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This podcast discusses some of the issues caused by traditions in the LDS church that create suffering and struggles. Valerie is a members of the church and a clinical therapist and bravely breaks down controversial, challenging, and important topics that

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    • May 26, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    The Latter Day Struggles podcast is a breath of fresh air for anyone navigating the complexities of faith within the Mormon Church. Hosted by therapist Valerie, the podcast offers a safe space for individuals to explore their doubts, questions, and concerns surrounding the LDS Church. Valerie's insightful perspective as a therapist provides valuable insights and guidance for listeners who may be struggling with fear, shame, and guilt instilled by the organization. This podcast has become an invaluable resource for those seeking understanding and healing.

    One of the best aspects of The Latter Day Struggles podcast is Valerie's ability to address difficult topics and ask hard questions about the LDS Church in a compassionate and thoughtful manner. She creates a space where listeners can feel seen and heard while exploring their own doubts and concerns. Valerie's depth of knowledge on the subject matter is evident throughout each episode, making it relatable and accessible even for those who may be new to questioning their faith. The podcast offers informed and educated conversations that aim to heal wounds inflicted by leaders and church members.

    While The Latter Day Struggles podcast excels in many areas, one potential drawback is that it may not resonate with all listeners who are seeking answers or solace on their faith journey. Some individuals may find Valerie's perspective too critical or challenging to their beliefs, as she openly addresses flaws within the LDS Church while still valuing its teachings. However, for those who are open to exploring different perspectives and engaging in honest dialogue, this podcast offers a refreshing perspective that encourages growth and personal development.

    In conclusion, The Latter Day Struggles podcast is an excellent resource for anyone grappling with their faith within the LDS Church. Valerie's compassionate yet honest approach provides valuable insights and guidance for listeners seeking understanding and healing. While it may not appeal to everyone due to its critical analysis of certain aspects of the church, those willing to engage in thought-provoking conversations will find this podcast both enlightening and empowering. Overall, The Latter Day Struggles podcast is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of faith within the Mormon Church.



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    333: Patriarchy & Harm: Proven Connections to Abuse & Violence

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2025 30:25


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy and its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part I of X]In this opening episode of this incredibly important series, Val & Nathan offer an overview of what is to come in the episodes that follow. This series has been a labor of love for this couple who care deeply about their Latter-day Saint and surrounding loved ones and want to spread the word far and wide that all patriarchy is harmful but we live in day and age where institutional patriarchy MUST be lovingly challenged for the welfare of every single human being. Patriarchy is tightly correlated to actual violence and abuse. If nothing else convinces you that reform is needed...many this will give you pause.Mentioned in this Episode: Podcast: Breaking Down Patriarchy- Episode 37: How to be an Anti-Patriarchist with Levi Murray Podcast: The Foyer- Season 3 Episode 3 Women's Equality: It Absolutely Matters Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

    331: Why Very Few Shout: "The Emperor Has No Clothes!"

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 41:08


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Living in a World of Hypernormalization [Part I of II]In this episode Val shares an update about how she is processing the recent events of her and Nathan's forced resignation in the face of excommunication by looking at this both as a personal issue for them but also plays with the idea that they are playing a symbolic role in a much larger narrative that is unfolding and colliding in both conservative Christian AND conservative political spaces and is gaining steam due to the concept of HYPERNORMALIZATION: a social phenomenon where cultural collectives know that things are very wrong but pretend that all is well.  Friday's episode dives into how HYPERNORMALIZATION might explain much that is going on in our own heritage tradition and why those who do not participate in the "rules of hypernormalization" (by acknowledging issues exist) are punished.  https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

    329: The Official Faith Crisis Report: A Backstage Pass with Greg Prince

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2025 57:22


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The 21st Century LDS Church's Ongoing Struggle to Respond to the Realities of Faith & Trust Crisis [Part I of II]Join Val and friend, colleague and returned guest, Dr. Greg Prince as they talk about Greg's involvement in the profoundly important document "The Official Faith Crisis Report". A document that was the first of its kind, it compiled data about struggles in faith and trust that was sweeping the LDS church just after the turn of the century. In this episode, you will learn backstage details that only someone involved in the actual process can tell you. Greg, as usual, adds his wit and wisdom to a fascinating story about the beginning of an era that we are all living through at this moment in the LDS faith expansion space. Next episode Val & Greg tackle several sections of the report itself and engage in some spicy banter about what can happen with people in different stages of faith during a typical LDS church meeting. Join in for a great conversation! The Official Faith Crisis ReportBooks by Dr. Greg Princehttps://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

    327: Jesus Eats with "Outcasts" to Embody that HE Knows No Outcast

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 40:05


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title:  Transcending Church Rules on the PathTowards Genuine Christlike Discipleship w/Russ Hinckley Part III of IVWhat do you think Jesus would desire that we focus on in our worship services and within our larger lives? In these last two episodes of this series Val invites Russ to share his thoughts on his "Christ Creed", or his "rewrite" of what he thinks Jesus would want his followers to focus on. In this episode they focus their conversation on Jesus using social gatherings and meals to push back against cultural outgroups. Among other topics, they dig into why and how Jesus' ministry tries to prove that society (not God) creates out groups. Jump into this one--so good!Beyond Belief - Russ HinckleyTattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion- Gregory Boylehttps://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Support the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

    325: Why Jesus Likely Couldn't Care Less about Church Handbooks & Creeds

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2025 38:34


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title:  Transcending Church Rules on the Path Towards Genuine Christlike Discipleship w/Russ Hinckley Part I of IVWelcome to a beautiful series featuring guest author Russ Hinkley (who doesn't mind being referred to as Mr. Susan Hinkley of the "At Last She Said It" podcast) where Val and Russ explore his book "Beyond Belief" a radical reinterpretation of what Jesus likely would have those who gathered in his name focus on.  In this episode Russ and Val riff a bit about early Christian history and why creeds (official belief statements) were made and why Jesus likely could not care less about what are in those creeds. The rest of the series tackles what Jesus would probably have us focus on as individuals, families, and congregations.Beyond Belief - Russ Hinckleyhttps://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Support the showShare this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access: $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2025 60:18


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!In this timely conversation Valerie tackles Elder Anderson's recent general conference talk on abortion. In one hour she goes from the macro issue of abortion itself and offers some thought-provoking concepts about NOT focusing on abortion and instead focusing on how abortion is the prevailing solution to unwanted pregnancy only because we live in a patriarchal society. She also proposes that LDS women have valid reason to feel unique and acute transgenerational pain connected to marriage, s*exual misconduct, power, and self sacrifice. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access: $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠

    323: Sometimes Love Uses a Microphone

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2025 57:48


    Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Valerie is invited to be a guest on "Beyond a Shadow of a Doubt," a podcast where she shares many experiences leading to her choice to commit her career to the psychological and spiritual healing of those connected to her own Latter-day Saint faith tradition.Val shares some personal experiences, some of her reasons for beginning and staying in this nerve wracking space, about the ups and downs of the work she does. Mostly she shares her conviction that what she is doing feels deeply "right" to her core... that when one knows they are in their integrity, other concerns fall away.Join Valerie and host Meagan Skidmore for a fresh, heartfelt look at faith journey—through the eyes of someone who's walking the path right alongside you.https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Support the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2025 47:04


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Look into the Minds of Creators of The Mother Tree & Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part II of II] In this continuation of our conversation about modern Mormon feminist scholarship, Taylor and Kathryn riff about various schools of thought regarding the heavenly roll of a feminine divine in historical and contemporary Mormon scholarship and complicate these ideas with their own, connected to a potential heaven where humanity and our eternal creators may be an embodiment of masculine and feminine energies that defy our mortal conceptualization and definition.  Settle in for some beautiful ideas by some beautiful, creative, and courageous current scholarship here in our tradition. The Mother Tree: Discovering the Love and Wisdom of Our Divine Mother - Kathryn  Knight SonntagQueering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor G. Petreyhttps://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Want to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    321: The Feminine Divine in the Mormon Cosmos with Kathryn Sonntag & Taylor Petrey

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2025 57:08


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Look into the Minds of Creators of The Mother Tree & Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part I of II] Why is my job the very best?  Because I get to sit down with two of the kindest, more brilliant and beautiful souls out there--Kathryn Sonntag and Taylor Petrey-- to facilitate a conversation about all things modern Mormon feminism, scripture, symbology, and the feminine divine.  The Mother Tree: Discovering the Love and Wisdom of Our Divine Mother - Kathryn  Knight SonntagQueering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor G. Petreyhttps://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/Support the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2025 68:34


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part IV of IV]Here's one final mindblowing conversation that will definitely leave you thinking "I never thought of the garden narrative THAT way!  In this episode Taylor and Val peruse the various and sundry ways that the Garden Narrative has been used to justify all manner of unhelpful theology and social and political agendas throughout the ages and Taylor offers novel thoughts on ways in which we can see even in this narrative an opening for a heaven that welcomes of all of God's children able to form bonds of love through equality and kinship rather than through hierarchy and gender.  Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor PetreyWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    319: "Queering" Ideas about Heavenly Mother in the Mormon Cosmos

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2025 44:30


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part III of IV] One definition of "queering" that Taylor uses in his book is to complicate or expand--and this episode does just that in the realm of the feminine divine.  Buckle up as Taylor and Val walk through his fascinating ideas regarding what Latter Day Saints call Heavenly Mother.  This episode addresses historical and current scholarship around this highly charged topic and offers new ideas on how we might see this part of our theology in a whole new and provocative way. Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor PetreySupport the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2025 45:41


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part II of IV] Get ready to have your mind blown just a little more as Taylor walks Val through more expansive ideas around a heaven that privileges "kinship" over all other types of covenant bonds and uses the deep and loving relationship within the Godhead as a model, opening doors of eternal connection that transcend current Mormon theology.  Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor PetreyWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    317: Ideas on a Heaven Large Enough for All Loving Connection

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 34:35


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title:  A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part I of IV] In this episode Val and guest scholar and author Taylor Petrey set this series up by walking through the focus of Taylor's phenomenal new book, Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos.  They set the stage to blow your mind in the many ways that an open-minded and close reading of scripture makes all kinds of space for a heaven packed with not just heterosexual love and connection.  Welcome to the world of "kinship"!Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor PetreySupport the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    316: "Office Hours" Exclusive: When Faith Crisis Destabilizes the LDS Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 51:47


    Send us a Positive Review!In this Office Hours live session, members of the Latter Day Struggles community are asking their questions and Valerie brings her encouraging responses. Since February is the month where love is celebrated, this conversation centers around marriage, partnership and navigating the sometimes tumultuous waters of maintaining close relationships during a faith expansion journey. Don't lose heart! It really is possible to maintain love, patience and mutual respect while honoring your faith expanding experience! Support the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    315: Forgive Them, For They Know Not What They Do

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 81:36


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Valerie & Nathan Hamaker Forced Resignation from the LDS Church [Part III of III] In this final episode detailing the tough events of Val and Nathan's last year trying to collaborate with their local priesthood leaders, they share why they chose to resign their membership instead of experiencing a disciplinary counsel.  They also explorethe fear that some LDS leadership experiences with mental health workers and conclude with their process of letting go of resentment or anger so that they can move forward with true freedom. Please SHARE these episodes. Val and Nathan want the narrative around their need to formally resign from the LDS church to be understood firsthand. Thank you for your love and support at this time! Support the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2025 60:45


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: Valerie & Nathan Hamaker Forced Resignation from the LDS Church [Part II of III]Join Val & Nathan in this episode answering questions that came in from listeners following their public announcement regarding their forced resignation from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints due to local priesthood leaders' inability to understand the nature of their work and the healing intent of their hearts. Thank you all for your ongoing love and support. Valerie & Nathan are committed to this platform and are honored to be a voice for psychological healing in our Latter-day Saint and surrounding community. No regrets, only love.Books Referenced in this Episode:Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion - Gregory BoyleA Course in Miracles Want to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Limited-time Sale on Annual Subscription $69: app.helloaudio.fm/feed/455929cb-0267-4c17-aa18-9469c4003feb/signup Monthly Subscription: $9.99. app.helloaudio.fm/feed/45de445a-7109-4ad4-a670-231a20dc02d9/signup Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    313: Not Willing to be Burned at the Stake Center

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2025 129:47


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Valerie & Nathan Hamaker Forced Resignation from the LDS Church [Part I of III] Please join Valerie & Nathan in this tough 3-part conversation sharing the events that led to what felt to them like their forced resignation from LDS Church this past week. In today's episode Val and Nathan walk through a timeline of a lot of painful experiences in the past eighteen months with multiple well-meaning local priesthood leaders who ultimately could not overcome their fear of the healing work happening on the LDS Church on the Latter Day Struggles platform.  The episode ends with several truly beautiful testimonials sent to us by many of you, which were sent to all of these priesthood leaders, detailing the impact of our ministry—to no avail. COMING UP...PART II - Friday 3/21 episode: Special full-content listener Q&A episode answering your questions asked on @latterdaystruggles.com Instagram stories today. PART III - Monday 3/24/25: Second half of Val and Nathan's experiences, on their decision to resign, and their thoughts love, forgiveness, and moving forward with you. *** Please SHARE these episodes. Val and Nathan want the narrative around their need to formally resign from the LDS church to be understood firsthand.  And thank you for your love & support friends.  It means everything.  We can proceed showing a different and better way. Love over fear.  WE HAVE NO REGRETS “[They] drew a circle that shut me out, heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But LOVE and I had the wit to win: I drew a circle that took [them back] in." -Edwin Markham Support the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Friday Listener: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2363568/subscribe Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    312: Why Gender-based Wounds Can Only be Healed in Mixed-Gender Communities

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2025 58:36


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part VIII of VIII]Join Valerie in the final episode of a series exploring the beauty of community healing in the context of an LDS faith crisis. In this episode you will meet two current members of Valerie's brand new advanced content group, processing the impact of growing up in a patriarchal world and church. This group dives deeply into how each and every one of us has been deeply impacted by the "Christianization of Patriarchy," and how awareness of our roots brings about healing and wholeness. Valerie made a point to invite both a woman and a man from the new group to join her in this episode, where they could not only share their own personal journeys of awakening but also reflect on what it was like to witness someone of the opposite gender go through their own process of learning and growth. Support the showWant to support Valerie & Nathan?Share this episode Become a Friday Listener: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2363568/subscribe Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Join a group: https://valeriehamaker.com/support-groups/ Visit our website: https://valeriehamaker.com/

    311: By the Mouths of Four Witnesses: Community Healing in LDS Faith Crisis

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 64:21


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part VII of VIII]Join Valerie and four amazing guests who get really brave speaking about their LDS faith journey as they become acquainted with the concept of true community. In this episode Val invites two women and two men to talk about the fear of joining a healing group, especially in light of negative experiences, too common in their lives, when they shared what they were experiencing in church, or with some of their immediate and extended families.Too often, their faith journeys made loved ones uncomfortable, sometimes even bringing up anger, guilt, or shame.Listen as they share how healing it is to know that they "belong" simply because they are children of God on a quest for personal growth. In the Latter Day Struggles growth and processing groups, people learn that you do not have to believe a certain way to be loved, seen, and accepted. Revolutionary, right?Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next daytime support & processing group starting Thursday, March 13th. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    310: A "Masculine" Man's True Self Journey Home to His Healthy Feminine

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2025 46:20


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part VI of VIII]In this Friday episode you will meet Leo, another fellow listener to the Latter Day Struggles podcast and an ongoing participant in Valerie's healing communities.  Leo and Val talk about Leo's true self journey and how he has realized his  estrangement from his true self and how that was closely connected to burying multiple aspects of himself due to the demands of patriarchy.  Leo shares his confusion at the concept of true self and how he eventually realized that reclaiming this part of himself was the key to all healing in every area of his life.  Listen in and see if this resonates with you if you are a man socialized out of your wholeness by patriarchy...or if you are a woman who knows and loves a man who might resonate with Leo's very relatable experience.  Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next daytime support & processing group starting Thursday, March 13th. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    309: Love of Others Begins with Finding Unshakable Goodness Within

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2025 39:29


    Send us a Positive Review!Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part V of VIII]In this beautiful episode Valerie welcomes Devin (another graduate of Valerie's faith expansion growth and processing groups) who was willing to share his experiences coming into deep connection with his true self as the most fundamental part of his faith journey.  Val and Devin talk about his wrestle with feeling "good enough" to even imagine a self that is infinitely good, loveable, and enough--mainly due to harmful early messaging and experiences connected to sin and worthiness.  In Devin's journey he was able to slowly unlearn old and harmful ideas with the love and support of group members and supportive loved ones and finally embrace his true identity--which has carried him deeper into further growth, healing, and not only acceptance of himself, but a deep commitment to seeing others outside of any kind of power hierarchy.    Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next daytime support & processing group starting Thursday, March 13th. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    308: "I Am Not My Ability to Bear Children": A Tender Journey Towards True Self Discovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2025 41:26


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part IV of VIII]Join Val in this beautiful episode with guest Joy, who shares some tender elements of her faith journey which began long before joining one of the growth & processing communities.Val and Joy talk about Joy's journey finding her "true self" after realizing that the core of her selfhood could *not* be her ability to have the large family she desired.They discuss what happens to a woman when what is "supposed" to happen slams into the reality of actually happens, and how pain and grief are often the catalysts to our deepest growth and personal empowerment. Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next daytime support & processing group starting Thursday, March 13th. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    307: On the Process of Awakening to Our Worthiness as the Factory Setting

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2025 56:20


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part III of VIII]In this episode, Valerie and Nathan set the stage for why those who commit themselves to Val's healing groups say that what they learn about the concept of the "true self" can be life changing.Val and Nathan talk about why this idea not only gives us access to full healing from LDS faith and trust crisis, it also offers a path to a more full, peaceful, and confident life.The "true self" concept is a fundamental aspect of Val's Latter Day Struggles group curriculum. Members discover how to heal from their Mormon faith crisis through understanding who they are and what they believe. A year later, members will graduate knowing so much more about themselves, tapping into a well of personal growth and freedom they never thought possible.This episode kicks off a series of voices that follow, where Val invites three different women and men to share their transformative experiences learning about their own "true selves". The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself - Michael SingerAwareness: Conversations with the Masters - Anthony De Mello  Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next daytime support & processing group starting Thursday, March 13th. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    306: "I Didn't Think Feeling This Safe was Possible in a Group of People"

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2025 55:22


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part II of VIII]In today's episode Val and Nathan go deeper into what they have learned about the unique healing process of faith and trust crisis connected to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  You'll learn how our faith crisis journey might be a bit different from other religion's faith journeys and why being in a non-judgmental group of people (who are open to whatever spiritual path you choose) is perhaps the most healing part of the journey.  Why?  Because it helps you realize that you ARE capable of being the authority of your own life and your own relationship with spirituality and with your higher powers.  Listen in to find some confidence that there is a neutral space for discovering your own indwelling competencies for spiritual growth!  Referenced in this Episode: Gender Equity & Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family Living an Examined Life - James Hollis Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next daytime support & processing group starting Thursday, March 13th. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    305: What? I Belong Here No Matter What I Believe?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2025 47:46


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title:  Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part I of VIII]The LDS faith journey is not an 'individual sport' and although some of us try, we realize that it can't really be done alone.  In this episode Val and Nathan walk you through why so many of us try to walk through this "valley of the shadow" alone connected to what we've been taught about those who doubt, question, and seek for something beyond the correlated gospel and also due to a general discouragement about growth journey in general.  Then they talk about what they have learned from hundreds of you who have been instrumental in the creation of a phenomenon that no one expected would happen--little micro-communities of sacred growth and healing happening almost every day of the week on the Latter Day Struggles platform. If you want hope that healing your LDS-"crisising" soul is possible, once again, this episode is for you.  And you'll learn why community is so important to the journey.  Referenced in this Episode: Gender Equity & Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human FamilySupport the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next daytime support & processing group starting Thursday, March 13th. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2025 45:46


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part VIII of VIII]This is the final episode in a groundbreaking series diving deeply into what a lack of the feminine looks like in both LDS men and the LDS church itself. This episode explores the profound ways in which patriarchal systems affect men's ability to discover and develop their true selves because patriarchies encourage the over-cultivation of traits that privilege power over partnership and external achievement over personal growth and development. Valerie and Nathan discuss the internal struggles that men face when conditioned to spend their whole lives constructing false self identities, leading to ego inflation, exhaustion, mental health issues, and sometimes a sense of meaninglessness late in life. Most importantly, this episode highlights how patriarchal systems distract men from the very purpose of life: to learn how to connect with one's own divinity, with others, and with their divine creators. Nathan's personal experiences and practical insights about his own growth journey provides a heartfelt look at overcoming patriarchal conditioning for a more holistic self-realization.Referenced in this Episode: The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love - Bell HooksLiving an Examined Life - James Hollis**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming April 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    303: Alone Together: Redefining Masculinity & Femininity to Heal LDS Marriages

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2025 44:41


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part VII of VIII]In this episode Valerie and Nathan get personal as they share their marriage journey awakening to the impact that patriarchal influences had on their ability to connect and really grow closer as a couple and family. They candidly share VERY REAL moments of early distress and disconnection, especially the struggles that occurred before they realized the core of their struggles. What they realized and are still learning each day is that each human being thrives as an individual AND within marriage and family life only as they fully embrace both their divine masculine AND their divine feminine attributes. Before they understand this profound concept, they suffered without a map for healing. In short, if imbalanced energies in church are painful, amplify that pain exponentially within in the home.  Listen to this entire series to expand your potential for health and healing in every important relationship in your life.Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming April 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2025 45:03


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & Their Churches [Part VI of VIII]]In this heart-to-heart episode of Latter Day Struggles, Val and Nathan delve into the profound effects of patriarchal conditioning and its impact on men's abilities to become relationally and emotionally mature. Val and Nathan explore how little boys (raised in patriarchal cultures and churches) are often discouraged from cultivating traits fundamental to relational and emotional health due to a transmitted fear that these attributes are too feminine. They explore how this is not only a sad message for little boys, but that this messaging can be devastating for grown men who cannot experience true love and connection in their marriages and family lives. Don't miss a single episode of this compelling and possibly life-changing series. Val and Nathan care so much about our individual and collective healing.**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming April 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    301: What Patriarchies Teach Men about Weakness & Vulnerability

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2025 49:03


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part V of VIII]. In this compelling episode Valerie and Nathan delve deep into the subtleties of benevolent patriarchy and how it places harmful pressures on men. They explore the unrealistic expectations for men to always be strong, the emotional and psychological costs of these societal norms, and how these pressures can lead to personal and relational breakdowns. Once again, Nathan lays it all out there with his own life experiences and talks about the debilitating pressure that he dutifully carried until he realized that this load was not only not necessary, but that it was not helpful, loving, or good for himself or his loved ones.  Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming April 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2025 45:17


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!In this enlightening episode, Valerie and Nathan tackle another tough but important topic: the insidious issue of the male superiority complex fostered by systemic patriarchy. They discuss how patriarchal structures teach boys and men, both subtly and explicitly, that they are superior to women, impacting the emotional and psychological development of all genders. Nathan shares personal reflections on how he now sees that what he was taught and how he was treated as a boy and man in a patriarchal world and church deeply affected his own behavior and relationships. He invites all men to confront and unlearn these biases so that men both in and around the LDS church can embody their God-given potential, which frankly cannot be realized when their characters are crippled by patriarchal ideas.  **More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming April 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    299: What Happens When Collaboration & Connection are Neglected at Church

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2025 44:36


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part III of VIII]Glad you're back! In this episode Valerie and Nathan delve into the impact that the overemphasis on masculine energy has on the ideas and practices within the LDS church because it is an institutional patriarchy. Today they focus on the masculine trait of competitiveness and explore how this plays out in unhealthy ways when not balanced with collaboration, its feminine counterpart. They then show how the masculine attribute of protection can also go sideways when not balanced with the feminine trait of emotional connection. In each case, they will offer on-the-ground examples that you might have felt uncomfortable about but never thought to connect to the deprivation of feminine energies within the church. This episode and series was designed to show that healthy humans and systems need the divine, balancing energies of the masculine and the feminine and that there are very real consequences when both are not honored and celebrated. As they say, once you see it, you cannot "not" see it. Val and Nathan are honored to be a part of this eye-opening and healing journey towards balance and personal and institutional healing. Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming April 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2025 48:05


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men and their Churches [Part II of VIII]In this episode Val and Nathan move from the theoretical to the practical and talk about what it actually looks like on the ground when divine masculine and feminine energies are not appreciated, balanced, and celebrated. They use a handful of specific masculine attributes that are prominent within LDS culture and practice to demonstrate what imbalance looks like, what feminine attributes might be called upon to provide the needed counterbalance, and how all humans involved in imbalanced collectives are stagnated in their growth and development. If you have always wanted "words" to describe some of the "senses" you have had while on your faith journey, Val and Nathan think this series is going to blow your mind. What they have learned in the study and preparation of this series has changed their perspectives in countless ways. They are so excited to share this information with you, their podcasting family!  **More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming April 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or ...

    297: Two Wings of the Same Bird: Rediscovering Masculine & Feminine Energies

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2025 49:44


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men and their Churches [Part I of VIII]Val and Nathan's series tackling the common traits connecting psychologically/spiritually underdeveloped people with men strongly socialized in a patriarchy went NUTS in response, shares, and downloads (episodes 283-288) as expected.  Why?  Because our LDS faith expanding community seems to be STARVING to learn more about what health and wholeness looks like when women and men are both seen and treated as equals.  No fear, there is SO MUCH to say on this topic...at least eight more episodes!  In this opening episode of a new series diving even deeper into the on-the-ground costs exacted on men due to their patriarchal wiring, Val and Nathan start by creating a framework for what healthy masculinity and femininity could look like in every human being socialized as equals (no matter their gender!)  This episode focuses on how masculinity/maleness and femininity/femaleness are often used interchangeably and deeply misunderstood in this patriarchal world where we've all be raised.  This episode sets the record straight on this topic as a foundation of the rest of this series.   This entire 8-part series aims to foster a more balanced understanding of both masculine and feminine traits within all people regardless of gender, particularly within the context of the LDS faith community as we confront the relational and spiritual harm caused by patriarchal structures of every shape and size.  Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comFREE Info Meeting "What's in a Growth & Processing Group"Weds. 1/23 at 10:30 a.m. Central TimeSign up here: https://forms.gle/HhHqWuBjSJhWrbhf9CONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming March 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: ...

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2025 65:26


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: Cutting Edge Research on the LDS Faith Journey Experience [Part II of II]In this series' second half with the amazing author and researcher Jana Riess, you won't be disappointed in an abundance of aha moments and things to ponder after the closing music. Val and Jana delve deeply into several aspects of Jana's current research (yes...new book forthcoming and you're hearing about it HERE before anyone else!) and dive deep into what Jana is learning about the important role that "edge" people (on the inside or the outside) play in bridging our sadly divided space. Jana and Val also tackle the very complex topic of negotiating church activity during faith transitions and how members handle shifts in sexual behavior and shame. These discussions provide a comprehensive view of how personal identity and community intersect during faith transitions.Jana's book The Next Mormons: How Millennials Are Changing the LDS Church can be found HERE **More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comFREE Info Meeting "What's in a Growth & Processing Group"Weds. 1/23 at 10:30 a.m. Central TimeSign up here: https://forms.gle/HhHqWuBjSJhWrbhf9CONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming March 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Check your email for the invite to our next session on Mon, Feb 3rd at 2 p.m. Central!CLASSES: ...

    295: On LDS "Loyalists", "Leavers" & Everyone In Between! with Jana Riess

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2025 43:04


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Cutting Edge Research on the LDS Faith Journey Experience [Part I of II]You're in for a wonderful two episodes here as Valerie welcomes researcher and author Jana Reiss for a conversation brimming with details about Jana's current project (a forthcoming book!) centered around the diverse personal experiences of hundreds of people on the LDS faith spectrum. In order to not give too many spoilers for the next two episodes, you'll need to tune in to hear what she is learning in both her surveys and oral history interviews about people like yourself and also about people whom you love on different places of the spectrum. In this info-packed two part conversation they hit (among other things!): sociopolitical influences on the LDS faith journey navigating sexual ethics during/after the faith journeythe role of "edge" dwellers on potentially helping our LDS faith spectrum learn how to talk to one anotherJana's research is in part an effort to help us wherever we are on the LDS spectrum understand one another better...which we couldn't love more here on the Latter Day Struggles podcast! Jana's book The Next Mormons: How Millennials Are Changing the LDS Church can be found HERESupport the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming March 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register here.CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo...

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2025 50:12


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!In this recording of the  December's Office Hours special event offered to all of our "Full Content" Family of Listeners, Valerie answers a variety of questions from several listeners anxious about holiday events in the throes of the LDS faith journey.  During the holidays (or any family event surrounded by more traditionally believing family and friends) do you find yourself worried about how to talk to people whom you've never had trouble talking to before? Do you ruminate about how much to share? How much to not share? What is appropriate to share and when?  Is it okay to ask loved ones to not just assume you are open to traditional activities that might make you uncomfortable now that your worldview is shifting?  Who knew a family party could become so stressful?  Listen in for some questions and responses that likely will remind you that you are not alone in the relational complications of the LDS faith journey--especially connected to family gatherings.**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming March 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register here.CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo...

    293: How the Powerhouses on "At Last She Said It" Found Their Backbones & their Voices

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2025 64:28


    Send us a Positive Review!When someone starts a podcast in the LDS faith journey space, one question that is often asked is this: "Have You ALWAYS had this much courage?" Join Valerie in this episode as she asks this question to friends and colleagues Susan and Cynthia of "At Last She Said It". In this episode Susan & Cynthia share very different stories about their journeys that led them to the airwaves. Their stories are each unique in part because their temperaments are totally different, and perhaps that is what makes their work so relatable, engaging, and inspiring. So whether you are an introvert (like Susan) or an extrovert (like Cynthia) there will definitely be something in this episode for you if you're looking to find that backbone and voice of your own to use in some realm of your life! Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming March 2025. To register/learn more, visit here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register here.CLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo...

    292: LDSP CLASSIC! The Impact of Female Development in a Patriarchal Structure

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2025 67:03


    Send us a Positive Review!Happy holidays Latter Day Struggles listeners!  For the next four episodes you will enjoy a few "Classic" episodes that have received some of the highest number of downloads and waves of feedback that these are among some of the most impactful episodes for many listeners.Also, as a way to share my love and gratitude for all of you during this holiday season, the classic episodes dropped on Friday 12/27/24 and Monday 1/3/25 will be open to ALL listeners!  Thank you for your support as your subscriptions make this podcast possible and sustainable in the long run.  Today's Classic episode is 214: Show notes: In this episode Valerie and Nathan explore how healthy identity development is stifled for both men and women due to the patriarchal structure of the church.They discuss how a patriarchy cultivates a robust false self ego identity in the "one up" male gender and how the structure of the church stifles healthy ego development in the “one down” female gender in several ways (which they discuss in detail in this episode). This entire series calls for a reevaluation of the current unequal distribution of opportunities for the growth and development of the true self in the LDS church and invites this church to become a place where all humans are nurtured in the development of their whole selves. **More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    291: LDSP CLASSIC! Women Worldwide Vote "Opposed" to Institutional Claims of Female Authority

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2024 90:38


    Send us a Positive Review!Happy holidays Latter Day Struggles listeners!  For the next four episodes you will enjoy a few "Classic" episodes that have received some of the highest number of downloads and waves of feedback that these are among some of the most impactful episodes for many listeners.Also, as a way to share my love and gratitude for all of you during this holiday season, the classic episodes dropped on Friday 12/27/24 and Monday 1/3/25 will be open to ALL listeners!  Thank you for your support as your subscriptions make this podcast possible and sustainable in the long run.  Today's Classic is episode 211: Show notes: Join Valerie as she explores a variety of topics connected to the 2024 rebirth of the Law of Common Consent demonstrated by LDS women throughout the world who recently voted "opposed" to claims that women in the LDS church have more authority than women of other church's worldwide. In this episode, Valerie processes a variety of topics including: **Several reasons why the LDS church has chronic struggles with allowing women equality. **A conversation about historical lack of collaboration with systems of learning, knowledge, and worldwide restoration enlightenment. **A maladaptive commitment to "immovability". **A conversation about the need to address intersectionality of the feminine divine and queer issues in LDS "eternal family" theology.**Encouragement to embody love as the foundational energy of lasting spiritually-empowering social reform. Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    290: LDSP CLASSIC! Glimpse into the Spiritual Journey of LDS Theologian Fiona Givens

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2024 45:15


    Send us a Positive Review!Happy holidays Latter Day Struggles listeners!  For the next four episodes you will enjoy a few "Classic" episodes that have received some of the highest number of downloads and waves of feedback that these are among some of the most impactful episodes for many listeners.Also, as a way to share my love and gratitude for all of you during this holiday season, the classic episodes dropped on Friday 12/27/24 and Monday 1/3/25 will be open to ALL listeners!  Thank you for your support as your subscriptions make this podcast possible and sustainable in the long run.  In this beautiful and tender episode, Valerie has the privilege of interviewing LDS theologian Fiona Givens about her early life, diverse experiences, important relationships, and classical education that eventually led her into the LDS faith and deeply into the study of many facets of the nature of God.This story is one of all of the typical ups and downs, seemingly insignificant events that lead to other more significant events, and finally a few moments where Valerie proposes to Fiona why her unique life distinctively prepared her for the work that she is doing now; something that is profoundly blessing thousands of faith-expanding Latter Day Saints in this era.  Perhaps Fiona is our own “Esther”, prepared for such a time as now.Don't miss this truly love-filled episode if you have found healing through the work of Fiona Givens.  It will endear you to her even more.Books referenced in this episode:The God Who Weeps: How Mormonism Makes Sense of LifeThe Christ Who Heals: How God Restored the Truth that Saves UsThe Crucible of Doubt: Reflections On the Quest for FaithAll Things New: Rethinking Sin, Salvation, and Everything in BetweenToday's Classic is episode: 126 Show notes: In this beautiful and tender episode, Valerie has the privilege of interviewing LDS theologian Fiona Givens about her early life, diverse experiences, important relationships, and classical education that eventually led her into the LDS faith and deSupport the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    289: LDSP CLASSIC! Feminine Visions, Divine Love, and Differentiation with Fiona Givens

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2024 78:42


    Send us a Positive Review!Happy holidays Latter Day Struggles listeners!  For the next four episodes you will enjoy a few "Classic" episodes that have received some of the highest number of downloads and waves of feedback that these are among some of the most impactful episodes for many listeners.Also, as a way to share my love and gratitude for all of you during this holiday season, the classic episodes dropped on Fridays 12/27/24 and  1/3/25 will be open to ALL listeners!  Thank you for your support as your subscriptions make this podcast possible and sustainable in the long run.  Today's “Classic” is episode 125: Show notes: Join Valerie and guest Fiona Givens as together they discuss a true prophetess and mystic, Julian of Norwich.Father Richard Rohr has often called Julian his "favorite mystic" and Fiona attributes this woman as one of the most personally influential to her in the development of her own whole and holy theology of the divine.  If these two recommendations aren't enough for you...then I don't know what to say!A few highlights of this episode:**Julian's “showings” really shine a light on God's inability to be angry with us for our humanness**Our current struggles with the nature of God in some brings up pain, anxiety, religious scrupulosity, and defection from the church**Our misunderstandings of the nature of God brings up generational trauma to the extent that we perpetuate a God concept that estranges us from Julian's God of infinite love**According to Julian's visions, sin is “no thing” in God's eyes.  Our missteps are the education that endears us to God**As a committed Catholic, Julian too struggles with heavenly visions that did not align with the teachings of her “holy church” and she [as do we] does the work of differentiating her church's imperfections with her personal revelations, choosing to align with the truth that was revealed to her directly from it's sourceBook referenced in this episode:Julian of Norwich: The Showings: Uncovering the Face of the Feminine in Revelations of Divine Love, by Mirabai StarrThe God Who Weeps: Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 38:55


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Emotional Underdevelopment [Part VI of VI]In this final episode of this incredibly important six-part series, Valerie and Nathan focus on why an education on patriarchy's impact on the spiritual and psychological souls of boys and men can be a catalyst for individual, family, and systemic healing in our faith tradition. If we as a spiritual community do not see systemic harm, we cannot confront it and heal it. Val and Nathan advocate for these changes in an effort to help all humans (at all ages connected in any way to the Latter-day Saint tradition) thrive in every area of spiritual and psychological development. Please share this series with those who may benefit! ------------------------------Breaking Down Patriarchy Podcast- Amy McPhie Allebest- "How to be an Anti-PatriarchistLDSS Patriarchy Series: Episodes 212, 213,Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People- Lindsey C. Gibson PsyDThe Will to Change- Bell Hooks**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    287: Why Patriarchal Men Cannot Tolerate Critique

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2024 43:00


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Psychological/Spiritual Underdevelopment [Part V of VI] In this episode, Valerie and Nathan continue to discuss how being spiritually formed in a patriarchy negatively affects men. This episode highlights how being raised in this "power-over model" hampers male emotional maturity, leading to issues like lack of empathy, rigid black-and-white thinking, and minimal self-reflection, making it tough for men to admit mistakes or be accountable to those around them both personally and institutionally. Valerie and Nathan emphasize their desire to highlight this topic, hoping that more knowledge will bring a greater capacity for individual, family, and institutional growth and healing.Breaking Down Patriarchy Podcast- Amy McPhie Allebest- "How to be an Anti-PatriarchistDisentangling from Emotionally Immature People- Lindsey C. Gibson PsyDThe Creation of Patriarchy- Greda LernerSupport the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2024 40:44


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Psychological/Spiritual Underdevelopment [Part IV of VI]In this episode, Valerie and Nathan continue their exploration of how patriarchy harms men by discussing the overlap between emotional underdevelopment and patriarchal socialization. They highlight how deeply socialized masculine norms restrict male emotional development beginning in boyhood, leading boys and men to have difficulties giving and receiving love in every relationship of their lives. They also discuss Jesus Christ as a model of healthy masculinity and femininity, advocating for a shift away from rigid gender roles as a path towards emotional and spiritual maturity for both women and men.Breaking Down Patriarchy Podcast- Amy McPhie Allebest- "How to be an Anti-PatriarchistDisentangling from Emotionally Immature People- Lindsey C. Gibson PsyDA**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    285: Why Patriarchal Men See the World Transactionally

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2024 43:59


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Psychological/Spiritual Underdevelopment  [Part III of VI]In this episode Valerie and Nathan continue to explore how patriarchal systems can negatively impact the spiritual and psychological development of men. They discuss why patriarchal men learn to see the world transactionally, why they might with listening skills, and how this all impacts their capacity to find connection with their higher selves, others, and God. Nathan shares his personal journey of moving away from these norms, emphasizing the need for men to embrace a more emotionally aware and connected way of living. Join us as we dive deep into these critical issues and offer insights for creating healthier relationships.Breaking Down Patriarchy Podcast- Amy McPhie Allebest- "How to be an Anti-PatriarchistDisentangling from Emotionally Immature People- Lindsey C. Gibson PsyDSupport the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2024 50:25


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title:  The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Psychological/Spiritual Underdevelopment [Part II of VI] LIn this episode, Valerie and Nathan delve deeper into the effects of patriarchy on men, making sense of why some of our men struggle to look squarely at historical realities and struggle with seeing another's viewpoint or self-reflection.  In this series Nathan is incredibly vulnerable, sharing how he has spent most of his life unknowingly stagnated in his psychological [and  therefore, spiritual] development by being raised in a patriarchal world and religious system as a cishet, white, Southern, American man. This beautifully candid conversation reveals the challenges of unlearning patriarchal conditioning and embracing a fuller, more authentic self.  Tough? Yes.  Possible?  Absolutely.  **More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    283: Patriarchy and its Connection to Low Empathy in Men

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2024 51:46


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title:  The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Psychological/Spiritual Underdevelopment [Part I of VI] Join Valerie and Nathan as they kick off a new DEEP DIVE series exploring how patriarchy affects men in the LDS Church. This series compares the attributes that emotionally underdeveloped people have in common with men socialized in an institutional patriarchy.  In each episode Nathan candidly shares how he is slowly healing from the wounds that patriarchal teachings imposed upon his mind and heart.  Tune in to understand with even more clarity how patriarchal structures negatively impact the growth and development of everyone, not just women, and why addressing this topic is crucial for a healthier LDS church. Don't miss this eye-opening six-part conversation!Breaking Down Patriarchy Podcast- Amy McPhie AllebestAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents- Lindsay C. Gibson PsyDLDSS Patriarchy Series: Episodes 212, 213, 214Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2024 50:30


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!Series Title: Celebrating 50 Years Exponent II & Mormon Feminist Voices: Part II of IIIn this episode Valerie continues to visit with Heather Sundahl and Katie Rich about how the Exponent II community provided the. LDS patriarchal structure with a model of how organizations look when run by women and for women and gender minorities. What does this look like? • Rotating leadership structure that allows many voices, ideas, and opinions • The privileging of community over ideological purity• An interest in many voices and diverse experiences • More listening, curiosity, and empathy• A focus on providing safe space to experience connection all of the way along the Mormon heritage spectrum Listen to this incredible episode honoring not only the Exponent II organization itself but also a recent book published to capture its history and vision. Please support Exponent II by purchasing the book “ 50 Years  of Exponent II” https://www.amazon.com/dp/1560854774/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_P68B2S5G0PJ8SSB93JZM?linkCode=ml2&tag=valeriehamaker-20Charitable donations always welcome to help them build an endowment. Go to https://exponentii.org/support-mormon-feminism/donation/**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    281: The Evolution of Strong Women's Voices in the Mormo-sphere

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2024 56:53


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Celebrating 50 Years Exponent II & Mormon Feminist Voices: Part I of IIIn this episode, Valerie speaks with Katie Ludlow Rich and Heather Sundahl, the co-authors of newly  published book '50 Years of Exponent II'. They discuss the fascinating history of the original “Woman's Exponent” magazine in the late 1800s and its  revival magazine  “Exponent II”, both offering a place for Mormon feminists to gather, write, and share their experiences as  women of different eras wrestling with issues crucial to their time and their identity as women. The conversation in this and  Friday's episode explores the impact of polygamy on Mormon feminism, the importance of women's independent voices, and how Exponent II's existence provided a crucial platform for Mormon women's stories and experiences.Trying to make sense of how feminism exists in an institutional patriarchy? Wanting to find others who value their heritage but feel passion for women's and  gender minority issues? You've found your place! Please support Exponent II by purchasing the book “ 50 Years  of Exponent II” https://www.amazon.com/dp/1560854774/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_P68B2S5G0PJ8SSB93JZM?linkCode=ml2&tag=valeriehamaker-20Charitable donations always welcome to help them build an endowment. Go to https://exponentii.org/support-mormon-feminism/donation/Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2024 59:23


    Subscriber-only episodeSend us a Positive Review!In this first “Office Hours” virtual meet-up, Valerie processes General Conference with Latter Day Struggles podcast subscribers.  If you're a subscriber and you couldn't make it, no worries: here is the recording! Some of the topics covered include: Emotions felt by many people in early, mid, and later LDS faith expansion journey Managing feelings of internal conflict …wanting to support more traditionally believing family during this weekend while also feeling very uncomfortable watching/engaging in the meetings…Temple Recommend Series: Episode 189: Latter-Day Challenges-Anxiety, Autonomy, & the Temple Recommend Interview Dilemma (Part I of IV)Episode 190: The Evolution of the LDS Temple Recommend Interview: A Historical Perspective on Shifting Standards (Part II of IV)Episode 191: Questioning the Questions-The Evolution of LDS Temple Admission Process(Part III of IVEpisode 192: Temple Recommend Historical Exploration: Purity Testing, Competing Oath-Bound Organizations, and Reimagining a Process Based on Love and Welcoming (Part IV of IV)And so much more! Want to jump into the next “Office Hours” processing LDS faith journey and holiday family and friendship gatherings? Information on how to subscribe directly below! Don't miss a single life-enriching episode or gathering!!**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Next support & processing group coming Spring 2025. Check back soon for details!OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠.⁠

    279: Strategies to Heal Mixed-Faith LDS Couples

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2024 45:08


    Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Story of LDS Faith Expansion & Marital Resilience [Part V of V]In this episode Valerie answers a variety of audience questions regarding the complexities of the LDS faith journey when a married couple finds themselves in different places on the LDS faith spectrum.  Valerie provides resources, insights, and tools around topics that range from how to establish emotional safety in frightening conversations, how to develop emotional intimacy, how to navigate parenting struggles, healthy boundaries, and how to grow intimacy & mutual in the differentiating marriage.  NOTE: the episode that was mentioned in this episode as forthcoming addressing why LDS marriages struggle so much when one partner goes on a faith journey was dropped one episode BEFORE this one (not after this one!). Sorry for the possible confusion!  Support the show**More sensitive or more psychologically advanced themes are saved for paid Friday episodes to protect the content creators from being mischaracterized by less familiar consumers.**LEARN HOW TO SUBSCRIBE TO FRIDAY EPISODES(Watch a 2-minute how-to video)THEN subscribe to Fridays here. TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUBSCRIPTION? Email: support@buzzsprout.comCONSULTING: Interested in doing individual or couples work with Valerie or a member of her trained team? Time-limited packages with Valerie and extended work with her team of coaches and therapists are available ⁠⁠here!⁠ SUPPORT GROUPS: Tuesdays 12:30p November 2024. Register here.OFFICE HOURS FOR FRIDAY SUBSCRIBERS: Register hereCLASSES: Visit our library.SUPPORT: Make a one-time donation to ⁠her business Venmo account⁠ or Patreon⁠....

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