Dad Space Podcast - for Dads by Dads

Episode 235 - Date Night Done Right - Tips for Rekindling Marital RomanceWhy Date Nights Matter for DadsMarriage doesn't run on autopilot after the diapers and soccer practices pile up. Dads often prioritize provider mode, but romance keeps the foundation solid for your whole family. Studies show couples who date regularly report higher satisfaction and better parenting teamwork, your kids thrive when mom and dad are connected.​Neglect that spark, and resentment builds fast. Think about it: when was your last uninterrupted conversation with your wife that wasn't about bills or bedtime? Date nights rebuild intimacy, reduce stress, and model healthy love for your children. As dads, we're wired to lead here, step up intentionally.​Practical Tips to Make It HappenPlan Ahead Like a Pro: Block the calendar now—swap kids with another dad couple or hire a sitter monthly. No excuses; treat it like a non-negotiable work meeting. Start small: coffee runs if dinners feel daunting.Ditch the Routine: Skip Applebee's every time. Recreate your early dates - picnic in the park, stargazing drive, or dance lesson. Novelty releases dopamine, mimicking those honeymoon vibes.Focus on Her World: Ask open questions about her day, dreams, stresses - not just yours. Listen 80%, talk 20%. Bonus: Compliment non-physical stuff like her patience with the kids.Keep It Low-Pressure: Home dates count, cook together, unplug phones, play her favorite playlist. Physical touch without expectations rebuilds comfort.Follow Through Post-Date: Text the next day recapping a highlight. Momentum matters; one date sparks the next.These aren't fluffy ideas; they're battle-tested from dads who've been there. One listener shared how weekly walks turned their rocky patch around.​Common PitfallsWatch out for fatigue excuses - "I'm too tired after work." Flip it: date nights recharge you. Another trap? Treating it like a kid event - leave parenting talk at home.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 234 - Movember Comes to an End, Dad Space Continues, An Encouragement for DadsThanks for being apart of our 30 episodes in 30 days for Movember - and for taking action!___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 233 - The Holiday Season is Coming - A Podcast for You to Share With Your Kids - The Daily Santa PodcastIn this episode of the Dad Space podcast, host Dave wraps up the intense Movember challenge of 30 episodes in 30 days, reflecting on the exhaustion and gratitude of pushing through daily conversations for dads worldwide. As Thanksgiving approaches in the US and holiday seasons begin globally, he pivots to a festive family recommendation: his kid-focused Daily Santa Podcast, launching December 1st with 25 daily episodes counting down to Christmas like an audio advent calendar—minus the chocolate. Even for non-Santa households, the show's underlying storyline emphasizes becoming better humans through lessons on kindness, sibling harmony, neighborly love, and personal growth under Santa's watchful eye, perfect for bedtime listening or daytime play.Dave pulls back the curtain on the chaotic creation process, revealing how each episode is crafted live on the day it's due, juggling dozens of tracks for sound effects, music, and voices—from the announcer and weather reporters to live North Pole street updates and recurring jokes that build a connected narrative across the series. Standouts include Santa's social media-savvy elf Selfie, who snaps endless selfies, causes hilarious mayhem, and stars in blooper reels at every episode's end, earning fans like Dave's wife and even coworkers sneaking listens at the office. Listeners worldwide, including US and Canadian military stationed overseas, have shared how it feels like a taste of home, with bonus perks like Dave's wife's favorite Christmas cookie recipe available for download on DailySantaPodcast.com, plus early previews on YouTube.The episode closes on an intimate note, transitioning from holiday cheer to a raw monologue addressing male loneliness as a silent epidemic. Dave speaks directly to men carrying unseen burdens—tired yet unrelenting, strong yet human—urging them to break the silence by reaching out via email, voice message, or calls for help, affirming that real strength lies in honesty and that every dad's presence matters deeply to family, friends, and the world.Key Takeaway: Amid holiday hustle and personal struggles, prioritize connection—share festive podcasts with your kids to build better family habits, and remember to check in on fellow dads, because asking for or offering support turns isolation into strength. Visit DailySantaPodcast.com for links, recipes, and more Dad Space episodes ahead.https://dailysantapodcast.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 232 - Confidence and Arrogance - The Fine Line Every Dad Should KnowA simple way to put it for dads: confidence is “I'm valuable and capable,” while arrogance is “I'm more valuable and more capable than you.” Kids, partners, and coworkers feel safe around confidence and small around arrogance.​Clear definitions for dadsConfidence: A grounded belief in your abilities, with a realistic sense of strengths and weaknesses, and a willingness to learn and ask for help.​Arrogance: An inflated sense of importance, exaggerating your abilities, needing to be right, and putting others down to feel strong.​How it feels to your familyConfident dad: Listens to his kids and partner, makes decisions, owns mistakes, and still shows respect and warmth, so the home feels safe and collaborative.​Arrogant dad: Dismisses opinions, talks over others, blames, or mocks “weakness,” so the home feels tense and people stop being honest with him.​Quick self-check questionsAsk before you speak or act:“Am I trying to serve or to prove something?” Confidence serves; arrogance proves.​“Do I still respect this person if they disagree with me or see my flaws?” Confidence can handle disagreement and imperfection; arrogance can't.​Everyday dad examplesWith kids: Confident dad says, “I know how to handle this, but I also want to hear how you see it.” Arrogant dad says or implies, “Because I'm the dad, I'm automatically right, end of story.”​With partner: Confident dad holds a strong opinion and listens, adjusts when shown he's wrong. Arrogant dad doubles down, keeps score, or refuses to apologize.​At work: Confident dad celebrates the team and takes responsibility when things go wrong. Arrogant dad takes all the credit and shifts blame when things fail.​How to grow confident, not arrogantGround your identity: Remind yourself your worth isn't based on your last win or loss as a dad, husband, or employee; it's deeper than performance.​Practice humility: Admit “I don't know” and “I was wrong” regularly; this builds trust and actually strengthens how capable you look to your kids and partner.​Use strength to lift: Any time you feel strong—physically, financially, or intellectually—ask, “How can I use this to support, not to dominate, my family?”​ “Strength with humility is confidence; strength without humility becomes arrogance,” then walk through these family, marriage, and work examples with honest stories and practical self-check questions___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 231 - Why Am I Feeling More Like The Grinch and Less Like Jolly Santa - Where Did My Love for the Holidays Go?Feeling indifferent or apathetic about the Christmas holidays, especially if you once loved the season, is more common than you might think. Many people lose their holiday joy over time due to changes in life circumstances, stress, or shifting priorities. If you're wondering where your love for the holidays has gone and how to navigate this season when you feel disconnected, here are some helpful approaches shared by others who've faced similar feelings:Start Small and Build Your Own Spirit: Don't wait for that magical feeling to return—begin by playing nostalgic Christmas music, putting up a few meaningful decorations, or watching a favorite holiday movie. Creating new or revisiting old traditions can gradually rekindle your excitement.Focus on What Matters to You: Let go of perfectionism or feeling obligated to do everything. Find one or two things that bring you comfort or joy—whether that's baking, cozy evenings in Christmas pajamas, or taking winter walks with a hot beverage.Create New Connections and Traditions: Engage with others by volunteering, donating, or simply reaching out to friends or family who may also be struggling. Generosity and connection can reignite the true spirit behind the holidays.Give Yourself Grace: Holiday apathy is okay. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge your feelings without guilt. Sometimes just accepting where you are emotionally can reduce stress.Add Visual Cues: Even if your heart isn't fully in it, small seasonal changes like lights, candles, or a wreath can create subtle reminders that help shift your mindset.Get Outside: Fresh air, exercise, and nature walks—even in chilly weather—can improve mood and help you feel more present.Seek What Sparks Joy for You: Whether it's singing carols, decorating a tiny tree, or making thoughtful gifts, engaging senses and doing activities you love can jumpstart holiday feelings.Remember, the holidays don't have one set definition or way to be celebrated. Find your own version that feels authentic and manageable, and gradually you may find your appreciation and joy returning.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 230 - Shout Out To All the Dad Space Listeners - We Celebrate Our Amazing Listeners Around the GlobeHey, thanks for listening to Dad Space - here is a list of countries where our listeners are! It is amazing to see how far Dad Space has travelled from a small recording space in my home here in Canada to you, out amazing Dad Space audienceHere are the countries that we know of at this point!ArgentinaAustraliaAustriaBelgiumBotswanaBrazilCanadaChinaCzechiaDenmarkDominican RepublicDR CongoEstoniaFinlandFranceGermanyGhanaGreeceGuatemalaHong KongIcelandIndiaIndonesiaIrelandIsraelItalyJapanKazakhstanMalaysiaMexicoNew ZealandNigeriaNorwayPakistanPhilippinesPolandQatarRomaniaRussiaSingaporeSouth AfricaSpainSwedenSwitzerlandTaiwanThailandThe NetherlandsTrinidad and TobagoTürkiyeUnited Arab EmiratesUnited KingdomUnited StatesUzbekistanhttps://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 229 - Legacy - How Dads Create Lasting Change for Families - Presence, Example and WordsIn this episode of Dad Space, we dive into what legacy truly means for fathers and how dads can create lasting, positive change that resonates through generations. Legacy is more than just financial inheritance or big achievements—it's the daily, consistent acts that shape who your children become and the values they carry forward.We kick off by challenging common cultural ideas of legacy—like career success or wealth—and instead focus on what kids actually remember: the time dads spent with them, how dads treated their family and others, and the patterns of behavior modeled every day. Real legacy is found not in highlight moments but in the quiet, meaningful routines and examples dads set.Next, we explore three core “legacy levers” that dads can use to positively influence their families:Presence: Showing up physically and emotionally through simple connection moments like bedtime talks, car rides, or tech-free dinners.Example: Kids learn more from what dads do than what they say—modeling kindness, accountability, apology, and respect.Words: The phrases we speak leave lasting impressions—expressing love, pride, and encouragement builds strong emotional foundations.We also discuss the courage it takes to break negative family cycles. Many dads may not have had positive role models but can choose to start new traditions—whether saying “I love you” more often or creating small family rituals. Being the one to change the family story is one of the most powerful legacies a dad can leave.The episode highlights the importance of micro-legacies—small traditions, habits, and rituals that build connection and lasting memories, like Saturday morning pancakes or birthday letters. These little things often mean more than big speeches or grand gestures.Finally, listeners are given a simple legacy check-in with thought-provoking questions to reflect on who they are as dads today and what changes they can make for a stronger, more loving family tomorrow.Dad Space ends with a heartfelt challenge for dads to create legacy in small, meaningful ways every day—reminding us all that legacy is not about perfection but showing up consistently with love.Episode Takeaway:Legacy is built in the ordinary moments and consistent patterns of love, presence, and example. By making small intentional choices, dads can leave a powerful, lasting impact on their families for generations.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 228 - A Man That Treated Me Like A Man When I Was Just A Kid - Lessons Learned from LloydIn this heartfelt episode of Dad Space, the host shares a deeply personal story about an unlikely role model from his youth: a man named Lloyd who profoundly shaped his journey into adulthood.Growing up in a small northern Canadian town, the transition from childhood to teenage years was a confusing and challenging time—caught between wanting independence and still being tethered to the limitations of youth. At that vulnerable crossroads, Lloyd stepped into the host's life as a steady, unexpected guide.Lloyd was far from glamorous. He worked shift work in a plant, owned a large farm with dairy cows and hayfields, and carried the weight of a tough, lonely existence after a separation from his family. Yet, despite his own struggles, he opened his world to a teenage boy, teaching him life lessons that went far beyond simple farming skills or hunting knowledge.Through vivid stories, the host paints a picture of a man who sparked joy and adventure—a vintage John Deere snowmobile that became a beast to ride, daring jumps over hay bales and even a neighbor's house, and hands-on lessons in hunting and farm work. Lloyd's rugged lifestyle, humility, and generosity created a safe, nurturing environment where the host learned responsibility, courage, and respect.One of the most striking memories is Lloyd's willingness to let a 14-year-old drive his beat-up farm truck right past the local police station—a quiet act of trust and empowerment that left a lasting impression. Lloyd's confidence in the host mirrored the confidence he was helping build within himself.The episode also reflects on the deeper emotional resonance of this relationship: Lloyd's loneliness and longing for connection, and how this shared need brought two very different men together to support and uplift one another. It's a reminder that mentoring and friendship go both ways—that sometimes the person who seems to have the least also has the most to give.Ultimately, this episode is a call to action for dads and men everywhere: in a world where many kids may lack positive male role models outside their families, the opportunity to step into those roles is invaluable. Whether young or old, men have the power to profoundly influence lives through presence, trust, and simple acts of kindness.As Movember shines a spotlight on men's health and community support, the host encourages listeners to consider who in their circle might need a guiding hand—and how we can all give back in meaningful ways. The story of Lloyd exemplifies the impact one man's belief in another can have across a lifetime.Key takeaway: Life-changing mentorship can come from unexpected places. Being present, trusting, and investing in young lives—beyond your own family—builds stronger communities and teaches lessons that last a lifetime.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 227 - Burnout Busters - Managing Stress and Avoiding Dad FatigueBurnout is a real challenge for dads—especially in today's fast-paced world where work, family, and personal expectations easily pile up. This episode of Dad Space, “Burnout Busters: Managing Stress and Avoiding Dad Fatigue,” explores effective habits and insights every dad can use to reclaim energy and joy in their daily life.​Understanding Dad BurnoutParental burnout isn't just exhaustion—it's feeling emotionally drained and detached, struggling to be present for your kids and partner. The warning signs include persistent tiredness, irritability, trouble focusing, emotional distance, and frequent headaches or tension. Burnout builds up slowly, so recognizing these signs early is key to bouncing back before they spiral.​Key Strategies to Bust BurnoutSet Clear BoundariesDads often juggle work, family, and countless daily tasks. Creating strong boundaries—like designating work-free family time and resisting late emails—protects energy and brings more meaningful interactions with your loved ones. Say “no” when you need to, and delegate household chores when possible.​Prioritize Self-CareSelf-care isn't selfish. Even 10 minutes for yourself each day adds up: take a walk, read a few pages of a book, or enjoy a cup of tea in silence. Make sure you get regular movement and adequate sleep. Quick, healthy meals or snacks (like fruit or nuts) can help, even when time is short.​Ask for HelpResist the urge to carry it all alone. Reach out to your partner, another parent, a friend, or a support group—many are ready to help if you ask. Sharing tasks or emotions strengthens relationships and reduces overwhelm.​Be Self-CompassionateIt's easy for dads to be their own toughest critics. But supporting yourself with kindness—admitting when you're tired or need a breather—can keep stress from escalating and model healthy emotional habits for your kids.​Connect With Other DadsSocial connections are a proven buffer against stress. Join a dad's group, attend community events, or simply check in with another father for honest conversation. You'll discover tips, encouragement, and the reassurance that you're not alone.​Reframe Your ExpectationsPerfection isn't the goal. Aim for realistic routines for yourself and your kids. Prioritize what matters most and shed what doesn't serve your family's well-being.​Key Takeaway for Dad Space ListenersBurnout isn't a sign of weakness—it's a signal to slow down, recalibrate, and ask for support. By defending boundaries, embracing self-care, seeking help, and building connections, dads can move from surviving to thriving. Taking small steps each day not only benefits you, but also builds the resilient, joyful legacy every father hopes to leave.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 226 - A Story of The Ripple Effect of Depression and Who Else is Impacted by The DarknessDad Space: Movember, Mental Health, and the Ripple Effect — A Personal StoryWelcome to Dad Space, the podcast for dads, by dads. In this special Movember episode, host Dave shares an intimate story that ties directly into previous discussions on men's mental health and the powerful ripple effects that depression can have — not just on the individual but on their family, community, and beyond.Movember is a time to shine a light on men's physical and mental well-being. Dave takes this opportunity to invite open conversation and to remind listeners of the importance of connection, support, and self-care during challenging times.The Story Behind the EpisodeDave reflects on a real-life experience during a period of his own mental health reflection. While working as maintenance and property manager, he encountered a tenant—a quiet, kind man much younger than himself—who faced inner struggles hidden beneath a calm surface.One day, a routine follow-up to prepare the tenant's apartment for new occupants turned into a heartbreaking discovery: the tenant had passed away, a victim to what was believed to be a profound battle with depression. Dave describes the emotional impact of the moment, the weight of silent suffering, and how this event deeply reinforced the importance of mental health awareness.What This Means for Us as DadsFatherhood often places us on a public platform—a "post turtle" standing in view of our children and community as imperfect, evolving men. Our daily struggles, how we manage our mental health, and the way we show up have a lasting impression on the next generation.Dave emphasizes that children don't just see the good days but also the tough ones, and through it all, they internalize the behavior and approaches modeled by their dads. The challenge is clear: recognizing the ripple effects our lives create and committing to nurture positivity by seeking help and allowing others to support us.Encouragement and ReminderIf you are currently going through a difficult moment with mental health, Dave gently advises that this episode might not be the right one for you now—and that's okay. The episode will be here when you're ready. For everyone else, there is strength in reaching out, sharing your story, and accepting help. It's a vital part of healing and breaking the isolation that too often compels men to go it alone.The metaphor of carrying all the grocery bags in one trip speaks powerfully to the damaging assumption many men carry—that they must do everything alone. Dave invites listeners to let the people who care help carry those bags.Resources and SupportMovember is more than just growing a mustache; it's about raising awareness and providing tangible support for men's mental health. While Dave can't list every resource globally, he urges listeners to seek help early, talk on good days, and build connections that carry through the hard times.Final TakeawayThis episode of Dad Space is more than a story—it's a call to action for every dad to understand the power of vulnerability and community. Your mental health matters. Your choice to seek and accept help creates positive ripples far beyond you.If this episode resonates with you, share it forward with someone who might need to hear it. Dad Space is a place where real stories and real struggles are welcome, and together we can be the support network no dad should ever have to face alone.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten

Episode 225 - In The Shadow of Silence, A Novel About the Ripple Effects of Depression on Those Around UsAbout the authorRaymonde Dumont, MD, LMFT, is a pediatrician as well as a family therapist. She practiced and taught for several years at Harvard Medical School, and at the Joslin Diabetes Center. Her work focused on the effects of a person's illness through their entire family. She showed that mental health and family function affect the medical outcome. In her private practiceas a family therapist, she helps families to navigate difficulties by collaborating, rather than becoming divided.She is also a mother, a widow, and a friend to many. She now turns her years of experience into words that speak of resilience, and of the flawed road that leads us to becoming good enough. She wrote this book because the story would not let her go, and because she hopes it will bring a little insight and comfort.She has published many professional articles, but in fiction, she finds a more personal, intimate voice. Her short stories have been published in Persimmon Tree and in The Hemlock Journal. You can find her blog on Substack as raedumont.substack. Or you can contact her through her website at Rae Dumont, Writer.She lives and practices in Montclair, New Jersey, within reach of New York City.In the Shadow of Silence: A Novel A novel that follows the pursuit of love and joy—until the descent of untreated depression ends with unbearable loss, forcing a family to deal with the shocking and immediate aftermath of suicide.Eva's lonely childhood has given her an intuitive connection with kids and teenagers. She is a gifted child psychiatrist. Single, she dreams of having her own children, and she yearns for love. The future seems bright when she meets Lyman; They build a family. They share adventures. They meet life's challenges as team. They navigate a bout of Lyman's depression; treatment works.They share rich, fulfilling years while their careers develop, and their children grow up.When their sons enter adulthood and their daughter is a teenager, they plan an entire summer as a family. But Lyman abruptly stops both therapy and medication. He spirals into a dark and irritable isolation that none of them can penetrate.After his brutal suicide, Eva is left to cope and to guide her children through the trauma, as they each rebuild their lives.https://www.raedumontwriting.org/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 224 - How Podcasts Can Help You Be a Better Dad - Legacy, Lessons and LearningsPodcasting has quietly become a powerful tool for dads who want to leave a meaningful legacy, connect with their kids on a deeper level, and grow as fathers themselves. In today's fast-paced, distracted world, podcasts offer something truly special: a chance to step back, reflect, and intentionally shape the story we tell our children about what it means to be a dad.Building a LegacyEvery episode of a dad-focused podcast is a digital time capsule—an opportunity to share stories, values, and lessons that your kids, and maybe even your grandkids, can revisit years from now. Whether you're interviewing guests, sharing hard-won wisdom, or just recounting a funny parenting mishap, you're building a library of your thoughts, beliefs, and hopes. This kind of legacy reaches beyond the dinner table. It anchors your family in who you are and the journey you've been on, helping your children understand not just what you did, but why you did it.Passing Along LessonsPodcasting invites dads to think deeply about what truly matters—from how to navigate tough conversations, to modeling kindness, resilience, and vulnerability. It encourages dads to verbalize lessons that might otherwise go unsaid: how to handle disappointment, why apologizing matters, or the value of perseverance through setbacks. By hearing these moments on a podcast, kids receive guidance in a format that feels relevant and accessible, especially as they grow and become more independent.Sharing the LearningsPerhaps the greatest surprise of podcasting as a dad is how much you learn in return. Each episode—especially when you host guests, experts, or even fellow dads—provides new perspectives and practical tips. This “always learning” mindset not only makes you a more informed father, but it demonstrates to your children the importance of ongoing growth and humility. It's a living example that you don't have to have all the answers—and that's okay.Key TakeawayBy embracing podcasting, dads can share their own story, amplify the values that matter most, and create a living legacy that inspires both themselves and their children. Every recording is an act of service, a resource for future generations, and a reminder: good fatherhood is never about perfection—it's about showing up, sharing honestly, and always being willing to learn.Podcasts can help you be a better dad, not just by what you say, but by how you listen, adapt, and grow through the journey of parenting.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 223 - Father Figures - The Impact of Grandpas, Uncles, and StepdadsIndirect adult male influences - like coaches, grandpas, uncles, and cousins—play a crucial role in shaping kids by modeling respectful, healthy behaviors, emotional openness, and integrity beyond what they might experience at home. As men, we can actively help our extended families and their children by making ourselves available, participating in their lives, and demonstrating what balanced masculinity looks like - showing fairness, taking responsibility, and admitting mistakes honestly.Ways Men Can Positively Influence KidsShow up for kids at family events, games, or special occasions to foster a sense of belonging and support.​Model respectful behavior and emotional openness, proving that expressing feelings is healthy and normal.​Teach confidence by demonstrating self-belief and sharing motivational strategies, helping kids feel valued in their unique interests.​Offer gentle discipline and guidance, focusing on fairness and accountability rather than strictness or control.​Be proactive in mentoring nieces, nephews, or younger cousins - with advice, shared hobbies, or simple life skills.Modeling Healthy Male Examples Outside Immediate FamilyAdmit your mistakes and show humility, which helps kids see that it's okay to be imperfect and encourages emotional resilience.​Share caregiving tasks, demonstrate respect for all family members, and challenge outdated stereotypes, so kids observe inclusive and supportive masculinity.​Encourage open communication, listen to kids' concerns, and validate their opinions, building trust and confidence.​Support diverse interests for family members - whether in music, sports, academics, or art -to expand their understanding of what it means to be a caring, capable man.By modeling these behaviors, men can help kids - both within and outside their immediate families - grow into confident, emotionally resilient adults, equipped to build healthy relationships and contribute positively to their communities.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 222 - The Monkey Trap Mindset - How Letting Go Sets Dads FreeThe famous “monkey trap” story—using a hollowed coconut with a hole just big enough for a monkey's hand, baited with a treat, to supposedly catch monkeys because they won't let go of the prize—has been widely repeated, but there's no reliable evidence that this technique is actually used in the wild. It's best understood as a parable or metaphor rather than a real trapping method. The Monkey Trap. Most of us have heard of it. You catch a monkey by using a gourd or a coconut that is nailed down, has a small hole in it, and has some fruit for bait inside of it. The monkey slips its hand into the hole, grabs the prize (making a fist that is too large to pull out of the hole in the process), and is caught. Why is it caught? Because it won't let go of the prize.Despite appearing in anecdotes and spiritual teaching, researchers have not found documented occurrences of this exact trap in field studies of monkey capture. Instead, the story endures for its powerful illustrative value: being trapped by what we refuse to release.This metaphor is a compelling way to discuss how dads—and men in general—can become “trapped” by emotional baggage, grudges, fears, or limiting beliefs. True freedom, growth, and happiness come when we learn to let go.https://samknight.com/?p=924https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 221 - Out of Place but Learning to Balance, What a Post Turtle Can Teach A DadSometimes in life, we find ourselves as human post turtles. Maybe it's that coworker who somehow got promoted to manager and you're scratching your head wondering how. Or that pop star who's suddenly the face of everything, but can't carry a tune in a bucket. The idea is the same—they didn't get there on their own. Someone lifted them up, put them there, and now they're just trying to figure out what to do with it.As dads, we get it. None of us really “earned” fatherhood through a test or certification. One day we were just placed there—sometimes ready, often not. Suddenly, we're balancing on this narrow post called “Dad Life,” looking down, hoping we don't fall, wondering who thought this was a good idea anyway.But here's the thing about post turtles: even though they didn't get up there on their own, they're there now. And like us, they have two choices—freeze up and panic, or adapt and learn to balance. That's the heart of the dad journey. We might not have all the answers, but we learn on the post. We lean on other dads. We adjust our footing. And maybe, we even learn to enjoy the view from up there.Reflection SegmentSo, who put you on your post? Maybe it was your partner, your parents, your kids, or maybe life itself. The truth is, we've all had help. And that's not something to hide—it's something to honor. Every dad who's ever rocked a newborn at 3 AM, every dad who's shown up to a recital or a soccer game after a long week, every dad trying to be present—each one is a post turtle in his own way. We didn't get here alone, and we're not staying balanced by ourselves either.Next time you feel like a post turtle—awkward, unsure, maybe out of place—remember: it's normal. You're not alone on that fence post, and there's a whole community of dads out here cheering you on, helping you find your balance.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 220 - An Introvert's Perspective - The Quiet Truth For Dads About Energy and ConnectionAn Introvert's Perspective: The Quiet Truth About Energy and ConnectionIn this episode, the conversation centers on a familiar frustration for many introverts—the misconceptions people have about what it means to be quiet, reserved, or private. The host explores three common phrases that introverts often hear and why they can be both unhelpful and misunderstood.The first is the casual observation, “You're so quiet. Are you okay?” For introverts, their quietness is not a sign of something being wrong; it's simply their natural rhythm. Asking them to defend their silence can make social interactions even more uncomfortable. Quiet is not a problem to be fixed—it's part of how some people process the world.The second remark, “You need to get out more,” misses the point of introversion entirely. Introverts do not need more external stimulation to feel complete. Home and solitude are restorative spaces where their energy is recharged. They venture out when they are ready, not when social expectations demand it.And then there's, “You need to loosen up.” For an introvert, this can feel like pressure to perform rather than an invitation to connect. Instead of making them feel relaxed, it often highlights the very discomfort they were trying to manage quietly.To help make sense of these differences, the host offers a vivid analogy: introverts start each day with five coins, and every social interaction costs them one. By the end of the day, their coins are spent—they need alone time to refill their emotional balance. Extroverts, however, begin with zero coins and earn one from every interaction. Their energy grows through engagement and connection.This simple idea explains why introverts and extroverts sometimes misunderstand each other. When an extrovert suggests happy hour after work, they're riding a social high, eager to keep going. The introvert, meanwhile, has exhausted their coin supply. The two operate on different energy economies—one earning through interaction, the other conserving through solitude.But these differences aren't barriers to friendship or love. They're opportunities for understanding. When both sides recognize how the other recharges, connection becomes easier and more genuine. Whether you're an introvert protecting your peace or an extrovert chasing new connections, empathy is the bridge that keeps relationships balanced.Key Takeaway:Introversion and extroversion are not opposites—they are complementary ways of managing energy. Understanding the balance between solitude and connection leads to stronger relationships and deeper respect for how others navigate the world.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 219 - Trust, Truth, and Tense Talks - Dad Strategies for Marriage RecoveryTrust is the foundation of any healthy marriage—but when it's broken, even everyday conversations can feel like navigating a minefield. This episode explores the warning signs that trust is eroding, why it matters for dads, and practical ways to rebuild connection with your partner and kids. Whether you're just noticing distance or working to heal after hurt, you're not alone—let's talk honestly about trust, respect, and hope for your family.3 Signs Trust is Fading in Your Marriage (for Dads)Communication Feels Like Navigating Shaky GroundWhen trust is strong, you can talk about anything. When it's shaky, you walk on eggshells, afraid that any word or topic could set off conflict. Instead of open and spontaneous connection, conversations become guarded and stressful. As a dad and partner, you might find yourself second-guessing every word or avoiding important topics altogether. Taking small, honest steps—like sharing feelings even when it's tough—can open the path to rebuilding safety and trust.Checking Up vs. Checking In: Which One Are You Doing?It's normal to check in with your partner out of care, but when trust fades, those moments shift into suspicion—“Where were you? Who were you with?” Instead of genuine connection, you find yourself interrogating or feeling interrogated. Choosing to check in daily, with curiosity and respect, helps restore emotional safety and turns tense interactions back into moments of support.You Default to Negative InterpretationsWhen trust is lost, it's easy to assume negative intentions—seeing innocent actions through a lens of doubt. This cycle can reinforce hurt and distance for both partners. One powerful change: choose to believe the best in each other and give your partner the benefit of the doubt, just as you'd want for yourself. This mindset shift can slowly break the cycle and bring hope back to your marriage.Key Takeaways for Dad Space ListenersIf trust is low, communication will start to feel tense and unsafe—be gentle with yourself and your partner as you work through it.Checking in should be a sign of care, not control. With practice, you can rebuild mutual respect, even after setbacks.Dads play a key role in modeling trust and honesty, both in marriage and with their kids.Real trust grows from small, consistent choices to communicate openly, assume the best, and repair mistakes together.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 218 - The Pencil's Tale - Five Lessons Every Dad Should Share and Teach Their KidsThe story itself appears to be an anonymous parable, sometimes called "The Pencil Maker's Parable," but has been attributed to adaptors such as Jimmy Reed and featured in inspirational columns and children's teachings.Here is the tale:The Pencils Tale. Once upon a time, an old pencil maker took his newest pencil aside just before he was about to pack him into a box. Imagining the little fellow as a person, he recalled a few things about the pencil. There are five things you need to know, he said to his pencil, before I send you out into the world. Always remember these five things. Never forget them and you will become the best pencil you can be. The first thing is to remember that you will be able to do many great things, but only if you put yourself in someone else's hands. From time to time you will experience a painful sharpening, but remember that this will make you a better pencil. Also, keep in mind that you will be able to correct any mistakes you might make along the way. The most important part of you is what's on the inside. And remember this as well. Upon every surface that you are used, you must leave your mark. No matter what else happens, you must continue to write.It seemed the pencil listened to him and promised he would remember these five things, so that he could live his life with heart and purpose. You see in life, in your life, put yourself in someone else's hand. Embrace challenges for growth. Learn from mistakes, value inner qualities and leave a positive mark on the world. And you too can become the best pencil there is. This was the pencils taleApplying the Story to Dads and Families"The Pencil's Tale" offers simple, profound lessons that resonate for dads at every stage of parenting. By sharing this parable with children, fathers model the values of humility, resilience, and purpose. The pencil's journey provides a natural metaphor for growth, learning, and character—qualities every dad hopes to nurture in their kids.Key Lessons Dads Can Teach from the TaleAcceptance of Guidance: The pencil succeeds by allowing itself to be guided. Likewise, dads can teach children that everyone benefits from mentors, family, and friends. Being open to support leads to doing great things.Embracing Challenges and Growth: Like sharpening a pencil, life's difficulties shape us. Dads can explain that painful experiences (hard lessons, discipline, setbacks) help us grow stronger and better, no matter our age.Learning from Mistakes: Erasers let us fix errors, and so can honesty and forgiveness. Teaching kids that mistakes aren't final—and can be corrected—empowers them to try again and learn without fear.Valuing What's Inside: The most important part of a person (or pencil) is what's inside: character, kindness, and integrity. Dads can emphasize that inner qualities matter more than outside appearances.Leaving a Positive Mark: Everyone leaves a mark in the world—through actions, words, and kindness. Encouraging children to be intentional about the impact they make helps them live a life with purpose.By retelling this parable, dads foster meaningful conversations about values, resilience, and making a difference, while building trust and deeper bonds with their families.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot...

Episode 217 - Movember, A Birthday, Some Coffee and a Huge Thank you to YouHey, thanks for pressing play! It is Nov 13th - Dave's birthday, we share a coffee together, we talk Movember and why this is important and we say thanks to you - thanks for being apart of this podcast and for making this your home for all things Dad - this space is for you!If this podcast has brought value to you - please consider sending some coffee back to the show with our buy me a coffee linkhttps://buymeacoffee.com/truemediacahttps://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 216 - Another Great Dad Podcast - The All Pro Dad PodcastThe All Pro Dad Podcast is a weekly show dedicated to helping fathers navigate the challenges of parenting with intention, humility, and love. Created by Family First, the nonprofit behind the All Pro Dad movement founded by Mark Merrill and Coach Tony Dungy, the podcast extends the mission of helping dads “love and lead their families well” into modern, relatable conversations.What the Show is AboutEach episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast focuses on one central parenting question, tackling real-life topics with humor, wisdom, and compassion. Hosted by Ted Lowe, Bobby Lewis, and BJ Foster, the show explores the joys and struggles of being an engaged father in today's world. The tone is honest and approachable — designed for dads who don't have all the answers but genuinely want to get better.The podcast aims to create a space where dads can laugh, learn, and feel less alone in their parenting journey. Episodes blend personal stories, expert insights, and “Pro Moves” — actionable takeaways dads can apply right away at home.Common Themes and Key Topics CoveredEpisodes cover a wide range of fatherhood and family subjects, including:Parenting and communication — Building trust and emotional connection with kids.Marriage and teamwork — Strengthening partnership and balance at home.Discipline and encouragement — Finding the right blend of correction and care.Modern challenges — Navigating social media, technology, and the "manosphere."Character and resilience — Raising emotionally strong, respectful children.Mental health for dads — Encouraging emotional openness, reflection, and community support.Sample Episode TopicsRecent and fan-favorite episodes include:How Can I Improve as a Dad? – Knowing when to ask for feedback from your kids, spouse, or mentors.​​Should Dads Be Worried About the Manosphere? – Discussing how media messages shape young men's views.​Building Resilience in Children – Featuring insights from Dr. Chinwé Williams on helping kids handle adversity.​What's the Best Part About Being a Girl Dad? – Celebrating father-daughter bonds.​5 Ways Dads Cause Family Tension and 4 Things You Must Do After Yelling at Your Kids – Honest reflections on mistakes and growth.Why New Listeners Will Love ItApproachable Format: Simple, 15–20-minute conversations centered on real-life parenting questions.Rooted in Faith & Practicality: Blends Christian values with relatable, modern advice.Diverse Guest Input: Features experts, coaches, and dads from various backgrounds.Actionable Takeaways: Each episode ends with a “Pro Move” — a small, tangible way to improve family life that week.Where to ListenNew episodes of the All Pro Dad Podcast release weekly and are available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and AllProDad.com/podcast.​In short, the All Pro Dad Podcast is built for men who want to be intentional about fatherhood — not perfect dads, but all-pro dads who keep showing up, learning, and growing every day.https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten

Episode 215 - Jennifer Celeste Briggs - Parenting Differently, Autism, Finding Balance and Being EnoughJennifer Celeste Briggs has a BA in English Literature from Swarthmore college. She lives in Pittsburgh, PA with her husband and two daughters. Her daughter Sarah has a genetic anomaly and autism. When Sarah was four, Jenny decided to run a Son-Rise Program for her, calling it Sarah-Rise, and training at the Autism Treatment Center of America. The Son-Rise Program is a loving child-centered approach to helping those with autism and other challenges connect socially, verbally, and through increased eye contact. Organizing hundreds of hours of therapeutic play time for Sarah, Jenny trained and coordinated multiple volunteers who contributed their love and creativity to the venture. Jenny started a blog to share the experience of Sarah-Rise and has heard multiple times that her words were helpful to others dealing with life struggles. Jenny wants to help parents feel understood and to spread the word about The Son-Rise Program. She hopes that her words bring comfort, joy, and inspiration to readers whatever their challenges and journeys may be.Sarah is a feisty and determined four-year-old with autism and a unique genetic blueprint. Her mom Jenny is equally feisty and determined, which leads to clashes and strife but also leads to phenomenal connection and progress as Jenny runs a Son-Rise Program for her, calling it Sarah-Rise.The Son-Rise Program is an approach to working with people with autism to foster social connection. It provides intensely loving, focused one-on-one therapeutic play time, meeting Sarah where she is and never stopping her repetitive behaviors. Sarah's language explodes, her eye contact intensifies, she plays games, plays imaginatively, uses the potty, eats healthily, reads, and writes.Playing with Sarah is deeply rewarding for the volunteers who spend time in the Sarah-Rise room. While Jenny sometimes doubts herself and criticizes her parenting, she also explores new pathways to gentleness, joy, and laughter. She celebrates Sarah's successes, marveling at the depth of love and creativity that her volunteers bring to the scene and stretching her own creative self. Accompany Jenny from Sarah's birth through the decision to run Sarah-Rise, and follow the years of Sarah-Rise, pretending that markers are flowers and number flashcards are snowflakes. Have your heart warmed and your socks knocked off by this momentous journey.“Watching Sarah Rise is equally informative as it is inspirational, gracious as it is gutsy. A beautifully written story filled with hope, integrity, and pure emotion, Briggs intimately invites her reader to experience the unique heartbreak and joy that comes with mothering a neurodivergent child.”-Sherry Sidoti, author of A Smoke and a Song: A Memoirhttps://www.watchingsarahrise.com/https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 214 - What Search Has Said About the Dad Space Podcast - Our Mission to Support Dads Continues The Dad Space Podcast, hosted by Dave Campbell in Ontario, Canada, is a community-focused show created "for dads, by dads." Dave—himself a father of three adult children and an empty nester—aims to provide a welcoming space for fathers to connect, share stories, and support one another on their unique parenting journeys. The podcast recognizes the evolving challenges of fatherhood and the need for camaraderie, advice, and encouragement among dads of all backgrounds—whether you're a new dad, stepdad, empty nester, or grandfatherWhat the Show Is AboutDad Space Podcast is dedicated to equipping dads with practical advice and inspiration for all aspects of parenting and family life. Episodes often feature guests who share their own "dad journeys," offering a mix of personal stories, actionable tips, and encouragement. The show covers how-to guidance, marriage and relationship insights, family bonding ideas, and, of course, the occasional classic “dad joke.” Dave's mission is to make every dad feel less isolated and more empowered—think of it as a "play-date for dads" where questions are welcomed, and experiences are shared openlyKey Topics CoveredFatherhood Advice: Navigating every stage, from new dads to empty nesters.Marriage & Relationships: Tips for strong partnerships and growing together.Family & Parenting: Insights into raising children, step-parenting, and grandparenting.Mental Wellness: Candid conversations about the emotional side of fatherhood.Community Building: Encouraging dads to help one another and find support.Practical Life Tips: Including health, work-life balance, humor, and occasional dad jokes.Inspiring Guest Stories: Featuring dads, experts, and advocates from diverse backgroundsWhat Makes It UniqueSafe and judgment-free environment for dads to share and learn.Content relevant to all kinds of dads—new, step, single, empty nesters, or grandparents.Emphasis on authentic connection, not perfection.Ontario-based but featuring guests and stories with wide-reaching appealGetting StartedListeners are encouraged to join the Dad Space community and visit DadSpace.ca for additional resources. The podcast is available on all major platforms and is frequently updated with fresh, relevant content.In summary:If you're a dad in Canada—or anywhere—looking to connect, learn, and laugh with others who understand the unique journey of fatherhood, the Dad Space Podcast with Dave Campbell is your welcoming space to do just that.https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 213 - Why Friendships Matter - Making and Keeping Dad-FriendsEpisode Theme Overview:Friendships are vital for mental health, emotional support, and overall well-being, especially for fathers who often face unique stresses and isolation. This episode explores why dads need trusted dad-friends, how friendships help us navigate fatherhood, and practical tips for making and maintaining these important connections.Key Points to Discuss:The Importance of Dad Friendships for Mental HealthFatherhood can be isolating and stressful, with many dads experiencing increased anxiety, loneliness, and mental health challenges during this life phase. Research shows that fathers without close friends report higher stress levels and depression risks. Having meaningful friendships acts as a protective factor and source of emotional supportWhy Friendships Often Drift During FatherhoodLife changes such as marriage, kids, and busy family schedules often mean dads spend less time maintaining friendships. Unlike moms, who tend to manage social calendars, dads may let friendships fade unintentionally. This episode can explore common reasons friendships drift and how dads can take ownership of reconnecting and nurturing those bonds.How Strong Male Friendships Support FatherhoodAuthentic dad friendships provide accountability, advice, encouragement, and modeling of healthy adult behavior. They help dads acquire the skills needed to be present, emotionally available fathers and husbands. These friendships protect against the pressures that cause men to withdraw or become disconnectedThe Power of Shared Experiences and VulnerabilityDiscuss how sharing fatherhood struggles, parenting challenges, and life experiences deepens bonds between dad-friends. The episode can touch on creating safe spaces where dads feel comfortable opening up, asking for help, and supporting each other without judgment.Practical Tips for Making and Keeping Dad-FriendsSchedule regular meetups or activities, such as sports, BBQs, or dad-child outings.Use technology to stay connected via calls, texts, or social media.Join community groups, parenting classes, or online dad networks.Be intentional about investing time and effort in friendships despite busy schedules.Encourage open communication and vulnerability among friends.The Long-Term Benefits of Dad FriendshipsStrong friendships improve emotional resilience, reduce stress, promote healthier relationships with spouses and children, and combat the loneliness many dads face now and later in life. Keeping close dad-friends helps fathers be better role models and maintain balance in lifehttps://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 212 - Navigating Work-Family Balance - Tools for Modern FathersIn this episode of Dad's Space Podcast, host explores the real challenges dads face in balancing work and family life. Reflecting on long commutes, demanding jobs, and emotional disconnect, we question if true work-life balance exists or if "work-life harmony" is a more realistic goal. The conversation dives into the struggles of transitioning from work mode to being fully present as a dad, redefining what it means to be a provider beyond just financial support, and the importance of embracing small daily moments at home to build meaningful connections with family. Practical strategies, such as a simple five-minute mental shift to switch gears, are shared to help dads thrive both at work and at home.Key Topics CoveredThe myth of work-life balance versus the reality of work-life harmonyThe emotional toll of long commutes and being physically distant from familyRedefining "provider" as presence and emotional availability, not just financial supportChallenges in mentally transitioning from work responsibilities to being a present dadThe importance of small, everyday moments for building trust and emotional closeness with kidsPractical tools and mindset shifts to help modern dads manage stress and improve family connectionInsights on the pressures and expectations faced by dads in 2025, including cultural shifts toward self-employment and work flexibilityKey Quotes from the Episode"I don't want to be a resource for my family. I want to be a provider.""There is no work-life balance when you're physically two hours away from home. It's just work, then family.""It's not about extravagant trips or toys. It's about being genuinely present in the little moments."Calls to ActionReflect on your own transition ritual from work mode to dad mode. What helps you switch gears?Commit to daily check-ins and being fully present with your family whenever you are homeShare your work-life harmony tips with the host to foster a supportive community of dadshttps://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 211 - From Dad to Grandpa - Graduating Into A New Role, Learning New Ways and Remembering the Old DaysEpisode SummaryIn this heartfelt episode of Dad Space, host Dave Campbell explores the rewarding transition from fatherhood into grandparenthood. Whether you're just becoming a grandpa or have been one for years, this episode dives into the identity shift, embracing the new role while honoring your past as a dad. Join us as we reflect on how to navigate this evolving relationship with adult kids and grandchildren—learning new ways to connect, respecting boundaries, and celebrating the joy of legacy.What You'll Hear in This EpisodeGraduating Into a New Role: The emotional journey of moving from being a dad to a grandpa — pride, joy, and finding your new place in the family.Learning New Ways: How modern grandparenting looks different, embracing today's parenting styles, respecting grown children's boundaries, and discovering fresh ways to bond with grandchildren.Remembering the Old Days: Reflecting on your fatherhood years, sharing family stories and values, and balancing nostalgia with acceptance of change.Navigating Challenges: Managing emotional complexities, feeling sidelined at times, and learning healthy communication and boundaries to keep family relationships strong.Key Takeaways for Dads & GranddadsGrandparenthood is a new identity to embrace, filled with opportunity for love and connection.Flexibility and open-mindedness make it easier to support your family in today's world.Passing down stories and traditions helps create lasting legacies.Boundaries between generations, when respected, strengthen family bonds.You're not alone—many dads have walked this path and grown beautifully into this meaningful role.Thanks for tuning into Dad Space — a safe space for dads to learn, connect, and grow together. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review so we can bring more conversations just like this one to your ears.https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 210 - Talking to Sons About Masculinity and Healthy ManhoodPillar 1: Redefining MasculinityKey Talking Points:Reflection on what “being a man” meant in your generation — toughness, stoicism, protection — and how that definition is shifting.Explores the myths of “boys don't cry” and why they hold men back.Tell their sons: “You don't have to be perfect, just be real.”“So once we start redefining what masculinity looks like, the real work is helping our sons understand what's going on in their hearts — and how to talk about it.”Pillar 2: Building Emotional IntelligenceKey Talking Points:Normalizing emotional literacy — teaching sons to name and express feelings.Talk side-by-side (in the car, on a walk, playing catch).Ask open-ended questions: “What made you proud today?” or “Was there anything that bugged you this week?”Use your own emotions as examples: “I got frustrated today, and here's how I handled it.”Reinforce that emotional awareness builds real confidence and leadership.“Emotional intelligence is key, but how we treat others — especially in the world our sons are growing up in — is another huge piece of healthy manhood.”Pillar 3: Modeling Respect and EqualityKey Talking Points:Discussed how respect is the foundation of modern masculinity — in friendships, dating, family, and online interactions.Talked about modeling respect at home — how you treat your partner, your own parents, waitstaff, coworkers, etc.Shared how to handle “boys being boys” moments — correcting gently and teaching instead of shaming.“As dads, one of the biggest lessons we can pass down is that asking for help, showing emotion, and caring for others doesn't make us weak — it makes us human.”Pillar 4: Mental Health, Vulnerability, and CommunityKey Talking Points:Addressed mental health as an everyday part of manhood conversations.Talked about the power of community — encouraging sons (and dads) to find supportive male friendships.Highlighted Movember's initiatives and how listeners can get involved: grow a mustache, host a “Dad Chat,” or donate to men's mental health programs.A Dad Space Challenge:take the week's Dad Space Challenge:Have one honest 10-minute conversation with your son about what being a man means — and listen more than you talk.Bonus: write down three traits you want your son to carry into adulthood and share them with him.https://allprodad.com/podcast/Episode mentioned: Should Dads Be Worried About the Manosphere?https://pod.link/1718772295/episode/QnV6enNwcm91dC0xNzgwODA0MAhttps://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 209 - Marital Connections - Keys to Lasting Love as ParentsHey Dads, welcome back to Dad Space, the weekly spot where we gather to talk about the heart of fatherhood — growth, connection, and everything in between. This November, we're proud to be part of the Movember Movement, focusing not just on men's physical health, but also on relationships, mental wellness, and emotional resilience.Today, we're diving into something that affects every dad at some stage — how to keep love alive once kids enter the picture. Our topic: Marital Connections – Keys to Lasting Love as Parents.Because let's be real — parenting changes love. It tests you, refines you, and if you handle it with care, it can deepen your marriage in ways you never expected.Pillar 1: Prioritize Connection Over CorrectionWhen we become dads, it's easy to slip into the mode of “fixer-in-chief.” We spend so much time correcting — the kids, the routines, the chaos — that connection can fade into the background.But connection is the love fuel that keeps marriages alive. Try this tonight: before bed, take five minutes with your partner — and talk about anything except schedules, homework, or the kids. Just reconnect as two people who chose each other.Another simple tip: use appreciation as a daily vitamin. Saying, “I noticed how patient you were with the kids today” goes miles further than “We need to talk about how you handled bedtime.”And when tensions flare — which they will — practice curiosity instead of criticism. Ask, “What's really going on for you right now?” Connection thrives on empathy, not defensiveness.Pillar 2: The Team Mindset in ParentingThe healthiest marriages see parenting as a team sport, not a scoreboard. There's no such thing as a perfect 50/50 split — some seasons you'll give 70 while your partner gives 30, and that's okay.Here's a simple exercise: create a “code word” both of you can use when you're overwhelmed. Maybe it's “tap out” or “time-in.” This keeps the peace before frustration boils over.Celebrate the small wins together — like getting through a chaotic morning routine without anyone crying, including you! These moments remind both of you that you're doing something extraordinary together.And remember, teamwork isn't just for you — your kids are watching. They're learning how love cooperates, how support looks in action, and what respect sounds like.Pillar 3: Communicate with Empathy and IntentionHere's the truth — communication isn't just about talking. It's about tuning in.Dads, when we approach communication with empathy, we set the emotional temperature for the home.Try this: schedule a weekly “connection conversation.” Phones away, kids settled, just a calm 30 minutes where you both check in — emotionally, mentally, and relationally.And when disagreements happen, lead with “I feel” instead of “You always.”That one language shift turns battles into conversations.Also, acknowledge the unseen effort. Say things like, “I see how much you juggle every day.” Emotional recognition is one of the strongest antidotes to resentment.Pillar 4: Keep Romance and Friendship IntertwinedParenting can push romance to the backburner, but love doesn't have to leave when diapers arrive — it just evolves.Plan intentional date nights, even if that's a movie on the couch after bedtime.Keep the friendship alive — tease each other, laugh, and remember the spark that started it all.Physical affection, small hugs, morning kisses, or even a gentle hand squeeze — they're reminders that love still lives here.And honor each other's individuality. Let your partner have space for their passions — and keep your own. When both people grow, the marriage doesn't stagnate — it...

Episode 208 - What Every Dad Needs to Know About Mental Wellness - Movember on Dads SpaceEpisode Summary:In this Movember edition of Dad Space, we dive deep into what every dad needs to know about mental wellness — from breaking stigmas to building habits that keep you grounded. Modern fatherhood brings its share of pressures, but it also offers an opportunity to redefine what real strength looks like. Join us as we discuss how vulnerability, balance, community, and self-awareness can transform the way we parent and live.What You'll Hear in This Episode1. Redefining Strength — The Modern Dad's MindsetExplore how traditional ideas of masculinity can hold dads back from seeking help.Learn why emotional honesty is an act of strength, not weakness.Hear personal stories of dads who became better partners and fathers by embracing vulnerability.Discover how emotional literacy strengthens relationships and helps your family thrive.Key Takeaway: Real strength means showing up as your full self — emotions, imperfections, and all.2. Managing the Mental LoadIdentify the “dad load” and how constant stress can drain your energy and patience.Learn simple, actionable techniques to manage daily pressure.Understand how small resets (like five quiet minutes before your phone turns on) can lower stress levels.Gain tools for recognizing and addressing burnout before it takes over.Key Takeaway: You can't pour from an empty cup — caring for your mind helps you care better for your family.3. Connection is the Cure — Building Your Support NetworkDiscover why loneliness is one of the biggest threats to men's mental health.Learn how friendships and check-ins can protect against burnout.Hear from Movember ambassadors and dads who found strength in community.Get ideas for forming “dad circles” or accountability partners.Key Takeaway: Brotherhood is a mental health strategy — connection keeps you balanced and grounded.4. Modeling Wellness for the Next GenerationExplore how your behaviors shape your kids' emotional intelligence.See how dads can normalize conversations about feelings and resilience.Understand how breaking silence around men's emotions builds healthier families.Learn small daily habits that show your kids what self-care really looks like.Key Takeaway: Every time you model wellness, you teach your kids that emotional health is part of real strength.Dad Space ChallengeYour 5-Minute Reset:Before grabbing your phone tomorrow morning, take five quiet minutes to just breathe. No screens, no distractions — just space. You'd be amazed at what the pause does for your mindset.https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 207 - Why Movember Matters - Dads and the Men's Health MovementMovember matters deeply to fathers and families everywhere because it's not just about moustaches—it's about men showing up for their health, their families, and each other. The movement, founded through movember.com, focuses on tackling the biggest health issues facing men today: mental health and suicide prevention, prostate cancer, and testicular cancer.The Why Behind MovemberMen, especially dads, are often the rock of their families—but sometimes that means they avoid asking for help or checking in on their own health. Movember's research shows that the quality of men's social connections is one of the strongest predictors of mental and physical wellbeing. Dads who maintain real, supportive friendships are less likely to experience anxiety and depression, and they model healthy emotional openness for their kids.Movember also highlights that 1 in 10 new dads experience depression during the transition to fatherhood and can be up to 47 times more at risk of suicide during this period compared to other times in life. That's why Movember funds programs like Family Man, a free, evidence-based online parenting program that helps fathers connect, build skills, and improve family relationships.The Movember Institute: Turning Research into ActionThrough the Movember Institute of Men's Health, the organization brings together experts, partners, and communities to advance early detection, treatment, and support programs that transform men's health outcomes. The goal is clear: Healthy men, healthy world.How Dads Can Take Action This MovemberHere's how fathers can get involved and make this November meaningful—for themselves and for the next generation:Grow a MoStart November clean-shaven and grow your moustache proudly. Use it as a talking point to start important conversations about men's health with friends, family, and coworkers. Create your Mo Space at movember.com and share your story.Move for MovemberRun or walk 60km through the month—that's 60km for the 60 men lost to suicide every hour worldwide. Get moving solo, with your kids, or as a family. You can track your progress and raise funds while teaching your children the importance of mental health and community.Host a Dad Space EventBring your buddies together for a “Dad Space Mo Night.” Whether it's watching a game, having a firepit chat, or doing a group workout, turn it into an opportunity to raise awareness and funds—and check in on each other.Share Your StoryRecord a short video or podcast segment about why Movember matters to you. Encourage vulnerability by sharing something you've learned about health, fatherhood, or mental resilience.Book That Check-UpUse Movember as a cue to schedule your annual physical, learn about testicular self-exams, or encourage a friend to do the same. Health conversations save lives.Stay ConnectedMake a list of three mates you haven't talked to lately and check in. A simple “How are you, really?” could make a huge difference for someone struggling in silence.A Message for DadsMovember is about more than awareness—it's about action and connection. It reminds dads everywhere that taking care of your health isn't selfish; it's one of the most powerful gifts you can give your family. When...

Episode 206 - Starting Strong - Building Better Morning Routines for FathersStarting strong in the morning sets the tone for a dad's entire day. Whether you naturally wake up early or hit snooze three times, having a routine that works for you can boost energy, patience, and presence — especially when navigating family life.Morning routines improve focus, reduce stress, and help fathers respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively — especially when juggling breakfast, backpacks, and work deadlinesThis isn't about rigid scheduling — it's about rhythm. What separates a good morning routine from an unrealistic one is flexibility. Even a 10-minute “mini routine” can yield huge personal benefits. The point isn't when you wake up — it's being deliberate about how you start the day.Practical Tips for “Non-Morning” DadsMany fathers believe morning routines are reserved for early risers or gym fanatics — that's not true. Non-morning dads can absolutely thrive by starting smaller:Skip the phone first. The first 10 minutes shape your mindset — avoid news, emails, or social media.​Prep the night before. Lay out clothes, prep coffee, or plan breakfast ahead to save mental load.​Start with water and light. Hydrate and get sunlight or bright light exposure — it wakes up your brain naturally.​Keep it simple. Choose one anchor habit (movement, gratitude note, or quiet coffee time) and do only that daily until it sticks.​Shift the “morning” if needed. Your reset might start after school drop-off or at lunch. It's about intentional starts, not clock time.​The Ripple Effect on Family LifeWhen dads own their mornings, the whole household benefits. You show up more grounded, less rushed, and more emotionally present. Kids learn by watching how you transition from rest to responsibility — your calm becomes their classroom. Fathers who start their day with clarity often report better communication with partners and smoother mornings with their children.https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 205 - Navigating Divorce and Blended Families - Healing and Growth for DadsNavigating divorce and blended families as a dad involves embracing change, prioritizing healing, and fostering positive growth—for oneself and for children. Building trust, maintaining structure, and embracing empathy are essential as fathers transition into new roles and family dynamics. A variety of resources and practical strategies are available to support dads through this complex journey.Key Strategies for Healing and GrowthPrioritize Emotional Wellness: Divorce can be an emotional upheaval, often leading to feelings of isolation, sadness, or frustration. Seeking counseling or peer support helps dads process these emotions and model healthy coping for children.Show Up Every Day: Children, no matter their behavior, need consistent presence, reassurance, and affection from their dads. Maintaining daily routines and emotional support is critical for building stability.Positive Co-Parenting: Open communication, clear boundaries, and formal parenting plans promote a smoother transition and reduce conflict between parents, putting children's needs front and center.Embrace the New Family Structure: Step-parenting and blending families require patience, humor, and flexibility. Focus on nurturing trust and genuine connections while respecting each child's unique journey.Practice Self-Care: Physical, mental, and emotional self-care is vital for fathers. Strong personal well-being enables dads to parent effectively and face stresses with resilience.Build Support Networks: Joining support groups for divorced or blended family dads helps share experiences, find encouragement, and gain practical advice for unique challenges.Helpful ResourcesCounseling & Support Services:BetterHelp (affordable online therapy for dads and kids)Families in Transition (Family Service Toronto) offers support for emotional well-being after significant family changesDads Aiming for Direction and Support (community groups for dads post-divorce)Further Reading:The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce: A Guide to Co-Parenting for Divorced DadsA compassionate, practical guide for fathers navigating divorce—and building a thriving co-parenting relationship that puts kids first. Divorce doesn't end your role as a dad—it redefines it. In The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce, author and parenting advocate Paul Mandelstein offers a clear, empowering roadmap for divorced fathers who want to stay deeply connected to their children and create a healthy, cooperative relationship with their co-parent. Mandelstein, the divorced father of four children and founder of the Father Resource Network (FRN), draws from real-life experiences. Grounded in principles of collaboration, communication, and emotional intelligence, this guide helps dads move beyond conflict and into a new chapter of fatherhood—one defined by presence, purpose, and peace. Packed with advice from family counseling experts, anecdotes from divorced parent groups, interviews with fathers, mothers, and children, and the author's own first-hand experiences, The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce is a realistic yet compassionate approach to parenting during and after divorce. The user-friendly format combines bulleted lists with practical suggestions, exercises, and even sample dialogues that make even the most difficult conversations with children and former spouses more manageable. Most importantly, this guidebook empowers men to be the best fathers they can be: fathers who are present and accountable, loving and leading, competent and caring.

Episode 204 - Idols, Demons, and Humans - The Three Phases Between Fathers and SonsEvery father and son travel through three powerful emotional phases in their relationship — idolization, demonization, and humanization. This episode explores the evolution of how sons see their fathers as they age and grow in understanding.The conversation dives deep into how time and experience reshape perspective. When we're young, our fathers are heroes who can do no wrong. As teenagers or young adults, we often swing to the opposite extreme — blaming them for flaws and mistakes. But with age and reflection, we begin to see them as people, shaped by their own stories, pain, and imperfections.Listeners will hear reflections on forgiveness, empathy, and how acknowledging our fathers' humanity can free us from resentment. It's a raw, honest look at what it means to move from judgment to understanding — and how that shift can bring healing and connection across generations.every father–son relationship evolves through three distinct emotional phases — idolization, demonization, and humanization.When sons are young, they look up to their dads as heroes who can fix anything and know everything. As they grow older, that pedestal starts to wobble. The “demonize” phase emerges when sons begin to see their father's imperfections — authority starts to feel restricting, discipline can sting, and rebellion finds its voice. Yet with time, maturity, and perspective, something profound happens: sons begin to humanize their fathers. They see them not as flawless role models or as antagonists, but as real men with their own struggles, stories, and scars. This is the moment of reconciliation and empathy — where love and understanding can replace judgment and resentment.​Why This Matters for DadsResearch shows that how fathers model emotional openness and resilience deeply shapes their sons' mental health, empathy, and sense of masculinity. Studies from National Center for Biotechnology Information (NIH) emphasize that father–son relationships framed around empathy and emotional availability help young men develop confidence, communication skills, and healthier relationships with others.​Dads who demonstrate both strength and vulnerability raise sons who are more adaptable and emotionally aware. This transformation — from authority figure to human connection — is a cornerstone of generational healing.Takeaways for ListenersReflect on which phase you're currently living in with your own father or son. Are you idolizing, demonizing, or humanizing?Lead with curiosity — understanding the experiences that shaped your dad helps soften resentment.Model emotional honesty with your son; let him see you fail, repair, and grow. That transparency teaches love in motion.Remember: forgiveness isn't weakness; it's the bridge that connects generations.Every father and son will eventually confront the mirror of time and empathy. In seeing our dads as humans, we not only reclaim compassion — we redefine what it truly means to be a father ourselves.For more information:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9513388/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 203 - The Real Friend Test - When Your Success Becomes Their DiscomfortBusiness ownership reveals the true dynamics of friendship. When launching your venture, some people suddenly expect "bro deals"—special pricing or favors—while others support you without hesitation, recognizing your hard work and cheering for your success. It's ironic that many will tip generously at a café but hesitate to pay full price to someone they know. This mindset can undercut both your business and the confidence you need to pursue your dreams.Real friends not only pay fairly but go above and beyond to advocate and promote your business. Their investment helps you thrive and fosters meaningful community support. However, as your business grows, tensions may arise—old friends might struggle with your upward trajectory, experiencing discomfort with changes to status or the perceived shift in relationship. This can manifest as jealousy or criticism, as your progress reminds them of places where they may have settled or stopped pushing themselves.Let these moments guide you in setting healthy boundaries, surrounding yourself with those who genuinely root for your journey—not just when it's convenient for them. Entrepreneurship is an act of courage, and sometimes, true friendship is proven not by words, but by action and respect for your worth___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 202 - Showing Kids How to Argue with Respect and Empathy - Don't Hide Your DisagreementsTeaching kids to argue with respect and empathy - and not hiding parental disagreements—can foster emotional intelligence, healthy conflict resolution skills, and stronger family connectionsWhy Model Respectful Arguments?When kids see parents argue respectfully, they learn that disagreements are a natural part of relationships and can be resolved without hurtful behavior.​Hiding all disagreements can confuse children, who sense underlying tension but don't see healthy ways to resolve it, potentially leading to anxiety or insecurityParents should never argue or disagree in front of their kids, and share research that suggests the opposite—it's actually beneficial when done constructivelyKey Skills to Model:Active Listening: Engage in conversation where everyone gets to express their point of view without interruption.​“I” Statements: Use language like “I feel concerned when…” instead of blaming or accusatory statements.​Acknowledging Perspectives: Validate the other person's feelings or viewpoint, teaching empathy and mutual respect.Tangible Takeaways:Kids benefit from seeing disagreements that end in compromise, understanding, or affectionate reconnection, rather than unresolved tension or aggression.​Having “repair moments” after conflict—showing how to apologize and reconnect—models essential social skills.​Enable kids to voice their own perspectives within the family, fostering their ability to disagree respectfully with peers and adults.Practical Tips for Dads:Stay calm, keep tone respectful, and focus on the issue, not personal attacks.​Use disagreements as teaching moments for problem-solving and compromise.After conflict, discuss what happened and model reflecting, apologizing, and reconnectingAs Dads, we need to embrace authentic, respectful conversations at home, allowing kids to see the full arc of disagreement to resolution. By doing so, they help shape emotionally resilient, empathetic adults equipped to handle conflict thoughtfully in every part of life.For more on this topic - check out - https://talkingworks.ca/uncategorized/healthy-arguments-how-parents-can-disagree-with-children-effectively/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 201 - Never Letting Go First - The Disney Hug Rule and Dad's Role in Emotional SafetyThe Disney Hug Rule is an unofficial but widely recognized guideline observed by Disney characters at the parks: when a child initiates a hug, the character does not let go until the child decides to end the embrace. This rule is rooted in empathy and kindness, ensuring that children feel fully comforted and emotionally supported during their magical experience. It acknowledges that the child may need the hug for as long as they choose because "you never know how much that child may need that hug." Characters are trained to hold the hug patiently, making guests feel valued and loved, which creates lasting memories for families visiting the parks. While not a strict official policy, it is a purposeful practice reflecting Disney's commitment to connection and warmth.Applying this rule to parenting, especially for dads with their children and in loving relationships with wives or partners, it suggests a powerful lesson: in love and care, one should be patient and fully present, holding onto the emotional connection as long as the other person needs it. In parenting, this means giving children the safety and security of emotional availability, allowing them to lean in for comfort and support without rushing away. For dads, this embodies nurturing presence and unconditional love—being there physically and emotionally until the child naturally pulls away, building trust and a secure bond.Similarly, in relationships with wives and partners, adopting the spirit of the Disney Hug Rule advocates for sustained emotional presence and affection. It means holding on emotionally and physically, being patient and receptive to the partner's needs for closeness and reassurance. This approach strengthens intimacy and fosters a deep sense of being loved and valued, reinforcing a respectful and empathetic partnership.Dads can use the Disney Hug Rule—never letting go first when hugging their kids—as a powerful tool for teaching emotional safety and trust. This approach communicates to children that their feelings and needs are important and respected, allowing them to decide when they are ready to end a moment of closeness. By consistently hugging until the child lets go first, dads send the message that they are a safe, patient, and attentive presence, which promotes confidence and reassurance in the child's relationship with their parentPractical Ways to Apply the RuleAlways let children end the hug, no matter their age—this transfers a sense of control, respect, and security to the child, showing that their comfort is the priority.Use hugs as moments of genuine connection, being fully present without distractions, which helps children feel seen and valued.Reinforce emotional safety by embracing feelings—whether a child is sad, excited, or anxious, the lingering hug lets them know their emotions are accepted and supported.Promote body autonomy and consent by allowing kids to choose when physical affection ends—this underpins future emotional intelligence and healthy boundaries.Integrate this practice into daily routines: before school, at bedtime, or during moments of distress, turning each hug into a brief but impactful lesson in trust and comfort.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 200 - How Labels Shape Our Kids - The Words We Choose MatterLabels applied to children—whether intended as praise or criticism—can profoundly shape a child's sense of identity, their behavior, and what opportunities they believe are open to them. This topic is the subject of several important articles and resources for parents, which underline why careful language, especially from dads, is essential for a child's long-term mental health and self-worth.Why Labels Stick to KidsLabels create a “self-fulfilling prophecy” when children internalize them, feeling pressure to live up (or down) to expectations set by significant adults.Both negative and positive labels can limit development: negative labels hurt self-esteem, while positive ones may create anxiety if a child feels they have to maintain the trait at all times.Repeated language from parents, especially dads, becomes “truth” for a child, impacting relationships with peers, teachers, and eventually shaping their opportunities.How to Break Through Negative LabelsPraise specific behaviors (“You showed kindness today”) rather than fixed identities (“You are always kind”).Make room for new interests and highlight effort, not just outcome or natural ability.Encourage repeated positive self-talk and let kids know change is always possible—identity isn't set in stone.Model openness and vulnerability as a parent, showing that everyone can learn, grow, and change.Labels stick to kids and affect their behavior by influencing how they view themselves, what others expect of them, and the opportunities they pursue—making every word a Dad says deeply important for a child's sense of identity. Children absorb what they're told with surprising sensitivity, especially from parents and family members. Repeated labels—whether “troublemaker,” “shy,” or “smart”—become internalized as “truths.” These labels can shape a child's self-concept, and over time, they begin to see themselves mainly through the lens of those labels. Even labels meant in good fun or as praise can be limiting when they put kids in a box or create unrealistic expectations.Every supportive conversation helps to untangle the hurt of old labels and allows kids to build self-worth, resilience, and trust in their own potential. Each day truly offers a new chance to reinvent and grow.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 199 - Wait Until Your Dad Gets Home - Why Kids Should Run Toward, Not From, DadA healthy and welcoming home tone starts with dads and partners being intentional about how everyone feels when Dad arrives and how discipline is communicated. Here are four main strategies, with supporting ideas, that can transform the “wait till your father gets home” sentiment into one of anticipation and warmth, plus podcast title suggestions for your episodeLead with Respect and KindnessRespect is foundational for positive relationships and a healthy home atmosphere. Dads have a unique impact—what is said and, especially, how it's said matters; speaking gently, giving eye contact, and greeting others warmly model respect.Encourage respectful communication between partners and children. Avoid harshness and sarcasm; instead, use kind words to keep lines of listening open and build trustMake Discipline Team-Based, Not Threat-BasedThe classic phrase “wait till your father gets home” can create anxiety or fear if used as a threat. Instead, parents should address issues together and communicate with collaborative language: “Let's talk with Dad about what happened so we can all learn and move forward”.Don't set up Dad as the “bad cop” or the source of punishment, this can damage children's perception of their relationship with him. Handle small issues immediately and use arrival times as moments for reconnection, not confrontationCreate Welcoming Homecoming RitualsHow Dad enters matters—a cheerful greeting (hugs, excited shouts, smiles) sets the mood for the evening and can become a cherished family ritual. Dads should reciprocate by demonstrating excitement and genuine joy when seeing their family after work.Use physical cues (open lighting, tidy spaces, favorite music, or simple routines like a shared snack) to make everyone's return home feel special and safe, reinforcing positive anticipation when Dad comes home.Practice Humility and Empathy DailyDads and partners can build emotional safety by owning mistakes, apologizing sincerely, and listening empathetically. Show kids that nobody is perfect, and modeling humility helps relationships flourish.Empathy—validating emotions even in tough moments, helps to de-escalate conflict and encourages children to approach parents with their feelings and challenges, rather than hide or dread conversations___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 198 - How Dads Can Help Kids Cope With Disturbing Events OnlineTo address horrific events in the news as a Dad with children—especially with the flood of real-time, sometimes graphic information online—requires honest, age-appropriate conversation, parental guidance on media, and intentional emotional support. Here's how to help kids process unfettered access to traumatic world events:Guiding Your Kids Through Traumatic News1. Start with Honest, Age-Appropriate ConversationsBe truthful about events, but only share details your child can process based on age and maturity2. Limit Direct Exposure to Disturbing ContentMonitor screen and social media time closely; turn off background news or screens when kids are around.Proactively block access to graphic images or videos and absorb news together, encouraging discussion afterwards3. Listen and Validate Their FeelingsAsk what your child has seen, heard, or feels. Let them talk and express worry, sadness, anger, or confusionNormalize their emotions; assure them it's okay to feel upset or ask questions.4. Provide Reassurance and SafetyEmphasize what is being done to keep everyone safe and how community helpers support those affected.Maintain familiar routines—meals, bedtime—to restore a sense of normalcy and security.5. Correct Misinformation and Offer ContextAsk what they've heard from peers or social media, clarifying rumors and correcting any false ideas.Put events in context, focusing on stories of resilience and positive community action.6. Promote Critical Thinking and EmpathyEncourage older children and teens to reflect on why certain stories go viral and discuss the purpose behind media coverage.Highlight opportunities for kindness, compassion, and community support—even small acts they can takeBy providing guidance and safe space for open discussion, Dads can help children navigate distressing world events, build resilience, and maintain emotional well-being in today's connected world._____https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 197 - Happy Dad, Healthy Family, Joyful Fatherhood Without GuiltDads often neglect their own happiness in favor of family needs, but prioritizing personal joy and open communication is critical for the well-being of the entire family and the health of relationships. Making time for hobbies, self-care, and sharing these needs with a partner—as well as letting go of guilt—helps dads stay recharge, remain engaged, and model healthy emotional behaviors for their children.Making Time for YourselfBusy dads can reclaim "me time" through intentional strategies such as scheduling personal activities, setting boundaries, starting with small time commitments (as little as 15–30 minutes a day), integrating family and personal interests, and practicing mindfulness. Suggestions include engaging in hobbies, regular exercise, solo outings (like seeing a movie or getting a massage), and spending time with friends.Rekindling Joy Guilt-FreeMany fathers feel guilty for enjoying personal activities away from family, but embracing hobbies and interests helps recharge energy and enrich identity—making for better parenting. Communication and reciprocity with a partner are essential: encourage each other to pursue interests and recognize everyone's unique needs for self-care. Letting go of guilt leads to happier, more balanced fatherhood.Talking With Your PartnerHaving an honest conversation with a partner is crucial. Express what you need in terms of self-care—time, activities, and support—and invite your partner to share their needs too. Approach it as a two-way, empathetic discussion focused on “refilling your cup” so you're present, fulfilled, and better able to support your family. Implementing a clear and mutual plan ensures both partners understand and honor each other's needs.Impact on Family Health and RelationshipsA dad's well-being is strongly tied to family health, children's development, and relationship satisfaction. When fathers model healthy self-care and emotional fulfillment, children benefit from improved attachment, confidence, academic achievement, and psychological health. Involved, happy dads create nurturing environments where the whole family thrivesHere is an action-oriented summary that dads can use and apply right away to find more joy, prioritize happiness, and support their families through intentional self-care:Action Steps for DadsCommit to Prioritizing Your Well-Being: Make a conscious decision to value your happiness and self-care as essential, not optional. Recognize that when you care for yourself, you model healthy behavior and improve the family's well-being.Schedule “Me Time” Regularly: Block out time in your calendar each week for hobbies, interests, exercise, or peaceful downtime. Treat this time as non-negotiable and just as important as other commitments.Acknowledge Your Emotions: Notice and accept your feelings—whether stress, joy, or anxiety—without judgment. Express your needs and feelings openly, so you're less likely to bottle them up.Talk to Your Partner: Share openly about your need for personal time and fulfillment. Frame the conversation around being your best self for your partner and family. Invite them to share their needs as well and work on a plan together.Reconnect with Your Passions: Restart a hobby or activity that once brought joy. Let go of guilt—making time for healthy interests helps recharge your mental, emotional, and physical health.Stay Connected: Maintain friendships and build community—especially with other dads. Social support makes it easier to process challenges and celebrate joys.Stay Active: Add movement to your daily routine, like walking, biking, or playing a sport. Physical activity is a proven stress reliever and energizer.Ask for Help When...

Episode 196 - Chris Kruger - Black Hawk Helicopters, Multiple Deployments, Anger and Fear, Lessons for DadsAbout the authorChris Kruger grew up just outside Spokane, Washington, and joined the Army before turning 21, driven by a sense of purpose and a thirst for challenge. Over the next 22 years, he forged a diverse and demanding military career—starting as an infantryman and eventually becoming a Blackhawk maintenance test pilot. His journey took him from Basic Training and Airborne School at Fort Benning to Fort Bragg, North Carolina, where he completed an impressive lineup of elite training programs, including Amphibious Reconnaissance School, Ranger School, HALO and HALO Jumpmaster, and Flight School, among others. Along the way, he earned the Expert and Combat Infantryman Badges, a Bronze Star, a Meritorious Service Medal, and several other honors. Chris deployed to Iraq, Afghanistan, and the Far East, spending more than five and a half years overseas—experiences that deeply shaped his outlook on leadership, resilience, and life. After retiring, he turned to writing as a way to unpack and give meaning to those intense years. What began as personal reflection quickly became a mission to reach others walking similar paths. Today, Chris lives in Huntsville, Alabama, with his wife Genevieve and their two daughters, Charlize and Isabelle—writing from a place of survival, strength, and connection. Together, Chris and Genevieve are active in their local church and committed to encouraging others to overcome life's hardships, expanding their reach through writing and a forthcoming podcast aimed at inspiring healing, faith, and perseverance.Book: Walking Away from the Ledge: A Soldier's MemoirWalking Away from the Ledge is a hard-hitting, no-BS military memoir that goes beyond the battlefield to expose the raw truth of war, survival, and self-destruction. With an unapologetic voice and brutal honesty, Chris takes readers deep inside the challenging world of an Army Ranger, the brotherhood that holds soldiers together, and the personal demons that threaten to tear them apart.More than a war story, this book is about what happens when the fight doesn't end—the toll of combat, the grip of addiction, and the struggle to hold onto love when everything else is falling apart. This memoir hits hard, digs deep, and refuses to look away.https://a.co/d/4nhPNiR___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 195 - Kelly Farley - Grieving Dads, He Lost His Baby Too, Survival Guide for the Grieving DadIf you have ever loved a child, then you understand what it's like to love someone more than you love life itself. If you have ever lost a child, then you understand more about hell than anyone could possibly be expected to know. This isn't something you get over. Only those who have lost a child can understand the depths to which this pain travels. Like most of the men who will read these books, I too am a grieving dad.The message I want bereaved fathers to understand is that I know it's hard, I know it hurts, I know it's scary — but you can get through this. You can survive. It will be the hardest thing you will ever experience; it will drain you physically, mentally, and emotionally. You can come out on the other side of this very long and lonely tunnel, but you will be a different person when you do. There is no going back to the old you.You also need to know that you are not alone in your grief. Other men have been through this and that the emotions they keep inside are the same emotions all of us experience, even if we don't talk about them. The best thing you can do is to reach out for help and to know it is not a sign of “weakness” to do so. Instead, it's a sign of courage and strength — the kind that's required to face this battle head on.Book: He Lost His Baby TooSurvival Guide for the Grieving DadThis book was written specifically for fathers grappling with the unbearable aftermath of losing a baby. It is all too easy for a bereaved father to succumb to a haunting sense of isolation after such a loss. However, within these pages lies a lifeline—a survival guide infused with wisdom, providing a roadmap through the complicated path of grief.In the wake of a tragic loss—whether it be a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or the untimely passing of an infant—this invaluable resource unravels the layers of anguish that overwhelm grieving fathers. Written by a grieving dad, this book offers unflinching honesty and poignant insight, it also delves into the raw pain that accompanies such a profound loss, assuring these men that their emotions, however overwhelming, are both valid and shared by others who have walked a similar path.Book: Grieving DadsTo the Brink and BackA collection of candid stories from grieving dads that were interviewed over a two-year period. The book offers insight from fellow members of, in the haunting words of one dad, “this terrible, terrible club,” which consists of men who have experienced the death of a child. This book is a collection of survival stories by men who have survived the worst possible loss and lived to tell the tale.They are real stories that pull no punches and are told with brutal honesty. Men that have shared their deepest and darkest moments. Moments that included thoughts of suicide, self-medication, and homelessness. Some of these men have found their way back from the brink, while others are still standing there, stuck in their pain. The core message of Grieving Dads is “you're not alone.” It is a message that desperately needs to be delivered to grieving dads who often grieve in silence due to society's expectations.https://www.grievingdads.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 194 - Shellee Howard - Get Your Kids College Ready with a Plan and a Question - Who Are YouShellee HowardCollege Ready Founder and CEOShellee has traveled around the world helping students plan for their “perfect match” college. She knows what it takes to compete in the Ivy schools as well as finding the best fit for all students. Shellee believes that no two students are the same, and each student must have their own strategy and plan to be successful. Each student has a gift/talent and a passion that will set him or her apart from their competition. College Ready has clients all over the world, and each one is important. Her focus is to find the best academic, financial, and social fit college for each student to thrive at!You deserve the College Ready “All hands on deck!” approach to your college application. We have the best college admissions consultants ready to help your student succeed!At College Ready, we are a team of certified college admissions consultants driven to help your student succeed both in college and in life. We plan individually with students and their families to build the perfect college match as well as financial fit.Our focus is your son or daughter and what he or she aspires to achieve. We are Certified College Counselors from UCSD, UCLA and come with years of experience helping students get into the perfect college or university. We enjoy working with students of all ages and stages. We have specialists who focus on the Ivy schools, and we have specialists who focus on getting B students into the best-fit college. Our goal is to help your student be the best they can be while graduating with little or no debt!https://collegereadyplan.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 193 - He Lost His Baby Too, Who Cares for the Father When Loss Hits Your HomeWho cares for Dads when the unthinkable happens - well it happened to me when we lost our child during pregnacy - I almost lost my wife as well. I recently had a guest author on my Living The Next Chapter Podcast. If you want to hear Elizabeth's interview follow this link for more:https://youtu.be/IGtexvEVVn8https://www.elizabeth-johnstone.com/Elizabeth Johnstone wrote a book about her journey of loss as a Mother when she lost her baby during pregnacy - this conversation with Elizabeth made me revisit my own giref as a Dad - the resources are not readily available for Dads - why is this? Why are we just a paragraph in a take home pamphlet on dealing with grief - who cares for a Dad when Dad is caring for Mom?When do we get to grieve as a Dad and is there anybody out there for us - if you have ever felt that there is nobody here for you in your grief, I tracked down a great author and fellow grieving Dad to help us all - check out Kelly's details herehttps://www.grievingdads.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 192 - When Parents Aren't Getting Along - When Relationships Impact Family4 Key Points for Dads: "When Parents Aren't Getting Along – When Relationships Impact Family"Acknowledge What Kids See and FeelChildren are deeply sensitive to tension and arguments between parents—even when you think you're hiding it. Recognize that your kids notice changes in tone, body language, and distance. It's important to reassure them that both parents still love them and the issues are not their fault.Model Healthy Conflict and RespectDisagreements are a normal part of any relationship, but how you handle conflict teaches your children crucial lessons. Aim to demonstrate respect, self-control, and active listening. Avoid insulting, yelling, or putting each other down, especially in front of your children. Showing that you can disagree and resolve issues maturely sets a lifelong example.Prioritize Open CommunicationBe proactive in talking to your partner about challenges rather than letting resentment build. Also, talk with your kids in an age-appropriate way: let them know families sometimes have tough moments, but working together as a team is important. Open communication supports a sense of safety and stability for everyone in the household.Protect the Parent-Child RelationshipNever use your relationship struggles as a reason to involve children in adult concerns or to undermine your partner as a parent. Commit to supporting each other's roles with your kids. Children benefit most when they see that, even in hard times, both parents remain invested in their wellbeing and daily lives.Encouragement to Dads:Being honest about difficulties, while working towards a respectful atmosphere, gives your children security and valuable coping skills. Family challenges are real, but with intentionality, dads can contribute to resilience and healing for everyone.tik tok video link from episodehttps://vt.tiktok.com/ZSkoydU1M/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 191 - Bret Davis - Author of Bretisms - Philosophies For a Life with Less Anxiety and More ConfidenceBret Davis is the author of a new book called "Bretisms" - A collection of thoughts over 30 chapters designed to be your new daily read! "You can't trip over things that are behind you" and more help you to hit the reset button and create space for yourself as a Dad.This is a shortened version of Bret's appearance on my author podcast, Living The Next Chapter. If you are dealing with a lack of confidence or an abundance of anxious thoughts and beliefs, this book might just be your next best read.Want to hear the entire interview? Check out out other podcast - Living The Next ChapterBret's episode:https://pod.link/1607392975/episode/365e21188c332d1c7ebc3c58b9a8012fBret's Website"https://bretisms.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 190 - Alex Lloyd Hunter - The Dad Shift, parents campaigning for better paternity leave in the UKThe Dad Shift is a group of men, dads and other parents campaigning for better paternity leave in the UKThe UK's pat leave problemThe UK's statutory paternity leave is bad. Really bad. In fact, it's the worst in Europe.Dads and non-birthing parents get only two weeks off, paid at less than half the minimum wage. Self employed people get nothing.There's now loads of evidence that this is bad for everyone: mums, dads, kids, and society as a whole.We are calling for paternity leave that is:SubstantialGives dads enough time off to support their partner and bond with their kids, without taking leave away from mums.AffordableIs paid at a rate that means everyone can afford to take it, with self-employed people getting paid too.EqualGives both parents equal leave, so mums and dads are free to shape their own roles in the family, not have them dictated by gender.This is a fight for all parentsWe're campaigning for substantial, affordable and equal leave for both parents in every relationship - same-sex, heterosexual, or adoptive - and for self-employed people. donate here!https://dadshift.org.uk/?form=websitehttps://dadshift.org.uk/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 189 - J Hall - God Help Me, I'm a Young Dad - Ten big ideas for DadsJ Hall is an author, educator, podcaster from Oklahoma City where he lives in with his wife, two dogs, and a rotating cast of adult children who stop in for meals and occasional dog-sitting. Most importantly, he is a grandpa, and he will certainly bore you to tears telling you how awesome his grandson is.J is the author of two books - God Help Me! I'm a Young Dad: 10 Essentials for Becoming the Dad Your Kids Need and his new book - College Unpacked: A Practical Guide to Choosing, Preparing For, and Excelling in College. J clearly does not believe in short titles. After more than 15 years in professional ministry, J has spent the second half of his career in higher education, currently serving as Dean of Social Sciences at Oklahoma City Community College and teaching sociology.Since 2021, J has hosted and produced the Okie Bookcast, a podcast dedicated to connecting curious readers with their next great read through interviewing authors and storytellers connected to Oklahoma. He also co-hosts a monthly book chat show through the Bookcast with his daughter, author and screenwriter Hannah Herron. J is a regular guest on a number of podcasts, talking about everything from books to pop culture to fatherhood and more. Book: God Help Me! I'm a Young Dad presents ten big ideas for dads who desire to become the father God wants them to be. Full of stories, encouragement, and practical application, this book equips young fathers to develop these essential characteristics in themselves and model them for their children while also helping those children begin the process of developing these traits in their own lives. Written for dads with kids from birth to age twelve, the insights and applications connect with dads of all ages and at all stages of fatherhood.Additionally, the book features a thirty day devotional guide to encourage readers to think about and begin to practice the essentials discussed in the book.https://www.jhallwriter.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 188 - Maury Wood - Grit and Wit For Dads - Give Your Kids Permission to Ask Questions Without Fearlife's too short to take seriously all the time — and way too long not to laugh at yourself along the way.Grit & Wit is where real-life stories meet a little sarcasm, a little wisdom, and a lot of "well, that didn't go as planned." It's faith, family, and finding the good stuff — even when you're dodging laundry piles and rogue snakes in the kitchen.Now also available in surround sound:The Grit & Wit Podcast on Spotify — real talk on parenting, marriage, faith, and whatever chaos shows up nextYouTube Channel — stories, reflections, and moments that hit home (and hit your funny bone)Want to support the stories? You can buy me a coffee here.New! Check out the official Grit & Wit shirts: Grit & Wit StoreCurrently writing a book inspired by a handwritten letter from my grandmother — a story about legacy, grit, and the lessons that last. Coming soon.Also featured on podcasts like Dad Up, Dad Space, Living the Next Chapter, and The Family Teams Podcast, with more to come. You can give them a listen in the Grit and Wit in the Wild tab.No spam. No ads. No lectures. Just a guy with a few scars, a lot of memories, and a stubborn streak trying to make sense of it all — and helping you do the same.Pull up a chair. It's going to be fun.https://gritandwit.substack.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 187 - Sally McQuillen - Loving and Losing a Wild Child, Addiction, Rehab and Dangerous ChoicesSally McQuillen, LCSW, CADC, is a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in addiction, grief, and trauma recovery. She provides ongoing support for addiction recovery, as well as support for those recovering from the impact of a loved one's addiction. She sees adults seeking relief from mood symptoms, helps them navigate their personal and professional relationships and lead more fulfilling lives. She works with clients to find peace and healing from trauma and loss. Her goal is to bring light into the lives of her clients intuitively pulling from different therapeutic models and resources to support their specific needs.Book: Reaching for Beautiful - A Memoir of Loving and Losing a Wild ChildA luminous story of how love triumphs over pain, love transcends fear, and love never dies; this debut memoir from a mother grieving her young-adult son's death is a must-read for any parent who has lost a child, is raising a child from the edge of their seat, or whose family struggles with addiction.When Sally's twenty-one-year-old son died in a boat accident, her greatest fear is realized. Christopher was often drawn to risk and struggled with addiction. In this riveting memoir, Sally captures the wild ride of his jam-packed life and her deep love for him while reflecting on her own childhood and family's legacy of alcoholism. Sally shares insights about what it's like to experience the emotional aftershocks of acute grief, filtered through the lens of her personal experience as a mother and her professional vantage point as a psychotherapist. Even if they have not been touched by loss in this way, readers may see themselves in Sally's bittersweet illusion of trying to keep her son safe, in how she is challenged to let go of her fear, guilt, and regret in order to forgive herself, and in the ways grief teaches her about the power of love.https://www.sallymcquillen.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 186 - Mista Yu (Yusef Marshall) - What Men Deal With, Helping Dad's, Introverted ParentingAbout Yusef MarshallYusef Marshall (Mista Yu) was born in Brooklyn, NY and has multiple degrees in Business Admin and Mgmt as well as degrees in Computer Programming, Certified Business Coaching, and Culinary Arts. Mista Yu has also authored his first and only published book "The Heart of The Stepfather" in 2016. His story on blended families and the challenges of building family without a personal context is awe-inspiring! You probably won't be able to find the book these days though. Mista Yu's career has been centered around serving others and attempting to make the world around him better. He has worked for a decade in the food service industry as a Chef in the LowCountry kitchens, serving in the State Government as a Passport associate and Department Supervisor, as well as currently serving as a Licensed and Ordained Minister, teaching leadership development, biblical principles, and community service.Mista Yu and his wife have three grown daughters, six grandchildren, and one great-grandchild they have yet to meet formally. He believes that strong families create strong communities and strong communities create strong cities and states and strong cities and states create strong nations and a strong world.Mista Yu escaped death multiple times and has two stories that he calls "conversion stories" that are instrumental in shaping the man, the father, and the leader he is today. Feel free to ask about them.Yusef is the founder of Mirror Time Media, LLC, and the "They Call Me Mista Yu" podcast/media brand, as well as the Co-Founder of a non-profit organization, Save The Children SC, dedicated to the advocacy and awareness of the needs of children in our community. We endeavor to teach financial and reading literacy, how to conduct oneself wisely and become an asset to our communities and not a liability, as well as partner with local organizations who share our desire to see our children grow healthy and strong, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. They Call Me Mista Yu is a podcast brand with four shows currently airing (live and recorded):Inspiration Station - Teaching and encouragement with a personal touch and taken from the challenging stories Mista Yu has overcome as well as current topics and issues in our time that are relevant to every listener. The goal is to be "Your Weekly Mirror Check before you change your world". This is where Mista Yu is most transparent and where he shoots the straightest!One On One with Mista Yu - our flagship interview show where Mista Yu interviews everyone from former CEOs to former and current athletes to Mompreneurs to best-selling authors. If there is a compelling story that resonates with his viewers, Mista Yu is ready to have that conversation. The Men's Roundtable Series Podcast - every month, men from around the country and around the world discuss issues that impact men in every area of their lives. It's a safe space for support and solutions!Big Blue Lifers Podcast - where Mista Yu gets to discuss his childhood team, the New York Giants, and all things football. This is where he is reminded most of his hometown of NYC and the good things about his city, along with a deep love and appreciation for competitive sports and the connections he has made through those experiences.The TCMMY brand is dedicated to being the All-Purpose Pod for an All-Purpose Life. Our YouTube channel even has content on gardening and how to plant and grow your own food. Mista Yu's a licensed and ordained minister, so he can marry you and bury you too. LOL.https://theycallmemistayu.buzzsprout.com/___

Episode 185 - Kindness, Strength, and Presence - What Father's Day Means in 2025Father's Day 2025 marks a special milestone-the third anniversary of the Dad Space Podcast. As dads everywhere celebrate this year, it's a perfect moment to share uplifting sentiments that honor the journey of fatherhood. Fatherhood isn't about perfection; it's about showing up with love, patience, and presence every day. Whether you're reading bedtime stories, offering guidance, or simply being a steady presence, your consistent care shapes your children's world in profound ways.This Father's Day, take pride in the quiet strength you bring to your family. Your kindness, wisdom, and willingness to grow make you a role model-not just for your kids, but for the community around you. Remember, the small moments-the smiles, the hugs, the everyday acts of support-are the foundation of a loving legacy that lasts a lifetime.To all dads, stepdads, grandfathers, and father figures: thank you for your dedication, your sacrifices, and the joy you bring into your families' lives. You are appreciated more than words can say. Celebrate this day knowing you are exactly the father your children need, perfectly imperfect and deeply loved.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270