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Have you ever looked around at the mess, the endless to-do list, the forgotten permission slip, and wondered why motherhood feels so much harder than everyone else makes it look? So many of us are carrying invisible expectations about what a “good mom” should do, how her home should look, and how much she should be able to handle.Today, I'm joined by Libby Ward, author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself, for a beautifully honest conversation about motherhood, perfectionism, clutter, and the invisible pressure so many women carry.We explore what happens when we start questioning those expectations, and why letting go of them might be the key to finding more peace at home.Libby shares what it looked like for her to slowly let go of the version of motherhood she thought she had to perform and start building a life that actually worked for her, her children, her nervous system, and her real capacity.We talk about the “shoulds” that creep into overwhelmed moms, the mental load of motherhood, the energy it takes to make everything look fine from the outside, and why sometimes the most loving thing we can do for our families is lower the standards that are quietly exhausting us.In this episode, you'll learn:Why so many mothers feel like they are the only ones struggling, even when they are not.How perfectionism can show up in the home, in meals, in parenting, and even in the way we host others.Why emotional regulation matters more than creating a perfect-looking childhood.How clutter, routines, and home organization can affect your nervous system, especially if you or your children are neurodivergent.Why letting go is not always simple, and what might be underneath the need to keep everything together.How small changes in your home, calendar, and expectations can create more calm for the whole family.Why the front entryway can be one of the most powerful places to start if leaving the house feels chaotic.This is for all the mothers who have ever wondered why she finds it all so hard, or who feels tired from trying to hold everything together. Whether you're dealing with mom burnout or learning the art of letting go of perfection, you'll walk away feeling seen, understood, and encouraged.Here's to making motherhood feel lighter,CarolineThanks for listening! For more organizational motivation, support and free resources:Join my online membership Clutter Free CollectiveJoin my podcast Facebook group Living Clutter Free Forever Podcast: KonMari® Inspired Organizing | FacebookVisit my website www.caroline-thor.com Come and say 'hi' on Instagram @caro.thor Follow me on Facebook @carolineorganizerConnect with Libby:Libby's book: https://libbyward.com/honest-motherhood-book Website: Libby Ward | Creator, Speaker and Author on a MissionInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/libbyward/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@libbywardofficialThanks for listening! For more organizational motivation, support and free resources:Join my online membership Clutter Free CollectiveJoin my podcast Facebook group Living Clutter Free Forever Podcast: KonMari® Inspired Organizing | FacebookVisit my website www.caroline-thor.com Come and say 'hi' on Instagram @caro.thor Follow me on Facebook @carolineorganizer
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Every return this season led to the same place. This episode names the deepest reclamation of the year — not a skill or a new identity, but the self who was always there, waiting to be returned to.Every week this season, the Reclamation stage asked the same question: what's true about who I am that I've stopped being able to access? Week after week, the return led to the same center — not a new version, not a constructed identity, but the self that was always there before the performance started.This episode is the Reclamation stage of Week 16: Living Recalibrated. Wednesday in the final week holds the deepest recognition of the entire season: you were always the one you were returning to.What we name in this episode:Why the ILR pathway uncovers identity rather than building itThe critical distinction between broken and obscured — and why it changes everythingWhat it means that every return this season led to the same placeWhy the growth was real and the growth was homecoming — simultaneouslyHow to receive the recognition that you were never the projectThis isn't a consolation. It's the most demanding thing the pathway asks: to receive the truth that the person you've been working to become was always already there — obscured, not absent — and that all the work was the path clearing, not the person building.Today's Micro Recalibration: Who have I been returning to, every time I drifted and came back this season? Let the answer be a person — the specific felt sense of yourself when the performance stops.Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you→ Learn about The Recalibration Cohort→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes.→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights→ Download the Misalignment Audit→ Subscribe to the weekly newsletter→ Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.)→ One link to all things...
Libby Ward built one of the internet's most recognizable platforms for honest motherhood, and she did it by saying the things most moms were too afraid to say out loud. Now she's put it all in a book: Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself, published by Crown.In this co-hosted episode, Ashley and Erin sit down with Libby to trace the full arc, from the small town church community where motherhood was put on a pedestal, to the postpartum rage that finally broke her open, to the sociology class that reframed everything, to going viral on TikTok during a pandemic, to writing a book for Crown that she nearly wrote as someone else entirely.It's a conversation about what happens when women stop doing everything for everyone else and start asking who they actually are, and why that question so often doesn't get asked until something breaks.In This EpisodeWho Libby was before TikTok- a 26-year-old in a conservative church community trying to be every kind of mom at onceHow her second child's higher needs broke the plate-spinning and sent her to therapy for the first timeWhy her postpartum depression showed up as rage, not sadness and why that made it harder to recognize and nameThe shame spiral of “what is wrong with me” and the therapy session that cracked it openThe sociology of sex and gender class that introduced her to the mental load, default parenting, and feminismFinding TikTok during the pandemic and posting as a form of dissociation, not really believing anyone would find herThe moment she stopped making humor content and decided she didn't want to joke about things that were crushing her soulGoing no contact with her mom and how that coincided with the book deal coming throughThe writing process: imposter syndrome, a pivot away from research-heavy writing, and learning to trust her own storytellingWhy she didn't lose herself in motherhood, she never found herself before itDoing it guilty: why waiting to feel ready or unashamed means never changing anythingWhat “honest motherhood” actually means and why it starts internally, not out loudQuotes From This Episode:“I didn't lose myself in motherhood. I actually never found myself or knew myself when I was younger. Motherhood was the catalyst to help me find the self I never knew before motherhood even began.”— Libby Ward“It's not that I'm exhausted because I'm not enough. It's that the load is too much for any one person. That shift is so important.”— Libby Ward“How do you get rid of the guilt and shame? You just do it guilty. You do it feeling a little bit ashamed. And then you're retraining your brain — actually, we survived. Actually, it's okay.”— Libby Ward“I am so tired of women being the butt end of jokes. I no longer want to joke about the things that are crushing my soul.”— Libby Ward“You deserve to be well just for the mere fact that you're a person who deserves to be well. Your kids just happen to benefit from that.”— Libby WardAbout the BookMotherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself by Libby Ward is available now wherever books are sold — Amazon, Indigo, and most major retailers.Find LibbyWebsite: libbyward.comInstagram: @libbywardTikTok: @libbywardofficialConnect with Ashley:Website: https://www.ashleyblackington.comPodcast website: https://www.andbothpodcast.com/Dovetail® App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/dovetail-app/id6744341822Instagram: @mydovetail.appLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleyblackington/
What makes a good mom? Is it adhering to the perfectly packaged image of a shiny, happy woman cooking lavish meals with her 2.5 children, always cleaning, never complaining, and never NOT grateful, doting, and happy? No – but that doesn't mean that the expectations are any more attainable. Any choice a mom makes is immediately subject to scrutiny or ridicule. Anything she does is under a microscope. She can't miss a beat. She can't wonder what her life might have been if she wasn't a mother. And she DEFINITELY can't do anything for herself. Today, Nora talks with Libby Ward, the author of the brand new book Honest Motherhood: on Losing My Mind and Finding Myself. Get a copy of Libby's new book HERE. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey's album on Spotify and Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Quince.com/TFA ❤️ Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. ❤️ MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there's never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That's 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA to see the latest offer! ❤️ With evening and weekend course options, Fordham's online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TFA ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That's F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this inspiring episode, Tara sits down with Libby Ward, the author behind Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself to talk about what it really means to show up as a mom without the filters. Libby shares her powerful journey from feeling overwhelmed by the mental load of motherhood to building a platform rooted in radical honesty and authenticity. They dive into the pressures moms face to “do it all,” how social media can both help and harm, and why telling the truth about motherhood can be a catalyst for connection, healing, and real change. They also explore the intersection of motherhood and social justice, and how raising kids with awareness and intention can help break generational cycles. Libby offers thoughtful insights on self-care, parenting with purpose, and redefining what it means to be a “good mom.” This conversation is a refreshing reminder that you're not alone and that embracing radical honesty might just be the most powerful parenting tool we have. Links: https://libbyward.com/ https://libbyward.com/honest-motherhood-book https://www.tiktok.com/@libbywardofficial https://www.instagram.com/libbyward Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode, we sit down with Libby Ward to talk about her raw, relatable, and unexpectedly funny memoir, Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself.Libby shares what it really looked like to break under the pressure of trying to do it all... and the powerful rebuild that followed. We dive into the unrealistic expectations placed on modern moms, the identity loss that so often goes unspoken, and the moment everything had to change.This conversation is both a wake-up call and a permission slip: to let go of perfection, to choose yourself without guilt, and to redefine what it means to be a “good” mother. Because at the end of the day, what our kids need most isn't perfection - it's a mom who is present, supported, and whole.If you've ever felt overwhelmed, stretched too thin, or like you've lost a piece of yourself in motherhood, this episode is for you.FOLLOW Libby WardVISIT libbyward.comIn this episode we've partnered with Obasan Click HERE to save - We want your kids sleeping great! Use code HAPPYSLEEP at checkout and receive 10% off when you purchase a crib mattress–head to obasan.com / obasan.ca and get great sleep started!**NOTE: be sure to shop obasan.com or obasan.ca pending your country locationErin Junker | Paediatric Sleep ConsultantInstagram @thehappysleepcompanyWebsite www.thehappysleepcompany.com
EP:187 Motherhood is beautiful, but it's also brutal — and you are not broken for finding it hard. In this episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I sit down with my dear friend Libby Ward, author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself. From the very first page, I saw myself in her words, and I know you will too. We talk openly about: What it really feels like to be overstimulated, resentful, and on the edge of rage as a mom Why motherhood isn't a time management issue, it's a capacity issue The moment Libby saw fear in her children's eyes and realized something had to change How chasing the undefined standard of a “good mom” keeps us burned out, dysregulated, and ashamed Why radical honesty about your actual life (your nervous system, support, money, partner, health) is the first step to feeling human again Letting go of being selfless and instead finally having a self Practical ways to lower your standards, say no, reclaim time, and build capacity so you can show up as the parent you want to be If you've ever thought, “Why is this so hard for me when everyone else seems fine?” or “I'm barely holding it together,” this conversation is for you. You'll walk away feeling seen, less alone, and with permission to stop hustling for some impossible version of “good mom” and start honoring your real, lived experience.
In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Libby Ward, creator, speaker, and author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself, to talk about what it really looks like to wake up mid-motherhood and realize you never actually knew yourself to begin with. Not because motherhood took you away from yourself, but because trauma did that long before your kids ever showed up.We talk about the overfunctioning, the perfectionism, the hypervigilance disgused up as "being a good mom," and the moment Libby hit a wall in her car on an ordinary morning that changed everything. We also get into repair, the grief that comes with cycle breaking, and why loving your kids, while beautiful, is not actually enough on its own.This one is raw, honest, and so worth your time.In this episode we cover:How Libby recognized her childhood trauma well into motherhoodThe nervous system reality behind why "just calm down" isn't a real optionOverfunctioning and perfectionism as trauma responsesThe granola bar moment (you will feel this one)What cycle breaking actually looks like on a regular TuesdayThe grief of knowing better and still strugglingWhy repair might be the most powerful thing you can offer your kidsLibby's book Honest Motherhood and what's inside the pre-order bonusLinks and resources:Libby's website: https://libbyward.com/ Pre-order Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself at https://libbyward.com/honest-motherhood-bookFollow Libby on InstagramFollow Libby on TikTokThanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast!Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform.Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcswLearn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim TherapyThis podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER.The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.
"To be a good writer, you have to really get into the visceral parts of the experience, right? You have to bring someone into that experience with you, which requires you to go back and understand every detail, every memory, all the visceral aspects of the experience, the sounds, the smells, everything that was happening," says Jane Marie Chen, author of Like a Wave We Break.Today we have Jane Marie Chen, author of Like a Wave We Break: A memoir of Falling Apart and Finding Myself. It's published by Harmony. It's a book whose ancestor is very clearly Eat, Pray, Love. A story of the cost of achievement and ambition, how childhood trauma permeates deep into adulthood, and the long nonlinear road to healing. Jane, being the entrepreneur she is, has quite the ecosystem around her memoir. At her website, there's a self-worth quiz. I don't feel like failing, so I'm not gonna take it. If I can't copy off the smart kid, then why take the test, am I right? She does speaking and leadership coaching, workshops on building resilience, and she recently delivered a TED talk about resilience.Jane is the former CEO and co-founder of Embrace Global, which developed infant incubators that helped more than 1,000,000 babies, many of which would have died without this technology. She was recognized as Forbes Impact 30 and receive the Economist Innovation Award, Fast Company Innovation Award, and the World Economic Forum Social Entrepreneur of the Year Award. She has an MBA from Stanford and a Masters in Public Administration from Harvard. Didn't I just have some clown on the show who studied at Yale and Harvard. What the fuck am I doing? If I don't feel inadequate, I don't feel alive, man.You can learn more about Jane at janemariechen.com and follow her, let's just say on the gram, at janemarie.chen.In this podcast, we talk about: How she wrote the book to help people The importance of surfing in her life What's enough? Burnout Writing the visceral Zooming in and Zooming out Playing with timelines Working with a collaborative writer Writing to leave the past in the past And not wanting to write a prescriptive memoirSome pretty rich shit, man, parting shot on, shit if I know, so let's queue up the montage. Here's Jane Marie Chen, huh!Order The Front RunnerWelcome to Pitch ClubShow notes: brendanomeara.com
Honest mom influencer Libby Ward never intended to blow up. She was mostly posting for herself, and whoever else needed to hear her message. But that might have been the exact recipe that led to her going viral. She talks about her new book, and other reads that encourage others to find their voice. Plus, CBC Books Senior Producer Ryan B. Patrick recommends this week's staff pick.Books discussed on this week's show include:Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself by Libby WardBraving the Wilderness by Brené BrownUntamed by Glennon DoyleEverything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I've Loved by Kate BowlerSearches: Selfhood in the Digital Age by Vauhini Vara
“When we don't do the inner work as leaders, then we tend to lead from a place of fear and control and ego, as opposed to a place of compassion and love and shared purpose.” – Jane Marie Chen Today's featured USA Today bestselling author is a globally recognized entrepreneur, inventor, and TED speaker, Jane Marie Chen. Jane and I had a fun on a bun chat about her book, “Like a Wave We Break: A Memoir of Falling Apart and Finding Myself”, the importance of authentic leadership, her journey founding Embrace, a company that developed a low-cost baby incubator for developing countries, and more!!Key Things You'll Learn:The defining childhood moment that motivated Jane to help the most powerless people in the worldHow overachievement and burnout are often rooted in deeper issuesHow Tony Robbins saved her companyWhy she wrote her memoir, the writing process, and how it helped her process intergenerational traumaWhy she's now doing leadership coaching and developmentJane's Site: https://www.janemariechen.com/Jane's Book: https://a.co/d/igVd334Jane's TED Talk: https://youtu.be/IwidCkCmWg4?si=dSjJLk7Wqsx6gBgJThe opening track is titled, “Unknown From M.E. | Sonic Adventure 2 ~ City Pop Remix” by Iridium Beats. To listen to and download the full track, click the following link. https://www.patreon.com/posts/sonic-adventure-136084016 Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmonDonate on PayPal: @DBrightmonBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmonGet Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmonThe Going North Advancement Compass: https://a.co/d/bA9awotYou May Also Like…Ep. 943 – How to Create a Team Culture Where Everyone Thrives with Dr. Patricia Grabarek & Dr. Katina Sawyer (@WorkrBeeing): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-943-how-to-create-a-team-culture-where-everyone-thrives-with-dr-patricia-grabarek-dr-katin/Ep. 825 – One Woman's Story of Survival & Courageous Leadership in Syria with Dr. Amani Ballour (@AmaniBallour): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-825-one-womans-story-of-survival-courageous-leadership-in-syria-with-dr-amani-ballour-am/Ep. 956 – Finding Courage to Change with Ana Megrelishvili: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-956-finding-courage-to-change-with-ana-megrelishvili/Ep. 865 – Bringing Sunshine Back To My Mind with Dr. Momoko Uno: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-865-bringing-sunshine-back-to-my-mind-with-dr-momoko-uno/Ep. 983 – How Neuroscience Can Fuel Your Book & Life Success with Sara Connell (@saracconnell): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/saracconnell/Ep. 551 – “Rewilding” with Dr. Kristy Vanacore: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-551-rewilding-with-dr-kristy-vanacore/Ep. 962 – How Confusion Can Lead To Peace, Personal Growth, and Self-discovery with Giovanna Silvestre (@ConfusedGirlLA): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-962-how-confusion-can-lead-to-peace-personal-growth-and-self-discovery-with-giovanna-silvest/Ep. 843 – Purpose, Passion, and Moxie with Genevieve Piturro (@GenPiturro): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-843-purpose-passion-and-moxie-with-genevieve-piturro-genpiturro/Ep. 689 – There Are (No) Stupid Questions . . . in Science with Leah Elson (@gnarlybygnature): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-689-there-are-no-stupid-questions-in-science-with-leah-elson-gnarlybygnature/Ep. 691 – How to Spark Your Heart and Ignite Your Life with Hilary DeCesare (@HilaryDeCesare): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-691-how-to-spark-your-heart-and-ignite-your-life-with-hilary-decesare-hilarydecesare/Ep. 987 – From Gutsy Beginnings to Graceful Global Leadership Success with LeeAnn Mallorie: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-987-from-gutsy-beginnings-to-graceful-global-leadership-success-with-leeann-mallorie/
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Unlock the secret superpower behind bold leadership, gratitude! In Episode 179 of the DYL Podcast, host Adam Gragg sits down with purpose-driven business leader Ben Hutton for a refreshingly real, fast-paced journey into the messy, courageous world of thankfulness. Are you tired of stress killing your creativity? Want to break the cycle of negativity and step into abundance? This episode throws open the vault of practical tips, personal stories, and, wait for it, worksheets that can supercharge your mindset and fuel actionable change.Discover the three game-changing decisions every leader needs to make to keep gratitude at the center of life, work, and relationships. Hear how Ben Hutton cracked the code to staying present, transforming team culture, and fighting resistance to positivity, even on the construction site! This conversation doesn't just make you feel good; it arms you for growth, resilience, and lasting impact.Listen now to spark joy, crush comparison, banish perfectionism, and ignite bolder action. You'll leave with an actionable plan you can use TODAY. Dare to be the leader who lives—and leaves—a legacy of gratitude. Dive in, and decide your legacy!Contact Ben Hutton and the With Purpose Podcast:https://benhutton.com/withpurpose/Click Here ➡️ 25 Gratitude Questions to Stay PositiveClick Here ➡️ Shatterproof Yourself Light CourseTop 5 Most Relatable Blogs:3 Foolproof Ways To Motivate Your Team: 3 Areas to Focus on as a Leader7 Benefits of Being Courageous4 Ways You're Demotivating Your Team: And What You Can Do About Each One10 Ways to Encourage People: How to Break The Invalidation TendencyHow to Make Good Decisions: 14 Tools for Making Tough Life ChoicesCHAPTERS:00:00 "Three Key Decisions Discussion"05:41 "Working at Gratitude"08:40 "Schedule Gratitude for Consistency"10:43 Building Connection Through Gratitude14:19 Gratitude and Life's Wake-Up Call19:44 "Gratitude Brings Present Focus"23:17 Practicing Gratitude Through Actions26:19 "Finding Myself in Leadership"27:31 "Leadership Reset and Self-Discovery"32:56 "Choose Greatness Through Agency"34:55 Weekly Planner for Prioritization37:08 "Real Friends Amid Divorce"Don't forget to subscribe for more conversations on leadership, growth, and living your legacy! Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
Soulforce has been a big part of the stories coming out of Azusa Pacific University throughout this podcast. From the guests who attended the events on campus to the subsequent generations who banded together to start a movement, Soulforce is part of the DNA of Chapel Probation. So it was a thrill to be able to work with Rev Alba all year at Axis Mundi, producing Teologia Sin Verguenza and Love Letters on the main Soulforce Podcast. And now the chance to spend time with Rev Alba to hear her story and bask in her badass wisdom is an incredible honor. Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
What if everything you believe about workplace wellness is only part of the story? In this episode, Kevin welcomes Dr. Katina Sawyer and Dr. Patricia Grabarek to discuss the real drivers of well-being at work and the critical role leaders play in shaping thriving environments. Drawing on their research, Katina and Patricia challenge the overreliance on surface-level wellness programs and demonstrate how authentic leadership, trust, and team connection have far greater impact. They introduce the concept of "generators", leaders who energize and empower their teams and contrast them with "extinguishers," who unintentionally drain motivation and wellness. Patricia and Katina also explore ideas like authenticity within professional boundaries, person-centered leadership, and the practical importance of being a "boundary bouncer." Listen For 0:00 The importance of wellness at work 0:33 Welcome and introduction by Kevin Eikenberry 1:29 About Kevin's book Flexible Leadership 2:18 Introducing guests Dr. Patricia Grabarek and Dr. Katina Sawyer 4:19 How their friendship led to writing Leading for Wellness 6:01 The research behind workplace wellness 7:05 The big idea Why leaders drive wellness 8:10 Defining workplace wellness 9:26 Work life balance myths and realities 10:18 Common misconceptions about wellness at work 11:37 Why wellness and productivity go hand in hand 13:30 The bolt on problem with wellness programs 14:01 What is a Generator leader 15:19 Authenticity and trust in leadership 17:14 What authenticity really means at work 18:40 Avoiding the stoic leader trap 20:26 Sharing your human side builds trust 21:01 Leaders as Boundary Bouncers 22:26 Protecting boundaries and modeling balance 24:15 Real life examples of healthy boundaries 25:01 Person centered leadership and Carl Rogers' influence 26:36 Knowing your people as individuals 28:17 Why understanding your team makes leadership easier 29:28 Building team culture where everyone thrives 30:23 What Katina and Patricia do for fun 32:37 What they're reading 34:04 Learn more about Worker Being and Leading for Wellness 35:19 Kevin's closing challenge Now what 35:54 Farewell and next episode reminder Their Story: Dr. Patricia Grabarek, PhD and Dr.Katina Sawyer, PhD, are the authors of Leading for Wellness: How to Create a Team Culture Where Everyone Thrives. They are the co-founders of Workr Beeing. Patricia is a seasoned Industrial/Organizational Psychologist specializing in workplace wellness, organizational culture, employee engagement, diversity and inclusion, and leadership development. With a background in both consulting and internal roles, Dr. Grabarek has led people analytics and talent management initiatives for more than 60 organizations across various industries. Her work focuses on research-based strategies to improve well-being, retention, performance, and diversity efforts. Named one of Culture Amp's Top 25 Emerging Culture Creators for 2024, Dr. Grabarek's insights have appeared in The Los Angeles Times, CBS News, and CBC Radio. She holds a PhD and MS in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Penn State and a BA in Psychology from UCLA. Katina is an Industrial/Organizational psychologist and an Associate Professor of Management and Organizations at the University of Arizona's Eller College of Management. A leading expert in work-life balance, leadership, positive workplace behaviors, and diversity, she has published more than 50 peer-reviewed studies, book chapters, and articles in outlets like Harvard Business Review. Dr. Sawyer's work has been featured in major media such as The Washington Post, Bloomberg Businessweek, The Atlantic, and Forbes. Receiving grants from the National Science Foundation and the Society for Human Resource Management, her groundbreaking research has established her as a thought leader in positive workplace behaviors. Among Philadelphia Business Journal's "Top 40 Under 40" in 2017, Dr. Sawyer also consults with organizations, offering data-driven solutions to create healthier, more productive workplaces. She holds a BA in Psychology from Villanova University and a dual PhD and MS in Industrial/Organizational Psychology and Women's Studies from Penn State. https://workrbeeing.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/katina-sawyer-ph-d/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/patriciagrabarek/ https://www.instagram.com/workrbeeing/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQGtAaCiNV2qR4HxgBvAkrg This Episode is brought to you by... Flexible Leadership is every leader's guide to greater success in a world of increasing complexity and chaos. Book Recommendations Leading for Wellness: How to Create a Team Culture Where Everyone Thrives by Patricia Grabarek and Katina Sawyer Outraged: Why We Fight About Morality and Politics and How to Find Common Ground by Kurt Gray Like a Wave We Break: A Memoir of Falling Apart and Finding Myself by Jane Marie Chen Like this? Solving the Culture Puzzle with Mario Moussa and Derek Newberry How Leaders Can Create a Company Culture That Doesn't Suck with S. 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As I prepare to go on vacation, I recap the rise of today's MAGA madness that we witnessed in the early 2000's. From the usual racism and acceptance of swastikas to the White-centric hypocrisy of marginalizing BIPOC traditions and centering White ones considered non-Christian.Join the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Virginia Duan is the biggest BTS fan I've ever encountered. I do not understand this. But I also know she is one of the best and biggest baddasses I've ever met. Her story of overcoming fundamentalist christianity, a violent father, and racial discrimination is inspiring. It makes me want to keep fighting. And maybe listen to some BTS.Check out her blog, The Mandarin Mama, and read her books, Illusive, and Weightless, the first two of the Katie Wu multiverse.Join the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
I'm kinda hoping hardly anyone listens to this wide-ranging episode about diversity, or lack thereof, in the deconstruction world. The solution is simple. More BIPOC folks need to create content. I do criticize some creators, but I mostly want to celebrate you, the Chapel Probation listener. The criticisms herein are not about you. If you listen to BIPOC voices, you're doing good. Or you're building towards doing good. Thank you.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Chuck and Roxy are back and open the show with some notes, a quick bowling / fantasy football segment, and a save the date for the Concert to Rock Cancer.....Oct 11th at Capital One Hall in Tysons, Virginia just outside Washington D.C. SOCIALS: @werockcancer WEBSITE: https://werockcancer.org/ They also have an update to last weeks apology. Next it's time to "Meet the Littles" as our hosts welcome Luke Russert to the podcast! (16:30) MOVIE: "Holiday Touchdown: A Bills Love Story," premiers November 22nd on the Hallmark Channel TWITTER: @LukeRussert BOOK: "Look for Me There: Grieving My Father, Finding Myself" www.bookshop.org OR www.arronsbooks.com (Use our code LLPOD for 15% off! Then our hosts close out the show with Chuck having a few rants and your emails / notes. (52:45)SONG: "You Wanted More" and "If You Could Only See" by Tonic WEBSITE: https://www.toniconline.com JINGLE: Africa (For Luke) A parody of a song by Toto.Recorded by joeythejammer in Ellicott City, MDRecorded: 12/07/2017 Released: 12/07/2017 First aired: 01/05/2018Podcast Website - www.loyallittlespod.com Patreon: www.patreon.com/c/loyallittlespod/membershipPodcast Email - WTFCPODNET@GMAIL.COMTwitter:@loyallittlespod Instagram: @theloyallittlespodcastPODCAST LOGO DESIGN by Eric Londergan www.redbubble.com Search: ericlondergan or copy and paste this link! https://www.redbubble.com/people/ericlondergan/shop
I asked my friend Umi Hsu to be on Chapel Probation to talk about their art and spiritual practices as a non-binary AAPI member of our community in Los Angeles. I had no idea Umi shares similar religious traumas from fundamentalist christianity. So this episode is great because you get a showcase of Umi's music and art and a relatable tie to religious trauma. Check out Umi's podcast, Kindred Transmissions here.And check out Umi's band Bitter Party's IG for upcoming shows.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
This week we have a very different experience in academia with Dr. James Lee. He tells his story of growing christian, how he got out, and how he found his way as a philosophy professor in a real university (as opposed to pretend evangelical ones). It's an amazing conversation about getting out of church, teaching, and life as an AAPI professor today.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Send us a textAt age 47, Mary Build took her very first flight lesson. What followed was a remarkable 30-year career in aviation—flying seaplanes, running her own seaplane base in Maine, flying to Alaska, competing in the Air Race Classic, and serving as a Designated Pilot Examiner (DPE).In this interview, Mary shares her powerful journey from overcoming personal challenges to becoming a respected leader in aviation. We talk about her memoir Finding Myself in Aviation, the courage it takes to start something new later in life, and the joy of never saying no to opportunity.
If you've read my book, you know I had some tough times teaching at Azusa Pacific University. But Dr. Sara Moslener has experienced even worse at a public university. She has had to adjust her pedagogy to survive, but she's still teaching incredibly important material centered on Christian purity culture, and she has a forthcoming book, After Purity: Race, Sex, and Religion in White Christian America. The book is available now for pre-order.Dr. Moslener talks about life in academia during this difficult time, and she talks about her book. As always, she is incredible to talk to, inspiring us all to keep fighting the good fight.Listen to the Pure White podcast and check out Dr. Moslener's first book, Virgin Nation: Sexual Purity and American Adolescence.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
People are asking how their friends and family could possibly like a person like Charlie Kirk. Scott talks about the reasons for this bending the knee to a horrible human being by otherwise "nice" or "good" people. And he talks about what pushing back looks like in your inner circles. There is a price to pay, for sure. But it's worth it if you have community support. Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
We're back to Biola this week...kinda. Yes, Lacey Bond attended that school and was a "good" christian woman who followed all the rules. But while there, she was encouraged to ask questions and think creatively. This would prove lethal to her closely held fundamentalist, purity culture-soaked faith. It would eventually lead her to question everything and being exploring her identity as a woman and a sexual being. And through a series of life events, Lacey became a licensed Sex and Relationship coach, specializing in kink and non-traditional relationships. Want to know how someone goes from Biola dream student to complete sex-positivity? Lacey's story is one example. And it's a great conversation.Lacey's website.Check out Lacey's survey she mentioned in the episode here.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Scott met Greg Corricello while at UC San Diego as Inter-Varsity Christian Fellowship (IVCF) leaders. They played on the worship team together and shared a large, supportive community of christians on "secular," science-heavy campus. We saw ourselves as being on the front lines of radical christian living. But Greg went on to gradually deconstruct his faith, learning to accept himself as an asexual man. Being involved with a christian college org like IVCF, in many ways, was more intense than attending a christian school. That's a christian flex right there.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
We watched the doc. And goddamn. Christians are not ok. We talk about this particular Christian cult, purity culture, and how we got where we are as a nation.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
The Deconstruction world is dominated by progressive Christians, and while that's all well and good, I do not understand it. Maybe it's because I'm Japanese and could never imagine pushing a definition of christianity on the world. To be sure, I got tired of trying to define my faith, my identity, and my community while I was a christian. But the good news, well...my good news is that I want to build a better world with progressive christians, even if I do not understand their need or desire to remain christian. Who cares what I understand or believe. I just want to be part of a movement that makes this world better. I don't even care about proving myself right when it comes to my understanding of christian faith, theology, or the bible. Zero interest in that. I just want to build. And if you tell me your christian faith inspires you to share that vision, I have a million questions, having been a part of that and having read the bible. But I'll hold onto those questions and concerns and build with you. I can't promise I won't raise an eyebrow or wince when you talk about Jesus. If and when we fix this shitty world, we can have it out. But if you are for unequivocal human flourishing, I want to be on your team. Just try and keep the god stuff to a minimum . It's triggering to some of us. Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Dr. Daniel White Hodge returns to Chapel Probation. We talk about our usual gripes with race and how we BIPOC men get overlooked by most of the world. But Dan has been on an incredible healing journey of late, and he shares insights in overcoming trauma caused by violence (because America) and religion. His 8th season of the Profane Faith podcast just started, and Dan is tackling all the hard things and sharing his healing process as well as his usual sharp criticisms of the deconstruction world. The rest of the world is now seeing the America we've known all along, and Dan breaks it down in his own direct way.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
We interviewed Janice Selbie earlier this year, and we signed up to attend the Shameless Sexuality conference that she organizes. And we were pleasantly surprised to get an invite from Janice to speak at the conference, which was held virtually back in May. We brought our humor and insight to the event, shedding light on purity culture through our unique lenses. Hopefully, this conference will continue into the future. There were a lot of great presenters ranging from therapists, writers, and sex workers. Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
When one becomes indoctrinated into conservative christianity at a young age, that person usually does everything possible to adhere to the teachings and values that ultimately cause harm. Celeste Irwin did everything she could as a cis-het man, even joining a church plant for what she later learned was an insidious cult. But once she extricated herself from the cult and conservative christianity, she began the hard work of deconstructing faith and figuring out her identity as a "christian-ish" trans woman. Subscribe to Celeste's writing here.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
I always knew Joh Chase would be a guest on Chapel Probation. They were one of the most influential people to come out of APU, and they are exquisitely talented. As a guitarist, singer, and songwriter, for my money, Joh is one of the best I've ever seen. And there's a reason we are still friends after meeting in 2005 during their sophomore year. Lots of old Joh Chase music featured in this episode. And lots of memories, both good and bad. Check out Joh's latest music on Spotify.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Content Warning for descriptions of assault and rape.This week we go to the "Harvard" of Evangelical schools, which is not really a thing. But we go to Wheaton and learn from semi-anonymous guest, Andrea, that the patriarchal systems in place protect men and harm women when it comes to harassment and assault. And at every instance, Christian women are there to defend the men and even find blame in the women who accuse them. Obviously Wheaton is not unique in this patriarchal nightmare, but Andrea went through it all both while there and in life after. Even her Christian therapist found ways to blame her for the horrible abuse she suffered at the hands of her ex-husband. But Andrea fought back and eventually left, both evangelicalism and her abusive marriage. She got a real education, married and not has a loving family, and now educates people. A true hero today.Check out her new Substack, Bullies for Jesus.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Despite leaving christianity years ago, Katie Malia has never needed to find community centered on deconstruction. She forged her own creative life without ExVangelical twitter, podcasts, or White influencers. Not even Brian Recker! Gasp. Nope. Katie found life and community in the arts, comedy, and music. You've seen her on tv commercials. She's opened for big comedians like Margaret Cho. And her dance videos are incredible. But until now, Katie has never publicly told her story of growing up and then getting out of her Calvary Chapel upbringing. And she brought her comedian's eye for the absurd along with her artistic depth and artful expression to this episode.Be sure to catch Katie's standup at the Improv Aug 31!Katie will be doing an artist residency creating an original dance piece in Oxnard, October 18 and 25.And find out more at KatieMalia.comChapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
We're kicking off a brand new cohort of the My Makeup Mastermind - and in this special episode, I'm sharing something the 10 Commandments for Creatives.Whether you're a new creative entrepreneur or deep into your journey, these commandments will help you…
With all the hell happening all around us, particularly in the LA area, it feels good to present this conversation that offers so much hope and mind-expanding ideas. Jess Grace Garcia is a badass who has made it their life mission to help queer people find healing and positive identity in life after fundamentalist faith. They've been all through the cultiest of christian faiths to all the stages of deconstruction, to a fulfilling life of polyamory and community development. As the founder of Queerfire, a support group that meets monthly in the LA area to support folks navigating life after christianity, Jess has taken their experience as a pastor and used it to help people on the outside of oppressive christian faith.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
A personal solo episode where I (Mary) share my “small joys” i.e. little acts of self-care that have made a big difference. Each one has become a gentle anchor, a little nudge to remember who I am and what I need. And through them, I'm realizing how the act of keeping promises to myself—no matter how small—has become a declaration of self-worth.You will hear about... 6 teeny tiny self-care practices that have made a big difference in my mental healththe books I've been reading lately (including my unpopular opinion about The Women by Kristin Hannah)reflections on relationships and making new friendshow to cultivate a positive mindsetAt the core of this episode is the idea that keeping promises to yourself is a declaration of self-worth. Every time you follow through on taking care of yourself, you are signaling that you are WORTHY of the time, energy, money, and attention self-care demands.Tune in for a gentle invitation to remember that your life is YOURS to shape, nurture, and enjoy. A positive mindset could be just a small step away.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary's books:1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you're craving more conversations like this—about self-care, mental health, positive mindset, relationships, women's empowerment, and living in alignment with your authentic self—make sure to subscribe to this self-love podcast and leave a review. Your support helps this show reach more women and spread the gift of self-love.Mentioned In This Episode... Hilary Hahn performing J.S. Bach: Partita for Violin Solo No. 1 in B Minor, BWV 1002 - 4. Double (Presto)Ep. 243: How to Stay Hopeful, Joyful, and Soulful with Victoria Hutchins on Apple, Spotify, and YouTubeEp. 234: Finding Myself in the Unlikeliest of Places (Cuba) on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube
Marla is back with some things to say about language, prude christians, and thoughts on finding our people. In a relatively short time, Marla has gone from dutiful Christian wife living as a missionary to outspoken advocate for BIPOC and Queer voices. Her latest project is called Mouth: A Little Book of Cheeky Poems, but as of this typing, there are only 5 left. So, hurry up and contact Marla to get yours.The word "fuck" is provocative, profane, and sometimes the perfect word, especially today. Pairs perfectly with the word "trump." Try it! And enjoy this conversation that explores the profane and the profound.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
We are back at Bob Jones University, or BJU, with Rick Pidcock. Rick is a writer with Baptist News Global, and he has come a long way from those bizarre, high-control days of BJU. He tells his story of finding his way to being an empathetic human being in stark contrast with the uncaring theobro culture of BJU and how he became a stay-at-home dad, like Scott. And we finish with a last look at the deconstruction world, namely the White men who become influencer/pastors. Lots of great conversation.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Jeff Karow told one of the most moving stories a couple of seasons ago, and he returns to Chapel Probation to give an update and to share some of his insights into putting his life together after leaving his conservative church and getting divorced. Like for so many people, deconstructing faith can have dire consequences. Relationships with family and friends can be strained or even irrevocably broken. And yet, we strive to remain true to ourselves as we build the life we want to live. After one more parting shot at Moody Bible Institute, Jeff talks about his life, and the good news is that things are much better today.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUicR1InL2s Episode Description Heather Shea shares how working in a women's center and bringing feminist icon Gloria Steinem to campus shaped her personal, political, and professional journey. She reflects on the enduring need for activism and advocacy in women and gender equity centers. Suggested APA Citation Gardner, H. (Host). (2025, May 14) Here's the Story: "Meeting Gloria, Finding Myself" (No. 270) [Audio podcast episode]. In Student Affairs NOW. https://studentaffairsnow.com/meeting-gloria-finding-myself/ Episode Transcript Helena GardnerWelcome to Here's the Story, a show that brings Student Affairs to life by sharing the authentic voices and lived experiences of those who are shaping the field every day as part of the Student Affairs now family, we're dedicated to serving and furthering the people who walk the walk, talk to talk and carry the walk that all of us find ourselves doing who work in Student Affairs in Higher Education. You can find us at studentaffairsnow.com, or directly at studentaffairsnow.com/heresthestory, or YouTube or anywhere you enjoy podcast, I like to start off by thanking today's sponsor Huron. Huron's education and research experts help institutions transform their strategy, operations, technology and culture to foster innovation, financial health and student success. I get to be your host today, Helena Gardner, and my pronouns are she? Her, her, and I serve as the Director of Residence, education and housing services at Michigan, Michigan State University. I live my life as a mom, a sister, a daughter, a friend and a mentor. I'm with you today from the ancestral, traditional contemporary lands of the Anishinabe three fires, confederacy of Ojibwa, Ottawa and Potawatomi peoples. The university resides on land seated in the 1819, treaty of Saginaw, home to Michigan State University. And I'm going to toss it to my co-host. Neil E. GolemoHowdy. My name is Neil Golemo. I use he, him pronouns, and I am blessed to serve as the Director of Campus Living Learning and Texas A name's Sonny Galveston campus, and I'm just over here living hard and making it look easy, Helena Gardnermaking it look easy now, because today, today, we have a special guest for you. Today. Want to introduce to you, Heather. Shea, you may be familiar with Heather. Shea, we see her often on Student Affairs NOW, kind of a big deal. Yeah, yeah, it's kind of a big deal. Like, kind of a big deal, like, we got a special guest today. I'm really excited. I have the pleasure of seeing Heather probably a little bit more often in real life on campus, as we get to be great colleagues doing this thing at Michigan State. Don't know, welcome Heather. Share whatever you want to share about you. And we're real curious what you gotta say today, so you let us know, and then we will get started. Alright. Heather SheaWell, it's so great to be here. Thank you for the invitation and for all of the work that the three of you are doing to create this, this amazing podcast, I think it's just such a powerful way of bringing the field to life, right? Because we are nothing if we are not the stories that have have shaped us. So I Yes, work at Michigan State, alongside Helena. I have been here since 2013 but before that, I lived in the West. As I like to say, I'm from the west. My originally born and raised in Colorado, moved to Arizona, then moved to Idaho, which is where I was right before coming to Michigan State, which Idaho will play prominently in my story that I'm going to share with you all today. Helena GardnerAlright. Well, Heather, we so you do this, and we typically see you get into our scholarly and practitioner land. Mm, hmm. And so, you know, tell us a story from the heavenly Alright, with that slide, all right. Heather SheaWell, this is the story about how I met feminist icon Gloria Steinem. And I'm going to share this story because it was one of the probably most um.
It often comes as a surprise to non-Asians that people like Rohadi Nagassar and myself have things to say. Especially inside of North American Christianity. Like the proverbial tree falling in the forrest with no one to hear it, we do exist. We Asians often have to find our way out of church to develop our voices. Forget about "platforms." We have to first decolonize our own minds to learn that we do have things to say, and then we have to find our people.I'm so glad to have met Rohadi on social media, and I was honored to be on his podcast, Faith in a Fresh Vibe. His 2022 book, When We Belong: Reclaiming Christianity in the Margins is available wherever books are sold.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
As someone who was born into a family that got completely fucked by this country, I have some thoughts about the current situation. My family lost everything and had no due process before being incarcerated in concentration camps simply for being Japanese American. No one in my family takes freedom for granted because of this, and no one assumes this country has our best interests in mind ever. So for us, seeing what is happening, we do not hold out hope for the best outcome. For those of you who do not hail from societal and government tyranny, it has to be hard to come to grips with the fact that so much has been lost and so much is still to be lost. All the things this country has stood for, for better and for worse, are on the chopping block if they aren't already in the landfill. So it should come as no surprise that Scott thinks art and community are the only thing we can cling to as the we sink into the abyss. We are NOT going to be ok for the foreseeable future.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Liz Matthews has been a social media friend and member of the Chapel Probation Facebook group, and we finally got her on to tell her story. She graduated from Biola where she played basketball, but she actually had a good time there. Liz brings up the concept of "shelving" borrowed from Ex-Mormon podcasts. It's where you place all the doubts, questions, and issues that aren't compatible with evangelical christianity. But there is only so much space on this existential shelf and when it fill up, it collapses. Liz tells her story of trying to reconcile her deeply-held faith with the realities of the world and her own identity as a queer woman. And it's epic.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Welcome to the first full episode of Season 5! We kick things off with Mary B Safrit, a writer and podcaster who actually interviewed Scott a few weeks ago on her podcast, Found Family. Mary B grew up in a mix of christian traditions and went to a normal college where she worked with Young Life. This solidified her evangelical identity at the time, but she went on to come out as bisexual while still remaining a progressive christian. But fear not. She has done the work, decolonizing from patriarchy and White christian nationalism, and she is awesome to talk to.Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media CollectiveJoin the Dauntless Media Discord for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, Azeem Khan, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo ShacklefordJoin the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on Instagram, Bluesky, and SubstackYou can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com
Pack your slides and fuzzy socks and hit the road. Summer Travel: Destinations: Crested Butte, Nantucket and Martha's Vineyard. Also Wedding Trends, Cultivating Creativity in Midlife and Entertaining Sisters. Plus, spending the night at JFK! Originally aired July 2023. Sign up for our weekly newsletter PEP TALK here: https://conta.cc/2OxTnogThanks to Earth Breeze Detergent Sheets for sponsoring this episodePre-Order The Marriage Sabbatical in paperback herePre-Order a Signed Copy of Abigail and Alexa Save the Wedding here. Show Notes:Crested Buttehttps://travelcrestedbutte.com/Martha's Vineyardhttps://www.mvy.com/Nantucket Book Festivalhttps://nantucketbookfestival.org/Roadside attractions:The Ultimate Roadside Attraction Road Triphttps://www.thediscoverer.com/blog/the-ultimate-roadside-attraction-roadtrip/XvHyVpKgiwAG5amF?utm_source=blog&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=1831465429&ST=RF_ANantucket Book Festival RecommendationsThe Revolutionary: Samuel Adams by Stacy Shiffhttps://stacyschiff.com/books-and-essays-by-stacy-schiff.htmlMad Honey by Jodi Picoult and Jennifer Finney Boylehttps://www.amazon.com/Mad-Honey-Novel-Jodi-Picoult/dp/1984818384Look for Me There: Grieving My Father, Finding Myself by Luke Russethttps://linktr.ee/lukerussertDaughters of Nantucket by Julie Gerstenblatthttps:/www.harpercollins.com/products/daughters-of-nantucket-julie-gerstenblatt?variant=40993047478306Lian Wedding Block: Popular months to get married:https://www.theknot.com/content/is-there-an-off-season-for-weddingsTrends according to Marthahttps://www.marthastewart.com/8360486/wedding-trendsWedding dress trendshttps://www.nytimes.com/2023/06/10/fashion/weddings/modern-bride-wedding-dress-shopping.htmlBest Beach Bag Book List: You can see and buy all the 2023 books here. https://bookshop.org/lists/satellite-sisters-best-beach-bag-books-2023Go to the Satellite Sisters website here: https://satellitesisters.comSHOP the Satellite Sisters Shop here: https://www.cafepress.com/satellitesi...Subscribe to the Satellite Sisters YouTube Channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVkl...JOIN OUR COMMUNITY: - Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/SatelliteSis...Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/satel...Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/satsisters/Twitter: https://twitter.com/SatSisters - Email: hello@satellitesisters.comLian Dolan on Instagram @liandolan: https://www.instagram.com/liandolan/Liz Dolan on Instagram @satellitesisterliz: https://www.instagram.com/satellitesi...Julie Dolan on @Instagram @julieoldesister https://www.instagram.com/julieoldestsister/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Crystal met Hugh Hefner when she was 21 and he was 81. They spent 10 years together at the Playboy mansion before he died and she became a widow. In this episode she reflects on their marriage, and how she's changed since. Crystal Hefner's memoir is called Only Say Good Things: Surviving Playboy and Finding Myself. Podcast production by Zoe Azulay Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, Slate Plus! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus. And if you're new to the show, welcome. We're so glad you're here. Find us and follow us on Instagram and you can find Anna's newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices