ecumenical family I've ever met," like I was like, I had no idea that that is how different the relationships with the Lord are, as for what they were seeking in a church, and I was just so grateful for that. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (39:20 - 40:17) ‍ ‍ When was the first time you listened to an episode of The Savvy Sauce? 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You know, we had this big charging station in our kitchen, and so the kids had to put their phones there at night, and it would charge like all of them, and so we could see if the phone was not up at night, and there were some serious consequences if they broke those rules. I remember one time my daughter, after we went to bed, she snuck back downstairs and got her phone and brought it upstairs, and anyway, I kept getting these notifications come through on my iPad, and I was like, "What in the world?" Well, I didn't even realize the clouds, or it's over my head, but whatever reason, hers was beeping on mine, and so we went in there, and she had her phone under her pillow. She was texting somebody, and so when she got home from school that next day, her door was off of the hinges, and she was, you know, as a middle school girl, her privacy was so important. I was like, "You can change in the bathroom, you know, but you have shown us that you cannot earn privacy right now. You don't make the choices with it," but it is really hard. ‍ ‍ I think a lot of people, their natural inclination is just to remove it all from them, but I hesitate to encourage anyone to do that, because the truth of the matter is the world we live in is full of technology, and if you just completely say you can't have it, and the next thing you know they're 18, they go off to college or whatever the age is, and you give it to them, they haven't been in the home where you've been training them up how to manage your time with it, put, you know, limits on the time, how much you can spend on it, that kind of thing, and so it's like you're never going to outsmart your children in technology. They're already smarter than you are, but it's like how can you help them with the time management, you know, letting, talking with them about like what they're putting before their eyes on the technology, that kind of thing. The same goes for TV. You know, we would never watch something in front of our children that we would want them to think is normal ever, you know, and so it's like it's not, we don't want to normalize that. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (42:07 - 42:33) ‍ ‍ That's good, and really I'm hearing this theme, a key ingredient for everything we've discussed so far is actually a fruit of the spirit, self-control. So, knowing that discipline and self-control are actually going to lead to freedom, how can we help our children grow up to live an appropriately disciplined life? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (42:34 - 45:53) ‍ ‍ Yeah, my dad used to say this thing all the time. He would say, "The slave to the compass has the freedom of the seas. The rest must sail close to the shore," and it's so true. I mean, we have, if you want to do that, you have to come under the authority of the boat. In other words, you can't just do whatever you want on a boat and be able to sail the whole ocean. It doesn't work that way. You have to follow the captain's orders, and you have to follow the mechanisms that make the ship move, right? And so, it's like, but if you do that, if you master that, if you're a slave to the compass, to the sails, so the way the boat works, you can have the freedom of the seas. And the same is true of discipline and of self-control, right? We must exhibit that in order to have freedom. ‍ ‍ And so, when our children exhibited obedience and discipline and self-control, we then gave them more freedom, you know, more responsibilities. And then when they didn't follow instructions, like my daughter with the cell phone, you know, they didn't do what was expected of them. We pulled in the reins a little bit. Dave Ramsey, years and years ago, before I, my children were older, he shared the analogy of the rope, and I loved it because he said, you know, the more your children exhibit responsibility, making the right choices, they're being obedient, you let out that rope. And that one end, it's almost like you've got a rope around their waist. You're letting it out, letting them experience more independence. But then the second that they don't do that, you kind of rein it back in. If they make a poor choice, they stay out past their curfew, whatever it might be, you pull it back in. And so, it's a very important analogy for his family. ‍ ‍ So important though, when his oldest daughter went off to college, Rachel, you know, she goes off to college, he wraps up this beautiful gift, and it was a rope. And it was the rope with the round. And he said, and it had, he tied things on it, like she went to Tennessee, I think. So, it had like an orange thing on it. And then it had the colors of her high school and all these things that represented her life. And he said, "Hey, for 18 years, I've been holding on to this end of the rope. But now it's time I let it go. And I'm giving it to you; you're going to manage that rope all on your own." And so, it meant the world to her because they knew how important and so she put it on her doorknob in her dorm room. And every time she left and entered, she saw that, you know, that rope realizing that she was responsible for how far she let that thing out and how far she pulled that in. And so, discipline, self-discipline is huge. ‍ ‍ You know, at the end of the day, we just wanted to show our children that discipline and self-control, it isn't a restriction, right? It's the pathway to freedom. And I've got to tell you; my kids are more disciplined than I am. I mean, my two oldest sons are 26 and 25. And they set timers on their phone. And so, they literally can only and each other has the passcode so they can't even override it. They can only be on their phone for three hours a day at all for anything. And they do it during the hours where they're at work, so that they know they can't be on it anyway. I mean, it's already self-limiting. And it's like they know that this is a temptation, they don't want to waste that time. And so, and when you see a child when you train up a child and discipline, it's amazing how it spills over into other areas. You know, they both are very disciplined with how many books they read, how far they run every day. Like, I mean, they're very disciplined individuals, because I think it's contagious. You know, that just self-discipline just kind of permeates all the other areas of your life as well. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (45:54 - 46:06) ‍ ‍ And that is so encouraging, because I guess I just envision like, we're planting seeds, and we've gotten to hear a few of the seeds that you planted. And now it grows up even bigger than you could have probably ever asked or imagined. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (46:06 - 46:22) ‍ ‍ Oh, yeah. I mean, sometimes their discipline frustrates me, because like, I'll need to talk to them, and they're on like a 23-mile run, and they can't talk or, you know, like, I'll want to call them. And they're like, "Mom, I can't use my phone right now." And I'm like, "Come on," you know, but they are, they are disciplined. I just drives me crazy sometimes. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (46:23 - 46:36) ‍ ‍ Oh, I love that so much. So, Elizabeth, as parents, what else can we do now to help our kids eventually reach maturity and independence as adults? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (46:37 - 51:07) ‍ ‍ Yeah, I mean, again, I can't say it enough. Childhood is meant to be the training ground for independence. So, every single day, they are training you or you are training them. And it's like, are you training them up for independence, maturity? Are you training them up to be dependent upon you? Are you teaching them that your proximity is what keeps them safe? And it's like, okay, so we're going to make these choices when they're young, might be harder on us, because I have mom say to me all the time, you know, I mean, it's just easier when I do it. And I'm like, it is, or they're like, they'll never do a job as good as I do. They won't. But you know what, it's like, it doesn't matter. It's not about what's easy on us. It's what's best for them for the long run. ‍ ‍ So, you know, goes back to that book we talked about, but you can really just think of Kay's book, you can really think about anything that you want to know that you want them to know how to do well and reach maturity and master whatever that is. And, you know, most people, not intentionally, but subconsciously think, oh my goodness, by magic at the stroke of their 18th birthday at midnight, you know, they're just going to know how to do these things. And they don't, they don't know how to do these things. ‍ ‍ I mean, my oldest son went off to college and two weeks after he went off, I came back home and I was at Target. And I ran into this lady and who'd also dropped off her daughter. And she said to me, "How are you doing?" And I said, "I'm fine. How are you?" She goes, "I mean, are you, are you managing?" And I'm like, "Managing what?" And she's like, "Without your son." And I said, "Yes," she would help my son. She goes, "Well, I have to ask you how many times have you been up there?" And I said, "Since two weeks ago when we dropped them off?" And she said, "Yeah." And I said, "I haven't should I ask how many times you've been up there?" She was well, one time she called me because I forgot to teach her how to use her diabetic medicine. So, I had to drive and teach her how to do that. And I thought, okay, in my mind, I'm thinking that was kind of a really big deal to not know how to do. And then she said, "And then another time she called me, and she chewed me out because I didn't pack laundry detergent for her." And I thought, "Oh, you packed her stuff. She didn't do that." And she said, "Well, I mean, you know, I just was doing it for her." And she goes, "I had to tell her I did pack laundry detergent." And she said, "No, the only thing I've seen you pack are those little round things that I've seen you put in the dishwasher." Oh, no, this is what she tells me. And I was like that she's seeing you put in the dishwasher. She goes, "I had to tell her that laundry pods are made too. So, I had to go up and teach her how to do laundry." And then the third time I just missed her. So, I went up there, but I thought, wow, like we are training them to fly from us. ‍ ‍ You know, that is the ultimate goal is that they are independent, that they can leave us. But the hardest thing about it is accepting that success. If you do it well, because that's the last thing you want to do is have your child not need you anymore. Moms thrive on being needed, particularly by our children. But honestly, that is what God gave them to us for so that they can go out and launch onto their own. So, we just started training them up as soon as we possibly could on little things like solving problems or managing their own schedules. That's a big one. You shouldn't be asking them what homework do you have? What tests do you have? What paper do you have? How can I help you? Don't do that tonight because you've got to do your homework. Let them manage their own schedules. Let them set their own alarms. If they oversleep it, there is a natural consequence. So, they won't keep doing that anymore. ‍ ‍ And I mean, I had a daughter that slept through every alarm we ever set. It didn't matter how loud it was. So, I was not going to give into that. So, we literally bought an alarm that was a round ball. And on this round ball, it would be on the floor. And when her alarm would go off, it would roll away from her bed. And so, she couldn't not turn it off. She'd have to get out of bed to turn it off. And so, I mean, there's ways you can do it if you really want to. But, you know, training them up how to advocate for themselves. Most children don't know how to advocate for themselves, which is why the most recent stat right now on Fox News, I saw it two months ago, 29% of college graduates are taking their parents with them to their job interviews. 29% are taking their parents with them. They're 23 years old. Think about that. Let that set in. You know, teaching them how to shop for, prepare, cook meals. You have conflict, healthy conflict. Recover from mistakes. You know, try again. I mean, our job, I've already said it, but our job is not to make their lives easy. And it's not to do what's easy for us. It's to make them capable. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (51:10 - 51:38) ‍ ‍ Wow. You have been so inspirational to learn from. And one more thing on that. When, if we're very encouraged, we're going to be more consistent and do this thoughtfully, intentionally. When we meet resistance from our kids, what encouragement do you have for us, regardless of their age, whether they're whining about it when they're younger, throwing a temper tantrum or giving attitude? What would you encourage us with there? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (51:38 - 54:03) ‍ ‍ Well, it's not very encouraging, but you will meet resistance. You will. I mean, why would they ever, I mean, my kids had to make their own lunches starting in kindergarten. And my daughter Walker would come home every day and I'm the only one that has to make their own lunch, you know? And I'm like, "You know what? You get to put in your lunch, whatever you want. Every other child has to eat what their mom makes them eat." You know, I'm like trying to show her these things, but the truth is you are going to be met with resistance. But if it ever crosses that line into disrespect, that first and foremost needs to be handled first, without a doubt. There's never a reason for disrespect. And if you allow that disrespect in your sons, they will grow up to be men that disrespect their wives. If you allow that in your children, they will grow up to be employees that disrespect their employees. And on, you know, you reap what you sow. So, it's like, I am not going to allow that. ‍ ‍ Having said that we make our chores on the whiteboard so that there is no nagging, there is no reminding, there is none of that. And so, we put it on there. They know it has to be done. And if it's not done, they don't sit down for dinner. And then once our kids hit middle school and they had practices after school and high school practices and things like that, they couldn't do it before dinner because they didn't get home until dinner or sometimes afterwards. So, it had to be done before they went to bed. And if they didn't, I didn't nag, I didn't get upset with them. But the next day when they walked up and saw the whiteboard, their second chore was incredibly time consuming and incredibly hard because they did not do the chore from the day before. Because again, we're modeling real life. Just because you had a full day doesn't mean you get to walk in the door, kick off your heels at night and just assert all your responsibilities. Not at all. You have to still do it. And so, it's like you've chosen to play these sports. You've chosen to do these travel things and you're still a part of this family. So, it's like encourage them in a way to do these things that doesn't impact you. Like you don't want to get into this, you know, match back and forth trying to explain to them why it's important. It's just a rule. It is what it is. That's why I like it on the whiteboard. There's no, there's no having to nag, having to check, but just don't allow the disrespect is the big thing when they kind of meet you with resistance. But again, what child's going to be like, "Sure, mom, I want to take on this." They're not going to, you know, I, like I said, my oldest, he did not enjoy doing all the things that he had to do. And there came a day he went to college and he was so grateful, so grateful that he knew how to do those things. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (54:04 - 54:07) ‍ ‍ So, we're going for that long term. Thank you. ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (54:07 - 54:09) ‍ ‍ Always, always long game parenting. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (54:10 - 54:19) ‍ ‍ Well, Elizabeth, you have given us so much in these weeks together, but where would you like to direct us to continue learning from you after this chat? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (54:19 - 54:49) ‍ ‍ Well, if women live in Atlanta, we do have the exchange, which is local and coming, and I would love for them to come to that. We also have our podcasts on purpose with, which encourages women to live on purpose and with intention. You know, I just absolutely love connecting with women that want to live wholeheartedly this one beautiful life we've been given. So, I'd love for them to reach out to me on Instagram. I've got my personal handle as Octomama. I also have the exchange US and long game parenting. ‍ ‍ Laura Dugger: (54:50 - 55:09) ‍ ‍ Wonderful. We will provide all of those links in the show notes for today's episode. And I just have one more question for you. We are called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge. And so, as my final question for you today, Elizabeth, what is your savvy sauce? ‍ ‍ Elizabeth Pehrson: (55:09 - 56:01) ‍ ‍ My savvy sauce today, based on what we've spoken about, I would say to the women listening to the very best of your ability, it's going to be difficult. It is not going to be easy, but to the very best of your ability, stop over functioning for your children. And over functioning is simply doing for your children what they can and should be doing for themselves. And my favorite mantra that I tell moms all the time is just because you can do provide or give doesn't mean you should just because you can do provide or give, it doesn't mean you should. So, if you want to have grateful children, do less, not more. You want to raise children that have a respect for other people, do less, not more. If you want to raise de

As part of our Best of The Christian Parenting Podcast series, we're revisiting some of our most helpful and encouraging conversations for families.In a culture that often encourages entitlement, many parents wonder how to raise kids who are grateful, responsible, and grounded in strong character.In this episode, Monica Swanson joins the conversation to talk about practical ways parents can push back against entitlement at home. We discuss the importance of teaching responsibility, giving kids opportunities to work hard, and helping them develop a genuine heart of gratitude.Monica is an author, speaker, and host of The Monica Swanson Podcast, where she shares practical wisdom on raising kids with faith, character, and resilience.Connect with MonicaMonicaSwanson.comInstagramResources MentionedCharacter training courseRaising Prayerful Kids bookRaising Grateful Kids in an Entitled WorldMoms, Dads, and Grads Gift GuideSign up for Morning MinuteOpen a LearningRX centerThe Christian Parenting Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.orgPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Kristen Welch is an author, speaker, and the founder of Mercy House Global, but her story is shaped less by achievement and more by surrender. Raised in a generous, Christian home, Kristen followed God's lead into ministry, writing, and motherhood. Her love for writing led her into the early Christian mom-blogging world where she found community and influence, but it was a 2010 blogging trip to Kenya with Compassion International that unsettled her faith and reordered her calling. That encounter became the catalyst for Mercy House Global and for a lifelong journey of learning what it means to say yes to God with open hands.   Through Mercy House, Kristen has spent the past fifteen years walking alongside vulnerable women and families through job creation, orphan prevention, and discipleship, both globally and locally. Along the way, she has learned that generosity and ministry busyness without intimacy with God can quietly hollow out the soul. Her story reflects the cost of faithful work, the danger of doing for God without being with Him, and the grace God offers through rest, repentance, and renewed friendship with Him.   This conversation invites all of us to reflect on how God calls us to slow down, reorient our hearts, and rediscover satisfaction in His presence while living generously.   Major Topics Include: Generosity in hospitality Obedience through small, faithful yeses Using influence for Kingdom purpose Serving without losing intimacy with God The danger of doing for God without being with God Identity rooted in sonship, not productivity Parenting through embodied generosity Slowing down to practice God's presence QUOTES TO REMEMBER “Just do the next right thing.” “We were always looking for ways to use what we had for the gospel of hospitality.” “The opportunity to use the writing skill and the blog platform for God's glory really became a sweet spot for me and it changed my life.” “I will spend the rest of my life answering the question, ‘what am I doing to help the vulnerable in our communities and in our world?'” “God used the poor to help me find Him in a new way.” “God doesn't need us to do any of this, He invites us to do it.” “Being with God is the best use of our time.” “It is not a waste of time to spend time with God.” “When we live as generous people, our kids will too.” LINKS FROM THE SHOW Mercy House Global Kristen Welch's Website Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch Raising World Changers in a Changing World by Kristen Welch Compassion International When Helping Hurts (see our interview with coauthor Brian Fikkert) Women Doing Well (see our interview with president Julie Wilson) The Finish Line Community Facebook Group The Finish Line Community LinkedIn Group BIBLE REFERENCES FROM THE SHOW Revelation 3:20 | Christ's Invitation to Intimacy   Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.   Hebrews 2:1 | Drifting from Jesus   Therefore we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away from it.  1 Thessalonians 5:18 | Gratitude amid Hardship   Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.   Philippians 4:11–13 | Contentment in All Circumstances   Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! If you have a thought about something you heard, or a story to share, please reach out! You can find us on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn. You can also contact us directly from our contact page. If you want to engage with the Finish Line Community, check out our groups on Facebookand LinkedIn.

What if the most powerful thing you could bring to Thanksgiving this year wasn't your famous [insert random comfort food], but a grateful heart your kids can actually see? In this episode, Kent and Lawson help dads get super practical about gratitude, right in the middle of a noisy, entitled world. Using the word GRATEFUL as an acrostic, they walk through eight anchors for a dad's heart: Grace, Reflection, Appreciation, Thanksgiving, Empathy, Faith, Understanding, and Love. You will hear stories about tiny frogs in a muddy trail, anonymous generosity on YouTube, benefit dinners that do not go as planned, and friends who choose gratitude in the middle of crushing loss. Together, Kent and Lawson connect these real-life moments to Scripture and to simple ideas you can try with your own family this Thanksgiving. Whether you want a quick conversation starter around the table, a game to play with your kids, or just a reset for your own attitude before the holiday rush, this episode will help you trade comparison and entitlement for a grateful, open-handed way of living.   We'll also include the Scriptures we referenced below, in case you want to go back and study them for yourself.   G - Grace: "For from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace." — John 1:16 (ESV) R - Reflection: "I will ponder all your work, and meditate on your mighty deeds." — Psalm 77:12 (ESV) A - Appreciation: "Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." — 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (ESV) T - Thanksgiving: "Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!" — Psalm 100:4 (ESV) E - Empathy: "Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep." — Romans 12:15 (ESV) F - Faith: "Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen." — Hebrews 11:1 (ESV) U - Understanding: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding." — Proverbs 3:5 (ESV) L - Love: "We love because he first loved us." — 1 John 4:19 (ESV)   We've launched video now! Check out the video version of today's episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/f6LfEomB-Jk    -----------------------------------------------------------------------   Range Leather: Support the show and upgrade your fatherhood swag. Shop Range Leather and get 15% OFF with code MJ15 Grab some fresh beans! https://rangecoffee.com/   Fatherhood Guard – Connect with dads from over 20 states and at least 2 countries by joining the Fatherhood Guard. Grab your welcome hat at https://manhoodjourney.org/donate/fatherhood-guard/     Buy Kent's latest book: Don't Bench Yourself on Amazon   Read the new State Of Biblical Fatherhood report here: http://manhoodjourney.org/sobf Find tools to share the report here: https://manhoodjourney.org/sobf-tools   Have a topic you want us to touch on? Well, get in touch! Send us an email at: info@manhoodjourney.org   -------------------------------------------------------------------------   About our hosts: Kent Evans is the Executive Director and co-founder of Manhood Journey, a ministry that helps dads become disciple-makers. After a twenty-year career as a business leader, he embarked on biblical Fatherhood ministry projects. He's appeared on television, radio, web outlets and podcasts. He's spoken at parenting and men's events, and authored four books. The first, Wise Guys: Unlocking Hidden Wisdom from the Men Around You, was written to help men learn how to find mentors and wise counsel. The latest, Don't Bench Yourself: How to Stay in the Game Even When You Want to Quit, aims to help dads stay present in their roles as fathers and husbands even when they feel like giving up. Kent's life has been radically affected by godly mentors and his lovely wife, April. They have been married thirty years and have five sons and one daughter-in-law. He lives in Louisville, Kentucky. Lawson Brown is husband to his high school sweetheart, a father of two young adult daughters, has been a business leader since 1995, and is a former Marine. He served as a small group leader for teenage boys for many years, helped start the Christian media ministry City on a Hill Productions, then later Sanctuary – a new church in Kennesaw, GA – where he served as its leader for Men's Ministry. Lawson's journey of faith has always been centered in a grounding from his wife, Audrey, and supported throughout by many men whom he's found as brothers along the way. His family is nearing an empty nest phase and has recently relocated to the Florida Gulf Coast beaches area.

What if the biggest obstacle to raising grateful kids… is our own entitlement?In this episode, Jonathan sits down with author and Mercy House Global founder Kristen Welch, whose journey from “comfortable Christian mom” to global nonprofit leader started with a single, terrifying yes and a life-altering moment in the largest slum in Nairobi. What she discovered there forced her to confront a hard truth: gratitude isn't something you can manufacture in your kids until it takes root in you first.If you've ever felt crushed by comparison, overwhelmed by parenting pressures, or frustrated by the entitlement creeping into your home, Kristen's story will remind you that the path back to gratitude begins with a changed heart, a slowed pace, and a renewed center on Christ.Subscribe & Share:If this episode challenged you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with others.Follow Candid Conversations on social media:Instagram: @candidpodTikTok: @officiallycandidpodYouTube: @CandidPod

What if the best way to raise capable kids is to let them work and create beside you?  Casey and Jason Cashell share how restoring their 1859 Virginia estate has shaped their family through hands-on learning, hard work, and entrepreneurship.  They talk about giving kids real responsibility, letting them learn through mistakes, and helping them turn their skills into small businesses.  Their story offers practical encouragement for parents who want to raise hardworking kids and homes full of purpose and partnership. In this episode, we cover: - How Jason and Casey found and restored an 1859 Victorian home and 37-acre estate to serve as a hub for family, business, ministry, homeschool, and hospitality all under one historic roof - How their kids have been hands-on in every home renovation since toddlerhood and what they've learned from real responsibility - Why kids often rise to higher expectations when given meaningful work and trust - Practical ways to raise capable, competent kids even if you don't have a homestead by simply inviting them into what you are already doing - The heart behind raising “humble leaders” instead of entitled adults in an over-psychologized culture - Why letting children experience struggle and failure leads to humility and long-term success - The difference between confidence built on praise versus confidence built on true competence - Restoring old-fashioned trades and hands-on creativity as an antidote to modern tech dependency - Encouragement for parents who feel unequipped to teach skills– how learning with your kids is often the best approach - Practical examples of entrepreneurship in childhood and how the Cashell kids have turned their skills into online classes - What restoring this historic Virginia estate has meant to their family: living among the birthplaces of America's founders and making history come alive View full show notes on the blog + watch this episode on YouTube. Thank you for supporting the sponsors that make this show possible! RESOURCES MENTIONED Check out the Cashells' Mayhurst Estate B&B here Explore the Cashells' hands-on workshops offered at the Artisan Kids Hub  Join my FREE masterclass to learn my 4-step framework for making money on YouTube Master the rhythm of sourdough with confidence in my Simple Sourdough course Gain the sewing knowledge and skills every homemaker needs in my Simple Sewing series Turn your content creation dreams into a profitable business with my YouTube Success Academy Keep all my favorite sourdough recipes at your fingertips in my Daily Sourdough cookbook CONNECT Casey & Jason Cashell | Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Lisa Bass of Farmhouse on Boone | Blog | YouTube | Instagram | TikTok | Facebook | Pinterest Do you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast?  A guest you'd like me to interview?  Submit your questions and ideas here: bit.ly/SFLquestions.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the best way to raise capable kids is to let them work and create beside you?  Casey and Jason Cashell share how restoring their 1859 Virginia estate has shaped their family through hands-on learning, hard work, and entrepreneurship.  They talk about giving kids real responsibility, letting them learn through mistakes, and helping them turn their skills into small businesses.  Their story offers practical encouragement for parents who want to raise hardworking kids and homes full of purpose and partnership. In this episode, we cover: - How Jason and Casey found and restored an 1859 Victorian home and 37-acre estate to serve as a hub for family, business, ministry, homeschool, and hospitality all under one historic roof - How their kids have been hands-on in every home renovation since toddlerhood and what they've learned from real responsibility - Why kids often rise to higher expectations when given meaningful work and trust - Practical ways to raise capable, competent kids even if you don't have a homestead by simply inviting them into what you are already doing - The heart behind raising “humble leaders” instead of entitled adults in an over-psychologized culture - Why letting children experience struggle and failure leads to humility and long-term success - The difference between confidence built on praise versus confidence built on true competence - Restoring old-fashioned trades and hands-on creativity as an antidote to modern tech dependency - Encouragement for parents who feel unequipped to teach skills– how learning with your kids is often the best approach - Practical examples of entrepreneurship in childhood and how the Cashell kids have turned their skills into online classes - What restoring this historic Virginia estate has meant to their family: living among the birthplaces of America's founders and making history come alive View full show notes on the blog + watch this episode on YouTube. Thank you for supporting the sponsors that make this show possible! RESOURCES MENTIONED Check out the Cashells' Mayhurst Estate B&B here Explore the Cashells' hands-on workshops offered at the Artisan Kids Hub  Join my FREE masterclass to learn my 4-step framework for making money on YouTube Master the rhythm of sourdough with confidence in my Simple Sourdough course Gain the sewing knowledge and skills every homemaker needs in my Simple Sewing series Turn your content creation dreams into a profitable business with my YouTube Success Academy Keep all my favorite sourdough recipes at your fingertips in my Daily Sourdough cookbook CONNECT Casey & Jason Cashell | Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Lisa Bass of Farmhouse on Boone | Blog | YouTube | Instagram | TikTok | Facebook | Pinterest Do you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast?  A guest you'd like me to interview?  Submit your questions and ideas here: bit.ly/SFLquestions.

What happens when a mom says a bravest yes of her life—and then lets it reshape her family? In this conversation, Kristen Welch, CEO of Mercy House Global and author of Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, traces the moment a Compassion trip to Kenya turned her discontent into calling—and held a mirror up to her own entitlement. She shares how comparison erodes joy, why gratitude starts with parents (not kids), and how small household practices re-anchor a home. You'll hear the origin of Mercy House's work with vulnerable mothers, the surprising strength of underindulgence, and the reminder that our children watch who we are more than what we say. We also get practical: boredom as a gift in a noisy world, how hurry kills gratitude, simple screen-time swaps that nudge kids toward books and backyard wonder, and why letting kids fail is the only way to help them launch. Kristen's fresh empty-nest story—dropping her youngest at a huge university, resisting the urge to rescue, and trusting God to go where she can't—will stay with you. If you want a family culture marked by contentment, resilience, and compassion, this episode offers a clear path you can start today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do your teens sometimes come across as ungrateful or entitled?It's a common concern among parents, teachers, and mentors.But entitlement isn't a sign of failure—it's often part of the growing-up process.In our latest podcast, we explore what's really behind the entitlement stereotype and share practical, encouraging ways to help teens build genuine gratitude that strengthens their relationships, resilience, and well-being...In this episode, we mentioned the following resources:- Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch..Visit our website: www.teenlifepodcast.comSubscribe to get the episodes in your inbox: www.teenlife.ngo/subscribeWatch the podcast on ⁠YouTube⁠!Follow Us: Instagram | Facebook | Twitter..Podcast Music by: Luke Cabrera & Tobin HodgesHosted by: Karlie Duke, Caleb Hatchett & Tobin HodgesProduced by: Karlie Duke & Kelly Fann

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Tackling entitlement in parenting can be daunting. Dive into this thought-provoking episode where we explore effective strategies to foster work ethic, financial responsibility, and humility in children. Learn from community insights and practical parenting techniques to raise grounded and responsible individuals. Key takeaways to listen for The role of education in preventing an egocentric view of the world Practical ways to instill empathy and a sense of responsibility Underlying dangers of an "endless ATM" parenting approach An essential element for building a non-entitled mindset Experiences and cultural exposure vs. Materialism     Connect with Us To learn more about us, visit our website at www.18summers.com or email us at info@18summers.com. To get a copy of our book “The Family Board Meeting”, click here.   Subscribe to 18 Summers Podcast and leave a rating and written review!   Social Media Channels Facebook Group: 18 Summers LinkedIn: Jimmy Sheils Instagram: @18summerstribe

This week's episode is one that every parent can relate to. I'm joined by Monica Swanson to talk about a struggle many of us face—raising kids who aren't entitled in a world that often is.  Here are a few takeaways from today's conversation:As parents, we need to be intentional about combating entitlement in our homes.  Teaching kids responsibility and real-life opportunities to work hard builds character.  Helping our kids develop a heart of gratitude is one of the best ways to fight entitlement.  Parenting is a learning process, and it's okay to wrestle with these challenges while seeking wisdom and growth.  Monica Swanson is an author, speaker, and host of The Monica Swanson Podcast (formerly The Boy Mom Podcast). As a mom of four boys, she shares practical wisdom on raising kids with strong character, work ethic, and faith in today's world.  This conversation is just two friends trying to figure it out together, and we're so glad you're stepping into it with us. I hope you leave feeling encouraged and equipped to guide your kids toward gratitude, responsibility, and strong character. Enjoy!(00:00) Understanding Entitlement in Today's Culture(02:49) The Role of Technology and Parenting(06:12) Celebrating Achievements: A Double-Edged Sword(08:56) Instilling Gratitude as an Antidote(12:00) Teaching Work Ethic and Responsibility(16:56) Building Character and Responsibility in Kids(18:01) Fighting Entitlement and Cultivating Gratitude(19:45) Modeling Gratitude as Parents(22:05) Intentional Parenting in a Selfie Culture(24:58) The Importance of Service and Perspective(29:35) It's Never Too Late to Start(32:58) Surrounding Kids with Positive InfluencesConnect with MonicaMonicaSwanson.comThe Monica Swanson PodcastInstagramResources MentionedCharacter training courseRaising Prayerful Kids bookRaising Grateful Kids in an Entitled WorldThe Christian Parenting Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.orgPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Alisa Hoober has been connected with Hope International since her elementary school years. During that time, her family and church began partnering with a sister church in Ukraine, which laid the groundwork for Hope's mission today. Through family trips abroad and a strong foundation of biblical values, Alisa was raised in a culture that emphasized stewardship, generosity, and contentment.   Alisa Hoober has been connected with Hope International since her elementary school years. During that time, her family and church began partnering with a sister church in Ukraine, which laid the groundwork for Hope's mission today. Through family trips abroad and a strong foundation of biblical values, Alisa was raised in a culture that emphasized stewardship, generosity, and contentment.   As an adult, Alisa spent 10 years on Hope International staff before transitioning to spend more time with her young children. Currently, Alisa serves on several boards, including that of Hope International, and is actively involved in the generosity community alongside her husband. She has valuable insights to share about finding one's calling, establishing priorities, raising generous children, and setting a financial finish line.   Major Topics Include: Learning and teaching the principles of “Earn, Save, and Give” Growing in generosity as a couple Intentionally raising children in a culture of generosity Balancing motherhood with other meaningful passions Practicing generosity through hospitality Practical tips for traveling to the nations with children How to know where God has you right now When to say yes to something new and the self-care of saying no The challenge of raising kids with a heart of contentment in a world of consumerism QUOTES TO REMEMBER “How can we be generous with our whole selves?” “Generosity can be huge and generosity can be really simple.” “When we can learn from each other and spur each other on in living generously and giving cheerfully, we all are better for that and grow from it.” “The best way to figure out how to be a good steward is to ask the Owner.” “It's a calling to love God, to love others, and to live generously.” “When we practice generosity, we see growth.” “The joy of giving is contagious.” “At the root is a heart of contentment.” LINKS FROM THE SHOW Hope International (see our interview with founder, Jeff Rutt or CEO, Peter Greer) Tomorrow Clubs Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch Julie Wilson, President of Women Doing Well (see our past interview here) Journey to Generosity (JoG) with Generous Giving (see our interviews with cofounder, Todd Harper and CEO, April Chapman) I Like Giving The Finish Line Community Facebook Group The Finish Line Community LinkedIn Group BIBLE REFERENCES FROM THE SHOW Matthew 6:19-21 | Treasures in Heaven Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! If you have a thought about something you heard, or a story to share, please reach out! You can find us on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn. You can also contact us directly from our contact page. If you want to engage with the Finish Line Community, check out our groups on Facebookand LinkedIn.

This week, as we gather around the Thanksgiving table, I'm flipping the script on gratitude. It's not just about saying “thank you”—it's about living it. In this solo episode, I reflect on the power of gratitude, sharing heartfelt lessons from my mom's generosity and practical wisdom from organizational psychologist Adam Grant. I share how we can rethink gratitude by shifting our lens outward and focusing on gratitude as an action instead of a feeling. Plus, I'll give you actionable ways to model and teach gratitude, especially to the kids in your life.

As our children grow up, they may start to handle some things themselves. This could be chores, getting up on time, or saving up their allowance or earned money whenever they want a new toy.This is a natural part of getting older, but as a parent, it can be difficult to navigate when to step in and when is it healthy to let your child fail. There are going to be times when “helping” is actually preventing our children from developing their independence and sense of responsibility. We've been going through this with our own son lately so this conversation hit home as we are asking ourselves if we were actually helping our son or if we are feeding an entitled spirit.And this topic of entitlement can pop up in all kinds of areas such as how much to buy for our kids, how much we expect them to help out around the house, or even when it comes to birthdays and Christmas gifts.Today's guest, Kristen Welch, has wrestled through these questions in her own home. She is the author of Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World and the founder and CEO of Mercy House Global, a nonprofit organization whose mission is to empower marginalized communities with life-changing opportunities that create hope.In this episode, Kristen shares :The connection between gratitude and happinessHow to identify entitlementThe danger of instant gratificationAnd much more!We hope you enjoy this conversation!Show Notes: growinghometogether.com/kristen-welch-102

With a loud culture that promotes individualism and materialism, one Christian author is sharing wisdom on parenting a grateful generation.  Today on Connections, Kristen Welch shares how we can say the ultimate yes as a family by bringing up faith-filled kids who love God and others. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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As we conclude the Parenting Pandemic series, discover how to raise grateful kids in an entitled world. Explore the power of shifting perspectives from "I deserve" to "I am responsible" and practical ways to nurture gratitude, self-governance, and a giving heart in your children. Let's equip the next generation to navigate entitlement with a Christ-centered mindset!

Materialism and entitlement have led many of us down a path of discontentment. In this key text, Paul reminds Timothy that the greatest acquisition in this life is godliness with contentment, and exhorts Timothy (and us) to avoid the dangers of the love of money and to pursue contentment in what Christ has given us. 

How are you going to be present in the moment with Jesus?In this episode, Jeff, Jeff, and Kristen discuss: Gratitude is born at the crossroads of perspective.Living life with a grateful heart. Finding your life of purpose. The key to raising grateful kids. Capturing the moments and the audience that matter most. Staying present in the moment, looking up, looking around, and slowing down.   Key Takeaways: Jesus is all we need. There is no need for comparison with our neighbors because He is all we need (either those with more or those with less). We all have the opportunity to respond to what we are experiencing. Doing nothing is a response, but is it working? If not, what can you do to make a change? Kids can sniff out hypocrisy. They know when you're not doing what you tell them to do. If you want to raise children who follow Jesus, then you must follow Jesus. There are opportunities to live the gospel every day in the making of the beds and the peanut butter sandwiches. Have dinner with your family, slow down, take a walk, and connect.   "Jesus is enough. He is more than enough. Giving our life away is a beautiful way to live." —  Kristen Welch About Kristen Welch: Kristen Welch is a compassionate leader and accomplished author dedicated to making a meaningful impact on vulnerable families. She is the Founder and CEO of Mercy House Global, a nonprofit organization, whose mission is to empower marginalized communities with life-changing opportunities that create hope.With many years of experience, Kristen has tirelessly worked to address critical issues facing disadvantaged families around the world. Through Mercy House Global, her team has created innovative solutions that provide sustainable support, allowing families to break free from cycles of poverty and adversity.Beyond her philanthropic endeavors, Kristen Welch is author to six books, including the bestseller "Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World,” and authored the well-known blog, We are THAT family.Kristen has been married for 28 years and has 3 children.  Connect with Kristen Welch:Blog: https://wearethatfamily.com/ Mercy House Global: https://shop.mercyhouseglobal.org/ Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World: https://www.tyndale.com/sites/raisinggratefulkids/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wearethatfamily/  Connect with Jeff Thomas: Website: https://www.arkosglobal.com/Podcast: https://www.generousbusinessowner.com/Book: https://www.arkosglobal.com/trading-upEmail: jeff.thomas@arkosglobal.comTwitter: https://twitter.com/ArkosGlobalAdv Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arkosglobal/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/arkosglobaladvisorsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/arkosglobaladvisors/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLUYpPwkHH7JrP6PrbHeBxw

GET THE FREE APP It's hard being a parent in today's culture. Good parents want to know "How do you raise Godly children in today's culture?" Learning how to raise children correctly can seem impossible sometimes. Many times parents tend to overcorrect from their parents' mistakes which just creates more mistakes. And the way systems are set up for our kids, it seems to make them remain kids longer, and they can't think for themselves or really take care of themselves.With the way kids come out of college, many parents wish they had never sent their kids to college. It leaves us stuck asking ourselves, "How do I raise kids I actually like?" It's important to understand that we're trying to raise kids to be adults, not kids to remain children. With that in mind, there are actually very effective and practical ways to raise up our children exactly the way we want them to turn out.You can actually easily shape your children to be more grateful, caring, self-reliant, emotionally intelligent, free thinking and financially literate. Scott Donnell helps teach thousands of parents how to not make parenting mistakes that will ruin a child's growth. @Scottdonnell Scott Donnell teaches parents how to prepare your children for the world. He helps show parents how their kids can thrive in everything they do as they grow. It all starts with learning the mindset of Value Creation.Scott wrote the book "Value Creation Kid: The Healthy Struggles Your Children Need to Succeed." Scott dives deep in tried and true methods of giving your children an incredible advantage for their life journeys. Scott helps teach a Home Economy System for families, so that kids become critical thinkers and entrepreneurial minded in everything they do. So they become goal oriented and results driven rather than wasting time and effort needlessly for failed paths. This is one way kids prosper when they understand what it means to create value first.This system helps parents much more easily teach their children about money, and how to make finances fun for kids. But money is only a tool, value creation is the key to finding financial success, as well as emotional and spiritual success.Scott teaches the 3 E's - Expectation, Expenses, Extra-Pay. When you do these three correctly, your kids won't ask you for money anymore. They'll learn budgeting, delayed gratification, value of goods, trade off of goods. They won't have an entitled attitude. They can prosper without having to complain about a silver spoon in their mouth. But they also won't have a poverty mindset that keeps them defeated. This strategy works much more effectively than old systems of allowance, busy chores, selfish thinking. This helps children understand their roles and responsibilities in their family, but it also gives them great ingenuity and motivation for how to understand and grow the life-giving natural gifts that they have.Watch as Brett gains a lot of wisdom dialoguing with Scott Donnell about how to truly prosper your kids and your whole family. This is very much a legacy building tool for future generations to prosper from as well.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬VALUE CREATION KIDFREE APP18 FAMILY LEGACY STRATEGIES▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬NEW IRON DEEP BOOK https://www.irondeep.com/the-secret-war-withinThis is a must-read for every highly successful entrepreneur.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Subscribe to Our Channel:https://www.youtube.com/@UCBPidx70rstadlrS2piMt5g ▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬VISIT OUR WEBSITE: https://www.irondeep.com/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬

How are you teaching your children about generosity? In this episode, Jeff and Nathan discuss: A global perspective of God's reach from a young age. Growing up in the Barnhart family with a blended education. What it means to have a community in Christ. Living intentionally with consistency.   Key Takeaways: The God of your life is the same God of the world. He is the same worldwide. We are stewards of all God gives us - business, money, children, resources, etc. All we have can be used for His glory. Living a life consistent with scripture will look different for everybody, but it is possible to set your family's lifestyle around generosity, not consumption. Kids are wildly observant and will pick up on things you never would guess and they will learn from everything you do and don't do. Take stock of what the Lord has given you. It may not look like what others have, but they are your gifts from God for His glory and to steward in His kingdom.   "Generosity is not these big highlight reel type of occasions - it's not giving away the company, it's not writing the huge check. Generosity is seeing what you have as a gift from God to bless Him and to bless others." —  Nathan Barnhart Episode References: Young Life: https://younglife.org/Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch - https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Grateful-Kids-Entitled-World/dp/1496405293 About Nathan Barnhart:  My name is Nathan Barnhart, a third-generation employee at Barnhart Crane and Rigging Company, where I've dedicated the last decade to various roles across the company in Knoxville, Iowa, Memphis, and Portland. Currently based in the Project Equipment Group, I manage sales, load testing, and logistics.Outside of work, I am kept busy as a husband to Suzanna and a father to Davy (6) and West (3). This journey with Barnhart has been both professionally fulfilling and personally rewarding.  Connect with Nathan Barnhart:Website: https://barnhartcrane.com/Email: nbarnhart@barnhartcrane.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nathan-barnhart-740152b0/ Connect with Jeff Thomas: Website: https://www.arkosglobal.com/Podcast: https://www.generousbusinessowner.com/Book: https://www.arkosglobal.com/trading-upEmail: jeff.thomas@arkosglobal.comTwitter: https://twitter.com/ArkosGlobalAdv Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arkosglobal/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/arkosglobaladvisorsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/arkosglobaladvisors/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLUYpPwkHH7JrP6PrbHeBxw

In this episode, Nicholeen and Paije continue the “Meet the Mentors” mini series. Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces David Eggertsen, who shares about his experiences as one of the first TSG mentors and Nicholeen's right-hand man in the business, having TSG keep his marriage together, and the skills and principles that have been so beneficial for his family. Listen in to learn from David!

Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout shares how to fight entitlement mentality in an entitled world.  Episode 1941: How to Fight Entitlement Mentality in an Entitled World by Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout on Parenting Challenges  Kalen Bruce created Freedom Sprout to fill a void. He heard too many conversations about how "they don't teach finance in schools." It took years for him to stop complaining about it and do something about it. He has five kids, so him and his wife have to get five adults into the world with a solid knowledge of finances. The ultimate goal and vision of Freedom Sprout: To sprout a future of financial freedom for 1,000,000 children.  The original post is located here: https://freedomsprout.com/entitlement/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout shares how to fight entitlement mentality in an entitled world.  Episode 1941: How to Fight Entitlement Mentality in an Entitled World by Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout on Parenting Challenges  Kalen Bruce created Freedom Sprout to fill a void. He heard too many conversations about how "they don't teach finance in schools." It took years for him to stop complaining about it and do something about it. He has five kids, so him and his wife have to get five adults into the world with a solid knowledge of finances. The ultimate goal and vision of Freedom Sprout: To sprout a future of financial freedom for 1,000,000 children.  The original post is located here: https://freedomsprout.com/entitlement/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are all special, but do you deserve those special things? Entitlement is a tricky road to walk down; are you living that "you owe me" attitude, are you argumentative at every turn of the road, do you feet you have been neglected or treated unfairly? Or - is this just a buzz word and fall out from the aggravated world we are living in now? Who can say: listen and find out what we think!  Come for a chat, stay for a sip!Then we taste Cabernet Sauvignon from the winery Alta Vista located in Mendoza Argentina.  Here is the low down:Former Ownership: Famous Champagne House, Piper HeidsieckWinemaking Intent: French approach to viticulture and stylistic narrativeOld World Style in a New World Package: Elegant, full body, obvious dark berry fruit components but leading with earthy components as well.  Hand picked, one bottle per vine, well balanced, and forward with its personality! We pair this wine with burgers, arroz con pollo, chicken cutlets - Christine approved!Welcome to the month of Susan! (and happy anniversary to us - ONE YEAR!)More about Alta Vista Cabernet Sauvignon:https://www.kobrandwineandspirits.com/brand-page/alta-vista/Real AF with Andy Frisella Podcast, Episode 553:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-af-with-andy-frisella/id1012570406?i=1000622624036The Mel Robbins Podcast: From PMS to Menopause:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000622473367Find Christine D'Angelo:Instagram: @christine_dangelo_ Facebook: @Christine Casiero D'AngeloSet yourself up with Christine D"Angelo as a COACH on the 1st Phorm App!  https://www.1stphorm.app/StineD***JOIN Christine's Facebook Page "Team Shine Fitness": https://www.facebook.com/groups/teamstinefitness/Find Susan Pajak:Instagram: @winegirlgonewildFacebook: @Susan PajakTwitter: @spajakPersonal Blog: winegirlgonewild.comhttps://winegirlgonewild.comCome for a chat, stay for a sip, and leave us a comment!

Traveling and trying new and brave things is what summer is all about. Dive into this episode with Kristen Welch, the founder of Mercy House maternity center in Kenya as well as the monthly membership club, Fair Trade Friday, and learn about how one trip can change your perspective. Kristen is the author of Rhinestone Jesus, a memoir of her broken and beautiful life, Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World and Raising World Changers. She loves traveling and experiencing new cultures, trying new foods, and is a big fan of all things fair trade. In this episode we dive into what mercy looks like in action, talking with Kristen about how she lives out compassion, leaning into the work of impacting lives and all that comes with being a world changer in her calling to work with women in Kenya. We love connecting you with resources, so we pulled some of our faves based on this podcast episode. We hope they encourage, inspire and challenge you.  Enjoy! Let's be friends! Check out Collide's website for info on upcoming conferences, events, and resources, and follow us on Facebook and Instagram for encouragement, inspo and a fun peek into our ministry. Plus, subscribe to our newsletter to stay up-to-date on all things Collide! Collide Resources Our Go Ahead Bible study empowers women to experience the extraordinary and Divine in their everyday lives. The Women of Impact Online Course provides teaching and inspiration from women making a huge impact in the world as they tap into God's purpose for their lives in the sectors and spaces they've been called to. Get inspired and equipped to make an impact with YOUR life. We all have big dreams and big goals, but we often get held back by our own self-doubt. But God wants to use you just as you are. Dig into our amazing resource, 5 Exercises to Help you do Amazing Things to help you confront the fear that holds you back, and to say “yes” to God doing amazing things in your life.  For so many of us, when we go through tough times, when our prayers have not yet been answered, when we see our worst fears coming true, we can have a very hard time finding God. Our 6 Places to Go Looking for God guide will help you look for, find, and experience God, and we're confident that by using it, you will be refreshed in your faith, challenged to grow in your relationship with God, and experience God's presence in new and life-giving ways.

We're sorry (not sorry), but can we do away with gifts at kids' birthday parties? Hear us out in today's episode! Plus, it's Lauren's turn to do the interviewing! You'll hear all about Rebecca's business, It's Not Rocket Science®. Rebecca shares the story of becoming a business owner, defining moments along the way, and how she manages her time as an entrepreneur and a mom. Summary: Costco vs. Sam's Club Rebeca's strong disdain for email The ‘why' behind our no-gifts rule Bestie Banter includes: 30-second therapy, what's saving our life right now, and unpopular opinions Business Banter includes: behind the scenes of It's Not Rocket Science®, building confidence as a business owner, setting boundaries, mom guilt, and more Links You May Be Looking For: It's Not Rocket Science Website Secondary Science Simplified Podcast Resource: Inbox When Ready Book: Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch Look out for polls on @themomfluencer IG stories for things we talked about in today's episode!  Connect with Us:  • Send a DM: @themomfluencer • Send us an email: hello@bestiebusinessbanter.com • Shop the Momfluencer Amazon Storefront • Rebecca's business: @its.not.rocket.science • Lauren's business: @counselorclique • Leave a 5-star podcast review: Apple Podcasts and Spotify

In this episode, we hear from Jeff Rutt, the founder of HOPE International, a nonprofit that provides Christ-centered microfinance services to help alleviate poverty in 24 countries around the world. Listen now and come away with a deeper understanding of the power of faith, generosity, and service to transform lives. Key Points From This Episode: What are the keys to the growth and success of his business?What is Jeff's rule of thumb for debt to equity ratio?What are the three core principles that guide Jeff in running the company? What strategies does Jeff's company use to mitigate risks in the construction industry brought about by economic and market fluctuations? How does Jeff's faith impact his leadership in the business?Why did Jeff give away a significant portion of his company to a donor-advised fund as it is now 89% owned by charity?Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Jeff Rutt on LinkedInKeystone Custom HomesHOPE International websitePeter GreerGenerous Business Owner PodcastNational Christian FoundationTreasure Principle by Randy AlcornMission Drift by Peter GreerStrong and Weak by Andy CrouchAtomic Habits by James ClearThe Laws of Lifetime Growth by Dan Sullivan and Catherine Nomura Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen WelchToxic Charity by Robert D. Lupton The Ideal Team Player by Patrick LencioniThe Kingdom Investor Podcast on LinkedIn

Becky Kemp is a speaker, author, and life coach. Today on Make It Happen she talks about the power of word choice, and how changing certain words in our vocabulary can change our lives. Then I give a few of my favorite power words.   (00:58) Favorite Things: Books “Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World” by Kristen Welch “Raising World Changers in a Changing World” by Kristen Welch “Your New Playlist” by John Acuff  Podcast show with John Acuff: https://www.speakmichelle.com/make-it-happen-podcast/105   (03:47) Becky Kemp Interview:  (04:10) Becky is a speaker, author, and life coach.  (05:50) Becky struggled in the past with negative self-talk weighing her down. (07:14) “Change your words and it can change your life” was a phrase that came to her while praying and she let this phrase take her on a journey that changed her life.  (09:45) Michelle asks Becky about her philosophy of the word effect.  (11:25) Our thoughts are what drive how we feel.  (12:26) Be more intentional about how we show up each day.  (14:11) Many people end up settling with what they have rather than working for what they want.  (15:05) Becky shares power words that can help with your everyday life.  (17:35) “I can't” is a word we should replace with “I can”. (21:02) Becky works with a lot of women coaching them as they build their businesses or develop talents.  (23:44) Becky tells herself many times a day “I accept myself unconditionally right now”. (26:58) Becky has a podcast called the “Word Effect” and you can learn more about the podcast and things she does at her website linked below.  Becomingwithbecky.com   (29:00) Pick my brain: What are some of Michelle's words? “Make It Happen” “Next right thing”  

Today we're talking about the idea of gratitude and entitlement as well as the role that we personally play as entrepreneurs in our kids stories related to those two specific things.  We are combating entitlement while, at the same time, we want to give our kids the world. There was a time when raising grateful kids might have been a little bit easier, but I think we are up against a bigger fight nowadays. Expectations have changed. Childhood has changed. The family has changed. And the end result? A lot of entitled kids.  So, what are some things we can actively do to combat it? How can we play a pivotal role in our kids' lives as entrepreneurs, as leaders and as parents? Let's raise them up right! SHOW NOTES: https://luminaryleadershipco.com/episode145    RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:   Episode 82: Creating Legacy, Affluence, and Freedom with Mel Abraham https://luminaryleadershipco.com/episode-82-creating-legacy-affluence-and-freedom-with-mel-abraham/  Check out our FREE True North Exercise to get on the same page with your kids! Did this episode resonate with you? Help spread the message by rating and leaving a review for the show here!  Connect with me on Instagram!

What could happen if your family stopped grumbling? In this Grounded episode, Tricia Goyer shares how to raise grateful kids in an entitled world.

James and Shawn talk about gratefulness and how to instill the value into our children. We talk some about the book by Kristen Welch, Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, but we mostly just share our thoughts and experiences on what we've learned or are learning about gratefulness. We're certainly grateful for our listeners and your feedback. Please send us an email with ideas for James's science corner or with any feedback about the topic of gratefulness. Email: lookingoverlife@gmail.com Website: lookingoverlife.com Patreon: patreon.com/lookingoverlife Apollo and Artemis Artemis missions Cost of the Apollo missions Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch

Bishop Fulton J. Sheen gives two reflections. “What did I do to deserve this” from Sheen's Television Series – Life is Worth Living. Also, Sheen's Catholic catechism lesson #50 entitled “World, Soul and Things”.

Join Patty, Dustin, and Kevin for episode 8 of But Wait! There's More. In this episode, we answer the question: Am I Good Parent? We discuss our parenting style, our parenting stage and what makes it equally difficult, surprising, and rewarding. In this episode: • We play a game—"Name that Parenting Style!” • Kevin talks about having a gaggle of girls—even the goldfish. • Patty admits to the perceived pressure to be an expert parent. • We talk about the value of an authentic apology. • Dustin talks about the gift of bedtime routine with his children. *Resources * Book: Parenting Beyond Your Capacity https://amzn.to/3EtrPsy Book: Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch https://amzn.to/31ygbOM Book: Are My Kids on Track https://amzn.to/3rJVB98 Legacy Kids Ministry: https://www.legacychurch.org/kids Legacy Students Ministry: https://www.legacychurch.org/students More about the Enneagram from a Christian Perspective: https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com Song: The One You Need https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WfmqB-V8Q4E If I want to be the best parent for my daughter, I need to meet her where she's at. —Dustin Chappell Questions? Email podcasts@legacychurch.org In-House Producer: Dustin Chappell Audio and Video Engineer: Chris Ablaza

Entitlement has become an epidemic among our kids. We are raising children in a quick-fix society, where everything they want seems to be available at the touch of a button (or a holler out to Alexa!) Many of us (me included!) have grown frustrated with this issue, and wonder if there is some way to fight against it.  Kristen Welch, founder of Mercy House Global, and author of “Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World” (among other awesome books) joins us today to talk about gratitude, which she calls the antidote for entitlement!  Kristen is sharing 6 ways we can “train our kids” (and ourselves) in gratitude…These are practical and do-able -- at the holidays, and all year long.  Note! -- >  If you want to hear more on this topic of gratitude (and the issue of entitlement) be sure to check out my Character Training Course, which will open its doors for a special THANKSGIVING SALE beginning Monday, November 22nd 2021.  Find out more here:  www.monicaswanson.com/character-course. Find links to Kristen's book, website, and notes at: www.monicaswanson.com/episode-131 Podcast page (for all episodes) www.monicaswanson.com/podcast  

Further Resources: Article: bit.ly/3cgeIP7 Book - Growing Grateful Kids by Susie Larson: bit.ly/3wSOvzu Book - Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch: amzn.to/3DAt20A

Kristen Welsh is the founder of Mercy House maternity center in Kenya as well as the monthly membership club, Fair Trade Friday. Kristen is the author of Rhinestone Jesus, a memoir of her broken and beautiful life, Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World and Raising World Changers. She loves traveling and experiencing new cultures, trying new foods, and is a big fan of all things fair trade. In this episode we dive into what mercy looks like in action, talking with Kristen about how she lives out compassion, leaning into the work of impacting lives and all that comes with being a world changer in her calling to work with women in Kenya.

“Now why you gotta go and do that!?!” Another little rant on how we got to do better when it comes to how we treat each other! Relationships are supposed to be equal give and take and not just take, take, take but in today's world some people feel entitled. What happened to “respect is earned not given”? Be sure to get vaccinated from the “Entitlement Virus” that stuff spreading aggressively. Lol Just kidding!

When Arianna Hunter was swimming in an Orlando hotel pool, she never thought she would find a three year old girl motionless floating in the water. Her quick actions saved the young girl’s life and she received Florida State’s Citizen of the Year Award. Her mother Krista gives life-saving advice to remember when you’re at the pool with your kids this summer. Teach your children to be others-focused in this me-me-me mentality culture. TAKEAWAYS The importance of knowing and implementing pool safety The need for intentional awareness of your surroundings Why our children need to value following directions How kids can be brave and do the right thing regardless of fear

Book Recommendation: Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World

This week's podcast features our best guest yet, but this host is biased because it is Mallory Semanco, Evan's wife. Mallory was a teacher for 8 years and now works part time while raising 2 girls (Norah, 5 and Eliza, 2) and shares what she has been reading / listening to / following to help her become a better parent. Mallory's list of parent resources, can be found here: BOOKSNo Drama Discipline: https://amzn.to/3clPAaCRaising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World: https://amzn.to/3qXE4X0Raising Worry Free Girls: https://amzn.to/2MmcJPr Instagram AccountsNaptime Kitchen: https://bit.ly/3a5kku3Parent Cue: https://bit.ly/2NyRCKdBusy Toddler: https://bit.ly/3sYqwfL PodcastsThe Next Right Thing: https://apple.co/2Mwb75WRaising Boys and Girls: https://apple.co/3aaumtGMade for This: https://apple.co/3otHaRjRhythms for Life: https://apple.co/3sXsUndThe Lazy Genius: https://apple.co/3cctKqfThat Sounds Fun: https://apple.co/3pocx0F If you like this podcast, check out Backstage with the Simple Church for a weekly look behind the scenes at what is happening at the Simple Church, as well as the audio of the Sunday morning message each week. Find all our podcasts here: http://thesimplechurch.tv/resources/simple-church-podcasts Thanks for listening, make sure to subscribe and give us a 5 star review wherever you are listening to this podcast!  E-mail host Evan Semanco at Evan@thesimplechurch.tv with any questions or comments about the show and if you'd like to get in touch with Mallory, E-mail her Mallory@thesimplechurch.tv.

My kids are making a mess and they have no respect. Have you thought this before? Do you have kids that can make a mess quicker than you can clean it up? Are you tired of nagging your kids to clean their rooms or put their stuff away? You're in the right place. #AngelaBrown #SavvyCleaner #KidsCleaning *** PROMISED LINKS *** Adolescence Isn't Terminal - https://amzn.to/2MZnWWv Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting - https://amzn.to/39wPGcL The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies - https://amzn.to/3bS6TQL How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen - https://amzn.to/2Lx8PDj Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World - https://amzn.to/3nHLHz6 *** RATE THIS SHOW *** https://sotellus.com/r/savvy-cleaner *** RATE THIS PODCAST *** https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION *** https://SavvyCleaner.com/Calendar-of-Courses *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown ***FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – THANK YOU GIFTS FOR MAIDS*** Daily Giveaway - https://funnycleaningshirts.com *** MORE VIDEOS ON THIS TOPIC *** Game Plan for Raising Well-Behaved Children - Kevin Leman Focus On The Family - https://youtu.be/sD_V_hVHd4Y How Your Birth Order Affects Your Parenting - Kevin Leman and Sally Dunn - Focus on the Family - https://youtu.be/SsU4bFJ0CA8 How To Support Your Kids When Life is Tough - Dr. Kevin Focus on the Family - https://youtu.be/OUZ0Xq6HuUc Kevin Leman on Parenting - Victory Worship Center - https://youtu.be/ZHz2PDPCxT8 Daily Cleaning Routine Kids Chore Routine - This Gathered Nest - https://youtu.be/_c0oneSTwVA *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/savvycleaner/ Facebook: https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner Twitter: https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleane Instagram: https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** WHAT IS ASK A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Learn how to clean. How to start a cleaning business. Marketing and advertising tips for your cleaning service. How to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids. Employee motivation tactics. Strategies to boost your cleaning clientele. And cleaning company expansion help. Our host, Angela Brown, ran and managed one of the largest independently owned cleaning companies in the Southeast for 25-years. She’s the CEO and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com *** VIDEO CREDITS *** VIDEO/AUDIO EDITING: Kristin O https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/kristin-o POST PRODUCTION: Amber O https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/amber-o HOST: Angela Brown https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/angela-brown PRODUCER: Savvy Cleaner https://savvycleaner.com

Resources DiscussedThe Key to Your Child's Heart by Gary SmalleyRaising Children in an Entitled World by Kristen WelchThe Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. LewisMere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

This week we’re diving into relationships BIG time with a millennial family of eight.(Yes, 8.) She eloped as a teenager, has been married to her college sweetheart for 18 years, is super-mom to 6 children under age 11 and also runs a successful business on the side... with all her extra time! Oh, did I mention she’s been intentionally homeschooling this huge brood of active kids full-time for the last 6 years too!Her husband (who is a banker) was on episode #009 last month so I think you’ll agree with me that this marriage and family is not just surviving… it’s THRIVING! She understands that all in all, life is hard, but endlessly pouring into relationships (in her family & community) is more than essential. It is a satisfying investment that is well worth your time! This show will dive into:The secret to your marriage successHow to handle a classroom in your homeMotherhood that is far more than a juggling actAnd finding balance from a focus on being intentionalOur amazing guest made her marriage work by teaching as well as waitressing to pay her way through college. She soon graduated Long Beach State University with a bachelors in Political Science, interned for the Long Beach courthouse and quickly went on to become the top female moot court presenter in the entire country. This girlfriend and mentor is a prime example of perseverance and dedication towards her passions and relationships. Please welcome our very special guest, Katelyn Cheo!Resources:The Bible by GodPower of the Praying Wife/Parent by Stormie OmartianMarriage by Tim KellerMission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson + Awaking Wonder Podcast Foundations: 12 Biblical Truths to Shape a Family by Ruth Chou & Troy SimonsSimplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne & Lisa M. RossRaising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas + Weekly Devotions Learn Strong ~ Live WellEl & Dave

We’re taking a pause from our summer series on health and it is well worth it. Kristen is one of those people whose life has been radically changed and you can’t help but be changed as you listen to her. And in many ways, shouldn’t that be what all of our lives are like? As we encounter Jesus for ourselves and are changed, shouldn’t that be what others say about us all? This episode will encourage you, but more than anything I think it will challenge you as it challenged me. What if us running toward comfort in our lives, and holding back from those things that scare us, the things that God has set right before us in our lives to get our attention - what if those are the exact things we need to thrive? What if our best life is actually found in turning to face those things head on. Grabbing Jesus by the hand and saying, “Ok, I’m scared, but I’m in, I’m all in.” Kristen Welch is the founder of Mercy House Global, an organization that exists to engage, empower and disciple women around the globe. She is the author of several books including Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, Raising World Changers in a Changing World, and her latest book, Made to Move Mountains: How God Uses our Dreams and Disasters to Accomplish the Impossible.

We recently received this question from a listener and we knew it was a topic we had to discuss! Raising kids in our western culture, we can get lost in raising them in the midst of entitlement. But how can we raise grateful, well-rounded humans? Join us as we share our stories and share some great ideas to implement! VIEW FULL SHOW NOTES --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message

Our culture has increasingly become welcoming of entitlement attitudes, provoking many to become lazy and diminish the reward of hard work and effort. They believe that they deserve the same as others even when their efforts and performance aren’t worthy of the same prize. But this isn’t God's will. Join us as we discuss keys to instilling work ethic in your kids in an entitled world. For notes, scriptures and resources mentioned go to https://courageousparenting.com/

Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout shares how to fight entitlement mentality in an entitled world.   Episode 550: How to Fight Entitlement Mentality in an Entitled World by Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout on Parenting Challenges   Kalen Bruce created Freedom Sprout to fill a void. He heard too many conversations about how "they don't teach finance in schools." It took years for him to stop complaining about it and do something about it.  He has five kids, so him and his wife have to get five adults into the world with a solid knowledge of finances. The ultimate goal and vision of Freedom Sprout: To sprout a future of financial freedom for 1,000,000 children.   The original post is located here: https://freedomsprout.com/entitlement/   Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com & in The O.L.D. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout shares how to fight entitlement mentality in an entitled world. Episode 550: How to Fight Entitlement Mentality in an Entitled World by Kalen Bruce of Freedom Sprout on Parenting Challenges Kalen Bruce created Freedom Sprout to fill a void. He heard too many conversations about how "they don't teach finance in schools." It took years for him to stop complaining about it and do something about it. He has five kids, so him and his wife have to get five adults into the world with a solid knowledge of finances. The ultimate goal and vision of Freedom Sprout: To sprout a future of financial freedom for 1,000,000 children. The original post is located here: https://freedomsprout.com/entitlement/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com & in The O.L.D. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts

How awesome would it be if you didn’t have to yell at your kids, like, ever? How great would it be if you could kick bad habits and make your household happier and healthier? How epic would it be if you didn’t have to ask your children to do things a million times and they actually cooperated? This IS possible my friend, which is why I’m so pumped to introduce you to parenting expert Amy McCready who’s going to teach us how to parent like a pro! And most importantly, stop yelling, and start enjoying the precious time we have with our kids.Head to https://melissaambrosini.com/215 for full episode resources and more inspiring weekly episodes. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Kristen Welch has an international ministry called The Mercy House, is a blogger at We are THAT family, a fellow podcaster at and the author of four books. Two of her books are some of my favorite parenting books—Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World and Raising World Changers in a Changing World.   Today, we are going to talk about raising grateful kids in an entitled world first. We are going to talk about how to go against the cultural grain to give our kids everything that is good—and instead choose to give them what's BEST.

BREAKING NEWS: We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily. ---------- This is part three of Mom Month and Kristen Welch joins us for a conversation about chasing dreams, living with gratitude and the dangers of living with ourselves in the center of our own universe. Kristen is a blogger (Wearethatfamily.com), author, podcaster and founder of an incredible nonprofit ministry in Kenya.  Conversations Notes: Showing our kids unconditional love (1:35) Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (2:20) Living for my family alone led to a child-centered home (7:35) My husband could see the emptiness in me and he hurt for me (11:00) The trip to Kenya woke me up... I literally woke up from the American Dream that had become a nightmare for me. The cycle in me that there was never enough. (11:40) Story of a young orphan boy in Kenya who in the worlds eyes had nothing (12:50) Why was this boy filled with joy? Why was he smiling when he had nothing (13:50) I have everything because I have Jesus (14:30) A response of doing nothing is still a response (16:18) We must acknowledge what we have done in the past that has led our families to where we are at (17:08) My choices changed. The way I shopped, consumed, lived and served (17:40) It revealed my own entitlement. How much I expected and felt like I deserved (18:00) "I don't want to add Jesus to my life like salt and pepper to a meal. I want him to be the main course!" (18:50) The can't have a child-centered home and a Jesus-centered home at the same time (18:55) Service was not part of who we were. We did not serve others (20:35) "It is really hard to change the direction of a ship [your family]. It does not happen overnight. It is slow and steady and consistent." We began making service a normal part of our lives (21:20) Instead of keeping everything to ourselves, our response was to start Mercy House (21:45) The reason you feel empty is that you're keeping these blessings to yourself (22:10) We simply took small steps towards saying yes everyday (23:30) Moving from a joyless person to a purposeful person (24:15) Where do we have extra to share? Spare seat at the table? Open seat in the vehicle? Room during the holidays? We're sitting on this incredible secret that generosity changes lives... it makes us grateful (25:55) Story of her husband helping her chase her dreams (26:55) My husband was way ahead of me. He was leading our family spiritually. He was asking questions that made me uncomfortable... He was seeing a pattern in me that was unhealthy (28:25) My husband said to me, "What happened to the girl that wanted to change the world?" (29:25) The heart of a husband that wanted to bring out the best in a wife... he didn't want motherhood to kill her dreams (32:20) I said let's do something radical and my husband said, "let's do it" (33:00) "God had to take me all the way to Kenya and wreck my heart so that when I came back I would be on the same page as my husband" (33:30) The real tension of needing her husband to lead in ways that were best for their family (34:00) This life isn't about me or even my family. This life is about the Gospel. We exist to make the Gospel known and glorify God in what we do. (36:30) "Wait for life's sweet spot where your passion and our skills collide with God's timing" (37:30) Be grateful. Gratitude can turn the hardest days into the best days. (38:30) Gratitude is a lifeline in our lives. It truly reminds us of what we have and a global perspective also helps us realize what we have (39:20) Episode Links: Wearethatfamily.com Moving Mountains Podcast Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World: How One Family Learned That Saying No Can Lead to Life's Biggest Yes Raising World Changers in a Changing World Mercy House Global

No one wants to raise an "entitled" kid, parents talk & worry about it all the time. Breathe easy as we discuss some practical ways to rase grateful kids in today's world

You crafted the perfect Christmas list for your kids—a blend of beautiful, educational, practical, and personal. All will be well when they open their pre-approved number of acceptable gifts. That is, until the gift-giver enters the scene and breaks all the rules. In this episode, Emily and Laura flip the gift-giving conversation to ask, “Mama, what’s going on in your heart?” When we remember God’s love to us through Christ, we can see the gift-giver through the lens of grace as we consider our response. Let the richness of Jesus's birth set a tone of gratefulness in your home this gift-giving season.   RM APPLY QUESTIONS   VIEW TRANSCRIPT   Articles, Resources and Related Content: R|M Advent 2018 Ep. 74, “Grandparents and the Gospel: Why Do Grandma & Grandpa Get Under Your Skin?” Ep. 75, “Grandparents and the Gospel: Give Them Grace” “Gospel Thinking: How Do We Decide Our Family Traditions?” - Eric Schumacher “FAQ: Should I Curtail Grandparent Gift-Giving” - Jen Wilkin “Gentle Leading Advent: The Gifts of God” - Trish Shank “X-Ray Questions” - David Powlison “Christmas: It’s All About the Gifts” - Melissa Kruger “The Guilt and Grace of Christmas Giving” - Leslie Schmucker Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, - Kristen Welch For More: To subscribe: on iOS, go to our iTunes page and subscribe. On Android, click this podcast RSS feed link and select your podcast app. You may need to copy the link into your favorite podcast app (like Overcast or Stitcher). Leave an iTunes review. These are huge for us! The more reviews, the greater chance another mother will find us. Like Risen Motherhood on Facebook and follow on Instagram and Twitter for the latest updates and related information. Let us know your thoughts! We'd love to hear more about the conversations you're having. Shoot us an email, or find us on social media. Tell others. We truly hope this podcast fosters conversations and deeper discussions between mothers to seek the gospel in their daily activities - we'd be honored if you shared and encouraged others to listen in. *Affiliate links used where appropriate. Thanks for supporting this ministry! HELP RISEN MOTHERHOOD MAKE MORE CONTENT LIKE THIS!  

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  Happy Friday!   Today on the podcast is Rosalynne Martin.  Roz is married to her college sweetheart, Jullian and they have two boys, ages 7 and 8.  Roz and Jullian have been married for 20 years, she is very involved in the Arise 2 Read program in Memphis, she occasionally writes for the Missional Motherhood blog, and loves spending time with her family. You will love hearing Roz's story of how she walked through infertility, miscarriage, 2 IVF cycles, adoption, and finding out she was pregnant while her oldest was still in the NICU.  And, through it all, you can see God's hand at work.  It may seem so simple yet difficult, but trusting God with you whole heart is what Rosalynne knew she had been called to do.   She had delayed motherhood, but now she openly shares her story to many she meets.  And, I'm so happy to share her story with you today!   SHOW NOTES: Adoption Agency: Life Choices of Memphis What Roz is reading: Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World by Kristen Welch Roz has been featured on the Missional Motherhood blog ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Wren would like to connect with you!   Friends of a Feather Podcast on Instagram, and FB!

Kristen Welch is a busy mother of three who runs the popular blog “We Are That Family” (WeAreThatFamily.com), in addition to a non-profit called Mercy Global House. In 2010, Kristen traveled with Compassion International on a trip to write about poverty in a huge slum. That experience turned her world upside down and led her and her family to start Mercy Global House--an organization that helps empower women and families in Kenya. Kristen wishes to give every family the tools to experience what it’s like to answer the call of the needs in our world, creating community with those in need, and in turn, raising up a new generation of “givers.” Kristen is the author of several books--her latest being Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World. Stay tuned for the entire episode and hear about gift package giveaway featuring Kristen’s new book!    ---------------------------------------------- Show Sponsor: Shipt: Grocery Delivery

MEET KRISTEN: Kristen Welch was born and raised in Texas and she is the author of the parenting blog, We are THAT Family (www.wearethatfamily.com). Author of Rhinestone Jesus and Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, Kristen is the founder of Mercy House, a nonprofit maternity home in Kenya the rescues young pregnant girls from […] The post Raising World Changers :: Kristen Welch {EP 73} appeared first on Declare.

Billie Holiday said, "If I'm going to sing like someone else, then I don't need to sing at all." Mary broke into song after news of Jesus' birth too! How can you sing your song, instead of stress stealing your spark? **This special Advent Podcast** inspires your soul with bestselling author Kristen Welch(We Are That Family, "Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World"): 1) Slow Down & Break the Cycle of Busy to spark God's HOPE 2) Combat discouragement whenever you feel "It's too late!" 3) How to stay inspired, rather than let stress steal your spark 4) Learn the power of "the secret chocolate stash" and how to capture the moments that mean the most to your heart 5)Nurture gratitude in the heart of your child by nurturing your own heart from a place of honesty and vulnerability Plus, I share what I learned this week to live & build the life of the beloved! TOPICS INCLUDE: Letting grace rule your home more than rules or an agenda. Raising a grateful kids or leading an intentional home isn’t not a list do or don’ts or a checklist to do we have to complete. It’s through prayer asking for God for wisdom and guidance. Its’ grace. Learn the power of saying, “I’m sorry. This is hard for me too. Will you forgive me. Let’s figure this out together." Rather than doing the right thing, do the holy thing. Parenting from a place of honesty and vulnerability.

Today we have a show on a topic sorely missing in our society today — gratitude. We can all benefit from hearing the secret to what it takes to be grateful. I interview Kristen Welch, founder of the blog, “We are THAT Family” and Author of the book, Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World. Whether you have kids or not you’re going to learn the importance of having the right perspective on all of our circumstances. You can learn more by going to www.wearethatfamily.com or www.raisinggratefulkids.com The post Author Kristen Welch appeared first on Home Front with Cynthia Davis.

Amy McCready, author of The Me, Me, Me Epidemic. Topic: A guide to raising capable, grateful kids in an over-entitled world Issues: Signs that you may have an entitlement problem in your home; how to hand over age-appropriate decision making; how to cut back on giving in; offering real-life support to your kids; and much […] The post Raising Capable, Grateful Kids In an Over-Entitled World + The Defiant Child appeared first on Mr. Dad.

Grounded all summer - what a bummer for having a messy room. Today on Ask a House Cleaner a kid writes in grounded for not "cleaning my room." The House Cleaning Guru, Angela Brown gives advice for kids. And tips for parents about grounding, punishment, discipline, and reciprocity. Clean your room - you don't get grounded. But it's more about the privileges associated with obedience than it is the art to negotiate your punishment or make a deal. Get what you want because you follow the rules and are obedient. THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification. COMPLETE SHOW NOTES for this episode found at https://askahousecleaner.com/grounded  RESOURCES FOR THIS EPISODE: Creative Correction - http://amzn.to/2tJz7aI  The New Strong-Willed Child - http://amzn.to/2sHWmSs  The New Dare to Discipline - http://amzn.to/2sHWAsM  Parenting Isn't for Cowards: The 'You Can Do It' Guide for Hassled Parents - http://amzn.to/2urtJGu  Happy Child, Happy Home: Conscious Parenting and Creative Discipline - http://amzn.to/2sHB2Ng  Authentic Parenting - http://amzn.to/2tNSsqR  Grace-Based Parenting - http://amzn.to/2tSK5uW  Raising Kids Who Turn Out Right: Building Character for Life - http://amzn.to/2tSKopA  Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World - http://amzn.to/2tSsXFz  Parenting a Teen Girl: A Crash Course on Conflict, Communication, and Connection with Your Teenage Daughter - http://amzn.to/2tKqk8q  DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE? https://youtu.be/J5HNFjqJKQ4  GOT A QUESTION for the show? There is a microphone at http://askahousecleaner.com/show click on the blue button and record. HOUSE CLEANING TIPS VAULT (VIP Premium Tips – Free) https://savvycleaner.com/tips FOLLOW SAVVY CLEANER FOR TIPS AND TRAINING ON SOCIAL MEDIA https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner https://Linkedin.com/in/SavvyCleaner Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Learn how to clean and what chemicals to use on various surfaces. Learn the fastest way to start a cleaning business as well as marketing and advertising tips to grow your cleaning service. Ever wonder how to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids? We’ve got you covered from recruiting to employee motivation and retention tactics. Discover strategies to boost your cleaning clientele and how to provide outstanding customer service. And we’ve got time-saving hacks for DIY home cleaners and more. Hosted by Angela Brown, 25-year house cleaning expert and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. DISCLAIMER: During the shows we recommend services, sites, and products to help you improve your cleaning and grow your cleaning business. We have partnerships or sponsorships with these companies to provide you with discounts, and savings. By clicking on and buying from these links we may receive a commission which helps pay for the production costs of the show. Support the show so we can continue to bring you free tips and strategies to improve your cleaning and help you grow your cleaning business. THANK YOU! SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS: We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry reach out to our promotional department info[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com

On today’s episode we chat with one of our favorite writers and humans, Kristen Welch! Kristen blogs at www.weareTHATfamily.com, she’s written a couple of books {two of which are on Lyn’s list of the BEST books eva!} Rhinestone Jesus and How to Raise Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, AND she founded a non profit in Kenya […]

In this episode of the Business with Purpose podcast, I had the UNBELIEVABLE privilege and honor to sit down with Kristen Welch and Maureen Kaderi of Mercy House. Kristen is a blogger and author… she blogs at We are THAT Family and has written Rhinestone Jesus and Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World. Maureen Kaderi is the ... Read More about EP 9 Part 1: Kristen Welch (WeAreTHATFamily.com) & Maureen Kaderi – Mercy House Global

In this episode of the Business with Purpose podcast, I had the UNBELIEVABLE privilege and honor to sit down with Kristen Welch and Maureen Kaderi of Mercy House. Kristen is a blogger and author… she blogs at We are THAT Family and has written Rhinestone Jesus and Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World. Maureen Kaderi is the ... Read More about EP 9 Part 1: Kristen Welch (WeAreTHATFamily.com) & Maureen Kaderi – Mercy House Global

Kristen Welch knows firsthand it’s not that easy. In fact, she’s found out that when you say yes too often, it’s not only hard on your peace of mind and your wallet―it actually puts your kids at long-term risk. Today she's joining me on the podcast (in part 2 of 2) to talk about this, because it matters how we raise the next generation. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/heidistjohn/support

My guest for Happy Hour #109 is Jana Magruder. Jana serves as the Director of LifeWay Kids and offers a wealth of experience and passion for kids ministry, education, and publishing.  She has written award-winning curricula, both interactive and traditional in nature, for the state of Texas, IMAX films and international authors, as well as churches and ministries.  She is also the author of Kids Ministry that Nourishes and co-author of Life Verse Creative Journal, which she wrote with her teen daughter. Jana and her husband, Michael, along with their three kids made the journey from their home state of Texas to Tennessee where they serve in their local church and enjoy exploring the great city of Nashville!  In today's conversation, Jana and I chat about her role at LifeWay, creating curriculum for children's ministries across the country. She does a great job defining and explaining gospel-centered parenting and what that looks like in her family. We talk about the Austin Stone's new children's album releasing this Friday (you can pre-order here!). And of course, we have to chat about Willie Nelson, Coldplay, Ke$ha and a quick review on some Nashville restaurants. Make sure to check out Jana's books listed below and her podcast with LifeWay Kids. And don't forget to pre-order Only Jesus today! {You can listen to the showHERE. And of course, I would love if you would share with your friends. Just use the FB & Twitter links at the end of this post!} Links from the Show Austin Stone Community Church LifeWay Only Jesus Jana's Podcast: LifeWay Kids Podcast Happy Hour #76: Sally Lloyd Jones Life Verse Creative Journal Set by Jana Magruder & Morgan Grace Magruder + Raising Grateful Kids in An Entitled World by Kristen Welch + Talk Like Ted by Carmine Gallo + Kids Ministry That Nourishes by Jana Magruder + Jesus Storybook Bible by Sally Lloyd Jones + The Story of God's Love for You by Sally Lloyd Jones Nashveille Restaurants: Red Bicycle, Silo, Barista Parlor and Butchertown Hall What Jana is loving: Being over 40 years old, La Croix Cucumber Blackberry, and teaching 4th grade girls Music from Jason Poe Connect with Jana Twitter Connect with Jamie Facebook // Twitter // Instagram Sponsors: JellyTelly JellyTelly is the only streaming video app designed just for kids - where God is real and his word is true! With more than 100 shows for Christian kids including VeggieTales, Friends and Heroes, What’s In The Bible, and more - JellyTelly gives you safe screen time for your littles to help them grow in their faith! If you want to do devotionals with your kids but you’re not sure where to start, JellyTelly has a fun and easy way for your family to experience devotionals together - the 5 Minute Family devotional - 16 video devotionals that make it easy to talk to your kids about Jesus. You don’t have to subscribe to JellyTelly to get the devotionals - you can sign up for free at jellytelly.com/devotionals. WestRock Coffee Westrock Coffee is a brand that is changing lives by providing coffee that you'll be proud to choose for your home. Their focus is to be a catalyst for real change in the lives of farmers and their families by paying a fair price for the coffee in their delicious blends and offering farmers training to enhance the quality and quantity of their crops. Most of us will enjoy a cup (or two, or three) of coffee each day, some of us without even knowing which brand we chose. Choose Westrock Coffee's delicious coffees that are truly changing lives. Find Westrock Coffee at your local Kroger or go to Westrockcoffee.com to find out where you can add Westrock to your grocery list.

Kristen Welch knows firsthand it’s not that easy. In fact, she’s found out that when you say yes too often, it’s not only hard on your peace of mind and your wallet―it actually puts your kids at long-term risk. Today she's joining me on the podcast (in part 1 of 2) to talk about this, because it matters how we raise the next generation. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/heidistjohn/support

Amy McCready, the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and the author of The Me, Me, Me Epidemic: A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World, is the featured guest this week. Amy is a frequent guest on the TODAY Show. She has also appeared on CNN, Fox News, MSNBC and many other stations. But now she is on the ParentNormal Comedy Podcast to talk about how to know if your child is too entitled and what you can do about it. We also talk about positive parenting techniques, even when it comes to discipline.

Times have Changed – Rev. Mitch Kolls Scripture – Romans 12:2

Today we have a show on a topic sorely missing in our society today — gratitude. We can all benefit from hearing the secret to what it takes to be grateful. I interview Kristen Welch, founder of the blog, “We are THAT Family” and Author of the book, Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World. Whether you have kids or not you’re going to learn the importance of having the right perspective on all of our circumstances. You can learn more by going to www.wearethatfamily.com or www.raisinggratefulkids.com The post How to Raise Grateful Kids in an Entitlement World appeared first on Home Front with Cynthia Davis.

We've had an interesting discussion in the private FB group (you can join here: http://www.jasonstapleton.com/facebook) about how best to spread liberty here in the United States. Should we spend our days trying to convert our friends, family and co-workers or should we focus on solving big issues and coming up with "solutions."I think most of you know I believe Liberty has a messaging problem. This extends into the libertarian party which should be the torch bearers of that message.Although I have been a libertarian for a long time, the show is only a little over a year old and although I'm already being called a "Celebritarian" I am fairly new to the public scene.In that very short period, I have been able to amass an audience most libertarian voices would envy. Not only that a large portion of my viewers and listeners are POL's (Person other than libertarian).So what's the secret to reaching those looking for a better solution than a Trump or Sanders? Well, in today's episode I'm going to tell you.I don't know if I'm right or not, but I know what we're doing is working. The message is growing, and we're growing in number. I hope you can take some of the ideas away with you and use them in your life. Lord knows we need more people spreading the message.Support the show.

Are you concerned your kids won't be the people you'd like them to be when they grow up?  Is there a constant struggle to get them to listen and respect you?  This podcast is filled with great advice on raising respectful kids in today's high tech engaged world. Raising kids today is not easy.  There are so many distractions that it's hard for parents to really connect with their kids.  That connection with a child and parent is so important, not only while they are young, but also when it comes time for them to take on the world on their own.  We want our kids to realize that you can't get what you want all the time, especially in the real world. In today's podcast, I have the pleasure of speaking with Amy McCready.  Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time...  and The Me, Me, Me Epidemic!  She is a regular parenting contributor on The Today Show and has also appeared on Rachael Ray, CBS This Morning, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, Steve Harvey, and elsewhere. Her most important role is playing mom to two teenage boys. Amy and I discuss some great ways to help our kids have healthy attitudes and be respectful in or outside of the home.  We talk about setting limits for our kids and to make sure that consequences are set in place.  Many parents struggle with telling their kids no, and today Amy talks about how we as parents can take control and raise confident, respectful and responsible kids.  Kids today need parents that empower them to do better and make a difference. Amy has amazing tips to help parents make a positive impact on their kids that will help them for the rest of their lives. Resources: Positive Parenting Solutions Amy's books The Me, Me, Me Epidemic  Did you enjoy the show? Please leave a review on iTunes! E-mail me at podcast@momables.com to tell me what you thought of this week’s show and to offer suggestions for future episodes.