We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that c
The Connection Codes podcast is a truly transformative and inspiring show that delves into the realms of connection, communication, and relationships. From the very first episode I listened to, I found myself deeply moved and even brought to tears by the powerful insights shared by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis, the hosts of the show. Their content has been incredibly encouraging for me, as it has opened my eyes to the possibility of more in my role as a wife and business partner. The impact of this podcast on my life has been profound, and I have eagerly shared it with friends who are also seeking a deeper understanding of connection.
One of the best aspects of The Connection Codes podcast is how it presents complex concepts in a relatable and understandable way. As someone who needs lots of information and examples to fully grasp new ideas, I found their approach incredibly helpful. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis go beyond just sharing theories or principles; they provide practical tools that can be implemented in everyday life. This show has not only transformed the way I connect with my spouse and children but has also increased my compassion for myself as I gain insight into how my upbringing and past experiences have shaped me.
Another remarkable aspect of this podcast is its ability to mend broken relationships and bring love and peace back into marriages. Listeners have attested to the profound impact The Connection Codes has had on their marriages, praising it as the answer they were searching for all along. With simple tools that work, this podcast provides hope for every couple regardless of their current relationship status.
While The Connection Codes podcast offers invaluable insights and practical advice, there is one potential drawback to consider. Some listeners may find that certain episodes touch on sensitive topics or emotions that can be challenging to confront or deal with initially. However, it is important to note that pushing through these discomforts often leads to personal growth and positive change.
In conclusion, The Connection Codes podcast is a life-changing resource for anyone seeking to improve their relationships and overall well-being. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis have created a platform that educates, inspires, and empowers individuals to cultivate true connections in their lives. With the profound impact it has had on my own life, I cannot recommend this podcast enough. The information shared is simple, practical, and powerful - a true game-changer for anyone looking to enhance their relationships and navigate the complexities of human connection.
In this powerful episode, coach Echo Hill Vetter invites us into the often-ignored conversation between our minds and our bodies. With deep vulnerability and insight, Echo shares her transformative journey of realizing that trauma isn't always dramatic—it's often stored in the quiet, unmet needs of the body. From the radical idea of going to the bathroom when you need to, to learning how to “feel your feelings” physically, she offers a compassionate, body-first approach to emotional healing. This episode challenges the cultural narrative of self-abandonment and gives listeners practical tools to rebuild trust with themselves—one sensation at a time.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mAFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuChapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome + Why This Matters00:00:38 - Trauma Isn't Just in Your Head00:01:57 - What Sent Echo Searching for Answers00:02:55 - The Moment Everything Shifted00:06:36 - Learning to Trust the Body Again00:09:48 - How to Actually Listen to Your Body00:12:26 - What Happens When You Meet Your Needs00:15:12 - Echo Gets Real About Her Past00:29:24 - When Your Body Is Screaming and You Still Ignore It00:30:23 - Emotions Are Physical—Here's Proof00:32:09 - Small Changes That Change Everything00:33:43 - Mental Health Starts in the Body00:34:46 - Healing Ourselves to Heal Society00:36:25 - “Feel Your Feelings” — What That Actually Looks Like00:46:05 - The Tool That Changed How I See Emotions00:46:46 - Echo's Honest Moment With Guilt + Shame00:52:47 - Final Thoughts + Where to Go Next
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill welcome back Chris Cruz—Managing Director at Harbor + Union and Young Adult Pastor at Bethel Church—for a powerful conversation on leadership, action, and emotional clarity. With refreshing vulnerability, Chris shares how the phrase “clarity is found in motion” transformed his approach to decision-making, leadership, and connection. Listeners will hear how fear often paralyzes us into waiting, but motion—taking a first step—can lead to surprising clarity. Tying this into the Connection Codes framework, Chris explains how emotional insight comes not from planning but from engaging—especially in conversation. This is a must-listen for anyone navigating fear, change, or relational stuckness and looking for practical tools to move forward with authenticity.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mAFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuLinkedIn – Chris Cruz: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisjosephcruz/Chris's Instagram : @chriscruzThe Practice of Being with Jesus: https://tinyurl.com/4zzddd89Chapters: 00:00:00 - A Warm Welcome + Why This Conversation Matters00:00:38 - Meet Chris Cruz: Storyteller, Pastor, Creative Voice00:00:55 - When Desire Isn't Enough—Why Action Changes Everything00:01:36 - Life Lately: Chris Reflects on the Journey00:02:54 - “Clarity is Found in Motion”—The Quote That Sparked It All00:09:52 - Sitting with Fear, Moving Anyway00:14:19 - Processing in Real Time: What Happens When We Don't Have it All Figured Out00:22:34 - Why Imperfection Might Be the Key to Starting00:23:09 - When Learning Becomes a Hiding Place—And How to Step Out00:25:12 - What Therapy Taught Me About Growth and Patience00:25:54 - Getting Honest About What's Really Underneath: Fear, Shame, Guilt00:33:29 - Motion Brings Clarity: Why We Can't Stay Still00:36:37 - Behind the Mic: Chris Shares His Podcast Journey00:39:33 - A Quiet Nudge Forward: Encouragement to Move Gently
In this powerful episode, certified Connection Codes coach Bridgett Blood shares her raw and transformative journey through 12 weeks of deep emotional work that redefined her understanding of peace, connection, and faith. Joined by Phyllis, Dr. Glenn, and Tera, she unpacks the shift from peacekeeping to peacemaking—revealing how naming harm, confronting emotional pain, and embracing core emotions like anger and sadness led to true restoration. Most profoundly, Bridgett reimagines her relationship with God—not as someone who rushes to fix, but as a presence who grieves with her. If you've ever longed for honest healing and a deeper spiritual connection, this episode offers both reflection and renewal.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mAFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuChapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome Back: Kicking Off a Deeply Personal Conversation00:00:17 - When Peace Demands More Than Quiet00:01:51 - Bridgett's Journey Through Trauma and Truth00:03:21 - The Risk and Courage of Naming the Pain00:04:53 - What Real Peace in Relationships Actually Looks Like00:07:23 - Texts, Therapy, and Truth-Telling: Taking Brave Steps00:18:14 - When God Doesn't Fix It—He Sits With You00:21:30 - Choosing Wholeness in the Middle of Family Tension00:21:59 - A Love That Stays: God's Presence Without Conditions00:22:50 - Rethinking Miracles: It Doesn't Always Look Like Rescue00:23:56 - How Owning Your Part Opens the Door to Healing00:24:33 - Partnering with God, Not Waiting for Magic00:25:42 - What Happens When You're Emotionally Honest with God00:30:04 - Feeling It All: Using the Core Motion Wheel00:37:24 - The Hard Work Is Worth It: Final Reflections
In this heartfelt episode, certified Connection Codes coach Bridgett Blood joins Tera and Phyllis for an honest and moving conversation about what it means to connect with yourself first. After facing the collapse of a romantic relationship that had initially introduced her to Connection Codes, Bridgett found herself alone—and yet, divinely invited—to use these emotional tools to begin healing from the inside out. She shares how journaling her core emotions, honoring the signals from her body, and staying present through the pain helped her rebuild a sense of wholeness and self-worth. This episode is a powerful reminder that the journey to connection with others must begin with ourselves—and that even in our darkest seasons, we can learn to stay.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mAFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuChapters: 00:00:00 - Let's Begin: A Gentle Disclaimer00:00:39 - Welcome to the Space Where Connection Matters00:01:32 - Meet Bridget: A Journey of Heart and Healing00:03:03 - From Breakup to Breakthrough: Bridget's Path to Wholeness00:03:55 - Her Daily Practice: Wheels, Words, and Staying Present00:07:02 - Emotional Honesty: The Real Work of Being Human00:11:20 - When Phyllis Needed the Tools Too00:18:06 - How to Stay True to Yourself in Love00:24:02 - Listening to Your Body When It's Screaming Softly00:30:48 - Pain Isn't the End—It's the Invitation00:31:16 - One Massage, a Lifetime of Emotions00:32:20 - The Weight We Carry When We Don't Process00:34:01 - What Our Bodies Remember from Generations Past00:35:02 - The Science (and Soul) Behind the Body's Memory00:38:16 - Bridget's Road Back to Self-Care00:40:07 - Loving Yourself While Loving Someone Else00:42:27 - The Courage Men Need to Feel00:45:42 - What Healing Sounds Like for All of Us00:49:04 - You're Allowed to Ask for Help00:55:19 - A Soft Landing: Final Thoughts & Tools for You
In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode, Tera shares the emotional weight of discovering a lump and choosing silence over fear—until it became too loud to ignore. Phyllis opens up about years of stored anger and the physical damage it caused before she began the journey of emotional release. Alongside Dr. Glenn, they explore how unprocessed emotions don't disappear—they go deeper, affecting not just relationships, but our health and sense of self. Through honest storytelling and the powerful tool of the Core Emotion Wheel, this conversation invites listeners to stop stuffing, start feeling, and gently uproot what's been buried for far too long. It's not about fixing everything overnight—it's about finally starting.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcastFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesChapters:00:00:00 - Before We Begin: A Gentle Disclaimer00:00:39 - Welcome to Connection Codes: Let's Get Real00:01:32 - Tera's Story: When Fear Took Over00:02:27 - What Happens When We Avoid Emotion00:03:10 - How Emotions Take Root in Us00:05:05 - Phyllis on Anger: The Emotion She Never Spoke00:07:04 - Why Feeling Is Healing00:08:09 - The Brain-Body Link You Didn't Know About00:17:16 - Learning to Actually Connect With Yourself00:26:52 - The Paint Job Metaphor That Says It All00:27:18 - When Gratitude Becomes a Mask00:28:03 - Getting Honest About Gratitude00:28:49 - Why Downtime Is Not Optional00:30:12 - Success Means Nothing Without This00:31:33 - Using the Core Emotion Wheel to Process Life00:33:19 - Real-Life Ways to Apply the Wheel00:39:37 - How One Tool Is Changing the World00:40:19 - Making Emotional Check-Ins Part of Everyday Life00:45:13 - Your Invitation to Try the Core Emotion Wheel
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with certified Connection Codes coaches Tanya and James, a couple whose journey into emotional healing began in an unexpected place—deep in a remote part of British Columbia. What started as a midnight podcast listen became a life-altering pursuit of authentic connection. Tanya and James open up about their transformation from emotional shutdown and chronic pain to a marriage bursting with joy, purpose, and practical tools. From ordering the book late at night to leading small groups in their home, launching initiatives in their church, and becoming certified coaches, they share how simple—yet not easy—the journey of emotional fluency has been. Their story is an invitation to bring the tools of Connection Codes into your home, your marriage, your community—and to experience the life-changing impact for yourself.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcastFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesChapters:00:00:00 - Kicking Off the Journey: Meet Tanya & James00:01:11 - A New Chapter Begins: Who Are Tanya and James?00:02:10 - The Moment That Changed Everything: Discovering Connection Codes00:04:34 - Turning Insight Into Action: Bringing Connection Codes to the Community00:06:52 - Real Growth, Real Struggles: Their Personal Transformation Unfolds00:08:48 - A Ripple Effect: Teaching, Leading, and Inspiring Through Change00:09:33 - From Pain to Power: How They Faced Trauma and Chronic Struggles00:11:02 - Unlocking Emotional Power: The Gift of Processing Feelings00:16:36 - Redefining the Classroom: What Happens When You Connect First00:21:25 - From Hurt to Healing: Connection as the Bridge00:23:22 - Ready to Grow? Join Our Summer Coaching Cohort00:24:21 - Why Emotional Processing Is a Superpower (Yes, Again!)00:25:39 - Cracking the Teen Code: Helping Adolescents Be Understood00:26:58 - Glen's Eye-Opening Tale: When Emotions Go Ignored00:29:14 - Transforming Communication: Using the Core Emotion Wheel00:35:59 - Chase the Dream: Why Your Passions Matter More Than You Think00:40:04 - The Transformation Is Real: What Connection Codes Changed00:43:09 - Your Next Step: Final Thoughts and an Invitation to Act
Have you ever wondered if it's okay to raise your voice or show big emotion when you're deeply upset—without damaging your relationships? In this powerful conversation, Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis dive deep into what it really means to express emotions like anger, fear, or sadness in a way that fosters connection instead of creating conflict. From breaking down the difference between acting through emotions and naming them out loud, to confronting the fear of “not being sweet enough,” the hosts unpack the beauty of emotional clarity and the science-backed power of saying emotion words out loud. This episode offers both raw vulnerability and practical tools to help you show up as your full, intense self—without shutting down or blowing up.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcastFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesChapters:00:00:00 - Kicking It Off: Big Emotions and How to Handle Them00:01:01 - What It Really Means to Express Emotion00:02:38 - Spoiler: We're Not Here to Be “Sweet”00:04:13 - Why Saying “I Feel Angry” Can Change Everything00:06:12 - Letting Yourself Be Loud—Without Hurting Others00:08:45 - Anger Isn't the Villain: It's a Message00:10:47 - Teaching Respect Through Raw Honesty00:14:00 - When We Name It, We Process It—Together00:18:03 - From Suppressing to Sharing: A Personal Emotional Shift00:20:01 - Breaking the Fear Around Feeling Angry00:23:37 - Emotion Words = Human Connection Magic00:28:37 - Why the Core Emotion Wheel Is a Game-Changer00:34:23 - Final Words: You're Allowed to Feel Fully and Freely
Tera sits down with Vanessa Marin, licensed sex therapist and CEO of Vanessa Marin Sex Therapy, to explore how our early messages around sex shape our adult relationships—and how we can reclaim joy, freedom, and connection in the bedroom. Vanessa shares her personal journey of unlearning shame, learning how to speak up for her needs, and rewriting her sexual story. From navigating body confidence to overcoming a sex-negative upbringing, this conversation is a powerful reminder that healing is possible—and your pleasure matters. Whether you're struggling with desire, communication, or emotional intimacy, Vanessa's insights will leave you encouraged, empowered, and equipped.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesVanessa Marin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/?hl=enWebsite: https://vmtherapy.com/Chapters:00:00:00 – A Warm Welcome + A Quick Note on Therapy00:00:50 – Meet Vanessa Marin: Sex Therapist, Real Talker, Freedom Fighter00:01:39 – Growing Up Silent: How Shame Shaped Our Sexual Narratives00:04:32 – From Shame to Liberation: Vanessa's Personal Turning Point00:06:11 – The Call to Sex Therapy: Where Curiosity Meets Calling00:11:01 – Kids, Chaos & Connection: Keeping Intimacy Alive in Parenthood00:17:21 – Desire Decoded: What Your Libido Might Be Telling You00:23:02 – Let's Talk Initiation: Who Starts, Why It Matters00:29:42 – Spicing It Up: Creating a More Playful Sexual Menu00:30:09 – What Actually Works for You? Redefining Sexual Connection00:31:13 – Vanessa's Go-To Tools & Practices for Better Sex00:32:58 – Sex Positions: Myths, Pressure & What to Let Go Of00:33:26 – Fresh Energy: How to Stay Curious in Long-Term Love00:36:16 – Permission to Laugh: Why Playfulness Belongs in the Bedroom00:42:38 – Too Busy for Sex? Why Prioritizing It Changes Everything00:46:55 – It's More Than Just the Act: The Deeper Value of Sex00:47:52 – Orgasm Isn't the Goal: Navigating Challenges Without Shame00:50:38 – Where Emotional Safety Meets Sexual Connection
Tera and Wes Wages get vulnerable about what truly makes — and breaks — connection over time. In this heartfelt and revealing conversation, they explore the hidden challenges of long-term love, from battling insecurity and body image fears to maintaining consistency through the daily chaos of life. They also candidly share insights on emotional validation, how minor daily efforts like scheduled texts can transform a relationship, and why talking openly about sex — even without pressure — can reignite intimacy. With real-life stories, expert emotional tools, and a viral 8-million-view surprise moment, this episode is an honest look into the beautiful, messy, and rewarding journey of authentic connection.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesChapters:00:00:00 - 17 Years In: What Marriage Really Looks Like Behind the Scenes00:01:01 - How Wes Became Instagram's Favorite Husband (And the Viral Moment)00:03:03 - Why Feeling Truly Seen Changes Everything in Relationships00:03:59 - The Small Acts of Validation That Keep Love Alive00:10:04 - Facing Insecurities Head-On: Real Talk About Marriage Fears00:11:50 - Building Unshakable Trust by Processing Core Emotions00:20:38 - Why Consistency, Not Grand Gestures, Sustains Long-Term Love00:21:20 - Juggling Dreams, Kids, and Marriage: Finding the Balance00:24:07 - The Daily Connection Habit That Makes or Breaks Relationships00:27:45 - How Scheduling Texts Can Actually Save Your Relationship00:28:54 - Power Tools for Deeper, Faster Emotional Connection00:30:03 - How Connection Codes Revolutionized Our Marriage00:35:05 - Getting Real About Sex, Pressure, and Intimacy After 17 Years00:40:45 - Final Takeaways: Hope, Growth, and Staying Connected Through It All
Do you ever lay in bed exhausted, but your mind won't turn off? This episode breaks down why it's not your to-do list that's draining you—it's unprocessed emotion. Hosts Tera, Phyllis, and Dr. Glenn explore the physiological and psychological toll of unacknowledged fear, anxiety, and emotional overload in today's high-stress world. From Sunday scaries and doom-scrolling to navigating news-induced stress and personal loss, they reveal how naming your feelings and using the Core Emotion Wheel can bring your nervous system back into balance. With neuroscience, vulnerability, and practical insight, this conversation offers a roadmap to emotional regulation, deeper connection, and truly restorative rest.Links and Resources:Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewFind out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesChapters:00:00:00 – A Sleepless Mind & The Chaos Within00:01:04 – Welcome to the Place Where Emotions Finally Make Sense00:01:44 – Fear Isn't the Problem—It's the Key00:03:02 – What Science Says About What You're Feeling00:04:28 – Can Fear Really Wreck Your Sleep? Yes—Here's How00:07:21 – Cortisol: The Tiny Hormone Running Your Life00:12:26 – Are You Being Emotionally Hijacked by Your Phone?00:16:38 – What Happens When You Choose Peace Over Noise00:21:31 – Human Connection: Your Brain's Favorite Medicine00:31:51 – When Caring Becomes Crushing: Walking the Advocacy Tightrope00:38:55 – Speak the Fear, Set Yourself Free00:39:25 – Safe People: Your Emotional Safety Net00:39:56 – Is That Fear Even Real? Let's Talk About It00:40:57 – This Simple Tool Could Change the Way You Communicate Forever00:42:50 – Real Fear, Real Stories, Real Healing00:44:19 – The 8 Words That Can Set You Emotionally Free00:50:38 – Don't Dismiss Their Feelings—Here's Why It Matters00:52:56 – The Wheel Isn't Just a Tool—It's a Game-Changer01:00:37 – You're Not Alone—And You Don't Have to Stay Stuck
In this week's episode, Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis dive deep into the power of hurt—specifically, how we respond when our partner is hurt by something we've done. If you've ever deflected, avoided a tough conversation, or struggled with shame and guilt in your relationship, this episode is for you. Learn practical tools to process hurt, communicate with compassion, and move forward with authentic connection.Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewFind out how to become a Certified Coach:https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingFind a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/all-coaches
What if the story you've been telling yourself… isn't even yours? In this deeply validating and insight-rich episode of the Connection Codes podcast, Tera Wages joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to explore how childhood messages, cultural labels, and relationship dynamics shape—and often limit—our identity. Through personal stories, including leaving church, navigating marriage intimacy, and feeling misunderstood by family, the hosts unpack what it means to "wear a hat" that no longer fits.Listeners will be challenged to ask: Who put this label on me? Why am I still wearing it? With raw emotional depth and practical wisdom, the episode empowers you to identify the inner “judge,” rewire internal narratives, and intentionally reclaim who you want to become.Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 Connection Codes: https://connectioncodes.co/(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)________________________________________________________________Chapters:00:00:00 – Identity Isn't Just a Concept—It's Personal00:02:26 – When You Realize You've Been Wearing the Wrong Hat00:05:53 – Do I Even Matter… to Me?00:09:23 – The Labels We Live By (And How to Let Them Go)00:13:26 – How External Voices Shape Internal Battles00:25:56 – Old Messages, New Awareness: What Are You Still Carrying?00:27:19 – Step Into the Judge's Chamber—You Might Be Surprised Who's Inside00:28:14 – The Dishwasher Story: It Was Never About the Dishes00:29:28 – Tearing Off the Labels That Keep Us Small00:32:46 – Speak Life: The Words That Shape Who You Become00:42:00 – Feel It to Heal It: A Real Look at the Core Emotion Wheel
Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis explore one of the most foundational elements of human connection: identity. What does it mean to give identity—or to take it away? Through tender personal stories and real-life encounters, they unpack how kindness, often seen as a simple virtue, carries the power to either affirm or strip away someone's sense of significance. Phyllis introduces the concept of the "identity meter"—a powerful internal gauge that shifts based on whether we're seen, valued, and understood. From social media judgments to a heartfelt moment with a grieving artist, the episode beautifully illustrates how much we long to matter—and how our everyday interactions either feed or deplete that longing. If you've ever asked yourself, “Do I matter to them?”, this conversation will resonate deeply.Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 Connection Codes: https://connectioncodes.co/(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)________________________________________________________________Chapters:00:00:00 - What If Identity Could Heal the World?00:01:22 - Is Kindness Actually the Key?00:02:21 - Social Media: Boosting or Breaking Your Identity Meter?00:03:24 - She Left Him… and He Finally Knows Why00:04:37 - The Hidden Definition of Identity in Love00:07:10 - Tiny Acts, Massive Emotional Impact00:08:48 - The Domino Effect of a Single Kind Word00:16:36 - When Faith and Identity Collide00:27:25 - One Greeting. One Shift. One Human Seen.00:28:15 - The Power of Being Noticed—Really Noticed00:29:34 - “Do You Even Know Me Anymore?”00:30:31 - Rebuilding Intimacy, One Small Gesture at a Time00:31:41 - What Happens When We Truly See Someone00:33:05 - Unspoken Needs That Quietly Destroy Connection00:34:58 - From Global Conflict to Family Feuds: It's All Identity00:36:30 - When Human Connection Becomes a Superpower00:43:48 - The Cost of Feeling Invisible00:43:57 - One Tool to Help You Understand What's Firing Inside00:50:00 - You're Not Broken—You Just Need to Be Seen00:53:25 - Your Challenge: Give Identity Today
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack a recent “miss” in their relationship—one that reflects a broader season of emotional exhaustion, grief, and life transition. From losing Glenn's mother to living a nomadic life out of a suitcase, the Hills open up about the cumulative weariness they've been carrying. Phyllis courageously names the fear of “forever missing each other” and the exhaustion that sometimes keeps her from even wanting to analyze the disconnection. This episode is not about offering quick fixes—it's a raw, heartfelt look at what it means to live through heavy seasons and still choose connection. Whether you're in burnout, walking through grief, or feeling stuck in cycles of disconnection, this episode will remind you: you're not alone, and there's hope in the wide lens.Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineBook a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)________________________________________________________________Chapters:00:00:00 – We're Not Okay (and That's Okay)00:01:20 – When Life Just Keeps Coming at You00:04:16 – Tiny Misses, Big Emotional Impact00:06:39 – I Felt It, But I Didn't Know Why00:13:17 – The Moment We Completely Missed Each Other00:26:16 – From Laughing… to “What Just Happened?”00:26:43 – Unpacking the Emotional Whiplash00:27:18 – Are You Seeing Me As the Enemy?00:28:21 – You Thought I Was Mad… I Wasn't00:30:21 – Slowing Down Before the Disconnect00:33:06 – Reconnection Starts with Brave Vulnerability00:36:08 – How the Emotion Wheel Saved the Moment00:43:48 - Encouragement for Listeners
So many of us live as stunt doubles, showing up in spaces—church, work, even our own homes—feeling like we have to perform instead of just be. In this episode, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis unpack the weight of that, the exhaustion it brings, and how Connection Codes gives us the tools to step out of the act and into real, life-giving connection. They share stories from their recent event in Austin, the impact of this work around the world, and the freedom that comes when we stop masking and start living fully as ourselves.Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineBook a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)________________________________________________________________Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome! Are You Living a Stunt Double Life?00:01:29 - Behind the Scenes: What We Learned in Austin00:03:04 - Real Stories, Real Change: Connection Codes in Action00:07:37 - Why Hiding Hurts & How to Show Up Fully00:12:34 - Stunt Doubling at Work, Church & Home—Are You Doing It?00:25:01 - Feeling Drained? The Link Between Emotions & Productivity00:28:30 - Burnout is Real—Here's How to Spot It & Stop It00:30:22 - Loneliness Creeping In? How to Find Genuine Support00:32:10 - What's in Your Emotional Backpack? Time to Unpack It!00:33:38 - Want Deeper Connection? Here's How to Create Safe Spaces00:40:02 - The Core Emotion Wheel: Your Secret to Stronger Relationships00:48:03 - Final Thoughts: Ditch the Act & Start Living Fully
Marriage is full of seasons—some where you're both thriving, some where you're both struggling, and the hardest ones, where one of you is drowning while the other is doing just fine. In this episode, Tera, Echo, and Phyllis get real about what it looks like to stay connected when your partner is in a tough place, how codependency sneaks in without us realizing it, and why we were never meant to carry everything for each other. They unpack the guilt, the resentment, and the loneliness that can show up in these seasons, and share the tools that helped them stop fixing, start seeing, and actually enjoy their marriage again.Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-help (If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)_________________________________________________________________Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:Echo Hill Vetter's Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter Echo's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetterChapters:00:00:00 – The Part of Marriage No One Prepares You For00:01:06 – Saying the Wrong Name, Every Time00:02:04 – When Life Drains You and Your Spouse Doesn't Get It00:03:40 – The Worst Thing You Can Do When Your Partner is Struggling00:07:03 – How We Accidentally Made Marriage Impossible00:11:50 – Your Spouse is Not Your Village00:24:18 – Codependency Feels Like Love—Until It's Not00:28:27 – The Silent Ways We Sabotage Ourselves00:29:06 – The Cost of Ignoring Your Own Body00:31:29 – The Difference Between Asking and Expecting00:33:50 – Speak Now or Resent Later00:35:42 – The Secret to Processing Without Over-Talking00:38:34 – Breaking the Patterns That Keep You Stuck00:49:15 – You Weren't Meant to Do This Alone00:52:12 – It's Time to Stop Pretending Everything's Fine
In this episode, Tera Wages sits down with Phyllis Hill and Echo Hill Vedder to talk about a game-changing concept: desire vs. capacity—the difference between what we want to do and what we actually have the bandwidth for. They discuss how ignoring our capacity leads to burnout, why so many of us push through exhaustion, and how tuning into our bodies can be the key to reclaiming energy and joy. Echo shares how she learned to listen to her body instead of the judge in her head, and Phyllis gets real about hitting empty after years of over-functioning. They explore many ways to grow capacity, shift limiting beliefs, and make space for what truly matters—without guilt or shame. Plus, they break down how emotional processing through Connection Codes helps expand capacity and disrupts the pain cycle not just for ourselves, but for our entire community. If you're feeling exhausted, stuck, or constantly running on fumes, this episode is a must-listen!Links and Resources:Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-help (If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)_________________________________________________________________Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:Echo Hill Vetter's Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter Echo's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter Chapters00:00:00 - The Tug-of-War Between Wanting and Doing00:04:10 - A Room Full of Connection Code Coaches00:05:11 - When Your To-Do List Laughs at You00:08:48 - Burnout Doesn't Knock—It Kicks the Door Down00:11:58 - Your Body is Keeping Score (And It's Not Looking Good)00:16:33 - Why Some Days You Can Handle It, and Some Days You Can't00:22:48 - The Science of Saying No (And Actually Meaning It)00:26:57 - The Invisible Cost of Always Saying Yes00:31:37 - The Brain vs. The Body: Who Wins?00:32:34 - When Life Demands More Than You Can Give00:34:38 - SOS: Finding Help Before You Collapse00:36:36 - Systems That Save You From Yourself00:42:56 - Self-Care Isn't a Luxury—It's Survival00:48:07 - Why Emotional Processing is the Secret to More Energy00:54:33 - Final Thoughts From Three People Who've Been There
In this episode, Tera sits down with trauma-informed coach Echo Vetter to unpack something most of us were never taught—how to process anger in a healthy way. Echo breaks down the difference between core anger and secondary anger, why we misdefine it, and how it actually exists to protect us. She explains how unprocessed anger lives in the body, often showing up as chronic pain, stress, or emotional shutdown, and shares practical ways to reconnect with ourselves so we stop resisting our own energy. Phyllis opens up about her personal journey of storing anger for decades, the toll it's taken on her health, and the fear that facing it might damage her closest relationships. Echo offers powerful insight on how we can rewire the way we relate to anger—so instead of being afraid of it, we learn to partner with it and let it fuel the change we need.Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-help (If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)_________________________________________________________________Connect with Echo Hill Vetter: Echo Hill Vetter's Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter Echo's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter Chapters: 00:00:00 - The Weight of Unprocessed Anger 00:00:37 - Who's in the Room? Meet the Voices Behind the Mic 00:01:48 - A Road Trip, A Wedding, and Deep Talks 00:03:27 - Anger Isn't Just One Thing 00:04:26 - Why We Have Anger (And Why We Fear It) 00:05:08 - Making Friends with an Uncomfortable Emotion 00:09:25 - How to Stop Fighting Your Own Energy 00:14:49 - Three Pages a Day: Writing Through Emotion 00:23:17 - Why Men and Women Experience Anger Differently 00:29:51 - The Moment You Realize You're Holding More Than You Thought 00:30:21 - Is This Anger Mine to Carry? 00:32:42 - The Survival Strategies We Never Question 00:38:31 - What Happens When You Ignore Your Body's Signals 00:40:26 - How the Judgment Cycle Keeps You Stuck 00:42:12 - The Smallest Shift That Changes Everything 00:50:38 - The Emotional Tool You Need (That No One Taught You) 00:54:04 - Closing Thoughts & What Happens Next
Tera sits down with Meaghan Hill for an update that so many listeners have been asking for. Nearly a year after her diagnosis, Meg shares what this journey has been like—the hard days, the unexpected moments, and the deep gratitude she has for the people who have surrounded her. She talks about what it's like to sit in the emotions that come with something this heavy, how faith has played a huge role, and why she refused to accept the prognosis she was given. Tera and Meg also talk about connection—what it means to truly show up for each other, how to navigate the ups and downs with the people you love, and the small, everyday moments that mean everything. This conversation is real, emotional, and full of perspective on what really matters in life.Links and Resources: Meg's Healing Journey: https://www.megshealingjourney.com To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpChapters: 00:00:00 – The Update You've All Been Waiting For 00:02:14 – “Go Make Memories”—Meg's World Shifts 00:04:06 – Anesthesia Wears Off, Reality Sets In 00:05:39 – When Survival Means Ignoring the Odds 00:10:03 – The People Who Refused to Let Meg Go Through This Alone 00:14:07 – Defying Expectations, One Scan at a Time 00:23:24 – The Moments That Matter Most (and We Almost Miss) 00:23:42 – What Pain Taught Me About Living 00:25:19 – Fear Knocking, Faith Answering 00:26:24 – Laughing in the Face of the Unthinkable 00:28:22 – Why We Need People More Than We Realize 00:32:26 – Sorting Out Emotions When Life Throws Everything at You 00:38:32 – If Someone You Love Has Cancer, Listen to This 00:42:27 – A Final Word on Hope, Healing, and What Really Matters
Certified coach Bridgett Blood joins Phyllis Hill for a conversation about sexual joy and sexual loneliness—what they actually mean and why we're so uncomfortable talking about them. Bridgett explains how these feelings show up whether you're single or married, why we've been taught to fear our own sexual energy, and how embracing it can lead to deeper connection and self-acceptance. She shares her experiences (including a really funny one about a Twister game), pushes back against old beliefs, and talks about why desire isn't just about sex—it's about play, delight, and knowing your own worth. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body or unsure how to talk about what you actually need, this episode is a must-listen!Links and Resources:To download the Core Emotion Wheel:https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheelTo enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineBook a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpConnect with Bridgett:Bridgett Blood:https://bridgettblood.comBridgett on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/bridgettbloodRecover Your Life Podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@BridgettBloodRecover Your Life Podcast on Spotify:https://tinyurl.com/bdebz6ntBook a FREE discovery coaching call with Bridgett:https://tinyurl.com/vhbfb6jxChapters:00:00:00 – What No One Told You About Sexual Joy and Loneliness00:00:53 – The Connection Codes Podcast Kicks Off00:01:46 – Sexual Joy vs. Sexual Loneliness: What's Really Happening?00:04:05 – Personal Stories That Will Shift Your Perspective00:09:15 – The Hidden Triggers of Sexual Activation00:12:07 – What Your Body Is Telling You (That You've Been Ignoring)00:15:43 – Breaking the Shame Cycle Around Sexual Energy00:18:32 – Why Naming Your Desires Changes Everything00:20:19 – A Framework for Processing Sexual Activation00:29:31 – How the Core Emotion Wheel Rewires Your Understanding00:37:13 – Final Thoughts, Resources, and Next Steps
Tera Wages is joined by Bridgett Blood and Phyllis Hill to explore the concept of Psycholation—a state of psychological isolation where people experience emotions alone, even when surrounded by others. They discuss how past experiences can make us want to keep pain to ourselves and the impact it has on relationships and mental well-being. Bridgett shares how she overcame isolation, while Phyllis and Tera get into the importance of safe connections and finding trusted people to process emotions with. They also provide steps for breaking out of Psycholation, including identifying safe relationships, expressing needs, and seeking supportive communities. Tera, Bridgett, and Phyllis will give you encouragement to recognize emotional patterns, build trust, and reach out for connection instead of carrying burdens alone. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters: 00:00:00 - Storing It All Day, Exploding at Night 00:01:04 - The Experts Step In: Meet Bridgett & Phyllis 00:01:49 - A Live Emotional Check-In: What Will Surface? 00:04:30 - Cyclation: The Word You Didn't Know You Needed 00:06:13 - Childhood Blueprints: How We Learn to Isolate 00:07:55 - Secrets We Keep: Why Hiding Feels Safer 00:10:16 - Finding the Exit: Steps to Escape Isolation 00:14:21 - Safe People: Who Are They and Why Do We Need Them? 00:17:20 - The Heavy Load: Are We Expecting Too Much from One Person? 00:23:37 - Who's Safe and Who's Not? A New Way to See It 00:28:05 - Sharing Without Oversharing: Navigating Emotional Conversations 00:29:30 - The Small but Mighty Power of a Simple Text 00:30:19 - Three Feet of Fear: How We Experience and Respond 00:33:38 - Looking in the Mirror: Are You a Safe Person Too? 00:35:55 - Capacity vs. Desire: The Boundary We All Need 00:42:11 - Dream Solutions: What If the Life You Want Is Within Reach? 00:50:53 - Time to Act: One Step to Break the Cycle
Elijah Runyan, a Connection Codes-certified coach, wellness mentor, and father of four, joins Tera to dig into the emotional rollercoaster of parenting. In this episode, Elijah opens up about the challenges of raising teenagers and young kids, trying to understand their emotional needs, and confronting his own fears and shame as a parent. He shares how Connection Codes tools have completely changed his approach, moving from reaction to intentional connection, and how he's helping his kids process trauma and anxiety. This conversation is a look at how real change begins within and offers hope for parents everywhere seeking deeper relationships with their kids. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Connect with Elijah: Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealth Chapters: 00:00:00 - A Day with Elijah: Diving Deep 00:01:27 - The Buzz Behind Connection Codes Certification 00:03:08 - Parenting Without a Script 00:06:24 - Fear, Shame, and Teenage Drivers 00:10:15 - When School Stops Feeling Safe 00:15:10 - The Trauma We Didn't See Coming 00:19:06 - Co-Regulating: The Secret Sauce 00:20:13 - A New Approach to Safety for Kids 00:21:40 - Breaking Old Parenting Cycles 00:26:15 - Repairing Connections: The Art of the Apology 00:27:10 - How Hungry is Your Kid's Heart? 00:31:07 - Wheels of Emotion: A Parenting Tool 00:32:04 - Raw Reflections from Parenthood 00:37:03 - Resources, Encouragement, and Hope for Parents
Phyllis and Dr. Glenn are joined by Elijah Runyan, a seasoned Connection Codes coach and the director of their coaching certification program. Elijah shares how fear of shame, fear of emotions, and avoidance can drive our behaviors in relationships and everyday life. Through real-life client stories and his own experiences, he explains how slicing emotions thinner and processing them authentically can lead to breakthroughs in intimacy, parenting, and self-awareness. The conversation unpacks tools, the role of energy in emotional connection, and why avoiding emotions only strengthens barriers. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Connect with Elijah: Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealth Chapters: 00:00:00 - Unmasking Emotions: The Start Of It All 00:00:22 - Meet The Minds Behind Connection Codes 00:01:49 - Elijah's Aha Moment On Fear Of Shame 00:04:00 - When Fear Holds Relationships Hostage 00:07:27 - The Hidden Depths Of Anger And Hurt 00:16:25 - Stories That Change Perspectives 00:24:30 - Processing Emotions: The Turning Point 00:27:26 - Fear, Anxiety, And Emotional Breakthroughs 00:29:41 - Why Emotional Regulation Is Everything 00:33:49 - Secrets To Connection In Every Relationship 00:41:11 - A Glimpse Into The Coaching Universe 00:44:13 - The Final Thought That Says It All
Tera sits down with Dan and Kay Ockey, founders of Centsei, to talk about the emotional and practical side of finances in relationships. From overcoming $20,000 of debt in their early marriage to building a system that has helped thousands of couples find financial peace, the Ockeys share their journey of vulnerability, teamwork, and transformation. They discuss the shame that often surrounds money, the power of partnership, and offer steps to turn financial stress into strength. This conversation is for anyone ready to rewrite their financial story. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Connect with Dan and Kay: Centsei Finance: https://www.centseifinance.com Kay on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kay-ockey-b24066158 Dan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-ockey Schedule a Free Consultation: https://tinyurl.com/2y5je9e4 Chapters: 00:00:00 - Big goals, bigger hurdles: Setting the stage 00:00:12 - Dan and Kay's unfiltered story begins 00:01:14 - Why this conversation changes everything 00:01:55 - A hidden debt: Their financial awakening 00:04:56 - The moment everything came to light 00:11:02 - From argument to agreement: The turning point 00:13:36 - The napkin plan that started it all 00:17:29 - A crash course in financial teamwork 00:18:57 - What makes a money partnership thrive 00:22:04 - Vision boards for your bank account 00:23:45 - Love, support, and shared money dreams 00:26:15 - Breaking free from the budget autopilot 00:26:41 - How to channel anger into action 00:29:01 - Real clients, real transformations 00:32:18 - The raw power of emotional honesty 00:43:49 - Wrapping up: Resources for your money journey
The Connection Codes team has a conversation about the transition into 2025, sharing their insights on goals, community, and the intentional steps they're taking for growth in the new year. They discuss the importance of connection, both within relationships and with oneself, and the small, actionable changes that can create meaningful momentum. Tera shares her word of the year—see—which is about the power of truly seeing others and allowing herself to be seen. Glenn explores the balance between responsibilities and creative passions, while Phyllis opens up about the role of community in supporting life changes. Together, they invite you to reflect, take small steps forward, and avoid staying stuck in fear or perfectionism as you navigate your own journeys into the new year. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters: 00:00:00 – The Spark of 2025: New Year, Same Us? 00:00:44 – When Lamps Were Stage Lights: The Origin Story 00:01:15 – Dream Boards, January Guilt, and Echo's Goals 00:02:45 – Community: Why We Resist What We Need Most 00:04:53 – Intentions Without Action Are Just Wishes 00:07:55 – Isolation, Loneliness, and Late-Night Subscriptions 00:09:59 – From Isolation to Joy: The Year in Review 00:12:08 – One Word for 2025: S-E-E 00:14:33 – Balancing Dreams, Writing Novels, and Life's Checklists 00:16:48 – The Wheel That Keeps Us Grounded 00:23:23 – Zoom Calls, Fear, and a Barn in 2020 00:24:14 – Behind the Grainy Camera: Trusting the Unknown 00:24:44 – The Quiet Impact of Tera and Wes Wages 00:27:55 – Community Isn't a Buzzword—It's a Lifeline 00:31:46 – Imperfect Starts, Perfect Timing 00:34:04 – Momentum: The Small Steps That Move Mountains 00:43:19 – Teamship: When Everyone Carries the Load 00:46:03 – The Invitation: Start Small, Start Now
Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill continue their conversation about how they're navigating life's big transitions. They reflect on the decision to sell their home of 11 years, the emotional and physical toll of letting go, and the unexpected challenges of rebuilding a new normal. Through stories of fear, exhaustion, and fleeting moments of clarity, they share how community, small steps, and vulnerability carried them through one of the most disorienting seasons of their lives. Together, they offer a reminder that meaningful change doesn't always feel good in the moment, but it's worth every step. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters 00:00:00 – When the Calendar Resets, So Do We 00:01:39 – The Moment After the Big Leap 00:04:24 – What We Learned From Letting Go of Stuff 00:12:24 – Sometimes Help Looks Like a Hurricane 00:17:16 – Prepping a House, Prepping a Heart 00:22:20 – When the Offer Comes Faster Than Expected 00:25:41 – A Table, A Family, and One Last Brunch 00:26:04 – Laughter Echoes in Empty Rooms 00:27:02 – Things We Didn't See Coming 00:28:20 – Saying Goodbye Isn't One Moment 00:29:27 – New Holidays, Old Traditions, Big Emotions 00:31:51 – When Curiosity Feels Vulnerable 00:33:46 – Processing the Aftermath 00:40:54 – The Exercise That Held Us Together 00:46:51 – What Comes After Goodbye
Tera and Wes talk about the challenges of staying emotionally connected during the busy and often chaotic holiday season. They openly share moments of guilt, shame, and loneliness, showing how quickly small interactions can turn into emotional disconnect if left unaddressed. They discuss using the Core Emotion Wheel to break cycles of resentment and miscommunication. It's not about avoiding conflict but recognizing the moments when connection is slipping and choosing to lean in—whether it's over wrapping gifts, missed cues, or moments of unspoken bitterness. This conversation isn't about holiday perfection; it's about showing up for each other, even in the mess. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters: 00:00:00 – When Christmas Hustle Meets Emotional Chaos 00:00:51 – Why Wes is Here (And Why Tera Thinks People Don't Like Her) 00:02:35 – The Tool That Saves Conversations Before They Explode 00:09:32 – Holiday Stress: Silent Resentment's Best Friend 00:15:25 – The Moment Connection Feels Like an Uphill Climb 00:16:45 – Guilt and Anger Aren't Just Gift-Wrapped Feelings 00:17:42 – The Core Emotion Wheel in Real Time 00:18:09 – When Silence Speaks Louder Than Words 00:19:35 – The Fastest Way to Stop Emotional Drift 00:20:40 – Sexual Loneliness: The Emotion No One Talks About 00:25:33 – Small Moments, Big Repairs: Finding Compassion Again 00:26:37 – Staying Connected When the Calendar Feels Impossible 00:30:02 – Joy, Gratitude, and a Holiday Sign-Off
Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill, alongside Tera Wages, reflect on years of caregiving, immense responsibility, and the hidden toll of staying too long in life's boiling pot. As she shares moments of unexpected joy, pain, and tough decisions, Phyllis talks about how recognizing and addressing pain can lead to profound change. Tera joins the conversation, helping frame the journey of shifting from “I can't” to “I can,” challenging all of us to confront our own boiling water and embrace the courage to pursue a life that truly serves us. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters: 00:00:00 – Shattering the “I Can't” Mindset 00:01:05 – Cracking the Code to Connection 00:01:36 – Pain as a Silent Companion 00:03:34 – A Life-Changing Family Call 00:04:43 – The Whisper of Help 00:08:18 – When the Pool Collapsed 00:12:30 – A Breath of New Perspective 00:15:49 – The Joyful Weight of Change 00:20:12 – Confronting the Fear of Letting Go 00:24:56 – Untangling Emotions for a Fresh Start 00:30:16 – A Call to Courage
Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis dive right into the deep emotional impact of hurt and how it shapes our decisions, often leading us to throw out meaningful connections. They discuss the origins of the phrase “throwing the baby out with the bathwater” and share examples where unresolved pain led to disconnection—from friendships to church experiences and even political divides. The Connection Codes team discusses the importance of staying curious, processing emotions like hurt and fear, and choosing connection over isolation. This is a very powerful conversation about making your way through personal and communal hard situations while holding onto what truly matters. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters: 00:00:00 - The Weight of Hurt Unpacked 00:00:52 - Meet the Voices Behind Connection 00:01:23 - Baby, Bathwater, and a Bigger Problem 00:05:51 - Stories That Still Sting 00:11:55 - Science Meets Hurt: The Brain's Alarm 00:13:14 - Love in the Time of Pain 00:17:35 - Faith, Hurt, and a Bigger Picture 00:22:28 - When Churches Stop Listening 00:24:45 - Conversations That Change Everything 00:26:33 - Moving Through Pain, Step by Step 00:29:02 - How Pain Creates Growth 00:32:39 - Politics, Curiosity, and Connection 00:35:52 - Healing Starts with Acknowledgment 00:43:11 - A Final Look at Connection
Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis talk about the surprising ways emotions can surface and the impact they have on our lives and connections. Phyllis shares a deeply personal moment when a Broadway play unexpectedly brought her to tears, triggering memories and grief she hadn't felt in years. Tera, Glenn, and Phyllis reflect on the Connection Codes principle that emotions happen to us, often without warning, and how embracing this truth can lead to deeper connection and healing. They also discuss how society often misjudges emotional responses, and why learning to honor and process our feelings—rather than suppress them—can transform relationships and self-understanding. Don't miss this heartfelt conversation that reminds us how emotion shapes our human experience. Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help Chapters 00:00:00 - The Connection Codes Unveiled 00:01:23 - Phyllis Faces Unexpected Emotions 00:03:02 - A Play That Triggered the Past 00:05:16 - Grief Through the Lens of Broadway 00:08:57 - Supporting Emotions in Real Time 00:15:10 - The Depth of Emotional Pain 00:18:58 - Navigating Intense Emotional Waves 00:22:24 - A Stranger's Unsettling Encounter 00:24:32 - What Drives Human Behavior 00:27:25 - Exploring the Core Emotion Wheel 00:30:52 - Emotions from New York Adventures 00:36:59 - Wrapping Up with Encouragement
Tera sits down with Sharon McMahon, widely known as America's government teacher, to discuss the power of fear as a driver in politics and history. They discuss how emotions influence decision-making, the importance of warm relationships in bridging divides, and the steps individuals can take to create meaningful change in their communities. Sharon shares insights from her journey, highlights from her new book, The Small and the Mighty, and advice for navigating today's polarized world. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Connect with Sharon McMahon: Sharon McMahon: https://sharonmcmahon.com Sharon on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonsaysso Here's Where It Gets Interesting Podcast: https://sharonmcmahon.com/podcast The Small and the Mighty by Sharon McMahon: https://sharonmcmahon.com/book Chapters 00:00:00 - Meeting Sharon McMahon: America's Government Teacher 00:01:59 - A Bold Leap into Education and Public Service 00:06:23 - How Fear Shapes History: Lessons We Need Today 00:12:30 - Fear as the Catalyst: Understanding Its Political Grip 00:17:41 - Politics Powered by Fear: Unpacking its Influence 00:27:14 - Uniting in Division: Strategies to Find Common Ground 00:29:08 - Social Media's Role in Isolation and Connection 00:34:08 - Big Impacts, Small Actions: How to Make a Difference 00:39:36 - Building a Legacy in a Digital World 00:40:46 - Stories of Unsung Heroes: Honoring Quiet Courage 00:51:13 - Supporting Roles: The Glue of Great Achievements 00:52:29 - Closing Reflections: Lessons to Take Forward
Erika and Jordan Koop are back with the Connection Codes team to discuss creating meaningful connections within relationships and communities. From their initial struggles with applying Connection Codes to their eventual success in fostering a culture of emotional fluency in their northern Canadian community, their story gives you a look into both the challenges and rewards of building relational resilience. The conversation goes into the impact of vulnerability, the reality of conflict in close relationships, and steps for bringing transformative tools to others. The Koops show how connection can thrive even in the midst of personal and communal challenges. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Connect with The Koops: Erika and Jordan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/questforthecore Chapters 00:00:00 – The Start of a Connection Revolution 00:00:29 – Meet Jordan and Erica Koop 00:01:27 – A Message from Northern Canada 00:03:42 – The Koops' Path to Connection Mastery 00:05:35 – Overcoming Barriers to Build Community 00:06:14 – The Key to Group Dynamics Success 00:09:01 – Profound Impacts of Connection Codes 00:16:10 – Personal Growth Through Emotional Challenges 00:27:17 – Navigating Shame and Fear in Relationships 00:28:30 – Exploring Emotional Cycles and the Pit of Despair 00:29:47 – Why Real-Time Emotional Processing Matters 00:31:23 – The Blueprint for a Supportive Community 00:34:33 – Vulnerability's Role in Deepening Relationships 00:38:57 – Steps to Foster a Culture of Vulnerability 00:40:55 – Tangible Stories of Vulnerability at Work 00:45:12 – Empowering Community Builders with Resources 00:50:31 – Wrapping Up with Encouragement
Tera Wages and Echo Vetter Hill are discussing the realities of emotional awareness, exploring how emotions show up in our bodies and what they're really telling us. They talk about the link between sensations and feelings, the purpose behind emotions like anger and sadness, and why we often resist our own needs. Together, they look at how facing pain can lead to real growth and how connecting with our emotions can transform relationships and self-understanding. Tera also guides you through the Core Emotion Wheel, giving you a look at a tool for identifying and processing what's going on beneath the surface. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Connect with Echo Hill Vetter: Echo Hill Vetter's Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter Echo's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter Chapters: 00:00:00 — Start of the journey with Connection Codes 00:00:35 — Discovering needs with Echo Vetter Hill 00:02:42 — Emotions decoded: What do they do? 00:07:16 — Sensations and self-awareness 00:13:02 — Emotions stored in the body 00:19:14 — Differentiating acute and chronic emotional pain 00:27:40 — The surprising strength of anger 00:35:52 — Building connection: The real practice 00:36:35 — Embracing vulnerability with emotion 00:38:30 — Recognizing and managing hurt 00:38:51 — Weighing pain against growth 00:44:38 — Facing sadness and navigating loss 00:47:59 — Loneliness exposed and finding support 00:55:19 — Guilt, shame, and rewriting our actions 00:59:55 — Unlocking the Core Emotion Wheel 01:06:45 — Final reflections and encouragement
Tera welcomes the co-creator of Connection Codes, Echo Hill Vetter. She's a trauma informed coach as well as a parenting and lead coach. Today they're discussing the power of beliefs and how they shape our identities, often keeping us in what Echo calls a "tiny little box." As they talk about the emotional weight of Election Day, they explore why differing perspectives can feel threatening and how fear plays a central role in our reactions. Tera and Echo discuss the impact of generational experiences and challenge you to approach differing beliefs with curiosity rather than judgment. Tera shares her own journey toward openness, encouraging you to stay connected to yourself and others, even when it feels uncomfortable. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Connect with Echo Hill Vetter: Echo Hill Vetter's Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter Echo's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter Chapters: 00:00:00 - Election Day Reflections and Emotional Intensity 00:01:58 - Exploring How Beliefs Shape Identity 00:03:22 - The Role of Fear in Feeling Safe 00:04:43 - When Beliefs No Longer Fit 00:08:19 - Echo's Personal Journey with Shifting Beliefs 00:10:13 - Finding Connection through Curiosity 00:14:58 - Using Emotional Awareness to Bridge Differences 00:20:33 - Discovering Common Ground Through Shared Fears 00:27:15 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Connection 00:30:47 - Final Reflections on Staying Connected
The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion, they take a look at the hidden messages men receive about sex and desire—messages that create shame and emotional distance. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share personal experiences and clinical observations on how societal pressures force men to conceal their struggles, while Tera brings a fresh perspective on how these issues affect marriages. Together, they discuss how acknowledging and unpacking these messages can lead to healthier connections and break down emotional barriers. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Starting the Conversation on Male Sexuality 00:00:49 - Listener's Challenge Sparks a Deep Dive 00:04:01 - Untold Stories and Hidden Experiences 00:05:27 - The Influence of Cultural Messages 00:12:34 - Unpacking Lust and Attraction 00:21:45 - Navigating Purity Culture's Impact 00:31:54 - Biblical Takes on Lust: A Fresh Look 00:36:59 - Understanding the Greek Roots of Lust 00:38:06 - When Does Lust Become Sin? 00:39:08 - Attraction Stories That Shape Us 00:42:23 - What It Means to Be "Missing" in Marriage 00:45:05 - Surprising Insights from Pre-Marriage Talks 00:50:00 - Honest Conversations in Pre-Marriage Counseling 00:56:08 - How Honesty Reshapes Relationships 01:03:14 - Wrapping Up with Core Emotion Reflections
Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy and vulnerability, reflecting on personal stories of breaking through fear and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, mutual trust, and being adventurous in the bedroom—whether that means trying pole dancing, exploring phone sex, or simply processing long-held fears. This episode challenges listeners to move past societal judgments and find what works for them and their partners, pointing out that every couple's journey is unique. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Girl Time Vibes 00:00:50 Welcome to the Connection Codes 00:01:36 Unveiling a Listener's Email 00:03:26 Phyllis's U-Haul Truck Adventure 00:05:12 Pushing the Boundaries in Sexual Adventure 00:07:44 Freeing Yourself from Shame and Judgment 00:12:52 Opening Up: Boundaries and Personal Comfort 00:14:10 Why Communication Is the Key to Intimacy 00:18:26 Chair Dancing: Phyllis's Unexpected Confidence Boost 00:20:27 Staying Intimately Connected Across Distance 00:21:47 Girlfriends Sharing Bold Relationship Tips 00:23:34 Facing Shame and Embracing Vulnerability 00:24:03 The Joy of Fiction: A Surprising Tool for Sexual Exploration 00:26:32 From Theater to Bedroom: Removing Barriers 00:28:19 Self-Awareness: A Pathway to Sexual Exploration 00:31:00 Adventure in the Bedroom at Any Age 00:35:21 Processing Emotions Surrounding Sex 00:42:34 How to Build Safety and Curiosity in Relationships 00:44:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men's sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather than performance. The conversation also touches on common challenges in sexual relationships, the importance of open communication, and how better sexual education can lead to deeper emotional connections. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Connect with Sam: Sam Jolman: https://www.samjolman.com/ Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samjolman/ Sam on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samjolmancounseling Sam's Substack - the heart of it: https://samjolman.substack.com/ The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/4s7b47pr Story Formed by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/53sy8amx Chapters: 00:00:00 – Setting the Stage: Why This Episode Stands Out 00:01:38 – Meet Sam Jolman: A New Voice in Masculine Sexuality 00:03:48 – Redefining Masculine Sexuality Through Personal Stories 00:06:52 – Real-Life Experiences That Shape Our Sexual Identity 00:09:55 – Why Sexual Education Is More Important Than Ever 00:14:03 – Navigating Challenges in Today's Sexual Relationships 00:20:20 – The Strength in Vulnerability: Opening Up About Sexuality 00:25:01 – How to Clearly Communicate Your Sexual Needs 00:27:29 – Breaking Down Sexual Play and Its Importance in Relationships 00:28:28 – Understanding the Boundaries: Consent and Desire 00:29:37 – The Neurological Basis for Play and Vulnerability 00:32:32 – The Root of Miscommunication in Sexual Relationships 00:34:24 – Overcoming Fear and Embracing Playfulness in Intimacy 00:47:13 – The Hidden Power of Non-Sexual Play in Strengthening Bonds 00:48:37 – Wrapping It Up: Key Takeaways from the Conversation
The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconnection. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack the idea of the "courtroom" in relationships, where couples focus on proving who's right instead of understanding each other's emotions. They discuss how this leads to loneliness, especially in areas like sex, and share tools to shift from battling over facts to building deeper emotional connection. Whether it's about resolving conflict or dealing with sexual loneliness, you'll be offered a path to transforming your relationship. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Opening the Courtroom: How Conflicts Become Trials in Marriage 00:01:21 - Marriage as a Battlefield: The Story Behind the Courtroom Mentality 00:03:05 - The Burden of Being Right: When Winning Means Losing 00:04:21 - Logistics vs. Emotions: The Trap of Disconnected Arguments 00:09:45 - The High Cost of Winning: How Arguments Lead to Disconnection 00:14:36 - Exhaustion and Innocence: Why Proving Your Case Drains You 00:21:36 - The Unseen Toll: Navigating Emotional Chaos 00:22:20 - Sexual Loneliness Unveiled: A Pain Often Ignored 00:23:05 - Connection Through Conversation: How Words Heal 00:24:54 - Validation's Power: The Key to Emotional Harmony 00:26:37 - Conflict as Connection: Transformative Approaches 00:27:40 - Practical Tools for Lasting Emotional Intimacy 00:29:32 - Reflecting on Past Wounds: Why Emotional Tools Matter 00:33:19 - Emotional Mastery: Building the Right Relationship Toolkit 00:37:15 - Healing Old Wounds: How Emotional Tools Transform Relationships 00:41:48 - Encouragement & Wrap-Up: Moving Forward with Connection
We explore the impacts of unprocessed emotions on mental health, from childhood trauma to adult struggles like OCD and anxiety. The team discusses how society's tendency to label people, rather than understand them, leads to deeper psychological challenges. They discuss the importance of emotional regulation and use simple tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help both adults and children process their feelings. By addressing these issues early on, we can improve emotional health and break harmful cycles across generations. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Unveiling the Spectrum of Psyche Disorders: A Journey Begins 00:02:06 - Navigating the Human Condition: What Shapes Us? 00:03:28 - Unprocessed Emotions: Silent Disruptors of Our Lives 00:06:45 - Real Stories, Real Struggles: Humanity in Motion 00:09:31 - Childhood Memories: How Early Trauma Echoes in Adulthood 00:12:27 - Cultural Shifts and the Rise of Pathologizing Human Experience 00:16:02 - Living with OCD: A Deep Dive into Personal Insights 00:24:57 - Parenting in the Face of Emotional Health Challenges 00:31:26 - Parenting Misunderstandings: The Unspoken Burdens 00:33:53 - Childhood Anxiety: Recognizing and Addressing It Early 00:36:35 - A Neighborhood Incident: Society's Quick Judgments Exposed 00:40:24 - The Vital Role of Emotional Regulation in Everyday Life 00:47:55 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Game-Changer for All Ages 00:54:14 - Personal Reflections: Processing the Emotional Journey 01:00:38 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement for the Road Ahead
The Connection Codes crew is taking on a listener's question about how parents can express emotions without making their kids feel like they need to earn love or approval. They explore how parents can balance showing real emotions while avoiding guilt-tripping or creating unnecessary pressure. From discussing parental guilt to finding joy in everyday moments, this episode offers you tools for maintaining emotional connection with your kids, even during tough times. Whether you're navigating emotional transparency or trying to create safe spaces for your children, this conversation offers insights on building strong, lasting family bonds. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome to Connection Codes: Exploring Emotional Safety in Parenting 00:01:14 - Personal Reflections: Updates from Life and Gratitude 00:03:43 - Unpacking Emotions with the Connection Codes Tool 00:06:43 - Listener Q&A: Navigating Emotional Parenting 00:11:49 - Striking the Balance: Emotion and Authenticity with Your Kids 00:21:18 - Parenting Guilt: Tackling the Internal Tug of War 00:22:52 - Finding Balance: Emotional Regulation in Parenting 00:24:38 - Prioritizing Connection: The Core of Parenting Success 00:26:54 - Teaching Emotional Awareness: Why It's Crucial for Kids 00:30:01 - The Healing Power of Processing Emotions as a Family 00:31:57 - Building Long-Term Connections: Creating Safe Spaces for Kids 00:36:51 - Joy in Parenting: Why It Matters More Than You Think 00:39:26 - Listener Love: How You're Helping Shape Our Conversations
Tera and Wes open up about going through an emotional disconnect and how they rebuilt their relationship using the Connection Codes method. They discuss their struggles with loneliness, guilt, and fear, and how these emotions impacted their marriage and family life. Tera and Wes also explore how learning to process emotions in the moment has helped them break old patterns of conflict, ultimately leading to a stronger, more connected partnership. This episode shows us how slowing down and creating emotional safety can transform a relationship. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters 00:00:00 - The Start of Our Connection Codes Journey 00:02:35 - How Our Journey Began During COVID 00:04:22 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Life-Changing Tool 00:05:07 - Real-Time Emotion Wheel: An Unfiltered Demo 00:09:07 - Wes Opens Up: His Path to Emotional Awareness 00:12:08 - Tara's Reflection on Connection and Communication 00:13:51 - The Tough Stuff: Breaking Through Emotional Barriers 00:19:34 - Parenting with Emotional Awareness: The Real Impact 00:25:23 - Emotional Anchoring: How to Stay Grounded in the Chaos 00:26:06 - Reflecting on Old Conflicts and New Growth 00:27:05 - Sticking with It: Committing to Emotional Growth 00:28:24 - Real-Life Transformation: What It Looks Like 00:30:42 - Processing Emotions in Real Time: No More Bottling It Up 00:37:04 - Creating a Safe Space: The Key to Emotional Healing 00:41:30 - The Challenges of Holding Space for Each Other 00:45:45 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement
In this episode, the team is diving into the challenges of dealing with difficult family dynamics, focusing on the difference between disassociation and stunt doubling. The hosts share stories about how overwhelming situations, especially with family, can lead to shutting down emotionally or "faking it" just to get through. They explain how disassociation can protect us in moments of stress but can also lead to deeper problems, while stunt doubling is a conscious choice to stay present without fully opening up. They are letting you in on ways to get through these tough moments, helping you find balance between staying true to yourselves and protecting their mental well-being. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters 00:00:00 - When to Show Up or Fake It: Intro to Stunt Doubling vs. Disassociation 00:01:13 - Panic on the Road: How Family Stress Can Lead to Disassociation 00:02:42 - Disassociation: The Mind's Escape Hatch We All Use 00:04:15 - Driving Blind: Personal Stories of Emotional Shut Down 00:07:59 - Stunt Doubling: Why Pretending Might Save Your Relationships 00:11:08 - The Battle Between Authenticity and Survival 00:15:16 - Culture and Disassociation: Are We All Just Numb? 00:18:18 - Stunt Doubling: A Strategy for Emotional Survival 00:21:42 - Finding Safety: A Client's Journey Through Stunt Doubling 00:23:51 - How to Stunt Double Without Losing Yourself 00:26:34 - Navigating Life's Stressful Moments: When to Stunt Double vs. Disassociate 00:31:18 - Core Emotion Wheel: The Tool That Keeps You Grounded 00:34:50 - Wrapping Up: Tools and Insights for Navigating Family Dynamics
In this episode, the Connection Codes team is discussing the impact of emotional and physical pain on our daily lives and relationships. They share personal stories about how unprocessed emotions can show up physically as chronic pain and stress, affecting our ability to experience joy and connection. They also give advice on how to recognize and address these emotions so we can break free from the cycle of pain and live a more fulfilled life. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters 00:00:00 - Joyful Reunion: Reconnecting and New Beginnings 00:00:36 - Diving Deep: The Reality of Pain and Chronic Pain 00:01:27 - Welcome: Exploring Human Connection on the Connection Codes Podcast 00:02:01 - A Fresh Start: New Studio and a Surprise Reveal 00:04:21 - Why Core Emotions Matter: Understanding the Foundation 00:05:18 - Choosing Favorites: The Core Emotions That Drive Us 00:08:36 - Productivity vs. Emotions: The Unseen Connection 00:13:17 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Practical Exercise for Daily Life 00:18:45 - Unpacking the Layers: Emotional Triggers and Responses 00:23:53 - The Power of Connection: Transforming Relationships and Lives 00:25:57 - Certified Coaching Program: Empowering Others to Spread the Word 00:26:32 - Living in Pain: The Interplay Between Emotional and Physical Suffering 00:28:00 - Unprocessed Emotions: The Hidden Impact on Your Well-Being 00:30:36 - Stories of Pain: Personal Accounts and Shared Experiences 00:35:01 - Processing Emotions: Why It's Crucial for Health and Happiness 00:40:07 - Practical Tips: Strategies for Maintaining Emotional Health 00:48:53 - Final Thoughts and Resources: Tools for Your Journey
We confront the overwhelming pressures that come with balancing personal and professional lives, and how unprocessed emotions can drastically reduce productivity and cloud decision-making. The Connection Codes team shares powerful strategies for managing these emotions, helping you break free from the mental blocks that keep you from reaching your full potential. You'll walk away with insights into how emotional intelligence directly impacts your success and learn practical tools to regain control and clarity, both at home and in the workplace. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Drowning in Overwhelm: A Personal Story of Feeling Stuck 00:01:08 - The Connection Codes Podcast: Reconnecting with Yourself and Others 00:01:56 - Overwhelm: The Hidden Impact of Emotions 00:05:11 - Why Emotions Are Sabotaging Your Productivity 00:07:23 - The Overlooked Side of Work-Life Balance: Your Emotional State 00:11:26 - Raw Vulnerability: Personal Experiences That Shape Us 00:20:04 - Your Body Knows Best: Listening to Physical and Emotional Cues 00:22:22 - When Overwhelm Takes Over: Strategies for Emotional Processing 00:23:10 - Finding Solutions: The Importance of Support in Overcoming Overwhelm 00:24:04 - Mastering Overwhelm: Techniques to Regain Control 00:25:21 - Coaching Insights: Navigating Through Overwhelm with Professional Guidance 00:28:53 - Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: The Key to Personal and Professional Growth 00:35:04 - Practical Tools You Can Use Today for Emotional Resilience 00:41:10 - Final Encouragement: Moving Forward with Confidence and Clarity
Replay Episode. (We will be back next week with something brand new! But this is one of our most popular episodes that is worth revisiting
In this episode, the Connection Codes team talks about the realities of love and marriage, pushing back against the lie that relationships are only about finding "The One." They discuss how feelings of love change over time, as well as the importance of safety and connection in maintaining a healthy relationship. They also go into the science behind emotions, experiences, and the impact of life stages like early parenthood on a couple's bond. Tune in to hear a fresh perspective on what it takes to keep love alive and thriving through the ups and downs of married life. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach (If links aren't working, please copy and paste.) Chapters 00:00:00 - Kicking Off: Do Feelings Really Change After Marriage? 00:01:28 - The Quest for 'The One': Unpacking the Myth 00:03:47 - From Love to Lows: Understanding Emotional Shifts 00:07:38 - The Chemistry of Love: What Science Says About Emotions 00:12:45 - True Tales: Navigating Love's Complex Journeys 00:16:00 - The Impact of Cultural Differences on the Concept of Love 00:19:15 - Unprocessed Pain in Relationships: A Silent Barrier to Love 00:21:10 - Understanding Emotional Disconnect and Reconnecting 00:26:33 - Joy Interrupted: When Happiness Fades in Relationships 00:28:51 - Reviving Joy: How to Bring Fun Back into Marriage 00:30:30 - Counseling Power: A Lifeline for Troubled Times 00:33:30 - Staying Intentional: Keys to Thriving Together 00:36:20 - Adventures Await: Facing Fears, Finding Joy 00:39:52 - Pain and Joy: How Acknowledging Hurt Leads to Happiness 00:43:57 - Emotional Tools: Discovering the Core Emotion Wheel 00:51:12 - Closing Thoughts: Encouragement for the Journey Ahead
In this episode the Connection Codes team is talking about the subtle yet powerful impact of words and emotions in relationships. They explore how seemingly simple questions can carry deeper meanings and trigger unexpected responses, often rooted in past experiences and fears. They discuss how leading with emotions like joy and fear can foster genuine connections and reduce misunderstandings. The conversation addresses the importance of authentic communication, and how sharing true emotions can strengthen bonds and create more meaningful interactions. You'll leave this episode with a fresh perspective on the science of connection and the effect of emotional honesty in everyday life. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach (If links aren't working, please copy and paste. Spotify links are adding extra letter and symbols when clicked.) Chapters 00:00:00 - Unlocking Emotional Insights: Podcast Kickoff 00:01:31 - Client Epiphany: A Moment of Clarity 00:03:00 - Words That Change Relationships 00:04:26 - The Science of Emotional Connection 00:06:28 - Real-Life Examples of Emotional Communication 00:10:41 - Navigating Misunderstandings and Challenges 00:15:34 - Personal Stories: From Theory to Practice 00:22:19 - Respecting Personal Preferences in Relationships 00:23:11 - Embracing Emotional Vulnerability 00:24:20 - Harnessing the Power of Emotional Language 00:25:04 - Guiding Emotional Conversations 00:26:48 - The Art of Asking the Right Questions 00:27:45 - Understanding the Core Emotion Wheel 00:30:01 - Facing Real-Life Emotional Struggles 00:39:50 - The Continuous Journey of Connection 00:41:35 - Final Thoughts and Words of Encouragement
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share their unforgettable engagement story, marked by an unexpected fireworks mishap. They open up about the challenges and rewards of maintaining a long-term relationship, discussing the importance of addressing and processing emotional pain rather than suppressing it. They provide insights into the tools and practices that help couples connect on a deeper level, revealing how consistent effort and communication can lead to personal and relational growth. Join them as they unpack the complexities of emotional weight, the significance of the core emotion wheel, and the journey towards authentic connection! Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - The Painful Path to Progress 00:01:04 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast 00:01:40 - Celebrating 42 Years: Engagement Story 00:03:00 - The Explosive Proposal: Fireworks and Chaos 00:09:44 - Commitment and Connection: Staying Together 00:13:11 - Understanding and Managing Pain 00:17:34 - The Hard Work of Emotional Healing 00:22:37 - Understanding Human Emotions 00:26:21 - Processing Anger and Emotions 00:27:06 - The Core Emotion Wheel 00:33:15 - Acknowledging and Addressing Loneliness 00:38:45 - The Overwhelm Overhaul Program 00:39:34 - Final Thoughts and Encouragement
This discussion centers around the issue of how past emotional wounds resurface and affect our current relationships. Tune in to hear about the misconceptions surrounding forgiveness and explore why old pains often feel as fresh as when they first happened. The team also talks about the importance of recognizing and processing these emotions rather than dismissing them, offering tools and techniques to address these lingering hurts, leading to deeper emotional understanding and connection with your partner. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Setting the Stage for Emotional Exploration 00:00:42 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast: Meet Your Hosts and Guides 00:01:20 - Community Check-Ins and Global Reach 00:05:17 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Identifying and Processing Emotions 00:08:57 - Processing Emotions and Family Dynamics 00:14:37 - Listener Question: Handling Past Wounds: Strategies and Insights 00:17:25 - Revisiting Old Wounds: The Brain's Response to Emotional Pain 00:19:48 - Breaking the Cycle: Moving Beyond the Need for Justice 00:22:15 - The Role of Therapy: Enhancing Emotional Understanding 00:27:44 - Understanding Emotional Pain: Why Old Wounds Still Hurt 00:29:52 - Processing Pain and Emotions: A Deeper Dive into Healing 00:31:43 - The Importance of Telling Our Stories: Sharing and Healing Together 00:33:32 - Forgiveness and Emotional Memory: Debunking Myths and Misconceptions 00:35:36 - Redefining Forgiveness: What It Really Means to Let Go 00:38:02 - Navigating Relationships and Boundaries: Protecting Your Emotional Health 00:40:14 - Practical Tools for Emotional Connection: Techniques You Can Use Today 00:50:40 - Final Thoughts and Call to Action: Join Us in the Journey to Emotional Wellness
Dr. Glenn shares his deeply personal journey, discussing the impact of his childhood trauma and the pressures that led him to adopt a false persona. He talks about the emotional toll of losing both parents at a young age, the survival mechanisms he developed, and the eventual realization of how these experiences influenced his relationships and self-identity. They discuss how complex authenticity really is, the importance of creating safe spaces for genuine connections, and challenging the societal norms that encourage us to hide our true selves. This powerful conversation will provide you guidance to overcome past pain and build meaningful relationships based on honesty and vulnerability. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters 00:00:00 - Welcome Back! Dive into Part Two of Our Identity Series 00:00:23 - Dr. Glenn's Raw Confession: Unveiling His Personal Journey 00:01:47 - From Trauma to Triumph: Childhood Scars and Their Lifelong Impact 00:02:25 - Formative Years: Coping Mechanisms That Shaped Glenn's Youth 00:03:24 - Finding Self: Glenn's Struggle for Identity Amidst Chaos 00:04:36 - Family Dynamics: Emotional Suppression in a Turbulent Household 00:05:23 - Survival Instincts: Developing Self-Reliance at a Young Age 00:08:45 - Lost and Found: The Pain of Losing Both Parents and Siblings 00:13:56 - Musical Dreams: Early Independence and Aspirations in Music 00:18:45 - Behind the Scenes: The High-Pressure World of Stunt Doubling 00:22:36 - Authenticity Over Appearance: The Need for Real Connections 00:28:15 - Facing Fears: Overcoming Anxiety and Finding True Identity 00:31:42 - A Little Girl's Confidence: Learning From the Innocence of Youth 00:33:22 - Dating Woes: The Problem with Inauthentic Relationships 00:35:09 - Safe Havens: Creating Spaces for Genuine Vulnerability 00:39:33 - Church and Stunts: Balancing Spirituality with High-Octane Careers 00:44:19 - True Connection: The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships 00:50:10 - Power of Stories: How Sharing Experiences Transforms Lives 00:55:45 - Transformational Moments: The Impact of Vulnerable Storytelling 01:01:29 - Growth Mindset: Investing in Personal Development 01:04:33 - Final Thoughts: Embracing Authenticity in Every Aspect of Life
Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis take on the relationship between identity and core emotions. They use "Inside Out 2" as a springboard to discuss how early experiences and memories shape our sense of self. They provide tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help you process your emotions in real-time and build stronger connections in your relationships. By unpacking how identity influences the way we interact with each other and the importance of safe emotional spaces, this conversation opens the door for understanding and improving emotional health. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Identity Unveiled: The Core of Connection Codes 00:00:45 - Welcome to Connection Codes 00:01:18 - Inside Out 2: A Cinematic Exploration of Identity 00:03:45 - Core Emotion Wheel Exercise: Practical Application 00:07:29 - Emotions Decoded: A Deep Dive into Core Emotions 00:10:19 - Identity in Relationships: A Delicate Dance 00:15:41 - The Shadows of Childhood Memories 00:18:50 - Real-Time Emotional Processing: A Crucial Skill 00:24:00 - The Role of Trust in Emotional Sharing 00:27:34 - Creating Safe Spaces: Essential for Emotional Growth 00:32:28 - Conclusion and Next Steps: Journey Towards Self-Awareness
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