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On the "Third Times the Charm" Podcast, Coley and Trill predict who might win some of the NFL's biggest awards as the season nears its midway point. Plus, the two hosts look back at the first few nights of NBA action and share their biggest takeaways. (0:00) Intro (10:21) Coley and Trill's bets (16:19) NFL Offensive Player of the Year (25:50) Where the Kansas City Chiefs currently stand (28:20) NFL Offensive Rookie of the Year (31:50) NFL Defensive Player of the Year (32:57) NFL Coach of the Year (37:19) NFL Comeback Player of the Year (39:50) Jadakiss the chaperone (41:59) Celtics Opening Night (49:28) LeBron and Bronny share the court together (54:41) Trill's Celtics Hot Take (59:39) NBA Season Predictions (1:03:30) Start of NBA Season (1:06:58) NBA Sixth Man of the Year (1:10:44) Start of NBA Season (1:17:10) Embiid Under Investigation (1:18:45) Start of NBA Season (1:41:01) NCAA Basketball (1:59:53) Oreo Coke! (2:06:15) NFL Trade Deadline (2:15:09) Remembering Fernando Valenzuela (2:17:26) World Series Predictions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On the "Third Times the Charm" Podcast, Coley and Trill enumerate all the NFL teams they believe need to fully commit to tanking after Week 7. They argue why Jared Goff should be leading the NFL MVP race. Then they also assess the progress of their NFL season-long bets, alongside making their NBA season predictions. (00:00) Show Start (12:05) Review of Patriots-Jaguars London Game (32:05) Jared Goff's MVP case (42:35) Dissecting Myles Garrett's comments on Deshaun Watson (55:16) Looking at the NFL teams that should be tanking after Week 7 (2:01:59) Tony Bennett Retires (2:18:45) ESPN's Top NBA Player Rankings (2:25:35) NBA, NFL and CFB Season Predictions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a big one for the show. First of all, it turns 3 today. Oh, and also, I finally FINALLY get to talk about my favorite soundtrack of all time, ABOVE THE RIM--which just so happens to also soundtrack a very good movie. Oh, and ALSO, I'm joined by the very funny duo that makes up the Third Time's the Charm podcast, Coley Mick (@ColeyMick) and Tyler (you know him as Trill Withers, or @TylerIAm on Twitter), who bring their knowledge of basketball and horny R&B music for a very funny episode.In this episode we talk about Tupac's charismatic menace as Birdie, the very well-done basketball scenes, Wood Harris, and in a first for the show, we talk about the soundtrack for even longer than we talk about the movie itself. And what a soundtrack it is. Besides the monster singles (Regulate and Afro Puffs), it has a mix of sunny R&B, more great rap offerings (including my favorite Tupac song of all time, Pain), another of my all-time favorite 90s soundtrack songs (Blowed Away by B Rezell) and a smattering of very horny songs to keep things honest. And the entire soundtrack is available on all streaming services, including the 3 songs that you could only find on the cassette version of the soundtrack. Which is something I talk about at great length in the episode. But you'll have to listen to the episode to hear it. Don't do it for me. Do it for Nutso.Check out Third Time's the Charm here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/third-times-the-charm/id1735312721And here: https://youtube.com/@thirdtimesthecharmud?si=SJdiHI7p1HG5DbMlCheck out Sheed and Tyler here: https://youtube.com/@sheedandtyler?si=Aye_5l-HsM5BWmrRCheck out Section 10 here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/section-10/id1736746980Support the show on Patreon! It's the one thing that's gonna help keep the show going: www.patreon.com/soundtracker

Johnny Dzubak is a former musician and currently one of the hosts and coaches for The Art of Charm Podcast.  @ArtofCharmTV  ——————————————————— Michael's Men of Action program is a Master's course dedicated to helping people elevate their social lives by building elite social circles and becoming higher status. Click the link below to learn more: https://m.moamentoring.com/podcast Join Michael's free MOA group on Skool: https://www.skool.com/men-of-action-free  ———————————————————— Become an affiliate for MOA Mentoring: https://www.moamentoring.com/earn Subscribe on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/MichaelSartain Listen on Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-michael-sartain-podcast/id1579791157 Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2faAYwvDD9Bvkpwv6umlPO?si=8Q3ak9HnSlKjuChsTXr6YQ&dl_branch=1 Filmed at Sticky Paws Studios: https://m.youtube.com/channel/UComrBVcqGLDs3Ue-yWAft8w  0:00 Intro 0:55 The idea for the podcast 4:03 “The Game” and Neil Strauss 5:07 Growing the podcast 7:26 Crafting the coaching program 12:09 Not having “what if's” in his life 13:15 Bootcamps were fun and legitimately helpful 13:44 Running the program in New York 14:48 Beginnings of social media and making noise 17:23 Archives of old podcasts with Mystery 18:55 Changing the name to “The Art of Charm” 20:08 Moving to LA 20:55 Pivoting from the pick-up brand 23:53 ***Psychology and self-improvement are not part of pick-up 26:25 *How many times has a woman been approached from puberty to 21 27:11 Women can better sniff out hierarchies 27:48 Sex differences 28:21 *Women also get a vote in the pick-up game 29:21 The nerdy guys didn't want to hang out with the alpha guys 30:18 ****Having female friends introduce you to other women 34:01 Being friends and sleeping with a woman are mutually exclusive 35:47 **Getting over the friend zone fear 37:02 Girls get you into the VIP 37:48 ****Logistics and the willingness to move 41:10 The podcast becomes popular and mainstream 42:16 **Having Kobe Bryant on the podcast 47:12 Having Neil deGrasse Tyson on the podcast 49:56 ***Nobody looks up the data and the science 53:48 ***Men with higher IQs are less likely to have sex 1:02:25 Having David Goggins on the podcast 1:10:38 **Men need challenges 1:13:08 *As men, the world tells us “no” 1:16:27 Helicopter parents 1:18:22 Messaging people on IG 1:21:08 The Text Book and emojis 1:25:42 Men frustrated by women not rewarding their intellect 1:27:18 How to create an emotional state 1:28:06 The attraction-comfort dichotomy 1:28:38 ***How not to get stuck in the friend zone 1:34:38 Women thinking they're immune to pre-selection 1:35:39 Quantum Mechanics and body healing 1:37:14 Feminine and masculine energy 1:38:50 **Metabolic health 1:42:30 **Deepening relationships, networking, and friendships 1:46:42 *Networking is an evolutionary adaptation 1:49:55 Sussing out sociopaths 1:52:12 Reading body language 1:54:26 Women sleep with you because of your value, not your intent 1:57:15 Writing to high vs low-status people 1:59:12 **Abundance 2:02:11 The beer goggles study 2:03:04 **Monogamy 2:07:43 ***Polyamory 2:09:47 *Surplus men 2:12:15 Men need to learn to compete 2:13:00 Social media 2:15:44 Challenging your own ideas

Welcome to Charmed, I'm Sure: A Southern Charm podcast hosted by Yvette and Kathryn. In this short introductory episode, we introduce ourselves, tell you a little about why we are podcasting about Southern Charm and our plans leading up to a (hopefully in the near future) S9 release. Our first episode will be out on Friday 20th January so be sure to subscribe, like or follow on your favourite place to listen to get it first when it drops.If you're enjoying the podcast, please support us by leaving a 5* review wherever you listen - it really makes a difference! Follow us on Instagram @charmedimsurepod On TikTok @charmedimsurepodAnd you can email us at charmedimsurepod@gmail.com

Happy New Year  - I want to share a quick preview of some of my upcoming episodes.  Geoff Girvitz is host of the Dad Strength Podcast.  He's creating community with and for Dads.  Geoff is an entrepreneur, Tiny Habits Coach and owner of Bang Personal Training in Toronto.  Reena Philpot - Sales Mentor and Consultant. Check out the Selling with Charm Podcast.Boston-based Corrie Legge is a Mom, voice over artist and filmmaker.  We talk about creativity, motherhood and the freelance lifestyle. Award-winning Austin journalists Kim and Mike Barnes are building a community focused on Parenting Aging Parents.  My new friend, Reena Philpot, sets goals for the year with her family.  She also has a 'word' of the year.  My word for 2023 is GRATEFUL.  Listen to this short preview and you'll hear why. If you've a story to tell, or know someone who does - please send me an email at drjudyoskam@gmail.com I wish you the best in 2023.  Thanks so much for listening.    - Judy Online Course Learn Your Strengths & Create Tiny Habits for Success. Includes CliftonStrengths Top 5 Assessment +Support the show

Welcome to Charmed, I'm Sure: A Southern Charm podcast hosted by Yvette and Kathryn. Our first episode will be out soon so be sure to subscribe, like or follow on your favourite place to listen to get it first when it drops. You can also listen to our short introduction to the podcast, ‘Welcome to Charmed, I'm Sure'. If you're enjoying the podcast, please support us by leaving a 5* review wherever you listen - it really makes a difference! Follow us on Instagram @charmedimsurepod On TikTok @charmedimsurepodAnd you can email us at charmedimsurepod@gmail.com

With tech layoffs and job offers being rescinded, all against the backdrop of an impending recession and a never-ending pandemic, career anxiety is at an all-time high. We're talking all about professional anxiety, career fear, and work worry with Clinical Psychologist, Author, and Content Creator Dr. Jessica Borushok, Ph.D., C.Psych. Dr. Jessica helps busy minds get unstuck, out of their own way, and back to their best selves. Through one-on-one work in private practice and her popular course, Busy Mind Reboot: 30 Days to Your Best Self, Dr. Jessica has helped hundreds of productive procrastinators, overwhelmed high-achievers, recovering perfectionists, and self-proclaimed "control freaks" transform their relationship with their thoughts and optimize their world. As an award-winning author and recognized expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dr. Jessica has co-authored numerous books and self-growth tools, including The ACT Deck. She has been featured in The List TV, Art of Charm Podcast, Thrive Global, and The Good Men Project. Follow Dr. Jessica at any one of the links below. Therapy: https://www.busymindreboot.com Website: https://www.busymindpsychologist.com instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theacttherapist tiktok: @theacttherapist youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU32xZFYYe0D2CQD9g4AawA

Jordan Harbinger is a former lawyer turned master networker and one of the country's top podcasters, with 5+ million downloads per month. In this interview, we cover: How Jordan reinvented himself to become one of the country's most successful podcasters. His unique methodology for building his network and what we can learn from it. How he consistently books top guests from the world of business, sports, arts, and politics. What top performers and world-class achievers do differently. How Jordan deals with failure, including being fired from his own show “Art of Charm”. Tips for working with a spouse (Jordan's wife is his manager!). How he juggles running his own business with being a husband and dad. Some of his favorite guests and anecdotes. What he looks for in new hires and how he builds his teams. And more! About Jordan Harbinger: For 11 years, Jordan hosted The Art of Charm Podcast — regularly in the iTunes top 50 and downloaded over four million times a month. Now, through the Jordan Harbinger Show, Jordan interviews the world's top performers — from legendary musicians to intelligence operatives, iconoclastic writers to visionary change-makers. A former Wall Street attorney, Jordan speaks five languages and spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped — twice. He'll tell you the only reason he's still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Our Sponsors: Murray Resources - national recruiting firm ResumeSpice - resume writing and career coaching Feedback? Guest Suggestions? Connect with Keith Wolf on LinkedIn

Imposter syndrome involves doubting your abilities or skills, and can often leave high-achieving people feeling fraudulent or undeserving of their achievements. In fact, this syndrome has affected some of the most renowned celebrities (e.g., Lady Gaga), CEO's (e.g., Howard Schultz), and a few of our favorite podcast co-hosts. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, two of our high-achieving co-hosts, Jill and Debbie, rely on both their personal experiences and empirical evidence in their discussion of imposter syndrome. Fellow imposters and frauds, please join us to learn more about imposter syndrome, and get some practical advice for dealing with it! Listen and Learn: About the ACBS panel that inspired Debbie and Jill to do this episode on imposter syndrome togetherSome of Jill and Debbie's personal experiences with imposter syndromeTheir empirically-backed, expert definition of imposter syndromeCommon thoughts and emotions that show up with imposter syndromeWhen, why, and how imposter syndrome currently shows up for Debbie and JillPractical advice on what to do instead of “comparing and despairing” and information on how that behavior impacts imposter syndromeEmpirical evidence on why marginalized groups are disproportionately affected by imposter syndrome Actual statistics on imposter syndrome and who it affectsThe evolutionary, social implications behind imposter syndromeAbout the subtypes of imposter syndrome (and how to find yours!)Some practical advice from our co-hosts for dealing with imposter syndrome Resources:  The Art of Charm Podcast's episode with Jill on Imposter Syndrome Suzanne Imes and Pauline Clance's paper on The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women More information on David Barlow and his Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders Valerie Young's book, The Secret Thoughts of Successful WomenAlicia Menendez's book, The Likeability Trap  Eve Rodsky's book, Fair Play Jill's book, Be Mighty and her Imposter Syndrome Subtype quiz More information on Janet Helms and her work on WHMPS Dr. Bessima Tewfik - MIT professor who researches Imposter Syndrome About Jill Stoddard and Debbie Sorensen: Total Imposter, Jill Stoddard Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She is an award winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, author of two books, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off The Clock podcast.  Complete Fraud, Debbie Sorensen Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical  psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She is also a co-founder of ImpACT Psychology Colorado, a psychotherapy collective in Denver/Boulder, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides mental health support and resources for Healthcare Professionals... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  In his TEDx talk, Michael Herold, public speaker, confidence coach, and podcaster extraordinaire, says, “Things you will achieve in your life, you will achieve because of your disability, not in spite of it.” In this week's episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Michael talks with Debbie and Yael about confidence, self-doubt, and overcoming limitations. Limitations are all around us. These might be thoughts about how unqualified we are, feelings of anxiety, or even physical disabilities such as spinal muscular atrophy, but Michael Herold has some good news. We can overcome the limitations that come from our own heads, by taking Comfort Zone Challenges! Join us in this episode to learn about how to work with those limitations, instead of against them, to achieve the life you want.  The Psychologists Off the Clock are excited to welcome Michael aboard as our new Strategic Consultant. Join us to for this episode to meet Michael and learn about our new team member!  Listen and Learn How to build confidence and step outside your comfort zone About Michael's transition from animator to public speaker, coach, and podcaster  Why Acceptance and Commitment Therapy resonates with Michael and how it changed his life  How Michael's disability, spinal muscular atrophy, has shaped his unique perspective  How you can use values to overcome your limitations About motivational porn and the microaggressions we often use when discussing people who have ‘overcome' disability-related limitations Why it's so important to connect with people and how to do that  Inside information on how Coach Michael works to build his clients' confidence  Tips and tricks from the master himself on how to build your own confidence Resources from this Podcast Episode Michael's TEDx talk  Michael's website Michael's podcast: The Art of Charm   The Art of Charm Podcast's Episode featuring Michael  The Art of Charm Podcast's Core Confidence Program  Viktor Frankl's Book: Man's Search for Meaning  Michael's Short Film “When I grow up” All of Michael's short animated films    Michael Herold   About Michael Herold Early in his life, doctors told Michael Herold's parents that his severe disability would keep him from living a normal life. The doctors were right. Michael's life has been anything but normal. In fact, he is quite a renaissance man. For over a decade, Michael was a successful animator for Nickelodeon and worked on a variety of shows including Penguins of Madagascar and Kung Fu Panda. He currently does public speaking around the world and has recently spoken in front of parliament and given a TEDx talk. Michael also uses skills and exercises from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to provide coaching on a variety of life-skills including public speaking, self-doubt, communication, and, primarily, confidence. Visit Michael's website to find out more!      Episode 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin AndrewsEpisode 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica WilliamsEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven HayesEpisode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ MoranEpisode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy           Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You asked and we answered! We took the three highest rated interviews from 2018 and put them into a special New Years Eve episode just for you! We kick it off with the powerhouse David Goggins, the former Navy SEAL, ultramarathon runner, and author of “Can't Hurt Me.” We think he's the best voice to listen to when you can't get your ass out of bed. He has a lot to say about committing to yourself.Next up is our interview with Dr. Steven Hayes, the leading clinical psychologist in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - which is all about authentically accepting who you are and working on the best parts of you. Dr. Hayes dispels the “boosting self-esteem myth” and then offers a great alternative that helps everyone (including us!) work through life's challenging moments. Finally, we leave you with the crazy conversation we had with power investor and entrepreneur Oren Klaff. He's going to take you into the “Croc” brain and explain why it has an iron grip on your behavior in social settings - he'll even let you know how to use it to your advantage.We loved having you join us this year as the Art of Charm Podcast tried out some new things. Don't forget to chime in and tell us what YOU want us to explore in 2019. We love your feedback and your questions, so drop us a line at www.theartofhcharm.com/questions.Happy New Year! - AJ, Johnny, and the entire Art of Charm TeamA Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Netsuite takes growing businesses and organizations to new heights. Get NetSuite's guide “Crushing the Five Barriers to Growth” when you go to netsuite.com/charm

In this episode of The Art of Charm, AJ (@AJHarbinger) and Johnny (@AOCJohnny) wrap up September's month of Emotional Bids. Before answering listener questions, they speak with Andrea Lee (andreajlee.com), an accomplished coach, successful author, and violence prevention expert. From difficult personal conversations to work-related challenges Andrea believes that the RIGHT use of power - “emotional leadership” is crucial as we try to navigate. Without it, we end up with the abuse of power and interactions that can lead to emotional abuse. Andrea draws on her personal experience with difficult conversations from both ends of the spectrum - as both a victim and perpetrator of abuse. She shares what it takes to redeem yourself and rebuild any fractured relationship. Throughout their discussion, AJ, Johnny, and Andrea go in-depth into these moments, discussing the critical turning points in their lives and how they were able to overcome them. And we answer listener questions about emotional bids and personal relationships. WHAT TO LISTEN OUT FORHow can someone break the pattern of abuse in his/her life? Trigger Warning: this episode does contain a discussion about abuse. If this is a trigger for you please be aware. What is the first step to fully understanding a conflict with someone?Saying “yes” is important, but why saying “no” can be even more powerful, and how we can do it with compassion towards others. The Delta model - a 3-point tool that can be universally applied to the toughest conversations. How can you prepare for a conversation you're afraid of having with a loved one, partner or colleague. A WORD FROM OUR SPONSORS!Blinkist gives you access to key insights from 2,500+ bestselling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/AOC to start your free trial or get three months off your yearly plan when you join today.MeUndies are The World's Most Comfortable Undies, 3x softer than cotton, and made from sustainably sourced fiber.To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to: meundies.com/charmHoneyBook makes it easy for you to book your ideal client faster, more frequently, and with less legwork. Art of Charm listeners can get 50% off the first year of Honeybook with promo code CHARM. Sign up at honeybook.com“Great protection. Fair prices. Easy to use. SimpliSafe is the right way to protect your home.” Go today to SimpliSafe.com/AOC to get your system today!RESOURCES* Andrea J. Lee - https://andreajlee.com* “We Need to Talk: Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations” by Andrea J. Lee - https://amazon.com* “The Power of the Positive No” by Dr. William Yuri - https://amazon.comKEEP UP WITH THE ART OF CHARM* The Art of Charm Challenge | theartofcharm.com/challenge* The Art of Charm Insiders | theartofcharm.com/insiders* The Art of Charm Bootcamp | theartofcharm.com/personal-bootcamp/* Best of The Art of Charm Podcast | theartofcharm.com/category/best-of/* The Art of Charm Toolbox | theartofcharm.com/category/toolbox-episodesSOCIAL MEDIA IG: @theartofcharm | Twitter: @TheArtOfCharm | Facebook: TheArtofCharmWanna RUN A HALF MARATHON in a Halloween costume w/ AJ & Johnny?Register now at www.runrocknroll.com/los-angeles/ !!ENJOYING WHAT YOU HEAR?Your reviews are essential to us and for those discovering The Art of Charm. Go to theartofcharm.com/mobilereview to share your Art of Charm experience.

On this episode of the Art of Charm, AJ (@AJHarbinger) and Johnny (@AOCJohnny) take emotional bids to the next level by speaking with an expert on validation - one of the most important parts of human connection. That expert is Michael Sorensen, a marketing executive, personal-development junkie, and the author of the best-selling book “I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships. Michael shares his own experiences on the job and in his personal life that led him to writing his book and understanding just how important validation is in creating strong bonds with others. WHAT TO LISTEN OUT FORAt the end of the day, it's all about relationships. So, why is validation such a great tool for managing the important relationships in your lifeWhere is one of the best places to start fostering good validation skills?What are some examples of something meaningful to say to someone that's seeking validation?Why being silent can indirectly push someone away from youWhat is one of the most effective ways to understand someone seeking validation and emotional attention?When do you know it's the right time to give someone advice?After taking a listen to this episode, take a moment to think of the best ways for you to make connections with those around you. Are you finding yourself opening up or closing off to those who seeking emotional attention from you? By becoming more aware of these hidden opportunities, we can take better advantage of them and create meaningful relationships. A WORD FROM OUR SPONSORS!eero is the world's first whole home wifi system that delivers hyper fast, super secure wifi to every room in your home. For free overnight shipping to the US or Canada, visit eero.com and at checkout select overnight shipping then enter CHARM to make it free!Great protection. Fair prices. Easy to use. SimpliSafe is the right way to protect your home. Go today to SimpliSafe.com/AOC to get your system today!Calm includes guided meditations and Sleep Stories to help you reduce anxiety, lower stress and sleep better. AoC listeners can get 25% off a Calm Premium subscription at calm.com/charm. Get started today at calm.com/charm.Stitch Fix is personal styling for men, women & kids that sends clothing to your door (with free shipping & returns). Get started at stitchfix.com/charm & find clothes you'll love! RESOURCES* Michael Sorensen - www.MichaelSSorensen.com* “I Hear You” Book: https://amazon.com* The Gottman Institute - https://www.gottman.com KEEP UP WITH THE ART OF CHARM* The Art of Charm Challenge | theartofcharm.com/challenge* The Art of Charm Insiders | theartofcharm.com/insiders* The Art of Charm Bootcamp | theartofcharm.com/personal-bootcamp/* Best of The Art of Charm Podcast | theartofcharm.com/category/best-of/* The Art of Charm Toolbox | theartofcharm.com/category/toolbox-episodesSOCIAL MEDIAIG: @theartofcharm | Twitter: @TheArtOfCharm | Facebook: TheArtofCharm Wanna RUN A HALF MARATHON in a Halloween costume w/ AJ & Johnny?Register now at www.runrocknroll.com/los-angeles/ !! ENJOYING WHAT YOU HEAR?Your reviews are essential to us and for those discovering The Art of Charm.Go to theartofcharm.com/mobilereview to share your Art of Charm experience.

AJ (@AJHarbinger) and Johnny (@AOCJohnny) continue the theme of Emotional Bids by discussing practical ways to deepen and strengthen the connections with the people in our lives. Their source for this week's discussion comes from a Gottman Institute article by Zach Brittle:https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/Whether it's reciprocating feelings, talking about your day, or even better understanding physical touch, emotional bids help develop human-to-human connection and build long-lasting relationships. WHAT TO LISTEN OUT FOR* How can the use of emotional bids help us make better connections with the people?* What is the best way to react to an emotional bid?* We might not always be able to respond to someone's emotional bid right away. How can we respond to someone to still show that we care? *What role does humor play in emotional connection?* What's an example of an emotional bid that can be easily overlooked?* We know that being too vulnerable can often put someone off. What ways can you think of that can create this tension?Johnny and AJ share their own experiences with missing emotional bids over the years.Whether it's getting to know someone for the first time or diving into the deepest parts of a romantic relationship, knowing how to spot an emotional bid and how to react is crucial to creating a true bond with someone we care about. A WORD FROM OUR SPONSORS!DesignCrowd helps startups and small businesses crowdsource custom graphics, logos, Web design — even tattoo designs! Check out DesignCrowd.com/Charm for a special $100 VIP offer for our listeners or enter the discount code CHARM when posting a project.“Great protection. Fair prices. Easy to use. SimpliSafe is the right way to protect your home.” Go today to SimpliSafe.com/AOC to get your system today!Art of Charm listeners can get ANY PREMIUM INDOCHINO suit for just $379 + FREE Shipping when entering “CHARM” at checkout. This is 50% off the regular price for a made-to-measure premium suit. Incredible deal for a suit that will fit you better than anything off-the-rack ever could.HoneyBook makes it easy for you to book your ideal client faster, more frequently, and with less legwork. Art of Charm listeners can get 50% off the first year of Honeybook with promo code CHARM. Sign up at honeybook.comRESOURCES* The Ben Franklin Effect - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect* The Gottman Institute - https://www.gottman.comKEEP UP WITH THE ART OF CHARM* The Art of Charm Challenge | theartofcharm.com/challenge* The Art of Charm Insiders | theartofcharm.com/insiders* The Art of Charm Bootcamp | theartofcharm.com/personal-bootcamp/* Best of The Art of Charm Podcast | theartofcharm.com/category/best-of/* The Art of Charm Toolbox | theartofcharm.com/category/toolbox-episodesSOCIAL MEDIA IG: @theartofcharm | Twitter: @TheArtOfCharm | Facebook: TheArtofCharmWanna RUN A HALF MARATHON in a Halloween costume w/ AJ & Johnny?Register now at www.runrocknroll.com/los-angeles/ !!ENJOYING WHAT YOU HEAR?Your reviews are essential to us and for those discovering The Art of Charm. Go to theartofcharm.com/mobilereview to share your Art of Charm experience.

In this episode, AJ and Johnny speak on the importance of “emotional bids,” and how to successfully identify and respond to them to create a deeper connection with the people around you. We start with a look at the clinical researcher, Dr. John Gottman and the study he conducted that helped define what an emotional bid is and why it is so important. Then, AJ and Johnny describe how we can positively or negatively respond to a whole array of emotional bids – and how that can make or break a relationship. We also learn how you don't have to tell all of your deepest and darkest secrets to feel like someone truly understands you.WHAT TO LISTEN OUT FOR* What is the simplest way to show vulnerability to someone we're trying to connect with?* Are emotional bids always easy to spot?* How can you be more actively present in your relationships?* In the moments after you put down your phone, are you truly disconnected from it?* What is “turning towards”, and how can you create more of these positive interactions in your life?* What is one of the most important ways to connect yourself to someone else's emotional bid?NOTES ON DR. JOHN GOTTMANBy watching a couple interact for just 3 minutes, Dr. John Gottman could predict with up to 94 percent certainty whether the couple would eventually separate, remain unhappy, or continue as a happily couple for several years. AJ and Johnny share examples of their own lives to better understand how vital emotional bids are in connecting with others and in creating value in a relationship.A WORD FROM OUR SPONSORS!Problems hiring? ZipRecruiter is the highest-rated hiring site in America. Try for FREE at ziprecruiter.com/charm where ZR will send your job to 100+ of the web's leading job boards.Search free scholarships, browse course reviews, get 24/7 study help and rent textbooks for a fraction of the cost of your bookstore – all in one big education-redefining student hub. For $5 off your first month's subscription, go to chegg.com/charm and use promo code CHARMCheck out our bootcamp page to learn about the Art of Charm's personal development training!The Art of Charm Bootcamp / theartofcharm.com/personal-bootcampRESOURCESDr. John Gottman's 1999 study on coupleswww.gottman.com/about/research/couples/KEEP UP WITH THE ART OF CHARM* The Art of Charm Challenge | theartofcharm.com/challenge* The Art of Charm Insiders | theartofcharm.com/insiders* The Art of Charm Bootcamp | theartofcharm.com/personal-bootcamp/* Best of The Art of Charm Podcast | theartofcharm.com/category/best-of/* The Art of Charm Toolbox | theartofcharm.com/category/toolbox-episodesSOCIAL MEDIAIG: @theartofcharm | Twitter: @TheArtOfCharm | Facebook: TheArtofCharmWanna RUN A HALF MARATHON in a Halloween costume w/ AJ & Johnny?Register now at www.runrocknroll.com/los-angeles/ !!ENJOYING WHAT YOU HEAR?Your reviews are essential to us and for those discovering The Art of Charm.Go to theartofcharm.com/mobilereview to share your Art of Charm experience.

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Listen to recent guests A.J. Jacobs and Kevin Rose for a better idea of our regular programming. Also make sure to check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Do we know any good conflict de-escalation techniques? What's the best way to re-enter your alumni network? Have you ever experienced this kind of imposter syndrome? How do you suggest ways someone can improve when they're immediately insulted you don't think they're perfect? How can a late bloomer shed the sidekick role developed over the years with a close friend? A couple of police officers weigh in on our episode with criminal defense attorney Corbin Payne. Documentary of the Week: Obey Giant Quick shoutouts to: Jen Kerr, Matt Knight, Joanne Alilovic, Leanne Hughes, Sean Lavin, and Loretta Kreet! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf143/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Turns out the comfiest and most sustainable shoes in the world are made of wool — even Time Magazine said so. Try Allbirds' 30-day trial period with free shipping and free returns this holiday season! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Listen to recent guests Kevin Rose and Corbin Payne for a better idea of our regular programming. Also make sure to check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm. Let's cut to it! In this episode: How do you make sure you're not wasting the opportunity of a good introduction? Why don't we read positive reviews on the show? Some great listener feedback for the child with ADHD from FMF #140 who blames himself for his mother's issues. How does someone who's visually impaired network effectively without being able to read body language? Is your writing style too verbose for most? If so, how can you clarify your message without feeling like you're "dumbing it down?" What's one of the meanest things Jordan has done? How Jordan got a peek into the world of being a woman online. Out of curiosity, if you were going to rename The Art of Charm podcast, what would you call it? Drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com if you have ideas! Documentary of the Week: Hunting the KGB Killers Quick shoutouts to Melanie Pipkens out of Lansing, Michigan, and Susie and Jojo! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf142/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! CastBox introduces an in-audio search capability that offers a brand new way to search for podcasts you may love based on words or topics. Download CastBox for iOS or Android now to try it out for yourself! Turns out the comfiest and most sustainable shoes in the world are made of wool -- even Time Magazine said so. Try Allbirds' 30-day trial period wih free shipping and free returns this holiday season! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Listen to recent guests Jon Acuff and Tom Bilyeu for a better idea of our regular programming. Also make sure to check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Is there anything you find useful that other people just don't get? What are your options for maintaining sanity when you're living with a messy significant other? Self-help isn't selfish, but you might want to put the brakes on any relationships until you're standing on firmer ground. Convincing your company's chief investor that it's time to pivot is all the more difficult when he happens to be your father. No kid is responsible for an adult's decision to use drugs. Repeated for emphasis: No kid is responsible for an adult's decision to use drugs. Some listener advice for the guy from FMF 134 who's dating high-maintenance Mercedes. How do you avoid becoming passive backdrop furniture in a group conversation? Is there ever any upside to getting sucked into your coworker's personal drama on the job? Documentary of the Week: anything about The Great Barrier Reef. Quick shoutouts to Andy from Luxembourg and Katie Couric! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf140/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Need to promote yourself? Do it right by picking up Book Yourself Solid: The Fastest, Easiest, and Most Reliable System for Getting More Clients Than You Can Handle Even if You Hate Marketing and Selling by Michael Port! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Listen to recent guests Bob Sutton and Aubrey Marcus for a better idea of our regular programming. Also make sure to check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm. Let's cut to it! In this episode: So you're having a challenge with a new relationship -- your soon-to-be mother-in-law. How can you make it right before the big day? How do you deal with a person who is constantly asking for favors but has yet to provide any real value in return? If you're doing everything you're meant to be doing and your life has improved since giving up alcohol, is there a problem with the vice you've chosen to replace it? Some listener advice for the Lost Corpsman from FMF #135 -- specifically for his struggles with PTSD, depression, and self-treatment with alcohol. How much eye contact is too much eye contact? Quick shoutout to Jeremy, The Self-Improvement Forester! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf139/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Castbox introduces an in-audio search capability that offers a brand new way to search for podcasts you may love based on words or topics. Download CastBox for iOS or Android now to try it out for yourself! Need a podcast that will help you 'begin living and thinking smarter not harder?' Check out Dexter Guff is Smarter Than You (And You Can Be Too) -- subscribe now to get your ears on Dexter's mouth! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Listen to recent guests Chris Guillebeau, Jeff Goins, Winifred Reilly, and Too $hort for a better idea of our regular programming. Also make sure to check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Thoughts on the #MeToo campaign. How do you know when an awkward greeting is about to happen and how can you nip it in the bud before it escalates? How can your network make you money if you're not an entrepreneur? Jordan recently emceed the Thrive event in Las Vegas. What's involved, how did he do it, and what was the experience like? Recommendations for sustaining or recovering your voice after speaking for two hours or more. Do some people need more time to fall in love than others? Or is it possible the chemistry's just not there and never will be? What happened when we interviewed Roger Stone. Documentary of the Week: Generation Iron 2 Quick shoutout to Justin and Nicki Sharer of Sharer Design Group in Plymouth, MI! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf138/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! How can something called a natural killer cell be good for you? Check out the Ben Greenfield Fitness podcast with Jonathan Clinthorne, PhD about harnessing the power of the natural killer cell for enhanced immunity, longevity, performance, and beyond here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Ben Franklin was good at dealing with rivals who tried to show him up in public, and you can be too. [Related: The Ben Franklin effect] How should a "real" man behave in the workplace? How do you make a decision when both options are great? What's the key to overcoming a physical insecurity? [Related: What is nystagmus?] Some listener feedback for Can't Take Criticism from Fan Mail Friday #98. Are there any advantages or opportunities for people who speak outrageously unique languages -- like Kiribati? Or Klingon? Quick shoutouts to Dave Schudel and NASCAR's Jeff Gordon! [Related: AoC Toolbox episodes found here.] Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/fmf111/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

Judah Pollack (@JudahThinks) and Olivia Fox Cabane (@foxcabane) rejoin the show to discuss their new book, The Net and the Butterfly: The Art and Practice of Breakthrough Thinking. The Cheat Sheet: What is breakthrough thinking -- and how does it relate to nets and butterflies? Though we all have the same brain architecture, why do some of us find breakthrough thinking more natural than others? Learn how to access your brain's genius lounge (without being impeded by your brain's executive office). Understand how your brain pieces together disparate information to solve problems in unique ways.  Spot your own native breakthrough style and cultivate habits that more frequently activate it. And so much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Whether you're a lady or a gent, you don't need to know what MicroModal fabric is to enjoy the comfort of MeUndies; you just need to wear them -- support this show (and yourself) with MeUndies here for 20% off! Want three free rides up to $10 each? Download the free Lyft app today and enter promo code AOCPODCAST in the payment section! Please help The Art of Charm Podcast stay free-to-download with minimal ads by taking this quick and easy survey here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/591/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

Jonathan Raymond (@jonathanraymond) is the owner of management training startup Refound and author of Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For. The Cheat Sheet: What's the real purpose of a business? Why should a business owner or manager treat employees with the same respect afforded to the most valuable customers? Understand why getting rid of old, inherited beliefs about being in an authority position are critical to becoming the kind of leader people want to work for. How can countless microbehaviors among members of a workforce add up to negatively influence a company's culture, and what can we do to address them? Are you a Friend, a Fighter, or a Fixer? Learn to identify your own leadership archetype and work with its strengths and weaknesses. And so much more... A gift from the heart is always worth giving -- like farm-to-table and artisan florist bouquets from bouqs.com. Art of Charm listeners enter promo code CHARM to get 20% off! Freshly dipped strawberries from Shari's Berries starting at just $19.99 plus shipping -- double the berries for just $10 more! Just go to berries.com and use code Art of Charm! Please help The Art of Charm Podcast stay free-to-download with minimal ads by taking this quick and easy survey here! The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/589/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!In this episode:Should you be content with a so-called "good" career at a good company and stop complaining just because you're not using the skills and natural talents that make you feel alive?Do millennials really deserve most of the bashing they get from their supposedly wiser elders? As discussed recently with Gary Vaynerchuk, negative first impressions aren't set in stone. Just because someone doesn't like you now doesn't mean they won't warm up to you later.Do you ever worry if constantly doing the "right" thing is holding you back from experiencing life fully?What do you do when you don't drink, but all the dating advice you get tells you bars are the best place to meet new people?How do you not look like "the gay guy" when you're out on the town with a group of five or six women?Should an Army officer consider investing time in an advanced degree?Listener Xavier calls in [as you can too at (415) 429-1915!] and gives us some excellent advice and useful tools for people moving to a new town.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-55-fear-of-a-millennial-planet/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming!

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!In this episode:What should you do when you start falling for your best friend's girlfriend?Can a college kid go through a midlife crisis?Do grandparents have any right to complain about the name that's been given to their grandkid?Approach anxiety happens to us all. How do we get over it?You're vanilla and your partner's kinky. Is it possible to find a middle ground that satisfies you both?How do you handle the friendly neighborhood player who flirts with your wife in public -- right in front of you?Jordan's video this week is about how emotional reasoning sabotages success in all of us (and what we can do about it).Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-53-not-crazy-for-kinky/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming!

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.All right, let's cut to it!In this episode:How do you make friends when you've moved to a new place and you've never been away from your hometown before?A listener shares a story relative to Fan Mail Friday #49, and helps prove our demographic is ever-changing.The book-learning is with you, young medical student. But you are not a Jedi doctor yet."Achievers always support doing things to better themselves and people around them instead of accepting where they currently are."How do you know who to invest in and focus on rather than spreading yourself too thin on people who don't see your value?When is it okay to express your opinions to your friends, and how do you know when you're overreaching?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-51-bubonic-plague-friday/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming!

Banter is a muscle to be flexed daily. "A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything." -Malcolm X The Cheat Sheet: Do you always have to be funny to create banter? What is the conversation formula? What are the three traits you want to embody through banter? What is "yes and" and how does it apply to bantering? How can you practice banter? And so much more… One of the keys to connecting with anyone is banter. Whether you're hanging out at your third place or you're out with your boys and spot a girl you'd like to chat up, banter is the best way to strike up a conversation. On this toolbox episode of The Art of Charm we'll talk about the 3 characteristics you embody through banter, how to keep it playful throughout and why you don't have to be funny to be good at banter. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out HostGator! More About This Show: Banter is a playful, lighthearted conversation between two strangers to ease the tension of getting acquainted, in this episode we're primarily discussing how to use it to chat up a woman you haven't met before. There are three traits or aspects of your personality you'll be highlighting when using banter: your playful side, your lack of need for others' approval and your sexual side. 1. Your playful side.You open the conversation with this side of you. Ask her a question like what is she drinking? Who is she here with? Why is she out tonight? A who, what, where, when, why or how question is a good opener. When she answers come back with something playful. Like if you ask her what's drinking and she says cosmo, tell her it'll never work between you because your last girlfriend drank cosmos and she was a lush. Make it playful, smile with your lips and your eyes when you respond and you'll put her at ease and you'll also be giving her a role to play. 2. You don't seek others' approval. This part of bantering comes next and it's done by misinterpreting what she says to you. Again, always smiling with your eyes and your mouth when you respond to let her know you're being silly, playful and yet you are your own man who isn't reliant on the approval of others, without, of course, overcompensating. There is a fine line between a charming rogue and a boorish try-hard. 3. Sexual. We'll let you learn directly from the AoC coaches during the show for this one. Those are the three traits and the order in which to highlight them. You'll want to practice these to get good at them, banter is definitely a muscle to be used daily. An improv class is a great way to practice banter, and so is chatting up people you interact with every day. Check it out on this edition of The Art of Charm. THANKS AOC! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let us know by clicking on the link below and sending us a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank AOC on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Attraction Toolbox episode The Art of Charm on Twitter Other AOC Toolbox episodes The Art of Charm bootcamps Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast On your phone? Click here to write us a well-deserved iTunes review and help us outrank the riffraff! Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!

Attraction is more than just sex. "Attraction starts before we even open our mouths." -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: What's The Art of Charm definition of attraction? Why the first 60 seconds are critical to attracting a woman. How to make people gravitate to you. AJ's suggestion for getting a great suit without spending a fortune. What is the one physical feature humans look at on everyone else? And so much more… When you think of attraction do you immediately think of sexual attraction or physical attraction? You're not alone if you do! But that's just one component, there are three more pieces of the attraction puzzle. On today's toolbox episode we talk about why attraction goes beyond the physical, what those four components of attraction are and how to maximize them. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out HostGator! More About This Show: One of the topics we get asked about most at The AOC is attraction and how to become more attractive to women. On today's show we're specifically discussing the four channels of attraction: static, dynamic, self-presentation and circumstance. There are specific ways to maximize each area to maximize your attractiveness in any setting. 1. Static. These are the things about you that you cannot change: your height, your eye color, sometimes even your build. You aren't going to wake up tomorrow looking like Brad Pitt but you also don't need to carry around those extra 30 pounds. The key here is to maximize these areas by getting adequate sleep, eating right and exercising. When you take better care of yourself it will show. 2. Dynamic. You've probably guessed it: dynamic is what you can change about yourself. This is your body language, your energy. If you're feeling happy your body will show up. If you're feeling confident your body will show it. And you can control your emotions and change them, your body will follow. One thing we do at our boot camps is the power posture. This means standing in a victory pose for 90 seconds. Do it and watch how your mind shifts when you do. Make it part of your morning routine for maximum impact. 3. Self-presentation. This is your style and your grooming. Your self-presentation is how you get to show the world a bit about you, who you are and who you want to connect with. If you're a hipster let your fashion say so. If you're a rocker show it. And be sure your fashion is appropriate for your body type, get your clothes fitted if needed. A tailor can do wonders for your self-presentation and is worth the extra effort. 4. Circumstance.This is your surroundings and your location, it's both the place you choose to be and where you choose to be in that location. First and foremost be selective about where you go (check out Third Place Toolbox episode for details) and who you're with. A way to maximize your circumstance is to go out alone, and we give you the specifics on how to do so. One thing to note is when you're out on your own stand at the angle of the bar. More people will be waiting in line there and you can strike up a conversation with them. Those are the four channels of attraction! In this episode we also discuss additional ways to maximize each of them, how to know if you have too much or not enough energy and why you want to be Kumar when you're out at the bar (and leave your Harold side at home). Check it out on this edition of The Art of Charm, and then come back for our next toolbox episode on what to say to further that attraction! THANKS AOC! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let us know by clicking on the link below and sending us a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank AOC on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Third Place Toolbox episode The Art of Charm on Twitter Other AOC Toolbox episodes The Art of Charm bootcamps  Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast On your phone? Click here to write us a well-deserved iTunes review and help us outrank the riffraff! Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

Everyone needs a third place. "You can find these in every community." -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: Why the third place is disappearing. The four criteria to use when choosing a third place. Why clubs are not a good option. How TV has replaced the third place. How to be welcome and become a "regular". And so much more... Have you noticed how nearly every sitcom has a hangout spot? Cheers' spot was well, Cheers. Friends had Cafe Perk. Seinfeld had the corner restaurant. How I Met Your Mother had the nearby pub. But why don't more Americans have this go-to spot, this third place in their neighborhood? On this Toolbox episode of The Art of Charm we'll talk about why you need a third place, what to look for when choosing one and how to become a regular after you've chosen yours. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out HostGator! More About This Show: In life we should all have three main places we go regularly: home, work and our third place. The third place is anything from a cafe to a pub to a diner, so long as it's close to your house and it fits certain criteria. Whether you're new to your neighborhood or not you still need a third place. Here are the four things to look for when choosing it: 1. It's a leveler. Everyone is equal here no matter their background, socioeconomic status, etc. When someone is at this spot they're just a member of the community. In other words if there's bottle service available it doesn't fit the criteria, and this is why clubs aren't really a third place. 2. You're primarily there for conversation. Your third place is where you to go to chat, interact, vent, tell stories, etc. The purpose of being there is to communicate with the people around you. 3. You can become a regular. No matter what you know you'll see familiar faces when you go here. When you're looking for your third place be sure there are regulars who are a part of its community, people who if they weren't seen for awhile would be missed. 4. There's no real structure to what's happening.Anything can happen and there's an openness to the energy and environment of the place.People are just there to be there, not for any specific activity or agenda. Also your third place shouldn't be sexy, it should be comfortable and a place you feel good going to alone. And that's what you're going to do once you've chosen your third place. To establish yourself as a regular there go in on an off-peak night, some night of the week when it isn't packed and you can meet the staff and the regular patrons. When you go there be sure to introduce yourself to the bartender and/or manager, smile a lot and make conversation with people around you. Let the staff know you're new in town (if you are) and tell them you'll be coming around often, then be sure to leave them a healthy tip. Continue to drop in during off peak times, chat people up and make the place better for having your presence. The bartenders will remember you and appreciate you. Once you've set the foundation for your third place you can consider what friends to bring there and going in during a busy time. AJ and Johnny explain more about who to bring and when, as well as the vital role third places play in our communities. Check it out on this edition of The Art of Charm. THANKS, AoC! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let us know by clicking on the link below and sending us a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank AoC on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Meetup The Art of Charm on Twitter Other AOC Toolbox episodes The Art of Charm bootcamps Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast On your phone? Click here to write us a well-deserved iTunes review and help us outrank the riffraff! Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

Boom. Episode 400! Meet and connect with the right kind of people. "Everyone entering your life on a social level is an opportunity to grow your network." -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: The four groups you need to have in your life. How to get introduced to a cute girl's friends. Opportunities for adding value and how to spot them. One specific tip to meeting your neighbors. How social media can help you chose your new friends. And so much more... One question we get asked frequently is how to make new friends when you move to a new place. This question goes hand in hand with our advice to surround yourself with people you want to be like. And today's episode gives you practical advice on how to do just that. Whether you're moving somewhere new, have already moved or simply want to expand your social circle, this show will explain the four groups you need to have in your life, how to find those groups, and run people through a "social sales funnel". Listen in for all of that and more on the 400th episode of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out HostGator! More About This Show: The axiom of "you become the five people you spend the most time with" is one of core teachings of this show. Today we'll share with you how to meet more people you want to be like, whether you've just moved to a new town or not. There are four groups you should always have in your life and they are: 1. An all-men's group. This should be a group of men you get together with regularly. It could be an entrepreneurial group of guys who meet regularly or a mentoring type group. This group is important because it gives you a chance to grow your leadership skills. 2. A co-ed group. Once you have your all-men's group find a co-ed group. This could be a group of men and women who meet often to play some kind of sport or do another activity together. The web site meetup.com is a great place to find groups like these. This group is important because you'll have opportunities to learn and apply other diplomatic skills with both men and women. 3. Your show-off group. This is your next group to find after finding groups one and two. In the show-off group you're going to be showing off what makes you unique. Are you a great coder or great at cooking? A drummer, guitarist, aspiring comedian? That is your show off group. 4. A charity or community-focused group. Find a group where you can contribute to a charity or a community-based group. This can be as simple as attending an annual charity event, but it adds a richness and a depth to you, your social circles and your personality. So once you've got all four groups in your life, you can begin the "social sales funnel". There are some basic steps in the funnel. The first is to find people from your four groups you hit it off with. Then find opportunities to hang out with them. Thirdly add value to those opportunities, like bringing a good bottle of whiskey to a boy's night of poker. Finally get to know your new friends on social media and if they seem like great people, host a regular event and invite them (and have them invite their friends!). AJ and Johnny give us the full scoop on the social sales funnel, and creating the friendships and relationships you really want on this edition of The Art of Charm. THANKS AOC! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let us know by clicking on the link below and sending us a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank AOC on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Meetup The Art of Charm on Twitter Other AOC Toolbox episodes The Art of Charm bootcamps Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177  Stay Charming!

Network to create lifelong connections. "Vulnerability leads to credibility." -Michelle Lederman The Cheat Sheet: Can you fake confidence? If so, how? Why the real you is the best you. The key to being more authentic. How many times should you try something new before throwing in the towel? What is the 3 words activity? And so much more... Networking and relationships are the building blocks of a successful life. It's a point we drive home on many of our shows, but how do we do it authentically? How do we create connection through clarity and confidence? Our guest for today's show has the answers to all of those questions! Michelle Lederman is an author, speaker, coach and self-professed recovering CPA who writes and speaks on the topics of clarity, confidence, connection and likability. Listen in for all of that and more on episode 398 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out HostGator! More About This Show: Michelle Lederman wrote the book on likability, literally! Her 11 Laws of Likability is a guide based on 3 pillars of great relationships: clarity, confidence and connection. When these three pillars are in place you can build likability with the people you meet and interact with, forming solid foundations for lifelong connections. And it starts with clarity. Michelle says you have to be clear on your intent. What do you want people to think of when they think about you? What impression do you want to leave your next date with or the people you interview with for your next job or promotion? Get clear on that first. Then move on to confidence. Confidence is one of the most persuasive traits you can possess. But what comes first - the experiences to give you confidence or the feeling of confidence? Although it's a little like the chicken vs. the egg dilemma, Michelle says you can authentically fake it til you make it! While that sounds contradictory, it's simply means to really find the authenticity in the acting as if part of the equation. So authentically act as if you are confident and eventually you will be. The final piece of the puzzle is connection. Authenticity and likability are obviously important aspects of connection. Have you ever spoken with someone in a seemingly real way only to come away from the conversation realizing they had a mask on? That doesn't create a bond, and there's no foundation for a future relationship if the other person never lets you see the real them. In other words, be authentic. If you aren't sure if you are authentic with others you'll have to spend some time reflecting on this. A great way to reevaluate a conversation or experience later is to ask yourself if you said or did anything just to make the other person happy or comfortable. If you did, you were being inauthentic. Before beating yourself up about it simply take a look at why you were inauthentic. Were you concerned with looking good or were you caught up in your own discomfort? Find out why and then figure out what you can do next time to be real and be yourself. Then go out and do it. Another great way to be more authentic is to get uncomfortable! Michelle recommends doing so in baby steps and creating small wins for yourself. If you aren't a super social person the next time you go out make small talk with one person. Sure it will feel uncomfortable and maybe even awkward but you are stretching yourself and learning more about who you really are. Michelle recommends doing a new, uncomfortable activity like this 10 times and reflecting on it after each experience. If you still hate doing it after 10 tries you can stop and try something else. On this episode Michelle and I also discuss her 3 words exercise and how to apply it to your life for more likability, as well as how to maintain relationships once they're started. Listen in for her golden nuggets of wisdom today and we'll see you next time on The Art of Charm! THANKS, MICHELLE LEDERMAN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Michelle know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Michelle on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Michelle Lederman's website Michelle on Twitter11 Laws of Likability, by Michelle Lederman Heroes Get Hired, by Michelle Lederman The Art of Charm bootcamps Also sponsored by: Click Here to Support The Show at our sponsor Lynda.com! You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. 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Learn from someone who is great at something they shouldn't be great at. "You don't need to be superhuman to get superhuman results." -Tim Ferriss The Cheat Sheet: The two language hacks Tim recommends. What's the exercise he'd do if he could do only one for the rest of his life? His recommendations for how and why to fast. What is fear setting and how can you apply it to your life? What are saccadic movements? And so much more... Tim Ferriss is a man known around the globe for experimenting and discovering the best, fastest and most effective ways to learn something. Whether it's spending a week to learn to play drums for Foreigner live in concert or speaking Tagalong fluently during a Filipino interview, Tim has done it. On today's episode we talk about meta learning for language and other skills, what happened to his TV show, and his unique take on goals and risk. Listen in for all of that and more on this bonus edition of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out Host Gator! More About This Show: If you've followed Tim Ferriss for any length of time you know he's man of experimentation and meta learning. In fact the title of his blog is Experiments in Lifestyle Design, completely appropriate for what he shares with the world. On today's episode Tim and I talk about language hacks (and how they apply to other areas of life), the details of his current fasting regimen, the status of his TV show and his views on goal setting, risk and what he wishes every single adult would do at least once in their lifetime. When it comes to goal setting Tim uses an approach he calls fear setting. He does this at least every 8 weeks, and any time he feels overwhelmed or anxious about a decision he has to make. And his process, of course, is quite simple. First he takes a physical piece of paper, lays it down landscape style and then he creates three columns. In the column on the far left he makes a list of every possible thing that could go wrong if he does whatever he's considering doing. He is very specific and writes down every single thing he can think of. In the middle column he writes down everything he can do to mitigate the items in the far left column. And then in the last column he makes a list of everything he can do to get back to where he is right now, if all the breakdowns from the far left column actually happen. With that information he makes an informed and calculated decision that minimizes his risk, because as he puts it, risk is "an irreversible negative outcome". Continuing from there we also discuss two of his favorite skills he's learned: swimming and speed reading. He once thought learning to swim was an impossible thing for him because he was into his 30s before he tried it. Once he had conquered the skill, he began to ask himself "What else once have I assumed is impossible?". The other skill we discuss is speed reading. Tim also gives us a tip to double our reading speed and increase comprehension at the same time. As you might expect it's a super simple trick that you can do as soon as you listen. Tune in for that and then join me in thanking Tim for sharing his masterful meta learning techniques on today's episode. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm! THANKS, TIM FERRISS! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Tim know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Tim on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Tim Ferriss' blog Tim on TwitterInulin: why and how Tim uses it BaobabTim Ferriss horseback archery videoThe Tim Ferriss Experiment: bonus footageThe Tim Ferriss Experiment on iTunesThe Art of Charm bootcamps   Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!  If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

You don't have to reinvent yourself to do something new. "No one cares about how much you know til you show them you care." -Omar Zenhom The Cheat Sheet: How to frame failure in a productive way. Should you forget your past skills when starting a new venture? How do you know if you have a legit business concept? Why comparing yourself to others is just a distraction. How to craft your elevator pitch for maximum impact. And so much more... Do you think you're too old to start something new? Or perhaps you think every great business idea has already been done and you're just too late to market. Not so says our guest on today's show. Omar Zenhom is the leader and face of The $100 MBA. On this episode we talk about why is "late start" and lack of business knowledge was actually an asset in starting his company, The $100 MBA. Listen in for all of that and more on this bonus edition of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out HostGator! More About This Show: Omar Zenhom is a teacher through and through. He worked in the education field as an ESL teacher (English as a Second Language) and he spent 10 years living and teaching ESL in Dubai. But throughout his teaching career he was always interested in entrepreneurship. If he wasn't reading about it, he was hustling on the side to see what business would work and testing his mettle to see if he had what it takes to be a full-time entrepreneur. It wasn't until fairly recently that he made the leap into entrepreneurship with The $100 MBA company. The brand began back in 2013 and his podcast was launched in the fall of 2014. Today it stands as one of the top-rated podcasts in all of iTunes. On this episode we talk about his "late entry" into podcasting, how his lack of business experience became an asset and why it's never too late to go after what you want in business or in life in general. When Omar began his podcast he knew he had to differentiate himself from the rest of the crowd. But instead of reinventing himself he leaned on his background and his knowledge: teaching. He and his fiance Nicole spent two months brainstorming, planning and organizing before the launch of The $100 MBA. One of the most important he makes is they planned for the long haul. They weren't looking at this as a short-term gain but a long-term legacy and that's what made them so successful. Another important aspect of their success is their strategy for connecting and providing for their audience. If you're wondering what to give your audience Omar has some questions you can ask yourself such as "How can I delight people?" "If this were my mom (or other loved one) how would I be giving to him or her?" And then create your content and your marketing strategy based on that. As Omar points out no one cares about what you know (or are providing) until they know how much you care. When you come from that mindset - whether it's in business or other relationships - you have a greater chance of creating real, genuine relationships that benefit everyone. We also discuss how to set your own level of achievement and how to know what to focus on first when starting a business. Big thanks to Omar for sharing his experiences on those topics and thanks to you for being here. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm! THANKS OMAR ZENHOM! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Omar know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Omar on Twitter! Resources from this episode: The $100 MBA web siteThe $100 MBA podcast Webinar Ninja, Omar's program for webinars Omar on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING.  Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

We can induce creativity, innovation and genius from our minds. "We are a vast magma of instincts and emotions with a thin veneer of civilization on top." -Olivia Fox Cabane The Cheat Sheet: What is a metaphorical insight and how can you use it? The Thin Air Myth: what is it and why is it a myth? What James Watt and Phineas Gage have taught us about the brain. This is one of the biggest blocks to your genius ideas: what is it? What high performance athletes do differently than other athletes. And so much more... Have you ever had a eureka moment? A split second flash of genius? Whether you have or not, there's now a way to create that experience on demand. And here to tell us more is Olivia Fox Cabane. Olivia is the author of The Charisma Myth and joins us to discuss the fascinating science of creativity and genius on today's show. Listen in for all of that and more on episode 395 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out Host Gator! More About This Show: Olivia Fox Cabane is known as an expert on behavioral science, and applying it to everyday life to become more productive, more effective and create more breakthroughs. Currently she is the Director of Innovation at Stanford's StartX program and has two additional books about to be published. On today's show we discuss why breakthroughs are not accidental, what we've learned about the neuroscience behind epiphanies as well as ways you can realize more of your mind's insights and genius ideas. One of the most fascinating topics we dive is the different modes of the brain. The default mode network is your brain's network composed of 10-13 different areas that are responsible for the creative, innovation and genius. Another mode your brain has is executive mode. Executive mode is just what it sounds like: that part of your brain that makes decisions, executes and puts plans into actions. But here's the kicker: only one part of your brain can be in charge at a time. So if your executive mode is always on your default mode network (or DMN) cannot be running the show. That means if you are constantly engaging your decision-making mind and are in executive mode, your genius ideas have no way to come through. Turning off executive mode is simple: do repetitive tasks that are basically mindless. Like showering or washing the dishes or driving: these are things you already do the executive mode of your brain doesn't need to be engaged in for you to complete them. And that means your DMN can kick in. You can do what high caliber professional athletes do and create little rituals to tell your brain it's time to ramp up or ramp down. Think of baseball players and their rituals: some brush off their shoes in the batter's box and then tap home plate between pitches. They are telling their brains to power on into high performance mode, and slow down. On this episode Olivia and I also discuss the roles uncertainty and shame play in our creative capacities, what we can do to overcome our innate fear of both and why choice minimal lifestyle can be so liberating and freeing for our DMN! You'll want to give this one your full attention, enjoy. THANKS, OLIVIA FOX CABANE! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Olivia know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out on Facebook: Click here to thank Olivia on Facebook! Resources from this episode: Olivia Fox Cabane's websiteThe Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane Olivia on Facebook The Art of Charm bootcamps Try Squarespace (Free) and Support Our Supporters! Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

You can control what happens in your life. "We forget we have the power to control what happens in between stressful times. " -Kristen Brown The Cheat Sheet: Do successful people simply handle stress better? The origins of fight or flight and why that response is still with us today. What's the best natural anti-depressant and how can you produce it? What are the earliest signs of stress? What is Kristen's #1 productivity tip? And so much more... Stress is something we all have, it's simply part of being alive today. But how we handle the times between stressful moments has a direct impact on how we cope with the actual stressors in life. Kristen Brown, creator and author of The Happy Hour Effect joins us to talk about how making ourselves happy in between stressful experiences can help us cope with stress easier and lead to healthier, more productive lives. Listen in for all of that and more on episode 395 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out Host Gator! More About This Show: Kristen Brown didn't simply wake up one morning and decide to create and write The Happy Hour Effect. No, life handed her one of the most stressful and heart-wrenching experiences possible: her young, fit and seemingly healthy husband died. He was 31 and had just been given a clean bill of health by his doctor. Needless to say Kristen's life went into a tailspin. She was being forced to raise their 10-month old baby by herself, in addition to her very stressful corporate job. Now facing single motherhood, Kristen was adding stress on top of stress. Her corporate job, which she had always loved, soon became a source of frustration rather than the solid rock it had always been for her. With time she realized she had control of what was going to happen next. And she knew she could either be swallowed up widowhood or she could face life head on. She chose the latter. Today she shares how handling stress of any kind or magnitude impacts us in every way, and how we live our lives during non-stressful crisis times also impacts our capacity to cope with stress. We also discuss the five elements of the happy hour effect, the two traps we routinely fall into and what GOALSS stands for. The five elements of the happy hour effect are: People: surround yourself with the right people who will lift you higher, not people who will bring you down. Presence: check in with yourself and examine how you are engaging in your own life right now. What is your mood, what are your behaviors and are they helping the situation or environment? Passion: Routines are good to help us avoid stress but we also need to stretch ourselves and build in passion. Productivity: This is about making progress on the right goals for the right reasons so you impact others' lives. Peace: You know stress is inevitable, but you also know you control the times in between the stressful events. This is also about how to you create the right routines and processes to make you feel in control, even when life gets hard. Another aspect of the happy hour effect we discuss is the acronym goalss. Kristen created this acronym to help people create goals they set and actually achieved, not lofty goals way beyond their current lives. Goalss stands for: G for gut check. Does it feel right in your gut? If it does, go for it. If not, reconsider and revise your goal. O for obtainable. Be sure you can obtain your goals with what you're doing right now. A for actionable. You should be able to take an action on any goal right now. L for life-oriented. If you want to quit a bad habit but that habit helps you cope with the major stress in your life, deal with the stress first and then quit the bad habit. S for supported. It's important to keep people around you who support you and lift you up. S for small steps. Taking small steps is easier than taking giant leaps, and you're far more likely to make progress with small steps. On today's show Kristen and I also discuss the difference between being reactive and proactive, as well as her smartest tips on productivity. We chat about those topics and more, so listen in to hear it all. THANKS KRISTEN BROWN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Kristen know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Kristen on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Kristen Brown's web siteThe Happy Hour Effect, by Kristen Brown Kristen on TwitterKristen on LinkedIn The Art of Charm bootcamps Click Here to Support The Show at our sponsor 99 Designs! Also sponsored by: You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

What matters most is why you do what you do. Simon Sinek, best-selling author and visionary, joins us to talk about how to start with why and how to be a leader on episode 392 of The Art of Charm. The Cheat Sheet: What are the three levels our brain processes information? When we take work we love, we eventually make more money: true? What is shareholder supremacy and why doesn't it work? What was the Glass-Steagall Act? Can you still be a leader if you are not the boss? And so much more… Far too many of us go to jobs we don't love today. Have you ever wondered if there's a cost to doing so? Or if there really is a way to enjoy, even love, the work we do every day? Our guest for today's show says yes to both questions. Simon Sinek, best-selling author, visionary and speaker, joins us to talk about how to start with why, how to be a leader no matter your title, and how to find fulfillment in every area of your life.   Simon Sinek is one of today's foremost thought leaders and visionaries; his personal reason for doing what he does is to inspire others to do what inspires them. On today's show he shares the missing piece of starting with why, the massive impact it has on your family and loved ones if you are unhappy in your work and how you can be a leader regardless of your position. If you ask someone why they do what they do, they probably won't have an answer. Simon says most of us know what we do and how we do it, but not why. The why is the missing piece of the puzzle. And it's that why that is so key to living an inspired and inspiring life. If we come home from our job and complain about it every day it not only makes us feel terrible and those around us, but it sets an example for our kids. We're showing our children that work has to be something that is endured and makes us miserable, rather than something that brings us joy, fulfillment, and purpose. But we can change all of that. If we run a business we can become a leader, and not just a boss. We can carefully select our new hires to be sure they are a fit for our company. And we can put our current employees first who will then put our customers first which will then lead to an increase in profits and growth in our company. If we aren't the CEO or a manager in our current company, we can still be leaders. We can start flexing this muscle in little ways by holding the elevator door for someone, and making a new pot of coffee if we drink the last cup. As leaders we choose to be responsible for the people around us and for their fulfillment and their growth, not just our own. Simon and I also talk about why a leadership buddy is so important, why most companies' hierarchy is so illogical, and why the economic decisions of the '80s and '90s are still having an impact on us today. Simon shared on those topics and more, so listen in to hear it all. THANKS, SIMON SINEK! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Simon know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out at Twitter: Click here to thank Simon at Twitter!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

A private investigator's life isn't like what we see on TV. "No fraud can survive real due diligence." -Steve Rambam The Cheat Sheet: Prime bank guarantee fraud: what is it and how does it work? Why is the US a "garden of eden" for bad guys in general? How his TV show, Nowhere to Hide, came to be. Why his business doubled within 2 years following a bogus arrest. Are there scam lists and are you on one? And so much more... Have you ever wondered what the real life of a private investigator is like? Is it as exciting as it's made out to be on TV shows, movies and in books? Or do they just sit behind a desk, pushing papers and pens around? Today's guest is here to let us in on the reality of a real-life private investigator. Steve Rambam has been a PI for nearly 30 years, is the head of Pallorium, an agency of licensed investigators and has his own TV show called Nowhere to Hide. We talk about all of that and more on episode 391 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show at our sponsor Lynda.com! More About This Show: Thirty years ago Steve got a call from a friend called. His friend promised Steve free beer if he'd to come to Texas and help catch some thieves who were stealing farming equipment. Steve agreed and shortly after found himself the proud bearer of a Texas state private investigator and security company license. Today Steve holds licenses in several states, as well as permits to work in other countries. He's the head of Pallorium and the man behind the TV show, Nowhere to Hide. Today we talk about some of his most interesting investigations, the two types of people who get taken in by a con artist and a few simple ways he recommends to protect yourself and avoid being taken advantage of. There are two types of victims who fall prey to a fraudster and his tricks: either the innocent ones or the ones with a bit of hustler in them themselves. The innocent people are the ones who fall for the affinity fraud: these are the people who give money to their pastor for a new church, only to find out the new church is really his new vacation home. Or the people who give to someone in their close-knit community. They assume the person can be trusted because he is part of their community. The hustlers who get taken in fraud cases are the people who think they're getting in on some kind of secret. They're being given inside info that no one else is privy to and love that fact. You often see CEOs or high-level execs, and other movers and shakers get taken in by these schemes. If you want to avoid being conned there are a few simple things to remember: no fraud can survive true due diligence. If you really do your homework you'll eventually spot a fraud. And if you hire someone either to help you investigate an opportunity or pursue a fraudster, make sure you do your homework on that person. Investigators, lawyers, and counselors all must be licensed so check on the status of your person's licensing. Steve also shares some incredible stories, including some you won't see on his TV show. Listen in and they'll help you avoid cams. Then join us in thanking Steve for his wisdom on this incredibly important topic. And special thanks to you for being here! See you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS STEVE RAMBAM! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Steve know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Steve on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Steve Rambam's web sitePallorium, Steve's company Steve's talk at The Next Hope: Privacy Is Dead Steve on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!  If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

We are always marketing ourselves whether we know it or not. "You can't get rabid fans without rabid detractors." -Scott Stratten The Cheat Sheet: How he uses his appearance to his advantage. What can you learn from his speech at The Venetian? Scott debunks the myths of social media. How did his jackass whisper statement become his mantra? What two things will he never talk about and why? And so much more... If someone has ever made a negative personal comment directed at you you know how hard it is to brush it off. Our guest for today has learned firsthand how to let go of detractors and focus on the people who support him. Scott Stratten has been named one of the key influencers in the world. He's also the head honcho of Unmarketing, author of several books including one by that same name and is an international keynote speaker. We talk about what "unmarketing" is, why it stirred up so many naysayers and how he's dealt with them (and more) on episode 389 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! Today's show is also brought to you by Casper, Get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper and using promo code AOC! More About This Show: If you saw Scott Stratten on the street you might mistake him for a homeless man; he's well-bearded with long hair, tattoos and usually wears jeans and a tee. But that appearance misleads many folks; Scott is a famous author, keynote speaker and entrepreneur who made his biggest splash with his Unmarketing brand. Today we talk about what that term unmarketing means, the commotion it stirred up (and continues to stir up), why he welcomes thoughtful debates and ignores trolls, and how important it is to create connections and build networks in every area of your life. Unmarketing simply means to stop marketing, start connecting and engaging. It's the idea that we become experts, position ourselves as such in front of our target markets so they chose us when the time comes. It is NOT the traditional means of marketing: splashing your goods and services in front of anyone with no regard for whether or not they're part of your target market. Unmarketing doesn't just apply to entrepreneurs and business owners though, it applies to all of us. Scott says we are all marketing and creating our own branding whether we know it or not. All of us are never not under review in any area of our lives from work to our relationships. Keeping with that idea he's been able to separate the critics from the trolls, and his advice applies for all of us. First and foremost he believes legit criticism is needed, and you'll know it's legit because it's not personal. The minute it becomes personal don't engage. Second, our job is never to convince others not to hate you; doing so simply drains your energy and your strength, don't waste your time on those people. He also gives a great example of how he dug his well before he was thirsty, and shares how that ties into unmarketing. We talk about the myths of social media, and much more! Thanks to Scott for sharing his wisdom and special thanks to you for being here! We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS SCOTT STRATTEN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Scott know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Scott on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Scott Stratten's web siteUnpodcast, Scott's podcastUnmarketing, Scott Stratten's book Scott Stratten on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING.  Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

How you successfully create a habit may not work for someone else, and vice versa. "Habits are a good servant and a bad master." -Gretchen Rubin The Cheat Sheet: Why does the habit of making your bed matter? Is there a link between happiness and minimalism? What's the biggest myth of all according to Gretchen? What's the strategy of other people and why is it so crucial? How to know if you are an abstainer or a moderator. And so much more... If you've tried to change habits in the past but haven't succeeded you'll want to hear what today's guest has to say on the matter. Gretchen Rubin is the three-time best-selling author who has made a study of happiness and habits. We talk about her books, including her book Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Everyday Life, and the finer points of habit-formation and happiness on episode 387 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! More About This Show: Invariably Gretchen Rubin finds herself discussing habits with the people she meets, it's one of her favorite subjects. On today's episode you'll hear simple and effective habits to help you create a calmer, more orderly home. You'll also hear the strategy of the treat and loopholes we sometimes use to justify breaking a good habit. A simple and effective way to create a calmer, more orderly home is to use the one-minute rule: if it takes a minute or less, do it right away! When you get home, put your jacket away instead of dropping it wherever it lands. Your home will feel orderly and so will your mind. When it comes to forming everyday habits one effective strategy she recommends is the strategy of the treat. Choose a treat that's good for you and healthy and adds to your life, like buying new music every week if you're a music lover or lighting candles in your home. The treat needs to be something you do for yourself consistently, think of it as a way to refortify and take care of yourself rather than a reward you have to obtain. If you are taking care of yourself and staying restored you will be more likely to maintain other healthy habits because good treats bolster your will power and self-discipline. Gretchen also highlights a few of the loopholes we use to get out of "being good", these are rationalizations we make in the moment to break a healthy habit. There are over twenty she talks about in her book, Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Life, but one we discuss today is the self-actualization loophole. This is where the rationalization that it's ok to have this piece of cake because we need to enjoy life or we tell ourselves "you only live once". If you're using that train of the thought ask yourself how you'll feel about your decision later: will you feel good or will you not even remember that piece of cake? If you'll feel good and it will create a positive memory for you, then go for it. If it won't, then don't do it. We also talk about how to frame your treats, why we can't always create habits (even the fun ones!) and the power of accountability in creating last change. Thanks to Gretchen for sharing her wisdom and special thanks to you for being here! We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS GRETCHEN RUBIN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Gretchen know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Gretchen on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Gretchen Rubin's websiteThe Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin Happier at Home, by Gretchen Rubin Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Life, by Gretchen Rubin Gretchen Rubin on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!   If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there.   Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm   Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher   FEEDBACK + PROMOTION   Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING.   Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177   Stay Charming!

If we change one thing we change everything. "No one gets left behind but not everyone chooses to come with you." -Geoff Thompson The Cheat Sheet: Where do all fears exist? How did writing down all of his fears make a difference? Why he forgave the man who abused him. Why does certainty matter so much? What Buckminster Fuller can teach you about success. And so much more... If you knew all your fears only existed as a result of your belief in them what would you do differently? Would you actually write down every single one of them from smallest to greatest and then face them? That's exactly what our guest for today's show did and it completely altered the course of his life. Geoff Thompson, BAFTA-winning film writer and author of 40 books including his autobiography Watch My Back is here to talk about fear, creating your own reality and so much more on episode 388 of The Art of Charm. Today's show is brought to you by Casper, Get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper and using promo code AOC! More About This Show: Geoff Thompson comes from humble origins; he grew up in a working class family and had working class friends and loved ones for most of his adult life. By the age of 32 he was working in factory and was in a deep depression. He knew he was meant for more but every time he tried to rise up his fears got the best of him and he could not overcome them. Deciding it was time to do something about that, Geoff made a list of everything he was afraid of from smallest to greatest fear. And then he systematically confronted each one. On today's episode he talks about what some of these experiences were like including why physical violence was at the top of the list and how he overcame the naysayers who surrounded him. When Geoff was only 11 years old he was sexually abused by a teacher in his community, someone he admired and respected greatly. When no one helped him deal with the experience, not his church and not his parents, he internalized the abandonment he felt and allowed the experience to "possess" him. The abuse he received became the reason he built himself into a fighting machine. He took away anything about himself that could be construed as attractive and made it ugly; he believed the world could not be trusted and everything around him soon reinforced that belief. Eventually Geoff saw he had to let go of all of the story he had created in order to build a new life. And letting go of it happened as a result of writing it down. His autobiography, Watch My Back, tells of his childhood including the abuse, his early adult years and how he shifted from a working class bloke in a bad neighborhood, in a bad marriage to a fulfilled, evolved and transformed, award-winning writer. We cover so much on this show but one of the main stories to listen to is how Geoff received his BAFTA. One of the principles he's learned and now teaches others is to give without conditions. What you give to the world will come back to you, often not from the same place you give it but it does come back. The story of how he wrote the film that later won a BAFTA is a perfect example of this. You'll also want to hear Geoff's perspective on dealing with negative people in your life. After he published his first book his friends and loved ones were calling him pretentious and telling him not to get above himself. How he rebuilt his life and let go of naysayers is a powerful lesson and Geoff's wisdom will resonate with you. Thanks to Geoff for speaking so candidly and with such grace on today's show. Extra thanks to you for being here! We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS GEOFF THOMPSON! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Geoff know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Geoff on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Geoff Thompson's web site Watch My Back, by Geoff Thompson Geoff Thompson on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out 99 Designs! You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!   If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there.   Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm   Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher   FEEDBACK + PROMOTION   Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING.   Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177   Stay Charming!

Curiosity is important at any age. "There is something interesting about every person you interact with." -Chris Taylor The Cheat Sheet: What is a squiggly career and why is it a good thing? If it ain't broke don't fix it: should you follow this old adage? What is the Stockdale Paradox and why is it so important to success? How to be selfish in a conversation, in a good way. The one question to ask to cut through all the BS and get you to your end result. And so much more... (video) Have you stopped to consider why you make the choices you make in life? Are they simply a matter of programming and societal influence, or do they come from your personal values? Here to explore those topics (and more) is Chris Taylor. Chris is the founder of Actionable Books and the author of Beyond the Picket Fence. He joins us to talk about the three types of choices, including deliberate choice, and the true ROI of curiosity (if there is any). We delve into a few other subjects too on episode 385 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! (Direct Download) More About This Show: Over 6.5 years ago Chris founded Actionable Books, a web site with free summaries of books in the business, personal development and growth industries. Every month they publish 20 summaries of books and give that information away to the public, at no cost. Chris explains how he's created this as a business model and made a healthy living, as well as the role curiosity plays in success. He believes there is an ROI on curiosity and it should be explored while being coupled with drive and focus. When we explore unrelated areas of life, we often find breakthroughs and new insights we would never have found otherwise. But if we're always curious how do we balance that with enjoying where we're at in life and still maintain our drive to move forward? This is a fascinating question Chris sheds light on. There are three types of choices in life: unconscious, conscious and deliberate. The first, unconscious choice, is the type of choice we make that we don't even realize is a choice. We sign up for college because that's just what we do after finishing high school. Or we work 80 hours at our job because that's the way it's done. We don't think or explore another way of doing something, it's doesn't even occur to us that it is a choice that can be done in another way. The second is conscious choice. This is the type of choice where we do something because it's what is expected of us by society. We choose to work more hours because we want a certain type of car or we need to buy a house in a certain neighborhood; it's what we're expected to do so we make choices to make it happen. The third and final type of choice is deliberate choice. This is the topic of his book Beyond the Picket Fence and it's the type of choice we make based on our values and what's important to us in our lives. With these choices we are in tune with our values and how we want to live, how we want to spend our days. These choices are where we can balance enjoyment, contentedness with ambition and drive. With the deliberate choice we connect with what matters to us and chose from that space. Chris and I also talk about how to lean in and make a conversation great, how to find that special something in every person we talk to and how to ask for what you want in such a way that you get what you want, they get what they want AND they get something they didn't even know they wanted. Special thanks to Chris for making the deliberate choice to be here and thanks to you as well! We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS CHRIS TAYLOR! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Chris know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Chris on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Actionable Books' web siteActionable WorkshopsBeyond the Picket Fence, Chris' first bookThe 21st Century Workplace Podcast, Chris' podcast Chris Taylor on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

Your passion will drive you. "You are the creator of your reality." -Nick Onken The Cheat Sheet: Nick shares how to find your why. Is there a formula to creating your vision? Why no idea is actually new, and why that's okay. Being successful all comes down to what? What's been the trigger for the biggest growth in his career? And so much more... Getting paid to do what you love is something all of us have dreamed of at some point in our lives. But why do some achieve that goal and others don't? And why do some artists have phenomenal careers and others never really take off? Nick Onken joins the show to share his thoughts and experiences on those very subjects. Nick is a world-renowned photographer who works with people like Jessica Alba and Usher. He shares the lessons he's learned about turning passion into profit on this episode of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: If you're passionate about something and want to create a business and an income from it would you be willing to invest 5 or 6 years to get there? That's what Nick Onken did and today he's a famous photographer working with the likes of Usher, Justin Bieber and Coca-Cola. But it did take him years to get where he is today. Over the last few years he worked as a freelance graphic designer and spent his days creating visual graphics for others. In his free time he perfected his photography skills, all the while keeping his eye on the prize of making a living with his art. On today's show he talks about how to find your passionate why, how to translate that into a vision of a business and some of the most valuable lessons he's learned on his rise to the top. Nick and I cover several subjects but two we'll highlight here are the importance of your inner circle (the people you spend the most time with) and raising your inner game. Who you hang out with, your inner circle, is one of the most influential factors in where you will go in life. If you have the right people in your life, people who are where you want to be, you will stay on track no matter what it takes. Surround yourself with people who inspire you and people you can add value to and inspire as well. Nick reiterates this on the show because it was an important factor for him. He also touches on the topic of raising your inner game or emotional IQ. In the 5-6 years it took him to build his business Nick found that he had a lot of self-criticism and self-doubt he had to face. And it was only by becoming aware of his own thoughts that he could do so. Everyone, Nick included, who has been successful has had these same thoughts and limiting beliefs, they've simply faced them and pushed through them. It's a normal part of doing something outside of your comfort zone, but you can get through it. Nick also talks about what separates those who succeed from those who don't, how to find your why, your vision and turn your passion into profit. Special thanks to Nick for being here, and thanks to you as well. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS NICK ONKEN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Nick know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Nick on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Nick Onken's web siteSHOPTalk, Nick's podcast Nick Onken on TwitterNick Onken on Instagram The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

If you have options and resources negotiation is easier. "In the land of the blind the one-eyed man is king." -Sam Cook The Cheat Sheet: Why there's no such thing as a safe and secure job. What's the hardest part of negotiation? He who cares the least ____. Sam fills in the blank. What does Sam say is the secret to life? How he doubled his team's productivity. And so much more... Our guest for today's show has negotiated with some of the most militant insurgencies in the world, and some of the most dangerous members of those groups. Sam Cook is a former officer in the US Army who spent 13 years serving, including two tours in Iraq. He joins us to share how negotiation skills helped him when dealing with opposing forces. All of that and so much more on this episode of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! More About This Show: Sam Cook spent 13 years in the armed forces, but when he was just 7 years away from retirement age he left. He knew he had been passionate and dedicated to his service for those previous years, but he wasn't feeling the same way about the next 7. Sam had always turned to digital content and web sites throughout his career so it made sense to go into that arena as a civilian. As the head of Prism Communications today he is on a mission to help experts with powerful messages get those messages out into the world. His key to success is using the networking and negotiating skills that served him so well throughout his military career and brings them into the business world. Today we talk about the tactics and strategies of negotiating and networking as he's learned them, whether in a hostile environment or simply a business deal. One of the most important skills he says is to always be networking. It's something we discuss at length here at The AOC and Sam reiterates this belief. People skills and soft skills helped him fight insurgencies in Iraq and they'll help you whether you're asking for a raise, negotiating a buyout or building a network to advance your career. A powerful perspective Sam recommends is to put yourself in the other person's shoes. When you're talking to them be sure they know you understand their position and where they are coming from. By doing so you're showing empathy and respect which will go a long way towards creating a solution. He also says it helps to keep things in perspective. In your negotiations no one is going to die, most likely you're just talking about money. In the grand scheme of things it isn't that big of a deal since no one's life is on the line. So keep that in mind. Remember you have options and you have other resources, these two things combined are one of the most potent combinations you can have in your corner when negotiating. And you'll have options and resources because you've continued to build your network. Spend the money to meet people face to face, it's completely worth it. Sam has done this in his business and he knows people value the relationship they have with him because they've met in person. In fact, his team's productivity doubles every time he meets with them! In today's digital age face to face has become a novelty so set yourself apart from everyone else and break bread with people, it'll go a long way towards creating lasting, powerful relationships and partnerships in your professional career. Sam also shares some tips on taking your emotions out of the negotiation and some fascinating stories from his negotiations with insurgents. Special thanks to Sam for being here, and thanks to you as well. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS SAM COOK! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Sam know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Sam on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Sam Cook's web site Sam Cook on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there.   FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

Female sexuality is quite different than male sexuality. "For a woman to turn on parts of her brain need to turn off." -Ian Kerner The Cheat Sheet: Sexual attention deficit disorder: what is it and how does it relate to porn? Is Ian in favor of or against pornography? What is IELT and why does it matter? How often should couples have sex? What is the sex pyramid? And so much more... When it comes to sex do men think about it more than women - or is that just a myth? And if you're in a relationship how often should you be doing it, how often is healthy? These are just a few of the questions we answer on today's show. Joining us is sex and relationship expert and the best-selling author of several books including She Comes First, Ian Kerner. We talk about all of that and more on episode 382 of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: Sex is a crucial aspect of a romantic relationship, yet it's one of those areas most couples (and singles) don't have the vocabulary to talk about. Ian Kerner is a man on a mission to change that and he's written several New York Times best-selling books to do so, as well as work with clients in his private practice as a licensed marriage and family therapist. One of the first things we discuss today is the fact that male and female sexuality are different, despite the fact that our culture treats them the same. A guy typically only needs one sexual cue to get turned on. However a woman often needs multiple cues and her arousal is much more context-oriented. What that means is a woman often needs a safe, comfortable and secure environment without distractions in order to be fully ready for sex and orgasms. In fact, functional MRI scans have shown that certain parts of a woman's brain actually dim during arousal, the parts associated with stress, anxiety and high emotion. So arousal cues different, but do men really think about sex more than women? Not as much as you might believe. Studies of college students have shown that men only think about sex 17-20 times a day while women think about it around 10 times a day. So yes men think about it more, but not that much more. And once you're in a sexually active relationship, how often should you be doing it? Ian recommends at least once a week to keep the connection there and to keep that sexual chemistry in the air. He also recommends using his sex pyramid to keep a good balance of familiarity and novelty to keep your sexual life healthy. The sex pyramid is grouped into multiple types of sex from romantic love-making to fantasy sex to sensual sex. Ian gives us the full details of how to blend those sex groups on today's show! We also talk about how to use porn in a healthy way, how to deal with premature ejaculation and much more. Listen in and enjoy! Special thanks to Ian for being here, and thanks to you as well. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS IAN KERNER! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Ian know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Ian on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Ian Kerner's web siteShe Comes First, by Ian Kerner 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex, by Ian Kerner Good In Bed Ian Kerner on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there.   FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

An ordinary person can create extraordinary change. "One of the biggest things missing in the non-profit space is the sense of for-profit business acumen." -Adam Braun The Cheat Sheet: How much money did he start Pencils of Promise with? Why must all communities that receive a school contribute 20%? Why non-profits can sometimes have adverse effects. What are the three forms of compensation? Adam shares what to consider when making your next career move. And so much more... Many of us dream about giving back, adding meaning to our lives and making a positive impact in the world. But how many of us do anything with that dream or even think we're still capable of pursuing it? Adam Braun of Pencils of Promise has pursued his passion for education and has now written his book, The Promise of a Pencil, to inspire and show the rest of us it's not too late and that ordinary people can create extraordinary change. Join us as we chat about that topic and more on episode 381 of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: Founding an educational non-profit wasn't always a dream of Adam Braun's. Born in NYC, he moved to the suburbs of Connecticut when he was a small child. His parents always placed a strong emphasis on education and he went to one of the best public schools available. He played basketball while in school and saw the distinct economic gap that existed. Some of his teammates lived in the worst neighborhoods while others lived in large mansions. He was fascinated by this and asked the parents who lived in the mansions what they did for work. The resounding answer: Wall Street. By 13 he was obsessed with getting a job on Wall Street and opened his own trading account. At 16 he spent a summer interning at a hedgefund and at 20 he was exactly where he wanted to be: he was playing collegiate basketball for Brown University, studying economics and on his way to his dream career on Wall Street. All of that changed when he did a program called "Semester at Sea". It's a collegiate program in which students and faculty spend a semester on a cruise ship traveling and exploring 10 different countries. Students and professors and administrators come from over 200 different schools to participate and Adam was one of them. Their first stop was South Korea, but on their way they were caught in a superstorm. Their ship was hit by a rogue 60-foot wave that knocked out their power and navigation system. When the announcement came to get to their muster stations everyone, including the adults on board, believed they were going to die. After a few minutes though, Adam knew he was meant to do more than simply die at sea at the age of 21. A feeling of calm came over him, and soon everyone onboard was safe. They continued their semester at sea and Adam enjoyed the backpacking and exploring of each country. As a project during his travels he asked a child in every country what their dream was. In India one child's answer floored him. The child simply wanted a pencil. When Adam handed him his own pencil the child lit up. That experience was the origin of Pencils of Promise. On today's episode we talk about the steps he took to building his non-profit after that experience, why it's been so wildly successful (people like Lewis Howes and Gary Vaynerchuk sit on the board) and how he wrote The Promise of a Pencil. He also shares how stepping away as the CEO of PoP actually helped the organization to grow and thrive, and he explains how you can apply his same lessons learned to your business. It was a pleasure to have Adam here and to find out the fascinating story behind Pencils of Promise. Listen in, enjoy and then join me in thanking Adam for being here with us. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS ADAM BRAUN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Adam know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Adam on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Pencils of Promise web siteAdam Braun's personal web siteThe Promise of a Pencil, by Adam Braun Email Adam here to raise money for PoP Pencils of Promise on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

Violence is simply a tool. "The best information for survival is going to come from the worst part of society." -Tim Larkin The Cheat Sheet: Why has Tim been banned from the UK? What advice did Tony Robbins give him after going through his training? Why women's and men's perception of violent situations are so different. Why banning weapons does little to stop physical attacks. What did his South Boston grandpa teach him about violence? And so much more... If you were ever in a situation where your life and other lives were in physical jeopardy would you know how to respond? Our guest for today's show believes you would sink to the level of your training, not rise to the occasion of violence. So unless you know how to use violence as a tool, you won't stand a chance. Here to talk about the evidence behind his stance and his book, Survive The Unthinkable, is Tim Larkin. Join us as we chat about this and more on episode 380 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! More About This Show: Tim Larkin has spent 20 years educating others and understanding the role violence plays in various cultures. He has witnessed violence crossing all demographics and acknowledges anyone can be on the receiving end. But what can set us apart and help us to survive the unthinkable is to use violence as a tool. In fact his company motto is violence is really the answer...but when it's the answer it's the only answer. And what he means by this is not to indiscriminately use violence in any scenario but to know that you will know when violence is necessary and to use it accordingly. Violence is a tool and a tool we have used to survive since humans first walked the planet. We used it to fend off attacks from animals and to protect ourselves, and we did it very well because we're still here today. Tim goes on to say criminals will use violence as a tool to get what they want, and we have to do the same to protect ourselves just like our ancestors did. With his trainings and in his book Survive The Unthinkable he makes certain we understand what scenarios we don't have to respond to with violence, and he also explains how to survive when we do have to have use violence. In essence he helps us think like violent offenders without becoming one. The best tactics, the best information we can find is going to come from the worst part of the society: the violent offenders. These people see violence as a currency, a way to get results. What's incredibly fascinating is how most of us see violent attacks as good or bad. For example, if a woman is attacked and defends herself by stabbing her attacker in the neck we applaud her and press no charges against her in court: she was after all just defending herself. Now if we reverse the situation and the attacker goes after the same woman and stabs her and kills her, we want him thrown in jail for life (at minimum, perhaps even seeking the death penalty if that's an option). Tim encourages us to look at the situation differently: what was successful in this attack and how can you use that knowledge? Odds are high that if the woman was able to stab and kill her attacker, she struck first. And vice versa. He gives several more examples like this one on this show. We also talk about why MMA and UFC fight moves won't help you, a simple approach to communicating that disarms and diffuses most aggressors and much more. Massive thanks to Tim for his valuable insights on this episode. Thank you for listening and we'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS TIM LARKIN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Tim know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Tim on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Tim Larkin's web siteSurvive The Unthinkable, by Tim Larkin Tim on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!

We must use grand thinking to secure the Internet."We are at the first minutes of the first hours of the first days of this internet revolution." -Marc GoodmanThe Cheat Sheet:What are steganography and script kiddies?How air conditioning led to the Target security breach in 2013.Is hacking becoming more complex or more simplified?What are spoofing and swatting?Why living in a "in screen we trust" culture is so dangerous, and what do to about it.And so much more...Today we live in an era of wi-fi enabled everything, but have you ever considered the consequences of such access? Or what will happen over the next few years as everything goes online from our thermostats to our clothes to our bridges? How vulnerable does that access make us to cyber attacks and what can we do to protect ourselves?Here to share the good, the bad and the ugly on cyber security is Marc Goodman. Marc is the author of Future Crimes: Everything is Connected, Everyone is Vulnerable and What We Can Do About It. We dive into those topics and more on this bonus episode of The Art of Charm.Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit!More About This Show:Whether we're aware of it or not, cyber crime and cyber attacks are becoming increasingly common. Today anyone with Internet access can download an app or software program to hack into your phone or your laptop and do any number of dubious things.Marc Goodman spells out many of those dubious activities and what we can do to guard against them on today's show. As a former member of the LAPD, Marc has witnessed firsthand how far behind law enforcement is in this area. He says local and state level agencies are swamped with non-tech crimes to solve and they're also hampered by budgetary restrictions.While they are doing their best to keep pace with technology's ever-changing landscape, cyber crime continues to grow. Over the next several years even more of our day-to-day lives will be online from our clothes to our televisions to our cars. It may not sound like much until you consider our energy grids are online, our traffic systems are online, our airplane management systems are online. Soon every aspect of our lives will be accessible via the Internet.And we don't have the security to fully protect that information. Do you remember the breach at Target that happened during the 2013 Christmas holiday? It all stemmed from a third-party vendor who had been authorized to manage Target's HVAC systems. Millions of credit cards were breached through an air conditioning system, Marc explains how this happened in greater detail during this show.But it isn't all doom and gloom! Marc believes the Internet advancements will also lift 2 million people out of poverty, help us feed the world and provide clean water for everyone as well as education. So long as we harness these advancements responsibly and learn to protect ourselves.He gives specifics on what we can do on a global scale as well as an individual scale. For ourselves we can implement what he calls UPDATE:U - update frequently.P - passwords. Use a different password for every site and get a reliable password manager (see the resources for suggestions).D - downloads. Watch your downloads and be cautious about what you install.A - administrator. Don't run your computer using the administrator account.T - turn off your computer. If it isn't fully turned off it's still accessible.E - encrypt. There are 2 types: you can encrypt the data on your computer and encrypt the data as it is sent out using a VPN.There's much more Marc tells on this show. He shares some amazing stories and much-needed data so listen in to hear it all. Thanks to Marc for being here and thanks to you as well. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm.THANKS MARC GOODMAN!If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Marc know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter:Click here to thank Marc on Twitter!Resources from this episode:Future Crimes web siteMarc Goodman's web siteMarc on TwitterThe AOC's VPN recommendationPassword protection recommendations: LastPass, 1Password, Dash LaneThe Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like:-The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm PodcastWanna leave a comment? Too bad!  Email me instead (we read everything)!

Learn it, live it and give it. "If you focus on serving others it adds purpose to your life." -Jairek Robbins The Cheat Sheet: What drives most high achievers? What is the archetype of the "do next" person and why should you care? Think winning the lotto will make you happy? Jairek shares a study that says it wouldn't. Can you fall in love with hard work? How does Jairek build his mind set? And so much more... One of the most common struggles we all face is finding our purpose. Even some of the most accomplished people in the world don't have purpose. And our guest for today has met and worked with them. Jairek Robbins joins us to talk about how to find happiness through purpose and discuss his book, Live It. We dive into those topics and more on episode 379 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! More About This Show: Jairek Robbins is no stranger to accomplishments and never has been. In his early 20s he earned a Congressional award gold medal for his achievements as a youth. Today in his coaching business he works with leaders to help them find purpose and happiness. On this episode we talk about why the drive to accomplishment is often based in an unhealthy desire for approval or a need to heal pain felt early in life. He shares stories of people who have had all the money and success anyone could dream of, but they were utterly miserable because they had no purpose. They thought money and success could win them the approval they desired, or heal that hurt from the past. And when it doesn't, they realize something is missing. Jairek helps them find that missing piece and add it to their lives. One of the exercises he suggests we all do is to find out if there's something missing in our lives is to check if our priorities are in alignment with how we spend our time. Jairek walks us through a step by step process to do this and how to get in alignment if we're not. We also talk at length about how to fall in love with hard work. He recounts a story of working as a logger in Canada for several months and the intensity of that experience. There are many valuable lessons he learned from that time including how to retrain our minds to enjoy difficulties. One specific thing he shares is to check your mindset. What is your brain telling you while you're working hard? Is it telling you that you deserve something more than what you've got? Or maybe it says you're smarter than everyone else so why should you have to do this type of work? Or perhaps your mind thinks you deserve more money, more respect, etc. Whatever those thoughts are catch them and become aware of them. When you do that, you can lower your expectations of what you think you deserve from life and raise what you bring to the table. If you really are smarter, then outwork everyone else and prove it! If you deserve more money then prove it! Along the way figure out how to make it fun. Jairek gives some examples from his time as a logger and if he can apply it to logging you can certainly apply it to your life! Jairek gives tons of value on this episode, be sure to listen and soak it all up! Big thanks to him for being here and thanks to all of you for joining us. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS JAIREK ROBBINS! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Jairek know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Jairek on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Jairek Robbins's web site Jairek on TwitterLive It, by Jairek Robbins The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

There is a simple trick to setting and achieving goals. "The thing that we focus on is what we accomplish." -Chalene Johnson The Cheat Sheet: What is the one thing that stops most people from achieving their goals? Why and how to create a fortress around your focus. This trait impacts every area of life: what is it? What's the one question you should ask yourself every day? What's a leghugger and why do you not want to be one? And so much more... All of us have set goals, gotten pumped up to achieve them only for that enthusiasm to fade and those goals to go unreached. Many of us have repeated this pattern over and over again with the same result. What if all along what we've been taught about setting and achieving goals has been wrong? Our guest for today's episode, Chalene Johnson, says there is one key step no one else talks about. Her book Push is about that very subject: the missing yet crucial step to setting and achieve goals. We dive into that and more on this episode of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show at our sponsor Lynda.com! More About This Show: Chalene Johnson is known by many for her success in the fitness world. Despite her humble beginnings in a poor neighborhood in Michigan, she has grown several multi-million dollar empires. She's a self-professed reformed workaholic who now shares the lessons she has learned through her podcast, her online academies and her book, Push. One of those lessons is how to set and achieve goals. Far too often people are setting goals but never reaching them for one reason or another. But Chalene has found the missing ingredient: it's called a push goal. A push goal, which is where the name of her book Push comes from, is that one goal you must achieve that will help you achieve all of your other goals. On this episode she breaks down the five step process, including how to discover your push goal. 1. Set 10 goals. Make these very specific. She recommends you set one goal in each of the following areas of your life: a get smart goal (something you want to learn), a pure joy goal (something that invigorates you and brings you joy), a goal for your romantic/love life, a goal related to family & friends, your spirituality, a goal for your environment (where you hang out like your office), a goal for your purpose/profession, a financial goal, a fitness/nutrition goal, a mental wellness goal. 2. Set another goal: this is your push goal. This is your goal that makes a lot of those other 10 goals possible. This is your PUSH goal, it's the goal that pushes all the other ones into happening. Your push goal will have a domino effect on a majority of your other goals. Set your push goal and ignore the other 10! 3. Brain dump. Get a No. 2 pencil and a piece of paper, and write down every possibility to make your push goal happen. When you have all of that written down, make sure it's all on one piece of paper for your next step. 4. Take a photo of that paper on your phone. And look at that photo every day, then pick 2 things to do every day from your brain dump list. Those 2 things are related to your push goal and should take you less than 10 min a day (generally). 5. Set an automatic reminder. Use your phone to create an app to remind you to decide which 2 things you're going to do today to reach your push goal. A great way to do this is to use the If This Then That web site, it can help you set up automatic reminders that arrive as a text to your phone. This is Chalene's 5-step process to setting and achieving goals, a system she has used herself time and time again with successful results! We also talk about confidence and why she's spending so much time on that one topic this year. Have a listen to hear the full scoop! Thanks to Chalene for her time and her wisdom, and thanks to all of you for joining us. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS CHALENE JOHNSON! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Chalene know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Chalene on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Chalene Johnson's web siteCourageous Confidence Club Chalene Johnson on TwitterPush, by Chalene Johnson If This Then That web site Awesome Note The Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!