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Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill welcome back Chris Cruz—Managing Director at Harbor + Union and Young Adult Pastor at Bethel Church—for a powerful conversation on leadership, action, and emotional clarity. With refreshing vulnerability, Chris shares how the phrase “clarity is found in motion” transformed his approach to decision-making, leadership, and connection. Listeners will hear how fear often paralyzes us into waiting, but motion—taking a first step—can lead to surprising clarity. Tying this into the Connection Codes framework, Chris explains how emotional insight comes not from planning but from engaging—especially in conversation. This is a must-listen for anyone navigating fear, change, or relational stuckness and looking for practical tools to move forward with authenticity.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mAFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuLinkedIn – Chris Cruz: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisjosephcruz/Chris's Instagram : @chriscruzThe Practice of Being with Jesus: https://tinyurl.com/4zzddd89Chapters: 00:00:00 - A Warm Welcome + Why This Conversation Matters00:00:38 - Meet Chris Cruz: Storyteller, Pastor, Creative Voice00:00:55 - When Desire Isn't Enough—Why Action Changes Everything00:01:36 - Life Lately: Chris Reflects on the Journey00:02:54 - “Clarity is Found in Motion”—The Quote That Sparked It All00:09:52 - Sitting with Fear, Moving Anyway00:14:19 - Processing in Real Time: What Happens When We Don't Have it All Figured Out00:22:34 - Why Imperfection Might Be the Key to Starting00:23:09 - When Learning Becomes a Hiding Place—And How to Step Out00:25:12 - What Therapy Taught Me About Growth and Patience00:25:54 - Getting Honest About What's Really Underneath: Fear, Shame, Guilt00:33:29 - Motion Brings Clarity: Why We Can't Stay Still00:36:37 - Behind the Mic: Chris Shares His Podcast Journey00:39:33 - A Quiet Nudge Forward: Encouragement to Move Gently
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with certified Connection Codes coaches Tanya and James, a couple whose journey into emotional healing began in an unexpected place—deep in a remote part of British Columbia. What started as a midnight podcast listen became a life-altering pursuit of authentic connection. Tanya and James open up about their transformation from emotional shutdown and chronic pain to a marriage bursting with joy, purpose, and practical tools. From ordering the book late at night to leading small groups in their home, launching initiatives in their church, and becoming certified coaches, they share how simple—yet not easy—the journey of emotional fluency has been. Their story is an invitation to bring the tools of Connection Codes into your home, your marriage, your community—and to experience the life-changing impact for yourself.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcastFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesChapters:00:00:00 - Kicking Off the Journey: Meet Tanya & James00:01:11 - A New Chapter Begins: Who Are Tanya and James?00:02:10 - The Moment That Changed Everything: Discovering Connection Codes00:04:34 - Turning Insight Into Action: Bringing Connection Codes to the Community00:06:52 - Real Growth, Real Struggles: Their Personal Transformation Unfolds00:08:48 - A Ripple Effect: Teaching, Leading, and Inspiring Through Change00:09:33 - From Pain to Power: How They Faced Trauma and Chronic Struggles00:11:02 - Unlocking Emotional Power: The Gift of Processing Feelings00:16:36 - Redefining the Classroom: What Happens When You Connect First00:21:25 - From Hurt to Healing: Connection as the Bridge00:23:22 - Ready to Grow? Join Our Summer Coaching Cohort00:24:21 - Why Emotional Processing Is a Superpower (Yes, Again!)00:25:39 - Cracking the Teen Code: Helping Adolescents Be Understood00:26:58 - Glen's Eye-Opening Tale: When Emotions Go Ignored00:29:14 - Transforming Communication: Using the Core Emotion Wheel00:35:59 - Chase the Dream: Why Your Passions Matter More Than You Think00:40:04 - The Transformation Is Real: What Connection Codes Changed00:43:09 - Your Next Step: Final Thoughts and an Invitation to Act
What if the story you've been telling yourself… isn't even yours? In this deeply validating and insight-rich episode of the Connection Codes podcast, Tera Wages joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to explore how childhood messages, cultural labels, and relationship dynamics shape—and often limit—our identity. Through personal stories, including leaving church, navigating marriage intimacy, and feeling misunderstood by family, the hosts unpack what it means to "wear a hat" that no longer fits.Listeners will be challenged to ask: Who put this label on me? Why am I still wearing it? With raw emotional depth and practical wisdom, the episode empowers you to identify the inner “judge,” rewire internal narratives, and intentionally reclaim who you want to become.Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 Connection Codes: https://connectioncodes.co/(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)________________________________________________________________Chapters:00:00:00 – Identity Isn't Just a Concept—It's Personal00:02:26 – When You Realize You've Been Wearing the Wrong Hat00:05:53 – Do I Even Matter… to Me?00:09:23 – The Labels We Live By (And How to Let Them Go)00:13:26 – How External Voices Shape Internal Battles00:25:56 – Old Messages, New Awareness: What Are You Still Carrying?00:27:19 – Step Into the Judge's Chamber—You Might Be Surprised Who's Inside00:28:14 – The Dishwasher Story: It Was Never About the Dishes00:29:28 – Tearing Off the Labels That Keep Us Small00:32:46 – Speak Life: The Words That Shape Who You Become00:42:00 – Feel It to Heal It: A Real Look at the Core Emotion Wheel
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack a recent “miss” in their relationship—one that reflects a broader season of emotional exhaustion, grief, and life transition. From losing Glenn's mother to living a nomadic life out of a suitcase, the Hills open up about the cumulative weariness they've been carrying. Phyllis courageously names the fear of “forever missing each other” and the exhaustion that sometimes keeps her from even wanting to analyze the disconnection. This episode is not about offering quick fixes—it's a raw, heartfelt look at what it means to live through heavy seasons and still choose connection. Whether you're in burnout, walking through grief, or feeling stuck in cycles of disconnection, this episode will remind you: you're not alone, and there's hope in the wide lens.Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineBook a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)________________________________________________________________Chapters:00:00:00 – We're Not Okay (and That's Okay)00:01:20 – When Life Just Keeps Coming at You00:04:16 – Tiny Misses, Big Emotional Impact00:06:39 – I Felt It, But I Didn't Know Why00:13:17 – The Moment We Completely Missed Each Other00:26:16 – From Laughing… to “What Just Happened?”00:26:43 – Unpacking the Emotional Whiplash00:27:18 – Are You Seeing Me As the Enemy?00:28:21 – You Thought I Was Mad… I Wasn't00:30:21 – Slowing Down Before the Disconnect00:33:06 – Reconnection Starts with Brave Vulnerability00:36:08 – How the Emotion Wheel Saved the Moment00:43:48 - Encouragement for Listeners
In this episode, Tera Wages sits down with Phyllis Hill and Echo Hill Vedder to talk about a game-changing concept: desire vs. capacity—the difference between what we want to do and what we actually have the bandwidth for. They discuss how ignoring our capacity leads to burnout, why so many of us push through exhaustion, and how tuning into our bodies can be the key to reclaiming energy and joy. Echo shares how she learned to listen to her body instead of the judge in her head, and Phyllis gets real about hitting empty after years of over-functioning. They explore many ways to grow capacity, shift limiting beliefs, and make space for what truly matters—without guilt or shame. Plus, they break down how emotional processing through Connection Codes helps expand capacity and disrupts the pain cycle not just for ourselves, but for our entire community. If you're feeling exhausted, stuck, or constantly running on fumes, this episode is a must-listen!Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-help (If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)_________________________________________________________________Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:Echo Hill Vetter's Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter Echo's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter Chapters00:00:00 - The Tug-of-War Between Wanting and Doing00:04:10 - A Room Full of Connection Code Coaches00:05:11 - When Your To-Do List Laughs at You00:08:48 - Burnout Doesn't Knock—It Kicks the Door Down00:11:58 - Your Body is Keeping Score (And It's Not Looking Good)00:16:33 - Why Some Days You Can Handle It, and Some Days You Can't00:22:48 - The Science of Saying No (And Actually Meaning It)00:26:57 - The Invisible Cost of Always Saying Yes00:31:37 - The Brain vs. The Body: Who Wins?00:32:34 - When Life Demands More Than You Can Give00:34:38 - SOS: Finding Help Before You Collapse00:36:36 - Systems That Save You From Yourself00:42:56 - Self-Care Isn't a Luxury—It's Survival00:48:07 - Why Emotional Processing is the Secret to More Energy00:54:33 - Final Thoughts From Three People Who've Been There
Certified coach Bridgett Blood joins Phyllis Hill for a conversation about sexual joy and sexual loneliness—what they actually mean and why we're so uncomfortable talking about them. Bridgett explains how these feelings show up whether you're single or married, why we've been taught to fear our own sexual energy, and how embracing it can lead to deeper connection and self-acceptance. She shares her experiences (including a really funny one about a Twister game), pushes back against old beliefs, and talks about why desire isn't just about sex—it's about play, delight, and knowing your own worth. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body or unsure how to talk about what you actually need, this episode is a must-listen!Links and Resources:To download the Core Emotion Wheel:https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheelTo enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineBook a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpConnect with Bridgett:Bridgett Blood:https://bridgettblood.comBridgett on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/bridgettbloodRecover Your Life Podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@BridgettBloodRecover Your Life Podcast on Spotify:https://tinyurl.com/bdebz6ntBook a FREE discovery coaching call with Bridgett:https://tinyurl.com/vhbfb6jxChapters:00:00:00 – What No One Told You About Sexual Joy and Loneliness00:00:53 – The Connection Codes Podcast Kicks Off00:01:46 – Sexual Joy vs. Sexual Loneliness: What's Really Happening?00:04:05 – Personal Stories That Will Shift Your Perspective00:09:15 – The Hidden Triggers of Sexual Activation00:12:07 – What Your Body Is Telling You (That You've Been Ignoring)00:15:43 – Breaking the Shame Cycle Around Sexual Energy00:18:32 – Why Naming Your Desires Changes Everything00:20:19 – A Framework for Processing Sexual Activation00:29:31 – How the Core Emotion Wheel Rewires Your Understanding00:37:13 – Final Thoughts, Resources, and Next Steps
Tera Wages is joined by Bridgett Blood and Phyllis Hill to explore the concept of Psycholation—a state of psychological isolation where people experience emotions alone, even when surrounded by others. They discuss how past experiences can make us want to keep pain to ourselves and the impact it has on relationships and mental well-being. Bridgett shares how she overcame isolation, while Phyllis and Tera get into the importance of safe connections and finding trusted people to process emotions with. They also provide steps for breaking out of Psycholation, including identifying safe relationships, expressing needs, and seeking supportive communities. Tera, Bridgett, and Phyllis will give you encouragement to recognize emotional patterns, build trust, and reach out for connection instead of carrying burdens alone. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters: 00:00:00 - Storing It All Day, Exploding at Night 00:01:04 - The Experts Step In: Meet Bridgett & Phyllis 00:01:49 - A Live Emotional Check-In: What Will Surface? 00:04:30 - Cyclation: The Word You Didn't Know You Needed 00:06:13 - Childhood Blueprints: How We Learn to Isolate 00:07:55 - Secrets We Keep: Why Hiding Feels Safer 00:10:16 - Finding the Exit: Steps to Escape Isolation 00:14:21 - Safe People: Who Are They and Why Do We Need Them? 00:17:20 - The Heavy Load: Are We Expecting Too Much from One Person? 00:23:37 - Who's Safe and Who's Not? A New Way to See It 00:28:05 - Sharing Without Oversharing: Navigating Emotional Conversations 00:29:30 - The Small but Mighty Power of a Simple Text 00:30:19 - Three Feet of Fear: How We Experience and Respond 00:33:38 - Looking in the Mirror: Are You a Safe Person Too? 00:35:55 - Capacity vs. Desire: The Boundary We All Need 00:42:11 - Dream Solutions: What If the Life You Want Is Within Reach? 00:50:53 - Time to Act: One Step to Break the Cycle
Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill continue their conversation about how they're navigating life's big transitions. They reflect on the decision to sell their home of 11 years, the emotional and physical toll of letting go, and the unexpected challenges of rebuilding a new normal. Through stories of fear, exhaustion, and fleeting moments of clarity, they share how community, small steps, and vulnerability carried them through one of the most disorienting seasons of their lives. Together, they offer a reminder that meaningful change doesn't always feel good in the moment, but it's worth every step. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters 00:00:00 – When the Calendar Resets, So Do We 00:01:39 – The Moment After the Big Leap 00:04:24 – What We Learned From Letting Go of Stuff 00:12:24 – Sometimes Help Looks Like a Hurricane 00:17:16 – Prepping a House, Prepping a Heart 00:22:20 – When the Offer Comes Faster Than Expected 00:25:41 – A Table, A Family, and One Last Brunch 00:26:04 – Laughter Echoes in Empty Rooms 00:27:02 – Things We Didn't See Coming 00:28:20 – Saying Goodbye Isn't One Moment 00:29:27 – New Holidays, Old Traditions, Big Emotions 00:31:51 – When Curiosity Feels Vulnerable 00:33:46 – Processing the Aftermath 00:40:54 – The Exercise That Held Us Together 00:46:51 – What Comes After Goodbye
When we are constantly overwhelmed and in reactive mode, how can we effectively manage our emotions and connect with ourselves and those around us? Tera Wages, CEO of The Connection Codes, is here to help. In this episode she explains how using a tool that takes just 4 minutes a day can help you transform your relationships with your spouse and kids. We also chat about how to get our family on board with the Codes we can express our negative emotions in a healthy without making our kids feel responsible for making us happy. Tera is a wife, mom of 4, podcast host and CEO of The Connection Codes. She is passionate about empowering others to regulate their emotions with simple, practical tools. She helps women who feel overwhelmed and tired sort through the mess in their minds, leading to more energy, more clarity, and more joy. Resources Mentioned (affiliate links may be included): Learn more about Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill's work at the Connection Codes and get your Core Emotions Wheel for free here. Connect with Tera on The Connection Codes Podcast or Instagram. Read The Connection Codes It's Not About the Nail video Related Episodes: Episode 51: 7 Steps to Declutter Challenging Relationships and Become a Boundary Boss with Jen Rogers from Bold & Blended Stepmoms Episode 84: Simple Techniques to Build Emotional Resilience to Combat Overwhelm and Dysregulation with Michelle Grosser from The Calm Mom Podcast Episode 102: Chronic People-Pleaser? Declutter Your Need to Please with Mikki Gardner from Co-Parenting with Confidence *** I help moms declutter their homes, heads, and hearts. Contact - > info@simplebyemmy.com Podcast -＞ https://www.simplebyemmy.com/podcast Learn -＞ https://www.simplebyemmy.com/resources Connect -＞ Join our free Facebook group Decluttering Tips and Support for Overwhelmed Moms Instagram -＞ @simplebyemmy and @momsovercomingoverwhelm *** Don't Know Where to Start? *** 5 Steps to Overcome Overwhelm -＞ https://simplebyemmy.com/5steps/ 5 Mindset Shifts for Decluttering -＞ https://simplebyemmy.com/mindset/ Wanna work with me to kick overwhelm to the curb, mama? There are three options for you! Step 1: Join a supportive community of moms plus decluttering challenges to keep you on track at the free Facebook group Decluttering Tips and Support for Overwhelmed Moms Step 2: Sign up for the weekly Decluttering Tips and Resources for Overwhelmed Moms Newsletter and see samples here: https://pages.simplebyemmy.com/profile Step 3: Get more personalized support with in-person or virtual decluttering and organization coaching! https://www.simplebyemmy.com/coaching
Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men's sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather than performance. The conversation also touches on common challenges in sexual relationships, the importance of open communication, and how better sexual education can lead to deeper emotional connections. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Connect with Sam: Sam Jolman: https://www.samjolman.com/ Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samjolman/ Sam on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samjolmancounseling Sam's Substack - the heart of it: https://samjolman.substack.com/ The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/4s7b47pr Story Formed by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/53sy8amx Chapters: 00:00:00 – Setting the Stage: Why This Episode Stands Out 00:01:38 – Meet Sam Jolman: A New Voice in Masculine Sexuality 00:03:48 – Redefining Masculine Sexuality Through Personal Stories 00:06:52 – Real-Life Experiences That Shape Our Sexual Identity 00:09:55 – Why Sexual Education Is More Important Than Ever 00:14:03 – Navigating Challenges in Today's Sexual Relationships 00:20:20 – The Strength in Vulnerability: Opening Up About Sexuality 00:25:01 – How to Clearly Communicate Your Sexual Needs 00:27:29 – Breaking Down Sexual Play and Its Importance in Relationships 00:28:28 – Understanding the Boundaries: Consent and Desire 00:29:37 – The Neurological Basis for Play and Vulnerability 00:32:32 – The Root of Miscommunication in Sexual Relationships 00:34:24 – Overcoming Fear and Embracing Playfulness in Intimacy 00:47:13 – The Hidden Power of Non-Sexual Play in Strengthening Bonds 00:48:37 – Wrapping It Up: Key Takeaways from the Conversation
The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconnection. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack the idea of the "courtroom" in relationships, where couples focus on proving who's right instead of understanding each other's emotions. They discuss how this leads to loneliness, especially in areas like sex, and share tools to shift from battling over facts to building deeper emotional connection. Whether it's about resolving conflict or dealing with sexual loneliness, you'll be offered a path to transforming your relationship. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Opening the Courtroom: How Conflicts Become Trials in Marriage 00:01:21 - Marriage as a Battlefield: The Story Behind the Courtroom Mentality 00:03:05 - The Burden of Being Right: When Winning Means Losing 00:04:21 - Logistics vs. Emotions: The Trap of Disconnected Arguments 00:09:45 - The High Cost of Winning: How Arguments Lead to Disconnection 00:14:36 - Exhaustion and Innocence: Why Proving Your Case Drains You 00:21:36 - The Unseen Toll: Navigating Emotional Chaos 00:22:20 - Sexual Loneliness Unveiled: A Pain Often Ignored 00:23:05 - Connection Through Conversation: How Words Heal 00:24:54 - Validation's Power: The Key to Emotional Harmony 00:26:37 - Conflict as Connection: Transformative Approaches 00:27:40 - Practical Tools for Lasting Emotional Intimacy 00:29:32 - Reflecting on Past Wounds: Why Emotional Tools Matter 00:33:19 - Emotional Mastery: Building the Right Relationship Toolkit 00:37:15 - Healing Old Wounds: How Emotional Tools Transform Relationships 00:41:48 - Encouragement & Wrap-Up: Moving Forward with Connection
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share their unforgettable engagement story, marked by an unexpected fireworks mishap. They open up about the challenges and rewards of maintaining a long-term relationship, discussing the importance of addressing and processing emotional pain rather than suppressing it. They provide insights into the tools and practices that help couples connect on a deeper level, revealing how consistent effort and communication can lead to personal and relational growth. Join them as they unpack the complexities of emotional weight, the significance of the core emotion wheel, and the journey towards authentic connection! Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - The Painful Path to Progress 00:01:04 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast 00:01:40 - Celebrating 42 Years: Engagement Story 00:03:00 - The Explosive Proposal: Fireworks and Chaos 00:09:44 - Commitment and Connection: Staying Together 00:13:11 - Understanding and Managing Pain 00:17:34 - The Hard Work of Emotional Healing 00:22:37 - Understanding Human Emotions 00:26:21 - Processing Anger and Emotions 00:27:06 - The Core Emotion Wheel 00:33:15 - Acknowledging and Addressing Loneliness 00:38:45 - The Overwhelm Overhaul Program 00:39:34 - Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Echo Hill Vetter joins hosts Tara Wages, Dr. Glenn Hill, and Phyllis Hill to explore a revolutionary parenting approach that champions connection over correction. This discussion about the deep-seated traditions of disciplinary methods challenges the effectiveness of punishment and advocates for a nurturing environment where children learn through understanding and empathy. Echo shares personal experiences and practical advice on how fostering emotional safety within the family can lead to more authentic and supportive relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to shift generational patterns and embrace a more compassionate approach to raising children. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters: 00:00:00 Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast 00:00:21 Meet Echo Hill Vetter: A Visionary in Parenting 00:02:00 Unpacking Trauma with the Core Emotion Wheel 00:05:20 A New Paradigm: Discipline Through Connection 00:08:26 Echo's Family Dynamics: A Case Study in Connection 00:09:33 Connection Codes in Action: Echo's Approach with Her Children 00:11:02 Community and Connection: Building a Supportive Family Environment 00:13:15 Correcting Paths through Understanding, Not Punishment 00:14:29 Harnessing Connection to Revolutionize Parenting 00:16:17 Tackling Parental Fears and Societal Challenges 00:21:00 Decoding Whining: Signs of Unmet Needs 00:26:14 Wrapping Up: Inspirational Takeaways and Next Steps
After recording last week's episode, but Dr. Glenn and Phyllis hill, we stayed on and chat a little longer. We got started talking about sex dates and how Glen and Phyllis look forward to this time. So I suggested we record another episode to share this fun and creative concept with you. If you miss last week's episode, we talked a lot about emotional connection. This week's episode is all about this sexual connection, and it's a fun one and full of so many nuggets! If you're like, we should totally do a sex date, but you want some specifics on how to make it amazing for yourselves, then save the dates in your calendar for July 12-14. Emily, and I will be putting on a virtual retreat where you get to join us from the comfort of your hotel room, Airbnb or bedroom. This retreat is focused on enhancing your sexual experiences as a couple. And the details are on our website. Get the Free Core Emotions Wheel referenced in the episode here. Use code DAN to get a discount on Connection Code courses as well. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program!
Understanding and making sense of our emotions is absolutely essential to living well. We have parts of our brain that are responsible for making sense of our emotions. We also have parts of our brain dedicated to mapping the emotional state of those around us. Sometimes couples come to me for coaching because they don't feel emotionally connected to their spouse. There are a myriad of reasons why they're struggling in this area. So I invited Dr. Glen hill, a marriage therapist, and his wife, Phyllis, onto this podcast to talk about their story and about the role of emotional connection in marriages. One thing I learned is when we use the word connection, we mean it in like, "We're not connected," in a negative connotation. But the reality is, we are often connected, whether we like it or not. Sometimes we like the way we're connected or sometimes we don't like the way we're adversarially connected and fighting a lot. So learning to understand the difference between connection you like and and connection you don't like is an important step forward in learning how to communicate emotionally with your spouse a whole lot better . In fact, in this episode, Glenn and Phyllis are so vulnerable and they share a practice about how they relate to each other emotionally. My wife and I have been doing this practice daily for about eight months now, sp I can personally vouch for this. I encourage couples like coach to try this practice as well! Get the Free Core Emotions Wheel referenced in the episode here. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program!
Join your host Tera Wages, along with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, as they explore the intricate dance between joy and pain through personal stories and the revolutionary use of the core emotion wheel. Discover how facing deep emotional challenges within a family can open up pathways to healing and deeper connections, highlighting the surprising truth that profound joy often coexists with intense sorrow. You are invited to reflect on your own experiences with emotional complexity and the power of vulnerability in fostering true connection. Tune in to learn how embracing all facets of your emotions can lead to a more fulfilled and emotionally rich life. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass Chapters: 00:00:00 - Intro to Connection Codes: Bridging Emotions 00:01:34 - Unveiling the Core Emotion Wheel 00:03:08 - Personal Stories of Emotional Courage 00:06:22 - Harnessing Emotion to Enhance Connection: Personal Stories 00:10:15 - Coping with Deep Family Challenges 00:12:32 - The Role of the Emotion Wheel in Family Healing 00:14:00 - Personal Reflections on Sorrow and Support Mechanisms 00:18:22 - Vulnerability in Times of Crisis: A Family's Testament 00:20:54 - The Strength Found in Open Vulnerability 00:23:09 - Journey Through Emotional Release to Joy 00:25:45 - Comparing Physical and Emotional Pains 00:27:23 - Finding Joy Amidst Deep Sorrow: A True Story 00:29:38 - Why Processing Emotions Matters for Health 00:33:54 - Vulnerability as a Pathway to Emotional Healing 00:36:30 - Techniques for Effective Emotional Processing 00:38:15 - Using Emotional Tools to Foster Resilience and Connection 00:40:45 - Conclusion: Taking the Steps Towards Emotional Maturity
In this episode, listeners are invited to explore the complexities of marital intimacy overshadowed by past trauma, physical challenges and addiction through the compassionate insights of Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill from Connection Codes. The journey promised entails a path towards healing and a profound emotional bond between partners. Together, the hosts delve into the intricate dynamics of sexual trauma within marriage, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and addressing old wounds for their dissolution. Utilizing the 'issue-specific core emotion wheel,' they navigate tender memories and advocate for the 'power of the ooh,' a simple yet impactful expression of empathy strengthening spousal bonds.Listeners are also encouraged to challenge their perceptions as the discussion also addresses the misunderstood condition of vaginismus, shedding light on its emotional foundations that contribute to a significant majority of cases. The discourse underscores the essential relationship between physical affection and emotional security, emphasizing the need for a tranquil sanctuary for sexual pleasure. Furthermore, the conversation explores the emotional weight often carried by men and women in response to sexual rejection and the importance of seeking external guidance when stuck in patters of current or past sexual addiction.Ultimately, the episode serves as more than just an informative resource; it's a heartfelt guide tailored for couples striving to honor God's design for sex within the sanctity of marriage. Through transparent communication and shared empathy, listeners are offered insights to enrich their connection and strengthen their relationship.-----Discount on all Connection Codes courses with the code JAY!-----Hills' Bio:Dr Glenn Hill is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, Connection Codescoach and author with a private practice in Nashville, TN. He considers his greatestcredential to be his 40-year marriage with Phyllis. He enjoys doing absolutely anythingwith her, especially traveling and spending time with their family of twenty.Phyllis Hill is an entrepreneur, Connection Codes coach and the engine that keepseverything running. She enjoys the partnership and adventures she and Glenn shareand loves being “Honey” to their ten grandchildren.The pain of their early married years along with decades of research and experience ledthe Hills to the founding of The Connection Codes. They counsel couples, families,individuals, churches and businesses in building deep connection. They are passionateabout the Connection Codes because of the effect on their relationship, as well asseeing the effect for countless others. It is the Hills' mission to take the ConnectionCodes to everyone on the planet.Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebook Connect with Jason:Jay's InstagramJay's FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org
Jason and Lauren Vallotton host Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill from Connection Codes as guests in Part 2 of a profound exploration of the intimate conversation about Sex in Marriage. This episode delves into the intricacies of emotional connection and how it fuels a more fulfilling sexual relationship. The Hills unravel the complexities of sex in marriage and explain that emotional safety is not just complementary to intimacy—it's foundational. The Hills' candid reflections on their journey and the practical tools they've developed, like the Core Emotion Wheel, provide actionable steps to help you articulate your feelings and desires, ensuring a richer connection with your partner.Intentionality is the key to an enhanced intimate life. Together with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, the Vallottons explore the importance of understanding the unique triggers— 'brakes and accelerators'—that influence the transition into the realm of intimacy. Discover how setting the stage with the right atmosphere and a foundation of emotional connection can significantly enhance arousal and satisfaction. Sharing insights into the art of discovering what makes us feel desired, the hosts offer strategies for couples to communicate their needs effectively. This conversation isn't just about improving your sex life; it's about elevating the entire standard of marital intimacy. Candid sharing illuminates the highs and lows of building a sexually fulfilling union, piercing through the layer of silence that often shrouds this delicate aspect of marital bliss. This episode promises an unvarnished look at the journey from purity to passion, unpacking the weighty influences of past experiences and the sheer power of connection and vulnerability between partners.-----Discount on all Connection Codes courses with the code JAY!Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebook Connect with Jason:Jay's InstagramJay's FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org
We're discussing the complex nature of anger, distinguishing between its roles as both a primary and secondary emotion. Through a compelling conversation with hosts Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn Hill, and Phyllis Hill, we explore how anger can serve as a protective shield and a driver for change. By breaking down the misconceptions and uncovering the true roots of anger, the episode offers you a unique perspective on using this powerful emotion to enhance connectivity in relationships and personal growth. Through personal experiences and expert analysis, this episode not only will enlighten you but also will empower you to harness your anger in constructive ways, paving the way for deeper connections and a more fulfilling life. Chapters: 00:00:00 - Exploring Anger: Primary and Secondary Emotions Uncovered 00:05:23 - Personal Insights: The Transformative Role of Anger 00:09:05 - Vulnerability and Its Crucial Role in Understanding Anger 00:13:17 - Anger as Protection: Insights from Personal Experiences 00:17:23 - Leveraging Anger: Catalyst for Change and Personal Growth 00:20:08 - Overcoming Physical and Emotional Pain 00:22:18 - The Complex Dance of Anger and Relationships 00:24:56 - The Transformative Power of Pausing in Moments of Anger 00:27:29 - Loneliness, Partnership, and Emotional Connection 00:29:09 - Beyond the Surface: Anger in Individual and Social Contexts 00:33:39 - Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: Core Emotions and Beyond 00:37:19 - The Core Emotion Wheel: Pathway to Emotional Insight 00:44:54 - Empowerment through Emotional Education: A Vital Call to Action Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass
A lot of people start out their marriage optimistic, in love, and excited about the future.
THIS EPISODE OF GROWING OLDER LIVING YOUNGER focuses on counteracting loneliness, and fostering emotional connection in relationships through the program, Connections Codes Today's Featured Experts, Dr. Glenn Hill and Phyllis Hill share their personal journey of discovering the emotional side of relationships and how they sidestepped each other's triggers early in their marriage, leading to a lack of emotional closeness despite having successful careers and family. Their program, the Connection Codes, evolved out of their own need to create connection in their marriage. Having spent those first 30 years of marriage living in disconnect, Glenn went back to school to become a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. Together Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically; Episode Timeline 0:11 Intro to Aging, loneliness, and emotional connection 3:45 Marriage, relationships, and personal growth 8:06 Communication and conflict resolution in a long-term marriage 14.22 Emotions in communication. 19:16 How emotions impact relationships 23:46 Emotional processing in relationships Learn more about about the Hills and Connection Codes Learn more about https://www.connectioncodes.co/livingyounger-- 4 minute tool for processing emotion Find their book here: About Your Host: Dr. Gillian Lockitch Download your free Guide to Living Younger Longer. Schedule a free Discovery Call with Dr. Gill Email Dr. Gill at askdrgill@gmail.com About Your Host: Dr. Gillian Lockitch website: https://www.askdrgill.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gillian.lockitch/ GOLY Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/growingolderlivingyounger And if you have not already done so, follow, rate and review the Growing Older Living Younger podcast.
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage dealing with major conflicts, especially when it came to their sex life, which inspired his reason to become a Marriage and family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. In this vulnerable conversation, Phyllis and Glenn reveal their journey from a disastrous wedding night to having the best sex of their lives in their 60s. They share hard-won insights like the 19-second rule to end triggers, why reassurance can damage relationships, and their innovative Core Emotion Wheel technique. After 45 years together, Glenn and Phyllis are living proof that emotional intimacy only gets better with time. Join them to discover the secrets that can get your relationship out of blame and into love.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR:The one question to ask that instantly diffuses fights and triggers Why their therapeutic work failed and how they developed a new emotional frameworkWhy children connect better than adults and how to reactivate your natural wiringThe Secret Code to Access Your Partner's Nervous System (and how it can bring you closer in seconds)Learn the Core Emotion Wheel: A Simple Roadmap to Your Partner's HeartEPISODE LINKSFree Gift - Video Tutorial & Download the Core Emotion Wheel. Course - Use Code: SRI20 for 20% off their Foundations MasterclassThe Connection Codes PodcastPhyliss & Dr. Hill's Website SxR Episode #50 - Overcoming Triggers in IntimacyAwaken Arousal Oil Lubricant "I had a 3-minute orgasm and then a 5-minute orgasm. All I know is that I had transcended and felt like I was surfing in a perpetual wave pool of pleasure." - BethSupport the showSxR Hotline | SxR Website | YouTube | TikTok | Pinterest | Instagram | Dr. Willow's Website | Leah's Website
Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined my Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill as we walk through their marriage tool for deeper connection and conversation. You can learn more about the Connection Codes and pick up the 4 Minute Tool here - https://connectioncodes.co/passionatelymarried On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I discuss our take on the Connection Codes tool. Is it good for everyone? Are there things to look out for if you use it? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honeylove: Get Up to 50% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/passion! #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.passionatelymarried.net The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined my Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill as we walk through their marriage tool for deeper connection and conversation. You can learn more about the Connection Codes and pick up the 4 Minute Tool here - https://connectioncodes.co/passionatelymarried On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I discuss our take on the Connection Codes tool. Is it good for everyone? Are there things to look out for if you use it? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honeylove: Get Up to 50% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/passion! #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://passionatelymarried.net/academy The post Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649 first appeared on Passionately Married.
A Chat with a Clinical Sexologist PhD, Marriage and Family Therapist and the Founders of the Connection Codes
You know that moment when things go quickly from okay to “What just happened?” in your marriage? Suddenly there's tension and you're totally disconnected. Today, we are so happy to have Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill join us on the podcast. They do a great job explaining what goes wrong in that moment, and how to prevent it from happening again. Tune in to learn more! Episode highlights include: The shift that completely changed how they approached conflict The 1 question to stop asking in fights and the better 1 to ask instead The Hills unpack what it means that identity is the #1 human need, and how that plays out in marriage A practical tool to easily learn how to emotions well together How disconnection can affect family life and strategies to handle it Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Find more from Dr. Glenn and Phyllis at their website: https://www.connectioncodes.co/ and make sure to use the code AWESOME20 for 20% off any of their classes! Learn more about using this process to connect in their book: The Connection Codes or on The Connection Codes Podcast! Download your free copy of the Hill's Core Emotion Wheel! You are invited to Dr. Kim's free webinar, 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair in Your Marriage. Get all the details HERE
You know that moment when things go quickly from okay to “What just happened?” in your marriage? Suddenly there's tension and you're totally disconnected. Today, we are so happy to have Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill join us on the podcast. They do a great job explaining what goes wrong in that moment, and how to prevent it from happening again. Tune in to learn more! Episode highlights include: The shift that completely changed how they approached conflict The 1 question to stop asking in fights and the better 1 to ask instead The Hills unpack what it means that identity is the #1 human need, and how that plays out in marriage A practical tool to easily learn how to emotions well together How disconnection can affect family life and strategies to handle it Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Find more from Dr. Glenn and Phyllis at their website: https://www.connectioncodes.co/ and make sure to use the code AWESOME20 for 20% off any of their classes! Learn more about using this process to connect in their book: The Connection Codes or on The Connection Codes Podcast! Download your free copy of the Hill's Core Emotion Wheel! You are invited to Dr. Kim's free webinar, 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair in Your Marriage. Get all the details HERE
Feel like you've lost connection with your partner? Find little things become big arguments more often than not? Couples therapy not helping like you'd hoped? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill had the perfect relationship till they got married. After spending decades of disconnecting from each other Phyllis discovered a clue that set them on a path to restore their connection. Inspired by the results of their clients, loads of research and Glen becoming a marriage and family therapist as well as a clinical sexologist these two have teamed up to create Connection Codes, a program designed to reconnect through core emotions. In this episode of The Health Fix Podcast, Dr. Jannine Krause interviews Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill on their story and how you can get started reconnecting today. What You'll Learn In This Episode: The power of the 8 core emotions How you can resolve a conflict in less than 30 seconds The transformation that's possible in 19 seconds of processing an emotion How 8 core emotions can be communicated in less than 4 minutes Using the core emotion wheel daily on your own and with your partner to improve communication The importance of co-regulation vs self-regulation Resources From The Show: Connection Codes Masterclasses Masterclasses - 20% of “healthfix” The Connection Codes Book The Connection Codes Podcast
In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill and Phyllis Hill discuss the purpose of shame and challenge the common narrative that shame is solely negative. They explore how shame can actually serve as a messenger, guiding us toward becoming a better version of ourselves. The episode delves into the misconceptions surrounding shame and highlights its role in personal growth and human connection. Listeners are encouraged to embrace shame as a valuable tool for self-improvement and to shift their perspective on this often misunderstood emotion. To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
E321– Inner Voice – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan. In this episode, Dr. Foojan Zeine chats with Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill who have spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr. Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage and Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute tool. Now, they are authors, and speakers, and have Connection Coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships. To get 20% off their classes go to www.connectioncodes.co/innervoice and use the discount code: Innervoice
We all have a story. And, our story informs and shapes our present reality, especially the ways we show up in the most intimate and vulnerable spaces. In this episode, you'll hear a beautifully redemptive story. Kristin Richardson from the Fearless In Love podcast joins to share the journey she and her husband Todd made through the devastation of sexual brokenness. While pornography is part of Todd's story, there is greater depth behind that sin struggle. Kristin brings insight, understanding and so much wisdom as she shares how the Lord has brought restoration, healing and freedom as they walk in more joy in their marriage today than they could have ever imagined. About Kristin Richardson: Kristin Richardson has been married to her high school sweetheart, Todd, for 33 years and together they have ministered through “Resurrecting Sexuality” Conferences, RS Workbook studies, mentoring and coaching for the past five years. Through their story, they have experienced the power of the gospel and it has transformed their marriage. They're passionate about sharing the hope of the gospel related to sexuality and the beauty and glory of God‘s design for sex. Kristin and Todd are blessed with three beautiful children plus two children in-loves and a precious grandson. Currently they share their message through a podcast called Fearless in Love. If you would like to contact them, please feel free to email fearlessinlovepodcast@gmail.com You can also find Kristin on Instagram @kristin.richardson5 Related Episodes: Pornography & Sexual Shame to Freedom with Joy Skarka, here Transformational Keys to Emotional Connection - Pt. 1 with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, here Stewarding Sexuality: Faithfulness Leading to Fruitfulness, here Resources Mentioned: Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, Jay Stringer Connection Codes, here Donate to the Heaven in Your Home Ministry: Let's keep the message moving. Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here. You're Invited: Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle Listen to Heaven in Your Home Family Music: Spotify Apple Music YouTube Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter Website Instagram
Humans are wired for emotional connections to other humans. One of the core elements to that is sex. Its also communication, the two go hand in hand, right? Then add religion and you have a web of disfunction. During this podcast we have a fascinating discussion with very religious married couple Phyllis Hill, an entrepreneur, and Dr Glenn Hill a sexologist who turned their own painful 40 year journey into a book “The Connection Codes.” Spoiler alert this goes way deeper than religion and sex! Its a fascinating account of human behavior relationships and actual solutions for happiness.
In this episode we discuss how we have been able to improve our communication about sex. We again refer to the book The Connection Codes by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill. We invite you join us in this conversation! Feel free to contact us at fearlessinlovepodcast@gmail.com.
This episode focuses on a discussion of emotions, conflict, and connection. We are going to discuss feelings…identifying them, dealing with them, and strategies to deal with conflict! This episode features Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill and they have developed a proven tool to help conquer conflict in just 4 minutes Questions this episode will answer: -What are some strategies to identify emotions? -Why does processing emotions matter? -What is a proven way to conquer conflict in a relationship in only 4 minutes? Whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, there is something in this episode for you. You have emotions and you interact with others. You even get to hear me try their 4-minute technique on the show. Find Glenn and Phyllis Hill: https://instagram.com/connectioncodes https://www.connectioncodes.co/ Resources: Get your free Better Mental Health Affirmations: Affirmationbonus.com About Glenn and Phyllis Hill: Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill have developed a proven tool to help conquer conflict in relationships in just 4 minutes. After experiencing 30 years of painful marriage, Dr. Glenn decided to go back to school to find out what was making his marriage so bad. He received his masters in Marriage & Family Therapy and a doctorate in Clinical Sexology. Dr. Glenn spent many of those years researching emotions and studying how the brain fires when we experience them. This led him to discover what is causing couples to disconnect and it was Phyllis who turned it around to find what causes couples to connect- now known as the Connection Codes. They are on a quest to share the Connection Codes with the world. It is based on the science of the human condition. When doing his research, Dr. Glenn studied the behaviors of infants and children. He realized we all have these tools built in, we were simply reprogrammed along the way. He & Phyllis are now helping people get back to their core and live connected.
In July, I hosted a webinar called "How To Get Past Hollywood Gatekeepers" where I shared my thoughts on creative things you can do now with the strikes happening, as well as what you shouldn't be doing. This episode addresses questions you asked in our Q&A session that we didn't have time to answer. There's lots of great info here, make sure you watch.Show NotesFree Writing Webinar - https://michaeljamin.com/op/webinar-registration/Michael's Online Screenwriting Course - https://michaeljamin.com/courseFree Screenwriting Lesson - https://michaeljamin.com/freeJoin My Watchlist - https://michaeljamin.com/watchlistAutogenerated TranscriptMichael Jamin:You shouldn't. You should not try to work. I mean, you don't go on any guild SAG projects or guild projects, but you could do, if it's a non SAG project, like a student film or something, you can do that. You're not violating anything. You're not getting paid, but you can build your network. Exactly. Or make your own stuff. If you write your own mini scene or movie or whatever and you shoot it on your phone, you're not breaking any strikes. You're not selling it, you're just shooting it. You're listening to screenwriters. Need to hear this with Michael. Hey everybody, welcome back. It's Michael Jamin. I'm here with Phil Hudson and we are going to answer some questions. So as you may or may not know, we host a webinar, a free webinar every three weeks usually, and I try to answer a different topic. And the last topic we did was called How to Get Past Industry Gatekeepers. And we did an exclusive v i P room afterwards where people could ask questions. This is where the questions are coming from, Phil, right?Phil Hudson:No, these are actually the ones from the webinar. We didn'tMichael Jamin:Oh, these are from the webinar. Okay.Phil Hudson:Yeah, because we shifted things up and for people who, dunno, you were spending a lot of time, we were staying on for an hour doing q and a with everybody, and so we just decided to give everyone an opportunity to hop in and get FaceTime with you. It's limited seats of V I P Q and A, and this is for the people who ask questions during the webinar who didn't get their questions answered rightMichael Jamin:Now I'm confused. Okay. Yeah, so to be clear, the webinar is free, but we also did a little bonus thing afterwards that people can buy in so I can answer more questions. So these are questions. I didn't get it. We didn't have time to answer and Phil's going to cue me. What is it? Yeah,Phil Hudson:No, I was going to say we're going to dive in and I think it's just two things. If you want to have a question answered by Michael, there's two ways to get that done and you're very, very open with your time. One is to join the webinar. We typically have one, sometimes two a month depending on the month, and it's a different topic typically every time. But we have a couple that people really like, so we might be focusing on those. But if you can't get your question answered there, the v i P is an opportunity for them to hop in with you and really just spend that time, time you turn your camera on. You ask myMichael Jamin:Question. Well, it's not one-on-one. A small group of people.Phil Hudson:So it's not one-on-one in the sense that you sit there and you get to talk to Michael. You don't have to. It's not, yeah. Thank you for clarifying. Yeah. So yeah, let's dive in. And we've done previous episodes. I've broken these into subjects. So there are a couple key categories. This is heavily weighted towards breaking into Hollywood because that was the topic,Michael Jamin:ButPhil Hudson:I think the craft questions are always good. So starting there, Norville, scs, if a character changes for the better over the course of a story, is there initial likability, something to focus on?Michael Jamin:Well, likability is a complicated thing. Sometimes people, you'll get a note from the studio saying these need to be likable. And that's not the same thing as the audience needs to the characters, which is a different, okay, so Tony Soprano is not a likable person. You don't want to spend 10 minutes with the guy, he might kill you, okay? But the audience likes to watch him because he's interesting. But often you'll get a note from the studio saying, these characters, they're too unlikable. I don't have an answer to that. It depends if you're doing a drama or a comedy, but generally the note you're going to get is these need to be likable characters, especially if you're doing a comedy. We're spending time with them, we're spending a lot of time with them. So even in Cheers, I'm sure one of the notes was Carla's too unlikable, so they probably softened her up so she wasn't, because you're spending time with him, this is your family, I guess. I dunno if that answers the question. It's the best I can do. Well,Phil Hudson:I think the question comes from Save the Cat, which you've admittedly never read and you've never read, but it definitely talks about how your character should do something to make us like them in the first three to five pages because we'll want to root for them and it's a redeeming factor and there's plenty of evidence as to why that's not necessarilyMichael Jamin:Accurate. I don't subscribe to that. I don't subscribe to that. So yeah,Phil Hudson:As good as it gets. You recommended, I read that for a script. I was writing one point. Is that it? Where is that? Not Jack Nicholson.Michael Jamin:Yeah, I mean I love that, but I don't rememberPhil Hudson:Telling you, but he throws the dog down the garbage shoot.Michael Jamin:Oh yeah, it was the first time we seen him. He throws the dog down the garbage shoot.Phil Hudson:It's the opposite of saving the cat.Michael Jamin:And it'sPhil Hudson:A classic, it's incredible film.Michael Jamin:And that's a film, right? So that's not a sitcom. So again, I don't subscribe to this thing. The character has to do something likable. What is that? I mean, I think they have to do something interesting. Engaging and throwing a dog on a shoot is kind of interesting for sure. SoPhil Hudson:Yeah, what kind of person would do that? Use his questions. Jackie Smite. What if you have a script for a very specific franchise? Is it simply foolish if you are an inexperienced or is it a bad idea in general?Michael Jamin:Bad idea in general. And it's foolish. You got 'em both write. You can't write for a franchise. You don't own the ip, it's not yours, let it go. You don't write a Marvel movie, don't write a Disney movie with the princesses. It's not yours, so let it go. Don't write anything with a franchise.Phil Hudson:This is a very common one. I mean, most people have an idea for a story and it's based off of existing ip. I remember talking to a friend in 2008, a couple months after I really started studying screenwriting. She's like, oh, I have this enemy franchise. I want to adapt for tv. And I was like, okay, I don't think you could do that. And yeah,Michael Jamin:Reach out to, if you get the rights from them, then do it, but you don't have the rights, so don't do it.Phil Hudson:And that is a process and we'll probably circle back on that because there's a question about attorneys, which we'll get to in a minute.Michael Jamin:Oh, okay.Phil Hudson:Cliff Johnson ii. I write drama features to half hour comedy and also differing genres. Is it limiting to spread myself thin or should I keep building a diverse portfolio?Michael Jamin:You don't need a diverse portfolio. I'd say specialize in whatever it is you enjoy the most. Focus on that, get really good at it, and then market yourself as the best damn thriller writer there is. Or the best broad comedy writer there is. You don't need a broad portfolio. You need to have a specific portfolio that really showcases your excellence in this one area.Phil Hudson:Yeah. You've given advice as well in the past that let's say you're a sitcom writer, well get really good at writing half hour single camera sitcoms that do multi, then do animated. So you stay in that genre, but you can build a portfolio within that genre to show your base. But it's different than writing violent westerns and Taylor Sheridan style.Michael Jamin:Yes. Right. I'm glad you pointed at that. So if you want to be a comedy writer, you might want a Yes. A broad you should have, should have a grounded single camera comedy, but it's all comedy. Yeah.Phil Hudson:Yeah. Awesome. Andrew James jokes, do you see everything from a certain comedic viewpoint when thinking of content or writing a script,Michael Jamin:A certain comedic viewpoint? I don't remember. Not sure what that means. There's things that strike me as funny. I'm not sure if I have. I thinkPhil Hudson:For me, I think I understand this question, but I don't want to interrupt you if you have something.Michael Jamin:No, what do you think?Phil Hudson:I think what's being asked is when I was told once that I have a particular view of the world and it often is a comical view of the world. I look at the ridiculousness of bureaucracy or rules and rather than get upset, I just make fun of them or I find ways to poke holes at them. To me it's really that question. Do you have that point of view to say, this is my Mike. Judge has, I would say, has a really clear point of view and the way he does his things. Do you look at things through a certain lens?Michael Jamin:I don't know if I do. I mean, I'm sure I have a voice. I'm always interested, I guess how do I like finding things, thinking of things that are funny, but I'm not sure if I have a specific I tact that I take, sorry, I can't help them more. I got to think about that more. Do I have a point of view? I tend to think silly and stupid, but I think I'm smart. I mean, I went to college and everything, but I don't think I'm dumb, but I think my voice is sometimes of a dumb person.Phil Hudson:When I think of your voice, I think of a lot of the things you share about the way you kid with your daughters,Michael Jamin:The way I kid with my daughters.Phil Hudson:Yeah, just like you've done a couple of social media posts where you're like, it's like dad jokes, but at a different level. It's an elevated dad joke almost.Michael Jamin:Well, I'm their dad.Phil Hudson:I know, but it's like dad jokes very punny. And then yours is one step further and you've done several of these quick bites on social media that are related to your conversations with your daughters. To me, that's Michael Jamin and Comedy.Michael Jamin:Oh yeah. I love having fun with my kids. They're so funny. Yeah.Phil Hudson:Cool. And then Phyllis Hill, Phyllis was pretty active, so we got a bunch of questions from her, but they were very good. I sorted through a bunch of 'em. And this is a little bit tied to something I know we've talked about before and I just thought it was good to put on the podcast. Have streaming platforms changed story structure, the same story structure that might've been used back during the day of network TV shows?Michael Jamin:Great question. Not in a hugely significant way. The biggest thing is probably, well, there's no commercial breaks, but so what? We still break the story still the same. We just don't go to commercial. But when we break it on the whiteboard, same thing. It doesn't matter. The only difference is streamers sometimes want you to have serialized stories. So the end, they want to end on a pregnant moment where, so it's continued. So the next story picks up where the last one ended. That's sometimes what they want so that you binge, but that's kind of easy. Often you can, if you go back and watch Weeds, the show Weeds, they did that really well see, they tell a full story and then at the end the story's over. They just do a weird little thing at the end of that story. And then that story would be the beginning. That beat would be the beginning of the next story. So it's super easy in terms of breaking it. It actually makes it kind of easy. It doesn't make, it's the same kind of storytelling. You're just adding one more beat at the end.Phil Hudson:Yeah, that's awesome. I think that's a very concise answer, Michael.Michael Jamin:I get paid by Word.Phil Hudson:I love that. I was going to say Charles Duma is Alexander Duma. I don't know who Charlie Duma is, but he's probably Alexander Dumas's cousin twice divorced. Some questions about your course which come up because during the webinar you're often, one of the things, people have a chance to win your course, you get lifetime access to the course. One person wins every time, but also you give a discount to the course.Michael Jamin:Yeah, if you're listening to this, come to these free webinars that I div, we give a good discount to anyone who attendsPhil Hudson:And that opens registration for that block of enrollment. Leonard h wanted to know, will the course do anything for someone working on documentaries?Michael Jamin:Yeah, I don't know. I mean personally I think yes, but I'm not a documentary filmmaker, but I have watched documentary films where I thought this would've been better if they went through my course. They would've dove into the emotional moments that I feel. But having never made a documentary, what the hell do I know? But I have watched documentaries where I thought this was good, but it wasn't great. It didn't really move me emotionally or I should. I think that's when documentaries really work is when or anything works when you finish watching it and you're still thinking about it, you're still feeling it the next day. So I don't want to promise, but I would think it would help. ButPhil Hudson:I have taken a documentary film class as part of my film school stuff. It's honestly one of the better classes I took. It was taught by a guy named Hank who was a Sundance fellow in the documentary labs and he done multiple documentaries. That's literally, he teaches and then he and his wife shoot documentaries and manage those tons of stuff in South by Southwest, the film fest, Sundance Film Festival, all that stuff. And absolutely story structure is a very vital part of that. And you get into the cinema verte and how you're doing your documentary and the influence of structure and story, but the story structure had to be there, or no one wants to watch what you're doing,Michael Jamin:Nobody cares. So the hard part is you can't invent that. You have to hopefully capture that and then know, oh, I captured this moment. This would be a good first act break.Phil Hudson:But they're scripted there. They're scripted. You need to understand what things you need to get, what beats you want to get as you tell the story. And then it evolves out of that. You often are surprised by what you get, but then there's the paper edit you do when you go into editing where you have transcripts of all the footage and you're looking for things. And it was a little bit uncomfortable for me then and still is now. He even encouraged that it's your job to tell the best version of that story as you can. And there is no such thing as cinema verite, truth of the camera, right? Truth of the lens. You can't because the moment you're there observing it, it changes. And that's a law of physics. You observe an Adam behaves different. And so he says at the end of the day, let's say that you filmed something out of order and there's a clip that you shot two months from now, but it helps tell the story that you need to tell. He had no problem rearranging things or cutting people out of order to get the story that he needed at the end of it.Michael Jamin:So your point is the story, our course would help. That'sPhil Hudson:Your point. Absolutely. Yeah, I absolutely would help.Michael Jamin:Alright,Phil Hudson:There you go. There you go. A couple of questions from Phyllis. Please compare your class to screenwriting classes like the ones offered on Masterclass.Michael Jamin:Well, again, I haven't gone through all the ones in Masterclass. I've watched a few videos of some of the speakers. I don't know, I mean I didn't watch all of it. I don't know. I really can't say having not watched all of it. I think mine is, I would expect mine is a little more hands-on in the sense that I'm teaching you literally how we break a story in the room. I don't fill you with a lot of terms that we don't use, but Phil, have you gone through Masterclass? Yeah. Maybe you'll know better than I do.Phil Hudson:Active subscriber to Masterclass for a long time and most of them I can't get through on Masterclass including, and look, I think Aaron Sorkin's one of the most prolific author writers of our time and I love everything he puts out. ButMichael Jamin:Yeah, he's Shakespeare. He's the Shakespeare of our time.Phil Hudson:Couldn't get through it, couldn't get through his course,Michael Jamin:Couldn't get throughPhil Hudson:It. No, a lot of, and actually I can tell you this because in my agency we have a client who is getting their own masterclass right now. So I've got a little view through the window of what that platform is. And I'm not saying all platforms are like this and I don't want to be saying anything disparaging against Masterclass. I really enjoy masterclass, but the amount of content they shoot versus what you get, it's like 20% of what that person did and they're not editing it. So Masterclass does this stuff, they're in Sorkin and then what you get on the back end of that or Shonda Rogers or whoever, you get to the end of that and it's like 20% of what they talked about. It's good, but it's not the meat. It's not the meat of what you want.Michael Jamin:I've watched some, not theirs, but I felt, and I love masterclass too, I felt you got a taste of everything. You can really learn a lot about cars and cooking and it's a really great, but I felt like from what I watched, it didn't go deep enough. That's not what it is. It's a sampling. And I thought it was interesting but not helpful for some of the ones I saw. Interesting but not helpful.Phil Hudson:The most practical one was Aaron Franklin's barbecue cooking class. And I put that one to good use with my smoker because it is very much, here's how you do it, here's how you tip things, here's how you wrap meat. It's just actionable. SoMichael Jamin:If I ate meat, I'd come over and make me a nice smoked dinner, but I don't,Phil Hudson:You'd be very happy.Michael Jamin:I'd probably start sweating.Phil Hudson:I'll meat sweats. Yeah, I'll make you some nice broccolini. How about that?Michael Jamin:Yeah, that'd be nice.Phil Hudson:Alright, and then just another question from Phyllis, and I think this is more broad about you and what you're doing for people online in the webinars with the course, everything. What is your motivation to offer this assistance other than money?Michael Jamin:Oh, well, when I broke into the business, this is back in the nineties, this was before the internet and I was living in New York. I knew nothing about the industry. I knew nothing. I knew no one, how would I know anything? So I just got in my car and I drove to LA thinking well get close. But now because the internet, social media, you can talk to people like me and get so much information for free and what a gift. And so I know people say it's impossible to break into Hollywood. Yeah, yes, it's hard, but it's even harder if you don't even know where to begin if you don't have these resources. But now I started building my social media profile back a little over two years ago as a way of building my platform so that I have a book that's coming out so that I could platform my agents has platform drives acquisition. I need a following to sell my book to perform and do all these things that I wanted to do. And so the way to build this platform was by just talking about what I know and giving 90% of it away for free. The other 10% is in this course that we have and that'sPhil Hudson:It. I a call from Michael and I was doing runs for Tacoma FD like season two or something. And you called me and you're like, Hey man, can you come over? I want run some stuff by you. I know many people know this, but some people don't. I know you through working at a digital marketing agency where I assisted your wife's e-commerce website and just worked for her for a couple of years doing whatever I could to take care of her. She'd been ripped off by the sales guy who sold her some stuff that we couldn't do and I had no idea who you were or what you guys did. And then one day you were going to join and it kind of put it together and you guys were just very kind and have always been kind to share your knowledge with me, but well,Michael Jamin:You started it. You started it by being kind first. Let's be clear.Phil Hudson:It was the right thing to do, right? It's a principle thing, which is very important. And at the end of the day, you called me over because I have that experience, that skillset, and we just had a sit down in your garage and you broke your Adirondack chair and then you told me that it wasMichael Jamin:Already broken. Broken, it was already broken,Phil Hudson:Was a big guy. I was sweating that once. I had to buy you a director's chair to replaceMichael Jamin:It.Phil Hudson:But anyway, we talked about this, what do you need to do? And I was like, finally, because I've been begging you for years to do this course and to put your stuff out there just because the private email lessons and the conversations we had were so incredibly valuable to me. And I was in flu school at the time and getting more value out of an email you'd send me over a weekend than I was getting in a week of lectures at that school.This is how you do what you need to do to sell your book and here's how you give. And the mantra of any good digital marketing platform is give, give, give, right, give, give, give. And there's an ask. There's always a right for an ask in there as well, because you are giving, and we talked about the course and you were very clear, I don't want to, you feel sleazy selling things. You don't want to do that you're, you're a writer, you're not a guy who does this. You're not pretending to be the answer to all things. And I said, but people will value what you have and they have to pay for it to value it. So I'm the one who pushed it. I'm the one who pushed the price and you've reduced the price over and over again because you just want to make sure that it's getting as many people as it can.You do, A lot of people don't know this. You offer basically free financing through yourself. People can sign up for the course on a three month plan, a six month plan, or pay in full and you don't bill 'em any interest. And there are plenty of ways for us to get interest off of people or get people to pay interest and that's just from my perspective, it's 100% honestly. How can I serve as many people as possible so that I can get this passion project of my book speaking as you to as many people as I can.Michael Jamin:Yeah, there you go. You answered it. Well, Phil, I think you said it better than I did.Phil Hudson:I'm growing long-winded in my as I wax old.Michael Jamin:Wax old.Phil Hudson:Yeah. Alright, cool. Now to the meat of the episode for the webinar was about breaking in and so there's some really good stuff here and so I know we'll be quick on some of this, but if you want, this full webinar broadcast is available for purchase as well on your website. It's like 29 bucks and it's lifetime access and they can watch the whole episode of this webinar.Michael Jamin:Yeah, go get it.Phil Hudson:Yeah, but Valerie Taylor, so once the script is done, what does it mean to build the mountain? What does the work have to do? And that's reference to a podcast episode we did recently that a lot of people really liked, which is Build Your Mountain.Michael Jamin:There are people doing this. I didn't come up with this idea. There are people on social media, content creators who are just putting their out there and because it's really good they're building a following. I dunno if that was their intention in the beginning, but that's what they've done. One I always mention is Sarah Cooper, I wish she would do my podcast. So have you reachedPhil Hudson:Interesting?Michael Jamin:I tagged her on something, but she's busy. She's busy, but I'm a huge fan of hers. So she's this vicious woman, young actress who as far as I can tell she couldn't get arrested in New York City. She just started during the pandemic posting kind of funny lip syncs of Donald Trump, but she wasn't just lip-syncing, was plusing it. She was adding her own comedy to it and her own reactions and it was really, she was great and she's just doing this and she wants to be an actor and a writer, but she's doing this and she was so great at it. She built a giant following and because this following people discovered her and because of that she gets, I think she got a Netflix special. She got a pilot out of it and where the pilot, she can write her own stuff now. I think some of the projects never went to air, but she sold it. She made a name for herself and she will continue making a name for herself because she built it first. She wasn't begging people for opportunities. It's the other way around. She started doing it and then because she was so good at it, people came after her. People started begging her.And you don't have to, and I think maybe Phil, we might even do a whole, I may save some of this information from our next webinar. I want talk. Yeah, I'm going to save, but I have more thoughts to this I I'll put in our next free webinar. Write. Write. Yeah.Phil Hudson:Can't wait. Oh, by the way, Michael puts a month worth of effort into writing every webinar. I see the revisions and I'm always like, Michael, I need this so I can make the workbook. Michael, I need this. And he's still editing. So Hayden, Sears, earlier you said to bring more to the table of an agency than a script. What else should I bring to the table?Michael Jamin:You could do what I just said with Sarah Cooper. She brought a huge following. She brought, you could bring talent, you could bring a movie that you launched, finance that you did yourself at Sundance that got accolades and now you're this hot new director or writer or whatever. That's bringing more to the table than saying, Hey, pick me. You're doing it already. You are already doing it. You're proving that you know how to do it. And people don't do it because it's work or they think it's too expensive. But I have to say, it's not the money that's holding you back. The money. You can raise $10,000 or $15,000. I know it's not nothing but it. We're not talking about a million dollars, we're talking about 10,000. You can raise it on a Kickstarter, you can raise it on a bake sale and you can shoot the damn thing on your phone and you can edit it on your phone.You just need good sound. That's what I recommend. But you don't need great locations. You can shoot the thing one, I always mention this, Phil is the whale, the movie The Whale, which is based on a play that was shot in an apartment. So don't tell me you need to have great locations to make something amazing. It was shot in a dumpy apartment and one of the most, it was a beautiful story. Beautiful. It was all because the writing, the writing was excellent and because the writing was X, it was able to attract great actors and the acting rose to the writing. If the writing was no good, who cares what the acting is?Phil Hudson:Yep. Cynthia always said that in our classes with Jill, your interacting classes, the writers put it on the page. Everything in actor needs to know is on the page. That's where the performance comes from.Michael Jamin:If it's a good script, yeah.Phil Hudson:Awesome. The cinema magician with the strike going on from both the writers and the actors now it feels like it wouldn't be fair trying to come get work this moment. How can I try to try for work and support the union?Michael Jamin:You shouldn't. You should not try to work. I mean, you don't go on any guild sag projects or guild projects, but you could do, if it's a non sag project, like a student film or something, you can do that. You're not violating anything. You're not getting paid. SoPhil Hudson:Build your network.Michael Jamin:Build your network. Exactly. Or make your own stuff. If you write your own mini scene or movie or whatever and you shoot it on your phone, you're not breaking any strikes. You're not selling it. You're just shooting it.Phil Hudson:Yep. Awesome. Love Leanne. Who is a member of your course, how should we speak to writers and other filmmakers on the picket lines? I've seen others not doing it very well and I'm kind of afraid to speak.Michael Jamin:Oh, well that's hard. I mean, all you got to do is don't act like you want something from them. Just act like you want to learn from them. Hey, tell me about your story. Tell me how did you start? How did you break in? What kind of shows do you like to write? What inspires you? Pretend like they're a guest on your radio show or your podcast. Interview them. We don't want anything from them. You're just curious to get their story. People will talk.Phil Hudson:Yeah, they definitely will. And when I've gone out and done picketing, it's really interesting. I don't talk to people, I'm just, who are you? Tell me about you. What are you doing here? Why are you here? What are you doing out on the picket line? Cool. Are you in industry? Breaking in the industry? Oh great. Oh, cool. You worked on that show. I love that show. Awesome. And then they ask you questions too, because walking in circles for hoursMichael Jamin:And you're a human being and they're going to make conversation. The conversation will eventually turn around to you and then you can talk about yourself.Phil Hudson:Have you noticed the people who put up their YouTube channel and stuff on flyers on the poles and stuff in the corners?Michael Jamin:No. I have not seen that. I have promoting their own channel.Phil Hudson:It feels a little skeezy to me. Personal. I'mMichael Jamin:Not. The problem is no one's looking at him anyway, so Yeah.Phil Hudson:Yeah, you haven't noticed. And when I see 'em, I'm just like, ah, man's. I don't know. That's the way to do that. You're basically saying, look at me. Look at me. Instead of being there, walking on the picket lines, talking to people and putting in effort to fight for the same things they're fightingMichael Jamin:For. Yeah. You don't have to promote yourself.Phil Hudson:Alright, Norville, scss. Does the strike lead to an increasing demand for scripts?Michael Jamin:Well, when the strike is over, there will be, everyone will flood the market with their scripts and that's just the way it is. SoPhil Hudson:Yeah. Demand, but also supply because all of these writers have time to write.Michael Jamin:Yeah, right.Phil Hudson:Antonia, Roman. Hey, Michael, met you yesterday on the picket. I appreciate your insight. How many script feedback reads should someone actually pay for? Sometimes the feedbacks contradict each other.Michael Jamin:Thanks. Oh, Phil, IPhil Hudson:Know.Michael Jamin:Here we go.Phil Hudson:My purpose. Yeah,Michael Jamin:Many. If you're paying in one of these services and maybe it's like 150 bucks for one of these services, you're going to get who you get who's reading the script other than it's someone who works at the service, they don't know more than you do. They just work there and they're making whatever, 20 bucks an hour or maybe less to read script after script. What's their qualifications beats the hell out of me. Other than the fact that they're working there and they're not industry deciders. They're not like they don't have jobs in SC screenwriting. If they did, they would be doing that. So a service, I'd pay nothing, because that's why you're going to get contradictory feedback. What do they know? They don't know more than you. If you can find a writer with experience, and there are writers who will do this as a freelance thing, check out their credits, go on their I M D B, what have they written? Ask to see their work. What have they read their work? Do you like their work? And if you do, then yes, then your feedback could be valuable. But I would never go through a service.Phil Hudson:Yep. We did talk about this where I sent Michael, I paid for feedback from some of these services on your behalf, listener to the podcast. And then I shared the emails back and forth from them, the reviews as well as when I questioned the validity of the feedback I received from them. I sent Michael those. And I think the feedback from the service was way more infuriatingMichael Jamin:Than the Yeah, it just made you mad. It made you feel like you got ripped off. Hey, it's Michael Jamin. If you like my videos and you want me to email them to you for free, join my watch list. Every Friday I send out my top three videos. These are for writers, actors, creativeTypes. You can unsubscribe whenever you want. I'm not going to spam you and it's absolutely free. Just go to michaeljamin.com/watchlist.Phil Hudson:Awesome. Ruth W should emerging rider approach breaking in differently than before, given the strike, are there any new approaches that should be considered? Thanks?Michael Jamin:I don't think, wait for the strike to end before you think about breaking in, but the landscape has changed so much with social media that you don't need anyone's permission. I just talked about this. You don't need anyone's permission to write and build up your brand. I'm not doing it. I'm not waiting for anyone's permission. I don't know why anybody else would. I have a good podcast guest this week? Well, I dunno when you're going to hear this Mike Sacks, go listen to him. See, he's an author and he talks about that himself. He has sold books to publishers and he's also indie published it himself and he makes a really strong case for just doing it yourself. And he's done both. And he's an editor at Vanity Fair. So the guy knows how to write.Phil Hudson:Yeah, yeah. Also, definitely don't try breaking him right now. They're very clear rules that the writer's guilds come out and said, if you even have meetings with producers, that is an act of crossing a picket line.Michael Jamin:No, I'm not talking to my agent, I'm not talking to producers. I'm not doing any of this. YouPhil Hudson:Mean they will literally forbid you from joining the guild. So any short term win now is basically a nail in the coffin of your career later and as it should be, Susan Mark, when you get the low paying non-union screenwriting gigs over and over, how do you move from that into network shows with four question marks?Michael Jamin:The fact that you're getting these jobs to begin with are great, even if they're non-union. So good for you. I mean, this is where if these movies are doing or shows are doing well and if they're well received and if they're written well, and this is what you show to an agent and you say, here's my body of work and here's a movie I did that it cost 10,000 to make, and the return on it was a hundred thousand. That's impressive. So that's how you can parlay that into bigger opportunities. But the problem is, if you're doing this work and the work isn't coming out good, it still has to be good. It has to be good. And people have, it has to have be one or the other critically well-received or makes a lot of money. It has to be a financial success. One or both. One or the other or both.Phil Hudson:Awesome. Roxanna Black Sea. How do you get over feeling guilty asking a friend or a mentor for a referral and how do you know you're ready and not wasting their time? This is a good one. I might as well wrote this, Michael.Michael Jamin:Well, if you have a friend who's in the industry, I dunno if they're in the industry or not, but you only have one chance to impress them. And if you give them something that's not great, it's a big ask. Hey, sit down and read this. It's going to take them an hour and a half or whatever. And if it's not great, they're not going to want to do it again. They'll do a favor once, but they won't do it again. So there's that. The get over the guilt. Well, if you've giving them a giant gift, you shouldn't feel guilty If it's giving 'em a piece of shit, well, you're going to feel guilty, but you just need to know what it is you're giving them.Phil Hudson:That takes a lot of introspection and a lot of self-analysis. I would also say it takes a lot of practice and study of existing high quality works to compare yourself.Michael Jamin:Yeah, high quality. That's the thing, Phil, if you're watching some crappy TV show and you go, well, I can write a crappy TV show that's not the barPhil Hudson:Crap. Plus one that's been around for since the a o l days crap plus one is I can do one better than that. It's not good enough. Yeah,Michael Jamin:Not good enough.Phil Hudson:Alright, Ruth w again, if you know an established riders working on a new project that you have happen to have particular rare knowledge on, is it appropriate to contact that rider even to work for free? And then there's a follow-up to this.Michael Jamin:Well, if they're on a show and you have particular knowledge, they're not going to let you work for free. You can't work for free. But you can share your knowledge and I don't know, it always, you can share your knowledge, but no one's, you're not allowed to work for free. So I don't know what if they're going to offer you a job or not,Phil Hudson:But is it okay to reach out to them?Michael Jamin:Why not? What's the harm? Yeah.Phil Hudson:I think the benefit of that is you are going in to say, Hey, I saw you're doing this. I happen to be a subject matter expert on that. Anything you want to ask me, I'm happy to go over with you and bring out any insights you want. You are now serving that person. You're not coming in and say, give me a job, give me a job. And you might hop on a zoom with them and have an intro. Now you've got a foot in the door to have an extended conversation as someone, and you've provided value to that person.Michael Jamin:Right. Then you're right. You're not asking for anything in return, but people tend to give things back when people give first.Phil Hudson:Yep. And the follow up question, is it okay to contact an agent to get the contact information for that rider that you would like to help for free?Michael Jamin:So you don't know this person. Yeah, you, the agent's not going to do anything with it. I would doubt they're going to do anything with it. You could reach out to them on LinkedIn, maybe you could tweet that.Phil Hudson:This might be a good time to slide into the dms. Right. And because you're not asking, you're providing valueMichael Jamin:AndPhil Hudson:Expect them not to reply.Michael Jamin:Right. Expect 'em not to reply. And it's because you, maybe they get too many solicitations or maybe it's just they find it weird. It's worth a shot.Phil Hudson:It also might just be that they don't have time to look at their social media, which is very real. Don't read into it. Just shoot your shot. Move on.Michael Jamin:Yeah, right. Don't wait. Don't hold your breath. Shoot your shot and keep shooting your shot. Keep working on yourself. Yep.Phil Hudson:Genova, is there anything we need to be wary of when approaching smaller agencies with our scripts so we don't get screwed?Michael Jamin:Well, the agencies, first of all, don't approach any agency that's going to charge you for to represent you. That's no legit agents work on commission. Now the big ones are not going to represent you. You have to reach out to smaller ones who are soliciting clients. I wouldn't expect an agent to, I wouldn't expect them to rip you off. That's not what they do. They're going to represent you and try to sell you. The agents are not producers, they're not screenwriters. So to me it's safe. But again, I don't give legal advice if you have to do what's comfortable for you personally, I don't worry about that. That's not something I worry about.Phil Hudson:And you started at a smaller agency that some could say screwed you, but I don't know that you see it that way, right? Because you got hip pocketed basically as a baby writer.Michael Jamin:They didn't screw me, they just didn't do anything.Phil Hudson:That's saying they didn't screw you. But some people might say they screwed you because they didn't do anything.Michael Jamin:Oh yeah. But they didn't steal anything from me. They just didn't help my career any.Phil Hudson:Yeah, and we talked about that in some of the early podcasts. If you want to go back and listen to those. I think it was the agents and manager episode is like episode five or something.Michael Jamin:SoPhil Hudson:95 something episodes ago. It'sMichael Jamin:Great. Yeah. You remember this stuff.Phil Hudson:Shem L. Do you think New York and LA are still the places to make it?Michael Jamin:No. I think LA is the place to make it. Take New York off the list. Where is Hollywood? This is a trivia question. Find it on the map. Hint, it's in Los Angeles. I understand that some television production or film production is done in New York. Some Where's the writing done? The writing's done in la. Same thing with Georgia or New Mexico. Sometimes they shoot things there for tax breaks, but the writing is almost always done in LA and even if some writing is done in these smaller cities, okay, fine, maybe you'll get incredibly lucky, but you're not going to be able to sustain a career there. The career's here, that's how I feel.Phil Hudson:All right. And Jill Hargrave. I'm a senior writer, 76 years old, transition from decades as a documentary producer to screenwriter. I have an agent and I'm in the news division with the W G A East. Any advice on how to get read by execs?Michael Jamin:I'm looking for, so she's a news writer.Phil Hudson:Sounds like she's a writer in the news division for the W G A East. She has decades of experience being a producer in documentary film. She has an agent advice on how to get executives to read your stuff.Michael Jamin:Sorry. Yeah, so you're in the same boat as everyone else. I don't think you got a leg up. You sound like you're very competent news producer, but you might as well be an orthodontist. It's a different kind of writing, but shePhil Hudson:Has an agent.Michael Jamin:Ask your agent. I suspect your agent's not going to give a crap. Your agent is able to get you news jobs. That's what you are and that's what you bring value to them. But they're not interested in you starting your career over from zero. My friend Rob Cohen talked about this in one of our podcasts. He was a very successful sitcom writer, wrote on a bunch of shows including The Simpsons, including Just Shoot Me where I was on maybe 20 or so years into his career as a TV writer, very successful TV writer. I ran into him and he's like, I want to be a director now. I want to direct TV and film. I thought, well, how are you going to do that? He goes, I don't know, but I'm going to make it happen. I said, well, is your agent helping you at all?No, the agent's not going to help me one bit, even though he's a successful TV writer because it's a different thing. It's directing. They don't want to sell 'em as that. They can sell 'em as a TV writer, but not as a director. So unfortunately, you're going to have to start over. You milk whatever context you have. Maybe your agent can set you up with a referral with another agent at their agency that they should be able to do. But at the end of the day, you unfortunately have to make your career. They're not going to make your career for youPhil Hudson:If they have an agent because they have some screenplay sample that they've submitted. My guess would be that that's when your agent would show those. When we're not on a strike, they'd take your samples and try to sell those things to people that get you staffed and they're going to do that job for you. But it sounds like through the question that you're right, Michael, that's not a writing agent in this space. It's documented or a new set,Michael Jamin:But talk to them, maybe get some tips. I mean, again, I've tried to do the same thing myself. My agents, I have big agents and manager. They don't give a crap unless I can make money for them today in my field. They don't really care.Phil Hudson:Yeah. Awesome. Ruth w this is miscellaneous. I've got three more questions here. Excuse me for, is there any value in getting an entertainment lawyer? Does this confer any legitimacy when trying to get people to read your script? Or is it just a waste of money and Yeah, there's some follow-up to this. We'll get to that.Michael Jamin:So no, an entertainment attorney is the best money I spend. My attorney takes 5% of all the deals that I make and they help negotiate these deals. Money well spent, but it's only when I'm negotiating a deal, that's when they get paid. They get a commission. I would never pay an entertainment attorney upfront. It doesn't help you make a deal. It doesn't help you look more important. You're just going to pay them a lot of money out of pocket for no reason. Attorneys are there to help you negotiate the deal and read the fine print so you don't get screwed. That's what they help you do, but you don't pay one upfront for any. As far as I know, I would never pay one upfront.Phil Hudson:I've had two in my career and the first one didn't do a lot. This one, and we worked with him on some stuff today, actually. You and I were going over some tree mark stuff with him. But anyway, he is great and he comes at it from the perspective of that, which is, my job is to protect you and I can be the bad guy. I can go fight the fight for you to get you what you want. And you can say, Hey man, that's just what my lawyer does. You're going to have to take that up with my attorney. And we talked in the podcast about this recent experience I had where he wrote this contract and the guy signed it and he ended up protecting my butt because he put a clause in that said nothing was executable until it was paid. Money was delivered.And so because this guy never exchanged money, he only talked about exchanging money. I'm not obligated to do anything for this guy. And had I walked into that, I probably would've just signed something and not had the foresight to have that. He also had it paid in steps. So above and beyond the WJ minimums, he structured it. So I'd get paid more money upfront like you want money in your pocket? And he deals with Sony and major country musicians. He's a real proper entertainment attorney. Incredibly valuable. And it looks like he answered honestly the question, what's the difference between an agent who's going to get 10%? What's a lawyer do? What's the difference? And the answer is the agent basically books the deal. The attorney gets you the most money they can out of that deal,Michael Jamin:And the agent's not going to read the contract. They don't read contract. They're not lawyers. They don't deal with that. So you need an attorney.Phil Hudson:Love it. Goddard Fin, any insight on getting a preliminary budget done by someone or a company like Mike Binder's, budget company? I'm assuming is this for an indie project?Michael Jamin:I never heard of that and I wouldn't know.Phil Hudson:Or it's a preliminary budget on a script.Michael Jamin:I thought he was an actor. Michael Binder. I thought he was an actor. I don't even know. I've never even heard of this, so I can't even answer.Phil Hudson:My feeling is, from what I understand from this question is there's zero value added to your script when you go to pitch your story by telling them, this is the budget I got for thisMichael Jamin:For somebody. No, they'll tell you the budget if that's what that is. It's interesting. Yeah. I thought maybe this is for indies. No, when you saw the MoVI, they'll tell you what the budget is. It is their money. You don't tell them what the budget is. They tell you.Phil Hudson:And the answer is in the indie film, if it is, that is you're going to scrounge with every dollar you can get, and then you're going to make what you can with the budget you got. And that's what a line producer does for you. And they basically manage the contracts and make sure your people get paid. And you don't go over budget and you can finish your project and they'll tell you, Hey, you can't do that. You don't have the money to do that.Michael Jamin:Right.Phil Hudson:Cool. Ruth w with another, one of the reasons I am reticent to fill my own stuff is because I don't have any money to pay actors. Is it okay to ask them to work for free?Michael Jamin:You can often, actors will do this just to have tape so that they can submit themselves. But the work has to be good. You're not going to, the better the script is, the easier it is to attract actors and better actors. And if it's a great script, they'll fall over themselves for to do this. So you ask them to do it for free. Definitely. You don't want to abuse them. You want to make sure, buy them pizza, buy them lunch, make sure there's water on set. Take care of them. That's the least you can do.Phil Hudson:Yeah. And people will absolutely do that. There's also, if you're a student, you can also look into sag, SAG after student agreements, which probably you might even still be able to do that during the strike. It's not really a paid project, but they have agreements that you can work with SAG qualified actors and you have to abide by those terms if they are a SAG actor. But you can get them in your projects I did in film school.Michael Jamin:Right. Okay.Phil Hudson:Last question. As a showrunner, do you direct episodes two or just focus on running the showMichael Jamin:As a showrunner? I have, but I'm not in animation. I direct the actors for sure to get the performances out of them. But in live action, I've only directed one. That's not my job. But my job is to be on set and to make sure I'm getting the shots that I want and to get the performances that I want. Ultimately in film, I'm sorry, tv, the director works for the showrunner. So on tv, the showrunner's in charge, in film the other way around, it's the director's in charge. The writer is nothing. So does that answer your question? I think it does. Yeah.Phil Hudson:I think it just for you specifically, what do you do? But I do know showrunners who do direct on Taco fd. Yeah, Kevin. Kevin and Steve. They split 'em up and they direct certain episodes. They also,Michael Jamin:Those guys are tireless.Phil Hudson:Tireless. Yeah. I dunno how they do. I toured with them for a press tour and I was exhausted and they were just still going and happy to go. And I get emails from 'em at two, three in the morning and they're just going, ohMichael Jamin:God.Phil Hudson:Oh God. But that's how they made their career. I mean, this just ties it all together for Michael. Make it happen. Put in the effort. Those guys made their own things happen. They have shows their names and you know 'em because they put in the work. Had they not done that, they wouldn't be anywhere.Michael Jamin:Yeah.Phil Hudson:Cool. Michael, anything else you want to add?Michael Jamin:That's it. We did it, Phil. Yeah, we did it.Phil Hudson:So things people need to know. Michael, you got tons of free stuff. You talked about free samples of work, of writing.Michael Jamin:Yeah, I do free work too. I do free work here. We got a lot of free stuff we give away anyway on my website. If you go to michaeljamin.com, you can get sample scripts that I've written. You can get a free lesson that I've planned about story. You can sign up for my free webinars, which are every three weeks, which Phil helps me out with. You can come see me tour on one of my book drops, a paper orchestra. You can sign up for all of that and much, much more. And also, of course we have a course but that you got to pay for. But you know what it's worth. Every penny.Phil Hudson:Yeah, that's right. And again, get a discount when you come to the webinar.Michael Jamin:Nice. Nice discount. Don't tell anyone.Phil Hudson:And you could win a free access.Michael Jamin:Oh, you can win it. Yeah, you can win it.Phil Hudson:Yeah. Yeah. Awesome. Michael, thank you so much. Oh,Michael Jamin:And my newsletter. Phil, you can get on my free newsletter. I got that. Always forgetPhil Hudson:That. We also forget that that list is 30,000 deep or something like that right now. That's a good lists of people. That and industry, double industry open rates. People really like that list, that content.Michael Jamin:Yeah. The people like that. So sign up for my list.Phil Hudson:Be like the masses, be sheep. People join us.Michael Jamin:Okay, everyone, thank you so much. Until next week. Keep writing, right, Phil, fill that up.Phil Hudson:That is Wright, w r i t e. Right.Michael Jamin:Okay. Alright. Thanks guys.Phil Hudson:This has been an episode of Screenwriters Need to Hear this with Michael Jamin and Phil Hudson. If you're interested in learning more about writing, make sure you register for Michael's monthly webinar@michaeljamin.com/webinar. If you found this podcast helpful, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving us a five star review on iTunes. For free screenwriting tips, follow Michael Jamin on social media @Michael Jaminwriter. You can follow Phil Hudson on social media @PhilaHudson. This podcast was produced by Phil Hudson. It was edited by Dallas Crane Music, by Ken Joseph. Until next time, keep writing.
In this episode we continued a discussion regarding some of the communication tools we have learned from the book The Connection Codes by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill. We hope you are encouraged by the conversation and can gain some tools to help you connect with others and develop deeper relationships.
In this episode we talk about the importance of giving identity in relationships. The discussion is based on the book The Connection Codes by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill. We interviewed the authors in episodes 50 and 51. If you enjoy this conversation, we encourage you go back and listen to those episodes. We have been blessed by their resources. Feel free to contact us at fearlessinlovepodcast@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you.
In this episode, Alexa delves deep into the world of emotional and sexual connection alongside guests Glenn and Phyllis Hill. They shed light on couples' struggles in attaining deep sexual bonds and explore the distinction between mere sexual activity and genuine emotional connection, emphasizing open communication and emotional attunement. Dive in to discover how the Connection Code bolsters relationships and empowers families, offering a fresh perspective on emotional satisfaction.Today on That Sex Chick:Struggles and solutions for deep emotional and sexual connectionThe Connection Code tools for authentic communicationSexual activity versus deep-seated sexual connectionEmbracing emotions and open communicationElevating relationships and family dynamics using insights from the Connection CodeResources:Get free download: connectioncodes.co/sexchickUse the discount code: SEXCHICK for 20% off the Foundation CourseThis show is sponsored by:Sex and Love University | Find out more about SLU at sexandlove.co/universityYoni Pleasure Palace | Visit yonipleasurepalace.com and get 15% off with the code THATSEXCHICK.Connect with Glenn & Phyllis Hill:Instagram: @connectioncodesWebsite: connectioncodes.coConnect with Alexa:Instagram: @thatsexchickWebsite: sexandlove.coFree resources: sexandlove.co/resourcesFacebook Group: Sex & Love Co Community Click here to submit your review for That Sex Chick, and you'll get access to “Uncover Your Inner Kink,” a guided meditation and more, created by Alexa! This show is produced by Soulfire Productions
Most of the people use emotions as a weapon. Listen and find out how you can use your emotions as a tool to improve your relationship! Host: Laura Bilotta // singleinthecity.ca Guest: Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill // https://www.connectioncodes.co/
This week Clint speaks with Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill. Dr Glenn and Phyllis have developed a proven tool to help conquer conflict in relationships in just 4 minutes. After experiencing 30 years of a painful marriage, Dr. Glenn decided to go back to school to find out what was making his marriage so bad. He received his masters in Marriage & Family Therapy and a doctorate in Clinical Sexology. Dr Glenn spent many of those years researching emotions and studying how the brain fires when we experience them. This led him to discover what is causing couples to disconnect and it was Phyllis who turned it around to find what causes couples to connect- now known as the Connection Codes. There are a lot of thought leaders currently teaching about identifying emotions. BUT what do you do with the emotion after you identify it? Dr Glenn & Phyllis have the answer. They have witnessed couples who had signed divorce papers reunite, they have seen incomes double, health diagnosis reversed, and sexless marriages experience joy in sex. All through using their system. They are on a quest to share the Connection Codes with the world. It is based in the science of the human condition. When doing his research Dr Glenn studied the behaviors of infants and children. He realized we all have these tools built in, we were simply reprogramed along the way. He & Phyllis are now helping people get back to their core and live connected. Discounted Resources: https://www.connectioncodes.co/askingwhy The Connection Codes Book: https://a.co/d/gYLSL7O
In this latest episode of P.S. Younger Self, husband and wife team, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share powerful insights on how they have discovered what makes couples disconnect, and therefore connect to forge deeper, healthier, long-lasting relationships. They share their discovery through their own journey of a 40 year marriage (30 of which they say was painful) and through Dr. Glenn´s professional, groundbreaking research and studies on human emotions and connection. They share their transformative tool called the Connective Codes, which has helped couples around the world unravel the mysteries of disconnection and regulate and process emotions to foster profound, stronger connection in relationships. Don't miss this truly insightful episode, which covers topics such as: How getting curious about your partner´s emotions helps build deeper connection Why not to ask "why" questions. Change to "What happened?"Acknowledging our own unique experiences to be heard and seenDemonstration of Dr. Glenn & Phyllis working through the Core Emotion Wheel to process individual emotions Why part of human connection is to be seen and heardWhy saying "I´m sorry" doesn´t build connection and can be weaponizedFascinating research on how emotions get reactivated if not processed in 19 secondsWhy you can´t expect your partner to "understand" you➡️ To connect with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis, click here on their YouTube channel: / @connectioncodes or visit their website here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/➡️ To download the Free Core Emotion Wheel - THE tool to conquer conflict in just 4 minutes, from Dr. Glenn & Phyllis, click here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/younger➡️ And, all P.S. Younger Self listeners receive 20% of The Connection Codes Master Class. Use code "younger20" at checkout here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.
Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill developed a tool to help conquer conflict in relationships in just four minutes. After experiencing 30 years of a painful marriage, Dr Glenn went back to school to become a marriage and family therapist and clinical sexologist. He spent many years researching emotions and studying how the brain fires when we experience them, which led to developing the Connection Codes. Through using their unique system, couples who had signed divorce papers reunite, incomes double, health diagnosis is reversed, and sexless marriages experience joy in sex. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What they thought marriage would be like, and what actually happened The shift that helped their marriage survive and thrive The tool they developed to help people connect deeply in their relationships How we can stay connected How our brain uses emotion to connect us 20% off the Foundations Masterclass www.connectioncodes.co/lastfirst Free download of the core emotions wheel at www.connectioncodes.co/lastfirstdate Website: www.connectioncodes.co instagram.com/connectioncodes ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sandy-weiner9/message
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If you and your partner have felt disconnected, are getting stuck on conflict, or just want to rekindle the spark in your relationship, this episode is for you. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill cover how to use the Connection Codes framework to help couples connect emotionally, and even overcome conflict in as little as 4 minutes. Core Emotional Wheel Freebie Click here. https://www.connectioncodes.co/amber Discount code: amber20 Book The Connection Codes click here Website click here https://www.connectioncodes.co/ Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr. Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation where he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute tool. Now, they are authors, speakers, and have Connection Coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
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In today's fast-paced and overwhelming world, it's no surprise that emotions often become a tangled web, hindering our ability to authentically connect with ourselves and others. With a staggering 90% of people never receiving regular counseling or therapy, the need for accessible tools that can reach a wider audience becomes paramount. Join us in this thought-provoking episode as we delve into the vital topic of processing emotions for greater clarity and connection. This conversation uncovers the common obstacles individuals face when attempting to navigate their emotions effectively. More importantly, we explore an innovative approach to emotional processing that aims to bridge this gap, allowing individuals to tap into their innate capacity for connection. Don't miss out—tune in and unlock the keys to processing emotions for a more fulfilling and connected existence. Drs. Glenn and Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of marriage living disconnected. Dr. Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school and became a Marriage and Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. It wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of their disconnect. From there, Dr. Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute tool. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:10 The journey to unveiling The Connection Codes Framework. 12:07 The power of vulnerability: Unveiling deeper layers of understanding. 17:22 Glenn and Phyllis' individual journeys within their relationship. 22:06 The importance of emotional breakthroughs. 26:40 The birth of the Core Motion Wheel and its transformative impact. 34:48 The breakthrough: Reversing disconnection to foster connection. 37:53 Real-life application and global impact of emotional tools. 44:37 The importance of processing emotions for regulation and well-being. Mentioned Connection Codes (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Type Of Relationship Support (survey) Connect with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill Websites: connectioncodes.co/empowered Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520 (*Apple podcast) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
Listen in on Part 2 of our conversation with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, the authors of the book, The Connection Codes. This book and the master classes developed by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis have been such a blessing to us and have helped us grow in our ability to connect with each other through learning to share our emotions in a safe place. We cannot recommend these resources enough! In this episode we discuss how emotional connection can help us grow in our sexual connection. If you want to learn more, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis have offered our listeners a 20% discount on any of their master classes and also a free download of the emotion wheel which is a great tool to learn to share emotions. Go to www.connectioncodes.co/fearless for the emotion wheel download and if you want to take advantage of the master class discount, enter the code "FEARLESS" at checkout. If you would like to connect with us, feel free to email us at fearlessinlovepodcast@gmail.com.
In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the complex world of emotions with our esteemed guests, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill. They are renowned experts in relationship dynamics and bring years of insight and experience to our conversation.In this week's interview, we talk about:Understanding Big Emotions: We kick off our conversation by discussing the nature of 'big' emotions. What are they? How do they shape our perceptions and interactions? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis provide their expert insights into how understanding our emotional responses can pave the way for healthier relationships.Emotional Safety in Relationships: The Hills shed light on the concept of emotional safety. We explore the pivotal role it plays in fostering trust and deepening connections in our relationships.Sexual Safety and Its Importance: In a candid discussion, we address the often overlooked aspect of sexual safety. We delve into how emotional wellbeing influences our sexual relationships and vice versa.Practical Tips and Strategies: The Hills share actionable tips on managing our emotions and creating a safe space for emotional and sexual expression in our relationships.Join us for this episode of understanding and managing our big emotions, and learn how to create an atmosphere of emotional and sexual safety in your relationship. Don't forget to register for the FREE 5-Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge through this link: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/syschallenge
We have a special treat for you in our 50th episode. Listen in on a great conversation with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, the authors of the book, The Connection Codes. This book and the master classes developed by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis have been such a blessing to us and have helped us grow in our ability to connect with each other through learning to share our emotions in a safe place. We cannot recommend these resources enough! If you want to learn more, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis have offered our listeners a 20% discount on any of their master classes and also a free download of the emotion wheel which is a great tool to learn to share emotions. Go to www.connectioncodes.co/fearless for the emotion wheel download and if you want to take advantage of the master class discount, enter the code "FEARLESS" at checkout. If you would like to connect with us, feel free to email us at fearlessinlovepodcast@gmail.com.
Discover the secret to thriving marriages and fulfilling relationships! If you find yourself facing difficulties in your marriage or relationships, you're not alone. Many of us were never taught the art of genuine connection, relying instead on movies and fleeting impressions.But now, the solution is within your grasp.Introducing a groundbreaking episode featuring none other than the extraordinary duo, Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill! Join us on this captivating podcast as they unravel the mysteries of successful relationships.Are you tired of the endless cycle of miscommunication? Do your emotions often feel overwhelming and uncontrollable? Take heart, for Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill have walked that same treacherous path.Having met at a picturesque summer camp in the Carolina mountains back in 1978, their journey began at a tender age of 15 and 16. Four years later, they exchanged vows, unaware of the tumultuous road that lay ahead. Through their own trials and tribulations, they have unearthed the secrets to bridging disconnection and fostering profound connection. With their profound insights, you too can break free from the shackles of relationship turmoil.Unlock the keys to lasting connection and gain invaluable wisdom from Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill. Join us as they reveal what truly causes disconnection and, conversely, the powerful forces that ignite deep, meaningful bonds.Don't miss out on this transformative opportunity! Experience the power of connection like never before. Tune in to our exceptional episode with Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill now!Check out the connection codes website: https://www.connectioncodes.co/Dr Glenn & Phyllis have created a discount codes for our next brave thing listeners - go check it out! https://www.connectioncodes.co/next And the discount code NEXT20 gets 20% off of Foundations. www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourseFollow the connection codes on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/
This week's guests are Drs. Glenn and Phyllis Hill.Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation where he discovered the source of all of their disconnect.From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4 minute tool. Now, they are authors, speakers, and have Connection Coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships.Download the Core Emotion Wheel, THE tool to conquer conflict in just 4 minutes for FREE at https://www.connectioncodes.co/matchmaker Learn more about the Connection Codes at https://www.connectioncodes.co/ Pick up a copy of “The Connection Codes: The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave” at https://www.amazon.com/Connection-Codes-Blueprint-Creating-Relationships/dp/B09BSKMCJM/ Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/ *****Let's work together!*****Is matchmaking right for you? Let's find out! https://calendly.com/felix-louie Follow Maria on instagram at http://instagram.com/matchmakermaria And join an upcoming Intensive! https://agapematch.com/agape-group-coaching-intensive/
My guests today are Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr. Glenn was determined to find out what went wrong so he went back to school and became a marriage and family therapist and a clinical sexologist. But it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. On the other side of the pain that they went through, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis created the Connection Codes, a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their four-minute tool. Now they are authors, speakers, and have connection coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships. I hope you all enjoy this beautiful story as much as I did! In this episode:01:00 - Dr. Glenn and Phyllis' story05:00 - A traumatic and disappointing first sexual experience10:30 - We may think other couples are doing great20:50 - A couple's pivotal moment: a comment about unloading the dishwasher leads to the discovery26:00 - Tools or books Dr. Glenn and Phyllis read to improve their intimacy?33:00 - The Core Emotion WheelOn Instagram: @Connectioncodes Go to the website: connectioncodes.co/shannonUse code: SHANNON20 for 20% off our Foundations courseSupport the show
What's really going on when it comes to the relationship between sex and emotion? How do they influence each other? If you've ever been curious about these questions - you're in luck!This episode, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill will help you explore the intricate connection between sex and emotion. They will also share practical strategies to help you express your emotions during intimate moments. If you liked this episode, please SUBSCRIBE, like, leave a comment, and share so we can keep bringing you valuable content that gets results!--------------Ready to unlock the power of emotional awareness and strengthen the intimacy in your relationship? Sign up now to receive a FREE Core Emotion Wheel and an exclusive 20% discount on Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill's Masterclass.--------------Connect with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill through:FacebookInstagramWebsite--------------Follow Me On:InstagramTwitterFacebookTikTokYouTube--------------For all links and resources mentioned on the show and where to subscribe to the podcast, please visit https://sexualhealthformenpodcast.com/exploring-emotion--------------Want to regain control of your sex life? It's time to reverse the effects of ED on your life. Join the Modern Man Club and start your road to full recovery and community.--------------Reveal the FREE treatment most men ignore that solves thousands of erectile dysfunction cases every year, plus the 5 biggest mistakes you must avoid if you want to say goodbye to your ED. Uncover it all in my free eBook, available to download now.https://ed.truongrehab.com/ebook?utm_source=podcastandutm_campaign=eBook
What causes disconnection? What builds connection? What are the 8 core emotions? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the incredible power couple Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill For more on this episode click here: https://the-heart-center.com/ep-115-how-to-connect-without-fighting-with-dr-glenn-phyllis-hill/ Learn more about your guest below: Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill are authors, speakers, and the founders of the Connection Codes. After 30 years in a marriage filled with pain, Dr Glenn went back to school to figure out what was causing marriage to be so difficult. He got his Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy & a doctorate in Clinical Sexology. But, it was a discovery that started in their kitchen that led them to uncover what causes humans to connect-- what it is now known as The Connection Codes. Learn more at - https://www.connectioncodes.co/ - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBOSek9ed715Di4qhVKHemA - https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/ - https://www.facebook.com/drglennhill/ - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i= - Use this link and the discount code LEARNTOLOVE for 20% off their foundations course: www.connectioncodes.co/learntolove Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com *****Support The Show****** If you like the show there are many ways you can support it, such as, - Schedule a FREE love coaching session with Zach: https://www.zachbeach.com/coaching/ - Check out one of our sponsors, Listenable, and use the discount code “zachbeach” for the first seven days on the platform for free. There you can find Zach's How To Be a Better Partner Course: https://frstre.com/go/?a=76205-87a7d9&s=1256514-e13191&p_affiliate.referral_code=zachbeach - Purchase a book from our blossoming professional network: https://www.the-heart-center.com/books/ - Purchase one of Zach's books: https://www.amazon.com/author/zach_beach - Review, Like, and Subscribe to the show on iTunes. - Like us on Facebook facebook.com/learntolovenow - Join the Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/
In this episode, I have the lovely opportunity to sit down with the creators of The Connection Codes, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill. After 30 years of a troublesome and painful marriage, Dr. Glenn decided to go back for his Masters in Marriage and Family, along with a doctorate in Clinical Sexology. He was determined to figure out why his marriage was so hard to navigate, and learned through years of studying that we as humans are hardwired to experience connection through emotion, NOT logistics. Once he and Phyllis started putting the pieces together based on brain science, they realized that the key was not only uncovering the WHY behind disconnection, but figuring out the recipe for reconnection.Dr. Glenn and Phyllis very candidly share the intimate details of their past and what shifted for them right after their wedding (now 40 years ago), and we first chat a bunch about the common misconceptions regarding sexual and intimate connection that are still taking place in today's world. We talk about how and why so many marriages seem to be struggling, and how many feel that all hope is lost because nothing has "worked." They talk about how while sex is a very important part of connection in a relationship, it doesn't always mean that couples are emotionally connected, and how loneliness can still be extremely prevalent.Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share the premise behind The Connection Codes, and how they've humbly witnessed countless couples go from total despair to repair, and back to a place of emotional safety and contentment. Their tools are designed to be simple and tangible, so that exhausted couples can find themselves becoming UNSTUCK quicker than they think. The Connection Codes are all based off of the "human condition," as they teach us the language of how people are inherently designed to connect with one another in a relationship.Whether you're looking to improve your relationship, you're engaged to be married and want to level-up your emotional intelligence, or you're simply looking to become more skilled in general interpersonal communication, this episode will provide an open door. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis wholeheartedly believe that most people don't need better intentions, just better tools, and they give us a ton of beautiful insight during this eye-opening, honest, and inspiring discussion.The Connection Codes Foundations Course, use discount code VANESSA for 20% off: www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourseFree Download of The Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/intentionallywell The Connection Codes Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=The Connection Codes Book: https://a.co/d/5PpLF2UThe Connection Codes on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/Show Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/well.with.vanessa/Vanessa Lopez on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegiftofgoods/Vanessa's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thegiftofgoodsEmail: intentionallywellpodcast@gmail.comSupport the showThis episode is for informational purposes only. Please consult a trusted health practitioner for individual concerns.
On this episode of "Growing with the Nhiras", Sonia and Brian sit down with family therapist and clinical sexologist, Dr Glenn Hill and his wife Phyllis to discuss helpful and healthy ways to resolve conflict and strengthen your marriage. About the guests: Dr Glenn Hill is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, Connection Codes coach and author with a private practice in Nashville, TN. His greatest credential is his 40 year marriage with Phyllis. He enjoys doing absolutely anything with her, especially traveling and spending time with their family of twenty. Phyllis Hill is an entrepreneur, Connection Codes coach and the engine that keeps everything running. She enjoys the partnership and adventures she and Glenn share and loves being “Honey” to their ten grandchildren. The pain of their early married years along with decades of research and experience led the Hills to the founding of The Connection Codes. They provide counseling to couples, families, individuals, churches and businesses in helping people build deep connection. They have witnessed the Connection Codes help heal and enrich countless lives and relationships. It is the Hills' mission to take the Connection Codes to every corner of the globe. Check out their book here! ▶ 'The Connection Codes: The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave' : https://www.amazon.com/Connection-Codes-Blueprint-Creating-Relationships-ebook/dp/B093TLDT71 Get 20% off on your masterclass with the code 'growing' ▶ https://www.connectioncodes.co/courses Get your free course here! ▶ connectioncodes.co/break Don't forget to subscribe to the Family Made channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfo5aZL8pvt8j6UYYkkyz5A
A tender, honest conversation as Bonny shares her vulnerable testimony and healing journey through deep betrayal caused by pornography and sex addiction in her marriage. There is tremendous trauma and hurt in a marriage experiencing a death of trust. Bonny speaks into betrayal from a personal and clinical perspective, providing you with understanding, empathy and thoughtful steps to take toward healing for both partners. If betrayal has touched your life, know you are not alone. There is great hope and healing possible, especially with the help of trained professionals and the power of the Holy Spirit. Connect with Bonny Burns: Bonny Burns works to empower the wife with low sexual interest, little sex drive, and possibly a sexless marriage through science, scripture, and stories. She writes at oysterbed7.com and podcasts at Sex Chat for Christian Wives. You can find her ministry to women who have experienced sexual betrayal at strongwives.com. She earned a Christian Counseling certification (not licensure) in 2015 and in December, 2019, she completed a Bachelor of Science in counseling psychology from Liberty University. She is married to Dave for over 30 years and is a mother to three adult sons. Mentioned in this episode: Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast Strong Wives Oysterbed7 APSATS Sensate Focus Related Episodes: Pornography & Sexual Shame to Freedom with Joy Skarka, episode 138 Pleasure & Orgasm with Bonny Burns, episode 136 Transformational Keys to Emotional Connection with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, episode 131 You're Invited: Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle Listen to Heaven in Your Home Family Music: Spotify Apple Music YouTube Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter Website Instagram
Have you ever felt like you and your spouse are on different pages when it comes to hosting? We were married not even a year and I packed our social calendars FULL. Looking back we had plans in our house nearly every night and my party loving, people loving self was ecstatic. It didn't take long for a conversation to happen between Colby and I about expectations. It didn't even cross my mind that maybe, just maybe, someone may need to balance hospitality with quiet time. We learned quickly what this balance looked like for us, and truthfully we ended up healthier because of it! This type of dynamic is SO normal, do you experience it too? Through years of listening to you and hearing your stories so often this tension or sorts, can keep either marriages divided or doors closed. With neither being ideal, it was time to bring the conversation to the table! Do you feel like the communication leading up to having people over causes more harm then good? Do you wish that you and your husband or wife shared the responsibilities before a bit better? Do you want to know the truth behind the way we say what we say and passive aggressive statements? I knew my conversation with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis would be good, but I couldn't have been prepared for just how profound and transformational it actually was! Whether you are married, about to be married to waiting on your soul mate- this conversation will change you! Access the resources from this episode here: http://connectioncodes.co/gatherUse code GATHER for 20% off Purchase their book HEREThis Episode is Sponsored byVisit Goodranchers.com/Gather to get a year of bacon with your subscription and $20 off your first order with GATHER
In Episode 12, Jason and Lauren introduce the concept of Connection as the goal of intimate relationships. Connection is a felt closeness and deep, enjoyable bond between two people. Attachment styles in childhood greatly impact our ability to bond with other humans. In order to feel deeply fulfilled inside of marriage or intimate relationships, connection must be strong, and connection is built on a foundation of trust which you must proactively grow! Here are some of the keys addressed in this episode:The Vallottons' friend and spiritual father, Danny Silk, says that “trust is the exchange of truth.” And with this as the working definition of trust, the implication is that building a foundation of trust and growing a deep connection requires two people to vulnerably share the TRUTH of what's going on inside of themselves. Connection happens through the exchange of emotions, sharing your feelings and talking about yourself, giving your partner the opportunity to see, know, accept and love you in your present moment. The Vallotton's recommend Connection Codes with Dr. Glen and Phyllis Hill if you need to grow in your ability to locate and share your emotions (link below). Learning to speak the language of your partner will enable you to meet them where they're at and love them in a way that they can hear and receive. Learning about love languages and needs will aid in the process of learning to speak each other's language! In this episode, Jason and Lauren give great examples of how they proactively pursue connection in their marriage and what it looks like to overcome the obstacle of disconnection.Links:Keep Your Love on by Danny SilkConnection Codes with Dr. Glen and Phyllis HillThe 5 Love LanguagesConnect with Lauren:InstagramFacebook Connect with Jason:Jay's InstagramJay's FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org
Our guests are Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, founders of Connection Codes and co-authors of the book The Connection Codes. Tera Wages, president of Connection Codes, also joins the conversation. We discuss the core emotion wheel, how to navigate emotions in relationships, the power of connection, why most marriages aren't working, and more. Plus, check out the January Top Ten Leadership List. Make sure to visit http://h3leadership.com to access the list and all the show notes. Thanks again to our partner for this episode: GENERIS – Get your FREE Generosity Pulse Report at http://generis.com/h3. A FREE tool designed to provide insights and assess the health of generosity and giving in your Church. Generis will help accelerate generosity in your church, school, college or non-profit. Get started at http://generis.com/h3 to schedule a completely free Pulse Report and set up a complimentary 30-minute coaching session.
For 20% of a Connection Codes Masterclass, go to ConnectionCodes.co and use the code "ZINT20"We highly recommend these life changing courses from the Hills.We are excited to have Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill back on the podcast to talk about Sex! The Hills are the creators of the Connection Codes which has changed thousands of lives in helping couples and individuals alike understand how they are wired (coded) to connect with others through the processing and sharing of emotion. Jenna and I have been specifically impacted by their teaching and guidance as it has come to influence just about everything in our lives.In this episode, we talk about Valentine's Day coming up in a few weeks and how much pressure and expectation can be put on this day especially for couples around the area of sex and romance. Our sexual connection as married couples can be rife with hurt, sadness, fear or shame. If that feels true for you, notice how each of those are core emotions. If they are felt, they need to be processed with your partner in order to create connection and mend disconnection. In this episode, we dive into what that looks like and the benefits of processing sexual emotion in your relationship. To hear more about the Zints have to offer, check out our website, ZintSquad.com. We having individual and couples coaching sessions available and you can also check out my book, Numb to Known: the surprising path away from porn
What's okay for Christian marriage in the bedroom? Maybe that's the wrong question. Married sex can be a playground, filled with creativity and adventure. In this episode, we'll reframe the question and perhaps help you process and give yourself permission for a little bit of adventure and freedom in your marriage bed. God created you in a wonderful way and designed married intimacy as celebration. The bodies of a husband and wife are designed to fit together perfectly and there isn't a mandate saying you need to add anything. Sex toys are simply tools that you can introduce to your married intimacy “menu.” Consider these thoughts on sex toys as you process what is good for your marriage. Related Episodes: Re-framing Novelty- How Monogamy Doesn't Equal Monotony, Episode 85 Becoming Sexually Adventurous - Pt. 2 with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, Episode 132 Invitation to Discover Your Wonderful Female Body, Episode 104 Your Wonderful Female Body - Clitoris, Episode 105 Your Wonderful Female Body - G-spot, Episode 106 Your Wonderful Female Body - Erogenous Zones, Episode 107 Your Wonderful Female Body - 4 Stages of Sexual Response, Episode 108 Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Desire, Episode 109 Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Arousal, Episode 110 Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 1, Episode 111 Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 2, Episode 113 Resources mentioned: Merry Marriage Gift Guide We Vibe Married Dance - use code MerryMarriage for savings Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens, Bonny Burns You're Invited: Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter Website Instagram
Sex can be a great gift, full of pleasure and fun. But, it can also be a source of frustration, discouragement and even great wounding inside your marriage. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are back this week talking more about their own experience and encouraging you to find healing and freedom in your sexuality. Sex is designed as a party for the woman…yet, we have been taught that sex is really something for the man and even a duty for a wife in marriage. Well, Phyllis is like the big sister you always wanted and she is sharing tips and ideas to embrace more adventure and more freedom as you celebrate what God called GOOD. Listen in and spur your thinking as you figure out what your unique “sexy” is in each and every season. Learn more about Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill: Phyllis & Glenn met at a summer camp in the Carolina mountains at age 15 and 16 in 1978, then married four years later. “We were ill-prepared for marriage and our first five years were horrific, with continuous disconnection and pain.” They have experienced healing and transformation in their marriage and bring valuable tools to couples to enrich marriages through connection. Dive In With This Free Resource: Break the cycle of frustration in your relationship. Stop feeling lonely in your marriage and learn how to connect the way you were created to. Click Here. Get Marriage Help Today: End the cycle of miscommunication and conflict in your marriage.Get marriage help today. The Foundations Masterclass gives you the tools to communicate better starting now. No need to wait on an appointment to get help. Use HEAVEN20 and receive a 20% discount on this foundational course. Click Here. Get the Merry Marriage Gift Guide right here: Merry Marriage Related Episodes: Invitation to Discover Your Wonderful Female Body, Episode 104 Your Wonderful Female Body - Clitoris, Episode 105 Your Wonderful Female Body - G-spot, Episode 106 Your Wonderful Female Body - Erogenous Zones, Episode 107 Your Wonderful Female Body - 4 Stages of Sexual Response, Episode 108 Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Desire, Episode 109 Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Arousal, Episode 110 Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 1, Episode 111 Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 2, Episode 113 You're Invited: Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter Website Instagram
Sex without emotional connection is really just sexual activity. Today's guests, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share keys to a healing journey toward true emotional connection. From the wounding that started on their honeymoon, they experienced years of disconnection. With years of training and application, they are now experiencing abundance. And, they have developed simple tools to help marriages experience “naked and unashamed” intimacy, just as God intended as we see in Genesis. Through Connection Codes, they offer a PROVEN, 4-minute tool that will give you the language to conquer conflict in marriage, find safety in intimacy and create a marriage and life you love Don't miss this encouraging episode. Learn more about Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill: Phyllis & Glenn met at a summer camp in the Carolina mountains at age 15 and 16 in 1978, then married four years later. “We were ill-prepared for marriage and our first five years were horrific, with continuous disconnection and pain.” They have experienced healing and transformation in their marriage and bring valuable tools to couples to enrich marriages through connection. Dive In With This Free Resource: Break the cycle of frustration in your relationship. Stop feeling lonely in your marriage and learn how to connect the way you were created to. Click Here. Get Marriage Help Today: End the cycle of miscommunication and conflict in your marriage.Get marriage help today. The Foundations Masterclass gives you the tools to communicate better starting now. No need to wait on an appointment to get help. Use HEAVEN20 and receive a 20% discount on this foundational course. Click Here. Get the Merry Marriage Gift Guide right here: Merry Marriage You're Invited: Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click Here. Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter Website Instagram
From the time our kids are small, we take actions that unintentionally break their trust. This episode answers the question, "How do we rebuild trust with our child?" Featuring: Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill, Echo Hill Vetter, & Tera Wages Go to connectioncodes.co/connectedparenting for more information on our parenting masterclass
With kids going back to school, we wanted to address the issue on many parents minds--- getting our kids out the door and to the school while managing emotions. This episode features Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill & Echo Hill Vetter Free one hour webinar www.connectioncodes.co/stopyelling
In session 1 of the Connection Conference we hear from keynote speakers Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill, the authors of the book “Connection Codes.” In this session they focus on identity and emotion. Backed by scientific studies, the Hills share how our brains are coded to respond when human connection is broken. Through the help of the Holy Spirit, we can implement these tools to love people well, help mend broken relationships, and have a better understanding of our words are received.You can learn more about Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill, read their book, or book your own session with them at their website.The Connection Conference is hosted by Five Fold International, a ministry that supports ministers through credentialing and networking to further the Gospel of Jesus Christ.Learn more about salvation, info about Destiny Church, or how to give by visiting our website.Real | Relevant | Relationship
In session 2 of the Connection Conference we hear from keynote speakers Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill, the authors of the book “Connection Codes.” In this session they break down the 8 core emotions. The Hills give definitions for each and how you can use the core emotion wheel to better understand how to communicate your emotions and to help others understand what has happened to cause us to feel a core emotion.You can learn more about Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill, read their book, or book your own session with them at their website.The Connection Conference is hosted by Five Fold International, a ministry that supports ministers through credentialing and networking to further the Gospel of Jesus Christ.Learn more about salvation, info about Destiny Church, or how to give by visiting our website.Real | Relevant | Relationship
Mentioned in this episode: ConnectionCodes.co The Hills' book, The Connection Codes: The Blueprint and Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave Connection Codes podcast Connect with the Hills: Website~Facebook~Instagram Connect with Holly: Website~Facebook~Instagram This podcast was produced and edited by Angie Elkins Media Music by Robert Elkins
Join the conversation as both Shawn, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill talk through one of the most important and often overlooked subjects when it comes to healthy leadership. Dr. Glenn […]
This is a "do not miss" conversation for marriages especially. This month the Zick's interviewed Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, founders of Connection Codes, Christian sexologist, LMFT, and more. We polled our Instagram audience and asked what questions you'd like to ask a Christian sexologist and it led to a powerful conversation about how to make sex more about intimacy than the mechanics, what does it look like to be physically vulnerable, and how to build sexual friendship with your spouse. It felt like a free sex therapy session and left us saying "WOW!" You don't want to miss and and tag your friends below who are married to soon-to-be. Get the special gift from the Connection Codes - www.connectioncodes.co/moralrevolution Find Out About Connection Codes Foundations course - www.connectioncodes.co/foundations Find out about Connection Codes Late Nights - courses.connectioncodes.co/courses/late-night-ecourse To help support this podcast, go to moralrevolution.com/supportpodcast. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/moral-revolution/support
We're excited to have Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill back on the podcast to answer some of our burning questions around the connection codes protocols but also to discuss the idea of creating a sexual friendship with your spouse. In this episode the Hills mention an exciting offer that is limited. Enter to win a free Connection Codes Foundation e-course by going to connectioncodes.co/marriagelab.This is a very generous offer and we're so grateful they are offering this chance exclusively to our listeners.Furthermore, Jenna and I have launched our website ZintSquad.com where you can schedule one-on-one coaching sessions with either Jenna, myself or a Couple's Coaching session with both of us. We love to help people get breakthrough in their lives and marriage and have been doing so informally for years. We're excited to make it official.
Welcome to the first episode where you meet your hosts Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill who have created the guide to human connection. Yes, through decades of research, they have discovered what causes people to connect with each other. So now, with this guide, we can conquer conflict and live in peace. This episode is a great place to start on your Connection Codes journey. Click to download a raw conversation about emotions in sex. For more information: connectioncodes.co Instagram: www.instagram.com/connectioncodes Produced by: Tera Wages of the I Get it podcast
Today we interview Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, the Founders of Connection Codes. Glenn is a clinical sexologist and family therapist, and both Glenn and Phyllis are connection code coaches who help couples, families, individuals, churches, and businesses build deeper connections. Today we discuss how to live authentic lives and communicate our emotions in a way that creates a connection with those around us. Unfortunately, Charity and I would fight almost every time we talked about our feelings at the beginning of recovery. Through Connections Codes, they share how instead of avoiding these hard conversations, we can learn how to understand emotion and use our feelings as a way to foster a deeper connection!Glenn and Phyllis also share some incredible tools, including a core emotion wheel, a free webinar, and an online e-course through Connection Codes that have helped thousands of people build deeper connections. More Resources:https://www.connectioncodes.co/https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/ Our Resources:https://restored2more.com/courses/https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/https://restored2more.com/
Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill are the authors of the new book "The Connection Codes: The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave" out now on Amazon and wherever books are sold. Dr. Glenn has been a certified sexologist and family therapist for over a decade, and his practice has healed relationships in over 40 countries. His wife Phyllis co authored the book with him, and they have been married for 40 years. Together they created and implemented what they call the Connection Codes into their marriage, and decided to embark on a path of enlightening others with techniques designed to solidify marriages, relationships, and communication with both believers and non-believers. Their ideas have had a profound impact on my marriage and family life, and I wanted to bring them on to discuss how they can help you as well.' We discuss the core human need of emotional connection, why people are hiding their emotions in our modern society, and how the tools in their studies can make a profound impact on how humans interact with each other in every aspect of life. If you've ever felt disconnected with someone in your life, and you want to repair that relationship, I highly encourage you to hear them out. The book: https://www.amazon.com/Connection-Codes-Blueprint-Creating-Relationships/dp/B093QCHZ76/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drglennhill/ Website: www.connectioncodes.co Find out more about the Misfit Heroes Podcast at www.misfit-heroes.com and www.beacons.ai/misfitheroes
Havilah has been getting so many messages and emails about marital struggles. She wants to get you resources and help in the best way she can! One of the things that has been so helpful for Havilah has been Connection Codes. Listen in as Havilah interviews Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, creators of the Connection Codes Courses. It applies not just to marriages but to parent/child and family relationships, work relationships, roommates and friendships. We are hardwired for connection and identity. How our brains work and how our bodies are triggered by what happens in the brain are all factors in how we experience one another and the world around us. Get ready to take notes because this will help you immensely in whatever relationships you're struggling with! BONUS: Free 3-Day Course is happening right now and link is here: 3-day course and follow them on Instagram here. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com + truthtotable.com + theinfluencertable.com
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis join us today to talk about finding sexual and relational connection. The organization Connection Codes will equip you with everything you need to put an end to disconnection in your marriage and parenting. If you long for more in your relationships, this is for you. To learn more visit: moralrevolution.com or more from Dr. Glenn and Phyllis visit www.connectioncodes.co. To help support this podcast, go to moralrevolution.com/supportpodcast. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/moral-revolution/support
An in depth tutorial and discussion around the assassination of John F. Kennedy, (JFK) the country's 35th president who was brutally murdered in Dallas Texas on November 22, 1963.Episode 52 tellls the story of the frantic ride to Parkland Hospital and the work done by the heroic medical team in an attempt to save the President's life. This is the story of an emotionally intense 30 minute period in the assassination time line. Some of the most important matters that subsequently arose in the autopsy would be linked back to activities that the Parkland doctors engaged in to try and save the Presiden't life, including the tracheotomy which obliterated the neck wound. Up to this point, we have spent our time primarily on witness accounts and now much of the physical evidence will be reviewed as we pivot to the forensics. The story is rich in this series of episodes, as we leave Dealey Plaza and make our way to Parkland Hospital... and then the slow solemn ride home to Washington, followed by the mysterious story around the President's autopsy. We'll also explore more of the physical evidence involving use and ownership of the Mannlicher Carcano rifle and evidence recovered from the Presidential limousine, as well as damage done to the vehicle. Our episodes have now begun to explore an array of matters that dive into a deeper darkness related to what went on that day in Dallas and in the period before and after the assassination. Matters that possibly point to a wider and more sinister plot to kill the president and that clearly call into question the theory that there was a lone assassin. Complex cases without an eyewitness that can actually identify the shooter make the forensic and circumstantial evidence that much more important. Ironically, problems abound with much of the evidence in this case. Evidence that is complex, incomplete and sometimes conflicting. Even as early as 1964, rumors and serious concerns over the lone gunman theory and the evidence that might contravene it, were becoming a major concern for the government and the commission. Conspiracy theories were contrary to the government's stated narrative from the very beginning. Stay tuned as there are many more episodes to come!This series comprehensively explores the major facts, themes, and events leading up to the assassination in Dealey Plaza and the equally gripping stories surrounding the subsequent investigation. We review key elements of the Warren Commission Report , and the role of the CIA and FBI. We explore the possible involvement of the Mafia in the murder and the review of that topic by the government's House Select Committee on Assassinations in the 1970's. We explore the Jim Garrison investigation and the work of other key figures such as Mark Lane and others. Learn more about Lee Harvey Oswald the suspected killer and Jack Ruby the distraught Dallas night club owner with underworld ties and the man that killed Oswald as a national TV audience was watching. Stay with us as we take you through the facts and theories in bite sized discussions that are designed to educate, and inform as well as entertain the audience. This real life story is more fascinating than fiction. No matter whether you are a serious researcher or a casual student, you will enjoy the fact filled narrative and story as we relive one of the most shocking moments in American History. An event that changed the nation and changed the world forever.
Listen as Shawn interviews special guests Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill and their daughter Echo as they discuss their new book “The Connection Codes.” Dr. Hill as been working with marriages for over 30 […]
We got to talk with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, the creators of the Connections Codes. Dr. Glen is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist and the co-author of The Connection Codes, their new book out on amazon. Click here for their book. Find them on Instagram at @connectioncodes, @drglennhill & @echohillvetter. You can check out their website and sign up for webinars at connectioncodes.co.We talked about the inception of Connection Codes, how it grew out of their own dysfunction and pain, how to use the tools to quickly and easily connect with your spouse and what it's like trying to run and hide half naked in an office building.
Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill of Connection Codes ( http://www.drglennhill.com/ ) has revolutionized my marriage and the ways I think of connecting and sex. Please do yourself and the people you love most a favor and sign up for a Connection Codes Webinar ( http://www.drglennhill.com/webinars ) $99 for 4 sessions you can never beat that price! Offered EVERY Month!
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Please visit www.drglennhill.com to enroll in a connection codes workshop NOW!!!!! They will help you to Human well and lead you into a more connected and awesome existence and help you have the most connected and amazing sex life possible!!! They rule. I hope you love this convo. email us with any questions at theREVgatherings@gmail.com
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