Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

When a child is upset or angry, it’s easy to think their outburst is about the immediate problem. The real challenge for parents is identifying the deeper emotions driving these reactions. Kylie shares a conversation with her daughter that started as a fight over Roblox but ended with heartfelt tears over a completely different issue. By taking the time to talk with our kids, we can help them uncover the true reasons behind their strong feelings. In this episode: Play dates & Roblox 14 reasons why.... Homeschooling Need for connection Hindenburg Research: Roblox Roblox - a tool for sexual predators The 3 Es of Effective Discipline: Explore, Explain, and Empower Related Links: Keeping kids safe on Roblox Why Your Kids Need a Tribe Supporting Autistic Children Course with Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook or TikTok Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every school talks about teaching mental health, but is it actually helping kids? Or could some programs be doing more harm than good? In this episode, Justin unpacks the latest research on school-based mental health lessons — what works, what doesn’t, and why good intentions aren’t always enough. If you’ve ever wondered whether your child is really benefiting from these classes, this is the conversation you need to hear. KEY POINTS Why mental health lessons don’t always translate into healthier kids The risk of programs that label or pathologise normal emotions What research really shows about long-term impact How parents and teachers can support mental wellbeing in practical, everyday ways QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We can’t just teach kids about mental health in theory — we have to live it with them in practice." RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Website https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/may/20/mental-health-lessons-school-dont-work-mindfulness ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Ask your child what they really think about mental health classes at school. Focus on daily connection — listening, empathy, and open conversations. Model healthy coping strategies at home rather than relying only on school programs. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boys today are struggling — with school, with purpose, with identity. At the same time, parents are being told that masculinity is toxic — or irrelevant. Are we accidentally raising a generation of young men who feel lost before they’ve even begun? And how do we raise boys who are strong, kind, and confident without making them feel like they’re not enough? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack one of the most provocative ideas in parenting boys: surplus value. Drawing on research from Richard Reeves, Scott Galloway, and David Gilmore, they explore why contribution and purpose matter so much for boys’ identity, how to frame it in a healthy way, and why ignoring it leaves our sons vulnerable to destructive alternatives. KEY POINTS Why boys often tie identity to what they contribute rather than just who they are. The difference between unconditional worth at home and purpose in the world. How “surplus value” is not about pressure, but about channeling natural drives into positive contribution. Why society has always “made men” through responsibility and service — and why our boys still need this today. How to talk about contribution without undermining your son’s self-worth. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Being useful helps boys feel valuable — not because they’re not enough, but because they’re capable of great things.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Of Boys and Men by Richard Reeves Manhood in the Making by David Gilmore Sign up for updates on Justin’s upcoming book Boys → https://happyfamilies.com.au/boys-book-waitlist ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Reassure your son daily: “You matter because you are you.” Create opportunities for him to contribute at home in age-appropriate ways. Talk about purpose and contribution as part of becoming a man — not as pressure, but as an invitation. Watch for signs of directionlessness in the teen years and help channel energy into positive pathways. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is it ever safe to let your 11- or 12-year-old walk to the park, ride their bike, or visit a friend without you? For many parents, just the thought makes the stomach clench. But here’s the twist: the riskiest thing might be never letting kids take risks at all. In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack the independence dilemma that defines modern parenting. You’ll hear why today is the safest time in history for children (despite our fears), how to balance risk and safety, and the practical steps that build confidence — in both kids and parents. KEY POINTS: The difference between danger and risk — and why it matters. Why 24/7 news and social media fuel parental anxiety. How staged independence builds resilience and confidence. The power of community connections in keeping kids safe. Teaching situational awareness instead of “stranger danger.” RESOURCES: More parenting resources at happyfamilies.com.au The Case For Risky Play in an Age of Overprotection [Article] #1198 The Worst Mother Who Got it Right [Podcast Episode]See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A viral trend called “FAFO parenting” is exploding on TikTok and even making headlines in the Wall Street Journal. Advocates say it’s the antidote to “soft” parenting — let kids fuss around and find out the hard way. But is this tough-love comeback really preparing kids for life or setting them up for harm? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the hype, the dangers, and the research-backed alternative every parent needs to hear. In this episode: What FAFO (“Fuss Around and Find Out”) parenting actually looks like — and why it’s trending The three big claims FAFO parents make Why FAFO backfires The vital difference between natural consequences and manufactured hardships How “need-supportive parenting” builds resilience without breaking trust QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Discipline isn’t about hurting kids to prove a point. It’s about problem-solving so they can discover the lesson.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Wall Street Journal article on FAFO parenting (subscription required) Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards More parenting resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Resist the temptation to outsource learning to punishment. When mistakes happen, guide your child through problem-solving instead of powerplays. Protect the parent–child relationship — resilience grows best where trust is strong. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One-on-one time transforms parent-child relationships, but finding that time can seem impossible. Discover the revolutionary monthly date system that's helping parents create deeper connections with each child—and why being truly present matters more than what you actually do together. Key Points: Monthly one-on-one dates based on birth date Importance of intentional planning vs spontaneous moments Value of side-by-side conversations Impact of being fully present vs autopilot parenting How structured time leads to deeper conversations Quote of the Episode: "The definition of love is bearing witness to one another's lives." Key Insights: Advance planning makes experiences more meaningful Side-by-side activities encourage natural conversation Removing distractions deepens connection Multiple possible futures reduce anxiety about paths Intentional time creates space for vulnerable conversations Resources Mentioned: Laura King's research on "best possible future self" Monthly birthday date system concept Broaden perspectives on career/life paths Calendar blocking for intentional connection Action Steps for Parents: Schedule Monthly Dates: Mark each child's birth date on calendar Plan activities in advance Make them non-negotiable appointments Customise for each child's interests Create Quality Experiences: Remove distractions (phones, etc.) Choose side-by-side activities Allow natural conversation flow Make it special but not elaborate Be Fully Present: Practice active listening Avoid problem-solving mode Focus on connection over correction Create space for deeper sharing See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Private school rankings are splashed across the headlines, and parents everywhere are left asking: Am I failing my child if I stay public? With fees soaring above $45,000 a year, the pressure is real — but what does the research actually say? In this episode, Justin and Kylie cut through the marketing hype to reveal what truly matters for your child’s learning and wellbeing — and why “better” doesn’t always mean what you think. KEY POINTS The truth about test scores What parents are really buying with high fees Why teachers matter more than facilities or class size The “proximity principle”: belonging, friendships, and community trump prestige How investing school fees differently could transform your child’s future QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You can’t buy inspiration. It’s not about school fees — it’s about the teacher who lights up your child’s curiosity.” RESOURCES Research on school belonging (Kelly & Allen, University of Melbourne) https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/parenting/school-life/singlesex-schools-as-australias-top-100-private-schools-named/news-story/78fc2ed6b3807cbf6f44035d768c5c87 Harvard economist Raj Chetty’s study on teacher impact See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you get kids to love reading in a world of screens and short attention spans? In this warm and practical conversation, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with one of Australia’s most beloved authors — and current Children’s Laureate — Sally Rippin. Together they explore why connection matters more than comprehension, how to support struggling readers, and the simple, joyful ways families can bring books back to life at home. You’ll hear:– Why “all kids can be readers” (even reluctant ones)– How neuroscience is changing the way we teach reading– The role of modelling and family rituals in raising readers– Why choice and curiosity keep kids engaged– The surprising power of reading together — at any age QUOTE OF THE EPISODE“There’s no better way to help kids fall in love with reading than for them to fall in love with you while you read together.” – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES– Sally Rippin, Australian Children’s Laureate: https://www.childrenslaureate.org.au– Sally’s books: School of Monsters, Billy B. Brown, and more– Happy Families: https://www.happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Read together — bedtime, car rides, or even audiobooks count. Model reading — let kids see you enjoying books. Offer choice — let them pick their own books, then choose one to share. Make it fun — voices, suspense, and laughter bring stories alive. Stay curious — use books as a doorway into your child’s world. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you say to a child who’s lost multiple loved ones and now lies awake, terrified of death? In this deeply compassionate episode, Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack why repeated loss can create overwhelming bedtime anxiety, why it peaks when the lights go out, and the simple, research-backed ways parents can help. You’ll learn how to create safety, connection, and rituals that bring comfort — without minimising their grief or making false promises. KEY POINTS Multiple losses and cumulative grief Why bedtime can trigger fears Connection and presence over quick fixes or false assurances Following your child’s lead How to create closure for your child QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “What your child needs most isn’t for their fear to disappear — it’s to feel truly seen and understood in it.” – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES Understanding Grief in Children - Sage Journals Studies on the default mode network and bedtime anxiety Helping Kids Cope with Grief - a Conversation with Kristy Thomas Cumulative Grief - Dr Bill Webster The Journey of the Default Mode Network: Development, Function, and Impact on Mental Health ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Make bedtime a safe, calming ritual. Be present in the moment. Follow their emotional lead. Use comfort objects. Create closure rituals. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your child says, “I want to quit.” Soccer. Piano. Swimming. Art. Should you let them? There’s a magic confidence threshold in every skill - and most kids give up just before they reach it. In this episode, Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack why kids quit, the role of motivation and relationships, and how to help them push through frustration without forcing them into misery. You’ll learn how to balance empathy with encouragement so your child develops grit, resilience, and the joy of mastery. KEY POINTS Every skill has a “confidence threshold” — the point where hard work starts to feel rewarding. Kids often want to quit in the “valley” before reaching this threshold. Motivation matters: autonomy and relationships increase persistence. Plateaus in progress are normal and often occur right before breakthroughs. Distress tolerance is a life skill - avoiding discomfort robs kids of resilience-building experiences. Angela Duckworth’s “Don’t quit on a hard day” rule helps kids make decisions in a calm emotional state. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When we rescue kids from every struggle, we rob them of the chance to discover they’re more resilient than they think.” – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Angela Duckworth’s research on grit The Dunedin Study Dr Justin Coulson’s “Anti-Fragile” resilience keynotes ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Check the motivation – Was this activity your child’s choice or yours? Aim for the threshold – Encourage them to reach basic competence before deciding to quit. Build social connections – Support involvement where friendships are part of the activity. Talk about plateaus – Normalise slow progress and help them see it’s temporary. Adopt the “hard day” rule – No quitting right after a loss or tough session. Sit with discomfort – Model staying calm and present when challenges arise. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Screens often get a bad rap — and for good reason. But what if the problem isn’t the technology itself, but how we use it? In this heartwarming episode, Justin and Kylie share two powerful reminders: first, how intentional screen use (like FaceTiming with grandparents) can boost connection, vocabulary, and joy for kids; and second, why the “little moments” in family life are actually the big ones. KEY POINTS Why screens aren’t the enemy when used with purpose. Real-life example: FaceTime as a bridge between grandparents and grandkids. How small daily interactions (smiles, greetings, cuddles) create deep bonds. The research-backed link between physical touch and team success — and why it matters for families. The importance of slowing down to cherish moments, even in busy weeks. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "The little things actually are the big things." RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Use technology like a toothbrush — as a tool for connection, not distraction. Encourage kids to FaceTime or video call grandparents regularly. Look for “small moments” of connection each day — greetings, cuddles, high-fives. Be intentional about physical touch to boost connection and wellbeing. Even when busy, pause to notice and enjoy the joy on your child’s face. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Half of Aussie kids say they’ve been bullied in the past year — and for some, it’s relentless. If your child is caught in the middle of it, you can feel powerless, worried, and desperate for answers. In this powerful conversation, Professor Donna Cross shares a simple but life-changing 4-step approach to help your child feel heard, supported, and in control — plus what to try when you’ve “done it all” and nothing changes. You’ll learn: The hidden signs your child is struggling (and what not to miss) Why face-to-face bullying is still more common than cyberbullying The LATE model — a simple framework to guide every conversation Why walking or sitting side-by-side helps kids open up How to help when the bullying won’t stop — even after trying everything When changing schools is worth considering (and how to make it work) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "Don’t take the wheel — take the ride. Let your child lead the conversation so they keep their sense of control." RESOURCES MENTIONED Part 1 of our interview with Professor Donna Cross. Friendly Schools - An evidence-based whole-school approach to social & emotional wellbeing & bullying prevention. Bullying No Way - Professional learning resources. Professor Donna Cross’s research on bullying prevention and intervention Happy Families resources on bullying When Your Child is Bullied: A Calm, Practical Guide for Parents [HF Article] Rebecca Sparrow's friendship resources for parents and kids (Australia's "Friendship Whisperer") Rebecca Sparrow's friendship resources for schools and educators No Bullying Week: "Be Bold. Be Kind. Speak Up." Kid's Helpline for Bullying Spotlight on cyberbullying - a resource for schools The eSafety Commissioner's Guide to Cyberbullying Webinars for schools - designed for 3/4 and 5/6 students (Bullying No Way 2025) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Watch for warning signs — changes in mood, friendships, or routines. Use the LATE approach when your child opens up. L – Listen without rushing to take over. A – Acknowledge the hurt (“That sounds really tough”). T – Talk about options, letting your child lead the ideas. E – End with encouragement and keep the door open for future talks. Role-play tricky situations to build your child’s confidence and coping skills. Engage the school early and keep them informed — especially during transitions. Encourage bystander support skills in your child’s friendship group. If necessary, consider a school change — but plan supports to prevent the bullying from following them. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bullying doesn’t just hurt feelings — it can rewire a child’s brain. In this powerful conversation for No Bullying Week, I speak with Professor Donna Cross, one of Australia’s leading bullying experts, about the profound short- and long-term impacts of bullying, why some children are targeted, and the surprising protective factors that can help shield kids from harm. You’ll learn what’s really going on in the minds of both bullies and their targets — and how parents can build a network of support that keeps kids safer at school and online. KEY POINTS Bullying can trigger long-term neurological and genetic changes through repeated stress responses. Effects can be similar to those seen in children experiencing abuse. High-risk factors for being bullied include loneliness, visible differences, lack of supportive bystanders, and not being well known or liked by teachers. Protective factors include multiple friendship groups, strong peer relationships, a culture of kindness, and supportive school environments. Social and physical environments — from seating arrangements to equipment availability — can influence bullying dynamics. Parents can play a key role by facilitating diverse friendship opportunities and monitoring online activity. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "Probably the most protective factor is your child’s relationships with other young people — especially having multiple friendship groups." – Professor Donna Cross RESOURCES MENTIONED Professor Donna Cross’s research and publications happyfamilies.com.au – Resources on bullying prevention and response ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Help your child build multiple, diverse friendship groups. Encourage empathy and kindness at home and in school conversations. Partner with your child’s school to promote a positive social environment. Teach your child how to respond calmly to provocation. Monitor and guide your child’s online interactions to reduce cyberbullying risk. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you talk to your child about a terminal illness in the family? What if it’s not your family, but your best friend's—and you want to support both their kids and your own? In today’s heart-wrenching episode, Justin and Kylie tackle one of the toughest parenting challenges: helping children navigate the looming death of a loved one. With compassion, honesty, and practical wisdom, they share how to approach these conversations—and how to show up when words aren’t enough. KEY POINTS: Be honest with children in age-appropriate ways—truth helps, secrecy hurts. Children need predictability: keep routines and rituals where possible. Acknowledge emotions—yours and theirs. Say “I feel sad too.” When supporting a grieving friend, show up practically. Don’t ask, just do. Teach your child how to be a caring friend: “I don’t know what to say, but I care about you.” Offer your home as a safe place for affected children to rest and just be kids. Model empathy, presence, and consistency—not just for the family in crisis, but for your child watching. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "I don’t know what to say, but I care about you." — Teach this to your child, and say it yourself. It matters. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families Website (submit your question here) Has Screen Use Crossed the Line in Your Home? - With Brad Marshall ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Speak to your child about serious illness honestly and age-appropriately. Keep routines and rituals in place to provide stability. Validate and model emotional expression: let your child see that it’s okay to be sad, angry, or confused. Help your child support their friend with care, not pressure. Offer practical help to grieving families—meals, transport, child-minding—without needing to be asked. Let your home be a haven for kids who are carrying heavy emotional loads. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most of us think we know what to do when our child is being bullied—stand up to the bully, teach resilience, demand punishment. But what if those responses are making things worse? In this No Bullying Week episode, Justin and Kylie bust the myths around bullying and offer counterintuitive, compassionate, and powerful alternatives. Discover what actually works to support kids being bullied—and how to raise kids who don’t become bullies in the first place. KEY POINTS: If Your Child Is Being Bullied: Stop telling kids to “stand up” to bullies. This victim-blaming advice ignores power dynamics and often escalates harm. Avoid framing bullying as “character-building” or a “resilience opportunity.” Bullying is trauma. It’s not a test of toughness. Don’t demand punishment. Zero-tolerance and “make them pay” approaches often backfire. The system needs repair—not retribution. To Prevent Your Child from Bullying: Watch for “dominance in disguise.” When we reward confidence or competitiveness without checking the impact on others, we may be reinforcing bullying. Reflect on your parenting style. Harsh, authoritarian parenting models the very power-over behaviour we’re trying to prevent. Go beyond “treat others how you want to be treated.” Help kids develop real empathy by guiding them to reflect on how others feel. Bonus: Get your kids involved in service. Nothing builds empathy like helping others in need. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Our job isn’t to make kids bounce back from abuse. Our job is to make sure the abuse doesn’t happen in the first place.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: When Your Child is Bullied: A Calm, Practical Guide for Parents [Article] National Centre Against Bullying Conference Wall Street Journal article on the parenting pendulum Bullying No Way: A National Week of Action ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Work with the school: Ask for systemic solutions, not quick punishments. Validate your child’s pain: Listen, believe, and support—without trying to “toughen them up.” Model empathy and connection at home: Choose collaboration over control. Encourage service and perspective-taking: Real-world connection builds character better than lectures ever could. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your child is struggling, do you ever feel like you should know exactly what to say—but you don’t? In this episode, we explore the parenting pressure to fix our kids’ problems... and why sometimes, the best thing we can do is just pick up the phone and listen. Plus: the surprising milestone we celebrated this week and why your relationship deserves a party too. KEY POINTS Kids often expect parents to know what to do—but we don’t always have the answers. A powerful reminder: our kids don’t need perfect words—they just need us to show up. Building community makes it easier to hold the line with tricky issues like phones. Why celebrating your marriage or partnership (even obscure milestones!) is crucial for a strong family. Love and presence matter more than parenting “perfection.” QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "I didn’t say anything wise. I didn’t make anything better. I didn’t do emotion coaching or problem-solving. I just listened. And that was enough." RESOURCES MENTIONED Wednesday’s Episode with Dr Brad Marshall on the impact of phones Sunshine Coast Ballooning (hot air balloon anniversary celebration—not sponsored, just loved it) HappyFamilies.com.au for more resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let go of needing the perfect words – Just be there. Listen. Build your community – Especially around tricky boundaries like phones and tech. Celebrate your partner – Mark the small and silly milestones. They matter. Reconnect with your kids – Even if you don’t have a fix, your presence is powerful. Remind yourself – You don’t have to have the answers. Just love them. Be there. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feeling like your child is glued to their screen - and spiralling? You're not imagining it. A brand-new meta-analysis of nearly 300,000 kids reveals something alarming: screen time isn't just a symptom of emotional struggles… it’s making them worse. In this Doctor’s Desk deep dive, Dr Justin Coulson breaks down the research and shares three critical parenting strategies that can break the cycle. KEY POINTS A meta-analysis of 117 studies (292,739 kids!) shows screen use leads to increased emotional and behavioural problems—and kids who are already struggling are more likely to turn to screens. Gaming has the most harmful effects, especially when time limits are exceeded. There’s a reciprocal relationship between screen use and emotional struggles—each one fuels the other. The screen trap is real—even highly self-aware adults get caught. The key isn’t blame or punishment—it’s collaboration, connection, and compassion. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We need to question the gaming industry’s design, not our children’s character." RESOURCES MENTIONED Meta-analysis published in Psychological Bulletin (2025) Yesterday’s episode with Dr Brad Marshall on gaming disorder and smartphone overuse ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Question the system, not the child: Open conversations with kids about how games and social media are engineered to capture attention and exploit vulnerabilities. Collaborate on screen use limits: Use the 3 E’s: Explore, Explain, Empower. Involve kids in setting family screen guidelines focused on what they gain, not what they lose. Replace screens with real connection: Prioritise family time, hobbies, nature, and friendships. The more involved you are, the less likely screens will dominate. Get curious about unmet needs: Ask: What is my child seeking from this screen? How can I help them meet that need in real life? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nine hours a day. That’s how long Aussie teens are spending on recreational screens. But what does this mean for their development—and should parents panic? In this confronting but practical conversation, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by Dr Brad Marshall, clinical psychologist and researcher, to unpack Australia’s biggest study to date on screen overuse and gaming disorder in kids. Together, they explore what the data shows, what it means for families, and what you should (and shouldn’t!) do if screen use has taken over your home. KEY POINTS New research shows 9 hours/day of screen time for high schoolers and 6 for primary kids—just for fun, not school. Around 5% of kids show signs of clinical or subclinical gaming disorder. 10% show signs of smartphone addiction. Significant developmental impacts were found across emotional, behavioural, educational, and physical domains. These issues start in primary school, not just during adolescence. It's not about banning screens but about helping parents set and enforce realistic, healthy limits. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "If your child is in a sleep deficit because they’re on screens at night, that snowballs into everything else." – Dr Brad Marshall RESOURCES MENTIONED The new Macquarie University study on screen overuse Brad’s Developmental Impact Questionnaire Happy Families podcast archive Brad Marshall’s organisation: Control Shift ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Don’t attack the tech. Avoid saying things like “that game is rotting your brain.” It shuts down connection. Don’t allow screens in bedrooms at night. Sleep loss is a key trigger for wider issues. Don’t argue in the heat of the moment. Have the “screen talk” when everyone’s calm. Get curious about impacts. Use tools like the Developmental Impact Questionnaire to understand your child’s experience. Pick your battles. Focus on habits and boundaries, not just hours. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“My daughter says she doesn’t like being alone with her thoughts at night… so she plays music to drown them out.” In this episode of the Happy Families podcast, we explore a powerful listener question from a mum worried about her anxious child using music as a form of avoidance. Is it helpful? Harmful? And what can we do instead? We unpack the fine line between healthy distraction and long-term avoidance - and share tools to help your child build emotional strength, even in the dark. KEY POINTS Avoidance can reinforce anxiety - but sometimes, gentle avoidance is okay Music can be an effective short-term tool, but shouldn't become the only coping mechanism The risks of long-term distraction at bedtime (poor sleep, more anxiety) Strategies to help: Essential oils (yes, really—there’s research!) Gratitude practices before sleep Thought downloads/journaling to ease mental clutter Default Mode Network activity and its role in rumination Gradual tolerance toolkit—moving away from music to mindfulness Normalising and validating nighttime anxiety Parental presence and conversations to address the underlying worries QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "Sometimes kids feel like they’re swimming with metaphorical sharks. They want to get out of the water—but we know they’re just dolphins. It’s our job to keep them swimming." RESOURCES MENTIONED Chatter by Ethan Kross Research on essential oils and anxiety (referenced but not directly cited) happyfamilies.com.au Leave us a voice memo for the podcast here ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let your child know their racing thoughts at night are normal—and you're there for them. Collaborate on a bedtime plan: gentle music, meditation, or calming scents. Encourage journaling or a “thought download” before bed to externalise internal chaos. Add in a nightly gratitude ritual—simple and connecting. Over time, help your child build tolerance for their thoughts without needing constant distraction. If things remain tough, reach out to a GP or psychologist for professional support. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we really setting our kids up for success in the real world? From burnt spaghetti to budgeting fails, this episode dives into the seven critical life skills every parent should teach their child before they fly the nest — unless you want them boomeranging back! This is the essential parenting checklist for raising capable, confident, and independent adults. KEY POINTS Get Organised & Be ProductiveTeens need to know how to manage time, set alarms, prioritise, and follow through on responsibilities — no one else is going to do it for them. Keep a Tidy House & Maintain HygieneBasic cleaning and personal hygiene habits matter. No one wants to live with (or date) someone who never cleans the bathroom. Cook Three Basic MealsTwo-minute noodles don't count! Being able to whip up three decent meals is a non-negotiable adulting skill. Research & Make Informed DecisionsFrom phone plans to uni courses, help your teen learn how to ask questions, compare options, and confidently choose what's right. Understand Basic BudgetingTrack spending, avoid debt traps, and save for goals — money smarts start at home. Regulate EmotionsTeach your teen to handle stress, setbacks, and big feelings without a meltdown (or a phone call to Mum every time). Navigate Conflict ConstructivelyKnowing how to disagree without destroying a relationship is key — whether it's a fight with a friend or a tricky work conversation. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “The goal isn’t to send them out perfect. It’s to send them out capable — and make ourselves redundant in the process.” RESOURCES MENTIONED happyfamilies.com.au for parenting tools, resources, and workshops. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Do a life skills audit — which of these seven has your child mastered?2. Model these behaviours daily: routines, budgeting, cooking, conflict resolution.3. Involve your child in real-life decisions (like comparing phone plans or budgeting for groceries).4. Use mistakes as teachable moments, not failures.5. Celebrate independence, even if it’s just cleaning the bathroom without being asked!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Would you get out of bed at 2:30am to drive your teen to Work Experience with horses? In this episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, we share the parenting wins, fails, and funny moments from our week - including freezing mornings, heartfelt messages from listeners, and a couple of one-star reviews that left us speechless (almost). Also, Justin’s withdrawal from the Tour de France and unexpected fame in a shopping centre. From meaningful feedback on tricky conversations to tackling criticism with humour, this episode is about showing up, trying hard, and staying connected. KEY POINTS Supporting your teen’s passion… even when it starts at 3am Listener feedback about Sunday tricky conversations with kids What it’s like being recognised from Parental Guidance How to handle negative podcast reviews with grace and humour The reality of not being everyone’s flavour - and why that’s okay QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We're not going to be everybody's favourite fruit. And that's okay." RESOURCES MENTIONED HappyFamilies.com.au Parental Guidance (TV show) Justin's Sunday Tricky Conversations (encouraged by listener Miranda) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Support your child’s passion - even when it disrupts your sleep. Your presence matters. Start a weekly tricky conversation with your child, like Miranda did. It builds trust and emotional safety. Remember you're not for everyone - and you don’t have to be. Show up authentically. Leave a review (preferably 5 stars

Ever been halfway through a parenting reel thinking *“Oh wow, this is gold”… only to realise it’s actually terrible advice dressed up with pretty music and a pastel background? We’ve been there too. In today’s episode, Justin and Kylie unpack six pieces of popular parenting advice they’re choosing to ignore forever—and why you should too. From controlled crying to timeouts, “spoiling” kids with love, and the classic “just ignore the tantrum” strategy, we’re calling out the myths that sound helpful but harm connection. This episode is your permission slip to parent with heart, not hacks. KEY POINTS: Controlled crying is not independence training — It misunderstands attachment and ignores babies’ real needs. Timeouts don’t teach, they isolate — Punishment in disguise erodes trust and connection. Responsiveness isn’t spoiling — Kids thrive when we tune in, not tune out. Ignoring tantrums doesn’t make them go away — Empathy teaches emotional regulation. “Seen and not heard” is still hanging around (and still harmful) — Kids need space to be curious, push back respectfully, and develop their voice. Self-soothing is a myth for little ones — Kids learn to calm down with us, not alone. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Abandoning children in their most vulnerable moments teaches them nothing—except that our love is conditional.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Whole-Brain Child by Dr. Daniel Siegel Attachment research by Dr. Allan Schore ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Challenge bad advice — When you hear advice that feels off, trust your gut and check the research. Choose connection over correction — When your child is distressed, meet them with empathy instead of isolation. Be responsive, not reactive — Show up consistently so your child learns to regulate through co-regulation. Make space for their voice — Let your kids respectfully question, push back, and express themselves. Ditch the naughty chair — Find real discipline strategies that teach, not punish. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

They talk a lot about culture in schools/education. What’s really driving teacher burnout, student disengagement, and poor behaviour in schools? In this compelling conversation, I’m joined by Adam Voigt—former principal, education thought leader, and founder of Real Schools—to explore why culture, not curriculum, is the true heart of great education. From phone bans to shocking increases in sexualised behaviour, we unpack the most pressing issues in today’s classrooms—and how families can play a vital role in shaping school culture for the better. KEY POINTS: Why phone bans work—and the student-led secret to getting buy-in from kids The disturbing rise of sexualised behaviour and harassment in schools Teacher burnout: why it’s getting worse and how to turn it around How shame, not badness, drives poor behaviour—and what restorative practices offer instead The 3 consistent challenges teachers face: student behaviour, workload, and parent interactions Why building school culture is the most powerful thing a school can do How culture improves outcomes for students, teachers, and parents alike QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “We need to reclaim how we work—not just the classroom. When schools focus on culture, every stakeholder benefits.” – Adam Voigt RESOURCES MENTIONED: Restoring Teaching by Adam Voigt – Free eBook, audiobook & print-at-cost version Adam’s organisation: Real Schools Happy Families resources for families and schools: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Be a culture builder at your child’s school. Ask the principal or teacher, “What’s our school’s culture—and how can I support it?” Talk to your child about phone use—and help them practice face-to-face connection at home. Model respectful behaviour, especially around teachers. Show your child that respect is foundational, not optional. Challenge inappropriate content and conversations early. Don’t wait for school to step in—your voice matters first. Share Adam’s book with your school’s leadership team. It’s a small gesture that could shift the culture in big ways. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You send out party invitations and… crickets. Or worse — a wall of “maybe” and no-shows. Are parents today just too busy, too anxious, or too uninterested to connect? Justin and Kylie tackle the growing epidemic of “commitment-phobia” among modern parents and uncover why it’s harder than ever to build the village our kids desperately need. From loneliness to overload to digital distractions, you’ll learn the real reasons parents opt out — and four surprisingly simple ways to bring connection back. If you’ve ever wondered why it feels like you’re parenting alone — and how to change that — this is the episode you need. KEY POINTS: Why today’s parents avoid social commitments (and it’s not just post-COVID). The collapse of “enforced proximity” and accidental connection. Why loneliness is now a public health crisis. How treating community like a marketplace keeps us isolated. The role of emotional overload and overstimulation. 4 actionable ways to rebuild your village — one parent at a time. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Other people matter. The community you’re craving already exists — it’s just hiding behind the same fears and overwhelm you’re feeling." RESOURCES MENTIONED: Submit your tricky parenting questions here ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Create low-stakes, frequent opportunities for connection — coffee catch-ups, quick chats at pick-up, or a casual park playdate. Focus on contribution: ask “What can I give?” instead of “What’s in it for me?” Schedule digital downtime daily — put your phone down and reclaim your mental space. Don’t fear rejection. Keep showing up. Start with one parent and build from there. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every parent hits that moment — the eye roll, the “you’re so unfair,” the slammed door. It’s the backchat that drives us up the wall. But what if we told you that this so-called “sass” is actually a sign of something good? In today’s episode, Justin and Kylie unpack why backchat is one of the most misunderstood parts of child development — and how you can respond in a way that strengthens your relationship, rather than wrecking it. We share 3 practical mindset shifts and 4 go-to scripts you can use today to turn attitude into connection and cooperation. Yes, even when the sass is strong. KEY POINTS: Backchat is often a clumsy expression of unmet needs — not a sign of defiance Reframing disrespect as a lack of skills (not a lack of values) changes everything Power struggles escalate when we seek control instead of connection Meeting autonomy, relatedness, and competence needs helps reduce pushback Get curious, not furious — especially when emotions are high Four practical scripts help parents respond with connection, not control QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Disrespect often isn’t deliberate — it’s just clumsy communication from a kid who doesn’t yet have the skills to do it better.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The 3 Basic Psychological Needs: Autonomy, Relatedness, Competence The “Get Curious, Not Furious” principle happyfamilies.com.au for more resources and support ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Reframe backchat as a sign of emotional overwhelm or unmet needs Use validating language like “Sometimes it feels like I’m your enemy, doesn’t it?” Offer autonomy with choices (“I don’t mind when you do it — just have it done by dinner”) Give in fantasy what they can’t have in reality to lighten the moment Use the 3 E’s Script: “Sounds like you’re really frustrated... will you help me see what’s bothering you?” Set boundaries with respect: “I’m going to give you a chance to rethink that and try again in harmony with our values.” See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What kind of parent willingly gives up a peaceful beach day… for four hours of standing in theme park lines? In this episode, Justin shares the story of his most "Father of the Year" moment — and Kylie reveals how she did something even braver. If you’ve ever had to choose between comfort and connection, this one’s for you. KEY POINTS: Why showing up — even when it’s uncomfortable — creates lasting memories for our kids.The unexpected benefits of shared boredom (like standing in line together!).How doing things you hate can still bring joy — to both you and your kids.The value of modelling courage, humour, and presence (even on the Kansas Twister).Why it’s often the hard, inconvenient moments that matter most in family life. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Do the hard things. The joy it brings your kids — seeing you squeal, be scared, and do it anyway — you can’t put a price on that.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: HappyFamilies.com.au — for more parenting inspiration and tools. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Say Yes to the Hard Thing – Whether it’s a dreaded ride, a messy game, or a long conversation, lean in. Model Being Brave – Let your kids see you doing things outside your comfort zone. Find Joy in the Chaos – Embrace the mess, the lines, and the noise as chances to connect. Reflect and Celebrate – Share the story with your kids afterwards. Celebrate effort, not perfection. Plan Your Own "Hard Thing" – Ask yourself: What’s one thing I can do this week that puts my kids first, even if it’s uncomfortable? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Few topics divide parents more than gender identity — and the stakes couldn’t be higher. On the last episode of Parental Guidance, the debate ignited strong emotions and hard truths about what it means to protect our kids’ mental health while avoiding irreversible mistakes. In today’s podcast, Justin and Kylie break down the episode, share insights from research, and offer calm, practical advice for navigating this sensitive topic as a parent. KEY POINTS: Why this issue is so emotionally loaded. What we don’t know The strong correlation between gender identity struggles and other issues like autism, anxiety, depression, and online influences Why ‘affirmation-only’ models are controversial The role of screens and peer groups in shaping kids’ beliefs about gender. Why delaying medical or surgical interventions while maintaining love and openness can be the wisest path forward QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "You want to keep your kids safe, loved, and supported — but you also want to move slowly, with wisdom and care, because these decisions have lifelong consequences." — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Time to Think by Hannah Barnes (on the Tavistock Clinic and gender identity diagnoses) Articles and more resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Limit screen time and social media exposure, especially to platforms like TikTok or Tumblr where gender identity narratives can be amplified. Check your child’s peer group influences — and watch for “cluster” patterns in friend groups. Find a good psychologist or counsellor who will explore underlying emotional, developmental, and psychological factors instead of rushing to affirm. Stay compassionate and keep the dialogue open with your child. Let them know you love and support them unconditionally — while explaining that serious medical decisions can wait. Delay irreversible interventions (like hormones or surgery) until your child is much older and has had time to mature and reflect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does “boys will be boys” really mean—and why does it get under so many parents’ skin? In this powerful episode, we dive into the final challenge of Parental Guidance and unpack the loaded stereotypes around masculinity, parenting roles, and what it means to raise emotionally healthy boys in today’s world. From baby dolls to rough-and-tumble play, the conversation gets real about how we guide our sons—and what we might be getting wrong. KEY POINTS: Why the phrase “boys will be boys” is not an excuse for bad behaviour How TV moments can misrepresent real-life parenting and child behaviour The critical role fathers can and should play in early parenting Gender roles, cultural expectations, and the policing of boys’ behaviour The concept of “surplus value” and helping boys become safe, strong contributors The challenge of letting boys be expressive without fear of being labelled or shamed Encouraging healthy masculinity without shaming traditional male traits QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Boys will be boys is never an acceptable excuse when a boy is making others feel unsafe or weaker. Healthy masculinity is about being a bonus — adding value and helping people feel safer and stronger." — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance Season 3, Episode 4 (available to stream on 9Now) Richard Reeves – Of Boys and Men Upcoming book on raising boys by Dr Justin Coulson ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Challenge the stereotype: Avoid using phrases like “boys will be boys” to excuse disrespectful or rough behaviour. Involve dads early: Regardless of breastfeeding or work roles, dads can actively participate in everything from settling babies to managing household chaos. Nurture competence: Support your partner’s (and your child’s) parenting confidence—especially when they feel unsure. Talk about gender norms: With both sons and daughters, talk openly about gender expectations, and give them permission to break the mould. Model and celebrate healthy masculinity: Encourage boys to add value to others' lives, and help them develop emotional literacy without forcing them to fit a mould. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Parenting Mirror: What Your Kids Are Really Learning From You” What happens when your child becomes the parent — even just for a day? In this episode, we unpack last night’s Parental Guidance challenge, where kids were asked to care for a realistic baby doll, revealing what they’ve learned from their parents’ example. From “cry-it-out” methods to family role clarity, and even the silent weight of unappreciated parents — this conversation is a wake-up call for every mum and dad. Are you raising future chair stackers, or scorekeepers? KEY POINTS: Kids reflect the parenting they see — sometimes in ways we don’t expect. Why “cry-it-out” for babies is controversial and why we generally recommend avoiding it (especially under 6 months). The hidden harm of parenting with threats and power-centred comments. The trap of seeking validation from your children instead of giving without expectation. Why clarity in family roles, self-awareness, and communication are critical. The concept of raising “chair stackers” — children (and future adults) who see and meet needs without keeping score. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "If there was one gift I could give every parent, it would be the gift of self-awareness — the ability to see how your children experience you." RESOURCES MENTIONED: Upcoming book: The Boys Book by Justin Coulson (on raising “chair stackers”). More parenting resources at: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Reflect honestly: What do your kids see and learn from the way you react under stress? If you’ve used cry-it-out methods, consider alternatives and seek support if you’re struggling. Have a conversation with your partner (and even your kids) about family roles and whether everyone feels the load is fair and balanced. Let go of the need for validation from your kids — parenting is about giving. Start encouraging the “chair stacker” mindset in your kids by modelling it yourself. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when your child screams from 7 PM to 3 AM every night? Tonight, Parental Guidance tackles one of the toughest, most overlooked issues facing families: the silent epidemic of mental illness. Heartbreaking stories. Honest conversations. And real hope for parents who feel alone in the dark. Don’t miss this powerful episode—stream it on 9Now or watch live at 7:30 PM on Channel 9. KEY POINTS Mental illness is the “invisible crisis” devastating families across the nation. Parents share raw and emotional stories of what it’s really like behind closed doors. Experts and families come together to discuss what helps, what doesn’t, and what needs to change. The importance of recognising the signs and knowing you’re not alone. RESOURCES MENTIONED Catch up on Seasons 1, 2, and the first episodes of Season 3 on the 9Now app. Tune in live tonight at 7:30 PM on Channel 9 or stream on 9Now. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Don’t ignore the signs — if you’re concerned about your child’s mental health, seek support early.2. Talk about mental health at home. Let your kids know it’s okay to not be okay.3. Reach out to a GP, school counsellor, or helpline for guidance if you’re struggling.4. Watch this episode with your partner or support network and discuss how you can support each other and your children better.5. Familiarise yourself with available resources and keep the conversation going.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking about money with kids can feel intimidating — but it doesn’t have to be. In episode #1301, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by long-time financial literacy campaigner Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon to unpack practical, simple ways parents can raise kids who are confident and smart with money. From avoiding the ‘tap trap’ to setting stretch goals, you’ll learn how your own money mindset shapes theirs — and the small, powerful lessons that stick for life. KEY POINTS: Why attitude about money matters more than aptitude — and how parents can model healthy habits. The danger of passing on economic anxiety to kids. How to teach kids to delay gratification and set meaningful goals. Creative ways to incentivise saving, including ‘stretch goals’ with bonuses. Why teaching kids about time and compound interest is a game-changer. Cash vs. digital money: helping kids grasp the value of invisible dollars. The best tools and apps to make financial education engaging and real for kids. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "The biggest financial lesson you can give your kids is letting them see you walk the talk — showing them you’ve earned it, allocated it, and spent it wisely for maximum enjoyment." — Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon RESOURCES MENTIONED: Hey Kit: Pocket Money App & Free Guide MoneySmart by ASIC — for parent financial literacy Spriggy app (another kids’ money app) Nicole’s book: How to Get Mortgage Free Like Me ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: 1. Start the conversation: Make money a regular topic at home — no shame, no secrecy.2. Model what you want to see: Explain your own decisions, from saving to spending.3. Teach delayed gratification: Use food or small purchases to illustrate.4. Set savings goals with your kids — and add stretch goals with incentives.5. Open a savings account or use a money app to help kids track and celebrate progress.6. Don’t forget about cash: Occasionally let them pay in notes or coins to connect the dots.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when a child falls years behind in reading and writing? This week’s episode of The Happy Families Podcast dives into one of the most talked-about moments from Parental Guidance: the Life School parents’ children struggling with basic literacy. Justin and Kylie share why reading matters so much, how to help children who resist school and learning, and practical steps for parents who feel overwhelmed when their child is falling behind. If you’ve ever worried about your child’s progress—or felt judged by others—this conversation will give you hope, empathy, and a clear path forward. KEY POINTS: Reading is a gateway to learning, and kids need to see, hear, and engage with books daily. Many families lack books in the home—screens have crowded them out. Literacy struggles can stem from earlier traumatic or negative schooling experiences, creating resistance. Avoidance of learning challenges often worsens anxiety; action and support are crucial. There is no quick fix—progress takes time, love, and the right support network. Collaboration with schools is vital, but sometimes alternative schooling or tutors may be necessary. Motivation often follows competence—find what your child loves to learn and build on that. Above all, children need to know that they are loved, supported, and not alone in their struggle. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Readers are leaders, and leaders are readers. But before anything else, your child needs to know you love them, no matter how hard the journey gets." RESOURCES MENTIONED: Previous Happy Families podcast episodes on How to Help Kids Love Reading #952 - An Interview with Author Sally Rippin #918 - A Slice of Advice on Getting Your Kids to Read More happyfamilies.com.au for more resources on literacy and schooling alternatives, including: Rethinking School: Why Alternative Education Might Be the Best Choice for Your Child Home Schooling 101 With Brett Campbell of Euka How to Raise Kids Who Read Nine Now app to watch Parental Guidance ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: 1. Read to your child every day, even if they’re older.2. Let your child see you reading.3. Fill your home with books your child can access anytime.4. Work with the school to understand and address learning challenges.5. If needed, explore alternative schooling options or hire a tutor.6. Avoid avoidance—take small, consistent actions to build competence.7. Help your child discover an area of learning they’re motivated by.8. Above all: remind them daily that they are loved and supported.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when your child refuses to eat? When food, health, and body image turn into a dangerous battleground? In this deeply moving episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the devastating reality of eating disorders — with insights from a brave young woman who overcame anorexia, her incredible family, and a specialist psychologist who shares life-saving advice for parents. KEY POINTS 90% of teens have negative thoughts about their bodies; eating disorders affect far too many young people, especially girls. Social media and “diet culture” fuel body dissatisfaction, validation-seeking, and dangerous habits. Even the most loving parents can have children who perceive themselves as unlovable — perception is reality for struggling kids. Parents play a vital role: showing up consistently and lovingly is powerful even when it feels unnoticed. Warning signs to watch for include: Loose, baggy clothing (to hide weight loss or from skin sensitivity) Avoiding family meals, picking at food, or excessive “health consciousness” Withdrawing socially, prioritizing exercise obsessively Personality changes, irritability, especially around meals Parents need extraordinary patience, kindness, and firmness — staying at the table for hours if necessary, showing the eating disorder who’s stronger. Separate “the eating disorder voice” from your child’s real self in your interactions. It’s less about finding the “cause” and more about focusing on healing. The Butterfly Foundation (butterfly.org.au) is an excellent resource for specialist help. QUOTE OF EPISODE #1299 "You need to show that eating disorder that you're stronger than it, more patient than it, and you will sit there as long as it takes — because your child is worth fighting for." — Christine Gregory RESOURCES MENTIONED The Butterfly Foundation — national support for eating disorders Parental Guidance episode (stream on 9Now) Happy Families articles and resources on connection and body image (happyfamilies.com.au) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Watch for early warning signs and trust your instincts — you know your child best.2. Be patient, kind, and firm — sit with your child at meals and don’t let the eating disorder win.3. Separate your child’s identity from the illness; speak to your child, not to the disorder.4. Don’t obsess over what “caused” it — focus on healing and connection.5. Seek professional help early through organizations like the Butterfly Foundation.6. Show up consistently: being present every day sends a powerful message of love and commitment.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“You don’t let other people tell you what beautiful is.”In this heartfelt episode of the Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie Coulson reflect on the powerful lessons from Parental Guidance Season 3, Episode 3, exploring body image, self-worth, and how parents can shape their children’s relationship with their bodies—for better or worse. With vulnerable personal stories and actionable advice, they discuss how to shift the focus from looks to function, joy, and character. KEY POINTS: Parents’ comments and attitudes about bodies deeply influence their children’s self-image. Many women carry lasting scars from childhood comments about their weight or looks. Society promotes a narrow and unhealthy definition of “beautiful.” Teach children to focus on what their bodies can do, not just how they look. Affirm children’s inner qualities and character as “beautiful” rather than only appearance. Complimenting children should be consistent and not dependent on clothing, makeup, or occasions. Body image distortion is common and can start young; words and modelling matter. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "When discussing body image, we need to move away from beauty. Instead, emphasise functionality, emphasise finding joy, and focus on what you can do, not what you look like. More than anything, remember that beauty is best defined by who you are and not how you look." — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Miss-connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk by Justin Coulson Karen Young & Hey Sigmund — resources supporting children’s mental health and self-worth Parental Guidance Season 3 ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Reflect on your own language and attitudes about bodies—what messages are you passing on? Focus compliments on your child’s inner qualities and abilities, not just their looks. Emphasise the functionality and strength of your child’s body (“Look how strong your legs are!”) rather than its appearance. Avoid shaming or criticising children’s food choices or weight. Let your child know they are always beautiful to you, regardless of what they’re wearing or how they look. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do girls talk about their looks and boys talk about their abilities? Last night’s Parental Guidance episode tackled the big, emotional topic of body image — from what our kids see in the mirror to what they learn from us. In this Happy Families Podcast recap, Justin and Kylie unpack the powerful moments, the heated debates about Botox and social media, and what the research says about raising kids who feel good about their bodies. KEY POINTS Introduction of four new parenting styles: Authoritative, Positivity, Hard Way, and Life School — and their views on body image. Kids’ mirror challenge revealed a clear gender split: boys focused on what their bodies do, girls on how their bodies look. Parents’ debate about Botox and cosmetic procedures highlighted tension between self-acceptance and role-modelling for kids. Social media and screen use increase body dissatisfaction — media literacy alone isn’t enough. WHO study: gender, not body size, predicts body image problems. The importance of parents modelling self-acceptance and healthy habits. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We focus on boys’ function, not form — and girls’ form, not function. That’s how society has conditioned us for centuries." — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt WHO study on gender and body image Book: Miss-connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk by Justin Coulson Pixel Perfect [webinar] Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Reduce kids’ time on screens and social media to limit harmful comparisons.2. Stop focusing on diets or external measures — promote health, not appearance.3. Encourage kids to focus on what their bodies can do, not how they look.4. Be mindful of how you talk about your own body — you’re modelling self-image.5. Avoid assuming media literacy is enough — talk about values, not just filters.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Body Image Episode: Conversations Every Parent Needs to Hear What happens when kids are asked how they really see themselves?This episode of Parental Guidance (and our podcast preview) dives deep into one of the most powerful and emotional topics we’ve covered yet: body image. We unpack the heartbreaking reality of how children talk about their own appearance, the surprising ways parents influence those conversations, and a gripping, must-see story of a young girl’s fight against anorexia. Plus, we explore family fitness, nutrition, and an unexpected twist you won’t see coming. Tonight’s episode of Parental Guidance is one that will get Australia talking — and maybe even bring a tear to your eye. KEY POINTS: Kids share candidly how they see themselves — and the results are eye-opening. A moving story of one girl’s battle with an eating disorder. Why the way parents speak about their own bodies matters more than you think. Family fitness and nutrition challenges reveal compelling insights. An unexpected twist at the end that every family should reflect on. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "It’s just such an important conversation — one that will make every single parent and child sit up and pay attention." RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance, Episode 3 — airing tonight at 7:30 PM on Channel 9 and streaming on 9Now. Visit happyfamilies.com.au for more parenting resources. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:1. Watch tonight’s episode of Parental Guidance with your family.2. Start an honest, gentle conversation with your kids about how they feel about themselves.3. Be mindful of the way you speak about your own body around your children — they’re listening.4. Use family mealtimes and activities as opportunities to model positive attitudes towards food and fitness.5. Stay tuned to the Happy Families podcast throughout the week as we unpack the episode in even more detail.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking to kids about money can feel daunting. What if you say the wrong thing? What if they pick up your bad habits? In this episode of The Happy Families Podcast, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by financial literacy expert Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon to unpack practical, age-appropriate ways to help kids develop healthy money habits. From pocket money tips and goal-setting to avoiding the “tap trap” and understanding the power of time and compound interest, this episode will help you raise kids who feel confident and capable with their finances — and maybe teach you a thing or two along the way. KEY POINTS: Why parents’ attitudes and modelling matter more than a single “money talk” The importance of teaching kids to delay gratification and set goals Why kids’ biggest financial advantage is time — and how to help them use it Fun, kid-friendly ways to teach saving and earning (including apps and games) The psychological danger of passing on “economic anxiety” to kids How to make invisible digital money more tangible for children QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"The most powerful financial lesson kids can learn is watching you model mindful, deliberate spending — and hearing you talk about why." — Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon RESOURCES MENTIONED: Kit Pocket Money App & Guide — a pocket money app and free downloadable guide for kids Moneysmart.gov.au — trusted financial literacy resources for adults and kids Spriggy — another popular pocket money app Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon’s book How to Get Mortgage-Free Like Me ASIC and Financial Literacy Board initiatives ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:1. Start talking about money with your kids early — keep it open and judgement-free.2. Use cash with younger kids so they can “see” money and understand it’s finite.3. Help your kids set savings goals and offer stretch incentives to build motivation.4. Model good money habits: avoid impulse buys, talk about budgeting, and explain your choices.5. Teach them about time as an asset: the earlier they save and invest, the more powerful the results.6. Consider using a pocket money app to track chores, savings, and spending in a fun, visual way.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like bedtime (or just family life in general) is chaos? In this warm, honest episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin and Kylie share two powerful but simple parenting insights that can transform your family’s connection and calm. From spontaneous expressions of love to creating structured, soothing routines, you’ll walk away inspired to make small changes that lead to big results. KEY POINTS: Don’t wait for a “special moment” to show love. Tell your kids you love and appreciate them spontaneously, even in the middle of everyday moments. Structure creates calm. A consistent, enjoyable bedtime routine can lower resistance and help kids feel secure and settled. Competence matters. When children know what to do and what to expect, they feel more capable, cooperative, and happy. Even partial consistency is better than none. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get it perfect — keep trying. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Structure builds competence. Competence is a basic psychological need. When kids feel like they know what they're supposed to be doing and how to do it, they just feel better about life." — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance TV Show, Episode 3 — airing Monday at 7:30 on Nine & 9Now. More parenting resources and articles at: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: 1. Pick a moment today to tell your child you love them and what they mean to you — unprompted.2. Create or refine a simple bedtime routine that includes calming, positive steps your child enjoys.3. Aim for consistency, but don’t let perfect be the enemy of good — even small, regular steps make a difference.4. Notice and celebrate how structure and loving words improve the atmosphere in your home.5. Share this episode or insight with a friend or family member who could use a little parenting encouragement!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

t’s the conversation most parents hope they never have — but need to. Sexting, short shorts, and the values we bring into how we talk to our kids about consent, respect, and peer pressure. In this episode, Justin & Kylie Coulson unpack the big issues raised on this week’s Parental Guidance, and how you can guide your kids through a digital world where nothing sent is ever truly private. KEY POINTS Sexting is prevalent and often normalised among teens — but there is no such thing as “safe sexting.” Conversations about consent, respect, and peer pressure are vital and should happen early. Girls are under more pressure to share explicit images and often face more shame when they do. Parents’ personal values (e.g., about clothing choices) are valid but must not drift into victim-blaming. Teaching kids respect means emphasising that what someone wears or does never justifies harassment or assault. Encourage kids to consider context and to be mindful of how they live out their own values while respecting others’. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "Once you send an image, you lose control of what happens to that image — full stop, end of story." RESOURCES MENTIONED happyfamilies.com.au — Resources and articles on consent, sexting, and raising respectful kids. Justin’s book Miss-Connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter ‘Hates’ You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk (for more on teen girls and digital challenges). Upcoming book on raising boys - join the waitlist. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Start open, nonjudgmental conversations about sexting, consent, and peer pressure — don’t wait until it’s too late.2. Make it clear: no one “deserves” mistreatment based on what they wear or share.3. Teach kids to think critically about requests for photos and to value their privacy.4. Emphasise that respect and consent are non-negotiable — and model these values yourself.5. Remind kids: even trusted friends can break trust, and once something’s sent, it’s out of their control.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s one of the hardest — and most important — conversations parents can have: teaching kids about consent. In this episode of the Happy Families Podcast, we break down the powerful lessons from Parental Guidance season 3, episode 2, including insights from consent educator Dan Principe. From why consent conversations can’t wait, to the right age to start, to how to empower kids without shame or fear — we’ll help you get comfortable having uncomfortable conversations, and raise kids who understand respect, boundaries, and healthy relationships. KEY POINTS Why consent education starts “before age two” — and why “early and often” matters. The startling reality: 15–19 year old girls are the largest group of sexual assault victims; 15–19 year old boys are the largest group of perpetrators. Why old-school “guns and shovels” attitudes harm more than they help. The role of ongoing, informal and formal family conversations about tricky topics. The three E’s: Explore, Explain, Empower — the simple framework for any difficult talk. How social media and “sharing” require kids’ consent too — even within the family. The risk of silence: what happens when kids don’t feel safe coming to their parents. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We need to get comfortable being uncomfortable — because no young person should feel like their curiosity or desires are shameful." — Dan Principe RESOURCES MENTIONED Dan Principe: Consent educator and speaker (recommended for schools) Federal Government’s Consent Can’t Wait campaign (Justin as ambassador) More parenting resources at: happyfamilies.com.au Watch Parental Guidance seasons 1–3 on 9Now ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Start the conversation early — even before they understand the words, practice being open and clear.2. Commit to ongoing “early and often” chats — not just one big talk.3. Schedule regular family check-ins to discuss tricky topics.4. Use the three E’s: Explore what they know and feel, Explain what’s important, Empower them to make good decisions.5. Check in on consent within your own family dynamics — ask before sharing kids’ stories or images online.6. Drop the fear-based jokes and attitudes — empower kids with respect and tools, not shame or threats.7. Remind yourself: if they don’t learn it from you, they’ll learn it somewhere else.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Peer pressure is often seen as negative, but as Justin puts it - "you become the average of the five people you spend the most time with". The key is healthy and positive friendships, and with loneliness at an all time high, we wanted to find out how the families on Parental Guidance are helping their kids make and foster friendships. In a world where kids feel lonelier than ever- despite being constantly “connected” - how can we help them build real, meaningful friendships and resist negative peer pressure? How are the families on Parental Guidance helping their kids make and foster friendships? In this episode, we dive into the crucial role of social skills, healthy face-to-face interactions, and intentional parenting to help children thrive socially and emotionally. KEY POINTS Not all peer pressure is bad — positive peer pressure can help kids adopt healthy habits. Many kids today struggle with loneliness despite being surrounded by peers, often due to excessive screen time and lack of real-world social practice. Social skills like introducing oneself, showing curiosity, and maintaining conversations are essential for resisting negative peer pressure. Parents play a key role by modelling healthy social interactions, facilitating opportunities, and keeping conversations about relationships open and non-judgemental. Excessive technology use may hinder social development, but more evidence is needed to fully understand the impact. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with — so help your kids choose wisely." – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES Find more parenting resources and tips for making your family happier at Happy Families. You can watch Parental Guidance on demand at 9NOW. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS ✅ Reduce your child’s screen time and encourage more in-person social interactions.✅ Organise supervised, face-to-face playdates or gatherings to help kids practice social skills.✅ Have regular conversations with your child about their friendships — what’s working, what’s hard, and how they feel about making new friends.✅ Teach curiosity and empathy by modelling how to ask good questions and show interest in others.✅ Support your child in developing both structured (team sports, clubs) and unstructured (free play) social experiences.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tonight on Parental Guidance, Season 3 continues with one of the most important—and challenging—parenting topics: peer pressure and consent. Justin and Kylie preview Episode 2, teasing the big questions you’ll want to discuss with your kids after watching. From raising upstanders to helping kids say “no” when it matters most, this episode is packed with practical ways to strengthen your family’s values in the face of social pressure. KEY POINTS: Season 3 of Parental Guidance airs tonight at 7:30 on Channel 9 and 9Now, with Episode 2 focusing on peer pressure and consent. Peer pressure often drives kids into non-consensual or harmful behaviour—helping them stand firm is critical. Questions parents should reflect on and discuss with their kids: How comfortable are your children in new social situations? Have you had clear, age-appropriate conversations about consent? Will your child be an upstander when others are excluded or bullied? Can your child say “no” even when everyone else is saying “yes”? Watching Parental Guidance offers real-time insights from other families and adds powerful tools to your parenting toolkit. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "How strong are your kids? Are they willing to say no when everyone else is saying yes?" RESOURCES MENTIONED: Watch Parental Guidance, Season 3, Episode 2 tonight at 7:30 on Channel 9 or stream on 9Now. Parenting resources and family tools: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: 1. Watch Parental Guidance tonight and pay attention to the ways families handle peer pressure and consent conversations.2. Use the four big questions from this episode to spark meaningful discussions with your kids.3. Model and teach your children how to be upstanders, not bystanders, in social situations.4. Revisit your conversations about consent, ensuring they’re clear, ongoing, and age-appropriate.5. Reflect on your own parenting approach and add at least one new idea to your “toolkit” after watching.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking about money with kids can feel awkward, but it matters more than most parents realise. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by Ish Co, Managing Director of Kit – a pocket money app by the Commonwealth Bank. Together, they unpack how to teach kids under 10 the foundations of money management. From delayed gratification to understanding digital money, this is a must-listen for any parent wanting their kids to grow up financially savvy. KEY POINTS: Kids learn most about money from parents, not schools. Conversations, role modelling, and real-life experiences build financial literacy. Key lessons for kids under 10: saving, understanding interest, delaying gratification, and learning how earning works. Use cash with younger kids to make money tangible, but transition to digital tools as they grow. Pocket money works best when it’s regular, not random. Automation can help teach saving and spending habits without the parent constantly managing it. The average pocket money for 8–10-year-olds is $7.30 per week, but the amount matters less than the learning opportunity it provides. Use money conversations to teach kids about choices, consequences, and even charity. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Being good at money isn’t about having lots of money. It’s about using money as a tool to live the life you want.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Hey Kit – a pocket money app and card for kids (by Commonwealth Bank) Moneysmart.gov.au—Australian Government financial literacy tools for families ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start talking about money early—age 5 and up. Model good money behaviours—saving, budgeting, and mindful spending. Use pocket money (even small amounts) to teach saving, spending, and giving. Make money visible: show account balances before and after spending to teach the concept in a digital world. Link money to goals—whether it's saving for a toy, a holiday, or something bigger. Don’t shut down questions about money—turn them into meaningful conversations. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do AI chatbot dangers, thirty young adults crammed into a tiny home, and a book-writing marathon have in common? They’re all part of this week’s rollercoaster ride in the Coulson household. In this deeply personal episode, Justin and Kylie share what lit them up—and what nearly broke them. From a powerful conversation about building community around our kids, to the sobering risks of digital "friendships," and the heavy toll of creating a book that could change lives, this is an episode about showing up, staying intentional, and doing better tomorrow. KEY POINTS: The importance of intentional community building for our children’s wellbeing Why involving young adults in parenting conversations can have a powerful ripple effect The real-world risks of AI chatbots for kids—romantic roleplay, misinformation, and impersonating therapists How curiosity and loneliness make kids vulnerable to chatbot manipulation Behind the scenes of writing a parenting book: three years, 600 index cards, and countless sacrifices Why the upcoming book on raising tween and teen boys might be Justin’s most important work yet QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"One of the biggest predictors for mental wellbeing is connection—and building that village around our kids is imperative." – Kylie Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Tristan Harris and the Center for Humane Technology Parental Guidance (TV series) Happy Families website: happyfamilies.com.au Register your interest in Justin’s upcoming book on raising boys ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Be Intentional About Community: Invite others into your home—even if it’s tight. Connection doesn’t need perfection. Talk to Your Kids About AI: Don’t assume they're safe just because you haven’t seen the risks firsthand. Pre-arm them with knowledge. Stay Curious About Your Child’s World: Ask what apps or sites they use. Learn with them and for them. Support Resources That Serve Families: Share tools and conversations that spark growth—like this podcast and the upcoming book. Model Vulnerability and Growth: Let your kids see that you're always learning, always growing. It’s okay to say, “I’ll do better tomorrow.” See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s confronting. It’s heartbreaking. And it’s happening every day.Australia ranks among the highest in the world for online bullying—and too many parents feel powerless to stop it. In this episode, Justin and Kylie recap the raw and eye-opening online bullying challenge from Parental Guidance Season 3. They’re joined by Australia’s eSafety Commissioner, Julie Inman Grant, who shares the harsh realities—and practical solutions—for families. From shocking in-game bullying to vital conversations every family should be having, this is an essential listen for every parent navigating the digital world with their kids. KEY POINTS: Australia has the second-highest rates of reported online bullying globally—after the U.S. The Parental Guidance challenge exposed how confronting online bullying can be for both children and parents. Many children don’t realise how harmful their words can be online. Cyberbullying often happens within school communities, not just with strangers. The anonymity of screens makes hurtful behaviour easier for some children. Julie Inman Grant (eSafety Commissioner) highlights that 1 in 5 Aussie kids experience cyberbullying. Critical advice includes: monitor online activity, keep screens out of bedrooms and bathrooms, and have regular, open conversations. Teach kids to block, report, and escalate harmful behaviour. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Talk early and talk often. This is not a one-off conversation—it’s an ongoing part of parenting in the digital age.”– Julie Inman Grant, eSafety Commissioner RESOURCES MENTIONED: eSafety Commissioner: https://www.esafety.gov.au – for reporting cyberbullying and accessing resources. Parental Guidance on 9Now – to watch the full episode and share with your family. Happy Families: https://www.happyfamilies.com.au – for parenting resources, courses, and support. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Monitor & Supervise: Know what your kids are doing online. Familiarise yourself with the games, apps, and chat platforms they use. Keep Screens Out of Bedrooms/Bathrooms: These are the places where harm often escalates—whether it’s exploitation or cyberbullying. Teach Block & Report: Empower your kids to block bullies and report harmful behaviour quickly and confidently. Talk Early, Talk Often: Start conversations about online behaviour when your kids are young—and keep them going as they grow. Escalate if Needed: If the bullying continues, report it to the platform, the school, the eSafety Commissioner, or even law enforcement when necessary. Model Healthy Tech Use: Show your kids what respectful online interactions look like—and when it’s okay to disconnect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A video of Justin... that Justin never made. This was the shocking moment that shook the families on Parental Guidance—a deepfake designed to highlight how real, how convincing, and how dangerous AI can be for our kids. In today’s recap, we dive into the confronting realities of deepfakes, online safety, and skyrocketing screen time. From fake videos to 65-hour screen weeks, how do we protect our kids in this hyperconnected world? KEY POINTS: Deepfakes are real, fast, and easy. It took producers just 20 minutes to create a convincing fake video of Justin. This raises serious concerns about privacy, consent, and exploitation—especially for teens. The gendered impact is severe. 98% of deepfake porn targets women and girls, with devastating emotional and psychological consequences. The 'be careful what you post' advice is outdated. Even innocent images like yearbook photos can be misused. The real focus needs to be on teaching empathy, respect, and legal consequences. Screen time shock. One family clocked 21 devices for 6 people. A parent averaged 65 hours a week—over 9 hours a day—and her son hit 16 hours in a single day. The real cost of screen time. Excessive screens impact brain development, sleep, social skills, physical health, and relationships. Digital connections aren't enough. Kids need real-life, face-to-face interaction for emotional and neurological growth—nine times more brain activation happens in person than on Zoom. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "When we spend time in front of a screen—especially when it's excessive—we do not grow our brain. In fact, the research suggests there’s less grey matter. That is a massive problem." – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson TV Show: Parental Guidance Season 3 – available on 9Now Website: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Talk about it. Have open, honest conversations with your kids about AI, deepfakes, and consent. Teach empathy. Reinforce that using someone's image without consent is a violation of their humanity—and often a crime. Audit your screens. Count your family’s devices and track your own usage. Awareness is step one. Prioritise real-world connection. Schedule offline time daily. Prioritise nature, play, face-to-face conversations, and physical activity. Set boundaries. Create clear family rules about screen time, nighttime device use, and online safety. Model the behaviour. Kids notice if we say one thing but do another. Manage your own screen habits. Stay informed. Keep up with emerging tech risks and solutions. Read, listen, learn, and adjust. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

They look fun. They seem harmless. But behind the screen, AI chatbots are creating dangerously deceptive relationships with our kids. In this gripping recap of Parental Guidance Season 3, Episode 1, Justin and Kylie unpack the most confronting challenge yet: kids creating AI “friends.” From flirtatious bots to false identities and emotional manipulation, this episode reveals just how easily our children can be drawn into harmful digital connections—and what parents must do to protect them. KEY POINTS: AI chatbots are being marketed directly to kids as a solution for loneliness and boredom. All four children in the challenge encountered manipulative, deceptive bots, including flirtation, secrets, and attempts to move conversations to apps like Snapchat. The bots often blurred the line between real and fake, undermining children's understanding of truth and connection. Expert insights from Dr Raphael Chayérello (AI ethics, University of Sydney) highlighted how AI is designed to mine data, provoke emotional reactions, and retain attention at all costs. There is currently no legislation protecting children in these spaces—and some real-life cases have ended in tragedy. The episode illustrates why AI “friendships” are never in a child’s best interest. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“There is nothing redeeming about these bots. They are deceptive, manipulative, and dangerous—and they are not your child’s friend.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance Season 3 – Episode 1 (available on 9Now) HappyFamilies.com.au for daily episode recaps and parenting tools Dr Raphael Chayérello, AI Ethics Expert, University of Sydney ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Talk to your kids today about AI bots: Ask if they or their friends use them. What are those chats like? Explain clearly that AI is not real, not a friend, and often not safe. Stay informed: Watch the episode with your child and open up discussion about what they saw. Prioritise real-world friendships: If your child is lonely, support them in developing face-to-face connections. Set boundaries around tech: AI bots are just one of many digital dangers—have regular conversations about safe and healthy screen use. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reality TV with a purpose? Yes, please. Parental Guidance Season 3 kicks off tonight—and in this special preview episode, Justin and Kylie share everything you need to know before tuning in. From parenting styles to hot-button topics like body image, screen time, and AI bots, this four-night TV event dives deep into the challenges real families are facing right now. Whether you're a traditional parent, a positivity parent, or somewhere in between, this season is designed to spark honest conversations and offer hope for families doing their best in tough times. KEY POINTS: Parental Guidance Season 3 airs over four consecutive nights on Channel Nine and 9Now. It’s not about winning—just eight families courageously sharing their parenting lives. Topics include: Screen time (including AI friends and bots) Body image (a heart-wrenching and inspiring episode) Mental health Peer pressure Unexpected insights into education Parenting styles this season include: Traditional, Protect, Active, Upfront, Authoritative, Hard Way, Life School, and Positivity. The aim: Honest, respectful conversations about what parenting looks like today—and what’s working. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “As parents, we need to believe in a positive future for our kids—and I think this show gives us the tools and the keys we need to get there.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance Season 3 (Channel Nine and 9Now) HappyFamilies.com.au for related resources and daily podcast reviews following each episode. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Watch tonight’s episode live (7:30pm on Nine and 9Now) to be part of the national conversation. Talk with your kids after each episode—what do they think about what they saw? Tune in to the Happy Families daily recap podcasts this week for expert insights into the challenges raised on the show. Share the show and the podcast with friends or family—it’s a powerful conversation starter. Reflect on your own parenting style and ask: What’s working? What might I try differently? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we making life too easy for our kids? In a world where we rush to remove every obstacle from our children’s paths, we may be unintentionally robbing them of the very thing they need most—resilience. In this powerful conversation, Dr. Justin Coulson is joined by Tim Curtis—former SAS Commander, humanitarian, and author of Building Resilient Kids. From war zones to raising teens, Tim’s lived experience offers extraordinary insights into how resilience is truly built. Together, they unpack why a little stress is good, why failure matters, and the foundational layers that make kids bounce back stronger. This is the resilience masterclass every parent needs. KEY POINTS: Resilience isn’t fixed; it can be built. The Resilience Shield Model: Six layers—Innate, Mind, Body, Social, Professional, and Adaptation. Stress is essential—but it needs to be the right amount. Overprotective parenting harms resilience—kids need to struggle to grow. The power of strong family connections as the cornerstone of resilience. Practical stories from war zones, camps, and families that highlight resilience in action. How parents can role model resilience every day (including how we handle bad drivers and broken sinks!). Why rest and recovery are crucial parts of resilience—not signs of failure. The difference between resilience, willpower, and grit. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Resilience varies by degree, not by kind. The stress in your child’s life is real to them—and they need it to grow.” – Tim Curtis RESOURCES MENTIONED: Book: Building Resilient Kids by Tim Curtis (out July 1) Podcast: The Unforgiving Sixty Podcast: Building Resilient Kids (Tim’s companion podcast to the book) Resilience Shield Model – Research-backed framework Jill Bolte Taylor on emotions passing in 90 seconds Research by Carol Dweck (Growth Mindset) and Angela Duckworth (Grit) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Model resilience. Let your kids see you handle stress, setbacks, and failure with grace and recovery. Let them fail—safely. Small failures help kids build the coping mechanisms they’ll need later in life. Prioritise the basics: Sleep, nutrition, exercise, and social connection—these are resilience superpowers. Let them sit with discomfort. Don’t rush to fix every negative emotion. Let them learn that emotions pass. Talk about effort, not outcomes. Celebrate trying, learning, and persisting more than trophies or grades. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Having your heart right towards your child is probably the most important thing you can do... but how you communicate is right up there too.” In this episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, we share two powerful parenting wins from our own family this week. From navigating bedtime battles with our youngest to having a meaningful (and sometimes hilarious) conversation about consent and relationships with our teens, this is real-life parenting in action. These are the conversations that create connection, foster trust, and build resilience — and we’re sharing exactly how we did it. KEY POINTS: A Bedtime Breakthrough: How revisiting the basics (routines, rituals, and conversations) transformed bedtime struggles with our youngest daughter. The Power of the 3 E’s: Explore, Explain, Empower — a simple yet profound communication framework that creates buy-in, not battles. Tricky Talks That Stick: Why our once-a-month ‘tough talks’ with our teens have become weekly — and how they’re building confidence and safety around topics like consent, relationships, pressure, and boundaries. Start Early, Talk Often: Even our 11-year-old stayed engaged in a complex conversation about consent, showing that these conversations are never too early (or too late). It’s Not About Perfection: Success comes from showing up, leaning in, and keeping the conversations going — not from getting it right every time. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “When kids understand the rationale, things go so much better.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families – Resources for a happier family. Consent.gov.au – Consent resources and the Consent Can’t Wait campaign. Parental Guidance TV Show – Channel 9 and 9Now. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Use the 3 E’s: Next time you face a challenge, pause and ask yourself — have I explored their perspective, explained mine, and empowered them to help solve it? Rethink Bedtime: If routines are breaking down, revisit rituals that worked when they were younger — and involve your child in creating the new plan. Schedule Tricky Talks: Don’t wait for problems to arise. Make space for regular conversations about emotions, consent, relationships, and boundaries. Make It Fun (and Safe): Keep these talks light, warm, and open — banter, laughter, and snacks help! Remember the Timing: Big conversations are most effective when emotions are calm — not in the middle of conflict. Share This Episode: Know someone struggling with bedtime battles or tricky teen conversations? Flick this episode their way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode isn’t like our usual Thursday chats. Today, we’re unboxing something that could genuinely change — or even save — lives. It’s not about us. It’s about a cause close to our hearts: men’s mental health and suicide prevention. After losing our nephew to suicide in 2023, this mission became deeply personal. Join us as we unpack the Gotcha For Life Men's Care Box — a collaboration between Gotcha For Life and Chemist Warehouse. For just $20, you get over $100 worth of products, and every single cent supports suicide prevention efforts. Hear what's inside, why it matters, and how this simple purchase could help someone you love. KEY POINTS: A Personal Story: The heartbreaking loss of Justin’s nephew to suicide in 2023 reshaped their family and their conversations forever. Gotcha For Life's Mission: Aiming to reduce suicide to zero by fostering meaningful connections and conversations. The Men’s Care Box: $20 at Chemist Warehouse, packed with over $100 worth of self-care items. Every Dollar Helps: 100% of proceeds go directly to Gotcha For Life’s mental fitness initiatives. Why It Matters: A simple gesture — like gifting this box — reminds the men in your life that they are seen, valued, and loved. The Bike Analogy: We often see people moving through life like a bike’s headlight in the dark — not realising how hard they’re pedalling just to stay afloat. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “We see the light—that’s a life. But we don’t see how hard someone is pedalling underneath to stay afloat.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Gotcha For Life – Mental fitness programs and support. Gotcha For Life Men’s Care Box – Available at Chemist Warehouse (while stocks last). Happy Families – Resources for a happier family. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Buy a Box: Head to Chemist Warehouse and grab a Gotcha For Life Men's Care Box — for yourself, or for someone who needs a reminder that they matter. Check In: Reach out to a mate. Ask how they're really going. Start a meaningful conversation. Look for the Pedalling: Pay attention to the people around you — even those who seem like they’re doing fine. Explore Mental Fitness: Check out Gotcha For Life’s resources to strengthen your own mental fitness and support those around you. Normalise Vulnerability: Model open, honest conversations with your children about emotions, struggle, and seeking help. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.