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Welcome back to a special joint episode of  The Evolved Caveman and Love Isn't Enough, where Joree and John lovingly drag your relationship habits into the light—so you can stop sabotaging your love life one passive-aggressive comment at a time.In this episode, we're saddling up with the Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse, straight from the research of the OG love nerds, Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These four bad boys—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—aren't just annoying. They're *statistically proven* to predict divorce with a freaky 92% accuracy rate.That's right. If these habits are riding around unchecked in your relationship, you're not just arguing over the dishwasher—you might be headed for Splitsville.Today, we're going deep on the first two horsemen: Criticism (AKA “Let me tell you why you suck”) and Defensiveness (AKA “Oh really? Well what about YOU?”). Joree and John keep it real with personal stories, hilarious moments of self-awareness, and insight from working with clients who, let's just say, *learned the hard way*.What You'll Learn (Besides How to Stop Arguing Like 5-Year-Olds):* Why your nervous system flips out in the middle of a fight* How criticism is NOT the same as feedback (and why one will wreck your weekend)* The sneaky ways defensiveness kills emotional safety* How to stop being a porcupine when your partner needs a hug* Simple ways to shift from reaction to curiosity (yes, even mid-argument)* The absolute magic of non-defensive listening (hint: your partner might cry happy tears)* And how to actually connect—even when you're pissedBecause the goal isn't just to stop fighting. It's to fight smarter, love deeper, and maybe—just maybe—not feel like you're stuck in a never-ending episode of *Who's the Bigger Jerk?*Bottom Line?You don't need to be perfect—you just need to show up, own your sh*t, and stop letting bad habits ride roughshod over your connection. With curiosity, compassion, and a little non-defensive magic, you can actually make your relationship feel less like a battlefield and more like, well, love.Want more tough love with tools?

Ready for a no-holds-barred chat on anger management, male irritability and their impact on relationships? We've got Dr. John Schinnerer—yes, his last name is a mouthful—dropping some serious self-awareness bombs. Trina Glines interviews Dr. John to help you discover your authentic self and stop life's challenges from becoming roadblocks. Dr. John breaks down how anger actually works (hint: it's not just a secondary emotion) and gives four killer components: emotional, cognitive, physiological, and attentional. He even dishes on living with an angry ex-spouse and references John Gottman's 'four horsemen' that predict relationship doom. But hey, it's not all bad news! Dr. John's got the top tools to begin your transformation into Phil Jackson, aka the zen master. You'll learn how to keep your cool, stop fights, and maybe even enjoy life a bit more. Don't worry about long therapy sessions—his coaching style makes this stuff accessible. Whether you're an executive with an irritability issue, in a relationship with an testy twat, or just someone who's aware of their own anger issues, you're in the right place. So breathe, grab your journal, and get ready to take some notes. You're about to transform your anger into strength.Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Find Us):

Buckle up, intrepid listeners! Dr. John kicks off the latest episode of the Evolve Caveman Podcast with a bang, bringing on the illustrious Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D. This dude isn't just any therapist; he's a leadership coach, founder of Strength with Heart men's groups, and past president of the APA's division on Men and Masculinities. Oh, and did I mention he co-developed training for NASA? Yeah, the guy's got creds. John and Daniel dive into the intricacies of male relationships, the importance of play, and why guys need to stop being such jackasses about vulnerability and self-compassion. They riff on everything from the significance of boundaries to the irony of male loneliness, all while making sure to keep things breezy and sarcastic. Ever wonder why men are so scared of the word 'compassion'? You're about to find out. Daniel's current passion project: helping men balance strength with heart through the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition. A must-listen for anyone trying to upgrade their male operating system without losing their edge.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest, Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D.:Daniel Ellenberg, PhD, is a licensed therapist, leadership coach, and the founder of Strength with Heart men's groups and workshops. He is a past president of American Psychological Association (APA) division on men and masculinities and the founder/director of the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition through the Global Compassion Coalition (GCC). He is currently co-writing a book for men called Strength with Heart and contributed a chapter in A Global Dialogue on Masculinity. He has spent his entire career helping people, particularly men, navigate their lives more mindfully, skillfully, and compassionately. He co-developed and delivered training at several NASA space centers—including Resilience Dynamics, Introspection for Leadership Excellence, and The Neuroscience of Teams. Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Stalk Us (Respectfully):

In this episode of the Evolved Caveman and Love Isn't Enough podcasts, Dr. John and Jory interview Shana James, a relationship coach with 20 years of experience who specializes in helping men with their love and sex lives. Shana discusses her work, including insights from her podcast, 'Man Alive,' and her book, 'Honest Sex.' Topics covered include the importance of vulnerability, relational healing, honest communication, and overcoming attachment wounds. The conversation also dives into how to build intimacy, the impact of social conditioning, the challenges of modern relationships, and practical tips for improving connection and trust within partnerships.Timestamps:03:22 Playing and Experimenting in Relationships05:06 Honest Conversations and Deep Connection08:23 Navigating Disappointment and Building Trust09:33 Understanding and Healing Attachment Wounds16:07 Practicing Vulnerability and Self-Awareness24:55 Exploring Honest Sex25:45 The Importance of Vulnerability in Sexual Relationships26:46 Being Present During Intimacy28:25 Communicating Desires and Needs29:33 Mindfulness and Sexual Arousal33:09 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Physical Acts38:12 Building Trust and Security in Relationships39:00 Practical Tips for Enhancing IntimacyOur Guest, Shana James:As a relationship coach for 20 years, Shana James has humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. She has specialized in supporting men who are frustrated with their love and sex lives, both in dating and long term relationships. Shana is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast, with 300 episodes. She has a TEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.' Her most recent book is: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive. Shana has a Master's in psychology. She has facilitated decades of workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality.

Warrior Compassion: Healing Men and Mending SocietyIn this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John Beck hosts Sean Harvey, CEO of Warrior Compassion Institute and author of 'Warrior Compassion.' They discuss Sean's extensive work in men's healing and leadership within hypermasculine, paramilitary organizations. The conversation delves into topics like inner work, personal transformation, shame, the impact of attachment styles, and the dynamics of hatred and extremism. Sean shares his approach to engaging men in healing through adventure, play, and safe spaces. He also discusses the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies and the challenges of addressing issues like white supremacy and radicalization.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction01:12 Sean Harvey's Work in Paramilitary Organizations02:50 Men's Healing and Personal Transformation03:44 Addressing Shame and Attachment in Men06:52 Engaging Men in Personal Growth11:24 Vulnerability and Authentic Connection20:27 Dismantling White Supremacy30:25 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies35:42 Building Self-Worth and Compassion41:08 Conclusion and Final About Dr. John's Guest:Sean Harvey is CEO and Senior Strategic Advisor of Warrior Compassion Institute, author of Warrior Compassion: Unleashing the Healing Power of Men, and a TEDx speaker (Compassion Makes the Warrior). He co-founded Project Compassion, a national initiative to deepen compassion in police departments, federal law enforcement, and the military, which now extends to firefighters, paramedics, veterans, and sectors such as defense and energy. Sean's work addresses hate, polarization, and extremism through innovative leadership and engagement strategies. With over 25 years of Leadership and Organization Development experience, Sean has also served on the faculties of Cornell, NYU, and Baruch College CUNY.

In this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John welcomes leadership and empowerment coach Dr. Benjamin Ritter, founder of Live for Yourself Consulting. They discuss Ben's journey from an overworked healthcare executive to a passionate guide for others seeking greater meaning in work and life. Ben shares insights from his new book, Becoming Fearless, and highlights strategies for overcoming self-doubt. Dr. John recounts a challenging vacation that tested his resilience and mindfulness. The conversation covers the importance of self-leadership, crafting meaningful work, and addressing fears in pursuit of personal and professional growth.00:00 Introduction to Dr. Benjamin Ritter01:28 A Challenging Vacation Story04:39 Dealing with Adversity and Mindfulness08:37 The Importance of Asking for Help17:57 Ben's New Book and Personal Updates20:04 Facing and Overcoming Fears24:06 Building Tools for Growth and Accountability24:23 The Power of a Growth Mindset24:53 Overcoming Excuses and Embracing Responsibility25:37 Learning and Practicing Leadership Skills26:25 Understanding Different Levels of Learning28:21 Building Confidence and Self-Worth30:32 The Role of Self-Belief in Personal Growth33:17 Managing Inner Critic and Voices in Your Head40:10 Finding Meaning and Satisfaction in Work41:45 Promoting Self-Leadership in the Workplace42:29 Exploring Job Crafting for Fulfillment44:53 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsAbout Our Esteemed Guest:Dr. Benjamin Ritter, founder of Live for Yourself (LFY) Consulting, is a Chicago based leadership and empowerment coach, national speaker, consultant, mentor, teacher, and passionate about guiding others in finding, creating, and sustaining greater meaning at work and in life. During his time as a healthcare executive and side hustling entrepreneur he was over worked and under-utilized, and despite his professional success didn't feel successful. After much introspection he pivoted professionally and started crafting a more effective, efficient, and aligned life. As he was creating this new life he realized that his process was a process, and that he could coach others how to do the same for themselves. Ben is the author of the book, Becoming Fearless: 65 Strategies To Journey From Self-Doubt To Self-Mastery.Links:benjamin-ritter.comLinkedin.com/in/ritterbenj Youtube.com/c/benjaminritter

Join us for a 50-minute deep dive into everything you wanted to know about love, sex, and relationships in the second half of life.Featuring an expert panel:• Dr. John “The Caveman” Schinnerer - coach, educator, couples' trainer, workshop leader, men's group facilitator, and host of the “Evolved Caveman” podcast• Robby Kendall - psychologist, founder/president of Fishnets and Film, Inc, filmmaker, producer, educator, and drag queen• Linda Bloom - a celebrated marriage and relationship expert, workshop leader, author, therapist, and author• Vann Duke - coach, personal trainer, health consultant, actor, and founder of SecondHalf FitnessModerated by Dr. James H. Bramson, this engaging and insightful live podcast promises to explore the challenges, joys, and opportunities of navigating relationships later in life. Don't miss it!WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here

What's the best way to strengthen your connection in your romantic relationship and navigate through the complexities of your deepest core emotional wounds?Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we dive into the essential understanding of core wounds in relationships, shedding light on how these deep-seated emotional injuries can impact our interactions and connections with our partners. One of Joree's favorite questions in couples therapy is “What is your partner's deepest core wound?” More than half of people don't even know their own core wound. But how can we expect to master the complexities of romance if we aren't the expert on ourself and our partner? We explore the significance of self-awareness, the power of navigating triggers with compassion. We provide a beginning list of some of the deepest wounds we've seen in both the anxious and the avoidant attachment styles. We discuss the role of curiosity and compassion as fundamental tools for healing and understanding. We offer insights into effective communication and the importance of honoring each other's triggers to foster a nurturing, supportive bond.By the end of this podcast, you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, what your core wounds are, how to work with them gently, thus empowering both of you to create a more resilient and loving connection. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds or build a stronger foundation in your current relationship, these insights are invaluable. Join us as we explore the path to a healthier, happier partnership.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Love Isn't Enough: Is Intensive Couples Therapy Right For You?Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFTJoin Joree and I in an in-depth conversation about our experience in intensive couples therapy (i.e., 2 six-hour days of therapy with Charlie & Linda Bloom!). We also go into our belief that intensives are a much more effective means to create positive, lasting change than the traditional 1 hour, once-a-week sessions.If you are someone that: recognizes the distressing accumulation of hurts, annoyances & frustrations in your relationship,  has found traditional couples therapy to be less than effective, or  has never even considered couples therapy but desire a loving, supportive, thriving relationship,…then this episode is for you.  Questions addressed in this one:After significant relationship issues arise, how long do people typically wait before trying couples counseling?What are some of the differences between traditional one-hour-a-week couples therapy vs. intensive couples therapy?How to be clear on what is your individual work and what is your relational work?How do we get men more comfortable with entering into couples counseling?How can we make therapy more effective for men?What is the role of curiosity and nonjudgmentalness in effective arguing?How can effective couples therapy lead to the secure attachment you've always wanted?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you! I'm trying to counterbalance a couple of bad reviews by my ex-wife! 

One of the biggest sources of human suffering comes from our tendency to avoid uncomfortable emotions. We are not taught how to face these unpleasant, somewhat frequent experiences. Our first (and sometimes only) strategy is to suppress them, ignore them, or become overwhelmed by them. Yet how we meet and greet these difficult emotions with curiosity has everything to do with our well-being, resilience, and ability to connect with ourselves and others. Instinctually, we fight against our uncomfortable emotions. In doing so, we reinforce messages of “not good enough” or “I'm not supposed to feel this way.”In this  poignant & actionable conversation with Dr. Beth Kurland, the author of You Don't Have to Change to Change Everything, we learn that, instead of forcing ourselves to feel “happy” and burying what is unpleasant, or instead of getting hooked by intense emotions, we can change our perspective. Dr. Beth offers six vantage points to shift to when difficult emotions arise. They include: ·      The Anchor View: Finding Stable Ground ·      The Child View: Curiosity Is Your Superpower ·      The Audience View: Learn to Zoom Out·      The Compassionate Parent View: How to Become Your Own Ally ·      The Mirror View: Your Strengths and Imperfections Are Welcome Here·      The Ocean View: We're All in This Together Being aware from each of these six vantage points allows us to cultivate inner stability, greater awareness of our internal strengths and inner resources, interconnection with the world around us and, perhaps most importantly, self-compassion. In this way, Dr. Beth provides a uniquely doable approach to healing that emphasizes changing our perspective instead of changing ourselves.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Beth Kurland, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience.  She is also a TEDx and public speaker, a mind-body coach, and an author of three award-winning books: Dancing on The Tightrope: Transcending the Habits of Your Mind and Awakening to Your Fullest Life; The Transformative Power of Ten Minutes: An Eight Week Guide to Reducing Stress and Cultivating Well-Being. Beth blogs for Psychology Today and is the creator of the Well-Being Toolkit online program. She lives in the Boston area. For more, visit BethKurland.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Editing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Anyone who has ever been a people-pleaser can know how hard it is to be in relationships that don't have reciprocity. It can feel like we give and give and give, and just because we are connected in the relationship, can think it's enough, when in reality, we end up feeling depleted and resentful. In this joint episode, with my partner in life and love, Joree Rose, LMFT, we talk about 6 areas that people-pleasers can get stuck in or struggle with, along with some of the context that may lead you to becoming a people-pleaser. The 6 areas that we go in depth into are: difficulty drawing boundaries, feeling an overactive sense of guilt, being conflict avoidant, having a fear of loneliness, building anger & resentment and not knowing what your needs are. If you are someone that feels an imbalance in your relationships, and wants greater insight into why you may be doing what you're doing, and have the tools to shift into healthier relationship patterns, then this episode is for you. Questions addressed in this one:What does it mean to be a “people-pleaser”?What are some of the main issues involved in people pleasing?How does one become a “people-pleaser”?How does boundary setting figure into people pleasing?What about the gradual accumulation of anger and resentment?Where does the heightened sense of guilt come from?How comfortable are people-pleasers with conflict?How does a fear of loneliness enter into the picture?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you!If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Psychedelics have been described as “the mind revealing itself to itself.” Recent research backs this notion up, showing the profound healing impact of psychedelics such as psilocybin (magic mushrooms), MDMA, and more. MDMA has been deemed “breakthrough status” by the FDA for folks struggling with PTSD. Psilocybin has been given “breakthrough status” by the FDA for its positive results for individuals with depression, anxiety and substance abuse disorders. There are a variety of ways to access such medicines. Some of them are legal. Some take place in the “underground.” One of the underground ways is via a psychedelic journey led by a shaman  and/or medicine woman. Yet, what does a group psychedelic journey look like? What should one expect?  What is helpful to do prior to a journey? What are the safeguards needed to ensure a positive, healing experience? How does one create a safe container for a journey? Why is integration so important following the journey? About Dr. John's Guest:Formerly known as Lois Koffi, now her ceremonial spiritual name is Misty Magdalena Grace (Magdalena for short). She is a plant medicine woman/spiritual teacher & microdosing coach, focused on mental/physical/spiritual health.  She has been a coach for 23 years, coaching 20,000 plus people in both health and fitness, as well as business/sales. She has seen so so many people focus on the external DOING of goal setting, new year's resolutions and intention setting and realized that most of our success lies WITHIN. She has had her own awakening journey of working through addictive behaviors, depression/anxiety and struggles as well as many victories and successes.  She has lost 12 friends to suicide and many to addiction and has a huge vision/mission to help people safely with sacred plants.  She has trained with several plant medicine women and shamans through initiations and deep dive healing over 50 times.  Find Out More About Microdosing:https://microdosingforhealth.now.site/homeSubscribe To Her Newsletter:https://loiskoffi.lpages.co/healthy-n-wealthy-n-wise-subscription/Check Out Her Podcast:https://loiskoffi.com/podcast/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Let's face it: couples argue. Disagreements are inevitable. Arguing is not a problem; in fact, there's a lot of authenticity & freedom in being able to express yourself fully, even when you're angry. The problem is when arguing is ineffective, or when anger & insults erode the safety & security of your relationship. However, there are proven ways that you can argue better; ways that actually benefit your partnership. Learn the scientifically-proven rules to fight fair, argue well, repair quickly & ultimately resolve those long-standing disagreements with Dr. John & Joree Rose, LMFT. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Yoga is a group of physical, mental, energetic and spiritual practices which originated in ancient India, aim to still the mind and reduce human suffering (Duḥkha). Yoga can even include sexual energy in its practices. Yoga-like practices were first mentioned in the ancient Hindu text known as Rigveda. Yoga is referred to in a number of the Upanishads.The first known appearance of the word "yoga" with the same meaning as the modern term is in the Katha Upanishad, which was probably composed between the fifth and third centuries BCE. The Bhagavad Gita describes yoga as “skill in action.” It has to do with the raising of consciousness, the discovery of dysfunctional thoughts and perceptions, the reduction of suffering, and the discovery of inner peace. One of the keys to healthy aging, peace of mind and terrific sexuality for men is yoga, partly as it aids in maintaining muscle strength, flexibility and balance. Join Dr. John in an arousing conversation with Thomas Gloor, a yoga teacher for men. He has taught for several decades and his wisdom is inspiring. Some topics covered include:The difference between the energetic body and the physical body.Tantric yoga and sexuality.The difference between orgasm and ejaculation.Transforming emotional energy into spiritual energy.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

In an epoch of disconnection, alienation, loneliness and lack of meaning, how do we begin to tap into happiness? How might we start to cultivate personal power and self-confidence? How can the challenges we face ignite and illuminate our gifts to the world? Join Dr. John as he chats with Stephanie James, a psychotherapist, author & filmmaker on these topics and many more, such as…How does a therapist deal with grief?What beliefs about the after life serve you best?How do the worst challenges in your life become a gift? The rift between science and spiritualityA seasoned psychotherapist and transformation coach, a dynamic public speaker, published author and filmmaker, Stephanie James delivers her message in a powerful way to help others find their own internal sparks, break through limiting beliefs and create an empowered life full of passion and possibility. Her new film, When Sparks Ignite, hosts a highly reputable cast of international thought leaders and changemakers.  Its powerful message is about how the challenges we face can actually become the match point that ignites something within us that becomes our gift to the world. Her latest book, Becoming Fierce, takes the reader through a compelling and dynamic journey to expand personal power, purge what doesn't serve, and design an authentic life that is deeply fulfilling.Igniting the Spark with Stephanie James is a world-wide weekly podcast created to help you live your best life.Stephanie has an unrelenting commitment and personal mission to bring as much love and healing to the world as possible. Her message is clear: “Your. Healing. Matters.”  For more information go to:https://www.stephaniejames.world/For trailer of When Sparks Ignite visit:https://vimeo.com/705531723/7a12f0449dIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.

Join Joree and I in our new monthly Master Class series on Relationships: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/And join us in Costa Rica Sept 28-Oct. 5, 2024: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/In this joint episode with my partner Joree Rose, LMFT,, we talk with esteemed therapists, Charlie and Linda Bloom, who were an integral part of our healing after our breakup. Married for over 54 years, they have been doing joint couples work for over 40 years, leading workshops and courses all over the world, and are the authors of 5 books; the most recent is An End To Arguing, which we talk about in this episode. Charlie and Linda share valuable, insightful and practical tools for how couples can work towards and maintain a strong relationship, despite hardships, of which they have survived many. Beginning with a shared value of being lifelong learners, they have always taken the time for personal growth which has served as the foundation for their relationship, as they've always been inspired to aim higher. In this episode we talk about the 3 words you should never say to your partner in an argument, how you can have a breakdown become a breakthrough instead of a breakup, and how relationships are spiritual practices. When you can self-reflect and take responsibility for your emotions and experience, reveal with vulnerability what you are feeling rather than conceal it, and continue to communicate until you are feeling complete after an argument, then you can truly reside in the safety of a secure relationship. If you are someone who is interested in building an extraordinary relationship, then this episode is for you.Find out more about two upcoming relationship classes taught by Charlie and Linda!Esalen workshop from May 24-26.   Esalen.org/workshops/secrets-of-great-relationships-for-individuals-and-couples-052424Kripalu workshops from Feb 9-11 Kripalu.org/presenters-programs/secrets-great-relationshipsAbout Linda & Charlie: Linda Bloom, LCSW and Charlie Bloom, MSW:Charlie and Linda have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups, and organizations since 1975 and have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA and internationally, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, and The Northern California Mindfulness Institute. They have authored five books, including the best seller, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 sold), Secrets of Great Marriages, Happily Ever After... and 39 Other Myths about Love, That which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places, and An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships. They are founders and co-directors of Bloomwork, based in Santa Cruz, California. Their website is www.bloomwork.comIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.

2023 was a rough year for me. And I suspect it may have been rough for you too. In hopes of lightening things up as we head into a more peaceful and productive 2024, I interview Alli Goldberg, an up and coming comedian who, among other things, hosts a live dating show, Love Isn't Blind, in which the men cannot speak. Alli and I talk about what she has found out about dating given her unique perspective as one who is currently dating and who MCs a dating show. She is funny, insightful and illuminating. It is truly an enjoyable conversation. Listen now, as I ask a question I've never uttered before, “If you were a sex toy, which one would you be?” Allison Goldberg is a creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Savage Lovecast, WIRED, NPR, The LA Times, and more. Most recently, she sold her live comedy show How To Break Up By Text to a well-known podcasting platform (releasing in Feb 2024). In that show and format, celebrities perform your break-up texts and then an expert joins as we break down your break up. For the past year, she's been hosting her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, which is a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak. Alli was recently named one of the top 10 funniest women in NYC. Alli is a graduate of Yale University.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men's hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Depression has risen to unprecedented highs in men. Loneliness among men is an epidemic. How do we reconcile these disparate truths?Based on more than fifteen years of research, Keith E. Edwards, PhD, illuminates men's masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. He also shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be. The men in his study thought they had a unique secret, but they all shared the same secret. They each wore masks to hide their insecurities and portray an image that would be seen as “man enough” according to the external expectations of them as men. These external expectations oppress women and transgender people, place some men above other men, and limit all men. Men struggle with their unmasking. Too often, as soon as their insecurities reemerge, the mask snaps back into place as though attached with an elastic cord. With mask consciousness, men can engage in their own process of becoming by exploring their identity and practicing aligning their actions with integrity. About Keith Edwards:Keith helps transformational leaders make the complex uncomplicated for leadership, learning, and equity. His research, writing, and speaking have received national awards and recognition. Keith is the author of the book Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity, which based on more than fifteen years of research. Keith illuminates men's masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men's hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Keith shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be.Keith co-edited the book Addressing Sexual Violence in Higher Education and co-authored the chapter on Comprehensive Sexual Violence Prevention in this book. His TEDx Talk on preventing sexual violence has been viewed around the world.He is co-host of Student Affairs NOW, the premier podcast for student affairs.Find out more about Keith:KeithEdwards.com  If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

At the root of all happy and fulfilled relationships are deep connections - emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and sexual. Connection is something we all say we want and yet not many of us know how to actually achieve it in a way that is truly sustainable. In this episode, Joree and I share some stories from our recent trip to Africa that highlight the importance and value of human connection. We also share personal anecdotes from our own relationship, in our journey to develop deeper connection with one another, as well as some patterns and experiences that we see with clients, in which connection is not achieved, compromised, or simply nonexistent. The good news is that the tools to achieve deeply connected relationships are all learnable. And, to this end, Joree and I are really excited to be offering new ways to learn more about yourself, the barriers to your own ability to connect vulnerably and authentically with others, as well as relational tools to strengthen any partnership that has the desire to grow. Reserve your space in our new monthly Master Class to learn new ways to cultivate more connection & intimacy with your loved one!To join our new monthly Master Class Series: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/ If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Earlier this year, I went through a breakup with my partner, Joree. It was bruuuuutal. Fortunately, we reconciled after two months and now are stronger than ever. Yet, it raises a critical question: How do you BEST deal with the painful breakup from a loved one? We know that love is addictive. So breakups are a lot like kicking a substance abuse problem. But why do some people get addicted to their ex while others don't? And how can we best manage the painful emotions involved in a breakup?Join Dr. John for an amazing conversation with Dr. Cortney Warren, a psychologist and professor specializing in how to let go of your ex (among other things!). Topics covered:How to survive a tough breakup?What are the differences when you break it off vs. being on the receiving end of the break up?How is love addictive?Why do some lovers get addicted to their ex while others don't ? How does this relate to obsessive or stalking behavior?What can family and friends do to help a loved one who is addicted to an ex? About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Dr. Cortney S. Warren is a Board Certified Clinical Psychologist and Adjunct Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at the Kirk Kerkorian School of Medicine at University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV). Having won numerous professional awards for her research, Cortney is an expert on addictions, self-deception, romantic relationships, among other things. Her newest work is a self-help book that explores breakups through an addictive framework called Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction (2023) Her earlier book is Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception (2014).If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

 To what extent are you sexually repressed? Do you have a hard time talking about sex? Body parts? Can you ask for what you want in bed? Do you even know what you want? Great sex is an important part of a satisfying relationship. Find out more about how to level up the sexual part of your relationship in this episode of The Evolved Caveman. Topics covered:How to bring playfulness into your sex life.Sex Outside the Lines: How we can explore all that is possible in the bedroom.The blocks that prevent us from exploring sexually.How to turn shame into the erotic.The importance of consent in sex and how to do so.The difference between erotic energy and sexual energy. Why sex is such a taboo topic and how to overcome the discomfort in speaking about it.How to develop greater intimacy with your partner.About Dr. John's Guest:Are you looking to unleash your inner passion and take your relationships to the next level? Look no further than Court Vox, a certified sex and intimacy coach and surrogate partner intern. His work as a Sacred Intimate is based in Los Angeles and he is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches. As a founder of The Body Vox and co-founder of SQUIRM, Court is dedicated to helping individuals discover and explore their sexuality in a safe and healthy manner. He is also part of a team of sex educators who have created the renowned program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats worldwide.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!  

The Wisdom of Elders. What can we learn from the wisdom of men who have suffered trauma, made mistakes & risen above it all? As it turns out, we can learn an incredible amount.  Don St John's life has been nothing short of miraculous. He suffered abuse in childhood—violent beatings & constant verbal abuse. In his early twenties, he was incapable of feeling human connection, had poor impulse control, drank excessively & had poor physical health. By age 35, he had gone through 3 marriages & 3 divorces. He had very little, if any, sense of connection to his body or to his emotions. His life trajectory looked bleak indeed.Today, psychologist & author of the award winning book, Healing the Wounds of Childhood: A Psychologist's Journey And Discoveries From Wretched Beginnings To A Thriving Life, shares & teaches about the work he has done and how he transformed his life from the inside out. He offers ways for others to do the same, no matter what the age or what their beginnings.Topics covered:Trauma is a vague & overused word. How do we define trauma?How does trauma impact us?Trauma largely operates outside of conscious awareness. How do we begin to become aware of our own trauma?How can we begin to heal from our various traumas?How are vibrant health, high quality intimate relationships & a good relationship with your body all inter-related?What are some key insights and practices to build extraordinary relationships?The Loneliness Epidemic and it's consequencesWhere to reach Dr. Donwww.pathsofconnection.com don@st-jon.comIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Star Wars. Lord Of The Rings. Call Of Duty.  Homer's Odyssey. Spiderman. All are examples of the Hero's Journey. Popularized by the famed mythologist Joseph Campbell, this story arc is etched into our minds and hearts as what we are to do if we are to succeed as men. Yet, what happens if our lives are merely ordinary? What if we never get the chance to be a hero? Do we matter any less? Find out more in this week's episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast. Topics covered: What are archetypes and why should you care?What is the Hero's Journey? What is the Anti-hero's Journey?How can the Hero's Journey be damaging to boys?The archetypes we normally hear about in men's work are the king, the magician, the warrior and lover. What are some of the other archetypes that have something important to teach us?Why is it so important to create space between clients' selves and their culture?How has the trope of the bromance damaged men?About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Dr. Jason Frishman is a psychologist who has been working for over 20 years to support individuals, groups, families, organizations and businesses. He holds degrees in adventure therapy and narrative psychology. Jason is excited to bring over two decades of work in offices, institutions, kitchens, farmers' markets, woodlots and boardrooms to wild new environments. Whether as a psychotherapist, the creator and founder of JourneyMen, public speaker, thought leader or narrative consultant, Jason believes that our lives are adventurous, and we can and should be an active, engaged author of our own adventure stories.Resources:Email Jason at jason@JourneyMenFoundation.com Visit his site at JourneyMenFoundation.orgIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

The cliche' that happiness is an inside job is true. Jon Kabat-Zinn said, “wherever you go, there you are.” The foundational step to a happier, more fulfilling life is self-awareness. And 95% of us will quickly self-report that we are highly self-aware. In truth, it's about 12% of us. One of the most powerful ways to increase self-awareness is meditation. It allows us to turn inwards and explore the inner landscape to gain greater awareness of our thoughts, feelings, motivations and values. It enables you to become the captain of your own destiny, so that you are in control rather than typical mindless negative habits. Find out more in this enlightening conversation with Chris Cirak.About Dr. John's Peaceful Warrior Guest, Chris Cirak:Chris has been practicing meditation since 2015. He came to it because all the things society says lead to happiness (i.e., the bullshit story we are all fed from youth), didn't. Chasing outcome after outcome left him feeling empty and burnt out. He sought a better way to live life.After exploring many forms of meditation, he settled on what he found to be the most effective method of getting to the root of our mind's conditioned reactivity. His book, Be You – The Journey of Self-Realization, lays the foundation for his courses and teachings. He has studied with and learned from many of the luminaries of our time, including Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Brian Weiss, Joseph Campbell, A Course in Miracles, and many others.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Research from Gallup Organization has shown for decades that employee engagement is minimal. Gallup defines employee engagement as the involvement and enthusiasm of employees in both their work and workplace. Yet, only 23% of the workforce is actively engaged in their job, while 25% is actively disengaged. This bottom quartile has been shown to have 81% more absenteeism, 43% higher turnover, 28% more shrinkage, and 64% more accidents. COVID did not help these dynamics. So how do we create more employee engagement? How do we effectively increase employee motivation? How can we inspire purpose & meaning in our employees?Topics covered in this one:What is the biggest challenge today's organizations are seeking to solve concerning employee and workforce success?How does employee happiness lead to high performance in organizations?How do you solve these challenges?What's the science behind how happiness leads to greater performance?About Dr. John's Guest:Dr. Pelè is an educator, musician, bestselling author, and the Founder of Profitable Happiness®. Through books, software, training, and music, he seeks to change the world by helping organizations build cultures of high employee engagement, experience, and performance.To find out more, visit www.drpele.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

New developments in the treatment of mental health challenges have been painfully slow to arrive. Talk therapy, lithium, prozac, electroshock therapy have all developed in the past 150 years. There have been a number of new medications developed but each has its own profile of positive and negative benefits. And few are highly effective (i.e., help more than 50% of the population they are intended to serve). In the past 10 years, however, there have been some noticeable improvements from some unsuspecting sources. These include psilocybin, ketamine, vagal nerve stimulation, Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS), Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) and MDMA. Tune in to this fascinating conversation with Dr. Rebecca Allen, who heads up the Seattle Neuropsychiatric Treatment Center which is comprised of 5 treatment centers throughout Washington. Recent research out of Johns Hopkins, published in the prestigious journal Nature, found that critical windows of learning were re-opened in mice for 2,3 and 4 weeks depending on which psychedelic drug they were administered (and no, I have no idea how you discover the proper dosage of psilocybin for a mouse!). The mice were given either ketamine, MDMA, psilocybin, LSD or ibogaine. Ketamine kept the social reward learning period active for 48 hours, psilocybin and MDMA opened the critical learning window for two weeks, LSD for 3 weeks and ibogaine opened it for four weeks. This duration aligns loosely with the self-reported after effects of each psychedelic drug in humans. This post-treatment period could offer a valuable window of opportunity for maintaining the learning state. It appears that these drugs impact the RNA and thus, the genetic level, turning on or off genes associated with social learning. So these drugs seem to be impacting at a spiritual level, an interpersonal level, a cognitive level, a neurological level and at a genetic level. It is research such as this (as well as research in larger mammals, i.e., humans) that has heralded a new age in the treatment now called the Psychedelic Renaissance. Topics Covered In This Episode:Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS). For which mental health diagnoses is this treatment used? What is its efficacy?Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT). For which mental health disorders is this prescribed? What is its rate of success?Ketamine therapy. For what has it been shown to be helpful? Effectiveness rates?Psilocybin (magic mushrooms). What disorders show promising results here? What percentage of the population responds positively to them?Vagal nerve stimulation (VNS). What does this help?MDMA (Street names: ecstasy or molly). What about the recent excitement around MDMA for healing? What disorders are responsive to MDMA? About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest - Dr. Rebecca Allen:Dr. Allen is, among many other things,…Partner & Director of Neuropsychiatry and Research at the Seattle Neuropsychiatric Treatment Center Clinical Assistant Professor at the University of Washington Vice President of the Clinical TMS Society and Past President of theWashington State Psychiatric AssociationFind out more at https://seattlentc.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues. 

What Aren't We Addicted To?! We can be addicted to alcohol, nicotine, marijuana, narcotics, exercise, sex, shopping, social media, gaming and more. What is addiction? And how do you know if you are addicted? Most importantly, what do you do about it?Join Dr. John for a penetrating interview with clinical social worker and substance abuse counselor, Steve Peterson. Steve has been doing this work since 1986.  He has worked in inpatient and outpatient treatment centers, in private practice settings and on large research outcome studies. Most of his clients have co-existing mental health and substance abuse disorders. Topics covered include:What makes addiction a disease and not simply a failure of will?How is addiction defined?Why do some people get addicted while others don't?How can you tell when use becomes addiction?What are some of the less well known addictions?Why do addicts act irrationally?What is the range of treatment options for addiction?Why is relapse so common? What are some of the triggers for relapse?What can family and friends do to help a loved one who is addicted?To find out more about Steve Peterson, email him at AODAGuy62@gmail.com. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

After coming back together after a short, but painful breakup, Joree and I consciously adopted daily and weekly habits and tools to strengthen our relationship. While we had always put time and attention into our relationship, it didn't always result in the connection or alignment that we both needed to feel seen, heard, validated or fulfilled. In this episode, we go into detail, sharing what we did differently than before to consciously step towards one another in an effort to demonstrate our love, commitment, and dedication to the relationship. Once again (as in Season 5, Episode 1), we share very vulnerable & honest examples & insights into how we healed in the hopes that we can inspire you to create shifts in your relationship. We know that strong relationships are foundational to your happiness & health so we invite you to adopt some of what we have embodied so that you can thrive in your partnership.If this conversation inspires you, then join Joree and I in Costa Rica  in Sept. 2024 for a week-long relationship retreat in which you'll gain the insights & tools to heal what is standing in the way of the fulfilling relationship you desire. Click here to secure your spot; space is limited. Early bird discounts until the end of 2023.Here is another link for Costa Rica retreat: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

“Kill yourself.” “The world would be better off without you.” This is the inner voice of a client of mine. This voice has been existent within him for over a decade. I always assumed this was simply extreme depression. But what if it's not? What if this voice originates from someone other than his true self? What is the brain is porous and can absorb energies from outside? What if spiritual possession (i.e., unattached burdens) isn't just in the movies? This is the compelling topic discussed today with Bob Falconer, author & long-time IFS practitioner. Topics Covered In This Spine-tingling Episode:What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)? What is an Unattached Burden (UB)?How are UBs seen by other cultures around the world?How do you differentiate between a real part of a person and an unattached burden?How do you best respond to an unattached burden?How do you send a UB on their merry way?What makes us more vulnerable to Unattached Burdens?How do you think of self at this point? To what extent do you agree with Dick Schwartz that self is both a particle and a wave  (in quantum physics terms). In other words, does the self simultaneously extend beyond one's self to others as well as is contained within the mind and body?What are some of the positives that emerge from Unattached Burdens?About Dr. John's Guest:Robert Falconer is an Internal Family Systems therapy practitioner, teacher, and writer. Bob has devoted himself full-time to IFS work since training in IFS with Richard Schwartz more than a decade ago, and assisting Dr, Schwartz in many trainings and workshops. During the earlier part of his career, before discovering IFS, Bob worked with survivors of major trauma.  His focus now is on the study and treatment of the others within us, also known as unattached burdens in IFS, or UBs for short. His new book, The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession, a work of more than 10 years of research, was published in April, 2023. Resources:For more info on Bob, visit RobertFalconer.us. For Bob's book, visit The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession at Amazon.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!

Lying. Ghosting. Stalking. Sexual assault. Bread crumbing. There is a lot that has changed in today's dating world. The vast majority of people now meet their partner via online dating sites (e.g., OKCupid, Match, Tinder, Bumble, etc.). What are the best ideas about how to expertly maneuver this ever-changing landscape? Join Dr. John with Irina Manta (Law School Professor) and Michelle Lange (Psychologist), both of whom have both had recent dating experience and whom host Strangers On The Internet, a podcast focused on online dating. Topics Covered In This Episode:What is it like being on dating apps for women?How present is the threat of sexual violence for women when dating in person?Some men get offended because they know they aren't a physical threat yet sometimes women have to entertain the possibility that they are. What would you say to them?Deceit and lying on the dating appsHow to form a connection with a woman via online dating?To what extent is there a difference between asynchronous (or DM'ing) and synchronous communications (i.e., in person)?How can women create a safe space for men in terms of embracing the man's full emotional spectrum? How to improve your dating profile for greater success?Some people play games in dating — Don't text too often; Don't respond too quickly. What are your thoughts on strategy and game playing in dating?The difficulties that women with children go through in order to arrange for a date.ResourcesCheck out Strangers On The Internet on all the major podcasting platforms.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Here's the true story of two therapists who fell in love, then struggled in their relationship with some repetitive, seemingly unbreakable patterns that lead to a painful breakup and how they eventually healed to be better than ever. In my Season 5 premiere, me and my now-again fiancee, Joree Rose, LMFT, share our very vulnerable journey over the past year of what led to our breakup and how we were able to come back together. We have always known love isn't enough, and our love for one another was never in question. However, an accumulation of small hurts, combined with wounds and traumas from our past and childhood got in the way of us being able to be fully authentic, vulnerable and ultimately able to hear one another. Despite our education, training and careers, we found ourselves in the painful (and common!) anxious-avoidant trap that many couples get into. And after 2 months apart, realizing that we were the only ones for each other, we committed to doing the deep work of healing, which has led us to being better than ever, along with the ability to have created new patterns that reflect our love and devotion to growth and a healthy partnership. It is our hope that our honesty inspires other couples to courageously embark on the journey of healing so that you can have the fulfilling and connected relationship you desire.If this conversation inspires you, then join Joree and I in Costa Rica for a relationship retreat in which you'll gain the insights and tools to heal what is standing in the way of the fulfilling relationship you desire. Click here to secure your spot; space is limited. Early bird discounts until the end of 2023.Here is another link for Costa Rica retreat: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Bonus Summer Episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast! Trigger alert! This episode discusses the topics of suicide, self-harm, depression, narcissistic parental abuse & anxiety. This is a deeply personal, difficult & revealing interview WITH MY DAUGHTER! In the hour long interview, Molly bravely shares her story beginning with her junior year in high school which she absolutely crushed with straight A's, placed 5th at State in Speech, doing Improv comedy, winning a place at Girls State this summer, Youth In Government, Model UN, Mock Trial & more. Then we go back a couple years to when she was splitting time 50-50 between my place and her mom's, her descent into depression, self-harm & suicidality. Both of us firmly believe in the importance of sharing stories of our struggles & mental illness to normalize them for others. We also want to show that people who may look good on the outside (at times) also struggle internally with pain & suffering. I am so proud of her ability to be able to put her experiences into words!  It's critical that we be able to talk about these issues. Tune in and take a listen! This is an incredibly mature, poised, vulnerable & courageous share by a 17 year old! If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Drs. John Schinnerer and Jim Bramson reunite to tackle the subjects of self-awareness and humility. They share their own missteps on this subject and can now laugh about it (tragedy + time = humor). In this interview, Dr. John (whom  we lovingly like to call, the Caveman) takes us deep into his own cavernous mind and discusses the “death of ego” as a prerequisite to connecting to “source” (meta-consciousness). He opines about how the ego hamstrings our curiosity, psychological development, and narrative of “who we are” and “who we are becoming.” Dr. Jim and the Caveman deconstruct the movie “My Dinner with Andre” and Senator Josh Howley's new book “Manhood: The Masculine Virtues America Needs.” They break into laughter reading reviews on Howley's book which was seriously panned by critics. The book is a misguided portrayal on how men should show up in our society (much more “manly”) and how our society should show up better for manly men. Fortunately, Howleys' book did not reference Tucker Carlson's recommendation that men can return to their testosterone fueled dominance by tanning their testicles. Yet, there were other equally absurd assertions made by the Missouri Senator and fledgling author. This is the same guy who supported the January 6th insurrectionists storming the capital building (only to run away from them at the end). The Caveman and Dr. Jim delight in some old fashioned schadenfreude. Howley's book has the opposite message Dr. John wants to convey in his popular Podcast (the Evolved Caveman) or in his men's group he runs (for EBMC, Psychology, Inc). Dr. John does NOT want to normalize toxic masculinity (and he does not recommend tanning your testicles to become more manly). You may recall from our previous podcast with the Caveman, Dr. John consulted on the Pixar film “Inside out.” In this episode, he discusses the importance of men becoming curious and highly aware of their own feelings, not just anger and frustration, but the whole gamut of feelings. The aforementioned Pixar movie the Caveman consulted on illustrates the Internal Family System (IFS) model and the importance of EQ (emotional intelligence). In the film, the main protagonist learned how to be less agnostic about her own emotions. She learned to embrace her core feelings (or internal parts) and they connect her to what John refers to as “source” (i.e., sacred space, satori or nirvana).WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here

When I was a graduate student back in the 1990's, it was a career killer for scientists to admit to believing in God, Source or something larger than self. Much has changed since then. Despite my strong scientific training at UC Berkeley, the older I've gotten the more I lean into spirituality. Science is one lens through which I view the world, but it is limited. Not everything can be explained via the scientific lens. Spirituality is one more lens through which we may make sense of reality. And we know from research that believing in something larger than self is a foundational belief for a happier, thriving life. Join me for a fascinating conversation with a former physician who left medicine to become a writer and student of consciousness and spirituality. Some topics covered:How do we begin to reconcile science and spirituality?Hegel's idea of thesis vs. antithesis. What are we evolving towards? Personal evolution and the idea of horizontal vs. vertical evolution.What is unhappiness?What is happiness?What are the barriers to our personal evolution?Our tendency to be passive in approaching transformation & evolution. Better to be active in promoting change by being proactive in questioning our beliefs & roles by paying attention to what we are thinking & feeling and why we think & feel that way.You write about living authentically. What is your idea of the alignment of heart-head-hands  which allows us to live authentically?Dr. Victor Acquista has become a successful international author and speaker following careers as a primary-care physician and medical executive. He is known for "Writing to Raise Consciousness." His current focus is on embodying a soul-centered presence and awareness in daily life.  His non-fiction and his workshops focus on personal growth and transformation, especially as pertains to health and wellness. His fiction includes social messaging intended to get the reader engaged in thought-provoking themes. He is the creator and narrator/host of a podcast series, Podfobler Productions. Dr. Acquista has a longstanding interest in consciousness studies, is a student of Integral Theory, and strives to do his part to make our planet a wee bit better. He lives with his wife in Florida. He is a member of the Authors Guild, the Mystery Writers of America, the International Thriller Writers, and the Florida Writers Association.Dr. Acquista's links: https://victoracquista.com/ https://www.facebook.com/victoracquistaauthor/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/victor-acquista-md-bb540917/ All his books are available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Apple, and most other platforms. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Personal development isn't for just the spiritual or effeminate man.  It's for every man. It is a necessary and courageous journey into your inner world. It takes balls. It requires stepping into your fear of the unknown. This is where the real treasure can be found - contentment, happiness, satisfaction, purpose and fulfilling relationships.  After all, all the other realms have been explored - the surface of the planet Earth, the oceans, and outer space. The only heroic journey that remains is the internal journey - the spelunking of the shadow and soul. Taking an honest look at our internal conversations, struggles, and traumas is what is needed to truly evolve to your next level. And this brave journey ultimately allows us to positively impact our external environment and relationships to reflect the happiness and satisfaction you so richly deserve. Some Of The Topics Covered: Why men need to learn to wave the white flag of humility?Why do we need to stop searching for purpose?Why are the 3 Horsemen of Death, guilt, shame and regret, so devastating for us?Are there truly “alpha” and “beta” males? Join Dr. John in a poignant and informative conversation with Johnny Elsasser, former Army Ranger, who served 4 combat tours between Iraq & Afghanistan & another 5 years protecting the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq in Baghdad. He is a badass evolved man. Dr. John's Guest:Johnny Elsasser is a former Special Operations U.S. Army Ranger with four combat tours between Iraq and Afghanistan and another 5 years protecting the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq in Baghdad. Johnny has seen the field of masculinity through extreme alpha perspectives and knows the trials and tribulations all men deal with in society today. Johnny's mission is to help men find strength in developing their authentic masculinity to be consistent with who they are and not what society expects them to be. Johnny has shifted his fight to advocating and supporting men in finding their own masculine blueprint and cultivating their purpose as positive men in this world today. You can check him out on his excellent podcast The Art of Masculinity. He just completed his first book, Design the Man Within.For more info on Johnny:IG: johnny.elsasserWeb: johnnyelsasser.com If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

What happens when you walk away from the pinnacle of success? What happens when you walk away from the traditional path to success? If it's not just wealth & power, what does success truly mean? Where is the room in “success” for happiness? Why is looking inward to critical for success & happiness? How does authenticity enter into the equation of a successful life? What happens when we stop living for the validation of others & begin living for internal validation? How do attachment & non attachment figure in to a good life?Some of the topics covered in this otherworldly conversation:Attachment & non attachment to the material world…“A being whose awareness is totally free, who does not cling to anything, is liberated.” Ram DassThe following is perhaps the most important question for all of us. How can we a) believe change is possible and b) encourage such change?What is the massive difference between knowing a truth & having a visceral bodily feeling of such a truth?Imagine your life as it would be if were less afraid.  How is fear holding us back from our own evolution & growth?If “We aren't who we think we are,” then, who are we? Authenticity & how to practice it.The power of slowing down and how it speeds up the journey of getting where we truly want to go. How to become more self-confident. About My Unusually Wise Guest:Danielle Sunberg left her law firm after winning a $6B judgment to travel the world and study how to create a fulfilling life. As an authentic leadership expert, author, and speaker, and coach, she walks leaders on the path that our society doesn't teach us how to navigate: our inward path. This is the journey we must take to cultivate powerful leadership to transform our lives, businesses, and the world. She is the author of Atlas of Being.Danielle helps leaders navigate:  Building mental wellness and emotional agility amidst intense pressure and stress  Creating joy, peace, and connectedness at work and at home  Connecting to deep purpose and values (“North Stars”) to expedite effectiveness  Why do these things matter? Why should we invest in personal development?  Well, according to McKinsey, professionals who feel fulfilled report: 6.5 times higher resilience 4 times better physical health 1.5 times greater likelihood to go above & beyond at work If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

The old term is Multiple Personality Disorder. (MPD) The new term is Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). Different terms for the same psychological condition - a core self surrounded by a myriad of other personalities that vary in age, personality, sex, and temperament. Normally, MPD develops as a result of severe and repeated trauma at a young age. This trauma causes the core personality to split and develop a second personality to protect the core self and absorb the abuse. This pattern continues depending on the individual and the type of abuse suffered. In my career, I have interviewed Pastor Michael Chalmberg who specialized in the area of MPD due to ritualistic satanic abuse. One of his clients developed 47 personalities, or alters. In this interview, I speak with Rebecca Chandler who developed several alters as a result of ongoing sexual abuse at the hands of her grandfather. Most of us look at people with MPD as mentally ill. And it's true, there is some psychological healing to be done there. BUT, what if we are ALL a little bit multiple personality disordered? That is the premise of a relatively new psychological approach known as Internal Family Systems. Tune in now to find out more about all of this incredibly fascinating psychological phenomena! Some of the Topics Covered…How do DID and chronic PTSD develop?How many personalities did Rebecca develop? What were their characteristics? How did they relate to Rebecca's core self?How did having MPD play out in her professional life?Which alter was her biggest challenge?How does MPD relate to Internal Family Systems?When Rebecca was finally free of her alters, she encountered a new challenge, “Without trauma, who am I?”What role can men play in supporting sexual abuse survivors?About My Courageous Guest:Rebecca E Chandler is an author, survivor, and advocate. Her memoir "It Won't Hurt None - A Story Of Courage, Healing, & A Return To Wholeness” details her journey from the depths of trauma to a place of hope a&nd healing, offering a roadmap for others who are struggling with similar issues. Rebecca lived with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and complex PTSD (c-PTSD) for most of her life & was often misdiagnosed by medical professionals. However, through therapy & self-reflection, Rebecca was able to heal & reclaim her voice and power. Rebecca's story is a testament to the human spirit & its ability to overcome even the most devastating of circumstances.Please also Rebecca on the web at: Author Website FacebookTikTokInstagramYouTube If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

In a recent FiveThirtyEight poll, 60 percent of men surveyed said society puts pressure on men to behave in a way that is unhealthy or bad. Men account for 80 percent of suicides in the United States, and 3 in 10 men have suffered from depression. Ed Adams and Ed Frauenheim say a big part of the problem is a model of masculinity that's become outmoded and even dangerous, to both men and women.The conventional notion of what it means to be a man--what Adams and Frauenheim call "Confined Masculinity"--traps men in an emotional straitjacket; steers them toward selfishness, misogyny, and violence; and severely limits their possibilities. As an antidote, they propose a new paradigm: Liberating Masculinity. It builds on traditional masculine roles like the protector and provider, expanding men's options to include caring, collaboration, emotional expressivity, an inclusive spirit, and environmental stewardship.Some of the topics covered in this one:A better definition of masculinity to better serve men and womenBetter ways to show up a manThe top commonalities among great leadersThe future direction of masculinity Surviving growing up as a male in societyThe damage done to young men growing up in the Man BoxAbout My Esteemed Guest, Ed Frauenheim:Ed Frauenheim was senior director of content at Great Place to Work--the research organization behind Fortune's "100 Best Companies to Work For" list. He has written or cowritten articles for Fortune, Inc., and Wired and is the coauthor of three books.Ed Frauenheim has wrestled with what it means to be a man for four decades. In his personal and professional lives. As a young man, an adult, a father. As an observer of the best workplaces in the world. As cofounder of a group trying to reinvent organizations.The traditional male obsessions with winning, with brute strength, with becoming king of the corporate hill haunted Ed for much of his life. But through personal reflection, mindful practices, and plenty of help, he has come to redefine as worthy traits like emotional sensitivity, exuberance, and camaraderie. He's living a fuller life as a result.Ed has cowritten three other books, including A Great Place to Work for All: Better for Business, Better for People, Better for the World. In that book and other content, Ed has explored how our more-complex, interconnected economy is calling on men to break free of a narrow version of masculinity. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

We often make the mistake of equating longevity with success when it comes to marriage. “Wow! You've been married 30 years? Congratulations!” “Well, we've been miserable for the last 10.”  Longevity does not equal success in relationship. Were we living back in tribal times, a marriage of 15 years would have been a massive success since we would be dead at 30. Now, for the first time in human history, the success of the family hinges on the happiness of the couple. Roughly 50% of marriages will end in divorce. Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to discover who are going to become and who you are going to love next. And, after all, relationships don't run on potential! I'm not pro-divorce. I'm pro-happiness. So what do you do when it's time to get divorced and end your marriage? Listen in to this divorce attorney and find out!Some topics covered:What happens when you need to extricate yourself from your marriage? Who is initiating more divorces these days - husbands or wives?What are some of the most common issues leading to divorce? When you've decided to get divorced, should you find the most aggressive lawyer to destroy your spouse and win you lots of money?How do you get past your anger and hurt to have an amicable divorce? Listen in to this fantastic interview with an old friend of mine, Patrick Cook, who is now an esteemed divorce attorney.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Studies have shown that meaning is an integral part of a happy, thriving life. Meaning gives us passion and motivation and creativity. It buoys our mood when things get tough. I've known this personally during my divorce. My personal life was in tatters yet my work, which I find intensely meaningful, kept me afloat emotionally. We know that our happiness and life satisfaction dip during our years of parenting. After all, who can stay happy in the midst of screaming children, a messy home, constant work at home and at the office? Yet parenting is incredibly meaningful which, to a degree, offsets the loss of satisfaction. So, what is meaning? How do we discover what is meaningful to us? What does meaning do for us? Listen in and find out now!Some topics covered:What is meaning? What are the 3 sources of meaning?The connection between meaning and motivationHow does activating meaning and purpose make good business sense?What do you say to CEOs or leaders who are still embracing the sorely outdated fear-based command and control style of leadership?In your book, The Great Revitalization, you have a framework for the what and the how of meaning…PART 1: What?G – Gumption (what)U – Urgency (when and where) S – Sustainability (why)T – Therapy (how)O – Ownership (who) PART 2: How? N – Nurture (IQ) O – Open (EQ) W – Wake (SQ) What traits go into an inspirational leader?How do we get more meaning in our lives?About My Guest, Dr. Alise Cortez:Dr. Alise Cortez is the chief purpose officer at Alise Cortez and Associates, a management consulting firm specializing in the activation of meaning and purpose. She is also an inspirational speaker, social scientist, author, and host of the Working on Purpose radio show. She is the author of several books including ·      Purpose Ignited: How Inspiring Leaders Unleash Passion and Elevate Cause (2020)·      The Great Revitalization: How Activating Meaning and Purpose Can Radically Enliven Your Business (2023)Having developed her expertise within the human capital / organizational excellence industry over the last 25 years, she is focused on helping companies, leaders, and individuals across the globe to live with “gusto” and make the most of their one, precious life. Today Dr. Cortez is focused on enabling organizations to lead from purpose and create cultures that inspire impassioned performance, meaningful engagement and fulfillment. For individuals, Dr. Cortez facilitates an online global community and various retreats to enable people hungry for a more meaningful and purposeful life to create it for themselves. For more information about Dr. Alise:Email: alise@alisecortez.com   Website: www.alisecortez.com  Phone: 214-597-6463If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Wow! What a talk! Vulnerability. Honesty. It does not get a whole lot deeper or more helpful than this one. What an absolutely amazing man Bob Conlin is!How we experience ourselves as men largely through our body and our ability to be active and strong.  And what happens when that goes away (temporarily or permanently)? A frank talk about how physical limitations (e.g., surgery, back pain, vasectomy, etc.) impacts our perception of our own masculinity.  What else do you have to hold on to when your physical body begins to deteriorate (e.g., wisdom, emotional awareness, communication skills, empathy, integrity, values, spirituality, full spectrum humanity, etc.)?The difference between the first voice and second voice in your head and which voice is the wise, adult version of “you.”The power in being vulnerable and the importance of sharing your shit with other men. The idea that your shame doesn't stand up to the light of day.What is YOUR definition of a “man?” What is YOUR definition of “masculinity?”The critical importance of integrity for men. To what extent are you a safe, grounding force for the people you love?The idea of full spectrum masculinity as lifelong growth and evolution. How much Bob can bench (Spoiler alert: It's impressive!).The critical idea that our relationships act purely as mirrors to reflect back our own psychological and emotional shit. The seminal thought that the very traits that we initially are attracted to in our partner later become the same things that annoy the crap out of us. To what extent is masculinity about attacking and policing other men to make them feel “less than”? Or is real masculinity about radical acceptance of other men's masculinities to allow them to feel accepted and encourage true growth?To what extent is masculinity about the egocentric pursuit of wealth and power? Or is real masculinity about something more than those simple ideas which we've been force fed in our youth? Studies show that ideals such as self-transcendent values like serving others lead to much more happiness and fulfillment. The importance of intellectual humility for lifelong learning and evolution of men. And how the lack of humility truly blocks our development. A honest conversation about the need for us to learn to receive and take in the love of others. About My Guest:Bob Conlin is a men's alchemist, coach, author, leader, husband, and father. Bob believes the relationships we have with ourselves, those we love, and those we lead have the greatest impact on our life experiences. Powerful and fulfilling relationships are created once we get connected to, and responsible for, our generational traumas, triggers, and limiting beliefs about what is actually possible in our lives. Bob's unique and courageous approach to creating relationships has been featured on ABC World News Tonight, CBS, NBC, Good Morning America, and most popular social media outlets. Bob has extensive training as an ontological coach, Gottman Institute trained, is a Master Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation, President of the ICF Chicago Chapter, Co-Founder of The Alchemy of Men, and the Co-Founder of the Living In Love Incubator program. Bob's latest book “Why my relationships suck: Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart” can be found at Barnes and Noble.Find Out More About Bob Conlin:Men's Retreats: www.alchemyofmenretreat.comCoaching: www.conlincoaching.comCouples Coaching: www.wemeetagaincoaching.comBook: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/why-my-relationships-suck-bob-conlin/1142986312Instagram: @relationship_alchemistFacebook https://www.facebook.com/bob.conlin.779/LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/conlin-coach-pcc/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Shame is the dominatrix of the other emotions. It dresses in a leather suit with a zippered mouth, armed with a cat o' nine tails. It can outlast and overpower any other emotion. Shame makes other emotions get on their knees and lick it's high-heeled shoes.  Shame is the quiet belief, in our darkest moments, that we are unworthy of love, connection and belonging. So what if shame is actually the fuel for all other uncomfortable emotions such as anger, anxiety and depression? What if shame is like a parasite that gloms onto us like the Marvel anti-hero Venom and makes us believe that we are unlovable and unworthy?Shame is the emotion you never knew you were struggling with. The first step is always awareness. With awareness, you can begin to get curious, look for it and challenge it. Find out more in this fascinating conversation!My Guest, Lois HollisLois Hollis RN, BSN, REV, at age 12, entered healthcare as a nurse's aide. Her desire to understand and heal the body continues today at 79 as a Shame And Guilt Educator, Counselor, and now Filmmaker. She discovered that shame guilt join forces to create 24-hour negativity that causes emotional and physical illnesses. Shame talks in our sleep, and guilt talks in our waking moments, telling us we are powerless and bad.Once Lois discovered that shame guilt were responsible for her anxiety, depression, and life-threatening illnesses, she healed from childhood traumas and 30 yrs. of migraine headaches. She shepherds others out of crisis, seeking success, or spiritual growth with her knowledge of how to identify, release, and avoid shame guilt.She authored three books. Lois aspires to use the magic of film to make shame guilt visual. Her documentary series, “I'm Good”, will illustrate the shame guilt dangers and how to avoid them.Find out more about Lois Website: www.loishollis.com Films:  https://www.imgoodfilm.com/·       ”Out of Discord Into Harmony”  20 minutes - Communicating with your emotions and inner critic             ·       “IM Good Film”   Shame Guilt becomes visible -15 min.·      IM Good Film Song - 3 min.   If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Given our recent COVID pandemic, banking crisis, economic difficulties, layoffs, financial worry, relational challenges, depression, anxiety and more, the topic of resiliency has never ever been more important and needed. Resiliency, the ability to bounce forward following difficulty, is a learnable skill. And all of us have been wildly gobsmacked by challenge, stress, and trauma over the past 3 years. Regardless of whether we want to acknowledge it, these past few years are replete with fuckedup-ness. So what do we DO about it? That's what this conversation with Michelle E. Dickinson, a Resilience Coach, is all about! Listen in now. Topics covered: What is resiliency?How do we become more resilient?How does a victim mentality enter into our resiliency of lack thereof?A powerful and enlightening comparison of male vs. female depression symptoms (Hint: Male depression doesn't look anything like your mama's depression!)What has been your personal experience of depression?How do you coach others to stay ahead of depression?What are some of the positives that emerge from depression?About My Guest:Michelle E. Dickinson is a Resilience Coach, Workplace Resilience Strategist, Author, & a TEDx Speaker She is the author of a memoir entitled Breaking into My Life. Michelle is on a mission to help people preserve their emotional well- being, so they don't hit burnout. After years of playing the role of child caregiver to her bipolar mother, Michelle embarked on her own healing journey of self- discovery. She also knows first-hand what it feels like to struggle with a mental illness after experiencing my own depression due to her divorce. She was instrumental in building the largest and fasted growing employee mental health employee resource group while at her fortune 500 company. She believes that every organization can have a culture of compassion. Her signature Resilience Workshops have made a positive impact on thousands of employees across many different industries. Michelle also leads a successful Resilience Coaching practice where she and her coaches work with individual clients to help them reclaim balance, their personal power and feel better and in control of their emotional well-being. More Info on Michelle:*Linked In: https://bit.ly/3qTsLBJFree Resilience Tips - TikTok: @ResiliencecoachmichelleInstagram: @michelledickinson71Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/michelle.dickinson.146? Twitter- @mdickinson13Free Chapter of Michelle's Book: breakingintomylife.com/excerpt/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Good vibes only. Think positively. If you're depressed, you're just not praying hard enough. Inspiration porn. We are bombarded with messages to be positive and happy on the daily. It is a Western ideal to pursue and prioritize happiness. But can we have too much of a good thing? The answer is yes, we can, according to research. Happiness cannot be pursued directly. It cannot be pursued as an end in and of itself. Ironically, this type of dogged pursuit usually leads to greater UN-happiness.  So how DO we pursue happiness? What are some of the scientific findings with regards to increasing life satisfaction, meaning and ultimately, happiness?Topics Covered:What is the downside of overfocusing on happiness?What is emotional flexibility? And how does one become more emotionally flexible?I often talk about the hedonic treadmill - the phenomenon in which we adapt to anything, good or bad. What is Hedonic Flexibility?How important is autonomy to life satisfaction?How does autonomy relate to workplace satisfaction?About My Esteemed Guest:Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist, behavioral scientist, and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association. He has been published in publications like the International Journal of Workplace Health Management. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, and more. He currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness and is the author of the bookWhere to reach Dr. Mikehttps://michaelrucker.comhttps://twitter.com/performbetterhttps://www.instagram.com/thewonderoffunhttps://www.facebook.com/mike.rucker.phdhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelruckerhttps://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Fun-Habit/Mike-Rucker/9781982159054If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com

How does a “recovering asshole” come to be a reputed men's coach and Coach of the Year? What is a “recovering asshole”? Someone who is sarcastic, one who pushes buttons, and gets a rise out of others. Someone who was raised with a lot of judgment around status, wealth and women. Someone who roasts others in order to make themselves feel better and make the other feel smaller. Be honest. Are you a recovering asshole? And how does this dynamic help out society? How does it make other people feel? Are you lifting others up? Or tearing them down? Perhaps you do it with zero conscious awareness. Or maybe you're aware of it. Either way, today is a great time to begin to let that dynamic go - for your friends, for your loved ones and for the betterment of the state of the world. And how did Alex get lit up online for speaking out (softly) against Andrew Tate and his authoritarian tendencies? What were the insults he received to force him to “get back in line” with the Man Box? Men in the Man Box police each other with classic insults dating all the way back to middle school. About My Esteemed Guest and Good Friend:Alex Terranova is a Performance & Success Alchemist, Coach, Author & International Speaker. He's been dubbed “The Anti-Excuses Coach” by Yahoo Finance, named 40 over 40 in podcasting by Podcast Magazine & is the Co-Creator of Your Love Adventure, an innovative, fun, & adventurous new take on dating. He's widely known as the sexy voice behind hundreds of podcasts, and sometimes refers to himself as a Recovering Asshole & legend has it he's a former reality tv show villain.Since 2015, Alex has coached hundreds of successful and powerful individuals & businesses to thrive financially, enjoy better relationships, and achieve more, all with less stress, drama, and difficulty. As a Professional Certified Coach & the Founder of DreamMason Inc., Alex Terranova has uniquely combined raw, direct, and bold masculine tactics with a magnetic, playful, and spiritual feminine ease. For his clients as well as himself, Alex is passionate and believes Integrity, Commitment, Vulnerability, Trust, and Faith make up the core of Authenticity, which provides access to living an exceptional life of abundance, love, & joy.Alex is the author of Fictional Authenticity, the forthcoming book How Dreams Are Built, and the co-author of the bestselling book Redefining Masculinity. He has hosted & appeared in over 400 podcasts including, top-rated shows such as The University of Adversity, The Primal BluePrint, and Success Unleashed, and has interviewed hundreds of the world's highest-performing, wise, and successful leaders on his podcast, The DreamMason Podcast, a Top 2% ranked podcast according to ListenNotes.  He is also the host of Playing with Problems and the co-host of The Coaching Show and The Frequency Shifters Show. He has been featured on NBC, FOX, Yahoo Finance, The Good Men Project, Disrupt Magazine, Thrive Global, and Elephant Journal. Where to reach Alex Terranova: TheDreamMason.com For more on Alex's upcoming Men's Retreathttps://conlincoaching.com/alchemy-of-men-retreat/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

What if something were impacting your arguments with your spouse? What is something that happened as an infant dramatically influenced how your romantic relationships work out? What if it were readily changed? Would you want to know about it?  It just so happens that our attachment styles, those relational blueprints that develop when we are very young, have a huge impact on how we connect and disconnect, agree and disagree in romance.  Attachment styles are all about how we relate to other humans. And since a key pillar of a happier life is relationships, these attachment styles become critically important. These styles have to do with the ways in which people form and maintain relationships with others. They are based on the way a person was raised and the experiences they have had in their life. There are three main attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant. Each of these styles has its own unique characteristics and, perhaps most importantly for those of who DON'T have a secure attachment style, they can be changed with awareness, effort and practice.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Narcissist. The word is so overused as to apply to everyone and no one. What's going on? Well, narcissism is an important issue to me personally, as I have a great deal of personal experience dealing with these folks. I'll get into that a bit on this episode. And narcissism is truly a big deal when you consider that potentially 1 out of every 10 people has full blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and far more than that have strong narcissistic tendencies. These folks cause DAMAGE! And one of the things that angers me most about these individuals is that our society runs on trust. Without trust, our society will break down. While most people are honest and trustworthy, narcissists use our trust and exploit it for their own personal gain. In so doing, they threaten the very fabric of our society. And narcissists aren't interested in being anchored in truth, they are more interested in what they can tell you in order to manipulate you, facts be damned.In this episode…What is narcissism?What are the symptoms?How does one become narcissistic?How do you deal with a narcissist?Can a narcissist heal?What to do if you are a child of a narcissistic parent?And how to spot a narcissist!If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com

One of the largest issues I've seen with men is the over identification with “the thinker” - the thoughts in our heads. Many of us think that we ARE the  thinker, not realizing that there is vastly more to us than mere thought. There are emotions, values, bodily sensations, interconnectedness, and the spiritual dimensions. It's a one-two punch between the Man Box Culture in which we are socialized and certain influential philosophers. Rene' Descartes really f*cked us when he wrote “I think, therefore I am” and thus separated mind and body for centuries. When we buy into this bullshit distinction, we effectively cut ourselves off from humanity with the belief that we are somehow unique, separate and wholly self-reliant. Yet, that's not how things work. And we do ourselves a huge disservice in terms of interconnectivity and, ultimately, happiness when we buy into this false belief. We must learn to balance head and heart, independence and interdependence, masculine and feminine.So how does one go about opening up the hearts of a billion people? And why? To quote Arno, “Can our life be just summarized by this constant ebb and flow of drama and joyful moments? Should we choose for it to be just that or bring some meaning to that flow? When we look back, can we find some hidden coherence in the series of events that makes our past? What would be the purpose of this life if not to figure out who we are?” Find out more in this fascinating interview with French spiritual teacher, Arnaud “Arno” Saint-Paul.Discover what Arno has learned studying numerous world religions, philosophies and spiritual teachings. In his quest to understand himself, he may be able to shine some light on you as well!About My Guest - Arno Saint-PaulAs a philanthropist and award-winning serial software, finance, and social impact entrepreneur for more than 20 years, living between Los Angeles and Paris, Arnaud went through his awakening when 13. While having a successful career in Finance and Technology across continents, he has been traveling throughout the world to study the different religions and philosophies in his relentless quest to understand himself. His life purpose is now to open billions of hearts and help them find harmony inside and out. He recently authored a book of poetry entitled I.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com

You know these people: The book smart student who wouldn't survive 5 minutes on the streets of the big city. The guy with poor grades that everyone likes and makes a great team captain. The manager that doesn't understand coding at all yet can inspire his team to outperform others. What's the difference? The difference is between traditional intelligence (IQ), emotional intelligence (EQ), and the latest must-know addition to the field -- Experiential Intelligence (XQ). What is experiential intelligence?How do you get more of it? Why is it so important to decode your mindsets? How do you do this?How does XQ complement IQ and EQ?How do early life experiences, such as traumas, create risks or obstacles that limit our personal and professional potential?What is the role of XQ in business?Find out in the latest episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast!About Our Guest:Soren Kaplan is a bestselling and award-winning author, a Columnist for Inc. Magazine, a globally recognized keynote speaker, the Founder of Praxie.com, and an Affiliate at the Center for Effective Organizations at USC's Marshall School of Business. Business Insider and the Thinkers50 have named him one of the world's top management thought leaders and consultants. He recently authored the ground-breaking book, Experiential Intelligence. Find out more about the book and Soren at SorenKaplan.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com

The experience of failure sucks - often resulting in depression, self-loathing and identity crisis. But if you follow the rules of failure—seeing beyond the mess and picking through the good stuff left in life's shit heap of life's catastrophes — you can bounce forward from failure into success. Embrace the F-word and let hard times make you stronger. Because after it sucks, FAILURE RULES! SOME OF THE VITAL TOPICS COVERED IN THIS ONE…What made you choose the five failures that you included in this book? How did your role as record producer for punk rock enter into your journey from failure to success?How difficult was it for you to come to the decision to pursue a job you love rather than one that made sense financially? What is your biggest piece of advice for people whose fear is holding them back from taking the leap towards their passion? How important is it for entrepreneurs to have back up plans whenever they embark on their pursuits? How long did it take you to shift your mindset and view failures in the way you do now? What role does humor play during the low moments of experiencing failure?What does being authentic, even in the face of failure, mean to you? Can you think of a time where you really leaned into your failure instead of letting the negativity of it consume you?About Dr. John's Guest:Andrew Thorp King is an executive fintech banker, spy novelist, speaker, punk rocker, podcaster, ex-bodybuilder, cigar lover, and serial entrepreneur. He founded two independent record labels—Thorp Records and Sailor's Grave Records—and has invested in many spaces, including online lending, fitness, lead generation, and independent music. He is the author of Failure Rules! The 5 Rules of Failure for Entrepreneurs, Creatives and Authentics. Andrew Thorp King is also a serial failure. He has crashed and burned through bankruptcy, divorce, mortgage default, public assistance, and multiple business failures. But, like a jack-in-the-box after a punch, he pops back up every time, rebuilding his life—informed by failure—with a big smile on his face. Failure can ruin lives and families. There's no denying it. It can destroy your health and obliterate your self-esteem. But it also holds a lot of value on the road to success. FAILURE RULES! walks you through five essential rules to help you pull value from any failure—as proven by Andrew Thorp King's personal stories of dramatic, cascading failures in business, relationships, art, and life. Journey through key failure lessons from a wildly diverse set of successful entrepreneurs, creatives, and authentics, including Winston Churchill, Sara Blakely, Henry Rollins, Andrew Yang, Toby Keith, Ryan Holiday, David Goggins, Glenn Beck, Neil deGrasse Tyson, Billie Jean King, Srinivas Rao, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, J.K. Rowling, and many, many more. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com