Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

What happens when a child falls years behind in reading and writing? This week’s episode of The Happy Families Podcast dives into one of the most talked-about moments from Parental Guidance: the Life School parents’ children struggling with basic literacy. Justin and Kylie share why reading matters so much, how to help children who resist school and learning, and practical steps for parents who feel overwhelmed when their child is falling behind. If you’ve ever worried about your child’s progress—or felt judged by others—this conversation will give you hope, empathy, and a clear path forward. KEY POINTS: Reading is a gateway to learning, and kids need to see, hear, and engage with books daily. Many families lack books in the home—screens have crowded them out. Literacy struggles can stem from earlier traumatic or negative schooling experiences, creating resistance. Avoidance of learning challenges often worsens anxiety; action and support are crucial. There is no quick fix—progress takes time, love, and the right support network. Collaboration with schools is vital, but sometimes alternative schooling or tutors may be necessary. Motivation often follows competence—find what your child loves to learn and build on that. Above all, children need to know that they are loved, supported, and not alone in their struggle. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Readers are leaders, and leaders are readers. But before anything else, your child needs to know you love them, no matter how hard the journey gets." RESOURCES MENTIONED: Previous Happy Families podcast episodes on How to Help Kids Love Reading #952 - An Interview with Author Sally Rippin #918 - A Slice of Advice on Getting Your Kids to Read More happyfamilies.com.au for more resources on literacy and schooling alternatives, including: Rethinking School: Why Alternative Education Might Be the Best Choice for Your Child Home Schooling 101 With Brett Campbell of Euka How to Raise Kids Who Read Nine Now app to watch Parental Guidance ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: 1. Read to your child every day, even if they’re older.2. Let your child see you reading.3. Fill your home with books your child can access anytime.4. Work with the school to understand and address learning challenges.5. If needed, explore alternative schooling options or hire a tutor.6. Avoid avoidance—take small, consistent actions to build competence.7. Help your child discover an area of learning they’re motivated by.8. Above all: remind them daily that they are loved and supported.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when your child refuses to eat? When food, health, and body image turn into a dangerous battleground? In this deeply moving episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the devastating reality of eating disorders — with insights from a brave young woman who overcame anorexia, her incredible family, and a specialist psychologist who shares life-saving advice for parents. KEY POINTS 90% of teens have negative thoughts about their bodies; eating disorders affect far too many young people, especially girls. Social media and “diet culture” fuel body dissatisfaction, validation-seeking, and dangerous habits. Even the most loving parents can have children who perceive themselves as unlovable — perception is reality for struggling kids. Parents play a vital role: showing up consistently and lovingly is powerful even when it feels unnoticed. Warning signs to watch for include: Loose, baggy clothing (to hide weight loss or from skin sensitivity) Avoiding family meals, picking at food, or excessive “health consciousness” Withdrawing socially, prioritizing exercise obsessively Personality changes, irritability, especially around meals Parents need extraordinary patience, kindness, and firmness — staying at the table for hours if necessary, showing the eating disorder who’s stronger. Separate “the eating disorder voice” from your child’s real self in your interactions. It’s less about finding the “cause” and more about focusing on healing. The Butterfly Foundation (butterfly.org.au) is an excellent resource for specialist help. QUOTE OF EPISODE #1299 "You need to show that eating disorder that you're stronger than it, more patient than it, and you will sit there as long as it takes — because your child is worth fighting for." — Christine Gregory RESOURCES MENTIONED The Butterfly Foundation — national support for eating disorders Parental Guidance episode (stream on 9Now) Happy Families articles and resources on connection and body image (happyfamilies.com.au) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Watch for early warning signs and trust your instincts — you know your child best.2. Be patient, kind, and firm — sit with your child at meals and don’t let the eating disorder win.3. Separate your child’s identity from the illness; speak to your child, not to the disorder.4. Don’t obsess over what “caused” it — focus on healing and connection.5. Seek professional help early through organizations like the Butterfly Foundation.6. Show up consistently: being present every day sends a powerful message of love and commitment.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“You don’t let other people tell you what beautiful is.”In this heartfelt episode of the Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie Coulson reflect on the powerful lessons from Parental Guidance Season 3, Episode 3, exploring body image, self-worth, and how parents can shape their children’s relationship with their bodies—for better or worse. With vulnerable personal stories and actionable advice, they discuss how to shift the focus from looks to function, joy, and character. KEY POINTS: Parents’ comments and attitudes about bodies deeply influence their children’s self-image. Many women carry lasting scars from childhood comments about their weight or looks. Society promotes a narrow and unhealthy definition of “beautiful.” Teach children to focus on what their bodies can do, not just how they look. Affirm children’s inner qualities and character as “beautiful” rather than only appearance. Complimenting children should be consistent and not dependent on clothing, makeup, or occasions. Body image distortion is common and can start young; words and modelling matter. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "When discussing body image, we need to move away from beauty. Instead, emphasise functionality, emphasise finding joy, and focus on what you can do, not what you look like. More than anything, remember that beauty is best defined by who you are and not how you look." — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Miss-connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk by Justin Coulson Karen Young & Hey Sigmund — resources supporting children’s mental health and self-worth Parental Guidance Season 3 ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Reflect on your own language and attitudes about bodies—what messages are you passing on? Focus compliments on your child’s inner qualities and abilities, not just their looks. Emphasise the functionality and strength of your child’s body (“Look how strong your legs are!”) rather than its appearance. Avoid shaming or criticising children’s food choices or weight. Let your child know they are always beautiful to you, regardless of what they’re wearing or how they look. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do girls talk about their looks and boys talk about their abilities? Last night’s Parental Guidance episode tackled the big, emotional topic of body image — from what our kids see in the mirror to what they learn from us. In this Happy Families Podcast recap, Justin and Kylie unpack the powerful moments, the heated debates about Botox and social media, and what the research says about raising kids who feel good about their bodies. KEY POINTS Introduction of four new parenting styles: Authoritative, Positivity, Hard Way, and Life School — and their views on body image. Kids’ mirror challenge revealed a clear gender split: boys focused on what their bodies do, girls on how their bodies look. Parents’ debate about Botox and cosmetic procedures highlighted tension between self-acceptance and role-modelling for kids. Social media and screen use increase body dissatisfaction — media literacy alone isn’t enough. WHO study: gender, not body size, predicts body image problems. The importance of parents modelling self-acceptance and healthy habits. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We focus on boys’ function, not form — and girls’ form, not function. That’s how society has conditioned us for centuries." — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt WHO study on gender and body image Book: Miss-connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk by Justin Coulson Pixel Perfect [webinar] Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Reduce kids’ time on screens and social media to limit harmful comparisons.2. Stop focusing on diets or external measures — promote health, not appearance.3. Encourage kids to focus on what their bodies can do, not how they look.4. Be mindful of how you talk about your own body — you’re modelling self-image.5. Avoid assuming media literacy is enough — talk about values, not just filters.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Body Image Episode: Conversations Every Parent Needs to Hear What happens when kids are asked how they really see themselves?This episode of Parental Guidance (and our podcast preview) dives deep into one of the most powerful and emotional topics we’ve covered yet: body image. We unpack the heartbreaking reality of how children talk about their own appearance, the surprising ways parents influence those conversations, and a gripping, must-see story of a young girl’s fight against anorexia. Plus, we explore family fitness, nutrition, and an unexpected twist you won’t see coming. Tonight’s episode of Parental Guidance is one that will get Australia talking — and maybe even bring a tear to your eye. KEY POINTS: Kids share candidly how they see themselves — and the results are eye-opening. A moving story of one girl’s battle with an eating disorder. Why the way parents speak about their own bodies matters more than you think. Family fitness and nutrition challenges reveal compelling insights. An unexpected twist at the end that every family should reflect on. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "It’s just such an important conversation — one that will make every single parent and child sit up and pay attention." RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance, Episode 3 — airing tonight at 7:30 PM on Channel 9 and streaming on 9Now. Visit happyfamilies.com.au for more parenting resources. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:1. Watch tonight’s episode of Parental Guidance with your family.2. Start an honest, gentle conversation with your kids about how they feel about themselves.3. Be mindful of the way you speak about your own body around your children — they’re listening.4. Use family mealtimes and activities as opportunities to model positive attitudes towards food and fitness.5. Stay tuned to the Happy Families podcast throughout the week as we unpack the episode in even more detail.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking to kids about money can feel daunting. What if you say the wrong thing? What if they pick up your bad habits? In this episode of The Happy Families Podcast, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by financial literacy expert Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon to unpack practical, age-appropriate ways to help kids develop healthy money habits. From pocket money tips and goal-setting to avoiding the “tap trap” and understanding the power of time and compound interest, this episode will help you raise kids who feel confident and capable with their finances — and maybe teach you a thing or two along the way. KEY POINTS: Why parents’ attitudes and modelling matter more than a single “money talk” The importance of teaching kids to delay gratification and set goals Why kids’ biggest financial advantage is time — and how to help them use it Fun, kid-friendly ways to teach saving and earning (including apps and games) The psychological danger of passing on “economic anxiety” to kids How to make invisible digital money more tangible for children QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"The most powerful financial lesson kids can learn is watching you model mindful, deliberate spending — and hearing you talk about why." — Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon RESOURCES MENTIONED: Kit Pocket Money App & Guide — a pocket money app and free downloadable guide for kids Moneysmart.gov.au — trusted financial literacy resources for adults and kids Spriggy — another popular pocket money app Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon’s book How to Get Mortgage-Free Like Me ASIC and Financial Literacy Board initiatives ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:1. Start talking about money with your kids early — keep it open and judgement-free.2. Use cash with younger kids so they can “see” money and understand it’s finite.3. Help your kids set savings goals and offer stretch incentives to build motivation.4. Model good money habits: avoid impulse buys, talk about budgeting, and explain your choices.5. Teach them about time as an asset: the earlier they save and invest, the more powerful the results.6. Consider using a pocket money app to track chores, savings, and spending in a fun, visual way.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like bedtime (or just family life in general) is chaos? In this warm, honest episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin and Kylie share two powerful but simple parenting insights that can transform your family’s connection and calm. From spontaneous expressions of love to creating structured, soothing routines, you’ll walk away inspired to make small changes that lead to big results. KEY POINTS: Don’t wait for a “special moment” to show love. Tell your kids you love and appreciate them spontaneously, even in the middle of everyday moments. Structure creates calm. A consistent, enjoyable bedtime routine can lower resistance and help kids feel secure and settled. Competence matters. When children know what to do and what to expect, they feel more capable, cooperative, and happy. Even partial consistency is better than none. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get it perfect — keep trying. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Structure builds competence. Competence is a basic psychological need. When kids feel like they know what they're supposed to be doing and how to do it, they just feel better about life." — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance TV Show, Episode 3 — airing Monday at 7:30 on Nine & 9Now. More parenting resources and articles at: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: 1. Pick a moment today to tell your child you love them and what they mean to you — unprompted.2. Create or refine a simple bedtime routine that includes calming, positive steps your child enjoys.3. Aim for consistency, but don’t let perfect be the enemy of good — even small, regular steps make a difference.4. Notice and celebrate how structure and loving words improve the atmosphere in your home.5. Share this episode or insight with a friend or family member who could use a little parenting encouragement!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

t’s the conversation most parents hope they never have — but need to. Sexting, short shorts, and the values we bring into how we talk to our kids about consent, respect, and peer pressure. In this episode, Justin & Kylie Coulson unpack the big issues raised on this week’s Parental Guidance, and how you can guide your kids through a digital world where nothing sent is ever truly private. KEY POINTS Sexting is prevalent and often normalised among teens — but there is no such thing as “safe sexting.” Conversations about consent, respect, and peer pressure are vital and should happen early. Girls are under more pressure to share explicit images and often face more shame when they do. Parents’ personal values (e.g., about clothing choices) are valid but must not drift into victim-blaming. Teaching kids respect means emphasising that what someone wears or does never justifies harassment or assault. Encourage kids to consider context and to be mindful of how they live out their own values while respecting others’. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "Once you send an image, you lose control of what happens to that image — full stop, end of story." RESOURCES MENTIONED happyfamilies.com.au — Resources and articles on consent, sexting, and raising respectful kids. Justin’s book Miss-Connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter ‘Hates’ You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk (for more on teen girls and digital challenges). Upcoming book on raising boys - join the waitlist. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Start open, nonjudgmental conversations about sexting, consent, and peer pressure — don’t wait until it’s too late.2. Make it clear: no one “deserves” mistreatment based on what they wear or share.3. Teach kids to think critically about requests for photos and to value their privacy.4. Emphasise that respect and consent are non-negotiable — and model these values yourself.5. Remind kids: even trusted friends can break trust, and once something’s sent, it’s out of their control.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s one of the hardest — and most important — conversations parents can have: teaching kids about consent. In this episode of the Happy Families Podcast, we break down the powerful lessons from Parental Guidance season 3, episode 2, including insights from consent educator Dan Principe. From why consent conversations can’t wait, to the right age to start, to how to empower kids without shame or fear — we’ll help you get comfortable having uncomfortable conversations, and raise kids who understand respect, boundaries, and healthy relationships. KEY POINTS Why consent education starts “before age two” — and why “early and often” matters. The startling reality: 15–19 year old girls are the largest group of sexual assault victims; 15–19 year old boys are the largest group of perpetrators. Why old-school “guns and shovels” attitudes harm more than they help. The role of ongoing, informal and formal family conversations about tricky topics. The three E’s: Explore, Explain, Empower — the simple framework for any difficult talk. How social media and “sharing” require kids’ consent too — even within the family. The risk of silence: what happens when kids don’t feel safe coming to their parents. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We need to get comfortable being uncomfortable — because no young person should feel like their curiosity or desires are shameful." — Dan Principe RESOURCES MENTIONED Dan Principe: Consent educator and speaker (recommended for schools) Federal Government’s Consent Can’t Wait campaign (Justin as ambassador) More parenting resources at: happyfamilies.com.au Watch Parental Guidance seasons 1–3 on 9Now ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS 1. Start the conversation early — even before they understand the words, practice being open and clear.2. Commit to ongoing “early and often” chats — not just one big talk.3. Schedule regular family check-ins to discuss tricky topics.4. Use the three E’s: Explore what they know and feel, Explain what’s important, Empower them to make good decisions.5. Check in on consent within your own family dynamics — ask before sharing kids’ stories or images online.6. Drop the fear-based jokes and attitudes — empower kids with respect and tools, not shame or threats.7. Remind yourself: if they don’t learn it from you, they’ll learn it somewhere else.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Peer pressure is often seen as negative, but as Justin puts it - "you become the average of the five people you spend the most time with". The key is healthy and positive friendships, and with loneliness at an all time high, we wanted to find out how the families on Parental Guidance are helping their kids make and foster friendships. In a world where kids feel lonelier than ever- despite being constantly “connected” - how can we help them build real, meaningful friendships and resist negative peer pressure? How are the families on Parental Guidance helping their kids make and foster friendships? In this episode, we dive into the crucial role of social skills, healthy face-to-face interactions, and intentional parenting to help children thrive socially and emotionally. KEY POINTS Not all peer pressure is bad — positive peer pressure can help kids adopt healthy habits. Many kids today struggle with loneliness despite being surrounded by peers, often due to excessive screen time and lack of real-world social practice. Social skills like introducing oneself, showing curiosity, and maintaining conversations are essential for resisting negative peer pressure. Parents play a key role by modelling healthy social interactions, facilitating opportunities, and keeping conversations about relationships open and non-judgemental. Excessive technology use may hinder social development, but more evidence is needed to fully understand the impact. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with — so help your kids choose wisely." – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES Find more parenting resources and tips for making your family happier at Happy Families. You can watch Parental Guidance on demand at 9NOW. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS ✅ Reduce your child’s screen time and encourage more in-person social interactions.✅ Organise supervised, face-to-face playdates or gatherings to help kids practice social skills.✅ Have regular conversations with your child about their friendships — what’s working, what’s hard, and how they feel about making new friends.✅ Teach curiosity and empathy by modelling how to ask good questions and show interest in others.✅ Support your child in developing both structured (team sports, clubs) and unstructured (free play) social experiences.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tonight on Parental Guidance, Season 3 continues with one of the most important—and challenging—parenting topics: peer pressure and consent. Justin and Kylie preview Episode 2, teasing the big questions you’ll want to discuss with your kids after watching. From raising upstanders to helping kids say “no” when it matters most, this episode is packed with practical ways to strengthen your family’s values in the face of social pressure. KEY POINTS: Season 3 of Parental Guidance airs tonight at 7:30 on Channel 9 and 9Now, with Episode 2 focusing on peer pressure and consent. Peer pressure often drives kids into non-consensual or harmful behaviour—helping them stand firm is critical. Questions parents should reflect on and discuss with their kids: How comfortable are your children in new social situations? Have you had clear, age-appropriate conversations about consent? Will your child be an upstander when others are excluded or bullied? Can your child say “no” even when everyone else is saying “yes”? Watching Parental Guidance offers real-time insights from other families and adds powerful tools to your parenting toolkit. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "How strong are your kids? Are they willing to say no when everyone else is saying yes?" RESOURCES MENTIONED: Watch Parental Guidance, Season 3, Episode 2 tonight at 7:30 on Channel 9 or stream on 9Now. Parenting resources and family tools: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: 1. Watch Parental Guidance tonight and pay attention to the ways families handle peer pressure and consent conversations.2. Use the four big questions from this episode to spark meaningful discussions with your kids.3. Model and teach your children how to be upstanders, not bystanders, in social situations.4. Revisit your conversations about consent, ensuring they’re clear, ongoing, and age-appropriate.5. Reflect on your own parenting approach and add at least one new idea to your “toolkit” after watching.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking about money with kids can feel awkward, but it matters more than most parents realise. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by Ish Co, Managing Director of Kit – a pocket money app by the Commonwealth Bank. Together, they unpack how to teach kids under 10 the foundations of money management. From delayed gratification to understanding digital money, this is a must-listen for any parent wanting their kids to grow up financially savvy. KEY POINTS: Kids learn most about money from parents, not schools. Conversations, role modelling, and real-life experiences build financial literacy. Key lessons for kids under 10: saving, understanding interest, delaying gratification, and learning how earning works. Use cash with younger kids to make money tangible, but transition to digital tools as they grow. Pocket money works best when it’s regular, not random. Automation can help teach saving and spending habits without the parent constantly managing it. The average pocket money for 8–10-year-olds is $7.30 per week, but the amount matters less than the learning opportunity it provides. Use money conversations to teach kids about choices, consequences, and even charity. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Being good at money isn’t about having lots of money. It’s about using money as a tool to live the life you want.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Hey Kit – a pocket money app and card for kids (by Commonwealth Bank) Moneysmart.gov.au—Australian Government financial literacy tools for families ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start talking about money early—age 5 and up. Model good money behaviours—saving, budgeting, and mindful spending. Use pocket money (even small amounts) to teach saving, spending, and giving. Make money visible: show account balances before and after spending to teach the concept in a digital world. Link money to goals—whether it's saving for a toy, a holiday, or something bigger. Don’t shut down questions about money—turn them into meaningful conversations. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do AI chatbot dangers, thirty young adults crammed into a tiny home, and a book-writing marathon have in common? They’re all part of this week’s rollercoaster ride in the Coulson household. In this deeply personal episode, Justin and Kylie share what lit them up—and what nearly broke them. From a powerful conversation about building community around our kids, to the sobering risks of digital "friendships," and the heavy toll of creating a book that could change lives, this is an episode about showing up, staying intentional, and doing better tomorrow. KEY POINTS: The importance of intentional community building for our children’s wellbeing Why involving young adults in parenting conversations can have a powerful ripple effect The real-world risks of AI chatbots for kids—romantic roleplay, misinformation, and impersonating therapists How curiosity and loneliness make kids vulnerable to chatbot manipulation Behind the scenes of writing a parenting book: three years, 600 index cards, and countless sacrifices Why the upcoming book on raising tween and teen boys might be Justin’s most important work yet QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"One of the biggest predictors for mental wellbeing is connection—and building that village around our kids is imperative." – Kylie Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Tristan Harris and the Center for Humane Technology Parental Guidance (TV series) Happy Families website: happyfamilies.com.au Register your interest in Justin’s upcoming book on raising boys ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Be Intentional About Community: Invite others into your home—even if it’s tight. Connection doesn’t need perfection. Talk to Your Kids About AI: Don’t assume they're safe just because you haven’t seen the risks firsthand. Pre-arm them with knowledge. Stay Curious About Your Child’s World: Ask what apps or sites they use. Learn with them and for them. Support Resources That Serve Families: Share tools and conversations that spark growth—like this podcast and the upcoming book. Model Vulnerability and Growth: Let your kids see that you're always learning, always growing. It’s okay to say, “I’ll do better tomorrow.” See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s confronting. It’s heartbreaking. And it’s happening every day.Australia ranks among the highest in the world for online bullying—and too many parents feel powerless to stop it. In this episode, Justin and Kylie recap the raw and eye-opening online bullying challenge from Parental Guidance Season 3. They’re joined by Australia’s eSafety Commissioner, Julie Inman Grant, who shares the harsh realities—and practical solutions—for families. From shocking in-game bullying to vital conversations every family should be having, this is an essential listen for every parent navigating the digital world with their kids. KEY POINTS: Australia has the second-highest rates of reported online bullying globally—after the U.S. The Parental Guidance challenge exposed how confronting online bullying can be for both children and parents. Many children don’t realise how harmful their words can be online. Cyberbullying often happens within school communities, not just with strangers. The anonymity of screens makes hurtful behaviour easier for some children. Julie Inman Grant (eSafety Commissioner) highlights that 1 in 5 Aussie kids experience cyberbullying. Critical advice includes: monitor online activity, keep screens out of bedrooms and bathrooms, and have regular, open conversations. Teach kids to block, report, and escalate harmful behaviour. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Talk early and talk often. This is not a one-off conversation—it’s an ongoing part of parenting in the digital age.”– Julie Inman Grant, eSafety Commissioner RESOURCES MENTIONED: eSafety Commissioner: https://www.esafety.gov.au – for reporting cyberbullying and accessing resources. Parental Guidance on 9Now – to watch the full episode and share with your family. Happy Families: https://www.happyfamilies.com.au – for parenting resources, courses, and support. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Monitor & Supervise: Know what your kids are doing online. Familiarise yourself with the games, apps, and chat platforms they use. Keep Screens Out of Bedrooms/Bathrooms: These are the places where harm often escalates—whether it’s exploitation or cyberbullying. Teach Block & Report: Empower your kids to block bullies and report harmful behaviour quickly and confidently. Talk Early, Talk Often: Start conversations about online behaviour when your kids are young—and keep them going as they grow. Escalate if Needed: If the bullying continues, report it to the platform, the school, the eSafety Commissioner, or even law enforcement when necessary. Model Healthy Tech Use: Show your kids what respectful online interactions look like—and when it’s okay to disconnect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A video of Justin... that Justin never made. This was the shocking moment that shook the families on Parental Guidance—a deepfake designed to highlight how real, how convincing, and how dangerous AI can be for our kids. In today’s recap, we dive into the confronting realities of deepfakes, online safety, and skyrocketing screen time. From fake videos to 65-hour screen weeks, how do we protect our kids in this hyperconnected world? KEY POINTS: Deepfakes are real, fast, and easy. It took producers just 20 minutes to create a convincing fake video of Justin. This raises serious concerns about privacy, consent, and exploitation—especially for teens. The gendered impact is severe. 98% of deepfake porn targets women and girls, with devastating emotional and psychological consequences. The 'be careful what you post' advice is outdated. Even innocent images like yearbook photos can be misused. The real focus needs to be on teaching empathy, respect, and legal consequences. Screen time shock. One family clocked 21 devices for 6 people. A parent averaged 65 hours a week—over 9 hours a day—and her son hit 16 hours in a single day. The real cost of screen time. Excessive screens impact brain development, sleep, social skills, physical health, and relationships. Digital connections aren't enough. Kids need real-life, face-to-face interaction for emotional and neurological growth—nine times more brain activation happens in person than on Zoom. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "When we spend time in front of a screen—especially when it's excessive—we do not grow our brain. In fact, the research suggests there’s less grey matter. That is a massive problem." – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson TV Show: Parental Guidance Season 3 – available on 9Now Website: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Talk about it. Have open, honest conversations with your kids about AI, deepfakes, and consent. Teach empathy. Reinforce that using someone's image without consent is a violation of their humanity—and often a crime. Audit your screens. Count your family’s devices and track your own usage. Awareness is step one. Prioritise real-world connection. Schedule offline time daily. Prioritise nature, play, face-to-face conversations, and physical activity. Set boundaries. Create clear family rules about screen time, nighttime device use, and online safety. Model the behaviour. Kids notice if we say one thing but do another. Manage your own screen habits. Stay informed. Keep up with emerging tech risks and solutions. Read, listen, learn, and adjust. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

They look fun. They seem harmless. But behind the screen, AI chatbots are creating dangerously deceptive relationships with our kids. In this gripping recap of Parental Guidance Season 3, Episode 1, Justin and Kylie unpack the most confronting challenge yet: kids creating AI “friends.” From flirtatious bots to false identities and emotional manipulation, this episode reveals just how easily our children can be drawn into harmful digital connections—and what parents must do to protect them. KEY POINTS: AI chatbots are being marketed directly to kids as a solution for loneliness and boredom. All four children in the challenge encountered manipulative, deceptive bots, including flirtation, secrets, and attempts to move conversations to apps like Snapchat. The bots often blurred the line between real and fake, undermining children's understanding of truth and connection. Expert insights from Dr Raphael Chayérello (AI ethics, University of Sydney) highlighted how AI is designed to mine data, provoke emotional reactions, and retain attention at all costs. There is currently no legislation protecting children in these spaces—and some real-life cases have ended in tragedy. The episode illustrates why AI “friendships” are never in a child’s best interest. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“There is nothing redeeming about these bots. They are deceptive, manipulative, and dangerous—and they are not your child’s friend.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance Season 3 – Episode 1 (available on 9Now) HappyFamilies.com.au for daily episode recaps and parenting tools Dr Raphael Chayérello, AI Ethics Expert, University of Sydney ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Talk to your kids today about AI bots: Ask if they or their friends use them. What are those chats like? Explain clearly that AI is not real, not a friend, and often not safe. Stay informed: Watch the episode with your child and open up discussion about what they saw. Prioritise real-world friendships: If your child is lonely, support them in developing face-to-face connections. Set boundaries around tech: AI bots are just one of many digital dangers—have regular conversations about safe and healthy screen use. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reality TV with a purpose? Yes, please. Parental Guidance Season 3 kicks off tonight—and in this special preview episode, Justin and Kylie share everything you need to know before tuning in. From parenting styles to hot-button topics like body image, screen time, and AI bots, this four-night TV event dives deep into the challenges real families are facing right now. Whether you're a traditional parent, a positivity parent, or somewhere in between, this season is designed to spark honest conversations and offer hope for families doing their best in tough times. KEY POINTS: Parental Guidance Season 3 airs over four consecutive nights on Channel Nine and 9Now. It’s not about winning—just eight families courageously sharing their parenting lives. Topics include: Screen time (including AI friends and bots) Body image (a heart-wrenching and inspiring episode) Mental health Peer pressure Unexpected insights into education Parenting styles this season include: Traditional, Protect, Active, Upfront, Authoritative, Hard Way, Life School, and Positivity. The aim: Honest, respectful conversations about what parenting looks like today—and what’s working. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “As parents, we need to believe in a positive future for our kids—and I think this show gives us the tools and the keys we need to get there.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance Season 3 (Channel Nine and 9Now) HappyFamilies.com.au for related resources and daily podcast reviews following each episode. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Watch tonight’s episode live (7:30pm on Nine and 9Now) to be part of the national conversation. Talk with your kids after each episode—what do they think about what they saw? Tune in to the Happy Families daily recap podcasts this week for expert insights into the challenges raised on the show. Share the show and the podcast with friends or family—it’s a powerful conversation starter. Reflect on your own parenting style and ask: What’s working? What might I try differently? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we making life too easy for our kids? In a world where we rush to remove every obstacle from our children’s paths, we may be unintentionally robbing them of the very thing they need most—resilience. In this powerful conversation, Dr. Justin Coulson is joined by Tim Curtis—former SAS Commander, humanitarian, and author of Building Resilient Kids. From war zones to raising teens, Tim’s lived experience offers extraordinary insights into how resilience is truly built. Together, they unpack why a little stress is good, why failure matters, and the foundational layers that make kids bounce back stronger. This is the resilience masterclass every parent needs. KEY POINTS: Resilience isn’t fixed; it can be built. The Resilience Shield Model: Six layers—Innate, Mind, Body, Social, Professional, and Adaptation. Stress is essential—but it needs to be the right amount. Overprotective parenting harms resilience—kids need to struggle to grow. The power of strong family connections as the cornerstone of resilience. Practical stories from war zones, camps, and families that highlight resilience in action. How parents can role model resilience every day (including how we handle bad drivers and broken sinks!). Why rest and recovery are crucial parts of resilience—not signs of failure. The difference between resilience, willpower, and grit. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Resilience varies by degree, not by kind. The stress in your child’s life is real to them—and they need it to grow.” – Tim Curtis RESOURCES MENTIONED: Book: Building Resilient Kids by Tim Curtis (out July 1) Podcast: The Unforgiving Sixty Podcast: Building Resilient Kids (Tim’s companion podcast to the book) Resilience Shield Model – Research-backed framework Jill Bolte Taylor on emotions passing in 90 seconds Research by Carol Dweck (Growth Mindset) and Angela Duckworth (Grit) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Model resilience. Let your kids see you handle stress, setbacks, and failure with grace and recovery. Let them fail—safely. Small failures help kids build the coping mechanisms they’ll need later in life. Prioritise the basics: Sleep, nutrition, exercise, and social connection—these are resilience superpowers. Let them sit with discomfort. Don’t rush to fix every negative emotion. Let them learn that emotions pass. Talk about effort, not outcomes. Celebrate trying, learning, and persisting more than trophies or grades. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Having your heart right towards your child is probably the most important thing you can do... but how you communicate is right up there too.” In this episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, we share two powerful parenting wins from our own family this week. From navigating bedtime battles with our youngest to having a meaningful (and sometimes hilarious) conversation about consent and relationships with our teens, this is real-life parenting in action. These are the conversations that create connection, foster trust, and build resilience — and we’re sharing exactly how we did it. KEY POINTS: A Bedtime Breakthrough: How revisiting the basics (routines, rituals, and conversations) transformed bedtime struggles with our youngest daughter. The Power of the 3 E’s: Explore, Explain, Empower — a simple yet profound communication framework that creates buy-in, not battles. Tricky Talks That Stick: Why our once-a-month ‘tough talks’ with our teens have become weekly — and how they’re building confidence and safety around topics like consent, relationships, pressure, and boundaries. Start Early, Talk Often: Even our 11-year-old stayed engaged in a complex conversation about consent, showing that these conversations are never too early (or too late). It’s Not About Perfection: Success comes from showing up, leaning in, and keeping the conversations going — not from getting it right every time. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “When kids understand the rationale, things go so much better.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families – Resources for a happier family. Consent.gov.au – Consent resources and the Consent Can’t Wait campaign. Parental Guidance TV Show – Channel 9 and 9Now. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Use the 3 E’s: Next time you face a challenge, pause and ask yourself — have I explored their perspective, explained mine, and empowered them to help solve it? Rethink Bedtime: If routines are breaking down, revisit rituals that worked when they were younger — and involve your child in creating the new plan. Schedule Tricky Talks: Don’t wait for problems to arise. Make space for regular conversations about emotions, consent, relationships, and boundaries. Make It Fun (and Safe): Keep these talks light, warm, and open — banter, laughter, and snacks help! Remember the Timing: Big conversations are most effective when emotions are calm — not in the middle of conflict. Share This Episode: Know someone struggling with bedtime battles or tricky teen conversations? Flick this episode their way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode isn’t like our usual Thursday chats. Today, we’re unboxing something that could genuinely change — or even save — lives. It’s not about us. It’s about a cause close to our hearts: men’s mental health and suicide prevention. After losing our nephew to suicide in 2023, this mission became deeply personal. Join us as we unpack the Gotcha For Life Men's Care Box — a collaboration between Gotcha For Life and Chemist Warehouse. For just $20, you get over $100 worth of products, and every single cent supports suicide prevention efforts. Hear what's inside, why it matters, and how this simple purchase could help someone you love. KEY POINTS: A Personal Story: The heartbreaking loss of Justin’s nephew to suicide in 2023 reshaped their family and their conversations forever. Gotcha For Life's Mission: Aiming to reduce suicide to zero by fostering meaningful connections and conversations. The Men’s Care Box: $20 at Chemist Warehouse, packed with over $100 worth of self-care items. Every Dollar Helps: 100% of proceeds go directly to Gotcha For Life’s mental fitness initiatives. Why It Matters: A simple gesture — like gifting this box — reminds the men in your life that they are seen, valued, and loved. The Bike Analogy: We often see people moving through life like a bike’s headlight in the dark — not realising how hard they’re pedalling just to stay afloat. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “We see the light—that’s a life. But we don’t see how hard someone is pedalling underneath to stay afloat.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Gotcha For Life – Mental fitness programs and support. Gotcha For Life Men’s Care Box – Available at Chemist Warehouse (while stocks last). Happy Families – Resources for a happier family. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Buy a Box: Head to Chemist Warehouse and grab a Gotcha For Life Men's Care Box — for yourself, or for someone who needs a reminder that they matter. Check In: Reach out to a mate. Ask how they're really going. Start a meaningful conversation. Look for the Pedalling: Pay attention to the people around you — even those who seem like they’re doing fine. Explore Mental Fitness: Check out Gotcha For Life’s resources to strengthen your own mental fitness and support those around you. Normalise Vulnerability: Model open, honest conversations with your children about emotions, struggle, and seeking help. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if stress isn’t the enemy… but the training ground? In this sneak peek of our powerful conversation with former SAS soldier and leadership expert Tim Curtis, we unpack the real role of stress in our lives—and how it can actually help our kids grow. Tim reveals the four essential layers of resilience every child (and adult) needs to thrive—and the surprisingly simple shifts that build strength from the inside out. This episode will change the way you see stress—and empower you to raise kids who can do hard things. KEY POINTS: Stress is not always bad – the right amount (as explained by the Yerkes-Dodson Law) boosts performance and growth. Avoidance reinforces anxiety – but action activates growth. Emotions are signals, not enemies – they give us guidance if we listen. The 4 Layers of Resilience: Mind – mindset, mindfulness, meditation Body – sleep, diet, exercise Social – support systems and connection Professional – competence, confidence, contribution (including parenting as a profession) Building resilience is less about shielding kids and more about supporting them as they stretch and grow. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "There’s no triumph without trial."– Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Tim Curtis’s upcoming book: Building Resilient Kids Yerkes-Dodson Law (on stress and performance) Happy Families resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Normalise stress – Talk to your kids about stress as something useful, not something to avoid. Teach emotion awareness – Help your child understand emotions as helpful signals. Strengthen all four layers – Encourage routines that support body, mind, relationships, and purpose. Model resilience – Let your kids see you navigating difficulty with action, not avoidance. Lean into the hard stuff – Gently support your child through challenges instead of rescuing them from discomfort. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“It’s really hard to be happier than your unhappiest child.” When one child is battling mental health challenges, the whole family feels the weight. In this heartfelt episode, Justin and Kylie answer a powerful question from a mum of four: How do I help my younger kids cope as their older brother struggles with depression? This episode is a must-listen for families navigating the emotional ripple effects of mental health struggles. With deep compassion and practical insight, the Coulsons explore how parents can support siblings through confusion, grief, and change—without losing themselves in the process. KEY POINTS: Acknowledge the Grief: Siblings often feel like they’ve “lost” their brother—even though he’s still physically there. Challenge Unhelpful Stories: Gently correct thoughts like “It’s my fault” or “He doesn’t love me anymore.” Explain Simply & Honestly: Offer age-appropriate explanations without going into detail or glossing over pain. Give Permission to Feel Joy: Let siblings know they don’t have to walk on eggshells or suppress happiness. Empower Them to Help: Involve siblings in small, non-burdensome acts of kindness to build connection and hope. Reinforce Connection: Help your struggling child feel included without pressure or guilt. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “No matter how angry you are, no matter how sad you are, our love for you is bigger than what you're feeling right now.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: HappyFamilies.com.au – for parenting support and podcast submissions. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Talk About It: Start a family conversation that names the reality and reassures: “This isn’t about you. This is something your brother is going through. And we’re in it together.” Model Calm Love: Your children are watching how you respond. Demonstrating patience and compassion teaches them resilience and loyalty. Create Joyful Moments: Take siblings out of the house for fun, connection, and relief from emotional tension. Invite Micro-Acts of Connection: Encourage simple, no-pressure gestures like watching a movie together or sharing a meme. Build Your Village: As a parent, find someone to support you—you don’t have to carry this alone. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you carrying the mental and emotional load of parenting solo—even though you have a partner? You're not imagining it. You're not alone. And it doesn't have to stay this way. In this episode of the Happy Families podcast, Justin and Kylie dive into one of the most common (and quietly painful) challenges parents face: feeling like you're parenting alone in a relationship. With warmth, realism, and practical insight, we share four powerful—but gentle—ways to invite your partner back into the parenting picture. Whether you’re feeling unheard, unsupported, or just out of sync, these small steps can lead to big transformation. KEY POINTS: Appreciation Inventory: What we focus on grows. Before you confront, notice. Daily acknowledgements of your partner’s efforts—even small ones—can shift the dynamic. Collaborative Conversations: Use the three E’s of effective discipline (Explore, Explain, Empower) not just with kids, but with each other. Invite, don’t assign. Gradual Invitations: Don’t expect an overnight fix. Start small, with one area of natural interest, and build from there. Success breeds success. Role Modelling Matters: We become like the people we surround ourselves with. Seeing engaged parenting modeled—especially by other dads—can have a powerful ripple effect. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“People move towards positive energy. People really love appreciation. They tend to be repelled by criticism.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Three E’s of Effective Discipline Family Meetings The Heliotropic Effect Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:1. Spend a week noticing and commenting on what your partner is doing.2. Replace “we need to talk” with curiosity: What are you noticing about bedtime?3. Choose one small area where your partner is already engaged—and invite them to go deeper.4. Encourage connections with friends who model engaged parenting.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I just want what’s best for them.”That’s what every loving parent says. But sometimes, in our desperation to protect our kids from failure—or secure their success—we push too hard, and it backfires. In this conversation with psychologist and parenting expert Professor Wendy Grolnick, we explore the hidden costs of being a pushy parent and how to guide our children in healthier, more empowering ways. Drawing on decades of research and her landmark book The Psychology of Parental Control, Wendy shares practical, compassionate strategies that help parents avoid power struggles and build confident, capable kids.

Things reached breaking point. And then… everything changed.This week on the Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie share a raw and transformative parenting story from their own home—a story of tough love, compassion, and the unexpected joy that emerged when one of their children went screen-free. If you've ever wrestled with screen-time battles, wondered whether stepping in might do more harm than good, or felt at a loss watching your child withdraw behind a phone… this is the episode you need to hear. KEY POINTS: Not all kids respond to screens the same way—some are more deeply affected mentally, socially, and physically. Despite multiple conversations, one of Justin and Kylie’s children struggled to reduce screen use on her own. Justin made the tough call to temporarily remove the smartphone, despite knowing it would be met with resistance. The decision was supported with compassion, calm, and a consistent message of love and presence. Within days, they saw remarkable emotional and relational transformation. The child herself later initiated a conversation to renegotiate her phone use, ultimately choosing to remove social media apps and suggest her own boundaries. The family experienced a visible increase in connection, laughter, and joy—without screens. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"With enough scaffolding, with enough support, with enough conversation around why sometimes we as parents are going to make decisions that the children may not agree with… the children are able to deal with and respond to these challenges in much more productive ways." – Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: “The Doctor’s Desk” podcast episode #1270 mentioned a study on improved wellbeing after removing smartphone internet access. Study from 'Nature' happyfamilies.com.au for more resources on parenting and screen time. Parental Guidance Season 3 starts Monday June 30 on Channel 9 — new episodes discussed throughout the week on the podcast. ✅ ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Trust your instincts – If screen use is affecting your child’s wellbeing, don't ignore the signs. Lead with compassion – Any intervention should be anchored in calm, empathy, and connection. Scaffold the change – Offer alternatives, create structure, and maintain open communication. Invite their input – When emotions settle, include your child in designing new tech boundaries. Watch for the joy – Pay attention to the surprising upside: more laughter, connection, and peace. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are your phone habits impacting your child’s growth? We all know kids and screens don’t mix well—but what about parents and screens? A compelling new study has uncovered a strong link between a mother’s screen time and her child’s developmental outcomes. In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack the latest research on "technoference" and what happens to our children when our eyes are glued to our devices. The results may just change the way you use your phone—especially around your kids. KEY POINTS: Study Summary: Japanese research of ~4,000 mother-child pairs found that more than one hour of screen use by mums in front of their children correlates with lower language and social development. Two Hours or More: Greater than two hours was associated with lower global development outcomes. Technoference: The distraction of devices interrupts “serve and return” interactions—vital for healthy child development. Modelling Matters: Kids mimic their parents—mums who use screens more are more likely to have kids who use them too. TV vs. Devices: Passive screen time (TV) is less harmful than interactive, overstimulating device use—but still not ideal. Screen Time ≠ Quality Learning: Despite nostalgic memories of “learning” from Sesame Street, research shows TV is a poor teacher compared to real-world engagement. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Screens are a hollow imitation of real life... real development happens in person-to-person, face-to-face interactions." RESOURCES MENTIONED: The study published in Nature Scientific Reports (March 2025) Previous podcast episodes on child screen use and brain development Happy Families website: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Be Present: Put down your phone when you're with your child—especially in those early years. Set Boundaries: Limit both your own and your child’s screen time with simple routines (e.g., no phones at the table or during playtime). Model Mindful Use: Show kids what healthy tech habits look like—because they’re watching. Prioritise Engagement: Make time for face-to-face chats, shared play, and reading together—real-life interactions build real brains. Use Screens Intentionally: If you need a break, opt for TV over devices, and choose age-appropriate, narrative-driven content.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We usually talk about tech as a problem — screens, addiction, distraction — but what if it could actually make family life better? In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson chats with two innovative parents, Matt and Brianna Donaldson, about how they're using smart technology to support routines, reduce stress, and create more quality time together. From bedtime battles to TV tantrums, discover how smart lights, switches, and routines can bring more peace and predictability to your home — no tech degree required! KEY POINTS: Around 80% of Millennial and Gen Z parents are now using smart home tech to manage home life. Smart devices (like lights, switches, and TVs) can automate routines to reduce friction — especially around bedtime. Tech can enhance a child’s autonomy and transitions (e.g. lights dimming, music playing) without constant parental prompting. Boundaries and structure are still essential — even in tech-forward homes. It’s not about more tech, but intentional tech that supports family connection and calm. You don’t have to spend thousands: starting with a $20 smart switch can begin transforming routines. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “It’s not Mum or Dad turning off the TV — it’s the house. The structure is doing the heavy lifting.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Samsung SmartThings App Smart Switches (available from retailers like JB Hi-Fi or Kmart) Bluey and the Tony Box (a screen-free audio player for kids) The Parenting Revolution – by Dr Justin Coulson happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start small. Try one smart light or switch in a high-impact area like the bedroom. Automate transitions. Use tech cues (e.g. dim lights + calming music) to support routines like bedtime. Keep boundaries clear. Set firm, predictable limits around tech use — especially screens. Use tech to reclaim time. Automate cleaning (like smart vacuums) or other routines to free up family time. Let the “house be the boss.” Reduce conflict by letting routines and automation do the talking. Prioritise presence. Tech should serve family life, not steal from it. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is it ADHD… or something else entirely? This episode dives into one of the most debated topics in parenting and child psychology. Dr Justin Coulson answers a heartfelt question from a concerned parent: Should I pursue a formal ADHD diagnosis for my child — or are there better first steps to take? If you're feeling overwhelmed by symptoms, advice, and conflicting opinions, this conversation will help you slow down, zoom out, and see your child through a compassionate, research-informed lens. KEY POINTS: ADHD diagnosis rates are rising — but is it always the right label? Some children may be diagnosed for what is actually normal developmental variation or environmental mismatch. ADHD-like symptoms may be a child’s way of trying to meet three unmet psychological needs: Connection (relatedness) Capability (competence) Control (autonomy) Neuroinflammation is an emerging and overlooked factor in ADHD symptoms. Developmental readiness matters — an 8-year-old’s brain is still undergoing major executive function development. Rather than trying to eliminate stress, parents can help children build capacity to handle challenge (a growth mindset). Medication might help some, but it’s not the first (or only) answer. Diagnosis should be thoughtful, multi-faceted, and whole-child focused. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Difference doesn't mean disorder. Development is not a race." – Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson Happy Families – for more articles, podcast episodes, and parenting resources Self-Determination Theory & Growth Mindset research Parenting ADHD [The Course] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Delay formal diagnosis (unless impairment is severe) and give time for development. Audit the environment for connection, competence, and autonomy — is it need-thwarting or need-supportive? Support physical health: Prioritise sleep, unprocessed foods, and movement. Explore reducing neuroinflammation through lifestyle. Teach a growth mindset: Use the word “yet”, encourage effort, and model learning through challenges. Reframe behaviours: Daydreaming may signal creativity, not dysfunction. Risk-taking may show courage and capability-seeking. Task resistance may be about autonomy, not defiance. If pursuing assessment, choose a clinician who understands development, context, and the whole child — not just a checklist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When the kids are relentless, defiant, or just downright exhausting, do you give in? Do you clamp down? Or is there a better way? In this episode of the Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack the three most common parenting responses to challenging behaviour — and make the case for a third, more effective path. You'll laugh, reflect, and come away with a powerful tool to help you parent with confidence, clarity, and calm. KEY POINTS: The 3 common parenting responses to tough behaviour: Giving In (Permissiveness) – short-term peace, long-term chaos. The “Hell No” (Authoritarian) – may bring instant compliance but can damage connection and growth. Working With (Collaborative Discipline) – more effort upfront, but creates better long-term outcomes. Why permissiveness backfires: it invites boundary-testing and weakens trust and safety. How harsh, top-down discipline can rupture relationships and discourage self-regulation. Introducing the 3 E’s of Effective Discipline: Explore your child’s perspective. Explain your concerns. Empower your child to problem-solve with you. Real-life example: how Justin and Kylie worked with their daughter around a tricky social situation. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Fast is slow and slow is fast. When you take the time to work with your kids, you build trust, wisdom, and lasting outcomes.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED:

She thought parenting would be homemade cookies, flouncy dresses, and humming while folding laundry… but instead, she’s throwing plastic cups at walls. In this hilarious, vulnerable, and unexpectedly heartwarming episode, Justin speaks with Victoria Vanstone—author, podcast host, and recovering party girl—about what happens when the perfect mum you imagined never actually shows up. From shouting matches and laptop guilt to near-death experiences and camping hacks, this conversation explores the wild reality of parenting and why just turning up—imperfectly—is more than enough. KEY POINTS Victoria’s journey from party girl to mum (and how giving up drinking gave her back her life) The power of writing to reflect on and process parenting Why self-awareness trumps perfection every time Near-death moments and learning to live with risk as a parent The guilt of being too attached to work—and what she did to fix it Why camping within 5 km of home (and sneaking home to sleep) might be the ultimate parenting hack What it really means to “mum” with heart, humour, and honesty QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "Having children means creating risk. Love means risking loss. And that’s parenting in a nutshell—heartwarming and heartbreaking, all in the same breath." — Victoria Vanstone RESOURCES MENTIONED Mumming: A Year of Trying and Failing to Be a Better Parent by Victoria Vanstone A Thousand Wasted Sundays by Victoria Vanstone Sober Awkward podcast What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Embrace imperfection. Stop waiting for the “ideal” parent to show up—just keep showing up, messy and real. Reflect and write. Whether you blog, journal, or just jot notes, self-awareness begins with reflection. Seek help when needed. Whether it’s therapy, support groups, or just a trusted friend—reach out. Put down the laptop. Create tech-free time zones at home where your child has your full attention. Find your own hacks. Whether it’s camping close to home or hiring help, do what works for your family—without guilt.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I'll Do Better Tomorrow: The Power of Teaching Kids About EmotionsKids don’t magically learn emotional regulation—they need to be taught. In this special Friday episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin and Kylie reflect on a big week: a powerful email from the past, and a meaningful family conversation about emotions. They share how their weekly “teaching tradition” helps their kids understand, express, and manage big feelings—with practical ideas any parent can try at home. KEY POINTS Weekly family tradition:The Coulsons have moved from monthly “tricky topic” chats to weekly conversations—because consistency matters more than perfection. Understanding emotions visually:Emotions were mapped across two axes—energy (high/low) and pleasantness (pleasant/unpleasant)—to help kids name and normalise feelings. Teaching emotional regulation:Emotions aren’t who we are; they’re what we feel. Kids were taught to “move through” emotions rather than get stuck in them. Adaptive vs maladaptive coping:Adaptive strategies included movement, music, cold water, connection, and even cleaning. Maladaptive strategies included isolation, outbursts, or ruminating alone. Explicit teaching works:Kids responded well to a clear, hands-on conversation. And yes—one child acted it all out in real time. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Emotions are not who we are—they're something we move through.” RESOURCES MENTIONED The Parenting Revolution – Book by Dr Justin Coulson happyfamilies.com.au – resources for family connection Consent education: Consent Can't Wait campaign ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start a Weekly Chat TraditionChoose a consistent time (e.g. Sunday evenings) to talk about a value, life skill, or tricky topic as a family. Teach Emotions in Two DimensionsUse energy (high/low) and pleasantness (pleasant/unpleasant) to help kids map their feelings more clearly. Help Kids Reframe Their LanguageInstead of “I am angry,” encourage “I have anger.” It promotes healthier emotional distance. Create an Adaptive Coping List TogetherBrainstorm ways to manage big feelings that work for your family: music, exercise, pets, hugs, laughter. Be Consistent, Not Perfect It’s not about grand lessons—it’s about regular, intentional connection that grows with your children. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when you strip your smartphone of its “smart”? In this Doctor’s Desk deep dive, Justin and Kylie unpack a groundbreaking new study showing what really happens when people block mobile internet on their smartphones. The results? Better focus. Improved wellbeing. Healthier screen habits. Drawing on the science, personal experience, and insights from Jonathan Haidt and game designers themselves, this episode offers a wake-up call—and a way forward—for families navigating digital overload. KEY POINTS First-of-its-kind research: A randomised controlled trial published in PNAS Nexus found that blocking mobile internet improved sustained attention, mental health, and subjective wellbeing. 91% improved: Nearly all participants in the study saw measurable gains by turning off mobile internet for just two weeks. How behaviour changes: People spent more time socialising, exercising, and being in nature—activities that are strongly linked to happiness and resilience. Jonathan Haidt’s insight: The greatest harm of screens isn’t just anxiety—it’s the destruction of attention and the erosion of childhood development. Addiction by design: Game developers and social media engineers want you and your kids to be addicted. Their business depends on it. Not all screen time is equal: Watching a movie with someone? Often fine. Scrolling alone on a touchscreen? Psychologically harmful. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “We are prisoners to our devices—and the smartest people on earth designed it that way.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Study: Blocking Mobile Internet on Smartphones Improves Sustained Attention, Mental Health, and Subjective Wellbeing (PNAS Nexus) The Anxious Generation – Jonathan Haidt The Parenting Revolution – Dr Justin Coulson happyfamilies.com.au The Light Phone 3 (Justin’s personal attempt at going “dumb”) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Block Internet Access on Phones Use settings or third-party tools to disable mobile internet on smartphones, especially for kids. Switch to “Dumb Mode” Calls and texts only. Move social and entertainment use to desktop computers to limit impulsive use. Model Change Yourself Consider your own phone use. Try a one-week mobile internet detox and note how your mind and mood change. Prioritise Real-World Activity Encourage (and plan for) more time in nature, exercise, and in-person connection. Educate & Equip Talk to your kids about how screens are designed. Teach them to spot manipulation—and reclaim their attention. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if failing to be the perfect parent was the point all along? In this raw and deeply moving preview episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the heart, humour, and humanity behind Mumming—a memoir by Victoria Vanstone about a year of trying (and failing) to be a better parent. From shouty moments to terrifying near-loss, Victoria’s journey reminds us that imperfection is part of the gig. Because parenting isn’t about getting it right. It’s about showing up, loving fiercely, and doing the best we can. KEY POINTS Perfection is overrated: Victoria Vanstone's story is a refreshing reminder that parenting doesn’t require perfection—it just asks for presence and persistence. Imperfection can be a superpower: By owning her flaws, Victoria models growth and authenticity—for herself and her children. Love always involves risk: Whether it’s sending your teen to the plaza or surviving a choking emergency, parenting requires us to let go—and that’s terrifying and transformative. Identity as a parent takes time: Mumming is as much about self-discovery as it is about raising kids. Who we want to be isn’t always who we are—but we can still move in the right direction. Humour and honesty heal: Victoria’s writing blends wit, wisdom, and the kind of vulnerability that helps parents everywhere feel less alone. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “So long as you’re trying, you’re not actually failing.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Mumming by Victoria Vanstone (book) Full interview available on the Happy Families podcast (Saturday drop) happyfamilies.com.au – for more parenting resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Embrace your imperfections. Notice where you feel like you’re “failing” and reframe it—what effort or love lies beneath? Talk honestly with your kids. Share age-appropriate truths about your struggles or mistakes. It builds trust and models growth. Laugh at the mess. Use humour as a way to connect and ease the tension that comes with everyday parenting chaos. Let love stretch you. Whether it’s letting go of control or facing fear, love will always ask something big of you. Step into that stretch. Read something real. Pick up Mumming or another memoir that normalises the messy beauty of parenting. You’re not alone. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when your anxiety has become their anxiety? In this listener Q&A, Justin and Kylie respond to Amy from Melbourne—a self-diagnosed helicopter parent whose 9-year-old daughter now struggles with fear and risk aversion. With compassion and practical insight, they break down the difference between risky and dangerous play, explore the impact of parental anxiety, and offer real-world strategies to build your child’s confidence—without ignoring safety. KEY POINTS Risk ≠ Danger: Risky play involves challenge with decision-making and agency. Dangerous or hazardous play involves hidden threats kids can’t yet assess. Why Risky Play Matters: It improves mental health, builds confidence, reduces anxiety, enhances learning, and strengthens decision-making. Parental Anxiety is Contagious: When parents over-control, children miss the chance to develop autonomy and trust in their own judgement. Structure Builds Competence: Autonomy-supportive parenting isn’t “hands off”—it means offering guidance, boundaries, and support while allowing your child to step up gradually. Small Steps Lead to Big Growth: You don’t have to throw your child in the deep end. Micro-risks—like ordering lunch, paying for milk, or exploring a store aisle alone—build trust and resilience. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “The goal is to keep children as safe as necessary—not as safe as possible.” RESOURCES MENTIONED The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson happyfamilies.com.au – More resources for autonomy-supportive parenting Submit your question: happyfamilies.com.au/podcast ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start With a Conversation Gently acknowledge your own anxiety and let your child know you’re learning to trust her more. Introduce Low-Stakes Risks: Let her pay for something at the shops Send her to order lunch while you wait nearby Assign a small independent task at home Teach, Then Step Back Give your child the structure to succeed—rules, expectations, safety cues—then give them space to apply it. Increase Freedom Gradually As both your and your child’s confidence grows, slowly expand what she’s allowed to do without your help. Keep Safety Contextual Not every environment is safe for independence. Know your context, but look for creative alternatives to build autonomy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I Don’t Like Playing with My Kids” – Why Play Still Matters If the idea of playing Barbies or dragons makes you groan… you’re not alone. In this episode, Justin and Kylie tackle a parenting confession that many are afraid to admit: “I don’t like playing with my kids.” Drawing from emotional intelligence research and real-life experience, they unpack why play matters (even if it’s not your favourite), how to make it meaningful and manageable, and why it’s one of the simplest ways to build connection, confidence, and emotional regulation in your child. KEY POINTS Play is not a luxury—it’s essential.Play builds emotional intelligence, connection, and social skills better than almost anything else. It’s not about doing it ‘right’.Play works best when it’s spontaneous, simple, and mutually enjoyable—not when it’s forced or scripted. The emotional impact is profound.Play regulates emotions, reduces tension, strengthens relationships, and helps kids feel seen, heard, and valued. The secret is in the interaction.What makes play powerful is the back-and-forth: the jokes, the giggles, the shared creativity—not the activity itself. A little goes a long way.Just 5–10 minutes of intentional play can fill your child’s emotional cup and help them play independently afterwards. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Play is not about perfection—it’s about connection and presence.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Membership – parenting tools & webinars happyfamilies.com.au – resources for raising emotionally intelligent kids Ethan Kross, Shift ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Find a 5–10 minute window each dayYou don’t need hours. Commit to short, fully present bursts of play—no phones, no multitasking. Gamify the mundaneTurn routines into playful challenges: “Can you hop to the bathroom on one foot?” or “Let’s race to tidy up.” Let your child leadAsk: “How could we make this more fun?” Give them a sense of autonomy and watch their creativity bloom. Prioritise connection over performanceYou’re not there to entertain—you’re there to engage. Drop the pressure, enjoy the moment. Repeat. Consistency is the win.Over time, this builds emotional strength, stronger relationships, and memories that last. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Prawns, Perspective & Parenting: Why the Silly Moments Matter Most Sometimes the most ridiculous memories become the most meaningful.In this heartfelt Friday episode, Justin and Kylie reflect on family, connection, and the unexpected power of silly traditions—like reenacting a 50-year-old prawn-and-tomato-sauce date. From celebrating milestones to navigating teenage heartbreak, this episode reminds us that family life isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up, being all-in, and seeing our children through a lens of love. KEY POINTS Family memories don’t have to be perfect to matter. A chaotic dinner with bad food can become a treasured story if shared with love and laughter. Perspective is everything—especially with big emotions. When a teenager's heartbreak feels overwhelming, a shift in perspective can transform frustration into compassion. Silly moments build strong families. Reenactments, impromptu plays, or saying “yes” to your child’s wild idea create connection and shared joy. The long game in parenting matters. Showing up, sticking it out, and staying connected builds legacy—not just for now, but for generations. Every child’s intensity is a strength in disguise. Big emotions may feel inconvenient in the moment—but they’re often the foundation for deep love and character. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “We think we’re supposed to have perfect families—prawns and tomato sauce is not a perfect dish. But that’s the stuff of family.” RESOURCES MENTIONED The Parenting Revolution by Dr. Justin Coulson This is Connection – book mentioned by a listener Shift by Ethan Kross – for understanding and managing emotions happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Say Yes to the Silly Stuff When your kids ask to put on a play, reenact a moment, or share something ridiculous—join in. Shift Your Perspective If you’re feeling frustrated, try seeing the situation through someone else’s eyes—especially your child’s. Celebrate the Everyday You don’t need a 50th anniversary to make memories. Make ordinary moments extraordinary by being present. Notice the Strength in Emotion Big feelings can be exhausting—but they reveal depth, empathy, and passion. Name the strengths behind the storm. Invest TIME Kids spell love T-I-M-E. Whatever else you have going on this weekend, spend it with them. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the most powerful thing you can do as a parent… is let go? Today’s episode dives into one of the most radical and relieving ideas in parenting: trusting your child’s natural development. Drawing on powerful research from McGill University, Dr Justin explores why pushing less can actually lead to more—less stress, more confidence, fewer behavioural issues, and healthier relationships. Learn how to spot the traps of controlling parenting and discover the four key ingredients to raising capable, self-motivated kids—without the pressure. KEY POINTS The Research: A 2008 study by Landry et al. found that parents who trust their children’s natural development feel more competent, enjoy parenting more, and have children with fewer behaviour problems. Trust ≠ Permissive Parenting: It’s not about doing nothing—it’s about guiding without controlling, believing that your child has an innate drive to grow and learn. The Stress Trap of Controlling Parenting: When parents feel responsible for every part of a child’s progress, they become ego-involved. This leads to micro-managing, overstimulation, and undermines the child’s self-motivation. Four Core Practices of Trust-Based Parenting: Explain why – Not just "because I said so" Validate feelings – Acknowledge the struggle without removing limits Offer real choices – Not manipulative options, but genuine autonomy Minimise control – Step back from bribes, threats, and pressure Cultural Insight: Norwegian mums, with more social support, showed higher trust in natural development than Canadian mums—highlighting how systemic pressure affects parenting mindset. Trust Leads to Growth: Kids with trusting parents show better self-regulation, higher intrinsic motivation, and fewer behavioural problems. They trust their own capabilities—because their parents do. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “The most radical thing you can do as a parent might be to trust your child.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Landry et al. (2008) study on trust in development The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson happyfamilies.com.au – Parenting resources and support ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Stop Comparing Ditch the charts, milestone checklists, and other kids' timelines. Trust your child’s rhythm. Pause Before You Push Ask: “Is this about my child—or my anxiety?” Shift from Director to Facilitator Create opportunities, then step back and let your child take the lead. Use the Four Trust Tools: Give reasons Recognise feelings Offer choices Minimise control Remember the Long Game Development isn’t a race. If you're planting seeds, don’t keep digging them up to see if they’re growing. Just nurture, support—and trust. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join us as we dive into the world of "Granny Core" — a charming, nostalgic approach to helping kids disconnect from screens by embracing slow, hands-on, screen-free hobbies. From knitting and baking to treehouse building and backyard adventures, this episode is packed with 20 timeless activities that promote creativity, connection, and calm. If you're tired of fighting the screen-time battle, this list is your new best friend. KEY POINTS: Why Screen-Free Matters: The overuse of screens is linked to increased anxiety, depression, sleep problems, and academic issues in kids. The Rise of Granny Core: A cultural trend that celebrates slow, traditional activities like knitting, gardening, and baking. Nostalgic Outdoor Play: Classic games like hopscotch, bike riding, and treehouse building help foster imagination and independence. Community & Connection: Group activities like game nights and neighbourhood breakfasts create meaningful relationships and combat isolation. Creative Projects: Activities such as Lego building, writing stories, and learning instruments develop resilience and problem-solving. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “The goal isn’t to eliminate screens entirely. The goal is to ensure screens aren’t crowding out enriching experiences that build confidence, creativity, and connection for our kids.” – Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families website: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Pick One Granny Hobby: Choose one activity, like baking or embroidery, to try with your child this week. Get Outside: Encourage unstructured outdoor play—think mud pies, capture the flag, or a nature scavenger hunt. Host a Game Night: Invite another family over for board games or trivia. Create a Mini Club: Start a small neighbourhood kids' club for crafts or service projects. Connect with a “Grandma”: If real grandparents aren’t nearby, find a local elder who can share time and wisdom with your kids. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today’s Q&A episode, Elizabeth from Melbourne shares a heartbreaking concern: her 7-year-old son is engaging in inappropriate behaviours towards girls at school. We unpack this tricky topic with sensitivity and seriousness—discussing how to draw firm boundaries, have safe and open conversations, and when to seek professional help. If you’ve ever felt unsure about how to respond when your child crosses a line, this episode will offer clarity, compassion, and practical tools. KEY POINTS: Normal Curiosity vs Concerning Behaviour: It’s typical for kids between ages 4–8 to explore gender and bodies—but behaviour like skirt-lifting and bottom-touching crosses a serious line. Immediate Action is Crucial: Clear, direct communication is needed. “Your body belongs to you. Other people’s bodies belong to them.” Teach Consent Early: Consent education starts with everyday interactions—asking before hugging, respecting personal space, and stopping when someone says no. Don’t Catastrophize, Stay Present: Parents must resist the urge to project into the future and instead address the present issue calmly and constructively. Get on the Same Page with the School: Schools have protocols—partner with them for consistent boundaries and supervision. Have Open Conversations Using the 3 E’s of Discipline: Explore what’s behind the behavior, Explain why it’s inappropriate, and Empower your child with better choices. Look Deeper, Ask the Hard Questions: Behaviour may stem from exposure to inappropriate content, modelling by others, or—more rarely—neurological or psychological factors. Avoid Labels: Kids need support, not stigma. Labels can harm their identity and influence how others treat them. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Labels belong on jars, not on people.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Michelle Mitchell's books Consent Can’t Wait Campaign happyfamilies.com.au – for parenting resources and help ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Have a Calm, Direct Conversation Set a firm boundary: “This behaviour is not okay.” Avoid shame—focus on clear expectations. Initiate a Safe Dialogue Reassure your child: “There’s nothing you can say that will make us stop loving you.” Then ask direct but gentle questions about where the behaviour may be coming from. Involve the School Work with teachers and school counsellors to ensure supervision and consistent messaging. Monitor Online Access Review screen time and check for any exposure to explicit content. Consider Professional Help If behaviours repeat or your child discloses troubling influences, consult a psychologist or counsellor experienced in childhood behaviour. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's time to address the age-old question: Do children make us happy? Backed by powerful research and personal stories, Kylie and Justin explore the paradox of parenting—how our kids can simultaneously be our greatest joy and our biggest challenge. Featuring insights from happiness researchers like Daniel Kahneman, Paul Bloom, and Roy Baumeister, the conversation moves from exhaustion and conflict to purpose, meaning, and unconditional love. KEY POINTS: Research shows that parenting often decreases happiness and marital satisfaction, especially in the early years. Daniel Kahneman's study revealed mothers find time with kids less enjoyable than activities like watching TV or shopping—particularly during stressful mornings and evenings. Despite the challenges, most parents say they don't regret having children—why? Cultural and policy differences influence parental happiness across countries. Parenting isn’t primarily about happiness—it's about purpose, meaning, and deep emotional connection. The hardest parts of parenting often give rise to the most profound moments of growth and joy. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "If the loss of a child would be total annihilation, then having a child—healthy, happy, and sound—must be annihilation’s opposite, which sounds pretty terrific." – Paul Bloom RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr. Justin Coulson All Joy and No Fun by Jennifer Senior The Sweet Spot by Paul Bloom Meanings of Life by Roy Baumeister Daniel Kahneman’s research on parental enjoyment Columbia University studies by Sara McLanahan ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Redefine Happiness: Shift your focus from momentary happiness to long-term meaning and connection. Embrace the Mess: Recognise that hard days are part of the growth—yours and your child’s. Prioritise Connection: In the chaos, seek small moments of intimacy and presence. Protect Your Partnership: Align as a couple around shared parenting values; the child isn’t the problem—misalignment often is. Find Support: Advocate for better policy and community support—or build your village where you can. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Justin Coulson speaks with former Disney executive and GameTruck founder Scott Novis about the hidden dangers of video games—and how parents can help their kids develop a healthy relationship with gaming. From understanding addictive design to replacing screen time with real-world connection, this conversation delivers practical, real-world solutions for every family navigating the digital age. KEY POINTS Addiction by Design: Some game developers deliberately design games using the "hook algorithm" to exploit children’s brain development and keep them playing compulsively. Self-Determination vs. Hooked Gaming: Games built on autonomy, mastery, and relatedness (like Minecraft) build skills and confidence. Hooked games create craving, not satisfaction. 3 Hacks for Safer Gaming: Buy the game (don’t use free-to-play). Play offline (limits tracking and manipulation). Listen to how your child talks about the game (progress = good, frustration = red flag). Ending Game Time Without Conflict: Pre-agree on ending conditions, give non-verbal cues (like flicking the lights), and offer choices that preserve agency. Offline Substitutes Matter: Create "hard to enter, hard to leave" real-life communities (e.g., sports, jiu-jitsu, Dungeons & Dragons) that offer connection, skill-building, and purpose. Social Disconnection: Excessive gaming and screen time can cause “virtual autism” and impair emotional and social development. The Goal: Return to a play-based childhood that prioritises real-world connection, effort, and fun. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If your child sounds like a victim when they talk about the game—they’re in trouble. If they sound empowered, they’re probably playing a good game.”— Scott Novis RESOURCES MENTIONED Books: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt Glued to Games by Scott Rigby & Richard Ryan Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Maté Miss Connection by Dr. Justin Coulson Websites: https://www.scottnovis.com/ – Scott's personal site gametruck.com – Scott's company for social gaming experiences Article: William Siu's essay in The New York Times on game addiction and design ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Buy Games, Not AddictionsChoose paid games that don’t rely on manipulating your child’s attention or money. Play Offline Whenever PossibleRemove always-on connectivity that allows companies to track and shape behaviour. Ask the Right QuestionsIs your child developing skills—or just chasing random rewards? Listen for signs of empowerment or frustration. Negotiate Game Time Up FrontPre-agree on stop times and methods, give warnings (e.g., flicking lights), and honour your child’s autonomy. Replace, Don’t Just RemoveReplace screen time with rich, social, skill-building real-world activities—like sports, martial arts, tabletop games, or outdoor adventures. No Screens in BedroomsSet screen bedtimes. Keep devices out of reach at night to prevent secret play. Get InvolvedPlay games with your kids—even if you're bad at them. Model effort, learning, and connection. Watch for Red FlagsLook for sleep disruption, secretive behaviour, rage quitting, or declining school performance. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this lighthearted episode of the Happy Families Podcast, we revisit some of the funniest and most unexpected things kids say when learning about where babies come from. Inspired by our interview last week with parenting educator Michelle Mitchell and her book Where Do Babies Come From?, we share some laugh-out-loud stories that remind us how curious—and hilarious—kids can be. We also reflect on the importance of connection, structure, and giving kids something to look forward to. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Let’s create our own purpose together.”— Justin Coulson, reflecting on how one dad helped his son rediscover joy and meaning through shared outdoor adventures. RESOURCES MENTIONED Michelle Mitchell's books: Where Do Babies Come From? The Girl's Guide to Puberty The Guy's Guide to Puberty Upcoming episode:Interview with Scott Novis, former VP at Disney, about managing kids and gaming without conflict (drops on Saturday!). ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Have the Talk—Early and Openly:Use age-appropriate, fact-based resources like Michelle Mitchell’s books to guide conversations about sex and puberty. Laugh Together:Don’t be afraid to see the humour in awkward conversations—sharing a laugh builds trust and openness. Create Connection Through Experience:Take time to plan simple but meaningful activities with your kids (e.g., camping, biking, time outdoors) that foster relationship and reduce reliance on screens. Build and Maintain Structure:Life can throw curveballs, but having a flexible routine helps maintain emotional and mental stability for the whole family. Don’t Give Up on Change:Implementing new habits is hard, especially in chaos, but small intentional resets make a big difference. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A major new report from the OECD has revealed shocking insights into how screen use is shaping children's lives—and not for the better. In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack the disturbing statistics, explain the real-world impact of screens on kids’ mental health, relationships, and development, and offer practical, age-specific strategies to help parents take back control. From toddlers to teens, this is the digital wake-up call every parent needs. KEY POINTS Startling Stats: Aussie teens average 7 hours of screen time per day. 12% use screens more than 80 hours per week. 70% of 10-year-olds “own” smartphones. 60% of Australian girls report severe distress from cyberbullying. 4 Uncomfortable Truths for Parents: Real-world problems predict digital problems. Kids in distress offline turn to screens for escape. Most parents are fighting the wrong war. The issue is less about screen time and more about content and connection. It’s a bi-directional trap. Poor mental health drives screen addiction, and screen use worsens mental health. Parental hypocrisy matters. Kids don’t listen if we model the very behaviour we criticise. The Hidden Costs of Screen Use: Depression, anxiety, loneliness, academic decline, sleep issues, and family conflict all rise with excessive and unsupervised screen use. The Real Solution: Strong offline relationships, autonomy-supportive parenting, and a focus on values, not just rules or limits. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You can’t lift someone up if you’re underneath them. You’ve got to stand on high ground.” — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED OECD Report: How’s Life for Children in the Digital Age? The Parenting Revolution by Justin Coulson Happy Families Webinars and Courses Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg Past episodes on sextortion and gaming ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS For Kids Aged 0–7: Be present during screen time or avoid it altogether. Keep devices out of bedrooms—model this yourself. Avoid gamified apps and addictive content. Prioritise simple, slow-paced shows (e.g., Bluey). For Kids Aged 8–12: Create a co-designed family media plan. Prioritise what they’re consuming, not just how much. Invest in offline activities and friendships—nature, play, and sport are protective. For Teens: Shift from control to collaboration. Support autonomy and solve problems with them. Address root issues—mental health, loneliness, stress—before tackling screen habits. Model healthy screen use. Walk your talk, or your words will fall flat. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your child’s gaming habit harmless fun—or something more serious? In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share highlights from an eye-opening conversation with Scott Novis, a former Disney and Nintendo gaming executive. They discuss how modern games are designed to hook kids using sophisticated psychological techniques, what parents can do to support healthier habits, and the small shifts that make big differences in digital wellbeing. KEY POINTS The "Hooked Algorithm": Modern games use cues, unpredictable rewards, and psychological manipulation to drive compulsive use—especially among kids. Addiction Is by Design: Notifications, in-game incentives, and persistent online features are engineered to steal attention and limit agency. Console Games vs. Online Games: Games played offline on a console with a defined endpoint are less addictive than online, never-ending games. Digital Detox Strategies: Removing screens, increasing nature time, and focusing on physical activity can reset unhealthy patterns. Agency is the Key: Healthy gaming promotes a sense of control and mastery. Unhealthy games rob kids of their agency and drive compulsive behaviour. Warning Signs: Sleep disturbances, sneaky screen use, emotional outbursts, or secretive behaviours may signal an unhealthy gaming relationship. Parents Aren’t Immune: Even adults struggle with screen control—our own detox experiences can inform how we guide our kids. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Are these games reinforcing their sense of agency—or deleting it?” — Scott Novis RESOURCES MENTIONED Upcoming full interview with Scott Novis (drops Saturday) Book: Stolen Focus by Johann Hari (referenced) HappyFamilies.com.au – screen-time webinars and parenting resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Know the Hook: Understand how modern games manipulate attention and behaviour using psychological rewards. Audit the Games: Prioritise offline games with defined endings. Avoid always-on, online, in-app-reward-driven games. Turn Off Notifications: Disable alerts to reduce temptation and constant interruption. Create Tech-Free Routines: Set clear screen bedtimes and keep devices out of bedrooms. Watch for Warning Signs: Pay attention to sleep issues, irritability, or secretive behaviours. Detox Together: Plan regular family screen detoxes—go offline, get into nature, and rediscover agency. Talk Openly: Ask your kids how games make them feel—listen without judgement and create a collaborative plan for balance. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when every interaction with your child feels like a battle? Today we respond to a mum’s heartfelt question about her 11-year-old daughter, who is struggling with screaming, lying, and constant conflict. We explore the psychological needs behind difficult behaviour and share practical, compassionate strategies for rebuilding connection—especially when all you feel like doing is correcting. KEY POINTS Challenging Behaviour Is Communication: Kids act out when their basic needs—connection, autonomy, and competence—aren’t being met. The Correction Trap: When every interaction becomes about control or discipline, children feel unseen, unheard, and undervalued. Slow Down to Reconnect: Rebuilding the relationship requires presence, patience, and sometimes stepping completely away from “the agenda.” Parental Self-Awareness Matters: Many parents unintentionally undermine connection through well-meaning but misdirected responses. Lifestyle Matters: Sleep, nutrition, movement, screen time, and social connection all have huge impacts on emotional and behavioural wellbeing. The Psychological Load of Puberty: Eleven is a big age—especially for girls. Body changes, identity confusion, and peer pressures amplify emotional volatility. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If you want to speed it up, you’ve got to slow it down. If you want control, you’ve got to give them voice.”— Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Book: Misconnection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World & Needs to Talk by Dr Justin Coulson Podcast Reference: Pop Culture Parenting by Billy Garvey Research Mentioned: Sapiens Lab study on early device use and mental health ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause the Correction Cycle: Focus less on behaviour and more on what your child might be trying to communicate. Rebuild Connection: Prioritise quality time—go for a bike ride, hit the beach, or just be together with no agenda. Validate & Listen: Show your child you see and hear them, even if you don’t agree with their behaviour. Assess Lifestyle Factors: Review sleep, nutrition, screen time, physical activity, and relationships. Reflect on Your Responses: Ask yourself—are your well-intentioned actions unintentionally adding fuel to the fire? Give Her Voice: Offer choices, listen to her preferences, and include her in problem-solving. Get Support if Needed: If mental health concerns persist, seek help from professionals. Find us on Facebook or TikTok Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your child’s schedule packed from morning to night—or are they struggling with too much downtime? Today we explore the pressure parents feel to provide enrichment, the unintended consequences of overscheduling, and why finding the "sweet spot" of activities matters. Plus, we give practical, compassionate guidance to help families strike a healthy balance between stimulation, growth, and the simple joys of being a kid. KEY POINTS: The Pressure to Perform: Some communities foster competitive parenting cultures where success is measured by how "busy" and advanced kids are. Overscheduling Risks: Too many activities, especially at a young age, can lead to burnout, injury, anxiety, and screen dependence. The Value of Boredom: Downtime activates the brain’s default mode network, critical for identity formation and creativity. Joy Over Achievement: Extra-curriculars should feel like a highlight of the week—not a chore. Parental Motivations: Sometimes we push activities to validate our own efforts, not because they truly benefit the child. Finding the Sweet Spot: One or two joy-filled, child-led activities per week—plus unstructured time for play and connection—is often enough. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Sometimes the best thing for a child is simply the freedom to be a child.” — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families Website: happyfamilies.com.au Justin Coulson's books and parenting presentations (particularly on resilience and child development) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Evaluate Motivations: Ask yourself if the activities your child is in are for their growth—or your peace of mind or pride. Limit Activities: Aim for 1–2 extracurriculars per week, chosen based on your child’s genuine interests and capacity. Prioritise Unstructured Play: Make space for relaxed, screen-free time with friends or solo play to develop creativity and identity. Watch for Burnout Signs: If your child resists or dreads their activities, it may be time to scale back. Invest in Family Time: Schedule regular, quality time together. Family connection is foundational to wellbeing. Redefine Boredom: Don’t rush to fill every moment. Boredom can be a gateway to deeper thinking and imagination. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this warm and essential conversation, Dr. Justin Coulson sits down with author, educator, and parenting expert Michelle Mitchell to explore how parents can navigate conversations around sex, puberty, consent, and identity with their children aged 8–12. Michelle shares insights from her book Where Do Babies Come From?, offering parents practical tools to talk about tricky topics with clarity, confidence, and compassion. KEY POINTS: Parents often feel unsure or awkward when kids ask about sex, reproduction, or body changes—but avoiding the topic can lead to misinformation and anxiety. Michelle's book is written for kids aged 8–12 and includes age-appropriate detail, wraparound values, and medical illustrations to provide clarity and context. Talking about sex should include conversations about respect, emotional intimacy, and consent—not just the mechanics. Children benefit from being book “bosses”—given agency and choice about how, when, and with whom to learn this information. Respecting a child’s privacy and emotional readiness is crucial; discomfort is normal and protective. Conversations about consent start with everyday experiences: knocking before entering, asking before touching, and even checking in before offering advice. Identity and family story matter deeply—every child deserves to feel seen and safe, no matter how they came into the world. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “If you don’t ever want that to happen to your body, you don’t have to—because anything to do with sex is 100% your choice.” —Michelle Mitchell RESOURCES MENTIONED: Where Do Babies Come From? by Michelle Mitchell The Girl’s Guide to Puberty and The Guy’s Guide to Puberty by Michelle Mitchell Michelle Mitchell’s website: www.michellemitchell.org Happy Families Website: www.happyfamilies.com.au Australian Government's Consent Can’t Wait Campaign ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start Early: Begin conversations around body parts, privacy, and consent well before puberty. Choose the Right Resources: Use age-appropriate books like Michelle's to guide your conversations and revisit them often. Normalise Curiosity: Let your children know it’s okay to ask questions—nothing is off-limits. Respect Autonomy: Ask if your child wants to read with you or alone; offer space but stay present and open. Model Consent Daily: Ask permission before touching or offering advice to build mutual respect. Value Connection Over Perfection: You don’t need to have perfect answers—just be available and genuine.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes, the best thing we can do for our family… is slow down. In this reflective I’ll Do Better Tomorrow episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share the power of pausing, being present, and choosing connection over control. From Sunday night beach walks to heartfelt conversations with teenage daughters, this episode is a gentle reminder that the simple moments matter most. KEY POINTS: Presence > Productivity. Slowing down, ditching the schedule, and being together—like a spontaneous walk after dinner—can be the reset your family needs. Connection is the goal. Whether you're navigating tough teen years or sharing a sunset, strong relationships grow from time, conversation, and attention. Repair matters more than perfection. Every parent will make mistakes. What counts is how we acknowledge, repair, and grow through them. Children are wired to connect. They want close relationships with us. Our job is to not let ego or defensiveness get in the way. Grace + ownership = healing. When your child opens up about past hurt, resist defensiveness. Instead, acknowledge it, own it, and seek forgiveness. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Our children are biologically wired to connect with us. We’ve just got to make sure we don’t get in the way of that.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution – Dr Justin Coulson’s latest book Happy Families School Membership – For parent engagement and wellbeing resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Plan nothing. Take one evening this week to leave the agenda behind. Go for a walk, sit together, be still. Check in deeply. Ask one of your kids: “What’s been hard for you lately?” And listen—fully. Apologise when needed. If your child opens up about hurt or resentment, resist the urge to defend. Acknowledge their truth and offer a sincere, humble “I’m sorry.” Model forgiveness and grace. Let your children see that love doesn’t require perfection—just connection and accountability. Strengthen the bond. Say “yes” to spontaneous togetherness. It might become a memory your child cherishes forever.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why are so many girls struggling with anxiety, low mood, and poor mental health—and why are they starting to think it’s normal? In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack recent UK research that asked teen girls themselves what's causing their distress. The answers are confronting: gender expectations, academic pressure, toxic friendships, and social media. But there’s hope. This episode offers real parenting solutions to help our girls thrive. KEY POINTS: Girls are normalising poor mental health. That’s not okay. We need to intervene early with meaningful support and connection. Narrow gender expectations hurt. Whether they lean into “girly” or “tomboy,” girls feel judged either way. Let them follow their authentic interests, not societal labels. Academic pressure is intense. Many girls feel they must succeed and that failing means they’re a failure. That belief is contributing to rising anxiety. Friendships can be fraught. Judgy, competitive peer dynamics—especially around appearance and eating—erode girls’ confidence and mental health. Social media fuels comparison. Girls see everyone else’s “perfect” lives and feel like they don’t measure up. The myth of the perfectable life is everywhere. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Poor mental health shouldn’t be normal. It should be the exception—not the expectation.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: University of Manchester research (linked in show notes) Miss Connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk – By Dr Justin Coulson Happy Families School Membership ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Break the gender box. Support your daughter’s interests, whatever they are. Expose her to a wide range of hobbies and possibilities. Ease academic pressure. Model balance, share your own stories of failure and recovery, and consider the value of a gap year post-high school. Prioritise quality friendships. Encourage your child to nurture one or two deep, loyal friendships over being "popular." Create strong tech boundaries. Monitor screen time, model healthy device use, and ask reflective questions about how social media makes them feel. Eat dinner together. Regular family time at the table builds belonging, boosts well-being, and keeps the door open for tough conversations. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your 8-year-old asks, “Where do babies come from?” how do you respond—without panicking? In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share a sneak peek from an upcoming full interview with parenting author Michelle Mitchell about how to answer kids’ trickiest questions around procreation, intimacy, and consent. With warmth and practical wisdom, this conversation helps you feel more confident about when to talk, what to say, and how to create safe, shame-free conversations at every age. KEY POINTS: Start early and keep it simple. Naming body parts from a young age normalises these conversations and lays the foundation for later discussions about intimacy and consent. It’s never one big talk—it’s lots of little ones. Open, ongoing conversations build trust and make it easier for your child to ask more questions over time. You don’t need to get it perfect—just talk. Whether your style is open and casual or more private and reserved, what matters is that you're talking. Consent starts with valuing the body. Children need to understand their body is important, personal, and deserves respect—this frames later discussions about consent and intimacy in a meaningful, protective way. Humour helps. Be ready for funny, awkward, or unexpected responses. Respond with warmth, and follow your child’s lead on what they’re ready for. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “It doesn’t matter how your family talks—at the dinner table or quietly in private. What matters is that you’re talking.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Where Do Babies Come From? And Other Questions 8–12 Year Olds Ask – Michelle Mitchell’s newest book for kids and parents The Girl’s Guide to Puberty and The Guy’s Guide to Puberty – Also by Michelle Mitchell Happy Families School Membership Coming Soon: Full interview with Michelle Mitchell (Saturday episode) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start with naming. Use proper terminology for body parts from the toddler years to normalise respectful language. Create a safe atmosphere. Be open to your child’s questions without judgement—even if you feel uncomfortable. Match your message to your child’s age. Answer what they’re asking, and don’t overshare if they’re not ready. Read together. Use age-appropriate books like Michelle’s to guide conversations and give your child permission to explore topics at their pace. Teach consent through value. Help your child understand that their body is special and deserves care and respect—this lays the groundwork for deeper conversations later. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today’s Tricky Questions episode, Justin and Kylie answer Kim’s heartfelt question: How do we raise young adult males and stay connected when we don’t agree with their choices? Whether your son is 16 or 26, this episode is full of practical, compassionate advice about letting go of control, nurturing connection, and guiding your son’s journey into manhood without damaging the relationship. KEY POINTS: Independence is the goal. Young men need to pull away to become their own person. This is healthy and expected development—not defiance. Connection > Control. Every attempt to correct or direct your young adult without enough relational “water in the bucket” weakens your influence. Prioritise staying close. Rites of passage matter. Boys don’t just “become men” by aging—they seek experiences to prove themselves. Without intentional guidance, they’ll create risky alternatives (like Schoolies, binge drinking, etc.). Defer respectfully. As children grow, parents should move from cocooning → reasoned cocooning → pre-arming → reasoned deference → full deference. Ask for consent to influence. If you want to share advice, first ask: “Are you open to hearing some ideas?” If the answer is no, focus on rebuilding connection. Your presence matters more than your opinion. The way you show up—without judgement, with genuine interest—determines whether your young adult wants to stay close or push away. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “If our relationship is a bucket, connection is the water. Correction and direction? That’s just air. And no one wants to carry an empty bucket.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families School Membership: A resource hub for schools and parents seeking connection-based parenting support. Justin’s upcoming book on raising boys and young men (sign up now to hear all the details!) More on rites of passage from Dr Arne Rubinstein in the Bringing Up Boys Summit ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Step back from control. Accept that your child’s job is to grow away from you. Your job? Stay close enough that they still want to come back. Check your relationship “bucket.” Before correcting or advising, ask: Is there enough connection here for this to be received well? Use the deference ladder. Ages 0–7: Cocoon 8–13: Reasoned cocooning 13–15: Pre-arming 15–17: Reasoned deference 18+: Full deference with permission to advise Build trust by asking permission. Instead of jumping in with opinions, say: “Would you be open to hearing a thought I have?” Let them grow. Sometimes, encouraging your child to move out or take more responsibility is the healthiest path forward—even if it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.