Podcasts about whispering through

Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse. In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms of shifting blame (some, may surprise you) and what you can do about it when they try these tactics on YOU.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is Blame-Shifting The Manipulative tactics in action How a victim might be shifting the blame on you Why minimizing you is on the menu How quickly a toxic workplace can be created What you should never do What you should do when blame is shifted onto you Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Hilarious Word Salad Video  © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Hailey Moeller on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Jerky’esque behavior is rampant these days. Shocker (not). Rude, jerky, manipulative behaviors are dysfunctional coping skills learned and practiced over their lifetime and were born from their family of origin. It’s time to take your Happy back! Hold firm to your boundaries and be treated with respect. Today, we dive into how the bad behavior interferes with you, show you the patterns & cycles the manipulator (&jerk) will go through when you stand firm, and what the most important thing you need to know is so that you can tame that jerk, and outwit that manipulator.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why boundaries are so hard to hold How you are impacted The games a Jerk may play The dance manipulators use What is an extinction What is a behavioral burst and what does it look like Free at last Hold yourself accountable, and hold yourself in Grace Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: When a manipulator starts spinning their tale it can feel like you are being tossed in a word salad!   One thing that all manipulators have in common is that they use words to obfuscate, influence and control, also known as ‘Magical Speaking’.  Have you heard the tapes between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp?  One thing these tapes make clear, aside from their dysfunctional relationship, is that magical speaking was used relentlessly to control the narrative and to dictate what was “really going on.”   It is words, language, that is used to Gaslight. (A form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt, making you question your own memory, perception, or judgment.)    There are some classic tricks used in Magical Speaking that you should be on the lookout for, in this episode, we dive into those red-flag phrases and what you can do to protect yourself.   Bad behavior is on the rise, arm yourself with the tools you need to protect yourself against manipulative behavior.   What you’ll hear in this podcast: What is  Magical Speaking How words are used to ‘gaslight’ someone What to do when someone  is talking in circles How manipulators obfuscate the truth What to do when anger is used against you Examples of magical speaking in real life (Depp, Heard) 6 tactics manipulators use, along with words, to control your reactions What self-love has to do with it Why you should ignore the ‘implied’ and speak to the words instead The emotional toll of manipulation How your triggers play in   Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense How to Combat Manipulative Behavior   Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by Aarón Blanco Tejedor on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Sátira o al suelo #022: matar a un doblador 2020-10-19 / 2020-10-21 / 2020-11-28 Cuando, al doblar una película al español, el traductor lo hace sin rigor y tomándose las licencias que le vienen en gana, pasan dos cosas: la primera es que me enervo, y la segunda es que lo cuento –aunque tarde mes y medio en hacerlo y se me emponzoñen las entrañas–. ------------------------ Léeme en: facebook.com/pesetolo twitter.com/pesetolo pesetolo.wordpress.com Óyeme en: iVoox Spotify Apple Podcasts ------------------------ Songs: "Graffiti - 100bpm" by Rafael Archangel. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Rafael_Archangel/Kizes_Cut-up_Breaks/Graffiti_-_100bpm "A good bass for gambling" by Komiku. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Komiku/Its_time_for_adventure__vol_3/Komiku_-_Its_time_for_adventure_vol_3_-_06_A_good_bass_for_gambling "La ville aux ponts supendus" by Komiku. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Komiku/Mothlight_OST/Komiku_-_Mothlight_OST_-_15_La_ville_aux_ponts_supendus "Still Weaker than Them" by Soft and Furious. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Soft_and_Furious/You_know_where_to_find_me/Soft_and_Furious_-_You_know_where_to_find_me_-_04_Still_Weaker_than_Them "66666666666666666666 66666666666666666666 66666666666666666666 66666666666666666666 66666666666666666666 66666666666666666666" by Monplaisir. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Monplaisir/GOOD/Monplaisir_-_GOOD_-_11_66666666666666666666_66666666666666666666_66666666666666666666_66666666666666666666_66666666666666666666_66666666666666666666 "L'orage et l'aventure" by Komiku. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Komiku/Its_time_for_adventure_/Komiku_-_Its_time_for_adventure_-_15_Lorage_et_laventure "Whispering Through" by Asura. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through "TENNESEE HAYRIDE" by Jason Shaw. Permissions beyond the scope of this license may be available at http://audionautix.com/index.html. Music by audionautix.com http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Jason_Shaw/Audionautix_Acoustic/TENNESEE_HAYRIDE_____________2-33

Garbage in, garbage out. Have you noticed that there is a lot of negative fear-based messaging out there right now? If we were to believe every story, post, or article that is published you may think our civilization is on the verge of collapse. The truth is, its WAYYY better than you may think. On today’s episode, I dive into 5 reasons it’s not all doom and gloom and how you can ‘turn your mind’ from the black & white, all or nothing, thinking What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How the negative messaging seeps in How our animal brain reacts If it bleeds it leads, how messaging sticks with us How growth can be messy but necessary Why we are getting better The benefit of Introspection How gratitude (real gratitude not fake MLM type gratitude) impacts us How to turn the mind Accepting what is Finding the good Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources:   The Good Good Good Co. Monica’s closet No more Ignorance No More Ignorance on LinkedIn The Dream - Season 2 Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Photo by Jordan Donaldson | @jordi.d on Unsplash Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

What are Micro-aggressions? Aggression is aggression. Like most things, there is a scale involved, a range. To one extreme the aggression is war, violence, while the other end of the spectrum presents as snide comments and passive-aggressive behavior. Micro-aggressions are so insidious because they hide in plain sight. They are hard to call out and often dismissed by the person using them. These techniques are used by those who have power when they are, or feel, threatened, insecure individuals in particular. It becomes a defense mechanism, it’s purpose is to keep you down, to ‘put you in your place’, thus restoring the persons feeling of power and feeding their fragile ego. Here’s how you combat it, in today’s episode. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How minimizing is a micro-aggression How Trivializing is a micro-aggression How Grouping is used as a micro-aggression Social constructs The idea of ‘Normal’ The difference between a micro-aggression, a macro-aggression and a micro-insult Why people in power don’t get it Marginalized groups bear the brunt of these forms of aggression Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Photo by Jordan Donaldson | @jordi.d on Unsplash Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Is seems almost cliche to say that we are living in unprecedented times. Or maybe it seems trite. Either way, one thing is certain, bad behavior is on the rise, and so is defensiveness leading to a lot of people acting like Jerks. With emotions at an all-time high how do you be or become a better person when you are surrounded by jerks?? In today’s episode, how to be a better person, not be so negatively impacted by jerky behavior, and techniques to move past defensiveness and ‘just reacting’ to true discourse. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is meant by a heightened emotional state Low-grade depressions impact on how a person acts and reacts Jerks are often defensive out of habit, a desire to control, or out of fear Anger as a mask emotion Looking back to move forward How you are impacted Your sense of self Self-esteem and empowerment Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

How we show up online, now, is more important than in pre-COVID times. In-person meetings and large gatherings are a memory and it’s going to be a minute before they come back. So many online platforms have devolved and actual discourse is difficult if not impossible, so how do you show-up and contribute to the conversation and how do you respond to “Trolls” & “Feed-hijackers”? Today I have Deborrah Ashley with me to talk about showing up and engaging the right way online. Deborrah is a marketing strategist, consultant, and LinkedIn trainer with a  background in brand management, marketing & Business Development What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What platform is best for your brand & your business What your profile says about you Everything you say, even on someone else’s post, is findable To engage or not engage a Troll Your voice is needed What is normal anyway Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Dog whistles, tropes, Microaggressions. Women in male-dominated fields deal with these attempts to silence, or sideline, them every week. Last week it came to light that some in presidential candidate Joe Biden’s campaign along with wealthy donors think that Kamal Harris is “Too Ambitious” to be a VP pick. Strong women, women in male-dominated fields, and those who go against  ‘societal norms’ hear this trope as a way to minimize, box, and dismiss their authority. In today’s episode, we dive into these microaggressions, how they show up, and what YOU can do to take your power back while showing these phrases for what they are, fearful attempts to minimize. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The three types of Microaggressions Dogwhistles & tropes used to belittle marginalized groups How systemic misogyny gets in your way Why we are stronger together Standing up to microinsults Why things often get worse, after they get better Why women in male-dominated fields hear these the most What you can say to combat these microaggressions Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Some Biden allies wage a shadow campaign to stop Kamala Harris from becoming Vice President In accusations of being too ambitious, some Black women see a double standard Calling Kamala Harris ‘too ambitious is a lesson for young Black girls If Kamala Harris is ‘Too Ambitious,’ Then so is every woman with ambition Is Kamala Harris too ambitious to be Vice President Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Jerky’esque behavior is rampant these days. Shocker (not). Rude, jerky, manipulative behaviors are dysfunctional coping skills learned and practiced over their lifetime and were born from their family of origin. It’s time to take your Happy back! Hold firm to your boundaries and be treated with respect. Today, we dive into how the bad behavior interferes with you, show you the patterns & cycles the manipulator (&jerk) will go through when you stand firm, and what the most important thing you need to know is so that you can tame that jerk, and outwit that manipulator.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why boundaries are so hard to hold How you are impacted The games a Jerk may play The dance manipulators use What is an extinction What is a behavioral burst and what does it look like Free at last Hold yourself accountable, and hold yourself in Grace Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“Get down off the cross honey, someone needs the wood” -- Dolly Parton Drama Debbie is in the house, and her martyrdom is impacting everyone. The victim conflict personality type can impact everyone within earshot,   they can be easy to dismiss and tough to deal with directly, don’t get caught chasing the shiny in their drama web.  In today’s episode, we dive into what you can do to redirect drama Debbies’ impact on you and the workplace. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The victim conflict personality type How the martyr works Graceful detachment Redirecting behavior The power of what you can control The verbal processor What to say How we react The conflict triangle, triangulation Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Every workplace has the potential to become toxic. When you get different personalities together and stressful situations crop up, dysfunctional coping mechanisms kick in. With a strong leader, these situations can be successfully navigated and addressed. When the boss is the Toxic component in your workplaces it leads to a sort of dysfunctional trickle down that impacts the way the employees interact with one another. In this episode, we dive into these toxic traits and what to do about it. Knowledge is power.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why high-stress fields are uniquely susceptible Why high-stress fields are impacted by dysfunctional communication What are the four types of toxic bosses When these traits are functional and when they are not How emotional manipulation plays out Micromanaging The Martyr Everybody’s best friend The Avoider Conflict Personality Types Active and passive displays of toxicity How to navigate toxic bosses Why naming it is the first step Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessment © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Did you know that there are two types of disappointment?   The kind that is your responsibility and that you need to reckon with and make amends for and the kind that does not belong to you and sprouts from others’ expectations of you. Nobody likes that sinking feeling you get in your gut when you have disappointed someone, yet it is a feeling we have all had.  So what do you do when someone is disappointed in you? Tune in and find out. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The disappointment you are responsible for When someone’s disappointment is all about them How expectations impact disappointment How to determine your responsibility What to do with all the feels Emotions and manipulation Your body’s reaction   www.difficulthappens.com  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: 4 Generations talk about the Equal Rights Amendment Connect with Puja Madan on LinkedIn Visit the Mindfulness Map Site Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments The Language of Emotions - Karla McLaren   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

The most well established, predictable, staunch systems are being re-imagined. Many companies and leaders are looking to make substantive changes. How do you make real changes in such turbulent times? My guest, Puja Madan, helps leaders develop resilience and a mindset shift where real change can happen. Puja and I dive into some pretty tough topics about real change, and fake change like tokenism (but no real procedures or benefits) and virtue signaling (that is symbolic and not substantive). Real change, real growth can happen, and here’s how What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is mindfulness What does it mean to be a mindfulness leader Why it is the top 3 people that can make a difference Can you be a great leader in a toxic work environment What is tokenism & what does it have to do with a toxic policy What is virtue signaling and what does it have to do with manipulation How can we be mindful When unintentional inclusion impacts you   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: 4 Generations talk about the Equal Rights Amendment Connect with Puja Madan on LinkedIn Visit the Mindfulness Map Site Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments The Language of Emotions - Karla McLaren © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Simon Migaj on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever been talking with someone and there is a lot being said, but not much understanding? Last  week in the Difficult Happens Podcast private FB group, “Community Happens”  (if you haven't already, please join us), Rachel mentioned someone who got really wordy in conversations and uses “fact  slamming”. Right away I knew what she meant, but not everyone can see it when it is happening around them, or to them. On Today’s episode we talk about obfuscation in communication, particularly by using theRed-Herring fallacy. I’ve got some examples of how this plays out in everyday conversations and what you can do to combat it. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is a fallacy What is Obfuscation and why is it a manipulation Examples of the fallacy being used in different situations Why it is so hard to see it when it is right in front of you Social media posts are a hotbed of the red herring fallacy What is the red-herring fallacy Why is it so dangerous How it stops discourse & true communication in its tracks Why people won’t cop to using it Join the conversation - Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments The Language of Emotions - Karla McLaren   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“I felt so much that I started to feel nothing” -- Lara When we learn, we grow. In my lifetime, there have been many…. let’s say ‘opportunities for growth.’ Today is another one of those opportunities.  Our bodies keep the score of every emotion, every feeling that we have. Stress can physically make you sick, trust me, as someone of white-Irish heritage any stress I feel, whether conscious or not, set’s off my skin. Rosacea, psoriasis, hives. I’ve got ‘em all. You know what happens when you ignore the warning signs and when the stress becomes too much? Your body switches tactics and get’s louder. Not in the way you might think, louder in the sense that it starts to shut you down.  Feel a lack of energy? A little scatter-brained? Is your mind wandering off? Does a commercial make you cry? Are you jumpy? Today, I am taking my own advice and walking through the hard stuff. Join the conversation - Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Finan Akbar on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“When we know better, we do better.” -- Maya Angelou Summary: Anger is a powerful emotion, anger is the great protector. Anger can also be a mask for an emotion that you have but do not want to acknowledge. By now we have all seen or heard about the Central Park woman Amy Cooper who was asked to leash her dog and proceeded to call the police and claim she was being threatened by a black man. She claimed to have been afraid, only she knows what she was feeling. I would guess she was actually feeling embarrassed and or ashamed. Not easy emotions to feel, so instead, anger stepped in as she approached the man and tried to grab his phone, as she reefed on her dog’s collar, as she made that  911 call. Today, I talk with you about the feels, emotions, their purpose and their gifts. I share with you  three simple things that you can do when you suspect the emotion you are feeling may be a mask   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The real meaning of anger The real meaning of shame What gifts these emotions have What questions these emotions want us to ask of ourselves Fear and how it can also be a mask Trying new things Hold yourself accountable, and hold yourself in Grace   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments The Language of Emotions - Karla McLaren   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Finan Akbar on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” -- Ford Summary: Have you ever had to have a difficult conversation with yourself? Change happens with us, or without and sometimes that change brings up the hard stuff. Julie Fry joined me for a “Coffee & Conversation” series that I do on my YouTube Channel to talk about deciding to sell her business, depression, Peri-menopause, and so much more. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why a change was needed When it’s not fun anymore When you need outside help for depression How turning 50 hits Perimenopause Trying new things Sitting in uncertainty How depression shows up in different ways Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Bill Pennell on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

"Listen to hear, not to respond.” Lara Summary: The simple act of listening can diffuse a tense situation. We’ve all experienced a conversation where the other person is just waiting to respond, not really listening. When it comes to conflict, it is almost always the case that the people involved are waiting to talk, to explain, to convince, to persuade, to justify, not to really listen and hear or understand. Empathetic listening is a gift. In today’s episode, I go through how to listen so that you can really hear what the other person is saying and experiencing. Open heart and nonjudgmental empathy Remember your body Eye contact - Listen for feelings as well as their perceived facts, try to picture what they are saying Dont try to solve it, even in your mind It’s okay to ask questions, to clarify, not to judge,  solve or justify. For example, ‘how did that make you feel’ It comes down to your intention, you have to want to listen,   Listen to hear, not to respond. Leave room for silence   You can say something like, I am sorry you are going through that, that must  be hard, or painful,   ‘I hear what you are saying,’ ‘That gives me a lot to think about’ thank you ‘Thank you for sharing that with me,’   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is active listening Why solving the problem isn’t the point Empathy is a muscle that needs exercising What my 12-year-old daughter taught me Non-verbal cues Pay attention to your body Making eye contact The importance of an apology   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Alireza Attari on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

We’ve come a long way baby… and there is farther to go. When it comes to gender equality, the pace of change is slow. If you are a woman in a male-dominated field, the pace of change can feel glacial, and at times, as if it will never come.  Anger has been the moral property of males when women are angry it is a warning of indignity, threat, insult, or harm.  Expressing this anger may get you dismissed or labeled as “hysterical”.  So what does a strong woman in a male-dominated field need in order to thrive? Tune into today’s episode and find out! "Empowered women, empower women.” What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Entitlement and action Subtle (and not so subtle) gender bias Stereotype driven expectations Self-doubt Expressing anger Peer support Mentorship Paying it forward Personal and Professional development Women in Leadership Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Mentioned in This Episode: Hilda Bryant Theresa B Smith © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Alexandra I. on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary:   Sometimes avoiding a tough conversation is the way to go, the ones that involve issues that work themselves out with time. Most conversations don’t. They need to be addressed, confronted, or even involve a “carefrontation”.   How do you do this? How do you have a tough conversation that you have avoided or just plain don’t want to have?   It can feel a bit daunting, and always has a physical component (racing heart anyone?) Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered with this tip.   In today’s episode, what one thing you should do to make it through a tough conversation.     What you’ll hear on today’s episode: When you live from the outside in Why it’s important to live from the inside out The importance of having only one intention The importance of communication Stress is inevitable - do this Your body will react Honesty and openness How thinking about something is different than speaking it There will be an emotional and social component Take your power back   Watch the Bonus episode and Subscribe for video tips YouTube Work with Lara:   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments     © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary:   Leadership is evolving and that’s a good thing.   Fluid and ever-changing aren’t just buzzwords, they are the new norm which means that the way leaders of every type lead also needs to change and grow to meet the new and uncertain challenges they will face.   There are some inspiring examples of great leadership styles emerging from unexpected places, and we can learn from their example and adopt some of these skills.   In today’s episode, we dive into what leadership should look like now.     What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Patriarchal vs matriarchal leadership The impact of low self-esteem on leadership The impact of Vulnerability The importance of communication Stress is inevitable - do this Radical candor Honesty and openness Why peoples BS meter is up There will be an emotional and social component   Watch the Bonus episode and Subscribe for video tips YouTube Work with Lara:   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments     © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Andrew Neel on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

"The secret of good crisis management is not good vs. bad, it’s preventing the bad from getting worse.”  Andy Gilman How do you prepare for days that you hope will never come?  Uncertainty is an inevitability, and these are uncertain times. Preparing your business and your employees to adapt during a crisis is necessary, and it doesn’t have to be difficult.  So how do you take a bad situation and stop it from getting worse?  Mark Hoffman a crisis communication and business continuity expert joins me to talk about preparing for, navigating through, and assessing business responses to a crisis. From a devastating cyber attack to a worldwide pandemic identifying key players and solidifying a response agenda will help prepare you. It’s not too late to work on a crisis communication plan for your business, you can create your plan from where you are at right now.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How do you prepare  for the unknown Identifying key players What is a response agenda The importance of communication Stress is inevitable - do this Why side-conversations can be toxic Don’t be a lemming - all players should have an equal voice Nuance is  an important factor There will be an emotional and social component Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Contact Mark Hoffman Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Sátira o al suelo #018: precipitaciones 2019-10-25 / 2019-11-27 / 2019-12-21 / 2020-04-27 Opino rápidamente sobre lo rápido que opina la gente. ------------------------ Songs: "A good bass for gambling" by Komiku. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Komiku/Its_time_for_adventure__vol_3/Komiku_-_Its_time_for_adventure_vol_3_-_06_A_good_bass_for_gambling "You're no good but I love you" by Soft and Furious. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Soft_and_Furious/The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be/Soft_and_Furious_-_The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be_-_02_Youre_no_good_but_I_love_you "Saint Wave" by Soft and Furious. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Soft_and_Furious/The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be/Soft_and_Furious_-_The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be_-_04_Saint_Wave "Post Yes" by Soft and Furious. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Soft_and_Furious/The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be/Soft_and_Furious_-_The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be_-_03_Post_Yes "Superconnected sleep" by Soft and Furious. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Soft_and_Furious/The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be/Soft_and_Furious_-_The_Merfolk_I_Should_Turn_To_Be_-_06_Superconnected_sleep "Graffiti - 100bpm" by Rafael Archangel. https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Rafael_Archangel/Kizes_Cut-up_Breaks/Graffiti_-_100bpm "Whispering Through" by Asura. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through "TENNESEE HAYRIDE" by Jason Shaw. Permissions beyond the scope of this license may be available at http://audionautix.com/index.html. Music by audionautix.com http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Jason_Shaw/Audionautix_Acoustic/TENNESEE_HAYRIDE_____________2-33

Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse. In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms of shifting blame (some, may surprise you) and what you can do about it when they try these tactics on YOU.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is Blame-Shifting The Manipulative tactics in action How a victim might be shifting the blame on you Why minimizing you is on the menu How quickly a toxic workplace can be created What you should never do What you should do when blame is shifted onto you Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Hilarious Word Salad Video  © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Hailey Moeller on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Happiness and Joy can be found in the most difficult of situations. In today’s episode, Maja and I dive Into finding the good in a difficult situation, being inspired by one another and defining what we want our future to be.  “I’ve been through a Genocide & a Pandemic and didn’t even get a T-shirt”  Maja Kazazic is back on the show to talk about finding the good, in a bad situation. As a Genocide survivor, a successful businesswoman and an inspirational speaker, she has a unique and uplifting perspective about hard things. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The power of “WE” Leadership now Change and Uncertainty Vulnerability is the new strength The power of working together How selfishness becomes obvious and unacceptable What’s next Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Genocide Perspective & Hope with Maja Kazazic Part 1 Part 2 Maja Kazazic Pandemic Blog Company of One - Paul Jarvis   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Danielle MacInnes on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

It might escape notice, slip right under your radar like a birthday of a distant relative and yet it impacts every one of us from Queen’s to service workers. Stress & anxiety has many faces and often escape notice until a full-blown reaction surfaces. What can you do about it, especially during difficult times? Be on the lookout for these clues. Like a leaky pipe, these are clues, an early warning sign of more pressing emotions that are bubbling right below the surface. It’s not a matter of IF you will experience these things, but WHEN. In this episode, we dive into how to identify the signs and what to do about them.  For yourself and for those around you.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Stress & Anxiety go hand in hand like peanut butter & jelly Not if, but when  How to tune into your body Ways to identify stress in others How to break free from circular thinking Lara has some surprises for you! The impact of community   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

This was the conversation we should all be having. There is a “new leadership” model that is emerging right now. One that is more humanistic, open and vulnerable. These uncertain times, the change we are experiencing, and the resulting anxiety, fear, and grief that is pervasive have sparked a new ‘communication mode’.  That is a good thing.  Molly McPherson of Confident Communications and I dive into how much communication, messaging, and the work that we do has changed in the past few weeks. What has changed and what that means for us, and so much more. As a world we have a lot to grieve over right now, kids who are missing their last year of primary school, grieving the loss of how things were - being  able to see and check up on family & friends, or the loss of a loved one. Along with that being selfish (say as in hoarding supplies) became universally abhorrent overnight. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Accountability is the new black Honest and open vulnerability inspires trust  How fear shows up in the time of Covid What does Leadership look like in a pandemic Why  leaders are looking inward, to their staff April Fools day was No Joke How your senses are triggered Covid Crisis response kit Humanistic leadership How to be of service in a pandemic Why we are grieving Isolation and it’s impact Visiting during social isolating Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Calming Client Fears Free Webinar Company of One - Paul Jarvis Seattle Freeze The Mind of Bill Gates Amber Hawley - Couples Fix   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

It is a super strange time that we are in right now. Things are changing by the hour. One thing is certain, during a Pandemic, there will be some uncertainty. In today’s episode, I dive into how people react, why they react a certain way and what you can do to connect, communicate and understand one another without risk of starting a conflict. Stress, anxiety, and fear look different in different people. From a Laissez-faire attitude to shut down, from overly-informed to the conspiracy theorist, reactions that seem opposite to one another all have their root in uncertainty. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why someone has a laissez-faire attitude What anxiety looks like  How fear shows up in our day to day interactions How your senses are triggered Ways to cope with uncertainty How to inspire confidence Tuning into your  body Your senses and how they can help you Long breaths and calm Your body is the key Do what works for you Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Calming Client Fears Free Webinar © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Irina on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: Oh-No she didn’t! It doesn’t matter who you are; mother Theresa, Oprah Winfrey, my Mom, you get mad.   Not like ‘teenager forbidden to date a boy’ type mad - that’s a singular type of rage, more like a ‘defend your honor, correct a falsehood, shut down a misogynist’ type anger. Which can be a bad look for a professional.   We are whole human beings, and anger is part of life and it has its purpose. Once you are angry, and before you vent that anger onto others, there is a simple and extremely effective method you can use to calm down.   This method is so effective it is used by the military, medical, and mental health fields alike. And now you can use it too.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How Anger impacts  you physically Your senses and how they  can help you What is the  5-4-3-2-1 method? Long breaths and calm Shame & anger, two sides of the same coin Your body is the key What works for you Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Image Photo by Faye Cornish on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever noticed that when you are in a bad mood, jerks and rude behavior really get’s under your skin? Covid 19, a busy work schedule, travel restrictions, and perimenopause have Lara in a Bad Mood. So off to the Gym I go. Moving your body is a great way to blow off some steam, usually… Today at the Gym, my bad mood was exacerbated by Jerks. A jerk who was wearing combat boots and his full workout gear in the steam room, (the rest of us were in swimsuits). A jerk watching  YouTube on her phone loudly… without headphones. I am right next to you trying to read and enjoy my phoned-in workout.  And what in the world is with the Gum? Perfume, leaving weights and towels on the floor, grunting and dropping weights, it’s enough to make Jack Lelaine kick sand in their face (google it - totally worth it). So how do get out of this funk and shake off the rude behavior at the gym? The same way you can when those cringe-worthy behaviors creep into your world. Tune in and check it out. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is going on in the world today Social contracts Covid 19, travel and work  in this new world order Life from the outside in Gum, no...just no Gramma Tiny has something to say The point of  anger Turning  the mind Mindset & context Let’s play make-believe Life is life, and bad moods are normal Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Image Photo by Danielle Cerullo on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Dysfunctional communication, incivility, and bad behavior impact us all. Taking your power back and building strong boundaries is easier than you think. This is why I podcast. To raise awareness of dysfunctional communication styles and how to combat them. To raise awareness of boundary breaches that take your power away from you. To raise awareness of the physical impact that conflict, incivility, and negativity has on you. By some accounts, 89% of Americans were raised in dysfunction which leads to dysfunctional communication styles that end up impacting you every day. This is WHY the Difficult Happens podcast is here, to help you navigate these everyday interactions. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is dysfunction How dysfunction plays in the way we communicate Incivility is on the rise What to  do about bad behavior Everything is a spectrum Bad behavior and negativity Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura

Summary: “It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not deserve them” Mark Twain Gossip, griping, negativity, seems to be everywhere right now. Dysfunctional, passive-aggressive manipulative behavior becomes the norm, not the exception. So what do you do about it? How do you respond when those around you are being a Debbie downer sucking all the joy out of the day? Want to know how to respond to all the negativity, dysfunction and marginal behavior? I’ve got you. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is dysfunction Denial and what it looks like What to do when people are gossiping  When someone seems to by marginal  Everything is a spectrum Bad behavior and negativity Socially dysfunctional Sadness and hurt around you Right fighting Coaching your friends - when and when not to Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation A More Beautiful Question © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by engin akyurt on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: “Myths are public dreams, dreams are private myths.” Joseph Campbell I’m rubber your glue, your words bounce off me and stick to you.  This schoolyard taunt trickled into my brain this week when someone was projecting her own stuff onto me. Has this ever happened to you? Someone accuses you of feeling a certain way when you don’t, or assumes you think a certain way when that’s not how you think? Neuroscience reveals that the subconscious mind, which is an information processor one million times more powerful than the conscious mind, is running our behavior 95-99% of the time, your actions and reactions are automatic.  That means that when someone is projecting their shame, anger or fear onto you, they most likely aren’t aware of it. What you’ll hear in this podcast: What is projection What are the different types of projection  What to do when someone is placing judgment on you Why when someone blames you, it’s about them  Social Constructs Social order Conforming How to live with less stress Tuning in to your body when under pressure Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: The Fan Incident - I Know you are but what am I Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by Kat J on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: When a manipulator starts spinning their tale it can feel like you are being tossed in a word salad!   One thing that all manipulators have in common is that they use words to obfuscate, influence and control, also known as ‘Magical Speaking’.  Have you heard the tapes between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp?  One thing these tapes make clear, aside from their dysfunctional relationship, is that magical speaking was used relentlessly to control the narrative and to dictate what was “really going on.”   It is words, language, that is used to Gaslight. (A form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt, making you question your own memory, perception, or judgment.)    There are some classic tricks used in Magical Speaking that you should be on the lookout for, in this episode, we dive into those red-flag phrases and what you can do to protect yourself.   Bad behavior is on the rise, arm yourself with the tools you need to protect yourself against manipulative behavior. What you’ll hear in this podcast: What is  Magical Speaking How words are used to ‘gaslight’ someone What to do when someone  is talking in circles How manipulators obfuscate the truth What to do when anger is used against you Examples of magical speaking in real life (Depp, Heard) 6 tactics manipulators use, along with words, to control your reactions What self-love has to do with it Why you should ignore the ‘implied’ and speak to the words instead The emotional toll of manipulation How your triggers play in   Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense How to Combat Manipulative Behavior Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by Aarón Blanco Tejedor on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“When you can be strong alone, you will be stronger together.” It can feel like you have to choose between a successful career and a successful relationship, especially in this modern age where the line between a high functioning person, a real go-getter and a workaholic can get blurred. But you don't have to! Amber Hawley spent most of her career helping high-achieving couples in silicon valley. As a licensed therapist she understands the particular struggles and demands of this modern landscape. For over 20 years she has been helping passionate, striving high achieving couples reconnect and rekindle their relationships and she is here today to share her wisdom.  In today’s episode, we talk about masculine and feminine energy, the line between striving and avoiding, the clues that your relationship may be in trouble and what ONE thing you can do right now to make your relationship better. Join us as we take a look at all this, and how ADHD, perfectionism and high achievement go together. What you’ll hear in this podcast:   Why strong women may struggle in relationships Societies fear of masculine energy in women What does it mean to be high achieving High functioning, high achieving, the go-getter, a  rose by any other name What does ADHD have to do with it? The “balance” backlash When overwhelm warns you Are you a workaholic? How to communicate when Communication goes out of the window Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources / mentioned in the show: Peter Pumpkinhead Secret Gift in Every Emotion Couples Fix Amber Hawley My Biz Bestie   Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura

Summary: “Not Making a choice is a choice.” When is the right time to make a change? Change happens in a moment, a moment when the status quo, the way things have always been, becomes intolerable.  Saying yes when you really mean no. When you openly give and they take more. These are the tiny boundary over-reaches that create a crack, a crack that manipulative or selfish people will use to exploit. When a relationship or a pattern of behavior becomes too painful to tolerate, when it hurts to stay where you are, these are the moments that push us to make a drastic change.  This tipping point propels you into action, it emboldens you to make the changes that are right for you. Your Fear takes a back seat and you make the jump. What you’ll hear in this podcast: Where Real Change Happens How a boundary overstep impacts you Why we need a tipping point This far no further The shifting of a mindset Trigger Season A time for re-birth Don’t fall for the shoulda - coulda - woulda spiral Your subconscious and its power Building  resilience How experiences feel personal and professional growth Those who embrace change and those who avoid it Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Star Trek - Jean Luke Piccard “This far no farther”  Big Bang Theory  How Micro-Managing Let to a Toxic work environment [Case study] Boundaries and the Extinction Burst Behavior Columbo - (this far no farther) The Conspirators The Tipping Point Secret Gift in Every Emotion Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: “You are a master to the words you don’t say and a slave to the ones you do.” Touchy conversations can be a minefield to navigate, so how do you decide what to say and when to say it?  Sometimes we respond out of habit, without thinking through what we are saying. What we choose to say, and when we choose to say it has everything to do with our experiences, our expectations, and our assumptions. And You know what my Dad used to say about AssUmptions?... In this episode, we take a look at 5 things to STOP saying, and what you should say instead. As a BONUS, I tell you how to turn the conversation around when these words or phrases are being used “AT” you, so you will know what to say when your buttons are pushed. What you’ll hear in this podcast: Stop Shoulding on yourself Always is a word that is Never true - the use of Emphaticals in conversation I hear what you are saying BUT… How the word but is really a dismissal It has always been done this way - and other useless phrases How you hear is just as important as how you speak Excuses, excuses and other things we don’t care about Why his Drama is an inconvenience   Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens; How Triggers Boundaries & Emotions Impact YOU Every day by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: “My best successes came on the heels of failures.” ― Barbara Corcoran What makes a Great Leader? Sometimes the greatest leaders that impact our lives are not in the traditional leadership role. Mentors, leaders, those who influence you and your life can come from anywhere. True leadership cannot be taught, it must be practiced. In today’s episode, we take a look at how things have changed for women, how the different generations view leadership and some tough choices that we both made along the way that has impacted our lives. Carol Cox of Speaking your Brand joins me in the podcast studio to talk about influence, leadership, why she chose to take her popular Facebook Group off of the Facebook platform and much more. What you’ll hear in this podcast: Change that you chose, and change that you didn’t Why women in different generations are so different from one another Womens voices need to be heard Is Facebook over? The time of the mega-church mentality is coming to an end Feminism How we lift each other up Why having a mentor, of any sex, is important Advertising is ruining everything Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Carol Cox Speaking Your Brand The Good, Good, Good Women in Business: Building an Action Plan Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: “You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.” ― Joyce Meyer What do you do about a Jerk? You can’t avoid coming across one. You may even have one in your office, social group or sphere of influence. Jerky behavior is unavoidable and does not discriminate on who it inflicts. Men, women, young and old, jerks come in all shapes and sizes. What makes a jerk a jerk? It’s in their snide reactionary behavior.  They are negative, and often angry and cynical and are looking for an outlet, somewhere to share these negative feelings,  and if you are in their way, like the Eye of Sauron, when a jerk focuses on you and spews their vitriol it’s not pleasant. Don’t let them steal your sunshine, arm yourself with these 3 things you can do when you are dealing with a jerk. What you’ll hear in this podcast: The Jerk The intentional Jerk The unintentional Jerky behavior Why it is about them, not you Are there more jerks now than ever? How negativity creates jerky behavior What three things you can do to protect yourself from a Jerk   Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Steal My Sunshine - Len Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“Negative people have a problem for every solution.” ― Albert Einstein It’s the little things that create a weak spot in your boundaries, and this weak spot creates a tear that manipulative people will exploit. Manipulators don’t wear name tags, they hide in plain sight and one person's toxic boss is another persons’ motivating mentor. So how can you tell the difference? In this episode, we explore 5 phrases to be on the lookout for that manipulators use that will cause you to doubt yourself. Toxic people, incivility, bad behavior, tyrants, bully’s, and entitlement. Bad behavior is on the rise. This episode will help you protect yourself. What you’ll hear in this podcast: Is incivility and bad behavior on the rise? Toxic people and how they can hide What to watch out for with a manipulator How manipulators assault your boundaries Why toxic people use these phrases Why are these phrases a warning sign? What your body has to do with it How manipulators assault your self-esteem For a manipulator, it’s all about them Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: “Don’t you know who I am?” How to stay sane in an era of narcissism, entitlement, and incivility.” Durvasula Ph.D, Ramani S. Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein In this year-end episode, Amee Quiriconi of the One Broken Mom Podcast joins me to talk about endings and beginnings.  Change is an inevitability in this world. Sometimes the change is something we choose such as ending a relationship or a job, and sometimes the change is thrust on us, like a relationship ending or losing a job.  When things end, whether we chose the end or not, there is a lot that you can learn about yourself, what you want more of in your life, and what you want less of. Reflection helps you not only see things in a different way but allows you to learn the lesson you need to from a situation.  When you know what you want, you have a clearer direction and can make better choices for your new beginnings! What you’ll hear in this podcast: Change that you chose, and change that you didn’t Change in your personal life & change at work Endings, the gift that keeps on giving The pain that change often causes The growth that endings, change, gives us How knowing what you don’t want helps you focus on what you do How reflection, considering something deeply leads to personal-growth Some personal stories of endings and beginnings that Lara & Amee have had Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Amee Quiriconi One Broken Mom Podcast Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura

The Away travel brand went from a fast-growing popular brand to the epitome of the new toxic work environment leading to one of the CEO’s & co-founder stepping down. A workplace can become toxic by inches, like a lobster boiling in a pot of water, before you know it the environment has taken it’s toll mentally & physically. In this episode, we take a look at the toxicity that Away’s CEO Steph Korey’s micro-managing created, and the way the companies ‘values’ were used to manipulate its employees into working underpaid hours in difficult conditions.  This is the first case study where we break down the toxic work environment, how it happened, and what could have been done differently. What you’ll hear in this podcast: The Away company was a toxic workplace How the employees were manipulated How Micro-managing impacted the environment How a companies Mission Vision & Values was used against staff The use of SLACK as the only means of communication and how that impacted communication Bullying with a smile How public shaming was used to keep employees in line. What was done right What went wrong How fear isolated individuals How loyalty was used to manipulate Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Sources: Here’s the leaked memo in which Away tells employees not to fave The Verge’s investigation   Former Away employees describe a toxic work environment at the luggage company   Away Warns Employees Not to 'Like' or 'Fave' Article Detailing Execs' Psycho Behavior   Away's CEO Resigned Over a Toxic Workplace Due in Part to the Company's Use of Slack   New Away leaks reveal employees worked without heat, struggled with headaches and nausea   Resources: The Need to Belong: Desire for Interpersonal Attachments as a Fundamental Human  Motivation  The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory How to Combat Manipulative Behavior Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura

Summary: It started at a neighborhood wine bar and ended on amazon prime. Your personal values, along with the social norms of the time dictate what you find embarrassing or shameful but those social norms can change with the times, situation and community you are in.   While out at a wine bar with friends I got some unsolicited advice from a stranger. The interaction has stuck with me for several reasons.  In this episode, I share what happened while chatting with some strangers, why it got me thinking about that old playground taunt “I know you are but what am I”, and how you may see things differently when talking with someone from a different context than you.   What you’ll hear in this podcast: What Context is How Context impacts your perception How the values of a group can grow and change over time Why we show people what we value, sometimes through judgment How our word choices can clue you into what we value How the stories we believe about ourselves impact discourse The need to belong & how it drives us The cultural silence around health issues specific to women   Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: The Need to Belong: Desire for Interpersonal Attachments as a Fundamental Human  Motivation I know you are but what am I? The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory How to Combat Manipulative Behavior   Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by Mark Malekela on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Have you ever noticed that procrastination goes hand in hand with pressure? Whether it is the pressure that came first or the procrastination that leads to the pressure, they go hand in hand.   Everyone procrastinates from time to time, it’s perfectly normal. Until it’s a problem. When that procrastination leads to missed opportunities, loss of revenue or worse, it can keep you stuck in the cycle of pressure, procrastination, stress, shame, rinse repeat   Procrastination can be confusing, it has many faces, from the busy work of productive-procrastination to the frozen effect of procrastination paralysis.  If you find yourself stuck or heading into procrastination’ville, I’ve got some tried and true skills to get you unstuck.   What you’ll hear in this podcast: What procrastination looks like How stress affects procrastination The many faces of procrastination What perfectionism has to do with it How stress plays into perfectionism Why some people can handle (are more used to) stress The many faces of procrastination The perfectionist procrastination connection Productive procrastination Productivity paralysis The Pomodoro Method Join the Masterclass   The Perfection Principle - From Awareness to Action   Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory How to Combat Manipulative Behavior       Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by Aarón Blanco Tejedor on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Summary: Shorter days, colder nights and seasonal celebrations abound, welcome to trigger-season.   This is the season of gathering & celebrating. There are family functions, social get-togethers, and work parties to attend.   Along with that, there are inevitable assumptions about how everything will turn out and expectations of how we want things to go.   To go into this season prepared we here at Difficult Happens have you covered, in this week’s episode I give you concrete steps that you can take to prepare for and navigate through, this trigger-season.   What you’ll hear in this podcast: How the holidays & weather impact interactions Why winter is “trigger-season” Our conscious & subconscious brains in action Family conversations & expectations The work party a petre dish of awkward conversations The conflict loop What assumptions, judgments, expectations, and reactions have to do with your communication How our family of origin informs our triggers What a triggered reaction is What to do before during and after this season Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory How to Combat Manipulative Behavior   Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Series on Manipulation Perfectionist Principle Masterclass     Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone  

How do you find gratitude when you have a bad attitude?  As whole human beings, we experience a range of emotions every day, some are good, and some we think of as bad. So how do you practice gratitude when you just don’t feel like it, that is the topic of today’s episode. We tell ourselves stories about ourselves to ourselves, about situations and experiences and what those stories mean to us. Those stories become a self-fulfilling prophecy, that by just believing in them, make them true. When you practice gratitude, in whatever way works for you, you will be a happier healthier person. What you’ll hear in this podcast: How the stories we tell ourselves create our reality How to have a clinicians attitude How to reframe to turn your mind How gratitude changes your mood Have to versus get to Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory   Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown James Wedmore     Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

How to get over it Whether you have experienced a major life blow, like a divorce or a job change, or a more minor slight like a negative comment or angry road incident, it can be hard to move past it. On today’s show, we talk about how to ‘Get over’ tough things and move past them to a place where you can find some peace.  You can’t control the fact that other people’s actions will impact you, but you can control what you do about it. What you’ll hear in this podcast: How you are impacted by others’ actions The difference between fault and responsibility What your reactions mean How you can ‘turn your mind’ about hard things How taking responsibility empowers you What the four agreements are How to use  the four agreements Time frames for moving on, yours and other peoples Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory   Mentioned in this episode: Catch and Kill: Lies, Spies, and a Conspiracy to Protect Preditors Will Smith; Fault vs Responsibility Super Soul Sunday with Malcolm Gladwell The Four Agreements     Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

If you are a Perfectionist or have the Disease to Please, your very environment can trigger you. www.difficulthappens.com We have unconscious reactions all day long, ones that we aren’t aware of and yet they impact us in ways that will surprise you. Your subconscious is in control of your actions and reactions 99% of the time so it’s no surprise that it takes a strong reaction or reason to take a mindful look at why we respond in a certain way. Don’t wait for a conflict to identify yours. When you shine the light on triggered reactions, where the ‘action’ of any interaction happens, you can respond with purpose. Break free from the pull of perfectionism join me today and discover how to identify your triggered reactions. What you’ll hear in this podcast: Where ‘difficult’ stuff comes from The trap of perfectionism The disease to please What a triggered reaction is What an environmental trigger is How to identify your environmental triggers Becoming who we were meant to be Don’t ‘should’ on yourself Why my sister passed out in Geology 101 Work with Lara  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory 29 Why your subconscious is the REAL boss Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

[The audio files of episodes 39-44 are unfortunately lost to time.] Bob, Matt, and Jacob discuss their experiences at GP Seattle, including Bob and Jacob both making day 2! We also discuss the GP metagame and expectations for the metagame from here on out. We spend a few minutes discussing the recently announced changes to SCG's Open Play. Time Stamps: 0:50 Bob's experience at the GP 2:30 Jacob's experience at the GP 7:31 Matt's experience at the GP 15:28 SCG Organized Play changes 30:48 GP Seattle metagame 37:36 Painful Truths 41:20 What does the post-Seattle meta look like? 46:09 Question: If you were a Modern player, what single card would draw you to Legacy? 50:50 ChannelFireball's coverage of the GP 53:33 Ban Sensei's Divining Top! 55:45 Outro For anyone who didn't see it, Koby got a deck tech on The Mothership! Ignore that bit about him streaming frequently. He's not sure where they got that info! Sean and Bob already deleted their lists out of disgust but Jacob and Matt's list may be found below. Dragon Stompy by Jacob Kory 4 Magus of the Moon 4 Goblin Rabblemaster 4 Thunderbreak Regent 2 Stormbreath Dragon 1 Pia and Kiran Nalaar 4 Blood Moon 4 Chalice of the Void 3 Trinisphere 2 Koth of the Hammer 2 Chandra, Pyromaster 1 Sarkhan, the Dragonspeaker 3 Magma JetMana (26) 4 Simian Spirit Guide 4 Chrome Mox 4 Ancient Tomb 4 City of Traitors 10 Mountain Sideboard (15) 2 Ensnaring Bridge 2 Phyrexian Revoker 1 Ratchet Bomb 3 Pyrokinesis 2 Sulfur Elemental 4 Tormod's Crypt 1 Shattering Spree Siege Rhino Nic Fit by Matt Pavlic 4 Veteran Explorer 2 Deathrite Shaman 1 Scavenging Ooze 1 Qasali Pridemage 1 Eternal Witness 4 Siege Rhino 1 Sigarda, Host of Herons 1 Gaddock Teeg4 Cabal Therapy 4 Green Sun's Zenith 4 Abrupt Decay 2 Path to Exile 2 Pernicious Deed 2 Toxic Deluge 3 Sensei's Divining Top 2 Sylvan Library 1 Painful TruthsMana (22) 3 Forest 2 Plains 2 Swamp 4 Verdant Catacombs 3 Windswept Heath 1 Volrath's Stronghold 1 Phyrexian Tower 2 Bayou 2 Savannah 1 Scrubland 1 Taiga Sideboard (15) 2 Pithing Needle 2 Krosan Grip 2 Golgari Charm 1 Gaddock Teeg 2 Ethersworn Canonist 2 Slaughter Games 3 Thoughtseize 1 Thrun, the Last Troll Today's music is Whispering Through by Jazzer and was acquired via the Free Music Archive. Check out Asura on The FMA.