Podcasts about nurturing boys

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. See David Thomas, Sissy Goff, and Arlene Pellicane live at the Parents Rising Conference on September 6, 2025 in San Diego. Tickets on sale now http://parentsrisingconference.com/ What would happen if your child could trade insecurity for bravery, and giving up for resilience? Counselors and bestselling authors David Thomas and Sissy Goff can help you raise confident, worry free kids. Drawing from their vast experience at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, David and Sissy know how to help kids and parents deal with anxiety and worry. They have written two new children's books, Lucy Learns to Be Brave and Owen Learns He Has What it Takes. On today's episode, you'll learn: 5:25 Your dog could be more than a pet! 7:45 How to tell if your child is flourishing 14:36 Modeling emotions to your child 20:50 Are we giving anxiety too much attention? 24:53 Reversing the negative effects of COVID in our teenagers 31:00 What to do if your child won't leave their room David Thomas is the director of family counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville. His books include Raising Emotionally Strong Boys and Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys. He and Sissy host the popular Raising Boys and Girls podcast. Sissy Goff is the director of child and adolescent counseling at Daystar. Her books include Raising Worry-Free Girls and The Worry-Free Parent. Learn more about David Thomas and Sissy Goff and their new children's books, Lucy Learns to Be Brave and Owen Learns He Has What it Takes at Raising Boys and Girls https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/ Tickets on sale now! You're invited to see David, Sissy, and Arlene at the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, September 6, 2025 https://parentsrisingconference.com/ Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! Email speaking @ arlenepellicane.com Purchase the Storyteller's Bible HERE.

In this episode, we tackle the challenges of raising boys in a world filled with misinformation and distorted understandings about gender.We have the pleasure of speaking with Tom Golden, a renowned therapist and author with over 30 years of experience in men's emotional health. Tom shares his expertise on how boys process emotions differently than girls, highlighting the importance of "shoulder to shoulder" activities for better communication and emotional bonding.We'll discuss how mothers can recognize when their sons are struggling, common misconceptions about boys' emotional expressions, and practical strategies for helping boys manage stress and trauma. Tom also explains the concept of "healing through action" and how cultural norms about masculinity can impact boys' ways of coping. Get full access to Psychobabble at hannahspier.substack.com/subscribe

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Dr. Dan and pediatrician (and mother of four) Dr. Shelly Vaziri Flais discuss the tools parents need to start the lifelong process of raising their boys into men who are mentally healthy, empathetic, and committed to gender equality. Dr. Flais explains concrete techniques for parents to push back against cultural stereotypes and toxic masculinity as they nurture their sons. Because “kids do as they see,” the work of being role models for gender equality starts in the home. This conversation-starter episode emphasizes the benefits of gender equality for boys and girls and men and women, and discusses it not only in the context of the family, but also the extended family, school, and greater community. The interview is inspired by Shelly's book American Academy of Pediatrics' Nurturing Boys to Be Better Men: Gender Equality Starts at Home.  Shelly Vaziri Flais, MD, FAAP, is a board-certified practicing pediatrician, mother of three sons and one daughter, and an assistant professor of clinical pediatrics at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine and Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children's Hospital of Chicago. She is the author of Raising Twins, editor-in-chief of Caring for your School-Age Child, and co-editor of The Big Book of Symptoms. She is an AAP spokesperson and frequent media contributor who lives in the Chicago suburbs. Follow Shelly on Instagram @shellyvaziriflaismd. Email your parenting questions to Dr. Dan podcast@drdanpeters.com (we might answer on a future episode). Follow us @parentfootprintpodcast (Instagram, Facebook) and @drdanpeters (X). Please listen, follow, rate, and review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. For more information: www.exactlyrightmedia.com  www.drdanpeters.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey Moms, are you wondering what happened to the sweet little boy who used to see you as the center of his whole world?  The one who told you everything and wanted nothing more than to be wherever you were?  Does it feel like like he's been replaced by a larger body little man that you don't recognize and can't get a word out of?  Are you struggling to find an easier way to connect? Well look no further because David Thomas is here today to share all his wisdom and you will not want to miss a minute of this episode.  Grab a pen and paper because you're going to want to write this down! Author of the best selling books, WILD THINGS - THE ART OF NURTURING BOYS and RAISING EMOTIONALLY STRONG BOYS (and many more) David helps us look into the developing minds of boys and gives us practical tools and advice that we can use everyday in our interactions with our sons. Whether you are a Mom, Dad, Grandparent, Teacher or Caregiver of a young boy or teen boy, you won't want to miss this! You can also listen to David on his podcast RAISING BOYS & GIRLS Follow him on instagram @raisingboysandgirls Purchase his books WILD THINGS: The art of Nurturing Boys or Raising Emotionally Strong Boys on AMAZON or AUDIBLE

Join Katherine & Jay as they welcomes beloved friends of the Hope Heals community, David Thomas and Sissy Goff in for a candid conversation on parenting. The best stuff comes from the hard stuff, but none of us want our kids to go through the hard stuff. What decisions are we making to stand in the way of our kids experiencing opportunities for resilience and growth in safe ways? This is a great conversation that you do not want to miss! David is the Director of Family Counseling and has been a part of the Daystar staff for the last 25 years. He guides Daystar as co-executive director, meets with clients for parent consults, provides assessments with new families and supervises the guys' staff. He is the author of ten books including the best-selling Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys and Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son can Build on for Life. He co-hosts the “Raising Boys & Girls” podcast and has become a sought-after speaker across the country. Sissy is the Executive Director of Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, Tennessee, where she works alongside her counseling assistant/pet therapist, Lucy the Havanese. Since 1993, she has been helping girls and their parents find confidence in who they are and hope in who God is making them to be. Sissy is a sought-after speaker for parenting events across the country and is a frequent guest on media outlets including CNN, Good Morning America, Inside Edition, NBC Nightly News, and Christianity Today. She is the bestselling author of 13 books including her latest, The Worry-Free Parent: Finding the Confidence You Need So Your Kids Can, Too. -- “If we do not transform our pain, we will most assuredly transmit it.” - Richard Rohr, Things Hidden: Scripture as Spirituality ““Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don't be afraid.” - Frederick Buechner, Beyond Words: Daily Readings in the ABC's of Faith “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being,the more joy you can contain.” - Khalil Gibran, “Oh Joy and Sorrow” ---- Want some hope in your inbox? ⁠⁠Sign up for our semi-monthly Hope Note⁠⁠ for a little dose of hope and encouragement along the way. Learn more about us here: ⁠⁠Hope Heals⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Hope Heals Camp⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Mend Coffee⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Find us on Instagram⁠

Book and Podcast Resources List   Books:   Loving the Little Years - Motherhood in the Trenches by Rachel Jankovic   The Call of the Wild and Free: Reclaiming the Wonder of Your Child's Education by Ainsley Arment   Mama Bear Apologetics - Empowering Your Kids to Challenge Cultural Lies by Hillary Morgan Ferrer   Teaching From Rest by Sarah Mackenzie   The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman   Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp   Homeschool Bravely by Jamie Erickson   Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas   Podcasts:   Read-Aloud Revival   Wild and Free   Schole Sisters   Focus on the Family Parenting Podcast   Don't Mom Alone   Famous at Home

Life is filled with roles that are neither made for men nor women. The household for instance, is a place that needs human labor. But how do we break the stereotypes that we've grown up with and knock down the walls of gender equity in the home and at work?  Joining me to talk about this important topic as well as her new book is Dr. Shelly Vaziri Flais. Shelly is a board-certified practicing pediatrician, the mother of 3 sons and 1 daughter, and Assistant Professor of Clinical Pediatrics at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine and Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children's Hospital of Chicago. She is the author of Raising Twins, Editor in Chief of Caring for Your School-Age Child, and co-editor of The Big Book of Symptoms. She is an American Academy of Pediatrics spokesperson and frequent media contributor Listen as she shares her thoughts on everything from modeling equitable behavior at home, why she was happy to be the “hangout house” for her kids and their friends, and why the change we want to see in the world starts in our homes. If you are raising children, whether they are boys or girls, you'll want to listen in.  Also, don't forget to grab a copy of her new book, Nurturing Boys to Be Better Men.       In this episode, we discuss:  What inspired Shelly to write her latest book Her thoughts on ways that bigger families lean into more well-rounded kids and adults Ways to include your kids in the tasks of the household What it means to model equitable behavior at home Why it's important to also model equitable roles in the workplace Resources:  About Shelly - https://www.feinberg.northwestern.edu/faculty-profiles/az/profile.html?xid=27113 Nurturing Boys to Be Better Men by Shelly Vziri Flais, MD, FAAP - https://www.aap.org/Nurturing-Boys-to-Be-Better-Men-Paperback  Discount Codes from Our Sponsors:  Copilot - https://go.mycopilot.com/lynzy - for a 14-Day Free Trial with your own personal trainer  Questions: What inspired you to write your latest book?  How can we model equitable behavior at home? Why is it important to include children in household chores from an early age? What can we do to inspire equitable play for our children? What are some ways to open up conversations with our kids about their world and life as they get older?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Though I didn't have a five-timers jacket to send them, the guests on today's show have all been on DMA at least 5 times (some have been on double that amount!).  As we celebrate ten years of the podcast we wanted to acknowledge the voices I turn to again and again for support in parenting and life. Trustworthy and encouraging, their episodes are full of hope and help so we don't mom alone (see what I did there? ;) ).  Connect with:  David Thomas and Sissy Goff Website: https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/  Instagram:  @raisingboysandgirls Online Courses Sally Clarkson  Website: https://sallyclarkson.com/  Instagram: @sally.clarkson  Jim and Lynne Jackson Website: https://connectedfamilies.org/  Instagram: @connectedfams  Online Courses  Kirk Martin Website: https://celebratecalm.com/  Instagram: @celebratecalm  Podcast: Celebrate Calm Online Courses  Full Episodes Here:  Emotional Milestones :: Sissy Goff and David Thomas [Ep 160] Create a Home of Belonging & Becoming :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 107] Help Your Child Feel Safe and Loved :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 80] Calmly Parenting the Strong-Willed Child :: Kirk Martin [Ep 69] The Right to Change My Mind :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 196] Links Mentioned:   Books by David Thomas and Sissy Goff  Are My Kids on Track: 12 Emotional, Social and Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach by Sissy Goff and David Thomas The Worry-Free Parent by Sissy Goff  Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas Raising Worry-Free Girls by Sissy Goff Brave by Sissy Goff Braver Stronger Smarter by Sissy Goff Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas Books by Sally Clarkson Different: the Story of an Outside-the-Box Kid and the Mom Who Loved Him Giving Your Words: The Lifegiving Power of a Verbal Home for Family Faith Formation  Help, I'm Drowning: Weather the Storms of Life with Grace and Hope  Mom Heart Moments: Daily Devotions for Lifegiving Motherhood  Girls Club: Cultivating Lasting Friendship in a Lonely World   The Lifegiving Parent: Giving Your Child a Life Worth Living for Christ The Lifegiving Table: Nurturing Faith Through Feasting One Meal at a Time Books by Jim & Lynne Jackson Discipline That Connects with Your Child's Heart  How to Grow a Connected Family  Related Episodes: David Thomas and Sissy Goff  Helping Our Kids Foster Friendships :: David Thomas and Sissy Goff [Ep 338] Raising Girls :: Sissy Goff [Ep 141]  The Worry-Free Parent :: Sissy Goff [Ep 421] Getting Brave About Anxiety :: Sissy Goff [Ep 311] Raising Worry-Free Girls :: Sissy Goff [Bonus] Raising Emotionally Strong Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 368] A Lil Help with Boys and Screens :: David Thomas [Bonus] Understanding Boys Better :: David Thomas [Ep 315] The Art of Nuturing Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 119] Sally Clarkson That's Me…Sleep Deprived and Needing Jesus :: Jennie and Sally [Ep 106] Create a Home of Belonging & Becoming :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 107] Cultivating Friendships in a World of Isolation :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 233] Weathering Life's Storms :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 336] How to Own Your Life :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 54] Identifying Your God-Given Space (Part 2) :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 404] RWYB Wk 3 Jim and Lynne Jackson How to Connect, Coach and Correct Your Child :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 81] Connecting With Your Kids in Any Circumstance :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 98] Resolving Sibling Conflict :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 126] The Entitlement Fix :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 200] Discipline 101 (Live Event - Friday Night) :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 221] Connected Relationships (Live Event) :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 222] Helping Your Child With Sensory Processing Issues :: Lynne Jackson [Ep 258] Grace and Truth for Moms :: Lynne Jackson [Ep 296] Parenting Sensitive and Intense Kids :: Lynne Jackson and Lydia Rex [Ep 395] Kirk Martin How to Stop Yelling, Lecturing and Power Struggles :: Kirk Martin [Ep 62] Calmly Parenting the Strong-Willed Child :: Kirk Martin [Ep 69] Summer (and Sibling) Survival Guide :: Kirk Martin [Ep 77] How to Stay Calm with School Stress :: Kirk Martin [Ep 88] Q and A with Kirk Martin From Celebrate Calm :: Kirk Martin [Ep 104]  10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns and Arguments :: Kirk Martin [Ep 139]  The Legacy of a Calm Father :: Kirk Martin [Ep 210] Bruce How to Shine a Light as a Family :: Bruce MacFadyen [Ep 5] When Your Husband Has a Demanding Job :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 38] Goals, Roles, & Superpowers :: Bruce and Heather MacFadyen [Ep 112] This is Us :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 145] The Right to Change My Mind :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 196] 20th Anniversary Q and A Episode :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 242] Bruce Learns to Label His Feelings :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 316] Talking, Teens, and Twenty-Four Years :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 399] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 

Are you tired of hearing people say, “Man up!” or “Boys will be boys” around your son? Or perhaps you've seen boys discouraged from liking the color pink, learning to cook meals, or expressing feelings of sadness or disappointment. If you're ready to break generational stereotypes and raise well-rounded boys who will grow up to be well-rounded men, you won't want to miss this episode. Dr. Amy and Sandy are joined by guest Dr. Shelly Flais, author of “Nurturing Boys to Be Better Men: Gender Equality Starts at Home,” who shares her experience as a mother of three boys and practicing pediatrician.  About Dr. Shelly Flais: Shelly Vaziri Flais, MD, FAAP is a board-certified practicing pediatrician, the mother of 3 sons and 1 daughter, and Assistant Professor of Clinical Pediatrics at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine and Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children's Hospital of Chicago. She is the author of “Raising Twins,” Editor in Chief of Caring for Your School-Age Child, and co-editor of “The Big Book of Symptoms.” She is an American Academy of Pediatrics spokesperson and frequent media contributor who lives in the Chicago suburbs. Her new book, “Nurturing Boys to Be Better Men: Gender Equality Starts at Home” will be published October 24, 2023. Connect with Shelly Flais:Facebook: @ShellyVazirFlaisMDInstagram: @ShellyVazirFlaisMDTwitter/X: @ShellyFlaisMDBook: “Nurturing Boys to Be Better Men: Gender Equality Starts at Home” (Oct. 24, 2023)CONNECT WITH US Website: www.TheBrainyMoms.com Email: info@TheBrainyMoms.com Social Media: @TheBrainyMoms Dr. Amy's website: www.AmyMoorePhD.comSponsor's website: www.LearningRx.com

Season 5 kicks off with a special two-part episode featuring Matt Englar-Carlson, a professor at California State University at Fullerton and the director of the Center for Boys and Men. Delve into the heart of boys' education, as Englar-Carlson debunks myths about boys' mental health and highlights the essence of healthy masculinities. Uncover how schools can foster genuine conversations on masculinity and learn about the mind-body connection in boys. With a focus on the strength-based approach, this two-part episode offers a deep dive into nurturing the mental and physical well-being of boys. Download the Mental App: https://www.getmental.com/ IBSC Exploring Boys' Education music composed and performed by Tom DiGiovanni. Get the Mental App · IBSC

Season 5 kicks off with a special two-part episode featuring Matt Englar-Carlson, a professor at California State University at Fullerton and the director of the Center for Boys and Men. Delve into the heart of boys' education, as Englar-Carlson debunks myths about boys' mental health and highlights the essence of healthy masculinities. Uncover how schools can foster genuine conversations on masculinity and learn about the mind-body connection in boys. With a focus on the strength-based approach, this two-part episode offers a deep dive into nurturing the mental and physical well-being of boys. Download the Mental App: https://www.getmental.com/ IBSC Exploring Boys' Education music composed and performed by Tom DiGiovanni. Get the Mental App · IBSC

Anne-Marie is back, and this time it's all about parenting resources. We had the best time chatting again! Training Them Wisely Devoted: Great Men and Their Godly Moms by Tim Challies Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp Habits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms by Justin Whitmel Earley  Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas Scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. The ESV text may not be quoted in any publication made available to the public by a Creative Commons license. The ESV may not be translated in whole or in part into any other language.

Dr. Bob sits down with David Thomas -  Ten time Author, Podcaster and Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries. This wonderful conversation is all about raising emotionally strong children, and supporting them to be successful in all areas of life. Don't miss this important conversation! David is the Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, TN. He is the co-author of ten books, including the best-selling Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys and Are My Kids on Track? The 12 Emotional, Social & Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach as well as his two latest titles Raising Emotionally Strong Boys and Strong and Smart: A Boy's Guide to Building Healthy Emotions (available for pre-order now!). He is a frequent guest on national television and podcasts, including his own called Raising Boys and Girls, has been featured in publications like The Washington Post and USA Today, and speaks across the country. He and his wife, Connie, have a daughter, twin sons and a yellow lab named Owen. You can follow him on social media @raisingboysandgirls and find the latest parenting resources at raisingboysandgirls.com. How to contact David Thomas: David Thomas website, "Raising Boys and Girls" David Thomas on Instagram How to contact Dr. Bob: Dr. Bob on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChztMVtPCLJkiXvv7H5tpDQ Dr. Bob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drroberthamilton/ Dr. Bob on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bob.hamilton.1656

As the director of family counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, TN, David Thomas has seen some patterns develop over the years.  “Some of the healthiest parents I have worked with over the years are parents in recovery,” says David. “Because you've done your work: those basic tenets of ‘I understand I have a struggle, I need God, I need community.'” Those are principles that apply for everyone, whether in recovery or not, and they reflect a kind of humble acknowledgement of reality that every parent needs.  But there's another way into these concepts: “The other set of parents that I see are the healthiest are those who are using the Enneagram,” says David. “You're getting connected with some of those same things. Understanding, ‘Here's what the shadow side looks like, Here are my traps, Here are my vulnerabilities.” This week, we talk to David Thomas about his own experience dealing with the Enneagram One's inner monologue, how the shadow side comes out in parenting, and how the Enneagram can help us raise emotionally strong boys.  — David Thomas, LMSW, is the director of family counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, TN, and the coauthor of ten books, including the bestselling Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys and Are My Kids on Track? He is the co-host of the top 10 parenting podcast “Raising Boys and Girls.” To learn more about David Thomas, follow him on Instagram, visit his website, or check out his new book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build On for Life.

Key Conversation Points: Why is Christie afraid of mediocrity? Scared of being normal? Let's not miss out on an experience because we're trying to make it extraordinary!  There is grace in muddling through the unique transitions and goodbyes that aren't ordinary or daily. We can do it differently than our past.  If you're wanting to mark a ritual as something special, you may not have to look far.  Lower the bar in a healthy way.  Give yourself permission to be a human. Whether a kid is driving, going to college or something else....do whatever you can to take off the weight it can bring. Books mentioned: Wholeheartedness: Busyness, Exhaustion, and Healing the Divided Self by Chuck DeGroat. Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by David Thomas and Stephen James. Podcast links: Follow Lisa-Jo on Instagram @lisajobaker and Christie at @christiepurifoy and please leave a review about what you think about today's podcast! Click here to join the conversations we have with listeners every week around the podcast. _______ Sponsor appreciation: We're so grateful to partner with show sponsors that keep making our work possible. Click here to visit join Thrive Market today and get $80 in free groceries! Click here to purchase the book Liturgy of the Ordinary and use the code TISH22 for 30% off the book. Click here to visit Green Chef and use code ordinary135 to get $135 across 5 boxes and your first box ships free! The #1 Meal Kit for Eating Well! Click here to join over 1 million people taking charge of their mental health through the online counseling offered by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month. Click here to visit Nutrafol and use the promo code ORDINARY to save $15 off your first subscription. Plus, FREE shipping on every order.

Adam Griffin, Cassie Bryant, and Chelsea Griffin are joined by David Thomas from Raising boys and Girls to discuss what it looks like to raise emotionally strong children in today's culture.Questions Covered in This Episode:For those who don't know you, David, would you introduce yourself and tell us about you, your family, and your ministry?What's been your favorite episode of Season 4 of the Raising Boys and Girls Podcast?Can you give us a little bit of the story of where this book came from? Can you tell us about the emotional health we see in Jesus? How can we all model that when our culture is going in the other direction?In the book, you talk about what it might be like if we prioritized emotional health the way we prioritize youth sports or academics. What would it look like in our families if we were doing that? What would have to change?Can you help us understand the three “R's” that you talk about, “Recognize, Regulate, and Repair”?When it comes to regulating, how do you know when to encourage which strategy? i.e. go work it out physically or go breathe.One of my favorite lines in your book is “In life, we've been promised struggle, but we've also been guaranteed hope.” Please talk to us about that. What is the hope?You talk about being on a mission to bring back journaling. How do you see that as an important part of dealing with our emotions?If someone doesn't journal and they want to start, how would you advise them to start?What are the scriptures you lean on the most when you're helping families think about raising kids that are emotionally strong?At the conclusion of the book, you encourage the readers to stop asking kids “what do you want to do?” and to start asking “who do you want to be?” Can you help us understand what you mean by that?If our listeners want to pray for you and your family, what can they ask God for on your behalf?Guest Bio:David Thomas is the Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, TN. He is the co-author of ten books, including the best-selling Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys and Are My Kids on Track? The 12 Emotional, Social & Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach as well as his two latest titles Raising Emotionally Strong Boys and Strong and Smart: A Boy's Guide to Building Healthy Emotions. He is a frequent guest on national television and podcasts, including his own called Raising Boys and Girls, has been featured in publications like The Washington Post and USA Today, and speaks across the country. He and his wife, Connie, have a daughter, twin sons, and a yellow lab named Owen. You can follow him on social media @raisingboysandgirls and find the latest parenting resources at raisingboysandgirls.com.Helpful Definitions:Recognize: Paying attention to the signs and signals my body is going to give me when I am having an emotional response.Regulate: Employing healthy coping skills to help me get from stress to settled.Repair: Taking ownership and doing any needed relational work.Blame: Discharged pain.Shame: Self-contempt.Resources Mentioned in This Episode:“Raising Emotionally Strong Boys” by David ThomasRaising boys and Girls PodcastHope HealsJohn 11, Matthew 26:36-46, Matthew 21:12 Isaiah 53:3, Romans 8:22-23, Romans 5:3-5, Ephesians 4:26, Titus 3:4-5Amazon affiliate links are used where appropriate. As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases, thank you for supporting Training the Church.Follow Us:Instagram | Facebook | TwitterOur Sister Shows:Knowing Faith | Confronting ChristianityThe Family Discipleship Podcast is a podcast of Training the Church. For ad-free episodes and more content check out our Patreon.

Josh Brower is the co-director of high school ministry, and Hank Currin is the co-director of middle school ministry at LMPC. These men join Brian to talk about their callings and ministry to teen boys at LMPC.RESOURCES:The Life We're Looking For: Reclaiming Relationship in a Technological World by Andy CrouchThe Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place by Andy CrouchMy Tech-Wise Life: Growing Up and Making Choices in a World of Devices by Amy Crouch and Andy CrouchThe Silence of Adam by Dr. Larry Crabb (more appropriate for high school seniors)Man Enough by Nate PyleWild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David ThomasThe Jesus I Wish I Knew in High School edited by Cameron Cole and Charlotte GetzRadically Different: A Student's Guide to Community by Champ ThorntonThoughts for Young Men by J.C. RyleSpecial Guests: Josh Brower and Hank CurrinHost: Brian SalterProducer: Ben WingardMusic arranged by David Henry and performed by David Henry and Hannah Lutz.To contact Pillar and Ground or to submit a question that you would like to hear addressed on a future episode, please email podcast@lmpc.org. 

Every boy needs things only a father can give. In part 2 of this 2 part conversation, we continue our interview with David Thomas, a sought after counselor with 26 years experience helping boys and families. We begin to dive into understanding the developmental stages of boys into men. • Explorer (roughly age 1-4) • Lover (5-8) • Individual (9-12) • Wanderer (13-18) • Warrior (17-25) I also asked him "Is it our job as fathers to push or pull our sons through the stages to become men, or do they naturally flow from one into the other?" What mistakes are common for fathers to make when fathering boys as they transition into manhood, between 7 and 20+ years old? What do we as fathers tend to focus too much on? Too little on? And what should we focus more on instead? What is your counsel to fathers when we blow it? How do we most effectively reconnect with sons? Very practically, what habits can we, as fathers, build into our routines with our sons to keep the lines of communication and joy open? What common qualities do you see in good, effective fathers? What do you want to say to men who fear they do not have what it takes to raise a son? (Maybe because fathering was not modeled well for them?) If you are a father to a boy, you will wanna hear this encouraging discussion. And be sure to go back and listen to part 1. ABOUT David Thomas: DAVID THOMAS, L.M.S.W., (Licensed Master Social Worker) is the Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, TN. He is the co-author of ten books, including the best-selling "Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys" and "Are My Kids on Track? The 12 Emotional, Social & Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach" as well as his two latest titles "Raising Emotionally Strong Boys" and the companion workbook "Strong and Smart: A Boy's Guide to Building Healthy Emotions" (available for pre-order now!). He is a frequent guest on national television and podcasts, including his own called Raising Boys and Girls, has been featured in publications like The Washington Post and USA Today, and speaks across the country. He and his wife, Connie, have a daughter, twin sons and a yellow lab named Owen. You can follow him on social media @raisingboysandgirls and find the latest parenting resources at raisingboysandgirls.com. Daystar Counseling Ministries: https://www.daystarcounseling.com/ Raising Boys and Girls website: https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/ Raising Boys and Girls podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-boys-girls/id1366344369 David Thomas has written several books on raising boys, including: 1. Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys 2. Are My Kids on Track? The 12 Emotional, Social & Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach 3. Raising Emotionally Strong Boys (available for pre-order now!) 4. Strong and Smart: A Boy's Guide to Building Healthy Emotions" (available for pre-order now!) See his bibliography on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/David-Thomas/e/B001JS98NC?ref_=dbs_p_pbk_r00_abau_000000

Every boy needs things only a father can give. So what are those things? In part 1 of this 2 part conversation, Jay talks with David Thomas, Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries, to help us understand the developmental stages of boys into men and what they need uniquely from their fathers.  ABOUT: DAVID THOMAS, L.M.S.W., (Licensed Master Social Worker) is the Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, TN. He is the co-author of ten books, He is a frequent guest on national television and podcasts, including his own called Raising Boys and Girls, has been featured in publications like The Washington Post and USA Today, and speaks across the country. He and his wife, Connie, have a daughter, twin sons and a yellow lab named Owen. You can follow him on social media @raisingboysandgirls and find the latest parenting resources at raisingboysandgirls.com. Daystar Counseling Ministries: https://www.daystarcounseling.com/ Raising Boys and Girls website: https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/ Raising Boys and Girls podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-boys-girls/id1366344369 David Thomas has written several books on raising boys, including: 1. Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys 2. Are My Kids on Track? The 12 Emotional, Social & Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach 3. Raising Emotionally Strong Boys (available for pre-order now!) 4. Strong and Smart: A Boy's Guide to Building Healthy Emotions" (available for pre-order now!) See his bibliography on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/David-Thomas/e/B001JS98NC?ref_=dbs_p_pbk_r00_abau_000000

Would we even have Captain America without the encouragement of Peggy Carter? Where would Steve Rogers be without her? Ellen shares with David how Peggy's example motivates her as a wife and as a mother of boys. She unpacks three specific things Peggy does that fuel Steve to be the Captain America we know and love. They share some of their own stories and give resources that have helped Ellen to better understand men and boys. Ephesians 5:33, Proverbs 2:18-19, Proverbs 6:20-29, Love and Respect by Emmerson https://amzn.to/3DhBwJJ, Mother and Son: The Respect Effect by Emmerson Eggerichs https://amzn.to/3ljNMTG, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas https://amzn.to/3oMsel3, Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul by John Eldredge https://amzn.to/3DkB2CG, The Power of a Positive Mom by Karol Ladd https://amzn.to/3DosdaG INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/a_moon_in_the_dark/WEBSITE: amooninthedark.com

Understanding the emotions of boys is a challenge no matter the age. Anxiety that presents as anger or distraction. Depression shows up as low-grade irritability. David Thomas returns to the show to answer listener questions about all things boy. David is a family therapist and director at DayStar Counseling Center in Nashville. He has lots of experience counseling families and children and has a set of twin boys himself. We talk about teaching our sons about emotional language, going to counseling, helping sibling relationships, and managing boy energy levels. “I think we need to be clear with boys. I think it's always helpful to use concrete language with them. When we're concise, clear, and concrete, those are kind of three rules of thumb, we can consistently be adopting. The mistake that I think we can make is we kind of soft pedal and dance around things.” If you are a parent of boys, this is an episode for you! Watch for a bonus episode coming out later this week too.   Connect with David:  Website:  raisingboysandgirls.com  Facebook: facebook.com/raisingboysandgirls  Instagram:  @raisingboysandgirls    Links Mentioned:   Ep 119 The Art of Nurturing Boys :: David Thomas Ep 160 Emotional Milestones :: Sissy Goff & David Thomas  BOOK: Are My Kids on Track? by Sissy Goff & David Thomas Ep 260 The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry BOOK: Best Friends, Worst Enemies by Michael Thompson BOOK: Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas Movies & Books Highlights from Raising Boys & Girls MOVIE: Just Mercy VidAngel BOOK: Quiet: The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain BOOK: Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverted Kids by Susan Cain Featured Sponsors:  FabFitFun —use coupon code DMA10 for $10 off your first box at www.FabFitFun.com  Function of Beauty — Go to functionofbeauty.com/DMA to take your quiz and save 20% off your order. 

The Five stages of Male Development:   the Explorer   the Lover   the Individual   the Wanderer   the WarriorAlso check out: Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas

In this inaugural podcast, veteran Nashville counselor David Thomas introduces us to himself and his family and shares with us the aim for this exciting new Rooted podcast. Designed to help anyone who loves and works with or lives with boys, All About Boys will explore the mental, physical, psychological and spiritual lives of the young men in our care. Show notes: The Five stages of Male Development the Explorer the Lover the Individual the Wanderer the Warrior Some of the things David touches on include: activity level, impulse control, rate of development, overstimulation response, learning styles, what a boy needs from parents (among other things, “brain breaks” are a great idea), conversation with boys, appropriate outlets, the complexity of male adolescence, supporting a young adult male- among other things! Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas

Being famous at home requires that we become students of our kids. That we pay attention to their strengths, but also their growth areas.  For boys, helping them learn to communicate with others in a respectful manner and with a good attitude can sometimes feel daunting. That's why our resident therapist, David Thomas, joins us this week to talk about our sons. This conversation began as a private one, when Josh reached out to David for help of his own. In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of that scenario, how David's wisdom has helped our family, and why we wanted to share it with you. This was such an insightful episode that you'll probably want to listen to a few times, especially if you have boys. Here are some highlights from this week’s episode:  David describes why we tend to have to work more with our sons when it comes to social awareness.Why our boys can be so loud, energetic, and come across as rude or disrespectful. The tightrope that boys walk between blame and shame.Why it's important to help boys understand the choice of being right versus being kind. How to train our boys to reach for progress, not perfection. Practical exercises to help our boys of all ages become socially aware of their environment and how they come across to others.Why this conversation matters for who our sons will become as adult men. Show Notes: To get a copy of Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, click here. To get a copy of Are my Kids on Track? click here. To learn more about The Leader's Way Cohort, or to fill out a form and set up a call, click here.

What do you need to know as a mom to a newborn or an infant? How can you set yourself up for success and have the right expectations? Today we are sharing helpful ways to be a Brave Mom in the early years when you have a little one.  Share this episode with the new moms in your life. IN THIS EPISODE: Give yourself lots of grace and lower your expectations for yourself. You’re going to want to do it all but you won’t have the capacity in the same way you did pre baby Give yourself extra time for everything Meet with Jesus frequently - He is your lifeline Quiet all the external voices and ask for wisdom - start now getting in the habit of praying about everything Talk to your husband often about how you want to parent, what discipline you will use, etc... get on the same page as much as possible now Learn about the differences between boys and girls Speak life over your babies Start praying for their future spouse - remember their mom might be in the same boat you are. What a gift for you to pray for her this whole time and she doesn’t even know it Sleep whenever you can for the first several weeks. Write down all the things that overwhelm you and whenever a friend asks how they can help actually let them see your list. In the long run, you’ll be grateful you were honest and didn’t try to pretend you had it all together Keep doing the things that light you up inside and pursuing your dreams in small ways Enjoy this time and remember this is just a season and a new season is around the corner. By LINKS WE MENTIONED: Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys   CONNECT WITH BRAVE MOMS: website | Instagram | facebook If you love the podcast leave a review here. It will take 30 seconds and I’d be so grateful. Plus, it will help more moms find this encouragement.

Meredith and Kaytee are back with SO many books my fingers are cramped (this is becoming a theme…). You’ll hear a “bookish moment of the week” from each of us: family presentation at homeschool group and going into a new book completely blind. Next, we discuss our current reads for the week. We’ve got five current reads this week, and they are sci-fi/fantasy heavy, which is WEIRD for us! Lots of strong opinions here! We’ve got an update for you on our Slow But Steady reads and what’s been happening in the past week. Also a short grammar lesson on “Swifties”. For our deep dive this week, we had a number of listeners (and real life friends) request our favorite parenting books. This will span everything from pregnancy/birth to infanthood to growing children to adding siblings. Plus one funny pick for when you just want to laugh it off. Finally, this week, we are Pressing Books into Your Hands. We’ve got books “with caveats” this week. So, stay tuned and listen closely to see if they are actually right for you! As per usual, time-stamped show notes are below with references to every book and resource we mentioned in this episode. If you’d like to listen first and not spoil the surprise, don’t scroll down!  . . . . . 3:26 - A Man Called Ove by Fredrick Backman 3:28 - What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty 3:29 - Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin 6:52 - City of Bones by Cassandra Clare 8:15 - Twilight by Stephanie Meyer 11:17 - Murder in Bloomsbury by D.M. Quincy 12:38 - The Julian Kestrel books by Kate Ross 14:35 - A Girl Like Her by Talia Hibbert 14:45 - Leigh Kramer on Instagram 17:41 - The Passengers by John Marrs 19:30 - Minisode with John Marrs 20:20 - The One by John Marrs 20:34 - The Fifth Season by N.K. Jemison 22:45 - Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkein 25:24 - Hannah Coulter by Wendell Berry 26:10 - North and South by Elizabeth Gaskell 26:40 - On Writing by Stephen King 28:49 - The Path Between the Seas: The Creation of the Panama Canal 1870-1914 by David McCullough 29:34 - The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt 29:39 - Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen 29:47 - The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexander Dumas 30:04 - Persuasion by Jane Austen 30:05 - Anne of Green Gables by LM Montgomery 30:07 - Frankenstein by Mary Shelley 30:17 - A Little Life by Hanya Yanigahara 33:31 - Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg 35:25 - On Becoming Baby Wise by Robert Bucknam and Gary Ezzo 36:05 - The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems by Tracey Hogg 36:29 - Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp 37:22 - Expecting Better by Emily Oster 38:43 - Cribsheet by Emily Oster 39:59 - Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman 40:54 - Baby-Led Weaning by Gill Rapley 42:02 - How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn 42:42 - Episode 10 of Currently Reading 42:44 - Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by David Thomas and Steven James 43:03 - Are My Kids on Track? by Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevithan 43:15 - Triggers by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake 44:31 - Wonder Weeks by Xaviera Plas-Plooij, Frans X. Plooij, and Hetty van de Rijt 44:45 - Wonder Weeks app 46:25 - Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlisch 46:30 - Episode 8 of Currently Reading 46:35 - Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Laura Markham 46:37 - Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings by Laura Markham 47:09 - Parenting, Illustrated with Crappy Pictures by Amber Dusick 48:17 - Kindred by Octavia Butler 48:30 - One Great Book podcast with Anne Bogel (and the link to the Kindred episode) 51:23 - All the Ugly and Wonderful Things by Bryn Greenwood *Please note that all book titles linked above are Amazon affiliate links. Your cost is the same, but a small portion of your purchase will come back to us to help offset the costs of the show. Thanks for your support!*  

Eric and Kelly talk about teens who love gardens and the outdoors, as well as the wave of excellent YA books about music hitting shelves this year. This episode is sponsored by Book Riot Insiders, The Lost Coast by Amy Rose Capetta, and Again, But Better by Christina Riccio. Subscribe to the podcast via RSS, Apple Podcasts, or Stitcher. To get even more YA news and recommendations, sign up for our What’s Up in YA newsletter! Show Notes Brave Face by Shaun David Hutchinson I Hope You Get This Message by Farah Naz Rishi We Hunt the Flame by Hafsah Faizal Descendant of the Crane by Joan He The Girl You Thought I Was by Rebecca Phillips Switchback by Danika Stone A Fierce and Subtle Poison by Samantha Mabry Secret of a Heart Note by Stacey Lee Bone Gap by Laura Ruby Wicked Like a Wildfire by Lana Popovic Lost Stars by Lisa Selin Davis Blight by Alexandra Duncan Wild Beauty by Anna-Marie McLemore Dan vs. Nature by Don Calame “The Heartland Trilogy” by Chuck Wendig Spin by Lamar Giles On The Come Up by Angie Thomas Let Me Hear a Rhyme by Tiffany D. Jackson In The Key of Nira Ghani by Natasha Deen Somewhere Only We Know by Maurene Goo Impossible Music by Sean Williams You’d Be Mine by Erin Hahn Night Music by Jenn Marie Thorne

One of the most profound ways manhood is expressed is through a father becoming a warrior-servant within his family. Joining me for this conversation is David Thomas, Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, Tennessee. He is co-author of 6 books, including the best-selling Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys. He is a frequent guest on national television and radio. David has spent thousands of hours counseling children and their parents. Learn more about my book, Heroic: The Surprising Path to True Manhood at HeroicBook.com

We find excellence in Netflix and virtual fires! Then, we attain imperfection in busy schedules and losing ground with good habits. We wrap up our review of Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, and discuss the being named and drawing out the heart of a boy. Finally we wrap it up with The Parent Board. Exploring Excellence 3:00 Attaining Imperfection: 6:25 Book Review 10:50 Parent Board 51:30

This is a story about a gift I regret giving my children.  If I could take it back I would. Maybe? But maybe not. This is a gift I didn't realize I was passing on to them, and I never could have imagined how it would affect them in all the same but also in completely new ways from how it affected me.  It's the painful, beautiful gift that I both regret and cherish at the same time. Listener invitation: Where are you listening from? We'd love to know what place you call home! Tag Lisa-Jo @lisajobaker and Christie @christiepurifoy  or use the hashtag #outoftheordinarypodcast and tell us where home is to you.  Listener Resources!  Order Christie's new book Placemaker here.  Find Lisa-Jo's book Surprised by Motherhood that unpacks this story over here. Find Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys over here. Shop all the books mentioned on the Podcast over here. See more of Maplehurst and meet Christie here. See more of Lisa-Jo's daily, ordinary chaos over here. Want to get behind-the-scenes podcast news & events in your in box? Sign up here. Discover Lisa-Jo's books here. Discover Christie's books here.

*Disclaimer* Although there is no explicit language, this episode contains some mature thematic content many parents may find inappropriate for little ears! We celebrate keeping our cool and Oliver's new school! Then, Justin from God is A Dad Podcast shares two #MAPMoments that made us laugh and made us think. We review the first part of Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, and discuss the stages of boyhood with a few sidebars on puberty, masturbation, and pornography. Finally we wrap it up with The Parent Board.

Bookish besties reunited for Episode number 10, where we take a foray into the scary books you’ll want on your Halloween and Fall TBR! You’ll hear a “bookish moment of the week” from each of us: Meredith’s slump is O.V.E.R. and Kaytee broke her resolutions in a big way. Then we dive into our currently reading lists with three books from each of us, some brand new titles, a big series for #pennypusher fans, and some mysterious picks. Our next segment will make you thankful for these show notes! We throw a LOT of titles at you that will perfectly fit into your fall mood-reading lists. Don’t worry, they are all written down for you below. Because we love you. As always, we finish up with A Book (yep, capitalized) that we’d like to put into every reader’s hands. This week’s picks include a classic Greek myth re-imagined, as well as non-fiction pick for every boy mom reader. Time-stamped show notes are below with references to every book and resource we mentioned in this episode. If you’d like to listen first and not spoil the surprise, don’t scroll down!  .  .  .  .  .  3:20 - Nevermoor: The Trials of Morrigan Crow by Jessica Townsend 4:11 - Literate Lizard bookstore in Sedona, AZ 5:10 - thriftbooks.com - 15% off your first order if you use this link! 6:58 - In Her Bones by Kate Moretti 7:13 - Book Drop Subscription - use code CURRENTLYREADING for 20% off a subscription of any length! Good through 12/15 8:25 - Scythe by Neal Shusterman 9:05 - What Should I Read Next podcast on iTunes, Episode 150 is the one referenced in this episode of our show 11:51 - The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins 14:09 - My Favorite Half-Night Stand by Christina Lauren 14:29 - Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen 14:39 - You’ve Got Mail 15:58 - Cyrano de Bergerac by Edmond Rostand 17:49 - Louise Penny’s Inspector Gamache Series 18:05 - Inspector Wexford Series by Ruth Rundell 18:14 - Dorothy Simpson’s Inspector Thanet Series 19:02 - From Doon with Death by Ruth Rundell 22:38 - A Study in Scarlet Women by Sherry Thomas (2nd Book: A Conspiracy in Belgravia) 22:44 - Study in Scarlet by Arthur Conan Doyle 25:10 - A Study in Charlotte by Brittany Cavallaro 25:55 - Hoopla! Kaytee’s beloved library service! 26:23 - Magpie Murders by Anthony Horowitz 26:26 - The Word is Murder by Anthony Horowitz 26:37 - The House of Silk by Anthony Horowitz 27:24 - The 7 1/2 Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle by Stuart Turton 27:31 - Shelf Subscription from Bookshelf Thomasville 31:11 - Well-Read Black Girl by Glory Edim 31:19 - @wellreadblackgirl on Instagram 34:11 - The Hound of the Baskervilles by Arthur Conan Doyle 34:25 - A Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket 34:54 - Coraline by Neil Gaiman (but now I really want the Graphic Novel version!) 35:15 - In a Dark, Dark Wood by Ruth Ware 35:17 - The Woman in Cabin 10 by Ruth Ware 35:36 - The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield 36:12 - Rebecca by Daphne Du Maurier 36:25 - Pretty Girls by Karin Slaughter 37:08 - Black Rabbit Hall by Eve Chase 37:15 - Kate Morton books 37:35 - The Cabin at the End of the World by Paul Tremblay 39:09 - Every Secret Thing by Susanna Kearsley 41:10 - Aunt Dimity Series by Nancy Atherton 42:20 - Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte 42:42 - Dark Matter by Blake Crouch 42:43 - Pines (1st in series) by Blake Crouch, then Wayward, then The Last Town 43:08 - Fox Evil by Minette Walters 44:08 - Circe by Madeline Miller 47:25 - Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen James and David Thomas *Please note that all book titles linked above are Amazon affiliate links. Your cost is the same, but a small portion of your purchase will come back to us to help offset the costs of the show. Thanks for your support!*  

Photo via PixaBay A listener asked us, "How do you gently encourage/educate your boy's teacher on what boys need and how to help them, rather than shame them, when they have gone into anger?" The short answer: It ain't easy, but it's so, so worth it! Many teachers know very little about the specific developmental trajectory and needs of boys; teacher training often does not include a course that delves into gender-related differences in learning and communication. Some teachers naturally "get" boys; others are easily overwhelmed by boys' energy. Most teachers, however, sincerely want to help children. They're eager to learn, and usually quite open to partnering with students' parents. After all, parents have had years to figure out their child's trigger points and preferred calming strategies; teachers only get a few months. Also: the research has consistently shown that what's good for boys is good for learning. Increasing recess time actually improves student focus, decreases off-task behavior (by as much as 25%, according to at least one study!) and increases academic achievement. But how do you share information about boys' needs with your sons' teachers? Very carefully. According to Janet & Jen, timing is everything; don't approach a teacher at the end of a busy day or during morning drop-off, and definitely DO NOT fire off an email or text to your son's teacher when you are angry. Share specific information about your boy before gently segueing to a more general discussion of boys' needs. Try framing your comments in a way that shows empathy. Saying something like, "Before I had Caleb, I didn't realize..." is one way to acknowledge the fact that you yourself had a lot to learn about boys-- and may inspire your son's teacher to reflect on her own knowledge of boys. If your son's teacher is interested in learning more, consider sharing a book or articles with her. (Some of our favorites are listed in the show notes below.) A school or community-wide book study is a great way to increase awareness of boys' needs too -- and may be the way to increase boys' engagement and academic achievement. Janet and Jen are available to speak at your school and bring a wealth of wisdom, humor, and empathy to both parents and teachers. In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss: The right time to talk "boy" with your son's teacher When -- and how -- to involve administration How to use the school's discipline referral data to identify opportunities for improvement How parents can work together to make a school more boy-friendly Links we mentioned (or should have) in Episode 126: BOKS Kids-- Reebok-sponsored, parent-inspired before & after school activity program 7 Ways Teachers Can Make School Better for Boys -- BuildingBoys blog post BuildingBoys Resource List Writing the Playbook: A Practitioner's Guide to Creating a Boy-Friendly School, by Kelley King Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, by Stephen James & David S. Thomas The Minds of Boys: Saving Our Sons from Falling Behind in School & in Life, by Michael Gurian US! We can come to your school, library or community & educate parents & teachers about boys. Click on the picture below to send us a message. We'll be in touch as soon as possible!

Your questions have been so good! We love hearing from each of you. This episode covers more questions related to parenting. In this week's episode we discuss: How kids handle emotions New ways to think about your child's overwhelming emotions The difference between a temper tantrum and an act of disobedience Sibling rivalry How to handle grief and loss with kids And how should we handle family members who don't hold their kids to the same values we hold ours to, especially when we spend a lot of time together with them? Again, if you want to submit a question for a future episode, simply click here to submit your question. It's an honor journeying with you! Show Notes:  Click here for Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen Thomas and David Thomas Click here for Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well Click here for FREE Feelings Chart for Kids! This week's questions: Emma: I am a part time single parent. My children are 5, 4 and 8 months. Last night, my eldest would not stop slamming things. I told him if he was going to continue this he would not have the sweets he was going to have for dessert when he finished his fruit. He slammed and his sweets were taken away. He then refused to get in the bath, refused to brush his teeth, refused to get into bed, and refused to be quiet so I could put the baby to sleep. I tried many things. He ended up slamming his door and crying in his bed (after 1 hour of all this). When I had gotten the baby to sleep, and my middle child was sleeping, I went into his room, told him his behavior was unacceptable, but that I still love him and always will. I told him that tomorrow was a new day and a new start. I had to keep my physical distance from my son as I was so angry with him that I was afraid of hurting him in my anger (grabbing him, pushing him, etc.). I was so angry that I could not hug him, or try to calm him, when he would not listen. What could I have done? Nichole: I have two things we struggle with in our house more recently. Part I: We have a 10-year-old and 5-year-old boy. I feel like we always have to separate the two of them because they both just can't play together well without fighting. Or my older son always wants to be away from his younger brother. I want to foster a healthy brother relationship for the boys and for them to grow up loving each other. Can we get more tips or ideas to foster this relationship and teach them better how to love each other more! Part II: We have also struggled this past year with death. We have had 4 huge losses and the kids went to all funerals. I can see they get anxious about things, more teary and worried. So we would love tips in how to continue to make them feel safe and that they don't have to be scared or so sad. We talk about heaven and Jesus and have a huge love of the Lord, it's just so hard to understand as a kid. (I lost my dad at 8 and can sometimes struggle with loss as well). Erika: My 3-year-old thinks it is optional to listen to me. Is this normal? How do I teach her this is definitely not an option, without losing my patience? Keila: I have a question related to friendships’ influence on young school-age children. My daughter is 7, and she loves hanging out with her 9-year-old cousins. We live (my brother's family and mine) about 40min away so we get to spend time together on most weekends. However, they are more liberal with TV choices and media, and how they handle technology in their house. We’ve had a few incidences where my daughter was exposed to materials on TV and cellphone (their kids each have cell phones while we are against that for our kids) that we consider inappropriate. The last time the girls spent the night there, they came back saying they spent the weekend playing on musical.ly. After this incident I feel like I should never allow for sleep overs at their house anymore,

Jimmy & Rachel reunite after being apart for almost a week and share about decision making in a healthy marriage.  Want to feel more unified?  Want to know how to be more honest and honorable towards your spouse?  Listen up!  Also, if you want to sign up for the first ever Revival House LIVE One Day Marriage event head on over to revivalhouse.org/contact and say “put me on the waiting list!”.   Life Languages        Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys

Our affectionally labeled "resident child therapists," David Thomas and Sissy Goff are back on the podcast! In season 1, David and Sissy joined us to talk about the emotional milestones of boys and girls. Now that school is in full session, we talk with them about social milestones. Respectively, Sissy eloquently describes how girls can develop socially, and David describes what it takes to help boys do the same. The four core social milestones include: awareness, reciprocity, ownership, and boundaries. In this episode, David and Sissy talk about the milestones, and also give us very practical ways we can help our boys and girls, respectively, reach these milestones. Fortunately, they also counsel us a bit with our kids. Christi took copious notes. David and Sissy are licensed counselors and serve at Daystar Counseling in Nashville. Along with Daystar’s founder, Melissa Trevethan, they host a website of helpful resources for parents called Raising Boys and Girls. Show Notes: For the book, Are My Kids on Track? click here. For David's book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, click here.  www.RaisingBoysandGirls.com Podcast Sponsors: 

Today's episode is a special milestone in the life of Surviving Sarah because we have our first male guest on the show. I've always said that I would have a man on the show as long as it benefits my audience. And today's guest certainly lives up to that! David Thomas, joins me at my kitchen table for Episode 51. He's a therapist, author and father of adolescents. He's has over 20 years of experience counseling kids and families. He's written 7 books including Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys and Intentional Parenting and the DVD curriculum Raising Boys & Girls. We set out to talk about raising boys but I have to tell you that I got so much out of our conversation even though I only have girls. We talked a lot about child development and how that impacts your parenting. We also talk about how to navigate meltdowns, how to adjust your own expectations and how to deal with your child's aggression. So pull up a chair to the table and join the conversation. For takeaways from the episode and all the resources mentioned, check out online at SurvivingSarah.  

I'm not a boy. Yet I'm raising four of them to be men. And as much as culture tries to tell us there aren't differences between boys and girls. My every day experience begs to differ. I truly don't understand the “why” behind most of my boys' choices. And it never benefits me to ask. This week (for my own help and maybe yours too) I've invited David Thomas on the show. As a family therapist and director at DayStar Counseling Center in Nashville, David has lots of experience counseling families and children. Having his own set of twin boys has provided a lot of education as well. The first book I ever read that gave me a glimpse into the mind of a boy is David's book “Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys”**.  Then I heard him speak at a DotMom event and I've always wanted to have him on the show. Our conversation did not disappoint. David's genteel manner and calm approach gave me such peace. Afterwards I felt encouraged and equipped to not only “handle” my boys but enjoy their uniqueness. David answered a slew of questions I received on Facebook from listeners. But a theme emerged in each topic we covered: outlets and boundaries. David would point out a need boys have and how we as moms could provide a proper outlet for that need. But he also gave great instruction on how to train on boys in regulation, by setting boundaries on where and when those needs can be met. If you are a boymom, get ready to be set free from a lot of guilt over “why your boy does that”. And given some practical ideas to help create places and times in your family's schedule to let “boys be boys” but not allow that phrase to be an excuse for unkind or inappropriate behavior. If you're not a boymom, I hope this will still be an entertaining episode to help you understand your husband, nephews, friend's son. And stay tuned because I'm working with David's partner Sissy Goff to record a “Raising Girls” episode this fall. (Of course, feel free to share this episode with any boymom friends you have. . .they will thank you!). What we chat about: When and how to let boys rough-house/wrestle How “Stage One boys” (ages 1 to 4 years old) express love with aggression. Providing an outlet and training regulation and respect. How to help our boys who feels things deeply (the ones often labeled as ‘sensitive'). Giving boys ways to process emotions with space and physical outlets. Helping boys hear our directions and respond to us. Taking advantage of how boys are hardwired visually. How to handle when boys talking about private parts, farting, etc. 4 & 14 year old boys and their testosterone surges. Links Mentioned: Brooke McGlothlin (Thank you Brooke for connecting us!) Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys ** Mini Trampoline ** ($25 option) Trampoline with handle bar  ** ($70 option) 5 Practical Actions to Help Boys Behave Birds and the Bees? Oh Help Me Please with Mary Flo Ridley (Ep 25) Raising Boys and Girls **Amazon affiliate link

Boys continue to struggle in our educational system. In this segment, we look at proven strategies to get boys to love school. Follow: @bamradionetwork @raepica1 @ruthmhrm @vealheidi #edchat #edreform #ece #earlyed #AskingWhatIf Richard Hawley, Ph.D: Headmaster emeritus of Cleveland's University School. She is the author of REACHING BOYS/TEACHING BOYS and I CAN LEARN FROM YOU: Boys as Relational Learners. Ruth Hanford Morhard is a writer, author and consultant in early education and institutional marketing to national, regional and local early childhood and human service institutions. Her latest book is "Wired to Move: Facts and Strategies for Nurturing Boys in Early Childhood Settings", published by Gryphon House. Heidi Veal currently serves students, families, and staff as an Assistant Principal in McKinney, Texas at her district's only Early Childhood School, Lawson ECS and a founding member of the #LeadUpChat PLN.