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This summer, while I continue to heal from surgery and dream up Season 6, I am re-airing our most popular series: Creative Archetypes! If you are unfamiliar with the Enneagram, you can listen to the intro episode from the original 2023 series here. And if you are familiar and know your number, might I suggest you listen to each episode (even those that aren't about your number) to develop empathy and understanding of those who see the world differently. The Enneagram is a powerful tool for personal and relationship transformation, for artists and everyone! If you have episode ideas, dream guest suggestions, or other feedback for me, drop me an email hello@artistsforjoy.org  Original show notes: Perfectionism can keep us from starting altogether, stop us mid-art, and suck the joy out of the finished creative project. Can you relate?  This week on the podcast, Merideth chats with Enneagram One, Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) about holding creative goals loosely, embracing imperfection, and becoming the architecture of your creative life.  Invitation:  1. Kendra's advice: "Ask someone you trust what they believe you bring to the creative process." 2. Explore The Lazy Genius' Magic Question: "What can I do now to make something easier later?" 3. Kendra says she lives by Suzanne Stabile's question, "What is mine to do?" Take this question to your journal and see what comes up.    Kendra Adachi's Lazy Genius Collective Elizabeth Joy Hooker's IG David Gate, poet, Enneagram Postcards Enneagram Workshop with Artists for Joy Enjoy the episode? Buy Merideth a coffee

In this heartfelt episode of Typology, Anthony and I sit down with Elizabeth Husserl—an Enneagram One with a Two wing and the author of the beautiful new book The Power of Enough: Finding Joy in Your Relationship with Money. Elizabeth's story begins over two decades ago when she first encountered the Enneagram. What followed was nothing short of transformational. Her work with the Enneagram didn't just shape her inner life—it helped heal her marriage and completely reframed her understanding of wealth. In our conversation, she invites us to imagine a richer, more expansive definition of money—one rooted in connection, belonging, and wholeness rather than scarcity and striving. Together, we explore: How the Enneagram can deepen personal growth and strengthen relationships Elizabeth's evolving relationship with money and what it's taught her The role of financial “DNA” and how we can begin to rewrite our inherited money stories Grounded practices for living with “enoughness” in every area of life If you're curious about how the Enneagram intersects with your financial story—or simply hungry for a more soulful approach to money—this episode is full of wisdom, vulnerability, and grace. You can learn more about Elizabeth's work at ElizabethHusserl.com, and follow her on Instagram @ElizabethHusserl for more insights.

Julie (SP/SO 1w2 126) says being an Enneagram One is like trying to control the lightning bolt you're riding. We talk about how her pursuit of competence — in painting, music, and even dog training — brought early success but gradually drained the joy from each pursuit. She shares what it's like to live in a body wired for precision and pressure, and how that rigidity eventually led to serious health issues after she threw herself into an activist cause. We explore how she navigates moral complexity not through rules, but through a somatic “yes,” and how her 2-fix allows her to “see people's souls.” Throughout the conversation, she highlights something rarely said about Ones: their sharp, absurd sense of humor that helps her stay connected to lightness and levity. LINKSLearn at The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/ Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/ Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994 House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@houseofenneagram TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 03:04 - Julie's journey as an artist 17:51 - Creativity and excellence as a Type 1 22:43 - 1's rigidity in music 28:52 - Being a frustration type in the body center 31:44 - 1w2 “rightness of action” 34:18 - Type 2/2fix “tracking emotional data points” 44:08 - Casting judgment or seeing soul? 49:27 - Julie's relationship to criticality 57:26 - Advocacy at the expense of personal health 1:00:47 - “Primordial Perfection” 1:04:43 - Detecting anxiety as a body type 1:08:23 - The humor and absurdism of 1 1:17:25 - Outro CREDITS Interview by Josh Lavine Edited by Kristen Oberly Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram1

Brian Mueller on the Enneagram One Journey Brian Mueller shares his experience as an Enneagram One, exploring the inner critic's powerful call to “do the right thing.” Brian discusses how recognizing his Type One structure helps him regulate it, using awareness and practice to avoid being confined by his Type.  Brian also highlights the ongoing work of returning to presence—not just getting grounded, but continually regrounding. He helps men discover identity and purpose through powerfully unique processes through  Illuman. Find his poetry at brianmueller.com. Find his work with spiritual formation at Choosing Presence.

I'd rather be real than perfect. And I am truly perfectly ok being imperfect, but this does not come naturally to me.  I am a type A, Enneagram One. The struggle is still real and often. In this episode I share the scripture verses that have helped to encourage me and bring me freedom from the need to appear perfect!  ClickHERE to listen to this episode. (Also, available onApple Podcasts,Google Podcasts,Spotify,iHeartRadio, and more!)And please don't forget to subscribe, share, rate, and review. Together we can help more women discover practical ways to apply the power of God's Word to our everyday stuff!Scripture references mentioned in this episode:Isaiah 40:30-312 Corinthians 10:52 Corinthians 12:9-101 Corinthians 1:26-29Exodus 3-4Romans 8:28Resources mentioned in this episode:Start your own podcast with Riverside! Printable Scripture Memorization Cards – NOW ON SALE! The Bible tells us the Word of God is our weapon. Are you ready to take on whatever life brings your way?Perhaps nothing has strengthened my walk with the Lord more than memorizing scripture. When we have spent time meditating on His Word, these verses will rise up in our spirits when we need them most.Withthese printable scripture cards (one for each week of the year) you can begin truly hiding His Word in your heart and taking practical steps to a powerful life and a more grounded faith.Get Yours Today! 

Learn more about who God made you to be, and who God is calling you to become!This week we're kicking off a two-part series on the Enneagram, which is a personality typing system with roots growing back into antiquity. The two episodes are pieced together with clips from a 10-episode series we did in Fall 2022, with Enneagram experts who dove deep into each of the nine personality types found within the Enneagram. you'll get a brief history and introduction to the Enneagram and then we'll dive in with each of the experts to learn more about each personality type. In today's episode we'll explore types 1-4, and next week we'll dive into types 1-5.Today's experts include:Hazel Monae, who helps us explore Enneagram Ones. Hazel lives, works, and creates leadership development curriculum at the intersections of anti-racism/racial equity, ethical leadership, and theology. Listen to the full Enneagram One episode with Hazel here.Holly Johnson, who dives into Enneagram Twos. Holly is the pastor of Spirit Garage, a church in Minneapolis, MN. She's been a youth director, campus minister, and even an administrator. Listen to the full Enneagram Two episode with Holly here.Val Hystek, who helps us understand Enneagram Threes. Val is an author and a primary teacher at an inner-city school in Ontario, Canada, though she's currently taking a year off to write a book! Listen to the full Enneagram Three episode with Val here.Jody Thone, who helps us explore Enneagram Fours. Jody is a leadership development expert, coach, and reflective supervision practitioner who works at the intersection of spirituality, transformational growth, and creativity. Listen to the full Enneagram Four episode with Jody here.Learn MoreYou can read about the history of the Enneagram via the Enneagram Institute's website and explore in-depth descriptions of each of the nine Enneagram TypesFree Enneagram test (once you receive your results, you can pay to learn more, but we recommend taking a screenshot of your results and then going to the Enneagram Institute to learn more)Paid Enneagram test via the Enneagram InstituteConnect with us!Donate today and support our work!Sign up to receive a little Gospel in your inbox every Monday Morning with our weekly devotional.Join our FREE bookclubCheck out our website for various resources - including devotionals, journaling prompts, and even curriculumGet some Lady Preacher Podcast swag!Connect with us on Instagram and Facebook

In this episode of Between, Angela Lee the Executive Director of Harambee Ministries joins us as we kick off a new series on the Enneagram! Angela is a leader, speaker, reconciler, wife, mom AND a Type 1 on the Enneagram. Angela opens up about what it's like to step into mentorship roles, balancing her perfectionist tendencies with the need for grace and flexibility. Tune in as Angela talks about how the Enneagram has helped her navigate change, lead with purpose, and embrace her evolving role as a mentor and leader. Connect with Angela on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelascottlee?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Connect with Harambee: https://www.harambeeministries.org/

Anna Peterson, Susan Johnson, and Steve Garlow combine forces to form our panel of those leading with Enneagram Type 1. They masterfully excavate the Enneagram One structure to provide a clear picture of how the Type 1 personality operates. Enneagram Type 1 is known for its strong, unrelenting inner critic. As our panelists relate, the inner critic is an ever-present reality. Anna, Susan, and Steve agree, the One structure often causes them to be their own worst critic. That said, our panelists offer real hope that the inner critic doesn't have to dominate. Through centering practices, forming trusting relationships, regulating self-dialogue and pursuing spiritual formation, they have learned to have an inner critic rather than the inner critic having them.  Anna, Susan, and Steve show us the strengths and gifts that the Enneagram One structure offers as well. Ones are conscientious, skilled, compassionate and live with integrity. Their pursuit of excellence is a superpower they offer the world. Jeff's website is www.transmuto.org.

Action ItemsDo self-reflection on how your own desires were/are met, and how this relates to your personal stories.Consider opening up to safe people about what you are discovering and figuring out regarding your own story and the seven desires.OutlineDesires and their impact on relationships.Hosts express gratitude for podcast's reach and impact, while acknowledging the need for continued support and sharing.Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the importance of communication in sexual relationships.They describe how many couples operate in a "sexual dance" of non-communication, which can lead to unhealthy patterns.Hosts discuss seven desires of the human heart in navigating difficult circumstances.Roane Hunter explains that desire is not just a physical need but a deeper longing for true intimacy and connection.The Hebrew word "yetzer hara" refers to the dark desires within us, including murder, greed, and lust, which are part of human nature even after salvation.Confronting dark desires in Christian life.Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the limitations of traditional religious teachings on sexuality and relationships.Derrick argues that the Western Church is not open or safe for discussions on these topics, while Hunter believes that people are desperate for this information.Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the struggle with dark desires and the importance of acknowledging and addressing them in one's spiritual journey.The speakers emphasize the reality of these desires in people's lives and the need to understand and deal with them in a biblical and experiential way.Desires and their impact on relationships.Roane Hunter discusses the "seven desires" concept, citing James 4:1-2.Roane Hunter discusses the importance of being heard, understood, and blessed, as well as being safe, touched, included, and chosen in relationships.Hunter emphasizes the need for emotional safety and human touch in relationships, and how a lack of these can lead to long-term problems.Unmet desires driving harmful behaviors in men.Ben Derrick discusses his desire for affirmation and understanding in his relationships, and how he has taken control of his own desires when they are not being met.Derrick shares his experiences with sexuality and obsession with being chosen and touched, and how this has impacted his relationships.Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the impact of unmet desires on sexual behavior and the importance of addressing these needs in a healthy and constructive way.Roane Hunter discusses the appeal of masturbation and pornography, citing ease of access and satisfaction of desires as main reasons.Hunter argues that the brain is conditioned to respond positively to these stimuli, making it difficult for men to stop despite negative consequences.The impact of pornography and masturbation on individuals and relationships.Men struggle to regulate emotions through pornography use, leading to unmet desires and emotional work.Roane Hunter discusses the challenges of overcoming pornography addiction, particularly in men.Hunter notes that exposure to pornography is common among children, with the average age of exposure to hardcore porn being around 10-13 years old.Empowering individuals to express their desires in relationships.Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the harm caused by shaming children and using religion to hide their sexual curiosity.They argue that this approach leads to secrecy and silence, causing more harm in the long run.Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the "Desires of the Heart" list, a tool for couples to identify and communicate their deepest needs and desires in their relationship.The list includes 7 categories, and the couple works together to rate how well their partner is meeting their needs in each category.Emotional intelligence and expression in men.Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick discuss the importance of communication in relationships, particularly in understanding each other's needs and desires.They explore how childhood experiences can shape one's understanding of relationships and how to meet needs in a healthy way.Roane Hunter describes himself as a high feeling man, raised by an Enneagram One mother and Five father, and struggles with emotional intensity and overactive conscience.Hunter believes that parents of high feeling emotional men often struggle to meet their emotional needs, leading to a "big mess" in relationships until the man can slow down and be understood.Roane Hunter shares personal experiences as a high feeling man, recognizing that many men struggle with emotional expression and stoicism.Ben Derrick agrees and adds that depression can be seen as anger turned inward, while anger turned outward can be a sign of depression.Emotional needs and how to meet them in a healthy way.Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the importance of men's groups for emotional support and meeting desires.Men can find emotional fulfillment in healthy men's groups, rather than relying solely on their spouses.Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick discuss the importance of self-awareness in relationships and spiritual growth.They emphasize the need for men to open up and uncover their true selves, especially in same-gender relationships. 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Episode Description: In this episode of "What If? For Authors," Claire Taylor tackles the anxiety-inducing topic of not being liked. Drawing from her experience as an Enneagram coach and her own author journey, Claire explores the fear of rejection and how it affects different Enneagram types. Whether you're just starting out or are an established author, this episode provides a compassionate and realistic approach to managing your expectations and emotions regarding others' opinions. Key Takeaways: Fear of Rejection: Understand that the fear of not being liked can be amplified once you start publishing, but this amplification can also be an opportunity for growth. Perfectionism and Approval: Learn how perfectionism, especially from an Enneagram One perspective, can impact your need for approval and how to address it. Different Enneagram Types: Explore how various Enneagram types experience the fear of not being liked and how it impacts their writing. Responsibility for Feelings: Recognize that how others feel about you is their responsibility, not yours, and take ownership of your feelings about others. Focusing on Supporters: Redirect your attention from critics to supporters to build a stronger connection with those who already like you. Parental Expectations: Address the influence of parental approval on your creative decisions and the importance of disappointing them to stay true to yourself. Internal Liberation: Embrace the clarity and freedom that comes from accepting that disappointing others might be part of your path toward fulfilling your purpose. Why Listen? If you find yourself struggling with the fear of not being liked or are overwhelmed by criticism, this episode offers a thoughtful and empathetic perspective. This episode is a must-listen for any author seeking to balance the desire for approval with staying true to their creative vision. Join the Conversation: Have a question or fear you'd like me to explore? Reach out to me at contact@ffs.media. Access the transcript for this episode here. Happy Writing!

"You can't treat what you haven't diagnosed and you can't diagnose what you haven't assessed." - Chanel Dokun "You can't fix what you can't name." - Suzanne Stabile   Yeah, the two of them could talk for way longer than an hour! But, for today, let's meet Enneagram One, Chanel Dokun. She is a mother of two, life coach, speaker, and author of Life Starts Now. To find out more about Chanel and what she is doing in the world, visit chaneldokun.com.    SUPER PROMOS today Alabama, The Enneagram and Spiritual Practices with Suzanne and Rev. Joseph Stabile, September 6-7 CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFO AND TICKETS South Carolina, The Enneagram and Relationships with the Enneagram Godmother, October 4-5 CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFO AND TICKETS Texas and Online, 2024 Enneagram Bootcamp: Stress, Loss, and Relationships with Suzanne Stabile and LTM, August 1-3 CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFO AND TICKETS The 2025 Cohort Program The deadline to apply is August 20, 2024, so there is time, but don't miss out on this incredible opportunity to dive into solitary work that cannot be done alone in the greatest space with the greatest people. CLICK HERE to learn more about each cohort: the dates, expectations, and applications.   TODAY's INTRO: SNL (NBC: May 13, 2017) 30 Rock (NBC: S6, E8) VEEP (HBO: S7, E1)

New York Times bestselling author John Mark Comer returns to Typology to share what he's working on personally, his struggle with control and perfectionism, and the need for self-effort AND grace in spiritual formation.  He reminds us that spiritual formation isn't just a religious thing, it's a human thing. We are all being formed by someone or something. So how do we ensure we reach our full potential and deepest connection?  From his new book, Practicing the Way, John Mark explains the importance of crafting a rule of life to support spiritual growth and deep transformation.  Join us as we discuss obstacles to growth and the path to renewal through the lens of an Enneagram One.  ------------------------------------------------------------------- John Mark Comer is the New York Times bestselling author of multiple books including The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry (more than half a million sold) and Live No Lies. His new book is the New York Times and USA Today bestseller Practicing the Way: Be with Jesus. Become like him. Do as he did. He's a founding pastor of Bridgetown Church in Portland, Oregon, and a teacher and writer with Practicing the Way. After serving as the lead pastor of Bridgetown Church in Portland, Oregon, for nearly two decades, John Mark and his family now reside in Los Angeles, where he serves as a teacher in residence on discipleship and spiritual formation at Vintage Church LA. His podcasts, “John Mark Comer Teachings” & “Rule of Life,” have been ranked on top religion and spirituality podcast charts in the US and UK.  

True transformation occurs when we reach a point of defeat and surrender to a higher power. When we open ourselves up in a posture of receptivity and allow forgiveness, mercy and power to enter our lives, true healing from the heart can begin.  Today, pastor, leadership coach, and podcast host Christopher Cook returns to discuss the process of transformation through the lens of the Enneagram. We explore the limitations of willpower, self-help books, and life hacks on the spiritual journey and the intentional effort required to find wholeness from the inside out.   Learn the power of securing your thoughts, examining motivating factors, exposing lies and focusing on the truth and how they lead to lasting change.  Listen to Typology   ----------------------------------------------------------------- About Chris Cook Christopher Cook is a pastor, leadership coach, and podcast host focused on transformation and wholeness, and the author of Healing What You Can't Erase: Transform Your Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Health from the Inside Out. With an aptitude for strategy and execution, he is able to unearth clarity out of complexity, which drives his mission to help individuals and organizations thrive in their true identity. His weekly podcast, Win Today with Christopher Cook, equips wellness-minded listeners to move beyond the limitations of self-help and instead toward an integrated life of wholeness from the inside out. Christopher resides in suburban Detroit, Michigan. Connect with him online at wintoday.tv and on social media @WINTODAYChris.  

This is the Enneagram Travel Style Series, where we are learning about the key traits and motivations that shape each enneagram type's travel style and vacation experiences. On this episode, we're diving into the ENNEAGRAM ONE. We're talking through the Enneagram 1's biggest focus and fear with a vacation, as well as her preferences and tendencies within the 4-part Wild Hair Travels signature travel style framework. Are YOU an enneagram 1? I'd love to hear from you about your unique travel style: send me a DM over on Instagram! Or share your thoughts and experiences as an Enneagram Two traveler over inside the Happy Women Travel More Facebook Group. Check out the other episodes in this series for the rest of the 9 Enneagram types!   LISTEN BACK: The Original LEARN YOUR TRAVEL STYLE Series: Episode 22: Let's Learn Your Travel Style Episode 23: Learn Your Travel Style (Part 1: Planning) Episode 24: Learn Your Travel Style (Part 2: Excursions) Episode 25: Learn Your Travel Style (Part 3: Confidence) Episode 26: Learn Your Travel Style (Part 4: Comforts)   Travel Style Series 2.0: Episode 73: You Don't Have To Do That When You Go There Episode 74: How Do You Like To Approach Your Vacation Days? Episode 75: Let's Talk About Sightseeing Episode 76: Is Your Travel Style Keeping You In Your Comfort Zone? Episode 77: Lodging Vibes That Vibe With Your Travel Style   Travel Style Avatar Series: 124: The 8 Travel Style Avatars // Which Are You? 125: Travel Style Avatars // The Bucket Lister 126: Travel Style Avatars // The Escapist 127: Travel Style Avatars // The Adventurer 128: Travel Style Avatars // The Soul Searcher 129: Travel Style Avatars // The Socialite 130: Travel Style Avatars // The Nomad 131: Travel Style Avatars // The Tourist 132: Travel Style Avatars // The Thrill Seeker 133: My Travel Style Avatar // How I Narrowed It Down 134: The BEST Travel Style Avatar Companions

Anna and Bracey have Seb back on the pod and it's finally time to talk about Enneagram One-ness! There's discussion of being self-critical, how a One's expectations might impact others, and the low expression of Ones. There's also talk of how these things play out at work versus in relationships. If you are a One or are in a relationship with a One, give it a listen! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit likehearted.substack.com/subscribe

Brian Lee shares his personal story of experiencing spiritual abuse and what led him to start Broken to Beloved, an online summit and support resource for survivors. Register for the Broken to Beloved Summit January 23-26, 2024 HEREBrian Lee is a pastor, coach, and speaker. As a survivor of spiritual abuse and religious trauma, he has spent his time since leaving vocational ministry in 2021 working to provide recovery and resources for fellow victims and survivors. In 2023, he created and founded Broken to Beloved, a nonprofit organization that exists to help other victims and survivors through its Annual Summit and seasonal Cohorts, while also providing trauma awareness and safeguarding practices to pastors, leaders and churches.Based in Richmond, VA, Brian loves to go on outdoor adventures with his family, explore their neighborhood, community, and city, find good parks, enjoy good food, and have fun together. As a coffee snob and addict, he could always use another cup. Transcript (Transcript is unedited for typos or misspellings): Katherine: hey, Brian. Brian: Hey, Katherine. How's it going? Going? All right. How about you? Doing, Katherine: doing well, doing, doing okay for doing okay. Or a Tuesday. Brian: It's just for the end of the month slash year slash the world is losing its mind. Katherine: Right. I know like there's been a lot of moments this week where somebody will say something about Christmas and I'm like, Oh, that's, that's on Sunday.Yes. Okay. We are, we are still, there is still Christmas. Yes. Well, thanks for joining me. I am really excited to talk to you about your summit that you are hosting and curating in January for Spiritual Abuse Awareness Month. At the time this episode comes out, it will already be January. So I'm really excited to hear about that.I got to participate in that [00:01:00] last year. We'll be participating again this year. Great time to just connect with other people working in this spiritual abuse, recovery, religious trauma, recovery space, and also. Spiritual Abuse Awareness Month for folks who are not aware is in January. And we were talking before we started recording about when we first heard about Spiritual Abuse Awareness Month.When, when was it for listeners that you first Brian: heard about it? I just learned about it last year because, and I, but to be fair, I've only been doing this work for about a year now. I wish I knew about it sooner. And I think we were both saying it's like, we can't find who originated this thing. But it's been around for at least 20 years, which to me is crazy.Yeah. I learned about it because of Aaron hung, who's an artist who was doing that whole AZ trauma recovery series on her Instagram page. And I was like, spiritually, it'd be some awareness a month. That's a thing. And then the more I dove into it, I was like, Oh my gosh, this is absolutely a thing. And it's been around a long time.Why do we not know more about it? Katherine: Exactly. I was wondering too, when, [00:02:00] when did that book, the oldest probably. Documented writing about spiritual abuse is probably the subtle power of spiritual abuse. I Brian: think that's what I was thinking. Yep. And that was, I think it was written in the 90s. I want to say, okay, I'm going to look for a publication date because I want to be sure.But I remember reading it thinking I was like, did they just write this like a year ago? And it's like, no, it's been around for a very long time. Yeah, Katherine: yeah, yeah. And then even just like the reality that PTSD. Was not an official diagnosis until the 80s. Brian: Yes. Katherine: Yes. We're very new in this trauma world. Yes.We're all very new to this. This is a new, new territory for all of us. Did you, did you find the Brian: date? Amazon says the publication date is 2005, but that seems late to me. I feel like it was before that. It has a very nice Katherine: cover. Brian: It does! Which is why I feel like it is. So now I'm opening my Kindle to look for the actual copyright date on the inside of it.Yeah, Katherine: maybe that was the most [00:03:00] recent Brian: publication. That's what I'm wondering. Library, look for the yellow book right there. The yellow book. Yeah. That's what I call it. The yellow book. Copyright page. 1991. You were right. Boom. Boom. First time. Katherine: First time. Yeah. So I guess that's the first time that that became something Brian: that.People and for reference to me that feels like 10 years ago, but it's 32 years ago.Yes, I know that tells you how old I am feel like that long ago, but because it wasn't it wasn't Katherine: Yeah, I know because i'm like i've lived Yeah, I've lived longer in the 2000s than I lived in the, in the, in the, in the 1900s, 1900s or so. Brian: It's been a while. How dare you? Yes, we are, we are, we're getting, we're getting up there.We're getting up there. Yes, yes we are. [00:04:00] Speaking of Katherine: age, actually I have nothing. Nothing to say about it. I'm just trying to segue talking about broken to beloved, which is your summit that's coming up and to get us started. I would love to hear whatever you feel comfortable sharing about your spiritual abuse story and how can you, you said that you discovered this word, right?Or this phrase, spiritual abuse, this term fairly recently, when did you, maybe just to start out, when did you first hear the term and did you have an aha moment like many of us Brian: do? Gosh, when did I first hear the term? I honestly don't even know, but it was probably from one of the books that I started reading that validated that experience for me.It might have been K. J. Ramsey's book The Lord is My Courage, and I read it more as a, oh, maybe this will help me in a [00:05:00] dark season, and that's one of my favorite psalms anyway, so, and then I didn't realize she was going to go into their whole spiritual abuse story, and then I am a person who reads all the footnotes and then goes and finds all the primary resources and reads those, so Katherine: that's favorite reader.They were like, we put this in here for you. Brian: Yes. Well, and that's, I love footnotes. So, so because of her, I think is, is how I found the subtle power of spiritual abuse. And then from there, I went down the rabbit hole. I mean, something's not right. Redeeming Power, Church Called Tove, Try Softer, Narcissism Comes to Church, you know, all these books.And now in the last two years, I've read over 40. Five books on that topic, which seems overwhelming because it kind of is, but it all came out of my personal experience, right? So I left my last church in July of 2021. I had been there for just about three years, I think. And I walked into that church.[00:06:00] My wife and I have both moved here saying to each other it would be really nice if this works out And if it doesn't because we've already been hurt before I think we're done with ministry for a while Which feels kind of crazy to walk into a church saying that like this is the last stop Yes.Basically. Yeah. Not indefinitely, not forever, but for a while, we're going to just give this a break because we're done. And so, you know, my story goes back over 10 years now, I think I worked at a Christian college as the marketing, as the graphic designer for the marketing department. I had also attended and graduated from that college, which isn't unusual.But it was a completely different experience being a student there than it was being on staff there. And I didn't know what to do with the cognitive dissonance of looking at leaders that I respected and admired Who seemed to preach the gospel and talk about servant leadership and humility and all these things But then I would be sitting in meetings I was like I don't know who this person is who is so [00:07:00] angry and belittling and demeaning and authoritarian and all these pieces And so finally leaving that environment I need to ask you a Katherine: question, just like following up on that, because I feel like that's such a common theme of like the, what you preach and what you teach is not who you are.And I just, I just hear that all the time. And just was talking to someone about the other day about her father, who was a pastor and he. He was a pastor and he would preach these things about like parenting and then he would like not be that type of parent. And I'm just curious from the experience that you had what, what is your take on that of like, why, like, you obviously know what's right.Where, where is this disconnect happening because you can preach it enough to convince people then what's happening here. What's your Brian: [00:08:00] take on that? My take for the last two or three years now has been, it all boils down to the need for power and control. And this message is going to work and this message is going to work.And so the secondary or maybe even tertiary word that comes out of that is optics. It all comes down to optics and the way things look and appear so that I can maintain power and control. And so if I can maintain this image of, then I will continue to have power and control and influence over these people as long as they don't see behind the curtain.And if they do see behind the curtain, it doesn't matter because I control them anyway because I'm their boss, right? Or because I am their spiritual authority or leader or whatever it is. So I, it's wrecking. Man, there's so many ways I can go so the last pastor I had would often say things like when I first started.It's like you have to recognize the hats that you wear when you walk into a room. So I know that I'm the [00:09:00] pastor. So I know that there's a power dynamic. So I had to be aware that when I'm leading a conversation or that there's going to be a shift in something somewhere. But then this is the same guy who would absolutely manipulate that power dynamic.Yeah, or pretend that he was the servant or the victim or the low man on the totem pole is like you don't get it both ways. Like so. So I know that you cognitively know these things to be true. And yet I see you do the polar opposite. And then use those things to twist them to your advantage. Yes. In the way of whether ignorantly or intentionally, both are worse, harming someone else in the process.Katherine: Yeah, and that is the crux of spiritual abuse and why it is devastating and so damaging and so complex and so confusing is like these people are preaching these good messages that they are aware are quote unquote good messages, but [00:10:00] using that intentionally to manipulate and control people. So then these good messages.suddenly become infused with this thing that makes us just terrified. Brian: Poison. It's poison. Katherine: Yeah. And we're just, we're just like, I can't even engage with this, even though some of this stuff is really good, you know, that. Yeah. Yeah. And, and, and yet it just causes this. Massive cavern of, of just fear and doubt and trauma.Brian: Yes, I think that's where a lot of the confusion comes from, too, is because, because so much of it is truth, right? Or is based on quote, good intentions or scripture or whatever it is, but then you see it manipulated and twisted. So now you don't know what to believe or what's true or good anymore.Right, and you can't Katherine: trust good people who are saying absolutely, it's like absolutely walk into a room and you're like, are they good or [00:11:00] not, you know, just, just being able to trust, even just what people say and like, and then you're kind of in evangelicalism and church culture, you like you walk into a church and and everyone's believing the same thing.Well, Are, are they, are they, are we, are we all on the same page here? I talked to someone the other day that like teaches their children just because someone is a pastor doesn't mean they're interpreting scripture actually accurately. And I was like, okay, that's a very wise thing to teach your child, but so sad that you're saying.has led you to teach that to your child. Brian: Yeah. Yeah. Same. Well, and I've heard, I've heard parents and other people just like, because normally we instruct our kids to pay attention or listen to the grownups. And I've heard other grown up, other adults and friends say, it's like, actually, that's not always true because grownups won't always tell you the right thing to do, or they might be wanting to hurt you in some kind of way.And it's like, I hate that we have to teach our kids that, but it's, that's [00:12:00] the way of the world today. And it's just really unfortunate and sad and grieving. Katherine: Yes. When you're allowed to be afraid of Santa Claus. Yes. Brian: Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Yes. That's okay if you're afraid. So trust your gut on that one.Yeah. So anyway, so I went through that experience three times in three different environments. Three times. The first time, not necessarily in a row, but very close. So the first time at a college with an older leader, mentor, figure, admired. Second time with a, someone who very young and then I had a short break for about two years and then ended up where I was now with someone who's basically my contemporary.But it's just getting it, getting hit from all sides of it. And I had had enough. So when we left, when I left the church in July of 21, I was like, I am absolutely done for a while and I've got to figure all of this out because I don't know why it keeps happening to me, you know, a result of all the gas lighting is like, it must be my fault.So it must be something wrong in the denominator. [00:13:00] Exactly. And we had already been seeing our counselor therapist for a while. So we just kind of dove into the topic head first. It's like, I just, I'm in a tailspin. I don't know what to do. Like, I don't know which way is up right now, and I just help. Just help.And she, she is a trauma informed therapist, which was extreme. I'm grateful for, because that's not why we started going to her. But that helped to process all of this stuff and then finding these books and finding these resources and chasing the rabbit holes got me to the place was like, okay, I can name spiritual abuse.I can define it. I can name trauma and define it. And after about a year and a half. Of doing that work and processing through the trauma and the abuse. I was like, I think I might be in a place where I feel like I'm doing better and I'm not doing great, but I'm definitely better than I was. And I think I actually have a framework for how I want to help other people because everywhere around me, I see people dealing with the same thing.And I hate that we're all here. Katherine: [00:14:00] Absolutely. Did you have, when you were like doing research, did you have something that you, how are you defining it at the time? You just calling it church hurt. What were you Googling? Brian: What were the things that you? Yeah. Well, yeah. I mean, I think it starts with church hurts.That's kind of the phrase that people hear. And then once I got my brain around the term spiritual abuse, I was like, Oh, okay. And then of course everyone quotes, the body keeps a score. So I forced myself through that one. And then through that one learned, learned trauma and then found books on religious trauma and started doing that whole thing.So just coming up with definitions and just kind of collecting all these in a master Google doc for my brain and figuring it out from there. Katherine: Yeah. Yeah. And then at what point did you say? Yeah. So you said that I want to help people and help make sense of this. Where did the vision for broken to beloved come from?Cause last year was the first year, right? April, wait, I guess that's this year, right? [00:15:00] Brian: Yeah, it is. Yeah. April of this year. Yeah. 20, 23 at the time. So it didn't start as broken into beloved. It started as a six week cohort, which I call through, which is based on the children's book. Going on a bear hunt because we can't go around it.Can't go over it. You just got to go through it. Right. And that came up from a friend, Amy. I was speaking at her summit. She does an Enneagram summit and I also do Enneagram coaching, but she said, what do you want to talk about? I was like, this sounds crazy, but. Do you want to talk like, can I talk about like spiritual abuse?She goes, what? We have to do that. And so it just got all my wheels turning and then that's what kind of turned into the cohort. So I, I created a framework for a six week cohort to lead people. You know, and the story of that is like, because I over identified myself as broken for so long, I literally walked into this last church interview with the pastors and elders and said, Listen, they were like, hey, why should we hire you?And my answer was, well, actually, you [00:16:00] don't want to hire me because I'm damaged goods. Let me just disqualify myself to you now because you don't want me because I'm broken and I'm really damaged. So you don't want me here. And so I recognize that I was wearing that as my identity. And so through KJ Ramsey's book, through all these other books that identified Wade Mullin, something's not right and all these other things, it's like, Oh, okay, so maybe I'm not the problem.Yeah, maybe there's stuff broken in the system and it's not to say I'm not blameless for a lot of things because I certainly am but it was Developing a framework for what does it look like to move out of my brokenness and to actually name the things that have happened to Me because we can't heal what we can't name.So naming things is really important Recognizing where I am in time and space so that I can pull myself to the present and recognize when I'm safe when I'm not When I'm triggered or activated when I'm not And then using all the polyvagal theory stuff that she includes in there. And then [00:17:00] recognizing how embodiment is so important and breath practices and mindfulness things and moving forward so that we can recognize, identify, and then embrace our belovedness as our actual identity, not our brokenness.So the cohort came first in October of 2022. It went really, really well. I did it again in January of 23, which is the beginning of the year that we're recording. And so coming out of those two cohorts, I was like, man, it seems like there's an audience for this and a need for it. And all the books that I have read have done a really great job defining terms for me.They do a good job of validating experiences and telling stories. I've read almost nothing that offers what now? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Like, I just don't know what to do. Like, okay, great. Thanks for sharing the information, but what do I actually do now? Cause I still feel stuck. So the whole point of the broken to beloved summit, which came from the bookends of the cohort of starting broken and ending beloved [00:18:00] was to invite all the authors that I had read and the resources that I had found online, get them in one place and just say, great.What now? What now? What now? And to make it practical, right? So the whole tagline I use for everything is finding a pathway toward healing and wholeness. When Katherine: you were describing yourself as broken when you would walk into these interviews, what did that mean to you? Was that yeah, expound on what that meant and then how is that showing up for Brian: you?I don't know if I've ever been asked that question. I just felt broken. Like my whole brain was. I'm just unsure of what to believe or what was right or wrong. I'm also an Enneagram One, which is very right wrong, black white minded. I always think I have to do things the right way. So for me It was always a, well, if I was fired from this place, or if I had to leave because I was so toxic, what did I do wrong?But other people [00:19:00] loved me, and it was just this group, so maybe it was, maybe it was them, but maybe it was me, but I'm not sure, and I think I'm really good at my job. And people tell me I'm good at my job, but the pastor just told me I'm not and that he needs to replace me because the board told him so even though they've never given me feedback in any of my reviews that anything needed to change when I've been asking for them for years.So it's, it's all that kind of stuff that in your brain messes with you. It's also the the second place that we left, we were friends with. The pastor and his wife, we graduated together. We were alumni together. I was like, we thought we were friends. We hung out at each other's houses. And then to do something like that and to feel so stabbed in the back, really It was a, it was just kind of whiplash, right?It's like, what, what, what happened there? And so what's wrong with me and what's wrong with my relationships? Cause I thought we were okay, but apparently not because then this happens. So walking into this last interview to just say, Hey, I'm damaged goods. I'm broken. I mean, that's really what it was. And then I had [00:20:00] had two years at another church where I.Genuinely thrived for two years. And I was like, Oh, there's actually a different way to do things. Yeah. And I didn't realize that. And then we experienced more trauma. One of our best friends passed away tragically in a car accident. And so that threw everything into tailspin and dealing with the aftermath of that.So it was just kind of like, Hey, we're really not in a good place right now for a transition or for something to change. And yet I felt so. Bound is not the right word I'm looking for, but I'm going to use it by the whole idea of. If God wants to do something here, I don't want to close the door and say no.And I don't say that to over spiritualize anything or myself, but it's just the words that came out of my mouth at the time. So we just kind of kept going with the process. And I remember the first several weeks slash months of having started this job, just trying to be really vulnerable with people and honest, just like, listen, I, I don't come here pretending I'm perfect in any [00:21:00] way I'm really broken right now and we need help. Just so you know that, and I might have some answers or help for you, but I'm coming at it from a position of brokenness and the more I do this work, the more I recognize how okay that really is.Katherine: Yeah, and it kind of sounds like as you're describing. What brokenness was to you? It sounds like trauma, but it sounds like internalized trauma of this is somehow my fault, like these outside messages and this trauma that I'm experiencing is due to something. Brian: Yeah. Potentially. Well, and isn't that part of the toxic theology that a lot of churches teach is like that you are responsible for your sins and how they label everything as sin.So if something bad happened in your life, it must be your fault because you weren't holy enough. You didn't pray enough. You didn't whatever [00:22:00] enough. Right. And it's like not. Not taking into account any of the effects of abuse where the abused actually did nothing. It's like when a woman gets raped, Oh, what were you wearing?How did you contribute? What perfume do you have? It's like, come on, really? But that's where I was mentally, emotionally, all the things. Katherine: Yeah, and that thin layer of, like, you must be sinning or God is, like, sanctifying you and is allowing these happen, these things to happen to, like, grow your faith or, you know, and, like, getting to that place, naming, as you said, getting to that place where you just, you're just able to point out it and to say this was not okay, period.Like should never have happened. We should never should never have had to go through this like this was never an okay thing when you got to your church, the last church and you like was this the church that you were [00:23:00] saying I am broken and I am damaged goods. Yes. And then that Brian: obviously didn't go did not pan out.Was Katherine: that used against you Brian: was what part used against me? The fact that you were Katherine: open about your brokenness. Brian: Yes and no, I would say by the pastor. Yes, because I think in the kindest way I can say this possible, he's a master manipulator. So I think he knew us coming in and me saying those things up front and they pitched themselves very much as, oh, well, we are a healing church.We're a place where people come so they can just receive and sit back and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right. And but then, you know, six months, two months, four months, two years later, they're saying, Oh, you're still praying for that thing. You're not healed yet. Are you not over that yet? Right? It's that kind of stuff.And so those are the major red flags that go up. It's like, maybe this is not such a great place. Katherine: Absolutely. Absolutely. So pitching themselves as a healing place and then, and then not. [00:24:00] Not so Brian: much. Yeah, maybe you used to be but not so Katherine: much today. How would you say? broken to beloved is Creating a space that you would say is just like healthier than that Like how how are you seeking to make that a healthy space for Brian: people?Mm hmm. That's a great question. Thank you I don't know cuz I'm still figuring it out. One of the first words that comes to mind is honesty and trying to be honest about Whatever it is that we are feeling or naming or experiencing because one of the things I've learned is that when we try to push away or repress any of those things, we often get ourselves in trouble because it's something is trying to be expressed there.And it doesn't mean that we. Allow rage or ranting to take place just because because there are safe places to do to do that too, but probably not within a general community, right? Within an intimate relationship, [00:25:00] maybe, but not within a an open space. So I think the honesty piece is one of them. I think the openness is another.Another word that comes to mind is kindness. I think there was an interview I did last year with David Gate, who does all that kind of typewriter poetry, which I love. And he said something that really has stuck with me ever since. And it's this idea that you can have all these progressive, or not progressive, all these fundamentalist Christians.Or conservatives or evangelicals or whatever you want to call them who go through this process of abuse and or trauma and then deconstruction and then leave the church or whatever it is, but they don't actually examine or change anything and they just switch over to progressive liberalism or progressivism or whatever it is, and they're still fundamentalists at heart.Absolutely. And I think the fundamentalist piece, the certainty that so many people carry. Doesn't make room for curiosity [00:26:00] and kindness which I think embodies a lot of what I'm trying to do is to be open and curious and kind because I also see voices online who just come across as angry all the time.It's like, I get it. There's room for that. I'm angry too. But, and there are times that I drive by the church and I'm like, can we just burn it all down? Sure. Right. I feel all that, but it doesn't, I don't feel helped or served by it. Yeah. The Psalms, when I did an interview this morning, and the Psalms are 75 to 80 percent imprecatory and lament, so there's plenty of room for honest, raw emotion, but there's also a time and place for it, and it doesn't have to be public, and I don't, actually, here's, here's a good thing, I don't need everyone to agree with me.Because your experience is your own and you need to figure out how you're going to process it. Here's how I've processed mine and I'm not going to prescribe anything to you that you should do it this way too. But I'm going to approach it with openness [00:27:00] and kindness and curiosity and hopefully safety.Yeah. Katherine: Yeah. And I think like that. Openness, kindness, curiosity can create that safety and, and, and having that space where people can come on their own journey and find their own, their own, yeah, like find their own, their own path. And, and, and that's also just sort of like, Anti the opposite of what we experienced in the church of like, only me, the person with the, you know, title can tell you what is helpful and what, what God is really saying and putting that agency back into each individual person is sweet.Not what we were taught church and we were taught not to trust ourselves in the church context. And so, yeah, I love that, that openness, openness, kindness, and curiosity. I love it. What are some of your hopes and [00:28:00] dreams for the summit?Brian: I hope that it's helpful. I hope that it feels practical for people. I hope that people walk away with a sense of, I mean, the three words I use most often are hope, healing, and wholeness. And I say that knowing that there is real harm done when others try to prescribe a timeline to your healing. That healing is not a destination, right?And I think Laura Anderson just wrote about this in her book. It's like healing is not a destination. It's not an arrival point. It's something that we are just Doing probably for the rest of our lives. So when I say that, it's not like, Hey, show up to the summit and you will be healed. Absolutely not. But I do hope it gives you really practical tools that you can walk away with and say, Oh, this thing will help me.Right. This thing will help me to take a step. And so we had 1, 200 people register last year, which blows my mind for trying something for the first time. [00:29:00] So I it would be great to have as many or more. Not because of numbers, because God knows I hate numbers because so many churches are driven by it. But the idea that people are helped.And and moved in that direction of healing and wholeness and hope, I think so many of us who go through this kind of abuse or trauma walk away feeling so isolated, broken, like you're saying, with a lack of agency or not empowered that my hope is that you walk away with a sense of hope, feeling empowered and a sense of agency to take control of something in your life because so much of it has been stripped away from you.I think those are the kinds of things I hope for. Yeah, Katherine: absolutely. And I think even just the reality that we can like walk into a space and it's, you know, 18 or whatever speakers all speaking on something similar. And so there's this awareness that like, at least all of these people have, have, have some experience with this thing.I've gone through this or understand this and that [00:30:00] validation of like, yes, oh, people are talking about this. And people see this as something that is really important and causes a lot of pain and deserves attention, deserves an entire summit. I think that that in itself is, is So validating and so helpful.What's, what is some information about this? What can you tell us about how folks can find the summit register if they're ready for it?Brian: Sure. We do have dates. We will be January 23rd through 26th. Last year was 3 days. I learned that was too short to pack that many speakers talking about trauma and abuse. So I'm spreading it out over 4 days and I'm inviting less speakers. So it's not so overwhelming every day. If you go to BrokenToBeloved. org slash subscribe, you can join my mailing list, which is where I'll probably send information first. Or you can just follow me on Instagram, which are where I post when I have time to[00:31:00] at BrokenToBeloved.Okay. All Katherine: right. I'll all of this information in the show notes Brian: so folks can read it. Thank you. Katherine: And I'm very excited to be there and to be a part of it, watch all of the speakers. And is there anything else that you want to share about broken to beloved the cohort. Your journey, Brian: anything? No, I, I mean, we are like you, a 501 C three.So if you're looking for someone to support or an organization, this is the work that we're trying to do. So you can just go to same broken to beloved. org and you can find all the stuff there. I'm super grateful for you and your work and having stumbled across you last year. I, I love and support the stuff that you're doing as well.Grateful to have you at the summit twice now. Um, And just love doing the work with you. Katherine: Yeah, so I'm glad to partner in this with you as well. Thanks so Brian: much. Thank you.

Merry Christmas! No interview today. No monologue either. Just a simple, short and sweet song I wanted to give as a gift to anyone whose heart is hurting this holiday.Why I'm sharing this song with you:Since Christmas has fallen on a Monday this year, and I always release new episodes on Monday, I faced a dilemma. I thought it would be a disservice to any guest to ask them to do an episode that would air on a day that the average listener can be expected to have other priorities, and I didn't want to interrupt anyone's holiday with a silly request to listen to an interview instead of celebrating traditions with their loved ones. At the same time, I didn't want to lose the consistency of releasing one episode per week, which I've been doing since the podcast launched in May of 2022. A few weeks before Christmas, this beloved song came to me and said, "hey! Share me with your listeners for Christmas! I'm the perfect gift for your audience!" And I thought, that's perfect. So I reached out to the artist, got in touch with his licensing company, and shelled out the dollars for the rights to share this song with you as my way of saying thank you for supporting the show. As you may have noticed, one of the things I like to do on this podcast is to highlight people of exceptional character and virtue. Ryan O'Neal, who goes by the artist name Sleeping at Last, is one such individual, and I simply adore him. His thoughtfully composed, exquisite music has gotten me through hard times, inspired and soothed me. Beyond mere auditory pleasure, though, his virtuous character shines through everything he touches. For example, this series he did on the Enneagram shows the tremendous amount of effort he puts in to empathizing with the human experience, taking perspectives and telling stories through sound. As an Enneagram One myself - as I discussed with Kim O in episode 80 - it's crucial to my own mental health that I surround myself with examples of virtuous character, good deeds, exquisitely crafted art, and things just generally being done really well. It helps me feel less alone in the universe, less uniquely burdened with the impossible task of bringing out the best in everyone and everything. Ryan is one of those people who seems to be well along his path of self-actualization, who strives to manifest his character and virtue through everything he touches. It seems clear that he is a well-rounded person, a loving husband, father, and friend to many. His music is heartfelt, therapeutic, soulful, and deeply empathic. May this song touch your heart as it touches mine, and bring comfort to the darkness of the winter season. Lyrics to Snow, by Sleeping at Lastthe branches have traded their leaves for white sleeves all warm-blooded creatures make ghosts as they breathe scarves are wrapped tightly like gifts under trees christmas lights tangle in knots annuallyour families huddle closely betting warmth against the cold but our bruises seem to surface like mud beneath the snowso we sing carols softly, as sweet as we know a prayer that our burdens will lift as we go like young love still waiting under mistletoe we'll welcome december with tireless hopelet our bells keep on ringing making angels in the snow may the melody disarm us when the cracks begin to showlike the petals in our pockets may we remember who we are unconditionally cared for by those who share our broken heartsthe table is set and our glasses are full though pieces go missing, may we still feel whole we'll build new traditions in place of the old ‘cause life without revision will silence our soulsso let the bells keep on ringing making angels in the snow may the melody surround us when the cracks begin to showlike the petals in our pockets may we remember who we are unconditionally cared for by those who share our broken heartsas gentle as feathers, the snow piles high our world gets rewritten and retraced every time like fresh plates and clean slates, our future is white new year's resolutions will reset tonightMusic and lyrics by Ryan O'Neal/Sleeping at LastLicensing thanks to Gelfand, Rennert, & Feldman LLCFollow Sleeping at Last on SpotifyFollow The Sleeping at Last Podcast on SpotifyLearn about how the artist was inspired to create this song. Read what he wrote in 2011, or listen to episode 8 of The Sleeping at Last Podcast, which Ryan recorded in 2017, in which he elaborates on his songwriting process for Snow.  To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!Learn more about Do No Harm.Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. 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As leaders and soul shepherds, we seek to be responsible and do our best. But the wisdom of God is to do your best, but don't trust your best!Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss abandoning outcomes to God, the primary soul care practice for Enneagram Ones. All types can struggle with wanting our work and relationships to go a certain way. You'll learn specific ways to train in abandoning outcomes until it proves to be an easy yoke with Jesus and a source of joy and peace.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramYour Best Life in Jesus' Easy YokeContact Soul Shepherding to Invite Bill & Kristi to SpeakEnneagram & Emotions Video CourseSoul Shepherding Enneagram ResourcesEnneagram and Emotions AssessmentYour Enneagram Map: Guides for Each Type to Flourish in God's Love

Life shouldn't be neat and tidy. If your life feels challenging, you're not doing it wrong. It's the belief that you “should” always know what you're doing, and that your life should always feel easy and smooth sailing, that keeps you in suffering.I'm a recovering perfectionist - an Enneagram One (hopeful reformer) for those of you familiar with The Enneagram. I had to learn to make peace with the messiness of life - the imperfection of myself, messiness at home (ex. creative art projects as I raised creative humans, leaving laundry in a basket so I could write), and messiness in relationships, in order to find joy. No matter how hard I worked, appliances broke, people I loved died, marriage and raising kids was hard work, and money was often tight. None of this was wrong or bad (hard isn't the same as ‘wrong') - it was simply part of a full, meaningful, beautiful life. I couldn't control it. I made a decision at one point to stop reading magazines and books, or watching shows/movies that pulled me into comparison or feeling less than. I needed to intentionally quiet the noise and fairy-tale versions of life so that I could love the life in front of me.Quote I mentioned in this episode: "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." -Viktor FranklSOME KEY IDEAS: Learning to practice paradox - or both/and - will change your experience of life, quality of relationships, and mind-body health.We all have coping mechanisms or ways of numbing, running, avoiding, bypassing.You 'shouldn't' be perfect. We find our way in action, not before. As long as you're awake, saying yes to life, you'll meet new challenges and learning opportunities. Railing against reality keeps us stuck in suffering. When we make peace with messiness we make space for joy.We can't control a lot of life but we can always choose our response. “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” -Viktor FranklLINKS/REFERENCES: Befriend Your Inner Critic Workshop, Sep 6: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/befriend-your-inner-critic-workshop/ (Early-bird pricing is over but you can still join us! Registration ends Sep 3.)The Brave + Beautiful Membership Community - join the waitlist for our Autumn Session: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/membership/Make Peace With Paradox and Practice Imperfect Action: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/make-peace-with-paradox/The Midlife Crossroad PDF (free / follows season 1 of this podcast): https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/the-midlife-crossroad/

Perfectionism can keep us from starting altogether, stop us mid-art, and suck the joy out of the finished creative project. Can you relate?  This week on the podcast, Merideth chats with Enneagram One, Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) about holding creative goals loosely, embracing imperfection, and becoming the architecture of your creative life.  Invitation:  1. Kendra's advice: "Ask someone you trust what they believe you bring to the creative process." 2. Explore The Lazy Genius' Magic Question: "What can I do now to make something easier later?" 3. Kendra says she lives by Suzanne Stabile's question, "What is mine to do?" Take this question to your journal and see what comes up.    Kendra Adachi's Lazy Genius Collective Elizabeth Joy Hooker's IG David Gate, poet, Enneagram Postcards Enneagram Workshop with Artists for Joy Enjoy the episode? Buy Merideth a coffee

As Richard Rohr says, Ones are childlike and full of joy and wonder at the world and creation.  But for Ones, that sense of joy has been lost.  Instead, they suppress their own feelings and focus on being good and doing what is right.  They feel a sense of duty and responsibility and may harbor resentment toward others who don't see things the right way – their way.  But what would it look like if Ones reclaimed their childlike wonder? When Ones move toward health, they begin to let judgments go and become more at ease with imperfection. They begin to truly quiet that inner critic and turn it into an inner encourager. Our guest today, Julianne Cusick, shares how her journey toward self-awareness and self-knowledge as an Enneagram One has allowed her to prioritize relationships over perfection and has given her permission to have fun dancing in the kitchen. Julianne Cusick is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified EMDR Therapist (Maiberger Institute), and an AANE Certified Neurodiverse Couples Coach. She thrives on personal and professional growth. A dynamic and engaging communicator, Julianne speaks to Christian organizations, women's groups, and retreats – all from the voice of hope and her own story of healing and redemption. She is a mother of two who enjoys gardening, reading, and spending time with her family and friends. For more about Julianne or Restoring the Soul, visit www.restoringthesoul.com.

In this week's episode of Enneagram IRL, Steph and Heidi discuss a recent series from Instagram: What would you tell your younger self? We love this question because it always helps connect with more kindness and compassion for our younger selves. We often find words of wisdom for our younger selves that we still need – it's always a good reminder to follow our own advice, too!These responses were sent in via Instagram a few months ago, so in this podcast episode, we'll be reading each of the messages in the post as well as various insightful comments from the @NineTypesCo Instagram community.Resources mentioned in this episode:The Science of Stuck by Britt FrankInvisible Girl by Lisa JewellLittle Pieces of Hope by Todd DoughtyCheckout all nine posts on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/Travel to Oaxaca with @BonTraveler (an Enneagram One!) Get all the details here https://www.elcamino.travel/shop/oaxaca-with-bon-travelerAnd follow Jess on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bontraveler/

Let's face it, relationships are complicated.  But the more you know about yourself and your partner, the easier it is to communicate and navigate conflict. This week, Mike Alexander, Enneagram Six returns along with his wife, Enneagram One, and psychotherapist Cheryl, for a powerful conversation about the dynamics of their relationship and their own journey of healing within their types.  We dig into a few of the challenges they face and learn how figuring out the inner workings of themselves and each other helped salvage their marriage. You don't want to miss this powerful conversation.   ----- ABOUT MIKE  Mike Alexander is a nationally recognized expert in ethics, integrity, leadership development, and coaching. This specialty began and flourished during his 41-year career in law enforcement and has defined the years following his retirement from service. Through the U.S. Department of Justice Community Policing Divisions, the thirty-six (36) Regional Community Policing Institute, the Multi-jurisdictional Counterdrug Task Force Training Center, the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center, the Texas Municipal League, the International Law Enforcement Administration, and the Texas Police Chiefs Association, the Carruth Policing Institute, he has traveled the nation training officers and community members on leadership development, ethics and integrity. In 1999, he founded the LION Leadership Institute, with workshops focused on leadership engagement, employee wellness, cost of conflict, psychological safety, emotional intelligence, healthy work environments, and socialization. He is currently working as an adjunct professor and leadership and curriculum development consultant with Austin Community College. Instagram: @thelion_institute LinkedIn: @thelion-organizational-development-instituteTwitter: @LION_Institute  Facebook: @thelion.institute    ABOUT CHERYL Cheryl is a native Texan, born in Waco, Texas, and reared in San Antonio, Texas.  She is the daughter of the late LC and Dorothy Christman. She has one sister, Debbie Grady.  Cheryl lived in San Antonio, Texas, until she graduated from Incarnate Word High School.  After graduating from high school, she attended Southwest Texas State University (now known today as Texas State University) in San Marcos, Texas, where she received her bachelor's degree in Criminal Justice and a master's degree in School Psychology with a minor in Special Education. She is currently working on her dissertation for the Ph.D. Marriage and Family Counseling program at Northwestern University. She worked 13 years in the law enforcement field as a prison guard, an adult probation officer, and a Texas Youth Commission parole officer. She worked  22 years in the education field … 15 years as a school counselor.  She is currently in private practice as a Christian Licensed Professional Counselor at  Plan C Consultation and Counseling Services.

On this week's episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Taylor Elyse Morrison. She is a founder, facilitator, coach, and serial entrepreneur making well-being and personal development more accessible. Through her company Inner Workout and her book of the same name, Taylor supports people's journey to know, care for, and become their full selves. In this episode, we talk about Taylor's experience with burnout, discuss her perspective on failure, and how she approaches self-care as a tool for her own well-being, all through the lens of an Enneagram Type 3.Order Taylor's book, Inner Workout, right here! Follow Taylor on Instagram: @innerworkout & @taylorelysemorrisonOr connect with Taylor online: https://www.innerworkout.co/Sign up for her NewsletterTune in to the Inner Warm up PodcastHere are the key takeaways:An experience of burnoutTaylor's definition of self-care & what this looks like in practice Being introduced to the Enneagram and identifying the shadows of Type 3Managing image and shame - “Whose opinion matters?”Listening within and staying attuned “Defining success for myself and expanding what that looks like.” Reframing failureA Type 3's book-writing processPractical advice from one Type 3 to another A quick beginner's guide to listening to your bodyResources mentioned in this episode:Neurodharma by Rick HansonInner Workout by Taylor Elyse Morrison The Sacred Enneagram by Richard RohrFree Self-Care Assessment by Taylor Elyse Morrison5 Dimensions of well-being by Taylor Elyse MorrisonWant to keep the conversation going? Join me on Instagram @ninetypesco to keep learning and chatting about how our types show up in REAL LIFE! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/?hl=enLearn more about subtypes! Download my free subtypes guide here.Want to stay up to date with all things Nine Types Co? Join my email-list and receive Enneagram reflections, thoughts about growth and personal development. Plus, you'll get priority access to new offers and courses! Sign up here.Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guideTravel to Oaxaca with @BonTraveler (an Enneagram One!) Get all the details here https://www.elcamino.travel/shop/oaxaca-with-bon-travelerAnd follow Jess on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bontraveler/

There are about as many paths to becoming a coach as there are coaches. Today, I talk about my path in particular and give you some ideas on how to pursue becoming an Enneagram coach.Here are the key takeaways:Coaching vs. TherapyMy Road MapThings you need to know if you want to go down this pathResources mentioned in this episode:International Coach Federation (ICF) Credential - https://coachfederation.org/icf-credentialChestnut Paes Enneagram Academy - https://cpenneagram.com/professional Enneagram Institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/eventsThe Narrative Enneagram Program - https://enneagramworldwide.com/Shift Network - https://theshiftnetwork.com/ Integrative9 Accreditation - https://www.integrative9.com/events/calendar/Enneagram University with Kristi Rowles  * affiliate link * https://www.theenneagramuniversity.comBecome an Enneagram Coach * affiliate link * https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/a/21463/RhYsodeUInternational Enneagram Association (IEA) Accredited Training - https://www.internationalenneagram.org/find-a/accredited-training-program/#!directory/map/lbl=5693b3cf4f952e810d46781aWant to stay up to date with all things Nine Types Co? Join my email-list and receive Enneagram reflections, thoughts about growth and personal development. Plus, you'll get priority access to new offers and courses! Sign up here.Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guideTravel to Oaxaca with @BonTraveler (an Enneagram One!) Get all the details here https://www.elcamino.travel/shop/oaxaca-with-bon-travelerAnd follow Jess on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bontraveler/

On this week's episode of Enneagram IRL we meet with Jackie Brewster, a certified Enneagram coach, experiential specialist, author, and speaker who consults with teams and people across the country. She shares daily, practical Enneagram content on her fast-growing Instagram page @enneagramwithjb. In her free time, Jackie loves to cook, work out, and spend time with friends, and is constantly on the hunt for growth and spiritual development in her own life. She and her husband, Stephen, have four amazing children and live in Franklin, Tennessee.Order Jackie's Workbook: The Enneagram and Your Marriage: A 7-Week Guide to Better Understanding and Loving Your SpouseFollow Jackie on Instagram: @enneagramwithjbConnect with Jackie online: Enneagramwithjb.com www.facebook.com/EnneagramWithJBHere are the key takeaways:Jackie's journey to finding her typeA look inside Jackie's relationship with her husbandThe writing process through Jackie's lensExperiencing fear as a Type 7Recognizing our personality patterns“My partner is not interested in the Enneagram. How can we get on the same page of doing inner work using this tool?”How can the Enneagram be transformational as individuals and as partners in relationships?Jackie gives some helpful advice Resources mentioned in this episode:Atomic Habits by James ClearWisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso, Russ HudsonCard Deck for Self-Awareness and Connection by Jackie BrewsterWant to keep the conversation going? Join me on Instagram @ninetypesco to keep learning and chatting about how our types show up in REAL LIFE! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/?hl=enLearn more about subtypes! Download my free subtypes guide here.Want to stay up to date with all things Nine Types Co? Join my email-list and receive Enneagram reflections, thoughts about growth and personal development. Plus, you'll get priority access to new offers and courses! Sign up here.Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guideTravel to Oaxaca with @BonTraveler (an Enneagram One!) Get all the details here https://www.elcamino.travel/shop/oaxaca-with-bon-travelerAnd follow Jess on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bontraveler/

Investing is a field that can often feel overwhelming and even intimidating, especially for women who may feel like they're entering a male-dominated space.However, on today's episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," we're joined by two guests who didn't let that stop them. In fact, they have made it their mission to help others learn about investing while also positively impacting their communities. Andrea Cwik and Rachel Grunn from Good Good Investing are business partners and friends. They discuss how they learned about the Enneagram, why they love it so much, and how they use it to make their business partnership work to find success in the world of investing. Rachel is an Enneagram One with black-and-white thinking, which can be challenging in investing. Andrea was hesitant about the Enneagram but interested in understanding her partner better. They share how the Enneagram helped them communicate effectively, leave their egos aside, and step out of their comfort zones to build a successful partnership.Listen in to discover how the Enneagram can help individuals understand their tendencies and adapt to new behaviors to reach success in business partnerships and investing. Also, find out how Good Good Investing is breaking down barriers in commercial real estate, making it accessible to everyone, and learn more about the remarkable work for communities and individuals.If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. And reach out with any follow-up questions or comments via DM on Instagram. You can also find additional resources on my website at TracyOMalley.com. What You Will Learn How the Enneagram can help individuals understand their tendencies and adapt to new behaviors to reach successThe benefits of understanding each other's Enneagram typesHow complementary Enneagram types can make for a successful business partnershipThe key to overcoming conflict in your partnerships for better understanding, healthier relationships, and better communicationHow to step aside from your core Enneagram type and lean into your growth number to find success in the world of investingWhy communication (and follow-up) is essential for maintaining good relationships with investors Connect with Rachel and Andrea Good Good InvestingGoodGood Investing on InstagramGoodGood Investing - YouTube Connect with Tracy Tracy's WebsiteTracy on InstagramTracy on FacebookTracy on TwitterTracy on LinkedInResources Millenneagram: The Enneagram Guide for Discovering Your Truest, Baddest Self Book an Enneagram Kickstart SessionApply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching Email info@tracyomalley.com

On this week's episode of Enneagram IRL, we discuss the motivations of each Enneagram type while also touching on what each type avoids. As we explore each type, we provide real-life examples of the motivations and behaviors, highlighting how they can show up in everyday life. ​​If you have any examples of how you've seen your own type's motivation show up in your day-to-day life, we want to hear them! DM us your stories @ninetypesco on Instagram!Resources mentioned in this episode:Free Subtypes Guide by Nine Types Co.Free Typing Guide by Nine Types Co.Want to keep the conversation going? Join me on Instagram @ninetypesco to keep learning and chatting about how our types show up in REAL LIFE! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/?hl=enWant to stay up to date with all things Nine Types Co? Join my email-list and receive Enneagram reflections, thoughts about growth and personal development. Plus, you'll get priority access to new offers and courses! Sign up here.Travel to Oaxaca with @BonTraveler (an Enneagram One!) Get all the details here https://www.elcamino.travel/shop/oaxaca-with-bon-travelerAnd follow Jess on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bontraveler/

I would love to invite you to join me on a journey of self-discovery and compassion to learn insights about the personality type who might be known as the reformer, perfectionist, principled, and responsibility advocate.And, if you know a One or want others to know more about the One personality Type, go ahead and follow that prompting to share this podcast with them. Just use this podcast platform's share feature so this episode can give others an opportunity to learn more about the invaluable contributions of the Enneagram One. Episode timestamps:Teaching by Amy on Ones: 2:38Testimony from a One: 14:18 Prayer and scripture by Deanna for Ones: 23:40 Past episodes about Enneagram Ones: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-your-soul-part-1-with-author-and/id1216920050?i=100052008627https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cheers-to-a-wholehearted-you-marjorie-poff-enneagram-one/id1216920050?i=1000546239476https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grief-and-the-holidays-enneagram-one-jennifer-james/id1216920050?i=1000544811377https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scripture-as-a-habit-jen-pollock-michel-enneagram-one/id1216920050?i=1000524579677https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/simply-wholehearted-podcast/id1216920050?i=1000494613121https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-ones-thriving-at-work-and-home/id1216920050?i=1000556945741 Meet the Collective here!Connect with Amy:IGWebsiteMeet the Collective here!Connect with Amy: IG Website

In the Bible, it is written that "a soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1). By understanding our own and others' conflict styles through the lens of the Enneagram, we can communicate more effectively and navigate conflicts with grace and compassion. This can lead to reduced anxiety and stress, as well as strengthened relationships and a deeper understanding of ourselves and those around us. Bible Studies and Notebooks ADHD Wives Club

Listen in to hear Jen and Bridger continue their journey through the Enneagram as they sit down with Jamie, an Enneagram Type 1. Check out the Sleeping at Last song for Enneagram One here! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Enneagram One Randi McSpadden joins Megan and Deedra to discuss the constellation of parts for her type and how she sees her wings and stress and security lines in action. Randi and her husband Mike have been married for 25 years and have three amazing children. Randi has been in HR with Ascension Health for over 12 years and currently is the Manager of Associate Success. Her team focuses on eliminating onboarding barriers and creating growth pathways for new associates while improving retention within their first 90 days. In her free time, she loves to tuck away in her sewing room with a good podcast and work on her latest quilt project. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Today I have the honor of introducing you to my sweet friend, Jen Michel! You'll enjoy  hearing what Jen has to say on the topic of waiting and relating to time in a disordered way.Jen's past episode on making faith and Scripture a habit. Listen hereConnect with Jen:IGBookConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

When we agree to vows to support one another in sickness and in health, we want to be able to provide one another a safe space to heal as well as a safe space to grow a healthier immune system. We interview Coach Jenn Johnson, Enneagram One, trained by Dr. Hyman's Institute for Integrative Nutrition, who is also an E + M Certified Coach, and she not only helps us to honor our marriage vows during times of sickness but also helps us to create a winning, research-based formula for immunity-building, one tiny habit at a time together!   SHOW LINKS:    Visit Jenn's Coaching Website Here!   Visit Jenn's Instagram Here!   Tiny Habits book!   Truity's 7 Love Styles Test   Need a romantic getaway, stat? Buy your 2/3 Glow Gala Dinner-Dance Tix for a Valentine's Glow Together: https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/glowgala   Become An Enneagram & Marriage Certified Coach w/Zoom Classes Starting 2/23! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/become-a-coach   Just for fun! Wes and Christa's Stereotypes of Each Type "Out to Lunch" on Instagram Reels!   Visit Enneagram and Marriage & for all of your relationship tools and use code NEWYEAR for 25% off The 52-Week Glow Planner!   Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

Since it's January, you probably guessed it but we are beginning our annual Wholehearted Rhythms series. As the perfect candidate for this topic, Jessica Mathisen will be diving into the WORD episode. She is a Bible teacher and specializes in helping weary women apply the truth of God's word to their everyday lives so they can live in freedom.Connect with Jessica:IGWebsiteConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

Want to get healthier as an enneagram one? Let your enneagram number be your guide. Inside, I share the enneagram one health tips that include an ultimate guide on how to get healthy based on your enneagram strengths and weaknesses.   Learn more: https://thelivingwell.com/enneagram1

Want to get healthier as an enneagram one? Let your enneagram number be your guide. Inside, I share the enneagram one health tips that include an ultimate guide on how to get healthy based on your enneagram strengths and weaknesses.   Learn more: https://thelivingwell.com/enneagram1

It is so exciting to have my long time friend Jodie Frye here today! We met through mutual friends and today she is going to share about her book baby that had a four year “pregnancy.” Some fun facts about Jodie: She is an Enneagram enthusiast, Jesus-pursuer, wife, boy mom, and an author of a book called: Coming To Light~An Advent Experience Through the Book of Luke.Connect with Jodie: IGBookConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

As the director of family counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, TN, David Thomas has seen some patterns develop over the years.  “Some of the healthiest parents I have worked with over the years are parents in recovery,” says David. “Because you've done your work: those basic tenets of ‘I understand I have a struggle, I need God, I need community.'” Those are principles that apply for everyone, whether in recovery or not, and they reflect a kind of humble acknowledgement of reality that every parent needs.  But there's another way into these concepts: “The other set of parents that I see are the healthiest are those who are using the Enneagram,” says David. “You're getting connected with some of those same things. Understanding, ‘Here's what the shadow side looks like, Here are my traps, Here are my vulnerabilities.” This week, we talk to David Thomas about his own experience dealing with the Enneagram One's inner monologue, how the shadow side comes out in parenting, and how the Enneagram can help us raise emotionally strong boys.  — David Thomas, LMSW, is the director of family counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, TN, and the coauthor of ten books, including the bestselling Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys and Are My Kids on Track? He is the co-host of the top 10 parenting podcast “Raising Boys and Girls.” To learn more about David Thomas, follow him on Instagram, visit his website, or check out his new book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build On for Life.

Enneagram Ones are known for being ethical and conscientious. They have a unique gift for discerning right from wrong. To talk to us more about Enneagram Ones, we have Hazel Monae, who is a leadership development teacher and Enneagram expert. She's an Enneagram 1 and shares her insight and wisdom with us about our beloved Enneagram Ones. Our hope as you listen to these episodes about the various types, whether you are a 1, or love someone who is a 1, or you're simply just curious about the enneagram - is that you learn something about who you are. That you find healing in knowing you are not alone, and that you are loved just as you are.ResourcesLearn more about the Enneagram One40-Day Devotional for Enneagram OnesFree Enneagram test (once you receive your results, you can pay to learn more, but we recommend taking a screenshot of your results and then going to the Enneagram Institute to learn more)Paid Enneagram test via the Enneagram Institute (at the time of this recording, it costs $12)Learn about Enneagram types in relationship with other Enneagram typesConnect with us!Sign up to receive a little Gospel in your inbox every Monday Morning with our weekly devotional.Check out our website for great resources, previous blog posts, and more.Get some Lady Preacher Podcast swag!Connect with us on Instagram and FacebookAbout Hazel Monae in her own words Hi there! I am Hazel Monae (she/her)! I live, work, and create leadership development curriculum at the intersections of anti-racism/racial equity, ethical leadership development, and theology. I am a skilled leadership development practitioner, community advocate, and adaptive leader bringing over a decade of experience designing and leading programs and initiatives that transform systems, environments, and organizational culture.

Enneagram Type 1s are the integrity champions of the Enneagram. They have high standards and make us all strive to be better. But that rigidity can be a bit off-putting for some of the other Enneagram types.So, when they can lighten up and move toward the free spirit within, that's when their true gifts can really come to life. My coaching client, Architect and Enneagram Type 1, Amie Lindsay, has mirrored a lot of areas of my life that I needed to have reflected back to me. Today on the show, Amy walks us through her Enneagram Type 1 story. While everything in Amie's life looked great on paper and to the outside world, she faced challenges in her business and her most personal relationships. We'll dig deeper into how Enneagram coaching with me helped transform her relationship with her daughter and how she uses the tools of her 2 and 9 wings as a wife, mother, and even in her business. Listen in as Amie walks us through the difficulties of working alongside another Enneagram 1 (and how they make it work). Plus, she shares what she wishes more people understood about the Enneagram Type 1 and her best advice for those who live with and love a 1 for a deeper connection.What You Will Learn The most pivotal moment for an Enneagram 1How the Enneagram 1s motivation to be 'good' makes them project onto others when they are lacking confidence in any area of their livesWhy Enneagram 1s high expectations make them feel like everything of theirs, from their car to their cat, reflects on themHow the high standards of Enneagram types like 8s and 1s can create division in their personal relationshipsWhy Enneagram 1s need a safe space, judgment-free zone to open up about what's really happening in their livesHow Enneagram 1s can look deeper to discover the 'what's in it for them' piece in their most personal relationshipsHow perfectionist Enneagram 1s can use their 2 and 9 wings to stretch toward more 'free spirited' growthAmy shares her advice on how softening the strong character of the Enneagram Type 1 gives other people more space to be themselvesWhy it's vital for Enneagram Type 1s to drop the armor to learn the most beautiful lessons in lifeConnect with Tracytracyomalley.comwww.instagram.com/tracy_omalleywww.facebook.com/tracy.omalleytwitter.com/TracyOMallwww.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/Email Tracy info@tracyomalley.com ResourcesApply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582Email info@tracyomalley.com

Enneagram type 1s value integrity and lead by example. They walk their talk and do what they say they're going to do.They are super quality-minded, have a knack for detail, and pay attention to quality and the application of standards. As you know, I like to call Enneagram 1s the 'sheriff in town' because of their strong sense of right and wrong and their propensity toward black-and-white thinking. They are the first person you should call when you need an accountability partner to stay on track.But those same qualities can also get them into trouble if they are unable to see how the things that come so easily to them can be so tricky for another Enneagram type.So, how can 1s learn to communicate their gifts effectively and open themselves up to learning from others? On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I walk you through the complete picture of the Enneagram type 1, from the gifts they bring to the world to the blind spots that sometimes keep them from communicating effectively. I discuss where 1s go when they are under stress, and how they can lean into their growth number and use mindfulness practices (like yoga) for more spontaneity and a lighter view of the world we're living in. Listen in as I share how Enneagram1s can use their wings to focus on the needs (and points of view) of the other Enneagram types for more effective communication. Plus, how the 3 subtypes play into individual expression. If you're not sure what your Enneagram type is, please go to TracyO'Malley.com and book an Enneagram Kickstart Session.What You Will Learn Which Enneagram type is the harshest self-criticWhy an Enneagram 1 is the perfect person to help hold you accountable to your goalsHow an 1's body language can keep them from conveying their true heart message Why Enneagram 1s need lots of praise and affirmationHow a 1s rigid views can sometimes cause them to point out the faults of others to get them to conform Why perfection-seeking ways can cause 1s to be anxious and unable to relaxHow their vice can drop 1s into a vicious cycle of self-criticismHow Enneagram 1s can keep from overstepping boundaries with those they love and leadWhy it's vital to include gentle specifics when offering type 1s constructive feedback How leaning into their growth number (7) can help 1s view the world with a more optimistic point of viewWhy self-preservation 1s fall into the trap of perfectionism more than the other two subtypesWhy one-on-one type 1s are frequently mistypedHow Enneagram 1s can use mindfulness practices to tame their inner critic (and be more aware of how their feelings show up)Connect with Tracytracyomalley.comwww.instagram.com/tracy_omalleywww.facebook.com/tracy.omalleytwitter.com/TracyOMallwww.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/Email Tracy info@tracyomalley.com Resources EP270: {Special Series} Getting into the Heart, Mind, and Soul of Each Enneagram Type:http://tracyomalley.com/ep270-special-series-getting-into-the-heart-mind-and-soul-of-each-enneagram-type/Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582Email info@tracyomalley.com

046.  Over the past 30 years of researching and experimenting with wellness plus 4 years as a certified wellness coach and fitness instructor, this is the single most important lesson I've learned about consistency:It is primarily based on your personality.Today's episode explains why PLUS gives you a 5-step framework for building your customizing your Enneagram Type your Personal Wellness System.Let's gooooo!-----------------If you like connecting your personality to your health habits, snag more wellness wisdom here:SITES- Typeshare (Social Blog): https://typeshare.co/katiehardy- Website (Blog, Recipes, Programs): https://wholehardy.comSOCIALS- Twitter: https://twitter.com/wholehardy- Instagram: https://instagram.com/wholehardy- Facebook: https://facebook.com/wholehardy- YouTube: http://bit.ly/WholeHardyYouTubePODCAST- Apple: https://WholeHardy.com/itunes- Spotify: https://WholeHardy.com/spotify

44. We're starting a new weekly series here at WholeHardy Health called "This Week's Wellness." Every Sunday, Katie will be going live on Instagram and Facebook to discuss 3 things:1. Workouts for the week ahead2. Dinners for the week ahead3. Wellness wisdom from the week priorIf you join live, you'll get to ask your questions and share what works for you for planning & sticking to your weekly workouts + collect ideas on what the heck cook for dinner.You'll also hear Katie deep dive into the wellness tips she posted on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook the week prior.If you can't join live, we're posting the audio recording on the podcast and the video recording on YouTube.Here's where to find everything:TwitterInstagramFacebookYouTube

If you want to learn more about how an Enneagram One works, listen to this podcast. If you are a One and want to know you're not alone, listen to this podcast. Today's episode is with Jared who's an enneagram One! You are in for a treat! Come say HI on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myenneagramlife/Join our Exclusive Enneagram Community: https://www.patreon.com/myenneagramlifeSupport the show

Jesse, an Enneagram One, shares with Tom his motivations, fears, stress, and security as the Perfectionist or Reformer. As a member of our YOB community, how does his One-ness manifest in the realms of sexuality, masculinity, and relating with other men? Jesse discusses his inclination to order and perfection and how that has translated to a need to "clean up" before God, particularly with his sexuality. He shares his love for lists and how he's only recently begun to prioritize tending to his sexual and gender identity. He talks about his messy stress path into Four as well as his security into Seven, including how he embraces a more spontaneous, adventure-seeking nature with his guy friends -- but only for two hours at a time. Listen to our full Enneagram conversation, and be sure to follow us these next few weeks as we dial around the Enneagram and talk to each type in our community! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Truity's Enneagram test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test ➡️ Truity's Type 1 Enneagram overview: https://www.truity.com/enneagram/personality-type-1-perfectionist ➡️ Enneagram Gift's Type 1 in stress and growth: https://enneagramgift.com/enneagram-stress-and-growth/#Enneagram_1_Stress_And_Growth COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Are you an Enneagram One? How have you grown as a One in relation to your sexuality and masculinity? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/06/17/yob-convocast-046-jesse-can-summon-two-hours-of-fun-as-a-one RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Welcome to the second episode of the Nine Types Spring Series. And this special episode is dedicated to learning all about the Enneagram One!You will want to listen to each episode of this series if you know your Enneagram Type or are beginning your personality discovery journey! You will also want to share this special 9-part series so that your friends and family can learn about the Enneagram and maybe figure out their personality Type. Best of all if you listen to learn about each Type it will really help you know how to strengthen your relationships no matter their Type. Whether you are married, raising kids,, or working with others, chances are that you are interacting with all the Nine Enneagram personalities!Past episodes about Enneagram Ones:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-your-soul-part-1-with-author-and/id1216920050?i=100052008627https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cheers-to-a-wholehearted-you-marjorie-poff-enneagram-one/id1216920050?i=1000546239476https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grief-and-the-holidays-enneagram-one-jennifer-james/id1216920050?i=1000544811377https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scripture-as-a-habit-jen-pollock-michel-enneagram-one/id1216920050?i=1000524579677https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/simply-wholehearted-podcast/id1216920050?i=1000494613121Amy's Enneagram Momprenuer Guide free PDF found here!Take the new Enneagram Quiz here!Follow Amy on IGAmy's WebsiteSign up for a FREE 15 minute call with Amy to see if Faith-based Enneagram Coaching is a good fit for you this season of your life! Sign up here!Sign up for a FREE 15 minute call with Amy to see if Faith-based Enneagram Coaching is a good fit for you this season of your life! Sign up here!

We have a very special guest for you today…author, editor, and Enneagram One, Jana Riess joins me for an in-depth discussion about The Improvers.  As the very talented editor of both The Road Back to You and The Story of You, Jana is well-versed in the Enneagram and brings a wealth of knowledge and valuable insights to our conversation about lasting personal transformation.  A few topics we explore today are:  the Improvers fixation on anger what messages Ones internalize, and  how Ones can tap into the high side of Seven to find their joy   ABOUT JANA RIESS Since 2008, Jana Riess has been an editor in the publishing industry, primarily working in the areas of religion, history, popular culture, ethics, and biblical studies. From 1999 to 2008, she was the Religion Book Review Editor for Publishers Weekly, and continues to write freelance reviews for PW as well as other publications. She holds degrees in religion from Wellesley College and Princeton Theological Seminary, and a Ph.D. in American religious history from Columbia University. She speaks often to media about issues pertaining to religion in America, and has been interviewed by the Associated Press, Time, Newsweek, People, the Boston Globe, USA Today, the Los Angeles Times, and Newsday, among other print publications, as well as “Voice of America,” the “Today” show, MSNBC, and NPR's “All Things Considered,” “Tell Me More,” and “Talk of the Nation.” She is the author or co-author of many books, including The Prayer Wheel; Flunking Sainthood; What Would Buffy Do?; Mormonism for Dummies; and The Writer's Market Guide to Getting Published. Her book The Twible: All the Chapters of the Bible in 140 Characters or Less . . . . Now with 68% More Humor! won first place in the non-fiction category in the Writer's Digest Annual Self-Published Book Awards. Her book The Next Mormons: The Rising Generation of Latter-day Saints will be released in March 2019 from Oxford University Press. She is a senior columnist for Religion News Service.

This Typing series is designed to offer a path to those who are starting out on their enneagram journey, and are looking for a way to find their type. Kambrie Ross joins us with some quotes and her own gathered wisdom to help demonstrate the basic qualities of each type.Start with the Introduction if you're new to the enneagram, and each of the following episodes will dive deeper into each type.This episode is for those who think they might be a Type One; those who want to be good.Find Kambrie on Instagram (@enneagram.kam)Find us on Twitter (@enneagramcircle)Help fund future deep dives (Patreon)Our website

This Typing series is designed to offer a path to those who are starting out on their enneagram journey, and are looking for a way to find their type. Kambrie Ross joins us with some quotes and her own gathered wisdom to help demonstrate the basic qualities of each type.Start with the Introduction if you're new to the enneagram, and each of the following episodes will dive deeper into each type.This episode is for those who think they might be a Type One; those who want to be good.Find Kambrie on Instagram (@enneagram.kam)Find us on Twitter (@enneagramcircle)Help fund future deep dives (Patreon)Our website