Podcasts about hate your husband after kids

Happy Monday, readers! Today, Jake and Brooke are joined by Corina (host of "Lessons from the Couch") to talk about love, intimacy, marriage - and how James Dobson gets it all wrong. Things get wild when 3 therapists talk shit about another clinician. You know us, famous for getting wild on this blog.Listen to "Lessons from the Couch" wherever you get your podcasts!Book referrals:"8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love" by Drs. John and Julie Gottman"Come As You Are" by Dr. Emily Nagoski"Hold me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love" by Dr. Sue Johnson"How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids" by Jancee DunnReferences:Brittle, Z. (2015, July 30). Committment. The Gottman Institue. https://www.gottman.com/blog/commitment/Carothers, Bobbi and Harry Reis. “Men and Women Are from Earth: Examining the Latent Structure of Gender,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 104, no. 2 (2013). Gaspard, T. (2019, April 24). What to Do if You Don't Trust Each Other. The Gottman Institute. https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-to-do-if-you-dont-trust-each-other/George, M. B. (2025, February 5). What Do Trust and Commitment Look Like in a Relationship? The Gottman Institute. https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-does-trust-and-commitment-look-like-in-a-relationship/James, D., & Drakich, J. (1993). Understanding gender differences in amount of talk: A critical review of research. In D. Tannen (Ed.), Gender and conversational interaction (pp. 281–312). Oxford University Press. What is the Sound Relationship House​​? (2020, November 30). The Gottman Institute. https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house/Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/mood-maze/trendsetterLicense code: 9OT2MTBHWWSRZP5S Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this podcast episode, Melissa Fairhurst, a therapist specializing in maternal mental health, shares her journey towards becoming a therapist and her passion for helping others. She discusses her background, including being the youngest and only girl in her family, and how it shaped her. Melissa also talks about her specialization in maternal mental health and the experiences that led her to focus on supporting expecting and postpartum moms. The conversation touches on topics such as self-awareness, the challenges of motherhood, the importance of support, and the need for education and awareness about perinatal mental health. Melissa offers advice for moms and emphasizes the importance of self-care and seeking help when needed. This episode is part of a month-long series on Motherhood, Pregnancy, and Mental Health. “Even if you don't fit the criteria of postpartum anxiety or postpartum depression, it doesn't mean that you still don't need a place to put whatever you're feeling. You don't need a diagnosis to get help.” - Melissa Fairhurst Links: Christie's Website Christie's Instagram: @sasssays Sign up to Join us for a LIVE ZOOM PANEL on July 31st at 1pm Melissa on PsychologyToday.com Melissa's Instagram: @melissa_ann_lpc Ep 90 Meredith Huck How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Motherhood, Pregnancy, and Mental Health Series: Ep 157 Dr. Nicole Rankins, Board Certified OB/GYN Ep 158 Christie Rocha, My Pregnancy & Mental Health Experience Ep 159 Kristine McGlinchey, Intuitive Mentor Ep 160 Christie Rocha, My First Oracle Card Experience  

We don't have to go the route of calling her a "single mom" or compare to any other life for that matter. Military life as a spouse and mom is HARD in many ways where comparison only takes us further from the support these mothers need. Let's just honor what they're individually going through and help them in any way we can! The first step is learning about their lives and the challenges they face. Along with the triumphs! And this is where my special guest comes in... Today, Ashley Falkos helps us understand her life as a military spouse and mother. To debunk the stereotypes. Explain shat her life was versus now that her husband is recently retired. We talk about the realities she faced but also the wins that she discovered that worked for her & her family. Her communication lessons, avoiding resentment, involvement of her husband, creating community, fulfilling both roles at times, misunderstandings about military life, and her recommendations on how to help your marriage survive through it all. I hope you enjoy this episode and all Ashley offers. Feel free to share with a military mom so she knows she's not alone. Thank you for listening and let me know how this episode affected you. Mom Card Drawing of the Week: "Dare to believe: That you are a wonderful, unique person. That you are a once-in-all history event." -Unknown Ashley's Favorite Things & Resources: Brene Brown, "The Home Edit" podcast, "Best Friend Energy" podcast, "I Mom So Hard" book & podcast. Tiny Beans photo sharing app. "Holderness Family" podcast. "Courage Up" podcast. "We Can Do Hard Things" podcast and "Untamed" book both by Glennon Doyle. Babycenter.com emails. "How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids" book by Jancee Dunn. Join a MOPS group in your local community. New mom support groups on your military base. Joining an in-person fitness studio (with childcare!) like her favorite, SPENGA. Find a studio near you at www.spenga.com. Ashley Falkos is a Marine wife, mama of 2 little girls, stepmom to a high school boy, and literacy advocate. She is a former elementary school teacher, a reading specialist for over a decade, a private tutor, and brand rep with the publishing company, PaperPie. She grew up in Geneva, IL and ran track in high school, and also in college. She loves to workout at SPENGA, read, spend time with friends, binge Netflix, and take hot bubble baths for self-care. When she isn't presuming the role of mom taxi, you can most likely find her sipping a coffee! Because, coffee is life. Reach out to her on Instagram to learn more at @afalkos !

New York Times health writer, Jancee Dunn, is a connoisseur when it comes to writing about cutting-edge research and scientific information. Her articles and books are based on exhaustive interviews with multiple experts, yet she manages to make them read like edgy sitcoms. Her new book, Hot and Bothered: What No One Tells You About Menopause and How to Feel Like Yourself Again is anything but dry. And as an investigative reporter and New York Times bestselling author of eight books, including How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids,- it's no surprise that she has once again, gotten it exactly right. In this episode, I sit down with Jancee to discuss her experience when she entered perimenopause how she was blindsided by being "hot and bothered", and what she learned along the way.   Jancee Dunn is the columnist for Well at the New York Times. She is also a New York Times bestselling author of eight books, including How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids, which was published in twelve languages. She writes about health and science for publications such as Vogue, The Wall Street Journal, and The Guardian. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and daughter. Jancee Dunn Instagram: @JanceeDunn Jancee Dunn Books:  https://www.amazon.com/Books-Jancee-Dunn/s?rh=n%3A283155%2Cp_27%3AJancee+Dunn Hot and Bothered: What No One Tells You About Menopause and How to Feel Like Yourself Again https://www.amazon.com/Hot-Bothered-Tells-Menopause-Yourself/dp/B0BBWN4F9P/ref=sr_1_3?qid=1682533616&refinements=p_27%3AJancee+Dunn&s=books&sr=1-3 Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine, and the founding medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause. She is a certified menopause practitioner of the North American Menopause Society.  Sign up to receive DR. STREICHER'S FREE NEWSLETTER Dr. Streicher is the medical correspondent for Chicago's top-rated news program, the WGN Morning News, and has been seen on The Today Show, Good Morning America, The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, NPR, Dr. Radio, Nightline, Fox and Friends, The Steve Harvey Show, CBS This Morning, ABC News Now, NBCNightlyNews,20/20, and World News Tonight. She is an expert source for many magazines and serves on the medical advisory board of The Kinsey Institute, Self Magazine, and Prevention Magazine. She writes a regular column for The Ethel by AARP and Prevention Magazine.  Subscribe and Follow Dr. Streicher on  DrStreicher.com Instagram @DrStreich Twitter @DrStreicher Facebook  @DrStreicher YouTube  DrStreicherTV Books by Lauren Streicher, MD  Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina-A gynecologist's guide to eliminating post-menopause dryness and pain Hot Flash Hell: A Gynecologist's Guide to Turning Down the Heat Sex Rx- Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy

Today's topic is weaponized incompetence. If you aren't familiar with the term, stay tuned and learn more with us. I'm thrilled to be joined again by Dr. Lesley Cook, who is a psychologist and good friend. She lives in Virginia and works mostly with neurodivergent kids, adolescents, and adults. Join us for the conversation! Show Highlights: An explanation of “weaponized incompetence” and what it means How weaponized incompetence applies to the division of household labor  The key to analyzing weaponized incompetence: Why is it happening? Why this is a tricky topic, especially for those who are neurodivergent and feel challenged Why dignity should be preserved in these conversations with a partner Why it's OK to set boundaries even if someone is unintentionally hurting you Ways to solve problems without shame or blame The difference in functional barriers and weaponized incompetence How to talk through solutions and support for a partner How “maternal gatekeeping” plays into the dynamic Why couples need to have conversations about care tasks, household chores, and childcare BEFORE they have kids Why there is a difference between weaponized incompetence and learned helplessness Dr. Lesley's tips: “Approach your partner in good faith, open up the conversation, and ask for collaboration in finding something that works better for BOTH partners.” Why the question should be, “Is exploitation happening?” Why you can't go on appearances regarding a division of labor How to begin the approach with a partner or child: “This isn't working for me; how can we figure this out together?” Resources: Connect with Dr. Lesley: TikTok and Instagram Connect with KC: TikTok and Instagram Get KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning Helpful resources mentioned in this episode:  How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn  Fair Play by Eve Rodsky       The Sensory Child Gets Organized by Carolyn Dalgliesh      Ready for Take-Off by Theresa E. Laurie Maitland and Patricia O. Quinn                  A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD by Sari Solden, Michelle Frank, and Ellen Littman

Today we talk with Lindsey Hockel, speech pathologist and owner of Speechy Things.  Lindsey is an expert in many areas, but in this episode we talk about her expertise in the speech sound "r" and how she landed in that space.  We talk about her business Speechy Things, the Teachers pay Teachers platform, motherhood, her mysterious cool-girl side and stint as a barista, and even some minivan discussion.  Learn, laugh and see why we LOVE Lindsey Hockel!Info referenced in the episode:Children's Consonant Acquisition in 27 Languages: A Cross-Linguistic Review | American Journal of Speech-Language Pathology (asha.org)staRt - Speech Therapist's app for "r" treatmentLindsey's “r” cue databasehttps://speechythings.com/r-sound-cue-database/Current podcasts:The Birds Papaya and Good Inside with Dr. BeckyLibro.fm listens:How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Atomic Habits by James ClearCheck out more information and all of our resources at www.thespeechsource.comFollow The Speech Source on Instagram - @thespeechsource

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In this episode, I introduce you to Corey and Stoney, the two new Peaceful Parenting Coaches here at Sarah Rosensweet Peaceful Parenting. We chat about our peaceful parenting journeys as well as our most influential parenting books over the years.   We go into: [1:45] Introducing Corey to the team [3:10] Introducing Stoney to the team [5:50] Sarah's most influential parenting books [8:35] Corey's most influential parenting books [13:00] Stoney's most influential parenting books [24:30] The importance of equal partnership [32:50] What to do if you're struggling with burnout    Resources mentioned in this episode Episode 24: Coaching call with Corey: When Peaceful Parenting Wasn't Enough Episode 47: Shame-Proof Parenting with Mercedes Samudio Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Marham  Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn  Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn   Shame Proof Parenting by Mercedes Samudio  Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne  The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne  Raising Human Beings by Ross Greene  Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky  Fair Play by Eve Rodsky  Impossible Parenting by Olivia Scobie  How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn  All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and The Myth of Equal Partnership by Darcy Lockman  Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

It's OK to say this out loud. There will be days where you are shooting daggers out to your partner because you feel they aren't helping enough, doing what you need, supporting you the way you want to be supported now that you're BOTH parents. They get to go back to work. You have to go back to work and they get to be home with the baby. You're doing all the housework while they get home at 7pm and are the "fun parent". They don't do it like you do it. They're so relaxed and you're full of anxiety. There are so many unique scenarios that whirl around our postpartum minds that create resentment, which can eventually lead to other dangerous emotions. In this week's episode, we talk about my own resentment- that my husband doesn't even know about. It was my own shit I was dealing with, my stories I was creating, the fears & anxieties that stopped me, my inability to detach, my unrealistic expectations that I wasn't even communicating, along with my assumptions. My communication skills were worse than my infant's. At least she was crying to let us know she was pissed. I held it all in and my resentment grew into something it didn't have to be. I want to help you avoid what I did as a new mom. Because resentment doesn't just stop after infancy. It can carry on throughout your partnership if you don't find some solid communication skills to share with your partner so you can avoid the road I traveled. Or worse. Share this episode with your best friend, sister, or partner if that can break the ice to you both talking about this very unique change in your lives and partnership. It isn't all bliss or making your marriage even more "magical"... there's some hard shit to deal with and situations that challenge your relationship more than you can imagine. And no one is talking about it. Until now. Thank you for listening, sharing, and connecting with me to share your honest motherhood journey. Enjoy this episode!!! Connect with Michelle: www.michellemansfieldauthor.com Instagram: @thehonestmompodcast Facebook Group: The Honest Mom Project Mom Quote of the Week: "Hope holds up the head." - Scottish Proverb Article: Romper: https://www.romper.com/pregnancy/resenting-your-partner-after-baby-why Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-not-hate-your-husband-after-kids-with-jancee-dunn/id1495723599?i=1000463783457 Book: "How to not Hate Your Husband After Kids" by Jancee Dunn and "To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma" by Molly Millwood These are a few of my Favorite Things: https://ren-jord.com all natural hair products. Choose their Balancing Hair Tonic, Renewing Oil Treatment, Lift & Refresh Dry Shampoo and Coastal Sea Salt Spray. MUST HAVES!!!

On this episode, Jamie and Emily discuss maternal gatekeeping. This is a concept that addresses a mother's protective beliefs regarding their partner's involvement in their children's life (especially in infancy)— more specifically, the behaviors between parents that support or restrict co-parenting. Jamie and Emily relive their dos and don'ts of maternal gatekeeping with personal stories. Link to book a nursing consult: https://www.nurturebynaps.com/phone-consult Referenced in this episode: How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids https://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/1784754773/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1647360371&sr=1-1 Follow us on IG @nurturebynaps.

I have another guest, Jess Wang! Jess and I talk all things communication in marriage - about how saying you never fight isn't as great as some people think, how scheduling intimacy can be beneficial, and how to get ahead of conflict by asking some v simple questions. If you're married, or even just curious about marriage struggles, this is the episode for you :) Resources: How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn To Have and To Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood Small Things Often Podcast  Jess Wang's Instagram @_jesswang

Jenna Marion (She/Her) is a stay-at-home mom of three young boys, an IPSP Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant, IACSC member, Certified Lactation Counselor and owner of REMedy Pediatric Sleep Coaching. After leaving the corporate world as a project manager for a nonprofit health information and technology association, she immersed herself in the new mom community and found her passion for supporting new parents. Jenna lives in Westbrook, Maine with her three sons, Michael, Jack and Matthew, husband, Jeff and miniature Dachshund, Harmony. Themes covered in today's episode: Age appropriate wake windows and building up “sleep pressure” Setting up a sleep conducive environment The physiological reason behind sleep regressions When to start introducing sleep routines and how to implement them Looking for baby's sleepy cues Naps: how many and how long? Sleep cycles and neurological changes Sleep associations: good vs. “bad” habits Tips to navigate schedule disruptors Stimulation vs. overstimulation and how that impacts sleep Baby's need for nutritive sucking What is independent sleep? Mackenzi's Key Takeaway: “Don't force anything, trust your gut, be flexible, and give yourself and your baby some grace.” Get in touch with Jenna: Email: hello@remedysleepcoach.com Website: www.remedysleepcoach.com Instagram: @remedysleep Jenna's Favorite Place in Maine: Camden, ME and restaurant in Rockland: www.primorestaurant.com Jenna's Main(e) Tip for Moms: “Ask for help and accept help when offered.” Extra Resources Jenna recommends: Book: How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Website: www.pstprtm.com Local businesses: Birthroots in Portland, ME (Instagram: @birthrootsportlandme) and Maine Mother and Company in Brunswick, ME (Instagram: @mainemotherandcompany) Podcasts: Good Inside with Dr. Becky, Parenting Beyond Discipline, Respectful Parenting with Janet Lansbury, Voices of Your Village, and Myth of Motherhood --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Sigo a Romina Castro en Instagram (@yacallateromina) y me fascina su contenido. Ella es co-host en un podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/0QvnG6DDqAwYs9lLclUiZP?si=3cZpJpC2R-6lwSMf25gVyg ((Disculpen los Ovarios)) y además tiene un libro: https://www.amazon.com/%C2%A1Oh-Menos-cuentos-m%C3%A1s-orgasmos-ebook/dp/B084DBMJDB (-Oh Sí, Menos Cuentos, Más Orgasmos), que me encantó, y lo usé como punto de partida para el contenido de este episodio. Me parecía importante hablar de este tema porque nos han vendido que nuestro libido y la sexualidad en la pareja es algo que pasa mágicamente, y pues no es así. Aquí nos comparte tips maravillosos para tener una vida sexual soñada, porque adivinen... toca llevarla con mucha intención. En este episodio les menciono el libro: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Worth-Making-Ridiculously-Long-Lasting/dp/1250113113 (Love Worth Making: How to have ridiculously great sex in a long-lasting relationship. ) https://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids-ebook/dp/B01HZFB4WU/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1622758972&sr=1-1 (How not to hate your husband after kids) __________________________________ Te invito a participar del https://www.aniesk.com/taller (Taller Con Intención): Date un tiempo para alinear tu ser con tu hacer. Vamos a mirar hacia adentro para enfocar nuestra energía hacia los deseos de nuestra alma, para luego organizar nuestro hacer en ellos.  Te prometo una experiencia de la cual saldrás inspirada, renovada y activada.  ¿Cuándo?: Sábado, 24 de julio de 9am a 12pm ¿Dónde? Parque Omar https://www.aniesk.com/taller (Haz tu registro aquí. ) ___________________________ Romina es psicóloga sexóloga con master en salud sexual y sexología clínica. Autora del libro oh si menos cuentos mas orgasmos, creadora de la cuenta @yacallateromina, co-host del podcast Disculpen los ovarios y conferencista Y charlista De educación sexual.

Alex and Shane chat about getting back to normal life, Betty turning one, getting out of the "baby" phase, and the downsides of vacation time.    Author of "How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids," Jancee Dunn, shares her knowledge about maternal gatekeeping, how to argue with your spouse, how to avoid feelings of resentment, and gives some advice for getting your relationship back on track after kids enter the picture.   @MommyLabourNurse AKA Liesel Teen discusses her own birth experiences, cord clamping, tearing, myth-busts labour and delivery rumours, and compares medicated/unmedicated birthing.    Listener questions are answered in the mailbag segment, hitting topics like thinking about other relationships, baby names, creating comedy TikToks, the most important qualities we want to instill in our daughters, what constitutes being a good parent, and travelling with a poorly sleeping baby.   . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .    This episode is proudly supported by:   The Dove Self Esteem Project is the worlds largest provider of self-esteem education. Dove has partnered with educators around the world to provide evidence-based printable resources to help young girls and boy's reach their full potential. You can find those at https://bit.ly/36FQxbd   Mabel's Labels - visit www.mabelslabels.ca to start creating your very own labels, and use promo code THISFAMILYTREE15 for 15% your order!   Mini Mioche - use promo code THISFAMILYTREE15 at www.minimioche.com for 15% off of your ethically made, organic, and sustainable kids' apparel.   Tushy - Get 10% off and FREE shipping (avail in Canada & US) for your very own Hello Tushy 3.0 bidet attachment at www.hellotushy.com/THISFAMILYTREE.    Bravado Designs - Use promo code THISFAMILYTREE20 for 20% off of what will become your favourite nursing bra at www.bravadodesigns.com, or try their new Everyday Collection (not nursing bras/no clips) at ca.bravadodesigns.com.   Seedlip - Go to www.seedlipdrinks.com or www.seedlipdrinks.ca, and use promo code THISFAMILYTREE10 for 10% off the world's first nonalcoholic spirit!   My Brest Friend - Buy the #1 choice of nursing pillow by moms and lactation consultants, at www.buybuybaby.com, www.target.com, www.walmart.com, and www.babylist.com! 

It's a bonus episode! Hey Startup Marketing listeners! I've had so many changes the past two months, that I decided to do a bonus episode. Today it's just me and this episode has been percolating in my heart and mind for a long time. It's my personal story and I hope that I'm able to capture and highlight all the reasons why I believe this is the start of a very important conversation that I can help lead. I'm going to start with the most exciting part about all of these changes and then kinda walk you through my rationale for them and the lessons I've learned over the past year and a half that led me to make my choice.  I recently started a position as the director of marketing for a startup called PayRecs where we offer an online app to help automate and simplify international payments for financial institutions. For the past year I've been trying as hard as possible to NOT be a financial marketer, but it seems I just can't escape it! I guess when you're good at something you should lean into it? IDK, more on that thought later.  So, what enticed me enough to take a full time position when I already have my own business? There were a lot of things that went into this decision: The economic impact of covid on my family My desire to be a part of an awesome project My ability to focus more on the parts of my business I love rather than prospecting So much more I hope my story shows you that an entrepreneurial journey looks different for everyone. Sources for the statistics I cite: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/03/17/the-pandemic-has-highlighted-many-challenges-for-mothers-but-they-arent-necessarily-new/ (Pew Research Study) https://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/0316267104 (How Not to Hate Your Husband) - the phenomenon of why men's responsibilities in the household haven't increased while women's responsibilities outside it have https://heymama.co/motherhood-on-the-resume/ (Labor statistics) Find me on social https://www.linkedin.com/company/authenticbranding/ (LinkedIn) https://www.facebook.com/getauthenticbranding (Facebook) https://www.pinterest.com/katlynnpyatt/_created/ (Pinterest) https://www.instagram.com/authenticbranding/ (Instagram) Email me: katlynn@getauthenticbranding.com

New season new episode! Today on Raising Healthy Mothers I'm talking about exactly why we feel so exhausted as mums. It's a bit of a cliche that mums are tired and while for the most part we are simply expected to do way too much in a way that we never would for most of our history, there are lifestyle and diet factors that further affect our overall feeling of exhaustion and fatigue, factors that are modifiable.   In the episode I'll cover: Why you feel so exhausted as a mum How what you eat (and what you don't eat!) is contributing to how you're feeling The signs to look out for that show you need to have a re-think of how you're eating My three top tips to boost your energy with your diet - starting immediately.   Mothering is really hard, and staying on top of what you eat is one more thing on your list of Things To Do. But it doesn't have to be complicated, and sometimes just some small tweaks can make all the difference.   To help you on the way, I've designed a 5-day meal plan that covers a lot of the bases I talk about in the episode. And in the interest of keeping things easy, I've included recipes, a shopping list  and even a meal prep guide, so you just have to set aside two hours at the weekend, get everything prepped and you've got all you  need for the week ahead. Download the meal plan here.   Mentioned in the podcast: How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Podcast episode: 5 Steps to Better Sleep {S2E3} Podcast episode: The 6 Micronutrients Every New Mum Needs to Know About {S3E10} --- Busy Mum? Download my free 5-day Family Friendly Meal Plan and Prep Guide Soon to give birth? Download my Guide to Eating During Labour and Postnatal Healing Recipes e-Book Want more energy? Get my 7-day Mini Course straight to your inbox - for all mums whether you're pregnant, recently given birth or running around after a toddler. Sign up for my newsletter and free downloads Follow me on Instagram #raisinghealthymothers Did you love this episode? Please leave a rating and review to help reach more people, and share it with a friend who needs it. The more mums we can reach the better! 

We’re so thrilled to have Dr. Whitney Casares (“Dr. Whitney”), creator of the popular “The Modern Mommy Doc” website with us for today’s interview! Join us as we dive into the topics around new parenthood and self-care, and discuss her newest book, The Working Mom Blueprint, which will be released May 11, 2021. Whitney Casares, M.D., M.P.H., F.A.A.P. is a pediatrician and a mom to two young girls in Portland, Oregon. After completing her undergraduate degree in journalism, she completed her medical school training at the University of Vermont and her pediatrics residency training at Stanford University. She also holds a Master of Public Health in Maternal and Child Health from the University of California, Berkeley.  She cares for children and adolescents as a full-time, board-certified pediatrician in Portland, Oregon. She knows from experience what it’s like to welcome a new baby into the world and what it’s like to make sure those babies thrive in their first days, weeks, and months. Show Highlights: Dr. Whitney reveals how her struggles as a new mom lead to her writing a blog, which in turn became her first published book. Having a village of mom-friends and dad-friends around you provides a much-needed network of support. Creating a sustainable framework for herself, where she could be tuned in to her own needs, turned out to work for other moms, too. Learn to say ‘no’ to things that do not serve you. Learn to say ‘yes’ to the things that will give you the reserves that you need. Dr. Whitney offers strategies to streamline your life so that you can have more time and energy for the things that you care about. Self-care: there's a whole new movement around it. Dr. Whitney provides her personal definition of "self-care" and suggests ways to work it into your schedule.   Connect with Dr. Whitney: Check out The Modern Mommy Doc’s website. podcast, Facebook page, and Instagram! Book Mentioned: How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Links/Resources: Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the show to receive every new episode delivered straight to your podcast player every Tuesday. If you enjoyed this episode and believe in our message, then please help us get the word out about this podcast. Rate and Review this show in Apple Podcasts, Stitcher Radio, or Google Play. It helps other listeners find this show. Be sure to connect with us and reach out with any questions/concerns: Facebook Instagram Twitter IEP website This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not to be construed as legal advice specific to your circumstances. If you need help with any legal matters, be sure to consult with an attorney regarding your specific needs.

Happy (early) Mother's Day to all the mamas out there! I truly believe motherhood is one of the greatest gifts, but it is also exhausting and stressful. We all need to care for ourselves, so we can be the best version of ourselves.  I hope you enjoy these ideas to celebrate Mother's Day and beyond.  Book I mentioned- How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Instagram @sustainable.motherhood

Jackie and Libby discuss how their relationships with their husbands evolved during their pregnancies and after they had their sons. How Not to Hate Your After Kidshttps://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/0316267104Commando Dadhttps://www.amazon.com/Commando-Dad-Pregnancy-Dads-Be/dp/1452145520/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=commando+dad&qid=1619191594&s=books&sr=1-2

On this episode, Jamie and Emily sit down for an episode full of laughs, memories, and lessons learned regarding the idea “What is it costing you?”. Major credit for Jancee Dunn, for being the genius behind this concept in her book How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids.  This idea can be applied to pretty much everything...especially parenting. What is it costing you when you leave the house and come home to your happy children in front of the tv? What is it costing you when dad puts the onesie on backwards? What about coming home to your newborn who has not napped all day? What could make your life easier if you actually talked about it with your partner instead of pointing the finger and initiating the argument? The ladies of NAPS talk about when it is time to bite your tongue and when it is time to  appropriately engage in a discussion and offer up a solution, in a productive manner.  Recounted by personal experiences,  Jamie and Emily show you how this concept of “What is it costing you?” impacts your everyday life, sanity, happiness, and freedom --  as a family, and as a mama. You can find us @nurturebynaps on IG

About Emily Silver, MS, NP-C, IBCLC:Emily Silver is a Family Nurse Practitioner and International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). She received her undergraduate degree in nursing from Boston College and started her career as a nurse in General Medicine, and then worked as a Labor and Delivery nurse while completing her graduate degree as a Nurse Practitioner from UMass Boston.After graduating, Emily put her degree to work practicing as Women's Health NP for an OB/GYN in Brookline. All the while, Emily was running NAPS with Jamie as a side hustle since 2011, and finally decided to follow her true passion and run NAPS full time with Jamie in 2017.Emily is most passionate about educating and supporting families through NAPS in a way that makes them feel confident, comfortable and free of judgment in all of their parenting decisions. She is so relatable when working with clients, pulling from her own experiences from pregnancy and the early parenting stages as a mother of two girls, Grace (age 5) and Madelyn (age 3).Emily lives in Charlestown, MA with her husband, two kids, and dog, Maisey.Topics Covered:Boston NAPSHow Common is Postpartum Anxiety / Depression?Societies StigmaStrategies for AnxietyAsking for Help is a Learned SkillGrieving Your Pre-Baby LifePodcast & Book RecommendationsWhat Makes You Feel Like You?Strategies for Mom's who Struggle with Anxiety:https://www.nurturebynaps.com/blog-posts/2021/27/1/strategies-for-moms-who-struggle-with-anxietyBooks by Emily Oster:https://www.amazon.com/Emily-Oster/e/B00DX5G1A2%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_shareHow Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids:https://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/0316267104Website: https://www.nurturebynaps.com/

Join us as we chat about the ins and outs and ups and downs of building and maintaining relationships using Jancee Dunn’s book, How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids, as a starting point. We laugh knowingly at her assertion that one of the most common arguments that happens between people who cohabitate is about how to load the dishwasher! Sandy regales us with her latest culinary adventures . . . she’s growing her own sprouts, making her own recipes, and using a slower cooker (sort of). Finally, we discuss Sandy’s latest podcast love: Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard. Do you listen to that one too?

Hardly anyone expects to have a hard time with their partner after a baby comes along but, the reality is, most couples struggle. New York Times bestselling author Jancee Dunn tells it like it is in this episode and gives real, sound advice on how to make it better. Jancee was a staff writer at Rolling Stone for over a decade, and a veejay at MTV for five years. She writes for many publications, among them the New York Times, Vogue, Travel and Leisure, Food & Wine, and Parents, and was a columnist for GQ and O, The Oprah Magazine. Follow Jancee: http://www.janceedunn.net/ (www.janceedunn.net) @janceedunn Read her book: https://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/0316267104 (How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids) -- Our online parenting programs are HERE!! In need of some extra support with straight-talk, trustworthy, digestible information to level up your parenting? We've got you, mama! Covering four of the most difficult areas to navigate as a modern mom, these programs are geared toward helping moms overcome the cycle of overwhelm & burnout so they can get back to enjoying motherhood. 

Meredith and Kaytee are back with SO many books my fingers are cramped (this is becoming a theme…). You’ll hear a “bookish moment of the week” from each of us: family presentation at homeschool group and going into a new book completely blind. Next, we discuss our current reads for the week. We’ve got five current reads this week, and they are sci-fi/fantasy heavy, which is WEIRD for us! Lots of strong opinions here! We’ve got an update for you on our Slow But Steady reads and what’s been happening in the past week. Also a short grammar lesson on “Swifties”. For our deep dive this week, we had a number of listeners (and real life friends) request our favorite parenting books. This will span everything from pregnancy/birth to infanthood to growing children to adding siblings. Plus one funny pick for when you just want to laugh it off. Finally, this week, we are Pressing Books into Your Hands. We’ve got books “with caveats” this week. So, stay tuned and listen closely to see if they are actually right for you! As per usual, time-stamped show notes are below with references to every book and resource we mentioned in this episode. If you’d like to listen first and not spoil the surprise, don’t scroll down!  . . . . . 3:26 - A Man Called Ove by Fredrick Backman 3:28 - What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty 3:29 - Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin 6:52 - City of Bones by Cassandra Clare 8:15 - Twilight by Stephanie Meyer 11:17 - Murder in Bloomsbury by D.M. Quincy 12:38 - The Julian Kestrel books by Kate Ross 14:35 - A Girl Like Her by Talia Hibbert 14:45 - Leigh Kramer on Instagram 17:41 - The Passengers by John Marrs 19:30 - Minisode with John Marrs 20:20 - The One by John Marrs 20:34 - The Fifth Season by N.K. Jemison 22:45 - Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkein 25:24 - Hannah Coulter by Wendell Berry 26:10 - North and South by Elizabeth Gaskell 26:40 - On Writing by Stephen King 28:49 - The Path Between the Seas: The Creation of the Panama Canal 1870-1914 by David McCullough 29:34 - The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt 29:39 - Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen 29:47 - The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexander Dumas 30:04 - Persuasion by Jane Austen 30:05 - Anne of Green Gables by LM Montgomery 30:07 - Frankenstein by Mary Shelley 30:17 - A Little Life by Hanya Yanigahara 33:31 - Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg 35:25 - On Becoming Baby Wise by Robert Bucknam and Gary Ezzo 36:05 - The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems by Tracey Hogg 36:29 - Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp 37:22 - Expecting Better by Emily Oster 38:43 - Cribsheet by Emily Oster 39:59 - Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman 40:54 - Baby-Led Weaning by Gill Rapley 42:02 - How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn 42:42 - Episode 10 of Currently Reading 42:44 - Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by David Thomas and Steven James 43:03 - Are My Kids on Track? by Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevithan 43:15 - Triggers by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake 44:31 - Wonder Weeks by Xaviera Plas-Plooij, Frans X. Plooij, and Hetty van de Rijt 44:45 - Wonder Weeks app 46:25 - Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlisch 46:30 - Episode 8 of Currently Reading 46:35 - Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Laura Markham 46:37 - Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings by Laura Markham 47:09 - Parenting, Illustrated with Crappy Pictures by Amber Dusick 48:17 - Kindred by Octavia Butler 48:30 - One Great Book podcast with Anne Bogel (and the link to the Kindred episode) 51:23 - All the Ugly and Wonderful Things by Bryn Greenwood *Please note that all book titles linked above are Amazon affiliate links. Your cost is the same, but a small portion of your purchase will come back to us to help offset the costs of the show. Thanks for your support!*  

Nicole and Jancee get down to business discussing Jancee's New York Times Bestseller, "How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids." The two dive into Jancee's "aha" moment while her husband allowed their daughter to interrupt her interview with Jennifer Hudson to poop, how maternal gatekeeping causes mean to shirk their parenting responsibilities, how parents must model good relationship behavior for their kids, getting schooled by world renowned relationship therapist, Terry Real, and SO MUCH more. Lastly, Jancee gives 5 actionable tips of how we all can not hate our significant others after having kids. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellasmartmuvas/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hellasmartmuvas/support

Vocês namoraram, se casaram e, seguindo o caminho natural da família doriana, vieram os filhos para abençoar a união. Seria um lindo conto de fadas se não fosse pelo balde de água fria chamado realidade: o abismo que se forma entre a maioria dos casais após a chegada dos filhos. . No 13º episódio do Tetas na Mesa, Érica, Dani e Thaís fizeram um crossover com a Daiana Almeida do Gerando Novas Histórias para falar sobre essa nova fase do casal, que vai muito além de dar um check na lista da vida, e viram juntas que não há receita pronta para fazer esse casal se reconectar, muito menos milagre, restando somente muita conversa e vontade de ambos em construir essa nova relação, seja juntos ou separados. . Siga a gente nas redes sociais! Somos o @tetasnamesa no Instagram, Twitter e Facebook. E se você preferir nos mandar um e-mail, envie para tetasnamesa@gmail.com. Queremos te ouvir! Conta pra gente o que achou do episódio e se tem alguma treta que você queira que a gente aborde ou somente nos mande oi, que a gente adora conversar! . Créditos: Edição: Ique Muniz - iquemuniz@gmail.com Música da abertura: Os Tempos Mudam, de Rodrigo Ogi e Lurdez da Luz. . Queimando o Sutiã: Daiana: filme Tully, disponível no Prime Video, tirinhas sobre carga mental da francesa Emma, traduzida para o português pela Bandeira Negra; e série Turma do Peito, no Netflix. Dani: episódio do Mamilos 152 – Sexoterapia. Thaís: perfis no Instagram @clarisleal e @carolteixeira_ sobre sexualidade e @fatigatis, sobre carga mental. Érica: livro How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids, de Jancee Dunn.

In this episode Anniki and Lisa discuss what happens to your relationship after you have kids. Why is it that we often get locked into the same arguments and are there any strategies to break free? Why do some new mothers resent their partner when they try to help and then hate them when they don't? They also discuss the joys of Lidl and why it's often Anniki's friends want to talk about. There's also an interview with US author- Jancee Dunn, who wrote the brilliant book, 'How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids'. She offers up lots of advice on practical things you can do to improve your relationship including some tips she picked up from FBI hostage negotiators. Finally, The Hotbed will be appearing at this year's Camp Bestival so hear details of that too! Keep your eyes on our Instagram account - @thehotbedcollective - for details of a prize draw to win a copy of Jancee's book.Resources:Jancee Dunn's book:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/1784754773/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=jancee+dunn&qid=1554576013&s=gateway&sr=8-1-spell More info on how to communicate more effectively with your other half:https://www.hprc-online.org/articles/performance-strategies-basic-training-for-couples-communication Counselling info:https://www.relate.org.uk Camp Bestival line up and tickets:https://www.campbestival.net See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome to Take the Upgrade with your host Leanne Peterson! On today's episode Leanne is joined by a few members of her book club: Carolina, Rachelle and Natalie, to chat about the best relationship advice they've ever gotten! Specifically they site these three books:   Why You're Not Married ... Yet by Tracy McMillan Act With Love by Russ Harris How to Not Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Our episode today covers so many helpful relationship topics - everything from affection and compassion to communication and compatibility. Thanks for tuning in! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course   Transcript of book club: Leanne Peterson: Hello, and welcome to the Take the Upgrade podcast, where we talk about upgrading your life, and upgrading your experiences one decision at a time. I’m Leanne Peterson. I’m a therapist and life coach, and I’m dedicated to helping you shift the energy in your life to create the experience you want. I love this work, and while I’m passionate about helping other people, I’m also doing the work myself. I created this podcast so you can come along with me on my journey of exploration with the hopes that it will inspire you to see how these principles can be applied in a very real way. With me is my co-host and producer, Natalie Pyles. She’s my self-help groupie, coming along with us on the journey to upgrade. Welcome to the show! Well, hello everyone, and welcome to our book club this month. I’m so excited for this book club, because we did something a little different this month. I’ve selected 3 books for people to read, so if you haven’t had a chance to read them yet, jump on my website, and you’ll see the books. But I had people read 3 books because they really focused on relationships this month. The books that I selected were Why You’re Not Married Yet, and that’s for people who are single and looking for romance. The second book I selected is great for anyone. If you’re single it’s great to get these principles in mind for when you’re in a relationship. If you’re in a relationship they’re great to use in your relationship, and that book is Act With Love. And it’s all about how to do things that work in your relationship at any stage.  The third book is How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids, and I know we all read that book because we all have kids, and we’re all eager to dive into that book. So we had 3 books this month, so if you haven’t had a chance to read them yet, check out the website, and pick a book you want to read, and then let us know on Facebook.  Today, we’re going to talk all about relationships, so we’ve all just read this relationship book, we’re kind of buzzing with advice, and I want everyone to share what’s the best relationship advice they’ve ever got. Then I also want to hear, what’s the thing you’ve struggled with the most in relationships, and this can be in your current relationship, your marriage, or it could be when you were single, when you were dating, what’s something you struggled with. I’m really excited to hear from everyone. We have our lovely book club members back on for this call, and I can’t wait to dive in. We’re going to start this week with Rachelle. Rachelle, I’d love for you to tell me what the best relationship advice you’ve ever gotten is, and what the most challenging thing has been for you. Rachelle Young: So the best relationship advice that I have ever received was from my mother, and it was when I was first married, and she noticed that every time my husband would put his arm around me, or want to hold my hand, I would kind of push him away. I grew up in a family that is not affectionate at all. So we didn’t hug each other, ever. Unless someone’s crying, you don’t hug someone. I can’t even tell you the last time I hugged one of my parents, let alone my siblings. I think maybe when they got married a few years ago. So we’re just not affectionate. We don’t tell each other we love each other. It’s just not, we show each other we love each other in a lot of ways, mostly quality time and acts of service, that kind of a thing.  So words of affirmation and physical touch are definitely not my love languages. My mom noticed that I would kind of push him away, and she pulled me aside one day when we were first married, and said, “You know what? There’s nothing wrong with you being adaptable to allowing him to show you love the way he knows how. And you pushing him away is going to train him to not show you the affection that someday you’ll want. That someday you’ll wish he was showing you.” LP: Oh my gosh, I just got chills as you were saying that, because that’s so powerful. I’m also, like, we’ve heard about your mom a couple times, and I’m like, “We need your mom on the show, because she seems so wise.” RY: Oh my gosh, my mom is the best. She’s awesome. Natalie’s met my mom. She knows. Natalie Pyles: Oh yeah.  RY: But the greatest thing about that advice was that when I was married in my early 20s, and my mom gave me advice, I would always kind of shrug it off as though I knew better. This was the one time that I really took her words to heart, and made an effort. So, no it wasn’t the most comfortable thing when he would put his arm around me, to just kind of accept it, and to allow him to show me that love in the way that he knows how. My husband’s family, I mean if you haven’t been hugged 5 times when you walk into a family event at his side of the family, then somebody’s mad at you. You know, they’re very affectionate. They’re very eager to tell you they love you. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just different from the way I grew up. So I had to kind of accept that, and learn that it was okay to allow him to show me that affection. Then of course it wasn’t ever like I was super uncomfortable. I just prefer my personal space. Now, at first I tolerated it, and then I grew to really love it. So you know, my husband will still, like he’ll walk past me if I’m sitting at the kitchen table or something, and he’ll rub my shoulders. Or he’ll, you know, kiss my cheek or something like that. And it truly does just kind of melt my heart when he does things like that, just little signs that he loves me. That wouldn’t have happened had I not listened to my mom’s advice early on in our marriage, because we’re coming up on 13 years, and I really do cherish the fact that he does those little things to show me that he loves me, whereas before I was annoyed by it. LP: You know, I love the 5 languages of love. That’s another great book. You’re talking a lot about the different languages that we show love, and you know I  think, the thing is, yes we want to communicate to our partners so they show us love in the way we receive it, but like you said, I think it’s important to acknowledge the ways people are showing love, and to realize this is them being affectionate, and them being loving, and it’s kind of like, “Why am I slapping the hand that’s trying to give me something special?” RY: Yes. Absolutely.  LP: Just accept this.  RY: Well, and I didn’t want to push him away, push him away, push him away, and have him stop the habit of showing me that he loves me. Of course, my husband has really stepped up his game and has shown me that he loves me the way that I like to receive love. We’ve done the whole love language book thing, and he’s definitely a physical touch, obviously. So when he does those things, like just hand holding or whatever, it kind of is a reminder to me to love him that way as well. So I kind of like it because it reminds me that yeah, you know, when he walks past and kisses me on the cheek, I can do that the next time I walk past him. Or you know, things like that. So it’s good. Mine is definitely quality time and acts of service. My husband has really stepped up and he’s super helpful.  LP: Nice. So it’s not that you’ve only got one thing, but if you’d shut down that one thing, I think it would have been hard to build, it’s almost like you could build upon what he was already giving, instead of shutting down the thing he was offering, and then expecting him to want to do all these other things. It’s like, no one feels good when they’ve been rejected. RY: Right. LP: And when our attempt to love someone isn’t received, it can really shut us down, and that shame can come into play, too. Like, “Oh, I guess I shouldn’t do that.” RY: I think my mom pointed out, she came from a more physically affectionate family, and it, you know, my dad did not. So it kind of went the way my dad preferred things, was, “I like my personal space. Don’t get in my bubble.” So that’s kind of the way our family grew up, and I think maybe she was coming from a place of regret. I don’t know, that could have been it. I’m glad I listened to her. LP: Right? So wise. What has been the most challenging thing in your relationship history, or life, that you’ve worked with or had to figure out? RY: My most challenging has been communication with my husband. That is something that we constantly work on, because I’m an over-communicator, and like I spoke about last time, I confront the problem so we’re not avoiding the elephant in the room. I want to just be direct and work through things, and my husband did not grow up in a family where that was the case, and so a lot of times, he’s, “Oh let’s pretend everything’s fine, even if it’s not.” I just can’t do that. So our biggest issues come from communicating. If there’s any problem, I would like to talk about it and work through it. He doesn’t want to talk about anything unless it’s a gigantic problem, until it has become, until the elephant has taken over the room. So that’s been our biggest thing. I see it as him avoiding things, and he sees me as knit-picking and nagging, and like, always turning everything into an argument. So we both have had to learn a lot along the way about how to communicate. I’ve been better about communicating in a way that helps him to not feel attacked, and he has done a better job of understanding that I want our life to be happy, and I’m not always upset with him when I want to talk about things. I just want to talk about things because I want our lives to improve. LP: That is a great point of, again, it’s just all kind of like having to find what works for you, and then what works for your partner, and then what works for you two together. Because it’s easy to kind of get in, like, “This is how I have to do things. This is how I want to do things,” and then realize your other person is a million miles away from that. How do you begin to close that gap and find some sort of middle ground?  RY: That was something that, it was like, “Is this the hill I’m willing to die on?” You know? Because sometimes I have to just go, “Okay, it’s not a big deal.” I’m going to have to just tell myself it’s not a big deal, and learn how to work through this minor thing without having a sit-down conversation with my husband. That’s taken a lot of work on my part, and thankfully on his, he’s put in a lot of work to be a listener, and to not feel attacked every time I want to talk about something. Because normally I’m not mad at him. I’m just saying, “Hey, let’s talk about this so we can be on the same page.” It’s not because I’m angry with him, but he often assumes that I’m only bringing it up because I’m angry, because he doesn’t bring stuff up unless he’s angry. LP: Right. A different way of operating. RY: Yes. Very. LP: Well, thank you for sharing all of that with us. There are so many good things to be thinking about in terms of our own relationships, like, “Hmm, are we accepting love in the way that it’s coming to us, and are we really checking in with communication, and are we saying what we need to say, and being true to ourselves, while doing it in a way that we’re not sending our partner into a panic attack every time we say we need to talk?”  So Carolina, I’d love to hear from you, what your best relationship advice you’ve ever received is, and then what your biggest challenge is. Carolina Vennie: Awesome, well, I’ll start by saying that I really, really enjoyed reading this book, and that I have to do, you know, I don’t know if you guys ever read raunchy novels at some point in your life, and you kind of covered the front cover so nobody knew what you were reading? So I would read this book a lot in bed, and so I kind of covered it so my husband wasn’t like, “What the hell are you reading? Why is the title of the book How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids?”  LP: That is so funny, because I told, my husband is actually reading the book. I’m like, “You have to read this.” [laughing]  CV: [laughing] So very different strategies, but anyway, it made me giggle every time. I was like, “Oh, nothing. I’m just reading business things.” So anyway, yeah, I loved this question, because you know, you get a lot of unsolicited advice, I think, in life, but just like Rachelle, I got the best advice from my mom. She said, and this was early on in my dating years, after kind of watching who I was picking, or how my relationships were going. She said, “You know, I think you’re confusing passion with drama. Just because we have an explosive emotional relationship with someone, where it’s kind of this high highs, and low lows, and it almost resembles the movies. That’s not actually a good thing. That’s not necessarily passion. That’s actually dysfunctional and it’s going to take a lot of your energy away. You want to be with somebody who makes the relationship easy.” Easy doesn’t strike me as the most romantic term, right? We all kind of want a little bit of the drama, because then it feels like that’s all you can think about, and it’s like 100% of your attention is on the other person, and I don’t know, emotions are high, and you can get high off of that. But the truth of the matter is that I knew that I wanted to marry Dave because our relationship was so easy. My sister says, “It went down like honey.” It just wasn’t an issue. We didn’t have dramatic interventions, or these flare-ups of emotion, which again, to some extent, can seem romantic, or maybe it was just me, but it felt like I was in the middle of this movie. Instead, our relationship is easy, and therefore, I was able to grow as a person, someone who is supported and doesn’t have to spend all of her energy working on the relationship. I think that’s one of the reasons why I’ve been able to grow in the ways I’ve wanted to, like my entrepreneurship. Everything else that I’ve been involved in has been because I don’t have to spend 90% of my time tending fires in a relationship that masks as passionate that is really just dysfunctional. I don’t know if that makes sense, or if anybody else has experienced that. LP: Oh my gosh, that makes so much sense, because I was just talking to someone about this. I was like, the thing, even about a passionate relationship, is it just, like passion, there’s like these spikes, these dramatic ups and dramatic downs, and it’s like you said. My acupuncturist once said that we only need fire in one aspect of our life, and we have to pick where we want that fire to be. Nothing’s right or wrong, but when you pick the fire to be in your relationship, it kind of takes your attention, like you said, from all these other things. It’s like the stability in my relationship, similar to yours, allows me to take risks at work and in my business. With that, and kind of get that more fiery, because I have that stability. I can actually do more in the world when I’m not having to focus so much on the intense passion and energy in my relationship. CV: Exactly. I think it comes with maturity, this acceptance, not as in I’m going to settle for someone who’s boring. That’s not it at all. That’s kind of what it sounds like when you’re 17 and somebody tells you, “Don’t go for the person that makes you feel like there’s this crazy passion.” But it’s almost this acceptance in the sense of, “Thank goodness this person gives me the stability to develop in other ways, and to not feel like we have to spend all of our energy addressing issues.” But we’re both growing in the same direction, and of course, there’s things here and there that you’ve got to fix along the way. It’s never a smooth road, but there isn’t that underlying, I don’t know, attention to the relationship that you have to give when it’s this dramatic thing.  So yeah, when people ask me for advice, I’m like, “Look, this is going to be the least romantic thing I’m ever going to say, but you need to pick someone who makes your life easy.” You know what I mean? Life is already so complex, and so many things are going to get thrown at you as you grow together in a relationship, that the foundation has to be pretty stable, and pretty uncomplicated. LP: I love that you said that, too. I was thinking as you were talking, I’m like, “When we’re young, and not much is, to be, not to put down what’s happening, but there’s not as much life happening sometimes, that relationship feels so great.” But like you said, life will add drama. Life will give you those spikes. So establishing that foundation so when the waves get higher and when things happen, who is going to be there by my side, supporting me through that? What’s been the biggest challenge in your relationship history? Again, it can be in your current relationship, or when you were dating, whatever fits. CV: I think that it’s very similar to Rachelle’s, and I would probably argue that most people have this issue. When you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone, especially now that, you know, I got married at 31, or something like that. Anyway, I mean, I’ve had a decent amount of time to form my habits, to become, to be pretty secure in the kind of person that I was, and to have a way of doing things. When you’re asked to share a small space, and important decisions, and talk about icky subjects like how you’re going to raise your kids, or money, or you know, what kind of vacation you’re going to take, all of these things you’re expected to somehow merge your life with somebody. I think communication is so important, and yet a really hard thing to expect that’s going to just happen naturally and organically. Like you're just going to have these conversations and expertly come out of them both feeling like winners. For me, it’s been more like we have the conversation, and then we have it at least 5 more times, maybe in different directions, and in different tones, and in different ways to eventually sort of get to a point where maybe we’re at least on the same page, even though we don’t 100% see eye-to-eye. I mean, Dave and I are, I’d like to say that he’s the really stubborn person, because I think his stubbornness is more obvious. He, as my little sister says, is a lot of man in a small body. He’s not small but he’s short. His stubbornness is a little bit more visible, but I am a freaking mule. When I have an idea in my head, you better believe that I’m not going to give it up easily. So you put both of us together and sometimes it can be really hard to have a conversation without any blame, without any of the biases that we each bring into the relationship, and just with the common goal of making it work for the both of us going forward. That’s been the challenge. It’s a work in progress. I think we’re much better at it, but don’t think we’re brilliant at it yet. I think it’s something we have to continue to practice. We come to the table with very different ideas, different backgrounds, different experiences that shape the way we think, so it’s natural to have these conflicts, and yeah, that’s challenging. I would argue that goes with any relationship, friendships, family, you know, any relationship. So yeah, communication has been challenging. LP: I love it, too, even as you say in the beginning, find an easy relationship. Even in quote-unquote, “easy relationships,” communication can be hard because it is, like everyone has different approaches, and everyone, you know, it depends on even the day or the mood someone’s in how they’re going to take something. It’s just something to be mindful of that it’s something that we all want to be working on and paying attention to, and not just assuming it’s there or it’s not there. Because like any relationship, it develops over time. CV: I agree. Imagine the complexities of talking about whether you're going to spend the money on a big TV or not, if you already don’t have the stability or the foundation of trust, and you’re also worried about something much more fundamental. I think we get to focus on how difficult communication can be about petty, life things because we already have that strong foundation. So it’s the complex, but on top of the easy. LP: So well said. [laughing] Well, thank you for that advice. I love that. Natalie, we’d love to hear from you about your best relationship advice. NP: Okay, yeah, perfect. Okay, so I also, just like Rachelle and Carolina, have received wonderful advice from my mom. She’s a big believer in the value of marriage, so that’s helpful. She always has wise things to share with me. We talk about marriage all the time. But the marriage advice that I thought I’d share today just because it’s been so helpful for my relationship specifically, I got this advice actually from Love Experts, not the Gottmans but the trolls in the movie Frozen.  LP: [laughing] We really pull from everywhere here. NP: We have to. But if you remember, there’s a part of that song where the trolls sing, “We’re not saying you can change him, because people don’t really change. We’re only saying that love is a force that’s powerful and strange. People make bad choices when they’re mad or scared or stressed, but throw a little love their way and you’ll bring out their best.” I’m like, when I hear that in a children’s movie, I’m freaking out, like, “Oh my gosh, that is so true!” It’s in this little kid movie, but I feel like it’s the best advice I’ve ever received about marriage, and bringing out the best in people, and why relationships work the way they do. I think about this quote all the time, and it really has helped me. LP: Oh my gosh, I love that. We all need to be remembering that, because it’s so true. So many problems in relationships are because someone’s hurt, or angry, or afraid. Rarely does anyone want to be a bad partner, or be cruel to someone. Hurt people hurt people. So when we’re hurt, we often hurt our partners. I love this idea of we don’t have to perpetuate that. We can, like you said, well, like trolls said, throw a little love their way. [laughing]  NP: [laughing] Yeah. You might not be able to change someone, but you really can influence what they’re able to give back. LP: I love that. Thank you for bringing us that wisdom that I may have missed in life. I haven’t seen Frozen yet, so I missed out, but it’s really solid advice, so thank you. And what has been the most challenging thing in your relationship history? NP: Okay, so the most challenging thing for me is that when we have differences—so I got married when I was 20, we’ve been married for 14 years, and we’re just so different, and I would find myself telling my friends this, I would say, “We’re so different.” Then I realized that all couples are different. That’s what couples are. Opposites attract for a reason, so I struggled with that for a long time, focusing on our differences and thinking that the fact that we didn’t have things in common, or that we had such different views on things, was going to be an insurmountable challenge for us, because we’re so different. Now I’m realizing that being different is what made us fall in love in the first place, and it’s what’s going to make us a strong team in the long run, and that’s the grand design of marriage, that opposites attract. That’s something I’m still learning, but honestly, it was a big source of struggle for me for a long time, until I kind of turned it inside out and looked at it differently. LP: I love that. What’s so funny, because now you and your husband own a business together, right?  NP: Yeah.  LP: [laughing] It’s just so funny how in the beginning, you’re like, “We have nothing in common,” and now I’m hearing you, and I’m like, “Don’t you guys run something together?”  [laughing] I just point that out, because I think also we kind of all in a relationship have to find our groove, and find the places we do fit, and the ways we do fit together. Like you said, it’s not always this instant, “Oh my gosh, we’re exactly the same.” I find that with my girlfriends, when I have girlfriends that are exactly the same as me, they completely wear me out because I have a lot of energy, and I’m tiring. NP: [laughing] Yeah. RY: I have a question. NP: Okay. RY: So, I related a lot to what you just said, Natalie, and I’m wondering, did you realize how different you were when you were dating? NP: No. RY: Because the realization of how different my husband and I are did not occur to me until we were married, and I went, “Whoa, this guy is so different from me.” NP: Yeah. I think in my dating relationship with my husband, a lot of promises were made. [laughing] I’m not talking about anything seriously, but like I think a lot of pretending was done, and promises were made on both sides because they say love is blind. That’s just how dating relationships go. I think you just, you’re like, “Yeah, I can agree with you on that, and yeah I think we are the same on this,” and just a perfect example would be like with finances or something like that, I think Jason was always, like, “Yeah, for sure, I don’t really care about money, you can be in charge of the finances,” and then that turned out to not be true. All: [laughing]  NP: So we ended up having very different ideas about finances.  LP: Where’s that carefree guy? [laughing]  NP: But no, finding out how different we were came along gradually, and also, we got married, he was 28 and I was 20, so over the last 14 years, I’ve kind of changed who I even know who I am. He’s grown, and you grow from your 20s into your 30s, and you do, you become a different person. You’re less of an extrovert than you used to be, and you have figured out what really makes you tick, and what makes you happy, and how you’re going to be as a grown up version of yourself, so that also has really brought out a lot of our differences. But that’s the point. That’s the point. You have to stick with it when all of those differences pop up.  RY: Yeah. When my husband and I were dating, I just kept thinking, “Gosh, we’re so compatible. We’re so compatible.” And then we get married, and we go, “Oh, maybe we’re not totally compatible.”  All: [laughing]  LP: About that compatibility.  RY: We had to figure out how to be compatible in a lot more ways than I realized. LP: [laughing] This is so awesome, and so true.  CV: I’ll add that, since we discussed the book about already, you know, being married but also having kids, I would say those incompatibilities become way more in-your-face when you add little people to the equation.  Right? So it’s like things that, at least for us, the first, you know, the post partum period was, I wouldn’t say it was this glorious Pampers commercial sort of situation for me, and I think a lot of it wasn’t because I couldn’t figure out how to take care of the baby. I mean, luckily, nature kicks in. For me, a lot of it was just refiguring out my relationship and my marriage now that there was a baby around. Because things I’d maybe noticed were a little bit off, like, “Eh, we should probably talk about this,” were much more intensified during that period of time when we were trying to go from a family of 2, with a lot of freedom, a lot of space, a lot of ways to distract ourselves from issues, to dealing with hormones, no sleep, general stress of becoming parents, and then we’re still dealing with some of those same things. So I would say yeah, that changes things again. So it’s like, you think you're smooth sailing, and then something else happens. You almost, you don’t start over, but it sort of felt like that for me at least. LP: Just like Natalie and Rachelle, it sounds like in the dating phase, you guys had figured it out for that phase. Like Natalie, your husband didn’t care about finances when your finances weren’t combined. “Yeah, I’m cool, we’re good.” And then it’s just like with all these transitions, we’re having to renegotiate and re-figure things out, and Natalie you made a good point, too, each partner’s constantly changing. So I’m always changing, we’re constantly changing, and then our partner may or may not be changing, so it’s interesting even if they stay the same, we might be totally different. Or even if they’re doing what they always did, like Carolina said, then we have a baby and we’re like, “No, no, no, you can’t do what you always did.” Like it needs to be different now, and there’s some growing pains in that. You know, talking about relationship advice, some of the best relationship advice I just heard was form Michelle Obama, and she said that if you’re married for 50 years, if 30 years are amazing, and 20 years are horrible, it’s still worth it. I think of that with these growing pains, can we set our expectation, too, that not every moment has to be awesome, and that we’re in this relationship to figure these things out. Can we give ourselves and our partner the time, the patience, and the space to figure it out? We want to be moving forward, but we also want to be in a place where we’re open to the fact that we’re not going to nail it every time, and our partner’s not going to nail it every time. I think that’s where grace comes into the relationship.  RY: I agree. And I feel that every major difficulty you overcome as a couple brings you that much closer together, and that much stronger moving forward.  LP: Yes. It’s kind of the idea like where the pipe breaks and is welded back together, it’s stronger at that point. There’s points in our relationship that once we’ve had to repair them, we’re actually stronger and clearer in those spaces, and in the relationship. So I think also, Rachelle, you’re an excellent example of this, not shying away from the discussion and the communication, and the acknowledging and addressing things so we can move forward stronger. RY: I had to rein that in, too, because I was over-communicating. I was, you know, so I had to learn to pick my battles, and I had to learn to quietly overcome things instead of, you know. So I might be a better example of that now that I’m a decade into my marriage, but I definitely haven’t always been. [laughing]  NP: You guys remember that acceptance speech that Ben Affleck gave where he threw Jennifer Gardner under the bus? Because he said that their relationship was a lot of work? Do you remember that? LP: Oh, yes. NP: And… LP: Didn’t they get divorced shortly after that? NP: Yeah, but she went on SNL, and they were like, “How would you have described your marriage?” And she was like, “A gift. Our marriage is a gift.” [laughing]  All: [laughing]  NP: But I can see what he was trying to say. He was basically trying to say, “You and I are figuring this out together, and marriage is a lot of work, but it’s worth it.” But it came across as not the best. RY: That’s funny. CV: It’s interesting when you— RY: It is a lot of work. CV:  Yeah, when you bring up celebrities, too, I mean, I do feel that we’ve been fed a little bit of this, “This is what a blissful marriage looks like.” Rarely do I see a post on Facebook that was, “My husband was a piece of crap this morning because he didn’t do XYZ.” Usually, it’s like, “You’re the wind beneath my wings, and you're the best thing ever, and I’m the luckiest person in the world.” That’s all we see, so then when we don’t have days like that, or when I quite literally just want to bundle Dave up and throw him out the back door, off the balcony— [laughing]  LP: [laughing] I love that final touch. CV: That’s right, off the balcony completely. Goodbye. But I feel like I’m doing something wrong, or that my relationship isn’t what it should be, and that you know, we’re falling short of the standard that, to some extent, Hollywood or the social media has put out there. And that’s not true. Some of the sweetest moments are when you do have those issues and then you become stronger from it. The raw, authentic reality of a relationship to me is actually way more exciting and delicious and amazing than what the fake stuff we see out on TV is, and yet it’s easy to get discouraged, and to feel like you’re not doing it right if it doesn’t look like that on the outside. RY: I agree. I especially love being able to cherish the little things that make your relationship great. That to me is what is so, one of the things that was pointed out in the book was how they talked about kids’ memories of the things they are likely to remember, and it was little things. Like the kid being told, “Go get ‘em, tiger,” every day as they walked out the door, instead of the big vacations, or the big dramatic moments in life. It was just the little things. I took that to heart, and I hope that’s something I can put a little bit more focus on when it comes not just to my kids but my relationship as well. It’s cherishing those little things.   NP: Mmm.   LP: Mm-hmm. And like you said, the moments that come after that, the connection that comes after that, and the rawness that comes within that, just that kind of vulnerability that only comes out in those moments of imperfection. NP: Yeah. So Leanne, what’s the best marriage advice you’ve ever received? LP: You know, the best relationship advice I’ve ever received in terms of marriage was in the book How to Not Hate Your Husband After Kids, and it’s this idea, like, don’t, as women we need to be careful about taking on all the responsibility, and taking on the burden of everything, and then expecting at some point that will shift. So I guess the best, from my mom, she told me this thing her friend has said, and it’s, “You want to begin things the way you want them to end.” So if I don’t want to do all the housework in my house for the next 50 years, I probably shouldn’t start that year 1, doing all the housework, and expect that at some point that it’ll shift over. There needs to be conversations, and expectations along the way. I have to be good about communicating my needs, and not taking on the role of the martyr or the victim. I am a co-partner in my marriage, and I need to make sure that I’m clear about what I can and can’t do. I remember when I first started even, you know, my husband and I got married, we were living together, and I said, “I think we should hire a cleaner because I’m really busy with work, and I’d really love a cleaner,” and he says, “I’m fundamentally against someone else cleaning my house. I don’t believe in that.” This is a conflict resolution skill that I recommend to everyone. I didn’t argue with him. I didn’t pick a fight. All I said was, “Okay, well I am fundamentally against cleaning the house for you. I’m not going to be your housekeeper. I’m just putting that out there.” And I said, “Okay, what are the duties you’re willing to do? What am I willing to do? Here are my things, here are your things. If, in 2 weeks, you haven’t done these things, we’re going to hire a cleaner. Let’s do that.” And you know, if he’d done it, I would have been very happy, but unsurprisingly he didn’t do it, so we got a cleaner. There was no fight at that point. I’m like, “We did it your way. Nothing got cleaned. Now we’re going to do it my way and things are going to get cleaned.”  But it’s just, I think that’s really been good advice is that starting things the way I want them to end, and [how] I want them to be 50 years from now, and really taking the time, and I’ve talked about this on the podcast before, this idea of I don’t have time to show someone else what to do. I don’t have time to teach someone else. I don’t have time to ask someone else to do it. And I think we get in a dangerous place, because it might be a half hour one day, or an hour one day to sit down and explain the task, but over time, not having that on your list is going to be huge, versus always saying that you have to do it because you don’t have time to show someone else. Over time, that’s going to create a huge amount of work for you, that if you just pause and set it up, you’re going to feel a lot different in your marriage now, and have a lot less resentment in your marriage later. So that’s my best piece of advice, is you know what, figure out what you’re okay with, what works for you, what expectations you’re fine fulfilling, and then the ones you're not, talk about that with your partner and figure out how you’re going to handle the things you’re not able to do. I’d say in my marriage, and as I was reading the book, and after kids, life happens. To have that established is huge, because the fact that my husband does dishes every day to military precision is something that has, I swear, kept my marriage going so strong. To know that I have that handled and he’s going to do it without a fight, without questioning, he has ownership of that is so nice and has meant so much to me. Again, it’s those little things that mean so much.  NP: Yeah. LP: So that’s what I would say. NP: Yeah, I think it’s because we really value the feeling of partnership, and that's probably what makes you feel like you’re really in a partnership with him. LP: Yes, that’s such a good point. It’s that partnership. And it’s that we can, it’s okay to ask our partner to be our partner. Not just our partner in the fun things, but our partner in life, and our partner in the tasks we have to complete, and our partner in the jobs we have to do around the house. It’s okay to expect that and ask that of the person we’re with. NP: Awesome. What do you think your biggest struggle has been? LP: You know, when I think of this question, I think of my single self, and something I learned in my marriage that I wish so hard I could go back and tell this to my single self, and repeat it over, and over, and over, and over. That, there’s someone out there who will love me for exactly who I am, with all the quirks I have, with all the flaws I have. Someone will love me exactly as I am, and I don’t need to try to keep changing or improving myself to be worthy of that relationship. I think for so long, I looked to men for confirmation of, “Am I loveable? Am I worthy? Am I good enough?” I would put so much power in their hands. When I met my husband, it was just so easy, like Carolina said. It was so easy, and it just, I was so able to be myself. I want to go back and tell that girl that if the person you like doesn’t like you, or if the guy you’ve been dating doesn’t want to date you, thank them because you are looking for someone who cannot wait to be with you, who cannot believe how lucky they are to be with you. If someone is willing to walk away, or doesn’t want to date you, they’re telling you, “I’m not your person.” If I had just known there was that person who was waiting for me, and excited about me, and so thrilled to be with me, I think it would have saved so much heartbreak of wondering why other men didn’t feel that way, or trying to force other men to feel that way, or pray that they would feel that way. It’s like, “No, they’re just telling me with a lot of clarity that they’re not the guy for me. That’s okay, because I want to be with a guy who really wants to be with me.” So that was my biggest challenge. I guess I didn’t learn it until I met the person, and I really wish I had learned it sooner. NP: Oh yeah. So beautiful. I mean, I know there are going to be listeners who, you know, aren’t dealing with how to not hate their husband with kids right now. They’re actually dealing with how to try to find the husband they’ll hate after kids one day.  LP: [laughing] Don’t worry, ladies, your time is coming. Your turn is coming. NP: [laughing] Yeah, okay perfect. That is a great reminder for them, then, that they’re worthy and deserving of that love, and a partner who will love them. So I’m glad you shared that. LP: Yes, and I can’t spend my whole relationship life apologizing for who I am, so I need to find that person who loves and accepts me for who I am, and I don’t have to apologize. That is a sign, and I encourage you as I would encourage my younger self to run, to gently and politely say goodbye and be done with that. So thank you guys so much for all your relationship advice. This has been so interesting to hear what we’re all working on. Carolina, like you said, taking it off of the Instagram-everything’s-perfect into the reality of, “Hey, we love our relationships and we’re working on things. We’re figuring things out, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean they’re a bad relationship. It just means we’re two people in a relationship trying to figure things out, and that is awesome.”  So if you haven’t read the books, like I said, check them out. They’re so great, packed full of so much wonderful information. We will be back next month with our next book. Everyone have a great night. If you want even more of this goodness, check out my website, https://leannepeterson.com, and sign up for my weekly newsletter. Check me out and subscribe to the podcast. 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Think display ads are a waste of time and website real estate? Think again. For many bloggers, running ads was a first, failed attempt at monetization. Frustrated with a lack of control over what ads were served to their readers, an impossibly slow load time, and/or an unexpectedly low payout, they eventually chalked the experience up as a lesson learned, removing the ads and never looking back. But like everything else on the digital landscape, advertising has changed and evolved. Running display ads can most definitely generate real revenue, providing a lucrative and relatively passive income stream. The key is optimizing your site for your advertising— and your advertising for your audience. There is always a loss in user experience to add advertising to your site. That doesn't mean don't do it. It just means that the return on that advertising needs to be worth it. Amber Bracegirdle This week on the Businessese Influencer Marketing Podcast, Amber Bracegirdle unlocks the mystery behind best practices for maximizing ad revenue. Amber is a co-founder at Mediavine, a full service ad management company working with 4000 bloggers across the entire lifestyle spectrum, as well as the managing editor of FoodFanatic.com and co-host of the Theory of Content podcast. Amber is all about SEO and making the business of blogging better, and she shares all the good stuff in this episode! Listen in as she goes over: why placing ads on your site can be a gamechanger how Mediavine's ad system differs from others, generating more income "affiliate marketing and ads don't mix" and two more digital advertising myths how display advertising affects SEO how website owners can optimize for ad income— and the biggest mistakes they often make who should start adding ads to their site (hint: it's not everybody) What has your experience running ads been like? What are your top tips— or your most trying trials? Let's talk it out over in Businessese HQ. Resources: Mediavine and the Mediavine Facebook group Food Fanatic The Theory of Content podcast Travel Blogging and Monetization with Amanda Williams The Outlander series by Diana Gabaldon and the Harry Potter series from J.K. Rowling How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn Contact Amber: amber@mediavine.com Liked this episode? You should check out: Monetization Tips for Influencers with Jenny Guy From Hobby to Full-Time Food Blogger with Liz Falcigno Monetizing with Affiliate Marketing with Angel Djambazov

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Jancee Dunn joins Mallory is in the MILK Studio to talk about her latest book, "How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids." Jancee is the New York Times bestselling author of five books, including a memoir of her years at Rolling Stone, a book she co-wrote with Cyndi Lauper, and a children’s book, "I'm Afraid Your Teddy Is In Trouble Today," about stuffed animals up to no good. Her essay collection, "Why Is My Mother Getting a Tattoo?" was a finalist for the Thurber Prize for American Humor. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times, Vogue, O, The Oprah Magazine, and Parents. Check her out at JanceeDunn.net

Have You Discovered That Your Relationship Has Changed After Children Entered Your Life? Finding That Sleep Deprivation And Parenting Stress Are Making It Hard To Stay Connected To Your Partner? Looking For Suggestions From Psychology On How To Improve Your Relationship During The Young Kids Phase Of Parenthood?  Put Down That Sippy Cup And Join Us!  Raising children with a romantic partner can be a deeply meaningful experience... and it's not without its challenges! In this, our one year anniversary episode, Dr. Debbie Sorensen talks with relationship expert Dr. Yael Schonbrun about the challenges of making partner relationships work during the baby and early childhood years. Yael and Debbie discuss concerns new parents frequently face in their relationships, and offer some strategies to help couples who are struggling. You might be surprised to find that you are not alone! Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a clinical psychologist in private practice and assistant professor at Brown University, and a mom of three children. Her writing on family and work issues has been published in the New York Times and Psychology Today. Her book exploring the psychology of straddling ambitious professional and engaged family life is forthcoming.  Resources:  And Baby Makes Three by Gottman and Gottman How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn

This week on Mom Talk Radio, Jancee Dunn, author of How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids, shares tips from her new book. Spotlight on Moms features Abby Ashley of TheVirtualSavvy.com. Lauren Casper, author of It’s Okay About It: Lessons from a Remarkable Five-Year-Old About Living Life Wide Open, shares what she hopes readers will take away from her book and advice about adoption. Richard Greenberg, author of Raising Children That Other People Like to Be Around: 5 Common-Sense Musts From a Father’s Point of View, shares the importance of setting good examples. Dawn Dais, author of The Overly Honest Baby Book: Uncensored Memories from Baby’s First Year, shares her inspiration for creating the book.

Relationship tips + hilarious parenting stories. Podcast #122: New York Times best-selling author Jancee Dunn and host Ellie Knaus share the ins and outs of their relationships and compare funny notes on the home front. Dunn's new book, "How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids," (Little, Brown and Company) is described as "part memoir of discovery, part parenting and marriage how-to, and part intriguing exploration of science that explains why we behave the way we do." We laugh about what frustrates us most about our partners in Newbornland. For example, I remember in my sleep-deprived haze telling Adam he was not allowed to sit in the driveway with his phone after work and that if he wanted to go to the bathroom right when he got home then he should use the one at the office!... (Sorry, Adam. Can't wait to be back in the thick of it with baby #2 this July!) Jancee shares communication skills she learned from an FBI hostage negotiator (for her husband, but I swear it applies to toddlers as well), and we discuss the traps of "maternal gatekeeping". If you find yourself losing your cool with your partner in front of your child, Jancee offers a powerful suggestion for calming your temper. And if you're struggling to make Quality Family Time (Q.F.T.) in this crazy age of kids sports and non-stop birthday parties, Jancee offers the guilt-free, sure-fire way to get off the hook! Yes, buckle up. We cover a lot of ground! xx Ellie Guest Bio: New York Times bestselling author Jancee Dunn is the author of five books, including "But Enough About Me", a memoir of her rock and roll years, (HarperCollins, 2008) and an essay collection, "Why Is My Mother Getting A Tattoo? And Other Questions I Wish I Never Had To Answer", a finalist for the Thurber Prize for American Humor (Ballantine, 2009). In 2012, with Cyndi Lauper, she cowrote "Cyndi Lauper: A Memoir". Her first book for children, "I’m Afraid Your Teddy Has Been Naughty Today", will be published in 2017 by Candlewick Press. She was a staff writer at Rolling Stone for over a decade, and a veejay at MTV for five years. She writes for many publications, among them the New York Times, Vogue, Food & Wine, and Parents, and was a columnist for GQ and O, The Oprah Magazine. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband, the author Tom Vanderbilt, and their daughter. JanceeDunn.net Subscribe and download iTunes.com/atomicmoms Please leave us a review (consider it our Atomic Moms tip jar! It helps other moms find us!) Find us on social media: Instagram/Twitter @atomicmoms and Facebook Page "Atomic Moms"

Writer and journalist Jancee Dunn talks about her new, soon-to-be bestselling book, How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids.  Jancee has had a fascinating career, starting as one of the few women working at Rolling Stone magazine in the 90s and interviewing stars ranging from Madonna to Beyonce, moving on to being a MTV VJ and a GQ sex columnist, and even writing for Oprah and penning Cyndi Lauper's memoir.  Her latest project started as a way to save her child from experiencing marital conflict and resulted in a hysterical, must-have handbook for new moms.  Get inspired by Jancee's courage to "just ask" throughout her career, and even hear who's more alluring in person - Brad Pitt or George Clooney!

#121 Mom friends Ellie Knaus and Bridget Moloney-Sinclair crash Becca McHugh’s babymoon! We find out if Hawaii is as “relaxing” as it sounds with a three year-old and a thrill-seeking husband. We also address the Do’s and Don’ts of meeting the newborn. Sleep-deprived and always candid, brand new second time mom Bridget enlightens Becca and Ellie as to their future of juggling young children and infants (like, who do you address first when they both want something at the same time?…how about when the older one takes the new transition out on the dog?…does motherhood foster or destroy creativity?...and last but not least, do peepee teepees actually work?). Most notably, Ellie interviews her youngest Atomic Moms guest ever: Bridget's six week old baby George. SUBSCRIBE (iTunes.com/AtomicMoms) for next Tuesday's Atomic Moms episode: "How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids" with New York Times bestselling author Jancee Dunn! Pretty please help us out by leaving a review on iTunes.com/AtomicMoms Go to AtomicMoms.com for show links! Social media: Facebook "atomic moms", Instagram/Twitter: @atomicmoms