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In this episode of Fitness & Sushi, we're uncovering the toxic mental patterns you didn't realize were symptoms of diet culture. If you've ever felt like your mindset is the problem—or worse, that you are the problem—this episode will show you the truth about why you feel stuck. In this episode – “Top 10 Signs You Have a Poor Relationship With Your Mind (a.k.a. The Diet Mindset)” – you'll learn…
If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of restriction and rebound, this episode is for you!In this episode, I take you inside two powerful conversations, an initial consult call and the onboarding call with a client. When we first spoke, she was beyond frustrated, stuck in a cycle of restrictive eating, struggling with low energy, and feeling like her body was fighting against her. Just one week into the program, her mindset has already shifted in a big way.She realized she had been drastically under-eating for her activity level, leading to fatigue, cravings, and weekend binges. She had her “aha” moment when she saw how much food she actually could eat and still lose fat. We talk about breaking free from the all-or-nothing dieting mentality, fueling her body properly, and why eating more, not less, is the key to long-term success in menopause.Thank you so much for listening, please share with a friend and subscribe so you don't miss an episode!If you want to see how we can help you on your journey, book a quick 10-15 minute call so we can chat about your goals!https://www.menopotmeltdown.com/quickchatnow Coaching Process Video and booking link https://www.menopotmeltdown.com/mmmcoachingapp Now accepting clients, use the link to apply for 1:1 coaching:https://www.menopotmeltdown.com/mmmcoachingappFree No BS Menopause Secrets Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/kathykatalyst/?ref=shareFor all my social links: https://bit.ly/kathykatalystDo you have a question that you would like answered on the show? Please ask your question here:https://go.katalystfitness.net/podcast-question-entryHave a personal question? Email me at kathycote9142@comcast.net
Is how you think influencing how you feel? Are there thoughts we should all avoid? What types of thinking are most harmful? In this episode, Danny and Randy discuss 3 thoughts that will ruin your life.We reference the following book in this episode: “How to Make Yourself Happy, and Remarkably Less Disturbable,” by Albert Ellis, PhD. Subscribe to ESP's YouTube Channel! Thanks for listening! Do you have a question you want answered in a future episode? If so, send your question to: existentialstoic@protonmail.comDanny, Randy, and their good friend, Russell, created a new podcast, CodeNoobs, for anyone interested in tech and learning how to code. Listen to CodeNoobs now online, CodeNoobs-podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Do you find yourself starting strong with new goals only to fall off track after a few weeks? You're not alone—and there's a reason this keeps happening. In today's episode, I'm uncovering the #1 mindset trap that sabotages your goals: all-or-nothing thinking. We'll dive into why this approach leads to burnout and frustration, and I'll share a powerful, brain-based strategy to help you make progress even on your busiest days. You'll walk away with practical tools to ditch perfectionism, embrace consistency, and start seeing real results—without overwhelming yourself. Plus, I'll share a biblical perspective on why small, faithful steps matter and how they align with God's design for growth. Tune in now and discover how to make 2025 the year you actually follow through on your goals! Episode mentioned #63: How to Make Goals Stick Resources to Help You Take the Next Step: ✨ Work with Me in The Abundant Life Academy: https://www.reneebooe.com/collective
Friends, welcome to Episode 175 of Thrive Beyond Size. Can you believe it's the 175th episode? That means I've done this podcast for 175 weeks in a row without missing a single week. I'm really proud of this accomplishment because I think it's the longest commitment I've ever made. When I started the podcast I was so nervous. I was terrified, actually. I did everything anyone told me to make it perfect. But as I recorded more my mindset changed so I was able to aim for B+ instead of perfection and it made everything easier. That ability to change your mindset to make something easier is what I want to talk about today. There are four key personality traits that tend to make relationships with food, among other things, more challenging for us. But good news! Mindsets can change. The four key personality traits often standing in our way are perfectionism, the all or nothing thinking, people pleasing, and neglecting our own self-care. The most common is perfectionism. I identify as a perfectionist and even though it sounds like a positive it comes with rigid expectations that don't allow us flexibility. All or nothing thinking often goes hand-in-hand with perfectionism. Either we're really good or we've blown it entirely and we just give up. We've already had a piece of cake so we just eat whatever we want all weekend. People pleasing is that desire to please others and with food this might mean eating what everyone else is eating at a party or saying yes to dessert so you don't offend the host. And neglecting our own self-care often comes with juggling a lot of responsibilities. It's just easier to push our needs to the bottom of the list. If any of these sound like you, this episode is for you. I'll get in-depth on all four and talk about how to shift your mindset to alter these patterns of behavior for the better.__About Dr. Michelle Tubman:Dr. Michelle Tubman is certified by the American Board of Obesity Medicine, which means she understands exactly what's happening in your body when you diet. Although she does not provide any medical advice in her coaching programs, this knowledge gives her an edge over most coaches.She also holds Level 1 and Level 2 Precision Nutrition coaching certifications which make her skilled at coaching nutrition, dietary change, and habit change in general. Realizing that emotional eating and bingeing are complicated for most of us, she also did training in mind-body and intuitive eating. Peace around food is possible.__Learn more about Dr. Michelle Tubman and Wayza Health:Website: www.wayzahealth.comFollow me on Facebook and InstagramEmail Michelle: michelle@wayzahealth.com
Can breaking free from all-or-nothing thinking transform your post-divorce life? This episode promises to show you how shifting away from black-and-white thought patterns can unlock the power and choices you didn't realize you had. I'll walk you through how this limiting mindset can leave you feeling powerless and stuck during your divorce. I'll also offer practical strategies to recognize and challenge these habitual thoughts. By the end of this episode you'll have tools to step into your inherent power and see the spectrum of possibilities available to you as you move through your divorce and beyond.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep184
Annoyance & Acceptance: Managing Emotions in Friendships Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of naming and accepting emotions, including annoyance, as well as the challenges of communication and managing expectations in their friendship. They share personal experiences and strategies for navigating difficult feelings, emphasizing the value of patience and trust in their conversations. They discuss concepts like nonviolent communication and the impact of attachment wounds on relationships. CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS Summary Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences with physical activity and the importance of setting realistic expectations. They explore the tendency to have all-or-nothing thinking and the need for flexibility and self-compassion. Patricia shares her recent experiences with medication and managing her OCD symptoms. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss Patricia's experience with OCD and how it affects her relationships. They explore the challenges of managing dysregulation and the importance of communication and authenticity in navigating difficult emotions. They also touch on the impact of past traumas on current relationships and the need for self-compassion and setting boundaries. The conversation highlights the importance of accepting and expressing emotions and the value of being honest about one's limitations. Takeaways Setting realistic expectations and being flexible is important when trying new activities. Naming and accepting emotions is crucial for self-awareness and healthy relationships. Communication and managing expectations are key in maintaining strong friendships. Medication can be helpful in managing symptoms, but self-awareness and self-compassion are also important. OCD can manifest in different ways, such as excessive worry and fear of harm to loved ones. Managing dysregulation can be challenging, and reaching out for support is important. Authenticity and open communication are key in navigating difficult emotions and maintaining healthy relationships. It's important to recognize and address past traumas that may impact current relationships. Setting boundaries and being honest about one's limitations is crucial for self-care and maintaining healthy relationships. Sound Bites · "I went kickboxing. Yes, it was so much fun." · "Finding ways to really lower the bar to just get my body there." · "Are there ways that you can create a little bit more flexibility and options so that your life works for you?" · "I worry every morning that my husband, you know, is dead." · "I felt very disconnected from you, like everything just felt meh." · "I wonder if you remembered about recording and you didn't say anything about recording." Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Kickboxing Experience 01:54 Setting Realistic Expectations and Lowering the Bar 04:15 Embracing Emotions and Practicing Self-Compassion 06:16 Communication and Expectations in Friendships 08:43 Managing Symptoms: Medication and Self-Awareness 20:43 Dysregulation and Feeling Disconnected 24:47 Navigating Uncertainty and Hurt Feelings 29:26 Being Present and Authentic in Relationships 33:18 Addressing Past Traumas and Setting Boundaries 40:13 The Importance of Honesty and Saying No PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. 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In today's episode I am taking on one of the biggest limiting factors I see in the clients I work with: ALL OR NOTHING THINKING.How often have you caught yourself saying things like: I eat great during the week but I “always” binge the weekends.I “never” make it more than three weeks into a diet before I mess it up.Now is not a good time. There's too much happening. I'll start when I can give it all my attentionI just downed a row of Oreos. Well, I guess my diet is “ruined” might as well finish the whole package.This is all or nothing thinking and I promise you, it is hurting your ability to reach your goals.Today I'll discuss:What is all or nothing thinking?Why do we do it?What are the negative effects of all or nothing thinking?A step by step process for working your way out of all or nothing thinkingJoin me on the 'gram! Get free recipes and tips delivered right to your inbox every Friday!Schedule a free connection call hereTry Syntrax! To try to the most delicious, gluten free, lactose free "top of the line" whey isolate AND save 25% use the code "syntraxallison" at checkout.Better Bodies discount code "BB15" at checkout to save 15% on my favorite betterbodies gear!Learn more about your options for working 1:1 with me: https://www.revivewellness.health/services
Summer brings specific challenges for releasing weight - your friend saying, “C'mon just one more glass of wine”, wanting to have fun, being out of your routine and dealing with body image drama. We can easily slip into all-or-nothing mentality - either you're 100% in OR you're in “screw it” mode. This episode will teach you how to get through the summer so you feel good about your food decisions AND good in your body. In this episode you'll learn:The summer specific justifications your brain will think are trueWhy thinking “it's working” can actually sabotage your weight lossThe trick to avoiding all-or-nothing thinking The full transcript Instagram: @mindful_shape Free Self Coaching Resources Interested in getting coached by me? Go to my website mindfulshape.com
This week we talk about the importance of acknowledging and working through personal anxieties, and I share specific techniques to help parents manage their own worries while supporting their child's journey to coping with anxiety.
Ambitious-ish: Success Without Burnout for Smart, Driven Women
Are you someone who is all in or all out? Are you on the wagon or off it? You're winning or losing, and your life is awesome or terrible? Do you feel like you have to be a good mom OR good at the job? This silent saboteur is called all-or-nothing thinking, and it is holding you back in your journey to feeling at ease and calm in your life. So what can you do about it? We show you how to bring awareness to your all-or-nothing thinking, so you can stop letting it hold you back and start to transform the way you approach your goals one step at a time. Find out why you engage in all-or-nothing thinking, and learn a cool practice to help you make better decisions, feel more connected to others, and work through challenges in your life, family, and work. For full transcript and show notes, please visit: https://www.ambitious-ish.com/15
If you're a perfectionist and you haven't been hitting their goals, you probably feel like you haven't made any progress at all. And this likely has you dreading questions from family and friends over the holidays about how your business is going. That's why in today's episode I'm sharing some signs of success that commonly go overlooked so you can notice the progress you're making and stop dreading family gatherings. This isn't to say that there aren't things about your business that need to change. But if you don't notice the ways that you're succeeding you will actually be less successful due to the time you'll waste making improvements to things that didn't need improving. Tune in today to discover some of the signs you're succeeding besides hitting your goals. Find the full episode transcript and show notes at samlaurabrown.com/episode436. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why failing to achieve your goals doesn't mean that you aren't succeeding One of my most important business lessons (it took me two years to learn this) What the law of diminishing returns is and why it's so important in business 5 signs you're succeeding that you've probably overlooked The best way to understand what's not working about your business Featured In The Episode: Join the waitlist for Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (PGSD) - samlaurabrown.com/pgsd Take the perfectionism quiz: samlaurabrown.com/quiz Sign up for daily Perfectionist Power-Ups - samlaurabrown.com/power Follow me on Instagram @perfectionismproject Episode 258: All-Or-Nothing Thinking on the Make Money As A Life Coach Podcast Work With Me: My coaching program Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (aka PGSD) teaches you how to plan properly as a perfectionist so you can get out of your own way in your business. Enrollment for our April 2024 cohort will be happening in March. To find out more about the program and be the first to know when the doors open, join the waitlist today: samlaurabrown.com/pgsd.
Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week! Here is what to expect on this week's show: What are cognitive distortions, and why do they interfere with your thinking? All Or Nothing Thinking- if it isn't perfect, it is bad. Overgeneralization- applying a label to everything because it happened once. Mental Filter- ignore the positive and focus on the negative. Discounting the positives- not valuing positive things that happen Jumping to Conclusions- decisions not based on evidence Magnification or Minimization- making things more significant or less significant than they are. Emotional Reasoning- reasoning yourself into negative thoughts Should Statements- criticism in form of “you should have” or “I should have” Labeling- applying negative labels to yourself or others in reaction to a mistake or because something didn't happen the way you expected. Personalization and Blame- thinking you are to blame for things you have no control or influence over. How to identify cognitive distortions Showing yourself compassion and understanding in training yourself to break these habits. Look for evidence to support what you are thinking or saying to yourself or others. Is it true? Transformational vocabulary- instead of automatically falling into your cognitively distorted thoughts, how you can reframe what you say and how you think. Follow Rebecca Greene Blog https://www.whinypaluza.com/ Book 1 https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook Book 2 https://bit.ly/whinybook2 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom YouTube https://www.youtube.com/WhinyPaluza Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Impact of All or Nothing Thinking For entrepreneurs, all-or-nothing thinking reflects in areas such as time management, task prioritization, and perfectionism. This mindset can lead to a constant battle with scheduling disruptions, forgetting tasks, and dealing with an overload of responsibilities. Moreover, the pursuit of perfection can become a hindrance, either by demanding specific conditions before embarking on a task, or needing tasks to be perfect before presenting them to the world. Amber discusses the impacts of this mindset in the world of business, pinpointing perfectionism as a common stumbling block for entrepreneurs with ADHD. She talks about 'front end' and 'back end' perfectionism that puts unnecessary pressure and hampers progress. She also touches on the effects of this pattern on executive functioning, leading to struggles with time management, task prioritization, and back-to-back commitments. The Incubator is not open and accepting applications: https://www.theeasilydistractedentrepreneur.com/incubator/ Space is limited to 10 people so apply now.
All or nothing thinking is a form of self sabotage and distorted thinking. It will prevent you from starting projects, victim mentality, anger and self loathing. The gray area is where sustainable self love, relationships and goals live. Failure, mistakes and the unknown live in the gray area. When you fear those things you are in the all or nothing distorted mindset. Become A Patreon! www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Socials, Services & Website www.thepositivityxperience.com
What if "failure" was actually an opportunity to learn?What if it gave us the chance to collect data about what worked and what didn't?What if we decided to be curious instead of judgmental? If you keep showing up, you're not failing. So let's release all-or-nothing thinking once and for all, and lean into a mindset of growth
In today's episode of Distortion of the Day!, I discuss Black and White Thinking, also known as All Or Nothing Thinking or Absolute Thinking. When you engage in Black and White thinking, you approach things from an extreme point of view. Either something is all good or all bad. A person either's got your back, or you cant count on them. A situation is either totally awesome or totally screwed. And another person's perspective or point of view is either completely in alignment with yours, or you are in total disagreement. There is no in-between. And that's an unfortunate way to approach life because it creates barriers between you and the world around you by shutting out the possibilities of connection and growth that lie in the grey areas. Thanks for tuning in!
Right now, most of us spend more time focused on the actions we're taking instead of the reasons we're taking them. What would happen if you reversed that priority? What would your life become if you focused more on your reasons for doing something rather than the action itself?Listen to find out.Schedule a call with me: sammybeecoaching.com/scheduleFollow me on Instagram: @sammybeecoaching
"My way is to seize an image the moment it has formed in my mind, to trap it as a bird and to pin it at once to canvas. Afterward I start to tame it, to master it. I bring it under control and I develop it. "— Joan MiroIn this episode, Dr. Curtis delves into common thinking traps that impair our ability to think clearly. When it comes to Self-Mastery, the quality of our thought can make or break our long term success. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on the content and origin of thought. Dr. Curtis shares insights into five very common patterns of thinking that lead to false conclusions.Thinking Traps DiscussedAll or Nothing ThinkingJumping to ConclusionsType 1 - Mind ReadingType 2- Fortune TellingEmotional ReasoningOver GeneralizingIgnoring the GoodEpisodes Mentioned EP 48 Thinking TrapsJoin the conversation, join the Future Focus Health Network....love to hear from you!
In this week's episode, I teach you a fundamental tool, created by my teacher Brooke Castillo from the Life Coach School where I was certified, however it's based in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. And it's really this universal truth, it's a helpful tool to help manage our minds so we're not just believing everything we think and feel. It's essential for any type of personal growth, however for binge eating in particular, it really helps identify those binge-causing thoughts, which is key to recovery. The tool is called the self-coaching model, or what we often refer to as simply ‘the model', and it's this truth that in the world, there are circumstances that occur. Things happen or just exist. And all of these things are actually neutral and don't innately have a bunch of moralistic meaning to them, until we give them meaning with our thoughts. These neutral circumstances are things that are factual with no opinions or hyperboles brought in. They could be proven in a court of law. And they just are. For example, there is a cup of coffee on my desk. The sun is shining. Those are what we're calling circumstances. When the circumstance happens, or even if we just remember an existing circumstance, our brain offers up some thoughts. Often these thoughts are subconscious, they happen without us really being aware of them. But when we think these thoughts, we have feelings because of the thoughts – not because of the circumstance itself. And when we feel a certain feeling, often that will drive us to act or not act in a certain way. And that action or inaction, creates certain results in our lives. So the process is: a neutral circumstance exists, then we think a thought about that circumstance, that thought causes a feeling, that feeling drives an action or inaction, and that action or inaction creates the results in our lives. Zooming out, we can infer that our thoughts create our results, our circumstances do not. This universal truth greatly impacts our lives and empowers us to not be at the mercy of our circumstances and our feelings. Tune in to learn it!Schedule a free consult call with me: https://www.sammybeecoaching.com/scheduleFollow me on Instagram: @sammybeecoaching
All or nothing thinking comes at a cost. The cost is not only just hiding or ignoring our truest self (which is what perfectionism does); the cost of all or nothing thinking is hurting our truest self. Knocking her down and rejecting her. It's when we're able to see our mistakes as neutral, when we take the pressure off of what we “should be” doing/saying/looking like, when we start checking in with our truest self and gaining from her wisdom versus shooting her down for being different or nonconforming – that's when we start living authentically. That's when we start to truly be known. My ask, friends, is that when we mistakes and failures occur, that we would accept them and give space to them. Maybe we'll begin to see that they weren't mistakes or failures at all actually. Maybe they were just messages from our true selves, reminding you that the vastness of life isn't found by following other people's rules perfectly.Book a consultation call with me: https://www.sammybeecoaching.com/scheduleFollow me on Instagram: @sammybeecoaching
In this week's episode, I discuss common thinking errors, namely All Or Nothing Thinking, and how this type of thought doesn't fully encompass the beauty and complexity that is the human experience. Sitting with the tension of paradox, emotion regulation, distress tolerance, all of it. How do we get to being okay with not being okay? How do we open our minds? Let's Discuss... Oh! And I finally decided on my episode closing catchphrase. Thanks so much for joining me for this episode of, Let's Discuss… with Meg Duke. I'd love for you to write a review of my podcast on your app, and don't forget to subscribe so you get a notification when new content is posted. Take a moment to leave a 5-star rating, too! You can follow me at @TherapyByMeg on Instagram and find Meg Duke LCSW-S on Facebook. You can also look for Let's Discuss… content by searching the hashtag, #LetsDiscussWithMeg. Let's Discuss… with Meg Duke is executive produced by David Presley and produced by Meg Duke. Our theme song was written and performed by Antwone McDuffie.
Why do we describe things as good or bad when there is a whole variety of feelings in between. It makes you evaluate your life in only two ways; perfection or utter failure. We let this way of thinking creep into how we describe our weeks, and even days – and this deletes all the medium moments and okayness of our lives! In this episode we’re going to teach you how to stop doing it – and feel fine with being fine. LINKS How to Break the Painful Habit of “All or Nothing” Thinking Toni Bernhard for Psychology Today How To Be Sick by Toni Bernhard Follow The Space on Instagram @thespace_podcast Follow Nova Podcasts on Instagram @novapodcastsofficial CREDITS Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloyExecutive Producer: Elise CooperEditor: Adrian Walton Listen to more great podcasts at novapodcasts.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
All or nothing thinking is when you evaluate your life in extreme terms. It makes you evaluate your life in only two ways; perfection or utter failure. We can let this way of thinking creep into how we describe our weeks, and even days – and this deletes all the medium moments and okayness of our lives! In this episode we’re going to teach you how to stop doing it – and feel fine with being fine. LINKS 'How to Break the Painful Habit of “All or Nothing” Thinking' Toni Bernhard for Psychology Today. ‘How To Be Sick’ by Toni Bernhard. Follow The Space on Instagram @thespace_podcast. Follow Nova Podcasts on Instagram @novapodcastsofficial. CREDITS Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88.Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloy.Executive Producer: Elise Cooper.Editor: Adrian Walton. Listen to more great podcasts at novapodcasts.com.au.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Have you ever thought, "I might as well not exercise today since I ate all those cookies today." Or maybe you have thought "If I can't declutter my house, why start at all."This is all or nothing thinking. When you view things as zero to 100. This type of thinking causes you to look at extremes and forget about options 1-99.You can see this in trying to implement self-care, meal planning, stress coping and so many other areas of your life if you pay attention. So what's the problem with thinking like this?It affects what we choose to do or not do, how we show up, and how we talk to ourselves.This is why my guest, Shawna, is here to help us. In this episode we talk about:What is this all or nothing mentalityHow the all or nothing mentality can show up in our livesWhat steps that we can take to shift the all or nothing mentalityHow to be more intentional and pay attention to your thoughts and feelings dailyIf you are ready to ditch the all-or-nothing mentality, check out this full episode.ABOUT SHAWNAShawna is a trained life coach who teaches moms how to simplify, slow down and show up. She is a mom of three and wants to uplift other moms to enjoy their life and live it ON PURPOSECONNECT WITH SHAWNABlog/Website URL: https://www.simpleonpurpose.ca Facebook Page URL: https://www.facebook.com/simpleonpurposeFacebook Group URL: https://www.facebook.com/groups/simpleonpurposecommunityInstagram URL: https://www.instagram.com/simpleonpurpose.ca/Pinterest URL: https://www.pinterest.ca/simpleonpurposeIf anyone wants to book a free mini-session to talk about all or nothing thinking in their own life https://calendly.com/simpleonpurpose/mini-sessionsSHOW NOTES FOR THIS EPISODE: https://www.realhappymom.com/118REAL HAPPY MOM INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/realhappymom REAL HAPPY MOM COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/realhappymomSign up for my weekly newsletter and get 9 mom's ultimate mom hacks for living a happy and productive life.Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/realhappymom)
"The first and most important step toward success is the feeling that we can succeed." Nelson Boswell Today I want to share with you the monthly blog article from my business partner Robert Stuberg. The of the blog entry is Thought Distortions. This blog is packed with content and ideas on how to start REALLY changing your thoughts....especially the ones you Don't want to be having. Head over to Stuberg.com to get tons of additional blog articles and ideas that can help you Unleash Your Potential. Thought Distortions Blog July 1, 2021 One of the questions clients frequently ask me is, What is the best way to change your thoughts? In other words, how do you get rid of thoughts you don't want running through your mind? If you take the time to analyze your unwanted thoughts, you will often discover that they are based on distortions of reality. Finding ways to eliminate these “Thought Distortions” can take many forms. Over the years, I have used several methods but some of the ones I've found most effective have been self-hypnosis, sleep programming, meditation, and even something I call “Hypnology” which you may find fun to investigate and experience for yourself. (There is a FREE product titled Provocative Destiny on my website if you would like to explore the concept of “Hypnology” which involves using your musical intelligence to reprogram your subconscious mind. It's an extremely powerful way to change your thinking. Just click HERE for your FREE copy!) The challenge to eliminating your unwanted thoughts, however, is that you first have to figure out what thoughts you need to eliminate. So let me begin by telling you about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) which was developed by the American psychiatrist Aaron Beck in the 1960's. Beck originally used Freudian Psychoanalysis with his patients but as a researcher and scientist, he decided to put psychoanalysis to the test. Unfortunately, those tests he conducted did not produce the results he was expecting which is what lead him to start developing and testing other methods. As you might imagine, Beck was not originally applauded for challenging accepted beliefs and practices but as other colleagues began trying his methods, Beck was vindicated and eventually regarded as an important pioneer in the field of psychiatry. The essence of what Beck discovered is that negative thoughts fall into three categories: negative ideas about the self, negative ideas about the world, and negative thoughts about the future. For many people, these negative thoughts become automatic over time so they are no longer even questioned. But when Beck began questioning patients about their thoughts and pointing out various inaccuracies or distortions, patients could recognize their faulty thinking and choose new thoughts. As simple as it sounds, it was revolutionary at the time and it still remains a major part of psychiatry today. It is especially significant in the treatment of depression. I find it one of the best tools available to clarify one's thinking about anything. Read the next section on thought distortions to see if you can uncover any in your own thinking. I think it is safe to say that we all have thought distortions, but we can eliminate them by recognizing and acknowledging them, and by beginning to ask better questions to get to the truth. The key is learn to rise above thought distortions which always fall into those three main categories I mentioned—i.e., negative thoughts that are personal, pervasive, and permanent. The good news is that with clear, rational thinking you can spot these. However, it's always recommended to brainstorm what you are thinking about with a coach, mentor, counselor, or doctor to get real unbiased feedback. THE COGNITIVE TRIAD The Self – Is the self worthless or valuable? (Personal) The World/Environment – Is the world unfair, fair, or neutral? (Pervasive) The Future – Is the future hopeless or hopeful? (Permanent) Again, the most challenging problems are the ones that we convince ourselves are personal, pervasive, and permanent. Put those on your list to be eliminated. TYPES OF THOUGHT DISTORTIONS All-Or-Nothing Thinking Engaging in black-or-white thinking. Thinking in extremes, such as all good or all bad, with nothing in the middle. Selective Abstraction Selecting one idea or fact from an event while ignoring other facts in order to support negative thinking. Mind Reading Believing that we know the thoughts in another person's mind. Negative Prediction Believing that something bad is going to happen even though there is no evidence to support this prediction. Catastrophizing Exaggerating the potential or real consequences of an event and becoming fearful of the consequences. Overgeneralization Making a rule based on a few negative or isolated events and then applying it broadly. Labeling Creating a negative view of oneself based on errors or mistakes that one has made. This is a type of overgeneralizing which affects one's view of oneself. Magnification Exaggerating an imperfection into something greater than it is. Minimization Making a positive event much less important than it really is. Personalization Taking a common or general event and relating it to oneself thus making a connection where one really doesn't exist. I've found this list of Thought Distortion Types to be extremely valuable for myself and my clients as a reference guide to help spot thoughts you are thinking that are not good for you, not good for others, and don't serve the greater good. More importantly, since they are Thought Distortions, they are not true. And I believe that all progress starts with telling yourself the truth. Or as an old mentor said to me one day: “Robert, you might as well start with the truth because you are going to end with it.” Sage advice indeed.
Every day our brain offers us 60,000 thoughts and most of them are not helpful. How do you filter through them to find the ones to pay attention to?Listen to this episode to see where your thought errors are.
This week we are talking about cognitive distortions and how we can rethink to create a more meaningful, stress free life. Also, I have a surprise guest, start listening! References:Song Credit:Music by MBBhttps://www.youtube.com/c/mbbmusichttps://www.instagram.com/mbb_musichttps://soundcloud.com/mbbofficialhttps://spoti.fi/2wqzjwKLink to Blog: https://www.rachaelkable.com/blog/cognitive-distortions-and-anxietyLink to my website: https://greenkaitlyn97.wixsite.com/anintuitiveexistenceLink to The Wellness Podcast: https://the-wellness-podcast.simplecast.com/
Most people in recovery have or have had lives filled with chaos on dysfunction. When we're surrounded by chaos, we're frequently "activated" as if on alert, which means it's hard to think clearly. One of the ways our thinking gets distorted is that we see things only in stark contrast - like the stark contrast between the colors black and white. In order to be able to see and experiences the nuances of life (the gray area) we have to slow down, stop dissociating and become calm. Reaching out to others to get feedback on our perspective is also helpful. Learn more in this episode.You might also find these episodes helpful:#8 Learning to Pause#9 Reaching Out to OthersBONUS episode: What to Do When You're Triggered (between ep # 93 and #94)Please contact me at barb@higherpowercc.com or DM on Instagram or Facebook @HigherPowerCoachingBe sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). Visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
Most people in recovery have or have had lives filled with chaos on dysfunction. When we're surrounded by chaos, we're frequently "activated" as if on alert, which means it's hard to think clearly. One of the ways our thinking gets distorted is that we see things only in stark contrast - like the stark contrast between the colors black and white. In order to be able to see and experiences the nuances of life (the gray area) we have to slow down, stop dissociating and become calm. Reaching out to others to get feedback on our perspective is also helpful. Learn more in this episode.You might also find these episodes helpful:#8 Learning to Pause#9 Reaching Out to OthersBONUS episode: What to Do When You're Triggered (between ep # 93 and #94)Please contact me at barb@higherpowercc.com or DM on Instagram or Facebook @HigherPowerCoaching Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). Visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
All or nothing mentality. Let's find out how it might be showing up in your own life and why it's not serving you!
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In this 50th episode, I take more time than usual to answer a variety of listener questions. In addition to grief, depression, unmanageability and boundaries, I address perfectionism, black-and-white thinking and how I became able to make healthier choices. I also reflect on my experience of doing this podcast for a year.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
Recovery is about making choices in our lives, not living with rigid control. I share a continuum that goes from being in denial and practicing rigid control, to having greater choice when we use discernment. I also share about how victim mentality is related to control since those with victim mentality often don't recognize that they have choices. Having and making choices about our lives is one of the many freedoms of recovery and you can learn more about how to discern your choices in this episode.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★