Podcasts about dradijaffe

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a #1 best-selling author (The Abstinence Myth) and a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, relationships and shame. He lectured in the UCLA Psychology department for the better part of a decade and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country - until he started IGNTD. Through IGNTD, Dr. Jaffe is changing the way people think about, and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about exposes the role of shame in destroying lives. The driving philosophy behind IGNTD Recovery is to greatly reduce the stigma of addiction and mental health. Dr. Jaffe's views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published widely in both academic journals and popular magazines and websites. He has been featured in CNN, The Huffington Post, Bustle, Los Angeles Times, KTLA. Dr. Jaffe has also appeared on several television shows including Good Morning America, The Dr. Oz Show, The Doctors and Larry King Now and in numerous documentaries discussing current topics in addiction. He has also been the guest on notable podcasts including Getting Curious with Jonathan Van Ness, Almost Thirty, Dr. Drew, Cleaning Up the Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf and many more. In this episode… What's keep ing you from reaching your goals? Why are you letting that stand in your way? In this episode of An Unconventional Life, Dr. Adi Jaffe and Dr. Russell Strickland blow the doors of your excuses. Dr. Jaffe was an addict, drug dealer, and convicted felon when his doctoral journey began. He went from graduating with his bachelors degree on a technicality, to convincing his master-level professors to go to bat for him when he applied for doctoral studies. Clearly, Dr. Jaffe had all of the excuses one could ever need to not earn his doctor degree and make a positive impact on the world. But, he completely wasted all of these excuses, instead becoming a doctor, an author, interviewing with Larry King, and building an amazing community to support addiction recovery. So, don't worry that you aren't completely comfortable with what you're doing. In fact, Dr. Jaffe said, "I actually urge you to put yourself in more places where you have imposter syndrome." That's how you make a dent in the world!

Noah Levine joined us a while back on the podcast on our Relationships series and it has so many juicy lessons for recovery that I wanted to share it on here with you all. Noah talks about buddhism, meditation, trauma, opiates, getting sober, and helping others do the same. Mentioned: IGNTD Hero Recovery Program Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today's Recovery Secrets episode is about setting boundaries - with old friends so they will respect our new patterns and with ourselves so we actually create the changes we want. You can't get better by simply talking about it, you have to do the work. It's just like any other exercise. If you're having a hard time with boundaries or feeling motivated, this is the episode for you!  2:00 When old friends aren’t accepting of your new patterns.   3:48 Setting boundaries with old friends.  4:30 You build mental strength the same way you actually build physical strength. 5:00 Working out your weaker parts, strengthening instead of ignoring.  12:00 If you’re not ready to quit, then don’t quit, why? 15:23 Why you shouldn’t quit until you’re ready to quit analogy.  16:00 Freedoms & Restrictions Mentioned in this episode: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today I’m talking about the One Percent Theory, which I love for finding manageable goals because this is how we create impactful change while incorporating hard reduction and confronting perfection paralysis. We talk about overcoming negative self talk, the importance of celebrating our achievements and the practice that keeps us void of shame and in our worth. If you tend to beat yourself up or feel stuck, you’ll want to tune in!    1:15 Introducing 1% theory   4:15 Comparing manageable goals to ones that we cannot compete with.    6:17 Harm Reduction    7:00 Perfection Paralysis    12:00 Feeding into the chatter of why we might as well not try instead of acknowledging our efforts and progress.    13:20 Change is constant    13:31 Two steps forward one step back is life, it’s always happening.    14:29 The inner critic, beating ourselves up.    17:24 Adi’ personal story of progress vs. how he would’ve reacted 10-20 years ago.    19:00 Quality of life Assessment   19:38 Gratitude Five Minute Journal keeps us holding onto our progress.    20 Start measuring how you’re doing.    22:22 Don’t grow impatient with yourself about doing the work.    23:00 “If you’re not all in, then you’re all out” myth   23:52 How to work with positive affirmations.    25:39 Getting rid of negative self talk.  Mentioned in episode:  Quality of Life Assessment Five Minute Gratitude Journal Podcast Episode : Why Your Perception of Reality Might be Skewed - and How to Fix It | Recovery Secrets   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Perfectionism can be the number one thing holding us back from moving forward. The idea that we have to be perfect, that making a mistake is bad holds us back from discovering what works and what doesn’t work. When we succeed, we rarely know why but when we fail, we learn what didn’t work. Tune into this episode if you find yourself feeling stagnant because you’re wrapped up in being perfect and you’re afraid of failure.  1:30 Helping us get through the Holidays unscathed.  1:50 How do you find the balance between perfectionism and complete procrastination and laziness  2:10 Avoiding black and white thinking, im either perfect or im a failure. 3:10 Feeling stuck from perfectionism. If we are fortunate enough, we can have guidance.  4:10 Finding the balance between the perfect answer and doing nothing.  5:11 Feeling perfectionism around relationships, work, mental health / addiction / daily functioning.  6:30 These emotions you feel around perfectionism are signals we need to listen to.  7:09 We’ve been conditioned to run away from these feelings.  8:00 Why we need to stop running from these feelings.  9:00 Challenge: the way to improve is to repeatedly make mistakes.  9:42 Accepting that not everything will work because you’ll find the things that do work.  10:00 Trust in yourself and in your discretion.  10:33 Amassing a tool kit to get to where you’re trying to go.  10:54 Why a lot of us have tried to deal with our addictions on our own.  11:20 Adi’s personal story that started his addictions.  12:45 We all experiment. That’s what we do in life to get ourselves the results.  13:00 The importance of finding a community so you don’t have to go through it alone.  13:50 Accepting that making mistakes is a part of being human.  14:50 Don’t let go of being great!  15:20 Committing to the process of how we learn.   17:00 Adi’s personal story of breaking free of perfectionism to start IGNTD.  IGNTD Specials: IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Happy Friday Everyone, in today’s Recovery Secrets episode we are talking about living between the level of activation you wake up at and your threshold. How once you discover that your distress tolerance can improve in one area of your life, it then opens up the possibility for it to improve in any area of your life. We talk about sitting with our triggers and our discomfort to eventually reach radical acceptance. But first we are tasked with understanding the ‘why,’ which I teach through Emotional Honesty and Trigger Exposition Therapy. Tune in if you have voices in your head that you want to learn how to quiet and accept, so they don’t take over your life.    IGNTD Specials: IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today's episode explores Naltrexone as an alternative approach to curbing drinking addiction. Kelly Neil, FNP DNP joins me to discuss how she is treating patients with this controversial prescription. While some doctors may question this approach, she believes whole heartedly in this method, because it truly helps patients regain balance with alcohol.  IGNTD Specials: IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program Topics Discussed: [6:00] They’ve spent so much time battling this issue that should have already been addressed years before and I think that’s a big failure on us as providers to not identify 1 the issue and 2 a lot of times the underlying depression that goes along with it. [7:00] Big providers refusing to prescribe Naltrexone [8:00] History of Naltrexone [8:35] physicians referring to Naltrexone as a narcotic, opiate antagonist.   [9:05] Customary dose, tailoring alcohol consumption to meet the end goal.  [11:40] Kelly Neil’s Practice in California. [12:00] Side effects of Naltrexone.  [12:10] Sinclair Method, types of drinkers. [13:00] Why the rehab usage of Naltrexone is incorrect.  [14:00] Tailoring treatment to the patient.  [16:00] Cost of the drug, affordable, accessible. [16:25] Kelly Neil discussing her billing system being set up with anonymity. [17:00] Seeking help and Shame. How honesty can be held against us as we can see with oftentimes with addicts. [18:00] Alcohol is a real medical issue. How it changes brain chemistry.  [19:00] Alcohol is also a very big industry.  [23:00] The way society tells us to look at alcoholism or not look at it. [25:00] The biochemistry component of Naltrexone and how it works. [26:00] Alcohol use disorder and depression are often linked. The importance of addressing that component. [26:30] Kelly Neil contact.  Work with Kelly Neil  Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today we’re talking about boundaries, which can oftentimes be an uncomfortable topic for those who are a family member of someone who is struggling with addiction.   When families come to us for help with a loved one who is struggling, defining and communicating boundaries are not only the most critical pieces to the puzzle but the most difficult to uphold. However, it is crucial that we change the way we behave and break old habits around our boundaries in order for everybody to heal.   In today’s episode, we’re discussing the role of boundaries, how to set them, how to protect them, and what to do when these boundaries are challenged.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [1:18] My background with boundaries. [3:30] What we’ll be covering in today’s episode. [3:52] Why it can be so difficult to set and communicate boundaries. [7:28] Why this concept of boundaries is so vitally important to the person you’re trying to support in recovery. [10:30] What you’ve got to become good at when it comes to your boundaries. [11:07] An additional tip: don’t expect this to be an all-or-nothing thing. [11:58] My challenge to you: what can you do to start applying some of these boundaries in areas of your life? [12:28] Please reach out to us on IGNTD if you need any additional help. [12:42] Reach out to me on social media and let me know what worked, what you applied, and what the results were.   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

The genesis of this episode all began at a kid’s birthday party — more specifically, my boy, Leo’s, birthday party. With it being a global pandemic and all, we really decided to go all out with his birthday this year with a theme and everything. One of the activities we planned was a scavenger hunt — and I had this epiphany: our life is nothing but a scavenger hunt. Did I lose you there? In this episode, I’m going to prove to you that life is nothing but a scavenger hunt and why knowing this fact will infinitely improve your life.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [4:11] Have you ever been in a scavenger hunt? Here’s how life is exactly the same. [6:11] The similar frustrations and challenges in both scavenger hunts and life. [7:06] Similarities between scavenger hunt clues and our next steps in life. [9:20] The journey of the scavenger hunt that is life. [10:00] The payoff at the end of the scavenger hunt and what that looks like in life. [12:38] How you can use this knowledge to infinitely improve your life. [13:44] Our recommended IGNTD resources.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

This is F-Shame Month and in today’s episode we are diving into what it looks like to embody this theme.   Practicing mindfulness in anything we do, from making coffee to walking, all the way to wanting to make the world a better place. Being present looks like putting your focus on what you’re doing right now with as little judgement as possible. We are exploring how to step away from the overly critical approach in order to show up in empathy.   Shame plays a role in all of these fights that we’re having. Letting go of the roles we play, as a result of the way others shame us, frees us up to be able to think about expansion. Whether that looks like focusing on what is making you feel better right now or eventually connecting into something bigger, something that connects us all.       IGNTD Specials:  IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign  Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach  Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop  14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups  IGNTD Hero Nohab Program     Topics Discussed:  Family SOS Program  Bruce Lipton Book: Biology of Belief      Mentioned in this Episode:  [9:30] People who are stigmatizing always feel better than the ones being stigmatized.   [10:35] Getting to a worthy place first.    [12:25] Feeling pigeonholed.    [13:00] Creating empathy and empowerment.    [14:00] Pretending like everything’s okay, being a doormat.  [15:30] 4 Factors to look at for real change: Biology, Psychology, Environment, and Spirituality.   [16:30] Circumstances vs. personality and how we empathize with ourselves but vilify others.   [17:40] Setting goals, recognizing a solution for yourself.  [18:00] Finding your tribe, finding your tools.   [20:00] Purpose is a good thing to worry about.   [22:15] You know there’s something bigger, that we are a part of a system.   [24:00] Bruce Lipton book Biology of Belief.  [24:30] We have a problem with the concept that we are affected by diff people’s energy.   [27:05] Energy around us that we don’t see but we can feel like radiation.        Find out more about IGNTD:  IGNTD.com  IGNTD.libsyn.com     Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook— or email me at Info@IGNTD.com 

It’s finally September, which means SAMHSA’s National Recovery Month! This is the month every single year that there’s a lot of noise and activity around the addiction fields. And just like every other year, we at IGNTD have a lot planned for this special month. To kick things off, we’ve started a campaign, “Once an Addict,” that’s really close to our hearts. In this episode, I’ll be taking you through all the details that you need to know about this campaign; what it is, why we’re doing it, and how you can participate.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [1:04] About our most recent campaign in celebration of National Recovery Month: “Once an Addict.” [1:28] Why I started the “Once an Addict” campaign. [8:15] The purpose of the “Once an Addict” campaign. [9:22] What we’re doing with the “Once an Addict” campaign. [12:10] What I want you all to do: Download the PDF at IGNTD.com/OAA, fill it out, and share it online. [13:04] How, together, we can completely eliminate the phrase, “Once an addict, always an addict.” [13:52] How we will be doing our part in the #OnceAnAddict campaign. [14:24] Language is a powerful thing. Together, let’s change this false premise once and for all!   Mentioned in this Episode: SAMHSA's 2020 National Recovery Month Cognitive Confirmation Bias IGNTD “Once an Addict” Campaign Become an IGNTD Recovery Coach National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI) — Where we recommend donating to! @NAMICommunicate on Instagram   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

With my birthday having just passed, I have been reflecting on how grateful I am to be where I currently am in life. It has taken me a long time to get here.   One of the current pieces in my life that serve as a reminder to stay humble and grateful every day is the Five-Minute Journal I was gifted by Sophie a few years back. So, in today’s episode, I want to take you through some of my journal entries from this last year to explore this concept of gratitude and share about the impact it has had on my life.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [2:27] About my Five-Minute Journal. [3:22] My first entry, January 10th, and the story behind it. [3:58] My journal entry on January 11th. [4:31] Why I was thankful on January 13th. [5:00] What my week looked like January 14th–18th. [12:20] My January 20th entry. [13:52] My birthday wish for all of you: start intentionally practicing gratitude today. [15:40] If you enjoyed today’s episode, tag me on social media and let me know what resonated with you!   Mentioned in this Episode: The Five-Minute Journal The Pomodoro Technique   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today’s episode of Heroes' Recovery, we’re sharing stories to better understand body image and what determines our perception of beauty. We discuss Bruce Lipton’s Subconscious Belief Work and how this plays into our level of attraction for others and ourselves.     We explore honestly, using story and personal experience to encourage radical self-acceptance. We are breaking down how we can shift our perception of what it means to be and feel beautiful. We make it clear that sometimes our perception is based on projections.    This episode explores the link between how we look on the outside and how we feel on the inside. If we can shift our focus from physical manifestations to international more emotional manifestations, then we can create sustainable self-improvement. The world feeds us a lot of conditioning and it’s up to us to be able to understand what our perceptions and pre-conceived ideals of beauty are trying to tell us about our internal state. Body image is an issue that comes up a lot with clients and we are breaking down how to reignite your confidence, leading us to all feeling better about the way we look and feel!    IGNTD Specials:  Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed:    [:40] Body image as a prevalent area of struggle.  [1:45] The entire concept of attraction is a subjective, created belief.   [4:45] Bruce Lipton’s Episode  [5:00] More comfortable with physical representations of the world than internal ones.  [5:55] Subconscious Belief, based on Bruce Lipton’s work, at the exact same time you can understand that your attraction to a single man or woman doesn’t make sense. And you can tell yourself it’s ridiculous to strive for their level of appearance. But you still think to yourself that you’re not at that level of beauty or appearance.  [7:00] Subconscious Beliefs are always guiding our behavior. [9:50] Guiding our behavior Subconsciously through Honest Exploration and Radical Self-Acceptance.  [10:30] How do we as children gather our ideas of what is an ideal man or woman.  [12:00] Using our personal epitome of our ideal man or woman to understand that our judgements of others mimic the judgements we have against ourselves.  [14:30] Emotional connection to another changes our overall attraction to their physical appearance.  [16:20] We don’t see ourselves the way others see us.  [17:10] Our brains project images back to us. So our perception is inherently subjective, explaining why we start obsessing and seeking out objective measurements of our body image.  [18:55] The state of our internal energy shapes the way we are seen and the way we see ourselves.  [20:00] Rather than focusing on the material, money, and physical appearance, as a means of finding satisfaction, we ought to focus on the internal.  [21:20] Radical Self-Acceptance, you can’t fix what you can’t face.  [22:35] How you see yourself is not how others see you.  [26:30] When I feel right, I look right – not the other way around. It’s never an outside game.  [27:50] Fasting and how it limits us to believing that we can only fix ourselves on a short term basis.    Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Ep: The Biology of Belief: The Intersection of Consciousness and Matter with Bruce Lipton Subconscious Belief Work   Fuck Shame Bracelet Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libysn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify   Follow us on Social Media! Facebook: IGNTD Instagram: @IGNTD.me Sophie’s Instagram: @Sophie.Jaffe Adi’s Instagram: @DrAdiJaffe   If you enjoyed this podcast… Please let us know what you want to hear about! Tell us in the comments or send us an email at info@igntd.com.  

Today we’re talking about porn. Porn was my gateway for learning about sex and ended up shaping my entire perspective around what sex should look like, early on in life. Due to this, I developed a rather unhealthy relationship with porn and often fell back on it to avoid the risks of intimacy. It took me a long time to recognize the major role it played in my relationships.   In this episode (and in episodes to come), I want to have a conversation around pornography addiction, sex addiction, and chronic infidelity under the umbrella of: “Is sex addiction a real addiction?” Today we’re focusing on porn. We’ll be taking a look at the role that porn plays in all of our lives, how a reliance on porn can impact you, what my relationship with porn has looked like throughout my life and how it has impacted me, and some guidance on where you can begin this conversation around porn with yourself and your partner.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [:44] My history with porn. [2:28] What I want to talk about in this episode (and in the next several episodes) related to porn and sex addiction. [3:35] How sex addiction differs from drug or alcohol addiction. [4:12] The role of porn in life: pleasure without the work of meeting someone. [6:36] Another role that porn plays in our life: a way to avoid the risks of intimacy. [9:45] How a reliance on porn can impact you. [10:29] How falling back on porn has affected my life. [10:44] Where my relationship with porn is right now. [12:07] Here’s the thing: porn isn’t bad in its own right; it’s the way that you use it that matters. [12:54] Questions I want you to reflect on: “Is there room for more intimacy in your life?”, “Is porn holding you or your partner back at all?”, ”Is there a way to integrate what the porn is giving you into your sex life?”, and “How do you make sure that you or your partner are not using porn to escape?” [13:32] If you have any questions for me, I’d love for you to follow-up with me on Instagram @IGNTD.me or @DrAdiJaffe or through email, Info@IGNTD.com. I’d love to keep this conversation going.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Ep: “Going Deep: Our Story”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Radical transparency — you’ve heard us talk about it before — many times before. But what is it, exactly? How does it differ from honesty? And what would it look like if you applied it in your own life?   In today’s 100th episode, I want to take a deep dive into what radical transparency is, share my personal experience of what my life looked like before and after applying radical transparency, and how you can get started on the path to becoming more radically transparent in your own life.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s topic: radical transparency. [1:28] What is radical transparency? [3:26] Transparency vs. honesty. [5:40] The truth behind why you are not transparent and how that shows up in your relationships. [8:18] What my relationship looked like before applying radical transparency. [8:58] How I’ve seen this show up in other people’s relationships. [9:46] Addressing the question: “How do you deal with people in your life who may not be ready for radical transparency?” [13:41] Remember: it’s your choice to make on how transparent you want to become. [14:44] Don’t forget to rate, subscribe, and leave us a review — we may read it on a future episode!   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today I’m joined by an incredible physician and anesthesiologist, Dr. Ken. Dr. Ken is a Board Certified Cardiac Anesthesiologist as well as the Founder and Medical Director of Illumma. At Illumma, he conducts ketamine infusion treatment, which is becoming increasingly popular for treating chronic mental health conditions and pain syndromes.   What you may not know about ketamine is that it is a medication that has been used around the world for over 50 years and is viewed by the World Health Organization as an essential medicine. Studies have confirmed its benefits for the treatment of depression, anxiety, inflammatory pain, bipolar disorder, PTSD, and more.   What we know as ‘recreational drugs’ are being utilized more and more in a clinical setting. And when it comes to depression and other chronic mental health conditions, it is incredibly important that we are aware of the vast array of tools and options out there for us as individuals. I hope you’ll join Dr. Ken and me in this episode to learn more about the incredible therapeutic use of ketamine to see whether it is an option for you in your own journey!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode with special guest, Dr. Ken! [1:49] Jumping into the conversation with Dr. Ken. [3:48] Dr. Ken shares his thoughts on the war on drugs. [7:19] Why the dysregulation of drugs and the puritanical society we live in leads to more drug-related deaths. [9:55] A brief history of LSD, MDMA, mushrooms… and the importance of dosing. [11:58] Dr. Ken shares some facts about ketamine; why it was created, why it’s used, and its therapeutic usage. [16:25] How they administer ketamine at Illumina and how their clinic is set up. [17:47] How ketamine infusions help with Dr. Ken’s clients’ depression and what the overall experience looks like. [22:33] What being in a “K-hole” really means and how it can help patients in a clinical setting. [27:11] How Dr. Ken helps his patients work through this dissociative state to overcome trauma. [28:28] Where Illumma is located. [29:07] How ketamine treats depression and why you may need return/periodic treatments. [33:35] The art of finding the toolkit that works for you. [36:21] What ketamine microdosing looks like at Illumma and how it helps. [38:02] Benefits of ketamine in treating suicidal ideation, eating disorder, OCD, and much more. [39:48] Dr. Ken elaborates on the experience they’re trying to create for clients at Illumma. [41:10] Thanking Dr. Ken for joining the podcast! [42:00] Where to get in touch with Dr. Ken and find Illumma online. [42:22] Tag Dr. Ken and me online and let us know your thoughts on this podcast!   Mentioned in this Episode: Dr. Ken’s Bio Timothy Leary “FDA approves Johnson & Johnson’s ketamine-like nasal spray for depression” Illumma “What is Ketamine Infusion Therapy?” — Illumma “New Hope for Treatment-Resistant Depression: Guessing Right on Ketamine” NIH “How Ketamine Relieves Symptoms of Depression” NIH CBT EMDR @Illumma Facebook @IllummaClinic Instagram   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Having recently spent three days in absolute silence, I ended up reading a lot of books. One of which was The Art of Happiness, by the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler, M.D. In the book, the Dalai Lama shares how, ultimately, we all have the same goal: the pursuit of happiness. And though it may sound really simple to achieve happiness… it can get complicated, fast.   In today’s episode, I want to focus in on a specific part of the conversation around happiness,  and that is this blurred line between happiness vs. pleasure. A lot of people confuse the two, and oftentimes, end up sacrificing their long-term happiness for their short-term pleasure — especially in relation to addiction. In this episode, I’m breaking down the key components that you need to know regarding happiness vs. pleasure and how you can trick your brain into focusing on long-term happiness rather than short-term pleasure.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About the reading I did during my silent retreat. [2:24] What I would like to discuss with you all today regarding The Art of Happiness: happiness vs. pleasure. [3:00] The difference between pleasure and happiness. [5:05] Why making the distinction between pleasure vs. happiness is so crucial: short-term vs. long-term gain. [8:05] A big component to achieving happiness. [9:45] A technique to help you aim for long-term happiness rather than short-term pleasure. [11:09] My challenge to you. [12:25] Let me know what your biggest takeaway was from today’s episode by taking a screenshot of the podcast and tagging me on social!   Mentioned in this Episode: The Art of Happiness, by the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler, M.D.   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In this week’s episode, I really want to talk to you all about this silent retreat that I just came back from. It was three days of pure silence, which means no talking whatsoever. And as someone who talks for a living, to say I was nervous going into it is an understatement. I was almost ready to throw in the towel before I even started. But it’s these difficult experiences — the ones that push you to your edges — that you benefit the most from. And after the three days were over, it ended up being one of the best things I have done for myself — and in this episode, I’m going to share why.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About my experience with the silent retreat I just came back from. [3:57] The realization that I had during this silent retreat that greatly impacted the lens in which I view the world. [7:45] About PureKana CBD — my newest morning and evening hack! [10:45] Where I was prior to the retreat, during the retreat, and how my life changed after the retreat. [17:37] How I will be incorporating this revelation into my life going forward. [18:35] My recommendation to you if you’re finding your life to be very busy right now. [19:04] Screenshot this podcast, tag me on social media, and let me know what revelations came to you and how you’re going to apply this in your own life.   Mentioned in this Episode: Use code DRADI for 20% Off your purchase of PureKana CBD at PureKana.com/DRADI   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today on IGNTD Recovery Secrets, we have another incredible guest joining us! Akshay Nanavati has an incredible story about addiction, recovery, and all of the ups and downs that come along with that. He leaves out no details and shares the raw journey of what it really looks like to recover through the power of embracing your fears and facing your struggles.   Through the work that Akshay is doing now with Fearvana, he has discovered a new way of helping people manifest success. The ethos of Fearvana is to help you find your worthy struggle, live your worthy struggle, and fall in love with every moment of the journey.   In this episode, Akshay shares some incredibly insightful pieces of wisdom about the beauty of struggle, pain, and fear and how we can leverage them to actually become our best selves and live a truly blissful life. He speaks about his own experiences pursuing his fears, how we can push boundaries for growth rather than push boundaries to escape discomfort, how we can begin to recognize and seek out experiences that help us to explore and go within vs. experiences that help us run away and avoid, and how we can prepare to go face-to-face with our fears and begin to embrace them for the most powerful transformation.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode with Akshay Nanavati! [:55] Akshay introduces himself and shares his story. [9:29] About the moment that planted the seed for Akshay in exploring neuroscience, psychology, spirituality, and the work that he now does with Fearvana. [12:02] Why you should not focus on quitting but instead, focus on fixing your life. [13:22] The importance of recognizing your blindspots and taking a deep dive into them. [14:19] How does Akshay prepare to face his fears? [16:08] Why we shouldn’t be avoiding our triggers. [17:45] Akshay shares one of his first experiences with intentionally going face-to-face with a trigger. [18:40] Akshay explains how sometimes even the positive things you are doing are ways to run away from yourself. [19:08] The difference between seeking experiences where you are running away from yourself vs. exploring and going within. [20:20] How and where did Akshay share about his experiences before Fearvana? [21:39] Akshay highlights the important distinction between post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic stress disorder. [22:16] Does Akshay feel like one of the things that have made a difference for him in regard to the initial version of himself pushing boundaries vs. the current version of himself has to do with the service and the contribution that is built into the current work that he does? [23:45] Pushing boundaries to escape discomfort vs. pushing boundaries for growth. [27:55] Don’t live tomorrow in fear of your old demons coming back. [29:28] Akshay speaks about some of the exciting plans he has for the future. [30:00] Akshay shares the ethos of the Fearvana world. [32:21] Thanking Aksha for joining the podcast!   Mentioned in this Episode: Fearvana FEARVANA: The Revolutionary Science of How to Turn Fear into Health, Wealth and Happiness, by Akshay Nanavati   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

As many of you know, I run an online program focused on addiction and mental health called the IGNTD Hero Nohab Program. Within this program, we have about 9 or 10 groups that we run, two of which I run every Tuesday and Friday. During my Tuesday session, I always kick it off with a sort of ‘rant,’ where I focus on a specific topic or lesson. So for today’s episode, I’m going to let you in on one of these sessions entirely for free and let you be a sort of fly-on-the-wall for one of these group-only meetings!   Whether or not you’re struggling with addiction or mental health, today’s conversation is an incredibly important one in terms of regulating your day-to-day functioning. I discuss the habits and rituals that have changed my life over the last decade and how you can apply them to your own life to make some seriously powerful changes.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program IGNTD Hero Nohab Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s special episode! [2:15] The live recording of the group session begins. [2:29] I ask the group, by a show of hands, who has ever struggled before with accomplishing the things that they want to accomplish. I also ask, by a show of hands, who considers themselves to be highly motivated. [2:57] My experience with feeling like a highly-purposeful go-getter but not actually following through with getting anything done. [8:00] What I started to realize about why I personally struggled to accomplish things. [9:50] What I began to put into place in order to accomplish what I wanted to do daily. [10:44] Know it or not, you already have a morning ritual. How many of you wake up and look at your phone right away? Here what it means for you… [15:09] How to begin breaking the habit of looking at your phone first thing in the morning by creating better, new habits. [20:23] The importance of starting your day the way you want to start it and not letting others dictate that. [22:44] Here’s the thing: you’ve got to start your day on an equal footing.   Mentioned in this Episode: BlackLivesMatter.com/Resources The Five Minute Journal The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Get the book for free, just pay shipping!   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In today’s episode, I’m going to be unpacking a bit of a complicated topic. Recently, I watched the movie 13th, which shares the idea that incarceration is the new segregation and that laws are written purposefully to keep black people marginalized — and essentially, enslaved.   The place I really want to look at in regard to all of this is the addiction problem in marginalized groups and how it often ends up leading to incarceration. There are some powers at play that do not have everybody’s interests in mind, and over time, can create these huge scaled effects that are unfair. I hope you’ll join me in taking a look at this important topic.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [2:35] The disparity when it comes to the possession of drugs. [5:48] How this disparity heavily impacted black communities. [7:25] Why this massive impact created a cycle that continued for decades in black communities. [8:46] Where the rubber meets the road with the huge discrepancies in imprisonment. [9:18] The issue I have with people focusing on racial profiling. [11:04] Here’s what we’re going to have to figure out. [13:03] What we have to do, regardless of how we got here. [13:46] I would love to hear your thoughts on today’s topic. Please screenshot this episode, tag me on social media, and let me know your thoughts!   Mentioned in this Episode: BlackLivesMatter.com/Resources 13th (Netflix Original) IGNTD Recovery Secrets Ep: “Everyone is Lying About Everything and Nothing is Real”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Currently, we’re wrapping our Family SOS Program — the first program we have ever run for the family members of those struggling with addiction. I can honestly say it has been one of the most incredible and enlightening experiences I have ever had and I cannot wait for this program to be more widely available in the future.   Through working exclusively with the families of those who struggle, I learned some important lessons that I really want to share with all of you today. Often, we only have the perspective as either the person who is struggling or of the family member of someone who is struggling. Whichever side you may be on, I highly recommend you tune in to today’s episode so you can better understand how to bridge the gap. It is so incredibly important that we understand both sides of the coin so we can all heal and grow together.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [2:15] Why I wanted to speak about this topic and what I hope you can learn from this. [2:37] Better illustrating what I mean through an example from the Family SOS Program. [3:30] How the cycle ends up repeating between those who struggle and their family. [5:29] Why nothing can be resolved unless you stop this cycle. [6:28] The importance of acknowledging the struggles of both sides. [9:13] What our duties are from either side of the coin.   Mentioned in this Episode: BlackLivesMatter.com/Resources   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In this Recovery Secret’s episode, I’m giving you all a sneak peek, behind-the-scenes, of what one of our online group sessions look like! This is one of our Tuesday sessions where I present a theme for all of us to take a deep dive into. In this session, we explore the theme of ‘f*ck shame’ and take a look at the power shame has over us and how we can rise above it.   I love bringing up challenging topics in these group sessions that really get our IGNTD heroes thinking in a different way — and hopefully, in this episode, it can do the same for you too!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s special episode! [1:37] The session’s recording begins. [4:07] What f*ck shame means to me. [5:28] The new meaning f*ck shame took on this week. [7:07] The power of shame. [8:49] What if we bring the f*ck shame fight to every other group that’s marginalized? [10:43] Understanding the human experience of being shamed.   Mentioned in this Episode: Remembering George Floyd BlackLivesMatter.com/Resources   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today, I want to talk about the racism problem in America. How many times have we now watched people be hunted down and publically murdered? And then, for the people who killed them, to essentially just walk away from it? We cannot continue to sit idly by while people are being murdered. With this episode and the next several following, I want to continue to shed light on this topic through the platform that I’ve been given. I urge you all to join in on this movement and to not just sit by and watch. This is incredibly important.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [3:56] Addressing the George Floyd situation and BLM. [5:46] What it is our job to do. [13:30] The ‘bystander effect.’ [15:10] We can’t allow ourselves to just sit back and watch.   Mentioned in this Episode: Remembering George Floyd BlackLivesMatter.com/Resources   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

We don’t often have interviews on IGNTD Recovery Secrets so you know when we do, they’re somebody special! I’m very lucky today to be joined by Lauren Handel Zander, co-founder and chairwoman of the Handel Group. Lauren has spent over the last 20 years coaching thousands of private clients from entrepreneurs to couples to politicians to Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her company, the Handel Group, is a renowned executive life coaching company that is dedicated to improving the personal and professional lives of others. Her groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method, is supported by top educators and psychologists and has been developed and taught in over 50 major universities and institutes of learning.   As you know, through IGNTD, I want to expose you all to as many different ways of doing ‘the work’ as possible. We are not all wired the same and we cannot all follow the same script to happiness and self-fulfillment. We’re all just out here manufacturing our own tool kits and learning what works best for us. And in today’s episode with Lauren, she provides a refreshing look at addiction, recovery, and finding light through recognizing and acknowledging your darkness. She also shares many brilliant nuggets of wisdom on how to discover what works best for you as well as a peek into some of the amazing work she is doing around life coaching and overcoming struggles related to shame and darkness.   I hope you all tune in for this one to hear her refreshing perspective on all things addiction, recovery, and self-improvement!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups Family SOS Program   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s special interview with Lauren Handel Zander! [:50] Welcoming Lauren to the podcast. [:54] Lauren tells the origin story of the Handel Group. [3:27] Has entrepreneurship always been in Lauren’s blood? [6:40] Lauren speaks about the shift from her role as a one-to-one coach to building up an entire life coaching empire. [9:00] Lauren shares her definition of addiction and addict. [18:48] Understanding how to find the tools that work for you. [20:55] How Lauren helps her clients find their light and higher self through understanding their epigenetics. [24:44] How Lauren begins to work with clients who have extreme resistance to uncovering the parts of themselves they have a lot of shame and darkness around. [27:00] Is it society that doesn’t allow us to face or talk about our darkness or is it simply us, as individuals? [33:50] The cost of lying and the importance of having a sense of humor, acknowledging your darkness, and moving beyond your shame. [36:21] How Lauren begins helping her clients discover their path out of these struggles. [39:21] Sharing our thoughts on traditional methods of addiction recovery. [43:34] Discussing our methods. [46:22] Lauren shares a bit about Handel Group and how to get in touch if you’d like to learn more. [48:35] Thanking Lauren for sharing her wisdom and joining the podcast! [48:53] Be sure to tag both of us and let us know what resonated that most for you from today’s episode!   Mentioned in this Episode: Handel Group MindBodyGreen Handel Group on Instagram   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today, I want to talk about what it means to listen to and support a loved one. Often times, we are quick to judge someone’s story based on our own perceptions and ideas of reality. We “listen” without actually listening with a clear heart. We have our own ideas of what they should do or how they should behave. This judgment can lead to both parties feeling misunderstood and alone.   Over the last 12 years that I’ve been working in the field of addiction recovery, I’ve seen hundreds of family members who want to help their struggling loved one, only to be at a loss for how to get through to them. In today’s episode, I’m explaining how to create an environment that builds trust and safety so that your loved one has the chance to open up. We’ll also dive into listening with intention and openness so that you and your family members feel heard. If this resonates with you, I highly encourage you to look into our new program, Family SOS, so that you and your family can get the help that you deserve.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Free! Just pay shipping! Family SOS Program   Topics Discussed: [3:31] About today’s episode. [3:40] A story that someone in my Instagram direct messenger told me. [6:37] The common denominator in most people who struggle with addiction. [6:58] How we need to listen to stories. [8:25] How to create an environment to help someone feel motivated. [9:07] Setting real boundaries. [11:22] Why we can’t force people to make choices and take action. [11:40] What we’re doing at IGNTD: a program entirely for the family members. [12:00] If you know anybody who is struggling with this, please send this episode and family SOS program their way!   Mentioned in this Episode: The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Free! Just pay shipping! Family SOS Program   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today, I want to talk about family with you all… but not in the way that we normally talk about it. But rather, I want to talk directly to those of you who have someone close to you in your life who is struggling with addiction.   Over the last 12 years that I’ve been working in the field of addiction recovery, I would say that at least half — if not more — of the questions I get asked are not from the people who are struggling with addiction but are actually from the family members of the person who is struggling. They want to help them, but they don’t know how. And I empathize completely with this difficulty. So in today’s episode, I want to address the family. If you are in this position or know somebody who is in this position, I highly recommend you tune in for this episode.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Free! Just pay shipping! Family SOS Program   Topics Discussed: [:41] About today’s episode. [1:57] Addressing the false notion that the “addict” in your life was predisposed to becoming an addict. [2:40] Confirmation bias and the “big black box.” [3:47] The real equation that makes up addiction and why traditional treatment usually does not work. [6:23] The role a family member plays in helping the person who is struggling with addiction. [6:50] In the vast majority of traditional treatment, the family gets zero support and is not involved in the treatment — but this is nowhere near enough. [7:20] What we’re doing at IGNTD: a program entirely for the family members. [9:43] If you know anybody who is struggling with this, please send this episode and family SOS program their way!   Mentioned in this Episode: The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Free! Just pay shipping! Family SOS Program   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

As I sat down to record this episode on Sophie’s birthday, April 30th, the word ‘gratitude’ kept coming up for me. So that’s what we’re going to be focusing on today: this concept of gratitude.   My story didn’t start out with a house with a backyard and a wife and kids who love me. I’m grateful every day that this is my reality now. In the past, I was not only self-centered, but I always used to look for what was going wrong in my life too. Weirdly, it wasn’t until I nearly lost everything in my life that things changed for me, and I began to appreciate the small things.   If you have the sense that where you are now isn’t where you need to be… this episode is for you.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Sex, Love & Porn, Oh My! Live Workshop (May 4th)   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s episode. [2:08] What my past looked like and how I came to have an abundance of gratitude for my current life. [5:45] The role accountability plays with gratitude to create a powerful combination. [6:32] The reason why I wanted to speak about this topic today. [8:08] How to begin taking accountability and finding gratitude in your life. [10:27] What can happen for you once you recognize the good you have inside you and the power you have to take responsibility for the things you still need to get better at. [11:12] My final thoughts on gratitude and what I would like you to ask yourself to begin on this journey. [12:59] I would love to hear back from you guys. If you’re open to it, send me a message on what you’ve discovered trying out this exercise!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Ep: “Going Deep: Adi’s Downward Spiral and Recovery Story” The Five Minute Journal   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

We’re going to be switching gears from last week’s podcast and getting back to focusing on addiction. But this time, I want to focus specifically on sex and porn addiction. Recently, I’ve been reflecting on how I ended up getting help with my own struggles with it, and, to be honest, it was a pretty convoluted route. I also realized some things that are specific to these addictions and separates them from drug and alcohol abuse — and that’s what I want to talk about with you all today.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Sex, Love & Porn, Oh My! Live Workshop (May 4th)   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s episode. [1:30] About my story with sex and porn addiction. [2:10] The route I took in trying to get help for these addictions. [2:43] What I realized when I was doing the work to heal from these addictions. [5:19] What sex and porn addiction are really about. [6:24] The difference between an intimacy disorder and sex addiction, and what we’re getting wrong about ‘sex addicts.’ [8:09] About our upcoming IGNTD workshop — linked below!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Ep: Going Deep: Our Story IGNTD Sex, Love & Porn, Oh My! Live Workshop (May 4th)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In this episode I deliver quite a rant - on conspiracy theories, Corona (COVID-19) mania and more... Why is it that in times of crisis some of us rely on the least accepted and barely coherent message?So many of us have lots our anchors in the world and any sense of normalcy. This loss can lead people to grasp onto any solid concept that fits their previous beliefs without looking at sources or the truth. There are tons of conspiracy theories circulating about COVID-19, where it started, why it’s here, who’s in charge…the list goes on! Today, I’m encouraging you to stop relying on a small handful of unreliable sources and take control of your beliefs and new sources.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD Subscription Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Community   Topics Discussed: [3:00] About today’s episode. [3:55] Different conspiracy theories that are circulating. [5:42] Highlighting why our lack of normalcy is feeding into conspiracy theories. [5:55] One example of multiple conflicting theories. [6:43] What is dangerous about “fake news”. [7:41] How this relates to the Dunning-Kruger Effect. [8:48] The reason why anything can sound real based on your existing beliefs. [9:10] Agreeing on the rules of “relevant information”. [10:02] How this relates to 12 Step supporters and other recovery options. [10:49] The truth about AA. [11:20] What I’m urging you all to do curing this crisis.   Mentioned in this Episode: Episode 45: Why Ignorance is Not Bliss The Dunning-Kruger Effect   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

There are two types of addicts that most people think of: the “trainwreck” who is not seeking help and the one who is seeking help, going to AA meetings or rehab. The reason many people only see these two sides is because that’s all that the media tends to cover.   My special guest today, Alexis Haines, is here to talk about all of the people who fall in the middle — because, in reality, very few people fit into those two camps. And Alexis is not ashamed to share her story — what recovery from reality actually looks like. And she has been through a lot; from being a 19-year-old heroin addict who was fighting criminal charges to someone who is now 9 years sober and owns her own treatment center and hosts a successful recovery podcast.   Alexis truly has so many incredible insights, lessons, and advice to share from her experiences and the journey that she’s been through! I hope you’ll all tune in to hear what she has to say on recovery, addiction, and healing.   “I knew that I was okay going forward when I stopped spending every single day trying to check out of my reality, but instead, trying to check in to my reality.” — Alexis Haines   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups The Abstinence Myth, Dr. Adi Jaffe — Get the book free! Just pay shipping!   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s special interview with Alexis Haines. [2:33] Alexis Haines introduces herself and her addiction story. [14:20] Alexis shares the turning point in her story and what led her down a better path. [19:08] Alexis shares an important message about how no version of yourself is more or less deserving of love. [20:48] Alexis shares her struggles with overcoming shame. [24:13] Why abstinence is not key in recovery. [26:35] Alexis speaks about her recovery center, Alo House, and how they treat those who are struggling as opposed to AA. [27:35] Why Alexis believes that full recovery is possible and what she’s experienced in her own life that prove it. [31:24] Alexis highlights another important message about recovery: Your recovery journey can change and that’s okay! [34:38] Alexis shares her opinion on medically assisted treatment and continuing to ‘use.’ [35:54] The ultimate goal of recovery — regardless of treatment. [36:57] Alexis shares more about what she’s currently doing to help others. [41:31] Thanking Alexis for joining the podcast!   Mentioned in this Episode: Alexis Haines Alo House Recovery Centers Recovering from Reality Podcast Recovery from Reality, by Alexis Haines Online Life Reset Course by Alexis Haines   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

This week I want to focus on some of the amazing things happening amid the coronavirus pandemic. There have been so many amazing ways in which people have taken control of what they can do to help others and spread positivity — from free virtual concerts to enjoy from home to communities coming together to help a little girl celebrate her birthday in isolation. These stories are not only inspiring… but they’re empowering, as well. So please join me this week to celebrate all of the good happening in the world right now!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups IGNTD Community   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [1:51] Positive news about how celebrities are helping amid the coronavirus crisis. [3:11] Highlighting the incredible cross-country collaboration happening right now. [4:10] Other incredible donations and stories we’ve seen around the world. [5:42] How we’ve seen mental health workers stepping up and how we’ve been stepping up. [6:31] Sharing just a few more of the incredible stories I’ve seen recently. [9:01] The reason why I want you all to understand these stories: we can all do something. [10:10] What I want you to after listening to this podcast. [10:47] I’d love to hear from you about what you’ve done amid the coronavirus crisis! Please share it publically and let everyone know.   Mentioned in this Episode: “45 Positive News Stories You May Have Missed During the Coronavirus Outbreak,” by Olivia Blair, Elle “‘We Miss You Guys’: Amid Coronavirus, Good News is Happening,” by GMA Team, GMA Good News Network Specific news stories I shared: “Dolly Parton Donates $1 Million Toward Coronavirus Research,” by Sandra Gonzalez, CNN “Here Are All the Live Streams & Virtual Concerts to Watch During Coronavirus Crisis (Updating),” by Billboard Staff, Billboard “Watch These Livestreamed Concerts During Your Social Distancing,” by Justin Curto, Vulture “F1 Team Helps Build New UK Breathing Aid for COVID-19 Patients,” by Ian Sample, The Guardian “‘Solidarity Knows No Borders’: Germany Treating Dozens of Coronavirus Patients from Italy and France,” by Jessica Bateman, Independent “Coronavirus: Russia Sends Plane Full of Medical Supplies to U.S.” by Andrew Roth, The Guardian “Couple Donate Wedding Meal to Healthcare Workers,” by Kristen Jacobs, Wedding Etc “New Yorkers Applaud Health Care Workers and First Responders from Home,” by Alexander Kacala, Today “Dozens of Art Lovers Recreate Famous Paintings for Coronavirus Isolation Challenge,” by Chris Pollard, The Sun “Sidewalk Chalk Art Cheers up Michigan Medicine Nurses: 5 Things that Give Us Hope Amid Coronavirus Crisis,” by Samuel Dodge, MLive “Community Turns Little Libraries into Food, Toilet Paper-Sharing Stops Amid Coronavirus,” by Meaghan Wray, Global News “Coronavirus: Parents Organize Drive-By Birthday for 12-Year-Old Girl in Isolation,” by Olivia Petter, Independent “Coronavirus Shut Down Nightclubs. These DJs Are Hosting Digital Dance Parties to Get By,” by Cady Lang, Time Coronavirus (COVID-19): Small Business Guidance & Loan Resources (U.S. Small Business Administration)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

These last few weeks have been really tough a lot of us. With everything happening around the coronavirus, we have all completed shifted our usual way of living. This quick exercise, or perspective shift, that I’m sharing today is not only about shifting your viewpoint about what’s happening in the world right now — but it’s also meant for the longterm. It’s all about how we can take the lessons that we’ve learned during this time, as well as the perspective that we’ve gained, and apply it to our future to obtain a greater gratitude for life. I hope you’ll join me!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop 14 Days Free of IGNTD Live Online Groups   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s episode. [1:35] Grab a piece of paper to join in on today’s exercise. Write down a list of all the things you’re missing right now in life. [2:58] My list of what I miss right now. [7:28] The next step after writing your list. [9:05] What I really mean when I say “express gratitude.” [9:48] Step 5: the most important step. [11:36] What I’m asking of you; the main point of today’s episode. [12:32] Send me your list on social media! I’d love to see yours.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Community   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In the midst of all of this COVID-19 Coronavirus craziness, I just wanted to hop on quickly today and give you a few key strategies on how to deal with the anxiety that is accompanying it for a lot of us. Let’s get out of this tailspin together and learn how to search out joy and contentment rather than anxiety and stress!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups IGNTD Community   Topics Discussed: [:47] About today’s topic of discussion! [1:22] We’re giving away two free weeks of our IGNTD weekly chats! [2:30] The three factors that are required to find more joy and satisfaction in your life and the three additional factors to expand on that joy and satisfaction. [6:24] What to do if the outside of your ‘glass’ is suffering right now. [7:21] The next steps to take once you have your three Ss (safety, sustenance, and shelter) taken care of. [8:21] About our new community page, IGNTD Community. [8:37] Support your community if you can! [10:05] How to exercise your autonomy and control during these difficult times. [11:22] Summarizing the key takeaways of what you need to do to maintain joy and reduce stress during this pandemic craziness. [12:22] Be sure to take a screenshot of this podcast, share it on social media, and let us know what resonated the most with you! And, if you have additional tips, please share them with us and the IGNTD community!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Community   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

One of the things I try to do on this podcast is present you with completely different approaches to recovery and improvement of mental health. So, just like last week, I'm inviting on another guest to share their thoughts and insights on the topic!   Matt Simpson is an author, speaker, and transformational coach. His 2019 book, Worth The Fight: Acting for a Better World, A Guide to Spirituality, Psychedelic Medicines, and Overcoming Trauma, provides invaluable insights and tools to overcome trauma and up-level your game. He also does some amazing, amazing work with veterans through plant medicine work where he focuses on inner work.   In this episode, Matt and I have a very frank conversation and we discuss several topics on the themes of healing through hallucinogens, facing your shadows, early life trauma vs. stereotypical masculine programming, the trauma that veterans face, and how to find what works for you in your own journey of healing.   My hope for this podcast is to bring you new ways of thinking about recovery that you may have never heard about before… and I know this episode with Matt hits that mark!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:40] About today’s episode! [2:49] Welcoming Matt Simpson to the podcast. [3:27] Matt introduces himself and shares what led him to the path that he is on today. [6:00] My experience with hallucinogenics. [8:05] Why Matt believes there is no such thing as a ‘bad trip.’ [9:04] As Matt was going through his journey, what did plant medicine and psychedelics mirror to him? What did this healing work help him address? And how did it ultimately lead him to this collective veteran soul-healing mission? [12:40] How hallucinogens can help us face our shadows — which is where these profound lessons and growth are found. [13:41] How people get stuck in a life that they hate. [16:20] How these drugs can help us acknowledge and recognize our struggles (i.e. face our shadows) instead of hiding or running away from them. [19:04] Matt speaks about what is possible with this veteran collective soul-healing mission. He also speaks about the trauma that many veterans face. [21:00] Why Matt is hopeful for the future. [24:25] Early life trauma vs. stereotypical masculine programming. [27:55] Matt’s main lesson: Whatever it is, find the thing that works for you in your healing journey. [30:18] Matt’s final words of wisdom about the importance of shedding your mask to connect with yourself and others. [31:54] Where to find Matt online. [32:19] Matt plugs the veteran project he advocates for: The Heroic Hearts Project (HHP). [33:07] Thanking Matt for joining us in this episode!   Mentioned in this Episode: Matthew Simpson’s Website Matthew Simpson’s LinkedIn Worth the Fight Podcast Worth the Fight Podcast Episode with Adi Jaffe IGNTD Recovery Secrets Ep. 79: “Quit Like a Woman with Holly Whitaker of Tempest” Worth The Fight: Acting for a Better World, A Guide to Spirituality, Psychedelic Medicines, and Overcoming Trauma, by Matthew Simpson Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging, by Sebastian Junger Hemingway Sam Harris Steven Kotler Jamie Wheal Brené Brown The Heroic Hearts Project (HHP)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

This week on the podcast we have a special interview episode with Holly Whitaker! Holly is doing great things in this world in the space of addiction recovery. She started a movement called Hip Sobriety (now rebranded as Tempest) that leads others through a modern, accessible, and empowering approach to recovery that is built around the individual. Holly knows that there is not a one-size-fits-all path to recovery and through her work, she exposes those she helps to a wide range of tools, teachings, and practices pulled from many different schools of thought. Holly and I have a very candid, open conversation in today’s episode and I think you’ll really love it! We get into her own story of addiction and recovery, how she created her system to help others, and why she believes it is so vitally important to expand the scope of what addiction looks like and make it more accessible for others to find the help that they need. Throughout the podcast, Holly also shares many incredible resources, tools, and actionable steps that you can start utilizing today! I cannot wait for you all to tune in to learn more about her story and mission in this world!   IGNTD Specials: New Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:40] About today’s special interview episode. [7:16] About my free workshop! [8:07] The interview portion of the podcast with Holly Whitaker. [10:11] Why we’re the “punk music” of the addiction recovery industry. [15:05] Holly Whitaker shares her story of transitioning from the tech world and making her addiction “work” to leading a recovery movement through Tempest. [19:02] Holly speaks about her transition from realizing that the traditional/institutional methods of recovery did not work for her (and for the majority of people)! [23:59] The reality of recovery: everyone has their own, unique recovery story. [25:47] Holly speaks about the steps she took in her own life to go from falling apart to creating her own system. [31:11] What was the leap like from the tech world to the recovery space? [32:13] Holly speaks about why it is so important to expand the scope of what addiction looks like and make it more accessible for others to find help. [37:37] Holly speaks about what her experience has been like once she stopped being anonymous about her addiction and recovery experience as well it what was like once she started her business. [44:16] What keeps Holly going? [47:27] Holly and I give our alternative recommendations for addiction recovery. [48:09] Thanking Holly for joining the podcast today! [48:28] Why Holly rebranded from Hip Sobriety to Tempest. [49:28] Holly imparts her last message to listeners. [49:58] Be sure to check out the incredible work Holly does!   Mentioned in this Episode: Holly Whitaker — Hip Sobriety Holly Whitaker — Tempest Holly Whitaker — The Temper Smart Recovery This Naked Mind — Annie Grace New FREE Igntd Recovery Workshop Bill Wilson Ceremonial Chemistry Ritual Persecution, by Thomas Szasz Quit Like a Women: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol, by Holly Whitaker Allen Carr Books Impact Theory — Tom Bilyeu Quest Nutrition Tommy Rosen The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Free book just pay shipping! A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, by Eckhart Tolle Gabby Bernstein A Course in Miracles from the Foundation of Inner PeaceRefuge Recovery Women for Sobriety Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) LifeRing Secular Recovery Rational Recovery Eight Step Recovery   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

The other night, Sophie and I participated in a panel centered around intimacy, relationships, and sexuality. The panel was full of really amazing people that each shared their very own unique perspectives and experiences. Through hearing these great insights and incredible lessons throughout the panel it really made me reflect. So, in today’s quick episode, I will be sharing what I learned, my key takeaways — and then putting forth a challenge to you all!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:43] The topic of today’s episode. [1:36] How our personal experiences paint our perspective and form our ‘normal.’ [2:48] The truth is there is no normal. [3:44] Why I wanted to share this message with all of you today. [4:17] My challenge for you this week. [5:58] When you run this experience this week, I’d love to hear from you! What lessons did you learn? How did it go for you?   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Can you remember what it was like being a kid and having a pretty limited set of worries? Now, I can barely remember a time at all like that existing for me. Life is full from the moment I wake up to the moment I fall asleep now. And suddenly everything is catching up for me and I’m exhausted. Have you ever been here?   If you’re anything like me, you’ve only realized how busy and overwhelmed you are when it’s already too late and you’re ready to collapse from exhaustion. So that’s what I want to focus on today: the lessons I’ve learned from reaching this point of exhaustion and overwhelm, the things I have put in place to counteract it, and the system I use currently to prevent myself from tipping that scale. I’m going to help you identify when you’re heading towards this place of overwhelm, help you put tools in place so you know what to do when you’re there, and provide some proactive steps you can to take to make it doesn’t happen to you again.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s topic. [5:52] How to know when you’re reaching this place of overwhelm. [10:08] What you can do once you’re in this place of overwhelm to get out of it. [15:50] How to make sure that this doesn’t happen. [19:57] The benefits that will come to you if you can avoid reaching this overwhelm point. [21:25] Be sure to screenshot this podcast, tag me on social media, and let me know what message resonated with you!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery Secrets Ep: “Your Life, Chronic Stress, and the Downward Spiral You Didn’t Know to Fear” IGNTD Recovery Secrets Ep: “Is Your Glass Half Full or Half Empty?” New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

I remember being the kind of person who would always look for the pieces that other people needed to provide me so that I could succeed in life. I would always look outside of myself for reasons why I wasn’t getting further ahead. But the thing is, we make our reality. We create it. And waiting for the right circumstances is not going to help you create the life you want to live.   So in today’s episode, we’re going to be looking at why you shouldn’t wait on anybody else to make your life better — and instead, what you can do to live the life you want.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:51] About today’s episode. [2:42] Some examples of what I’m talking about today. [5:21] Here’s the truth of this matter. [5:41] How to move on and no longer wait for others. [6:54] My tip for you all. [8:09] Thanks for joining me today. If this episode resonated with you today, please tag me on social media and share your thoughts!   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

20 years ago I used to put almost all of my effort into looking at what wasn’t working in my life. I would always focus on the pain and the things that I couldn’t do. From this description alone, most people would consider me a “glass-half-empty” kind of guy. But the thing is: that’s not at all true. I didn’t look at the glass as half empty — I just saw empty.   The whole question of, “Are you a glass-half-full or a glass-half-empty person?” already sets us up for the wrong answer, and in turn, the wrong way to look at life. So, in today’s episode, I’m going to break down every aspect of this analogy, explain why it doesn’t work, and share how you can begin to fill up your glass with liquid — even to the point where it overflows!   If this is something that you struggle with, I hope you’ll tune in to hear how you can fill up your glass and the secret sauce to truly shifting your perspective!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups IGNTD.com/Secret   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s special episode. [4:03] Here’s the thing: you can only focus on one thing at a time. So you’re either looking at your glass empty or full. [5:08] Taking a deep dive into the needs and motivations of what it is that allows us to analyze how our life is going by breaking the glass analogy up into three parts. [6:00] The glass: the three major factors that you need to feel comfortable about to allow your glass to even hold liquid. [8:10] The liquid in our glass: what it is made up of and how we can get more of it. [10:43] The secret sauce: the flavor and richness of the liquid of our glass and how it is determined. [14:52] If we want our lives to be filled with joy, fulfillment, and impact, then the whole ‘glass-half-full or glass-half-empty’ is the wrong way to look at things. [17:15] In summary: here’s how to shift your perspective and focus on filling your glass. [17:51] Be sure to sign up for the IGNTD.com and IGNTDRecovery.com mailing lists to be the first to know when our newest workshop goes live.   Mentioned in this Episode: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Richard M. Ryan Edward L. Deci IGNTD.com/Secret   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

This week on the podcast, I’m doing something that I’ve never done before! I’m bringing you an interview conducted by somebody else and featuring me as a guest. And that somebody else is Dr. Caroline Leaf, who I recently had the pleasure to sit down with and talk to!   Dr. Caroline Leaf is a mental health advocate and does some incredible work. She is a cognitive neuroscientist, bestselling author, and mental health and mind expert. In her podcast, CLEANING UP THE MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf, we revisited my story and explored some unique aspects of it that you may have not heard before. She was an amazing interviewer and I think you’re going to get a lot out of this episode!   We talk about my personal story with addiction, how to help someone you know who is struggling with addiction, how addictions develop, why abstinence is ineffective, and how to find healing if you, yourself, are struggling with addiction.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups The Abstinence Myth, by Dr. Adi Jaffe — Get the book for free here! Just cover shipping! IGNTD Hero Program Family SOS Workshop   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s special episode. [1:58] Dr. Caroline Leaf introduces me as a guest on her podcast, CLEANING UP THE MENTAL MESS. [4:00] Dr. Caroline Leaf welcomes me to her podcast. [4:50] Telling the story of the time I was encouraged to not tell others my story. [10:54] Telling my story of my addiction and the experiences that made me want to change. [24:10] Why going to jail was a gift for me. [27:57] How I handled my time in jail. [30:36] Talking about the process of reconnecting with my parents during this time. [33:37] Sharing about my initial time after jail: from rich drug dealer to broke with no job. [34:22] Why I decided to go to school after jail and what the transition was like from jail to college. [39:10] Why people go to substance abuse and how my approach to overcoming addiction is different than the traditional approach. [48:32] What a confirmation bias is and how it relates to addiction. [50:03] How I get to the ‘why’ with my patients. [51:47] The key to creating change. [52:56] The hard work that goes into overcoming addiction and why it is all about the ‘why.’ [53:44] What you can do as a friend or a family member to help someone with an addiction through the process of recovery. I also cover the principles behind IGNTD and how my program works. [59:18] If you’re not the one struggling, here’s how you can help. [1:02:06] Sharing an example from a patient and his family that I work with and how I’ve helped them through this process. [1:08:37] Summarizing a quick, practical how-to for someone who is an addict. [1:12:14] The advice I would give to someone who may be pressured to say they are an addict at a support group they’re attending. [1:13:27] The importance of finding the tools that work for you. [1:13:59] What keeps me awake at night and what gets me up in the morning. [1:14:51] Dr. Caroline Leaf inquires where to find more of my work online. [1:15:15] Dr. Caroline Leaf wraps up the podcast!   Mentioned in this Episode: CLEANING UP THE MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf The Abstinence Myth, by Dr. Adi Jaffe — Get the book for free here! Just cover shipping! IGNTD Hero Program Family SOS Workshop AdiJaffe.com   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

I know how difficult it can be to create change in your life. Especially in the face of unexpected situations or challenges — these curveballs life throws at us. It is so crucial, no matter where you are in life or your recovery, that you are equipped to be able to deal with these and not let them completely throw you off your track.   In my current life right now, I have been presented with one of these curveballs so I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to take you through how I am preparing for it in order to stay on track and feel comfortable in the decisions I have made around it.   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:35] Welcome to today’s episode. [:46] About the current situation I’m in and how it relates to some of the stories I hear from all of you. [3:20] My first tip for you all: Preempt the battle. [4:33] Tip #2: Set up a few meetings, appointments, activities, commitments, or responsibilities for yourself. [6:18] Tip #3: Define for yourself (and to others) your role in this scenario. [8:27] Tip #4: Make a clear decision with yourself. [10:16] Summarizing the key steps to take when going through one of these scenarios life throws at you. [10:43] The ace up my sleeve. [11:07] What happens when you make all these commitments during these situations/curveball moments. [11:55] I’d love to hear back from you about today’s episode! Screenshot this podcast, tag me on social media, or DM me and let me know how these tips have helped you.   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today we’re talking about trauma. The concept of trauma and the discussions around it have definitely become more and more commonplace. As a society, we’re becoming much more comfortable talking about it in general. But, I think there’s still a nuance that we’re missing. When others talk about trauma, we tend to compare our trauma to theirs. We might even think that our trauma wasn’t significant enough because it wasn’t as bad as someone else’s.   So, in today’s episode, I want to talk about this notion around trauma and break down the idea of personal perspective in the context of trauma, the subjective impact that each one of us has, and how that affects you in the present moment. I’ll also be providing a bit of an exercise at the end of the podcast to help you resolve these issues related to the impact your trauma has on you. So, if you’re ready to have this conversation, I hope you’ll tune in!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s episode. [1:02] Sharing a trauma I experienced when I was 8–10 years old. [3:18] Why I wanted to share this story with you all at the beginning of this episode. [3:43] Continuing the story of my trauma when I was younger. [4:15] A nuance we’re still missing when we talk about trauma: comparing our traumas to others’. [4:53] What I’ll be covering in today’s episode. [5:22] Little T vs. Big T trauma and struggling with the feelings associated with the idea that your trauma isn’t “big enough.” [6:49] The concept of personal perspective in relation to your trauma. [8:09] The second concept: the subjective impact of your trauma. [10:25] How to know if what you’ve experienced is trauma. [12:29] Here’s my exercise for you to take that personal impact this trauma might be having on you right now and ‘play’ with it. [16:35] Screenshot this podcast, tag me on social media (or DM me), and let me know what you worked on with your exercise.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Ep: “Getting Personal: A Conversation With My Sister” Room (2015 Film) Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004 Film)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

As you know, I really believe in sharing as many different recovery stories as we can on this podcast. It’s so, so important to have these different perspectives, as no one story of recovery from addiction looks the same. There’s really no “right” way to recover.   On today’s podcast, I’m really happy to have Rob Lohman joining me! Through his work, Rob helps people suffering from substance abuse to find freedom from addiction by sharing his testimony, recovery coaching, advocacy, hosting his podcast, Beyond The Bars, and more. Having dealt with alcohol and drug addiction, a gambling addiction, divorce, suicide ideation, and prison — Rob’s journey truly shows that recovery is possible for anyone.   I urge you all to please listen in to hear all of Rob’s incredible story of addiction and recovery!   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD.com (Sign up for our email list to receive exclusive content and exercises!) IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s episode with Rob Lohman. [2:38] Tag Rob and me on social media and let us know what parts of his story really resonated with you! [3:11] The interview portion of today’s episode. [3:49] Welcoming Rob to the podcast. [4:08] Rob shares his story with addiction as well as what his life was like early on, before addiction. [7:29] Fast forward to college, Rob continues his story with addiction. [14:07] Rob speaks about his mindset during the peak of his addiction. [20:14] Rob shares what addiction was like after college. [21:28] Talking addiction and how it affects sexual relations and development (and vice versa). [25:48] Rob’s breaking point and complete turn-around point. [31:53] Rob’s journey after overcoming his addictions. [37:34] Rob opens up about his struggles in recovery. [42:29] The importance of opening up to others and not isolating yourself. [47:57] Does Rob still consider himself an ‘addict?’ [48:41] The foundation of Rob’s life. [49:57] The key takeaways and similarities between our stories of recovery. [53:38] How to connect with Rob and find him online. [54:04] Screenshot this podcast, tag us on social media, and let us know what resonated the most with you.   Mentioned in this Episode: Rob Lohman (TheAddictionRecoveryHub.com) Invincible (Film, 2006) Beyond The Bars Rob’s #: 970-331-4469   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

There’s an important lesson we all have to learn in life and that is to stop running from things just because they’re going to be uncomfortable. In experiencing discomfort, you’re actually experiencing growth. But sometimes that’s a lot easier said than done.   So, in today’s episode, I’m going to be breaking down the lessons I’ve learned about dealing with discomfort into three main points. I’m going to give you the tools you need to get unstuck from your old habits and patterns and start to become comfortable with the uncomfortable. Because, once you can deal with discomfort, nothing is an impossible challenge anymore.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD.com (Sign up for our email list to receive exclusive content and exercises!) IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s episode. [:48] The story of how I first learned how to swim and how it relates to this episode. [2:54] Point 1: If you don’t challenge yourself, you’re going to get used to being stagnant. [5:58] Point 2: If you don’t create friction or change, there’s nothing to grow into. And stagnancy creates angst and anxiety. [9:24] Where this meets the mental health/addiction world. [10:22] Point 3: What actually solves the discomfort. [12:22] A quick exercise you can do to help solve some of the problems in your life right now! [15:00] The magic of spending time in the discomfort. [17:33] My #1 takeaway for you all today. [18:08] Be sure to screenshot this podcast, tag me, and let me know your main takeaways from this episode!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery Secrets Ep. 37: “How to be Happier than the Richest Man on Earth” Quote by C. JoyBell   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

The new year has just begun! And for some of us, this transition from 2019 to 2020 has been a great time for reflection, joy, and celebration of everything we’ve achieved over the past year. But for others, this time can serve as a glaring reminder of how bad they feel their life is going.   But the truth is: I know you’re close to creating the change you’ve always wanted in life. And I also know that it doesn’t have to do with these New Year resolutions everyone is setting. The only thing you really, truly need is a deep internal belief and a commitment to knowing that you have what it takes to get to the life you want. So, here are some of the lessons I’ve learned from my years’ past to help you achieve the life you want… and hopefully, make 2020 your best year yet!   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD.com (Sign up for our email list to receive exclusive content and exercises!) IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s episode. [3:42] The shift that begins to take place once you decide to give your best in all aspects of your life. [4:20] How to let the haters and naysayers fuel you instead of holding you back! [5:30] Here’s how to ascend past the doubts of others and become free to live the life you deserve and become the best you can be. [7:20] Here’s an incredibly valuable exercise to get you started on your journey: the hero modeling exercise. [13:03] The big takeaway from this episode that you need to remember! [13:58] If this episode has helped you, screenshot this podcast, tag me, and let me know which lesson resonated the most with you!   Mentioned in this Episode: Warren Buffett IGNTD Ep: “Expanding Your Erotic Intelligence with Alexandra Katehakis”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Right now, it’s just past Christmas but right before New Year’s. This can be a very challenging time for a lot of people. They’re surrounded by a lot of family, which, for some, can mean surrounded by triggers.   So in today’s episode, I wanted to provide a bit of perspective on this transition period between Christmas and New Year’s and really take a look at how you can actually make a committed change that you can stick to, going into 2020.   Here’s how to not just make a wish — but take action!   IGNTD Specials: 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [2:01] My question to those waiting until the new year to make a change: what are you waiting for? [4:19] No significant change will happen in your life waiting for a special date. [5:44] My recommendation to you: tune into what you want to create change around and instead of waiting on making a resolution, start right now! [7:05] How to not just make a wish but take action. [9:30] If you start right now, here’s what I can guarantee you. [10:18] Take a screenshot, tag me on social media, and let me know: what change or behavior are you committing to starting today?   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

I don’t know about you, but I have this thing that happens in my head all the time that tells me that I’m never doing enough or that my efforts are not paying off — and it’s pretty consistent and constant! I could work for 12 hours and then as soon as I watch 30 minutes of TV my brain is screaming at me: ‘You’re being lazy! What are you doing?!’   I used to think the answer to solving this was just to work harder. So instead of getting up at 6 a.m. I would get up at 5 a.m. and work until 9 p.m., and I thought that would fix it. But the answer isn’t to work harder — it’s to face the monster head-on.   So in today’s episode, I’m going to be breaking down how to deal with your own monsters. You may be running away from alcohol, porn, food, drugs — whatever it may be — here’s how to kill these monsters for good.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s topic! [3:07] The first thing you need to understand about this monster. [5:55] Where feeding the monster got me. [7:00] The second point: it’s not that easy to not feed the monster. [9:06] How to overcome not feeding your monster and opt for healthier choices. [10:40] Here’s the magic: though the work is not easy, you can kill the monster that you’re running away from (which means never having to deal with it again!) [14:20] What happens after you get rid of your monsters. [16:59] In summary: here’s how you’ve created your monsters and here’s how to get rid of them. [17:38] Join our mailing list if you haven’t already! We’re sending out a set of exercises to help you overcome our monsters. [18:04] If something in this episode resonated with you, please share this episode with a friend or on your social media. We’re trying to hit the goal of 1 million downloads by 2020!   Mentioned in this Episode: IHR Ep: “Your Life, Chronic Stress, and the Downward Spiral You Didn’t Know to Fear” IGNTD Ep: “Learning to Manifest and Align with Your Most Authentic Self with Lacy Phillips” IGNTD Ep: “ Part 2: Learning to Manifest and Align with Your Most Authentic Self with Lacy Phillips”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today I have a guest on for our Friday show! We’ve had Shannon Algeo on our IGNTD Relationships podcast before to discuss embracing change and living your life’s purpose, but in today’s episode, we’re going to be looking at finding your purpose after addiction.   Shannon is a meditation teacher, a life coach, a motivational speaker, and runs the podcast, Soulfeed, with his co-host, Alex Kip. A lot of his work revolves around helping others discover their purpose and helping others to heal their old patterns of trauma so they can show up powerfully in the world.   As we talk about in today’s episode, quitting can actually be the easy part. Living life in a way that maintains your new way of living after addiction, in reality, is the hardest part. But the good news is: we have the solution. Discovering your life’s purpose brings that meaning to your life that is so key in maintaining your new lifestyle after addiction. So if you or someone you know is struggling with life after addiction, this is a not-to-miss episode to learn all about the purpose of purpose!   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Shannon's Career Manifestation Course (50% off for IGNTD listeners - $197)   Topics Discussed: [:35] What I’ll be discussing today with my guest, Shannon Algeo. [2:40] Everybody is different; it’s important to find a solution that works for you. [4:40] Why quitting is the easy part. [6:19] Shannon shares his journey and speaks about how he found out about the importance of having a purpose. [12:00] What happens after you find your purpose. [15:15] How Shannon uncovered what his purpose is. [20:00] How not to find your purpose. [20:20] How I discovered my purpose. [21:32] Shannon continues the story of how he discovered his purpose and offers some recommendations on how you can discover your own purpose, as well. [26:52] Shannon shares some of his big moments of self-discovery during his journey of finding his purpose. [29:53] Overcoming addiction is more than just quitting; it’s about creating change. [31:25] Shannon offers some last few pieces of wisdom to close out the show. [34:54] Thanking Shannon for joining the podcast! [35:17] Take a screenshot of this podcast, tag Shannon and me on social media, and let us know what resonated the most with you!   Mentioned in this Episode: Shannon Algeo Career Manifestation — Shannon Algeo’s Online Course IGNTD Episode: “Embracing Change and Living Your Life’s Purpose with Shannon Algeo” IGNTD Glow Annual Event A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose, by Eckhart Tolle Dirty Jobs with Mike Rowe (TV Series, 2005-2012) Mike Rowe’s TED Talk Simon Sinek’s TED Talks Dharma Landmark Forum   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today’s topic is coming to you from a moment of realization I had recently at one of the restaurants we like to go to in the Dominican Republic where we’re currently vacationing. The song, “Time,” by Pink Floyd was being played by a local band and it reminded me of one of the common conversations that I have with so many of the people that I work with. And that is, that they’ve missed the boat. ‘The starting gun’ had gone off, as it says in the Pink Floyd song, and now they feel it’s too late.   The truth to this song is that nobody tells you when to start. And for some of us, we’ve never really truly gotten started. And at that point, you have two choices: you can get really freaked out and anxious, or, you can simply start now.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:43] About the inspiration for today’s episode. [3:22] The truth in the Pink Floyd song, “Time”: nobody tells you when to start. [4:40] What you can do about this now that you’ve realized you missed the ‘starting gun.’ [5:54] Life is not a race and you are not too late to fire off your own starting gun! [7:53] The moment you realize there are things you want to do… that’s the moment you get to start doing those things! [8:38] The reason why late-in-life success stories are told. [9:31] The one difference in perspective I have with Pink Floyd in the song, “Time.” [10:44] Thanks for tuning in! I hope you enjoyed today’s episode! If you did, be sure to leave a review (as we’re giving out some awesome prizes to those whose reviews we read on air!) and let me know what resonated the most with you by tagging me on social media and letting me know!   Mentioned in this Episode: Miches, Dominican Republic “Time,” by Pink Floyd   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today’s special episode features a recording from our ‘Trauma Panel’ at our recent IGNTD Glow Event! Trauma is often a huge part of our experiences but we don’t usually want to talk about it — in fact, most of us hide it. But on this panel, you’ll be hearing from three incredible women who are definitely not hiding it! Rachelle Tratt, Aarona Lea, and Brittany Piper tackle this topic of trauma so elegantly and show all of us that healing is not linear; we all do it at our own pace and in our own way — and that’s OK.   I hope you’ll all tune in to hear what these three amazing women have to say as they share their personal struggles with trauma, the tools and methods they’ve used to help themselves overcome it, and what they’re still doing to this day to continue on their journeys!   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD After-GLOW Access — Want to hear more panels from IGNTD Glow? Get your access to more incredible content here! The Moon Deck (Use code PhilosophieMoon for 10% off your order!) IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s special episode! [2:15] Rachelle, Aarona, and Brittany speak about how they got to this place where they’re comfortable talking about their trauma, what their journey has been like, and some of the trauma that they have personally gone through. [12:43] All three women reflect on the link of their traumas. [13:05] Discussing the relation between trauma and epigenetics. [15:33] Rachelle, Aarona, and Brittany discuss how their past traumas affect them in current days and then share some of the methods and tools they’ve used to continue working through it. [25:11] Discussing the importance of connecting to your body in order to reach that place of mindfulness in order to work through your trauma, the difference between ‘affect’ and ‘effect’ regulation, and some of the tools and methods for getting through the hard moments when past trauma comes up for you. [30:12] Rachelle, Aarona, and Brittany speak about the work they do now around healing from trauma, how they found their paths, and how it is all informed by trauma. [43:02] Wrapping up the panel and thanking everyone for sharing pieces of their journeys!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Glow Annual Event Aarona Lea Brittany Piper Rachelle Tratt Kate Van HornBizzie Gold The Moon Deck (Use code PhilosophieMoon for 10% off your order!) The Neshama Project The Choice: Embrace the Possible, by Dr. Edith Eva Eger IGNTD Episode: “Getting Personal: A Conversation With My Sister”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today we’re talking about stress. We all have it… but did you know that chronic stress could be killing you slowly? Always comparing yourself to others and constantly striving for perfection can place a huge amount of stress on you and in-turn, massively impact your health in a negative way.   So, in this episode, I’m going to be shedding some light on the negative impacts of stress in the long-term. I’ll be covering the biological, the psychological, and the social implications of stress; as well as how we can better manage it through setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and finding a healthy balance!   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s topic. [1:06] My life and relationship with stress. [3:35] The impacts of stress I’m going to be covering in today’s episode. [3:47] How your body responds to acute stress vs. chronic stress and the longterm negative impacts of it. How stress affects you biologically. [10:10] The psychological impacts of chronic stress and the importance of self-care. [13:49] The social implications of stress and how we can overcome them. [15:40] How stress has impacted me and my family. [16:48] What made me realize the huge impact stress has on us. [18:22] The key takeaway: if you want to achieve long-term success, you need to reduce stress! [19:56] If you enjoyed today’s episode, screenshot this episode, tag me on social media, and let me know what resonated with you!   Mentioned in this Episode: The Biology of Belief, by Bruce Lipton Alex Charfen   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today I’m going to talk about something kind of personal. And the reason this topic is coming up today because we get this question a ton, and that is: ‘Are you a doctor?’ And it’s sort of a lot more of a convoluted answer than anyone would really expect.   So in this episode, I’m addressing this question! And I hope, once and for all, this clarifies the specifics of how I got to be in this weird little place as Dr. Adi Jaffe — not the M.D. version; the Ph.D. version — who’s not a licensed psychologist, but works with people and coaches them to deal with their relationships, mental health, addictions, and struggles.   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Topics Discussed: [:43] About today’s topic. [4:35] Going back to the beginning of my addiction: how my criminal past affected my education path. [12:32] How my past affected my career path. [22:25] How often this comes up in my life still and why I wanted to do this episode. [26:00] If you like this topic, screenshot this podcast, tag me on social media, and let me know how your specific situation fits into this same mold.   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

I see the same story with families all the time where they’ve spent hundreds of thousands on various addiction treatments and nothing is working. Frankly, these traditional methods are failing us. They just don’t work for most people.   In today’s episode, I’m going to show you and tell you why it is that so many of these traditional solutions fail and I’m going to break it down into three primary elements as to why this is. I also speak about the incredible transformation these families go through after they come to me as a last resort. When they completely change the ideas that they had about the nature of the addiction and how they could help support their loved one in moving forward, all of their lives changed for the better!   If you are a loved one of somebody who is struggling, you are going to want to listen for sure!   IGNTD Specials: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) IGNTD Family SOS Workshop   Topics Discussed: [:35] An introduction to today’s episode. [5:52] The path families are generally led down when a family member has an addiction. [6:54] What this episode is about. [7:09] If you know someone who is struggling with addiction, please send this to their family! [7:30] The first of the three primary elements that I’m breaking this episode down by — addiction is not what you’ve been told it is. [9:20] The second element — the moral concept. The idea that addicts are bad, liars, narcissistic, and that their brains are damaged so, therefore, they can’t make morally justified decisions. [12:32] An important piece to the moral concept — spirituality and the fact that addiction is never one thing. There are four factors that play into it: biology, psychology, environmental, and spirituality. [14:16] The last element — telling somebody that they’re broken and defective and then expecting them to get better. [16:30] Why your loved one ended up where they are and why they are not broken. [17:09] A study that helps illustrate these concepts. [19:00] Sharing a couple of the families’ stories that I’ve worked with and explaining how we can help people change and not force them. [24:35] Why non-traditional methods worked for me and these families. [25:55] About my upcoming workshop: IGNTD Family SOS Workshop. [26:31] The #1 takeaway from this week’s episode!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Ep: “Getting Personal: A Conversation With My Sister”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com  

We are so proud and excited to bring you Kate Seselja today! We met Kate about eight months ago and she has become one of the first IGNTD Recovery Coaches.   When we first started IGNTD, Adi was the only one doing all the work with clients. And in this space of addiction and mental health, it can be really hard to find like-minded individuals who are not closed-off, who are not going to shame and judge people ahead of time — and Kate is absolutely one of these people! And in today’s episode, you’re going to hear exactly why when she tells you her story of how she got here.   You’ve already learned a lot about Adi on this channel, so I’m excited for you to also get to know the people behind the message that will be working with us to support this IGNTD movement. Kate’s story is not at all like mine so I hope you’ll all tune in to hear about her incredible story of success and recovery from her gambling addiction! IGNTD Offerings this Month: 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge Family SOS Workshop (for loved ones of those struggling with addiction)   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s special episode with our new IGNTD coach, Kate Seselja. [3:17] Welcoming Kate to the podcast! [3:50] How Kate came to this world of helping others through her own experience with her gambling addiction. [6:15] How gambling looks different in Australia than it does in the United States. [7:54] What started Kate’s addiction around gambling. [10:14] How Kate’s gambling addiction took shape and what pushed it to the extremes. [15:00] Kate’s experience with coming clean to her husband about her gambling addiction. [19:36] Over the decade of Kate’s addiction, what is happening in her life that kept pulling her back to it? [22:42] Kate speaks about the breaking point of her addiction at age 32. [24:52] What was it about Kate’s husband’s voice that made her feel safe to go back home the day she reached her breaking point? [25:58] What ‘rock bottom’ really means. [27:30] The importance of stepping out of your own pain to notice someone else’s. [28:34] What happened immediately after Kate’s breaking point? [31:58] Kate’s experience with seeing a counselor after her hitting her rock bottom. [34:24] The importance of finding the right fit for you in recovery! [38:15] What it was about this counselor that gave Kate help for recovery. [41:14] How soon after visiting this counselor did Kate’s gambling resolve? [42:52] When did Kate start the Hope Project? What drew her to begin wanting to help other people? [44:48] What have been some of the most rewarding work Kate has done in the last 4-5 years? And where has she found a magical translation between her life earlier on and the work she does now? [49:17] How does Kate see the next 1–2 years of this helping journey she’s on? [50:48] Thanking Kate for joining the podcast!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Kate’s Website: TheHopeProjectNow.com Instagram: @The.Hope.Project   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today I’m here to give you a download of our recent IGNTD GLOW Annual Event that was held from October 18th-20th! The event was incredible and ended up being a truly magical weekend. We had so many special guests that have been on the podcast with us — Shaman Durek, Alexandra Roxo, Bizzie Gold, Rachelle Tratt, and so many more.   One of the most incredible parts about the weekend, however, was the many people that came up to us and shared the incredible transformations that they went through and the lessons that they learned. People even told us that they had better conversations than they’ve had in years on the drive home from the event!   So, in today’s episode, I really want to share with you some of the key points from my talks at the IGNTD GLOW Annual Event, the lessons that were shared with us, and the lessons I then learned in-turn. I hope you’ll join me!   Topics Discussed: [:41] About today’s episode. [1:45] I would’ve never, in a million years, believed 20 years ago that I would be leading a transformational weekend for other people… and here’s why. [5:50] What this weekend was a culmination of for me. [6:14] Summarizing a few of the key points from my talks at the IGNTD GLOW Annual Event and what I learned from it. [12:02] The lesson I want to impart to you all today. [14:14] I’d love for you to screenshot this podcast and share with me what it is that you’ve realized, what it is that you’re sharing, and what it is that you’re doing to make the world better.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) IGNTD GLOW Annual Event IGNTD Episode: “Is My Kid a Bully? With Joe Newman”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In today’s episode, I’m bringing you something a little new — a recording from one of our live sessions for our IGNTD VIP members! This particular recording and conversation are focusing on the concept of credibility and what makes us credible by breaking it down into three pieces: where we get our concept of what is credible vs. what isn’t, what happens when we step into that place and the concept of imposter syndrome, and through understanding these pieces, how we can shape the life that you want.   This episode is especially beneficial for anybody who’s been struggling with the problem of not really knowing what they want out of life. These three basic principles — credibility, the imposter syndrome, and the work of creating the life that you want — are key in understanding how to get where you’re trying to go, despite the programming you’ve had earlier on in life.   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s episode. [2:32] The start of the recording from my live session for our IGNTD VIP members. [4:00] Why our chase for credibility is often one of the main reasons why we end up getting to outcomes and figuring out that maybe they weren’t the ones we were going after, after all. [4:52] Where we get our concept of what is credible vs. what isn’t. [8:34] My experience with imposter syndrome and how it relates to our concept of credibility. [11:18] How do we create the life that we want in the face of all these challenges (such as imposter syndrome and our ideas of credibility and what we want are largely influenced by our past?) [13:17] My homework for you: find the life that you want. [16:21] This took me 10 years to figure out! My hope for you is that by just listening to this episode, I’ve created a shortcut for you to get there sooner than I did. If you could share the results you’ve had from this episode, I’d love to hear about it! Screenshot this episode, share your results with me on Instagram, and I’ll reshare them for others to be inspired by you as well.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) IGNTD VIP Membership   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

I was inspired to do today’s episode following a conversation I had with a client of mine — we’ll call him Michael. Michael was telling me this story of what had happened to him just this past week. He and his girlfriend were visiting his mother and they got into a huge fight. As we began to put the story back together, we realized that they always got into arguments leading up to these visits with his mother. As we discovered, a lot of what had to do with these consistent arguments were around the relationship that he currently had with his mother. His mother was actually a trigger for him.   Triggers are all around us and a lot of us have them! So if you’ve ever been weirded out or upset by a conversation you’ve had with your mom, your sister, an ex, or your husband or wife, and you’ve been unsure of why then this episode is for you.   Topics Discussed: [:53] About today’s episode. [1:16] What inspired this episode: a conversation I had with a client. [6:05] Here’s what I want you to take away from today’s episode. [6:27] How we address triggers through our 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge. [7:01] I hope you enjoyed this quick episode! If you did, please be sure to share this with someone you think might need it, screenshot it, tag me on any social media platform, and let me know what you thought!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) IGNTD Glow Event 2019 Instagram @IGNTD.me — We are giving away three tickets! Enter here by following the rules under our latest post! IGNTD 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, relationships and shame. He was a UCLA lecturer in the Psychology department at UCLA for the better part of a decade and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country - until he started IGNTD. Dr. Jaffe's work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about, and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool. Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4 year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi's days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA's top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole. Dr. Jaffe now writes a blog on Psychology Today, and several other online and print sources. His goal is to bring the latest knowledge about addiction to the people who could benefit from it most – those who are suffering because of it. His writing combines personal experience with a decade’s worth of fine-detail research regarding the mechanisms involved in the addictive process.Dr. Adi Jaffe:An out-of-the-box thinker who isn't afraid to challenge the status quo to get results. Dr. Jaffe brings vision, the ability to incorporate information from different fields, leadership, tenacity and the ability to cut through to the truth in every project. He learns quickly and acts decisively and have been privileged to do this with some of the world's best.Check out his new book - www.theabstinencemyth.comHis professional experience is broad and includes:✅ Speaking - TEDx, professional organizations, public associations, keynotes.✅ Organizational management - Consulting with startup on staffing needs, culture and mindset.✅ Professional counseling - Addiction and mental health counseling (group and individual) using CBT, Humanistic principles, Motivational Interviewing and more. Focused on non-judgmental harm-reduction and inclusion.✅ University-level lecturing - UCLA and California State University teaching everything from addiction to neuroscience to research methods and statistics. He brings engagement and fun to every topic he teaches.✅ Coaching - Life, executive and mental health coaching, including for some of the world's biggest names and personalities. I succeed where other coaches fail in driving behavior change and buy-in even from the most resistant and skeptical clients.✅ Writing - Dr. Jaffe has written for CNN.com, Huffington Post, Psychology Today and dozens of other publications and websites. His focus is on challenging the status quo and bringing about change that improves lives.✅ Research and project development - Through graduate school and post-doc work, he learned to always look for data to guide his decision making. Dr. Adi Jaffe's main focus is on using his skills and connections to reduce the shame experienced by millions and increasing the reach of treatment for mental health issues. Through this work, he improves work conditions, life-experience and general well-being. To learn more about Dr. Jaffe, visit https://www.igntdrecovery.com/igntd-recovery-opt-in-fshameTo learn more about Rob Lohman, visit www.TheAddictionRecoveryHub.com

Today, we’re talking about co-dependency. In my field of work, co-dependency shows up a lot. I have this client, whom we’ll call Melissa (though that is not her real name), who was really struggling and by the time she came to me, she was diagnosed with six different clinical diagnoses. And her mom was someone that many would consider overbearing or a co-dependent. Whenever Melissa would come into my clinic to visit me, her mother would bombard her with constant calls, updates, and emails.   But, the thing is, I don’t think Melissa’s mom was ‘a co-dependent’; I think she was acting co-dependently. Whether this is semantic to you or you have been that family member who has been called co-dependent, I highly recommend that you stay tuned in for this one as we dive deeper into what it means to be co-dependent, why these behavioral patterns exist at all, and how we can help others to overcome and move past this co-dependent behaviors and mindset.   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s topic: co-dependency, and a story about a client of mine. [2:35] More about this term, ‘co-dependent.’ [3:22] My perspective on Melissa’s ‘co-dependent’ mom. [3:51] The three components I’m going to break down in this episode (on co-dependency): what does it even mean to say somebody is co-dependent? Why do these behavioral patterns exist? And how do we help others overcome and get past these co-dependent behaviors? [4:10] How co-dependency is defined and how it first came about. [9:40] Why do these co-dependency behavioral patterns exist? [13:24] How we “cured” Melissa’s mom of her co-dependent behaviors, and why it is incredibly important that we keep it sub-clinical rather than a full-on, clinical disorder. [15:55] How do we measure dysfunction in a couple or a pair of people where this co-dependent pattern of behavior works well for them? [17:04] In Melissa’s and her mother’s story, did co-dependency actually end up serving them? [18:49] What is important to know if you’re struggling or you know someone who is struggling. [20:10] If this was helpful for you or somebody you know, take a screenshot of this podcast, share it on social media, tag me, and let me know how it resonated for you!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

As recovery month is coming to a close, I wanted to focus this episode around the theme and topic of my upcoming workshop, “Are You Really an Alcoholic? And What to do About It” and give those of you who are interested or thinking about joining, a small glimpse into the kind of conversation we’re going to be having.   We’ll be taking a look at the origin of the terms ‘alcoholic’ and ‘addict,’ how the power of belief changes the way you think (and how others around you think about you) from the definitions of these terms, what happens when we stick to the existing beliefs around these labels and ignore our individual differences, and of course, how we can begin to break free from these labels and find our own path to recovery.   Topics Discussed: [:46] About my upcoming workshop, “Are You Really an Alcoholic? And What to do About It” [1:30] Why I decided to do this workshop (and episode). [4:22] Where do the terms ‘alcoholic’ and ‘addict’ even come from? [8:35] The profound impact that comes from the power of belief. [13:08] How the power of belief changes the way you think with definitions such as ‘alcoholic’ and ‘addict.’ [13:27] What happens when we stick to existing beliefs and ignore our individual differences. [15:48] How we can begin to break free from these labels and find our own path to recovery. [19:11] How to know if this workshop might be for you!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery Month Promotions: [ALL MONTH LONG]: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program Scholarships Application We are giving away 10 scholarships to our “Nohab” Reset Program that gives you full-year access to the course that will help you discover your path to true success, identify your subconscious barriers, and reset your subconscious scripts. With this program, you also get our Complete Support Package that includes our happy hour live video chats with Dr. Jaffe and other recovery coaches, a call with your own private Accountability Coach, two-week email support and motivation, and one-month private group membership and support. PLUS additional expert sessions to master your beliefs with Bruce Lipton & Shaman Durek. *Deadline to apply is September 30th, so please apply soon! Week of Sept. 9th: 21-Day Challenge Lifetime Access for $97! We are providing a Recovery Month discount to our Lifetime Access of our 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge. This Challenge has helped so many people take back control of their lives by banishing bad habits and actions that have been holding them back for months, years, and in some cases, even decades. Hundreds of people have done our Challenge live and dozens have enjoyed the lifetime access feature. With lifetime access, you not only get the full three weeks of video coaching content from Dr. Jaffe, but you also continue to get new expert sessions each time we host a new live challenge! Experts include Seth Mattison, Chris Harder, Alex Charfen, Sophie Jaffe, Robyn Youkilis, Shaman Durek, and LaRayia Gaston. This is the lowest cost offer we have for this product, so we hope you take advantage. This offer will only be valid through midnight on Sunday, September 15th. Week of Sept. 16th: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program for only $147 (50% off) We are so excited to provide you with a 50% discount for Recovery Month discount to our new IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program! This is the lowest price we’ve ever offered this program. This program is a great introduction to our full IGNTD Hero Program and there’s always an option to upgrade to get more amazing modules! This includes the IGNTD Recovery MasterClass Intro, a week of “Happy Hour” Live Group Sessions, a call with your own private Accountability Coach, two-week email support & motivation, and one-month private group membership & support. Plus, you'll get bonus workshops from our expert vault including Shaman Durek and Bruce Lipton, Ph.D. *This offer is pretty incredible and at $147, we are basically giving it away! Hope you take advantage of this great deal. [NEW THIS WEEK] Week of Sept. 23rd: Are You Really an Alcoholic? Workshop on sale for $47 Dr. Jaffe is hosting a live workshop: Are You Really an Alcoholic? on Sunday, September 29th at 12 p.m. Pacific / 3 p.m. Eastern. Tune in to this LIVE workshop to learn what it really means to be an alcoholic. Get all your questions surrounding alcoholism answered and get an extra special gift from IGNTD too! Click here to sign up for the workshop! IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Adi Jaffe’s TEDx Talk: “The True Struggles of Transformation” Adi Jaffe’s TEDx Talk: “Rebranding Our Shame” The Pygmalion Effect Confirmation Bias Stereotype Threat IGNTD Ep: “Redefining Life After Recovery with Juju Hook” (Episode with Julia) A few episodes where I share my story: “The ‘Why’ Behind IGNTD Recovery” “Getting Personal: A Conversation With My Sister” “Going Deep: Our Story”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today I’m here to talk with you all about what recovery really looks like when you do it well. If you’ve been listening to the podcast long enough, you all know my stance on recovery and that it’s is not really about abstaining, but instead about creating a different reality for yourself and changing the circumstances of your life. But what does it look like to recover? And to do it well?   Today I’m going to be presenting the topic of what recover looks like and how to improve your life through the lens of what it is that we did to create the IGNTD Glow Event. This event will help not only those in recovery but anyone in their life journey, in figuring out how to become a better person and continuously improve upon yourself. We found, through setting up this event, that these four major categories are the most critical in allowing people to be their best selves: movement, mindfulness, inspiration, and education. Through these four areas, you can become more than you are right now.   Tune in to this episode to learn more about what real recovery looks like, about this transformational event, and what you can do to better yourself with a supportive community!   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s episode. [3:00] How I’ll be presenting these topics today: through the lens of our upcoming event, the IGNTD Glow event! [3:30] The four major categories in the IGNTD Glow Event: movement, mindfulness, inspiration, and education. [5:12] What the IGNTD Glow Event is going to accomplish. [8:55] The vast array of incredibly important topics that will be covered at the Glow Event. [11:41] Why the Glow Event will be transformational in your life. [12:09] An example from a client I work with. [13:55] How TRUE recovery happens and why the IGNTD Glow Event is the perfect scenario to allow for true recovery. [14:58] Where to learn more about the IGNTD Glow Event and buy your tickets online!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery Month Promotions: [ALL MONTH LONG]: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program Scholarships Application We are giving away 10 scholarships to our “Nohab” Reset Program that gives you full-year access to the course that will help you discover your path to true success, identify your subconscious barriers, and reset your subconscious scripts. With this program, you also get our Complete Support Package that includes our happy hour live video chats with Dr. Jaffe and other recovery coaches, a call with your own private Accountability Coach, two-week email support and motivation, and one-month private group membership and support. PLUS additional expert sessions to master your beliefs with Bruce Lipton & Shaman Durek. *Deadline to apply is September 30th, so please apply soon! Week of Sept. 9th: 21-Day Challenge Lifetime Access for $97! We are providing a Recovery Month discount to our Lifetime Access of our 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge. This Challenge has helped so many people take back control of their lives by banishing bad habits and actions that have been holding them back for months, years, and in some cases, even decades. Hundreds of people have done our Challenge live and dozens have enjoyed the lifetime access feature. With lifetime access, you not only get the full three weeks of video coaching content from Dr. Jaffe, but you also continue to get new expert sessions each time we host a new live challenge! Experts include Seth Mattison, Chris Harder, Alex Charfen, Sophie Jaffe, Robyn Youkilis, Shaman Durek and LaRayia Gaston. This is the lowest cost offer we have for this product, so we hope you take advantage. This offer will only be valid through midnight on Sunday, September 15th. [NEW THIS WEEK] Week of Sept. 16th: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program for only $147 (50% off) We are so excited to provide you with a 50% discount for Recovery Month discount to our new IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program! This is the lowest price we’ve ever offered this program. This program is a great introduction to our full IGNTD Hero Program and there’s always an option to upgrade to get more amazing modules! This includes the IGNTD Recovery MasterClass Intro, a week of “Happy Hour” Live Group Sessions, a call with your own private Accountability Coach, 2-week email support & motivation, and 1-month private group membership & support. Plus, you'll get bonus workshops from our expert vault including Shaman Durek and Bruce Lipton, Ph.D. *This offer is pretty incredible and at $147, we are basically giving it away! Hope you take advantage of this great deal. Week of Sept. 23rd: Are You Really an Alcoholic? Workshop on sale for $10 IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) National Recovery Month The IGNTD Glow Event (2019) Shaman Durek Alexandra Roxo Koya WebbDeepak ChopraBizzie Gold Almost 30 Podcast Kate Van Horn Brittany Piper The Neshama Project (Rachelle Tratt)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

This week I’m here for a really simple — yet, important — topic. This is something that I deal with, with many of my clients — and that is, making the decision to focus on the positive.   When I was at my lowest point, I considered myself a realist. I was proud of the fact that I saw things exactly as they were. And for me, at the time, that meant a pretty strong existential crisis. My whole world was focused on these dark topics with depressing themes, which I considered at the time to be a very realistic way to view the world.   Here’s the thing: I now know that what I considered a realistic and objective view of the world was not necessarily A) as valuable as I thought it was, and B) as honest and objective as I thought it was. So that’s what I really want to talk about with you all today: making the decision of where you put your focus on. Life will always have both positive and negative aspects, so where you put your focus makes all the difference.   Topics Discussed: [:01] About upcoming IGNTD events and offerings for September’s recovery month! [1:10] About this week’s episode. [1:48] My past struggle with being a ‘realist’; not focusing on the positive. [3:55] Here’s the thing: my past view of the world was not as realistic as I thought it was. [4:18] The problem with our search for objectivity and truth. [9:50] An important exercise for you all to begin focusing on the positives. [10:40] Life has both aspects: the positives and the negatives. Here’s what we have to get good at: making the decision to focus on the positive. [11:38] Here’s what happens when you begin working on this exercise. [12:01] The qualities of a person who focuses on the positive. [12:39] My question for you: what is it you want? Do you want to be right? Or do you want to be happy? [13:31] How focusing on the positive has helped me in my own life.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery Month Promotions: [ALL MONTH LONG]: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program Scholarships Application We are giving away 10 scholarships to our “Nohab” Reset Program that gives you full-year access to the course that will help you discover your path to true success, identify your subconscious barriers, and reset your subconscious scripts. With this program, you also get our Complete Support Package that includes our happy hour live video chats with Dr. Jaffe and other recovery coaches, a call with your own private Accountability Coach, two-week email support and motivation, and one-month private group membership and support. PLUS additional expert sessions to master your beliefs with Bruce Lipton & Shaman Durek. *Deadline to apply is September 30th, so please apply soon! [NEW THIS WEEK] Week of Sept. 9th: 21-Day Challenge Lifetime Access for $97! We are providing a Recovery Month discount to our Lifetime Access of our 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge. This Challenge has helped so many people take back control of their lives by banishing bad habits and actions that have been holding them back for months, years, and in some cases - even decades. Hundreds of people have done our Challenge live and dozens have enjoyed the lifetime access feature. With lifetime access, you not only get the full 3 weeks of video coaching content from Dr. Jaffe, but you also continue to get new expert sessions each time we host a new live challenge! Experts include Seth Mattison, Chris Harder, Alex Charfen, Sophie Jaffe, Robyn Youkilis, Shaman Durek and LaRayia Gaston.This is the lowest cost offer we have for this product, so we hope you take advantage. This offer will only be valid through midnight on Sunday, September 15th. Week of Sept. 16th: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program for only $147 (50% off) Week of Sept. 23rd: Are You Really an Alcoholic? Workshop on sale for $10 IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) National Recovery Month Nine Inch Nails   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

With this month’s theme being recovery — and not just in the IGNTD space, but nationally — I thought it would be the perfect time to continue the conversation about recovery and what it means to recover.   The official government definition of recovery reads, “A process of change through which individuals improve their health and wellness, live a self-directed life, and strive to reach their full potential.” And what I think is so critically important with this definition is that it does not mention abstinence at all. For a lot of people, recovery tends to be synonymous with abstinence and 100% sobriety, when it really should be the process of simply improving your life.   It is really incredibly powerful what can happen when someone enters recovery, so this week, I’m going to talk about three ways that I see recovery as being very different from this stereotypical ‘abstinence definition’ many people assign to it. I hope you’ll join me in increasing awareness around the stigma of mental health and substance use!   IGNTD Recovery Month Promotions: Week of September 2: IGNTD Hero “Nohab” Reset Program Scholarship Application (bit.ly/IGNTDScholarship) This week we launched a scholarship application with a deadline of September 30th. That’s right - we are giving away 10 scholarships to our “Nohab” Reset Program that gives you full-year access to the course that will help you discover your path to true success, identify your subconscious barriers, and reset your subconscious scripts. With this program, you also get our Complete Support Package that includes our happy hour live video chats with Dr. Jaffe and other recovery coaches, a call with your own private Accountability Coach, two-week email support and motivation, and one-month private group membership and support. PLUS additional expert sessions to master your beliefs with Bruce Lipton & Shaman Durek. Week of September 9: 21-Day Challenge Lifetime Access for $97! Week of September 16: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program for only $147 (50% off) Week of September 23: Are You Really an Alcoholic? Workshop on sale for $10   Topics Discussed: [:40] About the National Recovery Month. [2:54] My stance on recovery. [3:18] A recent experience I had on a recovery podcast who did not share my same stance with. [5:23] SAMHSA’s official definition of recovery. [7:05] What I’m going to be covering today: the three areas in our life that recovery center around (physical, mental, and emotional). [8:11] Starting with the physical aspect of recovery, I speak about what my health was like physically during peak addiction and how it has changed in recovery. [12:11] A story of a woman I saw when I first had my old treatment center and how she changed, physically, in recovery. [13:55] The mental shifts people experience in recovery and my own personal experience with how my mind and perspective changed. [17:12] The mental improvement someone in our IGNTD Recovery program made. [18:50] The emotional aspect of recovery and what I experienced in my own journey. [21:07] An example of the emotional aspect of recovery from a client I worked with. [23:09] Summarizing my key points about the three aspects of recovery. [24:09] What to look forward to in the IGNTD world — including discounted workshops and a giveaway! [25:45] Screenshot this episode, tag me, and be sure to tag anybody you know who’s struggling!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) National Recovery Month Picture from my Instagram from when I was in my 20s, peak addiction Have You Filled a Bucket Today?, by Carol McCloud and David Messing IGNTD Episode: “Getting Personal: A Conversation with my Sister”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Continuing with the ‘framily’ theme we’ve had going with this month, I’m going to talk about the way that ‘it’ applies to recovery and mental health struggles.   None of the stuff I was able to do would’ve been possible at all without the support of my family; I wouldn’t be where I am right now. My parents supported me in my arrest, helped pay for my lawyer, supported me during the trial, came to see me in jail, helped me financially after I got out of jail, and then helped pay for my schooling. Through that support, I was able to get where I am today. They seriously had my back through those years.   Family support, all-in-all, is a hugely important factor in recovering and I think it’s underappreciated. So today, I’m going to break down why family (and ‘framily’) is such an important piece to the recovery equation by taking a look at the three factors that I think it affects the most: biology, psychology, and environment.   Topics Discussed: [:41] About today’s episode. [4:30] The importance of ‘framily’ support in recovery and why it really matters. [5:16] Breaking down ‘framily,’ starting by taking a look at how it affects biology. [10:18] Breaking down the second piece that ‘framily’ affects the most: psychology. [14:57] Why the environment you grew up in matters; breaking down the third factor that ‘framily’ affects the most. [17:59] Why this topic is particularly important with regard to recovery. [19:05] Here’s the great thing about all this: we get to make a choice about changing these things, and this is what we can do to change it. [20:40] Please share this episode with somebody that you know is struggling and needs to understand why that’s happening.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Robert Cialdini   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today is a bit of a special episode; we have a guest joining us! Sherry Gaba is a Holistic Psychotherapist and Life Coach. One of Sherry’s specialties is working with couples and relationships that are struggling around sex addiction. She was even on Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew! She is truly a groundbreaker when it comes to her take on the law of attraction in the context of addiction. She has also written a couple of books and has really been challenging the way people think about addiction.   In today’s conversation, you’ll hear a fascinating conversation between Sherry and I on the topics of sex and love addiction, toxic masculinity, her take on the current recovery movement, as well as her tips on how to get started on the road to recovery. And while Sherry and I don’t agree on every side of the recovery equation, I think it’s really important to share different perspectives with you on the podcast and highlight other experts’ take on recovery and mental health.   So today, please take a seat back, open up your mind, and listen in to what Sherry has to bring to the equation. We had a super interesting conversation and I’m excited for you all to tune in and learn about Sherry’s perspective on mental health, addiction, and recovery!   Topics Discussed: [:35] About today’s interview with Sherry Gaba. [2:13] Take a screenshot, tag Sherry and me, and let us know what really resonated with you, and I’ll share it on my page. [2:32] Welcoming Sherry to the podcast! [3:10] Recounting my sex addiction story to Sherry. [8:00] Sherry gives her take on the sex addiction piece of our story. [9:48] Discussing my experiences with toxic masculinity and sex education early on in life. [14:17] The dangerous intersection where toxic masculinity and drug/sex addiction meet. [19:29] Does Sherry find that those currently struggling with addiction often have a past of early trauma to intimacy, relationships, and sex? [23:50] Sherry tells us about her books, The Marriage Junkie and The Law of Sobriety, and the main principles that they teach. [27:38] Sherry’s thoughts on the idea of admitting you are powerless in the current recovery movement. [38:55] Sherry speaks about the goal of love addiction. [41:19] Sherry gives her tips on how she helps people become grounded and on the road to recovery. [44:20] Does Sherry find that technology has made connection and recovery harder? [46:37] What can people do to connect back to their body to become more intuitive and present in their everyday lives? [48:08] Where to find out more about Sherry Gaba online!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Save Your Marriage Elite Circle IGNTD VIP Membership Sherry Gaba The Marriage Junkie, by Sherry Gaba The Law of Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery, by Sherry Gaba IGNTD Episode: “The Biology of Belief: The Intersection of Consciousness and Matter with Bruce Lipton” Somatic Experiencing Principles by Peter Levine Wake Up Recovery (Sherry Gaba’s Community)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today we’re going through clearing space. Right now, in the IGNTD household, we’re super busy with being in the process of buying our first house. As exciting as it is, I had no idea what kinds of challenges it would bring along! And here’s the thing about life: we’re constantly recycling and re-figuring out what we have to do to keep our head up above the water. So today, I want to talk with you about how to clear out space in your life! Because, if you make the tough decisions and clear out the things in your life that are causing the most stress, pressure, and noise in your life, you will be making space for new, incredible opportunities.   Topics Discussed: [:43] What we’re currently up to at the IGNTD household! [2:27] What I’m going to break down for you today. [4:25] What happens when you first clear out your space. [7:14] How we cleared out space recently. [9:00] Why you haven’t had the time to clear out your space, how to make the time, and the benefits I have received from clearing my space. [11:00] Why clearing your space is so valuable. [12:05] My question for you: How much of what’s going on in your life is happening because you’re not clearing your space? [12:51] My exercise for you: Write down all of the things that are creating the most stress, pressure, and noise in your life right now. When you’re done with that list, you have your mission. Figure out how much you can clear and how much space you can create so you can grow in your life and get to a new and better place! [13:38] If you liked this episode, screenshot this podcast, tag me, and let me know what most resonated with you!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Save Your Marriage Elite Circle IGNTD VIP Membership IGNTD Episode: “Going Deep: Our Story”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In this episode, we’re talking all about self-doubt. For most of my life, I’ve been saddled with self-doubt. There was always this voice in the back of my head making sure I knew I wasn’t enough in whatever I was doing. For years, it played as constant noise in the background of my life.   But, over the past 15 years or so, I’ve made an incredible realization: you shouldn’t actually be running away from this voice at all. And in order to enjoy your life to the fullest, you have to respect and acknowledge this voice — or as some people call it, ‘your shadow.’   So today, we’ll be looking at what the concept of ‘shadow’ is, what light is, and how I use shadow to have more light.   Topics Discussed: [:44] About today’s topic of discussion. [3:07] What is the shadow? [7:22] What light is and why we have trouble sharing it with others. [8:59] What I propose: let’s use our shadow to ignite our light. [10:18] What I learned about shadows and light. [13:04] Why you should not hide your shadow and instead use your shadow to fuel your light. [15:29] What life is like being able to live with your shadow and light in harmony. [16:24] What will happen for you when you start going through this process yourself. [17:03] Please screenshot this podcast and let us what connected with you the most (this is part of sharing your shadow!) [17:20] About upcoming IGNTD courses and programs.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Save Your Marriage Elite Circle IGNTD VIP Membership   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today we’re continuing the conversation about toxic masculinity from a few weeks back with the episode, “Changing Our Perspective of Masculinity.” Everybody looks for the most obvious examples of toxic masculinity — such as the Harvey Weinsteins, the Donald Trumps, and the Jeffrey Epsteins of the world. But I see toxic masculinity as a manifestation of a much deeper issue. And today I’m going to dig into it by revisiting what we discussed last time (the typical male roles as we define them by our culture); what happens to the 95% of men who just don’t match up to those ideals; and lastly, what the consequences are when you don’t match up to these ideals.   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s episode. [:55] Reflecting on masculinity in junior high. [4:02] What I’m going to be covering in today’s episode regarding toxic masculinity. [4:49] What is the ideal male role? And what are the damaging consequences of trying to fit (or actively not fit) into the “ideal” male role? [14:40] Summarizing the key lessons of today’s episode. [15:40] Using Harvey Weinstein as an example of what it means to try and fit into this “ideal” male role. [17:50] So where is the guy now that was the alpha male in junior high? [19:08] The major takeaway of today’s episode on toxic masculinity. [20:03] If this episode resonated with you, share it around, tag us, and let us know what you think!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) IGNTD Recovery Secrets Episode: “Changing Our Perspective of Masculinity” Harvey Weinstein Jeffrey Epstein   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

I had a pretty good childhood — my parents stayed together, we went on a lot of family vacations, and we had birthday celebrations. But, it was also not entirely perfect — my parents fought a lot when I was younger, my dad was almost always gone, and there was cheating. And now, as a parent, I worry about the sort of impression I’m leaving on my own children and how it may affect them in the future. How do I make sure that when my kids look back on their childhood, they have memories that make them feel good, happy, and secure even in the face of future challenges?   So, today we’re going to be taking a look at this question from a few different angles: your everyday life, how to do it when your kids are challenging, and how to do it when you make mistakes. And be sure to tune into this episode even if you don’t have kids — these concepts apply to all relationships!   Topics Discussed: [:42] Reflecting on the good and the bad aspects of my childhood and how it affects me today. [4:07] How do we, as parents, make sure that when our kids look back on their childhood, they have memories that make them feel good, happy, and secure even in the face of the many challenges they will face? [6:06] The three aspects we should consider when we think about how to accomplish this goal: your everyday life, how to do it when your kids are challenging, and how to do it when you make mistakes. [6:51] How everyday life and day-to-day activities play a huge role in your child’s lasting memory of you as well as to reinforce what your relationship will be like in the future. [11:15] What should you do when your child acts out or the relationship becomes challenging? [16:13] What to do when you make mistakes in the relationship with your children? [19:09] So, in summary, how do I create a childhood for my kids that they’re going to remember as being good? [20:38] The most important takeaway from today’s episode: We all can get a little too wrapped up in our own lives to realize the impact that our actions have on other people. So what I want you to do today is to take a moment to consider the potential future implications of some of your own actions and behavior patterns. [22:00] Share this podcast with anybody you know for whom this might be useful. Also, be sure to screenshot this podcast and tag me on any social media to let me know what resonated with you the most. [22:22] About Sophie and my upcoming IGNTD events and workshops.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) “A Look in the Mirror Neuron: Empathy and Addiction,” by Adi Jaffe Ph.D. (Article on Psychology Today) Save Your Marriage Elite Circle   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today I’m here to talk about a topic that came out of a client session I had about a year ago. In this session, my client was really struggling about what to do next. He was faced with the knowledge that as he continued doing the work he needed to do, he further understood the gap in his knowledge. Think of the Aristotle quote: “The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.” For some people, this concept can be really scary! I believe that this fear actually stems from another common saying that goes: “Ignorance is bliss.” The idea is that if you don’t know what you don’t know, you will be happy. But I think that that is completely backward. To me, the idea that knowledge is a bottomless pit represents ultimate freedom in life! So, what I want to do today is to present three points to you about the way this concept relates to life, how it relates to mental health and recovery, and the way it relates to the relationships that you have — and ultimately, explain why ignorance is NOT bliss.   Topics Discussed: [:40] About today’s episode. [4:54] How this concept relates to life. [7:30] Where we tend to develop a fear of knowledge, supported by the phrase, “Ignorance is bliss.” [7:50] Why ignorance is NOT bliss. [10:48] How this concept relates to mental health and recovery. [13:35] How this concept relates to our relationships in life. [15:36] How radical transparency can fix everything (with regards to this relationship portion). [16:30] Summarizing the key takeaways for this week’s episode. [20:38] Be sure to screenshot this podcast, DM me or share it on social media, and let me know what resonated the most with you in this episode! We also would appreciate a 5-star review on iTunes (and we might even read it on Wednesday’s episode)!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) “The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.” — Aristotle (Quote) Dunning-Kruger Effect “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” — Rumi (Quote) “Rebranding our shame | Adi Jaffe | TEDxUCLA” Video Save Your Marriage Elite Circle   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Buckle up because we’ve got a serious topic to cover today. Today we’ll be talking all about this concept of connection vs. isolation. They’re these two different sides to this battle we fight in how we deal with our problems, how we treat others, and what our relationships end up being like.   When I was younger I was extremely jaded. I felt like almost nothing in the world mattered -- period. I felt like everything was always going to get screwed up, nothing was ever going to work out, and therefore there was no purpose to any of it. This was such an isolated way of looking at the world. And I wasn’t the only one who thought this way. Many of us tend to think that isolating is an easier solution. But the problem is this: when we all isolate, we all suffer. And because we’re all isolated, we’re all constantly wearing these masks so that other people think we’re okay. But the good news is that there’s a flip-side to all of this: we can find connection through practicing radical transparency. And in this episode, I’ll be walking you through my own journey with this, how you can begin approaching this transition in your life, and what to expect. Join me in challenging your beliefs and in taking this next step in nurturing yourself and your relationships!   Topics Discussed: [:40] About today’s episode — connection vs. isolation — and my own experience with it. [7:16] The problem with isolation. [12:12] The flip-side of isolation: connection through practicing radical transparency. [16:00] What to look forward to on the other side of being radically transparent. [18:00] What I traded my isolation in for — a completely open, communicative, and interdependent way of living where I’m part of a community. [20:22] My challenge for you all this week. Ask yourself these questions and take action: In what areas of your life are you not being the most honest and transparent that you could be? And how is that affecting you? What if you started allowing more transparency into your life? And how can you get closer to radical transparency in every area of your life? [21:28] About Sophie’s and my newest 6-month program for couples: the Save Your Marriage Elite Circle. [24:33] Screenshot this podcast, DM me or share it on social media, and let me know what resonated the most with you, this episode!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Freud’s Theory of the Id in Psychology Save Your Marriage Elite Circle   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today we’re talking all about travel! Sophie and I just recently came back from a really long family vacation to Israel, which we do once a year, every year. What was unique about this trip, though, was that it was actually the longest trip we’ve ever taken together as a family! And it was completely amazing.   So in this episode, I really want to speak with you all about the value of travel. Yes, it can be expensive, but it is also incredibly valuable. In fact, it can provide you with the three things we all want most in life: joy, connection, and impact. And being able to travel with your family — if done with the right intention and thought — can actually provide these fairly easily. Tune in to find how travel delivers joy, connection, and impact; and how to get the most out of it all!   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s episode on travel. [2:32] The value of travel and what it can potentially deliver to you. [2:55] How travel delivers joy and how to get the most out of it! [7:50] How travel delivers connection and how to nurture that. [10:24] How traveling literally expands your mind! [11:40] Summarizing why travel is the cure-all for getting unstuck, finding joy, nurturing connections, and creating impact. [13:08] My number one takeaway and challenge to you all: come up with a plan for you and your partner and then post it online and tag me so we can all see what your next adventure holds!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) IGNTD Ep: “Going Deep: Our Story of Infidelity, Sex Addiction, Trust, and Love”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

Today we’re talking about a really controversial topic, and that is the twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. I was in AA for three years and the first step is to ‘admit that we were powerless over alcohol — that our lives had become unmanageable.’ This mantra made me doubt and second guess other things in my life. It became this constant noise in the background.   So today I want to talk to you about why I don’t actually believe that anyone is powerless and believing that you’re powerless can actually screw up any real successful attempt at change.   Topics Discussed: [:51] About today’s episode. [1:10] My experience with ‘connecting’ to the twelve steps of AA and admitting I was powerless. [4:04] My mission with today’s episode: why nobody is powerless. [4:32] The meaning behind what “powerlessness” is and why it is such a troubling concept for anyone trying to recover! [11:54] What we’re really saying as helpers if we make those seeking help to proclaim they’re powerless. [12:16] The problem with making someone believe they’re powerless and why it ultimately doesn’t help them get better! [13:12] We are not powerless! Why being empowered and acknowledging our strengths and limitations help us confront the issues that really matter. [17:24] If you know somebody who’s struggling with this or you are struggling yourself, how are you going to exert your power? How are you going to take back control? What are you going to do in your life to start claiming back the right to live the life you want? [18:08] Screenshot this episode, tag me on any social media platform, and let me know what resonated with you!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) Rebranding our shame | Adi Jaffe | TEDxUCLA (Video) The true struggles of transformation | Adi Jaffe | TEDxHuntsville (Video)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook —  or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

In today’s episode, I’m speaking with someone about their experience in the IGNTD Hero Recovery program and their entire journey leading up to it. Richard’s experience is common to many people but it also has many unique facets, so I’m excited for you all to listen in and hear his journey.   Richard’s struggles originate around drugs and alcohol, and like so many people, have to do with fitting in. Part of that is because Richard identifies as gay and is now discovering — like many of us — that we don’t have to fit into this “ideal” image of masculinity that we were all told to identify with growing up. This image of masculinity we were taught can be very problematic; it can affect your self-esteem, your anxiety, your stress, and your ability to fit in with others. Richard found himself in this position and by the time he came to us he had tried many other rehabs and methods of recovery, but nothing quite clicked.   So today I want you to sit back and listen to Richard’s story and really pay attention to what happens when someone feels like they’re being rejected and shamed. And in the context of everything that we talk about here, what can we do to help people like Richard feel more accepted? Feel like they belong? Feel like less traumatized and less rejected? Because I think if we can do that across society, we’ll start seeing that a lot of these mental health and addiction struggles that we’ve been fighting against for so long will start disappearing.   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s episode. [2:48] Richard speaks about his entire journey prior to finding IGNTD. [8:55] When did Richard discover alcohol and drugs as a method of coping? [17:25] Richard continues his story at the age of 27 when he began to get deeper into the world of drugs. [21:04] Richard’s journey into seeking help and his experience in various treatments. [28:48] The cycle Richard found himself in when seeking and going through treatments. [30:11] How did Richard discover IGNTD? [38:20] Richard’s experience with the IGNTD Hero Recovery program. [40:14] Richard describes the concepts that were powerful for him in the program and what it felt like to work through some of the core negative beliefs that he had. [42:27] How we worked through Richard’s belief that he was going to repeat the cycle of not making it past 2-3 months of recovery. [53:22] Thanking Richard for sharing his incredible story on this podcast. [54:06] What is the power of the IGNTD Hero program? How has it benefited Richard? [57:02] Has Richard talked to his parents since being in this new phase of life? [59:04] If this episode resonated for you be sure to share it with others who may benefit from it! And if you have any suggestions for topics around mental health, living your best life, or beating addiction you can send those to Info@IGNTD.com.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) Brené Brown   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com