Podcast appearances and mentions of elayne fluker

You're going to get so much out of this episode with 7 essential questions to ask yourself as you refresh your brand story. Whether you're leaving a corporate job to become an entrepreneur, looking to expand your existing brand, aspiring to be a speaker or thought leader, or a corporate professional ready to transition to the next level, this conversation is for you. My guest is Elayne Fluker, who is an experienced coach to executive women and a prolific podcaster (over 700 episodes), with her podcast called Support is Sexy. Elayne is also the author of “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone” – published by HarperCollins Leadership and named a Forbes Book of the Month. Elayne and I share with you how you can re-brand your brand with 7 essential questions. We explore actionable strategies for reinventing your brand in today's ever-changing landscape and discuss how we've both helped our clients successfully navigate their rebranding journeys.  Our conversation is packed with insights and inspiration to help you elevate your brand and make your next move with confidence. This episode is the audio from a live show we did on September 10, 2024. You can watch the video at https://youtube.com/live/43vUGQ2qQsU.    Links: Show notes at https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/410/  Elayne's website: https://www.elaynefluker.com  Discover your Speaker Archetype by taking our free quiz at https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/quiz/ Enroll in our Thought Leader Academy: https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/academy/  Connect on LinkedIn: Carol Cox = https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolcox Elayne Fluker (guest) = https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaynefluker/  Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 408: Connecting Your Personal Brand and Your Thought Leadership Episode 340: Can I Tell It's You? What a Brand Voice Is and Why You Need One Episode 186: From Hashtag to Podcast to Book: Developing Your Thought Leadership Platform with Elayne Fluker    

In this special episode of Sista Brunch, recorded live at the Essence Film Festival, hosts sit down with Elayne Fluker and Syretta Bell, the creators of 'Fiddy.'  This dramedy series highlights the experiences of five successful Black and Brown women turning 50, aiming to change the narrative around aging and vibrant living. They discuss their journey in writing the pilot, the challenges and learnings in screenwriting, and their aspirations to sell their series to major platforms like Amazon, Netflix, and Max. The episode also delves into the technical aspects of writing and their personal motivations behind the project. 00:00 Welcome to Sista Brunch at Essence Film Festival 00:27 Meet the Creators of 'Fiddy' 00:37 The Inspiration Behind 'Fiddy' 01:39 Journey to Screenwriting 02:39 Empowering Women Over 50 03:16 Next Steps for 'Fiddy' 04:50 Technical Insights: Let's Talk Tech 06:36 Syretta Bell's Industry Experience 07:46 Celebrating Black Women and Their Stories 08:01 Conclusion and Farewell

From the archive: This episode was originally recorded and published in 2021. Our interviews on Entrepreneurs On Fire are meant to be evergreen, and we do our best to confirm that all offers and URL's in these archive episodes are still relevant. Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book Get Over 'I Got It, host of the Support is Sexy podcast for women entrepreneurs, and founder of SiS.Academy. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. You deserve it. That's why you have to reach out for it. You deserve it. 2. It is your responsibility to step into whatever it is you feel you are called to do. 3. Remember that nothing is an implication of you and your value and what you have going on in the world. Follow Elayne on Instagram - Elayne's Instagram Sponsors HubSpot Meet HubSpot's new AI-powered Campaign Assistant, a totally free-to-use AI tool tailor-made for the marketers and business builders who spend hours each day on content creation! Head to HubSpot.com/campaign-assistant to test-drive Campaign Assistant for free! InsideTracker The scientific tools and personalized insights you need to optimize your health from the inside out. Visit InsideTracker.com and use the promo code EOFIRE to get 20 percent off your plan today Thought-Leader Ever thought about giving a TEDx talk? Visit Thought-Leader.com/fire to join a free training and learn how to land a TEDx Talk and spread your message to millions  

From the archive: This episode was originally recorded and published in 2021. Our interviews on Entrepreneurs On Fire are meant to be evergreen, and we do our best to confirm that all offers and URL's in these archive episodes are still relevant. Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book Get Over 'I Got It, host of the Support is Sexy podcast for women entrepreneurs, and founder of SiS.Academy. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. You deserve it. That's why you have to reach out for it. You deserve it. 2. It is your responsibility to step into whatever it is you feel you are called to do. 3. Remember that nothing is an implication of you and your value and what you have going on in the world. Follow Elayne on Instagram - Elayne's Instagram Sponsors HubSpot Meet HubSpot's new AI-powered Campaign Assistant, a totally free-to-use AI tool tailor-made for the marketers and business builders who spend hours each day on content creation! Head to HubSpot.com/campaign-assistant to test-drive Campaign Assistant for free! InsideTracker The scientific tools and personalized insights you need to optimize your health from the inside out. Visit InsideTracker.com and use the promo code EOFIRE to get 20 percent off your plan today Thought-Leader Ever thought about giving a TEDx talk? Visit Thought-Leader.com/fire to join a free training and learn how to land a TEDx Talk and spread your message to millions

Are you holding something back? Are you staying quiet when there's a part of you aching to speak up? I hope this lesson I recently received about self-expression encourages you to open up, use your voice and find your peace. 

I'm here, on the beach in Mexico, taking the first step toward my dream of living in this beautiful country full-time. I'm exploring the possibilities -- and I'm encouraging you to do the same. Where are you standing still in your life when you know deep down it's time to make a move. Where are you settling when you could be soaring? Now is the time to dream of the possibilities, and put a plan in place. Let's do this!  

Eduardo Placer is the Founder and CEO of Fearless Communicators® —which is diverse, inclusive, public speaking coaching business that works with emerging and accomplished thought leaders on what they say and how they say it. Fearless Communicators® teaches clients how to bring their whole body, mind, heart and spirit to a moment and channel their message in service of an audience.      Originally from Miami, FL, Eduardo Placar is the proud son and grandson of immigrants, who fled both fascism in Spain and communism in Cuba. Prior to starting Fearless Communicators®, he was a professional actor for over 15 years, performing in over 35 plays and musicals throughout the United States.   During a live chat with Eduardo via LinkedIn Live, we talked about creating your signature piece as a thought leader, what the pillars are of a powerful talk, how to communicate with authentic power, connectign with your audience through your story and so much more. Listen to hear his insightful tips!   Learn more about Fearless Communicators® at fearlesscommunicators.com.   TO JOIN ELAYNE & HER GUESTS VIA LIVE CHATS, FOLLOW HER ON LINKEDIN HERE: linkedin.com/in/elaynefluker   ABOUT ELAYNE FLUKER: To learn more about me and my work as an executive coach, speaker and leadership development consultant supporting high-performing women and helping Fortune 500 companies, small businesses, and fast-scaling startups that want to attract and retain them, visit elaynefluker.com.  

Nzinga Shaw is a global DEI Strategist who has worked in the space of DEI for 20+ years. Nzinga has hands-on experience and knowledge of inclusion & diversity, equity, accessibility, change & crisis management, human capital management, talent acquisition, organizational planning, employee relations, branding, and community engagement. She is the President and Global Practice Head of ZRG Partners, LLC — which is a global talent advisory firm, with core offerings that include data-based, executive search focusing on senior leadership around the world. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Nzinga talks to us about what DEI looks like these days, the truth about The Great Resignation and the future of work.   Connect with Nzinga "Zing" Shaw on LinkedIn.   ABOUT ELAYNE FLUKER: Learn more about me and my work as a coach, speaker and leadership development consultant for Fortune 500 companies, small businesses, and fast-scaling startups that want to attract and retain high-achieving women at elaynefluker.com.

Trey Anthony is a visionary creator who uses the unique blend of comedy, theater, motivational talk, and her own life experiences to inspire and lift up others.  Trey's sold-out hit play, ‘da Kink in My Hair, grossed millions and broke box office records across Canada, the United States, and England after it premiered in 2001. It was named one of the top ten plays in Canadian theatrical history and received 4 NAACP Theatre awards, including Best Playwright. It continues to be produced on stages throughout North America. In 2007, Trey adapted ‘da Kink in My Hair for the small screen, making her the first African Canadian woman to create, write, and produce a primetime television show on a major Canadian network. Since then she has written for the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN), Lionsgate, Will Packer Media, The Comedy Network, and CTV. In January 2021, Trey released her book, Black Girl In Love (With Herself) with Hay House Publishing. The book details Trey's inner struggles to meet the demands of her family and the societal pressures of living up to the image of a “strong” black woman. AND NOW SHE'S BRINGING BLACK GIRL IN LOVE WITH HESELF TO LIFE WITH HER LIVE TOUR — WHICH COMES TO ATLANTA THIS THURSDAY August 25th — use the code CALM for tickets!  CLICK HERE TO GET TICKETS! On this episode, I talk to Trey about: Black women and vulnerability Tenderness/ self-love Recovering from emotional abuse and trauma Learn more about Trey Anthony at https://treyanthony.com/   ABOUT ELAYNE FLUKER: Learn more about me and my work as a coach for women and leadership development consultant for Fortune 500 companies, small businesses, and fast-scaling startups that want to attract and retain high-achieving women at elaynefluker.com.

We're going to talk about this concept of overwhelm today. If you're the type of person who says yes to all of the opportunities and is carrying more weight than one person can handle, then this episode is for you.Join me and Elayne Fluker, host of the Support is Sexy podcast as we unpack how burnout starts from within and what you can do to get out from under the weight of everything you signed up to do.In this episode, we cover:Current workplace trends, what you need to knowHow do you know if you're stuck versus settling? Questions you need to ask yourselfWays to overcome feeling stuckSigns and symptoms that you've taken on too much responsibility Tips that will help you stop forgetting thingsWhy support is sexyThe 3D's that prevent others from helping you - Defiant, Defensive, DefeatedBeing defiant, defeated, or defensive, how to overcome it?Don't forget to Ask For:H - ”H” is “having it all doesn't mean doing it alone”E - “E” is to “ask empowering questions”L - “L” is to “live that question and let go of the how”P - “P” in the framework is about “believing in the possible” Support the show

***SUBSCRIBE TO THE FASTEST-GROWING NETWORK UP ON GAME PRESENTS PODCAST CHANNEL*** https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/up-on-game-presents/id1596136129 “Sometimes, the support doesn't come from the universe, from our husbands, from whoever, because you didn't ask them.” - Elayne Fluker Welcome to Stay a While with Tommi Vincent! Aren't you tired of doing it all by yourself? You've carried the whole team on your back for too long - whether that team is your family, your work, or others' problems - and it's time to put it all down. On this episode, Elayne Fluker host of Support Is Sexy Podcast drops by to share some pointers on letting go of the Superwoman cape. You don't need it because it is wearing you OUT, sis! Take some notes and remember you deserve to be supported. Workshop Facilitator, Speaker and Leadership Development Consultant for corporations, organizations and professional women. Creates engaging workshops that shift the mindsets of professional women around the stigma of asking for support and empower them to effectively make "empowered asks" to achieve for success, fulfillment and work-life harmony. Companies get actionable solutions for creating a more supportive and psychologically safe work culture. ➜ Speaker at the UN, LinkedIn, Columbia, NYU, Spelman College, Howard University, the Women Presidents' Organization, Essence Fest, National Urban League and more ➜ Facilitated 200+ in-person workshops in the U.S., Spain, South Africa and Morocco and virtually online, including leadership development and DEI workshops for global firms and Fortune 50 companies ➜ Interviewed and coached more than 500+ women around the world about challenges they encounter when asking for support. ➜ Featured on "Today" show, "Nightline," "Extra," CNN, VH1, BET, Sirius XM and in Forbes, Essence, and 100+ podcasts ➜ Author of the book, “Get Over ‘I Got It” published by HarperCollins Leadership Specializes in topics related to: Professional women, Women leaders within organizations, Black women. In this episode we cover [00:01 - 05:05] It Is Alright to Take the Cape Off [05:06 - 10:06] Food and Happiness: Building Long Lasting Memories [10:07 - 31:18] “I Got It” Syndrome - Why We Struggle to Ask For Support [31:19 - 41:48] The 5 Rs: How to Make an Empowered Ask [41:49 - 51:06] Crafting the Safe Environment for Vulnerability Warriors [51:07 - 56:13] Closing Segment  Key Quotes “Pause for a second and take a deep breath and say, ‘Am I really creating space for support in my life?' And sometimes, usually, the answer is no. And it might not be something that is deliberate or conscious. It might be just because you're moving so fast.” - Elayne Fluker “Sometimes, ask isn't ‘I need support'. Sometimes the ask is ‘I need space,' or ‘I need time,' or ‘I need rest'.” - Elayne Fluker Connect with Elayne Fluker Book: https://www.amazon.com/Get-Over-Got-Superwoman-Remember/dp/1400213797 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/support-is-sexy-podcast-with-elayne-fluker-interviews/id1129580395 Connect with Me!  You can reach Tommi on Instagram @cheftommiv Visit https://vincentcountry.com and get connected with us on Vincent Country's Instagram @vincentcountry  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Money is a part of our everyday lives -- and with current inflation and housing fluctuations and gas-price hikes, it's the topic of daily conversations around our kitchen tables. So why do so many of us struggle to talk about it?   If you have money questions and you want to get some insight from an expert on what you should be thinking about at this stage of your life, listen to my candid "money talk" with Lynnette Khalfani-Cox -- The Money Coach. Lynnette is author of more than a dozen books on personal finance, including the New York Times bestseller, "Zero Debt: The Ultimate Guide to Financial Freedom," which she wrote after having paid off $100,000 in credit card debt in three years. We talk about financial considerations whether you're caring for aging parents, sending your kids to college and more.   What are YOUR top money questions these days?   IN OTHER NEWS: Do you want to sign up for my new audio series -- "Live the Question" -- that will inspire you with a provocative question to reflect on and journal about each week? It's only available to my text message subscirbers, so to sign up and receive a new question each week, just text LIVE THE QUESTION to +1 (917) 809-6764.   ABOUT ELAYNE FLUKER: Learn more about me and my work as a speaker, trainer, executive coach and leadership development consultant for Fortune 500 companies, small businesses and fast-scaling startups that want to attract and retain high-achieving women at elaynefluker.com.

What's it like to pick up everything, leave your home country and decide to build a successful business in Mexico that centers the travel pleasure of Black folks? We talk to Black in Travel founder Nubia Younge (who's best known for her Black in Tulum brand that she launched during the height of the pandemic) and find out about her journey, her mission and what's next.   IN OTHER NEWS: Do you want to sign up for my new audio series that inspires you to reflect and journal about a new question with me each week? It's only available to my text message subscirbers so to sign up and receive a new question each week, just text LIVE THE QUESTION to +1 (917) 809-6764.   ABOUT ELAYNE FLUKER: Learn more about me and my work as a speaker, facilitator and leadership development consultant for Fortune 500 companies, small businesses and fast-scaling startups that want to attract and retain high-achieving women at elaynefluker.com.    

The data is clear: In many ways, women have been more disproportionately affected by the pandemic than men. From February 2020 to January 2022, male workers regained all jobs they had lost due to the public health crisis, according to one analysis. However, 1.1 million women left the labor force during that span, accounting for 63 percent of all jobs lost. And 42% of women and 35% of men have felt burned out in the last few months (up from 32% and 28% respectively, last year). So what is going on? What challenges are unique to women in the workplace? And what can we do to better support them? Elayne Fluker from the “Support is Sexy” podcast is here to share her insight on how to better support working women. Check out Elayne's work at elaynefluker.com. Fluker's book: “Get Over ‘I Got It'”, Fluker's podcast: “Support is Sexy”

Psychologists have been evaluating the performance enhancing effects of visualization on athletes for more than 30 years. Studies show that visualization (or mental rehearsal as it's also called) stimulates the brain to send signals to the body because it believes that athlete isn't just dreaming about winning that event and receiving the gold medal, they are there! You can have access to this same experience if you allow your mind to go there. So in this week's latest episode of "Live the Question" I ask you: What would it look like if today was THAT day? After listening to the episode, give that some thought, grab your journal, and reflect. Then be sure to text me at 1.917.809.6764 and let me know what you think! -------------- Learn more about Elayne Fluker and how she works with organizations to create supportive cultures for high-achieving women at https://elaynefluker.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the 8th episode of Anabolic Mind Show, Mark Jenkins interviews someone not afraid to ask for assistance. Life lessons from author/ lifestyle Coach and fitness enthusiast Elayne Fluker. Please LIKE

In the 8th episode of Anabolic Mind Show, Mark Jenkins interviews someone not afraid to ask for assistance. Life lessons from author/ lifestyle Coach and fitness enthusiast Elayne Fluker. Elayne grew up in a home where support was generously given but rarely accepted. So, for as long as she can remember, she's viewed asking for and accepting support as a sign of weakness, neediness and failure. This ultimately resulted in years of anxiety, depression, and feeling unfulfilled as I struggled to figure things out on her own. But once she learned how to make empowered asks and accept support, her life transformed! Since then, she's helped thousands of high-achieving women embrace support as a superpower for success and fulfillment through my podcast, Support is Sexy — which has more than one million downloads; through my book, Get Over ‘I Got It' (published by HarperCollins Leadership) – selected as a Forbes “Book of the Month;” and through more than 200 workshops I've facilitated across the U.S., in Spain, Morocco, South Africa and globally online. By learning her tools for accessing support, ambitious, high-achieving women learn how to… Shift their perspective, stop struggling and start connecting Embrace a possibility mindset and explore new opportunities Courageously ask for and accept support with confidence and ease Now, she delivers customized, dynamic workshops for Fortune 500 companies and top organizations to create psychologically safe, supportive cultures where high-achieving women stress less and thrive more! Connect with Elayne: Website – Facebook – Instagram – Twitter – LinkedIn Connect with and JOIN FREE COMMUNITY  Community Content About Mark Jenkins Anabolic Mind Show Booking Work with Mark Already have an account? Log In First Name * Last Name * Password * Confirm Password *

This episode started last year. I was stuck (head and emotions), said nothing, made no money and did not ask for help. The source of my life event became apparent while I was guesting on a podcast (the wonderment of a safe place). By that time, I had asked for help with my business which is now Go Beyond The Interview LLC.  I guess that God, the source, the universe knew that I would need a backup to reinforce the seriousness of not asking for help, being honest. So along comes Elayne Fluker's book Get Over "I Got It." The Audible Books platform and I became family for three days as I devoured this reinforcement to what I had just gone through. So a word from now, a much wiser woman, "ask for help when you need it." Moving from employee to entrepreneur is a turbulent uncharted region. You will not understand the taxes (don't get me started on that tax $%& Tiffany P!), marketing, social media, and modify the business structure without help. No shame. The shame is in staying stuck, having a pity party, watch the money you made evaporate because you are in a place of not making a penny (can I be transparent here). Does anybody else feel me? Let me hear from you!  j1Kh6ExpTiGq2xy4Y45u

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Live the question. It's a powerful phrase first shared with me in 2016 when interviewing an inspiring women named Patricia Moreno, may she rest in peace. It's also chapter 7 of my book, Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone (realized by HarperCollins Leadership in 2021).  Why? Because I have learned over the years that one of the most courageous, open and vulnerable things that we can do as unapologetically ambitious women who think we need to have the answers is to LIVE THE QUESTION. The empowering questions -- the questions that relieve stress and anxiety and a desperate need to make sense of uncertainty. The empowering questions that -- with intention, faith and curiosity -- can lead us to empowering answers that we never imagined if we just give it some space and time for reflection.  That's what this new season of the Support is Sexy podcast is about: Living the question. After taking some time off to reflect (and to live the question) and think about what would be next for me and what I really want to share with all of you incredible listeners and supporters of the show, I was moved to launch this new series of solo-only episodes where I will share with you a thought-provoking question each week that I invite you to LIVE. Give yourself time to reflect, to explore, to be open. It's a vulnerable space but it's a beautiful space and it inevitably leads to growth.  I invite you to write the questions in your journal and write whatever comes up from you. A few months ago, I wrote an entire journal entry that said "these are the questions I'm living right now." And I resisted the urge to write any answers or ideas. Just...the questions. Because this idea of Living the Question aligns with the idea of being open to support in a new way, I am launching the series here, in the same place where you've listened to 800+ episodes of the Support is Sexy podcast if you've been a longtime listener. This is a journey that we're going to be on together. I hope you'll join me, offer your feedback and share wth me the questions you're living right now. I'd love to hear rom you: Text me at +1.917.809.6764 and let me know the questions your living right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ladies, it's time to let go of the need to have all your shit together. In this episode of The Unconditionally Worthy Podcast, I welcome Elayne Fluker, Speaker, Author, and Host of the Support is Sexy podcast. Elayne's new book, Get Over "I Got It", encourages ambitious women to learn how to embrace support not only for their success, but also for their peace of mind. Together, we explore what it means to overcome the “I got it” syndrome and how that intersects with self-worth.IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…Elayne's self-worth journey: Not knowing she had self-worth issues, attempting suicide at 15 years old, & learning to live with depression and anxiety.Consciously using and not using social media, keeping in mind its negative effects on mental health.The intersectionality of self-worth, “I got it” syndrome, and intergenerational trauma in BIPOC families.Elayne's experience with “I got it” syndrome & How she overcame it as an adult.How to implement the acronym H.E.L.P. to embrace and invite support into your life.Stream & Download The Unconditionally Worthy Podcast NOW for FREE on Apple Podcast, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, and Spotify!To connect further with Elayne Fluker:Visit her website: www.elaynefluker.comFollow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/elayneflukerFollow her on Twitter: www.twitter.com/elaynefluker Connect with her on Facebook: www.facebook.com/elayneflukerConnect with her on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elaynefluker Listen to Support is Sexy Podcast: www.elaynefluker.com/podcast Pre-order Get Over “I Got It”: www.getoverigotit.comTo connect further with me:Visit my website: www.dradiagooden.com Connect with me on Facebook: www.facebook.com/dradiagooden Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dradiagooden Connect with me on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/adia-gooden-4b26751b Watch the full interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/lJmfimAckII 

On this week's 51%, we take a break to focus ourselves. Dermatologist Dr. Jean Buhac offers up some tips to better love the skin you're in. Dr. Hida Nierenburg discusses how to ward off headaches and migraines this holiday season. And Dr. Sharon Ufberg speaks with author Elayne Fluker about the importance of asking for help, and how doing it all doesn't have to mean doing it all alone. (more…)

On this week's 51%, we take a break to focus ourselves. Dermatologist Dr. Jean Buhac offers up some tips to better love the skin you're in. Dr. Hida Nierenburg discusses how to ward off headaches and migraines this holiday season. And Dr. Sharon Ufberg speaks with author Elayne Fluker about the importance of asking for help, and how doing it all doesn't have to mean doing it all alone. Guests: Dr. Hida Nierenburg, director of headache medicine at Nuvance Health; Dr. Jean Buhac, dermatologist with Saratoga Dermatology and Medical Spa; Dr. Sharon Ufberg, host of Force of Nature; Elayne Fluker, author of Get Over "I Got It:" How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support, and Remember That Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone 51% is a national production of WAMC Northeast Public Radio. Our host is Jesse King, our executive producer is Dr. Alan Chartock, and our theme is "Lolita" by the Albany-based artist Girl Blue. Follow Along You're listening to 51%, a WAMC production dedicated to women's issues and experiences. Thanks for tuning in, I'm Jesse King. We've got another trio of health-related discussions for you today. The holiday season can be a particularly stressful time for us all, and in between shopping, and work, and planning family occasions, it's important not to let your health go to the wayside, and to ask for help if you need it (that's something even I need to remind myself from time to time). So that's what we're doing today. Our first guest is Dr. Hida Nierenburg, director of headache medicine at Nuvance Health. Dr. Nierenburg is double board-certified in neurology, and while headache medicine might seem like a pretty specialized field, she says it's certainly a much-needed one - especially during the holiday season. She says the holidays bring a perfect storm of migraine triggers. What are common triggers for headaches and migraines? So common stranger triggers for headaches and migraines: stress is a big one, doing a lot of things all at once. Certain foods for some patients, stinky cheeses, nitrates, certain seasonings. For some patients, too much sugar. Alcohols as well. Lack of food, lack of sleep, so especially going constantly. I always counsel my patients about triggers, and not everybody gets predictable triggers, but if you have predictable triggers you can avoid or minimize [them], so they don't cause migraines. What exactly is happening when someone's having a headache or migraine? Regular headaches, a lot of people get, so it's more like pressure [in the head], and you don't get sick. When you have a migraine, it's a headache that makes you sick. Lights bother you, smells, noises, you get fatigue, nauseous, and it also can cause problems with concentration. Usually, the signal for migraine starts in the back of the brain – the area that controls vision, that's why some people see colors or shapes. The best way I explained it to my patients is that it's a chemical struggle in the brain. Arteries expand and they release pain-causing chemicals. Other arteries in the brain get activated that cause all the other symptoms with migraine, and this settles on a nerve called the trigeminal nerve, which is the nerve that carries sensation to the face – but it connects to pain pathways for head and neck pain. So is it normal on some level to get headaches, or even a migraine from time to time? At what point do you seek treatment? So migraines are less common. Regular headaches, tension type headaches, are the most common type of headache. 89 percent of people get it. Usually, migraines are a little bit tougher. We recommend someone to see somebody, because the pain can be very disabling. Actually, migraines are the second cause of disability in the world. So if you're having one migraine a month, but it's less than three days or four days, and it's making you miss work or school, then that is something you should see somebody [for], because a lot of times the over-the-counter medications do not work. Same thing with regular headaches. I see many patients with regular tension-type headaches, but they have been very frequent, over-the-counter medications don't cut it, and if you're taking too much over-the-counter medications, sometimes it can make the headaches worse. When you're looking at treatments for migraines and headaches, what are some of the treatments that you get? So there's different classes of treatments that we have, and it's kind of like an art. Every patient is different. In the Headache Society, we always say no migraine patients are alike. So, we have oral medications. We have devices that help for breaking a migraine. We have injection medications. We may use Botox when people have more than 15 headache days per month. So it's always a different class of medications, and it's a discussion with the patient about other conditions. They may have medication side effects – I have a lot of patients that tell me, ‘I don't want any medicines,' and well, if you have high frequency migraines, it's a little bit tougher to treat without medications, but there are options I tell my patients [so they] don't suffer. I have the conversation – if there's some supplements that can help, but if the supplements aren't helping them I go to oral medication. Can migraines be tied to any other issues or things that people should be worried about? Sometimes with autoimmune conditions, but sometimes it's incidentally. When we see migraines and other [things] like seizures, it's usually coincidence. Migraines are usually a silent disease, because patients look normal or [if you] look up imaging, it's normal, but we understand a lot about the pain and the severity of migraines. Is there a difference between the way migraines might pop up in women versus men? Usually they're about the same. Actually, migraines before puberty, they're more common in boys, and after puberty [they're more common in] women. [But] men still get migraines. Usually there's a particular migraine that women get that is PMS migraines, migraines around the menstrual cycle. Those tend to be a little bit more disabling or more severe, [with] body pains, cramps. But other types of migraines could be just the same as men, too. As people are planning for the holiday season, what are your tips for making plans in order to help avoid migraines? So definitely buying gifts can be stressful, so plan ahead, online shopping. Other things like be aware of the foods that they might be serving in a place, certain alcohols if people want to drink, try to be well-rested. Part of what the headache doctors say [is] we want people to enjoy life at the fullest without migraines interfering with your life. So [if] you have a lot of triggers that not always you can avoid, then we recommend starting daily medications or preventive medication or something, to have something handy as needed. Our next guest is Dr. Jean Buhac, a board-certified dermatologist who has been operating out of her practice, in Saratoga Springs, New York, for more than 20 years. She's quite an accomplished person, who first got her Bachelor's degree in economics at Cornell University before diving into her passion for medicine and pursuing her medical degree from Tufts University School of Medicine. She credits her many professors and her faculty peers at the University of Iowa hospitals and Mass General Hospital with sculpting her into the dermatologist she is today. At Saratoga Dermatology and Medical Spa, she treats patients of all ages, races and genders for a range of complex skin conditions and anti-aging procedures. What issues do your patients usually come to you with? I see all ages, and I see a ton of skin cancer every single day. A lot of pre-cancers, which are called actinic keratosis, and quite a bit of melanoma. People think that anything that's raised is a problem – however, an important take-home message is that moles that are flat are usually the problem. And they may not even itch, so melanoma's very visual. You would typically observe a mole and it will not have a nice, uniform color, or nice, even edge to it. What typically happens is, if you're watching something over time, that particular lesion would take on additional characteristics where it's growing outward in its diameter. And then it gets an irregular edge, maybe a shadow, and it gets different colors. It's not symmetric, it's very agated. Those [signs] are really important. I mean, people need to look at their entire skin surface, look with a mirror, check their backs, their feet, their hands, the scalp. So we do a full skin check to make sure that they have nothing that's evolving. But [with] early detection, it's the most curable cancer that we have today. And the other two types of main categories of skin cancer are basal cell cancers, which typically arise like a pimple that doesn't heal. So we tell patients, if anything lasts for two months or more, to go and have that investigated. It can also look like a patch of eczema. So anything that's a flat, pink, scaly patch, [you] shouldn't assume that it's just a little patch of dry skin if it's still persisting, despite over-the-counter use of cortisone, or any appropriate treatment of eczema. If it's still there [you need] to have that checked. And then the third would be squamous cell cancer. Those can look warty: they're red, they can be very tender. All of these that I've just mentioned are typically seen on the sun-exposed areas of the body. How early should people start looking at these things? As a matter of fact, I did a biopsy on an 11-year-old boy today. So melanoma can occur as young as that. And I've seen young women who have done tanning booths in their early 20s. With melanoma, anyone is a candidate for good skin check. But the people that should be more aware or pressing to get in for a check would be those with large numbers of moles. I know for individuals, sometimes they think freckles are moles, but if they're not sure, they shouldn't try to stay at home and decide for themselves. They should talk to their primary care doctor, or reach out to a dermatologist for a visit. Or if there's a family history, of course, if there's a family history of melanoma, or even basal cell / squamous cell [cancer], because a lot of these will cluster and people have more than one type of cancer as well. You mentioned tanning booths. Are there any other kinds of activities that can contribute to skin cancers? Smoking, excessive smoking. There's environmental factors that play a role. Sun exposure is the most common and the biggest reason why people develop skin cancer. Starting at an early age, putting the SPF 50 on, reapplying every couple of hours, using protective clothing, avoiding the high peak [of the day] from like 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. or 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., and protecting the skin is most important. And that is the most major anti-aging cream or therapy that we have – sunscreen. You know, if you start early and you do it, that's like the best anti-aging cream, as well as protecting against skin cancer. That goes into one of my next questions. What would you say, overall, is a good example of healthy skincare, or a skincare regimen? Because if I go on Instagram, I see a billion different things talking about like face serums or combinations of lotions to use and stuff like that, and it always makes me wonder what's a good way to go about it. Now, that's a good question. I think we're over-burdened with way too many products out there. There's basic guidelines on certain categories of things that have been proven, and researchers out there that show they are effective. So that's the main thing [to focus on], because anyone can put on their label “improves the appearance of,” but what we're really interested in is that it could help increase collagen, it stimulates collagen production, and helps with fine lines. Those categories will basically be vitamin C, which is an antioxidant, retinols, especially tretinoin, which stimulates collagen protein. Glycolic acid. But I think people should adhere to, like I said earlier, the SPF 50. And good moisturizers that are oil-free are suitable for everyone. There are other people with different types of skin conditions that benefit from certain products if they have rosacea, that are geared for sensitive skin. And there's lists of those: Cetaphil, Cerave, you know, the very common ones that are out there. Would you consider rosacea more of a medical condition or more a cosmetic concern? Well, that's very interesting how some of the diagnoses in dermatology can be interpreted in different ways. You know, there's that spectrum. So rosacea is a medical condition – they can get bumps and pimples, nodules, pustules, that can be disfiguring. It's on a spectrum, everyone's different. Some people just have mild redness. So there's different ways of approaching it. There's topical prescriptions, and oral prescriptions, as well as laser applications that can help minimize the appearance of the blood vessels on the face. I'm also just thinking about other reasons people might come in, maybe like acne or for anti-aging treatments? Yes, we see a lot of patients with acne. There's genetic components and stress components that play a role, as well as things that they eat, you know, there's inflammatory foods and junk food and whey protein. I see some athletes, they'll take whey, and then they'll get this real large nodule or cystic acne breakout. So we have to approach each one individually. And there's adult acne. There's such a spectrum, but there's multiple different treatments that are available out there that can really help. And so anyone with acne suffering at home, I feel bad for some people that they don't get the attention [they need], because they could be left with scarring, long-term scarring. What are some of those different treatments? Well, as I mentioned, tretinoin is good for wrinkles. But it also, initially, has been for acne: it helps with blackheads and whiteheads. And there's another medicine called Differin which is over-the-counter. It used to be a prescription. There's those topicals, topical antibiotic lotions, benzoyl peroxide and salicylic acids are used. And then we do oral antibiotics, more from an anti inflammatory standpoint, as opposed to really treating the bacteria. But I educate my patients, so they understand the importance of using their medication, because some expect, “Oh, I can do this for a few weeks, and I should get better.” It's very important, so they don't waste their time, that they understand that they have to invest that time. And after probably about six to eight weeks, that's when things really start working. To get to the topic of anti-aging, at what point do you usually start seeing patients for things like that? You know, it could be mid-20s, because they see a lot of images on social media, and they want the nicer, fuller lips, or they feel they should look differently than they are. Up to people who are 80/85, who I might counsel with them and say, “You know, this might not make that much of a difference.” And they'll say, “Well, I just want to look, like, 75.” So everyone has their little way of approaching things and what really bothers them. So I really listen carefully. Although we can give advice as to the global appearance in skincare from our professional point of view, I really listened to what bothers them the most so I can put it in perspective – because sometimes there are patients who maximize something that's very minimal. But I don't want to minimize their complaints, do you hear what I'm saying? And practicing medicine is a combination of art and science. We have the knowledge, the scientific knowledge, on how to approach an aging face. But I think the art is, how far do we take it? And how much is too much. Which I think brings on another philosophical question: I mean, do we do it at all? Our whole society is geared toward producing new anti-aging things, but I think there comes a time when it needs to be a combination of acceptance, and maybe treatment alleviating some of the signs of aging that are reasonable. And having a discussion is really important with patients, to see where they're at. I talk to patients and I say, “Listen, if you really want that Botox, let's go ahead and do it. And you can do it for as long as you want, if you're going through a hard time right now accepting what things look like. At some point down the road, it might be that you don't even want it anymore.” But so many times I have people who have spent a boatload of money, and then they come to the appointment. And I have to tell them, “Well, you know, there's nothing proven behind what you just purchased. But I can tell you that these certain things are really helpful for your skin, if you wanted to start with this.” And so people can end up investing too much in something that may not be therapeutic for them. Something that I've read a lot about online is “pre-juvenation,” about younger people trying particular treatments to, I guess, help ward off the signs of aging a little bit further if they can. Am I getting that right? Well, I think they may initiate some anti-aging treatments earlier, because then there'll be some benefits where they're not trying to play catch up to it. But if they simply…if you think about it, there's intrinsic aging, which is internally preprogrammed, how our genes trigger our aging as we get older. But extrinsic is from the sun. And so SPF, sunscreen is the most effective “pre-juvenation,” anti-aging treatment across the board. If they start simply with just doing that, and maybe like vitamin Cs, which are antioxidant. No excessive alcohol, eating a more plant-based diet, avoiding hormone-infused meat products and milk, dairy of that nature. That would go a very long way. Our last guest today is the host of the Support is Sexy podcast and the author of the new book, Get Over ‘I Got It:' How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support, and Remember That Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone. Elayne Fluker says ambitious women in all areas of life, whether they're at home, in the office, or in the classroom, too often feel like they're not allowed to ask for help - and that mindset can actually hold us back, and stress us out. Fluker shared her tips with Dr. Sharon Ufberg, co-founder of the California-based personal development company, Borrowed Wisdom, for her 51% segment, Force of Nature. Ufberg: How did this book come about? Fluker: I attended a workshop in 2015, I want to say. And during that time, I saw a reflection of myself and other people in that workshop who were struggling with asking for – actually, two things, Sharon: love and support. So not even just support – love and support. When I say struggling, I mean, like, boohoo crying, “Don't make me do it. I don't want to ask,” or, “I don't know how to ask.” And it was really my first time saying, “Oh, I think I have that problem, too.” But this was something I really wanted to carry with me, this idea of embracing support as something positive, as it not being something that's a weakness, or something to shy away from. And I started saying this phrase, “Support is sexy,” thinking of support in a different way: “Support is sexy. Support is sexy.” And when I would say it to other women, especially women entrepreneurs, or women who were doing just different things in our lives – this was in New York at the time, so we have that whole hustle mentality, and sometimes don't even pause to think about how support could show up for us – I would see these women light up. And that's when I thought, “Maybe there's something to this whole ‘support is sexy' thing.” And then that evolved into eventually me doing the podcast called Support is Sexy, and then ultimately writing this book, Get Over ‘I Got It,' because I found that most of us ambitious women have what I call “I got it” syndrome. Ufberg: What exactly is the “I got it” syndrome? Explain that a bit more to me. Fluker: It's something that's almost like a trigger response for some of us. We don't even think consciously about how much we're turning support away. Whether that is, I should say, literally someone coming to us and saying, “Can I help you with that? Is this some way I can support you? Do you need some version of that?” or something simple, like a serendipitous moment in the street where someone could possibly support you with something – and we're so quick to turn it away. So it's not even just saying, “I got it” to other people. Sometimes we're stopping the universe from coming into our lives and helping things work things out, because we're so focused on how we're going to manage it or do it. We'll “handle it,” right? “I'll make it happen. I'll handle it.” Well, you know, what you might be suffering from is “I got it” syndrome, and pushing the opportunity, but more so even possibility away, by saying this. Ufberg: How do you see shifting the idea of getting the support they need, for ambitious, high-energy women entrepreneurs? Fluker: Well, one of the things that I like to do to remind us all to remember to even ask for support, because sometimes I will say we're all moving on autopilot. We have so much to do, we have so much to accomplish, or people to serve, or things to do at work. There might be reasons that we don't pause for a moment and think about this. But I encourage any woman listening, pause and think about the word “HELP.” And I use that as an acronym to remember that H: having it all doesn't mean doing it all alone. So just as you just said, some of us feel like we have to do it all. Well, is that true? Or is that a belief? Sometimes it's the belief that we have to do it all alone, or it's the belief that no one shows up for us. Or it's belief that no one else will do it like “we can.” Having it all doesn't mean doing it all alone. You don't have to prove that you can do it by yourself. And a lot of times getting support will help you do it even better. The E in “HELP” is ask empowering questions. So when you're looking for support, it's not, “Why am I so stupid? Why can't I do this? Why haven't I figured this out?” A more empowered question might be okay, “This is something I want to accomplish, or even check off my to-do list. What are the ways that I might be able to get support for this? Who was someone who might have done this before? Who could give me some advice?” Whether that's someone you know personally, or someone you look up on the computer – we have access to almost everybody and everything now. But what are the questions you're asking yourself? The L is to “live that question.” So this is something I learned from this woman, Patricia Moreno. And it's this idea of - especially again, as ambitious women, as go getters, we're women who have the answers. A lot of us are paid to have the answers, or people come to us because we have the answers. So it is tough for us to imagine living a question, being in that space of openness, of asking, “How can I get support for this? What are some things that I might be missing that could be helpful to me?” And then not necessarily knowing, at least right away, how to answer that question. I wrote down in my journal a bunch of questions that I'm living right now. And I did not answer them, which is the hardest thing ever. So live the question, and also let go of the answer. Again, we don't want to get into a space of, “This is something I want to do. This is how I'm going to tightly manage this. This is exactly how it's going to happen.” That's not to say don't have a plan. Of course, you want to have a plan. But what if there's some opportunity for support that comes from somewhere else? And then the P is “believe in the possibilities.” So you can't do all those other things and then not believe it's possible for support to show up for you in ways you might not even be able to imagine. Ufberg: I think it's so important for women to read a book like yours so women can see that successful, ambitious women don't have to do it all alone. Can you speak for a moment on the particular challenges women of color face regarding asking or getting the support they may want or need? Fluker: Yes. I think as a Black woman, I can speak to my own issues, experience, and some of the women that I know, and then women of other cultures. A lot of us were taught to be seen and not heard – [some are] even from descendants of enslaved Africans. My parents, for example, grew up in the South in the 1930s. By the South, I mean Alabama. So they certainly were taught to be seen and not heard, sometimes not even be seen. My mother, a story I share in the book talks about how when she and her siblings, as children going to the shoe store, they weren't allowed to try on shoes. Or I've heard other people's parents [say] that you weren't allowed to try on that hat, because you were Black, and they didn't want you to try on anything and then put it back on the shelf. It's a racist policy, and it sounds like a simple thing. But those kinds of things impact you, as a young person [and] as a person of color. And there's all kinds of experiences that many have had in those kinds of situations, where you might be afraid to ask – literally, afraid, in their case – to ask for something that you want. And then that kind of transfers over in generation over generation. Something that I like to quote now, or mention, is some research that I've been looking at from Maria Yellow Horse Braveheart, who was a social worker, clinician and researcher who talks about historical trauma, and how the multi-generational trauma experienced by certain cultural groups can be passed on to each generation. That's something that I think applies in the same way to asking for support. She first explored it for Native Americans, then you think, as I said, about descendants of slaves, Holocaust survivors, and descendants of Holocaust survivors, and Japanese Americans who were interned during World War II. So there's a lot of different groups of us, culturally, that might have a reason that asking for support wasn't something that we witnessed, and [it's] something that we literally have to learn how to put into practice. But it's my hope that women – my book is for all women who feel like they are trying to do it all, figure it all out, and do it all alone – for us to be able to acknowledge that this might be a reason, or this might be where this comes from. But I encourage you to make a change, because it is as you said, not just about success, but this is about support for your peace of mind. Thanks for tuning in to this week's 51%. 51% is a national production of WAMC Northeast Public Radio. It's produced by me, Jesse King, our executive producer is Dr. Alan Chartock, and our theme is “Lolita” by the Albany-based artist Girl Blue. Thanks to Dr. Hida Nierenburg, Dr. Jean Buhac, Dr. Sharon Ufberg, and Elayne Fluker for contributing to this week's episode. You can learn more about our guests and find episodes new and old at wamcpodcasts.org. You can also check us out on Twitter and Instagram @51percentradio. Until next week, take it easy - I'm Jesse King for 51%.

On this week's 51%, we take a break to focus ourselves. Dermatologist Dr. Jean Buhac offers up some tips to better love the skin you're in. Dr. Hida Nierenburg discusses how to ward off headaches and migraines this holiday season. And Dr. Sharon Ufberg speaks with author Elayne Fluker about the importance of asking for help, and how doing it all doesn't have to mean doing it all alone. (more…)

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Jessica Robinson, the Founder & CEO of PurePoint International whose main purpose is to support leaders to create inner security, so they can create outer security for their clients. In this episode, Jessica talks about how her protective nature led her to the cyber security field and how she felt different since nobody looked like her, Jessica's desire to guide leaders into cyber security in a creative way that is not only based on data protection, but in a sense of humanity that involves the vulnerability of the person. She talks about the implications for us by being constantly exposed to the internet and how to be able to read those red flags on the internet.   Jessica Robinson Jessica Robinson is a writer and Founder & CEO of PurePoint International. She has worked with a top 40 company and with the 2015 US Open. PurePoint International, a holistic boutique security firm, is the #1 security company for women-owned & women-led businesses globally. PurePoint International helps CEOs prevent data breaches by bridging the gap between physical and cyber security. With their unique business model and launch of their new innovative training, Safe Spaces Organizational, and Leadership Training, PurePoint was recently awarded the JCI Philippines-New York ICON Award for International Affairs and Women's Security. Jessica supports clients with CISO/DPO consulting, incident response and remediation (implement SIEM, IDS, DLP), cyber security board governance, cyber security awareness training, data protection and privacy, regulatory compliance, and standards (NYCRR 500 DFS, GDPR, HIPPA, NIST). PurePoint International provides data security, cyber risk, privacy, and information governance consulting services for insurance financial services, law firms, health services, social enterprises, international non-profits, and women-founded, owned, or led businesses. Jessica is also on the board of the authentication technology company Netlok, Board Chair of World Pulse, and co-leads the Racial Equity Committee for Women in Cybersecurity (WiCyS). Insights from this Episode When did Jessica fall in love with entrepreneurship How she got introduced into cyber security The importance of learning skills such as coding  PurePoint's approach to cyber security How does PurePoint involve a sense of humanity to cyber security 5 things everyone should know about cyber security What a VPN does and its importance The urgency of a password manager The biggest mistakes the companies do regarding cyber security The meaning of the s after the http What it means to be a consciously secure entrepreneur Stay Connected: Jessica Robinson Instagram: Jessica Robinson LinkedIn: Jessica A. Robinson Twitter: Jessica Robinson PurePoint LinkedIn: PurePoint International Website: https://the-purepoint.com/ Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Dr. Adia Gooden, a licensed clinical psychologist who firmly believes that there is nothing wrong in asking for help, especially as a Black woman. Dr. Adia talks about how growing up with clinical psychologists as parents, and her love and interest for people inspired her to become one. Dr. Adia also discusses the importance of fighting the social stereotypes and removing the stigma towards asking for psychological help, how to find the therapist that suits your needs and engage in a good relationship with them, and how to have a healthy relationship with yourself and the people that surround you by establishing boundaries.  Adia Gooden Dr. Adia Gooden is a licensed clinical psychologist, dynamic speaker, and trainer, who is passionate about cultivating unconditional self-worth in others. Dr. Adia has an independent clinical practice and runs a business focused on helping people connect with their unconditional self-worth. Dr. Adia formerly served as the Director of the Clinic and Community Programs at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and a Staff Psychologist and the Coordinator for Multicultural Outreach and Support at The University of Chicago Student Counseling Service. Dr. Adia has spent more than a decade working with clients to embody mental wellness in their everyday lives and to engage boldly with the world. Dr. Adia received her bachelor's degree from Stanford University and earned her Ph.D. in Clinical-Community Psychology from DePaul University in which she served for four years. Insights from this Episode What made Adia pursue a career in psychology The connection between self-worth and the willingness to ask for psychological help How social stereotypes impede black women from asking for help How to find the right therapist as a black woman The importance of paying attention to racial trauma as a psychologist The importance of asking yourself questions before getting psychological help Why engaging in a good relationship with your therapist is crucial What are the different alternatives you might take if you can't afford psychological help Misconceptions about therapy The importance of healthy boundaries Stay Connected: Adia Gooden Instagram: Adia Gooden LinkedIn: Adia Gooden Twitter: Adia Gooden Facebook Adia Gooden Website: https://dradiagooden.com/ TED talk: Cultivating unconditional self-worth | Adia Gooden Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Jodi-Ann Burey, a speaker, writer, and disruptor in the pursuit of equity for all in the actual system. Jodi-Ann talks about how the actual institutions and structure of power weren't exactly built thinking in an inclusive and healthy workspace, and specifically how these types of environments trigger the imposter syndrome in black women. She/her tells us what this syndrome is about, how it affects women every day, how to reconcile with it, and yet feel comfortable at your workspace on a daily basis. Jodi-Ann Burey Jodi-Ann Burey (she/her) has a mission to disrupt “business as usual” to achieve social change. She is a sought-after speaker and writer who works at the intersections of race, culture, and health equity. Her TED talk, “The Myth of Bringing Your Full Authentic Self to Work,” embodies her disruption of traditional narratives about racism at work. Jodi-Ann is also the creator and host of Black Cancer, a podcast about the lives of people of color through their cancer journeys, which was recently featured on POPSUGAR and NBC – Dallas. Jodi-Ann holds a Master's in Public Health from the University of Michigan. She prides herself on being a cool auntie, a twist-out queen, health advocate, adventurer, and reluctant dog owner. Jodi-Ann is currently working on her first book. Insights from this Episode What was Jodi-Ann's inspiration to start investigating imposter syndrome? What the imposter syndrome is and its importance Does imposter syndrome affect successful women? How the actual work system triggers the imposter syndrome How black women can reconcile with the imposter syndrome while keeping their jobs Stay Connected: Jodi-Ann Burey Instagram: Jodi-Ann Burey  LinkedIn: Jodi-Ann Burey  Youtube: Jodi-Ann Burey Website: https://jodiannburey.com/ TedTalk: Why you should not bring your authentic self to work Podcast: Black Cancer Podcast Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Tazin Khan the founder and CEO of Cyber Collective, which empowers people of all kinds of backgrounds to be more critical towards their relationship with the internet by providing them with different resources and tools to remain secure and private online. Tazin talks about how she first got a hint about what cyber security was, how she started to realize that the common behaviour of the technology companies was to prioritize growth over ethics and therefore how she decided she wanted to contribute to her community by educating people of marginalized groups on cyber security while producing revenue. Tazin Khan Tazin Khan is the founder and CEO of Cyber Collective whose main purpose is to educate the public, specially in marginalized communities, about data security and privacy. Within a short few months of launching, the organization hosted 10 creative research sessions with over 1,200 global attendees, released a national petition, became a cohort to the largest privacy coalition in America and partnered with UCLA's Center for Critical Internet Inquiry. Khan comes from a long line of folx doing social impact work and creatives who use their platforms to create visibility and change: her father was a freedom fighter and her brother is an accomplished musician and artist. It is no wonder then, that her work in the cyber security space is coupled with activism and creativity. Khan activates all parts of her identity to present thoughtful, and hilariously engaging social media content to connect with her audience and induce social and individual behavioral change. Insights from this Episode When did Tazin first fell in love with entrepreneurship How Tazin got into cyber security How Tazin managed to found Cyber Collective What's the main purpose of Cyber Collective and how it helps marginalized people How Tazin keeps Cyber Collective ethical while generating revenue What future plans does Tazin have for Cyber Collective to reach to more people Stay Connected: Tazin Khan Twitter: Tazin Khan LinkedIn: Tazin Khan  Website: https://tazinkhannorelius.com/ Cyber Collective Website: https://www.cybercollective.org/  Instagram: Cyber Collective  Twitter: Cyber Collective LinkedIn: Cyber Collective  Youtube: Cyber Collective IFUNDWOMEN Website: https://ifundwomen.com/ Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Michelle Swittenberg, CEO of two fitness businesses, BRWL Studio and the Triple Threat Challenge. Michelle talks about how after planning her retirement at 48 years old she couldn't deal with the “sitting all day on a sofa doing nothing” lifestyle which is why she decided to enter the entrepreneurship world in this second phase of her life. Michelle tells us about what aspects of her life led her to decide and plan her retirement, how she came up with her fitness businesses by wanting a more inclusive gym space in which people didn't feel judged but welcomed, and how she is constantly trying to reinvent herself within this entrepreneurship world. Michelle Swittenberg Michelle is the CEO of two fitness businesses, BRWL Studio and the Triple Threat Challenge. She retired at 48 years old from corporate America in 2016 after 25+ years in corporate positions in the areas of product development, strategic planning, and marketing and sales at some of the top companies in the world like Verizon. A few short years into retirement, Michelle's passion for fitness turned into a calling and in the process she started with her friends the Triple Threat Challenge with the intention of making exercise inclusive, and then met Martesse and BRWL Studio was born. With an MBA from Duke and a BS from the University of Pennsylvania – Wharton, Michelle manages the business side of BRWL Studio. Insights from this Episode How Michelle made her plan to retire on her 40's How entrepreneurship started to take part of Michelle's life How was Michelle's experience in the cooperative state of her life How the Triple Threat Challenge began  How Michelle desire to create an inclusive gym space led to the creation of BRWL Studio Lessons of entrepreneurship Stay Connected: Michelle Swittenberg Instagram: Michelle Swittenberg LinkedIn: Michelle Swittenberg Twitter: Michelle Swittenberg  BRWL Studio Instagram:BRWL Studio LinkedIn:BRWL Studio Facebook: BRWL Studio Youtube: BRWL Studio Website: https://www.brwlstudio.com/ The triple Threat Challenge Website: https://thetriplethreatchallenge.com/ Instagram: Triple Threat Challenge Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Elayne highlights how she got into her work by attending a Momentum workshop that completely transformed her life. By posting positive messages on her social media pages, she was able to reach women entrepreneurs. She encourages women to seek support, and not only when in crisis. While on the entrepreneurial journey, people get so fixated on the goal that they forget to enjoy the moment's joy. She recommends that it is important to talk to people about the journey and take care of oneself. It is important to seek help and not only when we are in crisis. Have a list of people, resources, or organizations that you might reach out to for help or people to put your product in front of the right audience. About Our Guest Elayne Fluker is a media entrepreneur, and host of the Support is Sexy podcast for women entrepreneurs and the CEO of Chic Rebellion Media. Chic Rebellion Media is a firm that is built on the notion of women supporting women, particularly along the entrepreneurial journey. She has interviewed more than 500 women entrepreneurs from different cultures, backgrounds, and experiences on her podcast. She has a book, “Get Over 'I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support, and Remember That Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” Insights from the Podcast — Unlearn that support does not necessarily mean that someone is in crisis. Also, support should be an ongoing process. We should not wait until we are in crisis to seek support. — Understand how important it is to give yourself time to fall back and reflect. Assess the season you are in and what is set to bloom without forcing it or making it happen. You will discover that some things that are not as important as you thought they were. — Discover how H.E.L.P must be used in the art of asking for support H- Having it all does not mean doing it all alone E- Ask Empowering questions L- Let go of the how and leave the question P- Believe in the Possibilities — Insights on how to have an empowered ask through the 5Rs 1- Be Ready when you show up 2- Reason: why is it important to you or the other person? 3- Receipts: what have you done? What are you doing? What is your value? 4- Why are you making the Request: be very direct because the other party does not know what you want, and it will not magically show up 5- Show Reciprocity: be ready to give and receive Quotes from the show: “We need to stop associating support with a crisis. This is a thought and behavior that we need to unlearn” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “Do not miss out on the joy of this moment. Remember why you started and the intention. It is easy for us to get distracted, just fall back and remember why you started your journey and take care of yourself ” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “If you knew how, you would have done it already. It will happen when we leave the questions that we do not have answers to” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “All the movements in the world were based on belief possibilities. All the things that are magical in this country all started with a belief” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “An exceptional life is a life of low probability. If we get caught in what's probable, we will not believe in the possibilities” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “To adopt a possibility mindset, one needs to think of what's possible and not what's probable. This makes one open to the magic that is out there and one that is available. Believing in possibilities opens one up” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “Success does not mean that we have to toil or be drained. Imagine the impact of success that has to be resourced and filed with ease and grace. It does not have to involve being away from family” –Chantal Pierrat Emerging Women Podcast. “Success is what happens when you close the gap between reality and possibility” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Amber Aziza, Founder and CEO of AAE Corporation which helps companies adjust to the new normal by transforming their workforce into “engaged, happy, and productive teams”, that are in concordance with the companies' culture and values. Amber talks about how in the new times, where marginalized groups are becoming more visible, companies have to respond to this change not by bringing a void of support that is merely for the company image, but by making their workforce and company values more inclusive. Amber tells us how her corporation helps other companies stand for what they believe is right, and how this change in the company's culture helps create a workforce that cares genuinely for their work. About our Guest Amber Aziza, Founder and CEO of AAE Corporation, which houses multiple subsidiaries, has made it her life's work to provide innovative organizations with expert solutions. After over 10 years, Amber had graced the teams of AIM Healthcare, OptumInsight, Advance Financial, and more. She left the corporate arena to begin her own business, The AG, a firm dedicated to bridging the gap between Millennials and the corporate workspace. After selling The AG's book of business, Amber began building Amber Aziza Enterprises, a conglomerate of companies dedicated to help small business owners and venture capitalists. It wasn't long before she missed the excitement of the “people side of business” and shifted her focus back to transforming workforces, changing Amber Aziza Enterprises' name to AAE Corporation.  Insights from this Episode What is the new normal nowadays? How strong is the commitment for diversity from leaders of organizations Steps for constructing a more inclusive company How Amber's Corporation helps other companies be more inclusive How a leader can generate a more inclusive work environment on the daily basis of the company Difference between equity and equality Stay Connected: Amber Aziza Instagram: Amber Aziza Facebook: Amber Aziza LinkedIn: Amber Aziza Twitter: Amber Aziza  Website:https://amberaziza.com/ AAE Corporation Website: https://www.aaecorporation.com/new-aaehome LinkedIn: https://uy.linkedin.com/company/aae-corporation Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“Sometimes, the support doesn't come from the universe, from our husbands, from whoever, because you didn't ask them.” - Elayne FlukerWelcome to Stay a While with Tommi Vincent! Aren't you tired of doing it all by yourself? You've carried the whole team on your back for too long - whether that team is your family, your work, or others' problems - and it's time to put it all down. On this episode, Elayne Fluker host of Support Is Sexy Podcast drops by to share some pointers on letting go of the Superwoman cape. You don't need it because it is wearing you OUT, sis! Take some notes and remember you deserve to be supported.Workshop Facilitator, Speaker and Leadership Development Consultant for corporations, organizations and professional women. Creates engaging workshops that shift the mindsets of professional women around the stigma of asking for support and empower them to effectively make "empowered asks" to achieve for success, fulfillment and work-life harmony. Companies get actionable solutions for creating a more supportive and psychologically safe work culture.➜ Speaker at the UN, LinkedIn, Columbia, NYU, Spelman College, Howard University, the Women Presidents' Organization, Essence Fest, National Urban League and more➜ Facilitated 200+ in-person workshops in the U.S., Spain, South Africa and Morocco and virtually online, including leadership development and DEI workshops for global firms and Fortune 50 companies➜ Interviewed and coached more than 500+ women around the world about challenges they encounter when asking for support.➜ Featured on "Today" show, "Nightline," "Extra," CNN, VH1, BET, Sirius XM and in Forbes, Essence, and 100+ podcasts➜ Author of the book, “Get Over ‘I Got It” published by HarperCollins LeadershipSpecializes in topics related to: Professional women, Women leaders within organizations, Black women.In this episode we cover[00:01 - 05:05] It Is Alright to Take the Cape Off[05:06 - 10:06] Food and Happiness: Building Long Lasting Memories[10:07 - 31:18] “I Got It” Syndrome - Why We Struggle to Ask For Support[31:19 - 41:48] The 5 Rs: How to Make an Empowered Ask[41:49 - 51:06] Crafting the Safe Environment for Vulnerability Warriors[51:07 - 56:13] Closing Segment Key Quotes“Pause for a second and take a deep breath and say, ‘Am I really creating space for support in my life?' And sometimes, usually, the answer is no. And it might not be something that is deliberate or conscious. It might be just because you're moving so fast.” - Elayne Fluker“Sometimes, ask isn't ‘I need support'. Sometimes the ask is ‘I need space,' or ‘I need time,' or ‘I need rest'.” - Elayne FlukerConnect with Elayne FlukerBook: https://www.amazon.com/Get-Over-Got-Superwoman-Remember/dp/1400213797Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/support-is-sexy-podcast-with-elayne-fluker-interviews/id1129580395 Connect with Me! You can reach Tommi on Instagram @cheftommivVisit https://vincentcountry.com and get connected with us on Vincent Country's Instagram @vincentcountry This episode was Produced By: Tommi Vincent, Tanner Vincent, and Skai Blue MediaMusic By: Stichiz - Big T. Music /Roj&TwinkiELEAVE A REVIEW + and SHARE this episode with someone who wants food for the soul, and the key ingredients to embracing their true, authentic self. Listen to previous episodes on Spotify, Spreaker, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts!

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Kasia Urbaniak, the co-founder of The Academy, whose main purpose is to teach women how to gain power. Kasia talks about how from the beginning she felt that she was not going to be a conventional woman, as she was raised in a family of musicians. Kasia tells us how her rebel spirit served as fuel to learn about the dynamics of power and become a Dominatrix, which has helped her go through her entrepreneurial journey and to help other women find their power. Kasia Urbaniak Kasia Urbaniak is the founder and CEO of The Academy, a school that teaches women the foundations of power and influence. Kasia's perspective on power is unique. Over the course of nearly 20 years, she has worked as professional Dominatrix, practiced Taoist alchemy in one of the oldest female-led monasteries in China and obtained dozens of certifications in different disciplines, including Medical Qi Gong and Systemic Constellations.Since founding The Academy in 2013, Kasia has taught over 4,000 women practical tools to step into leadership positions in their relationships, families, workplaces, and wider communities. She has spoken at corporations and conferences worldwide. Insights from this Episode How being raised in a family of musicians shaped Kasia's character When did Kasia realize her entrepreneurial journey started? How the Academy helps women to gain power How being a Dominatrix has helped Kasia understand the dynamics of power How the relationship between women and men work The power of asking and saying no as a woman Stay Connected: Kasia Urbaniak Instagram: Kasia Urbaniak Facebook: Kasia Urbaniak LinkedIn: Kasia Urbaniak  Website: https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/ Book: The ultimate guide to owning your power Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Elayne Fluker is an expert in asking for support, and she is the author of the new book, Get Over “I Got It” – where she encourages unapologetically ambitious women to learn how to embrace support not only for their success but also their peace of mind. As a speaker at organizations such as LinkedIn, the United Nations, the Women Presidents' Organization, NYU, Columbia, Spelman College and Howard University, she gives women a roadmap for making empowered asks and living a fulfilled life. Elayne is host of the Support is Sexy podcast where she has interviewed more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs around the world, and she is the founder of SiS.Academy – an online learning platform educating and empowering Black Women entrepreneurs. Most recently Elayne was named a “Founder of Change” for SiS.Academy as part of the American Express “100 for 100” program featuring 100 innovative Black women entrepreneurs. During our conversation on asking for support, Elayne and I discuss: Top areas where “helpers” (aka coaches, consultants, and business leaders) struggle to ask for support and Elayne's suspicion about why that is Native American social worker Maria Yellow Horse Brave Heart's model for historical trauma – and why asking for support is both an individual act of self-empowerment AND a way to disrupt systemic oppression Unique ways of asking for support when you know you need support but you aren't clear on what support would actually look like The 5 Rs for making an empowered ask The extra book chapter Elayne would write if she could Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Learn more about Elayne Fluker and her new book (and grab book bonuses!) at GetOverIGotIt.com The Harvard Business Review (HBR) article – Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome Sign-up for my free virtual workshop – Amplify Your Voice, Visibility and Influence While Getting Paid to Show Your Clients (or Employees) How to Do the Same Please leave a review and subscribe to Moxielicious® via Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, or Spotify so you never miss an episode!

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Maghan Morin, the co-founder of a working space called “Thynk Global” which main purpose is to make Black Female Founders feel comfortable in the entrepreneurship ambiance by creating a community in which entrepreneur woman can connect all around the world to make their businesses grow. Maghan talks about her journey as an entrepreneur who is always seeking to reinvent herself and support other women through safe workspaces and community building because Support is Sexy!  Maghan Morin Maghan Morin is the co-founder of a coworking space called Thynk Global which connects Black Female Founders around the world. She studied journalism at the University of Missouri but did not pursue that, actually while she was still in college, she opened her first business which consisted in selling women's shoes in her apartment. Afterwards, she moved to London where she worked in a shoe design company but she ended up moving back to her hometown. Nowadays, she is a business woman who is constantly trying to reinvent herself and come up with new entrepreneurship such as Melanated Beauty Spa, which is a luxury skincare spa for black women. Insights from this Episode How did Maghan fell in love with entrepreneurship  How “Thynk Global” started What is “Thynk Global” principal purpose Maghan's journey as a black entrepreneur women Why transparency is so valuable in the entrepreneurship environment Stay Connected: Maghan Morin Instagram: Maghan Morin  Facebook: Maghan Morin LinkedIn: Maghan Morin Thynk Global: Instagram: Thynk Global  Facebook: Thynk Global  LinkedIn: Thynk Global  Youtube: Thynk Global Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Sharon Ufberg, the co-founder of Borrowed Wisdom which coaches women who are trying to find a new meaning in their life and make their dreams reality. Sharon talks about how she has managed to become the entrepreneur woman she is now with the help and support of her family, how she has turned her struggles into fuel and the way she is constantly trying to help women to reinvent themselves through a meaningful living and listening to their inner voice. Sharon Ufberg Sharon Ufberg is the co-founder of a company called Borrowed Wisdom where she does transformational business coaching with her daughter, she is a radio host, she was a chiropractor for 24 years, freelance traveler & lifestyle journalist, radio host and Global Women's activist. Definitely a woman who is constantly reinventing herself. Insights from this Episode How Sharon Ufberg coaches woman through reinvention  How to listen to your inner voice Three tips on finding clarity and purpose How to live with intention and take daily action What does it mean to have a manifesting mindset Stay Connected: Sharon Ufberg Website: https://drsharonufberg.com/ Twitter:Dr. Sharon Ufberg (@DrUfberg) LinkedIn: Sharon Ufberg Borrowed Wisdom Website: https://www.borrowedwisdom.com/ Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne Fluker invites Barbara Huson, the author of the book “Rewire for Health”, to talk about her path to financial success and her journey to becoming an entrepreneur. In fact, her way to wealth wasn't always easy as she had to break through the concept of “women don't make money”, that her family raised her with and find her entrepreneurial spirit. She talks about how she landed entrepreneurship, how she discovered she could apply neuroscience to wealth and how your thoughts of fear can become your ally. Barbara Huson Barbara Huson is a financial therapist and wealth coach dedicated to helping women build their own wealth, as she transitioned from being the traditional jewish housewife to becoming a business woman earning six figures all on her own. She has released eight books including her latest book “Rewire for Wealth” and has a community called “The Wealth Connection” in which women constantly reunite to learn how to build their own wealth and talk about money without judgement. Insights from this Episode How Barbara's strong sense of purpose has inspired her to help women be wealthy. How interviewing women who were “smart with money” changed Barbara's life. Struggles Barbara went through finding her spirit as an entrepreneur as a jewish housewife. How neuroscience and psychology relate with wealth. Steps to rewire your brain. Stay Connected: Barbara Huson Website: https://www.barbara-huson.com Twitter: Barbara Huson (@TheBarbaraHuson) Instagram: Barbara Huson (@thebarbarahuson) Youtube: Barbara Huson Book: Rewire For Wealth Community: https://thewealthconnection.com.au/ Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Subscribe to Support is Sexy + download each episode on Spotify and ‎Apple Podcasts   This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: Laurie Gerber talks to Elayne Fluker about how she fell in love with coaching and how she began the journey. She educates people to tell the truth and fall in love with themselves. In the episode, she tells Elayne what people misunderstand about relationships. Finally, she talks about how coaching saved her marriage and how that was her transformation into becoming a life coach.  About our guest: Laurie Gerber is a life coach. She has held several positions at Handel Group over the last 15 years, including President of HG Life. She is currently the Head Coach of HG Life where she empowers HG's team of life coaches and thought leaders to deliver The Handel Method with grace and wisdom to their thousands of clients. Insights from the Episode: How to date in a pandemic, and the ingredients needed: leveraging on technology, the right attitude, and time. How to date for efficiency and fun. Understanding the 3 H's in dating:  Head: is practicality and workability of the relationship Heart: cares about what you care about Hoohah: ask yourself two questions: do I want to kiss you? Do I want to look at your face for x duration of time? Understanding that it is important to check in with yourself before getting out there. Resources Mentioned The Handle Group: @HGLifeCoaching Laurie Gerber's Inner.U Masterclass  Stay Connected: Laurie Gerber Website: Laurie Gerber | Handel Group Facebook: Laurie Gerber  Instagram: @lauriegerber_coach Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: In this episode, Kacie Lett Gordon takes Elayne Fluker on how she left corporate and started entrepreneurship. Kacie talks about the steps she took before she took the plunge into entrepreneurship and what it meant for her to leave her corporate job, which had more job security, and launching her business during the pandemic.  About our guest: Kacie Lett Gordon is the founder of It All Media. She is the host of the Fuck It All (itallpodcast.com) podcast. The podcast explores brave and modern women who redefine what it means to have it all. Kacie is a storyteller, a coach, and an advisor who left her corporate job to do work that excites and makes her happy.  Insights from the Episode: How to define “It All” for yourself and work towards it. Understanding yourself and what you are great at, and what it can do for you. How to find and negotiate flexibility at work using the company benefits and making it work within the organization.  Understanding that we can find creative solutions to make our situations work without fear by making arbitrary solutions. Stay Connected: Kacie Lett Gordon Website: kacielettgordon.com Facebook: Kacie Lett Gordon LinkedIn: Kacie Lett Gordon Instagram: @kacielettgordon Twitter: @kacielettgordon Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy This episode was produced and managed by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Summary: In this episode, Jennifer Love answers general questions about money management along with an explanation of what wealth really means. Elayne Fluker and Jennifer Love discuss why some people have difficulty talking about money and the concept of financial freedom. Further, Jennifer Love explains how to change course if you are not where you want to be with money. About Our Guest: Jennifer Love is an award winning, 5-time entrepreneur with 20 years of experience. She has worked beside celebrity entrepreneurs such as Marcus Lemonis and has also prepared entrepreneurs for Shark Tank. She has a master's degree along with two decades of training in Human and Organizational Behavior. Jennifer Love is now the founder and CEO of the Living Wealthy Institute.  Insights from the Episode: The importance of being clear on your relationship with money and how you think about money. How to shift your emotions concerning money. Understanding that most financial decisions are based on emotion instead of analytics. How to find financial confidence, joy and freedom.  Stay Connected:  Jennifer Love Website: https://livingwealthyinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheJenniferLove/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejenniferlove/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejenniferlove/ Elayne Fluker Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elaynefluker/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaynefluker Support is Sexy: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/supportissexy/ Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In many of the programs. and experiences I lead, especially for women of color, I ask them to do two things: remove your masks and and your capes. For many of the women I work with, they feel obligated to mask who they are (which...

For this week's episode I am joined by Elayne Fluker. Elayne Fluker is the author of “Get Over ‘I Got it,' and the host of Support is Sexy Podcast. In our chat Elayne explores reasons that women sometimes find it difficult asking for support. She goes on to share practical ways in which women can learn to embrace support, not just for their success but also for their peace of mind. Elayne's BioElayne Fluker is author of the new book, Get Over "I Got It" (HarperCollins Leadership), where she encourages unapologetically ambitious women to learn how to embrace support not only for their success, but also their peace of mind. As a speaker at organizations such as LinkedIn, the United Nations, the Women Presidents' Organization, NYU, Columbia, Spelman College and Howard University, she gives women a roadmap for making empowered asks and living a fulfilled life. Elayne is also host of the Support is Sexy podcast where she has interviewed more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs around the world, and she is founder of SiS.Academy -- an online learning platform educating and empowering Black Women entrepreneurs. Most recently Elayne was named a "Founder of Change" for SiS.Academy as part of the American Express "100 for 100" program featuring 100 innovative Black women entrepreneurs. Elayne Fluker Social Media HandlesFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/elayneflukerTwitter - https://twitter.com/elayneflukerInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/elaynefluker/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaynefluker/ Get the Elayne'e BookPre-order Get Over I Got It - www.getoverigotit.comSupport is Sexy PodcastSupport is Sexy - http://elaynefluker.com/podcast WebsiteElayne Fluker - www.elaynefluker.com

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Founder of BroglieBox Julia Broglie opens up about her struggles with mental health and losing a brother to suicide, and how her journey led to starting the BroglieBox company. Mental health has never been so important. Listen for support strategies for your mental health and practical tips for your business in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Julia Broglie is the Founder of the social impact company BroglieBox. At BroglieBox, boxes - or "care packages" are curated with tools and resources for mental health in a way that feels warm, lighthearted, and fun.   Insight from this episode: How Julia is fighting the stigma of mental health in an approachable way.  Strategies for grieving in healthy ways and helping others who are.  Details on the Six Pillar of Mental Wellness and how to best support them in your life.  Tips for being a responsive company and how BroglieBox was impacted by 2020.     Quotes from the show: On her brother Justin: “He kept telling me, I just want to make a difference in this world. And he is making a difference now. I feel him guiding me, and I feel like he's touched so many people after his death because every single person that receives one of our boxes, it was inspired by him.” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “We need to be open about this [how Justin died] because we don't want any other family to go through what we're going through right now… and if us talking about it saves a life or brings awareness or fights the stigma, then we're going to shout it from the rooftops.” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “If you're going to a therapist once or twice a week, what are you doing in the in-between? What are you doing every single day to support your mental health or even just remind yourself, hey I should check in with myself, what is one thing I can do for myself?” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “2020 was that year that a lot of us realized that even if you're not directly involved in a situation that you might think would cause grief, just even being on the outside or witnessing it on television or just knowing what's going on in the world or seeing people who are losing a family, for example, can cause grief.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “You are your company's greatest asset. And when you're not treating yourself as your company's greatest asset, then your company's going to suffer.” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 Resources Mentioned National Suicide Prevention Hotline Text HOME to 741741 for Crisis Text Counsel The Broglie Blog Mental Wellness Care Package Giveaway CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Julia Broglie Website: https://brogliebox.com/  Instagram: @juls.b_ Instagram: @thebrogliebox LinkedIn: Julia Broglie   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, the Creator of The Great Girlfriends Podcast and expert brand builder Sybil Amuti gives noteworthy strategies for building your brand and creating brand longevity. Become “pandemic proof” with content, culture, and community. Find out how to get to work in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Sybil Amuti is the Founder and Creator of The Great Girlfriends Podcast and Community, a personal & professional development community created to connect women with daily tips and solutions to live a passionate life and build a thriving business.   Insight from this episode: The benefits of sharing your vision in a way that allows others to opt into your energy.  Strategies for building a community around your brand and details on your responsibilities as a brand builder.  Questions to ask yourself as you communicate your message to the market.  Tips for monetizing or leveraging your own podcast.     Quotes from the show: “In my mind, ‘Let's make a podcast' meant ‘Let's build a brand'... I did always have in my mind what the story could be. Whenever I have an idea… I sit down and I jot it out and I imagine what the tentacles can be and how far it can go.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “Do this right now, start this right now, before the people get here… Build it so that when they show up, they can see how you operate on social media, they can see all the other things that you have.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “When you're building a brand, you have to know that your vision is good enough. You have to be fully satisfied with the idea that you may be the only customer for a long time. You have to have that internal esteem.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “That's the gift of having a vision and stepping into it. We don't get to decide how far and wide it goes, and thank God we don't because we would restrict it.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “Yes, you are a brand. And yes, you have a brand. It's your unique way of being. It's your unique way of doing. It's your unique way of feeling. It's the way that you make other people's senses come alive.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “You'd be remiss if you did not understand: Customer is community.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “I look at the podcast as more of a platform. I see all of the facets of real estate. These are all the things that are properties that another brand would see the value of if they were given the opportunity.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783   Resources Mentioned CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! The Great Girlfriends Podcast Force of Beauty by Mikki Taylor  Canva  Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Sybil Amuti Website: https://sybilamuti.com/about-sybil/  Twitter: @sybil_amuti Facebook: Sybil Amuti Instagram: @sybil_amuti LinkedIn: Sybil Clark-Amuti   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Elayne Fluker and I have two very important things in common. We both are obsessed with helping women redefine and create their "it all;"AND we both can't follow a script to save our lives.Minutes in, what we both thought would be a conversation about leaving our full time jobs to live our creative callings, turned into a candid talk about Elayne's decision to start a family at 48. We both gladly tossed the post-it notes to the side, and dug in.Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, Get Over I Got It, and the host of the wildly successful Support is Sexy Podcast. She has spent the past 10 years helping women entrepreneurs through coaching and storytelling, and is now sharing her brilliance with the rest of the world. Lucky us.This conversation is one of those that you will consider a true before and after moment; prepare to learn lessons that are going to change your life. For me, they already have.I find myself reciting, "get over I got it," or "support is sexy, Kacie!" I have told myself more than once over the past month since we recorded, "just live the question." All of which have made me feel empowered over defeated, and excited over anxious to ask for the help and space I need, instead of feeling like a failure for needing both.This woman radiates joy; her energy is a warm glow that engulfs you and reminds us all that, "everything little thing is gonna be alright."Our episode is nearly an hour, and it's worth every single minute.  I promise.If you like what you hear here on the show, then I strongly recommend that you go pre-order Elayne's book coming out on May 11th (PRE-ORDER HERE) which was announced today as one of Essence Magazine's top picks for Mother's Day gifting - just sayin'!I've got my copy already in the works. Maybe we'll have Elayne back on the show for a "book club" episode. I can't wait.X,KLGP.S. FYI, this episode does talk openly about suicide. If you or someone you love is in need of help, it's available. You can reach the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800.273.8255.  

When the universe talks, you listen. When it screams, you sit your ass down and take it all in. This week it screamed to me, and whether I was ready or not, I became its captive audience."Live the question," was a piece of advice I took away from my conversation on the Support is Sexy podcast, with the fierce and formidable, Elayne Fluker. Elayne will be a guest on the show in the coming weeks, and you should all go pre-order her book,Get Over "I Got It": How to stop playing superwoman, get support & remember that having it all doesn't mean doing it all alone.UM, OKAY, ELAYNE.Like the title suggests, the book centers on how as women pursuing it all, we have to recognize we need the support to make sure we're not doing it all ALONE.I started thinking - as I always do with these conversations - when I FEEL LIKE I have to do it all alone, and how often do I realize that I can't do it all alone. The answer to both was, "almost always."Then - bam, bam, bam. I was served 3 lessons on support. Some easy, some I really didn't want to receive, but nonetheless, all insanely valuable.Lesson one was realizing that I had to ask for itLesson two was realizing the value of support, and how much I appreciate a safe space to give and receive itLesson three was realizing the gift you give others when you say exactly what you need; especially if those people love you and want to show up when you're hurtingWe are the teachers of the lessons we're learning. I am learning that support is a symbiotic relationship; the more we give, the more we get. The more we ask, the more we answer. X,KLG

Elayne Fluker has a bio that would make the most experienced media person blush! She is the author of the new book, Get Over "I Got It" (HarperCollins Leadership), where she encourages unapologetically ambitious women to learn how to embrace support not only for their success, but also their peace of mind. Elayne is also host of the Support is Sexy podcast featuring interviews with more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs around the world, and she is founder of SiS.Academy -- an online learning platform educating and empowering Black Women entrepreneurs. Most recently Elayne was named a "Founder of Change" for SiS Academy as part of the American Express "100 for 100" program featuring 100 innovative Black women entrepreneurs.    In this episode you will learn: What prompted Elayne to become a vegan Who she was channeling when she did one podcast episode 5 times a week for two years Why she has the first IPhone she ever purchased   Listen to Elayne Fluker's podcast recommendations: Support is Sexy with Elayne Fluker Beyond the Business Suit with Kailei Carr Smart Passive Income with Pat Flynn Quote of the Day Show with Sean Croxton   Bisque Please tell us where can you find Elayne? We will happily:   Pre-Order her new book & Get a Free Gift  GetOverIGotIt.com Social Media Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/elaynemfluker Twitter - https://twitter.com/elaynefluker Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/elaynefluker LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaynefluker

Elayne Fluker is the host of the Support is Sexy podcast, a show with more than 800,000 downloads and listeners worldwide. She is the founder of SiS academy, an online learning platform for black women entrepreneurs. Through her consulting agency Chich Rebellion, Elayne and her team help black female business leaders elevate their brand and grow their businesses through thought leadership and compelling content. Elaine is the author of the highly anticipated book, Get Over 'I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember That Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone, coming out in May 2021 Today, Elaine and I discuss how she discovered her passion for encouraging others to seek support. She shares her philosophy on the "having it all" mindset and why you should be defining what that means for you. She explores why we often find it hard to ask for support and how having the right partner can help. She highlights the different self-care elements in business and the common attributes of the most successful female business leaders. She also shares why allowing space for honesty in your business is vital and how having mentors and other support will provide you with the framework for success. "Maybe you can do it for yourself, but how wonderful would it be to be open to the universe trying to send support your way." - Elayne Fluker This week on SmallBizChat Podcast: Resources Mentioned: Connect with Elayne Fluker: Fix Your Business! Are you ready to run your business with intention? Ready to create a business that allows you to live your dream life and take those dream vacations you deserve? Then you need a copy of my latest book: Fix Your Business: A 90-Day Plan to Get Back Your Life and Remove Chaos From Your Business. Fix Your Business gives you concrete advice on the problem areas many small business owners face as well as the step-by-step process to find solutions so you can live the life of your dreams. It's time to take back control of your business and change how your business is run. Order your copy of Fix Your Business and design your business - and life - with intention. Let's End Small Business Failure - Together! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of the SmallBizChat Podcast - the show on a mission to improve small business success. If you enjoyed this episode, head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Help us spread the word and end small business failure by sharing your favorite episodes with your friends and colleagues on social media. Visit our website or follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, or YouTube for more great content, tips, and strategies to improve your small business.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Melinda Emerson chats with Elayne Fluker about balancing personal and professional life. They discuss the "I got it" syndrome, the impact of COVID-19, and the importance of self-care. The conversation also covers traits of successful women business leaders, support essentials, and book recommendations for boss ladies.