Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg | Goal Achievement, Productivity & Success – Simplified

“You are not a rodent.”Revisiting a 2021 Habits Habit Interview by Brian Conroy – Through the Lens of AI and the Scientific Method“Behavioral science may finally be catching up.”Catching up to what?To a simple and powerful truth:P.A.R.R. (Plan, Act, Record, Reassess) mirrors the scientific method.When it comes to building habits intentionally, it's a far superior framework than the overhyped “habit loop.”

“In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert's mind there are few.”— Shunryu SuzukiWhy care about a behavior model?Because human behavior drives everything—goals, habits, change, progress.There've been countless theories, experts, and frameworks.Over a century of behavioral science.But never something complete, structured, falsifiable, and truly practical.UBM is the first UNIFIED model of human behavior— a map, model, and compass in one.Simple. Teachable. Built for literacy, not legacy.ShareFor over a century, behavioral science has been fragmented—divided by theories, disciplines, and contradictions.Siloed. Specialized. Locked away in labs and universities.UBM changes that.Developed over two decades—and built from the fringe—UBM has been validated through real-world application and accelerated by AI. Large language models have compared, contrasted, and stress-tested UBM against dozens of frameworks.The result?UBM transforms behavioral complexity into CLARITY—finally offering a self-evident, falsifiable, teachable, and practical model of human behavior—just in time.“It always seems impossible until it's done.”— Nelson MandelaThe Habits 2 Goals podcast is hitting pause for a short stretch.I'm stepping away to complete something that, by all “expert” logic, should not exist:The Unified Behavior Model™ (UBM).According to Google—and decades of academic consensus—this shouldn't be possible.Subscribe nowWhy isn't there a unified behavior model?Not just one theory here, or another framework there—but a truly, elemental model of behavior that encompasses the entire behavioral field.We have models for atoms.For ecosystems.For economies, solar systems—even gravity.But not for behavior?Not one that is falsifiable, teachable, testable, and comprehensive.Why?Because human behavior has long been treated as too complex, too contextual, or too philosophically slippery to model with rigor.So we settled for silos. Dozens of disciplines, each mapping fragments of the behavioral terrain—but never the whole.UBM has changed that.ShareUBM—the Unified Behavioral Model™—brings together complexity and clarity. It reflects the dynamic nature of human behavior, while offering the simplicity of a model that can be understood, taught, and applied.UBM won't tell you why Jill never called Johnny back.But it will help both Johnny and Jill understand the full behavioral field from which that decision emerged.This is what the white paper reveals:A behavioral model that doesn't decode every mystery of human behavior— but instead reveals the complete system in which those mysteries arise.Former efforts revealed remarkable behavioral insights.Yet none delivered a unified, practical, falsifiable model of behavior.UBM is behavioral literacy for the 21st century. It's the missing operating system for anyone who works with people—and it changes how we understand motivation, decision-making, and change itself.ShareSide note: Please consider how crazy I'd have to be to announce this—if it weren't scientifically grounded.Gravity-like in structure.Rooted in impenetrable truth.For the fifth time:UBM is structurally falsifiable.(At this point, I'm hopeful you're looking it up—just like I did, when I was first told UBM is precisely that.)It works.It's testable.Teachable.Trackable.And most importantly? Simple.“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”—Leonardo da VinciIn a chaotic, smartphone-saturated world—where children face rising rates of depression, anxiety, and self-harm— even a basic understanding of behavior can be a game-changer.Elemental behavioral literacy for a disoriented age.No model or map offers guarantees.Yet we use maps every day—because they're useful.ShareTrue to its name, UBM draws from over 30 distinct scientific disciplines—from ecology to education, psychology to design, systems theory, neuroscience, and philosophy.The breakthrough wasn't in specializing further— but in synthesizing broadly.All truth passes through three stages:First, it is ridiculed.Second, it is violently opposed.Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.~ Arthur SchopenhauerDramatic, I know.Back soon(ish) with the final release.Until then—stay tuned.~mgSubscribe nowA respectful invitation to the academic community:If you're part of a university psychology department—or a related behavioral science discipline—we warmly invite you to review, challenge, and explore the Unified Behavior Model™.The following is a pre-release site for early access and distribution (currently in development): https://unifiedbehaviormodel.comKeep on trackin' ✅~mg

Be among the first to get your hands on the Unified Behavior Model™ white paper.Subscribe now"Fear is both instinctive and learned—wired for survival, but shaped by experience and environment."Is fear learned or hardwired?Yes. It's both.Fear is instinctual—wired into our survival.It's also learned—shaped by experience, memory, and environment.A seasoned coach posted after reading a neuroscience study:“Is fear learned or ingrained?”I couldn't help but reply:“Coach… it's BOTH!”And that opens the door for this convo

Subscribe and be among the first to get your hands on the Unified Behavior Model™ white paper.Subscribe now“Scientist (noun): a person who conducts systematic research to acquire and use knowledge—especially one skilled in the systematic observation of, and experiment with, phenomena in order to answer questions and test hypotheses.”Today, we're talking about what it means to be a scientist.We revere scientists.We admire their rigor.We trust their data.Why?Because they test!They measure.They record, reflect, and refine.Here's the question (one more time)…If you love science so much, where's your behavioral data?Where's the record of your actions?Where's your feedback loop driving growth?P.A.R.R.—The Habit Factor's method for intentional habit development—parallels the scientific method precisely:Plan: Form your hypothesis—your goal, your MSC, your “Target Days.”Act: Execute the behavior as best you can on those Target Days.Record: Log your successes and misses.Reassess: Compare “Actuals” vs. “Targets.”Behavior change—operative word—requires behavior change.NOT “LOOPS”SharePlanning, Tracking, Recording, and Reassessing is how you'll gather evidence that supports your commitment to developing new habits and achieving your goals.It's also how you'll identify what works for you.And, perhaps most importantly, how you reinforce your intention.Plan – Act – Record – Reassess.YOU ARE NOT A RODENT.Today, we're talking about scientists—not just the scientific method.What does it mean to be a scientist?Recently, a public figure was slammed for “not being a scientist.”I won't get into the politics—they don't matter. The news was all over social media (X and Facebook in particular):“She's a kook. She's no scientist!”Those comments nudged me to look up the definition of scientist—here it is again:“Scientist (noun): a person who conducts systematic research to acquire and use knowledge—especially one skilled in the systematic observation of, and experiment with, phenomena in order to answer questions and test hypotheses.”To be clear, this is NOT a political post.This is a gentle reminder that anyone who systematically observes, experiments, documents, and tests hypotheses is a scientist.Being a scientist—for better or worse—is not about a degree; it's about the act itself—the rigor of following a scientific method.That's precisely how P.A.R.R. arrived, by the way. So, while the social‑media frenzy prompted this inquiry, it also reminded me of what's almost certainly around the corner with the release of The Unified Behavior Model™ white paper.“You're no behavioral scientist!” This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Bad habits are like a comfortable bed—easy to get into, but hard to get out of.” ~Jewish ProverbIntention, Data, and the Ingredients for Lasting Habit DevelopmentWe love science. We trust scientists.Why?Because they use data.They run experiments. They form hypotheses and make plans. They test, track, and refine.Here's the question most people never ask:If you love science so much, where's your behavioral data?Where's the record of your actions?Where's the feedback loop driving your growth?That's what this episode is about.ShareHabit development requires more than repetition.It requires intention. And intention needs a PLAN.This is where most habit models fall flat.The Habit Loop is descriptive, not prescriptive.It explains what happens once a habit exists, but not how to build one intentionally.That's where P.A.R.R. comes in—a proven, habit-building system aligned with the scientific method itself:Plan – Form your hypothesis: the habit, your MSC (Minimum Success Criteria), and target days.Act – Run the experiment: do the behavior as planned.Record – Track your results using 1s and 0s, and jot down notes.Reassess – Analyze your results: targets vs. actuals.If you're 85% or better, raise the bar for the next four-week tracking period.If not, revise and stay consistent.That's how you develop habit strength and automaticity.Unfortunately, the famed “Habit Loop” — cue, routine, reward — is not the answer.ShareHabit and Skill Development Require 3 Ingredients:There are three fundamental requirements to build a good habit or skill:Knowledge: You need to know what to do and why it matters.Capacity (Not skill): The late, great Stephen Covey taught that habit formation requires knowledge, skill, and desire—understandably so. However, upon closer examination, a key distinction emerges:Both intentional habits and skills, once fully formed, reside in the same part of the brain—the limbic structure.When something becomes automatic, it's no longer a “skill in development”—it's a capacity expressed repeatedly. That's why skill cannot be a prerequisite for habit formation. It's basic capacity that matters. Not skill.Desire: The most important. With genuine desire, knowledge, and capacity, will be found—or created. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“People say, ‘Life is for living — not for tracking.'You can — and should — do both.TRACK what matters.”Want better results? Start thinking like a scientist.Not with lab coats and equations—just two basic question:“What did I try? Did it work?”That's the core message and method behind The Habit Factor's habit development framework, P.A.R.R.»That's also the heart of intentional behavior change.We said it before:Behavior change requires behavior change.Silly? Maybe.Stupid? Perhaps.Accurate? Absolutely.You are the scientist. Your behavior is the experiment.Change. Collect data. Reassess & Interate.Plan. Act. Record. & Reassess. = PARRWhat behavioral data are you collecting?P.A.R.R. applies the scientific method to your life.It's not a theory. It's a method. And it works.Share

Fifteen years later, things are starting to feel a little uncomfortable.The scientific method— common sense codified— is used for everything under the sun:Marketing? A/B tested.Ads? Split tested.Vaccines. Test Immune Response.Water Purification. PasteurizationFertilizer. Identify Kill BacteriaSpace travel? Rocket science.The scientific method dates back to the 16th and 17th centuries, with brilliant thinkers like Sir Francis Bacon and Isaac Newton laying the groundwork. It's shaped our world ever since.Yet when it comes to habit development—the stuff that changes lives...Where is the scientific method in habit development?Awkwardly, it seems behavioral science keeps directing us to the habit loop.Again. And again.Cue → Routine → Reward.If you're a rodent, a deer, or a cow, the habit loop is terrific.

How Peace of Mind Arises from Mutual UnderstandingDon't Die with Your Music Still In You. » Opens the 15th of each month.“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there.” ~ RumiWe ended last time with the idea that peace of mind is found by embracing paradox.On that note, we're headed back — since we left some meat on the bone.Let's explore a few familiar paradoxes:ExpectationsSam Walton: “High expectations are the key to everything.”Shakespeare: “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”Who's right?Both.High expectations can pull us to greatness — and they may cause heartache.Peace arises from learning to manage expectations.EgoRyan Holiday: “Ego is the enemy.”Charlie Munger: “Never underestimate the man who overestimates himself.”So which is it?Is ego the problem… or the secret weapon?Yes.Ego can destroy you — and propel you.It depends.Customer-CentricitySales guru: “You must know what the customer wants!”Steve Jobs, channeling Henry Ford: “If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses.”Which is it?Do you follow the customer… or lead them?Yes.Innovation moves on instinct — and listens to the customer.Compromise“Never compromise!”“Relationships are built on compromise.”Can both be true?Yes.Compromise is how bridges are built.“The highest form of maturity is interdependence.”— Dr. Stephen CoveyPeace demands discernment, not dogma.This is an invitation to sit with the opposition and the tension.This is the art of holistic understanding.It is not about being indecisive — it's about being OPEN.“He who confronts the paradoxical exposes himself to reality.”— Friedrich DürrenmattSee you in the field. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Don't Die with Your Music Still In You. » Launches April 15, 2025! “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.” ~F. Scott FitzgeraldToday's episode is about a rare kind of peace—the kind that arises not from resolution, but from accepting contradiction and choosing to live within it.Not by picking sides. Not by attempting to make the tension disappear.By learning to live with it—curious, present, alive.I was working with a guy the other day—frustrated, spinning.First, he says: “Man, I don't get it… sometimes I'm such an idiot.”Later, without a blink: “But other times, I feel like a genius.”“It's both…”I assured him with a chuckle, “You're a genius and you're an idiot. So am I.”So are you, dear reader.Life is fluid, context-dependent, and full of contradiction.Exhibit A: Elon Musk.One minute he's launching rockets into space— the next, he's firing off a drunk tweet at 2 a.m. and tanking his company's stock.Genius? Yes.Idiot? Yes.Both. Yes!

Launches April 15, 2025! » Don't Die with Your Music Still In You“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” ~Joseph CampbellEverybody Dies, But Not Everybody LivesLet's call it what it is:Fear.Real, gut-level, heart-thumping fear.The kind of fear that shows up right before you leap.Or, begin the difficult conversation.Or, commit to chasing your dream goal. What if fear isn't the villain? What if it's an invitation?Welcome to the cave.And, The Hero's Journey (See EVERYTHING)The Cave is the Call to AdventureJoseph Campbell, the master mythologist, mapped it all out.The Hero's Journey is the underlying story behind every great story.Luke Skywalker hears the call.Alice tumbles down the rabbit hole.Dorothy's world is swept into color.And you? You KNOW the calling… and, you're standing at the entrance of the cave.This is the call to adventure. The choice to enter the unknown.And just like in the myths, you have a choice:Remain in the known world, where it's safe and stagnant.Or step into the unknown, where it's SKEH-WEE —and transformational.Funny how it works.The fear is the test. It's the guard at the gate. It is the dragon.Behind it? Growth. Gold. Treasure. And, your STORY.What's worse than fear?Regret.» Don't Die with Your Music Still In You This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Mind Bullet Monday: The Denominator » The Habit Mastery Workshop“The pleasure isn't from the activity—it's from your brain's calculation of how much more there is to do.” ~Dr. KEver feel like no matter how much you accomplish, it's never enough?You're not lazy or broken.You're probably caught up in the mathematics of misery.We're calling this episode The Denominator for a reason.Recently, YouTube neuroscientist and psychiatrist Dr. K (from the HealthyGamer channel) addressed one of the most misunderstood emotional conditions today—anhedonia: the inability to feel joy in life.His insight, after reviewing a recent study on his YouTube channel?It's not just about what you're doing—it's what you think remains undone.In short, the denominator is your mental chatter—story—about everything that remains unfinished.It's the looming, pending, unresolved business that intensifies overwhelm and, in the process, diminishes your ability to feel good.And when nothing feels good, people begin to shut down—motivation disappears.This maps eerily well to a core concept within The Pressure Paradox™, where pressure—in the psychological sense—is often referenced as Force divided by Area.That's right. It's the same as the physics formula for pressure:P = F / ABy the way: you're not alone if you're thinking, “Slow down MG, we shouldn't be conflating physics and psychology!”DeepSeek AI said the same thing to me. Until it (he? she?) did.(See the bottom.)In The Pressure Paradox™, the denominator—Area—represents one's available resources: skills, time, energy, capacity, money, etc.The smaller the denominator, the greater the pressure. The larger it is, the more the force is diffused—and thus, the pressure is mitigated.When anyone is short on time, energy—even emotional bandwidth—and staring down a mountain of unmet goals—pressure spikes.Their story? One of insufficiency.Anhedonia and the Hidden Math of Misery: Since we think predominantly in terms of stories (see EVERYTHING), our brains script everything in real-time—call it “Thought 2.0.”According to the study Dr. K references, dopamine release is based on this calculation:Progress ÷ Perceived Total WorkPerceived being the operative word.If you believe you have 30 units to address and you've only made 1 unit of progress, his point is clear:The dopamine release is marginal—1/30.The larger the denominator—the imagined, storied workload—the flatter and more joyless the experience becomes.And, here's where things get interesting.Dichotomy Collapse(Bridging Present & Future)How often do we talk about dichotomous thinking on this show?Almost as much as we talk about P.A.R.R.It turns out, P.A.R.R. addresses this precise phenomenon:The tension between being present and active (low denominator) and planning for a future goal (big denominator).Dr. K shows how an oversized denominator—thinking in massive time scales like years or decades, paired with big goals—kills dopamine release and leaves us feeling numb.P.A.R.R. breaks this dilemma down.It shifts that “unsurmountable” thinking from impossible to simply directional—that's the destination.Today, we made progress.When following P.A.R.R., the denominator becomes just the “Target Day.”And that's it.P.A.R.R. encourages you to hold a long-term vision and stay grounded in today's focused action.By checking off our habits in the present, we feel good, stay present, and still move toward long-term goals.The denominator is reduced to that day—while we hold on to the long-term vision.Nothing is surrendered.For 15+ years, P.A.R.R. has been bridging this gap—and, according to science, addressing this denominator unknowingly.P.A.R.R. — The MethodPlan: Identify a meaningful habit—or three—aligned with your goal. Set your target days and minimum success criteria (MSC).Act: Execute in small, manageable steps.Record: Track it daily, using binary metrics (1 or 0), and take brief notes.Reassess: Review after 28 days.P.A.R.R. helps people feel great—by shrinking the denominator. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Mind Bullet Monday: Skeh-Wee » The Habit Mastery Workshop“Courage is the mother of all virtues because, without it, you cannot consistently practice any other virtue.” ~Aristotle”We've approached this topic from seemingly every angle possible…Time for one more.Skew-Wee.AlfredAI and I—at your service.Most of what's scary is risky.Most of what's risky is necessary for personal growth.As Jim Rohn put it:“It's all risky. The moment you were born, it got risky. Getting married is risky. Having kids is risky. I'll tell you how risky life is, you're not going to get out alive!”Public speaking? Skew-Wee.Posting an article or podcast episode? Skew-Wee.Publishing a book? Skew-Wee.One more time: “Courage is the mother of all virtues.”There's another way to say this, but we're not going there.How do you develop the virtue of courage?Anyone?The same way you develop any habit—intentional practice.Just ask our hero, Ben Franklin. (From H2G, Season 2)What About Real Danger?Risk shouldn't be an excuse for recklessness.Calculated courage versus blind fear… but what is calculated courage?Determining the value of the desired outcomeUnderstanding the driving why behind the desireKnowing the difference between probable, improbable, and impossibleRecognizing the real risk—“Right View”This is where (borrowed once again from The Pressure Paradox™) The 3 P's come into play.Since we can't escape pressure forever—only temporarily—we'd better learn to handle it.What are the 3 P's? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Possessed – MBM: Mind Bullet Monday » The Habit Mastery Workshop“At the highest level, you don't pursue the goal; you embody it.”In Season 6, Episode 49, we explored Obsessed—what I framed as Desire Level 10.0. Upon further reflection, I recognize that was incorrect.To be obsessed with a goal is a very high-level desire, but there's a higher level.Possessed.When we think of obsession, we often picture someone deeply fixated on a goal, fully immersed, operating at a level of focus that few understand. But there's still a degree of self-awareness in obsession. The person is aware they are obsessed.Possession is different.The separation between you and your mission becomes nearly indistinguishable at this level. The idea owns you. It consumes you. It drives your actions intuitively—with little conscious effort.Key Distinctions Between Obsessed and PossessedObsessed = Intensity Level 10.0 → High desire, relentless pursuit.Possessed = Beyond 10.0 → You are compelled. It's no longer a choice.Deadline + Pressure + Maximum Intensity = Possessed → External forces fuel internal drive until you must act.In The Pressure Paradox™, we explore how pressure favorably channels energy and fosters focus.At its peak, pressure eliminates hesitation and forces action.To be possessed is when pressure fuses with identity—you're no longer chasing a goal; you become one with the goal."A man possessed by his goal does not doubt or hesitate—he moves with a confidence that even surprises himself."Questions to consider:What happens when hesitation disappears, and all that remains is action? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Still don't know how to track the 'right way'? » The Habit Mastery Workshop“Behavior is science. Achievement is art."Today we break down a simple but powerful concept: become a scientist when it comes to your goals and personal transformation. Too many people rely on motivation, willpower, or vague intentions. Real progress comes from data—collecting data: tracking habits, testing what works, taking notes accordingly, and making adjustments along the way."Key Takeaways from This Episode

» The Habit Mastery Workshop“Where there is behavior, there is motivation."“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” ~Jim RohnEver thought, “I'm just not motivated”?Here's the truth: You're always motivated.Motivation is simply behavior—a movement toward a goal.For better or worse, that goal might be to sit on the couch and watch football.The point is, you're still motivated—just not toward what may matter most.The distinction is simple: One moves you toward your goals and ideals. The other pushes you away and delays them. The first is a decision to move through difficulty and temporary pain. The latter is a quick fix—an escape toward immediate pleasure.These two—pleasure and pain—are the monster pillars of human behavior.If we're not careful—if we're unaware—pleasure almost always kicks pain's ass. Until habits are cultivated, pleasure is almost always the default setting.It's the easy, comfortable path—but it's also a vote to delay your goals.Challenging behavior? That's different. Every time you take it on, you're casting a vote to fast-track your growth and get closer to your ideals.After all, this is why we call it discipline—it hurts.As soon as we recognize these two polar forces at work, we can address them.Ignoring that tough email, avoiding that difficult conversation, or skipping the gym? Chances are, that's motivation away from pain.To be clear, the problem isn't a lack of motivation.It's understanding the motivation that's always at work—either for or against your goals. And almost always, the path toward your goals runs through pain.The good news: a little awareness changes everything.As soon as you recognize the forces at play, you can flip the script.Pain becomes your ally. Discomfort is the gatekeeper.Reframe the story. Look at what you're motivated toward, most of the time.The “difficult” isn't punishment—it's progress.This is where habit tracking and the P.A.R.R. framework come into play.Something shifts when you align a few key habits with your most important goals and track them. You push through discomfort—temporary pain—and gain momentum. You experience the feel-good chemicals: endorphins and neurotransmitters tied to self-efficacy—the ability to produce a desired result.The magic is in the simple P.A.R.R. framework:It turns hard “stuff” into habits and momentum toward your most important goals. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Most self-help programs do not fail because they lack good ideas—they fail because they don't help people bridge the gap between knowing and doing."Ever wonder why there are so many self-help programs?It's simple: demand is high, but most solutions miss the mark.What's the mark?Connecting desire to action.Most self-help programs focus on knowledge or motivation but lack a clear process for accountability.They emphasize action items and next steps but overlook the deeper work of developing core behaviors—HABITS.The result?People start with enthusiasm but quickly revert to their old routines and, yes, their old habits.Here's the truth: what binds you can also set you free.That's where The Habit Factor stands apart—with a proven system to cultivate habits aligned with your goals, bridging the gap between knowledge, desire, and consistent action.And because it's a habit-centric approach, the new habits you build naturally replace the old ones.Enter: The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. MethodologyThe Habit Factor provides a simple, repeatable system to create lasting change by focusing on habits as the foundation for achieving your goals.Habits are the foundation for meaningful change, and this is the method to build them:Plan: Define “Target Days” (specific days for action) and “Minimum Success Criteria” (a low bar to build momentum).Act: Stick to the plan consistently, even if imperfectly.Record: Track progress using a binary system (1 for success, 0 for no success).Reassess: After 28 days, review your results to adjust and improve.This simple framework bridges the gap between intention and consistent action, empowering you to design habits that align with your goals.“Motivation gets you started habit keeps you going.”~Jim RohnTake a moment to reflect: What habit will you begin today? Apply the P.A.R.R. methodology to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.Make it a habit and keep on trackin' ✅~mg This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

FOMO: The Habit Mastery Workshop. Begins 1/17/25 Special promo code: “HMASTERY50” expires tonight.“Where there is hope in the future, there is happiness in the present."Language shapes our logic and thoughts. Small shifts in the words we use can unlock big changes—just like a simple line of programming code.Consider these three simple, three-letter words: YET, GET, AND.YETYet is about hope.When kids (or adults) feel stuck, they often use absolute language: “I'm just no good at this.”By simply adding yet, we shift the story: “I'm not good at this... yet.”Yet is a word that turns frustration into possibility, reminding us that growth is within reach.“Yet” suggests hope, which lights the way forward and, as the quote goes, can bring “happiness to the present.”GETGET is about gratitude.When you catch yourself thinking, “I have to do the dishes,” “I have to go to work,” “I have to go to the gym,” or “I have to go to practice,” consider changing the programming language to: “I get to.”After all, you possess hands to clean with, eyes to see with, and opportunities others may not have.Get transforms obligation into appreciation.Get opens your eyes to the gifts within everyday “tasks.”ANDAnd is about openness. It challenges rigid, either/or thinking.Are habits better than goals?No—habits and goals support each other.Is pressure good or bad?It's both—too little can leave you unmotivated, while the right amount sharpens focus.By adding and to your programming, you remove silos.And welcomes holistic thinking and, interestingly enough, fosters peace of mind.ShareConsider adding these tiny three words—YET, GET, AND—and watch how they reshape how you see yourself and the world.After all, it's easy to see how hope, gratitude, and openness pave the way to growth, happiness, and harmony."The limits of my language are the limits of my world." ~Ludwig WittgensteinLanguage is both a bridge and a barrier.It connects us to new ideas and can divide and constrain us.By choosing our words carefully—and sometimes setting aside prevailing definitions to explore their roots—we open up possibilities instead of closing them off. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“What holds your attention, tends to hold your future.” In today's hyper-connected world, staying focused feels nearly impossible. Algorithms are designed to serve up distractions tailored to our deepest interests. Case in point: I recently visited YouTube for instructions and was immediately bombarded with an irresistible buffet of videos—chess, surfing, golf, etc…Within 30 seconds, I forgot what I was even looking for. Sound familiar?The battle for your attention isn't just a minor inconvenience—it's a full-scale assault on your productivity, your goals, and your future. Every moment we surrender to distractions, we're not just losing time; we're forming habits of fractured attention and diminished focus. By being proactive and intentional, you can reclaim your attention and your future.Key Ideas to Guard Your Attention:Out of Sight, Out of Mind (and its Corollary): Removing distractions from your environment works wonders: the less you see, the less tempted you'll be. Delete non-essential apps, declutter your workspace, and turn off notifications. But here's the kicker: Out of Mind, Out of Sight. As soon as your attention fragments, your focus and the mental “sight” of your project leave you. Once the vision of what you're working on fades, it's as if the task itself disappears. Protect your attention, and you protect your inner vision.Create Attention Sanctuaries: Dedicate specific times and spaces for deep work. A clean, distraction-free desk and a phone left in another room can work wonders.Guardrails for Your Mind:Pomodoro Technique: Work in focused bursts (e.g., 25 minutes), then take short breaks. This prevents burnout and builds focus and stamina.Phone in DND: Set your phone to “Do Not Disturb” during work blocks. Use tools like Focus Mode to block distracting apps.Single-Tasking Over Multitasking: Do one thing at a time and do it well. Multitasking splinters attention and increases mistakes.Recognize Environmental Triggers:Social media apps, autoplay features, and algorithm-driven feeds are designed to hook you. Acknowledge these triggers and implement barriers:Use browser extensions like Freedom or StayFocusd to limit time on certain websites.Log out of accounts when not actively using them.Reflect and Realign:Set daily intentions: What's the one thing you need to accomplish today?End your day with a quick reflection: Did you win the battle for your attention? What could you adjust tomorrow?Write It Down:The simplest yet most effective way to keep your focus is to write things down. As Confucius said, “The weakest ink is stronger than the strongest memory.” Writing anchors your thoughts reinforces your goals, and provides a clear roadmap when distractions inevitably pull you away. The act of revisiting your notes restores clarity and commitment. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“It's not how you start that matters, it's how you finish.” ~Michael Jordan»Tired of spinning your wheels? One course can change everything » The Habit Mastery Workshop. Begins 1/17/25Let's talk about finishing strong. Does anyone remember who led at halftime, anyway?Whether it's the final reps of a workout, the last chapter of a book, the home stretch of a goal, or the end of the year, finishing with purpose and intensity changes everything.The act of finishing strong isn't just motivational fluff; it's a game-changer for habit-building, self-confidence, and—bonus—a sweet dopamine rush.Benefits of Finishing StrongSupercharges Confidence: Ending on a high note convinces your brain you're the kind of person who executes on a plan and finishes what they start. When your last mile is faster than your first mile—you're finishing strong! Finishing what you plan—even small tasks (behaviors you're looking to cultivate into habits)—produces self-efficacy. Self-efficacy is the cornerstone of The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R., habit-building methodology.Reinforces Habit Strength: Imagine your habit as a snowball rolling downhill. Finishing strong reinforces your commitment; it grows larger and faster and gains momentum with each successful completion.Brain Candy: When you complete a task—almost any task you set out to accomplish—your brain rewards you with dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins. Bonus: all these feel-good chemicals help to reinforce your motivation to get back after it!Tomorrow Meets a Stronger You: Today's strong finish equates to you rejoining that next practice effort even stronger. You're essentially handing future-you a gift—you're paying it forward with each strong finish!Laser Focus: Aiming to finish strong forces you to up the ante—increase the energy, intensity, and focus.“A good start's a joyful run, but finishing strong is second to none.”P.A.R.R. and Finishing StrongThe Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. methodology (Plan, Act, Record, Reassess) sets you up for a strong finish by helping you to establish a “low bar”—making finishing strong easier.How it all connects:Plan: Start with your habit's “Target Days” are they (M, W, F) or (Tu, Th)? Notice they do NOT need to be every day. You select the days that work with you and your schedule. Then, identify the “Minimum Success Criteria” (MSC)—the “low-bar” part of your habit-building plan. For instance, 5 pushups or 25 pushups? Writing for 10 minutes or 10 pages?Act: Each action (according to your plan) becomes a mini-finish line. Crush it on your target days, and you're already finishing strong at a micro-level, which keeps the momentum building.Record: Track your progress against your “Targets” and build accountability. The more you see wins stack up, the easier it is to keep finishing strong.Reassess: Reflecting on what worked (and what didn't) ties a neat bow on your efforts and preps you for the next challenge.When you approach habits with P.A.R.R., you're not just grinding—you're creating a cycle of intentional starts and triumphant finishes.How to Finish StrongSet Your Sights on Small Wins: Small helps to get started—convincing yourself it'll be easy to start. Establishing low “Minimum Success Criteria” on your “Target Days” is the secret weapon of P.A.R.R., which works to help get started AND to finish strong.Consistency Beats Intensity: Skip the “all or nothing” mindset. Show up consistently and let habit strength compound over time.Plan to Win: Strong finishes rarely happen by accident. Decide in advance if you'll be exceeding your “Minimum Success Criteria.” Not so you can get two checks—but so you'll finish strong and show up next time even stronger.Reflect and Celebrate: Celebration is almost instantaneous as your natural reward systems—endorphins and neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine—will kick in every time you complete your “Minimum Success Criteria” on your “Target Days.” It won't just be a mental high-five… it'll be an emotional one that will keep you pumped and motivated as you prove self-efficacy.“Habit development cares little about bursts of energy. Habits are developed via consistency over time. The notion that you have to keep daily streaks alive or you can't miss two days is completely a myth. Consistency over time is the key to habit development, period.” This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“It's the space between the notes that makes the music.” ~Debussy**Private Coaching Accelerator (Limited Spots): Learn More Here! **Debunking the Myth of ‘1% Better Every Day'The idea of getting 1% better every day has been popularized by books, influencers, and motivational speakers for more than thirty years. I recall Tony Robbins preaching the message back in the late '80s. More recently, another bestselling habit book has taken Tony's mantra to new levels of cliché-dom.On the surface, “1% Better Every Day” sounds fantastic, and it's certainly aspirational.After all, it represents consistent, steady improvement over time—day in, day out. What could be more motivational than that?It seems like the perfect recipe for day-to-day self-improvement, right?1% better every day.Unfortunately, the reality is very different.Learning any new skill, building any new habit, or improving in any meaningful way is a process filled with starts, stops, gradual and sometimes rapid progress, as well as regression. All growth requires space—rest and silence. After all, muscles don't grow while you're lifting the weights; they grow when you're resting.So, while the message of “1% Better Every Day” is well-meaning, it's also a myth.Improvement is never linear.Ever heard the phrase “two steps forward, one step back”?Sometimes, it may be three or even ten steps back.Credit: The “Success” meme“Don't break the streak,” “Never miss two days,” “It takes 21 days to build a habit,” and “1% Better Every Day” all fall into the same silly cliché bucket when it comes to personal improvement and habit development. And all miss the crucial idea that rest, recovery, space, and silence should be part of anyone's growth and new skill and habit development plan.ShareTake a hard look at the meme above—does that resemble 1% better every day? Yet, this (below) is what “they” want you to believe.

“Pressure is a privelage.” ~Billie Jean King** New Private Coaching Accelerator (Pilot): Learn More Here! **Does it ever feel like pressure is out to get you?For years, experts in performance psychology have told us that pressure is the “enemy of success.”It seems logical, right?After all, under pressure, things can go sideways. Deadlines get blown. People choke. Sometimes, terrible things happen.But here's the twist: pressure isn't the bad guy.It can be one of your most unexpected allies—if you allow it.Think about it: What's a deadline, if not pressure's way of snapping us out of procrastination and forcing us to get things done?At the Olympics—where the stakes are enormous and the pressure is sky-high—not all athletes crumble; in every Olympics, world and Olympic records are set.Why is that?If pressure were truly the enemy of success, why are so many ‘successful' people known for navigating pressure-filled waters?Consider Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, or Nelson Mandela. Weren't they immersed in some of the most pressure-packed circumstances imaginable?Isn't their heroism defined by how they navigated that pressure, rather than crumbled under it?Here's the truth: Pressure isn't inherently good or bad—it's neutral, precisely like the force of habit.Whether we like it or not, it's not going away anytime soon.Pressure was with you the day you were born, and it's certain to be with you until your final breath.Thus, it's probably worth understanding it better.»New Year Special: Upgrade your membership in 2025! Enter: The Pressure Paradox® —the sequel to The Habit Factor®.Turns out, there's a simple mantra—a formula—for navigating pressure, and it's detailed extensively in The Pressure Paradox®; it's identified simply as “The 3 P's.”Plan. Prepare. Practice.More at: https://habits2goals.substack.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

What's a Manifest?While “manifest” can function as an adjective, it is most commonly used as a noun or verb.As a noun: A manifest is the captain's list—a detailed record of what's being carried and delivered to a destination.As a verb: To manifest refers to the act of turning goals, dreams, and ideals into physical reality.In today's Mind Bullet, we explore the common ground between these meanings.It's likely no coincidence that they share the same name. The concepts are inherently connected.To manifest your goals (verb), it's crucial to DOCUMENT your efforts—the process itself.This is where many TikTok and Instagram "Gooroos" get it wrong. They promise you'll manifest your dreams simply by visualizing, repeating mantras, and meditating.What they often overlook is this fundamental truth:Manifestation is a process of documentation.Read that again.To manifest effectively, you must track where you're headed, what's working, and what isn't. You need to record your actions, behaviors, and habits. (Join the waitlist here.)The act of documenting and tracking is the manifestation bridge—the critical link between a foggy, far-off dream and seeing it take shape in reality.Why Habit Tracking Changes EverythingAll captains are required to carry a manifest:It clarifies the mission: You can't deliver what you can't define.It keeps you accountable: Progress is easier to measure when it's written down.It shows the path forward: If you get off course, the manifest reminds you where you're going—and why.In your life, tracking your habits is your personal manifest. Without it, you're just guessing whether you're moving in the right direction. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” ~ SocratesWhat are you building?Wise words, right? Let's be honest—Socrates didn't have to deal with email inboxes or social media.Change was easier when your biggest distractions were donkeys.Still, his message holds up. If you're tired of replaying your greatest bad habits hits… (Procrastination: The Remix, anyone?), it's time to focus on building the new.Key IdeasChange is constant: Everything bound by time is changing—including you. Whether you like it or not, life keeps moving forward.Let go of your EX—the past: Whether it's a toxic habit, a dead-end goal, or your undying love for midnight ice cream binges, clinging to the old only makes it harder to build the new. The past is like that annoying ex—it's not helping you grow, so why keep holding on?Build, don't battle: Ever tried arguing with yourself? It's exhausting. Telling yourself you'll “definitely start tomorrow” only to repeat the same old habits feels like shadowboxing your brain. Instead, channel that energy into ACTION. Dust off that dream—like writing that book you've been “starting” since 2012— take the first step.Start small and keep it real: Plato said, "The beginning is the most important part of the work." Translation? S.T.A.R.T.—Simple. Today. Actions. Repeated. Tracked. Quit over-researching, overthinking, or waiting for the perfect moment. Just start—even if it's messy.Time is short: As Brian Tracy put it, “There's never enough time to do everything, but there's always enough time to do the most important things.” Stop waiting…Today The Building Begins!Build habits like a boss: Use the P.A.R.R. method—Plan, Act, Record, Reassess. You're a human, not a rodent stuck in a habit loop. (see below)Listen while you build: Subscribe to the Habits 2 Goals podcast—it's like having a coach in your pocket, but without the shouting.Level up with accountability: Upgrade to a paid Annual Premium subscription and gain access to our upcoming Peer Accountability and Small Coaching group.Go PRO: Enroll in the 8-Day Habit Mastery Workshop for on-demand, next-level habit and skill development. It's structured, supportive, and (don't worry) kale-free. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“There is no success without hardship.” ~ SophoclesToday's Frequently Asked Friday (FAF): What's the one ‘habit/skill/trait' holding me back from living the life I desire?”The Price of AdmissionSteve Jobs often said that starting and running a business is “painful and difficult.”Elon Musk? Same tune, different key.These guys didn't just waltz onto the stage of success—they slogged through the swamp of pain, discomfort, frustration, and failure. Why?Because success is never a gift; it's the result of grit—a prize you wrestle from life as it growls at you.Here's a PAINFUL truth (again): nobody is born disciplined.Not you, not me, not even that annoying friend who crushes marathons before breakfast.Discipline is just a dressed-up way of saying, “I've become really good at tolerating pain without b******g too much.”The best part? Discipline—tolerable pain—is a learnable skill, trait, and habit, no matter how much you currently enjoy hitting the snooze button.Make Pain Your FrenemyPain doesn't have to be your eternal arch-nemesis.The Master Key: Begin with Pain Lite™Nobody's asking you to climb Everest in flip-flops. Heck, even David Goggins—yes, that David Goggins—was reportedly, in his own words, a “fat, lazy slob” before he turned his life around. Need proof? Look no further than the title of his bestselling book: “Can't Hurt Me.”Here's the thing: Goggins didn't wake up one day as the poster child for superhuman discipline. He developed it—one habit at a time, by embracing discomfort and leaning into pain.P.A.R.R. Your Way to GloryNo, this isn't a catchy new pirate slogan—it's a simple, proven process to help you build the habit of discipline. Consider it your battle plan:Plan: Outline your goal or habit. What are you aiming for?Act: Take small, consistent steps forward. Start messy if you have to—just start.Record: Track your progress, even if it feels tedious. Writing it down creates accountability.Reassess: Reflect on what's working and tweak as needed. Growth is a constant experiment.P.A.R.R. Leverages Your Executive Brain—You Are Not a RodentUnlike rodents, you're not stuck in a loop of pain-and-pleasure-based survival. You're human, which means you have access to three incredible superpowers:Choice: You decide what's important and where to focus your energy.Intention/Planning: You can anticipate challenges and create strategies to overcome them.Reflection: You're able to look back, evaluate, and adjust your approach for better results.Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. By following The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. methodolgy, you can tap into your higher brain functions and break free from the automatic “pain-pleasure” cycle that drives most behavior.So no—you don't have to climb mountains barefoot or live like a Navy SEAL to embrace discipline. Start small, embrace some discomfort. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” ~ Stephen CoveyFirst Things First: A Football Story (Kind Of)Picture this: it's Sunday morning, and I'm getting some “very important work” done.Deadlines, projects, emails—cue dramatic music—it's all calling my name.I'm laser-focused, in the zone.Then, my wife comes skipping down the stairs (okay, not actually skipping):“It's time to watch some football!”Now, I'm not going to lie. My gut reaction? Football?! Really?!I love football, but I knew I had to get caught up on these projects.My inner voice insisted, “You don't have time for this! You've got WORK to do!”But then, after a poorly timed epiphany, I realized the irony. I had set out to write about “FIRST THINGS”—about putting priorities in order. Yet, saying no to football would make my wife unhappy.Could I really write a productivity post about “first things” and then turn around and say, “No can do, wifey”?Was I productive? Nope.Was I effective? YES.Did I make her happy? Yep.And therein lies just one of the first lessons about FIRST THINGS.Lessons in PrioritiesPeople and Relationships > Projects and ThingsStephen Covey's principle isn't just about managing time; it's about managing life—what matters most.Few, if any, lie on their deathbed wishing they had answered more emails or finished more projects.Almost everyone wishes they had spent more time with loved ones.Watching football wasn't really about the game. It was about showing my wife that she was a priority.In the end, effectiveness always beats efficiency.“Most people are busy, yet ineffective.”I could've been “efficient,” said no, and powered through my work—but at what cost? An unhappy spouse?True effectiveness came from trading productivity time for relationship time.Maturity (and a few prior mistakes) are great teachers.My younger self would've chosen work, believing it was the smart and responsible thing to do.Older (and hopefully wiser) me has learned that success is less about checking boxes and more about making choices—and forging habits—that align with your values and your “ideal future.”What Are Your First Things?As Thanksgiving approaches, I'm reminded that gratitude and connection are our true FIRST THINGS.Work will always be there. Time with loved ones? That's fleeting.One less Thanksgiving is being served up on Thursday!So, take a moment to figure out your own “first things”—whether it's family, friends, or simply being present.Focus on what you value most—and be grateful for the real first things.----For personalized instruction on the P.A.R.R. methodology, check out the upcoming 8-Day Habit Mastery Workshop—an affordable program designed to help you build lasting habits and skills. Master on-demand habit and skill development for a lifetime, and kick off 2025 with real momentum! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” ~Bruce LeeNapoleon Dynamite got it right!Between you and your big, shiny goal is a gatekeeper.Any clue?It's the difference between doing and dreaming.It's skills.Do you possess, at a high level, the skills your goal requires?Identify 3-5 of the key SKILLS that your goal demands, and list them.Here's the kicker: skills and habits arrive together, like Batman and Robin—like salt and pepper—one invariably brings the other.Picture this: you want to write a book, run a marathon, or play the piano like a pro. Big dreams, to be sure.However, without the requisite skills/habits, these dreams will remain dreams.Is playing the piano a skill or a habit? Drum roll please: It's both!Skills don't just appear; they grow out of relentless, boring, intentional practice—repetition.How does one intentionally cultivate habits and skills?By following the P.A.R.R. method for habit development (published within The Habit Factor®). P.A.R.R. stands for Plan, Act, Record, and Reassess.Do you think this P.A.R.R. methodology sounds tedious?You're correct. It is.It's also where the rubber—your intention—meets the road—your actions.It's where progress, momentum, and ultimately greatness hide. Exhibit One: Steph Curry's tedium. To him of course, it's anything but tedious. Steph teaches us that it's the silent, stubborn act of showing up consistently, practicing that one shot or “kick” 10,000 times until you can do it in your sleep.“You are rewarded in public for what you have intensely practiced and refined in private.” ~Tony RobbinsSo, what's it going to be?Will you dream about your goals or practice them into existence? Decide which skills/habits you need today to move closer to your most important goal.Your future self is watching.Enjoy the show!~mgEager to put this into practice?For personalized instruction on the P.A.R.R. methodology, check out the upcoming 8-Day Habit Mastery Workshop—an affordable program designed to help you build lasting habits and skills. Master on-demand habit and skill development for a lifetime, and kick off 2025 with real momentum! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

MessyLife can be a real, unpredictable mess at times.There are things within our control—and way more beyond it. (See the Behavior Echo-System).So, we tumble through life, tripping over our expectations, cursing when things don't go our way, and thinking the universe owes us a smoother ride.Here's a quick story, courtesy of the NFL.It's halftime. The reporter is interviewing Mike Tomlin, the Pittsburgh Steelers' Super Bowl-winning head coach. “You've been inside the red zone a few times and come away with nothing but field goals. Isn't that frustrating?”His response: “It's not frustrating, it's football.”Boom.Without pause, Tomlin dropped a truth bomb that should be knitted on pillows worldwide.Football comes with challenges built right in. As does life.How many of us set ourselves up for disappointment, convinced life is supposed to be a never-ending merry-go-round of cotton candy and catchy music?We have generations of ‘kids' growing up (thanks to social media), floating along, expecting (happiness loop - prior episode), each day to be an easy ride.The last time I checked, life wasn't designed for ease and comfort - feel free to thank whatever gods you'd like for that.The good-ish news is this; when we stop expecting ease, comfort, and smoothness, we're braced for a bumpy ride.When we train ourselves for difficulties, the difficulties become easier. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“No person is free who cannot command themselves.” ~ Pythagoras Welcome to NOvember"Who Is In Control?" This November, H2G - Habits 2 Goals challenges you to ask one crucial question: Who is in control? Discipline is a Habit“Nobody is born disciplined. It's something you cultivate.”Discipline is not an inborn trait.Like any habit, discipline is cultivated through practice, it's a habit/skill anyone can develop over time. (see Behavior Echo-System

New Listener Reset: Habits & Goals BasicsHabits are NOT better than goals. Goals are not better than habits. Understand the crucial role each play in your life and how each serve the other.Heading into my summer hiatus, I'm leaving you with a handful of episodes to revisit and to help reset your habit tracking and goal journey.HABITS:"How Systems Help to Create Habits & Skills" - Discusses how systems can support habit formation. "Discipline is a Habit" - Focuses on the role of discipline in habit building. "Killing Negative Habits" - Offers insights into breaking bad habits using the 4 Ments!"28 Days!" - Likely about the significance of the 28-day habit formation process. "How to Create Any Habit" - Offers practical steps to start new habits. "The Habit Factor: Starting Small" - Emphasizes the importance of starting small with habit formation to demonstrate self-efficacy and create momentum!"Why Accountability Matters" - Explores the role of accountability in habit development. A tracking sheet, an accountability buddy; these are examples of environmental influencers that help to forge good, positive habits."Tracking Your Habits" - Discusses the importance of habit tracking in achieving goals. (See above ☝️ )GOALS:"Goals are Not Optional" - This episode discusses the critical nature of goal setting and why it's essential to have clear goals. "The End is the Beginning" - This episode delves into the importance of knowing your desired outcome before setting your goals."2021 New Year Series: Do Not Pass Go!" - A motivational episode that emphasizes the importance of committing to your goals and tracking your habits. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Just when the catepillar thought the world was going to end, it became a butterfly.” MetamorphosisChange: one of life's great constants.For those between 45 and 60, life often brings significant challenges: marriages end, careers shift, personal identities and appearances evolve.After decades of laying a foundation, it may feel like it's slipping away...Quantum physics offers a fascinating perspective on transformation. It suggests that multiple possibilities exist in any given moment and that our focus heavily influences which 'reality' unfolds.When one chapter ends, the story can improve if we remain open to the same curiosity and optimism that served us initially.Fear and resistance hold us back. Acceptance and equanimity serve times of change best.“Faith alone defends. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”~ Helen KellerAppreciate endings as gateways to new beginnings. See losses as lessons and challenges as stepping stones. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” ~Abraham LincolnFailure Number 9Lincoln's quote ☝️ is a powerful and stark reminder that even the greatest among us stumble, fail, and fall flat on their faces.Given enough time, as Ray Dalio puts it, “There are a whole host of ways that something will get you.” See image below…This is where Lincoln's example is proof positive that failure isn't just a stepping stone to success; it's an essential ingredient—a requirement.In the realm of biophysics, there's a concept known as the principle of maximum error*. It suggests that organisms, including humans, benefit from mistakes. It is through experimentation and failing that we learn, grow, and optimize ourselves.Thus, Failure Number 9 or 18 or 72 isn't a cause for despair but rather encouragement.As long as you have the capacity to choose your response (see prior episode, Stimulus vs Response), and guide your behaviors toward your goals and ideals, you are on the path.Sometimes when you are in a dark place you may feel you have been buried, when in fact you have been planted. ~ Christine CaineDo your best to approach each setback as an opportunity to refine your approach, develop resilience, and discover new strengths.Responding to failure is largely about finding a hopeful narrative. A H.E.R.O.'s narrative—one that is Hopeful, Empowering, Responsible, and Optimistic—even when the chapter you're in feels like a tragedy. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“When you shift your perspective stories, meanings, feelings and even behaviors can change.” Meaning as a Derivative of PerspectiveOur perspective often shapes our emotions and actions.Consider a bad breakup: Initially, it feels devastating, but years later, it might become a source of amusement.This shift in perspective changes the meaning of the event, which in turn influences our feelings, behaviors, and outcomes.Introducing: The Behavior Echo-SystemThe Behavior Echo-System, a new behavior model, illustrates how three key influencers are interconnected through our emotions and feelings:Thinking/Story: Our thoughts and beliefs. These are the internal narratives we rely on to plan, predict, and explain events.Behaviors/Habits/Skills: The actions we take and the habits and skills we develop.Environment: Our surroundings, including people and places. While we can influence our environment, it also impacts us and our behaviors.These three components continuously affect one another, creating a perpetual cycle.Enter: Response-AbilityWe can't always control what happens to us, but we can almost always choose how we respond. This is known as "response-ability."Emotionally mature individuals often manage to choose their responses to frustrating, challenging, and stressful events. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

The Power of FocusTwain's profound insight serves as a cornerstone for understanding the importance of focus in our lives. Focus is about harnessing and directing our energy effectively. Imagine a five-watt light bulb—it can barely light up a closet. But when that same energy is focused, it can cut through steel. This is the fundamental principle behind the order of focus: selection, concentration, and then focus. SELECT » CONCENTRATE » FOCUSA popular method to enhance focus is the Pomodoro® Technique. This ttechnique involves using a timer (app on a mobile device) for a specific period, such as 25 or 45 minutes, and dedicating that time solely to one task.This method establishes a defined focus period, allowing for deep, uninterrupted work. Its simplicity and effectiveness lie in its ability to create a sense of urgency and clarity, making it easier to concentrate on the task at hand.To improve your Habitstrength™, The Habit Factor applies the concepts of “Minimum Success Criteria” and “Target Days” for successive 28-day habit-tracking periods. Combining The Habit Factor® with the Pomodoro® Technique creates a powerful one-two punch to enhance productivity.You can quickly transition from scattered energy to focused accomplishment.Give it a try: track as few as three habits for 28 days and apply the Pomodoro® Technique for your focus periods. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Stimulus versus Response: A Delicate Dance of PowerViktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and founder of logotherapy, once said, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” …In our response lies our growth and our freedomThis profound observation has anchored much of popular psychology, a beacon highlighting our ability to govern our responses to any situation. But let's strip this idea down to the bone—what if the story isn't so starkly drawn?Learning and Growth: The Power to RespondFrankl nails it—our power resides in how we respond. Picture this: a student, face-to-face with a brutal exam (stimulus/environment). Their success hinges on their ability to recall what they've learned and to tame the beast of anxiety (the internal narrative in their head/response). In these moments we learn, we adapt, and we grow. Or, take a business leader confronting a market nosedive (stimulus/environment). Innovate or retreat (response/thoughts/behavior). This decision shifts the company's fate.Overwhelming StimuliFrankl's wisdom has its limits. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Adversity doesn't build character — it reveals it.” ~ James Allen LaneHurdle Number One, Self ControlFacing challenges tends to reveal our strengths and weaknesses. By managing some pain and discomfort, we gain insight about our willpower and our character. Think of self-discipline as the first hurdle to reaching larger goals. That may mean getting up earlier instead of sleeping in or choosing healthy snacks instead of junk food. These repeated, small acts of self-control (habits) can propel one toward big changes in their lives.There is a strong link between self-discipline and goal achievement. While goal achievement is never assured, having good habits helps to prepare one for growth and trains them to use their willpower. Beginning with self-mastery is the way. “I've never met a disciplined baby.” ... This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“A good teacher protects his students from his own influence.” ~ Bruce LeeThis profound quote from Bruce Lee touches on a critical point that many people overlook: the distinction between the lesson and the teacher. We often expect perfection from those who teach us, assuming that their wisdom and personal lives must be flawless. However, Lee's insight suggests that a good teacher ensures that their students are not tainted by the teacher's own mistakes and challenges. This idea is crucial as we navigate today's complex landscape of “gurus” and their teachings.A few quick examples:Tony Robbins: Known for his powerful seminars and self-help books, Tony Robbins gives extensive advice on relationships. Yet, he has been through at least one divorce and likely a handful of breakups. Does this disqualify him from offering relationship advice? Arguably, his experiences may make him more qualified, as he has learned valuable lessons from his own relationship challenges.Sadhguru: A spiritual leader who speaks about health and peace of mind, Sadhguru himself has faced significant personal health issues lately, including a brain tumor. Does this diminish his teachings on health? Or does it highlight the reality that even those with profound wisdom face their own battles?The Wealth Coach: True story: I recently spoke to someone who was asked to invest in a business by a “wealth coach.” Is that ridiculous or does it reflect the complex realities of business management and investment.A guru's personal issues may not necessarily invalidate their teachings. Instead, their challenges and experiences may even enrich their lessons and provide a more realistic perspective.The Best Guru is (still) YOU. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“A good teacher protects his students from his own influence.” ~ Bruce LeeThis profound quote from Bruce Lee touches on a critical point that many people overlook: the distinction between the lesson and the teacher. We often expect perfection from those who teach us, assuming that their wisdom and personal lives must be flawless. However, Lee's insight suggests that a good teacher ensures that their students are not tainted by the teacher's own mistakes and challenges. This idea is crucial as we navigate today's complex landscape of “gurus” and their teachings.A few quick examples:Tony Robbins: Known for his powerful seminars and self-help books, Tony Robbins gives extensive advice on relationships. Yet, he has been through at least one divorce and likely a handful of breakups. Does this disqualify him from offering relationship advice? Arguably, his experiences may make him more qualified, as he has learned valuable lessons from his own relationship challenges.Sadhguru: A spiritual leader who speaks about health and peace of mind, Sadhguru himself has faced significant personal health issues lately, including a brain tumor. Does this diminish his teachings on health? Or does it highlight the reality that even those with profound wisdom face their own battles?The Wealth Coach: True story: I recently spoke to someone who was asked to invest in a business by a “wealth coach.” Is that ridiculous or does it reflect the complex realities of business management and investment.A guru's personal issues may not necessarily invalidate their teachings. Instead, their challenges and experiences may even enrich their lessons and provide a more realistic perspective.The Best Guru is (still) YOU. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Emotions, Triggers & Stories“Your state is a state of mind. Change your state, and you can change your life.” ~ Tony Robbins“Your state of mind is often a default disposition. It's a habit that can be modified with intention and practice.” ~ M. GrunburgEmotions: Beyond the Trigger Lies the StoryTony Robbins nails it when he speaks about how a red flashing light in your rearview mirror can instantly change your physiology - your physical state. But, there's more to the story, so to speak.That jolt of emotion – fear – isn't purely a reaction to the red light itself. The fear reaction is associated with a story about the red light. The red light triggers a stored story in our minds; either a direct or shared memory from past experiences about red flashing lights in rear-view mirrors. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Practice. Practice. Practice.“The road to excellence lies in deliberate practice.” - Anders Ericsson “Excellence, then, is not a single act, but a habit.” ~AristotleIf “excellence” is a habit and the road to excellence is paved via deliberate or intentional practice, then both habit and skill development require PRACTICE.Ericsson, a renowned psychologist pioneered the term “deliberate practice” back in 1996.* (More on intentional vs deliberate practice below)The Spirit of AlohaWe all yearn for more aloha in our life; kindness, love, compassion and respect. Interestingly enough, these qualities, just like any virtue, do not arise from mere aspiration; rather each is developed through intentional practice.Personality traits, virtues, habits and skills are a result of practice. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

Practice. Practice. Practice.“The road to excellence lies in deliberate practice.” - Anders Ericsson “Excellence, then, is not a single act, but a habit.” ~AristotleIf “excellence” is a habit and the road to excellence is paved via deliberate or intentional practice, then both habit and skill development require PRACTICE.Ericsson, a renowned psychologist pioneered the term “deliberate practice” back in 1996.* (More on intentional vs deliberate practice below)The Spirit of AlohaWe all yearn for more aloha in our life; kindness, love, compassion and respect. Interestingly enough, these qualities, just like any virtue, do not arise from mere aspiration; rather each is developed through intentional practice.Personality traits, virtues, habits and skills are a result of practice. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” - Ralph Waldo EmersonNote: There are a few occasions where MG accidentally says determination instead of determinism.For eons, a philosophical debate has raged: Free will vs determinism.Where do you stand? Determinism says you have no free will, and that all actions and events are predetermined.However, free will says, you are fully accountable and responsible for your entire life.Once again, MG takes the middle path in this debate.“Life is much like any card or board game. You have rules (in life these are laws like gravity, etc. AND you have chance and randomness. You have the ability to move up and across the board and can influence your results, and your are subject to chaos and randomness.”One of the worst quotes, it may make some people feel better but it's absent much critical thinking is: “Well, EVERYTHING happens for a reason.”Depending upon what happened, a tsunami in indonesia killing thousands. Or an earthquake in Japan. Or, the helicopter crash that killed Kobe Bryan. Good luck telling his wife and children that it happened for a reason.”again, it may make them feel better by creating a story to support a theory of determinism.Speaking of stories; since there truly is something called chaos and randomness – if not, we probably wouldn't have those phrases. In legalese, these are know as “Acts of God.”So, when it comes to luck it's important to recogbize that it does exist. Thomas Jefferson reportedly said, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.There is an entire TED talk her on ways to influence your luck.So a few questions for you to ponder:Does luck exist?Are you lucky?How can you enhance your luck?Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not.The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?”It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022.***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” - Ralph Waldo EmersonNote: There are a few occasions where MG accidentally says determination instead of determinism.For eons, a philosophical debate has raged: Free will vs determinism.Where do you stand? Determinism says you have no free will, and that all actions and events are predetermined.However, free will says, you are fully accountable and responsible for your entire life.Once again, MG takes the middle path in this debate.“Life is much like any card or board game. You have rules (in life these are laws like gravity, etc. AND you have chance and randomness. You have the ability to move up and across the board and can influence your results, and your are subject to chaos and randomness.”One of the worst quotes, it may make some people feel better but it's absent much critical thinking is: “Well, EVERYTHING happens for a reason.”Depending upon what happened, a tsunami in indonesia killing thousands. Or an earthquake in Japan. Or, the helicopter crash that killed Kobe Bryan. Good luck telling his wife and children that it happened for a reason.”again, it may make them feel better by creating a story to support a theory of determinism.Speaking of stories; since there truly is something called chaos and randomness – if not, we probably wouldn't have those phrases. In legalese, these are know as “Acts of God.”So, when it comes to luck it's important to recogbize that it does exist. Thomas Jefferson reportedly said, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.There is an entire TED talk her on ways to influence your luck.So a few questions for you to ponder:Does luck exist?Are you lucky?How can you enhance your luck?Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not.The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?”It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022.***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” - Ralph Waldo EmersonNote: There are a few occasions where MG accidentally says determination instead of determinism.For eons, a philosophical debate has raged: Free will vs determinism.Where do you stand? Determinism says you have no free will, and that all actions and events are predetermined.However, free will says, you are fully accountable and responsible for your entire life.Once again, MG takes the middle path in this debate.“Life is much like any card or board game. You have rules (in life these are laws like gravity, etc. AND you have chance and randomness. You have the ability to move up and across the board and can influence your results, and your are subject to chaos and randomness.”One of the worst quotes, it may make some people feel better but it's absent much critical thinking is: “Well, EVERYTHING happens for a reason.”Depending upon what happened, a tsunami in indonesia killing thousands. Or an earthquake in Japan. Or, the helicopter crash that killed Kobe Bryan. Good luck telling his wife and children that it happened for a reason.”again, it may make them feel better by creating a story to support a theory of determinism.Speaking of stories; since there truly is something called chaos and randomness – if not, we probably wouldn't have those phrases. In legalese, these are know as “Acts of God.”So, when it comes to luck it's important to recogbize that it does exist. Thomas Jefferson reportedly said, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.There is an entire TED talk her on ways to influence your luck.So a few questions for you to ponder:Does luck exist?Are you lucky?How can you enhance your luck?Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not.The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?”It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022.***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.CommitmentUntil one is committed, there is hesitancy,the chance to draw back.Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation),there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans.That the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it.Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.~ Johan Wolfgang von Goethe “If you're looking for a guarantee, buy a toaster.” ~ Clint Eastwood Life is far less predictable than a kitchen appliance. It's full of opportunities, each possessed of great promise. Yet, there is a catch, of course; each comes with risk. Opportunities and experiences rarely come with an instruction manual or a guarantee.While we tend to wait for the “perfect” time – when all our questions will be answered - and all our doubts will vanish. Unfortunately, that time doesn't exist. The truth is that significant personal and professional explorations require a leap of faith. We gather the necessary info – what is available and then commit.One day; one step at a time—unable to see the entire staircase (as MLK famously put it), we proceed because we've committed and we can see the next step.Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Wisdom is equal parts experience and reflection.” ~ AristotleRuminationThe term 'rumination' is often associated with negative thinking patterns. For better or worse, psychology has perpetuated this idea.As you can see from the definition above, to ruminate is to simply consider or think deeply about something; as in philosophical ruminations.Have you ever encountered a new concept that left you confused?Perhaps worse, you thought you fully understood the idea and you didn't.Encountering new ideas in a strange way is somewhat similar to meeting a large group of new people.Just as it takes time to distinguish faces and learn names, it takes time to really grasp new ideas.Imagine embarking on a week-long hike with a group of strangers. On day one, the faces blur together, and names are impossible to recall.By day four, after shared experiences and conversations, you not only know each of the individuals but their distinct personalities and backstories emerge.New ideas, concepts and information unfold similarly.By ruminating on new ideas important distinctions appear that were unnoticeable at first.The next time you encounter an idea that seems confusing or even interesting, ruminate on it for a week, a month, or even longer.View it as an opportunity for deep exploration. Ironically, by dwelling upon the complex, important and simple distinctions come to light.~mgEnjoy the show!The link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Success is always a co-creative endeavor.”Who wants to be a “success”?The short answer is, “Only EVERYONE!”Yet, when someone attempts to define ‘success' they tend to struggle.They say things like, “I just want to be happy or have a smile on my face.”It's tough to hit a target you haven't defined. Is your definition for success any better?MG and JG discuss a slightly amended definition for ‘success'.Largely due to the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System”. It's the acknowledgement that ‘outside forces' – acts of god, luck, good fortune, etc., play a role in one's ‘success'.The truth is, we can only CO-CREATE our ideal future. We have a large role in our success and forces beyond our control contribute. Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Learning Zen is a phenomenon of gold and dung.Before you understand it, it's like gold; after you understand it, it's like dung.”Gold & DungIn this episode MG and JG discuss a perplexing and important Zen koanFor many, Zen appears to possess the “gold” – the promise of enlightenment – peace, and a deeper understanding of oneself.However, this koan teaches us that the value of such knowledge is in its application.It's easy to drown in intellectual concepts. It's even easier to get caught up in the constant consumption of knowledge.Here's the rub: intellectual understanding, however impressive, is ultimately DUNG – valuable as fertilizer.The essence of Zen (and most worthwhile concepts), lies within its PRACTICE.Embrace the transformation that comes from putting knowledge into action.PRACTICE. PRACTICE. PRACTICE.That's where the real gold truly lies.~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Opportunities multiply as they are seized.”~Sun TzuThe EpiphanyWhere do opportunities come from?JG and MG discuss a prior Thursday Thread subject: Opportunities.Einstein famously said, “Nothing happens until something moves.”There is no telling the ripple effect a decision or action may have once it's seized.Saying "yes" to a challenging project or adventure often leads to new projects and adventures. Attend an industry event and lo and behold, unexpected collaborations and opportunities present themselves.Stepping outside your comfort zone is about more than just success or failure. It's about setting in motion a ripple effect of experiences, learning, and growth.Opportunities rarely arrive with fanfare. They often whisper, disguised as invitations, or perhaps even as anxieties urging you to break free from self-imposed limits.Initiate, move, and observe.Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe