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In this Bite Size from episode #66 Author and high performance coach Michael Bungay-Stanier tells us how he sold over 1,000,000 copies of his book “The Coaching Habit”. Michael explains that through hustling and hard work you can sell up to 100,000 copies and anything beyond that is completely out of your hands.Michael also gives a bit of background as to what he was thinking when he wrote the book, who his target audience was and why they would want to buy the book. MBS finishes up by giving a little bit of coaching advice from one of his other books “The Advice Trap”. Find Michael at his LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbungaystanier/                           Or Website: https://www.mbs.works/Buy a copy of Michael's books: https://www.booktopia.com.au/michael-bungay-stanier/author1256.html  Use Code "PIPODCAST10" to get 10% off your Lumo Coffee order:https://lumocoffee.com/Learn more about Andrew and Performance Intelligence: www.andrewmay.com Find out more about Andrew's Keynotes : https://www.andrewmay.com/keynotes/Follow Andrew May: https://www.instagram.com/andrewmay/If you enjoy the podcast, we would really appreciate you leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Play. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps us build our audience and continue to provide high quality guests.

It's time to harness the power of reviews.  Victoria Locking, UK Agency Partnership Manager at Reviews.io, delves into the crucial role of customer reviews and user-generated content on eCommerce sales. Reviews.io is a leading review platform that helps established brands build trust with their customers for over 10 years. In this episode, Richard and Vic cover a wide range of topics, from the evolving landscape of customer reviews and their influence on brand credibility to the implementation of loyalty programs and the ethical incentivisation of customer feedback.  Join us as Victoria shares her journey from working with horses to her current role, and offers valuable insights into maximising the impact of customer feedback for building a successful ecommerce business.  Stay tuned for an engaging conversation that promises to provide actionable strategies and industry insights.  Topics Covered 00:20 - Victoria talks about her career history in eCommerce 04:46 - Reviews.io is a customer-centric platform with strong customer support 08:26 - Using customer attributes to reduce return rates 11:28 - Influencer deals can be unsustainable and expensive 13:47 - Running campaigns through email or feedback collection 18:15 - Brands can take a soft approach to loyalty 21:33 - Automating processes, timing, and account setup importance 27:07 - Investigating poor customer service and product issues 30:39 - Support team can address issues promptly. Internal training necessary 33:01 - Use AI to streamline customer support responses 38:35 - Scholarship, uni, career, accounts, professional growth, inequality 41:28 - Men's behaviour in public spaces is evolving positively 43:46 - Gender disparities in senior ecommerce positions discussed 48:37 - Finished 2 books, including "The Advice Trap." 49:15 - Helping others often requires active listening

My guest today is author of a few good books including, How to work with almost anyone, How to Begin, The Advice Trap and the one we all know and love, The Coaching Habit, Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever. Michael Bungay Stanier has a gift for distilling big, complex ideas into practical, accessible knowledge for everyday people that helps them be a force for good.His books have sold over a million copies, with The Coaching Habit topping The Wall Street Journal bestseller list. MBS has been featured on the blogs and social media platforms of thought leaders including Seth Godin, Tim Ferriss, and Brené Brown, and has appeared on ABC, BBC, CBC, Ted.com, and innumerable podcasts--as well as in notable publications including the Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Inc., and Fast Company. MBS is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company, that helps organizations move from advice-driven action to curiosity-led transformation. They have trained more than half a million people for clients including Microsoft, Salesforce, TELUS, and Gucci. Before establishing Box of Crayons, MBS's accomplishments included publishing an academic article on James Joyce and a Harlequin-esque short story; playing small roles in helping invent Pizza Hut's Stuffed Crust pizza and creating "one of the worst single-malt whiskies in existence"; and spending 20 minutes writing what has remained GlaxoSmithKline's global vision for more than 20 years. A former Rhodes Scholar, MBS is an Australian who now lives in Toronto, Canada. This show is dedicated to Michael's journey, this conversation is what we make it. This is Counsel Culture. Learn more at www.ericbrooker.com | www.mbs.works | www.bestpossiblerelationship.com 

In this episode of the Level Up Podcast, we're tackling the perilous world of bad advice! We share our personal experiences and challenge some of the most commonly held beliefs surrounding diet, training & lifestyle, including well-meaning but misguided suggestions. Tune in: (00:00) Not All Advice Is Equal (01:59) Diet Disasters: When "Eat This, Not That" Goes Horribly Wrong (13:33) Lifestyle Fibs: The Great Balance Hoax... SPOILER ALERT! (29:31) Coaching Shockers: The Worst Fitness Tips You'll Ever Hear (Seriously) (41:12) Business Bloopers: Dodging Career Advice from People The Wrong People (54:05) Key learnings & Recap Enjoy! Follow Level Up on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/levelup_podcast_/ Connect with Sharelle: https://www.instagram.com/sharellegrant/ Engage with Dani: https://www.instagram.com/daniantonellos/

Michael Bungay Stanier has a gift for distilling big, complex ideas into practical, accessible knowledge for everyday people that helps them be a force for good. His books have sold over a million copies, with The Coaching Habit topping the Wall Street Journal bestseller list. MBS has been featured on the blogs and social media platforms of thought leaders including Seth Godin, Tim Ferriss, and Brené Brown, and has appeared on ABC, BBC, CBC, Ted.com, and innumerable podcasts―as well as in notable publications including the Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Inc., and Fast Company. MBS is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company, that helps organizations move from advice-driven action to curiosity-led transformation. They have trained more than half a million people for clients including Microsoft, Salesforce, TELUS and Gucci. Before establishing Box of Crayons, MBS's accomplishments included publishing an academic article on James Joyce and a Harlequin-esque short story; playing small roles in helping invent Pizza Hut's Stuffed Crust pizza and creating “one of the worst single-malt whiskies in existence”; and spending 20 minutes writing what has remained GlaxoSmithKline's global vision for more than 20 years. A former Rhodes Scholar, MBS is an Australian who now lives in Toronto, Canada. You can join others committed to being a force for change at MBS.worksLink to claim CME credit: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/3DXCFW3CME credit is available for up to 3 years after the stated release dateContact CEOD@bmhcc.org if you have any questions about claiming credit.

Today's guest is one of the very top coaches in the world. Michael Bungay Stanier grew up in Australia, was a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford and now lives in Toronto. His work centres around coaching and curiosity, the challenges of change at an individual and organisational level, and how to stay focused on work that matters.In 2023 Michael was awarded the prestigious Thinkers50 Marshall Goldsmith Award for Coaching and Mentoring at a gala dinner considered the Oscars of management thinking. His 2016 book ‘The Coaching Habit, Say Less, Ask More' has sold more than a million copies and has been translated into 20 languages – the bestselling book on coaching this century. His TEDx talk, “Tame Your Advice Monster”, has been viewed well over a million times. He's also written books including The Advice Trap, How to Begin and Do More Great Work. His most recent book is entitled How to Work with (Almost) Anyone: Five Questions for Building The Best Possible Relationships.It's been a tough year in 2023 and a lot of people I'm working with at the moment are figuring out how they can work on building stronger relationships at work and in life. For all that AI might be taking over, one thing I'm sure of is that person and professional success in 2024 is going to be built on people and conversations. I'm looking forward to hearing Michael's take on the power of a curious mindset and of course I'm looking forward to indulging my own curiosity in discovering more about the Unlock Moments of remarkable clarity that shaped his own life's path.--Michael Bungay Stanier: https://www.mbs.works/How To Work With Almost Anyone: https://www.mbs.works/how-to-work-with-almost-anyone-book/ --The Unlock Moment podcast is brought to you by Dr Gary Crotaz, PhD. Downloaded in over 100 countries. Find out more at https://garycrotaz.com and https://theunlockmoment.com

A practical guide to shifting your leadership style from a "telling" to an "asking".  This book is filled with practical suggestions and LOTS of examples and "advice" on NOT giving advice...lol  Open up a new world - not just as a leader but, as a parent, friend or colleague - ask questions and empower and respect those around you.  

61: Group Coaching in Hospitals: Healing Together- John Piazza DeDonatis HighlightsAh-Ha MomentsThere may be a time you feel an ‘itch' to do something else.  What would happen if you decided to follow it?Do some research about Nurse Coaching, especially if you're on the fence.  You deserve to look deeper into the things you are curious aboutGroup Coaching allows for more touch and connection with more humansTry not to fall into the ‘advice trap'… instead listen, ask curious questions, allow the person to find their own answers… and ASK them if they want the information before you bombard them with advice or the resourcesAs an Integrative Nurse Coach, what do you call yourself?  How do you explain what you do to really connect with the person you're speaking with?It's tough to set your price point… and you CAN do that. What are worth?  You're priceless.Keep your heart open for all the possibilities around you!  Say Yes to experiences, opportunities to work with clients you may not think you want, as they can become your client!Check in with your Nurse Residency Programs as opportunities to implement Nurse Coaching skills and tools.Tell people about what you're doing, they will support you!Links and ResourcesINC's in ACTION! Podcast 59: Passionately Growing as a Nurse Coach- Aaron Williams, BSN, RN, HWNC-BCIntegrative Nurse Coach Academy Integrative Nurse Coach Certificate ProgramMichael Bungay Stainer on the Advice Trap and Staying Curious Just a Little Longer with Brene BrownLifestyle Transformation RN websiteEmail John at transformationrn@gmail.com***** Thank you for listening. We LOVE Nurses! Please leave us a 5 start rating and a positive comment about an episode you love! Follow Integrative Nurse Coach Academy on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn Learn more about our programs at the Integrative Nurse Coach Academy Schedule a free call with one of our awesome admissions specialists here>> and get your questions answered!

Welcome to episode #898 of Six Pixels of Separation - The ThinkersOne Podcast. Here it is: Six Pixels of Separation - The ThinkersOne Podcast - Episode #898.  When it comes to unearthing the real power of coaching and getting the best out of people and the work that they do, few people make it as accessible, engaging and smart as Michael Bungay Stanier. He's both a good friend and a perpetual fountain of wisdom. You might already be familiar with Michael's breakthrough book, The Coaching Habit. It's a tome that's shifted the paradigm for managers and leaders by emphasizing the art of asking the right questions over doling out advice. But that's not where his literary journey ends (and that book has sold well over a million copies). Michael has also authored The Advice Trap, Do More Great Work, How To Begin, and his latest, How To Work With (Almost) Anyone. His work always expands on the importance of navigating complex conversations and leadership scenarios. His works are more than just books - they're guideposts for those eager to be more intentional, impactful, and, yes, humane, in how they lead. Michael's approach to coaching (and life) is built on the premise that less is often more. He steers clear of abstract jargon and cuts straight to the chase, delivering insights that you can actually implement the moment you step out of our podcast realm and back into your daily grind. His philosophy aligns well with what we've always emphasized here on Six Pixels of Separation - The ThinkersOne Podcast — knowledge isn't just for keeping... it's for doing. With that, grab your notebook (you're going to want to jot down the gold nuggets he shares), and get ready for an insightful ride. Lastly, Michael is also available to bring his wisdom into your everyday meetings, lunch & learns, and client events at ThinkersOne. As Michael often says, "Stay curious!" Enjoy the conversation... Running time: 1:05:51. Hello from beautiful Montreal. Subscribe over at Apple Podcasts. Please visit and leave comments on the blog - Six Pixels of Separation. Feel free to connect to me directly on Facebook here: Mitch Joel on Facebook. Check out ThinkersOne. or you can connect on LinkedIn. ...or on Twitter. Here is my conversation with Michael Bungay Stanier. How To Work With (Almost) Anyone. The Coaching Habit. The Advice Trap. Do More Great Work. How To Begin. Check out Michael on ThinkersOne. Follow Michael on Instagram. Follow Michael on LinkedIn. Follow Michael on X. This week's music: David Usher 'St. Lawrence River'.

In these podcast clips featured on the Moonshots Podcast, Michael Bungay-Stanier, the author of "The Advice Trap," delves into various vital themes and concepts from his book, providing insights on effective communication, personal growth, and achieving success.Buy The Book on Amazon https://geni.us/G6cmtO2Get the summary via Blinkist https://blinkist.o6eiov.net/3eovEyBecome a Moonshot Member https://www.patreon.com/MoonshotsWatch this episode on YouTube https://youtu.be/Xr47u_95HSs"The Advice Trap" by Michael Bungay-Stanier revolves around escaping the advice trap, where individuals offer advice hastily without fully understanding the situation or the other person's needs.The author introduces essential coaching questions to counter the advice trap and promote effective coaching and communication. These questions stimulate deeper conversations, encourage self-discovery, and empower individuals to find solutions.A significant concept is the shift towards a curious and questioning approach, emphasizing the value of asking thought-provoking questions to enhance interpersonal connections and make a more meaningful impact.The book underscores the importance of active listening and creating a safe environment that allows individuals to explore their challenges without judgment or immediate solutions.Anecdotes, examples, and practical exercises illustrate how the coaching techniques can be applied in various scenarios, both in professional and personal contexts.Ultimately, "The Advice Trap" guides readers in transforming their communication style by moving away from providing quick advice and engaging in thoughtful, empowering, and impactful conversations.RUNSHEETIntro: Empathy, Mindfulness, and HumilityIn this introductory clip, MBS discusses The Future of Work Podcast, exploring three fundamental themes from his book. These themes include empathy, which highlights the importance of understanding others; mindfulness, which encourages being present and fully engaged in interactions; and humility, which emphasizes the significance of approaching conversations with a genuine desire to learn and understand.Change: Easy Change vs. Hard ChangeIn this segment, MBS participates in a conversation on Paradigm Shifting Books, where he discusses the concept of change. He distinguishes between easy and hard change, shedding light on the challenges and opportunities associated with each type. This clip provides insights into how individuals can navigate and embrace changes in various aspects of their lives.Action: The Power of CuriosityMBS returns to The Future of Work Podcast to discuss the role of curiosity in personal and professional growth. Emphasizing staying curious, he explores how curiosity can lead to more meaningful conversations and deeper connections. By maintaining a curious mindset, individuals can approach interactions with a willingness to explore and learn.Outro: Success and AdviceIn the concluding clip, MBS shares a nugget of wisdom about success. He offers insights into where success originates and provides one piece of advice for living a successful life. This segment encapsulates his core philosophy and provides a thought-provoking perspective on achieving success.These podcast clips give listeners a glimpse into the key ideas and practical applications presented in "The Advice Trap." Michael Bungay-Stanier's insights on empathy, mindfulness, humility, change, curiosity, and success offer a comprehensive understanding of communicating effectively, growing personally, and thriving in various aspects of life. Thanks to our monthly supporters Brian Mullins Zachary Phillips Vanessa Dian Antonio Candia Dan Effland Mike Leigh Cooper Daniela Wedemeier Bertram O. Corey LaMonica Smitty Laura KE Denise findlay Krzysztof Diana Bastianelli Nimalen Sivapalan Roar Nikolay Ytre-Eide Ana Beatrice Trinidad Roger von Holdt Jette Haswell Marco Silva venkata reddy Karthik Tsaliki Hari Birring Emily Krzemienski Dirk Breitsameter Ingram Casey Ola Nicoara Talpes PJ Veldhuizen rahul grover Karen Petersburg Evert van de Plassche Ravi Govender Andrew Hyde Daniel Alcaraz Craig Lindsay Steve Woollard Lasse Brurok Deborah Spahr Chris Way Eric Reinders Andrei Ciobotar Barbara Samoela Christian Jo Hatchard Kalman Cseh Berg De Bleecker Paul Acquaah MrBonjour Sid Liza Goetz Rodrigo Aliseda Konnor Ah kuoi Marjan Modara Dietmar Baur Ken Ennis Marjolijn de Rooy Bob Nolley ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Michael Bungay Stanier has an extraordinary talent for distilling the complexity of human relationships into easy to remember and follow frameworks—doing so with just the right amount of Australian humor and plenty of vulnerability. Despite his remarkable success with books like The Coaching Habit, The Advice Trap, and How to Begin, Michael never comes across as one of those gurus who thinks they have all the answers. That mindset comes through perfectly in the title of his newest book, How to Work with (Almost) Anyone—not absolutely anyone, almost anyone. The book is built around five questions for building the best possible relationships which we have found to be very helpful in our working relationship.We have grown to be friends with Michael through our repeated gatherings at the House of Beautiful Business. I know all three of us would encourage all of our listeners and readers to join us at the next House as well.In this interview, we talk about Michael's new book, how to use a keystone conversation to build the best possible relationship, and we even consider how to apply Michael's frameworks to working with generative AI.About Artficiality from Helen & Dave Edwards:Artificiality is dedicated to understanding the collective intelligence of humans and machines. We are grounded in the sciences of artificial intelligence, collective intelligence, complexity, data science, neuroscience, and psychology. We absorb the research at the frontier of the industry so that you can see the future, faster. We bring our knowledge to you through our newsletter, podcast interviews with academics and authors, and video interviews with AI innovators. Subscribe for free at https://artificiality.substack.com.About Sonder Studio:We created Sonder Studio to empower humans in our complex age of machines, data, and AI. Through our strategy, innovation, and change services, we help organizations activate the collective intelligence of humans and AI. We work with leaders in tech, data, and analytics to co-create AI strategies, design innovative AI products and services, and craft change management programs that help their people succeed in a AI-powered, data-centric, complex world. We leverage the new world of foundation models, generative AI, and low-code environments to create an amplified human-machine experience centered on machines that can be a mind for our minds. You can learn more about us at getsonder.com.If you enjoy our podcasts, please subscribe and leave a positive rating or comment. Sharing your positive feedback helps us reach more people and connect them with the world's great minds.Learn more about Sonder StudioSubscribe to get Artificiality delivered to your emailLearn about our book Make Better Decisions and buy it on AmazonThanks to Jonathan Coulton for our music This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit artificiality.substack.com

Have you ever had the experience of working with someone and they just didn't “get” you? They do all the things that wind you up, put you off, and drive you nuts. And, have you ever worked with someone, and you just didn't “get” them? You couldn't figure out what made them tick, and you know that you were underwhelming, as a manager and leader for them.   Of course you have. We all have.   So why do those situations keep happening? Particularly when we've also experienced the opposite – great working relationships that soar. Our working relationships are fundamental, if not critical, to our success and happiness. Now imagine if you could keep your best relationships humming along for as long as possible. Imagine if you could contain the dysfunction of the messy ones so they're less painful and more productive. Imagine if you could reset your solidly-OK-relationships so that when they wobble, they could more quickly get back on track. Well, in his latest book, How To Work with (Almost) Anyone, internationally bestselling author Michael Bungay Stanier writes about a tested process that sets up working relationships for the best possible success. He understands that every working relationship, whether it's with our direct reports, our boss, or our coworkers, will become challenging at a certain point. In this episode, we'll discuss how to communicate about who you are, and what brings out the best and the worst in you.  Michael has a gift for distilling big, complex ideas into practical, accessible knowledge for everyday people that helps them be a force for good. He is also at the forefront of shaping how organizations around the world make being coach-like an essential leadership competency. His books have sold over a million copies, with The Coaching Habit topping the Wall Street Journal bestseller list and it is also the best-selling coaching book of this century, with over a million copies sold. Seth Godin called it “the best book on coaching” and Brené Brown said it is “a classic.”  He's also written an impressive shelf's worth of other notable tomes, including: Get Unstuck & Get Going, Great Work Provocations, Do More Great Work, The Advice Trap, How to Begin, and his most recent book How to Work with (Almost) Anyone, which did a deep dive into in this episode.

The Summit of Greatness is back! Buy your tickets today – summitofgreatness.com – Michael Bungay Stanier helps people be a force for change. He's best known for his book The Coaching Habit which has sold close to a million copies and has thousands of 5-star reviews online. His latest book The Advice Trap focuses on what it takes to tame your Advice Monster. He founded Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. They've trained hundreds of thousands of managers to be more coach-like and their clients range from Microsoft to Gucci.In this episode you will learn,The 4 keys to becoming a better conversationalistPowerful questions that will foster more meaningful conversations in your personal lifeHow to build rapport and invite successful networking into your professional lifeThe 3 personality traits all of the best collaborators and networkers haveWhy some personalities feel magnetic and why were attracted to themFor more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1477For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More relationship building advice from some of our favorite relationship experts:Esther Perel: https://link.chtbl.com/1291-podFaith Jenkins: https://link.chtbl.com/1221-podMatthew Hussey: lewishowes.com/944

Are you ready to transform your coaching relationships? Get ready for an insightful conversation with our special guest, Michael Bungay Stanier (MBS), author of best-selling books like The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap. He brings decades of experience in the coaching industry and shares his wisdom on building better relationships with clients and creating more effective coaching practices.In our chat with MBS, we explore the importance of establishing a strong foundation in coaching relationships by discussing how to work together before diving into the content of coaching itself. MBS shares a powerful question - "What needs to be said that hasn't yet been said?" - for opening up lines of communication and creating a safe, vital, and repairable relationship with clients and team members alike. We also discuss the challenges and opportunities in designing effective online training programs – from addressing slippage to varying the tone and energy of the training for optimum results.If you're looking to level up your coaching game, this episode is a treasure trove of insights from the one and only Michael Bungay Stanier. Discover how asking the right questions can unlock transformative coaching experiences and maximize the potential of your relationships. So, grab your headphones, and let's dive right into this enriching conversation.*The upcoach podcast is produced by Ventures FM.*Episode Quotes:One of the kind of profound lessons MBS learned early on when coachingI would convince myself that the better thing to do would not be to confront a client because of how I was helping them, being kind to them, or being supportive about them. When I really look at it, I was like, no, I'm just scared of that confrontation. I don't know how to say it, and I'm worried about their reaction and getting it wrong. I'm worried about me, in other words.I want the relationship I have with the people I work with to be fierce love. Love, meaning I am a hundred percent committed to their greatness and helping them thrive and be the best version of it. Fierce, meaning I'll do what it takes to do that in a respectful way. And that means loving them when I need to love them. It means getting out of their way when I'm in their way. It means having a fierceness if that's what's required.Developing strong relationshipsThe starting point is to commit to a conversation about how we'll work together before or ongoing as you work on the stuff together. In other words, a conversation about how we're doing working together. If you do that, you can set as a goal for yourself the best possible relationship. So, this relationship has a certain degree of potential. How do we get as close to it as possible? And the three attributes of that are it's safe, vital, life adventure bravery, and repairable. It's fixable. And of those three - safe, vital, and repairable - repairable is the one that people least experienced in. And I think a question that often unlocks a conversation that helps with repair and preemptively prevents damage is what needs to be said that hasn't yet been said. Show Links:Michael Bungay Stanier websiteMichael Bungay Stanier in LinkedIn ProfileMichael Bungay Stanier in TwitterMichael Bungay Stanier in InstagramMichael Bungay Stanier in FacebookMBS Works in YouTube

Leadership NOW with Dan Pontefract is pleased to invite Michael Bungay Stanier – MBS – but not that MBS – back to the show, the first two-time guest. Michael helps people know they're awesome and they're doing great. He's perhaps best known for his book “The Coaching Habit,” which is the best-selling book on coaching this century. His recent books include “How to Begin,” which helps people find the clarity and courage to start something thrilling, important and daunting; and “The Advice Trap” – tame your inner Advice Monster so you can be more coach-like. MBS drops by the show to discuss his latest book, “How to Work with (Almost) Anyone,” which pretty much does what it says on the label. But wait, there's more. Michael founded Box of Crayons in 2002, a learning and development company that has trained hundreds of thousands of managers to be more coach-like in organizations from Microsoft to Gucci. He left Australia about 30 years ago to be a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University … where, as he claims, his only significant achievement was falling in love with a Canadian … which is why he now lives in Toronto. More about Leadership NOW and Dan Pontefract at http://www.danpontefract.com More about "How to Work with (Almost) Anyone" and MBS at http://www.bestpossiblerelationship.com

Michael Bungay Stanier helps people know they're awesome and they're doing great. He's best known for The Coaching Habit, the best-selling coaching book of the century and already recognized as a classic. His new book, How to Work with (Almost) Anyone, does what it says on the label. Michael was a Rhodes Scholar and dabbles in the ukulele. He's Australian, and lives in Toronto, Canada.   Michael had a number of amazing insights during our conversation. Some of them include: “There is one part of me that suffers from S.O.S: Shiny Object Syndrome” (9:45). “I'm good at generating ideas” (10:05). “I don't want to be fenced in” (10:20). “Inspiration is when your past suddenly makes sense” (10:40). “We unlock our greatness by working on the hard stuff” (11:10). “I am good creating, and specifically making complicated stuff feel more accessible and practical for people” (18:25). “I'm good at turning complicated concepts into something people can grasp” (19:05). “I think it is a choice and a deliberate act to try and stay creative” (23:50). “I know I have a lot of bad ideas” (28:40). “You should work under the assumption that most of your ideas aren't great” (30:10). “Just putting ideas out into the world is part of the process of getting closer to a good idea” (30:20). “If you have bad ideas, it means you're good at ideas because good ideas emerge from conversations of bad ideas” (32:10). “If you're getting 60% of the hard decisions right, you are rocking it” (34:00). “Keep noticing the stuff you should be grateful for” (38:55). “Part of being a writer is being a great reader” (41:45). “Writing is the most distinctive expression of me as a teacher” (44:20). “I have come to know a fair number of people, but I don't really know many people at all” (56:35). “For me, the best possible relationship is when it is safe, when it is vital, and also repairable” (1:04:55). “Talk about how you'll work together before you talk about what you'll work on” (1:05:20).   Additionally, you can find Michael's website here, and also connect with him on Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube. You can also purchase Michael's books, The Coaching Habit; The Advice Trap; How to Begin; and How to Work with (Almost) Anyone anywhere books are sold. Lastly, if you'd like to personally reach out to Michael, you can send him an email (teammbs@mbs.works). Thank you so much to Michael for coming on the podcast! I wrote a book called “Shift Your Mind” that was released in October of 2020, and you can order it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Additionally, I have launched a company called Strong Skills, and I encourage you to check out our new website https://www.strongskills.co/. If you liked this episode and/or any others, please follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers. Thanks for listening.

Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/ In this special episode with author, Michael Bungay Stanier, Michael talks about his new book, The Advice Trap and ends with a live LinkedIn Q&A. Connect with Michael on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbungaystanier/?originalSubdomain=ca Book: The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever https://www.amazon.com/Advice-Trap-Humble-Curious-Forever/dp/1989025757 Book: The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Habit-Less-Change-Forever/dp/0978440749 Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian/ The Ultimate Negotiation Guide: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/guides/ultimate-negotiation-guide/ Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!: https://www.amazon.com/Have-Difficult-Conversations-About-Race/dp/1637741308/ref=pd_%5B%E2%80%A6%5Df0bc9774-7975-448b-bde1-094cab455adb&pd_rd_i=1637741308&psc=1 Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Confidence-Conflict-Negotiate-Anything/dp/0578413736/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PSW69L6ABTK&keywords=finding+confidence+in+conflict&qid=1667317257&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMC4xNCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMjMifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=finding+confidence+in+conflic%2Caps%2C69&sr=8-1

Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/ In this special episode with author, Michael Bungay Stanier, Michael talks about his new book, The Advice Trap and ends with a live LinkedIn Q&A. Connect with Michael on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbungaystanier/?originalSubdomain=ca Book: The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever https://www.amazon.com/Advice-Trap-Humble-Curious-Forever/dp/1989025757 Book: The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Habit-Less-Change-Forever/dp/0978440749 Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian/ The Ultimate Negotiation Guide: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/guides/ultimate-negotiation-guide/ Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!: https://www.amazon.com/Have-Difficult-Conversations-About-Race/dp/1637741308/ref=pd_%5B%E2%80%A6%5Df0bc9774-7975-448b-bde1-094cab455adb&pd_rd_i=1637741308&psc=1 Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Confidence-Conflict-Negotiate-Anything/dp/0578413736/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PSW69L6ABTK&keywords=finding+confidence+in+conflict&qid=1667317257&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMC4xNCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMjMifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=finding+confidence+in+conflic%2Caps%2C69&sr=8-1

Recommend this show by sharing the link: pod.link/2Pages When I first published The Advice Trap back in 2022, it was accompanied by a bonus course I created called ‘The Year of Living Brilliantly.' Fifty-two different teachers, each teaching one powerful lesson on video. If you've been a participant, you'll know today's guest because his episode is one of the most popular. If you haven't taken the course yet, you're in luck - you're about to meet one of its brilliant faculty members.  Bobby Herrera is the author of The Gift of Struggle, a short, excellent book on leadership, and the co-founder and President of Populus Group. Populus is Latin for ‘people,' and that is absolutely where Bobby's focus is. Get‌ ‌book‌ ‌links‌ ‌and‌ ‌resources‌ ‌at‌ https://www.mbs.works/2-pages-podcast/  Bobby reads two pages from ‘The Wisdom Pyramid' by Brett McCracken. [reading begins at 8:44]   Hear us discuss:  Discerning what knowledge should be applied. [12:36] | “I've simply stopped focusing on anything that I can't control.” [16:18] | How to both stand out and fit in. [18:39] | The art of surrendering power. [21:02] | Learning to sit with betrayal: “I've come to expect disappointment.” [23:30] | Remaining whole while being committed to giving: “Two's a trend.” [27:08]

I'd like to begin this episode by acknowledging the land that I am learning and living on is thetraditional unceded, un-surrendered territory of the Algonquin Anishnaabeg People. As a leader you are ‘powerful'.  Yet, ‘powerful' is not a word we tend to use.  We prefer using words like ‘leadership', ‘decision-maker', ‘go-getter', ‘coordinator'.  Why is that? What does ‘having power' mean to you? Have you taken the time to ask yourself how you are powerful and how your power can limit and help your team? In this episode, you'll hear from Laura Jansen, Learning & Development Director of Reticle Ventures Canada Incorporate and independent Teaming Facilitator, who will help emerging leaders explore how Power & Rank dynamics are linked to building an environment where teams can thrive. She will connect how power & rank plays into creating a teaming environment where all team members can contribute, feel a sense of belonging, and speak freely. Laura will provide insights and advice for leaders in how they can own their powers, in order to share them in a way that empowers their team. Trench Leadership: A Podcast From the Front is humbled to have been listed #8 as the Top 20 for Best Canadian Leadership-themed podcasts for 2022. Reviews are the best way for us to know what we are doing right, what we are doing wrong, and what we should talk about in the future, so please click on the links below and let us know if this episode was helpful. Laura's Episode Links: 1.  Connect Here:Trench Leadership Website: https://www.trenchleadership.ca/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/trench-leadership-a-podcast-from-the-front/ Concussion Legacy Foundation Canada web-site: https://www.concussionfoundation.ca   Laura's Recommended Book/Movie List:Books:1. Power: A User's Guide, by Julie Diamond2. Corruptible: who gets power and how it changes us, by Brian Klaas3. The Advice Trap, by Michael Bungay StanierMovie:The Good Boss (El Buen Patron) by Fernando Leon de Aranoa 

Jim Knight and bestselling author, Michael Bungay Stanier, discuss the topic of Giving or Not Giving Advice During Trying Times.To learn more about Michael Bungay Stanier, visit MBS Works. 

Jeder von uns kennt es in der ein oder anderen Form: das Ratschlag-Monster. Kaum werden wir etwas gefragt, legen wir los mit möglichen Lösungsvorschlägen und vergessen, zu hinterfragen und zuzuhören. Mit Entwicklungscoach Simone Schäfer bespreche ich, wie es gelingt, Coach-ähnlicher zu werden und welche klugen Fragen dabei besonders gut helfen.

Coinciding with the launch of Ramona's book 'The Confident & Competent New Manager: How to Rapidly Rise to Success in Your First Leadership Role', this week's episode addresses one of the four critical shifts new managers have to go through to successfully transition into leadership. The shift you'll hear about is moving from Advising to Coaching. By the end of this episode, you'll know... why we tend to fall into The Advice Trap, what coaching is, why coaching makes you a better leader, and how well you're currently doing in regards to this skill. Grab your copy of Ramona's new book right now (a special launch price is available on May 17).

Michael Bungay Stanier helps people be a force for change. He's best known for his book The Coaching Habit which has sold over a million copies and has thousands of 5-star reviews online. His latest book How to Begin helps people be ambitious for themselves and for the world and, find their Worthy Goal, and start something thrilling, important and daunting. He founded Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. They've trained hundreds of thousands of managers to be more coach-like and their clients range from Microsoft to Salesforce to Gucci. Michael left Australia about 30 years ago to be a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University … where his only significant achievement was falling in love with a Canadian … which is why he now lives in Toronto, having spent time in London and Boston. Balancing out these moments of success, he was banned from his high school graduation for “the balloon incident” … was sued by one of his Law School professors for defamation … and his first published piece of writing was a Harlequin Romance-esque story involving a misdelivered letter … and called The Male Delivery Episode Notes: -Trained with CTI but also connected with coaching as a teenager with his friends as well as being a youth crisis telephone counselor. The first answer is not the only answer. -Living in England and graduating from university, discovered ‘coaching' - intrigued and got transferred to Boston. -Called himself a coach despite not knowing everything about it.  -Trained in 2000 and started a practice, didnt love coaching all the time. Then started writing books, The Coaching Habit, as well as Box of Crayons. MBS.works is also helping others be a force for change. -At a young age, Mum told him it helps if you ask a good question when interacting with girls…may be the start of it all!  -How to Begin's inspiration - Stemmed from The Advice Trap, wanted to add onto the topic. How do you actually change your behavior? It is so hard. -”We unlock our greatness by working on the hard things” - MBS. A nice restatement of an old truth. -When we go out to the edges of who you are and what you are, that is where you learn more about yourself and grow in your confidence and capacity.  -How do you think about goal setting to bring out the very best in you, as well make a contribution to the world. -Worthy goal: thrilling, important, and daunting. -Cheeky cartoon- originally for The Advice Trap Book but it was not a good fit, but he still loved the character.  It helped him to become the obvious guide for this book.  -It is helpful to be the strongest signal in the room.  -Two worthy goals: stopping being the CEO, as well as launching a podcast. -How to Begin: 3 parts, each part has three chapters Part 1: Draft and redraft your goal - examine, poke, interrogate, and redraft it.  Part 2:Understand what you are committing to - When you are saying yes to a worthy goal you are saying no to other stuff. Wrestle with it for a bit and get very clear on this. Part 3: Getting you going- Crossing the threshold. What is important is that you begin the journey. Do not do it alone, and don't think it will be three big leaps and you will be there. Find support, keep working towards the best version of yourself, and keep taking small steps to make progress.  -Find your right band and check out the pilot light appendix -Many goals? Hierarchy to organize your life. Prioritize. -MBS vision: Infect a billion people with the possibility virus  -What is my best way to achieve this bigger vision or mission? -Aspire to one worthy goal, one great project! Tactics, strategies, project, vision, and worthy goals. - “Plans are useless but planning is useful” -Eisenhower - You are doing the planning and that is where the power lies. -So many chapters - what do I want to accomplish within each chapter? -Worthy Goal for this year- Write three books! - 2023-2024 -Stay curious a little bit longer, and rush to action and advice giving a little bit more slowly. -And what else? Because the first answer is never the only answer. -I can translate knowledge to make it feel accessible for people. Taking the abstract and translate it for you!  Connect with MBS: Twitter: @mbs_works Website: MBS.works Year of Living Brilliantly - 52 weeks HowToBegin.com

Imagine you've just been added to a team or a new project. Maybe you're the new CMO, maybe you're the new lead for a project team, or maybe you just join a new department as a subject matter expert. The team you've joined has been working together for several weeks, months, or even years. They have an established rapport. They've been going through various stages of the project together. What's the first thing you do? An Important Moment So, what was your answer? Whatever your answer sounded like, in my experience, the way people walk into rooms comes in two different flavors. Those whose presence enhances the teamThose whose presence fractures the team The difference between them is visible when you ask the question: who are they trying to make look good right now? If the answer is the team, then they are likely going to integrate into the team, and their ideas, challenges, and contributions will be recognized, appreciated, and rewarded. This person is joining the team and has set the proper conditions to enhance the team. If the answer is themselves, then they are likely going to immediately encounter resistance that they will be forced to spend an inordinate amount of time dealing with instead of helping the team move forward. This person is protecting their ego and has set the proper conditions for judgment, resistance, and potential fracturing of the team cohesion. How to walk into the room My suggestion for how to walk into the room is virtually identical to sitting on the same side of the table, which is the key concept in my book The Lovable Leader. This is because the most important thing you can do when you walk into the room is establish trust. Two people can give you the same advice or criticism, but if one of them is a close friend and the other is a complete stranger, you're going to receive it differently. The difference is trust. You trust that your friend still has your best interest in mind. There is less of a defense mechanism being engaged. Similarly, when you make a first impression on a team, I would suggest you start with the following steps. 1. Prepare an opening statement Let people know about your goals and intentions. Share with people how you have been received in the past including things you do that might rub people the wrong way. Acknowledge and label all of these things so that when those issues inevitably arise, people are prepared and you've already addressed and contextualized those behaviors and tendencies. Hi everyone, I want you all to know that I'm really excited to be joining this team. I already see how much hard work has gone into this process. I hope that I'm able to contribute by helping us work through some of the strategic challenges we're having. Since this is the first time we're working together, I want to call myself out and acknowledge that I have a tendency to let my enthusiasm bubble over and that sometimes leads to talking over people or being a little too high energy. I know that I do this and I will try my best to keep it in check. If you notice me doing it, please mention it to me as it's something I want to work on because my intention isn't to take away from anyone's efforts or dismiss anyone's contributions. 2. Listen, Be Curious, and Validate When you first join a team, your advice isn't likely all that good. That's because you don't know enough to know what problems need to be solved. So, at best, you've got a few nuggets of wisdom sitting amongst a variety of suggestions that are either not relevant or solve the wrong problem. For more on this, read Michael Bungay Stainer's book The Advice Trap. Instead, listen to what's going on. Ask questions. More importantly, ask good questions. Good questions are ones t

What does ego have to do with giving advice? Well, you may have felt this before when someone is asking you for advice. You may have considered your advice as life-changing, something that they will never forget, and point to you as their "saver." Maybe "this is what worked for me" advice, or you may have handed out advice to anyone and everyone without them asking for one. It sounds like an advice monster here! Come hangout with us as we go over Micheal Byngar Stanier's coaching questions and expand on Brene Brown's podcast to what we have experienced before and how we can all be aware of our ego in giving advice.  Micheal Bungay Stanier's coaching questions from the book "The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever" Kickstart Question: Whats on your mind? AWE Question: And What else? Focus question: Whats the real challenge here for you? Foundation Question: What do you want? The lazy question: How can I help? What do you want from me? Strategic Question: If you're saying yes to this, what are you saying no to? Learning question: What is the most useful/valuable from this today? ** If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping us share our stories! Join Us! Instagram: Hangout Talks: @hangouttalks Peter: @peter_thesuitedclimber Triet:  @triethoang hello@triethoang.com Contact Us: hangouttalks@gmail.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hangout-talks/message

Michael Bungay Stanier shares how to empower others through good questions in The Coaching Habit and how to get better results through giving less advice in The Advice Trap.Kate, Alyssa, and Nitya discuss the differences and overlaps between the two books and why they make a powerful pair. We talk about questions that aren't questions, the discomfort of silence, and why giving advice is so tempting.Listen in if you want to get better results by doing less as a leader. 

What are your goals and plans for this year - and beyond? Each year offers fresh opportunities for new pursuits, new goals and often big transitions. The fun part is the goal-setting, envisioning your future and how things can unfold. But how do you begin? How do you start to move forward on your big goals in a way that works, especially when you're pursuing something meaningful that really matters to you? My guest, Michael Bungay Stanier has answers in his new book How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters. His full bio is below, but you should know that Michael Bungay Stanier has been named named #1 Thought Leader in Coaching. I've learned a ton from following his work over the past 12 years - and you'll come away with useful takeaways from this conversation and his book. We discuss: What makes something a Worthy Goal What gets in the way of people starting to do things that matter How to craft and thoughtfully sharpen Worthy Goals What we can get wrong about resistance Action verbs that resonate with him now The value of doing hard things His involvement in Malaria No More Lessons he's learned about transitioning well The key benefits of How To Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters Michael Bungay Stanier joins us from Toronto. ______________________ Bio Michael Bungay Stanier helps people be a force for change. His latest book is How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters. He's best known for his book The Coaching Habit which has sold close to a million copies and has thousands of 5-star reviews online, and The Advice Trap focuses on what it takes to tame your Advice Monster. He founded Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. They've trained hundreds of thousands of managers to be more coach-like and their clients range from Microsoft to Gucci. He left Australia about 30 years ago to be a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University … where his only significant achievement was falling in love with a Canadian …which is why he now lives in Toronto, having spent time in London and Boston. Balancing out these moments of success, he was banned from his high school graduation for “the balloon incident” … was sued by one of his Law School professors for defamation … and his first published piece of writing was a Harlequin Romance-esque story involving a misdelivered letter … and called The Male Delivery. ____________________________ For More on Michael Bungay Stanier How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters (Amazon) Website: mbs.works _____________________________ Mentioned in this episode: Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life by Richard Rohr ____________________________ Podcast Episodes You May Like Tiny Habits Can Lead to Big Changes – BJ Fogg Smarter Tomorrow – Elizabeth Ricker Learning is a Lifetime Sport – Tom Vanderbilt The Power of Fun – Catherine Price ____________________________ Wise Quotes On Worthy Goals "This is such a crossroad, isn't it? What David Brooks would call: are you ready to climb the second mountain? Because you've climbed the first mountain of your career and you've had success and you've got status and you're now resourced and experienced, and you've got, as they call it Nordic highlights. You've done great. You got all of that. and you are 50 or 55 or 60 or 65. And you're thinking to yourself, I've got 20 good years left. At least I don't want to play golf the whole time. What am I going to do? And so this book is written because I'm 50 something, 53 or something. So I'm kind of in this space myself. And I'm like, okay, so a worthy goal is about what are you going to do with your time? There's a legacy act. So it's perfect for the folks listening to us now, Joe. And a worthy goal has three elements to it. Is it thrilling? Is it important? And is it daunting?

Michael's new book How to Begin: Start Doing Something that Matters is now available at www.HowToBegin.com. It's launch week for How to Begin. I've had a love-hate relationship with this book - mostly love - for about a year and a half, so it's pretty exciting to finally stumble into the sunlight, blinking and going, “It's arrived! It's here!” And that's why today's guest is so perfect; Jesse Finkelstein is the co-founder of Page Two, the company who published and partnered with me for this book, and The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap, as well. Get‌ ‌book‌ ‌links‌ ‌and‌ ‌resources‌ ‌at‌ https://www.mbs.works/2-pages-podcast/  Michael reads two pages from his upcoming book, ‘How To Begin.' [reading begins at 8:15] Hear us discuss:  ‘Unicorn business partners': “If you can find a wonderful partner, it's everything, but can also be the worst thing.” [3:45] | “I found it very freeing once I gave myself permission to not only hold onto the people who would support me on the journey, but to abandon the people and structures that would weigh me down.” [12:36] | Finding the courage to say ‘no' and dealing with the aftermath: “It's often to everyone's benefit if you're able to look honestly at a relationship or structure, and let it go.” [13:18] 

Michael Bungay Stanier is at the forefront of shaping how organizations see coaching as an essential leadership competency. His book The Coaching Habit is the best-selling coaching book of this century, with over a million copies sold. In 2019, he was named the #1 thought leader in coaching. The Advice Trap is his follow-up book that incorporates everything great about The Coaching Habit and expands it even further. Michael founded Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that helps organizations transform from advice-driven to curiosity-led. He currently leads MBS.works, a place where people find the clarify, confidence and community to be a force for change.To learn more about Michael Bungay Stanier and the advice trap you can visit:https://www.mbs.works/best-books-training-for-coaches-leaders-and-mentors/the-advice-trap/Also check out his next upcoming book: https://www.mbs.works/how-to-begin/From Michael: "I want you to think differently and boldly, about your goals, your ambition, and the difference you want to make in the world. My new book How to Begin: Start Doing Something that Matters will help you find, define and start your own Worthy Goal."Highlights:00:00 - Intro4:47 - Michael's journey to becoming an author 11:24 - Who or what is the advice monster?14:05 - Tell it, save it and control it18:25 - Advice giving is overrated23:14 - Advice giving motivated by superiority?26:51 - Solving a problem and growing a person29:01 - Easy change vs hard change33:40 - Why is it so hard to truly listen to others?37:46 - What is a practical action step to tame my advice monster?39:02 - What is success and how can I be successful? ***If you like this podcast and the books we discuss it would mean a lot if you left both a positive rating and review ;)Follow on:YouTubeInstagramFacebook

I'm interviewing one of the world's legends today!Michael Bungay Stanier's (MBS) newest book, "How to Begin: Start Doing Something that Matters" is now available for pre-order. Find out more about Michael over at mbs.worksWatch our video interview in Brisbane on YouTubeClick here for show notesMichael Bungay Stanier helps people be a force for change. He's best known for his book The Coaching Habit which has sold close to a million copies and has thousands of 5-star reviews online. His book The Advice Trap focuses on what it takes to tame your Advice Monster.He founded Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. They've trained hundreds of thousands of managers to be more coach-like and their clients range from Microsoft to Gucci.He left Australia about 30 years ago to be a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University … where his only significant achievement was falling in love with aCanadian … which is why he now lives in Toronto, having spent time in London and Boston.Balancing out these moments of success, he was banned from his high school graduation for “the balloon incident” … was sued by one of his Law School professors for defamation … and his first published piece of writing was a Harlequin Romance-esque story involving a misdelivered letter … and called The Male Delivery.Join The Flipchart community on FacebookSubscribe to Leanne's email dispatchConnect with Leanne on LinkedInFind out about Leanne's work at leannehughes.comSupport the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/leannehughes)

#527 I'm so excited for this episode. We are speaking with one of my favorite people in the world: Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is an author who's written a bunch of amazing books. He's also the founder of a training and development company, Box of Crayons, that has taught coaching skills to hundreds of thousands of people. In fact, one of Michael's books has been hugely impactful on my own business, and it's called The Coaching Habit. The Coaching Habit has guided the exact process I use when I coach my students—you can hear it in action when I'm coaching people on AskPat 2.0. Speaking of coaching, Michael also wrote another game-changing book called The Advice Trap, about how we default to offering advice to people before we know the full circumstances, and how to change our behavior to be more helpful to them. But the big focus of today's conversation is Michael's new book, How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters. And this book is incredible because it gets to the heart of why we do what we do. How do we make sure that what we're going to do moving forward is actually something that, like Michael says, matters? How do we have the courage to let go when we need to? And how do we navigate the raging waters that sometimes happen when making these decisions? We talk about how to know whether or not the direction we're going is one that lights us up. You're going to love this conversation because Michael is just a great, genuine person, with a ton of amazing insights to share. Show notes and more at SmartPassiveIncome.com/session527.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you want to improve the managers in your business, says Michael Bungay Stanier, do more coaching. You might think coaching equals being soft, but you couldn't be further from the truth. “When I'm asked to talk about my philosophy of coaching I've got two words, and the words are Fierce Love.”Michael wrote the book on coaching, literally. The Coaching Habit is the biggest book on coaching this century. He is the go-to guy for anything coaching related - his 7 questions format has revolutionised coaching, and while we don't necessarily talk about those today, they do feature. In this enlightening episode all about coaching, Michael, who's also founder of Box of Crayons - a learning and development company helping organisations shift from advice-driven to curiosity-led, talks about his latest book - The Advice Trap. This conversation is full of fantastic insights from Michael on how to be a better coach, how to be a better leader, and how to encourage coaching inside your organisation. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did. On today's podcast:The Coaching HabitThe need for social contracting when hiring a coachThe principles of coachingWhy ‘and what else?' is the most powerful question to askThe power of staying curious a little bit longerThe advice trap

To learn more about Michael Bungay Stanier and the advice trap you can visit:https://www.mbs.works/best-books-training-for-coaches-leaders-and-mentors/the-advice-trap/The full episode with Michael will release in November 2021.***If you like this podcast and the books we discuss it would mean a lot if you left both a positive rating and review ;)Follow on:YouTubeInstagramFacebook

Jerry Fu is a Conflict Resolution Coach, he facilitates leadership workshops and has worked as a Pharmacist. He focuses on resolving clients' conflicts at work, in culture, and within themselves. Jerry completed a Biology degree at Rice University and attended pharmacy school at the University of Tennessee-Memphis. Jerry has been fired (by avoiding conflict with an upset boss), has had to evict a roommate, been displaced for work, and dealt with bounced paychecks. - now he uses his previous ongoing struggle with conflict resolution as fascinating fuel for his work. In This Episode - We talk about the influential cultural expectation of growing up in an Asian-American family, stories from Jerry's past pharmacy work, we offer up lots of great advice to all types of leaders, we talk mentorship, reaching our potential as individuals, how to feed the right beast within, being free from the fear of conflict, breaking habits of being ourselves, becoming aware of feeling emotions and dealing with passive-aggressiveness. We chat about respectfully disagreeing, the decision of indecision, Jerry shares tons of advice gems and personal stories from his time around leadership workshops, how to step out of the people-pleaser role, emotional projection, today's climate of conversation, we talk about internal dialogue, current technological influences on our ability to be present in interactions, reading the room, reading body language, and the importance of humility. for more on jerry - checkout his linkedin here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerry-fu-pharmd-acc-53710187/ And his website here: https://www.adaptingleaders.com/ book recommendations: Made To Stick, Power Of Moments, Switch, Decisive, and Upstream by The Heath Brothers. Michal stander - The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap by Michael Bungay Stanier, Getting Things Done by David Allen, Atomic Habits by James Clear, Limitless by Jim Kwik, Building A Story Brand and Business Made Simple by Donald Miller. - And fiction: Everything I Never Told You and Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Stone. A few fire quotes from Jerry in this episode - “You will never be free of conflict. You may never be free from that fear, but you can still deal with it. You don't have to be afraid of it anymore.” “Passive-aggressive comments are funny in movies but they're terrible in real-life relationships” “How do I make the people around me great?”

Saya membahas buku The Advice Trap karya Michael Bungay Stanier. Buku ini membahas bagaimana cara memberikan saran yang benar. Seringkali, kita terlalu cepat memberikan saran, tapi malah saran yang kita berikan salah. Entah karena kita tidak menjawab akar permasalahan yang tepat atau kita terlalu cepat mengambil kesimpulan. Dengan mendengar yang mendalam, kita justru bisa bersama orang tersebut mencari akar permasalahan dan tanpa kita sadari, kita telah mencapai jawaban terbaik.

In this solo episode, I discuss what I believe to be one of the most important career skills for any leader: listening well.I've written on this topic many times here on the blog, but I wanted to dive deeper into a few of those posts and add some thoughts that will help you set yourself apart as a leader.Most people think they're above average listeners, but the truth is we can all improve in this area.If you want to build or boost your career, check out this episode to learn how you can lead others with kindness and confidence by listening well.You'll Learn2 questions to continually ask yourself to be a better listenerHow to avoid "after-meeting regret" by asking for clarification immediately while listening5 phrases to use to ask for clarification in a non-threatening way3 reasons we aren't good listeners3 actions we can take immediately to improve our listening skillsWhy listening well improves the diversity and inclusion of an organization3 Fundamental Career Skills Related to Today's Episode1. A mindset of serviceServing others as a leader, or servant leadership as some call it, is essential to building a career that is not only successful, but also meaningful. Listening well starts with truly valuing others and seeking to serve them.2. EmpathyBeing able to empathize and understand another person's perspective is critical to listening well. And, as we seek to better understand the person speaking to us, we will become more effective transmitters of information as well. Empathy is a fundamental career skill all expert communicators continually practice and refine.3. HumilityHumility applies directly to listening. When we are listening well, we are acknowledging that we don't know everything. We are admitting that we can learn from what another person has to say.Humility as a leader also gives us the freedom to admit when we get distracted and miss what someone has said to us. When we don't take ourselves too seriously and resist the pride within us, we can invest our mental energy in focusing on what our team member is telling us instead of thinking about how we are going to respond. Links and Resources from this EpisodeListening expert, Oscar Trimboli's websiteDan Oblinger's book, Life or Death Listening: A Hostage Negotiator's How-to Guide to Mastering the Essential Communication Skill on Amazon or locally in Wichita, Kansas at Eighth Day BooksMichael Bungay Stanier's books, The Advice Trap and The Coaching HabitThe blog posts discussed in this episode:How to Listen to Understand not Just to HearMore Tips on How to Listen to Understand not Just to HearWhy We are Poor Listeners and How to ImproveFor More InformationCheck out the full show notes on the episode page at GregHarrod.com. 

Hey everyone! Welcome to the show. The topic we're going to dig into right now is Why Coaching is the #1 Leadership Skill Today. I have a special guest with me, who, in my opinion, is the best person on the planet right now to talk about this particular topic – Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company focused on coaching. He's the author of The Coaching Habit – my personal favorite business book – and he has another one coming out on February 29th called The Advice Trap. I've already preordered my copy – make sure you preorder yours too (link at the bottom of the show notes). In this episode, we dive into: What it takes to be a good manager, 5 Reasons why people resist being more coach-like, Michael's definition of coaching, How coaching drives impact and engagement, Coaching conversations, and a whole lot more. Click that play button to listen! Don't forget to subscribe and rate us on Apple Podcasts! What is coaching? This is my definition. It's a behavior, and the behavior is this: can you stay curious a little bit longer? Can you rush to action and advice-giving a little bit more slowly? It's simple, but it's difficult. Impact, Engagement and Coaching. In essence, the two key drivers in an organization are impact, which is productivity, and meaning, which is engagement. Coaching is one of the key skills – I know it is, because research tells us – to drive both impact and engagement. What do you want? That is a great question to crack open a conversation, just to accelerate it into a “Let's get down to brass tax here”. It's an easy question to ask and hard to answer, because people often don't know what they want, but it's really powerful to hold them in that space. Because once you know what you want, it grounds you. When you're grounded – that's the basis for action and movement. Another thing I really love about that question is to ask it of yourself, particularly when you're feeling annoyed, discombobulated, knocked off balance, when things have been hard for you and you're struggling with a particular relationship. Just go, “What do I want?” Often we hesitate around difficult conversations, not because we're scared of the scary conversations; we're just not clear on what we want. Michael's advice for new leaders Be skeptical about advice, because often, they don't know what they're talking about. They're projecting all sorts of things. It's the same as feedback. Feedback often tells you more about the person giving you the feedback than it is actually useful for you at that moment. Links and Resources Connect with Michael: LinkedIn https://www.mbs.works/ Box of Crayons The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier (will be released on February 29, 2020) The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything by BJ Fogg Ph.D Playing to Win: How Strategy Really Works by A.G. Lafley and Roger L. Martin Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant Do More Great Work: Stop the Busywork. Start the Work That Matters by Michael Bungay Stanier Bullet Journal #MyBestQuestion on LinkedIn

Stuck in a rut?  Feel like you are on a professional plateau and not sure where you are going?  Wonder if you are "traveling" on the right personal or professional path?  Do you have clarity on your goals? If you have or are asking yourself these questions, good.  That means you are human and you want grow and develop.  I mean, if you didn't have these questions, you would probably be okay with the rut and plateau. I am an overachieve and never satisfied with the status quo.  There are pros and cons to this mindset, but for now, I will stick to the pros.  I ask myself these questions all the time and I recently found a model to help me answer them.  I wrote about this model during my recent Career Tip "3 Simple Questions to Spur Personal and Professional Growth". Getting clarity on your goals, finding the right path to get there and identifying what must be done to accomplish your goals starts with asking yourself a question, "What does success look like for me?"  This is a general question of course.  You need to specify it to whatever area you want to work on.  For example, for me, "What do role do I want to have at Cameron-Brooks in 5 years?"  Or, "What do I want my relationship with my children to be like when they are grown and out of the of house in 5 years?"  I asked myself those questions, and then I did an exercise called Preferred Futuring where I wrote in my journal my vision for each of those areas.  You can do this exercise for any domain of your personal or professional life. Now that you have clarity on what you want, you need to take stock on where you are and what you need to do to get there.  I recommend asking yourself, "Where am I now?"  Then, "What do I need to start doing and/or stop going to get to where I want to go?" There are more questions I recommend during the podcast, but those are the main one to ask if you feel like you're in a professional plateau. I also reference a couple of sources in the podcast that I want to give credit to:  Chris Perry at Market Sense, Inc. Sandler Training, Michael Bungay Stanier (aka MBS) author of The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap, and Caroline Webb author of How to Have a Good Day. Joel    

Have you wondered what makes people different from machines? Well one thing is curiosity—curiosity is something that drives humans but as yet not machines. And one person that knows humans and curiosity is Michael Bungay Stanier, coach extraordinaire and well-known author of the best selling books The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap. We first met Michael at the House of Beautiful Business, a very special community that gathers in Lisbon each year to make humans more human and business more beautiful. All three of us will be back at the House again this November and we highly encourage you to join in person or online.In this interview, we wanted to find out what makes a good coach. According to Michael, it is being able to stay curious just a little bit longer. Perhaps that is what will make humans better coaches than AI for a while yet. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit artificiality.substack.com

Michael Bungay-Stanier is an internationally renowned author, company founder and thought leader in coaching. Michael is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. He's the author of 6 books, the best known of which is The Coaching Habit which has sold close to a million copies and has thousands of 5-star reviews. His latest book The Advice Trap, focuses on what it takes to tame your Advice Monster. We start off the conversation reflecting on his career choices and discussing the differences between academia and industry. He then discusses what it means to be more coach-like in our work - staying curious a little longer, asking good questions, and being slower to jump to advice – as well as how to recognise our different advice monsters. We finish off with some questions posed by participants on a recent academic leadership development course. Overview (times approximate):00:28 Preamble 04:07 Bio07:26 Career choices, meaning and impact11:41 Academia16:45 Staying curious longer18:05 Advice challenges23:26 Getting practical32:22 Advice monsters & their prizes and punishments42:51 Responding to questions51:32 Wrap up 53:55 EndSee www.changingacademiclife.com/blog/2021/6/10/michael-bungay-stanier for a time-stamped overview of the conversation, transcript and related links

Enjoyed this? You might like to subscribe to the bookmark newsletter? A fortnightly email with book reviews and ideas of what you should be reading next. Click here to subscribe. Something different this week on the podcast.⁠ ⁠ I've had a lot of conversations recently with leaders who are struggling to adapt to hybrid working, who are facing challenges in their teams, or who are just feeling overwhelmed.⁠ ⁠ So this week on Steph's Business Bookshelf, I'm sharing three essential books for leaders to read (yes, it was a tough list to whittle down to three).⁠ ⁠ The three are...⁠ ⁠1) Dare to Lead by Brené Brown⁠ 2) The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap by Michael Bungay Stanier⁠ 3) The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni⁠ ⁠ Yes, I know that's four books. As usual, my podcast, my rules

Clare and Steve discuss coaching the person not the problem. Maybe it's our patterns of learning through education and organisational working that leads to us as coaches trying to fix the problem, resolve the issue, help achieve the goal? But what might we be missing by not fully noticing the person in front of us - how they show up, their baseline state, what is meaningful for them, how we experience them etc. because we are drawn to the presenting issue and a desire to fix that? Is that a learned behaviour and are we overly focused on demonstrating value? To what extent are they as clients, and we as coaches, hiding behind, or waving to distract from, what really might be true or needed? What happens if we coach the person and what does that mean?Claire Pedrick - the ‘wavy people' - https://www.3dcoaching.com/blog/3d-ideas-934-it-only-takes-a-word/(See also - “The Advice Trap” by Michael Bungay Stainer, who refers to them as ‘ghosts' - the people who aren't in the room) https://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/more-coach-like-michael-bungay-stanier/

Get the book, The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever Visit Michael's Website, MBS.Works About the Author Michael Bungay Stanier is a bestselling author and Rhodes scholar who helps people stay curious a bit longer, and rush to action and advice-giving a little more slowly.  strengthens leadership and culture within organizations by giving busy managers and leaders the tools to coach in a way that works.

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Welcome to Wellthy Living conversations episode 54I’m Lisa, your host and the founder of Wellthy Living.It is here that I connect with a variety of people to have inspiring and insightful conversations to help you to live a meaningful, connected and well life both personally & professionally.Our choices impact our work, health and relationships and today I am chatting with Jenny Cole to talk about the choices people make when it comes to helping others and discuss :Why helping is not always helpful - how to avoid the "advice trap” and the relationship dynamics that often get played out. Guest intro:Jenny is an executive coach, facilitator, educator and mother to Albert the spaniel, running two successful businesses, Positively Beaming and BEAM Consulting.Jenny believes that the world is always ready for a little more joy and her focus is ensuring you find it and build it into your life.Despite being a committed, excellent educator of 20 years and recognised national expert in the field of Special Education, she crashed and burned, walking out on the career she loved - an exhausted wreck. Her nervous breakdown/spiritual awakening led her to study why and how people thrive and the simple things we can do each day to make it so.———Sometimes we think the best thing we can do for a person is to offer help and advice but this can have implications on both the helper and the person being helped.It is also important to know that Jenny and I are both coaches and facilitators and not psychologists or counsellors so what we are bringing to the conversation is our own formal and informal learnings and lived experience ( with self or clients) in human behaviour. If you disagree with any of the content we share, that is ok and we welcome any feedback or contribution to the conversation. You can use the contact page on either of our websites, reach out on social media or leave a comment to further contribute to today's topic. In the episode, we start by defining: helping, helpful, what contributes to advice giving and what is the advice trap.and go on to discuss:- Relational dynamics that contribute to people owning certain roles:victim, persecutor or rescuer. - sometimes referred to as the dreaded drama triangle Victim - perceived hurt or harmedPersecutor- doing the hurtingRescuer- intervene to support victim -peacemaker ( completes loop)- Common reasons we step into the helper or the rescuer role:- Implications/signs and symptomsFor the helper: (rescuer)For the receiver ( or the victim)- How the rescuer can be more aware of the difference between their own needs and the other persons- A more mindful and empowering way to be supportive: How to you help without over helping? How do you support someone to help themselves?- Leading with curiosity - Detachment to outcome of other peoples choices - relinquishing the needs to feel responsible or have control over someone's outcome- Supporting with presence, process and communication- Self awareness tools and practiceA question to ponder on:Does helping enhance our connection with others or does it harm our connection? Share your response to this in the comments section.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------What’s your biggest insight or takeaway from today's conversation. Leave a comment and let us know.And if you’d like more info on Jenny : https://positivelybeaming.simplero.com/If you’ve enjoyed this episode, please give it a like, write a comment and share it with your friends. Also subscribe to the Wellthy Living podcast on iTunes, Spotify and the Wellthy Living youtube channel, so you can listen to more conversations with wonderful humans whose stories, knowledge, actionable ideas and wisdom can help you to live a meaningful, connected and well life, both personally and professionally. I’m Lisa, I’m an integrated life, clarity and wellbeing coach, and a professional conversation facilitator.To find out more about my services you can visit my website www.wellthyliving.com.au or connect with me on all social media channels.https://www.facebook.com/welllthyliving/https://www.instagram.com/wellthy.living/https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisaentwisle/Until next time remember connection is medicine

This episode of the Coaching Culture podcast sees Jo Wright welcome coaching guru and renowned author Michael Bungay Stanier to the conversation. Known world-wide for his best-selling book The Coaching Habit and its sister book The Advice Trap, Australian Michael joins Jo virtually from Toronto to discuss building a coaching habit, 'advice monsters', and how a guy called Dave inspired him to become a force for good... This podcast is also available as video content, so if you fancy watching instead of listening to Jo and Michael's conversation, head to www.coachingculture.com to join our community (for free!) and access all of our webinars, podcasts, ebooks & events in your very own community area.

Shannon Minifie: Box of Crayons Shannon is the CEO of Box of Crayons, the firm behind the best-selling books The Coaching Habit* and The Advice Trap*. Box of Crayons is a learning and development company that helps unleash the power of curiosity to create connected and engaged company cultures. Shannon followed an unusual path to becoming CEO of Box of Crayons. Her career began in academia, a pursuit driven by her desire to be a part of conversations she thinks are important. In 2016, she embarked on a new path, starting a career in corporate learning and development. She brings to her role more than a decade of experience in education and in practicing incisive investigation. In this conversation, Shannon and I talk about the word curiosity and the reality that not everybody thinks about that word the same way we do. We explore the distinction between troublemakers and changemakers and provide practical suggestions to inspire more curiosity inside your organization. Plus, we highlight many of the common barriers to utilizing curiosity well. Key Points Curiosity is a state, not a trait. Nobody says they are against curiosity. But the truth is that they’re suspicious of it. Four things tend to hold firms back from the benefits of changemaker curiosity: Complacency: being used to the status quo. Delusion: the belief that they are already good at it. Environment: espoused values vs. what’s being done in practice because of real barriers. The Advice Monster: too much a cultural reliance on advice-giving. Resources Mentioned Box of Crayons The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever* by Michael Bungay Stanier The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever* by Michael Bungay Stanier Related Episodes How to Build Psychological Safety, with Amy Edmondson (episode 404) The Way to Be More Coach-Like, with Michael Bungay Stanier (episode 458) How to Build a Coaching Culture, with Andrea Wanerstrand (episode 501) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Michael Bungay Stanier is a force for positive change. Michael will share insights from his newest book, The Advice Trap, that will give insights into how lead and live more purposefully. Curiosity is essential and it drives our ability to be mindful, humble and empathetic. www.boxofcrayons.com www.mbs.works

Create teams that are self-sufficient, autonomous and who perform at their highest level with Michael Bungay Stanier's advice and tips. Michael is best known for his books The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap which focuses on what it takes to tame your Advice Monster. He also founded Box of Crayons, a business that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. There are a lot of pearls of wisdom in our conversation as Michael talks about the elements of leadership and making yourself a more effective team leader. So if you want to up your game in leading your team, this episode is for you.  In this episode we discuss: [04:11] Michael talks about his book The Coaching Habit. [05:24] His impetus for writing his books. [06:40] 3 roles you go through as you grow in business. [12:00] Talking through the quote “Curiosity is insubordination in its purest form.” [14:22] How curiosity fits into leadership and how it fits in traditional leadership. [19:24] Pushing authority to the level it best fits in your practice. [22:07] Unwinding your habits. [30:46] Empowering people in your team. [36:17] Things he has learned from going to Oxford.

     Create teams that are self-sufficient, autonomous and who perform at their highest level with Michael Bungay Stanier's advice and tips. Michael is best known for his books The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap which focuses on what it takes to tame your Advice Monster. He also founded Box of Crayons, a business that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. There are a lot of pearls of ...   Read more... This article is copyright ©  Dr Jesse Green The post 296. Avoiding the Advice Trap appeared first on Dr Jesse Green.

This episode is about getting to grips with how to actually change your behaviour so you stay curious a little bit longer. It sounds like it should be easy, but it's not. You have to tame your Advice Monster, that part of you that jumps in to offer up ideas, opinions, suggestions and advice. And it's taming your Advice Monster that's at the heart of this book. But there are also some specific coaching strategies, particularly on how to focus on what matters most. We welcome author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever Michael Bungay Stanier More about Michael here: https://www.mbs.works

In this episode I try something different. It's not quite a book review, nor is it just a summary. I share plenty of quotes and passages from the book with the intention to provoke thought and stimulate discussion. This is one of the best books I've read on personal development, growth, emotional awareness and generally understanding yourself and how you relate. Reflecting on it while recording this podcast I was reminded just how important this education is right now. And how much this has positively impacted my life at a time when I really need the support and perspective such fundamental truths provide. I read at least a book a week on these topics and have done for 20 years, and if I was to recommend one book to read, it's this. I take notes in all books I read and for this one, every second line was highlighted, some were double underlined with brackets, an asterisk and dog eared pages.In this podcast I work though the five sections of the book and share the passages that resonated for me and I also share why they resonated, we get personal on this one. Below are the sections and times at which I discuss certain topics if you want to skip ahead – it's a long one but I reckon it's worth a couple of hours of your time. Here's a link to  Alain de Botton's website and a link to  The School of Life.The School of Life YouTube channel has plenty of short videos explaining many of these topics - it's brilliant, check it out. But beware, you'll easily lose a few hours in there! Chapter Markers0:02:00 – Intro to the book and author bio0:08:20 – How I came to this book (a little bit of personal context setting)0:13:30 – The introduction. Sane Insanity and In Praise of Melancholy 0:19:30 – The School of Life0:21:10 – Self0:29:30 – The Importance of a Breakdown0:38:00 – Others 0:55:20 – A Case for Pessimism (from a recovering naive romantic idealist)0:57:15 – Vulnerability0:58:30 – Building Connection (with a hug, a cry or glass of milk), and Listening1:01:30 – More on Pessimism and Disappointment as a Leisure Activity1:04:45 – Anxiety 1:09:40 – On the Need to be Alone and Nature as a Teacher1:14:20 – Relationships and the Failings of Romanticism1:18:25 – A Post-Romantic Approach to Relationships and Finding a Partner1:22:30 – How to Know You're Ready for a Relationship1:25:15 – Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles 1:33:00 – Conversation Starters to Build Connection in Relationships 1:33:45 – Why we Argue1:36:50 – Marriage1:40:10 – Work 1:43:00 – Culture1:44:40 – WisdomMichael Bungay-Stanier – 'The Coaching Habit' and 'The Advice Trap'Esther Perel – 'The State of Affairs'To subscribe to this podcast or leave a review, please do so here. 

Andrea Wanerstrand shares how widespread coaching has helped transform Microsoft. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) Why curiosity is the secret sauce to growth 2) Three coaching approaches that accelerate growth 3) How to get into the coach mindset Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep631 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT ANDREA — Andrea Wanerstrand works with leaders across the globe in transforming their teams to keep pace and get ahead in today's digital market through developing leadership and management capabilities. She is an International Coaching Federation (ICF) certified executive coach, serves as a global board director with the ICF, and leads the global coaching programs at Microsoft. With a business strategy focus, Andrea has 15+ years of international experience in organizations from 50 to 100,000+ employees with a multi-industry background including Technology Solutions & Services, Business Management Consulting, and Telecommunications. Expertise in leading the development and management of large-scale global talent lifecycle & development programs specializing in sales, marketing, technical operations, and customer service organizations. • LinkedIn: Andrea Wanerstrand • Website: AndreaWanerstrand.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo • Book: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck • Book: Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Dr. Richard Ferber • Book: The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier • Book: The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier • Book: The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life and Succeed On Your Own Terms by Vishen Lakhiani • Book: Undaunted: Overcoming Doubts and Doubters by Kara Goldin • Company: Hint • Company: Human Capital Institute • Company: International Coach Federation • Past episode: 055: Coaching Questions of Mass Instruction with Michael Bungay Stanier • Past episode: 297: Encouraging Insight Through More Coach-like Conversations with Michael Bungay Stanier • Past episode: 555: Why We Fail to Empower, Inspire, and Engage: Unmasking the The Advice Trap with Michael Bungay Stanier • Personality: Michael Bungay Stanier See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm really excited to share my conversation with Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is a really thoughtful, humble and impressive guy. He lives in Toronto and founded a company called Box of Crayons, which helps organizations transform from being advice-driven to being curiosity led. His two most recent books, The Advice Trap and The Coaching Habit are both really practical and fantastic tools for leaders looking to ask better questions and use those better questions to have a real impact in the quality of work that people around them do and the quality of solutions to problems that they arrive at. Michael is just himself a curious and delightful human being. We have a really interesting and—as many of my conversations end up being—pretty wide-ranging from poetry and literature to what it really means to have impact in the world and how we can really make meaningful change. So, without further ado, I hope you enjoy my conversation with Michael.

If you want to improve the managers in your business, says Michael Bungay Stanier, do more coaching. You might think coaching equals being soft, but you couldn't be further from the truth. “When I'm asked to talk about my philosophy of coaching I've got two words, and the words are Fierce Love.”Michael wrote the book on coaching, literally. The Coaching Habit is the biggest book on coaching this century. He is the go-to guy for anything coaching related - his 7 questions format has revolutionised coaching, and while we don't necessarily talk about those today, they do feature. In this enlightening episode all about coaching, Michael, who's also founder of Box of Crayons - a learning and development company helping organisations shift from advice-driven to curiosity-led, talks about his latest book - The Advice Trap. This conversation is full of fantastic insights from Michael on how to be a better coach, how to be a better leader, and how to encourage coaching inside your organisation. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did. On today's podcast:The Coaching HabitThe need for social contracting when hiring a coachThe principles of coachingWhy ‘and what else?' is the most powerful question to askThe power of staying curious a little bit longerThe advice trap

Michael Bungay Stanier is a world-renowned expert, author and speaker on developing coaching skills for leaders, the role of advice giving and developing meaningful learning experiences.His book Coaching Habits is a Wall Street Journal best seller having sold close to 1 million copies.Michael is the Founder of Box of Crayons, a Toronto based leadership development company, and most recently MBS.works – his vehicle to bring a life of meaning to as many people of possible.In this dynamic conversation, Michael and I discuss several key elements of his leadership philosophy and approach to developing leaders.The discuss the vital role of curiosity in building empathy, connecting to yourself and to others, enabling performance in teams and across whole organisations and essentially as a critical and under-appreciated leadership ability that must be practiced and refined.We review the right approach to advice giving, and most importantly not to fall for the trap of responding reactively to the first question asked – most often this does not allow you to contribute to solving the real problem.We move on to a fascinating review of Michael's perspective on power and control, the role curiosity and advice-giving play in these dynamics and most importantly Michael's view on the role of leadership in sharing and distributing power.We also touch on failure as a crucial element of the journey to success, learning both for the individual leader as well as how to design learning experiences for your team.Key messages from this episode;On Curiousity…- Curiosity is simply a must have for leaders to succeed in the world right now.- Curiosity creates empathy.- Curiosity connects you to yourself, to other people, and to the world around you.- Curiosity impacts on how effective, resilient and innovative you and your team are.- We can change our culture for the better by staying curious, holding back on judgement and not jumping straight to giving adviceOn Power & Control- The power of curiosity is that it disrupts hierarchy- Questions transfer power, advice retains or extends it- In giving advice, you claim authority. Asking a question hands over control.- Power and control exist as invisible webs in organisations.- Think about how this plays out for you, in your world and your work, and what role you play.- Consider doing a ‘power audit'.- An interesting exercise would be to design an organisation chart based not on hierarchy, but on implicit power and control.- Part of your role as a leader is to share power, and provide space for others to step into power.- You control the process, not the outcome. The opportunity is to do your best work in the process element.- Whilst you control very little, you can influence more than you know.Get involved with Michael's work via his website mbs.works, especially his incredible free course – A Year of Living Brilliantly – click here for linkAdditional resources;Google Coaching Habit or Advice Trap to get a copy of Michael's books.To watch Michael's TEDx talk, click hereTo check out Michael's podcast – We Will Get Through This, head here - https://www.mbs.works/wwgttFinally as always, great thanks and appreciation to the team who contributed to bringing Better World Leaders to you;To Brendan Ward for production of all audio recordings and composition and performance of original music throughout each episode.To Cooper and the team at RadioHub studios for technical support and creative guidance during the episodes that are recorded face-to-face. You can find out about Radio Hub's services hereTo NokNok Studios for website design, hosting and advice. Find out about NokNok's awesome services hereTo Cirasa Design for logo and site graphics – Find our about Cirasa's inspiring work hereA special note of thanks this week to Cooper, if it were not for his provocation to me to reach out to Michael to ask if he'd be willing to converse with me during his period in isolation, this episode may not have happened. Good on you Coop!You'll find audio and video recordings for this episode, as well as links to any specific recommendations or related resources mentioned today in the podcast area of 4ileadership.com/insightsThis is the Better World Leaders, brought to you by 4iLeadership

In this episode of Growth Strategist Chats I am joined by Michael Bungay Stanier. One of the top thought leaders in coaching. Author of The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap. Founder of MBS Works and A Box of Crayons. Company Website: https://boxofcrayons.com/ Michael's Personal Website https://www.mbs.works/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/boxofcrayons LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbu... Box of Crayons on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/user/BoxofCra... I'm Simon Haigh, and I help my clients to drive growth through business, Leadership, brand, and personal coaching. In the past I have worked as a corporate Lawyer, an entrepreneur, and a multinational CEO. Now I bring together my years of experience to help others to avoid roadblocks and achieve personal and professional success with my expertise in negotiation, dealmaking, business, leadership. mindset and brand growth. http://www.simonhaigh.com http://www.twitter.com/SimonHaighcom simon@simonhaigh.com

We are pleased to welcome Michael Bungay Stanier back on the show. He is one of the world's most respected coaches, author of The Coaching Habit, and founder of Box of Crayons, which helps organisations harness the power of curiosity to drive culture. Since we last spoke, Michael published a new book called The Advice Trap, and stepped away from the leading position at the Box of Crayons to explore new routes in his business and life. What is Covered Why coaching and self-coaching are key leadership skills for the future of work and business How curiosity helps us manage overload and identify the real challenges in front of us What is the ‘advice trap' and how to successfully avoid it in order to really help your coachees Key Learnings and Takeaways Coaching is a key technology which allows the best of ourselves to show up and do our best work, and innovation is an ongoing part of how we work all the time. The new style of leadership for the future is more humane, scalable, and requires deep personal work to build your coaching muscle and stay curious. Working less hard but smarter as a coach has multiple benefits in increasing competence, confidence, wisdom and building capacity in others. Links And Resources Mentioned In This Episode: The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious and Change The Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier, https://www.amazon.com/Advice-Trap-Humble-Curious-Forever/dp/1989025757/ Box of Crayons, https://boxofcrayons.com/ The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More and Change The Way You Lead Forever, by Michael Bungay Stanier, https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Habit-Less-Change-Forever/dp/0978440749 How to Publish a Book on Amazon (and sell over 100,000 copies the SMART way) https://growthlab.com/how-to-self-publish-a-book-and-double-revenue/ Brave New Work: Are You Ready To Reinvent Your Organisation? by Aaron Dignan, https://www.amazon.com/Brave-New-Work-Reinvent-Organization/dp/0525536205/ The Art of Learning by Josh Waitzken https://www.amazon.com/Art-Learning-Journey-Optimal- Performance/dp/0743277465/ and interview with Tim Ferriss https://tim.blog/2019/06/27/josh- waitzkin/    You Are Awesome: How to Navigate Change, Wrestle with Failure, and Live an Intentional Life, by Neil Pasricha, https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07S2SYRNR/ MBS Works, https://www.mbs.works/ Connect with Michael Bungay Stanier on LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbungaystanier/ 

Today's guest, Michael Bungay Stanier, was ranked as one of the top coaches in the world! Michael is the author of the top best-selling book on coaching this century (The Coaching Habit) and his latest, The Advice Trap, that we're both breaking down today! Text Me! 1-917-507-8169Tweet Me: @RyanCaligiuriSponsor: getAbstract. Get your 3-day free trial to over 20,000 book summaries at http://getab.li/rrx See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Coaching Habit (the all-time best selling book on the topic of coaching), and his new book is The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever.

Michael Bungay Stanier is an author, keynote speaker, and trainer who has worked with organizations all over the globe. Michael was banned from his high school graduation for “the balloon incident,” was sued by one of his Law School lecturers for defamation, and his first published piece of writing was a Mills & Boone short story called “The Male Delivery.”

In this special episode with author, Michael Bungay Stanier, Michael talks about his new book, The Advice Trap and ends with a live LinkedIn Q&A. How to Leverage Technology to Succeed in Your Online Negotiations Request a Custom Workshop For Your Company   Download Your Negotiation Preparation Guide Connect with Michael on LinkedIn Book: The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever Book: The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever More from Michael: boxofcrayons.com Connect with Kwame on LinkedIn

This week's Accidental Creative podcast features Michael Bungay Stanier discussing his book The Advice Trap. Have you ever been in a situation where someone offered unsolicited advice? “Let me tell you what you need to do…” How did it feel? If you're like me, you were probably grateful that they wanted to help, but it put you in the awkward position of either refusing their advice or, if they were your manager, acting on it just to avoid offending them in spite of your better instincts. It's tempting to fall into the “advice trap”, which is when we lead with advice-giving instead of pausing to listen to the other person, to consider what they really need, and to ask questions that help them arrive at the answer on their own. Not only is this a better way to ensure that we are truly helping the other person, but it's also the best way to help them learn to solve problems on their own. Here are a few things I took away from my chat with Michael: Lead With Curiosity Ask a lot of questions. You should lead with your curiosity, not your advice. By asking a lot of questions, you will not only better understand what's truly going on, but you will also help the other person learn to think through their problems in a more guided way. This is how a great manager (or peer) can build into team members in a lasting manner. Ask questions first, and let the other person sort through the problem in conversation with you. Release The Control One of the biggest temptations of a manager is to clamp down and attempt to control the output of the team. Brilliant, driven creative pros need freedom to think for themselves and to try new methods for accomplishing their work. When you control your team, the work shrinks until it's only as big as your personal sphere of attention can bear. Instead, you should aim to allow your team freedom to operate within clear principles and boundaries that guide their decisions. Lead with influence, not control. Give Empathetic Advice The worst advice is always the “if I were you, this is what I'd do” type. Why? Because you are filtering your advice through your own lens, not the world of the other person. Instead, when you do give advice first put yourself in the other person's position and try to imagine how it would feel to be in their shoes. How might their feelings and concerns differ from what you'd be experiencing if you were in their situation? Before giving advice, imagine that you're in the other person's situtation. Once you learn to temper the “advice monster”, you'll become the manager (or the peer) that everyone wants to work with. This episode is sponsored by Skillshare. Explore your creativity and two free months of Premium Membership at Skillshare.com/AC.   The intro music for the AC podcast is by Joshua Seurkamp. End remix is by DJ Z-Trip.

Widely known for his best selling books, The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap, as well as his high energy, inspiring conference presentations, Michael Bungay Stanier sits down for a discussion of the relevance of his work right now.In the current environment people are looking to their leaders and managers for some level of certainty.  This creates the ideal environment for the Advice Monster to rear its ugly head.  To succeed leaders need instead to develop curiosity, humility and empathy so as to enable those they lead to thrive and succeed.To me Michael is Canada's Question Master - join us as he answers a few of mine.

Oscar Trimboli explains how to increase your impact through sharpening your listening.— YOU'LL LEARN —1) The magic phrases powerful listeners use2) How to expertly listen for what's unsaid3) One question to ask the people you disagree with Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep560 for clickable versions of the links below.— ABOUT OSCAR — Oscar Trimboli is an author, host of the Apple award-winning podcast Deep Listening and a sought-after keynote speaker. He is passionate about using the gift of listening to bring positive change in homes, workplaces and cultures around the world. He is a marketing and technology industry veteran with over 30 years' experience across general management, sales, marketing and operations for Microsoft, PeopleSoft, Polycom, Professional Advantage and Vodafone.Oscar lives in Sydney with his wife Jennie, where he helps first-time runners and ocean swimmers conquer their fears and contributes to the cure for cancer as part of Can Too, a cancer research charity.• Oscar's website: www.oscartrimboli.com/— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW —• Tool: TextExpander• Book: Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear• Past episode: 555: Why We Fail to Empower, Inspire, and Engage: Unmasking the The Advice Trap with Michael Bungay Stanier— THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Blinkist. Learn more, faster with book summaries you can read or listen to in 15 minutes at blinkist.com/awesomeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Michael Bungay Stanier is a best selling author, thought leader and entrepreneur who also worked his way through college in restaurants. He sits down with The GM Coach for a brief trip down restaurant memory lane and to discuss the current times with COVID-19, healthy isolation and the changes in business, today. I really love his 'weak ties' connection strategy and started hosting online networking events each week. In the second half of the show, we also get into his books The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap. At times the roles are reversed as Mr. Stanier asks me questions about how I use his tools in real life. Books: The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever Bio: Michael Bungay Stanier is a leading coaching expert, renowned keynote speaker, and bestselling author of The Coaching Habit, which has sold more than 500,000 print copies since its 2016 release, and Do More Great Work (100,000 copies sold). His follow-up to The Coaching Habit, The Advice Trap, was released in February 2020. Michael is the founder of Box of Crayons, a company that strengthens leadership and culture within organizations by giving busy managers and leaders the tools to coach in a way that works. Under Michael's guiding influence, Box of Crayons designs and delivers programs that reframe how people think about coaching as a strategic skill. He works with clients from all sectors, including Microsoft, Volvo, the United Nations, Sotheby's, and PwC. A Rhodes Scholar and an influential thinker in the coaching space, Michael was selected by Marshall Goldsmith as the #1 Thought Leader in Coaching in the world. He lives in Toronto. Michael Bungay Stanier Websites & Social www.mbs.works boxofcrayons.com Linkedin TEDx Talk --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/restaurantgeneralmanager/support

Welcome to another episode of Creative On Purpose Live! This is a show about flying higher in endeavors that make a difference. Step into possibility with integrity and intention. It's time to be creative on purpose. Are you ready? Let's go! I'm your host, Scott Perry, Chief Difference Maker at Creative on Purpose and author of The Creative on Purpose Handbook. This episode's guest is Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is the author of The Coaching Habit and recently published The Advice Trap. Learn more about Michael at: https://www.mbs.works Here are some takeaways from our chat: - writing as process and practice - non-attachment - context - principles, not rules

MBS is back and joins us live from Toronto, Canada! We chat about coaching in a time like this, self-managing, remote work and whether everyone can be creative.On today's episode of The Daily Talk Show, we discuss: - Coaching in a time like this- Self-Management- Being responsible for other people's thoughts- Career progression - Oblique strategies and launching The Advice Trap- Creativity - Remote work- Michael's biggest challengeMichael on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbungaystanierBuy The Advice Trap: https://www.thebookroomatbyron.com/p/business-the-advice-trap-be-humble-stay-curious-change-the-way-you-lead-forever--6?barcode=9781989025758Watch and listen to this episode of The Daily Talk Show at https://thedailytalkshow.com/649Email us: hi@thedailytalkshow.comSend us mail: PO BOX 400, Abbotsford VIC 3067The Daily Talk Show is an Australian talk show and daily podcast by Tommy Jackett and Josh Janssen. Tommy and Josh chat about life, creativity, business, and relationships — big questions and banter. Regularly visited by guests and gronks! If you watch the show or listen to the podcast, you're part of the Gronk Squad.This podcast is produced by BIG MEDIA COMPANY. Find out more at https://bigmediacompany.com/ 

Michael Bungay Stanier explains why we need to stop giving advice and start asking questions instead.You'll Learn:1) Three reasons why advice is overrated.2) A step-by-step process for breaking your advice-giving habit.3) How to ask more insightful questions.About Michael:Michael Bungay Stanier is an author and the founder of Box of Crayons, a company best known for teaching 10-minute coaching so that busy managers can build stronger teams and get better results. He was named the first Canadian Coach of the Year. He left Australia 25 years ago to be a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University. Michael has been featured in several publications such as Business Insider, Forbes, The Globe & Mail, Fast Company, and The Huffington Post. He has held senior positions in the corporate, consultancy, and agency worlds. He has lived and worked in Australia, the UK, the US, and Canada. He currently lives in Toronto. Michael's book: The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead ForeverMichael's book: The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead ForeverMichael's website: TheAdviceTrap.comMichael's website: MBS.worksResources mentioned in the show:Book: A Short History of Nearly Everything by Bill BrysonPast Episode: 297: Encouraging Insight Through More Coach-like Conversations with Michael Bungay StanierThank you Sponsors!formstack. Get home earlier with simplified workflows. Visit formstack.com/awesome for a 14-day free trial.Blinkist. Learn more, faster with book summaries you can read or listen to in 15 minutes at blinkist.com/awesomeFender Play. Learn to play an instrument with your first two weeks FREE at fender.com/AWESOME.View transcript, show notes, and links at http://AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep555See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Richie and Michael discuss how to avoid giving the wrong advice and how to be humble, stay curious and change the way you lead forever.   Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Coaching Habit. It's the best-selling coaching book of this century, with more than 700,000 copies sold and more than 1,000 5-star reviews on Amazon. His new book is The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious, and Change the Way You Lead Forever. Michael is the Founder of Box of Crayons.  He was a Rhodes Scholar and in 2019 was named the #1 thought leader in coaching. Before founding Box of Crayons, Michael held senior positions in the corporate, consultancy and agency worlds He has lived and worked in Australia, the UK, the US and Canada. Michael has an M Phil from Oxford, a law degree and a BA with highest honors from the Australian National University.    RICHIE NORTON SHOW COMMUNITY:https://www.facebook.com/groups/richiepodcast      RICHIE NORTON SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: http://www.richienorton.com/      RICHIE NORTON SOCIAL:      INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/richie_norton LINKEDIN: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardnorton FB: https://www.facebook.com/richienorton TWITTER: http://www.twitter.com/richienorton    

Michael Bungay Stanier is at the forefront of shaping how organizations around the world make being coach-like an essential leadership competency. Michael is best known for writing The Coaching Habit, the best-selling coaching book of this century, with over 700,000 copies sold and over 1,000 five-star reviews on Amazon. In 2019, he was named the #1 thought leader in coaching, and was shortlisted for the coaching prize by Thinkers50. Michael's new book, The Advice Trap, is out on February 29, 2020, with plenty of pre-order bonuses available at www.theadvicetrap.com. You can find more about Michael at: https://www.mbs.works Where Others Won't is recorded in Toronto, Canada, and was created by Cody Royle and Adam Esker. You can book Cody to speak, or learn more about his background by visiting: www.codyroyle.com

Often we hesitate around difficult conversations, not because we're scared of the scary conversations; we're just not clear on what we want. – Michael Bungay Stanier Hey everyone! Welcome to the show. The topic we're going to dig into right now is Why Coaching is the #1 Leadership Skill Today. I have a special guest with me, who, in my opinion, is the best person on the planet right now to talk about this particular topic – Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company focused on coaching. He's the author of The Coaching Habit – my personal favorite business book – and he has another one coming out on February 29th called The Advice Trap. I've already preordered my copy – make sure you preorder yours too (link at the bottom of the show notes). In this episode, we dive into: What it takes to be a good manager, 5 Reasons why people resist being more coach-like, Michael's definition of coaching, How coaching drives impact and engagement, Coaching conversations, and a whole lot more. Click that play button to listen! Don't forget to subscribe and rate us on Apple Podcasts! What is coaching? This is my definition. It's a behavior, and the behavior is this: can you stay curious a little bit longer? Can you rush to action and advice-giving a little bit more slowly? It's simple, but it's difficult. Impact, Engagement and Coaching. In essence, the two key drivers in an organization are impact, which is productivity, and meaning, which is engagement. Coaching is one of the key skills – I know it is, because research tells us – to drive both impact and engagement. What do you want? That is a great question to crack open a conversation, just to accelerate it into a “Let's get down to brass tax here”. It's an easy question to ask and hard to answer, because people often don't know what they want, but it's really powerful to hold them in that space. Because once you know what you want, it grounds you. When you're grounded – that's the basis for action and movement. Another thing I really love about that question is to ask it of yourself, particularly when you're feeling annoyed, discombobulated, knocked off balance, when things have been hard for you and you're struggling with a particular relationship. Just go, “What do I want?” Often we hesitate around difficult conversations, not because we're scared of the scary conversations; we're just not clear on what we want. Michael's advice for new leaders Be skeptical about advice, because often, they don't know what they're talking about. They're projecting all sorts of things. It's the same as feedback. Feedback often tells you more about the person giving you the feedback than it is actually useful for you at that moment. Links and Resources Connect with Michael: LinkedIn https://www.mbs.works/ Box of Crayons The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier (will be released on February 29, 2020) The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything by BJ Fogg Ph.D Playing to Win: How Strategy Really Works by A.G. Lafley and Roger L. Martin Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant Do More Great Work: Stop the Busywork. Start the Work That Matters by Michael Bungay Stanier Bullet Journal #MyBestQuestion on LinkedIn Surround yourself with super competent, smart women.

Michael Bungay Stanier is at the forefront of making coaching an everyday leadership behavior. He is the author of The Coaching Habit ... the best-selling coaching book of this century with over 700,000 copies sold and 1,000+ five-star reviews on Amazon. His new book, The Advice Trap, focus on what it takes to stay curious a little bit longer and tame your Advice Monster. “Michael Bungay Stanier has done for curiosity what Brené Brown did for vulnerability. The Advice Trap is superbly written, a very quick and enjoyable read, but most importantly it will develop you into a far more influential leader.” -Thomas A. Kolditz, PhD; Brigadier General, US Army (ret); Director, Doerr Institute at Rice University. In 2019, he was named the #1 thought leader in coaching, and was shortlisted for the coaching prize by Thinkers50, the “Oscars of management”. He was a Rhodes Scholar. Michael is also the founder of Box of Crayons.

Michael Bungay Stanier is the founder of Box of Crayon, a learning and development company that helps organizations transform from advice-driven to curiosity led. Michael has written a number of books. His last, the Wall Street Journal bestseller The Coaching Habit, has sold over half a million copies and been praised as one of the few business books that makes people laugh. His new book, The Advice Trap, will be published in February 2020. More here: TheAdviceTrap.com