Podcast appearances and mentions of alexa martinez

In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Mary sits down with sleep consultant and mom, Alexa Martinez, to unpack the deeply intertwined realities of sleep, parenting, and mental health. From Alexa's own battles with postpartum anxiety and insomnia to her personal experience with cancer recovery, this episode is a powerful reminder of the importance of prioritizing both mental and physical well-being in motherhood.Mary and Alexa explore the polarizing world of sleep training, shedding light on the guilt and confusion many parents feel when it comes to their children's sleep. They dive into why personalized approaches are key, how sleep (or the lack of it) affects hormone regulation and mental health, and why moms need to stop sacrificing themselves in the name of motherhood.Together, they share raw, funny, and inspiring moments about navigating post-surgery life, building strong support systems, and learning to ask for help. This episode is a love letter to moms who feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure—and a reminder that no parenting question is too silly to ask.Key Takeaways:Alexa shares her personal journey through cancer and recovery.Postpartum anxiety and sleep struggles are deeply connected.Sleep is essential for regulating hormones and maintaining mental health.The conversation around sleep training is often polarizing, but a one-size-fits-all approach doesn't work.Moms frequently sacrifice their own health and sleep for their children—and it's time to change that.Health issues and recovery can significantly shape the parenting experience.Strong support systems and open communication with partners are crucial.Humor can be healing—even after surgery or during sleepless nights.It's okay to admit when you're done having kids.You are allowed to feel overwhelmed, to ask for help, and to trust your instincts.Resources Mentioned:Learn more about Alexa, her work, her mission and everything else Connect with Mary:Instagram: @theverymarylifePodcast Instagram: @pickingdaisiespodcastJoin Mary everyday for a real look into life with 3 crazy ass kids, surviving, thriving, and whatever the F else you might consider over at www.instagram.com/theverymarylife. Or if you're a Tik Tok fan, find me at https://www.tiktok.com/@theverymarylife. And of course, explore more on Theverymarylife.com

Feeling burned out and don't know how to restart? Not sure what got you here to begin with? We get it! Especially as First Gen oldest or only daughters! This 15 minute Pod Club episode based on the gems we learned from Alexa Martinez last week, Business and Expansion coach living in Melbourne, Australia, helping women reclaim their life through her masterful process. Today will get you started on reclaiming your life by figuring out the most important part: core values. These gems of life lessons are for everyone and speak to your most authentic self. Which, you may come to realize, is buried under all the expectations and obligations you are fulfilling for someone else. "Alexa invited us to define four core values so that we could build our present day, our life that we want."Consuelo shares her process of defining her core values and encourages listeners to do the same, perhaps even with a vision board to bring it all to life. This episode stands alone but it's always better after the full conversation with Alexa and her bubbly, empowering personality. TakeawaysAvoiding burnout requires placing oneself at the center of one's own life and defining core values.Core values serve as a guide for decision-making and help prioritize what is important.Consuelo shares her discovery of her own 4 Core Values after listening to Alexa.Creating a vision board can be a helpful tool in visualizing and manifesting one's core values.Next week's guest, Bianca Alba, a First Gen Latina and college grad with a Masters in Public Health, shares her journey towards starting her own podcast, This Latina Travels to encourage all Latinas to step out into the world and represent!Consuelo is a First Gen Peruvian, structural engineer, mother and Scorpio fired Latina out to hold the mic and shine the light for Latinas defining today's cultura in their authenticity. Connect with Consuelo on IG @Consuelo_Ends_in_ODiscover Encuentras Your Voice podcast on IG @EncuentrasYourVoice and join the comunidad of amazing Latinas!Listen to every episode on Spotify, Apple Podcast or any of your favorite streaming platforms. Watch the full videos on our YouTube channel @EncuentrasYourVoice

Feeling the effects of burnout and lost on how to recover? Feeling ineffective as a business leader and losing interest in your work? Yep, we hear you and are here to bring new insights on how to thrive instead of survive by defining your core values to frame the life you want. Alexa Martinez shares her heritage story and the journey of discovering her Mexican-American identity in this conversation. She reflects on the challenges of not fitting in, the pivotal moments that led her to embrace her culture, and her exploration of ancestral healing and spirituality. Alexa's dynamic persona lights up her coaching business. She emphasizes personal development as the ultimate priority to embrace growth and view our aspirations as exciting opportunities. Dealing with burnout in the past, she had an epiphany regarding values and clarity, balancing work-life dynamics in various settings. She delves into the impact of limiting beliefs, burnout, and loneliness on well-being while promoting the importance of building connections, reclaiming indigenous values, and finding joy in the present moment. The conversation wraps up with insights on transitioning from surviving to thriving, setting values over goals, and creating fulfillment and joy in life. Alexa advocates for redefining success based on personal values, taking time for self-care, and engaging in joyful activities. Takeaways:Find Supportive Individuals Who Encourage You to Dream and Explore. Focus on Personal Growth Instead of Just ActionsView Yearning as an Invitation to GrowDefine Core Values to Thrive with Joy in LifeEstablish Space for Connections and Redefining SuccessDiscover Alexa on Instagram @AlexaCoaches with more information in her LinkTree on her profileConsuelo is a First Gen Peruvian, structural engineer, mother and Scorpio fired Latina out to hold the mic and shine the light for Latinas defining today's cultura in their authenticity. Connect with Consuelo on IG @Consuelo_Ends_in_ODiscover Encuentras Your Voice podcast on IG @EncuentrasYourVoice and join the comunidad of amazing Latinas!Listen to every episode on Spotify, Apple Podcast or any of your favorite streaming platforms. Watch the full videos on our YouTube channel @EncuentrasYourVoice

Ever feel like you're not where you belong? Feel like you're not on the right path? Maybe you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Discover the WHY and WHAT that can make your dreams come true!In this Pod Club episode, we highlight the true gems of life lessons learned from last week's full length episode.Get ready for a dose of inspiration from trailblazer, Carin Luna-Ostaseski, Cuban American Latina, who shattered history as the first female founder of a 500-year-old scotch whiskey brand. Hear about her rollercoaster journey, filled with rejections and unwavering dedication to her family's legacy. This episode is hot, hot, hot... mixing fire with fuel to ignite the Latina magic in impacting others by going after their wants. It sparks discussions on leaving a legacy that goes beyond bank balances and the magic of chasing your dreams.00:00 Let's Kick Off Encuentras Your Voice: Cheers to Latinidad!00:50 Marveling at Carin Luna-Ostaseski's Odyssey03:07 Unleashing the Power of Legacy and Making a Mark06:50 The WHAT and WHY Behind Your Dreams 07:38 Sip on Carin's Scotch Whiskey Secrets09:39 Mixing Fire with Fuel Makes an Explosive Dream10:27 Sneak Peek at Next Week: How to Avoid Burnout with Alexa Martinez 12:22 Wrapping Up with Warm Thoughts and Community LoveTakeaways:Creating legacy involves honoring the past and elevating the future.Finding your mission is about focusing on what brings you joy and happiness.A mission that brings joy to others can fuel your determination and resilience.Success is not just about personal gain, but about sharing and inviting others in.Consuelo is a First Gen Peruvian, structural engineer, mother and Scorpio fired Latina out to hold the mic and shine the light for Latinas defining today's cultura in their authenticity. Connect with Consuelo on IG @Consuelo_Ends_in_ODiscover Encuentras Your Voice podcast on IG @EncuentrasYourVoice and join the comunidad of amazing Latinas!Listen to every episode on Spotify, Apple Podcast or any of your favorite streaming platforms. Watch the full videos on our YouTube channel @EncuentrasYourVoice

Alexa Martinez || Business + Leadership Coach Alexa is an accomplished coach, mentor, podcast host and creative living and working out of Melbourne, Australia. After 4 years of running a successful coaching practice and working with over 150+ female leaders, Alexa is now here to create waves and hold not only her clients to a higher standard but the entire online industry. Alexas platform and business revolve around values first business growth, leadership development and unlearning and deconstructing our relationship with success. Alexa believes that there is a world in which we can be wildly successful in business and that be one of the leasts interesting things about us. She is here to remind us that we were built for so much more, both in and outside of our businesses. IG: @alexacoaches WoMastery Mastermind Application A 4-month high-level mastermind designed for high-achieving women to design, elevate and build success + fulfilment in their relationships, wealth and career through subconscious reprogramming. Become the leader of your life.

This week on the podcast we talked with Business and Expansion Coach, Alexa Martinez, about how to come out of burn out and build a business that aligns with the life you want to live. Alexa has been a coach for 4 years. Alexas platform and business revolve around values first business growth, leadership development and unlearning and deconstructing our relationship with success. In this episode we talked about: -The signs of burn out/unhealthy relationship with your business -Identity work around your business -How to intentionally build the life you want -You can be successful and not have your biz at the center of your life If this episode resonated with you please share this with an amiga or take a screenshot and tag us on Instagram This helps us get to so many more mujerones! CONNECT WITH ALEXA: Follow Alexa @alexacoaches Join Alexa's masterclass, “Barely Scratching The Surface” here: https://lively-term-48382.myflodesk.com/efbuvamywc CONNECT WITH MUJERÓN MOVEMENT: Follow Mujerón Movement: @‌mujeronmovement Follow Sonia: @‌thesoniaalejandra Sign up for Mujerón University Waitlist HERE Apply for Private Coaching HERE

In a world where we're always being told “raise your prices” and “charge your worth” what happens when you decide to go against the industry standard and actually lower your prices? That's exactly what Alexa Martinez did! Alexa is an accomplished coach, mentor and podcast host. After 4 years of running a successful coaching practice and working with over 150 female leaders, Alexa is now here to create waves and hold, not only her clients to a higher standard, but the entire online industry.  In this episode, Alexa shares: Why she lowered her prices & how she navigated the process Why “charge your worth” is BS advice How to decide on a pricing strategy that aligns with your values For full show notes, visit leticiajcollins.com/podcast/70 ______________________________ LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED: Book a week of Voxer support with Tish Learn more about 1:1 Voxer Mentorship (now accepting new clients) ______________________________ LET'S CONNECT: Instagram: @marketingwithtish Website: leticiajcollins.com ______________________________ CONNECT WITH ALEXA: Instagram: @alexacoaches Website: linktr.ee/alexacoaches

This is a Self-Care Snippet from The Worthy Mother Podcast. As mothers, we need to prioritize our own care. Within this few-minute long episode, you will hear how our past guests prioritize their own self-care and some tips on how you can do the same. Tune in to the full episode 11. Motherhood Support in Postpartum & Beyond with Alexa Martinez. Like what you hear? Make sure you are subscribed to The Worthy Mother Podcast wherever you like to listen. For more motherhood content and support, connect with me on Instagram @honestlyemilyrose.You are worthy, Mama.

FVCC Culinary Students Alexa Martinez & Julieana Byrd joined the studio to tell us a little about the culinary capstone project – pop-up lunch restaurant named, Smolder! March 27th 2023

Today on the Say It Out Loud podcast, I am joined by Alexa Martinez, aka THAT SEX CHICK. She is a sex, love, and relationship coach, and business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She helps liberate people when it comes to their sexual expression and helps them discover what their sexual desires are and achieve these and their other desires in life as a whole.I brought Alexa on because her approach to relationships and HOW we show up within the context of a relationship. You're going to love her and her willingness to SAY IT OUT LOUD.Follow Alexa on Instagram Learn more about Alexa's Couple Retreat in Austin, TXListen to That Sex Chick podcast Support the showSUPPORT THE SHOW ORDER MY NEW BOOK, Say It Out Loud—PRE-ORDER TODAY APPLY to work privately with Vasavi—Learn more JOIN the Say It Out Loud Safe Haven Community!—Learn more FOLLOW Vasavi Kumar on IG

The coaching industry is changing...All the more reasons for exceptional coaches to rise up.But what exactly are those reasons? Why even care about being exceptional?Join me and Alexa Martinez, business & mindset coach, and Chantelle Gallow, transformational coach and employee wellbeing consultant, as we deep dive into this.Let me know your thoughts about this episode! Leave a rating or review of The Fulfillionaire Podcast on Apple Podcast, Google Podcast, Spotify, or wherever you listen to. And, take a screenshot of this episode, post it on your IG Stories, and tag me @themidasacademy. Would love to have a chat with you!The doors to The Midas Coach are now open! This certification program is a hybrid of modular content, community support, and mentorship grounded on evidence in cognitive psychology, behavioural psychology, and affective neuroscience. Join us as we take great coaches and make them EXCEPTIONAL. Follow Alexa and Chantelle on Instagram!@alexacoaches - Alexa Martinez @piecebypiecewellness - Chantelle GallowSupport the show

This week I chat with the lovely Alexa Martinez who lives in the United States. Alexa is a wealth of wisdom, being not only a fellow mama and Jesus follower, but a Postpartum doula, baby sleep expert and mental health expert.  Alexa shares her journey with having a difficult pregnancy and postpartum, which shed light for her on the need to send the message to women about how important it is look after themselves physically, mentally and spiritually during these times of having little ones. She encourages women with ways on how to physically nourish themselves and how to practically create room for 'quiet time' with God when one is a busy mama. If you'd love to connect with Alexa, she is on instagram as @mamamatterstoo_ and you can visit her website: www.mamamatterstoo.com where she offers a lot of free resources for mums.

There seems to be a gap in care when it comes to motherhood. We go to so many prenatal doctor's appointments and classes pre-baby, and after the baby is born, there are all kinds of services to ensure that the little one is healthy and cared for. But what about care for the new mom? In this episode of The Worthy Mother Podcast, I talk with postpartum doula Alexa Martinez about the need for motherhood support in the postpartum period, and she shares what she is doing about it. In this episode, Alexa and I talk about:The gap in care in the postpartum periodSupport systems for momsPostpartum mental healthThe importance of sleep How modeling self care impacts our children A little about our guest: Alexa lives in Frisco, Texas with her husband and 3 year old son. She has her Master's degree in nutrition and believes in a holistic approach, with plenty of room for balance and real life. After becoming a mom, Alexa suffered from severe postpartum depression and anxiety. She and her husband ended up sleep training their son around 6 months old, and the extra sleep and schedules helped a lot with her depression. She ended up getting her sleep training certification with a goal to help new moms with their sleep, but quickly realized sleep is only a part of what can help! She then got her postpartum doula certification and began her business a few months ago with the goal of supporting new moms in all aspects!To connect with Alexa, follow her on Instagram @mamamatterstoo_ .Follow along with The Worthy Mother Podcast on Instagram, and don't forget to subscribe wherever you listen!  

This week I am excited to have Alexa Martinez form "Mama Matter Too" on the podcast. We are going to go over 5 Edits To Make Life Easier With A Baby (before and after). Here are the main takeaways from our conversation: Set up support & back-up support when baby arrives Stock up a rolling caddie-cart for you and baby with the essentials Have tough conversations with spouse about expectations and who does what Identify red flags of mental health issues and pre-plan for mental health care Prepare meals in advance Connect with Alexa and download her FREE Meal Prep EBook at: Website: https://www.mamamatterstoo.com Email: alexa@mamamatterstoo.com Connect & Follow Me tabathaperry.coach connect@tabathaperry.coach Facebook: Tabatha Perry, Life Coach Instagram: @tabathaperry.coach

Today's guest is a power house in the business coaching industry. Alexa Martinez is a Latina business and mindset coach for female entrepreneurs that want business to feel good. She helps women step into their identity as an expert, build their movement and create life changing wealth. I am so inspired by her unapologetic-ness and her bravery to take up space, break industry rules and do what feels good. Throughout the episode you'll hear us talk about holding yourself to the standard of your desires in life and business and how to release all of the limitations we put on our goals and stretch our capacity to make them a reality. Connect with us on social: @growwiththeflowpodcast @itzycanales @alexacoaches CHECK BACK FOR NEW EPISODES EVERY OTHER THURSDAY! Ways to support this podcast: Follow along on social media Leave a review Share this episode on social media & with others Donate to help us continue creating episodes you love https://anchor.fm/growwiththeflowpodcast/support --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/growwiththeflowpodcast/support

On this episode of Bodies By Brent, special guest Alexa Martinez, also known as “That Sex Chick” takes Brent into the world of sexuality, psychedelic drugs, and dominant/submissive (D/s) relationships. Alexa is a qualified sex coach and the founder of the Sex & Love Co. Team, an organization providing courses and coaching for singles and couples who want to have a more satisfying sex life. Alexa begins by telling Brent about her early years, where her Catholic childhood and unstable home life made sex a difficult and unwelcome topic, and how all this changed when she started to travel and shift her perspective. She goes on to talk about what sex is like for her today and how she and her partner balance their different sex styles and kinks in a healthy and fulfilling way.  Alexa then walks Brent through the BDSM community, explaining how to explore BDSM kinks and how to learn about your sexual preferences in a safe environment. At the end of the episode, she shares some of her favorite books about kinks and BDSM and gives her top toy and lube recommendations for different kinds of sex. This in-depth episode of Bodies By Brent is a great introduction to kink communities and gives insightful advice about how you can explore your sexual fantasies, alone or with a partner. If you enjoyed listening to Alexa and Brent, please leave a rating and make sure that you're subscribed to the podcast so that you never miss an episode. What You'll LearnHow travel can open your eyes to different kinds of sex and relationshipsWhy people may desire to be in a D/s relationshipHow to start talking about your sexual preferences with your partnerWhen to tell a new partner about your kinks Links and Resources The Want/Will/Won't ListBDSM TestThe Erotic Blueprint TestSex at Dawn on AmazonUntrue on AmazonThe Ethical Slut on AmazonThe Ultimate Guide to Kink on AmazonI am a Dominant on AmazonDiary of a Submissive on Amazon

Your lived experiences are your expertise! So START sharing them online. People connect because of your energy, your experiences and your personality. It is time to think about how your experiences and stories can level up the way you create content! So, that is what Alexa Martinez is on the podcast this week to talk about! She SHARES her amazing experiences online and it has changed the way she connects, builds authority, builds trust and genuine connections in her online business! We came together to share the tips and advice you need to do the same! If you LOVED the episode, make sure you share this on your Instagram stories and tag us @contentqueenmariah and @alexacoaches. KEY EPISODE TAKEAWAYS

I have been so excited to talk more about sex, especially with badass women! Big thanks to Alexa Martinez Bowditch, better known as “That Sex Chick,” for showing up the way she does in life and in this conversation, to share her expertise on how our sexuality is a roadmap to our personal development. That blows my mind, and so does a lot of other info she drops, like: How to figure out what you really want in your sex life What she is still learning as a newlywed and in her relationship How to easily start exploring kink and more, and what it can bring to your life How our sexuality feeds our communication How she began her journey of sexual liberation for herself and others What to do if you're feeling life you don't have this all and don't know where to start I talk this week too about trauma and our nervous system and have a beautiful affirmation for the week. Keep kicking ass, y'all, and don't forget to rate and review and share with a friend! Spread the love! And connect with Alexa here: https://www.thatsexchick.com https://www.instagram.com/thatsexchick https://www.facebook.com/groups/thekaleidoscope   Subscribe, rate, review, and sign up for the newsletter crew! You are an overcoming badass….. remember that! I love you!   instagram/twitter/FB: @realamyedwards  amyedwards.com   Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode! Go to https://betterhelp.com/AES to get 10% off your first month of therapy.   Get to your healthiest self, live your best life, and better your relationships! This show is here to make that happen in the most efficient way, through simple and effective strategies and habits that help us overcome fear and shift your mindset into the best it can be, at any age. Host Amy Edwards is a life coach, Reiki master, author, and rock musician who delivers a return on your time investment with every episode. Amy and her guests give real talk with pragmatic life hacks that will have you living to your full potential and self-examining your way to a shinier you. She draws from her personal experiences and from inspirations like Brene Brown, Jen Sincero, and Mel Robbins, and conversations with guests like Justin Wren, East Forest, Rafael Lovato Jr., Aaron Alexander, Kimi Inch, That Sex Chick Alexa Bowditch, Suzy Batiz, and other certified badasses. Transformation can be intimidating, but Amy Edwards's humor and realness make it approachable. The Amy Edwards Show is life coaching, personal development, sexual development, spirituality, self-love, and fun, all in one place!  Ready to be happier, healthier, and feel like you're living your best life? Then this is your show!  Subscribe, rate, review, and sign up for the newsletter crew!  You are an overcoming badass….. remember that! I love you!  instagram/twitter/FB: @realamyedwards TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themagicbabe www.amyedwards.com  “Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, & go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” - Justin Wren “The way we approach sex is the way we approach life.” Kimi Inch “Listen to the voices inside your own head as your true guidance.” - Aaron Alexander “The journey never stops, there's always more layers to peel.” - Aaron Alexander “With adversity comes growth & deeper realization of self & purpose.” - Rafael Lovato Jr. “Give your best everyday. Be present. Be grateful. Be a forever student.” - Rafael Lovato Jr. “We are spiritual beings visiting humanity.” - East Forest Hot Pie Media is an on-demand digital audio/video entertainment network with interests primarily in the creation of original, relevant, and entertaining podcasts. Learn more at hotpiemedia.com.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Special episode where Alexa Martinez from IWON, asks Mark questions. We talk IWON, how it started, extruded snacks, distribution, money, growth and a once stop packaging stop.

This week I'm talking all things healing and spirituality with Serena Rose, the Spiritual Sex Coach. Who's here to show other people what is possible, by showing up as loving, authentic, and vulnerable as she can in any given moment, or in honor of what that looks like. What led her to this work?As a child, she experienced a variety of unique experiences from trauma-based to spiritual occurrences that guided her to where she is now. She helps people embrace their kinky side, while healing their relationships with authenticity and deeper sexual awareness.  As a teenager she started studying self development and self growth and really started working on herself, so it unraveled from there. “The deeper and deeper I got into this work and myself, and my abilities, and challenges and all of it, I realized how connected everything is. My sexuality, my spirituality, all the experiences that led me to the point that I am right here and right now in this present moment.”What does it mean to see spiritual beings?We all have these abilities, it's one of our senses, we just don't always tap into them, or even believe in them. There's a lot of spiritual beings that we can see if we allow ourselves to, we're surrounded by spirit guides all the time.  Spirit is around us and in everything, it doesn't have to take shape that we can logically see or understand. It's so much about believing that this work that you're doing is going to work in the healing process and to take you to that next level self.  What are some practices for someone who is wanting to tap into their spiritual side?Awareness is the key to absolutely everything, bringing awareness to what is going on in and around you is step one.You can pray, and speak to your higher self, your spirit guides, your angels, your protectors, your ancestors, whatever you feel called to, and ask for guidance, direction, and just be curious. There's an audio book that really helps to understand the nuances of energy and spirituality called Energetic Boundaries by Cyndi Dale.Where does sex play a part in this healing process or a connection with the spiritual side?There's likely some role or some playing that could be done in the bedroom that would be fitting for each person. There is spirit and energy moving through you, and transmuting and healing, and it feels so good because there's also pleasure involved. Bringing awareness to these intricate parts of yourself and your experiences and learn how to move with them and move the energy.What resources would you recommend to start getting someone into a kink mindset, and helping them figure out what sort of kink to get into that can help serve them in a healing way?BDSM Kink Test  -  Not only do you go through it and discover some kink symbols that you might relate to but there's also short, easy to understand descriptions. Alexa Martinez's That Sex Chick Podcast, The ABC's of Kink with Bryn Daylor  - Personal relatable stories, go into the most common kinks, but also kinks that are a bit more taboo. Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliot, PhD Which goes into the shadow play of kinks.2021 has brought a lot of openness to us all because of what we're experiencing collectively, so what a time to dive in and do this work, and to have the time and space to do so. There's not one person listening that doesn't feel like they have something to heal at this point in their life.  It doesn't always have to be a sexual thing that you're trying to heal, but we all know the power behind healing sexuality.Connect with Serena!Instagram : @spiritualsexcoachPodcast: Authentically Me RadioConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Alexa Martinez and Bryn Daylor are back on the show for a juicy conversation about always ‘doing', developing yourself in partnerships, and how sex changes as you grow. Bryn shares how she has a new reverence for marriage after her divorce, and Alexa unpacks her experience with anxiety and feeling trapped in relationships. The ladies talk about creating more intimacy in your life, embracing the pause to approach growth, and how to co-create spicy experiences with your partner.Today on The Kelli Show:Are you addicted to chaos or seeking novelty?Viewing partnership in a new light after divorceFeeling trapped in relationshipsDoing “the work” in partnership and friendshipMeeting yourself and others in their vulnerability How sex changes as you build a foundation of intimacyBoundaries in threesomesThis show is supported by:LMNT | Visit drinklmnt.com/kellit to get an 8-pack sampler for the cost of shipping!Organifi | Go to organifi.com/kellit and use the code KELLIT at checkout for 20% off.Connect with Alexa & Bryn:Instagram: @thatsexchick ; @bryndaylor Podcast: That Sex ChickWebsite: thatsexchick.com Email: hello@thatsexchick.com Click here to submit your review for The Kelli Show, and receive access to Kelli's secret Spotify playlist!This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

That Sex Chick, Alexa Martinez, joins us to talk about communication in a relationship. Use her Relationship Board Meeting tool to guide your weekly check in's with your partner. You can use this individually to help get clear on your goals and desires, as well. This Dating with Jordan episode has so many pointers you won't want to miss it. You can find Alexa Martinez on IG at @ThatSexChick or her Podcast, That Sex Chick.  Get your Sex You Desire Workbook! Get your Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators Apparel and Pure Romance by Jordan Jones products here.  Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. http://jordandnelle.com   

Hello horizontal lover. Intimacy investigator. Horizontalist. Typically, horizontal is the podcast about intimacy of all kinds, recorded while lying down. The first part of our conversation is available wherever you listen to podcasts, and the last part is available exclusively to my patrons on Patreon. But this: is Season 4, my Season of Experiments. And this experiment is an installment of Alexa Martinez's that sex chick podcast, which was, full disclosure, recorded while in bed, but (gasp!) sitting upright. For that sex chick, it's episode 34, and for horizontal, episode 128. I'm told it's the longest Alexa has ever gone with a guest, so, here's to horizontal stamina. *wink* In this episode, sex parties done right, I share the orientation I lead at my last play party — which is a Facebook-safe euphemism for a sex party — in its entirety. Alexa's super-connected sex-positive crew of curious kittens, a collective on Facebook called That Sex Group, have been really curious about these parties. Both of us have found it's what a lot of people want to know about when they find out it's a) something we've got a fair amount of experience with, and b) something we're willing to talk about publicly. So here! We made you an episode. This contains the lion's share of wisdom I've gathered about play parties during my 7 years in the sex-positive community. What can happen at a play party, how you prepare for it, how to communicate with your partner or partners about it, some points of etiquette, and some of my personal tales of play parties past. I first met Alexa at a Future of Sex panel, curated by the podcast host and sextech expert, Bryony Cole, who was my guest for episodes 28. future of sex, and 29. sexual attitude readjustment day. This was also the very same event at which I met Bryan Stacy (who was on said panel) & Dominick Q., champions of men's work and co-hosts of The Great Man Within podcast, who were also my guests for a Season Threesome on episodes 76. the discerning dick, and 77. post-sex choice. (In Season Three, I got horizontal with two guests at a time, who were in some kind of relationship with one another. Hence: the season threesome!) Recently, I guested on The Great Man Within, and we did a deepdive into The Stoplight Game. It's episode #220, titled, “How To Ask For What You Want in the Bedroom.”  This to say that… in the not-so-distant future, when I have Alexa on my podcast AT LAST, we will all have been guests on each other's shows, and isn't that a particularly pretty podcaster-polycule?  Yes. Yes I think it is. Alexa is my kindred. She approaches sex, love, & relationships with the same kind of voracious curiosity I do, tickled through with playfulness. She was one of the first to encourage me to set up shop as an Intimacy Coach, and now, three years later, I finally have. She sometimes has purple hair and is always up for a frolic and a photo opportunity and a deep conversation. You can hear her smiling when she talks, and the way she shares her vulnerable relationship realizations with the world are both an affirmation and an inspiration to me. I love her. I hope you will too. Come get figuratively horizontal with us, in Canggu, Bali, Indonesia, and Austin, Texas.

On this episode I am joined with Alexa Martinez (aka thatsexchick) and her partner/fiance Jordan Maurice Bowditch (aka conscious.bro). This is a powerhouse couple when it comes to overcoming social conditioning and #RelationshipGoals. They are spiritual, realistic, and relatable. We talk about consciousness within oneself (ie who you are), your day to day life, sexually, and in relationships. They explain how they are able to make their relationship flourish from understanding that the other person is not their "everything" so they seek help and sounding boards with friends as well as their own coach, to having weekly relationship board meetings, to scheduling sex. Sometimes you just have to "fuck this out real quick to return the relationship back to neutral."

Today we are chatting with Alexa Martinez from Sex & Love Co. Alexa Martinez also known as “that sex chick” teaches people how to have epic sex and deeply fulfilling relationships. She works with people to show what is possible in terms of unconventional relationship dynamics, leading with sex when dating, exploring kink and BDSM for the first time, and having difficult conversations in your relationships. This was such an exciting conversation and I learned a lot about myself and how to better understand how to explore some of my own thoughts and not disregard them. I know you're going to love it. Get ready to rock with Alexia Martinez.     Website: www.thatsexchick.com Insta: @thatsexchick Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/thekaleidoscope Clubhouse: @sexcoach Podcast: That Sex Chick ~ Join the EHON Facebook group - www.facebook.com/groups/ehonassessment/learning_content Where else to find me: www.solo.to/tdpalladino     My Other Projects...

Welcome back to Episode  of The Active Life Podcast. Today on The Guest Show we have my friend and coach Lex Martinez. Lex is one of the most sought after sex coaches in the industry. Known as “That sex chick”, she makes sex education cool. Lex is a relationship coach and mentor, who helps expand and promote sexual exploration The world could be a much better place if everyone just improved their sex life.   In this episode we discuss; Scheduling sex Avoiding awkward conversations with your partner Having kids and low energy Taboos  Different levels of intimacy  How to improve your relationship     Connect with Lex Martinez   Website: thatsexchick.com Instagram: @thatsexchick Are you ready to Turn Pro? Connect with us! Dr. Sean @DrSeanPastuch Active Life Professional @activelifeprofessional

This might easily be one of the most value-packed episodes I've had on the show yet. Alexa Martinez is a sex and relationship coach. Her mission is to show women what is possible in life: to have the love, sex, and relationships that don't just work, but that light you the f*%k up. She is here to create a safe space for women to explore a more fulfilled life, with deeper connections and a hell of a lot more fun in the process. In this juicy episode, you will learn: How she got into this work of being a sex coach and empowering women to shine light on their sexual shadows What "sex magic" is and how to use it to manifest your deepest desires (I LOVED this!) Tools that will support you in getting more out of your sexual experiences The 101 on sex toys and what her favorite starter toys are The lowdown on porn and the best ways to use it How to keep your relationship spicy, exciting and interesting How to tap into and talk about what really turns you on ...And so much more! "Fill your life with sex, literally. Have it tangible and accessible at all times and I promise you're creative energy and your imagination are going to vibe with it and new cool experiences will start to come up.” -Alexa Martinez Screenshot your favorite part and post to your IG story tag me @ashley.hann and @thatsexchick so we can see and repost to our stories as well. Check-out Alexa's website at www.thatsexchick.com/resources to download all the resources that she mentions during the episode. Learn your Erotic Blueprint by taking the quiz at https://s.surveyanyplace.com/eroticblueprint?rid=UID_cHboXhhzI&cookieUUID=2b56d143-6b84-4eab-aba5-6884494b875d Take the BDSM Test at https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode to discover what kind of sexual deviant are you Listen to her podcast if you want to dive more into this type of conversation at https://www.thatsexchick.com/podcast Are you ready to level up and become a fully-expressed, fully-activated Female On Fire? Go to www.femaleonfire.net now! If you find this episode valuable, please please be sure to leave a rating and review! My Website: www.ashleyhann.com Instagram: @ashley.hann Twitter: @itsashleyhann YouTube: @ashleyhann

On this episode I'm joined by The Mitchels!! Making your dream comes true with orgasms... what? YES! That's what we are chatting about today!!! James & Angela can be found on Instagram at @loveintentionally.co or online at https://www.loveintentionally.co. They host couples retreats throughout the year and also offer 2 on 2 sex coaching. This is a couple who hit a fork in their sexual life and sought out help from a sex coach, Alexa Martinez, @thatsexchick. This allowed them to work on their communication and also uncover their true desires. They were already engaging in some relationship rituals and then they discovered sex magick! What is sex magick? It's sexual activity that is typically done in a spiritual, ritualistic way between self or within couples. It's a way to connect our bodies with the universal source and create true magic within our lives. Think of it as visualizing your dreams when orgasming. Sex is the magic of birthing things- what do you want to create? Erotic Blueprint is something that James & Angela mention in the episode. It can be done here for free. Dub Sutra is a GREAT playlist to listen to during your rituals! Your sex magick checklist: Stoke the fire- be affectionate and loving all daySet the room- tidy up, comfortable temp, music, sexy smells and lightingCreate the space- Dress sexy, express intentions & visualize, engage in eye gazing, breath work and massage. Co-Create your dream- Focus on visualizing the intention you set, be fully present and engage in solid aftercare. Let's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

IT’S NOT A LACK OF LIBIDO DESIRE, SHE'S JUST BORED Connect with Alexa Martinez with the link BELOW! https://linktr.ee/thatsexchick Alexa Martinez Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alexa.nicole88 Connect with Kevin FB Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/kevinjorosz/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2HF4b1Vnnpf4No0gOIX3gg IG: https://www.instagram.com/kev_oroszlan/?hl=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/KevinOroszYoga?lang=en Join The Mailing List: https://kevinorosz.com/ Links To Other Platforms to tune in from: Listen to (R)Evolution on TuneIn http://tun.in/pjf16 Check out (R)Evolution with Kevin Orosz https://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=336579 Check out (R)Evolution on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0z782QxD5erSHRPft5L2i0?si=jFYLfceSRy2b_dLZb0Ysnw Google Play Music https://play.google.com/music/m/Idwzqqs7ovw6np7hql7kpqrmgoa?t=REvolution_with_Kevin_Orosz

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The Relationship Board Meeting is something I stumbled across when I met Alexa Martinez last summer. This is a document she created to help individuals and couples map out what their week looks like in a way that leaves them feeling fulfilled by the end of it. As a sex coach herself, Alexa and her partner put their time and effort in to this in a way that is easy to digest and understand. If you don't already follow Alexa, she can be found on IG @thatsexchick. This episode we dive deep in to how to utilize a tool like this in your relationship- either with yourself of with a partner. From experience, I can say that at first this may feel awkward but I promise if you stick with it, it can be life changing. This covers everything from the weather, your cycle and next level pleasure rituals! You're in for a real treat here! A few resources mentioned in this- Grab your FREE Relationship Board Meeting Handout here- https://www.thatsexchick.com/resourcesWild Power (Book)- https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Power-Discover-Menstrual-Feminine/dp/1781807582/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3DW5I0WSP8J8Z&dchild=1&keywords=wild+power+alexandra+pope&qid=1610059645&s=books&sprefix=wild+power+%2Caps%2C158&sr=1-1Sex Magik Simplified- https://www.thatsexchick.com/podcast-episodes/that-sex-chick-x-ep-5Let's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Let’s talk about sex and BDSM with sex and relationship coach, Alexa Martinez! This conversation will expand your mind on where you can take pleasure and break any preconceived notions you may have about submission and dominance. Kelli and Alexa also talk about the shattering of identity and conditioning to reach more pleasure, how to begin working through sex shame, and what creates an orgasmic state of consciousness. Today on The Kelli Show: * From cruise ships to sex coach - Alexa’s wild Saturn return * How to create an orgasmic state of consciousness * Submissive vs. dominant & where to begin with BDSM * What comes after the shattering of your identity and beliefs * How to take responsibility for your pleasure * Navigating sex shame & giving your body a beautiful experience  This show is supported by : * Organifi | Go to organifi.com/kellit ( https://www.organifishop.com/pages/kellit ) and use the code KELLIT at checkout for 15% off. * BetterHelp | This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are struggling, please go to ( trybetterhelp.com/kelli ( http://trybetterhelp.com/kelli ) ) and receive 10% off your first month. Connect with Alexa: * thatsexchick.com ( https://www.thatsexchick.com/ ) * IG: ( https://www.instagram.com/thatsexchick/ ) @thatsexchick ( https://www.instagram.com/thatsexchick/ ) * Podcast: That Sex Chick ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-sex-chick/id1537817017 ) This show is produced by Soulfire Productions ( http://soulfireproductionsco.com/ )

Have you ever wondered if there’s more to sex than what you’ve been taught? Well, Alexa Martinez is here to show you what the more is… How sex can be edgy, playful and fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams. As a sex coach, business mentor, and intuitive guide, Alexa will take you on a journey of pleasure discovery to show you how to create your best sex life and cultivate your desires, leaving you turned on and inspired AF. So, let’s talk sex, shall we?

How’s your sex life? 1-10 scale, if 10 means you’re totally on fire!   How would you wife rate it?   When was the last time you had a totally honest chat about it?  Many guys think it’s great (and their partner may or may not agree), while other guys wish it were 10x better.  A few years ago, for me personally, my wife and I were lacking something -- spoken clearly, things were predictable, routine and boring.   Like anything in life, having an extraordinary sex life takes focus, learning, experimenting and making adjustments along the way.    I decided it was time to up my game. I started putting in the work, learning as much as I could, and having open conversations about it.  I read books, listened to podcasts, talked with friends and guess what -- I didn’t know everything. Go figure.   Since then, our sex life has caught fire.  True intimacy, on every level, is such an important part of a happy marriage, yet there are very few men who are having honest conversations about it, which is why I’ve invited sex and relationship coach, Alexa Martinez, on the podcast.  We’re talking about why sex falls out of alignment between couples and the steps you can take to start transforming your sex life right now! Gold Nuggets The four buckets of sex, and why they’re so important to have in every relationship.  How to create - and why to create - a sex magic practice.  The benefit of having as many difficult conversations as possible at the beginning of a relationship, rather than when issues arise. How to host a relationship board meeting.  How to bring the positive energy from a killer sex life into other aspects of your life. Big Questions Asked What is tantra, and how can you incorporate it into your practice, sexual or otherwise?  What steps can you take if you realize that your sex life isn’t satisfactory, and how do you bring your partner on this journey?  Why is it so common for a powerful sex life to fall out of alignment?   What does it look like when a couple’s communication is off the charts?  Why is it so hard for people to talk about sex, and how does this complicate our lives? Get the Full Show Notes Want access to the full show notes, including links to all resources mentioned during today's conversation? Visit FrontRowDads.com/242 Want to learn more about Front Row Dads? We are in the business of building better families. While most dads would say that family matters most, the challenge is they feel guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. Subscribe to the Front Row Dad podcast to learn about fatherhood, marriage and how to level up your game at home, or if you’re ready for the best coaching and true brothers to grow with, Join The Brotherhood! Are you getting all the shows? Subscribe today! Want to leave a review? THANK YOU! http://FrontRowDads.com/review

How’s your sex life? If you immediately felt a little awkward with that question, tune in to this episode with Sex and Relationship Coach, Alexa Martinez. Despite being raised in the deep south and having a Catholic upbringing, Alexa helps couples from all over the world feel happier, more connected, and empowered through sex.  In this episode, we talk about sexuality, shame, female orgasms, and how you can start having better sex. Episode Highlights:  3:24 Alexa’s Catholic upbringing and her early career on luxury cruise ships 5:00 How Alexa leaned into sex as an avenue of personal development 9:00 The problem with sex education in America 11:35 Alexa’s strategy to repair sex education 14:09 An unorthodox approach to transforming your understanding of sex 16:04 Mine and Alexa’s experiences with shame around sex  19:27 The Sex and Love Academy: A holistic healing journey 26:30 Prioritizing your partner and your love over everything else 28:41 Cultivating a love that’s different from the one you saw growing up 32:55 How to keep sex spicy in a long term relationship 34:52 A framework for cracking open the conversation around sex in your relationship 37:25 How you can express your desires with the “Want, Will, Won’t” tool 42:08 The talk that you need to have with your partner to keep intimacy alive 45:46 A non-intimidating way to explore sex with your partner 49:33 The impact that your sex life has on all of your other relationships 52:50 Understanding the female orgasm 56:54 Rituals, manifestation and creating sex magic 1:03:18 How you can get in touch with Alexa Links and Resources:  Alexa’s Website  Alexa on Instagram  Alexa’s Free Facebook Group Sex and Love Academy The Want Will Won’t List Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski Untrue by Wednesday Martin The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy Guest Bio Alexa is a sex and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her. She is known as @thatsexchick across social media and is the founder of That Sex Group, a NY Times featured community with love, sex & relationships as the central focus. Alexa speaks and teaches internationally on the subjects. Did you enjoy this episode? Please drop a comment below or leave a review on iTunes to let me know! I love hearing what you think and it helps others who want to Do It Different find the podcast as well.

Let’s talk about sex FitMama! Get ready for this interview with one of my faves!   Alexa Martinez is a sex, love, and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She helps liberate people when it comes to their sexual expression and helps them discover what their sexual desires are and achieve these and their other desires in life as a whole.   Alexa helps a wide range of people and uses multiple modalities and Alexa also can help you understand why you are not in the mood for sex. It might be because there are just so many other things going on in your life but the reasons can be much deeper for you not wanting to access and feel okay with experiencing pleasure. Because understanding what’s at play allows you to take control over how things progress so you can control the outcome.   One of the techniques that Alexa teaches is breathwork, which can help alleviate trauma by over-oxygenating the brain and body. She also shared that guided breathwork can also be incorporated in sex so that you can enjoy sex in a more tantric, more mindful, and more present way.   Alexa shares what got her into being a sex coach and how she believes that sex should not be on the bottom of one’s list because sex is a gateway and helps you access more who you are so you can be a better mother, wife, or anybody that you are, fully expressed, connected with herself and regulated in one’s own system.   One of my favorite resources (get your copy!) that Alexa shares are her Will, Want, Won’t List for couples or individuals to explore, which is a compilation of 300 items that you and your partner answer separately to crack each other’s desires. It helps a couple understand what each other wants to happen during foreplay, the sex itself, and the aftercare. The Want list includes what you desire to be done to you. The Will list includes what you will do for your partner in case your partner wants it, while the Won’t list is the hard limit and non-negotiable aspect of the list, wherein the boundary lies and it’s something you “won’t” do.   Alexa also holds the Sex and Love Academy, a 6-Week Transformational Program that will expand your sexual knowledge, improve your communication skills, and create the sex and love life you've always desired. Subscribe to join the SLA waitlist and to stay informed on when the doors will open!    You can follow Alexa Martinez on Instagram @thatsexchick and on Facebook and join That Sex Group to stay in touch!

Hello Beautiful, I am Haley Helveston. I am a Holistic Health Coach turned Sex/ Relationship Coach. I am all about empowering you to have healthier relationships sexually, spirituality, and in their health. Today I had the pleasure of interviewing Alexa Martinez. Alexa is a sex and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her. She is the founder of The Violet Butterfly & The Kaleidoscope, a blog, brand, podcast, and NY Times featured community with love, sex & relationships as the central focus. Alexa also speaks internationally on the same subjects. Key Takeaways- - Travel is a great tool for growth -Self exploration, and being willing to go for more in your sex life and relationships -Who you are in bed is who you are in life -It is about taking responsibility for your pleasure - Deep presence is the key for great sexual experiences -You must take action to create the sex life you desire and relationship you want Alexa's social media - Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/thatsexchick/ Her free download = https://alexa-martinez.mykajabi.com/want-will-wont Be sure to like and share the podcast. My links- Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/haley.helveston.3 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU49NnKO6nEAO226_Z2kdIQ?view_as=subscriber Twitter- https://twitter.com/HaleyHelveston Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/haley.helveston/ Email - helvestonhaley@gmail.com

For the foreseeable future, a good many of you relationshipped people will be cooped up at home, occupying a space that will likely feel smaller by the day…with your partner always around…likely wearing the same thing they have for the past 5 days. How do you keep the sexual heat going in such an environment? Good thing you asked – we’ve got the Queen, sex and intimacy coach Alexa Martinez, here to talk about how to keep the fire burning in the COVID era. Now this episode is more geared to those living with your romantic partner, but I’m not one of those people and I got a lot of value out of this conversation including: The power of having a weekly Relationship Board Meeting, where you each state your desires, what intimacy and attention you need that week, and where your partner is in her menstrual cycle and what she needs from you during that time How to create space while cooped up so the passion has an opportunity to generate How to leverage a process Alexa and her partner Jordan call Sexploration, which are two hour time blocks to explore new realms of sexual connection, that may not involve oral or intercourse And finally, Alexa’s recommended resources for sexual education – including a book, a Netflix documentary and an online course that’ll sharpen your sexual skills while you’re at home Who is Alexa Martinez: Alexa founded and runs The Kaleidoscope, a private, tightly curated sex-positive Facebook group of about 4,000 members. I’ve personally not found a more inclusive, educated and well run forum for any question or conversation you want to have about sex, sexuality and sexual health Alexa is a well-respected and influential voice in the sex positive community, she’ been featured in the NY Times and she’s a close personal Bryan and I Resources The Kaleidoscope Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thekaleidoscope Alexa on Instagram: @ThatSexChick Alexa’s Recommendations: KennethPlay.com – sex education blended with porn Sex Explained on Netflix Vagina by Naomi Wolf (book) Follow Om Rupani on Facebook

FitMama, this episode is steamy and eye-popping! Tune in to hear my shares from tantra and my suggestions for ways you can connect more deeply with yourself and your “person.”   Safety is the key to pleasure IMO and I share all the details about why and how in this episode. My man has made me feel so safe and I am so grateful for him! We are wired as women to open up ONLY when we feel safe, let me help you with this! I share some intimate personal details about my experiences and also share the last 3 of 6 “takeaways” from the tantra retreat my hubby and I attended in Northern Cali on Valentine's day before staying home became a way of life.   Humming and sounding Receiving only/giving only Creating rituals, planning for it, making time for each other!   I share some key people I have learned from and you can too: Kaleidoscope group – Alexa Martinez   Kenneth Play   Betty Dodson – Goop series on Netflix   Kim Anami – I love her Instagram great lessons   Hitachi magic wand vibrator   I chat about building anticipation by messaging on What’s App, I have my “How to Worship your man” video, setting up special times for you, breathing to elongate and get deeper orgasms,   I talk playing with a soft on vs. a hard-on and how to have fun with it all. Soft, squishy, in mouth, hands, playing in pants – remembering some things you did when you first got together, be playful FitMama!! Check out this free download "Worshipping your Man" Licking cock – have fun with it! Enjoy! Admire. Take the time to stop while you have a chance and admire your person! Look at them and REALLY compliment them! Really look.   Wishing you and your beautiful yoni some Fun FitMama! Your man/woman/person is waiting for you to open up and enjoy some deep loving.

Join Serena in her first 3-way interview with Sex and Relationship Coaches AND Couple: Alexa Martinez + Jordan Bowditch. These two are an idealistic 'conscious couple' who share there secrets on keeping the sex alive, the relationship healthy, and what we need to know about dating as a human this day in age. Alexa is a sex and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her. She is the founder of The Violet Butterfly & The Kaleidoscope, a blog, brand, podcast and NY Times featured community with love, sex & relationships as the central focus. Alexa also speaks internationally on the same subjects. Blog >> http://thevioletbutterfly.com/ Community >> https://www.facebook.com/groups/thekaleidoscope/ Want, Will, Won't List >> https://alexa-martinez.mykajabi.com/want-will-wont Jordan is an unapologetic #consciousbro. Silly and sincereAF, he is the bridge between the esoteric and the generic, inspiring higher truths through humor and radical authenticity. He is a men’s confidence coach, social media influencer, and event/retreat host/MC. He facilitates elevated connection by creating safe spaces to not play it safe, integrating bioenergetics, interpersonal polarity and social magnetism into his work/play. He is the Co-Founder and COO of Mystic Misfit, a conscious(ish) boy brand who host high end immersion experiences (think personal development bootcamp on steroids) and MC/facilitate events. Mystic Misfits >> https://www.mysticmisfit.com/?fbclid=IwAR1-RDl-0f6jtKUBWw5GhELaHCKTEf5YSGKBZyKTTsl01HVOXbP8tKasF0g Follow >> https://www.facebook.com/pg/jordanmauricebowditch Thank you Jordan + Alexa for sharing with us! Please leave a review + share if you liked this episode! xo --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/authenticallyme/message

Alexa Martinez is a sex and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her. She is the founder of The Violet Butterfly & The Kaleidoscope, a blog, brand, podcast and community with love, sex & relationships as the central focus. Alexa also speaks internationally on the same subjects. Alexa's Website: http://thevioletbutterfly.com/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thatsexchick Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/thatsexchick    Upcoming Retreats with Amber: http://www.epicself.com/programs   Follow Amber: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/epicself Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/amberlsears 

Alexa is a sex and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her. She is the founder of The Violet Butterfly & The Kaleidoscope, a blog, brand, podcast and NY Times featured community with love, sex & relationships as the central focus. Alexa also speaks internationally on the same subjects. In this episode Alexa dives into the topic of sex and sexuality with Alexa and Ambrosia, touching on everything from why women feel like they lose their sex drive, ways to keep the spark alive, infidelity and cheating, monogamish relationships, boundaries and how to soften. Connect with Alexa: www.instagram.com/thatsexchick www.facebook.com/groups/thekaleidoscope/ ***** For private EFT sessions with Alexa: www.alexasoothes.com For private psychic readings with Ambrosia: www.ambrosiamatthews.com ***** Help support this podcast on Patreon! If you feel like this podcast helps you in any way and you want to get more involved PLUS get some extra special bloomer perks, check out our Patreon page and see if you feel called to be one of our beautiful, magical Patrons: www.patreon.com/innerbloompodcast **** Looking to upgrade your health and your energy this year? Join us in our 40 Day Purium Nutritional Reset! Learn more about Purium: www.superfood.social Shop Purium products: www.ishoppurium.com Become a Purium brand partner: www.isharepurium.com

In this episode, Cassie talks with sex and relationship coach Alexa Martinez about moving on and finding love after a relationship ends. Topics include overcoming grief, rebound sex, knowing when you’re ready to date again, and how to learn from the past so you can ensure your new relationships are setup for success.

In this episode, Cassie talks with sex and relationship coach Alexa Martinez about moving on and finding love after a relationship ends. Topics include overcoming grief, rebound sex, knowing when you’re ready to date again, and how to learn from the past so you can ensure your new relationships are setup for success.

Alexa Martinez and Jordan Bowditch sit down with me to talk about all things sex, from kissing to BDSM, and a lot of things in between to help us all awaken and explore the territory of our sexuality, and give ourselves permission to become seekers of sexual information and education. Connect with Alexa Martinez: Website | https://thevioletbutterfly.com The Kaleidoscope | https://www.facebook.com/groups/thekaleidoscope/ Listen to Violet Butterfly Radio | https://thevioletbutterfly.com/podcast/   Connect with Jordan Bowditch:  Instagram |  https://www.instagram.com/jordanbowditch/ Mystic Misfit | https://www.mysticmisfit.com/   -Help people around the world get clean water by donating to Charity Water | cwtr.org/jp   -Join my private membership community, AwakenWithJP PremiumAF here: https://awakenwithjp.com/subscribe   -For comedy show dates and tickets: https://awakenwithjp.com/events/   -Check out the New Awaken Shirts:https://awakenwithjp.com/shop/   -Order my book: http://HowToBeUltraSpiritual.com/   Connect with me at: Website | http://www.AwakenWithJP.com Facebook | http://www.facebook.com/AwakenWithJP Instagram | http://www.Instagram.com/AwakenWithJP Twitter | http://www.twitter.com/AwakenWithJP YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/user/AwakenWithJP SnapChat: AwakenWithJP   Subscribe to the Awaken With JP Sears Show on Itunes  https://apple.co/2zMzcwr Spotify https://spoti.fi/2QtwFwH Stitcher | https://bit.ly/2Rp5eob iHeartRadio | https://ihr.fm/2SK22Zr Google Play Music | https://bit.ly/2suHlAU Android https://bit.ly/2NjzBdh   Show Notes BDSM test | https://bdsmtest.org/ Savage Lovecast | https://www.savagelovecast.com/ Shabari | https://www.autostraddle.com/shibari-101-japanese-rope-bondage-350309/ The Erotic Blueprint | https://surveyanyplace.com/s/eroticblueprint%20 Lifebook | https://www.mindvalley.com/lifebook/online/special Womanizer | https://bit.ly/2BTe8Fa Sybian | https://sybian.com/ Wednesday Martin on the Aubrey Marcus Podcast | https://bit.ly/2NtFbv8 Untrue By Wednesday Martin | https://thevioletbutterfly.com/podcast/ Esther Perel | https://www.estherperel.com/

Today I am joined by the vivacious Alexa Martinez. Alexa is a love, sex and relationship coach of The Violet Butterfly and runs the online community The Kaleidoscope. Alexa and I chat about all the things. First, how does one actually become this kind of coach? Alexa takes us inside her journey and how her own struggles liberated her experience and lead her to her current work. We discuss male/ female dynamics (especially when it comes to todays world), why communication is SO important (especially the way we do it), and well.. sex. Plus she answers your questions, such as: How do women and men understand each other better? What do I look for in a potential partner? What does my partner wish I knew about him (especially when it comes to sex) ? Porn and relationships…. good or bad? Tune in to hear more. Links Mentioned in the episode: Alexa’s Community- The Kaleidoscope  The Violet Butterfly Sex at Dawn (book)

It’s time we break the mold and start having sex-positive conversations, to create a more sex-positive world and culture. And to help me do this I’ve got Alexa Martinez on the show with me today. Alexa is a sex coach and mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She’s from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her. She’s the founder of The Violet Butterfly, a blog about love, sex & relationships and she speaks internationally on the same subjects. On today’s show we chat about: - Sex (duh!) - How Alexa’s struggle in an undersexed  relationship steered her from a degree in forensic science to becoming a “sexually curious misfit”, sex coach and mentor - Porn and sexual health - Ethical porn recommendations that focus on conscious creative porn and pleasure like Cindy Gallop - Make Love Not Porn Erika Lust - Porn with a feminine point of view - The most interesting topics covered and conversed about in her community space Non- ejaculatory orgasms Yoni eggs Threesomes and open relationships extreme love Adult breastfeeding (yup, you read that right) - BDSM -bondage, dominance-submission, sadism, masochism - How you can create a relationship model that works with you and for you - Sexual oppression and repression

Katrina Ruth: Give them a chance to get on. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. I'm ignoring you then. Katrina Ruth: Usually, what I do when I go on is pretend that I'm doing something. But, I'm not really doing. I'm just pretending that I'm doing something. Patrick Grabbs: What's that? Katrina Ruth: So, I just ... I don't know, I just fuck around. Well, usually when I go live, I start then sharing it. Hey, can I share from a group to another group? Can I share it from this into my member's programme? Patrick Grabbs: I think you can try. Katrina Ruth: No. Patrick Grabbs: Oh, no, you definitely can't. That's the thing about a group. Katrina Ruth: You can. Here's how you would do that. Do this for... [inaudible 00:00:36]. Do that one... oh, hello person! Hey! You go live and people just jump on. Patrick Grabbs: Hey, person! Katrina Ruth: They assume that you're gonna be interesting, we have no idea. Patrick Grabbs: I'm not interesting. No, I am. I am interesting. Katrina Ruth: We're always interesting. Patrick Grabbs: Interesting person. Katrina Ruth: We're interesting without the camera on, so we should be interesting with the camera on as well. Hi, Michelle! Oh my god, I'm so excited you're there. Michelle, why have we not met in person yet? It's actually starting to upset me at this point in time. Okay, so come on down. So basically what happened was we were doing that thing that you do where you're selfishly having a conversation and not broadcasting it to the world. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. We were actually pretending like we didn't know y'all were here. But now we do... Katrina Ruth: No, I mean before when they actually weren't here, when we were just literally actually talking and then you were like, we should live- Patrick Grabbs: Oh, yeah, we should livestream. I was like, because the good stuff was coming out- Katrina Ruth: We were getting into flurried conversation. Patrick Grabbs: Yes. Katrina Ruth: And you know when you're having an amazing conversation and then basically you're like, it's kind of rude to the world that we're not letting everybody listen to this? Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. Katrina Ruth: Which I think happens every time we talk, actually. Patrick Grabbs: I was thinking more like you're saying really good shit, and I was thinking some really good shit, and I was like, dude, you got to post it. Katrina Ruth: Yes. Patrick Grabbs: Another thing I thought too was, I was also like, I know you also wanted to do a livestream. I could just tell that you wanted to do one. Katrina Ruth: I think you're using that as an excuse, because you're the one who's brought it up like three times. I think everyone knows that I want to livestream all the time. Patrick Grabbs: That was her. I can tell by the look` in her eye that she wanted to livestream. Katrina Ruth: But I always want to livestream. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah [inaudible 00:02:23]. Katrina Ruth: You're basically never gonna get that wrong. No matter who you are, you're never gonna get it wrong. Just assume that I want to livestream. Patrick Grabbs: I got it right. I got it right. I knew she wanted to do it. Katrina Ruth: Unless maybe, I'm trying to think of a situation where I wouldn't want to livestream. Patrick Grabbs: I can think of a couple. Katrina Ruth: I don't think I've ... yeah. Patrick Grabbs: You don't want to take it to the bathroom. Have you ever live streamed in the bathroom? Katrina Ruth: Definitely from the bathtub. Patrick Grabbs: From the tub? Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. What about from the... Katrina Ruth: I put up a bikini top on. Patrick Grabbs: What about from the [inaudible 00:02:49], from the john, as y'all say in Australia. Katrina Ruth: I've been tempted, but no, I haven't live streamed from the bathroom. Patrick Grabbs: In Australia do the toilets go around the other way or do they go around the right way? Katrina Ruth: Who is freaking looking? What do you mean who's this guy? Who's this guy? I just bring random people into livestream. Patrick Grabbs: I'm what they call a rand-o. Katrina Ruth: Well, he's tagged into the livestream. This is Patrick. Patrick Grabbs: What's up? Katrina Ruth: Everybody this is Patrick. He's gonna tell you some very important things about ... I guess we'll get to that when we get to it. You're gonna have to wait and see. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. When we get back, I want to get into the flow of things. Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: Why is it ... When the thing, when the camera comes on, you kinda... Katrina Ruth: The spirit takes over. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. For me it's kinda like now, I don't know the camera's on and I'm like already trying to gear back into what we were talking about almost, or how do we ... Katrina Ruth: Okay. Patrick Grabbs: I feel like I was pulled out. Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Okay. Let's go back. This is what I posted. I said come on over to the Daily Ask [inaudible 00:03:48]. I said we're gonna talk about stage fright and feeling like, do I have anything to say? Cause you were like I wanna go live. I'm starting to want to go live all the time, but then I don't have a topic or something. Patrick Grabbs: Right. Katrina Ruth: Or, I don't have anything to say. And then gave me kind of like a slightly, I'm gonna call it a ... what's that word called? Sheepish look?. Like he knew that you were talking bullshit. Like a slightly sheepish look. No, you knew that the real reason you weren't just jumping in and going live is more like an uncertainty or a fear that what if I don't think of enough interesting stuff. Patrick Grabbs: Well even as soon as you said it, it like snapped at me, I was like oh shit, obviously, you can just talk about that. You know, you can just get on there and talk about that. I was telling you about whenever I ... Now, my decision is to do more live videos than I have been doing, and you're gonna see a lot more of it, and I have totally immersed myself in that for the past while. For the past few years I have kind of been ... I've been tied up with another business so I haven't really been ... I've been focusing 100 percent on myself, and the content that I put out there, in which occasionally I'll drop some things on Instagram. I'll drop some things on Facebook. Facebook is like real crazy. Katrina Ruth: You message a different person on your Instagram stories. Patrick Grabbs: Really? Katrina Ruth: You go into powerful badass there and then you hide more on Facebook. Patrick Grabbs: Really? Katrina Ruth: Are we gonna turn it into an expose on you? I feel like this is now gonna be the show about ... Patrick Grabbs: So you like my Instagram stuff more than my Facebook stuff? Katrina Ruth: Cause you said to me something about how you knew you weren't sure. I think we have to introduce you to people because I think we're basically just ... Patrick Grabbs: By the way. Cheers. Katrina Ruth: We're drinking some very impressive French wine. Patrick Grabbs: And my impressive French china. Katrina Ruth: Appropriate Texan china. I think it's Texan. Patrick Grabbs: This is from France. This might be China. Katrina Ruth: It's from China. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. Katrina Ruth: It's not china, but it's from China. Patrick Grabbs: It's fine china. Katrina Ruth: I think at some point we should introduce you, because we're both just operating under the assumption that everybody here knows who you are. Patrick Grabbs: That's you. I was thinking this from the get go. I'm like, you might want to introduce your guest on your link. Now you come to my group, I'm going to introduce you first, here's Kat. Katrina Ruth: I'm a lot less formal than that. Patrick Grabbs: I'm gonna introduce you real quick. Katrina Ruth: Oh okay. Patrick Grabbs: Alright on your own livestream. Everybody this is the one and the only Katrina Ruth. She is a 100 times bestseller, I believe, right? Yes, you have like 1,000 books if you go to her page, you'll see a 1,000 books, I tried to scroll through one day and I was like I got bored and I was like fuck this I'm gonna scroll through all these books. There's a 1,000 books here. She has a 1,000 books, and she's world famous, world renowned for changing people's mindsets and getting them in a better situation totally. Completely will change your fucking mind about life, about business, about power, about everything. Patrick Grabbs: You must listen to her. Ladies and gentlemen Katrina Ruth. Give her a nice warm smiley face or a heart. Katrina Ruth: A heart explosion. Patrick Grabbs: A heart explosion yes. See hearts exploding right now. Katrina Ruth: I feel a bit shy now. That was quite an impressive introduction. Oh my god. Patrick Grabbs: We were just talking about that. I don't believe you're shy. Katrina Ruth: Actually we're gonna tell that story in a minute. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. Alright cool. I gotta remember that. Katrina Ruth: Okay. We'll come back... Patrick Grabbs: Like we're gonna remember that shit. Katrina Ruth: Remind us to tell ... just no need to drop, you know, too much like you were just doing before, but the story of how I ... yeah. Patrick Grabbs: Don't drop you into a what? Katrina Ruth: I don't know what you were doing, like a little impression of me. Patrick Grabbs: That's happened. That's definitely happened to me, because I do the best impression of you, you know that. Katrina Ruth: This is Patrick. The one and only Patrick Grabbs. Actually, if you go to his page today, and why would you not, cause it is today. You're gonna read a really powerful story. Katrina Ruth: This man is probably what I would call the most secret mystery messenger on Facebook, because he has one of the most powerful messages that I've ever encountered in my life, but has really been keeping it predominantly to himself, and maybe me and a few other people, and not sharing it with the world. He's just as of ... is today officially day one? Patrick Grabbs: Yesterday was ... what's today? Friday. Today Friday? Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah it's Friday. Katrina Ruth: Friday is day one. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, yesterday was day one. Bet no better time than yesterday. Katrina Ruth: So yesterday is day one of going fully into his own business, own freedom lifestyle. This is something that's been coming well over since we've known each other, which is a couple years now, and it's huge, and I'm like maybe ... I feel like I might even be almost more excited than you, because for as long as we've known each other, I've been like you're so fucking powerful, your message is so powerful. Any teeny little offering that you ever put out to the internet is so powerful, but then, mainly just not been saying it and now basically the world is about to be lit up with a new powerful messenger and leader on mindset, on transformation. Katrina Ruth: This is one of the very few people in the world who actually kinda calls me on my bullshit and makes me question some of my own beliefs and thoughts. That's extremely rare, mainly cause people, particularly men, are typically scared to confront me. That doesn't happen here, and so I think that if you connect to Patrick and follow him, you're gonna get some really good stuff coming through that's gonna get you thinking. Probably, I don't know some inappropriate or irreverent shit as well I would say. Patrick Grabbs: I try. I'm trying to just be purely inspirational, but you know, I talk shit too. Katrina Ruth: You have to, because otherwise ... did you read my blog today? Patrick Grabbs: Which one? I'm pretty sure I did. Katrina Ruth: "Your Tribe Needs You." The one about ... you got to read it. It think it was one of the best blogs I've ever done. Patrick Grabbs: Damn, now I have to stop and read it. I'll talk to you guys in a little bit. Katrina Ruth: We're gonna go to commercial break. We're gonna read the blog together, and then we're gonna come back. It's called "Your Tribe Needs You Now More Than Ever. Are You Prepared? Now More Than Ever Your Tribe Needs you to Step Up". Katrina Ruth: But it's all about what it means to be a real leader. Patrick Grabbs: Really? Katrina Ruth: You got to read this blog. You'll love that blog. Patrick Grabbs: I'm feeling like this is maybe for me here. I'm feeling like this might be for me. Katrina Ruth: It's for everyone. Patrick Grabbs: I feel ... I'm selfish, I feel like it's for me. Katrina Ruth: Hang on, what was I saying? If you're gonna be a leader and a messenger, you've gotta bring the random, silly, entertaining, crazy side of things as well, right? Patrick Grabbs: Playfulness, right. Katrina Ruth: The same you, you are off camera should show up on camera. Patrick Grabbs: I often get ... I'm one of the worst, because I like to push, and this is a big thing for me is that ... I know the reason that I really don't message as much as I know I should is because I'm one of those people that has always liked to push the envelope, and push boundaries of what people think as cool or what they think is appropriate. I'm talking like a lot a lot, like further than people normally ... I like to talk politics. I like to talk religion. I like to talk any of that shit, and I'll call people out. I don't feel like anybody could say anything to me that would sway ... People could say, definitely, I'm open for people to change my mind, and I've had my mind changed plenty of times. Patrick Grabbs: I've got a lot of friends that would ... Even people that you would think we don't get along, right. I'm a conservative guy to a point. I'm more like a libertarian, and I have definitely some really far out there left wing friends, but we still get along, and we talk shit, and people would think that I wouldn't get along with them, but they've changed my mind on multiple occasions, but I just think occasionally I'm gonna just drop something out of my mouth, and it's gonna be the world just stops and oh shit. Katrina Ruth: But I've done that, you've seen me do that. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, you have. Katrina Ruth: The Trump thing. Debra remembers. Debra was pretty angry at me about that. Debra just ... You know when I said, "You're one of the few people that confronts me." Debra commented and said, I'm not scared to confront you. I'm like that's true. We've definitely had ... We've butted heads a few times. I think if you're going to be authentic as a messenger, there's occasionally gonna be times where you say something, and you're like fuck. I kind of really wish I didn't say that. That just kind of popped out. Katrina Ruth: You can't have it both ways. You're either committed to being authentic, and committed to showing up or not right? Patrick Grabbs: I've actually got a story. So, behind that. Patrick Grabbs: I was in the cab not to long ago. I got into the cab ... I got into a car, a cab, I just came out of the bar, and I was a little bit drunk, and I got into the cab. Fortunately, this lady was kind enough to take me home. My Uber wasn't downloading or uploading or whatever. I got into the car, and she started to talk to me, and we were talking about everything. She was a Muslim lady. We got into a very, very heated argument about all sorts of stuff. About guns. She didn't like guns, and I was very passionate about that, and we back and forth, back and forth, right? Patrick Grabbs: Probably not a normal conversation that I would have. It wasn't an Uber, it was actually a cab. The next day, I was just beating myself up about this, because I'm also thinking maybe she just ... What if she recorded me, and I was saying this stuff, because I'm telling her, "This is America, you should adapt to our culture, if you're gonna be here." There is definitely other countries you can go fucking live in, instead of this place. If you don't have ... if you're not with our values, you know what I'm saying, if you don't like the way that this place is set up, there's certainly other places to go. This is gun ... the second amendment is firmly into this culture, and I thought to myself, I really went off. She was heated back at me, don't get me wrong, this wasn't a one way street. She was yelling back at me. She was a badass bitch. She's not gonna just sit down and not tell you, she's like, I don't believe in that. I just don't believe in it. Katrina Ruth: She's serving it back to you. Patrick Grabbs: She's serving me back, and we got in a real heated argument, and the next day, I'm like oh my god, I'm gonna end up being- Katrina Ruth: You're gonna be on the news. Patrick Grabbs: For a week, and y'all can ask some people, for like a week I was- Katrina Ruth: Aggressive cab passenger. Patrick Grabbs: I was looking for myself on those ... I was on Twitter all day long. I was looking for this racist rant. You know what I'm saying. I was looking for my face on the racist rant goes crazy. This redneck going crazy on this lady, and it never came up. She was cool, she was just ... then I thought about it though. The next day I thought about it, and I thought to myself, you know, I was speaking my mind though. Regardless of what I think, what she would post up there, regardless of how anybody would try to spin that. It was the absolute fucking truth. The absolute what I believed in, and I just let it out. She let me have what she believed, and I let her have what I believed, and I took it, and I received what she was saying, and then I interpreted it back to her, you know? Patrick Grabbs: My arguments were obviously better, but I just thought in this world, you know, there are so many things that are trying to, there's people that are trying to silence your voice, and at the end of the day, after that, I just felt like, that it was meant to be. It was meant for me to say that to her. Katrina Ruth: To express yourself as well. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. Exactly. Katrina Ruth: Yeah. There you go. So much for not having anything to talk about. Ryan says no wonder you're not returning his texts, and how come he's finding out on here from you? Well, hi, let's hang out tomorrow. I'm sorry. Patrick Grabbs: We'll hang out tomorrow. We're hanging out tomorrow. Katrina Ruth: Sorry I'm kind of quiet, until I tell people what I'm doing most of the time, isn't that true? Patrick Grabbs: Ryan can just come over if he's... [crosstalk 00:15:37] maybe he changed his mind, and just wants to come over and hang out with us tonight, but Ryan, I messaged Ryan, you know, I talked to Ryan that day. He's my mentor. I totally went up to him and I'm like, "I'm so scared, I'm freaking out. I don't wanna end up on this racist rant thing." He's one of the first people I went, I always go to him whenever I do something fucking stupid. But that wasn't really, not a thing, I was not stupid ... I go Ryan and Ryan's like, "Dude, I went off. You can go look at my post, I went off of Muslims one time, dude. It's not big deal. Check it out." Patrick Grabbs: It made me feel, it's whatever. Tensions run high, we argue, and we learn from each other. Katrina Ruth: It's life. Patrick Grabbs: It is what it is. Yeah, we do that. Katrina Ruth: Alright. Tell the story though, tell the introverted story because I think this is actually an important one for people to hear. We were talking about, as you now begin your business fully by yourself, that one of the things you definitely are gonna is obviously share your own insecurities, and fears, and doubts, and the things that have held you back. And then I said, you know, it's kinda like the [inaudible 00:16:39] business. People love me and resonate with me because I bring it, and I bring the fire and the passion, and I have the results that are obviously aspirational, but also because I'm really real. And I said that my only problem is that I feel like a lot of the time, people don't believe me. I was saying this half an hour ago, I was like, if I try and tell people I'm really introverted by nature, they're like, "Okay, Kat." Katrina Ruth: So, tell your story. Patrick Grabbs: Well, for one, she's introverted as hell. One of the most introverted people I've ever met. Just to go into the story, so you know what happened, she came out one time, to come to Dallas, and come party, well not really party, right? I just said, "Let's go to a bar." Patrick Grabbs: I'm always thinking of cool stuff to do- Katrina Ruth: I think I came to keynote at an entrepreneur event, if you remember that event. Katrina Ruth: This was like April last year, I didn't come to party. Patrick Grabbs: We talked about that event. That's another story. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, that's a whole thing. We went out for drinks. Patrick Grabbs: We did went out for drinks. Katrina Ruth: With Reagan. Patrick Grabbs: Reagan was there, you were there. I was like, let's go to somewhere cool- Katrina Ruth: Oh, and what's his name? Alex. Patrick Grabbs: Who's that? Katrina Ruth: Alex? Patrick Grabbs: Alex? Katrina Ruth: Alex Pace? Patrick Grabbs: Alex Pace, yeah. Video guy was with us. We go down to Deep Ellum, this place in Deep Ellum that's kinda hip. I always like to do something cool when Kat's in town. I like to try to find something new and different- Katrina Ruth: He does. He always takes me somewhere really interesting, new, and different. Always things a lot about, like you always think about doing something really cool. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, it comes though, it comes though. So, okay, if I was from Australia, and I was- Katrina Ruth: You sounded British. Patrick Grabbs: And I enjoyed Vegemite- Katrina Ruth: You sound British. Patrick Grabbs: Where would I go? Where would I want to go? That's what I think, and that's where I take her. I figure out a good spot. Patrick Grabbs: So, anyways, I took her to one of the happening spots. Unfortunately, this time it was a bad decision. The last time I took her to a really cool lowdown- Katrina Ruth: Dive bar. Patrick Grabbs: It was a dive bar. Katrina Ruth: Oh, the blues bar. Patrick Grabbs: A blues bar. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, that was so cool. See, that's more my vibe. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. It's like laid back, people are chilling. Katrina Ruth: It was really cool. Patrick Grabbs: So, this time I took her and Reagan, cause I'm thinking, okay, two chicks, they're probably wanting to go hang out and have a little more high vibe, right, type of place. Patrick Grabbs: So, we go over to Deep Ellum, and it's more of a ... It's this bar called Stir there, and it's kinda packed. It's one of the most happening spots you can go to, it's called Stir- Katrina Ruth: Super cool. Patrick Grabbs: Super cool. Super- Katrina Ruth: Intimidatingly cool. Patrick Grabbs: Intimidatingly cool. Patrick Grabbs: It's like one little row of people standing by the bar, and it's kinda hard to work your way through. Anyways, when I got them up there, they kind of walked over to the end of the bar, and they just all of a sudden, it was the weirdest thing, when I took you over to the blues bar, you were like just jamming out and having a good time, I guess cause you had more room- Katrina Ruth: Yeah, but I think you were giving me Jager shots as well. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, Jager shots. They claim to have created the first Jager Bomb, I don't know if it's a fact. Katrina Ruth: The oldest blues bar in Dallas, or something. Patrick Grabbs: It's the oldest blues bar, apparently, it's called The Goat. If you write it down, if you're ever in Dallas, check it out. Patrick Grabbs: So, we go to Stir, and we go down to the end of the bar, and immediately, they just start huddling up like this. It was the craziest thing. Reagan, she has a cut like this, on the side. Katrina Ruth: She looks badass. Patrick Grabbs: Looking like a badass. Katrina Ruth: She is badass, she's badass. Patrick Grabbs: She is a badass, she's got like a Skrillex haircut thing going. You had the red hair at the time, so you're badass. Katrina Ruth: Everybody knows I'm a badass. Technically, you know I'm a badass. Except that now you know me, so you know it's like one- Patrick Grabbs: So, they just all of a sudden, went down like this, like shell. It seemed like they were attracting people to like spill drinks on them, and to like throw elbows at them, and stuff like that. Patrick Grabbs: I kind of had to shield them. But, I was like, "Oh my god." Katrina Ruth: We were like Siamese twins together. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, Siamese twins. They were like joined at the hip. Patrick Grabbs: From the looks of them, I thought they were gonna be like boom, like Coyote Ugly on the dance floor. Katrina Ruth: This was ages ago. This was, I guess when you didn't know me as well. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, I thought that was what was gonna happen, and they were totally ... It was not that. But, you know, most of the time, I met you, I know you, I know Reagan, I know Ryan Stewman, he does the same kind of shit- Katrina Ruth: [crosstalk 00:21:09] introverts. Patrick Grabbs: The one's that are out there on the camera are introverts, for the most part, I think. Katrina Ruth: That's true. It's bringing a piece of you out ... like, this is what I'm constantly trying to explain to people, even going live, like okay, I'm pretty freaking practised at going live, so I wouldn't say I have nerves about going live, but I still have insecurities, oftentimes I'll have an idea for a topic and I'm like, "Well, that's kind of lame," or "It's shit." Katrina Ruth: Or sometimes, when I get started, god forbid, the flow doesn't take over me, which it now has, we're good, we're in flow- Patrick Grabbs: Yes. Katrina Ruth: But if that doesn't happen, then you're like, "Fuck." You feel like I'm out here freaking naked without a towel, and I've got nothing, and there's people here. That happens on occasion, and what do you do? You're not gonna be like, "Oh, well. I changed my mind." Let's finish and just leave. You've gotta bring it. Katrina Ruth: Being a leader is about stepping into what you know is inside of you, and even like, you did a livestream the other day, and then, in your private group, [inaudible 00:22:08] download it and send it to me, and I looked at it. You said to me that you were nervous and everything, and then when I watched that live, if anybody would watch that, you were freaking dancing at the start, you had your tunes on, you were just like throwing it down, and then gave your message, and went into messaging and preaching. Nobody would remotely think for a second that you were unsure of yourself. Patrick Grabbs: Right. Well, I mean, you never know when you watch it. I try not to watch the stuff again. Do you ever watch your stuff? Katrina Ruth: Oh, yeah. I drop some good stuff. Patrick Grabbs: Oh my god, that's fire. Fire! (laughter) Katrina Ruth: I do. Okay, but I'll tell you why. Because when I'm on a livestream, and the flow takes over me, I have no fucking clue what I'm saying. I'm in preacher mode, I'm like downloading and channelling it, and so then, sometimes later if I'm driving, or- Patrick Grabbs: Would you say you're almost like in ... You got the spirit inside you? Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah? Katrina Ruth: Yeah. I'm filled with the message of truth. Patrick Grabbs: The holy ghost. Katrina Ruth: I was gonna say that, but I'm gonna go with message of truth. That was more like a [inaudible 00:23:13] that nearly came up out of me. And so, then I don't know what I said. And so then, if I'm driving along, or maybe at the gym, or on a walk or something, sometimes I'll listen to my livestream replays. And I'll watch them. Because I wanna see how many times people gave me funny emojis, and I get pretty shitty if I didn't get the laughing emojis. That's actually what I look for. Patrick Grabbs: You would've laughed. Katrina Ruth: I want people to laugh at me. I actually look for the laughing emojis more, I don't like at my sales you guys, I don't look for how many sales I made, I look for laughing emojis. Patrick Grabbs: Does your audience know you're looking for the laughing emojis? Have you ever told them before? Katrina Ruth: No, but why I would I need to tell them because I'm fucking hilarious. They already know that. They're gonna laugh automatically. But then I'm wanting the validation of seeing the laugh emojis on the replay. Patrick Grabbs: Bonus points if you're laughing emojis. That's how you- Katrina Ruth: But then, when I watch my replays, honestly, I'm often like, well this is fucking brilliant. Somebody should be making notes here, this is some powerful ... I should listen to this, is what I'm often thinking. Patrick Grabbs: This is hot fire. Katrina Ruth: I'm like, "Shit. I need to hear this." Katrina Ruth: The way that you know you'll never run out of content is, you only are always saying what you need to hear for yourself. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. You're talking to yourself. Katrina Ruth: Right. Patrick Grabbs: That's what I've been trying to do. I've been trying to like ... When I turn the camera on, and you told me this a long time ago, I'm trying to talk to myself. And actually, what I'm really trying to do is, and if I can get in the stick to doing this, then it'll be a lot better I think, but what I'm trying to do is, I'm trying to talk to myself. I'm trying to talk to myself ten years ago. Katrina Ruth: Right. Patrick Grabbs: When I first got out of prison. I'm trying to tell myself the things that would change my mind and make me accelerate the process of getting to where I'm at today. Katrina Ruth: Maybe you should tell some of that story because you just kinda dropped that in there. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, I just dropped that- Katrina Ruth: Just like, curve ball. Patrick Grabbs: Just to do it quickly, well, I guess I don't have to do it quickly, but 2006, at the height of Myspace, you know, I had just gotten a Myspace account, but ... Katrina Ruth: I love how that's a pivotal ... I'm like, what did you say? Patrick Grabbs: Pivotal moment. Katrina Ruth: Did you just say, "At the height of Myspace?" Patrick Grabbs: Tom, you're my best friend. Katrina Ruth: So, not referencing the global recession. Just so we know, the timing was, the height of Myspace. Patrick Grabbs: This is a different time. This is a different time. Katrina Ruth: So, we all understand the year now. Patrick Grabbs: But, I do come from kind of a fucked up upbringing. Grew up in a trailer park, born in a trailer park. Poor, very poor family. Mom had three boys, took care of them by herself. Tornado bait, pretty much. I ended up hanging out with the wrong people obviously, because my mom was gone all the time. She was never home, so we ended up being bad kids. I have two brothers. Constantly doing bad shit. Eventually, hung out with gangs. Got into a gang and eventually ended up going to prison. Got hooked on Meth. For five years I was hooked on Meth. And went to prison for two years. It's been ten years since I got out. Stealing cars, burglary, all sorts of crazy stuff, just because I liked the adrenaline. That's the thing about Meth, you like the adrenaline. I was an adrenaline junkie at the time. Patrick Grabbs: So, two years. Got out in 2008. Didn't go back. When I was in there, that's when I started getting into [inaudible 00:26:50]. I read Tony Robbins. My first Tony Robbins book I read was in there, and so, that kinda got my mind right. When I got out, I just had a plan not to go back. And I've always been into computers, so I just various things on the computer for years and years and years. And it took me just until three years ago, to really realise that you know, you need to higher a mentor, and befriend mentors, and constantly level up. Patrick Grabbs: You have to invest in yourself, and that's the part that I didn't really understand. The investing in yourself part. I know that everybody's gonna be like, "Oh, fuck. You gonna talk about spending money all the time?" Katrina Ruth: They're down with it. Patrick Grabbs: They're down with it, yeah. Katrina Ruth: They wanna hear- Patrick Grabbs: Y'all are down. Katrina Ruth: They wanna hear this. They're like, tell us how to spend our money. Patrick Grabbs: I wouldn't spend a dollar on myself, but I was the smartest on the computer. Like, I did so much stuff. I've been doing League Generation for a long time, but I was always held back by one thing. That I wouldn't actually spend a dollar on myself, on my own education. I wouldn't do it. Just refused to because I was so smart, I would go on YouTube, and just look at all the videos on how to do this and that, and I was just too smart for my own good, and wouldn't do that. Patrick Grabbs: Three years ago, met my biggest mentor of my life, Ryan Stewman, and he showed me how to really invest in myself, and showed me what that was all about. From there, it was just a trajectory, and here we are today. Katrina Ruth: Growth pathway. Patrick Grabbs: Yep. Katrina Ruth: Which never ends. Patrick Grabbs: To the next level, yep. So now, constantly spending money to level up on myself. It's not a problem. Yeah, here we are. Patrick Grabbs: Started my first business [inaudible 00:28:34]. It helped, staying with Ryan for three years while I was training and building, and actually we took a business from, you know, I don't know what he was doing whenever I met him, probably like $30,000 a month. He's up to, I think, $5 million now. Katrina Ruth: $5 million a month? Patrick Grabbs: A year. (laughter) Katrina Ruth: I was like, "Fuck. How come I don't know this?" Patrick Grabbs: I think he's [crosstalk 00:28:51]. I don't know how much he does, yeah. I think it's a little more. Somewhere around that. Katrina Ruth: A lot of you guys know Ryan because I speak about Ryan quite a lot, and Ryan's really a close friend of mine, and he's here in this group, and possibly on this livestream, but he probably already left. Patrick Grabbs: He likes to hear himself talk. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, he'd be on the livestream if he was on this side of the camera. He's like, "I'm not watching." Patrick Grabbs: "I'm out!" Katrina Ruth: I don't know, maybe he's there. Patrick Grabbs: He's like, "Patrick, good luck. Have a good time, I'm out." Katrina Ruth: Which is how met, through Ryan anyhow. But it's just that thing of going well, at some point you're gonna break free. I didn't even say that on purpose. Patrick Grabbs: There you go. Katrina Ruth: Break free and- Patrick Grabbs: Shameless plug. Katrina Ruth: Follow your own stuff, right? Katrina Ruth: But then it's gonna come with all this stuff that comes with it. The fear stuff, and the am I good enough stuff, and also, I guess, what we were talking about in the car, earlier, from the airport about, what to spend your time on. Most people, when they're trying to build your business, are so conscious of all this shit that has to be done, and we were talking about how, no matter what all this stuff is that's going on, that you wanna do, or you gotta do, you gotta be doing the daily priorities, which my, like what I would stand by and swear by, is it's gonna be your own inner-working [inaudible 00:30:07], messaging and communication to your audience. And obviously, selling is part of that, right? And then everything else comes after that because if you be that voice, and you be that person who's showing up. What are we even talking about? This is a powerful livestream but all we did was turn the camera on on a conversation that we were having off camera, and then we created content. And we're creating value. Katrina Ruth: That's all you do, every single day. You just create value. But most people won't do it because they don't get that this is what actually builds the business, and/or their insecurities beat them, and they feel like, yeah, but okay, right? I know people would think this, that, "Oh, but that's Kat," or that's whoever, or that's Ryan, or soon enough, it's gonna be, "That's Patrick," right? And like, I'm not this and I'm not that. Katrina Ruth: The story about me hiding, covered up, like me and Reagan, like little koalas up against each other in the corner of the bar, while he had to basically protect us from the people. Patrick Grabbs: Like a damn cocoon or something like that. Katrina Ruth: We were like, "Get us out of here." Patrick Grabbs: Eject, eject. Katrina Ruth: Eject. (laughter) Katrina Ruth: It just shows, it's me showing up everyday the way I do my business, and this is true for all my high-earning friends and clients as well, is it's a fucking choice. You know that that's inside of you and you feel that calling, you've had that calling since the day I met you. Every person here has that calling. I've had that calling since I can even remember. It's not about waiting til the point where one day you think you're gonna wake up, and you're gonna be like, "Sweet. Now I know I'm fucking amazing, and I'm ready to go, and everybody should listen to me." It's about taking what's inside of you and allowing that to be bigger than your insecurities and fears. Getting over your own self. Katrina Ruth: Actually, I have this, I think we spoke about this on the phone the other night, but I speak about this with clients all the time, people worry that ... They think if I just start messaging and preaching to people all the time, doesn't that make me a bit full of myself, like I think I'm so good, and that it's an ego thing. Right? Katrina Ruth: People are concerned that, kind of like, who am I to think that I should get to tell everyone to listen to me, or something like that. It's not egotistical to think that people should listen to your message. It's actually egotistical to not share your message, and the reason is, if you don't share your message, then what you're saying is, your own human, insecure self, is more important than the message inside of you that is meant to go out to the world. So, get the fuck over yourself. Don't make it about you, make it about the message. Patrick Grabbs: Definitely. Definitely. Patrick Grabbs: And yeah, I don't know what to add- Katrina Ruth: I felt like you were gonna add something? Patrick Grabbs: I was gonna add something now, I like it. I'm with it. Yeah. Katrina Ruth: Debra said, "We all know Kat does nothing." Oh, this is amazing comment. I'm gonna screenshot that and use it for a testimonial. Debra says, "We all know Kat does nothing and everything all in the same moment." That is probably, I feel like Debra, I'm gonna give you a free place in my high ticket sales workshop. I'm gonna give you that because that is probably the single best way anybody's ever described what I actually do. Patrick Grabbs: Nothing and everything all in the same moment. Katrina Ruth: What do you think about that comment? Patrick Grabbs: I think she's trying to say you're kind of like Jesus. Doesn't he do that? Katrina Ruth: I don't want ... Does he? Patrick Grabbs: You don't want the comparison. I got you. Katrina Ruth: I don't want to be Jesus. Patrick Grabbs: It's all good. Katrina Ruth: I wanna be Katrina Fucking Ruth. Patrick Grabbs: Oh, okay. Be Katrina Ruth. You can be Jesus. How about that, Jesus? Katrina Ruth: I guess I have a somewhat spicy flair. (laughter) Not really, but I use the Spanish flamenco dancer emoji a lot, so close enough. Katrina Ruth: That comment's everything. Because it's exactly what I was saying to you on the drive from the airport. I was like, "I kind of do nothing. I only do exactly what I want all the time. I feel like I do nothing." Oftentimes I'm like, this is almost like ... Somebody should report me for getting away with this because I feel like I'm just kind of fucking around all the time, and having the best time ever. And I just make shit up and I throw it at the internet, and I do whatever I want all day long. Most of the time, I feel like I do nothing. Katrina Ruth: We were messaging about this yesterday, as well. You're like, I'm gonna do the flow and ease way, the way you do it, and the way ... You mentioned Amanda, one of my clients, Amanda's so cool, you've seen how Amanda does it. That's how we do it in this world. There's entrepreneurs out there who do it the hard way. You've seen I don't do that. I do it the flow and easy way and that's what many so-called clients do, and my friends as well. Katrina Ruth: So, it feels like I do nothing. But then, technically, if you were to follow me around for a week and live my life, I don't feel ... I actually, really, logistically? Legitimately. Logistically also, I do move around a lot. But legitimately, I really don't feel most people would be able to keep up with it, they would just be like, "What in the actual fuck?" But I feel like I do nothing because it's all based on flow and ease. It's based on, I only do what I want. Patrick Grabbs: You told me that though, too. I just know you, I've been hanging out with you for a long time, I guess a long time now, what I consider a long time, and so, I know how it's done. And then, to see your friend, she comes and does the same thing- Katrina Ruth: Amanda, yeah. Patrick Grabbs: And then I see other people doing it and everything like that. Of course, I know tonnes of people who do it the hard way. My good buddy, he does it the hard way. Katrina Ruth: Most people are committed to the hard way. Patrick Grabbs: They like to do it the hard way. Katrina Ruth: It's like a badge of honour, do you think? Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. It is, yeah for sure. Or, you feel like that you are going to be able to provide a better service to your clients by doing it the hard way, so that you have the experience. Katrina Ruth: You proved yourself more, or it's more meaningful. Patrick Grabbs: But, you've been doing it the hard way the whole time, you know what I mean? Katrina Ruth: It's a really good point though, because back in the day, there were times when I would reschedule for example, a training or a client call, and I would've made up an excuse, which I know is what most people do. I would've said something like, traffic or such and such happened, or whatever. Whereas now, actually one of my good friends, well he's a mentor of a client actually, Dan Thomas, he put a post up a month or so ago. He put a screenshot of his conversation with a client, and I just thought it was hilarious cause this is how I do it now. You could see on the message thread, it said, "Sorry I was 15 minutes for our call. I was sitting on the toilet watching reruns of," I don't know, some show on Netflix. Patrick Grabbs: Nice. Katrina Ruth: Just straight up, right? It was so funny because he just was like, "I forgot that our call was on. I was on the toilet watching Netflix." And he said it. Patrick Grabbs: He said that? Katrina Ruth: Yeah, to his client. Patrick Grabbs: That's good to say it. Katrina Ruth: People don't do that, right? They'd be like, "Sorry I was late. A dramatic thing happened in my life. And you don't understand," and I'm the same as well now. I rescheduled the high vibe livestream, for those who [inaudible 00:37:18], it was on Sunday, I think it was, whenever I flew into New York, the first day. Because I flew in and I was like, I really wanna go to yoga. Like, I really fucking wanna go to yoga, but the high vibe livestream is right in the middle of class, so I just moved it by an hour, and then I said that. I was like, I wanted to go to yoga. And I'm teaching you guys flow and ease, and I'm teaching you that you always get to follow your souls desires. So, I'm going to tell you that my soul desired that I go to yoga and I choose to believe that it's always perfect. Everything's always okay. I don't have to follow the normal business or entrepreneur rules that say you must always be professional, and you must do it like this. With a friend, if you had plans with a friend, and then you really felt like, you know what, I really need some time for myself, I really wanna go workout, or I really wanna whatever- Patrick Grabbs: Just do it. Katrina Ruth: You would just tell your friend, "Hey, can we push it by an hour," right? Why do you wanna lie in your business, or why do wanna have a mask or a shield up? When you do that, you will not call in soulmate clients. Patrick Grabbs: Bam. Yeah, you're out. Katrina Ruth: You can't. You're only gonna have clients who are [inaudible 00:38:16], and they are high maintenance motherfuckers that you just don't really want to have to deal with. Patrick Grabbs: Or, if you're trying to work around with their schedule, too. You won't be able to make it that far doing that anyways. Katrina Ruth: Bowing down to your clients, and yeah, that's a fear. The only reason to do that would be like, fear and insecurity of not getting the business. Patrick Grabbs: I found myself kind of getting [inaudible 00:38:37] because I'm not the only one who went on his own. One of my best friends actually did the same thing- Katrina Ruth: You should tag him in. He's a nice guy. Patrick Grabbs: Ryan Stewman, great guy. He bred two great entrepreneurs and put us out there, it's awesome. My buddy, so I'm now consulting him in his marketing business. He's just all over the place. Today, we were all over, he's like a hustler, so he's on the phone calling, calling, calling, calling. But he also hasn't been in this as long as I have, and hasn't watched all the things, hasn't spent as much time as I spend around people like Kat and people who think like this, with this very ease of life mentality. I'm very interested in it, and so I've always kind of watched every video I could find on it. Patrick Grabbs: Today, this is the first day of our business, to be out here doing it. Each of our business, our brand new businesses. He's off to the races, and I'm just like, how can I do? What can I do? Like, he's running around the house like up here in the front, and I'm like, what can I do to ... I'm just sitting here thinking. Just letting my mind kind of just go, you know? What am I ... I can't remember what the top of my priority was to do. I'm like, my neck's kind of fucked up. I got in a wreck, so I've just been thinking about this neck. I wasn't really ... I'm not in a big rush because I just understand one thing. Money is gonna come. Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: I made it happen too many times in my life. It's such a easy thing to do. Based on what I believe, and what I know from them, and they way that I choose to believe in it, and the way that I choose to believe my life, choose to live my life, is I know it's going to come. Katrina Ruth: Faith. Patrick Grabbs: It's just gonna come. Well, it's my reality. I've created this. Katrina Ruth: Faith in your own reality and that you get to choose. Patrick Grabbs: It is. I'm choosing this, and I choose to just ... If I wanna pussyfoot around in the house for a minute, and just wander around here aimlessly, not even thinking about shit. Like we were talking about- Katrina Ruth: But that's often where the breakthroughs come from as well. Patrick Grabbs: But I'm also thinking. I'm also thinking too, I'm like, I wanna see where this thoughts gonna go. What this- Katrina Ruth: You're creating inside of you. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, I'm just walking around, just letting this go where it goes, where this thoughts go. I'm ironing all of that out. Matter of fact though, when I'm talking to certain clients and everything, when I've been picking up the phone and actually talking to them, it's been kind of a ... I don't know. It's just not there yet, you can tell they're not soulmate clients yet, you know? They're not quite there yet. It's something that I'm like, it's kind of one of those things I'm not really interested in totally touching yet. Katrina Ruth: Yep. Patrick Grabbs: I don't wanna start doing that right now. I just wanna let it go, and start finding out what the rest of ... Now, Kat's come in to town, we're gonna have some major breakthroughs and everything. So, I'm cool. This is what I'm trying to do, right here, you know? Katrina Ruth: But this is also the real work. Us talking, livestreaming, even when your by yourself obviously. When you think you're not doing anything, it's about giving yourself some credit for the way that you live your fucking life. Your version, or my version, or a lot of people's here version, okay, I didn't say everyone here, so I guess you get to decide whether that's you or not. Our version of doing nothing is fucking growth all the time. You were saying earlier about how girls apparently feel about each other, which I do not agree with. He says to me, "Girls are all competitive with each other," and that he thinks that deep down women hate each other and I was like, "What. Not a chance, no." Patrick Grabbs: No, [crosstalk 00:42:27] Katrina Ruth: He's like, "Well, you're different." Obviously. I think we know that, but- Patrick Grabbs: Your profile says, "Kicking the ass of the 1% of the 1%." That's a very small percentage of people. I think we can agree- Katrina Ruth: It's actually the 1% of the 1% within the 1% ... Patrick Grabbs: Like a micro-percent. Katrina Ruth: Yep. Patrick Grabbs: I think we can all agree that we know quite a few women who are very competitive and who hate each other. Alls I'm saying. Katrina Ruth: We don't do that here. Patrick Grabbs: Many. Not in the vibe, not in the kick ass- Katrina Ruth: You know that that's not me. Yeah, we are not like that. We're different. I say all the time we're different from other entrepreneurs. All of us. We women are different from the other women. And part of that is, over time, for me and I know this is true for my clients ... Brandon Marshall, who the fuck is this guy? Katrina Ruth: Over time, I guess I gradually grew into myself to where I'm like, I'm owning who I am. At the point in my life, I'm unapologetically who I am, and I know and trust that that's okay. Fuck off Brandon Marshall. Alright. The comments are starting to go out of control. Every time Brandon jumps on the livestream. Patrick Grabbs: Brandon's my boy, though. I like Brandon. He's cool. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, Brandon's like one of my favourite people in the world. But as soon as he comes on the livestream, it's all the Brandon fucking show instead of the Katrina Ruth show now. Patrick Grabbs: Brandon's cutting in. Katrina Ruth: He's always hilarious though. Katrina Ruth: So, I gradually got to a point where I'm like, you know what, I actually spend a lot of time in my life trying really hard to be everybody else, and I think I'm just gonna be me now. And that's why I can be so ... The things I say, even stuff I've said to you, or to any friends, or to clients, I say shit that breaks the rules of what you're supposed to say. Whether it's in business, in life, personal life, anything right? I just say stuff and I can do it without attachment because I'm completely grounded ... completely is an interesting word because you're always evolving and growing, but I'm grounded in who I am. So I'm okay no matter the outcome. I don't have to worry what another person is doing. I know what I'm fucking doing. Patrick Grabbs: I got to ask you a question though, because you just brought this to my mind, it's something I've been thinking about. How do you know, because I'm always thinking, okay, I'll say something and it's very simple but it's something that I've thought about, maybe a long time ago, and I've already registered it in my head- Katrina Ruth: Okay. Patrick Grabbs: And I've been holding a lot in, right? Obviously, over time. Katrina Ruth: Yes, we've noticed. Patrick Grabbs: So I've been like, I'm already thinking, you're already thinking on a super high level, right? So, you think at a super high level, you're totally different than anybody else, you're totally different than the 99 of the 99 of the 99% out there. Katrina Ruth: Okay, we're gonna clip this bit out. We're gonna get captions on it, we're gonna put it all over Facebook. Patrick Grabbs: Alright- Katrina Ruth: Anyway, continue. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. So, how do you figure out the stuff that you have to go back to because you think it's basic and you think it's rudimentary to you now, at this point in your life, do you ever have anything like you think that, or do you just let it run, or you're gonna go back and talk about some basics and bring those back up- Katrina Ruth: Where I question myself, you mean? Patrick Grabbs: No. Have you ever had some things that you think are very basic that people should already know? But they're actually not. Katrina Ruth: Yes. Patrick Grabbs: And do you go back and bring those things up? There's a lot of things that I've already considered- Katrina Ruth: To tell to people? Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Yeah, I think so. Definitely. I don't even have an example that's coming up- Patrick Grabbs: You just say whatever? Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Well, with clients and even in public livestreams sometimes, or in member trainings, I'm definitely going back to basics a lot of the time. Because I have to go back to basics all the time anyway, right? And it depends, the level of groundedness, and I guess, me being unapologetically me ... Yes, exactly like that. It's very zen. Patrick Grabbs: Way to be zen. Very zen-minded. Let's ground. We're grounding. You have to ground onto something. Katrina Ruth: Ground onto the couch with your leg- Patrick Grabbs: We don't have to ground ourselves. You were saying? Katrina Ruth: So, the level of groundedness that I have in my business is pretty fucking on point, I really do feel ... I get shaken from time to time in the smallest way, but it's always an instant reframe and a lesson in to, "Oh, I see how I nearly went down this pathway of thinking such and such. Cool, got it." Like, it's a millisecond. Whereas, there's other areas of my life where it's more shaky and I have to think more. I have to actually pause before I say something or take an action, cause I'm like, wait, hang on. Am I acting from outside of myself? Am I following rules and conditioning, or am I following my soul? And actually Alexa Martinez is here. Do you know Alexa, are you friends with Alexa? Do you know who Alexa is? Patrick Grabbs: Elixir? Katrina Ruth: Well, not elixir. Alexa. Okay. Patrick Grabbs: Elixir. Katrina Ruth: I've never told you properly about Alexa- Patrick Grabbs: If you ever want to be an Australian accent, I've nailed it down. If you ever want to take Australian accent classes- Katrina Ruth: He does a terrible Australian accent. Patrick Grabbs: All you have to do is an- Katrina Ruth: You sound British when you do an Australian- Patrick Grabbs: You have to add an -ER to everything. That's all you do. Katrina Ruth: And by the way, you're not allowed to do an Australian accent if you refuse to eat Vegemite. Would you like to eat some Vegemite live on this livestream? Patrick Grabbs: I will never eat that shit again. Ever. It's disgusting. It's horrible. Katrina Ruth: It's the best. Patrick Grabbs: It's disgusting. Katrina Ruth: I've got Vegemite right here. Patrick Grabbs: If you folks on this livestream- Katrina Ruth: He tried to kick me out of his car earlier when he found out that I had Vegemite with me. Patrick Grabbs: I don't want it anywhere near me. And in fact, I think it's illegal to have it in the United States. And I don't break the law anymore, so therefore, I can't have this disgusting drug. It's like something you'd put in an envelope and send to your worst enemy. Somebody would send it to Donald Trump, he'd probably die. (laughter) Katrina Ruth: Everyone's like, "I'll get ten tubs." Katrina Ruth: Hang on, what were we just saying? Patrick Grabbs: I don't know. Katrina Ruth: Oh, I'll tell you about Alexa afterwards. I think you're gonna wanna hear- Patrick Grabbs: But anyways, if you wanna speak Australian, just add an -ER to everything. You know. Katrina Ruth: But he does do a very good Ryan Stewman impression. It was actually so good that I looked over my shoulder to see if Ryan was hiding behind me in the car. We're gonna go to New Orleans and play with Alexa, she says. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. Katrina Ruth: Let's do a quick detour to New Orleans tomorrow. Patrick Grabbs: Get on the Vegemite. Katrina Ruth: Are you talking about tobacco? Katrina Ruth: What were we saying? Okay. So, Alexa has been somebody who is very important in my life. Alexer. Patrick Grabbs: Alexer. Wanna drink some winer? Katrina Ruth: A massive source of support for me as a mentor and a friend. And actually, it's kind of hilarious though, because the things that Alexa has mentored me on ... Well, the reason I resonate with her so much as a coach, is because she teaches getting back to you, and trusting in your own self, and your own soul. But there's areas of my life where that's been really blurry and hard for me to do, and I'm like, I'm not sure. What's the right way to do something versus the wrong way? It's been this gradual process of me getting to where I'm like, "Oh my god. Oh my god. The right way is always the way that I'm feeling inside of me." I can remember a year ago, probably around about a year ago, having a conversation with Alexa where I was like, "I don't know what to do. Help me, help me." And she's like, "But what are you feeling? What do you want to do?" Right. Well, that's an evolutionary fucking concept. Maybe if I just went by what I was feeling. So, that's what I started to do. Patrick Grabbs: You don't think you ever make, let's say, do you have any situations, because obviously I look through this with a logical and rational mind- Katrina Ruth: But, logic comes from intuition, technically. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. Katrina Ruth: You know. Go ahead. Patrick Grabbs: So, you had a fork in the road, of your thought process- Katrina Ruth: She's being [inaudible 00:50:37] in the comments. Carry on. Patrick Grabbs: You're at a fork in the road, and you have two choices. Have you ever made ... You know, you think about one choice, and you make it, you feel like they both could be the right choice, obviously everybody thinks that, right? They both might be the right choice, or do you just think that you know, or should you know that one of them is better than the other. What if they're both a hell yeah decision? Katrina Ruth: Are we talking about relationships now? Patrick Grabbs: We could be. Katrina Ruth: We said we weren't gonna do that. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, well why can't you have it all? Patrick Grabbs: You could. You can have it all. Katrina Ruth: Okay. So, it's either I get to have it all, regardless of the situation, and typically most mindsets in business life, or anything, would be like, you can't do that, breaking the rules. Well, alright. What if you got to make your own rules? So, it's either that you get to have it all or you just not being honest with yourself. Oftentimes, when you feel that you're at a crossroad, really what's going on is, for whatever reason, in resistance about the thing that you know is right and real. Either fear or uncertainty. Patrick Grabbs: Not trusting yourself. Katrina Ruth: Or self-sabotage. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. Katrina Ruth: I know I've done that many times, it's almost like you deliberately like, yeah, I see what's right for me, and what's aligned, and would actually serve me, but I'm just gonna go do this other thing over here because I wanna prove to the world and to the universe, that I don't have to be told what to do, even if it's by my own self, right? Katrina Ruth: So, it could be that, or it could be that you've got an idea in your head- Patrick Grabbs: That's powerful right there, I think. Katrina Ruth: Thank you. Patrick Grabbs: I think it's powerful. Katrina Ruth: I think these comments are going a little crazy. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, they are. What are they saying? Katrina Ruth: Everyone wants to talk about sex. That's always true. People are scared. Okay, I'm here for the [inaudible 00:52:22] business talk. He's pretty fly for a smart ass guy. Patrick Grabbs: She must be talking about Brandon cause he's a spiritual smart ass. Katrina Ruth: Sex has no room for Friday nights. Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. That's really your concern. Okay, I missed a whole tonne of interesting comments I think, but they've disappeared now. We'll come back to them later. Patrick Grabbs: Okay. Katrina Ruth: I think that if you're like, "I don't know whether to do this or this," you do know. Depending on the situation and the era in life, you might have to pause for a little longer, to kind of tune in and figure out what it is. Katrina Ruth: Okay, Brandon wants us to sell him ... Can we auction these pillows on this livestream? We're gonna do it. Did you see when the couch auction people took over my stuff, did you see that? Patrick Grabbs: No, I did not. Katrina Ruth: Oh. Have you- Patrick Grabbs: I gotta see first on your stuff. I thought I had you see first. Katrina Ruth: How can you not have me see first? Patrick Grabbs: I have to see forget. Katrina Ruth: You have to manually go to my page every day, [crosstalk 00:53:16]. So, you have to manually go there and read my blog every day? Or just ... Patrick Grabbs: You call it your blog, but it's a post on Facebook. It's a Facebook post. Do you copy your Facebook- Katrina Ruth: Do you go and look for it, or do you wait for it to appear in front of you in your News Feed? Patrick Grabbs: Well, I have this thing on my laptop, it's called News Feed Eradicator- Katrina Ruth: Yeah, I know, I've seen it. Patrick Grabbs: It blocks all that shit up. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, but you read my posts. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, I do whenever I'm on my cell phone, you know what I'm saying, so mostly on the shitter, on the john- Katrina Ruth: Oh. That's lovely. Patrick Grabbs: It's very lovely. It's where my best thinking comes from. Katrina Ruth: It's probably where a lot of people read my posts, [crosstalk 00:53:49]. Patrick Grabbs: They're watching it right now. Taking a very long one. Your legs are gonna be asleep if you keep doing what you're doing. Patrick Grabbs: I don't know. Katrina Ruth: What? Patrick Grabbs: That went over your head? (laughter) Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: If they're sitting on the shitter their leg is gonna go to sleep. You ain't never sit on there too long, your watching a livestream? Katrina Ruth: No, I don't. I'm very efficient. Patrick Grabbs: You get up and go. You just drop and go. Drop and move. Katrina Ruth: I'm fucking focused and efficient in all areas. Patrick Grabbs: She doesn't waste time. I like to sit for a while and enjoy myself. Katrina Ruth: I only sit in there for if I'm hiding from people, like at a party. Patrick Grabbs: Do you really? Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: Fucking introverts. Katrina Ruth: On occasions. Patrick Grabbs: I come from the kind of place where you used to have to look at a fucking air freshener can on the back, and read the instructions. Now, we have phones. We can watch whatever we want. We can watch whatever we want. We can watch cat videos, we can watch Kat videos. Katrina Ruth: That's the whole story. What else do you wanna watch? Well, you can start watching Patrick's stuff as well. Patrick Grabbs: You can watch Pat videos now. Yep. Katrina Ruth: Yeah. Patrick Grabbs: Very interesting, if you [inaudible 00:54:58]. Perfect time. I'll help you flow better. Katrina Ruth: Do you have Brandon see first on your News Feed? You should have Brandon see first. He's [inaudible 00:55:04] amongst the most entertaining on Facebook. Katrina Ruth: But, let's come back to this crossroads question. Why? Why that question? Patrick Grabbs: Which one? Katrina Ruth: You said- Patrick Grabbs: Oh. Because I have occasionally, it's a thing, it's one thing, I've got flaws, and I think about them, and think about you know, that's one of them. One of a very, very few that I have and so- Katrina Ruth: Short list. It's on a post-it. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah, it's a very short list. A very short list. I'm getting it all out right now. Katrina Ruth: It's on a post-it note. It's on a business card. Patrick Grabbs: Right here. Patrick Grabbs: This is like half of them. There's just a couple right here. Katrina Ruth: It's a circle business card. One of the small ones. Patrick Grabbs: I'm just trying to get them knocked out while you're here. Patrick Grabbs: That's the one. You come to the fork in the road, and you're like, these are two forks. But what if they're both ... You say you can have it all, that's cool, I've got two. That's fine. And they're both hell yeah decisions, okay cool. I'll just take them both. But, obviously if they're both maybes, then that's a hell no, right? Katrina Ruth: They're both hell no's. Patrick Grabbs: They're both hell no's. Back to the drawing board. Katrina Ruth: But then a lot of people would feel like- Patrick Grabbs: They had to take one. Katrina Ruth: Correct. Like let's say it's client conversation. Let's say you're doing sales calls. Firstly, I just had a small, minor heart attack by using the term sales calls, because why would you do a sales call, when you could just sign them up over Facebook chat? Katrina Ruth: But secondly- Patrick Grabbs: I like sales calls. You don't like talking and hearing their voice? Katrina Ruth: Yeah, I like talking, but I don't like sales calls. I clearly like talking. Patrick Grabbs: Yeah. Katrina Ruth: Well anyway, if you like them then do them for that reason. But most people, we definitely don't wanna be doing sales calls, that's for sure. And you should join the high ticket sales workshop. The Katrina Ruth show dot com forward slash high ticket sales workshop, or something. I don't know, just go find it. I don't know the URL.

Oh. Okay, okay. What's happening? I need this tripod back. Oh my God, you will not even believe what I'm doing to my Chanel handbag down there on this rock. I just, I cannot see. Do you think I need my sunglasses, or do you think the sun is going to play nicely with me? Okay, hey peoples of the internet. I have the things to tell you. Hello Shannon, what's happening? Okay. I'm going to jump off the rock ... face down. Okay, please work internet. I want to share this over to my page. Do you back yourself fully in your business? What about the rest of your life? That is our topic. I've got some ass kickery for you. I'm gonna jump down. Okay, I'm coming back. I've gotta climb up, oh my God. Okay, I can't get up. All right, I had to go the lazy way around. Okay, the internet keeps fucking up. Okay, Joseph, I noticed that every time you come on my live steams, you say your name. Hello, hello, Joseph, I can see your name though, from your profile. I'm gonna give you guys an ass whooping, is that all right? I'm just trying to figure out, should I switch to my phone data? Why are you putting your phone number in dude? What's happening? Did I ask for dates on the internet or he's telling something? I'm looking rocky. That's cause I'm rocky as fuck. I don't know if that's a good thing or not. I've decided to back myself in my love life. How do you feel about that people? I'm gonna kick my own ass about that. I did just kick my ass. I was just on the phone with a private client just now doing a VIP session. Things got a little bit heated. I'm wearing your favourite leggings. Wait until you see my leggings that have "Grateful as Fuck," written on my ass. Actually, I think it just says, "Gratitude," or it says "Grateful," I don't know. I don't look at my own ass often enough. Brandon Marshall is bringing it like a soul brother. Thank you. Thank you for backing me there. Okay, I thought I was gonna get in trouble. Someone stopped. All right, what about ... Do you know what's hilarious you guys? When I jump into the search bar on my Facebook on my laptop, and I'm searching for my own page so that I can then share the live stream. The thing that's hilarious is that I can then see the search history, and the search history of my personal Facebook is stuff that my team have searched when logged into my profile, as well as obviously stuff that I've searched. I swear to God, sometimes the cat ninjas are using my profile to Facebook stalk, and fan girl stalk people that they're interested in or something, so that it doesn't come up on their profile, or something like that. Because I'm like, what is up with this search history? What do you guys think you're doing? What's happening? All right, why is this live stream not coming up so that I can share it? I'm not gonna sell a couch, but I'll sell you this delightful rock that you can come and sit on with me. It's beautiful. What do you want me to give you? Can you stop with the frick ... What are you guys doing? Yeah, I should use Live Leap. I'm so lazy at remembering to use things. Okay. Here's the deal, right? This is gonna get preachy. I'm just gonna warn you. I'm gonna remind you in case you didn't remember, in case you've forgotten. Do not fucking forget. Can someone share this to daily ass kick? 'Cause my sharing thing is not working. Do not forget ... Oh, don't even worry about it. I'll share it later. Do not forget that there's a one day event happening with me in New York on Tuesday, if you wanna come spend the day with me on New York on Tuesday. One day, VIP, intimate event, and then one day even with me at Soul Shift and Money Making in San Diego the next Tuesday, which is April third. So, if you wanna come along to either of those, or you'd like to know more, there's a couple of places left in both of them. Message me on my personal page is best, and I'll get you those details. I wish I had my sunglasses, but right now the bottom of this tripod, because the rock down there is on an angle, so I've elevated the back two legs of the tripod by chucking my Chanel handbag down there on the rock and sticking the back two legs of the tripod into the bag, and my sunglasses are in the bag. So, it presents somewhat of a dilemma. But we'll figure it out. So, I'm on the phone just now, with my client, and essentially we were talking about the fact that she's always trusted in herself and that's how she's got results in her life in different areas, but that when it comes to business and getting the results that she wants in her business, and this was our first one on one call, right? She's doing a VIP one on one trial session with me, that she's noticing this feeling of basically well should I? Should I go and follow along with what such and such people are teaching or saying that I should do, whoever such and such people happen to be. The people who are commonly or uncommonly known as the gods of the internet, self appointed. Now, obviously we can all self appoint ourselves as anything, but ... This tripod is self appointing itself as a little bit of a biotch. I'm worried it's gonna fall over and then I'll have to quickly jump off the rock and grab it. Okay, it's under control. All right. So, you know, we've all done this. Give me a love hot shower if you've done this, or if you ... Hopefully I'm not gonna fall off the edge of this rock. I'm sitting with one ass cheek off the edge of it. I don't know why I do the things I do. I just like to live on the edge, literally, on the edge of this rock. There's an ass cheek hanging off. Oh. It's gonna be fine. Okay. Give me a love hot shower if you do this. You're already giving the love hot showers and I didn't even ask the question. You guys are on the ball. You're level as fuck. You're playing tight. It's very stypical of our community, and if you don't know the new words of the community then figure it out. We do this where we question ourselves, right? And we start to wonder, are you doing this in your business? You start to wonder, maybe I should do it the way that these internet marketing people say to do it. Maybe I should do like the 26 fricking copy written emails, or whatever it is, right? And you wonder if you should follow these different systems or strategies to build a funnel, or to build recurring income, or build any fucking thing, I suppose. Or in general, you just start to wonder whether you should do it like how other people are doing it. But then at the same time, and there's nothing wrong with learning from other people, by the by. Obviously. But then at the same time, there's a part of you, it's a big fucking part I think, which is just oo, this is gross, right? Like, it feels disgusting. Give me love hot shower if you relate to that, and I swear to God, this sun is just like, I'm gonna get you bitch. I'm right in your eyes, and I'm not backing down. I've just had a fantastic idea. I could turn around the other way. That would make actually a hell of a lot more sense because I'm literally sitting here like a squinty eyed squirrel. All right. I'm gonna, oh fuck. I'm gonna sit on this rock down here. Okay, oh my God. Now I can see nothing. Do you know one time I helped my ex husband launch a programme online called Rock Hard Results? It was a great programme name. Now I can see nothing. So, it's actually even worse now. We're figuring it out. It's a team effort. I'm totally in the dark now though, so I don't think that's better. Okay. See, here I can see but here ... Okay. Don't revolve around the sun. Let the sun revolve around me. I like it. Okay. Here's the rule. I'm gonna try and cut to the chase. I have a habit of rambling on. I don't know if you've noticed. The rule is, if your soul is staying disgusting, like if something inside of you is just like this is oo, right? E-U, like ugh. This is gross and it feels gross inside my body, and it feels scaly on my skin to be taking action like this, or to imagine that I should do so, then if you feel that, then that's how it is. That's the rule, okay? This current situation makes no sense at all. I'm gripping the tripod between my feet in order for it to not fall over. So, this is requiring massive inner strength of abductors, which is my inner thighs. I already have inner thighs like that woman on James Bond that kills a man with her thighs. My inner thighs are extremely toned and tight and strong. And they're now getting stronger by the moment. I hope you guys appreciate the effort because I did already work out today. I don't know why I can't just let it be easy. I just like, my room is like right there. I could be sitting in my room live streaming, but it's very dark. And it's not as fun as being on a rock gripping a tripod between your legs. So, anyway. I'm getting there, right? I'm getting to the point. I think I said what I needed to say already. The point is back yourself. When are you gonna finally back yourself, okay? So, I was using an example with my client. I was like, listen to me. You already know ... This is what I wanna say to you now. You already know that everything you feel inside of you is real. You already know that the way that you're being directed to do it through your soul is the way that it's gonna work. You already know that if you were to go against your own soul, and your own nature, and you were to essentially go and try and do ... In a way that ... Okay, I think it just kept freezing. In a way that feels kind of icky to you, or it's just boring, it's not interesting, it's not expansive, it feels really, do I really have to do that? Oh, okay, I guess I better. That's what's gonna get me a result. Okay. And it's kind of like this head hanging type of feeling, right? If you were to do it in that way, you know that it's not only not gonna work, you know this at your core, right? You might be buying into a story, you might be telling yourself all manner of things that are definitely not true. You might be trying to justify and convince, you might be like, "Well, that person knows better than me", or, "They're further along than me and maybe I don't really know because I haven't achieved that goal yet", whatever your goal is, right? In your business. And so, "They probably do know better, and I probably should do it this way", and you're going down this pathway of essentially trying to convince yourself to not back yourself, which when you put it that way, sounds really kind a crazy, and not good crazy. And it sound sad I think, as well, right? And then the other side of the coin, the flip side of that is you 100% know, give me a love hot shower, give me a love shower about this, you 100% know, if you agree with me give me a love hot shower. You 100% know that what's inside of you is real. You know that the things you feel inside of you about where your success is gonna come from is correct. And one thing that I love to journal on again, and again, and you might like to save this as an idea for later, and write it down as a journaling prompt, or somebody can put it in the comments if you want because I'm having a hard time getting my laptop to work here. I like to journal often on where do I ... A question I've asked myself many times over the years, where do I really believe, for example, my hundred million dollar empire is gonna come from, or before I was already making multi millions a year, then I would journal on where do I really believe my multi million dollar business is gonna come from, or where do I really believe my fame or my impact, or whatever it is, is gonna come from. So, the thing that's a big thing for me at the moment is soul mate love. Being in a soul mate relationship, right? That is kind of the biggest focal area for me, or the thing that I've not achieved yet. And I now and trust that I will. So, if I would tune in and journal on where do I really believe that that level of love and romance is gonna come from, and being in a relationship with my soul mate, and then I would look at some of the crazy ass shit that I've done over the past 18 months, since I became single, since I left my marriage, I went through this period, I went through initial period of what did the fuck, where the fuck do I even start? I don't even know what dating means, I don't even know how to do that. I've been in long term relationships for 15 years at the time. I'd literally been in long term relationships since my first ever boyfriend. So, it's like I don't even know what I the means to date, right? So, that was ... Being a brand new entrepreneur on the internet, like what's a lead page? I didn't even know. I'm like, "What do you do and a date? I don't even know." I don't know, somebody tell me. I don't think I ever even went on a date with my first two husbands. I think we just somehow became in a relationship after meeting at the gym. I literally had no clue. And then, I went through the next phase, which I feel like is what all entrepreneurs who are driven, motivated, bad asses like we have here too. The next phase is, well you know what? I'm a high achiever, and I'm a good student of life, right? Okay, finally this is gonna let me share it, so let's share it. I'm a good student of life, and I like to do really well at stuff, and I'm committed, and I will get good results, and so I'm gonna go and learn how to do it properly. Who's done that as an entrepreneur? Right? You go along and you're like, give me an amen or a hell yes or something on the comments if you've done that as an entrepreneur. You go, "I wanna do this properly. So, I'm gonna go and learn from the best people about how to market, and how you build an audience online, and how you sell a programme, or how you make a programme in the first place", or whatever it might be. And so, you go along and learn, and because the vast majority of people out there are teaching some kind of non thinking system, like join these dots, do it this way, here's the right way, here's the wrong way, that's probably what you fall into, right? And there's only a very limited number of people out there who teach like I teach around business and entrepreneurialism, which is follow fucking flow and soul intuition, fuck everything else. There are no rules, there is no right or wrong. Let's tune in, let's get you connected to soul, let's get you back to what you've always known. Let's act from that place and then sure, if you wanna know a few little, if there's things you literally don't know, you never heard of what a lead page is and you wanna know, cool. We can learn that, but actually you don't even need that to be successful and to make money, right? So, for me, if we relate it back to the dating thing, I did that same thing. At first, I was like, "I don't even know what dating is. I literally have no clue what that means or how to do it." I've heard the word, and I am 38 years old so in theory I have some sort of concept around it, but I'm not sure. Somebody's gonna have to tell me. So, then I started hiring coaches. Now, fortunately I hired an amazing sex and love coach to start with who helped me connect with intuition and flow, which was my good friend Alexa Martinez, and cannot recommend her highly enough. She's actually doing a soulmate manifestation free challenge this week on her Facebook page, so worth checking out. And that was amazing, and that just taught me so much about, oh my God. I was like, "What? Oh my God. All these crazy things I've felt inside of me about what I really want from romance in a relationship, you're telling me that's okay? You're telling me I can even have that? You're telling me I've got permission to be me? What? You're telling me I should tell men how I feel?" I was like, mind is blown, right? So, same thing as well. I teach a lot of people around business, but then after that, I got kind of, I did that for a little bit, and then I just, I got pulled in, right? And we all do it. You get pulled in and distracted by, if you're on Facebook for example, you're gonna get pulled in and distracted by so many fricking people on the internet who are telling you the right way to make money, or to sell an online programme, or to do anything at all. And so, I got pulled in, and I jumped on a few different mailing lists for example, with people who would send out, "Here's 10 scripts to get him to respond in a text message." Stuff like that. Or here's how to say this, or here's what never to say to a man, or here's 10 reasons why he's lost interest in you. Stuff like that. And I was on these mailing lists, and I did some coaching with people who teach like this as well. I paid for some coaching with people who teach like this, because I was like that newbie entrepreneur, who's like, "But I don't know. And I don't know if I know what I know, and I haven't had success in this area yet. I've had two failed abusive marriages, and ..." Okay, stuff that was on me as well. Let's just be clear and on that, all right? I don't wanna be blaming and doing anything like that. But I've had two marriages that didn't work out, and clearly I have no fucking clue what I'm doing, and how do I know how to choose right? So, I should go and learn from an expert, right? And we all do that with business, or we've all done that. I did the same thing with business. I know so many entrepreneur who can relate to having done that in business, but yet I was getting this information and I was getting to taught these things and the whole way through, when I would be told, "Okay, say this in a text. Oh no, don't ... What? You were thinking of saying that to him? Don't say that. Never say that to a man. That's a terrible idea." And then, there would be this feeling inside of me like, oo, really? I did even send ... I think I did it like two or three times, where I used a little script from a text messaging thing. And I kind of thought it was funny, I was laughing at it, but I was also like, this is kind of gross, right? It feels icky. It feels like, yuck. And it's kinda like, really? And then, a few times where I didn't speak my truth in a romance situation because I was listening to the advice of coaches at the time who were like, "No, no. That's coming from a hurt place inside of you, or that's something you need to heal inside. Don't say that. And this is the right way to communicate with a man, and this is how to do it. And I was like, ugh. And something inside of me was shrinking, right? I was feeling contracted. I was feeling like maybe they're right? Because I don't know, and I'm not an expert, and I don't have results in those areas. So, maybe I should listen to them and I'm willing to try it, and I said that. And I spoke up. I was like, "I don't really feel ... But okay. I'm open to it." And they were like, "Yeah, well ..." They were basically like, without saying you're wrong and I'm right, that's basically what they were saying. They were like, "Well, this is how it works. I'm right, do it this way." I was like, "Okay." And then I just didn't follow through though. I didn't follow through. In the end, I sent the fucking letter that I wanted to send to a guy, even though everybody said don't send that letter, right? Or everybody who you asked, which is a very small group of people. But my coach, and one or two friends, and in the end I was like, "Fuck it. I've always spoken my truth in business, and I'm gonna speak my truth in this area as well." Because here's what I know for sure. Anything that's feeling contractive, anything that's feeling like it's actually making me feel sad to follow that method if I would follow the method of that particular person or coach, or whatever. Or the strategy that's being taught online around dating, it's making me feel sad and contracted, and icky all at the same time, anything you're feeling like that in business, or think that you should be doing but it makes you feel that way relevant to business, I'm gonna tell you flat out 100, 1000, one million percent, all the percents, gathered into a big percentage bucket, don't do that shit. It's not gonna work for you. And by the way, if you got some kind of supposed outcome from doing stuff that goes against your soul, do you think it's gonna make you feel happy and fulfilled? So, for me with the dating stuff, I just started to remind myself, and this is kind of what I was kicking my client's ass around just now on the phone, I just started to remind myself that all of my results in my entire life, back to when I was a child, and even in my business before I got results and how many results, I had to remind myself of thins and getting into believing in myself, and coming from faith, and coming from self belief before I had the results to back it. Every result has come from when I trusted in myself, and anytime that I achieved any sort of success, quote unquote success, by doing something that went against my soul and that didn't feel right, it made me feel icky or it made me feel contractive, or it made me feel sad, then that success meant nothing to me. I have made money in the past by doing stuff that wasn't my soul work. I've never done anything that's felt like immoral, or completely wrong or something, but I've done plenty of stuff to make money in business where it was like, "Oh, really? Yeah, okay. All right, I guess. Because I want the results and so I'll suck it up." And when I did make money doing things that way, it slipped through my fingers. I didn't even fucking care. It meant nothing. It was not fulfilling. So, I started to think about the dating, and I was like, "But if it's true. If it's true that if I would say it in this way and follow, and learn these scripts until they become automated inside of me so that I'm communicating properly, as how you're supposed to communicate to a man. If that's true, then how could I possibly end up in a fulfilled soul relationship for me?" Because it would have been based on me not being me. Every step along the way it would've been based on me going ... Me being me, and who I am in this moment in time, with all my faults, and all my uncertainties, and all my weaknesses, me being me is not enough to get that relationship. I would have to catch a man by saying things right. Hello, what kind of fucking relationship's that gonna be, right? Just like what kind of fucking business is that gonna be that's built on a foundation of not a beautiful rock like this? It's not built on a solid rock foundation. How cool is that? I'm sitting on a rock. I'm super excited. Look, here's the rest of the rock where I was sitting before. I was up there. Now I'm just on a lower bit, but there's all these little rocky foundations all the way around. I'm in Orlando. So, I just ... It was like a wake up call. It was like, hello. How do you wanna believe in yourself, right? Like, hello. Where do you ... What foundation do you want this relationship to come from? Hello, do you actually wanna choose to believe that if you speak your truth, and be you, that that's not enough? And I was like fuck that shit. I'm gonna start saying exactly what I want, I'm gonna chose to back myself, I'm gonna chose to trust myself. And like the particular situation with a particular guy where everything that I wanted to say to him was breaking all the rules, like don't say that. I was like, "You know what? I'm gonna fricking say it, and then some." And the stuff I said was like, stuff you definitely aren't supposed to say to a guy. And my choice was that if I would be myself fully, and it didn't work, then that's exactly perfect and what was meant to be. And my choice was also that actually it's impossible to screw up being me, because when I be me and back myself and trust in myself, only good and positive outcomes can come from that. And so now, I feel 100%, I'm fricking so in trust and in certainty around where I'm going in the relationship area of my life, and I know that I'm getting the results that I desire. Awesome Nicole, thank you for jumping on first. All right. Janice says, "I feel this icky energy nine hours a day." Soulmate relationship and not backing myself in business, [Keja 00:22:05]. That's exactly the same situation that was happening with the client that I was just on the phone to, right? We were talking about a similar conversation to this, but obviously personal to her, and it was exactly the same. She's got the results in her health and fitness, and in her relationship, and then we're talking about the fact that you know, and this is why I was using the relationship example to her. I was saying to her, I know that me being in a relationship with my soulmate, it's gonna come from me being fully me, and I know that it's about me speaking my truth, trusting my own inner guidance, and anybody who's basically trying to direct me or tell me what to do, whether it's somebody random on the internet, or someone who I'm personally speaking to, if it goes against what feels right inside of me, then I know that it's not right for me, and I know that that's not how I'm gonna get the results that I want in my life, and I know that I just don't have it within me to do stuff that doesn't align for me on a soul level. I know that in business, to get to where my business makes millions of dollars a year, and I have only 100% soul mate clients who are so fricking cool and badass and do the work, for that to happen, I had to fully back myself. I didn't have money. I was over $100 000 in debt. I was gonna go bankrupt, I couldn't even buy coffee, and I realised I was one foot in and one foot out. I knew inside of me, I just knew that I was born for more. I knew I'm gonna get those results. I had the faith inside of me, and I believed that I could make money doing what I love, and doing this and speaking my truth every day, and just hanging out and being fully me, and not being worried about if I'm professional and whatever else, but I wasn't backing myself. I was one foot over there, and one foot, "Oh, maybe I should do it your way? Maybe, okay. It doesn't feel good, but okay. You have more results than me so I probably should do that." And then eventually I was like fuck this shit. I'm gonna fully back myself, and if I have to do that every single day for the rest of my life, and never make money, then that's gonna be fulfilling to me rather than living a life of if I follow your rules and do it this way, maybe then I'll get a result that I won't even fucking care about because it didn't come from flow. So, that's what I apply over now to the relationship area. I'm like, this is like a done deal. 100% the results that I desire are gonna come from me backing myself and trusting in myself. Somebody said, "What about if you being yourself will cause others to shun you?" Which is a great question. Well, they will. They will. They will. I'm gonna tell you a great answer about that. First I'm gonna open my laptop, because I just saw that my brother WhatsApp'd me. It came up at the top of my phone. He doesn't know I'm sitting here waiting for him live streaming. He's asked me what time we should leave for dinner. So, I don't know. How long's it take to get from fricking, a Disneyland resort to downtown Orlando? Let me just message him back. Don't know. Can you check? Downtown Orlando. Am on a live stream. All right, cool. Did that work? I don't know. We'll see. Okay, so here's my answer. How are you gonna feel about whether people shun you. The reason I'm at a Disneyland resort, I'm so not a Disneyland person. I actually really don't like Disneyland. I don't like a lot of people around me, and I just don't like Disneyland. I don't like rides. Sorry all the people who love Disneyland. You can hate on me for it if you want, because we're at a conference here, and I'm like playing hooky on the conference because I'm not really a conference person either. So, that's why I'm sitting on a rock on a live stream, instead of being in a conference. So, he's in the conference room and he's just messaged me about dinner. All right. So, yesterday I found out that in certain groups on the internet, of Facebook groups, that people talk all the time about what a bitch I am, right? And how they can't handle my life streams. And I'm just like, okay. I'm just gonna say something directly to those people right now. Just so you know, if you say that you can't even, even, with me, and you can't handle my live streams, and did you see what she did on her latest live stream, I'm just gonna point out the obvious, which is that the only way you know that is because you're watching the fucking live steam. So, technically that makes you a magnetises fuck fan. Who's triggered as fuck, by the way. And if you are triggered and emotionally charged by me, that's because I'm being a mirror, and because I'm confronting in you something that you know you get to address inside of you, and basically probably you're gonna become a client in about a year, and then you're gonna tell me that you used to hate me and bitch about me behind the scenes but I already knew because other people told me. If you didn't actually care, if you weren't connected to me on a soul level in some sort of way, then you wouldn't watch the live streams, and you wouldn't bitch about me behind the scenes, and you wouldn't care. You'd be like, "I'm not interested. I'm not attracted to her. I'm not magnetised to her", and you would just not even observe. You literally wouldn't care, right? It happens all the time, Melissa. I actually was a little shocked because I'm so in a love bubble of my own cult and my own world that I've created that I haven't heard it for a while, but I used to be much more conscious of it, and to answer the person's question who asked about this, I knew about it more and I was conscious of it because I was concerned about it, and because it would cause me to shrink and be worried, and not speak my truth. And then I just gradually over time let go of that, because I still care. Yesterday I was like, I was triggered and I was a little hurt. I was like, "Oh." I was actually like, "Oh, I thought everybody loved me now." I really did. I was like, "Oh. Well, okay." And then I was like, "Oh, well technically I suppose I could ..." I do actually know that people don't like me but I kind of forgot because I'm only surrounded by love, so I was a little triggered, and I was kinda like, "I think I wanna go around to their houses and cook them dinner, and just sit them down and just explain to them, just so you understand, I'm a nice person." And I'm actually like really nice, and I'm really introverted and quiet in real life, and everything as well. I think you would like me, right? Like, really, I'm an actual ... I'll buy you a present. I'll bring you chocolates. I'll do that. I do that all the time anyway. So, I kinda felt like I need to deal with this situation so that people understand how awesome I actually am. But then the other part of me was like, not fuck them. I got into curiosity, and I think it's funny because the reason I said, I'm like, "Well, if you're watching my life streams, then it means you're a fan." Just technically. Just saying. So, I think it's funny. But also, even if I feel hurt, or even if I've lost people along the way, and I've lost friends, and I've lost some clients along the way who I got too much for them, I got too intense for them, and some of them came back and then they're like, "You've got too much for me. You got too intense for me. I couldn't handle it. It was like a trigger for me." One of my newest clients who joined my inner circle, first thing he did introducing himself is, "Oh, I'm probably like a lot of people here when I first came across Katrina Ruth, I wanted to punch her through the computer screen." I was like, "Aww. People say the sweetest things about me." And for real though, my clients say that all the time, right? So, it's really, really common and normal, oh, thank you. Thank you for the present in advance. So, anyway. My point is, I got to a point of understanding that my message and my art, and speaking my truth is more important and bigger than what people wanna say about me, right? And that I have to put that first. So, don't assume that somebody like me just doesn't care, or is so confident, because it's not that. I'm still hurt at the idea, and I don't like the idea, and quite honestly, even at a big conference like this, there's three and a half thousand people here, I'm conscious that there's people in this room, and some of them I know who they are, who really fucking don't like me and think I'm a bad person, or I'm too aggressive, or I'm unprofessional online, and that fricking annoys me, right? And I let it go, because in the end I have to be me, and I have to speak my truth, and even the real life friends how I've lost along the way, I've just been like okay, there's some sadness there, or sometimes there's a grieving process to go through depending upon who the person is in your life, and technically not just as friends, but really even my marriage was a fallout of me being fully me, right? There's many reasons that went into that, but it was. I'm so fully me that you can't have me in your life if you don't ... For somebody who's not fully being them in their life, and not fully pressing play, or they just, they disagree with my values or my beliefs, how can you keep me in your life, right? You can't. You're either gonna ... If I'm in your life, there's only two reasons for that. Either you really love me and you resonate so fucking fully with me, and we're basically come from the same glorious pot of souls, which is why when we hang out in real life we're gonna have the bestest time ever and I won't be hiding from you like I'm hiding from everyone else here. I know there'd be some cool people here, I just don't know where they are, right? For real though, whenever I meet any of my tribe or my clients, or people who follow me online and who are the same as me, when we meet in real life, we're instantly magnetically best friends because we're the same sort of person. Or there's the people who hate me. And if they actually say that they hate me, or they're like I can't stand her, or whatever, then actually it's because at their core, they're the same sort of person, and they're just not owning their truth. That's a reality, right? That's just how it is. Okay. What else? Where was I even up to? I am not who you think I am. I am ... You are who you think I am. Reflect your own truth. Thank you Ruby. You are also the most beautiful soul. Thank you for seeing that in me, and I reflect it back to you. I'm shooting it back to you like that super hero who shoots stuff out of there, like Spider Man who shoots his spiderweb out. I'm shooting back love and acknowledgement. All right, what else? So, anyway. I think one of the hardest things, in theory, it's a choice whether or not it's hard, is when you don't have the results yet. You don't have the money results, so you don't have whatever results you're having in your business. And you know, you know on a soul level what is right, and what is aligned, and how you're gonna get results, right? But you don't have the results. So, that voice comes up ... Maybe you have some other people who are lovely enough to tell you all the time that you're doing it wrong. Eliminate those people. I don't mean in a bad way. I just mean turn away from them energetically, or physically, or whatever else is required, right? Don't listen to them. Literally, la-la-la-la-la, can't hear you. Not listening. Choose to only listen to people that affirm what you already know inside of you, yeah? To me that seems obvious. But, mind you, I've definitely gone against that myself at some points in time. So, there's that. But then the other thing is it's not just the voices of other people, right? It's the voices, shit. It's the voices inside of your head. Those things are little bitches some of the time. And they come up every day and be like, "Really? Are you sure? Because that sounds kind of stupid to me. And besides which, how can you prove it? And I bet you're wrong. And I bet you're gonna screw everything up, and I bet probably if you do that, or say that, everybody's gonna tell everybody, and then the whole entire internet is gonna laugh at you because you're stupid." That's what the voices inside your head will say. Or it'll be like, "Who do you think you are to do that? Somebody else could do that, but clearly you have no clue what you're talking about. You don't have the results, you can't prove yourself, you don't speak properly, and your hair doesn't look good." And so, these are the normal every day thoughts that we all have. I have these voices inside of my head as well, and I know, I see them for what they are. I'm like, "Bitch please. I see what you're trying to do here, and I'm gonna let you know that I'm gonna be over here doing what I'm meant to do anyway." But sometimes they get to me. Sometimes they got to me with the dating stuff, right? And now I became stronger over time, because I just kind of thought back, and I thought back to my business stuff, and I'm like, "Hmm, well, took me like five fucking years, or however long, to really get this with my business, but then when I did, shit started working. When I fully backed myself. So, I think, thank you for coming along, and telling me all of your thoughts for today, and if you insist on carrying yourself around and following me everywhere, and talking shit, then I guess I can't stop you. I'm still gonna be over here pressing fucking play", and I'm gonna learn this lesson a lot faster, right? So, it's about realising that you can have these voices inside of your head, you can have the voice of doom and gloom, and self doubt, and whatever bullshit is going on or coming through you, or even coming at you from outside of you, all of that can be present and in attendance, and you can still do whatever you know what you're meant to do. And so, what that comes down to is you've gotta be bold enough, and trust enough to actually back it up and follow through though. It's not gonna be enough to feel and know inside of you what's true and what's gonna get you results. That is not gonna cut it. You're gonna have to back it with action, right? Which means, from my example, the dating example, it means that when I have an instinct or an impulse, or a soul nudge comes through me, like, "Hey, say that to this guy. Speak your truth. Say this", and my voice inside my head's gonna be like, "Oh my God, are you crazy? Don't say that. Really? You already said such and such thing. Like, really? You're gonna morally now? You're gonna say that?" And, "Oh, maybe I shouldn't, and maybe this, and then let's go check what he's posted on Facebook today because maybe that's gonna put me off because you don't know ..." Like, what? What if I just always followed my soul nudges? Because I can tell you something for sure, in my business now, and it took me however long it took me to get this, I always follow my soul nudges. That doesn't mean only when it feels exciting or inspiring. That means especially when it feels terrifying, when it feels reckless, it feels crazy, it goes against what everybody's saying, and I built a multi million dollar per year online empire where I get to do only what I fucking want everyday, and I have a 100% soul mate client base. My clients are now becoming millionaires and multi millionaires in the last year as well. Multiple clients who've gone from where they were making 8 to 10K a month at the start of last year to where they're now making 50, 60 and over 100K per month in numerous cases, over 200K per month consistently in multiple places as well, and all of these women and a few men who work with me, are doing what I'm talking about here, following soul nudges. And not only attracting such badass from only following soul desires, requirements, and flow. It's not just when it feels easy or comfortable or fun or exciting. It's when it feels terrifying. It's when it's scary. It's when it feels reckless. It's when it feels ridiculous, right? And here's something else. Let me just check in in what my brother's saying. He's just messaging me more. 36 minutes. Am on my way back. Okay. We can go for like 5 or 10 minutes more. Okay. Am on a rock. I'm telling him. Don't forget, if you jumped on late and you didn't hear me, I'm doing a one day VIP very intimate event this Tuesday in New York, and I'm repeating the same event the Tuesday after, April 3, in San Diego. These are soul shifting deep dive days to get clear on exactly who you are as an entrepreneur, who you wanna be as an entrepreneur, creator and leader, and the best fucking way for you to make fuckload of money and a fuckload of impact doing that. That was too many fucks. Maybe. Not maybe. Whatever it was. It's something like that. I can send you the whole written overview, so message me over on my Katrina Ruth personal page if you wanna know more about that. Okay, so then coming back to this. Here's how I actually got into this business, because as I've been sharing, I don't have the results yet, I'm like working towards these results in my romance side of my life, and I know that it will come from backing myself, but I also know that that means I can't just sit around being like, "Yeah, I believe that I'm gonna have a soulmate relationship, and I believe that it's gonna work out for me and I have faith." It means that I've also gotta follow all actions that my soul tells me to take, even though I feel like a fricking crazy person half of the time, okay? And the reason that I knew that first for business though, and where I can now apply it from business over to love, I knew it for business because when I was broke in my business, and when I was over $100 000 in debt, and I thought I was gonna go bankrupt, I sat down one day, and it's funny because I'm kind of at a theme park now. I'm at the resort anyway. And I was at a theme park. I was at a Wet and Wild theme park, like a water one. And I went and sat down for coffee, and I made this list and it was based on the fact that I'd been a personal trainer for 13 years before I built my own online business, and so I've now been actively involved in the fitness industry for 21 years, since I was 17 years old. And so, at the time, it was maybe like six years ago or something, so I would've been involved in the fitness industry at the time for like 15 years, and I had complete faith and certainty around my ability to always be in great shape. Now, it didn't mean that I always was in my ideal shape, because sometimes I would slip a little bit out or whatever, but it never was a problem. I was like, "I know how to be in fantastic fucking shape. It's very simple and straight forward, and easy, and it's just automatic that of course I get to have that." I have zero doubt, and also that it comes from me following what I believe is true and real for me inside me. Never once have I followed a diet plan. I've tried to do it a few times in years gone by, and I always was like cheating all the way through on those diets. And I don't follow structured training. All my training and my eating is intuitive. I even wrote a book about five or six years ago called Think Thin, The Intuitive Diet for Women. You can get it on Amazon if you go to books for kick ass women dot com, you're gonna see over 60 books on Amazon that I've self published, and Think Thin is one of them, right? So, that's my way of eating and staying in shape. So, I sat down and I thought about what if I had the same beliefs for business and for money that I have for fitness? What if I just always knew that I know what's right for me? What if I fully trusted in myself, what if I fully backed myself, what if I went from soul flow and intuition, and I basically sat there and I wrote a big list of what are all my beliefs to do with fitness and my body, and being in great shape? And they're all really powerful positive beliefs that would serve a lot of people well, as I'm sure you can imagine, right? And then I looked at what my money beliefs were at the time, and I had so many money and business beliefs around not trusting myself, or there's gotta be a wrong way, or something like a right way or a wrong way, or I've gotta get it right, or something along those lines, right? And other people maybe know more than me, and I've gotta do stuff that doesn't feel good, and just all these beliefs, and I literally sat there and I took all of my positive and powerful fitness beliefs and and I rewrote them into powerful positive beliefs for my business, and for money, and I just made a decision. I was like, that's how I'm gonna choose to think. I'm gonna choose to back myself, I'm gonna choose to trust myself, I'm gonna choose to basically operate from inside of me. And even last week I had another breakthrough around this, because I noticed that in my business there's still a couple of areas where I feel like I'm not fully showing up, right? Where I feel, you know that sense of disease, or feeling uneasy, or restless, or unsettled, because you feel like ... I had a general feeling that there's some discontent present in my business. And a general feeling of feeling like I notice that pretty much every day I feel slightly restless, like slightly, just like what am I missing? That was it. I journaled on why do I feel like there's always something missing in my business? I just have this niggle all the time, and I thought ... I said to myself, this was like the other day in Santa Monica, sitting in the tea and coffee bin. And I thought, "Well, I don't feel that way in fitness. I have like zero restlessness or niggles in fitness." Even if I go into [inaudible 00:40:58] and I'm in my little shorts and my sports bra, and I see that I got a bit puffy around the waste or something, it does not remotely bother me. I'm like, "That's fine. I know exactly how to fix it." Right? And I have only self love, right? Like I actually really, it took me several decades, but I really love and accept myself regardless of what my body's doing, and I have full trust, right? And I thought, "Why do I have such contentedness in fitness, but in business I still feel a little uneasy?" And I was like, "Oh my God." And I realised it's because with fitness and nutrition, I 100% follow every single soul command and desire and requirement. So, what that means is, like this morning, I was like, "I gotta go to Bikram Yoga this morning." Hot yoga. That's how I felt. That's what my body wants. Well, I had a schedule of going to a conference today. I'm like, "Too bad. I'm going to Bikram Yoga because that's what I feel I need." The zero of the time will I not follow soul urges in that situation, right? 100% of the time with fitness and my body, I do what I'm told to do from within ... Not by other people. Zero percent of the time I do what I'm told to do by other people, and 100% of the time I do it even if it comes at the cost of something else that I was supposed to be doing, but it's also on the times when I don't feel like doing something. Maybe I'm like ... Oh, the other day. I didn't feel like going to the gym. Too bad. I go to the gym if I know that it's what my soul's telling me to do. But by the same token, if I go to dinner, and there's like an amazing dessert and I wanna eat it, I'm gonna fricking eat it, right? If that's what feels good for me. So, then with business and money, I noticed that there was still times, or there's still times where I'm not doing what my soul tells me to do. You know, I like to rebel even if it's against my own self, from time to time. Just to kind of prove a point, that I can do what I want, I think. But I had to kind of acknowledge this. I'm like, "Oh, I have a feeling of discontent, or dis ease sometimes in my business because there's certain things that I know I actually should, quote unquote, should be doing from a soul point of view, like my soul's directing me to do it. Could be like whatever little task, or getting back to somebody on my team, or finalising an idea, or what it is, and it's that kind of little girl inside of me that's still like if your Mom tells you to clean your room, you're like, "Well, I was gonna clean my room, and now that you've told me to clean my room there's no fucking way I will clean my room." It's exactly the same reason that I refuse to see the Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings movies, because everybody was like, "You've gotta see them. They're really good." I was like, "Bitch, please." If everybody's seeing them, there's no way I'm gonna see them because clearly I'm better than that. And then eventually I saw them and I was like, "I guess they were okay." So, it's just that ... I recognise that part of myself, and so I kind of kicked my own ass around it. And so then with love, and relationship, and sex and that sort of thing, I was like ... Oh, shit. I was like, "Well, okay." I went through this phase last year after I left my marriage, which was the year before, and so last year my phase was like, trying to do the things that I thought that I should to do be successful at dating or whatever, or try and learn about it, and doing things ... But also, I was in this most ridiculous pattern, which was so stupid, I can't even believe that I did this, where if I would go on a date with a guy, and I wasn't attracted to him, like romantic, to where you're like, "Can we just have sex right now?" That I would still kind of convince myself and I would be like, "Oh, well maybe I am attracted and I just don't know it, because he's a really nice guy." And now I say it, and I'm like, "That's hilarious." How could that be a thing? You either are or you aren't, and you fucking know where you are because you're like, can we just seriously, can I just crawl into your skin immediately? In a non weird way. And so, it was kind of this phase of trying to make it work, right? And now I'm like, "Okay, it's either I'm fucking feeling it, which is relatively rare, but that's the whole point, or it's nothing", right? And either way is totally fine, but I'm not gonna keep on meeting up with somebody just in case I somehow at some point magically wake up one day and in massive lust and attraction, or whatever, right? But by the same token, it also means ... That's fun. But by the same token it also means that if I'm feeling like, "Okay, I should say this to this guy", or message this or whatever ... I do this where, it even happened last week I think it was, last weekend, where I'm like, "Oh, don't message that." I met a guy, and I'm like, "Don't message that. That's a bad idea." And then I felt like messaging it. I'm like, "My soul is telling me to message that, so I'm gonna message it." And either outcome is fine, right? And it's just that continual process of I'm gonna continually back myself, I'm gonna continue to follow what I'm directed to do inside. Whatever the outcome is actually doesn't matter because the point is that I'm proving I fricking believe in myself, right? And I'm proving I'm gonna back myself, and I'm proving that I fucking mean what I say when it comes through me from the inside. So, I'm building inner strength, I'm building self belief, I'm building resilience, I'm building tenacity, and all these areas can just be related to each other, whether it's fitness stuff, business stuff, love and romance and sex stuff, all of them just connect into each other, and I have to fricking go. I could live stream all night, but I'm gonna go and have dinner with several badass people. So, I'm sure I'll have many more things to share with you tomorrow. I would really encourage you to watch the replay of this live stream. I feel like I brought the message and the preaching tonight, this afternoon, whatever it is. So, go watch the replay, leave me a comment, send me a message, let me know what you thought, and seriously, what if you just fully decided to back yourself? I've built a multi million dollar per year business where every day I just wake up, and sit around and talk to cool people on the internet like I'm doing now. I only do what I want, I have the best time ever. I travel the world continually. You guys see this, and I just want you to really know that's available for you. I didn't have all that. I built it up, and I built it from backing myself, right? And I literally used to write in my journal, all I really wanna do is inspire, educate and motivate people, and talk to cool badass people on the internet, and now here we are. So, I know that this is available for all of us in all areas. Don't forget that if you wanna spend a day with me in person in a VIP private event, on Tuesday in New York, that that's happening. There's several places left, I think three maybe for New York. Send me a message on my personal page, and then there's a couple of places left for San Diego the week after as well. So, it's gonna be April, sorry. March 27 in New York City, and April 3 over in San Diego. Message me on my Katrina Ruth personal page, or you can message on this profile if you're confused about how to find it, but maybe someone can tag in my personal page right now, or I'll do it in a moment when I jump off, and send me a message there because it's just easier for me to PM over on my personal one. I prefer it. And I'll get you all the details of exactly what we're covering, and the cost, and all that good stuff. Have an amazing day. Go take massive action, from your soul. And do not forget, life is now. Press fucking play.

Season 3, Episode 51 - Alexa Martinez. Dan Sterenchuk and Tommy Estlund are honored to have as our guest, Alexa Martinez. Alexa is a sex coach and mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it's her. She is the founder of The Violet Butterfly, a blog about love, sex & relationships and she speaks internationally on the same subjects. Her website: http://thevioletbutterfly.com The Curiosity Hour Podcast is hosted and produced by Dan Sterenchuk and Tommy Estlund. Please join our Facebook Group, The Curiosity Hour Podcast, to continue the discussion about this episode online: www.facebook.com/groups/thecuriosityhourpodcast/ Disclaimers: The Curiosity Hour Podcast may contain content not suitable for all audiences. Listener discretion advised. The views and opinions expressed by the guests on this podcast are solely those of the guest(s). These views and opinions do not necessarily represent those of The Curiosity Hour Podcast. This podcast may contain explicit language.

Alexa is a sex coach and a mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexual expression across the globe. She was born in the deep south of Louisiana, and experienced an “abstinence only” style of sexual education growing up. After spending the majority of her adult life on aboard a cruise ship, and enduring a relationship that seemed perfect from the outside, but in reality was very disconnected, she decided to explore the world of sex, love and relationships. After meeting tons of people, having a lot of different experiences, and helping solve sexual disconnect within others, she found her life's purpose in her sex positive brand: The Violet Butterfly. Stacie talks about sex, and it's purpose being for reproduction, and Alexa is more than happy to debunk that myth. She shares various insights that show we as humans, have sex for pleasure, and that our connection to our sexuality is vital to our health and well being overall. She describes the relationship most people have with sex, and how we're taught not to prioritize it, or it's significance. Alexa and Stacie go on to discuss how to openly talk about sex and fantasies within your relationship in order to open up exploration in the bedroom and beyond. She shares ways to keep the sexy in the room while trying new things, and how to set up a fun and introduce new things into the bedroom without having the expectation that sex is going to happen. She goes on to describe sexual energy, and how play and flirtation can be just as exciting, and that sexual energy can manifest itself in many creative places as well. Alexa talks non verbal cues, and gives a few examples that you can use to set a sexy tone without using so much as a word, and how to tell is someone is giving off a sexual vibe. She explains how body language can play a huge part in attraction, and how both women and men use body language to show who they are attracted to, from their neck to their shoes. She also talks about the biological perspective where sex is concerned, and how everything from a woman's voice to a man's anatomy lends itself to the sexual nature of human kind. Stacie asks about boundaries, and how to set the framework in order to not only have boundaries, but have the other person respect them. Alexa clarifies that you need to have that conversation with yourself first of all. She tells a story about a time someone crossed a line and stepped beyond her boundaries by touching her without invitation, and how that was not okay within that particular situation. Had he checked in and found out where her boundaries were, things would have gone in a much better direction. Alexa shares an exercise called Want Will and Won't. She explains how the exercise works in order to express what you truly want, what you're okay with, and what you will not do. Quotes “To everyone on the outside looking in, it was literally the coolest life.” “When you question the box instead of yourself, then things shift and they change” “There's only one other species of primate that has sex almost as much as we do” “A big part of a human's life is their sexuality and their connection to self.” “We are built for sex” “Your views on your body and your sexuality: how were they shaped and who shaped them?” “It all comes down communication” “Once you get comfortable, you can't go back” Links www.thevioletbutterfly.com  

Dana is in Louisiana! This episode is inspired by her travels, and the energetic experience she has been having since arriving. She explains that not every location is a fit for every person, and sometimes where you live can impact other aspects of your life. She shares stories about a woman who lived in Toronto, Canada, and felt that it was not where she really needed to be, and after moving to California, her life opened up for the better. Finally, Dana explains what brought her to Louisiana: A visit to  past guest Alexa Martinez! http://traffic.libsyn.com/innerdominatrix/IDEp43AlexaMartinez.mp3 Quotes "Is the location that you're in supportive to who you are?" "I wonder what it would take to feel comfortable here" "Follow what works for you" Links www.innerdominatrix.com   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Alexa takes listeners along for the ride as she reads a steamy excerpt from Improper Etiquette by Janice Maynard.   "I'd much rather see your bedroom..." "I can do anything I put my mind to, love, you wait and see." "What she had done earlier in the shower was so out of character for her" "He groaned and went deeper, trying to imprint himself into her DNA"

In this episode of Kaleidoscope Radio, host Alexa Martinez reads All Wet by Shawn O'Connor, and gives some juicy details about the subscription based service: The Nooky Box. She also gives a deal exclusively to members of the Kaleidoscope   www.thevioletbutterfly.com www.thenookiebox.com  

Alexa Martinez is the Violet Butterfly. Growing up in a conservative fashion, she traveled extensively, and experiencing 78 different countries helped her to break out of her shell. Alexa is all about sharing stories, experiences and perspectives surrounding sex. She loves demystifying sexuality, removing the taboos and clarifying all things sexual and alternative in relationships.   Summary Alexa shares her religious, conservative upbringing, and how it shaped and formed into some challenging obstacles in relationships, as well as some internal disconnect. She also talked about how travel helped to broaden her perspective surrounding sex and communication. She talks about the various places she visited, and how they opened her up to different realities. She also talks about ordering drinks in different places, and how one particular visit to an Irish pub quickly became awkward. Alexa explains the jump from being an art director on cruise ships, to educating people about sex, relationships and life in general. She describes her business, and talks about some of the transitions and goals she's experienced and continues to experience within her business and calling.   Quotes “I didn't really have sex education except for what was required in school, and Louisiana is a state that is abstinence only. That's the mandate.” “Movement and expansion is a very sexy and creative energy” “Sex is often awkward, bumpy and humorous” “Your fantasy is really where the excitement comes from and a lot of times, that stuff really doesn't play out” “I shed a lot of what I believed of what relationships and life had to be like and adopted a new mentality of 'I'm going to do what works for me.'” “Your thing that makes you feel not normal, the next person right on side of you has their version as well.” “Become a sex geek for a little while”   Links www.alexanmartinez.com Snapchat: Sexedlex   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.