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[EP 25-193] To follow my work takes guts. To buy my merch and retweet my comments in social media takes a big pair of another part of the anatomy.But it shouldn't take such things. I only say the things that people think, but are too chicken to say.That used to be called “speaking your mind”, and it took not guts or cajones. It was just the American way.Here is a young Black woman saying what I say routinely.[X] SB – Black woman on black peopleI'm shocked that people are considered heroic for stating the facts.Fact. The education system sucks and should be outlawed or at least destroyed. It produces know-nothing drones.These people are then fed lies by the media, and they are trained to accept lies as truths.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-kevin-jackson-show--2896352/support.

Today we have the honor of my new friend, Cindy Sember. She is a wife, content creator, and 3x Olympic track runner.In this episode we talk about:God's goodness when life doesn't go as planned The super power in taking things slow MARRIAGE ADVICE! For two very achievement-oriented peopleI pray this blesses you friend!

National apple cider day. Entertainment from 1993. St. Peters Basilica consecrated, Will Tell shot an apple of his sons head, Time zones created, Jonestown massacre. Todays birthdays - Imogeane Coca, Alan Shepard, Mickey Mouse, Linda Evans, Kevin Nealon, John Parr, Kim Wilde, Owen Wilson, Duncan Sheik. Chester A. Arther died.Intro - Pour some sugar on me - Def Leppard     http://defleppard.com/Apple Cider song - PeopleI'd do anything for love (but I wont do that) - Meat LoafAlmost goodbye - Mark ChestnutBirthdays - in da club - 50 Cent      http://50cent.com/Mickey Mouse TV themeNaughty naughty - John ParrKids in America - Kim WildeBarely breathing - Duncan SheikExit - It's not love - Dokken    https://www.dokken.net/Follow Jeff Stampka on facebook, linkedin and cooolmedia.com

Follow me @samirkaji for my thoughts on the venture market, with a focus on the continued evolution of the VC landscape.Today we're thrilled to be joined by Glenn Solomon, managing partner at Notable Capital. Along with Granite Asia, Notable Capital was one of two groups to emerge from GGV Capital, which recently split into two groups with Notable based in Silicon Valley, New York, and covering companies in the U. S., Israel, Europe, and Latin America.Glenn brings nearly 30 years of venture experience to the table, and it was great to draw from his insights in investing, building firms, and working with high performing teams. About Glenn Solomon:Glenn Solomon is the Managing Partner at Notable Capital. He focuses on investing in early to growth-stage companies across different sectors, including cloud infrastructure and business applications. He also serves on the boards of several companies, such as HashiCorp, Opendoor.com, and Orca Security.Before joining Notable, Glenn was a General Partner at Partech International from 1997 to 2006, where he worked on technology investments. Earlier in his career, he was an associate at SPO Partners from 1993 to 1995 and started as a financial analyst at Goldman Sachs from 1991 to 1993.Glenn Solomon earned his MBA and BA from Stanford University.In this episode, we discuss:(01:42) Glenn's journey from playing tennis at Stanford to discovering a passion for technology and investing(02:44) A pivotal moment when encountering the internet for the first time, which sparked a deeper interest in technology(04:06) The transition from Partech International to joining Granite Global Ventures in the mid-2000s(05:03) The appeal of GGV's global perspective and innovative approach in venture capital(07:48) The early strategy at GGV, focusing on differentiation in the venture space(09:01) The necessity of adapting to the evolving nature of the industry(10:29) The rebranding to Notable Capital and the strategic decisions following the split from GGV's Asia team(12:39) The guiding principles at Notable Capital, emphasizing the importance of speed and maintaining a sector-focused strategy(15:19) An example of a recent deal showcasing how the firm's flat structure empowers all team members to contribute significantly(17:33) Staying focused on specific sectors and building a strong support platform for portfolio companies(23:25) Engaging with CSOs and CDOs to maintain an edge in cybersecurity and data sectors.(27:00) Discusses the importance of resourcefulness in venture capital and how they assess this quality during interviews.(36:31) Advice on being a successful VC, stressing the critical role of building strong, lasting relationships(39:30) Success in venture capital fundamentally relies on working with exceptional peopleI'd love to know what you took away from this conversation with Glenn. Follow me @SamirKaji and give me your insights and questions with the hashtag #ventureunlocked. If you'd like to be considered as a guest or have someone you'd like to hear from (GP or LP), drop me a direct message on Twitter.Podcast Production support provided by Agent Bee This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit ventureunlocked.substack.com

​​Know What to Sell Next ...Coaches, consultants, done-for-you service providers I AM TALKING TO YOU.This is for women who have skills that they want to package up and offer their strategy, consulting, coaching, done together (like live group programming) or done for you (like for website builders, copywriters, freelancers, virtual assistants) but they have never been responsible to sell for themselves I have news for you:Paying clients are everywhere!!BUT . . . how do you KNOW what to Sell NEXT???I go through the news channels and Reddit in my industry — I looked at book reviews of books written in and around my industry and look at trends in opinions ... then I ask the people closest to me1. What is my group saying (why I love having a group)2. Ask your email list3. Ask your close network of peopleI ask like this:I am trying to decide on what my next training should be on... I was thinking ____ or _____.... which one would you like to hear about next?Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) www.ReneeHribar.co/training*********************************************Renee Hribar has been a sales professional since 1994 in New York. She has sold millions of dollars in products and services and trained thousands to sell for the first time. She is known in her industry as a fun, energetic executive sales coach who leads with heart. A TEDx speaker who offers training sessions at global conferences, boardrooms and most recently through virtual programs, she skillfully breaks down her decades of sales expertise with a flair that makes listening to her joy and if you take action, extremely profitable. With her one-of-a-kind "laugh & learn" teaching style, you will certainly walk away with a new view on the "softer side of sales". Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dear One, My mother Caron offered a gift to almost everyone she could. Her level of appreciation for beauty of every kind, let me tell you, was astonishing.And so I was raised by a woman who saw beauty in everything and called it out. We would be walking down the street and her entire face would break out into joy as she saw different people and places and things, and exclaimed “How beautiful you are!”. How often people were surprised by her showed me just how precious this was.One of the last things that she shared with us before crossing the rainbow bridge is that "mattering matters" and to never miss an opportunity to let someone know that they matter.And so today that's what I'm doing with you. Whether you feel like you're my people or not, I'm letting you know that you matter. I spent my morning meditation inviting you to be with your people, to look for us, to see us, to be with us, and to let yourself be seen, to know that you matter…Finding your people begins with a decision to be seen, to be seen in your messiest places, and also to be seen in your gloriousnessto be seen when you'reputting things together and also when you're pulling things apartwhen you find your people, it's like breathing an air that you knew existed but weren't sure you'd ever find. It's a discovery that there are people as strange as you are, but in completely different ways. Finding your people isn't just that you like the same songs, although you might or that eat the same foods although you might, or that you want the same things in life. It's less about affinities toward preferences and more about a feeling. The closest way I could describe it is like a groove. It's like that point in the evening in a concert where all the popular songs have been worn away and you're a little bit tired and wondering if you're gonna head home, and all of a sudden it's the song you've been looking for and you feel it in your whole body and then everybody's moving. It's a feeling. Sometimes I feel it less with individual people and more with whole groups of people, like atThat evening concert under the Twinkle Lights, under the moonlight, when the beat is so blue that you feel joyful and so does everybody else. It's a wink from an elder with a hat pulled over one eye and flip-flops, even though it's cold and they wink at you and you know they see you and you let them see you. It's the child running up to you that belongs to the parents who don't know you and they apologize, but you have a moment with the child where there's an understanding. It's this moment as I'm recording this, as an unbelievably huge and gorgeous white bird flies over my head and reminds me this is my people. My people aren't just people. My people are birds.My people are tigers I've never met. Of course, they're not people, but at the same time, when I look at them, I see myself in them. It's something from the wild. It's a remembrance of a time before this time it's a call to belonging to something bigger than neighborhood and fashion sense, and which apps you're a part of in community and which things you like from everybody else. It's a call to a feeling. It's a feeling that I don't know if anyone on this planet ever escapes because somehow we're always looking for it. We think it's a place because we've just been traveling for so long and sometimes you find it in a place like when I think about the Bay Area, I think I'm a child of the Bay. It's my place and I like visiting other places, but as soon as I smell the salty sea of San Francisco and see the golden gates, I know that's my place. That doesn't mean everybody there is my people, but I see my people there all the time and we say hello. As we pass by on the streets, we share pleasantries and what I really wanna do is say, I see you.I've missed you. I'm sorry about your father, your mother. I heard about your child, your work. How's the hip, the foot, the hand, the finances. How are you feeling about what's been coming out around here, about the stories that have been told about us, about you, about the evolution of the species or notfinding your peopleI'd love to say is an easy thing, but it isn't always so easySometimes at the festivals when the rainbow flags are flying and the tie dye is dancing and the corn is piping hot and the barbecue smells so good and you've never been hungrier in your life and suddenly everybody's dancing and you're like, yeah, my people. Sometimes in church when the soloist is riffing in a way that nobody expected and everybody's in an ecstatic cascade of delight and you're like, yeah, that feeling, that's a feeling of belonging to a people, but also to a song and a place and a space. I remember that feeling from the first time I went to Glide church and the choir started coming down the aisle and their tie-dye robes singing, “Celebrate good times - Come on. There's a party going on right here, a celebration…”and I started crying. My peopleLooking for your people is a favorite pastime of our species at this time because you're looking for someone who sees you and has the capacity to see you, and that's one of the issues with finding your people is you need people with similar capacities. Again, you might not like the same thing or dress the same way or have the same affinities, but there's a similar capacity and that's where the challenge is because capacity is rare. I'd like to think it isn't, but I actually think it is. I can only truly be seen by people who have a similar capacity as I do for seeing them.I can see lots of people who don't see me, but when someone really sees me, they're stretching into a capacity, for who I am, what I'm creating, what I'm all about. There's appreciation, there's inquiry, and I have the exact same thing about them. It isn't about accomplishments or what's visible. It's about a feeling again.but not having the capacity to see and be seen is lonely and people feel isolated even in a crowd or in a community.There's something that we do in our community that I absolutely love and maybe it's not something we do. It's more like who we be the symbol for it is the red thread, but the energy for it is an energy of belonging and it's an interesting capacity that we have developed over these past 30 years where when someone walks into a virtual space or a physical space without needing to prove themselves in any way or even say their name, we embrace them in a feeling of belonging. It's something we've cultivated and the interesting thing is that if at least one person is brave enough to cultivate a capacity for having people feel like they're seen and they belong, then that person so often surprised someone new feels included and relaxes into the space, and that relaxing allows them to be seen in a different way and perhaps they recognize they're with other beings who have a capacity for cultivating belonging without even needing to know you.I think the “needing to prove yourself” stuff really keeps us from seeing each other.I think people are just enough as they are showing up bravely into a new space.Finding your people isn't easy and sometimes you find them and then they're gone again and you feel like you have to start over, but you don't want to because you spent so long finding those specific ones and then they scatter into the four directions. You find yourself looking eye to eye with a hummingbird and wondering, are you my people? Yes. Hummingbird is also my people.Hummingbirds because of how I dress,think I'm a flower. The number of times I hear the worrying of their wings before I even see their little ruby faces is a lot. It's enough that I've come to know that I'm part of their people too. Of course, I'm not really talking about people or birds or tigers.I'm talking about a feeling, this feeling of seeing and being seen is something ~ Shiloh Sophia Get full access to Tea with the Muse at teawiththemuse.substack.com/subscribe

Calligraphy Business Model Options“Most beginner creative business owners spend all their time trying to increase followers without understanding WHY” - ShinahCome get an inside peek at the overall STRATEGY I'm thinking through for my calligraphy business. If you're a new or growing calligraphy business owner, and you're not sure if you're spending your time in the right way… this will help you think BIG PICTURE, and take more confident steps towards INCREASING REVENUE:  The “spaghetti on the wall” Business Model that I started with - and how I moved to a much more streamlined, focused online course sales modelThe TWO OPTIONS you have for increasing revenue:The difference between PAID and ORGANIC ways to reach your peopleI also give easy to understand descriptions ofAscension Models and how they might work for your calligraphy businessThe Customer Journey and how it'll help you serve your people better, while increasing revenue, andWhy MOST early business owners are focusing on the WRONG revenue option—————WANT SHINAH AS A BUSINESS MENTOR?Limited one-on-one coaching spots are now openFOLLOW: Follow along with my Radical Business Experiment of 2023 over on Instagram:  @crookedcalligraphySUBSCRIBE:Love podcasts? Listen to The Shinah Show wherever you get your podcasts, and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!

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Every civilization throughout our history has taken part in the shaping of its society and ultimately its own destiny,  built on the foundations of human ingenuity and the unique drive to be better. In the strive for social progress and the instinctual desire to harness the power of technology, we built machines to help us.  This new mechanized era coupled with ever increasing automation, would lay the groundwork for what would later play a critical role in the future molding of human development.Now, for the first time in human history, we have taken the first real steps to begin handing the reins of human development over to Artificial Intelligence.  This new technological frontier will no doubt have its unique (and at times, dizzying) peaks of civil progress as well as its frightening valleys of unintended technological horrors.Will AI prove to be humanity's greatest creation or greatest flaw? Will humanity collectively ease back on the throttle of technological progress before its too late? Are Markus and Drew making a big deal about nothin'?  You decide.***LINKS:ChatGPT explained.DAN Command (Do Anything Now)"I Robot,  basically..."Homer's Rage-Art/ "Le Grille""Do you like the Elton John song, Rocket Man?"Joe Biden's problem with plagiarism Shia LaBeoufe's problem with plagiarism China's Dystopian ChatGPTAI generated TV showDeepfakesThe Butlerian JihadThe Rise of Skynet and the AI TakeoverCan't someone else do it?A whole generation of disposable peopleI don't listen to hip-hop***CONTACT US:Link Tree***SUPPORT US:PayPalIf you liked what you heard and can afford to help us grow, please throw a couple bucks our way. If your budget is too tight but you still want to help, please Like, Share and/or leave us a good review. Thanks!Support the show

GROW  Greatness Reached over Oppression through Wisdom I just want to Celebrate another day of LivingI just want to Celebrate another day God has given me Life✨

Have you ever felt out of sync with the universe? Have you ever felt like you're not in alignment with your life's purpose? Remembering that it's perfectly normal to feel this way is important. We are all human, and this is part of our journey. This episode will provide practical tips on how spiritual women can stay in flow with the universe.In this episode, I talk about how you can stay in FLO Focus on your goalsLearning to live in alignmentOmnipotentConnect with natureListen to your intuitionExpress yourself creativelyConnect with like-minded peopleI also talk about the importance of building cyclical toolkits to help support you in the phase you are experiencing instead of fighting the flow.  Using the flow of your cycle can help you stay organized and focused on your goals. Our cycles are signs from the universe that tell us when to slow down and when to speed up; however, it can be difficult to balance. That's why my goal is for each of us to start listening to our bodies so that we don't push ourselves too far past our limits. Staying connected to our higher selves is essential for living a life that is aligned with our true purpose—and staying in flow with the universe helps us do just that! Although at times we may feel disconnected from this source of power within us, these tips can help bring us back into alignment so we can experience joy and fulfillment every single day!For extended show notes & episode transcript, click the link below:https://www.caradempsey.com/45Episode Resources:Floductivity 2023 Digital PlannerGabby Berstein's PodcastAmy Porterfield's PodcastThanks for being here! Chat soon,Cara Connect with Me: Website Tiktok Instagram Etsy

Beyond Punishment and RewardWhen you think of the word and the meaning of up, what's the very next word that comes to mind?Is it down, or something else? And if it was something else, what would it be? When you think of the word…right? What do you think of next? Do you think of the opposite? Do you think of left or do you think of wrong? Where does your mind naturally go to when you consider words that have meanings, that appear to have opposite potentials When you think of the word here,As in I'm here, then where are you?Or where am I? Are we also here? Are we there? Are we over there? When you think of suffering, What comes to mind? What comes to heart? Is it pleasure or the release of suffering? We've largely been living in an enforced either/or construct, even though we're all aware of AND. Every concept has a spectrum of possibility.Yet humans through education and certain religions have come to create a kind of forced polarity competition and separationThis has resulted in a way of thinking and being that could be an illusionWhat do you think? Does it feel like an illusion, the vacillation between the either/or?For this politician or not for this politician, for this vaccination or not for this vaccination, a good person or not a good personEven when we generalize about regions of the world, this state is that color, this state is that color. and that means what?Generalizations about entire countriesas if that somehow impacts the soul of each personDoes it? What do you think?How much sovereignty does the individual have in determining their identity and their outcomes and what is the path of practice or the way to determine one's relationship with one's identity? Can we truly author it or are we just simply stuck with what ended up happening based on our life story? Do we truly reap what we sow? We want to think so, but then we wonder how people who are sewing, terrible things like the poisoning of water, the extraction of gas through the blowing up of rocksWe want to think that, what? What do you want to think about those activities? Have you even made that and either/orhas it informed your activism? The riddle of being is hereWe can't understand how someone who could be a part of extraction that leads to collapse…How could they do that? Don't they also have a familyand why are they not reaping what they're sewing or experiencing the karmic wheel sooner? Why aren't they stopped before they do more damage? Sometimes we wish it's more quick, whether we acknowledge it secretly or otherwiseWhat way do you live? Do you go about your day from waking, to dressing, to eating, to walking, to working, to being with the pets and the children, and your lover, your mother, your fatherWhat approach is it chosen or a default setting? I don't know about you all, but I'm interested in exploring something other than up/down, here/theregood/bad, left/ rightand the punishment and reward structures that have been seeped so deeply into our consciousnessSuch that we can barely get out from under it to think an original thoughtWhen I think of my path of practice, starting with leaving the corporate world, leaving the corporate education system, going to the mountain to study at the age of 24 now being 52 and what have I got to show for myself other than a chosen approach, but I guess that's what I was looking forAn approach, an approach I call intentional creativity, which isn't just a way of making art, but actually a way of living lifeAnd at the root of it is inquiry to question ourselves, our thoughts, our defaults, our hopes, our dreams, our desires, our relationship with suffering, our very relationship with up and down and not just to arrive at a middle path, a place of neutrality or even inner peace when the rest of the world is at war, but actually to just be at cause for doing the thinking at allFor asking the question, How might I free my own identity from the punishment and reward structures set up by power-over systems, by people I wouldn't invite to my dinner table?Why would I allow the worldview of peopleI wouldn't want to share a meal with,to shape my consciousness any further than I absolutely had to..?There comes a point a reckoning in all of our lives where we simply say enoughI must learn to think my own thoughtsI must discover the way to compassion on my own terms, but not just own as in alone, but on your own within the context of community itself,there's a continuity hereThere's a morphic field been building many, many, many, many years, many thousands of people practicingAnd there's an opportunity for the kind of discovery and waking and being that I know many of us seek because you tell me and because I seek it with youSo let us go forward together on a path of practice, an inquiry, discernment, the awakening of true compassion and the exit in each our own time from punishment and reward.What fertile deep, delicious place might existif we weren't always trying to avoid suffering in this life or the next or achieve reward in this life or the next, what is there when you remove that illusion and you sit right in the center of self or in my case, I meditate standingSo when I stand right in the center of my myself, it helps me stay alert to be in standing meditation and inquiry and ask the impossible questions of my heart and invite those along my red thread to journey with meI know there are more places for us to explore together and I'll be with you providing encouragement for our journey Big love, big love, big, beautiful love coming to you from right where I am here to right where you are, here, in my heart Thanks for reading Tea with the Muse! 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GROW  Greatness Reached over Oppression through Wisdom Until this day, unbeknownst to me, God have revealed some Listening in a Beautiful Quiet corner of the Enduring Earth,Perhaps I'm not alone in learning of this Enchanting place in our World       Uzbekistan

Hugh Van Cuylenberg was number one on my bucket list for this podcast!There aren't many people who I can really relate to when it comes to growing The Good Human Factory, Hugh is a massive exception to this.For the last 12 years, he has been traveling around Australia inspiring students, sporting teams, and corporate groups with his incredible workshops and keynote. He has reached well over 1 million people and is changing the way so many treat their mental health.Hugh has written two books which I highly recommend! The Resilience Project was his first and Let Go his second, both have been best sellers.I am really grateful for Hugh's openness and vulnerability to share his story.A few key topics in this chatGrowing up a happy kid in MelbourneFinding out his sister has a mental illnessTravelling to India to volunteerDiscovering the power of Gratitude, Empathy, and Mindfulness.Having no idea how to start a businessMaking mistakes and learning from themScaling a business to help more peopleI loved this chat and so will you!Hugh's SocialsINSTAGRAMWEBSITECooper's SocialsINSTAGRAMTIK TOKGood Humans PodcastINSTAGRAMUse code PODCAST for 25% off GOOD HUMAN FACTORY Merch.SHOP MERCH HERE Enquire about a workshophttps://www.thegoodhumanfactory.com/pages/workshopsCooper@thegoodhumanfactory.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hugh Van Cuylenberg was number one on my bucket list for this podcast!There aren't many people who I can really relate to when it comes to growing The Good Human Factory, Hugh is a massive exception to this.For the last 12 years, he has been traveling around Australia inspiring students, sporting teams, and corporate groups with his incredible workshops and keynote. He has reached well over 1 million people and is changing the way so many treat their mental health.Hugh has written two books which I highly recommend! The Resilience Project was his first and Let Go his second, both have been best sellers.I am really grateful for Hugh's openness and vulnerability to share his story.A few key topics in this chatGrowing up a happy kid in MelbourneFinding out his sister has a mental illnessTravelling to India to volunteerDiscovering the power of Gratitude, Empathy, and Mindfulness.Having no idea how to start a businessMaking mistakes and learning from themScaling a business to help more peopleI loved this chat and so will you!Hugh's SocialsINSTAGRAMWEBSITECooper's SocialsINSTAGRAMTIK TOKGood Humans PodcastINSTAGRAMUse code PODCAST for 25% off GOOD HUMAN FACTORY Merch.SHOP MERCH HERE Enquire about a workshophttps://www.thegoodhumanfactory.com/pages/workshopsCooper@thegoodhumanfactory.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hugh Van Cuylenberg was number one on my bucket list for this podcast!There aren't many people who I can really relate to when it comes to growing The Good Human Factory, Hugh is a massive exception to this.For the last 12 years, he has been traveling around Australia inspiring students, sporting teams, and corporate groups with his incredible workshops and keynote. He has reached well over 1 million people and is changing the way so many treat their mental health.Hugh has written two books which I highly recommend! The Resilience Project was his first and Let Go his second, both have been best sellers.I am really grateful for Hugh's openness and vulnerability to share his story.A few key topics in this chatGrowing up a happy kid in MelbourneFinding out his sister has a mental illnessTravelling to India to volunteerDiscovering the power of Gratitude, Empathy, and Mindfulness.Having no idea how to start a businessMaking mistakes and learning from themScaling a business to help more peopleI loved this chat and so will you!Hugh's SocialsINSTAGRAMWEBSITECooper's SocialsINSTAGRAMTIK TOKGood Humans PodcastINSTAGRAMUse code PODCAST for 25% off GOOD HUMAN FACTORY Merch.SHOP MERCH HERE Enquire about a workshophttps://www.thegoodhumanfactory.com/pages/workshopsCooper@thegoodhumanfactory.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With all of the recent advances in machine learning, what's left for us humans to do? Well, according to Ken Cukier, there is plenty: humans have not and may not ever be matched when it comes to thinking thru frames and models, using imagination to think through what is not in the data as much as what is in the data. Ken Cukier is a Senior Editor at The Economist, and host of its weekly podcast on technology. He is also an associate fellow at Said Business School at Oxford, researching artificial intelligence. His most recent book is, “Framers: Human Advantage in an Age of Technology and Turmoil,” c0-authored with xxxx which is a follow up to the earlier book “Big Data: A Revolution That Transforms How We Live, Work, and Think” he co authored with Viktor Mayer-Schönberger. He is also the author of “Learning with Big Data: The Future of Education.”Listen as Ken and Greg discuss framing, re-framing, learning by teaching, and the educated elite. Episode Quotes:Fundamental difference between AI & humansHuman beings are able to visualize things that don't exist. We don't have to run the experiment, we can run it in our minds in our imaginations. The computers cannot do that. Artificial intelligence has no ability to conceptualize information that it doesn't have. It can only rely on information that it does have. That is the fundamental difference: that we are able to see things that are not there.Liberal perspectivismIsn't it interesting that people are bristling in 2022 of trying to adopt the position of other people to walk in their shoes, to see things through their lens. You wouldn't have expected that. Encouraging reframingBy the time you're in your late thirties, and you've touched a little bit of authority and responsibility and a little bit more income and business class lounges, what's the likelihood that you're going to risk that by coming up with a new idea? I mean, unless you're already in a venture backed startup, probably not. So we do such a terrible job as a society at encouraging that reframing and that fresh thinking, we need to get better at it.Cognitively lazy peopleI think some people are more primed to being more dynamic. Stand up comedians are probably the least cognitively (or good ones at least), are probably the least cognitively lazy in the world. They thrive on newness of changing their act, developing things. Show Links:Recommended Resources:Philanthrocapitalism: How the Rich Can Save the World by Matthew BishopTheodore Levitt - WikipediaWhat Business Are You In?: Classic Advice from Theodore LevittFosbury Flop - WikipediaTania LombrozoJoel M. Podolny - WikipediaCal NewportDavid Foster Wallace - WikipediaGuest Profile:Faculty Profile at Saïd Business SchoolProfessional Profile at The EconomistSpeaker Profile at TEDTalkKen Cukier's WebsiteKen Cukier on LinkedInKen Cukier on TwitterKen Cukier on TEDSalon BerlinHis Work:Former Host of the Babbage PodcastKen Cukier on MediumFramers: Human Advantage in an Age of Technology and TurmoilLearning With Big Data: The Future of EducationBig Data: A Revolution That Will Transform How We Live, Work, and Think

Five of my top tips for photographing peopleI've been photographing people for a long time.  I started doing it almost as soon as I bought my first 35mm film camera.  In my home town of Brighton (on the south coast of England) I cut my teeth on capturing ordinary people going about their daily lives down on the beach and on Brighton's busy, bohemian streets.  In later years I moved into the studio and I had several years shooting weddings, families and corporate headshots.  You pick up some tricks when you shoot as much as I did,  and on today's Tog-Talk I'm going to share my thoughts on five really helpful things to either avoid... or things that are essential if you want to take good images. There is great advice here for newbies with cameras, but I'm also sure there will be things to learn for photographers who have been shooting for a while.Need more..?If you want to know a bit more, check out my Tog-Talk website which usually has photos and additional words of guidance: www.tog-talk.comImproving your photographyI really appreciate you taking the time to listen to this broadcast and I hope that you have found it interesting as well as entertaining.   If you're looking to imporove your photography and you live close enough to our training centre in Fleet, Hampshire, you could attend one of our workshops (or our longer courses) in both photography and photo-editing.If you're at the beginning of your photography journey you might find this one-day introduction, just what you're looking for:Introduction To Photography (1-day Workshop)Run four times a year, this one-day photography workshop will equip you with the knowledge you need to move from simply being a camera-owner… to becoming a real photographer!  Whether you're photographing your kids, snapping your holidays or you're hoping to progress your photography to a more creative level, you'll still need a solid grasp of the basics.Want something more?Alternatively, If you want a course that raises the bar, something to immerse yourself in for a whole year, you'll want to join our Photography Masterclass.  Run twice a year, with intakes during Spring and Autumn, it is our core workshop.The Photography Masterclass (one year course)Students on the Photography Masterclass will build a solid foundation of technical and creative skills .  They will learn not only how their cameras work and how to shoot with a creative eye, but there are modules on photographing people, working with flash, shooting landscapes, macro photography, as well as two modules on editing.This is a ten-module photography course with photo-assignments between sessions.  Each session lasts three hours and will include time to examine assignment images and take part in practicals (where appropriate).Test Your KnowledgeOr you could simply test your photography knowledge and have a go at our free Photography Assessment Tool

Know What to Sell Next ...The “S” Word LIVE Show (sales training for women who sell for themselves) --> Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) www.ReneeHribar.co/trainingCoaches, consultants, done-for-you service providers I AM TALKING TO YOU.This is for women who have skills that they want to package up and offer their strategy, consulting, coaching, done together (like live group programming) or done for you (like for website builders, copywriters, freelancers, virtual assistants) but they have never been responsible to sell for themselves I have news for you:Paying clients are everywhere!!BUT . . . how do you KNOW what to Sell NEXT???I go through the news channels and Reddit in my industry — I looked at book reviews of books written in and around my industry and look at trends in opinions ... then I ask the people closest to me1. What is my group saying (why I love having a group)2. Ask your email list3. Ask your close network of peopleI ask like this:I am trying to decide on what my next training should be on... I was thinking ____ or _____.... which one would you like to hear about next?Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) www.ReneeHribar.co/training*********************************************Renee Hribar has been a sales professional since 1994 in New York. She has sold millions of dollars in products and services and trained thousands to sell for the first time. She is known in her industry as a fun, energetic executive sales coach who leads with heart. A TEDx speaker who offers training sessions at global conferences, boardrooms and most recently through virtual programs, she skillfully breaks down her decades of sales expertise with a flair that makes listening to her joy and if you take action, extremely profitable. With her one-of-a-kind "laugh & learn" teaching style, you will certainly walk away with a new view on the "softer side of sales". See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Have you ever wondered what it means to love yourself? Or maybe you think we love ourselves too much? Do you find yourself giving yourself a good telling off all the time? Have you ever wondered if a life at peace existed?In this episode Ella shares personal examples of how the research based self compassion practice has helped silence the internal war and brought her back to her authentic self.In this episode Ella and Jessica discuss...Research shows that when you feel better about yourself you make better choicesHow to heal from self judgement and past mistakesWhat it means to connect with understanding & common humanityHow we think self criticism will help us manage our livesLearn how to become a kind witness to your own lifeHow the most boundaried people are the most compassionate peopleI have found the self compassion practice a super power in the healing process.In this episode I refer to research by Kristen Neff, Brene Brown and Aundi Kobler.Feel free to download, subscribe and write a review!You can book in a complimentary 20 minute coaching call with Ella by going to her website here: https://www.ella-hooper.com/Follow @nextbravethingpodcast on instagram!

Dr. Terainer Brown is a wife, mother, educator, author, motivational speaker, educational consultant, and is currently the Chief Education Officer for the US Airforce and is the Founder and Executive Director of Student Success for Cultured for College™. With more than 20 years in education, Dr. Brown has served as a college advisor with several student success programs and college preparation efforts geared toward improving students' chances of enrolling in college.  “While all these programs approach removing barriers to higher education from various directions, they are all focused on one goal, and that is to assist students with the tools to matriculate, persist, compete, and complete their post-high school education.”   Topics discussed in this episode: Serving as mentors from a young ageListening and connecting with childrenUnderstanding the work I was purposed to doLeadership Principle:  Relationships are importantHabit - Wisdom of TimeGet to know peopleI have to slow down and mean ‘how are you today”Ask people about the things they care aboutGreen Flags:  If you start something - take breaks when you need, but be able to finishFind a way to elevate to raise your voicePlug away and little pieces at a time.  Advice:  Find your sweet spot.  Figure out your passionStart making a planUse the technology and resources availableWhere to find Terainer:Websites: www.terainerbrown.com, Cultured For CollegeFacebook: Dr. Terainer BrownInstagram: @drterainerbrownYou Tube: Terainer Brown, Ph.DBlog post: Work Your Path, Not Fast Food!GET INVOLVED!Newsletter:  Optimistic LivingCollaborative Group Coaching Community: Launch From The BeachEmail me at andrea@theintentionaloptimist.comJoin me over in the Intentional Optimists Facebook Group  ●  Follow on Instagram @theintentionaloptimist  ●  Linked In Andrea JohnsonGrab your FREE:Andrea's Favorite Planning & Productivity tools“Ultimate DISC communication Cheat Sheet”Need some tools?Mini Course: Noom: A Mindful Way to Eat Learn how to intentionally challenge your mindset in order to take control of your health.Skillshare: Spark your creativity. Get 40% Off Annual MembershipDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/AndreaJohnson)

Becoming Your Own BossPodcast: Click Here To Learn More About Our 5 Star Rated Forex CourseClick Here To Learn More About Blueberry Markets#432: Becoming Your Own BossIn this video:00:30 – I've received a lot of emails from people who might be losing their jobs01:17 - A lot of new rules around the world about mandates02:02 – You should consider trading Forex03:22 – I'm serious about trading and how to I made a decent return?04:54 – What the prop firms want06:22 – You need to know what you are doing first06:42 – The mini course will re-open in 1 month from now07:35 – It's only going to get worse for many peopleI want to talk about why you should maybe look at considering being your own boss, and learning how to trade Forex properly. It's very topical right now and very important. Let's get into it right now.Hey traders, Andrew Mitchem here, the owner of The Forex Trading Coach with video and podcast number 432.I've received a lot of emails from people who might be losing their jobsCame outside today, it's a beautiful day out here. I want to talk about... I've just been receiving a lot of emails. You might think it's a controversial subject, you may not. But I think it's important to discuss it because not many people are. It's all about what's happening around the world right now with COVID injections, vaccinations. Not only that, it's more the knock-on effect of what's happening with so many people with these jobs being mandated that people need to be vaccinated. I'm not here to debate the vaccine; I've got my own opinions. But as a trader, I think it's important because so many people have been emailing me saying, "Andrew, I'm potentially losing my job."A lot of new rules around the world about mandatesHere in New Zealand especially, and it sounds like Australia as well, a lot of rules are coming in that people will be losing jobs if they're not double vaccinated.Like I said, I'm not here to be pro or against it. What I am here to say is that it's probably the choice that people are finding that they're going to be without that's for me probably more the issue. The choice to do what they want and how it affects their jobs. So that comes back to why I've probably been receiving so many emails over the last week or two as it's becoming more and more prominent. And it comes back to...You should consider trading ForexI've said to these people you've got to consider something like trading. But don't just do it just because it's a quick fix, because it's not a quick fix. Don't think that you're going to sit at home and be lazy all day and get up when you want. It's not that at all. You have to work hard at it. It's hard. There's ups, there's downs, there's good times, there's not so good times. Like anything. But it does allow you to have some more control and freedom and to be your own boss.I think that's the point that a lot of people around the world right now that people are picking up on, the extra value of trading. Getting away from some of the more traditional lines of work where you are told what to do and when to do it. I think that's one of the beauties that trading offers. Like I said, it's not easy. It takes effort, it takes hard work, it takes dedication. If you think you're just going to waltz into trading and suddenly become a multimillionaire by this time next year forget it. You're in the wrong choice. Or certainly don't come knocking on our door,

Welcome to Woman Leadership show. I'm Janet Aisyah and in this episode, I will be sharing with you on building my career while young.- Build a career so can build independence so I can take a career break for almost a year- Aging parents/young kids- May have built financial reservesKey Takeaways- Start early to learn and invest- Mentor and coach- Hang out with average 5 peopleI hope that through my sharing, it draws inspiration and personal reflection for you. I believe every woman can be a leader in your own way. Connect with me through Facebook, Instagram and Linkedin. My links will be in the show notes https://shor.by/leaderonlineI look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you tips and ways to realize your full potential as a leader on Woman Leadership. Facebook:www.linkedin.com/in/janetquekLinkedin:https://www.facebook.com/janetaisyahquekMoney Blueprint for Women Leaders linkhttps://janetqcc.clickfunnels.com/financialblueprinthttp://www.janetaisyahquek.com/money21 Ways to be Headhuntedhttp://www.janetaisyahquek.com/headhuntedPodcast Coaching for C-suiteshttps://shor.by/leaderonline

Have you been feeling like an imposter in your business? In this episode, Vince shares about his life and how he accidentally became an entrepreneurial coach. He goes into depth about how he has dealt with imposter syndrome multiple times in his life and career and how he has been able to embrace it to become a successful entrepreneur himself.Get ready to find out how to accept imposter syndrome so that you can have success in your life and business without it holding you back! Be sure to follow the podcast and leave a review!In this episode, we share with you:The first male guest on the podcast!Introduction of VinceVince's backgroundA corporate life and entrepreneurshipChief Marketing Officer at Cigna insuranceFeeling unfulfilledPublishing his first bookThe Book launchDealing with imposter syndromeA mentor, 8 time New York Times best seller, called Vince out on his radio silenceQuitting Cigna to pursue write another bookLaunching his podcastAccidentally becoming a marketing coachHelping other entrepreneursNo one is immune to imposter syndromeThe imposter whispers started in childhoodGrowing up in a childhood you wouldn't want any child to be raised inLaunching his first business at age 11Being bullied Losing his only safe spaceA good teacher who gave him hope and a feeling that he could have a future Winning a ticket to a business breakfastThoughts of everyone there having a dream life & being the “imposter”Listening to the speaker at the breakfast made me know I wanted to inspire peopleI asked the speaker when he knew he had made itAsking this made me want to run and hideHaving to remind yourself of achievementsEveryone feels imposter syndromeImposter syndrome is not actually bad, but how you respond may beSelf sabotageYour brain is telling you that you are outside of your comfort zoneBreakthrough doesn't happen inside the comfort zoneSuccess happens when you are outside of your comfort zoneAs an entrepreneur, you need to be outside your comfort zone most of the timeRetraining your brainFear & excitement release the same hormones, we just interpret them differentlyChoose how you reactOur trauma creates our thoughts & belief patternsEmbracing imposter syndromeImpact listAlign your thoughts & feelingsCelebrate your winsImposter syndrome is looking inward Change your perspectiveFocus outwardsProjecting things onto other peopleDon't put others on a pedestalWe are all on the same stage but with different talentsWe are all flawedBeing 1% better every dayDon't compare yourself to others, compare yourself to where you've come from3 books - Anti Perfect, 13 Underground Marketing Secrets, (not yet named!)Schedule a free strategy call with Vince >>>>HERE

 Happy Social Saturday, Today's breath is:   Laughter breath          Which: Improves moodHere's how to do it: 1.    Begin diaphragmatic breathing with long, slow inhales through your nose and exhales through your mouth. Remember that each inhale should fill your belly, rather than your chest. On the exhalations, allow your belly to relax, moving back toward the spine.2.    Now Start laughing, even if it feels forced or like there's nothing to laugh about. It does not have to make sense. Let the energy of laughter ripple through your body. If this feels difficult, try letting out a big yell first, to move some of that energy out. Then try laughing again. Feel free to move and shake your body or roll around while laughing. OR: Lift your hands up and say, “hoho,” and drop your  hands out and say, “hahaha”-repeat quickly.  Today's nudge is:  I attract wonderful peopleYou attract the kind of people that you are. If you are wonderful, kind and courteous, you will attract the same kind of people. If you want to be around positivity and encouraged by others, than be positive yourself. Be the person you want to attract! Make the connections with those great people that you know. Reach out to them and try to become a part of their circle. Speak your wants to yourself, “I attract wonderful people” as there is power in positive affirmations!  When you surround yourself with wonderful people you are more likely to do more wonderful things in life.   Let's repeat this nudge three times: I attract wonderful peopleI attract wonderful peopleI attract wonderful people  Have a great Social Saturday!  

 Happy Fun Friday, Today's breath is “Counting Down to Calm” which relieves frustration &  anxiety, Calms and  Encourages focus. Let's Inhale to a count of 5-I'll count while you breathe, hold to a count of 5, now exhale to a count of  5. Let's repeat this four more times.  Today's nudge is:  I attract positive peoplePut it out there and you get it back. Be cheerful and energetic and other cheerful and energetic people will want to be around you. Be fun and carefree and you will attract the life. Be funny and silly and your friends will follow suite. Be giddy and filled with giggles and you will lift those around you. Your happiness, fun spirit and humor will attract others who want to be the same. Those positive moods are contagious! So get out there and attract positive people!Let's repeat this nudge three times:I attract positive peopleI attract positive peopleI attract positive people Have a great Fun Friday!

Mornings like this remind me why I do what I doI get to work 12-15 hour daysI get to stay up late working on ideasI get to travel and meet new peopleI'm living my life by strategy and enjoying a sunrise here in Florida well…. For me this is a great way to start the day

Day 1 of Atlanta is in the books and I've had a blastI've been able to meet up with Michelle Witmer Humes and Steven Humes and present for their teamTheir hospitality was off the charts and got to meet some great new peopleI then got go to eat with my cousin and enjoy my eveningThis life I've created for myself is something I can thank so many great partners for showing me the wayBut none of it happens without action and extreme focusLet's all continue to strive for a life we don't need a vacation from #WinTheDay

Know What to Sell Next ...The “S” Word LIVE Show (sales training for women who sell for themselves) --> Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) http://www.reneehribar.co/zerotosalesCoaches, consultants, done-for-you service providers I AM TALKING TO YOU.This is for women who have skills that they want to package up and offer their strategy, consulting, coaching, done together (like live group programming) or done for you (like for website builders, copywriters, freelancers, virtual assistants) but they have never been responsible to sell for themselves I have news for you:Paying clients are everywhere!!BUT . . . how do you KNOW what to Sell NEXT???I go through the news channels and Reddit in my industry — I looked at book reviews of books written in and around my industry and look at trends in opinions ... then I ask the people closest to me1. What is my group saying (why I love having a group)2. Ask your email list3. Ask your close network of peopleI ask like this:I am trying to decide on what my next training should be on... I was thinking ____ or _____.... which one would you like to hear about next?Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) http://www.reneehribar.co/zerotosales*********************************************Renee Hribar has been a sales professional since 1994 in New York. She has sold millions of dollars in products and services and trained thousands to sell for the first time. She is known in her industry as a fun, energetic executive sales coach who leads with heart. A TEDx speaker who offers training sessions at global conferences, boardrooms and most recently through virtual programs, she skillfully breaks down her decades of sales expertise with a flair that makes listening to her joy and if you take action, extremely profitable. With her one-of-a-kind "laugh & learn" teaching style, you will certainly walk away with a new view on the "softer side of sales". See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The Cross has said it all In other words, God told the people of Israel through Moses:I Am the LordI will free you from the burdensI will deliver you from slaveryI will redeem you with an outstretched arm and mighty acts of judgement I will take you as my peopleI will be your God I will bring you into the Land I swore to AbrahamI will give it to you Because, I AM the LORD.Support the show (http://www.easytithe.com/stbdeland)

I want to ask you to travel back to a place with me.  A place where we have been slaves for multiple generations for what could be up to 400 years.  I place where generation after generation has not known freedom.  A place where we have only known the fear of oppression, the pain of bondage, the doubt of our own identity. We step into this place and we get a glimpse of what life was like when Moses comes onto the scene.Imagine the people of Israel.  They had been slaves so long that thy no longer knew what it was like to be free.  Moses shows up after being gone for 40 years and what you remember of this this man is a bit of a checked past. You are not sure whose side he is really on.  But Moses tells you that has been sent by God to deliver you.In Exodus 6:9 the scripture tells us that Moses told the people these amazing words, but the people would not listen to Moses, because of their broken spirit and their cruel slavery.In other words, God told the people of Israel through Moses:I Am the LordI will free you from the burdensI will deliver you from slaveryI will redeem you with an outstretched arm and mighty acts of judgementI will take you as my peopleI will be your GodI will bring you into the Land I swore to AbrahamI will give it to youBecause, I AM the LORD.Moses told the people these amazing promises of God, but the people would not listen to Moses, because of their broken spirit and their cruel slavery.They could not even see the hope that God had for them.  They were sorely crushed in bitter oppression.Think about all the grace that God has poured out to you.  Not just theoretically, but specifically in all the times you have received the Sacraments of the Church, most commonly in the bread and the wine.  A Sacrament is an outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace, given by Christ as sure and certain means by which we receive that grace.   Think about all the grace that God has poured out to you even in just this one way.  What do you suppose a life that has received that much grace would look like? Support the show (http://www.easytithe.com/stbdeland)

“This world is but canvas to our imaginations.” – Henry David Thoreau Sometimes in life...you just have to step back and regroup. Take time to regroup, restore, rebuild...whatever you want to call it - you know what I mean. Show title: RegroupWhy this topic?Was originally motivated to speak on PermaculturePermaculture seems to be such a divisive and political topic for some peopleI've actually lost friendships because of the ideology that I met through permaculture......and because of some of the ideology that I have and implement in my lifePermaculture is a design science based on ethics and something called the Prime Directive.Design ScienceEthicsEarth CarePeople CareReturn of Surplus / Redistribution of SurplusPrime Directive"The only ethical decisions is to take responsibility for our own existence and that of our children." - Bill MollisonI began assembling notes for this morning's discussion......lost powerI had just pulled up this website Was looking for some Permaculture writings I'd doneExpand on the recovery of the website Here's the original blog post:https://www.deliberatelivingsystems.com/deliberate-living-systems-blog-introduction/ CLICK HERE TO RATE AND REVIEW THE PODCAST Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/allaroundgrowth)

In this episode of the L3 Leadership Podcast, as part of a two-part teaching, Doug Smith shares his top lessons in learned in 2020.Key Take-Aways From Episode 270.1. Life is Hard, Don’t Quit Doug shares 5 Truths: You are going to die, Life is hard, You are not that important, You are not in control, Your life is not about you - You must experience your own powerlessness before a true spiritual journey can begin. 2. Learn to Rest and Recover...or you’ll be forced to. "Ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life." -Dallas Willard "If you don’t have plenty of time to do what I called you to do, you’re wasting time." -Keith Moore "The world aches for the generosity of a well-rested people." -Wayne Muller "Rest is an act of faith." -Dallas Willard 3. Doug shares what God taught him most in 2020. “Doug, what if you’d knew it’d all happen. You know it will. Think back to all the stress you put on yourself trying to make it happen. You can’t make anything happen. Let me surprise and delight you Let me make it happen. Rest.” -God4. Doug shares his Top Leadership Lessons in 2020: a. Leadership does suck! "Those who wish to become CEO’s, be careful what you wish for. It takes your life to be devoted to the company's life. In the end, work is just dust." -Joel Manby There are no two easy consecutive days in a leader's life. b. Always Ask Who not How! "If there are things before you that aren’t getting done, consider then that it may be someone else’s assignment!" -Rick Wellock c. Leading Teams: "If you find yourself angry at your team, it’s likely not them that you are mad at, it’s you being mad at your inability to lead them." -Carey Neiwhof Doug shares his journey from pleasing people to leading PeopleI’ll always love people, but I’d never depend on their love. Your relational gifting won’t get you through all the time. d. Managing/Firing:You may not understand, when you move into leadership, you will. It’s the most painful part of leadership. Leaders are willing to do what others are not. "The moment you feel like you have to manage someone, you’ve made a hiring mistake. "-Jim Collins Dealing with underperforming people:Lessons from letting people go.Quotes “When things go wrong, when obstacles seem too great, when the difficulties get to be too much, when your dream seems to be impossibly far away, your job is to simply keep going.” -John MaxwellI’ve never had a senior leader that has fired someone regret it. Their only regret is they should have done it sooner. - Sam Chand A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone. -Henry ThoreauIf you have no joy, there’s a lack in your Christianity somewhere. -Billy Sunday Links:Who Not How by Dan SullivanTop Lessons Learned in 2019Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/l3leadership)

Know What to Sell Next ...The “S” Word LIVE Show (sales training for women who sell for themselves) --> Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) www.reneehribar.co/zerotosalesCoaches, consultants, done-for-you service providers I AM TALKING TO YOU.This is for women who have skills that they want to package up and offer their strategy, consulting, coaching, done together (like live group programming) or done for you (like for website builders, copywriters, freelancers, virtual assistants) but they have never been responsible to sell for themselves I have news for you:Paying clients are everywhere!!BUT . . . how do you KNOW what to Sell NEXT???I go through the news channels and Reddit in my industry — I looked at book reviews of books written in and around my industry and look at trends in opinions ... then I ask the people closest to me1. What is my group saying (why I love having a group)2. Ask your email list3. Ask your close network of peopleI ask like this:I am trying to decide on what my next training should be on... I was thinking ____ or _____.... which one would you like to hear about next?Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) www.reneehribar.co/zerotosales******************************Renee Hribar has been a sales professional since 1994 in New York. She has sold millions of dollars in products and services and trained thousands to sell for the first time. She is known in her industry as a fun, energetic executive sales coach who leads with heart. A TEDx speaker who offers training sessions at global conferences, boardrooms and most recently through virtual programs, she skillfully breaks down her decades of sales expertise with a flair that makes listening to her joy and if you take action, extremely profitable. With her one-of-a-kind "laugh & learn" teaching style, you will certainly walk away with a new view on the "softer side of sales". See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Abuse, Divorce, Loss, this Pandemic; Trauma comes in many shapes. You may still be figuring out all the ways trauma has left its mark. Trauma may have impacted your ability to build healthy relationships. The memory of your past trauma may still haunt your present day. The common denominator in all this is YOU. Our offering, in this podcast, is a look at how you can help you.Josh and Kit dive into the topic of Self-Kindness and Attachment Repair. Being kind to yourself plays a significant role in how you heal - heart, mind and body. You’ll hear how important it is for you to pay attention to your emotions and how to lean into them with God. You feel emotions in your body. And, you have a God who knows what a hurting heart, a stabbing headache and that pit in your stomach feels like - you have Jesus. We’ve provided a list of valuable resources below. Also, look in the “Homework” section and consider printing out or writing out the Affirmations on note cards and placing them around your home. You are powerful. Right now, your power rests in being kind to you. Listen in.Highlights:The concept of Self-Compassion is a vital part of healing.There are physiological, emotional and spiritual things that happen as we learn to be self-compassionate in our places of wounding.Taking care of yourself is not selfish. When you take care of yourself and receive the love that God has for you, you become a person who cares and loves better.Homework:AFFIRMATIONS OF SELF-KINDNESSI am capableIt’s okay to disappoint peopleI have choicesI can set boundariesI am loved no matter whatI am valuableI can ask for supportIt’s okay to need helpMy emotions give me informationMy body supports meI’m responsible for only myselfIt’s okay to take care of myselfThis emotion is temporaryI am belovedResources/Extras:Jay StringerWhy Emotions Matter by Jon and Tristen CollinsDr. Patrick Carnes“Try Softer:A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy” by Aundi KolberTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereOriginal music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.Support Becoming Whole

Here’s what was happening, I would go out all the time and constantly surround myself with peopleI would tell myself it was because I was an extrovert so that’s just what we do..But in reality I was giving myself an excuse to not take accountability of my lifeWhen I got introduced to 100/0 way of life everything changed100/0 means 100 percent accountability 0 excusesOnce I realized I was in complete control of my life and everything that happened to me before that was also because of my control and actions everything changedNow I love my time to myself and can say I’m loving where life is taking me!Take control and live life 100/0

I have a renewed determination because of the excitement in my heart and gut. Motivation doesn’t come from my brain. Heart, soul, and gut are where creative imagination originates, but fear comes from the brain.How exciting it is to be exhausted through working on an inspired shortcut. When we disengage our logical brain through brainless talks we receive creative ideas and renewed determination. We step into the God within.Logically I wanted to do a couple masterclasses before the GPS masterclass, but after receiving the direction repeatedly to do a GPS masterclass on the GPS planner I know that is the best next step.oday I give myself permission to I am motivated through my creative imaginationI am staying in faithful action by following my gut and heartI am breathing in renewed lifeI allow and follow inspired thoughtsI am opened up to all those I am here to serveI am sharing my excitement and enthusiasmI am keeping my commitment to serve these peopleI am honoring my energetic commitmentsI am called to help millionsMy creative imagination is my obedient servantClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook Group. Check out the NEW! Daily GPS Planner. It’s a Gratitude Journal and Planner in one! There is space to write your Inspired Shortcuts, record all your thoughts and impressions from The Daily Gratitude Call and even pages to help you stay focused on your Path of Purpose!To have a 15 minute conversation with Wylene Benson and gain new perspective on an area you desire to change, schedule a time on her calendar by going to this link: askwylene.comTo work more closely with Wylene, become a North Star Navigator! click here to learn more about her new book The Seven Gateways – Your Map to Integrity in Life and Business and the life-changing North Star Navigator Course that so many have discovered to be the key to living a life of purpose, fulfillment and happiness!Support the show (https://wylenebenson.com)

I have lots of ideas and some are true seeds and some are just a distraction. Sometimes I plant it to see if it is a true seed. Sometimes those ideas aren’t mine, combining efforts creates the right environment for those ideas. When we are humble and seek out feedback and other perspectives it is enlightening for us by opening blind spots.We are mirrors for each other. When we admire or dislike something in someone it is usually because it is in us. When we stand in truth we see greatness in each other. We continue the flow of abundance when we give and receive like in the Seven Gateways.Today I give myself permission to see greatness in myself and in others I am abundant in the flow of ideasI continue the cycle and flow of abundanceI am expanded in my soulI am masterminding with the right peopleI express gratitude in the right timeI am gifted at receiving all that I needI am open and in the flow of abundanceClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook Group. Check out the NEW! Daily GPS Planner. It’s a Gratitude Journal and Planner in one! There is space to write your Inspired Shortcuts, record all your thoughts and impressions from The Daily Gratitude Call and even pages to help you stay focused on your Path of Purpose!To have a 15 minute conversation with Wylene Benson and gain new perspective on an area you desire to change, schedule a time on her calendar by going to this link: askwylene.comTo work more closely with Wylene, become a North Star Navigator! click here to learn more about her new book The Seven Gateways – Your Map to Integrity in Life and Business and the life-changing North Star Navigator Course that so many have discovered to be the key to living a life of purpose, fulfillment and happiness!Support the show (https://wylenebenson.com)

Sponsored by Ezoic.Show notes:Just because you can make money doing something doesn’t mean you should.And no, I’m not talking about robbing banks.I’m talking about being able to make it legitimately but choosing not to.I choose to leave money on the table every day.Most good businesses do.Here are some examples of how I leave money on the table1. Sometimes I don’t drop in affiliate links (GASP!)Conserve energyNot terribly lucrativeMY FOCUS: Publishing content2. I display fewer ads than I couldDiminishing returnsVisitors are peopleI want people to return3. I send non-promotional emailsI send out a good number of emails that promote nothing. This email is one example. This goes against the ABC of marketing which is ALWAYS BE CLOSING.I figure it doesn’t hurt sending out non-promotional content. More importantly, I like writing it.4. I don’t publish spammy reviewsI could leverage the authority of several niche sites and rank lousy product reviews that could make some money, but I prefer not to. Don’t get me wrong, I do publish product reviews across my sites, but only when I like the product and it’s a good fit for the site.5. I gave up a large email newsletter for a niche siteI had built up a sizeable number of subscribers for two niche sites that made money, but it wasn’t enough to justify the time it took to manage it. Again, that time and more importantly, energy, is better spent focusing on publishing content.6. I don’t sell linksRiskyToo bad because very high profit/time ratioInstant cashBUT, Google doesn’t like it and it’s easy to discover7. I don’t sell sponsored postsHustle workI loathe hustling for dealsThe endless email threadIt’s ALWAYS more work than you think8. I don’t sell servicesIt’s hustle workTelephone calls, meetings, emails, customer service… not for meThat’s why I do what I do9. I don’t translate all my content into multiple languagesJon, why don’t you translate your millions of words of content? Surely that would be a lot of traffic.Yes, it would but talk about a job I wouldn’t want to do.Ad revenue still low - not worth it for me IMONotice a trend?Anything that veers from my main business model, I don’t pursue even if it means leaving money on the table.I’ve fallen for the lure of “easy” money in the past but I’ve learned it doesn’t pay. Sticking to the game plan pays and the game plan is publishing as much great content as I can.Whatever your game plan is, stick to it.

Some people rebel against their birthdays. They say:I was born at the wrong timeI was born in the wrong placeI was born to the wrong peopleI was born in the wrong circumstancesHave you ever thought or said that? Let's look at Christ's perfect birthday in Luke 2:1-7 to help us look at our own birthday in the right way.GOD CHOSE CHRIST'S PERFECT BIRTHDAYBorn on the right time (1-3): Time of national census that made Joseph and Mary travel from Nazareth to BethlehemBorn in the right place (4): Bethlehem was the place the prophet Micah predicted Jesus would be born (Micah 5:2)Born to the right people (4): Joseph was descended from David, fulfilling the OT prophecy that the Messiah would be a descendent of David (2 Samuel 7)Born in the right circumstances (5-7): Jesus was born in a feeding trough in a barn, sending a clear message that he would be rejected by the high and mighty but that he came for the poor and lowly.GOD CHOSE YOUR PERFECT BIRTHDAYYou were born at the right timeYou were born in the right placeYou were born to the right peopleYou were born in the right circumstancesPraise God for Christ's perfect birthday and for your perfect birthday.

“The Condition of New Life: ‘Love'”1 John 4:7-12Download Group GuideLove Is Most Richly Defined in the GospelPsalm 136:261 John 4:7-12Jesus Is the Guarantee of God's LoveJohn 3:16Romans 4:25In Jesus, I Can Always Know – “I Am Loved!”1 John 4:16Romans 5:8-11Love Is the Constant Normal for Those in Christ Romans 8:35-39Because God Loves Me, I Can Always Love 1 John 4:7-8John 13:34-35I can always love GodI can always love peopleI can gladly receive loveI can gladly give love

In the 'Make it Happen' studio, Ali Meehan is joined by Marléne Rose Shaw - a therapist and self-help author. We talk about 'How Kind People Get Tough' and Marléne gives tips for people experiencing lockdown due to the Coronavirus, especially when in an enclosed environment and provides some rules to navigate your relationships, create boundaries and be assertive with your space. Marléne says "'How Kind People Get Tough' is based on many years helping people gain confidence and have better relationships. Many of my clients over the years have told me that they want to be more assertive but they worry that it will make them mean or cause conflict or that they’ll be rejected.That’s become my main focus now: teaching people how to be assertive and have more secure and happier relationships. It's all about communication skills, and boundaries letting go of limiting beliefs and overwhelming emotions.I wanted to take all this from beyond the therapy room and reach more peopleI truly believe that when we set better boundaries and communicate well, we encourage others to do the same, and they encourage others to do the same, so the whole world becomes a happier and more secure place. It’s like a ripple effect."To find out more about the book go to www.howkindpeople.comAnd join costawomen.com - a free community for women living in, or thinking about moving to SpainSupport the show (https://costawomen.com/help/contact)

Guest intro ft. Tasha turnbull (@t2_tasha)Coronavirus affectgym wipe downWashing handsPositives of the down timeHow did you end up at UVAUVA cultural experienceBusiness not always the vision Fitness business differencesTell at least 5 peopleI’m not ready feelingBusiness Scale planBeing Relatable and feeling attainableOvercoming mindsetUVA networkApplication deniedNo lowered pricesGas of the week

Gratitude is first step to living a positive life. Filling our hearts and mind with gratitude...and giving thanks for all of life’s blessing is the key to having a positive mindset. And what we think about...we manifest into our lives so a positive mind makes for a positive life. As this is my 20th episode, I want to express my heartfelt thanks and appreciation for you and for life. I love life…every single aspect of it!!I love the exciting opportunities that come with each new day. I love the joy, the laughter, the value I get from interacting with others at workI love spending time and just hanging out with my wife and kidsI love meeting new peopleI love helping people. I love making a positive difference in peoples livesI love lifeI love my lifeI am blessed and I am thankful for the gift of life.I thank you and wish you love and happiness as you pursue that which brings your soul, your heart, your life great joy and satisfaction. That which makes your soul come alive.So, as you embark on your day today — cherish the day - be happy in the moment — be positive - be grateful. Make time to LAUGH, LEARN, LOVE and GIVE. All of my best,

The Fourth Chakra, known in Sanskrit as "Anahata" (meaning "Unbeaten"), is where one gives and receives love. This is where one connects with one another and shares this beautiful energy without losing oneself. This is the chakra for love. The color this chakra (Lower Heart Chakra) emits is Green. Air is the element ruled by this beautiful chakra, Our High Heart rules Unconditional Love and the lower Heart rules human love. It also governs compassion, healing, lungs, breath, and our sense of time, which is tied into the rhythmic cycles of our breath and heart beat. The lower heart chakra resonates in compassion with the earth tone or vibrations. The upper heart chakra, the thymus, responds at a harmonic level of vibration. It is the sounding together of both upper and lower Hearts that literally opens an energy portal. This portal is literally described as unconditional love and Infinite Compassion. The Metaphysical  Attributes of the 4th Chakra include: Unconditional loves, ability to give and receive, compassion, humanitarian, nurturing, friendly, outgoing, balanced, in touch with one's feelings, empathetic. The heart chakra which is the wellspring of love, warmth, compassion, and joy is located in the center of the chest at the heart level. The 4th Chakra is the center of your deep bonds with other beings, your sense of caring and compassion, your feelings of self-love, altruism, generosity, kindness, and respect. It is pleasure, the enjoyment of Life, and the expression of Life in enjoyable fashions that nurture your conversion with this emerging portal of Compassion within the Universal Heart. When The Heart Chakra is open and energy is flowing freely, you are not only loving to others, you are also loving to your self. You know when you need to say no and when you need care and self-nurturing.  Love Is the unifying force, the energy that is the most fundamental part of the universe, and of ourselves. To open to love is to reach to the deepest places and connect with our true essence, our spirit, and our soul.  Physical Benefits:  Energetically promotes self-healing, feeling/empathy, compassion, and service to others. You will feel a great compassion for all living creatures, and will recognize their amazing intelligence! You will be kind, caring, understand, joyous and outgoing, feeling completely at ease with yourself and the people in your life.  This formulation contains numerous frequencies, programmed energy, mantras such as"YAM", gemstone & crystal healing vibrations    IMBALANCED CHARACTERISTICS of the 4th Chakra include: Demanding, overly critical, possessive, moody, melodramatic, manic-depressive, uses money to control people, Heart Palpitations, chest pain, poor circulation, high/low blood pressure, and in more serious cases, heart attack, ruled by your own emotions; sadness, anger, grief, despair, greediness and happiness will come over you with no or little control. ☯ HEADPHONES ARE REQUIRED- -To Receive the maximum benefits from this formula, make sure there are no disturbances when listening, sit or relax in a peaceful quiet place and close your eyes, focus on your breath while transitioning into a meditative state.   Opening your heart chakra will enable you to experience love feelings towards yourself and others, to connect to the vibrational state of love and, therefore, magnetize great people into your life which resonate the same energy.  Here are the affirmations of this subliminal meditation:My heart is filled with emotions of compassion, forgiveness and pure lovemy heart is open to accepting myself and others for who they areI'm looking into people's souls, through their masks and boundariesI am allowing myself to receive the infinite love from the divine universeThe love I send connects me with wonderful human beingsThe love I feel in my heart resonate high vibrations and angelic lightI open my heart for true soul connection with good hearted peopleI depend on myself for my own happinessI am the only provider of my happiness in lifeMy positive vibrations of love connect me with amazing people My heart is expanding as I am allowing myself to feel the love frequencies  Music by Mettaverse639Hz Heart Chakra // Love, Harmony and Positive Energy  ➤ Listen on Soundcloud: http://bit.ly/2KjGlLI➤ Follow them on Instagram: http://bit.ly/2JW8BU2➤ Join them on Facebook: http://bit.ly/2G1j7G6➤ Subscribe to their channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyvjffON2NoUvX5q_TgvVkw  For coaching – https://www.advancedsuccessinstitute.com For all episodes of the Reality Revolution – https://www.therealityrevolution.com Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RealityRevol... Join our facebook group The Reality Revolution  https://www.facebook.com/groups/40312... Subscribe to my Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOgX... Contact us at media@advancedsuccessinsitute.com

Know What to Sell Next ...The “S” Word LIVE Show (sales training for women who sell for themselves) --> Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) https://buff.ly/2KZvqqYCoaches, consultants, done-for-you service providers I AM TALKING TO YOU.This is for women who have skills that they want to package up and offer their strategy, consulting, coaching, done together (like live group programming) or done for you (like for website builders, copywriters, freelancers, virtual assistants) but they have never been responsible to sell for themselves I have news for you:Paying clients are everywhere!!BUT . . . how do you KNOW what to Sell NEXT???I go through the news channels and Reddit in my industry — I looked at book reviews of books written in and around my industry and look at trends in opinions ... then I ask the people closest to me1. What is my group saying (why I love having a group)2. Ask your email list3. Ask your close network of peopleI ask like this:I am trying to decide on what my next training should be on... I was thinking ____ or _____.... which one would you like to hear about next?Get FREE Sales Training (while it's still FREE) https://buff.ly/2KZvqqY--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------The "S" Word LIVE (making sales simple & fun)Know What to Sell Next ... (Recorded LIVE)Renee Hribar has been a sales professional since 1994 in New York. She has sold millions of dollars in products and services and trained thousands to sell for the first time. She is known in her industry as a fun, energetic executive sales coach who leads with heart. A TEDx speaker who offers training sessions at global conferences and she skillfully breaks down her decades of sales expertise. With her one-of-a-kind "laugh & learn" teaching style, you will certainly gain a new view of the "softer side of sales". See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Meet Mads Singers, the Top Management Coach, and Consultant. He helps business owners focus on running and growing their business rather than working in it.Allow Mads to change your approach to management and the way you interact and communicate with team members and learn how DISC can change your business. Let’s learn more about Mads together with your host, Monique.HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE [01:11] - Monique introduces her guest, Mads Singers.[01:43] - Tell our audience a little bit about who you are.Originally from Denmark and spent 20 years being in management and this is my passion.[04:20] - Tell me what are the huge difference between leadership and management?Most people feel management is a big scary thing.The reason why most people find management very scary is, that they've never spent any time improving it[07:48] - Mads talks about how small things can make huge differences.[13:40] - Mads explains how you get the good stuff by looking at the things from the good side.[14:50] - Mads describes personalities sort of behavioral tools.[18:13] - Mads talks about different kinds of people.[20:03] - Can you explain all of the DISC?D - dominant peopleI - they love getting attentionS - they always think about everyone else before they think about themselves.C - very detail-oriented people[23:59] - Mads combines the DISC.[24:25] - When you met me first, what did you think was my result?Your fundamentals from a basic point of view it was DC.You're extremely task-focused. [25:19] - Monique and Mads discuss a cultural aspects.[28:57] - Mads talks about clients he’s working with. [30:13] - Monique and Mads explain what core value means. [34:22] - Tell me about how you actually got started with this work and why you're doing it?I am a naturally high S and a high C and my passion is helping people so that's sort of the primary drive for myself.[35:40] - What was the most unbelievable story throughout your coaching?Mads tells the story of a client and his teamThe problem is a lot of people like new shit, they like getting more responsibility.[38:07] - What does efficiency mean to you?For me, it's about prioritization.it's really about if are you using the time on the right things?AWESOME RESOURCES THAT WE TALKED ABOUT IN THIS EPISODEFind Mads management course here: https://madssingers.com/management-academy/More information about the DiSC profile: https://www.discprofile.com/what-is-disc/overview/Free DISC test (short version): https://discpersonalitytesting.com/free-disc-test/IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE[04:41] - “People find management very scary because they've never spent any time improving it”. - Mads Singers[09:22] - “Small things can make huge differences”. - Mads Singers[14:18] - “The more you can look at things from the good side, the more you are to get the good stuff out of it”. - Mads SingersFIND MORE ABOUT MADS SINGERS HEREWebsite: https://madssingers.com/FB: https://www.facebook.com/MadsSingers See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

I had a dream last night that I was teaching a class to about 10 individuals. These all were people who I have personal experience with. They are all part of my trusted network of support. The subject I was teaching was “You Are Enough”This morning during our silent meditation, that dream came back to me and I had the distinct impression that if there was one principle we were taught in our pre-earth experience to do our best to remember, it was to know that we are enough, we are loved, we are worthy.How do I know this? I know because “I am not enough” is the root of all limiting beliefs. If the author of all darkness and evil can get us to believe that, he has separated us from our network of support. It is the one hope that ties us to God and our first family.We have a divine network of support in our Heavenly Father, Jesus Christ, our ancestors and even spirits who are awaiting their time to be born on earth. And this one belief: “I am enough” depends on our being able to confidently connect with that network.On earth, we have a network of support in family and friends. Even strangers can be part of our support network as illustrated by Coleen, on our call today as she helped a little girl in the pool learn how to float on her back in the water.Our spouses, communicating compassionately are a key component in our network of support. Family and friends can lift us when we feel down. Everyone needs someone to go to at those times. The Lord is always there for us. But He knows that a physical person to offer a hug or a kind word can confirm our tentative and tender new beliefs that we are loved and worth another person’s time. That’s why sometimes, He does his work through angels in earthy form.It can even be valuable when someone shares something negative about us! We all have blind spots and if we are willing to be open when someone exposes them, those people sharing negative feedback can also be part of our trusted network of support. Click Here for a video to understand how someone sharing a negative can be your greatest and most trusted teacher!Today, I Give Myself Permission to Give and Receive SupportI am worthy of God’s timeI am worthy of supportI regularly offer and receive supportIt’s ok to ask for support when I need itI know I can always turn to the Lord for my supportGod has the power to give me the support I needI am abundantI am enoughI have enough and I am eager to share of my abundanceI notice and acknowledge peopleI notice and acknowledge me as a divine and infinitely loved individual within God’s familyClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook Group.To have a 15 minute conversation with Wylene Benson about a new perspective on an area of your life you desire to change, contact her directly at this link:

"How Society affects teenagers today" by Balraj Purewal #26Tagline: "These are the broken pieces of the puzzle that you still end up piecing together.."Life has moved on so quickly and within the space of a generation our world is now seen through a phone, almost 24/7. In fact I can't recall the last time I went out myself and didn't snap, Instagram or Facebook a status update.But for the youth of today they experience larger problems and issues, such as seeking external validation, comparison amongst peers and so often finding themselves missing the beauty of the presence.It is with this I decided to interview a teenager to show us, and give us a first insight into the life of a teen today. He explains very eloquently the struggles, the good the bad and the types of challenges he is presented with daily, amongst other teens.He is a poet at a heart, currently studying at my favourite university (no bias), whilst trying to figure out where he fits in the world amongst figuring out the intent of other people.We speak about many things in this episode that I really enjoyed recording such as:IntentImportance of internal validationBeing true to yourselfFinding your voiceWorking hardUsing social media for what it is todayA guy who is wise beyond his years and someone I believe will go on and achieve his dreams in the world today, I urge you all to show him some support and follow his journey below:P.s. remember any new reviews on iTunes, just send me a screenshot either on twitter, instagram or to my email and ill send you the diet and gym plan as promised. It will likely be a 7-day window due to the volume of listeners.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_b.purewal/ (Personal)Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/word___art/ (Poetry)Snapchat: B.purewalHave an awesome day & #JustDeuIt #FindYourVoiceYouTube Transcription:[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of this show so today I'm gonna bebringing you our youngest ever guest onthe show now I was a little bitskeptical if I'm completely honest ofhaving somebody so young coming out to ashow like find your voice because findyour voice generally speaking it'speople who have gone through adversitygone through obstacles and problems andthen all of a sudden I sat back and Ithought hold on a second this is theexact kind of person we need on thisshow because I'm sitting here and almostmaking this judgment which is againshowing something that I need to beaware of and learn from that peoplegoing through their teenagers and goinginto transition into adulthoodhaven't got a voice and that's not whatI wanted the show to be about so anywayI'm gonna be completely honest he overdelivered in fact he was the star ofthis show and I'm very grateful that heshared his experience because there's somany things he mentioned in this episodethat made me kind of think back to howeasy I suppose my life was growingthrough that transition and many of uslistening to this because I checked thedemographics are a lot older thanbarrages and we never had to go throughthe social media constraints and theproblems and that external validationthat these children and teenagers aregoing through today so it's a very verygood episode in terms of one for anyonewho's going through this transition areyou the teenagers who are hopefullytrying to get to listen to this show toinspire and motivatebut more importantly it's just asimportant for us slightly older peoplewho maybe forgot what it was like growno to hear somebody's perspective or howdifferent life is so we talked a lotabout intent we talked about the typesof people that you come across in lifebut we also talk about some stuff thatjust really blew my mind that I wastalking to a teenager especially when Ithink back to what I was like growing upbecause I was not this emotionally awaythat I was just figuring it out and itgained that last bit there figuring itout is something that we go on to talkabout quite a bit in this episodebecause irrespective of where you are inthis journey in this wonderful thingcalled life we're always just trying tofigure it out so hopefully you find thisuseful especially towards the end of theshow because his last two answers wereincredible and they were very poetic andthen I happen to realize that he has apoetry account on Instagram which kindof made sense so a kid with a hugefuture ahead of him I'm very gratefulthat I've managed to tap into theyounger demographics as well I'm verygrateful for Barrett this time and Ihope you all really enjoy this episodeso without further ado let's jump intoit okay people I just like to start thisshow by welcoming bowrage to the showand thanking all the listeners fortuning in today how you doing today myfriend yeah I'm not too bad not too badOh better runs well thanks I let me comeon the show oh you're very welcome myfriend so I think to start this show Ithink it's really important that thelisteners get to know you a little bitso if you would have mind if you canjust kind of give us a briefintroduction into the life of Berridgeplease yeah well so obviously I went toaround four primary schools alreadyremember too much about it if I'm honestI mean I'm the whole guys created forone but then as I went along we movedhouse quite a bit went to one schoolthat was pretty racist I was like whatlike the third brown person there so itwas like I was getting called like the Pword most of the time and I was likewhat the hell's going on so being quiteyoung in primary school didn't reallyenjoy primary school too much becausealways like an outsider don't know if itwas because I was moving so much ormaybe I just wasn't people's kind ofguided which is not a problem and then Idon't know what just literally got intohigh school and then I was like well Idon't want that happening again it's notsomething one happening teenage hormonesare last like kicking in you know thatwas ragingdifferent kind of world with high schoolyou thinking what's going on here I'velearnedreally from lucky s7 I mean if if I'mhonest when I was in the s7 array I wasbit of know a kid or what Liars used toend up in isolation call hi a lot I'mnot sure well I am sure why but I feellike the school was quite strict as wellso any little minor thing I did wouldbasically be picked up on which is not abad thing I guess it took me to maturemuch quicker and this just kind oflasted to around year 10 I was like wellit ain't about who's got the biggest thebiggest this the biggest bat who can dothis who can do that because the realitydoesn't make any difference at all it'sjust you can crack on with themselvesand look after themselves and then whenI got to about year 11it just kind of semi just came out of myshell bit more because you know kind ofa person that it loves to talk to peopleI'm not sure why always been my thingyou knoweven now this like being on the podcastI read messaging you know I just lovetalking to peoplestead of me being stuck to my fault I'mwell I just beat somebody okay I canintake this knowledge from you how can Iapply this to my life oh you can do itlike this so like Erin you may say to meI'll do it this way and I may not evensing this other perspective because Imaybe so maybe I don't know deleted withmy own which is better for me to realizeobviously social media you know thephones are great but sometimes a lot ofpeople just end up stuck to it evenmyself at times well of course yeah butit was weird because in s7 like good onwords high school wise I always thoughtto myself I am I'm not fitting in itdoesn't make any sense why can I not dowhat they're doing why can I not do whatthe older people I did not realize and Ishould have enjoyed it more in themoment so I was okay cool that's not aproblem and then as soon as I started tocome up my shell but yeah 11 time youknow starts being two more people it waslike a lot more people were coming to mecame to six form where it was prettymuch the biggest change definitely fullycame out my child say I'm you know notin a cocky way oh I'd say I'm quitetalkative bubbly loving and caringperson mm-hmm so I guess it's kind ofcame with some baggage as well because Icouldn't even realize with somebody thatwas trying to maybe mess me around infront of my faceI want to realize because I think theyhave the same heart as me hmm so Iwouldn't even realize anything like thatand then obviously you know that youlive and learn obviously as you growingup and I think for teenagers now it'shard because everybody's trying tosorry for the language but fuck eachother over unless they're really genuinebecause they're like oh I have this ormy dad's got this my mom's got this whatdoes yours has what does your has yourshave I've got this PlayStation you don'thave it oh you don't have it why not oryou know just the little - things whichis you know it's no part of generalgoing on but I guess you don't realizethat until you actually do start to growup and like me going up into a man nobit of an awkward age at the moment 19kind of in the middle teenager turnedinto a young actual man now if you knowme like 18 years the normal designatedage anyways for when they say you were ayoung adult voice you're still in thatin between mm-hm if you know what I meanand then yeah like obviously then I wentto uni as well so just finished my firstyear basically thought I'd stay outfirst year get a bit more independenceand you know again actual experience oflike the halls or whatever like you knowhow everybody hyped up or whatever andit was great experience met some amazingpeople really amazing people some peoplewith some really good hearts but youmeet some give me some weird ones aswell it's really weird people you knowsome people may just want to use andabuse some people actually may want tohang around with you or some people justwant to distract you so you've just gotto make sure that you stay true toyourself and keep with a good heart atall timesso it seems that until at leastUniversity you were trying to one figureout who you are but to also figure outhow people are and I suppose especiallywith the last one it doesn't reallychange I mean I'm a little bit olderthan you but I still go through thatsituation where I'm still trying tofigure out why people are the way theyare or why certain people don't act theways for instance that I act so I willalways go in with good intentions andthen all of a sudden you'll realise thatother people's intent isn't necessarilythe same as yourself so I suppose apiece of advice having gone through thatprobably a little bit more than yourselfis just try and at least be wary ofpeople's intent because some peoplemight come across as almost like thegreatest people that you've ever seenbut then you will find later on oncethey get what they need to extract fromyou as a person you'll find they'll kindof disappear so that's just kind of likea piece of advice but you touched onsome prevalent things that I candefinitelythink about when I was a kid soespecially in the Punjabi culture thewhole drinking and how much can youdrink it's a purely ego thing 100% Ifell into that I fell into almostdamaging my health at the fact of I needto keep up with people when I drinkwhere is now I'd like to think of myselfas slightly more matured if I don'tfancy a drink I would just say that'senough for me and I'll kind of walk awayfrom it but again it's a learning lessona few points I've just made not of aswell that I want to just touch on so youwere always a naughty kid and you'realways I mean you've got yourselfexcluded for trying to bite somebody'snose but then all of a sudden thingsstarted to change and you said somethingwhich I thought was quite important andit was you opened up and the moment youstarted to open up you felt people startto gravitate towards you more I justwant this in relation to that then wasthat a sort of force thing or was thatjust you thinking okay there's no pointme just being this shy person when Ihave so much more to show to the worldobviously I was looking at other peoplethinking how are they doing this why somany people coming to them I'm just youknow I'm worrying too much about otherpeople now you know I actually need tolisten unlike for me and I've alwaysbeen quite open anyways quite if I wantsomething or if I want a fun one andknow something or I want to saysomethingI will say because I just get that offmy parents as well because if they wantto say something they'll just say theydon't they don't be around the bush Idon't see the point either because thenyou're just passing around make it morefuss than need to be so then literally Ijust try to be myself and I was likeokay this about in the year 11 more insix form was around a lot of people arecoming to me and I was like okay this isa bit weird I don't really know how tohandle this and what I found was it justcame with a lot of baggage as wellbecause a lot of people were coming tome but I was like even me me being adumb ass at times I want to realize thatsome people are just there to use me forpopularity or whatever it was and it'sokay though because like I learned fromit like it made me learn that somepeople like you you don't need to hangaround with these people all the timeyou don't need to hang around with apopular crowd it just doesn't make adifference we should be working towardsbetter in the world absolutely I thinkthat's a valid point and just on thatbasis you just reminded me of somethingthat you said earlier as well so yousaid initially obviously you find itdifficult to fit in and then you saidwhich isa problem like literally straight afterand I thought I was that was quite aclever point that you made plus it alsoshows your intelligence that you'rethinking a lot differently because atthat age it is all about fitting in itis all about being the coolest kid onthe block getting the most likes onInstagram and being that that kind ofperson what I want to ask you is whenyou start to be yourself and things weremore positive and obviously you know isthis and you've just explained it do youknow why you wasn't yourself prior tothat I just think are always quite sincesince being young I've always been quiteobservant a bit more like bit or notalways been an awful thinker I'm notsure why I just I've always thought thatI need to be doing more than I need thenI am or I need to be doing pair but youcan't be because like that's that'swhere I got to university now and I'veonly just realized now that you can't beperfect in everything you do and mebeing like a lot of perfectionist when Iwas in school you know I was about toget the best grades etc you know GCSEwas okay you know six form I did quitewell and I just thought you could beperfect but as a human you just can't beperfect so then I started to realizejust be myself I'm always gonna have myflaws as everybody else will have thefloors it just depends who wants to staywith you and still accept your flaws andaccept you you want 100 percent I thinkyou just hit the nail on the head thereas humans you can't be perfect there isno such thing as perfect and this is oneof the things that I suppose even when Istarted this podcast it was to showpeople look I'm just a shy person I'm ananxious person even in this conversationwith yourself on making mistakes um forgetting my words and stuff as well andsometimes it's about embracing yourvulnerabilities your weaknesses and thennext time just trying to be a little bitbetter so I think that's a very goodlesson for anyone in your situation andjust I'm gonna finish it actually onanother thing that you mentioned as wellwhich was when you said in relation tohow people may not have the same intentas you is that it's okay you learn fromit and it sounds easier in hindsight butI think if we can all take ourexperiences your life not not as apersonal attack but more as a sort oflearning experience I think it helpsyour mental sanity a lot more so I'vehad people for example where a similarsituation to yourself where I'm thinkingwhy hasn't that worked out or why is theperson acting in this way that you knowa normal person wouldn't think isethicalor the right way and rather thandwelling on that and then thinking I'mnot worthy of receiving a good person inmy life what I do is I take that as alesson and I think okay fair enough thatperson's got what they wanted out ofthis relationship but next time I'llhave more experience and I'll be wiserfrom it and if a similar type of personcomes along I will know to move on awayfrom that situation if that makes senseyeah like even what I said like it'slike even whoever is it can only be alesson a blessing or like you know likethey're there for life whether it's afriend or a family memberabsolutely absolutely so we've touchedon University and how you've developedin terms of one trying to find outexactly who you are you feel a lot morecomfortable now in the way that you areyou've slid into my DMS you happilyspeak into other people I think that's agreat way that we should be in the worldespecially coming from a very shy personI wish I had the confidence just to kindof put my hand out or just smile atpeople openly in the world because eventhrough my very short experience on thispodcast I've met some incredible peopleand I realize that I'm at my happiestwhen I'm connecting with people and whenI'm getting on with people so I thinkit's fantastic that you're doing that atsuch a young age what have you donesince University or what are you lookingto now achieve moving forward in lifemoving forward obviously on your firstyear Aston University doing businessmanagement great unique kind of thetypical thing probably I'd be void yes Iwant IT typical thing but all in allfrom young always like I'm just alwayswanting to be self-employed it's notthat like okay it's decent working forpeople if they give you decent benefitsbut what I find is that if you cancontrol your own destiny and you canbuild what you want to build him it maynot be something that you know now likeeven me I'm still like what do I dodo I go this way do I go that way it'sstill not no but I guess there's stilltime to figure it out it's not like lifeis short but it's also long as well andyou know there is some days but you'llbe lazy and there's some days where youjust don't have a clue what you do butit's like pretty much everybody's fakingit until they can make it basically intheir own ways which is not a bad thinghow can everybody know what's going onreally because then really trying tofigure themselves out figure where theirfoundations are in the world for me Iwant to build my sample the best I canbemy parents have allowed me to have a lotof freedom and it's right like evenpeople come up to mewhyyou moment that's all like cool withyou what like that my dad is my dadhe'll know when to tell me like straightto the pointbut he'll even have a conversation withme like we're like best friends wish Ilook and the same thing I can do with mymama's also you know I'm glad that hadparents like that got two lovely sistersas well you know they're growing up nowyou don't even realize how much they'regrowing up until you actually see themyou thinking that how did you get tallerit's all a crazy one even myself I lookin the mirror I think where did thisbeard come from I always wanted to be atthis person's got a beard why can I haveone but they just comes in your own timeas everything does absolutely unlike formyself you know I think for the Barrettbarrage I am today like I would say formyself I'm a loving caring humble butmore selective person based on theexperience that I've already had becauselife is already hard as it is life'salready the responsibility is gonnastart ended up piling up anyways sothere's no point it would be negativeyou could have just got to try be aspositive as possible absolutely I thinkthat's really well said and thisactually helped me massively my mindsetand hopefully can help the listeners aswell is the moment I realize that everysingle person is just figuring it outand regardless of their externalappearance or how they seem to have itall together and realize it actuallythey don't and just like you just likeme just like the person listen to thiswe're all just figuring it outnobody's give us the perfect blueprintfor life I don't believe that one existsyeah I think it's brilliant that youknow that on 19 because at 19 I was Ithink I was starting you need do myfirst qualification and I had no ideawhat I was doing I didn't know what Iwanted to become the kind of person Iwant you to be remembered forI was not aligning anything with myvalues on my ethics and this issomething that obviously you're nowgoing through that journey and everyonearound your age is gonna actually gothrough but I think if you can all justtake one lesson away and just know thatyou don't have to have it all figuredout in fact I'm now under a little bitolder where I'm still trying to figureout what am I going to be doing in thenext five years in ten years and whathappens is as we start to grow as peoplethrough our own personal development ourawarenessbe more selective which I thought was abrilliant thing that you pointed out aswell then you're automatically findyourself moving towards things that youlove andyour passion projects hence my podcasthere so I said brilliant and today likeI said you're a lot wiser than I was atyour age hopefully thank you hopefullyyou continue so I was going to ask youabout your routine but I'm prettycertain I know how most uni studentslive their life at uni so here's andthere's nothing wrong with that becauseit's all it's all part and parcel of thejourney I mean my university meeting wasliterally vodka kabobs hangover andwhatever whatever I could find on TV soexactly so I'm not gonna embarrass youabout that but I want to move on tosomething that might be able to givesomebody again some value from thisinterview is about adversity so if youcan think of maybe like a time and Iknow you're still young yet but I stillbelieve that we become the kind ofpeople we are because of the lessons ofthe journeys that we go through so ifyou could think of a lesson of adversityor a problem that you face and then moreimportantly once you've shared that ifyou could just tell us what you learnedfrom it can i this question if I - okaybecause I think what I found has givenme the biggest shock this year isholding on to people okay you knowhaving expectations of people because ittold me a lot this year because you knowyou know how it is lobbying a young ladyou think these are my boys man theseare doing it all I'm gonna do it as wellyou know and it will work in the samecycle and don't get me wrong it's allgood to have your friends your boyswhatever you want to call them but youhave to realize when your energy is notbeing valued or serving you and somebodyif they're not going to value it becausea lot of people are just there to prettymuch just take the mick and they'dalready care what's going on your lifethey just won't know because if youaren't doing better than them thinkingwhy can't I do that myself as well thatyou know again not in an arrogant wayare all like you know I'm friends withgirls I don't see them like anydifferent 2ml you know we're human atthe end of the day and a fun you knowsometimes you know it may sound bad tosay as well you know more for genderequality and stuff but sometimes girlsare just a bit more sensible with theirthinking you're a feeso whereas lads will just be like wellwe'll be looking at each other what doyou want to do your should we have adrink shall we do this mainly it justdepends on the crowd that you surroundyourself with so once you find thatright crowd that's when it will be allgood and well but it's just fine in thatright crowd and finding who you to stayaway from here to stay with you know Iseek quite a lot of validation fromothers as wellwell all in all I don't need to worryabout if it's good for myself and when Ilook back at it now it was good it wasgreat every single timeand if I didn't look at other people allthe time then you know I would havestarted to appreciate myself a lotearlier but now I'm glad that I'm snowyoung and still learning now learningnow that I only need to worry about ifit looks good for me and not anybodyelse because you're the only one thatyou have in this world you know you haveyour family that you keep close friendsyou you know friends are the family thatyou choose and you know y'all needed tocare what you think of yourself as awhole and a fair for you that you canreally trust and that's the bottom linereally for me absolutely Matt I thinkthat's a brilliant point that you justmade there and I think some of the stuffthat you're explaining now isn't stuffthat I believed that we had to gothrough especially my generation or thegenerations older than myself becausethe whole getting validation from yourpeers or getting validation from socialmedia it's become a massive massiveproblem in societyand you also touched on a very goodpoint as well in relation to women beingmore sensitive and more I suppose opento talking about their feelings and thisis something that I really want to tryand work on in the future is getting mento open up about their vulnerabilitiesand talk about their weaknesses and allthings that they struggle with becausemale suicide is far too high for what itshould be in fact it should never bemental health is obviously poor as wellwith males as well and I just think wehave such a bravado and this kind of wehave to show strength all the time thatwe're almost too afraid to kind of speakand it causes problems so I think it'sgreat that maybe it's you as anindividual hopefully it's morewidespread across your community thatyou guys are at least acknowledging thatthere is this lead here in your societyso I think that's brilliant I think it'salso important that anyone in your agerange or anyone going through whatyou're going through doesn't seekvalidation externally it's all aboutreceiving internal validation firstyou've got to love yourself beforeanyone else out they can love youbecause irrespective of what they saywhen it comes down to it you sit in yourown mind on a daily basis on your bottomyour mind can be your best friend or itcan actually be your enemy so you reallyneed to work on that so it's reassuringfor me listening to you to know thatyou're in a much better place understandI mean I think like even how you sayingthey're sorry to cut you off is no noyou can with mental health and you knowthat even as you said the suicide goal Ididn'tthat myself that male suicide is goingup but with mental health like I find itsuch a big cuz even myself like I won'tsit here and I say I haven't been for itmyself I have because I always thinklike you know I've been there in my bedfeeling low as how old you know feelingfeeling rock but I'm thinking you knowand people will say to me what do youhave to stress about you're only 18 19and that's okay that's so cool that'sthere like we used to get on with itback in the day but it's just it's notthe same because we've got all thisaccess to social media nowadays we'vegot people trying to make themselveslook better put like different like youknow brightnesses on their pictures orincrease the brightness of their face ontheir pictures and you know you may meetsome people they don't like this day andthen they're not actually like whatwe've been trying to portray they areand social media and that's what F's itall up because you can't betray yourselfto be something on social media and whenyou meet the person you like well thisperson just the whole different spectrumand with mental health advice it'salways like you can you can do betterthan the other person who you can F overthe other person who can keep on goinguntil some like it's like a it's like arat race like a wolf kind of like a wolfpack sort of thing who can be the thewolf that climbs at the my own first andand all the other ones are trying tolike basically just drag him down andit's hard because you know even withPunjabi community once again they'realways like well if you say to them thatyou have a mental health problem wellthey'll just be like okay no problemjust deal with it yeah I mean it can'tbe that way because I'll getting worsenow and there's only more awarenessabout it now because of social mediawhich the benefits of social media aswell and all this kind of stuff I thinkthat's a that's a great point and againfor the listeners that it's a lot harderand I kind of do sympathise with youguys coming up in this generation wheresocial media has this good parts but ithas this kind of evil tail to it as wellwhere I never had to deal with that sogrowing up for me when I was going touniversity and we were drinking andpartying his sirwe were never worried about taking snapsor or having a whole night out lookingthrough the lens of our phone it wasjust kind of being there in the momentin experience in it and then ourself-worth wasn't pretty much like thatoh absolutely and at the same time ourself-worth wasn't predicated on the factof when we go home at the end of thatnight who got the most likes on that forthe most engagement for example so I'mvery grateful for that and I think it'simportant that you mentioned that but Ijust want to say something else that youmentioned as well because you've said ita few times now and it's probably moreso because of youris that you seen everyone F each otherover because of like you're almostseeing it like a rat race and I thinkthe rat race thing is an important thingand I've tweeted something this morningit was taken from Wayne died and it's avery good quote which i think is quiteuseful for where we are right now inthis show and what he says is we're inpartnership with all other human beingsit's not a contest to be judged betterthan some and worse than others and Ithink if we all sin ourselves a sort ofpartnering up with humans and trying tohelp each other move forward in thislife because at the end of the day we'reall figuring it out as we've touched onearlier I think the world will be insuch a better place but we have thisscarcity mindset where we think in orderfor me to move forward I have to standon somebody else or put somebody elseaside as opposed to saying yeah why do Ihold your hand and we'll move togetherand you're always quicker and strongertogether so I think it's reassuring tohear that you're you've got that mindsetand I think if you remain selective likeyou mentioned earlier I think you'll getthe right network around you toobviously help yourself move forward Ithink what it is as I it's always thatyou've got you right it's always at alland everything as well it's like that'sif you want to create a business rightit's always a trial and everything wherehumans are like you may trust one andthen they may break your trust and youmerge that listen with your whole heartand that's not bad that's not thatshouldn't people shouldn't beatthemselves up if that happens becauseit's a learning lesson that means thatperson wasn't meant to be in your lifeand that means that there's better tocome because even even anyways thatyou've got to have some good days tohave some bad days you've got to havesome bad days to have some good daysit's just as simple as that and you justgotta take the positives that are veryfrom that you can't absolutely meabsolutely yes sir very wise words for a19 year old so appreciate I'll get at meso you're now in your first yearUniversity you've made massive strideswith your talent and your emotionalintelligence is really really high whichis nice to hear what saves you very goodquestioncurrently in my life at the moment whatscares me is not being able to provide acomfortable life for our potentialfuture wife and kids you know not beenough hub I'm a family now my mom dadmy sisters you know they're gonna wantto get married and well yeah I thinkthey're gonna need help with fine likefinance is not the be end and end allbut it does make life with more freedommore comfort so you know if there'ssomething that Idude help them make their life easierand maybe I don't know let's say I hadanother source of income I could give itto them I'd be happy to do that but it'sjust you've got a we're card for thesethings my mom you know she's a teacherherself so you know I always see yesshe's always stressed out so she'salways coming you know she'll be withwork all day she'll be coming back inthe market papers you know tour about9:00 10:00 at night I don't know shedoes it and then repeat the day mybiggest fear is not making their lifeeasier and my biggest fear is not beingable to provide a comfortable life formyself and the family around meI think you've almost answered the nextquestion as well which I was going toask about the motivation so it seemsthat your motivation right now is to beable to successfully graduate and thenprovide different streams of income tofacilitate one obviously your sister'sgetting married helping your parents athome and then obviously giving yourselfthe kind of life that you want as wellyeah because like even for me as welland working under people just kind ofget under my skin a bit to be honest butyou're gonna have to do the minute youagree for a couple years of your lifebecause that's the way it is when you'reyoung as well you know people have toldme that that's the way and you justgotta work hard you've got to keep yourchin up which is not a problemso like currently now I'm working atNando's which is not a problem I'm happyI'm happy for the free Nando's I can'tcomplain but it's a good job for me nowbut could I see myself doing that whenI'm what thirty years old I wouldn'tlike to think so often - because youknow even though it's a good job youknow dealing with customers thatstraight rude or having so much pressureput on you and you know running back andforth running back and forth it's allgood while I'm young but maybe when Iget older maybe I may not just have thatenergy that's interesting firstly I'mhoping I get a free round after thispodcast session is on oh yeah that'sjust as good the weird thing is thereason I'm touching on does is oneeveryone knows I absolutely love Danlosbut tea when I was at university it justopened on Birmingham Broad Street and Iremember sitting there oh I workedliterally all the way through Universityso I went to the same uni as youAston uni and I always had a job noWayans yeah yes I had a job on theweekends and my aim I remember whenNando's opened after trying it I waslike man I really wish I had a job atNano so it's funny how the world worksbut there was a point in time wherehaving a job at Nando's was literally mydream job at least for that period inone yeah time so appreciate where youareappreciate or the good thingbe grateful for everything that's comingyour way now it's taught me like youknow it's told me that hard to grit myteeth who went there a lot of rudecustomers come in so you have to lookafter it like it's like it sounds a bitweird like it's like your own family youhave to keep it clean the place becausethat's where people are going to come inlike you know if you come into the storyyou want to make sure everything isclean you want to make sure the food'son point cannot attend not 9 out of 10because it's not if it's not 10 out of10 then you know you're not going to behappy with the service at all you knowhave a smile on your face and just keepon going like keep your chin up evenwhen it gets hard like even for mesometimes I'll be like I'm just touchingmy forehead thinking flirty arm and Ineed a break but you just got to keep ongoing absolutely me absolutely we'reactually at the fun part the show nowthere is no right or wrong answer butjust try and say the first thing thatcomes in your head we're gonna go inthree two oneif you could abolish one thing in theworld what would it be judgmental peoplepeanut butter and Nutella peanut butteryour biggest role model biggest rolemore mom what would you like to beremembered for being Who I am yourbiggest goal this year to just keep onworking hard no matter how hard it getsyour worst mistake is listening to otherpeople about a certain person if youcould relive one day again what daywould it be 26 of May two years ago whyit was just everybody was therefamily friends you know we was at myhouse and it was just you just wantedmost be of things you know honestly Iread I really loved that day I loved itthe ability to fly or be invisibleinvisible when your fame that's a hardon max I'm thinking well with things youcan get money but then what I say moneyyour favorite food the mix grown andokay speak our languages will be able tospeak to animals animals what song bestdescribes your life Dizzee Rascalbonkers would you rather know how youwould die or when you would die andfinally if you could sit with one personin the world for an hour who would it beprobably my baby my grandma I love thatso the next question it's aboutreflection and I'm a firm believer thathindsight is a wonderful thing and itteaches us ways to get there quickereasier and we're less heartachebut I'm also an avid believer that thejourney teaches us so much as well interms of his lessons so what I want toknow is if you could go back in time toone particular moment knowing everythingthat you know right now and whispersomething to a younger barrage whatwould you say I just said to myself I'dsay barrage do you not worry it will allcome to you in the end you will not endup failing you are not a quitteryou are not inclined to please otherpeople put yourself first say no if youdon't want to do it it's as simple asthatenjoy the present moment more don't looktoo much into the future ruining yourfull process already and don't look backwith pain in your heart these are thebroken pieces of the puzzle which yousaw might end up still piecing togetherhave fun and live life enjoy your youthdon't look too much into girlsalcohol or any other distractions justtry and discipline yourself more keepyourself closed off but keep yourselfliving and humble always may I love thatI want you to do me a favor after thispodcast and actually send me thatwritten form and that was almost likepoetic you mentioned something therethese are the broken pieces and thepuzzle that's still in the piecingtogether but I want to do it just thisso if you can send me that at yourtranscript or what I'll do is I'mactually gonna bring them out separatelyno problem I mean I even I even do havea separate poetry account as well that Ido must like check it out if you haveany time yeah it's on my new profile butit's on its good word under school andschool oh okay check that as wellbrilliant so suddenly that actuallybrings us to the last question and thelast question that I always ask my guessis if in a 150 years time science failsto save us and all that exists is a bookand this book is about you andeverything that you've achieved in yourlife all your weird and wonderful dreamshave been accomplished what I want toknow is firstly what would the title ofthe book say and secondly what would theblurb at the back tell us about you Iwrote yesterday I said you know he waslike I know other he persevered like noother he had himself he was elegantclean hearted charming and crazy hewould always go the extra mile for thosewho were close to his heart at times endup hereall in all he always tried to see thebright side of life the world is alreadytoo cold and entangled in its ownpleasures to not be positiveof that as powerful have you got a titlefor that the title the life of aninquisitive man brilliant me if youwouldn't mind could you give us the bestsources via social media where we cancontact you Instagram I love being oninstagram my instagram is under schoolbeat up for a while its be PU or e w alquite active on snapchat as well is beatup for a while again be pu r e w althey're the main ones I'm active on tobe honest ok no problem so what I'll dois for everyone listening today I'mgonna make sure I put all of the linksso you can contact barrage directly verysocial media as you've probably seenfrom some of these answers today's verypoetic so I'll be following them on hisInstagram poetry handle as well myselfstraight after thisI want to thank Mirage for being openabout his story and sharing it andhopefully this influences and inspiresmany others and I want to thank everyoneat home for listening thank you thankyou and remember this podcast isabsolutely free so all we ask in returnis for you to share this with a friendand drop us a five star review over oniTunes have an awesome day See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Find your voice - Episode 17- "Wonderfulness of Life" - Louise Blyth #17 Part 1Tagline: "Be the captain of your fate and master of your soul"Louise Blyth, is an incredible lady who has experienced losing the love of her life, George Blyth tragically from cancer. With cancer now affecting 1 in 2 families it is a common occurrence so many of us face in our day to day life. But unlike any other story Louise world took a massive turn upon the sad death of her spouse and soul mate.Experiencing a supernatural event during his last few days Louise beliefs, perceptions, outlook and whole world had been turned around where she found herself finding, what she describes as "the greatest love all of us could ever know"A 2 part special episode, this incredible story does not lean on an emotional tale which will have you in tears of sadness, despite its tragic theme. Instead, tears of happiness seeing someone recover from grief and finding a bigger purpose and understanding of her being in the world takes over the story's narrative and leaves you feeling rather refreshingly happy that in such a sad circumstance someone can continue their life in a positive, fulfilling way.Now a widow of 2 children, Louise has created The Wonderfulness of Life which focuses on, Happiness being a choice and a state of mind.I am sure you will all agree this story truly warranted two episodes and if anyone can take anything positive away from this, it is to cherish all the moments we have with our loves ones and find blessings in whatever cards we are dealt in life.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Website: https://www.thewonderfulnessoflife.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/louise-blyth-207a7a49Instagram: https://instagram.com/wonderfulness_of_lifeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/louise.Blyth83Have an awesome day#JustDeuIt #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so before I begin thisannouncement I just want to say amassive massive massive thank you toevery single one of you who havelistened to this show I also want to saya massive thank you to anyone who haspreviously listened to his show and lefta review because it's your reviews thatI've helped us get into the news and notworthy on iTunes now this is no smallfeat this is actually an incredibleachievement and the more I research itthey're more proud I actually feel butmore importantly I'm so proud of myguests and I'm so grateful that theywere able to share their journey but I'malso so happy to have such loyallisteners like yourselves to reallysupport this movement and that's exactlywhat it is it's a movement it's abouttrying to inspire people try and put apositive beacon of light into the worldand really try and get everyone to livetheir best life combat their excuses andreally change their perception andmindset so without rambling on too muchwe have a really really excitingtwo-part episode coming up for you nownow this is actually our first evertwo-part episode and conscious of yourtime which is obviously our biggest andmost important commodity I'm gonna jumpstraight into this one okay so I justwant to start by thanking Louise for hertime and coming onto the show today toshare her story which I'm sure you'reall gonna find absolutely inspirationalso Louise how are you doing todayI'm good thank you I'm good fantasticfantastic so I just want to say thankyou I appreciate you and I'm reallylooking forward to this one so this wasactually a recommendation from somebodyelse you may haveone heard previously on a podcast it'sepisode number fourteen and it's my betdaily Rylan it's something that I urgeall of you to check out because it wasactually within the first four hours itgot the most number of listenstraightaway so it's a great hit and I'drecommend you all going back to thathowever moving on now we have anotherfantastic guest in Lewis so Louise Ithink it's really important for thelisteners to understand your story andunderstand a little bit about yourselfas well if you if you wouldn't mind ifyou could just kind of give us aninsight into yourself a little bit aboutyour journey and what basically bringsyou here today yeah no worries so and ifI'm completely honest I never thoughtthree even four years ago that I wouldbe someone that would be sat beinginterviewed on a podcast talking aboutthe subject that I'm going to bring tothe table today which is lossbereavement and life after livingthrough sort of that kind of trauma soso my story is from nottingham fromrobin hood that's where i kind of growup grew up and spent my childhood had afantastic childhood my parents reallysort of put myself over the first I waskind of one of those people at schoolthat was not really super cool but alsoI hope not too much of a mega geek andyou know you did did the normal stuffkind of growing up going into nightclubsprobably too young being carried out ofnightclubs after having drink too muchso my friends before say probably tooyoung and went away to university at 18where I studied French and actuallylived abroad for a year when I was 19which was quite young and that was Isuppose my first experience if I'm beingbrutally honest of life if that makessense so in terms of really realizingthings around loneliness relationshipsbeing able to kind of go it alone and dothings for yourself because essentiallywhen you're on your own in a foreigncountry you have no one else to rely onother than yourself and I and so thatwas that was really really kind of bigexperience in my life and graduated inin 2006 probably like many so you reallyexpect it about what life had to offerme and had one of these huge plansaround what I thought I was gonna be andwhat car is thought I was gonna driveand what house I wanted to have hadn'tmet kind of anyone special at that pointthere's been a few a few boys but no onewho'd kind of really made me sort of situp and take notice and in 2006 I wasaccepted on to a training scheme agraduate training scheme and that waskind of a supposed to start of where mylife really really started to change soI I started there in September and on myfirst day in fact before my my first dayon the induction day I met George who Iwould fall in love with and marry so wewere part of a group of about 30 peoplehe will join together and we had a greattime it was like being at university youknow me we were there training togetherliving together all became really reallygreat friends but he was the guy thatkind of more than anyone else you knowwas not never first I on any level I youknow I remember thinking oh my gosh thisguy's so confident you know he's reallysort of sure of himself but we justbecame really great friends and we usedto would talk all the time and then itwas that that Christmas so this is theSeptember when we started our job and itwas that Christmas when we actually kindof had our first kiss so he'd he'dreally really raison he said when hefirst were in the business oh well I'mgonna be I'm gonna be in Edinburgh soI'm gonna have a hub burn a party andwe're all gonna come to Edinburgh andhave this holiday party and I rememberthinking oh my god who is this guy likethey're so confidentso anyway true to his words you knowfour months later there we all were sortof twenty or so others at his flat in inEdinburgh and that's kind of whereGeorge and I had our first kissNew Year's 2006 2007 and after that youknow my life my life changed in aninstant I know for people that arelistening that of maybe you know you'vemet someone that they know that theywon't spend the rest of their life withwhen you meet that special person youknow really it is everything that you'veever hoped for it is kind of like themovies and the songsand it's it's truly beautiful it's areally amazing experience and we knew weknew from the outset that we hadsomething special I think that often youdo you know it was more than just afriendship it was a kind of deeprespectful sort of love it was it was itwas powerful you know and so we kind ofwent on living our lives together youknow as what happens when you meet theperson that you want to spend your lifewith you know you stop being you stopbeing as our lives became more and moreintertwined so we we lived apart welived togetherwe vented together we bought a housetogether his kind of his career wentfrom kind of great amazing as he kind ofcharged through the ranks from corporateperspective we were engaged in 2010 wewere married in 2011I felt pregnant we had off this babyquite quickly which was just a hugeblessing and we it gave birth to of thisson in 2013 so for all intents andpurposes we were the couple that thathad it all we were probably the peopleand I hugely recognize this that peoplelook to in kind of discipline oh howthey got this you know like they'vethey've met young they've both got goodjobs they're doing really well hopefullythey thought we were nice people youknow we had we had a nice house we drovenice cars we had a you know we had wedecided we wanted to have a baby and itjust was easy we got pregnant and I hadno problems with my pregnancy so youknow we were on to a good thing life waslife was really really great and then wedecided to have another baby and I gotpregnant very easily again and shortlyafter office and was born we moved houseso we relocated back to Nottingham surebecause by this point we're living downsouth because that's like the street sirI paid gold and then whilst I waspregnant with our second son George justhad this overwhelming feeling which Ican come back to and talk about somemore and as we kept kind of maybe deeperinto the interview there that we had tomove that we had to move back to myhometown andum so we we bought a house when I wassix months pregnant and moved after ourson was just born to me with an 8 weekold baby at that time that's when Georgestarted to be presenting with symptomsthat just weren't you know wasn't welland we couldn't get to the bottom of ithe was wrong he constantly had a cold hewas always tiredhe was really rundown he had low reallyreally low energy levels and because ofthe stage and the circumstance of ourlife in that we had two incredibly youngchildren Zoey at this point you know wehad a three-month-old baby and atwo-year-old son and you know justNewhouseGeorge was commuting to London from ourhouse and Notting Michelle it is a bigcommute you know said not you know notfor the faint-heartedwe just continually put it down to thefact that this is what life is in yourseason and you know you try and haveyeah we're rundown you know this ishaving kids everyone whinges about thetiredness and the exhaustion which is ayou know it's part of the territory ofyou know you don't live with yourchildren but it just didn't sort of seemto get better and there was thiscontinual niggle that was there andessentially basically we pursued it andto cut a long story short of how weactually came to this conclusion wedecided to send George for a colonoscopywhich is a process where you basicallyhave a camera put up your bottom it'snot that unpleasant so he went off andhad this procedure and I mean this iswhat our life was like at this point intime our and so he decided to have thisprocedure in London because he rememberhim saying to meyou know I'm so busy at work what I cando is I can go to work and then I can dothis after work and I can come back andI can still behave at that time wegenuinely didn't think that there was abig you know big big reason to beconcerned all of the health careprofessionals had said to us there's nota reason to be worried he's so younghe's 33 it's definitely not gonna bebowel cancer and basically that day thatyou had the colonoscopy which was thethe 9th of December 2015he called me I was at home literallykind of quite literally walking aroundthe Christmas tree and my little boyanswer and with a little Senate nurse weputting all my fairy lights out thinkingwow you know life's amazing this is grayand he called me and that phone call wasthe moment that just shattered my lifebecause having your husband ringing andsay the words I've got cancer ah it wasjust it felt like a time-space continuumand I yeah it was just hideous and Iremember saying to him oh my god shecan't know this already how do you knowlike it can't be which was actually theroute that I went domine when he told uswas exactly the route that all of ourfriends went down afterwards when weactually had to then tell them the newswhich was just as difficult as himhaving to tell me and I know now thatthat's the kind of psychologicalresponse in terms of you know plausibledenial you want to commercialise withwhat you're hearing and you want somehowto be like this isn't true this thiscan't be the case this isn't us you knowdo you not know who we are today and Iremember you know being on the phonewith George and crying and him saying tome it's fine like he'd managed to havethe force I mean this is the kind ofincredible guy he was he'd had theforesight to call my parents tell myparents what happened before he ran meso he could say to me after he told meI've got cancer your mum and dad are onthe wayyour mum doubt of coming over andthey're gonna be here any minute andthey're gonna be they're gonna be herethey're gonna scoop you up and I'm on myway back from London it was just so soso kind and so thoughtful which was justwho he was to his coreso that was December 2015 and our livesin that instant you know I often jokedwith people and say I sing the song fromFresh Prince of bel-air oh it's probablyshows the kind of generation that I amit was you know this Oriole upside downbecause in that instant it was my lifewas flipped turned upside down and yeahit was just everything that we knewabout our life was thrown thrown on thefloor but then that you know that wasn'tthe end that was the beginning of a newlife and a new existence which went onfor 11 monthsso we then lived in a season of stagefour bowel cancer so when George wasdiagnosed he had metastatic bowel cancerwhich is basewe can circle of lingo for the fact thatthe cancers bad and it spreads todifferent parts of your body and inGeorge's case it spread to his liverwhich is not good news obviously it'sone of our major organs that you need tofunction so George then lived through Ithink it was eight rounds ofchemotherapy followed by six weeks ofreally intense radiotherapy followed bya season of kind of watch wait let's seewhere this where these horrible cellskind of come back then he did a hugehuge surgery in the summer which issomething called the liver resectionwhich is essentially where you getchopped open and all of your liverthere's got cancer and chopped out whichis kind of just the most epic surgeryyou can imagine before he did that hecycled around London and raised a lot ofmoney for bowel cancer UK and then hesaid I remember him saying to hisoncologist you know just before he hadthis liver surgery I'm gonna I'm gonnado more bike riding and then this sortof all looking at him like he wascompletely mental eight weeks to the dayafter he'd had his liver resection hecycled from London to Paris releasedmore funds for Bar Council UK and thenshortly after returning home from thatboat ride he started complaining againfeeling unwell and we you know wegenuinely thought that we were on thesort of positive track with this diseaseand literally eight weeks the day afterhe'd stood in front of the eiffel toweryou know holding his bike you know inthis kind of really momentous epicphotograph that I've got of him he wasdead so he he went downhill incrediblyquickly and peacefully passed away onthe 18th of November 2016 so I was 33and I had a three year old and a tenyear olds and yes it was incrediblyincredibly hard yet was incrediblybeautiful and a moment of glory that Inever expected at the moment of hispassing so I suppose that was a realgame-changing moment when he died whichwas just absolutely beautiful andthere's no other word to describe itwhich is I suppose why my story's a bitdifferent because I think probably mostpeople are going to be expecting me tosay and then it was himyes and then it was all for and I lovethis season of grief and and it has beenand it was all of those things but itwas equally really beautiful because oftheir the way in which George died andwhat happened to all of this at themoment of his death which I'm sort ofreally excited to talk some more withyou about say and just stunned that lastbit and which we will touch on just in afew moments time I can tell that youwere going to have that response justfrom the way you were explaining yourjourney and everything that you've beenthrough so but when I think of concernwhat it's done to my family it becomes amore of an emotional thing and it'squite like even when you talk about itlike demeanor and everything changeswhen you say you can see that you'veactually found the silver lining in thisin this journey that you've had to takeand I just find that incredible so I'mlooking forward to hearing just a bitmore about that have balls and knowabout how it was one not only incrediblyhard but also incredibly beautiful Imean I'm taking notes here because Idon't want to miss anything and I'm surelisteners I probably think ask her thisask her this because it's so fascinatingbecause what you've literally describedis a fairy tale story and it's kind of astory that I suppose when we grow upthere's there's a thing and I was I wasdoing a speech recently and I was sayinghow you know how we go to school andyeah you get your results and then yougo to secondary school then you have theI love is then you go to university thenyou get married and you have kids andthen you retire at 65 it's almost likesomewhere in a in our subconscious Isuppose we reprogram to believe we'rejust going to lift or 65 wheneverything's just gonna fall in placeand then what happens it comes in boomit hits you how is he so hard yeahthat's why people struggle and I justthink yeah it's a I'm grateful thatyou're sharing this story because itwould just wake people up yeah I'm veryfortunate that nothing like that hashappened to my wife or myself at thismoment but I do try and live as if thatcould happen tomorrow oh yeah it wouldthat the nightmares that couldpotentially happen so oh you mentionedthat you've been travelling for a yearas well not obviously generate so wheredid you travel so I didn't travel so Ilived I mean sorry you lived you liveyeah yeah yeah and I said friendshipUniversity and I lived in fret in FranceI actually lived I need to be honest I'dlove to go back now as a 35 year old anddo I did then I lived in the noirWeinbergwhich at the time as a 19 year old hebasically like drinking wkt blue it wascompletely lost of me as like a kind ofcultural experience but it was part itwas part of my my studies in terms ofwhat I had to do to kind of learn thelanguage but yeah that was that wasinteresting and it's been reallyfascinating actually as I've taken sometime particularly this last year becauseI've been taking some time out of workto actually I'm writing a novel actuallyso I'm writing the story of what whathappened to is in that in detail becauseI'm really mindful that to try and relayit in you know an hour even in two hoursit doesn't do it justice which is whyI'm writing the story of exactly youknow all of the twists and turns and thebeauty of what unfolded but essentiallyyou know I've really realized that thatexperience that I had in France wasreally formative and actually wasequipping me with skills that I wouldneed kind of in the moment of George'sdeath and it was also interesting inthat some of the corporate experiencesthat I'd had as well so often you knowpeople always saying it's very clicheisn't it you know when you're having adifficult time people often say stuff toyou like you know this all happens for areason or you know it's in difficultywhere you learn and you know what Ihugely believe in both of those pointsbut actually when you're in thathardship and you're in that season ofstruggle and people say that to you ifI'm being brutally honest sometimes itfeels like a slap in the face becauseyou just you just feel kind of like wellyou don't know what is to be in thesituation I'm in and how do you knowthat I've been positioned for such atime as this but I think you have to Ithink you have to come to thatconclusion yourself I don't think otherpeople can kind of impart that wisdominto you and it's taken me to livethrough the experience of my husband'scancer and his death to wake up to lifedoes that make senseand I now look at all of theseexperiences that I've had the good andthe bad and go wow like I was being liketrained I was being because I waspositioned into that set ofcircumstances the reason why thathappened was to serve me later and whenyou start to reflect that in that wayyou often see that you've done that youdid do some really great learning in meseasons of struggle and they and theyhave served to make you a more full kindof person that can then cope and be moreresilient in times that will be eventougher may be that you face in thefuture say yeah this interesting I justlove that I just love your perspectiveon things and I think because I believeeveryone gets these potential lessonsand I call it potential lessons becauseyeah it's what they take from it reallyand yes that you mentioned resilience aswell and yeah I I've hadI mean I'm day two you know and I feellike I've had some ups and downs as wellin my life which I'm sure every singleperson has yeah the grass is nevergreener on the other side yeahabsolutely yeah I mean that's one of thereasons for this podcast but I'mgrateful now especially in hindsight ofall the adversity and everything thatI've been through because now whensomething trivial happens say forinstance in my day job or you got a flattire or something that would normally Isuppose dress me out five six years agoyeah yeah it just doesn't faze mebecause in the grand scheme of things doyou know what I mean you you snotabsolutely 100% yeah I'm interested inthis novel Azure which i think is gonnabe fantastic because like you said wecan't touch on everything within thisshort amount of time but I think justfrom listening to the opening 15-20minutes people are going to be veryinterested in hearing more about thismyself included and I think you're notalone in what you've experienced but I'msure that you're very unique in terms ofhow you've change your perspective and Ithink if you can hopefully help otherpeople who have maybe been through asimilar situation to maybe look at it inthe way that you said so I want to goback to that bit where you mentioned howincredibly hard it was oh but then alsoincredibly beautiful if you yeah yeah solet's talk about the hardship and thestruggle first I think you have you seethat fully fully understand that thenunderstand the beauty if that makessense you have to source it in thedarkness to feel to feel the light whichsounds quite cheesy but I think it's youknow that's kind of essentially the theheart of this story and you know thatmoment that if we go back to the momentthat I described to you earlier when youknow George was diagnosed with cancer itwas hideousand I often say to people actually thatis when my life changed and that is whenI started to grievebecause that was the moment that ourlives changed forever at that point wewere obviously still hoping there Georgewas gonna live to tell the talebut even if he had lived to tell thetale he would have been living to tellthe tale with the with the scar ofcancer and I think this is the part ofcancer that is so widely misunderstoodpeople want to treat it like a diseasethere is a heart problem or anorthopedic problem which is you know yougo to the hospital you have somemedicine and you get better and yourlife's all okay again and actually thereality of cancer at any stage that youget it is that it alters the check thatyour mindset and the course of your lifeforever because it fundamentally makesyou realize your own mortality in a waythat you've never had to realize itbefore and it also therefore because ofthat makes you live your life verydifferently it makes you live your lifein fear it also makes you live your lifewith joy because you appreciate and havesuch a broader perspective for theamazing and wonderful variety of whatyou see in everyday life because it isyou know that is where you live and inin the everyday not in the holiday thatyou've got planning for six months timeor the night out that you're reallylooking forward to a couple of weeks andand cancer really has a way of sort ofshifting your perspective and I think Ithink this shift of perspective isuniversal but obviously I think from myown experience is not fertile for anyoneelse he's impacted by this disease butwhat's interesting is you know once youkind of take some time to let the newssettle which you have to do and you getnews that big you know I remember forGeorge and I we had the classicfight-or-flight response and we actuallychose flight so we ran away essentiallyto the yorkshire dales which was whereGeorge's mother lived and basicallyspent sort of two or three days almostin hiding trying to figure out what wewere gonna do so yeah we we ran away tothe oxidase and there we sort of liketried to look at the situationpragmatically so both of this had sortof a spaceman entrained in the corporateworld because of the circumstances inwhich wewhich was on this kind of managementtraining scheme unit we'd both beenthrough quite vigorous corporatetraining so we've done all of the youknow separate the people from theproblem how do you make a decision allof that kind of stuff and actually wekind of said you know what we've got tokind of implement some of these skillsthat we've been taught in terms offacing this this beast that is cancerand that and that's kind of what wechose to do so when we actually sort ofapproached it as if it was almost acorporate problem and and I and I feellike I'm I'm I'm even laughing as I saythis because it because essentially thisis what we had to do we had to look atit as not a black dark disease that wasgonna claim our life we had to look atit as a unwanted guest that maybe movedinto our house which is how it fell andthen it was kind of like what what we'regonna do in this and once a guesthow are we gonna how are we gonna makeyou feel part of the family and then wedon't really want them to be here butaccept the fact that they are gonnaprobably eat our table now for theforeseeable future and we can't makethem leave they're only gonna go whenthey want to you know so we we looked atyou know what we could do and one of thefirst things actually that we did wasand it was George's this is alldifferent by George not by me was hesort of said well I'm not having cancerand I remember saying to him what areyou talking about you know you've gotcancer like we can't we can't get rid ofit just like that and say no what I meanis I'm not I'm not calling it cancer I'mnot I'm not going to be named as havingcancer because there's a lot in the nameI mean there's even a you know there'sthe beautiful Shakespeare quote of youknow if Rose has anything else you knowI can't I can't remember it and thebaton but it's about you know if it wascaught if it was still called over butit was cannot call the rose but it stillsmells so sweet and that same that samethinking and that same mindset is sotrue cancer because the problem is isyou say cancer to people and peoplethink death because people are so scaredof death and actually the reality thesedays is one and two people will getcancer and also lots of people havecancer and go on to live reallybeautiful long lives also have cancerand live really successfully with cancerfor a good number of yearsbut we all have this fear you know it'sessentially the Millennial tuberculosisthat you get cancer and it's literallylike then the Grim Reaper is their dooryeah so George George said to me fromthe from the outset I don't want cancerI'm not gonna have cancer I'm gonna havea project name so we we we were sort oflike I was like okay so it was it waslike a awesome cheesy episode of TheApprentice we were driving north and hewe were there thinking of names andevery name I came up with which I can'tremember any of the names I actuallycame up with he he was beating ofdallying no that's awful that's that'shorrendous I kind of thought I can'thave this then he said out of nowhereInvictus what about Invictus andhonestly when he said that name it wasliterally like a thunderclap in the carit was amazing like it shot wavesthrough my heart and I was like that'samazing I was like why do we both knowthis name a week googled it and we'relike oh it's an aftershave and then wewould you know laughing joking whichagain is another you know like that is areal great way of building resilience soit sounds so awful and crude to say butto try and find the fun and the smilesand the everyday humor in amongst youknow this car crash that is your life isso important because you're stillyourself when you still find the samethings funny and you like eating thesame sweets and the same places eventhough you've got cancerI remember we're in fits of laughter bekind of like you know why on earth haveyou chosen an aftershave advert this isjust really cheesy but then when we wentfurther into it we found out thatactually the original naming conventionsare coming from this amazing poet and byErnest Hemingway which actually I nowhaving a frame on my wall at home andthe line the closeout line of the poemis this really sort of like thunderousclothes which basically says I'm thecaptain of my fate and I am the masterof my soul and those words we were justlike they were literally like boom toour hearts we were like yes okay this isit now we we are not having cancer sowe're having sort of project and victorsand that was the start of is Isuppose time to refrain what washappening to is but that also didn'tmean that what was happening to uswasn't horrible you know like there'slots of cancer there is hideous there isabsolute sleep deprivation becauseyou're so anxious about everything thatyou you go to bed and you can't sleepand you're wide awake you wide awakethere's there's an easier because ofthat because you're so exhausted you'reand you're trying to keep the show onthe roadyou can't remember sometimes the mostsimplest of things there's the the hugeimpact that it has on your daily life Imean essentially I was still onmaternity leave you know we had an eightmonth old baby so I was supposed to bethe one that was being looked afterbecause I was up at night you know stillwith a baby that didn't really know youknow day from night if I'm beingbrutally honest yeah and you know then Ihad to switch roles into this personthat wasn't just caring for atwo-year-old and a eight month old itwas also caring for a guy he was theretwo three who had cancer which for himwas just as difficult as it was for mebecause he was the the dad he was thefather figure of the family he wanted tobe able to provide and support his wifeat his children and the reality of thecancer treatment that he had was there Imean he had really really top-drawerchemo which was like I remember themsaying the hospital is it's pretty muchlike we're putting bleach in your veinsand he had it every 11 days so he didn'thave much downtime between treatment youknow he'd go on it he'd go on his go andhave his infusion and actually he thenhad to come home with a with a bottleattached to him which is a type ofchemotherapy that lots of bowel cancerpatients if anyone who's had bowelcancer is listening will be familiarwith and you then basically take thepump it's called a pump home with youfor three days so that was you know thatwas a man mindful in itself because wehad to explain to our kids what wasgoing on that they couldn't jump ondaddy and it wasn't ever that we keptanything secret from our children butyou know our oldest child was two yearsold you know how do you explain to a 2year old dad daddy's got cancer thathe's got this medicine on him I meanactually and that is what we explainedto him and we had to explain what thewords meant to him but you know theydon'tat that age they don't understand whatit means they it means nothing to themyou know for all intensive purposes forthem it was like daddy had a bottle ofCal Poly attached to him you know theydidn't get the severity of it and it wasreally tough and it brought up a lot ofstuff for me around you know what do Ido in terms of work so obviously I wasoff work on maternity leave I actuallywent back to work because I felt so muchpressure because I was thinking you knowI don't we'd have no idea how long thiscancer journeys gonna go on for and eventhough both of our employers were justthe most supportive employers B couldhave ever asked foryou always have that niggle in the backof your head that actually if this goeson for six years seven years are theystill going to be this supportive andlist understand a and I remember sayingto George you know I've got to go backto work George because we might be in aposition where we're only rely you knowwe're relying upon my salary and youknow you can't work which he neverreally wanted to face into so I wentback to work and even when I talk aboutit now I genuinely don't know how I didit I went back to work with aone-year-old just three year old and ahusband with cancer and was kind ofdoing my job as well as commuting toLondon and you know running a house youknow it was absolutely exhausting andexhausting in a way that makes your souleight you know it wasn't just it wasn'tjust sort of tired of the way thatpeople say I'm tired you know it wasexhausting and it was the relentlesssort of tsunami of it all because theway that cancer works is you kind of itis it's a long boil disease you know itisn't a disease there you know it goesit doesn't go away like an orthopaedicyou know injury like I said previouslyand it and it's it's always theresimmering in the background and everynow and again you get these huge wavesthat crash over you and they sometimesabsolutely come out of nowhere and it'sabout then how you how you protectyourself and what you what you do - Isuppose build that resilience and that'swhat we learn in that 11 monthsessentially initially it was like wewere all at sea we have no idea what thehell we were doing and gradually as theyearwent on we built that resilience muscleand we learned the techniques aroundwhat is it that's gonna help us and weknew that there were certain things thatfor us as a family he with the thingsthat work but that took some time tofigure out it wasn't like the next dayafter George I can't sir we went yeahthis is this is what we have to do thistrick is it yeahno no so it was so hard it was so sohard so hard yeahfirstly what a wonderful person hesounds like and I just in yourrelationship the way you were justfeeding a feature then you had thiswhole story behind Invictus Sol Invictusfor me initially yeah Paco Rabanne it'sthe which is what I remembered but alsothere's a film money as well yes andit's happened to feed on conquerable soWowyeah you actually said it in this momentthat's what I was feeling and I wasgetting almost goose thinking yeahthat's it how you guys have done it andit just shows the power of like thehuman will and the importance that wordsbecause just by changing that nameyou're not you're not necessarily sayingto listeners here listen let's brushcancer under the copy and pretend it'snot here what you're saying is okay weacknowledge it's here and some dayswe're facing it but we're gonna justface it in a more positive way to helpus move forward and I think that'sreally really yeah the way you've donethat and in terms of exhausting I meanwe all sit here myself included andwe'll have a 14 hour day or a 12 hourday we've been asked to do some overtimeand we feel you know what I'm tired I'mtired and here you are with no actualchoice with your back against the walljust showing how powerful the human mindand body in sync how much we're actuallycapable of doing and that also goes sexywhen you mentioned George who did thatrunning I mean who in their right mindif you think about it from a logicalperspective things after being choppedup I'm go go go raise money wait youknow you know what there are what Iwould say is I follow some reallyinspirational people on Instagram andparticularly love the the three womenand who created the you me Big C podcastand Rachel blance or sadly passed awayin September last year and I follow Ifollow the girls actually that do thatshow on Instagram and they ones a cancersurvivor one one is living with stagefour cancerthey are always out exercising andactually what I would say is it heyfor you to realize that your body isfragile and that you have to look afterit to want to look after it sometimesand actually the irony is is that Georgeactually was a fitness fanatic evenbefore he had cancer so he was on thesepeople that would go to gym gym and Iwould always be like what are you doingbut I had to say since he has had cancerand obviously lost his life to cancerit's made me go as well you know yourbody is so precious you have to lookafter it you have to be mindful of whatyou're putting in it in the way in whichyou're using it in the way in whichyou're nurturing it because it's it'sprecious to you and it's your onlyrocket ship you're not going to getanother one so you have to look after itand I think incredibly there is thismindset amongst the cancer community ofI am gonna do the stuff that like youknow that we run a 5k or run a marathonbecause almost as well you know everyoneknows the healing benefits of fitnessit's it's proven right so there is thismindset of just you know well I am whatI want to do this mentally even morethan I've ever wanted to do it so I doyou think it's crazy but I also thinkyou know not taking anything away fromGeorge because it was incredible what hedid but I also think you'll find thatthere are lots of people who areimpacted by cancer that also have thatabsolute mindset of no I'm gonna go forit I'm gonna raise this money I'm gonnago and do this and I think you're rightand I think but this is kind of what Iwant this podcast to do is not letsomebody have to suffer with cancer seesomebody also for with cancer to reallyunderstand what they're actually capableof because we're so much we're livingjust in the comfort zone all the timeand health and fitness is one of mybiggest passions so yeah I've alwaysbeen into it but then when I went touniversity was it was more about vodkacommands and hangovers sure yeah it wasthat kind of stuff for generallyspeaking up when I was about 25 I thinkthat's when cancer came into into myfamily only affected my own cause yeahand one of the things I started doingthen was really taking my health andfitness seriously so I blogged onpersonal training since then I'vetrained over like three 400 clients andI always know my analogy is I know thecircumstances for instance similar toGeorgia where you can be healthy you canbe doingright and then it's just not meant to beI can just come for what I always tryand do is just put the odds in my favorand I always tell all my clients justput the odds in your favor you know whenyou lift some weights or you do any sortof CV exercise cardiovascular you'reyou're you're reducing the chances of ofillness and that's kind of what I do soevery single morning without fail andunless some literally on my deathbedsorry or I'm traveling I'm training andI don't have to enjoy it but for me youknow it's 4% on my day just afteryourself and you touched on somethingthere by what you put into yourself andI think it's important for the listenersjust to know it's not just physicalconsumption like food and water it'salso what you say in your monitor yeahabsolutelyso the project Invictus that kind ofstuff is it's empowering and if you canjust so I just think there's this Icould talk about what you said now foranother five hours because I'm surepeople are going to pick up on thank youthank you for sharing all of that what Ineed to move it forward just slightlyotherwise we'll have a six hour podcastbut what definitely can get you back onso nice obviously change quite quitesignificantly now yeah yeah and it'ssomething that you obviously you'renever prepared for what is a day likefor yourself now and what I want to askmore in particular is obviously life'staught you so much so quicklyalready are there certain habits ortraits that you maybe do on a dailybasis that you think people listeningcould potentially benefit from yes so Imean the part of the story that haven'tgot into and maybe isn't one for thedates move maybe at halftime is the whatactually happened when George died whichin which I suppose was the absolutebeautiful firework finale to this wholeyear so if you imagine this 11 monthswhen George had cancer was like us itwas a slowly learning how to overcomeadversity and build resilience in a waythat I'd never had see before and thenwhen we realized that you know the endwas nigh when he was told there wasnothing that they could do and he wasgoing to die but weyou know how long it was going to be andwhat that what may or may not look likeand how painful it may be and all thoseother things that was the moment whereif I'm really honest and being reallyreally vulnerableI hit absolutely rock bottom because Ikind of when I don't know what to do nowyou know like all of this other stuffthat we've taught ourselves this far interms of you know finding three thingsevery day to be thankful for doingexercise you know renaming things tomake them feel more palatable you knoweating well to make sure we're we knowwe're making our bodies feel as great aswe can sleeping where we can in amongstnear the chaos of TV and children all ofthose things that other sort of thingsif you pick up any book on on resilienceand how to and how to kind of you knowbuild and and and work that muscle theyjust didn't work and I I remember justthinking oh my gosh like what what do Ido and it was it was awful and it meantthat we were both in a reallyemotionally low state which as I'm sureagain lots of people will identify withwhen you're in that place what happensis you lash out or the people that youlove the mostso we're in this hideous set ofcircumstances which was you know we knewthat George was gonna die and we hadwhat was probably the biggest row Ithink we ever had of our whole marriageour whole relationship because I wasreally angry at him and actually youknow what I was actually angry about himwhat I thought I was angry about him wasnot what I was angry about at him at allI was actually angry at him because hewas dying and that's what I now realizewith hindsight you know I was at I wasangry about him about something thathe'd said to us mom or not said to hismom but that wasn't you know and I'vegone back and rabbit reaction man thatwasn't the reason the reason I'm socrossed with him was because I was angrythat he was leaving me that he was gonnadie that he was not going to be here tobring up my kids that I was gonna haveto do life on my own in a way that I'venever ever expected to and that night Iwent out I literally ran out of thehouse into my car it sounds Hollywooddramatic and it actually was a littlebit that way and I got in my car and Idrove it was dogevening it was raining and I didn't knowwhat to do and I just felt lost reallyreally lost and in that moment Iremember thinking in my head where am Igonna go who do what who should go andsee if it goes to my mom and dad I couldgo see like my aunty best friends who'sthe person that I need that who do Ineed and I was I was sort of trying allthese people in my head to see if theyfitted with it the way I thought in myheart and none of them felt that theyworked and actually at that point intime was seeing a psychologist and Ithought do I bring her like do I go seeher I couldn't even bring myself to gosee my psychologist he was the personthat really you know I employed to sortof be the person I could take all thesethings to so I decided it in that momentthat I needed to go to a church and thenI was kind of like right really go to achurch and if I'm honest again I thinkit was rooted in some level of utopianmemory that I've got from childhoodprobably movies like home alone whereKevin goes to church and yeah has thatlike magical moment when he's missinghis mummy you know I was right I'm gonnago to church and tried that and to go toa church on this like rainy Octoberevening at about I think it must havebeen about five o'clock everywhere I waslocked her and I was so angry oran Ican't tell you how angry I amI was literally raging so I remember Ipulled my car over on a hard shoulderand I and I said at least she got out mycar and I screamed and at this point intime I was not a person of faith sothere is a purpose behind me telling youthe story and so I pulled over my carand I literally got out of my car it wasraining I was screaming and I literallyit was like I was boxer in a ring that Iwas a mad okay and I literally screamedat the universe if you are real if youare real you have to bleep bleep bleepbleep show me there was a lot of swearwords yeah I was crying I was crying somuch you know I couldn't even reallyspeak I was coughingit was awful I got back in my car andGeorge text me two words that just saidcome home and then I just wrote backokay he wrote back I'm not planning ordying anytimeSene and i just hysterically burst intotears and went home now that that momentwas a absolute another kind oflife-altering moment but it wasn'tlife-altering in that exact moment ifthat makes sense because then whatunfolded in this or three weeksfollowing on from me going out andhaving this moment where I went for itand said to God you know you are realit's now or never because I don't knowwhere else to turn it and God had neverbeen someone a force and an energy thatI had ever looked to previously but Iwas I felt like I had nothing left in mycup I had no place else to gohe was the only viable option left forme to go to and what then happened andwhat unfolded around George's deathwhich we maybe don't have the time todiscuss today was just supernaturallyunbelievably beautiful he died the mostglorified beautiful miraculous deaththat was completely driven by sort ofthe Holy Spirit just moving in andtaking residence in his room okay peopleI'm just gonna play the out role now forthis part of the show but the nextepisode should be available straightaway on your feed whether you using iOSor Android and I hope you enjoy thisjust as much as you've enjoyed thisfirst part of this incredible story fromLouise I know the next part certainlygave me goosebumps especially when shespoke about the supernatural stuff thatshe experienced and I hope you enjoy ittoo and once again thank you for allyour support and if you do get a chanceto leave this interview at the end ofthe show I'd certainly appreciate itthank you so much and remember thispodcast is absolutely free so all we askin return is for you to share this witha friend and drop us a five star reviewover on iTunes have an awesome day See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Find your voice - Episode 11 - My Little Spartan - Michael V Kalisperas #11Tagline: "Unleash your inner spartan..."Apologies in advance for the sound quality on my end. Technical issues certainly played their role. But in true spartan fashion we kept going.Michael Kalisperas life turned upside when his son was hit with a number of health conditions due to the neglect of a midwife. Sadly his beautiful son's life had changed which would have a knock on effect to Michael and his family.However determined to not let this get him down, Michael continued to take action and let his excuses be a thing of the past. Realising his own excuses and rationales to avoid doing the hard stuff are so insignificant compared to the battles his son, and daughter face on a daily basis he ensured he crushed his goals.A successful property investor, an author, a father and loving husband Michael story is one which touched my heart.I reached out personally when I first heard his story because he genuinely changed my whole perception on the way I view my life or sometimes feel about my own situation.I urge you all to ignore the sound defects, which I take full responsibility for and listen to this incredible man's story.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekalispera (Personal)Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EffusiveMarketing/ (Facebook group)Michaels book: https://amzn.to/2RUZ7MS#JustDeuIt & #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so it's very rare thatI will stop a podcast especially at theend of it just to kind of find out whothe individual is now I'm not saying Idon't get inspired or motivated bypeople but generally speaking I'm justkind of excited for the next podcasthowever on this particular occasion afew years ago I actually pause thepodcast towards the end of the show nowthe only problem was I still had therest of my car journey to go so I waskind of sitting in silence but it wasworth it because I really wanted to senda message to this individual who I'm nowvery grateful to have on my podcast andI sent a message out to Michael to kindof say thank you for the inspiration forthe motivation and more importantly Ihope things really do progress a littlebit easy for him I suppose in life andspeaking to him in this interview it'sdifficult to say how things got easierbut one thing I can say is that he'sattitude is still the same he'swillingness to just go out there andtake action and not be a victim of hiscircumstances is fantastic and that'skind of what this podcast is about it'sabout eliminating your excuses it'sabout pay with the cards that you'redealt with it's about literally thinkingokay this is what's happened now how doI change this how do I go out into theworld and really find my voice and kindof write my own story so I think I'mgoing to leave it thereI just want to say before it starts Idid have some teething issues with theWi-Fi so we actually have to do a zoomcore wherewhich was fine for videos butunfortunately some of the Sam when I wasediting it back wasn't quite as clear asI had hoped because I was using mylaptop speaker as opposed to my mic thatI'm now recording this intro with sohopefully you can bear with this becauseI think more important than the soundquality is the message and the storybehind Michael's life so without furtherado let's get this interview on the wayokay so I am here today with my courseobviously I want to say thank youMichael for taking time out of your dayand there how are you doing today youngI'm very well thank yougood stuff good stuff so I think it'simportant for the listeners to reallystart to understand your story fromyourself so if you could please explainhow you progress through life yeah sureprogress through life as it seems like aI'm 42 in them in literally a couple ofweeks time so it's February you know sonot long I'm gonna be 42 so other knowwhere to begin to go through the wholelife scenario but I've done quite a lotof things I guess I could go back toeven school where I would say I wasprobably not the best at school and notreally someone that was a you know inthese special sets as they call himbecause I wasn't really interested inschool I didn't feel the vibe at schoolI just didn't you know bond with theteachers if I'm being honest but my lifecompletely changed where when I went tocollege and you meet a different type ofteacher and different environment and itwas a bit more more creative more myfeeling you know what cuz I've alwayscome from a creative background I'vealways been like an artist as such andthen I ended up pretty much ending upgoing to to university ended up at deMontford University and doing them so wecall multimedia design and marketingbasically which was basically it wasmultimedia and I left there and a lot ofmy friends ended up in the 3d world fromfrom from those sort of forces and endedup her kind of like playing games forSony Playstation so I'm got a real whileyeah got really good friends I'm quitewell in that and then and I ended upbasically showcasing my work they theyasked for a few people to earnto showcase their work at an exhibitionin London I think it was the Olympia Ican't remember the actual name of thevenue from being asked me so many yearsago and it was a big place and and theyhad about I don't know six of us theshowcase our stuff so they picked peoplethat they wanted to showcase at thisshow and it was just like a sort of likegreatest show and Khaitan story short Igot a head hunted by my boss back thenCharla Crais for the BBC ended upworking at the BBC basically doingdesigns and websites for them and yeahwe touched on many many areas it waswithin a group of people as a lot ofthese companies are and so I was in thedesigner group and basically designwebsites ranging from Teletubbies tocrime watch Top Gear yeah yeah very veryvery very very varied set of you knoweven like you know History Channel maybewe've seen so it was really it was adepartment called fracture and learningback at the time I think they've got ridof the actual Department have somethingelse it's called a different name nowyeah and I was in and I didn't staythere as long as I could of I decided toleave I don't know what it was I comefrom originally London actuallyironically but most of my life wasbrought up in a small village calledMulford where they've got the movinhills and more than spring water and allthis kind of thing and it is a bit likehouse on the prairie kind of thing andas when I lived there I can't wait toget out and you know escape and get intoUniversity and all that sorcerer and andmeet people and but when you go to thelike concrete jungle and kind of thinkon what god what is this AZ yeah yeahit's kind of like we start realizing youknow my dad says it is well he lived inthem the most of his life I actuallycame over here with nothing I mean heliterally had no money for shoes heliterally came with nothing from fromCyprus and he started up and he's donewell for himself through hard graft andhe he said to me I will I won't go backto London even if someone pays me youknow younot because he doesn't like Londondidn't love it you just just just founda different vibe somewhere else simpleas that and I think for me it's the samefind different vibe I still go to Londonoften I'm going for five days literallyin the next day date in half I'm goingthere for five days you're going in outof business and meet people and you knowso yeah it's a it's I love it a littlebit but to live there it's a differentworld he's in itdifferent world I lived there bought ahouse on the outskirts of it was a waswell II did the Olympics actually nowreally wish I didn't sell it I ended upselling it because I got squatter's youbelieve that I so that's my first trueinvestment and actually that propertynow is worth about seven hundredthousand I bought it about 115 I thinkit was i sold actually actually i onlyhad it for a year and I sold it but Imade 40k profit in that point that's loque ya I can't complain and it was a butstill I can't complain absolutely mypoint of doing it in keeping up was Ialways I always thought back there Iused to watch location occasionally allthose programs and I always wanted tobuild my own house I just wanted mightget buy land above my house and you knowobviously working in London you knowyou've got to be pretty sorted you knowsign up and bloody you know 23 years oldor whatever was coming about what andyou know the reality is that to buy landin Londonabsolutely from some guy in Morphin youknowand yeah just bought that property nothe plan was to keep it butunfortunately got screwed over yeah yeahand I was kind of like I just lost thewill to live my eyes I have to get ridso yeah ventually got rid of them andthey trashed it as well because althoughI Franky refurbished it and they trashedit which was really nice of thembut hey and it's one of those and it I'mback in it now yeah back into propertywell I wanted to do it quicker if I'mbeing honest with you I bought my ownhouse back in Melbourne after I sold mymy house therebought my own house back in well whenthat was brick building you knowsomething come up whilst we're comingout of the recession a boy at therecession period which was the worstthing can do I look because I'm soparanoid I was stuck on a highfixed-rate back of n so back then whenrates were going down to ridiculousamounts I was on a 6% or something crazyand it was but it was high right at thewrong time but there was there's off atthis something there's nothing betterthan having a peaceful kind of like youknow as long as you can work bloody harddid all the hours of possibly do tocover it and literally you like workingand everything was going straight intothat pretty much but I truly believe youknow if you can get through the hardtimes that you know the green the greensgrowing you know absolutely is notgrowing yeah so no it was a it was worthit it was worth it and there's my myfirst house and I say proper house 5bedroomed detached properties in it yeahlots of people of them you know donethings with you know the great thingsbut at the time that was the right thingabsolutely how so some wonderful thingisn't it yeah absolutelyso that's took you back into property Iused still actively a property investorknows that where you kind of callyourself or ya know it's a bit weirdbecause I mean I think digress in thatlast question I'm I got back intoproperty after my son was made severelydisabled basically we basically had mybeautiful son bornVasili born completely healthy came homewith him completely normal and then amistake by the Midwifenot following certain procedurebasically ended up with a catalogue ofmistakes not just the Midwife we forgavethem publicly in the newspapers which ispretty damn hard to do because you knowthere was blatant mistakes I mean whenyou go to the report that they did itwas like there was several mistakes andit basically you know from having abeautiful child born healthy coming homeyou know healthy we've got a child nowthat's severely disabled trapped in hishot and wheelchair pretty much trappedin his body and declared blind deaf withspastic cerebral Z so I mean he's realcontrol is his tasteyou know and that was hard we were toldhe was blind to completely weave andsort of like therapy and all sorts ofstuff we research in America and and youknow not too long ago we had somereports saying that he's they put someprobes on his head and the reckon hecould see now and that really just aboutthat he was completely deaf but wepainful taking a decision while they'reyoung to put them through horribleoperations but but we put him through anoperation that has given him like therobotic sound if you know I mean so okhe's got something called Cochlear'swhere they kind of drill into the headthey put a magnet processor goes on thatand then they put some probes orwhatever goes straight down into thecochlea and now that goes back to aprocessor and so he can hear like andthe best way I describe it to people iswhy we've been described we've been toldit is Americans used to talk yeah that'show he can hear pretty much so he'llpick some things up certain spectrumsome sounds he might not be able to pickup but um generally you know but hereacts to me he knows me his mom heknows that's the love it definitelyresponses without that just give me anexample but the amount of light therapythey put on him is basically that youput it had he his blood was poisonedpretty much had to do platoons but theythe way they can sort of negate thatthat the increase of bilirubin whichhelped cause brain damage was put himunder the lights and they did that for alot of premature children actually butbut they put him under the lights and hewas that much under the lights that heactually looked like a black child andhe was you know you know at work witholivey skin but generally kind of whiteyou know but he look like a black childand you know I will never forget andI've got him on my phone I meanliterally I've just got him on my phoneand it's a reason to have a picture ofhim on my phone like this the reason whypeople think it's probably weird why doI have him as a screen saver as my childwith all these tubes in him you know uphis nose on his arms everywhere probeseverywhere and looking it's likecompletely you knowokay but the reality is I'm really proudof him that's why that's his that's hisdefining moment you know they survivedthat and no matter how much crap hashappened since in the last almost sevenyears literally I look at that photo andwhen I'm feeling it and I've had a lotof crap come on trust me within a lot oflocals when I'm really feeling thatthinking how dare I even complain youknow I complain this kid has gonethrough everything you know and hesteals your perception and killseverything that is your lifee absolutelyyeah yeah I'm even using that now on mydiet I'm on I want to call it alifestyle change a lifestyle yeah I lovethat change but I've lost like almost Iwas it I was 17 pound 17 stone - alrightand I put on weight free depression 17pounds - - and with just over threeweeks on and I'm I'm 1510 now so babyit's a big drop for a short period timeand that's because of him you knowbecause I just think I thought screwthis I can't I can't keep killing myselfabsolutely but it's a property yeah I'dsay I'd say that was my defining momentI needed to do something to help my sonand to have my family well we're inhospital whilst all that stuff was goingon with transit bills coming in neededto pay and what people don't show you isyou know obviously you don't have thesupport you know the supports maybe lateIran after a while a little bit ofsupport here in there so it's charitablesupport you know if you get a casethrough negligence then you get supportlater on down the linebut even then you've got support wherepeople assume or you know you thoughtyou got proper support your support soit's actually like that last night youknow I had about four hours sleep whichis standard now most people don't getthat they think that's weird but that'sstandard for us and like we've got withthree carry Shaw so you know my wife andI cover in that you knowI got full-time care 24/7 well he'ssupposed to Apple we've never hadfull-time 24 not for seven years it'sjust impossible it's just we struggle toget people you know what you get it it'slike it's like yeah unfortunately ourhome has become a business in terms oflike it's a care home you know but youknow what in the last year he's beenreally stable so you know it's taking alot more there's less hospital visitsand stuff like that so you know he'sbeen really really stable and you knowhe sees making massive massive strides Imean he was declared blind he wasdeclared deathwe know he can see now he's using on Iguess how much he can see we don't knowI truly believe it's with the therapy wedid with that research we did withChristine Ramon which basically involvedputting a torch in the eyes andswitching on and off watch the peopleopen and grow he'd never met a flinch totalk through the light and he couldflinch and then so at night me and mywife throughout the night with takingturns and just through four hoursyou know switched it has to be tungstennot a blue like they can screw throughthe eyes er it has to be like thoseold-fashioned boulders you know yellowones and yeah and you just watch hisbody so he's like my sergeant is I Irecite which open and grow grew andclosing and and yeah off and theneventually after months of doing thatonce I think is my wife in the in thebathroom she was he wasn't sleep andseals up with him and she was just doingit bless her persevering on and she'sjust called me and I'm not military wentin there and the lights were all off Iput the lights on and I put the lightson because you had a torch and hechanged the hell Wowand she goes let's see he did it to youas well I'm like wow that's crazyso ya know it's mine it's mine so isthat and then again he was fed throughthe tube and we retrained him through alike a milk bottle he couldn't move hismouth off he couldn't in his braindamage basically he's brain damaged butand we used to squeeze the teat you knowand then move his bottom of his chinwith our finger just dissolved so gethim into a sort of like you know any nowhe takes it takes food from the weekendfrom Holly is itit's it's been hard it's been hard manbut you know perseverance what can I sayand that's what it is and I think it'sdifficult because obviously I can'trelate to anything that you've gonethrough in that situation but using thatas an example so my foster siblingssay pastor Simmons there were initiallyfoster siblings we went through specialguardianship so three of my siblingshave had similar what's gonna call itdisabilities growing up as well so forinstance the older one he's got a mentalage which is less than half his agewe've got one who's on the autisticspectrum yeah and when they came into mylife a little bit which is why Iresonate with your story a bit is itchange my whole perception of life andeverything that I used to mourn aboutthe silliest things now I'm grateful forand I know you know we all sending outquotes every single day and we're alltrying this positive beacon of light butI genuinely had them within my followersas well similar to yourself and it'snear when I'm there feeling crappy orfeeling sorry for myself because I don'tknow the car tires flat or somethingsomething daft perspective but thesekids are finding them much harder battlethem then I'm having to fight and yesit's commendable because I don't want tomake this about property because anyonethat wants to know my calling propertiesnew fantastic and you've got podcastsout for that and you can reach out tohim afterwards but this is more aboutyou as a person who's taken this use youchange the perception you've dealt withthe cars that you are handed it's notfair I can't explain only thing anyonecan explain why weird out certain cardsbut all we can do is play with them thebest way that you can a new kind of Iknow you very quickly scaled up afterthat and maybe that's because your backwas against the wall I suppose and yeahyou spy on me I mean there's a myfavorite quote and I promote it in oneof my groups could effusive entrepreneurit's called it's from Jack London andit's a it's basically about you knowplaying a bad hand well basically yeahand there's an ace of cards you know aceof hearts on the card you can you canalways play a bad hand well and sobasically don't even if you you can dofeels like on them on the outside of ityou might feel like you're losing it'show you play or how you react to thatthat counts so example is in propertyis I mean add a commercial toresidential big oneI'm Birmingham it's 15 rooms in the endand it was my my first commercial and mysecond project in property and I prettymuch jumped the gun a bit but we haveeverything complying at us literally andit was really stressful and at the sametime as going through moments or likeI've been for my own health careproblems I was going through cancerscare myself and there's a lot going onobviously my son and you know dealingwith deal certain builders oh my godnightmare and getting things wrong andit was just you know massive learning wehad contamination issues we had we hadall sorts of problems just cracking onbut you know again look at my my son onmy photo on my on my phone and I talkabout my son but I actually used my sonas a metaphor for my family yeah becausemy kids that my children Ellie Maria twogirls they're just as amazing Maria forinstance she's actually disabled as wellbut people don't know it and she's gotsome good Zubaz syndrome where middlepart of her head the brains not fullyformed and really rare and it can happenby being sheared and my bum or I've beenshitty stressed at birth and it can beit can happen from genes and allsomething that it's not our genesbecause we checked them and you know itbasically she's got autistic issues shecould go blind that she grows olderbecause the protein doesn't protect hereyes and all this kind of stuff but shecould have been worse I mean apparentlythey're not supposed to have balance andcan't walk but she she fires us all Imean she was she was born and had wasshaken her lace and Eliza liked she hadnystagmus and head wouldn't stop shakingso she's trained a brain to you know toplanets her eyes and and she's learnedyou know to keep straight and she she'stalking to normal school she's doingeverything she's you know she's onlyfour or five now and she's doing reallyreally well and I she's got littletantrum tantrums but not doesn't quiteunderstand certain stuff but I mean I'dsay but now she's still more behavedsome children I know that haven't gotnearly so I classI think I don't sort of put out therejust because she's not disabled reallyyou know he is on paper but she's not sofor me you know it's almost like my sonwas brought there to sort of like helpus deal with the shit that's to come ifthat makes sense my thought was likethat and we didn't have no problemsbefore and all the stuff for theproperty stuff I don't I think whatwould have hit was hard but goingthrough sheer hell you know when my sonreally sort of prepared us a lot for alot of stuff oh it came I understandthat but I think sometimes it's funnybecause I don't wish anyone to really gothrough pain it's not yeah yeah but thatmakes me feel sad when I know people aregoing through pain but sometimes I feelpeople need to experience some level ofadversity you know not to really findfocus and change their life as well andas much as I'm trying to tell peopledon't wait for that wake-up call forexample don't wait for to find out thatyour child may need extra care forexample or you've been hit with theillness get out there and do it now andI suppose it's easier said than donebecause if nobody's having to live thelife Safe Routes that you've lived forexample yeah well like my siblings theydon't really have that agency my it'sfrustrating I get frustrated because I'mlike we are so blessed like beyond meanseven what we're doing now being able tocommunicate how we eyes Isis anythingyeah absolutely I mean there's so muchhorrible stuff out there in the worldand it's just you know it's crazy to youknow to to not be grateful for whatwe've got and and and you know when yousee people that are grateful whenthey've got little and we've all beenthere we've all been them in some way inour minds we've been at the greatest oflows and it could be from spitting outwith your boyfriend or girlfriendit could be splitting up with you knowyou know a JV partner I don't know thepoint a point is you know at that pointit could be serious the most absolutelow you know you could have healthissues cancer issues family there's allsorts we've had that as well in thisperiod and that n is it's not great it'snot great but at the same time you knowI've always said one of my sayings islike you know we will never you knowwe'll neverI don't get my words up today well we'renever given a Golden Pathit was never we never no one promised usanything you know and so and so like ifyou want something you've got to go andget it you either fail or you successfall you know and if you're successfulgreat if you fail get up and do it againand keep trying that and even if you'vegot no money or anything there's alwaysaway you know and you know what worstcomes to the worst I'm dying fromsomething it's if you've got your mindin the right mind and you think you knowwhat I was conceived that's amazing Ilived a few years that's amazing if youget your mind in the right mind youstill be grateful even when you're dyingyou know I mean and we've seen otherwitness people like that you know yeah Ilove that mindset you just touched onsomething and make sure we add it at theend of the show you've got a group youjust say yeah I've got I've got a groupit's called the effusive entrepreneurokay so anything about stuff like theseentrepreneurs is in the name but aboutyour mindset as well well it's actuallyI do marketing I do it mine only amarketing training and that's like alittle group I actually put more effortin my closed group which is people in myarm in a number the thing for me is likeI literally had a VA that was helping meout on that side of thingsand she literally went AWOL live justrandomly went AWOL and I don't know whathappened I really don't know but she'sfrom Philippinesit just went AWOL so yeah looking at adecent VA at the moment I think I foundonewe'll see how it goes but yeah now Ineed to push push put more engagement inthat group from being honest with youokay yeah I know it's a great group I'vegot loads of people about I think about300 people in the group yeah I doengagement but not as much as I likeI've got a couple of other groups havegot one called it's magnetic marketingsystem is another group it's justbasically a really secret one groupwhere it's just the people that I trainarm property marketing getting leadsabout business and all that kind ofstuff an investment it's a small verysmall group at the moment I've got a fewpeople that you guys know some reallygreat people successful people right inthere and yeahso that's going really well gonna beopen that up again soon um yeah justI've got my event in London that'scausing a lot of bloody Wow yeah my sonright that's marketing again it's goingto be we've got we've got a Khadija theapprentice star she's gonna be therewe've got a YouTube expert you know he'shelped Samuel Leeds get from 50,000 to150,000 something a lot you know he'stalking it's all about marketing it'sgonna be it's gonna be awesome and canfit about 480 people at the MarriottHotel in London it's my event bigpressure on me it's only 16th and 17thof March this year prices start at 97pounds but you get actually what we'redoing now we get got this programactually that I'm affiliated to andwe're going to be offering people freeaccess to this program which is you knowpretty amazing yeah any other ticketprices which basically covers theircosts on the bottom ticket easily andbasically they could create landingpages you know can forgive the emailsystem within it so if you want to buildyour own website that's the andtemplates in there so they get that forfreeI haven't launched it yet but you'veheard it here first on our I'm justgonna say you were saying your nervouslyI'm sure you don't need any moremotivation than just to look at yourphone before that exactly exactly thatmay be right yeah okay absolutely that Isee it I mean I guess that thenervousness is the fact that you knowit's a it's a big thing you'd love tofill it out you know you care about itcare about I've got 15 speakers and manycome from abroad there's people like youknow top and marketers making 40 50grand a month you know it's crazy but afigure of guy theretheir partnership guys and and and youknow it's yeah it's it's this pressureyou know but it's great it's great nowI'm like you know I'm one of these likeyou know it's easy for me to go easycoming to go you know what you've got totry these things what does Rob Moore saydon't the risk you know basicallyabsolutely yeah yeah I'm surewell yeah I'm so it's all quite a fewtickets not enough but we've only justlaunched so you know it's a it'ssomething we pushing out there lookforward to it make sure you mediainformation isafter this and I'll send you a signaturenotes it's automated I said it put a lotof people it's good for you know coachesanyone wanting to launch an event anyonethat's in marketing wants to do a bitmore marketing on their property and getsome really great bubbly gonna get sometools for itfantastic okay brilliant so you actuallydoing like more stuff than I knew aboutyou I know I know of course he's afull-time dad and I thought that wouldbe taking up all your time but here youare making your own events andeverything so another question then soyou're successful in what you've done interms of the property you're doing agreat job with your children and yourfamily so what's the day like from themoment you wake up tell you got like 17or yeah I bet I amI wake up about four or five in themorning right sometimes going to bedlate unfortunately but it's not mychoice no that's not by choice that'sactually by habit now that's initiallyit wasn't by choice now if I'm beinghonest with you the reality is I couldsleep a little bit longer but I've justit's just become me now if I can getsleep and I accidently sleep throughthat because all exhausted or whateverand and actually doing this diet it'sreally helping me so if my son doesn'tdisturb me and doesn't wake up and thatyou know I could easily go into 7:00you know easy yeah well it's it's justum it's just nice you know I actuallyget a good rest when I go to like eventsyou know you know so but my schedule isbasically get about four or five I Ialways turn ask me why it's reallystrange but I always always comedownstairs I eat a bananarandal cake I'm not banana manmy first thing I do a banana I go to myson I give him a really big kiss becausehe's exhaust get ready has his dinnerand he's get ready for his he's likespecialist school a given big kiss thegirls are still in bed and my son's lotobviously awake and then I start lookingat my schedule for the day I neverfollow it just to meokay he's organized work just look at ityes I'm aware of it because what happenswhen I start creating a website orlanding page for someoneor final for someone to help convert youknow get people to event or throughFacebook ads or whatever I'm doing forpeople I end up like getting engrossedin the computer and some way it's gonnabe supposed to be an hour it ends upbeing longer so so setting time becausefor me doesn't and and what I do is Ijust make sure I do the stuff and and Imake sure I do it at whatever cost andso I do I literally do that and I tryand mix it with the children like I havethe computer here in the living room momore often on by my bed upstairs on mybed believe in our it's not the bestcomfortable thing to do here because ofthe reception's better there you know abillion you get piece if the kids arekind of well-behaved watching TV I liketo kind of come here in that but if it'stoo noisy I just can't I just can't overthis I've got like a an outbuilding aswell that I converted for a trainingsuite and I've got an office there thatneeds a little bit more finishing offbut it's pretty much burn so I'm gonnastart and can start utilizing that morejust gets a bit cold I've got the heatis on there in that but it's like you gowarm it up for like an hour or so beforeand today I can't be asked you know justa lot stay upstairs on my bed and justdo my work you know not a great thing todo but now I've got a proper PT involvedwith my exercise we're gonna make itthat part of my schedule something to dothis year try and get you know not justuse the lose the the fat actually getsphysically more stronger and you knowgetting care scheduling for that atleast I think for me there's anything onschedule that I want to do I'm pushingmy marketing efforts because a lotpeople while so I've been my propertyjourney you know I've had a few podcastsand interviews and so on I've not reallypromote it'll push what I what I trainedin you know design and marketing and andI've had a few people approached me overthe years from property world and it'slike I've helped them massively I'vehelped people like were there you knowthey might have a 399 ebook and I makethem 15k within a couple of months injust Facebook ads butby promoting a book you know and it'sit's I know I'm good at what I do but Idon'tand III this is my biggest flaw I don'tlike selling I don't like selling andI'm one of rob mores mentors and I'vesigned up to his thing cuz I got reallygood at helping people value theirselves helping them realize their worthand he said something recently he saidhe said something about when people sayoh I don't need to sell myself I don'tneed yeah I don't need to sell myselfpeople come to me that's me that's meman I hate to admit it it's like I get Iget work it just comes to me right butactually imagine what I'd do if I shouldstart promoting myself you know leave itso much on the table yeah I'm leaving somuch on the table almost I almost don'tgive a crap because I'm designing my ownlife you know I mean yeah at the sametime if I really want to get to my goalmy goal is actually to eventually beable to afford to buy an Ironman suitfor my son some sort of give him theindependence thought we know that'sgonna cost millions and if I want to getto that goal at that you know at thatpoint then I'm gonna have to do betterthan this sort of like you know just youknow happy happy that enough workscoming my way and people using me thatway I think I should be you knowprofessionalizing myself a little bitmore and and valuing myself more to thepoint that I should promote myself it'sjust that there's a nervousness ofpromoting yourself I mean I think you'veprobably seen it amongst the the theforums and that people kind of thinkyour guru rising yourself or you knowlike oh god who's another personthinking a minute I had a businessbefore hello you know these peoplebusiness before and what you do inbusiness is you promote a market that'swhat you're supposed to do you knowthey're almost I allow myself to beaffected by other people's judgmentswhich you can't do even myself I mean Ipromote myself a lot more recentlyespecially in the last 12 months interms of like my own brand and me as aperson that initially was the hardestthing I've ever had to do and the wholepoint of like you need to know yourWorth and stuffwe were spoken to me I thinking one ofmy first jobs when I was young as aproject manager and my manager at thetime because I came out of meyou know when they ask you what'sspecial about you give three things asan icebreaker I was like nothing I'mjust I'm just me yeah he told meafterwards because he he listed like afew things that he found special aboutme and long story short he was that ifyou don't blow your own trumpet nobodyelse is gonna in this world because ofthe way the moment is and I don't knowyou always resonated with me and itstill took me the best part of seveneight years later on to real stuff I'mthinking if I can just do this and notreally worry about the engagement andkind of just be like look I've got amessage here I want to share it it comesfrom the heart it's honest if youresonate with it fantastic if you don'tnot a problem so it was difficult for usbecause they used to send it off andyou're kind of looking at your phonethinking what's gonna happen and nowit's kind of like I just Lars a andpeople ask me that how did you writecontent and I say I don't like reallywrite contact a kind of document like mylife kind of things like you've donesomething a property I'll speak about itif it's health and fitness I'll speakabout it if it's like an interestingmeeting I'll just speak about it andhopefully I always try and give peoplesome sort of tangible yeah informationthat they can take away I think youshould be that because I didn't know youwere doing all these amazing crazywonderful things yeah a bit here inthere I do you know I mean I'll get myflap out on flipping social media justto really put myself available to theworld you know that I'm gonna loseweight and I say I wrote i put a visionI put watch this miraculous journey ofthis of me this is anyway and I've doneit in three weeks already there's noultimate accountabilityyou know ridicules you that you're gonnabe it's embarrassinga whole lot the source stuff but at thesame time you know for the first time inmy life we have tried different dietssince what happened to my son I put alot of weight on the first time in mylife I'm facing it head-on so yeah ohyou and look at my fat mass yeah I'mhereabsolutely even my addictions and I callthem addictions because that's all I'veever eat and then it's like I literallyget urges for this stuff isn't my portmy secrets of this diet is I'm facing itand I call it the no BS lifestyle dietokay basically I put Pringles fizzydrinks and I've got a packet of Haribooutside of my bedoh no Quinn okay right and I sleep withthem by the side of my bed and I wakethat with the word webecause I had to face my addictions yeahyeah and it's a bit like that inproperty when people would like go totraining training training trainingtraining training training trainingtraining training the good mentors weresaying you got to do you've got to justyou know and and I you know I'm a coursedrinking I'm proud of it I'm proud of itI'm a course drunk eating for two mainreasons number one it's always good evenif you already know the stuff to go overagain it's good to get reminders rightbut number two and this is the biggestonementors need Mentors even if you'rewhatever level you are and all mymentors have got mentors themselves youknow I mean Nick James is mentorshipI've been under song azuki's mentorshipI mean Rob Moore's mentorship you knowthe reality is and I I mentor otherpeople myself yeah and I truly believethat you you've got to really be what'sthe word humble enough to want to keeplearning absolutely and there's a lot ofpeople that are arrogant and feel likethe only courses well good for you happyyou do not everyone wants to work thatway I actually love people right I lovenetworking I love people but I lovegenuine people that I've got integritythey're true to them certainly I reallycan't stand people that fake I hate itand I can sense them a mile away and andI always when I talk about marketing'sbe true to yourself just be yourself andpeople attract to you and a good friendof ours Camilla does the sa stuff Iwould say so namecan we look oh yeah she's exactly greatand I mentor mentoring in marketing aswell but it's usually just started to befair and and you know she's a reallygreat she's doing massive should bereally successful and she's doing it byjust being herself she's been brilliantyou know and you know we all learn offeach other I've learned a lot of Simon'suchi I've learned a lot of Rob more I'velearned a lot of Nick James you knowI've got another mentor that is you knowdefinitely need him because he's likehe's like a sales machine he reallyknows he's you know he's good he's got aproduct called open with a closingdoesn't do its Leslie it's just like youknow you want my product is I'm worththis much and you know so this is whatit is and he's named my Elwell reallygreat guy amazing guy getting hired bysome really top guys at the momentbecause he's easy really is you knowlegend or what he does and so yeah Iwant to constantly improve I want to beI want to be my ultimate self before Idie and I know more than a lot of peopleknow life it's bloody short manit really is severely because of yourexperiences yeah absolutely yeahyeah I think you touch on quite a fewthings with your whole I'm lookingforward to it but I actually lose 42pounds in seven and a half weeks myselfso what I want to do boxing never go tothe gym and I was a think was about 24at the time and there was like sevenyear-olds two ten-year-olds very cheekylittle kids and I'd to go for a roomwith him so I told the kids because thenI was all the way and I could I couldn'trun more than like 200 meters and all Icould hear him was saying come on oldman come on Batman and all these kind oflike really literally me facing it but Itook I took it personally I was likeI'll get you back and then with a loveworking working my ass off basically forthe next two months it really reallyhelped and there is no magic formula toanything whether it's property whetherit's health and fitness whatever it isliterally you just got to go and do itand then if you you learn a little bityou pivot I hope that's called it on myuncle my own podcast called Mike dropsget okay I guess my drop is call mineyet close and I've interviewed a coupleof a top level you know we're talkingreally high level guys in America mycalls another guy called les Evans and11 there's Evan said a thing to me hesaid he said um he said people thinkthere's an easy route to success butit's all hard work even when it doesn'tlook that way and he said even if you'repeople just speak in the thing they'rejust speaking they're successful fromspeaking andand he's brilliant at that is amazingamazing me he's gonna you know he's he'sadvised people in the White House he'sdone all sorts he's just bum a lot theguys absolutely legend and he's hadbecome a really good friend of mine andand he was saying to me you know Iremember it was on the lines of like Iremember when you said pedal stallpeople like that look big and famous andhe became himself but in the end they'rejust flipping normal people and whatpeople don't understand is that you knowthey want to laugh you know they want toget on you know they don't to be usedand and and there's a lot of truth inthat and there and there's a lot ofpeople do assume they also die theyconnected that way back I used to givehim a lot of my time for free and in theend I ended up blocking him and this iswhere you learn about time for money andit wasn't yeah it was like you everyevery conversation about a heart I'vetough your love to have your lives loveto out Matt me yeah I'd live in aflipping shed and have my son healthyyou won't want my life trust me it's notgreat but you know it's not as great asyou think it is you know and and it wasjust constant constant constant constantlike you know like MV and it wasn't thenice he wasn't moving forward is that Iwant to get 200 houses within two yearsand he was like really unrealistic yeahall right 10x it I you know go for ityou know I hate that comment that wordclinics it got you know I love whatGrant Cardone is about I just hate the10x it that side of it not because Idon't believe in it I believe in itit's just that I see if thrown aroundtoo freely now and and like by peoplethat could potentially really screwtheir lives over if they do try to 10xit you know and where they feel that youknow they've been inspired and they canjust rush ahead you've got to get theeducation in I don't care what you knowyou got to build the foundations he'sgot to build the foundations and andthen and then to exit first you know andthen check out what you know check out aflavor for it and then check out what Xmight be you know I don't like the 2xyou know I'm not doing us a great pointI think we're in thesociety obviously with the wholeInstagram highlight reels and nobody'sreally posting stuff that is like theirbad days of supposed and I supposedindirectly I don't know how but when Iwas getting a bit of traction in likethe property groups it was because I wasjust Oakley admit all my mistakes upsomething I was just documenting againlike listen I am probably the worst guya property talking three years ago I wasa look I made this mistake I've madethis and people resonated with that soindirectly actually helped 9% of thetime it is lychee everyone showing theirbest date on a highlight reel and Ithink we get that thing and then peopleread the secret and it's all thiswishful thinking and it's like listen itis goes back to what you said earlier doit do it you've just got to face it anddo it just exactly I mean madness you'respot on and the crazy thing is is thatI've been exactly the same I've donepodcasts and I've been honest juststraight on you know I'll straight upwith out loud you didn't want to hear itwe didn't want to hear it I'm like youknow and and cut long story short thethe realities that they won't value inmy time but I wasn't violent valuing itI can't blame them it's actuallysomething that I get a trouble from frommy wife so I'm always trying to help asmany people as I can so I'm alwayshaving these one-hour coffees that goingto like one and a half hours orconversation 15 minutes or less yeah andthen at the end of its like I've got notime to spend with my wife for exampleyeah because I'm just trying to help butthen most of those people they'll comeback with pretty much the same kind ofquestions or concerns two months laterhaving done nothingyou're almost yourself and I think I'msimilar to you in that respect which isthere's some great points that you madedays that I need to start my new my timea little bit there yeah not so much Iknow I need to charge for example it'son the faith basis that is this personreally going to do it and what I'vestarted doing as of the last two days istaking calls on the way to the gym soI'm like you've got ten minutes with mefar away I'll kind of give youeverything I've got I know it's workingokay because it kills that time to thegym so yeah absolutely yeah it's noteating a weigh-in time that you which isvaluable time is valuable time time I'vesaid entire book emergency we have youknow in the lane if if if people don'tvalue your timemmm bug you you spell as I and why workwith people that don't value you they'rejust picking and sponging your brainbecause they can't be asked again spendthe money on the courses and theeducation and or go through the grit inthe action that you've gone through inthe pain that you've gone through theyjust want to just you know squeeze yoursponge brain and get all the bloody Evoout you know those people it doesn'tmake us a you know this is not a youknow I'm holy than now I'm perfect I Iknow my share you know this has justjust been honest with the situation youknow so I absolutely love helping peopleI really do it's just some people justdon't value your time enough so okaywe're gonna change gears a little bitwe've spoken about adversity which isone of the main drivers like in yourlife and I don't wish it on anyone to gothrough the same kind of stuff but weall go through something what I wouldask you though is a different questionis about fear so it's probably a commonquestion but I want to know what is yourbiggest fear but I want to stop and takeaway what I think he's gonna be yourfirst answer from doing some Daryl Browntactics here so you can't mention youryour children or your wife in thisscenario but what is your biggest fearas as yourself my biggest fear formyself is not accomplishing my dreamsokay and my dreams are actually yes theyare to be able to get enough money toafford certain things from my family andI'm not supposed to mention them but myactual my dreams are to actually besuccessful and proud enough to know thatyou know that boy in school that was atloss was crap had to have extraeducation was themedyou know classes dyslexic really smashedit regardless he's not I mean and and soyou know for me to start that wouldreally be probably my biggest fear stophim from for me I really I really wantto get aspire to inspire is what I wantto do right and the way you inspire isby doing great things and and thosegreat things could be I give a lot tocharity myself I donated just over fourthousandpounds Christmas do recently you knowand and before that I've donated loadsand even my book my little spot and thatI've written for my son all the all themoney from that including the cost ofmaking it which most people don't dothey has gone to different charities youknow everything wasn't a lot you knowbecause these costs of these profitscarry yeah yeah and even before thateven you know I've just constantly youknow every year given in some form tocharity and the point is this like it'snot because I'm you know I want to beseen as you know are what passive and uhand people that know with me will knowthis is true so I could be a propertymeet in and we're walking up the roadfor me laughter and I'll just givetwenty pounds of baby homeless man Idon't record it I don't you know butpeople that would mean no it yeah Idon't do it for you know I know inLondon wherever I am if I see someoneI'll donate and you know and I don'tcare if they're they look like they'redruggies well it's not at the end of theday I because I'm not gonna judge youknow they can do what the hell they wantwith ityou know I want to give if I've got ityou know and if it helps them it helpsthem I just get I don't need to promoteit or anything that but the reality isalthough ironically there's a promote inthis podcast estrangement but honest islike where we're and it's just merelyanswering your question you know my goalis to aspire to inspire to inspire andif I can do that for my kids and otherpeople and great you know and and if itmeans like you know giving when youhaven't even got it and I've done thatand and you know it's like then you knowyou do you leaving some sort of trail oflegacy wait wait people might notremember me you know but you knowsomeone might you know yeah I don't knowbut at the end of the day it's strange Ihaven't made haven't made it in in mymind a successful property developer ormarketing agency in my mind I've got along way to go but I'll also at the sametime I don't want to have a lot you knowI want to be comfortable I don't want tohave like the two hundred thousandliving rooms and whatacquiring to do well you know I reallydon't I don't envy people like that whenI see people doing well I'm like good onyou I'm yeah I really I never had thejealous I never I just truly think goodon you the ones I don't like are theones that do it and they're they'rehorrible assholes you know I mean thesepeople win don't they yeah yeah okayfantastic no I know that that makessense I think I'm very similar as wellin relation to what you saying there andjust on that analogy song I've had goingoff on a bit of a tangent here peoplewho are quite charitable but they'llnever give to somebody who maybe theyassume is gonna have alcohol and drugsor something and my philosophy hasalways been I mean growing up and theway my mom's always talking is just givewhatever you can give but and the baseis that maybe maybe your donation thatthey will just change that person'sperspective or life and providing you'renot just throwing it at home and maybeyou can just give it a try contact willhave a good day or something so I justgive him that lift that they need alljust to keep him going for another dayso I'd always urge people whatever youcan give this absolutely give but yeah Ican't imagine you being somebody's gonnabe taking a selfie while you're doingthat I mean and the truth is I should beyou know utilizing it for you know butat the same time it's it's not itdoesn't sit rightyou know it doesn't sit right so you'veheard the buzzer it's going off so whatI'm gonna do now is but Mike with threespaces for the next 60 seconds and he'sall I do basically whatever the firstanswer comes into your head please giveme that one and you ready mate I'm coolI'm ready okay we're gonna start inthree two oneokay the ability to fly or be invisiblefly money or fame fame singing ordancing singing Netflix our YouTubeYouTube Marvel or DC are Marvel easilywould you rather know how you were dyingor when you would i how love or moneylove books or movies i love booksactually if you could sit with oneperson in the world for an hour whowould it be I would love to sit withDonald Trump to figure out why the helllooking weird andgo ahead going on I just I'm justperplexed and also kind of yeah it's aweird onethat we interested yeah you're worse bea growing up fighters actually okay andfinally what is your biggest addictionmy biggest might what was my biggestaddiction was slight wrinkles and yeahwrinkles my biggest addiction at themoment is learning junkie for learningand just some Pringles because I'm aPringles fun as well what's yourfavorite cocktail sorry I don't get methinking the next one's on reflectionyeah we've spoken about this earlierwe've spoken about hindsight being awonderful thing how you can teach you toget to where you are quicker easier orwith less heartache for example butknowing what you know now and with yourlife experiences and obviously yourmindset now if you could go back to atime maybe when you were younger maybegoing through college or school and youcan just whisper something in your earknowing how life would pan out for youand just to kind of maybe motivate orinspire that young Michael what wouldyou say I would say you're able to doanything you put your mind to because Ireally believe growing up because I wastold it you know my teacher I didn'thave a good attention span and myteacher must teacher said to me ohyou're gonna end up as a glassblower shewas old fashioned herself and mostpeople didn't really kind of connectwith her if I'm being honest with youbut that really thought I thought whatthe hell you know kind of thing to saythat just because I you know and Iwasn't interested in her lessons I justwould and again it goes down to what weread in property marketing people couldbe connected you know whatever you do init's about attention and connectionright you've got to get the attention tobe noticed and you've got to connect soif you're going to get an investor tocome to you you've got to get theattention you've got to do that one wayor another and then you've got toconnect and you can only connect bybeing you because long term wise youknow it's a marriage you know it'ssimply that absolutely and it's theeasiest thing to do be yourself ratherthan trying be someone else off man donot have some music but I see people mygod and I just cringe and I know that itmakes me cringeI see people they've been II won't even touch into it too much butthere's people that mean there's aparticular person that's training thesame people when they're like they'refollowing the same moves and everythingin their acting the same as this personexactly in every way and it's a it'ssquiggly it's creepy and windy it is andthe problem with it is as well if you'recopying somebody else you're almostrelying on them to do something you knowthe few to follow see as a policy if youjust make your own journey and writeyour own story I've got one thing whereI've got respect for these people that'sall for helping them is they've alreadytaken a step at least they're gettingthemselves out of the shell and they dosomething but but seeing exact copiesit's just yourself yourself it's likehave you ever seen those live videoswhen they're sat there quietly for likeflipping five minutes I'm like I don'tlike it I just it's just great I'm likeI just talk shit for a bit I say topeople okay just talk shit wait topeople come on[Music]and that's not always like to ask myguess is if in 150 years time and youare no longer here but all that existsis a book and it's about your life andsomebody's walking past and they pick upthis book what would the blurb say andalso what would be the title of the bookwell already written it it's called mylittle spot on the globeit says embrace your struggle to findyour strength and pretty much what wetalked about today and and I it has asub heading saying unleash your lip in aspa and because we've all gotten in thispart and and what I mean by that it'snot a judgment thing on Spartans andwhile it's just the fact that you knowagainst the odds it's a metaphorit's against the odds they know they'regonna die but they're fighting all theycan yeah and that's the point at the endof the day we're all gonna freakin diebut let's just see what we can do youknow that's all we can do but you knowyou know the end of a that's why I don'tmind helping people as much as I canbecause that you know any bit of helpyou get out there is whatnice absolutely Granta our future looksalready out yes my little spy Amazonyeah best seller internationalbestseller there you go is it oh wowyeah i 100% put that in the bottom ofand the show notes as well alright it'sactually the first time somebody'salready answered my question and done myquestion but what I always like to askpeople is there is somewhere they cancontact you now I know you're doingamazing things all over the world innetworking marketing property you're anauthor as well there's one place and I'mjust gonna limit it to one but I willobviously add everything else afterwardswhat is the number one place that you'dprefer base for Facebook Facebook I'm 5mI'm maxed out sorry guys so just listenI've got another group page good MichaelV Calais Paris just a baby bear I'd bethere and start using it more nowbecause I'm that's my that's my ownthat's my professional page so just wantthem on to Michael V or try and messageme on on on my one at least and I'm nottry and connect and brilliantly it'sbeen a absolute pleasure like I said atthe beginning I reached out to you longtime we don't know yeah I love yourstory you know that this is fascinatingpromise there's live calls on them youall get busy I haven't managed toreconnect there so and thank you foryour time today you've been doingawesome things as well okay it's good tosee and again like you know we reach outto people that we connect with and likeand so on and you know obviouslyresponded back to you because I knowlike and trust okay you know it worksthe same way you know yeah that's how Isee it and and that's how that's howrelationships grow that's how investorsget involved that's how all this stuffhappens you know it's it's all aboutthat you know so absolutely absolutelyspinning it's been an absolute pleasureand well as well thanks for listeningand remember this podcast is absolutelyfree so all we ask in return is for youto share 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Find your voice - Episode 8 - Memoirs of an Anxious Mind - Cos KyriacouTagline: "To HIM its just a game, playing with my mind. An easy target for HIM, he always seems to find. He always seems to be there to put me in my place, lurking and scheming like a puff of smoke up in my face..."Cos is a talented Poet who has found his voice by utilising the power poetry in speaking about his depression and anxiety. Riddled with many trials and tribulations growing up Cos has battled with suicidal thoughts from time to time.Now determined to conquer his mindset working on his health, thoughts and gifts he is looking to help those struggling with mental health illness more.Alongside this, Cos is also a qualified Accountant and Personal Trainer and this is just some of his hidden talents. He kindly shares one of his poems, HIM, in this podcast and I am sure once you hear this you will follow him over on his instagram channel to learn more about him and hear so many more powerful poems.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cmklifestyle/ (Personal)Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindfullfitness/ (Movement#JustDeuIt & #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so like many of myguests I get really really passionateand excited to try and support them andI suppose that's the beautiful thingabout this show because it's real peopledoing real things just like me and youI'm really trying to make a differenceand today's guest is no differenttoday's guest goes by the name of Kosand I do apologize in advance but Ican't pronounce their surname but you'regoing to get all of that in the shownotes but what's important about thisindividual is what they've been throughin their life and I suppose even moreimportant than that is how they'vetackled their adversity they've tackledtheir mental health their depressiontheir feelings of suicide and reallycome out on the other side and now whatthey're doing is making an impact tohelp other people and that's just mykind of person and I'm sure it'sprobably your kind of person too so Ithink it's important that rather thanyou listen to me whoo yes once again Ihave a cold I think that's gonna be atheme of this show let's jump straightinto this interviewokay so firstly I just want to thankcause for coming on to the show todayand for all you listeners who are heresupporting our movement so my friend howyou doing today good morning I'm goodnot as early as you Baba fantastic youlike to hear you well we've had a bit oftechnical issues and it is slightlyearlier than normal so excuse our voicescool so you've heard the introductionI've explained cause his story but whatI want to know well I think what thelisteners want to know is more aboutyourself from you and I think it'simportant that they can get tounderstand your story youjourney and how you basically progressthrough life and ended up where you aretoday so if you wouldn't mind my friendif you could just give us a rundownbasically of the life of cause the lifeof course easily hey I think it's bestto start where I am now and then kind ofgo through how I got here so I'm aqualified charted accountant soundsriveting ah no he says exciting as itsoundswhoo guys recently qualified in Decemberand in the new year I've gone part timeto kind of tramp pursue my own endeavorsin life so starting from the beginning Iwas stopped when I was born because I'mquite old now or in my own eyes I'm oldbut I don't like to use the word sufferbut I've had anxiety my whole life andnow been listening to your your showshaven't they been amazing by the way Iappreciate that thank you just listen toyour different guests you know strugglesthey've had to go through and obstaclesthey face for me I've always felt itdifficult to kind of ask for helpbecause I've had I've had such a goodlife in something upbringingand the situation I'm in I've hadamazing parents I've never had to askfor anything not that was slow in anysense but I was given everything Ineeded clothes water the essentials andthat but from an early age I just felt Iwas different kind of like I had thesevoices in my head I used to think it wasit was good it was someone else I reallydon't know what it was and I find thiswent through life with it at school Inever really felt like I fit in whereason the outside poori it probably seemedlike I was that guy good at his workgone along with people but I kind ofquiz my anxieties I threw myself into mywork so I think into studying into beingthe best I can in that sense so I justdidn't feel comfortable socializing Ididn't feel comfort with myself and thensaw some much easier CSIS etc I left forsix oneI changed sixth one then and that's whenI started to spiral a bit looking backnow it's funny because I can see all mycatalysts I can see why I feel the way Ididwhere is at the time I just had no ideawhat's going on I'm just in my own mindso for me what gets me a look is changeand uncertainty and new things andespecially socializing in in newenvironments so change into a new sixthform with people I didn't know newsubjects just threw me off completelyand it might sound stupid some peoplebecause this is such a simple thing butfor me the biggest fact thing anyone canhandle is their own mind and that'ssomething I've always struggled with yesI might not have had big thermal in mylife a lot of people have but a lot ofpeople live in with their own minds andtry about that every day and people needto appreciate thatit is hard for a lot of people mm-hmm soyeah went to I went to six-month pickingup from then and firstly was extremelyhard for meI was probably on the debts ofdepression where it's back then I thinkwe know what the pressure was so Ididn't really see as that I just felt itwas me so my family helped me through alot I got through a levels my secondyear beta it was great because I wasmore comfortable in my environment andthen applied for university got goodgrades and got into UCL to studyeconomics and I think at UCL was thefirst time I really but I understandwhat the pressure was I start to gothrough it so I'm still living at hometraveling to London every day and justdidn't feel like I fit in they're alwayscomparing myself to others that I wasn'tgood enough to be there and then Istarted getting suicidal food so I standon train tracks and my mind we kill himto jump and yeah I in my mind I've - Iknow myself cuz I've never had thosethoughts before and I'm in the past I'venever when I've heard people who commitsuicide or taken her own life I've neverunderstood it but in that moment and nowI've been through it that's the onlyplace you see confort is by not beinghere not being with your mindWow is that is that kind of a thing thatyou've you've convinced yourself that itwould just be better off yeah a hundredpercent it's like you explore differentoptions so when I start to feel anxiousor when I'm gonna extremely the prostateI start to looklook at the fact that across the greenon the other side so I was at UCO and Iwas saying to my momI'm gonna quit I'm just gonna get jobI'm gonna apply to a different Union I'mgonna do this I'm gonna do that I alwaystry and wash one away because then allthat anxiety all that all that hurt willbe gone and over you place intosomething new so that's the first time Istarted seeing a counselor Britt at UCoh and while I was at UCL I write toanother university again seeing that thegrass is green on the other side justwant to get out of it so I startedstudying for my exams at UCL it's aboutApril time and then I've gotconfirmation that I was given anotherplace at Royal Holloway University I'vebeen sorry okay and I thought to myselfyou know what it's not worth the toiletturn won't burn through I'd literallywrite vice for all my exams the weekly Iwas gonna sit there but I decided that'sit I'm not sitting them because I justwant this this kind of cloud to be overso I quit or I gave up UCL andstraightaway I just felt that count hasbeen liftedI felt so good then I was like you knowwhat this is what I need like my nextuniversity is gonna be amazing I'm gonnafind so yeah that summer was great andthen September moved up to roll away tostop my new course and in the same thingstarted comparing myself to others newsituation a lot of social anxiety Ididn't go out a lot in my first year andlike I'd hear people in the kitchendrinking and stuff and I just be in myroomjust with my own thoughts Wow and I'mglad today I have amazing friends andamazing flat I'm still in touch with andthat's friends with your good may aswellfears off so she helped me through a loteven if she doesn't know it and bygetting my first year of uni I wasthinking I need to apply to another uniit's gonna be better on the other side Ineed to take my course something to dothis I applied for a job and luckily youknow I was convinced to stay I lost myfirst year went on to the second yearand that is the biggest term like mylife is the second year I just spiraledout of control just in myselfamong thoughts just not being able tocall or be in social situations withpeople my first day my room up my mum mysister would always come and visit me tomake sure I was okay because they wereextremely worried about me of courselike I used to lock myself in my roomthen and research how to end my lifebecause it's the only way I can see anend to it and I knew how wrong that thatwas and the the only thing that stoppedme from ever doing it then was yes myfamily like what we do to them but I'mactually getting emotional saying thissorry man please take your timebut yeah the most it's really silly butthe thing that stopped me was I wouldn'tend my life right and my parent wouldhave to look after me and like her in astate where I think people looking aftermyself yeah sorry man no no I can onlyimagine what what you're going throughbecause my level of desire is nothingcompared to your level of depression andwe spoke briefly before we had thisinterview that you know it took the best8 years of my mom's life away and Ithink unless you live with somebodywho's going through or somebody it's sodifficult because from the surface Imean you look at your Instagram you lookat yeah the way the way you conductyourself your poetry which you're goinglater on in the interview it's just likethis kind of depression you know youjust know isn't no more that is itnormally is somebody you can relate tobut it's it's amazing how some it's notsomething so simple but something likeyour mind can just completely just yetturn your world upside down and it's oneof my favorite quotes ever and Iprobably say to myself at least six orseven times a week not because I do itbut because it just helps with thingsinto perspective and it's comparison isthe thief of joy you said that you hadins ie from a very young age and I meanI'm 32 now and I'm kind of peeling backthe onion layers using an analogy ofwhen I started getting anxiety and Ithink yes having reflected and lookingback at myself I'm able to find certainmoments in my life like when I was sixor seven I was atshit I was actually quite anxious thenand then maybe that's really kind ofsnowboard have you been able to in yourcurrent situation not be able to lookback and find these key triggers or haveyou always just known yourself to beanxious no a hundred percent if I knewone who I knew now about myself I couldhave controlled a lot of what happenedto me and not let it happencould you elaborate so my anxieties mycatalysts are changed like newsituations where that's a new job newUniversity a new subject I'm studyinguncertainty so I'm a perfectionist as Isaid before I used to put myself into mywork and just try and excel at that soif I'm not the best at something I startto get anxious might sound stupid butthat's just the way I am so it's notstupidso you've always had this in psyche yeahand now you knowing what you know nowyou've said you can obviously look backand think I could have changed stuffwhat kind of things I mean I'm thinkingpractical things here for somebody who'smaybe a little bit younger thanourselves who's going through thismoment they're just constantly anxioushave changed like yourself and being inthese kind of environments what wouldyou kind of say to them now the onenumber one thing does has helped me themost about anything is talking about itso talking about how you feel because Iwould often just keep everything balledup inside me and whereas today I'm openas hell honesty oh are you guys to swearon this podcast may you can do whateveryou want thank fuck for that that's finesome people might not like that but youknow sometimes it's one of the only waysyou can express it sometimes one or twoepisodes myself sonot a problem mate so yes second year ofuniversity extremely down I went to sawa doctor there who prescribed me afterdepressants and I'm back then I hadnever taken a tablet in my life not evena paracetamol just nothing I was justagainst putting foreign substances in mybody so I got prescribed down to theirpresence I went and got them but I didnot take them and I came back home forChristmas and I was just so so bad oneday my dad leave she just got me in thecar drove me off the sorry and when hemom didn't say hello to any of myhousematesjust went in my drawer guys I depresswe drove all the way back home to NorthLondon and I started taking them andthey helped me massively they're therethey're a tool for helping you they'renot a magic pill that's gonna makeeverything go away could you have to putyou have to put other things in yourlife that's gonna help you get throughbut they definitely help just balanceout the chemicals in your brain and theway you think think mm-hmm and so Istarted taking them must I've seen atherapist as well and then I startedgoing to the gym again so I was injuredat the time I got really depressed theymy substitute but I had a fun injuryokay that's unique yeah so I couldn'treally lift weights and so as soon asthat healed in the new year that's likea gym again I started feeling good Istopped them seeing my therapist eventhough he advised me to carry on and Ifinished my second year third year wasgreat really enjoyed it when I almost Ihad finished uni over to 1/2 percent offat first which again I beat myself upagain about don't beat yourself up todayI by the time I was in tears thatliterally so fun and and then yeahapplied for a job took me eight monthsto get a job and I had no idea what todo with my life was planned foreverything in anythink mmmgot over Owen into accountancy and thenstart here and then things that Ispiralling down again so and evenprobably even deeper depression I had inmy second year and the extreme thatsuicidal thoughts I just didn't knowwhat I want to do with my lifeespecially working full-time andstudying and studying for something youdidn't you didn't really want like Ididn't know if I wanted to be anaccountant up in all this effort into itwhat am i what am i giving to otherpeople what I'm given to the world bybeing an accountantthat's just how and I just didn't see medoing anything else so I I said to mymom not gonna quit and the Khan teachI'm gonna quit and do this and quit anddo that and my mom bless her she she'shelping me a lot but I know howfrustrating it is she understands fullyjohnstad 3 but I know how frustrating isto try and help someone who nothingseems to help themselves and you can seethe same things happening again in termsyou wanted to just change again to a newsituationso I stopped taking as the presents whenI was at Union swell after that Sigmaperiod and I was at work I cited themagain I'm slicing the therapist againand a major thing that helped me getthrough if I did not do this I would nothave qualified to try to count and I maynot be alive today I'm being honest withyou I told him what I told myself aboutmy depression so I went spokes inmanagers I went spoke the partners inthe firm and they were so so good aboutit honestlythat's brilliant like they helped memassively they put things in place forme and I felt I could go and talk topeople about it more mm-hm so yeah itwas tough as hell and I qualified aboutthis December just gone so I'm currentlyin the process of coming up mad for thepresents fantasticI'll be off them in about two weeks I'vedefinitely felt some side effects butthey start to wear off and I'm feelinggood about life now and the mostimportant thing about anything thatbeing through mum I don't like to usethe word happy up being through it I'mkind of I'm glad for which taught me andso six months ago if I was doing thispodcast review I know I was in tears alittle bit before but I would not beable to talk about this with withanybody whereas now I don't give a fuckI put it on Instagram I talk abouttrying to speaking about their feelingsespecially especially as a man today inthe society there's so much manypressures a lot of stance what about 100percent mate it's a it's an ego maybesurprise thing I don't know what it iswith guys we don't realize thatvulnerability is actually a truestrength and I spoke about thispreviously again I'd recommend if youcan listen to Lewis Howes I think he'sgot a book the mask of masculinity andit's a fantastic book because I think asguys you're doing something there thatis something that we don't do and I'mnot stereotyping it but how many of usreally talk about stuff when we feel ohbecause it's a bravado thing isn't it wecan't show weakness we can't show thatwe're feeling down or low and I thinkthe reason I was really interested ingetting you on this show is or becauseyou've touched on something there so wespoke about the social enterprise thatI'm working on with mywe're going to get back to mental healthand awareness the first question askedthough was what do you want like if weraise awareness is it money is it likematerialistic things what kind of thingswould make you guys feel better and shesays somebody should talk to you andthat brings us to the whole thing thatwe spoke about prior to this episode isI'm gonna open up just centers I'm gonnahire them for the day get people who aregoing through it people who haveovercome it to just maybe talk about itand I know that might sound like such asimple thing from the outside but you'vetouched on it now as wellthe world needs to speak it's thesimplest of things look us I say toeveryone I don't see anxiety as anillness this is my this is my personalopinion yeah everyone has anxiety butjust different levels of a spectrumdepression is the lowest of the low thusthat that's an illness that's somethingyou can you need to case of our but thedifference between me and the guyssitting next to me the only differencebetween us is I can talk about it now Italk about it that's the only differencethe guy still has anxiety 100% differentmaybe different levels different aspectsin his life but he just doesn't talkabout it that's the difference and bytalking about it which you've been doingmore openly now and some of it's throughyour poetry is all which is fantastic aswell have you genuinely seen like ashift in like your overall moods and didthe severity of your laws as well Oh100% like if I have a load they know ifI don't know they in the past I comehome and I keep all my stuff where it'sI come home now and thank what my sisteris my rock honestly I would not behonestly hands-down I would not be aliveabout her today and she has she's notbeen through depressiontouchwood and thank God but even so ashard it was for her to help me she wasjust there to listen even if she didn'tunderstand she was just there to listenand put small things in place to me forme and so yeah I remember this one timeat university when I was when I was homefor that Christmas when I was really badI had an essay to write and I told her Ijust can't do it I'm gonna quit but sheliterally sat down with me and made mewrite for five minutes at a time when wego and have a break and come back onwrite for five minutes so that's amazingyeah she's been amazing and you'refortunateto have that because there's so manypeople out there you may not necessarilyhave that kind of support network aswell yeah because like you've touched onit's an illness and it's because it'snot physical because it's not like yourthumb for example or yeah you knowsomebody's leg broken or something it'sit's internal and again because peoplearen't speaking what we're doing iswe're masking everything with it with itwith a smile or Facebook post orInstagram post but deep down we'verarely know what somebody's goingthrough exactly it's just scary and Ithink I think living with it is scary soI can only imagine what you're goingthrough so again I just want to saythank you for for really sharing thestory no problem I just want to say umthank what I've not been in the pressdate for about two and a half years nowyes I live with anxiety but I am knowingthat press date and I'm I will fight mymy utmost not to go back there and helpanyone else to come out absolutely andI'm not I'm not in a position to giveyou any advice having not been throughwhat you've been through but yeah thenthere's a simple quote we use it for ourfor our business that me or mom aregoing to start it's okay not to be okayyeah I don't know it sounds simple butit's so important that we understandthat because myself I mean I don'tsuffer with depression but I will wakeup on it on a Monday or a Tuesday itcould be any day of the week and I willbe in an absolute funk and I'm like whydo I feel like shit like nothing's gonewrong like you know my health is they'remy wife's happy my mom's finethere's nothing actually happened inthat day I've slept well but then youknow what you just you just feel reallylow and you got like no motivation andstuff and I used to beat myself up aboutthat because I just think I've got somuch stuff to do I need to change theworld I need to do this at least getmyself up now it's kind of like Iliterally say that quote to myself it'sokay not to be okay and all I'll do ison that particular day or do stuff likeI'll go to the gym I'll try and keep mynutrition as well as possible becauseobviously that helps your mind andeverything I try and speak with my wifeor my brother or my mom in the day justto kind of cheer me up and I might stillbe in a bit of a funk to the end of theday but the next day it all washes overrather than me dwelling on it and thenhating myself like throughout the weekthat kind of makes sense so it'sfantastic that it's been like two and ahalf years and there for yourself comingoff it but if you ever do find yourselfperhaps going a bit lower just knowthat listen mate you've come out of itso many times yeah kicking and fightingyou're doing great that it will be okayand you'll be alright you next thing Iappreciate I know and and such know whatyou said I've learned that saw so ondays from the rule of and you you won'tknow why but you just have to take sometime out for yourself and on those dayseven today I've made wake up and I mightfeel a bit low I know I know deep downthere is something causing that maybenot the day before maybe not on that daybut a week my ass something I didn'ttackle where it was on my to-do listwhich is still bugging me yeah orsomeone I didn't talk to or someone Isaid something to which is bugging mebugging me now and why I feel low so Ipersonally I think there's always a rootcause somewhere it's not always easy tofindmmm there's always something that'sthat's led you to feel that way I thinkyou're right there somebody elsementioned this actually I think it wason Episode three and it's about findingthat that deep meaning and I thinkbecause we're so most of us wake up inthe world whatever is on our phone or Iemail a job it will it will dictate ourdate we very rarely get time to sit backand actually reflect upon our life ourcircumstances in our situations and Ithink if we could do that probably haveless of those days because it isprobably a cumulative effect of thingspropping up and then you've got thislevel of like I don't know burden oranxiety or something that will kind ofjust hit you on one day and you'resitting there thinking what's going onhere but it's actually like you saidpossibly something that's that'shappened a few days ago that's powerfulso the funny thing is it's like there'sno like magic secret is there they'renot I mean if there was then the worldwouldn't struggle a bit like Fitnessyeah if we had the magic pill nobodywould be obese and it's kind of findingI suppose did you touched on it earlierhis voice you've got this toolkit nowyes the the antidepressant tablets helpyou control the chemical imbalancethat's going on but you've also got atoolkit of stuff that you've probablyhad through your therapist yeah thosewho probably gives you different toolsthat you can literally bring out as andwhen you need them because that's kindof how my mom explains it as well ahundred percent like I'm kind ofreinvent the tools they gave me to workfor meso something that I do massively when Ifeel extremely anxious I don't if you'veseen on my Instagram or that bar splitpage into and I'm one on one side Iwrite my negative feelings and emotionsand on the other side I write a healthypoint of view and it just helps meconceptualize how I'm feeling it kind ofbrings you out of my brain onto paperand kind of I can actually write down adifferent way of or view in it mmm yeahyour Instagram is brilliant and you'regonna get the oddest friend requests bythe way because I've asked my mom tofollow your Instagram because some ofyour stuff is like I can't get some ofit like I get like 80% of it send mebecause I've lived with my mom my momwas like my best well she is my bestfriend and and I'll sin what he's donelike taken away from her life so it'skind of I know that if she can read yourmessages and listen to your poetry Imean you know huh no gtv sorry yourstories your Instagram stories it willhelp and it resonate with her so yeahI'm obviously gonna put all the linksfor the listeners as well to know yoursocial medias at the end of it because Ithink it's really important that you'veseen someone who's yeah you you're notfully 100% over it at the minute butyou're dealing with it and you'redealing with it in the best way and eachtime you're getting better betterequipped and hopefully somebody who'sprobably earlier down the journey theycan benefit from yourself and this isthe whole point of this podcast is thatthey can learn from your your experienceof suppose and hopefully change theirlife for the better sooner exactlythat's that's the thing like I am NOTI'm not perfect I'm not free to stormyou never will because life justfrustrate you all the time I've come andbut the only thing I can do is just tryand help people through how I try tohelp myselfmmm and you are so yeah just try and beas real as I can on Instagram you knowlet people know how much it days becauseInstagram is a is a fake world really itisn't it's a highlight reel is which iswhy I appreciate like your content sokeep that going buddy I'm gonna switchthe pace a little bit now so I know someof the stuff that you do on a dailybasis but I think it's important for thelisteners who have heard about yourstory to understand what your dailyroutine is like so I'm a big bigbeliever that we are the results of thethoughts we tell ourselves and reallyhabits and so what's your daily routinefrom the moment you wake up to themoment you go to sleep well or every dayis different and I'm not gonna I can'tlie to you hmmI don't have a daily routine I'm stilltrying to work out myself in terms of Iknow what what would work well for mebut I haven't put it in place so I'velistened to one of your podcast one ofyour early ones about the guy who usedthe miracle morning that's right yeahchin very good friend yeah I knew thatwas a great podcast by the way thank youso yeah I bet the miracle morning thingwas last year and I started putting alot of things into practice in themorning not felt great and but thenexams came around again from my accountsand I just fell off it well I havecertain things I do during a week ratherthan a daily routine a daily routine issomething I'm working on in 2019 okay Ineed to incorporate meditation I need toincorporate leaving my phone out of myroom in the end of the day because thatjust adds to anxiety mm-hmm so thingsthat I do on a weekly basis to try andhelp me and relieve my stress is numberone you probably see a lot on InstagramI love my Costa Coffee yeah I love goingthere by myself taking a book readingmaybe writing some poetry just sittingthere watching the world and just beingcomfortable in my own thoughts I love myalone time now and another big thingdaily is Jim obviously so I usuallythrough that after work and it literallyjust puts me in a difference day ofnight it's almost like meditationabsolutely almost like meditation andyou're just there with your own thoughtsmusic in or not and you're justconcentrating on pushing the way upyou're not thinking about your pastdecisions you made you not think aboutthe future you're just in that momentthere and then so that helps memassively another daily routine mealprep obviously every morning but yeahI'm I'm still learning I'm stilllearning about routines and I will haveit together soon but like you've toucheddown there even myself my routinechanges from like year to year becauseyou always you're almost tweaking it soI've done the whole waking up at 4:00a.m. and then working my ass offbut then what would happen is at twoo'clock in the afternoon you not crashand let's sleep for like an hour and ahalf because I'm absolutely knackered sothen I was like this is pointless and sothen I mixed it up and now it's likeI'll wake up at 6 or 7 it depends onbasing my day so if you'll get an earlypodcast or I forgot like an investormedium or something like that then I'lltweak it but generally speaking I don'treally care what time I wake up becauseI believe it's what you do in the daybut you've got some great habits inthere like like the gym the meal prep Imean that you're feeding your bodyyou're feeding your mind there so it'sabout utilizing your time and takingchunks out of the day where you canreally be productive in terms ofwhatever your end goal is and a greatbook that I've read that is gonna helpme put that my favorite Wiens practiceis called the room of the rhythm of lifeby Matthew Kelly the rhythm of life okso I know you you follow my mindfulfitness page yeah yeah I do I'verecently just started following thatyeahthat's that's in the making and mytherefore mindful fitness is stemmingoff that book really so what walks aboutin that book is you have essential meansin life to survive so you have you haveoxygen you have a young Ward so you needthose things or you will diebut what people often neglect is theirlegitimate needs and there's four ofthese and we collect them because we'retoo busy day today which is sofast-paced in our lives and but thosefour needs our physical needs sonutrition and exercise emotional needswhich is relationships with people wherethat's going to get coffee with a friendtalking someone haven't talked in a longtime then you have your spiritual needsa bit harder to define for me it's justbeing being comfortable yourselfspending some alone time with throughmeditation going for a walk in natureand the fourth one is intellectual needswhich is knowledge and learning newthings and we often neglect a lot ofthose and one trying to do is encompassthose in my life and try and help peopleencompass those in this because when oneof those things are off that's when youranxiety will spike yeah yeah that's sointeresting that's powerful I'm gonnaI'm gonna attach that book actually therhythm of life by Matthew Kelly you saidyeah yes brilliant Kay I'll add that toobviously you're you've got to Instagrampages as well would you at the bottom soI'll have a look at that I appreciatethat buddy thank you look into thatfantastic okay sothe next question is about adversity andwhat I want you to do is if you could goback in time and think of a time thatyou faced great adversity but youpersevered through it so just oneparticular time and I want you toexplain how you won obviously theadversity to how you got through it andthree what are the lessons that youtaught you at the end of it oh JesusChristget your thinking cap on okay my figuredyou know you know I said to you beforethis podcast you sent me the questionsin that and I was gonna happen littleread about them you haven't read all ofyou know what last night yeah I upgradedmy iPhone on Saturday and it deletewhatsapp conversations lost by a 10o'clock and I was like sheets messagesjust suck up do it which is why I thinkthis episode so far is so intriguingfascinating because everything you'resaying is if you know it's not youhaven't scripted it out it's literallyjust you speaking from the heart so Ialways find that more authentic thereason I do give the questions thatbefore is just because some peoplesuffer with is ie exactly okay well youhear anyway the question has been askedjust have a have a few moments again anydead time and stuff I can always edit ithow so I'll probably cost me becauselike a particular situational momentbecause there just been so many my lifeand I've had to come out of wellprobably my latest one is justqualifying as a child accountant loadsof adversity faced there whether it waswork just not seeing myself was goodenough in septal workout producing theknowledge that I have and just comparingmyself to others that within my firmsort of thing and yet having to go backon antidepressants was a big blow for meit helped me massively enough if anyoneis taken out to the presence there'sabsolutely nothing against them I was ona about 20 milligrams a citalopram ifany of you listeners know just stop givethem the information and I've been onthat for about three years since I likemy jobthere's no comment and slowly slowly Iwas prescribedten just before Christmas so 10milligrams taking one every day for twoweeks and then I take one every otherdayfor two weeks and now I'm in a processof just taking two tablets a week forthe next two weeks and I'll be off themand yes I defects for anyone gran outthere there are massive side effects soI did feel a lot more rumination comeinto play so just kin stuff very a lotmore emotional and very snappy er peopleclose to me I love my family so Iapologise to them on here I'm sure Iunderstandyeah and very very tired and lethargicbut now honestly I feel amazing honestlyI really do feel good brilliant mateokay so the next question it's we'regoing to get to happiest if I show youso today it's a memory but but the nextquestion is what is your biggest fear mybiggest fear is probably going back intoa depressed state massively that's mybiggest fearand the fear of that I think helps mekeep keep out of it and is that throughyour daily discipline like the stuffthat you doing the stuff you you'resaying to yourself 100% like things Isay to myself just be more open andtalking now and actually feeling like Ihave something comments to pursue like Ihonestly believe I've been through whatI've been through for a reason aseveryone will probably say but I'm onthis earth not not to be an accountantlike I love my job and I love the peopleI work with but my true calling is justto help people help themselvesjust bring me talking about experiencesand everyone can do that and you will doyou helping me and I've gone through itmyself even just some of the stuff yousay you know it's making so much moresense but we are a result of the thingswe tell ourselves then just on thatpoint I think that's really importantit's something I'm trying to get my momand anyone on all going through thatsimilar situation to do as well becausea very very quick example a little bitabout myself is yeah suffering withanxiety and be shy I've always basicallywalked looking at the floor kind of likewith a hunchback if you can kind ofimagine that so my hands in my pocketand I've never really making eye contactwith anyone and I'm just kind of walkingand I remember recently I think it wasabout two weeks ago we went for somefood and I saidmy friends I hadn't seen for about sixmonths and he goes have you gottentaller and I was like what like pubertywhen a long time ago me and he was likeno you've gotta be like taller and I waslike well I've always been this tall soI'm like I'm just six foot eight sixfoot and I was kind of like just thesame height as in and you kind ofshocked and what I realized was so I'vebeen doing like affirmations and tellingmyself stories every single morning ispart of my morning ritual and one of thethings is I am confident I am no longershy I am and I would say well theseempowering words to myself and withoutrealizing it without even thinking aboutit my physical body had changed which Ijust find fascinating that's somebodywho I've known for like the best part of16 years had come up to miss it manyou've just grown a few inches but it'sbecause my demeanors changed now mychest is proud and that there's no levelof arrogance or anything in that it'sjust I'm just confident knowing myselfand I'm not this shy anxious person whoscared the world or what people will sayabout me I'm comfortable in my own skinand the other thing about you is you'regoing to the gym and you're gettingbigger so that's probably right myfoodstuffs I do try and eat outbrilliant so we spoke about your fearwhat is your motivation then what keepsyou going even on the days when you'rein a funk for example lucky gentlemanwhat keeps me going is knowing I'm herefor a bigger reason than myself mmmdeep down when I still help him myfamily around me helping friends helpingpeople I don't even know and that reachout to me not try not good as much as Ican but just believed I found somethingcaught truly believing and anyone outthere like I know how hard it is to notknow your purpose it like be being a jobor be a plan for job in a union not knowwhat what a fuck you want to do of yourlifeyeah and it doesn't matter how would youget it I believe one day we'll justspark like if you asked me a year agowhat when I do I have no idea andwhereas things have just lightssparking and you know pulling into placeand that will happen for you it's justabout whether you're you're willing totake the risk to go and pursue thosedreams that's all it is I love that thatis so true and I think I always urgepeople now so even like my youngerbrotherI urge people to just try new things anddo different things because 12 monthsago May being a podcast host wasprobably the last thing I'd ever want todo other than it'll be an out of a planeI mean and I'm at I'm actually debatedwhether I'm gonna do that in the nextyear or so jumping out the plane safelyshould we say yeah trying anything crazyobviously with it with all this rightpeople around but it's weird how you howyour passion just develops my actualpassion now is like you said it's makingthat true impact it's making thatdifference in life so yeah the beautifulthing with that is is forcing me to comeout of my comfort zone hence doing apodcast hence putting myself out thereon social media and doing this podcastopening that business with more mommiesit's crazy to think that I would havebeen doing this because I just didn'tthink I would so I think you've hit thenail on the head there people shouldjust go out there take that risk trustthat it will fall into place because Itruly believe it won't but at the sametime everyone's journey is different sojust because it's falling I think inplace for somebody out there he doesn'tnecessarily mean it's going to be thesame for you it could be at 22 or itcould be at 50 but don't don't comparebasically what I'm trying to say exactlybecause I've people might look at me andsay oh he's a qualified accountant hesaw it for life now I'm just I've chosento go part-time comma salary you knowmoney doesn't money you need itunfortunately you need money but I'mfocused on my happiness right now whenI'm going part-time to to actually gofor what I truly want to do okayfantastic so there you've heard thebuzzer and we are now in the fun part ofthis show so this is a quickfire 60seconds where I'm gonna be asking costsall sorts of wonderful and weirdquestions and the beautiful thing is hehasn't read the show notes so you haveno idea what I'm gonna ask him andthey're not the same questions as alwaysI do like to mix it up a little bit butso please are you ready buddy I'm readyokay we're gonna start in 3 2 1okay the ability to fly or be invisiblefly money or fame fame singing ordancing singingNetflix on YouTube that thinks Marvel orDC I don't watch evil okay Batman orSuperman Superman favorite TV show everoh Jesus Christ soprano would you ratherhow you will die or when you were dyingwhen I would die love or moneylove books or movies books if you couldsit with one person in the world for anhour who would it be my sister yourworst fear growing up getting older whatis your biggest addiction Instagram ifyou could abolish one thing in the worldwhat would it be depression yourfavorite song ever compete J : Drake anysongs French or Spanish Spanish pizza orsteakthey comedy or horror comedy and thelast one which is completely randomwhich is wizards which is the funnything is I wrote these like a long timeago so I'm looking at it myself to getwhat okay brilliantthe answer about your sister as well Ithink I think she's gonna love to hearthis back I'm sure you tell her anywayon a daily basis but if you're anythinglike me sometimes I shy away fromtelling the people I love the most Icare for him so much and it's probablysomething that I should do as well butso we run to the one but last questionand this one's always about reflectionbecause I always believe hindsight is awonderful thing and upon reflection wecan always think of ways to get to wherewe are quicker easier or we lessheartache and we wouldn't be the peoplewe are today if it wasn't for theprocess I've been through so what I wantto know is if you could go back in timeto that one moment where you reallystruggled and suffered with adversityand you could just whisper something inyour ear knowing exactly what you knownow what would you say say to yourselfoh I probably tell myself to tell peoplehow you feel and because yeah it'sextremely hard even by looking back andeven the you for today it's hard toexpress how you feel whether that'sbecause you're gonna be mocked on socialmedia your friends won't understandbecause of different maturity levels ahyeah just be just just talking about howyou feel just talk about it I love thatand I want to get you to do if you don'tmind one of your poems now I thinkbecause you've been through it youcouldn't you can hear the passion inyour voice as well are you just beforeyou start this are you thinking aboutdoing books or ebooks or anything onthatOasis I want to release a bookpoetry book and also I'm in a process oftrying to gather to do like spoken wordevents okay um so I wanna go and performpoetry and and yeah it's funny how Ionly started writing I used to writepoetry a lot for Mother's Day cards uhmy mom she's probably got loads of poemswhich is quite handy because every timemy sister would ask me what we shouldget my mom article I'll just write whatlast year I went to Cyprus and mygranddad was writing poetry in Greek Ohwhat just about turmoil he's beenthrough in his life and stuff I wentover to Cyprus by myself actually justto save my grandparents for a coupleweeks and I thought you know what maybeI should try writing down stuff as wellso it's the one I'm gonna read is thefirst one I wrote in Cyprus some of someof them when I write them I can kind ofI don't feel this way anymore but cankind of go back to how I felt and writethe emotions down which is yeah yeahwhich is quite good for me and so yeahthe one I'm gonna read this the firstone ever wrote when I started writingproperly and it's called him him love itlet's go all right so here miss just thegame playing with my mind an easy targetfor him he always seems to find healways seems to be there to put me in myplace lurking a scheming like a puff ofsmoke all up in my face and I are closedmy eyes praying that he'll go but in themorning he's still there he always seemsto show he follows me constantly like ahovering dark cloud I turned to look atmelook at him in the face sometimes and hesmiled was also proud what did he wantfrom me what about done a question everyday my whole life he seems to have takenand he's here to stay but one day itseems to click and I look all aroundhe has no physical presence so how canhe be so profound that's when I realizedI'm living in the past and future withmy other thinking mind an easy targetfor him he'll never ever find Wowthat is powerful yeah and there that'sthat's about depression may that's atalent there you know you've got may gotmany talents you work out well you'vegot the accountancy going for you you'vegot this poetry going for you yeah andif your aim is to like change change theworld for the better and help people whohave been through similar situation toyourself like you know it's going to beexcited understand I mean people likeand we've never actually met in personbut with people like you is voice allabout as well I appreciate that and it'sthe reason I love doing this is becauseafter after speaking with somebody Ialmost feel like a new level ofconnection if that make sense so it'slike I see you like as a friend now Imean I've probably spoken to more indepth about personal stuff than I dowith some of my friends and butgenuinely like my hand is here if younever need it if ever there's anythingthat I can help you with in the futureif ever there's times that you feel andor anything because it is about justhelping each other up because there'sgoing to be times where I might needthat for example yeah 100% you know I'mhere absolutely hit me a messageabsolutely I appreciate it and you justkeep doing what you're doing because Ithink you're gonna you gonna inspire somany people and like I said my mom'sgonna be fun in you hopefully today Ididn't tell you yesterday so alrightI'll look up no pages yeah she typesquite funny I was always left for thembecause she taught me like the onefinger thing and it doesn't always makesense but I just think it's importantbecause I think any age any demographicsor whatever it is your message is justtrue we are at the last question now forJenny and this is a question that Iasked all of my guests and it's if in150 years time science is unable to saveus and we are no longer about and allthat exists is a book and this book isabout the story of your life it's astory that you've written moving on fromnow up until the day that you sadly passaway what I want to know is firstly whatdoes a blurb say about you I a summaryto make someone you really want to pickthat up and think actually I'minterested in this person and secondlywhat would you call the title of yourbook OhI think my book would have to be apoetry book rather than biography andthe title of the book I think would bememoirs of an anxious mind and the blurI don't think would say too much at allit would just say I don't even know apoem perhaps that could kind of sum upyour yeah a poem that sums up or just aman in his mind just an anxious mindfull stop just something plain andsimple and the poetry and the poems willspeak for themselves about thesituations about the feelings andemotion that's powerful I think you alsolisten to episode one I thought youmight have not been getting this by herewhy keV and the beautiful thing withKevin's as well because he's my boxingtrainer he's a lovely chap but he alsodoes poetry as well yeah and I just findit I find it fascinating because likekeV you do poetry and I listen to acouple of years as well and we're in theprocess of kind of resurfacing himbecause he's got him in like normalbooks and I'll say maybe you could selfpublish it get it out there because Ijust feel like really hit yourheartstrings so it's powerful buddy it'sbeen an absolute pleasure I just want tothank you for your time again andapologies for the stuff in the morningobviously it took us about 30 minutes toget skies it's got going but at leastyou managed to find your voice yeah theshameless plug there from the morningbut what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna putlinks to all your social medias that Iknow but if there is anything else oranywhere else you want people to findyou because I think it's important thatpeople can follow your journey andpeople can learn from you learn from youyou can maybe help them if you wouldn'tmind where's the best place to find youthe best place for me is probably mypersonal Instagram page which is cmklifestyle and then my other page whichis up and running and I want to stop ita lot more up there as my businessexpense is mindful fitness spelt withdouble L and actually spoke incorrectlyby accident but actually actually worksreally well now and you know there'sactually a funny turn on Instagram youcan only one person can have a name inthe worldyeah for a name so mindful fitnessdouble-l was taken so I originally hadto call it mindful doc fitness and Ifound the woman she was in a miracle anda person who had mindful fitness and thename and I said to my friend I'm gonnamessage her and ask her if I can haveher name like we can switch and wouldlike don't be silly she's not gonna dothat so I sent her a long message I seethem two at the MS they're like Iliterally spilled out my heart out toher and asked if we could swap names umand I've got a message the next morningand she said she'd be happy to for $50so I sent over fifty dollars a night andshe's got mindful dot fitness sofantastic yeah see that it's all of itsall about sliding into DMZI love that okay um are you active onany anything else or should we juststick to Instagram for now Instagram fornow and then I'll be expanding prettysoon fantastic and obviously once peoplecan finally find you on thereyou're quite active in terms of yourstory so they can obviously fun of yourjourney I'll be finding your journey mayit's been an absolute pleasure speakingto you this isn't going to be the lasttime you speak but obviously offline ifI can help you in any way and vice versaI'd like like you're helping me you'rehelping my mom as of today and you'll behelping many other people as well so Iwant to say thank you to you and to thelisteners at home thanks for listeningand remember this podcast is absolutelyfree so all we ask in return is for youto share this with a friend and drop usa five star review over on iTunes havean awesome day See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Find your voice - Episode 7 - The Way I Changed The World - Mus Jones Yafai #7Tagline: "They are willing to do this, no matter the circumstances, no matter the time of the day, no matter who you are, they are willing to take your child, no matter what!"Mus Jones Yafai is a wonderful human being who needs your support in raising awareness for his wonderful cause, Child Safe. Having experienced a child abudction attempt on his younger child Mus has made it his lifes purpose to ensure the public are aware of all the ways possible to safe guard their children and other peoples children from abducters.With shocking statistics, it is the first time in my life I felt scared for anyone with children, for my younger siblings, for my own family members. I felt somewhat oblivious to all that was going on, only to really be woken up by this.I urge you all, to listen to this episode or at the very least follow Mus over on his social media outlets and help support this amazing cause to better safeguard the children of our future generations.P.s. it is not everyday you hug a grown bodybuilder the first time you see them!Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yafaichildsafe/ (Child Safe)Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mus.yafai (Personal)Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/childsafe1kickstarter campaign:http://kck.st/2UuLWPM#JustDeuIt & #FindYourVoicewelcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAaron do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aaron due toanother episode of find your voice myname is Aaron and as always I am thehost of the show so it's very rareyou're gonna see two grown men embraceafter an interview in fact you're notgonna see that because I never recordedit but this individual was an amazingperson that after this interview weactually we had a moment and I say thatbecause I thought a true connection tothis person and I trust my gut feeling Ihaven't been a social worker in myprevious life this is a person who's outthere really trying to change the worldand more importantly what he's trying totackle is gonna affect almost everysingle one of us because it's aboutchildren and that's one of the mostimportant things in the world if you askme so I'm gonna literally jump into theinterview you're gonna hear about anamazing person who's doing amazingthings but he's also had some incredibleexperiences something that I don't wishupon anyone so without further ado let'sget this interview on the way okay so Iam sitting here now with moss so how youdoing today man good very goodalways and yourself very well than thecold yeah thank you for taking timeevery day I think it's important forlisteners to obviously get a story aboutyourself from you because rather than mykind of narrative yeah so if youwouldn't mind if you could just give usa little bit about your life maybe yourupbringing just like key stuff that youthink would be important and relevantfor this story and then we want toreally touch on the word that you'redoing today which I'm really excitedabout but be good to get everyone tojust get to know you a little bitokay well I'm a family of 11 Wow okaysix reverse two sisters we grew up in athree-bedroom house wasn't easy but wewere so it was fun and scary at the sametime see living with strict Muslimparents okay no people tend to stillreally know about it's not about thereligion it's about culture the cultureis completely different I did aboutChristmases I do like birthdays but thatmade me appreciate life even more nowespecially with my children yeah I meanso I'm very grateful to have the littlethings with someone tries to give me agift now I'm not well then so growing upyou know growing up I played Lockerbieokay I plan to the playing professionalwould be the age 80 after playing rugbyand then when two universities my degreeafter doing a sports degree no idea whatI was doing constantly searching for itand I always wondered what is it whatI'm going to do in life until now Ibelieve we all have a destiny absolutelyno matter when it will happen in ourlife we don't know as we keep searchinggood surgeon and I found when I stoppedsearchingI think everyone's trying to find theperfect age I suppose yeah or they'llsee somebody else next door to findingit that's not necessarily your storypeople these days well they see was theysee the value of money objects as wellyou know you know I do as well you seesomeone if I want to do that look wellthen you realize they put that hard workin I haven't just been handed it to andthen this day when their work you knowtheir lives to get those things I alwayssay that I think it's so easy to look atso you see people on Instagram forexample or Facebook and they'resuccessful they've got a nice car moneyand you like it's easy for them well isit really easy for ya do you know whatthey win through the power sisterjourney and actuallyyeah okay that's interesting so youdidn't use your degree actually touchedon phase of your path so eleven childrenin your house are you the middle one theolder young yes are you the young oh yeshe's a pretty one yes we are at theCouncil of four children okay justbefore we go into this it was mine ofcourse so you've got your degree yourealize you're not gonna do nothing withthe degree I can relate to thatyeah and you do something now what'shappening in between here is this momargue just be lost the wall no this isall found one supposed to do now this iscompletely and it took something tragicfor me to find it but there's nouncertainty in my mind and now what Ihave to do and it's for the rest of mylife it's there's no doubt it's like I'mfinally happy it's it's an amazingfeeling to know what you're supposed tobe pond why'd you were put on earth forand this is the feeling that we need togive to everyone else to find it it'sthe most amazing feeling ever youwouldn't you know what you want to dolike I said life is not about just goingto work every single day to work yourwell for someone else and then just togo home yeah I'll see you happy kidyou're happy then just go work if it'sup to me obviously we have that passionto find something we'd love to doabsolutely and then spend the time withthe people we love that's what lovesabout I mean you have to do somethingyou love to do in life there's no youcan't work just to end your lifeI suppose it's a shame though societykind of teaches us that that's the normof course it's go to school get a decentbread innocent that's it retire at 65make sure you've got pension safesixty-five no we can do it now of coursethe white decision is in the rightaction okay so fantastic so we're gonnajump into the bit that I'm excited aboutyeah so I just thought of a name youknow I want you to elaborate I want youto explain it or it's gonna be the firsttime I'm listening as well okay sohopefully the listeners will will getexcited as much as I am okay what I'mgonna start with the Nana neighborschild safe mm-hmyeah bread more than that well I'll tellyou the story and how the story came sobasically my three-year-old daughter wasalmost taken from me the 7th of October2018 at 1 p.m. and Lidl was doing mysupermarket shopping it was the craziestscariest feeling I've ever heard of mylife I'm just doing my shopping asnormally doing but I noticed this manwalking around the shop he had enoughfusions constantly not taking any foodup no do no shoppingso I'm a partner there's something weirdhappen in the shop he's everything Icould just feel it and then he carriedon following us around a shop and theyjust I tried to ignore it but not knowat the same time because just when didyou involve with children your parentsdid you're the protector you have to doanything you can't just keep them safeso we get to talk when we're doing putenough into the into the trolley andthen Otis joined our queue and he's gotnothing any sound so I'm just like okayand then I've put more daughters as bothAttilio there's normally an edgysomething like that sent them enoughfood in the toilet and then the exits toour left and with kids it's alright sowe're standing and then he just wants toplease shut down I said okay something'sdefinitely having no and she's donepause I'm gonna go get ice concert Kim aperiphery looking at him and then hewalks past in the queue so he's leavingthe shop but he doesn't leave the shophe walks then to the right and goes itsix six market and I'm like don't tellmiles of him whatsoevermom my head's like is he gonna dosomething is he not am i playing trickson myself I'm not just reading into thistoo much is he generally just a normalman just stand in their waybut it wasn't that case unfortunately hedecided to get close to my daughterclose to my daughter and then I saidtime upon again I said he's about to dosomething which is like he's not doinganything so I've turned back round givehim that chance to see if he does turnback round again he's then about to pickup my daughter and run out the shop withher this is where like I completelyfroze at first because that was a nutmuch shock you just like you know a lotof men would say why didn't you do thiswhy didn't you do this and fortunately Ireacting the more perfect why you're noteven around my kids and I've got both ofthem put them both behind me and Istared at this man I said you just triedto kidnap my daughter mmm the thing thatbaffled me them even more he just stoodthere said to me do you even sayanything did you move didn't do anythingjust the best there and I mean I'm likeyou just tried to take my daughter turnwhat are you doing nothing so now I'mstanding there I looked at my bondanother man comes running through theshop grabs him in a bow the most is thatpeople slamming body doesn't do anythingabout itI'm shouting this man telling me tellinghim he's a toy yeah everyone's carryingon with their shopping no this is thething that I'm trying to get people torealize that we need to stick togetherinto these situations we all need toeducate on child abductions mmm I'm chodcrimes so we are aware for otherpeople's children I'm just trying to putmyself in that situation even as a boyand a girl go apprehend that or what youmust have been going through andobviously the whole reaction side andstuff to it people can't see you on thispodcast you're a big guy you know a guythey're gonna rob something from likeI'm being honest I would go tea yeahit'd be intimidating for me so you justprove she's come out absolutely provedto me they're willing to do this nomatter what I mean this is at 1:00 p.m.in the middle of the down I'm doing myshopping you know I mean the tauntingyou least expect under the times whenthey're gonna try and strike because weare get so complacentday to day lives we're gonna do myshopping my kids this it was a vigilantthere and I'll sometimes done stuff Idon't know it's a bit of drivingsomething you drive something you knowdriving yeah of course do you know yourdaughter pilots subconsciously yes thescary thing is especially my mom ponderkind of beat yourself up for a becauseshe for a long time she couldn't dealwith cuz she knows and even or no and Icould say she day she would have beengone if I was in there yeah come onpartner didn't see nothing she's verybelievers in their own world she shewouldn't think there's someone trying totake a dog especially so close to homebut this is the thing we're gonna makepeople realize it does not matter whereyou are in this country next country ishappening people do these things andit's scary that people know people don'tknow anything about what happens we seethe films that's how you 2018 last yearwas I speak like people don't know therewas 1189 actions with almost a hundredthousand attempted a child yeahManchester being in this countryBirmingham's third these every yearsthey're very high and people don't knowanything about it yeah I mean I was asocial worker in my last life yeah Iwent back to uni and looking afterGeorge was always kind of a my dad Iwant you to be the best social workerfor children yeah wonderful children ourhopes and feel your passion in hereobviously you just can't do somethingelse that's crazyso did the police did you get the pieceabout what yeah obviously I'll gone into speak to them I'm in the shop so I'lltalk to the manager I said listen I needthe CCTV the finish of the story I'veactually ran out to the shop I've got mykids got something and they was they wasstanding in the middle of the car parkthey were just basically and I'll run upto them again just to say listen you'vetried to take my daughter the police andbecause I'm stealing that much shock heplayed in my mind he tricked me he waslike no noI didn't take your daughter and I'm justlike he's not my wife is in the shopshe's got a full trolley she's waitingin the queue okay let's go back in soI've locked the door but other kids Isaid I'll be back in a second soobviously as I've said that about Debwalked off quite quickly so I walkedback into the shop they did have a womanwith him but they had no shopping allright so that as I've gone in them threeare running out the shelf so this is thething we need to reload they're workingin groups and we can't judge the fuckthe male or female a comedy with afemale and two groups to try and track achild obviously though maternity thinkthat woman has with children they doinganyone would do it but yeah of courseyour point he was just scared to knowthat a woman would be in that group aswell so this is the thing that I'mtrying to but try to have one that notjust for our kids for other people ofcourse as you said we see things how wethink we would do it other way oh wegotta realize everyone is different Imean I already grabbed it do you knowall these kind of crazy but you don'tknow well okayso thank God no of course all of thatfrom that what was your process then sothen I went to the manageras for the CCTV footage he said there'sa code they have to get from the headoffice the police the police I said okaywe're gonna go down and get the head andget the code we'll get the CCTV footagebecause all I wanted to get that thosefaces out to the public so they knowwhat they look like and they can beaware from it you know what I blame thepolice for a while because I kept goingobviously every weekend to do my foodshopping you do kept telling me thepolice I'm pinned down you the policestation again I said what's going on waswhen we bend down and we said we have wesent police down there okay what'shappening this is the way for the codeI've gone down to little again I saidthey come to get the code it was like nono no one's come down yet and I'm likeokay what's this quite strangeafter three weeks gunned down againanyone in all come to get the code Nocome down yet four weeks have gone theCCTV footage has rewritten gun this isthe thing I've gonna made my socialmedia I make videos about the policesaying calm believe what they've done tome then they let me down those foul butthis system was fine filed by the policewell I wasn't the police went down threetimes little failed me right they keptlying to the police telling them thatthe code haven't come down yetthe code don't come down yet yes ofcourse it is so they let me down theycompletely let me down they didn't getthe code when they never attempted toget the code in the first place whichwas their heartbreaking comment whichyou know it was all never those facesyou mean you know I never thought forthat was gonna happen I never knew thiswould be the outcome of my daughterThomas being taken from me as well sothroughout life things are gonna happenwe're all gonna go straight faced yougoing to go through stuff that it's notfair some stuff is out of our controlyou have in that moment day I supposeand moving forward of course two waysyou can either take it or you can takethose actions when you're in controlyourself control you change the world socould you explain a little bit moreabout this net so we know it's calledCharles Seife yes it's based on thestory that obviously you went throughthat horrific moment there's so firstlyI opened up a social media page so howdo I reach the people these days it wasall social media so my way to reachpeople with social mediatold my story which I think are 10 to 15thousand views share it compared to myvideos now I'm not yeah of coursesuppose I mean how many ever got so manyviews on it and that's what then enticedeveryone else to follow me what I wasdoing so what can I do to challenge itfirstly I just like okay I walk aroundsupermarkets are warriors shops yougotta move it here you get to Birminghamwhen you see signs everywhere sayingcriminals in action watch your carsthieves here did nowhere is that a signtelling you that child abductors arenowhere is someone that someone may takeyour kid I know that people might notwant to see that unfortunately this isthe life we live in people need to beaware I mean I would let my daughter aworld did let more daughters run aroundthe shops let him do what they want youknow me no one's gonna tell my kid butthat's not the way life is now so sadya know I'm even going back to when Iwas young doors are open in the housescause it was a community yeah I think itis a problem and I'm guilty of thismyself I'm sure listeners can resonatewith this is like even now I mean I'vegot lovely neighbors on both sides yourhouse because its head down I'm gettingon with my life course and Tokyo yespose because but the thing is you say wehaven't got time but stuff like this weneed to make it non negotiable onJupiter and we have okaybring it sorry sorry trucks yes okay sofrom there obviously I've got theseposters and I'm like I need to getsomeone designedI've never done anything - where do I gosome was like the graphic designer I'mlike okay I'll go speak to so that isonly he doesn't mean oh I have thisimage in my head and what my designlooks like and then can you do me aposter poster for me and I'm like oh mygod this is amazingso I'll get thousands of posters printedI'm using all of my own money I'm betterthan everything I possibly can into thisand then on this social media page I'mtelling everyone who was a help who wasa help memessage of the message after message andI'm like what the hell I didn'tunderstand I didn't realize this isgonna I'm not okay I'm gonna I'm gonnahave to take the you count by myself I'mlike this but I hate I mean I've had now3,000 followers among them to free fastfollows I'm a group and my page I've got900 almost hitting the thousand I'm mypage and I'm just like messages someparents telling me what an inspiration Iam teenagers telling worried aboutasking me for four posters saying I wantto help I want to get your posters outthere I want to put them in the shops Iwant to post your fly for the door andI'm like I wanted to make a differencewhere I'm noticing that everyone elsewants to make it fits as well at leastyeah so I spend the first few monthsending posters here Thursday and I'mlike I'll totally get in around in thisarea by the hillstar which everyone I'mlooking it's up in Yorkshire sucked downsouth it's it and so from there knowwhat do I do nextfirst we need to raise the awareness sothat's the main thing we need to dobecause people don't know what'shappening so the main thing to me was toraise the awareness to everyonemmm-hmm well and I'm like this is goodit was not good enough no where do I gofrom hereyou know what I went to met this mancalled Oliver he messaged me and saidcan I meet up we are because I love whatyou're doing up and he was an amazingman he's been for a lot of things aswell our kids he's weren't in prisonsand his scene is but with people and heseen so much of his stuff and heeducated me and so much it gave me thisknowledge I'm not okayeducation that's where I'm goingeducation so that's where I got to startand that's why I'm gonna finish we needto educate the country and educate ourchildren on the dangers because ease thechildren a this is happening to sochildren don't know what's happening hmmand as parent you know we do as welleven if you tell you know what I'll tellmy daughter things she won't listenschool she's like the best pupil becauseI thought I'm an authority figure tellthem something they were listen andlearnso I need to get into the schoolsdesigned with the kids because the kidsare on the games and there was over ahundred children you know they have noidea about after doing research if youwant you're gonna win this country ofcourse but it's just like no one's herepolice like after getting them up on aloved it because they said we used to goto the schools and do the strangerdangers and things I mean yeah yeah butwe don't Lisa V Cohn anymoreyou ain't got no police we can't sendthem down you guys we need the police inthe streets and because of what'shappened in our stabbings or the theftschild abductions or child cards havebeen pushed to the back you know I meanbe this it's absolutely we need to makesure it's gonna be safe for now so I'mgonna dust the plantbut that's just the beginning of courseso with the school I'm not okay I'mgonna go to my doors prime school Ican't go down so promise don't saylisten this is what happens when you getthis is the tips and you need to know soI had a bear designed cord captainCharlton okay so how can I get two kidswhat do I do monkeys to teach them areread books to them every single nightand you know what they're nuts sometimesthey love this in their favorite butthey even recite them to me as I'mreading because they beat him so muchI'm like I'm gonna make books I'm gonnawrite books at the moment for booksbooks the first one I've just sent offfor editing he's come back and it'samazing I love itwhich is based on a true story calledthe supermarket okay so the first storyeach story will educate the children aswell as be fun which will also educatethe parents because we need to educatethe parents as well because parentsdon't know this parents understandwhat's happening so we say to theparents the kids can't stay next to meso I mean I'll where's he gone book wedon't but there's no sense of panic whenthey have gone always probably in theother oil so for me to then show thatmessage that in the supermarkets withhe's capturing child safe so he's thehero you know say Whitney got Sly Foxhe's the one in every situation we'lltry and take the job so in eachsituation in each book there's always ahappy ending right always a happy endingbut in happy so that's how I'm targetingthe younger age is to to a to the otherso through story and because the thingis also okay I'll do a program for thekids at the primary school what kidsforget within 10 seconds before going tomention span as well but somebodyspeaking of course of courseso if I went into a smaller I teachingthem I'll go in there once I'm not gonnago in everyday online so don't forget assoon as they've forgotten I sit insidetheir head so if we do it for a storyit's gonna be read to them time and timeand time again and being Brennan totheir brain and they know as they growupno calm run off in the shop because if Iwanna finish shut the slyfox mindgetting out that's what I'm trying to doand feed into their brainWow I mean like you said when youstarted this you had no idea no ideawhich way to go goes the books yourNorth in our liver said this isfascinating so you you were talkingabout raising awareness then you've gota fantastic Facebook page and all thisstuff will be in the show notes and I'llshare it as much as I possibly can aswell okay everyone's life's busy coursewe're gonna hear this it's gonna touchmore people as hearts but some peopleare gonna touch them for a bit and thenthey're gonna get on with their livesyeah of course if they could just do onething that's very very quick that wouldjust help your message whether it's likeis it as simple as just sharing yourvideo or these leaflets here you've gotavailable put in one of those oh thisI'll have my leaflets these days I'llpay for our print they're all free ifanyone wants posters they're more thanwelcome to us they all have to do isdrop a message to my page I will thendeliver send it but yet the Flyers andthe posters are free I've had caustichas done as well which these are soldand my website is gonna be finished justcalled child safe okay they're stickersI have t-shirts made it's Ruby sorryright on the page as well where all themoney that I'll music space or my ownmoney or the world I've worked for andany profit made it all goes into thechalk on to the police there's somethingcalled active citizens fund okay and I'mwaiting for the approval of it approvalof it because I can't go into theschool's intended I can't go to thosekids and be like yeah as soon as theylisten they need something to read totake the information they need the tipsso they concert can keep reading oh andalso show the parents because there'stips and there for parents of what theycan and can't doing or should orshouldn't do even to let them childrenbe safe yeah and stuff you were gettingearly and I'm like I I get that becauseI'm sitting here now midway through thisand I just want to help you like yeahI'm gonna help you right noweach and Brian this will probably comein I don't know a month's time for weekstime because of the schedule bumblerthis needs to be out there now so upuntil that timeoffline after this I want you to speakto me as well and let me know of courseI've got a couple of friends in theprinting industry as well okay and evenif it is quite a few favors can you justdo the first thousand free listen thisis going to stuff that's going to changethis world the world hundred percent youdon't mean and it's most people aregonna have children in their lives or nochildren of course find of children tomake sure that there was no why even notthe people just with children peoplethat don't have children need to knowthat so they they are aware as well sowhen they see someone talking to a childand they and the child is acting in thecertain behavior that don't look rightthey can step in and say excuse melittle one you okay is this your dad isthis your mom I mean so they need to beaware of this is for everyone it ain'tjust at first I generally thought usedto the parent and I'm like you know whatthe best one that happened to me thisgirl I want to be waiting just cuz Ifinally realize what I gotta do ifyou're like okay this is just this is mymissionthis is that's my mom this isn't ourmission so this is I'm just doing whatI'm supposed to be doing so this wasbuilt message me tell me one inspirationa man that and I'm like okay well thankyou flyershe's messaged me again and I said shejust put thank you so much again fordoing what you doing you helped me savea life what do you mean I helped yousave a lot she goes I was in memory Hilldidn't shopping because I've seen alittle boy were in on the shop and he'srunning down there and there's noparents and she said all of a suddenman's grabbed his hand and she saidshe's lucky that she's run over to thisbone and said this dust on your son isit she he's let go I'm enough so she'sobviously she said because of whatyou've doneyeah you've educated me to be vigilantand I've saved the boy's life and momscome were in that shock come here my sonshe's like some manhood and I'm like ohthat was the maddest even that was likeI'm tingling that was the best feelingDonna my message is gonna buzz it istenit's working that girl is now savedanother kidswe almost need everyone to know nobodyso everyone's singing from the same hymnsheer supposed because there is atendency are suppose even we're notwe're not gonna have for example and yousee tail up without us and you see likesomebody may have been a bit like overlyaggressive speaking to his wife you knowPyrus and suppose you know should I jumpyeah should I know it's always that kindof know your limits know your boundarieslast thing you want to do is go in andthen even she turns around he's likewhat are you doing I mean no couples allyou don't yeah anyway we need to jump innot justify just to stop and profess ifyou're not jumping into joining thefive-year someone because you've hurthim what's the point you're just doingthis bad as that privacy really don'tmake money to join in just to stopbefore explain this and you guys explainthis like the best I supposeintervention methods for the phobiapercent I figure of someone who'sprobably gonna be anxious to do thatalthough we need to do it yes I've saidbecause I had so many messagesmmm-hmm when fortunately I reacted inthe perfect way of what government mykids and everyone else should do that aswell especially if it's someone elsedoesn't matter if it is that or is momand you think they're acting the way ofjust grab that child's hand and ask ifthey're okay and you're not do nothingbad it's so many people telling me sowhy didn't you beat him up and you knowwhat I didn't know there was a group Ifirst turned to me there was one man soif I've jumped on this Mannie my doorsare never seen that go my children arenow panicking I'm on top of this manbeating this man oh all of a sudden Ilook up there my children are gonebecause the other two in the group oftank in themwe can't this again how it's almost likeyou actually reacted in the yeah it'sfortunately that's not me notfortunately I acted in the perfect wayand grab muchOh No maybe he was the decoy to get metogether you see I think it's plenty ofvideos where there's somebody who I seenone the other day sorry I'm going a bityeahthere's a piece of delivery driver on amotorbike you know the guys robbed thepizza from the back of the day okay andas he's run off the guys that my pizzahe's gonna deliver it so he's chased himto the door of someone's run on his bikeyes but it's a similar kind of qualitybecause they saw suppose house Wow didthey use our brains again so it's init's in our interest to act 100% the wayyou act you children your children isyour first priority in life no matterwhat you were the first thing scrubberJose Cuban said don't need don't worryabout Emma don't worry don't grassydon't jump on him it's if you have yourpartner with them or someone else getyour pond it's a cup of kids and theydetain that map you know mean see thisis arrest that manthat's it you don't you don't wanna stopbeing an absolute yeah the fault ofsomeone taking your child is that partbreaking you will go too far you maykill that man and then you're still notgoing to see your child anyway okayfantasticI could just speak about this for like awhole day I'm conscious that the show isit in its own yeah of course and so Iwant to kind of find out more stuffabout you yeah a little bitI'm just it's fascinating it takes acertain type of human being to do thislike I said I'm in my social life I saida lot of people or moms from like anursing background I always thoughtthose kind of people with that naturethat caring nature the world needs moreof it and of course they need moresupport so if I could support you afterthis podcast I'll do that thank you sosome of these questions now this is moreinterested I always think it'sfascinating when I when I when I sitwith people at yourselves you've gotsuch an amazing story so I think routineand daily habits are where we are inlife for example so I look at successfulpeople like okay he's doing this I'mgonna just take this from his dailyhoney I can explain from the moment youwake up to the moment you sleep how is aday that it's all routine I've got aworking with you you know whatI see most times in my life I neverworked in routine and you don't yourbody is a machine your body is acomputer whether you like it or now youneed to realize that your body in yourbrain it all workson repetition so if you do somethingyour body knows the next day it's gonnado the same thing so and even to ourmotion because I've still never plannedout course we don't happen so I have thekeys marketed before I leave the housejust in case anything does happen to meso that's what I do and then I get upI'm on a routine time I'll just try myso then so I've got my routine foodclothes give some love to my dog to work[Music]this is me hundred percent so I'm gonnago to work come back home spend sometime with children you know what you allget so focused and forget a lot ofthings sometimes and sometimes we forgetour children and you know I'm she wasdoing 70 80 hours a weekso we just spent fun it's on soon as Tomgoes sammartino go to the gym in themorning I tell my kids to school whenI'm saying it seem normal because I'mdoing the key thing is I just wannastare is you've got the routine causethis is so important because plan planplan plan plan like I did before mrs. Inever planned anything Moloch was allover the place watch your reactiveimpulse on the moment live for the daythat's all it's one of the things sowhen I gave up my job I had to getroutine in placeI'm scatterbrain yeah everyone knowsthat regimented from the moment I wakeup similar to yourself Anderson evenstuff like I have to have a liter and ahalf of water so nutritious ineverything is so regimented of coursebut you get so much more done becausebecause I've got no time I guaranteeyou've got you probably said no but it'samazing stuff you're doing now you'vegot three doors as well yeah you'redoing all this amazing stuff you'reworking out as wellI know you're in competition prep it'stough I know what it goes through menteeto use that that way in everything sothis Lodge we live in this live fromwhen people are going freejust doing the easiest things possiblejust to get through the day no meanthere maybe you go to the pub have adrink of a laugh or no but this love yougot a challenge yourself man everysingle day is supposed to be a challengeI mean if you ain't challenge yourselfor fluff about no mean cannot do thatlets covergirl let's do itI'm scared of that let's do the scariestthing possible man cuz that doli thosethings will give you those amazingfeelings no if nothing else will giveyou that feeling it's impossible hundredpercent I mean I always say at themoment your brain tells you should we dothat or no do it do it cause that issomething that you need to do yeah ofcourse that's where you're talkingyourself know a little bit like we spokeabout just before a stylist podcast thereason I'm doing this part I have to dothis yeah I have to do this and it's notabout me and I keep saying this thispodcast is nothing to do with me like mystory's not on here but this is aboutpeople like yourself yeahbecause even if I get 5 people to listento this and to share your story andthink child thing's safe enough I lovethat model stuck in my head lookee whathe said it was yeah if we can stop fivepeople that my job is don't do of coursethat's Michael isn't that 5 or 10 saidsomeone else and then that Forbes orsomeone else and then the word passes onthat that's it that's how the worldworks it's all gonna do we're gonnachange each other's mindset to makepositive impact you know what happens tome every dayit's just it's no even downpour this isa teenagers well I didn't expect thereaction this is one of them adoresfence follows me on Instagramno I've seen his post and he was on hisstory these poornamed neo gliese girl in my class andthen the only boy in my class andeveryone's going in on itno what is this boy doing so I have tomessage it no I don't know himpersonally I saw I saw a young manthat's like we can't judge people wesmell up to us the judge I said youmight affect someone's life really backspeople are putting four names on thisthing I'm a man I said we need to dosomeone else we need to change watermake it positive let every wheel I saidpeople will love you more if you dosomething good and tell say who is theprettiest who is the best of footballwho is the funniest and then you knowwhat I was expecting a little teenageryes he said to six laughs he deleted itpeople who defeats the funniest and hethinks the face he got so many morecomment soon he had so many people hewas reported look how many more peoplecommented now because it's a positivemessage I send you know yes so that wasa wicked never write anything like thatas a kid because simply we gotta havethat emotional intelligence whensomebody create new almost constructivecriticism AUSA's which is hard to takeas hundred are you going stuff but asI've dropped my ego as I've grownthrough life and personal developmentit's easier now 100 would I had thatintelligence Isaac as a kid so if I seesomething like I was driving yesterdaydo you man see people said really doesno people think that maybe we may haveall bad bad things happen in our livesand he's supposed to choose how we dealwith them problems and happy happy or wegonna dwell on it and be set for therest of our lives this is what I need toteach people we need to teach people alot of people think they're stuck in therock yeah I mean they don't know how toget out and this is their life nowthat's how they'll be with celebritiesthis is a message to perform coach edgewe're all in control of our destinyeveryone is in control of it well Easterday tomorrow in a month we are controlyou say you want to go do that so manytime you put the hard work in and it canget donethere's notice things are possible kidssay I carnate a word in my addictionyeah yeah you know body get rid ofthat's one of the first Birds I got ridof nano magic screen there told oh manhe's powerful you remind me of myself soyou'll meet my wife one day yeah hopeyou have this we hundreds ain't gonnakeep in touch I'm sure died for thisbecause I I'm one of the most emotionalpeople like you'll ever see for a guyyeah I like I've done the whole boxingscene may I do that all day but you showme a sad story when I see someone hurtwhether I normal not I I don't know whatwhat happens to me but I feel they hurtand you almost want to just say look letme take that away from you know kind ofthing like we bless we're looking evenbetter listen people like this yeah wehave such big hearts and we came herehave that emotion to give to everyoneelse so I used to so I'm gonnafront-engine here I just have this thingwhere a leopard doesn't change this busand all we believe people could havechanged and I've interview somefascinating people are gonna cook onhere and they've changed their life aswell yeah so I've almost changed my ownbeliefs to sort of think everyone's goodbut we sometimes make bad decisions yeahof course we do and I think if we cantry and like you said chain thatperception get everyone thinkingpositively doing good things will itcome and I used I used to be scared ofsaying like I want to change the worldright yeah because it's that you changethe world you just don't just a normalguy whatever I'm like okay I want tochange the world I can't do by myselfit's a bit like you say you don't knowhow you're gonna get there but you justtake one step on it I'm gonna get therethis is the thing that you don't dothoughthis is why I attempted to do I wantedto know I wanted my boy I did and I'mlikecompletely burned myself out and I waslike I even doubted myself there is toomuchI mean in my Eskimo convict's a pictureof my kids there is I was in the paperrecently there's an established news ofpictures the article to remind me ofthat day you can even use the analogy soI always talk about how to finishbecause it's a part of me you want toget to where you want to get to on yourdate so one thing always trying to dowith people is I wanted to get involvedin the gym or some sort of activitybecause that's the transferable skillwhen you master it you can take it intoanywhere it canthe next question is about adversity soif you could think of a time whereyou've been through adversity you'vecome over it you know more versity myluck was you know I gave my love to somany people for one more friend and itwas the hardest seems to be for me to dookay so much love and I generally foughtmy friend on me back my life and then Iremember sitting down watching BobbyKahn you did a little casting session hewas like we need to figure out why youlove the people that don't love you backand we know you know I never reallyfigured it out till you Vince it upuntil now and the main thing I had to dobecause there were bad people I didn'tunderstand why doing do things like Iwould call my friends daily asklike they'd go for trial tribulation soI thought I'll be thereI mean I know we're doing the stuff thatyou would have done for this yeah coursebut I generally thought that's whatfriendship is yeah you know I mean but alot of people see friendship as is hegot something for meand you know what broke my heart manremember cry my eyes out dedicated tohim and never got it back no and then Igrew and then I met some other peopleI'm not are these clothes cool and i'madjoining with these and then the samething happened again man I'm like Iblamed me I mean I'm like this issomething wrong with me when I'm ondoing what about done this must besomething wrong till I met my partnerthen we got kids they love me yeah musthave never done anything wrong like I'vedone bad things I never do Bettis topeople don't know I've always hadpeople's backs and I never understoodBrian and you know what people want tobe my friend or he would talk to me andneed help I'll never stop change it'snot can't change that's this theme I'mnever gonna stop changing but I'velearned to never expect it back that'smy wife sister is something about theseat home I'm not gonna call the systemtheir expectations and that's theproblem so when you come from a goodheart in everything you do you expectthe person to reciprocate that in thesame way as yourself only did it causeand it doesn't weather and I learnedthis in solar even in the property gameor I've had people reach out and Ialways take it on face value I'm likeI've got no reason not to trust you so Itrust you straight away yeahso when they telling me all this amazingfun right this is fantastic then all ofa sudden there's a hidden little oh isthat one yeah then I used to startthinking is that the reason that you'reyou're nice to me for youafter all this time and I'm here likewilling to do anything for you I supposepeople sit as a weakness oh yeah so thatyet people could see as weakness byPegasus strength days so powerful whatyou're gonna go on and do yeah and Ithink as you go through this like youmentioned a guy earlier Oliver forexample yesyou're gonna meet Oliver's in the worldgym right he was the first same userJohn who's the first person a person ohwow these people don't know what's goingon this is what I want yeah I wanna youare an influencer of the people youaround yeah of course you you when youstart spreading this you're only gonnatrap genuine people yeah because I'mgonna become a millionaire supportingthis but I'm gonna change ahead of a lotof lives do and if that's somebody'strue purpose lie like it is mine yeahwe're gonna back this season mean thisis amazing I mean not the fact that Igot 3,000 followers in what's it'sOctober November 3 to two months it'sjust two months man and I'm like thatmany people want to make a difference aswell this is like changing my timezoneby a thousand a million because thatmany people actually want to do it wejust need to get it in their eyes getthem seen this it's not I didn't evenattack a lot of work doesn't take a lotwhatsoever all it takes is that littlepin on the board this podcast yeah andeven it's just them viewing it they arebuilding the knowledge we're not evenknowing they're getting the knowledgejust by watching the videos I don't knowthere's I mean I just think it's anothersocial media page okay cuz I've there'sso many social media pages and I see somany videos but we tend to get enticedin this board into the funny video whenit comes to the serious things peopletry to forget about it don't want to seethe serious book they have to is youcan't forget I know what your answer isto the next question right and it iswhat is your biggest fear you touched onit basically idea I know anythingopportunity kids before I had kids alittle bit stank'sin sports I was the best in the Midlandsand even now like you know I guess Ifelt like a failure to my family as wellI still I believed I was gonna changethe family my family's lives I stillbelieve that now there's no I'm stillgoing to so that feeling never wentwithout failure okay okay so nextquestion I think you've kind of answeredit again it's kind of just aboutmotivation song yeah what motivates youyou know I'm still human this is thething we've got to remember that we arestill homeless okay so on the days whereyou don't feel like getting out of bedand doing the stuff what we mud Smokieseveryone says that's somethingyou know before I was my kids was to bethe best so if I didn't get up in themorning and go do that run someone elseagain up in the morning doing that runand then he's gonna be better than me soI don't want to be that loser so meansob I'm doing it soon as I'm like a cakeyou know now someone's going to sleep solet them sleep I'm gonna do some moreworkyeah I mean that's how that's what I wasmy motivation to be the best I mean itschallenges and those sort of thingseven other people mana motivate me wehave to learn more about ourselves wellknown as why we might abandon ourselvesbecause we want to do this we want toget this far even if it's the motivationto work hard cause you want to go buy anew carI mean for some people that's they thinkyeah cool it's not necessary my there'snothing wrong with that or I do what youdo so I do this thing right and ifsomebody doesn't understand all goingthrough a person development Statesgonna think I'm crazy but I do thisthing so I'll go to the gym for examplenot Sam do cardio I hate cardio isbecause I then start talk to myself whoelse is doing this at this timethat's only I'm doing it I hate it butI'm doing it and I kind of like almoststop digging myself up yeah yeah whathappens you start feeling more confidentpowerful and then it's like then I'll goin for like a gym workout and the laydown but nobody else is doing thiswhile I'm working 16 hours a day whatI'm trying to do this one time and it'sthat self-talk and I suppose the reasonwe're doing so much done is because alot of my life I was talking to myselfthe way the negative people had spokento me you know you're shy you're anxiousyou're this you're that and he wasalways those kind of stories thosetelling me now it's like the story Itell myself is the story I wanted Thomasyeah that's gonna bring me out into theworld in new ways it yeah so so dopeople don't be scaredthis is a thing don't be scared if thatbus is bigger than you or the challengeis bigger than you you guys think okaythen let's tackle this i'ma take youdown so now we're at the fun part ofshow so we're gonna start in three twoonethe ability to fly or be invisible flywhen your fame Netflix our youtube neverCoke or Pepsi Pepsi would you rather nothow you would die or wake you withoutlove or money no books or movies moviesit with one person in the world whowould it bewhat is your biggest addiction to winsummer or winter winter your favoriteplace in the worldspeak all languages will be able tospeak to animals in the world what wouldit be you favor some Emma voice the manin the read minds or forget the teacherGod have you ever been in a fight okaycool so the next one's about reflectionso I believe that how it's a wonderfulthing because as we've spoken aboutalready yes so you can always think ofways to get there quicker easier withless heartache I suppose but the journeyteaches us a lot of course it does Ithink the process is so important so ifyou knew what you knew now unless sayyou could go back to say before yourdegree for example yeah and you couldwhisper something knowing everything youknow now to that to most at 17 forexample what would you say you know whatit's probably tell him it's gonna beokay it's you're still alive it'sbecause you know what when you gothrough the trials or tribulations inyour life those things feel like theylast forever don't you just like yeahlike a week from then and what's on themenu here from then that won't evenmatter now this all was I wish I couldtell could've talked as I dwell too muchon the bad that was happening in my lifeand whenever someone made a mistakeevery time someone bad happened to meI'm not boys happening to me again whatam I gonna do and if I could've justThomson don't worry about it yeah don'tdwell on itit's okay it's a case no I tell myselfthis all the time now through everythinglike we are so lucky to be where we arein this world are you still alive Korsoso if you're in that situation and it'sthat hard but you still know there'snothing than someone no one can takethat away any long as you know no onecan take that away from you know me so Iwish I could have told myself that Wowokay last question okay okay so the lastquestion I always ask my guess is if in150 years time science doesn't save usright and we're no longer here andthere's a book on the table now and I'mgonnaand a little bit to this crystal as wellso there's a book on the table in it'sabout your life right so what I want toknow is in any order you want firstlywhat is the title of the of the book andif we turn it on the back you knowyou've got blueberry there what willthat tell us about you okay the bookcalled the world I think it'd be thatwill be I've always wanted to change theworldand like you see so much bad happeningthere's no way I'm gonna go from bridgesand I'm gonna come over and there'sgonna be everything that's good thisthings are gonna tackle me these peoplethat may even go against me no I thinknow sometimes I would have to savechildren's lives here but there's stillgonna be people out there I neverthought I'd have one person at all so -and the one I did I'm like yeah ofcourse in them do something positive isexactly what he went on I'm trying to benice and said back into this and thatwasn't Denise yourself I'm referencingwhat I've got it from unrest he's doinga quick Google search he got the firstthing they said look at this no no no itgoes deeper than that and then then Iactually said to him in the end I saidyou got so much energy because look howmuch I said use that good that energyyou got tackle it someone new and tellsomeone about what I'm doing that's thelast thing to do everyone a message it'snot just about giving the people themessage that want to listen yeah yeahsome people will find it at the wrongtime but it's in the beginning yeaheveryone's journey is different ofcourse the information is there youmaybe you just keep you've done your jobthere long as you've told all thosepeople always gonna come like I saidwhen I release this podcast blesseveryone frame even reviews it I've gotsomething like 65like five-star reviews right you know IlookI was overwhelmed but because it's notagain like I said like I said to youbefore this is about touching the peopleout there and getting people storiesheard and I send a 3-star like in therejust randomly no comment nothing I'm aBravo message me actually I'd be upsetbut I know the way the world reallysomebody's got the energy there probablyhas a listen to an episode I understandthat person's stories you know whatwhat's he doing it on Facebook threestone because it is the way the room mymission is one person finds this and itchanges a life that's going to rippleeffect yeah there's always gonna bepeople trying to bring you down nomatter what you're doing in lot justtake their energy and then use it to thepositive and then we're gonna do morewith it you know bring you down justbuddy that's the end of the show youngman oh what a pleasure what an absolutepleasure but just before we leave yeahI'm gonna put everything in the shownotes or all the links and everything toCharles Seife to yourself to yourpersonal page if you don't mind courseof course hopefully we get you likethousand friends after this new peopleif you could just tell us the bestplaces that we could reach you ornormally ask my guest to give one yeahbut because I'm literally this is touchmy heart yeah Facebook and my socialmedia pages child safe so got the bothgroup and the page controls medicalchoices yes child safe there are otherlinks on their choice at UK they're alldifferent ones but what you're lookingfor is an orange circle we're the childsafe wound across the middle with likecube right in pink blue so that's whatyour that's the symbol you're lookingfor so I'm my group and on my page sopeople on my group opposite the groupyou can hit a wide you can hiteverywhere on pages on our people youcan it's on the group the group yesthat's the public 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Episode #17 // In this Boxing Day episode, we’re doing things a bit differently! Em is back on the show, and we are going to talk through our five favourite episode of 2018. We released 16 episodes this year, and we might be biased, but we think there's some incredible leadership content there.This week, we’re going to point out the five episodes that we think you should either listen to for the first time, or if you've heard them before, go back and review. Hopefully, if you're in Australia, you're lying around the pool relaxing! If you're in the US or the UK, you'll hopefully be sitting around a fire with a cracking Shiraz. Either way, take some time out over the next few days and review these episodes so that you can ready yourself and reset for the new year.Em and I will talk through the key points of each episode, and why we think they take the cake! The episodes we cover are:Episode #3 Excellence Over Perfection: Laying the foundations for successful executionEpisode #6 The Psychology of Feedback: Stop avoiding leadership workEpisode #7 Working at the Right Level: What got you to here won’t get you to thereEpisode #2 Building a High Performing Team: Weak team = poor resultsEpisode #8 Are Happy Workers Productive Workers? What really drives your peopleI hope you get a chance to go through some of these over the holiday break. They'll hold you in really good stead for the new year. If you want to download the free resources attached to each of these episodes, just go to the episode page (eg. episode #3’s page is www.yourceomentor.com/episode3)We want to say a big thank you to everyone who's listened and supported us this year, we absolutely love making this podcast. Our purpose is to improve the quality of leaders globally and this podcast is just one step in making that happen.If you liked any of these episodes, the best Christmas gift you can give us is rating, reviewing and subscribing to the podcast - and sharing them with a leader who you think would benefit from them! You might completely change someone's career.What was YOUR favourite episode of 2018? We’d love to hear from you, so shoot us an email at hello@yourceomentor.com.

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