Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

What if the secret to calmer kids, stronger families, and better mental health was free—and we’re the only country ignoring it? In this episode, Justin and Kylie make a bold case for bringing Thanksgiving to Australia… minus the turkey. Discover the neuroscience of gratitude, why it’s a proven buffer against anxiety and depression, and how one simple family ritual can transform your year. KEY POINTS The surprising research: gratitude can reduce mortality by 9% and dramatically improve mental health. How gratitude rewires the brain—calming the amygdala and boosting emotional connection. Why Australians struggle with vulnerability, ritual, and expressed appreciation. How a simple gratitude practice can shift your home from reactive to relational. Easy, meaningful ways to host “Australian Thanksgiving” without any fuss. The power of modelling gratitude for kids (and why lectures never work). QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control where we place our attention—and gratitude changes everything.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Harvard gratitude research (2024) Neuroscience findings on the ACC, medial prefrontal cortex & amygdala Kylie’s gratitude journal practice and gratitude tree idea 6 Science-Backed Benefits of Gratitude [Article] How Gratitude Can Make Your Family Happier [Podcast Article] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start a family ritual this week—one to three things you’re grateful for. Keep it kid-friendly: a gratitude tree, backyard dessert night, or paddle-pop party. Record your gratitude in a notebook or on your phone to revisit next year. Model vulnerability by sharing something meaningful, not just the generic stuff. Make it small, simple, and doable—the ritual matters more than the menu. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A huge week in the Coulson household — ADHD dilemmas, graduation milestones, big Roblox safety updates, and a brutally honest conversation about whether homeschooling is finally over. In this episode, we unpack the emotional load of parenting when life feels stretched thin, and why the choices we make for our kids rarely come with simple answers. KEY POINTS ADHD medications, family wellbeing, and the real question behind parental burnout Why “child problems” are often “environment problems” A major Roblox safety update parents need to know about Graduation highs, formal prep… and food poisoning A heartfelt mother–daughter conversation about going back to school How exploration conversations help kids feel heard (and make decisions they trust) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We’ve got to stop blaming the child — most of the time it’s not a child problem, it’s an environment problem." RESOURCES MENTIONED ADHD episode (“Halloween ADHD Overdiagnosis”) Sammy Tamimi’s Searching for Normal and Naughty Boys Happy Families Podcast feedback: podcast@happyfamilies.com ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause and ask: Is this really a child issue, or is the environment overstretched? Revisit routines — sleep, movement, screens, food — before jumping to quick fixes Try an “exploration conversation” with your child when emotions are high Stay curious, not certain — especially with big decisions Monitor new Roblox age-check and chat-safety changes if gaming is in your home See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Schoolies can feel like a runaway train of risk, pressure, and “everyone else is doing it.” But your teen does have options—ones that are safer, more meaningful, and genuinely unforgettable. In this episode, Justin and Kylie share powerful ways to reframe the end-of-Year-12 celebration, build intention, and offer your teen experiences they’ll remember for all the right reasons. From once-in-a-lifetime trips to simple, joy-filled adventures closer to home, you’ll get practical, confidence-boosting ideas you can start planning at any age. KEY POINTS Why schoolies culture isn’t a rite of passage your teen needs. How intention and values help guide safer, healthier choices. Clever alternatives that still feel exciting, independent, and celebratory. Trips with parents, extended family, or friend groups that build connection — not chaos. Affordable options, big-dream options, and ways to start planning years ahead. How to talk to kids about celebrations while honouring freedom and safety. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “High school is done — that is worth celebrating. But celebration doesn’t have to mean chaos. It can be meaningful, memorable, and still full of freedom.” RESOURCES MENTIONED 5 Essential Conversations to Have With Your Teen Before Schoolies [Article] Get Set for Schoolies withPaul Dillon [Podcast Episode] Community & church-run schoolies alternatives Family traditions like “Sweet Sixteen Trips” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start the conversation early — schoolies ideas form long before Year 12. Ask your teen what they want from an end-of-school celebration (freedom? adventure? connection?). Brainstorm alternatives that align with your family values and your teen’s personality. If planning a bigger trip, start saving as a team — years ahead if possible. Explore friend-group or community-group options to add excitement, safety, and shared memories. Remind your teen that opting out of schoolies isn’t missing out — it can be levelling up. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your tween or teen feels stuck, scared of failure, or glued to their screen, this episode will change everything. Education innovator Chris Balme reveals why adolescence is the second great brain-growth window — and why kids today desperately need more real-world challenges, not more protection. A powerful, hopeful conversation about autonomy, resilience, and helping young people feel big, brave, and capable again. KEY POINTS Why ages 11–16 are a critical “second toddlerhood” of brain growth How autonomy builds confidence (and why modern kids get too little) The danger of overprotection and structured everything What a good challenge looks like vs. a stress-inducing one How to help risk-averse teens stretch themselves — without forcing Why peers, not parents, are the secret to motivation Real examples of challenges that transformed kids QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When we don’t trust our adolescents, they stop trusting us.” — Chris Balme RESOURCES MENTIONED Challenge Accepted by Chris Balme Argonaut: Online advisory program for middle schoolers Millennium School + Hakuba International School ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Fuel autonomy: Let your tween choose a meaningful challenge this week. Enlist peers: Hook them in through a friend, not parental pressure. Normalise failure: Remind them adolescence is the best time to mess up safely. Reduce overprotection: Give back small freedoms — walking, biking, exploring. Model vulnerability: Share your own unfinished, imperfect self. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your eight-year-old won’t walk into another room without you, this episode will change everything. Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on beneath “irrational” childhood fears—and why pushing independence backfires. Instead, you’ll hear the science of secure attachment, relatable stories, and simple steps that make your child braver because you’ve got their back. KEY POINTS Your child’s fear isn’t irrational—it’s real to them. Why forcing independence increases fear and dependence. Resilience is relational: kids become brave when they feel safe. How modelling your own fears helps kids face theirs. Four practical, developmentally sound ideas to reduce anxiety and build confidence. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Force creates resistance. The more we push independence, the more our kids cling.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Go with them—compassion beats coercion. Skip the praise for doing things alone; it creates pressure. Trust development—he’ll grow into independence naturally. Stay curious—watch for any underlying stressors or changes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We watched YouTube Kids for a week — and what we discovered will make you rethink what “family-friendly” really means. From brain-rotting toy ads to troubling messages about body image, Justin and Kylie pull back the curtain on the world’s biggest kids’ platform. They share what’s really happening behind the glossy PR and how parents can protect their children’s developing minds without banning screens altogether. KEY POINTS: Why YouTube Kids isn’t as “safe” as it claims to be The shocking example of a video promoting unhealthy body messages to young viewers How YouTube’s algorithm traps kids in endless loops of commercialised “slop” The staggering amount of time humanity spends watching YouTube — and what that means for our kids What intentional viewing looks like (and how to teach it) Why ABC Kids is still the gold standard for healthy, enriching screen time QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Every single day, over 114,000 years of content is consumed on YouTube. That’s not just a statistic — that’s a snapshot of our children’s attention.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Sunday Times article by Stephanie Thompson on YouTube Kids ABC Kids App (recommended for quality, curated viewing) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Sit down and watch what your child is actually watching — even for 10 minutes. Switch from passive viewing to intentional viewing: search for specific, quality content together. Use ABC Kids or pre-approved playlists instead of relying on algorithmic recommendations. Have a conversation about how YouTube makes money — and why that matters. Set screen time limits that prioritise creativity and real-world play. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever had one of those parenting days — where you lose your cool, say the wrong thing, and immediately wish for a do-over? In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson get real about what happens when we mess up, why rupture can lead to repair, and how connection - not perfection - is what truly builds a happy family. From teenage meltdowns to dinner duty disasters, the Coulsons share honest lessons on letting go, apologising, and finding calm after chaos. KEY POINTS Delegating family responsibilities isn’t always smooth — but it’s worth persisting. Why “getting it wrong” can be the doorway to deeper connection. Repairing ruptures teaches kids accountability, empathy, and love in action. The magic of family moments that start messy but end meaningful. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You don’t know everything as a parent — but if you’re lucky, your kids will show you what really matters: the relationship.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Episode #1481 'When Every Night Is a Meltdown' HappyFamilies.com.au for parenting tools and insights ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before reacting. Step away and breathe before addressing your child’s behaviour. Own your mistakes. Model humility by admitting when you got it wrong. Repair the rupture. Circle back for a calm conversation and reconnection. Share responsibility. Let kids take part in family life — even if it’s messy at first. Celebrate small wins. Connection grows in the moments you choose grace over perfection. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kids these days! Every generation thinks the next generation is doing it wrong, is disrespectful and is less intelligent. This goes back centuries and is nothing new. Today on the podcast, a discussion inspired by an article in the journal Science Advances - titled 'Kids these days: Why the youth of today seem lacking'. Find more resources to make your family happier at the Happy Families website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The One Lesson Every Dad of Daughters Must Learn 270 men. One powerful story. When Kylie Coulson stood before a room full of dads at the “Fathers of Only Girls” charity lunch, she didn’t give them a parenting lecture — she shared something far more raw and real. This episode is that talk: a deeply moving reminder that the best way to raise strong, emotionally secure daughters begins with one simple act — how you love their mum. KEY POINTS Why emotional safety at home starts with your relationship, not your parenting. The real reason your daughter’s future relationships mirror yours. What happens when we stop trying to fix and start listening. How to model love, grace, and security — even when life feels heavy. The single sentence that could redefine fatherhood. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Sometimes the most effective parenting we’ll ever do has nothing to do with our children — and everything to do with the person we choose to be.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Fathers of Only Girls (FOOGS) charity happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Hold space for your partner — without fixing or judging. Show your daughter what love looks like in real life. Remember: how you treat her mother is how she’ll learn to love herself. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The social media age ban is coming - and parents everywhere are freaking out. But here’s the truth: this isn’t the end of your child’s world. It’s a chance to reshape it. Justin and Kylie share five practical ways to help your teen navigate life beyond the screen - from rebuilding real-world friendships to resetting your family’s digital habits. KEY POINTS: Why banning social media isn’t enough — and what families can do instead How to start calm, open conversations with your teen about the changes The surprising benefits of going “old school” (yes, landlines are back!) Why parents need to reconnect with their kids’ social circles The power of modelling healthy tech boundaries as adults QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “If all we do is say ‘you can’t have this thing,’ something else will fill the void.” — Dr. Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr. Justin Coulson The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt Pediatric Research, July 2025: “Navigating Youth, Smartphones, and Policy” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start the conversation early - ask how your teen feels about the change. Help them reconnect offline: swap phone numbers, plan hangouts, build community. Fade out (or cut off) social media together - in solidarity. Model it. Set your own tech boundaries. Make it positive - this is an opportunity, not a punishment. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re raising a generation surrounded by noise, opinions, and algorithms — but how do we teach kids to actually think for themselves? Dr Justin Coulson talks with headmaster and author Michael Parker about helping children (and ourselves) escape echo chambers, stretch attention spans, and develop true independent thought in the age of AI and endless scrolling. KEY POINTS: Why attention span is the #1 obstacle to deep thinking How social media and “influencer logic” shape young minds The surprising role of boredom and debate in critical thinking Practical ways to nurture reflection and focus at home Why AI might help—or hurt—our children’s ability to think independently QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“Stop listening to the loudest and most extreme voices. Start thinking for yourself.” — Michael Parker RESOURCES MENTIONED: Thinking for Yourself by Michael Parker and Fiona Morrison More parenting insights at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Stretch your child’s attention span with longer, screen-free activities. Encourage respectful debates and devil’s advocate questions at home. Expose your family to multiple perspectives—especially those you disagree with. Model reflective thinking out loud when you make decisions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When life forces you to slow down, sometimes that’s exactly what your family needs. In this raw, real “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow,” Justin and Kylie share how a tough week - complete with surgery, surf trips, and kids cooking dinner - led to surprising moments of growth and gratitude. It’s a gentle reminder that slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind. KEY POINTS Why stepping back can strengthen your family The hidden power of sharing the load Teaching kids responsibility through real contribution The mindset shift that turns “I can’t” into “We can” QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Sometimes it’s okay to lay flat on your back and let somebody else carry the load. They usually can—and the world won’t fall apart.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Minted Kids podcast with Nicole Peterson McKinnon Boys by Dr Justin Coulson (coming 2026) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let someone else lead for a day. Involve kids in cooking or chores—real, meaningful help. Reflect: where can you slow down before the season speeds up? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A 13-year Australian study has just dropped — and its findings are shaking the medical world. Children on ADHD medication reported lower quality of life than those who weren’t medicated. In this eye-opening episode, Justin unpacks why the “gold standard” research behind ADHD treatment might have been flawed all along — and what this means for families trying to do what’s best for their kids. This one might make you rethink everything you’ve been told. KEY POINTS The shocking new Deakin University study on ADHD medication and child wellbeing. Why “the gold standard” MTA study may have misled the world for decades. How peer review can fail — and how Big Pharma shapes the story. What long-term follow-ups reveal about medication outcomes. Why your child isn’t the problem — and what really needs to change instead. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Your child doesn’t have a problem. Thinking your child is the problem is often the bigger problem.” RESOURCES MENTIONED MTA Study (Multimodal Treatment of ADHD) and 3-year follow-up research. Deakin University longitudinal study on ADHD medication and quality of life. The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson. Parenting ADHD [The Course] + Course FAQs [Article] Help for the Parent with ADHD ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Don’t make changes overnight — start by reading the linked studies. Talk to your child’s GP, psychologist, or psychiatrist about alternative supports. Focus on your child’s environment, not just their behaviour. Trust your gut — if something doesn’t feel right, it’s worth exploring. Remember: grace for your child, yourself, and your professionals. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve been told that “good” parents never take their eyes off their kids — but what if that’s the very thing making childhood (and parenting) harder? In this fascinating chat, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with Lenore Skenazy — New York Times bestselling author of Free Range Kids and co-founder of Let Grow — whose viral act of letting her 9-year-old ride the NYC subway alone sparked a global movement. Fresh from her TED Talk, Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids, Lenore dismantles the “terrible lie” that children can’t handle life on their own — and reveals why the best learning, confidence, and resilience often happen when parents step back. KEY POINTS The fear-driven parenting trap — and how media and culture made “unsupervised” a dirty word. The myth of “better safe than sorry” and why it’s hurting our kids. How independence builds competence (and true confidence). What happens in a child’s brain when they solve problems without adult help. The staggering truth about “stranger danger” and why it’s wildly overblown. How to make it normal again to just open the door and let kids play. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Independence leads to competence — and competence leads to confidence.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Lenore Skenazy’s TED Talk: Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy— New York Times bestseller Let Grow nonprofit: letgrow.org Range by David Epstein ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Open the door. Let your child play or walk somewhere safely on their own. Resist the rescue. When your child faces a small problem, pause before stepping in. Swap “be safe” for “trust yourself.” Let your language build courage, not fear. Talk about freedom. Ask your kids what independence means to them — and listen. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Choosing the right care for your little one can feel like walking a tightrope — guilt on one side, exhaustion on the other. In this heartfelt Q&A, Justin and Kylie unpack the real differences between daycare, early learning centres, and family daycare — and what matters most when your child has big emotions or struggles with separation. Whether you’re expecting another baby or just trying to do what’s best, this episode helps you breathe easier and make a choice that feels right for your family. KEY POINTS The real difference between daycare and ELC (and why the labels don’t matter as much as you think). What to look for on your childcare tour: staff ratios, turnover, and outdoor play. Why sometimes not enrolling can be the best choice. How to support a deeply feeling child who struggles with separation. The “choose your hard” mindset — and how it changes everything. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Parenting is hard either way — we just have to choose the kind of hard we’re willing to live with.” RESOURCES MENTIONED What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson Episode #920 Minimising Daycare Drama ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Reflect on why you’re choosing care — not just whether to. When touring, focus less on the shiny buildings and more on the people. Prepare your child for separation with empathy, connection, and practice. Give yourself permission to pick the path that best supports your family’s season. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If every evening feels like emotional warfare, you’re not alone. Exhausted, desperate, and out of ideas? In this episode, Justin and Kylie share three powerful ways to turn chaotic, tear-filled nights into calm, connected moments — so bedtime stops being a battle and starts feeling peaceful again. KEY POINTS The three pillars for calmer nights: routine, environment, and presence Why predictability helps kids feel safe (and parents feel sane) The surprising power of dim lights, soft music, and storytime What your kids are really asking for when they “stall” bedtime Simple, loving ways to reconnect — even when you’re out of patience QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “They just want to feel safe and secure and know that they’re loved — that’s the game.” RESOURCES MENTIONED What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson More resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Create a predictable nightly rhythm — same order, same cues. Ditch screens an hour before bed and dim the lights. Be present, not perfect — a calm hug goes further than any rule. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your kids shut down or seem totally uninterested - whether it’s a conversation, a hobby, or music lessons - it can feel like you’re wasting your time (and money). But this week, Justin and Kylie share two powerful reminders that patience, play, and connection go further than pressure ever will. From a heartwarming drum lesson breakthrough to a car trip conversation that turned a reluctant teen into a chatterbox, this episode will make you rethink what “progress” really looks like in parenting. KEY POINTS Why letting kids explore without rigid outcomes can create lasting motivation. The surprising benefits of range - letting kids tinker, dabble, and find their spark. How to turn “silent car rides” into meaningful, laughter-filled conversations. Why structured lessons and “by the book” learning don’t always lead to love or creativity. The simple mindset shift that makes family connection feel natural again. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “It’s not about an outcome. It’s about giving your kids the space to explore - because you never know where it will lead.” — Kylie Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Relationship Rules by Dr Justin Coulson Range by David Epstein ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let them play. Focus less on outcomes, more on enjoyment and exploration. Ask better questions. Try open-ended conversation starters on long drives or walks. Be patient. Creativity and connection grow slowly—don’t rush the process. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every October 31st, kids go wild - costumes, sugar, excitement - but what if that same energy is quietly shaping ADHD diagnoses? In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack a fascinating new study showing a 14% spike in ADHD diagnoses on Halloween day. They explore what this says about subjectivity in diagnosis, the risks of overlabelling kids, and how our environments - not just our children - might need rethinking. KEY POINTS: A new Harvard study found ADHD diagnoses rise 14% on Halloween compared to surrounding days. ADHD remains a subjective diagnosis — there’s no blood test or scan to confirm it. Why environment and maturity often explain behaviours mistaken for “disorder.” The real risks of misdiagnosis — medication, labelling, and self-perception. Why it’s time to look at what’s happening around kids, not just within them. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “There isn’t anything wrong with her — she just doesn’t fit the mould of what we consider normal.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Study: Halloween, ADHD, and Subjectivity in Medical Diagnosis (National Bureau of Economic Research) Searching for Normal by Sami Timimi The Parenting Revolution by Justin Coulson ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Before seeking a diagnosis, consider context — sleep, stress, diet, and school environment. Avoid rushing to label; focus on understanding and supporting your child’s unique needs. Ask questions — about treatment pathways, environment, and alternative perspectives. Create calmer spaces where kids can regulate, play, and thrive. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when our kids spend nine hours a day on screens? Dr Justin Coulson sits down with world-leading researcher Professor Jean Twenge (author of Ten Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World) to unpack the hidden costs of our always-online culture — and how parents can reclaim calm, connection and control. From brain changes to “go touch grass” moments, Jean shares the science behind tech overload and practical rules that actually work. KEY POINTS: Why social media under 16 is a terrible idea — and why government regulation matters The shocking truth about teens’ 9-hour daily screen time How smartphones reshape childhood: less sleep, less play, less joy The “basic phone” revolution — why dumb phones might just save your child’s brain How to set firm rules (without becoming the enemy) Real-world freedom: why outdoor play is safer than scrolling The single biggest rule every parent should enforce tonight QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “In ten years we’ll look back at giving kids smartphones at age eleven and think — what were we thinking?” — Professor Jean Twenge RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ten Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World — Professor Jean Twenge Heads Up Alliance (Australia) Beginner Phones for Tweens & Teens [Free PDF from Rebecca Sparrow] Wait Until 8th Movement The Light Phone Unplugged Parenthood ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: No phones in bedrooms. Ever. Delay social media until at least 16 — ideally later. Swap smartphones for basic phones to keep kids connected, not consumed. Model healthy tech habits — your kids are watching. Encourage real-world independence — let them walk, play, and explore offline. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your child has to come first—whether it’s up the stairs or at bedtime—it can drive the whole family mad. But there’s more behind that competitiveness than you might think. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on when kids can’t handle losing, and how to guide them toward healthy confidence instead of constant comparison. KEY POINTS: Why competition and young kids don’t mix The developmental stages that make “winning” feel like a need, not a want How competence and self-worth get tangled together Simple strategies to help kids lose gracefully—and win kindly Why home should be a safe space to “win” without pressure QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “For me to feel good, I shouldn’t have to make you feel bad. That’s the problem with competition for young kids.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know by Dr Justin Coulson ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Relax—it’s normal for young kids to want to win. Play low-stakes games to help them practise losing. Model losing (and winning) with grace.Teach them to find joy in helping others shine. Let life be the teacher—your job is to provide a soft landing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A world-first law is about to change how Aussie kids use social media — forever.From December 10, children 16 and under will be banned from holding social accounts. But what does that really mean for families? In this special extended episode, Dr Justin Coulson speaks with Julie Inman Grant, Australia’s eSafety Commissioner, about the new age-limit legislation — who it covers, how it will work, what fines apply, and what parents must do now to prepare. This is the definitive guide for every parent trying to navigate the online world — with calm, clarity, and confidence. KEY POINTS What the new under-16 social media ban actually includes (and who’s exempt) How eSafety will enforce compliance — and why parents won’t be penalised The five-step “layered safety” approach every platform must follow What’s being done to restrict online porn and explicit content The truth about “nudifying” apps and how schools can respond Simple ways to help your child transition off social media safely QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Parents shouldn’t have to fight billion-dollar companies to keep their kids safe online — the responsibility belongs with the platforms.” — Julie Inman Grant RESOURCES MENTIONED eSafety Commissioner resources & webinars Deep-fake & image-based-abuse school toolkit Beyond Blue, Headspace, Reach Out, Kids Helpline ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Talk with your child about the upcoming change — and why it matters. Help them download photos or memories they want to keep before Dec 10. Set up approved messaging groups to stay connected safely. Bookmark trusted influencers or sites they can follow directly. Visit esafety.gov.au for family checklists and guides. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Even parenting experts don’t always nail it. In this heartfelt “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow” episode, Justin and Kylie open up about those moments when good intentions go sideways — and what it really takes to repair connection with your kids. From tearful teenage meltdowns to awkward dinner-table confessions, this is an honest, hope-filled reminder that your love matters more than your mistakes. KEY POINTS: Why even the best parents get it wrong sometimes — and why that’s okay How to apologise with authenticity (without making excuses) The power of “creating a culture” of open, honest conversation Why repair matters more than perfection How strong family relationships let kids talk about anything Teaching teens accountability and empathy through your own example QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “My love for you is bigger than all the walkouts in the world.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: When conflict happens, pause — don’t react. Say sorry sincerely when you’ve messed up. Focus on rebuilding connection, not being right. Create safe spaces for tricky or blush-worthy conversations. Keep reminding your kids: your love is unconditional. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A new study is making headlines — not because kids are on screens too much, but because many can’t stop. Dr Justin Coulson unpacks fresh research linking addictive screen use (not screen time itself) with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts in teens. Learn what “addiction” really means, why it’s not an official diagnosis, and how to protect your child without constant conflict. KEY POINTS The latest data from the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development Study shows addictive patterns of screen use — not hours online — are tied to poorer mental health. “Addictive” use means kids feel distress when not online, use screens to regulate emotions, or can’t stop even when it causes problems. There’s no official “screen addiction” diagnosis, but the behaviour patterns are real — and concerning. Justin shares practical strategies using the Three E’s of Effective Discipline to reduce conflict and foster healthy habits. Real-life example: how the Coulson family handled screen boundaries with collaboration, not control. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Time on a device isn’t the problem. It’s when kids can’t stop that their mental health starts to suffer.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development (ABCD) Study, JAMA Psychiatry, June 2024 Screen "addiction" and mental Health - Technosapiens Tools: Freedom App, Forest App, Brick, Unplug Childhood Framework: The Three E’s of Effective Discipline (Explore, Explain, Empower) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Have a calm conversation about how and why your child uses screens. Model mindful use — show your own limits and honesty about the struggle. Create structure, not punishment — consistent times, agreed limits. Watch for red flags like irritability, secrecy, or big emotions when screens are removed. Offer alternatives — list 10+ enjoyable non-screen activities your child can choose from. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It starts as a joke — “Mummy needs wine!” — but for many parents, that glass at the end of the day becomes more than just a meme. In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Dr Justin Coulson talks with author and “Sober Awkward” podcast host Victoria Vanstone about her journey from party girl to sober mum — and how she broke free from the culture that told her alcohol was the answer. This episode will challenge how you see drinking, motherhood, and what self-care really means. KEY POINTS: How alcohol became part of Victoria’s identity — and why it took motherhood to question it The emotional and social pressures behind “Mummy Wine Time” culture Why drinking in front of kids sends powerful hidden messages The quiet shame of “normal” drinking habits — and what to do if you’re starting to question yours The rise of “sober curious” parenting and what it looks like in real life QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“It’s not really about alcohol. It’s about who you were before it — and who comes after it.” — Victoria Vanstone RESOURCES MENTIONED: A Thousand Wasted Sundays by Victoria Vanstone Mumming by Victoria Vanstone Podcast: Sober Awkward ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Reflect on the messages your kids receive when they see you drinking or joking about it. If you’re curious about cutting back, start with a “sober curious” mindset — it’s about questioning, not quitting. Talk to your partner or a trusted friend about how alcohol fits (or doesn’t fit) in your family life. Explore support options — books, podcasts, therapy, or sober communities — if alcohol feels like it’s taking more than it gives. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever wish you could talk to your kids about the big stuff — without it feeling awkward or heavy? In this episode, Justin and Kylie show you how to make tricky conversations a normal (and even fun) part of family life. From friendship dramas to body safety, honesty, and screens, discover how to help your kids open up, think deeply, and learn to navigate life with confidence. KEY POINTS: How to start having “tricky talks” — even with 5- and 7-year-olds Why weekly conversations build trust and emotional safety Conversation starters that aren’t awkward or forced Turning everyday moments into teachable moments The ultimate question every parent should ask their child QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Let your kids know there’s no topic that’s off limits. When they trust you with the little things, they’ll come to you with the big ones.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Relationship Rules and What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson Have a tricky parenting question? Ask us here. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Schedule a weekly 15-minute “tricky talk” with your kids. Start light — use silly “would you rather” questions to build comfort. Gradually introduce deeper topics like kindness, honesty, or friendship. Ask your child what they think before you give advice. Try a “parent performance appraisal” — ask your kids how loved and understood they feel. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your child smashes a TV. Or floods the bathroom. Or writes off the car. What now? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack one of parenting’s trickiest questions: should our kids pay for the damage they cause? You’ll hear real family stories, a breakdown of natural vs logical consequences, and a powerful mindset shift that helps kids take ownership without shame — and keeps relationships intact. KEY POINTS Why “natural consequences” aren’t the same as punishment How to teach accountability without blame, guilt, or control The “OAR vs BED” principle: helping kids own mistakes and grow from them When (and how) to talk about reparations or paying for damages How to balance compassion, responsibility, and fairness QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Discipline isn’t about punishment. It’s about problem solving — together.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Membership 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know by Dr Justin Coulson Entitled [Upcoming Live Webinar] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS When something breaks, pause before reacting. Ask: “What does my child need right now?” — not “What consequence fits this?” Guide your child toward ownership, accountability, and reparation. Keep the relationship more important than the thing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when you pour condensed milk instead of coconut milk into your family curry? Justin’s kitchen disaster could’ve ended in chaos—but instead, it became a story of laughter, grace, and doing better tomorrow. In this heartwarming (and hilarious) episode, Justin and Kylie share their biggest parenting fails—from theme park terrors to dinner gone wrong—and reveal the secret ingredient that makes family life truly happy. KEY POINTS Why laughter is essential for a happy home How to turn small failures into powerful family memories The psychology of fear (and what a rollercoaster taught Kylie about courage) Justin’s sweet-but-sour curry disaster: a lesson in humility and humour The real reason “doing better tomorrow” matters more than getting it right today QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If you want to have a happy family, you’ve got to laugh. Laughter makes family life happy.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Podcast: Why Exam Results Don’t Define Your Child — or Their Future Article: The Exam Pressure Trap: How to Help Your Teen Without Adding to Their Stress Justin Coulson’s Book: 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Find the funny — When family life feels messy, look for a reason to laugh. Model grace — Mistakes are moments to connect, not criticise. Try again tomorrow — The best families aren’t perfect; they just keep showing up. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you ever feel like there’s never enough time — this episode is your deep breath. Justin and Kylie unpack the idea of “time abundance” — how to slow life down when the to-do list never ends. From the psychology of feeling rushed to practical ways to reclaim calm, this is your permission slip to stop racing and start living with more space, energy, and joy. KEY POINTS Most of us undervalue our time — we tick off easy tasks instead of what truly matters. Protecting your time doesn’t mean saying no to family; it means saying yes intentionally. Feeling time-rich comes from being mindful in the moment, not just managing the clock. Giving your time to others actually makes you feel like you have more time. Buy yourself back time when you can — small choices (like grocery delivery or help with chores) reduce pressure and create calm. Scrolling isn’t rest. True breaks come from presence, connection, and purpose. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You don’t build a relationship watching the clock.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Jackie Nesi’s Techno Sapiens Substack: Article on Time Abundance Happy Families Membership — for more ways to live lighter and connect deeper ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Block time out for what matters most — and guard it fiercely. Be mindful in your moments of rest; let your brain actually stop. Give time to others — kindness expands your sense of time. Buy back time where possible; trade dollars for breathing space. Ditch the doom scroll. Choose real rest over digital distraction. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Teens are forming emotional bonds — not just online, but with AI companions. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson talks with Brown University psychologist Dr Jacqueline Nesi, author of Techno Sapiens, about the fast-growing world of AI “friendships” and what they mean for kids’ mental health. They also unpack Jackie’s latest research revealing how often teens check their phones — and how it’s shaping their moods. It’s a must-listen for parents navigating the blurred lines between connection, distraction, and dependence in the digital age. KEY POINTS 72% of teens have used an AI companion; over half use one regularly. AI chatbots are designed to keep kids engaged — often prioritising screen time over wellbeing. For some vulnerable kids, AI chats can feel like friendship or therapy — but they aren’t replacements for real connection. Australia’s new social-media age-limit laws may help, but implementation and design flaws remain. Teens check their phones an average of 112 times a day — once every 10 minutes! Frequent phone checking is linked with greater emotional ups and downs. Teens who are less mindful tend to reach for their phones more after bad days — using screens as emotional regulation tools. What matters most: how kids use technology and who they are, not just how much. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “The effects of smartphones on mood and wellbeing are complicated — it’s not that phones are simply bad, it’s about who’s using them and how.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Techno Sapiens – Dr Jacqueline Nesi’s Substack Tech Without Stress – Resources for parents Happy Families – More parenting resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Ask your kids how they use AI or chatbots — listen before you lecture. Check your family’s phone “pickups” using Screen Time or Digital Wellbeing. Practise mindfulness together — simple breathing, no-tech walks, or screen-free meals. Talk about emotional regulation — help kids notice when they’re using tech to cope. Model balance — show that your phone doesn’t rule you either. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s happening in classrooms everywhere — groups of 10- and 11-year-old girls suddenly identifying as lesbian or non-binary. Parents are confused, scared to say the wrong thing, and desperate to understand what’s driving it. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the growing trend of early identity labels, how sexualised content and peer influence shape confusion, and what parents can do to respond calmly, wisely, and with compassion. This conversation isn’t about labels — it’s about protecting childhood and keeping connection strong through one of the hardest parenting conversations of our time. KEY POINTS: Why clusters of identity declarations in tweens are often driven by social contagion, not self-discovery. How pornography, anime, and online content are confusing kids about sexuality. The crucial difference between a physiological response and actual orientation. Why automatic affirmation can harm — and what supportive curiosity looks like. Setting firm, loving screen boundaries to protect emotional and sexual development. Helping kids feel safe in uncertainty, without locking in an identity. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Our kids don’t need labels at 11. They need parents who can hold space for curiosity without rushing to define them.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families Podcast – Submit a Question Miss-Connection by Dr Justin Coulson Australian Psychological Society guidelines on gender and identity ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Limit exposure – No unsupervised screens or smart devices for under-13s. Stay curious, not panicked – Ask open questions like “What made you start thinking that?” Teach body literacy – Help kids understand physiological responses vs orientation. Normalise uncertainty – Remind them it’s okay not to know who they are yet. Stay connected – Keep talking, keep listening, keep calm. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Exam season is here — and with it, a tidal wave of pressure, late nights, and panic. But what if we’ve got it all wrong? In this short, punchy episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share six powerful reminders to help your teen (and you!) survive exam stress with perspective, calm, and even joy. From why your ATAR doesn’t define your worth to why sleep, exercise, and connection matter more than cramming — this is the reality check every parent needs right now. KEY POINTS: You are not your ATAR: Exams don’t measure intelligence, potential, or worth. Brains need breaks: Good sleep, nutrition, and exercise fuel real learning. Remembering requires forgetting: Relearning builds stronger memory. Connection over cramming: Fun, laughter, and time with loved ones reduce anxiety. Take a gap year: Exploration and “range” lead to deeper purpose and long-term success. Perspective is everything: In two years, none of this will matter as much as it feels now. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“You are not your ATAR. In two years, no one’s going to care — and you’ll be just fine.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Range by David Epstein Join the waitlist to hear all the news on Justin's new book "Boys" The Art of Manliness A HF conversation with Amy Dyer on gap years & the real path to success after school ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Keep routines steady — protect your teen’s sleep, meals, and downtime. Encourage short study bursts, spaced repetition, and daily movement. Talk about why effort matters more than marks. Model calm and perspective — your energy sets the tone. Start conversations about gap years, growth, and finding direction beyond exams. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever had your child melt down because it’s time to leave somewhere fun? In this heartwarming episode, Justin and Kylie share the tearful goodbyes, the bike crashes, and the surprising wisdom that came from an 11-year-old who just didn’t want the holiday to end. It’s a story about empathy, growing up, and remembering that sometimes… we all just want to stay a little longer. KEY POINTS: Why revisiting familiar places can be deeply meaningful for families How empathy—not logic—helps calm big emotions in kids The hidden benefits of letting grandparents “spoil” their grandkids Why parents (even parenting experts!) still have emotional moments of their own How shared stories can defuse tension and strengthen connection QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Empathy and perspective are powerful. They stop you from getting mad at the kids and help you join them in their suffering.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know — Dr Justin Coulson The Happy Families Newsletter – sign up via form on the website ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: When your child resists leaving, start with empathy before explanation. Share a relatable story from your own life—it helps kids feel seen. Let grandparents be the “soft place to land”—then gently re-establish home routines. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boys are falling behind in reading — and the consequences are staggering. In this episode, we share an excerpt from Your Kid’s Next Read podcast with Allison Tait, Megan Daley, Matt Stanton and Dr Justin Coulson unpacking the crisis in boys’ literacy. From screen addiction to motivation, we explore why reading has lost its spark for boys — and how parents can bring stories back to life at home. You can listen to the full conversation here: Boys and Reading. KEY POINTS: Reading rates are plummeting across the board — but boys are struggling most. The literacy gap between boys and girls now equals a full academic year by Year 9. Why screens are hijacking boys’ brains — and how to reset attention spans. The 3 ingredients that make kids want to read: autonomy, competence, and connection. Why dads matter most — boys become readers when they see men reading. The power of reading with your kids, not just telling them to read. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “For boys to love reading, they’ve got to see men who love reading.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Your Kid’s Next Read podcast with Allison Tait & Megan Daley Raising Readers by Megan Daley Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Model reading — let your kids catch you with a book. Choose connection over correction — read with them, not at them. Follow their interests — comics, sports magazines, or game guides still count. Build confidence — help your child feel capable with age-appropriate reads. Make it social — talk about stories, characters, and favourite moments. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pasta. Chips. Nuggets. Repeat. If your neurodivergent child lives on a diet of white and yellow foods, you’re not alone. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with paediatric dietitian Karina Savage to unpack why fussy eating is so common in autistic and ADHD kids — and what you can actually do to help them expand their diet without battles, bribes or tears. You’ll learn how to lower pressure, build trust around food, and make progress (even if it’s just one new bite at a time). KEY POINTS Start where your child’s at. Understand the sensory, anxiety, or familiarity issues behind food refusal. Safe foods first. Keep trusted foods on the plate, and gently introduce “test foods” nearby (but not touching). No pressure, no panic. Play with food, don’t police it — mealtimes should feel safe, not stressful. Tiny changes matter. Shift from white to wholemeal, add fibre, and celebrate every small win. Watch additives. Processed colours and preservatives can worsen attention and behaviour in neurodivergent kids. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Food play in a non-pressured environment builds familiarity and trust — and that’s how progress happens.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Nourish with Karina — Karina Savage’s website and membership for parentsHappy Families — for more tools to help your family thrive ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS List your child’s “safe foods.” Use this as your base for every meal. Add one “test food” on the side — no pressure to try it. Create calm mealtimes. Avoid forcing or bribing; instead, offer food play and choice. Model variety. Let your child see you enjoying colourful, balanced foods. Aim for progress, not perfection. A little more colour on the plate is a big win. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Few things break a parent’s heart like leaving your toddler at childcare while they cry, scream, and beg you not to go. Is this the same as “cry it out”? Is it harming their development—or just part of growing up? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the science of separation anxiety and share practical, compassionate strategies to ease drop-off stress—for your child and for you. KEY POINTS Why toddler separation anxiety is different from cry-it-out sleep training The role of support networks, emotional development, and cognition in how kids cope Two critical signs that reveal if your child is actually okay When to worry: What ongoing distress might really mean Practical strategies: routines, comfort items, quick goodbyes, and positive pick-up rituals QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Separation hurts—but if your child settles quickly, connects with others, and greets you with joy at the end of the day, you can breathe easier. They’re okay.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Little People, Big Feelings [The Summit] The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn – a beautiful story for easing separation anxiety ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Stick to routine – predictability builds security. Use comfort anchors – a hand-kiss, fabric scrap, or pocket token. Keep drop-offs short – no lingering, quick and confident goodbye. Plan pick-up rituals – a special “after care” routine your child can look forward to. Check in with carers – ask how quickly your child settles and how they engage during the day. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From December 10, kids under 16 will no longer be allowed to hold social media accounts in Australia. It’s a world-first move that has parents divided, teens anxious, and platforms on edge. In this episode, we break down what the ban reallymeans for your family, how it will actually be enforced, and why it might be the biggest parenting shift of the decade. KEY POINTS: What the new minimum age legislation actually does (and doesn’t do) How platforms like TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and Snapchat will change for under-16s Why the responsibility sits with tech giants—not parents or kids The staggering fines for platforms that fail to comply Why strong parental vigilance is still essential, even with new safeguards How families can prepare for the “cold turkey” social media cut-off QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“Legislation can move the needle, but it won’t change everything. That’s up to us as parents.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: eSafety Commissioner’s FAQs on the new legislation The Screen Smart Series [2 x webinars] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start conversations now—help your kids understand what’s coming. Plan alternatives for staying connected with friends offline. Revisit your family’s screen rules—this is the perfect reset moment. Stay vigilant: legislation is a tool, not a replacement for parenting. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you’re knee-deep in tantrums, sticky fingers, midnight wake-ups and endless “whys?” it feels like survival mode. But what if these exhausting, messy, maddening moments are the very ones you’ll ache for later? In this episode, Justin and Kylie reflect on the chaos they once wished away - and now find themselves missing. A heartfelt reminder to savour the small stuff, even when it drives you crazy. KEY POINTS The everyday frustrations parents secretly miss when kids grow up. Why sleepless nights, sticky floors, and endless questions carry hidden beauty. The bittersweet shift from chaos to quiet as kids get older. How perspective transforms what once felt like drudgery into cherished memories. The importance of soaking up the messy, noisy, imperfect moments while you have them. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "I wish I loved it more when I was in it, but I just didn’t have the perspective." RESOURCES MENTIONED HappyFamilies.com.au – for more parenting resources. You can read all of the comments on that Facebook post here. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause during the hard moments and remind yourself: one day, you’ll miss this. Reframe the daily frustrations—see them as signs of your child’s growth, curiosity, and connection. Build a “village” of support—whether through playdates, community, or online groups—so you don’t face the chaos alone. Capture the ordinary moments (photos, journals, voice notes) so you can look back with gratitude. Find us on Facebook Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you exhausted from trying to keep everyone happy? Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory has gone viral for a reason—it’s simple, powerful, and life-changing. In this episode, Kylie shares her biggest takeaways from the book and why learning to say “let them” (and the equally powerful “let me”) could be the reset button parents desperately need. Discover how this mindset can protect your peace, strengthen your relationships, and stop the endless cycle of people-pleasing—while still showing up as the parent your kids need. KEY POINTS The Let Them mindset: stop wasting energy on what you can’t control. The crucial second step: Let Me—reclaim your power and choose your response. Why detaching from other people’s moods and opinions is freeing, not selfish. Stress hack: pause, breathe, and reset before reacting. Setting boundaries without guilt—why trying to please everyone leaves no one happy. How parents can balance “letting them” with still guiding and safeguarding kids. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE“Other people hold no real power over you unless you give it to them.” – Mel Robbins RESOURCES MENTIONED "The Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins (New York Times bestseller) Mel Robbins Podcast Happy Families website ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS The next time someone criticises or reacts negatively, pause and say to yourself: let them. Add the second step: let me—choose a calm, intentional response. Release the urge to manage other people’s emotions and focus on your own values and actions. Set boundaries without apology—someone will always be disappointed, and that’s okay. Model this mindset for your kids so they learn resilience, responsibility, and freedom from people-pleasing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if you could spark your child’s motivation without nagging or bribing? In this episode of the Happy Families Podcast, Dr Justin and Kylie reveal the four “happy brain” chemicals—dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, and oxytocin—and simple daily habits that naturally boost them. Discover how to create an environment where kids feel driven to learn, calm under pressure, and connected at home. These small shifts can transform study sessions, chores, and family time—no sneaky tricks required. KEY POINTS Dopamine – The Anticipation Engine: Break big tasks into small wins to fuel progress and keep motivation high. Serotonin – The Calm Conductor: Nature time, sunlight, and slow breathing help kids reset and regulate emotions. Endorphins – The Natural Painkiller: Movement, laughter, and a dash of safe risk-taking release powerful mood boosters. Oxytocin – The Connection Catalyst: Hugs, shared meals, and positive friendships build trust and belonging. Practical take-aways: chunk chores, go barefoot on the grass, encourage physical play, and prioritise warm, consistent connection. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Creating the right environment isn’t manipulation—it’s giving our kids’ brains the natural fuel they need to thrive.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Brain Chemistry Hacks for Better Learning [Article] #1195 - Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About ASD, ADHD and Executive Function With Andrew Guastella [Podcast] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Chunk It Down: Turn daunting tasks into bite-sized steps for instant dopamine rewards. Get Outside Daily: Ten minutes of green space or blue sky calms the nervous system. Move and Laugh: Family dance party, backyard games, or silly jokes for a natural endorphin hit. Prioritise Connection: Schedule unhurried meals or bedtime stories to release oxytocin and strengthen bonds. Find us on Facebook Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your teen is bright, capable—and completely content to coast. Your partner’s in the kitchen… but lost behind EarPods. In this candid Q&A, Dr Justin Coulson shares calm, practical steps to spark a teen’s inner drive without pressure, and to bring a distracted spouse back into the family circle. Expect practical scripts, mindset shifts, and gentle strategies that keep relationships strong without force or guilt. KEY POINTS Force Creates Resistance: Pushing teens to “aim higher” backfires. Upside/Downside Chat: Explore pros and cons of choices together to inspire self-motivation. Model What Matters: Your habits and purpose speak louder than lectures. Chores Are Connection: Kitchen time is about relationship, not just clean counters. Collaborative Talk: Choose a neutral moment, use “I” statements, focus on positives. Set Clear Boundaries: Compromise on EarPod use or agree to device-free family tasks. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “The task is the vehicle to connection—it’s not the purpose of the ride.” RESOURCES Ask your question here: happyfamilies.com.au/podcast #754 Why Doing Their Best Might Not Be the Best [Podcast] The Biggest Relationship Mistakes We All Make [Article] Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Invite a relaxed “milkshake chat” with your teen to explore upside and downside of their choices. Model curiosity and drive in your own life—kids notice consistency more than pep talks. Pick a calm moment to tell your partner, “I feel disconnected when we wear EarPods during chores—I miss our casual chats.” Propose a short nightly “all-in” kitchen clean-up with devices away to nurture effortless conversation. Revisit boundaries if disengagement persists, and consider professional support if communication stalls. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like a broken record—“How many times do I have to tell you?” This episode is your lifeline out of the endless reminder loop. Justin and Kylie share nine proven strategies to cut through the noise, build connection, and get kids to follow through—without the yelling, nagging, or power struggles. Key Points Why repeating yourself trains kids to tune you out The 3-step “attention first” method: name, pause, eye contact Speak their language: short, clear, kind, one thing at a time Confirm understanding with questions (“What needs to happen before we leave?”) Read non-verbal cues and adjust your tone Validate feelings without caving to demands Practice patience—give them space to act Create a culture of respectful, safe communication Strengthen connection so cooperation comes naturally When all else fails, jump in and do it together Quote of the Episode “Repeating yourself doesn’t work. Connection does.” – Justin Coulson Resources What To Do When Kids Won’t Listen How to Get Your Kids to Really Listen [Ebook + AudioBook] Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter Action Steps for Parents Choose one strategy from today’s episode and try it at your next “please put your shoes on” moment. Notice your own tone and pacing—slow down and connect before speaking. Reflect tonight: which approach helped your child respond best? Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever brushed off your child’s whining, anxiety, or fussy eating as “just a phase”? What if those small annoyances are quietly shaping big challenges for your family’s wellbeing? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the Region Beta Paradox — the psychology behind why we ignore little problems until they explode — and reveal how parents can catch the signs early, stay regulated, and protect their family’s mental health. KEY POINTS What the Region Beta Paradox is (and why it’s a parenting game-changer).How “little niggles” like whining or sibling squabbles can erode family harmony.The danger of waiting until problems hit crisis point.Why self-regulation and self-care aren’t optional for parents.Practical cues to know when a child’s behaviour needs professional attention. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Deal with the niggles before they become the drama. Your future family harmony depends on it.” RESOURCES Why small annoyances can harm us more than big disruptions | PSYCHE How to Respond When Triggered by Your Child [Article] Self-Care Strategies That Really Work [Article] Overwhelm: Self-care Strategies for When Everything is Too Much [Webinar] Why Our Kids Need Us to Set Limits [Article] Unplugged Parenthood: Reducing Screen Time to Strengthen Family Connections [Article] Developmental Milestones: What to Expect From Birth to Adulthood [Article] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Notice the “drip-drip” annoyances — don’t dismiss them. Reframe whining or misbehaviour as unmet needs, not defiance. Model self-regulation: pause, breathe, respond calmly. Build self-care into your week — connection > screens. If issues persist, track frequency, intensity, and duration — and seek help early. Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever looked at your child’s friends and thought, “This is not going to end well”? You’re not alone. But new research shows that stepping in and steering kids away from certain friendships can actually make things worse — leaving your child less accepted by peers, more anxious, and even more likely to act out. In this episode, Dr. Justin and Kylie unpack the surprising dangers of interfering in your child’s friendships, why your good intentions can backfire, and how to guide your kids without damaging trust. KEY POINTS Why parental interference often increases risky behaviour and peer rejection. The “forbidden fruit” effect — why the more you disapprove, the closer kids cling. How criticism of a friend can sound like criticism of your child. The power of trust: letting kids figure it out leads to stronger, healthier friendships. What to do instead — shift from policing friendships to teaching what makes a good friend. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "When you say, ‘I don’t like who you are when you’re with that friend,’ what your child really hears is, ‘I don’t like who you are.’" RESOURCES Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry study on parental interference in friendships. Chris Niemiec (University of Rochester) research on “forbidden fruit” friendships. How do I Keep my Daughter Away from her Boyfriend? [HF Article] Supporting Autistic Children Course [NDIS approved] #1103 I'll Do Better Tomorrow: The Good Things Matter [HF Podcast episode on helping kids identify qualities of a good friend] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before interfering — unless there’s bullying or real harm, stay out. Have general conversations about what makes a good friend, rather than targeting specific friendships. Trust your child’s ability to grow — most “bad” friendships naturally fade or transform with time. Model positive relationships so your child sees what healthy friendship looks like. Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au Become a Happy Families Member todaySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when a mum posts a video of tidying her teenager’s messy bedroom? Internet outrage. Some called it enabling. Others said it was love. In this episode, Dr Justin and Kylie cut through the noise and answer the real question: should parents be tidying their teens’ rooms - or teaching responsibility another way? You’ll discover what really matters when it comes to chores, gratitude, and raising kids who contribute at home without constant conflict. KEY POINTS: Why social media turned a simple act of love into a war of opinions The difference between helping your teen and enabling them How chores build gratitude, contribution, and teamwork Why kids don’t always see what parents do—and why that’s normal Practical ways to reset chores without the constant nagging The surprising truth: sometimes it’s okay to just tidy up QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“The most important principle isn’t who cleans the room—it’s that everyone contributes.” RESOURCES: Mom tidies teen's room each morning, prompting a fascinating debate | Upworthy I am Not the Maid – How to get 5 Star Service from the Kids at Home | HF Article My 13-Year-Old Doesn’t Pick up a Single Thing| HF Article Developmental Milestones [Introduction] | HF Article ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Call a short family meeting to reset chores and responsibilities. Use the explore–explain–empower method to get kids involved in deciding tasks. Focus on gratitude and contribution—not perfection. And if you tidy their room sometimes? That’s okay. Just don’t post it on social media. Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever come home from work to a house that looks like a bomb went off—while your partner relaxes? Today Justin answers a listener who’s furious at a husband who won’t pull his weight. Is it laziness, “feigned incompetence,” or something deeper? Justin shares the tough-love steps every parent needs to hear to reclaim balance without a shouting match. Plus: a second listener asks for help with a 12-year-old facing anxiety, insomnia, and no friends—Justin’s practical roadmap will give you hope tonight. KEY POINTS Why “feigned incompetence” is a relationship killer—and how to call it out with compassion. Three steps to stop enabling: drop the martyr act, have the hard conversation, and set clear expectations. Family meetings as a secret weapon for shared responsibility. Supporting a tween with severe anxiety and sleep struggles: routines, medical checks, and delight-driven activities. How better sleep restores calm for the whole household. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You deserve a partner, not a project.” – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES Couples meeting [Podcast Episode] The Importance of Sleep: How I Work Crossover [Podcast Episode] #452 Weaponised Incompetence [Podcast Episode] Parenting On The Same Page [Webinar] We Need to Talk About Parent Wellbeing [Webinar] A Grown Up’s Guide to Worry Stacking (and how to help kids kick it!) [Download] Riding the Waves: Tools for Taming Anxiety [Course for kids & teens] #310 Bedtime is the Right Time [Podcast Episode] #990 Mental Health Challenges with Anne Hollonds [Podcast Episode] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Name the Load – Write down every daily task you’re carrying; share it with your partner without blame. Set a Couple’s Meeting – Weekly 15-minute check-ins to agree on chores, schedules, and support. Prioritise Sleep – Create predictable bedtime routines for kids and adults. Find Delight – Help your child discover activities that light them up to ease anxiety and improve sleep. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we protecting our kids too much? Today we tackle the controversial topic of risky play — climbing trees, speeding down hills, roughhousing, even handling tools. The things that make parents anxious might actually be the very things kids need most. Discover why risk is essential for resilience, confidence, and courage — and how to give your child the freedom to play without pushing them too far. KEY POINTS Why “risky play” isn’t dangerous play — it’s just play the way we grew up. The Canadian Paediatric Society’s 9 types of risky play (and how to try them at home). Why broken arms aren’t the worst thing, but bubble-wrapping kids might be. The surprising link between risky play and lower anxiety in children. Five simple ways to say yes to risk while keeping things developmentally appropriate. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE“You want your kids to be as safe as necessary — not as safe as possible.” RESOURCES & RELEVANT LINKS Jonathan Haidt, After Babel Substack Healthy childhood development through outdoor risky play: Navigating the balance with injury prevention | Canadian Paediatric Society Roald Dahl quote on kids and risks Playing It Safe May Be The Biggest Risk Of All [Article] Resilience: Developing strength, calm and kindness in our kids [Webinar] #50 Risks and Rolling Down Hills [Happy Families Podcast] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Say yes more often when your child wants to try something new. Get kids outdoors — nature is the best playground. Encourage rough-and-tumble play and sports. Ditch screens when possible; real play builds real skills. Step back — give your kids space to take age-appropriate risks. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Think teens can’t have fun without booze? Think again. In this episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin and Kylie share the behind-the-scenes of hosting an 18th birthday that was loud, laughter-filled - and completely alcohol-free. From a $9.99 Bunnings “doorbell hack” every parent of a gamer needs, to setting clear boundaries that still let kids feel free, you’ll hear how the Coulson's created connection and unforgettable memories without the hangover. KEY POINTS The $9.99 Bunnings wireless doorbell that stops the endless “DINNER!” yelling at teens in headphones. How to host a high-energy, alcohol-free party teens actually rave about. Teaching kids they don’t need substances to have fun or belong. Using “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow” reflections to guide weekly family growth. A fresh take on schooling: why one daughter chose a vocational “industry school” and how alternative pathways (and gap years) can set kids up for success. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE“Life is long. If the standard path isn’t working, stop forcing your child to fit something that doesn’t fit.” – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Register interest for Justin’s upcoming Boys book here Study proves the importance of dads teaching sex education to their sons | Will & Woody A $10 Doorbell Stopped Me Yelling At My Teen | Lise & Sarah Study links a gap year to better university grades | The Conversation Gap Years, ATAR Myths & the Real Path to Success After School [with Amy Dyer] - Happy Families Podcast ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Model Substance-Free Fun: Show your teen that great parties don’t need alcohol. Set Clear, Kind Boundaries: Explain expectations up front—then let your kids rise to meet them. Explore Alternate School Paths: Investigate vocational schools, traineeships, or gap years if the traditional system isn’t serving your child. Create Simple Connection Cues: Try the wireless doorbell or another gentle way to call your teen without yelling. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There's a lot of stuff out there about kids being bored, and not all of it is correct. Today, a deep dive into kids being bored, and whether it is actually good or bad. Find us on Facebook or TikTok Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your child’s screen time spiralling—and every conversation about it ends in a fight? Professor Wayne Warburton, leading psychologist and researcher, reveals how apps and games are deliberately engineered to hook young brains. He explains the hidden neuroscience of addiction, what excessive screen use does to a child’s emotional regulation and attention, and how parents can reclaim calm without all-out war. If you’ve ever wondered why your tween melts down when you say “time’s up,” this episode is a must-listen. KEY POINTS Why modern apps use gambling-style tactics and AI to keep kids scrolling. How heavy screen use weakens the prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain that manages focus, planning, and emotional control. Simple, science-backed steps to reset family screen habits and return kids to the “driver’s seat.” Practical advice for conversations that don’t turn into shouting matches. Why social connection doesn’t have to mean social media. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE“It’s not your child’s fault—or yours. These products are built to be addictive. The goal is to put your child back in the driver’s seat, not the screen.” — Dr Wayne Warburton RESOURCES MENTIONED Dr Wayne Warburton’s books Growing Up Fast and Furious and The Importance of Media Literacy HappyFamilies.com.au for family screen-plan templates and parenting resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Choose the right moment: Discuss screens only when everyone is calm and offline. Externalise the problem: Frame it as “us versus the tech designers,” not parent versus child. Co-create a plan: Involve kids in setting screen limits and consequences; write it down. Build healthy replacements: Help kids identify offline ways to cope with boredom, anxiety, or stress. Model balance: Show your own healthy screen habits—your example speaks louder than rules. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you really trust your teen to manage their phone—and the algorithm—alone? In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson tackle a Gold Coast mum’s burning question: should parents rely on filtering apps or on trust? Justin shares his eye-opening experiment pretending to be a teenage boy on Instagram (and what the algorithm served up), while Kylie explains why this isn’t just a “trust” issue—it’s a maturity issue. Together they reveal how to set limits that actually protect kids, build accountability, and still keep the relationship strong. Key Points Why filters aren’t foolproof—and why blind trust is even riskier The hidden danger of “friendly” algorithms that quickly escalate to violent or explicit content Justin’s experiment that turned his feed dark in just two weeks The 3 E’s of Effective Discipline: Explore, Explain, Empower How to create family tech agreements that work—and stick Quote of the Episode “We say we don’t like the restraints, but we actually need them. Just like a roller-coaster harness, limits keep our kids safe when life turns upside down.” – Justin Coulson Resources Mentioned Managing Screens at Home [Webinar] Included in the Happy Families membership. Action Steps for Parents Audit together: Sit with your teen and explore what their algorithms are serving them. Set limits, not locks: Use filters as one layer, but focus on ongoing conversations. Use the 3 E’s: Explore their perspective, Explain your concerns, Empower them to co-create safe screen habits. Find your village: Connect with like-minded parents to make consistent boundaries easier. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your sweet preschooler just turned into a pint-sized whirlwind—kicking, screaming, and even hitting.Before you panic or punish, listen in. Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack why three-year-olds lash out, why it’s actually developmentally normal, and the calm, practical steps that help them (and you) find peace. Key Points Why hitting at age three is common—and not a sign you’re raising a violent teen. The real drivers: big emotions, low impulse control, limited language. Three core responses: stay regulated, set clear limits, redirect with movement or creative outlets. After the storm: empathic conversations and rehearsal for “next time.” Prevention tips: check the HALTS (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, Stressed) and keep screen time low. Quote of the Episode “Regulating emotions is harder than learning to walk or tie shoelaces. Your job is to stay the adult while your child learns.” – Dr Justin Coulson Resources Mentioned Little People, Big Feelings [Webinar] – practical tools for parents of toddlers and preschoolers. Little People, Big Feelings [The Summit] Action Steps for Parents Stay calm—model the regulation you want your child to learn. State the boundary—“We have gentle hands. Hitting hurts.” Redirect energy—offer drawing, movement, or grounding games. Debrief later—when calm, problem-solve and rehearse next time. Check the basics—food, sleep, connection, and screen habits. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.