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TWS News 1: Parents’ Annoying Habits – 00:25 Soda Game – 3:32 Time Capsule Tuesday – 9:03 TWS News 2: Electric Cars – 15:13 Prayers God Waited to Answer – 19:03 Name It & Claim It: Chinese Dwarf Hamster – 24:53 TWS News 3: Pediatric Nurse Advice – 28:41 Hobbies That Get in the Way – 32:45 Podcast Promo – 38:06 Rock Report: Second Chance Songs – 40:49 Gross Kids – 43:43 Good News Giddy Up – 47:55 You can join our Wally Show Poddies Facebook group at www.facebook.com/groups/WallyShowPoddies
Est-ce que tu savais que ce que tu dis a un impact important sur toi, les autres et la société ?Nous, les femmes, on a tellement la possibilité d'affirmer notre pouvoir haut et fort, et ça va vraiment bien avec le sujet de l'épisode parce que notre parole a beaucoup d'impact dans la vie des autres.Donc, tant qu'à s'exprimer, prendre la parole par le biais d'un podcast, d'une vidéo, sur les scènes, NAME IT, est-ce qu'on peut avoir une parole puissante et élégante ?C'est pour ça que j'avais envie de te parler de comment s'assurer d'avoir une parole impeccable lorsqu'on s'exprime.Je t'explique comment livrer un discours tout en étant responsable de ce que tu dis. Être responsable ne veut pas dire qu'il faut se censurer, mais comment s'exprimer de façon impeccable.D'ailleurs, je t'explique tout ça en faisant référence à la première règle des 4 accords toltèques : Que ta parole soit impeccable.Liens dans l'épisode :Lien pour le discours de Harrison Butker → CLIQUE ICILien pour l es 4 accords toltèques → CLIQUE ICILien pour acheter les billets→ CLIQUE ICILien pour mon groupe→ CLIQUE ICI
who lives in Flagmount. and in the author of the book - Name It, Share It, Replace It. Mattie describes the book as a practical guide to managing thoughts and feelings. https://www.tmppublications.com/shop/How-to-Manage-Troublesome-Thoughts-and-Feelings-Name-It-Share-It-Replace-It-by-Mattie-Slattery-p392526248 He came into studio to chat about it. As broadcast on Saturday Chronicle 4th May 2024 from the SBCR studios in the Derg Alliance building, Scariff. Hosted by Jim Collins and John S Kelly Saturday Chronicle is Sponsored by JAMES M NASH AND DERG KITCHEN DESIGN http://dergkitchendesign.ie Outside broadcast in association with Michael Long Construction. Message or what's app the studio on 089 2582647 or email sbcrstudio@gmail.com
TWS News 1: Subtle “I’m Old” Signs – 00:26 Tipping – 3:09 Name It & Claim It: Water Bottle – 6:41 Time Capsule Tuesday – 9:49 TWS News 2: Southwest Doing It Right – 16:10 How You Overcame Your Fear – 19:45 TWS News 3: A.I. Taking Over – 26:07 Will Gavin Get It Game – 29:08 Marriage Master Class: Forgiveness – 33:04 TikTok Theology – 35:44 Rock Report: Diss Track – 39:23 The Historical Item You Have – 43:26 The Scoop: Hacking the Bots – 49:26 You can join our Wally Show Poddies Facebook group at www.facebook.com/groups/WallyShowPoddies
TWS News 1: Amazed – 00:26 TobyMac Email – 5:24 Whole Lot of History Game – 8:22 TWS News 2: Schools Closing for the Eclipse – 15:29 Following Your Partner – 20:27 TWS News 3: Eating Healthy is Tricky – 27:41 Pastor Chad: Getting Past Church Hurt – 31:20 Photo Op – 37:01 Flashback Friday – 41:04 Rock Report: Shaq’s Gold Medal – 44:44 The Scoop: Making a Better Burger – 47:53 Email – 51:31 Name It & Claim It: Cadillac Car – 54:47 You can join our Wally Show Poddies Facebook group at www.facebook.com/groups/WallyShowPoddies
TWS News 1: Sunshine Guilt – 00:26Vacation Revelation – 3:01World’s Biggest Small Group – 8:35TWS News 2: Antibiotic Chicken – 11:48My Theory Is: Bullying Making More – 14:30Time Capsule Tuesday – 18:58TWS News 3: PJs to Work – 24:06Travel Game – 26:57Rock Report: Up for Auction – 33:52When Your Faith Felt Good – 37:41Name It & Claim It: Frog – 43:32 You can join our Wally Show Poddies Facebook group at www.facebook.com/groups/WallyShowPoddies
Have you experienced a painful or traumatic event in your life? If so you will want to listen to today's Brandler Bits when we address a great strategy to handle this. If you follow the phrases, Name It, Claim It, Tame it, you can work on healing this pain.
we get to the root of the matter- Hypocritical -swearing- Do not swear like this--What the Pharisees were teaching the people was that it was ok -to swear an oath and then go back on your word, to in effect -lie using God's Name--It grieves my heart whenever I hear someone thoughtlessly -blurt out -I swear to God-- It's no different than the -world constantly using the words, -Oh my God-- -Ecclesiastes 5-2-6, Numbers 30-2 -Brethren don't get into the habit of always thinking that you -must use God's Name or swear an oath to confirm your words-- -instead, get into the habit of thinking before you speak, -telling the truth, and being trustworthy to keep your word and -your promises.
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"Name It! Claim It! Take It!" is a book written by Bishop Dag Heward-Mills. The book is centered around the principles of faith and the power of positive confession. Bishop Heward-Mills likely explores the idea that by speaking positively and claiming God's promises through faith, individuals can overcome challenges and achieve their goals. This concept is often associated with the prosperity gospel movement, which emphasizes material blessings and success through faith and positive confession. Dag Heward-Mills द्वारा Name it! Claim it! Take it! से Positive manifestation की ताकत की खोज करें और अपने सपनों को साकार करें। Read Book Summary: https://readersbooksclub.com/ Watch us on YT: / readersbooksclub Connect with us on: Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/readersbook... Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/readersbooks... Telegram : https://telegram.me/readersbooksclub Twitter : https://twitter.com/readerbooksclub
Brought to you by Mixpanel—Event analytics that everyone can trust, use, and afford | Vanta—Automate compliance. Simplify security | Round—The private network built by tech leaders for tech leaders—Christopher Lochhead is a 14-time #1 bestselling author, top podcaster, and former 3x public tech company CMO and has been an advisor to over 50 VC-backed tech startups. He is best known as a “godfather” of category design, and Adobe named his book Play Bigger one of “the five greatest marketing books of all time.” In this episode, we discuss:• What exactly category design is• The “Frame It, Name It, Claim It” framework• How to go about designing your category• Why “languaging” is so powerful• Rating yourself on the category design scorecard• Why Chris considers “product-market fit” a dangerous concept• Chris's spicy take on positioning• The “better trap” and why it's crucial to avoid it• The magic triangle of product, company, and category• How to embrace negative feedback• Why the greatest time in the history of innovation is now—Find the transcript for this episode and all past episodes at: https://www.lennyspodcast.com/episodes/. Today's transcript will be live by 8 a.m. PT.—Where to find Christopher Lochhead:• Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/lochhead• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopherlochhead/• Website: https://www.categorypirates.com/—Where to find Lenny:• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com• Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/lennysan• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/—In this episode, we cover:(00:00) Chris's background(05:08) Why Chris shares his negative criticism on his website(11:58) A simple explanation of category design(18:00) How Purell mastered category design(23:07) What Gong got right (and wrong)(29:01) The “better trap” and why it's crucial to avoid it(38:51) Reflective thinking vs. reflexive thinking(44:45) How Lomi created a revolutionary solution for food waste (48:50) The “Frame It, Name It, Claim It” framework (49:08) The concept of “languaging” (54:00) Examples of languaging (59:19) Spend more time on the problem than the solution(1:01:37) The power of “backcasting”(1:07:33) The truth behind building legendary brands(1:10:39) The problem with product-market fit(1:16:11) Chris's spicy take on positioning(1:19:20) “Damming the demand”(1:24:49) Laws from Chris's book The 22 Laws of Category Design(1:29:46) Word of mouth: the most powerful form of marketing(1:34:05) Chris's closing message to listeners(1:39:01) Lightning round—Referenced:• Rick Rubin Says Trust Your Gut, Not Your Audience: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rick-rubin-says-trust-your-gut-not-your-audience/id1570872415?i=1000606447333• How to identify your ideal customer profile (ICP): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-to-identify-your-ideal-customer• Grant Cardone on Twitter: https://twitter.com/GrantCardone• Tai Lopez on Twitter: https://twitter.com/tailopez• The Difference Between a First Mover and a Category Creator: https://hbr.org/2019/11/the-difference-between-a-first-mover-and-a-category-creator• Gojo Industries: https://www.gojo.com/• Gartner reports: https://www.gartner.com/• Forrester reports: https://www.forrester.com/bold• Gong: https://www.gong.io/• Clari: https://www.clari.com/• Threads, Instagram's “Twitter Killer,” Has Arrived: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/05/technology/threads-app-meta-twitter-killer.html• Kevin Maney: https://kevinmaney.com/• Red Bull cola: https://www.redbull.com/int-en/theorganics/organics-simply-cola• Microsoft Copied Apple's Successful Retail Plan. Now It's Shutting the Whole Thing Down: https://www.inc.com/jason-aten/microsoft-copied-apples-successful-retail-plan-now-its-shutting-whole-thing-down.html• A New Way to Think, with World's #1 Management Thinker Roger Martin: https://lochhead.com/roger-martin/• A New Way to Think: Your Guide to Superior Management Effectiveness: https://www.amazon.com/New-Way-Think-Management-Effectiveness/dp/164782351X• RJ Scaringe on Twitter: https://twitter.com/rjscaringe• Lomi: https://lomi.com/products/lomi• Otis elevators: https://www.otis.com/en/us• How to build a breakthrough … the secret of Backcasting: https://medium.com/@m2jr/how-to-build-a-breakthrough-3071b6415b06• John Bielenberg's website: https://www.thinknado.com/• Eddie Yoon: https://www.eddiewouldgrow.com/• Marc Andreessen on Twitter: https://twitter.com/pmarca• Snow Leopard: How Legendary Writers Create a Category of One: https://www.amazon.com/Snow-Leopard-Legendary-Writers-Category/dp/1956934456• Play Bigger: How Pirates, Dreamers, and Innovators Create and Dominate Markets: https://www.amazon.com/Play-Bigger-Dreamers-Innovators-Dominate-ebook/dp/B015MOJ80G• Niche Down: How to Become Legendary by Being Different: https://www.amazon.com/Niche-Down-Become-Legendary-Different-ebook/dp/B07FLKJJQQ• The 22 Laws of Category Design: Name & Claim Your Niche, Share Your POV, and Move The World from Where It Is to Somewhere Different: https://www.amazon.com/Laws-Category-Design-Somewhere-Different/dp/195693457X/• An inside look at Deel's unprecedented growth | Meltem Kuran Berkowitz (Head of Growth): https://www.lennyspodcast.com/an-inside-look-at-deels-unprecedented-growth-meltem-kuran-berkowitz-head-of-growth/• Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah: https://www.amazon.com/Illusions-Adventures-Reluctant-Richard-Bach/dp/0440204887• What They Don't Teach You at Harvard Business School: Notes from a Street-Smart Executive: https://www.amazon.com/What-Teach-Harvard-Business-School/dp/0553345834• Inventing Anna on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81008305• The rise and fall and rise of Tony Eltherington: https://www.swellnet.com/news/swellnet-dispatch/2017/04/27/rise-and-fall-and-rise-tony-eltherington—Production and marketing by https://penname.co/. 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Exploring the challenges of working as TANDEM partners. How can we acknowledge the disappointment and overwhelm using the Name It to Tame It process.
In this episode of the NEGOTIATEx podcast, award-winning confidence coach, Natalie Costa, discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in children. Drawing from her extensive background both as an educator and running her foundation, Power Thoughts, Natalie emphasizes the significance of recognizing and addressing children's emotions, especially anxiety and anger, which have seen an upsurge post-COVID. She also explores barriers parents face, the role of social media pressures, and the shared learning journey between parents and children. The conversation includes strategies such as breathing techniques, the “Name It to Tame It” approach, and the power of physical movement in processing emotions. Natalie's insights underscore the importance of understanding and navigating the emotional complexities of childhood.
How would you answer these questions:“How true are you to what you value and believe?” “Do you consistently follow through with the vital good things you determine to do?” In the busy-ness of life, we may not regularly take time to even think about those things. Our lives are so full and our time so committed to the ‘necessities' and urgent tasks that following-through with things important to us often becomes secondary, and then lost in the shuffle. How CAN someone become the type of person that actually does follow through? Is it possible in today's world? On today's episode, Karen, Kellie, Marquelle, and Roslyn discuss tools and strategies learned through the Eternal Warriors Course that have helped them to create simple systems and habits that are helping each of them (and their clients) to find success in following through with the most important things in life each day.First, they discuss the three simple Power Goals that affirm your identity and create a powerful connection with Heavenly Father and the Savior - the foundation of all they teach. They also discuss tools such as the Power Calendar, the Notice It, Name It, Flip It, Find It tool; the TRUTH tool; and others that can help you find the strength to do the good things you have always wanted to make part of your life. Take a step right now - and listen to this episode! If you follow through with this step, you could be taking a step that will improve your life forever! It could be you! Come check us out, and see if this is the time for you to enlist. Come join those who are finding the great power that comes from using your agency to choose action, commitment, and increased faith! If you would like to submit any feedback or if you have benefitted from these principles please visit our Email at likedragonspodcast@lifechangingservices.orgSons of Helaman is a program for young men struggling with self mastery issues where they learn technics and principles to help them combat the influence of the adversary. For more information please visit https://lifechangingservices.online/sonsofhelaman/The Mothers Who Know Program is a Christ-centered team of mothers who provide support, connection, training, and hope when your children battle pornography or other challenging issues. For more information please visit https://motherswhoknow.org/For more information about Eternal Warriors, visit our website at eternalwarriorstraining.org/If you would like to take a careful look at the training handbook for Eternal Warriors training system, you are invited to download, for FREE, the eBook, "Like Dragons Did They Fight" at likedragonsfree.com
When Laura Black landed her dream job in Silicon Valley, she had no idea that she would become the object of a co-worker's obsessive desires. Everywhere she went, Richard Farley seemed to be there. Everything she did, Richard Farley was watching. Finally, the sustained stalking episode culminated in a violent showdown that became one of California's most notorious mass murders.Thanks for listening! Here's how you can get in touch with comments and suggestions:Website: https://www.prashganendran.comTwitter: @PrashsMurderMapFacebook PodcastFacebook Author PageInstagramEmail: prashsmurdermap@gmail.comWant to listen to Murder Casebook Volume 1 ? Check out the Audible Links to .COM AND .UKAUDIBLE USAUDIBLE UKI am an independent podcaster and produce these episodes from a spare bedroom in my home, so I would be extremely grateful for any donations, however small. This will go towards maintaining and upgrading my audio equipment, podcast hosting fees and licencing costs for any music and voices I use in my episodes. Thank you!CLICK HERE TO DONATE VIA PAYPALCredits: Research, writing, narration and audio editing by PrashNo part of this episode may be reproduced or copied in any form without the written permission of Prash's Murder Map.Sources · “An obsession with Laura”, WorkplaceViolence911.com, https://www.workplaceviolence911.com/docs/20010307-02.htm · Carpenter, Dave, “Suspect in Silicon Valley tragedy described as obsessed loner”, AP News, Feb 1988, https://apnews.com/article/c0b57ef46e8541ec8a4e0322e5150767 · “Stalking: Know It. Name It. Stop It.”, CDC, https://www.cdc.gov/injury/features/prevent-stalking/index.html#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20National%20Intimate,experienced%20stalking%20in%20their%20lifetimes. · Thoennes, Nancy and Tjaden, Patricia, “Stalking in America: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey”, National Institute of Justice Centers For Disease Control and Prevention, Apr 1998, https://www.ojp.gov/pdffiles/169592.pdf
Valerie Lynn is a coach and mentor for women, she is a podcaster and former "homeless" Airbnb nomad living life on the road. Valerie is spicy, awkward and unfiltered, and enjoys working with badass women who know in their hearts that they deserve a place at the top. As someone who used to believe she had no story, she is fiercely passionate about helping women remember and share their own personal stories. Valerie is on a mission to create more platforms and experiences to help showcase women's authentic, powerful voices with the world. She has been published in Thrive Global, Medium and GAOTek. Valerie is an extrovert, coffee addict, and enjoys giving people aggressive hugs and living a bold, wild and free life. Episode Quote:“No matter what the situation is, you will figure it out … (but) you only really believe that through action” “If you're feeling (burnout) it's a sign for you that something needs to change”Self-Care Tip:Take time to try new things and figure out what truly brings you joy. (Listen in about her air bnb journey). Get still and listen to yourself . Find Valerie On IG at: @hey_valerie_lynn Check out her podcast called: Women On TopAre you READY for the FIRST EVER Ready To Rise BURNOUT RELIEF Retreat!!??? We are kicking it off in OCTOBER at the BEACH HOUSE!!!!! I cannot wait to see many of you for the VIP experience there staying each night and day with us, and for many of you to come via DAY passes!!!! This is going to be epic! With a sound bath healing, yoga overlooking the water, healing ceremonies, you name it!!! To get all the info as it releases FIRST, text "RETREAT" to 707 347 0723 If you want to join the RISE Sisterhood online community, get ready because we are showcasing EXPERT FACILITATORS each month!!!! We are hosting coffee chats, cacao ceremonies, yoga, breathwork, gut health classes, you NAME IT!!! The doors are OPEN NOW!!! Text "SISTERHOOD" to 707 347 0723 for more info.
TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com WellBuiltBody.com Wake the faith up James 4:7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Submit - subject yourself. Put yourself under what God says… he is the final authority. But the nuance here is to arrange your thoughts under Gods authority - what is his authority? His word. If you have thoughts about your health, finances, relationships, the future, a job, whatever it is… you arrange them under what God says in his word. have you ever had someone tell you to do something and you contradict them because someone else of a higher authority said not to or to do it a different way? Your dad says you can have a popsicle… but Mom says NO… we all know Mom has the authority in that manner. As a kid I was worried about missing out on a deal for a killer stereo… my parents said NO… now I know I could have got them to say yes, but I trusted their words… I arranged my wants, thoughts, fears under their authority and their words… a few months later that saved me $700. God says.. no matter what you are wrestling with - NAME IT - it does not matter - put it under Gods word. Submit to God… oh if you want to hear satan moan and just get pissed… do that. He is hoping you don't submit to God and his word. Here is a secret… now submit all your good thoughts, dreams, hopes, etc… under his word as well - and they get supercharged by a 1000. James 4:7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Resist GK - vehemently oppose. 180 degree anti, rebellious push back… Are you ready to get pissed off at the thoughts of satan? Now you might get offended at that word… that's ok, because it is giving you the understanding and the nuance of what I am talking about. Why do we worry about becoming to offensive in our walk and mindset as men and women of God. What happens when we do this…. that is submit to Gods thoughts and resist satan. satan will flee - FLEE GK - wear out and run away… shuffle away in despair. To literally fly away in a worn out state… Like you woop up on a big bad bird and it finally gives up and flys rambunctiously away in its best worn out state… Today, Submit every thought in every area to what God says Resist - get pissed off that satan would even dare to tell you anything different than what Gods word says and finally watch him flee… Now that's the steps to victory every time.
Dr. Lisa Firestone talks about how to understand your triggers Episode 2772: “Name It to Tame It” - The Deep Emotions Underlying Your Triggers by Dr. Lisa Firestone Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012). The original post is located here: https://www.psychalive.org/name-it-to-tame-it-the-deep-emotions-underlying-your-triggers/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. Lisa Firestone talks about how to understand your triggers Episode 2772: “Name It to Tame It” - The Deep Emotions Underlying Your Triggers by Dr. Lisa Firestone Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012). The original post is located here: https://www.psychalive.org/name-it-to-tame-it-the-deep-emotions-underlying-your-triggers/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. Lisa Firestone talks about how to understand your triggers Episode 2772: “Name It to Tame It” - The Deep Emotions Underlying Your Triggers by Dr. Lisa Firestone Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012). The original post is located here: https://www.psychalive.org/name-it-to-tame-it-the-deep-emotions-underlying-your-triggers/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Are you afraid of the dark? Do clowns give you the heebie-jeebies? Does the thought of public speaking make you want to run for the hills? Fear not, my friend! This episode is here to teach you how to "Name It to Tame It.", IT as in "your fears!" Listen in as I share how naming your biggest fear immediately gives you control to conquer them like the brave soul you are! Buckle up, buttercup, and get ready to face your fears head-on! Let's Calm it Down in 3...2...1.
“we had breakfasted” [CHAS] For all the meals we hear about in the Sherlock Holmes stories – not to mention Mrs. Hudson having a good idea of breakfast – what were some of the regular morning comestibles? Come to think of it, there weren't many breakfasts mentioned in the Canon aside from one very consequential one. Can you think of others? It's just a Trifle. If you have a suggestion for a Trifles episode, let us know at trifles @ ihearofsherlock.com. If you use your idea on the air, we'll send you some Sherlockian goodies. Our Patreon supporters can listen to our shows ad-free and every one of them is eligible for our monthly and quarterly drawings for Baker Street Journals. Join our community of patrons today. Have you left us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts yet? You don't need to own an Apple device, and every review helps more people find the show. Links / Notes This episode: ihose.co/trifles330 Alistair Cooke's Letter From America: Don't Name It, Cure it - 12 July 2002 Dining with Sherlock Holmes by Julia Carlson Rosenblatt and Frederich Sonnenschmidt SoundCloud playlist: Food Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and YouTube Email us at trifles @ ihearofsherlock.com Listen to us ad-free on Patreon and become eligible for our regular giveaways. Sponsor The Baker Street Journal Music credits Performers: Uncredited violinist, US Marine Chamber Orchestra Publisher Info.: Washington, DC: United States Marine Band Copyright: Creative Commons Attribution 3.0
Check it out on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/33Z4VsE Check it out on Apple: https://apple.co/3AHc2DT How to Meet Anybody with Steve Buzogany Episode: https://apple.co/3zuud1y CAROLYN WILMAN is a Digital Marketer that works with companies to create and viral market winning promotions and programs. Ms. Wilman is also known as the Contest Queen and author of two best-selling books: You Can't Win If You Don't Enter and How To Win Cash, Cars, Trips & More! To date, others have won more than $1M using her proven Online Sweepstakes Entry System. In addition, Carolyn is becoming a re-publisher bringing breathing new life into books that have long been out of print. To date, Carolyn has republished all of Helene Hadsell's books, including her best-seller The Name It & Claim It Game, where Helene outlines how she won every prize she ever desired, including a fully furnished home. Carolyn just acquired all the rights to Tag & Judith Powell's books and audio sets, so stay tuned for more exciting knowledge to be available once again. Dreams: Grow Words for Winning by publishing books Grow Idea Majesty and build a team around her for both businesses. Introduce Them to: Jose Silva Dr. Joseph Murphy Dr. Joe Dispenza Contact them at: https://www.contestqueen.com/books/how-to-win-cash-cars-trips-and-more/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timothy-douglas0/support
Check it out on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/33Z4VsE Check it out on Apple: https://apple.co/3AHc2DT How to Meet Anybody with Steve Buzogany Episode: https://apple.co/3zuud1y CAROLYN WILMAN is a Digital Marketer that works with companies to create and viral market winning promotions and programs. Ms. Wilman is also known as the Contest Queen and author of two best-selling books: You Can't Win If You Don't Enter and How To Win Cash, Cars, Trips & More! To date, others have won more than $1M using her proven Online Sweepstakes Entry System. In addition, Carolyn is becoming a re-publisher bringing breathing new life into books that have long been out of print. To date, Carolyn has republished all of Helene Hadsell's books, including her best-seller The Name It & Claim It Game, where Helene outlines how she won every prize she ever desired, including a fully furnished home. Carolyn just acquired all the rights to Tag & Judith Powell's books and audio sets, so stay tuned for more exciting knowledge to be available once again. Dreams: Grow Words for Winning by publishing books Grow Idea Majesty and build a team around her for both businesses. Introduce Them to: Jose Silva Dr. Joseph Murphy Dr. Joe Dispenza Contact them at: https://www.contestqueen.com/books/how-to-win-cash-cars-trips-and-more/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timothy-douglas0/support
In this episode we continue to look at childhood wounds and the idea that healing may require us to grieve and mourn the losses that have occurred. For me this seems to be a missing piece of my healing journey and I hope it resonates with you as well. This episode includes: Why we may not be able to heal if we don't recognized our grief from childhood William Worden's Four Tasks of Mourning How to heal using the 3 keys: Name It, Reclaim It, Reframe It Telling a new story about your precious life "The broken heart that has been healed through grieving is stronger and more loving than the one that has never been injured." - Pete Walker Get my latest book The Journey from Ego to Soul Support this podcast to keep it on the air --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/karen-wyatt/message
Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast
Episode35: If You Don't Name It, You Shame It Explicit Today my special guest is Whitney Tougas. Whitney is an intimacy and pleasure coach, speaker, and facilitator, teaching women with vulvas (and other humans) how to experience life-changing, transcendent orgasms, heal through radical full expression and sexual integration, and live performance-free and fully seen. She believes sexuality and relationships offer opportunities for deep healing, expansion, and self-actualization, and that most humans never scratch the surface of their birthright pleasure and innate sexual power… but that everyone can.Whitney is the creator of the School of Sexual Sorcery and co-creator of Women Who Roar. In addition to her pleasure and intimacy work, she works with transgender women as a voice and expression coach.We talk about the shame that often surrounds pleasure and sexuality. Children are often not given the names of their genitals growing up which can add to the shame we experience in adulthood. What you don't name, you shame! In her School of Sexual Sorcery, she teaches the 5 Transcendent Orgasms:1) Extended Clitoral Orgasms2) G-spot, Squirting, Gushing Orgasms3) Cervical Orgasms4) Breath Energy Orgasms5) Non-Genital OrgasmsHave you had any of these orgasms? Maybe it's time to learn.If you would like to get in contact with Whitney, you can use the links below:Whitney's Facebook page @Embodied_mama on Instagram Whitney's Website Love, KarineTake the Free Quiz, Is Monogamy Right for Me? and find out if your programming or monomindset is affecting you and your relationships!Book your FREE discovery call to inquire about our NEW 8 Week Program, Breaking Free from Monogamy: shifting the monomindset for greater intimacy and sexual well-being, first Live Sessions starting March 1, 2023.Limited spots available.Don't forget about my "6 Week Breaking Free Mentorship" to continue your journey or work with me privately. Book your call today.Book a Complimentary Discovery Call Click here to Register for the "Empowered Lifestyle Newcomers VIP Experience" on February 10th, 2022Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com
Episode 1153 | Adriel Sanchez and Bill Maier answer caller questions. Show Notes CoreChristianity.com Questions in this Episode 1. What's the difference between the “Prosperity Gospel” and “Name It and Claim It” teaching? 2. If someone trust in Jesus but takes the Roman Catholic mass, are they true believers? 3. Who is the Anti-Christ? 4. Did Jesus's apostles believe in ghosts? 5. Does God determine when and how we die? Today's Offer Inner Core Request our latest special offers here or call 1-833-THE-CORE (833-843-2673) to request them by phone. Want to partner with us in our work here at Core Christianity? Consider becoming a member of the Inner Core. Resources Core Question – Why Are There So Many Denominations?
In this 105th episode, I share my daily reflection posted on Twitter @bryoncar, from Jan 9nd to 13th, 2023 I reflect on these podcast episodes from my listens on the: 10th: Evolving with Gratitude E39 "Making the Invisible Visible with Guest Jerry Almendarez"; The Second Question S3E8 "Jon Konen - It's All About the Culture" 11th: The Chey And Pav Show E120 "One Word 2023: Focus – 120" 13th: Teacher Champions S1E55 Notice It, Name It, Nurture It" ----------------------------- Track: Know Myself - Patrick Patrikios ( NoCopyrightMusic ) | My Audio Library | Background Music Bumper: Inspired Educator with Mike Brilla --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/freshairatfive5/message
A man is haunted by the mother of his newborn child.“He Refused to Name It” by Eugen Bacon."He Refused to Name It" first appeared in The Road to Woop Woop & Other Stories, Meerkat Press, December 2020.A transcript is available on the NIGHTLIGHT website.Narrated by Jarvis Bailey.Audio production by Tonia Ransom and Ron Webb.Executive Producer and Host: Tonia RansomNIGHTLIGHT is distributed by Rusty Quill. All ad funds go toward compensating Tonia for her labor. All NIGHTLIGHT Legion contributions fund pay for our authors, narrators, and sound designers.*****Want ad-free episodes? Episodes every single week? Join the NIGHTLIGHT Legion on Patreon for as little as $1 per month to help us produce more stories for you to enjoy.****** Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
A man is haunted by the mother of his newborn child. “He Refused to Name It” by Eugen Bacon. He Refused to Name It first appeared in The Road to Woop Woop & Other Stories, Meerkat Press, December 2020. A transcript is available on the NIGHTLIGHT website. Narrated by Jarvis Bailey. Audio production by Tonia Ransom and Ron Webb. Executive Producer and Host: Tonia Ransom ***** Want ad-free episodes? Bonus content? Join the NIGHTLIGHT Legion on Patreon for as little as $1 per month to help us produce more stories for you to enjoy. Join at nightlightpod.com/legion ***** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I love praying the promises of God. But before we do that, let's make sure we're praying things that God has actually promised. For example, just about every Christian has Jeremiah 29:11 somewhere in their house, but does it apply to us today? And can you really, as some say, name it and claim it? Maybe you've heard the phrase before that God said it, I believe it, and that settles it. But does that really settle it? You'll find out the answer to all those questions today on the Cross References podcast. 0:00 - Introduction 3:45 - 12:21-28, A False Proverb 13:35 - 13:1-7, Delusional Prophets 21:00 - Name It and Claim It? 27:20 - God Said It, I Believe It, Does That Settle It? If you want to get in touch with us, send us an email to crossreferencespodcast@gmail.com Hosted by Luke Taylor
Word of Faith, Name It and Claim It, Seed Faith, or Prosperity Gospel. A lot of different names for the same theology...but is it biblical?On today's podcast, Pastor Derek and Pastor Jackie talk through the meaning of the prosperity gospel, some of its biggest leaders, and some of the history of the movement. Some of the biggest churches in America and the most well known preachers have prosperity theology, so we seek to define what it is and compare it to ALL of Scripture. We hope that as you listen, you will come away with a clearer understanding of why this theology is dangerous and why it is contrary to the Gospel of Jesus in many ways.The 17:17 podcast is a ministry of Roseville Baptist Church (MN) that seeks to tackle cultural issues and societal questions from a biblical worldview so that listeners discover what the Bible has to say about the key issues they face on a daily basis. The 17:17 podcast seeks to teach the truth of God's Word in a way that is glorifying to God and easy to understand with the hope of furthering God's kingdom in Spirit and in Truth.Scriptures: 1 Tim. 6:3-12; Heb. 13:5; Luke 12:15; Matt. 6:19-21; Phil. 4:19; Matt. 6:24-33; 2 Cor. 8:9; Luke 6:38; Prov. 10:22; Psa. 37:18-19; Job 1:1-3; Gen. 13:5-6; Gen. 30:1-43; Gen. 33:9; 1 Chr. 1:14-17; Heb. 11:37-38; Luke 9:58; Luke 8:1-3; Matt. 19:21; 2 Cor. 11:21-29; 2 Cor. 12:8-10; Matt. 3:4; Matt. 14:10-12.Please listen, subscribe, rate, and review the podcast so that we can reach to larger audiences and share the truth of God's Word with them!Write in your own questions to be answered on the show at 1717pod@gmail.com or tweet at us @1717pod on Twitter. God bless!
In the Name It to Tame It Series, Mikki explores the common feelings many co-parents feel, why they feel them and how to navigate these feelings. In Part 4, Mikki explores the feelings we feel when we feel wronged: Anger, Contempt, Hate + Disgust By understanding the differences between these emotions, we gain power in developing ways to move through them. You can download the Self-Love Worksheet that Mikki created for you to help you move through your feelings when you are hurting. Download it HERE. Take a listen to learn more in Part 4 of the series. Get the full show notes and more information here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2022 Mikki Gardner Coaching
Sign up for 10 Days of Coaching on your commitment here!or Text 774-240-4523 to get started on your 10 day commitmentJust because you're interested in growth, does not mean that you're broken. It also doesn't mean that if you are interested in growing your capacity to be slightly better, that ALL your problems disappear!Diving into growing your capacity to be slightly better can look different from person to person:- Want to grow your capacity to handle stress better?- Want to grow your capacity to think more positively?- Want to grow your capacity to eat better?- Want to grow your capacity to handle your kids' behavior better?-Want to grow your capacity to communicate with your spouse?NAME IT, and you can always be growing your capacity in this area!Connect with with Kaitlynn
In the Name It to Tame It Series, Mikki explores the common feelings many co-parents feel, why they feel them and how to navigate these feelings. In Part 3, Mikki explores the feelings we feel when we're hurting: grief, sadness, despair, and hopelessness. By understanding the differences between these emotions, we gain power in developing ways to move through them. You can download the Self-Love Worksheet that Mikki created for you to help you move through your feelings when you are hurting. Download it HERE. Take a listen to learn more in Part 3 of the series. Get the full show notes and more information here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2022 Mikki Gardner Coaching
In this episode, Mikki is talking about the feelings we commonly feel in divorce and co-parenting. In the Name It to Tame It Series, Mikki will explore the common feelings many co-parents feel, why they feel them and how to navigate these feelings. In Part 2, Mikki explores the feelings we feel when we fall short + things don't go as planned: Shame, Guilt, Regret + Disappointment. By understanding the differences between these emotions, we gain power in developing ways to move through them. Shame and regret are shadow emotions that thrive on secrecy + silence while guilt and disappointment can be useful drivers of positive change. Take a listen to learn more in Part 2 of the series. Get the full show notes and more information here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2022 Mikki Gardner Coaching
In this episode, Mikki is talking about the feelings we commonly feel in divorce and co-parenting. In the Name It to Tame It Series, Mikki will explore the common feelings many co-parents feel, why they feel them and how to navigate these feelings. In Part 1, Mikki explores Stress, Overwhelm + Anxiety. How do you handle the feelings of stress, overwhelm, and anxiety when you have not only you, but also your kids, to deal with? Or when your ex creates chaos every time you have to interact? In order to handle co-parenting challenges, we have to have the awareness of what is happening, the language to name and describe it and the tools to navigate it. So let's dive into part 1. Get the full show notes and more information here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2022 Mikki Gardner Coaching
166: Transitions in Nonprofit Leadership: Are You Ready to Make a Move? (Mazarine Treyz)SUMMARYAre you pondering your place in the philanthropic sector? The COVID-19 pandemic has changed the world and its effects are being felt across all industries. In episode #166 of Your Path to Nonprofit Leadership, multifaceted career coach Mazarine Treyz discusses some factors that nonprofit leaders should keep in mind as they prepare for the next normal. She advocates for such things as self-care, equal pay and the need to find fulfilment in your career choices, regardless of the transitions ahead. We are in a cultural transition where individuals, organizations and society can look forward to shaping their futures rather than just grinding through the present.ABOUT MAZARINEMazarine Treyz loves to help you ask for more. She hosts the Asking for More podcast and mastermind. Mazarine has written a 5-star rated book on fundraising careers, called Get the Job! Your Fundraising Career Empowerment Guide and has helped over 1000 people move on up in their careers. Treyz founded the first fundraising career conference in spring 2015 and has done 13 conferences since then, each year learning more and more about the workplace justice movement.Mazarine excels at motivating audiences to lead and question the status quo. She taught over 20,000 people from 2011 to 2022. She has written 10 e-courses on fundraising & 3 books on nonprofit careers, fundraising and marketing. She has 13 years' experience providing online workshops and trainings, including Fundraising trainings, Diversity Equity Inclusion trainings and a certification from the Racing to Equity Leadership Institute in 2021. She hosted the Name It podcast from 2019-2021, interviewing DEI leaders to further advocate for equity in our sector.EPISODE TOPICS & RESOURCESThe Psychology of Executive Coaching: Theory and Application by Bruce PeltierLearn more about the Nonprofit Consulting ConferenceLearn more about the work Mazarine is doing hereCheck out Patton's new book Your Path to Nonprofit Leadership: Seven Keys to Advancing Your Career in the Philanthropic Sector
Avec Megan on a parlé longuement de nos insatisfactions envers nos peaux. Grasses, crevassés, boutonneuses, NAME IT. Megan nous raconte son pire cadeau de Noël. On se demande ce qu'on est capable d'assumer comme vêtements sur scène. Oserons-nous un jour la jupe? À suivre! Tout le monde s'haït sur Patreon: www.patreon.com/toutlemondeshait
Do situations or your thoughts ever lead to strong negative feelings such as anger, fear, or shame? How do you respond? Do you withdraw and use the ‘silent treatment' on those around you? Or do you say things you regret later? Do you go eat something sugary to soothe your feelings? In the Eternal Warriors program, we teach you to recognize that your thoughts in those situations are most likely influenced by the adversary - and we show you that you CAN learn to recognize and stop those thoughts before they cause you to do things you later regret. Today Karen Broadhead joins Lloyd and Debbie, Eternal Warriors Coaches, in a discussion about Transforming Satan's Lies. They will teach you about recognizing the moment you get into a ‘Mood Battle', (that uncomfortable feeling that something is ‘off',) and they teach you a tool to use so you can stop the negative thoughts from then becoming words and actions you never planned to say or do. It could be you! Come check us out, and see if this is the time for you to enlist. Come join those who are finding the great power that comes from using your agency to choose action, commitment, and increased faith! If you would like to submit any feedback or if you have benefitted from these principles please visit our Email at likedragonspodcast@lifechangingservices.orgSons of Helaman is a program for young men struggling with self mastery issues where they learn technics and principles to help them combat the influence of the adversary. For more information please visit https://lifechangingservices.online/sonsofhelaman/The Mothers Who Know Program is a Christ-centered team of mothers who provide support, connection, training, and hope when your children battle pornography or other challenging issues. For more information please visit https://motherswhoknow.org/For more information about Eternal Warriors, visit our website at eternalwarriorstraining.org/If you would like to take a careful look at the training handbook for Eternal Warriors training system, you are invited to download, for FREE, the eBook, "Like Dragons Did They Fight" at likedragonsfree.comListen in and learn about “NINIFIFI” - the Notice It, Name It, Flip It, and Find It tool - and hear how these coaches have used it in their lives to take the lies the adversary plants in their minds and transform them into words and actions that build self-mastery and greater faith in the Savior Jesus Christ. This tool can truly transform your life for the better!
You have to know the power you possess, the authority you have, you have the power to Name It and God is in Agreement with it
Newly separated parents often don't realize just how many things there are to consider about the new co-parenting arrangement. Schedules, paying for extracurriculars, transition times, dealing with behaviour issues, introducing new partners are just a few issues of so many. Our guests today realized that taking the time to work out a detailed parenting plan is essential, but there were few professionals taking the time with clients to create them. Brandyn Roark Caires, a licensed counsellor and Jen Schimbeno, a Financial Planner, created "Parent Team," an online course that guides parents through the ins and outs of parenting from both homes. Today we talk to them about some of what they've learned from their years of experience working with co-parents. They offer some tips on how they manage the tough issues like financial disputes, withholding information, and badmouthing the other parent. Listen for a great description of their technique called, "Name It, Frame It, Don't Blame It" - it could be a game-changer for you and your kids! You can find more information about Parent Team @parentteam on IG and on their website: www.parentteam.com You don't have to go through divorce alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today. To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/splittheaftereverafterpod/message
Great School Leaders are Avid Readers Learning and growing as a school leader through reflection, training, and experience is a professional choice. One powerful way to improve is through reading great books, which is why we feature a couple each month. Our aim is to link great books to our theme for the month. This month we are focused on rethinking what accountability looks like in schools. We've heard from our subscribers that this content is being used as a leadership development curriculum. Kudos to you for investing in yourself as a school leader to grow and improve. When we think about accountability, a school leader's mind typically races to state and federal accountability--state assessments, scorecards, and different measures and metrics. This month we wanted to take a different look at accountability, one that speaks to the heart of the work within schools and that drills down into the classroom. For that reason, we chose two books that get granular with very specific examples of what schools are doing and how to guide practice for improvement. Joe's Pick: What School Could Be: Insights and Inspiration from Teachers across America Featured Author: Ted Dintersmith This is a unique book because Dintersmith visited schools across the U.S. and reported on some incredible schools doing great work. Very early on in the book, he introduces us to the key principles that emerged as he visited schools across America. He identifies them as P.E.A.K.: Purpose Essentials Agency Knowledge Each of the four represents key aspects of high level performance that can be implemented by school leaders. This is why this is a great book for accountability; it describes what is working and what may be very helpful in another school or district. Sustainability and replicability are as important as the identified practice itself. He also provides a provocative overview of how we got to where we are in regard to schooling. His brief overview and short history of state tests, rankings, and institutes of higher education are fascinating as he describes their impact on innovation in schools. Lastly, this book is filled with real stories from the field. You won't be disappointed. Get your copy of What School Could Be today. T.J.'s Pick: Practice Perfect: 42 Rules at Getting Better at Getting Better Featured Authors: Doug Lemov, Erica Woolway, & Katie Yezzi There are a few reasons why we love this book. One reason is that the journey to this book's creation started in a high poverty school, detailed in the book that many are familiar with, Teach Like A Champion. Two, this book is about getting better through practice. Programs are great, but they are only as effective as the individual using them. In our accountability approach, we have a very teacher-centric focus. A common issue in education is our lilly pad approach to change. Too often, schools jump from one initiative to the next in search of a better program that will yield greater student learning. This isn't due to leadership laziness in schools, but rather an attempt to find a solution in a short amount of time. However, true growth requires time and practice--Perfect Practice. As T.J. describes in his account, the authors detail key practices like Name It, Make It Fun, and Apply First then Reflect as key tools to improving. Practice also goes perfectly with feedback, which is an essential ingredient to improvement. Enjoy both of these books to lead better and grow faster as school leaders. Let us know what you're reading by contacting us at contact@theschoolhouse302.com. And don't miss our leadership newsletter every week by subscribing on the site. We can't wait to hear from you. Joe & T.J.
Peace exists on the other side of your resistance. The noise, talking, and eating of the holidays, A haze cast over the clearer vision I had developed with my practice. Awareness of wholeness seems to slip away little by little until I am binge eating all those sweets I swore I didn't want and rubbing my Magic the Gathering headache.How come the lived experience of peace is so easy to forget and the mechanical habits so enticing?Getting ready to head back to work after this long holiday break, I decided to get back into my regular sitting practice. Sitting down into my Zazen posture, it took only minutes until my awareness touched the confusion and irritation in my body. Becoming aware, I saw how the confusion in my body moved to churn thoughts in my head and this aversion to what was happening, resistance to what already was.The thoughts sounded like this:"Why did you eat so much sugar? You're lazy. Why didn't you offer to help wash the dishes? You really feel like shit now, don't you? What is wrong with you?"Seeing the energy and thoughts clearly, I smiled. I saw my mind flicker as if to say, "Well, if you don't resist this, then what?"As I let go of that thought, instant peace came over me. The "negative feelings" didn't change, but my awareness reclaimed its seat in freedom. I let go of the desire for this moment to be anything but what it was. Many teachers talk about this concept of naming what is happening in our bodies and minds. Here is an excerpt from an article on the website growmindfulness.com"In his book, Mindsight, Dan Siegel argues that we "Name It to Tame It" – in other words, by naming our feelings, we are better able to control them or, at least, lessen their impact...To say "I feel angry" is a very different statement, both in content and impact, then the words "I am angry". The latter tends to define us as angry people, whereas the former helps us to recognize that we are not our feelings – we are a lot more than what we feel. Feelings come and go in nature and intensity – our essence remains. Naming our emotions in a gentle, non-judgmental way affirms our self-worth and opens up the opportunity to master our feelings." - growmindfulness.comI like what was said here. However, I don't like the statement, "master our feelings," as this continues the legacy of war between our thoughts and how we want things to be.As we become truly aware of what is happening in our bodies and minds and hold that truth in open awareness, there will be no need to "Master our feelings." Once we encounter the truth in and around our complex emotions, that reality fundamentally changes the challenging emotion itself. Yes, better controlling our emotions is an admirable skill and is undoubtedly a by-product of Zazen. However, we don't sit in Zazen to change anything.Speaking of the distraction of the holidays, I like the idea of embracing distraction. I and many others have tapped purposefully on their phone screen, deleting Instagram and Facebook, writing a very heartfelt post to my friends explaining my decision to leave social media alone. All this to find myself redownloading the apps or sneaking a peek of Facebook through the browser.Embracing distraction as a lay practitioner may be the only way to go. It is a path of nonresistance. Can we find the middle path with all of this technology?If you've found the path and been able to walk it, please let me know. I have yet to be able to walk it. The only skillful way to reclaim my attention and original Mind is through a regular sitting practice. After all of the holiday noise, food, and waves of experiences, it is easy to get pulled back into the flow and pushed around by things. If we have a regular sitting practice, we build our reconnection to original Mind into our schedules. We remove the stumbling block of missed Zazen practice by ensuring our reconnection to the Dharma through regular, scheduled training.Just like when we were kids, our parents repeatedly reminded us to brush our teeth until the habit was clearly formed, every morning and night. We must be our own good parents and develop the habit of Zazen. We brush our teeth to avoid cavities and decay. We sit Zazen to reconnect us with our Original Mind.Why do we resist? We resist out of our illusion of control. We believe that by fighting something, we can avoid it or change it. However, the reality is that what we resist persists. My wife brought up to me over the holidays her frustration with a comment someone close to her made; when she told them about her struggles with PMDD, they said, "Well, you just have to choose to not take it personally." This really frustrated her, as I assume it would have for most people.I wonder if they have some different machinery than me? Maybe some people really can control their thoughts and emotions with precision like that. I, however, cannot.The only thing that has led to any peace for me is fully becoming aware in those moments when I feel attacked, offended, or hurt. I cannot turn these emotions or thoughts off, but I have trained my awareness system to kick on faster and faster when these emotional bumps come along. The more I become aware of and see these emotions and thoughts for what they are, they change, and my sense of self grows larger.For instance, instead of being solely the experience of being offended by a side comment someone made, I am now simultaneously both offended by a comment someone made and aware of swinging around an unimaginably hot ball of gas whirling ever out into the blackness of space. It is the realized concept of "This Too."Soaking our attention in the stillness of Zazen allows our "Orignal Mind" to be uncovered. I have mentioned this term original mind a couple of times. Here is an excerpt from one of Shodo Harada Rōshis writings, titled, Original Mind. He writes:"In Buddhism, it's often said that humans' Original Mind, that Mind we have at birth, is like a clear mirror, pure and uncluttered, without shape, form, or color, with nothing in it whatsoever. If something comes before it, the mirror reflects it precisely, but the mirror itself gives birth to nothing. If what has been reflected leaves, its image disappears, but the mirror itself loses nothing. Within the mirror, there is no birth, no death. No matter how dirty a thing that is reflected might be, the mirror doesn't get dirty, nor does it become beautiful because something beautiful is reflected in it.Just because additional things are reflected, that doesn't mean anything increases in the mirror itself, nor does anything ever decrease when fewer objects are reflected. A mirror is without increase or decrease.Humans' pure Original Nature is just this. Without shape, form, or color; without birth and death; not clean or dirty; not increasing or decreasing; not male or female; not young, not old; not intelligent, not stupid; not rich, not poor. There are no words, no explanation possible, no description that will apply here, only a pure mirror-like base. This is humans' true quality; this is an actual experience. From our Zazen (sitting meditation), cut all nen (mind-instants), dig down completely to the source of those nen—dig, dig, dig until we reach the place where the human character has been totally cleared. When the source point is reached, this state of Mind can be touched."By Shodo Harada Rōshis"No matter how dirty a thing that is reflected might be, the mirror doesn't get dirty, nor does it become beautiful because something beautiful is reflected in it."We resist what appears in the mirror out of a desire to deny the thing being reflected. We aren't fully aware of our true identity as the mirror yet and mistake ourselves as the reflected object. As mentioned by Eckhart Tolle in The Power of Now, a lot of our identity is wrapped up in these negative parts of ourselves.Even though a particular aspect of our thinking and belief system causes us much pain and trouble in our lives, we may still cling to it. Why is this?It comes from the strength of the ego. The part of us that fears annihilation, desperately grasping for something solid. A deep well of fear can open up in someone as they start to look behind the curtain of their most well-orchestrated negative concepts of reality. So then, resistance can manifest in multiple forms. One is our avoidance of facing and feeling something. Another is our inability to let a specific aspect of our beliefs dissolve, negative as they may be. We fear stepping into beginners' Mind because of our fear of annihilation. We want so badly to control our version, our narrative of reality, that we will create multitudes of reasons why this practice is stupid, how it's not working, or downright unsafe!We fear letting go because we haven't experienced the freedom of our original Mind yet, the peace of letting go.One of the cliches worth mentioning here is Gandhi's quote, "There is no path to peace. Peace is the path." When I say, "Peace exists on the other side of your resistance." I don't mean that you will have peace once you do this or that other thing. I mean that peace is available to you now, but you must stop resisting, easier said than done, right? This is where Zazen comes in.When we practice Zazen, we cultivate the ability to hold our experiences in equanimity or open awareness. Zazen practice trains our minds to hold experiences from the witnessing perspective. That's why many teachers have students start with watching their breath. There isn't much to judge about our breath, good or bad. It just is. Over time we develop this ability to witness, and we can take this attention to other aspects of our experience. Now we can see our sadness, loneliness, anger, or physical pain with equanimity, with the open awareness we have cultivated.I first learned about the concept of Witnessing Presence while reading Eckhart Tolles The Power of Now. In it, he says:"The good news is that you can free yourself from your Mind. This is the only true liberation. You can take the first step right now. Start listening to the voice in your head as often as you can. Pay particular attention to any repetitive thought patterns, those old gramophone records that have been playing in your head perhaps for many years. This is what I mean by "watching the thinker," which is another way of saying: listen to the voice in your head, be there as the witnessing presence.When you listen to that voice, listen to it impartially. That is to say, do not judge. Do not judge or condemn what you hear, for doing so would mean that the same voice has come in again through the back door. You'll soon realize: there is the voice, and here I am listening to it, watching it. This I am realization, this sense of your own presence, is not a thought. It arises from beyond the Mind.So when you listen to a thought, you are aware not only of the thought but also of yourself as the witness of the thought. A new dimension of consciousness has come in. As you listen to the thought, you feel a conscious presence — your deeper self — behind or underneath the thought, as it were. The thought then loses its power over you and quickly subsides, because you are no longer energizing the Mind through identification with it. This is the beginning of the end of involuntary and compulsive thinking." - Eckhart Tolle.Repetitive thoughts followed by cycles of guilt haunted me as I read the power of now for the first time 12 years ago. I had never heard of "mindfulness" or practiced mediation before. Still, as I sat there on my parent's patio by the river, I remember this odd practice of continuously bringing my attention back to the sound of the river rushing by beneath me. I felt wholly relieved to read that I was not my thoughts and that there was an ancient practice available for slowing the Mind and moving through suffering. My Mind was a whirlwind of pain and medications were no longer an option. I remember Eckhart urging me from the pages to turn towards my pain, to watch the repetitive thoughts and painful cycles with the eyes of the witness (nonjudgmental presence.) To be honest, it didn't make a lot of sense, but I pursued the instructions with such vigor because of the pain I was in.Little breakthroughs began to happen. I remember looking up at the blue sky with little whisps of clouds stretching out behind a giant pine tree and feeling connected to the presence and beauty of that moment. My worrying Mind was paused for that instant. So far, after 12 years of off-and-on practice, I can say this. Something is happening to how I meet my life. When worry, grief, anger, or confusion set in, a new dimension is available to me. A spaciousness in and around the troubling emotions. Paraphrasing a quote, I read, "It feels that I have moved from a cramped apartment into an airplane hanger. I still have all of the same stuff, but now there is a whole lot more room!"I enjoyed making this one and sharing it with you. I am experimenting with writing out my episodes again. Thinking on my biggest struggle with this podcast, it is consistency. I want to provide you with a consistent release schedule, but I worry it will stretch the content too thin. I will experiment on it! What did you think?I hope you have a wonderful week! Until next time.MattSource: https://growmindfulness.com/naming-your-feelings-to-tame-them/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-imperfect-buddhist/donations
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S1-E41 Swipe Right on Your Best Self with Eric WintersDirector of Leaders for Life and author of Swipe Right on Your Best Self.I was very impressed with Eric's knowledge and his ability to communicate many concepts that can help the entrepreneur. That's probably YOU if you are reading this description.I also know that he is a patient man, as we motored through two hick-ups when recording this episode. A lesser person may have become frustrated and given up.And as the saying goes, “All's well that ends well!” Actually, it ended up way better than “well”! This is definitely an episode that will help YOU endure some of the tough times that are sure to come for an entrepreneur. Eric is here to help you navigate that rough water.Be a better business owner, better leader and a better human too. Here are some points to consider:Do you get stuck in your head with thoughts and feelings that are holding you back? Pay attention to what shows up for you. What are you feeling? Can you name it? How is it impacting your behavior? What would the kind of person you choose to be, do in this situation?Eric's 3 Ns. 1-Notice.2-Name It.3-Now What?This and more good stuff in episode #41. Enjoy!More with Eric here:Website- www.ericwinters.com.auLinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericwinterscomau/Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/ericwinterscomau/#podcast #entertainment #inspiration #entrepreneur #edutainment #education #wisdom #businesssecrets #professionaldevelopment #personaldevelopment #GoingBoldly #RussTheBIGGuy #EricWinters #swiperightonyourbestself
In this episode of Real Talk, KJK Student & Athlete Defense Attorneys Susan Stone and Kristina Supler are joined by Certified Positive Discipline Lead Trainers Kelly Pfeiffer and Dodie Blomberg to talk about positive discipline and how parents can use it as a tool to empower and grow their children while fostering true connection. TRANSCRIPT: Susan Stone: Welcome back to Real Talk with Susan Stone and Kristina Supler. We're full-time moms and attorneys bringing our students defense legal practice to light with real candid conversation. Today's topic is discipline, in particular, positive discipline. We bring with us two special guests, Kelly Pfeiffer, and Dodie Blomberg. Kelly Pfeiffer: Thanks for having us. Kristina Supler: Our pleasure. We're so pleased today to have Kelly and Dodie with us. Both women are Certified Positive Discipline Lead Trainers and have years of experience with the topic that is positive discipline. So ladies, before we dive in, why don't you give us a little bit of your own background? Tell us about yourselves. Kelly Pfeiffer: I'm Kelly Pfeiffer and when I became a mom years and years and years ago, I'd say 28 years ago, I was struggling. I knew I didn't want to discipline my children the exact same way that I did before. I found positive discipline 28 years ago. Then, I decided I wanted to start teaching it. Currently, I have two children who are 28 and 25 and two stepchildren who are 28 and 26 and I live in Greenville, South Carolina. Susan Stone: Thank you, Kelly. That's a great introduction. Dodie? Dodie Blomberg: So, I'm Dodie Blomberg and I started my career as a classroom teacher and I had a really hard first year. I didn't have the tools and skills I needed to manage really tough fifth graders. They're tougher than they seem. A few years in, a friend said, “Hey, take this training.” It's positive discipline in the classroom. I thought it was so amazing. It gave me tools that I just didn't even know existed to grow kids' skills and to grow my own skills with social, emotional, relationships, communication. I didn't even know that was out there. Then a few years later, I got married and had two kids. Then I learned you can use this on with your own children. Of course, everyone knew that. I just took a little time to figure that out. Then, like Kelly, I love this work. I got trained. I've been practicing this work since 1995. I'm still learning. My children now are 26 and 23 and they're pretty good people. We have a good relationship and I just really think positive discipline has helped it along the way. Susan Stone: Well, I would like to share with our listening audience that, as you know, Kristina and I work with students every day and we get a lot of parenting questions when we have to advise parents on how to handle certain circumstances, such as it might sound, “Go on spring break when there's a pending tons of charges.” We realized early on that people were not asking us for legal questions but parenting questions and that lead us to want to learn more for our own business. I can share that Dodie and Kelly certified us in positive discipline. I've also seen a change not only on how we speak to our clients who are students, but my own family. So, I thank you for imparting your knowledge on us, but we'd like you guys to talk to our audience. Can you tell us what is positive discipline? Dodie Blomberg: So, positive discipline basically is a group of skills and tools that adults can use to help grow children's skills and tools like teaching respect, responsibility, communication, listening, problem solving, and more. And I don't know about all of you, but I didn't learn all of those growing up. Like my growing up was you obey adults. But then as a kid, what did I do when I was on my own and I had to solve problems? I didn't know how to do that. I just knew how to follow directions. So really, ideally, how do we teach our kids to think, to solve problems, to think through things so they become adults who know how to do that? Kelly, do you want to add on? Kelly Pfeiffer: I can just add one more thing. Traditional discipline generally focuses on getting rid of behaviors. So, we want them to go away. Those behaviors that are annoying or dangerous. Positive discipline instead focuses on adding to the child, helping them learn new skills and tools. So, I love to explain that difference, that we're not taking away until we add something because children are going to use the same tools that they have until they have new tools. So we need to… the focus is on teaching children these new life skills and tools [crosstalk] Susan Stone: How about an example, ladies? Dodie Blomberg: So, let's just start with little kids. Because I think little kids is just like, you could see the starting point and where you're going. So young children, they have harsh tools, right? You see kids in preschool. They're hitting. They're biting. They're grabbing. Those are the tools they know. It gets results quickly. Now we don't want our kids to have those… Use those tools long term so we need to replace them with the tools. So, we teach kids gentle hands, ask for the toy, take time to share, teeth are for chewing, not biting. Right? Like really teaching the tools we want so they know what to do. That's more helpful than hurtful tools as a beginning place. Kelly, can you add another one? Kelly Pfeiffer: One thing I remember Jane Nelson saying a lot is that when children make a mistake or have a misbehavior, that the parents tell the kids what happened, what caused it to happen, what they can do about it and what can they do in the future to prevent it. In a positive discipline, let's see a teenager gets a speeding ticket, we might lecture about it, tell them what they need to do. Then instead of positive discipline, we ask the teen, “Wow, what happened? Tell me what was going on. What do you think caused that to happen?” We're having to pause and wait for them to think and come up with answers. “Wow, what do you think you can do about this speeding ticket and what do you think you can do in the future about this?” Kristina Supler: Kelly I'm glad you brought up that example of teenagers and the speeding tickets because I was going to ask, is positive discipline geared more towards younger children? You talk about it's a philosophy designed to give parents and children really more tools to bring to problem solving, but it sounds like what you're saying is it can be used for children of all ages. Is that correct? Kelly Pfeiffer: It is. So, as a young child, I might only ask, “Wow, what happened?” if the child is three or four because they may not be able to process those questions. Then, when that same time gets to be six, maybe I'll ask, “Oh, what happened? What caused it to happen?” When they're older, I just add on the questions. By the time they're teenagers, we just added on more skills. We are inviting them to think about problem solving. So, it is for all ages and we do have to think about the child's developmental stage and age as to how we apply each tool. Dodie Blomberg: Kelly, can I add to that? The beauty of this is it becomes their own self-talk. Right? So when they end up with a challenge or a difficulty, instead of saying, “Oh my gosh, I'm in trouble. Don't let mom or dad learn.” The self-talk might be, “Oh my gosh, what happened? What did I do? What do I need to do? How can I get help? How do I solve this?” They get a new self-talk that helps them solve the problem instead of just being afraid of getting in trouble. Susan Stone: How's it different than logical consequences? Dodie Blomberg: I personally think logical consequences can be challenging. Most of us use them because that's what we're raised with. But often people use logical consequences as punishment. Let's think of a punishment that'll match this issue. The child is driving badly with their car and taking the keys away. Driving badly, take the keys away. That would be a logical consequence. Now that could also be a solution. It could be. If you sit down and have a good talk through conversation with your child and find out what their reasons were. Who was in the car? What made you drive quickly? Maybe underneath, you find out it has to do with that friend in the car who's always telling him to hit the accelerator. So, maybe a better solution is that friend can't drive with you. You can still drive the car to school, but you can't have that friend in the car. That might be a better solution. Kelly, ideas on logical consequences? Kelly Pfeiffer: One thing I want to add is if you're just trying to cause blame, shame and pain with your logical consequence, that's probably you're just trying to punish and then disguise it as a logical consequence. So to change the mindset to a positive discipline mindset is to focus on solutions because we can't change the past. We can only change what happens in the future and to focus on really what might be helpful because if we're just using blanket consequences, they might not be helpful at all in solving the problem. But just like you said, Dodie, drilling down to, “Oh, it's the friend. Oh, then let's focus our solution on- Susan Stone: Right skills. Kristina Supler: So Kelly, a question I have is when you're talking about having a conversation to think things through, analyze what happened, and arrive at solutions, how is that conversation and looking for solutions different from not imposing any discipline at all in the child? Kelly Pfeiffer: Oh yes. So lots of people think if you're not punishing or giving consequences, then you're being permissive and we're definitely not recommending permissive parenting at all. So, the solution-focused conversation is joint problem solving and also teaching skills for the future. So, if there wasn't a conversation at all and people just forgot about it and said, “Oh, don't do that again, honey.” We might call that permissive parenting because the parent is not addressing the problem. Another piece of this is timing to address the problem because right when the parents find out about a ticket or an accident in a car accident, the parents might be really upset. And the teen's probably really upset and that is not the time to have the conversation. So another piece of having this conversation is to wait until people have calmed down, everyone is calmed down so that you can focus on solutions. Dodie, anymore about permissive parenting for me. What's going on with [inaudible] Dodie Blomberg: Yeah. The other thought I have is permissive parenting. The weight of the problem never sits in the child's lap or the teenagers lap. The parent holds the weight when you're going to, and now you're going to, and now the situation is and the parents is holding all the weight of the problem, right? The situation that happened. Ideally, you'd let the situation just sit in your teenager's lap and you're going to talk about how they're going to solve it. Let's talk through the ways you can fix this problem because it's your problem. Do you feel the weight of the problem? Does that make sense? Kristina Supler: Yeah and actually I am just… In your experience teaching this view of discipline over the many years that you've done. So I would imagine when parents engage in joint problem solving, does that help achieve more… I don't know, I guess what some might call buy-in from the child? To help be invested in the solution versus just feeling like I have to do this because my mother is making me. Dodie Blomberg: Yeah. I want to add that. What often happens when we use punishment or quote consequences, it ends up being a wrestling match between us and the kids. Well, my parents and now I have to it's my parents' fault. Like all of a sudden, it's not the problem that happened. It's all about the parent. They're angry at the parent. So ideally, the problem would sit there and they kind of think of it as a visual, like sometimes we feel like we're opposite our child and we're wrestling with this problem back and forth. It said definitely setting the problem in their lap and then sitting next to them and you're both looking at this problem like, “Ugh, [crosstalk] that's a big problem.” Susan Stone: Team. I think that's the thing. We're on the same team. I'm with you. Let's get to the root behind these issues. Is there a psychological foundation of what's behind misbehavior? Dodie Blomberg: Well, according to positive discipline, Rudolph Dreikurs came up with four main reasons people misbehave. If we back up even farther, all human beings want belonging and significance. If we think about that for ourselves, we all kind of know that. We like when we belong somewhere. We like when we matter somewhere, peer pressure, all of that, it has to do with belonging and significance. Besides being tired, hungry, or sick, right? The main four reasons people misbehave is they want attention, or they want power or they're feeling hurt so they do revenge or they feel so disconnected. They feel inadequate so they almost give up. So, there's kind of this range, it's attention and then power and then I don't have any connection, revenge, and then just kind of give up. You could almost see most misbehavior fall into those four categories for adults and children, like human beings. Kristina Supler: That's so interesting that the same tenants hold true for someone, regardless of whether they're five years old or 45 years old. Those root causes drive certain decisions and behavior. Susan Stone: Yeah. We all want to be loved. Is that the foundation at the end of the day? [crosstalk] I see by smiling, but our listeners can't see you. So I just wanted to say everybody's smiling and I hope you, listeners, are, too. Dodie Blomberg: What we find is when people feel like they belong, they behave better. Our behavior is better. When we don't feel like we belong, we can kind of misbehave and create mischief. Right? Kristina Supler: Kelly, a question I'm wondering for you, Susan and I and our law practice, we represent students of all ages across the country who are confronted with a variety of legal issues. Part of the group of students we serve in particular are children with special needs. So, if you could speak to, particularly for our parents or listeners out there with children who have special needs, does this approach work for that population? How might you be able to adapt it or apply it? Susan Stone: Right question Kristina. Kelly Pfeiffer: So it does because even children with special needs have that primary goal of belonging and significance, but their idea of how to belong and feel significant may look slightly different. We may have to do a little bit more detective work to see, “Oh, they do want attention.” or “They are trying but they have some skill deficits that we're just not aware of. That's why the behavior ends up looking like this.” So, the positive discipline are trying to look at the goal or mistaken goal behind the behavior and for special needs children, it may take a little bit of extra work and getting into their world. That can be challenging if they have communication deficits. Sometimes we're making guesses at first, as we're trying to solve problems with our children or figure out what their mistaken goal is. When they can communicate well and they're older, we can ask them and possibly get some information. But when they're young and don't have language skills or they have language barriers because of the special need, if yes, it gets challenging, but these same principles are still all apply. There's actually a book Positive Discipline for Children with Special Needs that parents may want to check into or listened to. I think there's an audio version as well. Kristina Supler: That's wonderful. Susan Stone: Right. Came to appreciate. While Kristina and I were going through the training and I don't… Kristina, you want to know if you feel the same way is that there was a lot of subtlety to concepts that we think we know as appearance, that there are differences. And one of the refined differences between traditional parenting and positive discipline is the concept of encouragement versus- Kristina Supler: Right. [crosstalk] Susan, I'm so glad you brought that up because it was only through this class and the training that we did with Kelly and Dodie that I realized some of the… how I am guilty of sort of doling out praise versus encouragement. Though related, they are in fact very different concepts that ultimately foster difference, resiliency, and life skills. Dodie, can you tell us a little bit more about the subtle difference between encouragement and praise and why it's so important for parents to understand the difference between the two concepts? Dodie Blomberg: So I appreciate you bringing that up. As a teacher, I started out my career praising and I'm really good at praise. I still have to keep my eye on it. So, praise is about the giver. It's about me, so “I think you did a good job. Oh, you look so pretty. What a nice painting.” Susan Stone: Yawty, I'm a praiser. Dodie Blomberg: [crosstalk] I get it. It can be really challenging and it's, “I think you did a good job.” or “I like what you did or you didn't like I told you.” It's really a reflection of my judgment and it's not bad, but it's not that helpful. When we only use praise, our children become pleasers and are always looking for praise so they do something and they look, “Is this good, Mom? Did I do it right, Dad? Is this right?” If they don't like you, they don't give a flip if you like their work or not. It's almost like the flip side of it, right? Kristina Supler: [crosstalk] for those teenage years. Dodie Blomberg: If you feel hurt, “Uh, forget it. I don't care what you think.” Right? Where encouragement is more about noticing people's forward motion. So, I noticed you got started on your homework. I noticed you made your bed without being asked. I noticed you filled the tank with gas. Thank you for that. Nothing big, like hurray, super great, like just acknowledging what people do. That's a forward motion. It's powerful. You can start with, I noticed, I appreciate, or I have faith. Those are lovely sentence starters and noticing people's forward motion. The other thing is you can use praise when people are successful, but when people make mistakes or aren't successful, you can't use praise, but you can still use encouragement. Right? So if your child comes home with a failing test, but you saw them study for it, right? You saw them. You can still use encouragement and say, “Oh my gosh, I saw you study so hard yesterday.” And you can even ask a curiosity question. “So can you take the test again? Are you able to figure out what you did wrong so we can practice some more.” Right? So you can still use encouragement and curiosity and still help our child feel better. Susan Stone: It's more genuine. Kristina Supler: Kelly, Dodie used a phrase or reference that concept curiosity question. What's that? Can you tell us more about a curiosity question? Kelly Pfeiffer: So generally a curiosity question begins with the words what or how. What's going on for you? Or what were you thinking in that moment? How would you like to solve this problem? Just being genuinely curious and I caution parents, don't ask a curiosity question if you're not really interested in listening to the answer. So some people might say, “I'm going to ask a curiosity question. How are you going to solve this problem by tomorrow at eight o'clock?” Dodie Blomberg: Or what were you thinking? Susan Stone: I know that is not helpful. We have so much to ask you. Let me deal with a lot of mental health issues in our practice and especially the past year or so. Maybe even before, Kristina and I were seeing an increase in depression and anxiety, both in our student population and in the adults that we represent, does this method work with individuals who are experiencing mental health challenges? Dodie Blomberg: So I think this work is encouraging work and what comes up for me is one of the things we talk about is connection. We all need connection. As like this last year and a half, we need connection more than ever. So, how do we stay deeply connected with people, even if they're depressed, even if they're having challenges, like making sure our children and our friends know that we are here, we've got them now, it may not solve any problem. But knowing that somebody has your back and is tightly connected to you can really help people feel a little better. Susan Stone: Kelly, can you give an example of how you would convey that to someone who's so anxious that they're having panic attacks and maybe don't want to do something because they're so whipped up into anxiety? Kristina Supler: Right. I have, I mean, we're getting into back to school season so for teens or children of any age who are anxious about the return to school and what the new school year is going to hold. How would you help foster connection and encouragement in the child who's just super anxious about returning to the classroom? Kelly Pfeiffer: One of our parenting tools and teacher tools is connection before correction. So, first we might acknowledge the feelings or validate the feelings that the child is having. Many times parents want to say, “Oh, it'll be fine.” and that is not acknowledging that the child's feelings, the students' feelings are real and valid. So when we might start with, oh, you're feeling anxious about blank, blank, blank, whatever the child has said. So, that is a connection piece first, and then listening to what the child says. So, listening is a connection tool, as well as validating feelings. Then after you think that the child has said everything, normally, I would notice that the child gets calm just being able to voice it because in self-regulation one of the essential skills that even preschoolers can do is just to name the feeling they're having. When we name the feeling Daniel Siegel system, Name It to Tame It. Naming the feelings help [inaudible] Susan Stone: Name it to tame it. Kelly Pfeiffer: Yeah. Susan Stone: I'm writing that down. Kelly Pfeiffer: That is the first step to self-regulation is naming the feeling that you're having. Then another tool that we teach is positive timeout. That means how can each person use tools to calm down either in the moment, or they might have to step away to go. I've told my kids if you ever need, if you're at school and you're stressed, just ask to go to the bathroom. Go to the bathroom, calm down. If that's what you need, it's a quiet space or try to do things in your own head. But one of our breakdown tools is positive timeout. Each person finding small tools they can use both while they're with people or if they need to step away and take deep breaths, count to 10, say three sentences about gratitude, what they're thankful for, whatever works for them, but it's a coping skills that are taught for anxiety or stress in positive discipline. It's really individual. Notice what your own body does to tell you that your stress and then use other tools, say name it to tame it and then calm down. Susan Stone: That was very powerful. Thank you so much. Kristina Supler: Ladies, thank you so much for joining us today, Kelly, Dodie. We really appreciate the wonderful wealth of information you've provided to our listeners and we encourage our listeners to learn more about positive discipline. Check out the information on the web and thank you all for listening to real talk with Susan Stone and Kristina Supler. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it. And please don't forget to subscribe to our podcast for more resources. Visit us online at studentdefense.kjk.com.
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