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I had an issue with several interviews last week where the audio is terrible and I am not sure why. While I work on it, I am loading one of my favorite episodes 729. A listener writes "My brother in-law and I have hunted all over Oklahoma. Grady County, in Central Oklahoma, Near Clayton in the South East, but in this one piece of property in Nowata, smack in the middle between the Verdigris River and Ooligha Lake, we had a very Terrifying encounter, …….with something. I'm 53 years old and hunted, with my dad, in Nowata, before I was old enough to drive. Not many people know how wooded this area is. My father and I hunted only 8 miles away from this property, I'm going to tell you about, and there are caves in the area. My dad and I use to hunt from the mouth of one on rainy days. I think, I could hide from populated areas, easily myself, so I'm pretty sure an elusive animal could too. It all started on our father in-law's land. It was about 40 acres, but we had permission to hunt another 40 on the back side of it. I always felt uneasy on this property. Like I was being watched, but I just rationalized it away. I would hear someone else walking the property, in the dark, keeping pace with me, as I walked to my hunting spot. I would swallow my fear and tell myself it's just another armadillo or racoon, and keep going. Once I borrow a knife from my dad, just in case I got a deer. The last thing he said to me was, " I don't care if you leave everything ease, just bring my knife back" . This knife was hand made, razor sharp, and entirely metal. I knew he meant it, so I was not going to leave it. That hunt I struck out, but my brother in-law, got a small buck. I was in my early 30s then, but he was in his 20s and had never gutted a deer before, so I was going to gut it for him. I slit open the abdomen and began pulling out the insides, in a bloody mess. He laughed at how bloody I was getting, calling me doctor Dave. I was trying to show him but he just laughed and teased me all the more. Frustrated I cleaned the knife on my camo and stuck it in the dirt. It was later in the day, so we gathered our haul and started back to camp. We walked, maybe 1/8th of a mile when, you guessed it. I forgot that knife. We were already sweating despite the cold, so my brother in-law wasn't happy about turning around. After less than 10 minutes, we got back to the spot, I picked up the knife, and wiped the dirt off on my pants. I looked up and said, let's go, but my friend didn't move. He turned and said slowly, " you don't see anything wrong here." The entire gut pile was gone. Even the blood. There was just one leaf with one drop of blood. No drag marks, no sign anything had been there, except for one large area of disturbed grass where the carcass had been, one small spot of crushed grass and of course my knife. Now I think there was a track there, but I didn't see it as that. This was Oklahoma and Bigfoot was not in my vocabulary. We walked back to camp in silence with guns loaded. What ever took that 30 pounds of slimy deer guts, had to be watching us while we opened the deer, was big enough to carry it off, and was probably still close. We had other things happen over the years, but one night stands frozen in my memory. In a later season, we were late getting to the property. We left too late to get there in the daylight. I was perturbed to have to set up the tent in the dark. It was darker than dark that night. It was nearly 2200, when we got it up. I was ready to start a fire, my brother in-law, and friend, Zack, said OK, let's go set up my tree stand. I replied, are you kidding, it's dark, I'm tired, and we haven't been here for an entire year. It was no use objecting, he was going on his own if I didn't go with him, so away we went. Trampling through the woods. The flash lights we had weren't great either. As we navigated off the ridge down into the bottom, of the hollow, I remember hearing something behind and to the right keeping pace with us in the woods. Fear hit me like it had never before. I tried to push it down, telling myself, it was nothing, but I struggled to stay upright on the dimly lit trail, carrying my pack. Finally, he found the tree he remembered from last year. I pulled screw in foot pegs out, and successfully got the stand in place 12 or 15 foot up. It took a long time and it was unusually warm. I set it up, so Zack wanted to make sure he liked it, so climbed up as I shined my, dim, flashlight on the pegs. While, he was climbing into the tree, that uneasy, fear, hit me again. I was hearing something moving behind me, and was having a hard time keeping that light shining on the tree. I would swing the light around and immediately heard my brother in-law yell, hey, give me some light, and WHAT ARE YOU DOING? I can't see. He finally get up there and bounces on the platform. Shining a flip phone around saying, "yeah, this'll work." I didn't care, I had my back to the tree, trying to see what was spooking me so bad. I was normally like that. I use to walk by moonlight to my hunting spot, but I could hear something moving around us in the dark. We were loud and it didn't seem to care. Finally, FINALLY, he got down and we made our way to camp. I started a fire and was feeling pretty comfortable on my sleeping bag. The fire comforted me as I cooled off, when Zack said, we gotta go back. I left my phone in the tree. I said , " it'll be there in the morning!!!!" He said, I'm going back. But I had enough. I was not leaving the fire. I told him your going on your own if you do. He took his rifle, and a flashlight and disappeared into the dark. I was just dosing off, when BOOM, and another BOOM. HE WAS SHOOTING. I bounced up pulling on my pants. As I fumbled with my boots Zack came running full sprint and stopped standing over me. I was mad at him. I didn't give him a chance to explain saying, you can't shoot at night! It's not legal to shoot a deer after dark, and everything is scared away now for half a mile. I feel bad now, he was pale, and just kept saying, " I saw something. I heard something." IT WAS NEARLY 10 YEARS LATER HE TOLD ME WHAT Happened. He said, something on 2 legs followed me in the woods. I paced me just out of sight. I yelled, thinking it was you messing with me. DAVID, cut it out. When he got to the tree. He yelled again, DAVID CUT IT OUT. then something mocked him out of the darkness. DAAVVIDD. He said something inside him told him to get up that tree. He shimmied up the tree like a squirrel. He cocked his gun and said DAVID, if that's you, you better cut it out. I'm going to shoot. Then he sees a huge black shape, and it mocked his frightened words, saying, DAAVIDD, HEA HEA HEA. Almost laughing. He thought it was a demon. So he shot, it ran, and he shot again. Seei g his chance, he scurried down and ran back to camp. There was no way we were going to sleep so I roasted hotdogs on the fire. And we had visitors. I heard coyotes yelp earlier, so I rationalized that's what it was. We where being harassed and circled by something on all fours. There was no eye shine, and they took care to not be caught in a flashlight. For nearly 2 hours they ran back and forth around us. The truck was close, but the gate was locked, and neither of us where going to fiddle with a lock, in the dark. We had guns but they were bolt action with a scope. These things were fast. We yelled but unless they came into the light, forget it. We threw out a weiner with antifreeze, in desporation. I heard something get up, run on 2 legs now and race to the weiner. In shock, we listened as this thing, started coughing and hacking. I thought to myself, that sound like a person. Then Zack said, what I thought. That sounds like a man. That sounds like a man. I said it can't be. Running in the woods with no light. He said, we just killed someone. I said, as the coughing continued, anyone who runs around hunter, at night, and picks up a hot dog, off the forest floor deserves to die. He laughed. Then I laughed. We bother laughed nervously, as this thing walked away coughing. We could hear it 100 yards away coughing. It was morning before we fell asleep. We didn't hunt that day. The treestand was ripped off the tree, broken at the welds. Chain still attached"

Personal finance journalist Brian O'Connor discusses his recent New York Times article "You're About to Retire. What Are You Doing for the Next 20 or 30 Years?" and explores how retirement planning is pivoting from a focus on the numbers to an emphasis on the lifestyle you want, noting that too many people miss out by putting the math first. O'Connor discusses how and why financial planning has changed, noting that previous generations were so focused on taking over responsibility for their retirement savings as pensions were phased out that they didn't consider what retirement meant beyond having no active paycheck. Allison Hadley, an analyst at Digital Third Coast, discusses a survey she did for American Home Shield looking at cost-of-living concerns for homeowners, which found that nearly half are primarily "enjoying their mortgage" this summer, cutting back on travel and socializing to deal with rising costs for gas, groceries and electricity. More than half of the homeowners surveyed worry that inflation is ruining their summer. Plus, in The Book Interview, Jack Schwager discusses his recent addition to his long-running "Market Wizards" series, discussing "Market Wizards: The Next Generation: The World's Top Young Traders Reveal How They Beat The Market."

Thinking about having a baby in Denmark? Whether you're expecting, planning ahead, or just curious about how Danish healthcare works, this episode is packed with first-hand experience.Derek and Brooke are joined once again by Ilana Buhl, who shares what it was really like to go through pregnancy, give birth, and recover as an international in Denmark. We compare the Danish and American systems, talk about prenatal care, labor, postpartum support, maternity leave, and the little cultural surprises that no one warns you about.In this episode we discuss:Why Denmark has far fewer prenatal appointments than the U.S.The surprising differences in ultrasounds and pregnancy testingGiving birth in English at a Danish hospitalEpidurals, laughing gas, and birth plansGoing home with your newborn (much sooner than many Americans expect)The home nurse who visits after birthDenmark's generous parental leave and why it changes everythingIf you've ever wondered what it's actually like to have a baby in Denmark as a foreigner, this episode is for you.

Cold openWelcome to the Treatment Funhouse…First room. Guy in a jumpsuit, “We gotta strap ya in.” He waves at a chair. “Safety,” he says in a bored voice.So you sit. You really want… something… different in your miserable life.[Brief music]Suddenly he snaps manacles on your wrists. Then behind you he grabs a blowtorch…[music]IntroThis is AutisticAF Out Loud, Season 7, episode 1. Today, I find moments of joy… after some brutal ones.Like Leonard Cohen sang in Suzanne, “among the garbage and the flowers.”I'm Johnny Profane. Startled awake. Taking a new direction. And writing a neurodivergent autobiography… out loud.Content note: Mentions abuse, trauma, suicidality... and dark humor.Just one autistic elder's voice. Raw.3 fragments from my free archive, autisticaf.me… I'll tell you more at the break.[music]Welcome to the Treatment FunhouseBeing trapped in the medical model of autism for decades?Imagine an elaborate carnival funhouse… the kind that's a maze. You gotta find your way out. But…This one's got a horror theme.The sign outside… “23 Mirrored Rooms That Will Change Your Life… Forever!”Never saw that before.So you stand in the long wait line. That, naturally, doubles back on itself. Many times.Finally, you belly up to the barker's ticket window. Start to scan the price board.“125 bucks?” You cry out.“You wanna change yer life, kid? Whatchya think it would cost?”So you sigh. You think…You need… different. You fork over.First room. Guy in a jumpsuit, “We gotta strap ya in.” He waves at the chair. “Safety,” he says in a bored voice.So you sit. You really want… well, something… different in your miserable life.Suddenly, he snaps manacles on your wrists. Then behind you, he grabs a blowtorch.You see this scene reflected in all the mirrors. In detail. Enhanced by all your grisly memories.You protest. “What the actual fuck.”“Trust me. This is the latest research. Sure as hell gonna change your life.” That smile. Thin. Cold. Professional. “We got paying customers outside. Lined up. Waiting to get inside. You in… or out.”You reflect on your miserable life. You nod.Then he slowly, methodically works you over. A light burn here. Another there. Starting at your feet. Working upwards.You scream. You cry. You plead. You evade. You bargain. Not a word out of Jumpsuit Guy.And… the only way you can block out the terror reflected in those mirrors?Close your eyes…He finishes. He unshackles you. Helps you up as you tremble. Guides you efficiently to the door.“Next room. Room of Knives. Yer gonna love it,” he laughs.“Just 22 to go.” Leans in… conspiratorially. Whispers in my ear…“Wait til the Meds room. Everybody talks about the Meds Room.”Beat.“If you make it there.”musicInterludeOkay, then. A fun little… metaphor. Now… some dark reality. Family… and professionals… tossed off what I was going through in my late teens as “immaturity.” Something I'd age out of. Totally ignoring all the red danger flags of the coming disaster.Quick side note. Some folks wrote you couldn't read articles. Multiple platform problems… demands you subscribe… pestering friends, even if they used a“free” link.I heard ya . So, I built my free personal archive at autisticaf.me. No paywall. No ads to piss ya off. All free & shareable… on me.You'll find more pieces like this next one… there. — The Autistic Treatment Funhouse, Room of ExamsThey Called It Immaturity. They Missed Everything.Content note: This is the tough one I mentioned. With the brutal flowers.Look, first of all… This is not the beginning of a poor-me story.This is a story of how I found moments of joy… and darkness… in my autistic life. Like Leonard Cohen sang in Suzanne, “among the garbage and the flowers.”But I found dark humor... every where.1972 was a hell of a summer… Room 1I first sought a diagnosis at 19. Following suicide attempt #1.I was driving after dark. Which I wasn't supposed to do… new family rule.See, I'd damaged our car the week before, making a hasty turn into our driveway near Jumping Deer Road in Katonah. Hit the damn stone wall on the way in.This was Westchester County, NY. Local code only allowed a nano break between the 18th-Century stones guarding our yard. Colonial heritage or something… masking slave labor.I'm in the doghouse. With parents already skeptical about letting me go to college. Not “mature” enough.Yet, when the hood and fender are finally fixed? They drop me off on a muggy, hazy June night. Out in the boonies at the old Amawak Service Center on Route 202.“Pick it up and bring it home. No side stops.” Then they instruct me, “Be… careful.” Rolling their collective 4 eyes.I pull out, then wait. The light's gotta change at the 4-lane intersection with Route 35 before I can head home.The light turns green. I go into a weird space in my head. There's… there's some reason I shouldn't turn left… yet… But I watch myself shrug, flick my signal switch, and turn. Right into two lanes of accelerating traffic coming right at me.Don't remember much more. Just the red, don't-turn-yet-idiot arrow. Staring at me brightly… through the windshield that used to be there.I survived. That classic, white 1965 Mustang… didn't. Barely street legal, 271-horse V8 under the hood. Maybe the most collectible American car of all time.A hand-me-down gift to our family from my father's father. Who bragged, “I had to jew the dealer down from 5 grand,” back when he bought it new in '65. A lot of money then.Um, things got tense at home.“You are responsible for your own actions. You are the cause here.”Parental meeting time.“Uh, I don't know what happened.” I couldn't stand these “meetings.” So many in my childhood. This was maybe the worst of all.“I don't know. It… it... just happened.”Making my parents even more furious. These were avid Ayn Rand readers. And my grandfather? He slept beside an orderly nightstand. Mein Kampf tucked tightly in its tidy drawer. My dead father's voice echoes coldly in my mind still. “You are responsible for your own actions. You are the cause here.” But, I stumble on. Making things worse… in my way.“Something's wrong. I don't know what. I'm having horrible visions. Hitting people with the car as I drive by. Hitting their bodies… bones…” I trail off. Into stony silence, I say, “And now something weird happened. I think… I think… maybe I should see a doctor…”Next thing I know, I'm sitting in front of a Westchester County caseworker. Cuz my parents felt a psychologist or private therapist cost too much.I had no idea what I was feeling… much less why.The intake experience was horrific.I felt… badgered.She called it… delicately. “Maybe the accident looked like an attempt to… maybe… harm yourself?” But she continued with a sledgehammer.“I know you have a secret you want to tell me.” Rinse, repeat… Rinse, repeat…I wanted so badly to please her. But had no idea what I was feeling… much less why.Worse yet? There were things I didn't want to tell her. Darker than the physical or sexual abuse she was probably check-listing. Things a traumatized kid might do… himself.I never went back. I told my parents I was uncomfortable talking to her.My dad rocked back in his dark, maple, Early American dining room chair. “Fine. That's your choice.”He paused. Looking directly at my mother as he said to me, “I can see you won't speak to this counselor. I see no reason to look for another for you to talk to. Your decision.”And that was that.We were all dying for freedom.Finally at 63, a psychologist specializing in autism gave me another name, Alexithymia.He said a lot of autistics can know something is wrong. But not know what. And baptized me, Autism Spectrum Disorder… with a side of ADHD.2016 was a good year. A damn fine year.But 1972 was a summer from hell.The last US troops shipped home, fleeing Viet Nam. Palestinians massacred Israelis at the Olympics. My father died that August. The week after he molested me for the last time.We were all dying for freedom.[music]Cuz… if you don't know us… how ya gonna love us.InterludeOkay. Here's the last frag I toss… today. Let's end with joyful moments. Among the dark. Let's end with survival.See, I'm giving you these fragments of my life…Cuz… if you don't know us… how ya gonna love us.And this is part of me, too…[music]I Don't Think I Had a “Personality” as a KidI was busy finding Infinity in a burnt-off ant leg…This one brings home the stakes.The moments of joy along the way… that drew a line under what could have been. Not if they fixed me. But maybe what all of our children could be.If we just listen to them. And support what they say they need.“What are you doing…?”My mother's voice was sharp.I'm lying spreadeagled on the backyard grass, face down.“I've called you three times.” Annoyed. “WHAT are you doing…?”I don't know it in Second Grade… But I have difficulties shifting attention when I'm lost in thought…I try to focus my ears…Then think back,review my short-term memory,and replay the last few moments.Trying to hear and translate anything she might have said while I'm in my private thought bubble…Already at 7, this process of “rehearsing” or “rewinding the tape” to interpret what's going on? It's an automatic, constant routine when I'm around… well, people.Checking for verbal mistakes, missed cues… Just trying to understand, what's going on…?So I'm still trying to sort it out,choose words carefully to explain,clearing my throat,moving my sleeping tongue,loosening my jaw,getting ready to speak…“HEY! WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!”“Umm… Nothing…?” Close as I come to a lie at that age.I've been lying in the grass for an hour or so, exploring with my new magnifying glass.See, there was this great hobby shop in Johnson City. It had all kinds of cool science “toys.” And I had saved my 50-cent allowance for weeks to buy a “Real, hand-held, magnifying glass  —  made with ALL-METAL handle!!”I was entranced.Examining grass leaves, dew drops, and…Ants.Dozens of ants. One after another.Legs.Antennae.Mandibles.Eyes.Guiltily burning off the occasional leg with focused sunlight…Endless fascination…I was in the flow…“Okay. Whatever you are doing…” I wait for the command I know will end my timeless bliss… “Stop doing it. It's time for lunch.”I sigh. Roll over.And. Trudge. In.Hardly sounds like abuse, right…..??Imagine that last, delicious dream you're enjoying as you drowse in a warm snuggly bed… when you don't have to get up…My autistic joys are hard to explain to another person.Pretty much ANY non-autistic person.And trying to… drags me into Deep Philosophical Waters…Imagine that last, delicious dream you're enjoying as you drowse in a warm snuggly bed on a lazy Saturday morning when you don't have to get up…And someone screams, “GET UP!”Eyes pop open. Instantly. You're so startled, for a minute… you have no idea where you are, what you're doing, the time of day, the season…Now… imagine that… if you can…Every. Damn. Day. Many, many, MANY times a day… Every single day of your childhood.Torture.Being startled out of the flow? It's like that.Capisce? Ya dig? Feel me?That's as close as I can think of to explain my moments of autistic flow.Or, better yet, my autistic joys.That same joy you seeon an autistic kid's faceas he dances endlesslyin a sprinkler in the sun…If I had to guess, this is precisely what Being in the Moment, in the Now, maybe even Zen Satori…Mean.Gradually as I aged, these blissful moments became fewer and fewer…Now, that's all preamble to what I really wanna talk about…Here's the deal on Flow…I think that's where I spent most of my time as a young kid.When I wasn't interacting with family, a few schoolmates, parents, one teacher a year… the few humans I let into my life back then.And that time alone… Endlessly exploring, learning, feeling, being… was…Wordless delight.Gradually as I aged, these blissful moments became fewer and fewer… further and further and further apart… nearly gone…First, I was forced into a school system… That I was clearly not wired for.Rigid.Lockstep.Regimented.Regulated.BORING.No Free Time.To simply… explore.Later, of course, it got MUCH worse. Jobs, relationships, finances… Life in Modern Adult America.Like when I founded Unix World magazine. I was so high on the concept and the joy of process… My inner vision won us awards our first year. Western Publishing Association Best New Publication and Best Issue. Beating out Macworld and PC World.Yeah. We won awards. A couple months after I was fired from my own mag. Fired because… in my autistic mind… the game was Create the Most Amazing Publication… Ever.But the whole time, the world was shouting that it was Make the Most Money You Can… Right Now.Snake eyes. I lost.My natural state, left alone to my own devices? Wandering from moment to moment of… fascination.Now, I have some personal speculation to get off my chest.First… I don't think I had a native personality when I was a kid…At least not as bell-curve average humans understand a personality.My natural state, left alone to my own devices? Wandering from moment to moment of fascination. No motivations. No intentions. No (verbal) thought…So… I was either happy exploring in the fields… or with my chemistry set in the basement… or catching polliwogs in Spring pools…Or I was forced to don my “personality.”In other words,the language,facial expressions,body language,polite responses,social lies,and predictable actionsthat humans think of as “personality”…and that social contact demands.Which is so natural for most humans, they aren't even aware of it.Even though they must have it from me… to feel safe.But, for me, “personality” was likebeing dragged out of my comfy pajamas,forced intothe worst, most cumbersome, restrictive, awkward, embarrassing winter coat,ear muffs,muffler,heavy snow boots,and mittensyour mother ever stuffed you intoto shove you onto that bus to kindergarten…And “personality” still is suffocating. Today. In my 70s. Ten years after diagnosed as autistic and ADHD.Especially, “fun times”… They're the real killers.Parties.Intimate conversations…Shudder... Family holidays? So nightmarish, I wrote the 7-page narrative poem sneaking my mother's creepy g-d on high.These are all times I must adopt my “personality.” You know, to survive. No matter how much “fun” they're supposed to be.What pros call “masking”? Really nothing more than exhausting habits of behavior & speech. That I must shroud myself in. Like an embalmed mummy. Just so it's easy for other humans… to feel “comfortable” around me.Not an essential Self. Just, ya know, “personality.”Certainly not me. Nothing comfortable about it.I'm going to hazard a guess.Which may be narcissistic delusion… Flow seems awfully close to what the Buddha described as experiencing “no-self” vs. the “conditioned mind.”From at least age 2 on, I clearly remember lucid dreaming and long periods of time spent without verbal thought of any kind. Just perceiving, in awe and wonder…EVERYTHING.Until I had to interact with humans. Any humans. Even those I was required… to “love.”And donning the “personality”? The joy collapsed. Fast as a quantum waveform when you try to measure it. Not into pain…Collapsing into an all-absorbing effort.Intellectualizing every word,gesture,tone of voice of my own…Then interpreting all those of each and every human I was with at the time…and THEN determining precisely the right word,tone of voice,facial expression,and body attitude to project back…all at the same timeTo avoid being in trouble.Because I was… Bad.And I had to protect everyone around me from that.Every. Single. Second…And even at a young age, a growing sense of the need to protect others…From me.Because I was different. Because I hurt people without understanding. Because I acted as if I were “arrogant”… etc., etc.Like two divorces. Cuz I could be amazing for 3 to 6 months. Caring. Fun as hell. Then fall into deep depressions and work burnouts. Cuz I couldn't handle that much intimacy. Hell, that much time alone with another human…Because I was… Bad.And I had to protect everyone around me from that.Every. Single. Second… That I am with another human.Except very young children. And of course, animals… Since I was… 4 years old.Now since diagnosis, I found a few tricks.In 2019 when I first started writing about my autism, I was all about lists. Trying to “help” others. Took me a year or two to realize we are… every one of us autists… different. Different lives. Different needs and goals. Different survival skills.So I'm only an “expert” on my own life. Even if I am the only expert on that there is.Your mileage certainly will vary.But for me? My autistic life is not about “getting better.” Or fixing me. It's about knowing who I truly am. And what I truly need. Doing what I can to meet those needs.Then being… me.So I moved to the Country…Living in the trailer across the courtyardFrom my third, loving wifeWhere I can reduce sensory overload.Reduce the number of humans I talk with To only folks I feel comfortable around.And stopped failing at jobs I was never built to do.But I… now… can pursue those things that have brought me joy since childhood.Spending unstructured, unmeasured time on any of my passions…walking in the wildest Nature I have access to,baking bread,fermenting pickles,gardening,deep-focus while replaying a favorite movie… that seventh time,illustrating,writing,playing music,researching world events….so, so many others.When I pursue a “special interest”… alone? Sometimes it's nearly orgasmic… In fact, I've redefined my understanding of my passions.They're not a forbidden pleasure. A shameful quirk. Something I “waste time on” when there's nothing more important to do.They are my gateway to Bliss, Satori, Oneness… Maybe even whatever God is… or Isn't…I'm not talking toxic positivity. My autistic joys aren't some advanced spiritual state I've achieved in my 70s. And now, suddenly… I'm here to tell you how to make everything okay. And talk you into buying your 5th NEW self-help system on the way out the door.But my joys are moments of love and happiness sprinkled through most of my days. Between meltdowns and burnouts. And some average life.They are my reason for Being.There are just NOT 7 Easy Things that Successful Autistics Do…That Will Change My Life Forever.There's just living complex… and in the end… wild autistic life.being old & autistic ain't so bad.losing inhibitions.some of which protected me from…Life.freedom turns out to be pain…and joy…in superposition.until maybe they annihilate you.Notes from the bardobefore the bardoI learned a lot that Spring afternoon on the lawn in Johnson City.I saw Infinity in a burnt-off ant leg.And, eventually… I went for it.[music]OutroNow you know. So... there ya go.This project is consuming me. In that good, auDHD passionate way. Cuz your response keeps me going.If it meant something to you… I bet you know someone else it will mean something to. Share it.Everything's free at autisticaf.me. For everyone. On me.Stay weird.Stay fierce.Stay alive. * If this 3 fragments grabbed you… binge them all in order here: The Book: Frag by Frag.Click to get the next frag in your inbox free. Plus a PDF of my chapbook. To support my work, consider a paid subscription.These fragments are from my upcoming autobiography, Autistic Noir: My Life is My Art, arriving Fall 2026.I'm building a book out loud. Fragment by fragment. Just like I lived it.The Next ActDon't trust a corporate algorithm's decision about whether you get to see the next excerpt or not.Join my Substack for free… and the next fragment comes straight to your inbox. And you get a free digital download of my complete poetry chapbook.* Unlock the next act for free.Why I Write My AutobiographyI'm only an expert on my own life. Born 1953, diagnosed at 63. Your mileage will vary.Individual minority voices speaking truth out loud? They build bridges to mainstream readers. Think Malcolm X. Think Maya Angelou, Think Janet Mock's Redefining Realness.This Fall, I hope to deliver that kind of impact, that power with My Autistic Life is My Art. For our neurodivergent community.Since 2019 I've published a quarter of a million words. Over half the size of the Lord of the Rings trilogy.Gotta be a pony somewhere in that shit. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit johnnyprofaneknapp.substack.com/subscribe

Moving to a new country doesn't just mean learning a new language or figuring out the grocery store. Sometimes it means rebuilding your identity from scratch and that can put unexpected pressure on even the strongest relationships.In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek and Brooke respond to a heartfelt question from Laura, a Portuguese listener who's been living in Denmark for two and a half years and has a Danish partner. She wonders whether the challenges they're facing are relationship problems or simply the reality of navigating two very different cultures.Brooke lets us in on what it was like dating and marrying a Dane while living in her home country and now his. Derek shares the pros and cons of living in Denmark with a partner who is non-Danish and from the same native culture. While it seems like relationship complexities defy borders, this episode does offer plenty of advice, relatable experiences, and food for thought.Topics that get unpacked:Why internationals often feel like they've lost part of themselves after moving abroadThe emotional labor of constantly asking questions about Danish cultureWhy Danes can feel exhausted being asked to "represent" their entire countryHow cultural differences affect communication, conflict, and expectationsWhy building your own international community can make all the differenceAs always, you can email, DM, or leave a voice note with your thoughts on this episode or your own question. We'd love to hear from you whether you're dating a Dane, living abroad with your partner, or simply trying to make Denmark make sense, like all of us. This conversation is a reminder that you're not alone and that many of the struggles you're experiencing are more common than you think.

The Christian Nerd Podcast is back after a month. Scott starts the show by talking about his weekend and some encouragement he got from the Midwest. He talks about what he was up to in May in What Are You Doing. In Let's All Go to the Movies, Scott reviews The Mandalorian and Grogu. And in Jesus Time, he talks about super practical rhythms unlocking something so much more. Show Notes   Intro - 0:00 "This is the way." What Are You Doing? - 6:48   Let's All Go to the Movies - 16:26   Jesus Time - 25:38   Goodbye - 29:55 Be sure to check out The Christian Nerd Like The Christian Nerd on Facebook Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and leave a comment Or use our RSS Feed to subscribe: http://thechristiannerd.libsyn.com/rss Follow The Christian Nerd on Twitter Follow Scott on Twitter Support The Christian Nerd on Patreon Email Scott at Scott@TheChristianNerd.com to get added to The Octagon. Thanks to Nick for The Christian Nerd theme music.

Denmark says it needs international talent. So why do so many internationals still feel uncertain about building a future here?In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek talks with Dan Rosenberg from Copenhagen Capacity about the reality behind working and staying in Denmark as an international. They discuss why many internationals feel “professionally stuck” in Denmark and the hidden career challenges foreigners face after getting hired that make changing jobs can feel risky - especially when your residency depends on employment.Along the way they discuss how this squares with Denmark's growing dependence on non-EU workers and why political rhetoric often doesn't match economic reality. It's not all doom and gloom, Dan highlights some Danish municipalities that are actually doing international retention well while explaining why welcoming internationals takes more than just work permits.The conversation also explores the future of international talent in Denmark, whether Denmark is truly competing globally for skilled workers, and what needs to change for internationals to feel wanted and not just needed.Whether you're newly arrived, job hunting, considering permanent residency, or wondering if Denmark is really a long-term fit, this episode offers one of the most honest conversations yet about life as an international in Denmark.

Denmark's had a rough Eurovision track record in recent years, but is looking to continue a bounce back that began last year. How did the country that has struggled to qualify for the Eurovision final, suddenly become one of the favorites to win Eurovision 2026? It's thanks to one song: “Før vi går hjem.”In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek Hartman and Brooke Black sit down with Danish musician, producer, and songwriter Clara Sofie Fabricius, one of the co-writers behind Denmark's Eurovision entry “Før vi går hjem,” performed by Søren Torpegaard Lund.Clara Sofie shares the incredible behind-the-scenes story of how the song came together during a songwriting camp that included an untimely injury, wine hangover, general exhaustion, and somehow resulted in Denmark's biggest Eurovision hype in years. Oh and the heavy lifting of the song came to be in less than an hour. You have to hear this story to believe it.They also discuss:Why Denmark struggled at Eurovision after 2013How Dansk Melodi Grand Prix worksThe process of writing a Eurovision songWhy “Før vi går hjem” connected with fans across EuropeThe meaning behind the lyrics and stagingWhether Eurovision is finally becoming “cool” againWhy Eurovision matters so much in DenmarkWhether you're a longtime Eurovision fan or completely new to the contest, this episode explains why Eurovision is such a huge cultural event in Denmark — and why this year felt different.Listen to “Før vi går hjem”: https://youtu.be/dz6P3YTNG0M?si=Pgb8nhw2Bqj_3gy9Clara Sofie (guest):Spotify profile: LINKSongs I wrote: LINKSongs I wrote and produced: LINKInstagram: LINKFacebook: LINKLinkedIn: LINK Derek Hartman:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandkYouTube: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:https://instagram.com/brookeblackjusthttps://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustTopics: Eurovision Song Contest 2026, Eurovision, Denmark in Eurovision, Danish Musicians

Randers has one of the strongest and strangest reputations in Denmark. But where does it actually come from?In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek, Brooke, and Conrad unpack the myths, stereotypes, and history behind Denmark's sixth-largest city. From “Randers Champagne” to royal-approved gloves, we explore how a place can be both mocked and have a lot to be admired at the same time.Along the way, we share our own experiences, surprising facts, and the cultural reasons Danes love to joke about Randers.Is it fair… or just a really persistent meme?Referenced Episodes:Graceland Randers aka Memphis Mansion (Danish Copyright Fights)Himmelbjerget and Denmark's Highest PeaksDerek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:https://instagram.com/brookeblackjusthttps://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustConrad Molden:https://instagram.com/conradmoldencomedyhttps://youtube.com/c/conradmoldenhttps://tiktok.com/@conradmolden https://facebook.com/conradmoldenhttps://www.conradmolden.dk

God, What Are You Doing (1 Samuel 1:1-28) | Kingmaker | Mike Kelsey 

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Denmark just held an election… but the real story is what happens next.In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark?, Derek and Brooke break down the results of the Danish election, and why forming a government might be more complicated than ever.With no clear majority between the “red” and “blue” blocs, everything now comes down to coalition building, political trade-offs, and one key role: the Royal Investigator.We're joined by insights from Copenhagen Post editor-in-chief, Bernardo Basilici Menini, who explains:Why the math doesn't work for an easy governmentWhat a “minority government” actually means (and why Denmark can have one)Which parties gained power and whyHow Danish politics may be shifting toward more personality-driven leadershipAnd the tough reality of where internationals fit into the political conversationIf you've ever been confused by Danish politics or wondered how this election affects your life here, this episode will help make sense of it.Because even if you can't vote… it still matters.Topics: Danish election, Denmark politics explained, expats in Denmark, coalition government, minority government, immigration policy Denmark, Nordic politicsBernardo Basilici Menini (guest):LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bernardo-basilici-meniniCopenhagen Post: https://cphpost.dk/author/bernardo/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bernie.basilicimenDerek Hartman:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandkYouTube: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:https://instagram.com/brookeblackjusthttps://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustSubscribe to The Copenhagen Post: https://cphpost.dk/subscription/

In this special Q&A episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark?, Derek and Conrad answer your listener questions covering everything from dark winters and Danish workplace culture to raising multilingual kids and navigating cultural quirks.They share how they met (after a two-year missed message), what it's really like getting through February in Denmark, and why “false spring” is both hopeful and cruel. The conversation dives into expat life challenges, including feeling isolated, adapting to flat hierarchies at work, and figuring out when to speak up or just take initiative.You'll also hear honest advice on raising children across multiple languages and cultures, blending holiday traditions (yes, including a very surprising version of baby Jesus), and what internationals should actually expect before moving to Denmark.Whether you're already living in Denmark or just curious about expat life, this episode is full of relatable stories, cultural insights, and plenty of laughs.➡️ A big thank you to our sponsor, Cool Accounts APS, for supporting this episode and helping make the show possible. If you're navigating Danish taxes as an expat, be sure to check them out: https://bit.ly/4doqdVcThe YouTube video from the first time Derek and Conrad met: https://youtu.be/eZndUpBkoLs?si=r6V3nnX_LFSDWUWTDerek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingConrad Molden:https://instagram.com/conradmoldencomedyhttps://youtube.com/c/conradmoldenhttps://tiktok.com/@conradmolden https://facebook.com/conradmoldenhttps://www.conradmolden.dk

Moving abroad can be exciting, but it can also be lonely.In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek speaks with therapist, coach, and author Lucy Vittrup Christensen about loneliness, why it affects so many internationals in Denmark, and what people can do to build real connection in a new culture.They explore the difference between being alone and being lonely, why cultural differences in Denmark can make friendships harder to build, and how feelings of isolation can sometimes lead people to withdraw even further.Lucy also shares practical strategies for reconnecting, from contributing to communities to embracing vulnerability and finding connection through shared activities and nature.If you've ever felt disconnected while living abroad, this conversation offers insight, reassurance, and practical ways to rebuild connection.Topics include:Why loneliness affects so many internationals in DenmarkThe difference between being alone and feeling lonelyCultural differences in social connection and friendshipWhy people sometimes withdraw when they feel isolatedHow vulnerability helps build stronger relationshipsPractical ways to find community in Denmark⚠️ This episode discusses loneliness and mental health. Please take care while listening. If you or someone you know is struggling, consider seeking professional help. Crisis resources are listed below.Key Mental Health Crisis Resources in Denmark:Livslinien (Lifeline): Phone 70 201 201 (open 11:00 AM – 5:00 AM daily) for suicide prevention and counseling.Psykiatrifonden (Mental Health Helpline): Phone 39 25 25 25 (Mon-Thu 10:00-22:00, Fri-Sun 10:00-18:00).BørneTelefonen: 11 61 11 (24/7 helpline for children and youth).Startlinjen: 35 36 26 00 (support for, life crises, 16:00-23:00).Regional Psychiatric Hotline: +45 78 47 04 70 (Central Denmark Region, 24/7)Lucy Vittrup Christensen (Guest)https://www.instagram.com/lucy_vittruphttps://www.facebook.com/lucy.vittrup.christensen/Derek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:https://instagram.com/brookeblackjusthttps://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjust

Series: God, What Are You Doing?

4 Responses Revealing Your Spiritual Maturity 1 - An Effective Introduction (19) 2 - The Effect of Anger (20-21) 3 - The Effect of Hearing (22-25) 4 - The Effect of Speech (26-27) a - What Are You Thinking? (26) b - What Are You Doing? (27)

In a comprehensive Suns-centric edition of the show, we analyze a volatile 24-hour cycle in the Valley. From the loss of Mark Williams and a rare "no-show" at the Mortgage Matchup Center to the breaking news of Dillon Brooks' arrest in Scottsdale, Episode 642 holds the "Identity Anchor" of the team accountable. We ask the tough question: Is the Suns' grit being undermined by a lack of discipline?In this episode:00:00 - Welcome07:08 - Suns: The Mark Williams Void & The Bulls No-ShowThe Next Man Up: Reacting to the news that Mark Williams will miss 2-3 weeks with a foot injury. We hear from Wolf & Luke on who needs to step up in the rotation to fill the gap.The MMC Meltdown: A deep dive into the lackluster loss against Chicago. For a team that has shown up almost every night, why did the toughness vanish in our own house?The Ott Assessment: We hear from Coach Jordan Ott on the performance and the lack of execution.31:34 - WHO'S GOT THE BEEF? presented by MooyahThe Midpoint Pivot: We start with the local news report regarding Dillon Brooks' arrest in Scottsdale early this morning."What Are You Doing?!": Reacting to the lapse in judgment from the team's cultural anchor. We break down the frustration of a player creating a massive distraction while already sidelined with a fractured hand.The Discipline Standard: Analyzing the gap between the "Enforcer" persona and the off-court reality.40:03 - Suns: The Fallout & The 4th Quarter CrisisUnderwhelming Reality: We react to Bickley & Marotta on the aftermath of the Bulls game and the path forward for the Suns.The 4th Quarter Mindset: Wolf & Luke ask if Devin Booker and the Suns need a complete mindset shift in the final frame to close out games.The Next Move: How the locker room navigates the dual threat of mounting injuries and legal distractions as they approach a crucial stretch.Follow The Valley Verdict:Facebook: [@thevalleyverdict]Instagram: [@thevalleyverdictpodcast]YouTube: [@thevalleyverdict]

How does the Danish healthcare system really work? When should you call 1813? Can you get a second opinion? And what happens if you show up at the ER?In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek and Brooke welcome back Emma Grint, Dr. Mum-for-Kids, to answer your listener questions about healthcare in Denmark.We cover:Visitors' access to healthcare in DenmarkEmergency vs. non-emergency care (112 vs. 1813)How to get a second opinionChanging your GP (family doctor)Wait times and specialist referralsWhat's covered under universal healthcare in DenmarkMental health and psychiatry waitlistsPregnancy and birth in Denmark (midwife-led care, epidurals, C-sections)Patient advocacy in the Danish systemIf you're an expat or international living in Denmark, this episode will help you understand your rights, your options, and how to navigate the system with confidence.

The world we live in, though beautiful, can sometimes feel like a hostile place. Our own bodies, though amazingly created, are subject to aging, disease and death. People's choices, darkened by sin, can cause deep and lasting pain and disruption in others' lives. When adversity touches our lives, how do we find ways to cope | Psalms | Series: God, What Are You Doing?

Denmark added 25% VAT to gym memberships and personal training, and it's already changing the fitness landscape. In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek and Annie sit down with personal trainer and educator Mikkel Valgreen to unpack what's happening, why it's happening, and who's most affected.The change stems from an EU classification that defines fitness services as “commercial” rather than healthcare. That means higher prices for gym memberships, personal training, and classes while taxes on things like sugar and alcohol are being reduced.We break down:Why the VAT was introducedHow gyms and trainers are respondingWho is exempt (and who isn't)The political debate around whether fitness should count as healthcareWhat it means for Denmark's long-term public healthPlus, Mikkel shares practical advice for actually sticking to your fitness goals in 2026 without burning out by the end of February.If you live in Denmark, work in fitness, or just care about how policy affects your daily life, this episode is for you.Mikkel Valgreen (guest):https://www.mikkelvalgreenpt.dk/https://www.instagram.com/valgreen_pt

If you're in Denmark in February, you'll probably notice children in costumes, wooden barrels being hit with bats, and an alarming number of cream-filled buns in every bakery window. That's Fastelavn, one of Denmark's most beloved and confusing traditions.In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek and Brooke break down what Fastelavn actually is, where it comes from, and what you should expect as an international living in Denmark. From its roots as the Northern European version of Carnival, to historic Fastelavn processions, children singing for treats, and the very strange tradition of “hitting the cat out of the barrel,” we explain how this holiday evolved and why it still matters today.We also talk about Fastelavn songs, costumes, and most importantly fastelavnsboller, the cream-filled buns that quietly turn February into Denmark's sweetest month.Whether you're new to Denmark or just wondering why everyone suddenly cares so much about pastries, this episode will help Fastelavn make a little more sense.Derek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:https://instagram.com/brookeblackjusthttps://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustReferenced:Check out Ilana Buhl for fastelavnsboller contenthttps://www.instagram.com/the_lykke_charmhttps://www.tiktok.com/@the_lykke_charm

How does hunting work in Denmark and how can a country with strict gun laws also have a strong hunting culture?In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek and Brooke sit down with David Carsten Pedersen, author, founder of Always Hunting, and host of the Danish podcast Jagt Radio, to unpack what hunting really means in Denmark for those looking in from the outside.Together, they explore how Danish hunting culture grew out of land ownership and farming traditions, why gun ownership in Denmark is treated as a privilege rather than a right, and how extensive education, testing, and safety requirements shape the way Danes think about firearms. David explains the rituals, ethics, and community-driven nature of hunting in Denmark, as well as how respect for animals, food, and shared responsibility are central to the tradition.The conversation also looks at why hunting has become more accepted in Danish society in recent years, how Danes generally view hunters and guns today, and what internationals, especially those from the U.S., often misunderstand about Danish gun laws, gun violence, and trust in public institutions.This episode offers internationals living in Denmark a deeper understanding of Danish gun culture, hunting ethics, and the broader values around safety, education, and social trust that shape life in Denmark.David Carsten Pedersen (guest):Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alwayshunting.dkDavid's podcast: https://www.instagram.com/jagtradio/Hunting License Course: https://alwayshunting.dk/

In this special Christmas episode of inContext, Michael Easley invites you into a thoughtful and engaging Christmas Quiz designed to test what we think we know about the Nativity story. Many of our assumptions come from tradition, art, and cultural imagery — but how much of it actually comes from Scripture? As Michael walks through each question, he highlights key biblical details, corrects common misconceptions, and helps us remember the stunning simplicity of the birth of Christ. This episode isn't just trivia. It's a reminder to slow down during a busy season, open the Bible, and return to the true story of the incarnation. Whether you're listening alone, discussing with your family, or using this quiz in a small group, you'll gain a clearer view of what the gospel writers recorded — and a renewed sense of wonder at God's plan in sending His Son. Stay through the final score for a few reflections that will help you read the Christmas story with fresh eyes this year. Resources Mentioned: Download the free Christmas IQ quiz Chapters 00:00 – Intro 01:02 – Why We Mix Up the Christmas Story 01:30 – Kids, Storybooks, and Misleading Illustrations 02:20 – Was the Forbidden Fruit an Apple? 03:00 – Christmas Quiz Question #1 03:31 – Christmas Quiz Question #2 03:55 – Christmas Quiz Question #3 04:40 – Christmas Quiz Question #4 05:28 – Christmas Quiz Question #5 06:17 – Christmas Quiz Question #6 07:37 – Christmas Quiz Question #7 08:16 – Christmas Quiz Question #8 08:48 – Christmas Quiz Question #9 09:48 – Christmas Quiz Question #10 10:51 – Christmas Quiz Question #11 11:33 – Christmas Quiz Question #12 13:22 – Christmas Quiz Question #13 13:40 – Christmas Quiz Question #14 15:09 – Christmas Quiz Question #15 16:32 – Christmas Quiz Question #16 17:43 – Glitter, Nativities, and the Herpes of Crafts 18:31 – Where the Christmas Story Appears in Scripture 19:20 – Joseph, Mary, and the Surprise Pregnancy 20:07 – Who Sent Them to Bethlehem? 21:08 – Did the Angels Sing? (The Debate Continues) 22:08 – A Christmas Book Recommendation 23:58 – What Are You Doing for Christmas? 24:40 – Teaching Kids Contentment at Christmas Follow on Instagram and Facebook For more information on Dr. Michael Easley and Ask Dr. E click here.

Winter in Denmark isn't just cold, it's dark, windy, wet, and emotionally confusing. In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek and Conrad are joined by comedians Jeff Bond and Jacob Taarnhøj to break down how to actually survive a Danish winter.From cycling through sideways wind, understanding seasonal affective disorder, navigating public transport misery, January despair, and Denmark's unique relationship with darkness, this episode is packed with practical advice, cultural insight, and very questionable winter “hacks.”If you're new to Denmark, considering moving here, or just wondering why Danes bike through snowstorms without blinking, this episode will help Denmark make a little more sense, even in winter.Jefferson Bond (Guest):Instagram: https://instagram.com/jeffersonbondcomedy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/jeffersonbondcomedyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jefferson.A.Bond/Jacob Taarnhøj (Guest): https://www.instagram.com/jacobtaarnhoej/ https://www.facebook.com/JacobTaarnhoej https://jacobtaarnhoej.dk/ Derek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingConrad Molden:https://instagram.com/conradmoldencomedyhttps://youtube.com/c/conradmoldenhttps://tiktok.com/@conradmolden https://facebook.com/conradmoldenhttps://www.conradmolden.dk

Today's episode was a recap and review of Peacock's original TV show series Bel-Air final season 4, episodes 1–3: “The Maybes,” “Be a Kid,” and “What Are You Doing for Thanksgiving.” Hope you enjoy and thank you for your support.FB: aliciashaniseIG: aliciashanisereviewsEmail: aliciashanisereviews13@gmail.com for any recap requests (email or DM/inbox)Website: aliciashanise.wordpress.comTwitter/X: https://x.com/AliciaShanise13The Book Author of The Tale of the Park-Hill Crew: Vol. 1Purchase here: https://a.co/d/7Wkm6MV

Trippin  is a SUPERCUT of the Opie Radio podcast LIVE from Gebhards.VIDEO VERSION https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXd_Gd4cdsMThe most insane Trippin yet.Ron drops the full story of his Russian-Jewish mafia enforcer uncle who snapped arms like twigs and got thrown out of a Cadillac doing 85 mph.Tony P defends his “nipple rings forever” life choice.The crew debates the official prison rule: 10 days = WHAT ARE YOU DOING?, life sentence = still straight.Plus degenerate gambling disasters, mom betting on which greyhound takes a dump first, and the legendary Verrazano Bridge pee-blowing-back-in-my-own-face finale.Classic no-filter Opie Radio madness with Opie, Tony P and Ron the Waiter, Matt and Millie.

Denmark's 2025 local and regional elections delivered anything but the usual political calm. Historic strongholds flipped, long-dominant parties stumbled, and unexpected winners surged—reshaping the political map just months before a likely national election.In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek Hartman and Mike Walsh break down the biggest surprises from election night with the help of a special guest: Bernardo Basilici Menini, editor-in-chief of The Copenhagen Post. Bernardo has been following the campaigns, the numbers, and the fallout and he joins us to explain what the results really mean.Don't forget to share this podcast with any friends who have made the move to Denmark.For more clips and tips on living in Denmark and follow us on social media:Bernardo Basilici Menini (guest):LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bernardo-basilici-meniniCopenhagen Post: https://cphpost.dk/author/bernardo/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bernie.basilicimenDerek Hartman:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandkYouTube: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingMike Walsh:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phillymike999

In this episode, Derek is joined by Lasse Frimand Jensen, the mayor of Aalborg, to explore the city's transformation from an industrial hub to a modern center for education, green energy, and culture. Discover how Aalborg is embracing its growing international community and leading the way in sustainable development.Lasse shares insights from his personal journey living abroad, the challenges of integrating newcomers, and the importance of community togetherness in Aalborg. The conversation also touches on the city's green transition, efforts to integrate the international community, and the challenges posed by national immigration policies. You'll also gain understanding of the significance of local engagement and cultural connections, particularly through music. Mayor Jensen also offers advice for internationals looking to make Denmark feel like home.Tune in for an engaging discussion on local leadership, internationalization, and the future of one of Denmark's most dynamic cities.Don't forget to share this podcast with any friends who have made the move to Denmark.For more clips and tips on living in Denmark and follow us on social media:What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:Instagram: https://instagram.com/waydidpodFacebook: https://facebook.com/waydidpodemail: hello@robe-trotting.com

Witch hunts, haunted castles, and modern magic. Derek, Brooke, and Conrad dig into Denmark's witchy past — from real 17th-century witch trials to modern-day magic and haunted castles. Along the way, they mix eerie history with humor, ghost stories, and a few surprising facts about why Danes still burn witches on midsummer bonfires. It's a spirited episode that's equal parts spooky and fun.Other spooky WAYDID episode mentioned: Ghost Stories From Denmark's Most Haunted Castlehttps://pod.link/1704607322/episode/NjcwYTc2MDYwOTJjYzI0MDk4YzM0ODc2Don't forget to share this podcast with any friends who have made the move to Denmark.For more clips and tips on living in Denmark and follow us on social media:What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:Instagram: https://instagram.com/waydidpodFacebook: https://facebook.com/waydidpodemail: hello@robe-trotting.com

As we continue to talk about Philippians it's important to remember that chapter 4 doesn't stop at “thinking on these things.” Paul takes it a step further, “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me, put it into practice.” Faith is not just a way of thinking; it's a way of living, choosing, and acting. Paul invites us into a life that moves beyond contemplation into action. It's one thing to dwell on what is noble and praiseworthy, but another to step forward in obedience, generosity, and love.Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.TEXT US at 855-888-0444EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.comGET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribeGET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

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In the 5 AM hour, Larry O'Connor & Patrice Onwuka discussed: FOX NEWS: Disney Announces ‘Jimmy Kimmel Live!’ Returning Tuesday After Suspension MEDIAITE: Sinclair’s ABC Affiliates Will Pre-Empt Jimmy Kimmel’s Return S.F. CHRONICLE: ‘A Win for Free Speech’: Newsom Hails Jimmy Kimmel’s Return After Disney Suspension MEDIAITE: ‘What Are You Doing?!’ CNN’s Enten Warns Democrats Are In Trouble Ahead of the Midterms Where to find more about WMAL's morning show: Follow Podcasts on Apple, Audible and Spotify Follow WMAL's "O'Connor and Company" on X: @WMALDC, @LarryOConnor, @JGunlock, @PatricePinkfile, and @HeatherHunterDC Facebook: WMALDC and Larry O'Connor Instagram: WMALDC Website: WMAL.com/OConnor-Company Episode: Tuesday, September 23, 2025 / 6 AM HourSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Respect. Trust. Laws. Myths. Police. Denmark. Policing in Denmark isn't what you might expect.In this episode, Allan Hansen, Deputy Chief Superintendent of Copenhagen Police, joins Derek, Mike, and Brooke to demystify how policing really works here. From the difference between 112 and 114, to what's legal (and what's not) when it comes to biking, drinking, or swimming in the harbor, the team cuts through the myths internationals often carry with them. Allan also shares what makes Danish policing unique: one unified force, a strong culture of trust, and a focus on preventing problems before they escalate.If you've ever wondered whether jaywalking will get you fined, what to do if you lose your phone at a café, or how police handle scams, nightlife, and language barriers, this conversation has the answers. You'll even hear a few wild stories from Allan's 30 years on the job including a sheep's head gone wrong and a city bus nose-diving into a canal. Get the clarity you need to feel safe, confident, and informed.Danish Police (Politi): Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/politiFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/politi/Derek Hartman:Instagram: https://instagram.com/derekhartmandkYouTube: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:Instagram: https://instagram.com/brookeblackjustTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustMike Walsh:Instagram: https://instagram.com/phillymike999

In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek, Mike, and Brooke dive into the adaptation stage of culture shock. It's that turning point when life in Denmark starts to click. Listeners share their own stories and voice notes about the moments they realized they were doing more than just getting by. They share what made them realize they were navigating daily routines without second-guessing, finding joy in small cultural quirks, and suddenly feeling at home in a place that once felt so unfamiliar.This episode is a reminder that adaptation doesn't happen overnight, it's a journey of little wins, awkward stumbles, and surprising breakthroughs. Chances are, you'll hear a bit of your own experience in these stories.The original culture shock episode: https://shows.acast.com/what-are-you-doing-in-denmark/episodes/culture-shock-in-denmark

Reverse culture shock hits home hard. Coming home isn't always easy. After thirteen years in London, Danish comedian Sofie Hagen returns to Denmark and finds that re-entry can be just as surprising as moving abroad. From missing rye bread and blunt small talk to discovering how “first of all” sounds like starting a fight in British emails, Sofie shares the joys and shocks of repatriation with humor and honesty. This episode explores what internationals and Danes alike can learn about belonging, identity, and the hidden “recipe” of being Danish. Listen in for laughter, awkward truths, and the fifth stage of culture shock: coming back.What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:https://instagram.com/waydidpodhttps://facebook.com/waydidpodhello@robe-trotting.comhttps://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFCSH6KqKooZmSx1GJu9CWZYjX8esjl2FSofie Hagen (Guest):https://www.instagram.com/sofiehagendkhttps://www.comedyzoo.dk/event/1313358-7b2afhttps://www.sofiehagen.com/ Previous episode with Sofie:https://pod.link/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5hY2FzdC5jb20vcHVibGljL3Nob3dzLzY0Y2U4YWE5OTBkMDAyMDAxMTMzZDBkZA/episode/Njg4Y2E0N2NmY2YxYjc5ZjdiNzZhODIwDerek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:https://instagram.com/brookeblackjusthttps://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustConrad Molden:https://instagram.com/conradmoldencomedyhttps://youtube.com/c/conradmoldenhttps://tiktok.com/@conradmolden https://facebook.com/conradmoldenhttps://www.conradmolden.dkTina's blog: A former unexpected housewife: https://notamaturemum.wordpress.com/

Denmark Says: You Own Your Face. Denmark just handed its citizens a legal copyright on themselves — your face, voice, and body are officially yours. Instead of clamping down on deepfake tech like a digital killjoy, the law flips the script and makes it an ownership game: if someone makes a fake of you, you can force them to take it down. Derek and Mike explore how this clever move stacks up against EU and French rules, the wild range of deepfake risks from silly to sinister, and why keeping up with AI might be the ultimate whack-a-mole.What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:https://instagram.com/waydidpodhttps://facebook.com/waydidpodhello@robe-trotting.comhttps://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFCSH6KqKooZmSx1GJu9CWZYjX8esjl2FDerek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingMike Walsh:https://instagram.com/phillymike999

What makes a Danish school... Danish? This week, return guest Ilana Bull—an international school teacher and parent—joins Derek and Brooke to explore how school systems in Denmark reflect much more than just academics. From class structure to communication styles, from birthday customs to the role of play, this episode dives into the everyday cultural signals baked into the Danish approach to education.It's an overview on how to decide on which school your child should go to and also a reflection on what school says about belonging, trust, independence, and integration in Denmark.What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:https://instagram.com/waydidpodhttps://facebook.com/waydidpodhello@robe-trotting.comhttps://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFCSH6KqKooZmSx1GJu9CWZYjX8esjl2FIlana Bull (guest): https://www.instagram.com/the_lykke_charmhttps://www.tiktok.com/@the_lykke_charmDerek Hartman: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk https://youtube.com/c/robetrottinghttps://tiktok.com/@derekhartmandkwww.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:https://instagram.com/brookeblackjusthttps://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjust

Narcis didn't just move to Denmark—he moved the needle. What began as a frustrating student experience turned into a powerful journey of activism, visibility, and political impact. From challenging exclusion in student councils to launching Last Week in Denmark, a very popular newsletter now published in nine languages, he's running for city council and calling for a complete reframe of how internationals are seen—pushing to replace the outdated Ministry of Integration with a Ministry of Internationals. If you've ever felt like an outsider or wondered how real change happens, this episode shows exactly what's possible.What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:IG: https://instagram.com/waydidpodFB: https://facebook.com/waydidpodWhat Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:YT: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFCSH6KqKooZmSx1GJu9CWZYjX8esjl2Femail: hello@robe-trotting.comNarcis George Matache (guest):IG: https://www.instagram.com/narcisgmatacheFB: https://www.facebook.com/NarcisGMatache/Last Week In Denmark (LWID) newsletter: https://lastweekdk.substack.com/LWID podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/5dFxU6ujQ6ktjNNTaPNVKu Vote Home Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3El6T0rZFAr0QV6P0ocyL6Derek Hartman: IG: https://www.instagram.com/derekhartmandk YT: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@robetrottingFB: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:IG: https://instagram.com/brookeblackjustTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjust

The lyrics for the songs "What Are You Doing the Rest of Your Life," "The Way We Were," "Nice 'n' Easy," "You Must Believe in Spring," and "The Windmills of Your Mind" were written by the husband and wife lyric-writing team of Alan and Marilyn Bergman. Alan Bergman died last week at the age of 99. The two wrote songs together for more than 60 years. They spoke with Terry Gross in 2007. The aristocratic, unconventional British Mitford sisters are the subject of the new BritBox TV series Outrageous. We listen to our 1989 interview with Jessica Mitford, who wrote The American Way of Death, an exposé of the funeral industry that became a best seller in 1963. Mitford also was a communist who refused to give information to the House Un-American Activities Committee. Also, TV critic David Bianculli review Dexter: Resurrection.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

Learning Danish? Stop waiting to feel ready. Brooke Fossey joins Derek and Mike to share why mindset matters more than mastery, and how choosing joy over perfection can transform your language journey. From awkward public mistakes to unhelpful corrections, Brooke's approach blends consistency, curiosity, and a refusal to give up—even when Danes switch to English. If you've ever felt frustrated, embarrassed, or just plain stuck with Danish, this episode offers a new way forward. Listen now and rediscover the joy of learning—even when it's messy.What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:Instagram: https://instagram.com/waydidpodemail: hello@robe-trotting.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFCSH6KqKooZmSx1GJu9CWZYjX8esjl2FBrooke Fossey – GuestInstagram: @nearlydanishdameDerek Hartman:Instagram: https://instagram.com/robetrottingYouTube: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@robetrottingFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingMike Walsh:Instagram: https://instagram.com/phillymike999

Laughter, lies, language, and cultural clashes. Some jokes don't survive the border. Abby Wambaugh and Dharkshika Christopher join cohosts Derek and Conrad to talk about the challenges—and joys—of performing stand-up across languages and cultures. With sets in Danish, Norwegian, English, French, and Swedish, they've experienced what works, what doesn't, and how humor shifts with the audience. From literal-minded Danish crowds to multilingual punchlines and awkward silences, this episode explores what it really means to be funny across cultures. What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:IG: https://instagram.com/waydidpodWatch on YouTubeDharkshika Christopher (Guest):IG: https://www.instagram.com/dharshika.christopherFB: https://www.facebook.com/DharshikaChristopherComedyAbby Wambaugh (Guest): IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbywambaughPodcast: https://www.instagram.com/helpholepod/Derek Hartman:IG: https://instagram.com/robetrottingYT: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@robetrottingFB: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingConrad Molden:Ig: https://instagram.com/conradmoldencomedyYT: https://youtube.com/c/conradmoldenTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@conradmolden FB: https://facebook.com/conradmoldenhttps://www.conradmolden.dkWAYDID episodes about Danish humo(u)r:92 | Going Viral in Denmark: Mathias Bach on TikTok Fame, Danish Humor & Applesauce: https://open.spotify.com/episode/72hAGh4sx2QkVj2PgYJlG358 | Are Danes as funny as they think? Navigating Danish humor (part 2): https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kzbCwzJwGDlUa0CSosSre?si=BMPu03IzQHGxGN98-B7bKA56 | Are Danes as funny as they think? Navigating Danish humor (part 1), https://open.spotify.com/episode/4KakZgNO7Kpq5AsxOOShqN?si=5960799d612a4b19

Bonfires, jesters, glass kings, pirate royals. Danish history is weirder than you think. Released for Sankt Hans—Denmark's midsummer celebration of fire and folklore—this episode brings the heat with tales that blur the line between fact and legend. Comedian Adrian Mackinder joins Derek, Brooke, and Conrad to explore everything from a court jester fired by a funnier king, to Hans Christian Andersen's fear of being buried alive. If you're gathering around a fire tonight, this is the perfect episode to spark conversation—and maybe a little disbelief. Listen now.What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:Instagram: https://instagram.com/waydidpodYouTubeDerek Hartman:IG: https://instagram.com/robetrottingYT: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@robetrottingFB: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:IG: https://instagram.com/brookeblackjustTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustConrad Molden:IG: https://instagram.com/conradmoldencomedyYT: https://youtube.com/c/conradmoldenTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@conradmolden FB: https://facebook.com/conradmoldenhttps://www.conradmolden.dkAdrian Mackinder:http://www.adrianmackinder.co.uk/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/adrianmackinder/Book: Death and the Victorianshttps://linktr.ee/deathandthevictorianspodcast: History For You:https://open.spotify.com/show/6K2vBAjWoOcPmJUgEcRmxNAdrian's previous episode of WAYDID: https://shows.acast.com/what-are-you-doing-in-denmark/episodes/adrian-mackinderAnn Marie;s WAYDID episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/gh/podcast/83-the-danish-king-who-played-the-dating-game-of-thrones/id1704607322?i=1000693279405

Denmark consistently tops the world's livability rankings—but what do those lists really tell you about life here? In this episode, Derek, Brooke, and Mike take a closer look at the glossy reports versus the everyday realities of living in Denmark. From healthcare hurdles to hidden costs and navigating local systems without a corporate package, they unpack what these rankings often miss. Along the way, they talk privilege, Paris Syndrome, and why your personal community matters more than any global index. Consider this the messy bits that don't fit into a neat list but are essential to understand before moving to a new country. What Are You Doing in Denmark podcast:Instagram: https://instagram.com/waydidpodemail: hello@robe-trotting.comWatch these episodes on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFCSH6KqKooZmSx1GJu9CWZYjX8esjl2FDerek Hartman:Instagram: https://instagram.com/robetrottingYouTube: https://youtube.com/c/robetrottingTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@robetrottingFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/robetrottingBrooke Black:Instagram: https://instagram.com/brookeblackjustTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brookeblackjustMike Walsh:Instagram: https://instagram.com/phillymike999

Coley & Trill React to the Wild Start of the NBA Playoffs: The boys are back and diving straight into the chaos that was Game 1 across the first round of the NBA Playoffs. From surprise performances to early overreactions, Coley and Trill break it all down with their signature mix of insight and laughs. But they don't stop there — it's a full basketball buffet. The guys take a few nostalgic trips down NBA memory lane, debate legacies, revisit the 2012 Finals, and even get philosophical about Steph vs. KD. Then, they wrap it all up with some spicy NFL Draft takes you won't see coming. It's a packed episode with hoops, hilarity, and just enough chaos. Don't miss it. (0:00) Trill vs. Technology (3:02) Use Promo Code: CHARM (4:33) NBA Playoffs Are in Full Swing (12:47) Which Series Are OVER?! (15:59) Just Stop Talking, Nico Harrison (19:37) Back to the Playoffs (26:43) Are NBA Players Legacy's Impacted by Aging? (30:06) Kevin Durant or Steph Curry Debate (33:59) Looking Back at the 2012 NBA Finals (43:35) Klay Thompson Gets Reflective (45:12) The Boys Celebrate Easter (50:32) HBO... What Are You Doing?! (55:20) The Silver Comcast Remote Was Legendary (59:56) Streaming is Attempting to Replicate TV (1:04:20) Let's Talk Some Rap (1:08:28) Phil Jackson Gets Spiritual (1:11:42) NBA Playoff Surprises (1:18:49) Jimmy Butler is the Perfect No. 2 (1:25:40) Looking at the Warriors' Timeline (1:34:13) Tony Allen is a Grizzlies Legend (1:46:17) When is an NBA Player in Their Prime? (2:00:14) Would You Rather Pay Trae Young or Ja Morant? (2:15:56) Jayson Tatum Injury (2:17:37) NBA Lottery Feels So Rigged (2:21:50) Coley's Wild NFL Draft Take (2:24:58) Trill's Bold NFL Draft Take (2:30:18) Will Campbell to the Patriots? (2:39:00) Future Hall of Famers from This Draft Class (2:49:01) Coley is OUT on Tyler Warren Coley Mick and Trill Withers are back (again), with Third Time's The Charm! Their newest show, presented by Underdog Fantasy, features the two like they never left. Coley and Trill will cover sports and just about everything else. Sign up for Underdog Fantasy HERE with promo code CHARM and get up to 50% first deposit bonus up to $1,000: https://play.underdogfantasy.com/p-third-timesthe-charm Subscribe to the Podcast

Can you make someone like you in seconds? Vanessa Van Edwards returns with the science-backed secrets of dating and likeability - tested in real-life dating scenarios for the very first time.  Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of ‘Science of People', a platform that gives people skills to improve communication and leadership. She is also the bestselling author of ‘Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People' and ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication'. 00:00 Intro 03:02 How Important Is It to Master the Skill of Communication? 03:33 Are We Set in Our Ways? Is Charisma Genetic? 04:18 Different Types of Awkwardness in People 04:53 How to Make Friends – The 3 Core Friendship Values 06:37 How Do You Figure Out Your Core Friendship Values? 07:34 How Many People Has Vanessa Taught These Skills? And What Do They Want? 08:18 First Impressions 10:24 Profile Pictures 14:10 Add Cues for a Better First Impression 15:28 How Sunglasses Block Connection 16:21 More Good Cues for First Impressions 16:54 How Do I Make a Really Bad First Impression? 18:30 What We Need to Signal to Express Warmth 21:27 Breaking the Script 23:19 Master Communicators and the "Chemical Cocktail" 28:11 Online First Impressions 29:11 Be the Red Apple 30:17 How to Make an Impression on Zoom 32:08 The Story Toolbox 35:07 How Important Is Background on Zoom? 36:29 Where to Look on Zoom Calls 37:16 Date Experiments 43:09 Drivers and Passengers in Conversation 44:23 Micro Wins 45:05 Body Language That Indicates Attraction 49:35 Why Busyness Is Not a Mark of Success 51:16 The Jam Study – Too Many Choices 52:12 Prioritizing Self-Care Over Connection 53:08 Dating Checklists 54:23 Do We Get More Numb the More We Date? 55:32 Two Challenges If You're in a Funk or Feeling Lonely 58:26 Steve Being a Control Freak 01:00:14 Networking Events 01:00:55 Ads 01:09:20 Using the Word "Because" as a Leader 01:11:01 How Do We Know If Someone Likes Us? 01:14:20 What If You're Not a Funny Person? 01:16:09 Can You Learn to Be Funny? 01:16:57 Touch 01:18:10 Hacks for Being Funny 01:19:36 Channeling Other People 01:20:36 Microexpressions 01:21:37 Reading Fear in People's Faces 01:23:24 Seeing Disgust in People's Faces 01:25:09 How to Tell If Someone Is Angry Without Them Saying It 01:27:05 How to Tell When Someone Is Truly Happy 01:28:49 How to Tell If Someone Is Sad Even If They Don't Say It 01:31:03 How to Tell If Someone Is Surprised 01:32:33 How to Tell If Someone Has Contempt Toward You 01:35:23 Can and Should We Change Our Personalities? 01:37:20 Steve's Personality Traits 01:38:49 Making Your New Partner Take a Personality Test 01:41:20 Conscientious People 01:57:05 Do Extroverts Have Better Immunity? 01:58:04 Personality Traits of Lifelong Singles 01:59:57 Should We Know Other People's Personality Types When We Meet Them? 02:01:38 Feeling Like the Vibe Is Off 02:03:31 What Are You Doing to Serve Others Follow Vanessa:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/4i5lvOnaqSb  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/6KQtfyqaqSb  You can find out more about Vanessa's personality test, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/SnXJL6ntqSb  You can purchase Vanessa's book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication', here: https://g2ul0.app.link/L0YqrVvaqSb  Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Sign up to receive email updates about Diary Of A CEO here: https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt  Ready to think like a CEO? Gain access to the 100 CEOs newsletter here: https://bit.ly/100-ceos-newsletter  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Sponsors: Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp Linkedin Jobs - https://www.linkedin.com/doac ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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A woman is seeing a guy who only grudgingly goes down south. Sex for them always begins with her giving him a BJ, but because they have a Dom/sub dynamic, he feels he doesn't owe her anything. Here's a fun word scramble game that astute Savage Lovecast listeners can play! Unscramble these letters to form the acronym that will give the caller clear direction on what to do: TMAFD A man is curious, confused, and bewildered about what lesbians mean when they say they have sex.  On the Magnum, Dan's been talking about bisexual men quite a bit on the show. Are they the luckiest bastards ever, or do they have a rough row to hoe? For this very special "What Are You Doing?" segment, Dan brings on Sam Lent who self-identifies as "A shameless woman who seeks bi men to fuck." How does she search for them? How do bi and straight men differ? And why are the men of Denver so very into pegging? Sam thinks bi men are a national treasure, and we think Sam is pretty awesome.  A woman's pal has an OnlyFans account. Sometimes this friend stays overnight at the caller's house. The caller saw that her buddy had filmed a session from her house and put it up as content without consulting the caller first. Is it prudish to feel like her home is off-limits? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Dame Products, Sex toys designed by Women, For Women. For 20% off your first order, go to Dame.com and use offer code SAVAGE20 Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project.From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A woman's 74 year-old father has started dating a 19 year-old woman, and no one in her family besides her is batting an eye. She is horrified and refuses to meet the lass or speak to her father until the relationship ends. Is she being too harsh?  A British poly man has an American girlfriend who comes to visit now and again. She asked him to take her to a sex party, but there's a hitch. She screams to kingdom come during sex. The caller is worried that his more reserved British sex party compatriots will find her conduct unseemly.  On the Magnum, Dan simply couldn't resist bringing on Sunshyne for a "What Are You Doing?" Sunshyne is a shaggy haired, muppet-faced adonis! He models for multi-national corporations AND has a fin-dom hustle on the side. He and Dan talk about his work, how he got there, and whether women or men give better head.  A gay man and his boyfriend do not agree about sex. His boyfriend wants monogamy and routine, unadventurous sex. The caller yearns for more sex, and more variety. His boyfriend reluctantly agreed to let him see other people, but only if he uses a condom and tells him every time. But when he does tell, his boyfriend freaks out. So the caller has been sneaking around, seeing sex workers, without using condoms. How can they reconcile?  Spoiler! They probably can't.  Q@Savage.Love      206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Dame Products, Sex toys designed by Women, For Women. For 20% off your first order, go to Dame.com and use offer code SAVAGE20 This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From sex parties, to pegging, gay rights to monogamy and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Oh no! He broke the flirting rules. He kissed a lady and lied about it. (He lies a lot apparently.) But now, it makes her sick to look at him. What now? A man and his boyfriend just bought a house together and they are setting up one of the rooms as a nursery...because they are both adult babies. What should they tell visitors if they ask what the locked room is for? On the Magnum, it's the triumphant return of "What Are You Doing?!" A cuckold relationship with a femme-dom twist, you say? Do tell! Meet John and Maria, a seemingly "normal" couple that get super-freaky where it counts. They explain how they met, and gradually morphed into an amped-up sexual relationship. If you are interested in cuckolding, Dom/sub relationships or just want to peer in, have a listen. And, a woman heard that if her husband gets a vasectomy his semen will lose the delicious flavor she so enjoys. Is it true? Or maybe...not? Let's ask science! Q@Savage.Love          206-302-2064