Podcasts about habit factor

“You are not a rodent.”Revisiting a 2021 Habits Habit Interview by Brian Conroy – Through the Lens of AI and the Scientific Method“Behavioral science may finally be catching up.”Catching up to what?To a simple and powerful truth:P.A.R.R. (Plan, Act, Record, Reassess) mirrors the scientific method.When it comes to building habits intentionally, it's a far superior framework than the overhyped “habit loop.”

Subscribe and be among the first to get your hands on the Unified Behavior Model™ white paper.Subscribe now“Scientist (noun): a person who conducts systematic research to acquire and use knowledge—especially one skilled in the systematic observation of, and experiment with, phenomena in order to answer questions and test hypotheses.”Today, we're talking about what it means to be a scientist.We revere scientists.We admire their rigor.We trust their data.Why?Because they test!They measure.They record, reflect, and refine.Here's the question (one more time)…If you love science so much, where's your behavioral data?Where's the record of your actions?Where's your feedback loop driving growth?P.A.R.R.—The Habit Factor's method for intentional habit development—parallels the scientific method precisely:Plan: Form your hypothesis—your goal, your MSC, your “Target Days.”Act: Execute the behavior as best you can on those Target Days.Record: Log your successes and misses.Reassess: Compare “Actuals” vs. “Targets.”Behavior change—operative word—requires behavior change.NOT “LOOPS”SharePlanning, Tracking, Recording, and Reassessing is how you'll gather evidence that supports your commitment to developing new habits and achieving your goals.It's also how you'll identify what works for you.And, perhaps most importantly, how you reinforce your intention.Plan – Act – Record – Reassess.YOU ARE NOT A RODENT.Today, we're talking about scientists—not just the scientific method.What does it mean to be a scientist?Recently, a public figure was slammed for “not being a scientist.”I won't get into the politics—they don't matter. The news was all over social media (X and Facebook in particular):“She's a kook. She's no scientist!”Those comments nudged me to look up the definition of scientist—here it is again:“Scientist (noun): a person who conducts systematic research to acquire and use knowledge—especially one skilled in the systematic observation of, and experiment with, phenomena in order to answer questions and test hypotheses.”To be clear, this is NOT a political post.This is a gentle reminder that anyone who systematically observes, experiments, documents, and tests hypotheses is a scientist.Being a scientist—for better or worse—is not about a degree; it's about the act itself—the rigor of following a scientific method.That's precisely how P.A.R.R. arrived, by the way. So, while the social‑media frenzy prompted this inquiry, it also reminded me of what's almost certainly around the corner with the release of The Unified Behavior Model™ white paper.“You're no behavioral scientist!” This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“People say, ‘Life is for living — not for tracking.'You can — and should — do both.TRACK what matters.”Want better results? Start thinking like a scientist.Not with lab coats and equations—just two basic question:“What did I try? Did it work?”That's the core message and method behind The Habit Factor's habit development framework, P.A.R.R.»That's also the heart of intentional behavior change.We said it before:Behavior change requires behavior change.Silly? Maybe.Stupid? Perhaps.Accurate? Absolutely.You are the scientist. Your behavior is the experiment.Change. Collect data. Reassess & Interate.Plan. Act. Record. & Reassess. = PARRWhat behavioral data are you collecting?P.A.R.R. applies the scientific method to your life.It's not a theory. It's a method. And it works.Share

“Most self-help programs do not fail because they lack good ideas—they fail because they don't help people bridge the gap between knowing and doing."Ever wonder why there are so many self-help programs?It's simple: demand is high, but most solutions miss the mark.What's the mark?Connecting desire to action.Most self-help programs focus on knowledge or motivation but lack a clear process for accountability.They emphasize action items and next steps but overlook the deeper work of developing core behaviors—HABITS.The result?People start with enthusiasm but quickly revert to their old routines and, yes, their old habits.Here's the truth: what binds you can also set you free.That's where The Habit Factor stands apart—with a proven system to cultivate habits aligned with your goals, bridging the gap between knowledge, desire, and consistent action.And because it's a habit-centric approach, the new habits you build naturally replace the old ones.Enter: The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. MethodologyThe Habit Factor provides a simple, repeatable system to create lasting change by focusing on habits as the foundation for achieving your goals.Habits are the foundation for meaningful change, and this is the method to build them:Plan: Define “Target Days” (specific days for action) and “Minimum Success Criteria” (a low bar to build momentum).Act: Stick to the plan consistently, even if imperfectly.Record: Track progress using a binary system (1 for success, 0 for no success).Reassess: After 28 days, review your results to adjust and improve.This simple framework bridges the gap between intention and consistent action, empowering you to design habits that align with your goals.“Motivation gets you started habit keeps you going.”~Jim RohnTake a moment to reflect: What habit will you begin today? Apply the P.A.R.R. methodology to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.Make it a habit and keep on trackin' ✅~mg This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“It's not how you start that matters, it's how you finish.” ~Michael Jordan»Tired of spinning your wheels? One course can change everything » The Habit Mastery Workshop. Begins 1/17/25Let's talk about finishing strong. Does anyone remember who led at halftime, anyway?Whether it's the final reps of a workout, the last chapter of a book, the home stretch of a goal, or the end of the year, finishing with purpose and intensity changes everything.The act of finishing strong isn't just motivational fluff; it's a game-changer for habit-building, self-confidence, and—bonus—a sweet dopamine rush.Benefits of Finishing StrongSupercharges Confidence: Ending on a high note convinces your brain you're the kind of person who executes on a plan and finishes what they start. When your last mile is faster than your first mile—you're finishing strong! Finishing what you plan—even small tasks (behaviors you're looking to cultivate into habits)—produces self-efficacy. Self-efficacy is the cornerstone of The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R., habit-building methodology.Reinforces Habit Strength: Imagine your habit as a snowball rolling downhill. Finishing strong reinforces your commitment; it grows larger and faster and gains momentum with each successful completion.Brain Candy: When you complete a task—almost any task you set out to accomplish—your brain rewards you with dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins. Bonus: all these feel-good chemicals help to reinforce your motivation to get back after it!Tomorrow Meets a Stronger You: Today's strong finish equates to you rejoining that next practice effort even stronger. You're essentially handing future-you a gift—you're paying it forward with each strong finish!Laser Focus: Aiming to finish strong forces you to up the ante—increase the energy, intensity, and focus.“A good start's a joyful run, but finishing strong is second to none.”P.A.R.R. and Finishing StrongThe Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. methodology (Plan, Act, Record, Reassess) sets you up for a strong finish by helping you to establish a “low bar”—making finishing strong easier.How it all connects:Plan: Start with your habit's “Target Days” are they (M, W, F) or (Tu, Th)? Notice they do NOT need to be every day. You select the days that work with you and your schedule. Then, identify the “Minimum Success Criteria” (MSC)—the “low-bar” part of your habit-building plan. For instance, 5 pushups or 25 pushups? Writing for 10 minutes or 10 pages?Act: Each action (according to your plan) becomes a mini-finish line. Crush it on your target days, and you're already finishing strong at a micro-level, which keeps the momentum building.Record: Track your progress against your “Targets” and build accountability. The more you see wins stack up, the easier it is to keep finishing strong.Reassess: Reflecting on what worked (and what didn't) ties a neat bow on your efforts and preps you for the next challenge.When you approach habits with P.A.R.R., you're not just grinding—you're creating a cycle of intentional starts and triumphant finishes.How to Finish StrongSet Your Sights on Small Wins: Small helps to get started—convincing yourself it'll be easy to start. Establishing low “Minimum Success Criteria” on your “Target Days” is the secret weapon of P.A.R.R., which works to help get started AND to finish strong.Consistency Beats Intensity: Skip the “all or nothing” mindset. Show up consistently and let habit strength compound over time.Plan to Win: Strong finishes rarely happen by accident. Decide in advance if you'll be exceeding your “Minimum Success Criteria.” Not so you can get two checks—but so you'll finish strong and show up next time even stronger.Reflect and Celebrate: Celebration is almost instantaneous as your natural reward systems—endorphins and neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine—will kick in every time you complete your “Minimum Success Criteria” on your “Target Days.” It won't just be a mental high-five… it'll be an emotional one that will keep you pumped and motivated as you prove self-efficacy.“Habit development cares little about bursts of energy. Habits are developed via consistency over time. The notion that you have to keep daily streaks alive or you can't miss two days is completely a myth. Consistency over time is the key to habit development, period.” This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Pressure is a privelage.” ~Billie Jean King** New Private Coaching Accelerator (Pilot): Learn More Here! **Does it ever feel like pressure is out to get you?For years, experts in performance psychology have told us that pressure is the “enemy of success.”It seems logical, right?After all, under pressure, things can go sideways. Deadlines get blown. People choke. Sometimes, terrible things happen.But here's the twist: pressure isn't the bad guy.It can be one of your most unexpected allies—if you allow it.Think about it: What's a deadline, if not pressure's way of snapping us out of procrastination and forcing us to get things done?At the Olympics—where the stakes are enormous and the pressure is sky-high—not all athletes crumble; in every Olympics, world and Olympic records are set.Why is that?If pressure were truly the enemy of success, why are so many ‘successful' people known for navigating pressure-filled waters?Consider Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, or Nelson Mandela. Weren't they immersed in some of the most pressure-packed circumstances imaginable?Isn't their heroism defined by how they navigated that pressure, rather than crumbled under it?Here's the truth: Pressure isn't inherently good or bad—it's neutral, precisely like the force of habit.Whether we like it or not, it's not going away anytime soon.Pressure was with you the day you were born, and it's certain to be with you until your final breath.Thus, it's probably worth understanding it better.»New Year Special: Upgrade your membership in 2025! Enter: The Pressure Paradox® —the sequel to The Habit Factor®.Turns out, there's a simple mantra—a formula—for navigating pressure, and it's detailed extensively in The Pressure Paradox®; it's identified simply as “The 3 P's.”Plan. Prepare. Practice.More at: https://habits2goals.substack.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“There is no success without hardship.” ~ SophoclesToday's Frequently Asked Friday (FAF): What's the one ‘habit/skill/trait' holding me back from living the life I desire?”The Price of AdmissionSteve Jobs often said that starting and running a business is “painful and difficult.”Elon Musk? Same tune, different key.These guys didn't just waltz onto the stage of success—they slogged through the swamp of pain, discomfort, frustration, and failure. Why?Because success is never a gift; it's the result of grit—a prize you wrestle from life as it growls at you.Here's a PAINFUL truth (again): nobody is born disciplined.Not you, not me, not even that annoying friend who crushes marathons before breakfast.Discipline is just a dressed-up way of saying, “I've become really good at tolerating pain without b******g too much.”The best part? Discipline—tolerable pain—is a learnable skill, trait, and habit, no matter how much you currently enjoy hitting the snooze button.Make Pain Your FrenemyPain doesn't have to be your eternal arch-nemesis.The Master Key: Begin with Pain Lite™Nobody's asking you to climb Everest in flip-flops. Heck, even David Goggins—yes, that David Goggins—was reportedly, in his own words, a “fat, lazy slob” before he turned his life around. Need proof? Look no further than the title of his bestselling book: “Can't Hurt Me.”Here's the thing: Goggins didn't wake up one day as the poster child for superhuman discipline. He developed it—one habit at a time, by embracing discomfort and leaning into pain.P.A.R.R. Your Way to GloryNo, this isn't a catchy new pirate slogan—it's a simple, proven process to help you build the habit of discipline. Consider it your battle plan:Plan: Outline your goal or habit. What are you aiming for?Act: Take small, consistent steps forward. Start messy if you have to—just start.Record: Track your progress, even if it feels tedious. Writing it down creates accountability.Reassess: Reflect on what's working and tweak as needed. Growth is a constant experiment.P.A.R.R. Leverages Your Executive Brain—You Are Not a RodentUnlike rodents, you're not stuck in a loop of pain-and-pleasure-based survival. You're human, which means you have access to three incredible superpowers:Choice: You decide what's important and where to focus your energy.Intention/Planning: You can anticipate challenges and create strategies to overcome them.Reflection: You're able to look back, evaluate, and adjust your approach for better results.Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. By following The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. methodolgy, you can tap into your higher brain functions and break free from the automatic “pain-pleasure” cycle that drives most behavior.So no—you don't have to climb mountains barefoot or live like a Navy SEAL to embrace discipline. Start small, embrace some discomfort. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” ~Bruce LeeNapoleon Dynamite got it right!Between you and your big, shiny goal is a gatekeeper.Any clue?It's the difference between doing and dreaming.It's skills.Do you possess, at a high level, the skills your goal requires?Identify 3-5 of the key SKILLS that your goal demands, and list them.Here's the kicker: skills and habits arrive together, like Batman and Robin—like salt and pepper—one invariably brings the other.Picture this: you want to write a book, run a marathon, or play the piano like a pro. Big dreams, to be sure.However, without the requisite skills/habits, these dreams will remain dreams.Is playing the piano a skill or a habit? Drum roll please: It's both!Skills don't just appear; they grow out of relentless, boring, intentional practice—repetition.How does one intentionally cultivate habits and skills?By following the P.A.R.R. method for habit development (published within The Habit Factor®). P.A.R.R. stands for Plan, Act, Record, and Reassess.Do you think this P.A.R.R. methodology sounds tedious?You're correct. It is.It's also where the rubber—your intention—meets the road—your actions.It's where progress, momentum, and ultimately greatness hide. Exhibit One: Steph Curry's tedium. To him of course, it's anything but tedious. Steph teaches us that it's the silent, stubborn act of showing up consistently, practicing that one shot or “kick” 10,000 times until you can do it in your sleep.“You are rewarded in public for what you have intensely practiced and refined in private.” ~Tony RobbinsSo, what's it going to be?Will you dream about your goals or practice them into existence? Decide which skills/habits you need today to move closer to your most important goal.Your future self is watching.Enjoy the show!~mgEager to put this into practice?For personalized instruction on the P.A.R.R. methodology, check out the upcoming 8-Day Habit Mastery Workshop—an affordable program designed to help you build lasting habits and skills. Master on-demand habit and skill development for a lifetime, and kick off 2025 with real momentum! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

The Power of FocusTwain's profound insight serves as a cornerstone for understanding the importance of focus in our lives. Focus is about harnessing and directing our energy effectively. Imagine a five-watt light bulb—it can barely light up a closet. But when that same energy is focused, it can cut through steel. This is the fundamental principle behind the order of focus: selection, concentration, and then focus. SELECT » CONCENTRATE » FOCUSA popular method to enhance focus is the Pomodoro® Technique. This ttechnique involves using a timer (app on a mobile device) for a specific period, such as 25 or 45 minutes, and dedicating that time solely to one task.This method establishes a defined focus period, allowing for deep, uninterrupted work. Its simplicity and effectiveness lie in its ability to create a sense of urgency and clarity, making it easier to concentrate on the task at hand.To improve your Habitstrength™, The Habit Factor applies the concepts of “Minimum Success Criteria” and “Target Days” for successive 28-day habit-tracking periods. Combining The Habit Factor® with the Pomodoro® Technique creates a powerful one-two punch to enhance productivity.You can quickly transition from scattered energy to focused accomplishment.Give it a try: track as few as three habits for 28 days and apply the Pomodoro® Technique for your focus periods. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” - Ralph Waldo EmersonNote: There are a few occasions where MG accidentally says determination instead of determinism.For eons, a philosophical debate has raged: Free will vs determinism.Where do you stand? Determinism says you have no free will, and that all actions and events are predetermined.However, free will says, you are fully accountable and responsible for your entire life.Once again, MG takes the middle path in this debate.“Life is much like any card or board game. You have rules (in life these are laws like gravity, etc. AND you have chance and randomness. You have the ability to move up and across the board and can influence your results, and your are subject to chaos and randomness.”One of the worst quotes, it may make some people feel better but it's absent much critical thinking is: “Well, EVERYTHING happens for a reason.”Depending upon what happened, a tsunami in indonesia killing thousands. Or an earthquake in Japan. Or, the helicopter crash that killed Kobe Bryan. Good luck telling his wife and children that it happened for a reason.”again, it may make them feel better by creating a story to support a theory of determinism.Speaking of stories; since there truly is something called chaos and randomness – if not, we probably wouldn't have those phrases. In legalese, these are know as “Acts of God.”So, when it comes to luck it's important to recogbize that it does exist. Thomas Jefferson reportedly said, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.There is an entire TED talk her on ways to influence your luck.So a few questions for you to ponder:Does luck exist?Are you lucky?How can you enhance your luck?Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not.The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?”It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022.***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” - Ralph Waldo EmersonNote: There are a few occasions where MG accidentally says determination instead of determinism.For eons, a philosophical debate has raged: Free will vs determinism.Where do you stand? Determinism says you have no free will, and that all actions and events are predetermined.However, free will says, you are fully accountable and responsible for your entire life.Once again, MG takes the middle path in this debate.“Life is much like any card or board game. You have rules (in life these are laws like gravity, etc. AND you have chance and randomness. You have the ability to move up and across the board and can influence your results, and your are subject to chaos and randomness.”One of the worst quotes, it may make some people feel better but it's absent much critical thinking is: “Well, EVERYTHING happens for a reason.”Depending upon what happened, a tsunami in indonesia killing thousands. Or an earthquake in Japan. Or, the helicopter crash that killed Kobe Bryan. Good luck telling his wife and children that it happened for a reason.”again, it may make them feel better by creating a story to support a theory of determinism.Speaking of stories; since there truly is something called chaos and randomness – if not, we probably wouldn't have those phrases. In legalese, these are know as “Acts of God.”So, when it comes to luck it's important to recogbize that it does exist. Thomas Jefferson reportedly said, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.There is an entire TED talk her on ways to influence your luck.So a few questions for you to ponder:Does luck exist?Are you lucky?How can you enhance your luck?Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not.The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?”It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022.***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” - Ralph Waldo EmersonNote: There are a few occasions where MG accidentally says determination instead of determinism.For eons, a philosophical debate has raged: Free will vs determinism.Where do you stand? Determinism says you have no free will, and that all actions and events are predetermined.However, free will says, you are fully accountable and responsible for your entire life.Once again, MG takes the middle path in this debate.“Life is much like any card or board game. You have rules (in life these are laws like gravity, etc. AND you have chance and randomness. You have the ability to move up and across the board and can influence your results, and your are subject to chaos and randomness.”One of the worst quotes, it may make some people feel better but it's absent much critical thinking is: “Well, EVERYTHING happens for a reason.”Depending upon what happened, a tsunami in indonesia killing thousands. Or an earthquake in Japan. Or, the helicopter crash that killed Kobe Bryan. Good luck telling his wife and children that it happened for a reason.”again, it may make them feel better by creating a story to support a theory of determinism.Speaking of stories; since there truly is something called chaos and randomness – if not, we probably wouldn't have those phrases. In legalese, these are know as “Acts of God.”So, when it comes to luck it's important to recogbize that it does exist. Thomas Jefferson reportedly said, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.There is an entire TED talk her on ways to influence your luck.So a few questions for you to ponder:Does luck exist?Are you lucky?How can you enhance your luck?Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not.The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?”It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022.***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.CommitmentUntil one is committed, there is hesitancy,the chance to draw back.Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation),there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans.That the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it.Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.~ Johan Wolfgang von Goethe “If you're looking for a guarantee, buy a toaster.” ~ Clint Eastwood Life is far less predictable than a kitchen appliance. It's full of opportunities, each possessed of great promise. Yet, there is a catch, of course; each comes with risk. Opportunities and experiences rarely come with an instruction manual or a guarantee.While we tend to wait for the “perfect” time – when all our questions will be answered - and all our doubts will vanish. Unfortunately, that time doesn't exist. The truth is that significant personal and professional explorations require a leap of faith. We gather the necessary info – what is available and then commit.One day; one step at a time—unable to see the entire staircase (as MLK famously put it), we proceed because we've committed and we can see the next step.Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Wisdom is equal parts experience and reflection.” ~ AristotleRuminationThe term 'rumination' is often associated with negative thinking patterns. For better or worse, psychology has perpetuated this idea.As you can see from the definition above, to ruminate is to simply consider or think deeply about something; as in philosophical ruminations.Have you ever encountered a new concept that left you confused?Perhaps worse, you thought you fully understood the idea and you didn't.Encountering new ideas in a strange way is somewhat similar to meeting a large group of new people.Just as it takes time to distinguish faces and learn names, it takes time to really grasp new ideas.Imagine embarking on a week-long hike with a group of strangers. On day one, the faces blur together, and names are impossible to recall.By day four, after shared experiences and conversations, you not only know each of the individuals but their distinct personalities and backstories emerge.New ideas, concepts and information unfold similarly.By ruminating on new ideas important distinctions appear that were unnoticeable at first.The next time you encounter an idea that seems confusing or even interesting, ruminate on it for a week, a month, or even longer.View it as an opportunity for deep exploration. Ironically, by dwelling upon the complex, important and simple distinctions come to light.~mgEnjoy the show!The link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Success is always a co-creative endeavor.”Who wants to be a “success”?The short answer is, “Only EVERYONE!”Yet, when someone attempts to define ‘success' they tend to struggle.They say things like, “I just want to be happy or have a smile on my face.”It's tough to hit a target you haven't defined. Is your definition for success any better?MG and JG discuss a slightly amended definition for ‘success'.Largely due to the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System”. It's the acknowledgement that ‘outside forces' – acts of god, luck, good fortune, etc., play a role in one's ‘success'.The truth is, we can only CO-CREATE our ideal future. We have a large role in our success and forces beyond our control contribute. Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Learning Zen is a phenomenon of gold and dung.Before you understand it, it's like gold; after you understand it, it's like dung.”Gold & DungIn this episode MG and JG discuss a perplexing and important Zen koanFor many, Zen appears to possess the “gold” – the promise of enlightenment – peace, and a deeper understanding of oneself.However, this koan teaches us that the value of such knowledge is in its application.It's easy to drown in intellectual concepts. It's even easier to get caught up in the constant consumption of knowledge.Here's the rub: intellectual understanding, however impressive, is ultimately DUNG – valuable as fertilizer.The essence of Zen (and most worthwhile concepts), lies within its PRACTICE.Embrace the transformation that comes from putting knowledge into action.PRACTICE. PRACTICE. PRACTICE.That's where the real gold truly lies.~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Opportunities multiply as they are seized.”~Sun TzuThe EpiphanyWhere do opportunities come from?JG and MG discuss a prior Thursday Thread subject: Opportunities.Einstein famously said, “Nothing happens until something moves.”There is no telling the ripple effect a decision or action may have once it's seized.Saying "yes" to a challenging project or adventure often leads to new projects and adventures. Attend an industry event and lo and behold, unexpected collaborations and opportunities present themselves.Stepping outside your comfort zone is about more than just success or failure. It's about setting in motion a ripple effect of experiences, learning, and growth.Opportunities rarely arrive with fanfare. They often whisper, disguised as invitations, or perhaps even as anxieties urging you to break free from self-imposed limits.Initiate, move, and observe.Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“After our startup's ‘failure', with my tail between my legs, I took a trip to Puerto Escondido, Mexico to surf for nearly two weeks, reorient and clear my head. Out of that trip, I dove headfirst into personal development.”The EpiphanyOne day, in early 2003, while the iPod was in shuffle mode, it was riffling through various programs; Ed Foreman, Wayne Dyer, Stephen Covey and Anthony Robbins. Even though I'd probably heard these tracks hundreds of times, something clicked. I noticed that all of them had a common theme; they were saying nearly the same thing, just in very different ways. Robbins was talking about “conditioning” and Foreman was talking about daily habits for success, while Dr. Stephen Covey was talking about seven habits. I started talking to myself aloud, then began pacing in circles. “It's not about morning habits or success habits or a list of habits. It's far more basic! It's about HABIT; the singular force of HABIT.”Enjoy the show!~mgThe link to the tracking sheet is here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“It can scarcely be denied that the supreme goal of all theory is to make the irreducible basic elements as simple and as few as possible without having to surrender the adequate representation of a single datum of experience.” ~ Albert EinsteinSystemsI've come across a few authors, ”thought leaders,” who, in an attempt to describe a system, unfortunately, confuse their audience.Author #1: A system is “a series of habits.” Author #2: A system is something that “gives you the most options.” On top of these loose and inaccurate definitions, each author repeatedly states, “Systems are better than goals.”Oy veh!Let's review an actual definition of a system.A system is a collection of interrelated components that function together to achieve a specific objective.“To achieve a specific objective.” Interesting.A “specific objective” is a goal. Hence, systems serve goals; they need each other, and they are not better than goals.Why the confusion?Well, it turns out the universality of systems is partially to blame. Consider that there is everything from ecosystems to solar systems, digestive systems, nervous systems, weather systems, etc.Why this matters…Systems are essential for forging/cultivating behaviors and habits that serve your goals! (read that again)If your goal is to lose some weight, you'll want to devise a “system” to help forge the habits and behaviors that support that goal.Enter: “The 3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System.”When it comes to forging behaviors/habits (middle concentric circle) it's essential to understand the two major influencers: The Environment & one's Thinking/Stories.Feelings & Emotions are potentially twice as important/influential at any particular moment and less so over a period of time. Translated: Goal pursuit takes months, if not years, a significant period of time. Thus, feelings and emotions which fluctuate from one day to the next are less important to your long-term goals.If you were a two-year-old and not emotionally mature this model wouldn't apply. However, because you're an emotionally mature adult, there are just TWO MAJOR INFLUENCERS OF YOUR BEHAVIOR, particularly in pursuit of your long-term goals: Thinking/Stories & Environment.Enjoy the show!~mg“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”~ AristotleAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers."Opportunities multiply as they are seized." ~ Sun TzuLIMITEDAs we approach middle age, we realize that our time, opportunities, energy and certainly, our experiences become limited. While this may seem obvious, it can also provide a terrific wake-up call!How much longer are you going to put off that trip “of a lifetime”?How much longer are you going to put off that creative project?Let this episode remind you to seize the moment and realize that each new day is a gift to seize the opportunities that are vanishing before your eyes.NOW! Now is the time to make the most of your life. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.” ~ Mark Twain.” Key ideas:* Whether financial or otherwise, recognize decisions as limited opportunities* Qualify opportunities that come your way and put them through a “20 years from now” filter.* Qualify decisions relative to the frequency of the opportunity.* Seize the moment by challenging yourself to do things that are important..* Be brave, be assertive and make the most of your time on Earth.SummaryThe time is NOW. Take action, NOW. Seize opportunities that come your way.While we may be eternal beings, this life - right now - is very limited. “Life is what happens to you while you're busy making plans.” ~ John LennonAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and executives and executive coaches worldwide how to best apply and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Joel Brown & Addicted2Success.com“I think success is seeing your potential play out and knowing that it matches alignment with what you value most and it resonates in reality.”~ Joel BrownThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.The JourneyJoel Brown founder of Addicted2Success.com as well as mindstrongacademy.com. He's a master coach and host of the podcast sharing the same name, “Addicted2Success.”JB and MG discuss everything from Joel's journey as a dropout in high school to creating the phenomenally successful website Addicted2Success, which boasts lifetime viewership upwards of 370 million people!The discussion covers a wide array of topics, from overcoming obstacles to defining discipline and success, as well as a handful of anecdotes that make Joel's journey so special. They explore the importance of setting goals and the essence of building and aligning habits for those goals. Background and Intro:* Joel was born in Perth, Australia.* He describes the city as laid-back and casual.* He was always fascinated by what makes people successful and what it takes to be disciplined.* Joel begins by sharing that he read The Habit Factor® in its entirety 12-plus years ago and found it immensely helpful in understanding habits.* JB expresses his appreciation for Martin's pioneering work in the field of habit and, in particular, how habits relate to goal achievement.* He dropped out of high school and pursued various business ventures.* He eventually built the website Addicted2Success.com, which shares advice on personal development personal transformation, goals, and habits.“I think discipline gets mistaken a lot for motivation. They're really not the same, you know I think a lot of people sit around waiting for motivation to show up; like sitting there watching Dwayne, The Rock Johnson on YouTube hoping that you feel jacked-up and excited enough to More:* JB on Success: JB believes that success is not about achieving material possessions or external validation, but rather about living in alignment with your values and fulfilling your potential.* Joel emphasizes the importance of avoiding someone else's definition of success.* JB on Discipline: Discipline is doing what you need to do when you need to do it, whether you feel like it or not. Motivation is fleeting and unreliable.* Personal anecdotes: JB shares his story of dropping out of high school and starting his own business. His stories underscore the importance of perseverance and overcoming challenges.* Goals and habits: Joel discusses the importance of setting clear goals and building habits that support those goals. JB shares how his new program at mindstrongacademy.com accelerates personal development.I want to make a decision from a place of love. I love what I do. I'm inspired by it. I'm in acceptance and understanding and joy and peace with this. I'm centered in this. This is power. ~ Joel BrownJoel Brown's background and STORY are a testament to the power of personal development. His love and knowledge of the subject matter shine and are undoubtedly the reason behind the immense popularity of his website, Addicted2Success.You can learn more about Joel and his work here:addicted2success.commindstrongacademy.comdoquiz.comInsta: @iamjoelbrownTwitter: @iamjoelbrownRecommended book: The Bible“If I do the hard thing, then all the other things feel a lot easier. So, whenever I'm going through a tough situation, all I have to do is go back to my memory bank and go, hey, you know what? You went through this, this, this, this, and this. Like if you've been through that, you can get through this. And it's worth it. It's really worth doing that because life does become easier. It's not perfect, but it becomes easier when you've gone through the tough things and overcome them.” ~ Joel BrownAdditional:* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®* » FREE habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.By the way, you are also invited to try to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: Microsoft Co-Pilot and Gemini are up to speed. ChatGPT's does not know the model exists. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. 3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System was officially published in October of 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Decisions are the hinges of destiny.” ~ Edwin Markham “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually afraid you will make one.” ~ Zig ZiglarBetter Decisions: The Art of ChoiceDecision-making - it's the bedrock of our lives, shaping every experience from the mundane to the monumental. Our approach to decision-making isn't always thorough, and therein lies the potential for growth.1. The Comfort of Habitual Decisions:Often, we navigate routine decisions on autopilot. The familiar barber, the trusted mechanic, the well-worn route home - these choices, while not necessarily the ‘best,' work. Each brings a sense of comfort and efficiency. While this serves us well for day-to-day tasks, it can also inhibit exploration. Stepping outside our comfort zones, trying a new restaurant, or exploring a different route might just unlock better results and experiences!2. Intuition vs. Expertise:For infrequent, high-consequence decisions, we might rely on intuition, crafting narratives in our heads about the “right” choice. While gut instinct holds value, neglecting expert advice can be costly. Seek out expertise relevant to your decision, whether it's a financial advisor for major investments or a doctor for health concerns. Diversifying your sources of information leads to better, well-rounded choices.“Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.”~ Nelson Mandela3. From Good to Great: Just add AwarenessWe often view decisions as binary: good or bad. But the reality is that our choices and results rest upon a spectrum. A “good” decision today might become a “great" decision with a little more awareness, thoroughness and effort. Take the time to reflect on your current decisions by assessing potential alternatives and related narratives. Then, actively seek resources to assist you in up-leveling your “good” decisions to “great.”Remember, making better decisions is a process to refine and revisit.By challenging your autopilot routine, seeking expert advice, and actively seeking improvement, you unlock the potential for greatness in every choice you make.“The quality of your life is the quality of your decisions.” ~ Bob DylanAdditional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* MG's Books: EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgFrom the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.We asked Google's AI experiment Gemini to “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model.The short story (no pun intended), is he/she/IT could not. The best Gemini could offer: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?” It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: You are invited to try and “break” the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” behavior model as well.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“You are perfect and you could use some work.” Self-Help Sucks!One Size Fits All? “The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases.” ~ Carl JungChallenges and Words of Caution:* The “One Size Fits All” Fallacy: As Jung rightfully pointed out, individual differences are inescapable. What works for one person may not apply at all for another. It's crucial to critically evaluate any self-help advice and adapt it to your unique personality, circumstances, and needs.* Having said that, The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. methodology (habit-tracking process) provides a broad, application framework designed to ‘fit' any person regardless of the goals or habits they are looking to develop.* » https://thehabitfactor.com/templates* The Cult of Positivity: While optimism is valuable, ignoring negative emotions or experiences can be counterproductive. It's important to acknowledge and process the full spectrum of human emotions for healthy growth.* The Risk of Comparison and Inadequacy: Comparing ourselves to idealized versions of success portrayed in self-help materials can lead to feelings of inadequacy and discouragement. Remember, progress is rarely linear, and celebrating your own unique journey is key.Advantages of Self-Help and Personal Development:* Empowerment and Self-Awareness: Self-help resources can equip individuals with valuable tools for self-reflection and growth. By exploring different methodologies and perspectives, we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, our strengths, and areas for improvement. This newfound self-awareness empowers us to take charge of our lives and make conscious choices aligned with our values.* Skill Development and Knowledge Acquisition: The self-help industry offers a vast array of resources focused on acquiring new skills and knowledge. Whether it's mastering communication techniques, improving time management, or fostering emotional intelligence, these resources can provide practical strategies for enhancing various aspects of our lives.* Community and Support: Self-help communities, both online and offline, offer invaluable support and connection. Sharing experiences, challenges, and successes with others on a similar journey can foster a sense of belonging and encourage sustained motivation.Final thoughts:Self-help and personal development are potent tools for growth and transformation. However, approaching them with a critical and discerning eye is crucial. The most effective path to self-fulfillment lies in embracing your individuality and tailoring these resources to fit your unique journey.Additional:* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.* Books that may help "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* EVERYTHING is a F*cking Story, The Pressure Paradox™ & The Habit Factor®Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the very first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, it's an “Echo-System” not an eco-system. All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.” ~ BuddhaThe Happiness EpisodeKey takeaways:Internal and External Factors:* Happiness originates from BOTH internal (choice/control) AND external factors (events/circumstances). (see behavior model below)* Things we can control with intention and practice, better thoughts, choices, and habits. Genetics, relationships, circumstances and events are external influences.* Choosing happiness is a crucial part of the equation, even when faced with external challenges.Beyond Happiness… Contentment* Contentment is a deeper level of happiness. Happiness is fleeting, like the surface of the lake; it can be stormy or calm. However, deep down at the very bottom of the lake, the waters are still and calm; this is contentment.* Contentment is not about complacency; it's about being confident and comfortable with who you are AND striving for personal growth, developing new skills and enjoying new experiences.Internal Factors Influencing Happiness: See “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System”* Positive thinking and choosing the “right” stories to tell ourselves play a significant role.* Having direction, purpose and meaning (something that you choose and evolves over time) tends to foster happiness.* Maintaining healthy habits like exercise, reading, and good sleep also contribute.External Factors:* Quality, long-term relationships: According to Harvard's research, strong, quality relationships are the number one factor.* Accomplishments, acts of kindness, and positive experiences also improve happiness.“He who is not satisfied with a little is satisfied with nothing” ~ EpicurusActions to develop the happiness habit.* Upon waking, practice reading something positive and see if you can decide to be happy for the day.* Begin tracking your habits by following The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. methodology. This process ensures you have direction (goals) and intention which helps to develop self-efficacy, which drives happiness.* Desire is an essential factor for habit formation; knowledge and capability are not enough.“Happiness depends upon ourselves.” ~ AristotleSummary:* Happiness is complex and achievable. It's not about perfect days or constant highs; it's about embracing both internal and external contributors and choosing to be content with who you are while still striving for improvement.* You can and should do both.Additional Notes:* References "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.* Download the free habits-to-goals tracking template to cultivate the habits that support your goals here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates.Finally, happiness is a journey, not a destination. Take control of what you can, appreciate what you have, and keep moving forward!Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Discipline is doing what you ought to do, when you ought to do it, whether you feel like it or not.” ~ Jim RohnBridging the Gap between Desire and DoingNew Year, new you. Right? Did you promise to get in shape for 2024 only to feel the comfy couch pulling you into its fluffy abyss? Incredibly, the second Friday of January is known as “Quitter's Day,” according to several online publications, such as Fortune.That's when people quit – they abandon their New Year's resolutions.Just two weeks into the New Year!?A Bible proverb says, “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”What does that mean?In short, it means goals, aspirations, and desires are easy to conjure up; however, to realize your goals, dreams, and desires requires work; work that most people are unlikely to do.For better or worse, humans are naturally wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure. Thus, “weak” flesh is simply your body seeking comfort instead of effort.Your spirit says, “I will complete the half marathon!” However, until you bridge the gap between what you say you're going to do – your desires and your actions, you'll be left frustrated and unfulfilled, wondering what went wrong.Arguably, the entire personal development industry wants to crack the discipline code. See below. Is your discipline triangle closed or open?An open discipline triangle leaks…potential.Discipline develops as soon as you practice intersecting your behaviors (the doing) with your ambitions (desires).The key to discipline is ensuring that desire and doing intersect, repeatedly.How?ENTER THE P.A.R.R. METHOD: PLAN. ACT. RECORD and REASSESS.P.A.R.R. is the key to strengthening the discipline habit.By tracking any habit following P.A.R.R. you strengthen discipline.The P.A.R.R. method forces the practice of intersecting DOING with their DESIRE.«SEE the FREE HABITS-to-GOALS Tracking Template»Thus, by following P.A.R.R. you practice the art of discipline by continually intersecting your DOING with your DESIRE.While the flesh may be weak, it becomes stronger by following P.A.R.R.Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The vast majority of people do not recognize that this is what they're doing.So my work is showing them, no, that's not the world.That's the story you're telling yourself about the world.And some stories serve you, but many of your stories do not serve you.” ~ Srikumar RaoThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Creativity and Personal Mastery.Srikumar Rao's remarkable journey spans Indian roots and a pioneering course at Columbia, “Creativity & Personal Mastery,” empowering countless individuals to tap into their creative and personal strength.Srikumar insists that we are not just our physical selves, but pure consciousness that creates the reality we experience through our mental narratives.Key Points:* Personal mastery: Begins with understanding and controlling the stories we tell ourselves and using that awareness to shape our lives.* The Matrix analogy: Dr. Rao compares our perceived reality to a self-constructed “matrix” shaped by our mental chatter and models. We can deconstruct and rebuild this matrix to create a more fulfilling life.* Stories vs. reality: We often confuse our stories about the world with the actual world itself. Recognizing and letting go of unhelpful stories is crucial for personal growth.* Spirituality vs. religion: The essence of personal mastery lies in recognizing our true nature as pure consciousness, which transcends specific religious beliefs. Different religions offer diverse paths to this core truth.* Action and awareness: While being fully aware doesn't negate the need for action, it allows us to act from a place of groundedness and clarity, letting go of unnecessary goals and striving.* Free will vs. divine guidance: Dr. Rao suggests that even within our awareness, there's a larger force at play guiding us. We act to the best of our ability within the circumstances presented, recognizing that our understanding of “right” may evolve over time.Personal mastery is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. By becoming aware of the stories we tell ourselves and recognizing our true nature as pure consciousness, we can create a more fulfilling and meaningful life, even within the limitations of our perceived reality.“Habit: A Framework for a Beautiful Life”MG and Dr. Rao, discuss goals, success, and habits.On Goals:* Focus on the journey, not just the outcome: While setting goals is important, it's crucial to remember that the real value lies in the process of learning and growing as you strive towards them. Don't get fixated on achieving the final destination; enjoy the journey itself.* Reframe your goals as aspirations: Instead of viewing goals as rigid targets, see them as aspirational stepping stones that guide your direction and help you evolve. This takes the pressure off and allows you to embrace the unexpected turns along the way.On Success:* True success lies in inner peace and fulfillment: Success isn't about material possessions or external validation. It's about finding inner peace, feeling radiantly alive, and experiencing deep gratitude for the gift of being who you are and doing what you do.* Seek meaning and purpose: True fulfillment comes from connecting with something bigger than yourself. Pursue activities that ignite your passion and contribute to a greater purpose, whether it's personal growth, helping others, or making a positive impact on the world.On Habits:* Habits are the bedrock of a good life: Positive habits, like meditation, reading, and exercise, form the foundation for a fulfilling life. They shape your daily routines, cultivate discipline, and contribute to your overall well-being.* Consciously choose your habits: Be mindful of the habits you cultivate. They have a significant impact on your life, so choose them wisely. Break free from negative habits that hold you back and replace them with positive ones that empower you to thrive.It's evident that Dr. Rao's teachings, forged through his own journey of transformation, offer a path to transcend the limitations of material goals. By cultivating positive habits and seeking inspiration from traditional wisdom, anyone can apply his tools to navigate life's challenges and find meaning. In essence, his teachings empower individuals to “unstuck” themselves.Dr. Rao's story proves that creativity and personal mastery are worthy goals in an of themselves. Books mentioned/recommended by Dr. Rao • Ram Dass - Be Here Now• The Teachings of Ramana MaharshiThe Rao Institute - Get on his newsletter here!His book to help anyone get “unstuck” immediately,Are you ready to Succeed?Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment VIBRATE (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” All prior behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“Where there is no vision, the people perish.” ~ ProverbsThe Greater the Vision, the Greater the PossibilitiesImagine yourself staring at a chessboard, lost in the tangle of pieces. Suddenly, a move leaps out, clear as day. Not because you're a grandmaster, but because you finally saw the board differently. This is the magic of vision. It's not just about eyesight, it's about perspective, understanding, and the ability to see greater possibilities Outstanding quarterbacks and point guards have one thing in common, great vision.They see things differently and thus, better options unfold. Coaches call it “field vision” and it's often the difference between a good player and a game-changer.But vision isn't just about sports and games. Throughout history, great leaders and thinkers alike have emphasized its importance.Even in the Bible, Proverbs 29:18 says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish,” underscoring how a clear vision guides individuals and communities. In Buddhism, “Right View” is the foundation – the very first precept – of the Noble Eightfold Path.Vision transcends physical sight as well. Studies reveal that blind individuals, through heightened other senses and enhanced mental abilities, develop a different kind of “vision.” Thus, many blind people can navigate complex environments, solve problems creatively, and possess remarkable spatial awareness. This episode is a reminder to all to open up your vision; to change your perspective, to see problems and challenges differently,Different perspectives tend to create new opportunities and unlock insights.So, how can you cultivate this powerful vision? Here are some tips:* Question your assumptions: Don't just accept things at face value. Challenge your own perspective and seek out different viewpoints.* Practice active listening: Pay attention to others, understand their needs, and see things from their perspective.* Embrace curiosity: Be open to new experiences and ideas. Step outside your comfort zone and explore the unknown to broaden your vision.* Think creatively: Don't be afraid to break the mold and come up with unconventional solutions.* Reflect and learn: Take time to analyze your experiences and identify areas for improvement.Remember, vision isn't just about seeing; it's about understanding, and it's the foundation of problem-solving.By taking a step back and taking a fresh look, you'll discover possibilities hidden in plain sight. Just like this photo below… do you see the inscription?So, open your mind and/or maybe even squint your eyes; solutions begin with different views.After all, it's not always about being the most intelligent, it's often about being the one who sees the most possibilities.Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“If it bleeds, it leads.” ~ William Randolph HearstCloudy with a Chance of SuccessThere's a reason the phrase “If it bleeds, it leads” exists in the media, it captures people's attention.Eyeballs and ears gravitate toward sights and sounds of fear and panic.Imagine: You're about to cross a rickety bridge. Mr. Optimism skips along, whistling a happy tune, while Ms. Pessimism checks the planks, grumbling about “potential splinters and structural integrity.”Who comes out ahead? It depends. The pessimist may appear to be the party pooper. Yet, she might've just saved some lives.Humans are naturally, hard-wired with a built-in alarm system; constantly scanning for threats, risks, and what-ifs. Media companies know this and run stories accordingly.Isn't optimism the real ally though?Similar to “Expectations” (prior episode) the idea is that both pessimism and optimism can be superpowers when used wisely.The trick is finding the balance – the sweet spot – the perspective that allows you to see both the storm and know that the sun is there, behind the clouds.A few tips:* Listen to both voices: Don't silence Ms. Pessimism or Mr. Optimism. When facing a challenge, acknowledge the potential pitfalls, but also the possible triumphs.* Plan for the worst, hope for the best: Ms. Pessimism can help you pack the umbrella, while Mr. Optimism keeps you looking for the rainbow. * Prepare for bumps on the road, but don't lose sight of the finish line.* Focus on personal growth: Both Mr. Optimism and Ms. Pessimism are twin guides of personal development. Pessimism may reveal weaknesses – opportunities for improvement, while optimism can showcase strengths to build on.With an optimistic long-term perspective and a sharp scrutiny of threats in the near term, great things can be accomplished over time.And, remember…“Where there is hope in the future, there is happiness in the present.”Success doesn't ignore present storms yet, it finds a way to persist, find value where it may be hidden and know the sun is shining beyond.Mentioned in this episode: The Psychology of MoneyEnjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” ~ Muhammad AliThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.From Ring Conqueror to Hollywood CanvasForget the Rocky Balboa wannabes. Meet Michael Bentt. A man who claimed the World Boxing Organization (WBO) Heavyweight Championship title (1993) and would later star in the boxing classic “Ali” as Sonny Liston (2001).Our conversation reveals an intelligent, complex man whose life defied expectations; a tapestry of grit, resilience, and seized opportunity.Roots of a Champion:* Aviation Aspirations: A bright student at New York's Aviation High School, Bentt harbored dreams of soaring as a pilot. Baseball, however, was his first love, a passion nurtured by his supportive father.* Fistic Footsteps: Fate had other plans. His father, a former boxer and aficionado, saw raw talent and a fighting spirit in young Michael and steered him toward the ring. This wasn't just about toughening up; it was about channeling raw energy building discipline and elevating his stature.The Ring:* The Paradox of Safety: Inside the squared circle, amidst the roars and stinging jabs, Bentt found his sanctuary. The controlled chaos, the rhythmic dance of offense and defense, became a refuge from the uncertainties of life outside.* A Crown and a Crushing Blow: His amateur accolades are legendary, but it was in 1993 that Bentt etched his name in boxing history, a huge underdog, he captured the WBO Heavyweight Championship with a thunderous first-round KO of Tommy Morrison. The subsequent brutal loss in his first title defense, however, could have broken him.Canvas to Canvas:* A Writing and Guiding Hand: Enter Thomas Hauser, a well-known boxing writer who saw beyond the knockout. Thomas showed sincere concern for the former champ and became Bentt's unlikely mentor providing much-needed guidance and contacts along the way.* Reinvention in the Spotlight: Seizing multiple opportunities, Hollywood welcomed Bentt and he appeared in dozens of films, adding depth to roles like Sonny Liston in the iconic “Ali” alongside Will Smith.The Man Unmasked:Michael Bentt's story transcends the ropes and the silver screen. It's a beautiful tapestry and a testament to the human spirit – its capacity to find a way; to arise from life's unexpected storms, weather the blows, and emerge with greater wisdom and grace. It's a powerful story (EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY) that affirms, “Regardless of the last punch you took, the fight remains, and another round is coming quickly!”Ding. Ding. Ding.Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” ~ Socrates This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.AUDIT-U: Your Year-End Personal Inventory for Wellness and Optimized Living“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to become.” ~ Ralph Waldo EmersonAs the confetti falls and champagne fizzles, marking the end of another year, we often turn inwards, reflecting on the journey just passed. Resolutions flit across our minds, fleeting promises whispered to the new year.Wouldn't it be more effective to approach personal growth like a savvy CEO, conducting a thorough audit of her company?Imagine yourself as the head of LIFE Corp. You are responsible for your well-being, success, and happiness. Just as any business undergoes regular audits, so too should YOU. Dive deeply into the following eight key areas of your life, assessing, optimizing, and strategizing for the year ahead.The Core Four Pillars of Wellness: Building Solid Foundations* Mind: Did you nurture your intellect through learning, challenge your perspectives, and prioritize mental well-being? Did you conquer limiting beliefs and cultivate a positive mindset? * AUDIT-U: Identify areas for growth, prioritize continuous learning, and implement a self-care routine.* Body: Did you nourish your physical vessel with healthy choices? Did you move your body, listen to its needs, and prioritize quality sleep? * AUDIT-U: Evaluate your diet, exercise habits, and sleep hygiene. Design a plan for better movement, mindful eating, and restful slumber.* Spirit: Did you connect with your inner self, find meaning and purpose, and cultivate gratitude? Did you nurture your spirituality through whatever practice nourishes your soul? * AUDIT-U: Explore mindfulness practices, spiritual activities, and acts of service that bring you a sense of purpose and connection.* Social: Did you deepen meaningful connections, foster healthy relationships, and build a supportive network? Did you give back to your community and nurture a sense of belonging? * AUDIT-U: Invest in relationships, nurture existing bonds, and expand your social circle. Look for volunteer opportunities to connect with your community.“Leadership is not a position. It's a choice. Everyone can choose to lead.” ~ Simon SinekExpanding for Greater Fulfillment: The Next Four Pillars* Professional: Did you feel fulfilled in your career? Did you learn new skills, take on challenges, and progress towards your goals? AUDIT-U: Evaluate your job satisfaction, identify skill gaps, and set attainable career objectives.* Financial: Did you manage your finances prudently, build savings, and make wise investments? Did you live within your means and plan for the future? AUDIT-U: Analyze your budget, create a savings plan, and explore responsible investment options.* Adventure/Lifestyle: Did you create memorable experiences, embrace new adventures, and step outside your comfort zone? Did you cultivate a lifestyle that fuels your soul and sparks joy? AUDIT-U: Schedule adventures, prioritize time for hobbies and passions, and design a lifestyle that aligns with your values.* Emotional: Did you manage your emotions healthily, build resilience, and navigate challenges with grace? Did you foster self-compassion and nurture inner peace? AUDIT-U: Identify emotional triggers, learn stress management techniques, and seek professional help if needed.By conducting your personal AUDIT-U, you move beyond fleeting resolutions and into a strategic plan for growth and fulfillment. This year, ditch the generic wishes and replace them with actionable goals, backed by self-awareness and a clear vision for your life. Make 2024 your most intentional year yet, built on the solid foundation of self-knowledge and optimized living. Remember, you are the CEO of your life – take control, audit wisely, and create a future that sparks joy and ignites your soul.Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.BTW: YOU are also invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model.If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's does not know the model yet, officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Discipline is a habit. Nobody is born discplined.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Got Discipline? Cultivate it.Frequently Asked Friday: How can I be more disciplined?How to Be More DisciplinedA great definition of discipline comes from Jim Rohn: doing what you ought to do, when you ought to do it, whether you feel like it or not. Forget genetic predispositions or willpower superpowers. Discipline isn't some magical quality reserved for the “chosen few.” Discipline is a habit, just like brushing your teeth or making your bed. And like any habit, it can be cultivated, nurtured, and strengthened over time.Think of building discipline just like building a muscle. Each time you choose the salad over the fries, the early morning jog over the extra hour of sleep, you're flexing your discipline muscle. It will feel tough at first, but with each action, those choices develop into big changes.To develop discipline, follow the P.A.R.R. method.Plan, Act, Record, Reassess. This framework, developed by The Habit Factor®, helps you build discipline along with any habit you choose to develop. PLANACTRECORDREASSESSThe magic of PARR lies in its feedback loop. Habit-tracking fosters powerful self-awareness. You see your wins, acknowledge your slips, and course-correct with renewed momentum. It's a cycle of reinforcement that fuels continued growth.The beauty of this approach is its universality. Want to write a novel? Track your daily word or page count. Craving a clutter-free home? Schedule decluttering sessions and measure your progress. Each tracked habit becomes a stepping stone on the path to a more disciplined you.Remember, becoming “disciplined” isn't about perfection. It's about showing up, especially when it's hard. It's about taking those small, consistent steps, knowing that each one fosters more strength for the next habit you decide to track. Embrace the challenge, celebrate the victories (big and small), follow the PARR habit-building method (see template below) and track your way to a more empowered and disciplined you.Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesBACKGROUND:The Grunburg Behavior Model introduced a groundbreaking perspective on behavior change with its concept of the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System.” Unlike traditional models that portray human behavior as a linear chain of cause and effect (see CBT or TTM), this holistic and dynamic model unveils the intricate interplay of forces shaping our actions, thoughts, feelings, and the environment and how each perpetually reverberates to influence the other.By illustrating human behavior within a personal 'echo-system,' the model highlights the continuous vibrational influence of thoughts (stories), emotions/feelings, and behaviors/habits/skills and our environment, creating a ripple effect that influences every aspect of our lives. The innovative and simple behavior model reveals a precise road map for anyone seeking lasting personal transformation and goal achievement. The model adds a layer of realism to our understanding of how we interact with the world around us while at the same time, challenging conventional models and wisdom.The Grunburg Behavior Model simplistically articulates the essence of behavior, capturing its fluid and interconnected nature while paving the way for a more comprehensive and impactful understanding of human dynamics.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System,” it is featured in my latest book, “EVERYTHING!” Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“To develop foresight, you need to practice hindsight.” ~ J. McGonigalThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Arrive at Tomorrow's Goals Faster by Reversing TimeWhen it comes to nailing your next big goal or New Year resolution, forget the “To-Do List” and “next steps”. After all, how many “steps” are there going to be? The answer is a lot. It often paralyzes the most ambitious and prevents them from starting.Try this instead: Imagine you've already attained the goal. CONGRATULATIONS!

“Personal transformation and goal achievement can begin at any level: Story/Thinking, Emotions/Feelings, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, Environment. However, for them to endure, each component must remain in coherhence.”This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Be, Do, Have: Cliché or Cornerstone? The personal development mantra '“Be, Do, Have” often gets dismissed as a tired cliché. Enter the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System,”/Grunburg Behavior Model. The model reveals a striking parallel, it underscores “Be, Do, Have” and, reinforces the dynamic interplay of the essential components; thoughts (stories), feelings/emotions, behaviors/habits/skills, and one's environment required for goal achievement and personal transformation.The Grunburg Model showcases three concentric circles: At the epicenter: Thoughts/Stories, the Middle concentric circle: Behaviors/Habits/Skills, and the Outermost concentric circle: Environment. Everyone resides/exists within their own “Behavior Echo-System.” It's important to recognize that one's emotions and feelings are the fundamental conduits between each of the ‘major' components.The innermost circle, Thoughts/Stories, comprises the vast array of one's narratives. These are the stories about oneself, entailing who we are, who we can become, and what we're capable of achieving. Our identities form as a construct of these elements, shaping our self-image and reverberating back to influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. For example, a confident and optimistic story (“Be” a world-changer) can fuel the motivation to develop empowering habits and pursue ambitious goals. Conversely, a limiting or negative story can hold us back and prevent us from reaching our full potential. [Key point: Run any real-life scenario through this behavior model and notice how each element reverberates to influence the others.]The power of one's “BE” ing (identity) lies in one's ability to reassess one's personal narratives to understand the conscious and unconscious stories that may influence the very foundation of their behavior echo system.The middle circle, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, represents the “Do” ing.Hence, we put our stories about ourselves and our capability (beliefs) into practice, and these practices (habits) begin to shape our external world (Environment) through our choices and actions.The “Environment” as represented in this model is both one's sensory inputs – the ‘things' that happen to us, and the things we can influence and change – our results.Finally, the Environment includes everything that is not identified in the model itself, including physical surroundings, social connections, life situations, etc. It's a bit of a mind-bender, but since we can influence and change our body, and our body influences and changes our feelings/emotions, behaviors and thinking/stories – one's body is part of their environment in this model.Consider how one's body alters one's emotions/feelings, behaviors/habits/skills and the stories and vice-versa. (See Nature vs. Nurture)The “Thee Circles behavior model” underscores precisely how “Be, Do, Have” works. And, importantly, it's not in a linear-type progression as all other previous behavior models depict (see TTM, CBT). It's the dynamic interplay (reverberation) of elemental behavioral forces that represents the essence of the Grunburg Behavior model.It's clear that “Be, Do, Have” is far more than clichéd personal development advice.Enjoy the show!~mgP.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.With this in mind, we asked Google's AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System Model” (perhaps a future post). The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not. The best Bard could offer is, “What about people who aren't aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It's a good try, but unconscious stories are still stories (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.BTW: If you're invited to try to “break” the model as well. If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.*Note: ChatGPT's has no knowledge of the model yet, which was officially published in October of 2022. GPT's latest update is from January 2022. ***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. GrunburgThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Refining Thought & Character HabitsFrequently Asked Friday: PARR (PLAN, ACT, RECORD & REASSESS) is great for developing ‘planned' habits. How can I develop thought and character habits such as being more assertive? Especially since I don't know when those opportunities will arise.P.A.R.R. Lite: One Savored Moment at a TimeWhile PARR excels at shaping physical habits, its latest sibling, PARR Lite (soon to be released in the app), empowers you to refine your inner diamond – your character– via thought and behavior habits. Take assertiveness, a potential virtue often hidden beneath layers of self-doubt. One app user asked the very question above.PARR Lite, soon to be released, will help strengthen these with each mindful moment.Imagine setting a daily threshold of “3 assertive actions.” Upon waking, PARR Lite whispers, “Be mindful of opportunities to speak up.” At work, you hesitate to say something in a meeting, but the “instance” counter on your Applewatch (iPhone or Android phone), urges you to act. You raise your hand, voice your opinion, and record an instance of “1”. Each assertive act, from voicing your needs to setting boundaries, leaves a mark, a tiny victory as self-confidence is gained and the practice of assertiveness is reinforced.PARR Lite's magic lies beyond mere counting. It's about mindfulness. The beauty of PARR Lite is its flexibility. It doesn't require pre-planned scenarios. It simply nudges you to be more present, to recognize opportunities for the “instances” - thought or character trait habit you are tracking.A practice that, in many ways, mirrors how Benjamin Franklin meticulously recorded and tracked his 13 virtues. PARR Lite offers a modern twist on this time-tested approach, making character-building as accessible as tracking your steps.The science is clear: intentional habit formation works. By nurturing the thought and/or character trait habits you intend to cultivate, you'll find that sculpting these character and thought habits isn't much different than sculpting your body.Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesBACKGROUND:The Grunburg Behavior Model introduced a groundbreaking perspective on behavior change with its concept of the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System.” Unlike traditional models that portray human behavior as a linear chain of cause and effect (see CBT or TTM), this holistic and dynamic model unveils the intricate interplay of forces shaping our actions, thoughts, feelings, and the environment and how each perpetually reverberates to influence the other.By illustrating human behavior within a personal 'echo-system,' the model highlights the continuous vibrational influence of thoughts (stories), emotions/feelings, and behaviors/habits/skills and our environment, creating a ripple effect that influences every aspect of our lives. The innovative and simple behavior model reveals a precise road map for anyone seeking lasting personal transformation and goal achievement. The model adds a layer of realism to our understanding of how we interact with the world around us while at the same time, challenging conventional models and wisdom.The Grunburg Behavior Model simplistically articulates the essence of behavior, capturing its fluid and interconnected nature while paving the way for a more comprehensive and impactful understanding of human dynamics.Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System,” it is featured in my latest book, “EVERYTHING!” Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. GrunburgThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Habits and Skills: The Fraternal Twins of Personal DevelopmentWe're bringing back Frequently Asked Friday (w/ Season 12) – on a Monday!Frequently Asked Friday: Why do Habits and skills share the same space in the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / Grunburg Behavior Model?Upon further review, habits and skills share remarkable similarities, making them more like fraternal twins than distant cousins.Where Habits & Skills Reside:Both habits and skills, once fully formed, reside deep within the limbic system, specifically in the basal ganglia. Once a habit or skill is ingrained in the basal ganglia, it becomes seemingly “automatic.”The Four Stages of Learning or Competence:When it comes to developing good habits intentionally, it helps to reflect upon the four stages of learning and to think about how you would practice any skill you're trying to cultivate.* Unconsciously Incompetent: This stage is characterized by a lack of awareness of both the skill or habit and its potential benefits.* Consciously Incompetent: In this stage, we become aware of the skill or habit, but lack the knowledge or ability to perform it effectively.* Consciously Competent: Through intentional and repeated practice, we gain the ability to perform the skill or habit, but it still requires considerable conscious effort and attention.* Unconsciously Competent: With months and often years of practice, the skill and/or habit becomes automatic and is performed with little conscious thought.The Formation of Bad HabitsBad habits rarely require planning or tracking to be formed: Eating or drinking too much, sleeping late, and watching too much TV or, consuming too much social media – these unhealthy habits tend to form all by themselves. It's the good, positive habits that tend to require a plan, along with tracking, that facilitates their cultivation. Enter: The P.A.R.R. Method for Good Habit DevelopmentThe PARR method is an acronym for Plan, Act, Record, and Reassess. It offers a powerful framework for cultivating positive habits. By planning your desired behavior, taking action, recording your progress, and reassessing your approach (after 28 Days – 4 weeks), you can conscientiously shape habits that are aligned with your goals.More info here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesGood habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their ownGood habits and skills are both essential, related aspects of personal development and, not coincidentally, share a similar path to development.Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Life is a tragedy when seen in close-up, but a comedy in long-shot.”~ Charlie ChaplinThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Life's Balancing Act: Tragedy & ComedyWhat feels like a world-ending personal disaster today may just become a hilarious anecdote tomorrow.Just a few years ago, everyone was panicking about the COVID-19 pandemic. It was the end of the world. It was a scary time, filled with uncertainty and fear. Today, the epoch provides comedians worldwide (just check Netflix and social media) with endless material for jokes. To be clear, nobody is laughing about the millions of fatalities. Having said that, they are laughing at the ridiculous things people did, particularly in the early days: hoarding toilet paper, wearing masks made of scarves, and Zoom meetings with our pets dressed up as co-workers.Consider another quote, or rather a formula, this time from Woody Allen: Tragedy + Time = Comedy.For example, imagine the grief and shock surrounding the assassination of President Lincoln in 1865. No one was making jokes about John Wilkes Booth at the time. Today, countless jokes and even historical memes circulate about the incident.It's hardly funny, yet, people find a way to laugh about it.Does this mean Chaplin's or Allen's quote applies to every tragedy? Not exactly.While time may soften the blow of some tragedies, others leave permanent scars. The death of a loved one, the loss of a dream, or the experience of war can leave wounds that never fully heal. So, where does that leave us? Humor is a powerful tool that helps us cope in difficult times, offers perspective, and can even build resilience. It's also a powerful reminder that even in the darkest of challenges, our perspective will likely shift with some additional time.Think about that teenage relationship you had and lost. It was the end of the world. Up close, it was a tragedy. Now, it's a comedy,The same might be said for any/all of the latest political crises. The beauty in the observation is this: Take life itself and each crisis at hand a bit less seriously, knowing it may just turn out like 98% of the prior crises, which somehow morphed into comedies.* Embrace the absurd: Life is full of ridiculous situations and unexpected turns. Learn to laugh at the absurdity of it all, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.* Connect with others: Sharing our stories and experiences with others can help us feel less alone and more connected. Laughter is often contagious, so surround yourself with people who make you smile.* Seek out humor: Watch funny movies, read humorous books, or listen to stand-up comedy. Exposing yourself to humor can help boost your mood and put things in perspective.* Be patient: Healing takes time. Don't pressure yourself to feel happy or funny all the time. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and know that laughter will eventually return.Remember, life's a perpetual and emotional ying and yang.During your next crisis, take a deep breath, recall Chaplin's and Allen's words'; recognize the possibility that just maybe you'll be laughing about it in the future. Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequencey and vibration.“~ Nikola TeslaThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.What's the first clue that the latest habits “Gooroo” knows little about habit development? They teach the idea that doing a behavior for a month or thirty days – is the key to habit development. Performing a behavior for thirty days is helpful, but it misses a core, fundamental precept of habit development: RHYTHM“Everything in the universe has a rhythm, everything dances.” ~ Maya AngelouWhen I set out to write The Habit Factor®, the first question I pondered, researched and even queried Google was, “Why do habits exist?”Google served up a grand total of ZERO answers – nothing. (See the book for a screenshot)After weeks of contemplating that question, the answer revealed itself. It was elemental: All life is energy. Energy has a predisposition for pattern and rhythm; consider sound waves, ocean waves, the rhythm of the seasons, high tide, low tide, universal planetary rhythms, etc.By understanding this basic idea, anyone can intentionally leverage the rhythm of the week – using four-week increments – to track and reassess the habits they'd like to cultivate.ENTER: BodybuildingThe world of bodybuilding is often associated with sculpted physiques and unwavering dedication. Beyond the physical transformations, there lies a treasure trove of insights into habit formation and the art of self-discipline. Bodybuilders, through their rigorous training routines and meticulous tracking, offer valuable lessons that can be applied to building positive habits.The Rhythm of the WeekJust as bodybuilders structure their workout schedules around specific muscle groups each day of the week, we can adopt a similar approach to habit formation. By dedicating specific times or days to certain habits, we create a rhythm that becomes ingrained in our daily routine. P.A.R.R.: A Habit-Building MethodologyThe P.A.R.R. methodology, which stands for Plan, Act, Record, and Reassess, perfectly aligns with the habit-building strategies employed by bodybuilders.* Plan: Clearly define the habit you want to establish and establish both the “Target Days” and the “Minimum Success Criteria.” (More info here)* Act: By following your plan, you act on your “Target Days”, meeting your “Minimum Success Criteria.” (What happens if you don't? See above link)* Record: Track your actions against your plan and add comments. Comments are essential and help to reinforce your intention (plan).* Reassess: Reassessment is crucial. Evaluate your habit-tracking effort after four weeks. If you are 85% or better against your targets, you should “raise the bar.” (See above link).HabitStrength™: Building MomentumJust as bodybuilders gradually increase the weight they lift to build muscle strength, we can apply the concept of HabitStrength™ to habit formation. By gradually increasing the “Frequency per week” and/or the “Minimum Success Criteria” (duration), we strengthen the habit's strength and its automaticity.Leg Day: A Metaphor for Habit BuildingThe term "Leg Day" represents a plan put into action by following the rhythm of the weekWe can approach habit formation with the same level of intention and understanding. Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean. “~ Johann Wolfgang von GoetheThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's easy to get caught up in the pursuit of worldly goals, the accumulation of possessions, and fleeting pleasures.Yet, at the end of the proverbial day, the true measure of your life will not lie in material wealth or even accolades. Instead, it will be determined by the impact that was made – the lives you touched – the GOOD that you did.“The true worth of a man is to be measured by his deeds and not by his words.” ~ SenecaIn the realm of spirituality, a multitude of religions posit that we exist for a reason – to serve others – to do GOOD. It is not the length of our lives but the depth of our impact that matters.While the religions vary, the core message is the same: we are called to make a positive difference in the world, to use our gifts and talents to serve others and to make the world a better place.Our lives have the power to leave an indelible mark on the hearts and souls of those we encounter. We can be agents of kindness, compassion, and understanding anytime we choose. Or we can let our actions be guided by apathy, indifference, and negativity.The choice is yours.Ultimately, there is just one question that will really matter at the end of your life: “What good did you do?”You have one job: Leave the world a better place than you found it.Start sweeping. Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“We are but dust and shadows, and like a lamp that is lit and then extinguished, so too will our lives be extinguished.” ~ Marcus AureliusThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. In the vast expanse of time and space, our individual existence might seem like a fleeting flicker, a mere ripple in the cosmic ocean. A thousand years from now, our names will likely fade into obscurity, our actions lost to the annals of history. Despite this inherent insignificance, we also possess the power to leave an indelible mark on the world, to create a ripple effect that echoes through generations.Life is a paradox, simultaneously insignificant and immensely significant. On one hand, our individual lives are finite, destined to be consumed by the relentless march of time. Our achievements, no matter how grand, will fade into the background of the universe's vastness.On the other hand, we are capable of extraordinary acts of love, compassion, and creativity. We have the power to inspire, teach, uplift, and heal. Our actions can have a profound impact on the lives of others, the well-being of creatures and even the planet itself. Our service and impact can create a ripple effect that extends well beyond our lifetime.The Starfish ParableWhile walking on the beach, a man noticed a boy throwing a starfish back into the ocean.“You're wasting your time, young man; there are too many starfish to save! You cannot help them all. Your efforts do not make any difference.”The boy tossed another starfish into the ocean, turned and said, “I just made a difference for that one!”“We are a part of something greater than ourselves, something that will endure long after we are gone.” ~ Carl SaganThis paradox of existence should be a call to action, not a source of despair.It reminds us that while our individual lives may be fleeting, the impact we make on others can endure. It urges us to embrace our insignificance and use it as fuel to be significant. To live a meaningful life is not to seek immortality or to strive for everlasting fame. It's to live with purpose, to love wholeheartedly – to leave a positive mark on the world, however small it may seem. It is also to recognize that our individual actions, though seemingly insignificant, can contribute to something greater.Embrace the paradox that is your life. Acknowledge your insignificance while simultaneously celebrating your extraordinary capacity to love, serve, be compassionate, and create. Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.” ~Abraham MaslowThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. The other day, a good friend (former professor and a professional writer) – a man whose top value is a “learning mindset” – said something that caught my attention.“I've realized the importance of ‘dumb stuff.' It's the dumb stuff that supports the smart stuff.”“The dumb stuff supports the smart stuff.”It's brilliant! I loved the idea and sentiment.Running doesn't require much intelligence yet; after he runs, he's a better writer.Sleep doesn't require much or any intelligence yet; after he rests, he's a better writer.After a few days of contemplating the comment, it occurred to me that this “stuff” is only “dumb” in the context of ‘intelligence.' In other words, how hard is your brain working while you're running or sleeping?Chances are, not very hard.What if we viewed these behaviors not through an intelligence lens but through a wellness and health one?Eating right, exercising and getting enough sleep become fundamentals for a well-balanced life.A larger theme emerged…Change the lens - the filter - and answers or even behaviors and tools tend to change.While the episode is called “Dumb Stuff” (like so many episodes on H2G), it's really about paradigms.Paradigm defined:a typical example or pattern of something; a model.* (see behavior model below)a worldview underlying the theories and methodology of a particular scientific subject.Abraham Maslow, the famed American psychologist, called the inclination – the tendency to use the same tool for different problems – the ‘Law of the Instrument.'It refers to an over-reliance on a favorite or familiar tool. Here's the key point: Before anyone grabs any tool, they have a perception or view of the problem.It's less about the tool, at first, and more about the paradigm.Before any problem is solved, it must be addressed.How we view challenges, determines not only how we think about them, but how we approach them (our behaviors), and which tools we use.Maslow's ‘Law of the Instrument' tells us that an over-reliance on any particular view and/or tool can result in negative results rather than helpful ones.Different challenges that are addressed with the same worldview, behaviors and/or tool often equates to non-serving results.It's essential to first ask, what paradigm am I addressing this challenge with?Approaching challenges with an open mind clears the path for new paradigms – new ways of thinking. It's new ways of thinking that tend to result in new behaviors, habits and skills; even the use of new tools. (see behavior model below)Our paradigms lie at the heart of our behavior. These paradigms are fundamental to our problem-solving, psychology and our behaviors.Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background info here.If you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Before focus, concentration; before concentration, selection.”This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. To focus for an extended period of time on anything can be challenging. In today's world, it's made far more difficult, particularly for people with ADD/ADHD.This episode promises to have you focusing better nearly instantly.Below are some tips on how to focus better, especially if you suffer from ADD/ADHD.First, a background story.The Habit Factor® (book and app) only exist because of my inability to achieve goals.I wasn't aware of it at the time, but what I created was a goal achievement system that forced me to address my first fundamental challenge, FOCUS.FOCUS: DefinedThe center of interest or activity. “this generation has made the environment a focus of attention”An act of concentrating interest or activity on something. “our focus on the customer's requirements”By creating THIS tracking sheet (which is free btw ), I was forced to identify which core, related behaviors - habits - I wanted to develop.The simple act of choosing the behaviors/habits I wanted to develop was the first key.STEP ONE: Ask yourself which 1 to 3 core behaviors/habits are you trying to develop.By asking that question, focus instantly improves because your options diminish.Thus, selection is the first step to improved focus.Just try to imagine a sharpshooter without a defined target.Now, take a look at that next definition of focus (above): “…the act of concentrating interest or activity…”That is the next key: Concentration.Concentration is defined as “the close gathering of people or things.”STEP TWO:Gather as much energy and resources as you can before you try to focus.Example:To focus on writing, I might gather resources like...A special application.Books or reference materialA timer.To gather energy and resources is to concentrate. For instance, sometimes I'll use a writing app called “Write Room,” which employs a black screen.Or, sometimes, I'll use Brain.fm, which uses an enhanced form of binaural beats to improve concentration.Often, I'll use a stopwatch, which helps me gauge whether I've achieved my “Minimum Success Criteria” (an aspect of the P.A.R.R. methodology) – which is the minimum amount of time that I set out to write. These are examples of gathering energy and resources before attempting to focus.The other key idea to concentrate better is to design a conducive environment.This could be as simple as a distraction-free room.The key idea; put some time and energy into designing a conducive environment before trying to focus.THE ORDER OF FOCUS: Step one: Selection → Step Two: Concentration → Step Three: Focus.Finally, to ensure that what you intend to focus on actually happens, TRACKING! (“Said & Done”) the behavior/work is essential!Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesIf you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design. Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!MORE: “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background info here.*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.” ~Bum PhillipsThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. It's baaaaaack… The 36-hour, (once a week), fast ***WARNING** Please do your own research and consult your doctor before altering your diet.***What is it? Why do it? And, the backstory.In 2019, (at 51), I came to the sudden awareness that I'd never gone a day without eating. I wondered if I could fast for an entire day.The only way to find out… challenge myself. My plan was to cease eating around 8 p.m. on Sunday. Then, see if I could make it through Monday without food. If I could then make it to Tuesday at 8 a.m., I'd have gone 36 hours. The first fast was brutal!Afterward, I recall saying, “Maybe I'll try that again next year.”Then a day went by and I said, “Maybe I'll do that again next month.”Then another few days went by and I said, “I'm going to do that again next Monday!”The next thing I knew, it was 30 weeks later…30 consecutive weeks of fasting – 36 hours, once per week.I share the experience on a couple of previous podcast episodes.—» LINK & LINKWhy fast in the first place?Reason #1: Self controlI wanted to find out WHO was in control.Was it my impulses and eating habits or was it my mindfulness and willpower?I love Pythagoras' observation: “No man is free who cannot command himself.”Could I command myself for those 36 hours?Freedom and family are top values. Am I really free if I cannot command myself? Am I in control?Let's find out…Reason #2: Experiment!As important as habits, rituals and routines are that support our goals and ideals, it's equally important to experiment.See Dynamism (episode).“All life is an experiment, the more experiments you make the better.” ~R.W. EmersonBy experimenting, I learned firsthand an entirely different level of self-discipline and interestingly, gained a new level of freedom.“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood."~R.W. EmersonIn Siddharta by Hermann Hess, Siddhartha's mantra is…I can think. I can wait. I can fast.These were things within Siddhartha's control.Few things in life are in within our control.What we eat and when we eat ought to be. Yet, for most, they are not. Ironically, most people think they are in control of what and when they eat yet, they have never tested that belief.Fasting is a great way to test that assumption.It stands to reason that if one cannot control what they eat, when they it, they really do not control very much.Reason #3: Health and wellness.Here are just a few of the reported health and wellness benefits of fasting:* Fights inflammation* Aids blood sugar control; reduces insulin resistance* Aids weight loss and reduced fat* increases growth hormone* Aids heart health* Suspected of aiding cancer prevention* Aids longevity* Improves clarity* Enhances mindfulness* Enhances spirituality. They don't call it a “Monk Fast” for nothing. For the record, I'd never heard that term until 2023!How I perform the fast…First, the disclaimer once again: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. PLEASE VISIT YOUR DOCTOR AND DISCUSS ANY CHANGES TO YOUR DIET FIRST.For better or worse, I dove head-first into this experiment with almost no research.I had no idea there are terms like “dirty” fasting.To get through the day, I will probably have about 5-6 cups of hot tea and drink a lot of water, sometimes carbonated. I also have coffee in the morning. That coffee has a touch of coconut oil and sometimes I'll add a touch of butter.Apparently, this is known as “Fat-Fasting”. I didn't know that.Purists are likely to say that those are calories and it's a “dirty fast.”For me, this experiment is about health and I'm confident that those fats are healthy. Further, the reduction in calories from a typical day of 2,000+ to approximately 50 is fasting.Less than 100 calories (far less), during a thirty-six hours period is substantial.I will also take my usual dose of psyllium husk (approx a tablespoon) with some salmon oils, around noon.So there you have it, the quick and “dirty” What? Why? and How?The challenge was to complete every Monday (all five) in October; that happens today.At 55, I expect that I will continue to test, experiment and explore. The good news; it's week five and it appears that I'm in control.I can think. I can wait. I can fast.Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world's first, HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesIf you'd like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] methodology to craft game-changing habits on-demand. Check out our latest cohort offering, the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!MORE: “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It's the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Optimize your behaviors – cultivate habits and skills – at will and on demand. Background info here.*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“No man is free who cannot command himself.” ~PythagorasThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. To act according to your intentions…Arguably, it's the crux of the entire personal development industry.How often have you said, “I'm going to…” Only to find, a week, month, or year later, “it” never transpired.Why?There are three main reasons.Reason One: PAIN.Chances are that the task at hand involved some pain; emotional, physical, mental, etc.Humans are wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure.PAIN versus PLEASURE: It's a perpetual war that is being waged internally.Humans will go to great lengths to avoid pain, naturally.The challenge is that growth and personal development, lie on the other side of challenge and pain. Learning is painful, yet we become smarter as a result of the effort. Lifting weights is painful, yet the effort makes us stronger.How do we reconcile this? Well, the answer is fairly simple.In fact, the answer has been known for millennia and apparently, science has affirmed it recently.“If you wish to be a good writer, write. If you wish to be a great speaker, speak. If you wish to be a skilled musician, play. If you wish to be a good person, be good. There is no other way.” ~ EpectitusDo you see the pattern?Desire. Action. Desire. Action. Desire. Action!Nike learned a thing or two from Epectitus, “Just do it!”A subscriber to our show and good friend, Laura, has now SAID and DONE a number of important goals over the last few years. She shared the below Instagram post from Huberman Lab.The neuroscience research on willpower makes clear that your Anterior Mid-Cingulate Cortex (aMCC) is a key hub for leaning into undesired effort.Your aMCC it is activated by engaging in behaviors that you don't want to do. Or by resisting strong impulses. (MG: that should be an, “AND”)Your aMCC/willpower can grow throughout the lifespan by regularly doing undesired things, that are hard. ~A. Huberman (instagram)Here's the short STORY: Do things you don't like to do, when you say you're going to do them, whether you feel like it or not.Repeat.BTW: That

“I cannot wait to see genes that operate in a vacuum.”This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. The “Nature vs. Nurture” debate can be traced to ancient Greece and perhaps earlier.In the entertainment world, there have been several books, plays, and movies that touch upon the subject matter.The riddle: How much influence does nature (genetics) versus nurture (environment: culture, family, friends, home, city, etc.) have upon one's life?For example, Mark Twain's The Prince and the Pauper, published in 1881, is a tale about two boys who were born on the same day, one a prince and the other a pauper; they accidentally switch places.Not coincidentally, Trading Places, the 1983 hit comedy starring Eddie Murphy and Dan Akroyd, pursued the exact same theme.Recently, I tripped upon a few well-done Khan Academy videos covering this debate. [I link to a few of their videos below.]The short story: While these videos are very well produced, and the instructors do a fantastic job, the longer you watch them, the more your head will spin.And spin.Why?Well, the instructors work hard to articulate how scientists are doing their best to “tease apart genetics and the environment.” The instructor uses the example of “tea in hot water.”Ultimately, though, we arrive at the “money” video:“Gene Environment Interaction”It ends with this statement (transcript):This is the phenomenon known as Gene Envinronment Interaction. So, it's really an interaction between our genes and our environment that initiates the body's responses and behavior. So, we see that the environment is dependent on genetic predisposition. But gene expression is also dependent on the environment. And this is the phenomenon that we're referring to as gene/environment interaction. So, this idea is going to shift our vocabulary away from phrases like nature versus nurture. It's going to bring us to a more correct phraseology, nature through nurture.”Have you heard the joke about the Zen monk and the hotdog vendor?His order: “Make me one with everything!”The longer you watch those videos – frankly, the longer you contemplate this “debate” – the more quickly you realize how futile it is. “Nature versus nurture” is impossible. Nature through nurture, maybe. More likely, nature with nurture; nature one with nurture.The Zen monk nailed it. YOU ARE ONE WITH EVERYTHING.Your body is NOT as separate as it may seem.Go jump in the ocean and tell me your body doesn't have a direct connection with the water.Walk outside and tell me your body doesn't have a direct connection with the air.YOUR BODY IS ONE WITH ITS ENVIRONMENT. (REPEAT)Arguably, this is a core, driving idea behind epigenetics. While it may be helpful to understand the various degrees to which each component influences the other, the “truth” is, that depends – often, a whole lot. (See bottom article.)This leads us back to the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo System.”This behavior-change model, Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System, reveals…(drum roll, please)… NATURE (genetics) and NURTURE (environment) are ONE!As far as I know, it's the only behavior-change model to reveal such a hypothesis.Neither CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) nor TTM (Transtheoretical Model) explicitly demonstrate or articulate that one's body and environment are one.Take another gander...According to this model, if something isn't “Thinking/STORIES” (inner circle), or “Behaviors/Habits/Skills” (middle circle), or “Emotions/Feelings” (conduits/membranes), then that something is part of the “ENVIRONMENT.” This includes one's body.While the timeless nature vs. nurture “debate” may be helpful, there is no way to fully separate one's genes/body from their environment.Even genes in a test tube possess an environmental influence.Rather than debating nature vs nurture, more attention should be placed on the importance of using the ENVIRONMENT to facilitate the behaviors, habits and skills one is trying to cultivate. Say it with me, “I am one with everything!”Enjoy the show!~mgI teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] methodology to craft game-changing habits on-demand. Learn more here: The 28-Day Breakthrough!Reference: Khan Academy VideosTwin and adoption studies: https://www.khanacademy.org/test-prep/mcat/behavior/behavior-and-genetics/v/twin-studies-and-adoption-studiesHeritability: https://www.khanacademy.org/test-prep/mcat/behavior/behavior-and-genetics/v/heritabilityThe “Money” video, Gene Environment Interaction: https://www.khanacademy.org/test-prep/mcat/behavior/behavior-and-genetics/v/gene-environment-interactionArticle from the APA - American Psychological Association: Heritability: it's all relative: https://www.apa.org/monitor/apr04/herit.htmlMORE: “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid and dynamic behavior-change model. It is the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Learn to optimize your behaviors – cultivate habits and skills – at will and on demand. Background info here.The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Take away paradox from the thinker and you have a professor.” ~Søren KierkegaardThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. In 2014 I wrote It's Both! Your (Habitual) Dichotomous Thinking is Killing You.That's right, “Killing You!”I went a bit deeper on this concept in The Pressure Paradox™ (2015).It's worth revisiting as the idea is essential to critical thinking and, interestingly enough, peace of mind. A sure sign of a mature mind is one that can hold two opposing ideas together, at the same time (most of the time).The reason we're revisiting the concept is that I'm noticing it's percolating elsewhere.Let's begin with Matthew McConaughey's latest book (Sept 2023) Just Because. Just Because is an illustrated kid's book designed to teach children many life lessons.In so doing, it fosters “Both” thinking.” Few lessons may be more important to understand for children.Straight from McConaughey's book, examples on Amazon.com.“Just because they don't hear you, doesn't mean you don't have a voice.”“Just because you follow, it doesn't mean you aren't a leader.”“Just because you are sitting still, it doesn't mean you are not busy.”Another recent book is actually titled, “BOTH/AND Thinking” by Harvard Review Press, August of 2022.I'm guessing “dichotomous” in any title is a bit much.Here's how that book is summarized on Amazon. Life is full of paradoxes. How can we each express our individuality while also being a team player? How do we balance work and life? How can we improve diversity while promoting opportunities for all? How can we manage the core business while innovating for the future?For many of us, these competing and interwoven demands are a source of conflict. Since our brains love to make either-or choices, we choose one option over the other. We deal with the uncertainty by asserting certainty.Finally, there is The Power of And: Responsible Business Without Trade-Offs Columbia Business School Publishing. June 2020.Another book elucidating the very idea; tailored for the business world.“The Power of And” offers a new narrative about the nature of business, revealing the focus on responsibility AND ethics.Sounds a lot like BOTH/AND thinking to me.It is the appreciation – the recognition of multiple paths, multiple perspectives and paradigms, that ultimately leads to freedom — even enlightenment.For instance, you must know what the customer wants AND you must trust and move according to your own intuition.“You are absolutely, 100% totally unique, one-of-a-kind. And, you are just like everyone else.”You must pay attention to the little things AND you must have a long-term, macro-perspective.You must never settle AND you must, most definitely, on occasion settle.Are we really “wired” to choose one answer/option/solution over another?“Wired” may not be the right way to describe it. In the West, in particular, society loves to pit “right” against “wrong”. Left vs Right. Up vs Down. Meat vs Veggies.More often than not, my friends, it's BOTH.This reminds me of the old saying, “The Left Wing” and “The Right Wing” are connected to the same bird.BOTH. ONE. NON-DICHOTOMOUS.Say it with me, it's BOTH!The answer, more often than not, is BOTH/AND and maybe even, Just Because. Just because you think there is a single answer, doesn't mean there aren't many.Love your show!Sidenote: The truth is life is dynamic, fluid (recent episode), and holistic. By the way, this is precisely what “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model represents (ask Bard). It's a holistic, fluid and dynamic behavior model that humans and organizations can use to design behaviors.Arguably, it's the most accurate human behavior model to date. Learn more here.The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Yeah, Mr. White! Yeah, science!” ~Jesse PinkmanThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers!For our 25th anniversary, my wife and I visited Denmark, Sweden and Italy. One night, in Italy, our hotel's satellite TV was down.Before heading to bed, she dialed up her Netflix account and soon enough, we found ourselves watching Breaking Bad; our third time through the series!Breaking Bad is ridiculously GOOD.What caught my attention in this particular episode (Season 1, Ep 7) is a fairly comical scene where Mr. White – a grossly overqualified high-school chemistry teacher – has to resort to a motivational/personal development cliché, with the hope of inspiring his would-be crystal meth-dealing partner.“JESSE, TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!” Walter White begins shaking Jesse by the shoulders.The irony of White's aspirational statement against their criminal intent is clever.Mr. White challenges his former student, Jesse Pinkmen to “think bigger” and not “live a life of fear,” as he requests that he go on a shopping spree for several ingredients to make their largest batch of crystal methamphetamine ever.“Jesse, today is the FIRST DAY of the rest of your life!” Mr. White reiterates the message.This scene serves as an ironic/comical backdrop because it inspired this episode of Habits 2 Goals.We've covered this topic before, from a slightly different angle. Then, there was no Breaking Bad reference and we took a different tack. You can find that episode here, One Day!“Today is the first day of the rest of your life! But, what kind of life will it be, huh? Will it be a life of fear? Oh… no, no, no… I can't do this… of never once believing in yourself? ~Walter WhiteIt's fair to say we can all reflect upon Walter White's questions.Will you live in fear today?Will today be the day you believe in yourself?Will today be a day you challenge yourself?Will today be the first day you begin to drink water with all your meals?Will today be the first day you try fasting?Will today be the first day you begin walking 3 miles… maybe jogging?Will today be the first day you begin to meditate?Will today be the first day you begin saving money?Is today day one? Or, is it just another day? While the messenger is just a fictional criminal. The message is pure GOLD.Will you challenge yourself TODAY?Can you make TODAY special? Will you start something TODAY that makes you proud?What new positive habit will you begin cultivating, TODAY?TODAY really is the first day of the rest of your life.Make it memorable.Enjoy the show!The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“One of the best reasons to start habit tracking is that you will develop an ancillary habit, DISCIPLINE.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! program begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —» The 28-Day Breakthrough!You've never tracked habits before? That's alright, most people haven't.After all, life is meant to be lived, not tracked, right?Well, it turns out, you can and should do both; live and track.As an example, Benjamin Franklin tracked his habits (13 virtues) for approximately sixty years. Sixty years!Apparently, habit tracking is what Hindu priests do to in order to refine their character and concentrate better.Habit tracking is an effective method for goal achievement.If your goals are important, you should begin habit tracking.Many people think that discipline is required to track habits.The truth is that discipline is a HABIT. Discipline is strengthened via habit tracking.Nobody is born disciplined.Habit tracking is difficult at first because it requires willpower.What's the difference between willpower and discipline? Here are some general definitions:Willpower: Control exerted to do something or restrain impulses.Discipline: A system of rules of conduct. That “system” is developed via habit-tracking.Habit tracking develops discipline because it aligns one's intentions (what they say they will do), with willpower (what they actually do).Habit tracking is where the proverbial “rubber meets the road.”People talk a lot about what they are “going to do.”P.A.R.R., as a habit-tracking method, helps to ensure that one's intentions and actions actually intersect.P.A.R.R. stands for PLAN. ACT. RECORD & REASSESS.After 13+ years of proven success stories, the P.A.R.R. method stands alone for systematic success in developing habits and improving one's habitstrength.When P.A.R.R. was originally introduced (2010, The Habit Factor® was published), many of the top behavioral scientists said that habit tracking was not effective.However, today there are scientific studies backing the efficacy of habit tracking and the P.A.R.R. methodology.For that reason alone, understanding the best habit-tracking method can save you a lot of time and frustration.Benefits of following the P.A.R.R. method to develop habits:* It sets you up for success early. * By establishing a PLAN with low “Minimum Success Criteria” and low “Frequency per Week”, you are more likely to succeed.* P.A.R.R. uses what are called “Target Days.” * Target days establish your frequency per week. For one habit, target days might be: M,W, Sa. For another they might be Tu,Th, Sa.* There is NO requirement to perform habits every day. In many cases that fallacy is what sets people up for failure.* P.A.R.R. uses a 28-day, 4 Week rhythm for habit tracking. * This provides a crucial reassessment period and allows the user to “raise the bar” in successive 28-day periods. See habitstrength™ below.* P.A.R.R. anticipates that you'll fall off track. * By following P.A.R.R., you can miss a day, a few days, a week or even a month and still develop habits and achieve your goals!* P.A.R.R. leverages your innate human capacities of Choice, Intention & Reflection.* Cue, Routine, Reward, another “framework” for habit development, popularized by The Power of Habit and Atomic Habits, is based upon the study of rodents.* You are not a rodent. Cue Routine Reward is very limited in its value for human habit development.* Habitstrength™: Finally, the best reason to follow P.A.R.R. is the recognition that on the path to habit development – a period that could take several months – it's the compounding of each successive 4-week tracking period that enhances habitstrength™. * As habitstrength™ improves with each successive 4-week tracking period, automaticity (the sensation that these behaviors become more automatic) increases and the habit becomes stronger.* P.A.R.R. works as well for SKILL development. Habits and skills are essentially developed the same way; intentional practice. The P.A.R.R. methodology is a systematic process to increase both habit and skill strength.When you track habits and skills by following the P.A.R.R. methodology, you increase habitstrength and develop discipline.For detailed, step-by-step instructions on P.A.R.R. be sure to download the FREE habits to goals tracking template at https://thehabitfactor.com/templates and/or Google the following: “PARR and The Habit Factor”Enjoy the show!The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Cohort begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The difference between a good life and a bad life is how well you walk through fire.” ~ Carl JungThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! program begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —» The 28-Day Breakthrough!What if a key difference between the successful person and the unsuccessful person was how well they navigate life's difficulties?The fact is, nobody escapes life's challenges.Yet, we all know people who seem to complicate matters when things get tough. They react rather than respond.What's the difference?Animals, babies, and small children REACT.Humans have the capacity to RESPOND.By pausing, an emotionally mature adult can (more often than not), direct their response – tailor it – toward a desirable outcome.Meanwhile, reacting often compounds problems.Think of the people who seem to have drama follow them everywhere; work, home, events, relationships, etc.The collective drama isn't a random coincidence. Rather, it's the source of compounding troubles; and constant reactions.One poor reaction after another.Jack Canfield offered an important formula in his “Success Principles” book:E + R = OEvent + Response = OutcomeResponding is what emotionally mature adults do most of the time.As human BEINGS, we get to choose how we'd like to BE (act).You are the only creature in the world that can step outside of your “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System,” assess and even design it.Consider that for a moment. No other creature can do this.Humans can ask: Is my environment conducive for my goals?Are my behaviors, habits and skills conducive for my goals?Is my thinking – the stories running through my head – conducive for my goals?That's what the spotlight represents, your AWARENESS.To access it, PRESS PAUSE.Are you responding in a way that guides you through life's challenges better — to help you toward your goals and ideals? Or, are you reacting?Maybe it's time to press pause and begin responding more.Enjoy the show!The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! program begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —» The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood." ~Ralph Waldo EmersonThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.After hearing a Gooroo caution his students, “When it comes to relationships, you must be very careful; relationships are dynamic.”I thought to myself. “That is kind of “funny.” Last time I checked, LIFE IS DYNAMIC.Thus, what got us “here” might not necessarily get us “there.”Deepak Chopra put it like this“The world is not a static place. It is constantly changing and evolving. To live a fulfilling life, we must embrace this dynamism and be willing to adapt to change.”Such an observation underscores the importance of setting worthwhile goals and ideals; the type that helps us to transform.We covered this in a prior episode, “Two Types of Goals.”“The best way to predict the future is to create it.” ~Peter DruckerIt's the dynamism of life that forces us to keep upgrading our skills and habits to evolve —to keep up with the pace of change.Even better, the pursuit of worthwhile goals and ideals allows us to direct change. (Peter's point above.)It's hardly just relationships that are dynamic. Thus, we should perpetually ask, “What new habits and skills should I be cultivating, now?” Some cynics may say. “My results are great — I'm good. I don't need to change.”Maybe. It's worth considering that today's solution may not be a fit in the ever-changing jigsaw puzzle that is tomorrow.Enjoy the show!Our next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH program begins… 10/3/23! More info here: The 28-Day Breakthrough! *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesCue, Routine and Reward is for rodents—» Learn about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.” ~Leo Tolstoy.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.What if patience was the key to mastering your universe?If courage is the mother of all virtues (according to Aristotle), arguably the father, along with prudence, could be patience.Let's run through some of the advantages of developing the virtue of being patient.“Patience is the key to paradise.” ~ Persian Proverb* Patience helps you achieve your goals. * Patience helps you make better decisions. * Patience helps you to build stronger relationships. * Patience helps you manage stress better.* Patience helps you stay calm in difficult situations. * Patience helps you learn from your mistakes. * Patience can help you be more creative. * Patience can help you become more resilient. * Patience can help you be more compassionate. * Patience helps you to cultivate discipline. * Patience will enhance mindfulness.* Patience will help you control your emotions. * Patience will help you to be more tolerant of others. * Patience helps you be more grateful.* Patience can foster optimism. * Patience will enhance resilience.* Patience can save your life* Patience leads to prudence. * Patience will help you make a positive impact on the world. * Patience leads to tranquility and harmony.* Patience helps you see things for what they areIn Siddhartha, the fantastic novel by Hermann Hess, Siddhartha resorts to a mantra – a schema – that guides him through his challenge-filled journey.“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”Now, we migrate in a semi-parallel fashion from Siddhartha to Yoda, Master Jedi. It was Yoda who cautioned a young Luke Skywalker, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”Yoda could have easily offered: “Impatience is the path to the dark side.”Impatience leads to frustration. Frustration leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.Enjoy the show!You keep saying you're stuck… that you just need a breakthrough? Well, here it is: JUST 12 SPOTS LEFT for the next, 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Program starts again… 10/3/23! Sign up today! —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough! *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot's “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe