Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

The first weeks back at school can make or break your child’s year — but what most parents miss is that the relationship you build with their teacher is the secret lever that shifts everything. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the surprising stats behind teacher burnout, why parent behaviour matters more than we think, and three game-changing ways to build a relationship with teachers that actually helps your child succeed — even if you’ve had rough years before. KEY POINTS: The hidden stress teachers face — and why it impacts your child Why yelling, demanding, and “fix my kid” approaches backfire The Parent Advantage: how small acts of service earn trust fast Gratitude as rocket fuel for teacher morale (done without bribery!) Don’t believe everything your child says — context matters How to assume positive intent and extend grace in tough moments QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Teachers are usually on your child’s side. They want to see your child succeed and win.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families Schools Parent/Teacher Support Workshops ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Volunteer for something — reading, excursions, laminating, anything. Send gratitude early — a note, tiny gift, or simple “I see you.” Acknowledge wins — when your child shares something positive, pass it on. Hold stories lightly — get context before reacting. Assume positive intent — teachers want your child to do well. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christmas doesn’t have to be chaotic — and New Year goals don’t have to fail by February. In this episode, Justin & Kylie share how they transformed Christmas into their most joyful (and calm) ever, and the surprising mindset shift that finally made New Year’s resolutions stick. Expect simple family wins, real-life honesty, and a powerful reframe that boosts health, energy & connection in 2026. KEY POINTS Why “less is more” made Christmas our best yet The simple shoe-box wrapping hack every parent should steal The unexpected joy of giving (and getting) thoughtful gifts How a family goals retreat changed everything Why most resolutions fail — and what actually works The habit shift that created more vitality, energy & presence Small daily choices → big long-term family wins QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Goals work — but only when they become a lifestyle, a rhythm, a routine.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Plan a “less is more” Christmas: prioritise time, fun & simplicity Review family life quarterly: align goals, values, and expectations Choose identity over outcome: e.g., “I’m a runner” instead of “I’ll run a marathon” Track tiny wins: small daily progress beats big January promises Build shared vitality: move, eat well, and model healthy rhythms See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The stationery scramble matters… but not as much as your child’s heart. In this powerful back-to-school episode, Justin and Kylie share the real checklist that sets kids up for confidence, calm, friendships, and resilience—without over-engineering the morning routine or forcing a perfect bedtime. Whether your child is starting school for the first time or changing schools for the fourth time, these strategies make Week 1 smoother and the whole year emotionally healthier. KEY POINTS The basic supplies are not what define success—keep them simple and stress-free. Three non-negotiables before Day 1: emotional check-ins, “who’s got your back” planning, and relationship connection. Why rehearsing the morning routine and enforcing strict early bedtimes are overrated. The 4-Part Real Checklist that changes the entire school year: How Can I Help? — support their goals instead of setting them. Daily Check-In Questions that build resilience, kindness, and social insight. Friendship Audit — understanding who they spend time with and how to support healthy social worlds. Activity Opt-Out Audit — letting kids quit activities that drain them and choose ones that light them up. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When kids define success on their terms and know we’re in their corner, they’re amazing.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Personal Progress Interviews (PPI) Daily Check-In Questions for connection Friendship Audit steps Family Meeting framework ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Hold a relaxed emotional check-in before school starts (in bed, at the beach, on a walk). Clarify “who’s got your back” at school—teacher, counselor, friend, parent. Ask one Daily Check-In Question at dinner or bedtime. Run a Friendship Audit: learn names, build contact, create unstructured hangouts. Run an Activity Opt-Out Audit: “If we weren’t already doing this, would you choose it today?” Give permission to drop activities that feel like obligations, not joys. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Smartphones feel inevitable… until you see what early access actually does to a child’s mental health, sleep, and happiness. In this episode, Dr Justin & Kylie Coulson break down new research from Pediatrics and share the family standard that finally ended the phone wars in their home (after one very big mistake). KEY POINTS New study: earlier smartphones = worse outcomes for kids. The four real reasons parents give phones (and why they’re flawed). Why “safety” doesn’t require a smartphone. How to replace phones with smarter solutions (incl. dumb phones + watches). The research consensus: delay improves outcomes. The family rule that ends entitlement (“when you can afford it…”). Boundaries if you already handed over a phone (it’s not too late). The real question: approval now or wellbeing later? QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Kids don’t need smartphones — they need smart parents. And smart parents give their kids dumb phones.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Pediatrics research on smartphone age & outcomes (referenced in episode) SpaceTalk Watch G-Mee Phone Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy Lisa Damour — Adolescent Psychology Resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Define the real problem you’re solving (safety, logistics, social connection, or training). Offer alternatives (dumb phone, landline, watch). Create a family standard — e.g. “When you can pay for it, you can have it.” If they already have a phone: Bedrooms & bathrooms = no-phone zones No phones at meals or short car rides Time limits & age limits on social media Review + scale back where possible See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Screens, school, and AI are about to collide—and families will feel it first. In this fast, punchy episode, Justin breaks down four major trends set to hit parents in 2026: hybrid schooling, AI chatbots, the messy social media ban, and the rise of screen-free childhood. If you want to understand what’s coming—and how it will impact your kids—start here. KEY POINTS Hybrid Education Exodus: homeschooling + online learning + co-ops = flexible mash-ups AI Goes Critical: chatbots linked to self-harm, loneliness & regulatory crackdowns Social Media Ban Backfires: VPNs, loopholes & vulnerable teens losing support Screen-Free Childhood Surges: parents push for play, device reduction & analogue life QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If you find ways every single day to genuinely connect with your kids, your relationship will flourish—this year, next year, and every year after.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Federal under-16 social media legislation eSafety Commission actions & guidance Alternative schooling, homeschooling & co-op models AI chatbot research around teen mental health ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Watch for AI chatbots disguised as “companions” or “friends” Review school tech policies + device expectations for K-6 Consider flexible learning pathways if school is breaking your child Prioritise screen-free play for under-12s Keep tech conversations calm, connected and ongoing—not punitive See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The new year brings a reality check: what actually changed for parents last year - and what didn’t? In this high-energy episode, Justin and Kylie review last year’s big parenting predictions (AI, social media, homeschooling, boys, cost of living, and more), celebrate the surprising hits, admit the misses, and tee up what’s coming next. Fast, fun, insightful - and wildly relevant for every parent stepping into 2026. KEY POINTS Which predictions landed in 2025 (and why they mattered for families) Where Justin was hilariously wrong (TikTok + travel = oops) The AI-powered parenting revolution - now real, mainstream, and everywhere Homeschooling’s massive surge and what’s driving it The global social media crackdown led by Australia - and why the rollout is bumpy Why boys still need more support - and the culture shift that hasn’t arrived yet YouTube’s silent dominance and what it means for kids and screens Cost of living, family strain, and the myth of intergenerational living QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “I was one hundred percent correct—AI has become a mainstream parenting assistant.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Skylight Calendar (meal planning + calendar tool) 8 Game-Changing Predictions for 2025 [Article] Today Show segment on homeschooling statistics Government announcements surrounding the under-16 social media ban ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Audit your family’s tech habits, screen time, and parental controls Explore AI as a support tool (homework, routines, meal planning) Stay informed on school and homeschooling trends - more families are switching Watch for changes in social media regulations and platform age limits Prioritise conversations about boys’ wellbeing - academic, emotional, social See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If the idea of playing Barbies or dragons makes you groan… you’re not alone. In this episode, Justin and Kylie tackle a parenting confession that many are afraid to admit: “I don’t like playing with my kids.” Drawing from emotional intelligence research and real-life experience, they unpack why play matters (even if it’s not your favourite), how to make it meaningful and manageable, and why it’s one of the simplest ways to build connection, confidence, and emotional regulation in your child. KEY POINTS Play is not a luxury—it’s essential.Play builds emotional intelligence, connection, and social skills better than almost anything else. It’s not about doing it ‘right’.Play works best when it’s spontaneous, simple, and mutually enjoyable—not when it’s forced or scripted. The emotional impact is profound.Play regulates emotions, reduces tension, strengthens relationships, and helps kids feel seen, heard, and valued. The secret is in the interaction.What makes play powerful is the back-and-forth: the jokes, the giggles, the shared creativity—not the activity itself. A little goes a long way.Just 5–10 minutes of intentional play can fill your child’s emotional cup and help them play independently afterwards. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Play is not about perfection—it’s about connection and presence.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Membership – parenting tools & webinars happyfamilies.com.au – resources for raising emotionally intelligent kids Shift by Ethan Kross ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Find a 5–10 minute window each dayYou don’t need hours. Commit to short, fully present bursts of play—no phones, no multitasking. Gamify the mundaneTurn routines into playful challenges: “Can you hop to the bathroom on one foot?” or “Let’s race to tidy up.” Let your child leadAsk: “How could we make this more fun?” Give them a sense of autonomy and watch their creativity bloom. Prioritise connection over performanceYou’re not there to entertain—you’re there to engage. Drop the pressure, enjoy the moment. Repeat. Consistency is the win.Over time, this builds emotional strength, stronger relationships, and memories that last. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are your phone habits impacting your child’s growth? We all know kids and screens don’t mix well—but what about parents and screens? A compelling new study has uncovered a strong link between a mother’s screen time and her child’s developmental outcomes. In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack the latest research on "technoference" and what happens to our children when our eyes are glued to our devices. The results may just change the way you use your phone—especially around your kids. KEY POINTS: Study Summary: Japanese research of ~4,000 mother-child pairs found that more than one hour of screen use by mums in front of their children correlates with lower language and social development. Two Hours or More: Greater than two hours was associated with lower global development outcomes. Technoference: The distraction of devices interrupts “serve and return” interactions—vital for healthy child development. Modelling Matters: Kids mimic their parents—mums who use screens more are more likely to have kids who use them too. TV vs. Devices: Passive screen time (TV) is less harmful than interactive, overstimulating device use—but still not ideal. Screen Time ≠ Quality Learning: Despite nostalgic memories of “learning” from Sesame Street, research shows TV is a poor teacher compared to real-world engagement. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Screens are a hollow imitation of real life... real development happens in person-to-person, face-to-face interactions." RESOURCES: The study published in Nature Scientific Reports (March 2025) Unplugged Parenthood: Reducing Screen Time to Strengthen Family Connections [Article] Happy Families website: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Be Present: Put down your phone when you're with your child—especially in those early years. Set Boundaries: Limit both your own and your child’s screen time with simple routines (e.g., no phones at the table or during playtime). Model Mindful Use: Show kids what healthy tech habits look like—because they’re watching. Prioritise Engagement: Make time for face-to-face chats, shared play, and reading together—real-life interactions build real brains. Use Screens Intentionally: If you need a break, opt for TV over devices, and choose age-appropriate, narrative-driven content. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boys take risks. They push limits. They scare us. But underneath all that danger is an ancient drive to grow up and belong. In this deeply eye-opening conversation with Dr Arne Rubinstein, we unpack why boys behave this way, the missing “rite of passage” that modern culture has abandoned, and what parents can do today to help boys become grounded, respectful, and emotionally mature young men. This episode delivers clarity, relief, and practical steps every family needs. KEY POINTS Boys are wired for risk — if adults don’t create safe challenges, they’ll create their own. Cultures worldwide share four rite-of-passage elements: storytelling, challenge, visioning, and honouring. Without that process, boys can grow into adult men with boy psychology (self-centred, entitled, emotionally volatile). Dads, mums, and male role models each play a critical role — but the village matters for every boy. Early parenting is crucial: strong relationships, fair boundaries, shared stories, and responsibilities build maturity. Single mums can create support through uncles, mentors, friends, and community. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Every boy will go through a rite of passage. The question is whether he creates it himself — or whether we create something appropriate for him.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Dr Arne Rubinstein — Rites of Passage Institute The Making of Men (book) Happy Families Bringing Up Boys Summit The Miss-Connection Summit is also available Sign up here to be the first to news about Justin's new book 'Boys' ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Create 1:1 connection time — device-free and regular. Share stories from your own adolescence — including failures and learnings. Acknowledge strengths — notice what goes right. Teach reflection before correction — ask what they think first. Pair privileges with responsibility — avoid entitlement. Build the village — involve mentors, relatives, teachers, coaches. Separate the child from the behaviour — “I love you, but this isn’t okay.” See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever been halfway through a parenting reel thinking *“Oh wow, this is gold”… only to realise it’s actually terrible advice dressed up with pretty music and a pastel background? We’ve been there too. In today’s episode, Justin and Kylie unpack six pieces of popular parenting advice they’re choosing to ignore forever—and why you should too. From controlled crying to timeouts, “spoiling” kids with love, and the classic “just ignore the tantrum” strategy, we’re calling out the myths that sound helpful but harm connection. This episode is your permission slip to parent with heart, not hacks. KEY POINTS: Controlled crying is not independence training — It misunderstands attachment and ignores babies’ real needs. Timeouts don’t teach, they isolate — Punishment in disguise erodes trust and connection. Responsiveness isn’t spoiling — Kids thrive when we tune in, not tune out. Ignoring tantrums doesn’t make them go away — Empathy teaches emotional regulation. “Seen and not heard” is still hanging around (and still harmful) — Kids need space to be curious, push back respectfully, and develop their voice. Self-soothing is a myth for little ones — Kids learn to calm down with us, not alone. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Abandoning children in their most vulnerable moments teaches them nothing—except that our love is conditional.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Whole-Brain Child by Dr. Daniel Siegel Attachment research by Dr. Allan Schore ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Challenge bad advice — When you hear advice that feels off, trust your gut and check the research. Choose connection over correction — When your child is distressed, meet them with empathy instead of isolation. Be responsive, not reactive — Show up consistently so your child learns to regulate through co-regulation. Make space for their voice — Let your kids respectfully question, push back, and express themselves. Ditch the naughty chair — Find real discipline strategies that teach, not punish. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most family goals sound great… and quietly disappear by February. In this short, honest episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share why family goal-setting usually falls apart — and the simple shifts that actually make goals work. From kids’ fitness goals to holidays, habits, and hopes for the year ahead, this episode shows how buy-in, accountability, and involvement turn good intentions into real change. If you want goals your kids don’t just agree to — but actually own — start here. KEY POINTS Why top-down family goals almost always fail The power of bottom-up buy-in (especially with older kids) How accountability and visible progress keep motivation alive Why parents must support goals without becoming the “goal police” The overlooked ingredient that makes family goals stick: involvement QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “The goals that work aren’t the ones parents announce — they’re the ones families build together.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Family meetings (What’s going well? What’s not? What should we focus on?) Happy Families website: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Hold a short family meeting and let kids lead the goal ideas Choose one goal that feels challenging but achievable Set clear check-in points to notice progress Support the system — don’t police the outcome Get involved alongside your kids, especially when it’s hard See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our final episode for 2025! With another year in the rear view mirror, its a very special I'll Do Better Tomorrow, as Justin and Kylie wrap up the year. Topics discussed include: Justin's reflection on the Bondi terror attack. Kylie's thoughts on the recent New Zealand cycling trip, and persevering through hard things. Digging deep when we're dealing with the day to day mundane. Justin and Kylie's highlights of 2025. Merry Christmas from the Happy Families Podcast team - Justin, Kylie, Mim and JR! We hope you have a wonderful season with those nearest and dearest to you. Thank you for making the Happy Families Podcast the most downloaded parenting podcast in Australia this year. We'll be back in 2026 with more daily parenting advice to help make your family happier. As always visit the Happy Families website for more resources, or join the conversation on our Facebook page.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the Christmas your kids remember most isn’t about what’s under the tree — but how it felt to be together? In this episode, we unpack the four gifts children truly need at Christmas — the ones you can’t buy, wrap, or return — and how letting go of perfection might be the very thing that brings more joy, calm, and connection into your home this season. KEY POINTS Why chasing the “perfect” Christmas often leaves parents exhausted and grumpy How peace doesn’t mean quiet — it means letting go of pressure Why kids crave presence more than presents How playfulness creates connection without deep talks or big emotions The role of purpose in giving Christmas meaning beyond consumerism Why imperfection might be the secret to a more memorable day QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Perfection isn’t what makes Christmas magical. Peace, presence, playfulness, and purpose do.” RESOURCES Born This Happy Morning Luke Chapter 2 & Matthew (The Christmas story) Take Back Christmas [Article] 10 Easy Traditions That Can Make Christmas Meaningful For Your Family [Article] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Release one expectation that’s creating stress this Christmas Put your phone away for a block of uninterrupted family time Plan one playful activity just for fun (games, jokes, silliness encouraged) Talk as a family about what Christmas means to you — beyond gifts See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christmas is meant to be joyful… so why does it leave so many parents anxious, exhausted, and overwhelmed?In this episode, Justin sits down with Rebecca Dredge (CEO of the Kiddo App) to unpack why school holidays spike parental stress — and what actually helps families survive the juggle of work, money, childcare, and endless commitments without burning out. This is a permission-giving conversation every tired parent needs before Christmas arrives. KEY POINTS Why over a third of parents feel anxious about school holidays The hidden pressure of “making Christmas magical” How saying no can protect your family (and your sanity) Why over-planning everything backfires — and what to plan instead Practical ways to get support without guilt or overwhelm QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “It’s okay to say no. Your fridge doesn’t need every invitation on it.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Kiddo App – On-demand babysitting and care support for families Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Circle the non-negotiables that matter most to your family Say no to at least one invitation this week Plan a few meaningful moments — not every moment Line up support before you’re desperate for it Aim to “glide into Christmas,” not collapse into it See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feeling the Christmas squeeze? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to drown in stress or debt to give your kids a magical holiday. In this episode, Justin and Kylie share six practical, heartfelt strategies real families use to make Christmas meaningful without blowing the budget. From essential-only Santa sacks to Secret Santa hacks, secondhand gems, and the power of one great gift, this episode is your permission to simplify and still make it special. KEY POINTS The “Four Gifts of Christmas” method that instantly reduces overwhelm How to fill Santa sacks with essentials (and why kids don’t mind!) The #1 mindset shift for sticking to a realistic budget What to do when your extended family list hits 40+ people Secondhand gifts, handmade gifts, and why they often mean more Why one high-quality gift beats a pile of cheap ones The surprising research on vouchers and experiences QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Giving looks different in different situations—but it can always be meaningful.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Facebook Marketplace & Gumtree for secondhand gift finds Secret Santa / Kris Kringle group gifting Marketplace categories for bikes, Pokémon cards & kids’ items ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Set a real budget (cash only, no credit card creep). Choose your gift-giving circle—kids, parents, or Secret Santa only. Use the Four Gifts framework: want, need, wear, read. Add essentials to stockings to lighten January expenses. Try secondhand or handmade for big-ticket or meaningful items. Pick one great quality gift instead of many small ones. Consider experiences or vouchers when you’re unsure what to buy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this emergency episode, Justin responds to the Bondi terror attacks, offering advice on how to talk to our children, as well as how Jewish families can discuss this with their children. For more up to the minute resources visit the Happy Families Facebook Page.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christmas chaos creeping in? This episode dives into the magic of festive films—and how they can buy you a precious pocket of peace. Justin and Kylie share their top kid-friendly Christmas movies (and a few grown-up gems), the surprising stories behind them, and why the right film at the right moment can reset the whole family. Perfect for parents who want joy, calm, nostalgia…and maybe a chance to wrap presents without being ambushed. KEY POINTS Why Christmas feels like a tug-of-war between calm and chaos—and how movies can soften the edges. Top kid-friendly Christmas films that uplift, entertain, and keep kids happily occupied. The unexpected origins and charm behind Klaus, Arthur Christmas, and more. Classics that still land for teens (Home Alone, The Santa Clause). Honourable mentions for grown-ups—yes, even the ones Justin hasn’t watched yet. A gentle reminder to pause and reconnect with the meaning of Christmas, whatever your family’s traditions. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "When your kids are in your arms, they can’t possibly be underfoot." RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Christmas webinars: Tis the Season to be Cranky and How to Unspoil your Kids this Christmas Christmas movie recommendations: Klaus, Arthur Christmas, Elf, Home Alone, The Santa Clause, Christmas Chronicles, faith-based nativity films. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Choose one new Christmas movie to watch together this week—something uplifting and connection-building. Pick a “parent break” movie (a solid, guilt-free screen-time choice) to occupy the kids while you wrap, prep, or recharge. Consider a short nativity or values-focused film to spark meaningful family conversations. Keep your movie list saved for the entire month to avoid decision overwhelm on busy days. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Australia made global headlines — and parents everywhere felt it. Justin shares the emotional, history-making moment inside Kirribilli House as the new social-media age laws rolled out, the families whose stories shaped the legislation, and why this shift matters more than most people realise. Plus: the behind-the-scenes chaos of a family holiday that turned into a resilience masterclass. A powerful mix of emotion, insight, and laugh-so-you-don’t-cry parenting moments. KEY POINTS Inside the Kirribilli House event announcing Australia’s new age restrictions for social media. The heartbreaking parent stories that pushed lawmakers to act — and why the room was filled with tears. A rare moment of political unity that left Justin with goosebumps. What this new law actually means for teens, parents, and tech platforms in the months ahead. A family holiday disaster (expired passports, food poisoning, meltdowns, gale-force winds)… turned into a resilience-building win. Why doing hard, screen-free things is the secret ingredient to family connection. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "This isn’t about politics. This is about our kids." — Prime Minister Albanese RESOURCES MENTIONED Heads Up Alliance Let Them Be Kids campaign Go Rail Trail (Queenstown) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Talk to your teen about Australia’s new age rules and what they mean for your family. Watch how platforms respond over the next few months — enforcement will evolve. Create screen-incompatible moments: activities that pull kids away from devices naturally. Normalise hard things — help your kids practise choosing helpful thoughts when challenges arise. Lean into connection: shared struggle (and shared laughter) builds family closeness faster than comfort ever will.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’ve ever stood in the toy aisle wondering what will actually make my kids happy, this episode is the Christmas miracle you need. We unpack the surprising research on gift-giving—why experiences matter, when they don’t, and what different ages really want (and remember!) on Christmas morning. This one will change how you wrap Christmas… literally. KEY POINTS The science-backed truth: giving really does make us happier than receiving. Why toddlers get more joy from giving than getting (what?!). The ages where kids prefer “stuff”… and why it’s developmentally normal. When experiences finally “click” for kids and bring more lasting joy. How anticipation, shared moments and memories make experiences powerful. A simple framework for choosing the right gift for the right child at the right age. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “It’s not what you give — it’s that you give — that makes you happy.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Money: The Science of Happier Spending by Dunn & Norton Research on children’s happiness, gifts, and development (Chaplin & colleagues) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Match the gift to your child’s age — material for younger kids, experiences as they grow. Add anticipation — reveal experiences with something they can hold or open. Share the moment — plan joint experiences for deeper connection and lasting happiness. Teach generosity — include simple opportunities for kids to give (even $5 makes a difference). Shift the focus — emphasise meaning, memory and togetherness over “more things”. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s the day. Australia’s new Social Media Minimum Age Legislation kicks in—and families everywhere are feeling everything from relief to panic. In this special episode, Justin is interviewed by “Intrepid Reporter Kylie” in a reenactment of a newsroom conversation that never got to air. You’ll hear what this ban actually means, how parents and teens are reacting, why the timing matters, and what families can do to keep kids connected, active, and thriving—without the algorithm pulling them in. Short, practical, reassuring. A must-listen for every parent navigating summer holidays and a new digital reality. KEY POINTS Why parent reactions have been overwhelmingly positive How teens really feel—and why some are secretly relieved What the legislation does and doesn’t block The truth about VPNs, fake IDs, and workarounds Why school holiday timing may actually be perfect How this ban affects connection, loneliness, and real-life friendships What platforms are age-restricted vs. still accessible Why messaging apps aren’t the same as social media How Justin & Kylie navigated the changes with their own teen The essential role parents still play (the ban doesn’t replace you!) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “I’m not anti-screen. I’m pro living a full, balanced, whole, healthy life.” RESOURCES MENTIONED eSafety Social Media Hub – full details on the new minimum age legislation Platform list of age-restricted vs. permitted services happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Talk early and often about the changes rather than enforcing them cold. Shift the focus to real life: encourage outdoor time, friends over, hands-on activities. Check your child’s accounts together and deactivate any that are now age-restricted. Discuss messaging alternatives (not algorithm-driven). Stay engaged—the ban reduces risk but doesn’t remove screen challenges. Reassure your child that boredom is normal and survivable—and often the gateway to creativity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why does Christmas feel so magical—and how can we bottle that feeling for our families? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the science behind Christmas joy and reveal the seven psychological drivers that make the season feel warm, connected, nostalgic, and full of wonder. From sensory anchors to collective effervescence, discover how small tweaks to your traditions can transform a stressful season into a slow, meaningful, joy-soaked one. This is your cheat-sheet to creating the kind of Christmas your kids will remember forever. KEY POINTS Relationships are the heart of Christmas—intentional togetherness boosts joy and belonging. Anticipated joy (hello Advent calendars) fuels dopamine and lifts mood weeks before the day arrives. Sensory anchoring—smells, sights, tastes—creates powerful nostalgia and emotional connection. Collective effervescence elevates community energy when everyone enters the same seasonal rhythm. Permission for wonder gives adults a rare chance to play, imagine, and embrace childlike magic. Savouring and gratitude turn small moments into the big memories our kids carry into adulthood. Applying these principles can fix a stressful or disappointing Christmas and make it joyful again. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Christmas is culturally sanctioned slowness—and if we savour it, the joy multiplies.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Prioritise connection over productivity—plan moments of slow, intentional togetherness. Create anticipation with rituals that build excitement (tree, lights, Advent, small traditions). Use sensory anchors—scents, recipes, music, decorations—to spark nostalgia and joy. Lean into wonder: play, imagine, and embrace the magic your kids already feel. Savour moments in real time—pause, breathe, and let the season be slow. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the world’s biggest social media company discovered its platforms were harming mental health… and then buried the evidence? Today, Justin and Kylie unpack explosive court documents about Meta’s secret research, the upcoming social media age-limit legislation, and what really happens when we step away from the online world. Then, we dive into your powerful responses to our most controversial episode of the year — including raw truths from parents who feel exhausted, confused, and desperate for answers. This episode will make you think differently about screens, kids, “normality,” and what families actually need. KEY POINTS Meta allegedly hid internal research showing users became less depressed after deleting Facebook. Why this matters ahead of Australia’s new social media minimum-age legislation. Justin’s own social media detox — and the surprising wellbeing shift. Why young teens are the most vulnerable to social platforms. The cultural shift toward labels, diagnoses, and pathologising behaviour. Parents respond to the Sammy Tamimi episode: gratitude, confusion, frustration, exhaustion. The power — and danger — of language when describing kids’ struggles. Why the environment (screens, sleep, school, structure) often matters more than labels. Reassurance: you can hold the nuance — be curious and compassionate without losing hope. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "When we change our language, we change our experience." — Justin RESOURCES MENTIONED Meta court case reporting (news.com.au) Searching for Normal by Dr. Sammy Tamimi Previous Happy Families episode featuring Dr. Sammy Tamimi Research on Facebook deactivation and mental health ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Audit your child’s digital environment — sleep, screens, stimulation, social pressure. Create a family phone culture (including boundaries around late-night messaging). Hold diagnoses lightly, not dismissively — take what helps, leave what harms. Stay curious about what might be driving big emotions or behaviour. Prioritise connection over correction when your child is struggling. Remember progress > perfection — small steps make a big difference. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If Christmas usually feels more chaotic than joyful, this episode is the reset you need. Justin and Kylie unpack the research on what really makes Christmas happier—and what quietly steals the joy from it. You’ll hear the surprising predictors of Christmas wellbeing (hint: it’s not money, gifts, or how perfect your table looks) and why letting go of the pressure to “do it all” might be the best gift you give your family. A warm, funny, practical episode to help you create a Christmas that actually feels good. KEY POINTS Family connection and meaningful traditions are the strongest predictors of Christmas happiness. A sense of purpose—not perfection—makes the season more joyful. Environmental mindfulness is linked with higher wellbeing (yes… even at Christmas!). Consuming less and enjoying nature more boosts Christmas satisfaction. Materialism and gift overload significantly reduce Christmas happiness. Relationship challenges or fractured family dynamics can dampen joy. Age brings more Christmas happiness as expectations shift and priorities mature. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Wrapping presents generally yields fewer rewards than spending time laughing, talking, and playing with the people you love.” RESOURCES Kasser & Sheldon (2002) research on Christmas wellbeing Take Back Christmas [Article] How To Unspoil Your Kids This Christmas [Webinar] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Prioritise connection – plan at least one meaningful, shared activity. Scale back gifts – focus on presence, not presents. Add purpose – highlight generosity, gratitude, or spiritual meaning. Go outside – take a Christmas walk or enjoy nature together. Simplify – drop one “should” that only adds stress, not joy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feeling the Christmas chaos creeping in already? This episode hands you permission to rewrite the rules. Justin and Kylie share the three simple diagnostic questions that transform Christmas from exhausting and obligatory… to meaningful, memorable, and truly magical. If you’ve ever felt pressure to “do it all,” this is your reset button for a calmer, lighter, joy-filled holiday season. KEY POINTS The three clarity questions that instantly simplify Christmas Why “What lights you up?” matters more than any tradition Identifying what drains you so you can let it go guilt-free The power of deciding “How do I want to feel on Christmas Day?” Helping kids create memories that actually matter How blended families, travel, and extended-family expectations fit into intentional planning Permission to do Christmas your way—without apology QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If it doesn’t light you up, you don’t have to do it. Christmas works best when it works for your family.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Ask the three questions: What lights you up? What drains you? How do you want to feel on Christmas Day? Hold a mini family meeting to hear everyone’s must-haves (and their “don’t worry about it” items). Simplify: Cross out anything that doesn’t bring joy, connection or ease. Protect your vision: Communicate clearly with extended family. Choose one memory-maker to anchor your Christmas this year. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christmas catch-ups can be joyful… and also incredibly tense when your kids start noticing that their cousins play by wildly different rules. No screen limits. Loose language. Even underage drinking. In today’s tricky question, Justin and Kylie unpack how to protect your child’s wellbeing without blowing up family relationships — and how to help your kids navigate mixed values with confidence, clarity, and kindness. KEY POINTS Why “forbidden friendships” often backfire — and what to do instead. How to set boundaries without judging extended family. The one conversation to have before a big family catch-up. Why your influence matters more than the cousin’s environment. How to handle major non-negotiables (like alcohol) calmly and clearly. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Force creates resistance — but connection creates influence.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Submit your tricky question: happyfamilies.com.au Voice notes: podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Have a pre-arming conversation. Ask what your child has noticed and how it makes them feel. Clarify your family values without criticising others. Set non-negotiables (e.g., alcohol, screens) with warmth + firmness. Create positive shared experiences on your terms to keep relationships healthy. Model compassion — kids learn more from how we speak about others than from the rules we set. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christmas is magic… until it isn’t. Big feelings, tired kids, sugar highs, family drama, and festive chaos can turn the “most wonderful time of the year” into a meltdown marathon. In this episode, Justin and Kylie break down how to handle the full spectrum of Christmas emotions — without overreacting, over-parenting, or overcooking yourself into exhaustion. Real stories, practical tools, and realistic expectations… so your day stays joyful, not stressful. KEY POINTS Why emotional regulation is harder for kids (and adults!) at Christmas The real takeaway from the Marshmallow Experiment The biggest mistake parents make: becoming “at-home therapists” Why letting emotions settle works better than talking them down The glitter-jar brain: a simple metaphor to help kids reset How to use fantasy (“Wouldn’t it be great if…”) to soothe disappointment Why low expectations equal high connection How to stop family tension — especially when alcohol is involved When to step in… and when to step back QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Big emotions on Christmas Day aren’t a failure — they’re developmentally normal. Give them time to settle, and most storms blow over in minutes.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Set kids up for success: Protect sleep, reduce overstimulation, keep routines light. Stay calm: Emotions are contagious — yours sets the tone. Pause, don’t fix: Give time for emotions to settle before intervening. Use fantasy to empathise: “Wouldn’t it be amazing if…?” Keep expectations low and flexibility high: Simplicity makes the day better. Be mindful of adult emotions + alcohol: Redirect early, protect kids’ psychological safety. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like your kids walk straight past overflowing laundry baskets, open doors, or lights blazing—and simply don’t see it? You’re not imagining things. In this episode, Justin and Kylie share the hilarious (and slightly painful!) truth about raising kids who swear they’re “contributing”… while the adults quietly carry the load. This feel-good Friday wrap-up dives into family meetings, chore systems that actually work, and the emotional load parents carry as we crawl toward the end of the year. It’s honest, relatable, and packed with practical ideas to help your kids step up—no nagging required. KEY POINTS Why teens truly believe they’re contributing (and why parents disagree). The difference between helping when asked and true initiative. How a simple four-station chore system brought calm back to the household. The real reason parents burn out at the end of the year. Why “don’t give up” might be the most important parenting rule of all. How family meetings create clarity, connection, and accountability—even with adult kids. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Contribution is about initiative—eyes open, notice, and act.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Family meeting questions: What’s going well? What’s not? What do we want to focus on? eSafety Commissioner updates on minimum age for social media platforms Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Hold a quick family meeting—15 minutes max—with the three guiding questions. Introduce clusters instead of chores (laundry, floors, kitchen, bathrooms). Give kids longer rotations (weekly or monthly) to build mastery and responsibility. Reframe contribution as noticing—not waiting. Stay consistent: gentle reminders aren’t failure; they’re part of the process. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kids are begging for e-scooters and e-bikes this Christmas—but the rise in catastrophic injuries tells a very different story. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson breaks down the shocking stats, the hidden dangers, and the conversations every parent must have before saying yes. This is the episode every parent needs to hear before heading to the checkout. KEY POINTS Emergency departments are seeing a surge in serious e-scooter injuries—many life-threatening. Speed, illegal modifications, and lack of helmets are driving the spike. Developmentally, most kids and young teens are not ready for the risks. Laws vary widely across Australia and haven’t caught up to the tech. Pros vs cons: independence vs genuinely dangerous speeds and environments. What parents can do: age limits, non-negotiable rules, and real-world consequences. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Right now we’re running a massive, uncontrolled experiment on our kids’ safety.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Local state road rules for e-bikes and e-scooters Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Delay the purchase—ideally until at least age 16. Start small: ensure your child can safely handle a standard bike/scooter first. Set iron-clad rules: helmets, no doubling, no night riding, no road riding, no phone use. Inspect regularly for illegal modifications or unsafe setups. Have the big conversation: talk openly about risks, responsibility, and real-world consequences. Use meaningful, consistent consequences when rules are broken.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we turning ordinary childhood struggles into “disorders”? In this gripping conversation with child psychiatrist Dr Sami Timimi, we unpack the rise of ADHD, autism, anxiety — and the cultural story that’s quietly reshaping how parents see their kids. If you’ve ever wondered whether your child actually needs a diagnosis or just needs more connection, this episode will hit home. Dr Timimi challenges the medicalisation of childhood, explains how labels can limit hope, and offers four powerful principles for supporting kids without pathologising them. This one will stay with you. KEY POINTS Why “normal” is a moving target — and why that matters for parents. How subjective definitions in mental health fuel overdiagnosis. The risks of labels: internalised identity, lowered expectations, and unnecessary interventions. Four parent principles: Don’t try too hard — avoid the trap of hunting for problems. Don’t fear emotions — distress is part of growing up. Prioritise relationship over behaviour control. Beware concept creep — when clinical words invade everyday parenting. What’s driving the explosion in ADHD, autism, and neurodiversity narratives. Why today’s kids may be the most pathologised generation in history. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When distress is medicalised, it steals our hope.” — Dr Sami Timimi RESOURCES MENTIONED Searching for Normal by Dr Sami Timimi Insane Medicine by Dr Sami Timimi Happy Families resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before pursuing a label — ask what your child might be expressing, not what disorder they “fit.” Create more emotional space — sit with their feelings instead of fixing them. Strengthen connection rituals — closeness buffers distress. Use everyday language — avoid clinical terms for normal childhood behaviours. Look at the environment first — school, stress, sleep, and relationships often explain what diagnoses can’t. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kids have a magical way of asking the biggest questions at the most unexpected moments. In this episode, we walk you through exactly how to respond when your six-year-old suddenly wants to know how a baby gets into Mum’s tummy—without oversharing, freezing, or fumbling. You’ll learn the calm, clear, developmentally-appropriate way to keep curiosity open, connection strong, and panic levels low. KEY POINTS Why kids ask tricky questions earlier than we expect How to give truthful but minimal info that fits their age The “glass of water, not a fire hose” rule How to delay the conversation gracefully when you need time Why your response now decides if they’ll keep coming to you later Simple language you can use with a six-year-old Teaching kids that these chats belong at home—not the playground QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Answer the question your child is asking—no more, no less.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Where Do Babies Come From? by Michelle Mitchell A Girl’s Guide to Puberty – Michelle Mitchell A Guy’s Guide to Puberty – Michelle Mitchell ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Keep answers short, truthful, and developmentally-appropriate. Use correct anatomical terms without going into extra detail. If you’re unprepared, buy time: “That’s a great question—let’s talk with Mum/Dad together.” Set clear boundaries: these conversations happen at home, not with friends. Revisit the topic later as your child grows and becomes ready for more. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the secret to calmer kids, stronger families, and better mental health was free—and we’re the only country ignoring it? In this episode, Justin and Kylie make a bold case for bringing Thanksgiving to Australia… minus the turkey. Discover the neuroscience of gratitude, why it’s a proven buffer against anxiety and depression, and how one simple family ritual can transform your year. KEY POINTS The surprising research: gratitude can reduce mortality by 9% and dramatically improve mental health. How gratitude rewires the brain—calming the amygdala and boosting emotional connection. Why Australians struggle with vulnerability, ritual, and expressed appreciation. How a simple gratitude practice can shift your home from reactive to relational. Easy, meaningful ways to host “Australian Thanksgiving” without any fuss. The power of modelling gratitude for kids (and why lectures never work). QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control where we place our attention—and gratitude changes everything.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Harvard gratitude research (2024) Neuroscience findings on the ACC, medial prefrontal cortex & amygdala Kylie’s gratitude journal practice and gratitude tree idea 6 Science-Backed Benefits of Gratitude [Article] How Gratitude Can Make Your Family Happier [Podcast Article] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start a family ritual this week—one to three things you’re grateful for. Keep it kid-friendly: a gratitude tree, backyard dessert night, or paddle-pop party. Record your gratitude in a notebook or on your phone to revisit next year. Model vulnerability by sharing something meaningful, not just the generic stuff. Make it small, simple, and doable—the ritual matters more than the menu. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A huge week in the Coulson household — ADHD dilemmas, graduation milestones, big Roblox safety updates, and a brutally honest conversation about whether homeschooling is finally over. In this episode, we unpack the emotional load of parenting when life feels stretched thin, and why the choices we make for our kids rarely come with simple answers. KEY POINTS ADHD medications, family wellbeing, and the real question behind parental burnout Why “child problems” are often “environment problems” A major Roblox safety update parents need to know about Graduation highs, formal prep… and food poisoning A heartfelt mother–daughter conversation about going back to school How exploration conversations help kids feel heard (and make decisions they trust) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We’ve got to stop blaming the child — most of the time it’s not a child problem, it’s an environment problem." RESOURCES MENTIONED ADHD episode (“Halloween ADHD Overdiagnosis”) Sammy Tamimi’s Searching for Normal and Naughty Boys Happy Families Podcast feedback: podcast@happyfamilies.com ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause and ask: Is this really a child issue, or is the environment overstretched? Revisit routines — sleep, movement, screens, food — before jumping to quick fixes Try an “exploration conversation” with your child when emotions are high Stay curious, not certain — especially with big decisions Monitor new Roblox age-check and chat-safety changes if gaming is in your home See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Schoolies can feel like a runaway train of risk, pressure, and “everyone else is doing it.” But your teen does have options—ones that are safer, more meaningful, and genuinely unforgettable. In this episode, Justin and Kylie share powerful ways to reframe the end-of-Year-12 celebration, build intention, and offer your teen experiences they’ll remember for all the right reasons. From once-in-a-lifetime trips to simple, joy-filled adventures closer to home, you’ll get practical, confidence-boosting ideas you can start planning at any age. KEY POINTS Why schoolies culture isn’t a rite of passage your teen needs. How intention and values help guide safer, healthier choices. Clever alternatives that still feel exciting, independent, and celebratory. Trips with parents, extended family, or friend groups that build connection — not chaos. Affordable options, big-dream options, and ways to start planning years ahead. How to talk to kids about celebrations while honouring freedom and safety. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “High school is done — that is worth celebrating. But celebration doesn’t have to mean chaos. It can be meaningful, memorable, and still full of freedom.” RESOURCES MENTIONED 5 Essential Conversations to Have With Your Teen Before Schoolies [Article] Get Set for Schoolies withPaul Dillon [Podcast Episode] Community & church-run schoolies alternatives Family traditions like “Sweet Sixteen Trips” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start the conversation early — schoolies ideas form long before Year 12. Ask your teen what they want from an end-of-school celebration (freedom? adventure? connection?). Brainstorm alternatives that align with your family values and your teen’s personality. If planning a bigger trip, start saving as a team — years ahead if possible. Explore friend-group or community-group options to add excitement, safety, and shared memories. Remind your teen that opting out of schoolies isn’t missing out — it can be levelling up. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your tween or teen feels stuck, scared of failure, or glued to their screen, this episode will change everything. Education innovator Chris Balme reveals why adolescence is the second great brain-growth window — and why kids today desperately need more real-world challenges, not more protection. A powerful, hopeful conversation about autonomy, resilience, and helping young people feel big, brave, and capable again. KEY POINTS Why ages 11–16 are a critical “second toddlerhood” of brain growth How autonomy builds confidence (and why modern kids get too little) The danger of overprotection and structured everything What a good challenge looks like vs. a stress-inducing one How to help risk-averse teens stretch themselves — without forcing Why peers, not parents, are the secret to motivation Real examples of challenges that transformed kids QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When we don’t trust our adolescents, they stop trusting us.” — Chris Balme RESOURCES MENTIONED Challenge Accepted by Chris Balme Argonaut: Online advisory program for middle schoolers Millennium School + Hakuba International School ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Fuel autonomy: Let your tween choose a meaningful challenge this week. Enlist peers: Hook them in through a friend, not parental pressure. Normalise failure: Remind them adolescence is the best time to mess up safely. Reduce overprotection: Give back small freedoms — walking, biking, exploring. Model vulnerability: Share your own unfinished, imperfect self. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your eight-year-old won’t walk into another room without you, this episode will change everything. Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on beneath “irrational” childhood fears—and why pushing independence backfires. Instead, you’ll hear the science of secure attachment, relatable stories, and simple steps that make your child braver because you’ve got their back. KEY POINTS Your child’s fear isn’t irrational—it’s real to them. Why forcing independence increases fear and dependence. Resilience is relational: kids become brave when they feel safe. How modelling your own fears helps kids face theirs. Four practical, developmentally sound ideas to reduce anxiety and build confidence. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Force creates resistance. The more we push independence, the more our kids cling.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Go with them—compassion beats coercion. Skip the praise for doing things alone; it creates pressure. Trust development—he’ll grow into independence naturally. Stay curious—watch for any underlying stressors or changes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We watched YouTube Kids for a week — and what we discovered will make you rethink what “family-friendly” really means. From brain-rotting toy ads to troubling messages about body image, Justin and Kylie pull back the curtain on the world’s biggest kids’ platform. They share what’s really happening behind the glossy PR and how parents can protect their children’s developing minds without banning screens altogether. KEY POINTS: Why YouTube Kids isn’t as “safe” as it claims to be The shocking example of a video promoting unhealthy body messages to young viewers How YouTube’s algorithm traps kids in endless loops of commercialised “slop” The staggering amount of time humanity spends watching YouTube — and what that means for our kids What intentional viewing looks like (and how to teach it) Why ABC Kids is still the gold standard for healthy, enriching screen time QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Every single day, over 114,000 years of content is consumed on YouTube. That’s not just a statistic — that’s a snapshot of our children’s attention.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Sunday Times article by Stephanie Thompson on YouTube Kids ABC Kids App (recommended for quality, curated viewing) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Sit down and watch what your child is actually watching — even for 10 minutes. Switch from passive viewing to intentional viewing: search for specific, quality content together. Use ABC Kids or pre-approved playlists instead of relying on algorithmic recommendations. Have a conversation about how YouTube makes money — and why that matters. Set screen time limits that prioritise creativity and real-world play. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever had one of those parenting days — where you lose your cool, say the wrong thing, and immediately wish for a do-over? In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson get real about what happens when we mess up, why rupture can lead to repair, and how connection - not perfection - is what truly builds a happy family. From teenage meltdowns to dinner duty disasters, the Coulsons share honest lessons on letting go, apologising, and finding calm after chaos. KEY POINTS Delegating family responsibilities isn’t always smooth — but it’s worth persisting. Why “getting it wrong” can be the doorway to deeper connection. Repairing ruptures teaches kids accountability, empathy, and love in action. The magic of family moments that start messy but end meaningful. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You don’t know everything as a parent — but if you’re lucky, your kids will show you what really matters: the relationship.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Episode #1481 'When Every Night Is a Meltdown' HappyFamilies.com.au for parenting tools and insights ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before reacting. Step away and breathe before addressing your child’s behaviour. Own your mistakes. Model humility by admitting when you got it wrong. Repair the rupture. Circle back for a calm conversation and reconnection. Share responsibility. Let kids take part in family life — even if it’s messy at first. Celebrate small wins. Connection grows in the moments you choose grace over perfection. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kids these days! Every generation thinks the next generation is doing it wrong, is disrespectful and is less intelligent. This goes back centuries and is nothing new. Today on the podcast, a discussion inspired by an article in the journal Science Advances - titled 'Kids these days: Why the youth of today seem lacking'. Find more resources to make your family happier at the Happy Families website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The One Lesson Every Dad of Daughters Must Learn 270 men. One powerful story. When Kylie Coulson stood before a room full of dads at the “Fathers of Only Girls” charity lunch, she didn’t give them a parenting lecture — she shared something far more raw and real. This episode is that talk: a deeply moving reminder that the best way to raise strong, emotionally secure daughters begins with one simple act — how you love their mum. KEY POINTS Why emotional safety at home starts with your relationship, not your parenting. The real reason your daughter’s future relationships mirror yours. What happens when we stop trying to fix and start listening. How to model love, grace, and security — even when life feels heavy. The single sentence that could redefine fatherhood. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Sometimes the most effective parenting we’ll ever do has nothing to do with our children — and everything to do with the person we choose to be.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Fathers of Only Girls (FOOGS) charity happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Hold space for your partner — without fixing or judging. Show your daughter what love looks like in real life. Remember: how you treat her mother is how she’ll learn to love herself. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The social media age ban is coming - and parents everywhere are freaking out. But here’s the truth: this isn’t the end of your child’s world. It’s a chance to reshape it. Justin and Kylie share five practical ways to help your teen navigate life beyond the screen - from rebuilding real-world friendships to resetting your family’s digital habits. KEY POINTS: Why banning social media isn’t enough — and what families can do instead How to start calm, open conversations with your teen about the changes The surprising benefits of going “old school” (yes, landlines are back!) Why parents need to reconnect with their kids’ social circles The power of modelling healthy tech boundaries as adults QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “If all we do is say ‘you can’t have this thing,’ something else will fill the void.” — Dr. Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr. Justin Coulson The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt Pediatric Research, July 2025: “Navigating Youth, Smartphones, and Policy” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start the conversation early - ask how your teen feels about the change. Help them reconnect offline: swap phone numbers, plan hangouts, build community. Fade out (or cut off) social media together - in solidarity. Model it. Set your own tech boundaries. Make it positive - this is an opportunity, not a punishment. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re raising a generation surrounded by noise, opinions, and algorithms — but how do we teach kids to actually think for themselves? Dr Justin Coulson talks with headmaster and author Michael Parker about helping children (and ourselves) escape echo chambers, stretch attention spans, and develop true independent thought in the age of AI and endless scrolling. KEY POINTS: Why attention span is the #1 obstacle to deep thinking How social media and “influencer logic” shape young minds The surprising role of boredom and debate in critical thinking Practical ways to nurture reflection and focus at home Why AI might help—or hurt—our children’s ability to think independently QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“Stop listening to the loudest and most extreme voices. Start thinking for yourself.” — Michael Parker RESOURCES MENTIONED: Thinking for Yourself by Michael Parker and Fiona Morrison More parenting insights at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Stretch your child’s attention span with longer, screen-free activities. Encourage respectful debates and devil’s advocate questions at home. Expose your family to multiple perspectives—especially those you disagree with. Model reflective thinking out loud when you make decisions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When life forces you to slow down, sometimes that’s exactly what your family needs. In this raw, real “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow,” Justin and Kylie share how a tough week - complete with surgery, surf trips, and kids cooking dinner - led to surprising moments of growth and gratitude. It’s a gentle reminder that slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind. KEY POINTS Why stepping back can strengthen your family The hidden power of sharing the load Teaching kids responsibility through real contribution The mindset shift that turns “I can’t” into “We can” QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Sometimes it’s okay to lay flat on your back and let somebody else carry the load. They usually can—and the world won’t fall apart.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Minted Kids podcast with Nicole Peterson McKinnon Boys by Dr Justin Coulson (coming 2026) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let someone else lead for a day. Involve kids in cooking or chores—real, meaningful help. Reflect: where can you slow down before the season speeds up? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A 13-year Australian study has just dropped — and its findings are shaking the medical world. Children on ADHD medication reported lower quality of life than those who weren’t medicated. In this eye-opening episode, Justin unpacks why the “gold standard” research behind ADHD treatment might have been flawed all along — and what this means for families trying to do what’s best for their kids. This one might make you rethink everything you’ve been told. KEY POINTS The shocking new Deakin University study on ADHD medication and child wellbeing. Why “the gold standard” MTA study may have misled the world for decades. How peer review can fail — and how Big Pharma shapes the story. What long-term follow-ups reveal about medication outcomes. Why your child isn’t the problem — and what really needs to change instead. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Your child doesn’t have a problem. Thinking your child is the problem is often the bigger problem.” RESOURCES MENTIONED MTA Study (Multimodal Treatment of ADHD) and 3-year follow-up research. Deakin University longitudinal study on ADHD medication and quality of life. The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson. Parenting ADHD [The Course] + Course FAQs [Article] Help for the Parent with ADHD ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Don’t make changes overnight — start by reading the linked studies. Talk to your child’s GP, psychologist, or psychiatrist about alternative supports. Focus on your child’s environment, not just their behaviour. Trust your gut — if something doesn’t feel right, it’s worth exploring. Remember: grace for your child, yourself, and your professionals. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve been told that “good” parents never take their eyes off their kids — but what if that’s the very thing making childhood (and parenting) harder? In this fascinating chat, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with Lenore Skenazy — New York Times bestselling author of Free Range Kids and co-founder of Let Grow — whose viral act of letting her 9-year-old ride the NYC subway alone sparked a global movement. Fresh from her TED Talk, Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids, Lenore dismantles the “terrible lie” that children can’t handle life on their own — and reveals why the best learning, confidence, and resilience often happen when parents step back. KEY POINTS The fear-driven parenting trap — and how media and culture made “unsupervised” a dirty word. The myth of “better safe than sorry” and why it’s hurting our kids. How independence builds competence (and true confidence). What happens in a child’s brain when they solve problems without adult help. The staggering truth about “stranger danger” and why it’s wildly overblown. How to make it normal again to just open the door and let kids play. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Independence leads to competence — and competence leads to confidence.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Lenore Skenazy’s TED Talk: Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy— New York Times bestseller Let Grow nonprofit: letgrow.org Range by David Epstein ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Open the door. Let your child play or walk somewhere safely on their own. Resist the rescue. When your child faces a small problem, pause before stepping in. Swap “be safe” for “trust yourself.” Let your language build courage, not fear. Talk about freedom. Ask your kids what independence means to them — and listen. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Choosing the right care for your little one can feel like walking a tightrope — guilt on one side, exhaustion on the other. In this heartfelt Q&A, Justin and Kylie unpack the real differences between daycare, early learning centres, and family daycare — and what matters most when your child has big emotions or struggles with separation. Whether you’re expecting another baby or just trying to do what’s best, this episode helps you breathe easier and make a choice that feels right for your family. KEY POINTS The real difference between daycare and ELC (and why the labels don’t matter as much as you think). What to look for on your childcare tour: staff ratios, turnover, and outdoor play. Why sometimes not enrolling can be the best choice. How to support a deeply feeling child who struggles with separation. The “choose your hard” mindset — and how it changes everything. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Parenting is hard either way — we just have to choose the kind of hard we’re willing to live with.” RESOURCES MENTIONED What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson Episode #920 Minimising Daycare Drama ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Reflect on why you’re choosing care — not just whether to. When touring, focus less on the shiny buildings and more on the people. Prepare your child for separation with empathy, connection, and practice. Give yourself permission to pick the path that best supports your family’s season. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If every evening feels like emotional warfare, you’re not alone. Exhausted, desperate, and out of ideas? In this episode, Justin and Kylie share three powerful ways to turn chaotic, tear-filled nights into calm, connected moments — so bedtime stops being a battle and starts feeling peaceful again. KEY POINTS The three pillars for calmer nights: routine, environment, and presence Why predictability helps kids feel safe (and parents feel sane) The surprising power of dim lights, soft music, and storytime What your kids are really asking for when they “stall” bedtime Simple, loving ways to reconnect — even when you’re out of patience QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “They just want to feel safe and secure and know that they’re loved — that’s the game.” RESOURCES MENTIONED What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson More resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Create a predictable nightly rhythm — same order, same cues. Ditch screens an hour before bed and dim the lights. Be present, not perfect — a calm hug goes further than any rule. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your kids shut down or seem totally uninterested - whether it’s a conversation, a hobby, or music lessons - it can feel like you’re wasting your time (and money). But this week, Justin and Kylie share two powerful reminders that patience, play, and connection go further than pressure ever will. From a heartwarming drum lesson breakthrough to a car trip conversation that turned a reluctant teen into a chatterbox, this episode will make you rethink what “progress” really looks like in parenting. KEY POINTS Why letting kids explore without rigid outcomes can create lasting motivation. The surprising benefits of range - letting kids tinker, dabble, and find their spark. How to turn “silent car rides” into meaningful, laughter-filled conversations. Why structured lessons and “by the book” learning don’t always lead to love or creativity. The simple mindset shift that makes family connection feel natural again. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “It’s not about an outcome. It’s about giving your kids the space to explore - because you never know where it will lead.” — Kylie Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Relationship Rules by Dr Justin Coulson Range by David Epstein ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let them play. Focus less on outcomes, more on enjoyment and exploration. Ask better questions. Try open-ended conversation starters on long drives or walks. Be patient. Creativity and connection grow slowly—don’t rush the process. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every October 31st, kids go wild - costumes, sugar, excitement - but what if that same energy is quietly shaping ADHD diagnoses? In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack a fascinating new study showing a 14% spike in ADHD diagnoses on Halloween day. They explore what this says about subjectivity in diagnosis, the risks of overlabelling kids, and how our environments - not just our children - might need rethinking. KEY POINTS: A new Harvard study found ADHD diagnoses rise 14% on Halloween compared to surrounding days. ADHD remains a subjective diagnosis — there’s no blood test or scan to confirm it. Why environment and maturity often explain behaviours mistaken for “disorder.” The real risks of misdiagnosis — medication, labelling, and self-perception. Why it’s time to look at what’s happening around kids, not just within them. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “There isn’t anything wrong with her — she just doesn’t fit the mould of what we consider normal.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Study: Halloween, ADHD, and Subjectivity in Medical Diagnosis (National Bureau of Economic Research) Searching for Normal by Sami Timimi The Parenting Revolution by Justin Coulson ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Before seeking a diagnosis, consider context — sleep, stress, diet, and school environment. Avoid rushing to label; focus on understanding and supporting your child’s unique needs. Ask questions — about treatment pathways, environment, and alternative perspectives. Create calmer spaces where kids can regulate, play, and thrive. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when our kids spend nine hours a day on screens? Dr Justin Coulson sits down with world-leading researcher Professor Jean Twenge (author of Ten Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World) to unpack the hidden costs of our always-online culture — and how parents can reclaim calm, connection and control. From brain changes to “go touch grass” moments, Jean shares the science behind tech overload and practical rules that actually work. KEY POINTS: Why social media under 16 is a terrible idea — and why government regulation matters The shocking truth about teens’ 9-hour daily screen time How smartphones reshape childhood: less sleep, less play, less joy The “basic phone” revolution — why dumb phones might just save your child’s brain How to set firm rules (without becoming the enemy) Real-world freedom: why outdoor play is safer than scrolling The single biggest rule every parent should enforce tonight QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “In ten years we’ll look back at giving kids smartphones at age eleven and think — what were we thinking?” — Professor Jean Twenge RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ten Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World — Professor Jean Twenge Heads Up Alliance (Australia) Beginner Phones for Tweens & Teens [Free PDF from Rebecca Sparrow] Wait Until 8th Movement The Light Phone Unplugged Parenthood ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: No phones in bedrooms. Ever. Delay social media until at least 16 — ideally later. Swap smartphones for basic phones to keep kids connected, not consumed. Model healthy tech habits — your kids are watching. Encourage real-world independence — let them walk, play, and explore offline. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your child has to come first—whether it’s up the stairs or at bedtime—it can drive the whole family mad. But there’s more behind that competitiveness than you might think. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on when kids can’t handle losing, and how to guide them toward healthy confidence instead of constant comparison. KEY POINTS: Why competition and young kids don’t mix The developmental stages that make “winning” feel like a need, not a want How competence and self-worth get tangled together Simple strategies to help kids lose gracefully—and win kindly Why home should be a safe space to “win” without pressure QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “For me to feel good, I shouldn’t have to make you feel bad. That’s the problem with competition for young kids.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know by Dr Justin Coulson ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Relax—it’s normal for young kids to want to win. Play low-stakes games to help them practise losing. Model losing (and winning) with grace.Teach them to find joy in helping others shine. Let life be the teacher—your job is to provide a soft landing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A world-first law is about to change how Aussie kids use social media — forever.From December 10, children 16 and under will be banned from holding social accounts. But what does that really mean for families? In this special extended episode, Dr Justin Coulson speaks with Julie Inman Grant, Australia’s eSafety Commissioner, about the new age-limit legislation — who it covers, how it will work, what fines apply, and what parents must do now to prepare. This is the definitive guide for every parent trying to navigate the online world — with calm, clarity, and confidence. KEY POINTS What the new under-16 social media ban actually includes (and who’s exempt) How eSafety will enforce compliance — and why parents won’t be penalised The five-step “layered safety” approach every platform must follow What’s being done to restrict online porn and explicit content The truth about “nudifying” apps and how schools can respond Simple ways to help your child transition off social media safely QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Parents shouldn’t have to fight billion-dollar companies to keep their kids safe online — the responsibility belongs with the platforms.” — Julie Inman Grant RESOURCES MENTIONED eSafety Commissioner resources & webinars Deep-fake & image-based-abuse school toolkit Beyond Blue, Headspace, Reach Out, Kids Helpline ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Talk with your child about the upcoming change — and why it matters. Help them download photos or memories they want to keep before Dec 10. Set up approved messaging groups to stay connected safely. Bookmark trusted influencers or sites they can follow directly. Visit esafety.gov.au for family checklists and guides. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.