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Our guest this time, Bill Eddy, is a family mediator, lawyer and therapist, and the Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He received his bachelor's degree in Psychology, but didn't stop there. As you will read, he went on to learn and work in the therapy space for a number of years, but his longing to deal with some other issues caused him to study law and after receiving his Juris Prudence degree he worked in the law as a mediator. While doing this he also felt it relevant and appropriate to begin working on ways to address conflicts between persons. He realized that conflict often meant that someone was bullying another person. Bill and I spend much time discussing bullying, where it comes from, how and why people become bullies and how to deal with bullying kinds of behavior. Our discussions are fascinating and I quite believe important for everyone to hear. Just last month Bill's latest book, “Our New World of Adult Bullies” was released. Bill discusses his book and why we are encountering more bullying behavior today than we have experienced in the past. Enough from me. I hope you find my conversation with Bill Eddy relevant, useful and, of course, entertaining. About the Guest: Bill Eddy is a family mediator, lawyer and therapist, and the Chief Innovation Office of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He has provided training to mediators, lawyers, judges, mental health professionals and others on the subject of managing high-conflict personalities in over 35 states, 9 provinces in Canada, and twelve other countries. As a lawyer, Mr. Eddy was a Certified Family Law Specialist (CFLS) in California for 15 years, where he represented clients in family court. Prior to that, he provided psychotherapy for 12 years to children and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). Throughout his forty-year career he has provided divorce mediation services, including the past 15 years as the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, California. Mr. Eddy is the author of several books, including: · Mediating High Conflict Disputes · High Conflict People in Legal Disputes · Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder · Calming Upset People with EAR · BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People · BIFF for CoParent Communication · BIFF at Work · BIFF for Lawyers and Law Offices · So, What's Your Proposal: Shifting High Conflict People From Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds · Don't Alienate the Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce He has a continuing education course for Mental Health professionals titled “It's All Your Fault!”: Working with High Conflict Personalities. He has a Psychology Today blog about high conflict personality disorders with over 6 million views. He has a podcast titled “It's All Your Fault” which he does weekly with Megan Hunter. He taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years. He has served on the part-time faculty of the National Judicial College in the United States and has provided several trainings for judges in Canada for the National Judicial Institute. He is currently on the part-time faculty at the Straus Institute of Dispute Resolution at Pepperdine University School of Law teaching Psychology of Conflict Communication each year. He teaches once a year on Advanced Communication Skills as Conjoint Associate Professor at Newcastle Law School in Newcastle, Australia. He is the developer of the New Ways for Families® method for potentially high-conflict families, which is being implemented in several family court systems in the United States and Canada, as well as an online co-parenting course (Parenting Without Conflict by New Ways for Families). He is also the developer of the New Ways for Mediation® method, which emphasizes more structure by the mediator and simple negotiation skills for the parties. He obtained his JD law degree in 1992 from the University of San Diego, a Master of Social Work degree in 1981 from San Diego State University, and a Bachelors degree in Psychology in 1970 from Case Western Reserve University. His website is: www.HighConflictInstitute.com. Ways to connect with Bill: www.HighConflictInstitute.com. About the Host: Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. 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Transcription Notes: Michael Hingson ** 00:00 Access Cast and accessiBe Initiative presents Unstoppable Mindset. The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us. Michael Hingson ** 01:21 And welcome to another episode of unstoppable mindset where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Today, we get to deal mostly with the unexpected, because inclusion is what it is, diversity is what it is, and those we put in the order that we do, because in the typical sense of the word diversity, doesn't intend to include disabilities or any discussion of disabilities. And people say, well, disability means lack of ability when they're talking about any of that anyway. And the reality is that's not true. Disability should not mean a lack of ability. And people say, Well, it does, because it starts with dis Well, what about disciple? Yeah, what about disciple? What about discern? What about, you know, so many other kinds of things. The reality is that everyone has a disability, and we could talk about that, but that's not what we're here to do today. We're here to talk to Bill Eddy, who has written a number of books. He's got a degree in psychology, he's got degrees in law, and I'm not going to go and give all that away, because I'd rather he do it. But we also get to be excited by the fact that he has a new book, and we'll talk about it a bunch. It's called our new world of adult bullies. Um, that's what I say about my cat all the time, because she does run the house and, you know, and we can mention that name, Bill, it's stitch. Now, she's a great kitty, but she she does have her mindset on what she wants, so she's trained us well. Well, welcome to unstoppable mindset. Bill, how are you? Bill Eddy ** 02:57 I'm good, and thanks so much for having me on. Michael, glad to be with you. Michael Hingson ** 03:01 Well, we're glad you're here and looking forward to it. Why don't we start, as I love to do so often, why don't you tell us about kind of the early build, growing up, or any of those kinds of things to lead us into where we go? Bill Eddy ** 03:14 Well, I was one of four kids, and as I mentioned in the introduction of the book in third grade, I had my own personal bully. He decided I was the guy he wanted to pick on and fight. And I think he figured that out because my parents didn't allow us kids to fight, so we weren't allowed to fight back. And you know, my parents said, you know, if takes two to make a fight, so if a fight starting, just walk away. And I said, what if the other person won't let you walk away? So we'll find a way to walk away. So for most of third grade, he harassed me and would catch me after school and hit me and kick me in the the foot of the stairway. We had a basement classroom, and there was a stairway out from there so no one could see and it wasn't easy to get away from but mostly I figured out how to avoid him, and also how to how to help the older kids with their homework, so they'd be more of a protector for me. So that's early childhood, but I think it influenced my my choice as an adult, you know, a psychology major, and then I got a master's in social work to do child and family counseling. Did that 12 years, but I liked resolving conflicts, and decided to go to law school and all of that primarily so I could practice mediation to help people solve conflicts. But many of the conflicts I've dealt with had bullies in them, so I started studying these personalities, and that kind of brings me up to today. Michael Hingson ** 04:58 Wow. Well, you have certainly written, also a number of books. I was reading your list of books, and you have one on divorce, and clearly there are bullies there, and a lot of places, I'm sure, and you have just a number of books, and I can see where the whole concept of having bullies can be in all of those and at the same time, most of us haven't learned how to deal with bullies. We haven't learned how to address the issue of avoidance, which is what you talked about, but it makes perfect sense. I don't particularly like bullies. I've not been bullied a lot, I think I was a couple of times in grammar school, and a kid hit me a couple of times, and I can only assume that it was sort of a bullish oriented thing, but I don't really recall that anything ever happened other than that. It only happened like once or twice, and then I was left alone. But still, there is so much of it, and there's been bullying to a degree for well, as long as we've had people, I guess, right, and this whole idea of avoiding it is obviously what we need to do, although I guess the other part about it that comes to mind is, how do you get the bully to change their mindset and recognize that that's not the best productive use of their time? Well, Bill Eddy ** 06:30 what's interesting is childhood bullies mostly do figure that out. And I'd say probably 90% of childhood bullies don't become adult bullies that, you know, somebody punches them in the nose, or nobody wants to be their friend, or they get in trouble at home or at school, and they learn that that doesn't work, but maybe 10% get away with it. Maybe they're encouraged, you know, maybe their parents laugh when they bully other people, and that's that's the ones that become the adult bullies. But what I find, and the Institute I work with, high conflict Institute, we do a lot of training, a lot of coaching, and we we teach people like for workplace coaching to to try to give bullies some conflict resolution skills so that they won't be bullies, so they can solve problems others other ways, and we find maybe half of the bullies can improve their behavior enough to keep the job, and About half quit or are told they need to leave. So I'd say about half of bullies can learn to stop that behavior or rein it in, and about half can't. That's just a real rough estimate from my personal observation. Michael Hingson ** 07:55 The ones that can't or don't, is it that they get so much satisfaction from bullying and they get away with it that just they just don't see the value of it. Or is it different than that? Well, I Bill Eddy ** 08:08 think it's not as logical as that. I think it has a lot to do with personality patterns, and the ones that are adult bullies usually have personality patterns that border on personality disorders, especially the Cluster B personality disorders, which are narcissistic, anti social, borderline and histrionic. So it's part of who they are. They're not really even thinking about it. This is just how they operate in the world. And so if they're not stopped, they just automatically do this. If they are stopped or told they're going to lose their job, maybe half of them can rein in their behavior, and maybe the other calf can't, even if they want to, they just can't stop themselves. But mostly it's more or less automatic. Is what I see. They really lack self reflection, and therefore, generally don't change. And one of the definitions of personality disorders is an enduring pattern of behavior, so it's not, not likely to change because they had an insight. Because if they were going to have an insight like that, they would have had it before they became adults. Michael Hingson ** 09:29 Yeah, and it, and it just doesn't seem to happen. And it is, it is so unfortunate that we even have to talk about this kind of a subject. But it's also very important that we understand it, because I think those of us who aren't bullied or who aren't bullies, still need to understand it's like anything else, still need to understand it in order to learn how to deal with it. I would think, Bill Eddy ** 09:55 yeah, and I think part of why this. Is coming up now is traditionally in our society. And I know my whole lifetime, adult bullies were pretty much kept on the fringe, and so families said, Hey, you can't do that in our family and communities and schools and and workplaces said that. But what's interesting now is, I'd say, the last 20 years or so, is bullies are getting center stage because all of our media competition, especially the screens we have, are trying to show us the worst behavior so that we'll pay attention to them. So social media, cable 24/7, news, movies, TV shows are all showing bad behavior to grab our attention, but the result of this is that they're teaching bad behavior and tolerating it and giving permission to bullies to act out when they might have kind of restrained themselves in the past. Michael Hingson ** 11:07 How do we get media, television and so on to change that? I've I've kind of felt that way for a while. I actually took a course in college, um, it was called Why police, which is a fascinating course. It was taught by not a deputy sheriff, but he was a volunteer deputy sheriff in Orange County. He was an engineering professor at UC Irvine, where I went to school, and he and he taught this course, and I made the observation once in class, that a lot of the negativity that we see really comes from what we experience on television. And he said, no, that's just not true, but it certainly is true. Well, Bill Eddy ** 11:49 especially nowadays, especially nowadays, yeah, yeah. Maybe that wasn't true 30 years ago, but it seems very much true now. Yeah, and you mentioned a study in the beginning of, I think it's chapter two of the book that about it was a workplace study, and if I can quote it, I think this is helpful for this discussion. He says they said there's a 2021, workplace bullying Institute survey. So in the second year of the pandemic, he says 58% of the respondents on the survey agreed that quotes the display of bullying, disrespect and intolerance of the opinions of others by politicians and public figures affected workplaces because they encouraged aggression and granted permission to ignore the rules. And I think it's very direct that the media does impact family life, workplace community and online, for sure. Michael Hingson ** 13:00 Yeah, yeah, I, I would agree. And, you know, today, and we're not going to talk about specific individuals, but at the same time today, I dare say, there are a number of people who step back and contemplate this whole concept of bullies and so on, who would agree that in the political world there? Well, there are a number, but there's one especially, who tends to be more of a bully. But I would say that there are a number of people in the political world who just want to force their own way, and tend to bully a lot. Bill Eddy ** 13:34 And I totally agree with you. Even have a chapter on what I call the high emotion media, because it's the emotions, the disrespect, the insulting statements, the personal attacks, you know, I don't like the way you look, or I think you're crazy or you're an idiot, and that kind of message, and If you have that going back and forth between politicians. It's very exciting to watch, but it's not the way you want to live, like you wouldn't want to be in a relationship like that, no, and so. So the media image promotes that because it gets attention. It really grabs attention. And I would I would suggest that it's been over the last 30 years approximately, that politics has become more about entertainment than about government. And the values of entertainment are extreme behavior and disrespect and fighting and chaos and crisis and fear, whereas government is when it's running well is boring, is focused on details, focused on people getting along, having their share of responsibility, all of that kind of stuff. So we've turned the. Values of politics upside down, and we think now that's the way. That's what politics is. And it's unfortunate, because government will unravel if we use the entertainment values to govern the country. Of course, Michael Hingson ** 15:16 there are a number of people, especially in the media, who would say, but all of this sells, newspapers, all of this sells, and that's why we do it. I I submit that that's not necessarily so. But how do you show people that? Yeah, this sells, but don't you think there are other kinds of things that would sell even more Bill Eddy ** 15:42 well, it's tricky, but one of my goals in writing the book is to teach people self help skills, to monitor their absorption of high emotion media and to be able to set limits on it. Like I don't like to get more than half an hour of news from a screen. I like reading the papers and reading different points of view. And if you watch more than half an hour and you get this coming in your ears and your eyes and all of that, it just takes over your thinking. And actually, the more repetition there is, the more things feel true that are clearly not true, but the way our brains work, repetition tells us what's really true and what's really important. And TV, even radio, can bombard us with false information that starts to feel true because we get so much of it. Michael Hingson ** 16:40 Yeah, it's it is someone, yes, I hear you, and it's so unfortunate that more people don't tend to be analytical, reflecting introspective. You know, we talked earlier about the book that I'm writing, live like a guide dog, that will be published in August of this year. And one of the things that I point out in the book, for people who want to start to learn to control fear, rather than letting it, as I say, blind you or overwhelm you, or whatever word you want to use, is you need to become more introspective and look at well, why am I afraid of this? Why am I reacting to this? How do I deal with it? And it doesn't take a lot of time every day to do it, but if you do it for a little bit of time every day, the Mind Muscle develops, and you get beyond a lot of that. Bill Eddy ** 17:34 I think that's a very important point, as we can train ourselves to what to pay attention to, what to ignore, and we can train our self talk like you're saying. That's excellent, Michael Hingson ** 17:46 yeah, and I think it's it's all about analyzing ourselves. And something that I learned, and I've talked about it a few times on this podcast, one of the things that I did when I was a program director at the campus radio station at UC Irvine, Zot, K, U, C, I was that I would ask people to listen to their shows. So when I was the program director, we would actually record people talking, and I insisted that they take the cassettes home. Remember cassettes? Boy, is that a long time ago, Bill Eddy ** 18:19 two, wow, back aways, yeah, even Michael Hingson ** 18:23 pre eight track, but take the cassettes home. Listen to them, because it's something that I did and and as I grew older and became a public speaker, after September 11, I recorded my talk so that I could listen to them. And I said, I do that because I'm my own worst critic. I'm going to be more hard on me than anyone will. And it took until even after the pandemic started, that I finally learned wrong way to look at it. I'm not my own worst critic. I'm my own best teacher. By analyzing and thinking about it and recognizing that I'm my own best teacher, because no one can really teach me anything. They can present me with the information, but I have to teach myself to learn it. So I realize that, and I'm my own best teacher, and I think that works out really well, and it's a lot more positive anyway, Bill Eddy ** 19:18 right? Great. And that's that's that promotes lifelong learning. I just reading an article about how a lot of people, you know, after a certain amount of time, they feel okay. I got my career, I've done my skills, and now I'm going to kick back. But Lifetime Learning is where it's at. I think it's exciting. It Michael Hingson ** 19:39 is. I consider life an adventure. I consider the internet a treasure trove of information. And yeah, there's a dark web and and all that. And now, of course, we have AI, and some people want to be negative about that, but if we use it right, and if we develop our own inner structure and. And recognize the value and how to use it. It is, and all of those are characteristics and features that can do nothing but help us. Bill Eddy ** 20:10 Yeah, they're tools. I like the idea of tools, not rules, so we'll see what we can do with them. But as long as humans are in charge, I think we may be okay. Well, Michael Hingson ** 20:25 I hope so. Um, Mark Twain once said, I wonder if God had been a man because he was disappointed in the monkeys. But who knows. Bill Eddy ** 20:35 He wasn't. He was a brilliant guy. He was Michael Hingson ** 20:39 one of my two favorite people, Mark Twain and Will Rogers, boy. They were very clever. And analysts, you had it figured out. They did, if only we would listen. Well, why did you write the book? Bill Eddy ** 20:53 Well, I wrote it. I started writing it. The end of 2020, when the pandemic was going strong, and a lot of people, and we were all kind of holed up at home. I had more time to think, because I couldn't travel and teach and do the work I do. But I also, you know, on TV, there was, you know, the the arguments in bullying, frankly, about masks, about vaccines, about the George Floyd murder, about protests against the George Floyd murder, that that it seemed like the country was kind of in a 5050, state of bullying each other, but it wasn't. The number of bullies is actually quite small, but they're getting a high profile, and I wanted to explain that bullies at all levels have the same patterns of behavior, and few people have eye into the workings of families like I've had as a family therapist, as a family mediator and as a Family Lawyer, and few people have had, you know, awareness of workplace bullying like I have training human resources and employee assistance personnel. Likewise, neighbor disputes, because I'd be consulting on a lot of neighbor disputes, and certainly online disputes. So bullying seemed to be happening in all these different places, but most people didn't realize the extent of it, because people kept it private. And I was like, Well, I can see it's the same patterns. And then, you know, Putin invades Ukraine, and I'm going, this guy is like a domestic violence perpetrator. He has the same lack of self awareness and the same blaming personality and so I included on up to politicians and international relations to show I can tell you what the patterns are to look for. So look out for bullies. Don't let them into your life. Spot them and stop them. And I wanted, I wanted the book to really open people's eyes, so to speak to what's going on in the world today that they really haven't been aware of by and large, Michael Hingson ** 23:13 right? What makes us, especially as adults, susceptible to being bullied? Bill Eddy ** 23:23 Well, we're not prepared for them, and that's a lot of what I hope to do with the book is help people be prepared so they don't overreact or under react. But I'd say most people are just kind of shocked. Suddenly there's a bully in the office and they're yelling at somebody, and it's like, oh my goodness, I'm, I'm I'm freezing because, you know, I don't know what to do. They're yelling at somebody else, thank goodness, but I'm scared too, or they're yelling at me, and I freeze because I don't know what to do. So I think what happens is people are just really unprepared. On the other hand, most people are nice people. Let's say 80% of people are nice people. They don't like to interrupt people, even when they're masking saying nasty comments. They don't like to just walk away from a conversation, even if the conversation is really hurtful and abusive, and so people aren't used to being assertive against a bully, because they're used to everybody being reasonable, and so that's why they catch us by surprise and And we're not ready for them. Michael Hingson ** 24:39 I subscribe to a service out here called next door, which is also in San Diego, and it's a way to really keep up with what's going on in the community. And I've seen a number of posts where something happened and people suddenly say. I'm surprised that never happens in this area, and that just isn't true anymore, Bill Eddy ** 25:08 right, anywhere, anywhere, Michael Hingson ** 25:13 and it's so unfortunate that we don't learn to look out for all of this. I think, yeah, go Bill Eddy ** 25:23 ahead. I just gonna say, I think that's that's what has to change, is we do have to be aware, not paranoid about it around every corner, but aware that this is going to come your way. I like to say, I think everyone's going to have a bully in their life sooner rather than later, but if you're prepared and you manage it well, they're not going to get very deep into your life and will probably move on. So I do think that's coming. Sorry. I interrupted. No, Michael Hingson ** 25:54 no, no, no, no, you did No, you were right. Tell me what are some of the warning signs that you're dealing with a bully? Bill Eddy ** 26:00 Well, first of all that the person goes beyond the normal social boundaries and keep going like they don't stop themselves. So an unrestrained pattern of behavior. When you start thinking to yourself, Well, I'm sure he'll come to his senses soon, or I'm sure she'll realize how destructive she's being. The problem is the answer that is not necessarily, probably not. Another way that's really quite simple is when a bully starts, when a person starts criticizing your intelligence, your morals, your sanity, your appearance, your existence. When they make it personal is a real sign they've crossed the line, and now you're dealing with a bully. Because bullies make it personal. They want a one down relationship. They want you to they want to dominate you. And so that's one of the easiest ways to recognize, is the way they talk to you, talking down to you like that. And they may say that you're you're being obnoxious and you have a problem. And they might even say, Stop bullying me. Stop bullying me, Bill, and I'm not bullying them. I'm saying they need to stop what they're doing with me, and they'll say, You're the bully. So playing the victim is another way projecting what they're doing onto the other person, like, stop bullying me. Bill, I'm not bullying you. I'm setting limits on your bullying of me. Well, I would never bully you, Bill. And then they keep projecting what they're doing onto me, and they may point to other people around us and say, See how Bill's treating me, you know, and they play the victim. And next thing you know, the whole people around think that I'm being a bad guy, and they get away with it that way because they're really good at projection and good at playing the victim. So these are some of the patterns. How do Michael Hingson ** 28:10 you deal with that, though? Well, you Bill Eddy ** 28:14 first of all need to be taken assertive approach, so don't become aggressive and start yelling at them. No, you really are bullying me. You're a real jerk. Instead, you say that's not true. And if other people are around, you say, just, everybody know it's not true. I'm trying to set limits on his behavior towards me, because he's really harassing me. And so explain what's happening. Be assertive, so you stick up for yourself, but don't be aggressive, because now it looks like you are being the bully. And some some people asked me on one of the interviews I had, the guy said, at what point do you punch the bully in the nose? And I said, Well, you're going to have that thought, but don't act on it, because when you do that, now you look like the bully. So you don't want to be aggressive, but you don't want to be passive and let them just pick on you and run you into the ground. You want to say, Hey, that's not okay, or I'm going to end this conversation. So you assert yourself to protect yourself without trying to harm the other person, and that's what assertive is. So I really recommend the assertive approach. Michael Hingson ** 29:33 And again, it gets back to you have to learn to understand and assess yourself and develop the tools that will allow you to do that Bill Eddy ** 29:46 exactly and and strengthen yourself where you're not experienced or not skilled, and learn the skills to protect yourself. I think it's you know, all of us. Most of us grew up maintaining ourselves, not being too extreme, and yet sticking up for ourselves and being self managed. But bullies aren't self managed, so we're going to have to manage them for them. And so that's the new age we're in. The new world we're in is we need skills to manage bullies, and we can develop those, and that's part of what I talk about at the end of the book. The last chapter is a lot of skills that people can learn to manage bullies and protect themselves. Michael Hingson ** 30:38 Well, how did you you've talked about a little bit, but I'd love to to learn a little bit more about how did you really end up deciding that this was a calling that you had to deal with and that you've devoted so much time to? I think it really Bill Eddy ** 30:54 got started as a as a workplace endeavor when I went from being a therapist to being a lawyer, so I wanted to do mediation and conflict resolution, and went to law school, and when I started practicing law after 12 years as a therapist, including in psychiatric hospitals, I started seeing the same behavior in family court. You know there be mom and dad are fighting over custody of their child, and the judge is listening to their arguments and looking frustrated. And I'm going, Well, the problem here is one of the parents probably has a personality disorder, and so they're not really being that sensitive to the child and and the other parent seems to be pretty reasonable, but you don't know, sometimes people that look reasonable might be like anti social under the surface. And so I started noticing and paying attention to these behavior patterns and how they showed up as high conflict families, and that's the term that the courts were using high conflict families. So I started saying, You shouldn't talk about high conflict families. Should talk about high conflict personalities, because not everybody in the family necessarily has that. Maybe it's Mom, maybe it's dad, like, say, a domestic violence case, dad might have a borderline personality or an anti social personality, and that's driving his violent behavior, and yet he's conning the court by saying, look at her, she's a mess, and everything I'm doing is just fine. I'm the reasonable person here, but they're not behind the scenes, and so there'd be these patterns of behavior, and I said, courts got to figure this stuff out, otherwise you're punishing the victim of a domestic violence perpetrator unfairly and unhelpfully, and you're teaching the child that this behavior is acceptable. So I had all this information that I knew from having been, you know, a therapist, a licensed clinical social worker, and I found myself applying it to family court cases, and wanting to educate other lawyers, judges, mediators and therapists about these dynamics in family court. And that's when I started writing about high conflict personalities and eventually talking more about bullies who are the most high conflict personalities. So that's kind of how that evolved. That was 1993 is when I became I started practicing family law after 12 years as a therapist. And so that's when this stuff really opened my eyes, to wait a minute, people don't realize what they're dealing with, and they're not going to solve this with a child support order. They're going to have to, you know, get somebody some treatment or understand that there's these personalities driving behavior, rather than legal issues Michael Hingson ** 34:20 you have developed, I think, or have begun creating, something called the new ways for families. Method, Yes, uh huh. Tell me about that. I read that in your bio, and that sounded pretty fascinating, yeah, Bill Eddy ** 34:35 and I'm pretty proud of it. So we started high conflict Institute in 2008 myself and a colleague, Megan Hunter, and we wanted to educate family law professionals, but we also wanted to help parents in high conflict, divorces and custody disputes. And so I developed a counseling method. A specific to divorcing parents with disputes over their children. And I, I was speaking at a conference of judges, and they said, What kind of counseling order should we make for these high conflict families to get them out of court and settling down, and they said, Well, you can't do the traditional counseling where you say talk about your feelings, because people with high conflict personalities will talk about their feelings forever without changing anything. So you want them to learn new ways of doing things. And so we decided we're going to call the method new ways for families and six counseling sessions focused on learning four big skills, flexible thinking, managed emotions, moderate behavior and checking yourself rather than being busy checking everybody else. And so we we got that the judges to start ordering that, and we said, order both parents to learn these skills so you don't picking a bad guy. It's going to help both parents, whoever's you know, maybe it's a domestic violence case, they get domestic violence treatment, but also learn these skills so they can work together. Cases where a child resists being with the other parent because of one parent bad mathing the other parent interfering, what they call alienation, or parental alienation. So all of these could be benefited by this counseling approach. Short term, six individual sessions, three parent child sessions for each parent, and we started seeing cases stay out of court that used to keep coming back. We saw people calming down. The judges really liked that. We created an online class to teach those same skills in 12 sessions. Then we developed coaching, three coaching sessions with the online class to make to give a chance to practice, but keep the cost down, because just three sessions, and so that's that's been evolving since 2009 so for the last 15 years, and we estimate about eight or 9000 parents have gone through learning these skills, some better than others, but enough that the judges think they're worthwhile, and they keep ordering this. But this is it depends on where there's trained counselors or coaches to get the more intensive approach. But the online class is available anywhere worldwide, so judges sometimes just order that from, you know, maybe they're in Utah or something. And there's no counselors that we've trained there yet. They can always order the online class. And I think they actually are, because I spoke in Utah a month ago about this. So that's that's the method, and I feel pretty proud of it. Well, Michael Hingson ** 38:18 it it's understandable, and I can appreciate why you're why you're excited about doing it, and that it's that it's clearly working. What are some really good examples of how successful the whole method and the whole process has been? You have some good stories about it. Bill Eddy ** 38:40 Yeah. So one of my favorite examples, it's a case where a 15 year old girl refused to see her father after the divorce, and it seemed like a case where mom had been saying enough negative things, the girl absorbed that and then said, I don't want to see dad, and mom tolerated that, but of course, dad didn't. So took mom to court and told the judge, Mom's doing something to make the girl not come. So rather than deciding that mom's all bad, the judge said, well, then I want to order new ways for families, and that's six individual counseling sessions and three parent child sessions, so judge orders that and each of the parents goes through six counseling sessions with a workbook, so it focuses them on learning particular skills, to manage their emotions, To keep their thinking flexible, to moderate their behavior, like we teach them how to write emails so that they're reasonable instead of escalating conflict. And so they both went through that individual then it's time for the parent child sessions, and since Mom was the favorite parent. Parent, we had the parent child counselor meet with mom and the child first, and Mom taught the girl about flexible thinking, managed emotions, moderate behavior and checking yourself, and then prepared the girl with the counselor for the next week when she's going to meet with dad and so who she hasn't seen for a year and says she hates him, but there's no real, clear reason for that, and that's why it might be alienation. It might be the bad mouthing that got absorbed by the girl. So the next week, mom brings the girl to the counseling center, and girl agrees to go in and meets dad and the counselor and sits down, and the girl tells dad that he's a horrible person. He's ruined her life. He's done everything wrong and just this whole list of awfuls. And because he's been through the counseling method, he listens quietly and attentively, and then he says, Thank you. And she says, What do you mean? Thank you. I just said, you're a terrible person. And he says, I said, Thank you. Because I'm glad that we're talking. I think this is good. This is good for us to be talking. Is there more that you want to tell me, and I guess there was some more. And then basically they reconciled and agreed that they would have dinner together once a week. Now it wasn't a 5050, parenting plan like he would have preferred, but, and I don't know where it went from there, but he did have regular dinners with her, and they communicated. So it reconnected their relationship, and so it gave a structure for that to happen in, and that's what new ways for families does not every case where someone a child resists a parent has worked with new ways for families that, you know, one parent has found a way to sabotage it and block it, but by and large, we've had, had some, some good success with moderate cases like that. Michael Hingson ** 42:16 Yeah, well, one of the questions that comes to mind, as you've talked about, excuse me, high conflict personalities. Is that something that can actually be fixed? Can people get over having to always be in conflict like that? It Bill Eddy ** 42:36 really depends, I think, a lot, on which of the personalities. So I think I mentioned Cluster B personality disorders, borderline, narcissistic, anti social, histrionic. So borderline personality disorder, people are hearing more about that, where they have wide mood swings, sudden, intense anger, fear of abandonment, all of that. And this used to be thought of as primarily women, but it's now seen as probably about half and half. And men who are physically abusive often have this personality style, and they strike out because they're afraid they're losing their partner, which of course, makes their partner want to leave a little bit more, but that's one of the more treatable personalities. And there's a method called DBT dialectical behavior therapy, which is having some good success at treating people with borderline personality disorder. So there's that at the other extreme is anti social personality disorder, which is the hardest one to treat, and I don't know of a consistently successful method that treats and that's like maybe 40% of prisoners have that personality, they get out of prison and they commit another crime, been back back in prison, they have a pattern of behavior, which is what a personality disorder is, is it's a stuck pattern of behavior, just enduring and repeating and all of that. So I would say people with that personality is extremely unlikely they're going to change. But people with borderline, there is hope for and many people outgrow the diagnosis after going through DBT. So that's the most hopeful and the least hopeful range. Narcissists and histrionics are somewhere in the middle of that? Yeah, Michael Hingson ** 44:44 well, something that comes to mind, I kind of think I know the answer, but it's still a question worth asking. Colleges and universities are made up of lots of people who are studying supposed to be pretty intelligent and so on, but we have bullies there. Why? You. Bill Eddy ** 44:59 I think because we have them everywhere. So if, say 10% five to 10% of people are bullies, I think you're going to see them in colleges. Has nothing to do with intelligence. They may be brilliant bullies and very not smart bullies. So the whole range of severity exists. I think that college and other organizations like so, higher education, health care, churches, synagogues, mosques, that these are welcoming communities. These are helping communities. And so bullies get away with more in these kinds of communities because everybody's trying to be nice and bending over backwards to give them another chance. And so not to say they shouldn't get another chance, but they shouldn't get another chance and another chance and another chance and another chance. That's the thing I preach against. You give somebody a chance. If it the same problem comes up twice, what is it? Fool me once. Shame on you. Fool me twice. Shame on me. I got to do something if it's happening again, because that means it's a pattern, and especially if there was consequences for the first time and they still did it again, that's a sign this may be behavior that's going to be resistant to change Michael Hingson ** 46:37 well, and that makes perfect sense. It's kind of where I thought you'd probably go with it, but it does make perfect sense. And there, as you've said, there are bullies everywhere. And the reality is we're, we're going to find that there are just some people who are going to be bullies. Bill Eddy ** 46:58 I think that's the answer that it's kind of sad to come to that conclusion, but it's also enlightening, because then, you know, you can't just change them. This pattern is so stuck, so persistent, they have to have a different approach. You can't talk them out of it. Yeah, Michael Hingson ** 47:20 and there's something to be said for love, but at the same time, you need to learn to control you and your situations. And Bill Eddy ** 47:31 yeah, it's kind of the tough love concept. Michael Hingson ** 47:37 What do you do if your supervisor is a bully? We talked a little bit about bullies in the office and so on. But what if it's your boss who is the bully? Bill Eddy ** 47:46 I think that you know, to some extent, if you can be assertive and say, you know, boss, you just gave me three assignments that are all due on Friday, and realistically, I can only get one of them done. Which one is the priority that you kind of assert yourself without trying to dominate your boss or alienate your boss. So you say something like, you know, can you give me some guidance here with these three projects, I can only get one done. Maybe someone else could help with another. So speaking up, presenting options, and say, you know that's one possibility. Another is you could give me overtime, and I'm willing to stay late if there's overtime. What? Whatever you may be able to speak up to some extent. But what we get a lot of our consultations are people that it's way beyond that the boss is just really out to get them, maybe trying to push them out of the team. And so we talk about who else you can go to, and it may be HR, it may be another department head. One of the things I say is make sure you start talking to somebody, maybe a friend, family member, so you're not just stewing in the fact that you're being bullied because people's self esteem just really goes down if they don't feel safe to talk to anybody. You talk to somebody and they say, oh, yeah, that happened to me once. That's terrible. You know, you shouldn't have to go through that. Let's talk about what you can do well that helps people feel a whole lot better, that there isn't something about them that makes them be the target of a bully. A lot of people think, you know, what did I do to cause this? And you didn't do anything. Bullies pick on everybody, but they keep picking on the people that let them, Michael Hingson ** 49:52 and that's the real key, isn't it? It's all about you let them do it. You don't find ways to deal with. The issue, and the result is they're going to continue to do it, because they can Bill Eddy ** 50:04 Right exactly. And people get depressed. They get stomach aches, headaches, they can't sleep, they avoid coming into work, they get disciplined, they get in trouble themselves. And that's a lot of why I wrote the book to help people know, you know, no one deserves to be bullied. This is wrong. This shouldn't be happening to you. Now look at what your choices are, what your options are. Michael Hingson ** 50:32 We have an ever increasing number of startup companies in in the world, and more entrepreneurs or starting their own companies and so on. And so why is it that a lot of startups have a high powered innovator, or someone at the top like that, who is a bully? Bill Eddy ** 50:54 It seems to be that the personality of entrepreneurs that go getter startup includes a lot of the ingredients of personalities, of bullies. So first of all, believing that your ideas are superior, that no matter what other people think you should keep going, that you're smarter than all of them. Don't stop because the first two people said this was a dumb idea, and so they kind of have some insulation against that, that they're willing to persist, you know, I know this is a good idea, but they can also be aggressive. So they're out there approaching, you know, venture capitalists and and people to endorse them, people to do what they say, people to give them a lot of money so they have. They're skilled at presenting their ideas aggressively and probably an exaggerated belief in themselves. But that seems to work in the startup business, people are persuaded by charm and intelligence and go, Oh, this guy just seems really brilliant. Well, that's because he told you he's brilliant. He's actually a bully. And there are stories like that, like what we saw, and I talk about it in my book with Theranos, the blood draw sis and it really wasn't what it was made out to be. It was a brilliant idea, but they couldn't implement it, but they pretended that they could, and so they got lots of money, lots of respect, write ups in the big magazines. Elizabeth Holmes was seen as the next Steve Jobs. She lowered her voice. She was a con artist. She may have believed in her product, but she was willing to bend so many rules that she ended up going to prison. But entrepreneurs have that drive and that persuasion and persistence and aggressiveness, and that works with getting a startup going, but it often doesn't work with maintaining a company and an organization. And I spoke to investors for startups, mostly healthcare startups and and they said, we've got a lot of bullies here. What? What do we do? We gave them some tools and tips for how to manage, you know, soothe their ego by setting limits on them and and to spot them sooner and decide, can should we invest with this person, or are they over the top? So it's a it's a particular field where having having an almost bully personality is successful, but having a bully personality eventually blows up. So Michael Hingson ** 53:57 since you mentioned him, just out of curiosity was Steve Jobs a bully. Bill Eddy ** 54:01 I think he was, and I think he was successful because of his management team, because they did, in fact, learn how to set limits on him and rein in his worst behaviors. Because, like, There's one story, and I think I have it in the book, where he was going to fire a division of 200 people because the project wasn't coming along fast enough. And so he's like, I'm going to fire them. They're useless, they're idiots, they're terrible. And someone on the management team says, Hey, Steve, let's go for a walk. Let's go for a walk, because he liked to go for walks and talks. So they go for a walk, and an hour later, they come back, and he's not going to fire anybody. He's just going to give them some more specific instructions. And so he. His worst behaviors were restrained by his management team. And I think that's that's a work but at any given time, things were on the verge of blowing up. And he did get fired as the head of Apple right 1990s but they helped him enough, he was reigned in enough that he was successful in the 2000s hugely, six. I mean, I don't know if they're the biggest value company right now, but I think when he died, they were probably the most valuable company. So, yeah, this can happen. But the key is that he was restrained by his management team, and unrestrained bully is going to cause Michael Hingson ** 55:49 damage. I wonder though, if, as he matured, if he did, I'm assuming that he did actually, if some of the bullying tendencies really did go away, and then he changed a little bit at least, of of how he functioned. I mean, clearly he was a strong personality, right? And clearly he was the innovator of so many products. And so I can see where personality might get in the way, because he wants it done now. He wants it done this way. But I wonder if over time, he became a little bit less of of a bully, and maybe it was just the management restraint, or maybe that was a part of it, but it's I think you're right. Probably was a little bit better as time went on. I think you're Bill Eddy ** 56:38 right, because when he came back to Apple after he was fired and tried some other projects, I think that he learned to focus more and to be a little less disrespectful. And I remember I read his biography, I think of Walter Isaacson, and my conclusion was that he was definitely narcissistic, but I don't think he had a narcissistic personality disorder, which is an enduring pattern of self defeating behavior. I think he had traits and that he learned to manage those traits primarily because his management team, people around him taught him he needs to restrain those so he's an example of where you can have someone with a bullying personality and rein them in and have them be quite successful. So I think that's what happened there, Michael Hingson ** 57:39 and he would see that, in fact, it worked to change how you're operating a little bit. And maybe it was, maybe it was always underneath. But at the same time, he learned that, hey, working the way I've been isn't really as effective as what I'm seeing happen when I operate this way. Yeah, Bill Eddy ** 58:01 what's interesting about him is he was particularly collaborative. So he liked working with other people. He liked he liked people with pushback, people that would disagree, present another point of view. So they could, they could go back and forth, although if other people had a really brilliant idea, he started thinking it was his idea. Yeah, but he he really had had an ability to work with other people that a lot of bullies don't have. And I think that may be why you're quite right, that he did mature some he did restrain himself a little more and became able to be brilliant. Imagine how many other brilliant people might really contribute if they had that balance of a really good management team to rein them in, but some of our most narcissistic individuals don't pay attention and often ruin, ruin their own creations. I think of like Enron, as our company that was brilliant, but probably had two people with personality disorders on top, one anti social and one narcissistic, and they reinforced each other's bad traits. And I think that's why that went off the rails. Yeah, Michael Hingson ** 59:29 well, and the, the other thing that comes to mind is, then you have another very successful person, Bill Gates, yeah, and I don't, I don't know. Do you think that he was a bully? Bill Eddy ** 59:43 I think that he certainly engaged in bullying behavior when he was the head of Microsoft. And I remember hearing about, I don't know if it was a recording or a transcript in a book, but he was at a meeting, and he was just very distant. Painful to the thinking of other people in the meeting, like, like, almost ready to, like, drive them out of the room. And you know, what are you doing here? You're an idiot and stuff like that. And I must say, I read Paul Allen's book, which was idea, man, I think, is what it was called, and and he, he had enough examples in there that I think Bill Gates was also a bully. But I think that again, there was enough of a management team to keep him from destroying what he was building. And I must say, one of his most brilliant decisions was marrying Melinda French, and she turned him into a philanthropist. And he's donated, you know, billions of dollars, but he's also created things to help poor people. He's He's fought malaria, I think, and trying to get toilets where you don't have electricity, but you can have self managed toilets. And he's in, he's put energy into these projects. So I would say, somehow the edge, the bullying edge, was taken off, so he actually could work with other people and and have some empathy for them. So again, he might be someone who didn't have a personality disorder, but may have had some traits, but somehow the balance worked out, and the more people realize that you may have brilliant people around you, if you can rein them in enough, we may have a better society because of some of these difficult people. Michael Hingson ** 1:01:53 Well, clearly, Bill Gates had a very strong personality and and that's fine, but I do agree, I don't think that he really was a bully as such, in the way that we view it, for a lot of people as we've been discussing it, it doesn't mean that he didn't ever have any bullying kinds of behavior, but overall, he was successful, and is successful. And as you said, marrying Melinda has certainly made a significant difference in his outlook, and he's doing such great work, and you can't argue with that. Bill Eddy ** 1:02:28 Yeah, and the fact that he's now divorced from Belinda, and I think that might have been more her idea than his, he still seems to be continuing on with his uh, philanthropy and doing works to help health health care, especially for people in really poor countries. So I think, and she changed his personality maybe a teeny little bit, and Michael Hingson ** 1:02:54 climate change and climate Bill Eddy ** 1:02:56 change for sure. Yeah, he's a big picture guy. He's one of our most deepest thinkers in the big picture, and we need people like that. So my goal isn't to eliminate bullies, it's to restrain them enough so they don't harm other people, but ideally, contribute to society Michael Hingson ** 1:03:19 and they can. And it's a process. Well, this has been fun. I want to thank you for being here and talking about all this is, How do other people deal with it when they see somebody being bullied? Bill Eddy ** 1:03:34 Well, bystanders need to speak up more and be assertive as well, and that's part of the cover of my book. Is a bully fish chasing a little fish who's about to grab and eat but gets distracted by a whole school of little fish chasing behind him who look bigger than him. And that's the bystanders. And bystanders need to speak up and say, hey, that's enough, Joe, or hey, that's enough, Jane. Or cut it out. Leave her alone. That when people do that, bullies often stop because they think they're getting away with something, or they're not even thinking they're just automatically bullying somebody. And when that happens, they realize, uh oh, my public may not be happy with me, and I don't want to alienate my public so you can have an influence as a bystander, and are encouraged to be assertive and not intimidated. And the more bystanders support each other, that much easier it is to stop bullies. Michael Hingson ** 1:04:43 Good advice and so cool. Well, again, I want to thank you for being here. This has been great. I hope all of you listening out there have found a lot of good tools that you can take away and use. Lot of good life lessons here by any standard you. I really so I really appreciate you taking the time to be with Bill and me today on unstoppable mindset. Love to get your thoughts, so please feel free to email me. 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This has been a lot of fun, and we appreciate your time today. Well, Bill Eddy ** 1:06:21 thanks so much, Michael. I've really enjoyed it too. We got into some stuff deeper than I have in some of my other interviews. So we really covered the covered the gamut. And I think, I think people will find that this is a topic that becomes more and more relevant every year. So thanks for getting the word out there Michael Hingson ** 1:06:41 well, and I hope that people will buy your book and and all that too. Yeah, we have to get the book sales out there, right. Bill Eddy ** 1:06:49 That's right. Thank you for that. Michael Hingson ** 1:06:57 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. I hope that you'll join us again next week, and in future weeks for upcoming episodes. To subscribe to our podcast and to learn about upcoming episodes, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com slash podcast. Michael Hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n. 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Chris and Steven put on their jet-packs and blast into issues one thru 10 of the wondrous sci-fi idea-bomb that is Scott McCloud's ZOT! (Eclipse Comics, 1984), a slam-bang collision between the widescreen imaginations of Osamu Tezuka and Jack Kirby. Prepare yourself for iconic heroes and villains, heady philosophy, and rich humanism… Much like ZOT! itself, this episode's got it all and it ought to, folks — it's almost six freakin' hours!COMICS ROT YOUR BRAIN! is a deep dive into ‘80s comics (plus a few notable exceptions). In this weekly YouTube show, screenwriters Steven Bagatourian (AMERICAN GUN) and Chris Derrick (STAR TREK: PICARD) discuss their favorite books, runs, and creators from the Bronze Age.Support Our Patreon - www.patreon.com/comicsrotyourbrain Drop us a line! + Check out our YouTube channel to get a look at some of the fantastic art featured in our episodes. Visit ComicsRotYourBrain.com to sign up for our newsletter, Letter Column. You can also find us wherever you stream your favorite podcasts.+ We appreciate your support of the show via Patreon: ComicsRotYourBrain+ For even more cool shit, read Chris's Substack (cinema, comics, and culture) - THIN ICE©2024 Comics Rot Your Brain!#dccomics #vertigocomics #alanmoore #comicbooks #new #content #80scomics #explained #indiecomics #scificomics #marvelcomics #horrorstories #spaceopera #scifi
Sign up for our newsletter, where we drop weekly knowledge bombs to help you make sense of defense! Speaking of knowledge bombs, Mike hosts Ed Cobleigh to talk about Paveway: the laser-guided bomb. Ed flew 375 combat missions during the Vietnam War in the F-4 Phantom and was one of the first people to drop the Paveway laser-guided bomb in combat. He earned two Distinguished Flying Crosses and went on to attend Fighter Weapons School, where he remained in order to stand up the guided weapons division and teach Paveway LGB employment. Ed's had a wild life beyond the Air Force and is now an author with 5 books (and counting). This episode covers not just the tech and tactics but also a first-person account of dropping LGBs in combat 56 years ago! ---- Links • newsletter! • Support us on Patreon! • Mike Benitez (LinkedIn) • Ed's website • Ed's books on Amazon ---- Follow us on... • LinkedIn • Instagram • X • Facebook • Website ---- Show Notes 00:34 intro 01:58 How Ed got to Vietnam 02:31 background of guided bombs 03:35 Paveway history 07:19 Project White Lightning 09:03 the first laser designator 10:19 Dropping the LGBs 12:15 results from the first tests 14:00 training for the first LGB drop 15:04 Zot nickname 17:49 Ed's 2nd tour 20:17 Navy gets Paveway 22:21 teaching LGBs at Nellis 23:45 Red Flag 25:16 Targeting Pods 26:57 Linebacker 1972 27:56 Dragons Jaw Bridge 29:51 Paveway's legacy 30:46 F-117 and Paveway 32:37 Paveway III 34:29 Paveway lawsuit 35:26 Ed's books 37:45 outro For those interested in #military #nationaldefense #warfare #nationalsecurity #defense #nationaldefense #tech #technology #defensetech #army #navy #airforce #innovation #F4 #vietnam #aviation #airplanes #aerospace
Sermon on the Mountain Dew. Personal Trash Can Pizza. Between Two Farts. Brian I. Bot. WinAmplification with Tom. Kneel before ZOT. Podfarting. Covervilles accidental autotune. I don't like cutting Cheeeeeeeeeese. I donât have any units with this person. Halloweenie Peenee Poopoo. Jesus take the pizza wheel. Furry Lifestyle Podcast. My other gopher Beryl. Halfommentals with Brian and Randy and more on this episode of The Morning Stream. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sermon on the Mountain Dew. Personal Trash Can Pizza. Between Two Farts. Brian I. Bot. WinAmplification with Tom. Kneel before ZOT. Podfarting. Covervilles accidental autotune. I don't like cutting Cheeeeeeeeeese. I donât have any units with this person. Halloweenie Peenee Poopoo. Jesus take the pizza wheel. Furry Lifestyle Podcast. My other gopher Beryl. Halfommentals with Brian and Randy and more on this episode of The Morning Stream. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Op zaterdag 31 augustus 2024 organiseert de Oranjevereniging Oude-Tonge de allereerste editie van ZOT (Zomerfeest Oude-Tonge), een dag vol activiteiten in het teken van het goede doel ALS. Het belooft een dag te worden die jong en oud zal vermaken, met als doel zoveel mogelijk geld op te halen voor de strijd tegen deze ziekte. Presentator Danny Rijkels sprak met Mirabella Los van de Oranjevereniging Oude-Tonge de eerste editie van ZOT.
On the Shabbat preceding Rosh Hodesh Nissan, we read the section in the Torah (Shemot 12) which tells of Beneh Yisrael's preparations for the night of Yesiat Misrayim (the Exodus from Egypt). This section begins with G-d commanding Moshe and Aharon, “Ha'hodesh Ha'zeh Lachem Rosh Hodashim” – “This month is for you the first of the months” (Shemot 12:2). We are to regard Nissan, the month in which Yesiat Misrayim took place, as the first of the twelve months. Rav Baruch of Medzhybizh (grandson of the Ba'al Shem Tob, Ukraine, 1753-1811) noted the fact that in this verse, the month of Nissan is referred to as “Ha'hodesh Ha'zeh” (“this month”). Later in this Parasha (13:5), the Torah commands, “Ve'abadeta Et Ha'aboda Ha'zot Ba'hodesh Ha'zeh” – literally, “You shall perform this service in this month.” The simple meaning of this verse is that Beneh Yisrael were to perform the same sacrifice which they performed on the night of the Exodus – the Korban Pesach – each year on Pesach. However, Rav Baruch offers a deeper interpretation of this verse, explaining that it speaks of two months – the month of “Zot” and the month of “Zeh.” The word “Zeh,” as mentioned, alludes to the month of Nissan. The word “Zot,” meanwhile, alludes to the month of Tishri, the month of repentance and atonement. The Torah in the Book of Vayikra (16:3) says about the special Yom Kippur service in the Bet Ha'mikdash, “Be'zot Yabo Aharon El Ha'kodesh” (“With this shall Aharon enter the Sanctuary”) – and thus the word “Zot” is associated with the service performed by the Kohen Gadol on Yom Kippur. Hence, Rav Baruch explains, the command “Ve'abadeta Et Ha'aboda Ha'zot Ba'hodesh Ha'zeh” means that we are to observe the service of “Zot” – the process of repentance that characterizes the month of Tishri – during “Ha'hodesh Ha'zeh,” in the month of Nissan. This month, like the month of Tishri, is to be a month of repentance, when we work to improve ourselves and draw closer to Hashem. Of course, these two months are very different from one another. Tishri is a time of solemn, fearful introspection, whereas Nissan is a time of festive celebration. In Tishri, we are to perform Teshuba Mi'yir'a – repentance driven by the fear of judgment, whereas in Nissan, we are to perform Teshuba Me'ahaba – repentance driven by love for Hashem, recognizing His abundant grace and kindness which He showers upon us. Developing this point further, Hashem freed our ancestors from Egyptian bondage without their having deserved redemption. Tradition teaches that Beneh Yisrael were submerged in the pagan culture in Egypt, and had fallen to the “forty-ninth level of impurity.” And yet, despite their low spiritual level, G-d mercifully performed miracles to redeem them. Nissan is a time of Hashem's unlimited love and compassion, and we are thus to joyfully repent, recognizing His boundless mercy and affection. The Arizal (Rav Yishak Luria, Safed, 1534-1572) taught that the Name of Havaya, which expresses G-d's attribute of compassion and kindness, can be configured in twelve different ways. This Name is comprised of four letters – “Yod,” “Heh,” “Vav” and “Heh” – and these four letters can be arranged in twelve different sequences. Each of these twelve arrangements, the Arizal established, corresponds to a different month. Tishri, the month of judgment, is associated with the reverse spelling of this Name (“Heh,” “Vav,” “Heh,” “Yod”). During this month, G-d's quality of strict judgment – the opposite of His attribute of compassion – prevails, and thus this month is signified by the reversal of the Name of Havaya. Nissan, by contrast, corresponds to the straight spelling of this Name (“Yod,” “Heh,” “Vav,” “Heh”). This is the month when Hashem's compassion and love are most clearly manifest, and so it is associated with the straightforward spelling of “Havaya.” Let us all ensure to take full advantage of the special Teshuba opportunity presented by this month, and commit ourselves during the coming weeks to work toward enhancing our relationship with Hashem, correcting our faults, and striving to be the best people we are capable of being.
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Discover the real Stan Lee (not the public PR persona) and his story in Tom Scioli's amazing I Am Stan biographical graphic novel. Plus: Simple comic book character design versus convoluted and complicated design. Working for the big comics companies versus being an independent creator. The one time Tom got a taste of the editorial dark side of comics. The indefinable magic of the monthly comic. A comic with a lot of issues doesn't necessarily make money. The changing fiscal and distribution of the comics industry over time always keeps it the best of times and worst of times. Should the New Gods and the Eternals have been kept separate from the main continuity of their respective publishers? Shane doesn't buy DC's reason for Crisis on Infinite Earths (but loves the series). What is Shane's dream project for Tom? (hint: it's The Land of the Lost). Make sure to track down Tom's newest superhero comic Witchman. Shane Plays Geek Talk Episode #271 - 11/20/2023 Like what you hear? Support Shane Plays Geek Talk on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shaneplays Listen to the Shane Plays Geek Talk podcast on YouTube, SoundCloud, iTunes, Google Play Music, Amazon Music, Podbean and Stitcher (and other fine, fine podcast directories). Hey, you! Yeah, you! Buy cool stuff, support Shane Plays Geek Talk with these affiliate links! Humble Bundle https://www.humblebundle.com?partner=shaneplays DriveThruRPG.com https://www.drivethrurpg.com/browse.php?affiliate_id=488512 SHOW NOTES I Am Stan Graphic Novel https://www.amazon.com/Am-Stan-Graphic-Biography-Legendary/dp/1984862022 A Comic Book Creator's Journey: From 8-Opus to WITCHMAN with Tom Scioli https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yrG9B6Gy5g Tom Scioli's Patreon https://www.patreon.com/user?u=44878299 WITCHMAN: A New Superhero Comic Book https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/tomscioli/witchman-a-new-superhero-comic-book Zot! Online: "Hearts and Minds" https://www.scottmccloud.com/1-webcomics/zot/index.html Dungeons and Desktops: The History of Computer Role-Playing Games 2nd Edition Shane's book! Co-authored with Matt Barton of Matt Chat https://www.amazon.com/Dungeons-Desktops-History-Computer-Role-Playing/dp/1138574643/
The Buds begin Endwalker! They explore Labyrinthos, Thavnair, and conquer the Tower of Zot! Along the way, they learn about floral mood rings, mad science, and the properties of dragon scales! Tune in to learn what Alex thinks of his first chapter of Endwalker, and to hear Jerome make some remarks that could technically be referred to as jokes. Check us out on our socials and join the discord! https://linkpop.com/stormbudsProduced by Alex Hambrock and Jerome BarbatsisSound and Editing by Jerome Barbatsis
Carnaval is een volksfeest dat al eeuwenlang bestaat. Het betekent ‘vaarwel vlees' en verwijst naar de vasten en het verbod om dan vlees te eten. Lachen met de machthebbers is altijd een cruciaal onderdeel geweest van carnaval. In Vlaanderen zijn Aalst en Halle de steden waar carnaval op een fanatieke manier gevierd wordt. Denk maar aan de iconische figuur van de Voil Janet in Aalst. Sonny Vanderheyden, woont in Halle en schreef het boek ‘Zot van Carnaval'
Try Whakoom free for iOS: https://apps.apple.com/app/id1203325014 or for Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.whakoom.app New T-shirts & more are now available! http://tee.pub/lic/BAMG Zot digital comic - https://www.scottmccloud.com/1-webcomics/zot/zot-01/zot-01.html John & Richard dive into the Viewer Mailbag for more foreign variant discussion, the difference between comic book bags, and a defense of Don Heck! The Hot Book of the Week features Captain Canuck, er, Weapon Alpha, and the Old Fart Rule showcases the long-running G.I. Combat. Plus, our Underrated Books of the Week include a Dolphin homage (?) cover and the legendary Zot! Bronze and Modern Gods is the channel dedicated to the Bronze, Copper and Modern Ages of comics and comic book collecting! Follow us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/BronzeAndModernGods Follow us on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bronzeandmoderngods #comics #comicbooks #comiccollecting --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bronzeandmoderngods/support
In this episode, Spidey Super Stories swings into a different gear as we examine yet another version of everyone's favorite wall-crawler with a look at Ultimate Spider-Man: Learning Curve, with a special emphasis on issue 13, Confessions, by Brian Michael Bendis and Mark Bagley, published by Marvel Comics! We discuss the ways in which the Ultimate Universe Peter Parker and his supporting characters differ from their Marvel Universe counterparts, the sharp contrast between this title and Spider-Man comics from the 1960s through the 90s, and a conversation with Mary Jane more monumental than supervillain slugfest—especially when Aunt May barges in! Can this Peter Parker make it through his first meeting with this universe's Kingpin? And more importantly, will he survive the scrutiny of ... Your Friendly Neighborhood Comics Canon? In This Episode: · Wait! What happens to Carson Daly??! · The Archie Comics era of Spider-Man · Zot! #35: The Conversation · Spider-Gwen Vol. 1: Most Wanted · Ultimate Spider-Man Vol. 3: Double Trouble · Fantastic Four (2022) Vol. 1: Whatever Happened to the Fantastic Four? Join us in two weeks as we temporarily pause Spidey Super Stories for a look back at the origins of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles! Until then:Impress your friends with our Comics Canon merchandise! Rate us on Apple Podcasts! Send us an email! Hit us up on Twitter or Facebook! And as always, thanks for listening!
"Staat je niet", "Kan je niet", "Zou je dat wel doen?", "Heb ik wel aandacht genoeg gegeven?", "Wat gaan ze denken?"... en bla en bla en bla. De hele dag door! Zot word je er toch van? Jij niet? Iederéén heeft ‘m! Dat stemmetje. En dat is -voor een stukje toch- normaal. En misschien maar goed ook, want eigenlijk is het je geweten. En soms hebben we dat écht wel nodig. Maaaaaar, het wordt een beetje ongezond als die innerlijke criticus je volledige doen en laten gaat bepalen. Je kan de stem soms zelfs herkennen. Misschien is het je strenge vader of je het-is-nooit-goed-genoeg- moeder. Wie hoor jij? Awel, en wij hebben er dus ook soms last van. Maar we proberen, proberen, proberen… En "van proberen ga je leren, he". (Dochterlief haar favoriete quote uit de kleuterklas). Dus gaan in basecamp ‘Ren jezelf niet voorbij' de rode vlaggen omhoog en de sirenes aan want wij willen onze innerlijke criticus delen met jou, beste luisteraar. Wij stellen voor in sneak preview: Rita en Josiane. Onze alter ego's. Wat Rita en Josiane zoal uitspoken kom je te weten in deze episode: Waar komen ze vandaan en wat drijft hen? We gaan terug naar ons oerbrein, voor de verandering. Uiteindelijk draait alles om liefde en verbinding… Zeemzoet!? We willen gewoon graag gezien worden. Meer nog: we willen GEZIEN worden. Moeten we ze temmen? Of kunnen we ermee leven? En hoe dan? Wat zeg je? Coherentie? Ha ja, dat je verhaal in je hoofd moet kloppen, of zoiets... Jessica legt uit! En wat als Rita of Josiane dan toch gelijk krijgen en iets écht niet lukt. Is je leven dan om zeep? Prisca verwijst naar Dirk De Wachter (ja, ze is fan maar dat had je al door zeker?) en die heeft het meer over de ‘innerlijke reflector'. Shut up, Josiane: reflector is wel meer een vriendin dan jij al bent geweest, criticus! (Nieuwe naam bedenken, dus?) Je krijgt weer wat leuke tips en tricks mee om bewust te worden van JOUW criticus en er misschien een reflector van te maken, of zelfs coach! Statler en Waldorf? Die passeren ook de revue. Oh ja, en we bedanken onze sponsor ‘De kastrol'
REED RICHARDS MUST DIE! Harsh, right? Or at least rude. Then again, Reed did save Galactus, who has a nasty habit of eating planets. So we have ourselves a legal conundrum as a council of aliens decide if Mr. Fantastic should be executed. The Watcher gets involved, which he's never supposed to do, yet always does. This is also "Assistant Editor's Month" in which Marvel allegedly lets its junior editors run the show. For the FF, that means that John Byrne himself is in the issue, to bear witness as the official FF chronicaler. In the mailbag, we get some thoughts on Zot! and more suggestions of names for our segments! __ SHOW INFORMATION Twitter: @ScrewItComics Instagram: @ScrewItComics Email: ScrewItComics@gmail.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts Subscribe: Spotify
AFL14 en deze keer kiest regisseur CECILIA VERHEYDEN (Ferry, Achter De Wolken,..) drie films uit mijn kast: Blue Valentine (Derek Cianfrance, 2010) Lost In Translation (Sofia Coppola, 2003) Moulin Rouge! (Baz Luhrman, 2001) Komen ook ter sprake: Ferry, Dogville, Climbing Spielberg, Desperatly Seeking Susan, Zot van A, ea..
The Milksops 3 finish their coverage of Zot! with a humdinger of an issue: "Normal." Originally released as Zot #33, this tells the story of Jenny's best friend Terry coming to terms with her sexuality as a gay teenager in a very homophobic high school. Although it's aged very well, it still helps to remember this issue came out in 1990. As the rest of comicdom was about to embark on a bombastic era of variant covers, millions of X-books and the birth of hyper-active Image Comics, Scott McCloud was putting the finishing touches on a serene, deeply human, beautifully rendered superhero book. There's dark stuff in here, sure, and also lots of compassionate moments as Terry struggles with who to trust, and how much. We also go over the ending arc of issues in Zot that are known as the "Earth Stories" where the superheroics are at a minimum. Although we find the very end of the series a bit of a letdown, there's no doubt that the Milksops are stunned and amazed at the quality of these issues. Email the podcast: screwitcomics@gmail.com __ SHOW INFORMATION Twitter: @ScrewItComics Instagram: @ScrewItComics Email: ScrewItComics@gmail.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts Subscribe: Spotify
The Milksops Three continue their coverage of Zot!, the late 1980s indie comic that featured a Golden Age style optimistic hero wrestling with the emotional challenges of "our" Earth. In this episode we cover "The Ghost in the Machine" which is Zot's three-issue battle against one of his main villains, 9-Jack-9. Jack is a legitimiately terrifying villain, an assassin who can travel via electrical wires, has no emotion, and is incredibly smart. By the way, he killed Zot's parents. But in typical Zot fashion, these stories differ from most superhero stuff in that they focus on the emotional angle way more than, say, punching. There's loss of family members, the struggle to not give up hope, the forgiveness of our enemies, all shown around the scary visage of the genteman Killer, 9-Jack-9. Email us at screwitcomics@gmail.com __ SHOW INFORMATION Twitter: @ScrewItComics Instagram: @ScrewItComics Email: ScrewItComics@gmail.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts Subscribe: Spotify
The Milksops Three (Will, Kevin and Brian) discuss the "black and white" era of Zot! comics. We discuss how much this comic levels up in terms of quality, ambition and emotion, in both art and story. We see Zot trying to convince Jenny that her Earth is worth living in, as she tries to convince him to visit more and more. We meet Jenny's friends, and even see a few tender moments of older brother/sometimes monkey Butch. Email us at screwitcomics@gmail.com. __ SHOW INFORMATION Twitter: @ScrewItComics Instagram: @ScrewItComics Email: ScrewItComics@gmail.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts Subscribe: Spotify
A special mini-episode to honor the special mini issues of Zot that came out, which were drawn by stick figure genius Matt Feazell. The Milksops were all big fans of these. They inspired a young Kevin Hines to make mini-comics of his own! Email us at screwitcomics@gmail.com. __ SHOW INFORMATION Twitter: @ScrewItComics Instagram: @ScrewItComics Email: ScrewItComics@gmail.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts Subscribe: Spotify
Kevin and Will welcome Milksop #3 - Brian Hines, the legendary third Hines brother to the podcast. We talk about a comic that has meant a lot to each of us: Zot! Created by Scott McCloud (Understanding Comics), Zot ran from the mid-80s through the very early 90s, and represented a sensitive, human and nuanced look at a superhero arc. The stories brought influences of manga to an American book in a way that hadn't been done in any prominent fashion. Plus the sweet, compassionate world of Zot stood out in contrast to the brutal grimness featured in many other 80s comics. Email us at screwitcomics@gmail.com. __ SHOW INFORMATION Twitter: @ScrewItComics Instagram: @ScrewItComics Email: ScrewItComics@gmail.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts Subscribe: Spotify
第 12 回配信 前編 テーマ: uiがどうしても参加したくてできなかった待望の音楽回で語り倒しますの巻 ホスト: ui 聴き手: 堀内隼人。HOSHI。 BGM: The Bals / 雨の森 (OFFICIAL MUSIC VIDEO) Link: https://youtu.be/0qboIrDYJP0 ドキュンサーガ Link: https://hasama.hippy.jp/dqn/ 実は御蔵入りになった幻の第12回。“赤い公園” について熱く語っていたのに... 楽しみにされていた方は申し訳ありません。 THEE MICHELLE GUN ELEPHANT / 1999赤坂BLITZ Link: https://youtu.be/nJ4JlswhA-4 FACTORYライブ Link: https://youtu.be/BFpqlfY6qeI 赤い公園 / 消えない Link: https://youtu.be/boG1NpRoi44 赤い公園 / Highway Cabriolet Link: https://youtu.be/xtXSBOVJEfU 3人音楽の趣向。音楽を聴くときに何を大事にしているのか... FUJI ROCK FESTIVAL 2022 Link: https://www.fujirockfestival.com ui の FUJI ROCK への思い The HU - Covid-19 Relief Effort Fundraising Concert Link: https://youtu.be/ik5qhnqIZy8 DOPING PANDA / Hi-Fi Link: https://youtu.be/grqKIOi6vOQ OAU / Making Time (FUJI ROCK 19) Link: https://youtu.be/m3h9jrYRZX4 clammbon / サラウンド https://youtu.be/LUPp2sGPtdI Awich / 口に出して (Prod. ZOT on the WAVE) Link: https://youtu.be/WWrIDzz9jEU / 紙飛行機 (Prod. Chaki Zulu) Link: https://youtu.be/W9vpmNzGX0I Hiatus Kaiyote / Nakkamara https://youtu.be/Ozr4KsZBTvQ / Get Sun (FUJI ROCK 22) Link: https://youtu.be/7orYOFf1kE8 Jonas Blue / LIVE@Tomorrowland 2019 Link: https://youtu.be/nmp14DTDN78 / LIVE@AMF2019 Link: https://youtu.be/BgyRpphxGXg ヴァンパイア・ウィークエンドが語るフジロック出演の真意、細野晴臣とダニエル・ハイムのこと Link: https://rollingstonejapan.com/articles/detail/37902/1/1/1 Vampire Weekend / A Punk (Glastonbury 2019) Link: https://youtu.be/K2x1C7jxqKs BONOBO / Kerala (Glastonbury 2022) Link: https://youtu.be/28Uxx24t-qM / Otomo (FUJI ROCK 22) Link: https://youtu.be/aRuLsE98FJY Day 1の最後の清春@Pyramid Gardenが最高でした。 uiの所属するThe BalsのLIVEの御知らせになります。 11/5 (土) 昼公演@下北沢Flowers Loft Link: https://www.loft-prj.co.jp/flowersloft/#access ※出演時間は未定です。決まり次第アナウンスします。 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/podcastr2/message
Who's last in line? You are? So I'm after you. Today, Guy explains the different uses of אחרון, meaning last or lately, including the saying, last but not least. Hear the All-Hebrew Episode on Patreon New Words and Expressions: Slicha, mi acharon? – Who's last in line? – סליחה, מי אחרון Slicha, ata acharon? – Are you the last? (M.) – סליחה, אתה אחרון Slicha, at achrona?' – Are you the last? (F.) – סליחה, את אחרונה Az ani acharecha/acharayich – So I am after you – אז אני אחריך/אחרייך Ba-zman ha-acharon – Lately – בזמן האחרון La-achrona – Lately – בזמן האחרון “La-achrona at mezayefet” – Lately you've been faking it – לאחרונה את מזייפת “Ve-yadati she-ha-paam bli safek” – And I knew that that time, without a doubt – וידעתי שהפעם בלי ספק “Zot ha-paam ha-achrona” – It was the last time – זאת הפעם האחרונה Zot hayta ha-paam ha-achrona – It was the last time – זאת הייתה הפעם האחרונה Zot ha-paam ha-achrona – This is the last time – זאת הפעם האחרונה Pa'am achrona! – This is the last time you do that, or else! – פעם אחרונה Paam achrona she-at lo no'elet et ha-delet – This is the last time you don't lock the door – פעם אחרונה שאת לא נועלת את הדלת “Matai ba-paam ha-achrona, asita mashehu bishvil mishehu?” – When was the last time you did something for someone else? – מתי בפעם האחרונה, עשית משהו בשביל מישהו Matai haita ha-paam ha-achrona she… – When was the last time that… – מתי הייתה הפעם האחרונה ש Tagid li kama milim achronot – Tell me a few last words – תגיד לי כמה מילים אחרונות Ha-gam ata Brutus? – Et Tu Brute? – הגם אתה ברוטוס Yedioth Ahronot – “Latest news” – ידיעות אחרונות Ha-seu'da ha-achrona – The Last Supper – הסעודה האחרונה Acharon acharon haviv – Last but not least (M.) – אחרון אחרון חביב Achrona achrona haviva – Last but not least (F.) – אחרונה אחרונה חביבה Ve-acharon acharon haviv… Tomer – And last but not least, Tomer – ואחרון אחרון חביב, תומר Ve-achrona achrona haviva, Mika – And last but not least, Mika – ואחרונה אחרונה חביבה, מיקה Playlist and Clips: Idan Amedi – Ba-zman Ha-acharon (lyrics) Eden Hason – Bo'i Nishan Al Ze Rona Keinan – Ha-pa'am ha-achrona (lyrics) Danny Bassan – Kichlot ha-kol ve-hatmuna (lyrics) Zehava – Milim Achronot (lyrics) Jane Bordeaux – Ha-pa'am ha-achrona (lyrics) Episode number 164, ‘The Ruthless Israeli Line: How to hold your own'; Hebrew version. Episode no. 323 about laughing; Hebrew version Episode no. 188 about le'acher, to be late
Brutalité policière alléguée : « Zot ine craze mo cheville… c'est après plus kienn semaine ki zot ine amen moi l'hôpital », déplore Gérard Noël Catapermal... Ce père de famille, un habitant de Flacq, avait porté plainte auprès de l'Independent Police Complaints Commission contre la police en septembre 2019. C'est aujourd'hui qu'il a été appelé à fournir des détails. Ce père de 4 enfantsallègue avoir été brutalisé par des policiers qui, selon lui, voulaient le piéger en installant de la drogue chez lui.
Dana Wanzer on saving time with Zotero on episode 420 of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast. Quotes from the episode Most of us do not need to be doing more at this time. -Dana Wanzer It doesn't have to be something that just helps you, it can also help others. -Dana Wanzer Resources Zotero Zotero Connector Proxy server RStudio ZotFile UC Irvine Anteaters Apparently, Bonni was wrong in the episode and anteaters do indeed make the ZOT sound when attacking their prey scite Zotero plugin Mobile apps Robert Talbert Robert Talbert on Teaching in Higher Ed episodes Learn Zotero course
Angela "Bones" Bullock makes a return to the CQ stage to talk Scott McCloud's ZOT! TRANS RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS www.translifeline.org www.transtexas.org www.equalitytexas.org Angela's Twitter: @bullock_bits Twitter/Instagram: @ComicsQuestShow Theme: @TheDanPurcell Art: Nicki Berger (@DoubleBerger) Website: www.certainpov.com
Zot! We read Defenders #119, and...well, there wasn't much there there, so we talk occupied ourselves by discussing: salad dressings, air Zambonis, crime solving actors, the perils of insect riding, and a bunch of other stuff. Enjoy! Enjoy!If you enjoy the show and would like access to bonus materials, please consider donating at patreon.com/ttwasteland You can get into touch with us at ttwasteland@gmail.com or Titan Up the Defense PO Box 20311 Portland, OR 97294
Session 36: Zap! Zot! Beep! NOTE: There is a strange echo at the start of this session that clears up at around 28 minutes if you need to skip past it. Team Meat continues to explore the underground base of the Lords of Rust, fight some robots, and discuss their future plans. Whitney as Tatia […] The post Iron Gods Session 36 first appeared on RPGMP3.
Ok, cards on the table, this one was recorded WAY after the last episode, but Rick had COVID and there's a lot going on. Either way, we're back with a very special part 2 of our countdown of Rolling Stone Magazine's Top 20 Songs of All Time. We're really gettin' into our stride on this one, with plenty of bird and hair talk, which we know is why you listen. These top 10 songs are undeniably great, but are they the greatest of all time? Only a thorough investigation by the Spin Daddies can tell, on this week's thrilling finale! Bang! Zow! Zot! Thanks to Pale Blue Dot for our theme For You... All music is © its respective artist and label available under CC BY-NC 2.5 Follow us on IG and Twitter @spindocpod Questions? Criticisms? Comments? Email spindoctorspod@gmail.com
Welcome back to Missing The Marks with Nate and Kyle, two best friends talking professional wrestling with a focus on AEW, the hottest wrestling promotion in the United States. In this episode, the marks sit down to discuss Canadians, the Tower of Zot and Pop Punk Princesses.
Series: Be'erot, Love & Relationship with God. Synopsis: Opening to the awareness of need, and the ability to find what is good as a connecting point. Man and woman as ezer knegdo, being one with the possibility of being separate beings. And the possbility of language is born from this. Episode Transcript We've been exploring by seeing some very primary statmenets in the Chumash about the nature of why we're here in the world. We've been exploring what our having been sent here is for and doing that through in the meantime, through the most basic description that G-d gives us and that has something to do with the rain. Rashi exposed us to what it was that G-d was looking for and why he was withholding the rain. And what Rashi told us is that ther is actaully four stages to a process which is what G-d is waiting there for from us, and that is that we have an awareness and an appreciation and a compassionate knowing and an asking for. And we even did a little work around that last time. What that taught us was that man's being sent here has to do with those things. That kind of alignment of purpose is very significant for us in life, tha we know what it is that we're walking through life for. It makes a big difference if (I'm thinking) right, I'm here to be noticing the good, and being conscious in a a compassionate way and turning to my Source as the origin and source for the shifts in reality that I am hoping that will occur. If you walk through your day like that, then it's quite different than if you lose orientation in terms of what it is wyou're here for. You can always go back to that first statement of the creation of man to reorient yourself as to what it is that you're in life for. Not that it's easy, but its' a starting point. We also saw that the point of contact, not sure how much we developed this, but that the point of contact is called something which we call "tov." This is really important. L'hakir b'tov creates communing. To recognize good creates communing, deveikut. Actually the Hebrew word is a lot better than the English one. Deveikut, which is communing. And this is so simply demonstrable, that it's almost worth doing an exercise on it already. If you just think for a moment. Here we are sitting in this class, and it's not always so easy to adjust to being here. You came with what you came with and I have a feeling that some of you have come here with quite a bit this morning, and you're carrying what it is that might stand in the way of actually being present. So here's a very simple thing that you might take along to do. If you have at least an amenable relationship next to you, to turn to them, mamash in three statements, and say three things they need to say in order to be here this morning. Three things I'd like to say in order to be present here this morning…It's really quick. It would be good to spend time writing this, but it's not a day-long workshop. But let me ask you, how many of you feel a little more present by virtue of having said what would help you to feel more present here? Good. I also want to ask you in terms of right now what we're going to learn? How many of you started out by saying something negative, like I have to drop, or get rid of, or remove something from myself before you got to something positive. Just put up your hands. Katie, are you willing to tell us. I have to put the switcher on. To put the switcher on. I oriented myself by saying that there's nothing better that I have to be doing right now than just to be here. I've a million things to do that I've put in my yoman this morning, people to call, answers to questions, and et cetera. Very important for me to say, This is the most important thing for me to be doing right now. Which is something of a removal of something else before I am able to enter in the good that's here. The reason that this is important for me to give over and for you to get a little piece of experience of is because you can come to realize in a simple movement like this is how tov is the connecting point. You see, when you come to tov, you come to It's good to be here, it's a bracha to be here. I know my soul needs this, to be here, or these are teachings that are crucial for my life. To recognize that there is something good locates you in presence. I mean it's, as I said last time, I only say simple things. This is something that everyone knows, but doesn't pay attention to. That it's finding the good in wher I am that makes me connect to the presence of this moment and this place . Finding good in it. Finding good connects. This is actually a kabbalistic teaching which people don't recognize the beauty of. And that is in kabbalistic teaching, the point of connection is called yesod. Everything we have in life has its abstract in the spiritual, divine world. Everything we have, whether it be love, or restraint, or balance, or ability to overcome, or the ability to accede, or the power of connection, each of these is actually a reflection in life of spiritual principles in abstraction. I'm being very concise right now but I'm also being precise. The point is that if you're familiar with the sefirot, then it will be important for you to know that the sefirah which is called yesod—which means foundation point, point of connection—is also called tov. It's just called tov. And in the verse that we saw last week, where G-d says, lo tov heyot adam lvado, it is not good that man be alone, and if you rememebr there we explored that Rashi then says that this is not good because then there are two reshuyot—and people will forever live in a particlized reality. So that lo tov is actually saying that there is no connection. No good means there's no connection in man being alone. This is why, by the way, the word orlah, which covers over, is actually rah-lah. It's the same letters as "bad for her." Because disconnection, blockage, separating walls, of of what orlah are, and those separating walls are actually the letters of orlah as rah lah. So that realization is very important as we continue through the teachings that we're learning, because we're taught that in the end of time, when we come back from all we've suffered in exile, so, in chapter 30 of Devarim, so we're told, in verse five, so G-d tells us that he is going to bring us back to the land which we've inherited, v'hitivcha v'hirbecha me avotecha, He'll be good to you and He'll make you greater than even your ancestors were, and then in verse six: umar lashem elokecha et levavcha, v'et levav zarecha v'ahavta hasehm elokecha b'chol levavcha nefshecha lman chayecha. G-d will circumcize your heart which means in the prophet in Yechezkel: v'hesir et levavchem. He is going to remove the orlah or your heart, which means not seeing the good, so that we live a life disconnected. Umal lashem elokecha lvavcha, I'll remove the orlah of your heart with brit milah, and I will then make it possible to love me with all of your heart, with all of your soul, for the sake of your life. The point is at the end of time, that's the vision. The removal of the orlah has to do with removing the attitude or perspective that this is bad. When you shift into this is good—whatever process you need to shift into this is good—I just gave you a very simple one, a moment ago. When I shift into this is good, then I shift into connection. When I shift into connection, then I shift into the possibility of love. until that happens, so then there's no possibility of love. Like the pasuk says, you're going to have to have mal lashem elokecha lvavcha, going to have to circumcize your heart so that you can love Him with all of your heart and all of your soul. It will be possible to have partial love, partial giving myself over to, without this milat halev that G-d is going to do. But the ultimate of it, is going to come by virtue of His having removed that orlah. So, there's a most amazing thing in the way the Chumash describes how we live. And that is, that everything in how we interact with other, in terms of what its purpose sis and how it works, is paralel to the way in which we interact with G-d. So much so, that you begin to suspect that the possibility of experiencing G-d in a true fashion depends upon the nature of how you're interacting with other people. Now the love that you experience between you and G-d, whether it be G-d's love for you or Your love for Him, is going to be modeled by and in miniature through the nature of our relationships with each other. So take a look, for instance, at the way that the Torah describes the next few verses around man's needing to be created. In chapter two of Bereshit. G-d has made man, He has declared that it's not good for man to be alone, going to make ezer knegdo, something we'll come back to look at. And here comes a most bizarre story. So in verse eighteen again. So G-d said, it's not good that man be alone, I'll make an ezer knegdo, and so, next thing you'd expect would be for G-d to create out of the ground or out of man or from some place—his wife. That would make the most sense. And yet in chapter nineteen it says, So G-d created out of the ground all of the beasts of the earth, all of the birds of the heavens, and He brought them to man, to see what they would name them. And everything He named them, that became its name. And then man called names to all the animals, all the birds, and all the beasts, but he could not find for himself an ezer knegdo. Now, was someone expecting it to be different? Was it going to be a camel? A horse? Come on! What is the Chumash doing here? What is G-d doing? We know the end of the story What's going to happen is man is going to need a woman, someone who is like him in some way. What advantage, what gain is there going to be here by parading all the animals in front of him, before He gives him his wife? Doesn't make any sense. And why is it that language becomes so significant here before man is able to find him ezer knegdo? What is happening here? If you look very simply at the story, is a precise parallel to the very first way that G-d met man, that we talked about last time. You see, for man now to be standing alone and having the animals paraded in front of him, is going to arouse something in him. As long as he is standing alone in the world. As long as he is his own separate entity of person, so then there is no arousal of need. As long as man is standing alone, and there is no exposure to the possibility of a mate, so then there is no arousal of need. It's very simple. Were it to have been that G-d made man together with woman, or that G-d would make man without woman, either way, without the parading of animals, and then he would make woman and put her right down in front of him, there w ould be no desire, because there would be no experience of the need for the shift out of the experience of heyot adam lvado (19:53). So actually, the parading of animals in front of man does one simple thing. It makes him aware of something which is outside of him in a relational fashion. And look how interesting it is. Man is living in a world with a great deal of vegetation. We've had a description of Gan Eden. Why doesn't man call names to the trees? All we have is man calling names to the animals. Isn't that curious? After all, it could have been that he would have looked around and called trees trees, and called grass grass, and called riverse rivers, I mean there's a lot of stuff going on in Gan Eden, there's a lot to talk about. Might not have who to talk to, but he's got what to talk about. Amazing! He doesn't talk about any of it. He doesn't give any names, doesn't relate to it. The only thing he relates to are the animals that are being paraded in front of him after the declaration has been made Lo tov liyhot adam lvado. Are there female animals Actually there are some shocking things that the Rabbis say about what actually went on. One of them, which is actually one of the less shocking ones, was, they mated, he saw that they were in pairs, but the point is not sexual arousal, although that's obviously a relevant factor, but the point is that the world is pairs. You don't see that in trees. You don't see that in flowers, unless you are one of those people who study flowers. You don't see it in grass. But you do see it in animals. So G-d parades in front of him those who are overtly paired. And then he gets the idea. And what happens, most astoundingly, is that language is born. Because language is born in the awareness of other, in a way in which the possibility of relating to him is present. I know will leave the enclosed solopsistic world of self-enclosure in which I have no speech, that which is in a sense, either non-connecting or just connecting with all in a way in which there is no need for language. It could go either way. You could just batel in complete self-abnegation and connected to all, or you can be completely autistic and connected to nothing. Not meaning people who have autism—I'm not sure that's a correct application of the term given what we now know more and more about what's going on with autistics, but the simple meaning of the word, to be enclosed, and disconnected. Either way, there is no space for language. Right? Anyone who's had a deep meditative experience knows that there's a touching of an experience which is pure consciousness in which there is no language, and there is an experience of no language when—I just got nothing to say to you. In either direction, the formation of a particular connecting pattern or possibility is called dibur, or kriyat shem, calling a name. So there's a quite amazing parallel here. Man is becoming aware of the outside of him, that there are other possibilties or selfhood, or at least of life that can be connected to. I think it's important for women to know this. That the Raabis say that there were ten portions of talk that came down to the world. I suppose they came down to the world at the moment that man started talking. Well, one of them men got, and nine, the women got. And it's true, women are a lot more talkative than men, they just are. I'm not saying they all are, but it's a feminine principle. You just have to be careful. This is what the Rabbis teach. That something about woman, who is the repository of relationship. So most speech went there, even speech was originated so to speak, by man. In any case, we're dealing with a creature who's both masculine and feminine together, so, I'm not sure who was the originator here—which side of man spoke. Some opinions have hiom as being androgynous. But the point is that lanaguage is born in the outward turning possibility of an other with whom I will live. And to whom I will connect. So now what has occurred is that man has become available to the possibility of relationship by himself being aroused to the need for it and therefore becoming vulnerable—will I have it, won't I have it? None of these are right for him, and by becoming desirous of it. Without that, it doesn't work. Sexual drive is simply a –beside all of the good things about it and that comes with it, but one of the really powerful aspects of it, is that it forces people who are to become a couple, to overcome all of the restraints, fears, and disconnection that, were it not there, they would prefer to just deal with, rather than have to go into relationship. It's a very scary thing to go into relationship. There's a drive here which pushes people over the brink. So to speak when push comes to shove. What we want to do with that is a fascinating subject, but it doesn't necessarily have to be here. The point is that this is actually a teaching about this story which the Ramban tells us, when he attempts to explain what G-d had in mind when he brought all of these animals in front of him. And so he says the following, that why did He do it? Why did He bring all of these animals? So he says the following: Ramban on verse twenty: Nachon b'einai, it seems to me, ki lo yaachefetz lefanav yitbarach lakachat tzalo mimeno, G-d didn't want to take the side of this man from him, ad she yeidah ha adam, she ein ba nivrah im ezer lo. Until he would know that there is no other creature that is ezer for him. V' she yitaveh she y'hyeh lo ezer cmotah. That he should have desire, that he should have a help-mate like here. Lifnei zeh, tzarich lakachat mimeno [achak] mitzarotav. That's why He takes from him one of his sides. And this is the meaning of His passing the animals in front of him, that man should become aware of his need. This is very important because we see it exactly parallel as the way G-d related to us. The first thing He does is He speaks words to us that put Him into a situation so to speak of His needing us to respond to his call. Any man or any woman who does not experience that shift into a realization of I'm not whole without that other, will never really be able to experience a loving and connecting relationship. Somehow there needs to be a vaccum, a chalal, an empty space created that will be filled by an other. Now we will see this as a complex connection here. But right now the simple point is crucial, in the way man is created and in the way G-d parades in front of him the animals. So, it's not until it's happened that he's become aware of that drive and need, that G-d will then be able to do what He does to take his other half—according to one of the interpretations, and stand her in front of him so that she will become the one with whom he will have the following experience and this is described in verse twenty-three, when man says, Zot hapa'am—this is the time. This is the one. Meaning, there have been other tries, in some sense, there were other considerations, other possibilities. Etzem m'atzami, basar mbasari, this is my very selfhood, my very flesh. Vzot yikarei isha ki me ish lukacha zot. So this will be called woman because she has been taken from man. Al ken yazo ish et aviv v'imo so that's why a person leaves his father and mother. V'davak b'ishto and has deveikut with his wife. [??] basar echad. Then they become one flesh. So that transition begins even with man's first statement of Zot hapa'am, this is the time, indicating that there have been other possibilities which have not been ones that he is an appropriate match for, an appropriate meeting for. And only that, the Chumash tells us, only because of that will a person leave his father and mother. In other words, he has to have an experience of something outside there, outside the realm of the family, and things that he's used to and comfortable with. For him to step out and to enter the possibility of him to be davel b'ishto [??] basar echad. And yet, the Rabbis tell us a rather curious thing. They tell us that in the beginning, G-d actually considered making man as two separate creatures, that there would be woman and there would be man. That was the original plan. That He would make man, and that there would be woman alongside him. Not as one body but as two separate entities. And then He decided that He would make them first as one. So what happens in that process, in that initial consideration that there first would be two, and then G-d's decision that there would b one. It's rather odd, it's like why is He first considering that? That they should be two, and then they should be one? And then creates them as one. Somehow there has to be that there would be a plan, a thought, that creates a certain reality. Of two separate entities, and then the means to get to that has to be that they will first made as one. Get this. In our teachings, the first thought is the purpose. Like, when we say, when we talk about Shabbat, first in thought, last in deed. So first in thought, the first thought is that there would be two. Only then G-d does sort of a menas to getting to that point, which is that there would be a creation of one. But the creation of one is the means of getting to the point of there being two. Kind of funny, you'd think it would be the opposite, that first He thinks of them as one, but then He creates them as two. But instead, He thinks of them as two, and then He creates them as one. So, you're saying that the whole chapter one of Bereshit is, let's make man in our image and G-d created them in His image, male and female He created them, but that's all just in thought? That's what the Rabbi's say. That's actually how it's taught. Male and femal, that's in his mind. But then in actuality, he created them as one body. You're right, it would be good to give you perhaps more text on this, what the Rabbis say, and show you these verses. But initially, what He's thinking is that they'll be two, and then He creates them as one. This is very important. It's not a difficult point, it's just one to be aware of. And you can see an experience of union which can only be had by virtue of you having once been one. The point is that two separate entities experience union, so the point is that two separate entities experience being outside one another knegdo, one against the other, one opposite the other, two separate free-standing individuals. That's the point, that there be two separate, free-standing individuals. That's the first thought who have the power of coming to experience oneness and union. So physically, they first need to be created as one. In order that, what will happen in this world that will be when they become separated, then they will be able to stand freely in desire of each other, experiencing the need of completion by virtue of their being in relationship. It's not complicated, but it's crucial to realize that G-d is setting up an ezer knegdo reality in which—and now I'm going to expose a bit of which that term means—in which there will be an ezer, a support, one who is able to be at one with, and knegdo, one who is able to stand opposite from and in opposition to. Neged means in opposition to. In other words, in order for there to be the possibility for relationship, there needs to be the ability and possibility of union, of at-oneness, of support, and knegdo, standing opposite of and saying no. And those both need to be experienced at once. In other words, there needs to be a sense of me being at union with this other, that my wholeness is a result of our coming together, but I can only experience that if that other is able to stand in opposition to me and across from me, saying No. That's a blunt way to say it. In an existing and separated selfhood. Right-relationship will only be able to exist if both of those realities are present. Both the realities of ezer, and the reality of knegdo. It's unfortunate translations that miss how the Hebrew is actually describing what appear to be two opposite movements of ezer and of knegdo. Some people say "help-meet" and there are in the mefarshim, Rashi actually has something which, the Maharal says is the konic, it's a little bit of humor, that yeah, if you're ezer, you're zocheh, if you're not, she's going to be against you. But the Maharal says that Rashi's not meaning, that the verse is telling you that I'll make him an ezer knegdo. Someone that if he's zocheh, so she should be with him, and if he's not, she'll be aginst him, it's going to be hell. That's the point. The point is, that both of those need to be present in order for the possibility of relationship to be there. So G-d, in His first thought thinks the ultimate intention, which is that there should be fusion and deveikut. Excuse me, two separate entities who can stand on their own, who will be freely choosing and able to come into relationship, but only able to come into relationship because they have the possibility of disconnecting from it. If that possibility is not there, then the relationship is not real. No such thing as Catholic marriage by us. The relationship has to be embedded in the possibility of me walking away, demanding separation. And that is, in spiritual language, what is called the ratzo v'shov, of going out and coming back. Of going out towards the union and the meeting, and the coming back to my separated and individuated selfhood. It's very important that a couple learn that very delicate dance of ratzo v'shov. It's embedded in what the nature of relationship is as ezer knegdo, individuated and separate. The physical experience is of them being created as one. Because that's how this worlds experiences union, so then G-d creates them as one, so that possibility of ezer will be there, of fusion and togetherness and oneness of deep, deep, deep intimacy. But the point is that they be able to stand across from each other in separation and individuation and each have their own separate, individuated self in order to come into that fusion. So in this world they're created as one, but in G-d's mind, they are initially two. In this world they're created as one? Yeah, they're created as one body. Wow. But there's another [stage] of separation. That's right. That's why [?] back, because we know there's separation. (44:05) We know it as separation, meaning that there is another stage of separation here, in this world, where G-d separates them into two. In that case, it's so painful to be—they say that in this world you're created as one body, but if you're not whole, it's so painful. Are we not supposed to feel whole in ourselves as we come together with another? Are we not supposed to have that, maybe it's just the western idea I have that you're totally balanced in yourself and you come together with someone who's balanced within him or herself and then that's where a healthy relationship comes from. I wouldn't belittle that. The ability to stand knegdo in differentiation and individuation is crucial for a relationship of connection to be lived rightly. But these are subtle and compound experiences. It's not like, I don't need her, I don't need him. And we'll learn about that more when we learn about a midah that's called histapkut. But for now, I just want to point out that this is embedded already in the verse that will become a root description for us of the nature of how a loving relationship comes about. It has to be able to be lived both the ezer and the knegdo. And only then can there be the possibility of davak b'ishto l'basar echad be present. Now that, as we said, is built on, well, now we have two principals. One principal is the willingness to open to vulnerability, the awareness of my need, and the other is my ability to find what is good as a connecting point. So that I will be able to be here in this situation or with this person. What does it mean when we say Vdavak bishto vheilo l'basar echad? So here also I want to give you a reading from the Ramban, where he says the following. There are two interpretations of what the Vdavak bishto vheilo l'basar echad, is. He leaves his parents, he walks out on a situation of being comfortable. Then he clings to his wife, or communes with his wife, and then they become one flesh. So what is the meaning of their becoming one flesh? So Rashi says that they become basar echad, Havlad basar al yadei shneihem. Vsham naaseh bsaram echad. The child that's born of the two of them. Ah, that's when their flesh becomes one, because now they have been formed into one person, the tow of them in that child, simple enough. The problem with it, of course, is that it does not teach anything unique about man. Man isn't the only creation that becomes one flesh, animals do that too! So, I guess what you're telling me, is that all animals also will become one flesh, by virtue of their coupling? So then, what is unique about man here? Well, what is unique about man, the Ramban teaches, is vdavak b'ishto, that he clings to his wife. And she also to him, that they commune together. And in that communing they become one. And so then Ramban says, I don't understand the Rashi. What do you mean that they become one by virtue of the child. Because animals do that too. No, but rather, with animals, there is no deveikut. You know, the male and the female come together, they have the function of reproduction, then they go off their separate ways. Not all of them. In fact, the yonah, is actually a significant symbol for us. But in general that's the way it is in the animal kingdom. Mipneh zeh amar hakatuv, that's why the verse tells us that here it's different, because she is like his very self. And of his very flesh. And therefore, he communes with her. He clings to her. She becomes to him like his very own flesh. She to him, him to her, becomes her very own flesh, and his language is only from the male perspective, but it can be read either way: v'yakptz bah, v'yotah tamid imo, he's in full desire that she should always be with him, like it was with the first man, so it was placed as the nature of all of his progeny, that all of the males and the females are deveikim, they leave their parents and they see each other as far more their own flesh than any relative they're ever had. So this kind of achievement of an experience of oneness with the other, is something with is unique to human life, where as for all animals, sex is a function of reproduction. For man, the way the Ramban teaches this verse, sex is not a function for the accomplishment of reproduction, but at a certain level, reproduction is itself a drive pushed two separate people to come together, the purpose being, that they should become one flesh. I'll say that again. In the animal kingdom, the sexual drive is embedded so that there should be reproduction, so once that's accomplished, they're done. But in human life, in a sense, sometimes it's even the opposite, the sexual function produces a child and creates a union between the parents that wasn't there before. And that's right. We're in this common creation. We have indeed become one by virtue of this common creation. It's quite extraordinary, it really is, that a joint creative activity, will produce a union between those who do it. I mean, we all know this. Whenever you want to create a great group dynamic. You want to get people together. So give tehm a project to work on together. Then you'll see a group united. Give them a project. The more creative it is, the more it involves a union of minds and body, the more you can get involved in that joint creativity, so the more the group becomes united and one. The creativity becomes the means by which the group comes together, That's when it's called being manipulative so that you can get a so to speak group cohesive. Group cohesiveness. But the truth is, the chumash is actually saying that. They will leave their parents not in order to have children. They leave their parents because they seek their own wholeness. Because they're aware of their being partial. And then in their coming together, it's the most beautiful thing that G-d has made the world this way in joining together, that they not only produce the progeny, but then that progeny serves to bring them into even closer and more powerful union. Both physically and emotionally, and ultimately spiritually, as being jointly devoted, as we'll see in the third level. That's an entirely different reading of the verse. Al ken ya'azov ish et aviv vet imo, He leaves his parents, v'davak b'ishto l'basar echad. He sacrifices a false experience of union which is in his family, or a level of an experience which is he is still missing his other half, and steps out in order to cleave to an other. That only comes about by virtue of this experience of the lack of other possibilities and alternative, which then also creates the experience of a knegdo, because she can say no, she is other than him, and he is in need of her, and he is vulnerable and open and to this. Which allows for—and now I'm going to use a term that we used at the end of our coming into the Land of Israel after the desert, he acquires a lev la'da'at, a knowing heart, one that can appreciate and accept it and not block it out of a need to remain separate and independent and self-sufficient and thereby, like we saw between man and G-d, l'hakir b'chasdei hashem, to recognize His goodness, l'davek bo, and become in communion with him, so also now, his next stage will be to recognize the goodness for this other to connect and then to become a entity of oneness in all the different realms in which we live. I had this realization. I was sitting in Tel Aviv, looking at the way people dress and walk, seeing the way women dress, and what they show and don't show, all the different games that are going on, all the different attempts to attract people, it's like it's—it's almost like there's like an embedded knowing that it's going to be really hard to overcome the walls that stand between us as separate individuals. And that they need to do something that's going to really pull this other person in. And indeed, it's very challenging. And we're going to see as we look deeper, what the nature of this orlah is. What the nature of this block that stands between us and another is. Why it is that we're so reluctant to expose ourselves to one another in a deep sense of intimacy. And have to rely on all kinds of physical drives that pull us together. Which is also embedded in the nature of reality. G-d knows our foibles, so to speak. But the point is, all of that reluctance to become exposed, has to do with, if I can come back to the point of today's class, has to do with first and foremost, with my willingness to accept my vulnerability. That indeed I am not whole with out you. That indeed there is something that my life is lacking if you are not here. Without that availability to that, with all that that implies, there will never be an intimate relationship, because there is a withholding that accompanies the interaction. And, more deeply, the maintenance of that vulnerability has to do with the ability of each member of the couple to stand as a knegdo with the possibility of separating, with the reality of being separate and differentiation, and so to speak, whole on your own. That's ezer knegdo. There's a very subtle interaction between these elements and that's why—and I'll translate the phrase as one thing, but it really means the ability to hold both. And indeed the way G-d created us and the way he made that first experience of man is what we all go through. [1] An awareness that I have to separate out from my family and to become my own. It is an awareness of this aloneness that is something not go, and usually there is a whole parade of animals, so to speak, until you discover the one who's truly meant to be yours. I don't mean to be disparaging. But oftentimes, that's the way it's experienced. But what that does is it develops the possibility of language. The possibility of being able to enunciate the connecting points of communication that will allow for the possibility of deveikut, of connection that comes with years of living together and being together. All of this is parallel as we have begun to see in the way in which we live with G-d. I'm curious how it is dealt with the difference of chapter one and chapter two of creation, in short? Your point about the first story being in thought. I wish I was better prepared to share that with you. But indeed Chazal say that that verse, which is back in chapter one, where man was created, we're talking about chapter one, verse twenty-seven, which says, vayivrah elohim et ha adam b'tzalmo, b'tzelem elohim barah oto. Zachar u'nekevah barah otam, so the verse itself is so to speak confused. At first, in the singular, it says that G-d created him. And then it says that make and female, He created them. So which is it, did He create him, or did he create them? So that's where the Rabbis derive that actually both happened. Namely, that His creation is in practice here, barah oto. But zachar un'kevah, barah otam, is the way it was in His mind. But b'li neder, I'll look at the source of that so that you could see that better . (Editor's note: check if this teaching appears in the sequels to this lesson: Be'erot 03b and Be'erot 03c). The first story and the second story. You are getting it confused with nifrad, lo nifrad, it feels like we don't' know what really comes first. In thought, then in creation, it's like the chicken or the egg, that's why it's so confusing. It's hard to find the beginning of. It's like circle[2] which both are happening, that we're one together and we're separate; we're one together, we're separate. What sense is there in it being two separate acts? We're really living both of those at once. We'll contemplate that more. More teaching from Rav Daniel on our facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/ravdanielk
The Runners pause their Brian K. Vaughan miniseries for a GTR first: a guest has entered the studio! Scott McCloud joins the Runners to survey the past, present, and future of the comics industry and his storied career in it. Topics of conversation include the "much cooler" Zot! ending that wasn't, Scott's Waterloo-esque battle for digital storytelling, and what nerds were getting up to the last time a Dune movie came out. We talk at you - talk back at us! Tweet at us @gottherunspod or email us at gottherunspod@gmail.com
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Today we're at the Tower of Zot! We meat some familiar faces from last season, then try to meat up to strike a deal and fail miserably? Final Mage Hand show: September 11, 2021 - https://fb.com/232951071614060/Mutual Aid Philly: https://mutualaidphilly.com/Homies Helping Homies: https://instagram.com/homies.helping.homies/FINAL FANTASY IV Original Soundtrack - https://spoti.fi/3xVKgT5Theme music by KNIGHT OF THE ROUND - https://knightoftheround.bandcamp.com/
On this week's episode, the Runners cover the critically acclaimed final nine issues of Zot!, otherwise known as the 'Earth stories'. Topics discussed include the return of Stump the Schwab talk, thinking chairs, and good old fashioned 80s homophobia. Covering Zot! #28-36
The Hebrew dictionary says that מוצלח means “successful, accomplished.” But as Guy explains, מוצלח has some interesting nuanced uses that you really should discover. Listen to the All-Hebrew Episode on Patreon New Words and Expressions: “Yossi, yeled sheli mutslach” – Yossi, my perfect boy – יוסי, ילד שלי מוצלח Lehatsliach (Hif'il) – To succeed – להצליח Mutslach – Good, excellent, perfect, successful – מוצלח “Eich legadel yeladim mutslachim yoter” – How to raise outstanding children – איך לגדל ילדים מוצלחים יותר “Ha-achayot ha-mutslachot sheli” – My perfect sisters – האחיות המוצלחות שלי Hinne shuv achalti yoter midai – Here again, I ate too much – הנה שוב אכלתי יותר מדיי Im lo hayiti kacha, ulai hayiti mutslachat – If I wasn't like that, I might have been a better person – אם לא הייתי ככה, אולי הייתי מוצלחת Ha-date haya mamash mutslach – The date was really great – הדייט היה ממש מוצלח Ha-date lo haya mutslach – The date was not great – הדייט לא היה מוצלח Ha-yeshiva hayta mutslachat – The meeting was great – הישיבה הייתה מוצלחת Ha-yeshiva lo hayta mutslachat – The meeting was not great – הישיבה לא הייתה מוצלחת Ze lo seret mutslach – This movie is not great – זה לא סרט מוצלח Zot taarucha lo mutslachat – This exhibition is not great – זאת לא תערוכה מוצלחת Ze lo haya raayon kaze mutslach – It wasn't such an amazing idea – זה לא היה רעיון כזה מוצלח Ze atar pachot mutslach – This website is not great – זה אתר פחות מוצלח “Lihyot be-tik-tok ze lo omer she-hacheshbon mutslach” – To be on Tik-Tok doesn't mean that the account is successful – להיות בטיקטוק זה לא אומר שהחשבון מוצלח Maavar mutslach! – Have a good move! – מעבר מוצלח Misada mutslachat meod – A great restaurant – מסעדה מוצלחת מאוד “Lo tsalachti et ha-perek ha-rishon” – I didn't get through watching the first episode – לא צלחתי את הפרק הראשון Lo tsalachti et ha-sefer – I didn't get through this book – לא צלחתי את הספר Playlist and Clips: Ha-tarnegolim – Yossi, Yeled Sheli Mutslach (lyrics) Yeladim mutslachim yoter Ha-achayot ha-mutslachot sheli – trailer Aya Korem – Hinne Shuv (lyrics) Ep. 151 – Intensifiers and superlatives Ep. 223 – Eich
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The first (proper) episode of them all! The Runners dive into their inaugural miniseries on the work of writer and cartoonist Scott McCloud. First up is the original full colour run of McCloud's superhero-cum-slice of life classic, Zot! (emphasis his!) Points of discussion include ESPN2's Stump the Schwab, the greatness of the Pole Patrol, and the first of many far-too-long discussions of comics awards bodies! Covering Zot! #1-10
In this episode of the Coffee Break Show with special guest Isabelle Tierney we are taking a Deep Dive into why some people begin to achieve success but then let go of their achievements and return to their past... How do you stop self-sabotage in its tracks...Here are just a few of the highlights from this interview: ZOT: Your Zone of Turbulence is an ever expanding zoneThere is a Continuum of expansionHow to move through a ZOTHow to stop the self sabotage in a ZOTStep 1: Expect a ZOT during expansion, have a sense of curiosityStep 2: Notice when you are tracking a ZOT such as ~ am I overeatingStep 3: How to move through the ZOT, what is in my way of being my brightest light?Breakthrough challenge https://www.facebook.com/groups/feelgoodbreakthroughchallengeZots can be massive, but also subtle Move from Zone of Excellence to Zone of GeniusWe all have similar core wounds, but our ZOT s are differentRegister for Isabelle's FREE 10 day Breakthrough Challenge, and don't miss the Micro Challenges to set the stage for real transformation https://www.facebook.com/groups/feelgoodbreakthroughchallengeAlso, grab a copy of Vickie's latest book release: The She Myth: Redefining Women in Businesshttps://theshemythbook.com
Continuing their journey, our heroes are on their own for a bit. They trudge along the path, their boots covered in mud. Cold weather had swept in, and brought with it a bitter rainfall. Eventually it became too much and they settled in under a rocky outcropping to get warm. They talked about DayZ and how the loot is a nightmare. They also talked about the new Dead Jester Productions website. One of our heroes also talked about finally hitting 200K gamerscore. The Red Dragon Inn is a tabletop game that we love to play, and so we thought we'd do a giveaway! Some info on the game: You and your adventuring companions have spent all day slogging through the Dungeon, killing monsters and taking their stuff. Now you're back in town, healed up, cleaned up, and ready to party at the Red Dragon Inn. Drink, gamble, and roughhouse with your friends. But don't forget to keep an eye on your Gold. If you run out, you'll have to spend the night in the stables. Oh. and try not to get too beaten up or too drunk. If you black out, your friends will continue the party without you. After they loot your body for Gold of course! The last conscious adventurer with Gold wins the game! Take on the role of one of four heroic fantasy adventurers Dierdre, Fiona, Gerki, or Zot and enjoy an evening at the Red Dragon Inn! The giveaway runs until the end of June. Go to our Twitter and retweet the tweets mentioning the giveaway to enter! You can also enter unlimited times by going to our Twitch and using channel points to select the giveaway option! The Character Trove on Amazon
Separating from their friend, our heroes continue on their path. They talk about the interesting new bidet feature one of the heroes purchased, purchasing and managing cryptocurrencies, and the new giveaway of The Red Dragon Inn. The Red Dragon Inn is a tabletop game that we love to play, and so we thought we'd do a giveaway! Some info on the game: You and your adventuring companions have spent all day slogging through the Dungeon, killing monsters and taking their stuff. Now you're back in town, healed up, cleaned up, and ready to party at the Red Dragon Inn. Drink, gamble, and roughhouse with your friends. But don't forget to keep an eye on your Gold. If you run out, you'll have to spend the night in the stables. Oh. and try not to get too beaten up or too drunk. If you black out, your friends will continue the party without you. After they loot your body for Gold of course! The last conscious adventurer with Gold wins the game! Take on the role of one of four heroic fantasy adventurers Dierdre, Fiona, Gerki, or Zot and enjoy an evening at the Red Dragon Inn! The giveaway runs until the end of June. Go to our Twitter and retweet the tweets mentioning the giveaway to enter! You can also enter unlimited times by going to our Twitch and using channel points to select the giveaway option! The Character Trove on Amazon
Barbara Sarafian (1968) is bekend van film en televisie. Je kon haar zien in de films Aanrijding in Moskou, Zot van A en Rundskop, In In Vlaamse Velden, Beau Séjour én in De Slimste Mens ter Wereld, waar ze met haar Fokkof-kledinglijn te zien was. Ze kwam recent ook in het nieuws door een moeilijke scheiding van haar man. We hadden afgesproken in Mariakerke bij Gent, waar ze nu woont. We gingen zitten aan tafel waarop haar drie boeken al klaar lagen. Naast ons tientallen kartonnen dozen met kledingstukken van haar collectie. Barbara Sarafian is zeer introspectief; een groot deel van het gesprek gaat over wat er zich in haar hoofd afspeelt. Over hoe je je verhoudt tot andere mensen, en hoe dat vaak problematisch is. Alle boeken en auteurs in deze aflevering vind je in de shownotes op wimoosterlinck.be De drie boeken van Barbara Sarafian zijn: 1. Alain de Botton: Statusangst 2. Joyce Maynard: Thuis in de wereld 3. Connie Palmen: De zonde van de vrouw
Als ondernemer hebben we vaak ideeën zat, maar houdt faalangst ons tegen om iets nieuws te lanceren. Zot jammer! Want dat is net waar je enorm veel voldoening uit kan halen. In deze podcast vertel ik hoe je over die faalangst heen kan geraken, kan testen of je idee levensvatbaar is en hoe je een realistisch doel stelt voor je eerste lancering.
We celebrate our fifth anniversary by finally tackling a seminal work by one of the biggest names in comics: Smile by Raina Telgemeier, published by Scholastic/Graphix! In this Eisner Award-winning graphic memoir, sixth-grader Raina suffers a dental injury that upends her entire world, kicking off a years-long succession of visits to various “odontists” involving surgery, braces, headgear and a retainer with fake teeth attached. And as if all that weren't enough, she also has to deal with middle-school crushes, some toxic friends and the 1989 San Francisco earthquake! Can Raina overcome her insecurity about her teeth and learn to accept herself? And can this orthodontic odyssey graduate to that ivory league known as ... The Comics Canon? In This Episode: Newspaper comic strips M. Forster on plot vs. story A cosmic Community coincidence No one wants to be judged by who they were in middle school Zot! The Complete Black and White Collection The Expanse Book 5: Nemesis Games Solutions and Other Problems by Allie Brosh Lumberjanes Vol. 1: Beware the Kitten Holy Join us in two weeks as we discuss Ultimate Spider-Man: Death of Spider-Man! Until then: Impress your friends with our Comics Canon merchandise! Rate us on Apple Podcasts! Send us an email! Hit us up on Twitter or Facebook! And as always, thanks for listening!
First and foremost and before our adventure resumes, go checkout NGP Podcast: New Game Plus (ngppodcast.com). I did an episode with them about Final Fantasy IV Advance. It was a blast and well worth the listen! I also frequently hang out on their Discord so you can check me out on there, too! :) But for today, join me on an adventure scaling the Tower of Zot and then -- we will venture deep underground into the mines of Mori-- I mean, just underground. Enjoy the episode!
Andy and Derek are pleased to have as their guest on The Comics Alternative the artist who has done more than anyone to help us understand comics, Scott McCloud. He has just concluded an exhausting world tour -- traveling all over the United States and Europe, and then wrapping up at this year's TCAF -- and the Two Guys were able to catch him during a breather and talk with him about his latest book, The Sculptor (First Second). They begin by asking him about the reception of his new graphic novel and the kind of reader reaction he had experienced on the road. Scott shares some of the commentary he received, such as finding the book a quick read as well as questions regarding the story's ending. In fact, the guys spend a bit of time discussing the concluding section of the book -- without really spoiling anything -- and ask Scott about his thoughts on structuring his narrative. He reveals that The Sculptor was a long time in coming and that he's been thinking of the ending almost from the beginning, over five years ago. This leads Derek and Andy to observe that this is a meticulously crafted book, one that demands multiple readings in order to see the various clues and allusions that are buried throughout the text, linking the end to the beginning and revealing a solid narrative cohesion. The guys also ask Scott to speculate on his current statue as one of comics' preeminent spokespersons. They wonder if his celebrity as "the guy who wrote Understanding Comics" has been eclipsing his reception as a fiction writer. That then becomes a springboard into a fruitful conversation about Scott's career as struggling young fan-turned-artist, the creation of Zot!, the critical reaction to his expository trilogy -- Understanding Comics, Reinventing Comics, and Making Comics -- his prescient advocacy for webcomics, his brief stint on Superman, the writing of The Sculptor, and his current project concerning visual communication. They even discuss Scott's recent work as editor on last year's Best American Comics, and how in many ways it brought him back into an awareness of current comics. Toward the end of the conversation, Scott shares his experiences as a teacher, and he even gives Andy and Derek useful strategies for using comics in the classroom. (Hint: The guys are going to fish out their copies of Shaun Tan's The Arrival.) All in all, this was an incredible interview. Derek and Andy had really wanted to have Scott on the show around the pub date of The Sculptor, but this later post-publication conversation turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Not only are they are able to talk with Scott McCloud about his latest project, but they also get all of the detail surrounding his world tour, his thoughts on the critical response to his book, and how his recent post-publication activities have impacted an already impressive career. This is an interview you cannot miss!
The Two Guys with PhDs are back with another review episode, and on this one they explore three fascinating titles. They begin by discussing the much-anticipated recent release from Scott McCloud, The Sculptor (First Second). In fact, Derek and Andy begin their conversation with the very fact that this was a much-anticipated, and heavily reviewed, new book, and how all of that attention may be affecting the book's reception. They speculate on the ways in which the artist's prestige and reputation feeds into the expectations. Although McCloud has created memorable narratives -- e.g., the Zot! series and The New Adventures of Abraham Lincoln -- this is an author most famously known for Understanding Comics and the expository/instructional books that followed, Reinventing Comics and Making Comics. The guys question if the author can ever get beyond his reputation as primarily a theoretician of the medium, and if he can ever gain renewed recognition as a creator of innovative narrative forms. And both Derek and Andy feel mixed over the prognosis. Yet despite all of the extra-textual commentary, the Two Guys spend most of their conversation in a close reading of the text. Much of their talk centers on the book's protagonist, David Smith, and the author's possible attitude toward his creation. Does McCloud want us to see Smith as a heroic (possibly romantic?) figure, or are we expected to read the sculptor more critically and as a flawed artist? This is a question that remains unanswered, and perhaps it speaks to McCloud's talents that the Two Guys cannot put a finger on an exact character assessment. They also discuss The Sculptor as not only as a creative treatise on art and its place in our culture, but also, and perhaps more specifically, as a commentary on the comics industry today. Theirs is not a gushing, unequivocal endorsement of the new graphic novel -- there are already plenty of those out there -- but Andy and Derek do see this as a serious new work and give it the full Comics Alternative treatment...spending a little over an hour discussing the text! Next, the guys look at two new number one issues from some of their favorite creators. Matt Kindt and Trevor Hairsine's Divinity #1 (Valiant) is a beautifully rendered science fiction narrative that apparently rests just on the periphery of the Valiant University. This is the first of a four-part series, and Hairsine's cinematic style is the perfect platform for Kindt's complex storytelling. Both Derek and Andy love Matt Kindt as a writer/artist, but this time around they get their fix through his scripting only. They experience the same with Descender #1 (Image), written by Jeff Lemire and with art by Dustin Nguyen. Most times they discuss Lemire's work -- and the Two Guys have done this often -- they do so by looking at him as a sole creator, but his new series with Nguyen demonstrates without a doubt Lemire's developed writing chops. The first issue accomplishes what it sets out to do, establishing a premise and tone that will both frame and propel the first story arc. This is definitely not a title that encourages trade waiting. Indeed, with both Descender and Divinity, you'll want to get every issue as soon as they come out.
For the fourth volume of Off the Panel, the Scotsman (John) and the overmodding Southerner (Matt) dive headfirst into Zot! a hidden gem amongst the "grim and gritty" 80's that defies the genre expectations of the time. Mixing crazy sci-fi, fun adventures, and serious topics all in one to produce one of the most overlooked masterpieces in comics. Download Off The Panel!