Podcasts about being ordinary

Is the secret to fulfillment hidden in the ordinary?What if the chase for the extraordinary is actually holding us back? In this episode, Dr. Ron Siegel and Dr. B Tierney explore the psychology of idealization, identity, masculinity, and self-acceptance, diving deep into how mindfulness and compassion reshape our understanding of healing, relationships, and meaning.

Life can feel so overwhelming sometimes, especially with the nonstop pace of the modern world. But what if you learned to embrace the messiness that comes with life and concentrated more on what really matters to you rather than attempting to control everything? Building on the themes from his previous bestseller, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, Michael is joined by returning guest Oliver Burkeman to break down his new book, Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts.  Oliver and Michael dig into key ideas, such as the limits of control, the traps of overachievement and information overload, and how to face life challenges with a proactive, value-driven mindset. You'll love Oliver's powerful metaphors, like navigating a kayak instead of steering a superyacht, which really brings home the beauty of going with life's flow while staying grounded and intentional. This is an incredible resource that offers daily insights designed to inspire action, so join us for this empowering conversation and start your journey of embracing imperfection and living a more meaningful life.  Listen and Learn:  Oliver's philosophy behind 'Meditations for Mortals' The Evolution from 4,000 Weeks to Meditations for Mortals Embracing the concept of imperfectionism by being finite, taking action, letting go and showing up  Embracing life's chaos with the kayak vs. superyacht metaphor The insecure overachiever and learning to break free from productivity guilt Dealing with the overflow of information and discerning what truly deserves your attention The paradox of life's endless problems and the freedom found in embracing them How to apply imperfectionism in your daily life  Balancing empathy with boundaries and why other people's problems aren't yours to solve Resources:  Oliver's books:  Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals Oliver's Website: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/ Connect with Oliver on X: @oliverburkeman About Oliver Burkeman Oliver Burkeman is the author of the Sunday Times bestselling Four Thousand Weeks and The Antidote, and for many years wrote a popular weekly column on psychology for the Guardian, 'This Column Will Change Your Life'. His work has also appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Psychologies, and New Philosopher. Related Episodes 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 321. Imposter No More with Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you in the midst of a midlife transition, grappling with big questions about purpose, change, and self-discovery? For this week's episode, cohost Debbie Sorensen celebrates her 50th birthday with a discussion on the transformative period of midlife with her friend, Dr. Meg McKelvie.  A period rich with psychological shifts, existential questions, and challenges in finding deeper meaning, they get into acceptance and commitment therapy, emotional, psychical and cognitive changes, ways to overcome people-pleasing habits, and much much more.  With practical exercises and writing practices, this episode is a gift to anyone navigating midlife transitions and relationships, offering insight, reflection, and a path toward deeper understanding and fulfilling connections. We hope you enjoy this heartfelt and poignant conversation!  Listen and Learn: Opportunities that midlife brings for deeper understanding and transformation Confronting body changes and the aging process  How your relationships can become deeper in midlife; letting go of surface-level bonds and embracing genuine honesty and shared experiences The myth of the midlife crisis and how, contrary to what stereotypes lead us to believe, it frequently involves a sharp internal existential shift rather than a dramatic upheaval Living with unanswered questions and learning to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty Ways you can cultivate a personal space that nurtures self-reflection and self-sufficiency The lessons that regret can teach us The value of sitting with challenging emotions such as anger and grief, and how these feelings can provide critical insights into your life  The difference between body neutrality and body positivity and how stepping back from the internal debate about your body can lead to a more peaceful relationship with yourself Resources: Meg's website: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/ LInk to the “Soul-Searching Questions” handout on Meg's website and Debbie's website.  More writing resources from Meg and Debbie:  Meg's writing workshops: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/workshopsgroups Debbie's Instagram for journaling prompts: https://www.instagram.com/drdebbiesorensen/ Debbie's Guided Journaling substack: https://guidedjournaling.substack.com/  345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock A Substack essay Debbie wrote on her 50th birthday A commentary on the Surgeon General's recent advisory on parental stress, by co-hosts Debbie and Emily, and former co-host Yael Schonburn!  Books mentioned in the episode:  Finding Meaning In the Second Half of Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781592402076  The Heroine's Journey: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611808308 Related episodes:  199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie 345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock 315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn  291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy  257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser  116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's November 2010 on the Goldman Sachs trading floor in New York City. Just two years removed from the depths of the Global Financial Crisis, but you would never know it. The stock market has nearly doubled in the last 18 months, the Federal Reserve has freshly announced its second round of Quantitative Easing, and it feels like one big party on Wall Street. [from the opening paragraph of the article, Trading Derivatives and the Shame-Based Fear of Being Ordinary]. In this episode, Hari interviews Michael on the reflection Michael wrote sharing his experiences on the trading floor. They discuss the insatiable need for admiration, shame as a fuel, our loss of freedom, how to be humble, the movement toward authenticity, and how to overcome the shame-based fear of being ordinary.Links:www.upbuild.comEnneagram Workshop (October 5-6) Upbuild Coaching Training (six-month program, starts in October) Coaching Skills for Work and Life Workshop (September 25) Instagram: @upbuildnycFacebook: UpbuildLinkedIn: Upbuild

Send us a Text Message.In this episode co-hosts Dr. Janet Price and Gregg Kaloust have a special Father's Day conversation with Zanny Merullo Steffgen and Roland Merullo, a daughter-father team of writers who have launched a substack named Hi, Zan. Hi, Pa.Roland is the author of The Delight of Being Ordinary, which was the book we discussed in our most recent Oldish: Book Club. He listened to the episode, and now here we are.Hi, Zan. Hi, Pa is at  https://www.merullo.substack.com. It's always a stimulating read.Roland's books can be found at https://amzn.to/3UBe8lLZanny's writing portfolio is at zannymerullosteffgen.comSupport the Show.Connect with Janet at https://drjanetprice.comYou can email Gregg at gregg@kannoncom.com Gregg wears Tyrol pickleball shoes, the only company that makes shoes just for pickleball. He has been wearing the same pair of Velocity V model shoes for almost a year, and he plays a lot! Click here to purchase Tyrol Pickleball shoes (note, if you purchase Tyrol pickleball shoes after clicking this link Oldish may receive a commission. Thanks for helping to support our podcast!)Comments, suggestion, requests: oldish@kannoncom.comThanks to Mye Kaloustian for the music.

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of the Oldish Book Club co-hosts Dr. Janet Price and Gregg Kaloust and our dear friend Leslie Ross-Degnan have a lively conversation about The Delight of Being Ordinary,  Road Trip with the Pope and the Dalai Lama. It's a richly imagined tale of an unlikely adventure, and tells us lots about what it means to be alive, and especially what it means to be Oldish.You can purchase this or other books by Roland Merullo, and other books we've discussed in the Oldish Book Club, on Amazon by clicking here. (note: if you purchase a book by following this link Oldish may get a small commission, thereby helping to support our podcast)Support the Show.Connect with Janet at https://drjanetprice.comYou can email Gregg at gregg@kannoncom.com Gregg wears Tyrol pickleball shoes, the only company that makes shoes just for pickleball. He has been wearing the same pair of Velocity V model shoes for almost a year, and he plays a lot! Click here to purchase Tyrol Pickleball shoes (note, if you purchase Tyrol pickleball shoes after clicking this link Oldish may receive a commission. Thanks for helping to support our podcast!)Comments, suggestion, requests: oldish@kannoncom.comThanks to Mye Kaloustian for the music.

A new MP3 sermon from Biblical Restoration Ministries is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: The Power of Being Ordinary Subtitle: Disciples Speaker: Carter Conlon Broadcaster: Biblical Restoration Ministries Event: Prayer Meeting Date: 1/3/2024 Length: 34 min.

Is wellness something you would like to bring into your life this year? Then our first POTC episode of 2024, featuring Sharon Salzberg, a pioneer of meditation and world-renowned teacher, is a gold mine! Going deep into Sharon's many years of experience practicing and teaching mindfulness, we unpack principles from her work and latest book, Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation. One of the most empowering lessons from Sharon is that mindfulness is not just a practice but a trainable quality. She affirms many paths to building the quality of mindfulness, which goes way beyond the traditional formal practices. It's so refreshing how she describes the practice and benefits of mindfulness in a realistic way and doesn't promise a magical cure for eternal happiness. Having Sharon's voice on the podcast is an honor; her message and outlook on life will undoubtedly bring you heaps of value.  Listen and Learn:  What does it mean to live your life in a constricted way? How to get out of a constrictive place of living and live more expansively  Can we experience more awe in our day-to-day lives? How can mindfulness be helpful if you feel trapped or are struggling? The realistic challenges of achieving a state of mindfulness Sharon's ‘breath, not breath' technique  Tips for busy people who want to practice mindfulness more or are having trouble making it a regular habit How to sprinkle less formal mindfulness practices into your life The ways mindfulness can support the Buddhist concept of right action Transforming anger into courage Resources:  Visit Sharon's website Sharon's books Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation, Finding Your Way: Meditations, Thoughts, and Wisdom for Living an Authentic Life and Real Life, The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom. Sharon's Just Sit article for O Magazine  For more insight on mindfulness, listen in to Sharon's podcast, The Metta Hour Follow Sharon on LinkedIn, YouTube, X and Instagram  Check out Sharon's posts on Check out Sharon's posts on Medium About Sharon Salzberg Sharon Salzberg is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is among the first to bring mindfulness and lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture nearly 50 years ago, inspiring generations of meditation teachers and wellness influencers. Sharon is co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA, and the author of thirteen books, including the New York Times bestseller Real Happiness, now in its second edition, and her seminal work, Lovingkindness. In 2023, Sharon is releasing two new books. The first, Real Life, is now available from Flatiron Books in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook formats. The second, Finding Your Way, is a small gift book now available from Workman Publishing in hardcover and ebook formats. Sharon's podcast, The Metta Hour, has amassed six million downloads and features interviews with thought leaders from the mindfulness movement and beyond. www.sharonsalzberg.com Related Episodes:  80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren  75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer  122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch 155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1) 140. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

CJ Casciotta, author of The Forgotten Art of Being Ordinary, joins us to discuss parenting beyond social media and finding real community. We talk about how to guide teens to separate online fiction from truth, why ordinary existence is profoundly meaningful, and how to foster raw, personal connection.If you've enjoyed Talking to Teens, we'd love if you could leave us a five-star rating, and if you have time, a review! Full Show NotesIn today's social media saturated world, it can feel impossible to raise teens without the influence of the metaverse. Kids are constantly comparing themselves to unrealistic standards set by influencers and celebrities online. The temptation for teens to create a sort of fictional version of themselves for social media is huge.So how do we parent teens beyond the vortex of social platforms? How can we model authenticity and real human connection for kids distracted by the digital realm?To help make sense of it all, we spoke with CJ Casciotta, author of The Forgotten Art of Being Ordinary: A Human Manifesto in the Age of the Metaverse. As a media professional himself, CJ has an inside look at the social technology teens are using. But as a parent, he's concerned about the way online personas are replacing real identities.In our conversation with CJ, we discussed moving beyond the virtual world to find meaning in ordinary human existence. We also talked about the importance of modeling authentic offline experiences for teens.Escaping the Comparison TrapSocial platforms tempt us to create the best possible versions of ourselves to display to others. But as CJ explains, teens feel pressure to make their lives seem extraordinary in the process. They often feel inadequate when comparing their realities to the fake realities shown by influencers online.CJ stressed that parents need to clarify the line between truth and fiction for kids. We should have open conversations about the fact that what teens see online is often more acting than real life. As parents, we can model embracing ordinary existence for teens, showing them that a normal life is beautiful too.CJ suggests that we guide teens in using technology to create art and community that celebrates ordinary humanity. We can prompt them to appreciate the simple miracles of human connection, instead of chasing inflated social media success.Building True CommunityReal community requires showing up authentically, embracing imperfection. As CJ explains, this means resisting the urge to document and publicize every gathering. True connection happens when we put down our devices and engage sincerely with those around us.CJ is modeling this for his own kids by recently moving to a new city to be closer to genuine friends. He realized his family felt isolated and numb despite living in a crowded urban area. Now they are remembering what real community feels like.As parents, we can push teens to value in-person experiences over digital ones. We can also limit their technology use at times so real connection isn't constantly competing with the virtual world. Building spaces for teens to bond beyond devices needs to become an intentional priority.In the Episode...Diving beyond the world of screens is crucial for families today. On top of the topics above, CJ and I also discussed: Why teaching kids to separate fact from fiction matters How to parent the first generation of digital natives Why poets and artists will be key leaders in the coming age How parents can model authenticity for teens If you want to learn more, visit CJ's Substack (bycj.substack.com) or check out his book The Forgotten Art of Being Ordinary. As always, don't forget to subscribe!Follow us on Social Media! We're @talkingtoteens on Instagram and TikTok

Ronan and Gloria chat with Sarah about different ways to pray in our series Being Ordinary. Among these types of prayer, they mention Lectio Divina, the Ignatian Examen, and more! Follow St. Matthew Youth Ministry on Social Media!Instagram: stmatt_ymFacebook: St. Matthew Youth Ministry(Not) The Only One Podcast: https://stmatthewcatholic.org/podcast-nottheonlyone

Many of us spend a lot of time feeling self-conscious and comparing ourselves to others. Why do we judge ourselves so relentlessly? Why do we strive so hard to be special or successful or to avoid feeling rejected? In this episode, Dr. Ron Siegel shares why we get caught in the habit of endless self-evaluation and how to break it. You will learn to step back from obsessing so much about how you measure up and instead learn to accept the Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary. Build stronger connections with others and get more joy out of life when you embrace who you are as you are.Related ResourcesGet enhanced show notes for this episodeSubscribe to my free Wise Effort newsletter.Become a MORE Life in Process member to support the show.Want a sample of what is included in your membership? Get Diana's free talk and guided meditation "Flow of compassion" (and a couple more listener-only gifts).Find out what kind of Striver you are and get your free Skillful Striving ToolkitWant to learn more about ACT? Take Diana's on-demand course, "Foundations of ACT"Diana's EventsJoin Diana LIVE (in person or streaming) every Friday for "A Meditation In Process." Register through Yoga SoupGet on the early bird list for Diana's Costa Rica retreat in 2024!Sign up for Diana's From Striving to Thriving Summit! See Diana at an upcoming eventFor Members: On-demand access to Diana's ongoing Friday "A Meditation in Process" is included with your sustained membership!Connecting With DianaThank you for listening to Your Life in Process! Subscribe to the podcast for free on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts. Follow Diana on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn,

We are excited to have SchoolAI as a sponsor for the Summer of AI Series on Transformative Principal. Please visit schoolai.com to save your teachers 10 hours per week. What does it mean to maintain humanity?  - To practice the forgotten art of being the ordinary.  - We are ok as the messy, complex meat machines we were born with. Don't have to be personal brands. Don't have to elevate or project or photoshop.  - Reverence for the base model.- Technology does train us, regardless of what we think about that.- Have an understanding of the basis of what we have as a human.- We've lost the drive to imagine apart from entertainment and convenience.- We don't have a vision of what a profile of a graduate looks like.- We need imagination for education, housing, energy.. the areas that would benefit ordinary people the most  - 9 beatitudes of media technology- “Let's just wait until the data is conclusive”- Kayfabe vs. Collective journey- Jerry Springer - Brilliant politician in Cincinnati.- Personal brand prohibited him from being a good politician- Hero's journey is tiring.- Collective journey doesn't have heroes. It has conductors: Ted Lasso, Encanto, and Barbie.  - Teams taking down misunderstandings, and systems.- Not individual villains. People perpetuating those systems are redeemed not banished.  - It's a lot easier to ban an avatar.- Let's teach kids new modalities. Don't perpetuate the hero's journey. Create collective journeys.About CJ CasciottaCJ Casciotta brings more than a decade of experience as a results-driven creative strategist and award-winning media producer.Seen by many as a trusted voice on 21st-century cultural shifts, he's consulted and developed campaigns for presidential candidates, IPOs, startups, and Fortune 500s alike, partnering with notable brands such as MGM Studios, Delta Airlines, Sesame Street, Lululemon, and The United Nations Foundation. An accomplished media producer, he's collaborated on projects with leading culture-makers like Ira Glass of This American Life, Seth Godin, and FoodNetwork's Maneet Chauhan.A sought-after communicator and TEDx alumnus, he's traveled globally speaking to creative professionals at venues like Creative Mornings, Charity: Water, and STORY. In addition, CJ's work has been featured by Forbes, Salon, CBS, MTV, and TechCrunch. He's the author of the book Get Weird: Discover the Surprising Secret to Making a Difference (Hachette, 2018). His next book, The Forgotten Art of Being Ordinary, releases in 2023 with BenBella Books. SponsorsSave your teachers hours per week with SchoolAI. It's not just a tool, it's a partner in the classroom. With school AI teachers can plan courses in minutes. Get realtime learning data and provide one-on-one tutor tutoring. Plus it's free for teachers. Go to SchoolAI.com/tpWe're so grateful to our sponsor AI Coach by Edthena. AI Coach enables your teachers to go through coaching cycles based on their own needs. The virtual coach guides teachers to reflect on their teaching, set a goal, and create an action plan… all based on gathering classroom evidence. It gives support between PD days  and other coaching cycles.Get a free trial for your teachers here.

Whether you get stood up by a date or turned down for a job, rejection hurts. And while you might be tempted to pretend you don't care or to hide your rejection from others, minimizing your pain prevents you from healing. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to cope with rejection so you can work through the pain — and even heal some old emotional wounds in the process. Dr. Ronald Siegel is a professor at Harvard University and the author of many books including The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary. Some of the things he talks about today are why rejection hurts so much, the common responses to rejection that don't actually help, and the steps we can take to heal the pain. Check out Dr. Siegel's website - DrRonSiegel.com Follow Amy Morin on Instagram - @AmyMorinAuthor Send us an email at Podcast@AmyMorinLCSW.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Driven by both evolutionary instincts and societal hierarchies, we all have a natural inclination to position ourselves as “special” or somehow superior to others. While receiving praise or other confirmation of our positive attributes can quickly boost our happiness and self-esteem, it can also become addictive – and when we then receive criticism or feel that we didn't succeed at something, it can be tempting to simply seek another self-esteem boost in order to feel better. However, this cycle is not sustainable and can lead to the perpetual feeling that we're not enough. To break free from the endless cycle of self-evaluation and social comparison, Dr. Ron Siegel – our guest in Episode 153 of The MINDSet Game® podcast – suggests embracing the beauty of being ordinary. Dr. Siegel is an assistant professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School, where he has taught for over 35 years, and a long-time student of mindfulness meditation who serves on the board of directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. He is also the author of several books, including “The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: Finding Happiness Right Where You Are.” In this week's episode, Dr. Siegel discusses: Steps to take when trying to shift away from constant self-evaluation as a path to happiness and find joy in being ordinary – and why it's important to do so The value of creating genuine connections with others rather than focusing on the impression you are making, as well as strategies that can help you be more present with your friends and loved ones Techniques for cultivating self-compassion (which differs from self-esteem), including those that engage your head, heart, and habits To learn more about Dr. Ron Siegel, visit https://drronsiegel.com, or look for his new book, “The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary.”  To subscribe to The MINDset Game, visit www.TheMINDsetGame.com.   

In this series of "Being Ordinary," Sarah and Emily talk about the transition from the Lenten season into Ordinary Time!Follow St. Matthew Youth Ministry on Social Media!Instagram: stmatt_ymFacebook: St. Matthew Youth Ministry(Not) The Only One Podcast: https://stmatthewcatholic.org/podcast-nottheonlyone 

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Having a narcissistic parent while growing up can be incredibly difficult and painful. The emotional instability of the relationship can be detrimental to one's sense of self-worth, making it hard to trust others and form healthy relationships. Furthermore, the lack of consistent support and nurturing can lead to feelings of insecurity and the fear of being abandoned. Be inspired by our guest Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg, a clinical psychologist and author of ‘Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve'. Through her research on narcissistic parenting, Stephanie has dedicated her work to helping adults lead healthier and happier lives. If you experienced a childhood with a narcissistic parent, let Dr. Kriesberg guide you in managing the difficulties of this complex relationship so you can live life on your own terms.  Listen and Learn:  Stephanie's experience working with women who are impacted by narcissistic parenting The significance of the relationship between daughters and mothers The core features of narcissism How narcissism impacts the parent-child dynamic  What does gaslighting look like How does growing up in a home with a narcissistic mother impact other relationships within the family Examples of the patterns female adults who grew up with a narcissistic mother might exhibit  The work involved in grieving the parent you had versus the parent you wanted Setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother Resources:  Visit Stephanie's website: https://www.drstephaniekriesberg.com/ Buy Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648480096  About Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg brings over twenty-five years of experience to her practice. She has extensive training in the treatment of anxiety disorders and in the use of clinical hypnosis. Recently she was honored to be elected as President-Elect of the New England Society for Clinical Hypnosis. She is the author of the book Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve. Related Episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp 250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson  274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have all experienced a feeling of regret at some point in our lives. It can be a deep sadness and disappointment that results from realizing how we could have done things differently or a feeling of guilt or shame that we experience when we make a mistake. Regret is a powerful emotion, one that can send us spiraling. However, it is possible to move beyond it and not become stuck in the feeling of despair. Discussing his remarkable guide, If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret, we are honored to be joined by renowned psychologist and the Founder of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Robert Leahy. As we explore the impact of regret, we gain insight and actionable exercises from Robert on how it can be utilized as a valuable tool to create opportunities and inform our decisions in more productive ways. Listen in to understand and manage regret, so that it doesn't control your life! Listen and Learn:  What is regret? Using the multiple selves concept to avoid regretful decisions  How different styles of decision-making lead to more or less regret What distinguishes productive regret from unproductive regret  How to identify when you are caught in an unproductive cycle versus using regret productively Existential perfectionism and regret Why is regret a more dominant experience in modern times The negation exercise The importance of risk assessment in managing regret Resources: Visit the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy website: https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/dr-robert-leahy/ Watch Barry Schwartz's, The Paradox of Choice TEDx Talk mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO6XEQIsCoM Grab your copy of If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781462547821 About Robert L. Leahy Robert L. Leahy is the Founder and Director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in NYC, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and Past-President of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, The Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and The International Association of Cognitive Therapy. He is the recipient of the Aaron T. Beck Award for outstanding contributions in CBT, is the author of 29 books and is a frequent keynote speaker and presenter of workshops worldwide. His new book is If Only...Finding Freedom from Regret.  Related Episodes: Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz Episode 130. Working Less with Alex Pang Episode 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Episode 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Episode 232. Grounded to Soar with Brad Stulberg Episode 242. Four Thousand Weeks with Oliver Burkeman Episode 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“It's one of the real tragic mythologies of our culture – this crazy fantasy that real winners are just non-stop on top… it's completely impossible.” – Dr Ronald Siegel  ***********************************************  SUPPORT DR. AMY ROBBINS:  If you're enjoying the podcast and finding value in guest interviews, ghost stories, and the content I share, please consider supporting the show by becoming a Patreon member for as little as $5 a month at Patreon.com/DrAmyRobbins  As a member you'll get more say in the content we cover and exclusive access to behind-the-scenes goodness!   Stay Connected with Dr. Amy Robbins:  Facebook Instagram YouTube Website   ***********************************************  EPISODE SUMMARY:  Have you ever felt jealousy, stress or even anger on social media, but you keep right on scrolling? What about feelings of sadness and loneliness? How do you usually cope with these feelings? Well maybe the secret is to remind yourself that you're ordinary…  Today we talk with Dr. Ronald Siegel, Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, serving on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. He serves on the faculties of the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion at the Cambridge Health Alliance and the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He has written and edited several books; his most recent “The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary” is out now.  Listen in to hear what it means to be ordinary, how we balance conspicuous consumption vs. conspicuous frugality, the greatest informer of how to live, and the key to joy.  Topics We Discuss:  [3:40] Social media presents an unrealistic picture vs. ordinary day-to-day  life. Constant self-monitoring may be genetic. Obsession with selfies and how much we lose the present by wanting to present it perfectly [05:52] We have an instinct for social connection. What social media likes do to the brain and our emotions. How we compare ourselves to others and the constant habit to evaluate our life.  [06:40] Being out with friends is a completely different experience. Safe social connection is where we stop trying to impress, and preoccupations with self fall away so we can open up and be vulnerable.  [7:58] The idea of a “vulnerability hangover” after opening up maybe too much. Metacognitive awareness is the antidote:  the ability to see a thought as just a thought. [9:30] The key to well being is the quality of our relationships. [11:35] Happiness vs. self acceptance or well-being. Allowing feelings to come and go, and allow the emotions to move through us. . The fast changing emotions dn the how much they fluctuate in the day. Once we see how much our emotions can be altered throughout the day, it is all programmable.  [13:10] Just like physical health is about getting sick and getting well again, emotional health is about feeling the range of emotions, including less tolerable emotions, and being able to recover and rebalance.  [14:00] A mindfulness exercise. Allowing thoughts and emotions to flow in and out diffuses intensity.  [19:30] Balancing conspicuous consumption vs. conspicuous frugality. Buying luxury items to show off that we can buy them vs. showing off that we are “enlightened” enough not to care about physical things.  Marketing and consumerism (and even anti-consumerism) and society's obsession with tiers and rankings.  [23:05] Self-esteem vs. self-compassion. How to support your child during and after an upsetting event. We must learn to process these emotions and not try to protect others from them, which prolongs the exposure to the trauma.  [28:18] Death is the greatest informer for how to live better. Awareness of death is a great way to disconnect from the self-esteem roller coaster. All things change. Death is a powerful leveler.  [30:25] Three pronged approach to embracing being ordinary: work with 1) heads, 2) hearts, and 3) habits. 1) Where did I get the idea that being smarter/prettier/richer is better? See the folly in being caught in these patterns. 2) Open to the hurt and disappointment to really feel them and then release them. 3) Evaluate where we put our energies. Are we going to jump on social media or call a friend? FOLLOW DR. RONALD SIEGEL:  Find Dr. Ronald Siegel and the programs he offers on https://drronsiegel.com/  or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/drronaldsiegel/ Life, Death and the Space Between is brought to you by:  Dr. Amy Robbins | Host, Executive Producer  PJ Duke | Executive Producer  2 Market Media | Video and Audio Editing  Mara Stallins | Outreach & Social Media Strategy  Claire | Clairperk.com | Podcast Cover Design

Lots of people--from popular bloggers to academics to contemplatives--are pitching that our drive for greatness might not be giving us what it promises. Might "good-enough" living offer us a kind of joy along with giving us a place in a whole world that's happier? Dave Schmelzer mentions four recent discussion of this before focusing on two, including the mega-popular self-help book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.Mentioned on this podcast:The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, by Mark MansonThe Good-Enough Life, by Avram AlpertMentioned in passing:The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary, by Ronald SiegelDonald Winnicott's thinking about "The Good-Enough Mother"

EPISODE 154 - Dr. Ron Siegel is a part-time Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, where he has taught for over 35 years. He is a long-time student of mindfulness meditation and serves on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. Dr. Siegel also teaches internationally about the application of mindfulness practice in psychotherapy and other fields, and maintains a private clinical practice in Lincoln, Massachusetts. He's the author of numerous books, including The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems and his new book The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: Finding Happiness Right Where You Are. In the episode, Dr. Siegel explains that we didn't evolve to be happy (and what to do about it!), how to incorporate mindfulness meditations into our everyday lives to feel less stressed and anxious, what to do with our natural inclination to compare ourselves to others…and more! EPISODE WEBPAGE: thehealthinvestment.com/154 P.S. – If you're liking The Health Investment Podcast, be sure to hit “subscribe/follow” so that you never miss an episode

Dr Ron Siegel is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School where he has taught for over 35 years. A long-time student of mindfulness meditation, he serves on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy.In his latest book, The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary, Ron shows us how we can build stronger connections with others, get more joy out of life, and taste the wonderful freedom of everything no longer being all about us.TUNE IN01:30 - Why focus on ordinariness and how it stems from mindfulness07:51 - Do we compare ourselves to others for survival or are we influenced by society?17:17 - Is there a healthy level of narcissism?21:20 - Comparative judgement and balancing the ego26:14 - Ron's experience mentoring clinicians in a psychedelic psychotherapy program32:57 - Why is being extraordinary easier than being ordinary?47:06 - Unifying of a deeper sense of peace, acceptance and community51:06 - Why connection is not only important but essential55:41 - Tony Robbins' 6 human needsLISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCASTSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2HJCflVnHRDmvNtI8r2a65?si=692723d115ce4ef2/Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/inspired-evolution/id1272090974/CONNECT WITH DR RON SIEGELWebsite: https://drronsiegel.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrRonSiegel/JOIN THE INSPIRED EVOLUTION COMMUNITYWebsite: https://www.inspiredevolution/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspired_evolution/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/inspiredevolution/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/com/inspiredevolution/Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/inspiredevolution. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My guest today is Dr. Ron Siegel. Ron is an author and Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, where he has taught for over 35 years. He is a long time student of mindfulness meditation and serves on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. He teaches internationally about the application of mindfulness practice in psychotherapy and other fields, and maintains a private clinical practice in Lincoln, MassachusettsSome of the topics we explore include:-What process behind Dr. Siegel's new book, The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary-The science behind our pursuit of specialness and comparison-How to focus on making connections, not am impressions with others-How social media can amplify our suffering -How stressful early life experiences or trauma intersects with these processes-The potential healing power of psychedelic-assisted therapy-The connection between psychopathology and self preoccupation -And we end by discussing some practical tips to shift unhelpful evaluative processes—————————————————————————Dr. Siegel's website: https://drronsiegel.com/The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: https://www.amazon.com/Extraordinary-Gift-Being-Ordinary-Happiness/dp/1462548547—————————————————————————If you find value in the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It plays an important role in being able to get new guests. I also love reading them! Connect with me on Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode. https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth

In this episode, my guest is Dr. Ron Siegel, the author of the new book The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary. Dr. Siegel is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, where he has taught for over three decades. He is a longtime student of mindfulness meditation and is a faculty and board member at the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy.In the conversation, Ron and I discuss: The good news of being ordinaryWhy we compare ourselves with othersHow to think about self-esteemThe role of mindfulness and self-acceptanceHow to navigate disappointmentsWisdom in daily life and much moreConnect with Dr. Ron Siegel: drronsiegel.com/Follow In Search of Wisdom:Subscribe to our YouTube ChannelTwitter: twitter.com/searchofwisdomInstagram: instagram.com/searchofwisdompodcastSign-up for The PATH, our free newsletter (short reflections on wisdom). 

I have always been interested in observing and hearing real human stories. I have never been a follower and always have my own POV, I don't try to fit in, I just am. I am impressed with engaging with people and giving a platform for stories to be told, lessons to be learned and understand that different is genius . To all this misunderstood, this one is for you . Being Ordinary is not special, my hope is to encourage what "society" calls normal takes a shift. Thank you Rick Flynn for having me as a guest on your show I had a blast. For any others , I would love to hear your stories. Contact me at You Tube or IG - LQ Unscripted . ( ....all the other streaming platforms) Peace and Love, Lisa Quattrini

Dr. Ron Siegel joins Inna and Matt to talk about his new book The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary and his decades of experience in mindfulness and meditation. Dr. Siegel is an Assistant Professor of Psychology, part-time, at Harvard Medical School, where he has taught for over 35 years. A long-time student of mindfulness meditation, Dr. Siegel serves on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy and the faculties of the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion at the Cambridge Health Alliance and the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He teaches internationally about mind-body medicine and the application of mindfulness and compassion practices in psychotherapy and other fields. Find out more about Dr. Siegel's work at https://drronsiegel.com/ Check out Dr. Siegel's new book at https://amzn.to/3Ik2LpR

Erik Seversen is a writer, speaker, adventurer, entrepreneur, and educator. His new book Ordinary To Extraordinary highlights the story of an average man’s adventurous search for meaning. Quotes To Remember: “I believe it is possible for ordinary people to choose to be extraordinary.” “Taking care of the self first is a better way to be a better entrepreneur.” “Breaking that barrier of ‘How much do I really know?’ is really key.” “When you are relaxed, you are able to do more.” “Knowing is not enough, we must do. Willing is not enough, we must apply.” “The bigger we dream, the bigger we’re gonna reach.” “Anybody who is breaking through success or wants to breakthrough success needs mentors.”   What You’ll Learn: Being an Adventurous Entrepreneur Learning a New Language Transitioning from Being Ordinary to Extraordinary   Key Links From The Show: Erik’s Site   Recommended Books: Content Marketing Secrets by Marc Guberti The E-Myth Revisited by Michael E. Gerber The Power of Meaning by Emily Esfahani Smith The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

My guest is Roland Merullo. He is the acclaimed author of twenty previous books, including the international favorite "Breaking with the Buddha", now in its twentieth printing. Against a landscape of good humor, intrigue, and spiritual fulfillment, The Delight of Being Ordinary (https://www.amazon.com/Delight-Being-Ordinary-Road-Dalai-ebook/dp/B018CHA2BE)showcases the uniquely charming sensibilities of author Roland Merullo. Part whimsical expedition, part love story, part spiritual search, this uplifting novel brings warmth and laughter to the universal concerns of family life, religious inspiration, and personal identity—all of which combine to transcend cultural and political barriers in the name of a once-in-a-lifetime adventure. Roland Merullo’s playful, eloquent, and life-affirming novel finds the world’s two holiest men teaming up for an unsanctioned road trip through the Italian countryside--where they rediscover the everyday joys and challenges of ordinary life. During the Dalai Lama’s highly publicized official visit to the Vatican, the Pope suggests an adventure so unexpected and appealing that neither man can resist: they will shed their robes for several days and live as ordinary men. Before dawn, the two beloved religious leaders make a daring escape from Vatican City, slip into a waiting car, and are soon traveling the Italian roads in disguise. Along for the ride is the Pope’s neurotic cousin and personal assistant, Paolo, who--to his terror-- has been put in charge of arranging the details of their disappearance. Rounding out the group is Paolo’s estranged wife, Rosa, an eccentric entrepreneur with a lust for life, who orchestrates the sublime disguises of each man. Rosa is a woman who cannot resist the call to adventure--or the fun. Special Guest: Roland Merullo.

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