Podcasts about shoulds

I am so thrilled to connect with you today and share an excerpt from a conversation I had several months ago with a dear friend of mine, https://livefreecreative.co/about/ (Miranda Anderson). Miranda is a blogger, an author, and a mom of three, and she has been on 3 in 30 twice before teaching us how to declutter our schedules and our lives. She has such a unique perspective on life, and I am so grateful that she is my friend and mentor, and that she is allowing me to air today’s episode, which is actually an excerpt from her podcast, https://livefreecreative.co/podcast/ (Live Free Creative).  Back in November, she interviewed me for her show, and I loved the conversation so much, I wanted to bring it here. In this discussion, we talk about three takeaways for finding delight in your motherhood, even in the hardest seasons. I hope you enjoy! *** -3 Takeaways for Delighting in Motherhood-1) Look for the Flecks of Gold. Remember the parable of the miner and how he had to start looking for that particles of gold within the rocks...he had to crack them open and really search in order to find them. That is also true of many seasons of motherhood. The beautiful moments are there if we can train ourselves to see them and give them the weight they deserve in order to find more delight in our motherhood. 2) Declutter your Motherhood of Shoulds. If you notice that you are feeling weighed down in your motherhood–maybe your life is feeling cluttered with commitments or you are constantly beating up on yourself for all the things you “should” be doing–I challenge you to think of your motherhood as a closet that needs a good declutter. What can you get rid of in order to find more delight in motherhood? Sit down and write out all of the “shoulds” that are weighing on you, and ask yourself, “Where did this come from, and does it really fit me and spark joy for me?” If it doesn’t, let it go. 3) Give yourself space to grow. Think of Miranda’s cactus that stayed small until she put it in a bigger pot. Once it had room to spread its roots, it exploded with growth. How can you give yourself more space to grow within your motherhood and your life? I challenge you let this metaphor work in you, to talk it over with a friend or your partner, and make a plan for giving yourself a bit more growing room in your life. >>>Will you try any of these tips for finding more Delight in Motherhood? What would you add to our takeaways? Tell us in the comments below! ***  -Sponsors- Flecks of Gold Journal With this journal, you write down one golden moment you experience each day, as a reminder that no matter how difficult the season is you’re going through, there are still moments of joy. Now through Mother’s Day, the journals are 10% off with the code 3IN30. https://3-in-30-podcast.myshopify.com/ (Shop here.) Jane.com Jane.com a highly-curated, online boutique marketplace featuring the latest in women's fashion trends, accessories, home decor, children's clothing, and more called Jane.Com.  If you are interested in checking out what Jane.com has to offer, they helped me create a curated shop page especially for 3 in 30 listeners with some of my favorite items displayed. Go to http://jane.com/3in30 (jane.com/3in30). ***  -Get in touch with Miranda!- Blog: https://livefreecreative.co/ (https://livefreecreative.co/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livefreemiranda/ (@livefreemiranda) Podcast: https://livefreecreative.co/podcast/ (Live Free Creative Podcast) Miranda's Creative Mentorship: https://www.patreon.com/livefreecreative (https://www.patreon.com/livefreecreative) *** -Links Mentioned in the Episode- Sermon with the Parable of the Miner: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2011/04/finding-joy-through-loving-service?lang=eng ("Finding Joy through Loving Service," M. Russell Ballard ) *** - Did you like this episode about how to Delight in your Motherhood? If so, check...

Shoulds. Dakota Adan’s words from his book “Be(loved).” The feeling of oof.

S3 E10: We review night 1 of Takeover, Wills and Shoulds for Night 2 and WrestleMania, and more.

In Episode #22, Kelsey and Vanessa ponder what it means to choose joy and live fulfilling, meaningful lives or doing what they should. We’ve all been told what we SHOULD be doing, heard who we should be, and told all the things we should choose and what success should look like. When you live in SHOULD it impacts your health and your life. When you are trying to fit into the vision of who you should be instead of being who you truly are, it could burn you out, dull your light, and even become soul crushing. Performing the should isn’t sustainable. What if we asked ourselves what we actually want and then choose it? What if we chose our joy over a should? Have you stopped to consider what it might be like if you stripped off all the SHOULDS? Kelsey and Vanessa reminisce on what the global pandemic and the last year has taught them about their definition of success and shedding their shoulds. They dive into some of the personal growth and change they experienced. And how following their joy brought them to the sunshine coast, where life is at a different pace and more aligned with their vision of success.  So. What really lights YOU up? Choose that.   Show Links  Six Figure Words - Content Writing Workshop

Huberman Lab Podcast Notes Key Takeaways Inflammation has a bad reputation but an immediate, acute inflammation response is good and allows the body to repair tissue Chronic, unchecked inflammation is bad Neuroplasticity allows our nervous system to change itself in response to experience which impacts how we experience pain Pain is complex because there is a subjective component“Pain is a belief system about what you’re experiencing in your body.” – Dr. Andrew HubermanVisualization exercises using imagery to imagine the amputated limb have been shown to reduce phantom limb pain To overcome motor injury: restrict use of the uninjured limb and force (within reason and safety) use of an injured limb The glymphatic system is key in clearing out debris that surrounds injured neurons in traumatic brain injury To better activate the glymphatic system: (1) sleep on the side instead of stomach or back; (2) sleep with feet slightly elevated; (3) 30-45 minutes of Zone 2 exercise 3x/weekKey components of injury/tissue rehabilitation: sleep, short walk, heat more than ice, sunlightRead the full notes @ podcastnotes.orgIn this episode I describe the science of how and why pain arises in the body and brain, and how we can actively control our experience of pain. I discuss inflammation, stress, acupuncture, limb damage and Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). I review protocols that leverage the lymphatic and nervous system to accelerate pain relief and healing in a variety of situations. Other topics discussed include how heat versus cold impacts neurons and wounds, red-light, sunlight, stem cells and more.  Thank you to our sponsors: ExpressVPN - http://expressvpn.com/huberman Athletic Greens - http://athleticgreens.com/huberman Our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/andrewhuberman Supplements from Thorne: http://www.thorne.com/u/huberman Other links: The Ready State/Dr. Kelly Starrett https://thereadystate.com/ Instagram: @thereadystate https://www.instagram.com/thereadystate/ Twitter: @thereadystate https://twitter.com/thereadystate Love and Pain Study https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/pmid/24716721/   Timestamps below. 00:00:00 Introduction/Avenues for Support 00:04:58 Deliberate Unlearning 00:06:43 Pain, Injury and Regeneration 00:09:17 A System of Touch (Somatosensation) 00:11:42 Pain and Injury are Dissociable 00:15:19 Objective versus Subjective Control of Experience 00:16:15 Plasticity of Perception 00:16:41 Lack of Pain Is Self-Destructive; So Is Excessive Pain 00:18:42 Homoculous, Ratonculous, Dogunculus 00:19:05 “Sensitivity” explained 00:21:30 Inflammation 00:22:24 Phantom Limb Pain 00:24:00 Top-down Relief of Pain by Vision 00:26:41 From Deaf to Hearing Sounds 00:28:10 Pain Is In The Mind & Body 00:29:44 Recovering Movement Faster After Injury 00:35:00 Don’t Over Compensate 00:37:34. Concussion, TBI & Brain Ageing 00:40:49 The Brain’s Sewage Treatment System: Glymphatic Clearance 00:43:05 Body Position & Angle During Sleep 00:44:30 Types of Exercise For Restoring & Maintaining Brain Health 00:47:33 Ambulance Cells in The Brain 00:49:20 True Pain Control by Belief and Context 00:51:45 Romantic Love and Pain 00:55:05 Dopaminergic Control of Pain 00:57:15 Acupuncture: Rigorous Scientific Assessment 01:07:32 Vagus Activation and Autonomic Control of Pain 01:08:30 Inflammation, Turmeric, Lead and DHT 01:11:40 Adrenalin: Wim Hof, Tummo, “Super-Oxygenation” Breathing 01:14:53 Protocols For Accelerating Tissue Repair & Managing Pain 01:17:55 Ice Is Not Always Nice (For Pain and Injury): Sludging, Fascia, Etc. 01:22:02 Chronic and/or Whole Body Pain; Red-Light Therapy, Sunlight 01:26:10 Glymphatics and Sleep 01:26:29 Stem Cells, Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP: Shams, Shoulds and Should Nots 01:31:38 Young Blood: Actual Science 01:35:44 Synthesis, Support & Resources Please note that The Huberman Lab Podcast is distinct from Dr. Huberman's teaching and research roles at Stanford University School of Medicine. The information provided in this show is not medical advice, nor should it be taken or applied as a replacement for medical advice. The Huberman Lab Podcast, its employees, guests and affiliates assume no liability for the application of the information discussed. [Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac https://www.blabacphoto.com/]

In this episode I describe the science of how and why pain arises in the body and brain, and how we can actively control our experience of pain. I discuss inflammation, stress, acupuncture, limb damage and Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). I review protocols that leverage the lymphatic and nervous system to accelerate pain relief and healing in a variety of situations. Other topics discussed include how heat versus cold impacts neurons and wounds, red-light, sunlight, stem cells and more.  Thank you to our sponsors: ExpressVPN - http://expressvpn.com/huberman Athletic Greens - http://athleticgreens.com/huberman Our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/andrewhuberman Supplements from Thorne: http://www.thorne.com/u/huberman Other links: The Ready State/Dr. Kelly Starrett https://thereadystate.com/ Instagram: @thereadystate https://www.instagram.com/thereadystate/ Twitter: @thereadystate https://twitter.com/thereadystate Love and Pain Study https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/pmid/24716721/   Timestamps below. 00:00:00 Introduction/Avenues for Support 00:04:58 Deliberate Unlearning 00:06:43 Pain, Injury and Regeneration 00:09:17 A System of Touch (Somatosensation) 00:11:42 Pain and Injury are Dissociable 00:15:19 Objective versus Subjective Control of Experience 00:16:15 Plasticity of Perception 00:16:41 Lack of Pain Is Self-Destructive; So Is Excessive Pain 00:18:42 Homoculous, Ratonculous, Dogunculus 00:19:05 “Sensitivity” explained 00:21:30 Inflammation 00:22:24 Phantom Limb Pain 00:24:00 Top-down Relief of Pain by Vision 00:26:41 From Deaf to Hearing Sounds 00:28:10 Pain Is In The Mind & Body 00:29:44 Recovering Movement Faster After Injury 00:35:00 Don’t Over Compensate 00:37:34. Concussion, TBI & Brain Ageing 00:40:49 The Brain’s Sewage Treatment System: Glymphatic Clearance 00:43:05 Body Position & Angle During Sleep 00:44:30 Types of Exercise For Restoring & Maintaining Brain Health 00:47:33 Ambulance Cells in The Brain 00:49:20 True Pain Control by Belief and Context 00:51:45 Romantic Love and Pain 00:55:05 Dopaminergic Control of Pain 00:57:15 Acupuncture: Rigorous Scientific Assessment 01:07:32 Vagus Activation and Autonomic Control of Pain 01:08:30 Inflammation, Turmeric, Lead and DHT 01:11:40 Adrenalin: Wim Hof, Tummo, “Super-Oxygenation” Breathing 01:14:53 Protocols For Accelerating Tissue Repair & Managing Pain 01:17:55 Ice Is Not Always Nice (For Pain and Injury): Sludging, Fascia, Etc. 01:22:02 Chronic and/or Whole Body Pain; Red-Light Therapy, Sunlight 01:26:10 Glymphatics and Sleep 01:26:29 Stem Cells, Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP: Shams, Shoulds and Should Nots 01:31:38 Young Blood: Actual Science 01:35:44 Synthesis, Support & Resources Please note that The Huberman Lab Podcast is distinct from Dr. Huberman's teaching and research roles at Stanford University School of Medicine. The information provided in this show is not medical advice, nor should it be taken or applied as a replacement for medical advice. The Huberman Lab Podcast, its employees, guests and affiliates assume no liability for the application of the information discussed. [Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac https://www.blabacphoto.com/]

Thinking “I Should….?” Shoulds can lead to distraction and disaster. Today we cover 2 Should Statements many of us who relocate think of as TRUTH…when they are only opinions and ones that lead to nowhere. Come learn to identify and jump off the “shoulds” rabbit trail and get settled without distracting yourself. https://ReloWomen.com/Should-ing_Ourselves

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It's so easy to forget who we are sometimes. The lies we believe can be SO much louder than believing the truth about ourselves.This internal struggle to believe the truth OVER the lies creates conflict, confusion & disconnection.And over time we end up trapping ourselves with all these rules & SHOULDs because we trying so damn hard to make things happen in a CERTAIN way.Today I want to share this practice of ANCHORING into yourself when the truth is really hard to believe.Remember at ANY MOMENT you can show up differently for yourself & start creating a life that feels SO DAMN GOOD! If you are needing support around connecting to the truth of who you are & getting the tools & energy to thrive- JOIN US FOR SOUL CAMP!!! We start next week & spots are already filling up!! Send me a DM HERE to reserve your spot!xo, RoddySupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theroddymethod?fan_landing=true)

Dr. Duffy talks again with Marcia Meislin, author of The Goodbye Cookie, A Memoir of Not Giving Up, about living without “shoulds” by distinguishing what’s really important, the difference between healthy obligations and unhealthy obligations, and learning how to go within.

At the beginning of each new year, the ancient Babylonians made promises to their gods to pay off debts and return borrowed items.   Today we make resolutions centered on improving our lot in life. We vow to lose weight, eat better, get more exercise, write that novel, spend less time on social media, and leave those pesky bad habits behind. The truth is that the success of our resolutions really depends on understanding that the very act of making a promise to ourselves is not only an act of intention, but a transaction with the laws of manifestation   1. Shelve the Shoulds When I begin coaching with someone who is making New Years’ resolutions, the first thing we do together is sort out the “shoulds” from the “wants.” There’s a difference.   Perhaps you can see the irony here. Shelve the shoulds. Shoulds won’t help you no matter how valid they are. Instead, begin your resolutions with wants. If you really want to see some change, ask yourself this question: “What is my heart’s desire?”   2. The Universe Rewards Action Small deeds done are greater than great deeds planned. ~Peter Marshall There’s no getting around it: nothing will change the way you want it to without you doing something about it. And this is where things get a little difficult, right? Good intentions are a dime a dozen People who should listen to this show are entrepreneurs

The beginning of any new year often hyperactivates our “Shoulds.” I should lose weight. I should start meditating more. I should be kinder to myself. I should put myself out there more. I should, I should, I should. I am no stranger to the Shoulds that my Monger promotes every new year. Like clockwork, those shoulds and New Year, New Me attitudes drift away. My Monger always has a heyday with this—convincing me that I was failing. But the concept of self-loyalty—the notion that true change comes only when we’re loyal to ourselves first—is what changed the game for me… for the better. In part one of this series on self-loyalty, I talked with my friend and podcast producer, Sean McMullin. We defined self-loyalty and how to bring self-loyalty to the center of your life as you make plans for change in the new year. If you haven’t listened to part one yet, I recommend that you do before jumping into this one. Today, I’m continuing my conversation with Sean, going deeper into change, resolutions, and plans for the new year. Listen to the full episode to hear: How 2020 and COVID changed our approach to resolutions How our image of ourselves, our identities, and our stories can keep us from seeing possibilities Upcoming changes for the Happier Approach Podcast Learn more about Sean McMullin: Yellow House Media Learn more about Nancy: Coach in Your Pocket The Happier Approach Book Live Happier Website Resources mentioned in this episode Headspace Meditation App The Real Point of Meditating by Mike Sturm on Medium The Science of Mindfulness | Dr. Ron Siegel | Talks at Google The Art of Noticing by Rob Walker -- The Happier Approach Book I’ve been working with women like you living with hidden anxiety every day for over 20 years as a coach and counselor. I wrote The Happier Approach to give you a framework for dealing with your anxiety and start living happier. The Happier Approach will help you understand the voices in your head and what to do with them. It’s not another woo-woo self-help book that asks you to think positively and live your best life. It’s a practical guidebook for getting out of survival mode and finding a genuinely happy and productive life. Know someone who has High Functioning Anxiety and a VERY LOUD Monger, the Happier Approach makes a great gift. Find The Happier Approach on Amazon, Audible, or Barnes & Noble! And click here to learn more about how you can work with me through on-demand coaching!

If you’re given the ability to go into the future, what would you tell to your future self?So, today’s topic is about what would your future self tell to the present you. Thinking about it, will the future Francesca be disappointed to today’s Francesca? I bet, no? Why? It’s because I felt that the future me will agree to what I’m doing right now.I know I can make it better or even best, despite this circumstance that we’re in right now, she will be proud because I started something out of nothing. I started a certification program in which I help coaches understand their target market, help them with their funnels, and other coaching stuff.Our live/face-to-face workshop also managed to boom when we made it online as the pandemic is still lingering around… But it wasn’t easy - as many people kept losing their faith and were in soo much doubt that they stopped thriving and got cozy in their comfort zone.Well, nothing’s wrong with that but you also can’t expect your business to boom without even doing anything, right? Your future self won’t also like that. We must take advantage of our current situation and accelerate to another path if the other road is blocked.Do all the things you don’t really want to do consistently, and also, when nobody is watching. Take your life or your business to the next level. Stop procrastinating and stop waiting for any miracles to come when you’re not even doing what you’re supposed to do. Help yourself first, and then maybe some miracle would go in your way and help you clear some path out.Think about your future self and what would the future you will feel about what you’re doing right now. Will he/she agree? Will he/she be disappointed in you? Will he/she be proud of you? Think of that and start taking action to improve your current life. :)Do the work now and get massive results tomorrow!I have a lot more to say so listen to this podcast and hear my piece. Thank you! And I’ll really appreciate it if you’ll leave a comment or a review below. Have a great weekend ahead~Lessons you’ll learn here are:What would probably the future you will tell to the present you?Things you have to do right now.Your WANTS, not your SHOULDS.The struggles of the past and present are being watched by the future.Identifying if your ego is right.What do you do when nobody is watching you?Get your copy of Systems PDF here: https://francescamoi.pages.ontraport.net/systemsSay Hi to me on social media!!Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/themeetupqueen/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/francescamoifm/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/francescamoi/Website: www.empoweringevents.com.au/Join my next Half Day Workshop!Online: https://bit.ly/38HNsXtLive: http://bit.ly/invincible-live-workshopJoin my new program:https://francescamoi.securechkout.com/fmm-online-courseM.A.F.I.A Conference 2021https://empoweringevents.com.au/e/m-a-f-i-a-conference/Books & Plannerhttps://empoweringevents.com.au/product/planner-bundle/GP Webinarhttps://e.empoweringevents.com.au/webinar

Real talk! Let’s chat about this mistake I’ve made (and keep making) in my business. Let me give you a hint. It has to do with all the “SHOULDS” being shouted at us entrepreneurs from all directions. “You should be posting on social media every day!”“You should write e-mails every week!”“You should be on this platform and that platform and that one!”With “shoulds” coming at us every day, how are we supposed to stick to one, simple strategy to grow our business?Can listening to podcasts and watching YouTube videos and reading blog posts actually create chaos in our business lives?The answer is YES. It happens to me all the time. I listen to one podcast, and suddenly I’m down a rabbit hole on a topic that wasn’t even on my radar 20 minutes before. (Hello shiny object syndrome!)In this episode, I’ll teach you how to keep your blinders on and stay focused on the things that really move your business forward. I’ll remind you about values and trusting your instinct - because (repeat after me) you’re a smart and savvy business owner!Want more advice about how to stay focused on your business in 2021? Grab my free Marketing with Intention Guidebook: https://www.alissamcdonald.com/guidebookLiked what you heard? Don’t forget to rate and review this podcast. Snap a picture and tag me on Instagram! Thanks for spreading the word to help teachers create more impact and generate the income they deserve!

“Shoulds” are soul-crushing.  Unmotivating.  Less than fun. I don’t want to start off the year with what I SHOULD do. Nope, not one bit.  I want to kick off 2021 with what I WANT to do. You know, juicy stuff. Fun stuff.  Help add value and make the world a better place stuff. Let’s kick...

Have you wondered why people pleasers are liars? It's because many of them sabotage themselves to be liked by others. And sometimes, that includes yourself!A lot of people go into self-sabotage and they do that because they don't want to miss out, they don't want to lose but actually, they choose to lose everything.Many of us did not even realise that we already sabotaged ourselves as we kept on blaming others for our bad decisions. We didn’t see that it’s our own doing, that it’s our own self-sabotage - sometimes we didn’t even recognise it, and sometimes, we deny it.Tell me, in what area of your life have you self-sabotaged? As for me? I keep sabotaging myself in every area of my life - may it be in a relationship, in business, myself, and all. I. Just. Kept. On. Doing. It!! And it’s so frustrating!What happened is that we sabotage in business, in life, relationships, or anything at all, because we get comfortable. If we get comfortable, we don’t have that much desire to go to the next level - we get complacent and we’re afraid to go out of our comfort zone because we don’t want to mess up what we already achieved.And that is why we get stuck… Our fear keeps holding us back. We fear that if we risk what we have, we’ll fail and we’ll lose everything. When I'm running away from pain, I'm in fear. And when I'm in fear, I usually make decisions that are not serving me, my business, my relationship, wherever I am at.And I’ll tell you this, you won’t get any gain if you continue on that thinking - if you continue sabotaging yourself. Usually, we sabotage ourselves because we doubt our power, and sometimes, we fear about losing time - but we actually start to lose so much time and that is the ultimate sabotage.If you want to hear more about these people pleasers, please click the play button below and also, leave a comment and tell me your thoughts. Thank you!What you will discover in this episode:Why people pleasers are liars?What is the main cause why we self-sabotage?How can we recognise or know that we’re actually self-sabotaging?Why do we have to change our SHOULDS into WANTS?My experiences on self-sabotaging and the lessons I’ve learned from it.What does self-sabotage mean and why there is no such thing as self-sabotage?Say Hi to me on social media!!Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/themeetupqueen/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/francescamoifm/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/francescamoi/Website: www.empoweringevents.com.auJoin my next Half Day Workshop!Online: https://bit.ly/38HNsXtLive: http://bit.ly/invincible-live-workshopJoin my new program:https://francescamoi.securechkout.com/fmm-online-courseM.A.F.I.A Conference 2021https://empoweringevents.com.au/e/m-a-f-i-a-conference/Books & Plannerhttps://empoweringevents.com.au/product/planner-bundle/GP Webinarhttps://e.empoweringevents.com.au/webinar

To start the new year, we’re feeding our hearts truth and hope for the new year by replacing long-held -- but untrue -- beliefs with what Jesus says.  What you really want at the start of a new year is hope. While I cannot promise only goodness in this new year, I can give you hope and freedom to start the year with a fresh perspective, one built on truth and love. In this episode, we’ll examine four statements that try-hard girls believe and we’ll replace them with truth. You want to start and live this year with your feet firmly planted on what is true.  If you’re ready to speak truth to your heart, If you’re ready for hope and freedom, If you’re ready to start the new year with grace, Listen in.  Today, we’re going to get hope, freedom, grace, and truth as we carefully examine these 4 lies: I should… If I really loved Jesus/people, I would… I need to be able to point to a finished product to show my value. There’s nothing I can do about... We’ll unpack: What is true about each statement What isn’t true And your next most gracious step. I sprinkle in a few personal examples and share conversations I’ve had with Jesus.  Belief #1: I should… “Shoulds” are a tangled web because they sound very much like something Jesus would say,  yet they make you feel heavy instead of light. However, “shoulds” rarely bring you closer into alignment with the Jesus-expression of yourself Let’s break down “the shoulds:” The truth is there is work for you to do. God says He pre-planned good work for you with your name on it. Doing God’s good work blesses you and conforms you more and more into the image of Christ.  The lie is that everything that crosses your path is for you to do at this season and stage of life. These lies come in the form of external expectations and demands that do not serve you well and drain you instead of giving you joy and peace. Your most gracious next step is to bring Jesus your list of “shoulds” and talk with Him about them. This may take you many, many conversations to iron out, depending on how long the list is. Belief #2: If I loved Jesus or people, I would… Let’s break down guilt-inducing statements: The truth is: loving Jesus means obeying Him, love moves us to action. In John 14:15 -- after Jesus washed His disciples’ feet and talked about His impending death, Jesus tells His followers this, “If you love me, you will do the things I command.” Jesus’ heart is all about serving and sharing information with His friends.  It is true if you love Jesus, you obey Him. You will do what He says. Followers of Christ not only love others through words but through deeds. Those who love Jesus, shine a light to the world around them, never keeping it to themselves.  The lie is how this truth is twisted from loving Jesus means obeying Him, to loving a leader means obeying him/her. You may have been told directly - or you’ve picked up on subtle messaging by church leaders or other Christians in different ways -- what people who love Jesus do.  Your most gracious next step is to ask Jesus about the statements you’re hearing about serving and tithing, and asking Him what He wants you to do. Belief #3: I need to be able to point to a finished product to show my value. Let’s break down the achievement mindset: The truth is that God created good works for you to do. Jesus’ brother James tells us that we are to be do-ers of the word not just hearers of the word. Yes, doing is wired into the DNA of God’s kids. The lie is that your value comes from what you’re doing, how much you achieved and how successful you are. Bonus points if in a good, old-fashioned game of comparison with others, you come out on top. Your most gracious next step is to be open-handed in this season and in your life.  Belief #4: There’s nothing I can do about...  Let’s break down the discouraged mindset: The truth is one person cannot stop a global pandemic on her own, one person cannot repair and restore centuries of despicable and unequal treatment of an entire race, and one person who knows how to handle her words online can’t change the behavior of everyone else on the internet. The truth is that God calls us to this:  whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. We are to think of Jesus -- because truth, nobility, righteousness, purity are who Jesus is and then we are to act.  The lie our enemy wants you to believe is that because you cannot fix everything, you might as well camp out in your despair and discouragement. Because your brain feels foggy and forgetful -- not creative and energized -- you decide that you’ll just put on your comfy pants and call it a day.  So your gracious next step is to ask Jesus what you can do. Where can you get involved? What can you do to love and serve people around you well? How can you care for an elderly neighbor while keeping her safe? Key Quotes “Shoulds” are a tangled web because they sound very much like something Jesus would say, yet they make you feel heavy instead of light. Allow your Good Shepherd, who knows how He wired and knit you together, who knows your strengths, weaknesses, family and financial situation, who knows everything you have on your plate now and will in the future, to lead you with love. Grace says that the cross paid for your sins and in the process, freed you from every “should” you will ever experience. Jesus uses love and kindness to lead. He does not guilt you into anything. It is a lie that tells you that you must have something outside of you that proves the worth inside of you. The way of Jesus is to obey the Father, to love people, and to enter hard situations and engage with those who don’t know Him. When you hear yourself say “should,” ask if this is something God has put on your heart or if it feels more like an obligation. Every season has its own kind of productivity. That voice inside your head that tells you you need to do more and try harder isn’t always the voice to listen to, even when it is the loudest. Mentioned in the Podcast Inner Critic Challenge Previous Episode Mentioned Episode #21: Did I really hear from God or is it just me?

This week on the Go Get It Podcast, Hunter and Austin share a monthly ritual that they share together named THE CALL, and discuss the value of structuring time for intentional conversations with the people you are closest to in life. Your #GoGetItChallenge of the week: Start your own CALL with the people you are on this journey of life with! PROMPT 1 Choose the top 10 Values you live by... in order” PROMPT 2 What is your biggest insecurity these days?What is something that is at the core of your motivation right now? Or what is something that got you really inspired lately? A conversation you had. Something you learned. A vision of your future. Anything like that.What's a value you want to embody so much that the people you come into contact with everyday, or the people you coach, can't help but adopt? Why? PROMPT 3 Choose one behavior that you have changed for the in the past 2 months.Identify what that behavior looked like before you made the change.Identify what you were gaining from this original behavior before you made the change. (how were you benefitting from it in your life)Identify if there were any people or relationships perpetuating that behavior. After the change Identify what shifted you to make the change.Identify the reward and what you have gained from making that change when you did.How would your life be different if you had not made that change at all? PROMPT 4: Who is somebody that believed in you somewhere along the way? Preferably outside of immediate family. Maybe someone who saw something in you that others didn't or opened doors for you unexpectedly. What does that mean to you now and what did it mean at the time? And as a bonus, who do you believe in that maybe others don't? PROMPT 5: Note somebody who made an impact(or the biggest impact) on your life this past month and how. As well as somebody you impacted the most and how.What are 2 "Shoulds" that you will turn into "Musts". And what are you most looking forward to this month and why. 

This week on the Go Get It Podcast, Hunter and Austin share a monthly ritual that they share together named THE CALL, and discuss the value of structuring time for intentional conversations with the people you are closest to in life. Your #GoGetItChallenge of the week: Start your own CALL with the people you are on this journey of life with! PROMPT 1 Choose the top 10 Values you live by... in order” PROMPT 2 What is your biggest insecurity these days?What is something that is at the core of your motivation right now? Or what is something that got you really inspired lately? A conversation you had. Something you learned. A vision of your future. Anything like that.What's a value you want to embody so much that the people you come into contact with everyday, or the people you coach, can't help but adopt? Why? PROMPT 3 Choose one behavior that you have changed for the in the past 2 months.Identify what that behavior looked like before you made the change.Identify what you were gaining from this original behavior before you made the change. (how were you benefitting from it in your life)Identify if there were any people or relationships perpetuating that behavior. After the change Identify what shifted you to make the change.Identify the reward and what you have gained from making that change when you did.How would your life be different if you had not made that change at all? PROMPT 4: Who is somebody that believed in you somewhere along the way? Preferably outside of immediate family. Maybe someone who saw something in you that others didn't or opened doors for you unexpectedly. What does that mean to you now and what did it mean at the time? And as a bonus, who do you believe in that maybe others don't? PROMPT 5: Note somebody who made an impact(or the biggest impact) on your life this past month and how. As well as somebody you impacted the most and how.What are 2 "Shoulds" that you will turn into "Musts". And what are you most looking forward to this month and why. 

I don’t know about you, but I’m really tired of trying to add more SHOULDS to my life! So I’m not doing it anymore! But I still believe I can build my life and what I dream of with joy! How?! Well what I’ve got for you are 4 mind shifts, thoughts, just quick ideas, that helped me finish my book and create with ease! And I know they can help you do the same with anything you want to create, including a beautiful life! I’m sharing the 4 messages I wrote to keep me centered and inspired on post-it notes I kept above my desk, and what they meant to me! As well as why I think they will inspire and focus you too! Let’s do it! CALENDAR!!! https://partywithalison.com/products/2021-year-of-awesome-calendar-1 Eric's closing song is from his stock music library Pleasant Pictures Music Club pleasantpictures.club Use code: AWESOMEWITHERIC for 20% off

Season 2 Final: We give out the Inagural No Marks Awards, Wills and Shoulds for TLC, and More.

Inklings ~ Stop Should-ing All OverFor a pick me up, try this: https://www.irenamiller.co/insightThere’s a reason why experiences come back round. And it’s not just to feel like a punching bag.The key is noticing when the “Shoulds” pop up.Like those phrases . . .I should be over this by now.I shouldn’t let it get to me.I should stop making the same mistakes.I should know better by now.These “Shoulds” are opportunities for healing.And yes, it might hurt a little when the healing energy comes through. Does it have to? No. But it might.When the anger boils and it seems like every other word needs to be bleeped, take a deep breath. It’s going to be okay.Here’s how to shift that energy and transmute it into something of beauty.Irena’s Energy Recipe For Stopping the ShouldingAttention - Say hello to those big feelings.Intention - This is also defined as “the healing process for the wound.”Action - Go for that walk, run, healing energy session, or simply take action on the healing plan.Find more energy recipes here: https://www.irenamiller.co/insight---------------------------------Irena Miller is an Energy Alchemist + Intuitive Guide. She is the playfulness behind InSight of the Moon, a membership community connecting empaths and harnessing the energies of the Lunar Cycles (https://www.irenamiller.co/insight ). Her joy is introducing you to the experience of living a harmonious, engaged, and free-flowing life! With over 20 years of experience studying and teaching energy and yoga, she still loves to see the light turn on in her students’ eyes after a practice. Irena has been featured in Runner’s World, Spark People, seen on The Shift Network, Sirius Joy, and has lead retreats and teacher trainings. She is a certified Sekhem-Seichim-Reiki Master and Yoga Instructor at the Experienced-500 hour level with the Yoga Alliance. With time so precious and rare, she will teach you how to leverage your invisible support team and realize that you always have support on this journey if you simply ask. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

E96 - Life is a big balancing act right now. Who can relate? After some requisite excretory system discussion, and talk about backyards, shotguns, and The Sopranos, we jump into how our Thanksgiving went. As a parent, it’s difficult to know when you’re giving the right amount of time to your kids versus your work. And in Mouse’s case, does podcasting count as work or is it a hobby? What are other people thinking about how much time she spends with her kids versus her computer? Perceptions, expectations, assumptions and The Shoulds can get us all into trouble, so we try to break down our personal experiences. We also get into how friends and family are at different stages of how they are dealing with coronavirus expectations right now. Some of us are expanding our bubbles and spending time with family, and others are strictly locked down and only going on guilt trips! How is this going to play into the upcoming holidays? Join the discussion and let us know how you feel at mouseandweens@gmail.comSong Credits - “Things Aren’t As Bad As They Seem” by Dan Mahony and Julianne EggoldPodcast Promo - Fish NerdsMouse and Weens podcast is part of the PodFix NetworkWe are sponsored by Dream Dinners! Get more balance in your lifestyle by joining Dream Dinners meal prep system. Save an average of $200 a month on groceries 20 hours a month shopping and prepping! Joelle has been using Dream Dinners since 2017 and tells all her friends about it regularly, so this is a tried and true life hack! Kids love the homecooked meals, it is fast, easy, and a no-brainer for busy parents. It is not a subscription service so you can use it as frequently or as infrequently as you would like. Locations are nationwide. At the San Diego locations of Poway and San Marcos, use MOUSEANDWEENS20 for a 20% discount AND during the month of December enjoy free delivery within 25 mi of the store. https://www.dreamdinners.comYou can watch this episode on our Mouse and Weens YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgeuFSExQ2EaHYSG-s4sgZwA transcript of this episode is on http://www.mouseandweens.comPlease follow and contact us via Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTube @mouseandweensThank you to our Patrons! If you want to be cool like them, you can get this episode UNEDITED and commercial free - plus bonus content, outtakes, and merch - for a mere $5 a month on https://www.patreon.com/mouseandweens Join the family!

S2 E49: We are back as we discuss the last few weeks, Wills and Shoulds for WarGames, and More.

In this episode, we discuss why sharing your story is a crucial part of landing new clients and building a thriving online business.    The Episode: Why Your Story is Crucial to Building Your Online Business Who can disagree that we relate better to people whose stories we know? When we understand what someone has gone through, we find it easier to relate to them and it makes meaningful connection possible. That is why your story is a powerful tool for building your online business.   While you might think that your story is mundane or irrelevant, others don’t see it that way. The different things that make you unique could be exactly what resonates with your target audience and get the business streaming in!   In This Episode The common erroneous assumption that your credentials will make people hire you [0:16:21] What watching Simone Biles can teach us about the importance of telling your story [0:17:10] How a person’s story is what gets others to buy into and care about them [0:18:02]  The importance of an authentic story in boosting your unique selling proposition [0:19:16]  An example of how your story can be leveraged to get people emotionally invested [0:19:54] Hear how you get a lot further in the online space when you have an authentic story [0:25:01]  The issue with saying what you think others want to hear and pursuing a big market [0:26:34]  Focusing on the “right” thing versus focusing on the right thing for you [0:28:07]  Why it is worth spending the time to define the things that make you unique [0:30:42]  When a story resonates with your audience, keeping pushing that message [0:33:54]  The reward of staying true to yourself and ignoring the likes and opinions of others [0:36:24]    “What I find a lot of people try to do is they try to say what they think is the right thing.” — Jonathan Goodman   Credentials Are Not Everything  While you might think that all your qualifications and certifications are what will convince people to work with you, the truth is that they seldom know what all the letters stand for. Other coaches will recognize your credentials but, to your ideal clients, it will mean little.    The Value of An Authentic Story  A person’s story – including their personal and professional highs and lows – is a powerful tool for making them more relatable, thus easier to connect emotionally with. People want to see your human side and the challenges you have overcome, as this gives them a reason to like and root for you. Even the highest performing athletes need an authentic story to maintain a strong following.    Stop Focusing on the Shoulds  Whatever you do, do not try to create a USP based on trends or what you think other people want. When you choose to serve a target audience with whom you have nothing in common, there is going to be a disconnect between you and them. Choose an area that you have personal experience in and that is true to you.     Ready to scale up your online fitness business?  Apply for OTA 2 here: www.thePTDC.com/OTA2 SPONSORS Get started TODAY with the world leading certification and business development program for personal trainers, nutrition coaches, and gym owners – The Online Trainer Academy: https://onlinetrainer.com/academy   Enjoy this special offer of 60 days FREE on PT Distinction from The Online Trainer Show! - https://www.ptdistinction.com/ots    Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feed/id1468193055 Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/jon-goodman/its-possible-conversations-with-successful-online-trainers Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/20veRnzFOvUn6fTy9ud8jm?si=zMWTLmtISMm1XrU-4Q8oxA YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JonGoodmanPTDC

Carrie Lecuyer is a Life Coach, Career Development Professional, and speaker. She loves working with her clients to pick up “the clues” and ask the right questions that reveal their internal passion and where they are meant to grow on their personal development journey. Today she is getting in the HOT SEAT with us for a deep-dive coaching call to help her gain clarity around next steps and where she is feeling blocked right now. Together we explore: - The personal growth Carrie has experienced through Ironman Triathlons. - Social Media Engagement: How to shift the internal resistance to showing up on social media - The key ingredient to attracting your ideal clients - Facing the fear of being vulnerable online - “The Mom Bubble” and finding harmony in your multi-faceted identity - How Carrie stepped into being a Motivational Speaker - Finding the Joy inside of yourself and allowing that energetic flow to guide your decision making. - Why honoring your work will bring more joy to your personal life - Dropping the “SHOULDs” of your business and taking action in alignment with what you really desire. - Human Design for Generators and Manifesting Generators with a Sacral authority. You can connect with Carrie On Instagram @inspiredcoachingbycarrie CLICK HERE to visit her website, inspiredbycarrie.com P.S. Private coaching is a personalized, high-touch experience that will accelerate your healing journey and spiritual growth WHILE you build your business! SOUL WORK, ENERGETIC SUPPORT, ACCOUNTABILITY, & ROAD MAP TO MONEY. Apply Now

S2 E45: We try to make sense of Monday Night RAW, Wills and Shoulds for Hell in a Cell, and more.

How often are you "shoulding" on yourself? "I should be doing something different. I should be able to get more done. I should be a better mom. I should stay home. I should work. I should put that laundry away. I should make more money. I should be cleaner. I should, I should I should." Shoulds are obligations. Coulds are possibilities. I don't know about you, but possibilities feel way lighter and more fun than obligation and duty. Don't miss out on the Your Best Life Planning Party. Save your spot here.

I had such an amazing conversation at lunch last week with a great friend of mine Amanda..  We began talking about our lives before waking up and how the transition from the old story and expectations shifts to a journey for inner understanding of ourselves..  We talked about how taking all of the information you've gained from doing all of the things you "DIDN'T" want to do can lead you right to what it is that you WANT to do....  The trick is knowing ... That the mind that was along for the ride during all of your previous life situations... has a story about what matters and where you fit into this world.... Changing the script on that story and the path you want to take .. will not only trigger the story to respond with doubt... fear.. and sometimes insults .. lol!!   But it can also create physical triggers in the world provided by people who were usually a BIG part of our lives during our unconscious portion ...  How we choose to respond during these times... and with the pressure and influence from other people projecting their " SHOULDS" onto you  (. You should do this!... You should do that!)    is essential as to whether you hop to the next timeline .. the next chapter in your high vibrational journey ... Do you align with LOVE .. of yourself.. and your purpose to this point ... Or do you listen to the. " YOU SHOULD" of others... and fall back into the old limited story ....  This NEW MOON....  Be brave and continue to shift ... from the inside out.. and watch this Universe line things up for you..... !  MUCH LOVE TODAY !!   Likeattractslike11.com   Hello!!  I help people re connect with their higher conscious self by allowing a deeper understanding and perspective on the mind and the story it tells… Thank you so much for being a part of the show !! If you would like to support the Like Attracts Like podcast join our PATREON Community by clicking here !! https://www.patreon.com/user?u=22969209 YAY !!!     The JOURNALING AND SCRIPTING COURSE OPENING NOVEMBER 4th link should be all up and running ! To pre register or find out more information click here  https://the-like-attracts-like-podcast.mykajabi.com/pl/226634  If you believe that you are going through a Conscious or Spiritual Awakening consider subscribing to the Podcast :) I upload episodes and perspective finding interviews just about every day! 

S2 E42: We talk Tegan Nox, the Mysterios, NXT, Wills and Shoulds for Takeover 31, and more.

S2 E40: This week we talk SmackDown, Retribution, Wills and Shoulds for Clash of Champions, and more.

Ask David What do you do when someone won’t stop asking questions? Hello David, It’s been a while since I’ve emailed you, but that’s because I’ve been doing really well thanks to you! I started a new job 3-1/2 months ago, & this woman seemed to take to me right from the start. It was nice at first having someone to talk to etc, but it has quickly turned bad. She sits in the cubicle right next to me. All day long she talks to me asking me questions. What did I do after work? Who was I with? How long was I gone? What did my husband do? And on & on. It feels like she’s interrogating me because the questions never stop. I’m trying to get more vague with my answers hoping if will deter the conversation, but no luck. It really becomes distracting at times & then other times it just feels like she’s being nosy & freaks me out. I just want her to leave me alone! I think this would be a good opportunity to use the 5 secrets of effective communication, but I’m struggling. Could you help? Thank you, Brittany Hi Brittany, Will send to Rhonda for an Ask David. But a simple approach would be to tell her that you admire her and appreciate her interest, but that you sometimes find the questions distracting from doing your work. Perhaps you could sit down with her for lunch or something, and then use your five secrets skills. Using the relationship journal, you could write down one thing she said to you, and exactly what you said next. Then we can see exactly what you are doing that is fueling the problem! I've attached one, and you could send it to us after you have completed Steps 1 and 2. David Thank you for the reply! It really made my day. I attached the relationship journal. It was actually more helpful than I thought it would be for this situation. Once I was able to think of a good example, I realized that maybe my lack of inquiry or showing interest in her is causing her to ask me all these questions. Although if I ask her more about herself, I don't know if it would result in her talking even more? Hard to say. Thanks for your help, and I appreciate your thoughts on my relationship journal. -Brittany Hello, Wanted to give you an update on how it went using the five secrets. First thing Monday morning my coworker started right up with the questions. I used the five secrets & said something similar to what I wrote to you. She apologized for bothering me, & things have been great all week! She actually brought in headphones & has been listening to music now. And there’s no tension or animosity between us which was my fear initially. We still chat here & there & are friendly. Thanks again! -Brittany How can a pastoral counselor get training in TEAM-CBT? Dear Doctor David, I am a pastor from South Africa, married to an Australian, living in Dubai :) I was struggling with mild depression & came across your book "feeling good" and read it & applied all your techniques & it has been life-changing - THANK YOU! What surprised me most was the simplicity and effectiveness of the exercises. I believe that much of what you teach is life skills everyone should have! I wish I was taught these things when I was younger! Over the years I have helped people, from all walks of life - inmates, students, business people, etc., but primarily from a spiritual perspective. I believe I can be more effective and help so many more out there if I learn how to apply your exercises to others. I would love to train in TEAM and learn how to apply these techniques with the people I minister to, but I am not a psychologist or certified as per your requirements. I realize practice and critical feedback is paramount in order to get really good in TEAM. Please advise me on an alternative route. Any help with this regard would be highly appreciated! Thanking you in advance. Yours sincerely, Gareth Noble Hi Pastor Noble, Sure there is a certification program at the Feeling Good Institute. I believe pastoral counselors would be very welcome. They offer many online introductory classes in TEAM-CBT. Check our my free weekly Feeling Good Podcasts, too. I will include your question, with your permission, on an Ask David Podcast. I also offer a free depression class on my website, and about to post an anxiety class too, also free. There are tons of resources, almost all free, on my website, www.feelinggood.com. You can check out my website page from time to time for online workshops. Dr. Angela Krumm angela@feelinggoodinstitute.com is head of the certification program at FGI, which is www.feelinggoodinstitute.com. Angela and I are both PKs (Pastor’s kids)! All the best, David Is love an adult human need? Rhonda said that people in the TEAM certification listserve thought they heard David say that love is not an adult human need. Is this true? David comments on hearing Dr. Beck say that decades ago, in one of Dr. Beck’s weekly training groups at U. Penn, and what he (David) discovered. What’s the best training program to learn TEAM-CBT? David and Rhonda, I hope this note finds you well. I'm writing for a few reasons. The first is to thank you for your podcast and related resources. I found your podcast and started listening at the beginning of COVID-19 (mid-March) because I was feeling acute anxiety. The T.E.A.M. approach and your teaching are such an amazing gifts. The positive reframing in particular is truly life changing and revolutionary for me. Considering what my negative thoughts show about me that's positive and awesome and then finding the cognitive distortions has provided me such relief. I have been so excited about T.E.A.M. therapy that I often discuss it with my husband, friends, and family. I really loved David's comment in the most recent podcast that good therapy isn't evangelizing; rather it's letting the patient define problems and goals within his/her own values. I also liked your comment that doing therapy well is like an artform or a dance- that's such a beautiful sentiment, and I've been able to see the conversational "dances" you perform in the amazing, transformative, empathic live therapy sessions with Michael, Rhonda, Sarah, and others. These sessions have often brought tears to my eyes. This brings me to my second reason for writing. Listening to the podcast has been transformative for me in another way- it's made me seriously consider becoming a therapist myself. I have considered this possibility over the years, but now that I'm familiar with the T.E.A.M therapy approach and can see how helpful it is, I'm excited to explore this path more. I have a B.A. in psychology so I would need additional education- do you have suggestions for masters programs that you think would provide good alignment with the T.E.A.M. approach? I live in Charlottesville, Virginia and have two young children, so a local or online program may be the best bet for me. Thanks in advance for any ideas you may have. All the best to you, Molly Hurt Thanks, Molly. We can read your wonderful email on an Ask David if that is okay with you, but here is the quick answer. In graduate school, you don’t typically learn much that is useful. It is more getting a license to practice, then you learn from mentors, workshops, etc. The FeelingGoodInstitute.com has training and certification programs, including 12 week beginner classes in TEAM that are excellent. The whole area of coaching is emerging now too, and the certification is rather informal. If you get a degree like a masters degree in social work online, and then get licensed to do therapy, that is one approach, but there are many ways to get certified—counselor, psy d degree, marriage and family therapy, and so forth. So in short, I would, personally, find some way—the easiest way—to get certified so you can legally do therapy. But concentrate on learning TEAM as the tool to use. In California, as an aside, anyone can call themselves a “psychotherapist,” but you need the degree and license to call yourself a “psychologist.” Good luck, and thanks again! david Why are should statements considered distortions? Thanks for your quick and helpful reply. It's useful to have a better sense for how to prioritize my time and training. I'm excited to continue to explore T.E.A.M. therapy! And you are welcome to read my email on the podcast, thanks for asking. If I may, one other question for you: how do you recommend someone defeat "should" statements when his/her behaviors aren't healthy or beneficial? For example, "I should not overeat when anxious" or "I should not procrastinate" or "I should not be impatient with my daughter." I understand that saying "should" in these cases adds pressure and can lead to shame, but I don't see the distortion in these statements. In other words, these statements may not be helpful to a patient, but how are they not 100% true? I would appreciate any additional guidance you can offer on what I find to be the most difficult cognitive distortion! Thanks again to both of you for generously sharing your loving and kind approach to helping people deal with their problems and feel better. The impact you're having is profound. I love listening to you empathize with patients- it makes me strive for building an even more loving connection with my husband and daughters, as well as others in my life. Best, Molly Hi Molly, You may want to listen to podcast #205 pm Should Statements. You can also find a lot in my books, like Feeling Good, which you may have already read. There is also a chapter on how to crush should statements in my new book, Feeling Great, which will be released on September 15, 2020. Shoulds are distortions because they are not valid. It is not true that you “should not overeat when anxious.” You SHOULD overeat when anxious because it is very appealing, tasty, and makes you feel better. A correct statement would be, “It would be preferable if I did not overeat when anxious.” This statement removes the shame and pressure, while honoring your goal. There are three correct uses of should: the moral should (thou shalt not kill), the legal should (you should not drive 90 miles an hour because you’ll get a ticket) and the laws of the universe should: this pen should fall to the floor if I drop it because of the force of gravity. But overeating when anxious is not immoral or illegal, and it does not violate the laws of the universe. So it is not a valid use of the word. There is a podcast on this, I think, and you can search for it on my website use the search function. Rhonda and David  

S2 E35: We go over RAW, NXT, Wills and Shoulds for Payback, and more.

Today, the Cognitive Distortion Starter Kit Continues with Should Statements Rhonda begins by reading a beautiful email from one of our listeners, and I give a brief shout out for my new book, Feeling Great, which can be pre-ordered on Amazon now (see below for the link). Thanks to your support, as of today (July 2) it is already the #1 best seller in the Amazon depression AND anxiety categories for impending new books! David and Rhonda briefly summarize the history of Should Statements, starting with the Buddha 2500 years ago, and culminating in the work of Karen Horney and Albert Ellis in the 20th century. They both emphasized that nearly all emotional suffering as well as relationship conflict results from “Shoulds.” David and Rhonda describe the four categories of Should Statements: Shoulds directed against yourself cause depression, anxiety, guilt, and shame. and even lead to suicidal urges. Should directed against others cause anger, and can even lead to violence. Shoulds directed against the world cause frustration. Hidden Shoulds. They also describe the three valid types of Should Statements: Moral Shoulds Legal Shoulds Laws of the Universe Shoulds David and Rhonda provide vignettes illustrating the tremendous emotional damage that can result from “Shoulds” and describe a number of strategies for combating them, including: Positive Reframing the Semantic Technique Socratic Questioning the Acceptance Paradox The final podcast in this series will focus on the two types of Blame: Self-Blame, which nearly always marches hand-in-hand with Self-Directed Shoulds Other-Blame, which nearly always marches hand-in-hand with Other-Directed Shoulds Rhonda and David

S2 E33: The Ums have it, I go solo and talk about my love for Joshi Wrestling, Wills and Shoulds for Takeover: XXX/SummerSlam, and more. Article Referenced: https://westerncourier.com/42355/the-edge/anime-series-captures-pro-wrestling-spirit/

Excuse us while we have a little fangirl moment on the podcast because, in this episode, we chat with someone who has been a massive inspiration to us both - Kerstin Cable from fluentlanguage.co.uk and The Fluent Show!Kerstin tells us about where Fluent Language started, how her podcast grew out of a series of interviews on her blog, a bit about her personal experience of learning languages and about Women In Language, an online conference that she organises with Lindsay Williams and Shannon Kennedy, which is designed to champion, celebrate, and amplify the voices of women in language learning. (Fun fact: Penny & Bec actually met through the first Women In Language conference in 2018!)We loved speaking to Kerstin and hope you enjoy this Language Chat too. Have you listened to The Fluent Show before? Join Kerstin on 9 October for a livestream to celebrate the 200th Episode of The Fluent Show!This year’s edition of Women In Language will be happening from 17-20 September 2020. Are you excited to attend Women In Language (again or for the first time)?Let us know here, in our Facebook Group or Instagram!Episode Linksfluentlanguage.co.uk - Kerstin’s websiteThe Fluent Show - Kerstin’s podcastEpisode 131 - The Fluent Show - "The Tyranny of the Shoulds" with Dr Roger KreuzEpisode 172 - The Fluent Show - Marc Okrand on Creating the Klingon LanguageFind Kerstin on Facebook (Fluent Language Learners) / Instagram (@kerstin_fluent) / Twitter @fluentlanguage - @thefluentshowWomen in Language - 17-20 September 2020. Tickets on sale now!

Sometimes in business, we see our competitor doing something really cool. So, we decide we probably ought to do that thing too. Or, we get some feedback that we really should be doing this, or that, because it’s an opportunity that might lead to great prosperity for our business. Or, we say we’ll do something. Go off the idea. But then feel compelled to follow our original thought so as to stay consistent and not be flaky. All these scenarios can take us off our BIGGER course. Here is how we know if it is not for us. We get the ‘I don’t want to’ feeling. When you think about doing a new thing Hiring that new person Creating that lead magnet Doing that Facebook live Starting that membership Running that promotion We find ourselves digging our heels in - metaphorically - and pushing away from the very thing that we say we want. It can be exhausting. Pushing uphill. Going against our grain. Depleting our life-force particles. It can be easy to get into a way of thinking that is full of “SHOULDS”. What we SHOULD do or what we COULD do. Yes, you could have a membership Yes, you could have an online course. Yes, you could have a Virtual assistant, a lead magnet, a marketing funnel, an instagram account, facebook ads running, You could be doing daily Facebook lives, speaking on stages, writing a book. You could, but you don’t HAVE to. Listen to hear: How the case of “I don’t want tos” might be a sign of burnout What to do when you find yourself ‘should-ing’ all over yourself My plans for getting to the other side of fatigue Getting back on track when you find yourself feeling lost How to do more of what you WANT and less of what you COULD Here are some popular recent episodes: Owning Your Awesomeness Trusting Yourself More Nothing Compares 2 U Sharpen Your Voice HerBusiness Facebook Page: https:/facebook.com/HerBusiness/ HerBusiness Network for Women Business Owners: herbusinessnetwork.com

Blake Cason is a mindfulness and work/life balance coach, and the founder of Pivot Wellness. We talked about bringing awareness to our relationship with climbing, practicing radical honesty, ways of strengthening the mindfulness muscle, cycling priorities, and ways that both Blake and I have struggled to find balance between work and climbing. Support on Patreon:patreon.com/thenuggetclimbing  Show Notes:  http://thenuggetclimbing.com/episodes/blake-cason  Nuggets:  2:01 – The first time Blake jugged a line, choss in the Canadian Rockies, and supporting Mike on ‘The Shining Uncut’8:19 – Intentionally showing up to support another person in climbing9:58 – The relationship sandbox, and play and responsibility13:53 – Common issues/areas that Blake works on with her clients and climbers16:34 – Beauty in doing things that don’t have a point, and being out of alignment with what motivates us vs. what we’re actually doing20:24 – “Shoulds”, guideposts, and self-imposed suffering23:33 – Radical honesty, “is that working”, and slowing down28:12 – Finding mindfulness through climbing, and her climbing relationship as a barometer32:11 – Tuning into your body and your breath to return to the present moment34:14 – Focusing on the breath, and code-switching35:52 – Training the mindfulness muscle 39:43 – The practical use of mindfulness, and how to bring mindfulness to reflecting on the past or envisioning the future42:50 – Mindfulness applied to climbing performance, “paying attention”, and finding language that resonates44:57 – Savoring, loosening the grip, tapping into a growth mindset, and getting the whole brain firing 53:04 –  Self-limiting beliefs, “Is being attached to that belief working?”, and the research behind the importance of self-compassion58:28 – The brain-body connection, “abort mission”, and punting1:01:18 – ‘Joe Six Pack’, recognizing a need, and choosing to walk away (for now)1:05:31 – How Blake would work with a client who struggles with fear1:12:59 – My (Steven’s) struggle with balancing the podcast with my own climbing and expectations1:16:49 – Cycling priorities, and how Blake cycles her focus between her own climbing and her business, and values vs. priorities1:23:56 – Using inspiration as a guide for priorities1:25:57 – Zooming out1:32:13 – Gratitude1:32:55 – The area of mindfulness that Blake is working on currently1:37:31 – Where to connect with Blake and how you can work with her1:40:28 – Take a breath1:42:49 – My free life coaching session, and send us questions!

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S2 E27, Special Wednesday morning edition, we talk Charlotte Flair, Wills and Shoulds for Extreme Rules, and more.

Who:  Dana Wilde - Bestselling Author of Train Your Brain, Creator of The Celebrity Formula, and Host of The Mind Aware Show What This Show is About:  Maybe You Should Be Uncoachable Have you ever had someone tell you, "You should be more open to ideas" or "You should be more coachable."  In this episode, Dana reveals why this may not be good advice and what's better than being "coachable."  The Mind Aware Show is Positive Mindset for Entrepreneurs.  Dana Wilde, the #1 bestselling author of Train Your Brain, delivers motivation, marketing ideas, and business tips designed to breakthrough your limiting beliefs, and manifest freedom and success in your business.  Dana Wilde goes beyond positive thinking and the Law of Attraction.  This show is the ultimate in Entrepreneur Mindset. Click here to ask Dana:  http://www.danawilde.com/askdana.  Please check out our episode notes below… 03.50 - Discover what to FOCUS on as opposed to ALL the SHOULDS that people are saying to you. 04.35 - Find out WHY it's okay and even BETTER to be UNCOACHABLE. 06.30 - Learn what to do when you are having MOMENTS where you are NOT feeling CLEAR. 07.25 - Tune in to find out HOW you will know if you are in a state where you can TRUST your intuition and your own advice. 08.18 - Discover HOW you can get to a point of KNOWING. 09.05 - Positive RANT on being CLEAR and in your "KNOWING." Where to Learn More:    http://www.danaclass.com  http://www.danawilde.com

  Make sure you’re following me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/imfranexcell/ and tag me into your key takeaways! Email me at fran@franexcell.com with any questions or take aways! For more, head over to: www.franexcell.com/ To sign up for The Positive Pants Planner Waitlist: https://www.franexcell.com/pppwaitlist/ For more information or to apply for The Proactive Pants Mastermind: https://www.franexcell.com/proactivepants Book in a discovery call to see how I can help you: https://calendly.com/franexcell/20min Download your Free Procrastination Buster here: https://franexcell.lpages.co/procrastinationbuster/   Access SubliminialPower HERE (Affiliate link because it’s awesome!) So, you’ve realised you’re not exactly living how you want to...or doing what you want to...what now?!   This is a question that came up from one of my lovely listeners and I thought it was actually the perfect time to cover it, what with all the waking up to our unconscious thoughts and all that.   With so many people realising they may have followed a path that was from someone else’s idea of what the ‘right’ thing to do was, or someone else’s idea of what’s possible and not their own, it’s time to have a little chat.   There’s a couple of camps you may be in right now as I know I have lots of listeners who already have businesses, and lots who want to start one...or achieve something big at least.   So, you might be in camp one where you listened to your parents idea of what success ‘should’ look like.  Or your siblings, teachers etc.  Authority figures from when you’re young.   So you go along with it, go through school, pick your GCSEs, A-Levels, Go to University, start at the bottom of the corporate ladder and work your way up.  Right?     You’ve ticked all the boxes so you should be happy right?   No?   So what gives?!   I see this happening a LOT to people in their 30s and 40s. I was one of them!  That tug towards knowing you’re capable of more, but no idea what that is or where the heck to start!   It’s confusing because you followed the plan.   You’re doing what you’ve always done, you don’t want to start ‘from scratch’ again.    I hear you.   Then there’s the other camp who essentially tend to be the same people but one step further along.     You already started the business!  But still, something’s not quite right.    It’s not what you thought it would be, or it’s harder than you thought.   You’re doing what you THOUGHT you wanted to do but you’re feeling just as unfulfilled.   You realise you based your business around what you thought you SHOULD do, rather than what you really wanted.   You realise it’s not exactly what it’s cracked up to be.   So what do you do?!   I mean you could throw caution to the wind, quit your job or burn your business down (metaphorically speaking) OR you could carry on, reframe what you’re doing right now, work out what’s in your unconscious that’s REALLY causing the feelings and THEN make decisions based on that.   So how do you start doing that?   Where did the path you’re on actually come from?  Did it ever come from you?  Or was it someone else?   What did you LOVE doing as a kid?   Where do you lose time?  Where are you really in a state of flow?   What do you really want for your life?  What are your priorities?  How can you make what you do fit around that?   What are your non negotiables?   What hobbies have you got?     Take some courses and test the water.  Use your job as your venture capitalist and start DOING things you’re intrigued by.   Do you want to re-qualify?  How can you make that happen?     What does your intuition tell you?  There will be this weird emotional pull to certain things, you may not be used to hearing it, or listening for it.  But give it a try.  What comes up a lot for you.  Do you dismiss it because it seems wild and crazy?  Do you dismiss it because you think you can’t have it or there’s no point?   What would happen if you just followed it?    What would you do if you know you couldn’t fail?   What would you do if you had a billion pounds in the bank?   What do you NOT want to do?   When I was in that position I did a few things, I'll let you in on them as you’re in my inner circle ;-) Then you can decide if it might work for you.  Let me tell you there is some serious trial and error and willingness to fail thrown in here!   I wrote down all the things I love doing.  As we’re getting to know each other more I'll tell you some of the thighs I wrote down.   I started this as a list and then fleshed out the finer details of my strengths and weaknesses for all of them ha! So left brained sometimes.   So, I wrote down a mixture of things I COULD do or SHOULD do and things I LOVED to do.   I wrote down marketing consultant - I’ve spent 15 years in media so I definitely COULD have done this but my heart went...Meh!   I wrote down antiquing...oh yes...i’m coming out of the charity shop and antique fair closet.  I freaking LOVE me a bargain and when I find something I KNOW is special it fills my heart with joy so I thought about reselling on things like Ebay (back then there was no Facey B marketplace or any of these newfangled ones we have today.)   I wrote down jewellery designer, if you’ve been following me for a while you’ll know I went down this route and created my brand Francesca Grace….and quit it when it got too hard.  If I knew then what I know now ha!   I wrote down coach or therapist.  Helping people has always been a thing i’ve done, helping people think differently and to be honest it’s always been one of those ‘pulls’ I ignored. Even when we were doing careers quizzes as a teenager that’s what they were telling me ha.  IGNORED and got distracted by jewellery!   I wrote down dog walker.  Not many things bring me more joy than spending time with woofs! I had a grand master plan to combine products with dog walking. Then I got diagnosed with Arthritis and it was off the table.   My husband says I have a unique way of turning ANYTHING into a money making idea...even when people aren’t asking for it ha!   I had ideas coming out of my eyeballs.     I also had the limiting beliefs, stories and excuses to go with them.  So bear in mind when you do this you’re going to start naturally unearthing them along the way.   I was awful to myself around all the reasons I wasn’t good enough or couldn’t do it.  So I went with trial and error for a while.   So things to look out for when working out what you REALLY want.   Shoulds!!!   Coulds!!!   Can’ts!!!   Need tos!!!   Have tos!!!   I don’t know hows!!!   You want to look for the want tos! For the things that light you up and feel GOOD! That gets you fired up and excited and even if they seem out of reach right now, how COULD you make them happen?     What steps would someone need to take to get there (it’s handy to take the YOU out of the equation for this one so you don’t let your beliefs get in the way!)   You really can make a living doing pretty much ANYTHING these days so look for the evidence that it’s possible.  The only limits are your imagination really.    So write down everything no matter how bonkers you think it sounds and start doing your research.    So whether you’re in the career and know it’s not right anymore and want to start your own thing, or you’ve built a business and realised it’s not for you...the same questions apply.   Really dig into what you love, what brings you joy.  The important emotions!    The bottom line is, when you live your life based on other people’s ideas of what success looks like, or what the right path to follow is then you’ll suppress parts of yourself that don’t fit in with that. You’ve got to find what floats YOUR boat and what YOU think is right.   I’m not a ‘throw caution to the wind and burn stuff down’ kind of a gal.  That can affect your relationships negatively if you’re not all on the same page, it often will catapult you into scarcity (which is the WORST place to start a business from!) once the initial excitement wears off. It leaves no room for experimenting.  It leaves little room for curiosity.  It leaves little room to make mistakes, to get things wrong, to fail and get back up.   People think those are the negatives but they’re the path to where you want to be...sounds counterintuitive but you HAVE to be allowed to get things wrong or you deny yourself the lessons and the growth.    It’s so, so, SO important to do something you actually love doing.  Because it’s hard.  There are ups and downs.  You need to have fire in your belly and the motivation behind you to keep going through the downs.   Fx  

Guilt is a powerful emotion. Often, rather than motivating, it keeps us from making changes which might benefit us. Discussed in this episode is the balance of prioritizing your personal needs simultaneously with others. How communication and removing your self imposed “Shoulds” can help you make small changes to keep you going. Why? Because providing care whether medical or psychological, carries with it a physical and mental burden that only those who practice know. Spend time learning how to protect and strengthen yourself so you can continue to carry the tremendous burden of caring for others

S2 E21, We Review NXT Takeover In Your House, Revisit 2018 WWE Evolution, Talk bad PPV theme songs, Wills and Shoulds for Backlash, and more.

(GUIDELINES THAT BUILD INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE AND RESULT IN MATURE CONFLICT RESOLUTION) COMMITMENT TO GOD is vital in a marriage. Imagine a triangle with God at the top. As you both grow more spiritually connected with God you also become more emotionally and spiritually connected with each other.AGREE TO LISTEN TO EACH OTHER’S FEELINGSTEAMWORK = YOU ARE BOTH ON THE SAME TEAM. Two guards on the same basketball team, while dribbling down the court, would not try to steal the ball from each other because they are on the same team. Couples who argue in unhealthy ways are on opposing teams and need to join the same team. The goal of conflict resolution is not who wins. When a couple resolves an issue, or even agrees to disagree, they both win.CONFLICT RESOLUTION IS THE GOAL OF MATURE “ARGUMENTS”—NOT WHO WINS. When you resolve a conflict, or agree to disagree, YOU BOTH WIN.NEVER ATTACK EACH OTHER. This is another aspect of being on the same team. Calling each other names or attacking each other in any way is not a good way to bring resolution. A mature couple will discuss their differences of opinion or their perceived offenses while listening to each other’s opinions and either agree on a compromise, apologize for an offense, or agree to disagree, but all without attacking each other or calling each other names. COMMITMENT TO EACH OTHER means a lifelong choice to be loving to each other, even when not feeling that way at times. The FEELING of love varies even day by day. Two people marry each other because they love each other. It is totally normal, when living with each other a long time, for those feelings to go up and down. In Revelation chapter 2:1-5, God clearly taught three steps for rebuilding waning feelings of love. God complimented the church in Ephesus about a number of very good things they were doing and had only one constructive criticism: they had "lost their first love." The depth of love and enthusiasm that they felt for God when they first became believers had significantly decreased. God taught them that LOVE IS A CHOICE that could be achieved using three simple steps: "REMEMBER therefore from whence thou art fallen, and REPENT, and DO THE FIRST WORKS;" THOSE WILL BE OUR NEXT 3 STEPS FOR REVIVING THE LEVEL OF LOVE IN A MARRIAGE.REMEMBER=A mate can start by remembering the romantic and loving feelings that were present early in the marriage and remember the loving things that were done for each other. As human beings we all take things AND OFTEN EACH OTHER for granted and forget the importance of maintaining those love feelings and behaviors.REPENT means to recognize that the decision the couple each made to love each other deeply at some time in their relationship had now declined in intensity. It would be wise and profitable for each member of that couple to make a "re-decision" to make a determined effort to rebuild the depth of love that had been present earlier in their relationship. DO THE FIRST WORKS means that WHETHER OR NOT A MATE FEELS THAT DEGREE OF LOVE, he/she can choose to do the loving things daily that were done for each other early on in their marriage. The valuable lesson God taught humanity in that passage is that IF A PERSON BEHAVES LOVINGLY TOWARD GOD (AND THIS WOULD APPLY TO A MATE, OF COURSE, AS WELL) THE FEELINGS OF LOVE WILL USUALLY BE REVIVED.NO SHOULDS OR SHOUDN'TS. These are PARENT-TO-CHILD statements and are condescending in marriage. Wives have already had a father. They don't need or want their husbands to be their fathers, but rather their lover and friend and equal. Likewise, husbands don't need or want another mother. Shoulds and shouldn'ts don't work well anyway. As humans, we are usually automatically defensive whether we know our mate is right or wrong, which results in arguments. If A mate is doing (or NOT doing) or saying something that the other mate believes to be wrong, dropping SHOULD and SHOULDN'T messages on each other is VERY UNLIKELY to bring about change."I FEEL" MESSAGES ARE VERY EFFECTIVE TO BRING ABOUT POSITIVE CHANGES. Messages like "I felt really loved just now when you...." "I felt sad today when you...." "I feel angry toward you right now because...." It's really difficult to argue with someone about whether they feel the way they say they do. It would be really narcissistic--or just plain STUPID--to say, "No you don't feel that way." The expressive mate is not even insisting (depending on what it is) that the offending mate change, merely wanting the offending mate to realize how the expressive mate FEELS about the offending mate's action. non-action or choice of words. EXAMPLE = A husband and wife agree to meet somewhere at 6 p.m. after work the wife, for example, shows up 40 minutes late and doesn't answer her phone when he eventually gets worried and tries to call. The wife's boss actually gave her a last-minute task to do that took her 40 minutes. When she finally arrives, it would be condescending and ineffective to say, "You SHOULD always call me when we agree on a time to meet and you know you will be late." He is actually correct, in most cases. But she will naturally defend herself and maybe even get angry at him for getting angry at her when she had a semi-emergency. This results in an argument. But if he says, "I feel angry...or I feel discounted, or even I feel anxious when you meet me 40 minutes late and don't call me first to let me know." If she is caring wife, she will care about how he feels and WANT to change that. "I FEEL" messages don't always work, but they work about four times more often than "YOU SHOULD" messages, plus are respectful, "speaking the truth in love" as encouraged by the Apostle Paul in Ephesians 4:15.

In this episode, Maeden has a heart-centered conversation with fellow starseed Lydia. Lydia shares her story of falling into the love of the cosmos and how we can all do the same. They chat about how we can commit to ourselves and the importance of rewiring our brain from conditioning and the "SHOULDS." Lydia is a lover, creator, light worker, and most importantly a starseed. She stumbled upon the path of healing about 10 months ago, after a jarring ego death related to external circumstances. Since then, she has been committed to the spiritual path of growth through Kundalini & Breathwork, and opening her heart space. Sat Nam (Truth is my identity). Send Lydia love on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lydiaigo/ and STAY TUNED for her podcast & sound healing! Lydia recommends Dr. Nicole LePera on IG for support on this spiritual journey https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Stay connected! Find Maeden on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divinelymaed/ & Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/seedsofthedivine444/ Be sure to check out these other episodes that dive more into loving yourself, trusting yourself & the divine plan: I AM Affirmations WAKING UP To Your Purpose with Rick Miller TRUST In Your Process Shadows Are The Way to LIGHT If you enjoy this podcast, please leave a review or rating! May many miracles bless you today! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/seedsofthedivine/support

S2 E15, We talk this week's NXT, AEW fine, and Wills and Shoulds for Money in the Bank.

Summary of Brenda’s April 24, 2020, channeled Creation Energies show at BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffman: You’re no longer distracted with 3D activities. Your fears are based on your former 3D reality instead of new you. You’re a creator being with a clean slate in a new world with millions more awakening daily. What do you want or need to create?  You're Creating the New Earth Manual is the title of last week’s Brenda’s Blog – her weekly channeled blog for LifeTapestryCreations.com. The overview of Brenda's May 1, 2020, Creation Energies channel: Some of you wear protective gear like gloves and masks. Some of you don't. There's no right nor wrong for shoulds are no longer part of your life. Perhaps experiencing COVID-19 is one of your roles in this lifetime. Maybe you wish to exit the earth. Or not. This is a time of following your unique inner-directives as do infants. This is the new world of individual choices. Brenda’s Creation Energies show and Brenda’s Blog contain different channeled information.

MINDSET MONDAY - EFFORTLESS POWER vs. POWERFUL EFFORTAndrée Martin is an LPGA Class A Life Member, a Nationally Recognized Top 50 Golf Teacher and Expert, and a member of the Maine Golf Hall of Fame.Recognizing Golf’s value as a business tool in today’s competitive marketplace. Andree works with individuals, groups, corporate or organizational clients to create educational and team-building programs that enhance the professional success of aspiring executives.Andrée returns to the Success InSight Podcast for another episode of Mindset Monday, to chat about Effortless Power vs. Powerful Effort.Key points include:● Raising The Bar● Go For The Gold or Settle For Silver● Lean-in and Level-up Your Game● When Things Get Tough, We Get Tight● What’s Your Tempo● Momentum Versus Muscle● Get To Know Your Rythm & Tempo● Pursue Relaxed Effortless Power● Relaxing Increases Your Results● When We Trust Ourselves, We’re In The Flow● Our Tempo Syncs-up Our Hands, Shoulds, and Hips● Leave With More Energy Than You StartedTo learn more about Andrée and her work, you can visit her on the following sites:WebsiteLinkedInFacebook #1Facebook #2InstagramThe SuccessInSight Podcast is a production of Fox Coaching, Inc. and First Story Strategies.

In this yummy conversation, Alise and Lisa talk candidly about turn-ons, willingness (or lack thereof) to fully receive pleasure, and the idea that when we give ourselves permission to more fully experience pleasure, we also more fully experience our soul. Come along for the ride as they ponder and often giggle and “Oh, YES!” their way through tantalizing topics like: Pleasure being a guidance system, our personal GPS, to the Big O of life. How the idea of “it is in giving that we receive” applies to pleasure. How Ego cockblocks pleasure and fully experiencing the soul. FELLAS: Doing dishes as a path to getting laid. Giving pleasure enhances pleasure for both partners – and the importance of being on the same page with your partner as to what is pleasurable. (Communication is key) Turn up the VOLUME! Expressing pleasure enhances pleasure. Letting your partner have their experience without making it mean something about you. Shoulds and Supposed-tos are soul crushers and pleasure crushers. Level of pleasure is relative to level of presence, both in and out of the bedroom. When embracing more pleasure in all of life, start where it’s easy and feels good. Opening channels of receptivity in one area has ripple effects of more pleasure in other areas. Explore what feels good – in sex and in life – and allow that to guide how you show up. When things feel heavy, dense, and no fun, they are likely not in alignment with your soul. Life gets to feel good. Let pleasure be the roadmap for creating a life that makes you want to scream, “OH, YES!”