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Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Unpacking LDS Polygamy Developments in 2025 [Part II of II]Join Valerie and Jana Spangler as they finish their conversation about the fascinating currents of 2025 surrounding polygamy in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. In this episode they dissect the release of a new gospel topic essay solidifying Joseph Smith's role as the originator of polygamy, the provocative digitization of a John Taylor revelation, and analyze President Oaks' recent mentions of Heavenly Mother(s) in a public address. With insightful analysis and a call for self-discernment, they offer listeners both a historical exploration and a heartfelt guide to navigating these complex issues.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Discussing Polygamy in 202501:44 New Gospel Topic Essay on Polygamy03:52 Joseph Smith and the Origins of Polygamy07:42 The Church's Narrative and Modern Movements14:14 John Taylor's Revelation on Polygamy20:33 Polygamy in Church History22:21 Transparency and Church History26:40 Gender Equality in the Church31:47 Heavenly Mother and Polygamy36:09 Differentiation and Personal Faith41:22 Embracing Complexity and Holiness43:28 Final Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Join Valerie and her guest Jana Spangler in the next two Monday episodes as they delve into the complexities of polygamy within the Mormon church, focusing on the year 2025 when several significant events around this topic unfolded. They discuss how early Mormon history, particularly Joseph Smith's revelation on polygamy, has impacted the faith journey of many members. Additionally, they explore the recent polygamy-related additions to the 'Come Follow Me' manual and what this means for teaching younger generations about this challenging subject.  The conversation extends to practical advice for LDS church-attending parents and teachers navigating the the polygamy topic with children both at home and at church, with a focus on fostering critical thinking both in children and in the adults who are shepharding them in their spiritual growth and development. This episode promises a thoughtful examination of faith, history, and the ongoing struggle to reconcile and/or let go of difficult Mormon doctrines.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:17 Discussing Polygamy in 202505:34 Historical Overview of Polygamy15:18 Polygamy's Impact on Modern Faith32:19 Personal Reflections on Polygamy43:42 Controversy and Church Teachings50:58 Questioning Narratives and Personal Feelings51:21 Teaching Complex Ideas to Children53:01 Gender Dynamics in Religious Teachings58:20 Revised Teachings on Polygamy01:11:37 Parental Guidance and Critical Awareness01:23:17 Balancing Structure and Flexibility in Faith01:35:38 Concluding Thoughts and Future TopicsSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Two-Hundred Year Old Mirror: How the Faith Expansion Journey has Always Made Christian Leadership Sweat! [Episode II of II]In this thought-provoking episode, Valerie and guest Casey McFarland dive into part two of their series comparing the dynamics between orthodox leadership and progressive membership in both the early Christian church and in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. They explore the discovery of the Gnostic Gospels and how their divergent beliefs sparked friction with orthodox leaders of the time. The conversation addresses the parallels between historical and contemporary challenges, such as the struggles around authority, the role of women, and the push and pull between rigidity and progressive thought.  The fascinating conclusion:  What we are experiencing is utterly predictable, has happened before, and is more about the frictions around community, cohesion, and the inevitability that some souls much grow...even in a correlated space! Did you hear their announcement about the Latter Day Struggles 2026 trip to Italy?  Listen in and catch up if you didn't!   Previous episodes referenced:  159:  LDS University Students Pressured to Not Ask Hard Questions 160:  Why Scientific & Academic Inquiry IS Spiritual Seeking!Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:20 Comparing Modern and Early Christian Dynamics01:12 Recap of Last Episode01:21 The Gnostic Gospels and Early Christian Writings03:45 Role of Women and Educated in Early Christianity06:40 Evolution of God and Spiritual Development07:38 Historical Parallels in Religious Thought10:38 Authority and Questioning in Faith18:11 Modern Reflections on Historical Religious Tensions24:54 Inclusivity and Development in Faith Traditions26:42 Contradictions in Logic and Authority28:16 The Role of Satan in Early Christian Debates31:30 Personal Experiences and Institutional Authority34:05 The Struggle for Inner Authority and Faith Development38:27 The Tension Between Tradition and Progress50:15 Invitation to Italy: Exploring Early Christian History53:38 Closing Remarks and Future PlansSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Have you lost your faith in the old white man in the sky but don't want to lose God altogether?  We've got you! Join Val and Nathan in this enlightening episode of 'Latter Day Struggles 2.0' as they dive deep into the evolving understanding of God within and beyond the framework of traditional Mormonism and even moving beyond Western Christian theology. The duo discusses contrasting views on the divine, from the punitive, transactional God (whom most of us can relate to learning about) to a more mystical, all-encompassing spirituality aligned with the perennial philosophy. They reinterpret Friedrich Nietzsche's proclamation 'God is dead,' and invite a deepening of the idea of God that aligns with the foundation of all Wisdom Traditions and transpersonal psychology. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that explores how reimagining God as an integral, universal force can transcend old paradigms and awaken a deeper spiritual consciousness.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:12 Exploring the Nature of God02:33 Nietzsche's Perspective on God04:40 The Western Concept of God09:44 The Perennial Tradition14:36 Comparing Western and Eastern Views of God23:58 The Perennial Philosophy and Human Divinity46:34 Concluding Thoughts on God and SpiritualitySupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Two-Hundred Year Old Mirror: How the Faith Expansion Journey has Always Made Christian Leadership Sweat! [Episode I of II]In the next two Monday episodes you are going to LOVE this conversation between Valerie and her friend Casey McFarland (of @pioneerparadox) as they discuss a fascinating aspect of early Christian history that is sure to resonate with you on your own faith expansion journey. They delve into the world of early Christian Gnostics and their progressive beliefs that challenged the early church general leadership by claiming that while a church can be a useful resource in one's journey towards spiritual light and truth, God could be found within each of us and is not controlled by any other human person or institution. If you don't want to feel alone in your wrestles with institutional authority, these two episodes will hit home in every way. Also stay tuned for the end of the episode where Casey & Val make an exciting announcement that you will not want to miss! 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:11 Casey's Background and Interests03:26 Early Christian History and Book Discussion06:49 Comparing Early Christianity and Modern LDS Church11:48 The Role of Early Christian Leaders30:40 Valentina and Progressive Early Christians36:43 Ancient Philosophical Schools and Heresies37:32 The Threat of Competing Beliefs38:24 Valentina's Following and the Church's Response40:00 Gnostic Beliefs and Self-Discovery40:59 Quotes from Gnostic Texts43:13 Gnostic Christianity vs. Traditional Christianity48:23 The Concept of Maya and Moksha52:58 Stages of Faith and Compassion01:01:34 The Transforming Power of LoveSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Join Val and Nathan in this 2.0 episode exploring how our human shadow parts can "leak" all over our respective "ladders of development" and what happens when (not 'if') they do.  This episode processes not only why we much integrate our personal shadows, but also how this work looks!  Nathan surprised Val by going off-script  vulnerably shared his personal struggle with incorporating feminine divine into his prayers, revealing a significant 'shadow' from his past that still affects him.Did you love learning about climbing up your own ladder of consciousness as others climb up their own?  If so, you're not alone.  Val has started integrating this metaphor into her group work and this concept is proving to be game-changing to many!  Groups are full at the present but jump over to latterdaystruggles.com and join their email list so that you know when the next one is enrolling! Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:51 Concept of the Ladder, the Climber, and the View01:08 Stages of Conscious Development03:13 Potential Pathologies in Development04:53 Intersection of Psychology and Spirituality07:09 Ken Wilber's Integral Theory13:15 Understanding Shadows and Blobs23:09 Real-Life Example of Shadow Work41:58 Concluding Thoughts and ReflectionsSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: An Exploration of ‘Fabricated Fellowship' & ‘Harmful Religiosity' on the Path Towards Healing Spiritual Community [Part IV of IV]Join Valerie and her special guests, Steve and Ginger Hitz, in the final episode of a profound four-part series focused on the crucial role that community can play in fostering environments of growth and spiritual flourishing. In this episode one focus is on the harms of blind conformity and the importance of learning to trust ourselves in the pursue light, truth, and love. Remember: spiritual community can be a helpful re-'source'.  it is not the foundation of one's connection with THE Source.Tune in to hear practical advice on fostering meaningful connections within and beyond traditional church settings, and discover the power of embracing your spiritual journey with intent and authenticity.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:27 Overview of the Series and Book01:49 Barriers to Authentic Fellowship04:20 The Parable of the Caterpillars07:20 Breaking Free from Conformity09:35 Personal Stories and Reflections12:48 Creating Authentic Connections18:03 Managing Tension and Spiritual Growth25:54 Family Mantra and Community Support36:24 Closing Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Rungs and Revelations: Ascending the Spiritual Ladder [Part II of II]Why is spiritual growth so incredibly hard and confusing? Why do some people stay put in the same world view forever? Why do some people seem to grow quickly and seem to be magnets inviting others to grow? Why do some people feel torn between emerging beliefs and paralyzing fear that the old beliefs might actually be right? And why do some people seem to trade in their old perspectives for new ones but seem to hold onto the same rigidity and judgment? If you want a map that can explain all of the messiness of the human growth journey…this episode is a good one for you! Ken Wilber's book "A Brief History of Everything"Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:13 The Ladder Metaphor for Growth01:02 Understanding Levels of Consciousness01:57 The Climber and the View02:50 Hierarchy in Growth and Transformation06:01 Pathology of Fixation at Lower Rungs16:09 Transcendence Failure and Its Challenges20:37 The Garden Narrative and Overcoming Fear21:38 Deep Neural Wiring and Higher Consciousness22:42 Struggles with Relationships and Transcendence24:46 Internal Personal Transformation29:51 The Concept of True Self33:10 Transcendence and Inclusion Challenges37:31 The Importance of Inclusion in Spiritual Growth47:47 Conclusion and Next StepsSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: An Exploration of ‘Fabricated Fellowship' & ‘Harmful Religiosity' on the Path Towards Healing Spiritual Community [Part III of IV]In this thought-provoking episode, Valerie and guests Ginger and Steve continue to delve into discuss their book, 'Igniting the Holy Flame.' In this episode the topic turns to a core principle key community spiritual healing. Paradoxically, the more each individual in a community is trusted to find God within, the more they bring this True Self to their communities around them. Healthy souls create healthy communities. This episode delves deeply into the importance of finding one's true inner self, the impact of meditation on spiritual growth, and how to navigate the tension between individual faith journeys and traditional religious expectations.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Series Overview00:30 Recap of Previous Episodes01:29 Today's Topic: The True Self02:12 Guest Introductions and Personal Reflections02:37 Challenges in Religious Communities03:38 Reading from 'Igniting the Holy Flame'05:08 Discussion on True Self and Spiritual Growth06:31 Meditation and Personal Practices15:47 The Role of Patriarchy in Religious Systems19:28 Managing Tensions and Personal Authority21:38 Celebrating Individual Faith Journeys37:09 Closing Thoughts and Summary39:15 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview40:49 Final Remarks and Listener SupportSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Semi-Annual Sale $69 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!How does one break down the intricacies of the spiritual transformation journey? Although different for each person, there is in fact a common thread that connects every person's onward and upward climb towards their greatest potential consciousness. In today's episode Val and Nathan introduce a way to think about this process using three key metaphors: the ladder of consciousness, the climber navigating between rungs, and the expanding view at higher levels. The episode sets the stage for a deeper exploration into the challenges of transitioning between spiritual stages and paths. Ken Wilber's book "A Brief History of Everything"Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Greetings01:12 Purpose and Focus of the Episode03:02 Transcending and Including: An Overview07:30 The Ladder of Consciousness13:36 The Climber and Critical Periods28:19 The View from Higher Rungs36:50 Challenges and Pathologies in Growth38:25 Conclusion and Next StepsSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: An Exploration of ‘Fabricated Fellowship' & ‘Harmful Religiosity' on the Path Towards Healing Spiritual Community [Part II of IV]In this second episode (of a four-part Monday series), Valerie dives deeper with Steve and Ginger Hitz, authors of 'Igniting the Holy Flame.'The conversation centers on the barriers to spiritual thriving in church communities, specifically the concepts of 'fabricated fellowship' and 'harmful religiosity' complete with an exploration and examples of both concepts.The discussion underscores the importance of individual spiritual discernment and highlights the journey towards creating more inclusive and love-centered religious communities. As usual, Latter Day Struggles strives to invite candid conversations that have the power to bring growth, healing, and spiritual awakening to every listener as they move about in all of their communities, 'religious' and otherwise.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Series Overview01:17 Defining True Fellowship01:56 Personal Stories of Fellowship03:44 Challenges in Fellowship10:32 Fabricated Fellowship17:56 Harmful Religiosity20:35 Grace vs. Legalism36:47 Customs and Spiritual Growth44:38 Conclusion and Next StepsSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!When Val first stumbled into the scholarship on transpersonal psychology (western psychology meets Eastern Spirituality meets the Perennial Tradition) she saw “transcend and include” on every page of this powerful scholarship. As she took this in, one part of her soul felt a recognition of truth. The other part of her soul shuddered a little and she mumbled to the universe (Eve-like) “Is there no other way?”After hundreds of hours of reading, thinking, and even dreaming about how people in and around the LDS church can truly grow beyond the current climate of polarization that exists…the answer feels clear to her– “there IS no other way” to truly find our deepest, most whole spiritual power and healing. Join Val and a group of Friday Fellowship listeners in this special “Office Hours” recording–where they talk about this sacred but soul-stretching work at the spiritual ‘next level' of development. Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Gratitude00:58 Topic Introduction: Transcending and Including Mormonism02:26 Understanding Transcend and Include04:57 Differentiation and Integration in Faith07:19 Transcending Inherited Beliefs11:03 Including Former Beliefs and Practices17:43 Challenges and Personal Experiences25:04 Community and Friendship Dynamics28:26 Embracing Authenticity and Personal Growth32:22 Navigating Social Expectations and Personal Beliefs34:09 Finding Confidence in Personal Changes37:55 Balancing Community and Personal Beliefs40:12 The Journey of Transcendence and Inclusion42:38 Personal Stories of Faith and Growth53:50 Concluding Thoughts and Community SupportSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

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Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: An Exploration of ‘Fabricated Fellowship' & ‘Harmful Religiosity' on the Path Towards Healing Spiritual Community [Part I of IV]As Richard Rohr has often said, "It is through great love and great suffering" that the soul grows the most rapidly and the most durably. In this four-part series (every MONDAY for the next four weeks!) fall in love with Steve and Ginger Hitz, co-authors of 'Igniting the Holy Flame: Building Communities of Love from the Ashes of Negative Religious Culture,' a book inspired by the tragic loss of their son, whose suffering was amplified by a church culture that could not meet him where he was.This book and this podcast series is a plea for further awakening around aspects of church communities that set about to help but instead inadvertently do harm through concepts like 'fabricated fellowship' and 'harmful religiosity'. In this series you will hear both candid conversation about the pain points of faith communities and how to heal, grow, and create peace both within ourselves and within our communities.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:22 Meet Steve and Ginger: A Journey of Love and Faith06:21 The Faith Journey and Spiritual Community09:37 Skyler's Story: A Catalyst for Change15:55 Interfaith Work and Universal Love18:01 Revelation and Healing After Loss25:08 Overview of 'Igniting the Holy Flame'31:58 Closing Thoughts and Future EpisodesSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!What are the pre-conditions for one to make the leap forward in their spiritual consciousness? This episode answers that very question! If you want to better understand when and why you are growing at your unique pace (and conversely, why each person's growth journey is a unique experience) this episode is sure to be eye-opening…and hopefully empathy-inducing.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:16 Special Friday Series Announcement01:38 The Road to Transcendence02:16 Introduction to Ken Wilbur's Work04:27 Preconditions for Personal Transformation06:19 Organic Brain Structure10:40 Cultural Support for Transformation17:19 The Magnet Principle and Center of Gravity21:53 Four Factors for Motivating Transformation22:28 The Journey of Soul Development23:22 Personal Example: Nathan's Faith Journey27:40 The Concept of Dissonance32:42 Insight and Transformation36:19 Embracing Personal Growth44:15 Conclusion and Next StepsSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Join Dr. Julie Hanks & Valerie in a heartfelt audience Q&A addressing their shared passion as therapists working with thousands of people in and around The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Listen in and find hope and comfort as these two women answer questions about their eventful year promoting, leading, and trying to embody (although imperfectly!) lives of psychological and spiritual health. Stay tuned for the end of the episode where they announce a 4 week online Q&A session for those interested in exploring how they can stay connected to the LDS church in psychologically healthy ways & on their own terms.  Link to enroll below!Timestamps:00:00 Welcome and Introductions03:15 Discussing Faith Journeys and Challenges03:46 Addressing Audience Questions on Faith and Spirituality06:12 Experiences with Church Leadership12:16 Rebuilding Identity and Addressing Scrupulosity20:29 Taking Feedback and Sacrifice21:46 Honoring Family While Acknowledging Harm25:16 Staying in the Church: Personal Reflections28:31 Marriage and Dating After Stepping Away31:22 Biggest Shifts in Faith Journeys36:36 Upcoming Events and Announcementshttps://drjuliehanks.as.me/schedule/d028d361/appointment/82717607/calendar/30967?appointment=Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Dialogue Foundation Gospel Study: A Novel Approach to D&C 76 [IV of IV]In this final episode of Val & Nathan's analysis of D&C 76 through they put all of the pieces together, each with their 'mystical filters' in place!  They take several specific pieces of D&C 76 and apply the principles that they have mentioned thus far in this series. Among other things, they explore how & why even the writings of great thinkers and influential spiritual leaders (from all traditions & throughout time!) are subject to cultural biases and personal worldviews that will color their writings.  They also touch on on how and why even current Mormon theological views (originated by reference to this revelation) on heaven and hell may align—but often actually clash—with the perennial wisdom traditions--*all of which* advocate for eternal growth and progression of God's children. In the end, maybe this series will intrigue you enough to jump back to an old section or chapter from the LDS standard works to practice looking at old scripture through new awakening eyes!  Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction and Series Overview00:47 Recap of Previous Episodes02:04 Understanding Spiritual Experiences02:51 Interpreting Scripture Through Cultural Filters04:24 Stages of Moral and Spiritual Development05:55 Applying the Mystical Filter06:49 Analyzing Doctrine and Covenants Section 7611:18 Historical Context and Christian Traditions17:19 Concept of Hell and Eternal Separation23:39 Celestial Kingdom and Eternal Progression43:38 Concluding Thoughts and ReflectionsSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this eye-opening episode Valerie is a guest on the Inside Out Podcast with Ian Wilkes and Jim Bennett, where they dive deep into the complexities of women's roles within the LDS Church, locking in on the recent garment policy shifts. You might be surprised to learn Valerie's take on this topic. A hint: adding women leaders to these policy-making gatherings is NOT the answer to this conundrum where it seems that thousands of LDS women across the belief & practice spectrum are frustrated.  Tune in to explore a thought-provoking discussion on equality, institutional overreach, and the beauty (and simplicity) that unfolds when humans are given the dignity to manage their own underwear drawers. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:31 Jim's Experience in Argentina01:47 Special Guest: Valerie Hamaker02:16 Valerie's Background and Podcast04:50 Challenges of Patriarchy in the Church06:18 Authority and Decision Making in the Church16:35 Impact of Patriarchy on Men and Women22:17 Garment Controversy and Gender Equality30:21 Church Surveys and Member Feedback35:38 The Problems with Fundamentalism36:38 Controlling Dress and UnderwearSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Dialogue Foundation Gospel Study: A Novel Approach to D&C 76 [III of IV] Are you on an LDS faith journey and want to try your hand at seeing scripture from LDS cannon from your emerging 'mystical filter'? If so, this episode is for you as Val & Nathan take D&C 76 & run it through their own 'mystical filters' & report of their findings!Nath & Val provide a roadmap for reading scripture through a higher lens, moving from literal interpretation to embracing metaphor, symbolism, & truths from the perennial tradition, all aimed at fostering a love-based, inclusive understanding of your own emerging spirituality.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Series Overview01:40 Exploring Integral Theory and Doctrine03:00 Understanding States and Stages of Growth04:19 Transcend and Include: Practical Applications09:08 The Role of Experience in Spiritual Growth15:03 Mystical Filter and Scriptural Interpretation23:40 Ethnocentric Lens of Early Disciples24:23 Stages of Development in Scripture Interpretation25:39 Impact of Translators' Worldviews28:15 Teachers' Influence on Scriptural Understanding32:16 Personal Interpretation and Mystical Filter35:35 Literal vs. Metaphorical Understanding36:42 Ken Wilber's Integral Theory46:21 Reinterpreting Fear-Based Concepts50:43 Conclusion and Future DiscussionsReferenced in this Episode: All Things New - Fiona & Terryl GivensTattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion - Gregory BoyleSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this heartwarming episode, Val is the guest on the Therapy Brothers podcast hosted by brothers & fellow relationship therapists Brannon and Tyler Patrick.   The topic is navigating the choppy waters of a marriage in distress due to the faith journey of one of the partners--a demographic of couples that is multiplying rapidly.  The bottom line? A faith transition can (and has) weakened or destroyed many a marriage.  But guess what?  A faith transition can actually strengthen a marriage in ways that virtually nothing else can--if both partners have the framework and the tools.  Listen in as Valerie shares her experiences and strategies helping countless distressed couples rediscover love by: redefining what healthy marriage isfocusing on values over beliefsembracing discomfort for growth fostering deep connections through compassion, curiosity, and healthy differentiation of self.   Whether you're in a faith-expanding journey or just want to deepen your relationship, this episode is packed with wisdom to guide you through the intricate dance of intimate relationship & spiritual evolution.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Going Live00:33 Weekend Stories and Parenting02:33 Introducing Valerie Hamer04:00 Valerie's Professional Journey06:08 Navigating Faith and Relationships11:49 The Role of Compassion and Understanding32:39 Process Over Content in Relationships42:14 Valerie's Resources and ConclusionSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Dialogue Foundation Gospel Study: A Novel Approach to D&C 76 [II of IV]Join Val and Nathan as they offer a very novel take on D&C 76 as guest instructors for the Dialogue Foundation's Gospel Study Program. In this episode they dive into the difference between "waking up" (a one-time peak spiritual experience) and "growing up" (the slow and steady move through stages of psychological development & consciousness awakening) and contend that "waking up" experiences MUST be looked at through the lens of one's own (and one's culture's) stage of consciousness development.  This framing sheds a whole new light on prevalent interpretations of the Mormon version of heaven (cishet, transactional, patriarchal, etc.) and might help you understand how this revelation both shares some aspects of the perennial tradition but also veers quite dramatically away from it.  Episodes three and four will illustrate this principle in detail.  00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:34 Discussing Integral Theory06:08 Stages of Faith and Community11:28 Exploring Transcend and Include14:59 Doctrine and Covenants Section 7617:31 Waking Up vs. Growing Up36:21 Conclusion and ReflectionsBooks Referenced: The Different Drum: Community Making & Peace (New Hope for Humankind) - M. Scott Peck, M.D.Finding Radical Wholeness: The Integral Path to Unity, Growth, & Delight - Ken WilberSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Valerie is the guest on the podcast Black & White & Gold hosted by Carly and Rob Allred where they engage in a compelling conversation on gender and faith. Valerie is becoming the prominent voice for the LDS Church advocating for educating men around the harms of patriarchal indoctrination on male development. This work is yielding good results as more and more LDS men are becoming feminists in their own right and are declining traditional attitudes and roles of male privilege while speaking up for the equality needed to create a truly healthy community.Tune in to hear a narrative that merges deep love for tradition with a call for transformative change.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Self-Trust and Patriarchal Systems00:42 Exploring Patriarchy in Season Three01:29 Defining Patriarchy and Its Impact03:08 Introducing Valerie Hamaker03:35 Valerie Hamaker's Background and Work06:34 Challenges and Resignation from the LDS Church09:06 The Aftermath and Community Support12:21 Understanding Patriarchal and Dominator Models23:37 The Harmful Effects of Patriarchy on Men24:13 Personal Experiences with Patriarchy25:33 The Impact of Patriarchy on Men28:52 Exploring Masculine and Feminine Energies32:04 Patriarchy and Gender Norms34:57 The Fragility of Patriarchal Structures40:55 Hope for Egalitarianism in Church Structures46:05 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title:  Dialogue Foundation Gospel Study: A Novel Approach to D&C 76 [ I of IV] Can the 76th section of the Doctrine & Covenants be seen through the lens of the Great Wisdom Traditions?  You're about it find out!  Listen as Valerie and Nathan delve into a fascinating exploration of the perennial philosophy and its deep structures that permeate various religious traditions.  One thing that is permeates all of the wisdom traditions?  A universal patterns of understanding of progression that unfolds as humans become more and more like the source of Divine Love.   After listening to this episode, you'll begin to see more clearly how 'transcending & including' is key to seeing faith in a broader, more loving way.  00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:15 Teaching the Dialogue Foundation Gospel Study01:43 Doctrine and Covenants Section 76: Three Degrees of Glory02:57 Transcend and Include: A Case Study14:37 The Perennial Tradition and Deep Structures21:42 Surface Structures and Cultural Interpretations30:27 Applying Perennial Philosophy to Doctrine and Covenants35:43 Conclusion and Next StepsSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Valerie is guest on the Parrish the Thought podcast where Brian Parrish interviews Val on the resistance she experienced from local priesthood leaders as a mental health worker tending to the complex issues of faith crisis in an institution that has yet to understand either the faith journey itself or widespread mental/relational/spiritual health issues that come from pathologizing the faith journey. As we all know—fear of church leaders did not deter Val & Nathan and their love of YOU [their listeners!] is only stronger these many months following their crucible experience.  Moral of the story? Integrity breeds empowerment. Listen in and feel empowered to own your own soul too!00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:25 Valerie's Background and Podcast Journey01:49 Starting the Private Practice03:57 Intersection of Faith and Mental Health05:12 Challenges and Growth in the Church07:06 Launching the Podcast09:58 Therapeutic Insights and Faith Dynamics21:41 Confronting Church Leadership33:22 Complexities of Faith and Leadership39:31 The Challenge of Updating Church Doctrine42:25 Personal Journey and Podcast Impact46:29 Facing Church Leadership57:19 Decision to Withdraw Membership01:05:17 Reflections on Church and Personal Integrity01:16:25 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode, Val & Nathan explore how moving from the depths of faith crisis to spiritual transformation must involve the embracing a journey that both transcends former paradigms while including their place in each person's upward journey. To illustrate this, they use the poignant article written by the much beloved LDS scholar Melissa Inouye, who beautifully illustrates this principle through her personal faith journey within the framework of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, including moving personal realizations that came to her shortly before she succumbed to cancer only recently.  This episode highlights the importance of embracing complexity and using love as a lens to view different levels of consciousness as they unfold within ourselves and others.  Tune in to this heartfelt and insightful tribute to Melissa, who walked a path of 'transcend & include' that can be honored and followed as we each grow in consciousness.   00.00 Intro02:33 Integral Theory and its Broader Applications03:32 Focus on Spiritual Transformation04:05 Introduction to Melissa Iue's Article05:35 Melissa Iue's Faith Journey09:14 Embracing the Church's Contradictions12:40 The Role of Covenants and Community21:03 Facing Illness and Finding Support24:11 The Complexity of Church Structures27:24 The Path of Most Resistance28:26 Melissa's Faith Journey29:27 Transcending and Including30:45 The Lens of Love and Empathy32:01 Dignifying Individual Spiritual Journeys34:17 Transcending Anger and Embracing Love36:32 Melissa's Article and Personal Growth42:57 Family Dynamics and Spiritual GrowthSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode, Valerie shares an inspiring journey of self-discovery and spiritual growth with The Wholeness Network.  The theme was Brene Brown's exploration of the concept of "Braving the Wilderness" and on the heels of three years of learning to live & love one's truth at a potentially high social cost, Val felt that she had a couple of things to say about this.   This episode is a sharing of history, emotion on both ends of the spectrum and ultimately,  a tale of courage, compassion, and finding one's true place in the world.  00:00 Finding My Path: Early Struggles and Discoveries00:40 A Surprising Call to Ministry01:06 Discovering a Passion for Therapy02:38 The Journey to Graduate School03:18 Embracing Complexity in Faith and Life04:40 Launching a Podcast: Unexpected Success07:40 Understanding the Faith Journey08:11 Stages of Faith and Personal Growth10:25 Challenges and Courage in Faith Transitions15:40 The Role of Compassion and Empathy23:45 Trusting Oneself and Embracing the Divine Within27:49 The Price and Reward of Spiritual Journeys28:05 Experiences of Resonance and Support33:28 Navigating Faith and Personal Growth42:36 Understanding Patriarchy in Faith Communities50:58 The Impact of Enmeshed Family Systems58:22 Embracing Wholeness and Self-Integration Afterward:  After their forced resignation from the LDS church in March of 2025, Val & Nathan were invited to share their stories on about a dozen podcasts.  Due to Nathan's currently heavy travel schedule, most of these guest appearances are (unfortunately!) just Valerie.  Thanks for sharing this journey with the Hamakers! Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Val & Nathan feature a powerful article titled, "What Can I Do?" by political analyst and friend, Brian Dille, exploring how to find common ground amid political and ideological divides. Discover actionable insights on how to engage in meaningful activism, focus on shared values, and build bridges instead of walls. This episode is a thoughtful exploration of how to transcend current limitations while honoring our developmental paths.00:14 Introducing the Transcending and Including Series01:52 The Inspiration Behind the Series04:30 Introducing Brian's Article14:38 Reading Brian's Article: What Can I Do?28:14 Effective Local Advocacy28:51 Mitigating Harmful Policies29:24 Making Your Voice Heard30:20 The Power and Limits of Protests32:09 National Efforts and Local Impact34:03 Conclusion: Taking Action and Self-Care35:11 Transcend and Include: Bridging Ideological Divides44:33 Finding Common Ground in Political Discussions56:16 Real-Life Examples of CollaborationSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this exciting solo episode, Valerie reflects on the profound personal growth she has experienced over the past few months and shares her plans for what she is informally dubbing the "Latter Day Struggles 2.0" era.  In some ways, you will continue to get what you have come to expect--a respectful & honest conversation about all things Mormon through the lens of healthy psychology.  Where 2.0 is going to shine is in several upcoming  "Transcending & Including Mormonism" special series that will run every Friday for listeners looking to deepen their faith journey, finally get 'unstuck', or are hungry for their next wave of deepening growth. Join Val in embarking on this new chapter, offering deeper, more holistic explorations of faith and consciousness.  Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In 2016 I went Trump and so did over half of the caucasian women who voted in the United States. Why? In this episode I use myself as a specimen for the study of the white, middle-class, educated, Christian, conservative, heterosexual, married woman who felt more comfortable voting for an old, white man with a questionable resume and even more questionable track record around his respect for my exact demographic. And guess what? The exact same percentage of the exact same demographic did the same thing in 2024 (minus myself, I am proud to report). Tune in to learn more about the psychology of this voting block and (surprise surprise) how this phenomenon has everything to do with what Christian conservatism often embeds in women accustomed to male leadership as ordained of God, an older white male deity, lower self advocacy, & the need to be safe in a man's care & a life committed to deferring to others' wisdom & well-being. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:16 Reflecting on Personal Vulnerability00:32 Political Series Recap and Ken Wilber's Theory03:21 Exploring the 2016 Trump Election Phenomenon05:38 White Women's Voting Patterns12:22 Psychological and Cultural Influences20:17 Personal Experiences and Reflections32:17 Understanding Women's Support for Trump52:58 Concluding Thoughts and Personal GrowthReferenced in this Episode: Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny - Kate ManneSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Val is a guest on the Join Latter Day Digest podcast & what unfolds is the very unlikely story that led to Val's and Nathan's eventual 'outlaw' status within the LDS church.  Why is this so odd?  Because this couple could not have been more traditionally believing for the majority of their lives--including spending most of their marriage following all of the traditional scripts of Mormonism...which in some ways worked and in other ways didn't work that well at all.  Then something happened within Val & Nathan (different life-shifting changes/crises) and their paradigms changed...radically.  From living traditional roles prescribed by outside 'experts' on their lives to becoming passionate advocates of finding courage, truth, and God-connection within, Val shares a journey that might offer hope to anyone out there who thinks transformation isn't possible.  00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:22 Valerie's Early Life and Background02:04 Young Women's Experience in the Church04:33 Struggles with Traditional Gender Roles10:06 Mission and College Years16:25 Meeting Her Future Husband18:53 Professional Aspirations and Challenges22:01 Empathy and Helping Others24:50 The Cost of Doing the Right Thing25:22 Balancing Family and Career25:48 Struggles of a Stay-at-Home Mom27:44 Finding Joy and Autonomy29:46 Guilt and Cognitive Dissonance33:15 Pursuing a Career in Mental Health36:43 Starting a Private Practice41:10 The Birth of Latter Day Struggles Podcast43:58 Helping Others Through Faith Expansion47:05 Commitment to a Higher Calling50:43 Conclusion and Future PlansSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Polarization, Trump Victories, & the Story of Human Progression (& Regression) [Part IV of IV] In today's final episode of this thought provoking series, Val & Nathan discuss on-the-ground ways that we each can invite the 'better angels of our natures' into our own worldviews and personal dialogue with those in other stages of development.  They emphasizes the importance of validating diverse perspectives, embodying compassion, and finding common values for a more unified future.  This episode lands where all of Val's & Nathan's work endeavors to arrive:  that the ultimate healing & growth come from embodying more and more love.  If we cannot love those in earlier stages of development, why would they be motivated to grow and evolve?  Stay tuned for a couple of episodes where Val & Nathan look at specific examples of 'transcending & including' challenging ideas & people in both the political world of today & in today's polarized LDS spectrum.  This series will be most effectively understood & integrated by those who are full access listeners and therefore will drop every Friday for the next four weeks. Thank you for your ongoing support!**The ideas from this are drawn from the scholarship of Ken Wilber and his insightful book 'A Post-Truth World: Politics, Polarization, and a Vision for Transcending the Chaos'00:00 Introduction and Series Overview00:13 Ken Wilber's Theories on Development02:33 Understanding the Trump Victory05:20 The Failure of the Woke Movement07:07 Proposals for Moving Forward08:57 The Importance of Hierarchies16:16 Embracing Multiculturalism and Inclusion23:40 Modeling Compassion and Peacemaking27:55 Addressing Root Causes of Behavior35:56 Finding Common Values37:09 Navigating the Social Culture Wars37:27 Respecting Traditions and Integrating Narratives40:10 Effective Communication and Shared Experiences41:12 What Not to Do: Avoiding Common Pitfalls44:20 Connecting with Modern Rationalists50:38 Principles for Approaching Different Levels of Development57:34 Embodying True Cosmo-Centric Values01:03:22 Final Thoughts and Future DirectionsSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Missed the LIVE Q&A where Val recently answered the flood of questions that have come in on the heels of her & Nathan's brave series venturing into the realm of politics, polarization & human/cultural evolution of consciousness? In this Q&A Val takes some very challenging questions and walks you through ways in which politics & religion are reflections how people make sense of some of their ultimate concerns about themselves & others.  Don't miss this episode if you have been inhaling their current Friday series or if you are thinking about inhaling it very soon!  00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Live Session03:32 The Impact of Current Events on Mental Health04:02 Human Growth and Development in Political Context05:32 Introducing Latter Day Struggles 2.006:00 Transcend and Include: A New Approach to Faith07:35 Understanding Human and Societal Development09:47 Integral Theory and Its Relevance Today11:22 Stages of Consciousness and Societal Growth14:18 The Role of Politics in Human Development19:43 Addressing Listener Questions20:41 The Importance of Dialogue and Understanding27:07 Personal Reflections and Political Evolution47:46 Red Flags in Spiritual and Political Leaders55:00 Talking to Children About Current Events01:01:58 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Polarization, Trump Victories, & the Story of Human Progression (& Regression) [Part III of IV] In this episode Val & Nathan discuss how societies evolve upward in love, inclusion, & consciousness, unless something goes terribly wrong from those on the leading edge of consciousness. In short, if the leading edge does not both 'transcend' in consciousness but ALSO 'include' the value of the earlier stages, then evolution is prone to halt or even move into a regression of consciousness.  Looking at our current climate of political polarization, Val & Nathan analyze how the woke movement's shortcomings and Trump's rise in power reflect deeper issues in how societies advance, or don't advance, when course correction is needed. The conversation centers on how the failure to love and include earlier developmental stages can regress societal progress.  This phenomenon is not so much about politics as it is about human (and society's) growth & development.   They will be going much deeper into this topic as it relates to religion and the LDS faith in later episodes.  This series will be most effectively understood & integrated by those who are full access listeners and therefore will drop every Friday for the next four weeks. Thank you for your ongoing support!**The ideas from this are drawn from the scholarship of Ken Wilber and his insightful book 'A Post-Truth World: Politics, Polarization, and a Vision for Transcending the Chaos,'Support the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Valerie is the guest on the thought-provoking Inside Out Podcast, one of the first podcasts to interview her following the dramatic events that led up to the Hamakers' decision to resign from the LDS church rather than collude in an excommunication process that they did not endorse as ethical, legitimate, or appropriate.  This episode takes you through Val's early life and path leading to her current work and delves into the challenges she faced with church leadership due to her public mental health work on behalf of thousands of Latter-day Saints through her Latter Day Struggles Platform.Among other things, Valerie discusses the critical tensions between church policies, doctrines, and personal mental health, while providing insights on how the LDS Church can evolve to better support its members.  **In the next several Monday episodes documenting Valerie's and Nathan's experiences connected to their resignation from the LDS church in March of 2025, Valerie represents the couple as Nathan is currently working out of town and unavailable during traditional recording hours.  They apologize as so many of you so deeply benefit from his unique insights and perspectives!  Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Polarization, Trump Victories, & the Story of Human Progression (& Regression) [Part II of IV] In this episode Val & Nathan hone in on the postmodern era: its highlights & valuable contributions along with its flaws, floundering, and eventual failure due to its eventual complete rejection of truth.  Rejection of truth led to the loss of shared cultural identity, meaning, influence, and most significantly nurtured the polarization that culminated in the rise of Donald Trump, who happened to be at the 'right place at the right time' to become the 'strongman' for millions who may have been voting more against a failed postmodern 'woke' world than for the candidate himself.  This series will be most effectively understood & integrated by those who are full access listeners and therefore will drop every Friday for the next four weeks. Thank you for your ongoing support!  **The ideas from this are drawn from the scholarship of Ken Wilber and his insightful book 'A Post-Truth World: Politics, Polarization, and a Vision for Transcending the Chaos,'Support the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Val is a guest on the wonderful In Her Image Podcast to discuss the complex emotional journey of awakening to the divine feminine. They explore common emotional responses to one's realization that s/he has been estranged from half of deity for one's whole life, awakening to the power that many of us give away in allowing others to define who the Divine is, and how this journey almost always leads to the need to redefine one's relationship with the LDS church in ways that are more differentiated, self advocating, and truly connecting with ones' Divine Source. Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Polarization, Trump Victories, & the Story of Human Progression (& Regression) [Episode I of IV]Join Valerie and Nathan in this time-sensitive four-part series looking at our current hyperpolarized political climate through the lens of stages of human & societal consciousness evolution.This episode sets the stage in building a case that following a strong start in the 1960's, our society's cohort at leading edge of consciousness failed & their lack of direction & failed leadership paved a path to two Trump presidencies. Wait, what? You ask? Your liberal worldview is partially responsible for the chaos that we are experiencing? If you want some food for thought on how religious systems, political systems, and societies at large advanced to their healthiest potential, this special series is for YOU. This series will be most effectively understood & integrated by those who are full access listeners and therefore will drop every Friday for the next four weeks. Thank you for your ongoing support!  **The ideas from this are drawn from the scholarship of Ken Wilber and his insightful book 'A Post-Truth World: Politics, Polarization, and a Vision for Transcending the Chaos,'Support the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Valerie is interviewed by her good friends and fellow podcasters Susan Hinckley and Cynthia Wynward and the three talk about what it is like to be outspoken women in a 21st Century church that is not so sure what to do with this kind of woman. They are candid in their experiences, struggles, and insecurities as they figure out their own faith journeys somewhat in the public eye while walking with thousands of others through their own complex experiences.Bottom Line: In a church that has chronically valued women for their ability to stand by in supporting roles, these women are showing this generation of people in and around the LDS church that 'fragile' has a whole new meaning nowadays!Listen, become empowered, and share this episode! Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part VIII of X]In this final episode of this must-listen series for anyone wanting a higher education on the multifaceted harms of gender inequality, Val & Nathan explore the connection between countries that mistreat their women & how these same countries (surprise, surprise) are also the most likely to use violence, force, and ultimately declare war on other countries. They end this series with an offering of hope in humanity's divine potential to continue to awaken to & resist all forms of human oppression. If you have benefitted from this series please share & support this platform through their many avenues! Thank you for trusting Val & Nathan on your faith expansion journey!Referenced in this Episode: The Creation of Patriarchy - Gerta LernerA Brief History of Everything - Ken WilberSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part VIII of X]Join Val & Nathan as they respectfully lean into specific risk factors associated with formalized patriarchal religious institutions (including the LDS church) & how these vulnerabilities play out in very real ways.  They also explore how our children can eventually become safer as their caregivers become educated & reach a critical mass of light & knowledge about the harmful (even if unintended) consequences to many children raised within patriarchal homes & churches. **Please note, Val & Nathan are not implying that child abuse & violence are *inevitable* when their families and churches are patriarchal. They are simply unpacking all of the heavily researched data pointing to heightened risk factors associated with patriarchy and violence/abuse. Please, let us learn from the ample data & protect our children.Referenced in this Episode: Associated Press: Seven years of sex abuse: How Mormon officials let it happenSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part VIII of X]In this episode join Val & Nathan as they talk about the heartbreaking (and heavily researched) reality that the patriarchal worldview makes children more likely to experience abuse and violence at the hands of their parents. This episode tackles how a patriarchal worldview creates more authoritarian parents of both genders & heightens the risk of abuse across generations of families when considered normal or even the most effective way to parent. Friday's episode respectfully leans into specific risk factors associated with formalized patriarchal religious institutions (including the LDS church) & how these vulnerabilities play out in very real ways and can be overcome by reaching a critical mass of light & knowledge about the harmful (even if unintended) consequences to many children raised within patriarchal homes & churches. **Please note, Val & Nathan are not implying that child abuse & violence are *inevitable* when their families and churches are patriarchal. They are simply unpacking all of the heavily researched data pointing to heightened risk factors associated with patriarchy and violence/abuse. Please, let us learn from the ample data & protect our children.Referenced in this Episode: The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love - Bell HooksGay Rights & the Mormon Church: Intended Actions, Unintended Consequences - Greg PrinceSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part VIIof X]In today's episode, Val & Nathan walk through the layered risk factors around spousal violence/abuse that married couples are exposed to when belonging to a formalized institutional patriarchal church. Reinforcement of male authority, inadequately trained clergy offering counseling services, isolation from external oversight/support, and tendencies to protect the male abusers (esp those with leadership callings) are all discussed. They also make recommendations for inviting a safer/healthier marriage theology and climate that will contribute to individual & marital flourishing. **Please note, Val & Nathan are not implying that abuse & violence are *inevitable* when couples hold a patriarchal worldview or belong to a formalized patriarchal religious institution--they are simply unpacking all of the heavily researched data pointing to heightened risk factors associated with patriarchy and violence/abuse.Referenced in this Episode: Associated Press - Seven years of sex abuse: How Mormon officials let it happenBell Hooks - The Will to Change; Men, Masculinity and Love Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Join Val & Nathan where today they tackle the many reasons why a patriarchal worldview sets marriages for possible spousal abuse & violence.  They walk through many factors that leave a couple vulnerable to deterioration into violence & abuse and offer ways to address these issues within our own homes if these dynamics feel a little familiar.  **Please note, Val & Nathan are not implying that abuse & violence are *inevitable* when couples hold a patriarchal worldview or belong to a formalized patriarchal religious institution--they are simply unpacking all of the heavily researched data pointing to heightened risk factors associated with patriarchy and violence/abuse.Support the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part V of X]In this episode Val & Nathan walk through a series of other very common communities where men-on-men violence is normalized--culminating in a discussion that shows clearly that it is not a coincidence that patriarchal structures enforce strict rules on both women & LGBTQ+ people for the same underlying reason. They will walk you through the "rules" and consequences imposed on sexual/gender non-conforming people and how deeply embedded systemic patriarchies use God to justify all kinds of violence & abuse directed at those not willing to acknowledge this man-made system of domination.  Referenced in This Episode: Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion - Gregory BoylePodcast: Breaking Down Patriarchy- Episode 37: How to be an Anti-Patriarchist with Levi Murray Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part IV of X]In this and the next episode, Val & Nathan dig into men on men violence due to the culture of patriarchy. In this episode they touch on male-dominated corporate culture competition, college fraternity hazing, and possibly most sensitive to many of listeners: to LDS missionary hazing rituals experienced by many of this faith tradition. Why does this happen? Patriarchy is a dominator model where not all men get to dominate. And those who are found on the "one down" side of this dominator model are often victims of violence and abuse. Support the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part III of X]In this jaw-dropping episode (at least it was jaw-dropping for Val & Nath to prepare and produce) Val & Nathan talk about the "Female Fear Factory" which is a phrase intended to communicate the implicit rules that girls and women worldwide are taught to follow in order to be safe in this world where patriarchy is treated as a "given" that must be managed and obeyed. If you care about the spiritual, mental, and physical wellbeing of yourself, your loved ones (of all genders) and your community at large--this series is a crucial masterclass. Referenced in this Episode: The Female Fear Factory; Unravelling Patriarchy's Cultures of Violence -  Pumla Dineo GqolaSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part II of X]Show Notes: In this episode Valerie and Nathan focus on the insidious impact of patriarchal Church systems and within society at large. They present troubling statistics on gender-based violence and stress the importance of understanding and addressing these issues. The episode emphasizes the need for a critical examination of power structures and aims to provide you with both new language and heightened awareness necessary for our collective healing and progress within our homes, within the LDS church, and within society at large.Referenced in this Episode: Gender Equity and Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family  Support the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy and its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part I of X]In this opening episode of this incredibly important series, Val & Nathan offer an overview of what is to come in the episodes that follow. This series has been a labor of love for this couple who care deeply about their Latter-day Saint and surrounding loved ones and want to spread the word far and wide that all patriarchy is harmful but we live in day and age where institutional patriarchy MUST be lovingly challenged for the welfare of every single human being. Patriarchy is tightly correlated to actual violence and abuse. If nothing else convinces you that reform is needed...many this will give you pause.Mentioned in this Episode: Podcast: Breaking Down Patriarchy- Episode 37: How to be an Anti-Patriarchist with Levi Murray Podcast: The Foyer- Season 3 Episode 3 Women's Equality: It Absolutely Matters Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Living in a World of Hypernormalization [Part II of II]Show notes: In this episode Val walks through the five characteristics typical of churches that engage in hypernormalization and shares thoughts on how this might be a way to explain some of the phenomenon going on in the current LDS church. Val shares how hypernormalization is a tactic often used to skirt complex issues like the need for theological reform and the need to address sensitive subjects like financial indiscretion sexual abuse reporting issues. She also touches the importance of not following the rules of hypernormalization even if there are some consequences.Support the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Living in a World of Hypernormalization [Part I of II]In this episode Val shares an update about how she is processing the recent events of her and Nathan's forced resignation in the face of excommunication by looking at this both as a personal issue for them but also plays with the idea that they are playing a symbolic role in a much larger narrative that is unfolding and colliding in both conservative Christian AND conservative political spaces and is gaining steam due to the concept of HYPERNORMALIZATION: a social phenomenon where cultural collectives know that things are very wrong but pretend that all is well.  Friday's episode dives into how HYPERNORMALIZATION might explain much that is going on in our own heritage tradition and why those who do not participate in the "rules of hypernormalization" (by acknowledging issues exist) are punished.  https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website