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This week Jake & Callan are joined by global leading sexologist and mentor - Juliet Allen. Juliet is well-known for her bold, straight-to-the-point manner and for authentically sharing her own experience as a lover of all things sex, sensuality and business leadership. Juliet empowers men and women to embrace their sexuality & transform their sex and relationships.Juliet is also the host of ‘The Authentic Sex Podcast' where she shares her expertise on sex and relationships, plus facilitates real-life conversations about sex with some of the world's leaders in the field of sexuality and relationships. As a committed mother and a sexually empowered woman, Juliet draws on her background in psychology, sexology, Yoga and Kundalini Tantra.The boys & Juliet chat all things from what lead her into her unique career as a sexologist, her experience with polyamorous relationships and committing to monogamy with her partner Nick Perry who is a long term friend of both Jake & Callan. Better understanding relationships, sex, the curiosities both men & women have about each other and everything in-between. Enjoy the show! To find out more about Juliet's workIG | Juliet_allenThe Juliet Pleasure Wand CollectionJoin Juliet's Pleasure School 

Join sex and relationship coach Juliet Allen as she discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in relationships. Discover what emotional intelligence is and how it can help with effective communication, conflict resolution, building intimacy, and having great sex. Learn practical tips for improving your emotional intelligence and creating safe and nurturing connections in this engaging and informative episode of the Authentic Sex Podcast.

If you're like the hundreds of women who asked questions about this topic, then chances are you too are wondering where on earth your libido has gone, if it will ever come back and what sex really looks like after having babies. So we took it straight to expert, because let's be honest... Luka and Kate are both wondering the same thing!Juliet Allen is a global leading sexologist and mentor, well-known for her bold, straight-to-the-point manner and for authentically sharing her own experience as a lover of all things sex and sensuality. She is also in the depths of the postpartum period herself for the third time, so she really gets it! In this podcast we discussWhether it is normal to have no sex drive after having kids, and if it will ever come backIf we SHOULD be having sex even if we feel touched out or like it is a chore?How to switch off your mum brain so you have a chance of getting in the moodTips for intimacy when co-sleepingHow often people are really having sex and what is normalNavigating pain with intercourse after childbirthand so much more!You can connect with Juliet on Instagram @juliet_allen or her website www.juliet-allen.comYou can also listen to the separation anxiety episode with Lael Stone that Kate mentions HEREToday's episode was brought to you by Stone Kin. If you're yet to buy your partner a valentines day present (or if they're anything like our hubbies and their undies are ancient) then you'll want to check this out! Stone Kin have crafted a range of buttery soft, organic cotton essentials for both men and women - they're so comfortable they feel like you're wearing nothing at all (and look great too!).You can use the code BOOBTOFOOD for 10% of the entire range. Visit stonekin.co to check them out.Follow us on instagram @boobtofood to stay up to date with all the podcast news, recipes and other content that we bring to help make meal times and family life easier.Visit www.boobtofood.com for blogs and resources, to book an appointment with one of our amazing practitioners and more.Presented by Luka McCabe and Kate HolmTo get in touch please email podcast@boobtofood.com

Join sexologist and relationship coach, Juliet Allen, in the latest episode of the Authentic Sex Podcast as she explores a common challenge that many of us face - communicating our sexual needs and desires. Whether it's feeling awkward about asking for what we want or needing to give our partner some guidance, good communication skills are essential for a fulfilling sexual experience. Tune in as Juliet shares her expert tips on confidently expressing your desires in the bedroom, and learn how to spice up your sex life today!

Welcoming Juliet Allen to the table!Juliet is a globally leading sexologist and mentor who draws on her background in psychology, sexology, yoga, and Kundalini Tantra to empower individuals to embrace their sexuality and transform their sex lives and relationships. She initiates the conversation on how to have great sex every day through her online Pleasure School and her own podcast, Authentic Sex.In this intimate conversation, Juliet shares her experience of returning to a heterosexual relationship after a four-year partnership with a woman and how much she missed it. She also discusses how the day she met her baby daddy, Nick, she knew in that moment that he was the one for her. Juliet opens up about the challenges she faced in their relationship when she was ready for a baby and he wasn't quite there yet. She emphasizes how therapy has played a pivotal role in their relationship's success and evolution. She delves into the differences between having babies in your 40s vs your 20s, offers insights on keeping the spark alive through saucy role play, and provides guidance on navigating conflicts in relationships and so much more!Big thank you to our partner at Peaches & Cream for helping us spread the sexy word!Follow Juliet on Instagram hereFollow Finger Food Podcast on Instagram hereFollow Stacey O on Instagram hereFind out more about working with Stacey O here - www.staceyogorman.comI get so inspired by every conversation I have with my community, so if you loved this episode, share it and come say hi on Instagram or email me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Juliet in this week's episode as she explores the topic of Navigating Relationship Conflicts. Drawing on her expertise and personal experience, she provides a comprehensive guide with practical advice to strengthen your connection with your partner. You'll learn how to identify and articulate conflict patterns, the impact of fighting and resentment on your relationship, and the warning signs to look out for. Plus, discover practical advice for when you're in the midst of an argument. Find out how to create ease and connection in your relationship, model healthy conflict resolution skills for your kids, and learn to avoid blaming, shaming, and avoiding. Don't miss this essential discussion on how to navigate relationship conflicts and change up how you deal with things, leading to more love, intimacy, and connection. Tune in now!

If there's anything worth getting up EARLY for, it's to podcast about masturbation! We talk praying to the pussy, share toys we like, and give deets about our own journeys with masturbation. M&M's! This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same to create stronger relationships with ourselves and partners. If more people are talking about it, more people can enjoy it. Things mentioned: Juliet Allen and her pleasure wand Vush clit vibrator (mentioned by Taylor) Shibari vibrator (mentioned by Bonnie - affiliate link) Female body casting artist Lydia Reeves The Vulva Witch photographyWe're looking forward to this being a conversation WITH listeners. Reach out and share your stories, ask questions, correct us when we need it...we want it all. Email hello@bonnieweeks.com.Sign up for Bonnie's poetry prompts HERE Find Taylor on the gram Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website

In this episode of Authentic Sex Juliet invited her friend and conscious career coach Alison Rice back onto the show to talk about a huge array of topics including big business and career moves, long-term relationships, parenting, blow jobs, golden showers (do they turn Juliet and Alison on?), what to do if you're not attracted to your partner, what to do when an ex is abusive, what daily rituals we can do to increase our connection to sensuality ... plus so much more.

What does it mean when we have sex dreams about people other than our current lover/partner?? Is this classified as cheating? How can we keep long-term relationships alive and juicy? We talk about all this and so much more in this episode of Authentic Sex with Juliet Allen and aliveness coach, Tabitha Fennell. This episode covers intimacy as a couple with young children, co-sleeping and sex, the advantages of regular therapy, how to avoid arguments, are soul mates actually a thing?, and what to do when we feel jealous of our partner's friends, mismatched libido ... plus so much more! www.juliet-allen.com

Juliet Allen is a leading global sexologist, sexuality coach and tantra practitioner, and founder of Pleasure School®. Her mission is to connect you to your true sexual essence and passion potential. We are beyond honoured to bring you this authentic, magical conversation around sex, and both empowering and healing yourself sexually. In this conversation with Juliet: – The story of Juliet’s own journey to sacred sexuality, sexual empowerment, and sexology (including her Saturn Return) – The essence of sexual empowerment, and how to define what being a sexually empowered woman really is – The history and conditioning surrounding women being demonised and shamed for expressing their sexuality, and how Juliet liberates her clients – How we can be impacted, and ultimately empowered, by initiation as women – Why our sexual health is such an important key aspect of our overall healing journey, and how we can check in on our sexual vitality – Juliet’s thoughts on why sex is such a taboo topic – The power of our sexual energy as women – Sex magic, and how Juliet has used it as a potent, intentional manifestation tool in her own life – Self-pleasure as a self-care ritual, and how Yinn Body came about – Libido and attraction as markers of both practical health and spiritual/emotional wellness, and why Juliet refers low libido clients to a naturopath (hello, Em!) – Why safety is essential for healthy sex and self-pleasure – Sex as a healing modality; how sex can be therapeutic, and sex as bodywork – Involving a partner in healing, magical sexual practices – How and why Juliet combines tantra and sexology for a holistic approach, and Juliet’s definition of tantric sex – Masculine and feminine approaches to sex, and the sexual poles within male and female bodies – Communicating our sexual needs to a partner – Yoni and womb healing, and Juliet’s thoughts on yoni eggs – Juliet’s top tips for more magical, empowering sex Mentioned in this episode:Jane Hardwicke Collings’ work Work With Juliet:https://www.instagram.com/juliet_allen/https://www.juliet-allen.com/https://pleasureschool.juliet-allen.com/ Join the Witches Being Witches Coven:Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wbwcommunity

Today on The Natural Birth Podcast we have Juliet Allen Juliet a mama of two living in the Northern Rivers NSW Australia. She is Australias leading Sexologist and the host of the Authentic Sex podcast and head teacher at Pleasure School. In this episode we will dive deeply into her conscious conception journey and years of preparation and miscarriages with her partner Nick, as well as her first hospital birth with her daughter and then her more resent beautiful home birth with midwife Libby and her doula. It's not random that women have an empowering birth experience and a nourishing postpartum like Juliet did. It takes planning and prepping body, mind and soul and in this episode Juliet shares it all to my delight! Curious about Juliet? Find her on instagram as @juliet_allen or at www.juliet-allen.com Want to shout Anna a coffee? You can do so on our Patron page: https://www.patreon.com/thenaturalbirthpodcast Join The Maiden, Mother & Maga Village https://www.thenaturalbirthcourse.com/the-village Learn More about THE NATURAL BIRTH COURSE HERE www.thenaturalbirthcourse.com

Use the code “Isabelle” on https://www.onnit.com/ at checkout to support the me and the show. Use this link to try the Nootropic AlphaBrain FREE: https://www.onnit.com/alpha-brain-trial/?https://onnit.sjv.io/c/3223243/973987/5155 Isabelle's Website: https://www.isabellewellman.com/ -- Alia's Instagram (where she hangs out most): @thepleasurepollinator Alia's Patreon (where women can sign up for monthly circles and guided self pleasure): https://www.patreon.com/ThePleasurePollinator Alia's newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61c0d2d214ec6db2d2b53550 Offerings from Layla Martin, my current coach and Pleasure Queen: https://laylamartin.com/programs/ Authentic Sex Podcast with Juliet Allen: https://www.juliet-allen.com/podcast-authentic-sex Pussy by Mama Gena: https://mamagenas.com/books/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/incredibelleconversations/support

Use the code “Isabelle” on https://www.onnit.com/ at checkout to support the me and the show. Use this link to try the Nootropic AlphaBrain FREE: https://www.onnit.com/alpha-brain-trial/?https://onnit.sjv.io/c/3223243/973987/5155 Isabelle's Website: https://www.isabellewellman.com/ -- Alia's Instagram (where she hangs out most): @thepleasurepollinator Alia's Patreon (where women can sign up for monthly circles and guided self pleasure): https://www.patreon.com/ThePleasurePollinator Alia's newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61c0d2d214ec6db2d2b53550 Offerings from Layla Martin, my current coach and Pleasure Queen: https://laylamartin.com/programs/ Authentic Sex Podcast with Juliet Allen: https://www.juliet-allen.com/podcast-authentic-sex Pussy by Mama Gena: https://mamagenas.com/books/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/incredibelleconversations/support

We're keeping the sexual embers alive and burning on the podcast today. Australia's leading sexologist (and SuperFeast's favourite), Juliet Allen, talks to Mason about post-birth sexual desire, how to funnel sexual energy into all areas of your life and filling your cup first so it can overflow with more energy for yourself and others. Almost eight months after the birth of her son, this conversation reveals another blooming layer of Juliet that we've never seen before. She talks very openly about her lib*do, while fully immersed in the role of motherhood, her evolution as a sexologist with such longevity in the industry, and why advocating more time for self is so connected to our sexual vigour. Mason discusses the best herbs and practices for supporting our Jing/Kidney essence and how to maintain long-term sexual vitality well into our old age. Make sure you tune in, you don't want to miss this episode.   "I feel all those things contribute to sexual desire, and that's not just coming from me, but for the hundreds of people with whom I've worked. A lot of the work I do with people when I'm coaching is evaluating their life and going, "Okay, what's working? What's not? How can you get more time to yourself?" or whatever it is. As soon as they get their ducks in a row, become more organised, and start advocating for themselves and what's important again, the lib*do is like BOOM. 'Oh, surprise, surprise. You want to have sex again', every time".   - Juliet Allen     Mason and Juliet Discuss: Sexuality in isolation. Lack of lib*do shaming. Birth and sexual energy. Excessive leaky sexuality. Jing essence within the Kidneys. Self pleasure without ejaculation. Leaking Jing and long-term sexual vitality. The Yin/Yang expression of sexual essence. SuperFeast tonics for sexual essence / lib*do. Why advocating for time to self is so important. Tantra; Choosing with awareness what brings joy. Juliet's postpartum journey with her sexual desire.      Who is Juliet Allen?  Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Tantra practitioner, host of the Authentic Sex podcast, and head teacher at the Pleasure School. Juliet comes from a background in psychology and sexology, is a qualified Yoga Teacher, and is trained as a Kundalini Tantra practitioner. Juliet is a committed mother, passionate entrepreneur, and lover of all-things sex and sensuality. Known for authentically sharing her own experiences as a sexually empowered woman, Juliet is committed to freeing people from mundane and disempowered sexual relationships and opens up the conversation of how to have great sex every day. Now Australia's leading Sexologist, she resides in the hinterland of Northern New South Wales, Australia. Juliet spends her days with her family, making love and swimming in the ocean.   CLICK HERE TO LISTEN ON APPLE PODCAST    Resources: Juliet-Allen.com Juliet Allen podcast Juliet Allen Instagram Yinn Body Instagram Superfeast Deer Antler Superfeast Cordyceps     Q: How Can I Support The SuperFeast Podcast? A: Tell all your friends and family and share online! We'd also love it if you could subscribe and review this podcast on iTunes. Or  check us out on Stitcher :)! Plus  we're on Spotify!   Check Out The Transcript Here:   Mason: (00:00) Hello, Australia's leading sexologist and SuperFeast's favourite sexologist, friend of the show.   Juliet Allen: (00:07) Hi, Mase. Thanks for having me back.   Mason: (00:10) Yeah. I think this is round three, I think, for the SuperFeast Podcast. I think-   Juliet Allen: (00:18) I think so.   Mason: (00:19) Remember the first one you came to that we sat in that spare room of that house I had I think up in Coorabell? That was the first one for the SuperFeast Podcast.   Juliet Allen: (00:30) Yeah, I remember that. That was fun. Yeah. I think it's around three. I was trying to think about that this morning, as to how many we've done now together. It's always fun though, so I'm glad to be back.   Mason: (00:37) Yeah, and I'll never forget the one over on my old podcast, the Mason Taylor Show, masturbation in utero.   Juliet Allen: (00:45) Oh. What a great title.   Mason: (00:46) Yeah. I think that still just randomly trends every now and then. It just enters into the charts of top downloads. I'm like, "Oh yeah, there it goes again."   Juliet Allen: (00:56) Yeah. You can't go past that one.   Mason: (00:59) Thanks for coming on. I know you're postpartum right now and I know you're in that baby bubble, and I just really appreciate you coming on. We're having a libido month as you know at SuperFeast, which can mean any number of things when you're coming at it from the way we talk about sex and libido and daoism. I just really value your take always on how to more... I mean, someone said to me yesterday, they don't like me using the word sustainable, and I think because it's been politicised and turned into green washy, shitty businesses going, "We're super sustainable." Just like, "Dude, you're a fucking beer company. Shut up."   Juliet Allen: (01:39) Oh, I said that to Nick the other day. I got some promo from a clothing company saying, "We're sustainable." I was like, "What? Does that make me just want to buy your clothes, now that you've just put a sentence on the end of an email saying you're sustainable?" Like, it just, I don't believe a word of it. I don't believe a word.   Mason: (01:59) No, I mean let's, we could go on about that. Businesses should just be in reality, do the best they can and stop patting themselves on the back so much. But in terms of sustainability, talking to you about libido and sexuality, you've been doing this for so long, and you have this amazing ability to go into, have those fun taboo conversations that burst through these layers of mental programming. They're like, "You're not allowed to talk about libido that way or anal that way," or whatever it is.   Mason: (02:30) Then at the same time, this is what I talk about a lot in the podcast when I talk to practitioners, I like practitioners that can treat symptom and disease, but know that they need to provide the bridge over to never coming back to the practitioner ideally as well. Which you have that ability to bring people into this beautiful world of sexual essence, everything, sex, love, and then know that we are bridging over to that essence and that reawakening and renaissance of people connecting their sexuality, connecting and integrating to their life so that they have a real, sustainable, in harmony life where that's integrated. That's why I like talking to you and why I wanted to jam about libido with you. So yeah, what's on your mind and in other places and things?   Juliet Allen: (03:20) What, with libido or life?   Mason: (03:22) Yeah, I mean libido mostly.   Juliet Allen: (03:24) Well, I was saying to you off air, let's call it, that my libido is actually, since giving birth has been... Well, no, I lie. I gave birth and then straight away my libido was bam, back on. Literally within a couple of days. I was, like, "Whoa, this is amazing." I thought I was like a unicorn, because I'd heard so many stories. Obviously this was my second baby, so I'd been through it before. But I'd heard so many stories from clients who had said, "My libido hit rock bottom, and it was really challenging." I'd never really experienced that.   Juliet Allen: (04:05) So then my libido came back online straight away and I thought, "Yep, it doesn't happen to me." Fast forward about two months postpartum and I just, my libido disappeared. I got to two months postpartum, and my libido just disappeared. I'm now seven months, seven and a half months postpartum and I still don't have much of a libido, which is really new for me. As you know, my libido is always pretty high, and I have quite a... It's quite consistently high.   Juliet Allen: (04:41) It's cool though. I really love it, because it's giving me an opportunity to feel what it's like to have a really long period without really feeling like sex, except for when I'm ovulating. I'm all for it when I'm ovulating. That happens to a lot of women. Yeah. That's where I'm at with it. But I'm also really cool with it. Because I'm like, "Yeah, this is a season in my life where I'm parenting my new son, and I'm being super present with him and we both are, and that's a priority for us." We co-sleep and I'm breastfeeding on demand and all the things that feel good for us.    Juliet Allen: (05:25) Occasionally I say to my partner, Nick, "Baby, are you okay?" Because I'm not used to being the partner who's not up for it so this is new for me. I'm like, "Are you okay?" He's like, "Babe, I'm fine. This is our season to just be with Soul and it's going to change and it's okay." We still have sex every now and then. So I wanted to be honest about that because here I am talking about libido and mine's quite low at the moment, but I also think that that's really normal and that there'd be so many people listening who'd be like, "Oh my God, thank God. It's normal."   Mason: (06:05) Yeah, I was hoping to have a few thank God moments. I love talking about the spiciest of topics. Then we were just talking about the Byron Bay tantra scene and just thinking about little hot pockets. I'm thinking about the Ashram communities over in Costa Rica, everywhere, just how they're sacred little places where everyone can be excessively sexual and create these abnormal expectations on libido. All of a sudden all the personal practises, whether it's Daoist practise or tantric practise, starts revolving around sexual essence and libido.   Mason: (06:41) So it's good to go through those little initiation bubbles, but when that expectation becomes the norm, it's really, I find it disturbing to think that people have to go into that level of isolated dedication to sexuality and libido. Always being at this, probably if you think about over a 50 year period, it's very unreasonable to expect yourself to be at that peak that our mind tells us is actually healthy. Then at the same time, you've got to juggle processing your, let's isolate anger and let's process our anger. Then let's isolate our mental acuity. Then let's isolate the gaining of skills and then isolate being a good husband or wife or partner. It's all these isolated things, it's like they're good for a moment or a period to isolate and study, but then it has to become integrated so you're not thinking about these things and it becomes a wholeness.   Mason: (07:44) I'm interested there. For you, if libido not being present, but then what is there? Because libido is like a dangle, as we were talking about earlier. It's a dangle to talk about this, but your libido's not gone. Your libido's connected to other parts of your body. I'm sure you're getting lots of insights as to as Nick said, going into maybe a winter season around the yang expression, which is maybe that's what we call libido, the yang expression of sexual essence. What are you learning about the different sides of the libido conversation?   Juliet Allen: (08:18) Yeah, that's a really good topic. I love talking about this. What I'm noticing is, and what I see libido as is also an expression of our creative energy and that they're quite similar, that our sexual energy and creative energy is one really to me. It's interesting because I'm not feeling to connect sexually much. I think that's due to many reasons. I guess we could talk about how different things impact our libido. For me at the moment, I know it's lack of sleep at night because Soul's up a fair bit. I'm not, if I were to be honest, food prepping as much as usual so my nutrition's probably gone down. We still eat amazingly, but not as good as we would like to. I think that's impacting, and then lack of solitude is impacting my libido. I'm making sure I schedule it in, but it's so little compared to what I had before so that definitely impacts me.    Juliet Allen: (09:30) Then I think I get to the end of the day, or I wake up in the morning and I've been breastfeeding a lot. When you've got a baby on your hip all the time, you're always in contact with something. So the last thing I feel like is then going back into contact and intimacy with my partner. So they're, just backtracking, some of the things I think have been impacting me with libido. But what I'm noticing is because I'm not dropping into that energy with myself or with Nick, I've got so many creative ideas. It's like a bubbling pot in my head and it's actually, I'm trying to get more organised in my week so that I can actually schedule in the morning, which is called my creative morning or whatever we are going to call it, where I can just get all the ideas out of my head onto paper and then look at it and go, "Okay, how could I manifest these? How can I create them? How can I get my team involved?" But I think that what I'm noticing, is that now that I'm not engaging in sex as often, the energy's being redirected into new creations.   Mason: (10:48) What is that showing you? There's so many things going on in my head. The one hearing you, I just can see the value of understanding that there's certain things you're not able to do when you're in this bubble of nurturing your little one, that it's okay. Maybe it's just not the time, but you're doing enough and being aware of just because it's winter, keep the embers, let's just do enough to keep the embers going, knowing that it's going to come back. Because I think it's probably a good thing to be aware of, for people not to get it down on themselves when it goes right down, but really try not let those embers go out. I think a lot of people do have that year or two or three years sometimes after birth where the libido flame goes. Right?   Juliet Allen: (11:35) Yeah. They do. Yeah. It's a good one, the embers thing, because yeah, I think it's important not to let it go out completely. I don't feel like for myself that that's happened at all, and it's definitely picked up in the last month since Soul's gone on solids actually, because he's having a tiny bit less feeds. It's like I'm having that bit more of space to myself. But yeah, you got to keep the embers just simmering away, whatever you say. I think that's what's great about using, and this wasn't intentionally a plug for SuperFeast, but every day I use the SuperFeast products, and I think they help me and they definitely help Nick. He swears by them for libido, help the embers just keep hot.   Mason: (12:27) Yeah. The tonics, even if we, and we'll use them as a reason to talk about this concept of keeping the embers alive. If we're not having the pressure to have to be, and it doesn't have to be postpartum. I know a lot of guys. I know I've gone through this phase where I've been come the closest I've ever come to a depression or a self-hatred and after having some what I considered monumental failures, and everyone's like, "Your failures are your biggest lessons," and I'm like, "Yeah, they are now." But at the time, my whole identity is crumbling and it's hard, so I definitely, I've had that phase.   Mason: (13:13) And of course when I talk about the tonics and lifestyle, it pales in comparison to having open communication with for me with my lover or even if you've got just a good friend, if you're alone or journaling with yourself to be like, "This is what's going on." Just that alone can keep those embers alive and not let it go out. But then talking about tonic herbalism, it's where they fit in a lot of the time. And people do associate taking say the deer antler or Cordyceps and being like, "I'm horny, I'm hard." But sometimes it is about taking them during convalescence periods, postpartum periods. It's just they're not going to let you, they're going to help you just not tip over the edge.   Mason: (14:02) Same as you saying, I think this is an important one because I feel like there's a lot of subconscious no libido shaming sometimes in our culture, especially in our circles, and you saying you've got Nick, you're talking to Nick, and he's like, "I've got awareness of this is a season of our life." You're trying to have moments where you do book in your solitude, which seems like it's obvious. It's like, that's hard when you've got a lot going on. That just keeps it alive without necessarily I think with the tonics even taking tonics, not expecting them to just turn the libido on, not seeing it as a failure that they don't immediately, it's not all bubbling over straight away. But it is a just keep hanging on, keep those embers alive and just clinging on that little bit. I think that's a really important distinction. Glad you we danced there.   Juliet Allen: (14:53) Yeah. It's a long term thing I think with the tonics too. It's not just like, "Oh, I'm going to take deer antler this morning in my cacao." I mean, Nick swears by deer antler though. He's just so protective of his jar of deer antler. If I haven't put it in, he's like, "Where's the deer antler? Why didn't you put it in?" However, I don't think-   Mason: (15:11) Nick's a winner, though. Nick's a winner. That's why.   Juliet Allen: (15:14) Yeah, yeah, yeah. He loves it. Yeah. But I think with the tonics, for me it's a long term thing. I know that if I have them, which I do daily, they're keeping me just simmering away, but also looking up to my health long term, which is what my vision is. I'm going to be in my sixties, seventies and still enjoying a really great sex life and not get to 60 and be like, "Yeah, now I have cobwebs and I'm never going to have sex again." That kind of mentality. I want to feel vitality and I want to feel libido and I want to enjoy a great sex life for a long life. I know people and mentors in my life who have that and that's my long term vision. So incorporating things like the tonic herbs is part of that long term vision for me.   Mason: (16:05) I think that's because when you think about that vision, we're going 50 years into the future, it's impossible to hold onto all of those. I want good bone structure. I want good mental health. I want good libido. I want to be able to be generous. I want to be able to receive. I want to be able to dominate. I want be able to also submit. It's too much to hold. I think this is again why I appreciate talking to you about sex so much is that we just such a deep dive into the subject and then such a relinquishing of the isolation of the subject and watching it bleed over into a real life that doesn't have idealism within it to be where it's boring and hard to... It's the most interesting thing, but in an Instagram world, it's the most boring thing to try and market this reality.   Mason: (16:57) But yet I know I like the SuperFeast podcast and having conversations with you. I feel like I've been a custodian from that road to Rome that you sit in, where people go, "Wow, at some point I really do forget about libido and I really do forget about sexuality in isolation. I become integrated and harmonious so that all of those things by happy accident are there when you're 60 or 80." I want to talk to you about that. Because the tonic herbalism is about having the capacity for say spontaneous joy. You have the capacity for libido to emerge, which is different to giving you libido. Here right now you've cultivated capacity for it to emerge.   Mason: (17:44) I don't know if you've got any insights there around that relating to your own sexuality and your own libido in order to make that, to be able to perceive how it's something that is bubbling under the surface and you're cultivating and it comes out at a natural time without possessing you. Yeah. That's I guess my question I'm roundabouting.   Juliet Allen: (18:08) Oh, a couple of things pop up for me around that. What did you say about joy with the tonic herbs?   Mason: (18:15) It's especially from the Ayurvedic as they talk about taking the tonics in order to cultivate a capacity for spontaneous joy.   Juliet Allen: (18:24) Ah, that's so good. Because tantra, which I teach and which you mentioned, and I've studied lots and experienced and travelled the world learning about. Tantra for me, the definition I was told by a mentor of mine is choosing with awareness what brings joy to our life. So tantra isn't just about like, "Let's have a orgy and all the kind of myths around tantra," although there is a lot of that going on, but choosing with awareness, what brings joy. So it just popped in my mind, the link there between the herbs and what you just said about joy and then tantra, which is for me choosing a lifestyle and a life that brings joy. But for me, when I feel joy, I also feel like the embers are alive and that I'm feeling turned on by life.   Juliet Allen: (19:22) That's the most important thing for me. The most important thing for me is not having sex every day and having multiple orgasms and all the stuff that's in Instagram at the moment, squirting and this and that. If you do this in the G-spot and all these things that are becoming more and more spoken about, which is awesome, because it's downing the stigma. But for me it's like how can I feel turned on in work? How can I feel turned on within my family and not in a, you know what I mean by that? How can I feel really, yeah, excited by life, because when I feel excited and when I feel joy, then I'm more likely to feel like I want to share that with others, including share it sexually, share that energy.   Mason: (20:16) I mean, look, I know you brought up getting turned on in life, turned on within family and then we got to be like... But I know what you mean, but I think about it quite often. It's how we want to deny in birth that that came from sex and love. So we're like, "No, not allowed to have any of that near," which I get, because it's a very, that's a very nuanced conversation that a lot of people new to the conversation would be like, "Oh, hey, you can't bring that energy near children." Which it's like, yeah, hear your nuanced conversation, but don't literally throw baby out with the bath water. I think it's a symptom of that isolation. Like, all right. Sex sits over here and that energy sits over there. Then that energy can't come anywhere in real life or around other people. You do that where only God can see you and then God's watching dirty little [inaudible 00:21:16], you know?   Juliet Allen: (21:18) Yeah, yeah, definitely. Oh, with the birth stuff I could get into that big time around, yeah. I don't know whether we go there, but how that energy brings the child in, and then we're not encouraged to enjoy that energy when it comes into the birth space in general, unless you have the midwife I had or the birth team of your dreams that does encourage that. But yeah, so much there.   Mason: (21:51) I mean, by all means jump into it, but I just wanted to bring up that it's like a real syndrome that people are trying to cut that part of themselves that they associate purely with sexuality and libido and that feeling and that energy from anywhere else in their life. But if you get out of the Western colonised way of thinking, you'll see it's not just pure sexuality. It is like a lustre for life.   Juliet Allen: (22:16) Yeah. That's what it is. When I say turned on by your family, it's not like I'm feeling all horny when I pick up my son. It's not that. That's what mainstream would be, "Oh, yeah, she's a fucking whatever you call it."   Mason: (22:30) Exactly. They would.   Juliet Allen: (22:31) It's like, no, I'm talking about I'm excited when I walk into the family home and Nick's in the kitchen with Soul on his hip and my daughter's in her bedroom at the moment because she's 15 and a half and loves hanging. But you know, when my daughter's in the house, it's like I'm feeling excited by that. I'm not feeling like, "Oh God, back to the family or okay, locking in for dinnertime." You know, I want to bring that energy into everyday life. Yeah.   Mason: (23:06) I mean, I would love because I think we're close to birth as well, so I'm always interested to talk about birth and the reality of the energy of birth. But just very quickly, and I think you've covered it a lot on your podcast and I think we've probably talked about it before, but just some basic maybe some kind words or some guiding words for people who maybe they love their life and they love their family, et cetera, but it's just that spark is perhaps not there. Perhaps they could do with a few real practical things that they can do or practises perhaps from the sexual realms of themselves that they could explore to see what's emotionally energetically or sexually in the way of them just getting that spark back when they walk into work, family home, when they're going to bed. Any just little guidance?   Juliet Allen: (23:56) Oh, there's so much to that.   Mason: (23:57) You have one sentence, one sentence to nail it.   Juliet Allen: (23:59) Stop it. Neither you or nor I are a one sentence person when it comes to these topics. Look, for me, it's like coming back to where, and this is so cliche saying this, but how can we fill up our own cup so that we walk into the family home feeling full within ourselves so that there's this bubbling brook just overflowing so that we can then share that with our family. That is so easy to say and quite challenging I would say for a lot of parents. You know what it can feel like to have a child and want to give them everything and then you can neglect yourself. I can neglect myself because I just want to give so much. So for in particular parents, it's like defining what's going to make you feel like you are overflowing so that you can give that to your family.   Juliet Allen: (25:04) Because when I feel overflowing, I feel like, "Okay, now I can give." Whereas when I'm coming from the dry well, it's resentment. Resentment begins to build and that's just a killer for relationships. It's a killer for your relationship with your kids, if you're resenting them. Catch yourself if you're feeling any sort of resentment and then communicate that and then get help, like therapy, coaching, mentors, whatever you need. Yeah. This feels like really basic stuff but it's stuff that really helps me.   Mason: (25:41) I mean, well I guess again, if we are talking about it over a 60 year period, you are going to come back to the basics I think constantly. It's just whatever releases the dam. I mean, I will go quickly because I know people don't want to hear from me. They want to hear from you, but-   Juliet Allen: (25:57) No, they probably do want to hear from you. I would.   Mason: (25:59) Maybe, maybe both. Me too, secretly.   Juliet Allen: (26:04) Yeah, yeah.   Mason: (26:11) I think you've just reminded me though of what is often a dam for myself and remembering different ways to fill up my cup. I guess one of the ways I forget that I can fill up my cup is, because sometimes I'm like, "God." I'm moving, I'm even doing some meditation. I'm really trying to make sure that I have time with Tahnee and my kids, and something just still feels like, Great. I go to therapy. What the hell is happening?"   Mason: (26:41) I think I've spoken to enough guys that I know for me, this isn't an all the time practise, but maybe a once a year period where I'm really good at not feeling, which is I think a stigma for men, but I feel like for everybody. But I think you see there's a renaissance of especially on Instagram of women going like, "I'm actually going to get in touch with my essence of my sexuality," and they put the videos up. It's all lovely and never would I suggest this for guys to do that, but the essence of that, where-   Juliet Allen: (27:16) I'd love to see you do a dance video. Could you please? They'd like it.   Mason: (27:19) I mean, I've got my character. I've got my character, the Conscious Cucumber, that I do.   Juliet Allen: (27:23) Oh my gosh. Yeah. I think you've written about that.   Mason: (27:27) I've got an influencer as well, Masella-Moon.   Juliet Allen: (27:29) Oh, I love the influencer. You could do a merge of the two and do a really amazing dance video where you're feeling into. Yeah. Anyway, sorry.   Mason: (27:39) Oh, I was just going to say sometimes for me the thing that I need to release the dam of me getting some colour, because I'm just really, I'm just so good at hiding from my feelings and pretending. I'm a good actor. Is just that 20 minutes of self-pleasure without the focus being on release and ejaculation. I remember when I first came across that practise, for me people listening to me would know I'm pretty comfortable talking about sex and talking about my sexuality. I've had open conversations with Tahnee about it on this podcast, with yourself.   Mason: (28:14) But actually again, it sometimes can be like, "Oh, I've gone into a little bit of an act of my outward identity. Can I sit there for 20 minutes touching myself and feeling myself?" It's like I'm getting the [inaudible 00:28:29] for myself. I'm just not a finished project, but that's when I do do that, I put it like, "Okay, I'm going to focus on that this week," and maybe two or three or four times, I am able to do that. It completely releases the emotional dam for me, because I just can't hide from feelings that I have towards myself when I'm in that space. I can when I'm stillness or standing meditation or qigong formations or yin yoga, but when I'm in a self-pleasure without a focus on ejaculation, it's like, yeah, I think it's pretty significant. So yeah. Bringing it back to basics.   Juliet Allen: (29:09) Yeah. Thanks for sharing because not everyone's going to share about stuff like that, so it's cool that you feel comfortable to share that. I think it's a really good one you've brought up, is how can we connect with ourselves like that without having the goal of orgasm at the end? It's just connecting in with our sexual essence and our sexual energy, and you're right. You can't hide when you're doing that. You can, I find I can in stillness or silence or meditating or whatever it is. But when I'm just laying there with myself and connecting with that energy, there's no hiding from myself. It's like, "Oh, I can't even bring myself to, what is it, touch myself right now. What the fuck is that?" Jesus, that's... So whatever comes up for you, I'm not saying that's me, but if that came up for me, I'd be like, "Whoa, okay. There's something there." So it's yeah. It's like a self-exploration without the pressure of the big bang at the end or the fucking multiple orgasm or whatever, without having to write about it on Instagram afterwards, without having to talk about it. It's just like, "How can I give this to myself?"   Mason: (30:27) I definitely, I think we've talked about this quite a bit and it's fun. I really have fun talking about the cringiness of the excessive sharing and the excessive leaky sexuality that I've definitely been there in this community. Again, it's a phase. It's an initiation phase. Then for me, hopefully, there's an integration where I don't need to feel like that person's touching themselves in front of me at all times and moments at me all the time. But again, it's a phase. Definitely no judgement . I think it's a precious time when someone is going through that and sharing a lot and being really vulnerable, even on Instagram and sharing all their insights and their meditations. But I think there needs to just be, I think we are alluding to a little bit of a maturation in the conversation to be like, "And perhaps then there will be a time where you may not need to go and share that and really play with that without it being good or bad. See what happens when you don't share as much."   Juliet Allen: (31:29) Yeah. It's an interesting time. It's really interesting because I've seen it change so much on social media from when I first started working as a sexologist to now, where I was one of the only people and now there's so many people out there talking about sexuality and their experiences, and I think that's really great. I don't think that's a bad thing, but I do, I think what it's done is polarise me into the opposite because I used to share more and I used to talk lots about my sexual experiences, and now seeing so much out there has polarised me into the opposite of like, You know what? Some things have got to stay sacred."   Juliet Allen: (32:14) I've always been that way, but even more so now I feel like the most potent amazing experiences are the ones that nobody knows about that I don't feel the need to jump on and talk about afterwards. There's magic in that. I think for me, when I share too much, it takes the magic out of those moments, especially for myself and Nick too. So yeah, I think eventually, there's no judgement on people who feel that that's their avenue to express, but also I think eventually there does come a bit of I like the word maturation. It's a different level of a different stage or phase or level of awareness.   Mason: (33:01) Yeah. I wouldn't describe, because I think your energy is very different to when we first spoke I think seven years ago.   Juliet Allen: (33:09) Fuck. Yeah. So different.   Mason: (33:10) But I also wouldn't, because I don't see you swinging, I don't see that being so much of a pendulum swing where you are in opposition because you're not. I can feel you're not in opposition. As you said, it's just a moving down the path.   Juliet Allen: (33:24) Yeah, and life changed too. Like, oh my God, seven years ago, what the hell was I doing then? Probably in the orgies, in the orgies just travelling around slutting about in a really wonderful way. Now I'm in this beautiful monogamous relationship with a new son and it's just like we go back to, the seasons of our life change. So for me, I need to honour that and I love that.   Mason: (33:58) I won't get too philosophical here, but it brings up a little connection to Jing. I know we talk, people can see, you can become ideologically, you can fall in, which is kind of good I think for a moment, where you fall into whether it's that that tantric world, the orgy world, whatever it is. Polygamy. You can see how it can either be a I've never really gone into the depths of that space. For me it was this different dietary kind of ideological things. But it served the same purpose where I'm like, "Oh, I've gone a little bit too far away from myself. Let's integrate those experiences."   Mason: (34:40) I just want to point out two things. Jing essence within the kidneys, in which libido is said to emerge from. Especially that yang Jing is where we feel the vaporisation of the water and bringing the fire to the water, so the water, the yin, the potential heats up and the waters can go and fertilise everything within the body. It's how I see libido and yin being the potential for libido. It completely drains with over ideology and also opposition.   Mason: (35:12) Because I think that was a key distinction I think there, what you've said. You're not in opposition to those people who are doing maybe similar to what you were doing, which is a real easy trap I feel like, especially when we've got careers as we do, and I felt it towards extreme health people, extreme raw food people, where I've been. If you form your identity through opposing them, rather than just smiling and moving along on your journey, it's a Jing like trap. I think that people don't realise the hook that that, forming your identity from that rather than letting go and starting afresh and being in that vulnerability. It's important long term libido.   Juliet Allen: (35:54) Yeah, definitely. One of the words you said was integrate, and I think it's important that if we do go into the extremities of something, like for you it was dietary stuff, for me it was sex stuff let's say, then it's coming back into centre and going, "Okay, how can I [inaudible 00:36:13] about me coming back into my own centre," and catching myself and thinking, "How can I integrate this now into life?" No more workshops, no more fucking retreats, no more this, no more that. How can I now integrate this into everyday life so that I choose what parts of it I loved and what parts I didn't and how do I remain in my truth in a way and not get caught up? Yeah. So for me, that was big, to just stop everything and find what works for me rather than what I feel I should be doing or what I feel I should be exploring.   Mason: (36:54) For you, what are the top, when we talk about a lifestyle that is going to facilitate you, you said moving along within your truth, which I know is a huge thing to try and perceive. Well, I can't perceive it. Only you can perceive it, and we're trying to all describe what we're talking about through these really unique feelings that we have about ourselves and our own journey. But for you, when you look back over the last couple of decades, have there been particular patterns or practices within your life that have helped you burst the bubble every now and then, and be like, "Okay, now in order to stay on that path of my truth this is where I need to go, or I need to stop and move on now?" Is there anything in particular that helped you stay in touch with that purposefulness?   Juliet Allen: (37:44) Yeah. Something that comes to mind is, well, my children are always my biggest inspiration for pulling myself back into centre. How can I... I hate sounding so cliche all the time. I feel like lots of these things are bit cliche, whatever. How can I be really authentic to what works for me in life so that I can be that model for my daughter so that when she flees the nest and grows up and is finding her own way, she has had some sort of transmission from me as her mother of a woman who can come back to centre and who can also honour her sexuality and yeah, all the things that I value. She's been my biggest inspiration actually. She's nearly 16 so it's been a long journey with her. I had her when I was 23, so a long time, but yeah, she's always brought me back into line, her energy and her presence in my life. She's my biggest teacher in a way, my biggest inspiration. Yeah. That's something that comes to mind.   Mason: (39:10) I find it's going to be trippy when we're 60 and 70 just to look back and see what the pattern of consistency was. It's so easy to get lost in these different phases.   Juliet Allen: (39:21) Yeah. Yeah. It is. It's so easy to get lost. Yeah. The other thing I keep talking about is having time to myself. So just time to refocus, time to just go for a freaking swim by myself. All the simple stuff that I know if I get in the ocean that I reset my body, things like that, that I have to advocate for, because at the moment I have to advocate. I'm like, "I need this." And not feel guilty for wanting it too, because there's that parental guilt and lots of parents will relate. Mothers, I think, especially of like, "Hang on, I'm supposed to love this 24/7." It's like, I do love him and I do love this, but I also love myself enough to be like, "Hey, take the child, I'm going to the beach," and I'm okay with that. I'm not going to feel guilty. You know, stuff like that. That's on topic for me.   Mason: (40:21) Yeah. Well again, I mean like you say, it's a cliche, but I remember thinking, "Oh, it's going to be a cliche to say, 'Hey, let's come back to the breath,' during Aya's birth." It was not. It was, Tahns is just like, "Wow, that was the best." I think about in these instances, it's just like, "Hey lady, you really need to advocate for that time." It's the most obvious thing, but it's like, bring it up [inaudible 00:40:49] hundred bajillion times and they'll be like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah." It's like, "He's going to bring it up again."   Juliet Allen: (40:53) Yeah, and not just for parents though. Even people who are stuck in a really full-on job. Not stuck but they're choosing to be in a really full-on job or they're in a relationship that's really codependent where they're doing everything with their partner and it's time to go, "Actually, I need a Saturday to myself." Whatever that brings up in you is your shit, but I'm going surfing all day and that's going to fill up my cup and I'm going to be a better person for that.   Juliet Allen: (41:23) So all those things, let's bring it back to the topic, I feel really contribute to libido and that's not just for me, but for the hundreds of people who I've worked with. A lot of the work I do with people when I'm coaching is evaluating their life and going, "Okay, what's working? What's not? How can you get more time to yourself?" or whatever it is. As soon as we get ducks in a row like that and they become more organised and they start advocating for themselves again and what's actually important, then libido just boom. It's like, "Oh, surprise, surprise. You want to have sex again." Every time.   Mason: (42:11) I think that's a really beautiful place to leave everyone pondering that. Everyone reach out to us. Hit us up on Instagram or email or wherever if you'd like Juliet to come back and I know that conversation around birth, sexuality, and libido is a huge, one.   Juliet Allen: (42:31) Yeah, that's a big one.   Mason: (42:32) Yeah. So if everyone's interested in that, yeah, hit us up and you should go over and follow all the things that Juliet's doing. Best places, Instagram, websites, all that. Anything bubbling under the surface right now?   Juliet Allen: (42:48) What, for work stuff, work offerings?   Mason: (42:50) Yeah.   Juliet Allen: (42:52) I'm doing my best to keep the bubbling just simmering at the moment with all the ideas I have, because I even tell my team, I'm like, "Do not say yes to me. Just do not say yes." But if people are interested in learning more, they can go to my website. There's a couple of things that I have that they can join. Or my podcast is another place to get heaps of information and I have an online school. So it's juliet-allen.com and Instagram is @Juliet_Allen. Yeah. You know what I thought? For another episode, if people are keen, we could do a Q and A if they send their questions, so we get to answer some of their questions about all these topics because then we really get to know what they want to hear about. I always find those ones fun.   Mason: (43:40) I think that's good. I think that's good to do. What I've actually, what I want to do is have... Because SuperFeast is really coming into its own. That's why I've done a lot to listen to SuperFeast's voice and not project my voice onto this really great mission. But naturally that's meaning that I'm having to go and get my own itches scratched. My podcast is slowly rearing its head again. That's actually the model that I was going to do, is I was just going to constantly do Q and As and jump on and stream it live on Instagram at the same time.   Juliet Allen: (44:20) That's a cool idea.   Mason: (44:22) I think that's something maybe we can do on my Instagram as well, really cut loose and have some fun. I definitely want to hear what everyone's interested in at the moment because those two years have probably brought the essence of what everyone needs to the surface.   Juliet Allen: (44:38) Most definitely. I think that's a really good point. The last couple of years have brought so much to the surface and people's priorities have changed a lot and within relationships so much has changed in people's relationships and it's just added a whole different, weird, crazy dynamic, but cool too, you know?   Mason: (44:59) It's been cool.   Juliet Allen: (45:02) Yeah, really cool.   Mason: (45:03) I know it's been tumultuous for a lot of people, and I did bring up earlier that when was going through my hardships, it was hard to be like, "Don't worry, it's going to be cool, Mase. You learn lots." There may be a few people listening to this of like, "Hey, it's not cool for me yet," but I'm definitely, I'm with you. I can only see going through the pressure cooker. If you can really, that's why I bring up, it's like, "Well, what's going to bring out the context for you to get in touch with what you need?" That's time alone, maybe time alone with your sexuality, not being able to avoid your feelings. I think that's when you naturally are like, "Is this job for me? Is this relationship for me? Do I need to alter my priorities in life"" I think it's been a cool two years for that.   Juliet Allen: (45:59) Hell yeah. It's been awesome. Yeah.   Mason: (46:01) Yeah. Let's do it. Everyone go and follow everything. Juliet does, Juliet Allen, especially. Yeah. The backlog of your podcast is awesome.   Juliet Allen: (46:15) Yeah. There's so many episodes there. Yeah.   Mason: (46:17) Yeah. I mean, you can just go through the titles. It's really well-titled so you can land on what you're wanting pretty easily. Unlike mine sometimes are a bit mysterious, like Masturbation in Utero. It's like, "Do I want that?"   Juliet Allen: (46:29) You're like, "What is he on about now?" Yeah, I get really specific.   Mason: (46:35) Yeah, I think it's good. I think it's an endearing quality. Yeah. Hope you and the team fall into a nice sync with ensuring that those ideas can come to fruition.   Juliet Allen: (46:47) Come to fruition. Yeah. Yeah, they will.   Mason: (46:51) Awesome. Love to the family.   Juliet Allen: (46:52) Thanks, Mase. Thanks for having me.   Mason: (46:54) Yeah. Pleasure. Hope you can get to the beach today as well.   Juliet Allen: (47:00) I'll do my very best.   Mason: (47:02) All right. Lots of love.   Juliet Allen: (47:04) Thank you.   Dive deep into the mystical realms of Tonic Herbalism in the SuperFeast Podcast!

In our 111th episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with sexologist, Juliet Allen. We ask her all your questions about spicing up the bedroom.How can mother and lover coexist?Is there a shortcut for parent parents to fast-track stimulation if they don't have time for foreplay?Tips on having sex when you co-sleep or share a room with your baby/toddlerHow can you help your partner increase their sex drive to match yours if you have a higher libido than them?Why it's completely "normal" to have lulls in your sex life!Tips for whoever is still trying to get their head around their partner watching pornIs there a time when porn can become an issue in a relationship?Are threesomes beneficial or detrimental to relationships and how can one go about having a threesome with their partner?Do lubricants help with libido and should we be using them all the time?How would you recommend using The Juliet Pleasure Wand™?And MORE!!!We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode! We also hope it gives you a bit of a laugh because (Jayde especially!) opened up about some absolute pearlers in this one!Goodies mentionedThe Juliet Pleasure Wand™LubricantsPleasure SchoolBeyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.  Follow us on Instagram at @beyondthebump.podcast to stay up to date with behind the scenes and future episodes.  This episode of Beyond the Bump is brought to you by Kiwi Co:Jayde, do you have any top activities that you would like to do with your kids this year? Well, the girls are into dancing, which is great, and I love activities that Yumi can do at home with or without me. Preferably without!Exactly. We've actually already received our two monthly subscriptions from Kiwi Co.What about you, Sophie? Nice. Well, without stating the obvious, parks, beaches, anything outdoors is my kind of parenting. But Poppy and Goldie also love when we receive our Panda Crate subscription box for those rainy days or the slow days or the days that we just want to stay inside. So, for anyone listening, that has no idea what we are talking about, Panda Crate is a subscription box filled with playful, open-ended activities backed by research and designed especially for naturally curious and creative babies and toddlers.Exactly. With a Panda Crate Subscription from Kiwi Co, your baby or child receives a new crate filled with two months' worth of products and content every other month. So, whether you have a new newborn or a toddler, the Panda Crate is perfect for your little one's developing brain.Now the Panda Crate is designed just for infants and toddlers. Every crate comes with a magazine and activity card featuring research-backed content and activities to nurture your little ones.And to make it easier, it is all shipped right to your door, and there is absolutely no commitment, so you can pause or cancel at a

#Jalison is back. If you've listened to my first and second honest conversation with Juliet Allen, you'll know about our cute nickname. We became fast friends after our first recording session and now I probably talk to Juliet more than I do Tony during the day. We're both deep in our motherhood season and we also have really similar businesses, so we exchange voice texts all day about everything from what bibs we're using, to what we're currently creating and what we're having for dinner. It's nice. I think we keep each other sane.If you don't know about Juliet, she's Australia's leading sexologist and the founder of Pleasure School, The Juliet Pleasure Wand and Yinn. Body. The last two times she's been my guest, we've spoken about sex. This time, I invited her back on to talk about how she's built and grown such a pioneering and progressive business, but also, to share what life and work looked like before the Juliet Allen we know today. She's worked so hard to get where she is so I want you to keep that in mind. Slow, meaningful, deliberate. In this episode, we talk about authentic expression over having a social media strategy, how leaving a financially secure situation was the moment her business began to thrive, productising her brand and generating new income streams, how she uses sex magic, visualisation and manifestation to reach her goals, and why success has nothing to do with the amount of money in her bank account.Juliet has been a huge expander for so many of us who want to use our unique gifts to serve, and to make a living while we do it. A big thank you to Juliet for opening up so we can all learn. I hope this episode helps you on your way. Thank you for being here. Alison xo Visit www.juliet-allen.comFollow Juliet on InstagramJoin Pleasure School — Offline is a resource for anyone evolving beyond the traditional ideals of success, to explore professional pathways that are more aligned to their true nature, unique gifts and passions. Visit www.getoffline.co to learn more about Alison's career coaching, professional development opportunities and community experiences, or follow @getoffline.co and @alisonlarsenrice. Alison Rice acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the country on which she creates today, the Gadigal people of the Eora nation, and recognises their continuing connection to land, waters and culture. She pays her respects to their Elders past, present and emerging. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Our first official Love Bites guest! Lisa McFarland is the Relationship Coach and our Love Bites Rock. We mention Lisa almost every week as she has been such an integral part of both our growth in relationships and learning about ourselves. On this week's episode we had the absolute pleasure of talking to Lisa about:   How to fill your own cup and your relationship cup A deep dive into Love Languages Your masculine and feminine energy in life How to keep the fire alive in a relationship Sexual desire and edging   Show notes: Juliet Allen - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/authentic-sex-with-juliet-allen/id1246009609?i=1000427713703 (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/authentic-sex-with-juliet-allen/id1246009609?i=1000427713703)  Lisa McFarland: https://www.instagram.com/relationship.coaching.ni/?hl=en (https://www.instagram.com/relationship.coaching.ni/?hl=en)

In today's episode I chat to Juliet Allen about her recent homebirth. There's a fifteen-year gap between her children so she came to her second pregnancy and birth with a profound sense of preparation and purpose. Juliet and her partner, Nick, consciously conceived and then birthed at home; they used touch and kissing to bring on surges and Juliet self-pleasured to ride the intensity of each wave. Once their baby was born, they embraced a traditional lotus birth where the baby stays connected to the placenta till the cord naturally falls off. This episode is rich with inspiration but Juliet also shares some incredibly practical tips; you'll want to take notes!

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.  In our ninetieth episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with sexologist, Juliet Allen. We ask her all of your sex questions with a specific focus on past partum sex: What are some tips to keep the spark alive when you are trying for a baby? How can we enjoy sex while pregnant? Will having sex for the first time post-partum hurt no matter what? Is it “normal” to have no sex drive post-partum and is this greater if the mum is breastfeeding? What is vaginismus? Is it normal for your orgasms to change after having a baby? Should you fake it if you're not feeling it, but your partner is? Is it bad if you're needing a vibrator to orgasm? Tips for getting an orgasm through penetrative sex and so much MORE!We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode! Follow us on Instagram at @beyondthebump.podcast to stay up to date with behind the scenes and future episodes. Goodies mentionedWhat's Your Love Language™? QuizJuliet's Pleasure SchoolThis episode of Beyond the Bump is brought to you by KiwiCo: We were definitely running out of ways to entertain our little ones until our Panda Crate from KiwiCo arrived.  Panda Crate boxes from KiwiCo are a subscription box that arrives every two months.  They're filled with activities that are backed by research and they are perfect for your child's age -- there are boxes for brand-new newborns all the way through to busy active toddlers.Our girls absolutely love the sink or float game. You drop different toys in and get them to guess whether they'll sink or float or create a ripple or a splash. If you too want to build a foundation for early learning with Panda Crate from KiwiCo head to kiwico.com And because we and they love you all, you can use code BTB50 to get 50% off your first month on any crate online. No better time than now.  

In this episode of Authentic Sex, Juliet and her partner Nick share the recent home birth story of their son. This episode shares about them choosing home birth, choosing a birth team that felt right, Juliet enjoying self-pleasure during labour, Nick and Juliet sharing sexual energy during labour, lotus birth and so much more. This is their raw account of birth - a birth that was an absolute dream!

In this episode of Authentic Sex Juliet answers your questions about all-things pregnancy and sex. This episodes covers what sex positions are best, how to keep sex alive, how to avoid stretch marks, how to communicate needs, advice to prep for your dream birth, plus so much more.

In this episode of Authentic Sex, Juliet shares about her experience of pregnancy and sex, what choices she has made for the birth and how she's preparing, how to keep intimacy alive during pregnancy, what to do if your libido is low, sex magic during pregnancy, plus answers listeners questions about this topic.

In this episode of Authentic Sex Juliet and her partner Nick share openly about their conscious conception journey and also the two miscarriages they experienced. They discuss how conscious conception impacted their sex life, where they conceived, how long it took, how they dealt with disappointment each month, how they felt about miscarriage, plus so much more.

In this episode of Authentic Sex Juliet and her partner Nick share openly about their personal experience preparing to conceive. This episode covers emotional and spiritual prep, physical body prep, relationship challenges and dynamics leading up to trying to conceive, soul babies, food choices, supplements taken, the importance of seeking outside support, plus so much more.

This episode contains adult content of a sexual nature. We discuss sex and masturbation throughout the entire episode. Welcome to our limited edition series Beauty IQ After Dark. For the next few weeks, we will be exploring sex, intimacy and pleasure with some of the biggest names in the industry.  Each week I will be joined by a guest co-host, and this week I’m welcoming Sam McLaren, who is the sex category buyer here at Adore Beauty What's on today's episode:  Lubricant: Who knew there were four types of lubricant? Sam and Hannah decode each type, and explain when to use which one.  To read more: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/vaginal-lubricants Juliet Allen: Today we're chatting to sexologist Juliet Allen. We discuss three different types of sex: takeaway sex, good sex and ecstatic sex, and we delve into the challenges both couples and singles face when it comes to sex.  Check out Juliet's Pleasure School here: https://www.juliet-allen.com/ PWDKWN: Hannah: LELO Personal Moisturizer  https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/lelo/lelo-personal-moisturizer-150ml.html?utm_source=omny&utm_medium=podcast Sam: Luvloob Water-Based Lubricant  https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/luvloob/luvloob-water-based-lubricant.html?utm_source=omny&utm_medium=podcast Disclaimer: https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/disclaimer.html Hosts: Hannah Furst Guest co-host: Sam McLaren Guest: Juliet Allen See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today marks a special 100 episodes of the SuperFeast podcast, that's 100 episodes of inspiring conversations with brilliant humans progressing the world through health and wellness! Over the past 100 episodes, the SuperFeast podcast has had hundreds of thousands of downloads and connected with people from Nigeria to Greenland. This evolving journey wouldn't be what it is without you, the listeners, your interaction, and the energy you bring to this space. On Today's podcast our favourite dynamic duo, Tahnee and Mason sit down for a reflective conversation on the journey thus far; the most listened to episodes, the guests that filled them up, and exciting prospects for the future of SuperFeast podcasts. It's always magic when Tahnee and Mason share the mic, and with the 100th episode and a new year ahead of us, it's a perfectly aligned reason to have them back on the podcast connecting with the SuperFeast community.   Tahnee and Mason discuss: Reflections of the SuperFeast podcast, looking back six years from the Mason Taylor Show to now.   The evolution of the podcast landscape over this space in time. The most popular episodes/guests and the topics that consistently resonate with listeners (we've linked them all in the resources below). Health protocols in our ever-changing contemporary landscape; intentionally creating a healthy space to continue questioning beliefs, integrate opposing ideas, and move into a place of harmony, which is in alignment with every traditional system.  The guests that influenced and cultivated Tahnee and Mason's introspective journeys. Navigating the newly emerging health scape where holistic traditions are being meshed with more reductionist methods. The Women's Series; Tahnee's journey through the many dimensions of experience her guests have brought and the gift of sharing space with women who have so much wisdom to offer. Future directions and Visions. Sex; a popular topic that always gets ratings.  Gratitude and the value of reviews.    Tahnee and Mason Taylor Tahnee and Mason Taylor (recently married!) are the founder and CEO of SuperFeast (respectively). Their mission with SuperFeast is to improve the health, healing, and happiness of people and the planet, through sharing carefully curated offerings and practices that honour ancient wisdom and elevate the human spirit. Together Tahnee and Mason run their company and host the SuperFeast podcast, weaving their combined experience in herbs, yoga, wellness, Taoist healing arts, and personal development with lucid and compelling interviews from all around the world. They are the proud parents of Aiya and Goji, the dog, and are grateful to call the Byron Shire home. MasonTaylor Mason Taylor is the founder of SuperFeast. Mason d to the ideas of potentiating the human experience through his mum Janesse (who was a big inspiration for founding SuperFeast and is still an inspiration to Mason and his team due to her ongoing resilience in the face of disability). After traveling South America for a year, Mason found himself struggling with his health - he was worn out, carried fungal infections, and was only 22. He realised that he had the power to take control of his health. Mason redirected his attention from his business degree and night work in a bar to begin what was to become more than a decade of health research, courses, education, and mentorship from some of the leaders in personal development, wellness, and tonic herbalism. Inspired by the own changes to his health and wellbeing through his journey (which also included Yoga teacher training and raw foodism!), he started SuperFeast in 2010. Initially offering a selection of superfoods, herbs, and supplements to support detox, immune function, and general wellbeing. Mason offered education programs around Australia, and it was on one of these trips that he met Tahnee, who is now his wife and CEO of SuperFeast. Mason also offered detox and health transformation retreats in the Byron hinterland (some of which Tahnee also worked on, teaching Yoga and workshops on Taoist healing practices, as well as offering Chi Nei Tsang treatments to participants). After falling in love with the Byron Shire, Mason moved SuperFeast from Sydney's Northern Beaches to Byron Bay in 2015. He lived on a majestic permaculture farm in the Byron hinterland, and after not too long, Tahnee joined him (and their daughter, Aiya was conceived). The rest is history - from a friend's rented garage to a warehouse in the Byron Industrial Estate to SuperFeast's current home in Mullumbimby's beautiful Food Hub, SuperFeast (and Mason) has thrived in the conscious community of the Northern Rivers. Mason continues to evolve his role at SuperFeast, in education, sourcing, training, and creating the formulas based on Taoist principles of tonic herbalism. Tahnee Taylor Tahnee Taylor is the CEO of SuperFeast and has been exploring health and human consciousness since her late teens. From Yoga, which she first practiced at school in 2000, to reiki, herbs, meditation, Taoist and Tantric practices, and human physiology, her journey has taken her all over. This journey continues to expand her understanding and insight into the majesty (that is) the human body and the human experience. Tahnee graduated with a Journalism major and did a stint in non-fiction publishing (working with health and wellness authors and other inspiring creatives), advertising, many jobs in cafes, and eventually found herself as a Yoga teacher. Her first studio, Yoga for All, opened in 2013, and Tahnee continues to study Yoga with her teachers Paul + Suzee Grilley and Rod Stryker. She learned Chi Nei Tsang and Taoist healing practices from Master Mantak Chia. Tahnee continues to study herbalism and Taoist practices, the human body, women's wisdom, ancient healing systems, and is currently enrolled in an acupuncture degree and year-long program with The Shamanic School of Womancraft. Tahnee is the mother of one, a 4-year old named Aiya.   Resources: The Power of Menopause with Jane Hardwicke Collings (EP#77) Life-Changing Sex Makes Anything Possible with Kim Anami (EP#28) Yin Yoga with Anatomist and Yogi Paul Grilley (EP#59) Why Chinese Medicine is Failing Us with Rhonda Chang (EP#80) Ayurveda and Yoga-The Healing Arts with Myra Lewin From Hale Pule (EP#55) Reclaiming Pureness and Sovereign Living with Jessika Le Corre (EP#96) Tools For Healthy Living with Dr. Claudia Welch (EP#32) Authentic Sex with Juliet Allen (EP#31) Embodied Movement with The Movement Monk Benny Fergusson (EP#56) Q: How Can I Support The SuperFeast Podcast?   A: Tell all your friends and family and share online! We’d also love it if you could subscribe and review this podcast on iTunes. Or  check us out on Stitcher, CastBox, iHeart RADIO:)! Plus  we're on Spotify!   Check Out The Transcript Here:   Tahnee: (00:01) Hi everyone. I'm here with Mason.   Mason: (00:04) Hi guys. How are you?   Tahnee: (00:05) Yay. And it's episode 100, which means we've made it through 100 interviews and chats with each other and others. And we just wanted to check in with you guys today because I was laughing to myself thinking about when Mason first tried to get me on the podcast and I was moy resistant as they say in Spanish. And I have really enjoyed it, actually, coming full circle and have had some amazing chats and have really enjoyed the opportunity to get clear on my voice and my interview style and how we connect with people and sharing it with you guys.   Mason: (00:49) Yeah, it's been great watching you step into that side of yourself because you asked great questions.   Tahnee: (00:54) So do you.   Mason: (00:55) Thank you.   Tahnee: (00:56) And it's really cool. I remember when I first met Mase about six years ago, he was doing a podcasting course, I think, or kind of interested in starting his own podcast or maybe you were in a mastermind group or something.   Mason: (01:10) I didn't go that far. I just signed up for the free seven steps-   Tahnee: (01:15) Trial.   Mason: (01:16) No, just a little guide, seven steps to set up your podcast. Went and did that with... Can't remember who it was through, but it was just one of those ones. It just popped up in a-   Tahnee: (01:25) An ad or something.   Mason: (01:26) Yeah, it was an ad and I was like, hmm, not bad.   Tahnee: (01:29) Yeah and I remember you had the Mason Taylor Show and if you're listening and you haven't checked out that stuff that was from probably five or six years ago now. And I remember having listened to podcasts, but I think it was not what they are now where they're just abundant in all spheres. It's been really cool to be involved peripherally and then more closely lately as SuperFeast podcast has evolved. And we're really excited about the next 100 episodes.   Mason: (02:02) Doing the podcast five years ago, it's interesting. It's a similar feeling to when I started SuperFeast and I was like, ah, it's probably not appropriate to sell medicinal mushrooms because the market seems saturated already. And then you fast forward five years and you're like, ah, no, that was like-   Tahnee: (02:20) [crosstalk 00:02:20]-   Mason: (02:20) Yeah. And like five years ago I was like, oh my gosh, there's a bajillion podcasts out there, but it wasn't at the point now where it felt something where it's accessible for absolutely everyone, to do it. It didn't feel natural. It didn't feel as much stepping out on a ledge.   Tahnee: (02:39) And I think, obviously, as a medium, it's just ballooned and it's been such an interesting thing to observe and we're talking the SuperFeast podcast, hundreds of thousands of downloads. People listening, I was looking at the country map before we jumped on, from all over the world from Nigeria to Greenland. I don't even know if people live in Greenland, but all over the place. It's quite wild to me to see how diverse and vast our listenership is. And even the topics that have really resonated with you guys because I guess we would not have picked them, but then looking at the statistics, we've got the semen retention and some of the episodes on sex, especially Kim Anami and Juliet Allen are really popular with you guys. And then female hormones, obviously a massive topic and one that are really of interest to the people listening to us. That's been, I think, a really interesting thing to reflect on as-   Mason: (03:38) Well, the interesting thing with the SuperFeast podcast is we didn't really have a strategy, which is something. It's like, all right, we'll take 100 episode kinda settler. And in terms of, strategically, it being like a marketing tool for the business, you would've thought that we would have sat down and gone, right, we're going to do these kinds of interviews with these kinds of people, these kinds of topics, but we didn't do that at all.   Tahnee: (04:07) People we're fans of or that we think would be interesting guests-   Mason: (04:09) Which I think that's a huge reason. For some people, I don't know, maybe for some of you, you wanted to hear about herbs and that's something that I've strayed from, but you can see we're in some of the top podcasts. It's the Reishi one, the Chaga one, ashwagandha-   Tahnee: (04:31) Cannabis-   Mason: (04:32) Yeah and then then like, cannabis is a little bit different, but yeah, nonetheless, it's something that I'd love to hear from you guys if those, even if it's just like a rapid fire, me talking about a particular herbal, Tahnee talking about a particular herb, if you want to hear a little bit more about that, I'd be super stoked to jump in there and do that. But it's been part of the beauty and I think part of the reason we've been... I think we've got so much structure in many areas of life. It's been it's in the business getting more structure in place in the business.   Mason: (05:07) It's nice having this open book, chaotic world and even though what I was saying is I think maybe there's a few of you listening, it'd be great to hear if you feel like more consistency is something that keeps you there, but I think it's been a huge reason why the podcast resonates with so many people is just this like open field of possible ideas and bringing the guys in and talking about Ayurveda and then classical Chinese medicine and then bringing naturopaths in. And we don't try and layer all these things on top of each other and make it fit a particular idea around health. It's just going out and exploring what's out there, which I feel like I've needed that in the podcast and it's helped me keep me motivated and [inaudible 00:05:54].   Tahnee: (05:54) Well, I think that's the bit you probably don't appreciate from the listener's perspective, but for us, running a company and being parents and life, it's a great way for us to stay really connected and to learn and to be inspired by people who are really on mission, I guess, for want of a better way of saying it and who have really devoted themselves to a particular topic or area of research. And I was thinking about the podcast that really moved me and I remember listening to Jane Hardwicke Collings, who I interviewed earlier this year, she did a piece on menopause with us and I was moved to tears by that interview. I just was so touched by her strength and her power and her capacity to capture what it is to be a woman in these transitory phases of life and-   Mason: (06:44) That was number 77, The Power of Menopause.   Tahnee: (06:47) Yeah. And then the other one, I was trying to think of the ones that really, really resonated. I was really excited to speak to Kim Anami and that's one that you guys have all voted is very, very popular. That was number 28. But coming back to Jane, that was one of the ones where people would stop me on the street and just say, oh my God, that podcast moved me. And everyone from young women who just birthed their first child to women in their 50s and 60s who were touched that someone had discussed those topics so openly. That was really special. And I remember being really moved by speaking with Paul, my yoga teacher, Paul Grilley, which I think he's number... We'll look that up. But yeah, that was a really special one for me because-   Mason: (07:36) That's number 59.   Tahnee: (07:37) He's been such a huge influence to me in my teaching and my life. And I know for you Mace, Rhonda's been a big influence.   Mason: (07:47) The Rhonda Chang interview's number 80. I think it's called, Why Chinese Medicine is Failing Us. It's been interesting. It's creeping up there more and more, becoming one of those cult conversations. You can see like this month it's got way more downloads than anything else [inaudible 00:08:10] actually-   Tahnee: (08:10) Still-   Mason: (08:10) Jane's there still like charging away and I assume that'll get up there. I like that because I think for a lot of you who are listening, I heard some people listen to one of mine and Dan Sipple's conversations, which if you want to just hear me and my mate, who's a naturopath, me coming from Taoist perspective, him naturopath perspective, and just seeing just how those conversations run side by side, but someone shared it on Instagram recently and was like they come for the talk on gut health, the conversations and the protocols on gut health and they stay for Mason's rants about ideology.   Mason: (08:50) And I don't know if you guys are still enjoying it or not whether I'm flogging a dead horse, but naturally, that's been something probably because I've been really going through some reconciliations within myself and some integrations with myself and also just really pausing to consider where in the health landscape there is room and tools being provided to people so that we're safe to go into a big rule set approach to health or a protocol, a healing protocol, and then where the skill set is in going beyond to well, what do you go to beyond that, beyond the labels and coming further into yourself and then realising that we're not going to land in a place of being sure and it's such a weird world, where we're in a completely new world when it comes to the accessibility that we have to health protocols and technologies and traditional technologies and traditional systems that it's all just experimental as anything right now. What is a healthy, ongoing space to keep on questioning our beliefs and questioning how we've integrated opposing ideas and then move into a place of it's in further and further harmony, which is in alignment with every traditional system. It's never ending and it doesn't ever stop evolving, but there is a way to surf it in harmony and stay healthy.   Mason: (10:13) That's been a huge one for me this year, which a lot of you would have heard and Rhonda's conversation is probably the biggest one in number 80, Why Chinese medicine is Failing Us just because it represents something I'm close to as a hobbyist with Chinese medicine and enjoying Taoists medicine, especially, and she's someone sometimes you're like, am I crazy here? Is there actually any difference? Is there an institution when it comes to health or the Chinese medicine that's different to how it was done previously? Is this just the natural evolution? Is it in fact unnatural? Is it bad or is it good? Is it great to have options? Where's the [inaudible 00:10:57]... But it was just all meshed in. It was just Chinese medicine is Chinese medicine is Chinese medicine is Chinese medicine. It represents the wider conversation around when something that was holistic gets layered on something that's reductionist. And so that's another one, that number 80 conversation was one I had seen people writing to me and stopping me on the street going far out, Ronda's is just a firecracker, but she's just nailed it.   Mason: (11:27) Am I crazy here? Is something that blurred here? We should be making the distinction that this is a new medicine and a new technology and not just pretending that we're practising the traditional style and with that, why isn't it working? And I feel that about a lot of things. I see a lot of people going down a health ideology that's got all this modern biohacking layered over it and we're like, yes, I'm doing the traditional thing and then I've watched it fail so many times and then going, okay... I'm going a little bit of a rant, guys, but this is just wrapping up my approach to the podcast. Going like, well, where does our faith actually lie? Does it lie in a system or in an ideology and a set of rules that we can identify with and that are external or is there something else that we can learn to have faith and trust in, which is self-regulating and never moving?   Mason: (12:27) And that's something that that conversation and reading Rhonda's book and talking with her really helped me go, no, I'm not crazy here, there's just a little bit more of a distinction that's needed, especially when there's so much coming. There's so many new systems coming out as Western medicine goes charging forth, thankfully, in other areas, as long as it's not getting layered over and bastardising everything that we've had there. If we're able to preserve that, then that's beautiful as well. A lot of this year in the podcast has been me wiping out a lot of that confusion and learning how to navigate this new emerging health scape.   Tahnee: (13:12) That's a way more complex than my year. My year was like emotions and amazing women, which I feel like that's such an interesting... I've felt that my personal journey was around this wider acceptance of the vast, many layered dimensions of experience that women have and also that everyone has and then also the themes around that. I think I've really learned to be less judgmental and to not always project my experience onto other people and not to try and always use myself as the reference. And I think it's been interesting talking to people who they're just so strong and grounded in themselves.   Tahnee: (14:04) I'm thinking about Jessica Le Corre right now. I spoke to her on my birthday, on my 35th birthday, and I feel she was a bit of a gift. That was episode 96. She just epitomises to me the place I would like to step into or the place I see myself stepping into as I get older. And she really, really moved me. And also I'm thinking of Myra Lewin, the Ayurvedic teacher. I think her episode was... Looking at one up, number 55. Ayurveda and yoga and she was another one I think that really moved me. Claudia Welch, I've spoken to a lot of women who are just proper powerhouses and I think that's something that I've really... Number 32's Claudia Welch as well. Something I've really kind of-   Mason: (14:58) It's one of the favourites as well.   Tahnee: (15:00) Yeah. I've always said to Mase, I'm going to be a really cool old lady when I'm 60. And I think speaking to these women that are elders and even if they're only 10 years older than me, but they've settled into themselves in a way that I think young women often haven't and it's really special to share the space with them. And just so many interesting and inspiring women and men, I think have graced our microphone this year.   Mason: (15:31) And that's an interesting reflection because I've definitely noticed that in you stepping into a part of yourself. I'm not sure what you mean by using yourself as a reference, not doing that as much. Is that-   Tahnee: (15:46) I think just sometimes because I've had a pretty interesting, vast life experience in some ways. And I think sometimes I can try and empathise through my experience instead of just allowing that person's experience to be separate from me a little bit. And I think it's just something that as you grow up, you realise you haven't seen it all. And I'm may be not clear [crosstalk 00:16:12]-   Mason: (16:12) No, no that's clear.   Tahnee: (16:12) Just coming to me at this moment, but that's what I'm feeling into that I've noticed, like assumptions I've made or going into interviews with a certain assumption or certain sense of where it's going to go and then just being completely stunned in a positive way where it's just been so much richer and deeper and more powerful and more educational for me on a really personal intimate level than I would have imagined. A chat about, say, I just did one, it hasn't come out yet, about PCOS and I've not experienced that personally. And I went in with some assumptions around what PCOS is just based on my experience in dealing with it with people who we speak to and then just having this whole more vast conversation around it, I suppose, than I would have been able to have with Amanda, this TCM doctor. I think it's great. It's humbling and it's inspiring and it just constantly reminds me to stay in that beginner's mind and that Zen mind of not knowing, which was a conversation we're having last night about acting rather.   Mason: (17:20) Oh, yes.   Tahnee: (17:20) [crosstalk 00:17:19]-   Mason: (17:20) Not losing yourself in the character.   Tahnee: (17:22) Yeah, and I think you can easily get your ego really wrapped up in knowing-   Mason: (17:26) Oh, in a narrative?   Tahnee: (17:27) Yeah.   Mason: (17:27) That's something at times I was like, all right, we've got to have a very specific SuperFeast narrative. And now the idea, for example, I remember the week after I had that conversation with Rhonda and we were really heavily exploring that area, which is something I feel like I've popped. It's like just because I'm exploring an area and really enjoying it and going in and getting good realisations doesn't mean that that's my narrative, doesn't mean that's the truth, doesn't mean that we can't explore other areas. It seems obvious, but for me, I'm such a purist sometimes. And I had that conversation with Rhonda and watching, looking at what's happened when we've used, say, Western diagnosis and Western diseases in with Chinese medicine and yet, the week after or even like you were saying, this podcast that came out before this one, is a Chinese medicine doctor exploring PCOS and that's fine and that's beautiful and I'm interested to hear about that because it's like...   Mason: (18:30) I think I've [inaudible 00:18:33] what I mean there, but I feel we are really opening up and exploring on the SuperFeast podcast more and more. And that's something I did notice this year, it was just how many elders you had. You'd come away feeling really solid, just really reflected, I think, where you've been moving. And for me this year, when I've had guys on the podcast, I've been chatting to young guys. It's been Sage Dammers and Dan Sipple and Taylor Johnson and another big one was Nick Perry. But I feel that's just where I've been at. I've been trying to explore. I didn't want to be led. I wanted to be in the dark and be talking to other guys who were potentially going through that same stage of life because I needed to work it out for myself. But I can see now I'm ready to have some conversations with those guys that have just really landed in themselves as well.   Tahnee: (19:34) Basically guys, this is our therapy and you're just along for the ride because I often think about that. I'm like, I'm not promoting SuperFeast, I don't have anything to sell, I just want to have a conversation.   Mason: (19:46) I've started to be good and in the intros sometimes promo products and things.   Tahnee: (19:50) But I'm like, it's funny because to me it feels almost separate from SuperFeast except that it informs my growth and my evolution and I know the team listens and gets value out of it and support us in the production of it. They're all engaged and [inaudible 00:20:08]. It obviously informs the SuperFeast philosophy and how we do things and often conversations are sparked from listening to the podcast on how we do things and what we can do better or how we can navigate our roles better and all these things. It's just an interesting thing to me that it feels so much less a marketing part of the business. It feels a personal exploration/soul nourishment/education piece. That's an interesting thing that I've been observing is like it's not really something I think of in a sales and marketing capacity. Even though I started thinking about it because one of our consultants placed the podcast within a marketing flow and I went, oh, I didn't even think of it that way. That's been an interesting little distinction for me this year as well.   Mason: (21:04) As the business mushrooms and I'm not out doing-   Tahnee: (21:11) Is that a pun?   Mason: (21:13) Mushrooms and it's growing in its own way and I'm not in front of people at markets anymore and you're not helping at events talking to people. And so the podcast continues to be a way to associate all those conversations because normally people come up to the markets back in the day when I was growing SuperFeast-   Tahnee: (21:35) You're having the chance.   Mason: (21:36) Or when people come to you. Well, yeah, someone was like, I have an autoimmune condition. I wouldn't be sitting there just promoting SuperFeast. I'd have this huge other exploring conversation that would always need to come back to the way that we're living in general, the way the diets looking in general.   Tahnee: (21:53) Totally. It's a part of a piece of a puzzle, not a silver bullet solution. And I think that's something we wanted to convey in this ramble was that we're really interested in the direction that you guys want to hear us go with this thing. We don't have a plan. We are just reaching out and when people can, we're interviewing them and we're recording stuff that we think is interesting or that people on our team find interesting, but we haven't heard a whole lot from you guys beyond the feedback. I've quit social media, so I'm not hearing from anyone, yay, but we'd love to hear from you guys about people you think we'd froth on interviewing, people you want to hear interviewed. I think as I look at the podcast circuit and there's so many of the same names popping up across all these different podcasts and sometimes I just think, it's like people just do the circuit and they do all the podcasts. And then I'm like, I want to offer something a bit more diverse and interesting, like voices-   Mason: (23:00) I think Matthew McConaughey just finished doing that.   Tahnee: (23:02) Doing the podcast circuit?   Mason: (23:02) Yeah.   Tahnee: (23:03) Well, why didn't we get him?   Mason: (23:03) Good question. We got to consider ourselves being more like the ballers and go for the big fish.   Tahnee: (23:08) I don't know if we're quite there yet.   Mason: (23:10) No, we're definitely not there yet.   Tahnee: (23:14) Matthew lived with my friend as an exchange student actually when he was 18. We have a contact. Anyway, but my preference is not to do the famous... Look, if they're famous and they kick ass and it's something I feel we could really contribute to your earbuds, but I think in general, you can find those interviews already. I want to do people that are maybe not getting a lot of publicity or that are doing the work quietly in their little corner and don't have that kind of capacity to generate fame for themselves or-   Mason: (23:51) And it'd be interesting to hear, just for you guys, if you like, if you're [inaudible 00:23:54] on SuperFeast podcast and you're just really enjoying it, what you'd like to hear. This year hasn't been a lot about us because I know a lot of people want to hear from me and Tahns about what's your diet like and what's your lifestyle? and I don't know if we've been exploring, just trying to land somewhere-   Tahnee: (24:19) I feel like we don't spend any time together at work. That's the biggest thing. We work together, but we both hold really different roles in the business, whereas I'm usually more in an administrative role and Mason's more in a marketing role. Our days at work don't overlap that much and I think we haven't prioritised taking this time to chat to each other in this capacity, which I think is more realistic in the new year as things have settled down a bit. COVID has been, for everyone I'm sure, disruptive to the flow and we've just landed back on our feet, I think, after that period of time. And so I feel I do podcasts at seven in the morning or late at night or around... A lot of people I speak to are in the States, so I'm often working with really bad time zones where I'm getting up really early or you're looking after Aiya It's not like we can go duck off together and record one.   Mason: (25:13) I think that'd be a nice intention for us to just set or just have the intention anyway to start lapping here and there.   Tahnee: (25:22) And I'm also not the kind of person who really likes sharing those things because I think it's odd, but I'm also happy to have people want to. For example, the pregnancy podcasts, which are just-   Mason: (25:34) That's what I was just thinking of.   Tahnee: (25:34) So popular and the prenatal preparation one and-   Mason: (25:39) And the nourishing her yin, the live event, that's like, I mean that's-   Tahnee: (25:43) See, those to me though require a lot of push for me to share myself and if I'm really honest, I feel uncomfortable. And I often think about what I've shared on this podcast and I feel really uncomfortable, but it's already done so... But I think it's for me, it's my own, I don't want to ever feel like people think they need to... Yeah, I just think it's one of those things where so much of it's a personal journey for me and not something I share publicly, but if that's something you guys really want to hear and Mase does get those requests a lot through his-   Mason: (26:20) I think every time there's a request, it's like, look, I know you guys aren't going to have an exact diet or rule. We'll see if we can lap over because every time we do tune in, it's just a little... I think it's weird because Tahnee and I don't get a lot, a lot, a lot of time to just sit down with each other and flesh these things out outside of a podcast. And it's like, let's not have a mic between us every time we get that chance to just do that-   Tahnee: (26:48) [crosstalk 00:26:48] together.   Mason: (26:48) We just have enjoy be together. But there's definitely room for us to jump on and just be like, this is what the diet has done in the last year and this is where the fluctuations and this is where we're trying to land. I've definitely started sharing a little because we get asked a lot about diet and everyone knows we're not experts on that topic, but we've had a lot of interactions with thinking about the diet and so we'll see. That's not a black and white conversation, so we'll see if we can colour it in and do some sharing around that one. Definitely, I can get the feeling if there's anyone that wants to learn about any particular topics in Taoist herbalism that I can share about.   Tahnee: (27:37) I've got a couple of things lined up just from my background, like yoga nidra. I've got a chat coming up with Rod Stryker next year. I have-   Mason: (27:46) [crosstalk 00:27:46] he's the one that Tahnee's been learning from him, but our yoga nidra that Sophia runs on a Wednesday, so everyone's been doing it.   Tahnee: (27:55) And with Nicole's teacher, whose name I don't remember, but she's amazing, too. And we have definitely got some podcasts on [inaudible 00:28:03] planned. I'm trying to get my Taois teacher Master Mantak Chia on the podcast, I'm working on it. I just think there's lots of people out there that we're connected to that would be great to feature because we know their work and we love their work. And I know Mase has Benny on regularly and Benny's a close friend of ours as well as an excellent genius of movement. What numbers are Benny if we're looking for them-   Mason: (28:32) We've had Benny twice. Benny, the embodied movement one is really most popular, me and him just riffing a lot. That's why I talk in that one because we're riffing. So number 56, if you want to hear me talking with my friend, or 87, if you want to hear Benny talking a little bit less interrupted.   Tahnee: (28:53) How could you not interrupt someone? Anyway, I'm sure there'll be more of that stuff. I think you and [Tanya 00:28:59] should re-record-   Mason: (28:59) Oh yeah, that's a good.   Tahnee: (29:00) Because Tanya's a close friend of ours, who's a permaculture lifestyle guru.   Mason: (29:06) The Mason Taylor Show, we've had a really good conversation with Tanya [inaudible 00:29:11], it's called, Dancing the Patterns of Permaculture. If you can go find number eight on the Mason Taylor Show, you can tune in with us talking about permaculture and then when we get her on the SuperFeast podcast, you can see the difference and the evolution of where that conversation goes. But yeah, that's a good call. There's a lot of people on the horizon. For some reason, I don't know, I thought you guys were all sexually liberated and maybe that's why you like the sexy conversations-   Tahnee: (29:42) Sex is very popular.   Mason: (29:43) It's by far the top one-   Tahnee: (29:46) Four or five?   Mason: (29:46) That's downloaded is Semen retention. Is that because, did that get shared around in a bunch of like guys circles? Or is it women going like, hold the phone, it is possible? Authentic Sex with Juliet Allen is way up there as is Tahnee's conversation with Kim Anami. They're seriously popular. If there's any aspects around sexuality and any experts that you'd recommend us listening to, we definitely don't like... I think it's nice. We like people on the edge, but sometimes... It's interesting to know what you guys are enjoying about that. We don't particularly feel we're being naughty or taboo talking about these kinds of things, but I think, for some of you, maybe you're enjoying the fact that it feels really edgy, us talking about this kind of thing. I'm not sure why that's so popular. Sex is great. And so it's an obvious reason, but yeah, if you guys want to send us an email or anything and just let us know, you're reflecting over the last 100 episodes why you've been drawn towards particular topics and others not so much, in particular, personalities more so. It'd be really great to hear and you'd all probably notice and appreciate Tahnee's audio is way better these days.   Tahnee: (31:14) That was our number one comment was fix Tahnee's audio and guys, I'm a quiet person anyway. So I'm learning to be more articulate in the microphone and I'm learning how to use microphones. Mason didn't teach me anything. He just gave me one. I'm working on it and that kind of feedback is really useful, too, because I'm new to this and we are often just making it up as we go along.   Mason: (31:43) Thanks gang. Hey, reviews. I know a lot of you, a lot of you listening have left reviews, but it's the classic, it's like-   Tahnee: (31:49) They always help.   Mason: (31:51) Well, they're fun to read. I really like reading them when they come through.   Tahnee: (31:56) We share them with the whole team, too, so that we have a Slack channel. If you don't know what Slack is, it's kind of like inter business communication system. Our whole team uses it and we have a channel called Awesome Feedback, and we put feedback from all different areas of the business. People who love receiving a love letter from the warehouse all the way up to podcast reviews or customer service feedback on how much someone's health has changed from using SuperFeast. And it's just a way for us to celebrate the success and the joy that SuperFeast brings in people's lives. We also have channels for complaints, so don't worry, we're not just totally sunshine and focusing on the positive, but we really enjoy sharing that with everyone and everyone really enjoys reading those and they always get lots of positive comments and emojis and love.   Mason: (32:44) It can be specific. Sorry, it can be specific as well. You can say like, oh my gosh, this episode was great and I really loved this about Tahnee or it doesn't have to be a big, wide, general review. You can get really nice and specific there.   Tahnee: (32:58) Just anything, if you want to share with us, we love it. And same if you want to email us or contact us, it's just both of our first names at SuperFeast.com.au. That's an easy way to get in touch or through the team email, which is on our website or the contact forms. You can just reach out to us and let us know your feedback and just stay in touch. Sometimes it's like talking to space. It's nice to know there are humans out there listening. And so apart from seeing that in the numbers yeah, it's a great way for us to get feedback. I think that's about all we wanted to say.   Mason: (33:34) Thanks everyone. Thanks for coming along for the journey.   Tahnee: (33:36) We'd be interested to hear your favourite episodes, too. Those are just some of my favourites, but if you have any that really resonated, let us know.   Mason: (33:45) Always appreciate you guys sharing them. I'm still there on Instagram. When you tag favourite conversations and tag me in it, it always makes me really smile. Just thanks for making sure that the word's getting out there. Hopefully we're a nice little sanctuary of very deep diving ideas without it being a place where anyone needs to subscribe to anything in particular. I'm hoping that everyone feels very non-judged and able to just really explore interesting ideas in this and through this podcast.   Tahnee: (34:25) Aho.   Mason: (34:25) See you guys.   Tahnee: (34:28) Bye.

You might know our guest from her break out role as Luna Lovegood in Harry Potter - and more recently, host of The Chickpeeps podcast. Laura is joined by fellow Irishwoman Evanna Lynch. Evanna’s recommendations are wonderfully varied including Not Today, Thank You with Jake Yapp, Juliet Allen in Authentic Sex and The Yikes Podcast with Mikaela Loach and Jo Becker - that talk about all those Yikes moments going on in the world right now. Laura and Evanna also chat about her vegan podcast The Chickpeeps which has had the likes of Fearne Cotton and fellow Harry Potter actress Bonnie Wright share their passion for plant-based. Podcasts in this episode include: The Chickpeeps The Yikes Podcast Not Today, Thank You by Jake Yapp Authentic Sex by Juliet Allen My Dad Wrote A Porno The Blindboy Podcast Anna Farris Unqualified

Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Coach, Tantra Practitioner. Known for authentically sharing her own personal experiences as a sexually empowered woman, Juliet is committed to freeing people from mundane and disempowered sexual relationships and opens up the conversation of how to have great sex every day. We dive into the topic of intimacy and sex in long-term relationships and how to maintain aliveness or to recover it if it has dwindled in your relationship. Juliet gives very practical and direct advice that so many people will get value from.

If there's anything worth getting up EARLY for, it's to podcast about masturbation! We talk praying to the pussy, share toys we like, and give deets about our own journeys with masturbation. M&M's!This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same to create stronger relationships with ourselves and partners. If more people are talking about it, more people can enjoy it.Things mentioned:Juliet Allen and her pleasure wandVush clit vibrator (mentioned by Taylor)Shibari vibrator (mentioned by Bonnie - affiliate link)Female body casting artist Lydia ReevesThe Vulva Witch photographyWe're looking forward to this being a conversation WITH listeners. Reach out and share your stories, ask questions, correct us when we need it...we want it all. Email hello@bonnieweeks.com. Sign up for Bonnie’s poetry prompts HEREFind Taylor on the gramConnect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), WebsiteThe music for this episode is Threads by The Light Meeting. You can listen to more of their music at www.thelightmeeting.com.Photo: Jess KeatingProducer: Marcus Strange

In the first of our takeover episodes, the crew features women's soccer head coach Tracey Bartholomew along with student-athletes Juliet Allen, Kayla Lee and Sam Slusher.

In 2018, The Atlantic published a body of research showing an alarming decline in sex and physical intimacy among millennials in almost all Western countries. Why is our generation finding it increasingly hard to get turned on? What impact has the rise in digital porn, birth control and burnout had on our libido? And how can we reclaim and reconnect with our sensuality? - Stacey O'Gorman, Women's Wellbeing Coach https://www.staceyogorman.com - Juliet Allen, Sexologist and Tantra Practitioner, https://www.juliet-allen.com - Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer https://www.amazon.com/Pussy-Reclamation-Regena-Thomashauer/dp/1401950248 - Woman Code by Alisa Vitti https://www.amazon.com/WomanCode-Perfect-Amplify-Fertility-Supercharge/dp/006213079X - https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/

Ever wondered what a sexologist is? What they do and why they do it?   Well sure as hell did, so we decided it was about time we got one on the pod to answer all your steamy, saucy questions.  We have Australian sexologist extraordinaire Juliet Allen on the show today and we put the call out to you guys to ask her some questions, and let’s just say she answered them and then some! What a sexy, insightful laugh this episode is! It was our pleasure! Find Juliet on Instagram @juliet_allen Or listen to her podcast by searching for the Authentic Sex Podcast. Jump on board and if you enjoyed the ep please hit 5 stars, review, subscribe and share the love because, well, we love love x

Ever wondered what a sexologist is? What they do and why they do it?  Well sure as hell did, so we decided it was about time we got one on the pod to answer all your steamy, saucy questions. We have Australian sexologist extraordinaire Juliet Allen on the show today and we put the call out to you guys to ask her some questions, and let's just say she answered them and then some!What a sexy, insightful laugh this episode is! It was our pleasure!Find Juliet on Instagram @juliet_allenOr listen to her podcast by searching for the Authentic Sex Podcast.Jump on board and if you enjoyed the ep please hit 5 stars, review, subscribe and share the love because, well, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In episode 114 of Authentic Sex, Juliet answers listener’s questions about being sexually open, porn addiction, awful sex in good relationships, jealousy, single life, plus so much more! This episode is for everyone - women, men, young and old, and answers real-life questions from the Authentic Sex podcast listeners.

In this episode I share with you how we can learn to cultivate and trust our intuition in such uncertain times. Here are some of the topics that I discuss: What our intuition feels like  What acting on our intuition looks like  The ability to flow & surrender Reparenting ourselves Choosing to live and act from a place of love Deciphering the voice of the ego Trusting the 4 energy centres Using our intuition to choose romantic partners The imbalance of the masculine & feminine energy The power of taking risks Tools to cultivate your intuition Recommended podcast: The Authentic Sex Podcast by Juliet Allen.

Beyond The Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people. In our thirty second episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat to Juliet Allen, one of Australia’s leading sexologists about how we can talk to our kids about sex, porn, masturbation, pregnancy... safe to say this episode had many awkward and cringey moments, but is SUCH an important discussion!Follow Juliet Allen on instagram at @Juliet_allen for more information on ALL things sex! Goodies mentioned in this episode:Juliet Allen - here Juliet pleasure wand - here The Authentic Sex Podcast - here - Podcast episode 54: How to Talk to Kids about Periods and Masturbation - Podcast episode 92: Raising Sex Positive Kids- Podcast episode 94: A Teenager's Guide to Sex Follow us on instagram at @beyondthebump.podcast to stay up to date with behind the scenes and future episodes.

In episode 111 of Authentic Sex, Juliet answers listener’s questions about how to have sex when parenting a baby, exploring with a less sexually free partner, getting over sex with exes, connection with others while in a monogamous relationship, anal sex, and sperm, plus so much more! This episode is for everyone - women, men, young and old, and answers real-life questions from the Authentic Sex podcast listeners.

In episode 108 of Authentic Sex, Juliet answers listener’s questions about dating and sex as a single mother, pain during sex (is this normal?), whether we need to have tight vaginas, relationship challenges, oral sex, dealing with exes, plus so much more! This episode is for everyone - women, men, young and old, and answers real-life questions from the Authentic Sex podcast listeners.

This week I am interviewing Juliet Allen, Australia’s leading sexologist. Juliet is the host of the Authentic Sex podcast, owner and creator or Pleasure School and Juliet Allen sex wands.I invited Juliet onto the podcast to chat about some of the most common sex and intimacy issues that we experience as women and mothers. We cover some really big topics, this might be a podcast best listened to away from your little ones - as you’ll hear in the interview there was a point where Juliet literally had me lost for words!Juliet's website: https://www.juliet-allen.comJuliet's instagram: https://www.juliet-allen.comDear Mama Project website: https://www.dearmamaproject.comDear Mama Project instagram: www.instagram.com/dearmamaprojectEnjoying the podcast? Please leave me a quick written review, it means the world! See you next week x

How we pay attention to our own sexuality and sensuality as adults can make for a stronger ability to connect with our children as they navigate the same. If we want our kids to be able to have healthy, safe, pleasurable, and confident sexual experiences in their bodies, that begins with parents. The way we, as adults, explore and embrace our own sexuality directly impacts the way we can show up for our children. Bonnie shares about her goal to normalize the conversation around sex, bodies, and relationships for her kids and encourages others to look for places to let these conversations be part of everyday life.Stuff in this episode:Authentic Sex with Juliet Allen - all of them and episode 88 with John Wineland (also look him up on IG)The Knowledge Project - episodes 71, 62, and 66RETREAT WITH ME!!!Oregon Coast Women’s Retreat: Sept 11-14, 2020Tulum, Mexico Co-ed Retreat: Nov 3-8, 2020Bonnie Week: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), WebsiteThe music for this episode is Threads by The Light Meeting. You can listen to more of their music at www.thelightmeeting.com.Photo: Jess KeatingProducer: Marcus Strange

Continuing with our focus on men's health this month, we've got Nick Perry on the show. Nick works as holistic lifestyle coach and a corrective exercise specialist. With a special interest in men's health, Nick loves to take a holistic approach. Exploring the relationship between the physical, spiritual, mental and emotional bodies and how they relate to sexual health and our expression of life in general. Today is a juicy one folks! Tune in to hear Mason and Nick journey through the multidimensional landscape of sexuality and libido. Nick and Mason discuss: Libido as a messenger, what is your body trying to tell you? Personal practice and self inquiry as pillars of health and wellness. Sexuality and sexual practice. Insecurity and cock shame. Self love, what does that term mean for each of us individually? How libido serves us beyond the bedroom.   Who is Nick Perry? Nick Perry is a Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Corrective Exercise Specialist and Remedial Massage Therapist who is passionate and driven by authentic relating and inspired living. Nick’s education in Corrective Holistic Exercise Kinesiology (CHEK) draws from personal mentoring and learning from some of the world’s leading healers and physical therapists. Known for his deep presence and down-to-earth nature, Nick’s goal when working with clients is to leave them feeling empowered and aligned in themselves - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.     Resources: Nick's Website Nick's Instagram Nick's Facebook ManKind Project Australia   Q: How Can I Support The SuperFeast Podcast?   A: Tell all your friends and family and share online! We’d also love it if you could subscribe and review this podcast on iTunes. Or  check us out on Stitcher :)! Plus  we're on Spotify!   Check Out The Transcript Here:   Mason Taylor: (00:00) Nick. Thanks so much for being here with me in Brovember. Nick Perry: (00:04) Thanks for having me, Brother. Mason Taylor: (00:06) I was trying to kind of tracking back and trying to figure out how, we've known each other since back in the days of the Frenches Forest Market. Nick Perry: (00:13) Frenches Forest Markets. That's what I was going to say. That was the center point for us. We were kind of like ships in the night. Nick Perry: (00:20) Our paths would cross, we'd dig each other's vibe but that- Mason Taylor: (00:24) A word wasn't passed.. Nick Perry: (00:27) Stop, that bro down never happened, did it? You know when it was, you might not remember this, but the first time that we got a moment together was at a flower, that was like a Shamanic Dance ceremony and Carmen Moratas what was running it and I got to chat with you and it was literally like weeks before you moved up and started this Odyssey of yours, coming up here. That was the time where it was like sick [crosstalk 00:00:54]. Mason Taylor: (00:54) I brought my mum. Nick Perry: (00:55) [crosstalk 00:00:55] your mum, yep. Mason Taylor: (00:56) Brought mum, and I had just gotten back from Peru where I bumped into Carmen at Machu Picchu. We had that kind of connection going on, which was amazing because it kind of made Machu Picchu for us, and she gave us the Coca leaf and taught us how to sit there in prayer specifically on that mountain, and the spots to do it and how to weave in your intention in your prayer. Until I got back and Adrian, you know Adrian, the human flower? Nick Perry: (01:21) Yeah. Mason Taylor: (01:22) As soon as you said flower I was like, all right, it's something that Adrian was at. Nick Perry: (01:25) He was definitely there. Mason Taylor: (01:27) Actually remind me, I've got some of his new Agua Florida, which is called Medicina, the flower water, just ceremonial flower water, the ones coming out of Peru often like petrochemicals. Nick Perry: (01:38) The yellow bottle. Mason Taylor: (01:39) The yellow one where we all have, you've sat in ceremony, you have that memory of just having it like spat all over you. They've got one that's just pumping, it is incredible. I'll give you some after but finally, we're actually getting a good chance to sit down and chat. Do you want us to give everyone a bit of a rundown of what you get up to with yourself? I'm sure that can be succinct if you want in general, but I'm sure it'll kind of come out in the wash in the interview. Nick Perry: (02:06) I suppose. I'll just give a little bit of background about myself for context's sake. I'm not just some dude. My name's Nick Perry. I work as a holistic lifestyle coach and a corrective exercise specialist. In the last couple years, I've been very involved in men's work specifically. The way that I like to operate is very holistically. It just absolutely makes sense to me to factor in and to explore and to incorporate things of matters of spirituality, of the emotional bodies, of the mental body and the physical form and how we live and relate in this plane of existence with one another. That's my jam and that's my deep passion, and everything that sort of offshoots from that. I'm like nutrition for example. I heard you say earlier on when we were chatting, like hormonal regulation and some of the feedback of life shows up in so many different ways. Biochemistry is just one of the myriad. I like to get around things in a very holistic sense. That's sort of how I work and what I'm interested in. Mason Taylor: (03:18) There's a couple of things you'll touch on then. I think it'd be really nice to be able to come down back to a pillar, you know there's many pillars, a pillar in this chat. If we can keep on coming back to that concept of libido and rather than widening everyone's perspective and men's relationship with what that is deepening the concept. I feel like that'd be a nice place to continue to come back to. Especially, I wouldn't mind getting into, what I think is really fascinating is that integrative, that conversational aspect of body, emotions, your intellect and your mind and then your spirit, your essential cells. I got something I'd definitely recently, I feel like I've gotten a bit more conversation between all those aspects in myself and, but just over the years, that's always been my biggest trip up, in where my deepest patterns can come over and just start ruling my life is when I have this huge inner turmoil, when fighting between these two segments of my life. Especially if one's run off. If my mind and my morality and my logic is run off and created an identity for myself. Mason Taylor: (04:25) Then I realize that I've gone too far and I don't know how to get back. That can happen with diet, that can happen with ideology, or whatever it is. You come off center, naturally for me especially when you get a little bit older, you see that's going to be one of the core things that starts bottoming out libido, right? Nick Perry: (04:44) Most definitely. That's a beautiful, I suppose entry into what we're talking about because libido is feedback, and it's nice because it's very clear. It's either we're turned on or we're not. If we became a bit more objective around that, and removed the stigmas and the definitions of, I'm horny or I'm not horny, and became more observant of our own inner libido, we can actually nurture a very healthy relationship with a low libido and see the value in that as a feedback mechanism. It's like, okay, I'm noticing that my life force has decreased, to the point that my body has in a way decommissioned my sex drive. That's a gift, that's one of the most loving things the body could do for us is to say, "Hey, pay attention. Where are you making your choices from? Why are you burning the candle so low? Whose values are you expressing?" It can be our home base, it can bring us back in. The thing that I really like about libido and sex drive is, it's a difficult one to repress or to ignore. It screams us- Mason Taylor: (06:02) That's a good point. Nick Perry: (06:03) ... to the face particularly because culturally we're so, to a degree sexually geared, and then biologically we're sexually geared obviously, which is what we are speaking to now. Instinctually we're sexually geared as well, to honor high libido but also to honor low libido is a very valuable thing to cultivate for every single individual in my opinion. Mason Taylor: (06:28) You mean the state, the fluctuating nature within ourselves or in different men in different situations? Nick Perry: (06:35) I think just as a simple barometer, as a simple feedback tool. I know, for example, I use myself as an example. I know if I'm horny, I'm well rested, you got it? If I don't have sex drive, or the desire to ravish, then that's an indicator to me that my Qi's running low. That I've kind of betrayed myself to an extent in that I've traded in my health for some other sort of gain. I've lost the awareness, and I've lost the equilibrium and that low libido is indicating that to me. It helps me refine my center, reflect on the choices that I've made over the last four weeks, for example. Then I get the opportunity then, to cultivate a more honest relationship with myself and the intention that's driving my actions. A pattern for me, subconsciously, which is sort of an expression of my wounded is overcompensating. Nick Perry: (07:39) I get to reflect and check in, fuck over the last month, has my inner child really been in the driver's seat or has it been more of my king energy. As my warrior and my lover of being present with me and my inner father figure for example. Or did I lose awareness and fall into that old way of being and the overcompensatory pattern that's mine. I see it in a lot of other people that I work with, and friends and family and whatnot. We've all got our thing, that's going to create outcomes, and it's an inauthentic way to live and be and relate. I need feedback to be able to see that. That's the wisdom of the body speaking to me. It does that in a myriad of ways. The libido is a very loud and clear one for me where, I know, I've been unaware or unconscious in my decisions and actions for some time because for it to get to a stage where my libido is dropped, it takes a bit. Mason Taylor: (08:39) Especially to overcome like biological markers as well, that would be there because you've essentially, this is really important. I know you talk about these pillars a lot, and I think we should probably get to it later in the chat. Hydration, movement, diet, breath, so on and so forth. All these things, which are so paramount, if you're rocking those, because we've both been patterned to just making sure that those things are rocking. Hydration, actually speaking of hydration, I'll pop some molecular hydrogen in your water there. Hydrogen, super antioxidant. However, that stealth anti androgenic libido smasher, I [inaudible 00:09:20] point to like, I can definitely speak for myself, those emotional patterns and those intellectual patterns you start taking on during childhood and start running wild. Mason Taylor: (09:28) Definitely got mine emotional, but even if I go to an intellectual pattern, for me that was just really thrashing lately. In the last couple of years even, was that what I've been trying to really get a handle on it and what emerges if that's in its place, is that trying to control how I'm perceived by other people at all times. Obsessively in thinking that maybe the mind is in any intellectual, get bored of this and get atrophied after a while. It's just not, I'll just keep on sucking all your energy and that what eventually happens is, we start leaking the Jing. If you don't have, you keep going with your lifestyle and keep on getting enough daily Qi to kind of keep on feeding this addiction, this way of being, or for me, I'd say it was a dysfunction when it's excessive, as you were saying as well with your emotional wounded child, but then at some point it starts leaking Jing. Mason Taylor: (10:20) If you're already walking on eggshells as well, that's going to just immediately just suck up all that libido and all those sexual juices and that, it's all right, so in that. Because that's for me, I realize I'm getting a little bit older, a little bit wiser. I've got my daily practices of breath, I'm working, we went down to the little gym area we've got here at SuperFeast, there's things to be doing, but what's the center? I don't give a shit about superficial outcomes anymore. I don't give a shit about achieving certain elements of flexibility and strength or endurance things anymore. That always led me to those inner patterns and that disharmony between my mind and my emotion that led me to that place where I would slowly be leaking Jing, and maybe I could still get it up, but it's still, I wasn't really able to embrace that fiery sexual essence of myself. Mason Taylor: (11:13) In that nature of chop wood, carry water consistency, what are you doing daily or what are your greatest takeaways from your journey so far that are allowing you to come back into harmony, daily so that you're getting to the source of what's possibly wiping out that essence to begin with? Nick Perry: (11:32) It's easier when we have rituals, and when rituals are tailored right. When we figure out what's right for us because the one I'm about to say, I'm not dogmatic about, what I'm about to share of my own rituals is what I have experimented with for a lot of years and had support in and it comes from a range of different ideologies and modalities, like TCM, man, the Taoists wanted to live forever. Mason Taylor: (12:00) Some schools. Nick Perry: (12:01) Yeah. Their practices are really enjoyed. Then it's like some of the Tantric stuff and the yogic stuff and it's about, and then my own sort of creative flow and expression. But, when I wake up in the morning, for example, what I find works for me is checking in with my thought forms. That's super important. Checking in like is fear alive in me? Am I starting the day with fear alive in me? If it's there, to not reject it but to inquire, like what am I afraid about? What am I anxious of? Where is this projection coming from? That would be my first port of call in entering into the day, making sure that I'm making it, taking actions that conducive to a high libido. That's where it begins. Next thing, it's like a little detox ritual that I like to do. Like tongue scraping, that's an Ayurvedic thing. Mason Taylor: (12:55) Hard hitting questions, copper or stainless steel? Nick Perry: (12:58) Oh, stainless steel. Mason Taylor: (13:02) I don't know which dosha that means that you have, but anyway [crosstalk 00:13:08] Nick Perry: (13:10) No, breathing and then hydration. There are those pillars. Breathing in, water and thoughts reign supreme as the top three. That's where I start. Mason Taylor: (13:19) When you're doing your, looking at your thought forms, I say this because you mentioned you were a wounded child when your inner child, which is I get to be reductionist about it is very much about feeling states. Do you tune in? Do you have a personal method for tuning in to how you're feeling, of a morning or is that something more that you find is consistently working on throughout the day? Nick Perry: (13:38) How do I access the awareness of those quieter pieces and those subconscious pieces? My way is through the body. I'll notice typically, if I have a bit of a trajectory fear, my energy goes, and it stays from my neck up and it's sort of sitting around my head. What I do is I consult all corners of my body. Just with the breath, that's how I direct my intention. I'll breath down and I'm like, Oh, I can't breathe into my solar plexus. It's so tight right now, it's gripped with fear. I'll just breathe in and start to sort of mobilise the energy and the physical symptom of that energy until it starts to sort of open and soften and let go. Then I'm like, what was that about? It's through the body that I make that inquiry. Rather than notice that my head's busy first thing in the morning, it's a new day, that I've pulled yesterday in today, you know, that's a bit weird what's going on. Nick Perry: (14:43) I can't really unravel that or redirect that from the head space, so I need to come back down into the body and kind of get the circulatory system, all that energy in motion, make sure it's moving and not hyperactive in certain areas or underactive in certain ways. Hopefully that answers your question. Mason Taylor: (15:02) It's such a broad question. It does answer it. I was just curious in your little tag. It's something I really noticed my own, if I'm going to trip up, it's because I'm not taking, at least if I don't have that practice present and I don't have that dedicated time, I'm very good at constantly, throughout the day, tuning in and checking out what's going on. But if life's too busy, that doesn't work, creating that spaciousness and they come in every tradition, whether it's Taoist or Yogic or Shamanic or indigenous anywhere and everywhere, including psycho spiritual, they're always having a spaciousness to do the same thing every day where, and my acupuncturist is just kind of like really getting in and tuning at the moment in terms of that, you want to know what chop wood and carry water is? Mason Taylor: (15:48) Imagine you're fucking chopping wood for the rest of your life. It's not going to always be super insightful. You are literally getting an insight. The whole nature of enlightenment is letting go of that insight and going back to the mundane of chopping that wood. It's not that exciting anymore. That concept is the same as when you tune in every morning, what's going on with your emotions and feeling in or however it is through your body. You said, then, when you like doing your release of your diaphragm, that feel and then you heard that, what's going on there? That might just seem like a rhetorical question, but I think what I can feel is that, that wasn't a rhetorical question. That's like an actual, alright, come on what's going on in here? What am I feeling? Mason Taylor: (16:26) That's always my little, if I trip up, it's if I don't have that time where I go, I think you're saying, that's what I like, I do wake up in the mind, all right, what's going on and where are these thought falls coming from? What do I need to do to bring freedom to that space? Then how am I feeling? How am I feeling? Then how's my body feeling? That's something I've been... you bringing this up, there's four aspects of self, and I'm turning up to my practice for me at the moment, and just really stopping and seeing and feeling what the body needs when it gets to that back clear point. Mason Taylor: (16:58) That has been the most incredible thing for the depths of my libido in that, allowing the emotions to be felt, allowing my intellect to actually be acknowledged. Then what's coming through, is that melting pot in that refinery of then the spirit coming through. But I just wanted to hit that, because next, then just get your little tidbits on that. That's rad. Mason Taylor: (17:20) Then we're going on to the fact that we're talking libido. We've opened up talking about this. A lot of people know Juliet Allen, your partner, your lover, because she's been on the podcast previously and three half years ago, four years ago, she was on my podcast and the SuperFeast once was the most listened to podcasts, it was a great podcast. Just talking about all the things, talking about hand jobs, talking about- Nick Perry: (17:43) All the cool things. Mason Taylor: (17:44) ... talking about all the cool things, talking about sexual cultivation. Everyone loved it. But now we've chatted about these concepts of having these parts in ourselves that can be fractured, coming together and unifying and being tended to. Basically what I wanted to talk about now that we've talked about that, for everyone to know it, but that's the first place we've started in talking about libido. Mason Taylor: (18:06) Now, let's start talking about the fact that there's some guys listening. They'll be like, whoa, your longterm partner is a sexologist, one of Australia's most respected sexologists, and she's very avert and like Juliet, anyone who has listened to her. Now you're dating a sexologist. We're talking about libido. Where does the conversation go now? You mentioned before one of the things that, it pops up in our minds, what was it like in the fucking beginning, man? Were you thinking, shit! Were you trying to pull out techniques? Were you going back and reading the book, She Comes First? Was it just like, you just have to just throw it out and just assume that she'd be conscious enough to not judge you or did you have a process to actually get into a place of self love where you didn't feel any of those fears or anything? Mason Taylor: (18:54) Because I think what we're all talking to here or we're projecting that onto you, which I think I would probably, I can get the part of myself that would be thinking about that. We start touching on what you were speaking about earlier, is those unspoken social taboos or concepts or pressures that we have on ourselves and our own cocks and our own sexual performance there. That's what I assume where these questions towards you would be arising from, and maybe just a little bit of curiosity as well. If you wouldn't mind, let's open up that can of worms. Nick Perry: (19:23) It's a cool one. I want to make it as transparent and honest as possible. Just for the sake of that. How did I feel when we first... reflecting, I wasn't overthinking it at the time. For me, in the early stages of hooking up before it was an established relationship. Actually you know what, there was definitely a part of me that was thinking bring your A game. Mason Taylor: (19:55) It's just as simple as that boys. Nick Perry: (20:00) Definitely. Actually that's cool because I've kind of, where our relationship's evolved to now is just very expansive and it's more, I suppose there's a lot of other pieces in there, but early stages, how was it? All right. Ah, I haven't divulged this before, but I will because it's true, right? I came across Juliet, I'd heard of her work and I had just recently started getting quite involved with tantra and tantric practices. Anyway, I came across her Instagram and slid into the DMs. That's where it starts, I was like, "Oh wow-" Mason Taylor: (20:41) Is that, you guys tuned in on Instagram? Nick Perry: (20:42) ... I was like, wow, this is a really interesting woman. Mason Taylor: (20:46) That's how Tahnee and I met, on Instagram as well. Nick Perry: (20:49) For sure, it's like this is the age that we live in. It's possible to connect and initiate consciously through the social media platform for sure. That's what happened. I was like, there was a part of me that was almost, like there was a cheeky part of me that was like, "come on, have a crack." It was in our stories, and there was a Brian Jonestown Massacre song that I really like, and I was like cool, there's a relation point there, connection. Then anyways, so that's where the conversation started and then it fade away and for certain reasons and disappeared. But it was all cool. Then the universe sort of brought us back together and it came back up and then the day came when we had our first date and that was lovely. Then there was the second date where it was a bit like, okay, we've got that out of the way, now our true nature can come forward even more. Nick Perry: (21:48) She's very sexually geared, I'm very sexually geared. So there was the chemistry that took care of itself. But then there was the part of me that had this desire to perform. I think that's what you're asking, or where we're directing this is like, how conscious is that expectation that a man or a woman has on themselves to, "perform". What does perform mean? Because performance is defined by a plethora of assumptions. Those assumptions are established through how sex is portrayed to us from the moment that we're born, as this sort of really private taboo thing when we're kids, then we start to figure it out for ourselves as teenagers. It's a little bit more like raw and unconscious and- Mason Taylor: (22:47) ... Who knows what kind of patterns and stories we'd got if our parents weren't overtly loving each other, or if we saw them hiding it all. Seemingly just like, they watch porn or if we just walked in on them having sex and didn't have any context for it or anything like that. Who knows what pops up. Then as you're saying, you add in the societal elements to it because we're so prone to societal ideology and programming when we're young and gooey. What's the cocktail that comes out there? Nick Perry: (23:14) ... Exactly. It's like what's the cocktail and a cocktail is more potent and- Mason Taylor: (23:20) Hi, sorry, I had to say this, is it called a flaccarita? All right. Nick Perry: (23:26) Flaccarita? Mason Taylor: (23:27) You settle down, everybody. Come on, get serious. Nick Perry: (23:29) 10 deep breaths. It's about the unconscious way of relating and a sure way to down regulate polarity and chemistry in the sexual connection. Mason Taylor: (23:51) Can you say more about down regulating that polarity? Nick Perry: (23:54) Yeah. Think of attraction in terms of a positive charge and a negative charge. So you look at a car battery or any sort of electrical current, there needs to be a very much negatively charged pole and positively charged pole. That's how that arc happens. That's how that spark ignites. Mason Taylor: (24:17) You're talking about generally like the polarity between a man and a woman especially? Nick Perry: (24:20) Yes. We think of like negative, which is the drawing part of the current, pulling in as the feminine and the out, like the doing and the taking and the ravishing polarity as the positive, the masculine. What you will notice with, that awareness is like the most cosmic sex happens when there is a strong polarity in the room. When there's a strong polarity between two people. The point that I was getting at is what down regulates that magical cosmic charge is when we get stuck in our head. The times that we get stuck in our head, the worst is when the inner critic really comes through and really comes forward. Nick Perry: (25:19) To bring that back to the context of what you and I were just talking around, like society's definition of a good lover and the social pressure of, how long did you fuck for? How many times did she come? Say these things, these performance markers- Mason Taylor: (25:39) Are we able to go straight away afterwards again. Nick Perry: (25:42) ... Yeah, all that stuff. There is a space for that, but where's the conversation in the mainstream around the sex without penetration. Sex doesn't just include friction and penetration. There is ways to connect energetically that, like an example I'll give is for somebody who's really not following. It's like, have you ever sat in front of your lover naked, cross-legged and eye gazed for five minutes? Noticed how your breath synchronizes and notice how you feel. Either your cock or your pussy starts to tingle and you start to feel that sex center really awaken and really awaken and that charge gets really strong. If you can hold the breath, keep it cycling and circulating, typically you'll notice that charge goes all the way up and you start to really feel it in your chest, in your heart center. That starts to tingle, and that starts to open. Suddenly it's like you get to a stage where you feel that you are, you have penetrated the person sitting in front of you without the physical penetration per se having occurred. Nick Perry: (27:13) To bring it back to what we're speaking to, it's like the piece that I'm reflecting on for myself was how much of these tantric tools had I learned and how capable was I of applying that? My first, Juliet and mine first hookup, and how much of the old way of being stuck in my head and being goal-orientated and being more concerned about having the reputation of a mack, than actually having a deep intimate connection. Where was I? Where did I land in that? Somewhere in the middle, I reckon. Mason Taylor: (27:53) Did you feel like, because I can kind of like from personal experience, I don't know whether this is the case, especially in the beginning when the oxytocin is cranking as well, I feel sometimes the most virtuous aspects of ourselves can very naturally emerge. I feel after that honeymoon period for me burst and all those insecurities come crashing forth. That's, just to make sure that I'm not just talking about that initial stage for anyone listening as well or even for yourself. I just wanted to kind of put that out there as well, just in case that was something worth speaking to. Nick Perry: (28:32) That's arguably far more important to speak to, because everybody at least knows conceptually, or a lot of people have experienced the honeymoon stage. That is the newness of a relationship where that polarity takes care of itself, for the most part. There is so much charge and so much of that you'd like you say, oxytocin running through the bloodstream and then we become familiar with one another and we stop looking at each other through new eyes each day. That's where the demise begins I think. We create... the mystery and the wonder of the person starts to fade and we start to form an idea of them. If we're not conscious, most of those ideas are just projections of ourselves. Mason Taylor: (29:40) Or our parents. Nick Perry: (29:41) Yeah. Parts of us that, of our parents. Then we stop seeing them through new eyes and that aliveness and that magic and that wonder of the honeymoon stage fades. We typically fall into our old way of being again. Then, we've got this mirror in our life now, that if we don't take responsibility for ourselves, we start blaming them for the things in us that are unresolved or where we're feeling miserable or blind. What happens is, it's like we start to go into a familiar way of being, and it's like the thought and the emotion that equates to our state of being. That's thought forms, unconscious and conscious and the chemistry, the hormones that those thought forms signal. Then we've got this like cellular neurochemical identity and we've arrived back there. If we weren't fully in love with ourselves before the relationship, the relationship isn't going right to fill that hole, basically. If we're not cultivating connection and relationship where there is awareness and ownership of that, and structure where we can support each other in seeing that and resolving it for ourselves, then that's when toxicity forms. Mason Taylor: (31:20) What about... because self love is, I feel like almost a term, for me became quite cliche from the Instagram world. But I always, endeavour to not let my judgmental mind, just [inaudible 00:31:37] like sit there and go and go into the depths of what we're actually talking about about self love. I definitely, I feel like that's, I'm kind of getting the gravity of that lately. The extent and just how uncomfortable... I thought I was, maybe I'm happy to say I love you to my dad, but there's quite often something a little bit uncomfortable there. But the gravity of how uncomfortable I was really feeling in love with myself and not needing to be overtly... I've gone, had experiences just like trying to.. Trying to deepen my own sexual relationship with myself. Mason Taylor: (32:16) Again it was a little bit... that's something that may emerge from my self love. That's okay. But I was inherently, I guess that inherent shame of feeling how sexually, how much of a sexual man I am, which we all are [inaudible 00:32:31]. I shouldn't generalise like that, but a lot of us are and just feeling like what do I do with that? I'm so used to sending that out or that for game or using that to please someone else. What do I do with that much love, including what I now kind of feel is that sexual Yang energy. Mason Taylor: (32:49) What do I do with that..? What does that self-love look like? I think it looks very simple externally, but just anything to talk to in that process of you coming back to loving yourself, therefore not projecting onto your partner? Nick Perry: (33:06) Yeah. I'll put a scale to it I suppose. Because like you said, it gets thrown around Instagram a lot and it's like, oh, if you've got problems, just love yourself. It's like that's not helping. Mason Taylor: (33:23) Just have a self care Sunday. Nick Perry: (33:26) Totally. Mason Taylor: (33:27) Don't forget the bath. Nick Perry: (33:29) Oh, and the bath bomb and little glass of bubbly 80, 20 [crosstalk 00:33:33]. Mason Taylor: (33:33) You really love yourself. Nick Perry: (33:43) That's what we here to do. Loving yourself is your life's work and it's important to make that your center. Like that's your center. That's where you return to. I'll give an example, so this makes a bit more sense. There's lots of people championing and promoting and holding in high esteem, philanthropist work, being in service to others. So that's, when it's done unconsciously, is one, codependent, which is unhealthy. Two, the philanthropist work becomes the source of distraction for coming home to the authentic self, back to the heart temple. I want, because you mentioned the Instagram thing, I just wanted to drop that as well because self love is a very personal journey. Nick Perry: (34:49) We can review spiritual philosophy and we can get coaching and we can accumulate different tools through our toolkit. But the integration, the application and the exploration of the path of self love doesn't stop ever. If you get there in this lifetime, then you'll essentially ascend. Self love- Mason Taylor: (35:17) [inaudible 00:35:17] Don't worry guys, you'll get there and it's good, me and Nick liked it. Nick Perry: (35:19) That was super fun. It was cool hanging out with the Buddha. He's a cack... Mason Taylor: (35:24) He's all right. Nick Perry: (35:28) Oh hell no. Look, take it from me, anyone listening. I don't love myself, but I am on the journey. That journey requires acceptance of where I am. You can't take a step towards self love, without first accepting exactly where you are exactly as you are. Mason Taylor: (35:53) That extends to exactly how your body is. I think I've heard you talk, actually I've heard you talk to Juliet on your podcast about this. That felt familiar, accepting where your body is at, before you're taking a step into the gym or into your own personal practice. Accepting what your cock and your libido and your body, doesn't necessarily mean justification. Doesn't mean sitting there and just gorging on what, I accept this is how I am and that's it. I'm just going to sit here. [crosstalk 00:36:30]. Nick Perry: (36:29) It's not apathy. Mason Taylor: (36:29) No it's not apathy. But that's probably one of the most... that for me, or just you saying that, that brings up that wall of, "Oh, that's uncomfortable." Damn and what if you go beyond the superficial and you go to that part of yourself that in all reality, doesn't change, it's been constant through all the fluctuations of your body and your libido, through the last few decades. For most people that had been listening, and so, but by logic sake, there is something which transcends all of it. Because it's still in you, you have to have it in that relationship with yourself and that coming home to, even that consideration of who am I. What is love? What is that love and how does it, how do I relate to it within myself? And feeling that non pressured, what's it going to be like when I'm 80? Maybe this is... maybe when I'm 90 maybe this is a nice intention, speaking for myself now, it's a really nice way to go into my personal practice and my movement, or even my diet exploration and definitely my sex life. Even my relationship with my daughter. Mason Taylor: (37:37) Where am I coming from, from that place where, it may be when I'm looking at those things and when I'm 80 years old and feeling into those things that I have settled into, more of a loving place, whatever that happens to be, that's nice, slow and steady to engage, right? That's massive. You're saying it wasn't just sexual techniques when you first got together? Nick Perry: (38:06) But I'm saying it was too. Mason Taylor: (38:08) I was going to say, what's the 80-20 rule come back and apply again? Just as a general. 80% self love. Nick Perry: (38:17) For sure that's the acceptance piece, right? Acceptance of our shadows, because projection of our shadows, of our savage, of our tyrants, of our... just gives them more reign, more space to be calling the shots. I think sex is a vehicle for spiritual exploration, big time. Because there's those parts, sex, with all the stigma and the shame that just comes with the territory in our society and culture. It's kind of a private place to start to work on parts of the self that we wouldn't dare expose to anyone. Whenever I'm working with someone, and they're not sure where to start, the thing that I sometimes cue them with is, "What's the one thing you don't want me to know about you? What's the thing that you would be mortified to expose?" Nick Perry: (39:31) Take that idea and take it into the bedroom and do it consciously and hold space for your partner to do the same. Then there's this exploration, and there's this healing going on, but there's also an integration, because how we show up in the bedroom is how we show up to life. Mason Taylor: (39:50) Can I also say, because you're talking about communication there. Have you got an example? Even just made up, of something that you wouldn't want known and the kind of process of communicating that, or how you would hold space or request space to be held? Nick Perry: (40:09) Yeah. Well in the context of sex? Mason Taylor: (40:16) Yeah, let's look at that. Nick Perry: (40:21) Probably the obvious one to go to here is kink. Just as an example of where might somebody be suppressing themselves. That means where are they denying their truth, that this is what turns them on. Because maybe they'll be rejected. There'll be suppression of that and that suppression festers and turns into resentment to the other person, because they're not stepping out of the comfort zone and initiating a conversation around, "Hey, this would turn me on. How does that land on you and would you be into exploring this role play with me?" Nick Perry: (41:06) It's like, I want to choke you or we want to choke each other, for example. Somebody might be like terrified to expose that. How do you initiate the conversation? By first of all, know that it's not a good idea to just dive into it. To sort of stare yourself in the eyes in the mirror and just run out and say, choke me, whatever it is. A sentence that works for me is, when is a good time to talk to you about something that's important to me? It's not bad, because it's really respectful of the person. Mason Taylor: (41:52) Sorry about my weird. But I'm like, "damn, that's good." Nick Perry: (42:04) It gives time for that person to center themselves and to assume that the polarity of the space holder. They're not going to be in a reactive place and they know that you are going to go to more of a vulnerable space. That can be very, if you're the space holder, it can be like a ... I'll give you an example because, typically the feminine has a freer flow of emotion. It's actually, an access emotion and express emotion, and that's a generalization- Mason Taylor: (42:47) But I think that's a fair one. Nick Perry: (42:48) ... it's a fair one. We see evidence of that easily. Mason Taylor: (42:53) Just physiologically, governed by Blood and Yin versus men being governed by Qi and Yang. Nick Perry: (43:00) Right on. Imagine if you lived in that state. For a man to just cross the bridge and be like, how would that be? How would that be? It's actually a gift for a man to ask a woman to hold space for him to go into that emotional place in that feminine flow. Because then she gets a break. She gets to pause from being in that place and she gets to be, sort of occupied the voidal space in herself while she's holding space for you to go into that vulnerability or whatever's coming out that emotional charge to move that. Nick Perry: (43:47) Back to, how do you initiate a conversation like that? That sentence is a great one. To bring in, if you're not sure where to go, allow a playfulness to be present in the conversation and you can do that by just going, "Oh, I'm really nervous here. I want to talk about some things that turn me on that I haven't shared with you yet. I just love to just expose that to you and see if you'd be open to exploring that with me." Mason Taylor: (44:24) Dude so good. Couple of things popping up, first of all, the times when I've been there wanting to say that, it'd be nice to have that wording and as well as just, it's very obvious, but it's something that you forget when you're in your mind. Also, sometimes I feel like I've almost felt the pressure because one of my assumptions are, you need to know what you want as a man. Sometimes I just don't know what I want. In that instance of, say, if I was going to say in the instance of choking, I wouldn't be like, I don't know if that's what I want, but perhaps I'd like to explore. I feel like that, I would have liked to have known that ability to communicate. I'd like to explore this, without feeling that pressure that, this was my projection, that I'm going to get judged as someone who wants this when in fact I wouldn't mind if I knew that I wanted it, but maybe I don't want it. Mason Taylor: (45:19) I want to explore it and see where it goes. I feel like that's a huge piece just opening up that space to be able to share. Would be able to communicate. Would you also think that that's a similar thing if there's, if you have insecurities about size, performance, not being able to get it up, sometimes coming too fast and quite often when there are not even issues, they're just thing, I know I've had my things that have hung on despite the fact that the evidence been to the contrary, that I still to maintain as absolute truths, whether it's just through chatting with boys and then making assumptions. Or porn, when you're in your early teen years or whatever it is and it just sticks. Mason Taylor: (46:02) Was it working that same way? Do you find that approach of I wanted like something too important to talk to. When can we have a chat about something important? I just like to communicate this insecurity that's there. Nick Perry: (46:14) Oh my God, yes. That is such an amazingly expansive conversation to have. Such a gift that you could offer whoever you're sharing that with, the safety that that creates for that person to then divulge something that they've been holding on to, is then formed. You've just created a container in pushing yourself to expose that shame piece for you. The healing alchemy of that, in sharing that is, I'll give an example. Cock shame, lots of women, from the women I've discussed this with, aren't aware of how afflicted men are with cock shame. What I also want to add to that is, the shame that a man holds around his cock will directly impact his self esteem in every other aspect of his life. Nick Perry: (47:28) Men are holding back and they're not realizing that if you followed it in like what's the blockage? What's the limitation for so many males? Part of that is this perception they have of their cock and that their cock isn't good enough. That their cock isn't unworthy and that the cock is an appendage of the man. It's actually just, it carries into the rest of the being. The most amazing thing, and any brothers listening to this, just open your mind to exploring. If you maybe have some cock shame, is to go there and to speak to it. There doesn't need to be any fixing, or resolution that comes from it, but bring it out of the shadow and just name it. That is such an empowering fucking action to take. Mason Taylor: (48:34) You are saying, without that expectation or agenda on it being like resolved then as well. I think that's where my mind has put too much pressure on the sharing and wanting a resolution in that moment. That's where I've lost that motivation on continuously to just keep on bringing you into the light, sharing in appropriate ways. For bro's who are out in a relationship at the moment, you've got ways that they can go through that process for themselves? Nick Perry: (49:02) Yes. Ok there's a couple of things that just sprang to mind. Become responsible for who you surround yourself with. If you were around men who can't go there, then put yourself around different men who are willing to have that conversation, who are mature enough to hold space for that, who might be willing to lean into that for themselves and expose that, and have a very beautiful intimate healing relationship, friendship conversation around that. How can you do that? I'm part of a non for profit organization called ManKind Project, MKP. Without going too deeply into that right now, that is a, they hold men circles. It's global. It's all around, it's all around Australia. It's all around the world. It's online, they're called igroups, the men circles that they hold, there's online igroups. Nick Perry: (50:15) Literally, you can seek out the right environment and the right people and put yourself there, and push yourself to have the conversation. That is how you're going to step more into self love. Like we were saying, that's the trajectory of self love. That's the inconvenience of self love. It's not convenient to love yourself, because you got to drop, start dropping these defense mechanisms that have served you. They got you to where you're at, you're still alive. Mason Taylor: (50:46) It's not convenient based on the way that society is set up in the way we've kind of got that story about selves. How the propaganda machine is driven, the way that life needs to look for us. It's kind of completely go against grain of that and going with the grain of our spirit and our emotions and our integration, which is ultimately been like, life being more fun, and rad, and sexually potent more laughter and good parties and being able to fill your cup in terms of, we know your practice actually widening your cups so you can get out there and contribute to other people having a rad time in life. Mason Taylor: (51:22) I mean it would probably end with that, with men's circles, I think what some people, I see a lot of men, a lot of men around this area as well as, it's just like, I need to completely eject myself from all social circles that don't foster these kinds of conversation. Which I know you're not talking to but...Sometimes I feel like we take [crosstalk 00:51:39]. Nick Perry: (51:43) That's shadowy as fuck again. It's like going into, so thank you so much for bringing that up. Because what I'm saying is, if those relationships and environments aren't in your life, then choose to have them in your life and put yourself in them. That doesn't mean to scave and abandon and judge and condemn other men and brothers who might'n be making these inquiries just yet. We all have different degrees of readiness. There isn't a right or a wrong by any fucking means. There's no step in anybody's journey that isn't sacred or divine. It's like, the whole process is divine. Recognise the divinity in every person no matter where they're at. Mason Taylor: (52:40) That's like, that's ideology one-o-one. Going like, I'm ready to go down this route. Then, by all intents and purposes, you can look at a guy who's, maybe not doing that, but he's decided to take it upon himself to I don't know learn like carpentry or, go down the routes of like, mechanics or something like that and feeling that's something that he's exploring in himself right now. Then judge the shit out of you, because you're not actually taking the responsibility for your own car or house or whatever. It's all ideology. That's good. That's good stuff, it's spicy. Nick Perry: (53:17) Nice. There's just one little thing as well I want to say. Because recently, I had a trippy experience with this. Talking about the cock thing, the cock conversation. "I'm going to say it out loud and be seen and witnessed in speaking to the cock shame is a very healing way to transmute that shame. The other thing is, start to befriend your cock again. What I realised was my cock was a commodity to me. It was a commodity to me, and it was a burden. It was either a commodity or a burden. It's like I lost the shame. It messed up. Mason Taylor: (54:09) [inaudible 00:54:09]. Nick Perry: (54:10) Having a really positive relationship with your cock, how I... I had this experience a few months ago and I'd just done a sweat lodge and I was tripping and I came out and I was staring at the flyer and I was real head spinney and I sort of slumped over. I was slowly sorta like rolling up my spine, back to a standing position, I kind of went eye to eye, with my own cock. It was the first time I'd seen it, in a very long time where I was like, saw it beyond the flesh and artery that it is. I was like, Whoa and I really connected to what it does. It's like this part of me brings a lot of pleasure into my life. This part of me has the potential to create a human being to be a part of that birthing alchemy. Nick Perry: (55:23) This is my creative center. This is the sacral chakra essentially. All my ideas that have come into fruition were birthed from this energy center and then that rose up through me and came out and became an ecosystem, in reality. I kind of appreciated my cock consciously for the first time in a really long time instead of being just judgmental about it and non appreciative. One thing that is nice to start practicing is, it's a cock gazing. It's like, look at your cock, look at it, look at it in the mirror, stand up and look at it as yours, as a part of you. It's with you on this journey of life. Get it on site again. It's your friend, it's your mate. That's a personal practice that you can do on your own, that can have... just really develop awareness and actually it can develop awareness. Nick Perry: (56:47) It can expose how close your heart is to your own cock, or it can help you, which then becomes your priority, becomes your work or it can reconnect you to that, "Oh yeah. I fucking love, I love this fucking thing." Mason Taylor: (57:04) The cock can be the key to your heart. Nick Perry: (57:07) Totally. Mason Taylor: (57:10) It's true. Mason Taylor: (57:11) You can see exactly what that looks like. Nick Perry: (57:20) The circumference of my cock. I guess, we're laughing, but there's a degree of seriousness in there. Mason Taylor: (57:39) I think the laughing is a nice aspect to accompany the seriousness, because quite often another kind of thing that's unspoken, which is I just constantly observed myself as I have these peak experiences. Like you had a peak experience there coming out of ceremony and having that bang, whoa. Then not having, for a lot of men, like I said, I felt like this in the beginning, not realizing that it doesn't need to be at that peak experience state all the time. That it's just then it's like, ah, appreciation and that subtleness of that it's again the chop wood, carry water. You had your big pop moment and then you don't let it go, and just let that appreciation just seep in in very practical ways. Mason Taylor: (58:22) Even though it's possibly one of the most sacred relationships and there is an energetic reality to your Yang energy and your Jing energy and your energy of your cock and your libido emerging up and lighting up your heart so that your spirit can emerge. It's also very funny. Cocks and sex are very funny as well. You need to live your life. It's not all just some big hand on heart ceremony where you can go, then you go out of one societal taboo into a spiritual scene, sacred taboo, where you're not allowed to ever take the piss out of these things and actually live your life in accordance to who you are. There's someone in a way that's sustainable. Nick Perry: (59:05) Totally. I think it was Alan Watts that one of his quotes is, it's all just a cosmic joke. Mason Taylor: (59:13) Yeah fucking oath it is. Nick Perry: (59:15) It's an explosion of novelty and we're just picking up the parts of ourselves in this fucking, whatever this simulation that we're in, is [inaudible 00:59:30]. If you can't laugh, then you're totally missing the point. If you can't laugh at all of it, even the tragedy and the terror, then you're missing the point. Hell yes, such a great one to speak to. Mason Taylor: (59:44) Absolutely. With the tragedy, I mean, tragedy is tragedy. There's romance to tragedy at the same time. Likewise, there's tragedy of romance. But we don't have to trip out too much on that. But I think, because [crosstalk 01:00:01]. To bring us home, I just wanted to tune into something that I've heard you speak about, which is, if you want, I think quite often a gap I felt a lot of men would feel is we're able to just turn it on. We've got that Yang, we can just turn on and go, "Oh shit, didn't even realise I was horny." Perhaps it's a biologically driven horniness, perhaps not. Mason Taylor: (01:00:27) But the nature of, when you're in partnership and you are turned on by your life, then it makes it possible for you to be in that sexual dance, either with yourself or with your partner in at all times, every morning. Perhaps during the day, perhaps with texts, perhaps while making dinner, there is a continuation of your essence coming forth. It's not just you trying to be in foreplay at all times or trying to be sexy. It's an emergence an innate emergence because you are in fact turned on by your life. Mason Taylor: (01:01:08) I thought that when you were talking about that, I was just like, ah, yeah man. The concept of being turned on by the way you're managing your money, your job, your work, your contribution, your movement, whatever it is, is such a huge concept to all of this. I thought it'd be a nice way to take out talking about libido. Nick Perry: (01:01:33) Hell yeah, man. It's the feedback. It's kind of, we're coming around full circle. We're talking, we started with saying, libido is a very quick way to check in on where you're at spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally. When libido is down, that's a signal and you need to find what's out of step, what's out of balance. You'll get feedback when you are in making affirmative choices for your own authentic, for your uniqueness, for your own self. Because you will, you have sexual charge running through your body all the time. You'll feel turned on by the mundane. What would be seemingly mundane. It's like," Hmm, I'm going to ride my bike down and check the surf". It's just this enthusiasm and juiciness in that. You're exuding a high frequency basically. Nick Perry: (01:02:40) To make sense of that, and I don't think that we've touched on this overtly, but your sexual energy is your creative energy. If you are creating your day, if you have a blueprint for your life that you chose and that is construct of your own core values, that's exciting. That's sexy, because you're building your own kingdom and it's an extension of you. It's an expression of you. It's like, my creative energy is running and where I invest, it returns back to me, because it is an expression of what I value. It's this cyclic charge, like the microcosmic, orbital breathing. It's coming up the spine and down and back up. But it's like a closed chain cycle. Nick Perry: (01:03:40) That's why a high libido doesn't just indicate that you're horny and you want to fuck. It also can be a indicator that, I'm being true to me and the things that I'm investing my life force in and every minute of my life I don't get back. I'm exchanging my life for something that I value in return rather than working a job that you fucking hate. You're exchanging your life, like you're getting paid essentially because you're giving them your life. You gave up that company or whatever, eight hours of your life that you won't get back. Sure, you're getting paid for the labor or the skill. But to me, what's a more helpful context to review that from? Are you aware that you are investing your life into that person's project? Ok cool we've got that. Now, checking a little teapot. Nick Perry: (01:04:47) Do your values align with that person? Does that person's mission inspire you? No. Okay. Do you feel miserable rocking up to that place every day? Yes. Does the frequency not align with your frequency? Yes or no fucking shit. Is your sex drive dropping? Yeah for sure. Mason Taylor: (01:05:08) Even in that situation like again, taking those little steps, just trying to bring as much of your values and not being smothered by the external values of the workplace even, right? Giving it a good honest try and seeing if you can drive, bring your goodness and your love and lustre for life. Especially if it's a situation you don't feel it's actually that easy to get out of. Give it a real good, honest try. But I think you're right. If it's just all hell no's everywhere you look, it might be a stealthy kind of antiandrogen, but it's going to be an antiandrogen 100%. Then when then what are we looking at? We're looking at lowered bone density, lower muscle mass, lower mental acuity, and then just lower ability to actually connect with ourselves and lovers to be able to actually sit down and look your partner in the eye and not get skiddish, should your patterns to come up, to be able to even just do that for like a few seconds. Mason Taylor: (01:06:08) That all starts washing out in that excessive sacrifice essentially, just going with the flows of marketing and the corporate world, or just that traditional business model, which is just pure flat out and more, more, more. Nick Perry: (01:06:28) Consume, consume, consume. But for what? It's like, are you making love with the world? If you're not, know that, see that, and then give yourself three to five years to change that. Because, pretty much my point is, you're not getting, energy is not returning back to you day to day. For yourself, you're building an unbelievable kingdom and your company is a creation of your values and your passions. You rock up and you're surrounded by inspiration and you fucking embody life.That's probably the best description I could really choose for you right now. Is you are, you have a surplus of life force. You glow and that's- Mason Taylor: (01:07:43) Shucks... Nick Perry: (01:07:45) That's unbelievably inspiring. That's a self fulfilling prophecy of yours for whatever reason. But it is a product of the choices you made. The choices you made, lucky for you, whether it was conscious or unconscious, had this determination to incorporate your core values and your passion and stuff like that. You wear it. I see it. You have two podcasts, your ecosystem is enormous. Then you've got these other beings involved in that. These beings are beautiful people who I got to meet today, and they've got a lot of life exuding out of them and they've got a beautiful high frequency. They're on board with that. That's an indicator that, your sexual energy is running and flowing and you are giving birth, you've given birth to a human being. Nick Perry: (01:08:43) You haven't given birth yourself, but by, you know, your seed. You've given birth to this company. I'm sure there's other projects, you've got that little gym downstairs and it's like you've given birth to all these ideas. Those ideas have been projected out of the space in between your ears and into the world. Your sexual energy has given birth to that. That's how libido serves us beyond the bedroom. It doesn't need to be confined to sex, penetration, friction. Mason Taylor: (01:09:20) It's interesting, you just talking about the [inaudible 01:09:22], In that space because that, that connection is highly fit, has been known in theoretical and then that sexual energy is creative energy. Even just then acknowledging, there are creations here at SuperFeast on educating on the podcast and these things were, I can feel that creative essence and I can feel that satisfaction and joy there. Then tracking it back, to it's source, that's all just now, I've been a really nice practice for me to get in touch with the source of that creative essence and that sexual energy within myself. Also I appreciate the giving yourself three to five years saying that to the guys out there. This has been, there is a lot happening now, in SuperFeast which is happening exceptionally fast, because of how strong the foundations are and how many people are with the gym downstairs that comes together very quickly. Because I'm especially collaborating with Wazza who you've met. Mason Taylor: (01:10:23) We both had a creative outlet there. But then also going back and just seeing how all the hours of schlepping it, and accepting that meek, and that mundane and then over the years, possibly having appreciated as much as possibly can. You mentioned riding down, the checking the surf and just inquiring in those moments of how can those moments be infused with my essence and myself because it is always going for me. It's always a reflection that, I do have an external agenda right now that isn't representing my true inner intent. But that's just always biofeedback and experience and that, I think guys carry a lot of pressure. I'm going to do this. In one year's time, it hasn't all completely transformed on its head in but this is a practical thing, but it's worth speaking to that part of us that forgets this or maybe some boys listen to this and men listen to this. Kind of early on and I'm going to have that intense pressure on their self. Just nice and slow and steady consistency and it's your shit anyway. It's your journey anyway. It's your creativity anyway. You can't go wrong. Nick Perry: (01:11:40) You can't go wrong. Mason Taylor: (01:11:42) It's going to be shit at times when you take responsibility and you stop trying to flee certain things that you just know that you should be sorting out in your life. It might be boring at times and mundane, but if you've really set your vision in that direction that it's purely you, you will infuse those areas with life. You'll fuck them. What does fucking- Nick Perry: (01:12:08) Yeah baby that's right. Mason Taylor: (01:12:08) ... when you look at the world, you just said that. What comes to mind is what happens when you make love and you fuck in the way that it's purely you. You are connecting deeply. You're having an intensely pleasurable experience. You're learning about yourself, if it's self-pleasure, that's sex specially with your lover, they're learning about themselves and opening up, how are you fucking the world in that kind of context? I think, I don't know whether I heard you say that or maybe Juliet talking about fucking the world as well, but that's kind of really materializing that idea or that concept and the reality of that's what's going on. If our creative and therefore manifesting expression is emerging from our sexual energy, then get really conscious about how you're fucking yourself, your lovers and the world. Nick Perry: (01:13:00) Thank you man. That's such a beautiful elaboration and it just, it reminds me that there's breakup sex, there's wild sex. There's slow and intimate sex. There's kinky sex. In the bedroom, there's all these different ways to connect and relate. To keep that in mind that there isn't necessarily a right way to make love , in, like you said, in the creative process, in bringing your dream, materializing your dreams into reality, there are those really grindy days and that's just another way to fuck if you stay conscious. Then there's those really expensive elating days where it all comes together and that's another way to fuck. But yeah, if you stay connected to yourself, and stay accountable to your values and the blueprint that you've taken time to construct around, like what do I want my reality to look like and how is that going to make the world a better place and better the experience in this world for my loved ones? Yeah, go forth and fuck. Mason Taylor: (01:14:18) Yeah, I love it. On that, where can any men or women wanting to reach out, you're a holistic health coach. You work with people on many areas whether diet, functional movement, hydration, and then they're all leading back in entwining into this kind work and coming back to our genuine selves. Bringing together our emotional child, our intellect, body, spirit, anyone wanting to work with you. In that, I mean work with you one on one, but you also have a few offerings on your website, I believe. Where can they find you? Nick Perry: (01:14:57) One on one coaching or sometimes courses or workshops and stuff come through. Best place is either the gram, so that's Rhythm Health, R-H-Y-T-H-M Health or my website, which is rhythmhealth.com. That would be the best way. Hit me up with an email. DM me on Instagram, as you heard earlier sometimes you

What does it mean to have true intimacy in your everyday life? To feel deeply connected to everything you are and to have others see you in that way too? Intimacy is something that can of course mean different things to us all, but I think you're going to love my guest today - Juliet Allen - and her very special take on what true intimacy really is. As a sexologist I couldn't let the opportunity pass me by to talk to Juliet about the connection between sex and intimacy and also sex and spirituality as well. It makes for a soulful, spirited and sexy conversation that I hope you love.

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[The Teachers]For episode 42 of Offline, host Alison Rice sits down for a second time with leading Australian sexologist and host of Authentic Sex, Juliet Allen. If you haven’t listened to their first honest conversation and you’d like to, here it is. The pair discuss sex as a pathway to healing, sex magic, why our cycle is sacred, why it is time to redefine the word slut and much more. This time around, Juliet answers questions sent in from Offline’s curious and thoughtful listeners. Topics include: becoming more confident in the bedroom, how to improve your libido, how to accept your partner’s sexual attraction to others, how to communicate your sexual needs, how to communicate you have an STD, why we should consider organic alternatives to supermarket lube, how to get in touch with your feminine after a major operation like a hysterectomy, sex-positive porn, why enjoying anal sex comes down to trust and Juliet’s tips to authentic and connected oral sex.Warning: Some parts of this honest conversation are difficult and confronting. If you need help or support, please reach out:Reach Out’s sexual assault support directoryCall 1800 RESPECTAlison also advises not to have kids around for this one!Listen to Authentic SexFollow Juliet on InstagramMORE FROM OFFLINE AND ALISON RICEBecome a student of Self StudyIf you’re interested in learning about True Self, conscious success and more, consider becoming a student of Self Study — Offline’s school.Book a coaching session Offline’s host, Alison Rice, is an award-winning leader and conscious coach. She offers personal coaching sessions. Find out more or book directly. Early access For early access to new episodes of the podcast, Self Study learning opportunities and Offline events, follow @getoffline.co and @alisonlarsenrice on Instagram or Facebook. Share with those in needIf you know someone who would benefit from hearing these honest conversations, please share Offline with them.Original music by DLakeCreates. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

I have had a cold and still do.  Which has given me more time to just chill and play with my phone.  Specifically with Apps.  Today's episode I will be talking about 2 apps I have downloaded that are pretty cool to me.  One of the apps was mentioned on an amazing podcast called Authentic Sex starring the host Juliet Allen.  The other app I will talk about is about "nomo".  It is about eliminating  whatever you want to eliminate in your life.  This episode is for men and women.  Men, listen so you can understand your lady better.  She will be happy you did. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/alimoon76/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/alimoon76/support

Most people have some funny, bad or even embarrassing sex stories. Where you end up laying there confused and frustrated... wondering what the heck happened! For a long time, I put up with mediocre and sometimes downright painful sex because I thought ‘that’s just what you do’. Well, sexologist Juliet Allen is here to bust that myth and to teach you how to cultivate a sex life that’s nothing short of mindblowing, heart opening, and expansive (for both women AND men)!Head to https://melissaambrosini.com/213 for full episode resources and more inspiring weekly episodes. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today Mason chats to Australia's leading sexologist Juliet Allen. Juliet is a deeply talented and educated woman who openly shares her knowledge from her background in psychology and sexology. Juliet is a qualified Yoga Teacher and Kundalini Tantra practitioner who is committed to freeing people from mundane and disempowered sexual relationships. Juliet authentically shares from her own personal experiences as a sexually empowered woman, and truly believes that great sex can be experienced by women and men every single day.   *Note this podcast contains explicit (sexy) language. In this podcast Mason and Juliet discuss: The renaissance of holistic sexuality emerging in today's society. The foundations of holistic sexuality. The importance of self love and self pleasure in the quest for true connection in life and in love. The power and potency of sexual energy. Sexual sustainability in body, mind, spirit and practice. Mindful masturbation. The continuous nature of foreplay. The art of knowing yourself sexually. Embodied orgasm. The connection between sound foundational health and libido. Sexual archetypes.   Who is Juliet Allen Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Coach, Tantra Practitioner and host of the Authentic Sex podcast.  With a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner, Juliet facilitates 1:1 coaching sessions, educative workshops, and transformative online courses. Juliet’s purpose is to empower men and women to embrace their sexuality and transform their sex and relationships.   Resources Juliet Allen Website Juliet Allen Instagram Juliet Allen Facebook Authentic Sex podcast Juliet & Mason Chat Medicinal Mushrooms, Tonic Herbs and Sexuality Mantak Chia   Q: How Can I Support The SuperFeast Podcast? A: Tell all your friends and family and share online! We’d also love it if you could subscribe and review this podcast on iTunes. Or  check us out on Stitcher :)! Plus  we're on Spotify!   Check Out The Transcript Here:

We speak with Jasmin a woman from a christian background who has fundamentally changed how she views masturbation. We talk about how her new perspective has been helpful to her in moving forward in her relationship with herself and her marriage. Resources Jasmin spoke about; Podcasts Sexy Tuxedo Jesus - http://www.romanceandadventure.com/podcast The Authentic Sex podcast with Juliet Allen - http://www.juliet-allen.com/ Susana Frioni Books Pussy: A Reclamation - Mama Gina Come as You Are - Emily Nagoski Connect with us Email: Ideasdigest@gmail.com Instagram: @ideasdigest intro music: Lawson Hull https://soundcloud.com/lawson-hull

[The Teachers]Offline exists as an exploration of self, and we can’t do that without exploring our sexual essence. For episode 24 of Offline, host Alison Rice sat down with leading Australian sexologist, coach, and host of Authentic Sex, Juliet Allen. In this very honest conversation, Juliet and Alison discuss everything from sex as a pathway to healing, the importance of polarity of sexual energies in the bedroom, how to use our sexual energy to attract what we want in life, why our cycle is sacred, how to ask for what we truly desire, porn vs. connected sex, and why it is time to redefine the word slut.Trigger warning: Some parts of this honest conversation are difficult and confronting — both the language we use and the topics we explore. This includes miscarriage and loss. Alison also advises not to have kids around for this one.Juliet’s podcast, Authentic SexThe Juliet Pleasure Wand MORE FROM OFFLINE AND ALISON RICEBecome a student of Self StudyIf you’re interested in learning about True Self, conscious success and more, consider becoming a student of Self Study — Offline’s school.Book a coaching session Offline’s host, Alison Rice, is an award-winning leader and conscious coach. She offers personal coaching sessions. Find out more or book directly. Early access For early access to new episodes of the podcast, Self Study learning opportunities and Offline events, follow @getoffline.co and @alisonlarsenrice on Instagram or Facebook. Share with those in needIf you know someone who would benefit from hearing these honest conversations, please share Offline with them.Original music by DLakeCreates. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are you ready to use sex as a platform to multiple your income? What about reach more people in your business? If you are interested in learning about sex magic, and harnessing the power of fucking to bring more success in your life than this episode is a must listen. I’m chatting with Sexologist Juliet Allen about the power of sex magic and how we can bring forward the power of sex to get what ever we want - whether that be happiness for ourselves or loved ones or financial success. There’s no limitation with Juliets easy to follow formula. But before we dive in, can you do me a favour. Can you head over to iTunes and leave a review. We are working super hard behind the scenes and I would love to know that all our hard work is helping you in some way. So, head to iTunes and leave us a review. Now on with the show. Lets dive into it. The Pleasure Rising Podcast Facebook COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/daretoplease/ The Pleasure Rising Podcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/pleasurerisingpodcast/ The Pleasure Rising Podcast SHOW NOTES: https://sarahmarieliddle.com/032-fuck-your-way-to-success-with-juliet-allen/

Welcome to our 2018 Summer Sessions! We’re going back and bringing you our fave eps from this year to get you through the summer.Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from Team Thinkergirl! This Episode… Juliet Allen on how to know you've found 'the one' + tips for connected sex1:00 - Kristie’s trick to affording walnuts. LOL 7:24 - are dudes using condoms more these days? 8:23 - as a sexologist are there trends / patterns in clients Juliet sees? What are they? 11:22 - do you want to go deeper with a partner? Introducing tantra into your relationship and how to do it today 16:08 - the way we do sex is the way we do life 19:45 - finding out whether the person you’re with is the one. Juliet’s test! Do it To find out about the work Juliet is doing with Durex Australia, read more HERE.More from The Thinkergirls:Email us – hello@thinkergirl.com.auFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/thinkergirlsInstagram – https://instagram.com/thethinkergirlsAll Podcasts – http://bit.ly/2wviSir See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On EP 89: of The Thinkergirls Pod Channel, Stacey June and Kristie Mercer creators of some of the most successful female podcasts and content in Australia are joined by Sexologist Juliet Allen to chat about sex when you're feeling disconnected from your body.Show notes to come...Come along to our Bachie LIVE Shows in Sydney…it’s free!! Check out deets HERE Want to join our VIP Posse? (For a small amount of $$ each month have access to a tonne of extras and join the online community.) Learn more HERE More from The Thinkergirls:Email us – hello@thinkergirl.com.auFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/thinkergirlsInstagram – https://instagram.com/thethinkergirlsAll Podcasts – http://bit.ly/2wviSir See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On EP 66: of The Thinkergirls Pod Channel, Stacey June and Kristie Mercer creators of some of the most successful female podcasts and content in Australia catch up for their weekly chinwag and discuss banning the word sex and how death allows for new life. Find out how you can support us turning this from a hobby into a business! We'd love your help posse We're having a break love - find out when and the toats exciting news we're returning with What is the winter solstice? Kristie feels like the past 12 months of her life has been a period of death / things falling away to allow for newness Make sure you don't forget to plant the seeds of what you want to attract The uprising of a feminine energy in the world The way Stace and Ben have been connecting instead of having sex EP 59: Juliet Allen on tips for connected sex. Listen HERE EP 42: 5 Relationship Stages Ep. Listen HERE More from The Thinkergirls:Email us – hello@thinkergirl.com.auFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/thinkergirlsInstagram – https://instagram.com/thethinkergirlsAll Podcasts – http://bit.ly/2wviSir See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On EP 62: of The Thinkergirls Pod Channel, Stacey June and Kristie Mercer creators of some of the most successful female podcasts and content in Australia have their weekly catch up to discuss the psycology behind why people move away from their hometowns, and why we're so obsessed with penis size?!2:50 - what’s the difference between people that move away from the place they grew up v those that stay 4:04 - do people stay away because they’re afraid that returning is a failure 9:30 - can’t you create a sense of community from scratch for yourself? 14:22 - getting back to who you were as a kid in creating your own sense of community 18:33 - the biggest penis in the world is HOW long? 22:55 - where is the obsession with penis size and why do we care? 23:13 - how much penis size plays into a man’s confidence 25:13 - a man’s insecurity is so interlinked with the part of him that gives / receives pleasure 26:01 - the psychology behind women being attracted to a larger penis 28:11 - big dicks really aren’t that fun. LOL In Verse Article about moving away from where you grew up. Read HERE EP 59: Juliet Allen on how to have connected sex. Listen HERE More from The Thinkergirls:Email us – hello@thinkergirl.com.auFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/thinkergirlsInstagram – https://instagram.com/thethinkergirlsAll Podcasts – http://bit.ly/2wviSir See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On EP 61: of The Thinkergirls Pod Channel, Stacey June and Kristie Mercer creators of some of the most successful female podcasts and content in Australia get sexologist Juliet Allen to help out Posse member Joanne who’s concerned she might be addicted to porn. 8:04 - Joanne wants to know if you can become addicted to porn as a woman? 8:46 - Ask ourselves - what are we actually getting from porn? 11:34 - More shameful to watch porn as a female 15:10 - Can you be into something in porn but not in real life? If you’re struggling with addiction / want someone to talk to LifeLife is a great free service on 13 11 12 To find out about the work Juliet is doing with Durex Australia, read more HERE.More from The Thinkergirls:Email us – hello@thinkergirl.com.auFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/thinkergirlsInstagram – https://instagram.com/thethinkergirlsAll Podcasts – http://bit.ly/2wviSir See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On EP 59: of The Thinkergirls Pod Channel, Stacey June and Kristie Mercer creators of some of the most successful female podcasts and content in Australia catch up with another inspiring woman, sexologist Juliet Allen to discuss connected sex and how to know you've found "the one".00:40 - Kristie’s trick to affording walnuts. LOL 7:04 - are dudes using condoms more these days? 8:03 - as a sexologist are there trends / patterns in clients Juliet sees? What are they? 11:02 - do you want to go deeper with a partner? Introducing tantra into your relationship and how to do it today 15:48 - the way we do sex is the way we do life 19:25 - finding out whether the person you’re with is the one. Juliet’s test! Do it To find out about the work Juliet is doing with Durex Australia, read more HERE.More from The Thinkergirls:Email us – hello@thinkergirl.com.auFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/thinkergirlsInstagram – https://instagram.com/thethinkergirlsAll Podcasts – http://bit.ly/2wviSir See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In her latest sex Q&A, Juliet answers questions about double penetration, weed and sex, lesbian sex, low libido, and aphrodisiacs.

In this episode of Authentic Sex I answer your questions about all-things sex: What's the best position for anal? Is it okay to cry during sex? How do I stop faking orgasms with my partner? How do I embrace my body? Plus so much more!

This week the ladies interview the very sexy and talented Juliet Allen a sexologist out of Australia. Juliet talks about tantric sex, self pleasure and how relationships can control your finances. Listen and enjoy please check us out on sexualflavas.com and send topic ideas to sexualflavas1@gmail.com also don't forget to share and rate us so that we may continue to grow!

Juliet Allen is back and we're diving deeper into the topic of sex and intimacy than ever before. It's been over a year and a half since she graced the podcast and we had a lot to explore in regards to how we can get deeply in touch with our own sexual practice and start creating the sex life we've always dreamed of. There were many distinctions here Juliet dropped that have opened up some deep considerations for myself and my relationship with sex and I know there they will for you too. Get ready to integrate on a whole new level with yourself and your partners sexually.  In this episode we immerse into topics such as; Tapping in to sexual creative energy to enrich multiple aspects of life Redirecting brain energy downward to the sex centres of the body Sexual taboo in modern society and disconnection from deep intimacy Self-directed pleasures Sustaining the fire of the honeymoon period in a relationship Pornography's impact on the act of sex Manifesting what we want in life via sexual energy Bio: Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Sexuality Coach, Tantra Practitioner and author. With a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner, Juliet facilitates 1:1 coaching sessions, educative workshops, and transformative online courses. Juliet's purpose is to empower men and women to embrace their sexuality & transform their sex and relationships.  Resources: http://www.juliet-allen.com/ http://www.juliet-allen.com/blog/sacred-art-of-cock-worship Enjoy! Links and show notes can be found at https://www.masonjtaylor.com/podcast/ This podcast is brought to you by SuperFeast, the online store bringing you the greatest immune enhancing, hormone balancing and performance lifting tonic herbs.

Sexologist Juliet Allen talks about unhealthy relationships with sex and what we can do to...do it better.

In today's episode I chat to Australia's leading sexologist, Juliet Allen. Juliet comes from a background in psychology and sexology, is a qualified Yoga Teacher and is trained as a Kundalini Tantra practitioner. In this episode we answer the following questions: What is the difference between good sex and bad sex? How is sexuality defined? How do we teach kids about sex? Is sex different for men and women? How do you get the magic back when it's gone? If you don't orgasm is that bad sex? Casual sex, yes or no? What does it mean to be sexually empowered? AND SO MUCH MORE For the full show notes head to www.theinspiredtable.com.au To connect with Juliet Allen: Website: www.juliet-allen.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/juliet_allen Facebook: www.facebook.com/juliet.allenaustralia See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

in this episode, I chat with Australian Sexologist, Sexuality Coach, Tantra Practitioner and author {and dear friend} Juliet Allen about: her sexual explorations and learnings from 2016 how to unite your 3 energy centers to live a more authentic and integral life navigating motherhood, relationships, and sex having the hard conversations with lovers and partners  what is shadow work and it's role in one's sexual awakening mismatched libidos and so much more!

Juliet Allen is a sexologist, sex and relationship coach, educator and columnist. She is the woman you turn to when you feel like your sex life is a flop. I'm the woman you talk to when you want mind-blowing orgasms and great sex every day. And I'm the woman you come to when you're ready to truly explore and own your sexuality and power.    An empowering, fascinating and cheeky chat with a woman who is not afraid in any way to talk about sex and the transformational impact that it has in our lives. What I liked most about Juliet is that unlike many in this field who focus on the easiest way to get people attention, solely focusing on mind-shattering orgasms and hot sex (as it should be in a a way because this is integral to a healthy life), she holds her integrity strong and does not waiver from putting the spotlight solidly on the need to heal traumas and distortions that are associated with our innate sexual nature.    Sit back, break into your erotic nature and get ready to expand into the healing and activating world of sexuality.    Resources: Juliet's Website: http://www.juliet-allen.com/   Hot Sex and Powerful Intimacy e-course: http://www.juliet-allen.com/powerful-sex-e-course/   How To Have Great Sex Every Day book: http://www.juliet-allen.com/book/   Recommended Reading: Wild Nights - David Deida Sex For One - Betty Dodson The Secret Practices Of Quodoushka - Amara Charles   Extra resources: Yes, fetuses masturbate http://www.salon.com/2013/06/20/the_science_of_masturbating_fetuses/

If you've been following us for a while you'll know, a couple of years back, I hit publish on a very vulnerable post about my sexuality. To this day, it is still the most vulnerable post I have ever shared. Funny, it was about that same time that our community really started to grow and engage. And then, the stories rolled in. Emails, Facebook messages, even conversations with my closest friends. Women opening up to me and telling me that, at some point in their life, in one way or another, they had been through the same thing. And I thought to myself: why the hell isn't anybody talking about this? Finally, I decided to do something about it. Meet Juliet Allen. A straight-talking sexologist with a passion for empowering women to embrace their true sexual nature. This interview is slightly different from the ones I've done before. Sure, we talk a little about Juliet's journey from coffee barista to sexologist. But the juice is in Juliet's sexual awakening. Listen in as we take a deep dive into her sexual journey – from a teenager kissing her girlfriends in nightclubs, to the birth of her daughter, to falling in love with a woman, to her experience with homophobia, to coming out as bisexual. Juliet talks powerfully about what it means to be attracted to the same sex. It's inspiring to hear from a woman who is willing to bravely explore and follow her sexual desires, wherever they take her. What I love about Juliet is her cheeky, fun and no-shame approach to all things sex. And why shouldn't it be that way? We all came from sex. Most of us have sex at some point in our life. To all the women who reached out to me with your stories of both sexual confusion and sexual awakening, thank you. I created this interview for you. In this interview, Juliet shares: + How and why she became a sexologist and what a day in the life of a sexologist looks like. + How she struggled with putting herself "out there" as a sex coach and the practical steps she took to overcome this fear. + Her own journey of exploring her sexuality with both men and women and why she believes coming out as bisexual was important for herself and other women in the same position. + Her experience with homophobia and how she worked through the rejection and negativity associated with this experience. + Her advice for women who are feeling called to explore their sexuality and their sexual desires. + Why money and sex are intertwined and how finances can influence your sex life. + The importance of being open and honest with your children about sex. For links to all the resources mentioned in this podcast, head to http://shemakesmagic.com/podcast-025-juliet-allen.

Thinkergirl Stacey June is joined by radio chick BFF Kristie Mercer dump their co host for one hour a week to talk s*it on this podcast. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.