Mid-life Men: the mental health podcast

In this episode, we're joined by Josh Fineman. Josh had the career, the young family, the success but behind it all was exhaustion, self-doubt, and a relentless voice asking, “Is this it?” In this honest and revealing conversation, Josh shares how growing up as the ‘good boy' in a high-achieving North London household shaped his adult identity. He talks about the unspoken grief that filled the family home, the hidden cost of seeking approval, and the endless comparisons that wore him down. What followed were years of chasing status, zigzagging through jobs, and numbing out until a crisis forced a reckoning. Therapy cracked the door open, but it was men's work - raw, in-person, shoulder-to-shoulder - that truly began to transform his life. Josh went on to create Mensch, a community where men come together to rediscover connection, purpose, and truth - with boots on the ground and fires lit -locally around the country.  We talk about masculinity, parenting, legacy, and why so many men who "have it all" still feel empty. Josh speaks candidly about fear of failure, starting something meaningful, and the power of local brotherhood. If you've ever quietly wondered, “What happened to me?” or “Is this all there is?” then this episode is for you. 

Trigger warning: This episode includes honest discussions about suicide attempts, mental illness, domestic violence, and trauma. Adam Smith's story is unlike anything you've heard - and exactly what so many men need to hear. Sectioned at 11. In prison by 21. Found unresponsive in a car after trying to end his life. This could've been the end - but it wasn't. Instead, Adam's journey is one of remarkable survival and a relentless mission to make his pain count for something. In this episode, Adam speaks with raw honesty about growing up in care, wrestling with addiction, and living with autism and mental illness. But also about rising - becoming a chef, starting The Real Junk Food Project, and then Surplus2Purpose, and feeding millions with food others deemed worthless. He doesn't sugar-coat any of it. There are no easy answers. Just grit, compassion, and a deep belief that lives - like food - should never be wasted. You might not have lived Adam's life. But if you've ever felt lost, numb, ashamed, or like you don't know where you fit in the world, there's something here for you. This episode is about survival - but also about honesty, connection, and how we begin to move forward, even if we're still broken. This is not just Adam's story. It's a mirror for anyone who's ever struggled and needed a way through. [If you can relate to Adam's experience and need immediate help, you can call Samaritans on 116 123 in the UK, or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the US or Lifeline on 13 11 14 in Australia. Otherwise, as always, we also recommend that you speak to a GP or mental health professional. 

Trigger warning: includes frank discussion of eating disorders, body image, and mental health. How do you find laughter in something that nearly kills you? In this episode, comedian and mental health advocate Dave Chawner takes us on a bold, brutally honest - and often hilarious - journey through his experience of living with anorexia. But this isn't your typical “overcoming adversity” tale. Dave doesn't sugarcoat the reality of his eating disorder. He talks openly about how it began not with food, but with control… how it was rewarded before it was recognised… and how, for a long time, he loved it. Through vivid, sometimes shocking, and darkly funny anecdotes, Dave shows how anorexia became both his obsession and his comfort - until it became unbearable. And yet, laughter is what pulled him through. From bingeing under the duvet to bingeing on comedy, Dave found healing not in silence, but in stand-up. His hit Edinburgh show Normally Abnormal turned personal pain into public catharsis, proving that humour can be both a scalpel and a salve. If you've ever struggled with food, control, body image, or just the pressure of being “fine,” this is an episode you need to hear. It's about anorexia, yes - but also about masculinity, identity, recovery, and how comedy can reach where words often fail. If you can relate to Dave's experience and would like more information, he references two websites: Hub of Hope [https://hubofhope.co.uk/] - the UK's largest mental health support directory, and Beat Eating Discorder [https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/]. You can find equivalent resources available in other countries via simple web searches. We always recommend you speak to a GP or health professional if you are personally affected by any of the topics covered in the podcast.  

In this episode, we're joined by Mark Lawry, a former lawyer and long-time stay-at-home dad, who offers a frank and considered account of what it's like to live with depressive illness across much of adult life. Mark brings a calm, articulate perspective to a subject often misrepresented or oversimplified. He speaks plainly about how symptoms first appeared, why he delayed seeking help, and what it means to maintain a functioning exterior while privately struggling. We explore the difficulty of recognising depressive illness when it has no obvious trigger, the reality of managing something that may never fully go away. And the limits of language including the inadequacy of the term “depression” and why “depressive brain malfunction” may be a more accurate description. Mark also reflects on medication, therapy, and how leaving behind a professional identity in favour of something more sustainable helped reduce the frequency of episodes. This is not a dramatic story of crisis and recovery, but a steady, honest account of what it means to live with a chronic mental health condition and how important it is for men to talk about it. NOTE: If you think you may be suffering from depressive illness and/or relate to Mark's experience, the advice is to speak to your GP or other medical professional.

In this powerful and compassionate conversation, we explore what really happens when life knocks down every support structure you thought you could rely on. We talk to Matt, a qualified therapist and podcaster about his own lived experience of emotional collapse in his twenties, the slow journey into therapy, and how healing unfolds - not through instant fixes, but through trust, honesty, and rebuilding from within. Matt demystifies common myths about therapy, shares honest reflections on what it's really like to start therapy for the first time, and discusses the emotional challenges that arise when you begin to face feelings you've long tried to suppress. They talk about what to look for when choosing a therapist, how to know if therapy is helping, and why progress often feels slow but is deeply transformational. This conversation also explores the hidden costs of emotional numbness, the importance of finding trust in the therapy relationship, the misconceptions about being "fixed," and the lifelong work of learning to live fully in your own skin after hardship. If you've ever wondered whether therapy could help you but felt unsure, overwhelmed, or ashamed to seek support, this episode offers powerful reassurance that you are not alone - and that change is possible. You can find links to Matt's work by visiting his Linktree profile https://linktr.ee/matthussey or find him on Linkedin and you can listen to his brilliant podcast 'The Brink – Mental Health Demystified' on the usual podcast platforms. 

In this episode, we meet the incomparable John Ryan, award-winning comedian, social commentator, and all-around force for good. With a sharp tongue and a massive heart, John has made it his mission to reach people on the topic of mental health where they least expect it: through laughter. We explore how John's stand-up shows have turned into standing-room-only sessions on suicide awareness, PTSD, loneliness, and resilience. From army barracks to working men's clubs, from prisons to boardrooms, John's toolkit is unconventional but wildly effective - inclusive humour, hard-earned trust, and a refusal to be anything but himself. This conversation is wide-ranging, emotional, and seriously funny. John opens up about growing up in Hackney in a diverse Irish family and his unexpected route into comedy, although he doesn't define himself as a traditional comedian. He challenges toxic norms, dissects the real reason some men spiral after traumatic life events, such as divorce, and explains why sending a meme from the toilet every morning can be an act of care. It's sharp, raw, and deeply human. If you've ever wondered whether comedy can change lives - or even save them - this episode is your answer. To find out more about John's work, visit: https://happytohealthyou.com/. 

This episode of Mid-Life Men includes open and honest discussions about mental health challenges, including suicide. Some listeners may find this content distressing. In this frank and powerful episode, we hear from a man who has walked through unimaginable darkness and emerged not just surviving, but speaking with purpose and compassion. Through heartbreak, rejection, success, loss, and silence, Chris shares his lived experience of growing up as a Black British man navigating racism, identity, estrangement, and two suicide attempts. His voice is reflective, grounded, and unflinchingly open. He explores how trauma manifests over time, what it means to feel completely alone, and the moment he chose to live again. We talk about grief, masculinity, purpose, cultural silence, and what it really takes to start again, not just mentally, but spiritually and socially. Chris's recovery journey led to the creation of Project Soul Stride, a lived experience platform shedding light on suicidality for the black community and bridging conversations in mental health. What you'll hear isn't just a story. It's someone choosing to speak so others might live.  You can find out more about Chris's work, including Project Soul Stride on his All My Links page.If you or someone you know is struggling, please consider seeking support from a qualified professional or mental health service. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger or experiencing a crisis, there are organisations you can call now. for example, in the UK, you can call the Samaritans on 116 123, and if you are in the US, you can call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Many organisations provide communities for men, including Men's Sheds Association and Tough to Talk in the UK and, in the US, Face It Foundation and F3 Nation. 

What happens when a man spends decades surviving, but never truly living? In this powerful and deeply personal episode, poet, coach, and men's trauma specialist Rick Belden joins us to explore how childhood wounds - especially those inflicted by emotionally absent or unsafe parents - can shape and limit a man's entire adult life. Rick shares his journey from high-achieving student to sawmill worker, reluctant software engineer, and ultimately, to a man who rediscovered his true self through art, writing, and inner work. This is a raw and resonant conversation about masculinity, trauma, and healing. Rick speaks candidly about the "father wound" and "mother wound," the toll of survival strategies adopted in childhood, and the long path toward reconnecting with a lost inner voice. He discusses the role of creativity, dreamwork, and journaling in recovering authenticity, and offers wise, grounded advice for men who feel stuck, shut down, or disconnected from who they really are. For anyone navigating the emotional fallout of midlife or searching for meaning after years of suppressing their truth, this episode offers rare insight, compassion, and hope. If you want to find out more about Rick, his art and writing, visit his website https://www.rickbelden.com/, or for information on his coaching, visit https://www.rickbeldencoaching.com/.

Have you ever wondered why you feel physically unwell when you're emotionally stressed, or why even small lifestyle changes can dramatically impact your mental and physical health? In this episode, we dive into the interconnectedness of mind, body, and spirit with Christian Elliot, holistic mind and body health expert. We explore how unresolved emotional baggage and toxic thought patterns can profoundly affect physical well-being, leading to chronic illnesses and persistent health challenges. You'll discover practical, manageable steps to detox your life - physically, emotionally, and mentally - by learning how to identify harmful patterns, read labels effectively, and make conscious dietary choices that can genuinely heal. Hear powerful insights into why many conventional health strategies can fail and how holistic approaches, supported by real-life examples, can rapidly transform your health and clarity. Expect to be challenged and inspired to take control of your well-being, understand the critical role food and environmental toxins play, and appreciate the fundamental simplicity behind genuine health and healing. This episode will equip you with valuable perspectives, empowering you to change your habits and rewrite your health story, one step at a time. If you want to find out more about Christian's coaching business, visit his website https://www.truewholehuman.com/.  Or for information about his detox programmes visit https://www.healingunited.today/ where you can also find Christian's free seven-part mini-series called ‘Why You Don't Heal'. 

In this episode, my guest is Ian Morgan Cron, bestselling author, psychotherapist, and Enneagram expert.  Most people hear “12 Steps” and think of Alcoholics Anonymous. But what if we told you this programme isn't just for people struggling with alcohol or drugs? What if it could help anyone - including you - break free from unhealthy patterns, destructive habits, or even the little things that keep you stuck? Ian dives into what the 12 Steps are really about, why they work, and how they can be life-changing - even if you don't think of yourself as an addict. Ian shares his own raw, honest journey with addiction and recovery, what finally made the 12 Steps click, and why they've become a blueprint for living with more freedom, purpose, and peace. We're talking real, practical wisdom - letting go of control, facing your fears, rebuilding trust, and making peace with yourself (and others). No judgment, no clichés - just an open conversation about what actually helps people break free from whatever's holding them back. If you've ever felt stuck in a pattern you can't shake, this episode is for you.To find out more about Ian, visit his website: https://ianmorgancron.com/.  Ian's latest book "The Fix - How the Twelve Steps Offer a Surprising Path of Transformation For the Well-adjusted, the Down-and-Out, and Everyone in Between," and his bestseller, "The Road Back to You – An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery," are available to buy from online book retailers. 

In this deeply personal episode, Will Castle shares his experience of losing his father to suicide and the years of silence that followed. He reflects on the complexities of his childhood, his father's struggles, and the moment everything changed. Will speaks openly about the grief, isolation, and self-destructive behaviour he experienced in the aftermath. He explains how he felt compelled to show no emotion even at the funeral, as well as the unspoken pressures that made it harder to ask for help. He also discusses what eventually helped him begin to heal: finding support, sharing his story, and turning his pain into action. Now a suicide prevention campaigner, a mental health advocate, and a father himself, he reflects on his life now and talks about being an executive producer for 'Heirlooms', a short film about the challenges faced by those who have been bereaved by suicide. This conversation is not about easy answers but about what it really means to live with loss, to break the silence around suicide, and to support others who are grieving. If you can relate to any of the issues Will discussed in this episode or you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, there are organisations you can call now, for example, the Samaritans in the UK on 116 123, and if you are in the US, you the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If you want to learn more about Will, visit his website: https://willcastle.com/ where you can also watch ‘Heirlooms'. To find out more about the support available from Suicide and Co, the bereavement by suicide charity, visit https://www.suicideandco.org/. 

In this compelling episode, two-time Olympian Jack Green shares his raw and deeply personal journey through elite sport, mental health struggles, and the  pursuit of fulfilment beyond medals. At the peak of his career, Jack was competing on the world's biggest stage, yet behind the scenes, he was battling depression, anxiety, and bipolar tendencies. His story is a stark reminder that success doesn't always mean happiness - even for those who seem to have it all. Jack speaks candidly about how his all-or-nothing mindset led to burnout, how the pressure to perform kept him from seeking help, and the moment he finally hit rock bottom. Diagnosed with severe mental health challenges, he spent time in a psychiatric hospital, where he was forced to confront his identity beyond being an athlete. But Jack's journey didn't end with sport. Today, he's a passionate advocate for mental health in the workplace, working with corporations to rethink how they support employee well-being. He shares why business leaders need to move beyond token gestures and start creating cultures where people feel safe to be vulnerable. His message? Performance and mental well-being aren't opposites -they go hand in hand. Whether you're an athlete, a business leader, or someone struggling with their own sense of worth, this episode is a powerful reminder that resilience isn't about pushing through - it's about speaking up. 

In this episode, I'm joined by Cedric Bertelli as we dive deep into the hidden mechanics of emotional pain, trauma, and healing. Our guest shares his insights from years of research on how the brain forms destructive emotional patterns - like anxiety, fear, and self-doubt - and, more importantly, how we can break free from them. Why do we numb our pain with alcohol, overwork, or other destructive behaviours? The answer might not be what you think. Discover how trauma - big or small - can leave emotional imprints that resurface as self-sabotaging patterns, often without us realising it. This episode is a practical guide for anyone ready to reclaim control of their emotional well-being. Learn how to recognise when your body signals unresolved trauma and how simple, intuitive steps can help you resolve emotional triggers - without needing to revisit the trauma itself. We also explore the radical idea that hope might actually block healing and discuss why facing your emotions head-on could be the most powerful step toward true freedom. Hear from Cedric how his life-changing approach has helped countless people free themselves from emotional baggage they've carried for years. If you're ready to break cycles of fear, anxiety, or anger - and find genuine emotional relief - this episode could be your first step toward transformation. To find out more about Cedric's work and Emotional Resolution (EmRes®), visit https://www.emotionalhealthinstitute.org/. 

What does it take to survive bullying, internalised shame, and two suicide attempts and then go on to run 401 marathons in 401 days? In this raw and inspiring episode, we sit down with Ben Smith, whose remarkable journey from a troubled past to a world-record-breaking challenge is nothing short of extraordinary. Ben opens up about the pain of childhood bullying, the devastating impact it had on his self-worth, and the years he spent hiding his true self. He takes us through the dark times - struggling with mental health, grappling with his identity, and reaching rock bottom. But his story doesn't end there. A single conversation, an unexpected dare, and one life-changing step into a running club set him on a path he never imagined possible. Through marathons, Ben found something beyond endurance - a way to process his past, reclaim his identity, and turn pain into purpose. He shares what it was like to push his body and mind to the absolute limit, how he learned to open up, and why helping others became the greatest victory of all. This episode is a testament to the power of resilience, the importance of speaking up, and the unexpected ways healing can begin. Whether you're a runner, a mental health advocate, or someone seeking hope, this conversation will stay with you long after the finish line. 

In this episode, join us for an unforgettable conversation with Warren McKee, an Iraq War veteran who came home to face the depths of PTSD, addiction, and homelessness, only to rise as a resilient entrepreneur and life coach. In this raw and inspiring episode, he shares his harrowing journey from the battlefield to rock bottom and how he rebuilt his life from the ashes.We delve into the unseen battles of trauma, the chaos of addiction, and the struggle to reconnect with family and identity. Warren speaks candidly about confronting his invisible wounds, battling suicidal thoughts, and the pivotal moment that forced him to take radical responsibility for his life. Discover how therapy, coaching, and an unrelenting will to survive helped him reclaim his future and how he now dedicates his life to guiding others through their own struggles. He also shares groundbreaking insights on how AI is transforming mental health support, making tools for PTSD and trauma more accessible than ever. Whether you're a veteran, someone dealing with mental health challenges, or simply searching for a story of resilience and redemption, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in for a powerful reminder that even in our darkest moments, there's always a path forward and sometimes, it starts with a single step. If you are a veteran and have been affected by Warren's story, then you can find out more about the mental health support services available on the US Department of Veteran Affairs website: https://www.mentalhealth.va.gov/ or for more information on PTSD support visit: https://www.ptsd.va.gov/.If you want to find out more about how Warren can help you to embrace the power of AI visit his website www.visionstoventures.com and if you want to take up his offer of attending one of his 4-hour workshops for just $1 instead of $97, then visit https://aimarketingkickstart.com and use the discount code: WS96OFF. 

In this episode, I am joined by Tom Oxley, a workplace mental health consultant, trainer, and support specialist whose TEDx talk on mental health has inspired over three-quarters of a million viewers. Years ago, while forging a fast-paced career in advertising, marketing, and PR, Tom hit a wall. His relentless schedule and lifestyle eventually caused a profound mental health crisis, leaving him tearful, unable to focus, and uncertain where to turn for help. In this candid conversation, Tom opens up about the early warning signs he ignored, the manager who finally urged him to seek help, and the confusion and loneliness he felt when handed a medical note reading “stress, anxiety, depression.” He also shares how a well-intentioned workplace can still fall short if they lack the right tools, knowledge, or empathy and why one supportive boss can make all the difference. We explore the vital role of self-care, from getting enough sleep and movement to building “opposite activities” into daily life - pursuits that have nothing to do with work and everything to do with staying grounded. Tom offers practical insights for both employees and employers: how to recognise burnout in yourself or a colleague, the legal obligations companies have around stress risk assessments, and why a culture of openness matters more than any flashy wellness initiative. If you've ever felt trapped in a job that's draining you or if you manage a team and wonder how to foster genuine mental well-being this episode is packed with down-to-earth advice, personal stories, and hope for positive change. Join us as Tom reveals how he turned a life-altering crisis into a calling, becoming a go-to voice for healthier, more compassionate workplaces everywhere. If you want to find out more about Tom visit his website: https://bamboomentalhealth.co.uk/. You can find Tom's TEDx talk here: Workplace Mental Health – What you need to know (for now). 

In this powerful episode, Patrick Sperry reflects on how perfectionism created an endless cycle of striving and dissatisfaction. From giving up a promising professional soccer career to chasing a dream of being a rock star in Hollywood (and a stint as David Beckham's body double) his journey took him through heartache, creative highs, and personal reckoning. Along the way, yoga became a lifeline - initially a form of escape but ultimately a path to inner alchemy and profound self-discovery. Through the physical and spiritual practices of yoga, Patrick found new ways to engage with life, shifting from hyper-competitiveness to compassionate connection. This episode also dives into the critical need for male role models and the importance of community as medicine. Our guest explores how modern isolation has fractured traditional spaces for emotional connection, urging men to step out of their comfort zones and into circles of vulnerability, growth, and shared purpose. Whether through yoga, meaningful conversations, or communal activities, he shares how embracing discomfort is key to integrating fragmented identities and discovering a deeper sense of belonging which he teaches today through his coaching and the Flourish Well-Being organisation. If you've ever felt trapped by societal expectations, perfectionism, or a longing for something more, this episode offers a roadmap to rediscovering your authentic self. Join us for a conversation that bridges competition and compassion, ambition and acceptance, and isolation and connection - ultimately reminding us all of the transformative power of presence and community. If you want to find out more about Patrick as a yoga, meditation and well-being coach ‘A path to a life you love' visit https://www.patsperrylove.com/. To find out more about Flourish Well-Being retreats and other programmes Patrick mentions then visit https://www.peaceloveflourish.com/. 

Ever wondered how to stay calm and grounded while pivoting careers in the midst of chaos? Meet Adrian de Coursey, whose professional path took him from corporate strategy at Shell and Johnson & Johnson to running a small family business during the height of the global financial crisis. In this candid interview, Adrian reveals the high-stakes challenges he faced - burning the candle at both ends, juggling every aspect of the company, and grappling with the reality that his work-life boundaries had all but vanished. Yet amid the turmoil, Adrian discovered the secret to thriving rather than just surviving: resilience. Drawing on lessons learned from sleepless nights and tough financial decisions, he breaks down the practical strategies that helped him regain control. From setting strict daily goals (his “most important tasks”), to instituting a digital sunset that protects his evening downtime, to embracing mind-clearing meditation before bed - Adrian leaves no stone unturned. Throughout this episode, you'll hear how he transformed adversity into growth and how he cultivated the mental fortitude essential for any entrepreneur (or mid-life career changer). Adrian also dives into the art of being “brutally objective”—knowing when to pivot, when to persist, and how to cut your losses fast. If you're looking for an honest, inspiring conversation about managing stress, planning for big transitions, and truly knowing yourself so you can seize new opportunities, this episode is for you. Tune in to discover: Why resilience is the #1 trait for navigating career pivots and entrepreneurship.How to compartmentalise tasks and find genuine work-life balance.The power of self-awareness in identifying (and leveraging) your strengths.Why failures and wrong turns can be priceless.scheduling your days, such as mediation, that can drastically reduce stress.Join host Philip Briscoe and Adrian DeCoursey as they unpack the ups, downs, and actionable tools for building a fulfilling career on your own terms. If you're seeking real talk on forging inner strength through life's toughest moments, don't miss this deep dive into resilience and reinvention.  

Are you craving more energy, deeper relationships, and a stronger sense of purpose, yet somehow, you are caught in a cycle of “unshakable unhappiness”? In this illuminating conversation, I sit down with psychologist and Silicon Valley executive coach Dr. Adam Dorsey to explore how tapping into the power of authentic connection can transform every area of your life. Drawing on his personal journey and clinical experience with high-achieving men, entrepreneurs, professional athletes, and global tech companies, Dr. Dorsey reveals why many of us—especially men—struggle to name and process our emotions, and how this disconnect can fuel anxiety, depression, and a sense of hopelessness. Adam also introduces his groundbreaking framework from his new book, Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love, explaining how these four pillars of connection - self, others, the world, and something greater - are the bedrock of genuine fulfilment. Along the way, we tackle the power of self-compassion (even Navy SEALs use it!), the science of gratitude for rewiring negative thought patterns, and the courage it takes to reshape your life - even when you feel stuck in a job or situation that seems unchangeable. If you've ever felt the gap between what you know and what you do, this conversation will inspire you to close it. Listen and discover practical, research-backed ways to rewrite your inner script, harness your strengths, and step fully into the rich, connected life you deserve.  If you want to find out more about Adam, visit his website: dradamdorsay.com. Adam's TEDx talks are both available on YouTube: Friendships in Adulthood: 5 Things to Know, and Emotions: The Data Men Miss. Adam's book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love is available to buy on Amazon. 

In this raw and powerful episode, we talk to Mike Skrypnek, an international bestselling author, men's mental health advocate, CEO of Grow Get Give Coaching, and founder of the Unlimited Worth Project. Once a successful investment manager, Mike reveals how a combination of unaddressed childhood trauma and the relentless pressure for achievement nearly drove him to end his life. Amid the chaos of the pandemic, as business collapsed and isolation tightened its grip, he found himself at a breaking point he never imagined possible. Forced to confront his past, he discovered that winning outwardly—earning status, wealth, and approval—could never quiet the inner turmoil he'd kept buried for decades. In our conversation, he opens up about his journey from an accomplished boardroom persona to raw vulnerability, shedding light on the dangerous myths around masculinity and the unseen toll of high-performance culture. He shares how a single text to a trusted friend, a leap into therapy, and the unwavering support of family kindled happiness and a way forward. This episode challenges the stigmas that keep men silent and the suffering by exposing the emotional armour that so many men struggle to remove. Join us as we explore the healing power of honest conversation, the courage required to seek professional help, and the role leaders—and peers—play in shaping environments where open dialogue and mental well-being are the norm, not the exception. In a world where we increasingly need more authentic connections, this powerful story proves that confronting the darkest moments in your life can illuminate a path toward genuine purpose, self-respect, and more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others around you. If you want to find out more about Mike's work - his podcast, the UNLimited Worth project, 'Grow, Get, Give' coaching, and his books - visit his website: https://www.unlimitedworth.org/.

Join me for a powerful conversation with Craig Hamilton, a man whose life story transcends boundaries and stigma. A celebrated sports broadcaster and former coal miner, Craig faced his greatest challenge not underground or behind the microphone, but within himself. Diagnosed with bipolar disorder after a psychotic episode on the eve of the 2000 Sydney Olympics, Craig has spent the past two decades turning his personal battles into a mission of awareness and hope.In this episode, Craig opens up about his darkest moments, including a terrifying brush with suicide, and how he found the strength to rebuild his life. We delve into The Promise, his groundbreaking documentary that not only shares his story but amplifies the voices of others impacted by mental illness and suicide. With gripping interviews and a heartfelt call to action, The Promise shines a much-needed light on the realities of mental health, aiming to prevent the tragic loss of life that so often comes with silence.Craig's journey from denial to acceptance and from struggle to advocacy is a testament to the power of vulnerability and resilience. Whether you're seeking inspiration, education, or a sense of connection, this conversation will leave you with a renewed sense of hope—and perhaps the courage to make a promise of your own.To find out more about Craig, visit his website https://craig-hamilton.com. Craig's film, The Promise, is available to stream on Stan however you can only access it in Australia. You can watch the trailer on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTp-cOhqb18.

In this open and honest episode, we're joined by Patrick Donnelly, who discusses the often-unspoken struggles men face when the weight of life feels overwhelming and futile. Patrick bravely shares how anxiety and depression took root after becoming a father, amplifying his long-held belief that nothing he attempted would succeed. His story reveals the toll of a lifetime spent avoiding risks, taking the easiest paths, and resigning himself to failure before even trying. Through therapy and a transformative moment of vulnerability—sharing a personal essay about his mental health on Facebook and then in the local newspaper—Patrick not only began to heal but also sparked a ripple effect of hope. His honesty inspired hundreds of men to seek help, proving that even when it feels futile, taking a single step forward can change everything. This episode is a powerful exploration of how to confront self-doubt, embrace vulnerability, and redefine what it means to be brave. If you've ever felt like giving up before even starting, Patrick's journey is proof that change is possible. If you want to read Patrick's Facebook post of January 2017: https://www.facebook.com/patrick.donnelly.184/posts/pfbid0tzY2FRvjVfMbyfcZUWHKMf2NBuK5QqVSoBnP3T81SvDKwgETpT3wawQUz9NWsryvl If you want to contact Patrick via social media: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/pdonnelly612/ Finally, Patrick references the Gary Gulman special: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10409666/ 

In this compelling episode, we dive deep into the silent struggles many men face in expressing themselves—emotionally, verbally, and even creatively. Joined by Dr Danny Brassell, a dynamic speaker, author, and first and foremost, a teacher, we explore the roots of men's anxiety around vulnerability, confidence, and connection.  Danny shares personal stories of overcoming a childhood stutter, life-changing encounters, and his transformative work with men in high-pressure careers and everyday life. From teaching literacy to helping executives conquer stage fright, Danny reveals the power of small steps and finding your voice—no matter your age or circumstances.  We tackle tough questions:  Why do men bottle up emotions?  How does society shape (or limit) men's ability to open up?  What simple strategies can men use to take their first steps toward self-expression and growth?  This is more than a conversation; it's a call to action for mid-life men to break free from outdated norms, embrace vulnerability, and rediscover their potential. Whether you're struggling with confidence, communication, or feeling stuck in life, this episode reminds you that you're not alone, and it's never too late to change.  Listen in, laugh a little, and share with a man who needs to hear this.

In this episode, David Westgate shares his deeply personal journey with bipolar 1, reflecting on how the disorder manifested in his life and the impact it had on his relationships, career, and daily routines. He describes the struggle of living with undiagnosed bipolar disorder, where periods of extreme highs felt like "true happiness," only to be followed by profound, often debilitating depression. From early symptoms in his twenties through a pivotal moment that led him to seek medical help, he unpacks the complexities of living with this mental illness. He opens up about coping mechanisms - both constructive, like medical support and therapy, and self-destructive - that he leaned on during the disorder's turbulent phases. The conversation also tackles the pervasive stigma around mental illness, particularly for men, and emphasises the importance of honest conversations and direct support, both professionally and among friends. Through this candid dialogue, listeners gain a raw, enlightening perspective on mental health and the strength it takes to seek help, along with practical advice on recognising when something is wrong and how to approach recovery.

In this episode, I'm joined by Russ, a third-generation tradesman, business owner, and host of The Talking Tradesman podcast. Russ has spent a lifetime in construction, a sector known for its tough culture and silent battles, especially around mental health. He shares his powerful journey, starting with his childhood, where he was raised by his father after his mother left the family, leaving Russ to grow up fast and take on responsibilities beyond his years. At just 17, Russ took over the family business, but behind his professional success, he was struggling.After a painful divorce, Russ was forced to confront his own mental health challenges, Through candid reflection, Russ talks about the toll of balancing work and mental well-being in a tough industry that can be lonely and often discourages vulnerability with many men developing problems with alcohol and drug dependency, aggression and depression. His own journey has pushed him to study psychology, volunteer with Samaritans, and eventually start a podcast that aims to open up vital conversations within the trades.Russ emphasises that many men do want to talk but often don't have a safe space to do so. He shares insights on why listening - truly listening - without judgement is a powerful first step in supporting those who are struggling. Whether you're in construction, know someone who is, or just want a deeper understanding of how mental health impacts those around you, Russ's story will leave you with valuable insights and practical advice on creating safe spaces for honest conversations. Join us for an episode that's all about strength, vulnerability, and the surprising power of simply being there.Russ's podcast is called The Talking Tradesman.

In this episode, I'm joined by Jeff to discuss his long battle with mental health challenges. Jeff shares how his depression stems from childhood, living in a chaotic home environment, and how it revisited him regularly throughout his life. He describes how, after many years of struggle, he found solace in both medication and exercise, specifically running and cycling. Jeff talks about how his depression was also linked to seasonal affective disorder (SAD) and how discovering the positive impact of exercise, especially in the winter months, helped him manage his symptoms. A key part of Jeff's journey has been setting what he calls "big, hairy-ass, audacious goals." He explains how one such goal, learning to play the slide guitar and performing in a blues band, and another, cycling across the U.S. from Florida to California, were transformational experiences that gave him a new sense of purpose and control over his mental health. However, in his sixties, Jeff was completely caught unawares when he suffered a stroke, and the impact it had on him mentally and physically, plunged him back into depression. Jeff then shares how he has adapted to live after the stroke up until today. He also discusses techniques he uses to help manage his mental health, for example, journalling daily has helped him reflect and manage his emotions. This episode is an inspiring look into how audacious personal goals and self-care can help manage mental health, especially in middle age.Jeff referenced the Stroke Association in the UK (https://www.stroke.org.uk) or in the US, there's the American Stroke Association (https://www.stroke.org). If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, then general advice is to contact your doctor.  

In this compelling episode, we sit down with Shawn Bergeth, a former corporate executive who radically transformed his life after 17 years in supply chain management. Shawn opens up about his unexpected job loss, which he saw as a gift, and how it catalysed his journey toward mental health advocacy. From battling anxiety and depression to becoming a psychotherapist, Shawn shares how he embraced vulnerability and deep self-reflection.Shawn takes us on a fascinating exploration of alternative healing practices, particularly psychedelic-assisted therapy. He recounts his transformative experiences with psilocybin at a retreat in Jamaica and ayahuasca in the Peruvian jungle. These encounters not only helped Shawn confront his inner struggles but also deepened his connection to nature and spirituality, offering insights into how these ancient therapies can unlock new paths to mental health.Tune in for a candid discussion on how losing his corporate job led Shawn to a more fulfilling career, his perspective on the healing power of psychedelics, and why reconnecting with nature is essential for personal growth and mental well-being. Shawn's journey will inspire anyone looking to make meaningful changes in their life, whether personally or professionally.

Send us a textIn this episode of the Midlife Men Podcast, host Philip Briscoe sits down with Brian Murphy, a 52-year-old father, husband, and former sports journalist, to discuss his deeply personal battle with depression. Brian opens up about how his career in journalism, particularly his passion for covering hockey, began to lose its luster around 2017, leading him into a spiral of low-level depression. Despite having a seemingly perfect life, Brian found himself increasingly withdrawn, unable to enjoy social interactions, and eventually hospitalized twice due to his condition. He discusses the challenges of confronting his mental health, the stigma surrounding depression, especially among men, and how he slowly began to manage his "dark passenger" through therapy, support groups, and a shift in priorities.Throughout the conversation, Brian emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's identity beyond professional achievements, sharing how he eventually redefined his life by focusing on his family and personal well-being. He highlights the power of community, particularly his involvement with the Face It Foundation, a support group for men dealing with depression, which became a crucial tool in his recovery. Brian's story is a candid exploration of the struggles many men face with mental health, offering hope and practical advice for those who may be suffering in silence. Tune in for an honest and enlightening discussion that sheds light on the ongoing journey of managing depression and finding fulfillment beyond the workplace.

Dan Flanagan is a father and founder of Dad La Soul, an award-winning social impact organisation that focuses on tackling social isolation for dads. He shares his experience of struggling with being a dad and feeling like an outsider at mother and baby classes. He also reflects on his struggles with juggling his career, his father's illness, and how he found himself spending too much time on his phone at work and not experiencing fatherhood as he wanted to. After a bout of illness, Dan decided to stop missing out on his son's life, reprioritised his work to do so but he still found that he felt isolated, and parenthood was not set for fathers. Dan believed that if the support wasn't out there, he needed to build it himself. He realised that other men felt the same and so he started running playdates with other dads that were fun and based on his love of music. Dad la Soul was founded, and Dan has gone on to grow the organisation and provide a valuable and sometimes life-saving community for other dads in the same situation. To find out more about Dad La Soul and Dan's work, visit the website https://www.dadlasoul.com/..

In this compelling episode, we dive deep into Paul's candid journey through depression and suicidal thoughts. For years, Paul excelled in his career, leading finances for a construction company. But beneath the surface, he felt disconnected, living a life that wasn't truly his. The facade began to crumble when he took voluntary redundancy, leading to a severe depressive spiral.Paul opens up about the pressure to conform to societal expectations, the gnawing doubts about his career, and the harrowing mornings where he didn't want to face the day. He vulnerably shares the dark moments of contemplating suicide and the overwhelming sense of isolation, even amidst his family. His story sheds light on the silent struggles many face, highlighting the importance of authenticity and self-discovery.A turning point came when Paul sought the help of a psychotherapist, finding invaluable support in navigating his emotions and rediscovering his passions. This episode is a powerful testament to the necessity of mental health support, the courage to live authentically, and the profound impact of professional guidance in the journey to recovery. Join us to hear Paul's inspiring story of resilience and hope.If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or thoughts of suicide there are organisations you can call now for example, in the UK, you can call the Samaritans on 116 123, and if you are in the US, you can call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.There are also organisations to help men who are battling depression and thoughts of suicide. In the UK, visit the Tough to Talk website, and in the US the Face It Foundation website.Paul referenced two books by Eckhart Tolle, “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth” which are available to buy at all major retailers. 

In this episode, my guest is Mark Meier, the executive director at Face It, an organisation set up to help men understand and overcome depression and reduce the rate of male suicide. Mark shares his personal struggle with depression. In 2002, he faced severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, leading to hospitalisation. His journey of recovery highlights the importance of seeking help and sharing struggles, even when feeling ashamed or burdened. Mark emphasises the significance of talking to someone, reaching out for support, and finding resources to navigate mental health challenges. The stigma surrounding men's mental health is real, but Mark advocates for open conversations, providing care and encouraging men to seek help, irrespective of societal expectations or perceived weakness. Through Face It, Mark offers a safe space for men to share, connect, and receive support without judgment or financial barriers. The podcast delves into strategies for supporting individuals dealing with overwhelming feelings, emphasizing the importance of taking small steps and seeking professional help or reaching out to support groups for guidance. Mark's insights underscore the transformative power of vulnerability, honesty, and the willingness to take that crucial step towards healing and coping with mental health struggles. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression the Face It Foundation website is: https://www.faceitfoundation.org/ or you can email Mark directly at: info@faceitfoundation.org.There are also organisations you can call right now, for example, in the UK, the Samaritans on 116 123, and if you are in the US, you can call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. 

In this episode, my guest is Mark Bradshaw, who shares his personal journey with gambling addiction. Mark recalls his early exposure to gambling as a child through seaside holidays, and how his love for playing sports later led him to place bets on rugby matches. His introduction to casinos at 18 only exacerbated his addiction, eventually leading him to spend hours daily in high street betting shops.Mark highlights the manipulative strategies of bookmakers and online gambling platforms that exploit addictive personalities. He details the severe impact gambling had on his life, including job losses and financial ruin, noting how the accessibility of online gambling accelerated his downward spiral. Mark also discusses the industry's lack of accountability and the predatory nature of their practices, which often lead to severe consequences like increased suicide rates among addicts.Finding himself at rock bottom, Mark eventually sought to change his life, starting by isolating himself from gambling opportunities and reevaluating his priorities. He emphasizes the importance of honesty, reaching out for help, and the need for independent support systems. Now, Mark is actively involved in lobbying for stricter gambling regulations and raising awareness about the dangers of gambling addiction through collaborations with various organizations, including the World Health Organization and political figures. He concludes by stressing the significance of genuine apologies and living an honest life to rebuild trust and purpose.

In this episode of Midlife Men, Dave Cohen, comedian, novelist, and comedy writing teacher, discusses his relationship with his parents. His upbringing in a close-knit Jewish community in Leeds, shaped by the Holocaust and the establishment of Israel, lays the groundwork for a complicated familial dynamic. As he navigates adolescent rebellion, moves to London to pursue a comedy career, and challenges his father's firm pro-Israel stance, underlying concerns of family, identity, and mental health surface. Comedy becomes his release, with self-deprecating humour and Jewish-themed jokes defining his acts. Dave's path sheds light on parental acceptance, the struggle for belonging, and how generational gaps and undiagnosed conditions affect relationships. Despite never truly connecting with his father, the gradual understanding of his father's autism brings understanding and insight into their past interactions. Through introspection and empathy, Dave shares the importance of seeing things from his parents' perspective and the significance of unresolved family dynamics in shaping his personal and professional life. Dave also discusses the potential connection between autism, mental health, and comedy, suggesting that individuals with autism might find solace in forms of self-expression like stand-up comedy. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, Dave emphasises the importance of self-awareness, understanding others' perspectives, and resolving familial conflicts before it's too late.His story concludes with the realisation that while some bonds and understandings may never materialise, the journey towards comprehension and acceptance is an ongoing process echoing the complexities and nuances of family dynamics and mental health.To find out more about Dave, and his work as a comedian, broadcaster, comedy writer, teacher, and author, visit his website: https://www.davecohen.org.uk/. 

In this episode of Midlife Men, Nico Morales shares his story of resilience and personal growth, reflecting on his upbringing in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He discusses how rejection shaped his early life, particularly when his sister faced a life-threatening situation, leading to feelings of rejection and fear of missing out. As a child, he shuttled between New Mexico and Arizona, highlighting his root issues of rejection and fear.Morales reflects on how early childhood experiences can significantly impact one's adult life, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection. He delves into his journey of self-discovery, tracing back his behaviors and decisions to the need for acceptance. His narrative unfolds to include substance use, gang associations, and eventually an incident involving armed robbery, which shook his sense of identity and choices.Through a spiritual path, Morales found solace and transformation at the age of 27. He turned towards religion for guidance and acceptance, marking a pivotal shift in his life. His commitment to faith brought him peace and a sense of purpose, allowing him to break free from the cycle of substance abuse and risky behaviors.Ultimately, Morales views his past challenges and experiences as lessons to impart wisdom and hope to others facing similar struggles. His journey underscores the power of self-reflection, acceptance, and seeking a higher purpose beyond external validations. By sharing his story, he offers a beacon of hope for those navigating their own paths towards healing and personal growth, embracing the transformative power of faith and introspection.At a practical level, Nico explains how he transformed his life by mastering his thoughts, emotions, and actions. By capturing and altering his thoughts, he changed his emotions and consequently his behaviors. Nico emphasizes the importance of mentorship and sharing wisdom. His book, "Five Things to Know Before You Get Sober," addresses a pre-recovery gap. Despite being part of the 1%, Nico sees his transformation as a daily commitment to honor those who struggle. He advocates for setting high standards for men and believes in the cyclical nature of strength and adversity. Nico encourages individuals to lead by example and urges friends and family to uphold virtuous conduct to inspire positive change in others.To find out more about Nico, visit his website: https://nohalonm.com/

Welcome to this episode of Midlife Men with Philip Briscoe, featuring guest James Davis, one half of the Midlife Mentors podcast. James shares insights into navigating midlife challenges, drawing from his personal experiences, including living abroad, going through divorce, and addressing the andropause, sometimes known as the ‘male menopause'.James discusses the origins of Midlife Mentors, stemming from his background in psychology and passion for magazine journalism. He reflects on his journey of moving to Ibiza with his then-wife to run a health retreat, but after a sudden separation, he was left to run the business alone and began to struggle with his confidence and low self-esteem.Acknowledging the societal stigma around men seeking help, James emphasizes the importance of reaching out for support when people feel vulnerable, lost, and alone. He highlights the need for men to break free from the cultural norms of suppressing emotions and encourages them to prioritize their mental health and seek professional help when needed.The conversation delves into the andropause, or age-related testosterone decline, and its various impacts on physical and mental health, including muscle mass loss, mood changes, and decreased libido. James emphasizes the significance of lifestyle factors such as exercise, diet, and mindset in managing andropause symptoms.Reflecting on personal growth and relationship dynamics, James shares how he rebuilt his life after divorce, eventually finding love again. He emphasizes the importance of self-discovery, pursuing passions, and embracing change, even amidst life's challenges.The discussion concludes with insights into the Midlife Mentors podcast, where James, and his partner Claire, aim to empower individuals in their midlife journey by sharing valuable advice and experiences. Through their platform, they strive to foster a supportive community and inspire positive transformations in midlife individuals.For more information visit: https://themidlifementors.com/.

In this episode, Steve introduces F3 (Fitness, Fellowship, Faith), a global movement that originated in Charlotte, North Carolina in 2011. F3 comprises men who meet for outdoor workouts, focusing on camaraderie, fitness, and a sense of purpose beyond oneself. The workouts include boot camp-style exercises and running or rucking sessions, emphasizing pushing each other to improve physically while fostering bonds of fellowship.Steve shares his personal journey into F3, prompted by a friend's persistent invitation. Despite initial skepticism, Steve embraced F3 and found fulfillment in the supportive community, eventually becoming a committed member for over a decade. He emphasizes the diverse backgrounds of F3 participants, including CEOs, teachers, and professionals from all walks of life.Moreover, Steve discusses F3's role in addressing men's mental health challenges, offering a supportive environment for discussing emotions and overcoming loneliness. He highlights the transformative impact of F3, including weight loss, improved mental health, and enhanced leadership skills. Steve encourages men of all ages and fitness levels to join F3, emphasizing its accessibility, free of charge, and its focus on building community and fostering personal growth.I then talk to Ridge, who was in the midst of significant life changes, including passing the bar exam, closing on a house, getting married, and starting his career as an attorney, Rich found himself facing unexpected challenges and stressors. Despite these being positive milestones, Ridge discovered that the reality of adulthood, marriage, and career brought complexities he hadn't anticipated. However, amidst these trials, Ridge found solace in F3. Attending his first F3 workout in the early stages of his career, Ridge quickly realized the profound impact of community and authenticity within F3. He learned that struggles and challenges are universal, and F3 provided a supportive environment where men could openly address their internal battles. Through F3's commitment to personal growth and accountability, Ridge found the companionship and guidance he needed during a challenging time in his life. Reflecting on his journey, Ridge emphasizes the importance of community and outward-focused support in overcoming personal obstacles, offering valuable insights for those seeking connection and resilience amidst life's trials.To find out more about F3, visit: https://f3nation.com/.

In this compelling episode, I am privileged to be joined by Tim and Sue Iorio, who bravely recount the poignant yet ultimately inspiring tale of their son, Nick. Nick was the eldest of three brothers hailing from a Midwestern town in Ohio, a top-class student and athlete, Nick struggled with a mental health disorder, and the only peace he was able to find was through suicide. He died at age twenty. Tim and Sue describe their poignant journey, from the initial signs of Nick's mental health challenges to his devastating suicide. Tim, Sue, and their loved ones were left shattered by the profound loss and overwhelming grief. However, amidst the darkness, a flicker of hope emerged when their youngest son accepted an opportunity to play football at Penn State University as a walk-on.Through their unwavering resilience and determination to honor Nick's memory, Tim and Sue decided to immortalize their experience in the form of a book, aptly titled "The Penn State Walk-On". Their story serves as a testament to the power of familial bonds and the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity. It is a beacon of hope for others navigating similar challenges, demonstrating that even in the depths of despair, there lies the potential for healing and renewal.Tim and Sue's book: The Penn State Walk-On: Overcoming the Pain and Legacy of Suicide through Football, Faith, and Family, is available to buy online. If you would like to reach out to Tim and Sue, then you can contact Tim via LinkedIn.com, and search for Tim's profile: Dr Timothy Iorio.   If you are experiencing any of the issues raised in this podcast, general advice is to talk to your doctor. There are also organizations you can call now for example, in the UK, you can call the Samaritans on 116 123, and if you are in the US, you can call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

Shay Doran, a men's coach specialising in helping men overcome sexual performance issues, shares insights into the challenges he faced and how he transformed his life. Initially, on the surface, his life seemed great, but he struggled with a bad relationship with porn and sex, thinking it was normal for every guy. It took years for him to realise the destructive impact on his life.Discussing the escalation of porn usage, Shay highlights how it affects the mind differently from real-life sex. The hyperstimulating nature of porn, instant gratification, and constant exposure lead to a chase for a dopamine high, affecting real-life sexual experiences.Shay emphasizes that men often face performance challenges in the bedroom due to various factors beyond porn, such as external pressures, stress, and anxiety. He points out that addressing these issues requires understanding the context of the situation and seeking help through coaching or therapy.He encourages men not to accept performance challenges as permanent and stresses the importance of having open conversations about them. He acknowledges the vulnerability and fear associated with these conversations but emphasises the potential for transformation and a fulfilling sex life. Finally, Shay underscores the negative impact of prolonged performance challenges, leading to self-doubt, shame, and potential mental health issues.Shay also addresses the problem of young men and boys having easy access to pornography and the negative impact this can have on their perceptions of sex and suggests a useful website Fight the new drug 'How to discuss porn when talking to your kids about sex': https://fightthenewdrug.org/ To contact Shay visit his website: https://shay-doran.com/ or his YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran.

In this episode, I am joined by Andrea Newton, who is on a mission to provide men with a better understanding of menopause. If, like me, your knowledge is slim and you feel out of your comfort zone anytime the word ‘menopause' is mentioned, then this episode is for you. With over 30 years' of experience helping thousands of men and women have important conversations, Andrea's approach is down-to-earth, and straightforward. This episode will be useful to any man who wants to offer support in a way that is helpful and appreciated. It examines the impact this life stage can have on relationships, careers, and life in general, helping you and the woman you care about move forward with knowledge and positivity.Andrea shares her own experiences which highlight the more serious effect that menopause can have on mental health and discusses what's going on, why it matters, and how it can impact life as you know it. Most importantly, Andrea will help you have useful conversations that show that you care and that means your head isn't ripped off after a clumsy (but well-intended) question. Andrea has written a book for men entitled: ‘Could it be Your HORMONES Love? (and other questions not to ask a menopausal woman)' which is available to buy online.You can also visit her website for lots more resources and information: https://confidentconversations.co.uk.Key information about menopause: Menopause is a natural process that affects 51% of the population.The symptoms of menopause can range from mild to severe and can affect a woman's physical and emotional health.Women are often not well-informed about menopause and their GPs may not be well-trained to treat it.The psychological impact of menopause can be significant, with some women experiencing suicidal thoughts.Men can play a supportive role during menopause by being understanding, encouraging women to seek help, and advocating for them with their doctors.Divorce rates are higher during the perimenopausal and postmenopausal years, and 62% of divorces are instigated by menopausal women.The symptoms of menopause can affect relationships, including sexual intimacy.Women are often at the peak of their careers during menopause, and the stress of managing both work and home life can exacerbate the symptoms.

In part II, of this episode, I continue my discussion with Paul Bayliss, who experienced job-related depression when undertaking a massive transformation project for a large public sector organisation. A combination of the demands and high-pressure nature of the role with a toxic working environment and culture proved to be unsustainable. Finally, Paul was diagnosed with depression and signed off work but that was the beginning of another battle to acknowledge the condition and deal with his perceptions of failure and the impact on his career. Paul explains the importance of separating work and personal identity and emphasises the need to develop your own interests outside of work, whether it be going to the gym. hiking or charity work. When work becomes your only point of validation and identification as a person, when work isn't there or something changes, everything comes tumbling down.He shares his recovery process and how it involved therapy and lifestyle changes. He stresses the importance of being aware of the impact of external or environmental factors on your well-being and how maintaining a sense of self-awareness and being mindful is important to achieving a good work-life balance and is also crucial for mental and physical health and personal growth. 

In this two-part episode, I am joined by Paul (Drew) Bayliss, an accomplished professional with a long and successful career, who shares his experience of job-related depression when he was working for a large public sector organisation in a high-pressure and demanding transformation role. Depression in the workplace is a common issue among professionals, often attributed to long hours, demanding targets, and volatile bosses.  Often, it is an organisation's culture and leadership that creates toxic working environments where employees can develop symptoms like fatigue, insomnia, problems with memory loss, and lack of concentration which in turn can contribute to depression. Like Paul, sometimes it is difficult to accept that you are suffering from depression feelings of failure, and embarrassment, and that your career is over all exacerbate the situation. Paul discusses the importance of overcoming the stigma of mental ill health and how the role of friends, family, and therapy is critical to recovery and the provision of a positive support system. Unfortunately, surprisingly few men actively seek help acknowledging and tackling depression which can often lead to more severe consequences if left undiagnosed and unmanaged.  

In this episode, I welcome back Octavian Constantinescu who last time talked about how he was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. This time, he describes his experience of living with anxiety, which he initially mistook as a normal way of living. Octavian constantly felt a sense of dread and had difficulty sleeping due to worries about work and other aspects of life.  He compared his anxious thoughts to a repetitive GIF, constantly playing in his mind. Octavian felt incompetent and unable to ask for help, which impacted his relationships and job performance. He finally decided to seek support through therapy and learned techniques to manage his anxiety, such as the ACE method (Acknowledge, Connect, Engage) which uses simple methods to help him stay present and break the cycle of anxious thoughts. Octavian recommends a book called 'The Happiness Trap' by Russ Harris, and you can also visit Russ's website thehappinesstrap.com where you'll find lots of useful information on techniques to combat anxiety as well as lots of other free resources.You can also contact Octavian directly, via LinkedIn. 

In this episode, we dive into the world of high-pressure careers, particularly in law enforcement, with Richard Podkowski, a seasoned law enforcement professional. He shares his experiences dealing with the constant stress that comes with protecting U.S. Presidents and major security assignments both domestically and abroad. Richard discusses the societal stigma surrounding seeking support for stress-related issues and the evolving landscape of employee assistance programs (EAPs) that have become valuable resources for law enforcement personnel. Join us for an eye-opening conversation about managing high-pressure jobs and the changing perceptions of seeking help in these demanding fields. Recently, Richard pursued creative interests, involving writing, acting, and sharing law enforcement expertise with the entertainment industry, culminating in his debut novel, "The Walk-On," released in February 2023.To find out more about Richard you can visit his website: https://richardpodkowski.com/ where you can also buy his debut novel ‘The Walk-on' which is also available from online retailers including Amazon and Barnes and Noble. 

In this episode, I am joined by Duncan Bhaskaran Brown, coach, speaker, and Morris dancer, who helps people with alcohol dependency issues. He is also an author. His first book ‘Get Over Indulgence' outlines a simple system to revolutionise your relationship with food, booze, and life. His new book ‘Real Men Quit' is out in December. Duncan shares his own experiences of battles with addiction, particularly, alcohol including what made him decide to stop and methods he used to lead a more rewarding life.He explores how we live in a world full of illusions of truth, and there are many illusions of truth about alcohol if you look at the motivational triad we're basically designed as humans to maximize pleasure, minimize pain, and minimize the expenditure of energy. And if you look at the delusions that are out there around alcohol, the world will tell you that alcohol increases your pleasure. It doesn't. It will tell you it reduces your pain. It doesn't. And it will tell you the best thing to do is sit on the sofa after a hard day's work and drink a glass of wine, which is, of course, minimizing energy expenditure.He also discusses how to recognise if you or someone close to you is drinking too much, how to address the problem, and the support options available from self-help to cognitive therapy to Alcoholics Anonymous.  If you want to find out more about Duncan or to contact him directly visit his website: https://www.bhaskaranbrown.com/.You can also buy his book Get Over Indulgence, or pre-order his new book Real Men Quit on Amazon:Duncan also referenced a few self-help books: Allen Carr's Easy Way to Control Alcohol.This Naked Mind: The myth-busting cult hit for anyone who wants to cut down their alcohol consumption. By Annie Grace.You can also visit Alcoholics Anonymous. 

In this episode, I am joined by Steve Whittle, founder of Tough to Talk, a charity committed to helping business and community leaders reduce male suicide rates by empowering men to speak openly about their struggles. Steve shares his own experiences of suicide behaviours and how this led to him starting Tough to Talk. He addresses the critical issue of suicide prevention, particularly focusing on the alarming statistics related to men. Suicide is described as the number one preventable cause of death globally, claiming over 700,000 lives annually. Shockingly, two-thirds of these individuals are men, who are three times more likely to die by suicide than women.We explore the barriers men face in seeking help, emphasising that only 32% of men in the UK engage with psychological services. These challenges are attributed to stigma surrounding mental health and societal expectations of male strength (toxic masculinity). The suicide continuum is explored as a framework to understand the progression of suicidal thoughts and actions, highlighting that men often suffer in silence due to this disconnect.Steve also discusses factors contributing to suicidal tendencies, including psychological, identity, biological, current life circumstances, and past trauma. He emphasises that men considering suicide may not necessarily want to die but just want to seek relief from their pain.He talks about the difficulty of spotting signs of suicidal behaviour in men, as they often conceal their struggles and the importance of using direct language when discussing suicide, even if the words may be uncomfortable.The speaker introduces "Tough to Talk," an initiative aimed at breaking the stigma around male mental health by engaging men in male-dominated industries and promoting open conversations. They believe that by encouraging men to discuss their challenges, it will filter into homes and eventually eradicate generational gender bias and stigma.Despite increased conversations about mental health, suicide rates are still rising, underlining the need for proactive checking-in on friends and the importance of persistent and specific questions when someone says they are "fine."In summary, this episode sheds light on the urgent need for suicide prevention efforts targeted at men, emphasizing the role of societal norms and the importance of open communication in addressing this critical issue in the workplace, in communities and in the home.Tough to Talk vows to break down the stigma of men's mental health and aims to train 2,400 ‘tough talkers' over the next 18 months. If you are experiencing any of the issues raised in this podcast, general advice is to talk to your doctor. There are also organisations you can call now for example, in the UK, you can call the Samaritans on 116 123, and if you are in the US, you can call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

In this episode, I am joined by Jonathan Bogner, executive producer of reality TV & movies, and entrepreneur with multiple businesses. In 2007, life was great for Jonathan, living in Beverly Hills with his wife and children, living his dream job producing movies and had just sold a movie at a major film festival. Life was to change drastically in a moment, forever. Jonathan suffered heart failure, two massive strokes and lost the ability to speak. He survived but unable to talk or write, he lost his business and had a defibrillator implanted in his chest just to keep his heart beating. Jonathan rebuilt his life, becoming a producer of reality TV shows until his defibrillator fired twice within seconds, and he was rushed to Cedars Sinai hospital and told he would not be discharged until a heart became available for a transplant. Four weeks later and after enduring a nine-hour operation, Jonathan had his new (used) heart from a female donor,  however just when he thought his problems were over, there was much more to come. Join us, and hear Jonathan's story, how it has impacted his mental health and how he has learned to take each day as it comes. He talks about his rehabilitation and how he has adapted his life to his own philosophy around exercise, healthy eating, but most importantly, maintaining his sense of humor. 

Welcome to the Mid-Life Men podcast. In this episode, I am joined by author Johnnie Lowery, who writes about his passion for football, but also about mental health and the relationship between the two. Johnnie's first book, Six Added Minutes, was written while he was at university and published in November 2019 and his second book, Match Fit, was published in August 2023, and is inspired by a desire to ensure mental health does not remain a taboo subject in society. Johnnie shares his own mental health journey which started as a teenager, through university and into adulthood. He struggled to fit in socially which prevented him from living the life he wanted to until he undertook counselling and found that writing helped to manage how he felt and enabled him to find his own coping mechanisms. Johnnie talks about the different mental health topics he explores in Match Fit, which include: Supporters – exploring the sense of community you get at football matches, and everyone having a common cause means people will often readily support each other. This links to the more positive side of tribalism, which is often highlighted as a negative of football fans in the press. Retirement – what happens to footballers when they retire and includes an interview with Marcus Bent, speaking openly about his struggles with retirement. Addiction – exploring alcohol and gambling addiction and why sportspeople are often more predisposed to addiction than the general population. Grassroots Level - how simply playing football can benefit your mental health whether it be competitive 11-a-side games or a 5-a-side walking football kickabout with mates in the park.Johnnie's book are available to buy at most online retailers including Waterstones, and Amazon.If you want to find out more about the mental health and suicide charity Beder, that Johnnie mentions visit the website: https://beder.org.uk/. 

Welcome to the Mid-life Men podcast aiming to break the stigma of men talking about their mental health. In this episode, we're looking at techniques you can practise for combatting depression. According to some reports, up to 14% of men in the UK experience depression, and I suspect that number's actually a lot higher. This episode is a little different. Instead of the usual interview format, Dave Williams, author, speaker and award-winning coach talks about his own experience with depression following the death of his partner, and how he found strategies to not just help himself but other people too. Dave will be presenting a mini-masterclass on the straight-forward techniques he teaches to anyone who is struggling with depression or even just finding it difficult to motivate themselves to do even the most simple everyday tasks.   If you want to find out more about Dave's techniques and his coaching, you can visit his website: www.davewilliamscoaching.comIf you are suffering from feelings of depression or anxiety, then the general advice is to go and see your GP if you can.

In this episode, I talk to Russ Hoadley on corporate burnout, changing career mid-life, and finding your true calling, in his case as a teacher. Russ was working up to 115 hours a week with a demanding job in international finance, spending his life on an aeroplane, resulting in an unsatisfactory work-life balance especially with a young family.  After experiencing a near-fatal medical event, he knew his lifestyle needed to change. He talks about how he started to volunteer at his children's school and coaching a junior football team and how this led to him the realisation that his prefect profession was in fact to become a teacher. Russ describes how he retrained and how teaching has had a hugely positive impact on his life, addressing his work-balance, providing career fulfilment and enabling him to rediscover his passion for playing sports.   If, like Russ, you're interested in retraining as a teacher, visit the UK Gov's Get Into Teaching website: https://getintoteaching.education.gov.uk/train-to-be-a-teacher.

In this episode, we discuss Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) with my guest Octavian Constantinescu, who shares his life experiences and how an adult ADHD diagnosis helped him find clarity and focus. To listeners feeling frustrated at work or not meeting their expectations, Octavian advises investing in their mental health. While external factors may be beyond their control, focusing on one's own actions and well-being is imperative. Taking charge of mental health can empower individuals to navigate challenges effectively and lead a more fulfilling life.Octavian references an adult ADHD assessment tool from the Canadian ADHD Resource Alliance website (https://www.caddra.ca) which can be accessed at Resources/ADHD Questionnaires/Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale Symptom Checklist.Octavian also recommends a book ADHD 2.0 by Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey.If you would like to connect with Octavian, his LinkedIn profile is: https://www.linkedin.com/in/octavian-c/.

In this episode, Tom Mitchelson, the author, speaker, and writer, talks candidly about his experience growing up in a home where his dad's behaviour was at best unpredictable and at worst violent and aggressive, especially towards his mum. He has since published his story in a memoir titled 'Don't ask me about my dad'. Tom discusses his life from a young boy to adulthood focusing on the impact his dad's actions had on himself and his family both then and now. He explains why he decided to write the book and how it has helped him to try and understand his dad, and find peace with what happened to him all those years ago. He also explores the fragility of childhood and how trauma can be carried around for life as an open wound, especially if blocked out, and how despite the pain of revisiting the past unless you find a way to deal with your experiences, the wound doesn't heal. Tom's book "Don't ask me about my dad" is available to buy from various retailers: https://linktr.ee/tommitchelson.