Podcasts about struggle care

We have a returning guest today! KC Davis is a Licensed Professional Counselor, author, speaker, the creator of the mental health platform, Struggle Care, AND the author of the brand new book, out today... Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship).In our conversation, we discuss the problems within the traditional self-help industry and the parallels of mom guilt and our effect on the people and the relationships we love.  The heart of our conversation centered around having clarity in our decision making using her "relationship decision tree" and finding more creative ways to sustain relationships rather than the pendulum swings between being a complete doormat and cutting off contact completely. So if you need more skill building around healthy boundary setting, self-love and what it looks like to be a "good person" in your relationships, let's be honest, this episode is for all of us.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why shame isn't a sustainable motivatorHow to create the "Plinko board" our relationships flow within while remaining in integrityThe truth behind "if they wanted to, they would"DON'T MISS-A counterintuitive (yet MORE effective) way to spend quality time// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Special Time Cards// CONNECT WITH KC DAVIS //Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship) Book — KC DavisWebsite: www.strugglecare.comInstagram: @strugglecareTikTok: @domesticblistersI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

This bestselling author and viral TikTok star doesn't chase downloads, and (spoiler alert) that's the secret of her success.   KC Davis is the host of Struggle Care, a show that offers compassionate, practical advice for anyone dealing with mental health challenges, chronic illness, or tough life seasons. She's also the author of the Amazon bestseller How to Keep House While Drowning, with over 200,000 copies sold, and has another powerful book, Who Deserves Your Love?, on the way.   In this episode, you'll learn: -Why a massive TikTok following doesn't guarantee podcast success—and how KC deals with that reality -Her top-performing episodes and what makes them so resonant with her audience -How she subtly converts social media followers into loyal podcast listeners (hint: it's all about value, not promotion) -The ethical challenges of monetizing a mental health podcast—and the ad strategy that lets her sleep at night -Why she rarely markets her podcast directly and how she uses creativity, not consistency, to drive growth -Her refreshing take on podcasting as a slow burn—and why she's okay with eventually winding it down Whether you're a podcaster with a small but mighty audience, or a creator with a big following looking to expand into long-form content, KC's insights on authenticity, creative freedom, and sustainable growth will stick with you long after the episode ends. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Love the show? We'd love a review! Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps more creators find us! ✅ Want to grow your visibility through podcast guesting? Check out how PodWritten can help: https://podwritten.com/services/ https://podwritten.com/

In this episode of Struggle Care, host KC Davis speaks with Neha Ruch, founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause. Together, they explore the reality of modern motherhood, particularly for women who decide—or feel compelled—to pause their careers to care for their children. This conversation addresses the outdated stereotypes of stay-at-home moms and offers empowering, practical insights for navigating this unique chapter with confidence and clarity. Show Highlights: Neha's personal story behind writing The Power Pause What the “tradwife” movement misses—and who this book is really for Why "stay-at-home mom" is an outdated and limiting term How women can redefine productivity, identity, and success during a career pause The hidden costs of idealized motherhood in media and social platforms A breakdown of the personal, professional, and family goals women can set while caregiving Financial planning tips and why couples must prepare for the pause together The role of privilege, budgeting, and honest conversations with your partner How to reclaim agency and dignity during motherhood—without losing ambition Why it's time to rewrite the narrative of caregiving and career on your own terms Resources and Links:

In this episode of In It, hosts Gretchen Vierstra and Rachel Bozek welcome author and therapist KC Davis. KC is a therapist who hosts the podcast Struggle Care. Her new book Who Deserves Your Love will be out in May 2025. She is also the best-selling author of How to Keep House While Drowning.  KC talks about being a “messy” person and reasons why we could all benefit from caring a little less about messiness. She offers tips for getting your home to “work for you.” And she helps us understand reasons to care less about the mess.Related resourcesMessy room? How to help your child keep it neatWhy kids with executive function challenges have trouble starting tasksListen: ADHD and messiness (Jeannie's story)My Home Is Messy, and I Don't Feel Bad About It (KC in The New York Times)Timestamps(3:08) What makes us special can also be what makes us scattered(4:41) The tendency to be messy(5:52) Identifying solutions(7:32) Executive function and home management(10:18) The steps involved in a task(11:20) Helpful tips(14:28) Focusing on function(16:37) How you talk about messFor a transcript of this episode and more resources, visit the episode page on Understood.We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at init@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

On this episode of Go Help Yourself, Lisa and Misty review the USA Today bestseller How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing by KC Davis, LPC.In this How To Keep House While Drowning book review podcast, we discuss the morality of care tasks, the functionality of care tasks, why most "methods" don't work for a long term, and much more.About the author:KC Davis is the bestselling author of How to Keep House While Drowning. A licensed therapist, she is the creator of the popular Struggle Care website, Instagram, and podcast, and the Domestic Blisters TikTok. KC has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Atlantic, Slate, Well + Good, Good Inside with Dr. Becky, Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris, among dozens of other media. She is also well known for her TEDTalk: How to do laundry when you're depressed.To learn more about the author, visit her website here.Want more GHY?Follow us on instagram @gohelpyourselfpodcastFor self-help tips delivered straight to your inbox, sign up for our newsletter at gohelpyourself.coIf you enjoy the podcast, please leave us a review as it helps other people discover our show.xoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I have big news! Starting now, we will follow a new release schedule for the podcast, going to twice-a-month releases on the first and third Mondays. We've done weekly episodes for a couple of years now, and I need to free up some time for exciting upcoming projects. My new book releases on May 6 and is available now for preorder: Who Deserves Your Love? How to Create Boundaries that Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship. My next project is a cookbook that focuses on easy, stress-free meals and gentle nutrition with my compassionate philosophy. I'm also trying my hand at fiction writing with my first draft of a fantasy romance novel. I want every project to reflect my full passion and energy, and I feel strongly that it's time to reallocate my focus toward these other endeavors. I'll stick to the twice-monthly podcast release schedule for March, April, and May. The last episode in May will be the final episode of the Struggle Care podcast—for now. You never know what might happen in the future! Let's keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter at Struggle Care, and I promise not to overload your inbox! Show Highlights: An exclusive sneak peek into my new book, Who Deserves Your Love? How to Create Boundaries that Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship My second book has the same disability advocacy perspective as my first book. You'll find counter-culture messaging for communication and relationships. My book avoids standard attachment types and the language of codependency. An overview of the three parts of my book Listen as I read ch. 7 about The Decision Tree. It's tricky to occupy the space between wanting to have compassion and grace for people while still having boundaries for yourself. Resources and Links: Preorder my new book: Struggle Care Website, Amazon, and Bookshop Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  Incredible conversation with the ever-insightful KC Davis of Struggle Care. From discussing the impact of accumulating unused items to exploring the mental and emotional barriers people face in decluttering and tidying up, this episode covers a wide range of strategies and insights to help you on your dehoarding journey. We look at the shame and stigma associated with struggling with care tasks, including dehoarding, and the impact on individuals' self-worth and ability to seek help, and replace the shame with an approach rooted in self-compassion and moral neutrality towards care tasks. So if you're looking for practical tips, empathy, and support on your dehoarding journey, you won't want to miss this episode! Understanding Care Tasks and Struggles Definition of "care tasks" Stigma and shame surrounding struggles with care tasks Impact on self-worth and ability to seek help Overcoming Shame and Stigma Fear and self-criticism Importance of self-compassion and supportive community Motivation and the limitations of shame Individualised solutions rooted in self-compassion Thriftiness and environmental concerns Strategies for Task Initiation and Motivation Challenges for hoarders and those with ADHD Differentiating motivation and task initiation Small steps, transitions, and tools for task initiation Starting the Decluttering Process No one right way to start Making small decisions and using timers Involving friends in parting with items Overcoming Emotional Barriers to Decluttering Impact of accumulated items and their eventual outcome "5 things theory" to overcome resistance Adjusting the tidying process and taking small steps consistently Strategies for Organising and Tidying Up Breaking tasks into smaller steps Visual storage ideas and creating rituals Setting priorities and challenging societal norms Judgments based on work, race, and appearance Many people feel therapy isn't addressing their needs. Shame doesn't lead to lasting behaviour change. Self-help methods are not one-size-fits-all. Permission to accommodate leads to lasting change. Challenges of ADHD and executive functioning explained. Declutter by what I need, love, keep. Motivation leads to easier hard work and decluttering. Take small steps and make decisions. Break tasks into small steps. Community support for navigating vulnerability. Many people find online content more helpful than traditional therapy, reflecting societal attitudes towards seeking help. Shame and social pressure don't guarantee change. Self-help space lacks personalised solutions for diverse challenges. Universal methods don't address individual barriers and needs. People give themselves permission to accommodate and it leads to curiosity, not necessarily a finish line. Challenges with executive functioning and organisation due to ADHD, struggling with clutter and distractions. Sort items by frequency of use, happiness, and necessity. Prioritise what to keep, rather than what to discard. Motivation leads to easier wins, declutter by discussing meaningful items with friends. Taking small steps without pressure, performing tasks with enjoyable activities. Breaking tasks into smaller steps and utilising a simple action to initiate it.

It can be a struggle to balance chores in a relationship. When one or more people in the relationship have ADHD, there's even more room for miscommunication. It's important to be on the same page about expectations, or you may end up with resentment, and more fights than you'd like to. KC Davis wrote the book How to Keep House While Drowning, and hosts the podcast Struggle Care. KC joins host Cate Osborn in this episode of Sorry, I Missed This to talk about care tasks, sharing the load, and getting on the same page. Related resourcesKC Davis' website, strugglecare.comTackling organization, clutter, and stress with hyperfocus (Wendy's story)ADHD and messiness Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

It can be a struggle to balance chores in a relationship. When one or more people in the relationship have ADHD, there's even more room for miscommunication. It's important to be on the same page about expectations, or you may end up with resentment, and more fights than you'd like to. KC Davis wrote the book How to Keep House While Drowning, and hosts the podcast Struggle Care. KC joins host Cate Osborn in this episode of Sorry, I Missed This to talk about care tasks, sharing the load, and getting on the same page. Related resourcesKC Davis' website, strugglecare.comTackling organization, clutter, and stress with hyperfocus (Wendy's story)ADHD and messiness Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Welcome to Struggle Care, where we talk about all things individual and systemic that affect your life, wellness, and mental health. Joining me is Derrick Hoard, a licensed marriage and family therapist, TikTokker, and video game aficionado. I've followed him since 2020, and I love his thoughts and perspectives. Today's topic, video games and relationships, stirs up some strong reactions and opinions, but you will walk away from this episode with a fresh and thoughtful view of the hobbies we all enjoy in our lives. Let's get into it! Show Highlights: Video games are misunderstood and not recognized for what they are—the most beautiful, immersive forms of storytelling that exist. Men can get in touch with emotions through playing video games. Video games get unjustly blamed for communication problems in relationships. Video games comprise a safe space of non-judgment where one can feel confident and competent.  Thoughts about men in therapy, gender dynamics, and emotional labor Consideration and honesty in relationships about our hobbies Society's expectation of productivity leads us to feel shame and guilt about our hobbies. This is so wrong! Understanding how to have honest and authenticity in our relationships—from the start Red flags to look for when video games (or other obsessive hobbies) become our ONLY coping skills in life3 Resources and Links: Connect with Derrick Hoard: Website, TikTok, and the Mindful Gaming Podcast Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

Burnout from endless household chores? Meet KC Davis, the brilliant author behind How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing who we had to get on the podcast to share her wisdom with you! Most of us constantly juggle house cleaning, personal grooming, and what can feel like a million other responsibilities. It can feel like a relentless backdrop to our lives. But KC, who you may have seen making waves on social media, gives us a whole new way of looking at domestic labor. Her insights are transformative and so much more than just chores—they're about life-changing perspectives and even touch on social justice issues. If you're overwhelmed by endless household to-do lists, this episode and KC's book are invaluable. Tune in and revolutionize your approach to household tasks. Trust us, your future self will thank you! Listen and Learn:  Balancing a normal daily life with the unexpected recognition and success of her new book, How to Keep House While Drowning Why did KC make her book so accessible and simple to read? Why basic self-care like doing the dishes or taking a shower is often overlooked  KC recalls her daily struggles as a new mom facing postpartum depression during the pandemic, with escalating exhaustion and an unmanageable household The common feeling of failure when overwhelmed by basic care tasks and why these challenges don't reflect one's character How mainstream self-help often leads to initial motivation but ultimately causes shame when people can't sustain the impractical systems Navigating domestic work and fairness in shared living spaces and making sure that everyone gets time to rest and recharge Resources:  https://www.strugglecare.com/ How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing Listen to KC's Podcast: https://www.strugglecare.com/podcast-rss  Follow KC on social media:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strugglecare Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StruggleCare/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters  Article on scruffy hospitality referenced by Debbie: https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485 About KC Davis: KC Davis is a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. KC's compassionate and practical approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life has drawn over a million followers on social media in less than a year. Her book, How to Keep House While Drowning, has sold over 300,000 copies and is currently an Amazon bestseller.https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485 KC Davis began her therapy journey at 16 when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. Professionally, KC has worked most of her career in the field of addiction in roles such a therapist, consultant, and executive director. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters.  Learn more about the radical philosophy of Struggle Care that's changing lives here. Related episodes:  176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin 348. Sustainable Exercise with Michelle Segar 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

KC Davis is a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. She offers a profoundly refreshing perspective on home management that's far from the all-or-nothing standard we're so accustomed to. We dive deep into KC's story, exploring the journey from shame-driven perfectionism rooted in her past struggles with addiction, to discovering a compassionate and gentle approach to maintaining her home. KC shares how her diagnosis of ADHD at 35 played a significant role in understanding her relationship with cleaning and organization, eventually leading to innovative, shame-free strategies for home maintenance. We discuss the importance of functional living spaces, moving beyond societal pressures and the shame associated with not meeting unrealistic standards of home perfection. Join us as we discuss how to break free from the shame cycle in home maintenance, fostering a relationship with our living spaces that supports us as individuals, rather than succumbing to overwhelming expectations. Ep. 525 on being Cleanish, Ep. 586 on How to Make Time Access exclusive supporter benefits Free DSL Training Waitlist for the next Sticky Habit Intensive Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does a messy house give me anxiety? Why can't I motivate myself to clean since I had kids? Am I just a lazy mom? Moms often worry about these things, feeling immense pressure to keep a clean house and experiencing shame when they fall short of those expectations.  As moms, we can't always buy ourselves more time to clean. But we can approach the concept of cleaning differently, learn to overcome our anxiety around cleaning, and develop simple tips for keeping the house functioning without getting overwhelmed.  Today, I'm joined by KC Davis, author of How to Keep House While Drowning, known as Domestic Blisters on TikTok and founder of Struggle Care, to discuss reframing our thinking about “the mess” and tips for cleaning with kids. Show Notes: https://bit.ly/49mxrTY  Book a Free 15 min Consult with a mom therapist: momwell.com  Follow Momwell on Instagram: instagram.com/momwell  Sign up for our weekly VIP Newsletter: momwell.com/newsletter  Register for one of our popular workshops and courses: momwell.com/shop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to "Her Life: Wisdom and Tips For Every Woman". Life is often characterised by seasons of transition and self-discovery. This series is about sharing stories, experiences, wisdom and practical tips for women no matter where they are or what they're doing right now. In this episode we hear from Angie Hyche of Shipshape Solutions. Angie is an author, speaker, podcaster, and certified professional organiser (CPO®) living in East Tennessee. Her years of experience working with clients with her organising company Shipshape Solutions give her unique insights into both the challenges of clutter and disorganisation and the freedom and peace that order can bring. Now she brings that wisdom into her writing, speaking, and podcasting. Her goal is to help listeners and readers simplify their lives so they can focus on what's most important and spend time doing what they love. Her first book, Unholy Mess: What the Bible Says about Clutter was published on Amazon in December 2020. Angie is partnering with author and former professional organiser Liana George for a podcast called Uncluttered: Shaping Your Heart & Home for What Matters Most, which launched in January 2023 on YouTube, Apple podcasts, and many other podcast platforms. Their book of the same title will be published in 2024 by Scrivenings Press. Both Unholy Mess and Uncluttered provide biblical motivation and practical tips for removing cluttering of all types from our lives so we can focus on what and Who matters most. In this episode with Angie you will: Learn that clutter is beyond the piles of stuff Understand how clutter can impact your health and wellbeing Discover why clutter becomes so hard to deal with And get tips to simplify your life Connect with Angie: Email: angie@shipshape.solutions Website: https://shipshape.solutions/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shipshapesolutions_/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shipshape-solutions/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shipshape.solutions Resources Angie mentions: KC Davis, Struggle Care - https://www.strugglecare.com/podcast-rss David Allen, Getting Things Done Book - https://gettingthingsdone.com/ Danielle Wurth, Wurth Organising - https://wurthorganizing.com/

We review the latest Disney animated musical Wish. Find out how it compares to favorites like Frozen and Encanto. Katie takes us on a journey through the recent history of Disney musicals to see where this one fits, and we discuss whether tying this movie to Disney's 100th anniversary celebration was a smart move. In Screen Time in the News, we discuss an episode of the podcast Struggle Care about the dangers of family vlogging.

KC Davis is an author, social media sensation, and the creator of the mental health platform Struggle Care. She has also recently been diagnosed with ADHD. In this episode, KC joins our host Simon Mundie to discuss her ADHD experience, from dealing with inattention, and hyperfixation, to self-care tips, and what it's like to receive an adult diagnosis. KC also shares the details of her massively successful ADHD life hack – the Five Things cleaning system. This simple approach to cleaning has helped KC and many others with ADHD to tackle those daily struggles. KC also shares her tips for neurodiverse people to be able to implement their own systems to help them thrive. KC Davis www.strugglecare.com www.instagram.com/strugglecare Qbtech www.qbtech.com www.instagram.com/qbtech www.twitter.com/qbtechADHD www.facebook.com/qbtechADHD/ Simon Mundie www.simonmundie.com www.tinyurl.com/youtubesimonmundie www.instagram.com/simonmundie Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A breakdown of the mess and the meaning of a red flag from Love is Blind. For part one of our discussion, head over to Struggle Care podcast. Support It's Become a Whole Thing https://www.patreon.com/Itsbecomeawholething Brought to you By: The Sonar Network https://thesonarnetwork.com/

I stumbled across Emily Haswell on TikTok, and I knew immediately that we would be friends. Listen to hear Emily's TikTok about wearing the “circus tent with pockets” that led her to say (as a 33-year-old plus-sized woman), “I will NOT be influenced again by what the skinny-girl influencers say we MUST have!” She has started a de-influencing movement that I'm totally here for. Join us to laugh and learn more!   Show Highlights: ●      How Emily got more followers when she started her honest, de-influencing movement ●      Why KC hashired Emily as creative director for the Struggle Care podcast ●      Why KC and Emily decided to cancel on having the well-known, Emmy-nominated Netflix stars, The Minimalists ●      How we critique The Minimalists' philosophy because it spreads shame and doesn't hold the value we are looking for (and who really does the dishes in their house anyway?) ●      How we have reacted to influencers with harmful messaging on health, hoarding, domestic tasks, etc.    Resources and Links: Connect with Emily Haswell: TikTok and Instagram Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes  

Hello, hi! In today's episode, we dive into the transformative world of self-care by exploring the insights from Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's book "Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Re-defining Wellness (Cleanses, Crystals, and Bubble Baths Not Included)". This book reminds us that self-care isn't just a method but a fundamental principle that can guide us toward healthier practices. Take my quick quiz to see which Self Care persona fits you! Quiz Link The Three Self Care Personas Dr. Lakshmin introduces us to three distinct self-care personas, each driven by specific emotions and motivations: The Escape Persona: This persona seeks self-care as an escape. They may indulge in retreats and isolation from daily responsibilities, finding solace in the care of strangers. The Achievement Persona: For this persona, self-care is often tied to achievement. They are driven by a desire to prove themselves, sometimes to the point of isolation, and yearn for meaningful connections amidst their busy lives. The Optimizer Persona: This persona focuses on hyper-competence, productivity, organization, and control. They see time management as the ultimate form of self-care. Understanding Your Self Care Persona We'll explore the emotions that drive each persona and delve into strategies to choose alternative, healthier self-care practices that align with your persona. Affirmations for Positive Change Additionally, we'll provide affirmations tailored to each persona to support positive transformations in your self-care journey. Resources Mentioned Book: "Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Re-defining Wellness (Cleanses, Crystals, and Bubble Baths Not Included)" by Pooja Lakshmin MD. Book: "How to Keep House While Drowning" by KC Davis. Podcast: Pooja Lakshmin on Struggle Care. Previous Episode: Episode 82: The Identity Revolution: Why I plan my free time each month. Self-Compassion Assessment Tool: A resource from Kristin Neff for exploring self-compassion. Self Compassion Break: An adapted exercise by Kristin Neff within the episode. Book: "Overcoming Overwhelm" by Dr. Samantha Brody.   Key Topics Self Care Personas Understanding different approaches to self-care Emotional Drivers Exploring the motivations behind self-care choices Alternative Self-Care Strategies Finding healthier practices for self-care Positive Affirmations Using affirmations for personal growth Recommended Resources Books and podcasts for self-improvement Self-Care Quiz Discover your own self-care persona Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

As a parent, it can feel like the world expects you to do all the things, and to do them all perfectly. But the truth is that when you try to do it all, you end up burnt out and overwhelmed.  KC Davis is a therapist, author, speaker, and the voice behind Struggle Care, who believes that we can let go of mom guilt and embrace a more balanced, realistic approach to life. She explains why it's not your fault that you can't do it all, and offers practical tips for managing your tasks. After all, treating yourself with compassion instead of judgment may just change your life. Show links: Better Help — use code PGISH for 10% off your first month Watch the full clip. Learn more at strugglecare.com. Read How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing.   As always, I'd love to hear from you! Subscribe, leave a review, or follow PG-ish on IG @pgishparenting, or you can always find me at www.pgishparenting.com.

*Re-uploaded episode with fixed audio! If you listened to this episode when it was first uploaded, skip ahead to 26 minutes in to pick up where you left off. Sorry about the audio glitch and thanks for your patience while it was fixed!*Love Is Blind season 4 has come to an end but we're not done talking about it! KC Davis - known for her TikTok account @domesticblisters featuring self care tips for ADHDers and the Ask an Allistic series, author of the book How to Keep House While Drowning, and host of the podcast Struggle Care - joins us for a discussion of the season as a whole, neurodiversity on the Love Is Blind series, and the allistic neurodivergent vs autistic interpretations of the Paul and Micah conflict seen on the season 4 reunion. It's a fascinating conversation and we're so grateful to have her as a guest!Next episode will feature listener opinions and a discussion of the Love Is Blind news that's come out since the reunion. Send us your perspective and we'll read it on the podcast! Diversity of neurodivergent perspective is a great thing.Find us on social media:KC:https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblistershttps://www.strugglecare.com/linktreeCheck out our new patreon - for only $5 a month you get an extra full-length episode every week! We're currently covering Love Is Blind season 1 :)https://www.patreon.com/AliensWatchingRealityTVErika:https://twitter.com/erikaheidewaldhttps://www.tiktok.com/@erikaheidewaldhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5ibZRt1YLPPlw_tGSMnynAJosh:https://twitter.com/JShahryarAliens Watching Reality TV is hosted by Erika Heidewald and Josh Shahryar, two reality show newbies who grew up feeling like aliens (turns out we're just autistic and ADHD) and love analyzing human behavior by watching reality TV dating shows on Netflix.  Watch Love Is Blind season 4 with us! We post podcast episodes featuring recaps, reviews, analyses, and random tangents for every single episode of the season. Episodes 1-12 are available on Netflix now and if you are a neurodivergent person whose special interest is human nature and communication, Love Is Blind is for YOU. It is the X Games of people watching and we're going to break down every episode and use it as a guide to understand human behavior and psychology like we are the aliens we grew up thinking we were.Til Death Do Us Part! Love ya!#AliensWatchingRealityTVSeason 1: Perfect Match Season 1Season 2: Love Is Blind Season 4

EPISODE SUMMARY: There is no 'normal' when it comes to the human brain. We all experience the world uniquely and learn, think and communicate in different ways. However, there's a generally accepted range of what's considered ‘typical,' and brain activity outside of that range is considered ‘neurodivergent.' This includes people with conditions like ADHD, autism, dyslexia, OCD, and Tourette's.It's estimated that up to 20% of the U.S. population identifies as neurodivergent.* While this may bring challenges in social, work or school settings, differences can be real strengths. We talk with KC Davis, licensed professional counselor, author of the book How To Keep House While Drowning and host of the podcast Struggle Care as well as Amy Root, Director of Neurodiversity Inclusion at UnitedHealth Group, about their personal journeys as well as what needs to be done to better support thinking differently. HIGHLIGHTS:[08:16] Amy Root and KC Davis discuss why there's increased conversations about neurodivergence, including recent research, advocacy and activism.[14:53] Amy and KC talk about how women and girls are often overlooked when diagnosing neurodivergent conditions and share their personal journeys to diagnoses.RESOURCES:How to Keep House While DrowningHow to do laundry when you're depressed | TED TalkWhat is Struggle Care? — KC DavisNeurodiversity in Cybersecurity – Amy Root - NeuroSec (captivate.fm)GUESTS: Amy Root, Director of Neurodiversity Inclusion at UnitedHealth GroupKC Davis, licensed professional counselor, author of How to Keep House While Drowning and creator of mental health platform and podcast Struggle Care.The views, opinions, endorsements and content expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views, opinions or policies of Optum.Visit optum.com for more information about how Optum is helping to create a healthier world. 

Today's episode is a conversation in which Ellie Pike, host of the Mental Note podcast (this episode first aired on 2/27/23), and I discuss my adult ADHD diagnosis and the workarounds I've learned to get things done and function in my life. Join us! Show Highlights: KC's background as a messy person whose life changed dramatically when her two children were born How KC had to learn how to keep a functional home in a totally new phase of life How an ADHD diagnosis as a young mother made sense of her whole life Why KC's ADHD diagnosis was “missed” during childhood and youth because she didn't “fit the mold” Why ADHD is NOT simply the inability to pay attention How success in school changed for KC during college when most of the work was to be done outside of class How ADHD affects what is going on in the brain, regardless of external behavior that may appear normal What KC has put in place to help her finish necessary tasks, even when they don't interest her The difference between motivation and task initiation–and why we treat them differently How ADHD medication changed everything for KC Why late-diagnosed adults with ADHD usually hit some kind of barrier, event, or transition that brings everything to a crisis point The connection between KC's depressive episodes and isolation, under-stimulation, and boredom KC's advice for listeners about creating systems that work WITH your brain: “Do a little, and do it as a person that deserves to function.” Why KC's message is that “care tasks are morally neutral” and have nothing to do with someone being a worthwhile human being  Resources: Connect with Ellie Pike and find out more about the Eating Recovery Center and Mood and Anxiety Center: www.mentalnotepodcast.com   Connect with KC: TikTok, Instagram, and Website  Get KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning

To celebrate our journey into triple digit episode numbers, we take a look back at episodes that have really stayed with us. They're not even necessarily our favorite, mind you. It's not that we think they're so much better than all the rest. They're just some episodes that come to mind pretty quickly.Discussed on this show:Depression, Anxiety, and Devil Horns: Chelsea Ursin Saves Her Soul with Rock n' RollAmanda Knox on the Difference Between Exoneration and FreedomThe Beautiful World of Mentally Nutritious Video GamesJamie Lee Curtis: Self-Professed Dope Fiend of Show-off BusinessJackie Kashian Did What You Should DoKevin Love: All-Star in the NBA and in DestigmatizationShane Koyczan Says Sometimes “Bullying” Is Just AssaultThe Surgeon General Wants Your Boss To Build You a Healthier WorkplaceThe Whimsy and Depth of Depressed Cake ShopHousehold Chores, Struggle Care, and Your Mental HealthThank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of Maximum Fun.Check out our I'm Glad You're Here and Depresh Mode merchandise at the brand new merch website MaxFunStore.com!Hey, remember, you're part of Depresh Mode and we want to hear what you want to hear about. What guests and issues would you like to have covered in a future episode? Write us at depreshmode@maximumfun.org.Help is available right away.The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALKCrisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741.International suicide hotline numbers available here: https://www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesThe Depresh Mode newsletter is available twice a week. Subscribe for free and stay up to date on the show and mental health issues. https://johnmoe.substack.com/John's acclaimed memoir, The Hilarious World of Depression, is now available in paperback. https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250209566/thehilariousworldofdepressionFind the show on Twitter @depreshpod and Instagram @depreshpod.John is on Twitter @johnmoe.

"If you're going, I wish this was different. I understand why laundry is important. I would really like to be wearing clean clothes. I would really like to be able to walk in my closet and know where my things are and not feel overwhelmed."Like, congratulations, you're motivated."For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/The Eating Disorder Diaries PodcastIf you have an eating disorder, you are not alone. Host Amy Goeckel shares her experience.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Eye-Opening Moments PodcastEye-Opening Moments are stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives. They are...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySign up at https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/onlinetherapy and get 20% off your first month with your new online CBT therapist. Online Therapy Support the show

As part of our How We Feed series, we talk with author and licensed therapist KC Davis about feeding a family as a parent with ADHD. Links From This EpisodeKC on Instagram, @strugglecareKC on TikTok @domesticblistersHow To Keep House While DrowningSouper Cubes https://www.soupercubes.com/ Vacuum Sealer https://amzn.to/3YGtmFd Hamilton Beach Upright Drawer Freezer https://amzn.to/3jFCkUF Take the 2023 DIJFY listeners survey! didntijustfeedyou.com/listener-survey/Join our free community to get the complete book list & bonus suggestions too: https://didntijustfeedyou.mykajabi.com/offers/zvGhQP2K/checkoutFind out how to become a supporting member to also get access to our recipes + bonus episodes: https://didntijustfeedyou.com/communityAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Awash in a tidal wave of dirty dishes, laundry, and who knows what else? Grab the buoy. KC Davis, author of How to Keep House While Drowning, joins Biz to dive into (gentle) action! Plus, Biz is cool.Get your copy of How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing wherever books are sold. Visit www.strugglecare.com to learn more about KC. Listen to her podcast, Struggle Care with KC Davis, wherever fine pods are cast. Follow KC on TikTok @domesticblisters and Instagram @strugglecare.Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. This episode, we're sponsored by Bombas. Go to Bombas.com/BADMOTHER and use code BADMOTHER for 20% off your first purchase.Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you're leaving a Genius moment, a Fail, or a Rant! Thanks!!Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Details at MaximumFun.org/Jumbotron.Visit our Linktree for our website, merch, and more! https://linktr.ee/onebadmotherYou can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to onebadmother@maximumfun.org.Show MusicSummon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com)Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive SessionsMom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For TeensTelephone, Awesome, Beehive SessionsMama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the ButterbeansMental Health Resources:Therapy for Black Girls – Therapyforblackgirls.comDr. Jessica Clemmens – https://www.askdrjess.comBLH Foundation – borislhensonfoundation.orgThe Postpartum Support International Warmline - 1-800-944-4773 (1-800-944-4PPD)The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline - 1-800-662-4357 (1-800-662-HELP)Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call or chat. They are here to help anyone in crisis. Dial 988 for https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org and there is a chat option on the website.Crisis Text Line: Text from anywhere in the USA (also Canada and the UK) to text with a trained counselor. A real human being.USA text 741741Canada text 686868UK text 85258Website: https://www.crisistextline.orgNational Sexual Assault: Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.https://www.rainn.orgNational Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/help/Our advocates are available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential.They suggest that if you are a victim and cannot seek help, ask a friend or family member to call for you.Teletherapy Search: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

The title of KC Davis's book paints a pretty vivid picture of what her work is about: How To Keep House While Drowning, subtitled “a gentle approach to cleaning and organizing.” KC, a therapist and podcaster, specializes in helping people who have dealt with mental disorders, trauma, postpartum, and other issues but who are still faced with piles of laundry and dishes that need to be addressed. She joins us on a room by room tour of an imagined house to figure out how to take on care tasks while caring for yourself.Get your copy of How To Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing wherever books are sold. Learn more about KC at her website, www.StruggleCare.com and listen to her podcast, Struggle Care with KC Davis, wherever fine pods are cast. Follow KC on Instagram @strugglecare.Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of Maximum Fun.Check out our I'm Glad You're Here and Depresh Mode merchandise at the brand new merch website MaxFunStore.com!Hey, remember, you're part of Depresh Mode and we want to hear what you want to hear about. What guests and issues would you like to have covered in a future episode? Write us at depreshmode@maximumfun.org.Help is available right away.The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALKCrisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741.International suicide hotline numbers available here: https://www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesThe Depresh Mode newsletter is available twice a week. Subscribe for free and stay up to date on the show and mental health issues. https://johnmoe.substack.com/John's acclaimed memoir, The Hilarious World of Depression, is now available in paperback. https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250209566/thehilariousworldofdepressionFind the show on Twitter @depreshpod and Instagram @depreshpod.John is on Twitter @johnmoe.

HEYO. And welcome back to the Can I Have Another Snack? podcast! We took a break back in November after wrapping up Season 1 of the pod with Katie Greenall talking all things Embodiment, so check out that episode if you haven't already. Can I Have Another Snack? is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.We're kicking off Season 2 with Whitney Trotter - Registered Dietitian and nurse, Anti-racism Educator/Consultant and Human Trafficking Activist. Whitney is also mother to a 6 year old who is a selective eater. In this ‘sode, Whitney and I talk about her daughter's eating and what this brings up for her as a dietitian and eating disorder professional. Whitney goes on to talk about her work supporting parents with eating disorders who are really struggling in their relationship with food and their body, looking closely at the underlying anxieties that come up around eating and what they can teach us. We talk about what feeding children can bring up for parents who have eating disorders or disordered eating and how that experience can be so triggering.And Whitney talks about how going to the drive thru is 1) not something you should feel bad about and 2) something that can actually bring more connection when you're feeding a family.Find out more about Whitney here.Follow her work on Instagram here.Follow Laura on Instagram here.Here's the transcript in full:Whitney: You know, I always think anxiety can teach us so much, right? Like, we typically treat anxiety as all bad, but I think it's a root of a lot of things. And so really leaning into, okay, what is the anxiety telling us? You know, are we, is there a fear? Right? So for sometimes, it's the meal that we're cooking. The parent or mom really wants their kid to have variety, but they're so worried about how this particular food is gonna show up for them. There's a lot of myths. There's a lot of lies that their eating disorder has told them about certain foods. And so really processing through that, processing okay, what feels safe to eat? What feels safe to share like community wise with our family. Things like that. And maybe even delegating, you know, what is their partner doing? Can the partner help with the meal times and the plating and the cooking, things like that, will that dial down some of that anxiety?INTROLaura: Hey, and welcome to Season Two of Can I Have Another Snack podcast where I'm asking my guests who or what they're nourishing right now and who or what is nourishing them? I'm Laura Thomas, an anti diet registered nutritionist and author of the Can I Have Another Snack newsletter. Today I'm talking to Whitney Trotter.Whitney is a registered dietician and nurse, anti-racism consultant and human trafficking activist based in Memphis, Tennessee. And as we'll learn, she's also the parent of a six-year-old who is a selective eater. So Whitney and I talk about her daughter's eating, and what this brings up for her as a dietician and an eating disorder professional. It touches on anxiety, fear, and feelings of failure, especially if you've made your whole career about nourishing people.Whitney goes on to talk about her work supporting parents with eating disorders who are really struggling in the relationship with food and their body, looking closely at the underlying anxieties that come up around eating and what they can teach us. We talk about what feeding children can bring up for parents who have eating disorders or disordered eating, and how that experience can be really triggering.We also talk about renourishing our inner child through eating nostalgic kid foods, and I talk a little bit about that article that I published last week on clean eating orthorexia and kids, which I've linked to in the show notes and the transcript, if you haven't already seen that. And we also talk about how mumfluencer culture and diet culture collide to make it seem like feeding kids is about an aesthetic as opposed to being based on something that's achievable or realistic or practical or even functional.And then Whitney talks, uh, about how going to the drive-through is one, not something that you should feel bad about. And two, something that can actually bring more connection when you're feeding a family. Lots of really cool stuff. We kind of go all over the place, but in a good way. And I really enjoy talking to Whitney, she's someone I've wanted to have on the podcast for a long time, so I'm glad that we finally made it work. I just want to give a content warning. We talk about body image in the context of sexual assault and miscarriage. Not in any detail, but I just wanted to mention that it's there. We also talk about eating disorders and our experiences of having babies in the NICU and breastfeeding challenges. So if those are things that you don't need to hear right now, then please skip ahead. There will be another episode out next week. And before we get to today's episode, I just want to share that I am gonna be running my Raising Embodied Eaters workshop again in February. A lot of you have been asking about this. I kind of took a break from running workshops as I was getting my Substack up and going. Um, but now I'm able to kind of offer, I don't know how often I'm gonna do it, but we're gonna have one in February. It will be a 90 minute workshop completely online, and you'll be sent a copy of the recording afterwards to watch back.So you know, if bedtime goes way later than you're expecting, then um, yeah, you'll be able to catch up with it another time. We'll be talking about how kids' embodiment gets disrupted by diet culture, and what this has to do with feeding and how it can affect the feeding relationship. We'll discuss why we need to throw the rule book out the window and let them have ice cream before broccoli, and we'll talk about how we can build trust in our kids to get what they need.I'll offer a framework that can help you feel more relaxed about mealtimes whilst also encouraging kids to have autonomy. We'll talk about how providing supportive structure can encourage children to remain in touch with their internal cues for hunger satisfaction and pleasure and fullness. And I'll cover how fussy eating develops and talk about some developmental milestones with eating as well as tools to help move through it. We'll also talk about why cutting out sugar and saying things like just another bite can undermine kids' instincts around food. And we'll talk about how we can talk about food and bodies without causing harm. So you'll be asked to fill out a short questionnaire about your specific situation ahead of time, and I'll try and tailor the content to the audience as much as possible.You'll also get a copy of my Raising Embodied Eaters download. The workshop is suitable for grownups of kids of all ages, but I would say it's probably best for kids under 12. Parents, whatever that means to you and your family, grandparents, teachers, nutrition professionals, and anyone else working with kids are all welcome.It will be on Tuesday, the 21st of February, which aptly is pancake day, and it will be at seven o'clock and it's 15 pounds to join and it will be over Zoom. The full details and the booking information is in the show notes and the transcript for this episode. For those of you who are subscribed to the newsletter, you'll get a reminder and a link in an upcoming newsletter as well.And one more thing just before we get to Whitney, just a reminder that Can I Have Another Snack is a reader supportive publication. I'd love to bring you more deeply research pieces like my piece on clean eating and kids, but it requires a significant investment in my time, plus the support of an editor. So, if you are in a position to become a paid subscriber, then please consider it. It's five pounds a month or 50 pounds for the year. And if that's not accessible for you right now, you can email hello@laurathomasphd.co.uk, putting the word snacks in the subject line and we will hook you up with a comp subscription, no questions asked. Alright, team, here is my conversation with Whitney Trotter.MAIN EPISODELaura: All right, Whitney, I'd love it if you could share with the audience who or what you are nourishing right now.Whitney: Oh my goodness. Okay. Well I am a mom of a feisty six year old, little girl who I just adore. So, we were kind of talking before the thing about some other dieticians that work in pediatrics and feeding and things like that. So I'm exploring the land of working with the selective eater. So our, yeah, so it's really fun.Like our, nourishing times are a bit chaotic right now and so doing that. I'm also, uh, an avid coffee lover, so I have been trying different just flavours of coffee, different roasters and a non beverage food thing that I've been kind of nourishing my soul with lately is I've been listening to the audiobook of Hood Feminism.I love, love it. So.Laura: Yeah, lots of different things. Tell us about your selective eater a little bit more.Whitney: Oh my goodness, so I think any, any mom, but particularly like dietician, nurse, mom, it's, it's so hard to like really kind of step back from our traditional schooling. So she legitimately has like six foods that she'll eat. Um, Mac and cheese, chicken nuggets, bacon, pancakes, strawberries, peanut butter and jelly. And that is it. So we've been really working with, you know, the autonomy piece, but also like, you know, there's also that just like natural worry of parents of it's like, okay, is my kid getting enough? Like, so many times in like our kind of traditional setting, it's like variety, variety, variety. And so really working on trying to let her be autonomous in the variety.So we've been giving her like, you know, three options to choose from and then she gets to choose out of those, like three to four options, what she's willing to try.Laura: Yeah, it's so, it's so interesting hearing from a parent who is, is, you know, has, I don't wanna say legitimately selective eater, because that makes it seem like other forms are illegitimate. But I suppose what I was thinking about there is how from social media, we get a really distorted picture of what kids should eat.And we see them eating like kale and I don't know, mushrooms and all of these, these foods that are really challenging for little kids. And so then when they go through that like normal or like typical food neophobic stage as toddlers and preschoolers and even into like school age, that parents have this sense that they're this, that they're developing feeding differences.And it's not until you hear of a child who is literally only eating six foods that you realize, wow, okay, actually my kid does have a reasonable variety and balance of food. So how are you, are you like, are you getting professional support with that? Like, and, and also like what does that bring up for you as a dietician, as a nurse?Whitney: Well at first you're like did I fail my kid? What am I doing wrong? I mean, you know, cause I work in and I see, I work in the land of eating disorder, so I treat a lot of children and adolescents and adults with disordered eating and eating disorders. So it is interesting. We do a lot of food neutrality, like we do not moralise food. Food is food. So, and she's, she's a spicy six year old, so she's very quick to, you know, to say the same thing that, that I'm teaching her back to me, which is always funny. So she's on the growth chart, like she's growing and so right now we're just kind of, you know, living in the land of offering the choices and not forcing, and then just making sure she's getting enough of the foods that she will eat throughout the day.So the biggest thing is I just wanna make sure she was growing and nourishing. And she is, and our pediatrician is wonderful.She's also Venezuelan, and so I think it's just a, another just added benefit of she's seen kids in from so many different other cultures and countries. And so she was like, you know what? I'm not worried. I don't want you to be worried. I'm like, okay.Laura: Yeah. Yeah. And I like, I suppose it is really reassuring to hear from another healthcare professional like it, you know, everything looks good here. But I can also imagine like, as, as a nutritionist being like, holy shit, my kid is only six. Like, it is, it's so, even though I work with that population, like I know it's like really anxiety provoking when, you know, like kind of in the way that doctors make the worst patients like... Whitney: Yes, it's so true, so true. Cuz I mean, you really do, you're like, okay, what do I do? Like, you know, especially again cuz working in the eating disorders, you know what the outcome could be if you say certain things, if you press too hard. You know what I'm saying? So we're very cognizant of that. But we also just, we are, we really do tend to like, let her choose a lot of things. Like we really are those type of parents that like work with her in bodily autonomy and even when it comes to food, you know, so, it, I would be lying if I said it wasn't challenging, cuz it definitely is challenging. So we're kind of just staying the course right now.Laura: Well, and this is a, this is a, a different thing, but I have a two and a half year old and I've, I've spoken about this, loads on the podcast, but he was in the NICU for like two, only like two weeks, which, actually, I say only two weeks now, but at the time it felt like an eternity. And we had a really, really difficult time getting feeding established, breastfeeding established, and yeah.And, and there was something that felt so like, It, it just like really shook the core of my identity as a nutritionist to not be able to feed my child.Whitney: Yes,Laura: There is something that, that like just touched on, something like really deep, like I've made my entire career about nourishing people, yet I can't nourish my own child and that, I don't know if, if that resonates with you at all in your experience of feeding your daughter. Whitney: This is so wild that you're saying this, and thank you for sharing that. We had the exact same thing. She was in NICU and they gave her a, they gave her the wrong nipple. They, for the bottle, it was like a fast,Laura: A fast flow. Yes. That happened to us too.Whitney: Yeah. So then when she went to latch, I couldn't, she, she couldn't latch.And so similar, you go through this period, like you feel like a failure, you know, like you feel like, like you just said, it's like I, I've spent my whole career trying to help others nourish their body and like, I can't even feed my own child. And so she ended up with a really bad gag reflex, like, just really, really bad when she was younger. We would have to like prop her up to sleep. She was on medication. So I mean, it's been, yeah, even now she will kind of sometimes struggle with that, but yeah, that resonates so deeply. And just the trauma of your baby being in NICU, I mean, so, it's so traumatic for you, you know, as a parent. And so, yeah, definitely. It's so interesting. We have similar, uh, similar stories regarding that.Laura: Well, and then I think this is the, the thing that I've kind of discovered, like through having conversations on this podcast is that it it, because it, it happens to so many of us but we're just kind of expected to power on and keep going and, and not, and you know, just like dust it under, under the rug. And yeah, I think there, I'm thinking particularly of a conversation that I had with Christy Harrison. You know, again, sort of her story parallels a lot of my experience as well. And yeah, just how healing and cathartic it is to be able to, to share this more openly. Yeah, because it's, like I said, I think a lot of it, we, we, a lot of us experience, you know, similar things. I'm also really, you know, you've, you've mentioned a couple of times that you work in the eating disorder field and another theme that we touch on a lot in the, on the podcast is, you know, healing our own relationship with food as a parent and sort of supporting our children to have a positive or a healthy, or, you know, like however you wanna frame it, like a, a good relationship with food and bodies.And I'm, I'm really curious to hear more about your experience of working with parents who have either disordered eating or eating disorders and, and yeah, how you hold them and support them in your work.Whitney: Yeah, it's so interesting because I, I'm thinking of a particular session I had last week with a mom and we were really talking about how, you know, her daughter for the first time noticed that she ate dinner and you know, one of the things I told her, I said, your daughter is never gonna thank you for your restriction, but she is gonna remember the memories that you cultivate with her, particularly around meal times. And you know, I think that was really hard for her to hear and we kind of just sat with that and really explored, you know, what is it like for you to be able to sit at the dinner table with your kids and not every night like I know that's not realistic and you know, but two or three nights a week and engage in conversation.Cuz usually as parents and it's hard, right? Like different seasons of life, sometimes dinnertime is the only time you have to like sit and talk with them. There's after school activities, you know, parents are usually working, somebody's cooking, somebody's cleaning, and then you're exhausted. And so sometimes that like 30, 45 minutes is like the only time the family is together.And I think the eating disorder, you know, really can come in and monopolize that time as well. And it makes it very hard for somebody who is struggling, you know, with nourishment of their body, with body image to be able to sit and really holistically be present and be in the moment. So we definitely talk a lot about that.You know, I think too, you know, kind of speaking more generally with moms, we're, we're used to having to do so much, right? Like some of us are working in home, some of us are working outside of the home. Still taking a lot of the responsibility of maybe driving or navigating, dropping kids off to school or daycare, cooking, like I said, cooking, cleaning, there's so much on us that I think also by the time we finally sit down to eat, we're just so exhausted.Laura: Mm-hmm. If, if you have an eating disorder, even just disordered eating, when you're that exhausted, it's those eating disorder thoughts or those, you know, thoughts about weight and body size becomes so much more pronounced,Whitney: Yes,Laura: and that further takes you away from being connected and being present with your family. And I'm, I'm wondering what you offer your clients who are, yeah, really just struggling even to get through a mealtime with their family. Whitney: Yeah. So usually what we'll do is we'll do meal exposures together or we'll do like a snack, something to where there's not as much pressure of eyes kind of on them, so to speak. You know, so, maybe we'll try breakfast or lunch, we'll do some kind of exposures together, really dialing into what is the anxiety.You know, I think anxiety can teach us so much, right? Like, we typically treat anxiety as all bad, but I think it's, it's a root of a lot of things. And so really leaning into, okay, what is the anxiety telling us? You know, are we, is there a fear? Right? Sometimes, it's the meal that we're cooking. The parent or mom really wants their kid to have variety, but they're so worried about how this particular food is gonna show up for them. There's a lot of myths. There's a lot of lies that their eating disorder has told them about certain foods. And so really processing through that, processing okay, what feels safe to eat? What feels safe to share like community wise with our family. Things like that. And maybe even delegating, you know, what is their partner doing? Can the partner help with the meal times and the plating and the cooking, things like that, will that dial down some of that anxiety?So kind of really processing through all of that and trying to figure out, and also too, you know, I think a lot of us tend to treat the eating disorder from an abstinence-based approach, and that's not necessarily my philosophy. And so always trying to figure out, okay, what is the root of this? You know, what is the eating disorder giving us, you know, what is it telling us?What is it, what is it helping you navigate through? You know? And then are there alternative coping things that we can use?Laura: Yeah. So I think what you're, you're naming there is how oftentimes eating disorders manifest as a sort of byproduct of trauma oftentimes, and how, I mean, a, a major part of the reason that they develop is because they felt safe, like safety, they kept us safe in one way, shape or another. And so it's, it's almost kind of understanding, okay, the ways that, that this was helpful and protective at least initially, but how perhaps, you know now that the, the immediate danger has subsided, clinging onto an eating disorder is actually more harmful and destructive.Whitney: Yes.Laura: So what are the other ways of coping, of managing that are not destructive, that are helpful and, yeah, that allow us to have a, a, a quality of life that you know, an eating disorder just does not afford anyone. Is that fair? Is that-Whitney: Yeah, absolutely.Laura: -a decent summary?Whitney: Beautifully said Laura: And I hear from a lot of parents maybe kind of early on in terms of feeding their kids. So when it comes up to the point that they're introducing solids and like in the UK we call that weening. I know that's a different thing in the US, but at the point that they're introducing solids and how that can for people with an eating disorder can be really a really triggering phase of parenting. And I'm curious to hear if you've come across this with any of your clients or had conversations with folks about this and what your thoughts are.Whitney: It can be so triggering. It can be triggering, you know, there's so much of the body that can be triggering that we don't talk about, right? So if you are pregnant and you lose your baby, you will still lactate. You know, you will, your, your milk will still come in which can be so triggering. Um, I also have a lot of expertise and experience working with sexual assault victims, and so definitely wanna do a, a trigger warning on that.But the breastfeeding can be particularly triggering if there was a traumatic, anything traumatizing to the breast. And so really kind of going through that as well. Body image, you know, our body changes so much. And that postpartum, you know, pregnancy and that postpartum, I like to think of postpartum as a year.And so that postpartum,Laura: I'm two and a half years out and I'm still saying I'm postpartum.Whitney: I, you know, yeah, I, it makes me so mad.Laura: You're always postpartum, right,Whitney: Yes. Laura: after you've had a baby?Whitney: You are. You are never, yeah, you are never the same, right? You are never the same. I love that. I love that. So I think all of that really needs to be taken into consideration as well. And then the weaning part. So what we, what I've done before in the past is have met with the partners and have really developed a plan for kind of that postpartum in the perinatal phase and, you know, during pregnancy as well.And really have, having the partner be kind of the eyes and ears. And so then it takes, it kind of takes a pressure off because we want our partner also to be involved with the, with the, you know, we call it baby led weaning too, and, and solid sometimes. Different verbiage, but meaning the same thing. So how can we get the partner involved? Sometimes I'll have parents take pictures too of like, okay, like, what do you think? And then also work with the pediatrician as well. I think it's really, really important that we work with a pediatrician just to make sure that baby is, you know, adequately growing.Particularly too, I've always been so curious of this, of, you know, you and I share similar experiences with the, the trauma of NICU and, and latching. But when you have an eating disorder, particularly in such a vulnerable space and time, how does that affect milk supply? How does that affect latching? Different things like that. If there's a co-occurring mood disorder, right? So how is that showing up as well? And so really just trying to hold space for all of the variables while providing, you know, as much support and how the person wants support. I'm also a nurse and so I work with a lot of nurses that have eating disorders and some of them are like, okay, Whitney, give me like, I just need cognitive things. Like, tell me what to do. I need cognitive resources. I always like to ask like, how do you want to receive information, you know, as well.Laura: Yeah. Yeah. And, I think like one thing that I just wanna point out that I've heard from, from parents with eating disorders as well, is that actually sometimes seeing your child have this like real innate embodied wisdom around food and knowing exactly what to do can be so healing for a parent with an eating disorder as well. Like that can really be like, wow, here's this almost role model in a sense of how to have an intuitive relationship with food.Whitney: Yes. And it's almost like reparenting, they get a chance of kind of like to reparent or, or sometimes I like to, maybe not reparent is the best word, but like renourish their inner child. Like they get to reclaim some of that as they're going through the process of, you know, watching the baby-led weaning.And so I try to do things to like make it fun. I, and you know, some parents will side-eye me, but like, also like if your kid is doing chicken nuggets and peas and, mac and cheese, eat chicken nuggets, peas and mac and cheese with them, you know, eat some of those kid foods that maybe.Laura: Oh my God. This is not like, if any parent listening in on this podcast side eyed you for that, then I would put them out personally, because we don't judge or shame food around here. But yeah. Sorry. Your point still stands though. Like get, get in there with them.Whitney: Yes. Make food messy. Make it fun. I've had so many parents be like, oh my goodness, you want me to do what? I'm like, yes, eat those things that you did not necessarily get to eat as a child. You know, because maybe, cuz sometimes too, you gotta think we're, we're dealing generational, right? There was the grandmother that had the eating disorder or the grandfather, which, or a close family member, which directly impacted how the parent, their relationship with food and body and that parent is like, okay, I really wanna break this generational cycle of disordered eating, eating disorder, and some of that is, it gets renourishing, the younger our, our younger inner child too.Laura: Yeah. And that's like a question that I was gonna ask you, you know, for parents who have their own eating disorder, who really are terrified of passing that onto their own kids. You've sort of named there that eating those fun, nostalgic childhood foods is something that they can do to help, like you say, end that intergenerational cycle of dieting, disordered eating, eating disorders. But I'm wondering if there's anything else that you would offer to parents to help, you know, put their mind at ease in terms of, you know, passing on an eating disorder.Whitney: Yeah, you know, we know that there is a genetic vulnerability. It's, you know, we can actually in the bio psychosocial model, like the biology, the psychology, the social environment, and I think the social environment really is key, right? Is how are we creating these safe spaces for you and family members when it comes to eating? And I think too, like taking the pressure off of eating, you know, food is so many different things. It's cultural, it's celebratory you know, it can be, you know, different religions have different food, uh, preferences and things as well. But we can also make it fun. And that's the thing too, is like, I don't think a lot of kids and adolescents are like wanting parents to cook these gourmet meals and make sure they have the salmon, twiced baked potatoes, right? Like, I couldn't, I, I remember some of those things I grew up eating right, but I don't remember every mealtime. But I do remember the, like how I felt as a kid getting to be in that space with my parents. So that's what I tell the parents that I'm working with is how do we create just that safe space where you get to just be with your kid for those 20, 30 minutes. Right? Especially the teenagers, right. I have a lot of parents that are parenting teenagers and it's like just, you know, such a chaotic time. Right?Laura: Yeah.Whitney: So I'm like, go through the drive through. Go through the drive through, turn off the radio, and y'all talk, you know, maybe have 20 minutes a day where there's no stimulation, if you can and just talk and, and see how they're doing. That's the kind of stuff that they remember, you know.Laura: I, yeah. I love that so much. You know, my next question was going to be about sort of the influence of social media in terms of like our, in influencing us to feed our kids perfectly. And as you were saying that, like, I wish that you turned that into like a post for social media. Like take your kids to the fucking drive-through , just go.Whitney: Just go through the drive through. It amazes me, like, yeah, it amazes me. Just like you said, I'm gonna make that a post. That's a great idea. Laura: Do it. Please do it. Because like not only is it subversive in and of itself, but like coming from a dietician who works in eating disorders, like, just like we need that, I'm, I'm working on a piece at the moment, for my newsletter about clean eating and orthorexia and how that is then transmitted to kids and like the fallout on children like, Whitney, I found a case study of a six month old baby. I'm actually gonna cry. A six month old baby who was being fed a homemade formula of sea moss and hemp seed, no supplementation. This child had hypocalcemia, was admitted to hospital with seizures and had rickets. A six month old baby in like, this is like a couple of years ago, right. And so this, yeah, I'm, I guess, You know, we, we all want our kids to be well-nourished, like you were saying at the beginning. Right. That's like, that's a, that's like a, it's a fundamental job of a parent, right? To make sure your kid has like enough to eat and like gets all their, all their nutrition and at the same time, all the, like the fearmongering, the scaremongering around nutrition, around, you know, the quote unquote obesity epidemic. It's driving parents to, and I'm not blaming any individual parent here cuz it's a systemic issue, but it's, you know, promoting a way of eating that is so dangerous for children.Whitney: Yeah.Laura: Anyway, sorry, that was like a major tangent because I've been thinking about it and I find it so disturbing and upsetting. But even in my own practice, I see it happen on like a, not such an acute level, but see the fallout of kind of like this of like healthy eating and clean eating and yeah, this strive for perfection in feeding our kids.Whitney: Yes. And well, and you bring up such a good point too, is I've actually had the parent, the mom, and the, and again, kind of speaking more generally, the mom ended up realizing she had a problem because the kid's teacher was like, you're not packing enough food.Laura: Okay. Yeah.Whitney: So that's when she was like, my relationship, I'm passing on these traits and behaviors. Like I'm, I'm, I'm so, my relationship with food is so distorted that now I'm not even packing enough for my kid. And so even teachers just really, you know, and I'm so grateful. My daughter's kindergarten teacher actually has a son who is in recovery. And so she is so aligned with positive reinforcement. I mean, and like, you know, I told at the beginning, we pack the same lunch. My kid has had the same exact school lunch for three years. I mean, that's, you know, and so I, I just had an honest conversation with her. I was like, you're gonna see the same thing. You know, I, I would love it if she would eat through the line, if she sees something, if she ends up having two lunches, I please support her in that. I want her, you know, we give her free room to try the school lunch if she wants, but we always pack her lunch on field trips. And so, but even teachers, right? Teachers and educators, if we can get them really plugged in on some of these things because you're right, it's, you know, early childhood is such an important time for kids. But it can be so anxiety provoking for parents who are really struggling and are trying to figure out, how do I live with this and it's taking over my life and I don't pass it on.Laura: Yeah. Yeah. And, uh, it just, I have all the compassion in the world for parents who are in recovery from an eating disorder and, and then having to navigate that layer of feeding their kid. I think it's difficult enough feeding a child with the pressures and expectations that we get from social media anyway without having that layer of, of an eating disorder as well.It's so tricky and like you were sort of suggesting before, there are so many pressure points in terms of conception, pregnancy, baby loss. Infertility is another one. And then the actual, you know, birth and if, if, if it's a traumatic birth in that early postnatal period, and then you go from all of that to then having to, to, to, you know, pick up the reins with baby led weaning or, or whatever else, you know, whatever approach that you're taking. And it just all can be so tricky.Whitney: Yes.Laura: And there's just, there, I feel like there's a lack of anyone having conversations about these things and even less support for these things.Whitney: Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Laura: I'm just wondering if, if there's anything that you wanted to add about either navigating feeding kids with an eating disorder or kind of the influence of diet culture, and you know what the like mom influencer culture for want of better word on how we feed our kids and kind of what you are seeing in your clinical practice.Whitney: Yeah. Well you brought up a really good point earlier. We're seeing a lot in the land of orthorexia and so, you know, something I've said before in the past of, uh, clients that I'm like, okay, we, we want to really work on the embodiment. We really wanna work on the variety if we can. The consistent nourishment, you know, without. without engaging orthorexia if we can. And what I mean by that is sometimes there's a tendency, I, I very much treat eating disorders on the spectrum. And so what tends to happen is maybe one, maybe one behavior dials down, but then there's this intense fear anxiety that ramps up and then kind of that obsession with the clean eating, or I don't wanna have like, you know, another co-occurring disease with this. And it's like that hyper fixation emerges. And so really talking about that in a very, just like, non-chain based way. But I definitely see the influence, like you said. I love, I love what you said, the mom culture of this like clean eating smoothie, like whole foods kind of like obsession, which feels so elitist to me. It feels very elitist. Laura: It is because, I mean, this is something I think a lot about is the not only the time, the money, the energy, I don't know. There's so much additional labor that goes into producing that, but it's all hidden, right? Nobody talks about the fact that like, you need someone else to look after your kids while you're doing this right, or you know, the, the labor, like where does that labor fall? Who does that fall on, that labor? And the fact that like it's, you know, it's not necessary from a nutrition perspective, right? You could get like a yogurt drink or a store bought smoothie if that's, you know, available to you. That a lot of what we see on social media is really about aesthetics rather than about nutrition. And I don't know if you know, is it, is it Casey, is it Davis from, from Struggle Care? I don't know if you know that account on social media. I think I've, I've spoken about this before. But she, so she talks about this in terms of your home and, like what's functional versus what is kind of like an aesthetic in terms of your home. And she talks about it through like, through the lens of like laundry. A lot of the times, you know how people have these like pristine laundry rooms and like laundry is kind of a hobby for some people, but that's not necessary in order to have like clean clothes that don't stink, right? You don't like, what is an essential function is like sorting your laundry, putting it in the machine and then like putting it away or putting it in a pile that is, you know, accessible to you. Right. And it's the same thing with feeding, right? This like, I don't even know what the cool, like, super foods are right now, but like the berry nourishing whole foods smoothie.Whitney: Yes,Laura: Like, sure. Give your kids, like, my kid loves berries. My kid would like eat their entire body weight in berries, but I'm not like making a fresh smoothie every morning for him, I'm like throwing some on a tray and being like, here you go.Whitney: Yes, and it's ending up on the wall, on the floor. The fingers are blue. AbsolutelyLaura: So, yeah, and, and I think that that's like a really helpful way to, for us to frame things that we see on social media, like, is this, is this, uh, is this functional or is this an aesthetic? Right. More, more, more often than not on social media, it's an aesthetic, it's a hobby. It's not like a fundamental requirement for feeding our children.Whitney: That's so good. Gosh, I love, okay, it's called struggling. What's the account called? Laura: Struggle Care. Whitney: Struggle Care. That is the most beautiful like metaphor that I have heard in such a while. Like that is,Laura: It's so good. And she did a podcast with you know, like that 10% Happier podcast?Whitney: Yes. Yes.Laura: And she said in that, that she was inspired by like the anti-diet movement to talk about this. She's a therapist. But she kind of took like a lot of the teachings of like the anti diet, like body and body autonomy, and movements like that, and kind of like translated it into home care. So it makes a lot of sense because there are a lot of parallels in terms of like giving yourself permission for your house to be messy. Because what matters is that it's functional and it works for you. Similarly, like eating in a way that works for you rather than all these prescribed rules that diet culture teaches us. I mean, she articulates it a bit better than that, but like, yeah, that's her kind of general,Whitney: I love that so much. I feel like this podcast time was like for me today because I love this so much.Laura: Yeah, she's got, she's got a book. I haven't read it, but I need to get, I need to get on that because yeah, it's clearly she's got a lot of wisdom to share that I think like yeah, we can take for our, you know, to talk about yeah, to, in, in terms of how we can like give ourselves permission to feed our kids in a way that is functional rather than adhering to someone else's unrealistic standards and ideals, which is more about aesthetics than it is about nutrition. Okay.So I'm, I'm curious to know if there's anything else that you wanted to add to that, or if you feel like we've, likeWhitney: I feel like we've talked so about so many things. I love it. I feel like, yeah, so many things today, so far.Laura: Well, given that we have covered a lot of ground, there are, so there are two things that I ask at the end of every episode, and the first thing is that I would love to hear who or what is nourishing you right now.Whitney: Gosh, that's such a good question. So my partner is fabulous and just cannot speak the like enough amazing things. So my partner has been so amazing. Does a lot of the early morning routine , I'm notLaura: Love to see it.Whitney: Yes, I was a night shift nurse for years, and so I, just mornings are still hard for me, so definitely my partner has, has stepped up and I've been getting a lot of nourishment just from a lot of colleagues, you know. I just came back from New York. We were at A Project Heal which is an eating disorder nonprofit in New York City. And so it just felt so nice to be in space with people, you know, I just had really been craving that likeminded people, and so that was just so, just refreshing, like just for my soul, just to be, you know, so many people that I had met honestly over Instagram, right? Like most of the people there I had met and connected with over Instagram. So it was just so nice just to like be in space with them for the first time. So I loved that.Laura: Yeah. Especially like, I don't know how you feel, but if it just feels like, we're still sort of almost in this lockdown mentality of like not really being physically together a lot of times. And a lot of stuff is still like professional stuff is still online, which is great because it makes it really accessible, but at the same time you still miss out on that connection.So yeah. I was watch, I saw some of your stories and posts and stuff from New York and I was like, oh, you looked like you were having the best time.Whitney: It was so fun.Laura: And New York is such a fun city to be in. So yeah, it was like coming across for sure.Whitney: Yeah, I told my, I was telling my husband, I was like, I really wanna go back and take our little one when she's a little older, cuz it's so magical this time of year. And I didn't know that. Like I just, I, you know, I've never been to New York City like, you know, in holiday season and so it is just, it was so, it was cold, but it,Laura: I was just about to say, that's my like memory of New York in like November, December is it's fucking freezingWhitney: It is. It is.Laura: But also spectacular, so yeah. Yeah. Oh, well thank you for sharing that. And then the last, the last question that I have for you is what are you snacking on right now? So, at the end of every episode, my guests and I share something that they've been really into, something that they've been enjoying. Basically a recommendation that you have for the listeners.Whitney: Okay. So I am one of these people that I like to try seasonal things, so I've been trying a lot of mocktails. And we love donuts in our house. So I'm, I, yeah, I, we like love, like, donuts, coffee, chocolate milk, all the things. So I've been trying to do coffee mocktails with like a pastry each morning because it's kind of chilly here, but I just love warmth, just warm things. So that's what I've been doing a lot lately.Laura: So when you're saying a, like a coffee mocktail, is it warm or is it like a, oh, my. Okay. I feel like you need to give a bit more explanation here because like when you said mocktail, I thought you meant like, like an espresso martini, but,Whitney: Yes. So you could do that without the, which. Okay, so how I am, I could drink an espresso martini every day or Bailey's and so I love like a Bailey's Peppermint or like a Bailey liqueor but obviously, you know, at, uh, Laura: It's not, not totally advisable, right?Whitney: I've been doing the hot coffee and I've been exploring with like doing like, so this one dessert that I love to make is, it's cool whip, but I put, uh, okay, so I make, I melt chocolate chips and white chocolate, and then cocoa powder, whip that, let it cool. And then I fold that into like, cool whip or icing, let it freeze. So I'll put that in my hot coffee, let it melt, and then I'll do like a peppermint or a lavender, like simple, like a, a simple syrup thing.Laura: Oh wow.Whitney: And then I'll decorate that with like, and then I'll put more like, whipped cream on top, and I'll decorate that with like, uh, cinnamon or nutmeg or like pecan sprinkle, something like that.Laura: You are doing this for breakfast, like on a weekday.Whitney: Yeah. Yeah.Laura: Oh my God. I can like barely get some oatmeal on the table. That's impressive.Whitney: Yeah, just so I'm, I just finished my semester, so the school year is just so hectic for us because I'm in clinic, I'm getting my, I'm finishing my degree to be a psychiatric nurse practitioner, and so I usually was in clinic like 7:00 AM to 6:00 PM Tuesday, Wednesday, Laura: Uh,Whitney: So I just finished last week. I was in New York taking exams and so I had three weeks off. So I'm just gonna enjoy and do this.Laura: Okay. So your, yeah. Okay. This is a hobby for you. Then, you've got a little bit of extra time. It's luxurious. You're leaning into the seasonal mocktail drink situation. It sounds amazing. I would love to be at your house for breakfast,Whitney: Gosh. I wish I could make you one. I wish I could make you,Laura: I will take a recipe for one. If you have one to share. I will put it in the links.Whitney: Okay. Okay. I'll have to send you some recipes. So I love drinks, like I love beverages, it's so funny you said the word luxury. I made a mood board. Do you know, like Delina Soto, Nutrition Tea? Okay. So we're all like close friends, all met from Instagram, and we have this like nutrition chat. And so Clara was like, let's do a mood board. And so we all zoomed one night with our beverages and Canva. And did these like online mood boards, which were like, amazing. But like my word was luxury. And I was like, I'm really embracing that end of 2022, 2023,Laura: I love it. I love it. Channeling it for the new year. Clara was on Season One of the podcast, so yes. Yay. Yeah. She is known to us. Yeah, she's great. And yeah, I totally love that luxurious energy that you're bringing into 2023. All right, so real quick, my thing that I've been snacking on, so there is this like little brand in the UK I think it's like an independent female owned clothing brand. And they used to do a lot of kid stuff, but now they're doing grownup stuff, but it's still super cute and funky. And I just bought - I've linked to it in a newsletter, but I'll link to it again in this episode - just like a plain t-shirt, but it's got a cereal box, like a little drawing on the front and it's super cute. I just put it in my stories so you can go check that out afterwards. Whitney: Definitely will. Laura: But yeah, it's by Cub & Pudding and just like the cotton is super soft and it's like, you know, just like comfy on my body. I have no idea how I'm gonna wear it yet, but we're recording this before Christmas, even though it will come out afterwards. And yeah, it was like a little Christmas treat to myself. Whitney: I love that. Laura: And it just like is very on brand for me, so loving it. Whitney, it was such a pleasure to chat to you. And I wondered if you could please share where people can find you and, and hear more about your work.Whitney: Yes. Thank you so much for offering that. So my website is www.whitneytrotter.com. And then my Instagram, which I'm probably most accessible through is @whitneytrotter.rd.Laura: And I'll link to all of that in the show notes so people can find you. But this was such a lovely conversation. So thanks for being here. 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Dental hygiene is a Struggle Care issue that elicits very strong feelings, as evidenced by the number of responses I receive to any social media post on this topic. Why do so many people feel strongly about brushing their teeth? Let's talk about it with today's guest! Taylor McFarland is a pediatric dentist, wife, and mother who creates content on social media about dental care. She and I follow each other on TikTok, and I knew she was the perfect person to help us dive into the problem of why brushing teeth is a big Struggle Care topic for many people.  Show Highlights: How Dr. Taylor, as a pediatric dentist, came to the unique viewpoint of understanding why mental health issues cause people to struggle with teeth brushing Why everyone who experiences this struggle thinks they are THE ONLY ONE Helpful tips on how to find a dentist who will most likely be more understanding Why it helps to be honest about your specific barriers to brushing The purpose behind brushing—and why it's OK to skip the toothpaste! How to “pick the pain” that will increase your functioning The purpose of toothpaste–(Fluoride is the key!) Why sodium lauryl sulfate is usually the ingredient that bothers most people who have toothpaste sensitivity Dr. Taylor's tips for people bothered by toothpaste, and toothbrush bristles How apps can make brushing more tolerable, especially with electric toothbrushes Why it sometimes helps to brush your teeth in a different place, like in the shower or the kitchen Why charcoal toothpaste is NOT the best option for daily use Resources: Connect with Dr. Taylor: TikTok, Instagram, and Website  Connect with KC: TikTok, Instagram, and Website (Click the “Hygiene” tab under “Resources” for more information about teeth brushing!) Get KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning

Do us a solid! Take our listener survey at bit.ly/whatfreshhellsurvey. KC Davis is the creator of the mental health platform Struggle Care, where she shares a revolutionary approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life. She is a licensed professional therapist, author, speaker, and advocate for mental health and recovery. She's the host of the podcast Struggle Care– a member of our Adalyst Media podcast network!– and the author of How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing, which NPR just named one of their favorite books of 2022. We all get overwhelmed when we see our chaotic houses as endless "to-clean" lists that we never complete. In this "best of" episode, KC Davis offers simple and easy-to-implement strategies for making cleaning up functional--and giving you small wins along the way that really count. In this episode, KC, Amy, and Margaret discuss: Why dirty dishes are morally neutral The five different categories of things to pick up in a messy room How working in a restaurant gave KC a new perspective on "closing duties"   Here's where you can find KC: https://www.strugglecare.com/about Purchase KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning, here. Special thanks to our sponsors for this month: For trusted protection, choose Pampers, the #1 Pediatrician Recommended Brand. Download the Pampers Club App today to start earning rewards with every diaper & wipes purchase. Aura Frames turns your family's past into the perfect gift, bringing all your favorite photos and videos together in one high-resolution display. Get up to $30 off Aura's best-selling frames at auraframes.com/FRESH. Terms and conditions apply. Author Accelerator's Book Coach Certification program provides resources to help you launch your own thriving business coaching writers. Enroll in the program at bookcoaches.com/podcasts before December 31st to get $600 in book coaching extras. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists. Learn more and save 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/FRESH. For gifts of all kinds, Etsy has it. Use code MERRY10 at checkout for 10% off your first purchase at etsy.com. Gladskin is clinically proven skincare for people of all ages with eczema, acne, and rosacea. Get 15% off plus free shipping at gladskin.com/FRESH. Give Awesome this holiday with KiwiCo! Get your first month FREE on ANY crate line at kiwico.com/motherhood. Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to prose.com/laughing. Rakuten is an online shopping platform that gives you Cash Back when you shop at thousands of merchants. Start shopping at rakuten.com or get the Rakuten app to start saving today. StoryWorth is an online service that helps you and your loved ones connect through sharing stories and memories and preserves them for years to come. Save $10 off your first purchase at storyworth.com/whatfreshhell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today Virginia is chatting about the intersection of diet culture and care tasks with the great KC Davis! KC is a licensed professional therapist, author of How to Keep House While Drowning, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care.If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player! And become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber. It's just $5 per month or $50 for the year. Producing a weekly podcast requires a significant investment of time and resources from several talented people. Paid subscriptions make all of our work possible and enable us to offer an honorarium to expert guests, which is key to centering marginalized voices in this space.And don't forget to preorder Virginia's new book! Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture comes out April 25, 2023 from Henry Holt. Preorder your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books.Disclaimer: Virginia is a journalist and human with a lot of informed opinions. Virginia is not a nutritionist, therapist, doctor, or any kind of health care provider. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions she gives are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.BUTTER & OTHER LINKSPlease sign this petition in support of clemency for Nikki Addimando. You can read more of Nikki's story here (CW for sexual assault and abuse), follow the #FreeNikki campaign on Instagram, and share the petition with friends here.  Want to come on Virginia's Office Hours? Please use this form. Fill out this form to help us plan for the Fat Talk book tour and launch. Thank you!Virginia's essay on organization as a hobby. KC's post on laundry as a hobbyOn seasonal exerciseCREDITSThe Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith. Follow Virginia on Instagram or Twitter.Burnt Toast transcripts and essays are edited and formatted by Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing.The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.Our theme music is by Jeff Bailey and Chris Maxwell.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting independent anti-diet journalism. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe

 http://www.patreon.com/mrchazzThis conversation was only available to my patreon community for a year, and I have finally released it to the general public.  I hope you enjoy this gem!About KC Davis — KC Davis (strugglecare.com) 

Welcome to another episode of Struggle Care! In our first episode, you heard my conversation with Dr. Lesley Cook about executive functioning. Because she has so much great information and wisdom to share, I decided to bring her back to discuss how to navigate care tasks specifically for ADHD adults and kids. Join us for the conversation with Dr. Lesley! Dr. Lesley Cook is a psychologist who does a lot of work with ADHD and other neurodivergencies. Born and raised in Hawaii, she now lives in Virginia and works with children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families.  Show Highlights: How to find the balance between the message of self-compassion and the need for better life management and progress A basic understanding of self-compassion from Dr. Kristin Neff's writings A closer look at shame and how we experience it in relation to self-compassion How to gently shift shame into self-compassion How self-compassion can become a learned behavior that we pass down to our children Resources:  Connect with Dr. Lesley: TikTok and Instagram Connect with KC: TikTok and Instagram Get KC's Book, How to Keep House While Drowning

On this episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by KC Davis. KC is author of the book How To Keep House While Drowning, host of the podcast Struggle Care, and is well known for her TikTok content. KC shares how to divorce yourself from any shame and pressure you feel about the state of your house. She breaks down the differences between tidy, organized, and clean. Finally, she explains how to make chores not just equal but equitable. Recommendations:  Jamilah recommends The Woman King KC recommends Maintenance Phase Elizabeth recommends Science Comics Bonus recommendation: You Don't Have to Fold Your Laundry by Rebecca Onion.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you'll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by KC Davis. KC is author of the book How To Keep House While Drowning, host of the podcast Struggle Care, and is well known for her TikTok content. KC shares how to divorce yourself from any shame and pressure you feel about the state of your house. She breaks down the differences between tidy, organized, and clean. Finally, she explains how to make chores not just equal but equitable. Recommendations:  Jamilah recommends The Woman King KC recommends Maintenance Phase Elizabeth recommends Science Comics Bonus recommendation: You Don't Have to Fold Your Laundry by Rebecca Onion.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you'll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by KC Davis. KC is author of the book How To Keep House While Drowning, host of the podcast Struggle Care, and is well known for her TikTok content. KC shares how to divorce yourself from any shame and pressure you feel about the state of your house. She breaks down the differences between tidy, organized, and clean. Finally, she explains how to make chores not just equal but equitable. Recommendations:  Jamilah recommends The Woman King KC recommends Maintenance Phase Elizabeth recommends Science Comics Bonus recommendation: You Don't Have to Fold Your Laundry by Rebecca Onion.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you'll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by KC Davis. KC is author of the book How To Keep House While Drowning, host of the podcast Struggle Care, and is well known for her TikTok content.  They advise a listener who thinks her niece may be neurodivergent and is specifically showing signs of autism spectrum disorder. The letter writer doesn't think her brother and sister-in-law have noticed yet and she wants to inform them to make sure her niece is being supported. But she has no idea how to start the conversation.  Then on Slate Plus, KC, Jamilah, and Elizabeth share their favorite activities to participate in with their kids.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you'll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola and Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by KC Davis. KC is author of the book How To Keep House While Drowning, host of the podcast Struggle Care, and is well known for her TikTok content.  They advise a listener who thinks her niece may be neurodivergent and is specifically showing signs of autism spectrum disorder. The letter writer doesn't think her brother and sister-in-law have noticed yet and she wants to inform them to make sure her niece is being supported. But she has no idea how to start the conversation.  Then on Slate Plus, KC, Jamilah, and Elizabeth share their favorite activities to participate in with their kids.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you'll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola and Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Meet KC Davis! Struggle Care is a podcast about self-care by a host that hates the term self-care. Therapist KC Davis, author of the book How to Keep House While Drowning talks about mental health, care tasks, and more!

Why does a messy house give me anxiety? Why can't I motivate myself to clean since I had kids? Am I just a lazy mom? Moms often worry about these things, feeling immense pressure to keep a clean house and experiencing shame when they fall short of those expectations. As moms, we can't always buy ourselves more time to clean. But we can approach the concept of cleaning differently, learn to overcome our anxiety around cleaning, and develop simple tips for keeping the house functioning without getting overwhelmed. Today, I'm joined by KC Davis, author of How to Keep House While Drowning, known as Domestic Blisters on TikTok and founder of Struggle Care, to discuss reframing our thinking about “the mess” and tips for cleaning with kids. Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3Ku93VC

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Welcome to the first ever ‘Weekly Rewrite' edition of the podcast!In addition to the monthly long-form episodes, I'm releasing a weekly episode where I discuss the topic I wrote about in my newsletter and blog that week.This week's Weekly Rewrite is Why Career Change isn't Fickle.During the episode I share:Why career change isn't fickleThe joy of making new mistakesHow to make new mistakes in the same jobHow to know if you actually are being fickleA journal prompt on the topicSubscribe to The Weekly Rewrite newsletter - https://www.rewriterewrite.com/get-the-weekly-rewriteRead my written article ‘Why career change isn't fickle' - https://www.rewriterewrite.com/blog/why-career-changes-arent-fickleResources referenced:Making bold career moves without certainty – with Dr. Parth ShahIntuitive career change and creating ‘the sweet life' - with Sarah Potter: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/intuitive-career-change-and-creating-the-sweet-life/id1538589146?i=1000541203110KC Davis and Struggle Care: https://www.strugglecare.com/ Connect with Monique:Web: www.rewriterewrite.com/contactInstagram: @the_rewritersLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/moniquelshaw/ The Rewriters is written, produced and presented by Monique Shaw. Original artwork by Ciana Perry and original music by DJ Cinnamon. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

KC Davis is a professional counselor, best selling author, and expert on helping parents let go of the shame around keeping up with the house. In this episode we talk about how to let go of that shame and how to raise kids so they develop a healthy relationship around care tasks.

We're all familiar with the phrase, “Good enough is good enough,” but today's guest is here to share some wisdom around why good enough isn't just good enough, it's perfect. KC Davis is a therapist, author (of How to Keep House While Drowning, which we highly recommend), and mother of two, who also recently became a TikTok sensation for her open and honest accounts of her home life during the pandemic and her approach to dealing with a messy household. Struggling with postpartum depression during nationwide lockdowns, KC came to the life-altering realization that not folding her kids' clothes didn't make her a bad mother and that it's unrealistic to expect a lived-in home to look fit for the cover of a magazine. She has since come up with practical strategies to help people concurrently look after their mental health and their home environment, which she shares with us today. Sometimes we get too caught up in society's expectations of us and we forget what's really important; so if you're needing some perspective, you've come to the right place!   Key Points From This Episode:   Introducing today's guest, KC Davis. [00:01:51]. KC's accidental journey to becoming internet-famous, and how it has changed her life and continues to change the lives of many others. [00:03:06]. The mindset shift required to make dealing with a messy house more manageable. [00:08:07]. How KC's relationship with the phrase “do your best” has evolved over time. [00:10:11]. KC explains the concept of moral neutrality, and how it can be applied to so many areas of our lives. [00:15:15]. Why embracing imperfection is the key to living a full and happy life. [00:17:54]. A household task that KC struggled with when she had postpartum depression, and the ‘adaptive imperfection' solution she came up with to manage it. [00:19:55]. The three layers of function that KC has developed as a way to help people manage their household tasks. [00:26:14]. An explanation of KC's 9 square matrix for setting priorities. [00:28:27].    Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Struggle Care — https://www.strugglecare.com/ How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis — https://www.amazon.com/Keep-House-While-Drowning KC Davis on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters NAPO — http://napo.net/join NAPO Podcast — napopodcast.com

The majority of self-care content out there seems to rely on having extra time and energy in your life (bubble baths and pedicures anyone?) The reality is those most in need of self-care typically have neither time nor energy to spare. How do we shift the self-care paradigm away from the idea of "treating yourself" and into the reality of learning to survive (and even thrive) in a season where everything seems to be falling apart? KC Davis is a licensed professional therapist, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. KC's compassionate and practical approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life has drawn over a million followers on social media in less than a year. Her book, “How to Keep House While Drowning'' has sold over 27,000 copies and is currently an Amazon bestseller. This episode was recorded live at our 2021 NICU Community Conference.  Visit handtohold.org/conference to learn more or register for Hand to Hold's NICU Community Conference, the only conference for NICU Parents and NICU professionals.

KC Davis is a licensed professional therapist, author, and speaker. She is the creator of the mental health platform Struggle Care, where she shares a revolutionary approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life. She's with us today to talk about her role in the neurodiversity community as a TikTok influencer, how she stumbled into her favorite video community. We love KC not just for her TikTok, though. She's author of the book How to Keep House While Drowning, where she catalogs her approach to healthy living while embracing your struggles as morally neutral, not personality judgments. Her approach to living, shame, and struggle is, frankly, a breath of fresh air. Learn more about KC and her work at StruggleCare. And, of course, buy the book in your favorite format now.

KC Davis is the creator of the mental health platform Struggle Care, where she shares a revolutionary approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life. She is a licensed professional therapist, author, speaker, and advocate for mental health and recovery. Her new book is How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing. Does just glancing in your messy playroom make you want to lie down and nap? We all get overwhelmed when we see our chaotic houses as endless "to-clean" lists that we never complete. KC Davis has simple and easy-to-implement strategies for making cleaning up functional--and giving you small wins along the way that really count. In this episode, KC, Amy, and Margaret discuss: How to take a new perspective on cleaning The five different categories of things in any given mess How to involve kids in cleaning house without tears (theirs OR yours) Here's where you can find KC: https://www.strugglecare.com/about Instagram/Facebook: @strugglecare Twitter: @KCDavisSays You can purchase KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning, here. Special thanks to this month's sponsors: Aura Frame turns your family's past into the perfect gift, bringing all your favorite photos and videos together in one high-resolution display. Get up to $40 off while supplies last by visiting auraframes.com/FRESH.  Beam's DreamPowder is their sleep-promoting healthy hot cocoa. 99% of people experience better sleep quality when taking Beam Dream! Get $20 off at beamorganics.com with the code FRESH. Betterhelp online therapy is affordable, confidential, and effective! Give it a try and see if online therapy can help lower your stress. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/fresh. Credit Karma helps you find low-interest personal loans that may well have lower interest rates than your credit cards do now! Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see your personalized offers. Daily Harvest delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more, all built on organic fruits and vegetables. Go to dailyharvest.com/laughing to get up to $40 off your first box! Home.Made. Podcast is a terrific new podcast offering stories about the meaning of home in America. Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts! Indeedis the only job site where you're guaranteed to find quality applicants that meet your must-have requirements-- or else you don't pay! Upgrade your job post with a $75 sponsored job credit at indeed.com/laughing. KiwiCo projects make science, technology, engineering, art, and math super fun. Get 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line with code MOTHERHOOD. Ladder helps you find life insurance without the hassle! Answer a few questions online to apply for up to $3 million in term life insurance coverage. Go to ladderlife.com/laughing today to see if you're instantly approved. Native deodorant and other body care products are paraben-free on the inside, and now plastic-free on the outside! Get 20% off your first order at nativedeo.com/fresh or with promo code FRESH. Peloton has a workout for every goal, day, and mood: everything from boxing and dance cardio to yoga and meditation. Visit onepeloton.com to learn more. Prose now makes supplements personally tailored to address your specific cause of hair shedding. Get your free in-depth consultation and 15% off your custom hair supplements at prose.com/laughing.  Renzo's Vitamins “melty tabs” taste great and give your kids the vitamins they need- without all the sugar of gummies! Go to renzosmagic.com and use the code FRESH to get $5 off. StoryWorth is an online service that helps you and your loved ones connect through sharing stories and memories and preserves them for years to come. Save $10 off your first purchase at storyworth.com/whatfreshhell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's podcast, I am joined by KC Davis. KC is a licensed professional therapist, author and global leading speaker. She is the creator of the mental health platform Struggle Care, where she shares a revolutionary approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness and hard seasons of life. KC began her mental health journey at sixteen, when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober, she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery.KC is now a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. Professionally, KC has worked most of her career in the field of addiction and roles such as a therapist, consultant and executive director. Building on her work and encouraging more self-compassion, KC devised the powerful practical approach that has exploded in popularity through her TikTok account @domesticblisters. The secret is to simplify your to-do list and to find creative workarounds that accommodate your limited time and energy. Her new book, How to Keep House While Drowning, teaches us to customise our cleaning strategy and rebuild our relationship with our home. But the key takeaway is that messiness is not a moral failing. Find more information on KC Davis:Book Link: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/How-to-Keep-House-While-Drowning/KC-Davis/9781668002841TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters?lang=enInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strugglecare/?hl=enWebsite: https://www.strugglecare.com/A big thank you to our sponsor Athletic Greens. They are going to give you a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/notperfect to upgrade your health and pick up the ultimate daily nutritional insurance! Hosted by Poppy JamieProduced by Georgie RutherfordEdited by George Campen See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode176/    Description If you are struggling to stay on top of your life—your to-do list, home, hygiene, meals, etc.—consider that it's not because you're lazy, even if this is what you've been told. Author KC Davis wants you to know this: messiness is not a moral failing. In her new book, How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing, KC takes on our ‘push harder, be better' culture and all the shame that goes along with seemingly not being able to measure up. Instead, she invites us to take a kinder, more compassionate approach to ourselves during those moments when life overwhelms us.     Guest Bio KC Davis is a licensed professional therapist, author, and speaker. She is the creator of the mental health platform Struggle Care, where she shares a revolutionary approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life. KC began her mental health journey at sixteen, when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober, she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters.   Host Bio Kristen Manieri is the author of Better Daily Mindfulness Habits (July 2021: Rockridge Press). She's a certified both as a habits coach and mindfulness teacher. She specializes in: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, focus, habit formation, rest rituals, and prioritizing personal well-being. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 120 authors and thought leaders about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional AND joyful life. Learn more at https://kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me/.   Mentioned in this Episode   Guest's book: How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing https://www.amazon.com/How-Keep-House-While-Drowning/dp/1668002841   Guest's website: https://www.strugglecare.com/ Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast   Web: https://kristenmanieri.com Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristenmanieri_/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kristenmanieri/  

Episode 82 with KC Davis. “We work so much harder just to do the simple things everybody else can do automatically.” KC Davis is a licensed professional therapist, author, speaker, and the incredible maven behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. She is also the casual genius behind the TikTok account @domesticblisters, where her accessible advice on self-care, self-compassion, cleaning and organizational systems that actually work, has amassed nearly 1.5 million followers. KC's compassionate and practical approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life has also been summarized in her book, “How to Keep House While Drowning.” The revamped, expanded version comes out tomorrow April 26, as does the audiobook read by the author. KC Davis began her therapy journey at 16 when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. Professionally, KC has worked most of her career in the field of addiction in roles such a therapist, consultant, and executive director. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters.  KC and I talk all about how her TikTok audience convinced her to get an ADHD diagnosis and how the app is helping to change the face of what it looks like to be neurodivergent. We also talk about the shame and guilt so many of us feel around domesticity, and the reasons why neurodivergent brains can struggle to stay on top of cleaning and organizing. And we also talk about the cleaning strategies she created for her family that went viral and have changed the lives of so many women, myself included. Website: Struggle Care TikTok: @domesticblisters Instagram: @strugglecare   Find the transcript of this episode at www.womenandadhd.com/transcripts - - - - - Finally ... you've found your people! Now come join us in the Women & ADHD online community: www.womenandadhd.com - - - - - Reserve your spot in the next book club: www.womenandadhd.com/bookclub - - - - - Work 1-on-1 with Katy: www.womenandadhd.com/coaching - - - - -   Exclusive deals for listeners:   Women & ADHD listeners can now receive 10% off your first month of BetterHelp. betterhelp.com/womenadhd - - - - - Women & ADHD listeners can receive $100 off your first ADHD diagnosis visit at Done. https://get.donefirst.com/katyweber - - - - - Women & ADHD listeners get a FREE 14-day trial of the Sunsama Task Manager & Calendar app.   If you are a woman who was diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood and you'd like to be a guest on this podcast, please reach out to Katy via email womenandADHDpodcast@gmail.com. Instagram: @womenandadhdpodcast Tiktok: @womenandadhdpodcast Twitter: @womenandadhd Facebook: @womenandadhd

"Dear Diary, today I spoke with one of my heroes, KC Davis."That's how I'd tell my diary that LPC, TikTok creator, author and founder of Struggle Care, KC Davis, was on my podcast.I was drowning in shame and anxiety at the start of the pandemic. Everywhere I looked were diapers, unfinished tasks, and reminders that I no longer had it in me to fake it. Even if it made me a lazy, gross person (IT DID NOT EVER), I couldn't muster up the energy or focus to have a "clean" home anymore.Cue KC Davis, or Domesticblisters on TikTok. KC was a mom, licensed professional counselor, and human being with her own experiences with mental health impacting care tasks.She quickly became a favorite follow of mine. I was regularly sending her videos to family and friends, going “SHE GETS IT.”Because she DOES. She understands the underlying shame surrounding our output, the state of our homes, the state of our physical bodies, and speaks to the unfair ways in which labor is so often divided up in households.She's been featured in places like Momtastic, UPworthy, The Washington Post, is an Amazon Bestselling Author, and has created an informed, educational place for people who feel like they're drowning.StruggleCare has become a way in which countless people have worked through shame to find self-kindness and functionality. I'm beyond amazed that I got to sit down with her and speak to the shame around care tasks and surviving with less shame.Find KC HERETikTokInstagramBuy her bookConnect with Emily and the STS community here or hereORemail me em@helloemilystearman.comAdded August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I'd be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here's to continued healing.

KC Davis said that "laundry is morally neutral" and opened the eyes of thousands of TikTok followers. She is an author, a counselor, and mother and she spent time on Anchor and Flame talking about Struggle Care and building a space that functions for the family, no matter the season of life.

CW: There are some swears, so please use headphones if you need to. Have you ever felt overwhelmed about or ashamed of being “behind” or “failing” at life basics like cooking, cleaning, household management, or hygiene? Why doesn't “just try harder” ever seem to work to get us organized and “together”? What if, instead of trying to fix ourselves, we could treat ourselves with more compassion and find systems that work for us? Episode 28 of Poised & Powerful Parenting Podcast is sharing the importance of establishing a foundation of care, with KC Davis of Struggle Care! Do you find yourself needing extra time to recover from your weekend or time to prepare your mind and body for the week ahead? Join me for a restorative practice where we'll release tension in our necks, back, and shoulders. Clear your mind so you'll feel reset and re-energized for yourself and your family. Drop into the online Sunday Scaries Support group class: https://poisedpowerfulparenthood.com/take-a-breakKC Davis is a licensed professional therapist, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. Struggle Care is about learning how to accomplish care tasks—and being kind to yourself—when you have functional barriers.In this episode of the Poised & Powerful Parenting Podcast, KC and I discuss the following:Why KC, who's a mental health advocate and Founder of Struggle Care, doesn't like the term “self care” and why she finds it completely unhelpful for the average person.Why care tasks are morally neutral; how you do care tasks has nothing to do with your character as a “good” or “worthy” person.Being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and how she makes systems that work for her while pandemic parenting. The importance of understanding that good enough is perfect - where we picked up our emotional baggage around perfectionism and how we can drop it. Establishing a foundation of care for yourself, and understanding that you deserve kindness and care no matter what, is more important than trying to “keep up” with what others show you their life looks like. Learn more about Poised & Powerful and Sarah at https://poisedpowerfulparenthood.com/interviewsCONNECT WITH KC Davis:FacebookInstagramWebsitePodcastWatch KC clean up: https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis, LPC (and on audiobook)CONNECT WITH SARAH MAYHAN:FacebookInstagramWork with Sarah! LINKS MENTIONED:Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin NeffThe F*ck It Diet Book by Caroline DoonerMaintenance Phase podcast 

KC Davis, therapist, author, and compassionate creator behind the popular and relatable @StruggleCare Instagram/@DomesticBlisters TikTok accounts, breaks down her approach to taking care of your home and life while taking care of your self; how postpartum depression can display as laziness, rage, and an inability to function, despite "knowing better;" loving your children and struggling in the role of motherhood; the warped messages behind today's "self care;" the very real impact of capitalism and the patriarchal structure of our society; the invisible support comparison trap that makes us feel like failures; "care tasks" and other language shifts; why women in particular feel the weight of housework and tie it into their self worth (it goes way deeper than you think); KC's Six Pillars of Struggle Care; rituals like "closing duties" that serve to keep your house functioning while keeping you sane; how to accept help, even when you're a control freak; KC's brilliant parenting advice. Follow KC @StruggleCare on Instagram and Facebook and @DomesticBlisters on Tiktok. Find out more and purchase her book here.

Allison sits down with creator of Struggle Care, author of How to Keep House While Drowning, and TikTok sensation, KC Davis, to discuss making the difficulty around every day care tasks more manageable. KC offers practical advice with no judgement to help anyone who is struggling to care for themselves, their kids, and their living spaces. She offers her wisdom and insight to undo shame and look beneath the many reasons we let morally neutral tasks unnecessarily tell us things about ourselves. Following her TikTok @dometicblisters and ordering her book How to Keep House While Drowning is a must! Get it here on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Keep-House-While-Drowning-compassionate-ebook/dp/B08MD9T8XD Subscribe/Rate Never miss out on an episode by subscribing to our channel here (https://m.youtube.com/c/AllisonSullivan?sub_confirmation) Help other people find the show by sharing this video on your social media. Thanks! Connect with Allison:

KC Davis is a mom of 2, author, licensed professional counselor, and creator of the Struggle Care platform, dedicated to sharing compassion and guidance to those who struggle to perform everyday care tasks.Have you ever felt like your "cup was full" but still had no capacity to play?Do you ever wish a fairy godmother would poof onto your shoulder to be like "the answer is..."?Have you ever beaten yourself up for being a bad mom because your house is a mess or you can't keep up with all the laundry?>You can be emotionally healthy and still be kind of a messy person.You can aim for a net positive experience of being loved for your kids.You can complete care tasks because you deserve to function.FED. CLOTHED. SAFE. LOVED.Stop reading this and just hit PLAY because you're absolutely going to love every single second of this episode!// CONNECT WITH KC //@domesticblisters on TikTok@strugglecare on InstaStruggle Care on Facebookwww.strugglecare.comCALM MOM CALM HOME MasterclassThursday, August 26th - 8pm CentralREGISTER HERE: parentingwholeheartedly.com/calmmom//SCHEDULE YOURS//FREE 30 MIN SANITY & SOLUTIONS SESSION-https://wholeheartedly.as.me/callMore details on my Sanity & Solutions 5-S Framework -www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/coachingI believe in you & I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Join Danielle's Parenting Wholeheartedly community on Facebook.Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Write a Review & Share with a friend!Join Danielle's Parenting Wholeheartedly community on Facebook.Follow Wholeheartedly on Instagram or Facebook.Support the show (https://www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/community)

In our 11th episode,  we catch up on our lives the past week. Then Suzanne sits down to talk to KC Davis (@domesticblisters on TikTok) about the Six Pillars of Struggle Care from her website www.strugglecare.com and her new book How to Keep House While Drowning! (Click to read a sample) Get to know KC in her own words, below! -- I'm KC Davis, a licensed professional counselor, mother of two, and creator of StruggleCare.com. After having my second baby in a new city right as the world shut down from COVID-19, I found herself without access to a support network for months on end. I used every tool in my therapy training arsenal and created a self-compassionate way to address my stress, depression, and ever-mounting laundry pile. After sharing this unique approach on social media, I found myself with 180k followers in under 90 days. The struggle resonated with so many people that I decided to write a book about my approach: How to Keep House While Drowning debuts in November 2020. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ourmessycollective/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ourmessycollective/support