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Best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super-Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives–by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. You guys are going to LOVE this episode with our guest Alexandra Jamieson. You might know her from her appearance on Oprah talking about her TV series, “30 Days”. Jamieson has a power message about our relationship with food and how she is helping women everywhere discover the deeper truths and meaning behind their cravings. She dives in deep to her personal story where she faced tremendous backlash over publically making an announcement that shocked her community. We discuss everything from shaming and sexuality to the importance of living authentically. She also reveals the four causes of cravings and the importance of listening to what your body is saying to you. She presents the idea that our body is speaking to us but too often we are not listening. If you struggle with cravings feeling out of control or if you have questions about your emotions and wonder how your diet is affecting them, you will love today's episode. Four Sigmatic Coffee Discount Code  Linda's website Follow Linda on Social Media @ Chickfitstudio Tune is here to listen now. ______________________________________________________________ Here's just a few of the many pointers Alex shared: How to stop shrinking and start stepping fully into our personal power It's not something we can do alone. The importance of investing in the right relationships Pay attention to authenticity It's never easy to let go of people or a certain way of living, but the more you do it the easier it gets. You develop grit and resilience. It's a muscle that you can strengthen. The 4 root causes of cravings: Bacterial On a biochemical level, we are as much bacterial as we are human.   Nutritional . Your body craves what it needs. Look at your cravings in more of a curious way. Emotional . This gets shut out of dietary theory which is a shame. We are emotional creatures. Physical . Sex and food. Vitamin P is the thing that we are all lacking. Play and pleasure. How women can build a support system? In-person events. Ask, “Who lights you up? Who are you attracted to?” Ask yourself, “How did you make friends when you were a kid?” Be intentional about putting yourself around the right people. Take a leap if you feel drawn to something. Other people like you will be there too. Resource: Two summer camps for adults: Good Life Camp and Soul Camp. For more valuable pointers from Alex and to hear the whole podcast, listen now HERE. Don't delay and listen now to start putting you and your body as a priority. Social Quote: “It's not just about what we eat it's about how we feel about ourselves, how we treat ourselves.”- Alexandra Jamieson Alex is the creator of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a lifelong learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology. Here's how to stay in touch with Alex: Alexandreajamieson.com Book on Amazon: Facebook: @AlexandraJamiesonFanPage Twitter: @deliciousalex Instagram: @deliciousalex Pinterest: @deliciousalex  

If you're feeling like you've hit a plateau, keep self-sabotaging, or are trying strategy after strategy in your business without success–then this episode is for you.   Most strategists, experts, and business/career/leadership coaches are only barely scratching the surface when they talk about “mindset”, “strategies” or “blueprints”.   While all of those things are important–and yes, necessary–that's not why you've tried “everything” and nothing is quite working as you want it to. That's not why life or your business/career aren't working anymore.   As ambitious women step into their next level, they inevitably hit a ‘capacity plateau'.   Because it's not your strategy, it's your CAPACITY set point. As you'll learn today: without capacity, you're never going to get to those next-level places and stages.   When you increase your capacity, you can hold, handle and receive more without burning out. You feel like YOU CAN HANDLE IT ALL–because you CAN!   My guest today, Lisa Fabrega, is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than 10 years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees, and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level.   Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact.   Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio, and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News, and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.   What you'll learn in this episode: What it means to expand your ‘capacity' and how this is key to stop self-sabotaging your goals and dreams Why hitting a financial plateau is a good thing, and how to increase your ability to earn more The six types of hidden capacity plateaus and how they each hold us back How to start increasing your capacity to receive more   Subscribe and Review Thanks so much for joining me this week. If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review for The Success with Soul Podcast on Apple Podcasts so we can improve and better serve you in the future. Plus, you could be featured on a future episode during our listener spotlights. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated! They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them.   And finally, don't forget to subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts to get automatic updates. My goal for this podcast is to inspire those who seek flexibility and freedom in their lives by making something happen with holistic, soulful, step-by-step strategies from me and other experts.   Links + Resources Mentioned in this Episode: If you're tired of struggling away at your keyboard without any real income to show for all that blogging effort, I've created a brand new free masterclass just for you called 3 Behind-the-Scenes Secrets to Six-Figure Blogging, go here to sign up now for this free training! Brand spanking new to online business? I've got a free video series that I want to invite you to called How to Start your Blog from Scratch the Right Way. Watch it here! Radical Candor by Kim Scott Visit Lisa's website here, and follow her on Instagram @lisafabrega Follow me on Instagram @katekordsmeier and @rootandrevel   More Ways to Enjoy Success with Soul Download a transcript of this episode Download on Apple Podcasts Email me new episodes Don't forget to join our free Success With Soul Facebook community for follow-up conversations about the podcast episodes and where I also often go live to answer your burning questions. Hangout with like-minded bloggers and heart-centered online business owners exchanging priceless feedback, encouragement, and other golden insights from the trenches.   EPISODE CREDITS: Produced by Danny Ozment at https://katekordsmeier.com/pli

Hey you wild women! Next guest is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, Lisa Fabrega has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees, and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level.  Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on Oprah Daily and on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio, and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured in Oprah Magazine, Forbes, CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie. In this episode you will learn: What inspired Lisa to start her company (14:39)  The surprising signs one might have a scarcity mentality around money, even when they are high earners (19:43) The six sneaky ways successful women subconsciously drain their energy and power (26:24)  —----------------------------- Got a minute? We would love a review! Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me 5-stars. Then select ‘Write a Review'. Don't forget to highlight your favorite takeaways. Subscribe to level-up your business today. Subscribe here. —---------------------------- Connect with Lisa Fabrega Website: lisafabrega.com Instagram: @lisafabrega LinkedIn: @lisafabrega Twitter: @LisaFabrega Connect with Renée Warren: Instagram: @renee_warren Instagram: @we.wild.women Website: wewildwomen.com  Public Shoutouts: Book: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

Today's episode is a must-listen if you have been struggling to figure out what is stopping you from being where you want to be, having what you want to have, or doing what you say you want to do. Today's guest is Lisa Fabrega, a personal transformation advisor who supports ambitious women as they strive to create a deep and lasting impact on the world. Her advice blew my mind as she broke down her Capacity Framework and the six capacities that could be contributing to keeping you stuck. Shifting how you see yourself is just the start of her work as she helps you see your own internal capacity and connection to your inner wisdom. The six capacities she notes are money, visibility, purpose, embodiment, structural, and boundaries. Listen as she goes through each one and describes how these areas can hold you back if unaddressed. More about Lisa: For more than ten years, Lisa has worked with new and seasoned entrepreneurs as well as Nobel Prize organization nominees to break through boundaries that have been holding them back. Her signature approach involves the proven concept of expanding your capacity as a way to reach your highest levels of success. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The UnMistakeable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie. Learn more about Lisa here Want to work on your goals, improve your public speaking skills, and check out a Speaker Sisterhood club as a guest? Your first meeting is free and all clubs are meeting online. Find the club that works for you here. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Lisa Fabrega is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News, The Huffington Post, and Forbes. In this episode, you will learn about… How to expand your capacity to handle more growth, wealth and success in your life 6 essential areas that every entrepreneur needs to expand their capacity in to get to the next level Surprising signs that you have a scarcity mentality around money Why you must always let yourself be uncomfortable in making decisions A powerful practice that you can do to expand your embodiment capacity The importance of setting your boundaries in achieving your goals and desires And sooo much more! Screenshot your favorite part and post to your IG story tag me @ashley.hann and @lisafabrega so we can see and repost to our stories as well. Get Lisa's FREE video on “3 Questions You Must Answer to Realign Even During Crisis” here: https://lisafabrega.com/start-here/ Check out the different ways that you can work with Lisa and experience her gifts and wisdom here https://lisafabrega.com/work-with-me/ Follow Lisa on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lisafabrega Are you ready to level up and become a fully-expressed, fully-activated Female On Fire? Go to www.femaleonfire.net now! If you find this episode valuable, please please be sure to leave a rating and review! My Website: www.ashleyhann.com Instagram: @ashley.hann Twitter: @itsashleyhann YouTube: @ashleyhann

On this episode, we talked about: (3:50) Wanting something for myself (4:33) Healing stuff from the past (9:40) The higher you go, the most together you're supposed to be (13:43) Feeling like never enough (16:43) Coming back to our core values (20:05) Normalizing different experiences (20:32) Tapping into your creativity (21:55) We are just creative creatures (24:48) Exploring from a place of strength (26:08) Connecting with our soul (30:36) Keep showing up to do things "We live in a culture that wants you to be amazing in everything that you do or in one thing in particular" "The imposter syndrome gets even more slippery the more achievement you've been able to succeed with" "Artists are nothing if just not people who figure out problems and creative are just people who try to figure things out" About Alexandra: Alexandra Jamieson is a Brooklyn-based watercolorist whose paintings have earned acclaim for their blend of natural, astronomical, and urban elements. Having worked in watercolor since 2009, Alex's work has been featured in the Mona Niko Gallery in Mission Viejo, CA, the Kunstraum Gallery in NYC, and was awarded a Merit Award in the Art Room Gallery Open Show 2020. She creates commissioned “meditation portraits” for private clients around the world and coaches creative women leaders in tech sales. Alex is a third-generation artist, speaker, an executive coach for women, best-selling author, and podcast host of Her Rules Radio. She was the co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me. Her work as an author and documentarian has been featured in Oprah Magazine, Martha Stewart Living, Good Morning America, CNN, USA Today, and more. Connect with Alexandra: www.alexandrajamieson.com/art instagram.com/deliciousalex Let's Connect! Feminine Frequency Journey: 6-week course: https://amynatalieco.com/femininefrequencyjourney/ Download your FREE Guided Morning Ritual https://amynatalieco.com/morningritual/ Join The Empowered Feminine FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredfemininecommunity/ Find me on Instagram: @amynatalieco WEBSITE: www.amynatalieco.com

Are you a multi-talented, multi-passionate woman with a lot of interests and ideas? Are you like me--someone who refuses to niche down into one singular box? Maybe you’re an entrepreneur like me who can’t stand being told that you have to pick “one thing.” What about your personal boundaries? Do they help you maintain the productivity and creative output that you want? Do you have community support and inspiring people in your life who motivate you to take risks and do things differently? Whatever your answers are, I’m pretty confident that THIS is the podcast for you. Join us as we begin Season 6 with an overview of upcoming shows here on Her Rules Radio. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/256

Now THIS is one of those breath-of-fresh-air conversations that you will not only feel encouraged by, but get some answers as to why you still don't have that breakthrough you want. Introducing Lisa Fabrega. She is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.For more details, pop over to merilyn.com 

If you’re feeling like you’ve hit a plateau, keep self-sabotaging, or are trying strategy after strategy in your business without success–then this episode is for you.   Most strategists, experts, and business/career/leadership coaches are only barely scratching the surface when they talk about “mindset”, “strategies” or “blueprints”.   While all of those things are important–and yes, necessary–that’s not why you’ve tried “everything” and nothing is quite working as you want it to. That’s not why life or your business/career aren’t working anymore.   As ambitious women step into their next level, they inevitably hit a ‘capacity plateau’.   Because it’s not your strategy, it’s your CAPACITY set point. As you’ll learn today: without capacity, you’re never going to get to those next-level places and stages.   When you increase your capacity, you can hold, handle and receive more without burning out. You feel like YOU CAN HANDLE IT ALL–because you CAN!   My guest today, Lisa Fabrega, is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than 10 years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees, and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level.   Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact.   Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio, and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She’s also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News, and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.   What you’ll learn in this episode: What it means to expand your ‘capacity’ and how this is key to stop self-sabotaging your goals and dreams Why hitting a financial plateau is a good thing, and how to increase your ability to earn more The six types of hidden capacity plateaus and how they each hold us back How to start increasing your capacity to receive more   Subscribe and Review Thanks so much for joining me this week. If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review for The Success with Soul Podcast on Apple Podcasts so we can improve and better serve you in the future. Plus, you could be featured on a future episode during our listener spotlights. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated! They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them.   And finally, don’t forget to subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts to get automatic updates. My goal for this podcast is to inspire those who seek flexibility and freedom in their lives by making something happen with holistic, soulful, step-by-step strategies from me and other experts.   Links + Resources Mentioned in this Episode: If you’re tired of struggling away at your keyboard without any real income to show for all that blogging effort, I’ve created a brand new free masterclass just for you called 3 Behind-the-Scenes Secrets to Six-Figure Blogging, go here to sign up now for this free training! Brand spanking new to online business? I’ve got a free video series that I want to invite you to called How to Start your Blog from Scratch the Right Way. Watch it here! Radical Candor by Kim Scott Visit Lisa’s website here, and follow her on Instagram @lisafabrega Follow me on Instagram @katekordsmeier and @rootandrevel   More Ways to Enjoy Success with Soul Download a transcript of this episode Download on Apple Podcasts Email me new episodes Don’t forget to join our free Success With Soul Facebook community for follow-up conversations about the podcast episodes and where I also often go live to answer your burning questions. Hangout with like-minded bloggers and heart-centered online business owners exchanging priceless feedback, encouragement, and other golden insights from the trenches.   EPISODE CREDITS: Produced by Danny Ozment at https://katekordsmeier.com/pli

Lisa joins this episode and shares her distinct background, how she became a sought after leadership coach, defining capacity through financial, visibility, purpose, embodiment, structural, and boundary types, the 4 pillars of capacity in discernment, sovereignty, equanimity, and boundaries, how you can honestly engage these pillars for growth, leadership in business during the pandemic, and finally her two best practices you can implement in your life to be just a little better personally and professionally!ABOUT LISA - Lisa Fabrega is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.Connect with Lisa at www.lisafabrega.com and let her know you heard here right here on The Minding Your Business Podcast!Let's link up! www.linktr.ee/champron

What do you think you are capable of? What is your capacity to achieve more? Our guest today will help you find answers to those questions, and more, that are getting in the way of your success. Lisa Fabrega is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. In today's episode we talk about breaking through the limits we place on our own capacity such as understanding our limiting thoughts and behaviors, understanding how to accurately diagnose the problems affecting our capacity, and ultimately helping us to hold, handle and receive every next level of personal, and professional success. Lisa's signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie. Listen in! https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-fabrega-8a07bb7/ http://www.lisafabrega.com/ Lisa Fabrega (facebook.com) https://twitter.com/lisafabrega/ https://www.instagram.com/lisafabrega/ …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… Thank You to our February Sponsor! Tired of the time and expense to get a manicure or pedicure? Try Color Street today! Base, color, and top coats of high-quality liquid nail polish in each strip results in a brilliant, salon-quality manicure in just minutes. No dry time, smudges, or streaks, and your mani/pedi lasts up to 10 days. Color Street is 100% real nail polish, not stickers. Learn More: https://www.colorstreet.com/bhroberts/party/2095611  

While a lot of coaches may use the word “capacity,” nobody talks about capacity as profoundly as Lisa Fabrega. Lisa is a masterful leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth, and success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees, and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa Fabrega has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker and through podcast interviews including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio, and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman.  She’s also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. Lisa splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.  During my provocative conversation with Lisa Fabrega on expanding your capacity as a coach, we discussed: What “capacity” really means, and why it’s so important to coaches, speakers, and leaders who want to succeed, scale, and serve The 6 capacities female entrepreneurs want to strengthen to fully activate their power and prevent a business plateau Important do’s and don’ts to create capacity to engage in important, potentially triggering conversations with our communities Surprising signs of a scarcity mentality around money – even if you are a high earner – that are important to address Critical capacity reframes to make if you feel like you are constantly hustling – particularly for visibility opportunities Essential boundaries every entrepreneur needs to cultivate to ensure a consistently upward trajectory of business growth Resources Mentioned in This Episode Connect with Lisa Fabrega at https://lisafabrega.com/ and grab her “3 Questions You Must Answer to Realign – Yes, Even During This Crisis” Learn more about Lisa’s Capacity-centered individual and group coaching programs for women entrepreneurs Connect with Lisa on Instagram Please leave a review and subscribe to Moxielicious via Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, or Spotify, so you never miss an episode!

Alex Jamieson is the bestselling author of five books, and co-creator / co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me. She is a highly-sought-after success mentor and motivational guide for thousands and has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives. Her work has been praised by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and many others. She is the host of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast and an award-winning watercolor painter who has created commissioned works for clients around the world.  About Guest/Topic As a life-long learner, Alex Jamieson’s wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology. She reconnected with her desires to create art and a sustainable business that was authentically aligned with who she is -- publishing new books, selling paintings, and helping other women to mine their own lives for the gold that’s their “profitable purpose”. In today’s episode, Alex will talk about how to handle tough conversations, so everyone wins. In This Episode Learn how how to use Alex’s model to have empowering conversations where everyone wins  Discover how to overcome the feeling of being challenged and not end up avoiding tough conversations Understand the roles of being a speaker and a listener for better communication Quotes “I was three years old when my family was riddled with trauma and suicides, and we have lots of mental health issues.” [4:52] “In my early 30s, with a toddler in tow, I started to see how my inability to talk about tough topics had led to so much betrayal in my relationship, and, and I started to connect the dots backward, like, oh, this is a pattern.” [7:00] “We decided very early even as we were dating, we do not want to replicate the terrible relationship dynamics of the past.” [10:50] “It's such a huge difference to be able to really share all my fears and worries and know that he's not going to take it personally, even if it involves us.” [19:43] “I have tried to approach people with this conversation structure about really big important topics with people I've known for years, and they are immediately defensive.” [25:51] Resources Mentioned Alex Jamieson Website Radical Alignment Book The PBT Institute Website The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

There are many challenges to being a creative person. I’ve experienced many of those challenges, and we’ve discussed many of them here on the show. Today’s show will inspire us to make it through a crisis situation to thrive in your craft. In addition, we’ll be taking a sabbatical of sorts after today’s show, but Her Rules Radio will be back soon with more interesting guests and perspectives. Christine Dixon is an actress whom I met on Instagram. Since then, we’ve had many email and video conversations, and I knew that her story was one that my listeners needed to hear. Her experiences bring up many themes around the obstacles that creative thinkers face in putting their work and ideas out into the world. Chris has been performing her one-woman show, Harriet Tubman, for years. She has incredible stories about the challenges she’s overcome to deliver this performance. It’s a combination of education and entertainment that brings empowerment to each audience. Chris shares with us how she faced the fear of failure and rejection and learned to adapt to tough situations. She demonstrates how to think positively and proactively while reaching out for help when it’s needed. She shares how we can keep moving forward, so we live with no regrets. I hope you’re inspired to help support Chris and her amazing work. Her story is a beautiful ribbon as we wrap up the package that is this season of Her Rules Radio. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/255

“We are both in this radical honesty together where...we have a structure that's going to hold us as we evolve and change together and as individuals...I witnessed that many people don't feel safe to evolve and change and be themselves. So if you can't change with the people around you, I don't know that you are allowing yourself to change.” Alexandra Jamieson Today, I’m excited to speak with Alexandra Jamieson of Super Size Me fame. For two decades, Alexandra has worked professionally as a coach, driving creative women to build their visions for success. She is also an award-winning author, a podcast host, and an artist. She says she is on this earth to help others be rid of imposter syndrome and claim their worth (and wealth!). In today’s episode, we speak about effective communication, couples’ coaching, and meeting snacks. Listen in to find out how to hone your communication skills like a professional musician mastering their instrument and why a movement break is like MiracleGro for your brain.   Show Highlights [0:55]  Supersize Me & going viral for quitting veganism. [5:05] The tiny thing that makes couples communicate effectively. [14:51] Why effective communication is like playing an instrument. [18:10] How going to bed angry can actually benefit your relationship. [29:35] No more conference cookies. [34:52] The All-In Method. [37:56] Alexandra’s challenge for the listener. Links | Resources Alexandra on LinkedIn Radical Alignment: A book about difficult conversations Alexandra’s podcast, Her Rules Radio, on Stitcher About the Guest For 20 years, Alexandra has coached creators, founders, and leaders on the rise to use their strengths, values, intuition, and creative thinking to achieve success on their own terms. She loves championing women and their creative visions by helping them feel worthy of their desires, allowing them to begin bringing their visions to reality and transforming the world. Outside of her coaching work, Alexandra has hosted her #1 podcast Her Rules Radio for 6 years and written 5 best-selling books. You also may know her as co-producer and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me.   About Voltage Control Voltage Control is a facilitation agency that helps teams work better together with custom-designed meetings and workshops, both in-person and virtual. Our master facilitators offer trusted guidance and custom coaching to companies who want to transform ineffective meetings, reignite stalled projects, and cut through assumptions. Based in Austin, Voltage Control designs and leads public and private workshops that range from small meetings to large conference-style gatherings.  Share An Episode of Control The Room Apple Podcasts Spotify Android Stitcher Engage Control The Room Voltage Control on the Web Contact Voltage Control   Intro: Welcome to the Control the Room Podcast, a series devoted to the exploration of meeting culture and uncovering cures for the common meeting. Some meetings have tight control, and others are loose. To control the room means achieving outcomes while striking a balance between imposing and removing structure, asserting and distributing power, leaning in and leaning out, all in the service of having a truly magical meeting. Douglas: Today I’m with Alexandra Jamieson, coproducer and costar of Super Size Me. Today we're here to talk about her fifth book that's upcoming, will be released in August, called Radical Alignment. Welcome to the show, Alexandra. Alexandra: Thank you so much for having me. Douglas: So, for starters, I'd love to hear about how you got started in the work you do. Alexandra: It's been a long and tangled road to be an author and coach. I've been an author and a coach for over a decade—as you said, this is my fifth book—and I really started in the health-and-wellness world. And we were about the same age when you and I both discovered we had these massive health issues in our mid-20s and that food was the answer. So I dove deep. I'm a two-feet-in kind of person. I discovered food is healing, food is medicine. Went to culinary school, became a vegan chef, did catering, etc.. And right around that time, I met my now ex. But we made the movie Super Size Me together. He ate nothing but McDonald's for a month, for anybody who remembers that. He got really sick, and I put him on my vegan detox plan afterwards to, like, clean up his liver, his high cholesterol, all the stuff that happened to him so quickly from eating terrible fast food all the time. And I was also a budding health coach. I was working with people one on one to help them figure out their nutritional needs but also their emotional eating life. So it was a very interesting mix of coaching techniques that I was bringing to people. But after being vegan for a decade, I started to get really sick again. I was chronically anemic. I had all these health concerns, and I really tried everything in the vegan framework to fix it. But it turns out I am one of those people that has to eat things like chicken liver and organ meat. That's the only way my body can absorb iron. So I had this kind of infamous coming out as no longer vegan that went viral. You know, we all want our stuff to go viral, Doug, but this I really didn't want anybody to see it. I was like, I just have to be honest. I had written three vegan cookbooks at this point, so it was a bit of a shift, you could say. And it really blew up in, first, a very kind of over-the-top, extreme way, like people wishing me death, losing friends because I wasn't vegan anymore. And that also led to my fourth book called Women, Food, and Desire, which is this real examination of women's cravings and our relationship with our bodies. And around that time, I was now getting divorced from Super Size Me husband, and I met Bob, my new husband. I stepped it up, upgraded a little bit. And Bob came from this design and agile consulting, facilitation world, and I have been in the coaching world for just over 10 years at that point, and we began to realize as our relationship grew that we were talking about a lot of the same things. Even though I was doing kind of life coaching, health coaching, he was doing real, like, solid business design kind of consulting, it was like, we’re using a lot of the same tools to help people figure out what they want, what they need, what the challenges are, and move forward. So that's kind of the seed that led to this book that has some really powerful tools at the heart of it. Douglas: That's amazing. I echo that similar sentiment in my journey at Voltage Control, just as a facilitator, not wanting to just be too dogmatic or aligned with one specific discipline. And the more I sought out and the more I learned in all these different silos that there is quite a bit that's common, but there are some stuff that people were doing a little differently. And when you combine those things together, you can get these real awesome, emergent qualities that you wouldn’t have otherwise. So, I'm curious. Can you tell a story or is there a tool in particular that when you think about the fact that you came together, that the sum’s greater than the combining of the parts, per se. Alexandra: By the request of some of our friends, we actually led a couple of couples workshops. And I'll be honest. It was usually the women, like, dragging their boyfriends or husbands to come to these workshops. And we realized they were there for very different reasons. One person wanted one experience, and one person was there for a completely different reason. And so Bob had this kind of tool from his past life. I think he was also a newspaper design director. Anyway, he said, “You know what, we don’t need to get on the same page. We need to get into alignment.” And we started teaching this very simple conversation tool to put all the information out on the table. Why are you here? What do you want? What are you worried about? etc.. And after a couple of workshops, we realized, like nothing else from those workshops really took off, but this one simple conversation structure that we taught, people kept texting us and emailing us and saying, “What was that four-step thing that you took us through, again? because I have this other conversation that I need to have.” So over the course of the next two years, people kept bugging us for this thing. We're a little slow on the uptake. I’m like, “All right. Let's just put this in a Google Doc because then we can stop explaining it to everybody. We can just say ‘Here it is; here it is; here it is.’” But we kept getting these incredible stories from our friends who were using it, that it was helping them in their marriage, that it was helping them with negotiations at work, that they were using it like Bob was using it, teaching it in these high-level, CEO boardroom kind of situations. And then the CEO would say, “That was amazing. I'm taking that home to my husband, and we’re going to use that conversation at home.” So I  was like, “Oh, my goodness, this one little thing,” sometimes it's just this tiny thing that people keep asking for. We didn't even see how valuable it was. And that's the genesis of this whole project, this book. Douglas: So what are these four steps? You've got me very curious. Alexandra: So it's a really simple, guided conversation that helps two or more people get really clear and develop just a deeper understanding of or appreciation for each other. It really creates team psychological safety. And there's some very specific things about that in terms of how you run it, right? You're the facilitator guy, so you totally get it. There's some ground rules that you got to set up. You got to set the stage. And, you know, one thing is, I always tell people, first, never say to someone, “We need to talk.” That's the wrong way to introduce any kind of conversation. Douglas: That’ll ruin the rest of my day. All I can think about is, “What are we talking about? What things?” Alexandra: So, think about how you want to invite someone to a conversation or a meeting. Have a comfortable, distraction-free place. And believe me, we use this in business and in our personal lives, so we're very clear to make sure everybody is well rested. We do not do meetings at the end of the day. We just don't. Make sure you're fed. Make sure no one has had even one glass of alcohol. Those are three very basic things. Because we are human animals, our bodies are very much aligned with our brains. And if we're not fed, if we've had even a little booze, and if we're exhausted, we're not going to be present or clear. So think about those things before you get to an important conversation. And then, get clear about what the point is. “What are we talking about and why?” And just, we're very specific. “Okay, we're going to talk about project x so we can become a great team, or we're discussing our summer vacation so that we can both have a wonderful time.” That level of clarity. And then, you go into the conversation. A minute ago I said team psychological safety, and one of the things that we’ve learned in all of our practice and all of our research is that there is a real inequality of power in most rooms. There’s somebody who's got the power, and there's somebody—and there's extroverts and introverts. So we actually request that you time everyone, that everybody gets two or four minutes per share so that it is very equal. And some people have—it's funny. In Bob and my relationship, he's an incredible verbal processor. He talks it out and gets clear. And I actually need to sit and be quiet for up to 15 seconds sometimes to know what I'm going to say. But when you have a timer and no one else is speaking, there's no crosstalk. It’s like, “Okay, I’ve got this space where I can just relax and think about what it is that I need to say.” So give each person the same amount of time. That is true equality. And then, you go into the four-part conversation. So that's all the set up. And you each share your intentions, concerns, boundaries, and dreams. And you can think of intentions of, why do you want to be a part of this project? Why can this project support your personal values or your goals? What led you to get involved in this? So what are your intentions in being a part of this? And it can be super simple, like, “I want to have fun. I want to learn something, and I want to make money.” And again, you all go around; you all share the same amount of time. And then you go into your concerns. And this is where we encourage you to start being very vulnerable in the spirit of, let's really try to discover who we are. And luckily, the human brain is incredibly good at coming up with fears and worries and concerns. In fact, it's probably the best thing that our brains are good at. And let’s tap into it. Let’s tap into that negativity bias that we have. Because actually, when you say your worries and concerns out loud in a safe space, and let's really set up these conversations like, “I want to know what you really think. You're not going to get penalized for this. Let's not take anything personally in this room,” when you say it out loud, your brain hears it, and it actually has the effect of calming down your amygdala. Your nervous system can chill out a bit. And that way you can actually get clear and calm, which leads to better decision making by the end of it. Douglas: Well, there's a lot there to unpack. Not only the setting—the one big one is setting the initial conditions. You know, you talked a lot about being well fed, no alcohol, a comfortable space. The invitation, I think, is so critical. And I love that you use that word. Liberating Structures talks a lot about crafting a really good invitation. I think there's some real beauty in that word because it's not that we're telling you what to do. We're inviting you in. It's very open. And also, I love this notion of starting with gratitude and appreciation. Kudos for that because there's some really great design elements at play in that activity. And when you think about the components that kind of came into this, how did you end up developing that? What did you draw inspiration from? Was it just like you just sat down and it just kind of came to you, or was there a process to kind of develop it and refine it? Alexandra: So Bob and I have been through so many trainings and coaching programs over the years, before we even came together as a couple. When we started teaching these couples workshops, there was the seed of it. It was like, “Okay, why are we here, and what challenges could we have in getting to what you want?” Those kind of—I mean, those seem like pretty basic questions. But it took some time using it and then teaching it in other settings and boardrooms and with my clients, etc., that we’re like, “Oh, it needs to be this order: intentions, concerns, boundaries, and dreams.” It took a little time to figure out kind of the magical recipe. Like, you don't want to add the salt at the end of a recipe. It’s got to go in at the beginning so that it can spread throughout. So it really became clear through doing it what the order needed to be. Douglas: I love that you say that, because we're big believers that facilitation requires practice and you have to develop those skills and you have to get comfortable, and a lot of it has to do with confidence. And, you know, it's similar to a musician that’s improving, right? You had to get so comfortable with your instrument that you can perform in a very rigid style. Then you're able to, then, let go and kind of flow with the moment and find what lands. Can you tell any stories about some of the formulas that you tried that just didn't work out and why, and what the lessons to learn from that would be? Alexandra: Actually, I want to go back to what you just said about playing an instrument. We really describe this four-part structure, we’re like, this is playing scales. You know, every great musician still practices their scales. You go dah, dah, dah, dah, right? We do one, two, three, four. And then, eventually, you can improvise. We're now so practiced with it, we'll just—let's say we had a conversation two weeks ago about visiting the in-laws, and now one of us comes up with, “Oh, you know what, I have a new boundary.” We can just, like, drop into that conversation at point C instead of point A again. So we have this shared vocabulary where we're kind of always in the conversation about different topics. And that's just— What's really, really helpful—I'll tell you what my life was like before I learned how to have tough conversations using this structure was I just didn't have tough conversations. I just avoided hard topics. This has given me a sense of—like you said, you have to become confident as a facilitator—I just become confident. Okay, I have four buckets to put all my thoughts and feelings in. And now I know that the science to a good conversation is coming back to the topic, not letting it get off and create—I think that's one of the reasons why I avoided emotional or high-stakes conversations, because I thought I'm going to have to prove everything I believe is right and have logical arguments for everything, and somebody is going to win, and somebody's going to lose. With this structure, it's like, no, we're just in information-gathering zone. And we develop empathy for each other through it, which is so important. That's like the sweet spot of alignment. Douglas: Yeah. That’s amazing. I was thinking a bit about this notion of being afraid to have some of those conversations, and maybe it's not like people might hear that and think, “Oh, I'm daunted by all this fear,” but sometimes it's just subconscious, right? Sometimes we don't even entertain the thought, because our brains are protecting us from that thing that we're deeply fearful of or just avoiding. And I recently saw some really awesome facilitation guides. It was a guide, but it contained some prompts. And it was written by DiAngelo, who is the author of White Fragility, and these prompts were for basically starting conversations that are hard to start. And she called them silence breakers. And as you talked about being more equipped to have these conversations now, it got me really excited. It reminded me of this notion of silence breakers. And I think it's really important and it's amazing to hear that your work is headed in that same direction. So as folks start to think about being able to open up in this way or what that experience is like, what should they consider or how should they—what are some things that they need to keep in mind? Alexandra: I’m so glad you asked that. So we covered intentions and concerns, the first two steps. The third one is boundaries. And that is a very challenging topic for people to come up with answers for. What are my boundaries? And it's not like ordering off a menu, where I’m going to say something and it's a demand of, this is what you're going to do for me or this is what I must have. Think of it like, what are the things I need, the conditions that help me show up to be my best? What are the way—think of them as starter boundaries, right? Take the pressure off of things to be perfect. Think of it as, what do you need to be your personal best? What will help keep us from reaching burn out? What rules or standards help us work together best? One of the things we discovered, and I cannot believe it took me until my 40s to realize this, but do not start an important conversation at bedtime. Don’t. Just don’t. It's okay to go to bed angry or unclear, truly. That has been a game changer in my marriage. And I've seen it happen in the workplace, too. People are like, “We have to figure this out today. We're staying until it's done.” Actually, everybody's exhausted, and nobody is going to show up and be their best right now, so it's okay for us to take a break and for us to honor the exhaustion that's present. Douglas: Yeah, I love this notion of boundaries. I'm a big fan of compartmentalization, so what is the right way to—like, where do we put this thought, and what's important right now in this moment? And if we can constrain things and really just kind of neatly package them up, then we can better be in service of the work that we're doing. Maybe we need to put some things aside. Maybe some things are off limits. That's really, really awesome. The thing that I'm curious about is, just to get your reaction to this idea of honoring yourself, and authentic relating, they have this notion—well, this ground rule—of honoring yourself. So if someone asks something of you, because this is very deeply relating kind of work that they're doing, and so someone could ask you a very personal question because we're trying to build connection, and so there's this notion of, if you don't feel comfortable, then just pass. And so only contribute at the level that you feel comfortable contributing. I think there's some beauty in that. And it's similar to this being gracious with each other. Alexandra: Well, there’s two things that you're reminding me of that I think are so important. Generally, in the room, if there is a designated leader in a work situation, that might be more obvious, right? Like, the team leader or the C-suite-level person. But in our relationship, perhaps the leader could be considered the person who's bringing this topic up. So they're leading the initial situation. That person, we realized, they need to be the most brave. They need to be the most courageous and the most vulnerable. They need to set the tone for, like, “I am going to be super vulnerable here. I'm really going to share my heart and my truth here,” so that everybody else is like, “Oh, wow. Okay. This person has been really vulnerable. I'm going to maybe go an inch further in sharing my truth now.” So that's one aspect. But the other one is we really encourage—and this is something I do personally all the time—I go through these four steps by myself, and I write out my thoughts. And we will often—I've definitely coached my clients to do this. We've even done it as a couple, even though we've used this hundreds of times now. We will, like, “Okay, you know what, tomorrow we're going to talk about this topic,” to give ourselves some time to think about our intentions, concerns, boundaries, and dreams, before we meet so that we just have some time to gather our thoughts and maybe be more coherent in how we express ourselves. And that is very compassionate and very thoughtful, because not everyone is a verbal processor. Some people need to write it out or take a walk and think about it first. Why not give people a little more time if you're able to? Douglas: Absolutely. And we often think about multisensory experiences because there's kind of a myth that some people are visual learners and some people are auditory learners. The fact of the matter is we all learn through many different forms, and in any given moment, we may be more attuned to a different style, and we kind of need it all. And so if we as workshop facilitators and designers want the best out of our participants, we need to consider those things. So I think that's really fantastic. And we've even been asking people to do that silent solo work as part of the workshop, because, frankly, people are jam-packed schedules and are super busy, so the pre-work rarely gets done. So to be in service of those people, like you say, that are slower or need more reflection time, just bake it in. And the people that don't need it, well, they'll be fine. Alexandra: Yeah. You can doodle— Douglas: Yes, exactly. Alexandra: —while the rest of us write. Douglas: That’s right. So I wanted to come back to this comment you made about being authentic. And I think it might have been in the preshow chatter. But when you brought it up, it was around this notion of, you had this strong pull to be true to the brand you've built and true to this identity that was out in the world, and being authentic to your body, to your DNA, to your cellular—like, everything that was physical about your situation was screaming that you needed to behave in a certain way. If you were going to be authentic to that, you had to leave some other stuff behind. In fact, potentially friends and it could have had an impact on livelihood. And that must've been a really challenging moment. And if I really compare it to some of the challenges other people face, it trivializes some of these situations people find themselves in, yet they can't be authentic. And I think it's just may be a beacon to those that are in meetings and not being authentic, because the best way to get to where you want to go and to build strong teams is to be authentic. Sure, you can be a role model in the work that you've already done. But are there any tactics or things people can think about as to how they can really tap into what it means to be authentic for them? Alexandra: And I can't understress how—and this is true for me and my life. You know, I am myself, and you may have a very different, unique experience. But when I feel I am living inauthentically, I am just incapable of being happy. You know, there was a year and a half where I was hiding that I was eating meat. My business was suffering. My energy was suffering. Everything about my life felt frustrating. And I would rather blow up my life by being really honest, and not honest in a way like, I’m going to tell you what I really think about you. No. Me being honest to myself. I would rather have to deal with the repercussions of that. But I tell you how I've been able to—I mean, since I met Bob and since we've been using this format of communication, I feel so incredibly safe and held because we are both in this radical honesty together where it's very clear, like, we're allowed to evolve and change, and we have a structure that's going to hold us as we evolve and change together and as individuals. I didn't have that in my first marriage, and I witnessed that many people don't feel safe to evolve and change and be themselves. So if you can't change with the people around you, I don't know that you are allowing yourself to change. Douglas: Yeah. That's interesting because I think that applies deeply inside teams, too, especially as we find ourselves in more and more complex situations. We're not in the days of the factory, where things are repeatable and the same widgets coming down the assembly line every day, one day after the other, or we can just follow a recipe. And so the change itself is changing, and teams have to be able to adapt. And I think the willingness to reinvent the team and be different tomorrow than we were yesterday is really important. Alexandra: And the last step of the four-part conversation is probably the most important, and it definitely needs to happen at the end, which is you share your dreams. And this is very specific. If this goes incredibly well, what will be true for you as an individual, for us as a team, for the people impacted around us? How will you feel? What will have shifted? You really get into best-case scenario, imagination land, and you start to feel the oxytocin flowing, the connection. And when I hear from you what your dreams are, and I really feel you connected to that, it's almost impossible for me to not want that for you, too. And it really, even if there are concerns and boundaries which seem to be in conflict, and you know that you've got some figuring out to do after this conversation, the dreams brings you all back together. Okay, how can we work together to make this work? It's a really foundational. Douglas: I'm going to switch gears a little bit, though. Food's been a pretty core part of your life, and it's hard to do work and it's hard to meet as a team without eating, without having food. And when we met in person, when we had workshops in real life, we had to think about, what's for lunch, and what's the catering, what are we going to order? And that's not as much of a concern anymore. In fact, I've seen some jokes around the Internet. I think it was a lady. Her husband was attending a virtual conference. And so she prepared a bunch of horrible food for his virtual-conference experience. So like, soggy wraps. Yeah, exactly. Dry chicken, soggy wraps. Alexandra: Really bad chicken. Douglas: Had some pudding in a little cocktail dish. But all joking aside, what is your recommendation, as a health coach, for teams that are wanting to think about, what is a great workshop diet? What should they be thinking about eating when they're wanting to concentrate more, to work together, stay focused? Alexandra: I'm so glad you brought this up. This is one of my favorite things to talk about. No conference cookies. Just keep the sugar out of it. Seriously. It does not help in the long run. Everybody crashes. Fruit, for sure. Have some of those natural sugars. Have some in-season, good-quality fruits. Variety of things. People do need a little bit sugar. But if you eat two cookies, half an hour, hour from now, you're worthless. Douglas: As a diabetic, I've had to dive into a lot of this stuff. And the thing that really clicked for me, it's okay if you have a little sugar. It's okay if you have some fat. But when you mix fat and sugar, that's doing a major whammy on you. And I think that's where desserts really kill us. And it’s like if you're eating fruit, it's literally no fat and it has fiber, which is good. It's going to slow down absorption. But man, the fat actually hijacks your system, and you absorb the sugar slower, but it really hits you harder on the end because your body can't pull it down as fast because it really stays with you a lot longer and just, I mean, it really does a number on you. And that's where the cookies are different than the fruit. Alexandra: Yeah. So I recommend, get the sodas out of the room. Have iced tea. Caffeine, I think, is the drug that we all got to keep in the room, in some form, but have it be unsweetened stuff if at all possible. And have high-protein stuff. Have good-quality meats and veggies. Keep the sugar as much out of the room as possible. And the other side of it is it's not just about the food that we eat. You've got to include movement breaks regularly. Do not make people sit for an hour, even. Do some kind of, “All right, everybody’s going to stand up, and we're going to stretch at the 30-minute mark.” It releases BDNF in the brain, brain-derived neurotrophic factor. It's like Miracle-Gro for your brain. It really gets you back up. Do a little bit of breathing exercises. That's as important as what you eat. Douglas: Yeah. I love that. We love the stretch-and-share fun activity, and especially in the virtual space, because cadence and turn taking can be strange and foreign, and you can't just go around the circle. So, yeah. Getting out of the chair. And as a facilitator, I think it's really important to really model that behavior and encourage it, and make sure that people know that, man, this is serious stuff, Zoom fatigue and other things. It's not only the—you talked about the benefits of getting the movement so that it's improving our thinking and that we're coming with better ideas. But there's actually a negative consequence of not doing some of this stuff, making sure people don't just use the breaks as an opportunity to say, “I’ll tab over their email and just start doing more text stuff.” Excellent. Alexandra: Yeah. Douglas: I want to talk a little bit about differentiated learning and just to hear a little bit about the work that you're doing around supporting folks that might have different needs. And so when you're working through some of this alignment stuff, do you ever run into situations where maybe someone's struggling with concerns or boundaries? And how do you help those individuals that just maybe need a little something different than the rest of the group? Alexandra: That's a really great question. And I can actually bring an example from my 13-year-old son. He has dyslexia and ADHD. So he thinks differently than I do. His brain just works differently. And I find that breaking it up into actually two or three versions of the same conversation over the space of a couple days. Like, I pre-set the scene, day one. “Hey, we need to talk about,” like we just did today, “We need to talk about going back to school in the fall because we don't know what schools are going to look like here in New York City. There's all kinds of ideas, and nobody knows what's up. And we know there's a couple of options on the table. So here's what I know so far. Do you have any concerns or questions about that before we talk about it in a couple of days with your dad? Just to drop it in there and ask him the open-ended questions so that in the background it's running. His brain can be prepared to think about it in a day or two. Douglas: I love that. I always talk about the best workshop homework is where they don't really have to do anything, but they’re doing it. Alexandra: Yeah. Douglas: Right? Because if it's just enough to plant the seed in their subconscious, they're going to be able to participate more deeply when the time comes, versus giving them a bunch of busy work or having them go do things that require present, hands-on stuff, which no one does. Alexandra: Yeah, yeah. I've learned so much from being his mom and helping him learn to think and me understanding how he thinks. And I've been working with women as a success-in-life coach for over 10 years, and 10 years as a health coach before that. And I just realized that different people need different versions of the same question. Actually, in the book Radical Alignment, we give dozens of options for different scenarios. We talk about how people have used the, we call it, the all-in method. Those four steps are the all-in method. People have used it to plan their weddings, like, huge multi-continent weddings, and they planned with this. But people also use it for their design teams, and they use it in H.R., and they use it at home. So through the book, there's just dozens of ways to ask the same question, depending on your circumstances. So be willing to be flexible and curious. What’s another way I could ask this? Douglas: Wow. I love this notion of, what is another way I could ask this? And I think the hallmark of a great listener, a great conversation, is fantastic questions. So what are some of your favorite questions? Alexandra: I actually really love the dreams questions. What are you doing, and what would be the most amazing outcome for this? I don't think we often get the opportunity to really dream big and share it out loud in a way where we're not going to get shot down. So like, the “Oh, you, Pollyanna,” or “You're crazy.” I'm also an artist. I come from a family of artists. It's kind of a miracle that any of us became artists, considering this culture we live in that is so down on artists. Like, “Oh, you better have a backup plan,” or “You're going to be a starving artist.” You know, those ideas just get woven into the culture. So I love the invitation. Just say, like, “What would you like for Radical Alignment to happen when it publishes?” I’m like, “I would love it to be a New York Times’ bestseller. I want this in every middle school in America. I want every eighth grader learning how to have tough conversations in a way where they feel capable.” Like, that is my dream. That’s absolutely my dream. Douglas: That's phenomenal. So good. And let's talk a little bit about—one of my favorite questions is, if you can make meetings better, any average meeting—because as you know, I'm on a mission to rid the world of horrible meetings— Alexandra: God bless you. Douglas: —if you were to do one thing or just change one thing about meetings, what would it be? Alexandra: For people to feel really safe to be themselves. I think people are dying for an opportunity to really be safe, to be themselves, and be accepted. I mean, that's the bottom line. Douglas: So I'd love to end with a message to the listener. So if there is anything that you’d want to leave them with, what might it be? Alexandra: I want to invite you to try to bring structure to your conversat—I know I sound a little over the top, but this has truly changed so much about my life. It has changed decades-old family dysfunction, and it has changed my work and how successful my business is. Bring this structure to try it. Try this four-part conversation. Try it a few times. It has absolutely changed my life, my friends’ lives. The woman who wrote the foreword, she will inspire the heck out of you. An entrepreneur, who is a mom of five, she's, like, “This saved my marriage.” I’m like, that’s a great testimonial for this book. Bring a little structure to your conversations, a little bit more professional structure to your intimate conversations, and a little bit more vulnerable intimacy to your professional conversations. Douglas: It's been a pleasure chatting with you today and hearing about your approach and your structure. I'm a huge fan of structure, and this falls right in with the work we do and what I love to talk about. So it was a tremendous pleasure chatting with you today. And one last piece of housecleaning. How can folks find you? How can they get the book? I know it's not quite out yet. Give us a little bit to go on. Alexandra: We would love people to go preorder the book, actually. You can go to radicalalignmentbook.com. Listen, if you buy one or a couple copies and you just give us your little order number on the website, you get a free workshop with us. If you get 10 or more copies of the book, you get an eight-week training with me and my husband. So go to radicalalignmentbook.com, order the books there from wherever you love to get books. We are going to help you use this in your life and in your business beautifully. Douglas: Excellent. And amazon.com, other suppliers as well. Alexandra: Amazon, Kindle, Audible, your local independent bookstore, you can order it all through radicalalignmentbook.com. Douglas: Radicalalignmentbook.com. So incredible. And I wish you the best of luck. I hope you do make the New York Times’ bestseller list. And again, it was a real pleasure to have you on the show. Alexandra: Thank you. Outro: Thanks for joining me for another episode of Control the Room. Don't forget to subscribe to receive updates when new episodes are released. If you want more, head over to our blog, where I post weekly articles and resources about working bett

So excited to introduce to you my dear friend Alex Jamieson, who shares with us some insightful wisdom on how to find success navigating the difficult conversations in our lives. Alexandra Jamieson is the bestselling author of five books, including her new award-winning book Radical Alignment and co-creator / co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me. She is a highly-sought-after creative and success mentor and motivational guide.  Her work has been praised by Oprah, The Today Show, The New York Times, CNN, Elle and more.  She is the host of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast and an award-winning watercolor painter who has created commissioned works for clients around the world. In this 35th Radiant Mix episode, you get a glimpse into our friendship, actionable tips on how to be an effective communicator, and how we strive to come together, heal and thrive in this world.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Learn specifics about the “All In Method” of communication to offer you clarity and guidelines on how to handle tough conversations within your professional and personal life Alex’s experiences with navigating white fragility, talking about race, and the importance of putting in the effort to learn about anti-racism. The art of setting boundaries and listening to your body The power of using your voice…and dealing with losing friends along the way in order to stand by your truth and values. How to recognize spiritual bypassing Dreaming big and how to co-create the life you desire    LINKS:  Radical Alignment Book Alexandra Jamieson Alex’s Instagram @RadiantMix @Hope.McGrath  

In this episode, Kc talks with Lisa Fabrega. Lisa Fabrega is a leadership coach who helps ambitious women expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.Kc and Lisa DiscussSelf-Imposed Limiting BeliefsKc and Lisa discuss how our background and surroundings can influence our belief system and ways to recognize and dissolve limiting beliefs. The Capacity Code: Six Areas of CapacityListen as Lisa walks through a capacity assessment and covers the six key areas, from money to visibility, and where you can start to focus in order to expand. Where does Lisa believe we need the most help? Boundaries. Find out how to set boundaries, why they are important, and how to help your clients accept and respect them.How To Incorporate Spirituality And Why You Need to Slow DownLisa believes spirituality allows you to infuse your concrete actions, goals, and plans into your work with the understanding that there is a process for everything and that we are not always in control - and why that's not always a bad thing.How Lisa Values Inclusivity and DiversityLisa believes in the importance of inclusion and diversity in her business and the world. She talks about how she has been fighting for these issues for years, why she spells womxn with an "x", and the need to have the capacity to have the hard conversations.

Lisa Fabrega is a leadership coach who helps ambitious people expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.   If you're an entrepreneur or someone who wants to make an impact in the world, be it in your business, with your children or in your community...listen up! My interview with Lisa was incredibly eye opening as she discussed the common misconception and trap we all fall into. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck or at a plateau, Lisa is here to share that this has nothing to do with finding a better strategy or plan. In fact, it's all about your capacity. Lisa learned this the hard way when she maxed out in her own capacity and started losing track of her own inner guidance and pushed herself beyond the breaking point. As a result, she suffered from adrenal fatigue, exhaustion, anxiety, and feeling depleted spiritually, emotionally and physically. What felt like a hellish year with no end, ended up being her greatest gift. Lisa learned how to build capacity to create the business and life to match her highest potential. She now teaches these principles with thousands of individuals around the globe.    Here's a behind the curtain explanation of Capacity and the 6 types. First off, Lisa defines capacity as "The ability to hold, handle and receive your next level of work, wealth and health." In order to do this you must change how you see yourself and ask yourself, 'Who do I want to be and become'? The 6 Types of Capacities are as follows: Financial Capacity: The ability to earn, save and invest more money every year. Visibility Capacity: To be fully seen, especially the parts of you that want to hide. Purpose Capacity: Having your inside match your outside and living your purpose. Embodiment Capacity: This is all about emotional capacity and handling emotions and issues as you grow. Structural Capacity: This is the foundation, the support and scaffolding of your empire and home. Do you have teams support your next level? Boundaries Capacity: This is about what we say 'yes' and 'no' to, or how we make specific requests of the Universe around what we're available or not available to do.   The 4 Pillars of Capacity are: 1. Discernment 2. Sovereignty 3. Equanimity and 4. Boundaries    Lisa talked about the necessity of experiencing friction when upleveling to a new capacity, as you are learning what it feels like to be that person you dream of. Growth comes from going into the unknown and taking baby steps.    To learn more about Capacity, and get Lisa's free videos, go to LisaFabrega.com Connect with Lisa Fabrega WEBSITE: https://lisafabrega.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/LisaFabrega/ TWITTER:  https://twitter.com/lisafabrega LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-fabrega INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lisafabrega/   Enjoying the show? For iTunes listeners, get automatic downloads and share the love by subscribing, rating & reviewing here!   *Share what you are struggling with or looking to transform with Julie at podcast@juliereisler.com. Julie would love to start covering topics of highest interest to YOU. Please also let us know if you are interested to be a guest on her show to discuss where you are stuck, and do live coaching with Julie on her podcast.   Join host Julie Reisler, author and multi-time TEDx speaker, each week to learn how you can tap into your best self and become your You-est You® to achieve inner peace, happiness and success at a deeper level! Tune in to hear powerful, inspirational stories and expert insights from entrepreneurs, industry thought leaders, and extraordinary human beings that will help to transform your life. Julie also shares a-ha moments that have shaped her life and career, and discusses key concepts from her book Get a PhD in YOU Here's to your being your you-est you!    You-est You Links: Subscribe to the Podcast  Learn more at JulieReisler.com Become a Sacred Member at The School of Sacredology Join The You-est You® Community for Soul Seekers on Facebook Book Julie as a speaker at your upcoming event Amazon #1 Best selling book Get a PhD in YOU Download free guided-meditations from Insight Timer Julie's Hungry For More Online Program (10 Module Interactive Course)

Need to have a talk about a tough topic? This show is for you! Welcome back to Her Rules Radio where you come to learn how to live life by your own rules! Today’s show is brought to you by my new book, co-authored with my incredible husband Bob Gower, Radical Alignment, how to have game-changing conversations that will change your business and your life!   SOOO excited to be back here with you, talking again - I took a little summer break and now we are basically back here in Season 6 (yes, coming up on our 6th anniversary of this show!)...   If you’re listening for the first time, or the first time in a long time, I grew up in a radio station - my mom had her own organic gardening radio show for 10 years, and every once in a while I would go on the show and do a “children’s gardening” episode with her! My older brother brendan was her sound engineer, so it was a family affair!   Even though we were a creative, often collaborative family, there’s one thing I didn’t really learn growing up with my fam:   How to have tough, emotional, or high-stakes conversations that felt safe, where everyone could be bravely vulnerable.   It’s part of why Bob and I finally wrote this book - RAdical Alignment.   You know those skills you wish you'd mastered earlier in life? ME too.   I didn't learn how to gracefully talk about emotional topics until well into adulthood. Important conversations would veer wildly from where we started, and it felt so dangerous.   Maybe you grew up in a family where any past mistake could be brought up again. Maybe you didn't have space to talk. Maybe one person would dominate conversations so you felt like "what's the point?"   Emotional conversations were hard for me until my late 30s because I always felt I had to argue my points and “win” - and that never felt right to me. I would show up to conversations with people I cared about, friends or family or even business colleagues, and I would feel like I was trying to be fair and generous, and maybe the other person was out for blood! The heart of our book Radical Alignment is The All In Method, which helps each person commit to sharing their intentions, concerns, boundaries and dreams about a topic. It’s not about arguing points, or “winning” - it’s a format to collect information so you don’t avoid talking about really valuable emotional stuff that sits underneath all important things. YES - emotions matter and they’re always present! I grew up thinking emotions were bad, or invalid or even unfair to bring into conversations. But we are all human! EVERYONE has emotions. So our AIM helps you share them in a respectful, safe way where people are able to listen to each other better than ever before. Another thing that kept me from bringing up tough topics? Things going off the rails! Has this ever happened to you? You start talking about one tough topic, and the other person brings up something completely different that happened in the past, and now you’re arguing about something completely different.  In our book Radical Alignment we show you how to set up a conversation with another person or people so that you all agree in the beginning on the topic, so you can come back to it if things feel like they’re getting off course. It's such a relief!  I like to think of it as a linear process for emotional topics. When you have a shared map - ok, everyone we are agreeing at the start to share our intentions, then our concerns, then our boundaries, and then our dreams, and everyone gets the same amount of time, and no one will talk over each other - we are just hear to listen to each other … With THAT roadmap? Totally new outcomes are possible.  One of the tough conversations we are in as a family, and that’s me and my husband, my son, and his dad and step-mom, is what is life going to look like in September.    My son is getting ready to go into high school here in New York City, although at the point I’m recording the show, I don’t know if he’ll be going to school or starting the year from his bedroom. This is a tough choice and many families are feeling really upended because we don’t know what to do, or what’s coming.    So we are using our AIM to help us have conversations about the decisions that need to be made as an extended family. We use AIM to help us understand each other’s needs, worries, and to actually build empathy with each other - which in blended families with competing needs and fears isn’t always easy.   This is a way to have a shared vocabulary, a shared commitment to how we will communicate that is respectful, fair, and productive. It helps us stay grounded. And it helps us make space for our son to share his thoughts and feelings, and because we’ve been using it with him for a while, since he was 7 or so, he feels comfortable talking about tough topics with us -    WHICH feels so huge to me.   A few weeks ago at the dinner table, he said, out of nowhere, “I’m really glad I’m being raised learning to care about other people’s feelings.”   I don’t know about you, but this feels like a huge parenting WIN!   SO: I offer you a challenge: to invite someone in your life to have a tough conversation in the next 48 hours.   Invite them with openness and kindness: don’t say “WE NEED TO TALK.”   No one likes to hear that.   How to invite someone to a tough conversation   Be specific but not rigid.  Be inviting, and be clear about the topic. See what happens!   Personally I’ve had a BIG breakthrough with some family members recently about topics I’ve been avoiding for decades… the conversation is ongoing but we are off to a clear, caring start.   I would love to hear from you how this goes!  Pre-order Radical Alignment and get your bonuses here! https://radicalalignmentbook.com/

Bob has worked with leaders at organizations from multinationals like Chanel, Ericsson, Ford, and GE to non-profits like New York Public Radio, the Studio Museum in Harlem, the Center for Responsive Politics, and the Wikimedia Foundation, as well as innovative technology companies like Spotify and numerous startups. Since 2001, Alex has worked professionally as a coach to creators, founders, and leaders on the rise to take aligned action using their strengths, values, intuition, and creative thinking to achieve success on their own terms. In her five best-selling books, award-winning podcast Her Rules Radio, and weekly writing, I explore success energetics, positive psychology, embodied leadership, entrepreneurship, and personal growth strategies so that my readers and clients can bring their unique voice and work into the world. https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobgower/

Sophia is joined this week by the epic Alexandra Jamieson who you may recognize from her prominent role in the Oscar™-nominated documentary Super Size Me, her bestselling books Women, Food, and Desire and Getting to Hell Yes, her podcast Her Rules Radio, or any of her many other incredible offerings to this world. It's a real honor and pleasure to listen in on this conversation that is both intimate and inviting. These two are fearless as they navigate some deeply painful experiences together with grace and gentleness. This episode covers a lot of ground, including: Inner-child-healing with a physical doll to represent the kind of tenderness that kind of self-care requires. Growing up with mentally ill, addict parents, other suicidal relatives and the path to healing from that and the ways that can affect you as an adult.  Sleep, dreaming, insomnia, herbal sleep aids, and the different kinds of dreams they can induce. They talk about how artists are the shepherds that guide us through difficult times like the ones we find ourselves in now. You can follow Alex on instagram @deliciousalex You can find more of Alex's work as well as art and resources at her https://alexandrajamieson.com/ (website) which has links to buy her https://alexandrajamieson.com/book/ (books) and to her podcast, https://alexandrajamieson.com/blog/radio/ (Her Rules Radio) The Fire Woman Retreat starts THIS THURSDAY! 5/14/2020 you can still register to join this incredible immersive workshop weekend and connect with your passion in a whole new way. Use this link to register and don't forget, there will be a free opening ceremony on Thursday 5/14 2-4 pm PT/5-7 pm EST Registration link: https://bit.ly/3dg07S5 For more resources for finding calm in these stressful times and to never miss another live recording you can follow Sophia on https://www.facebook.com/sophiawiseone (Facebook) by searching Sophia Wise One or on https://www.instagram.com/sophiawiseone (Instagram) @Sophia Wise One Join the Temple by becoming a patron at patreon.com/sophiawiseone.com As always you can go to http://www.sophiawiseone.com/ (SophiaWiseOne.com) for more information about the show, https://www.sophiawiseone.com/category/spider-queen-reports/ (Reports from the Spider Queen), to https://www.sophiawiseone.com/i-love-my-life-academy/ (preorder) the I Love My Life Card Game and Oracle Deck, to join Sophia's https://www.sophiawiseone.com/updates/ (email list), and so much more! “I am Sophia Wise One: Daughter of the Wind. I am calling you to Rise Up, Rise Up, Rise Up. Rise up and take your place.” This content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

Sophia is joined this week by the epic Alexandra Jamieson who you may recognize from her prominent role in the Oscar™-nominated documentary Super Size Me, her bestselling books Women, Food, and Desire and Getting to Hell Yes, her podcast Her Rules Radio, or any of her many other incredible offerings to this world. It’s a real honor and pleasure to listen in on this conversation that is both intimate and inviting. These two are fearless as they navigate some deeply painful experiences together with grace and gentleness. This episode covers a lot of ground, including: Inner-child-healing with a physical doll to represent the kind of tenderness that kind of self-care requires. Growing up with mentally ill, addict parents, other suicidal relatives and the path to healing from that and the ways that can affect you as an adult.  Sleep, dreaming, insomnia, herbal sleep aids, and the different kinds of dreams they can induce. They talk about how artists are the shepherds that guide us through difficult times like the ones we find ourselves in now. You can follow Alex on instagram @deliciousalex You can find more of Alex's work as well as art and resources at her Her Rules Radio (https://alexandrajamieson.com/blog/radio/) The Fire Woman Retreat starts THIS THURSDAY! 5/14/2020 you can still register to join this incredible immersive workshop weekend and connect with your passion in a whole new way. Use this link to register and don't forget, there will be a free opening ceremony on Thursday 5/14 2-4 pm PT/5-7 pm EST Registration link: https://bit.ly/3dg07S5 For more resources for finding calm in these stressful times and to never miss another live recording you can follow Sophia on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/sophiawiseone) @Sophia Wise One As always you can go to email list (https://www.sophiawiseone.com/updates/) , and so much more! “I am Sophia Wise One: Daughter of the Wind. I am calling you to Rise Up, Rise Up, Rise Up. Rise up and take your place.” This content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

Sophia is joined this week by the epic Alexandra Jamieson who you may recognize from her prominent role in the Oscar™-nominated documentary Super Size Me, her bestselling books Women, Food, and Desire and Getting to Hell Yes, her podcast Her Rules Radio, or any of her many other incredible offerings to this world. It's a real honor and pleasure to listen in on this conversation that is both intimate and inviting. These two are fearless as they navigate some deeply painful experiences together with grace and gentleness. This episode covers a lot of ground, including: Inner-child-healing with a physical doll to represent the kind of tenderness that kind of self-care requires. Growing up with mentally ill, addict parents, other suicidal relatives and the path to healing from that and the ways that can affect you as an adult.  Sleep, dreaming, insomnia, herbal sleep aids, and the different kinds of dreams they can induce. They talk about how artists are the shepherds that guide us through difficult times like the ones we find ourselves in now. You can follow Alex on instagram @deliciousalex You can find more of Alex's work as well as art and resources at her https://alexandrajamieson.com (website) which has links to buy her https://alexandrajamieson.com/book/ (books) and to her podcast, https://alexandrajamieson.com/blog/radio/ (Her Rules Radio) The Fire Woman Retreat starts THIS THURSDAY! 5/14/2020 you can still register to join this incredible immersive workshop weekend and connect with your passion in a whole new way. Use this link to register and don't forget, there will be a free opening ceremony on Thursday 5/14 2-4 pm PT/5-7 pm EST Registration link: https://bit.ly/3dg07S5 For more resources for finding calm in these stressful times and to never miss another live recording you can follow Sophia on https://www.facebook.com/sophiawiseone (Facebook) by searching Sophia Wise One or on https://www.instagram.com/sophiawiseone (Instagram) @Sophia Wise One As always you can go to http://www.sophiawiseone.com/ (SophiaWiseOne.com) for more information about the show, https://www.sophiawiseone.com/category/spider-queen-reports/ (Reports from the Spider Queen), to https://www.sophiawiseone.com/i-love-my-life-academy/ (preorder) the I Love My Life Card Game and Oracle Deck, to join Sophia's https://www.sophiawiseone.com/updates/ (email list), and so much more! “I am Sophia Wise One: Daughter of the Wind. I am calling you to Rise Up, Rise Up, Rise Up. Rise up and take your place.” This content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Support this podcast

Alexandra Jamieson is a coach, creative, mom, and author. Her podcast is called "Her Rules Radio." Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others.   If you enjoyed this episode, please consider to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts/iTunes. It takes less than 60 seconds and it really makes a difference. Rate, review, and subscribe at HardyHaberland.com/iTunes.

Alexandra Jamieson is a coach, creative, mom, and author. Her podcast is called "Her Rules Radio." Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others.   Brought to you by Haberland Group (HaberlandGroup.com) and Hardy Haberland's Programs (HardyHaberland.com).   This podcast is brought to you by Haberland Group. Haberland Group is a global provider of marketing solutions. With multidisciplinary teams in major world markets, our holding companies specialize in advertising, branding, communications planning, digital marketing, media, podcasting, public relations, as well as specialty marketing. If you are looking for a world-class partner to work on marketing programs, go to HaberlandGroup.com and contact us.   This podcast is also brought to you by Hardy Haberland's Programs. Hardy provides educational programs for high performers who want world-class achievement, true fulfillment, and lasting transformation in their lives. He also provides consulting for established brands and businesses that have generated a minimum of $3 million in annual sales. If you need a catalyst for transformation and a strategist for success at the highest level, go to HardyHaberland.com and apply.   If you enjoyed this episode, please consider to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts/iTunes. It takes less than 60 seconds and it really makes a difference. Rate, review, and subscribe at HardyHaberland.com/iTunes.

In today’s episode, I’m happy to introduce you to my friend Alexandra Jamieson. I do want to acknowledge that this episode was recorded in mid-February before the COVID-19 pandemic was declared and life changed for everyone. However, I feel that this conversation is well-timed for what many of us are currently working through as we spend time in our homes and reevaluate so many facets of our lives and who we are. In this conversation, Alex shares some of her personal experiences with loss including losing an aunt and a grandfather to suicide. Dealing with mental health and addiction among other family members and how she feels those moments shaped her and influenced even her friendships and future relationships. Alexandra also talks about her journey with healing her physical body with food and how her approach has shifted over time. Having been a staunch vegan for many years and then shifting back to eating animal products for health reasons was a big journey and led her to experience more loss as people rejected her shift in lifestyle and many friends and connections were lost.   “I don’t believe that everything happens for a reason. However, I do believe that I can learn something from anything.”  ~ Alexandra Jamieson   This is a moment of great change and collective grief. It’s also an opportunity, on the other side of this, to Reenter Life as a new version of ourselves both as a collective and as individuals. Alexandra shares some of her personal experiences with healing and stepping more into herself. If you are needing support during this pandemic, I invite you to join my free Facebook Group that I have created for you. It is so important to me that we are ready to exit the Waiting Room when it’s time to re enter our new lives on the other side of this. More About Alexandra Jamieson As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, Getting To Hell Yes, and co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after success mentor and motivational guide for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower womxn to create epic lives–by honoring their desires and kicking shame and fear to the curb. Alex has developed training programs, interactive workshops, retreats, and 1:1 leadership coaching to help individuals reach optimal personal success.  She is also the host of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, success mindset, sexuality, and more. You can connect with her via her website, and Instagram. Things We Mention In This Episode Website: www.alexandrajamieson.com  Art: Find out more about Alex’s art here Podcast: Her Rules Radio Book: Women, Food, and Desire, by Alexandra Jamieson Book: Radical Alignment: How to Have Game-Changing Conversations That Will Change Your Business and Your Life, by Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower Instagram: @deliciousalex Resources: Suicide Prevention Lifeline Facebook Group: Life Reentry During COVID-19 Book: Where Did You Go? by Christina Rasmussen Book: Second Firsts by Christina Rasmussen Newsletter - Message In a Bottle: Sign up for Christina’s weekly letter Apple podcast reviews and ratings are really important to help get the podcast in front of more people to uplift and inspire them too, which is the ultimate goal. Thank you!

In this episode, we talk to Lisa Fabrega (Entrepreneur & Leadership Coach) about why capacity is essential to the entrepreneur, what she learned from her dad, and why dealing with internet "trolls" now helps you in the future.  Check out here website Follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn.  **More on Lisa** Lisa Fabrega is a leadership coach who helps ambitious women expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth & success. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees, and Nobel Prize organization candidates break through boundaries that have been holding them back from their next level. Her signature approach enables clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as when she appeared on podcasts, including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio, and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News, and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.   Visit our website TheStartupLifePodcast.com Follow The Startup Life Podcast Facebook Page Want gear from The Startup Life? Check out our gear! Check out other great podcasts from The Binge Podcast Network.   Written by: Dominic Lawson Executive Producers: Dominic Lawson and Kenda Lawson Music Credits: **Show Theme**  Behind Closed Doors - Otis McDonald  **Break Theme** Cielo - Huma-Huma  Sponsors/Partners Use code BETTEREVERYDAY for 30% everything sitewide at ladder.sport. That's “BETTEREVERYDAY” for 30% off at ladder.sport. Contact DR and Associates today for all of your marketing needs online at www.drandassociates.com, on social media, or at 615-933-3681 KOYA is the new and best way to let your friends and family know you're thinking of them! Choose a friend, record a message, hide it at a location they are likely to visit, and give them a clue. When they arrive, your message will instantly appear! You can even send them a gift! Best of all, the app is entirely free.  Ready for your own Personal Revolution? Listen to all episodes of the show here: https://www.himalaya.com/revolution1  

Lisa Fabrega is a leadership coach, helping ambitious women expand their capacity to handle more growth, wealth and success. For over a decade she's helped not only entrepreneurs and corporate executives, but Academy Award nominees and even Nobel Prize organization candidates break through their boundaries that have been holding them back from reaching their next level. Her signature approach has enabled clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact.   Lisa has also addressed thousands of people on stage as a keynote speaker and has been a popular guest on top podcasts, including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's even been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie.   On this week's Get Paid Podcast, Lisa is here to share some of her insights into what it takes to expand your capacity for success and chat about some of the lessons she's learned while setting up a successful business. This Week on the Get Paid Podcast Lisa introduces us to what she calls capacity expansion and the role it plays in long-term success  Why mindset work gets you nowhere without capacity  Following your hunches when starting a business: Lisa's fascinating background story Lessons learned while building her business  Are you born with limited capacity? Launching a $97 product was “so stupid”  How Lisa created her business model  The keys to unlocking capacity  Why revenue doesn't matter all that  Accumulating wealth beyond her business   Resources Mentioned: Empress Day (Lisa's one-on-one services)  The Empress Code (Lisa's mastermind)   Connect with Lisa: Website Facebook Instagram   The Most Important Training for Course Creators    If you're like me, you've heard the talk: “Evergreen funnels aren't effective. Only certain types of businesses can actually sell on autopilot”. But, that's not true at all. I've made $50,000 in revenue with Mariah Coz's evergreen funnel strategies.  Now, you can walk through her entire system in her free class: ‘How To Sell More Courses With An Evergreen Sales Funnel'.  It's kinda insane how detailed she gets in this training. Visit clairepells.com/ee to get it right now.  Now it's time to GET PAID   Thanks for tuning into the Get Paid Podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe, rate, and leave your honest review. Connect with me on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram, visit my website for even more detailed strategies, and be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media.   Now, it's time to go get yourself paid.

Lisa Fabrega is a personal transformation advisor who supports ambitious women as they strive to create a deep and lasting influence on the world. For more than ten years, she has helped entrepreneurs, corporate executives, Academy Award nominees and Nobel Prize organization candidates in breaking through boundaries that have been holding them back. Her signature approach involves the proven concept of capacity expansion to enable clients to reach their highest levels of success and impact. Lisa has addressed thousands of people both on stage as a keynote speaker as well as appearing on podcasts including The Unmistakable Creative, Her Rules Radio and Tell Me A Story with Debra Silverman. She's also been featured on CNN, Yahoo! News and The Huffington Post. She splits her time between Florida and California with her two rescue dogs, Luna and Sadie. “please do not move forward into your big plans for this year without including working on your capacity in there. Don't just jump into a strategy that you don't have capacity to handle. Make sure you are prioritising your capacity alongside your strategy”…[Listen for More] Click Here for Show Notes To Listen or to Get the Show Notes go to https://wp.me/p6Tf4b-7nC

Inner Authority and CONFIDENCE Through Creative Self-Expression Welcome back to Her Rules Radio! I'm Alexandra Jamieson, your coach and host. Kate had a hidden, secret, second-self. Her Shadow.   Despite her success, Kate couldn’t shake the idea that women in her sales group were better than her: more sophisticated, better educated, more confident than she.    They were members of an “in-group” that she never felt invited to. She worked super hard to get her children accepted to groups and clubs and schools where they would “belong.” She always felt like an outsider at work events, school gatherings, and caught other moms giving her strange looks, and obsessed that they were judging her.   “Every time I hang out with other women at company events or conferences, I freeze up. I drink too much because I’m obsessed with how I look, always comparing myself to them.    And even though I’ve reached the Gold Circle and the top 10 people in sales at our company, I never feel like I’m good enough. I drink too much, eat too much, and can’t relax to make friends with people in a way that feels authentic. I just feel uncomfortable in myself.   It’s so weird, because I’m doing so well with my sales! People always comment on how authentic and easy-going I am in our business conversations, but when the attention turns to me in real opportunity for connection I get weird and start to feel anxious.” Freezing up is caused by an inner insecurity where we aren’t able to express ourselves fully and honestly.  Imagine you’re in front of a person or group of people whose opinion you care about.  They’re all looking at you.  Focus on how your body feels: do you feel physical signals like tightness, heart racing, sweating, or other feelings like you’re a deer in headlights?   In this moment, do you feel like you can express yourself, while feeling these feelings?   The insecurity, awkwardness, and anxiety kills our ability to connect with others, and our creative thinking shuts down. It makes us so obsessed with how others might judge us, that we can’t be authentically generous and become overly self-focused. Which makes us feel more alienated.   Through our coaching conversations, K realized she was keeping herself from these relationships. We practiced and K was able to approach a couple of the women in her company that she wanted to connect with.    She asked if they’d be interested in forming a women’s group within the company, so they could support each other. K told them about her inner anxiety and what she was working on with her coach, and they immediately opened up:    They had also been feeling disconnected and wanted to create stronger relationships at work, with her! In fact, they both looked up to her and hoped they could learn more from her about how she had become so successful!   K has misjudged them: she had become so self-obsessed and withholding that there wasn’t an opening for the other women to approach her. Both sides were wrong about each other. And by bravely, vulnerably opening up to them, they were able to begin a new way of being together.   Insecurity seems to have a life of its own.   Inside each of us is a hidden, secret, second-self. The Shadow.   All those feelings of inadequacy, fear, and self-doubt, are our inner shadow. It’s the part of us we try to hide. The part we fear we’ll be judged for, if anyone knew the truth. It’s everything about ourselves we don’t want to be, but fear we truly are.   It’s called The Shadow, because it follows us everywhere. It’s your dark side, your ego, Bitch Brain, low-vibration self, and id. It’s the grotesque Mr. Hyde to our respectable Dr. Jekyll.    Your shadow impacts how you see yourself. It doesn’t matter if others see you as successful, beautiful, brilliant, and wonderful: if your shadow says you’re a reject, a loser, too fat, too old, or too lame, that’s what you’re likely to believe about yourself.   The Shadow is our insecurity.  And it’s why insecurity is impossible to get rid of.   The only way to manage The Shadow is to integrate it.  AND, turn it into a source of strength.   This truth speaks to our most basic, shared human struggle: We all want to feel worthy, loveable, and capable.  But we are the only ones who see our shadow, and we feel ashamed.   We feel so disgusted by our inner truth, we turn away from The Shadow and look outside ourselves for something that makes us feel worthy, loveable, capable, and valuable.   So we look to others to validate us, approve of our work, our ideas, our selves.    It’s why we get obsessed with celebrities and influencers, or the woman in our field who has a social media following twice the size of our own:   We think that because others focus on this person, that she has been validated and approved of. And we focus on the “vanity metrics” of follower size,    Our need for acceptance causes us to buy things we don’t really want, follow career paths we don’t truly care about, create things that aren’t our true calling because they’ve been validated by likes.    The shadow is an innate part of the human being, but most of us are willfully blind to its existence. We hide our negative qualities, from ourselves and everyone else.    To hide we might criticize others in an effort to take the attention off of ourselves. We go through life with a false sense of superiority and a belief that while others act badly or destructively, we ourselves are wholly virtuous and always in the right. But we know it’s not true, because a part of us is always aware of The Shadow.   No amount of approval from others can make you feel whole or worthy.  Because no amount of outside validation can eliminate your inner Shadow. We can’t escape it, because it’s always there, lurking beneath the surface, hiding behind our outer appearance, making us feel a failure, embarrassed, and weak.    When you need validation from people and metrics outside yourself, you give them your power. They become your ruler.   No matter what you do, you are always seeking this validation, which causes you to edit your ideas, your truth, your uniqueness. It makes us twist ourselves and silence our voices in order to hide The Shadow from everyone around us.   So every time you get into a group of people, or start to reveal yourself, you freeze in an effort to hide The Shadow within. You get unfocused, confused, or stop your forward momentum with expressing yourself.   What healers and psychologists since Carl Jung have known is that the way to heal our relationship to The Shadow is to embrace it, integrate it, and learn from it.    Embrace The Shadow, and Unleash Your Creative Self-Expression (USCSE)   Think back to when you were a kid, and felt free to express yourself. Maybe it was creativity, play, movement, or imaginative self-expression. When we are small, until we experience the first traumas of life, we have a feeling of freedom in our bodies and have no Shadow to hide.   We are connected to the Universal Spirit of Creative Self-Expression.  We are filled with it when we’re young.  You see it in kids you know.   This Universal Spirit of Creative Self-Expression drives us to share who we are, what we think, and how we feel without filter, and uncaring of how others react, or what they might think about us. It causes us to share ourselves in a genuine, truthful way.    When you embody this Spirit, you speak and share yourself with clarity, depth, excitement, energy, and authenticity.    You become a channel, a conduit, for something greater, and Universally True.    We all feel it in different ways:  Writing, speaking, singing, dancing, painting.  Athletes get “in the zone.” Flow. Intuition. Creating. You’re speaking or acting from your deepest, truest self, because you are connected to this spirit, this energy, that we all have the ability to connect with.   As children we all naturally express ourselves from this Universal Spirit. As we grow into adults, we get injured, judged, and punished for our unique expression, and learn to hide it.   By the time we become teenagers we are obsessed with outside approval from our peers.    Then we have to hide anything about ourselves that might be judged as bad or weird.    And we use our hidden place to store all the things about ourselves that might, in any way, be unlikeable, unworthy, or unlovable.   So our inner, hidden self becomes a dumping ground, and we keep using our energy to hide within ourselves. Our least-favorite qualities become inextricably tied with who we truly are, down underneath all the outside show we put on for others.   And our Inner Truth turns into something we hate, The Shadow.    This means, dear one, that our Shadow holds the key to our true self, our inner authority and confidence, and our creative self-expression.   It takes powerful tools to unlock this gorgeous confidence.   The best tool I can share that I’ve used myself and with countless clients, is Creative Self-Expression.   Some examples:   #1 When I finally came clean and shared that I was eating meat again after being vegan for 10+ years, I had to face The Shadow that I was a fraud and a failure. The truth was, through sharing my evolution and new reality, that I was honoring my body, which I had been trying to control through food. In the social media firestorm that came next, I discovered a much bigger audience of people who wanted help in creating a healthy relationship with food and their bodies.   I felt honest and self-expressed. And my business grew.   #2 My client K applied for and won a coveted promotion that moved her family to Amsterdam.    #3 Other clients have worked with their shadow to realize that they were still trying to appease their parents through their current career track or presentation, and decided to stop hiding their message and passion. Building platforms, writing books, speaking out more often.   When we stop caring what people think of us, or how they’ll judge us, and begin to self-express more clearly and creatively, people are drawn to us. We become a magnet for clients and important relationships.    You are just one of the few who has bravely stepped up to integrate The Shadow.   “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” (Carl Jung)   Once we become more aware of The Shadow in ourselves, we must honor it and find a way to integrate it into our life. It’s the Uncommon Path of Creative Leaders who Thrive. If we fail to do it, or continue to hide it (and hide from it), we become weak and scattered because we’re trying to serve our authentic self and hide our shadow, which dissipates our powers and energy. The shadow must become a part of one’s conscious personality.   Tap into your Inner Authority, through Creative Self-Expression.   Embrace your hidden self, knowing every single human being, even the greats you admire, has their own shadow they’re wrestling with.   Embrace it, and speak with it, knowing you are the only Inner Authority who matters.   TEXT: CREATRIX to 33444 To get on the early bird list for Creatrix 2020

This episode took me for a spin and was a good challenge. We took an unexpected sharp left turn into talking about politics and some controversial stuff for a good part of the episode - racism, white privilege, masculinity, and other things. My first time live on air talking about heavy topics without preparation. Something new. I brought Alex on the podcast to talk about her path with veganism. She is the co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and while doing the documentary, she was leading a vegan community. After being vegan for 10 years, she started to become very sick, tried to reverse her deficiencies with sea vegetables and every other thing she could possibly think of, and it didn't work. She just became more and more sick. When she announced to her community that she could no longer sustain being vegan for health reasons, all hell broke loose in the form of hate mail and intense shame toward her. She lost about half of her community. She used the experience as a rebirth, and she speaks on the judgment she received and how she used it to transform her life - something many of us can relate to as we try to put ourselves out there and find our authenticity in this age of vicious keyboard warriors. Alex's work has been praised by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. She hosts her own podcast, Her Rules Radio, educating listeners on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Watch this podcast: https://youtu.be/LVzbZ7h2sDg Connect with me: IG/Twitter: @ashrothstein www.ashleyrothstein.com Think you would be a good fit for the podcast? Send me an email with your story. ashrothpodcast@gmail.com Connect with Alex: IG: @deliciousalex Alex's website: www.alexandrajamieson.com (where you can find "How To Write Your F It List") Alex's podcast: Her Rules Radio  

On today’s show, I have some very exciting for each of you. Eric Ruben, someone I’ve known and loved for a very long time, is joining me as a co-host of Her Rules Radio for the new season. Not only are Eric and I personal friends, but we have also worked with one another professionally. Eric is an entertainment attorney who is eager to add a male’s perspective to the show and wants to make sure guys who listen to the show realize they’re smart! You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/195  

In this episode, I talk with Alexandra Jamieson about the importance of embracing your cravings and following your desires for living an epic and fulfilled life. As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives–by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. Tune in as Alexandra shares her inspiring journey of self-discovery, moving thru loss, and finally making peace with food and body and sexuality. We jam on how we are so disconnected from our cravings and desires, Why we have so much shame around what we really want, and how to frame our desires, intuition, and cravings as good things and something to be valued and paid attention to.  And don’t miss as Alexandra shares one of her fave practices to fully take pleasure in the moment!     "You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable if really feeling integrated and whole and healthy and worthy is what you desire. This food and pleasure and sexuality and righteousness...the righteousness of your desires is one of the most potent journies that a woman can take." Alexandra Jamison   you can find more about Alexandra at  insta @deliciousalex   podcast Her RUles Radio website.Alexandrajaison.com an check out her new book Getting to Hell Yes launching this week!

As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives–by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. Alex is the creator of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a life-long learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology.

Episode 209: As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives–by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. Alex is the creator of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a life-long learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology. Show notes: Go to fitt.co/moon to discover your new favourite restaurant, outdoor activity and/or health-conscious event in your city To get a list of my top 100 favourite books FOR FREE, go HERE To get a free 30-day trial of Audible + 1 free book, go HERE Apply for my 1:1 coaching and read testimonies of my previous clients HERE An experiment Alexandra did with her son to show him the power of language (see the original Instagram post I refer to HERE) Ways you can teach your child consent Why Alexandra does not tickle her child or make him hug anyone he doesn't want to huge (even those in the family) A few memories I have where consent boundaries were crossed as a child in my family (being forced to ride rollercoasters that terrified me, being sat on when I had eyedrops put in my eyes, tickling) Setting boundaries with your family and not getting lost in the cycle of guilt Soul Friends by Stephen Cope Acknowledging that relationships will uncover new layers of yourself for your entire life How to know the difference between when you need to set boundaries with someone and when you need to take a hatchet to the relationship The question to ask yourself: "How much more pain are you willing to endure?" Insight into Alexandra's previous marriage with famous director Morgan Spurlock and the infidelity she experienced in that marriage Why complaining about your partner/ex-partner to your child is one of the most damaging things your child can experience When you talk negatively about your spouse, you are talking negatively about your child. Children associate their parents as them. They are 50% their mom and 50% their dad. So when you speak negatively about a parent, you are speaking negatively about the child-- except it's even worse because they can't change that thing about them that you're hating on. They can't fix it because it's not literally a problem within them...it's within their parent and that is out of their control. When Morgan Spurlock came out about his contribution to an unsafe, sexist work environment after the #MeToo movement picked up speed How Alexandra was able to rebuild trust in both female friendships and romantic relationships How Alexandra's current partner was completely honest with her from date number one because he both respected her and he respected himself. Bob, her husband, was far from perfect on paper but he provided for her many trustable qualities she desired in a future partner. This was a huge step for her healing process and her ability to trust a partner again. Compersion: the opposite of jealousy, finding joy in another person's joy. Getting to Hell Yes: the book Alexandra and Bob are writing together on the four step process to having a high-stakes emotional conversation (Intention, Concerns, Boundaries, Desires) Must-read book: Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup

Episode 209: As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives–by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. Alex is the creator of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a life-long learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology. Show notes: Go to fitt.co/moon to discover your new favourite restaurant, outdoor activity and/or health-conscious event in your city To get a list of my top 100 favourite books FOR FREE, go HERE To get a free 30-day trial of Audible + 1 free book, go HERE Apply for my 1:1 coaching and read testimonies of my previous clients HERE An experiment Alexandra did with her son to show him the power of language (see the original Instagram post I refer to HERE) Ways you can teach your child consent Why Alexandra does not tickle her child or make him hug anyone he doesn't want to huge (even those in the family) A few memories I have where consent boundaries were crossed as a child in my family (being forced to ride rollercoasters that terrified me, being sat on when I had eyedrops put in my eyes, tickling) Setting boundaries with your family and not getting lost in the cycle of guilt Soul Friends by Stephen Cope Acknowledging that relationships will uncover new layers of yourself for your entire life How to know the difference between when you need to set boundaries with someone and when you need to take a hatchet to the relationship The question to ask yourself: "How much more pain are you willing to endure?" Insight into Alexandra's previous marriage with famous director Morgan Spurlock and the infidelity she experienced in that marriage Why complaining about your partner/ex-partner to your child is one of the most damaging things your child can experience When you talk negatively about your spouse, you are talking negatively about your child. Children associate their parents as them. They are 50% their mom and 50% their dad. So when you speak negatively about a parent, you are speaking negatively about the child-- except it's even worse because they can't change that thing about them that you're hating on. They can't fix it because it's not literally a problem within them...it's within their parent and that is out of their control. When Morgan Spurlock came out about his contribution to an unsafe, sexist work environment after the #MeToo movement picked up speed How Alexandra was able to rebuild trust in both female friendships and romantic relationships How Alexandra's current partner was completely honest with her from date number one because he both respected her and he respected himself. Bob, her husband, was far from perfect on paper but he provided for her many trustable qualities she desired in a future partner. This was a huge step for her healing process and her ability to trust a partner again. Compersion: the opposite of jealousy, finding joy in another person's joy. Getting to Hell Yes: the book Alexandra and Bob are writing together on the four step process to having a high-stakes emotional conversation (Intention, Concerns, Boundaries, Desires) Must-read book: Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup Janelle Monae's Dirty Computer Album (watch the motion picture here) Connect with Alexandra: Website Facebook Instagram  

#053 — Masterminds, Creative Risks and the Fuck It List Positive psychology asks us to focus on what’s right with us. What are your strengths? What are your values? What do you want? But what if you’re not sure what’s right with you? We all have built-in negativity bias, so it’s a whole lot easier to identify what we don’t like about our lives, what we’re not satisfied with, than it is to define what is going well. Alex Jamieson has your back. She’s designed The Fuck It List, a strategy giving you permission to honor the negativity bias and get all of the things you hate about your life down on paper. Then she flips the script and guides you in replacing the bad with a positive alternative, crafting a life focused on what you truly care about. Today, Alex joins me to share the fundamentals of positive psychology and explain how she used its principles to create The Fuck It List. She discusses her life as a mom, describing her son’s sweetness and her own efforts to be more thoughtful of her actions. I ask Alex about her ability to set powerful boundaries, to take creative risks, and to build relationships with communities of women. Listen in for Alex’s insight around the value of masterminds in supporting women through change and learn to say fuck it as you work toward a life you love! FULL SHOW NOTES:  Get the complete show notes with episode quotes, photos, and time stamps at http://www.startuppregnant.com/053. EPISODE SPONSOR & SPECIAL OFFER Community makes all the difference. So, at Startup Pregnant, we are launching a mastermind program for women who are interested in going deeper around questions about parenting, motherhood and business. To learn more and apply for the beta version starting in June, go to https://startuppregnant.com/mastermind. All of our sponsor offers are available on our website for you to grab the perks and discounts offered to podcast listeners: http://startuppregnant.com/sponsors. LEARN MORE ABOUT ALEX JAMIESON Alex Jamieson is a best-selling author, functional nutrition and positive psychology coach, and ‘cravings whisperer.’ She has been featured on Oprah, The Today Show, and Dr. Oz, among many others, and she was the co-creator of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me. Alex’s podcast, Her Rules Radio, debuted at #1 on iTunes, and her latest book, Women, Food & Desire, was the #1 New Release in Spirituality and Self-Help on Amazon.  Alex’s Website Her Rules Radio Alex on Facebook Alex on Instagram Alex on Twitter Alex on Pinterest RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Fuck It List Women, Food, and Desire: Honor Your Cravings, Embrace Your Desires, Reclaim Your Body by Alexandra Jamieson Super Size Me Books by Alex Jamieson THE STARTUP PREGNANT PODCAST & HOST Startup Pregnant

What We’re Talking About In This Episode! Alexandra’s wellness journey and her relationship with food and identity. The importance of having hard conversations in a non-emotional way to get into alignment with others Being successful at failing and continuing to experiment and try Positive psychology and the difference between a “Fixed Mindset” and a “Growth Mindset”   Episode Summary:  Do you have a hard time living your life by your own rules? Whether it’s around food, our bodies, or our mindset, true authenticity can be really difficult. Today we’re talking with renowned wellness expert Alexandra Jamieson about listening to our bodies, living authentically with others, and giving ourselves permission to fail. Alexandra Jamieson is the best-selling author of Women, Food and Desire, as well as co-creator of the Oscar-winning documentary, Supersize Me and host of the podcast “Her Rules Radio”. She educates thousands with thought-provoking content and coaching on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and so much more. We talk about her health journey and re-discovery of healthy, wellness-centered eating, the challenges of being authentic and vulnerable with others in a culture of judgement, and learning from how others do things differently. We also get into the power of successful failures and continuing to experiment and try. Lastly, we talk about how hard women are on themselves about their bodies and positive psychology. Are you strengthening your “inner knowing muscle”? Do you tend to be hard on yourself and ignore the progress you’ve made? Do you give yourself permission to fail? Tell us about it in the comments!   Quotes: “It’s very very hard to change how you eat in this culture when you are so identified by what you eat” 14:07 “It’s very easy to get self-righteous or point the finger and say “I’m right, you’re wrong” but that doesn’t create connection and it doesn’t allow for growth” 23:02 “My life has been a series of successful failures” 27:33   Resources Mentioned:  Alexandra’s Website Follow Alexandra on Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest | Twitter  Alexandra’s free gift to us: “How to Write Your F&#k It List” ebook  Women, Food, and Desire Supersize Me   Check out the full show notes page Keep up with everything Dr. Mariza Follow Dr. Mariza on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Please review us on iTunes.  And, if you haven’t already, SUBSCRIBE!

Best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super-Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives–by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. You guys are going to LOVE this episode with our guest Alexandra Jamieson. You might know her from her appearance on Oprah talking about her TV series, “30 Days”. Jamieson has a power message about our relationship with food and how she is helping women everywhere discover the deeper truths and meaning behind their cravings. She dives in deep to her personal story where she faced tremendous backlash over publically making an announcement that shocked her community. We discuss everything from shaming and sexuality to the importance of living authentically. She also reveals the four causes of cravings and the importance of listening to what your body is saying to you. She presents the idea that our body is speaking to us but too often we are not listening. If you struggle with cravings feeling out of control or if you have questions about your emotions and wonder how your diet is affecting them, you will love today's episode. Four Sigmatic Coffee Discount Code  Linda's website Follow Linda on Social Media @ Chickfitstudio Tune is here to listen now. ______________________________________________________________ Here’s just a few of the many pointers Alex shared: How to stop shrinking and start stepping fully into our personal power It's not something we can do alone. The importance of investing in the right relationships Pay attention to authenticity It’s never easy to let go of people or a certain way of living, but the more you do it the easier it gets. You develop grit and resilience. It’s a muscle that you can strengthen. The 4 root causes of cravings: Bacterial On a biochemical level, we are as much bacterial as we are human.   Nutritional . Your body craves what it needs. Look at your cravings in more of a curious way. Emotional . This gets shut out of dietary theory which is a shame. We are emotional creatures. Physical . Sex and food. Vitamin P is the thing that we are all lacking. Play and pleasure. How women can build a support system? In-person events. Ask, “Who lights you up? Who are you attracted to?” Ask yourself, “How did you make friends when you were a kid?” Be intentional about putting yourself around the right people. Take a leap if you feel drawn to something. Other people like you will be there too. Resource: Two summer camps for adults: Good Life Camp and Soul Camp. For more valuable pointers from Alex and to hear the whole podcast, listen now HERE. Don’t delay and listen now to start putting you and your body as a priority. Social Quote: “It’s not just about what we eat it’s about how we feel about ourselves, how we treat ourselves.”- Alexandra Jamieson Alex is the creator of Her Rules Radio, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a lifelong learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology. Here’s how to stay in touch with Alex: Alexandreajamieson.com Book on Amazon: Facebook: @AlexandraJamiesonFanPage Twitter: @deliciousalex Instagram: @deliciousalex Pinterest: @deliciousalex  

2018 has already proved to be a year of challenge and transformation. I am going to start the year off from an admittedly vulnerable position, but isn’t that what this Podcast is all about? This season has proven to be exceptionally difficult for my family, but I know that the Her Rules Radio community will rally around me. I hope that by sharing my own struggles, I will inspire you to embrace yourself through difficulties. Yes, I have been harboring a lot of bad feelings. I’ve been judging another woman and withholding forgiveness. Listen as I share exactly why I decided forgiveness was within my power, and how it has freed me from so much I cannot control.  Continuing on the theme of vulnerability and transformation, I have invited Penney Peirce onto the show today. Where can I begin with someone like Penney? She is the author of so many incredible books that have personally changed my life, but the most recent is Transparency. Penney encourages and teaches women from all walks of life about the energies and frequencies that we can tap into if we only know where to look. The world is changing, and we are entering the Age of Intuition and Insight. Penney will break that down for you in an incredibly accessible way.  You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/174

This episode with Alex is all about navigating through the world as an empath and how we can connect and protect our energetic field. I know for myself, I had no idea I was an empath and constantly felt drained by other people's energy. She's all about focusing on what feels good to us individually and honoring that it may look different for everyone. We chatted about connecting to our true desires and releasing any thoughts, beliefs and actions that no longer serve us. Even if you don't know what you want, you know what doesn't feel good. Alexandra has a great resource called How To Write Your Fuck It List that will allow you to focus on what you want to get rid of and invite more of what you love.   About Alexandra  Best Selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, the host of Her Rules Radio and highly-sought-after wellness expert, Alexandra's mission is to empower women to create epic lives–by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. She's been on Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, etc. She attended the Natural Gourmet Institute, Institute for Integrative Nutrition and has been certified in applied positive psychology since 2004.   In this episode, Alexandra shares:     How to protect your energy as an empath.     Getting rid of dependency and trusting yourself.     Relying on yourself to choose your next best step.     Alexandra's How To Write Your F*ck it List eBook.   What you'll hear: 4:06- What it's like to be an empath and how to protect/recharge your energy. 15:42- Shifting the dynamic of the body positivity movement. 20:14- Choosing what works for you and living life on your own terms. 34:00- How Alexandra invites more play into her life.   You can find more of Alexandra at: http://www.alexandrajamieson.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/herrulesradiocrew/ https://instagram.com/deliciousalex     Join the Hungry For Happiness community for more! www.facebook.com/hungryforhappiness    

Would you like to learn how to talk about sex with your kids? And would you like to be able to have the conversation in a calm, open and educational tone?  This is something that a lot of parents really struggle with, even though they may be educated and open about sex in general. Today's show is a special edition, after the very first live event of Her Rules Radio, where Alex recorded an incredible panel discussion, in Brooklyn, New York City, titled Sex 101 For Parents. The two Sex Experts and Educators on the panel were Mal Harrison and Ekem Merchant. Listen in and find out how to talk to your kids in a way that will prepare them and let them know that sex does matter, but without putting too much judgment on it.   Mal Harrison is the founder of The Centre For Erotic Intelligence. She's a Clinical Sexologist and Coach, who has an amazing Ted Talk and she's also spoken around the world. She creates programs all over the country to help people to get right with sexuality and to be able to talk about it.    Ekem has been working in Public Health for twenty years, with a focus on Adolescent and Women's Health and Community Health Centre training directly in schools- even at Alex's son's school. People tend to swarm to her with questions when they find out what she does, but she loves talking about it, so it's great!   Planned Parenthood is the nation's largest provider of sex education, reaching a million and a half people per year! They and the schools rely on the parents to be the backup at home and to help the kids to integrate what they are supposedly learning in schools. However, not all kids are getting the same education and this results in people learning so many different aspects and information about sex.    A few days ago, after the Bill Cosby trial had been dismissed, one of the jurors said that because one woman went to his house wearing a top which revealed her bare midriff, it implied consent. Alex nearly lost her mind when she heard that, as she sees that as rape culture at its worst! Rape culture blames the victim for enticing their rapist! This is why parents really need to learn to talk with their children about sex right now! Parents need to teach them that no matter what someone is wearing, you are not allowed to touch them without their consent and that you also need to listen to them during sexual or intimate activities. They need to know that no one has the right to cross your boundaries, abuse you or rape you because you're wearing revealing clothing.  This is why this topic is really so important. Alex points out that when you allow your children to believe that women are to blame for their rape, it leads to people becoming jury members later on, who uphold this sexual culture that makes either women or men who are the victims, blameworthy. Listen in now, to hear the panel discussion and to get some much-needed support around this really important issue. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/147

In the next couple of weeks, I will be launching a Patreon campaign for Her Rules Radio. There will be different levels of support, but we have lots of exciting bonuses coming your way!   Years ago in college, I investigated some women’s health clinics for a newspaper article and found several fake ones, who only provided misinformation. Then I went to a Planned Parenthood clinic. Boy, talk about a world of difference in the quality of the information, as well as in the level of respect and dignity with which I was treated! Not judgment, no pressure, just the facts!   There is a disturbing trend going on right now, where many states are trying ban abortion - a further assault on women’s health in our country! Today is a show that isn’t about politics. It’s about women and their health. It’s about being able to make choices about your health and family that are in the best interests of your family. Women of color are disproportionately affected by abortion, further keeping many families trapped in poverty.   This week’s interview is with Dr. Willie Parker, the author of Life’s Work - A Moral Argument for Choice. He grew up in a Christian home in the deep South. As a Doctor, he realized that in order to show true Biblical compassion to women, he needed to provide abortion services. His journey has been a transformative one, as he eventually left his Obstetrics practice and gave up his penthouse in Hawaii, to begin life in the deep South as an itinerant abortion provider traveling between Mississippi, Alabama, and Georgia. Listen to his amazing interview as he beautifully lays out the moral case for compassion through choice. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com.

Welcome to Her Rules Radio - where we shake off the old rules and do what works for us! So, I turned 42 this week! To celebrate, we played hooky and kept my son out of school and went and had brunch and went to the planetarium, and just spent the entire day together! We had the best time together and it really made me realize the importance of play in our lives. We need more fun and play in our lives.   Listen as Alex shares a story about her client Erin, and how they had to work on play. Because of a rough upbringing, she found that she lived a virtually joyless life. Alex shares the advice she gave Erin to help her incorporate play and fun into her life!  Without enough play, everything “health wise” in our lives is out of whack. We need to have fun. The amount that you allow yourself to play will return huge dividends to your health and well-being.   In this episode, Alex explains what play really is and all of the health benefits that we can enjoy. You have to take action to change habits and play helps you take action. You can incorporate play into your personal life! Alex keeps a hula hoop, a mini-trampoline, and pink roller skates around her house so she can easily grab them for a play session. It’s healthy to be playful and it’s the key to health and happiness. Play can help you actually like your body. When you like yourself, you actually treat yourself better! Keep some toys around and use the often. Playful people can transform any environment to make it more enjoyable. We all want to be around playful people, and then we are inspired to be playful too!   The last Saturday of April, we are hosting Her Playdate (www.herplaydate.com) and it’s a global movement to encourage women to get out and have a play date with all your best friends.   Katie Willcox is the founder and CEO of Natural Model Management and Healthy is the New Skinny. Using her 13 years of experience in the modeling industry, Willcox strives to change the game of body image by giving people the tools to challenge the beauty ideal implemented by the media.Using Healthy is the New Skinny as her platform, Willcox speaks out against harmful advertising and encourages people from all world to model healthy body image and self-love by living an authentic healthy lifestyle. As a public speaker, Willcox aims to educate, inform, and empower girls and women to rise up against media manipulation and teaches them how to protect against it. Katie also has her new book out, which is also called Healthy is the New Skinny. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/134

On this week's episode of Ignite Intimacy, champion for women, Alexandra Jamieson, and I discuss her personal journey of self-discovery and the importance of giving your body what it needs, physically and emotionally.  We explore feminine confidence, honoring your cravings, and finding the path to pleasure in a healthy and sustaining way! Find out how you can discover what you really want, ASK for it and GET it on Episode 25, Confidence, Connection, and Cravings with Alexandra Jamieson!    About Alex: A best-selling author, chef, co-creator the popular documentary Supersize Me, and life-long learner, Alexandra Jamieson works to empower women to grow into their genuine, confident selves. Through her own experiences and education in wellness, cravings, and sexuality, she inspires others to discover and speak their own truth.  Find Alex at: www.alexandrajamieson.com CravingsQuiz.com iTunes podcast: Her Rules Radio    

Welcome back to Her Rules Radio! Today I’m talking with Melanie VanOrden! She is a community organizer of ex-Mormons in New York City. We are going to be talking about the effects of religion on the relationship with our female bodies. We will be talking about purity, culture, the benevolent patriarchy and what that is!  Some of you have been emailing me and pinging me on Facebook etc. You have been asking me about the manifesto that I read in the first episode of the show. Guess what? We are making it! It’s going to be free as a download so you can print it out or as a screensaver. It has incredibly inspiring, motivating sayings that are really driven from the show and what we are all about. Playful women are happy women and happy women are healthy women.  We know it’s true because we are the women that make a difference in the world. We are rulers of our own lives! If you are here listening, you are a ruler. Very soon in the next couple of weeks, we are going to be having new supplement bundles for women who want to wake up happy, get back in track in the afternoons in our busy lives and for women who have a peaceful night time ritual. We will also be opening up vitality mentor applications soon! This is my small group, 20 women that meets in person and virtually for 9 months. My version of a mastermind. You get one on one time with me and be part of an incredible group. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/125

Have you tried all sorts of weight loss plans, with little or no results? Would you love to find a permanent way to keep yourself from gaining unnecessary weight? If so, join Alexandra Jamieson, host of Her Rules Radio, as she explains how you can add the Five Missing Pieces to your diet, so that you can lose weight without stress and keep it off. Today, Alex shares her own painful journey of transformation, which started six years ago with the shattering of her celebrity marriage. In her raw and vulnerable state, she began craving, then eating meat again, after being a 'professional vegan' for more than ten years. This forced her to dig deeply into herself and to discover that she had both grit and grace, even amidst turmoil. She found that she had a tribe and this helped her to believe in herself once more. She has subsequently been playing life by her own rules. She considers herself a Divine Work in Progress and she urges you to see yourself in the same way.   You can read the full show notes and join Alex for the Cravings Cleanse at www.alexandrajamieson.com

Welcome to Her Rules Radio! The Crave Cast, which I have been broadcasting and podcasting under for the past two years will now forever be known as Her Rules Radio, where women go to get the support and inspiration to make life by their own rules. This means we won’t be playing by their rules anymore. We won’t be trying to be good girls all the time. We must shake off the cultural beauty standards, the rules about food, relationships, and living that keep us stuck and afraid of change. The world needs more happy, strong, independent women who love themselves. I took a big step in transforming The Crave Cast to Her Rules Radio and it’s a little scary. We have grown into an incredible community here and in our free Facebook group but it was time to change. I was afraid that I would lose some of my listeners by making this change and slightly the direction of the podcast. But being afraid of change is keeping so many of us stuck. Her Rules Radio is about creating the life you love, feeling great in your body, feeling great about yourself in your unique way. Here is the manifesto of Her Rules Radio, we are the playfully proud women who say yes, we love our bodies just the way we are. We are the women who know how to have fun and we don’t apologize for going after it.  Just to give you a bit of a sneak peek, I am hosting a live open house of my brand-new website this week December 29, 2016. If you are around and want to hang out with me I can show you around the new website. Then on Saturday, December 31,2016, New Year’s Eve I am hosting a live two-hour in-person workshop for only 20 women and several of those seats are already gone! This is the best future self-workshop that I taught last year. On January, the 1st I will be hosting that same workshop live as a webinar. More exciting news, the cravings cleanse is now open! By the way, if you subscribed to The Crave Cast you are automatically subscribed to Her Rules Radio.   

This is milestone episode for The Crave Cast. It is our final episode as The Crave Cast and when we come back next week, we will be the all new Her Rules Radio! It's an exciting time for us! The show format and content will remain the same and we will still be talking about the same issues, but Her Rules Radio will be the direction of our future. Listen to this final episode, as we talk to Jen Mazer about manifesting everything you want in life. It's a double win today because we also have psychologist Elizabeth Lombardo with us to talk about our inner critic and everything else under the sun!    

Welcome to the soon-to-be-renamed Crave Cast. We will shortly be called Her Rules Radio, so look for that coming soon. This weekend I gave a lecture at a conference here in NYC. I was talking about what cravings mean to the female athlete, and how to deal with it. I started off my talk by saying that we can’t talk about any aspect of Women’s Health if don’t acknowledge that being a woman does not feel safe in our society. It’s true, and until we begin to get our arms around all the reasons we don’t feel safe, then it’s useless to talk about Women’s Health and Well-being.    We live in a patriarchy and it affects us on a bio-chemical level. If you are struggling with any body issues, examine how you may have suffered or been the victim of abuse, and get to the root of the problem. Being a woman has a tremendous effect on your relationship with your food and your body. So, go over to alexandrjamieson.com and check out all the resources I have for you there.   Today’s guest is Briana Borten. Briana and her husband, Dr. Peter Borten wrote a book called, The Well Life. It comes out this week. They have brick and mortar spa businesses and they wrote a beautiful book about how to live a peaceful life. Stay tuned all the way to the end to get all the best tips and information. You can join us on Facebook in our private group at bit.ly/wfdgroup

Welcome! I’m so grateful that you’re here and spending time with me today! We’re changing our name, did you hear? The Crave Cast will become Her Rules Radio in the very near future. Let’s check in on how Thanksgiving went, so how did it go? I gave you a couple of episodes in the weeks before Thanksgiving to help you deal with any of the pitfalls you may encounter over the holiday. My Thanksgiving turned into a “Friendsgiving” and we cooked all day and had friends over and the food was awesome! We had a 10 hour celebration and we got to enjoy time with friends. I love having a cozy day at my home, surrounded by people that I love.    Join the mailing list to learn about the live webinars that I am going to be doing. I am doing an amazing New Year’s Day Planning webinar! So sign up for my newsletter at www.alexandrajamieson.com and look out for those announcements!     I first became aware of anger snacking in my own life. To be honest, it was during the time I was going through my divorce. I noticed it when I was so mad that I was crunching my way through a family sized bowl of popcorn. I was mad and was destroying things with my teeth. I crunched my way through snack after snack after snack. I wanted to act out in so many ways, but that wasn’t appropriate so I just crunched and crunched. Yep, you get the idea. That’s what we are talking about today! You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/117