Old Fashion Dad Podcast

In this episode we discuss sexuality, what true freedom in sexuality and relationships looks like. What is "good" and who defines good and what freedom looks like. We also discuss the cultural narrative on sexuality and the influence and even internal conflict in the LGBTQ community... specifically with the conflicting worldview and agenda of the Trans community with the rest of the gay / lesbian community. Is the goal to not have desire like the Buddhist say... or is it to give Christ control over our desires so we don't become slaves to our desires. Human's are "meaning makers" and need a purpose in life. Satisfying every desire of our heart will not leave us fulfilled or satisfied in life. 

On this episode, we cover everything from abortion to Separation of Church and State, delve into different Worldviews and subconscious biases and how those impact how we vote and our values. We also touch on LGBTQ+ in politics and the irony of some politicians calling for leaving "religious beliefs" out of politics, when America is a country founded on Christian values and religious belief.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: The Whistler Irish Whiskey AOC severely takes scripture out of context to justify abortion Exegesis - Reading scripture the way the writers of scripture intended and by the original meaning and intent Roe vs. Wade being overturned...? "Separation of Church and State" - What does that ACTUALLY mean... where does that saying come from What do people mean when they say, "Keep your religion out of politics"? Moral Therapeutic Deism vs. Secular Humanism If someone has a world view that people are basically good, than there isn't really a need for God... and you end up with ideas like Communism that end up destroying humanity in pursuit of a man-made utopia. Can you even have a discussion on politics without "religion"... or more accurately, "theology". Everyone has theology (a belief about god... even if that is a rejection of religion or god, they will make themselves into their god, elevating their own perspective and thoughts as the reigning authority in their life. The two big topics that liberals typically get upset on about Conservatives (or Christians) is abortion and homosexuality (now LGBTQ+)... with special focus and sensitivity around the T now (Transexual) It's easy to "leave your religion out of your politics", when your "religion" has no baring or influence on your daily life (you say you are a "Christian" but in reality, they are living as a secular humanist - a Cultural Christian or Christian in name only). Whether a Christian or not... most people are trying to do the best thing for themselves and the ones they love. People are voting for what they believe is best for them and their country The "other side" isn't evil... they just have a different world view, so what they believe and are voting for is what they think will bring about the best results for their values and what they care about most. If voters don't believe in God, they will create their own definition of what is good, and it most likely won't be in line with God or what He has established as good. This puts God and those who follow Him at odds with "The World". America is based on Judeo-Christian values (it's foundational laws, constitution and culture) but as we as a society get further away from those principles, our hearts are no longer being conformed to God's will or desires and society starts sliding into chaos, confusion and breaking down.  Christianity is about a willful heart change, which changes our perspective and behavior (people become self-controlled)... if people don't have this, the only way to "keep people in line", is by force... and that doesn't often lead to good results. Wherever man has tried to replace religion or God, it goes very, very badly and millions of people end up dead - Communism, Totalitarianism, Marxism, etc. (these humanist beliefs are based on the assumption that humans are basically good and largely ignore human nature and motivation) While America is a Constitutional Republic (NOT a democracy), God's Kingdom is one of a benevolent dictator (an all powerful God on the throne who wants and provides the very best for his people.    Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

In this episode we discuss if anger at God is ok, do we have the right to judge God, what roll does suffering play in our lives and should we be trying to avoid it and the healthy and appropriate way to handle such emotions as anger, specifically when it's directed at God.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Horse soldier Bourbon 120 proof from Ohio "Sinful anger is a expression of you playing God" - David Powlson of CCEF If anger is an emotion and emotions are a-moral (neither good or bad)... it matters more not that we are angry but rather how we respond to that anger and where we direct it. If God is good and perfect, there is logically never a time where we are justified to be angry at God. There is a big difference between being angry AT God vs. having room to process being angry WITH God When we don't hold scripture (& therefore God) as the highest authority, we start to follow culture in the trend of holding humanity and what we think as our own highest authority... which is what makes it possible for us as created beings to have the hubris to sit on the judgment seat and put God on trial, judging him based on our sense of right and wrong and justice. God's very nature is righteous, good and holy... He is the definition of good. So if we ever have a conflict or disagreement between what God says is good and what we think... it's not God that needs to change, it's us. Was Jesus dieing on the cross the equivalent of "divine child abuse" (I've heard this said from some on the left who have "deconstructed" their faith - meaning they either don't consider themselves "Christians" anymore or if they do, they don't believe in the authority of scripture like they once did) When suffering or a tragedy happens, we have a tendency to ask, "Why God?"... but what we are really asking is "why ME God?" (why am I suffering). It's a selfish question. If we read scripture in it's entirety, we will understand that we need to expect hardship and suffering. Ease and comfort should not be the primary thing we expect and are pursuing. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 - give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. God has no obligation to explain Himself or what his larger plan is, to us. Ephesians 4:26 - "Be angry and do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your anger". This verse is usually applied to horizontal relationships (between humans) but it also applies to our relationship with God     Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect!   Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Cancel culture, censorship and free speech. How do we as Christian, fathers, and parents tackle these issues.  Whether you like it or not, none of us can simply ignore this issue of censorship and what we know as free speech.  So we must turn to the Bible to help us develop a view of speech.  We are called to speak truth, but not engage in the idolatry of “Freedom of Speech”   What was the intention behind the 1st Amendment Where have we gone wrong with freedom of speech? How do we protect good speech and should there be limits on “bad” speech   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Del Bac Mesquite whiskey - Arizona  Have people become so fragile that they can't bear to hear something they don't agree with or is "offensive" OR are people so stupid, that they can't be trusted to hear more than one perspective and decide what is true or false? “Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell.” James 3:4-6 ESV https://bible.com/bible/59/jas.3.4-6.ESV “Our post-Christian society has dangerously married moral relativism to a sense of righteous zeal inherited from its Christian past, without any of the Christian humility that comes from the comforting faith in God's providence. Accordingly, it is hellbent on a moral crusade to enthrone relativism by force of will.” - Brad Little John   https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/theology-free-speech/   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

This week we sit down and "Babel" about the essentialism of being dependent on God, talk the connections between the self-glorifying endeavor of the Tower of Babel and the internet, as well as C. B. puts his counselor hat on for C. H. existential question on how do we really know our motivation for following God is pure and not just trying to use God to get a good life...   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: The Mattie Gladin straight bourbon whiskey. Spirits of French Lick, Indiana ZDogg MD Show - Science Vs. Advocacy, Omicron , & More (w/ Dr. Peter Attia and Dr. Marty Makary) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/science-vs-advocacy-omicron-more-w-dr-peter-attia-dr/id1218431966?i=1000546834280 Why did God "confuse their languages" in response to men creating the Tower or Babel. The big issue is man acting independent of God and claiming their greatness and accomplishments... outside of God, which is the hight of pride. The Tower of Babel is really just an extension what started in the Garden of Eden with Adam and Eve eating of the forbidden tree, mans desire to be independent of God. What is so wrong with desiring to be independent from God in the first place? What does this matter? ... Because all of life and the universe is sustained by and dependent on God for everything. God was checking their hearts... and it wasn't good. They wanted to be God... which is still humanity's desire today. The root of "culture" and "cultivate" is the same... God has built within us the desire and ability to take his raw creation and cultivate it in something more, developing technology and create culture. How we use these technology tools, including the internet, for good or evil matters... as does our heart behind WHY these technologies was created (are we trying to replace God with our own "greatness") We are designed and built to be dependent on God in everything Christian H. asked the honest and tough question, "how do I know my motivation as a Christian is in the right place? How do I know that I'm not just using God to try and get what I want in life (money, influence, obedient kids, fulfilling marriage, etc)? Just as we are called to be dependent on God, we are also designed and called to be dependent and in relationship with each other (fellow Christian's and participate in the local church).   Psalms 139 -  O Lord, you have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up;     you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down     and are acquainted with all my ways.....   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Prosperity Gospel, blab it and grab it, name it and claim it, health and wealth... false teachers who say you need to "give to get" come in many flavors. Beware of false doctrines and false teachers. We are called to walk in truth and light and worship the one true God. What do we mean when we say prosperity gospel? What makes a false teacher and why do we need to be aware of them? How do we know what the truth is and if someone is a false teacher?   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Stranahan's Blue Peak single malt whiskey Prosperity Gospel relies on ideas like, "that the more money you give, the more money you'll get"... "doesn't a good God what you to be prosperous, happy and healthy?" It uses hope and promises of "the good life" and part-truths, to emotionally manipulate people to give money they don't have to make false teachers wealthy The "Health and Wealth Gospel" treats God like a magic genie, who is obligated to give us what we want if we just have enough faith or say the right prayer or give enough money Suffering, hardship, illness or poverty are not necessarily due to people sinning or being unfaithful to God (but the prosperity gospel would tell you it is) A large indicator of a false teacher is that they don't preach on or talk about suffering. They don't have a theology of suffering because they are preaching a false gospel about how god wants to deliver us from suffering, if we just give enough and have enough faith. Idolatry is what happens when we focus more on the gifts, then the Giver. Prosperity Gospel is a counterfeit gospel... you spot counterfeits by really knowing the real thing (intimately knowing God and His word)   “But the prophet who presumes to speak a word in my name that I have not commanded him to speak, or who speaks in the name of other gods, that same prophet shall die.'” Deuteronomy 18:20 ESV “My hand will be against the prophets who see false visions and who give lying divinations. They shall not be in the council of my people, nor be enrolled in the register of the house of Israel, nor shall they enter the land of Israel. And you shall know that I am the Lord God.” Ezekiel 13:9 ESV “For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.” 2 Timothy 4:3-4 ESV “And the Lord said to me: "The prophets are prophesying lies in my name. I did not send them, nor did I command them or speak to them. They are prophesying to you a lying vision, worthless divination, and the deceit of their own minds.” Jeremiah 14:14 ESV ---- The Gospel Coalition - "What you should know about the prosperity gospel" - www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/what-you-should-know-about-the-prosperity-gospel   David W. Jones outlines five errors of prosperity gospel teaching: 1. The Abrahamic covenant is a means to material entitlement. 2. Jesus's atonement extends to the “sin” of material poverty. 3. Christians give in order to gain material compensation from God. 4. Faith is a self-generated spiritual force that leads to prosperity. 5. Prayer is a tool to force God to grant prosperity.   “In light of Scripture, the prosperity gospel is fundamentally flawed,” Jones says. “At bottom, it is a false gospel because of its faulty view of the relationship between God and man. Simply put, if the prosperity gospel is true, grace is obsolete, God is irrelevant, and man is the measure of all things. Whether they're talking about the Abrahamic covenant, the atonement, giving, faith, or prayer, prosperity teachers turn the relationship between God and man into a quid pro quo transaction.” ---- https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/story-behind-john-pipers-most-famous-attack-on-the-prosperity-gospel/   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Special guest episode with Jeremy Donald, who is an expecting father (first-time)... who has an amazing story of redemption to share with us.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Blueberry Hex Mead from Superstition Meadery This Weeks Cigar - @myfathercigars @olivacigar Before God got ahold of Jeremy, he lived by the moto, "Better to reign in Hell, than to serve in Heaven" and considered himself "The Devil's right hand"...   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

On today's episode we are talking about 5 things you can do to jump start your marriage... or 5 things that we should all be continually doing in our marriage, if we want them to be healthy and God glorifying.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: J.T.S. Brown Kentucky Bourbon - Heaven Hill Distillery Pappy Van Winkle Cigar Christian B. was a guest on Chad and Tyler's podcast, "The Honest Cigar Experience" recently, to talk marriage and gave 5 Tips to Jump Start Your Marriage. Episode 61 - "5 Steps to a Thriving Marriage with Christian Bringolf" - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-honest-cigar-experience/id1525048020?i=1000541075201   5 Tips to Jump Start Your Marriage: Know why your marriage is not functioning well.  Don't make happiness your goal in marriage Protect your marriage Steward your marriage well Lead from a place of humility   What does it mean protect your marriage?  When we make "happiness" our goal in marriage, we are willing to sacrifice everything else on the alter of self-satisfaction, chasing our passions and being "true to ourselves"... which really means do what you want, follow your passions and whims and don't judge. It leads to pursuing immediate gratification and neglect the hard thing and commitments we've made As Christians, God and His Word is our highest authority... not ourselves, not our minds, not societal trends. In the Bible, God designed men to protect and defend their family, property and stand up to evil. While many Christian men are willing to physically "lay down their life" for their wife or family... it's more likely that our greatest threat to our marriage is not external... but internal. The greatest threat is internal - The greatest threat is the husband not leading well and sinning against his own family. Ephesians 5 To steward our marriage well means to recognize that the marriage and your spouse doesn't ultimately belong to you but rather, it belongs to God and you are to take good care of it, as if it was yours. How would we treat our view our spouses differently if we saw God as our Father-in-law? We as husbands need to "practice" at our marriage. Marriage is a perishable skill and we have to work at it to get better and cultivate our wife.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

On today's episode we are talking about what we say "Merry Christmas" and not simply "Happy Holidays".   NOTES: It acknowledges our condition - sinners in need of a savior It acknowledges who is in control and on the throne It is a recognition and celebration of the hope we have in Jesus It is God glorifying... or at least that is our heart disposition for us, towards God   Christmas is not just about Christmas trees, presents, Christmas decorations and yummy holidays smells... it's primarily about what Christ has done in humbling Himself to come to the earth as a human, fulfill scripture and save humanity back to Himself... giving us life and hope in Himself.  Genesis 3:4-6 - But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. 5 For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” 6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise,2 she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. John 3:16 - “For hGod so loved the world,9 that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. Ephesians 2:8 - For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, 1 Corinthians 15:20-22 - But in fact Christ has been raised from the dead, the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep. 21 For as by a man came death, by a man has come also the resurrection of the dead. 22 For as in Adam all die, so also in Christ shall all be made alive. Romans 5:2-5 - Through him we have also obtained access by faith[a] into this grace in which we stand, and we[b] rejoice[c] in hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, 5 and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

On today's episode we vent a little on the parenting challenges of letting our kids experience the consequences for their decisions, but we mostly talk about fear and anxiety. We get into how much of these struggles stem from us trying to control our lives, instead of trusting God and placing our hope and identity in Him. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Rabbit Hole Kentucky Straight Bourbon Oliva cigars - series O Love and Logic (book) - https://www.loveandlogic.com/collections/parents  What are some of the factors that lead us to be anxious and fearful day-to-day? A big factor is our perspective. Where are we getting our information from and is it a constant stream of bad information from social media and the mainstream media that taps into our fears and insecurities, to keep us hooked. Stop and ask yourself, does how bad I'm being told things are, actually reflect the reality I'm living... or is there a disconnect between what you are being told is true and the correct state of the world "out there", reflected in your personal life? People will also be fearful and anxious if they have a low view of God. Either God is in control and in charge or He's not. If you are a humanist and don't believe there is a God, then everything in life is dependent on you and that is a crushing burden to bare... how can you not be anxious or stressed with that world view. In his counseling practice, CB says that so many people come to him knowing their anxiety and depression originated within them... but they also think that the answer to these problems is also within them... But scripture tells us that our problem is our sin nature that is within us but our solution to that is found outside of us, in Jesus. The idea that "I can't learn to love someone else until I learn to love myself" is utter nonsense. That's like saying that "I need to become more selfish, in order to learn how to be less selfish". Our problem is not that we don't love ourselves enough. The problem is that we already focus too much on ourselves. The honest person may even outright say, "I don't want to submit myself to anyone else... I want to do what I want to do and be my own god". When we are our highest authority and answer only to ourselves, where do you look for hope if there is nothing greater outside of yourself? Many people crank down on trying to control every aspect of their life, which leads to even more anxiety and fear... especially when things don't go their way or they realize that most of life is totally outside of their control. Psalm 139 - David is calling out to God to search and know his heart. We need to always be evaluating our heart and our level of dependence upon God. No matter how "modern" and advanced we get as humans or society, we will never outgrow our need for God. Human nature, human needs and God don't change, even as societies and technology inevitably will. We are forgetful and get full of ourselves and so we need to regularly be in God's Word, to be reminded of God's truth and give us perspective to what is truly important in life. One of the biggest "proofs" that God wrote the Bible and not humans, is that we would paint ourselves and humanity in a much better light. We would write ourselves as the hero, not the villains in need of a savior. Atheism vs. Christianity: If you are Atheist (there is no God), then it totally makes sense to just do what you want because you are your own highest authority. Why would you want to or try to be good or kind or help others when there is no objective right or wrong and logically, doing what is best for you is all that really matters. Because of God's Common Grace, even non-Christians who don't know or love God can have a better grasp on being kind and merciful though they are in open-rebellion against God. Mathew 6:25-34 - "Therefore I tell you, fdo not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 gLook at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. hAre you not of more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his ispan of life?7 28 And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, 29 yet I tell you, jeven Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, kO you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?' or ‘What shall we drink?' or ‘What shall we wear?' 32 For lthe Gentiles seek after all these things, and myour heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But nseek first othe kingdom of God and his righteousness, pand all these things will be added to you. 34 q“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble." The crux of sin is that we don't trust God and take matters into our own hands. Anxiety and fear are a natural result of trying to take back control from God and do things our way and in our timing, instead of obediently waiting on God. God will take care of us and provide for us, though that doesn't mean life will be easy or we'll get everything our hearts desire. Unlike the "prosperity gospel", we don't follow Jesus so that we can live a life of comfort and ease. The reason we pray isn't so much about asking God for what we want but rather about bringing our heart and will into alignment with Gods. It's the challenges, friction and suffering in life that lead to our growth and maturity. Just like growing our muscles in the gym, it takes resistance to make us stronger. Comfort and ease are not what we should be primarily striving after. "Comfort is not healthy to the organism" - Liver King (The hardiest and most resilient people and organisms, are found in the harshest environments) Who is on the throne of your life (you or God) and where do you find your hope? Where do you find your comfort and identity? "Go after a dream that is destined to fail without divine intervention" The Lion Chaser Manifesto - https://www.harvestabq.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/Lion-Chasers-Manifesto.pdf    Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

We recorded this episode the summer of 2021 with return guests, Julia Bringolf and Stacy Manning. In this lively discussion, we get into the topic of Feminism, the varies waves of the feminist movement and the impact it's had on the church and society at large.   NOTES: •Recorded August 26, 2021 - released December 4, 2021 •This Weeks Whiskey: Bourbon from Willy's Distillery, Ennis, MT •(Return) Guests (from Ep. 47 on Masculinity from a wives perspective): •Julia Bringolf - Christian Bringolf's wife •Stacy Manning - Co-Author of "Them Before Us, Why We Need a global Children's Rights Movement" •If feminism is such a good thing, why are there 4 generations / iterations of it (1-4th waive feminism)? •The feminist movement was really born out of men abdicating their responsibility to lead and take care of woman (Feminism was a response to an injustice in the world). •Freedom and right to provide for ourselves are essential in life and some would say the Suffrage Movement was born out of that - woman fighting for the right for woman to vote, own land and work.  •The leaders of the suffrage movement were largely affluent, high-society woman who needed something to do with their time - They weren't fighting for woman to work in factories... they wanted woman in board rooms. They wanted the "privileges" of the men of that day, without the responsibility's (going to war, fighting fires, put themselves in harms way) •Ironically, it took a government of men to vote to give women the right to vote. •Original feminism still allowed for glorifying God and honoring biblical gender identity. •As feminism gained traction and saw wins for Woman's rights, the fight shifted away from fighting for woman's rights and became about fighting agains men and in the 1960's, the fight for freedom and equality became a fight for "being better" than men, which includes sexual autonomy and breaking of sexual boundaries... which doesn't honor God. •Today's feminism has become ugly and not glorifying to God. •"When woman received the right to vote, the country started pivoting to the left... because woman seek security and generally don't take the same risks men are willing to... and were more willing to vote [tax payer] money into their own pockets" - Stacy •Too many women felt like they couldn't rely on their husbands (men weren't doing their job), so in order to get the security they desired, they used the vote to have the government step in and start taking care of them (replacing the role of the family, men in particular). •The Bible says that the husband (man) is the head of the house, like Christ is the head of the church, and with that comes a sense of power. In a biblical world, the one "in charge" takes responsibility for those under them, those in their care. •Adam's first sin was abdicating his headship and care of Eve.  •For much of human history, woman were second-class citizens, less than men, subjugated and even seen as property... which is never how it was intended. When God created Adam and Eve, it was in a complimentarian context, where man and woman were distinct and different and designed to compliment one another.  •Men and women represent the different halves and characteristics of God... without each other, this world is not complete. •In all the discussion around feminism and equality of the sexes, the issue os sin is never talked about and that is the real issue (with everything).  •Phases of Feminism: •1st wave: 1900s-1930s (woman's suffrage movement) •2nd wave: 1940s-1960s (men going to war while woman went to work outside the house & post-war autonomy where woman (the parents of the hippy generation) pushed back against traditional gender roles of having to go back to working in the home) •3rd wave: 1960s- (Sexual revolution where woman wanted to be as "free" and promiscuous as men, though hippy culture was very small in the context of the larger American society at the time) •4th wave: (Modern feminism which says that men and women are exactly the same, gender is a social construct and men aren't necessary or even that men are bad) •"Of course women needed a seat at the table... but then they got up and started dancing on it" - Stacy •It didn't take long before feminism started serving men.  •What is the difference between "rights" and "entitlement" •Rights are inherent and can't be something that someone else needs to provide to you. •Women's rights are the same as men's rights... they are human rights. •Injustice is when someone infringes on someone else's God given rights. •Going back to the idea that you have to have "skin in the game" in order to have a say in the community (having the privilege to vote), makes a lot of sense (Property owners, business owners, job creators and the producers in society... so you don't have non-producers voting to take money and resources away from the producers). •Male feminist ("meneminists") are not sexy - the grossest of the gross. Men have been conditioned to believe if they don't support feminism, they'll be accused of hating women. •We are for women... just like God is. Jesus was the original "feminist" in the sense of giving women credit and honor (In the honoring ways He interacted with them and in how scripture records it was the woman that first reported that Jesus's tomb was empty (back in that day, a woman't testimony was not to be trusted). •At the end of the day, Feminism is really rooted in the hatred of men and hate the traditional gender roles (the one's that God designed) •Feminism is often a gateway into leftism in the church (A woman pastor or woman leaders of a church). The only people you find that attend churches pastor by women are emasculated boys and women. •The Church is loosing because it doesn't value God's Word anymore and is more concerned about fitting in with a fallen culture, than boldly proclaiming and living God's truth. •As societies become more affluent we start believing the lie that we are in control of our lives and the world around. We start thinking we are god, instead of relying on God. •When you become comfortable and secure, we don't feel like we have a need for God.  •As you get further away from living lives of day-to-day survival, people need a sense of purpose and struggle, so they make up asinine ideas and movements to take up their free-time (think CRT or Black Lives Matter). •As a modern society, we tend to look down our nose at the past, thinking we are so much more advanced then those primitive people who believed silly things and did terrible things... failing to see that in our "chronological snobbery" and arrogance, human nature has not changed and we are guilty of the same sins as our forefathers (and maybe worse with the millions of babies we've allowed to be murdered through abortion)... and the future generations will judge us in the same way. •Feminism is an antithetical  worldview to the gospel of Jesus. It can not save us... or women and at this point, only creates more division between men and woman, but putting our hope in God, brings us together and deals with our root problem of sin. •Just Thinking Podcast episode reference: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-thinking-podcast/id1328733796?i=1000528814664     Questions:    1. is feminism a good thing? 0.How did we get feminism? 0.At the core, what does feminism say? 0.If you don't agree with feminism, are you against women's rights? 0.Is feminism another gospel that the church has accepted? 0.Why do you think the church has capitulated to feminism? 0.How is feminism dangerous to the church? 0.How should Bible believing Christians respond to the pseudo gospel of feminism? 0.How is Jesus greater than feminism?     Quotes: from the just thinking podcast episode 112, “regardless of how you slice it, 3rd and 4th wave feminism demands the deconstruction of any system seen as patriarchal. This wave of feminism isn't about being equal to men, it's about a lack of need for men. As men are seen as the primary problem in a society that oppresses women.”   “At the root of the concept of egalitarianism is the idea of equality. The Oxford dictionary defines egalitarianism as the belief that everyone is equal and should have the same rights and opportunities; the idea of ecclesiastical egalitarianism in the church, specifically as it relates to professing Christians who believe that women being allowed to preach from the pulpit is a matter of equality rather than the authority of scripture is in many ways similar to the logic that drives CRT. Equality is the same thread that runs through both”   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! 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With all the uncertainty, fear, division and threat of mandates and eroding liberty... we dig into our identity as Christians, where we find our hope and when is the right time to "stand up" for God and truth in any cultural moment. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Mossburn Single Malt Scotch - 10 year This Weeks Cigar - @standardandtwain Deeper Dive Resources: Owen Strachan @profstrachan | Podcast - The Antithesis | Book - "Christianity and Wokeness: How the Social Justice Movement is Hijacking the Gospel, and the way to stop it" @darrelbharrison & @virgilwalker of the Just Thinking Podcast @podcast_just | Book - "Just Thinking About The State" We are addressing this topic today focusing on our Identity and hope as Christian's Within Christian circles, I've primarily heard two extremes: It's our duty as Christian's to get vaccinated and wear masks and if you don't, you are being "unloving" and un-Chirst like... or the opposite of, don't tell me what to do, I have my freedom and no one is going to make me do anything I don't want to do.... neither of which are helpful attitudes. Romans 12 - I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. The toxicity of pop-culture has infiltrated the church so much, that we are even seeing the same "virtue signaling" with Christians, where they are "cancelling"one another and "unfriending" each other on social media for having differing social or political views... when we should be rallying around Jesus, not our political causes and affections. Where is our deepest passion and allegiance... to Jesus and the Gospel, or our stance on vaccines, mandates and liberty? As soon as we take our eyes off Jesus, we start to loose perspective and start placing our hope in worldly things... our anxiety builds as we seek to gain control of the cause around us. It would seem that the issue of vaccines (whether you and your family get them) should be a matter of personal conscious and not coerced by the government, economic or social pressure.  Ultimately, our identity needs to be in Jesus and not in our social / political stances... and those stances need to be respectful of others positions and convictions. Do we really believe and trust in God? Or does our anxiety over mandates simply reveal our heart of not trusting God and trying to take matters into our own hands? Standing with God and for God's truth, being obedient to God IS what we are called to and is "doing something" in this cultural moment. Keep God on His throne and not taking matters into our own hands and responding in a humanist manner (acting as if there is no God). If a government is preventing Christian's from worshiping God or leading it's citizen's into sin... that is when we stand up and follow God over our government or civil leaders.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

America is the land of opportunity and hard work... the downside of this is that we are often told and believe that we can do it all. We are told we can be anything we want to be or do anything we want to do, as long as you believe in yourself and work hard enough. Today we explore the truths and lies wrapped up in this narrative.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: $500-$700 bottle of Yama from Bainbridge Distillery - American Single Grain Barley Whiskey. Mizunara Japanese Oak Cask Christian talks about his life-changing conference with Tony Robbins for his real estate carrier with eXp Realty and completing his first "Spartan Race" (8 miles with 25 obstacles). Confronting the lie, that you CAN do it all. Believing that you can handle everything and do everything (and constantly failing at it) leads to a lot of anxiety and a general sense of failure and inadequacy in our life.  Social media makes us feel even worse about ourselves because it appears that other people are able to do it all and have it all... when in reality, social media is just showing you the "best of" clips of someone's life and is heavily curated/edited. While Capitalism is a great economic system, the downside is the temptation to OVERwork or pursue monetary "success" at the expense of all else. Being better at saying "no" to most things that come our way, so that we can live more intentionally in saying "yes" to the things that align with our will get us to our personal and professional goals (which you have to do the hard work of defining and writing down what those goals are, if you ever want to achieve them). We are constantly striving to be accomplishing, to do more and move the ball forward... which I think is how God created us and is part of our calling to fulfill the great commission of cultivating the earth (creating culture and making something out of the raw potential of God's creation). Where is the fine line of being content in God, accomplishing things and making sure to rest (but not slack off and become lazy). Like with fitness - In life we are either moving forward or backwards... growing or shrinking... it's near impossible to just "tread water". It's great to have big, non-limiting beliefs and work hard for what you want... but most people can't "have it all" or be anything they want to be, if they just set their mind to it. We have limitations: limitations of time, money, skills, connections, etc. This doesn't mean you can't accomplish great things and have an amazing life with God's help. He who works harder and perseveres will always get further and accomplish more then he who just has raw skill. Proverbs 16:9: In their hearts humans plan their course but the Lord establishes their steps. Comparison will rob you of your joy. Don't compare yourself to others or you will always be miserable and unsatisfied, striving after what others have. What you believe you can do (or what you think you can't do) will largely dictate what you attain in life. "Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are right" What you choice to think about and focus on makes all the difference in the world. What you think about will dictate your perspective and emotions. 2 Corinthians 2:5: "... take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ" Work is good! We should work hard and do a great job at it... but work shouldn't become so important to us, that it becomes our identity or becomes our object of our affection.  Christian outlines the way he organizes his days and accomplishes his personal and professional goals. Living life with intentionally: Elite Journal - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08PW2T6JG/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_image?ie=UTF8&psc=1    Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Special Episode this week, with our first book review. We are giving an overview of the book "Just Thinking: About the State" by Darrell Harrison and Virgil Walker, the creators and hosts of the Just Thinking Podcast. We have been listening and greatly blessed by this podcast, the amount of research, thought and preparation Darrell and Virgil put into each episode and to dissect and unpack each cultural or social topic and point back to scripture and the Gospel as our highest authority and God as our source of truth. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Clyde Mays Straight Rye Whiskey - Alabama - 94 proof Buy Just Thinking: About The State - https://press.founders.org/shop/just-thinking-about-the-state/  Book Chapters: Government Socialism Capitalism A Social Savior The Born Alive Act Black Lives Matter and Abortion Politics and the Black Church Reparations The Equality Act of 2019 Elections   This is book is important for several reasons.  It rightly identifies the problem (sin)  It is interpreting our current times and social issues through a biblical lens.  It is properly identifying and dissecting the sin that is at the center of major social issues.  It is applying scriptural truth to real world problems (racism, marriage, sexuality, divorce, etc)  It is calling for significant increase in biblical literacy  It calls for men and women to engage in worship of Christ, as opposed to worship of a political party.  It calls for children of God to disengage from the sin of partiality  It emphasizes the Imago Dei  It rightly places scripture into a category of one “Sola Scriptura”  Sola scriptura  Sola Christus  Sola fide  Sola gratia  Sol deo gloria  i. These five statements of the evangelical faith lay at the center of what  distinguished the theology of the Reformation from the theology of the Roman Catholic church in the 16th century. Sola scriptura is the belief that because Scripture is God's inspired Word, it is the only inerrant, sufficient, and final authority for the church. Solus Christus is the assertion that Christ alone is the basis on which the ungodly are justified in God's sight. Sola fide maintains that the believer receives the redemption Christ has accomplished only through faith. Sola gratia proclaims that all of our salvation, from beginning to end, is by grace and grace alone. Because of these things, the Reformers held fast to the phrase soli Deo gloria, that only God receives glory for our salvation. (et al. TGC)  Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Walter Shepherd is Christian Harris's father-in-law and over the past 7 years, has been enduring the mental and physical health decline of his wife of over 50 years, to the disease of Alzheimers. He discusses grief, loss and what it looks like to go to God in your pain, doubts and yet still be faithful and trust in God's goodness and grace. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: N/A What is the relationship between suffering, grief and prolonged grieving? Grieving is something we find in scripture and is a natural emotion that God gave us. Christian's have a tendency to move on too fast, not grieve enough... though we are not to grieve as if we don't have hope (in God) They want to move on from the uncomfortableness of grief and act like everything is fine, as if grieving or being sad dishonors God Non-Christian's tend to keep on grieving and never ceasing grieving (never moving forward or beyond) What we don't grieve and deal with successfully, will come back and cause us problems later and we tend to get stuck, unable to move forward. Essentially, how do we acknowledge that we are in a hole, without staying in the hole? The thing that helps keep Walter going if reminding himself that, "it's not about you". As Christian's, we are called to "die to ourselves and live for Christ" He thinks about how can he turn each of these challenging situations toward God, because God can handle it and he can't. Don't compare your suffering to others. Your suffering or lose is just as real as those who have experienced something "worse". Though we may not ever know why we experience specific suffering, while God may allow suffering to happen to us but God will never "waste" the pain you experience in life.  Staying in God's Word, regular prayer and a community of people willing to speak hard but loving truth into your life are all key, not only in life but specifically when life gets hard. Two big indicators to keep watch of during a prolonged period of suffering or trials, are your anxiety and anger/frustraiton levels. People don't change and grow when people are comfortable and things are easy... especially not character or maturity in Christ. We are in very little control of anything in life and God's grace is sufficient for us. To be ok with the hard parts of life and suffering, we need to be fully surrendered to God, trusting that what He has brought us to, He will see us through... remaining teachable and open.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

We got some of the sharpest female minds with us today (Katy Faust and Stacy Manning) on this special podcast episode on abortion. The world is loosing its mind and the culture's responds to the Texas heart beat law, is no exception. We couldn't help but notice the outrage against it, so we did a special podcast session, were we unpack what should be obvious to Christian's... why abortion and the killing of babies is evil and how to combat some of the common arguments and mindset that comes with those who think abortion is a good thing. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: FEW Straight Bourbon Whiskey, Illinois "Them Before Us" book address this topic of abortion, amongst many other aspects of Children's Rights Website: https://thembeforeus.com Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1642935964 "Children's rights are being sacrificed on the alter of adult desires" Abortion is the literal sacrificing children on the alter of convenience. Our primary human right (including kids, born or unborn), is the right to life... without which, no other right matters. Children have a right to life and a right to their mom and dad. Why is abortion NOT about the woman's body? If it was "my body my choice"... if it was "your body", then after the abortion, you (the mother) would be the one dead at the end of the procedure. Children are not born for us, they are born through us and completely distinct from their mother. As Christian's, "our body" and our children's bodies and lives are not our own. We are stewards of the lives God gives us, the kids's God blesses us with and all that God entrusts us with in this life.  The push for abortion is one of the many byproducts of feminism, where feminist see that a man can walk away from a pregnancy, but the woman can't. And so in their mind, women will never be equal until they are the same and so abortion is the woman's equality to be able to walk away from the pregnancy too. A better option for equality, where no one has to die, is insisting that the man doesn't walk away from the baby and it's mother. Men are co-creators and 50% responsible for creating this new life, should have a say and should be held responsible and accountable. Woman who have never been pregnant, given birth or been a parent, have no place to tell men (many of whom have walked with their wives through the pregnancy and birthing process) have no say on abortion because it's solely a "woman's issue". The manipulation of language to obscure the brutally hard truth about what abortion actually is. You can't counter an emotional argument (most pro-choice arguments) with a logical or moral argument (pro-life argument).  You can't make an argument or justification for something, using the exception instead of examining the rule (defending the pro-choice position with the "what about rape or incest" - those are exceptions with only 1% of abortions being due to that and policy & law should not be made based on the outlying exceptions) Abortion is not about "reproductive health". The baby has already been conceived (reproduced) and if not interrupted by a deliberate attempt to end the babies life, it will grow and be born as a human baby. Christian's CAN NOT be both "pro life" and "pro choice" and still be faithful to Jesus. Stacy takes it one step further and says, "you can't be a Democrat or vote for Democratic policies and politicians and still call yourself a Christian". The "right" to abortion is not a constitutional right (The Roe vs. Wade decision in 1973, is not part of the constitution) What are Christian's to do when what is legal and allowed (or even applauded), is not in alignment with what God says is good or right. So much of the cultural conversation come down to what we consider "sacred": Either "life" is sacred or personal choice, individual will, or "woman's health" (or something else) is considered sacred. Either the unborn life of the baby has moral significance or it doesn't... and that will determine where someone falls on the issue of abortion. There have been over 41M legal abortions from 1973 to 2018 and while the numbers have been decreasing since 1997, there were still 620,000 abortions in 2018 (the last year the data is available) and society has shifted from saying they should be safe, rare and legal, to they should be allowed for any reason, at any time, with no shame/stigma and even celebrated. I believe that abortion is our generation's "slavery" and in 50-100 years, society will look back on the Millions of snuffed out lives due to abortion and wonder how a society could not only allow such an atrocity but actually encourage it and call it a good thing. Progressive ideology is guilty of "the bigotry of low-expectations" towards minorities.  RESOURCE:  https://www.desiringgod.org/topics/abortion  https://www.ccef.org/book/healing-after-abortion-gods-mercy-you/    Genesis 1:27-28 - “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth."” Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

The purpose for this episode is to encourage single dads in their parenting. To call men to be thoughtful and mindful in how they pursue relationships with women, so they may cultivate legacy and not just feed sexual desire.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Wild Turkey 101 Bourbon 2 Thessalonians 3:3 – But the Lord is faithful; he will strengthen you and guard you from the evil one. Philippians 4:6 – Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Romans 8:38-39 – I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.   1. Did you ever think you would be a dad at 19yo? Tell your story 2. Did you have help raising your daughter? Did you co-parent with your daughter's mother? 3. What were the challenges you faced? 4. Was there any good during that challenging time of raising your daughter? 5. You weren't raised in a Christian household, but looking back now where do you see God having worked in your life as a single dad? 6. What words of wisdom would you give single dads that are listening?   Resources: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/single-parents/ https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/village-to-help-single-parents/ https://www.ccef.org/book/single-parents-daily-grace-hardest-job/ https://www.ccef.org/jbc_article/sturdy-truths-for-single-parents/ https://financesonline.com/single-parent-statistics/   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Today we sit down with John Hwang, the owner of Rainier Arms, a high-end firearms manufacturer, specializing in high-end customization of hand-guns and rifles. Troy Turner also sits down with us, the head of their military and Law Enforcement Agency division. We talk all things guns, self-defense and Second Amendment and how Christian's can responsibly own and use guns as tools for self-defense.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: 1806 Hillrock Estate Distillery Single Malt Whiskey  Guests: John Hwang, owner of Rainier Arms in Auburn, WA and Troy Turner, head of Rainier Arm's military and LEA division. https://www.rainierarms.com  What is the role of guns in society? Can Christian's own and use guns? How does the 2nd Amendment affect Christians? When did men become such pansies in the American culture? Firearms are a tool. There are good people with guns and bad people with guns. What's the role of the mainstream media in how guns are depicted in society (normally you only hear about guns in the news, when there is a "mass shooting" or some other tragic mis-use but you never hear about the crimes and violence against innocent people, when guns are used to stop crime and protect the innocent). Guns are the great equalizer of force and appropriate to use for protecting yourself, your family and the ones you love, when others wish to do you or others harm. There are some parallels with guns, just like with alcohol, it's a matter of a man's heart. God never says, "don't drink" but rather says don't get drunk... don't abuse this good thing I gave you. Moderation is key. A significant issue with the violence in our culture, whether via guns or otherwise, is due absent fathers and a lack of fathers in the household. Firearms are a tool - Primarily for self-defense, sporting or hunting. Not all gun owners are enthusiast but all gun owners should know how to responsibly use their firearms. Proverbs 16:9 - "The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps." - Plan your life but allow God to guide us Second Amendment - The right to bare arms: God gave us our life, so we have a natural right to keep and preserve that life by whatever mean necessary, from individuals or a tragical government... that is at the core of the 2nd amendment.    Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

This week we get real, when Christian B. get's vulnerable in sharing his trauma of being sexually assaulted by another dude. We walk through his journey of processing that and exploring the tough, dark world that is experiencing sexual trauma as a man.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Crater Lake Straight American Rye Whiskey Thompson Cigar Club Clinical Psychology reference - "DSM5" (American Psychological Association Diagnostic Manual for Mental and Mode Disorders fifth edition) Christian B. is a "Clinical Psychotherapist" and references this manual frequently What is trauma? "A deeply distressing or disturbing experience" What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? The word Trauma is used often and thrown around a lot in our modern culture, often for things that aren't actually "traumatic". Are things like "micro-aggressions" or being "triggered" (or other modern pop-psychology terms), actually trauma? Can someone else words online or opinion actually be "traumatic"? If everything we don't like becomes "traumatic" to us, is anything really trauma? The word looses it's meaning.  Why does trauma happen? All trauma is a result of sin... like when one person violates another person's rights or something catastrophic happens to them, like natural disaster or war? God loves us enough to give us free-will or free-choice so that we can freely choice Him and that enabled us to choose to rebel against the God of the universe. As Christian's, we shouldn't be surprised when suffering or trauma happens to us because we live in a fallen world. As the world often puts it, "why do bad things happen to good people"... but as Christian's, we understand that there are no "good people" except Jesus. Recommended reading: "Knowing God" by J.I. Packer Mental Health Stats: National Institute of Health: https://www.nih.gov National Alliance on Mental Health: https://nami.org/Home  Often people who cause trauma are living out a pattern or cycle of abuse or generational sin. Hurt people, hurt people. Where is God in trauma? Just because something bad happens, doesn't mean that God wasn't there or doesn't care The church showed up and responded, friends immediately came around him, God brought comfort through scripture and a new vibrant prayer life. Satan will try and use anything to separate us from God, to include the feelings of shame and anger often associated with trauma. What should be a Christian's response to trauma? Be in community, talk through it & seek counseling Trauma may be part of your story but let it define you and become your identity Christ experience extreme Trauma in this crucifixion on the cross, so we have a savior who gets it and can relate to our hardships and trauma that we may experience in this life. How does or should the church respond to it's member's experiencing trauma... specifically trauma at the hands of fellow church members or Christians?   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

On this episode we explore what happens when things don't go our way in life. Even the best plans... and vacations can go totally sideways, as Christian B. recently experienced and shares with us his epic family vacation fail and how he dealt with it. Is it possible to still be grateful and praise God, despite tough situations in life? This is a story you don't want to miss... and it will likely make you feel better about any vacation mis-adventures you've had ;-)   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Old Elk Full-Wheated Bourbon This Weeks Cigar: My Father's Cigar Christian B. tells the story of his recent epic fail of their vacation... where absolutely nothing went as planed, included cancelled flights and their family almost got charged by a moose while in their car! What do we do with our disappointment? Are we angry and honest about it? Do we lash out at the people around us, even though it's not their fault (or even if it is their fault)? Do we downplay it and pretend like everything is fine? So much of our disappointment reveals our desire to be in control... instead of allowing God to be in control. We are actually in control of very little in our lives, so we really shouldn't be surprised when things don't go our way. Proverbs 16:9 - "In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps." 1 Thessalonians 5:16-:19 - "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." We are to have grateful hearts and give thanks in ALL circumstances and situations, not just when things go our way. Often we are to give thanks DESPITE our situations in life. The prosperity gospel is such a sham because it says God is good and so why wouldn't he want you to be rich and your life to be comfortable and easy. So often when things aren't going well for us, our kids won't even notice and will still find a way to have a good time. David provides a good example to us in the book of Psalms, when it comes to not downplaying or ignoring when things are difficult and hard. He honestly cries out to God about how things suck for him and is honest in his pain and suffering... without accusing God. Things often don't go the way you want but in that adversity, suffering and difficulty, we can still be grateful and worship God in the midst of it.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

This week we discuss sin and behavior modification (temporary change) vs. lasting heart change. Habitual sin patterns (like porn addiction) can paralyze us and keep Christian's ineffective and paralyzed. We explore how we can go from superficial apologies to a true desire for lasting heart change by going to going to God, who can provide the desire and heart transformation that frees us.   NOTES: •This Weeks Whiskey: Bainbridge Distillery - 100 proof Whiskey Forty Saloon bourbon (super tasty!) •This Weeks Cigars: My Father Cigars - https://myfathercigars.com  •First recording in about 1 month - Christian H. talks a little about his 2 weeks Annual Training for the Army National Guard in Salt Lake City & Christian B. teases out how his family vacation did not go as planned and we will talk about that on the next episode. •This topic came about after Christian B. wrote the Blog Post, “I'm Sorry, But I'm Not Sorry”: manipulation masquerading as humility and repentance - https://www.buriencounseling.com/blog/june-27th-2021 •How does change happen? •Why do so many people struggle to implement lasting change and not fall back into destructive behavior •What motivates change? Simply being sorry we got caught (not actually sorry that we hurt someone else)? or a Deep sorrow for our sin and it's wounding effects, driving us to our knees in repentance and true desire to seek God and the lasting change he has for us? •If we are truly "sorry", would we continue doing the same thing over and over and over again (like our kids do)? •Does habitual sin happen to us... or are we active participants in pursuing that sin? •Do we really want to change and leave behind our sin and be transformed by the Holy Spirit. •Romans 7:15 - Paul talks about doing the things he doesn't want to do as a slave to sin... 15For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. 17So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. 18For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. 19For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. 20Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. •We can not both be the cause of our issues and sin, and the solution to it (We need Jesus and a power that comes from outside of ourselves (see Episode 021 on Self-love) •Christian B. sees a lot of situations where people are trying to put a new "paint job" on the outside but are still broken and un-changed on the inside. •When thinking of habitual and on-going sin that ensnares men, the obvious issue that comes up is often masturbation and pornography. •It's not the action that makes us sinners. If we aren't masterbating or looking at porn but our heart is full of lust and we want to and are making plans to do those things... we are still slaves to that sin desire. •We need to think vertically of our sin and how it hurts not just us and those around us but most importantly, hurts God and our relationship with Him.  •Our sin should grieve us and we should pray Psalms 139 to ask God to help reveal our heart to us. •It's only our reliance and dependance on God (through prayer and regular time in the Bible) that will change our hearts desires and therefore our long-term actions and behavior and free us from our habitual sin and desires for sin. •To have real "heart change" engages the why behind what's causing the destructive behavior and not just the behavioral symptom of what's going on inside the heart. •Contrition, Confession & Repentance should be a regular rhythm in a Christian's life. •What do you do when we know we need to repent but don't want to...? Are we ok being not in control and feeling "weak" not being the one able to fix the situation?  •We are called to be dependent on God.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

On this episode we are graced by two amazing female guests and authors, Katy Faust and Stacy Manning. They share a little about their amazing book on Children's Rights, "Them Before Us" and then we get into some juicy conversation about conspiracy theories, how we determine truth from myth, what the draw to believing them can be, why ideas matter so much and how bad ideas can have real and significant consequences on people and our relationships.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Redwood Empire Whiskey - Pipe Dream Bourbon Our guest's amazing book on Children's Rights - "Them Before Us" Website: https://thembeforeus.com Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1642935964 "Children's rights are being sacrificed on the alter of adult desires" There is a massive impact that the lack of father's has on both son's and daughters... and some people are intentionally bringing kids into this world with no intention of the father's involvement, presence or even knowing who they are (fertility clinics & sperm donors) - Children NEED both their mother and fathers Children have a natural and inherent right to their mother and father. No matter married, single, gay or straight - Every adult needs to conform to the rights of children and do the hard things that are best for children What is a conspiracy? UFOs, Bigfoot, Classified government secrets, Vaccines, flat earth,  Qanon... nothing is off limits for us in this episode. It's of critical importance that we read and understand our bibles so we know what truth is and can recognize and reject lies when we hear them. Pray regularly for wisdom and discernment A key question is, where are you sourcing your information and on what authority? The idea that "America is founded on racism" (Black Lives Matter (BLM), the 1619 Project and Critical Race Theory or CRT) is a conspiracy theory and are sudo-gospel that offers alternative answers to the Biblical Gospel (providing different answers to the questions of what is the problem of humanity and what is the solution or salvation for that problem). The problem with conspiracy theories (and any alternative worldview or sudo-gospel) is that they want to little. They don't think big enough and their goals are too small. We are made by God to overturn wrongs, fight for justice, be reborn and renewed in a new nature... but it's not by our own work and hands but by God's work, allowing us to partner with Him. When the ultimate and true Gospel of God is rejected, people will create their own means of works salvation. Conspiracy theories are tempting to believe in because just like with any "good" lie, there is an element of truth to it. Did the first century citizens consider the claims of the Christian's that Jesus rose from the dead as a conspiracy... and if so, what's the difference between that conspiracy (a true one) and modern day examples of conspiracies? Christian B says that the difference is "intent". What is the intent of the various conspiracy claims? We talk about a bit about Art Bell's talk show (which specialized in call in guests and conspiracy theories). The Gospel Coalition -   https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/reviews/conspiracy-theories-primer/ The deeper issue of believing in Conspiracy Theories is the issue of tribalism... to fill our legitimate needs of community, belonging and identity. Relationships are the only thing we leave this earth with and so are paramount importance... and things like conspiracy theories notoriously isolate and destroy relationships, as we prioritize those ideas above people. As Christian's, we need to be able to defend good & godly ideas and destroy bad ideas. Ideas have consequences and bad ideas creates victims. How does slander (Knowingly spreading lies about people) factor into conspiracies and loving your neighbor, in a time when misinformation and division is rampant? Love your enemies - Matthew 5:43-48 - 43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' 44 But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 And if you greet only your brothers,[i] what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? 48 You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect." Roman's 12:18 - "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all." As Christian's, we are not called to be the aggressors and pick fights. We are called to stand firm and be faithful to God... and sometimes that means loosing friends but that is not the mark of success. Obedience to Christ is the mark of success, no matter how it turns out. When doing something is hard, that is most often the right thing to do. Rarely is the right thing to do easy or without cost (like standing up for what is right and true, even if it's unpopular and goes against societal majority consensus). When you find a hill worth dieing on, bring a friend / get reinforcements (standing up for truth in a conversation or online). Don't be afraid of "the mob", even though it may be uncomfortable. When you feel God is asking you to do something or say something to someone that you don't want to, Pray to God to open that door and make it abundantly obvious that you are to do that thing. At the end of the day, we need to care more about what God things of us than what other people think of us. God will never disappoint and humans always will.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

This week we get fired up about politics. We talk social justice, the purpose of government, rail against the worldview of BLM and emphasize the importance of making God and scripture our highest authority, so He can inform our engagement with culture and not the other way around, where we are seeing a lot of Christian's trying to conform God into this world's image.   NOTES: •This Weeks Whiskey: Don Julio Tequila •What are politics and what is the purpose of Government? •Politics are one aspect of our Culture... Culture drives politics and policies •What is culture and why does God care about Culture? He established our calling to cultivate creation in Genesis, with Adam's mandate to have dominion over the garden, animals and all of God's creation - to take the untapped potential God created and cultivate it into something more. •America's government and politics (self-governed by a constitutional republic & embrace of democracy) is very unique historically, when compared to the rest of the world • People are corrupt and sinful, therefore government will be imperfect and corrupt (to an extent) •As Christian's, politics will not save us through their policies or politicians who better represent our worldview. •A decline in cultural morality and social norms will not be reversed through politics, because politics is down-stream from culture. •America has historically been a light in the world when it came to foreign policy, standing up for what is right and getting involved in helping out other countries in times of need, both militarily and with food/financial aid. •As Christian's, God calls us to create culture and cultivate God's creation. •At a minimum, Christian's should be involved in politics by being informed voters. Voting for people and policies that are most in-line with what God loves, opposed to what God hates and will encourage for human flourishing. •The first organization & structure that God created was the family and that is our primary calling in this world, the foundation for society and all else flows out of that. We are called to be good workers and stewards of God's creation and that includes some of us being called to love and glorify God in politics. •We need to have and keep God's word as our highest authority and resist the temptation to engage the world on their terms. It should be deeply problematic for us if our churches (or us) spend more time talking about "social Justice" and cultural trends than they do about the Gospel. We need to understand that supporting or parroting talking points of organizations like Black Lives Matter (BLM), sets us against God because they are based on an alternative world view to how God has established his created order. •When culture starts influencing us more than our relationship with Christ & we start bending scripture and our image of Jesus to better fit into what our culture says is acceptable... we are going down the wrong road. •Scripture should be influencing our engagement with culture, not the other way around. •You can't fight discrimination and racism with more discrimination and racism. You can't fight injustice with more injustice. • 1 Timothy 4 talks about the sin of "Partiality", favoring one group of people over another. God has very strong words against those that show partiality towards others, no matter what the motive or wrong they claim they are trying to right. •God created us to give Glory back to God and a large part of that is loving what God loves and hating what God hates... aligning ourselves with what God values. •The "separation of church and state" is not in the constitution or in law. It was coined by Thomas Jefferson in reference to not having the US Government establish or endorse a specific religion because they had come from England, where the official religion was the Church of England and it had substantial sway over the government and they rightfully wanted to avoid that co-mingling. •We all experience sin being committed against us (injustice, racism, prejudice, etc) and we have a choice with how we respond to that... either with bitterness and anger or forgiveness and moving on and above our struggles. •We are all (as Christians) called to be representatives and "influencers" for Christ... through our work & interactions with others... and that includes politics. •If we are God centered, we are working hard to bring God the glory... when we are self-focused, we are trying to bring ourselves glory. •At the end of the day, we start with God and do what we do by working hard and joyfully for the Glory of God. •Check out the "Just Thinking Podcast" (https://justthinking.me/podcast-home/) for some great deep dives into unpacking the underlying ideas of social justice and our cultural moment •Check out "The Federalist Papers" to get some great insight into why the founding fathers wrote the United States Constitution the way they did and the ideas behind how they setup the US Government, as a Constitutional Republic and NOT as a Democracy, very much on purpose because they saw democracy as the tyranny of the majority.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! 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This week we talk about lesson's learned from Christian B's experience of loosing his temper and breaking his hand after punching his solid oak front door. Is it a common experience among men to loose our tempers and react in a sinful way?   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Wild Turkey Rare Bread Bourbon (Barrel Proof - 116 proof) Arturo Fuentes & Rocky Patel cigars Christian H. just got back from a real estate conference and vacation with his wife in Cabo San Lucas (with eXp Realty) Christian B. got the Rona... and brakes his hand. Christian B. get's transparent in talking about finding his limit of how much he can take on in his life before he snaps What practice safe-guards do you have in place for when your anger is boiling over and you feel yourself loosing control? Not everyone responds with loosing their cool with a physically violent response. What are some other unhealthy ways we respond when we get angry? Anger Isolation Irritability Depression Trying to control every detail of your world / surroundings Being overly physical with your kids when you're frustrated Shaming your kids or wife (not controlling your language or tongue) Proverbs 3:5-6 - 5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. 6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart Lean NOT on your own understanding In ALL your ways, acknowledge Him... and HE will direct your path (a promise) If we are truly being dependent on God, we would know our limit, not try to rely on our own strength and understanding and our disposition will be more in-line with Christ's and we won't loose control in our frustration and perhaps not even get angry When relying on our own strength and understanding, we may be able to modify our behavior enough to not loose control and break our hand by punching a door... but is there still anger and rage burning in our heart? Is the belief that you can take on most things, what leads you to the tipping-point of getting overwhelmed, stressed, frustrated and angry? We are trying to be our own functional savior... separate from God and self-reliant. We need to allow more "white space" in our lives and learn what we need to say "no" to, so that we can say "yes" to God and what he has for us. Leave room in our lives and schedule for God to work. Spending time with God and in His word are key and should be "non-negotiable" in our daily lives, as it replenishes your soul and reminds us of our dependents on God. Practical suggestions: Regular date night with your spouse, to connect, confess, and continually get to know each other. Don't believe Satan's lie that you can do all things, by your self, isolated and without help Don't believe the lie that you can't be honest and vulnerable with your spouse... they love you and will not shame you or think less of you when you share with them and need God What do we do with our shame when we do fail or fall short. Does that feeling reflect reality or are we believing a lie that temps us to withdraw and isolate, or try harder to be more self-reliant and strong (instead of dependent on God) The sufficiency of Christ's death on the cross to forgive us of our sins, is paramount in freeing us from our shame and feelings of needing to be perfect or self-sufficient.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

This week we take on what it means for wives to submit to their husbands and for husbands to submit to Christ in the leading & loving of their families, as sacrificial servant-leaders. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Old Forester Kentucky Straight Bourbon Biblical male headship / leadership, husbands being the head of their house and wives submitting to their husbands... what does it all mean in our modern world Ephesians 5:22-29 - "22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of one body..." Why does "headship" matter? We are designed & created by God, as men and woman, to fulfill specific roles in the family. God making man as the head, does not mean men are superior, better or dominant... it means they have a different role than woman, as the one responsible for the care of and sacrificial love for his wife and family. This verse is specifically saying that a Wife needs to submit to her husband... not women in general, should submit to men in general. To be the helper or support is not a lesser or denigrating position. The definition of "Support" is: "bear all or part of the weight of; hold up." It takes strength to be a good supporter. Men throughout history have not done a good job treating women with respect and honor, so it's understandable to bristle at this idea of headship Scripture is all about submission: God calls us to trust and submit ourselves to Him, children are commanded to submit to their parents and wives are commanded to submit to their husbands...as part of the larger order, we are to submit to the authority of our government and church that God has established... because God has put in place a hierarchy of care and order. Husbands are not in the place of authority to be tyrannical dictators but rather benevolent servant-leaders, who are ultimately responsible for those in under their care.. God's model and design is for the servant leaders / head of the family, to serve and give to those under his care... not to take from, oppress and be served by those under him. We are to submit to and be under authority for our good and thriving. God's Kingdom and design are at odds with a culture that rejects Him and calls good, evil and what is evil, they call good. We should not be surprised that God turns the cultural norms upside down and is not in-line with main-stream culture. What sort of response would we get if we ask our wives, "Do I lead you well?" We as men, don't have the choice to not lead... we will either lead well or in our absence, lead poorly Like a good parent, God comes to us and says, this is how I want you to function in life, I've setup parameters and guiding rules and principles to keep you safe and ensure your flourishing. How we view our earthly father, is typically how we will view God. God created institutions like family (husbands, wives and parenting), to help us better understand our relationship with God The call for wives is to respect and follow their husbands, trusting that God has a grip on their husband's and they are dependent on and following God and His calling for his family - The family can trust the husband / dad because they trust God is leading him. Submission makes sense in a Christ-centered relationship that has been redeemed. Without Christ, submission is often selfish and oppressive. Submission to Christ first, is essential and requires the husband to letdown his life first.    Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

This week we tackle some of the lies couples tell themselves to justify their decision to get divorced. We explore what happens when cultural norms of "self love" and being "authentic" and "true to yourself" seep into a marriage and spouses stop fighting for their marriage and even justify the decision to get a divorce because they believe it's better for their kids not to see them fighting, then for them to grow up in a house with both a mother and father present.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Bainbridge Distilling - Battle Point Two Island Hokkkaido Mizunara cask Bourbon Cigar: Rocky Potel Big new - Christian Bringolf started seminary! Can a divorced couple still "love each other" or get divorced because it's "best for the kids". What's best for kids, is for their parents to stop being selfish, start fighting for their marriage and see their covenant commitment through... because kids need two parents and God is very explicit that most cases for divorce is sin. God created family first (with Adam and Eve) and designed society to be built on the foundation of family and when families start breaking down, society starts breaking down. "Them Before Us" book by Katie Faust and Stacie Manning (Guests on episode 051) - Step-fathers and Step-mothers are doing heroes work, stepping in the gap to provide the parental role that their biological parents have abdicated. 90% of sexual & infidelity cases for divorce, it's the man doing that. 50% of kids in America, go to bed without a dad - Men / Fathers have abdicated their responsibilities and failed their kids and families. No matter how much of a rockstar a single-mom is, God did not design her to fill the masculine role or dad role in that kids life. There are increasingly more woman opting to have a kid with no intention of marrying or keeping the man in her life - They have bought into the lie that they don't need a man in their life. A decision like this is incredibly selfish and doesn't take into account what is best for their kid they plan on having. Even in the LGBTQ community, there are those who advocate for kids to have two parents... because they see the value and they experienced that and saw the value of it first hand in the house they grew up in. We want to see biological fathers take back their God-given responsibility of leading their family and being present... which will lead into our next episode. While divorce is increasingly more common and accepted in our culture, the commonly sited statistic that "half of all marriages end in divorce" is not an accurate statistic. Resources: www.CCEF.org  www.thegospelcoalition.org    Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

As a continued conversation from last week's episode on "What is church community", we discuss how to decide if and when you should find a new church and what exactly to look for. What makes a "good church" and should we even be "shopping" for a church...?   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Noah's Mill Bourbon - Willet Distillery, Bardstown, KY How do you find a Bible-believing church that is being faithful to Jesus Do we carry our consumer mindset into how we find a new church? Are we looking to have our preferences and felt needs met with preaching that makes us feel good and worship music that fits my music style preferences...? What are the spiritual metrics for a healthy, faithful church? People leave churches or change churches for many different reasons... some more valid than others. Valid Reasons for changing churches:  The church is not preaching God's Word and doesn't take scripture as their highest authority (they aren't being faithful to Jesus' calling)  Jesus + anything =  You move and it's impractical to continue attending the same church Spiritual abuse and manipulation Unrepentant sin of the pastor / elders or the leadership allows unrepentant sin of it's members INvalid Reasons (less-valid) for changing churches: Spiritualizing it with "God is calling me somewhere else" (which may be true but don't blame God if you are leaving and it's for your own reasons but you don't want anyone to question your motivation). Preference of worship music style Preference of preaching style The church is full of flawed sinners (like you) Community, relationships and church are messy but we need to be in tune with God and His will for our lives and where He wants us to call our church home. The church we are part of isn't just about us getting "fed" but also in us investing in and serving others. We have no right to be critical of the church, if we aren't invested, loving or serving the church ourselves Is your church addressing what is happening and changing culturally, bearing the gospel to bear on the culture of a hurting and confused world? Church "shopping" checklist: Is the Bible taught and held as the highest authority? Is Christ seen as God (part of the Trinity) & not just a "good teacher"? Is the life, death and burial of Christ central to the church's beliefs and teachings? Is the Bible taught systematically - book by book, chapter by chapter (vs. topically)? Does the church value community and gathering outside the church building, in smaller groups and "do life" together?     Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Today we talk about community. What is it? Can it be "virtual"? Specifically, what does it mean to be part of a Church Community, why it's not just important but essential. God calls us to not forsake the gathering....   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Laws Whiskey House - San Luis Valley Straight Rye Whiskey Questions: A look behind the scenes (on the YouTube channel) at how we do our Instagram Reels for the podcast What is church community? Using the terms, Family, Church Community and Church Family are often used synonymously. Will Christian's come back to "in-person" church after the Rona era? Can you have true community remotely? The very definition of "Community" has changed since the advent of automobiles, which enabled individuals and families to easily relocated from one area to another area of the country... and the definition changed even more so with the Digital Revolution of the internet, where "on-line community" became a thing. Instead of community primarily being centered around family, church and villages (as it had been for millennia, where people don't generally have a choice), people started creating and defining their own communities based around interests and affinity - where they could easily enter and exit the community and where very little was required of them. We don't choose the family we are born into and this is the deepest and God intense for this to be our most central and deepest community, followed secondarily by our church. Jesus units everyone [in church] under the same banner... and creates a community out of people who likely wouldn't know each other or be friends with each other, if not brought together by Christ. Lots of people have left the church in 2020... and COVID seems like the scape goat and justification to stop going to church. We are not meant to live in isolation: Digital sermons & "online-community" can supplement real community but is not an adequate replacement. Listening to the preached word, is only one aspect of why God calls us to be part of the church and not "forsake the gathering" of God's people. We gather for corporate worship to hear the preached word, prayer and communal worship... and that can't be done digitally or remotely. God doesn't give us the option to not gather / not participate in the gathered church - Jesus came to earth to die for His Bride, The Church... so if you hate "the church", you hate what Jesus loves and came to die for. Community is messy: You will be hurt and you will hurt others but it's still worth the risk because God didn't design us to be "solo Christians". Be safe but safety is not the most important thing in life... get back into the habit of meeting with fellow believers and your church community. God created us to need each other.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

We are joined for our very first female guests: Julia Bringolf and author, Stacy Manning, as we get a wife's perspective on masculinity. Definitely one of our best and most controversial episodes, with these bold and fiery women as we discuss marriage, if "toxic masculinity" a thing and is masculinity under attack in our culture.    NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: The Balvenie Caribbean Cask 14 year - Single Malt Scotch Guests: Julia Bringolf - Christian Bringolf's wife Stacy Manning - Co-Author of "Them Before Us, Why We Need a global Children's Rights Movement" Questions: Does "Toxic Masculinity" exist....? The role that absent fathers play in the home - Men are missing from the home and missing as fathers The inappropriate exercise of men's violence - Using it towards woman and children, instead of using their violence and strength for protecting, sports or battle Is there a correlation between man's anger and their violence? Can violence be expressed absent of anger? What happens when the cultural norm for a man swings from "The Greatest Generations" stoic, un-emotional, distant and quite man (like many of our grand fathers, to the soft and sensitive "man" who wears his emotions on his sleeve and is emotionally and physically delicate, who doesn't stand up for what is right and suites when life gets hard? The opposite side of men being violent, is them being gentle and tender towards their wives and children... and having both a father and mother in the home is key to children seeing and learning this Woman (especially single-moms) are statistically more likely to be the physical abusers of children in a household How is a young man not to be angry in a fatherless house, knowing that he is missing out and that his dad has chosen to abandon him and his mom How have you experienced masculinity? Men and women are simply made differently and relate to each other differently The message that Stacy learned from her father was that, "a woman's currency is in her appearance alone" and due to that messaging, she ended up putting herself into some pretty bad situations and a victim of rape But the number of men in her life that have cared for, loved, nurtured and rescued her, far out number those who have been cruel and unkind A woman wants to be protected by her husband... woman don't want to be the strong protector in the family Is masculinity under attack?  Masculinity is largely under attach by woman, who are largely dissatisfied with how their lives have turned out, and they blame men in general or the larger culture. Feminism's goal is to erase the difference between men and woman and is a wrong response to a valid cultural concern.  Real feminism would uphold woman as different and special based on what they can do that men can't (or aren't designed to under God's design), not trying to make them just like a man. Are woman afraid to push-back and admit that feminism has been peddling a false narrative and is a lie? Woman would do their daughters a favor if they taught them, "yes, you can have it all but it will be in a different order than men... and you need a man to accomplish it". Woman can still have their kids and be CEO... but they have to have their kids in their 20s and be a CEO after that. Feminism and chauvinism are both distortions of how God created men and woman to operate and relate to each other. Complimentaryism is the answer. Biblical complimentarianism: God created Man to be masculine and fill a role in the world and family and God created Woman to be feminine and fill a roll in the world and family. Of equal value and worth but distinct and different. We are often guilty of the arrogance of "chronological snobbery", where we assume that we are better, smarter, more advanced and "know better" and so is free to judge people and cultures of the past against today's cultural standards. Stacy is passionate that we are doing our children a disservice by lying to them by telling them they can "be anything they want to be". The scandal of the book, "The Surrendered Wife". Pick your battles, humble ourselves and surrender the small stuff Biblical authority and submission: Wives are to submit to their husbands BUT husbands are to love their wives, as Jesus loved the Church and died for her. Everyone is under God's authority, even if we don't recognize it or believe in God. If a husband and wife are primarily focused on how they can out-serve each other, they will avoid a lot of the selfish pitfalls in a marriage. If we know and trust that our spouse is reliant on God, it makes it that much easier to trust them and for a wife to submit to and follow her husband. Is there a valid reason for a cultural push-back against "bad" masculinity? Does a wife submitting to her husband mean she is quiet and docile? Not necessarily, but like Jesus, she can be meek (power under control & submitted to God). While the church is not directly responsible in the failure of men as husbands & fathers (that requires a much more intimate relationships, mentoring or discipleship) but the Church did fail in not standing up agains the divorce culture and defending marriage, which God gave us as the foundation for a healthy family. Final Thoughts: Julia Bringolf - For the soon to be wife: Your husband is meant to fill the role that you are not meant to fill. You can't be everything and don't try to be. Stacy Manning - Take your husband's name. "The patriarchy" is not a thing. If you are going to be associated with a man for the rest of your life, make it your husband, not your father. Do the hard things because the easier choices are almost never the right choice. God made men to be men and woman to be woman. Enjoy and celebrate the differences.   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us to connect! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. 

Giving money to the church is often not a popular topic but this week we discuss tithing. God calls us to be joyful and sacrificial givers of our time, money and "first fruits", giving us opportunity to trust God in our dependance on Him. Yet sometimes we are guilty of critiquing God's bride and justifying why we don't need to give to His church that He loves so much, He came to die for her? We also get into what it means to follow Jesus's example as a Servant-Leader, as the head of our house and lead our family well in reading God's word, prayer and tithing... all things that God uses to transform our hearts, minds and lives. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Eagle Rare by Buffalo Trace Disterery Christian B. shares a trick to be able to better smell the notes in the whiskey What does it mean to Tithe and are we still called to do it? What does it mean to give God our "first fruits"?  Tithing is just as much about our heart and motivation when giving, as it is about how much we give, just like we see with Cain and Able in Genesis, where Able's offering was the best of his best to God... not what was left over. Tithing is an exercise of obedience and reminder that we are to be fully-dependent on God, that all things come from Him, and that we are simply stewarding God's resources and money that he provides, in order to do His will on earth. The principles for tithing obediently is that our giving should be joyful and sacrificial, and through giving of our first fruits back to God, we are acknowledging our dependence on Him and remembering where all good things come from. Does our American outlook of individual consumerism and "exchange of goods" economics influence our attitude towards tithing to our local church if we feel like we (as attendees or members) aren't getting what we think we should be getting from our Church? Specifically if that church as attracted attendees by being "seeker sensitive" and catering to the felt-needs of their congregation. Some Christian's say they don't attend church or don't give money to a church for a variety of reasons: If we were hurt by a church in the past or jaded against the church or "organized religion", does that get us off the hook for not needing to tithe? God doesn't give us the option to "love Jesus but hate the church" or not participate in a weekly gathering of God's people. Jesus came to earth in human form to die for His bride, The Church. We can't both love Jesus and hate His Bride that He came to die for. Biblical tithing IS NOT a means of "give to get", like what is proclaimed in the heretical "prosperity gospel" or "name it and claim it" movement, which is common with tele-evangelists who claim that if you give them money, you will be healed... become rich... become holy, etc, etc. You know you are a "Consumer-Christian" when we are quick to criticize the church, not give of your money or time regularly and often complain about not liking the church music or preaching... because we see participation in church as a consumer, where we are served, catered to and entertained... rather than the Biblical definition of church were we ARE the church and called to give our money, volunteer our time and get off the side-lines and into the game instead of being an "arm-chair" quarterback.  If you say you love Jesus but you hate the church... you don't love Jesus and don't get the Gospel and whole purpose of why Jesus came to earth to die for our sins, to bring us back into relationship with God the Father. Tithing is one of the means in which we can practically and tangibly meet each others earthly needs. Tithing should be considered the baseline/starting point. We are still responsible to hearing God's call and the Holy Spirit's prompting when we encounter people with tangible needs in our lives. How does this apply to being a husband or father? As the man, God has proclaimed us as the head of our household, which doesn't simply mean you are in charge and everyone needs to listen to you but more accurate and in-line with Jesus's example as a Servant-Leader, being "the head" has more to do with the responsibility of taking care of and leading your family... which includes spiritual and financial leadership, like tithing. We as husbands and dads will be held accountable for how we loved and lead our families and churches. Simon Sinek - "Leaders Eat Last" book

This week we discuss what it means to be an introvert and extravert and how it affects how you interact with those around you. Tune in to find out which we are, and what exactly an "Irish goodby" is... With special off-camera guest commentary by Christian B.'s wife, Julia Bringolf. NOTES: •This Weeks Whiskey: Lucky Seven - The Holiday Toast Kentucky Straight Bourbon (115 proof) •Does being around other people drain you or does it give you energy? •An introvert can be perfectly social and I'm sure there are socially awkward extraverts out there. •What does it mean to raise a kid that is the opposite of you (introverted parents raising an extraverted kid)? •Does not wanting new friends make you an introvert? •Hospitality and having an "open" home is a sign you are an extravert •If your home is your "sanctuary" and by invite only, you are likely an introvert •Extraverts may have larger friend networks while Introverts have smaller, tighter friend groups   Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a fine 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

What is the difference between perseverance, resilience, being flexible and adapting when life is throwing you curve balls... and why are they important? We don't know but that won't stop us from talking about it on this weeks episode. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Lucky Seven - The Holiday Toast Kentucky Straight Bourbon (115 proof) The military does a good job of training their soldiers on how to adapt and overcome obstacles. Proverbs 16:9 - "A man's heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps." How do we adapt when things don't go our way... when God re-directs our path How do we adjust and humble ourselves when someone gets in our way or keeps our expectations from being met and things just don't go our way. Often the "inconvenience" in our life, is simply our idols not getting the worship that they demand and reveals our hearts not being dependent on God There is very little in life that we are actually in control of.  We can't control what happens to us but we can control how we RESPOND to what happens. Call To Action:  Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_old_fashion_dad_podcast/) & Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/oldfashiondadpodcast/) for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/old-fashion-dad-podcast/id1513254208) or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a fine 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

Discipleship can be both formal and informal, as older Christian's mentor, teach, provide accountability and guide younger Christian's in life and their relationship with Jesus. As we mature in our faith, we are also called to be disciples to younger Christians and pass on the wisdom that comes with being discipled ourselves and from being in relationship with God. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: "Black Manhattan" using Ragged Branch Whiskey from Virginia Cigars courtesy of "Standard and Twain" - https://standardandtwain.com  Dapper Cigars Crowned Heads Referenced Japanese Whiskey from our previous Ep. 34 with Entrepreneur Chris Flugstad Christianity is not a solo endeavor and is meant to be done in the context of relationships and community. The whole point of fellowship and discipleship is to care for one another and point each other back to Jesus. What is Discipleship and how does it differ from Mentorship? There is both formal (intentional & structured) discipleship and informal/organic discipleship that naturally happens in the course of living life Discipleship is essential for the health of Christians... especially so for men, since we tend to be less social and try to live "as an island" and "loan wolf" it, not being in close relationship with other men Woman tend to be more relational and social, interacting "face-to-face", while men tend to be more task/project oriented when relating to other men, working on a common goal "side-by-side" Peer relationships have more of a fellowship focus with "iron sharpening iron", while discipleship tends to involve one person being older and in a different life stage who can speak experience and wisdom into the younger person's life. We are not called to be perfect, we are called to be faithful to God.  Relationships and community is risky, difficult and messy but necessary and worth it.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we talk about the consequence of a "safety first" culture that tries to shelter our kids from risk and failure. How much risk do we allow our kids to take and are we tempted to always rescue our kids from failing or experiencing disappointment. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: "Black Manhattan" using Ragged Branch Whiskey from Virginia Cigars courtesy of "Standard and Twain" - https://standardandtwain.com  Dapper Cigars Crowned Heads Cigars Our constant bombardment of bad information from the news, media and social media leads the general population to believe that the world is a far more dangerous place than it actually is (When actually comparing crime data from the 80's versus now). It's essential for us to allow our kids to take healthy risks, so they can learn to navigate decisions, success, failure and disappointment in life. When we parent, our goals in our parenting is offend motivated by of 1 of 2 things (usually involving pain in our own childhood that we don't want our kids to also experience): 1 - Giving our kids the life we never had 2 - Prevent them from having the life that we had When we do this, we are defining our kids life by our standard The results are often raising spoiled kids that have everything you never had and take everything for granted, are too dependent on their parents, not knowing how to navigate the stressors of life (they end up soft and un-resilient). Or we teach them to be fearful and paranoid as their parents are always telling them what they need to be careful of, avoid and not do (so they can be safe). If as parents, we don't allow our kids to take risks or experience failure, our kids will not be properly equipped for difficulty and challenges in the world... they will be perpetually dependent on you and not know how to navigate the difficulties in life. We need to put our faith in Jesus, for our kid staying safe and turning out ok. We can't control all aspects of life and we are simply stewards of our kids, to raise them to know and love God... but God is ultimately in control of their outcome.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we discuss making fun of others and what being negative or cynical says about our where our heart is at. What does God say and think about how we treat others with our words and attitude?   NOTES: •This Weeks Whiskey: Branch and Barrel, CO •Clubhouse App (iPhone only at present) •Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouth •As believers, we are called to be different and set apart for God •When we make fun of people, are critical or negative all the time... it's often rooted in us thinking we are better than others, which is pride and a sin. •HEY MOMS - What topic should we cover or what topic does your husband need to hear?   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we talk about screen time. Are our kids getting too much screen time, how does it effect them and what are some different strategies for dealing with the stimulating and addictive nature of screens and our kids... whether watching videos/movies/showes, playing video games or on a social media / social network platform.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Branch and Barrel, CO  With the majority of kids doing school virtually, nearly every kid has much more screen time to facilitate their education and school time... but what are the downsides of kids learning via screens and video, rather than in-person instruction and text / reading in books. It's a different part of the brain that engages and processes reading text (dealing with logic, categories, ideas and reason), while it's a different part of the brain that process videos (dealing with impressions, feelings and emotions)... which literally results in the brain to be wired differently and process information differently based on if they are primarily raised  or learning via video images vs. reading. Do we as parents default to allowing more screen time for our kids then we should, because it's easier for us to not be bothered because the screen is acting as their "baby sitter". The information we consume about our larger world, affects and alters our perspective of the condition and how safe the world we live in is... and it's likely that that perspective is not our experience or really reflect reality. Common wisdom says that our kids need a phone for "safety" to be able to get ahold of them, which gives the kid access to an incredibly addictive medium with access to a world of information (assuming they have a smart phone)... which is very dangerous. Like many things, how involved and intentional the parents are in their kids lives will have the biggest impact on the extent of how good or negative the screen use will be. When watching movies or letting our kids play video games, it's essential we are intentional with our kids to "debrief" with them and talk about the messages and narrative of the story. So we can help them not just be passive consumers of entertainment but to be thoughtful engagers of culture and entertainment to pick out the messages that aren't compatible with God and a biblical world view. Messages in entertainment (and from the world in general) are either True (good and compatible with what God loves), lies (opposes God) or needs to be redeemed (is a twisted truth - started off as something good that God created but has been tainted, like how the world views sex). It's our job as parents to guide our kids and protect them not just from the effects of too much screen time but also protect them from online dangers of access to certain information, images and predators.  It's essential that we are involved in their screen time, what they are watching, playing or what apps they are using. Make sure they are using their screens in a public family area, not alone in their rooms and have limitations and guidelines around their use.    Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we talk about dealing with our kids challenging behavior, with some stories about what DOESN'T work and maybe even some good tips on what we have found to be helpful and effective in guiding our kids behavior and hearts back on track.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Hudson Baby Bourbon Whiskey, NY  How do we bring our kids into compliance... because that is our goal as parents, to make our kids well-majored, compliant tiny humans (some sarcasm used). It's critical for us as parents to understand WHY our kids are exhibiting "challenging behavior". How do we define "challenging behavior" - defiance, not listening, annoying, or just inconvenient to us. No Drama Discipline book Begin with empathy & understanding your kids frustrations, once they calm down you can address the issues and consequences but trying to engage and discipline while your kid is in a heightened emotional state will only lead to further escalation of the situation.    It's good to have a "no flinch" policy as parents, so we can relate to our kids in a way that they can trust coming to us with their questions and doubts. The goal of discipline is correction and re-directing their behavior and hearts towards wisdom and God.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we talk about why it's important to set aside time to play with our kids. They need to know that we actually enjoy them and spending time with them. Block out one-on-one time for doing what your kids want to do with you. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Hudson Baby Bourbon Whiskey, NY  It's important to show our kids that they are a priority in our lives and that we aren't just tolerating them being around. Setting aside specific time to do what they want to do and play with them, shows them that you enjoy them and want to spend time with them and build relationships with them. God calls us to ENJOY our family and kids, not just TOLERATE them and see them as an obstacle to your work or busyness. We are built by God to be in relationship and the initial formative years with your kids are most important... but if you haven't done this well, it's better to start now than never.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

In our first episode of 2021, we discuss moderation. Is moderation always a good thing, or is there ever a time for being "extreme". The discussion dabbles into topics of Idolatry, pursuing pleasure, trying to always be in control of our lives and the importance of responding to our kids in moderate and measured ways. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Elijah Craig single barrel, small batch Kentucky Bourbon Moderation can be an excuse to not do the necessary hard things in life Moderation is good because we as humans have a propensity for Idolatry and being extreme in our passions and pursuits. God created life to be pleasurable... but pursuing pleasure too much leads to being enslaved by it and it becomes an idol and an extreme thing in our life As Americans, we like to feel like we are in control of our lives... but in realty, we have very little control over our lives and when people realize that, anxiety and stress tend to be the outcome. "There is freedom in discipline" - Tim Keller.  As dad's, we need to have a measured and moderate response towards our kids. As parents, our focus of discipline should be correcting the heart, which leads to behavior change... not just focusing on our kids when their behavior is annoying or inconvenient to us. Is there ever a time to NOT be moderate?  If we define "moderate" as measured, thoughtful, considerate and mindful... our obedience and following God shouldn't lead us to be legalistic modern Pharisees. There is a distinction between being moderate and being all-in on our execution of commitments & convictions (like obedience to God, military training, loyalty and loving our spouses and families, etc).   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

On this weeks episode, we discussing cussing, it's impact and influence on our kids... and our own hearts. Though we are no stranger to swearing, we do bring some convicting scripture to bear on how we are too speak and the sort of talk that is to come out of our mouths and the admonition to live self-controlled lives. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Buffalo Trace Kentucky Bourbon This Weeks Cigars: MyCigarPack.com Show Notes: Perhaps there is no such thing as "good words" or "bad words", as language serves the purpose of communicating and at times, strong language is appropriate for strong circumstances to express strong statements. If I use swear when I hurt myself or something goes wrong, as my knee-jerk response... does that show a lack of self-control and immaturity? Is it ok to swear in those rare circumstances, when communicating appropriately strong ideas? Do we simply just live by, "Don't swear" and become legalistic about our use of language? Ephesians 4:29 - "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up, according to the needs that it may benefit those who listen." What is the condition of our heart when we are tempted to swear or do swear? As Christian's, we are ambassadors of Christ. How do people know that we belong to God, especially if we are using "course language" that is no different than "the world's" / non-Christians. There is no excuse for cussing at our kids... which I (Christian H.) am guilty of. Cussing at or around my kids, is one method that we wrongly use to try and control our kids... instead of allowing God to be in control. When it comes to swearing, there are a few things to consider: The heart issue behind why we are swearing and how it affects and tears down others When we cuss instinctively or out of anger, we are demonstrating a lack of self-control and demonstrating to our kids, this is how you deal with life when things don't go your way. If we are willing to take matters into our own hands by cussing out of anger or to tear someone down, it's likely a "slippery slope" to not listening to the Holy Spirit in other areas of our life or allowing ourselves to not be self-controlled. What does it mean to "listen to the Holy Spirit"? If you want to be more receptive to the "still small voice" of God through the Holy Spirit... READ THE BIBLE DAILY.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we get back to the heart of being a Christian father... We discuss loving our wives, as Christ loved the church and sacrificed Himself for His bride.  We also talk about not provoking our children to anger.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey:  Buffalo Trace Kentucky Bourbon This Weeks Cigars: MyCigarPack.com Show Notes: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” Ephesians 5:25 ESV https://www.bible.com/59/eph.5.25.esv “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4 ESV https://www.bible.com/59/eph.6.4.esv   No Drama Discipline - book When my son gets angry, reminding him to "name it, tame it and reframe it".    Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we are joined by an old friend of Christian H.'s, who is a successful entrepreneur who shares part of his story with us, full of ups and downs, as we discuss what it means to be "successful" in business/work, as men and followers of Christ. NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey:  Japanese: The Kurayoshi Malt Whiskey (12 year) Scotch: Bruichladdich - The Classic Laddie Scottish Barley (unpeated Islay single malt scotch whisky) American: Old Grand-dad 114 (Kentucky Straight Bourbon Whiskey) This Weeks Cigars: MyCigarPack.com + Padrone 7,000 Show Notes: Guest: Chris Flugstad - https://www.facebook.com/topher.flugstad  Chris "retired" at 37, after selling off his business, becoming a 15 year "overnight success". He was told he had to go to college, get a job and after he retired, he could try one of his ideas... but he ignored that advise and took the risk and it paid off. Is success just limited to how much money you make. As Christian's, we should be focused on working and creating to make the world a better place, not just focused on making lots of money. Follow through on your commitments Take care of your employees and always make payroll There success was changing the expectations of the consumer Start with Why book by Simon Symek Chris was working out of his "why" before he even consciously knew what it was & many entrepreneurs are driven by their why / vision, not by becoming rich. Christian B.'s entrepreneurial vision was to start his own Christian counseling practice (not just "Biblical Counseling" or Counseling with Christian convictions not impacting the counseling). God lays out a foundational standard for "success" for us in loving our family well, loving those around us well and being receptive to His specific calling to us individually... whether making minimum wage and just getting by or being a millionaire... if we are reliant on God and obeying him, that is success and will make an impact on those God has put in our lives. When we receive criticism in life, it's only those "below us" who are jealous of what we are doing or don't get it... it's never those who have more "success" above us trying to tear us down. Colossians 3:23 - "Whatever you do, work hartely, as for the Lord" 1 Corinthians 10:31 - "... so whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God" Most people will only have a local influence in their life (with our family and neighbors) and won't be a massive "influencer" on the world stage... and both are equally valuable and significant, if it's the calling God is calling us too. We are called to be faithful to God. We can always "do more" in life but we are only responsible for what God calls us to. If we do more than God calls us to and burn out or neglect our family and other priorities, that is not bringing glory to God because we aren't being obedient... even if God still uses it. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 - "Give thanks to God in all your circumstances, for it is the will of God through Christ Jesus for you" The products and services we create and deliver, will never change hearts... but the WAY we conduct our business, work and personal relationships in the midst of doing our work can make the larger impact that God is calling us to. Envy (wanting what others have) is a joy killer and why God made it one of the 10 commandments. God has given me a journey and story and I while other's stories can be inspiring... we shouldn't try to emulate and strive for what they have, especially if it isn't what God's calling is for us. Contrast this with our current cultural time, where we are encouraged to want what others have (entitlement to other peoples stuff, socialist tendencies for "free stuff" and demonizing people who have more than us / "the rich"). Everything belongs to God and we are simply stewards of what He has entrusted to us. He is generous to us... SO THAT we can be generous to others. Having financial success is not evil... just like being poor is not evil, or a virtual in and of itself. The heart behind why you live your life, if you are following God's calling on your life and living your life the way He that glorifies Himself and blesses others. What we spend our money on, is a good indicator about what is most important to you (we spend money on the things we care most about) Most of us don't think about ourselves as being "rich"... and so most of us define someone being "wealthy" as those who have more money than me, which is an ever-changing, never-arriving mindset.    Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we both discuss the hardest things we have ever done, the importance of taking on the hard things in life, persevering through challenges and not giving into the American idolatry of pursuing comfort and ease as our primary life goals. Intentionally doing hard things in life leads to grit, perseverance, character, perspective and gratitude. Christian talks starting the #75Hard challenge and getting back into shape... both physically and mentally.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey:  Lismore 18 - 18 year single malt Scotch Whiskey This Weeks Cigars: MyCigarPack.com Show Notes: 1. What is the hardest thing you've ever done?  half-marathon Tough Mudder Special Forces training (SFAS & SFQC) The real challenge in those types of life experiences is not physical... it's mental. Tips or not giving up (things to tell yourself): I'll quit tomorrow Keep putting one foot in front of the other and you'll make it Just one more click (Kilometer) and then it's over Principal: People can do anything for an hour or even a day... but beyond that starts requiring breaking it down - If you look at if from where you are now to where you want to be, you'll get overwhelmed and be tempted to quit. Just take it one moment at a time and with each hour or days' success, you'll be moving in the right direction and eventually get there. This doesn't just apply to physical goals, but also challenges like reading more books, going to school, starting a business, being a new parent or getting better at public speaking. 2. Christian H. has recently taken up the #75hard challenge with some of my fellow RE agents in his eXp Realty team, after seeing the before and after transformation of one of the team leaders.  For me it's primarily the catalyst to get back into shape after an injury I had 5 years ago... but the program isn't primarily an exercise program, it's a mental toughness program. 3. As I've started this, it got me thinking about the value of INTENTIONALLY doing hard things. 4. Do you regularly push yourself and challenge yourself? Why? We are capable, both physically and mentally, of doing WAY more than most of us realize... we just aren't used to letting ourselves be pushed or pushing ourselves.  Have you ever started some sort of challenging but it didn't last or "stick"? (like a diet or new exercise routine) Doing the right thing is often the hardest option to choose Matthew 7:13 "Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it." What are some factors that make or break the success of such efforts? No accountability No structure Not being willing to change habits or be inconvenienced At the end of the day, People do what they want to do. If they really want to do something, they will find a way. As American's, we tend to value and pursue comfort and ease above all else... avoiding hard things whenever possible. It's the hard things in life, the resistance, the struggles that make us tough. Do you think there is a difference in results or outcome for those who have a hard life that they didn't choose vs. those who intentionally add challenges and restrictions to their life to make themselves a better person or reach some goal? Hard Life = option for responding well or poorly Creating challenges in life always lead a better quality of life and mindset...? Benefits of doing hard things: Mental toughness and resiliency Physical toughness and endurance Perspective / Mindset Grattude Self-Discipline Happier More Confident (you will know what you are made of instead of just wondering) How does this apply specifically to Dads? Parenting and disciplining in a way that glorifies God requires doing the hard thing -  Disciplining out of love and care for your kids heart, not just behavioral compliance.  Carving out regular time with your kids to show them you care (not just interacting with them when they disobey) Intentionally doing hard things to build grit, character and demonstrate to our kids the value in pushing yourself and doing the right thing, even when it's hard. Romans 5:3-5 "...[there is] glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us."   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

Porn. One of the most I talked about topics for men in the church. Join Christian and I as we talk about this issue and the damaging affects it has on men, parenting, sexual intimacy and marriage.   NOTES: •This Weeks Whiskey: Fist Full of Bourbon - A Blend of 5 whiskeys by William Grant & Sons •This Weeks Cigars: Standard and Twain (https://standardandtwain.com) •Sponsor: Blackfin Coffee (https://www.shopblackfin.coffee/denim-whiskey)   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we get deep into theology, worldview, biblical justice and recent ideological cultural shifts... and why this all matters to us as Christians. If we don't understand the culture we live in and how it's changing around us, we won't be able to apply or share the Gospel in a meaningful way. Like Paul in Athens, using the "statue to the unknown god", to share about the one true God, we need to understand our culture in order to speak to people's needs. Post-modernism has given way to Critical Theory, as Progressivism becomes more extreme and more widely adopted. We unpack these issues and much more in this episode!   NOTES: •This Weeks Whiskey:  Small Batch Wyoming Whiskey, made in Kirby Wyoming  Show Notes: •Guest: Shane Rehberg •As a student of history and culture, Shane doesn't see history so much as who did what, when... but rather the history of ideas: Ideas create cultures and those cultures either succeed and or fail based on the quality of their ideas and values they are built on. •Societies always change but our culture has been going through some massive and rapid shifts lately. •WHAT IS CULTURE: Everything from the sort of stories we tell ourselves through books and entertainment, to how we relate and interact with one another - the norms that we agree to as a society. •The combination of the COVID-19 pandemic + social unrest seems to be leading us to a tipping point as a society. •"The Fiery Angel" book by  - The stories we tell ourselves (and tell our kids) come first and that shapes our patterns that we see when we view the world. And our identity, culture and politics flow out of those patterns as our worldview. •Think for example how the Disney narrative around women change over the years; from the damsel in distress, responding with kindness, love & patience... until her prince shows up and rescues her and they live happily ever after... to what we see now with a more common narrative of a young woman not listening to her father, leaving her parents care, proving her father wrong and living happily ever after. •  American Cultural Shifts in the 20th Century: •Modernism: early 1900s to 1950s - People in general believe in the idea of an absolute truth and living morally based on Judeo-Christian values. •Post Modernism: 1960s onward - A rejection of the concept of ultimate truth, where everyone determines their own "truth" (you would never say, your wrong and I'm right) and everything is considered just a matter of perspective. The highest good is to be "authentic" and "true to yourself". (This is the world that the oldest of the millennials and youngest of the GenX grew up in). •Critical Theory: Repackaged Marxism gained popularity in college "intellectual" circles in the 1960s and became more popularized to larger society through the advent of BLM in 2018 and the social unrest of 2020 and through such books as "White Fragility". The basic premise is that people are primarily identified as members of oppressor or oppressive groups based on your gender, race, sexual orientation, etc. and your ability to know and perceive truth is directly related to your membership of one of these oppressor or oppressive group. For example, if you are white, you are inherently racist and therefore are blinded to your racism and your perspective and opinion don't matter as much as someone who is from an oppressed class, who has better access to "truth" because of the systemic racism they have experienced. •It's easy for Christian's to unwittingly buy into some of our cultural narrative because of the re-defining of terms, like how our culture defines "justice" is very different than how God defines "justice"... and so Christian's find themselves saying, "we'll of course we should be fighting for justice and not be a racist" but they aren't looking deeper to see whether the worldview of something like Critical Theory is compatible with how God says we should relate to each other and to Himself (like Critical Theory requiring partiality, while God describes justice AS NOT showing partiality - It's a clear example of the world calling something good that God calls evil). •Like being foreigners in a different country (specifically one that also speaks english), Christian's can find themselves using the same words as the culture but then find that while they are using the same words, they mean something entirely different (example: justice, racism, equality, fairness, etc). •Acts 17:22 - Paul on Mars Hill addresses the Athenians, saying that he sees that they are a very religious people, observing the culture to find an opening for proclaiming the Gospel to them. •Dr. Voddie Baucham: We find ourselves in a culture that has a very different worldview and values of Biblical Christianity. •All Worldview contain these 4 essential elements that shape the story we tell ourselves and how we see and interpret the world around us: •Creation: A Creation story about why are we here and how did we get here? •Fall: Something went wrong - We all know that the world isn't the way it's suppose to be, so why is that? •Redemption: What mush I do to become good and fix what is wrong with the world? •Restoration: What does it look like once we become good and fix what is wrong. What is the end result or goal? •The epistemology (the theory of truth) of post-modernism: Truth is determined by experience... and if you had experienced life the way I have, you would have the same perspective and see things may way (which is not a Biblically compatible worldview). The highest authority is a person's experience and personal perspective, not God's truth as laid out in scripture.  •The greatest "sin" of post-modernism is to be dishonest, in-authentic and put on a false image.  •The epistemology of our current culture (Critical Theory / Social Justice): Truth is centered around "oppression" and power struggles, and individuals access to truth is directly related to the oppressor/oppressed groups people find themselves in because of their race and gender.  •C.S. Lewis: Every human heart has a "God shaped hole in their heart". We are designed for worship and we will always find something or someone to fill that void.  •Culture used to say that there should be "equality", where now they say "equity"... meaning that it's no longer about treating people equal but rather a focus on unequal OUTCOMES, like if one group of people have something another group of people have (like larger/nicer houses), that would be considered "unjust" now). •Works based righteousness (all worldviews apart from Christianity require you to save yourself through your own action and effort), all lead to two places: Success leads to pride and superiority. Failure leads to a loss of hope and despair.   Additional resources on the topic of Christian's engaging a Critical Theory Culture: Relatable Podcast with Allie Beth Stuckey:  •Ep. 275 | Critical Theory: A Disastrous, Unbiblical Worldview - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relatable-with-allie-beth-stuckey/id1359249098?i=1000485017940 •Ep. 282 | Exposing & Opposing Social Justice Theology | Guest: Dr. Voddie Baucham - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relatable-with-allie-beth-stuckey/id1359249098?i=1000486696085 Just Thinking Podcast: Ep. 103 | The Church of BLM - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-thinking-podcast/id1328733796?i=1000491409327   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. 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Christian B. talks about what it's been like being an apprentice distiller and learning how to distill Brandy for his wife's family apple orchard. We also get real with discussing the 2020 Election + how we as Christian's should respond to it and others, despite if it's "our guy" who ends up in the White House.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey (blend): High West Double Rye Whiskey and Westland Distillery Cold Foot American Single malt Whiskey   This Weeks Cigars, courtesy of MyCigarPack.com Show Notes: Successful people all have one thing in common: A strong, positive mindset.  It's not whether or not we face hardship in life... but rather how we respond to life's difficulty. Learn from the past but be focused on the future. Christian B. talks about what it's been like being an apprentice distiller and learning how to distill Brandy at his wife's family apple orchard. We learn that if you distill a fruit, you can't call it a whiskey (it's Brandy)... because whiskey has to be made from a grain. We talk about how the 2020 Election has and is impacting us + how we as Christian's should respond to it and others, despite if it's "our guy" who ends up in the White House. Despite 2020 being what it has been... God is still in control and on The Throne. We won't change anyone's mind with our political posts or comments on social media, so save your time, energy and emotions for the people who matter most and are physically present in your life. As Christian's, our first allegiance is to God and what He thinks about us and how we are living our lives (or how we are voting and what we are supporting) and a big part of putting God first, is putting how we treat each other (specifically those we disagree with) above our politics and differences. Young people use to be taught HOW to think, not WHAT to think. We used to be able to have discussions and debates about the truth and quality of ideas... but now instead of being able to have rational discussion about if an idea is good or bad... it's largely based on who the person is that says the idea that determines if the idea has merit or not (race and identity politics). It's no longer the ideas we talk about that are determined to be good or bad... but the person talking about the idea gets labeled as good or bad. There is a lot of inadvertent racism these days, when we give favoritism (good or bad) to any particular group of people based on the race or the way they look... God is VERY opposed to any sort of partiality, as it shows up all through scripture (even if the intention is good). Common Grace means that all truth is God's truth and if you live according to God' principles, even if you don't know or love God), your life will generally be better. Contrasting President Trump (and his record of accomplishments over his 4 year term) & Biden: When it comes to politicians (and people in general), we need to be deep thinkers and able to look past a person's personality and how polished their speech is (or how bombastic and abrasive their speech is), to what they ACTUALLY stand for and do (rather then just what they say). If we are going to use God's standard of leaders needing to be "above reproach", that would likely disqualify all politicians (not just President Trump). It starts with us: We need to be honest and consistent with our standard we use to judge the other side... by also applying the same logic and scrutiny to our own ideas and consumption of information that we likely already agree with. The media is culpable for restricting the American peoples ability to know what is really happening by not simply reporting the news anymore. A news organization should not start with their bias and pre-determined narrative and then make sure to only report bias, editorialized information that supports that narrative, while disregarding everyone else. I had to go digging for what President Trump has actually done during his 4 years in office and I was stunned to find out how much good policies, diplomacy and results were accomplish under his... because they were too busy being outraged and "fact checking" his tweets and not focusing on the substantive things He actually did. Always take the "high road". As Christian, we are called to "turn the other cheek". How we respond to our enemies and those who disagree with us matter. We need to stay grounded in Scripture to not give in to the current cultural moment of de-humanizing and assuming the worse about people who don't agree with us politically (We probably both want good things for our families, others and this country but we disagree on what that is that will get us there). How we talk about politics and the "other side" in our house will have a huge impact on what our kids pick up as the norm for how we treat people we disagree with.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

Today is Christian H's 43rd birthday and so we are talking about getting older, aging and Western cultures propensity to not talk about uncomfortable realities, like our limited time on Earth and death. We also talk about the origins of how/why we started The Old Fashion Dad Podcast and we reply to The Honest Cigar Experience Podcast challenge to us.   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: Dryfly Straight Wheat Whiskey - 120 proof Cask Strength (Spokane, WA) This Weeks Cigars: MyCigarPack.com Show Notes: We talk about the origins of how/why we started The Old Fashion Dad Podcast. Why do we avoid thinking about / talking about the inevitable realities in life, like our limited time here and death - Making this life count and leaving a legacy Is our value in what we "contribute to society" or in our inherent dignity and identity as a child of God, made in God's image - the case against assisted suicide or euthanasia? We reply to The Honest Cigar Experience Podcast challenge to us.... and level our own counter-challenge!   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

On today’s episode Christian B talks about addiction and why as a dad this is an important and relevant topic as well as the different responses that are often taken when addressing this issue.    NOTES: •This Weeks Whiskey: no whiskey for this episode •Show Notes: • Why is talking about addiction important •How is this relevant to dads •How does the world respond to addiction? •What is the Godly response?   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we talk about how we can disagree and deal with our marital conflict well, in a way that is kind towards one another and still glorifying to God. Modeling repentance and forgiveness to our kids is key when our failures (when we don't fight well with our wives) are on display in front of our kids.   NOTES: The Honest Cigar Experience answers our question to them in their latest episode (Episode # ) Christian B. does not have the Rona... yet! The quality of a marriage is not a lack of conflict but rather how you deal with the conflict and treat the other person, when you do have conflict or disagreements Most marital conflict will be mitigated if both spouses have a commitment and mindset around trying to "out-serve" & "out-love" one another (rather than being more concerned about our own "needs" & rights being protected. Is it ok to argue in front of your kids? It's important for your kids to experience and be part of your repentance to your spouse, them and God. Am I guilty of crushing my spouse or kids with my words... or are my words life-giving and uplifting?  Our job as parents is not to model perfection or even morality to our kids but to instead point our kids to Jesus when we do mess up... Our model is Jesus, who was the most dependent [on God] man who has ever lived. What is my tendency in my motivation during conflict? To fight for my wounded pride to get my way or "win" the argument... or to find the truth in love towards my wife and family.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

This week we talk about the value of working with your hands, teaching your kids how to work, God's calling to work and work well. We even discuss about how perhaps God doesn't care about the work you do nearly as much as how you do your work.    NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: High West Double Rye Whiskey Willet Distillery Whiskey from Bardstown, KY (not drinking it tonight but recommended) This Weeks Cigars: Thompson Cigar house Churchill Show Notes: Christian B. makes an exciting surprise 1st purchase... a couple fire arms / guns. Christian H. buys his own AR-15 rifle. The value of working with your hands / manual labor. Before becoming a real estate broker, Christian H. was a finish carpenter and did high-end home remodeling professionally for 15 years. Christian B. is pretty handy around the house and got a lot of his experience while working with his dad restoring classic American Muscle cars ('78 Chevy Corvette & '66 coupe Mustang). Christian H. talks restoring his '71 Datson 240Z. Learning how things work through working with your hands. The value of shared experience and bonding with your kids and other men through mechanic or construction projects and work. Don't just do things for your kids, do the work with your kids and teach them in the process. Man's main purpose given to Adam in the garden of Eden (and man-kind in general), is to work and cultivate the earth - build culture. Great book on the Theology of Work: Every Great Endeavor: Connecting Your Work to God's Work by Tim Keller God doesn't care nearly as much about WHAT for your work... He cares more about HOW you work. The quality and exceptionalism of the work we do is what really matters ("Everything you do, do it to the glory of God") Often a large part of our identity is attached to our work that we do - We size people up based on what they do compared to what they do (manual labor jobs vs. jobs requiring degrees or "thinking"). An unspoken value and goal in our culture is to try to avoid work or work so you can measure and retire someday, which is not something we see in God's word (trying to avoid work). Hard work and doing a good job brings glory to God. Your kids will pickup on your attitude towards work and if you hate it or are doing your best job. In some Christian sub-cultures, being a pastor or in paid ministry is the highest calling but we don't find that in scripture - It's not the job you do that glorify's God, it's how you do that job. It's every Christian's ministry to do the work the best you can and to love people God brings you in contact with through your work - We are all ministers of the gospel in how we work and how we treat people. Jesus was a carpenter and many of his disciples where rugged fisherman... They were blue-collar workers.   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!

It's hard to take a stand for Christ and truth in today's lost and hostile culture. Today we look at lessons from the Book of Jonah on what it means to bring the saving message of God to your enemies, through being obedient to God... even if like Jonah, you'd much rather see your enemies destroyed and "get what they deserve".   NOTES: This Weeks Whiskey: High West Double Rye Show Notes: Why Jonah (what does Jonah teach us about this topic - since we are not a "bible study" podcast). A call to stand for truth A call to love your enemy Our desire to be "liked" by the world (and how that can cause us to be silent) What does it mean to "represent Christ" in a post-Christian / Critical Theory culture? What does taking a stand mean? What does it NOT mean? Helpfull Podcasts / Podcast Episodes Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Episode 275 | Exposing and Opposing Social Justice Theology Just Thinking Podcast - Black Lives Matter? Episode The Briefing with Albert Mohler History of Nineveh (capital of the Assyrian Empire) Who was Jonah? Jonah’s racism, prejudice and elitism Why Nineveh? Nineveh’s response to God’s judgement  Jonah’s response to God’s mercy Observation: Jonah's selfishness (only thinking about saving himself & not thanking God for saving the sailers) vs. the pagan sailers (who didn't immediately throw Jonah overboard to save themselves). Why did Nineveh incur God’s judgement? Why did God use Jonah? What does God value? What should we value as believers? Your response to your enemies reveals your understanding of God and His character. Standing for truth, in love, as a means of changing our enemies hearts.   Why use the book of Jonah to address today’s current events and as a foundation for standing for God’s truth. Jonah is a prophet of God, called to speak on behalf of God and call people to repentance. Jonah is sinful and responds to God’s commands in a disobedient way that exposes his racism and prejudice, as well as the hate in his heart. The story of Jonah shows us, the reader, we are like Jonah in many ways. We are prejudice, discriminatory, racist, sinful etc. We have all been enemies of God at some point and God reaches down and picked us up out of the depths and gave us new life. The story of Jonah shows us that God has mercy on his enemies and that we should also have mercy and love our enemies. Standing for “truth” needs to be God’s truth, not a truth you make up. Standing for truth needs to have a theological understanding of what our spiritual circumstances were prior to Christ saving us...otherwise we are a noisy “gong” (1 Corinthians 13)   Call To Action:  Follow us on our Instagram or Facebook “The Old Fashion Dad Podcast”  pages for more content & DM us with any comments, questions or let us know what you would like us to talk about in a future episode. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcast or your favorite podcast app. Leave us a nice 5 star review and tell your friends and fellow dad's to listen!