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The decision to cut off a family member is a difficult one. Estrangement is an attempt to solve a painful, systemic relationship problem. This monumental move should be deeply considered, and my collectivist approach to therapy encourages being curious about and striving to understand how the different contexts our family members—epsecially those with a generational divide—grew up and live within can impact how we show up in our relationships. Without, of course, ever dismissing the very real trauma that can precede an estrangement.In this in-depth solo episode, I explore the dynamics of cut-offs, including what both the official research and my recent social media survey have to say. Then, I offer three relational self-awareness questions for folks on both sides of the estrangement experience: those considering cutting off a family member and those who are about to be or have been cut off.These questions aim to support compassionate dialogue that increases both party's chances of finding a solution. Whether you are the estranger or the estranged, it is my hope that this conversation will leave you with some tools and a perspective you may not have considered, one that takes each person's lived experience into consideration and opens up the possibility of finding a middle ground between an unhealthy status quo and walking away.Relevant Links:Get your companion workbook - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/cutoffMy talk on 1A: “When Loved Ones Become Strangers” - https://the1a.org/segments/when-loved-ones-become-strangers/Reimagining Love Episode: “End or Mend: Managing Difficult Family Relationships with Nedra Tawwab” - https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/end-or-mend-managing-difficult-family-relationships-with-nedra-tawwab/APA article: “Estrangement Is Never Easy or Straightforward. Psychologists Can Help” - https://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/04/healing-pain-estrangementVogue article: “Why So Many People (Myself Included) Are Experiencing Family Estrangement” - https://www.vogue.com/article/why-so-many-people-are-experiencing-family-estrangementAeon article: “Estrangement” - https://aeon.co/essays/modern-culture-blames-parents-for-forces-beyond-their-controlOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Get effortless support for your balanced wellness lifestyle with Factor. Visit https://www.factormeals.com/TCFE50 and use the code TCFE50 to get 50% off your first box, plus 20% off the next month.Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.Hey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're going to be on a very short two week break starting Sept 17th. When we return on October 1st, we're going to start publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at dralexandrasolomon.com.

Founder and CEO of YourTango, Andrea Miller, joins Dr. Share to share the power of being a lifelong “seeker” of relational wisdom. Andrea has dedicated her life to connecting her audience with relationship experts and celebrating relational wisdom, and today, invites us into her journey of opening herself up to love's lessons.Relevant links:Learn more about YourTangoListen to Dr. Alexandra on Open Relationships: Transforming Together with Andrea MillerRadical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love by Andrea MillerOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

Loss and grief are universal and profoundly human. The death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a trauma that drastically shifts the trajectory of a life—each spurs a unique grieving process that can be difficult to navigate for both the people grieving and their support systems. As a chaplain at a Level One Trauma Center in Florida, J.S. Park provides emotional and spiritual care for and comfort to those experiencing grief. His support of patients at the end of their lives, and of the loved ones who remain, adds tremendous impact and compassion to his most recent book, As Long As You Need: Permission to Grieve. In this episode, J.S. shares with Dr. Alexandra what his education and experience have taught him about the “right” things to say and the ways to support grieving loved ones. He offers deeply considered insights into our misguided fear of bringing up the deceased, the impact of loss on the past and the future, and how to care for both a loved one and oneself during the grieving process. Relevant Links:Order J.S.'s book, As Long As You Need: Permission to GrieveConnect J.S. on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

What happens when we listen and are listened to more fully, forging a deeper connection? Decades of research tell us that the brain undergoes physiological changes when we begin to “talk without criticizing, listen without judgment, and connect beyond difference.” This is the definition of dialogue coined by today's guests, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt and Dr. Harville Hendrix. Doctors Hunt and Hendrix are internationally recognized couples therapists, educators, speakers, and a married couple themselves. Through decades of research, they developed the Imago Relationship Therapy method, which is taught to therapists around the globe. In this episode, they speak with Dr. Alexandra about moving from monologue (turning the conversation to focus on oneself) to dialogue (keeping the conversation focused on the speaker), and how listening and ensuring true understanding of a speaker's meaning has enormous benefits to our relationships and our brains.Relevant Links:Harville and Helen's new book, How To Talk to Anyone About Anything - https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/Learn more about Imago Relationship Therapy - https://harvilleandhelen.com/initiatives/what-is-imago/Explore Safe Conversations, A Methodology for Connecting - https://safeconversations.com/Order Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Relevant links:Listen to Part One of the Conflict seriesAccess the Conflict Skills worksheetCouples therapy directories: Gottman Referral NetworkTherapist.comPsychology TodayDomestic Violence ResourcesOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.Spread the love for SXSW! Vote for Dr. Alexandra's session “Preparing Emerging Adults for Love: The Marriage 101 Course” in the PanelPicker for SXSW EDU 2025.

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Relevant links:Access the Conflict Skills worksheetCouples therapy directories: Gottman Referral NetworkTherapist.comPsychology TodayDomestic Violence ResourcesOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Get 31% off Dr. Alexandra's two e-courses and workbook! Visit http://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com and enter code BDAY31 at checkout from now until August 12th.Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

Family therapy expert Dafna Lender and Dr. Alexandra explore the complexities of the parent-child relationship. With 25 years of experience, Dafna has a deep understanding of how a child's difficult behaviors and a parent's reactivity can clash and land a family into a therapist's office. Dafna explains how to disrupt this cycle by removing blame, exploring the parent's attachment history, and bringing a sense of joy and playfulness back into the relationship.Relevant links:Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship by Dafna LenderEngage further with Dafna's work onlineOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Get 31% off Dr. Alexandra's two e-courses and workbook! Visit http://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com and enter code BDAY31 at checkout from now until August 12th.Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

When it comes to life stages, “midlife” often gets the short end of the stick. We speak about adolescence and retirement as vistas rich with opportunity and possibility while we joke about midlife and its related crises. However, when we adopt an affectionate perspective, opportunity and joy prove to be just as possible in this “messy middle” stage. Many transitions take place over the decades following age 50. These milestones are no less impactful than those we celebrate, such as graduation and marriage, and yet most of us lack rituals to mark these evolutions and help us build communities of support in this time of great potential.Chip Conley was a disruptive force in the hospitality industry for decades. In 2018, he combined his experiences mentoring at Airbnb with his own midlife transition to launch the Modern Elder Academy (MEA). Today, the world's first “midlife wisdom school” offers luxurious, personal growth retreats in Baja California and New Mexico. Chip is also the author of seven books, including his most recent, Learning to Love Midlife.In December 2024, Dr. Alexandra will be at the Santa Fe ranch location of MEA leading a 5-day retreat for couples centered on healing the past, deepening connection, and creating a relational vision for the future. You can attend with your partner or on your own. To learn more about the retreat, Loving You Without Losing Me: A Retreat for Couples, visit the website and schedule a free consultation call with the MEA admissions team.Whether you are approaching midlife, are in the midst of it, or if midlife is in your rearview mirror, Chip's affectionate and curious approach to this often overlooked and undervalued stage will illuminate new outlooks and possibilities for how we lean into life's transitions.Relevant Links:Read Chip's latest book Learning to Love MidlifeLearn more about Chip and get his free Anatomy of a Transition resource on his websiteLearn more about Dr. Alexandra's December 2024 retreat at MEAOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

Research shows that gender socialization plays out most rigidly in our intimate relationships. How do we learn to separate our thoughts and actions from our socialization? In this episode, podcaster, author, and feminist coach Kara Loewentheil joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation that confronts the ways in which patriarchy influences our thoughts, beliefs, and actions.Relevant links:Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head--And How to Get It Out  a New York Times Bestseller by Kara LoewentheilListen to the Unf*ck Your Brain PodcastOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.Relevant links:Listen to Part One of this seriesGet the Relational Ambivalence worksheet"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. AlexandraE-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”Mark Groves Ted TalkBook: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. GoldmanOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off https://www.getkion.com/OSLP - discount code is OSLP.

On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.Relevant links:Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheetOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off https://www.getkion.com/OSLP - discount code is OSLP.

June 24th marks the two-year anniversary of The Supreme Court's decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Because Reimagining Love is a show devoted to relationships and helping people cultivate relationships founded in empowerment and care, Dr. Alexandra wanted to shine a light on the pervasive and pernicious impacts of the Supreme Court's decision on individuals, couples, and families in the United States. In fact, abortion has become virtually unavailable or significantly restricted in 21 states leaving pregnant people and their loved ones across the country facing the fears and roadblocks in their attempts to access reproductive healthcare. In this episode Dr. Alexandra facilitates a roundtable discussion with two strong voices in the field who help us better understand the mental health and the relational health effects of living in Post-Roe America– and how restriction of access to abortion exacerbates economic and racial inequality. Shefali Luthra is a health policy journalist who recently released her first book, Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America, and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a perinatal psychiatrist and the author of Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness.Shefali and Dr. Pooja's powerful insights will resonate with listeners who have experienced these impacts firsthand as well as those watching the landscape unfold from afar.Relevant Links:Read Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America by Shefali LuthraRead Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals,  Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja LakshminThe UCSF Turnaway StudyTwo years after Roe's overturn, there are more abortions in America — but they're harder to get by Shefali Luthra on the 19th Connect with Shefali on X or through emailLearn more about Dr. Pooja's work, subscribe to her newsletter, and connect with her on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off https://www.getkion.com/OSLP - discount code is OSLP.

Dr. Ish Major joins Reimagining Love for a frank and honest conversation about modern masculinity and the communication gap across genders. Together, they discuss what is often missing from communication in relationships, what masculinity means in our modern era, and how truth is the antidote to toxic masculinity.Relevant links:Connect with Dr. Ish online and on InstagramWatch Counsel Culture with Nick CannonReimagining Love Episode: “Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski”Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'

Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves.Relevant links:To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank AndersonConnect with Dr. Anderson online and on InstagramLearn more about the Trauma Institute and Trauma-Informed Media.The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der KolkOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'

Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.Relevant links:Access the Long-Distance Relationships worksheet hereOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener QuestionTake Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'

What happens in a marriage when one partner likes to save money and one likes to spend it? According to Dr. Scott Rick's research, when it comes to money, opposites do attract. Dr. Rick joins Dr. Alexandra to explain how our psychology shapes how we handle money and how the choices we make around money impact our relationships.Relevant links:Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships by Dr. Scott RickEngage with Dr. Rick's research and connect with him on Instagram and TwitterOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman stops by Reimagining Love to deliver sage and practical advice for daters. With decades of experience in online dating, Damona gives Dr. Alexandra an update on the current state of the apps and explains why so many daters are feeling burnt out. Instead of looking for red flags and buying into tired dating myths, Damona believes the key is getting specific about what we want and who we are, so that we can use the apps as a tool instead of a toy.Relevant links:F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story by Damona HoffmanListen to Dates & Mates with Damona HoffmanOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

[Content warning: this episode contains a brief mention of suicide. If you prefer to not listen to this moment, please skip this week's listener question segment at the end of the episode]Nedra Tawwab returns to Reimagining Love to discuss what can be our most challenging and vulnerable relationships: difficult relationships with our Families of Origin. Nedra offers empowering tools and relational strategies to help us adapt and redefine these relationships; tools to help us acknowledge when our family members have changed and accept when they cannot. Together, Nedra and Dr. Alexandra explore how this theme connects with a wide variety of topics: the tricky dynamics of in-laws, differing perspectives around the past, and how to navigate painful decisions around estrangement.Relevant links:Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover TawwabThe Drama Free Workbook: Practical Exercises for Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover TawwabListen to Nedra's podcast, You Need to Hear ThisConnect with Nedra online and on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question  Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and connection are fundamental needs in an intimate relationship. To help you navigate this, Dr. Alexandra shines a light on the meaning we assign to our orientations around space and shares strategies to help you and your partner create agreements that maximize connection and minimize resentment.Relevant links:Access this episode's companion worksheet hereMating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther PerelReimagining Love Episode: "Let's Talk About 'Sleep Divorces'"Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men by Ellie AndersonOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Author Molly Roden Winter joins Reimagining Love to share her story of opening up her marriage as a happily married mother and the hard-earned and profound truths she learned along the way. For Molly, her journey of non-monogamy opened her up to more: more choice and self-discovery, and feeling more than her roles as a mother and wife. Relevant links:More: A Memoir of Open Marriage by Molly Roden WinterNew York Magazine's "A Practical Guide to Modern Polyamory"Connect with Molly onlineOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

What would change if, instead of prioritizing romantic relationships, we made friendships the center of our lives? NPR's Rhaina Cohen joins Reimagining Love to explore the possibilities embedded within that question. In her new book, Rhaina invites us into the worlds of people who've organized their lives around deep friendship and, in doing so, challenge our ideas and assumptions about which relationships should be at the heart of a fulfilling life. Relevant links:The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina CohenListen to "Dear Friend," the song inspired by Rhaina's bookConnect with Rhaina online"Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality" from the Journal of Marriage and FamilyOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath join Reimagining Love to share the story of their relationship—the story that inspired their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this conversation, they get vulnerable about how they moved from breaking up to fostering breakthroughs; a journey they nurtured through what they call 'a sacred pause.' In the sacred pause, they identified the patterns that blocked their ability to find authentic love so that they could build a new relationship rooted in safety and interdependence.Relevant links: Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeathAfter purchasing Liberated Love, access the PDF Workbook and free Meditation Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Throughout her decades as a therapist, Dr. Alexandra has helped many people navigate being "the affair partner." Participating in infidelity creates an intoxicating yet profoundly confusing blend of emotions and experiences. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra examines the psychology of this role and offers a compassionate look into the surrounding context: the thrills, secret benefits, sources of shame, and potential origin stories embedded within this controversial role.Relevant links:"A Great Wagon" by RumiJournal of Sex & Martial Therapy: "Object of Desire Self-Consciousness Theory" by Anthony F. Bogaert and Lori A. Brotto"Taking Sexy Back" by Dr. Alexandra SolomonFacebook Group: Esther Perel Discussion GroupReimagining Love episode: "Guidance for the Newly Single"Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra confronts a common roadblock to repair: shame. Often, in the wake of relational harm, feelings of shame secretly run the show, causing you to get combative and defensive or freeze, flee, or fawn in essential moments. Dr. Alexandra provides strategies for moving from shame into action—so that you can make yourself available for repair—and gives tangible tips for how to make a heartfelt and effective apology.Relevant links:Access this episode's companion worksheet hereReimagining Love episode: "Why Can't I Get Over It?"Brené Brown's TED Talk: Listening to ShameBuilding Self-Esteem: How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow by Joseph BurgoOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Ten years after "conscious uncoupling" first entered the public lexicon, Katherine Woodward Thomas joins Reimagining Love to discuss her powerful rebrand of what's possible after a breakup or divorce. Through sharing her story and dissecting the cultural myths that cause us to view divorce as a failure, Katherine encourages us to bring a sense of generosity and intentionality to the process so that we can transform our relationships with our former partner, ourselves, and our futures.Relevant links:Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward ThomasCalling in the One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Revised) by Katherine Woodward ThomasConnect with Katherine online and on InstagramMarriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie CoontzThe Good Divorce by Constance AhronsUncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships by Diane VaughanOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

In "Breakup Empathy" Figs and Karen examine why empathy is the essential ingredient in their work with couples, even when they part ways."Empathy" in this case is not just a person feeling compassion and understanding their partner, it's the ability for both partners to see the relationship as a whole and experience empathy for each person in the system, together.But before it can be experienced, couples will have, say, six beats of time—minutes, hours, days—wherein they cannot control their reactivity and reliance on "the story of other." Even for experienced couples therapists in relationship, the moment is lost.It's important for couples to not try and prevent those six beats of reactivity, but to work on reaching "beat seven"—that moment of empathy for themselves, their partner, and both of them together.Even when couples therapy clients decide to sever their bond, this empathy is essential for each partner's healthy understanding of relationships and themselves. Otherwise, not only can they carry resentment which negatively affects their future relationships, they may harbor negative core beliefs about themselves such as "I'm too much" and "I'm not enough."Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi's own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.To submit a question for Figs and Karen to answer, email figs@empathi.com or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for counseling, quizzes, and courses.

Today we discuss the importance of rituals in life and in your relationships. A ritual is a predefined sequence of symbolic actions which are often characterised by formality and repetition.  Weddings, birthday celebrations or funerals, for example, are rituals. Particularly, of course, in the sphere of religions there are strong associations with rituals that provide symbolic value.Why are rituals important?Because rituals are highly structured they help us to have some sense of predictability about the future and possibly create more certainty. They can contribute to lessening anxiety. Rituals create meaning and they can bind us to a particular group or person; they may contribute to group cohesion and unity.Rituals can help to process a loss. For example, a ritual may help you to let go when there has been a painful break up. Rituals are also important to celebrate important moments and mile stones in your relationship. This may be celebrating the end of the working week, anniversaries or any moments in your relationship that you want to mark. Engaging in a ritual helps you to connect. Rituals can also help us when it comes to emotional regulation; they can be soothing, exhilarating or motivating.If you enjoy our podcast, please leave us a review. For Apple Podcast this is most easily done via your iPhone. If you have an android phone, please leave a review on Amazon, Spotify, iTunes or any  other platform that you are using.Suggestions for a podcast? We'd love to hear from you. Please email us at info@therelationshipmaze.comThe Relationship Maze courses:What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Related podcasts:What happens when you 'lose your mind'? - How understanding the structure of your brain helps in conflict situations (Podcast about emotional regulation)

This is a couple podcast by Neeti and Raman where we talk about relationships, personal experiences, travel stories and we use this podcast as couples thereapy ;) This podcast we talk about friendship, marriage, fighting, Shadin Ladai, Ladai Shadi...etc etc... Do tell us in comments who us right and the correct answer is "Raman" Say Hello on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/packedforever/ #relationship #love #Divorce --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theneetiandramanshow/message

Everybody's favorite comedian Naomi Ekperigin joins Greta to talk about going to the school that inspired Gossip Girl (Dalton), convincing her Prom date (and his mom) that he should wear basketball shorts to Prom, and the feeling of painted silver pants in the early 2000s. Plus, she doubles down on her 16th Birthday party guest list! Watch Naomi's half-hour special on Netflix. Listen to her podcasts; Couples Therapy and I Love a Lifetime Movie! Watch this, and all episodes of, Senior Superlatives with Greta Titelman: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdrN9XG5lzr5GnaOJFv3I8g Follow Greta: Twitter: @gertie_bird Instagram: @gertiebird TikTok: @gertie_bird Follow The Show: Instagram: @seniorsuperlativespod Follow Naomi: Instagram: @blacktresscomedy   Like the show? Rate Senior Superlatives on Spotify and Apple Podcasts and leave a review for Greta. Advertise on Senior Superlatives via Gumball.fm See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We have another great episode for you this month, but before we tell you about it, we want to thank everyone who became a Maximum Fun member or upgraded their membership during the MaxFunDrive this year. If you haven't done so yet you still can by going to maximumfun.org/join.  Moving on to this month's dead pilot! It's called How To Be A Couple written by Naomi Ekperigin (The Standups on Netflix, Mythic Quest) & Andy Beckerman (The Pete Holmes Show). Naomi and Andy are the co-hosts of the fantastic Couples Therapy podcast. This is a very autobiographical pilot about Natalie and Sam, a bi-racial couple who are in a throuple with their careers. The pilot was sold to Comedy Central with Annie Mebane attached to showrun and executive produce. The project was originally developed by CBS TV Studios.  The cast for this one is top notch as always! It features Naomi Ekperigin as Natalie, Andy Beckerman as Sam, Chris Tallman (Reno 911!) as Landlord Rick, Jessica Regan (lll Behavior) as Professor Miriam Fogle, Nyima Funk (Key & Peele) as Sandra, Matt Catanzano (The Last OG) as Craig, Mort Burke (The Mindy Project) as Gene, Aparna Nancherla (Mythic Quest) as Sofia, and Andrew Reich with stage directions.  Tune in next week for our interview with Naomi and Andy. Thanks for supporting our show! Enjoy! If you want to watch the video for our table reads you can do so by becoming MaxFun member  for as little as $5 by going to https://maximumfun.org/join For more Dead Pilots Society episodes and information about our live shows, please subscribe to the podcast!Make sure to like us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram, and Twitter, and visit our website at deadpilotssociety.com

We have a great pilot for you this month! It's sure to be a hit with fans of music and character driven comedy. It's called Perfect Harmony written by Tim Long (The Simpsons). Inspired by Art Garfunkel & Paul Simon's relationship, Perfect Harmony centers around a pair of warring former musical partners. It was set up at Amazon and it's a hilarious pilot with an incredible cast! Two legends playing the leads. Harry Shearer from This Is Spinal Tap and The Simpsons and Clancy Brown from The Shawshank Redemption, Paget Brewster (Criminal Minds), Naomi Ekperigin (Mythic Quest, Couples Therapy Podcast), Josh Brener (Silicon Valley), Ennis Esmer (Blindspot), Moujan Zolfaghari (At Home With Amy Sedaris), Marcus Bishop-Wright (Chapelle Show), and Andrew Reich with stage directions.Get the video for the table read for as little as $5 by going to https://maximumfun.org/joinTune in next week for our interview with Tim. Thanks for supporting our show! Enjoy!For more Dead Pilots Society episodes and information about our live shows, please subscribe to the podcast!Make sure to like us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram, and Twitter, and visit our website at deadpilotssociety.com

Dr. Jada will chat with you about specific action strategies that will encourage you to stop before you react.

Dr. Jada will chat with you about the simple steps that will challenge you to view “change” as an opportunity instead of barrier.

Dr. Jada will explore 12 Tips to fight off Anxiety and establish healthy ways to deal with life's stressors.

Dr. Jada will explore several approaches to address negative people in your everyday life.

Wendi and Dfernando's thirty-fifth episode is actress, writer, stand-up comedienne & producer Naomi Ekperigin.  After graduating from college, Naomi Ekperigin spent a year touring with the National Theatre for the Deaf, and she returned to New York in 2007 where she got her start doing stand-up while working a day job at an art magazine.  When that magazine folded in 2013, Ekperigin found a position working as a writer's assistant for the acclaimed Comedy Central series BROAD CITY.   She was promoted to staff writer in the show's second season and served as a writer on season 3 as well.In 2015, Ekperigin was a nominee, with the BROAD CITY writing staff, for the Writers Guild of America Award for Television: Comedy Series.  Splitsider praised her work as "savvy, smart, funny and politically active" and Essence named her to its list of "8 Black Comediennes Who are 'Ready' for SNL."In May 2016, Comedy Central announced that Ekperigin would create a half-hour special for the network, taped in New Orleans in June 2016.  On September 29, 2016, she made her late-night debut on LATE NIGHT WITH SETH MEYERS. Her half-hour special premiered on Comedy Central just two weeks later, October 14 at midnight. Ekperigin also co-wrote a television pilot for Comedy Central with former DAILY SHOW correspondent Jessica Williams.  Ekperigin has also written for the Hulu series DIFFICULT PEOPLE and has written for and appeared on TOTALLY BIASED WITH W. KAMAU BELL.She's been a regular performer on the WNYC podcast 2 DOPE QUEENS, standing out as a fan favorite. Other projects include a pilot for TruTV called INSIDE CAUCASIA, developed with her husband, comedian Andy Beckerman.In June 2017, she joined the writing staff of the NBC sitcom GREAT NEWS, starring Briga Heelan, Andrea Martin, Nicole Richie and John Michael Higgins. She then went on to write for season 2 of the CBS All Access original series NO ACTIVITY and the HBO limited series MRS. FLETCHER, starring Kathryn Hahn.She currently co-hosts and produces the podcast COUPLES THERAPY alongside her co-host/husband Andy Beckerman. Also on Episode 35, Wendi and Dfernando chat about store bought Christmas cookies and Matcha Snickerdoodles.  And on the RIPE & ROTTEN REPORT there's Bravo's BELOW DECK franchise, discharging iPhones during winter, Chef Jake Cohen's Instagram and TikTok accounts and more of Instacart's confusing "indulgent items" suggestions.  Follow us on our Instagram: Wendi McLendon-CoveyDfernando ZarembaGENERATION RIPE...  and our guest Naomi Ekperegin, her COUPLES THERAPY Podcast and her Twitter.   Remember to subscribe, rate & leave a reviewfor GENERATION RIPEVisit Dfernando Zaremba's website: dfernandozaremba.com

This episode will explore 6 healthy ways to set effective boundaries.

Dr. Jada will discuss specific ways to question the validity of your limiting beliefs, to embrace a more successful you. Affirmation: I am self-sufficient and hold realistic expectations of others.

Welcome, I'm Dr. Jada, Licensed Mental Health Counselor. This podcast is about Life, People and Perspective. "Come Chat with Me."

#002 - Marriage is hard. But marriage is way harder when you don’t take any personal responsibility for what’s not working. In today’s episode, we are covering the 5 questions you need to ask yourself about your marriage. Are they tough questions? Yep. But they are there to help to look at yourself because the ONLY person you can change, is you. This is all about perspective, letting go, and being willing to be vulnerable with yourself and your spouse. Once you dive into the five questions, you’ll understand where you can make micro changes that will impact your relationship in MAJOR ways.https://mrsrachelballard.com/5-questions-to-ask-yourself-about-your-marriage/

Engaged couple Naomi Ekperigin and Andy Beckerman from the Couples Therapy Podcast join Amiira and Greg to talk about marrying your lives, navigating each other’s parents, historical parent child dynamics that continually teeter on the line of infantilizing.  The responsibility you feel towards your partner in the face of the familial loyalty and love triangle and how too much togetherness and enmeshment can potentially spoil your Couples harmony rather than strengthen it.

In episode 189, Jack and Miles are joined by comedians and Couples Therapy Podcast hosts Andy Beckerman and Naomi Ekperigin to discuss their intention to challenge Brett Kavanaugh's daughters to a two on two basketball game, FBI agents Peter Strzok's messy hearing, the Russia probe, Trump disliking women in power, Henry Cavill's weird #metoo comments, Taco Bell and Demolition Man's history, giant avocado's in Australia, and more!  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://news.iheart.com/podcast-advertisers

In episode 174, Jack and Miles are joined by Couples Therapy Podcast host Andy Beckerman to discuss the White Civil Rights Rally in DC, racists getting their karma, Stephen Miller being an actual evil monster, the executive order Trump signed not really fixing anything, an update on Scott Pruitt shenanigans, the suspect in XXXTentacion’s shooting being arrested, cultural recommendations, a world cupdate, a Philly Phanatics fan being shot in the face with a hot dog gun, and more!  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://news.iheart.com/podcast-advertisers

The Couples Therapy Podcast invites you to join us for the next month and a half or so as Deanna and I will sit and record a new episode for each day of Lent this year. This idea spawned from this interesting crossroads where I, raised a fundamentalist/Seventh-Day Adventist never got into Lent in my youth and Deanna, who was raised Methodist, has great love and warmth from Lent in her youth. However, when we each looked into what the internet says Lent is and is for, we couldn’t help but both disagree with swaths of what we found. What we agreed on is that Lent is about “going into the wilderness” like Jesus in Matthew 4 or Jacob wrestling with God in the wilderness in Genesis 32. When Jesus resurfaced the Bible suggests he immediately began His selfless ministry of spreading the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 4:17). Jacob emerged from the wilderness with a new name, Isreal, which means one that struggled with the divine, and went on to start the 12 tribes. Neither of these Biblical characters emerged from the wilderness simply penitent, but completely re-made and re-newed. Yes, Lent can be about identifying your personal struggles in life, vices, and “recurring sins” and seeking repentance as is often stated and done. However, it seems the point should perhaps be less about absolution of our sins (though inclusive) and more about the dissolution of the self… or so we propose. So, come along as we dig into various topics over the next 40 or so days ranging from Reconciliation, Grace, and Hope, to the condition of the Heart and Love, and finally how to make this ancient story and liturgy relevant to our daily lives in 2018, whether you are a “believer” or not. We will leave as much specific doctrine and dogma at the door as we venture into the wilderness, as this is intended to be for everyone. Join the discussion @couplestherapod and couplestherapod@gmail.com

First Episode of the Couples Therapy Podcast with Will and Dee. A couple with a couple kids trying to sneak a couple minutes to entertain you a couple times a month. In this episode we talk about alternate universes, bad dates, first memories, superhero parents, hip hop and more. Just silliness. Enjoy! @WillDeeJam ThisIsWillJames.com #couplestherapypod