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A space for women to feel like they are not alone in their hardships or struggles. Some conversations may be lighthearted, some may touch upon taboo topics, but the overall mission for this podcast is to make every woman realize that she is not alone. We are all in this together, I promise.

Zaina and Dounya


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    Muslim Women in the Workplace: Advice on Pivoting Careers and Gaining Confidence w/ Maariyah Choudery

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2022 49:29


    We have all heard the phrase : follow your passion and everything will fall into place. But I also can't help but to think of another very popular phrase which is : some things are much easier said than done.I find it funny that when I was younger and I was asked 'what do you want to be when you grow up', my response was one that was very confident and it came with  no hesitation…mind you I  was also five years old at the time.But if you were to ask me this same question today, I would be confident in saying that I actually don't know. Now this isn't to say it's a bad thing to not be able to pinpoint what it is that you want to do for the rest of your life…and that's because we're finally realizing we are multifaceted human beings who are constantly growing, learning and embracing different versions of ourselves.Of course, change can be frightening, especially in today's world which is laced with so much uncertainty, but what do you do if you no longer enjoy the career path you had chosen for yourself?In today's episode, I have an insightful conversation with none other than Maariyah Choudrey, who is a Chief of Staff at Uber, content creator and your big sis in tech!Chances are you have come across a post or video of Maariyah's account, which is @lifewithmaars, where she shares business tips and advice for working women, her love of modest fashion and beauty, and where she documents her adventures as a foodie in NYC.So, what is the secret of those who do make it to the other side? The ones who take the leap and pivot careers?In this conversation, Maariyah shares her career transition journey from pre-med to finance and her most recent role in tech. We also navigate the ways in which one can leverage their skills and their network to successfully pivot careers. Fear of failure may be at the forefront of our minds, but Maariyah discusses her own personal experiences with self doubt and finding the confidence within her that is needed to move forward. As Muslim women, in today's society, how can we show up as our full selves in the workplace without comprising our beliefs and faith?Tune in to find out!Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Maariyah on Instagram:@lifewithmaars

    God's Plan vs Our Plans: The Intersection of Grief and Gratitude w/ Halima Jama

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2022 49:54


    What do you do when the things you want most are happening for everyone but you?Who do you become when your plans don't fall through? When you are in the waiting period of your life? When I look back on my own  life journey thus far, I realize that if everything had gone according to my plans and not God's Plan, I don't think I would have been as intentional or filled with all of the gratitude I have for all that I was blessed with today. Maybe my relationship with Allah wouldn't be as strong as it is today, either. Today I am a bit more grateful that my life path came with a couple of bumps in the road and just the right amount of rerouting. I am where God has intended for me to be.A delay in our plans is essentially Allah gifting us with more time. Time to work on ourselves. To prioritize the blessings we have right in front of us and maybe this delay is a much needed breather. Subhanallah, how even in the delay there is khair and you can almost see how Allah is working on you, bettering you for the next chapter of your life.  A chapter that includes an answered dua of yours. And so while your dua is coming to life, Allah is also preparing you for it. In today's episode, I sit down with a dear friend of mine, Halima Jama. Not only is she a talented photographer but she is the type of sister that is always right on time with her words of encouragement. She is the friend who will send you a reminder at 2am letting you know how much you are loved. And for me she is a reminder of Allah's mercy. And in our discussion Halima reminds us that two things can be true - we can grieve what we had hoped to be and we can be grateful for what is right in this moment. In the process of holding on and believing that relief is being sent our way from Allah, we have to also come to terms that there will be setbacks and loss along the way.  Every single thing that happens to us, is happening for us and it's all part of the most intricate puzzle known to mankind and that is God's Plan.Let that sink in - look back at how things in the past have unfolded and how you had become grateful for the way that things worked out. How every detail and every single event happened in the way that Allah had written. Look at how meticulous God is - how He creates every single thing with a purpose and you are no different.In today's conversation we are reminded that our life story is in the palms of Allah. Our life story is in the hands of our Creator. Our life story is being handled by the most Merciful and loving beings we will ever come to know. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Halima Jama on Instagram:@halimajamaCheck out Halima's work:Click here

    Self Growth for an Arab Woman: Balancing a Relationship w/ Our Parents and Navigating Emotional Independence w/ Abeer Najjar

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2022 65:37


    Going after what makes you happy as an Arab Muslim woman doesn't always come with instant gratification. There is pain and guilt involved when finally making a decision for yourself.I often wonder to myself, will I ever experience happiness without allowing myself to poison the moment by the idea that I'm making others unhappy in return.Grief is interesting when it shows up in moments where you are welcoming a new chapter in your life - a chapter you have been making dua for for the longest. Yet somehow and someway without an invite, grief can show up and incessantly knock on your door and you have no choice but to acknowledge it.But I'm trying my best to not allow grief to paralyze me, or to instill fear in me and prevent me from entering this new chapter of my life. I am someone who has stayed in her comfort zone for far too long and so, naturally self doubt is trying to keep me here a bit longer but for the first time I'm refusing to do so.Someone else who may understand what I am going through is none other than Abeer Najjar. She is a self taught chef and food writer, born on the Southside of Chicago to Palestinian immigrant parents - and in today's episode Abeer shares with us her journey of self growth and self development as an Arab woman.I have a heart to heart with Abeer in regards to some of her most recent decisions that she has made and how that has impacted her relationship with her parents. I've realized that when discussing the topic of self development as an Arab woman it is almost impossible to not touch upon our past and current relationship with our immigrant parents and how that has shaped the decisions we are making today. As grown adults how can we transform our bond with our parents to welcome them into the new chapters of our lives?We also can't forget about the picture of Abeer at Umrah going viral - a  picture that had captured a beautiful moment between Abeer and her brother - but I also wanted to discuss the experiences she had at Umrah, the ones that weren't captured within this photo and the reflections she can share with us that she has brought back from her trip.How does ihsan and taqwa play a role in our lives as Muslim women who are trying to forge a new path for themselves, while balancing a relationship with their parents and working towards emotional independence?Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Abeer Najjar on Instagram:@abeernajjar_Check out Abeer's blog:Click here

    Egg Freezing Journey: Discussing Our Biological Clock and the Pressures of Having Children w/ Koko Zuberi

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2022 53:09


    Each of us are on our own unique life journey and for some of us we have yet to find the one to start a family with, so what do we do when  society is constantly reminding  us of our ticking biological clock and how do we approach the conversation of having kids when we are truly ready? For the past year, I have been a bit anxious when I think about my future and having children of my own inshallah. This anxiety stemmed from realizing that marriage may not be written for me at this very moment and my age is definitely not waiting on me to find the one. Like most, this is a very intimate conversation that I have been having within my circle of close girlfriends. Unfortunately, for some of us, we didn't learn much about fertility in our early 20s and fast forward to today, we are in our 30s and unsure of what next steps to take when it comes to the topic of having kids and what options we have in preserving our fertility. We are all asking ourselves the question: should I be worried about my biological clock?Thankfully, there have been notable technological advances when it comes to reproductive health care but what does that mean for us?In today's episode, I sit down with Koko Zuberi, she holds an impressive background in working with UN Women in the Partnerships and Outreach sector and someone who is graciously choosing to share her own personal experience with the egg freezing process. In this conversation, we share our thoughts on the pressures women face to start a family, how we truly feel being in our 30s and being unmarried, and what motivated Koko to make the decision of freezing her eggs?We stress the importance of paying our doctors a visit to get checked, regardless if we are ready to have kids or not and how does one have this super serious conversation with our potential partners - especially when they may be oblivious to our biological clock. And of course we can't forget our parents and what this means for them as well.Having conversations like this is vital, while some of us may have a strong support group, there are many others out there who may not have someone to turn to when discussing topics such as fertility - and so I hope this discussion sheds light on this, quote on quote, taboo topic.I also want to stress the fact that Koko and I are not medical professionals, nor are we scholars. Please consult with your trusted doctors and Islamic advisors if you are seriously thinking about egg freezing. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Koko Zuberi on Instagram:@heyitsmekoko

    Spiritual Death of the Heart: What Happens in Between Our Death and the Hereafter

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2022 80:02


    Death isn't the greatest loss in life, it's the spiritual death of our hearts while we are still living.I once heard that we treat death like a mystery, when in fact, it's the one experience all of us are guaranteed to share.As human beings living in this dunya, we tend to not see the shape of the life we've lived until we have reached the end of it. Subhanallah how death is the one thing that simultaneously kills us but also motivates us to live a very fulfilled life, a life that Allah is pleased with. Through seeking knowledge surrounding this topic I have read that the acceptance of death is not the same thing as giving up on life, instead it allows us to bring meaning to our lives.But why do we fear it  so much? And for me personally, if I can't handle the death of a loved one, how can I ever prepare myself for my own death?In today's episode I sit down with Lena Tleib, a humanitarian, a community leader, and someone who is very active in the civic and social sector. Lena is someone whom I've had the pleasure of attending her lectures and someone who gives great advice and insight pertaining to our faith. And so, she was the perfect guest to discuss the topic of the Hereafter.She is also someone who performs ghusl at our local Masjid - which is the process of washing the bodies of the deceased. I wanted to learn more about how this experience has shaped her connection to Allah and strengthened her in her faith. How can we be more comfortable with transitioning from this dunya to the Hereafter? How can we have the Akhira in our hearts and the dunya in our hands?If the belief in life after death is central to the meaning and purpose of our lives as Muslims, then how can we truly believe in the temporariness of this dunya and the permanence of the Hereafter?Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Lena Tleib on Instagram:@lenatleibFollow Lena Tleib on Facebook:Click HereCheck out Lena's Zakat Fundraiser:Click Here

    Am I Worthy of God's Forgiveness: How Do We Bring Our Imperfections to His Perfection w/ Samia Mubarak

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2022 58:53


    I once heard that if the battle is bigger than you, than it's not only your battle to fight, God is reminding you to seek His help in these moments, too.I believe that sometimes we tend to focus more so on the state that we're in when entering Ramadan instead of shifting our focus to our potential in this month. We can be discouraged in where our hearts may be when approaching Ramadan, not realizing that the purpose of this month is for us to seek the healing we desperately need. I truly believe we always leave Ramadan better than we have entered it. When growing up, to no one's fault, I felt like our faith was more about restriction than anything else, but over the years I set the intention to truly connect to Allah and the more knowledge I sought, the more I understood that our faith was about protection. Allah has protected us  from harm in more ways than we can ever count, in ways that are not so visible to us and in moments when we forgot to even  make dua to receive His protection in the first place. Allah's  protection is one of the many ways His  mercy is shown to us. My heart erupts with so much love for Allah, when I look back on moments where I felt so lost and so alone, and yet He lovingly nudged me back onto the right path, reminding me that no matter how far I've strayed, He always called me back to Him.In today's episode I sit down with Samia Mubarak, a student and teacher of the Quran and a Special Needs Advocate. This episode brought tears to my eyes and relief to my heart because of the way Samia invokes such love in our hearts for our Creator and in the ways she breaks down every verse, showing us that every surah  is a love letter written to us by Allah (swt), guiding us back to Him.The topics may be heavy within this discussion but Samia's reminders are filled with pockets of ease that we truly need to hear and for us to allow it to wash over our hearts, hearts that may be shattered and in need of mending.Within this conversation, we discuss the purpose of our hardships, how to soften our hardened hearts and to  not be discouraged by our sins and our shortcomings, how to truly bring our imperfections to our Creator who is perfect, how to know the difference between the hardships we can overcome on our own and what can we leave for Allah to take care of on our behalf and how to know we have truly been forgiven?I highly recommend that you check out Samia's instagram account for inspiring content that reminds us of Allah's love and mercy and to sign up for her Quranic Reflection classes. A great way to truly strengthen this sisterhood and to reap the rewards by doing so, is donating a Quranic class so that other women can connect to the Quran and our faith. All links are provided in the episode show notes!Let's dive in. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Samia Mubarak on Instagram:@quranic_oceanCheck out Samia's website and courses:Click HereHuge thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode. Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here: https://podcorn.com/podcasters/

    Connecting to the Quran: Navigating Shame and Imposter Syndrome While Connecting to our Faith featuring Dr. Saadia Mian

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2022 46:02


    If you find darkness in your heart after you've sinned, know that in your heart there is light, and only because of this light you felt the darkness. Ramadan Kareem everyone, subhanallah, what a beautiful gift we have received from Allah to witness another Ramadan. Take a moment to soak this in. May this month soften our hearts to allow the blessings of Allah to make their way in. May we find the ease we have been desperately seeking and the guidance we have been praying for. May every one of our tears and every one of our prayers reach the Heavens and in return we reap the rewards of trying our best to spiritually connect to our Creator. May we be overwhelmed by the infinite love of Allah, the time spent with our loved ones over Iftar and may Allah protect those who are oppressed. May we truly come together as an Ummah, to hold compassion for one another and truly welcome each other with no judgment, may our hardships allow us to extend our mercy onto others, knowing that they too have faced their own battles. May this Ramadan truly change us, Ameen. Recently I came across a question that I would like to share with you all:What use is armour anyway, when the worst critic is in your own head?I want you to take a moment to reflect upon this question, put pause on this episode if needed. In Ramadan, we are reminded of how the Shaytaan is locked up and so we realize it is our responsibility to try our best to work on our nafs and take accountability of our actions.I dont want to share this reminder to overwhelm you with the feeling of  you are not a good Muslim if you've experienced anger or any sort of shortcoming for the past few days of Ramadan. Instead I want you to realize that the shame you are still carrying, the shame that is preventing you from performing various acts of worship may be coming from our own limiting beliefs. In my own personal experience,  a few months ago, I felt an immense amount of shame dusting off my Quran, physically dusting it off. And in that moment I could have chosen to drown in that shame and have the Quran continue to collect dust or I could thank  Allah for planting this desire in my heart to connect to His words.And so in this episode I sit down with Dr. Saadia Mian, author of The Crowning Venture, to discuss her own personal journey of connecting with the Quran. How she had gone from initially wanting to learn Arabic to instead memorizing the Quran, mashallah. It was honestly meant to be for me to cross paths with her book and it's truly what pushed me to find my own way to connect with the Quran.In this conversation we speak of our own personal experiences of how we opened our hearts to the Quran, our bouts with imposter syndrome when it comes to our faith and how the Quran can truly transform us. This episode is tailored to anyone who wants to start their journey of connecting to the Quran, to anyone who is struggling with shame or guilt, and to those who are looking for a space where they are not overwhelmed with the notion that they are not good enough for Allah's mercy or guidance. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Dr. Saadia Mian on Instagram:@saadiamianmdPurchase 'The Crowing Venture" here:Click HereCheck out Dr. Saadia's website and courses:Click HereHuge thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode. Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here: https://podcorn.com/podcasters/

    Seeking Closure: What Does it Mean When We Say Closure Comes from Us w/ Sara Kuburic

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2022 43:00


    What does it truly mean when we say closure comes from us and what if we feel like the relationship isn't really over?When you really think about it - no one ever really goes away completely. They either live in our minds, our hearts or both. From time to time we may find ourselves in a chapter in our lives where we may be dealing with a generous amount of unanswered questions and the lingering feeling of not knowing if we made the right choice. From dealing with a relationship ending, to trusting yourself again, and of course the struggles we face when giving and receiving the honest, and at times, brutal truth - we can't help but to desperately search for the closure we need  in order to move forward in life. When focusing on the topic of honesty - I find myself searching for it but am I really ready to receive it - unfiltered and void of it being sugarcoated? How does honesty play a role when seeking closure and what do we do when self trust and self forgiveness are not things that we have yet mastered? How do we not fall into the trap of believing that closure comes from those who have potentially hurt us and where an apology is still pending?In today's episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Sara Kuburic, who is also better  known as the Millennial Therapist for her instagram account where she shares tips and content related to mental health, self reflection and real life human experiences. I am truly grateful to have had this discussion with Sara  - and her ability to lead with compassion in answering every question I had asked.We also discussed the struggles of accepting how others  may not even realize what they have done to us, if it's even possible to go back to who we used to be before certain relationships ended, how self sabotage can sneak it's way into the decisions that we make for ourselves and so much more!Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Sara Kuburic on Instagram:@millennial.therapistCheck out Sara Kuburic's site:Click Here

    Highly Sensitive Person: The Signs, Challenges and Strengths of Being Sensitive w/ Dr. Ketam Hamdan

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2022 52:25


    You know for the most part I'm a pretty laid back person. I only care about two things: the well being and the opinions of every single person on this earth, literally everyone, even strangers.If you ever found yourself in battle with literally yourself on a daily basis, then this conversation is just for you. It will shed light on the possible culprit which is the trait better known as Highly Sensitive Person or HSP for short.For thirty years of my life I have struggled with being, quote on quote, too sensitive and the crushing psychological weight of feeling everything on a much deeper level than anyone else. The ability to pick up on the most subtle changes, even a change of tone via text that will leave me wondering all week long if I did something wrong. Or my most impressive talent yet which is the ability to knock out anywhere at anytime because my nervous system is constantly on overdrive from experiencing emotional burnout as an HSP. For the longest I had wondered to myself, why did God create me to have too much feelings. I lack the ability to detach myself from everything and avoid becoming emotionally invested in anyone. This was all before I read Elaine Aron's book, The Highly Sensitive Person and now everything that I was experiencing started to make sense to me.In today's episode, I had the honor to sit down with Dr. Ketam Hamdan, an Arab American licensed therapist and educator who is also the managing director of Annisa's mental health department, a non profit organization that works with Muslims in crisis.As an HSP herself, Dr. Ketam gives us an insight of what it means to navigate life when we may have high levels of sensory processing sensitivity and a strong reactivity to our surroundings. We also  delve into the positive and admirable aspects of being an HSP which includes being creative, the ability to cultivate  deep connections with others and our thirst for knowledge. This episode is recommended for anyone who may know an HSP or may be an HSP themselves. There is so much to cover in regards to growing up as an HSP,  overcoming the struggles of setting boundaries and how our spiritual journeys may differ from others. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Dr. Ketam Hamdan on Instagram:@brainhealthdocCheck out Dr. Ketam's site and educational videos here:www.brainhealthgrowth.com

    Cultural Constructs: Stigma of Being Single and Navigating Relationships Post Divorce

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2022 65:24


    How do you handle being pressured into a relationship you don't want and why does society stigmatize women who choose to be single?At times society tends to be outspoken  when it comes to seeing people engaging in different life choices and that includes being single. It seems as though, whatever cultural background you come from, being divorced and choosing single-hood can make those around  you scratch their heads a bit.In this episode, I sit down with Mai Abdeljaber, a first generation Palestinian-American writer, editor, content creator and media professional. She earned her degree in Communications, Media Studies and Psychology and is currently pursuing a Masters of Science in Psychology. The topic of divorce is no stranger to this podcast, but today's conversation will peel back a few more layers that are in dire need of attention. Mai and I each  delve into our own personal life journey post divorce and the unsolicited advice we've received from others, including strangers, about how to move forward. When strangers find out that Mai has chosen to be single for the last couple of years, their match making skills take center stage. So why is being single viewed as a shortcoming and why aren't we talking about the cultural constructs that are to blame at times when it comes to the demise of certain relationships?In this conversation, we discuss the impacts of divorce and how it can make you question everything you know about love and even yourself. We dive into the stark contrasts between the life choices we are making versus that of our parents and how it's not a marker of failure if our lives do not  mirror theirs. Most importantly we discuss the complexities of how men have been conditioned to view relationships,  the pressures that they face themselves and regardless, if you're single, married or divorced, this conversation touches on the various family dynamics and how they affect the way that  we navigate today's relationships.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Mai Abdeljaber on Instagram:@mai_abdelCheck out Mai's articles here:Click here

    Is God Angry w/ Me: The Journey of Surrender and Acceptance w/ Shakirah Sabira

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2022 47:22


    *Content Warning: this episode discusses topics such as pregnancy loss and miscarriage*How does one come to terms with any hardship in their life where you have to accept what is happening to you while it's happening to you?From time to time I am hit with the realization that sends a chill down my spine, that everything that has happened to me, not only affects me, but also affects so many others, even strangers whom i'll never meet. Every single thing that is written for us is just a piece of a puzzle that is larger than us and every hardship and life experience we go through connects each and every single one of us to one another. Today's special guest is Shakirah Sabira, founder of Barakah's Doula, and someone who wears many hats which includes being a midwife, womb healer, and meditation teacher to name a few. Through this conversation with Shakirah she takes us on a very intimate journey recalling a moment in her life that had changed her forever, that while a baby was growing inside of her, little did she know what she was truly preparing for. Shakira's story reminds us of our own moments in life where we had asked ourselves...is Allah angry with  me, am I not good enough and what did I do to deserve this?Subhnallah, how every woman carries with her a story that has changed her forever, and even though Shakira and I may have each been tested differently by our Creator, we have found commonalities in the process of surrendering and understanding that the pain we may be experiencing does not mean that Allah intends to hurt us.We are reminded not only that everything in this dunya is temporary, but that nothing is truly ours to keep - for even our own bodies are a loan from Allah. To every woman out there who has experienced a loss in the form of a  miscarriage, I am deeply sorry and I know that grief knows no timeline, and I pray that you are surrounded by loved ones who remind you to be gentle with yourself and that you are not alone. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Shakirah Sabira on Instagram:@shakirahsabiraCheck out Shakirah's services and workshops:Click hereFollow Barakah's Doula here:@barakahsdoula

    I'm Tired of Being the Strong One: Second Puberty, Past Lessons and Finding Yourself w/ Tahmina Begum

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2022 51:15


    "It's about time we address the 'second puberty' nobody warns us about."We are opening  Season 4 with the founder of Aram Newsletter, Tahmina Begum!Tahmina is a brilliant journalist, writer and editor - alongside her newsletter she has written many articles and one of them discussing the second puberty.She defines this as the necessary shedding of old skin. Not only are you now making choices for yourself but you are also redefining who you are. It's like a spiritual awakening and a rebirth all in one. How does one prepare for such a reckoning in life where you also find yourself questioning everything, such as your career, love life, and at times your spirituality!In this episode we also discuss the tug of war we have within ourselves when it comes to being the strong one and how it affects our relationships and even our love life! I can't help but wonder how our past lessons in life play a role in all of this? Tune in to find out!Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Tahmina Begum on Instagram:@tahminaxbegumSubscribe to Aram Newsletter:Click hereSecond Puberty Article:Read it Here

    Seeking vs Accepting: How Does Your Heart Feel These Days w/ Sara Luchetti

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 22, 2021 61:55


    Pablo Picasso once said that the first half of life is learning to be an adult, and the second half is learning to be a child.We can all agree that life has been an interesting ride these past few years. It has been extremely rough for some of us and for others it has given us the opportunity to finally come face to face with our fears, our worries and most importantly ourselves.Through our struggles, we found the love and support that we needed, through our darkest moments we have found the answers we were longing for, and on this spiritual journey we have found one another, a sisterhood like no other. But it's also ok if some of us still feel lost but if by chance this podcast has provided you a sense of clarity or community - then I am forever indebted to God for this simple reason.Today's special guest is a dear friend of mine - someone whom you have all met before - Sara Luchetti. She was this season's opener and it only felt right to have her close out the season, too. Subhanallah, how life always comes full circle.I simultaneously have all the words and no words to describe who Sara is - and if you ask her, she'll simply say, I'm human. But if i were to describe how she makes me feel - that's a whole other story. She is a sister for life, a kind and genuine soul and someone who has embraced me with the love that I needed. In today's episode we discuss how our heart feels these days  and what is it trying to tell us, especially since our emotions are the language and messengers of our hearts.Sara guides us through the concept of letting go of expectations and instead of drowning in what ifs, we instead swim in what is. How do we live a life of accepting instead of a life with balled up fists ready to fight any change or hardship  that comes our way. Recently I've shared how I've transitioned from traditional therapy to seeking Sara's services - which specifically focuses on heart work. I want to take a moment to say thank  you to our teachers, our therapists, our loved ones who have helped us on this journey, who have stood by our side through the most difficult of times and who have shown us how strong we truly are. This past week I had a very emotional and heart awakening session with Sara and it felt as if she was holding a mirror up to me - allowing me to face myself and see how much I have overcome and what is truly tugging at my heart.Lastly, thank you to every guest and every listener, every kind word and every piece of advice that was gifted to me. Like I said, words don't do our feelings any justice sometimes, so for now all I can say is - I will forever keep you all in my duas!Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Sara Luchetti on Instagram:@saraluchettiBook a session w/ Sara:www.saraluchetti.com

    Say Mashallah: Let's Talk About Evil Eye, Spirits and Removing Blockages w/ Jehan Mansy

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2021 72:09


    Listen, I'm not fully blaming evil eye here but how coincidental is it that anytime I post a selfie, the very next day I'm breaking out...so was it evil eye energy or was cleansing my face three times in a row not enough? We may never know…We have all most likely lost count of how many times we have heard these words being uttered - 'SAY MASHALLAH'. And so we quickly say it because it feels as though there is this five second rule that exists after complimenting someone and having to follow it up with saying “mashallah”  to avoid something bad from happening. I think we can all agree that this episode is long overdue but good things come to those who wait and for us it came in human form and her name is Jehan Mansy, today's special guest!Jehan is a spiritualist, a writer, healer and founder of the Ruqaya Box  and Ascension deck. In today's episode she is extending her expertise in regards to the unseen world. Call it divine timing but I was fortunate enough to have crossed paths with Jehan's work and without hesitation I reached out to her and let her know that this is a topic that is in dire need of attention and possible  myth busting.But before we dive head first, Jehan takes us on a journey of how and when she first discovered her healing abilities and how she came to terms with her purpose even though all of our lives we were told this was haram and to avoid talking about the unseen world. You may have at one point or another wondered if the hardships you're facing are a test from Allah or if it's from evil eye? So how does one tell the difference between the two and how can we protect ourselves if it is due to hassad or nazar being placed upon us?And what exactly is sleep paralysis and how do we navigate this dunya when we are sharing it with the unseen world. There is no denying that bad spirits exist which also means that curses are a real thing - and if you're like me you may be wondering how to avoid this at all costs.Like Jehan says:  you don't know who is rooting for your downfall or who is hiring someone to send you magic  and so in the episode notes I have included Jehan's online site that is filled with protection prayers and resources if you are in need of immediate relief and release from the harm you may be facing.Did I mention that we close this episode with Jehan letting me know if I do have a curse on me...Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Jehan Mansy on Instagram:@jehan.mansyProtection Prayers and Resources:www.jmansy.com

    Comedy and Relationship Talk: There's Nothing Funny About Relationship Struggles w/ MaisVault

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2021 45:50


    Who would have known that one of the worst things about adulting, would be relationship struggles?!As they say, first comes the butterflies, then comes the emotional trauma.Since, we are in the midst of dealing with seasonal depression, I had to bring on my girl Mai, from MaisVault, to cheer us up a bit!Before I give you the scoop on today's episode, Mai pulled the oldest Arab girl trick in the book - you know the one where people can't tell if we're single, or if we're in a 7-year relationship, or possibly getting engaged tomorrow night - who knows!Well, when recording this episode, Mai was as single as can be, or so I thought - this past week we found out Mai got engaged and the internet erupted with joy.A huge congrats to one of my favorite people and I am truly wishing Mai and her fiancé endless love and happiness inshallah! As for today's episode, we have a lot of important topics to  cover such as who is more famous, Mai or Mama Wafaa - who we have all come to know and love!And in this conversation, Mai takes us through her journey of becoming a viral sensation and how she continues to come up with relatable content that sends us all laughing. It's true when they say that laughter is the best form of medicine and I'm not alone when it comes to appreciating Mai for creating such hilarious skits that truly take a lot of effort behind the scenes.In this episode I may have flipped the script on Mai and asked her very juicy relationship questions from deal breakers to turn offs and what would she do if her date asked her to split the bill…Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Mai Abdelal on Instagram:@maisvault

    Doing Things for the Sake of Allah: Imagine Your Voice Being Known in the Heavens w/ Asmaa Hussein

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2021 51:18


    'Islam is meant to be practiced by human beings who are flawed and in pain, who struggle to succeed but sometimes fail, and who return to God after those failures.'These words were birthed from pain, on a journey of healing and understanding, words spoken by today's special guest, Asmaa Hussein.Lately, my duas have been accompanied by a tear soaked prayer mat. Moments of reflection where I unload every burden weighing heavy on my heart. Nights where I allow my heart to speak on my behalf and mornings where I wake up feeling a bit more lighter knowing that my Creator is the only Being that understands the wishes that lie beneath my tongue and the wounds my tears may still carry. In this timely episode, I had a very personal and intimate conversation with Asmaa regarding her most recent post that had gone viral where she had shared her relationship with her hijab. Asmaa is an author, blogger and  mother - just to name  a few of her successful endeavors. If you take one look at her writing, from her books to her online  posts, your heart would have no choice but to be enveloped with words that will deeply move you.I wanted to explore the notion of doing things for the sake of Allah and what that means to Asmaa in regards to her personal choice of wearing the hijab.We both discuss our experiences with making dua and the beauty that lies behind what Allah has planned for us even if at times we may not understand how or why certain things unfold. Asmaa shares with us the wisdom she has gathered from her experiences dealing with motherhood and widowhood.This conversation led us to the topic of the Hereafter and how we can navigate this dunya with this on our minds - knowing that one day we will exist in another realm.And so, Asmaa left me with these words that sent a chill down my spine:Imagine your voice being known in the heavens.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Asmaa Hussein on Instagram:@ruqayas.bookshelfCheck out Asmaa's bookstore  here:www.ruqayasbookshelf.com

    Honesty is the Best Policy: Haram Police, Halal Dating Woes and Having Strict Parents w/ Salma Hindy

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2021 56:39


    When it comes to relationships, are we entitled to the "carfax" of this potential partner? And if so, where can we get the honesty is the best policy when it comes to relationship warranties?Dear listeners, you're in for a treat because this episode is nothing short of hilarious even though we are unpacking loads of trauma.In today's episode, I sit down with Salma Hindy,  a biomedical engineer by day and accomplished comedian by night. And if you are familiar with who Salma is, then you know she brings a comedic twist to any conversation..Salma takes us back to her earlier childhood days which were void of music, going to the mall and basically anything a normal teenager was allowed to experience.If you grew up in a household with strict and conservative parents then you will most likely relate to Salma's crazy childhood stories.By default she also found herself as one of the elite members of the Haram Police. We talk about how her high school friendships were difficult to navigate because of her past judgmental ways. Fast forward to today - and the script has been flipped. Meaning that Salma is now facing scrutiny from this same group of people for her most recent personal choices. What does one do when your high school peers come out of the woodworks to give you a taste of your own medicine?I genuinely applaud Salma for her authenticity and her ability to not shy away from difficult conversations by being transparent about her experience with relationships, halal dating and how therapy has truly impacted her. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Salma Hindy on Instagram:@salma.hindyLearn more about Salma here:www.salmahindy.com

    God's Timing: How Much Do You Truly Trust in God's Plan and God's Pace w/ Melanie Elturk

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2021 67:25


    God's timing is never rushed by our impatience in this Dunya, for He is always in control of all plans and we are in control of the steps we take toward His plans.One quote that always lingers in my mind is:If your heart became closer to Allah as a result of something that has happened to you, it was the biggest blessing.You know, sometimes in moments of hardship we tend to feel as if God has forgotten us, but it's in these moments when we are truly reminded of Allah's mercy and His love for every one of His creations.Today's special guest, Melanie Elturk, CEO of Haute Hijab, said something that resonated deep within my heart, she said, just because you're far from Allah, does not mean that Allah is far from you.How often do we feel distant from God, reluctant to make dua, and the desire to be in the driver's seat of our life even in moments where we feel like we are being tested beyond belief?And so, I had the honor to sit down with Melanie to discuss how to better understand the concept of trusting God - like really trusting God.She is someone who hasn't had a shortage of hardships herself, from dealing with grief, loss and recently opening up about going through a divorce, I wanted to gain a better insight into how one can truly let go, and let God.In this episode we discuss why we are so keen on carrying the deep and emotional pain we have gone through rather than unpacking it once and for all, we talk about the stories our wounds carry and how therapy has been both eye and heart opening for the both of us. You know in life, we go through multiple rebirths, and more often than not our rebirth happens when we hit rock bottom and not because there is nowhere to go, but because we don't want to feel this way again.So how does one prepare for radical change? How do we learn to accept not only God's plans but also God's pace?Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Melanie Elturk/Haute Hijab on Instagram:@hautehijabCheck out Haute Hijab's site:Shop Here

    Eating Disorder: Struggles w/ Body Image, Mental Health and Faith

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2021 52:09


    *Trigger warning - this episode primarily focuses on eating disorders. If you feel the content discussed could be triggering, please either proceed with caution, or feel free to listen to any one of our previous episodes.*“My journey towards self love has always been a difficult one. Just when I think I have conquered it, years, sometimes months later, new cracks begin to show.” If these words sound a bit familiar to you that is because they were written by the poet Asma Elbadawi who also happens to be today's special guest. Asma's poems are known for their rawness and their unfiltered truth when it comes to covering subjects such as mental health, racism and many other personal life struggles. On this podcast we have covered ED before in our first season, but in sharing Asma's story today - you will realize that when it comes to being Muslim and having this specific struggle, there is no one experience. Adding the layer of being Muslim can make ED that much more difficult to face due to how little this is talked about in our community at times, how it can impact an individual's ability to practice their faith and how they can feel overwhelmed when Ramadan approaches. To express my deepest gratitude in having Asma share her story would truly be an understatement. This conversation can be difficult to have due to the fact that this is an ongoing fight for Asma and many others who are going through this. In this conversation - Asma discusses how society has played a role in how she views herself physically and how these feelings were internalized ever since she was a little girl. It's no surprise that society is obsessed with a woman's body image - but it's the harmful ways that some of us choose to cope with not feeling good enough that happens behind closed doors.Asma also shares that the idea of control or lack thereof  is another component as to why she experiences bouts with ED. And so she also shares with us her relationship with her faith, her family and herself through this process and how we can do better as a community when it comes to being there for our loved ones who may be struggling with ED as well.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Asma Elbadawi on Instagram:@asmaelbadawiPurchase Asma's poetry book here:BelongingsResource for ED Helpline:NEDA

    God's Plan: When Everything Begins to Fall Apart with Huda Alvi

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2021 55:42


    It's understood that Allah's plans are always greater than ours, but how strong is your trust in Him if after making dua, everything in your life begins to fall apart?Growing up you have probably heard the hadith which stated that “none shall enter the fire of Hell who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of Iman”, as well as, “none shall enter Paradise who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of pride.”And so you think to yourself, the size of a mustard seed is incredibly tiny - but what if this hadith wasn't just emphasizing its size, but also highlighting a specific characteristic?Did you know that one mustard seed can produce a tree-like plant that is a little over 6 feet tall. Imagine that - a tiny seed that has the ability to grow into something larger than life. What if this hadith used the seed as an example to show how having a tiny bit of faith can transform into complete reliance on Allah. After all, a grain of sand could have been used as an example, but sand doesn't have the ability to grow.  This seed reflects how faith can grow and become strong enough to overcome the most difficult of hardships. In today's episode, I sat down with Huda Alvi, founder of The Girls Trip, to discuss her journey of self discovery. Recently, Huda returned to social media after a year or so long hiatus - with her return came an update, one filled with affliction, tears, hope and an emphasis on extending compassion to others and sharing our truth. Within this conversation we touched upon how as women we sometimes fear what's on the other side of friendships + relationships - which is a journey of solitude that no one has truly prepared us for. Huda shares intimate details of her marriage falling apart and her road to self growth and acceptance of Allah's plans no matter how much we tend to resist them at first.I want to extend my deepest gratitude for Huda for being so vulnerable and sharing her story - her words and her journey have helped me immensely in terms of my own healing - and I hope the same for you, too. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Huda Alvi on Instagram:@hudaalvi

    Shame and Silence: The Dangers of Victim Blaming and Lack of Accountability w/ Eman Idil Bare

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2021 60:23


    In the words of Bell Hooks: We cannot dismantle a system as long as we engage in the collective denial about its impact on our lives.Protecting the vulnerable and the oppressed is a duty of ours in Islam, yet we have failed to stand firmly in the face of injustice, specifically abuse and the many forms that it comes in.In today's episode, special guest Eman Bare is choosing to courageously share her story by speaking up about the various accounts of abuse, harm and hyper sexualized rumors that have been spread about her.As a community I believe it's time that we go beyond the unfollow and block button when it comes to taking action against abusers. Why do we place the burden on the victim to share their story so publicly without the support of community leaders at times?Given the lack of accountability, we are creating loopholes for abusers to get away with what they have done which means that we are also inherently protecting these same abusers and instead dissecting and placing blame on the victim - sending a clear message that they are not safeguarded or to be believed by their community.In this conversation, we discuss how shame is used as a tool by the oppressor against victims and survivors of abuse, why it's important to publicly name abusers, the lack of accountability amongst our communities and the dangers of victim blaming.To anyone  who has ever endured such harm, may Allah protect you in the same manner that you are choosing to publicly share your story in order for others to not fall victim to these abusers. May you always be believed and supported in every capacity.Please pass on the following resources to your family and friends:1. Peaceful Families Project: focuses on preventing all types of abuse in Muslim families, specifically domestic violence.2.  HEART: provides Muslims with the resources, language and choice to nurture sexual health and confront sexual violence.3. FACE: stands for Facing Abuse in Community Environments, and they promote safer Muslim communities by holding religious and community leaders accountable for abuse.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Eman Bare on Instagram:@emanidil

    Spiritual Awakening: Who Am I and Why Am I Here?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2021 72:40


    What exactly is a spiritual awakening and why is it so painful?Have you ever found yourself wanting to take a break and crawl into a hole all by yourself but not knowing the reason why? Could it be that almost everything feels forced lately? Forced interactions, forced relationships and even forced conversations?I tend to believe that our mental breakdowns are truly spiritual breakthroughs. Someone once told me that if you're not speaking it, you're storing it and that can get pretty heavy.In today's episode, I sit down with Hanan Abdel-Khalek, the founder of Young Nevertiti, and somehow even though we live thousands of miles apart, we are always on the same wavelength.In our discussion we both exhibited the same painful experiences, the same desire for solitude and the unfortunate feeling like we are being consumed by things that are distancing us away from our Creator. We came to the conclusion that we were each going through a spiritual awakening.Hanan discusses what triggered her to embark on this journey and how social media at times can be used as an escape route from real life and how it's a tool that allows us to peer into the lives of our family, friends and even strangers. We converse about the internal struggles we have faced and how one can never be truly ready for the lessons written for us, but these hardships are required in order for us to grow into a new version of ourselves.It may be a terrifying feeling for you to finally give yourself permission to be yourself, but in this conversation you'll see that you are not alone on this journey and as painful as spiritual awakenings can be, they are such a gift to experience in this world.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Hanan Abdel-Khalek on Instagram:@hananithinkCheck out Young Nevertiti:www.youngnevertiti.com

    Career Talk: Resume Do's and Dont's, Salaries and Overcoming Rejection w/ Wardah Khalid

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2021 63:03


    I'm not sure what's worse : a rejection letter from the company I had just applied for or no reply at all.Did you know that job search depression is actually a thing? I was reading an article that mentioned how looking for a new job but having zero luck can truly be a bit demoralizing.I wonder if I can highlight my ability to stay standing after receiving 'x' amount of rejection letters as one of my skill sets on my resume - kidding of course.But on a serious note, we fail to realize that our emotional and mental health can be greatly impacted because our career is also an indication of who we are, it's a part of our personal identity.Personally, I didn't want to just find a job that pays my bills. Recently, I had released an episode with Alex Fox to discuss how to better align our purpose in life with our passions. Our conversation gave me so much more clarity on what I was seeking and it was the motivation that I needed to continue pursuing my job search.So, in today's episode I sit down with Wardah Khalid, a political analyst, activist and career coach, just to name a few of her notable positions, to discuss the topic of career coaching. I realized that I needed all of the help that I can get and I wanted to lend these same resources to anyone else out there searching for a new career, too!In this conversation, Wardah discusses resume do's and dont's, why cover letters are so important, how to not close the door in our own face and how to better advocate for ourselves in the interview process.So while you guys are tuning in, I'll be fixing up my resume...Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Wardah Khalid on Instagram:@wardahkhalid_Check out Wardah's website:www.wardahkhalid.com

    Finding our Life's Purpose and Using Our Gifts to Serve Allah feat Alex Fox

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2021 52:52


    Why is it that we stay put in positions that our minds and even our hearts want a way out of?It's no secret or miraculous discovery to know that we all have a purpose, but the most difficult part is finding out what our purpose is and how to better align it with our passions.Recently, I have found myself at a crossroads - one that many others have discovered along their own life's journey. The intersection of fulfilling our life's purpose and choosing the path that best fits with our intentions.This topic brings me back to the question of who am I? Who am I stripped of all of my labels? The label of being someone's sister, friend, daughter and etc?  I found myself dissecting this question and the reason why I hesitate in answering it for myself is simply out of fear.What I mean by this is that to understand who I am, I have to pave my own path. A path that no one else has ventured onto before.And so, in today's episode I sit down with Alex Fox, the founder of Origin of Mind, to discuss what it means to align our purpose in life with our passions. Alex is someone who I had the pleasure of crossing paths with on the Clubhouse app, where she has created two of the largest Muslim clubs, which gave us all a platform to foster discussions surrounding faith, relationships, women empowerment and so much more.Alex and I may not be experts on this topic, but we each come with our fair share of personal life experiences and hardship that we have overcome. A laundry list of obstacles that we have faced in our own career paths and so we believed it was necessary to have more dialogue surrounding the idea of setting our intentions, understanding the role that our hardships play in figuring out our purpose and so much more.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Alex Fox  on Instagram:@alalafoxFollow Origin of Mind on Instagram:@originofmind

    Muslim Representation in Media (or Lack Thereof) featuring Arij Mikati

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2021 52:52


    Raise your hand if you grew up believing that you wanted to be Jasmine from Aladdin only to realize that this movie was perpetuating orientalist stereotypes of the Middle East and Asia.Keep your hand raised if you are exhausted with the idea that being Muslim and being accepted by society are mutually exclusive.Don't you think it's time that we deserve more accurate portrayals of Muslims in media?If you've caught yourself holding your breath when you've seen a Muslim cross your television screens, you're not alone. You're silently hoping this Muslim character won't be portrayed as the villain, the terrorist or someone who is oppressed and needs to detach from their faith if they want to be accepted by others.Frankly, we are tired of these dangerous tropes and stereotypes that have been overdone for decades now."Let Muslims tell you who we are, rather than telling you what we're not by constantly playing defense."These are the words of Arij Mikati, today's special guest and someone whom I have been vocal about when it comes to how much I admire her and how many doors she has opened for herself and the rest of us as she continues to challenge these roadblocks and stereotypes.Recently, Riz Ahmed, with the help from Pillars Fund, USC Annenberg and the Ford Foundation have unveiled the Blueprint for Muslim Inclusion in Media and the Arts.Over 90% of films from 2017-2019 were missing Muslim characters, that's 181 out of 200 films that had no Muslim representation at all.In today's episode, Arij explains how the erasure of Muslim filmmakers behind and in front of the camera means that countless of stories go untold. She dives into what representation actually means and why it's so important. We discuss how the lack of positive and accurate portrayals of Muslims is directly linked to horrific and Islamophobic attacks on our Muslim communities and so much more.Arij and her peers are excited to announce what can be done to change the narrative and it all starts with the Muslim Visibility Challenge and the Pillars Artist Fellowship, just to name a few of the initiatives that are currently unfolding.Thank you once again to Arij, Pillars Fund, Riz Ahmed and the many others who are working tirelessly on this initiative. I am so incredibly honored to have Arij join us today to discuss the building blocks of a brighter future for Muslim creatives.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Arij Mikati  on Instagram:@arijmikatiFollow Pillars Fund on Instagram:@pillarsfundCheck out the Variety article here:Blueprint for Muslim Inclusion

    Arab Women: Carrying the Burden of Our Family's Honor feat. Alya Mooro

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2021 53:04


    Growing up, I can't tell you how many times I used to hear the words 3aib, haram or the most triggering of all: "What will people say." But in today's episode you're going to hear what Alya Mooro, my special guest, has to say about navigating the many facets of her identity as an Arab woman.It was just last year when I had picked up Alya's book, 'The Greater Freedom: Life as a Middle Eastern Woman Outside the Stereotypes', and I found myself devouring every word of hers. In her book, I had seen myself, my struggles, my identity crisis and the many obstacles I had faced trying to figure out who I truly am.As a first born and the daughter of immigrant parents, I've come to realize that my life path was already written for me by my parents, extended family and members of the community before I ever had a say in it.Navigating life as an Arab woman meant that I was responsible for carrying the burden of my family's honor on my shoulders. I was always paralyzed by the fear of making any wrong decisions that could jeopardize the reputation of my family name. I never understood why this huge responsibility was placed on us women and never on our male counterparts until Alya Mooro directly said this in her book:"Women hold the burden of their family's honor and that honor lies between their legs."It's this obsession and constant policing of women that dictates our every move. As an Egyptian born and London raised Arab woman, Alya shares the struggles she had faced and is still facing as she is trying to figure out who her authentic self truly is.In this episode we discuss how our identities can dictate how we behave, the East vs West mentality (haram vs halal), juggling different versions of ourselves, halal dating and how to deal with rejection in life.It's important to note that all of us still have our own unique experiences growing up as Arab, Muslim or as women in general, and the obstacles we faced as women isn't limited to only our Middle Eastern culture, these issues are also very prominent in Western societies.I hope that we can continue to have these conversations and for us to continue providing spaces to do so. We all have a voice and we all have the right to be heard.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Alya Mooro  on Instagram:@alyamooroTune into Alya's 'Talk of Shame' podcast here:Talk of ShamePurchase Alya's book here:The Greater Freedom: Life as a Middle Eastern Woman Outside the Stereotypes

    The Myth of Coexistence and the Right of Return feat. Lara aka Gazan Girl

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2021 64:45


    The unconditional support that the U.S. has for 'Israel' is unmatched but will we ever witness a breakup when it comes to this toxic relationship?Recently, the Palestinian Prisoners Affairs Commission has reported that since 1967, there have been approximately one million arrests of Palestinians by the IOF. More than 50,000 of these arrests are children. I would like to also add that a generous amount of these Palestinian prisoners died as a result of torture, medical negligence, and there are those who have been murdered by the IOF after they have been released from prison.In today's episode,  I sit down with Lara who is a Palestinian-American International lawyer and the cohost of the Palestine Pod which is a weekly podcast that breaks down the latest Palestine related news with the aim of supporting Palestinian liberation, justice and equality on the ground and in exile.In this discussion, Lara mentions how her friend Iyad Burnat was unable to record a podcast episode with her because the IOF raided his home and kidnapped his two sons. And when I say raided, I mean that the IOF destroyed everything in sight. While Lara and I were recording this episode, Iyad was unaware of the location of his children. But as of today there has been an update and unfortunately the discovery of his sons whereabouts should have brought him relief, but instead it brought on more heartache.This is because both of his sons are being held in one of the worst military prisons in the world and it's located in Jerusalem. This prison is infamous for its torture methods and it's purpose is to extract false confessions and place ludicrous charges against Palestinians.I hope that you can keep the Burnat family and every other Palestinian family in your prayers and most importantly try your best to amplify their stories and their voices.Just recently I had come across this following statement:'It is a miraculous feat of propaganda that an occupying army convinced so many that it is the victim of the people it is occupying.'Not only are the IOF terrorizing Palestinian families but they are also brutally attacking our journalists in order to further suppress the truth, while the world continues to turn a blind eye.In this discussion, Lara also covers the myth of coexistence, 'Israel's' blatant intentions to separate Palestinians from one another, the importance of using the correct terminology when it comes to what is unfolding in Palestine and 'Israel's' racist and discriminatory laws.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Lara  on Instagram:@gazangirlTune into the Palestine Pod here:Palestine Pod

    'We, the People, Have Become the Media' feat. Sumayya Tobah

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2021 54:52


    How does one lose their job for reporting the truth, yet their job description is to report the truth? Now that's a riddle that I can't seem to solve.By now, you may have heard of the open letter that was drafted by journalists urging Canadian newsrooms and editors to provide more nuanced coverage on Palestine and to also include Palestinian voices in regards to the recent attacks that have happened on Gaza, as well as the forced expulsion of the residents of Sheikh Jarrah and the ongoing ethnic cleansing.Growing up Muslim, I have always felt unsettled when I would watch the news on tv. It was always the same paintbrush followed by the same brush strokes, painting Muslims as the aggressors and terrorists.This same paintbrush is also used when it comes to what is happening in Palestine and to no surprise, Palestinians are continuously painted as the provokers and 'Israel' as the victim.How does the media get away with writing news articles that are not always factual and why is it that they can't say the word Palestine on air?In today's episode, I sit down with a friend of mine, Sumayya Tobah, who is a political producer in Washington D.C. She has also done work for AlJazeera English, ABC News, TRT World and is currently working for CBC.Sumayya's name was also one of the signatures on this open letter that I had just discussed. She shares with me the behind the scenes of newsrooms and the current response to this letter.I had so many questions for Sumayya in regards to why it's so difficult for media to accurately cover what is happening in Palestine. I wanted to know why Palestine couldn't be said on air by reporters and journalists alike, and her response was a bit heartbreaking.She also discusses the roadblocks her and her peers face when challenging editors to amplify Palestinian voices and their stories.But is it possible that we are also witnessing a slight shift in the narrative and if so, what can we do on our end to continue to pressure the media?Resistance comes in many different forms and covering the truth is one of them.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Sumayya Tobah on Instagram:@thisissumayyaRead the Open Letter here:Check this out

    The Liberation of Palestine from the River to the Sea w/ Nooran AlHamdan

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2021 70:41


    May we be the generation that gifts our grandparents with a free Palestine.Over 200 Palestinians, including 61 children, have been killed in Gaza since violence erupted just over a week ago during the end of Ramadan and at least 1,500 Palestinians have been wounded.By the time I release this episode, please take into account that these numbers may change drastically.I can't help but to reiterate that the ethnic cleansing of Palestinians has never stopped. It has been on a continuum for decades now and for the first time the world is coming together as a unifying force to call out the oppressors and to put an end to the genocide of Palestinians at the hands of Israel.The media has attempted to vilify the Palestinians by painting a picture as if it’s Israel against Hamas, or Israel vs  Gaza and the best one yet, Jews vs Muslims and the foundation of all of these news stories is that Israel is just  trying to defend itself.This couldn't be further from the truth and so, we the people have become the truth tellers, using social media to amplify what is truly taking place in our beloved homeland of Palestine.It’s our slingshots and our rocks against their military weapons. Yet, they say that we are the troublemakers and they, the Zionists, are the peacemakers.And as a reminder these weapons are funded and backed by the US. Just recently, Biden has approved a 735 million dollar weapons sale to Israel. The same USA that sends 3.8 billion dollars annually to fund the ethnic cleansing of Palestinians.Ever since we were old enough to read and write, we have known about the plight of our people. It’s having to continuously reaffirm our identity, it’s witnessing someone tell you to your face, why can’t you guys just get along? It’s the deafening silence that has become the advantageous weapon of the Zionists.In today’s episode I had the privilege of sitting down with Nooran Alhamdan, someone whom I have always viewed as a powerful voice in the Palestinian movement. She explains to us the significance of Sheikh Jarrah, why Gaza is the scapegoat of Israel, how Zionism came about and how to refute their claims made against those who are for the liberation and freedom of Palestinians. I highly encourage that you support the work of Nooran and to share this discussion with family and friends who are seeking additional resources to better understand the plight of the Palestinian people.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Nooran Alhamdan on Twitter:@nooranhamdanCheck out the Podcast Episode Nooran mentioned:CHAPOTRAPHOUSE: Focus on Palestine feat.Mohammad Alsaafin

    A Conversation w/ Alana Hadid: My Palestinian Identity, Philanthropy and Becoming an Entrepreneur

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2021 49:13


    In today’s episode, I sit down with Alana Hadid, one of the many gems of our Palestinian community and her family is just as admirable as her. Recently, we have seen Alana and her sisters, including Bella come out full force and show their love for their people and their identity, from raising awareness to attending protests.In today’s discussion, Alana and I had sat down to discuss our Palestinian identity and what role it has played in who we have become today. We also discussed her business, La Detresse and how one can bring their dreams into reality. We also spoke of the people in our lives who influence us the most and how critical it is to surround ourselves with the right people. This episode was recorded before the recent events that have taken place, but I hope that you enjoy hearing Alana speak so passionately about Palestine and her roots.Once again, thank you to the Hadid family, for their resilience, their support and their endless love for their people.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Halima Jama on Instagram:@lanzybear

    Is God on Your Invite List: How to Make Sense of Our Hardships w/ Halima Jama

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2021 49:13


    Sometimes Allah (swt) wants a certain level of Jannah for someone and when their good deeds alone can't get them there, He gives them hardship.These are such powerful words that I was fortunate enough to come across in a moment of need.  In today's episode, I sit down with Halima Jama to discuss how we can better focus our lens on the blessings threaded within our hardships, how we can include Allah in every aspect of our lives and how to trust the next chapter we are embarking on because Allah is the author.Some silver linings can be much more difficult to find than others, but there is always goodness and khair in everything that we endure. Subhanallah, how Allah grants us the strength to face the most difficult of hardships in this dunya.In this life, you will have moments where your face hurts from smiling too much, moments where your eyes can't shed anymore tears, tireless nights where you find yourself surrounded by darkness, moments that are memorable and others that you try your hardest to erase.You will meet people who will love you deeply and others who will hurt you and may leave a scar behind, but through all of this, you will find that silver lining.Know that through all of these moments, Allah is right there with you. So, ask for His guidance, pray for better days, soften your heart and open your eyes to the beauty in this dunya and the rewards of Allah's mercy.As always, be gentle with one another. Most of us are going through something that we are choosing to only keep between us and our Creator. I only pray that Allah showers you with ease and patience.I intentionally chose to keep this conversation as the last discussion of Ramadan. Halima Jama is someone who you will find yourself indebted to Allah for allowing you to cross paths with her. Her words always touch me and leave an imprint on my heart for more reasons than one.She is a well known wedding photographer in Toronto, Canada and a Muslim woman everyone should know. She showers us with her beautiful duas that are accompanied with her contagious smile.And in this episode we dive into the notion of cultivating a strong bond with Allah and focusing our lens, no pun intended, on the many ways Allah has chosen to provide us with rizk, mercy and blessings we could have never imagined for ourselves.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Halima Jama on Instagram:@halimajamaFollow Tawheed Community Centre here:@tawheedcommunitycentreBook Halima for your next Photoshoot here:www.halimajama.com

    Loss and Grief: What Has Death Taught Us w/ Chaplain Sondos Kholaki

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2021 86:08


    We say that if we knew our expiration dates, we would live life differently. Yet, it's written that tomorrow is not guaranteed and we still go on living our lives no differently.In today's episode, I sit down with Sondos Kholaki, who is a Muslim Chaplain and author, to discuss a topic most of us intentionally avoid and that is Death. But, what if we chose to view death as a gift? What if we realized that there is so much more to learn from loss and grief?In this discussion we come face to face with our own mortality and the art of grieving.Death, loss and grief are some of the things we struggle with navigating. It can be a journey filled with a rollercoaster ride of emotions and one that we may never know how to proceed without a generous amount of caution.We realize that losing a loved one is a reality check that we were never prepared for and grief becomes a part of us, something that we will never be able to escape. It's truly a wake up call when you realize that death is written for every one of us. But why is it that we avoid talking about it? What do we truly fear when it comes to this concept? Is it the fact that we will one day leave our loved ones behind or is it that we fear we are not fulfilling our soul's purpose?I want to thank Chaplain Sondos Kholaki for taking the time to share with us what it means to be a Chaplain and what death has personally taught her. We dive into the process of grieving and the many forms it takes on.  This is a discussion that Sondos beautifully leads with compassion and understanding.  She teaches us to not fear death but to embrace this reality and to not become overwhelmed when we find ourselves at the intersection of joy and grief, and life and death.I would like to also take a moment to give my condolences to the family of Chaplain Sohaib Sultan, who was Princeton's first Muslim Chaplain and Sondos's first mentor. He is someone who has led a life of inspiration, compassion, kindness and so much more. May Allah grant him the highest of heavens inshallah.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Ch. Sondos Kholaki on Instagram:@by_the penPurchase 'Musings of a Muslim Chaplain' here:Musings of a Muslim Chaplain

    Conversation w/ A. Helwa: Reflections on Secrets of Divine Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2021 75:01


    No gift is greater than having a Creator who listens to you even when you don't speak. Who forgives your sins even when you don't feel worthy of His mercy. And who always guides us back no matter how far we have been led astray.In today's episode, you'll be listening to a recording of a Clubhouse Chatroom that Alex Fox and I had hosted back in March with our special guest, A. Helwa, the author of 'Secrets of Divine Love'.We were all enveloped by the poetic words of Helwa and the room was filled with the love for our Creator and a deep appreciation for our connection to Helwa's writing. I've had the pleasure of having her on my podcast at the beginning of this season, but it was truly a gift to share another space with her on Clubhouse and this time we had audience members ask her their own personal questions. We discussed the concept of Allah's door always being open, how He is the only Being that knows us in our entirety and the beauty in experiencing God's words through our actions and daily life. We will forever be indebted to Helwa and her ability to make us fall in love with Allah all over again.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow A. Helwa on Instagram:@quranquotesdailyPurchase Secrets of Divine Love here:Secrets of Divine Love

    Delaying Our Blessings: Is There A Link Between Our Sins and Hardships w/ Sister Hosai Mojaddidi

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 13, 2021 52:09


    Is it possible that we can be doing something to block or delay our blessings in this world?In today's episode, I am grateful for the chance to re-introduce you to one of my absolute favorite spiritual counselors and that is Sister Hosai Mojaddidi! She is a public speaker, teacher, writer, mentor and mental health advocate, too!Do you ever find yourself questioning if your hardships are a result of the sins you may be committing? If these hardships are a punishment that we have to face because of what we have done? In this conversation we explore the possibility of a link between our sins, trials and blessings.In this discussion, Hosai beautifully delves into these questions as well as our relationship with Allah. She explains how it's a rahma to be tested and to be cleansed of our sins through these very same tribulations.I once read that sometimes Allah swt wants a certain level of Jannah for someone, and when their good deeds alone can't get them there, He gives them hardship.And sometimes hardships also come in the form of a closed door, but if you look a little bit more closely you would realize that it's truly an open door. A redirection that was protection written for you by Allah because who knows what harmful situation was lying behind that closed door.We also cover the concept of having a close relationship with Allah, not only publicly but privately, and how it's important that we do not take advantage of Allah's forgiveness and mercy, but rather how can we be more sincere and intentional in everything that we do daily.May Allah reward Sister Hosai for giving us a better understanding of our faith and for leading such fruitful conversations. May you all have a blessed Ramadan inshallah.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Sister Hosai Mojaddidi on Instagram:@hosaimojoCheck out Sister Hosai's Website:www.hosaimojaddidi.com

    Empowered vs Tolerated: Reclaiming Our Space and Creating Roles for Muslim Women w/ Ustadha Maryam Amir

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 6, 2021 67:14


    If I had asked you to name three female companions of the Prophet (pbuh) on the spot, would you be able to?This is a question that I had struggled with answering before having this discussion, yet ironically there isn't a shortage of female companions from our Prophet's (pbuh) time, nor a shortage in female scholars in today's society. But why is it that I am struggling with naming these powerful and admirable women?In today's episode, I sit down with Ustadha Maryam Amir, an illuminating light in our Muslim community, and not only does she hold a Master's degree in education, a Bachelor's in Islamic Studies, among some of her countless accomplishments, but she also holds a second degree black belt in Taekwondo! If I may add, this conversation is just as powerful as her reverse right kick and left hook!I can't help but to revel in the fact that Muslim women are participating and excelling in every sector in today's society despite the barriers that they may be facing. We are a force to be reckoned with, and that even though we have suffered from discrimination, misogyny and other forms of trauma, we still continue to be steadfast in our faith.I am continuously left in awe and empowered when hearing Sister Maryam speak in social gatherings. She is someone who has personally taught me so much and in today's discussion, she touches upon a woman's access in Islamic spaces, how unfortunately at times it can be restricted due to the fear of fitna. How some policies that are created with our community spaces can truly be harmful and she also touches upon the roles of women in our Prophet's (pbuh) time. The warrior women who were in battle - something I truly never knew myself!This conversation sheds light on how society needs to make women feel welcomed rather than tolerated in whatever space they find themselves in. Like Sister Maryam mentions: our faith didn't come about to mute our personalities, rather it was meant to enhance each and every one of us.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Ustadha Maryam Amir on Instagram:@themaryamamirConversations on Women and Religious Text:Ustadha Maryam's Course

    Islamic Mahr Contracts: Why Mahr is a Muslim Woman's Right w/ Dr. Tamara Gray

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2021 57:20


    The topic of Mahr at times can be so nerve racking when discussed between potential spouses. Questions such as 'how much one should ask for' and 'if there's a limit for the amount requested' are at the top of everyone's list. Often times, we can be so quick in discussing the details of the wedding hall and guest list, but do we also make it a priority to reserve the time for serious discussions such as financial compatibility, especially when it comes to Mahr?Western media likes to portray it as a dowry or bride price and the last thing women want is for a man to place a price tag on her at his own discretion. But what if I told you that dowry and Mahr are completely different?In today's episode, I sit down with Dr. Tamara Gray, a household name in most Muslim communities, because of her constant support and mentorship of hundreds of women around the world. Her organization, Rabata, is dedicated to promoting positive cultural change through creative educational experiences. Dr. Gray defines what Mahr is and its origin within the Islamic context. She also provides valuable insight on how to gauge what and how much to request and what to do with our Mahr. Of course, as much as we hope a marriage can last between spouses, there is the possibility of it ending in divorce. Dr. Gray also briefly advises on how Mahr should be handled from that point, too.I want to thank Dr. Gray for lending herself as a resource and for empowering women when it comes to the topic of financial security and how one should invest their assets. We need more of these conversations and inshallah we can continue having them.Be on the lookout for a future episode that will be released in regards to prenups from a Western standpoint.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Dr. Tamara Gray on Instagram:@tamaralgrayCheck out the Rabata organization:RABATACheck out DayBreak Press for Islamic Books for Ramadan:DayBreak PressPurchase a Copy of Project Lina:Project Lina

    Balancing Act: The Pressures of Being a Perfect Daughter and Pleasing Our Parents w/ Dr. Rania Awaad

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2021 52:17


    Have you ever played a game of tug of war, but with your parents, and it wasn't a game, but actually with your life?The tug of war I'm talking about is the one where what your parents want for you doesn't necessarily align with what you want for yourself.  We've all been there, the shouting matches that end up with you and your parents not agreeing on certain life choices of yours.In today's episode I had the pleasure and honor of sitting down with Dr. Rania Awaad, someone who is truly a pinnacle in our community, to discuss our relationships and boundaries, or lack thereof with our parents and how we can find compassion and empathy in the midst of our disagreements.The love language of immigrant parents is truly like no other. Yet, it doesn't negate the existence of the balancing act of trying to do things that make us happy vs what makes our parents happy. I asked Dr. Rania how do we reach a point where we can compromise rather than sacrifice our life choices when wanting to please our parents. I also shared with her the weight I had carried of wanting to be a perfect daughter in every aspect and managing the struggle of wanting to be treated like an adult, yet our parents sometimes refuse to see us as such, even until the point of when we are married and have our own family.I do want to mention that this conversation centers around parental relationships that DO NOT involve trauma/abuse. I do believe a separate conversation needs to be had when a relationship reaches such a severe level of toxicity and it is never ok to force anyone to remain in such harmful situations, even if it's your own parents.I do hope that today's conversation provides you with more clarity on how to navigate these balancing acts and the pressures of living a life that has been pre-planned for you in a way. As mentioned in other episodes, boundaries are key, and so in this episode we also discuss how to set boundaries with our parents from an Islamic perspective.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Dr. Rania Awaad on Instagram:@dr.raniaawaadFollow the Stanford Medicine Mental Health Lab:@stanfordmmhlCheck out the Rahmah Foundation:@therahmahfoundationMuslim Mental Health Resources/ The Khalil Center:Click here

    Heartbreak: Not Everything That You Lose is a Loss w/ Najwa Zebian

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2021 65:53


    "These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb."Beautiful words from one of my absolute favorite poems written by Najwa Zebian who is today's special guest on the pod. Heartbreak and pain are sometimes inevitable, so how do we grieve relationships that end, how do we process loss that comes with a broken heart and most importantly how do learn to trust ourselves again?Najwa Zebian, a Lebanese-Canadian activist, poet, educator and speaker is the author of three poetry books and her fourth book is on its way to be released this summer! In today's episode we delve into the topic of heartbreak, pain and loss. Three things that we have all experienced at one point or another in our lives.In previous episodes we have talked about the importance of staying single until we are comfortable with being single and on the opposite spectrum we have discussed heavy topics such as abuse. I think it's now time to talk about experiencing heartbreak and the all too familiar feeling of being swallowed up by pain.I asked Najwa, why is it so hard to walk away from someone that you know isn't good for you? Why do we choose to not believe that a better love exists out there?At times we can be so mystified by the words of someone, the same someone who can easily walk out on us without a goodbye. How do we stop ourselves from thinking that if we love them harder, they'll finally love us right back? Why do we try to salvage the pieces of a broken relationship rather than save ourselves?Najwa beautifully explains the art of building a home within us rather than finding it in others. She takes us on a journey of explaining heartache and how we can grow from the hurt and on the way we can learn to protect ourselves without necessarily building a cage around us.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Najwa Zebian on Instagram:@najwazebianListen to Najwa's Podcast here:Stories of the SoulPre-Order Najwa's New Book here:Welcome Home

    Singles Edition: Destigmatizing Being Single and Navigating Mixed Signals w/ Hafsa Hassan

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2021 71:07


    If you're single, it shouldn't only mean that you're not dating. There's more to you than your relationship status.Often times we witness a woman's value being tied to her relationship status. So what message are we sending to those who are single or unmarried? What happened to the belief of trusting in God's timing?In this episode I sit down with Hafsa Hassan, a transformational coach with a holistic approach, to discuss the stigma surrounding single women, the difference between settling and manifesting the right partner and how to gauge sexual compatibility before marriage.We often rush into the next phase of our lives without truly enjoying where we are now. For the most part, we are at the right place and right time in our lives.There's a reason why certain things unfold for us and why other things are put on hold for us.I get it, it's not easy blocking out the extra white noise and the unsolicited opinions of others.Don't get me started on the halal dating scene but for the sake of this episode topic, we might as well discuss it.I think it's time for us women to navigate it with the confidence and belief that we are the prize and to not lower our standards just because society thinks we are asking for too much.In this episode, Hafsa does an incredible job with covering the base line and foundation every relationship should come with. But the most important point we covered is finding out who we are at our core, stripped away from the identity of being someone's daughter, wife, sister or mother. I just want to say this once more, your worth does not lie in the relationships you do or don't have at the moment.Don't forget that naseeb also includes yourself and what Allah has written for you to experience before ever being someone's partner.Stay single, until you're comfortable with being single. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Coach Hafsa Hassan on Instagram:@coachhafsahassanJoin the Meditation and Manifestation Challenge:MindBodySol Institute

    Healing From Abuse: Narcissists, Red Flags and Self Forgiveness w/ Doctor Nahla

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2021 68:12


    In the words of Lydia Elle: You have to be heard to heal.Trigger Warning: When discussing narcissists, it tends to go hand in hand with the topic of abuse. Within this discussion we cover traits of a narcissistic partner while also touching upon the various forms of abuse.In today's episode, I sit down with Doctor Nahla, where we both share our personal experiences with abusive relationships, what reactive abuse entails and the burden survivors carry with them long after they have left their abusive partners.Someone once said, trauma teaches you to close your heart and build a cage around it, while healing teaches you to open your heart and set boundaries.In this conversation, Nahla made me feel safe enough to share the trauma that I've endured in my past. I also want to thank her for sharing her own story and allowing us to learn from the abuse and betrayal she had to overcome herself.Abuse is abuse, no matter what form it comes in. The red flags were always there, the monster was always present, just disguised.I've personally struggled with my healing journey because there are times where I have my good days and I'm appreciative of what I've overcome, but then there are days where I'm overcome with hurt and I'm so unforgiving of myself for letting certain things happen to me. Thankfully, in this conversation we also touch upon self forgiveness. For survivors, this is a concept we often struggle with, but we need to forgive ourselves for staying in the relationship longer than we should have, for holding onto the past, for blaming and judging ourselves.Truly hope that this episode empowers you to choose yourself, to inshallah remove yourself from any harmful situation and for you to know that you have sisters here for you.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Doctor Nahla on Instagram:@imdoctornahlaImportant Resources!1. PEACEFUL FAMILIES PROJECT: WWW.PEACEFULFAMILIES.ORGA national organization devoted to preventing domestic violence with a focus on Muslim families of all backgrounds, through education and interventions. 2. THE ASIAN PACIFIC INSTITUTE ON GENDER BASED VIOLENCE: WWW.API-GBV.ORG A resource center for sexual violence and other forms of gender-based violence in Asian communities. They provide training and technical assistance with the help of advocates, community based service programs and both legal and mental health professionals. 3. PROJECT SAKINAH: WWW.PROJECTSAKINAH.ORG A program that assists with community efforts to grow healthy families that protect women, children and men from neglect and homes broken by violence. 4. KHALIL CENTER: WWW.KHALILCENTER.COM A spiritual wellness center which applies the traditional Islamic spiritual healing methods to modern clinical psychology. Services include: religious consultations, immigration evaluations and premarital coaching. They also have a crisis hotline: 855 543 57525. TAHIRIH JUSTICE CENTER: WWW.TAHIRIH.ORG Their mission is to protect immigrant women and girls who refuse to be victims of abuse by elevating their voices within the community, courts and Congress. They also provide free immigration, family and civil legal services, and they help their clients rebuild their lives, safely.

    Intimacy in Islam: Haram vs Halal, Navigating Sexual Desires and the Power of No w/ Noha Alshugairi

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2021 58:53


    The topic of intimacy in Islam is a conversation that may at times come laced with shame and stigma. In today's episode, I sit down with Noha Alshugairi, to dismantle the misinformation surrounding this while also educating women about their rights, the power of no in a marriage and diving deeper into what is haram vs halal.I often wonder how we deviated so much from the days of our Prophet (pbuh) when it comes to seeking knowledge and empowering ourselves in terms of intimacy in Islam. How have we allowed a wall of shame to be built around this very discussion, while also allowing it to become halal overnight when someone gets married?Often times, we avoid discussing the topic of sex and intimacy due to cultural ills, but this is truly a disservice to our ummah as well as Islam, which empowers women as a whole.I am excited to be joined by Noha Alshugairi, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist, who will help us answer the many questions we all have, especially the ones we may be too shy or embarrassed to ask.Moving past the birds and the bees talk, I wanted to finally understand the rights we have in Islam when it comes to being emotionally and physically intimate with our significant other.Some of the topics Noha addresses are the differences in sexual desires between partners, what is deemed to be absolutely haram and what comes with a difference in opinion, lack of sexual compatibility and physical intimacy between couples, as well as bleeding on the first night and the pressure placed on couples to consummate their marriage right away. We cover this and so much more and I can't thank Noha enough for being a resource in this sometimes uncomfortable but necessary conversation.I do want to mention that this is a very mature conversation, so please do navigate this as you see fit when it comes to your children who may be listening alongside you.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Noha Alshugairi on Instagram:@nohaalshugairiCheck out Noha's website here for more resources:Sakina Counseling

    Setting Boundaries: Communicating Expectations While Navigating Resentment and Anger w/ Yasmine Cheyenne

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2021 49:27


    Have you ever loved and resented someone at the same time and is it healthy? In Episode 3 of Season 3, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Yasmine Cheyenne, a self healing expert, teacher and speaker, to discuss how to set boundaries rather than having uncommunicated expectations, how to navigate past trauma that has transformed itself into present resentment and knowing the difference of what is and what isn't meant to be yours.Some of us struggle with the act of setting and enforcing boundaries in our lives in order to have healthier relationships with those whom we love. Some of us have only experienced independence later on in life and unfortunately it came with no guidance. So how does one truly set boundaries if we have struggled with finally having agency over our choices and even our own voices?I stumbled upon Yasmine's insightful posts a few years ago and I couldn't help but feel a sense of validation and with it came a huge sigh of relief. Finally, someone understands what I have experienced and to see it being put into words was truly gratifying to say at the very least. In this episode, I open up to Yasmine about the struggles I have with setting boundaries for myself which at times can come with anxiety and guilt, because for the longest I didn't have a clear understanding of what boundaries truly are. It's always been a struggle of mine to express my needs to my loved ones without feeling like I am pushing them out or punishing them, yet this is the complete opposite of what the purpose of a boundary truly is.We also discussed how 'healing is an educational endeavor with no graduation', why we resort to anger and how we can better communicate our boundaries, what to do with the feeling of resentment towards those whom we love the most and how to find our purpose.I truly hope you walk away from this episode with a better understanding of how to advocate for yourself while also understanding you are worthy of being loved and respected. Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Yasmine Cheyenne on Instagram:@yasminecheyenneCheck out Yasmine's website here:https://yasminecheyenne.comCheck out Yasmine's Podcast:The Sugar Jar Huge thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode. Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here:www.Podcorn.com

    Secrets of Divine Love: The Purpose of Our Existence

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2021 68:47


    "We do not worship God because God needs it, we worship God because we need it. Prayer is not you reaching out for God, it is you responding to God, Who first reached out to you."In Episode 2 of Season 3, I have the pleasure and honor of sitting down with A. Helwa, the award winning author of Secrets of Divine Love. It's not everyday that you come across a book, other than the Quran itself, that can speak to you in such a profound manner. Her novel is filled with insightful gems and metaphors that allow us to reconnect to our faith in such a personal manner.In this intimate conversation, Helwa delves into the subject of how we were not created to find God, rather we are to remember and to return to the relationship we already had with God. Much like the book, in this discussion we go on a journey searching for truth and meaning. We talk about the concept of Allah's door always being opened and how if only we realized that all we have to do is just walk through it. Helwa discusses why we are so quick to put our trust in Allah's creations, yet hesitant in putting our trust in Him, the same Creator who owes us nothing, yet breathes life into us every single day. She also beautifully explains how the Quran not only teaches us how to experience God but how to interact with God. I truly hope this episode gifts you with the clarity you are searching for on your spiritual journey. Secrets of Divine Love is a book I highly recommend for everyone to read no matter where you are on your path to rediscovering your connection to God.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow A. Helwa on Instagram:@quranquotesdailyPurchase Secrets of Divine Love here:Secrets of Divine LoveHuge thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode. Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here:www.Podcorn.com

    Journey Back to Self: Recalibrating Our Souls and Resetting Our Intentions

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2021 58:27


    Have you ever taken an honest moment to look at the life you have created only to realize it wasn’t your own?I am opening the new season as well as the New Year with Sara Luchetti, an intuitive healer and spiritual guide. The above question is one that Sara has posed and I couldn't help but to really dig deep into my own heart and soul to fully understand, who am I really?In Episode 1 of Season 3, Sara takes us on her personal journey of her transformational process, or as she would like to call it - her rebirth. We dive deep into what our purpose is in this temporary world, who we are at our core and how do we remain patient with ourselves while we are on this personal life journey.How do we reach the point where we can finally let go of the things (and sometimes the people) that no longer serve us? Are we capable of finally reaching the point of believing we are more than what we see and can we overcome our limiting beliefs? We also discuss the concept of relationships and how to not allow the perception of others to control us while also understanding that every person we cross paths with is, in essence, a version of ourselves.This conversation will also bring us to the realization that we must embrace our darkness in order to experience happiness. But how does one define happiness and is this something we need to continuously chase after?I hope that whatever part of your life journey you are on - that you find this conversation to be enlightening and one that motivates you to strengthen your relationship with your self. Follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Sara Luchetti on Instagram:@saraluchettiCheck out Sara's site for more info:https://www.saraluchetti.com/meetsara

    Season Finale: Here's to Bittersweet Endings and New Beginnings

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2020 45:06


    Pinch us...no really, please do, because we can't believe we are closing out another season of this podcast.In our Season 2 finale, we can't help but to tear up and laugh simultaneously at the year we have just had. 2020 was a year of reckoning but it was the year that pushed us beyond what we could have ever imagined for ourselves and for this platform.This podcast was birthed via a DM thread between Zaina and Dounya, both sharing their desire to create a platform for the stories that needed to be heard. Stories of women from all walks of life, triumphs and hardships, interlaced with silver linings and a few technical difficulties (technology will always be our worst enemy lol).But here we are, two seasons later, over 260K downloads and an unbreakable digital sisterhood. In this episode, we share what we have learned thus far, the fears we have overcome, the power that lies within believing in yourself, how we have dealt with loss and trying our best to grow and thrive throughout it all. How does one properly thank a community of women who have supported us since day one? How do we extend our gratitude to a sisterhood that has uplifted, motivated and continuously pushed us to keep going? At this moment, we don't know how to truly express our infinite love for our guests and listeners, but we want you to know how much you have impacted us in such immeasurable ways.We truly hope to continue this journey with you all, but we have to share a bittersweet truth in this episode - please tune in all the way to the end. Just know that we will always be indebted to you all, and we truly hope this platform has brought you joy and the feeling of belonging to a sisterhood that can withstand anything. Enjoy and remember to check us out on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfiltered

    Why Do We Marry Our Unfinished Business with Zahra Aljabri

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2020 65:16


    How do we go from relationship struggles to relationship goals?In Episode 37 of Season 2, we sit down with Zahra Aljabri to discuss what it means to marry our unfinished business, how we can overcome the pain points of our current relationship and how to deal with insecurities from our past. Zahra is a spiritual coach who will help guide us when it comes to the obstacles we face in our relationships. She breaks it down for us when it comes to dealing with past issues manifesting themselves into our current relationships. We also discuss how to deal with our partner's insecurities, especially when they feel entitled to our social media passwords, for example.So, where do we go from here?Almost every solution lies in having brutally honest conversations with our significant other especially when it comes to what each of us may be lacking. We hope this episode provides you with clarity, regardless if you're single, engaged or have been married for ten plus years. Every relationship comes with its struggles, so why not have the necessary tools to overcome them?Enjoy and remember to follow us on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Zahra on Instagram:@zforzahraFollow Practical Muslim on Instagram:@practicalmuslimCheck out Zahra's Website for more Resources:Zahra's site

    Growing Up Sheltered and Dealing with Codependency in Adulthood w/ Zaynab Bajwa

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2020 52:07


    Most of us have a story or two....ok maybe a whole book series...about how we grew up sheltered. In Episode 36 of Season 2, we sit down with Zaynab Bajwa to discuss the topic of growing up sheltered and if it leads to codependency. For some of us this could be a triggering topic, seeing that it brings back memories of every time our parents basically said no to anything without a valid explanation.We've all done it - where we found ourselves standing in front of a mirror practicing our speech to give our parents so that we can convince them to be able to go to the mall with our friends...without adult chaperones, of course. This speech could have won us an Emmy, yet it was received with a flat no from our parents. We can all go on and on about these stories to prove how sheltered we were but now that we are navigating life as adults, we can't help but to wonder if our upbringing had any long term effects on us.Zaynab, who is now a mother herself, chats with us about the topic of codependency and how she is choosing to raise her son. Our discussion includes how we each faced the real world after leaving our parents nest, if sheltered children grow into sheltered adults and how can we have more compassion towards our parents for doing the best that they could do at that time.Enjoy and remember to follow us on Instagram: @unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Zaynab on Instagram:@thenewyorknest

    The Resilient Act of Loving Oneself Through Our Journey Back to God w/ Alia Taha

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2020 54:01


    If I asked you, do you love yourself, what would you say?In Episode 35 of Season 2, we sit down with Alia Taha, who isn't a stranger to our podcast (she was a guest on Season 1), to discuss the root of self love and the resilient act of choosing to love ourselves despite our flaws, traumas and lived experiences.When you sit across from Alia, you know you will always leave the conversation feeling empowered, motivated and loved. Alia is the type of friend who beautifully reminds you of Allah and His mercy. In this raw conversation, she also reminds us that we are worthy of loving ourselves even in our darkest moments and that God has intended to create us perfectly imperfect.We are constantly searching for self love in all of the wrong places and we are chasing validation from Allah's creation rather than the Creator Himself. True self love is the ability to see ourselves through the eyes of Allah.And in today's episode, we will be connecting the dots between the ability to love ourselves and how it relates back to our journey with God.Enjoy and remember to follow us on Instagram: @unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Alia Taha on Instagram:@aliataha_

    Skincare Journey: How to Deal w/ Acne Breakouts and Avoiding Common Skincare Mistakes w/ Dr. Fatima Fahs

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2020 60:08


    If you've ever experienced anxiety walking down the skincare aisle of your local drugstore, trust me when we say this, you're not alone!In Ep 34 of Season 2, we sit down with Dr. Fatima Fahs, aka Dermy Doctor, to discuss all things related to skincare. Most of us may have a love/hate relationship with our skincare routine and in this episode we dive deep into the do's and dont's when it comes to how to take care of our skin!Did you know that acne is the most common skin issue in the U.S.?If you're someone who has suffered from acne breakouts and from maskne then you definitely want to tune in. We cover what the common causes of breakouts are, what products work best for fading post acne marks and what we should use to combat acne at home.We cover the most common skincare mistakes, which face mask best suits our needs, how do dermatologists feel about estheticians and if we really need to use a toner and so much more!We hope this conversation answers all of your skincare related questions. It is jam-packed with tips and recommendations for all of your skincare needs!Enjoy and remember to follow us on Instagram: @unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Fatima/Dermy Doctor on Instagram:@dermy_doctor

    UNFLTRD THOUGHTS: POST ELECTION

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2020 13:16


    Our votes have been cast, our ballots have been counted, the new President-elect and VP have been announced and the world can finally let out a collective sigh...temporarily.On this week's Unfltrd Thoughts, we sit down with Arij Mikati, an activist and anti-racism educator, to discuss where do we go from here post election.A projected 161 million Americans voted in the 2020 elections - a nail biting, stress induced presidential race that resulted in Biden becoming President-elect and Kamala Harris as the first Black, South Asian female President. Now what? Our goal of kicking Trump out resulted in us voting for individuals who we may not be that fond of their histories and prior policies. In this conversation we discuss key points such as how the voting results reflected how we, the people, are truly in power, how do we hold Biden/Harris accountable, what do we do about both of these candidates endorsing AIPAC and how do we challenge their support of the illegal occupation of Palestine?

    Why is God Angry With Me and What To Do If You’re Too Depressed to Pray with Sarah Sultan

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2020 56:45


    Why is God angry with me?In Ep. 33 of Season 2, we sit down with Sarah Sultan to discuss those shameful but pressing questions we have about Allah and His presence during tough times, the impact trauma can have on our relationship with our faith and what to do when we're too depressed to even pray. We’ve talked about how trauma can have an ever-lasting effect on how we see ourselves, but it can also have an impact on how we perceive our connection to and our relationship with God. Although some of us could never imagine ourselves questioning God, it’s crucial that we extend the conversation to include those who do so, secretly. Sarah explains how we can pull ourselves out of those dark moments and rebuild the bridge that connects us to our faith and to Allah. When times are tough, and depression has us too down to pray, let alone get out of bed, Sarah dives into how we can help ourselves and help those dealing with such feelings. As a reminder, we need to leave our preconceived judgement at the door, because it’s not welcomed here. This is a space meant for vulnerable conversations and we can’t thank Sarah enough for her wisdom and motivating words.Enjoy and remember to follow us on Instagram: @unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Sarah On Instagram: @sarahsultantherapyCheck out Sarah's lectures: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/team/sarah-sultan

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