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We've only known Youngmi Mayer through her work so it was a real pleasure to get to chat with the woman behind the comedy on today's episode! And maybe you know Youngmi from her writing, her stand-up, TikTok, her memoir I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying and many other things or maybe this is your first time meeting her. Either way, you're in for a fun time! We talk about parenting during the apocalypse, why Youngmi might just not be suited for monogamy, the last sociopath she dated and so much more! PLUS, obvi, we answer YOUR advice questions! If you'd like to ask your own advice questions, call 323-524-7839 and leave a VM or just DM us on IG or Twitter!*Donate to displaced black families of the LA fires here*ALSO BUY A BRAND NEW CUTE AF "Open Your Hearts, Loosen Your Butts" mug! And:Support the show on Patreon (two extra exclusive episodes a month!) or gift someone a Patreon subscription! Or get yourself a t-shirt or a discounted Quarantine Crew shirt! And why not leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts? Or Spotify? It takes less than a minute! Follow the show on Instagram! Check out CT clips on YouTube!Plus some other stuff! Watch Naomi's Netflix half hour or Mythic Quest! Check out Andy's old casiopop band's lost album or his other podcast Beginnings!Theme song by the great Sammus! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's guest is comedian, podcaster, and writer Youngmi Mayer.Youngmi is one of the very first people we profiled on MOTHER 10 years ago, back when she—and her ex-husband Danny Bowien—were food world darlings thanks to their restaurant, Mission Chinese Food.It wasn't until several years after becoming a mother that Youngmi finally vocalized the goal she'd had since she was a kid—and was too embarrassed to say out loud—she wanted to be a stand-up comedian. She chronicles this experience—as well as the rise and fall of Mission Chinese—in her brand-new memoir, I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying.The bulk of the book covers her personal history of being raised in Korea by a Korean mother and American father, as well as the powerful stories of the many ancestors that came before her. As the title suggests, the book is at times funny and deeply emotional, as it touches on issues of colonialism, abuse, love, death, motherhood, and generational trauma.In today's conversation, we talk to Youngmi about what she's happily inherited from her own parents, her big breaks in comedy, raising a tween son in a world steeped in misogyny, and her ultimate goal of being relatable.  You can follow Youngmi at @ymmayer on Instagram.Today's episode is brought to you by three mom-owned brands we love—Tubby Todd, Minted, and Ritual. See a list of their exclusive offerings for our listeners, below.~Check out Minted.com and use code MOTHER24 for 20% off holiday cards and 15% off gifts through December 31, 2024.~Visit Ritual.com/mothermag for 25% off your first month of Ritual.~Head over to TubbyTodd.com and use code MOTHERMAG15 for 15% off your next order.Please follow, rate, and leave us a review!For more on Youngmi's story, check out these great interviews:New York Times (article)Add To Cart (podcast)Hairy Butthole (podcast)Feeling Asian (podcast)For more stories about motherhood and so much more, visit mothermag.com and follow @mothermag on Instagram.The MOTHER Podcast is produced by Em Roberts and Ali Alquiza.  

Subscribe to Throwing Fits on Substack. Our interview with Youngmi Mayer is getting hairy. Youngmi—comedian and author of the new memoir I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying—hit the stu for a little therapy session on wearing one dress while on tour and only owning three outfits and one pair of shoes, vaping on the airplane, her new memoir and the idiom that inspired both the title and one of her first jokes, finding comedy amongst the trauma and tragedy, immigrant inferiority complexes, Korean stereotypes for white people, parenting do's and don'ts, the easiest book sale of all time, being early on the Luigi Mangioni thirst, when Asian politeness meets white supremacy and when they've had enough, answering the age-old what are you vs. how are you questions, K-pop as a negative export, Korean skincare 101, dating in NYC and a very thorough rundown of all the worst types of guys, haters needing to hate better, brokenness as a cruising altitude and much more on Youngmi Mayer's interview with The Only Podcast That Matters™.

Comedian, writer and podcast host Youngmi Mayer was raised in Korea and Saipan with a Korean mom and a white American father. Their relationship was strained at times as Mayer navigated her family's generational trauma and often took on a parental role. She pushed through these struggles, and others, through humor–and that strategy frames her new memoir, I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying. Mayer speaks with NPR's Juana Summers about her family story in today's episode. They also discuss Mayer's original pitch for the book's title, relatability in Asian American storytelling and how she became a standup comedian.To listen to Book of the Day sponsor-free and support NPR's book coverage, sign up for Book of the Day+ at plus.npr.org/bookofthedayLearn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

Youngmi Mayer says she hates doing research but, in our conversation and in her new memoir I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying, she does a lot of digging into the events of her life and what they all meant. Youngmi grew up in Saipan and Korea, the daughter of a Korean mother and a White American father, and had to deal with discrimination, harassment, and abuse. Later on, she moved to America with $700 in her pocket and no real plan in order to escape an abusive relationship and had to find a path that included a place of prominence in the restaurant scene, a life of comedy, and a severe depression disorder.Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of Maximum Fun.Check out our I'm Glad You're Here and Depresh Mode merchandise at the brand new merch website MaxFunStore.com!Hey, remember, you're part of Depresh Mode and we want to hear what you want to hear about. What guests and issues would you like to have covered in a future episode? Write us at depreshmode@maximumfun.org.Help is available right away.The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALKCrisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741.International suicide hotline numbers available here: https://www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines  

Youngmi Mayer is back on the pod, this time with her new memoir “I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying.” Carters, this book will alter your brain chemistry. At least, it did for the Aunties. They dive into shame, Korean and Korean-American identity, and what happens when you become the crazy lady on the subway. Plus, Youngmi talks about the one new pair of shoes she's bought in three years, and gives us a crash course on cushion foundation.  We want to hear from you! Drop us a message on Speakpipe. Subscribe to the Add to Cart newsletter for juicy extras. Please note, Add To Cart contains mature themes and may not be appropriate for all listeners.  To see all products mentioned in this episode, head to @addtocartpod on Instagram. To purchase any of the products, see below.  The Carel red leather mary jane pumps are a touch of French magic  The JUNG SAEM MOOL cushion foundation has SPF and the minis are only $13! Kim Hastreiter's book “STUFF.” is the perfect coffee table piece  “I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying” is available Nov. 12! Love Youngmi? Listen to her podcast “Hairy Butthole”  Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.  Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.  Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows: lemonadamedia.com/sponsors  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Sam is joined by comedian and author Youngmi Mayer to discuss their unique experiences being biracial. While Youngmi grew up in Korea and Saipan and Sam was raised in the U.S., the two connect over memories of being othered both within and outside of their respective families, and delve into how their lives reflect larger forces of immigration, culture and privilege. Youngmi shares how her identity work influenced the writing of her upcoming memoir, "I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying," as well as her mom's response to including raw details about her childhood and the healing effect of humor.Youngmi Mayer (she/they) is a standup comedian, content creator and author living in NYC with her son, Mino. Instagram @ymmayerTikTok @youngmimayerListen to Hairy Butthole PodcastPre-order I'm Laughing Because I'm CryingThank you to Embrace Change for sponsoring this episode!Saying No free resource: https://www.embracechange.nyc/saying-no-beyond-the-couchEmbrace Change website: https://embracechange.nyc/Don't Stay in Your Lane: The Career Change Guide for Women of Color: https://www.embracechange.nyc/bookEmbrace Change Coaching: https://www.embracechange.nyc/career-coaching-programsFollow Embrace Change on social media:https://instagram.com/embracechangenyc/https://linkedin.com/in/embracechangenyc/https://www.youtube.com/embracechangenychttps://tiktok.com/@embracechangenyc Bridges Mental Health aims to connect Asian, Pacific Islander, South Asian Americans (APISA) with culturally responsive mental health professionals and resources. We hope to make mental health care more accessible and approachable across the Asian diaspora.Find a TherapistJoin our Clinician Community Write to us with comments & questions, we'd love to hear from you.@bridgesmentalhealthbridgesmentalhealthnyc@gmail.combuymeacoffee.com/bridgesmh

Jenny invites Asian Friends Julia Shiplett (Netflix's "Happiness for Beginners") and Youngmi Mayer (Hair Butthole podcast) onto the show. Youngmi gets some dating advice. Julia gets a new apartment. Jenny's got a lot of thoughts. Mic is in Baltimore.Donate to MauiThe Hawaiʻi Community Foundation started a Maui Strong Fund to support residents affected by the wildfires, which firefighting crews continue to battle in Lahaina, Pulehu/Kīhei and Upcountry areas. Donations can be made at www.hawaiicommunityfoundation.org/maui-strong. Maui United Way is accepting donations to its Maui Fire and Disaster Relief fund at https://mauiunitedway.org/disasterrelief.Support our editor Patrick Le's Short Film!https://seedandspark.com/fund/sins-of-my-youth-short-film-1#storyH A C K C I T Y C O M E D Yhttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/hack-city-comedy-with-mic-nguyen-jenny-arimoto-tickets-691265713357V O I C E M A I L646-809-7231F O L L O Whttps://www.instagram.com/asiannotasianpodhttps://www.instagram.com/nicepantsbrohttps://www.instagram.com/jennyarimoto/P A T R E O Nhttps://www.patreon.com/asiannotasianpod P A R T N E R S - Thanks to the U.S Department of Health and Human Services for making this episode happen visit vaccines.gov-Experience Magic mind, use code "asian20" to get 40% off at magicmind.co/asian- BETTER HELP: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/asian and get on your way to being your best self. Get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at BetterHelp.com/asian- EXPRESS VPN: 3 Months free at expressvpn.com/asian- EARNIN - Download the Earnin app today in the Google Play or Apple App store. Be sure to write in "Asian" under PODCAST when you sign up. - Helix Sleep Mattress: $125 off ALL mattress orders for ANALs at helixsleep.com/asian - Hawthorne.co is offering 10% off of your first purchase! Visit hawthorne.co and use PROMO CODE “NOTASIAN” - TUSHY Bidets: Go to hellotushy.com/ANA for 10% off!- THE SCRIPPS RESEARCH INSTITUTE: www.joinallofus.org/asiannotasian- HBO MAX: http://hbom.ax/ana2- FUNDRISE: Fundrise.com/asian- SANZO: DrinkSanzo.com and use promo code “ASIANNOTASIAN”- TruBill: Truebill.com/Asian- Quip: GetQuip.com/Asian- Athletic Greens: Athleticgreens.com/asiannotasian - Shopify: Shopify.com/asian - Manscaped: Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code ASIAN- Big Brother Big Sister: https://bit.ly/30zQZan- Nutrafol: www.nutrafol.com (Promo code: Asian)- Sesanood: www.sesanood.com (Promo code: AsianNotAsian)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Continuing from episode 17, therapist Kathyrn Lee joins the Asian Friends along with Brian Park and Youngmi Mayer. We go through mental health questions from listeners while Mic continually has his mind blown by therapy. Part 2 of 2. Special thanks to our sponsor Saks OFF 5TH for getting the gang back together! Saks OFF 5TH is celebrating AANHPI month with the Asian Mental Health Collective (AMHC) for the 3rd year in a row, an organization that de-stigmatizes mental health within the Asian community. To learn more go to saksoff5th.com/charity.COME SEE ANA Live: Real-Asian-Ships Dating Show!https://www.caveat.nyc/events/asian-not-asian-podcast-live-6-1-2023See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week we're chatting with comedian, activist, and podcast host Youngmi Mayer, who's based in New York City's Chinatown. Host Mae Hamilton, AFAR's assistant editor, first came upon Youngmi on Instagram. Youngmi's post about not quite fitting in with Korean or American culture really resonated with Mae, and made her feel seen in a way she hadn't before as a half Taiwanese and half white American person. Soon Mae began tuning in weekly to Youngmi's podcast Hairy Butthole—based on the Korean saying “If you laugh while crying, hair will grow out of your butthole”—and quickly became a big Youngmi fan. In this episode, Mae talks with Youngmi about a recent trip she took to her childhood homes in Korea and Saipan, an island near Guam. Youngmi had a traumatic childhood, a subject which makes a regular appearance in her standup. So returning home for her has always been a bit . . . complicated. So they discuss what it's like to travel to a place that has emotional baggage for you and how to still find beauty in it. They also talk about Asian moms, what it's like to be biracial and Asian American, and why these identities can be so complex. Resources Read this week's show notes, including a full transcript of the episode. Listen to Youngmi's current podcast, Hairy Butthole Listen to Youngmi's former podcast, Feeling Asian Follow Youngmi on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok

FEELING ASIAN REUNITES. Youngmi Mayer and Brian Park reunite for the first time since the end of their pod. We catch up and talk about how clothes plays into the Asian American psyche. Part 1 of 2. Special thanks to our sponsor Saks OFF 5th for getting the gang back together! Saks OFF 5TH is celebrating AANHPI month with the Asian Mental Health Collective (AMHC) for the 3rd year in a row, an organization that de-stigmatizes mental health within the Asian community. To learn more go to saksoff5th.com/charity.ANA Live: Real-Asian-Ships Dating Show!https://www.caveat.nyc/events/asian-not-asian-podcast-live-6-1-2023H A C K C I T Y C O M E D Yhttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/hack-city-comedy-with-mic-nguyen-jenny-arimoto-tickets-627236399957See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

ASHLEY IS DROPPING A SPECIAL SOON! Join her text list to be the first to know: ▶ https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates, or text “tour” to +1 (877) 497-0441 Youngmi Mayer is a rockstar comedian, podcaster, and writer with an exciting book on the horizon, but today she's not hustling; she's in the apartment to get freak-nasty with the polygamous trio! We discuss cheating in non-monogamous relationships, intent vs. impact when using pronouns, and we get to the bottom of whatever a “hairy butthole” is. Ashley worries for a former lover. Maddie seduces the straights.   You can follow Youngmi on IG and Twitter: @ymmayer, TikTok: @youngmimayer, And you can listen to her amazing podcast “Hairy Butthole” on the JoySauce website: ▶ https://joysauce.com/podcast/hairy-butthole/  Support WHGS for bonus content, uncut podcasts, live streams, and more: ▶ https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Check out our merch ▶ https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin  ______________________________________________ – CONNECT WITH US! – Ashley Gavin's Tour Dates: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/6de0153eb9c8/whgs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs ——— Maddie Wiener's Newsletter and Tour Dates:  https://www.maddiewiener.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maddietwiener/?hl=en  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@maddietwiener  Twitter: https://twitter.com/maddietwiener  ——— Produced & Edited by Alex “swetshop” Vrahas: https://www.instagram.com/swetshopz/?hl=en  ——— Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ruDo5v47D04 ______________________________________________ – SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! – Helix: ▶ Get up to $200 off and 2 free pillows at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex BetterHelp: ▶ This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://www.betterhelp.com/whgs and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The esteemed Youngmi Mayer (Feeling Asian Podcast) joins us in Asianland. Mic goes to a party he wasn't sure he was invited to. Jenny takes a business trip. Youngmi tells us what she's got planned next. This one gets intense, so get the tissues out and fire up the group text.C O M E S E E H A C K C I T Y https://www.eventbrite.com/e/hack-city-comedy-with-mic-nguyen-jenny-arimoto-tickets-465096103967F U M I & F R I E N D S S H O Whttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/fumi-friends-tickets-468031052477F O L L O Whttps://www.instagram.com/asiannotasianpodhttps://www.instagram.com/nicepantsbrohttps://www.instagram.com/jennyarimoto/P A T R E O Nhttps://www.patreon.com/asiannotasianpod P A R T N E R S -Experience Magic mind, use code "asian20" to get 40% off at magicmind.co/asian - Thanks to the U.S Department of Health and Human Services for making this episode happen visit vaccines.gov- BETTER HELP: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/asian and get on your way to being your best self. Get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at BetterHelp.com/asian - Helix Sleep Mattress: $125 off ALL mattress orders for ANALs at helixsleep.com/asian - Hawthorne.co is offering 10% off of your first purchase! Visit hawthorne.co and use PROMO CODE “NOTASIAN” - TUSHY Bidets: Go to hellotushy.com/ANA for 10% off!- THE SCRIPPS RESEARCH INSTITUTE: www.joinallofus.org/asiannotasian- HBO MAX: http://hbom.ax/ana2- EXPRESS VPN: 3 Months free at expressvpn.com/asian- FUNDRISE: Fundrise.com/asian- SANZO: DrinkSanzo.com and use promo code “ASIANNOTASIAN”- TruBill: Truebill.com/Asian- Quip: GetQuip.com/Asian- Athletic Greens: Athleticgreens.com/asiannotasian - Shopify: Shopify.com/asian - Manscaped: Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code ASIAN- Big Brother Big Sister: https://bit.ly/30zQZan- Nutrafol: www.nutrafol.com (Promo code: Asian)- Sesanood: www.sesanood.com (Promo code: AsianNotAsian)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cannot thank you enough for all of your support! Follow us on our socials @itsbrianpark and @ymmayer! Don't be a stranger and come see us perform at a live show. 

It's the penultimate episode, ahh! There's no better guest to go through all the feelings that come from it than poet, writer, and author of the widely acclaimed book Minor Feelings, Cathy Park Hong! We talk to her about life after writing the most essential book of our generation on Asian Americans, and how her writing and research have informed her activism in recent years. Cathy also gives advice for practicing artists, writers, and people who are getting in tune with new creative endeavors. What a wonderful way to start wrapping things up! Be sure to follow Cathy Park Hong at @cathyparkhong, and we really hope you enjoy this episode!

Take a trip down memory lane with us. We look back on our first episode of this podcast and reflect on how far we've come :') Follow us at @itsbrianpark, @ymmayer and @feelingasianpodcast. Thank you!

Haute Pod Episode! We have fashion influencer and creative director Vanessa Hong on this week to tell it like it is about the world of fashion. We do a deep dive on how social media has flattened the accessibility to high-status events; how the industry responds to a new generation of eco-friendly, socially conscious consumers; and whether fashion has truly reached any equity for Asians and Asian Americans. No holds barred, people! If you want more Vanessa after this episode, you can follow her at @vanessahong. Enjoy!!

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We know…it's about time we did a sports episode!! This week we are honored to have director Frank Chi on the pod to discuss his latest documentary, 38 at the Garden, out now on HBO! We talk about the new film, Linsanity, and the impact of Jeremy Lin's history-making NBA run on us and New York. We also hear about Frank's career turn from politics to filmmaking, which is really inspiring because we looove a good career pivot story. Enjoyed this episode? Please make sure to follow Frank Chi at @frankchi!

Comedian and host of Feeling Asian and Hairy Butthole Youngmi Mayer joins us to get to the bottom of a decades-old crime haunting one faamily: WHO flushed the hot dog down the toilet?  Follow Youngmi on Instagram @ymmayer. You can support Normal Gossip directly by buying merch or becoming a Friend or a Friend-of-Friend at supportnormalgossip.com. Episode transcript here. Follow the show on Instagram @normalgossip, and if you have gossip, email us at normalgossip@defector.com or leave us a voicemail at 26-79-GOSSIP. Normal Gossip is hosted by Kelsey McKinney (@mckinneykelsey) and produced by Alex Sujong Laughlin (@alexlaughs). Law & Order sound effect created by Mike Post. Credits read by Jessie Xiao. 

You'll be absolutely gagged to hear that Kim Chi is our special guest this week! You may know her from her incredible run on RuPaul's Drag Race or her beauty line, but her story behind the performance is so intricate, relatable, and delightful. We talk to Kim Chi about her experience on the show, being able to tour as a part of her career, and the performance and fulfillment of being a Korean American drag queen –– let alone the first ever Korean drag queen on American national television! Follow Kim Chi at @kimchi_chic and enjoy!!

This week we discuss our shifting roles as creatives and how we're adapting our inner and outer selves to the subsequent public perception. All that to say, we're leaning in and hope you'll join us! Also we dive deep into our childhood crushes. Have fun listening to this one, and be sure to follow us at @feelingasianpodcast on Instagram and TikTok!    

Did you know there's such a thing as the Internet whisperer? We have her on the pod this week! Delia Cai is a senior correspondent at Vanity Fair, covering culture and celebrity with a knack for understanding Gen Z trends. We talk to her about NYFW, corporate try-hards, and her forthcoming novel Central Places. We also predict cultural trends with her, so if you see something popping off in the coming months…you heard it here first. Enjoy and follow Delia at @delia_cai on Twitter!

We hope you're hungry for this week's episode! Frankie Gaw is a Taiwanese American cook, writer, and designer whose debut book First Generation comes out in a month! If you don't know his work yet, please go drool over his food photography at @littlefatboyfrankie before diving into this convo! We talk about his unconventional start in food writing and recipe development, how his Midwest upbringing influences his Taiwanese dishes, and “Asian fusion.” Have fun listening to this one, and hope you pass this along to a fellow food lover. And be sure to follow us at @feelingasianpodcast on Instagram and TikTok!

Feeling Asian goes back to school this week with Dr. Russell Jeung (Professor at San Francisco State University, Founder of Stop AAPI Hate) and Anuradha Vikram (Curator and Faculty at UCLA, Co-Founder of Stop DiscriminAsian)! We asked each of our guests to come into the episode with an event or timeline in Asian American history that has become misunderstood or revised along the way – something that would surprise many first-year students, to put it simply. We think you'll walk away from this one with some spicy topics for the next big family reunion lol! Please share this episode and as always, we appreciate your support on Patreon: (patreon.com/FeelingAsian). Happy learning!

We're back this week Feeling Asian classique style aka just us two! We've had a string of amazing guests and felt it was time to check-in with each other. Give it a listen and leave us a review. And as always, we appreciate your support via Patreon: patreon.com/feelingasian

Andrew Thomas Huang is a visual artist and film director known for his music videos for FKA twigs, Björk, Atoms for Peace, and more. We loooove his video for FKA twigs' “Cellophane,” which resurfaced last year amid the hype over Lil Nas X's video for “MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name),” much of which was seemingly heavily lifted from Huang's work. We dive into the comparisons, which leads to a larger discussion on who gets fed vs who makes the decisions in the creative industrial complex. Also – this is the cool part – we talk about finding inspiration in queer folklore and the importance of collaboration. Follow Andrew at @andrewthomashuang and weep while watching “Cellophane”! And as always, we appreciate your support via Patreon: patreon.com/feelingasian

A guest so nice, we bring ‘em on twice! Bohan Phoenix is back on the pod with us this week in the afterglow of his debut album release! The last time we spoke was in the thick of COVID-19 (weird vibes!); this time around we talk about feeling more uncertain than ever about your career after dropping a debut album, the expectations versus reality of it all, jewelry mishaps, and more. We also ask Bohan about NFTs because we know they have a rep of sorts, but he's found a way for them to help his art. Follow Bohan at @bohanphoenix, put ‘City Are For Fools' into rotation, and enjoy this episode! Don't forget that we are on Patreon for more bonus content: patreon.com/FeelingAsian

This week we have an OG in the podcasting world! Kulay Vilaysack is a comedian, writer, director, show runner, former co-host of the Who Charted? podcast and most recently a co-host of Add To Cart podcast! We talk to her about what our consumption patterns reveal about our psyches, letting things simply happen (AKA don't cockblock the universe), and her 2019 documentary. We also pitch show ideas…tell us how we did! Enjoy this wonderful episode and hope to see you on Patreon! patreon.com/FeelingAsian

This week we talk to JY Choi, a sex educator and sex toy shop owner based in Korea (insert audible gasps here). In a country that is still working hard to bring sex positivity and sexual wellness into the mainstream, Choi is a pioneer in her field. We talk to her about working as a freelance educator, creating a more female-focused sex toy industry, and the cultural significance of Jeju Island sea divers. We have a feeling this will be an instantly beloved episode! Follow JY Choi at @standupjy and subscribe to our Patreon for bonus content!

This episode belongs on the summer festival main stage: we have electronic music producer and artist Sajeeb Saha aka Jai Wolf with us this week! We talk about EDM (you know, the genre that everyone has an opinion about) and all of the misconceptions and changes that it has endured over the last decade. Sajeeb also breaks down all of its different scenes as well as the many forms that your identity can take in your creative practice. Follow him at @jaiwolfx, add “We Will Meet Again” to your feel-good playlist, and subscribe to our Patreon for bonus content! patreon.com/FeelingAsian

From sneaking into Parsons' silk screen lab to making sneaker history: we have hometown legend Jeff Staple in the house today! You may know this creative visionary for his DIY roots and shaking up streetwear with his Nike Dunk Low SB collab “NYC Pigeon.” We talk to Jeff about his come up in streetwear, what draws people to the scene, the current state of sneaker culture, and reimagining work-life balance now that he's decades into his business. Follow @jeffstaple on Instagram and catch us on Patreon for bonus content from this episode!

This week Ku and Su are joined by comedian, actor, and writer Brian Park and comedian Youngmi Mayer, hosts of the podcast Feeling Asian. The four talk about the healing effects of ASMR blasting through your ears, why Brian is the heel of all retailers, and the secret to Youngmi's skin.  Please note, Add To Cart contains mature themes and may not be appropriate for all listeners.  To see all products mentioned in this episode, head to @addtocartpod on Instagram. To purchase any of the products, see below.  Make sure to check out Youngmi and Brian's podcast Feeling Asian Brian is a pant man now. He loves his CASATLANTIC pleated pants. So does SuChin. Youngmi listens to all her favorite ASMR videos with this eyemask/headphone combo sitch. From Youngmi: “this one is so funny she pretends she brought you 7-11 snacks because you're sad” “this one is pretending you're on first class on an overnight flight (its 8 hours long!)” “another supportive one”  “this one is so good it puts me to sleep immediately” Brian's “Kevlar” bandaid. Note, it's not actually Kevlar.  Youngmi's ditching SK-II for this Manyo Essence for the most glowy skin  Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.  Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.  Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows: lemonadamedia.com/sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Look out, Feeling Asian has gone international (from our bedrooms)! Our guest this week is cartoonist and cultural worker Kaitlin Chan, whose work has appeared on The New Yorker, Popular, and The Margins! We talk to her about living in Hong Kong, creating cartoons about your feelings, the idea that the U.S. is the literary/film/art capital of the world, and feminism in Asia. Tune in for a very honest and soul-soothing conversation and follow Kaitlin at @kaitlinmchan! Please share with your closest friends and family members and let them know to support us on Patreon for bonus content and upcoming goodies :)

Elizabeth Ito is a director, writer, storyboard artist, and recent Peabody Award recipient for her show City of Ghosts! We discussed what the writers rooms look like for our favorite animated series (like Adventure Time!), having your own award-winning Netflix show (but also not having it renewed :), and what we could all learn from children. Also, the bane of everyone's existence – industry parties. Follow Elizabeth Ito at @ottersnaps on Instagram and Twitter and subscribe for more bonus content at patreon.com/FeelingAsian!

ALOK is a comedian, poet, author, and this week's amazing guest who many of you have asked us to have on the show! We talk to them about using comedy as an instrument for social good, embracing our sense of play as adults, and the hypocrisy of gender constructs in society. Thank you Alok for the reminder to feel radicalized in the midst of devastating news rather than despair

Yumi Nu is a model and singer-songwriter who recently graced the cover of Sports Illustrated's Swimsuit Issue, becoming the first plus-size model of Asian descent to do so!! Our hearts swell when we think about all the self-love and kindness she shows herself. We talk to Yumi about what helped her embrace her beauty, reclaiming her Asian identity later in life, and the embarrassment of butt-scooting into Ubers. Follow Yumi at @_yumi_nu on Instagram and Twitter and be sure to subscribe to Feeling Asian on Patreon for bonus content! patreon.com/FeelingAsian

Luna Li is a singer, songwriter, multi-instrumentalist, producer…basically there's nothing she can't do!! Based in Toronto, the artist first took off at the height of the pandemic with her at-home jam sessions which led to her blissful debut album Duality. We talk to her about coming up as an outsider in the Toronto garage rock scene, our rider wishlists, and growing into your own in the afterglow of debuts. Put “Alone But Not Lonely” on your summer ~yearning~ playlists and follow Luna Li at @lunalilunalilunali on Instagram and @lunaliband on Twitter. And subscribe to our Patreon if you want to join us for our next Zoom hang and AMA with Youngmi's mom on June 24! patreon.com/FeelingAsian

We are so honored to have Lucy Yu of Yu and Me Books on the pod this week! Yu and Me Books is the first female Asian American owned bookstore in NYC and we were so eager to have the founder on after Youngmi heard her speak at an event last month. Tune in to learn about how Lucy, a lifelong career changer, began as a chemical engineer but then followed her dream of opening a bookstore and eventually created a grounding community space in Chinatown. Also in this episode: tears, hot takes, and trauma bonding over college. Follow Yu and Me Books at @yuandmebooks and psst – Patreon subscribers also get summer book recs!

Zoe Si is a Pulitzer Prize-nominated cartoonist, illustrator, and a firm believer that when words fail, a cartoon can succeed. Too often, her comics and autobiographical doodles make us go “wow I feel seen.” Zoe and we talk about the craziness of being named a Pulitzer Prize finalist for your cartoons, her past life as a lawyer, and the joy of being creative on your own terms. This will be an inspiring episode for anyone who has gone or is going through a chapter in their lives where they are contemplating a new field of work. Following Zoe on Instagram (@zoesees) is a must and be sure to follow our Patreon for bonus content! patreon.com/FeelingAsian

Sheena Melwani is a content creator with the most infectious laugh known to TikTok. You may know her from her wholesome videos with her family, who love to put the biggest smile on her face (goals). We talk about letting the universe guide you and following its signs, and how it is never too late to pursue your dreams. This is especially true for mothers! We hope you tune in because this is a bright and positive one :). Follow Sheena at @sheenamelwani and be sure to subscribe to our Patreon for bonus content! patreon.com/FeelingAsian

Stephanie Hsu plays Joy/Jobu Tupaki in Everything Everywhere All At Once. With a breakthrough performance where she stars opposite Michelle Yeoh and Jonathan Ke Huy Kuan, the actress joins us to talk about the rock scene (*sniffles*), being kind and sweet in a cutthroat industry (*whimpers*), and allowing herself to love what she does (*cries*). We are also constantly thanking her throughout this conversation!! Follow Stephanie at @stephaniehsuofficial and if you loved this episode, subscribe to our Patreon at patreon.com/feelingasian for bonus content from this episode!

On this episode of Tell Me About Your Father's pop culture and news review show Daddy Issues!, Erin and Elizabeth are joined by comedian Youngmi Mayer, host of must-listen podcasts "Feeling Asian" and "Hairy Butthole." We talk to Youngmi about comedy being the best way to talk about the worst things, her young adulthood in Korea and why she left to move to the US at age 20, as well as her white father's internalized white supremacy and misogyny. We also discuss the brain-searing experience of being mistaken for your father's girlfriend, and Youngmi's life as a happily divorced single mother to a young son. Then it's on to daddy issues in the news, as we dissect the ironic infantilization of women pregnant enough to have an abortion, and the fetid stench of recent Twitter purchaser Elon Musk and his dad Errol, who married—and has a child with—his stepdaughter. The Musk men stink and our commentary is the spiritual Febreeze you need. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tell-me-about-your-father/support

Phew. It was only a matter of time until we did this episode, and we're pretty sure you are excited for this one as well. To celebrate Mother's Day, we invite Youngmi's umma Ippun and Brian's noona Jessica to the pod and quickly learn that we are fated to become our mothers!! We also unpack some of your submissions when we asked you, “what is a conversation you wish you could have with your mom?” If you loved this episode, please like, subscribe, and follow Feeling Asian!

Alex Sujong Laughlin is a writer and audio producer who has created podcasts for the New York Times, Buzzfeed, and The Washington Post. You might know her recent work on Normal Gossip (a must-listen for nosy lovers of banal gossip)! We talk about biases in newsrooms, knowing your worth, and ghostwriting. Oh, and ghosts. Listen to Alex's amazing work on Normal Gossip and follow her at @alexlaughs on Twitter and Instagram. Be sure to like, subscribe, and share our podcast, too!

Lily Lizotte (she/they) aka THE BLSSM is an artist who hails from Sydney, Australia. Lily is our inaugural Aussie guest and they had some choice words about what it was like growing up there. Lily also gives us an honest, inside look into the ups and downs of being an artist on the rise in the music industry. Go stream THE BLSSM right now!!! Be sure to like, subscribe, and share our podcast, too!

Youngmi Mayer (Feeling Asian, Hairy Butthole) is a spectacular comedian and podcaster who is taking on the world with her sharp social commentary, but today she is slowing down to get sensual in the apartment! We discuss the inscrutability of sexual chemistry, complex perceptions of biracial individuals, and the need for proper Asian representation in our sex toys. Ashley gets real kinky. Kate tries to keep it quiet. Youngmi Mayer can be found on IG and Twitter: @ymmayer, TikTok: @youngmimayer, And you can listen to her fantastic podcasts, “Feeling Asian” and “Hairy Butthole,” wherever you listen! IG: @feelingasianpodcast, @hairybuttholepodcast. Ashley is touring over 30 CITIES; be the first to know when tickets drop in your area by texting “tour” to +1 (877) 497-0441, or visit www.ashleygavin.com/tourdates. Win a dinner with Ashley by visiting https://www.ashleygavin.com/win, or text "notadate" to +1 (877) 497-0441.          Follow your national and local ACLU to stay updated on the best ways to combat anti-trans legislation: https://www.aclu.org/about/affiliates – Want to hear more? Check out the following links: Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: ashleygavin.com/firstdibs @ashgavs on IG and Twitter; @ashgavscomedy on TikTok. @thekatesisk on IG and Twitter       Support WHGS on Patreon, and get access to exclusive content like bonus episodes, uncut podcasts, stand-up live streams, and more!: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Want better sleep? Try Helix, and get up to $200 off any mattress order and two free pillows by visiting our special link: https://helixsleep.com/gaysex Use BetterHelp to live a happier life today, and get 10% off your first month by visiting our special link: https://www.betterhelp.com/whgs Use Truebill to manage finances, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting our special link: https://www.truebill.com/ashley Want to see what's happening inside of the room? Watch this episode on YouTube at the following link: https://youtu.be/cqeMxbQzSHY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nigel Ng is a London-based comedian who made a splash on the Internet with his “Uncle Roger” persona on TikTok and YouTube. We dive right in with Nigel about the image he's created to provide commentary on Asian stereotypes, lampoon popular food critics and restaurateurs for their fascination with Asian dishes, and reflect on – you know – the “accent.” Follow him at mrnigelng on YouTube. Be sure to like, subscribe, and share our podcast, too! 

Lucie talks to Korean-American comedian and host of the Feeling Asian Podcast Youngmi Mayer, about her experience growing up on the island of Saipan, feeling like an outsider in Korea, if we should get rid of national identities, and why Youngmi never asks anyone where they're from. 

Yaeji is an artist, singer, producer and mastermind behind your favorite club bangers. She joins us to discuss her artistic evolution and how to treat music as documentation. Yaeji also shares what it was like to develop her forthcoming album in Korea. It gets fiery too – we talk about confronting repressed emotions! Listen to Yaeji wherever you get your music and follow her at @kraejiyaeji. Like, subscribe and follow our podcast too!

We're excited to bring back friend of the pod - Eric Kim! Eric is a cooking columnist at the New York Times and author of the memoir/cookbook Korean American! Bring the tissues because this is a heartfelt one. We dive into relationships and the validation of obtaining your dreams. Grab Eric's book at your nearest bookstore and impress all your friends with your new favorite dishes! And as always, like, subscribe, patreon etc…

Wayfair whomst? Get out the fabric swatches—we're painting Chicago red with Oprah's favorite interior design gay, Nate Berkus, and his glossy memoir/coffee table book “The Things That Matter.” From combing flea markets to the tragic loss of his boyfriend in the 2004 tsunami, organic popcorn, white guilt, foamcore presentations, and why every French teacher has an asymmetrical bob—this is a journey to the very beating heart of homosexuality.PLUS! In the VIP Lounge—comedian Youngmi Mayer of the podcast “Feeling Asian” spills scalding hot tea on the NYC food scene, sex as a single mom and what's in her bag! Subscribe to the VIP Lounge here:https://www.patreon.com/cbcthepodTickets to our West Coast live show here:04.30.2022 Cafe Du Nord - San Francisco https://www.ticketweb.com/event/celebrity-book-club-cafe-du-nord-tickets/11828665Follow us for more fun!Instagram: @cbcthepodTwitter: @cbcthepod See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Caitlin, Jamie, and special guest Youngmi Mayer bust our their ukuleles and discuss Blue Valentine. (This episode contains spoilers) For Bechdel bonuses, sign up for our Patreon at patreon.com/bechdelcast. Follow @ymmayer on Twitter. While you're there, you should also follow @BechdelCast, @caitlindurante and @jamieloftusHELP Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

It's been a while since we've had a solo episode! We'ree gonna be honest - we had a rough patch and took a little break from each other. In true Feeling Asian fashion, we get real about our emotions on air. Don't worry we're not going anywhere! (Yet??? Lol jk)

Natalie Lee is the star of the hit reality show show Love is Blind on Netflix. We're officially a part of the cultural zeitgeist! Natalie joins us to discuss her time on the show and what she learned from it all. She also dishes on some hot goss that you won't get in the tabloids, but you'll have to listen to find out! Follow her at @natalieminalee. Also please leave us a review on Spotify or Apple or wherever you get your pods! 

Chris Ying is a writer and co-host of The Dave Chang Show. He is popularly known as the editor in chief of the influential food imprint Lucky Peach but most importantly he is the naturally funniest guy. Chris and Youngmi recount the early aughts of their food careers and the beginning of their lasting friendship. We also dissect yelp-elite culture. Follow Chris at @chrisyingz! Also check out our Patreon! 

Rachel Nguyen is a fashion blogger, youtuber and bonafide internet "it girl". Rachel joins us to share her experiences of literally growing up on the internet before instagram and tik tok. We also analyze what it means to be “authentic” online and predict how our internet selves will evolve. Follow Rachel at @thatschic! Also check us out on Patreon! 

Yang-Yi Goh is the commerce editor of GQ and overall purveyor of good fits. Yang joins us to share his insights into the state of men's fashion - the good, the bad, the ugly. We also do a fit check of your new fashion inspo aka young legend Mino Bowien. Follow Yang at @yanggoh! As always, if you like the pod please support us on Patreon!

Kathy Kim is a puppeteer and voice of the first Asian-American Sesame Street muppet, Ji-Young. Kathy gives us the lay of the land into puppeteering and recounts her journey to Sesame Street. We also get real about self-worth and shedding the bad habit of crediting our accomplishments solely to circumstance. Please check us out on Patreon! 

An Li aka your "bully next door" is a professional dominatrix. This is a hot one! She joins us to discuss all things BDSM and provides an insider's perspective on sex work. If you've been curious about opening your sexual horizons then this is the episode for you. Follow her work at youremybit.ch! While you're at it, check out our Patreon too!

We are honored to have Lisa Ling and Helen Cho on Feeling Asian! Lisa Ling is a journalist, tv personality and Host of Take Out with Lisa Ling. Helen Cho is an Executive Producer and Showrunner of Take Out with Lisa Ling. We discuss the inspiration for the series and the importance of learning Asian history in America. We also get real about self-doubt and impostor syndrome. Go watch Take Out with Lisa Ling on HBO Max now!!! Also, please support us on Patreon!

SASAMI is a visionary singer-songwriter and musician who has been described as “a Satanic Brian Wilson.” Aka the vibes are immaculate. She joins us to unpack toxic positivity and LA, and why more people could benefit from Korean-mom approved toxic negativity lol. SASAMI also gives us a peek into her upbringing in the Unification Church. Check out her forthcoming album Squeeze on Feb 25! Follow her at @sasamiashworth! Support us on Patreon!

Negin is joined by Bob the Drag Queen and Youngmi Mayer as they discuss a group of camels who were disqualified from a beauty contest because of Botox usage (i.e. our google search, Attractive Camels). Then the panel discusses the CEO of Better.com's decision to fire 900 employees over Zoom and why Jeremy Strong's profile in the New Yorker reminds us that method acting is a group project. —— Thank you to this week's sponsors: Truebill BetterHelp (Use this link for 10% off your first month) —— Rate Fake The Nation 5-stars on Apple Podcasts and leave us a review! Follow Negin Farsad on Twitter Write to Negin at fakethenation@headgum.com Support her Patreon  —— Host - Negin Farsad Producer - Danielle Jones-Wesley Engineer - Stephanie Aguilar  —— Advertise on Fake the Nation via Gumball.fm. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we had Youngmi Mayer (@Ymmayer) comedian, writer, and co-host of Feeling Asian podcast. Youngmi tells us about growing up in Korea with a white dad, men feigning incompetence, and navigating race and gender politics on the playground. Follow us @noflylistpod or drop us a line at noflylistpod@gmail.com. Please consider supporting the show by subscribing to our @Patreon:patreon.com/noflylistpod where you can watch Youngmi's interview.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-no-fly-list/support

Recording from our live show with Receipts Pod at Union Hall on 10/8! Along with Jenny Gorelick, we set up 3 sexy couples on blind dates -- William Banks and Caroline Yost with Emma Callahan, Youngmi Mayer with Liam, and Emily Kob (I'm blushing) with Anya. Also featuring some doctors in the front row giving medical advice. Tune in to relive the horniest event of the fall!

Legendary guest and tiktok star Youngmi Mayer joined the boys this week to discuss racist Korean Halloween ghosts, the drama with casting on the Doogie Howser, and the “Is Simu Liu hot?” debacle. Ultimately, we talk if Asians in Asia get to have a say in how Asian-Americans are represented in the US. It's all right here on Asian Not Asian! U P C O M I N G E V E N T S ! HACK CITY COMEDY (Fumi will be there!) 10/14 @ Union Hall https://www.eventbrite.com/e/hack-city-comedy-with-fumi-abe-and-mic-nguyen-tickets-158019672093 M E R C H- WE ARE SELLING ANA MERCH NOW https://www.asiannotasianpod.com/merch --- P A R T N E R S - Helix Sleep Mattress: $125 off ALL mattress orders for ANALs at helixsleep.com/asian - Hawthorne.co is offering 10% off of your first purchase! Visit hawthorne.co and use PROMO CODE “NOTASIAN” - TUSHY Bidets: Go to hellotushy.com/ANA for 10% off!- THE SCRIPPS RESEARCH INSTITUTE: www.joinallofus.org/asiannotasian- HBO MAX: http://hbom.ax/ana2- BETTER HELP: Get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at BetterHelp.com/asian- EXPRESS VPN: 3 Months free at expressvpn.com/asian- FUNDRISE: Fundrise.com/asian- SANZO: DrinkSanzo.com and use promo code “ASIANNOTASIAN”- TruBill: Truebill.com/Asian- Quip: GetQuip.com/AsianSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Eileen and Lauren chat with the amazing Youngmi Mayer (as in John Mayer but no relation thank god), prolific Tweet writer, comedian, TikTok star and host of Feeling Asian podcast and live show! They talk about the best way to deal with trolls, Youngmi's plethora of pets (two cats one dog), the funny things her son does, embracing her MILF status, and growing up on Saipan. You can find Youngmi on Instagram and Twitter @ymmayer, and TikTok @youngmimayer. She is not to be missed!!! As always, your questions and comments are always welcome, shoot us an email at crazyhotpod@gmail.com. Love you guys xoxo

Noah interviews comedian and podcaster Youngmi about her life of seeing the dead. It turns out Noah isn't the only one who has played hide and seek with a ghost. Make sure to check out Youngmi's amazing podcast the Feeling Asian Podcast and check her out on instagram @Ymmayer Make sure to visit our patreon at patreon.com/RealHauntings and email us at RealHauntingsPodcast@gmail.com or message us on tiktok and instagram @RealHauntingsPodcast and let us know what you think. Please rate and review the podcast on iTunes. Don't forget a new episode releases every Monday!

It's That Time of the WEEK, baddies! Maddy is in studio with her girls Stewart Fullerton and Youngmi Mayer to discuss Britney Spears' post-conservatorship life, play a new segment called Weird Science, and discuss: - men who aren't smarter than us - the declining white population - new research on metabolism! love the pod?! JOIN PATREON! Follow the pod on IG: @thattimeoftheweekpod Follow the girls: @somaddysmith @stewartandchill @ymmayer

Natalie talks with comedian and podcaster Youngmi Mayer (@ymmayer). They discuss internet comedians, online trolls, confidence, when to turn down a gig, internalized misogyny, vulnerability, the cursed opening ceremony dress, and SO much more!

This episode is with hilarious comedian and co-host of Feeling Asian Podcast, Youngmi Mayer (@ymmayer) Gara (@garararararara) and Youngmi discuss misogyny in the comedy world, Christianity, our femmessaince, performing gender, cancer season, TikTok drama and more!THEME SONG IS 'CRYBABY' BY DESTROY BOYS (@destroyboysband) ALBUM ART IS BY ANNA BOULOG (@annaboulog)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/garalonning)

Waddup Family. Today Youngmi Mayer joins Dylan on the show to talk about: *Her recent horrible dating experience *Hooking up with someone in an open relationship *Dealing with confrontation *What "love bombing" is *Listener Patrick and Christiane's dating profiles and much more! If you enjoy the show, please consider rating, reviewing, and/or telling a friend. Plus you can subscribe to Dylan's Patreon @ patreon.com/Dylanpalladino Thank you to the Patreon Senators: Julian, Brittney, Brandi and ! Apple Podcasts Subscribe here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/were-all-psychos/id1162990331?mt=2 Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/3CtU72rmMwWcIeqIj3Pl7E ____________________________________________________________________________________ For full episodes and video clips of the podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqqOHRGrrDcviFr9tkZxGlw Find Dylan here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dylanjpalladino/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fakedylanpalladino/ Website: https://www.dylanpalladino.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/dylanjpalladino --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/were-all-psychos-with-dylan-palladino/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/were-all-psychos-with-dylan-palladino/support

The hoes chat with famed comedian/TikTok star Youngmi Mayer (Feeling Asian Podcast) about the performance of social media, how it's perceived in casual dating scenarios and a wild, wild story you will just HAVE to buckle up for. It's a great reminder to communicate fully (with others and yourself) and always listen to your instincts, as well as warnings from outside sources. There are demons out there!!! This one is a protection spell, we love you. 

**We did a cross-over episode with the good folx at Feeling Asian podcast! This episode is only half of the conversation, so be sure to tune into Feeling Asian podcast on Wednesday 5/26 to catch the FULL conversation!**Not the podcast 4-some you asked for but the podcast 4-some you deserve! This week Brian Park and Youngmi Mayer from Feeling Asian podcast joined the boys IN PERSON to talk horny girl summer, hot girl summer, and f*ck summer. THEN…Brian and Fumi open up about a recent incident that put a dent in their friendship. It might be the first time in history where 2 straight Asian guys confronting each other’s feelings on a media platform. This is only PART 1 of the entire conversion, so if you want to catch the rest of it, be sure to check out FEELING ASIAN PODCAST on Wednesday 5/26! U P C O M I N G E V E N T S ! - RSVP https://linktr.ee/asiannotasianpod M E R C H- WE ARE SELLING ANA MERCH NOW https://www.asiannotasianpod.com/merch --- P A R T N E R S - Helix Sleep Mattress. $125 off ALL mattress orders for ANALs at helixsleep.com/asian - Hawthorne.co is offering 10% off of your first purchase! Visit hawthorne.co and use PROMO CODE “NOTASIAN” - TUSHY Bidets: Go to hellotushy.com/ANA for 10% off!- THE SCRIPPS RESEARCH INSTITUTE: www.joinallofus.org/asiannotasian- HBO MAX: http://hbom.ax/ana2

Comedian and podcast host Youngmi Mayer (Feeling Asian) joins Jenn to talk starting late, divorcing young, and mom'ing in a panic.   EPISODE TRANSCRIPT AVAILABLE BELOW   FOLLOW YOUNGMI: Insta | Twitter | TikTok: @ymmayer FOLLOW JENN: Insta | Twitter: @jennwelchnow FOLLOW LADYHD: Insta | Twitter | TikTok: @ladyhdpod PRODUCED BY LEFT HANDED RADIO: Insta | Twitter: @lefthandedradio ***** LOVE THE PODCAST? WANT TO HELP SUPPORT PRODUCTION COSTS? Join the LadyHD Patreon and get sweet perks / goodies or Leave a tip in the LadyHD tip jar   Very rough, not proofread, episode transcript:  Jenn Welch 0:00 Hey friends If you liked ADHD and you want to support the podcast, go to patreon.com slash lady HD, there is tiers and levels and goodies and prizes. So check it out. This is where the theme song should go ba ba, ba ba ba, ba, ADHD. Oh my gosh, it's time I am here. I'm am I awake? I don't know, guys. It's lady HD, a podcast for distractible women. I'm your host, Jenn Welch I am. Ah, deep breath. That was more of an exhale. Okay, so I am here today with my guest who I'm so excited to have on the podcast. Because of for so many reasons, but especially because I won't get into it. But um, she has an amazing podcast called feeling Asian that she hosts with another very funny comedian named Brian Park. Um, and she is great. And everybody is clapping for you. Just a heads up. Everybody's so excited. It's like worrying, like the audience is so loud. It's guys. Here she is Youngmi Mayer. Yay. Hi. Youngmi Mayer 1:12 Hi, john. How are you? Jenn Welch 1:14 Oh my god. I'm here. How are you? Youngmi Mayer 1:20 I'm really good. I um, I had I had a like a zoom work call today one zoom meeting and it you know, it ruined my entire life. I'm completely wiped out. Jenn Welch 1:34 Yes. Was it same minute saying? Oh my god. Yeah. I if I have one thing on my to do list these days that involves interacting with another person. That's it. Like, I it's too much. Youngmi Mayer 1:47 Yeah, it's done. It's over. Yeah. And then I knew that I would. I was gonna do this with you at six. So like, starting at four, I started like, spiraling and being like, I can't do it. I gotta lay down in bed and just get ready for 6pm. Doing Jenn Welch 2:06 having, you don't have ADD? I don't know what you're talking about. I that's incredible. And yes, um, I Okay, before we get too far in, because I normally do this before we start and you might remember this from improv class, but um, I, I because we I like my conversations to be loosey goosey. And like, kind of just see where they go. So if at any point, we get to something where you're like, I don't want to talk about that, Jen. You can just yell boundaries. And I'll yell boundaries. And then we'll like cheer and move on. Because we celebrate boundaries in life. Okay, so that's just I'm putting that out there. So you know, if we get into anything weird, not like, I don't can't even imagine what we would get to that I would be like, but who knows? Some people have things where they're like, I don't want to talk about that in a podcast. You don't I mean, yeah, Youngmi Mayer 2:55 I have no boundaries. So it's probably not going to happen. I would be shocked if it happened. Giving me that option. Jenn Welch 3:03 Of course, of course, I'm. So we actually met a few years ago, when I was teaching improv, and you came in and you were a student. And you were so funny. Oh, you're so but you were so quiet. And I remember just being like, She's so funny. And then I remember you asking me like something about like, doing sketch comedy, or doing stand up and I was like, please do it, please do it, please do it. And then all of a sudden, I started seeing your name pop up everywhere. And I just have been like, over here just like kind of, not to be a creep. Okay, not to be a creep, but I've been, but I've been, you know, you keep track of certain people. And I've been over here just kind of like watching you like, like, blooming again, blossom, you know, and I it's just been so exciting to see. And I you're just like fucking killing it. And I think you're funnier than me. And, and that's true. I just want to put that out there. But like, Youngmi Mayer 4:10 you're allowed to have your feelings but you know, that doesn't mean that they're true. Jenn Welch 4:14 That's right. feelings aren't facts. But it's been so awesome to see cuz I just remember you being in class and and again, just like being this like, a quiet, like, certain students are just like quiet thunder, like, you know, like they're not that was like, outgoing. Like, I don't want to say you're not outgoing. Because clearly, you know, you know, whatever. But um, yeah, what Tell me tell me things. Youngmi Mayer 4:41 You know what's so crazy Jen? I like so I had this like whole so I started comedy very late. I'm like, old I'm like 36 I started when I was 33. I think I was in your class. Yeah. And it's like something I wanted to do all my life and it was like the sort of like, like something happened in therapy where I had like enough. epiphany and I was like, I gotta do this now whatever, right? And then, and now I'm like very loud and extrovert I'm like comfortable doing stand up, I can talk in front of a room of people clip just been doing it for three years, which isn't that long, but I've just been doing it every day. But I I, for most of my life until I was 33. I was like the person that you were describing, I was just very quiet and never said anything. I was really shy and, you know, like, like, anxious all the time. And he never talks out loud. And so it's interesting to hear you say that, because I forget so often that that I've only recently like, sort of come out of my shell. Jenn Welch 5:40 Yes. So here's that. Here's the thing that I don't tell you guys what I'm teaching. But I didn't start I may have mentioned this, but like, I didn't start doing improv. I was also a late joiner to The Club. I didn't start doing improv until I was 30. And I, I was writing comedy before that, but I avoided performing at all costs, because I hated being in front of people. And I hated like having to talk in front of a group. And, and I was so like, scared to like, talk in front of anybody. And then. And then I did improv, and I was like, holy shit. And then eventually, like, stand up was like what I wanted to be doing right. And that took me like, a few years to like, get there. So I didn't start stand up until I was 34. And, yeah, and I, I think I'm making assumptions. But I, I'm just going to talk about my experience. But when I started improv, also, it was because of a therapy session where we put together a SMART goal. And it like a SMART goal is like, specific, measurable. actionable, I think, realistic and timely, or something like that. Anyway, so so it was like, it's something you like, take an action on. It's realistic in like a reasonable amount of time. And so my SMART goal that we put together was for me to sign up for a level zero improv class. Oh, wow. Yeah. And that like, is just kind of like, what kicked it off. And I was. At that point, I was seven years into a while, I mean, three years into the marriage, but seven years into a very bad relationship. Wow. And so he was a musician, and everything revolved around him doing music. And so for me to like, do this was like a big deal. And that doing that class gave me confidence down the line, to be able to get out of that marriage and that situation. And like, basically, I don't even recognize who I was, anymore. Youngmi Mayer 7:52 Well, you know, that's, that's also very similar. I wasn't in a horrible relationship, but I wasn't in a long term relationship. I was married. Yeah. And, and I was supporting his career to, uh huh. And it wasn't a bad like, he is fine. But I just didn't want that role in life, like the caretaker role. And I think we were so used to that being like me being like, his manager or something. And I was like, I don't want to do this anymore. And then we got divorced. And then like, around the same time, I think I got divorced right after starting your class, I think that fall or the next spring or something like that. So. So that's so interesting that we have so many similarities. Jenn Welch 8:33 Yeah. Yeah. It's It's crazy how that like, and when I say it was like, a bad relationship. It was. It wasn't like, oh, he like MMA. I mean, yeah, yeah. But it was healthy for you. I was like, a shell of a person. Like, yeah, yeah. It was like a very, and a lot of it. Like, I mean, not a lot of it, but a big part of it was Unknown 8:57 I Jenn Welch 8:59 trying to, like, be a wife that he wanted me to be when I have ADHD and I'm constantly like, fighting against all of my, like, natural impulses to like, yeah, a wife who manages groceries and keeps the house clean and close and all of that stuff. Youngmi Mayer 9:22 I like don't know, when I wake up, I wake up every single day in a panic. Not sure what's gonna happen. Yeah, it's like so bad. And you know, I have a son and it's, I feel bad because I feel like he has like, he has some like, not behavioral issues, but he has like, he struggles with certain things at school because I think because of me, you know, not not to like be too hard on myself. But like, the teacher will be like, well, when's his bath time I'm like, I don't know. I don't even I sometimes I give him a bath. And I'm just like, like, sometimes at 9am sometimes At 3pm I like I don't you don't I mean, yeah, when When does he go to bed? And I'm like, ah, I swear he's sleepy at night. I was like, it's for what I'm trying to fix that for him. But like, oh, but I wanted to say the thing about the Epiphany, the thing that I had in my therapy session, it was really crazy. Because you you said, like, you set like an actionable goal or something like that. Yeah. What happened for me was like, my entire life. I always wanted to do comedy, right? Yeah. And I had literally never told a single person in my entire life. And then one day in therapy, my therapist was like, well, like, we were like, discussing these problems that I had with like, my ex husband or whatever. And then one day, she, I just was like, I've always wanted to be a stand up comedian. She was like, that's so weird. I've like never heard you say anything like that. You've never even said anything close to ever wanting to perform. I just said it out loud. Yeah, I was like, just like, oh, like, that's so weird. I've never heard any like, literally, but in the back of my head. I've been thinking about it for my entire life. Like I just heard myself. And so I said out loud, and literally that next day, I signed up for like, open mics, and I just started doing them every day. And it was like, yeah, it's not crazy. Jenn Welch 11:21 I love it. I know, right? It's like so scary to say that first thing I didn't tell anybody about the wanting to be a stand up thing until it was in 2004. When I told a friend while we were drunk at the Toronto Film Festival, I was working for a film studio at the time. And some friends of my husband, who are I mean, they weren't close friends, but he was acquaintances with the Lonely Island guys, Andy Samberg, and your Matt taccone. And the other guy. So they had just gotten hired on SNL. And I was so jealous and I didn't even want to be in SNL. I don't want to be on SNL, but I wanted to be doing comedy. And I just remember like drunkenly telling a co worker that I wanted to do stand up, and I was like, mortified that I even said anything. Words, you know, it was like, Oh, um, but I Yeah, and I think that there is something to be said about. I mean, at least in my experience, like, just because I got a late start, and because I know I want it so bad, because here's the thing like you. I mean, I'll speak for myself, but I think that you'll relate to this, like, we've had the experience in our adult life of not doing comedy. So no matter how bad comedy gets, it's never as bad as not doing comedy. Yes. I also, yeah. Youngmi Mayer 12:55 spend the rest of my life doing open mics and get hooked on, like getting booked on a bar show. That's so exciting for me to. Like, I never even thought that I was allowed to do what I wanted to do, you know, like, to go to the back of a bar and someone's do stand up in front of three people. That's amazing. Jenn Welch 13:17 And then those three people are gonna laugh at what I'm saying. And even if they don't laugh at what I'm saying, it's like, I it's like, Okay, well, that's still not worse than the worst, you know. Exactly. Yeah. I sometimes, like I just remember, like, maybe being around where you're at, in terms of like years having done comedy, and just walking around New York City and being like, in my head, like, I'm a comedian in New York City. I'm a comedian in New York City. And it's like, a lot of comedians are like, Oh, I suck. Oh, everything sucks. And I'm like, every day is a miracle. Like, every day that I am able to do this. It's like a miracle. Youngmi Mayer 13:58 That's how I feel. I'm like, this is I'm so grateful. I have that kind of moment. The summer before quarantine, so I can two summers ago now. Where I was booked on the show at the UCB Hell's Kitchen like that big theater. Yeah. And it was summer, right? It was like June. And I was like wearing like a sun dress or something. And I was walking there. And I was like, kind of late. So I was like, get out of my way. I'm a comedian. And I was in that moment. I was like, Oh my God, look at me like I'm wearing a sun dress. I'm walking through like New York, Manhattan in the summer. And I'm going to this big theater where I'm going to perform. That was my one little moment I had. It's all downhill from there, Unknown 14:41 baby. Jenn Welch 14:43 Love it. I love it. Oh, it's so good. I'm so glad I've been like wanting to talk to you about this, like forever, but it's like is the conversation worth it if we're not recording it for an audience, you know, so I'm glad we're finally in. work. I leave finally. situate Youngmi Mayer 15:01 that this is the first time we've talked since your class, right? So yeah, yeah, this is great. And then after we'll hang out. Jenn Welch 15:08 Yes. We will go for walks in the city and I will get outdoors. What? What's your dog? What's up everybody? Just imagine right now that young is holding a dog. Youngmi Mayer 15:18 A little Chihuahua. long haired Chihuahua. Her name is corn. Oh, and she's just beautiful bitch. Jenn Welch 15:26 beautiful little bit. Oh my god. I love her. I love her. Yeah. Um, back to AD add. You told me you got right. What are we talking about? You told me you got diagnosed. I I swear to God every day when I wake up. It's like I'm reinventing. Like, everything like that. Like, it's not like, Oh, you wake up, you get in the shower. And then you do this. And then you do that. It's like, I wake up and the possibilities are endless. And I'm frozen. It's like, yep, yeah. Okay, so anyways, nothing for three hours. Yep. I just want to say I relate to that. But you got diagnosed. You said earlier this year? No, Unknown 16:08 yeah. Youngmi Mayer 16:09 Wait, when? Well, I had like, what happened? God, I don't remember mice. So I had, okay, so my psychiatric journey, which is, you know, like the medical part, like, I obviously don't really like no, like, medication has ever worked for me. But it started with being diagnosed, diagnosed with depression. And, um, years ago. And then. And then, like this, I guess this is like, on unprofessional sort of diagnosis. But like years and years ago, in my early 20s, I did a lot of cocaine. And yeah. And like, for me, a lot of times I would do it and then I would fall asleep. Or I would feel like, I would feel like I did this. Maybe this is wrong. Maybe I'm misunderstanding this. But I, I am assuming that it's because I have ADHD, and it was sort of acting like, maybe like what Adderall does to Yeah, add? I don't know if that's correct. But I would just have a weird reaction to cocaine, like, a lot of times, it made me feel really calm, you know? Yeah. And then a lot of times, I would do a lot of it, I will talk a lot stuff. But like, sometimes it would just feel kind of different to me, I think, than other people. That is such an educated statements. I don't even know if that's Jenn Welch 17:26 accurate. But I felt like that's how a lot of people kind of find out it like a lot of people who are diagnosed. And when I say a lot of people these numbers are this is not scientific. But I hear for me, I read from a lot of people that I anecdotally, um, I mean, I noticed in college that whenever I did Adderall, did my friend's Adderall. I could actually, like, you know, it'd be party time, but I would be like, let's talk about the term papers we're supposed to be working on. Like, that's like, Youngmi Mayer 17:58 Yeah, I would do my roommates, Adderall, and I could sit down and do stuff. And I could never, I could never, you know, yeah. So then. So that's like, something I noticed just like by myself, and then, um, I just all the Add thing, I feel like it was meant. So like, I had a really bad psychiatrist, the one that I got all the antidepressants from, like, five, five or so years ago. And like, he sort of like mentioned it, but then I was sort of like, I didn't really like him. So I never really followed through and I stopped seeing him. And then, like I and I never in my head thought it was like something that was like, detrimental to my life. Like I thought it was like, it never really bothered me, like all these issues. But then during the pandemic, it's gotten completely out of hand. Like what you were saying about the sleeping thing. I sleep in two hour like patches. Yeah, I literally can't do one thing a day. Like I literally it would kill me to like, do one. I don't even know what I do. I do nothing. Yeah, worse. And then I get really overwhelmed. And then I get a bunch of anxiety. And then I'm always late, like I, um, I have this thing where like, I'll have to be somewhere in 15 minutes and I'll leave like 14 like what was one minute and I'm like, how did I think I was gonna get there and I just, I can't get out of I can't leave on time. Like, Jenn Welch 19:30 I know what that is. Once I'm out of my apartment, I tend to be kind of okay, as long as I didn't go someplace where I can settle in, right like if I were to say like say it's the old days and like the pits still open and maybe I would go in there and like work for a few hours and then I would have to go somewhere after that. I would be late to the thing I had to go to after that because I settled in and gotten comfortable or whatever. right but like leaving the apartment is a God dang nightmare. I I, I will not do anything for days. And then in the half hour before I need to go somewhere, I will suddenly be like, oh, now's the time to do all the things. Right? And yeah, I will start like, Oh, it's time to clean the oven. And it's like, no, it's not time to clean the oven. It's time to frickin go. And it's like, if my brain, okay, you know how like a dog sometimes, like when you went on, like, say you're taking your dog on a walk, and your dog happens to find like a sweet piece of pizza on the sidewalk in this one spot, right? One day, and you have to, like, get the piece of pizza out his mouth. Because it's like, No, no, no. But whatever. Um, I found that piece of pizza. And now every time you take your dog on the walk, it has to go check out that spot. Because one time there was pizza there. Right? Like, yeah, that is what my brain is like, with, with really quick commute times. Like, if one time I got from A to B, in a very short amount of time, like everything lined up, it just worked out. I do my brain, my brain is like, that's how long it takes. It takes that tiny amount of time to Yeah, Youngmi Mayer 21:10 I do that with my son's school. Because it's like, once we got an Uber there, and it took 12 minutes. And now I'm like, Okay, now we can leave. We can leave at 818. And we'll and I'm always late every day. And I'm like, Why are Why are we here at nine What happened? I do that all the time. It's so bad. Jenn Welch 21:29 It's so bad. I just don't even understand how somebody experiences time in in a way that like is useful. For I don't Youngmi Mayer 21:38 know how to how am I supposed to know when to leave my apartment how like, I don't get that at all. Jenn Welch 21:44 There was a period, there was a period in time where I had an okay therapists, and this was when I was married. And it was a constant source of tension between my ex and I, this whole like leaving the house thing. And what they told me to do was to take so I had colored index cards so that I wouldn't lose them on my desk with all of my piles of paper, right? Yeah. And when I had to leave somewhere, I would take a colored index card at the like, top of it, I would write the time that I need to leave, right. And then from there, I would write everything that I knew I need to do before I leave like shower, dry hair, eat food. And I would like right out how much time each of those things take and then subtract that from the time that I need to leave. And then that's how much time I needed to start. Like that's so it's like I had to have so stressful. I know, right? Because it's like, Okay, so in my head, it's like, oh, so I need to leave at 330 that means I don't need to even think about the thing that I'm going to until 330, right. Which means I can be in my pajamas, I can be sitting here like, you know, filthy, I can be like whatever and then 330 hits and now it's time to leave. So now I think about it. When really I needed to like start getting ready at 230 because I need to shower and all of that stuff. Yeah, that never somehow makes it into the equation. That's my issue too. Youngmi Mayer 23:13 My big my big thing is eating food. I can just like, I'm like, well, and then I'm gonna have to leave here at two because it's at 215. And then it's like 150 and I'm like, I haven't eaten I'm starving. I need to eat I need to make myself. And then I look at the clock like 230 I'm like oh no, that's never calculate the food time. Jenn Welch 23:38 I never calculate the food time. I never get like I am sitting here next to my bed. I have just a case of brownie bites that I got yesterday. And this is all I've eaten between yesterday and today because they're here because they're here and I can reach them and I'm hungry and I have half a brownie bite. And I'm like, this is not this is not healthy eating. Right. This is not good and sustainable. And then I'm like why do I sleep weird? Unknown 24:07 Yeah. Youngmi Mayer 24:10 I wish I had the answers. And so then the diagnosis, the diagnosis thing is interesting, because so I was like, so five years ago or something, it was like put on the table that I've add and I was like, I don't want to I don't want to think about this. It's not really detrimental to me, right. And then during quarantine, it got to the point where I'm now like, I'm always late for everything. I can't, I can't do anything. I'm just like, in the state of like, confusion and absolute utter chaos at all times. Like every time I have a work call like this thing I've remembered I'm pretty good at writing it down on my calendar now. But like I have so many times I'll just be like, somebody will be like, hey, what Where are you? Why aren't you on the zoom call and I'll be like, like in the middle of the street or something. I'm like joining like that. Just always happens to me. So I was like, sounds like Okay, so now it's getting to this point where it's just like, it's not manageable. So I, so I signed up for, because I was like, kind of broke. And this actually didn't save me money, but like a, like an online like an app where you call a psychiatrist. And it's kind of bogus. I think it's just for people who are addicted to Adderall, who like taking recreational, that's the vibe. It's kind of like a BS, like, get some Adderall. And so I called them and I was like, you know, I've had issues with this. And like, I now at this point, my life is just like, not manageable. And then the doctor was like, asking me all these questions, because I have all these other things that are like, not don't really align with ADD. And she was like, she was like, I, I hear you have, you definitely probably have ADD, but also, I'm hearing a lot of stuff that I think you might have bipolar, too. And she was like, you need to really just go see an actual psychiatrist, because I can't just prescribe you Adderall. Because a lot of times that like, increases your chances of becoming suicidal. If you're not diagnosed Korea, like correctly, and she was like, you know, like, she was like, I think you should do that. So then I was like, Okay, and so that's where I am in my diagnosis, like journey. Yeah. Um, so. Yeah, so like, that is like my official story. Jenn Welch 26:30 But it's a good one. Yeah. So did you end up going to see, like in person, psychiatrist, no, but Youngmi Mayer 26:37 I'm like, I should, like, it's Jenn Welch 26:40 literally the, it's the fucking hardest part of managing all of this is that you need to make appointments with people and, you know, whatever, and have initiative to actually, like, take care of it. Youngmi Mayer 26:54 Yeah, but also, a big part of the reason why I'm not doing it is because I do not want to get on medication. Like I don't actually want to be on Adderall. Which is, like, I have taken it like in the past recreationally. And I felt like great, like, I can get things done, but like, also, it felt bad too. And I you know, I don't know. Yeah, mentally, it's not something that I kind of want for myself. So that's like a big part of why I'm like, Well, what am I gonna do? They're gonna just prescribe me medication that I'm not going to want to take anyway. So Jenn Welch 27:24 yeah, no, I know, it's so hard. And there is like a propensity, who I said, propensity, there is a propensity for, like, doctors to just kind of like throw some medication at you and not really address any of the like, you know, behavioral things or things like that to kind of I feel like ADHD, Twitter has, like, given me so many tools. Just like, I follow a bunch of like, ADHD related accounts on Twitter that just, like, throw great information out during the day, and I'm like, oh, duh. Okay, that makes sense. And that's like, where I get my it's almost like it's almost like coaching in a way. You know, to me, it's almost like yeah, having like that. Youngmi Mayer 28:13 I get a lot of information from Tick Tock serious, like all these doctors and stuff on Tick tock, and I'm like, Okay. Jenn Welch 28:23 Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Um, I like certain things. I like, do you know about rejection sensitivity dysphoria? Youngmi Mayer 28:33 No, tell me Oh, that's like a big thing with people with ADHD. We're incredibly sensitive to like any sort of perceived rejection. Like where it's like, physically painful at times. And, and it can even just be something like a facial expression or something like that. We're like, Oh, God, or you know, like, and that is something that like a lot of people with ADHD deal with and don't realize that it's like, actually a thing and not just that. Yeah. And I have that really bad. Jenn Welch 29:09 Yeah. Unknown 29:12 Dating is a nightmare. Oh, my God, I Youngmi Mayer 29:15 go absolutely ballistic. Not not in that. Like, I just like, like ghosts so hard. If there's any sense of that. I'm just like, whoa, I'm never gonna talk to that person again. No. Yeah, nightmare. Jenn Welch 29:27 Yeah, that's it. Um, yeah. And but it's like, it makes sense when you kind of like get when you look at this sort of, like, why have it like, well, I don't know if this is okay. Again, I might just be making up like connections here but like basically like kids with undiagnosed ADHD. Like, get, like if a normal kid gets like, corrected or like reprimanded, like maybe like 10 times a day like a kid with like, undiagnosed ADHD gets like corrected or reprimanded. Like something like 250 times a day. So we're just like exposed to so much more like of that energy. So we're really sensitive to it. And also we don't understand why we're getting like corrected or like, whatever, because it's like, whatever we're doing makes sense to us. So that is that's like part of that's, that's part of it. Youngmi Mayer 30:23 When were you diagnosed with ADHD as a kid? No, Jenn Welch 30:27 I took Well, I took a self test in a Parade Magazine, like a paper when I was 16. And I was like, Mom, I marked like, I hit every point, except for hyperactivity, which I say that but I also like tap danced four nights a week and was on the cheerleading squad and like, you know what I mean, like, so maybe I just wasn't hyperactive because I was in so many, like, physical, you know, extracurriculars. But, um, but I basically like, you know, everything. And my mom was like, oh, everybody feels that way. Which because my mom probably has undiagnosed ADHD, that's how she sees things. Um, so it never got addressed. I went to college was a fucking nightmare. I ended up like, getting in. Basically, I was 28, I had stopped working. So I worked for a film studio for a while out in LA, I was late to work every single day, I was like, I was just like, hanging on by a thread the entire time I was there. And then I got a job freelancing for one of our vendors, like, working from home. And I suddenly realized I still wasn't getting anything done. Even though all the people at work, who I could blame on me not getting anything done, or some, like they were no longer in the equation, and I'm still not getting anything done. And that's when I was like, you know, kind of similar to like you with the pandemic, where suddenly you don't have like, any sort of like routine or anything. And you're like, Oh, this is me, and it's not good. Um, yeah, that's when I went to a psychiatrist out in LA. And so I was 28 when she diagnosed me, and she was like, You are textbook? And I was like, Oh, great. Um, yeah. And so it's been a real game changer. Getting that diagnosis. But again, it was like, mostly at that point, it was like, Okay, well, here are some medication, and I'll see you once a month, and like, you know, whatever. But I still had to deal with all of the things. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Youngmi Mayer 32:42 And then, and then you started doing therapy shortly after that, or? Jenn Welch 32:46 Well, I moved to New York, in 2010, with my ex. And when I got out here, I went and met with a psychiatrist about getting my medication handled. And he met me. And he was like, I think you need to come in here weekly. And I was like, Okay, and so I started going in weekly, and he was amazing. And that's, I he was my therapist for like, seven years. Wow. until he retired, and then I went into trauma therapy, and then I have been in weekly therapy now for like, 11 years. Hmm. Yeah. Youngmi Mayer 33:27 It's the best. Yeah, I agree. Unknown 33:30 Yeah. Youngmi Mayer 33:31 Wow, what a journey. And here we are. I really, you know, honestly, I feel like there's like, I mean, definitely, I don't think there's anything wrong with me or you. And I want to move away from that kind of language. But it's a different way that our brains be working. Jenn Welch 33:53 It's, it's a very different way. It's a very different way. And I commend you for, for being I want to, so I'm going to be 41 soon, and I really want, I wanted to have kids, I didn't think I would ride out my late 30s and early 40s in a pandemic, but here we are. Both, but like, I have a friend who like just have like some embryos implanted and I'm like, maybe I could do that, you know, and she's like, She's like, I have an extra vial of my daughter's firm. So we could have like, siblings, and I'm like, Oh, that's hilarious. That would be so funny. But um, Unknown 34:31 didn't to day, Jenn Welch 34:32 I think about how I think about my daily routine. And I'm like, how would I do this? And so I just want to say I commend you for like, getting it done. Like, no matter how you get it done, like, it's incredible. It's crazy. I'm Youngmi Mayer 34:48 like, I don't watch who let me be a parent. I mean, obviously, I love my son. I feel like I'm a good mom and that way like I have, you know, like Want to love for him? And you know what I'm just like, I can't the brush, like I can't brush his teeth all the time, like, but then you hear a lot of moms and moms and dads or parents who just don't even have ADHD. And they're like, I don't want to brush his teeth every day. You know what I mean? Like, yeah, he's easy on yourself, I think. Jenn Welch 35:22 Yeah, well, that's the thing. It's like, nobody's perfect. And everybody has their own shit that they're struggling with. And it's like, Yeah, I don't know. I think that like, one thing that I kind of. I think that I don't know where I'm going with this. I have like 14 thoughts. On the one hand growing up in a house where I think one of my parents had undiagnosed ADHD, I think that I've hung like, I definitely have. I think I'm very open to like, exploring new options when it comes to like ways of living, if that makes any sense. where it's like, maybe, maybe I like my current place. I don't like curtains because for like, various reasons. So I got chalk markers. And I drew awesome designs on my windows, like, you know, like, and that's like, the sort of thing that happens when you grow up in a house where not everything's perfect all the time is suddenly become a person who at 40 years old thinks it's cool to draw on your window. Like you live in a convenience store. Youngmi Mayer 36:39 I mean, I do stuff like that all the time. Do you have these? Like, obviously this like, add thing? Do you have these like little projects where you buy everything for it, and then it just like sits and I have, I decided I was gonna become a stick and poke tattoo artist. So I bought so many tattooed needles, all the ink, and then I started doing them on my legs for practice. So like, all the areas above, my knees have covered and little stick and poke tattoos. And then I forgot, it's just like collecting dust, but I was really into it for a month. And then I have a rug making kit that I was gonna make rugs and sell rugs that's like in the corner. So it sounds like one of those things. Jenn Welch 37:15 Oh, absolutely. Well, and that's the thing too. Like, once somebody pointed out on ADHD Twitter, that I'm basically ADHD is like we start the day with a dopamine deficit. And then we spend the rest of our day hunting for dopamine. And we don't really want to do anything unless it gives us dopamine. And yeah, so it's like, we find these new hobbies. And we're like, oh, this is the thing that gives me dopamine. And you we do a gazillion stick and poke tattoos on our leg. And then suddenly, it reaches the point where like, it becomes a little ho hum routine, and it doesn't give us dopamine anymore. And then it's like, we will never do it again. Youngmi Mayer 38:00 So one of the things I've like the psychiatrists was like, really concerned about was because I have like a very promiscuous dating life. Like, I don't know if that's the right word. promiscuous sounds like so like 19 1920 is like, I'm showing my ankles. Like, like, I have a very, like, maybe like, I like engage in like, high risk behavior, like sexually, right? And I always like see it like, I think, I don't know enough about bipolar to like, know what that even means. But like, I always see like, Oh, of course, I want to, like go on this date with this guy and have sex with him. Like, I, that gives me so much like dopamine. It's so exciting. But yeah, Jenn Welch 38:43 I don't know. I feel like dating is one of the hardest things with this. Because on the one hand, it's like, yes, immediate gratification. like yeah, I mean, haunt, like, whatever, which means I'm not always making the best choices for myself, like emotionally because I'm just like, ah, but then on the other hand, like, that's like the one hand of it. And then on the other hand of it, I'm so aware of all of the ways that I'm like, kind of a letdown as a lady that I ended up being way too, like lenient in terms of my standards with a dude where like, I'm like, Oh, you live in an ashtray? It's okay, my apartments kinda messy, you know, and it's like, oh Youngmi Mayer 39:26 my god, I'm like that too much. I should not be on a date with this person. No. Jenn Welch 39:36 Yeah, so it's like the whole dating with ADHD thing is hard. I feel like that's a whole nother episode that we need to get into my producers probably like Jenn We're at 40 because that's where we are but I think that you need to come back on and we need to talk about that because a lot um, I Unknown 39:57 Youngmi. Jenn Welch 39:59 If people Want to find you? Where online not in a stalker sense? Where can they where can they find you? Transcribed by https://otter.ai    

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This episode of TickyOff is a true first for humankind. Unlike the moon landings and ventriloquism however, this is real. It's the first transatlantic episode. That's right. The TickyOff Two thumb their noses at many vast bodies of water, none more so than the Atlantic. They fling their mouthsounds from these foul green shores of Albion across that pathetic puddle of an ‘ocean' and in return, from Gotham City aka NYC, they hear the mouthsounds of Youngmi Mayer, comedian and Mission Chinese Food co-owner. Youngmi brings her usual searing honesty to her life in lockdown, dating online, swearing in front of her son, what it means to be ‘chaotically single', shutting down the Mission restaurants in San Francisco and New York, and why Beach House are the true sound of dating hookups in 2020. Before Youngmi arrives Sam looks nice, calls James a turtle and cooked a dish by a disgraced chef. James meanwhile reads a grim recipe by Barbara Cartland and was insulted in the street. All this plus TickyOff takes another one of it's patented controversial issue stances, this week they are very anti a certain war criminal. And they all agree that lockdown would be very easy indeed if you got to do it with Tom Hardy. This episode was a damn joy to record and it will be a damn joy for your ears so wake up and tip it in ‘em. This episode is sponsored by the true romance novelists of wine dropwine.co.uk Youngmi can be found on Twitter and Instagram @ymmayer, her podcast @feelingasianpodcast and Instadate Live @instadatelive

Youngmi grows up in Korea and Saipan (1:00)Feeling like an outsider as a white person in Korea (5:00)How feeling like an outsider has influenced Youngmi's comedy (9:00)Complexities of biracial upbringing (10:45)Youngmi retraces her history with starting Mission Chinese restaurant (14:30)Working through co-dependency issues (17:58)How Youngmi was able to assert her own creative desires and goals, working through baggage of Asian American upbringing and depression (19:15)Doing the scary thing of pursuing creative endeavors and honestly facing the possibility of failure (24:40)The challenge of living transparently emotionally and being vulnerable (25:30)Processing and healing from repressive Asian upbringing (26:50)“Was it scary to get into stand-up comedy?” (28:20)Coming up with stand-up jokes and practicing them (31:00)Power dynamics: Commanding the room as a stand-up comedian while also being vulnerable (36:30)Stand-up comedy as means of self-healing and talking about personal history on stage as comedy (38:25)“Do you think you could handle fame/celebrity?” (40:05)Youngmi answers a spiritual question: “Why is there suffering in the world?” (42:55)You can check out Youngmi's podcast "Feeling Asian with Youngmi Mayer and Brian Park" here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feeling-asian/id1481891689Connect with Youngmi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ymmayer