Difficult Happens; Effective Communication for Bosses

“Uncertainty creates fear, fear create anger” -- Lara Currie Out of control Karen's are the poster people for the rise in bad behavior. Uncertainty causes fear, and fear causes anger. All too often that anger is vented in the wrong venue. Customers rage at service workers, policies trigger push back, and those who want things to ‘go back to normal' (whatever that is) are walking around in a heightened emotional state that your staff has to deal with. In today's episode, what ONE THING you can do to tame those unruly clients and diffuse the anger that your clients are expressing Why people are more disrespectful Is incivility on the rise? How do you show empathy when they are a jerk What key phrases will work to calm a tense situation Work with Lara:  Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

We spend a lot of time with the people we work with. Whether in person or online friendships form, and leadership often tries to encourage a sense of camaraderie with staff. Without knowing it, this can create strife between coworkers without meaning to. When does camaraderie become toxic? With a nod to systems theory, we can learn how and why what is intended as 'team building' may, in fact, grow animosity.  Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Do you ever wonder how a workplace turns toxic? It doesn't happen all at once, and it doesn't happen in a vacuum. Like a pot that slowly boils there are a lot of steps along the way where you can stop the chain reaction of events before the workplace turns toxic. When blame, exaggeration, and generalizations are used in a conflict communication gets lost. Generalizing is another way to label and dismiss a person or a topic. Exaggeration inflames what may otherwise be no big deal, into a conflict.  When identifying errors turns into a blame game, that is where the conversation ends. Tune in and discover what to be on the lookout for to make sure that your workplace doesn't slide down the slippery slope and wind up TOXIC. What you'll hear on today's episode: Its by inches we travel miles What to be on the lookout for How to address minor issues before they become major Intergenerational communication Toxic workplaces Where it all starts How coworkers make it worse Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

On top of everything else that you have had to deal with this past year, now loneliness is on the rise, and the impact of loneliness on you and the work you do is impactful. Douglas Nemecek, MD, chief medical officer for behavioral health at Cigna says that the impact of loneliness on your health is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day and is possibly worse than obesity and that isolated people risk having a significantly shorter life span.  I don't think it's any surprise that any stress on your emotions impacts you physically, as the saying goes, your body keeps the score of your emotions.  Contact with others is not connection, while you may interact with a lot of people, that doesn't necessarily mean that you are connecting with them. On today's episode, signs of loneliness, what to watch out for, and what to do about it. What you'll hear on today's episode: Signs of loneliness that you might not be aware of Mask emotions and their purpose What to watch out for What the heck is going on What next? Healthy alternatives What you need to combat loneliness Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:  Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Our best self makes all the plans but she doesn't always show up to implement them The world is full of information, a plethora of knowledge is just a Bing search away, psych, we all use google. Yet with all this information at our fingertips, we can know a thing, understand it, but when it comes to implementing, it's not as simple, we can have a hard time putting that information, that knowledge into practice.  So what do you need to make sure that you, and your team, walk the walk, and get implementing?   What you'll hear on today's episode: What sinks a team Learning vs knowing What three things you need before you implement The $325 billion dollar business getting in your way? Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

This is a juicy episode filled with the way's that you can use stories in your everyday work life, from the boardroom to the stage. Carol and I talk about everything from our personal struggles and successes to the DNA of the feminine, from speaker hijackers to why Emma should stop watching Law and Order SVU. Carol tells us how she uses the three-act story structure and the Hero's journey when working with clients. There are lots of free giveaways on dealing with conflict and a strategic speaking guide.  What you'll hear in this podcast: Stories help us see ourselves in others experiences Stories help us ‘rewrite history' so that we can see a better way We don't know how our personal story can impact others and the work that we do Throughout history it was dangerous for Women to speak their truth How recognizing patterns can help your storytelling Do an after-action review post speaking engagement, guest podcast episode, board meeting etc. Practice and repeat you message as often as possible to become more comfortable Visualize your environment Use skills practice and reflection to become a better speaker Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Well, some difficult S*it just happened. In 176 weeks of recording the difficult happens podcast, I have never missed a publication.  It's time for me to model the very behavior I talk about. We will all go through some … stuff in our lives and I want you to do the same when you encounter some really difficult stuff,  take care of yourself and your family. Next week, I will be back and I will be combating toxic, manipulative, bullying behavior head-on!  Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Deep thoughts by Jack Handy (SNL) © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Everyone, at one point in their life, has experienced a compliment that did not sit right. Either it was way too personal, or it felt a little backhanded. That's why we're tackling whether or not compliments are toxic! When we break down compliments, we can see that it depends on a variety of factors; Who is giving the compliment, the context, and the motive. When it comes to genuine compliments, you know it when you see it.    What you'll hear on today's episode: Compliments Gaslighting and Narcissism Genuine compliments Overly familiar compliment Sideways compliments Backhanded compliments Awkward compliments Fishing compliments Toxic or Not? Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Squad © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

"Knowledge is when you learn something new every day." We learn learn learn all day long but do we take enough time to apply? I love to learn, and learning the concepts is one thing, but implementing is another. This brings us to the one thing that we all need that we cannot do without. Something paramount to implementing better ways of communication, and that is empathy. What is empathy to you?   Empathy is the ability to understand what other people feel emotionally and see things from their perspective. Empathy is important because it is a precursor to any conversation. However, there is more to empathy than meets the eye, especially for business leaders.   What you'll hear on today's episode: Learning Implementing Empathy Will Smith: Fault vs. Responsibility Empathy and Accountability Ways to show empathy         Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types     You Tube: Will Smith - Fault vs. Responsibility   Squad           © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

What kind of energy do you give off? Do you find yourself expressing more masculine attributes or feminine? This concept of masculine and feminine has been around a lot, and we are beginning to see it take hold in the entrepreneurial and small business fields. Someone who is more focused and driven is seen to have stronger masculine traits, while more caring and creative is seen as having more feminine traits. Discussing masculine and feminine energies is based on a continuum, yin and yang. People are made up of different traits, and when we say "masculine energy" or "feminine energy" in this context, it does not mean male and female, yet these attributes and expressions are often used in a male/female way.   In this episode of Difficult Happens, we tackle the concept of masculine and feminine energy and how that impacts your interpersonal and professional relationships. What you'll hear on today's episode: What is Masculine and Feminine The Squad membership Yin and Yang Masculine traits Feminine traits Where the concepts break down Tone policing Communication         Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Squad           © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever found yourself engulfed in a project, focused on the little details like font or style, and before you realize it, hours have passed?  Guess what? You were distracted. Distracted does not always mean bouncing from one task to another or getting lost on Facebook when you should be working on a report. You can be hyper-focused on a task but be focused on something that does not serve your end goal.  In the end, it doesn't matter why you were distracted. The effect is the same.  Amber Hawley from the Distracted Entrepreneur Podcast joins us to talk about her personal and professional experience helping distracted entrepreneurs and those with ADHD.  With the happenings of the last year, a lot of people are distracted. Many women are finding it difficult to focus with the children at home more, and the change in routine leading to a greater number of burnouts. In this episode, we break down systems and structures, boxes and labels, and discuss ways to combat burnout.   What you'll hear on today's episode: Being distracted and ADD What distraction looks like Buttons and triggers Personality Traits Types of ADD Time-Blindness Shiny Object Syndrom Breaks and burnout Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Squad   Mentioned in the Podacast: 16 Personalities The Power of When - Michael Breus 7 Types of ADD Psychology in Seattle - Kirk Honda   Guest Resources: The Easily Distracted Entrepreneur © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

When you think of someone who's being assertive, what comes to mind? Do you see someone who is direct and confident, or do you see someone who is confrontational and forceful? Have you ever been accused of being “aggressive”? Was it a valid critique or was it an attempt to shut you down? Assertive communication is often confused with being aggressive by those who do not like what you are saying, but they are NOT the same. Toxic workplaces, toxic relationships happen one breach at a time, We will be discussing how assertive is often misinterpreted as aggressive and is used against women and others lower in a business hierarchy. Learn about different communication styles and whether or not someone is being assertive or aggressive.   What you'll hear on today's episode: What is assertive Assertive vs. Aggressive Four types of Communication Styles How words change Toxic or Not         Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                    Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types     YouTube     © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

In a world that is increasingly growing more visual, how do you keep up? Younger and younger generations are becoming more socially competent in understanding differences in the "true-self" and "Instagram-self," but what about information spread online? 86% of people are now what is known as a  "visual learner." Infographics and other visual aids are a great way to absorb information. However, as we look at older generations, we see a problem where we have not kept up on our education with the vast evolution of the internet and are trusting of data visualizations that might have completely false data. Amy Balliett of Killer Visual Strategies joins us today to discuss what you need to know as a consumer, entrepreneur, marketer, and leader. From best practices to statistics, this is one podcast you don't want to miss.   What you'll hear on today's episode: Social media competency TikTok Recommended tools and websites Mixed Fonts Stock Content Twitter star vs. heart Augmented Reality Amy Balliett       Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                    Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Guest Resources: Killer Visual Strategies Amy Balliett LinkedIn Book- Killer Visual Strategies: Engage Any Audience, Improve Comprehension, and Get Amazing Results Using Visual Communication   Websites: Canva Dribbble   Netflix Shows: The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel Hanna     © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Do you consider yourself a loyal person? Do you expect loyalty from your friends? On this episode of Toxic or Not, we are tackling loyalty. Many see loyalty as a black and white issue. You're either loyal or you're not, when in reality, there is a lot of room for the shades of gray.  I conducted a (very unscientific) poll gathering information on whether people perceived loyalty as a positive or a negative, and the results were surprising.  Older generations were most likely to have a positive association with the concept of expecting loyalty from others. In comparison, younger generations had a very negative association with the word. There is a dark side to loyalty. Here is what you need to know about when loyalty turns toxic.   What you'll hear on today's episode: What is Loyalty Generational Poll When loyalty is toxic When loyalty is not toxic         Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                    Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   YouTube         © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone  

Who likes to talk about money? Money and finances can be a minefield. How much should I charge? What are my costs? Do I really need this? There is a lot to contemplate! There is a lot of advice out there, stalwarts preach that we should put money into an IRA or 401K, that we should do this or don't do that, and not question it. But know what? That might not be the best route for you. It's okay to trust your gut and ask more questions! Lesley Batson of Rebel Rock Wealth joins us to discuss women, money, and business. Including myths around these topics that will surprise you. Learn the whole truth about money and how you can get your money to work for you and the answers may surprise you. We'll discuss math anxiety, triggers, and the six wealth destroyers you should watch out for.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Lesley Batson Women and Money Math Anxiety Triggers Pricing Price-it-right calculator Stereotypes How to keep more money 6 wealth destroyers   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Guest Resources: Checkout Lesley’s website Rebel Rock Wealth Price It Right Calculator   SchoolHouse Rock: How a bill becomes a law   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever worked someplace and only realized, looking back, that it was a pretty toxic place? Sometimes figuring out that we are working in a toxic company, or with toxic people is difficult. So ask yourself, are you being treated unfairly, or are you just needing "thicker skin"? (spoiler alert - if it’s toxic for you, it’s toxic to you) A few weeks ago I saw an SNL Skit that was funny but also a little scary. The skit touched on toxic workplaces, gaslighting, and silencing one's voice through the lens of whiny 20-somethings, i.e.tropes and logical fallacies. What's scary about this is that these things do happen. But, not in the scenario the SNL cast acted out... That's why I'm introducing a new series called "Toxic or Not." We'll discuss all the ad hominem fallacies and whether or not a situation was actually toxic.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: SNL SKIT What is a Trope Ad Hominem Fallacies Toxic or Not series Sketch shows to check out         Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Sketch Shows: Baroness Von Sketch Show A Black Lady Sketch Show   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“I do not think that word means what you think it means” -- The princess bride.   The term “self care” has joined the ranks of other terms that have been watered down, co-opted, or re-defined to the point that it means nothing. I have noticed a concerning trend with self care, it has been used to manipulate, bully, and has been productized and sold. So I asked my friend and selfcare & resilience coach Stacy Fisher to join me and talk about the topic, and how you can find what works best for you. (without making a purchase!) Remember, feelings are meant to be felt, not used against you to make you feal.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is self care Patterns and Habits The self-care paradox How to spot manipulation The 8 dimensions of self care framework How to identify rhythms Daily rituals How MLM’s use personal development to manipulate Accepting what is Finding your own routine Work with Lara:   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Guest Resources: Checkout Stacy’s website  The self-care paradox blog post   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever used the phrase "I'm not like other women"?  More often than not, we use this phrase to really say, "I'm not like the stereotype that has been placed on women." Spoiler alert - none of us are.  Women have been trained to be the caretakers of other people's feelings, and when we deviate from that, especially professionally, it can lead to women being viewed as a "Queen Bee." This myth often portrays strong women as the Miranda type boss from The Devils Wear Prada, which normalizes the behavior. The truth is, there is no evidence that senior women are more or less helpful to junior women than their male counterparts.  Why does this myth persist? Not for the reasons you may think. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Are women tougher on other women? The evolution of women in business "When Meanness was Celebrated" by Shirly Li Queen Bee myth Why we view women more harshly How generational life experiences play a role. Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Difficult Happens Squad: https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/ When Meanness Was Celebrated: https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2021/04/scott-rudin/618569/   The immortal and false myth of the workplace queen bee: https://theconversation.com/the-immortal-and-false-myth-of-the-workplace-queen-bee-129680   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“In order to build a rewarding employee experience, you need to understand what matters to your people.”  -- Julie Bevacqua How good are you at reading the room? Do you consider yourself to be a Workplace Meteorologist, someone who is able to read the temperature? Or do you need a little assistance to see the writing on the wall? When working with those in an already heightened emotional state, it is important to have self-awareness and realize when you are being triggered. Defensiveness begets defensiveness. On part two of two, Patti Perez from Persuasion Point Inc and the Drama Free Workplace Podcast joins us to talk about her experience with drama in the workplace and her insights after 20 years of workplace investigations.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Conflict in the workplace What a Workplace Meteorologist is How context can impact situations Over-sharers Healthy workplace cultures Subconscious complicit bias What HR is   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Difficult Happens Squad: https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/ Patti Perez - Drama Free Workplace Podcast: https://persuasionpoint.com/podcast/ 164: Drama in the workplace with Patti Perez, part 1 https://difficulthappens.com/164/       © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?” -- Shannon L. Alder   Summary: Drama in the workplace is inevitable. Sometimes situations don't seem fair. How many times have you seen or know of someone who received a promotion or a raise at work and can't help but wonder why? What about being rejected for a position because you didn't fit their "workplace culture"? Patti Perez from Persuasion Point Inc and the Drama Free Workplace Podcast joins us for this first, two-part podcast discussing her experience with workplace drama. Patti has conducted over 1200 workplace investigations over the last 20 years, giving us insight into workplace drama, patterns and themes, and workplace culture.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Patti Perez Dismissal and justification of workplace drama Women in the workplace Personality Types Culture and its different meanings Culture Fit Fairness The meaning of words and what's behind them   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Difficult Happens Squad: https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/ Patti Perez - Drama Free Workplace Podcast: https://persuasionpoint.com/podcast/           © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”  -- Brené Brown   Opening our true selves and exposing our thoughts, dreams, and shames can be a frightening experience. Trading our comfort for courage and opening ourselves up to public judgement often leads us to a Vulnerability Hangover. The Vulnerability Hangover was coined by Brene Brown to describe the feelings that wash over us after sharing publicly and stem from shame and vulnerability. We subconsciously and continually seek out acceptance, reverting to our primal selves where group survival was critical. That's why showing our vulnerable, true selves can be so frightening. In my TED-style talk with Speaking Your Brand's Thought Leadership Summit, Echos of a free-range childhood, I shared a vulnerable story about a traumatic time in my life and how I reclaimed my power, afterwards, emotions washed over me and led to a Vulnerability Hangover. Here’s how I worked through it, and how you can too.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is vulnerability? The Vulnerability Hangover The courage of being vulnerable Echos of a free-range childhood The cathartic feeling of being vulnerable How to deal with a Vulnerability Hangover Empowerment Pillar Four, Refresh   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Podcast 162 - Refresh with Dysfunctional Affirmations: https://difficulthappens.com/162/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Difficult Happens Squad: https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/   Subscribe - 10 Tips on how to deal with difficult people and sticky situations: https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/   Carol Cox - Speaking Your Brand: https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/   Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ Brene Brown: Listening to Shame: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever been scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and see those little affirmation posts? What’s your first reaction? Have you tried them and found that they don't really work for you?  You're not alone. Affirmations for self-care, love affirmations, black women empowerment affirmations, etc., are some of the most popular "affirmation for" searches on Google.  Why don't you see affirmations for dysfunctional people? Dysfunctional affirmations are for those whose first reaction to seeing motivational quotes is to roll their eyes (figuratively or literally) more often than not, it’s because you were raised in dysfunction.  This is where pillar four of the Empowerment Pillar Model comes in; Refresh.  Refresh your body, mind, and sense of self. Anyone who has experienced some ‘ish, dealt with a manipulator or breathed air, needs time to repair because your body keeps the score of every emotion you feel. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What are affirmations What refresh means Self-care Toxic positivity What refreshing involves Three dysfunctional affirmations Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email hello@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Podcast 159 - Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue: https://difficulthappens.com/159/ Podcast 160 - Reclaim Your Power; Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: https://difficulthappens.com/160-2/ Podcast 161 - Restore - Essential Boundaries For Bosses https://difficulthappens.com/161-2/ Podcast 139 - When Positivity is Toxic https://difficulthappens.com/139-2/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Difficult Happens Squad https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/ Carol Cox - Speaking Your Brand https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/

“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.” -- Doreen Virtue   Do you ever feel like you’re being taken advantage of? A coworker, boss, or even a friend asks more and more of you. It could be anything from your time, work product, or even your attention that they seek and when you tell them no, they keep pushing. You don’t really want to, but you feel pressured, and you say yes anyway because you don’t want to be rude.         This is a classic manipulation technique where manipulators will slowly chip away at your boundaries overtime to get the attention they need from you.  This is where the third step of my Pillar of Empowerment framework comes in; Restore.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The Empowered Pillar Model What boundaries are The four main types of boundaries The four different boundary levels Micro-boundaries Signs of weak boundaries How guilt plays into boundary breaches Emotional vampires   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Podcast 159 - Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue: https://difficulthappens.com/159/   Podcast 160 - Reclaim Your Power; Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: https://difficulthappens.com/160/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Difficult Happens Squad https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone  

“Our authentic power is found in our truth. This is the place that shows us how to give what is so very good about ourselves.” -- Jeanne McElvaney   Now that you can recognize dysfunctional situations and manipulation tactics, What do you do? Well, now you work on reclaiming your power! Out of each of the Four Pillars of Empowerment, reclaiming is probably the most difficult one for people to do. Reclaiming your power, your internal self, space, and your own narrative takes time, and (that often overused word) Intention. Reclaiming comes from practice and learning what works for you!   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The Four Pillars of Empowerment What reclaiming your power means. Story: Sally and Juliette Conflict Personality Types "Shiney" talk. Women Helping Women Fund Tri-Cities.   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Podcast 159 - Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue: https://difficulthappens.com/159/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Difficult Happens Squad https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/   Women Helping Women Fund Tri-Cities: http://www.whwftc.org   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“Blame is a clever trickster. At its root, blame is a form of fear that helps us avoid accountability for our lives.”  -- Debbie Ford Can’t help but wonder why someone refuses to accept doing something wrong, even something small?  When blaming a person or system, your assigning responsibility for a fault or a wrong. However, feelings of fear or embarrassment can cause someone to go on the defensive and try to blameshift. It takes personal growth and development to determine why people act and react the way they do. It takes some guessing and is not always black and white.  Difficult Situations can arise with different people in different situations and it can be hard to figure out what scenario you are in and what approach you should take. The Squad is there to help you navigate these situations. The Squad Membership works off the four empowered pillars of recognize, reclaim, restore, and refresh. We act and react in a way for a reason, that is why it is so important to understand why someone is going on the defensive and blame-shifting. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The Empowered Pillar Model What blame is Recognizing blame Types of blame When blame is used Fear, shame, and embarrassment  Being shamed Black and white thinking Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Difficult Happens Squad https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“With a new day comes new strength and new thoughts.”  -- Eleanor Roosevelt  Guess what?!  This is a very special episode of Difficult Happens because I am celebrating The 3 YEAR Anniversary since starting the podcast! With your support, we have made it to over 100 thousand downloads. In the beginning, I jumped in with both feet trying to give everything in the first year to help people reclaim their own power and self-esteem.   It is exciting to see more people becoming more aware of what dysfunctional discourse looks like.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What I learned What I did wrong What I did right How I started in Season 1 Coming into my own in Season 2 Discussing the Four Empowered Pillars in Season 3 Where the podcast is going from here Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Episode 21: Julie Fry - Scaling, Communicating, and Change https://difficulthappens.com/21-scaling-communicating-and-change/   Personality Tests Episodes 39 - 42 Episode 39: The DISC https://difficulthappens.com/39-the-disc/ Episode 40: Enneagram https://difficulthappens.com/40-the-enneagram/ Episode 41: How to Fascinate and The Clifton Strengths Finder https://difficulthappens.com/41-fascinate-strengths/ Episode 42: Triggers and The FIRO B https://difficulthappens.com/42-triggers-the-firo-b/   Carol Cox: Speaking Your Brand Podcast https://www.speakingyourbrand.com   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Ever wonder how you can become more productive? You schedule your tasks every day and try to balance your time but fall short of your goals.  There are three things that entrepreneurs know to help be more productive from understanding cycles to the impact of task-shifting. Entrepreneurs are a unique type of leader, they have learned when to shift between roles and the ways that they can be more productive in their work without sacrificing their mental health. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The difference between leadership and management The myth of balance Task shifting versus batching Being more productive Speaking Your Brand Event What Entrepreneurs aren’t the greatest at  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara:   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Speaking Your Brand; Brave, Bold, and Beyond Virtual Event https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/summit/   Cal Newport; Deep Work https://www.calnewport.com/books/deep-work/   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever had a client flip from a Dr. Jekyll to a Mr. Hyde? Everything was going along fine and then suddenly their behavior started to change to evasive or defensive. In most cases, they’re experiencing a triggered reaction. But what caused it? Was it something you said or did? Is something else going on? Are you triggered? These triggers and conflicts can lead to feelings of increased stress, tension, and anxiety. (you know your body keeps the score.) If you are an entrepreneur, manager, leader or business owner it has become increasingly more important to be able to pick up on subtle cues and understand why people act, and react, the way they do. When you can understand where people's behavior is coming from you can respond to what is triggering their response, and maybe just turn that client back into the good doctor. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The base of a triggered reaction The conflict loop The animal brain The 4 types of non-trauma based triggered reactions The content trigger Personality tests The big trigger times Responding to what is not being said Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Sometimes we don’t get a choice on whether or not to be a leader. When you run a small business, you will frequently be put into the leadership role where, inevitably, you will have to deal with difficult situations and personalities. Do you have the right support you need to deal with it effectively? The support needed can range from general business support to peer support, and personal support to professional support. From running your own business to leading a team (or existing on the planet! For that matter) you will encounter a variety of personalities in a variety of emotional states, how you navigate these interactions can determine your success. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is Emotional Intelligence Who a leader is (and isn’t) What it takes to be a leader What a heightened emotional state is Different types of support Personal development Challenges that women face The importance of having a squad The Difficult Happens Squad Membership Triggered “Seasons” Join the Squad! A 'whole-human centered' development community of like-minded women who are ready to take their happy back with input, guidance, and support. Personal and Professional development in one place! Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Difficult Happens Squad: https://difficulthappens.com/squad/ Shelby Moore - Young Leadership Challenges https://difficulthappens.com/152-2/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

What red flags have you missed? When starting out, you can be caught up in the excitement of the job or dynamic and excuse behaviors while in the moment. A little thing here, a little thing there, it is easy to miss all these little signs. But hindsight is 20/20 and eventually, you’ll see the writing on the wall. Now it is becoming more important to recognize dysfunctional and toxic behaviors in the workplace.  Jenn Trepeck of “A Salad With A Side Of Fries” joins us to talk about her previous experience working in an environment that turned toxic over time and what red flags you should watch out for. Jenn has worked at ad agencies, in-house with clients on brand management, and spent 12 years in the world of finance while growing her own business. Now Jenn is a Health and Wellness Coach and Entrepreneur. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What Toxic Environments Are Falling into Toxic Environments How Past and Personal Dysfunction can excuse current behavior Scarcity and Urgency The Push of Loyalty Responsibility without Ownership Mixing Business with Family and Friends Public versus Private Personalities Extinction Burst Behavior When To Leave   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Mentioned on the show: Connect with Jenn on Instagram A Salad With A Side Of Fries Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Why would anyone work in a toxic environment?  A toxic workplace doesn’t crop up out of anywhere, it is created, moment by moment and action by action. Every day there are news stories about bosses and bad behavior and environments that became unbearable. Have you ever wondered how these environments became so toxic and why people stay?  As it turns out, it is a slippery slope. Some fields and environments can become stressful over time and others are inherently stressful fields.  When you or your client base is in a heightened emotional state, certain patterns and habits can emerge, showing signs of current or future toxic traits.  In today’s episode 10 toxic red flags to watch out for.  What you’ll hear: What manipulation looks like How toxicity grows What personal development has to do with it What is self-esteem How to grow self-esteem Micro-boundary breaches The impact of boundaries What every toxic workplace has in common Behaviors and Habits that can turn into toxic behaviors Relationships and Communication structures that can be warning signs of toxic environments Examples of toxic workplaces (Ellen DeGeneres)  Why and How people excuse toxic behavior and environments Toxic environments you can find in Start-ups How many red flags before an environment turns toxic Information about next week’s guest   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Join the squad: Inner Circle Squad Membership   Work with Lara:   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Manipulative toxic behavior is on the rise. There are studies, books, blogs, and podcasts full of information about this trend. But without this one thing, all the information and skills you consume won’t work. Business owners know it, leaders know it, and successful people display it. On today’s episode, what you need to effectively combat manipulation. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What manipulation looks like How toxicity grows What personal development has to do with it What is self-esteem How to frow self-esteem Micro-boundary breaches The strength of boundaries What every toxic workplace has in common Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Join the squad: Inner Circle Squad Membership Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

To be an impactful leader you need more than just good management techniques, you need good people skills. Being aware of what motivates, encourages, fosters, and grows a productive team is something that is learned in the trenches of interaction - where leaders are born. Being a young leader comes with its own set of struggles, on today’s episode Shelby Moore, a 26-year-old leader in a stressful nonprofit who runs a team of over 40 joins me to talk about breaking stereotypes, proving herself, and building a productive team through transitions. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Non-profit culture Young leadership Building consensus Succession planning Growing teams in stressful fields Firing employees Hiring staff How to respond to “I have boots older than you” Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Mentioned on the show: Connect with Shelby on LinkedIn Women Helping Women Books; Emergent Strategy Pleasure Activism The One’s We’ve Been Waiting For Resources: Series on; Manipulation Assessments Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

If you put two people in a room and there will be 4 different points of view. Like the old adage goes 'the definition of a dysfunctional family is more than one person". Similarly, when you work with a team of people the dynamics are a lot like that of a family. Like a family, individuals can fall into patterns of behavior that impact the whole team.  When you are the boss, the leader of the team, you set the tone, and by their actions or inactions, the patterns and habits that each member follows. You can set your business up for success and create happy productive teams by knowing 3 things about your employees, tune in and find out what those three things are. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is systems theory Small team dynamics Small business owners Why conflict-types are unique Button pushers 3 secrets turn into 5 (bonus!) What appreciation has to do with it Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Difficulthappens.com/squad Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Do you have a practice?  I’m not talking about Spanish, piano, or handwriting practice I’m talking about a routine that you intentionally set up that helps you achieve a specific, measurable goal.  When you have an intentional practice, that you implement in a routine way, it becomes a habit. We are creatures of habit, and if we don’t drive the train on what that habit is, you may find yourself with a not so helpful routine, that becomes a habit you need to break. In today’s episode, we dive into what a practice is, and how you can benefit from creating one. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is a practice How a routine becomes a habit Patterns that humans crave The productivity myth What time of day does a practice work for you When a bad habit creeps into your schedule Tag me on Instagram with your practice Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Newsworthy Tina Mitchell Lunch & Learn © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Did you do some re-prioritising last year?  With all of the unexpected ‘unprecedented events’ last year a lot of us have reprioritized the way we work and play.  Many found this past year super productive while others, not so much.  We don’t often think about productivity until we are either feeling overwhelmed, or starting a new year. Productivity and overwhelm are two sides of a coin. Balance is what we seek, predictability but as business owners, leaders and bosses, change is inevitable and remaining flexible while also being productive is the goal Strong boundaries are necessary to avoid falling prey to overwhelm.  In today’s episode, we dive into the best way that you can find balance and create a schedule that works for you while auditing what works, and what doesn’t. The truth about productivity with productivity expert Amber De La Garza. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Micro-boundary breaches on your time How small steps can make a huge impact 3 steps to better boundaries How your boundaries are impacted Where overwhelm comes from The number one struggle people have Magical thinking Productivity as a small business Entrepreneurial struggles Triggers that get in your way Balance in the real world Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources from Guest: Amber De La Garza Website Conquer Your Email Masterclass Productivity Training © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

In Ariana Grande’s song Thank You; Next, she runs down some relationships she has had and what she has learned from them, how she has found wisdom and gratitude even in those that did not work out as planned.  Lessons don’t always come in life-changing monolithic events, like a pandemic, or a job change, which are those moments where there was a marked before and after (the event), there is before the pandemic and (hopefully soon), an after.  Most life changing lessons come in small imperceptible shifts that are only visible in hindsight, that gain clarity through reflection. 2020 has had a lot of that dreaded phrase, unprecedented events, join me in the lessons and gratitudes I have uncovered for 2020. Thank you; next... What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Year in review We’ve been through some things When you normalize abnormal behavior Embracing change Intentional reflection Some Gramma tiny’isms How reflection leads to growth The forest through the trees Everything in moderation (including moderation) Wonder what it’s like to work with a coach? Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse. In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms of shifting blame (some, may surprise you) and what you can do about it when they try these tactics on YOU.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is Blame-Shifting The Manipulative tactics in action How a victim might be shifting the blame on you Why minimizing you is on the menu How quickly a toxic workplace can be created What you should never do What you should do when blame is shifted onto you Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Hilarious Word Salad Video  © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Hailey Moeller on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Jerky’esque behavior is rampant these days. Shocker (not). Rude, jerky, manipulative behaviors are dysfunctional coping skills learned and practiced over their lifetime and were born from their family of origin. It’s time to take your Happy back! Hold firm to your boundaries and be treated with respect. Today, we dive into how the bad behavior interferes with you, show you the patterns & cycles the manipulator (&jerk) will go through when you stand firm, and what the most important thing you need to know is so that you can tame that jerk, and outwit that manipulator.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why boundaries are so hard to hold How you are impacted The games a Jerk may play The dance manipulators use What is an extinction What is a behavioral burst and what does it look like Free at last Hold yourself accountable, and hold yourself in Grace Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: When a manipulator starts spinning their tale it can feel like you are being tossed in a word salad!   One thing that all manipulators have in common is that they use words to obfuscate, influence and control, also known as ‘Magical Speaking’.  Have you heard the tapes between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp?  One thing these tapes make clear, aside from their dysfunctional relationship, is that magical speaking was used relentlessly to control the narrative and to dictate what was “really going on.”   It is words, language, that is used to Gaslight. (A form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt, making you question your own memory, perception, or judgment.)    There are some classic tricks used in Magical Speaking that you should be on the lookout for, in this episode, we dive into those red-flag phrases and what you can do to protect yourself.   Bad behavior is on the rise, arm yourself with the tools you need to protect yourself against manipulative behavior.   What you’ll hear in this podcast: What is  Magical Speaking How words are used to ‘gaslight’ someone What to do when someone  is talking in circles How manipulators obfuscate the truth What to do when anger is used against you Examples of magical speaking in real life (Depp, Heard) 6 tactics manipulators use, along with words, to control your reactions What self-love has to do with it Why you should ignore the ‘implied’ and speak to the words instead The emotional toll of manipulation How your triggers play in   Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense How to Combat Manipulative Behavior   Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by Aarón Blanco Tejedor on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Oprah, Will Smith, & my Mom, all had an impact on the topic of today’s episode. Whether you have experienced a major life blow, like a divorce or a job change, or a more minor slight like a negative comment or angry road incident, it makes you mad and can be hard to get over it. On today’s show, we talk about how to ‘Get over’ tough things and move past them to a place where you can find some peace. You can’t control the fact that other people’s actions will impact you, but you can control what you do about it. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How you are impacted by others’ actions The difference between fault and responsibility What your reactions mean How you can ‘turn your mind’ about hard things How taking responsibility empowers you What the four agreements are  How  to use  the four agreements Time frames for moving on, yours and other peoples Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Mentioned in this episode: Catch and Kill: Lies, Spies, and a Conspiracy to Protect Preditors Will Smith; Fault vs Responsibility Super Soul Sunday with Malcolm Gladwell The Four Agreements © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

No one likes that feeling of disappointing someone, or when someone didn’t live up to your expectations, this time of year, and this year in particular, there is a LOT out there to find disappointment in. Did you know that there are two types of disappointment?   How do you tell the difference?  Nobody likes that sinking feeling you get in your gut, yet it is a feeling we have all had. Disappointment comes in all shapes and sizes.  So what do you do when someone is disappointed in you? Tune in and find out. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The disappointment you are responsible for When someone’s disappointment is all about them How expectations impact disappointment How to determine your responsibility What to do with all the feels Emotions and manipulation Your body’s reaction Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

www.difficulthappens.com What changes have you experienced this year? We are in a time ⏳of (that dreaded phrase) unprecedented change, some changes have led to greater awareness, some changes we will be happy to see the back of. In this episode, we take a look at the changes 2020 has gifted us & how to have gratitude in hard times. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Take the good and leave the bad Unwelcome change Change and adaptation Welcome change Gratitude Finding happiness in unhappy times Embracing an attitude of gratitude Wonder what it’s like to work with a coach? Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: 10 Tips for dealing with difficult people Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

We have all made decisions that we later regret. The question is, did you learn the lesson you needed to learn from that miscellaneous regrettable decision? Ever turned down a great job because of a shinier one on the horizon? Have you been silent when you should have spoken up? I have done both! In today’s episode, I share some cringe-worthy moments that impact me to this day and I tell you all about them, what I learned, and what I would do differently today. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Trusting your gut What I have learned from my miscellaneous regrettable decisions Trust your gut Not saying yes, and not saying no What is regret Why you should look back at those embarrassing moments How the martyr works Graceful detachment Redirecting behavior The power of what you can control The verbal processor What to say How we react The conflict triangle, triangulation Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                      Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types Newsworthy Tina Mitchell Lunch & Learn © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

You know that one person who really pushes your buttons? Who gets under your skin? Yea, that’s the one. Everyone has experienced an irritating person, that one dude who sits on your last nerve, or that mom on the PTA who pushes your buttons, or your teenager when they are bored or just exist as a hormonal mess :)   Today we explore why someone pushes your buttons, when it is manipulative and when it is emotionally immature, and what you can do to eliminate or at the very least minimize their impact on you What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why someone pushes your buttons What your inner state has to do with it How a dysfunctional childhood influences adult behavior The scale of irritation The motive for pushing your buttons How to calm down How to respond to an irritating person When to not respond Wonder what it would be like to work with a coach? Apply for an on-air coaching call Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types TeenWise & MomWise Dr Kirk Honda reacts to Dr Phil  © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Think positively, everything happens for a reason, the Universe will take care of it, it will all just magically disappear, it will go away. Have you noticed this type of messaging out there? These vapid empty platitudes, in essence, say absolutely nothing. Toxic positivity is cropping up all over the nation right now, I’m sure you’ve seen it on your news feed or on your social sites. I have witnessed it in my friend groups and from our leaders. How can positivity be toxic? The research on positive psychology shows us that it can be very beneficial to our mind, health, and development. Positive psychology focuses on things like resilience, strengths building, looking at functional and dysfunctional systems. In the right hands, used the right way it can be a healthy lens to interpret & improve thought patterns or thought habits & re-evaluate dysfunctional systems. It can lead to effective tools that you can use in your own personal toolbox and in your personal growth journey. Toxic positivity is the push for a mental state in which we only experience and show positive emotions. It is a tendency to react to others suffering and struggles with reductive statements of positivity. It is telling people that they are their own source of their suffering, or that they brought it on themselves, it is filled with pseudo motivational messaging in a sing-songy cadence of cultish hypnotic dismissal. The use of positive psychology In the wrong hands is dismissive, belittling, and manipulative. This is how manipulators get in the door, toxic people are masters at using the love and light positivity language to manipulate you. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is toxic positivity What is positive psychology What is the difference When motivation goes wrong How manipulators use positivity Too much of a good think Platitudes and attitudes Ignorance & gaslighting Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                      Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Is unintegrated anger impacting you?  Anger is a powerful emotion, whether it's yours, or someone else's being directed AT you. Righteous anger can inspire and spark change when channeled effectively.  So what do you do about anger? How do you identify, integrate, and express your anger in an effective way? My client Leslie Lyons joins me today to dive into this topic, how movement gives your emotions motion, and so much more. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How anger manifests What is unintegrated anger Healthy anger The purpose of anger When anger is a mask emotion Emotional desire paths The enneagram Movement & trauma Trauma & anger Fear & anger Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types The Fall (tv series) Get in touch with Leslie: Leslie D Lyons . Com Follow Leslie on Instagram © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

There are markers along the timeline of our lives. Moments that mark a change, a significant event, or a vivid memory. Like anchors that signify that after this moment, we became different than we were in the moments before. Holding your child for the first time, when a loved one dies, quitting a job you needed but could no longer tolerate. When sh*t gets real every animal instinct that we have focuses like the Eye of Sauron on the moment and our brains take note of every emotion, every sense, all the data it can find for its databanks. This is how resilience is born - through experiencing some ‘ish. How do you thrive while being flooded with endorphins and instinctually being thrown into a choice to fight, flee, freeze, or appease? A Code Lavender can help. This code is an intervention that is used when challenging situations threaten unit stability, personal emotional equilibrium, or professional functioning. Code Lavender uses evidence-based relaxation and restoration interventions to help people make enough sense out of the situation to let more lasting solutions emerge later. This doesn’t prevent burnout or stress instead it is akin to psychological first aid. Reply to this email & tell me, What will you put in your Code Lavender kit?? What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What happens when what your experiencing is too much How we react to trauma What is resilience How do you thrive in tough times How can a code lavender help What is a code lavender How it can apply to your home life When the turmoil is internal Building strong teams   WAHOO - Its Retreat time! Join me for the first-ever Virtual Retreat PILLARS OF AN EMPOWERED LIFE Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                      Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Some people just push your buttons, but why? Manipulators are masters at it, toxic people do it, and those with immature or dysfunctional communication styles both push your buttons and get defensive. Have you ever thought about what is really going on when your mood instantly changes and someone drives you up a wall, rattles your cage or peeves you off? We all get triggered, it’s part of the great landscape that is the tapestry of our lives. Sometimes we recognize it and sometimes we don’t. As leaders, coworkers, friends or employees it’s important that we strive for healthy reactions, but as whole human beings sometimes, we fall short. Today we take a look at why people are triggered so that you can have the skills to respond effectively. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is a trigger The four most common types of triggered reactions The seed of truth How this relates to communication Dysfunctional and functional responses Emotional triggered reactions (small t trigger) The words you say, and those you don’t What you are talking about and why its important Where you are at and how that plays in What to do about it WAHOO - Its Retreat time! Join me for the first-ever Virtual Retreat PILLARS OF AN EMPOWERED LIFE Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Has anyone ever used the silent treatment with you? Have you ever been ghosted by someone? It feels awful to be on the receiving end of someone else’s loud silence. At best the silent treatment is an immature behavior used by immature and manipulative people.  At worst, it is a weapon used by abusers to punish their victims.  Whether the person in your life is using the silent treatment immaturely or abusively, one thing is for sure, it is infuriating to receive. Problems cannot be dealt with, conflicts remain in limbo, simple conversations are impossible, and in the end, relationships employing this tactic become either toxic on nonexistent. In today’s episode, the silent treatment, in its many forms and what to do about it. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is the ‘silent-treatment’ Why someone uses the silent treatment When it’s a manipulation When it’s emotional immaturity How to respond when someone pulls this on you The impact of silence in relationships Why it hurts so much Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

When you work in an ego infused male-dominated field it can be hard to thrive. How do you build resilience while thriving in adversity? My guest today, Ashley Fox, is one of the NFL’s most well-respected journalists and a trailblazer in the ego-infused world of sports media. During her 24-year career, including 7 years as a lead NFL reporter and analyst for ESPN. Ashley has covered the Summer Olympics, Wimbledon, the Super Bowl, the NBA Finals, the Final Four, the World Series, the Stanley Cup Finals, and the PGA Championship.  She joins me to talk about building resilience, reaching your goals in adversity, and the 5 ways to be a winner at work. All that, and she just got over the COVID 19 Virus! What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How adversity builds resilience Why in tough times the biggest lessons can be learned What true accountability means Thriving as a woman in a male-dominated field Reaching your goals How to be a winner at work Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Guest Links Ashley Fox Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone