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I have been looking forward to talking with our guest, Louise Baxter, for several months. I met Louise through one of our regular podcast guest finders, accessiBe's own Sheldon Lewis. Louise has always lived in Sydney Australia although she has done her share of traveling around the world. She attended some college at night although she never did complete a college degree. Don't let that prejudice you, however. Her life experiences and knowledge rival anyone whether they have a college degree or not.   While attending college Louise worked in clerical positions with some marketing firms. Over time she attained higher positions and began working as a brand or product manager for a number of large well-known companies.   At some point she decided that she wanted to bring a more human-service orientation to her work and left the commercial world to work in not for profit organizations. Part of her work was with the Starlight Foundation in Australia, but she didn't feel she was challenged as much as she wanted to be. So, in 2007 she left Starlight, but in 2009 the Starlight board convinced her to come back as the CEO of the organization.   Louise has brought an extremely positive thinking kind of management style to her work. Starlight in general has to be quite positive as it works to ease the burden of sick children in hospitals and at home. You will get to hear all about Captain Starlight and all the many ways the foundation Louise directs has such a positive impact on sick children around Australia. The life lessons Louise discusses are relevant in any kind of work. I am certain you will come away from this episode more inspired and hopefully more positive about your own life and job.       About the Guest:   LOUISE BAXTER is Chief Executive Officer, Starlight Children's Foundation. Louise has significant experience in senior roles in the commercial and NFP sectors and is described as an “inspiring and authentic leader”. In 2009 Louise returned to the NFP sector as Starlight's Chief Executive Officer and Executive Director. Louise's focus on exceptional experiences and relationships has seen improved metrics across all areas of Starlight. Louise is regularly asked to speak on topics such a positivity, organisational resilience, diversity, and innovation. She is passionate about the creation of organisational purpose and believes this is key to delivering maximum impact through people. She practices positive leadership and has been successful in developing high performing teams within a culture where change is embraced, and innovation is embedded.   Always thinking like a marketer…. Louise's personal journey and reasons behind the shift from corporate to the For Purpose sector. After more than 20 years in marketing and advertising in roles at ARNOTTS, Accor & Johnson & Johnson & in agencies such as Leo Burnett working on brands from Mortein to Coco pops, Louise's journey and the insights she brings as CEO are unique. The very first time Louise became aware of Starlight was actually doing a promotion for one of her clients (when she was in sales/marketing) who was partnering with Starlight. Just seeing the work of Starlight, made her feel so pleased that there was now something that changed and reframed the hospitalization and treatment experience for families like a family she knew as a child with a child suffering from leukemia.    The business acumen needed to thrive and succeed in the For Purpose sector. Often the perception is NFP is a step into the slow lane. Far from it. Louise refers to leading Starlight as if it is in ‘eternal start up mode' and bringing business acumen, finding ways to be efficient and driving growth.     Our business… is the business of brightening lives…. The business growth and success of Starlight since she began from 65 people & 120,000 positive experiences delivered to children, to a team of more than 300 delivering over 1million++ positive Starlight experiences to seriously ill children including more than 13,000 children's Starlight wishes granted.   Louise has lead Starlight through some of the most challenging times. Her positive impact has seen Starlight grow from strength to strength. Starlight enjoys a tremendously creative and innovative culture. Including ‘Most Innovative Company' accolade - an achievement which was achieved under Louise's Leadership.   Starlight Programs growth will be stronger over the next 3 years than it would have been without Covid as programs which Transform and Connect rebuild and programs which Entertain grow. As does fundraising as we layer our face-to-face events back over our digital innovations which have taken off.  We have our creative/innovative culture to thank for this. Stories of personal connections made with Starlight children & families who began their journey more than 20 years ago and flourished thanks to the work of Starlight, including now adults Nathan Cavaleri and Dylan Allcott OAM.   Over the years Louise has been personally involved in many of Starlight's fundraising campaigns, once literally putting her body on the line as she flew over the handlebars and was carried away from the cycling course injured on Great Adventure Challenge.     Storytelling is at the heart of Starlight's success, growth & behind the organisations' ability to connect its stakeholders to its purpose. Louise's has largely led this approach to drive advocacy, differentiation & brand recognition – now one of Australia's most recognised children's charities Passionate about DEI: One of the first things Louise did as CEO was to deliberately approach diversity at Starlight and this continues today. To effectively support the people & families we support, our team members need to reflect this. DEI is addressed at every level.. Inc Board & Exec split to Captains in SER.    Louise considers herself very lucky – her birthday is actually on International Women's Day: IWD, 8 March. She is an active member of Chief Executive Women, an advocate for female empowerment & equity and in incredible role model.   Ways to connect with Louise:   Starlight Children's Foundation Australia Website: www.starlight.org.au Louise Baxter's LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/louisebaxter   About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/   https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! 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The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Michael Hingson ** 01:20 Well, hi everyone. Welcome once again to unstoppable mindset where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. It's a fun thing to say I am your host. Mike Hingson, our guest today is the CEO of the starlight foundation in Australia, Louise Baxter, we met Louise through Sheldon Lewis and accessibe, which is always fun. Sheldon is a good supplier of folks, and we can't complain a bit about that. It's a good thing. And so today we're going to learn about Starlight Foundation, and we're going to learn about Louise, and we'll see what else we learned. That's why it's often called the unexpected. Meet anyway, Louise, welcome to unstoppable mindset. We're really glad you're here.   Louise Baxter ** 02:04 Thank you, Michael, it's lovely to be here.   Michael Hingson ** 02:08 Well, why don't we start the way I love to start. Why don't you tell us kind of about the early Louise growing up and some of those sorts of things and adventures you got into, or anything that you want to divulge? Okay,   Louise Baxter ** 02:20 alright. Well, I live in Sydney, Australia, and have done my whole life I've traveled a lot, but I've remained here in Sydney. And so life in Sydney was just blissful. And I think what I remember most is just having fun with my friends. It was back in the day where, as a child, you'd leave home on your bike early in the morning, and nobody expected you back till later, often in the afternoon, before dinner, and we had Bush nearby. I can remember catching tadpoles I sailed from the age of eight. My father was a skiff sailor here in Australia and and I had my first time in a Sabo at age eight, we went to the beach a lot, so there was surfing and fun in the sun. I played a lot of sports. So I'm a netball player, which is kind of similar to basketball, but a bit different. I played squash, so a lot of things happening, a very busy life, and I grew up. And I think this is the important thing with parents who were not well off themselves, but were, I mean, we were. We had a lovely life, but they were always raising funds, and our house was a center for raising funds for people who were less fortunate, or that helping out with the local netball club and things like that. So, so I grew up with parents who were very committed to working hard but always giving back, even though they weren't, you know, high net worth people themselves. So I think that's, you know, a great basis for for who I am today.   Michael Hingson ** 04:18 So you went to school and and all those sorts of things like everybody else did. How did your attitude about dealing with people who were probably less fortunate than many and so on really affect what you did in school? Or did you really sort of hone that found that that that spirit later? No,   Louise Baxter ** 04:42 no, I was always involved at school and raising funds. And even, you know, it took us a couple of busses to get to the beach back in the day. So I was in a local youth group, and we made a decision to raise the funds so that we could have one of the fathers, so that we could. Buy a bus, have one of the fathers drive the bus and get us to the beach on Saturday in quick time. So always looking for ways to never taking no or that's hard for an answer, I suppose, always being able to be part of the solution and get things done. So that was happening while I was at school as well.   Michael Hingson ** 05:21 That's kind of cool. So you bought a bus so that everybody could get to the beach. How many people were there that had to get there and use the bus? We   Louise Baxter ** 05:28 had about 40 or 50 people. And during the school holidays, we convinced one of the, a couple of the parents to take us on a trip through far west into, I'm supposing, what into our outback. So we went into kind of desert type lands, and we camped and a shearing a sheep station let us sleep in the shearing sheds overnight. So that was quite an adventure as well. And we did that for one school holidays on that bus.   Michael Hingson ** 06:02 So was the the bus? Well, who owned the bus was it? Was it a school bus, or who owned it   Louise Baxter ** 06:09 the youth group that we, the group did fundraising? Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 06:13 cool, yeah. That's pretty unique.   Louise Baxter ** 06:17 I have great memories of that with, you know, green tree frogs in the toilets. Whenever you went to use a bathroom, they were always there looking at you and all of those kind of funny things that you remember, you know, watching and learning farm life and seeing some of the animals sitting on the fence while they were being branded and castrated and all kinds of things, but from as a city kid that was that was really valuable,   Michael Hingson ** 06:47 pretty and unique, but certainly the experience was well worth it, as long as you embraced   Speaker 1 ** 06:53 it. Yes, exactly, yeah. So   Michael Hingson ** 06:57 does that bus still exist today? Or does the youth group still exists now with new youth, that's a very long time ago. Michael, well, I didn't know whether it might have continued with new youth,   Louise Baxter ** 07:07 no. And I, you know, moved locations in Sydney, so I'm not quite sure what's happening there. Now, it'd   Michael Hingson ** 07:14 be exciting if new youth came along and took it over, but yeah, things happen and things evolve.   Louise Baxter ** 07:22 I'm just gonna say their parents probably drive them everywhere now. Yeah, it's   Michael Hingson ** 07:26 gonna say probably the adventure isn't quite the same as it used to be. No   Louise Baxter ** 07:30 exactly,   Michael Hingson ** 07:31 and, and that has its pluses, I suppose, and its minuses, but there, there are also more scary things in one sense in the world now than there used to be. Don't you think,   Louise Baxter ** 07:43 yeah, there are, well, there could be, or maybe, maybe we know more about it now because of our media and communications. So you know, all the kind of predators that impact you as children were around then, I suppose the accidents in cars are up because use of cars has increased. So, yeah, there are. There are different things that impact people nowadays. But us human beings, we're pretty resilient and and we always work out a way through, yeah, well, there's also, there's also a story from my childhood that I think is very relevant for what I do at Starlight, and that story is that you know how you have those family friends, who you grow up with, and you go on holidays with, etc. Well, that family for us, their eldest son was diagnosed with cancer, and back then, survival rates for cancer were very different to what they are today, and much lower. And he died when I was about 12, but as a child, I observed him suffering the pain of the treatment, and there was nothing like Starlight back then. And I saw also the impact that his illness had on his family. And I often think back to him, to those moments now that I'm at Starlight, because Starlight would have changed that situation and made it very different and far more positive for that boy and his family, and I think about about him and what they went through kind of regularly. So it's one of those things that's a childhood. It's a lived experience from my childhood, which, you know still kind of resonates with me today.   Michael Hingson ** 09:44 Well, yeah, and you know, we're, we're constantly evolving. So you can, you can think about that, and you can think about what might have been, but at the same time, the the real issue is, what have you learned? And. How can you now take it forward? And I think, as I said, that's all about embracing the adventure,   Louise Baxter ** 10:04 absolutely, absolutely and so absolutely take that forward,   Michael Hingson ** 10:09 yeah, which is really what you have to do. So you went to college, I assume, yeah.   Louise Baxter ** 10:15 And I actually went part time at night, so I actually went straight into a work environment. And for an organization, and was in the marketing team, just doing basic clerical work, and then I studied part time at night, so did a bit differently.   Michael Hingson ** 10:33 Yeah, well, did you end up eventually getting a degree? No,   Louise Baxter ** 10:37 I have no degree. Which is, which is something that's not, is very unusual in the United States. I know, oh, I don't know   Michael Hingson ** 10:49 that it's that unusual. But the the other side of it is that what you learn and how you put it to use and how you evolve is pretty significant. And that's, of course, part of the issue. Not everyone has a college degree, and sometimes the people with college degrees aren't necessarily the the brightest spots in the constellation either. Absolutely, it's,   Louise Baxter ** 11:13 yeah, there's a lot through lived experience, but I have, yeah, I've studied at various times, and most recently, I was awarded a scholarship. And I've had the experience of doing two short courses at Stanford University in the States, and I'm now on the board of the Stanford Australia Foundation, and so that's been a wonderful experience as a mature age student.   Michael Hingson ** 11:42 That's fair. Yeah, I just recently was inducted into Phi Beta Kappa, which formed the chapter at my university the year I was leaving, so I was able to go to the organizing meeting, but that was it, because then I got my master's degree and left and through circumstances, it was learned that all that happened. So last year, I was called and asked if I wanted to become an alumni member. So I got to be so I finally got to be a member of fraternity. Well, there you go. Congratulations. Well, it's a lot of fun, yeah, and I, and I treasure it and honor it a great deal, and spent a day down at my old university. I haven't really spent a lot of time there since graduating, well, back in 1976 with my master's degree in some business courses. So it's been 48 years. So there you go. Time flies. Well, so what did you do? So you you were working in the marketing world, in a clerical sort of thing, and what did you do from there? I   Louise Baxter ** 12:55 then became an assistant brand manager, a brand manager or product manager, whatever you want to call it, and I worked at Reckitt and Coleman. I worked at Johnson and Johnson and at Arnot snack foods. And Arnot snack foods was interesting because it was a joint venture with Pepsi foods from the US, because they were interested in the biscuit technology from Arnott's, and Arnot was interest interested in their snack food technology. And so what we had was a situation where we were sharing our expertise, and as a result, I was on the team, and we launched Cheetos, Fritos, Doritos into Australia, so they didn't exist here prior to that. Obviously Johnson and Johnson also, you know, big multinational, as is reckoned and Coleman. And then, after a number of years working on client side, I decided I wanted to move to the agency world. And I moved to Leo Burnett advertising agency, where I stayed for a decade. I was on the board there. I managed accounts like the Proctor and Gamble and kill on businesses as well as local businesses like tourism businesses and and wine so hospitality businesses here in Australia, very big wine company and and also the United distillers business back then. So had a lot of experience from both the client and agency side of working on big brands and growing big brands, which I absolutely loved, and we had a lot of fun, you know, along the way, in those days at all of the organizations where I worked, I made a lot of friends, and it's always important to have great friends from those experiences. And then I considered I actually left after i. Left Leah Burnett, I started an agency with two other people that's called Brave New World, which still exists to this day. I haven't been part of that for a long time, and then I had this moment of considering that I could potentially do something more worthwhile with my skills than than selling the products I'd been selling for all those years, and that's when I first made the decision to move to the what I referred to as the profit for purpose sector, and moved to Starlight in a role, and at that time, that was just a six month maternity position role. And I did that because I had great experience of brands from the client and agency side and promotions, so above and below the line. Promotions. I had worked on promotion supporting charity so cause related marketing campaigns. And I felt that the one thing I was missing if I wanted to go back into a corporate, into a corporate social responsibility role. Was that experience of working in a charity, and so I thought at that stage that my, my of journey was going to be back to a corporate because at that time, if you think this is over 20 years ago, triple bottom line was, and the third sector was really becoming important to organizations and to corporates. And so I thought I'd take my skills and go back to a corporate what I did instead was I went to starlight, as I said. It was a six month contract, but after three months, then CEO came out and said, What would it take to keep you here? I loved what I was doing, and I stayed at Starlight. I did stay for six, seven years. I then left and went back to corporate world, and I came back to starlight. So I left at the end of, what am I of? I left at the end of 2007 I came back in 2009 so I had that experience of back in the corporate world, and I came back as a CEO. It's   Michael Hingson ** 17:20 interesting. You started out in, as you said, in clerical work, but you started out in marketing, which, which you liked, what, what caused you to do that? Why marketing? Why marketing and sales, if you will?   Louise Baxter ** 17:33 Well, I love, I love marketing. I love brands, and I love the fact that, you know, brand is a living and breathing thing, and you can grow and change a brand. And I love, I love all the learnings around consumer insights. That was my specialty within marketing. So actually understanding that consumer behavior, and what I say about marketing is it's, it's hardly rocket science, because if you look at a young child, they recognize that they speak differently and use different language and words, etc, when they're speaking to their friends, when they're speaking to their grandparents, when they're speaking to their teachers, when they're speaking to their siblings, and so already, the concept of I have a different consumer in front of me, and I need to change my language and what I'm saying and my communication skills. Need to tweak. A child understands that from a very early age. So when I think about marketing, that's what you're doing the whole time. You're changing what you're the what you're saying and the way you say it, so that you engage more strongly with your consumer, and that's what I love about it, because communication is just so powerful, and you can take people on a journey. I'm also you know you can change behavior before you change the attitude, but ultimately you can move people and kind of change their thinking and their their their habits.   Michael Hingson ** 19:11 What's a really good example that you participated in of that I love a marketing story, loving sales and marketing as I do, I'd love to hear a good marketing story. Um,   Louise Baxter ** 19:22 well, there's, there's, there's quite a few. And I'll, I'll give you one. There was, I used to work on all the roads and traffic authority business, and at that stage, we were responsible for handling all the campaigns, from speeding to seat belts to drink driving, etc. And what was really powerful about those was your results were that every day you came into work and the road toll was there, and the road toll was, you know, up or down. And to work on campaigns which, over years, reduced the road toll because of the messages that you would keep. Communicate to people about speeding, etc. So whether people believed that they should be going, if you know, 10 kilometers slower in that particular zone or not, the messages of you know of penalties being caught, whatever the messaging you used to slow them down in that moment worked, and that saved lives. So, you know, that's, that's an example. I also worked on brands such as Special K, you know, and and for me, seeing, we created a fantastic campaign here that ran for about 20 years, and it was based on the the traditional Special K ads where women would wear clothes that they had years ago. And this one was about a mini skirt, but it was done in such a way that the woman was Stuart was the strength in the TV commercial. She was the lead. And that grew the business, and grew Special K at that time, at like, three times the market average for any, you know, product growth. So to see those things, and what I love is the results. And you you get it very strongly in those moments and and it's exciting.   Michael Hingson ** 21:17 You mentioned having been involved with working with Fritos and so on, which strikes a nerve when I lived in New Jersey, somewhere along the way, ranch flavored Fritos came into existence, but they didn't last very long, and I miss ranch flavored Fritos   Louise Baxter ** 21:34 we used to do when I worked on those snack food brands. We did so much testing and to to create tastes that are suitable, because tastes do change significantly, you know, region to region, and so ensuring that we had exactly the right flavors that would resonate and and sell here was really important to us. But along the way, we had some shockers, and we did have a lot of the specialist from FRITO lay in the states out working with us to craft those flavors. So we eventually got ones that worked here and for this region.   Michael Hingson ** 22:13 Yeah, and I'm sure that that must be what what happened that ranch flavored Fritos just didn't sell enough. In   Louise Baxter ** 22:20 cell Michael, you didn't have enough friends,   Michael Hingson ** 22:23 I guess not. Well, we didn't know enough people in New Jersey. What can I say? But, but we contributed as much as we could. My wife and I both loved them, and we we bought ranch flavored Fritos every chance we got. But unfortunately, that really probably wasn't enough to keep it going. So we, we mourn the loss of ranch flavored Fritos. But you, you did that, and it's interesting, because if I were to bake this observation, in a sense, although part of your job has changed, part of your job hasn't changed, because it's still all about marketing and educating people. Of course, now you're on the not for profit side, but that's okay, but what you're doing is teaching and educating, and now you're doing it for more of a social cause than a profit cause.   Louise Baxter ** 23:21 You're exactly right what we're doing every day because is, we're marketing our organization, and it's all about communication, and that communication might be very different with, you know, high net donors to community groups who support us in terms of how they connect with us. The impact stories are the same, although you also learn that certain individuals might prefer programs that support children, or might support prefer programs supporting older people, older children, or might support programs that support our Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander children. And so you learn that through all your discussions. So it's all about hearing, because marketing is about really listening and and so I am still, you know, everything we do is about really listening and really hearing from the kids and the young people we support. You know, we need to listen to their situation and what, from our program's perspective, is working for them. So I feel it's very, very similar to what I did, because I was a product manager, so I was always listening to our customers to create more relevant products, and then communicating to people so that they we could sell those products. And the difference here is, back then they were the same people, so you would listen to your customers, then you'd be selling to them. And now what happens is our customers are the children and young people who are seriously ill and hospitalized, and our customers, the people where we're getting the funding from, are the donors who. Support those programs. So you break it into different groups, and we have far more stakeholder groups that you're managing in the profit for purpose sector than you do in the for profit sector. But that keeps it   Michael Hingson ** 25:14 interesting Well, so what is in in what you're doing today? And I'd be interested to to hear a contrast. But what does what does success mean to you today, and what did success mean to you when you were in the marketing world?   Louise Baxter ** 25:30 I think that that's always, you know, being the best you can be, and achieving the the metrics you need to achieve. So that's not changed, and always having really positive relationships with, you know, and partnerships. So for me, none of that's really changed. And I think that, you know, authenticity is very, very important. And so I constantly say, you know, with me, what you see, what you get, I'm the same person, no matter if you're a friend, a colleague at work, whatever, and I think that makes life much easier than if you were different people in different spaces. So I think there's a there's something that's very consistent about that. And I, I am that kind of person who doesn't take no for an answer. It's just okay. That's that's a bit trickier, but how can we get that done? So I'm always, always been solution focused, and I think that's been that's really important. And I think, you know, Obama has made comments about the type of people he wants to employ, people who get stuff done, and that's that's exactly me, and who I look to work with. So none of that has changed, but for me, it's now incredibly important. We're changing lives every day, and I think that what Starlight does in this country is we believe that that happiness in childhood matters, because happiness in your childhood is the strongest determinant of how you perform in your education, your employment, and with long term healthy life behaviors, children who are seriously ill have their ability to be happy significantly impacted. And so what we do is we sort support them with a whole range of programs. And I can talk about our theory of impact, but it builds their well being and resilience. And I know that that that you talk a lot about, you know about fear, and I think resilience is that thing that that gives you the strength to move through those things that may be frightening to you at some stage, and kids who are seriously ill are going through so much that is unfamiliar and frightening to them and painful. And so Starlight has been creating programs which are all about positive psychology and built on the tenants, if we can build, if we can distract a child by something that's positive help them to look forward to something positive. On the other side of treatment, it changes their engagement with their health care, and it changes their health outcomes for a positive and so that's incredibly important, and we were using this a decade before Martin Seligman even coined the phrase positive psychology and and now as as clinicians recognize, and they've recognized this for a long time, but are increasingly recognized the ways this this can be used to create improved health outcomes. And let's face it, you know, healthcare is one of the most innovative, fast moving sectors you can possibly work in, and clinicians have changed and improved health outcomes for every illness and disease you can possibly think of, and that's amazing. And so Starlight has been part of that improvement in healthcare, but the recognition that your mental health and well being is completely connected to your physical health and well being. And so while the doctors and nurses the clinicians look after the physical Starlight is engaging with the child within the illness and helping to lift their spirits, support their well being, resilience, giving back that joy of childhood. Because, you know, a clinician once said to me, Louise, in treating their illness, we steal their childhood. And so what we're about at Starlight is giving those kids back their chance to simply be a child and have that fun of childhood, which is where we started this conversation. You know, childhood should be about fun and having no inhibitions and not worrying, not a care in the world. And children who are seriously ill live in a very kind of adult world where they're dealing with concepts such as life and death. And that's not where any child should really be.   Michael Hingson ** 30:05 So when you're when you're dealing with a child, what, what? What do you do to bring the child back to the child, if you will, as opposed to all the the challenges that they're going through? Because certainly, when you're dealing with a disease like a cancer or whatever, it is, a very tough thing. So how do you bring that child back to being able to be a child at least for part of the time?   Louise Baxter ** 30:32 And that's, that's, you're absolutely right. It's about moments, because, and we talk about moments which matter. You can't do it for 100% of the time, but if you can lift that child and distract them and take them away from that, even if just for a moment, it changes everything. And I, I we have a whole range of programs that cater for this, in hospital and also in community. And last year, we created nearly 2 million so it was 1.9 million positive Starlight experiences for children. And that's the way we talk about it, because they're all so different. But we work in three general areas, and that is, we transform, we work in partnership with the clinicians to transform the healthcare experience, and we even build physical spaces in the hospitals, all the children's hospitals in Australia, which are manned by a character called Captain starlight. So we employ nearly 200 Captain starlights, who are all professional performers, and they work with the children, and they engage. They don't perform, but they use performance skills to engage with the child and the child's imagination, because a couple of things about children is that they are in they have incredible imaginations, and they are also easily distracted. And one of the things about most parents is they they try to work out how they keep their child focused? Well, we use the fact that children can be intensely distracted for good. So, you know, for example. So talking about that transforming the healthcare experience, some of our captain starlets will actually work in a treatment space with the clinicians, and they know how the treatment is going to unfold. Not so they could ever perform the treatment, but be so they know when to distract the child, when to keep the child very calm, etc, throughout that procedure. But let's say it's a burns dressing change that to a child. The pain of having a burns dressing change is like having your skin removed every time the dressing has changed, and what we do is we have our captain starlights there, and children don't have the psychology of pain in their mind. They will be intensely distracted, and their pain threshold then increases by up to 75% by simply distracting them, which means then they don't need to have an anesthetic for their treatment, which means that that child may not have to stay in hospital overnight because of that anesthetic and etc. So by using the power of a child's mind engaging with them, we can change that scenario. They won't feel the pain. Now, for an adult, that sounds weird, because if we were having that burn stressing changed on an arm, even if someone was distracting him, we'd be waiting for the pain, whereas a child just gets absorbed in the distraction and is not waiting for the pain. And so that's the difference. So we transform the healthcare experience, we provide opportunities for children to connect, because social isolation is one of the key issues associated with serious illness and treatment. They're pulled away immediately from their local friends and family, often into, you know, a hospital that's in the city, and that's the way our healthcare system works. The big children's hospitals are in the cities. The kids come out of regional areas and into that so they're away from everything, all their friends that their bedroom, everything that's familiar, and so that social connection is really important. That's part of what we do in our Starlight Express rooms, which are in every Children's Hospital. They also are TV stations within those hospitals and broadcast to the bedside of the child. So if the child's too sick to come into the Starlight Express room, they can be part of that and have that social connection from their bedside. So quizzes, for example, are really important for us, and we run a quiz every day, and sick children have lost that ability to compete in so many ways and have fun and have that little banter that you have with people when you are competing. Yet a quiz brings that all together. And we often have, we always have prizes, but it means a child in their bed who can't physically come into another space with another child for issues in terms of their illness and and. Um and infections and cross infections, etc, they can still be involved, and they can win the quiz, and, you know, be on television and chat with the other kids. So those things are very important. And we also promote entertainment, because entertainment is a great way of of distracting children. And so we talk about what we do. We transform the healthcare experience. We provide social connection that's so missing, and moments of entertainment. And our program sometimes deliver all three, but they're created for one specific reason, and so we're all about having fun. And for me, when I see a child come into a Starlight Express room, especially a child who's recently been diagnosed, you can see they're often in a wheelchair. They're holding an IV drip. They have their head down, their shoulders down, they have the weight of the world on their shoulders. They're looking like no child should ever look and you see this child come into our space and start to lift because a Starline Express room is a haven away from the clinical nature of the ward. They start to lift. They see the space. They see the captain starlights, and for me to observe that same child, 510, 15 minutes later, roaring with laughter, completely forgetting where they are and why. That's the power of starlight, and that's what we do through all our programs every day. And that moment lifts that child and gives them, builds their resilience and gives them the ability to go back into that next round of treatment, surgery, etc. So it is in that moment, and it changes everything.   Michael Hingson ** 36:40 How does the starlight experience differ in America and our healthcare model here as opposed to in Australia? Do you have any idea?   Louise Baxter ** 36:52 Yeah, well, we have, we man all of the spaces in our hospitals. So the hospital, when a new hospital is being built, they they they allocate a section that is the Starlight Express room space. We then build the Starlight Express room, and these are quite large spaces, and then we man it with our own paid team members and volunteers that would never happen in your healthcare system, just with legal issues and liability, etc, you'd never see that happening in in America. So that's, I think, the key, the key difference from things that we do in Australia, we also are a wish granting organization, and we are the largest wish branding organization in Australia, and we have programs called we have a program called Live Wire, which supports young people, so teenagers and up to the age of 20, and that is in hospital. So we then don't have Captain starlights. We have live wire facilitators, and then we have live wire online. We also have a virtual Star LED Express room, which we created and trial during COVID. Because obviously everything around the world and definitely in Australia, was in lockdown, and our programs were an essential service in the children's hospital, but we were restricted, and so we'd been toying with the concept of a virtual Starlight Express room for a long time, and so we used COVID as that opportunity to trial that, and we trialed it. It was very successful, and we're now rolling planet Starlight into every hospital across Australia. All people need there is a QR code. And so we put up beautiful posters, which are also games that kids can play that has a QR code, and they can go directly to Planet starlight. And planet Starlight is set up has live shows of Captain starlights during the day, but also games kids can play directions, how to do art. So if a child's seriously ill, but at home or in another hospital, they can do all of this stuff. And it's it's not that you need a full tank kit. We do it and understanding that children will be able to work with what they have that's near to them. We even have things like I spy for an emergency room space so that kids can stay distracted, no matter what part of a hospital they're in. We also now support families who are in at home palliative care, because 70% of children in this country who are in palliative care are at home. That's not necessarily end of life palliative care, but palliative care can go on for a number of years, and those families are incredibly alone and isolated, and so our Starlight moments program delivers things to uplift that family and have them know that someone's thinking of them during this time. And. Again, it is those moments which really, truly matter.   Michael Hingson ** 40:05 So, um, how did what? What do you know about how it works here, or what actually happens in America? Do you have any real notion about that? I mean, I understand all the legalities and all that, but how does it differ what? What do they do here to be able to foster that same kind of climate. Yeah,   Louise Baxter ** 40:22 they're still about happiness matters, right? Which is fantastic, and they do that with, I'm trying to think of the name now Fun, fun boxes that they have delivered into hospitals with toys, etc, for kids. In some hospitals, they are able to do a refresh of a playroom to make it a starlight space. But it's then not like ours are manned every day with team members. They have little carts that help kids transport round the hospital. So yeah. So they have a whole range of things that they can do within the limitations of the different health system. It   Michael Hingson ** 41:06 must be a real challenge to keep up the spirits of all the people who work for starlight. How do you keep a positive work environment and keep everyone moving forward and hopefully reasonably happy in what they're doing, because they they have to see a lot of challenges. Obviously, yeah,   Louise Baxter ** 41:26 we we're authentic with our commitment to positive psychology. And so getting close to 15 years ago, we started working with a group here in Australia called the positivity Institute, and we started training all of our team members. So every team member who joined Starline is trained in the tools of positive psychology, because you're absolutely right. And I use the airplane analogy, you know, if the plane's going down, you're always told that you put your you have to put your oxygen mask on yourself, because if you don't put it on yourself, you're of no use to anyone else, and POS, psychs like that, you have to care for yourself. And self care is so important, because if you are not caring for yourself, and if you are not topping topping up your own cup, then you're of no use to support and coach and help other people, and so we have positive psychology is the one authentic thing that, just you know, moves right through our organization. It's at the heart of everything we do for the children and young people. And importantly, every question we ask ourselves about every business decision is, will this improve the way we support the seriously ill children and young people, yes or no, and then what we do is we carry that through, because for us to be able to provide the support we do, and you're absolutely right, working often in very challenging situations, we need to know how we can look After ourselves. So POS site flows through the whole organization, and we are an organization that is a great place to work in Australia, there's actually, you know, a survey that's done annually, and corporates and other organizations are ranked, and we're always in the top group of performers there. So it's, it's also very critical to maintain a high performing team, because we need to be sure of able to have our team bring their best self to Starlight every day. And that's what post psych does for us. How does   Michael Hingson ** 43:37 that work? What? What do you do? I mean, you, you obviously have people who go into situations and they get hit with so many sad sorts of things, but obviously you're able to bring them out of that. How do you do that? Well,   Louise Baxter ** 43:52 as I said, Everybody's trained up front and recognizes the tools or has the toolkit for prossite, but we don't just leave it there. So the people who are working in hospitals have daily debriefs. They have a support crew from an employee assistance organizations who work with them. That's the same person who works with those teams. So they then have weekly debriefs, monthly, quarterly. So we're onto it. It's, it's, it's a, May, it's a, it's a, it's very strategic in the way we support them, and it's very considered. And so that support is there for people on a daily basis. So   Michael Hingson ** 44:35 you, you, I'm just thinking of a question I'm going to ask, you're doing a lot with children and all that, which I think is really great. Is there any chance that this kind of approach could also work for older people, adults and so on?   Louise Baxter ** 44:57 Absolutely, and it. It would also work. I mean, we're working with seriously ill, right, and hospitalized children, but it would also work with group, other groups of vulnerable children. So, you know, happiness and positive psychology is something that works for everyone, quite frankly. And so one of the things that's a side benefit of starlight being in a hospital is it lifts the morale of the whole hospital team. So the hospital, the hospital team, is happier. Because if you think of working in a children's hospital, if Starlight was not there, it can be a pretty dour place, and the challenges are every day, but with starlight, they're lifting the spirits, having fun, being silly. It changes everything for the clinicians I know, I've been at the door of a lift, an elevator, as you would say, and and before the lift, the doors open. A doctor who's been waiting there, notices that two captains walk up to hop in the elevator and and the doctor will say, I'm taking the stairs. I never know what those guys make me do between floors, but laughing. So you know, our captain starlights are about that fun. And the thing about Captain Starlight is they come from Planet starlight. So there's a mythology around them, and they fly to planet earth every day in an invisible rocket ship that lands on the roof of the Children's Hospital. And the great thing about this is that the children are then in the gun seat in because they understand everything about Planet Earth, and the captains don't. So the planet the captains will do silly things like pick up a pen and use it like a telephone and go, Hello, you know. And the children will go, No, not that. So it's that merge of slapstick and kind of vaudeville and the child engaging with the child. But they will, can they? Our captain? Starlets will do that silliness with doctors and nurses too, which is also hilarious. And that's the comment from the captain from the doctor. So Right? It keeps the morale of the entire hospital, because, you know, it changes from having children who are crying and distressed and frightened to children who are roaring with laughter, um, despite the fact that they're seriously ill, that's great.   Michael Hingson ** 47:25 How can we bring that to adult patients?   Louise Baxter ** 47:29 Well, do you know what I've been working or I've been walking with our captain starlights as they've had to move through an adult part. You know, some of our hospitals are adults and children's and then the youth are on the other side. As we've walked through, an elderly person stopped and said, Hey, captain, could you sing me a song? And so they had their ukulele there, and they launched into, you are my son. I think he might have requested, You are my sunshine. And you can see immediately the change in the person. So it, it is something that definitely works, but at the moment, we don't have the funding to meet all of the need that we have for children and young people. So while it's, you know, potentially a great concept, it's, it's not something that we can move into in the the immediate future. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 48:24 and you can only do what you can do, but it would certainly, it would seem to me be exciting if people would bring more of those programs to adults too, because adults could could use it. And I'm sure you know that I'm not saying anything magical at all, but I would think there are ways to bring a lot of this to adults that would help lift their spirits. I know when my wife was in the hospital, it was very boring for her. Now she was in a wheelchair, so she was in a chair her whole life. So she had other challenges being in the hospital when she needed to use a restroom or have help with a bedpan, sometimes it took a while and so on. So just a lot of things that could have been better for her, that I think would have made her experience better. And I realized that she was probably, in a sense, a harder case than some, but still, it would just be so nice if we could do more to help all of the different kinds of patients in hospitals and make it a better experience for them.   Louise Baxter ** 49:23 Yeah, that's that's what we're doing about, about changing that healthcare experience,   Michael Hingson ** 49:29 yeah. What about the whole concept of diversity, equity and inclusion and so on? How do you deal with a diverse population? So for example, in all the things that you're talking about, what if you discover that one of the children that you're dealing with is blind in the hospital? How do you adapt so that they get as included as other people in the things that you're doing? Yep,   Louise Baxter ** 49:53 we have. All of our team are trained in dealing with. Children who are blind, who are deaf. We actually recently had training, and we had our captain starlights. They were all blindfolded, and they were going through sensory experiments to teach them how they can better use sound and other things to work with children. So So our team is trained across all of those different areas, because you're right every day, we do deal with children who are deaf, who are blind, who are in wheelchairs, who are non verbal, who are on the autism spectrum, but all of those things. So we have to have teams trained. Our team is trained to understand how they can deliver an exceptional experience to those children, as well as children who don't have those differences. So   Michael Hingson ** 50:56 clearly you have a we got to get it done. Got a really positive attitude to get things done. Where did you learn that attitude? Because that's a very positive thing that I think more companies and more people in general ought to learn. The whole concept of, we're going to get it done no matter what it you know, I don't want to say no matter what it takes, but we're going to get it done, and we're very positive about that. Yeah,   Louise Baxter ** 51:25 I'm not sure that I learned it, but I think that there are people in life who you see that way. I always, I always jokingly call it waiters with their heads up, because, you know, you see when you're in a restaurant often, there's those people who walk past your table and don't pick up the dirty plates, who aren't looking for things to do. And then there are those other ones who you can see are going from table to table, doing stuff everywhere. And I always say they're the people I want to employ, the waiters with their heads up. So I think it's an attitude you have in life. And you can either kind of say, well, that's a challenge, and that's difficult, but how can I get that done? Or you can say, well, that's difficult. I just won't do that anymore. And and, you know, we need people who want to get stuff done and who always have a pot and having a positive attitude just makes you feel so much better than dwelling in the negative. And you know, I hate people who are always who those negative Nellies or nets or whoever they are, and they bring you down. So positivity is something that I think helps all of us every day. And why wouldn't you choose to be positive? Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 52:37 and it is a choice. And the reality is that no matter what goes on, I think we can choose to be positive. One of the things that I've been saying for many years, that I learned because of the World Trade Center, basically, is don't worry about what you can control. Focus on what you can let the rest take care of itself. We're so worried about every little old thing in the world that we don't tend to be positive about anything, and that doesn't help any of us. No,   Louise Baxter ** 53:07 I think that being positive is so incredibly important. It makes you feel better and happier, makes everybody around you feel better and happier. So why wouldn't you do it? And I actually use this at Starlight too, because sometimes team members like you reach a point in your in your work life, and I did. I left Starlight because I needed a new challenge, and Starlight didn't have that challenge for me. So why hang around and become that disgruntled person in the corner who's just trying to pull everybody else into their negative little corner and finds fault with everything the organization does. Why would you stay? You know, and if you leave in that instance, you go to somewhere where you can contribute, and you feel great. You're doing a great job. The organization gets someone into your role who really wants to be there, and all that negativity stops. So in positive psychology, the end game is flourishing. And so I jokingly say at my team all the time, if you don't want to be here anymore, if you're not feeling challenged, please go flourish somewhere else. Don't stay here and become that negative person who tries to bring everyone into their negative corner. It's just not good for you or anybody else. So, yeah. So, so the Go flourish somewhere else is a bit of a joke that people say they're going to have printed on my coffee mug at some stage.   Michael Hingson ** 54:30 Well, you went away, but you also came back. That's   Louise Baxter ** 54:34 right, that's right. And so I went away because I needed a new challenge at that stage. And that challenge, potentially, was the CEO role that it wasn't available then. So I went and I did something else that I loved. And then, you know, the board came back to me some time later and said, Would you come back as CEO now? And I said, Yes. So there you go. And then I'd had a different experience, which actually helped. Me to be a better CEO. So as you say, if you're always moving forward, if you don't get hung up about things, and if you choose positivity, that really can set you up for a much better life. What   Michael Hingson ** 55:13 are some of the challenges that Starlight is facing in Australia today?   Louise Baxter ** 55:19 I think that for us it's a nice challenge, because as clinicians recognize the power of positive psychology and the power of the mind in improving health outcomes, they're very creative, and they're coming up with more and more ideas as to how star lack could be used, but we can only deliver if we increase our funding. And obviously, I think globally, communities are under pressure financially, and so those things kind of don't work together. And that's that's a challenge for us. I think we live in a world of increasing complexity and compliance and and we need to within that, ensure we meet the requirements and the criteria, but we do it in the simplest possible way, because simplicity is better for your mental health. It's more effective and efficient. And so sometimes within the the complexity of compliance, people are on making things even more bureaucratic than they need to. So really keeping things simple, I think, is is important against the backdrop of what's happening. And the exciting thing is we work in the sector of health care. And health care is always changing, always improving and and that's a great thing to be part of. What   Michael Hingson ** 56:48 do you think are well, what would you tell somebody from, let's say, one of your former jobs in marketing and so on, what kind of advice would you give them based on what you now know as being the CEO of starlight, for, my gosh, what? For 15 years, 14 almost? Well, 15 years, yes, almost 16 years. Yeah,   Louise Baxter ** 57:10 I think that. I think people have to be true to themselves. You know, you have to be authentic. Choose positivity is something that I would always give advice around, because, as you said, it is a choice, and I fail to understand why everyone, anyone would choose the negative, yeah, side of that equation and really focus on getting stuff done. So never sit back and be lazy. Always be working to be that, that person who thinks about themselves others and cares and gets it done,   Michael Hingson ** 57:55 yeah, we we spend way too much time, because I think we're taught so much to be negative when we don't get taught nearly as much about being as positive as we can be. I know that my parents were always encouraging to me and my brother. I'm not sure my brother always got it quite as much as I did in terms of understanding it, but we were, we were taught that positivity was a choice. We were taught that being innovative and moving forward was a choice. And we also were encouraged to make that the choice that we made too, which is part of the issue, yeah,   Louise Baxter ** 58:37 excellent. And the other thing is, I would say, Do not be a perfectionist. I'm an anti perfectionist. Yeah, I agree. It gets you nowhere. Doesn't exist. And you know, especially in this day, where we can move, and we're very agile, kind of, I say 70% out, because if you say 70% and out, it means people will probably go to 80 or 90% but those people who, if anyone in a in an interview, proudly tells me they're perfectionist, they're gone because all they do is drive themselves and everyone around them crazy. So I don't want to have them in the organization. It   Michael Hingson ** 59:17 seems to me that the thing to say is that I will always do the best that I can do, and I will always give at least 100%   Louise Baxter ** 59:25 Absolutely.   Michael Hingson ** 59:28 Yeah, perfection is something I don't think most of us understand anyway, but if we give it our best, probably we'll achieve perfection, in a sense,   Louise Baxter ** 59:37 yeah, and get it done and get it out, get it happening, right? Because the thing is, if it's not, if it's, you know, if it's not, if it's not perfect, you get it out and you get to use it, and you learn so much more. So you got actually a better shot at getting it towards it. You can tweak it after,   Michael Hingson ** 59:55 yeah, well, well, market, well. And what you do. Do is you do the best that you can do, but you're if you're wise and good leaders. Know this. You also work with a team, and sometimes somebody else on the team can take the lead and enhance what you're doing, which is always a good thing.   Louise Baxter ** 1:00:15 Absolutely, you've got to have way smarter people all around you? Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:22 I don't think there's anything wrong with having smarter people around you. Your your smarts is in bringing the team together.   Louise Baxter ** 1:00:29 Yes, that's right. So   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:33 what can you think other regions and countries learn from the challenges that you're facing?   Louise Baxter ** 1:00:40 I think we have, I think the world is so consistent in this day and age more than it's kind of ever been. You know, when you travel, you know, you seek out those places where we're different. Of course, we're different, but there's a lot more that's the same in this day and age than there ever has been and, and, you know, in some instances, I think that's quite sad, yeah, but there's much more consistency. So I think that there's, and there's always something that we can learn from each other, always. And that's what I look for. I'm excited by up learning things and you know, and and something that doesn't go according to plan is fabulous, because you learn so much more from that than something that just smoothly goes along and does everything you thought it would do.   Michael Hingson ** 1:01:35 Nothing wrong with learning from things that don't go well. I don't like the term failure and even mistakes, I'm not a great fan of but I think that what happens is that things don't always go as we plan. And the real question is, what do we learn from it? Absolutely which is, which is so cool? Well, Louise, this has been absolutely fun to be able to spend all this time with you. Now it's 10 in the morning where you are, so we should let you go do other things and get something done today. But I want to thank you for being here, and I want to thank all of you who are listening for being a part of our podcast today. I'd love to hear your thoughts about what Louise had to say, and I hope that you will communicate with her. And that's a good point. Louise, how can people reach out to you if they'd like to talk with you and maybe learn more from you, and what you have to say, I'm   Louise Baxter ** 1:02:27 on LinkedIn. So if, if those listening are on LinkedIn, you can find me. Louise Baxter, Starlight, Children's Foundation, Australia and or you can go to starlight.org.au, we if you're looking for us, our website, and you'll find me through that as well. Cool.   Michael Hingson ** 1:02:47 Well, I hope people will reach out. And if you'd like to reach out to me, and I hope you will, you may email me at Michael, H, I m, I C, H, A, E, L, H, I at accessibe, A, C, C, E, S, S, I, B, e.com, and you can also, of course, go to our podcast page, w, w, w, dot Michael hingson.com/podcast, and Michael hingson is spelled M, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I N, G, s, o, n.com/podcast, you can listen to all of our podcasts there. You can reach out to me. There lots of things you can do on the web. It's an amazing thing to be able to do things on the web. I also would really appreciate it if when you are thinking about us, if you'll give us a five star rating wherever you're listening to us or watching us, we really appreciate your ratings and your comments. So please do that. If you know of anyone who you think might be a good guest, and Louise, you as well. If you can think of anybody else who we ought to have on unstoppable mindset, would definitely appreciate you introducing us. We're always looking to have more people to come on and tell their stories and talk about what they do. That's the best way to learn, is learning by listening to other people and them telling their stories. So hopefully you'll all do that and again, Louise, I want to thank you for being here.

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Leadership Kryptonite #3: Critical Spirit “‘Scoffer' is the name of the arrogant, haughty man who acts with arrogant pride.” Proverbs 21:24 (ESV) Zero offense intended to all the wonderful Debbys, Nellies, and Carls in our lives. Thankfully, you are not a Negative Nelly, Debby Downer, or Complaining Carl. However, I guarantee you know a few. They go by different names but always seem to work their way into a team. It's known as a critical spirit, and it is a deadly form of leadership kryptonite. At a previous church, we had a member of our team who lived with a critical spirit. He saw everything through a negative lens. He challenged every new idea, doubted every decision, and always expected the worst. Unfortunately, he brought the entire team down. A person with a critical spirit is to a team what water is to a fire. They quench enthusiasm, hinder progress, and create an atmosphere of negativity. To lead effectively, we must recognize and address this destructive attitude. Get The Notes

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Spooky season is upon us, and what better way to celebrate than with a rerun? Boo!Email: TheNervousNellies@gmail.comInstagram: Instagram.com/thenervousnelliesPatreon: Patreon.com/thenervousnelliesCover art by Gabriel M instagram.com/xxRoboSexualxxMusic by Yellow Omm provided by FreeMusicArchive.org

Lesley wraps up the final Friday of September by encouraging listeners to stay grounded during the busy Q4 season. In this Fuck Yeah Friday episode, she shares wins from the community, like retreat sign-ups and book launches, while also celebrating her own progress with improved sleep. Tune in for an uplifting reminder to celebrate progress, no matter how small.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Tania securing a retreat sign-up and preparing for a workshop.Natalia book launch and landing TV spots this year.Lesley's incredible sleep scores after months of consistent efforts.The importance of celebrating small wins along the way to larger goals.A powerful mantra for healing and releasing emotional burdens.Episode References/Links:Wand PilatesFemGevity If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar  Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedIn  Episode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  It's Fuck Yeah Friday. Brad Crowell 0:01  Fuck yeah. Lesley Logan 0:02  Get ready for some wins. Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:46  Hello, Be It babe, welcome to your final Friday of September. Oh my gosh, we made it. We did it. We're here. And what does that mean? Q4 is around the corner and this is the chaotic months, and this is the months you're gonna forget to celebrate your wins. In fact, you're gonna stop listening to the things that support you, and you're gonna get a little bit crazy and chaotic and I'm gonna encourage you to keep, keep doing the things that make you feel like a human, because you will feel like a human on the other side of this. Just because it's chaotic and crazy and demanding of a Q4 does not mean you can't feel good while doing it. Just saying. So, on these FYF episodes, these Fuck Yeah Fridays, I share some wins of yours. I share a win of mine. And then we have a little mantra, and we take on the weekend, right?Lesley Logan 1:32  All right. Tania Tsiora, an agency member, wrote, one more person registered for my retreat. We organized in October. I prepared everything for the second workshop, Welcome to Pilates, I give tomorrow in the studio. Let's see some newbies. And I finished writing June's newsletter. It is, of course, about the retreat, which will be sent out on the sixth. Hugs, everyone. Oh, my God, Tania, yes, that is a major, look at all these wins. Celebrating that you got a new signup, celebrating that you've already got everything prepped for the weekend workshop, and celebrating that you did the newsletter. You know, I think so often we have things that come up on our to-do list, and we do them. We totally do them, but we don't always celebrate that we did them. We're like, just move on to the next thing. We just move on to the next thing. And that, my loves, is such a bummer. So thank you, Tania, for sharing that with us. Lesley Logan 2:18  All right, Natalia, she wrote, my landing page, my book, which will be released in September, is live, and it is wandpilates.de. Oh my gosh. If someone had told me last year that I'd be invited on TV several times this year and write a book, I would have thought they were crazy. I'm feeling so excited, scared and grateful at the same time. It is unbelievable. I'm looking forward to everything that comes. Natalia, you wrote a book, you've been on TV, you did all of these things in a year. I just love this one so much, because you guys, she didn't go into the year knowing she'd be on TV. She didn't go into the year knowing she's going to write a book. Sometimes we're like, okay, I'm going to write a book this year. I'm gonna do this and like, we just like, there's no surprise. And she had so many surprises, and she is rolling with those surprises. She was so present. So congratulations, Natalia, on writing the book, but also on celebrating the landing page is ready like again, there's wins so we can celebrate along the way to a big goal. And I love helping remind you of that each and every day. Lesley Logan 3:18  All right, my win. So here it is, my sleep scores for my Oura ring are insane. They're insane. They're absolutely amazing. Is not a fluke that they're insane. It has been months of this, and so I've been celebrating them along the way with, I'll tell you. So the first two nights amazing sleep. I celebrated with my FemGevity doctor. Then I was celebrating with, like, all of the people, anyone who listened to me. I'm like, look at my sleep score. Look at the sleep score. Look at this one. And then I was like, looking at the deep sleep and the REM cycle sleep. And like watching it each and every night get a little bit better and a little bit better. And the reason I'm celebrating my sleep is, you guys, we need to sleep. We're supposed to sleep a third of our life, and we need more sleep. Sometimes we think, and some of us have convinced ourselves we need less sleep, and that's fine. I'm not saying you need eight hours. I don't get that. I do really, really well with seven. Seven is awesome. If I get seven and a half, it's even better. But seven is like a sweet spot for me, and I've been sleeping through the night, and so I'm celebrating that, because all of this is efforting come to fruition. Efforting in first doing things like creating a sleep routine that worked for me. Then it was like a morning routine that helped me set up for a better night's sleep that night. Then it was getting my hormones checked so I could help me sleep. Then it's getting my gut checked that can help me sleep. All these just different things I've been trying to do to come together and I'm sleeping, and it is great. And so if all you can recognize of yourself today is that you were sleeping and drinking enough water, you slayed. You have so many wins. That's two wins. That's amazing. It's amazing. So go celebrate that. Lesley Logan 4:50  Send in your wins to the Be It Pod because we can celebrate you here, and you can then hear this win in your ear when you are probably on a day when you need it, like I just need a win right now. Now you're here in the exact right moment. I'm going to remind you of all the things you're awesome at. So what are your wins? We want to hear them. Make sure you share with a friend. It helps take those negative Nellies and turn them into people who celebrate some wins. Lesley Logan 5:11  And our mantra for the weekend is I breathe in healing. I exhale the painful things that burden my heart. I breathe in healing. I exhale the painful things that burden my heart. I breathe in healing. I exhale the painful things that burden my heart. My love, breathe in healing and exhale the painful things that burden your heart. You are amazing. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 5:37  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 6:20  It's written, filmed and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 6:25  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 6:29  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 6:36  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals. Brad Crowell 6:40  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally, to Meredith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this week's episode of the Cricket Scotland Podcast, we speak with Falkland CC's Robbie Nellies after he was awarded a BEM in the New Year's Honours for his services to cricket, and then catch-up with Cricket Scotland's new Head of Performance Steve Snell to discuss his plans for the role! You can get in touch with the podcast on social media using the #CSPodcast Find out more about the Cricket Development Trust on their website: https://www.csdt.org.uk/

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How much do Gabriel and Jarrod actually remember after recording an episode. This week, they do a recap of their episodes and try their best to recall what they actually said and what they learned.Email: TheNervousNellies@gmail.comInstagram: Instagram.com/thenervousnelliesPatreon: Patreon.com/thenervousnelliesCover art by Gabriel M instagram.com/xxRoboSexualxxMusic by Yellow Omm provided by FreeMusicArchive.org

Nellie är 14 när hon blir inlåst på SIS-hem. Kriminalitet och missbruk är en del av vardagen för tjejerna som blir Nellies förebilder. Och det är här hon lär sig knarka. Av: Simon SarneckiProducent: Gustav AsplundSlutmix: Astrid AnkarcronaVerkligheten görs av produktionsbolaget FiltBehöver du prata med någon om självmord?SjälvmordslinjenRing eller chatta dygnet runt. Tel: 90101BRIS Barnens rätt i samhället Barnens telefon 116 111 Vuxnas telefon om barn 077-150 50 50Chatta dygnet runtSPES - förening för dem som förlorat någon till självmord. Alla dagar klockan 19-22.Tel: 020 -18 18 00Jourhavande kompis (Röda korset) Chatta klockan 18-21.Jourhavande medmänniska Alla dagar kl. 21-06. Tel: 08-702 16 80Psykiatriska mottagningen där du bor. Gå in på www.vardguiden.se för att hitta närmaste mottagning.Jourhavande prästKopplas via telefonnummer 112 alla dagar kl 21-06.

To all the naysayers, the negative Nancies, and the naughty Nellies, your week just got a little bit brighter because the idiots have DELIVERED! That's right, not ONE but TWO idioms for this week. The cagey “nip and tuck” and the annoying little “pet peeve” are on the chopping block. Three contestants, one cash prize, and a whole lot to lose. It's Hold Your Horses: Death Match Edition! (Any streaming producers out there, we've got some show ideas…) Not really, it's the regular gang, plus some new voices and a lotta laughs. With a 40+ minute episode, you'll want to cozy next to something warm (hopefully not a hibernating bear in its den though) and get some quality headphones (might I suggest Bose?) to listen to the sweet and sometimes salacious crooning of Tommy, Travy, and Danny - GIDDY UP, lil doggies!

It's the double whammy at the end of the year: Christmas & New Years. Are you ready? In this very special holiday episode Jarrod and Gabriel talk about boundaries, resolutions, eat some more gross holiday candies, and talk holiday traditions. Bundle up, stay inside, and listen to your favorite Nellies get into it.To find a therapist or counselor near you, please visit www.goodtherapy.org Email: TheNervousNellies@gmail.comInstagram: Instagram.com/thenervousnelliesPatreon: Patreon.com/thenervousnelliesCover art by Gabriel M instagram.com/xxRoboSexualxxMusic by Yellow Omm provided by FreeMusicArchive.org

What a treat! Gabriel and Jarrod celebrate halloween by having a candy taste-test, talk Halloween plans, and take an in-depth look at superstitions, the psychology behind them, and how it played a role in the Salem Witch Trials. Plus, a deep dive into the history of the witches and their portrayal in media. Happy Halloween, everyone!

With rising inflation and cost of living, what has this meant for the most marginalized groups in society? If groceries are expensive for the middle class, what about low-income families? Jyoti Singh is the Executive Director at Nellies in Toronto.  Episode #163 - Jyoti Singh, Executive Director Nellies Toronto

Dana Norrod will talk about her son Corbin, who was diagnosed with Stage 3 Neuroblastoma when he was 6 months old. After some early scares about his legs and his heart, Corbin will be 10 years old in October and is doing as well as possible health wise. Dana is the Operations Manager for the Non Profit Nellies Champions For Kids and will talk about her role there, as well as talking briefly about her then 6 month old daughter Lily, who also had a serious health scare which thankfully was taken care of.

It's time we caught up on everything going on in my life and as I have Archie strapped to my chest for the first part of this episode, clearly I'm going to talk about motherhood and the life of being a mother to now 2 children. Beyond that, wanted to catch you up on the gym that I've talked about previously, updates on Candor, and my postpartum experience.   Time Stamps:   (0:49) Dabbling on Youtube (2:30) One to Two Kids (3:30) Sponsored by Better Help (5:20) Housekeeping (10:55) I'm Too Funny for IG (14:20) Candor (20:10) Chug Break (20:36) Postpartum and Story Time (43:25) Mental Health Wise (49:10) Future Content Help/Youtube   Follow my tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@desb___  Follow @brunchwithdesb on insta: www.instagram.com/brunchwithdesb  MISSED OUT ON RUNNING STR8NGTH, here you go: train.desbfittraining.com/workout-plans/479049/purchase   Support Shannon and the twin boys: https://gofund.me/58ed5b2b    MORE INFO:   Hit me up: https://shor.by/DESB  OPEN FACEBOOK FITNESS COMMUNITY: www.facebook.com/groups/dbftcommunity  LIVE workout subscription restarting JULY 2022: WWW. PATREON.COM/DESB   Be sure to join my email list for our new challenge opening April 4th, merch, and weekly motivation from me: http://eepurl.com/dy2JLz OR join my app here: https://train.desbfittraining.com/trainers/312078/landing   PARAGON FITWEAR: code “desb” to save 11% PTULA ACTIVE: code “desb” to support me HYDROJUG: code “desb” to save 10% and stay hydrated af TULA SKINCARE: code “desb” to glow off with your skin and save 15% ALANI NUTRITION: code “desb” for free shipping over $50 and support me BUFFBUNNY COLLECTION: code “desb” to support   instagram ➭ https://www.instagram.com/desb___ twitter ➭ https://twitter.com/desbfit youtube ➭ https://www.youtube.com/desireescogginfitness  facebook ➭ https://www.facebook.com/desbfittraining my weekly emails ➭ https://mailchi.mp/a0ed2b83e2ec/dbfts... official website  ➭ https://www.desbfittraining.com   ---------------------------------------------------   Shop my fitness app programs: https://train.desbfittraining.com/trainers/312078/landing  Shop DBFT merch and glute BANDS: https://desbfittraining.myshopify.com ---------------------------------------------------   F A Q   -what's your real name? Desiree   -what's your instagram? www.instagram.com/desb___   -how old are you? 25   -how tall are you? 5'7   -whats your Spotify playlist? https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0c1...   -skin care routine? https://www.tula.com / CODE "desb" to save 20% -my huge water jug? https://www.thehydrojug.com / CODE: "desb" to save $   -supplements I use? https://www.alaninu.com / CODE "desb"   AND   -how to find my free stuff and codes? https://shor.by/DESB 

Jamie Morgan is a Certified Life Coach who has helped many women going through the divorce process move toward a new life filled with happiness. She brings years of experience to her clients, as well as her personal experiences with a failed marriage and divorce, as she assists them in creating action-oriented plans for life post-divorce. Jamie guides listeners through a three step process they can use to “accept, surrender, and move on.” She shares tips for dispelling “negative Nellies” - unhappy thoughts about yourself and your situation - and turning downward spirals upwards. Accepting your situation begins with looking within. It's human nature to point fingers when bad things happen to us, but we have no power over the things outside of us - we don't have control by wanting everything else to change. We only have power over our thoughts, actions, and reactions. Letting go is the result of other actions. It involves creating a new awareness of your thought patterns and saying “it is what it is” when you find yourself dwelling on regrets. It takes constant practice and intention - it's not going to happen overnight. Meditation helps you organize your thoughts and acknowledge your emotions. By taking a break and simply focusing on your body, you give yourself an opportunity to stop an adverse reaction dead in its tracks. True, authentic confidence occurs when we know our flaws inside out and are willing to do the work to mitigate them. We know who we are and what we need, and we accept it all - we love the good with the bad. Resources Jamie Morgan on LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram | Website Mobile Phone: +250-212-1739 Email: connect@jaimemorgan.com Join Jaime's Free Facebook group VIP Abundant Life Stacy Francis on LinkedIn | Twitter Email: stacy@francisfinancial.com FrancisFinancial.com Reach out to receive a complimentary consultation! Contact Francis Financial at +212-374-9008 or visit Francis Financial today!

In today's episode of the Strike a Balance Podcast for Working Homeschool Moms, I speak to Nellie Harden. Nellie is a Family Life & Leadership Coach who focuses on helping parents eliminate power struggles with their daughters and help them grow into confident, wise, and respectful young women that are actually ready for the world! She is a wife and mom to 4 daughters, author, speaker and podcaster, homeschooling parent and adventure chaser. She has a degree in biology and psychology and a diverse behavior background from humpback whales in the South Pacific to teens and parents in homes across the world. She believes in a life of intention and making dreams and goals realities. She knows that they best way to help the world is through one living room at a time. Nellies shares some realistic and practical advice for being a happy and thriving working homeschool mom. This episode is full to the brim with goodness and I'm positive you're going to get so much value out of it! You can find Nellie here... On her website NellieHarden.com On her podcast NellieHarden.com/podcast On Facebook The 6570 Project On Instagram Nellie Harden And be sure to join her free 5 day parenting workshop on Facebook. Ignite Their Joy Workshop: 5 Steps to Grow Your Daughter's Self-Esteem During the Tween and Teen Years If you're a working homeschool mom, then I would love to have you join the Working Homeschool Moms Support Group on Facebook. It's a place to interact with other working homeschool moms. I share daily content covering mindset, schedules, homeschooling, work, self-care and lots more! yet? I also go live every Thursday, chatting about working homeschool mom life. And have you signed up to my newsletter? I send a weekly email with a special subscriber freebie. I have designed The Ultimate Working Homeschool Mom Planner printable PDF planner, with working homeschool moms in mind. It's a planner you can buy once and then use year after year to keep track of your working homeschool mom life. You also get access to my library of homeschool resources. Sometimes working homeschool mom life can be really tough. I have two resources to help with your mindset and your schedule, as I know that many working homeschool moms struggle with these two things. You can take my mindset challenge and also do my time audit. Both will help you to take stock of where you are and to craft the life you want. I would be so grateful of you could rate, review and subscribe to my podcast. Or if you could share it on Instagram. I really want to reach and support as many working homeschool moms as possible. I would also love it if you could take a selfie of yourself listening to the episode and tag me on Instagram (@charlottejones247). Until next time, take care!

A beautiful, powerful woman of God shares her prayer and her experience ( that i will read) with our partners- then we will lift up this general and her family in prayer as well.

I was having confusion with the rebrand of the podcast…  Which name am I going with?  What am I doing with the show?  Mix that in with my divorce history and a failed business “Nitro Sales”…  Which was a lead gen company.  I.e. generate leads and explode your sales :).  And a potential new name of the podcast hits me! The Nitro Sales Pitch Session where we get to talk about how to sell stuff. With audio, video, videos, sales letters, interviews, etc, etc. Webinars.  The Winfomercial.  And we will have people on “Pitching” stuff.  Pitching their products.  And as always keep at it keep taking the messy action!Administrative: (See episode transcript below)WATCH the Table Rush Talk Show interviews here: www.TableRushTalkShow.comCheck out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:01And here we go. Part three of the rebrand of the Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path To Peace! podcast. And I was fairly certain it was going to be the Table Rush, the Table Rush masterclass. But of course, that is seemingly not the case anymore. So thank goodness, I have not put out that logo. Although I've done 6, 7, 8, 9 interviews under the Table Rush moniker, but I believe I'm may still be Table Rush. I think there's a third option though, which I'm going to sort of been talking about on the last two episodes. And this is part three. So just a recap, I'd had tremendous insecurity about this Table Rush. I'd been told to contemplate and think and like, what's your message? What are you doing with this channel? But are you doing with this? With this, you know, this podcast? What are you doing? Like, that's what you want the the name and the tagline to represent. And, you know, your intros and outros and I was very frustrated. Communication came back, Patience. Patience is in order. And I was thinking, I was just thinking, I should pause right here. So I could do the official intro and then start again, but I will not do that to you. Okay. So at the end of the last episode, my life had collapsed.  Relationships, finances. I'd had Nitro Sales, which was helping people generate leads and explode their sales. Hence, Nitro Sales. And I was effectively gently encouraged by the vocational evaluator evaluator to get back into the loan business.Mischa Zvegintzov  02:17That's what the universe did for me. I'd been trying to get out. I was like the godfathers. They're pulling me back in to the loan business. This was in 2010 ish. So Nitro Sales collapses. And I'm back in the loan business and back up my financial feet and able to pay my alimony and child support.  And I shut down all the financial obligations associated with having an office and printers and copiers and data lines and leases and all this stuff. And man, I'm very proud of the way I exited all that. I negotiated terms to everyone's satisfaction as I was leaving some contracts early. And I wanted to make sure that everybody was happy, as best as we could be versus just saying goodbye. Good luck.Mischa Zvegintzov  03:23So funny.thank you for listening. I love you.Mischa Zvegintzov  03:30So the... I just took a quick break. I'm Back I hit pause trying to recapture my thoughts, best series of episodes ever. God bless the entrepreneurial and the creator journey.Mischa Zvegintzov  03:49So I'm walking today. And it hits me. Wait a minute, you've got this Nitro Sales like you have Nitro Sales, nitrosales.com. N I T R O S A L E S .com.  What if you called the podcast and sister YouTube channel? The Nitro Sales. What is it the Nitro Sales, talk show and pitch session. The Nitro Sales talk show and pitch session. That's what it is. Five or six days a week I'm just going to be talking away about sales and life and the entrepreneurial journey and how does spirituality weave its way through all that and and as well as trying to.... with the under the the main theme being hey, let's get on camera to sell. Let's talk audio to sell like podcasts interviews. Like how can we effectively sell in that in that in that environment where you're asked to.  Hows that?Mischa Zvegintzov  05:12So I'm not saying go sell where they're trying not to have you sell, you get what I'm saying. And then I also want to have people have the opportunity to do their pitch, right like here's the pitch to the world here it is. And then bring people on who are new at it refining their pitch learning the integral parts of the pitch and then people being people on who are excellent at it and then as well why not get the best in the world on there. Hopefully get to a point where people are like, Heck yes, I'd love to come onto your show and your talk show and pitch session and pay perhaps chat for a moment and then I'll give you the big pitch. Mischa Zvegintzov  06:03So... yes! I think that's very exciting. Boy it sure is coming...  These episodes are all the sudden coming through I have and I'm like, What am I going to talk about? As well as per usual I'm walking through a park full of people this Sunday morning. And and so I'm distracted shiny object shiny objects. People looking at me like I'm crazy as I'm talking in my phone.Mischa Zvegintzov  06:35Anyway, I'll end like this. I think what was so striking is a few things.  One, Have your phone and microphone with you. So you're ready to record when inspiration strikes. Two, trust the process keep at one of the things I was willing to do is continue to take messy action. And I still am. Number three, communicate with people about your insecurities. people that you trust the Stacy Martino who's got that relationship, amazing relationship courses and such. What does she call them? She's got a name for that sort of that inner circle of like the top... you're... the people that are on board with your creative process versus the Negative Nelly, shall we say.  Or not the negative Nellies, the ones that are... they are not embracing the entrepreneurial journey. I don't know. I don't know how to say it. But keep at it.Mischa Zvegintzov  07:37And then, I don't know. I'm just so excited. I'm so excited to have the idea of the Nitro Sales talk show and pitch session. Where, where, what, where we get to help where we get to talk about how to sell stuff. With audio, video videos, sales letters, interviews, etc, etc. Webinars. I've got this thing called the winfomercial that I'm setting up to help people do this. And then so we get to talk about all that the entrepreneurial journey to sell and then as well as pitch, an opportunity to pitch to practice your pitch to an audience and to have people who are new at the pitch as well as pros. And to see what develops from that. Evaluating talking about analyzing, growing learning. Yes, I'd love it. Okay, there you go. I'm done. Part Three. I hope that this provides inspiration for you to continue to take messy action and the Nitro Sales, talk show and pitch session.

hello. Hello, vitality seekers.  This is your host Caroline Schafer. Today. I'm doing a very special episode and I am not having a guest and we are going to talk about the naughty and nice lists. I know lists of very prevalent this time of year with the holidays. And I thought it would be very appropriate to discuss that today. I'm hoping it's helpful for your holidays and we'll add a little peace throughout them.   We all have these lists. I probably have more than most. I have lists upon lists everywhere I go and I even joke that my lists have lists, but seriously, this time of year, we all have holiday gift lists.  Christmas lists, party to do lists, Christmas card lists, maybe a list of things that you're trying to accomplish before the holidays. But nonetheless, these lists that we're going to talk about today are naughty and nice list, they can help you feel better and manage the holiday season with a little hopefully kinder mindset. So let's talk about the nice list. The nice list is maybe six or eight things that you can put on it, for the holidays to bring you some peace and happiness, some small items that would benefit you personally. This holiday season is so stressful for so many and I think that most of us forget that it should be based around joy and we get caught up and all the craziness that gets put upon us commercially. So I have 12 items, like the 12 days of Christmas. some ideas you can put on your nice list, the be kinder to you list.  Maybe there's a restaurant in your area that you've always wanted to try and you never took the time. That's a good one. Number two, buy yourself a favorite cup of coffee or tea or a brand of specific tea that you always enjoy. Three- call a best friend, or maybe someone that you've lost touch with that you've been meaning to contact. Number four, get a massage, a Mani and peti, and those feel good things. Get your hair done.  That's always something kind for yourself. Number five buy your favorite meal. And this could either be going out or it could be even better. I liked the idea of buying the ingredients, maybe things that are not normally on your weekly grocery shopping lists and making something special, either with a loved one or a family member or you can do with friends, but take the time to enjoy without rushing a meal that you really, really like.Number six, 10, extra minutes, taking maybe a shower or a sauna or 10 minutes extra working out, or if it's something you really enjoy, but just put 10 extra minutes buffer somewhere on your schedule to add in some goodness for your health. Number seven a bath. Baths are very relaxing, especially at night.  They do help and promote good sleep. It is not as much for the relaxation as you think it is more because when you get out  your body core temperature reduces, and that is beneficial for REM sleep. But nonetheless, a nice bath with maybe a favorite playlist or a favorite audio book, add a candle. that hopefully will add some peace to this crazy time.Number eight, go for a walk at maybe a beach or a park or in the woods. There, a science behind that, that backs up the concept of walking in nature is better for you than just walking in a street. So maybe you could take advantage of. Number nine, meditate start if you have never done so or maybe add five minutes or 10 minutes to your normal regimen, meditation has so many wonderful benefits.  If you haven't enjoyed the  tranquility of that, then I hope that this will give you the incentive to do so. How about number 10, a date night?  It can be with a girlfriend, a partner, husband, parent whatnot, it doesn't have to be complicated. It can be as something as doing Netflix and a pizza, but as long as you put it on the calendar, because when you do so you actually look forward to the event and that also releases endorphins as much as being in the actual event itself. Same situation as vacations.  They have done studies and it's not just the vacation, but the planning, and the activities of looking into it actually is beneficial for your health as well. Number 11, hire someone for a task that you normally do yourself. Maybe one night, you could have a personal chef or at your house clean. Maybe you can get somebody to do your lighting outside and it doesn't necessarily have to be a company. Maybe some teenagers in the neighborhood. Then there is wrapping the gifts, I know a lot of people don't like that, that happens to be one of my favorite things, but, maybe you can hire your babysitter that normally watches your children to wrap your gifts and you can make cookies with your kids instead, that would kind of be fun or a home delivery for your groceries. If you don't normally do that, maybe this is a good idea this time of year to do something like that and try it and save yourself a little bit of time. These are all things that I hope add value or make deposits in your life.  This time of year, there's so many withdrawals on our time, on our finances, on our emotion, mindset... we get so caught up with the negativity that we forget that it is supposed to be a time for peace and good things.  I'd like you to schedule them, specifically with a day in a time.  For instance, Monday morning at 9:00 AM, I will go to the farmer's market. So that is the nice list. All right. Then we have the, not to do lists the naughty list, I'd love for you to think of this as a peace protector. This is a list of things that don't add value to your life. It is not something that means you're bad, but it means that the act of doing this is negatively affecting you. So things that waste your time or distractions like social media or a long-winded person that you know. Or things that stress you out, maybe, you can limit time with those kinds of people that stress you out.  I like to categorize people as either energy givers or energy takers and you really need to hang out with the energy givers, especially this time of year. So limit if you know, people that are drainers limit your time with them and have protect yourself. The next one,  things that are not imperative, you want to get them done, but maybe just take a second and think this is really have to have to have to be done before the holiday. Can it wait until after the holiday and pull this burden off of me and make my life a little bit easier would that joy of not having that on my list outweigh the benefit of having it done. Think about that a little. And then things that you feel obligated to do. Learn to say, no, thank you.  Learn to ask for help,  lower your bar for expectations, don't try to be the Superman or the superwoman. Less can be more simplify things as much as possible and reduce that self pressure. And lastly, think about what is in your control. This is huge. Most things fall into this category. You really only can control yourself. You really can't control your kids, your partner, your employer, or any of those things. Examples of things that should be put on the, not to do list. I have 12 again; don't look at your phone may be for the first hour of the day. A lot of times that causes people undo stress. I meditate with my phone, so I use it right away, but a lot of times people, look at email and negative social media and they get a lot of angst right up and out of the get, go in the morning. That is not a good thing. Don't read those specific emails from specific people that you know, that are going to cause you aggravation, try to at least give yourself an hour to get up and get awake before you tried to ingest that. Number two, don't multitask, most things go faster with focus. I know everyone tries to multitask a million things. I am guilty as well, if it doesn't relate to other people, I will sometimes multitask. If other people involved, I try harder to keep focused with that individual. Number three, don't sit at your desk for more than an hour.  It is proven that if you take breaks, it is much better for productivity. Then there's, if you have your head Hanker down and just keep at it. So, look up, make your eyes stared to something in the distance. That's good for your vision.  Get up, shake those legs around. Tony Robbins says,  Move your ass and you get happier, even 30 seconds. Um, they had surrounded. It definitely makes you feel better. Number four, don't stay up too late. It is best to get to bed by 10. The first two hours of sleep from 10 to 12 are equivalent to four hours of sleep after that time, because they help restore and regenerate all the healing in your body. So you're doubling up on your restorative benefits from getting to bed by 10.  If you can keep a consistent schedule through the holidays, that will also help you keep focus and have more energy during your day and get more things done rather than stay up and keep pushing. Number five, don't go over your holiday budget. I know finances are a huge thing for people. I'll just say that something that I've been doing for years, and it's funny, cause it involves a list, but  I keep index cards with everybody's name on the top. I write,  ideas of gifts on one side, what I have bought and then I total it on the right side and keep a tally. It works great for kids and keeping things balanced. Um, but stick to it, track it. Number six, don't get caught up in the commercialism of the holiday. It's so easy to do the heck with the Jones is and make the cookies instead of buying the bigger gift, your kids will appreciate the time spent with them, then that gift that's going to end up getting dusty, and thrown in the corner. So time is the most important thing, not the object. Number seven, don't go off your routine. As we talked about with the sleeping same thing, and especially with exercise and diet, a lot of you hear people say you deserve it. It's a treat Baba. Um, treating yourself to depression. I never see a benefit in that. One of the ways that people do that is going off their diet, especially this time of year, a lot of sugar gets involved. That's a sure-fire way of having things go down a negative path. Number eight. Don't spend too much time with those energy drainers. We talked about that. Um, the negative Nellies the downers, the people who always al every story into something that makes you feel bad. Um, keep those assigned if their relatives keep those Conversations limited, excuse yourself, find something to do or when you get on the phone  specifically say upfront that you have something to do in five minutes or something so that it it's limited right out of the gate. Number 10, don't go to all the parties or all the invitations you get. Um, if it's an enormous amount, some people have a very long list of invites, um, and it gets to be a job in itself. So learn to say, no, thanks. And it'll be okay. It actually will make you a little saner through the positive, through the process. Number 11. Don't try to do it all alone. Ask a friend, ask a neighbor, ask for help. Asking for help is such a beautiful thing. People like to feel wanted. And a lot of people hesitate to ask, but asking is a gift on both ends.It helps you and the other person usually enjoys giving. So, try, try to do that. It's a little bit of an uncertainty muscle for most of us, but asking is a good number. 12th don't hold onto grudges or negative feelings. This is very important. It probably the best one. I forgive fast and move on. I used to think that forgiveness equated to condonement. But it doesn't, actually when you forgive somebody, it helps you more than the person that you forgive. It's like taking the burden of weight off of you and you no longer have to think about. So remember that forgive fast and move on and put it behind you that it's not worth carrying around that extra weight. That a lot of times grudges and negative feelings carry, it's the holidays. It's the best time of year to do that. hopefully you guys all got some great ideas, some holiday hacks, if you will, that will result in less than usual signs of mental and physical fatigue. Please send me an email. If you utilize some of these and tell me what works best for you. I would really love that feedback. Um, And it would just be great to hear from all of those listening out there. And I very much appreciate you listening. So I thank you.  Please send me an email. If you have implemented some of these ideas and let me know what worked best for you, I really would love the feedback.  You can email to info@fitframeworks.com. Again, that's info I N F o@fitframeworks.com F I T F R a M E S. Dot com. Thank you. And I want everyone to remember that life has no remote. Get up and change it yourself. Happy holidays!

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Hi, I am here with Kimberly Spencer, she is a certified high performance coach and intuitive life coach, Amazon bestselling author, and international motivational speaker.  Ari Gronich 0:00 Has it occurred to you that the systems we live by are not designed to get results? We pay for procedures instead of outcomes, focusing on emergencies rather than preventing disease and living a healthy lifestyle. For over 25 years, I've taken care of Olympians Paralympians a list actors in fortune 1000 companies, if I do not get results, they do not get results. I realized that while powerful people who control the system want to keep the status quo, if I were to educate the masses, you would demand change. So I'm taking the gloves off and going after the systems as they are. Join me on my mission to create a new tomorrow as I chat with industry experts, elite athletes, thought leaders and government officials about how we activate our vision for a better world. We may agree and we may disagree, but I'm not backing down. I'm Ari Gronich And this is create a new tomorrow podcast. Welcome to another episode of create a new tomorrow. I'm your host, Ari Gronich. And here I have with me is Kimberly Spencer, certified high performance coach and founder of crown yourself.com Welcome to the show Kimberly toning a bit about yourself. Kimberly Spencer 1:23 Thank you so much for having me on re Yeah, I am the certified high performance coach. I'm the founder of crying herself calm, I specifically work with visionary leaders to help them build their empire and stand out authentically and serve serve you with their leadership. And it is my like it is my soul. Like that's like Solas and like the number one and Solas and like soul connection mission, that more good hearted, mission minded, purpose driven, conscious leaders are making more money so that we can seriously transform this planet. That is that is my big mission that because I truly believe that when more good hearted, mission minded leaders are making money that that is what can create the change. And so it's my it's my honor to be able to serve some of the amazing leaders and entrepreneurs that I've been able to help over the past four years. And it's been a very fun ride. Ari Gronich 2:22 Awesome, very cool. Why don't you tell us a little bit about your background, and what got you to this place. Kimberly Spencer 2:28 So my background was quite varied, it was very much from a place of following my curiosity, and exploration, I grew up with two entrepreneurial parents. So the entrepreneur gene is kind of like in my blood. But I watched my parents, from a very early age, my dad was an addict. And so I saw that struggle between the higher self and the potential of who he could be. And the addictive state of pharmaceutical drugs of non pharmaceutical drugs and of alcohol of all the things. And I saw the ability to recognize someone's potential very early on, and see someone when they're not living into it, or when they're making excuses for it. And I believe that we're kind of blessed with the children that we need to remind us of who we have been that was kind of programmed and stripped away from us. And I was always a very emotional child. I was big emotions, big feelings. And growing up that wasn't really praised. In my house, I saw my dad escape his emotions, my mom would suppress and repress hers. And so he there I was left with all these big emotions and not knowing what to do with them. And so it turned me into two things one a bulimic and to reading and writing in Hollywood, when I was 17, I got my first feature film produced when I was 20. And it was such a fun experience, being able to have that dream and have see my name on the up on the big screen. But I was surprised that when I was at the premiere, I was actually only 90% fulfilled. And it was at that time that two weeks later, after the premiere, I got a notification from a friend of my friend who came to the premiere because when you write a movie, you get extra tickets. And so she her son had come to the premiere and had seen the film and it changed his life based on the story. And the story was a very simple story. That was about a young kid who wants to fit in with the cool crowd. And he adapts himself into the high flying hard partying world of freestyle motocross to do so I didn't know anything about motocross at the time, I just researched it. Like most people are like wait, crowd yourself and freestyle motocross. I know. But that that experience of learning that something that I created, had transformed somebody's life and the story that they were living in And to some and made them want to be better and recognize their own possibility and their own potential. I was like that I want to do that I want to do more of that. At the time, in order to support myself in Hollywood, I was also transforming my own story with with my body and what was possible for my body because I became a Pilates instructor simultaneously. So I started out teaching Pilates, to support myself in my career in entertainment. And it was there that I saw that the power of the mindset, and I was surrounded by different types of clients training 10 hours a day, seeing all these different types of bodies. And it didn't matter whether somebody was technically overweight or technically thin, or technically ate healthy or technically didn't, what mattered was how they thought about their bodies. And what matters was how they thought. And those thoughts were reflected in, in their actions and in their habits. And it showed me the power of the mindset. And it was from that perspective, and that like little aha that I had, that I was able to shift out of being a bulimic into an entirely new identity of being transformed. I don't believe I'm recovered, I believe I'm transformed. Because the idea of going back to that old identity is so horrific that I would never want to go back. And so it was through that through Pilates, I was able to transform and eventually built, went into having my own private Pilates studio, I own an e commerce business where I was also transforming people's stories about the possibilities for their back pain. We were selling it bringing it back pain device to market. And then three weeks before I got married, my business partner told me he wanted to buy me out. And I was like, Okay, well, three months before I got married, and then we signed the buyout agreement three weeks before I walked down the aisle. I was on my honeymoon, wondering like, what the heck do I do now? And I was like, I love the body. I love writing. I love creating I love helping people. I've loved transforming stories. And I leapt off the couch and I said crown yourself and my husband's like, what's that? And I said, I don't know. But but it's the it's it's a holistic leadership. It's stepping into holistically claiming your power and reining your life and making choices from that empowered state. Problem was is that I was going through that buyout process made me it was the first time I'd ever had my integrity called into check or my capabilities called them to check and so I was very, very stuck in the dungeon of doubt. And so for a year and a half, I dabbled in my business. I did all the things. I was always busy, I was always working on my computer, but I wasn't actually making any money. I was simultaneously teaching out of my Pilates studio and feeling really unfulfilled. And then I found out I was pregnant. And then that just changed the game. Within two weeks, I was driving to Vegas to go get certified in NLP timeline therapy and hypnosis because I knew that the problem laid with my mindset. And I saw that the parallel was between that and it was the same parallel that I had with my bank account. And my business was the same issues that I was struggling with 10 years ago with my body image and believe me, so I said, Well, I'd switched from being an actual bulimic to being more of a financial and business bulimic. And so I said, I know I've already shifted this once with just mindset alone, I can do it again. And I did and four years later, I've had the privilege of coaching some amazing, extraordinary leaders, and it has been a fun ride and now we live in the Gold Coast of Australia during a pandemic. Ari Gronich 8:26 That is, that's fascinating. How is it in Australia during the pandemic? I mean, I hear that they've been pretty shut down. Is that correct? Kimberly Spencer 8:37 That was Melbourne. So Melbourne, Australia and not Melbourne, where you are. And the Gold Coast where I live, it's back to normal like and my son can go to pretender. He can go hug children. We don't have any mask ordinances. Melbourne was the one that was really struggling. There's like no cases in Australia In Australia, right. There's very, very few and there's been no cases in Queensland for the past, like two months. So festivals are coming back. So I keep on trying to inspire my American compadres to be like, come on, it's like it's going to it's going to turn around, I promise you things will come back. Like I just saw a beer festival the other weekend. Like Ari Gronich 9:26 that's awesome. So, you know, let's kind of unpack some of the things that you said one of the things that you said that was fascinating to me is the bulimic for your body is blamed for your finances. which basically is a good metaphor for life in general where you know, the quantum theory of how you do anything is how you do everything. And so, tell us about that a little bit more kind of dig deep into what it is that made that pattern repeat itself after you had thought That you already took care of the pattern. Yeah. Kimberly Spencer 10:05 The the pattern really stemmed from that deeper subconscious belief of enoughness. And from deserving, and from, I mean, if you think of bulimia, I mean, what bulimia was, it was an emotional thing for me. So I didn't know how to process my emotions. So I would shove them down, repress them and then explode. And that was what I did with food. And so with finances and money, that's that was similar to what I was doing, I would take money and I would receive it I had, I was okay with making sales, but then it would just explode, and then it would explode beyond. And we got me into a nice portion of debt, it would explode beyond the capacity of what I consumed. And it was seeing that parallel of the beliefs of being enough and the emotions that were attached to it, so there's, there's an emotion that comes with receiving, but there's also an emotion that comes from having and nourishing. So a lot of the entrepreneurs that I work with, now, they have like money in money out like there's like there's the bills, they, they're able to do make sales and they're receiving money, but then it's immediately money out, there's no profit, there's no profit margin. And there's very little for them to take home personally. And so for me, what I saw was this, that there's an energy that comes around having money having food having having the ability to have something nourish you. And those that energy of having it comes down to a perception of deserving. And that perception of deserving. We all have what is called adjust world bias. And I've seen that high achievers in specific. They, they have this, like the just world bias, we'll see it played out in society where we'll see something that happens to somebody that's not fair. And so our toddler brains are like, we want we want to be able to like, understand it. So we'll blame the woman who gets raped because she was probably wearing a really short skirt and was asking for it because of her wardrobe. And we'll say ridiculous things like that, to try to make this on this illogical thing makes sense to us to make this world seen, quote unquote, fair. And so with high achievers, what I see is high achievers, and I'm a card carrying one have been since I was like five high achievers, we tended to put the blame on ourselves. So what happens when we're faced with this just world bias that we all have, or something happens to us it's not fair, that that feels funky. And that we feel like we might we feel like we must have deserved it, we must have deserved this bad thing to have happened to us, we must have deserved these bad feelings. And so we kind of punish ourselves and put ourselves down because of these emotions of what we perceive we deserve. And it really messes with that perception of what is it that we deserve. And so we try to earn our way to getting to what it is that we deserve. When really the concept of deserving is grace, it's being able to, to accept and receive grace. And it's being able to receive a gift and allow for that that ability to receive gifts from others, whether it's a gift of somebody's business, or the gift of somebody's money, but being able to receive that and then so it's it's, it's earned after it's deserved, like the actions that we take, we already deserve it because it was placed in our hearts, we already deserve it. Because we have that dream. We already deserve it because it's a desire that and and a vision that we've had, which means that somewhere out there in the quantum realm, it is possible for us to achieve it. So we already deserve it because we brought it we thought of it into our reality. Now, how do we go about taking the action steps to get us to that point where we are it actually is in our present reality. Ari Gronich 14:09 Gotcha. So let's, let's say what's the difference between deserve and entitlement? Hmm, Kimberly Spencer 14:17 good question. So, entitlement really comes from the ego is what I found is is an egoic belief of an eye like almost like an either or, like I see a lot of fear based beliefs of an entitlement is kind of like the perception that it's it's more of an egoic perception, it's more of an intention versus the intention of of deserving its grace combined with the desire to then put something out into the world to serve with it. That's what I've found is for me, that's just what I've been able to, to navigate with, with my own perceptions of deserving is desert, like everything that I desire to do or create in this world is ultimately to be of service in some way. Versus entitlement is kind of like an entitlement is also I see this reflected in like, Oh, I should have this now, I should have this. Well, you don't. So what's going on in the present moment that we can actually take ownership of entitlement is a lot of times here with so many shoulds and supposed to, like, I'm supposed to be farther along by now. I should have, you know, a family were like, why don't I have this right now? versus? Let's look at where we are. What are the beliefs that are that have me where I'm at right now? And then moving forward from that space, and then moving forward from the present? Because if you're moving forward from should you're not even at the starting line? You're on the outskirts looking in if like, Oh, I should be running that race? Did you get to mile one, did you cross the starting line? like did you get there, you have to go through all the steps to be able to run it, you're not actually in the race yet. Ari Gronich 16:14 Okay, so let's take it to one other word that came to my mind as you were talking is burden. There, there's a thing and I call it the healers burden, or the spiritual burden, where money seems to elude the people who are wanting to give the most. And I don't know that it's a belief necessarily, like money is bad, because I think that spiritual people really get the idea of an exchange of energy. But it's the burden of if I charged them too much, then I will be a burden to them rather than a benefit. Or if, if I need something, then I'm a burden to the people around me that rather than being a benefit to them, in some some respect, or even, you know, being giving a gift is a gift, right? But we rob people of being able to give to us, because we feel like that would be a burden. So let's kind of unpack that, because that was what popped up when you were talking. Kimberly Spencer 17:26 Yeah. So what what came up for me is, is ownership. And that is your own personal ownership is you are allowed to take 100% ownership for your life and your results. You're not allowed to take 10% of anybody else's ownership. You're not like you're not allowed to take the the burden of somebody else and say, Oh, well, like let me take ownership over that and then claim that as my burden. That's that's that's overcompensation of ownership. And it's actually it actually leads people into a spiral of of guilt, like massive guilt, versus taking ownership for like I have, these are the prices that I charge, these are the services that I offer. I call this this one money, mothering, when I see it show up at for entrepreneurs, is it's not my job to be that person's financial advisor for what is best for their life, it is my job to open the door to give them the possibility to give them the opportunity to say hey, if and if they see the value in it, then awesome. I have seen the value in programs that I'm like, I see the value in that not going to be investing in that right now. Versus I've seen the value in some programs where I'm like, I see the value in that I don't quite have the money for it. Like that's how I was when I first signed up for NLP timeline therapy, I saw the value in it. And then I felt this like desire that I knew that I would be able to figure it out, I needed some new tools. And so I knew that making that additional investment going and additional $5,000 into the already 30 5000s of dollars of debt that I was in going and that additional, I would be able to pull myself back out faster and farther with those tools and without them. And so that made the investment worthwhile. So when I see Oh, go ahead. Ari Gronich 19:22 So that's one level of burden. The other level of burden is I need help. And I can't ask for help because then I would be a burden. Hmm. Yeah, Kimberly Spencer 19:33 I see that one a lot with the with high achievers have the fear of asking for help asking for support. And that also comes down to a lot of ego because the ego is is either it's saying like I'm either too good, or I'm either like nothing and there's no gray area. It's an either or. So instead, how can you be perceive asking for support asking for help to actually be an act of service for somebody else. Because sometimes people are more excited to serve and to, to help and to lift each other up, I've just found this personally, then, then this perception of Oh, if I ask somebody, then they're gonna, they're gonna, I'm going to be a burden or it's going to, like, if you if you take ownership, and you set foundational ground rules in place, and you also hold those energetic boundaries and standards and say, like, you know, let me know, if I'm asking too much, let me know if I'm, if I've crossed the line at some point, like, let me know, otherwise, I'm going to keep asking for that support, or for that help to be able to get that support in that help. And if it's the other person's responsibility to be able to say, you know, this is actually going into what my paid programs do, or, you know, this is actually something that I normally charge for, it's the other person's responsibility to hold that boundary for themselves. Ari Gronich 21:11 Awesome. Give me a difference between weakness and vulnerability. Hmm. Kimberly Spencer 21:19 Sure, good question. Sorry, I like how you get really specific with the language. So vulnerability, I believe vulnerability is such an asset. But there is vulnerability when vulnerability when you get caught up in your own story, that can get to the point of where it becomes a weakness. So I'm all about I share very openly and vulnerably, about many of the things that I've experienced and gone through, but it's not from the place of either look at me and how bad or how great or my life is. And the weakness, aspect. weakness. It's, it's an internal compass thing. Like it's, that's something that you only you will know, is if you're dancing on vulnerability to the being into the weakness, like, so I will have to give an example. If I have something that I'm in process with, like, I'm feeling something, I feel an emotion, I'll be vulnerable with saying, you know, I'm feeling this thing. I don't know what it is that I'm processing, I don't know what it is, and I'm working through I know that I'm working through something. But I'll be vulnerable with sharing that a weakness for me would be repressing it suppressing it and pretending like it didn't exist, and then like, having it explode, and, and having me explode and be like, Oh, I'm fine. Everything's fine. No, no, no, no, it's not. So being able to say vulnerably, hey, I'm struggling with this, I'm experiencing this, let me go into this space that's coming. That's vulnerability from a place of strength. When it's a weakness or a trigger, that's something that I like to notice, like, I like to recognize when that is coming from a place of weakness, or that is coming from a fear of powerlessness or a fear of, or a trigger, or it's, it's hitting something that's really raw and personal. That's where I actually like write it down, like, Oh, this is this is one of my weaknesses. This is one of my triggers, and being self aware enough to know where that gauge is Ari Gronich 23:24 awesome. I had a conversation once with a guy down the street from me, and he was a military man. And he said, that you can't find pretty much anybody like on the block, right? That could put on a 70 pound pack and march for miles and miles and miles, because they just don't have the health and the wherewithal to do that. And so therefore, it becomes a weaker country, the less our health is. And yet our health care system is really designed not to make people well, but to keep them being treated for being sick. It's, you know, we call it the sick care system versus the health care system. You're a lot in that wellness sphere, especially having having owned a Pilates studio, and so on. So what do you think needs to happen in the world really, because it this is a global crisis, not just an American crisis, but what do you think needs to happen in the world to get people's mindsets on prevention versus reaction to health to whatever it is that's going on in them because we've become what I what I consider to be a very reactive society, versus a proactive society. You know, that works with prevention and making sure they're healthy people. For you get sick, etc, those kinds of things. Kimberly Spencer 25:03 I think we have to stop our addiction with fear. I think that that is the greater addiction that we have right now. I mean, you can get the end it prevents us from actually creatively thinking of solutions are finding something. So it puts us in a reactive state, it puts us in fight or flight. And so it's removing yourself from those environments or people that are stimulating and continuously stimulating that fear. And so for me, I, for me, I personally don't watch the news. I don't watch the news. I haven't watched the news and for years, sometimes, like it's on when I'm at the gym, but, and I watch it now from a very different perspective where I'm like, it's just like, death, trophy, drama, murder. And it's all like, it's all fear, fear, fear, you listen to it enough, and suddenly your Migdal is going on overdrive. And so it's really is pulling back from that addiction to fear because it prevents us from actually living with vision and, and and solution mindedness. Because we find solutions creatively in a different part of the brain. That's not the amygdala. So we actually have to physically move the location of where we are thinking in our brain, and it's not going to happen if we're if our amygdala is going fight or flight fight or flight fight or flight fight or flight. Right. And what happens is, is also our nervous system, Oh, go ahead. Ari Gronich 26:34 Yeah, let's just define megillah for those who don't know that, it's the reptile brain. So that's for that, you know, because we don't want to just to industry terms, so just kind of give a explanation of what that is, and what it what its function is. Kimberly Spencer 26:53 So our amygdala is our it's the, it's the reptile brain, it's, it's the one that's got us on fight or flight. So it's, it is built into our biology. And it serves a purpose if we're running away from a saber toothed tiger, it really serves like, and what happens is, is to our nervous system is when we face that stress, when we face that stress, that fear, that suddenly is like I'm in danger, our brain cannot recognize whether it's like fully physical danger, or emotional danger, it's the same, it registers the same. And so what happens is, when our body goes into a stressful state, or blood becomes more thicker, so that if we were, you know, attacked by a saber toothed tiger, then our blood will be able to coagulate faster, we get a bad taste and a bad odor. Actually, if you get like, you can get bad taste in your mouth, or you can actually like start smelling you missed it like if you may start smelling a bit more you can it causes your esophagus to basically not your peristalsis in your in your, in your gut, it's stops really digesting because you don't need to digest your food if you're going to be the food. So you got to run, if your body tries to do everything that it can to store the energy so that you can run away in that fight or flight space. But what happens is, is when our nervous systems are in this fight or flight response, eventually, our sympathetic nervous system can only run so far and so fast. And eventually then our parasympathetic nervous system, which is the rest and digest part of our nervous system, which you can actually physically train through Pilates, through yoga through Tai Chi, through just even you can train it through just some deep breathing with an inhale and a longer exhale. It felt so good, like, literally take three breaths like that, and you will already have activated your parasympathetic nervous system. But your parasympathetic nervous system, it's your rest and digest. And then it also has this other function, it's called freeze. And you'll see this in the wild. When an animal it thinks that death is imminent. And immediately it'll just drop, it'll just completely drop, it'll go lifeless, because just in case the predator chooses not to devour it's meal at that point, it gives that that animal playing dead, a few extra minutes to be able to then regain play dead and then maybe go to safety again, maybe go back into that fight or flight, if it's not consumed. That freeze also produces a rush of endorphins in our body that so that if we're, you know, pierced by a saber toothed Tiger that we're not actually going to feel as much pain. But what happens is, is when we're in this, it's a traumatic cycle for our nervous system. A fight or flight and then freeze is it. It we lose our natural oscillatory rhythm that can happen. That is part of nature nature oscillates, we have day and tonight we have ultradian rhythms that flow is about every 90 minutes. We just have that natural ultradian rhythm throughout the day. Our our heartbeat, it oscillates, it's not flatlining, flatlining is bad. So, when we, our nervous system is supposed to oscillate to the fight or flight is not a bad thing, it's necessary. Like if you're if you're you're fighting the fight or flight gets stimulated, if you're, you know, going to go kick, that goal, that winning goal and your soccer team match, it gets activated when you're going to give that presentation and it gives you that like, little boost of energy to give give a little bit more energy to that, that presentation in the board meeting or a zoom meeting now. But that so it's necessary, but it's also necessary for us to have the oscillation back into the rest and digest. And so when we're in this space of, of constant fear stimulation, it's spinning our nervous system into a space of constant and consistent trauma where we're in fight flight freeze. And that cycle, that traumatic cycle can actually cause depression, it can cause heightened anxiety can cause chronic fatigue and cause all sorts of emotional and physical problems in the body. And so I think the biggest thing to our healthcare system is stopping the addiction of fear, and the perpetuation of continuous fear and instead perpetuating hope and solution focus. Ari Gronich 31:25 Gotcha. So, you know, fear in the body, according to Chinese medicine is kind of gut right? It's not, it's not like worry would be in the kidneys. And anger is in the liver. But fear is in the gut, when when somebody is scared of something, or they have a gut instinct to go that way instead of that way. It's that signal saying, Oh, I feel it here. I've got to react to that. And it's a natural response. Yeah. Right. So how do individuals regulate that in themselves, some tips and tricks, and then also, how do we get society back on a track where we're not antagonizing that response to the point where there is no oscillation, it's just kind of like this graph that just keeps going up and up and up, and up and up. And there's an explosion, right. Kimberly Spencer 32:35 So to start with, some tips and tricks are to practice any form of exercise or breathing that activates the parasympathetic nervous system, Pilates, yoga, tai chi, chi gong, these are all forms of exercise, that when you're doing the exercise, they have a, your your, the breath is a key element in all of them. And you can take that breath. And this is actually how I went from being an exercise induced asthmatic at a time where I couldn't run a mile to save my life, to now being able to have run six marathons, because I took the breath that I learned from Pilates, and I applied it into running. So now I activate my parasympathetic nervous system, even as I'm in a sympathetic, doing a sympathetic form of exercise, which is the long distance running, well running to start, and then it eventually kicks into that parasympathetic, because the gotcha has initially the sprinting is more fight or flight, activating. So doing those forms of exercise, taking moments in the day to breathe, taking moments in the day to practice that. That sympathetic activation where you take a longer inhale, if you count on your hand, you can count in your hand for the count of five, for an inhale for five, and then do an eight to 10 count for an exhale, within literally like three to five breaths, you will feel a sense of peace, a sense of rest, a sense of, of release, I also do and I'm getting certified in breath work, which is used specifically for trauma release. So and that is a tool that I found to be super powerful, where you're using the power of activating sympathetic activate activation breath, and then being able to translate and oscillate back into parasympathetic breath so that you're able to actually reprogram that and release the trauma out of your body and in and just release it. Because what happens is our body remembers this, like, the stuff that we've been through our mind will is very kind. And our subconscious mind will repress things that we're not fully ready or that are too overwhelming emotionally for us to process. But our body does remember and so that's why, even if like you see somebody and you suddenly get this like gut instinct and your body reacts and you're like, this doesn't make sense, this person was just like walking right past me. But you get this like gut response in your body, your body will respond because your body's still emotionally recognizes that your body still sees it. So working doing body work is really key. Yeah, Ari Gronich 35:10 we call it the issues that are in the tissues. And I do some pretty intense, highly unusual deep tissue emotional release bodywork, but I do it with that includes breathwork, one of my close friends is, was one of the five founders of rebirthing, which is an amazing breathwork technique that was developed by Leonard war, back in the 60s. And so I've had a lot of experience with that. But I've added an element that's highly controversial, which is psychedelics, to process. And I find that you can get so many more of the issues out of the tissues than say talk therapy alone, or, or hypnosis or just body work without without that intention. But you know, that's a it's a really powerful technique. breathwork in general, is very powerful to calm your system. I know that the Navy SEALs us box breath, which is five seconds in hold for five seconds, five seconds out, hold for five seconds, five seconds in, right. So it's it's literally done, that's what they use in the middle of war time, or battle, because it calms that adrenal response in the system. You know, it's pretty cool. So how about how about society at Whole, as a whole? You know, what are some of the things that you've seen that you think that society should think about doing government's, you know, the people who make policies and things like that, in order to help people's immune system help people's adrenal glands and help them be more home? And what's the effect that you think that that'll have if we got back to some of that more connected, breathing, connected way of being versus always in flight or fight or flight? Mm hmm. Kimberly Spencer 37:20 So there's a really powerful question that I think everyone should ask themselves. And that's what if I'm wrong? So often, our cognitive bias is going to want to just find that information that just backs up what we already think we know, versus allowing ourselves to question and explore and learn and grow. And so what if, what if I'm wrong thinking, you know, about COVID? In this one way, or thinking about mass in this one way? What if I don't like allowing for and taking, taking the emotion out of the question of like, taking being wrong personally, because that's, there's a concept from the 15 commitments of conscious leadership, that is one of my favorite books on the planet. It's a very simple principle. It's just asking, Are you above the line or below the line. And if you're above the line, then you're operating from a place of openness from learning from growth, if you're below the line, you're operating from a desire to be either right, or a fear of being wrong. And so often, a lot of our society, I think a lot of the problems in society right now are coming from that either desire to be right, or that desperate fear of being wrong of our ego from our egos. So allowing ourselves to ask that question of like, what if I'm wrong about this perception of you know, what we're doing in our country? Or what if I'm wrong about the COVID vaccine? Or what if I'm wrong about this, consuming this fast food do on a daily basis? Like, what if I'm, what if I, what if these habits, what if I'm wrong? And then what if I change them? Like, what if I just experimented, what if I just allowed yourself to get curious, I think that that's something that we've lost. I think that's something that kind of our systemic, or Victorian age educational system is kind of drilled out of us Is this love of curiosity, versus a learning what to learn rather than how to learn? And that ability to to question and get curious and ask those questions that may, you know, stimulate some different answers may stimulate some answers that not everyone is comfortable with. But at least it's opening up a dialogue instead of holding on to these two polar opposites that are thus just constantly repelling each other. But they're that they're they're repelling each other but also they're attracting each other because they they're the exact Same Day, like, the desire to be right and the fear of being wrong. Same thing. Ari Gronich 40:06 Right? So you and I both have children. And my seven year old is very, very curious. And he asks a lot of questions. And sometimes I want to answer the questions. And sometimes I don't want to answer the questions because I'm a parent. And I have that, right. So instead of telling him something about him asking the question, I asked him, Why do you want to know that? What's, what's the information that concerns you in this particular thing, especially when he's asking question about something else? Or somebody else? Or, you know, that has nothing to do with him? It's just his way. And he always says to me, I'm just curious, dad. I'm curious. And when was the last time you heard an adult? Say that? was just if you're in the audience, when was the last time you remember saying that? I'm just curious. I just want to know, I? It's not very often right. You're, I'm sure your child does the same thing. Right? Kimberly Spencer 41:15 Yeah, I mean, he's a little, he's a little younger at three. So he's, he's figuring his way out in the world. And it's such a beautiful, like, he inspires me so much every day, because it's like, he has such a unique personality. And I look at like, you know, if he were blessed to any other person to be a parent, they may want to program some of that personality out of him. Like not every dad would be okay with their son saying they want glitter nail polish at three, to match with his girlfriend that he has, which he has to like, but I'm like, that's, that's cool with us, like we have like, that's cool. Let him express himself. He likes Clary. He knows that mommy likes glitter. Like, that's my favorite color. So but that's, it's allowing him to have that freedom of expression and that freedom to really find out who he is. I'm not trying to define who he is, he certainly is a leader, I can definitely tell you that. He has his opinions of how things are done. But that's it's it's a beautiful quality to be able to see the the Curiosity I watched him play. And I look at how often as adults, so often, we take things so seriously. And we're stuck in this, like, it's serious because it's business or because it's money or because it's, you know, our relationship, and it has to be this serious thing. Whereas really, like when you learn the most, it's when you're a kid, it's when you're a toddler, and you're learning through play. And you're like, when I watched my son learn how to walk. I got to see this beautiful, this beautiful experience of failure multiple times. And him not shaming himself for it, him not getting upset with himself for it. him just going Oh, okay. And he surrounded himself with people were that was normal, because everybody else around him was walking on two legs. So how often are we doing that where we're making curiosity and play seem normal? Or are we surrounding ourselves with people who make being very serious, and this is a professional matter, and we put these labels and have to be this buttoned up thing? To end that's how we should be doing life in business and whatever, versus allowing for that sense of play, allowing for that curiosity that comes with play and the discovery process that comes with it. And I think that that discovery process of just asking yourself removing the ego, and asking yourself, what if I'm wrong? Then awesome. It allows for you to play with other options and then to see okay, is that one that I like? Is that one that feels good for me? Is that one that feels right for my body? Is that one that feels right for my family? Or is that one one that doesn't feel a lot like when I when we chose to stay in Australia in in March in the middle of a pandemic? I had many of my family come at me saying that it was foolish and stupid and I was being reckless and I said you know, okay, what if I'm wrong about this decision, and I checked in with my gut and my gut said with 100% certainty staying is the best choice that we could make. And my husband is able to now fulfill his dream and go to chef school. My son can be an actual school and hug children and not have to wear a mask like you would at you know be in back in Los Angeles because I don't know how you get a toddler to wear a mask like my girlfriend is able to do it back in California alone. Girl praises because like, my kid would be like, Oh, no, this is not happening. So but it's, it's like it was a it was a decision that was based on my assessment from my gut and knowing with certainty and trust lie in my own body. And I think that that's something that as a leader that we can cultivate is where to certainty and trust, like we know where fear is, but where to certainty and trust lie in your body. When you feel certainty and trust when you feel that deep inner knowing that this is the right decision that I need to make for for me, and then being okay with asking yourself what if it goes wrong? What if it like looking, allowing yourself to dance with the plan A to dance to dance with some additional strategy of like, Okay, if this is not the right choice, what if this, what if this goes wrong, playing with that, but removing the ego, removing the identity of having it be a failure thing? I know that was a very long winded way of answering Ari Gronich 45:58 it. So it's all it's all good. You know, I like to brag about my son a little bit, he's got five businesses, he's seven years old. And he had we took him out of the school, and are homeschooling him, because even the virtual school, he wasn't getting the, you know, the kind of attention needed. They were doing, working with the class that was inside the school, as well as those that were online. So their attention was smooth. And, and one day, his teacher asked him, you know, or asked, in general, like how everybody was feeling how everybody was doing. And he said, I'm frustrated and angry. And the teacher said, Well, why are you frustrated and angry? This is a seven year old mind you who's saying these words, right? He said, I have five businesses, and you're not teaching me how to work with any of them. And so, you know, think about that, and I go, Okay, so you know, I mean, he's been around his mom and and an eye for his whole life. And she's a business consultant, and so on. And we've taken him to business trainings his entire life since he was born. And so his perspective on life is totally different than somebody who hasn't had that experience. But my question to you would be, when are you going to get your kid into his own business? Because you know, he's three he's fallen behind. Kimberly Spencer 47:35 Oh, he already has three currently here. Oh, he just added another location to his virtual restaurateurs restaurants. So he's, he's got two locations, one in surfers and one he has an ice cream truck he has he's got he's got seven currently his his profit margin is invisible money that he then gives back to me, which he knows where the money comes from. So but he's, he's like, instilling that spirit is so essential, like, and I love the fact that we've taken our son to business conferences, since he was born pretty much like he was in utero when I was going through NLP. So I'd say technically, he's a certified coach as well. Ari Gronich 48:22 Absolutely, he's got it born and bred inside of him. And he's gonna have the epigenetics of experiencing that on a regular basis from you. So, you know, it'll be embedded, I believe that the children are our future, right. And I say that as because it's a song. But what I mean by that is, I have a lot of hope for maybe not this neck, this generation, but our kids generation, create a world that's different. And I wanted to ask you a question, because you're in Australia, and you're from the US and so many businesses are starting to go Nomad. And my question to you is, is the new world order so to speak, or trying to have a one world government or One World Without Borders, so to speak? Is that such an awful thing? Because it seems to have such a huge reaction to it. But I'm looking at the world in the generation that's coming up and people aren't going to be stuck in a building for 40 years in one chair and one building desk, you know, with the same people for the next 40 years, people are starting to travel and become nomadic business people and the whole border issue. It's just very fascinating to me, because you're a marketing person. And so you know, you have the ability to travel the world and explore and I believe that exploring the world is what brings us a new mentality versus our little echo chambers, right? So let's kind of unpack a little bit of I like solutions to the world. So how do we create a new world that has all those nomadic travelers where the borders aren't so like, you can't come in and you can't come in, and we don't like you, you know, like, everywhere I've ever gone, they always have what I call the you know, because it's the US I called the Mexicans, right? Because we always say the Mexicans are coming in and taking our jobs. When I was in Greece, it was the Algerians, the algae are coming in, or the Albanians, they were coming in and taking our jobs. Every country has those people, every country has that. Yeah, every country has that. And so to me, Australia, Kimberly Spencer 50:47 they have it here too, like I one of our friends is in Australia is a winemaker and saw the He's like, you know, Australian teenagers, they don't want the Australian, because we can't literally cannot find an Australian worker to do the work that the Vietnamese will do, or that an Indian worker will come over here and do because they'll get it done faster, like an Australian will don't, they may get it done. But he just said that he's not finding that he finds that the immigrants are actually more desirous of those those harder labor jobs in some ways. So as far as the digital world is concerned, I mean, I don't know if it's such a bad thing, but I do. But I do know that any sort of new world, there has to be a foundation of the values. And I think that's the difference in all the countries currently they have it China has very different values in the US, Australia has different values in the US, Ari Gronich 51:51 isn't it? Is it the people that have the different values or just the government? Because I think Kimberly Spencer 51:57 I think the people to really, and it's not that one country's values are good or bad or the other, but it's just they're different. So like, let's say America, people value, very highly freedom. Whereas if you have another country, that very values very highly safety, that's going to be a conflict of values. If if you're if you're seeing for people who feel like their freedom is being taken away for the sake of safety, versus people who feel like they would rather they would give their freedom away for the sake of safety. So that's, that's a, that's a mismatch of values. So it would come down to how do you organize 7 billion people and to having aligned values? Ari Gronich 52:45 Right, so I don't think that, okay, so I'm just gonna put this out there, I don't think that we need to have individuals with the exact same values, I think, yeah, well can experience safety, and some people can experience you know, freedom. And they can choose that. here's, here's where that question really comes from, though. I was in Israel, and I found that the people of Palestine and the people who were in that country lived amongst the Israelis, very happily, they, you know, different religions, different belief systems, different everything, and yet they lived pretty comfortably together. Always that small faction that is pretty well government or, or a centralized leader that is trying to cause the havoc, right, whether it's Israel, government, or Palestine, government or US government, I have always found when I really dig deep and look at things, that the government has an agenda that is completely different than the people. And the people pretty much all want the same things, which is they want their families to be safe. They want to have the ability and to be able to express themselves freely. And so the safety and freedom is in every one of us not. Obviously, it's more in some than, you know, it's like balancing thing, but I don't find that it's entire countries that want the same thing. It's the government of the country that says this is what's important to us, despite what might be important to the people that they're governing. Kimberly Spencer 54:40 Yeah, I could definitely agree with that. I've definitely seen that play out in both America. I've seen it play out in other countries to have the narrative that is being told the and for me, seeing hypocrisy in in the narrative. The people in the government in different places in the government, not really abiding by It or Not really, ultimately believing it or there being some sort of agenda. Like I could definitely say that they're like, it's like, I remember when I was 10, I wanted to be president. And now there is not a job that you like, I could want less. Because the, the idea of creating this identity, that is the sellable identity that you can sell, sell them that that's what it is. It's a persuasion. Our elections are a persuasion battle. And that's what sales is. persuade people to buy into. And it's fascinating because I see these messages. They're very similar. But it's it's the the more chunked up you go, the greater agreement that we're all going to get, like, we all can agree that we all want hope we all want change. We all want safety. We all want freedom. We all want greatness. And the more you chunk down into the details, it's definitely there. You can see that's where people start to split. And that's where divisiveness happens. And I'm just yeah, I'm not the biggest. I definitely am. I am aware that there are some people who are in power that want to stay in power. And that's something to to be aware of, and that there are some people who are making a lot of money right now, who wants to continue making a lot of money right now. And I love making money. But it's looking at what is what is the intention? And what is the what will be negotiated for that. And that's why I think that as more good hearted mission minded, service based leaders start to make more money. That is when we can definitely see a change in in the world being more accepting and more empowering of each other and empowering of each other's health and empowering of, of each other's choices. Rather than I'm right. You're wrong. Ari Gronich 57:33 Yeah, you know, it's funny, I posted something on a site recently. And it was just me literally saying, I'm really interested in having a party for the holidays with this group of people, this kind of party is like fire dancers and, you know, some Burning Man is kind of party at my house. And I was like, would anybody be interested in that? And the post, eventually taken down after about 130, some odd comments, some people yes. And some people just were like, calling me names, like, Oh, you believe in eugenics and you're trying to kill people and your was a plan a pan demick rat or something like that a disease out in like, thinking that this is what I'm what I'm about, I'm like, you have no idea who I am. I didn't even say anything. Like I'm having a party. I was like, I'm really interested in this. Would anybody else be interested in it too? You know, and it was just fascinating the experience of going through such intensity of belief. And yet, no one asked me a question of what it was that I was thinking, like, Are there going to be masks? while you're in, you know, like, you're an adult, you can wear one or not, you know, it's at my house. I don't have the restrictions of a business right as just like, but there wasn't a whole lot of curiosity, there was just a lot of blame and a lot of shaming and a lot of, you know, tearing down, and I found it really interesting because in the name of that particular group is the word love. And the I found that the people really weren't expressing the love, you know. So it was just really fascinating and interesting to me, how closed minded and inside of a bubble and unwilling to hear even a fact or to acknowledge that effect is a fact. You know, like a mask that you wear, like a cloth mask, I think it filters to something like 10 microns, and a viruses point oh one microns. Approximately, and so one is smaller than the other, and it can probably go through and it's not going to, you know, that mask isn't going to probably do much for you. And so, you know, that's like a fact and people can't get grasp the fact that that's the fact. There's no opinion there. There's no possible other explanation there. It's just, that's the fact there's, I didn't put a commentary, Kimberly Spencer 1:00:24 right? It's the emotion, their emotion didn't agree with your fact. So that's and that's the thing is when we're when we're driven and charged by these emotions of fear, and, and blame and guilt and shame, when we're charged by these, and the internet is a very, very safe place to be charged by emotion. Because you're not going to get punched in the face. Like you're most likely someone is, you wouldn't people are saying things that they wouldn't actually say to your face, like my husband, because he's has a bit of a following in and some fan base in the anime and voiceover world. He's heard some really gnarly things said, via Twitter, about him like him, and unlike, you know, like, people wishing the horrible things and I was like, they don't even know him. They like if they, it would some it's something that somebody wouldn't have enough courage probably to come up and say due to someone's face. And and people are very easy to be offended. Right now. I think we have a culture that's that's not really allowing for communication, where we're more interested in speaking, than in listening. And I think that our communication breakdown is something that is a massive issue. Culturally, that is something that does need to be addressed as to how to communicate, how do we actually communicate? How do we communicate from a place of empathy? How do we communicate and connect? How do we communicate and disagree with someone, like, I've been friends with people that I have disagreed with my entire life, and I love them dearly. And we have differing opinions, and that's okay. And I know that like they would, they would come to bat for me, or they would come help me if I needed it. Like, and we disagree on things. And that's okay. But we've gotten into this very like with, especially with online, and especially with social media platforms being the only place that we can really gather as a giant group right now. We've gotten very tribal about our communication. And if somebody doesn't, is not a part of this, like communication tribe of all the things that we believe and all the emotions that we share, then we excommunicate them, then they're out of our tribe, and then we just cancel like this canceled culture is, is what is hurting our country and the world. And it's, it's canceling out someone's opinion, just because they disagree with you. I mean, at some point, somebody is going to like, it's the same as canceling somebody's opinion, because you like minty toothpaste, and they like strawberry. Like, that's an opinion. It's that that's just as much a belief as any other belief. Ari Gronich 1:03:23 It's all about the watermelon. Unknown Speaker 1:03:28 That's not my jam. I'm a minty toothpaste, kind of girl. Ari Gronich 1:03:32 My son, we get him the Tom's watermelon. Anyway, let's get on to more happy talk like marketing tips, entrepreneurship, success, you know, those kinds of things. We don't have a whole lot of time left. But I wanted you to be able to get into that. Because, like you said, your passion is really all about helping heart centered leaders become wealthy. So how do you do that? Kimberly Spencer 1:04:02 Well, it starts with vision. And the foundation of your empire is really the values that you stand on. And for, for me, I work with a lot of former people pleasers who have really good hearts, and who are and who really want to serve, but they have struggled with people pleasing or the desire to be needed. And so they make their business an entity in which they are needed that then is their business is then a vessel that is controlling them, which is going directly against the reason why they started their business, which was freedom. So getting very clear on the foundational values of your business of what is it that you want to create? What is it that that you bring to the table? What is it that really sets the foundation and when you're clear on your values, these values will guide who your customers are, who you're who your team is that you hire. It's an it sounds like I had one client, she was like, she'd been running a successful business. And she wanted to get her million dollar year in a year. And she, she was like, she's like the value stuff. This is like life coaching 101, Kim and I was like, just go with me on this, just trust me, turned out to be one of the most transformational parts of her business because she realized she was in a business that was not in a line, she was in a partnership that was not in alignment with her highest values for why she created the business. And she eventually had to buy a her partner. And then she ended up hiring two team members, which I was so proud of hired two team members in a pandemic and a recession created jobs because of her values. Because her vet, she led with her values first. And the people that she attracted, bought into those values. They said, Yes, I want to be a part of this company. Because this company stands for something being these wishy washy companies that don't stand for anything when people are like, well, you're just another like what influencer on Instagram, like, what do you stand for, like posting, like, here's an inspirational quote that I found on a Lululemon bag, that's not really building a transactional business, versus having very clear cut ties and being able to enunciate and repeat and consistently preach those values, like my primary value is ownership, ownership period. That is how it is, is in our value statement. In crowd yourself, it's ownership period of take ownership for our actions, we take ownership for our lives, we let our customers take ownership, because sometimes, you will come up into a situation where maybe a customer wants a refund, and that refund is outside of the refund guarantee. And it's your job as a leader to say no, these are these were the boundaries, it's your job as a customer to take ownership of the commitment that you made to participate in this program. And to abide by these rules. If you don't like them, I'm sorry. But you need to take ownership for your actions just as much like that, that in it of itself. It's tough love, but it's what we're we're kind of missing a lot. And that's something that I love bringing to the table. And fortunately, I don't have to do that very often. Because I attract a lot of clients that have ownership is a very high value. But setting that foundation and then being able to communicate that found that those values, being able to preach them being able to preach them in your marketing in your internal messaging, and being able to constantly reiterate that those are the values that you stand for. And you can also have things that you stand against, like I'm very clear that I stand against negative Nellies and Debbie downers. And like I can get on the topic that I'm like about certain things that I disagree with, but I'm not going to pull myself down into like a negative state, because I have such immense hope for the world and such and I believe was such possibility, I cannot be a mother and think that I'm not leaving a great world for my son, like I that is not within my realm of belief system, that I will even allow that this world will not be amazing for my child. And I will work my hardest to be able to make it so into a trap serve other people to help them grow their businesses so that they can also help me in this mission. Ari Gronich 1:08:28 That's pretty awesome. And, you know, I appreciate that. I do I do have an issue though, with with your industry. Kimberly Spencer 1:08:38 Yes, oh, I have a few too. So go for it. Ari Gronich 1:08:42 industry has turned from has basically turned into what I would say is the same as the healthcare industry. There, the incentives that they've created for themselves are procedure based versus results based, which means that you, you know, you're paying for, okay, there's 30 posts per month, there's, you know, two different channels, and that's what we're gonna do, or we're gonna run Facebook ads for you for this long. We're gonna put 10 of 10 ads up, okay, did they get results? Did they do anything? Are they you know, like, the marketing industry has seen in my eyes has felt like they've moved into just a really lack of integrity space. And, and that is kind of that's kind of where the healthcare industry is. It's just lack of integrity. They do procedures that are not necessary in order to create more billing versus to create more health. Right? If we change the incentives to results based, then we're going to change the outcomes. So that people can actually get what they're looking for. So how do you ensure that this is a loaded? Question? How do you ensure that you're getting results for the people rather than just doing a bunch of stuff? Kimberly Spencer 1:10:11 Oh, for me, it's constant. Like I'm in constant dialogue with my private clients on what they're doing. And they have action steps that they need. Like, it's, it's, it's a result of, they also have to show up as well. So it's both parties taking ownership. And it's my job to hold the the bill to hold the standard of what they're working toward, if they say, this is what I want to work toward, that I hold that standard, like my one client, he joked with me a year ago, he said, if you can be if you can help me get this plane, then then then I'll know that you were worth it. And I was like, Challenge accepted. And so within a year, he ended up buying his dream plane. And being able to park it literally writes out outside of his office. And I and he was like, I didn't even think that that was a reality. And to think that that was possible. And I was like I did, because you said so you said this is the level that you want to be playing at. So I'm going to write I'm going to challenge you to rise into who it is that you need to become. And I'm going to have some uncomfortable conversations. And we did that challenge them to rise into that next level same, and it's happened with every single client of mine that I will deliver the challenges that they needed by saying not exactly, I won't say exactly what they want to always hear. And so in the marketing it like in the marketing

In today's episode of I will be sharing what you need to do when you are around the negative Nellies in your life. APPLY FOR TIME TO THRIVE HERE In today's episode you will learn: why your expectations, your personal life manuals and rules are part of the problem how to be around negative Nellies and not let them bring you down I give you my bubble and "aww bless" techniques for managing negative people what unconditional alignment is, why it's important for being able to handle any situation and how it makes you feel so free

Amid the crapstorm of "Losergate," even FOX confirmed Trump's anti-military talk. Coronavirus models have predicted over 410,000 deaths by the new year. Russia is continuing to undermine our elections according to intel. Since college has started back, campus outbreaks have blossomed bigly. RWNJ troll-load Josh Bernstein had a prodigious meltdown over mail-in voting. Right wing turdcaster Brenden Dilley explained how Twitter must survive without his audience and tweets. Coach Dave likened mask mandates to racial discrimination. In an extended - and what will surely be an award-winning - "When Animals Get Pissed" segment, the Crabs explored a YOLO moment where a dude ended up with shark attached to his arm for twenty minutes, a school of Coast Guard swimmers were nearly taken out by a shark with scary intentions, a threesome of snakes took out a ceiling in Australia, and a menagerie of big cats in the UK have turned the neighbors into nervous Nellies. A congressional candidate in Georgia posted a pic threatening Ihan Omar and the squad with a gun. Black Lives Matter protests have been peaceful according to facts. A Methodist church broke from the denomination in support of LGBT rights.  

We have a choice to either see potential or not, to build each other up or to tear each other down. In this episode, I point out some different ways of challenging yourself to think and be an opportunist. Be ready for an opportunity and grab it. This does not mean you are a bad person, yet the fun suckers, negative Nellies, and keyboard warriors will come out of the woodwork to bring us all down. They can't see because they have arrival syndrome. Today, we are breaking the barriers of broken thought processes! Audio Production by Podsworth Media.

I veckans avsnitt flyger Sofie av stolen pga Nellies grova språk! Det är även en summering på hur första månaden som poddare varit! Vi diskuterar även hur känns det egentligen när ens barn går hungriga, eller när man som förälder inte duger för barnen! Ni kan kontakta oss på mammoremellan@hotmail.com för frågor eller om du vill dela med dig av en historia! Ha en trevlig podd-stund!Nellie Andersson - Instagram @nellie.anderssonsSofie Gullström - Instagram @sofiegullstromKlippareEmil Drougge. Instagram - @drouggesoundMusik/SlingaJohan Werner. Instagram - @johnelliotmusicIllustrationAlice Sjölander. Instagram - @iglustrator See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Anxiousness and nervousness is a standard in the Mendoza household. In this episode, we have a conversation about our tendency to worry about pretty much everything and find some of the reasons why we might act this way. From silly ,unreasonable paranoia to the obsessive need to control time and schedules, we both are at constant work to learn how to manage our nervous energies better. If you’re like us, know that you’re not alone! Enjoy the convo.

One of the most common excuses or reasons I'm given when I ask someone what's holding them back from their first successful house flip is: "There aren't any deals, Debbie. My market is just way too saturated."If you've said anything similar, or are hearing similar things from the negative Nellies around you, this episode is a must-listen.In this episode, you will learn:The "secrets" nobody else seems to talk about that are crucial to getting more dealsHow to quickly find a dealAlternative ways to make money on a property you have under contractWhat it means to niche down when it comes to flipping houses Why finding a niche is critical for your success - even for finding a significant other (yes, really!)...and much more! GOODIES1. Follow That Flip! Sign up to follow me and 2 local students as we flip a house together! 2. Learn more about Debbie DeBerry | The Flipstress​3. Ready to get your First Flip Done Right and make at least a $25,000 profit, but you need help navigating all of it? We can get you there. ​4. Our goal is to hit 250 reviews and spread the good word about this podcast as quickly as possible!Every 50 reviews, there will be a drawing! You can help us reach our goal PLUS have a chance to WIN Apple AirPods (they work with any and all devices, not just Apple!) by going to wherever you listen to podcasts, leaving a rating and review for the show, taking a screenshot of that submitted review and sending it to us at contact@theflipstress.com. 5. Continue the house flipping conversation in our free Women Flipping Houses Facebook group.

60% of male managers are nervous about working with females. Yikes! https://www.cnbc.com/2019/05/17/60percent-of-male-managers-now-say-theyre-uncomfortable-mentoring-women.htmlSheryl Sandberg talks about it here: https://www.cnbc.com/video/2019/05/17/facebook-sheryl-sandberg-metoo-women-in-workplace-women-leadership.htmlAnd Michelle Obama is SO not into leaning in all the time. https://www.npr.org/2018/12/03/672898216/michelle-obamas-take-on-lean-in-that-doesn-t-workHappy listening!

It’s the night before the ride and we’re shaking off the jitters.

In this episode: excessive birthday attention, an ugly Marriott conspiracy, the best quiz show ever, “health oriented” food, don’t mess with #fofty, ignoring Instastories, minuscule paparazzi and circus drama on #RHONY, Camille is awful, Today in Yiddish, Bdé Mká Ská, Everest and Denali news, the best draft pick, royal gifts, various Nellies, gifted rats, more birthday love, and a friendly warning from Chisago County.

In Episode 30 I speak with Eden Crowley about the births of Nellie & Waylon. Eden takes us through her first pregnancy, in which she suffered morning sickness and went to 41+5, ending up being induced and needing assistance with a forceps delivery in which she didn't feel in control. Nellies cord snapped which was a concern as she was born, but she was a healthy 4.71kg baby girl. Eden was determined to have more control over her 2nd birth with Waylon, after finding out she needed to be induced due to preeclampsia at 37 weeks, she managed to have a Vaginal birth unassisted and was able to ensure she asked for what she wanted during her labour. These birth stories are a contrast both in Edens experience and also in the impact that then had on the birth. Thanks for taking the time to talk with me Eden!

Avsnitt 22, tiden går fort när man har roligt. Veckans godispåse innehåller helgens händelser, en irriterad Moa och Nellies konstiga fakta. Låter som ett intressant avsnitt! Instagram: Moaalarssoonn & Nellieemanuelsson

Episode 175: Adam Banks is joined by former co host Nellie for one night only as she stops by for a visit to the show. The two discuss Hurricane Harvey, a review of Adams first week at his new job, Nellies new life in Somerset KY, and also the 2 discuss how they want to be layed to rest when they pass away. (Its not a depressing show i promise lol). ENJOY!

Åå äntligen är dem tillbaka med ännu ett avsnitt. Denna veckan pratar tjejerna om Moas trip till Sthlm och även Nellies helg. Nellie har även fyllt 18 så vad hon gjorde får ni även reda på om ni lyssnar. Kramar Instagram: Moaalarssoonn & Nellieemanuelsson

Hope you had an awesome 4th of July!!!  We sure did and thought we would continue with the fun with these very precise and do-able tips from my friend, laser focused mentor, Cynthia Bazin. I'm just going to give you the tips so you'll have to listen in to get the full scoop as we discuss them.  Please be sure to grab a pen and paper to take notes.  I always do!!!  Here we go! 1. Take Care of Your Hot Mess!  Because we all have them! 2. Taking care of Yourself - Physically and Emotionally 3. DRESS UP!!!!  Be ready for business, feel good about yourself 4. Serve Others In Some Way 5. Surround Yourself With Confidence Building People - no        negative Nellies in your circle   So, if you're presently struggling through a situation that is zapping your self confidence or you've never felt confident, these tips are simple.  However, if you take heart and apply them they are very powerful.  But things don't happen overnight, so be patient with yourself and adopt these tips into your daily routine. Remember, you must respect yourself first before someone else is going to and that all comes from having a certain air of confidence.  So if you are confident about who you are, others will take notice. Cynthia and I will dig deeper into this conversation tomorrow on our BeLive that airs at 9 AM PST  11 AM CST and Noon EST this discussion is at SmartChic.me/live   Please bring your questions and concerns or share some insight that might help someone else. This is a huge topic and tons of experts speak about it, and write books about it.  We offer a free mentoring session that can help you now :-) We appreciate you listening and sharing and the comments make us dance!  Have an absolutely AWESOME day and we hope to see you tomorrow. Passing On A Smile, Gail  P.S. BeLive Details  

Tjejerna pratar om Moas trip till Stockholm, hur Shawn Mendes var och hur de var att va servitris för en kväll. Nellies helg bestod av brunch, födelsedagsfirande och en liten suprise!

Kortegens händelser, Nellies tro om horoskop och mycket mycket allmänt prat. Enjoy!

What should you do when trolls, negative Nellies and haters bash you and your work? The fellas discuss how do deal with haters who be hatin' and why criticism ain't such a bad thing after all.      

She's back! Vilken av sina hästar tror hoppryttaren Nellie Berntsson mest på? Hur peppar hon sig själv inför tävling? Ni lyssnare har skickat in frågor och nu är det dags för Nellie att svara! Vi får även reda på vilken av Nellies hästar som har utvecklats snabbast sedan hon börjat rida den, hur hon hinner rida alla sina hästar, vilka övningar hon använder med för att hitta avstånden till hindren, vad hon vill jobba med i framtiden, om hon någon gång vill utbilda unghästar, och mycket mycket mer.Fotnot: Det här avsnittet spelades in kort innan Nellie beslutade sig för att be en annan ryttare om hjälp med vidareutbildningen av tävlingshästen Laissa, eftersom hon kommit fram till att det blir för tufft att utbilda alla sina tre hästar själv.Producent: Ulrika Lindqvist

Hör hoppryttaren Nellie Berntsson prata hästar, ridning och inget annat! Nellies mål är att bli uttagen till EM nästa år, men under våren kom en resultatsvacka som fick henne att ändra strategi. Jag kommer att prata om min satsning i sadeln och min framtid i sporten, vi ska prata om det jag älskar mest. Jag har så mycket att komma med i det här avsnittet, säger Nellie Berntsson. Tidigare i år hade hon en tävlingsupplevelse som fick henne att stanna upp och tänka efter. Hon kom, som hon beskriver det, "inte ens över första hindret".  Det var riktigt pinsamt, så dåligt gick det. Därför åker jag på egna tävlingar nu och kör mitt eget lilla race. När det blir för mycket hets, att man måste prestera, så tappar man glädjen i sporten. Nu har jag backat tillbaka bandet och ridit ut mycket och bara galopperat och haft kul. När man inte har glädjen så funkar det inte och det märker hästen.Nellie berättar också om en av sina största utmaningar - nämligen att hitta rätt system och rutiner till sina tre tävlingshästar. Och hon beskriver sitt särskilda band till det svarta, svåra stoet High Hope, eller Hilda som hon kallas till vardags.  På en tävling så var det en snubbe som kom fram och lade ett bud och ville köpa henne. Jag började störtgråta och tänkte det här går inte! Jag fick vrålpanik, hon är mitt allt. Min största framgång hittills är att få starta 1.40 tillsammans med henne.Ungefär en månad efter vår intervju med Nellie så bestämde hon sig för att be om hjälp med vidareutbildningen av tävlingshästen Laissa eftersom tiden inte räckte till för att utbilda alla tre hästarna på egen hand. Producent: Ulrika Lindqvist

Dennis welcomes two of the funniest folks he knows to his living room; John Cantwell and Terrence Michael of the sketch comedy trio The Nellie Olesons (The third member is former podcast guest Nora Burns). John and Terrence talk about their new 20th anniversary show, Evil Never Dies, the origins of the group, tucking their junk between their legs to play women, and what's kept them into it for 20 frickin' years. Dennis and John recall their first meeting at the Splash bar in New York City and how they bonded over their love of the movie Showgirls. Other topics include: random celebrity sightings, the origin story of John's classic character Love Connie, Terrence's unforgettable "Bubble Butt" gum commercial, being obsessed with tornadoes and weird Hollywood hotels and the dude who got offended and stormed out of the late 90's Oscar party Dennis and the Nellies co-hosted in West Hollywood.